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Speaker 3: My in laws want me to give up my pregnancy,

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Speaker 3: so I'm planning to cut them out of my child's life.

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Speaker 1: So you gave up the in law sad? Yeah? Can we?

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Speaker 1: I don't want to end on sad.

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Speaker 3: Title states I'm pregnantce. My own family found out maybe

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Speaker 3: two weeks ago, and they're so supportive. My fiance is

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Speaker 3: going into the military. Basically, my family in law is

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Speaker 3: really toxic to me. I try to be kind and

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Speaker 3: respectful every time I'm over, but I deal with an

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Speaker 3: anxiety disorder and have problems opening up to others.

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Speaker 4: This is the same story the past, like end story,

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Speaker 4: people can't open up. No, no, just like terrible in

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Speaker 4: laws and anxiety disorders.

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Speaker 3: There's a lot of anxiety and terrible in law I guess.

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Speaker 5: So you're not alone out there.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, they don't really talked to me much when I'm

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Speaker 3: over anyways. They just exchanged pleasantries like hi, how are you,

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Speaker 3: and I respond and ask them the same hello, how

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Speaker 3: are you, and they leave it at that. It's understandably awkward.

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Speaker 3: By the way, this comes from plenty jacket twenty one

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Speaker 3: eighty six on the Okay Storytime suffered it so one

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Speaker 3: day it actually escalated. It was maybe six days before

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Speaker 3: I found out I was pregnant, and we were having

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Speaker 3: an outing with their entire extended family. Everyone was having

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Speaker 3: fun and I was starting to open up. My fiance

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Speaker 3: tells his cousin that we got our marriage certificate, and

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Speaker 3: that's where everything goes to crap. She yelled to his mom,

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Speaker 3: you know they're married, which wasn't really true. We had

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Speaker 3: just bought the marriage the certificate and it wouldn't force

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Speaker 3: us to get married. We could back out at any time.

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Speaker 3: Keep in mind, his mom knew we were getting married.

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Speaker 3: My fiance had told her everything, and she told me

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Speaker 3: not to tell my parents because of my past with them.

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Speaker 3: Now in front of her extended family, she acted as

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Speaker 3: if she had no idea. She told my fiance, you

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Speaker 3: know you can't live here when you're married, right, My

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Speaker 3: fiance said, he knew we were looking to move into

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Speaker 3: a mobile home and she knew that. She then insulted

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Speaker 3: him in front of everyone, asking, you're gonna make her

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Speaker 3: pay for everything, knowing that I had just got around

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Speaker 3: military would help with basic housing and it won't be forever.

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Speaker 3: But just being completely rude in front of everyone, and

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Speaker 3: I'm just sitting there while they're arguing, just so confused

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Speaker 3: because she was actively encouraging us to get married about

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Speaker 3: a week ago in confidence. That is very weird to

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Speaker 3: switch up, yeah, in front of everyone else. Then she's like,

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Speaker 3: I paid for your insurance, et cetera, and tries to

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Speaker 3: pull it up in front of everyone on her bank app.

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Speaker 3: Keep in mind we're in public.

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Speaker 1: It's so inappropriate, and she didn't even pay.

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Speaker 3: He did his job and would ship in every month

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Speaker 3: with one hundred to two hundred dollars. She couldn't even

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Speaker 3: find it on our baking app. That's embarrassing.

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Speaker 1: So it's not here, but I did, I swear, I

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Speaker 3: So he's getting offended and pissed because this is no

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Speaker 3: one's business understandably so, and he says, we're doing this

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Speaker 3: for love. You moved out for love once when you

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Speaker 3: were fourteen with three guys, which I can't stand behind him,

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Speaker 3: saying that two wrongs never ever make it right in

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Speaker 3: my book. WHOA, Yeah, we don't know what happened there.

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Speaker 3: My jaw genuinely dropped, and that entire time I stayed silent.

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Speaker 3: I wasn't smiling, laughing nothing. His mother looks at me

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Speaker 3: because she knows she can't get him anymore, and says,

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Speaker 3: do your parents know about this? Maybe I should give

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Speaker 3: them a call, angrily at me, knowing that she told

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Speaker 3: I have had problems with them in the past, possibly

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Speaker 3: getting kicked out, and I was genuinely scared. She then says,

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Speaker 3: Well, it's this lady. I looked at her with the

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Speaker 3: We didn't have a plan yet. We go back to

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Speaker 3: She says, which I still find so insane. I never

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Speaker 3: said I would call her parents, and I never called

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Speaker 3: offense she kind of did, saying that it's crappy of

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Speaker 3: not to. Is gaslighting. My fiance says that I'm upstairs

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Speaker 3: he tells his mom that I'm valid if I don't

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Speaker 3: want a relationship with her. After this, entire thing because

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Speaker 3: I genuinely didn't do anything. It was their argument I

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Speaker 3: wasn't involved. So the husband's like, if, oh, to OPI,

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Speaker 3: if you don't want to have a relationship with my.

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Speaker 4: Mom, that's okay, no, no, no, else he's telling the mom.

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Speaker 1: He's kind of adding fuel to.

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Speaker 4: If if my partner doesn't want to have.

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Speaker 1: A relationship with you, I see, then she's valid.

