Speaker 1: Hey, friends. So on this midweek mom chat, I am
Speaker 1: going to talk about gratitude. Someone sent me a message
Speaker 1: on my Instagram and it really got me thinking about
Speaker 1: reframing the way I think about things because I am
Speaker 1: such a grateful person. I even have the word grateful
Speaker 1: tattooed on my left wrist to to remind myself to
Speaker 1: have gratitude every single day, because I think gratitude is
Speaker 1: the key to happiness. I think gratitude is just honestly
Speaker 1: the most important thing that you can have in your
Speaker 1: life because it blesses you. It allows you to see
Speaker 1: everything in your life as a blessing, and I really
Speaker 1: try to live that way. But I will say, ever
Speaker 1: since having Sunny, I have been filled with so much
Speaker 1: gratitude for her and for her life and for the
Speaker 1: blessing that she is. But I have let myself get
Speaker 1: completely overwhelmed by the exhaustion of it all because it
Speaker 1: is so tiring. And the one thing in life that
Speaker 1: really knocks me to my booty is lack of sleep.
Speaker 1: And I know everyone's probably that way, but I don't
Speaker 1: get like hungry. I mean, I don't know what the
Speaker 1: other things are that people get when they're just like
Speaker 1: worn out. But I just get so tired, and I've
Speaker 1: always been someone who gets so tired. Um, I'm pumping
Speaker 1: right now too, because if you hear that constant little hume,
Speaker 1: it's my pump. I'm sorry, it's almost finished, but I
Speaker 1: literally had no time to pump in. I have to
Speaker 1: get her. I have to get this pump her milk
Speaker 1: pumped while she's sleeping. And I did a recorded a
Speaker 1: podcast during her first nap. This nap, I'm uploading and
Speaker 1: editing the podcast, and I just didn't have ton to pop,
Speaker 1: and I was like, shoot, am I going to be
Speaker 1: able to record this podcast while pumping? Is that gonna
Speaker 1: be annoying for people to listen to it? Can they
Speaker 1: even hear it? I'm not sure? But then I thought,
Speaker 1: I am doing this podcast on gratitude, and so I
Speaker 1: want to start off by saying, I am so grateful
Speaker 1: that I get to pump milk for my child so
Speaker 1: she can live. She is living off of the milk
Speaker 1: that my body makes, and that is what is making
Speaker 1: her grow, that it was making her healthy, and that
Speaker 1: is what it's giving her strength, that is keeping her alive.
Speaker 1: So what a blessing that I am able to provide
Speaker 1: that for her. And yes, I it's a full time
Speaker 1: job to pump. I pump and breastfeed. I'll talk about
Speaker 1: how I do both, um because everyone a lot of
Speaker 1: people have asked me about do I breastfeed, do I pump?
Speaker 1: What's my schedule? How much does she eat? All that.
Speaker 1: I'm actually gonna do a whole mom chat mom chat
Speaker 1: on breastfeeding and pumping, but I'll briefly touch on it today.
Speaker 1: Um But I'm just like, it is a full time
Speaker 1: job to pump into breastfeed. Literally, she wakes up at
Speaker 1: seven and feeds six ounces. She eats six ounces every time. Um,
Speaker 1: So she eats at seven, tin, one, four, and seven,
Speaker 1: and so that's five times a day and then I
Speaker 1: pump again. So and I'm pumping all throughout the day
Speaker 1: and then at night and I breastfeed her each time. Also,
Speaker 1: I'll start with breastfeeding or in with breastfeeding, depending on
Speaker 1: just the session, Like depending on if I just pumped
Speaker 1: or not, we'll determine if I start her into the
Speaker 1: breastfeeding anyway, I'll talk about that another mom chap. But
Speaker 1: so I am constantly feeding my child or pumping milk
Speaker 1: to feed my child and it can't get exhausting, Like
Speaker 1: you have to pump in the car, you pump in
Speaker 1: the middle of the night, like at three am, my boobs,
Speaker 1: wait me up and a pump THEMP And then I'm
Speaker 1: pumping right now during this podcast because I don't have
Speaker 1: any other time to pump, and like sometimes and it
Speaker 1: can wear me down, and I'm like, oh god, I'm
Speaker 1: just so tired of pumping, Like my nipples are like
Speaker 1: when am I ever gonna stop pumping? But then I'm like,
Speaker 1: whoa whoa whoa whoa whoa whoa whoa whoa whoa whoa whoa.
