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Speaker 1: Thank you, nephew. Subject You can call me Petty if

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Speaker 1: you want to. Dear Stephen Shirley, I'm a fifty six

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Speaker 1: year old woman with a lot of paths, trauma and

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Speaker 1: family issues. So I've been single a long time. I

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Speaker 1: got out of my comfort zone, though, and I opened

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Speaker 1: my heart to a man that had just gotten out

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Speaker 1: We dated for four months and things were great. He

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Speaker 1: was living with his brother, but he'd come over and

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Speaker 1: cooked for me and do yardwork. We did a spiritual

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Speaker 1: fast together. The sex was amazing and we had the

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Speaker 1: best conversations. He took weekly drug tests and they all

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Speaker 1: came back negative. He didn't have a car, so I

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Speaker 1: me for a while. I told him that was not

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Speaker 1: and I didn't hear from him, so I called his

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Speaker 1: I left, some other stupid woman came to get him,

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Speaker 1: so he's living with her now. His brother said he's

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Speaker 1: using drugs and he's stealing from people again. He gave

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Speaker 1: me the woman's name and phone number, so I called

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Speaker 1: her to let her know that she took on a

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Speaker 1: liar and a druggie. She had no idea he'd been

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Speaker 1: me and said she was going to put him out.

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Speaker 1: He called me later and said, I'm petty because and

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Speaker 1: because of me he's homeless for a while until he

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Speaker 1: can find someone to take him in. I don't feel bad.

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Speaker 1: His brother called me too and said I shouldn't I

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Speaker 1: should have stayed out of it. I don't feel bad

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Speaker 1: about it at all. Did I take it too far

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Speaker 1: by calling her? Wow? Woah? Talk about MESSI and you're

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Speaker 1: right petty too, but more messy, i'd say than petty.

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Speaker 1: I think you did the right thing by putting him

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Speaker 1: out of your house if he's back using and stealing

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Speaker 1: stealing things. At first, I was gonna say you should

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Speaker 1: not have called a woman, but why not. His brother

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Speaker 1: gave you her name and her phone number for a reason,

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Speaker 1: and I think the woman should know what she's dealing with.

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Speaker 1: When you really look at this, you were only being

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Speaker 1: petty with your guy, not with her. And the fact

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Speaker 1: that this guy is a user and stuff, user and stuff,

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Speaker 1: that's something that she should know. I think would she

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Speaker 1: have told you? Probably not, because she sure came over

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Speaker 1: to take him away fast, didn't she She was feeling

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Speaker 1: him at the time, So really and truly, I don't

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Speaker 1: think you're petty at all. I think you're a good person.

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Speaker 1: I just say, just don't ever lower your standards again.

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Speaker 1: Just don't do that because you get in some major

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Speaker 1: trouble again, Steve. You can call me petty if you

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Speaker 1: want to. This whole damn letter from top to battom

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Speaker 1: ain't nothing but a series of bad decisions and mistakes,

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Speaker 1: all of them. Damn Neil on your part, let me

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Speaker 1: begin with everything. I'm a fifty said you, old woman

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Speaker 1: So I've been single for a long time. You think

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Speaker 1: I got out of my comfort zone, though, when was

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Speaker 1: you comfortable? Because right now, family issues, drama, single for

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Speaker 1: a long time opened up your heart to a man

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Speaker 1: go to prison for drugs. Okay, David Foumont's things was great.

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Speaker 1: He was living with his brother, but he come over,

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Speaker 1: his keep. We did a spiritual fast together. The pop

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Speaker 1: right there, let's stop. This surely helped me out. When

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Speaker 1: people do spiritual fast, what is that? Well? Spiritual fast

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Speaker 1: is you know, like when you don't eat and um

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Speaker 1: you you you're supposed to like look look to God

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Speaker 1: they had amazing sex. No sex was amazing right after

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Speaker 1: this spiritual fac Nah. I don't know why you're surprised

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Speaker 1: that the sex was amazing. Haley, been in prison. Everybody

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Speaker 1: getting bad. So I was his taxi. Then you went

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Speaker 1: ain't I don't furniture, ain't no nice staying. You ain't

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Speaker 1: So you got to two garbage bags in two box,

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Speaker 1: his brother was tripping. He's just his brother. Just gotta

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Speaker 1: his brother. His brother tripping. Popped the trunk, baby, Steve.

