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Speaker 1: Your perspective is everything? Your perspective canned to be one

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Speaker 2: What is going on? Everyone?

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Speaker 3: My name is Emily A Body and you are listening

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Speaker 3: to episode one of Hurdle, a wellness focused podcast where

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Speaker 3: I sit down with inspiring individuals to talk about big wins,

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Speaker 3: top athletes and CEOs to aspiring entrepreneurs and what it

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Speaker 2: My mission is simple to.

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Speaker 3: Inspire you to be your best self, move with intention,

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Speaker 3: chatting with Trent Shelton's motivational speaker and former NFL player.

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Speaker 3: In today's episode, Trek fills me in on what it

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Speaker 3: since he was young of playing football professional aid. After

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Speaker 3: from the ground up and the early days recording two

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Speaker 3: On Tuesday night, the twenty third, I am hosting the

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Speaker 3: Hurdle book Club at eight pm. We are going to

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Speaker 3: be reading Alexipoppus's book Bravy. Spoiler alert. I don't do

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Speaker 2: Today.

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Speaker 3: I'm sitting down with Trent Shelton. He's a former NFL

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Speaker 2: How are you doing, Trent?

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Speaker 4: I'm doing good. How are you doing?

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Speaker 3: I'm doing quite well. So before we really get into this,

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Speaker 3: And the second thing is I'm just gonna bring this

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Speaker 3: Fair, you are known to your more than fifteen million

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Speaker 1: All this work and I didn't get drafted. So end

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Speaker 1: my words count. I'm a listener. I think one of

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Speaker 1: or any type of fear when the mission is strong enough.

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Speaker 1: When the mission is great enough, the fear will never

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Speaker 1: I'm not. You know, I'm pretty I'm gonna say I'm

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Speaker 1: pretty scared of Kyloe. Everbody just gonna go out there

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Speaker 1: daughter because what's on the other side is bigger than

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Speaker 1: Yeah, so I make some phone calls and you know,

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Speaker 1: I'm trying to get validation. It's so funny. We try

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Speaker 1: the people closest when we bring this vision, and oftentimes

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Speaker 1: that's the wrong place to go. And so I call

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Speaker 1: my friends and they don't get it. They like, bro,

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Speaker 1: you tripping and there was a lot of value for

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Speaker 1: them and me still playing football because at that time

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Speaker 1: we were going out, like the lifestyle was there, so

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Speaker 1: like if I stopped that, then a lot is cut

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Speaker 1: off and so that like you're tripping. And I called

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Speaker 1: my parents and I called my mom. Actually I was

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Speaker 1: holding my dad pick up the phone, but my mom did.

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Speaker 1: And I told my mom like that night, I was like, hey, Mom,

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Speaker 1: I'm through, like I don't want to I'm not playing

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Speaker 1: no more.

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Speaker 4: I'm sorry to disappoint you.

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Speaker 1: And it got quiet, like you're ever, like you're talking

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Speaker 1: to somebody, like look down, make sure the phone is

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Speaker 1: you know, she just asked me like are you sure

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Speaker 1: you want to do that? And I just told her

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Speaker 1: like what I felt. I was like, Mom, I've never

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Speaker 1: felt so much confidence in the mister fear, like I

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Speaker 1: just I can't explain. I know, this is it, Like

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Speaker 1: I just know. And she's like, you know what, go

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Speaker 1: do it. And that's when I made the decision to

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Speaker 1: cuts off the road bridge that you're not going back.

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Speaker 1: And I just made that decision, and you know, I

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Speaker 1: started making videos and I would say like probably a

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Speaker 1: year later, less than a year, videos started to go

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Speaker 3: I think something to touch on here that's really important

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Speaker 3: is you were so worried about just being Trent shell

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Speaker 3: In and not being Trent shell In the football player.

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Speaker 3: And I think that's us That's just something that a

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Speaker 3: lot of people can seriously relate to, especially like if

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Speaker 3: you're a runner and you get injured and you can't run, like, okay,

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Speaker 3: what am I doing here? If you're you know, so

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Speaker 3: many people in the pandemic like commuting to work and

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Speaker 3: identifying so like strongly with their occupation and what they

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Speaker 3: were doing, and that shifted and maybe they lost their job.

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Speaker 3: And I think that's just you know, a really difficult

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Speaker 3: thing for people to do, is disassociate who they are

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Speaker 3: and what their values are from the thing that they do.

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Speaker 2: Was that hard for you at first?

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Speaker 1: Absolutely? You know, especially with athletes, our worth is tied

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Speaker 1: to our performance. Our identity is tied to a sport.

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Speaker 1: And you know, some teach my son and teach the

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Speaker 1: kids now that I had to learn. You know, sports

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Speaker 1: is what you do, it is not who you are.

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Speaker 1: You know, your worth should never be tied to something external.

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Speaker 1: That's everybody like even now, I don't. It's hard, but

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Speaker 1: I don't tie my worth to social media. I don't

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Speaker 1: tie my worth to you know, rehab time like at all.

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Speaker 1: I tie my worth to who I was created to

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Speaker 1: be internally. And so I think it's tough, but you

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Speaker 1: have to do that because if you don't, when you

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Speaker 1: lose that, you will lose yourself. Like no, hands down,

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Speaker 1: you will lose yourself. So I wut to everybody listening

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Speaker 1: right now is just like who are you without it?

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Speaker 1: Like strip the way of everything? Who are you at

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Speaker 1: your core? And you know, pay attention to that and

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Speaker 1: really do that internal work.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, And I think that's hard because for some people

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Speaker 3: to like do that work, they hear that phrase, they're.

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Speaker 2: Like, Okay, I've got to do the work.

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Speaker 3: But then they like sit down, They're like, where the

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Speaker 3: hell am I supposed to start?

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Speaker 2: Like what work? Do I need? A notebook?

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Speaker 3: Do I need? Like should I watch a specific video

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Speaker 3: that's going to tell me how to.

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Speaker 2: Do the work?

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Speaker 3: Like I'm sure people are asking you all the time,

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Speaker 3: like what does that eat me?

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Speaker 4: Absolutely?

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Speaker 1: So I think it's asking yourself a set of questions, right,

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Speaker 1: And the first question that I feel like is.

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Speaker 4: Again, who am I? Like? Without nothing, like, without anything external?

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Speaker 4: Who are you?

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Speaker 1: And this is kind of weird, but I always picture

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Speaker 1: myself like if nobody existed in this world, like nobody,

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Speaker 1: like who would I be?

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Speaker 4: Right?

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Speaker 1: If nobody was there to validate me, nobody was there

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Speaker 1: to know likes on, so like who would I be?

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Speaker 1: And so you have to have that conversation with yourself.

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Speaker 1: And that's not a one day conversation, by the way.

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Speaker 1: I'm still having that conversation, by the way. I think

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Speaker 1: it's a journey. And then two is like like what

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Speaker 1: truly matters to you? You know, I don't know if

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Speaker 1: like we spend enough time as human beings like really

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Speaker 1: understanding like what truly matters and what's going to matter

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Speaker 1: at the end of the day. And you know, like

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Speaker 1: situations like my mom is going through and then you know,

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Speaker 1: my college roommate one of my best friends come in suicide,

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Speaker 1: Like it makes me think, are lose my grandparents?

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Speaker 4: Right?

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Speaker 1: It makes me think, like what life is truly about?

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Speaker 1: And I think you've got to have those conversations with

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Speaker 1: yourself and get clarity on you know, what is truly

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Speaker 1: going to matter, what truly matters to you. And I

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Speaker 1: think that's where success is because success to me is fulfillment.

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Speaker 1: It's it's not a status. It's not money, it's not

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Speaker 1: you know, followers, it's not it's cloud, it's not none

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Speaker 1: of that. It's literally for me, it's fulfillment, like what

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Speaker 1: truly fulfills me. And I think when you get clear

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Speaker 1: on that, I think life becomes a little bit easier

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Speaker 1: for sure.

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Speaker 4: For sure.

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Speaker 3: I mean you've touched on so many different hurdle moments already,

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Speaker 3: from leaving the NFL and picking yourself up and pivoting

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Speaker 3: careers to you just mentioned the loss of your good

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Speaker 3: friend in these really hard times. What is it that

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Speaker 3: you go to to pick yourself back up off the ground.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, So it's for me. I mean, for one, it's

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Speaker 1: my faith. You know, my faith is everything to me.