Speaker 1: Oh your boat's caroline. Stop complaining. You get to feed
Speaker 1: your child with this perfect, nutritious milk that is all
Speaker 1: she needs. So I started singing a song, I'm just
Speaker 1: so grateful that I get to feed my child with
Speaker 1: my milk. Just so grateful I get to feed my
Speaker 1: child with my milk. It means a terrible song. I
Speaker 1: just made it up, But anyway, I've been singing that
Speaker 1: today and I am so grateful that I get to
Speaker 1: feed my child with my milk. And yes, it is
Speaker 1: a full time job to pump, but you know what,
Speaker 1: I love it. This is what I wanted. I wanted
Speaker 1: to have a child. I wanted to breastfeed. I didn't
Speaker 1: know how intense it was gonna be. But you know what,
Speaker 1: everything is intense, it's worthwhile. If it's not intense, it's
Speaker 1: not worth it. So yeah, I'm glad it's intense. What
Speaker 1: an awesome privilege I have to feed my child. So
Speaker 1: that is how I am refocusing. Like when my boobs
Speaker 1: wipe me up at three in the morning and I'm
Speaker 1: freaking tired, and I'm tired from the night before and
Speaker 1: the night before, the night before in the past twelve
Speaker 1: weeks before that, I'm like, you know what, it's okay,
Speaker 1: because this is a season of life and I do
Speaker 1: not want to miss this season of life of pure
Speaker 1: joy and gratitude and beauty of just this young child
Speaker 1: that needs me completely and I'm able to provide nutrients
Speaker 1: for her because I'm tired. Really, I can sleep when
Speaker 1: I'm freaking dead. I have been tired so many times
Speaker 1: in my life, and do I remember being tired? No,
Speaker 1: I remember the experience, Like when I did the Amazing
Speaker 1: Race raced around the world, I was tired the whole
Speaker 1: time because we never got to sleep. But do I
Speaker 1: remember being tired? Absolutely not. I remember the incredible opportunities
Speaker 1: I got to see, the countries I got to experience,
Speaker 1: the people I got to meet, all of the things
Speaker 1: I got to do. It was amazing. It was mind blowing.
Speaker 1: Do I remember being tired? Heck no, not even in
Speaker 1: the slightest When I was in the country music band
Speaker 1: Stealing Angels and we're traveling around the country and went
Speaker 1: to Iraq on a U s O tour, do I
Speaker 1: remember being tired. We'd have to wake up like four
Speaker 1: am to get on airplanes, and like you're you don't
Speaker 1: even you travel traveling in the bus and you don't
Speaker 1: leave until like three in the morning, and your sleep
Speaker 1: schedule is all over the place. You're sleeping in at
Speaker 1: random hotels. You're not getting any sleep. Do I remember
Speaker 1: being tired? Absolutely not. Do you know what, I remember
Speaker 1: the incredible experiences in time that I had in that band.
Speaker 1: So I'm in another season where I am very tired.
Speaker 1: But am I going to remember being tired? Sure, maybe
Speaker 1: it's like a one liner, Oh my god, that was
Speaker 1: so tiring, But oh how amazing was it? I don't
Speaker 1: want to focus on being tired. Because that's not a
Speaker 1: big deal. That's why we have coffee. So I'm not
Speaker 1: I'm really working on having gratitude, even though there's a
Speaker 1: lot that goes on with having a newborn. So anyway,
Speaker 1: I was telling you, I'm getting sidetracked. Of course when
Speaker 1: I do this podcasts, but myself, I get sidetracked. But
Speaker 1: someone wrote me on my Instagram and said, I really
Speaker 1: encourage you to reframe the way you think and use
Speaker 1: gratitude for everything. And that's the way I like to live.