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Speaker 3: I get it.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, which is just kind of upset his mom even

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Speaker 3: I do an entire walk of shame out of there.

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Speaker 3: That's just one instance of why I don't want my

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Speaker 3: child involved with them. Next instance, his sister found out

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Speaker 3: I was pregnant through Instagram. A close friend who I

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Speaker 3: him instead of me asking for my medical details. How

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Speaker 3: many weeks I was? What the doctor said, when me

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Speaker 3: and her are not close and out of falling.

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Speaker 1: Out a year ago, you had a falling out, you

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Speaker 1: know with a sister with a sister like a friend.

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Speaker 3: So okay, So his Opie's husband's sister or Opie's partner's

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Speaker 3: When we got to their house, she didn't ask me

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Speaker 4: Whoa, whoa, this was the sister, sister, this was the sister.

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Speaker 1: Are we sure?

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Speaker 3: Yeah? When we got to there, I mean, it doesn't

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Speaker 3: this is the sister. I was so appalled. I want

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Speaker 3: we kind of did, I think, make up, But it

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Speaker 3: I'm just non confrontational.

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Speaker 1: Wait, wait, you apologize for nothing?

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Speaker 4: You didn't apologize, or you you apologize, but there was

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Speaker 4: nothing to apologize.

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Speaker 3: Yes, I think that's what she's saying. He's like, I

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Speaker 3: before you ask, I'm actively looking for work to support

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Speaker 3: this baby. It would be more ideal to wait until

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Speaker 3: he goes into the military, but things happen, he could

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Speaker 3: get in sooner and he's sworn in already as well.

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Speaker 3: And to give more insight on my parents before you ask,

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Speaker 3: as well, they're supportive at the moment, which surprised me.

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Speaker 3: They likely are more supportive because they are retired military

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Speaker 3: and my mother got married at my age as well,

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Speaker 3: so they're excited, honestly, and I'm excited for you guys

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Speaker 3: to listen to full episodes with stories like this. Just

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Speaker 3: go to Spotify, Apple Podcast, or your favorite podcast app

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Speaker 3: and search. Okay, storytime, but there is a little bit

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Speaker 3: left to this story, But do you have any final

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Speaker 4: I was just thinking, like, did you enjoy your your

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Speaker 4: your food Keon's Honestly, that's where my mind was because

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Speaker 4: we're so close, We're so close. Okay, Okay, Oh my thoughts. Okay,

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Speaker 4: here's a guys, you tell me your thoughts.

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Speaker 3: I think that it is completely inappropriate for the sister

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Speaker 3: to say that to tell you what to do with

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Speaker 1: That's a horrible thing, horrible.

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Speaker 3: Thing to say, horrid And I think on a thing

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Speaker 3: of like apologizing to the mother in law, Honestly, it's

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Speaker 4: It seems like OPI has huge people pleasing tendencies and

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Speaker 4: also anxiety, yeah, which big anxiety and panic attacks that

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Speaker 4: it's I'd be shocked if if you had a relationship

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Speaker 4: with her, if she didn't continue to test your lack

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Speaker 4: of boundaries repeatedly and repeatedly and repeatedly exactly, So, I

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Speaker 4: am not looking forward to more of this relationship.

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Speaker 3: There was a little bit more to the story.

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Speaker 5: It was all right, Alex, Okay, Yeah, that's what do

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Speaker 5: you expect?

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Speaker 1: Yeah?

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Speaker 3: Would I be wrong to just cut that out of

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Speaker 3: my in my child's life. Before it starts. I'm a

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Speaker 3: very forgiving person, but I don't want to forgive, and

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Speaker 3: they hurt this beautiful baby. I'm caring. I just keep

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Speaker 3: seeing red flags from them, and I really truly want

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Speaker 3: the baby to be happy. Thank you all for reading. Lastly,

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Speaker 3: please do not tell me to get rid of my baby.

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Speaker 3: I want the baby. I don't want to see things

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Speaker 3: in the back of my mind that something will go

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Speaker 3: wrong slash focusing on my fiance being military. Telling me

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Speaker 3: is very rude. No one should be saying that, and

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Speaker 3: I don't think you would be the a hole for

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Speaker 3: not wanting to have a relationship with these people who

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Speaker 3: are actively gaslighting you and telling you horrible things. Yeah,

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Speaker 3: you don't need to have a relationship with them.

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Speaker 4: I think there's a lot of room to shift relationships,

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Speaker 4: but I'm not sure how this relationship can be shifted.

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Speaker 3: And you don't have to forgive someone who doesn't apologize.

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Speaker 3: I don't have hope, but that is the end of

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Speaker 3: We discussion about this. Mother in law is the worst

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Speaker 1: Whoa whoa he engaged for a year.

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Speaker 3: That's greatly I would be upset that as a partner

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Speaker 3: I'm talking to him.

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Speaker 3: The events of this story are partly why okay. So

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Speaker 3: it to appease her. To be clear, father in law

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Speaker 3: It was just the first time that we had received

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Speaker 1: So by that money money.

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Speaker 3: Husband and I immediately bought rented some things, and after

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Speaker 1: We did. The father in law explicitly said.