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Speaker 1: You know, that's one thing, and I know a lot

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Speaker 1: of even can relate to that. But also it's it's

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Speaker 1: just the mission like even now, like you know, I'll

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Speaker 1: just be transparent, like I'm I'm probably it was like

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Speaker 1: probably December November January, like the hardest time of my life.

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Speaker 4: Like I was depressed, like and people.

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Speaker 1: And it's hard because you know, you have to be

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Speaker 1: something for the world right still while you're going through

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Speaker 1: it yourself. But for me, I'm not afraid to turn off, right,

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Speaker 1: I'm not afraid to disconnect and talk about it often

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Speaker 1: disconnect from the world. And so I had to do

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Speaker 1: that because you know, with my mom's situation, it's been tough.

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Speaker 1: I gain probably twenty five thirty pounds. I stepped on

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Speaker 1: the scale the other day. I was like, dang, you know,

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Speaker 1: and I was like, man, and I don't judge myself

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Speaker 1: for that, but I know, okay, cool, it's time to

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Speaker 1: snap back into it. But what pulled me through, like

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Speaker 1: the tug boat that pulled me through, was mission. Was

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Speaker 1: the mission that I set out to do, and remembering

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Speaker 1: why I started remembering the the I don't like to

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Speaker 1: use the word promise because that's what words. But the

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Speaker 1: commitment that I made to my friend that killed itself,

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Speaker 1: the commitment that I made to my mother, the commitment

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Speaker 1: that I made to my community. You know what I'm saying,

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Speaker 1: And it's okay. To go through these moments, like I

655
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Speaker 1: want to be clear about that because you hear people

656
00:30:07,440 --> 00:30:10,120
Speaker 1: talk about, you know, be strong, and you think that

657
00:30:10,120 --> 00:30:12,200
Speaker 1: that means like, Okay, I can't go through moments or

658
00:30:12,400 --> 00:30:14,600
Speaker 1: I can't go through times where it hurts. No, it's

659
00:30:14,640 --> 00:30:16,760
Speaker 1: okay to not be okay, but it's not okay to

660
00:30:16,760 --> 00:30:19,600
Speaker 1: stay that way. And so I gave myself the permission

661
00:30:19,640 --> 00:30:22,280
Speaker 1: to go through what I was going through. And what

662
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Speaker 1: helped me Also, I know this is probably like I

663
00:30:25,240 --> 00:30:27,680
Speaker 1: added on to the question, but what helped me was

664
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Speaker 1: learn how to live live in appreciation and not regret,

665
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Speaker 1: because I think when you're in regret, it's like poison

666
00:30:35,720 --> 00:30:38,240
Speaker 1: to your soul and you're basically trying to do something

667
00:30:38,280 --> 00:30:40,520
Speaker 1: about something you can't do nothing about. And so I

668
00:30:40,520 --> 00:30:43,600
Speaker 1: switched it to appreciation to find appreciation in my struggle,

669
00:30:43,680 --> 00:30:46,120
Speaker 1: a gratitude in my struggle, and that helped me to

670
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Speaker 1: be able to focus on my mission and pull myself through.

671
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Speaker 3: We referenced the fifteen million social reach for you. Has

672
00:30:52,480 --> 00:30:55,000
Speaker 3: there been a time before We keep going into your

673
00:30:55,040 --> 00:30:59,960
Speaker 3: backstory where you have struggled with dealing with the approval

674
00:31:00,160 --> 00:31:02,600
Speaker 3: of others. I can't even imagine you know as that

675
00:31:03,080 --> 00:31:06,000
Speaker 3: ten becomes a hundred, becomes a thousand, becomes one hundred thousand,

676
00:31:06,080 --> 00:31:09,720
Speaker 3: becomes millions, It's like, does that ever become kind of

677
00:31:09,760 --> 00:31:11,520
Speaker 3: a dangerous cycle or has that for you?

678
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Speaker 1: It was at a point because again I'm introverted, like,

679
00:31:16,640 --> 00:31:20,240
Speaker 1: you know, the significance piece doesn't like for me. And

680
00:31:20,280 --> 00:31:23,080
Speaker 1: maybe it's because I went through sports like almost like

681
00:31:23,120 --> 00:31:25,520
Speaker 1: Biggie said, more money, more problems. I always say more followers,

682
00:31:25,520 --> 00:31:28,080
Speaker 1: more problems, right, And it's just like because it's a lot,

683
00:31:28,120 --> 00:31:29,960
Speaker 1: and I don't like a picture like I'm the guy

684
00:31:30,040 --> 00:31:32,720
Speaker 1: like super Bowl like we had nobody at the house,

685
00:31:32,840 --> 00:31:35,000
Speaker 1: you know, not because I'm anti social. I'm just like

686
00:31:35,080 --> 00:31:38,000
Speaker 1: I just like protecting my piece. And so yeah, that's

687
00:31:38,000 --> 00:31:40,400
Speaker 1: been tough for me because you know, I'm not an

688
00:31:40,520 --> 00:31:43,400
Speaker 1: A list celebrity, but you know, people know who I am,

689
00:31:43,520 --> 00:31:46,200
Speaker 1: and it's kind of like, you know, it's kind of hard.

690
00:31:46,240 --> 00:31:48,800
Speaker 1: But I say all that to say so I made

691
00:31:48,800 --> 00:31:51,760
Speaker 1: a spoken word. It's called pick me apart, and I

692
00:31:51,800 --> 00:31:53,880
Speaker 1: made it like in twenty fourteen fifteen, and that was

693
00:31:53,880 --> 00:31:55,400
Speaker 1: the time where I was kind of going through like

694
00:31:55,520 --> 00:32:00,000
Speaker 1: dang like approval like people like Trent, You're not Christian enough,

695
00:32:00,000 --> 00:32:02,040
Speaker 1: if you're too Christian, you talk about this, you talk

696
00:32:02,080 --> 00:32:03,960
Speaker 1: about like people are just picking me apart right with

697
00:32:04,000 --> 00:32:06,480
Speaker 1: my messages. And I just came to a point where

698
00:32:06,480 --> 00:32:08,640
Speaker 1: I was like, the first step to being unhappy is

699
00:32:08,680 --> 00:32:11,160
Speaker 1: trying to please everyone else. So I made a decision

700
00:32:11,560 --> 00:32:13,640
Speaker 1: to say, I'm not gonna I'm not gonna live my

701
00:32:13,680 --> 00:32:16,040
Speaker 1: life pleasing people. You know, I'm gonna live my life

702
00:32:16,080 --> 00:32:17,840
Speaker 1: doing what I feel is right in my heart to do.

703
00:32:18,240 --> 00:32:20,240
Speaker 1: And whether you approve it or not, where you agree

704
00:32:20,240 --> 00:32:22,800
Speaker 1: with it or not, that's not my concern. I know

705
00:32:23,000 --> 00:32:25,160
Speaker 1: that I'm not putting out anything negative or disrespectful, but

706
00:32:25,240 --> 00:32:31,000
Speaker 1: I refuse to lose myself to please a following because

707
00:32:31,040 --> 00:32:32,320
Speaker 1: at the end of the day, and I've told my

708
00:32:32,360 --> 00:32:34,760
Speaker 1: following this, like, at the end of the day, I

709
00:32:34,840 --> 00:32:37,440
Speaker 1: know that when I'm at my rock bottom, some of

710
00:32:37,480 --> 00:32:41,440
Speaker 1: y'all might be there, Like I understand that, but I'm

711
00:32:41,440 --> 00:32:43,320
Speaker 1: gonna be dealing with it, and so I don't want

712
00:32:43,360 --> 00:32:45,320
Speaker 1: to see her and lose myself for any type of

713
00:32:45,360 --> 00:32:48,120
Speaker 1: approval of the world. And so, and I'm gonna be

714
00:32:48,200 --> 00:32:51,959
Speaker 1: honest with you like that probably I could probably be

715
00:32:52,120 --> 00:32:54,120
Speaker 1: ten times more successful than what I am right now

716
00:32:54,200 --> 00:32:57,000
Speaker 1: in the world's eyes, right, but often think that, yeah,

717
00:32:57,000 --> 00:32:58,800
Speaker 1: I might be more successful in the world's eyes, but

718
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Speaker 1: I wouldn't have more peace in my life.