Speaker 1: But as I was saying before, it can you can
Speaker 1: easily forget to have gratitude when you were exhausted. So
Speaker 1: the other day I got to go to yoga Michael's home.
Speaker 1: And that's another thing. I don't really work out near
Speaker 1: as much as I used to because I just don't
Speaker 1: have time, Like I have to do everything in between
Speaker 1: her naps, which she is awake for an hour and
Speaker 1: a half eating and I'm playing with her. Then she's
Speaker 1: asleep for an hour and a half and she does
Speaker 1: that five times. She has five awake times and five
Speaker 1: nap times during the day, and those her those nap
Speaker 1: times are precious times. Like that's what I'm doing laundry.
Speaker 1: That's what I'm doing a podcast interview. I have people
Speaker 1: come over to my house and I literally time it
Speaker 1: so they get here the second she goes down, and
Speaker 1: my podcast are an hour and they are leaving when
Speaker 1: she's waking up. So it's risky business because I'm just
Speaker 1: assuming that she's going to sleep her whole nap and
Speaker 1: not wake up. So far, I've done six times knock
Speaker 1: on wood and she's slept through the whole time and
Speaker 1: it's been perfect. But I'm literally scheduling everything during her
Speaker 1: naptimes and then I edit my videos during her nap times.
Speaker 1: I upload my podcast, I am doing brand deals during
Speaker 1: her nap times. I mean that is literally I am
Speaker 1: us utilizing every second of the day. So I have
Speaker 1: not gotten around exercising as much as I wanted to,
Speaker 1: just because I don't have time. And if I do
Speaker 1: have time, I'm so freaking tired. I want to take
Speaker 1: a bath, because it's like, oh, sometimes you forget to
Speaker 1: take a bath. I literally will go to sleep, I
Speaker 1: will wear stretch pants and a sweatshirt. I'll wake up
Speaker 1: in it, I will wear it all day. I'll sleep
Speaker 1: in it in the bed. Because our house is freezing.
Speaker 1: Because we have an old house. We have to keep
Speaker 1: it at sixty eight degrees because you can't have a
Speaker 1: hot baby room because the bedrooms get hotter at night.
Speaker 1: And so our house is like sixty eight degrees and
Speaker 1: it's winter outside, but she's all bundled up in her
Speaker 1: room stays like seventy and so I'm sleeping in sweat
Speaker 1: shirts and sweatpants and I go to sleep in them,
Speaker 1: wake up the next day and just start in that outfit,
Speaker 1: and I don't change. I don't brush my hair, don't
Speaker 1: brush my teeth sometimes because you're just up right at
Speaker 1: the crack of dawn with the baby. Anyway, it's just
Speaker 1: around the clock. All your moms and new moms know
Speaker 1: this especially, But really, can I sit there and then say,
Speaker 1: oh my gosh, this is all the stuff I have
Speaker 1: to do. I have to wake up early with her,
Speaker 1: and I have to feed her, and I have to
Speaker 1: then put her down, and then I have to pump,
Speaker 1: and then I have to clean all my pump parts
Speaker 1: and the bottle parts, and I have to change her diaper,
Speaker 1: and I have to do all these things that like
Speaker 1: just are NonStop with the baby. But what if I said,
Speaker 1: I get to do all these things. I get to
Speaker 1: wake up with my precious newborn and see her smiling face,
Speaker 1: which I love so much. I get to change her
Speaker 1: poopy and peepy diapers, which honestly is adorable. That means
Speaker 1: she's having a healthy bowel system and healthy body. It functions,
Speaker 1: it's all working. Like that's such a blessing. I get
Speaker 1: to feed her my breast milk that it is perfect
Speaker 1: nutrients for her, and then I get to pump and
Speaker 1: make her bottle so she can have a full belly.