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Speaker 3: He gave it to them. He gave it, He gave

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Speaker 3: At some point husband had told father in law how

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Speaker 4: You should have sold those, Sorry, lady, you deem them stupid.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, Like, don't let them do it. The entire thing

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Speaker 3: Now for a little explanation about what happened next, I

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Speaker 3: This is something that I am working through in therapy,

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Speaker 4: Crying, oh oh sorry. Opie's husband was crying no, no,

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Speaker 1: So people don't care.

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Speaker 4: People are so in their own world and they justify

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I couldn't move, react or defend myself at all.

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Speaker 3: They purchased some of the items, using up most of

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Speaker 3: she was whispering furiously to father in law and all

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Speaker 3: I heard was she's still all that money, and she's

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Speaker 4: Wait, so Opie said, I used them the majority of

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Speaker 1: But that wasn't true.

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Speaker 4: It wasn't true, but they still tried to buy things

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Speaker 3: the money on op and her husband. And so basically

437
00:19:44,520 --> 00:19:46,159
Speaker 3: she was saying that like she thought, oh, maybe it

438
00:19:46,160 --> 00:19:47,719
Speaker 3: would be okay if I just said it was like

439
00:19:47,720 --> 00:19:48,399
Speaker 3: for a present.

440
00:19:48,560 --> 00:19:49,879
Speaker 1: Yeah, but it wasn't.

441
00:19:50,119 --> 00:19:52,600
Speaker 3: She was not stupid. She knew she couldn't do anything

442
00:19:52,600 --> 00:19:55,399
Speaker 3: to me. She was just trying to return father in

443
00:19:55,480 --> 00:19:57,959
Speaker 3: law against me and of course it worked on their

444
00:19:57,960 --> 00:19:59,960
Speaker 3: in law spent the next year trying to convince how

445
00:20:00,160 --> 00:20:02,240
Speaker 3: but to believe me, and I don't even think he

446
00:20:02,320 --> 00:20:07,560
Speaker 3: even remembers why honestly, Obviously we're still together and happily married.

447
00:20:07,640 --> 00:20:10,520
Speaker 3: We're totally no contact with mother in law and very

448
00:20:10,600 --> 00:20:12,840
Speaker 3: low contact with father in law to this day. Father

449
00:20:12,880 --> 00:20:15,520
Speaker 3: in law even skipped his oldest son's wedding because we

450
00:20:15,600 --> 00:20:17,879
Speaker 3: flatly told him mother in law was not invited. But

451
00:20:17,960 --> 00:20:20,639
Speaker 3: you're always invited to listen to full episodes with stories

452
00:20:20,680 --> 00:20:23,359
Speaker 3: like this. Just go to Spotify, Apple Podcasts, or your

453
00:20:23,400 --> 00:20:26,200
Speaker 3: favorite podcast appens. Okay, story time and there's a little

454
00:20:26,200 --> 00:20:29,080
Speaker 3: bit laught to this story, But do you have any

455
00:20:29,080 --> 00:20:29,800
Speaker 3: final thoughts?

456
00:20:30,040 --> 00:20:34,000
Speaker 7: Usually on my I'm pro communication, it seems with the

457
00:20:34,040 --> 00:20:37,239
Speaker 7: mother in law and the father in law who just

458
00:20:37,280 --> 00:20:40,879
Speaker 7: goes in, adapts who he is and throws away his

459
00:20:40,960 --> 00:20:44,200
Speaker 7: values to match women that he's with, and especially this woman,

460
00:20:44,480 --> 00:20:47,440
Speaker 7: m it seems like it's just like a dead end,

461
00:20:47,560 --> 00:20:51,760
Speaker 7: especially if they're if this woman is verbally abusing yeah, Op,

462
00:20:52,600 --> 00:20:57,200
Speaker 7: and and Op's partner in the store. Yeah, I don't

463
00:20:57,200 --> 00:21:00,119
Speaker 7: think there's much movement for having a healthy relationship with

464
00:21:00,160 --> 00:21:00,800
Speaker 7: these people.

465
00:21:00,960 --> 00:21:05,320
Speaker 3: No, but there's a little bit left. I have so

466
00:21:05,359 --> 00:21:07,720
Speaker 3: many stories like this. Father in law and mother in

467
00:21:07,800 --> 00:21:10,160
Speaker 3: law are still together because he's as simp as someone

468
00:21:10,200 --> 00:21:13,320
Speaker 3: in the comment said. And I know she still talks

469
00:21:13,320 --> 00:21:15,320
Speaker 3: scrap about me even though we have not met in

470
00:21:15,359 --> 00:21:17,840
Speaker 3: person in more than six years. I have overheard father

471
00:21:17,880 --> 00:21:19,800
Speaker 3: in law talking to husband on the phone and he

472
00:21:19,840 --> 00:21:22,359
Speaker 3: has made comments about me that are obviously him just

473
00:21:22,400 --> 00:21:26,200
Speaker 3: parroting her. Yes, she blames me for her husband's change behavior.

474
00:21:26,320 --> 00:21:29,440
Speaker 3: AKA is back and that is the end of that story.

475
00:21:30,640 --> 00:21:32,680
Speaker 3: But yeah, no, you don't need to have a relationship

476
00:21:32,680 --> 00:21:36,159
Speaker 3: with people who actively harass you. Yeah, that's just not okay.