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Speaker 4: And so I'm willing to disconnect and say no a lot.

720
00:33:06,040 --> 00:33:08,480
Speaker 3: I think also like coming back to your foundation and

721
00:33:08,520 --> 00:33:11,160
Speaker 3: your values and again knowing what you said, which is

722
00:33:11,240 --> 00:33:13,920
Speaker 3: like you know that you have no ill intention and

723
00:33:14,000 --> 00:33:19,520
Speaker 3: to firmly understand and believe that is so important into

724
00:33:19,640 --> 00:33:22,920
Speaker 3: just like going on and continuing to do good. I remember,

725
00:33:23,040 --> 00:33:25,560
Speaker 3: like back in the pandemic, when you know so many

726
00:33:25,600 --> 00:33:28,400
Speaker 3: people are just like looking for help and they look

727
00:33:28,480 --> 00:33:31,280
Speaker 3: to you and they want you to be like their guru,

728
00:33:31,400 --> 00:33:34,160
Speaker 3: right like they want you to serve every bucket for them.

729
00:33:34,200 --> 00:33:36,600
Speaker 3: And I felt this way as well, with a like

730
00:33:36,840 --> 00:33:39,719
Speaker 3: minuscule like drop in the bucket of a following compared

731
00:33:39,760 --> 00:33:41,600
Speaker 3: to yours. But it was just like I had to say,

732
00:33:41,600 --> 00:33:45,800
Speaker 3: one day, listen, like you have a doctor, a physical therapist,

733
00:33:45,960 --> 00:33:49,360
Speaker 3: a therapist, like a massage person, like someone that comes

734
00:33:49,360 --> 00:33:51,600
Speaker 3: and cleans your house. If you have this whole group

735
00:33:51,640 --> 00:33:54,080
Speaker 3: of people that you work with regularly, I will never

736
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Speaker 3: be every single one of those people for you ever.

737
00:33:57,760 --> 00:34:01,280
Speaker 3: And once I like said that out loud and was like, wow,

738
00:34:01,560 --> 00:34:03,400
Speaker 3: like I need to take some of this pressure off

739
00:34:03,440 --> 00:34:06,120
Speaker 3: myself because it's we put this pressure here because we

740
00:34:06,120 --> 00:34:08,960
Speaker 3: want to help. You know, like you want to help people,

741
00:34:09,320 --> 00:34:11,279
Speaker 3: but you have to understand that, like you can't be

742
00:34:11,680 --> 00:34:14,440
Speaker 3: everything for someone. You can just do the best you

743
00:34:14,480 --> 00:34:16,680
Speaker 3: can with what you have to like, help in whatever

744
00:34:16,680 --> 00:34:17,960
Speaker 3: way feels right for you.

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00:34:19,520 --> 00:34:21,879
Speaker 1: Yeah, it doesn't make you a bad person for doing

746
00:34:21,920 --> 00:34:23,759
Speaker 1: what's good for you. You know, it doesn't make you a

747
00:34:23,760 --> 00:34:27,080
Speaker 1: bad person to say no. And you're exactly right, Like,

748
00:34:27,120 --> 00:34:29,799
Speaker 1: I think taking that firm stance, it's what's needed a

749
00:34:29,840 --> 00:34:32,680
Speaker 1: lot and setting firm boundaries to say, Like, that'st thing

750
00:34:32,680 --> 00:34:34,600
Speaker 1: I tell people all the time when people say, turn

751
00:34:34,680 --> 00:34:37,080
Speaker 1: you change my life. I'm not a life changer, I'm not.

752
00:34:37,120 --> 00:34:39,560
Speaker 1: I don't want the credit. You know, I'm a seed

753
00:34:39,560 --> 00:34:41,399
Speaker 1: planner because I might not be there for you when

754
00:34:41,400 --> 00:34:42,960
Speaker 1: you need me. You know, you might hit my inbox

755
00:34:42,960 --> 00:34:45,200
Speaker 1: and I might not see it. And so you need

756
00:34:45,239 --> 00:34:47,600
Speaker 1: to be able to develop tools yourself. I'm trying to

757
00:34:48,040 --> 00:34:50,160
Speaker 1: teach you how to catch your fish, right. I'm not

758
00:34:50,200 --> 00:34:51,880
Speaker 1: going to keep showing you like I want to give you.

759
00:34:52,040 --> 00:34:53,000
Speaker 1: I don't want to enable you.

760
00:34:53,040 --> 00:34:53,320
Speaker 4: I want to.

761
00:34:53,360 --> 00:34:55,040
Speaker 1: I want you to be able to Like I had

762
00:34:55,080 --> 00:34:57,080
Speaker 1: a person tell me this and it was the biggest compliment,

763
00:34:57,080 --> 00:34:59,560
Speaker 1: and I think they thought they offended me and said, Trent, like,

764
00:35:00,040 --> 00:35:04,400
Speaker 1: I feel like I've outgrew your content, and I was like, awesome, great,

765
00:35:04,600 --> 00:35:07,680
Speaker 1: Like it means that you've actually like progressed through it.

766
00:35:08,040 --> 00:35:10,960
Speaker 1: Like I don't want you watching the same videos thirty times,

767
00:35:11,360 --> 00:35:13,200
Speaker 1: you know, I want you to be able to say, Okay,

768
00:35:13,280 --> 00:35:16,400
Speaker 1: I learned it, I applauded, I changed my situation. So

769
00:35:17,080 --> 00:35:19,120
Speaker 1: I'm in it for people to grow, not to just

770
00:35:19,280 --> 00:35:20,520
Speaker 1: you know, stay the same.

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Speaker 3: The question is, though, were they kind when they told

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00:35:24,120 --> 00:35:26,319
Speaker 3: you that they agree your content? Were they looking for

773
00:35:26,360 --> 00:35:27,800
Speaker 3: more from you?

774
00:35:27,880 --> 00:35:28,640
Speaker 4: No, they were kind.

775
00:35:29,000 --> 00:35:31,320
Speaker 1: They actually didn't want to say it, but they still

776
00:35:31,600 --> 00:35:32,640
Speaker 1: digested the content.

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00:35:32,680 --> 00:35:33,640
Speaker 4: And I was like, no, that's good.

778
00:35:33,680 --> 00:35:35,040
Speaker 1: So I don't know if they wanted I don't know,

779
00:35:35,080 --> 00:35:37,000
Speaker 1: maybe they did want a different response, but I was like,

780
00:35:37,040 --> 00:35:37,520
Speaker 1: that's great.

781
00:35:37,760 --> 00:35:42,160
Speaker 3: Like cool, you you established rehab time, you're getting into

782
00:35:42,160 --> 00:35:44,920
Speaker 3: this groove. You're like hosting these like conference calls with

783
00:35:45,000 --> 00:35:48,440
Speaker 3: thousands of people. When do you start to get a

784
00:35:48,440 --> 00:35:51,960
Speaker 3: really serious understanding of like kind of the trajectory that

785
00:35:52,000 --> 00:35:52,359
Speaker 3: you're on.

786
00:35:53,000 --> 00:35:56,960
Speaker 4: Yeah, so man, that's a tough question.