Speaker 1: And yes, I I'm tired, but like I get to
Speaker 1: have this privilege of raising a human, Like what a blessing.
Speaker 1: And if I can just catch myself and be like Caroline,
Speaker 1: stopped thinking that you're tired, and stop thinking that you
Speaker 1: have all these things to do and that you're body
Speaker 1: is exhausted and that your NonStop moving. Stop thinking that
Speaker 1: that way. Instead, think oh, what a blessing. This is
Speaker 1: so amazing. And then I went to yoga and I
Speaker 1: so this girl had wrote me that on on my Instagram,
Speaker 1: and I was thinking about that, and then I went
Speaker 1: to yoga and I was like, I really want to
Speaker 1: continue thinking about gratitude and I was like, I haven't
Speaker 1: thought about my body in a long time. Maybe, I mean,
Speaker 1: I have periodically been very grateful for what my body
Speaker 1: has done for me, but I haven't stopped and given
Speaker 1: my body praise. And so I was sitting there on
Speaker 1: yoga and it was so hard because I have maybe
Speaker 1: gone to like three or four yoga classes in a year,
Speaker 1: and like two of them being since Sunny has been born.
Speaker 1: But so I still can do everything, but my body
Speaker 1: is just not up to par as it was when
Speaker 1: I was going to yoga three or four times a
Speaker 1: week when I didn't have a kid and I could
Speaker 1: get to classes. Um, so it was harder. And I
Speaker 1: was wearing a sports brawl and a and stretched pants
Speaker 1: and I felt good in my body, but it's not
Speaker 1: the same, Like my stomach does not look the same.
Speaker 1: And when I was younger, I got a belly button ring.
Speaker 1: And I actually have a belly button ring back in
Speaker 1: my stomach now, not because I'm having a midlife crisis,
Speaker 1: but because where I had a belly button ring, I
Speaker 1: have like this saggy skin flap. It's really gross, and
Speaker 1: I had got it. I just got a tiny little
Speaker 1: hoop to like lift the skin flap up because it
Speaker 1: is this just like saggy old skin flap. And I
Speaker 1: have a stretch mark on right above my belly button,
Speaker 1: on top of the belly button ring, and it's just
Speaker 1: like kind of gross, and like my stomach it goes,
Speaker 1: it goes. It's like a cavern. It's all around my
Speaker 1: belly button. And I, of course in yoga, I'm looking
Speaker 1: in a mirror in a sports world and all i
Speaker 1: can see is this, and I'm sitting there thinking like,
Speaker 1: oh God, that did not used to look like that.
Speaker 1: And it's one of those things that you know is
Speaker 1: never gonna go back to how it was before, just
Speaker 1: because it's not going to It's like it's the skin
Speaker 1: has not permanently been stretched to this way. And it's
Speaker 1: right in the middle of my stomach. So it's like
Speaker 1: if you ever want or our halts top. Luckily, I
Speaker 1: like toward jeans over my belly button and everything over
Speaker 1: my belly button that's like bikinis and stuff like you're
Speaker 1: gonna see it. And I'm just like, ah, like this
Speaker 1: is gonna be this way forever. And I'm thirty six
Speaker 1: years old and I'm like, gosh, that's a long time
Speaker 1: to now have a kind of jacked at belly button.
Speaker 1: But I thought to myself, why am I upset? Why
Speaker 1: am I focusing on that? So then I started started
Speaker 1: going to going through my whole body and having gratitude
Speaker 1: for every single part of my body, starting with my feet,
Speaker 1: because my feet are always are oftentimes sore and just tired,
Speaker 1: and I don't give them any love. I'm sorry, this
Speaker 1: is gross. Haven't got a pedicure and forever like my
Speaker 1: heels are cracking to the point where they hurt like I.
Speaker 1: They are hurting because I have not loved on my
Speaker 1: feet and so long. So I got my I have
Speaker 1: this awesome lady lady who comes over to my house.