477
00:21:36,280 --> 00:21:39,920
Speaker 4: Yeah, my brother in law's girlfriend made a toast about

478
00:21:39,920 --> 00:21:43,200
Speaker 4: herself and my wedding because she had too much to drink.

479
00:21:43,480 --> 00:21:44,600
Speaker 3: That's not your wedding, girl.

480
00:21:44,840 --> 00:21:47,040
Speaker 4: This took place at the end of twenty sixteen. Our

481
00:21:47,080 --> 00:21:51,240
Speaker 4: wedding absolutely beautiful. It wasn't a small wedding, about one

482
00:21:51,320 --> 00:21:53,720
Speaker 4: hundred gifts and we did our best to keep costs

483
00:21:53,720 --> 00:21:55,600
Speaker 4: as low as possible. And by the way, this comes

484
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Speaker 4: from you a historical feature forty six on the Roka Storytime.

485
00:21:58,920 --> 00:22:01,320
Speaker 1: Sobrid so I was able to get the dress of

486
00:22:01,320 --> 00:22:01,840
Speaker 1: my dreams.

487
00:22:01,880 --> 00:22:04,159
Speaker 4: The venue was gorgeous, we found an awesome DJ, the

488
00:22:04,160 --> 00:22:06,960
Speaker 4: bridal party looked amazing. My friend who did our hair

489
00:22:07,040 --> 00:22:09,480
Speaker 4: and makeup got it all perfect, and the months of

490
00:22:09,560 --> 00:22:12,840
Speaker 4: sleepless nights making paper flowers paid off. All of our

491
00:22:12,880 --> 00:22:16,040
Speaker 4: staff were fantastic and professional. But no wedding is complete

492
00:22:16,040 --> 00:22:17,320
Speaker 4: without little drama.

493
00:22:17,640 --> 00:22:19,840
Speaker 3: So true. This is why I always say, if it

494
00:22:19,880 --> 00:22:22,440
Speaker 3: ain't had a little drama, then it ain't a wind.

495
00:22:23,080 --> 00:22:24,320
Speaker 5: What did you just say, was.

496
00:22:24,280 --> 00:22:26,920
Speaker 3: It ain't have a little drama? It ain't a wind?

497
00:22:27,119 --> 00:22:29,719
Speaker 5: Okay.

498
00:22:30,600 --> 00:22:33,320
Speaker 4: We have few things go wrong that day, nothing catastrophic

499
00:22:33,359 --> 00:22:36,480
Speaker 4: and all funny in retrospect. Morning of my poor husband

500
00:22:36,520 --> 00:22:39,399
Speaker 4: discovered half of the groom's men forgot something, oh like

501
00:22:39,440 --> 00:22:42,000
Speaker 4: all different things. One was missing choose, one was missing

502
00:22:42,000 --> 00:22:44,199
Speaker 4: a shirt, that sort of thing. They also had a

503
00:22:44,240 --> 00:22:46,560
Speaker 4: mission to pick up a typewriter that was used for

504
00:22:46,640 --> 00:22:47,440
Speaker 4: the guest book.

505
00:22:47,520 --> 00:22:48,000
Speaker 3: Kind of cool.

506
00:22:48,359 --> 00:22:49,200
Speaker 1: I like that idea.

507
00:22:49,280 --> 00:22:49,880
Speaker 3: I like it.

508
00:22:50,000 --> 00:22:50,720
Speaker 1: They did to take a.

509
00:22:50,680 --> 00:22:53,560
Speaker 4: Detour to the mall and left my very anxious husband

510
00:22:53,600 --> 00:22:55,159
Speaker 4: in the car, but it went in to find the

511
00:22:55,240 --> 00:22:57,280
Speaker 4: last minute item. They took forever and then came back

512
00:22:57,320 --> 00:23:00,480
Speaker 4: with a cinnabon and didn't even bring them, any of them.

513
00:23:00,600 --> 00:23:00,919
Speaker 1: Lol.

514
00:23:01,040 --> 00:23:03,240
Speaker 4: Still, they made it back on time for photos and

515
00:23:03,320 --> 00:23:06,000
Speaker 4: all was well. My husband's cousins nearly got my sister

516
00:23:06,040 --> 00:23:08,040
Speaker 4: in law kicked out. They are from a state where

517
00:23:08,040 --> 00:23:10,479
Speaker 4: people over eighteen are allowed to drink in the presence

518
00:23:10,480 --> 00:23:11,760
Speaker 4: of their parents or guardians.

519
00:23:12,040 --> 00:23:14,040
Speaker 5: The state is that I'm gonna look that up.

520
00:23:14,200 --> 00:23:16,600
Speaker 4: This is absolutely not the case here. The older cousins

521
00:23:16,640 --> 00:23:18,600
Speaker 4: were buying drinks and giving them to one of the

522
00:23:18,640 --> 00:23:20,720
Speaker 4: younger ones. My sister in law happened to be close

523
00:23:20,800 --> 00:23:23,240
Speaker 4: by both times the bartender caught her with a drink.