787
00:35:57,120 --> 00:36:00,360
Speaker 1: So I think there were different pockets where I realized like, okay,

788
00:36:01,000 --> 00:36:05,239
Speaker 1: this is this is like crazy. So one was like

789
00:36:05,360 --> 00:36:08,359
Speaker 1: people hitting me up that I know that was like, yeah,

790
00:36:08,480 --> 00:36:10,400
Speaker 1: my cousin just shared you. I'm like, that's trep like

791
00:36:10,440 --> 00:36:12,479
Speaker 1: I like and it was like my cousin just shared

792
00:36:12,520 --> 00:36:14,279
Speaker 1: you in Utah or something like that. So when I

793
00:36:14,280 --> 00:36:16,720
Speaker 1: started getting people like that they knew me was saying

794
00:36:16,760 --> 00:36:18,600
Speaker 1: like people that you know, they were close to or

795
00:36:18,600 --> 00:36:21,160
Speaker 1: they knew was sharing my content. So that was one

796
00:36:21,320 --> 00:36:23,440
Speaker 1: and then also the other two things was you know

797
00:36:23,520 --> 00:36:26,200
Speaker 1: me first going out the country was like real for

798
00:36:26,320 --> 00:36:29,080
Speaker 1: me because for one, it made me realize like how

799
00:36:29,120 --> 00:36:32,160
Speaker 1: small minded my vision was. And you know, we often

800
00:36:32,719 --> 00:36:36,520
Speaker 1: project like our goals based upon our current circumstances and

801
00:36:36,600 --> 00:36:38,640
Speaker 1: we limit ourselves and so that taught me that I

802
00:36:38,719 --> 00:36:41,200
Speaker 1: was like, man, there's a way bigger world.

803
00:36:40,960 --> 00:36:42,400
Speaker 4: Than my world that I'm currently living in.

804
00:36:42,440 --> 00:36:44,080
Speaker 1: So when I went to Sweden, this was my first

805
00:36:44,080 --> 00:36:45,840
Speaker 1: time out to coming, it was sweeten At all places,

806
00:36:46,239 --> 00:36:48,400
Speaker 1: I was like, I'm in Sweden. This is crazy, like

807
00:36:48,440 --> 00:36:50,440
Speaker 1: speaking on stages and I remember me being in my

808
00:36:50,560 --> 00:36:53,920
Speaker 1: room and another thing would probably be people putting me

809
00:36:54,000 --> 00:36:56,239
Speaker 1: in the same phrases of people I looked up to,

810
00:36:56,719 --> 00:36:58,640
Speaker 1: Like I like the first one was probably like it

811
00:36:58,680 --> 00:37:02,440
Speaker 1: was a list and it was like top fifty. It

812
00:37:02,520 --> 00:37:04,719
Speaker 1: was something like we can probably google it or so

813
00:37:04,880 --> 00:37:07,520
Speaker 1: I forgot the title. It was like Oprah on there.

814
00:37:08,040 --> 00:37:10,120
Speaker 1: It was like all these people and my name was

815
00:37:10,239 --> 00:37:12,560
Speaker 1: I'm like, what, this is crazy? You know, It's like

816
00:37:13,400 --> 00:37:15,840
Speaker 1: so those were the moments where I start to realize, like, Okay,

817
00:37:15,960 --> 00:37:17,880
Speaker 1: this is really making the impact.

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00:37:18,200 --> 00:37:19,359
Speaker 2: I love that. I love that.

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00:37:19,400 --> 00:37:22,880
Speaker 3: Okay, So you also, before we're talking about like protecting

820
00:37:22,880 --> 00:37:26,719
Speaker 3: your piece and also probably a byproduct of that, protecting

821
00:37:26,880 --> 00:37:30,759
Speaker 3: your worth, talk to me about where you sit on

822
00:37:30,800 --> 00:37:33,359
Speaker 3: the importance of protecting your worth and do you have

823
00:37:33,400 --> 00:37:36,360
Speaker 3: any suggestions or tips that you can offer to someone

824
00:37:36,400 --> 00:37:39,400
Speaker 3: who is just feeling like I just don't know what

825
00:37:39,480 --> 00:37:41,960
Speaker 3: I have to offer and having trouble standing on their

826
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Speaker 3: own two feet.

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00:37:43,040 --> 00:37:46,880
Speaker 1: Absolutely, So, man, I can break this down for an hour. So, like,

828
00:37:47,239 --> 00:37:48,719
Speaker 1: I love talking about word. It's actually gonna be my

829
00:37:48,800 --> 00:37:50,880
Speaker 1: next one. And this is the first time I've said it,

830
00:37:50,920 --> 00:37:52,400
Speaker 1: So it's coming. I don't know when it's coming, but

831
00:37:52,520 --> 00:37:54,080
Speaker 1: my next book will be over worth. I don't know

832
00:37:54,120 --> 00:37:56,320
Speaker 1: what I'm gonna call it, but it's gonna be overworth.

833
00:37:56,360 --> 00:37:58,560
Speaker 1: And I break down worth in two things.

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Speaker 4: Right.

835
00:37:58,960 --> 00:38:01,840
Speaker 1: Worth is the accept of self and it's the confidence

836
00:38:01,880 --> 00:38:03,400
Speaker 1: of self. So if you had like two pillars, it

837
00:38:03,400 --> 00:38:06,120
Speaker 1: would be those two things. I betted a lot of

838
00:38:06,120 --> 00:38:07,960
Speaker 1: people and it came down to those two things, like

839
00:38:07,960 --> 00:38:10,400
Speaker 1: they didn't accept themselves, whether their past or their flaws,

840
00:38:10,520 --> 00:38:12,840
Speaker 1: or they weren't confident in who they are. And so

841
00:38:12,880 --> 00:38:14,640
Speaker 1: I spent a whole bunch of time breaking that down.

842
00:38:14,719 --> 00:38:16,480
Speaker 1: But I wanted to share that because the more confident

843
00:38:16,520 --> 00:38:20,120
Speaker 1: you are in yourself, and confidence comes from proving yourself right, right,

844
00:38:20,200 --> 00:38:22,480
Speaker 1: doing certain things, going out and you know, having a

845
00:38:22,560 --> 00:38:24,560
Speaker 1: vision of a podcast and actually doing it, and you

846
00:38:24,600 --> 00:38:28,080
Speaker 1: keep proving yourself right or proven yourself wrong wherever mindset

847
00:38:28,080 --> 00:38:31,640
Speaker 1: you're in. That builds confidence and acceptances you saying, you

848
00:38:31,640 --> 00:38:33,440
Speaker 1: know what, this is who I am. I'm not going

849
00:38:33,520 --> 00:38:36,600
Speaker 1: to allow opinions in the world to change who I am, right,

850
00:38:36,640 --> 00:38:38,439
Speaker 1: And that's when you really start to know your worth

851
00:38:38,480 --> 00:38:41,919
Speaker 1: and you know yourself. A practical thing that I do

852
00:38:42,600 --> 00:38:44,960
Speaker 1: is and I've said this before and people kind of

853
00:38:45,000 --> 00:38:48,200
Speaker 1: look at me weird when I say it, but understanding

854
00:38:48,200 --> 00:38:52,560
Speaker 1: from one's setting boundaries and your principles right, the things

855
00:38:52,680 --> 00:38:55,959
Speaker 1: that you stand on no matter what. Like that's very

856
00:38:56,000 --> 00:38:59,359
Speaker 1: important because like you said, you can have people into

857
00:38:59,360 --> 00:39:01,839
Speaker 1: your life. And this is what And I'm not trying

858
00:39:01,840 --> 00:39:04,000
Speaker 1: to tell people to build a wall because you know,

859
00:39:04,120 --> 00:39:06,359
Speaker 1: if you keep people out, you'll also keep people from

860
00:39:06,400 --> 00:39:09,520
Speaker 1: getting in. But it's like, always think about this, man,

861
00:39:09,560 --> 00:39:11,640
Speaker 1: you can allow one person in your life and they

862
00:39:11,640 --> 00:39:13,320
Speaker 1: can ruin your life, because I've seen it plenty of

863
00:39:13,320 --> 00:39:15,560
Speaker 1: times from just different people's stories, Like, man, you let

864
00:39:15,560 --> 00:39:17,360
Speaker 1: this person in. So I was like, you got to

865
00:39:17,360 --> 00:39:21,120
Speaker 1: have principles that you stand on that your feelings don't

866
00:39:21,160 --> 00:39:23,040
Speaker 1: make you switch on your principles. I always say facts

867
00:39:23,120 --> 00:39:25,439
Speaker 1: or feelings. Feelings are real, but feelings aren't always right.