Speaker 1: I just recently found her and she'll do my nails
Speaker 1: during another one of those Sunny's naps. And she gave me.
Speaker 1: Her name is Nashville Nail Coo. Her name is Lisa.
Speaker 1: You'll find her on Instagram at Nashville Nashville Nail co
Speaker 1: if you need your fingers or nails done at your house.
Speaker 1: It's amazing and she's fast. So she gave me a
Speaker 1: scrub scrubber thing to scrubb on my heels. So I've
Speaker 1: been taking a bath when I can, and just scrubbing
Speaker 1: my heels and trying to give them look because they
Speaker 1: never get a titchen in their hurt. And so I
Speaker 1: started in yoga. I went through my feet and I
Speaker 1: was like feet, and I started rubbing on my feet
Speaker 1: and like just thanking my feet for carrying me around.
Speaker 1: So grateful, I was like, thank you for all that
Speaker 1: you do. You carry my entire body I am. I'm
Speaker 1: such a busy body these days, and I have so
Speaker 1: many places to move and walk and go to, and goodness, gracious,
Speaker 1: what a blessing that you carry me around. You never complain,
Speaker 1: you always hate me where I need to go. You
Speaker 1: move on a notice minute a dumb but I'm not
Speaker 1: trying to say, and a seconds notice, you get moving
Speaker 1: for me, and you make life happen for me. You
Speaker 1: get me places. And I never stopped to say thank
Speaker 1: you for all that you do for me, So fete,
Speaker 1: thank you so much. And I just rubbed my feet
Speaker 1: and my toes and I just was so aware of
Speaker 1: what they do for me. And then stand with my
Speaker 1: legs and my thighs and it's like, thank you for
Speaker 1: carrying my body around, for giving me movement, for being
Speaker 1: there for me, for supporting me, for standing strong for me,
Speaker 1: for being active for me. Like you were there for me,
Speaker 1: and you're always there for me. And I don't ever
Speaker 1: have to ask you to be there for me. I
Speaker 1: completely assume and take advantage of the fact that you
Speaker 1: are going to be there for me, and I I am.
Speaker 1: I don't ever even stop to thank you, but I'm
Speaker 1: just like, thank you for all that you do. And
Speaker 1: then I got to my stomach and I was like, stomach,
Speaker 1: thank you for what you do. God. There's so many
Speaker 1: organs in here that are working on stop for me.
Speaker 1: Uh you might, Yes, I'm sitting here hating on my
Speaker 1: tiny little skin flap on my belly button. But like
Speaker 1: this uterus grew sunny, like you carried this child for me.
Speaker 1: I didn't even have to do anything. You just carried
Speaker 1: this child for me, and you grew her and you
Speaker 1: made her strong and you did it all on your own.
Speaker 1: And yes, maybe we're a little more stretched out than
Speaker 1: we were before. But oh my god, what a marvelous
Speaker 1: act of God you are. What an incredible, what an
Speaker 1: incredible blessing you gave me stomach and uterus and organs
Speaker 1: and you ran perfectly and everything it's just moving on
Speaker 1: its own and I'm not having to ask you to
Speaker 1: do anything, and you're not broken down, and I'm not sick,
Speaker 1: and you're functioning properly, and even take it to like
Speaker 1: my I'm sorry this, I'm just being honest because a
Speaker 1: lot of times we don't like talking abou stuff that
Speaker 1: we feel like is gross or whatever, but like this
Speaker 1: isn't gross, like even like my bowels and my vagina
Speaker 1: and all that, like all the things that it does
Speaker 1: for me, Like I am just so indebted and grateful
Speaker 1: that you are there for me and you are functioning
Speaker 1: and you you all these parts of my body are
Speaker 1: working for me non stop and I am so thankful.