524
00:23:23,359 --> 00:23:25,399
Speaker 4: He could have thrown them out on the spot, but

525
00:23:25,680 --> 00:23:27,919
Speaker 4: instead to my sister in law that if the younger

526
00:23:27,960 --> 00:23:29,800
Speaker 4: cousin had a drink in her hand one more time,

527
00:23:30,000 --> 00:23:32,080
Speaker 4: he was having them bounced. He was pretty upset with

528
00:23:32,119 --> 00:23:34,199
Speaker 4: the cousins, as this was not her doing. Save the

529
00:23:34,240 --> 00:23:38,000
Speaker 4: best for last. My brother in law's then girlfriend behavior

530
00:23:38,119 --> 00:23:42,360
Speaker 4: was entirely unhanded. This all started over the drink tickets.

531
00:23:42,400 --> 00:23:46,520
Speaker 4: For context, my mom had graciously paid for unlimited Margarita

532
00:23:47,560 --> 00:23:52,439
Speaker 4: I want to go, and every guest got one drink,

533
00:23:53,000 --> 00:23:53,480
Speaker 4: just one.

534
00:23:54,080 --> 00:23:56,240
Speaker 1: Yeah, everyone got that's a set amount of numbers.

535
00:23:56,680 --> 00:23:58,320
Speaker 3: Yeah, that's the opposite of them trying to.

536
00:23:58,240 --> 00:23:59,720
Speaker 1: Find the that's limit.

537
00:24:00,000 --> 00:24:02,080
Speaker 4: The wedding party got two, and my mom had a

538
00:24:02,080 --> 00:24:05,000
Speaker 4: few leftovers, so a few other random people also wound

539
00:24:05,080 --> 00:24:08,720
Speaker 4: up with two. The margeritas were fantastic, Okay, pretty much

540
00:24:08,720 --> 00:24:11,760
Speaker 4: everyone was happy with this arrangement. Even my booziak father

541
00:24:11,880 --> 00:24:14,840
Speaker 4: behaved himself. My maid of honor and best man were competing.

542
00:24:14,880 --> 00:24:17,600
Speaker 4: I think they had somewhere around twelve each. Whoa and

543
00:24:17,680 --> 00:24:18,520
Speaker 4: neither of them made a scene.

544
00:24:18,600 --> 00:24:21,960
Speaker 3: Twelve drinks, I'm confused. Was it unlimited or was it limited?

545
00:24:23,520 --> 00:24:26,879
Speaker 1: It doesn't matter, there is no limit. I think they

546
00:24:27,000 --> 00:24:27,919
Speaker 1: just bought a bunchet.

547
00:24:28,080 --> 00:24:28,439
Speaker 3: Okay.

548
00:24:28,600 --> 00:24:28,840
Speaker 1: Yeah.

549
00:24:28,880 --> 00:24:31,600
Speaker 4: The chick was telling anyone who would listen how tacky

550
00:24:31,640 --> 00:24:33,520
Speaker 4: it was that we didn't have an open bar, and

551
00:24:33,560 --> 00:24:36,040
Speaker 4: she got really upset that she didn't get two drink tickets.

552
00:24:36,040 --> 00:24:38,720
Speaker 4: She decided she was family. Okay, so this is the

553
00:24:38,720 --> 00:24:39,800
Speaker 4: brother in law's girlfriend.

554
00:24:39,880 --> 00:24:42,000
Speaker 3: Yeah, she decided she was family.

555
00:24:42,840 --> 00:24:45,840
Speaker 4: Okay, she decided she was family, So she was owed

556
00:24:45,960 --> 00:24:50,080
Speaker 4: another one. You should bring a flask tell him mind you.

557
00:24:50,240 --> 00:24:52,919
Speaker 4: Most people tolerated her at best. Many couldn't stand her.

558
00:24:53,000 --> 00:24:54,960
Speaker 4: She tried to talk to my husband about this first,

559
00:24:54,960 --> 00:24:57,080
Speaker 4: but he was clearly busy, He told her, I don't

560
00:24:57,080 --> 00:24:59,560
Speaker 4: have time for this. Talk to my mom. His mother

561
00:24:59,640 --> 00:25:02,360
Speaker 4: in law. Crazy then snagged my mother in law's best

562
00:25:02,359 --> 00:25:04,280
Speaker 4: friend after having found out she had happened to get

563
00:25:04,280 --> 00:25:07,320
Speaker 4: two drink tickets inviting to the bar. She instead dragged

564
00:25:07,320 --> 00:25:09,240
Speaker 4: a family friend to my mother and began to make

565
00:25:09,240 --> 00:25:11,720
Speaker 4: a scene about a family friend getting two tickets, embarrassing

566
00:25:11,720 --> 00:25:13,600
Speaker 4: the poor lovely woman who thought they were just getting

567
00:25:13,640 --> 00:25:14,119
Speaker 4: more drinks.

568
00:25:14,160 --> 00:25:15,240
Speaker 1: She found someone who got.

569
00:25:15,080 --> 00:25:18,600
Speaker 4: Two, yeah, and she was like, how.

570
00:25:18,520 --> 00:25:22,720
Speaker 1: Dares she have two texts? One I'm sorry, I didn't

571
00:25:22,760 --> 00:25:23,879
Speaker 1: know it was given to me.