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Speaker 1: And so the quote that I say that people kind

869
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Speaker 1: of looking at me funny. I said, I'm not loyal

870
00:39:29,560 --> 00:39:32,040
Speaker 1: to people. I'm loyal to my principles because the people

871
00:39:32,120 --> 00:39:34,759
Speaker 1: that deserve my loyalty will respect my principles. And so

872
00:39:34,880 --> 00:39:38,120
Speaker 1: my principles make my decisions. So whatever principle you have,

873
00:39:38,239 --> 00:39:41,920
Speaker 1: that's for love, whatever whatever you have, that's what you

874
00:39:41,960 --> 00:39:44,120
Speaker 1: stand on. So if nobody if a person's not giving

875
00:39:44,160 --> 00:39:46,600
Speaker 1: you that, then you got to say principles say nah,

876
00:39:46,680 --> 00:39:48,319
Speaker 1: this ain't for my life. Or if it's for your

877
00:39:48,320 --> 00:39:50,480
Speaker 1: business and you know your work, right, the principal say

878
00:39:50,480 --> 00:39:52,319
Speaker 1: you know what, I deserve this. You stand on that,

879
00:39:52,360 --> 00:39:54,880
Speaker 1: and you say you know what, they make the decisions.

880
00:39:54,880 --> 00:39:57,000
Speaker 1: So I always say, it's easy for me to make decisions,

881
00:39:57,000 --> 00:40:00,279
Speaker 1: easy for me to cut people out my life, if

882
00:40:00,560 --> 00:40:03,640
Speaker 1: that's a proper word to say, when my principles make

883
00:40:03,719 --> 00:40:06,200
Speaker 1: those decisions for me. So I think people should just

884
00:40:06,280 --> 00:40:09,440
Speaker 1: get very clear on the principles and values that they

885
00:40:09,480 --> 00:40:11,760
Speaker 1: have in their life and just realize, like, don't allow

886
00:40:11,800 --> 00:40:14,279
Speaker 1: feelings to make you sway from those values and principles.

887
00:40:14,640 --> 00:40:17,520
Speaker 3: I also think, like something to touch on here that

888
00:40:17,560 --> 00:40:21,400
Speaker 3: feels kind of right is this idea of making choices

889
00:40:21,640 --> 00:40:25,240
Speaker 3: or doing things just to make other people happy, because

890
00:40:25,280 --> 00:40:27,399
Speaker 3: you're like, well, if my people are happy, then I'm

891
00:40:27,440 --> 00:40:28,200
Speaker 3: going to be happy.

892
00:40:28,520 --> 00:40:30,960
Speaker 1: Other people's happiness should not equal with your misery, like

893
00:40:31,520 --> 00:40:34,640
Speaker 1: straight up, like, if you're living life to please people,

894
00:40:34,880 --> 00:40:37,360
Speaker 1: then you will be empty at some point, you know.

895
00:40:37,400 --> 00:40:40,400
Speaker 1: I always say, like, and it's not selfish, like the

896
00:40:40,440 --> 00:40:43,319
Speaker 1: world will make you think that, like manipular people will

897
00:40:43,320 --> 00:40:45,239
Speaker 1: make you think that it's selfish for you taking care

898
00:40:45,280 --> 00:40:47,440
Speaker 1: of you. I tell people all the time, like, I

899
00:40:47,480 --> 00:40:49,120
Speaker 1: take care of me because I want to be the

900
00:40:49,120 --> 00:40:51,840
Speaker 1: best me for those that need me to be. So

901
00:40:51,920 --> 00:40:54,239
Speaker 1: if me taking care of me says I don't want

902
00:40:54,239 --> 00:40:56,600
Speaker 1: to be around this environment anymore, I don't care how

903
00:40:56,600 --> 00:40:59,000
Speaker 1: you feel about it, because I know who I need

904
00:40:59,040 --> 00:41:01,239
Speaker 1: to be for my environ but in my world, and

905
00:41:01,280 --> 00:41:05,719
Speaker 1: so I would rather be viewed as cold hearted than

906
00:41:05,760 --> 00:41:08,279
Speaker 1: live broken hearted. So people say, trick, you're cold hearted.

907
00:41:08,280 --> 00:41:09,640
Speaker 1: And I know I'm not cold hearted person, like I

908
00:41:09,640 --> 00:41:12,440
Speaker 1: get people multiple chances and things. But I'll rather be

909
00:41:12,520 --> 00:41:14,799
Speaker 1: viewed as that because that's what people go to when

910
00:41:14,840 --> 00:41:18,680
Speaker 1: you say no. Right when you say no, they'll talk

911
00:41:18,719 --> 00:41:20,560
Speaker 1: about you. They'll make you feel like you're the bad person.

912
00:41:20,560 --> 00:41:22,560
Speaker 1: They'll tell the people about you and say, oh, you know,

913
00:41:22,640 --> 00:41:25,880
Speaker 1: trench changed, or he's done this or he's done that. Well,

914
00:41:26,000 --> 00:41:28,440
Speaker 1: all I've done was what they would do if they

915
00:41:28,440 --> 00:41:29,880
Speaker 1: were in my shoes. And so I tell people I

916
00:41:29,880 --> 00:41:32,600
Speaker 1: would rather be viewed as cold hearted then live broken hearted.

917
00:41:32,640 --> 00:41:34,280
Speaker 1: I refuse to get to the end of my life

918
00:41:34,280 --> 00:41:36,960
Speaker 1: and realize that I've settled for less. My whole entire

919
00:41:37,000 --> 00:41:39,600
Speaker 1: life to make other people happy that could care less

920
00:41:39,600 --> 00:41:40,560
Speaker 1: about me anywhere.

921
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Speaker 3: like you're kind of stuck in a certain situation where

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Speaker 3: either it's like maybe a little bit emotionally abusive, whether

941
00:43:02,440 --> 00:43:04,719
Speaker 3: it's a friend or a partnership, but you feel like

942
00:43:04,760 --> 00:43:08,000
Speaker 3: you're stuck in this situation because it could be all

943
00:43:08,040 --> 00:43:11,680
Speaker 3: you know or it's familiar, and getting out of that

944
00:43:11,920 --> 00:43:14,680
Speaker 3: and like doing the things that make you happy and

945
00:43:14,719 --> 00:43:18,760
Speaker 3: give back to your soul can literally feel completely impossible

946
00:43:18,800 --> 00:43:19,839
Speaker 3: because you don't know what to do.

947
00:43:20,960 --> 00:43:25,040
Speaker 1: Yeah, I mean, we're so afraid of the unknown, you know.

948
00:43:25,080 --> 00:43:27,640
Speaker 1: We would rather stand in familiar pain than move to

949
00:43:27,680 --> 00:43:28,480
Speaker 1: an unknown peace.

950
00:43:29,000 --> 00:43:29,160
Speaker 4: You know.

951
00:43:29,160 --> 00:43:30,839
Speaker 1: I had somebody tell me years ago that they would

952
00:43:30,880 --> 00:43:33,880
Speaker 1: rather accept a little than nothing at all. And so

953
00:43:34,120 --> 00:43:36,000
Speaker 1: for me, I would rather have nothing at all than

954
00:43:36,040 --> 00:43:37,279
Speaker 1: a little. If you only gonn give me a little

955
00:43:37,280 --> 00:43:39,480
Speaker 1: bit of loyalty, a little bit or whatever, I rather

956
00:43:39,520 --> 00:43:41,640
Speaker 1: have none of it at all because I just refuse

957
00:43:41,719 --> 00:43:43,960
Speaker 1: to settle. Like that's one of my principles, never settles,

958
00:43:43,960 --> 00:43:45,960
Speaker 1: one of my messages. I just refuse to settle because

959
00:43:46,200 --> 00:43:48,480
Speaker 1: I know that settling leads to suffering. It's going to

960
00:43:48,520 --> 00:43:50,280
Speaker 1: happen at some point in your life, in all aspects

961
00:43:50,280 --> 00:43:51,959
Speaker 1: of your life. You have to be able to willing

962
00:43:52,000 --> 00:43:54,640
Speaker 1: to take that journey. And this is the thing, you know,

963
00:43:54,640 --> 00:43:56,279
Speaker 1: when people be able to say trend it is hard.

964
00:43:56,560 --> 00:44:00,200
Speaker 1: I was like, it is hard, but choose your heart,

965
00:44:00,440 --> 00:44:02,360
Speaker 1: standing in the pain, whatever that pain is for you

966
00:44:02,360 --> 00:44:06,239
Speaker 1: for the rest of your life. That's hard. That's a heart.

