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Speaker 1: First date of follow up powered by the Advocates Injury

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Speaker 1: Attorneys online at advocates dot com. Charlotte is on the

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Speaker 1: phone today for our first day follow up and she's

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Speaker 1: getting ghosted by a guy named Henry. So in a

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Speaker 1: few minutes we're gonnall him and see if he tell

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Speaker 1: us why he's ghosting her and maybe get her another date.

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Speaker 1: But first, Charlotte, how long has it beens? Has you

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Speaker 1: heard from Henry?

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Speaker 2: It's been a couple of weeks since I've heard from him,

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Speaker 2: which is weird because we were friends before this, and

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Speaker 2: we definitely texted now and again. So I'm just a

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Speaker 2: little thrown. I'm curious and maybe a little hurt too.

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Speaker 3: So, yeah, understandably, especially since you guys knew each other before. Yeah,

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Speaker 3: what was your last interaction with him?

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Speaker 4: Like?

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Speaker 2: So, I actually planned on this whole day of events

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Speaker 2: because it is kind of our first actual date because

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Speaker 2: we've been friends for a long time and i've been, uh,

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Speaker 2: I've got a crush on him for kind of a while,

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Speaker 2: and so I planned this day of dates. It wasn't

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Speaker 2: too intense, but it was, you know, a bunch of

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Speaker 2: different stuff. We went on a mini hike and then

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Speaker 2: we got brunch at this place that I know both

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Speaker 2: of us like, and then we recovered from brunch separately,

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Speaker 2: we kind of slid up for a while, and then

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Speaker 2: we met up for a concert in the park. So

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Speaker 2: and you know, it was fun. I feel like we

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Speaker 2: know what's going on. I mean, we didn't look at

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Speaker 2: the end, like we didn't kiss or anything, So I

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Speaker 2: don't know if I'm supposed to read into that, but

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Speaker 2: nothing bad happened, and so I just don't understand why

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Speaker 2: I haven't heard from him at all.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, So, when you guys decided to go on a date,

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Speaker 3: was he also understanding that it was not a friend

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Speaker 3: hangout and that it was a date. Did you guys

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Speaker 3: have that conversation where like, oh, let's explore taking this

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Speaker 2: I mean, we didn't like have that conversation, but I

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Speaker 2: think it was pretty clear based on, you know, the

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Speaker 2: out just the two of us that like for a

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Speaker 2: whole day like that. I mean we have hung out

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Speaker 2: the two of us, but not very often over the

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Speaker 2: past several years. I mean, definitely not at this level,

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Speaker 2: you know, I think, and he didn't ask. I think

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Speaker 2: it was clear for both of us, you know. I

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Speaker 2: mean that's what it feels like. I've had a crush

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Speaker 2: like we both knew and we both went out and

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Speaker 2: we had a good time. I really I really wanted

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Speaker 2: to work with him because I've just had feelings for

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Speaker 2: him for a while and he's just kind of a

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Speaker 2: and he's he makes me feel safe and stuff, but

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Speaker 2: also he's like guys guy, you know. So I feel

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Speaker 2: it's just a good balance and we get along really well.

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Speaker 1: You really like him. I really like him.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, Like how many times you text him or try

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Speaker 2: calling him? Well, I I texted I try to go

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Speaker 3: You know.

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Speaker 2: I've texted him a couple times over the past couple

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Speaker 2: this day, we would text pretty regularly, like at least

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Speaker 1: You know, we're I.

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Speaker 2: Mean we've been in contact, you know, we're friends, and

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Speaker 2: we watched on the same shows and stuff that we

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Speaker 2: and like it's been it's been over two weeks now,

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Speaker 2: so I just feel like it's not normal, and I

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Speaker 2: just don't know what happened. I mean, maybe, look, I

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Speaker 2: don't know if I messed up. I guess after brunch,

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Speaker 2: like I had, I had a few mimosas, and I

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Speaker 1: Okay, well we'll try to figure it out for you.

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Speaker 1: Play a song, come back, and then call him and

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Speaker 1: see if HO tells why is ghosting you? And maybe

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Speaker 1: get to another date. Okay, Okay, thanks, all right, we'll

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Speaker 1: play a song, come back, and get your first day

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Speaker 1: follow up next. If you're just joining us for Today's

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Speaker 1: first Date follow up, Charlotte is on the phone and

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Speaker 1: she's getting ghosted by a guy named Henry. So in

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Speaker 1: a second we're going to call him and see if

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Speaker 1: he'll tell us why is ghosting her. But before we

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Speaker 1: do that, Charlotte, why don't you refresh our memory on

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Speaker 1: your date with Henry.

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Speaker 2: Yeah. So, Henry and I have been friends for a

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Speaker 2: while for a few years, and we definitely texted regularly

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Speaker 2: over time, and we finally took it to the next

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Speaker 2: of a whole day of stuff, hike and brunch and

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Speaker 2: the show. But I haven't heard from him since then.

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Speaker 2: It's been over two weeks, and that's weird because we

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Speaker 2: if something happened, but I'm feeling nervous about it, and

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Speaker 2: I just want to find out what's going on.

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Speaker 1: You can't think of a reason why he'd be ghosting it.

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Speaker 2: No, I mean, like I said, I said, I was

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Speaker 2: a little bit late for the concert, But I even

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Speaker 2: he said no, he wasn't annoyed about it. So that's

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Speaker 2: kind of the only thing I can think of.

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Speaker 1: Really, Well, you're ready for us to call him? Yeah,

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Speaker 1: I guess so, Okay, here we go. Hell, Hi, I'm

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Speaker 1: asking to Henry. Please.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, this is Henry.