572
00:25:24,440 --> 00:25:29,240
Speaker 4: So after Opie's brother in law's girlfriend embarrassed this other woman, yeah,

573
00:25:29,280 --> 00:25:32,679
Speaker 4: and cause the scene, Opie's mom was annoyed, but her

574
00:25:32,760 --> 00:25:36,399
Speaker 4: boyfriend gave Crazy his tickets to get rid of her.

575
00:25:36,560 --> 00:25:36,760
Speaker 6: Yeah.

576
00:25:37,080 --> 00:25:40,120
Speaker 1: This was not the end. She began stealing people's trink

577
00:25:40,760 --> 00:25:41,720
Speaker 1: getting more and more.

578
00:25:42,160 --> 00:25:46,080
Speaker 3: Girl, that's so funny. She's going around finding anyone who

579
00:25:46,119 --> 00:25:48,160
Speaker 3: has second drink tickets and she's like, Okay.

580
00:25:48,000 --> 00:25:51,800
Speaker 5: No, I think she's like she's a shade up tee, like,

581
00:25:51,800 --> 00:25:52,879
Speaker 5: oh that's your personal me.

582
00:25:53,040 --> 00:25:53,960
Speaker 1: Just no.

583
00:25:54,000 --> 00:25:56,080
Speaker 4: I think there's like there's like a drink on the

584
00:25:56,119 --> 00:26:00,760
Speaker 4: table and they're turned around and she's like, those are the.

585
00:26:00,720 --> 00:26:03,159
Speaker 5: Word I've never I know someone like that, and call

586
00:26:03,280 --> 00:26:05,280
Speaker 5: I knew something like that, and call it that's the same.

587
00:26:05,600 --> 00:26:06,240
Speaker 1: Yeah, that's wild.

588
00:26:06,320 --> 00:26:07,240
Speaker 3: You have a problem.

589
00:26:08,080 --> 00:26:10,720
Speaker 4: So this was not the end. She began stealing people's drinks.

590
00:26:10,720 --> 00:26:13,440
Speaker 4: The owner of the restaurant bought my husband along island.

591
00:26:13,640 --> 00:26:15,760
Speaker 4: He only got a few SIPs before we were whisked

592
00:26:15,760 --> 00:26:18,159
Speaker 4: off to take pictures, leaving it on the head table.

593
00:26:18,320 --> 00:26:20,960
Speaker 4: He was gone when we returned. Maybe we wanted to

594
00:26:21,000 --> 00:26:23,119
Speaker 4: have known it was her. She hadn't been so blatantly

595
00:26:23,160 --> 00:26:25,960
Speaker 4: going up to tables and claiming drinks as hers.

596
00:26:26,400 --> 00:26:28,199
Speaker 1: She's like, no, this is mine, It is mine. That

597
00:26:28,240 --> 00:26:29,520
Speaker 1: one's fine, that's mine.

598
00:26:29,560 --> 00:26:31,400
Speaker 3: Oh no, I think that's why she's like, no, it is.

599
00:26:31,400 --> 00:26:32,280
Speaker 1: Mine, just like holding on.

600
00:26:32,720 --> 00:26:35,560
Speaker 4: She's like the rawbine I heard she got told off

601
00:26:35,600 --> 00:26:40,000
Speaker 4: by my ninety pounds no nonsense Irish grandmother for trying

602
00:26:40,040 --> 00:26:43,200
Speaker 4: to take my nephew's apple juice.

603
00:26:44,240 --> 00:26:47,840
Speaker 1: Wasn't even alcoholic, like trying to literally, she needed to change.

604
00:26:48,200 --> 00:26:52,840
Speaker 1: She wanted to chase la tequila app This is not yours.

605
00:26:52,880 --> 00:26:55,240
Speaker 1: It is for a child. It has a lid, It

606
00:26:55,440 --> 00:26:57,600
Speaker 1: got a sippy cup. I wish I saw that one

607
00:26:57,640 --> 00:26:59,800
Speaker 1: in person. About this time the toast had started.

608
00:27:00,040 --> 00:27:02,000
Speaker 4: I made of honor, gave a beautiful speech that no

609
00:27:02,000 --> 00:27:04,119
Speaker 4: one wanted to follow. The best man was off the

610
00:27:04,119 --> 00:27:06,160
Speaker 4: hook as he was also the officiant. The mic got

611
00:27:06,160 --> 00:27:08,920
Speaker 4: passed down to my husband's older brother, not the one

612
00:27:09,000 --> 00:27:11,680
Speaker 4: dating Crazy. He says something short and sweeten that should

613
00:27:11,680 --> 00:27:14,680
Speaker 4: have been it, But then Razy exits the men's room.

614
00:27:14,760 --> 00:27:18,040
Speaker 1: Whoa Gurley? He painted it in vomit.

615
00:27:17,880 --> 00:27:23,600
Speaker 4: Gurley Gurle shruts across the patio, making a beeline for

616
00:27:23,680 --> 00:27:25,240
Speaker 4: the mis intervention.

617
00:27:25,440 --> 00:27:27,560
Speaker 5: No, no one sees that. No one's like in slow

618
00:27:27,600 --> 00:27:30,440
Speaker 5: motion like someone.