967
00:44:06,280 --> 00:44:10,120
Speaker 1: It doesn't change. So I would rather remove myself move

968
00:44:10,200 --> 00:44:12,440
Speaker 1: on from a situation that's gonna be tough. It's not

969
00:44:12,480 --> 00:44:14,680
Speaker 1: gonna be easy because you're leaving something that's familiar or

970
00:44:14,920 --> 00:44:16,320
Speaker 1: you know, even if it's letting go of a sport.

971
00:44:16,680 --> 00:44:18,799
Speaker 1: You know, letting go of football was tough. So I'm

972
00:44:18,840 --> 00:44:21,240
Speaker 1: trying to find myself in the journey. But I knew

973
00:44:21,280 --> 00:44:25,279
Speaker 1: that at least at least the unknown, Like I know

974
00:44:25,320 --> 00:44:26,880
Speaker 1: what it is to be over here and stay with

975
00:44:26,920 --> 00:44:29,080
Speaker 1: this and hold on to this. So why not go

976
00:44:29,160 --> 00:44:31,880
Speaker 1: on this journey. The worst that can happen is, you know,

977
00:44:33,440 --> 00:44:35,239
Speaker 1: what I think is gonna happen doesn't happen. And I

978
00:44:35,239 --> 00:44:37,319
Speaker 1: would rather take that chance to stand into something that

979
00:44:37,360 --> 00:44:39,840
Speaker 1: I know for sure it's gonna hurt my life. And

980
00:44:39,880 --> 00:44:41,800
Speaker 1: so I would rather always move into the unknown and

981
00:44:41,880 --> 00:44:42,680
Speaker 1: standing known pain.

982
00:44:43,000 --> 00:44:46,040
Speaker 3: We're talking about journeys here. Talk to me about your

983
00:44:46,200 --> 00:44:47,880
Speaker 3: journey as a dad.

984
00:44:50,960 --> 00:44:53,720
Speaker 1: It started twelve years ago and it was a surprise

985
00:44:54,160 --> 00:44:55,839
Speaker 1: when it started twelve years ago. You know, it wasn't

986
00:44:55,840 --> 00:44:58,839
Speaker 1: it wasn't playing. And you know Tristan, that's my twelve

987
00:44:58,880 --> 00:45:01,440
Speaker 1: year old son. You know, he changed my life, like

988
00:45:01,840 --> 00:45:03,400
Speaker 1: I tell people all the time, you know, he he

989
00:45:03,840 --> 00:45:05,320
Speaker 1: changed my life as a man, Like he made me

990
00:45:05,400 --> 00:45:07,680
Speaker 1: want to be a better human being, knowing that I

991
00:45:07,760 --> 00:45:10,160
Speaker 1: have somebody that's going to follow my footsteps, Like knowing

992
00:45:10,160 --> 00:45:12,520
Speaker 1: that I'm a leader now and people out there that

993
00:45:12,560 --> 00:45:14,640
Speaker 1: don't have kids, you're a leader regardless. You know, somebody

994
00:45:14,680 --> 00:45:17,120
Speaker 1: somewhere sometimes watching what you do, your influence to someone.

995
00:45:17,560 --> 00:45:19,680
Speaker 1: And so I was now a conscious leader. So he

996
00:45:19,760 --> 00:45:22,680
Speaker 1: made me want to like get right, you know, just

997
00:45:22,719 --> 00:45:26,239
Speaker 1: with the values that I lived in the rold that

998
00:45:26,280 --> 00:45:27,760
Speaker 1: I knew I was going to leave for him legacy.

999
00:45:28,200 --> 00:45:32,360
Speaker 1: And then you know, fast forward to twenty sixteen. You know,

1000
00:45:32,360 --> 00:45:35,000
Speaker 1: I have a daughter, Maya, and now I have Marley

1001
00:45:35,080 --> 00:45:36,560
Speaker 1: that was born in twenty nineteen.

1002
00:45:36,640 --> 00:45:37,320
Speaker 4: And my girls.

1003
00:45:37,360 --> 00:45:39,600
Speaker 1: You know, they changed my life too. You know, they

1004
00:45:39,600 --> 00:45:41,480
Speaker 1: made me more you know, I grew up around all boys,

1005
00:45:41,920 --> 00:45:43,960
Speaker 1: you know, so they made me a lot more sensitive,

1006
00:45:44,160 --> 00:45:46,279
Speaker 1: a lot more just loving and cared and it's just

1007
00:45:46,760 --> 00:45:50,640
Speaker 1: a different vibe. And you know, I always say for me.

1008
00:45:51,800 --> 00:45:55,200
Speaker 1: Success is this house. You know, I don't want to

1009
00:45:55,239 --> 00:45:57,279
Speaker 1: be the guy that's praise to the world, but I

1010
00:45:57,320 --> 00:46:00,799
Speaker 1: walk in here, my kids can't stand me. Are I

1011
00:46:00,800 --> 00:46:02,759
Speaker 1: don't want to be the guy that you know, it's

1012
00:46:02,800 --> 00:46:05,280
Speaker 1: pleasing the world, but not spending time with my world.

1013
00:46:05,640 --> 00:46:09,919
Speaker 1: And so I make a lot of sacrifice because their

1014
00:46:09,920 --> 00:46:12,799
Speaker 1: opinion matters to me, you know, not the world, not

1015
00:46:12,880 --> 00:46:15,680
Speaker 1: the followers. Their opinion matters to me first, you know,

1016
00:46:15,760 --> 00:46:18,040
Speaker 1: my household. And I think, you know, we got to

1017
00:46:18,080 --> 00:46:20,920
Speaker 1: get back to that foundation to be able to you know,

1018
00:46:21,000 --> 00:46:24,520
Speaker 1: culptivate better family, so we can have better communities, so

1019
00:46:24,560 --> 00:46:25,719
Speaker 1: we can you know, have better world.

1020
00:46:25,760 --> 00:46:27,040
Speaker 4: So I think it starts in the house.

1021
00:46:27,560 --> 00:46:29,600
Speaker 3: I think also, like over the past year, with so

1022
00:46:29,680 --> 00:46:32,000
Speaker 3: many more people being able to spend a little bit

1023
00:46:32,000 --> 00:46:33,959
Speaker 3: more time at home and look at how I spun

1024
00:46:34,040 --> 00:46:36,920
Speaker 3: that as a positive instead of a negative, they have

1025
00:46:37,000 --> 00:46:40,680
Speaker 3: had the chance to kind of go back to those foundations.

1026
00:46:40,880 --> 00:46:43,879
Speaker 3: What has been a big lesson for you over the

1027
00:46:43,920 --> 00:46:47,680
Speaker 3: past year, because I'm sure, without a doubt, you're traveling

1028
00:46:47,920 --> 00:46:49,440
Speaker 3: much much less than you used to.

1029
00:46:50,239 --> 00:46:59,160
Speaker 1: Yeah, oh man, you know, outside of like being home

1030
00:46:59,360 --> 00:47:01,480
Speaker 1: or like the piece, you know, I can't even talk

1031
00:47:01,520 --> 00:47:04,040
Speaker 1: about that, Like, I just appreciate them. I said, I

1032
00:47:04,080 --> 00:47:05,879
Speaker 1: don't want to travel because some people see this like truth,

1033
00:47:05,880 --> 00:47:09,080
Speaker 1: it's not traveling, But it just feels good to be

1034
00:47:09,160 --> 00:47:12,359
Speaker 1: able to do this connect right and then be able

1035
00:47:12,400 --> 00:47:15,440
Speaker 1: to like be with my family right after this. And

1036
00:47:15,480 --> 00:47:18,520
Speaker 1: so it just made me realize just the importance of time.

1037
00:47:19,200 --> 00:47:21,400
Speaker 1: Like we've heard this supported a million times. You know,

1038
00:47:21,520 --> 00:47:24,640
Speaker 1: kids spell love time, and it's so true to be

1039
00:47:24,680 --> 00:47:26,800
Speaker 1: able to to be able to sit there and listen

1040
00:47:27,120 --> 00:47:29,520
Speaker 1: because as parents, we always think that we're teaching the kid.