Speaker 1: And my breast like you're providing milk for my child
Speaker 1: and you are. I mean, it's unbelievable what these boobs
Speaker 1: can do because honestly, they feel the milk come in,
Speaker 1: like when Sunny is hungry. It's like when it's time
Speaker 1: for her to eat, the milk drops down. It just
Speaker 1: knows when to come. It is unbelievable what my body does,
Speaker 1: providing life for myself and for an entire human. This
Speaker 1: is what this body is doing for me. My arms
Speaker 1: the way they are they grab things, whole things, can
Speaker 1: hold my baby, can drive a car, can make food.
Speaker 1: Let's get real, though Michael cooks all the food, but
Speaker 1: can eat food, can hold you, can type on a computer,
Speaker 1: can record a podcast. Can you can do anything? Like
Speaker 1: my hands on my arms, like wow, how amazing that
Speaker 1: they are just my grabbers, Like they allow me to
Speaker 1: like connect with the world and hold things like amazing.
Speaker 1: My head my hair, like this hair, it just grows
Speaker 1: and it's wavy and I don't have to do anything
Speaker 1: with it, like thank you for that, Like I don't
Speaker 1: have to wake up and do my hair. Thank you
Speaker 1: for just growing on my head and being the way
Speaker 1: you are, Like you just show up for me. My face,
Speaker 1: my mouth, You allow me to speak and talk and
Speaker 1: my teeth like you allow me to eat. My eyes,
Speaker 1: you allow me to see my nose. You love me
Speaker 1: to smell my brain. You're just working. You give me creativity,
Speaker 1: You give me thoughts. Thank you, thank you, Thank you
Speaker 1: body for all that you do. And instead of me
Speaker 1: sitting around criticizing you, because I can pick apart what's wrong,
Speaker 1: why I'm hired, what doesn't look good? What hurts. No,
Speaker 1: let me thank you for what you're doing for me,
Speaker 1: and for what you're doing for Sonny and what you've
Speaker 1: done for you've created Sonny. Thank you, thank you, thank you.
Speaker 1: So I when I stop, and I have gratitude for
Speaker 1: my body for all the things my body does for
Speaker 1: me when I stopped, and I have gratitude for Yes,
Speaker 1: I have incredibly busy days. But aren't these the days
Speaker 1: that I prayed for? Makes me emotional? Yes, these are
Speaker 1: the days I prayed for. I prayed for these days.
Speaker 1: I prayed to have this child. I prayed to be
Speaker 1: able to feed her with my body and to be
Speaker 1: able to breastfeed, and to be able to nurse her
Speaker 1: and to be able to pump. And I prayed to
Speaker 1: be able to have a podcast that was doing well
Speaker 1: that I took up time that people wanted to be
Speaker 1: on that. Yes, I have to do a lot of
Speaker 1: work around it, but I prayed for this podcast to
Speaker 1: be able to impact people and to have a message
Speaker 1: and to touch women especially. Aren't these the days that
Speaker 1: I prayed for? This body? I pray to be able
Speaker 1: to move and I mean, I don't even know if
Speaker 1: I prayed. I think I took it for granted that
Speaker 1: my body can move and be active and do all
Speaker 1: these things for me. So it's like, aren't these days
Speaker 1: I prayed for? With everything going on in my life
Speaker 1: and with Michael and he's so busy and he is
Speaker 1: traveling and they have a new single coming out and
Speaker 1: a new record deal and he's busy, and it's like,
Speaker 1: but isn't that what he prayed for? Isn't that what
Speaker 1: we prayed for? So why am I not sitting here
Speaker 1: in total gratitude for being busy with the things I
Speaker 1: prayed for? And some of us aren't even feeling like
Speaker 1: we have the things we prayed for in our lives.
Speaker 1: Like we're feeling like, I know some of you listening
Speaker 1: to like you work a job that you hate. Some
Speaker 1: of you have written me and said, gosh, your mom
Speaker 1: Guilt podcast hit me so much because I have to
Speaker 1: drop my kid off at date here and it is
Speaker 1: like breaking my heart and I feel so guilty. Some
Speaker 1: of you are single moms and you are doing this
Speaker 1: on your own. Some of you don't have children yet
Speaker 1: you've been praying to of a child and it's not happening.