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Speaker 1: How are you? My name is Jubil. I'm calling from

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Speaker 1: a radio show. It's called The Jubil Show.

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Speaker 3: Hi, Henry, I'm Nina also on the show.

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Speaker 1: Hi, I'm Victoria. How are you? What's up?

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Speaker 3: Guys?

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Speaker 2: I'm good.

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Speaker 1: Do you listen to the show at all? Not?

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Speaker 2: Really?

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Speaker 1: No worries. We're calling you because somebody you know does

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Speaker 1: listen to the show and they email us about you.

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Speaker 4: Okay.

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Speaker 1: We do a segment called the first Date follow Up.

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Speaker 1: That's where if you go out on a date with

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Speaker 1: somebody and you end up ghosting them, that person can

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Speaker 1: email us to ask you why you're ghosting them.

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Speaker 4: Really, okay, I have no idea who you're talking about.

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Speaker 1: Have you gone any dates recently?

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Speaker 4: Uh?

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Speaker 2: Well, kind of personal?

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Speaker 4: But yes, was it Kelly by Champ?

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Speaker 5: No, it's not Kelly, Okay, gotta no. I want to

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Speaker 5: keep trying to tell you anybody else?

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Speaker 4: Yeah, I mean that's really kind of it. I honestly

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Speaker 4: don't know. Yeah, please tell me you.

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Speaker 1: Didn't go to brunch or like a show with somebody.

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Speaker 4: Okay, yeah, but you mean Charlotte.

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Speaker 1: Yes, Charlotte emailed us and she wants to know why

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Speaker 1: you're ghosting.

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Speaker 4: Oh okay, I don't think I'm ghosting. I had no

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Speaker 4: idea that was even a date, like what, because we're friends.

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Speaker 4: I've known it for years.

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Speaker 1: That was not a date?

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Speaker 2: Was it?

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Speaker 3: Or was she thought you were able to tell that

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Speaker 3: she has had a crush on you for a long time?

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Speaker 1: Wow?

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Speaker 4: No, I thought we were just doing like a friend

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Speaker 4: I had no idea she was interested in me, though.

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Speaker 3: Does that change things for you?

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Speaker 2: Yeah?

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Speaker 1: I think so.

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Speaker 4: I mean, she's definitely cute. I never thought of her

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Speaker 4: we hung out that day.

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Speaker 2: Was totally fine.

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Speaker 4: I just thought it was just a friendly hang. I

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Speaker 2: This is like crazy.

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Speaker 1: Okay.

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Speaker 3: She reached out to you though, after you guys hung

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Speaker 4: Yeah, like most too. I mean I caught up at

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Speaker 4: work or like when friends text you don't get back

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Speaker 4: to run away anythink an isn't of it?

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Speaker 1: Okay, okay, well she definitely thought it was a date.

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Speaker 1: And Henry, she's on the phone right now and wants

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Speaker 4: Oh my god, what's.

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Speaker 6: Oh wow?

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Speaker 2: Hey, Okay, this has been very much a roller coaster.

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Speaker 2: I'm like kind of embarrassed honestly, but also Henry, like,

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Speaker 2: really you really didn't know. You really couldn't tell.

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Speaker 3: I really couldn't tell.

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Speaker 4: No, like super obvious.

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Speaker 2: We didn't kiss her anything, so there was no.

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Speaker 6: Think it's me, but we were flirting now, oh my gosh, honestly,

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Speaker 6: like I thought, I've been so obvious recently that there

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Speaker 6: that was a date, Like we haven't hung out that

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Speaker 2: Like I mean, like it sounds like what do you

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Speaker 1: You don't have to tell me right now?

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Speaker 2: Oh my gosh, you don't have to know her right now.

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Speaker 2: I just I have fun and I don't know, well,

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Speaker 2: I mean.

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Speaker 1: No, you know, I know this is crazy.

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Speaker 4: It is totally crazy. I mean, so you're yes, I mean,

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Speaker 4: if you want to go out like a real date,

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Speaker 4: like make it official, like a day, yes, hell yeah,

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Speaker 4: I'm into it.

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Speaker 2: You are I mean, do you want to? Not just me?

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Speaker 2: Do you want to?

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Speaker 4: I do want to? Yeah?

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Speaker 2: And I feel like an idiot for.

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Speaker 4: Like not even realizing this.

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Speaker 1: I'm like super stoked, like.

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Speaker 4: That is how you were super too too, but like

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Speaker 4: I never want to cross that friendship line.

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Speaker 2: And oh my gosh, yeah.

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Speaker 4: Of course, because once you cross that friendship line and

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Speaker 4: someone's on in you, then you look like an idiot

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Speaker 4: and now you're embarrassed in the friendship.

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Speaker 1: And you have to call a radio station to call

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Speaker 1: I'm this is so cute though, Oh my god, this

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Speaker 4: Yeah, so yeah, I yes, I'm super excited. Yes, yes, yes,

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Speaker 4: like I'm in totally totally totally okay.

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Speaker 1: Well I didn't even need to ask, but I have

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Speaker 1: to because that's what happens in the segment. So, Henry,

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Speaker 1: would you like to go on another day with Charlotte?

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Speaker 1: Will pay for it?

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Speaker 2: Hell?

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Speaker 2: Wow, thank you. This is amazing And maybe I'll need

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Speaker 2: ask you to play at.

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Speaker 3: Your wedding, Okay, but not to put pressure on it.

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Speaker 3: it right away.

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