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Speaker 1: He was tripping because he was on drugs and stealing.

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Speaker 1: He passed no drug test. All right, Steve, We'll have

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Speaker 1: minutes after the hour. Hang on, everybody my Strawberry letter

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Speaker 1: Steve Harvey Morning Show. Come on, Steve, let's recap today's

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Speaker 1: Strawberry Letters. Subject. You can call me if you want to.

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Speaker 1: Fifty six year old woman a lot of drama, pass

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Speaker 1: They dated Folk Moss. They was having a wonderful time.

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Speaker 1: He was living with his brother, but he'd come over

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Speaker 1: cooked for you do yard work, you know, earning his

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Speaker 1: keep No, we did a period of spiritual fast together.

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Speaker 1: Right after they had this spiritual fast, they had amazing sex,

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Speaker 1: because that's what you do when you come out of prison,

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Speaker 1: half amazing sex. Even if it ain't amazing to you,

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Speaker 1: it's gonna be amazing to him. So anyway, you had

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Speaker 1: the best conversation. What do Yeah, I don't give damn

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Speaker 1: I got hurt this. So he took weekly drum tests

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Speaker 1: and they all came back negative. That's what he told you.

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Speaker 1: He didn't have a car, so you was his tax.

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Speaker 1: So he went to pick him up a couple of

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Speaker 1: with me for his brother tripping. Why I told him

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Speaker 1: that's not gonna happen. I drove off. Okay, cool, that

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Speaker 1: was a good decision you made. But then here you

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Speaker 1: go again. You made one good decision. You drove off

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Speaker 1: a week past. You didn't hear from him, so you

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Speaker 1: called his brother to check on him. His brother said

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Speaker 1: that after he after you drove off some other stupid woman.

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Speaker 1: He's referring to you too. Now, he said, another stupid

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Speaker 1: he gave you the woman's name and phone number. What now,

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Speaker 1: I'm assuming all of this happens because his brother ain't

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Speaker 1: got to sell phone, That's what I'm thinking, because you

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Speaker 1: That's what I'm This is just a guess a mind.

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Speaker 1: So he gave you the woman's name and the phone.

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Speaker 1: Numban you call her to let her know that she

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Speaker 1: because see she's stupid and didn't you. You took him

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Speaker 1: two weeks and they're coming back negative. He'd told her.

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Speaker 1: Since since that ain't working and people know he's stilling again,

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Speaker 1: he told his new chick he ain't even been to prison,

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Speaker 1: Then she thanked me and said she was gonna put

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Speaker 1: him out. Now ball, y'all old. Now, all y'all old,

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Speaker 1: but y'all, y'all just think, all y'all over all right,

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Speaker 1: So here we go. He called me and told you

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Speaker 1: Women hold of dog. Wait, oh wait, the reason you

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Speaker 1: Ain't got nothing to do with that. It ain't got

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Speaker 1: I should have stayed out of it. Why did he

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Speaker 1: To get you in it? Exactly what did she think

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Speaker 1: not your problem now. What you need to do is

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Speaker 1: get out of it now for shore. Apologize to the brother,

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Speaker 1: Apologize to the lady. Ain't going about your life. Ask

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Speaker 1: God to help you get your life together, and then

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Speaker 1: he need to do the same thing. That's all I

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Speaker 1: But damn dog, he'd one should have wrote the letter,

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Speaker 1: today's Strawberry Letter. It's Steve Harvey FM on Instagram and Facebook,

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Speaker 1: and check out the Strawberry Letter podcast on demand coming

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Speaker 1: up at forty six minutes after the hour, I am

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Speaker 1: gonna try to spiritual fast because what Steve. Right after that,

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Speaker 1: you're gonna be some amazing Our girl from the Talk

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Speaker 1: is coming up, Cheryl Underwood. Right after this, you're listening

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Speaker 1: to the Stave Harvey Morning Show