619
00:27:30,000 --> 00:27:33,359
Speaker 3: Gurley needs an intervention big time.

620
00:27:33,560 --> 00:27:36,919
Speaker 4: My biggest disappointment is that no one got this on film.

621
00:27:37,200 --> 00:27:38,760
Speaker 3: I know that's this is hilarious.

622
00:27:39,000 --> 00:27:42,440
Speaker 4: The only the only evidence we have is a well

623
00:27:42,480 --> 00:27:45,560
Speaker 4: timed photo of my brother in law's crap eating grin

624
00:27:45,760 --> 00:27:48,760
Speaker 4: as he hands over the mic, knowing this is going

625
00:27:48,800 --> 00:27:51,080
Speaker 4: to be wild. Okay, so the brother in law with

626
00:27:51,160 --> 00:27:55,200
Speaker 4: his own girlfriend, It is like, all right, yeah, say

627
00:27:55,359 --> 00:27:58,840
Speaker 4: talk your crab. The entire weddings stood there in stunned

628
00:27:58,920 --> 00:28:01,920
Speaker 4: silence as she pursued heeded to welcome me to the family.

629
00:28:02,040 --> 00:28:02,760
Speaker 1: And then goes on.

630
00:28:02,800 --> 00:28:04,720
Speaker 4: To talk about how much he hopes he will be

631
00:28:04,760 --> 00:28:07,520
Speaker 4: a part of this family as well.

632
00:28:07,680 --> 00:28:09,440
Speaker 3: She's like, welcome to him.

633
00:28:10,480 --> 00:28:14,800
Speaker 1: I'm not idiot, Well wonder.

634
00:28:17,040 --> 00:28:17,560
Speaker 5: She's drunk.

635
00:28:17,600 --> 00:28:23,000
Speaker 3: Will you marry me? Actually, less bit, I'm getting married

636
00:28:23,080 --> 00:28:23,439
Speaker 3: right now.

637
00:28:23,520 --> 00:28:27,080
Speaker 1: Give me a flowering and then he has to do.

638
00:28:27,200 --> 00:28:27,720
Speaker 1: It's the law.

639
00:28:27,920 --> 00:28:28,720
Speaker 3: It's the law.

640
00:28:29,280 --> 00:28:31,159
Speaker 4: So many people told me that they thought that she

641
00:28:31,280 --> 00:28:34,399
Speaker 4: was going to propose to my hung husband's younger brother

642
00:28:34,480 --> 00:28:35,600
Speaker 4: on the se I do.

643
00:28:35,520 --> 00:28:37,280
Speaker 3: Think I think the brother in law gave her is

644
00:28:37,320 --> 00:28:40,520
Speaker 3: not her his that's not his girlfriend. I think I

645
00:28:40,560 --> 00:28:41,160
Speaker 3: was a different brother.

646
00:28:41,440 --> 00:28:42,880
Speaker 1: Ok Yeah, okay, okay, okay.

647
00:28:43,280 --> 00:28:46,200
Speaker 4: He is hiding his face an embarrassment, cursing under Okay,

648
00:28:46,240 --> 00:28:49,080
Speaker 4: he definitely did not give her the mic. No, he's

649
00:28:49,160 --> 00:28:51,320
Speaker 4: hiding his face in embarrassment, cursing under his breath, and

650
00:28:51,400 --> 00:28:54,360
Speaker 4: gesturing wildly, attempting to get crazy to stop talking.

651
00:28:54,360 --> 00:28:58,560
Speaker 1: He's like multiple people told me they thought about tackling.

652
00:29:00,080 --> 00:29:02,320
Speaker 4: My mom said if she was on our side of

653
00:29:02,320 --> 00:29:04,080
Speaker 4: the family, she would have kicked her out.

654
00:29:04,120 --> 00:29:06,040
Speaker 1: The whole speech was probably about five minutes.

655
00:29:06,680 --> 00:29:10,200
Speaker 4: That's a long time long, but it felt way longer

656
00:29:10,240 --> 00:29:13,240
Speaker 4: for a drunk person to be making an unhinged speech

657
00:29:13,720 --> 00:29:14,720
Speaker 4: five minutes long.

658
00:29:14,800 --> 00:29:18,040
Speaker 3: That is really beautiful here today. I have drank an

659
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Speaker 3: apple juice.

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Speaker 1: But I still good, and you're going to marry me.

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Speaker 4: I'm not one who really cares about image, and I

662
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Speaker 4: know why I think she ruined My dad made.

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Speaker 5: Stride, had her popcorn? Yeah ready, yeah like that, I'll

664
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Speaker 5: drink to that.

665
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Speaker 3: She's like the tees unfolding right as we speak, like

666
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Speaker 3: everyone's gonna remember my wedding day.

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Speaker 1: Yeah.