1041
00:47:29,840 --> 00:47:31,560
Speaker 1: But if you sit there and listen, the kids will

1042
00:47:31,560 --> 00:47:33,680
Speaker 1: teach you. You know, they will teach you how to

1043
00:47:33,680 --> 00:47:35,800
Speaker 1: be a better mom, a better father, a better human

1044
00:47:35,800 --> 00:47:38,280
Speaker 1: being just by watching them interact. Like when my daughter's

1045
00:47:38,320 --> 00:47:41,120
Speaker 1: friend comes over here, it's so it's so cute and

1046
00:47:41,160 --> 00:47:44,320
Speaker 1: funny because they'll be angry at each other, like because

1047
00:47:44,360 --> 00:47:46,200
Speaker 1: they you know, somebody wants to play with this and

1048
00:47:46,239 --> 00:47:49,759
Speaker 1: somebody wants to play with that. Then literally two minutes later,

1049
00:47:49,880 --> 00:47:52,480
Speaker 1: they'll be friends again, and it's like they forgave each

1050
00:47:52,520 --> 00:47:54,480
Speaker 1: other just like that, they moved on to a bigger purpose.

1051
00:47:54,880 --> 00:47:57,680
Speaker 1: And so I just learned so much by just watching them,

1052
00:47:57,719 --> 00:48:01,280
Speaker 1: you know, Marley, even her, you know, she's like sixteen

1053
00:48:01,280 --> 00:48:04,600
Speaker 1: months and you know, just seeing her, you know, try

1054
00:48:04,640 --> 00:48:06,839
Speaker 1: something and fail at it. Then she gets back up

1055
00:48:06,840 --> 00:48:08,879
Speaker 1: and tries it again, and gets back up and tries

1056
00:48:08,920 --> 00:48:11,440
Speaker 1: it again. She's determined. You know, you can learn a

1057
00:48:11,480 --> 00:48:15,399
Speaker 1: lot from just kids and just a determination how they

1058
00:48:15,400 --> 00:48:17,000
Speaker 1: love and how they show up. So that's one of

1059
00:48:17,000 --> 00:48:19,040
Speaker 1: the bigger things that I've learned, is like being able

1060
00:48:19,040 --> 00:48:21,600
Speaker 1: to be super present. Because with Tristan, you know, I

1061
00:48:21,640 --> 00:48:24,399
Speaker 1: was still playing football, so I wasn't there for him

1062
00:48:24,480 --> 00:48:26,440
Speaker 1: like as an infant like I would have liked to be.

1063
00:48:26,800 --> 00:48:28,560
Speaker 1: And then Maya, you know, I was traveling a lot.

1064
00:48:28,640 --> 00:48:30,440
Speaker 1: You know, I was there, but not as much as

1065
00:48:30,440 --> 00:48:32,160
Speaker 1: I would like to be. And now with Marley, you know,

1066
00:48:32,200 --> 00:48:34,719
Speaker 1: I'm here, you know, all the time. So it's just

1067
00:48:34,719 --> 00:48:35,719
Speaker 1: a beautiful experience.

1068
00:48:35,960 --> 00:48:38,720
Speaker 3: You mentioned the word forgiveness, and I think that's something

1069
00:48:38,800 --> 00:48:41,080
Speaker 3: that we should rap about for just a second here,

1070
00:48:41,680 --> 00:48:45,080
Speaker 3: because I think that's also a huge thing that people

1071
00:48:45,080 --> 00:48:48,480
Speaker 3: struggle with, whether someone may have wronged them.

1072
00:48:48,920 --> 00:48:51,600
Speaker 2: Intentionally or unintentionally.

1073
00:48:51,719 --> 00:48:54,200
Speaker 3: Sometimes it's just hard to accept the facts and move

1074
00:48:54,239 --> 00:48:58,200
Speaker 3: forward and actually forgive. So for someone that's struggling with that,

1075
00:48:58,280 --> 00:49:00,480
Speaker 3: what kind of advice do you have for them?

1076
00:49:00,680 --> 00:49:03,400
Speaker 1: Absolutely, So there's three things like when it comes to forgiveness,

1077
00:49:03,400 --> 00:49:06,160
Speaker 1: at least two major ones, Like so one you have

1078
00:49:06,200 --> 00:49:08,000
Speaker 1: to understand, I know people have heard this before, but

1079
00:49:08,040 --> 00:49:10,800
Speaker 1: it's true. Forgiveness is for you, not for other persons.

1080
00:49:10,880 --> 00:49:13,680
Speaker 1: And the thing that helps me forgive is like this

1081
00:49:13,800 --> 00:49:18,200
Speaker 1: simple statement. Especially when somebody that's really hurt you and

1082
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Speaker 1: did something wrong to you, I'm like, I want to

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Speaker 1: forgive because I refuse to give them the power to

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Speaker 1: control the rest of my life. Like if they hurt

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Speaker 1: my past so bad, I refuse to give them the

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Speaker 1: power to control my future. And if you don't forgive,

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Speaker 1: that's what they're doing. You know how many of us

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Speaker 1: and I've been here before where I became the pain

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Speaker 1: that someone else gave me because I didn't forgive them.

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Speaker 1: You know a perfect example, you know, I had a

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Speaker 1: situation I'm not gonna get into any days, had a

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Speaker 1: situation where, you know, a business situation that didn't go right,

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Speaker 1: you know, just to be honest, and it wasn't good.

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Speaker 1: And you know, some money like business stuff like wasn't

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Speaker 1: the money that was old to me wasn't given to me,

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Speaker 1: and it made me very very like sour because I'm

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Speaker 1: already protective and I'm like, man, like, I can't believe

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Speaker 1: I trusted this person to be able to do this.

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Speaker 4: I'm just trying to be a good person.

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Speaker 1: And so what it did was like it made me

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Speaker 1: like block off everybody, like I'm not working with nobody,

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Speaker 1: no opportunities come in, I'm shutting it down.

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Speaker 4: Nope, I don't work with nobody.

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Speaker 1: And what I was doing, which we do so often

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Speaker 1: when we don't forgive, is I was making people pay

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Speaker 1: for mistakes they didn't make right, and we do that

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Speaker 1: so much, like they don't deserve that. And I started

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Speaker 1: to realize, like dang, like I'm allowing this person to

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Speaker 1: control my life. Even though they're not a part of

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Speaker 1: my life, it's still controlling so much of it. So

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Speaker 1: I had to forgive that person. So kind of to

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Speaker 1: wrap this up, one is to understand, forgiveness is for you.

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Speaker 1: Two is understanding will help you forgive. What I mean

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Speaker 1: by that is putting yourself in their shoes for a moment.

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Speaker 1: You know, maybe they didn't have the structure that you

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Speaker 1: had growing up. Maybe they were in a tough situation,

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Speaker 1: and it doesn't make their behavior, right, it helps you understand.

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Speaker 1: When you understand more, it helps you be able to

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Speaker 1: give the forgiveness that you A last but not least

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Speaker 1: is just realizing that if you don't forgive, that situation

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Speaker 1: is going to control you the rest of your life

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Speaker 1: and so to turn you into a person that you

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Speaker 1: don't need to be cooked and so forgive. Man, you

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Speaker 1: don't want to be in a prison without being behind bars.

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Speaker 2: So true.

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Speaker 3: I also think like on that note of like you

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Speaker 3: start to realize that you're treating people a way that

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Speaker 3: like they don't deserve and they had nothing to do

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Speaker 3: with the thing that was causing you pain. It really

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Speaker 3: just makes me think about sitting at my desk like

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Speaker 3: every single day and that people are like popping into

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Speaker 3: my inbox taking out their problems on me when I

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Speaker 3: did not cause them no talk to me.

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Speaker 2: Then, I mean, now you are.

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Speaker 3: Well into your career doing public speaking, writing, and so

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Speaker 3: much more. When you reflect on give or take, you know,

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Speaker 3: the last eight ten years, what would you say has

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Speaker 3: been one of the best pieces of advice you have

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00:51:52,840 --> 00:51:56,200
Speaker 3: been offered? Because I know you yourself are so used

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Speaker 3: to being the one giving it.