Speaker 1: Some of you are in a relationship that's not great.
Speaker 1: That's not good at all. Some of you feel abandoned
Speaker 1: by your families or your parents, or you've had to
Speaker 1: be on your own. So it's like, gosh, it feels
Speaker 1: like there is so many mountains that you have to climb.
Speaker 1: But I know there's something in your life that you're
Speaker 1: grateful for. I know it because all of us have
Speaker 1: something in our life to be grateful for. Whether it's
Speaker 1: just that we woke up and we can breathe, because
Speaker 1: goodness gracious to be alive. Is that not a blessing?
Speaker 1: After having Sunny, I realize the miracle of making it
Speaker 1: to earth, the miracle of making it to this life.
Speaker 1: It is one in a trillion that we're here. It
Speaker 1: is a miracle that we're here. So the fact that
Speaker 1: we are here, no matter what our circumstances are, no
Speaker 1: matter how shitty your life seems to be, like your circumstances,
Speaker 1: you are meant to be here. You are not an
Speaker 1: accident it. You have a purpose, and your purpose will
Speaker 1: come through whatever you're dealing with right now. If you're
Speaker 1: dealing with some struggle, if you're dealing with something that
Speaker 1: is knocking you down, that is breaking your spirit, that
Speaker 1: is making you feel like you cannot go on. Find
Speaker 1: something you're grateful for. Whether it's just that you're breathing air,
Speaker 1: whether it is that you had a meal today, whether
Speaker 1: it is that you have one friend that you can
Speaker 1: call who will listen to you, whatever it is, whether
Speaker 1: you have a job that is paying the bills, even
Speaker 1: if it's not a job that you love, if you
Speaker 1: have a job that is paying the bills, whatever you
Speaker 1: can find to be grateful for. Start there. And I'm
Speaker 1: telling this to myself too, because it is so easy
Speaker 1: to forget to have gratitude when we're caught up in
Speaker 1: our day and our whirlwind of things we have to
Speaker 1: get done, and all the things that are heavy on
Speaker 1: our heart. It is so hard to remember to have gratitude.
Speaker 1: But I am telling you, if we can stop and
Speaker 1: find something to be grateful for and then find a
Speaker 1: way to help someone else, If you can find a
Speaker 1: way to help someone else, it is like someone said this,
Speaker 1: I forgot he said it. Helping someone else is really
Speaker 1: the most selfish thing you can do, because when you
Speaker 1: help others, it makes you feel so good. It makes
Speaker 1: you feel so amazing to help someone else. So if
Speaker 1: you can find something to be grateful for about your
Speaker 1: own life and then help someone else. I'm telling you
Speaker 1: that is how you start the change. That is how
Speaker 1: you start the new momentum. That is how you start
Speaker 1: the new you. That is how you start a new beginning.
Speaker 1: And you have to consciously decide to focus on it
Speaker 1: every day. And that is what I'm telling myself because
Speaker 1: I try to focus on gratitude every day. But like
Speaker 1: I said before, I have let myself get exhausted being
Speaker 1: a new mom, doing a full time podcast, getting all
Speaker 1: my interviews done, I'm still hosting for a TV show,
Speaker 1: Nashville Insider, getting all that done, trying to be a
Speaker 1: great wife, trying to do all the laundry, trying to
Speaker 1: take care of the baby. Like I can tell you
Speaker 1: one million reasons why I'm exhausted and why I'm tired
Speaker 1: and why I'm grumpy. But do you know what screw that?
Speaker 1: I that I'm not going to be that way because
Speaker 1: i have so many blessings in my life and I'm
Speaker 1: not going to sit around and talk about complain about
Speaker 1: all the things that are making me tired because these
Speaker 1: are things I prayed for, These are things that are
Speaker 1: blessing me. Yes, some of them are hard. But really,
Speaker 1: when I'm doing laundry, is it really that hard? I'm
Speaker 1: getting to wash sheets, wash clothes that I get to
Speaker 1: wear every day, that provide warmth and comfort and style
Speaker 1: and protection for me. Like, what a blessing? Yes, I
Speaker 1: have to wash them, but you gotta take care of them,
Speaker 1: Mike I said before, anything worthwhile takes time, takes energy,
Speaker 1: isn't easy to do. It's so who cares that I
Speaker 1: have to do? Some things feel tedious? What a blessing
Speaker 1: that I get to do them? What a blessing? I
Speaker 1: get to have a dishwasher too, wash these plates that
Speaker 1: we get to eat on. How amazing is that? Because
Speaker 1: you know what, some people don't have a dishwasher, Some
Speaker 1: people don't have plates, some people don't have food to eat.
Speaker 1: So what am I doing complaining? Because I have to
Speaker 1: do dishes and do laundry for my things that keep
Speaker 1: me warm and keep me fed. How blessed am I?
Speaker 1: I get to pump my breast every day for my
Speaker 1: child to provide her food, so I can see her smiling,
Speaker 1: happy face, I can see her gaining weight, I can
Speaker 1: see her thriving. How blessed am I? How blessed am I?
Speaker 1: How grateful am I have a husband who, yes, he travels,
Speaker 1: and sometimes I'm by myself, doing life by myself, raising
Speaker 1: stunning a couple of days a week or sometimes when
Speaker 1: he's gone by myself. But he loves her and he
Speaker 1: shows up for her, and he shows up for me,
Speaker 1: and he's chasing his dream. How blessed am I? So
Speaker 1: instead of sitting around complaining about me being tired and
Speaker 1: having all these things to do, I want to complain.
Speaker 1: I want to say how blessed I am and stop complaining,
Speaker 1: reframe and what else am I to do? Sit around
Speaker 1: and watch TV? Like? I want to have these things
Speaker 1: to do because that means I'm alive. That means I'm living.
Speaker 1: That means life is happening. That means I'm moving forward.
Speaker 1: That means I'm in it. That means I'm in the
Speaker 1: big middle of life. So thank you God for letting
Speaker 1: me be in the middle of life. And we're all
Speaker 1: in the big middle of life. Even if you feel
Speaker 1: like you're drowning, you're in it. You were in this life,
Speaker 1: you're doing it, you're surviving. You are here. So since
Speaker 1: you are here, we might as well figure out how
Speaker 1: to enjoy it. No matter what is happening to us,
Speaker 1: there has to be something that you can be grateful for.
Speaker 1: There has to be something that you can be grateful for.
Speaker 1: So find it, And even if it's the tiniest thing
Speaker 1: and you you're having the hardest time figuring out what
Speaker 1: it is, find something. Like I said, even if it's
Speaker 1: just that you woke up in your breathing air, you
Speaker 1: are here. You were meant to be here. We are
Speaker 1: all meant to be here. There's a reason we are here.
Speaker 1: There's a bigger purpose for why we are here, and
Speaker 1: we have to just find it and embrace it and
Speaker 1: reframe ourselves into thinking of all the positive things that
Speaker 1: are happening in our lives instead of all the negative
Speaker 1: things that are happening your life. So I love you guys,
Speaker 1: thank you so much for being on this journey with me.
Speaker 1: And I feel so blessed that you listen and that
Speaker 1: you care, and that we can all be in this
Speaker 1: community together. And let's reframe our thoughts into gratitude instead
Speaker 1: of thinking that works au sed and tired and overwhelmed
Speaker 1: and that life is hard because it is hard, but
Speaker 1: you know what, it's also awesome. And on that note,
Speaker 1: Sonny just woke up, and I am grateful that I
Speaker 1: get to go grab her out of her crip and
Speaker 1: feed her right now. So I love you, guys, and
Speaker 1: I'm grateful for you.