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Speaker 1: Man, that first popping into my heart. So I have

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Speaker 1: a friend the same, Zing Graziosi. He's well known in

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Speaker 1: the marketing world, and we became close. Like he's he's

1144
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Speaker 1: older than me and think things like fifty fifty two

1145
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Speaker 1: and uh, just has a lot of knowledge in different things.

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Speaker 1: And I remember telling me something that really stuck with me.

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Speaker 1: He was like, you want to stay in your unique ability?

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Speaker 1: And I was like, what do you mean by that?

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Speaker 1: He was like, man, you're doing so many things. Like

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Speaker 1: He's like, I know you want to do it all

1151
00:52:26,719 --> 00:52:29,040
Speaker 1: by yourself, but you're doing so many things. Like just

1152
00:52:29,080 --> 00:52:32,480
Speaker 1: imagine if you were able to really like build your

1153
00:52:32,520 --> 00:52:34,279
Speaker 1: brand to where you know, you don't have to do

1154
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Speaker 1: everything and you can actually focus on the thing that

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Speaker 1: you love to do. And so I made that my

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Speaker 1: mission to like really be able to build a brand

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Speaker 1: where I can stay in my unique ability so I

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Speaker 1: can be able to give, you know, my gift to

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Speaker 1: the world without being drained. And so I know that

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Speaker 1: might not be for everybody, but I think if people

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Speaker 1: can understand that, like when you can stay inside your

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Speaker 1: gift and not worry about everything else. And I know

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Speaker 1: it's a process, you know, you can't just do that

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Speaker 1: out the gate. That's always been my goal to be like,

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00:52:59,280 --> 00:53:01,480
Speaker 1: what can I take away and delegate so I can

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Speaker 1: stay into serving mode and just give it mode.

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Speaker 3: What excites you right now, aside from the fact that

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Speaker 3: you're home a little bit more often with your family.

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Speaker 1: Well, what I'm currently building and so I'm building it's

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Speaker 1: called Rabried Academy, and uh, it's so much like it's

1171
00:53:17,680 --> 00:53:20,400
Speaker 1: a whole academy, so much more than just online content.

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Speaker 1: We've actually started Raybree Youth Academy where it's actually sports performance.

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00:53:24,080 --> 00:53:26,480
Speaker 1: So like I'm geeked out about that because I never

1174
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Speaker 1: have got the chance to really put my hands on athletes.

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00:53:29,440 --> 00:53:31,520
Speaker 1: I mean I've done it here and there, but never

1176
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Speaker 1: really focused on it. So like, I'm super excited about

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Speaker 1: being able to like give kids, when I say kids,

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Speaker 1: you know, twelve, thirteen, fourteen, fifty year old or even

1179
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Speaker 1: eight year old the actual tools not to just thrive

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Speaker 1: in sports, but actually to thrive in life. And so

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Speaker 1: I'm excited about that right now.

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Speaker 3: When someone goes to your personal Instagram page, they see

1183
00:53:51,960 --> 00:53:54,040
Speaker 3: a guy with a hell of a lot of followers

1184
00:53:54,120 --> 00:53:57,680
Speaker 3: talking to the camera a lot inspiring so many when

1185
00:53:57,719 --> 00:53:59,000
Speaker 3: you look in the mirror.

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Speaker 2: What is it that you see looking back at you.

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Speaker 1: Man, Just a guy that wants to help lives as

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Speaker 1: he helps himself, A guy that doesn't have it all

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Speaker 1: figured out, a guy that has so many questions about life.

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Speaker 1: A guide that's on the journey to find the greatest

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Speaker 1: version of himself. And that's what I live life doing

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Speaker 1: and hopefully leave a legacy that other people can benefit

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Speaker 1: from and learn from, you know, from the perfections, the imperfections,

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Speaker 1: the rise, the falls, all of that. So I just

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Speaker 1: see a God that's transparent and wants to make the

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Speaker 1: world respect his greatness.

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Speaker 3: If I was just to give you the floor for

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Speaker 3: like thirty to sixty seconds here to share something that

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Speaker 3: you haven't shared just yet with the hurdlers as I

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Speaker 3: love to call them, What is it that you think

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00:54:44,840 --> 00:54:48,680
Speaker 3: is important to leave them with as we close this

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Speaker 3: out here?

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Speaker 1: Yeah, so I would tell him that, you know, your

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00:54:53,040 --> 00:54:55,600
Speaker 1: perspective is everything. Your perspective can need to be one

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Speaker 1: or two things, your power, your prison, and perspective is

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Speaker 1: everything in life. You know, how you see life. The

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Speaker 1: perspective is the window of how you see the world.

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Speaker 1: And I like to think of perspective as two sets

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Speaker 1: of glasses, and every time an experience happens, you have

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Speaker 1: the choice to pick up whatever set you want to

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Speaker 1: pick up. You know, something bad happens, you have a choice.

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Speaker 1: Something great happens, you have a choice. But oftentimes when

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Speaker 1: something bad happens, we pick up the prison perspective lenses

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Speaker 1: and we start to see everything is working against us,

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Speaker 1: everything is being a unfair when we can easily pick

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Speaker 1: up those power perspective and say, you know what, this

1217
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Speaker 1: didn't go the way I wanted to go, but maybe

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Speaker 1: it's going the way that it's supposed to go.

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Speaker 4: For my life.

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Speaker 1: Now everything is happening for me, Everything is building me,

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Speaker 1: everything is power. So I want to tell you that

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Speaker 1: every single experience that you go through, there's two levels

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Speaker 1: of life. There's an experience that we all want experience,

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Speaker 1: but the deeper level. People know this that there's the

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Speaker 1: deeper level of experience, which means the meaning we give

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Speaker 1: to the experience. And if you want to live a

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Speaker 1: more meaningful life, develop more better meanings in life, and

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00:55:47,400 --> 00:55:50,960
Speaker 1: you're always in control of that. So why not develop

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Speaker 1: a meaning that's going to help you instead of hurt you.

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Speaker 1: And honestly, that's been my secret sauce of how I've

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Speaker 1: been able to push through and grow through turbulent times,

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Speaker 1: through bad times, and just be consistent over this last decade.

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Speaker 3: Right now, you have an opportunity to offer the Trent

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Speaker 3: who is fresh out of the NFL a piece of advice.

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Speaker 3: Looking back at that hurdle moment right now, what do

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00:56:16,600 --> 00:56:17,279
Speaker 3: you tell him?

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00:56:17,719 --> 00:56:21,520
Speaker 1: I would tell myself to stop, to stop tripping, that

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00:56:21,600 --> 00:56:24,399
Speaker 1: everything's going to be all right, and just know that

1239
00:56:25,520 --> 00:56:27,920
Speaker 1: there's a greater plan than your playing for your life.

1240
00:56:28,239 --> 00:56:30,759
Speaker 1: And just know that, you know, as long as you

1241
00:56:31,520 --> 00:56:35,640
Speaker 1: stay committed, discipline, have consistency, faith and heart, your life

1242
00:56:35,680 --> 00:56:38,640
Speaker 1: will arrive at the destination it's supposed to arrive at.

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00:56:38,880 --> 00:56:41,239
Speaker 1: Everything has purpose, So stop trying to figure it out

1244
00:56:41,840 --> 00:56:44,920
Speaker 1: and just control what you can control and just accept

1245
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Speaker 1: you know what's coming for your life.

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Speaker 2: I appreciate you. Thank you so much for your time.

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Speaker 3: I'm sure a lot of your followers are already listening

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Speaker 3: to us right now, but for those that want to

1249
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Speaker 3: keep up with you, give me all of your details.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, so just at Trent Shelton on all social media sites.

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Speaker 1: You know, I'm on Clubhouse now, you know. I know

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Speaker 1: that's like the fresh thing so and then trench shall

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Speaker 1: dot com is my website and that's about it. Actually, yeah,

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Speaker 1: you can text me so. I'm very big on my

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Speaker 1: text community. Like I said, out inspiration every day. It's

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Speaker 1: just eight one seven, two four two twenty seven nineteen

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Speaker 1: if you just want inspiration daily.

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Speaker 3: I am over at Emily a Bodi and at Hurdle

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Speaker 3: Podcast Another Hurdle Conquered. Catch you guys next time