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Speaker 4: Literally, I'm not one who really cares about image, and

669
00:29:44,560 --> 00:29:46,880
Speaker 4: I know way thinks she ruined my day. All in all,

670
00:29:46,920 --> 00:29:49,920
Speaker 4: it's a funny story to tell. She continued with little annoyances,

671
00:29:50,000 --> 00:29:53,640
Speaker 4: like asking the DJ to play get Swifty from breaking

672
00:29:53,720 --> 00:29:57,520
Speaker 4: More to you. Okay, that's really funny. After being told

673
00:29:57,600 --> 00:30:02,320
Speaker 4: not to multiple times by my husband. He's like, please,

674
00:30:02,960 --> 00:30:04,840
Speaker 4: I don't want to listen to Guy Swift. She's like,

675
00:30:05,040 --> 00:30:10,120
Speaker 4: one more time, one more time. Funny song, not appropriate

676
00:30:10,160 --> 00:30:12,920
Speaker 4: her wedding full of kids and grandparents. Thankfully, the DJ

677
00:30:13,000 --> 00:30:15,200
Speaker 4: cut it off pretty fast, so he played it.

678
00:30:15,320 --> 00:30:17,800
Speaker 3: Was sure, yeah, she's asking.

679
00:30:18,000 --> 00:30:19,800
Speaker 4: After a while, I lost track of her and just

680
00:30:19,920 --> 00:30:22,479
Speaker 4: enjoyed the rest of the night. Now for the cherry

681
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Speaker 4: on top.

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Speaker 3: How can I get better than this apology? Is she

683
00:30:26,400 --> 00:30:26,880
Speaker 3: still drunk?

684
00:30:27,200 --> 00:30:27,800
Speaker 1: So hopeful?

685
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Speaker 4: My mom had paid for two sueets at the hotel

686
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Speaker 4: next door. One was the bridal suite and one the

687
00:30:32,520 --> 00:30:35,440
Speaker 4: groom sweet the second night, Mom and her boyfriend got

688
00:30:35,480 --> 00:30:37,400
Speaker 4: one room and the other was from my husband and

689
00:30:37,440 --> 00:30:40,440
Speaker 4: I apparently crazy thought that she and her brother and

690
00:30:40,600 --> 00:30:42,400
Speaker 4: brother in law were going to stay in that room

691
00:30:42,440 --> 00:30:44,360
Speaker 4: and had to be corrected. So after all of this,

692
00:30:44,600 --> 00:30:47,560
Speaker 4: I'm standing there, exhausted. It shouldn't take my dress off

693
00:30:47,560 --> 00:30:49,960
Speaker 4: with my brother in law based in Lee colllects the

694
00:30:50,040 --> 00:30:51,960
Speaker 4: last of his stuff from the night before. She takes

695
00:30:51,960 --> 00:30:55,040
Speaker 4: this moment to apologize for her speech. I never want

696
00:30:55,080 --> 00:30:58,720
Speaker 4: you to apologize for listening it to us. Full episodes

697
00:30:58,720 --> 00:31:01,600
Speaker 4: with stories like this, just go to Spotify, Apple Podcasts,

698
00:31:01,680 --> 00:31:06,040
Speaker 4: or your favorite podcast app and search. Okay, storytime, there's

699
00:31:06,040 --> 00:31:09,160
Speaker 4: another relevant update. But let's discuss this is great. We

700
00:31:09,200 --> 00:31:12,240
Speaker 4: should just only have stories like this was great.

701
00:31:12,400 --> 00:31:14,560
Speaker 3: Honestly, she didn't ruin your day.

702
00:31:14,800 --> 00:31:16,239
Speaker 1: You made it made one.

703
00:31:16,480 --> 00:31:17,880
Speaker 3: Maybe ruined her life.

704
00:31:17,800 --> 00:31:20,400
Speaker 5: Yeah, but she's ruined. No one's dead, yeah, and no

705
00:31:20,440 --> 00:31:23,240
Speaker 5: one got hurt, no one hurts. Maybe just like maybe

706
00:31:23,640 --> 00:31:24,680
Speaker 5: the boyfriend.

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Speaker 1: Pride, just pride and embarrassment.

708
00:31:27,080 --> 00:31:28,720
Speaker 3: Yeah, but like that's his girlfriend.

709
00:31:28,880 --> 00:31:31,520
Speaker 1: Yeah, well the kid got his apple juice.

710
00:31:31,600 --> 00:31:32,800
Speaker 3: Yeah, the kid got his apple.

711
00:31:33,520 --> 00:31:38,000
Speaker 5: He's the real The gram was like on the rocks and.

712
00:31:37,720 --> 00:31:40,600
Speaker 4: This apology went something like this signing wrong on that.

713
00:31:40,960 --> 00:31:43,000
Speaker 4: But I really do hope to be part of this

714
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Speaker 4: family soon. It's so great. You and your husband have

715
00:31:46,840 --> 00:31:49,680
Speaker 4: been together since high school. You grew up together. That's

716
00:31:49,720 --> 00:31:50,160
Speaker 4: your thing.

717
00:31:50,360 --> 00:31:52,560
Speaker 1: I've never swallowed that's my thing.

718
00:31:52,800 --> 00:31:55,320
Speaker 5: What what?

719
00:31:55,320 --> 00:31:57,200
Speaker 3: What?

720
00:31:57,200 --> 00:32:06,920
Speaker 4: What apology except apology on pause? Apology loading? Yeah, I

721
00:32:06,920 --> 00:32:09,640
Speaker 4: have no words. I'm completely baffled and just want her

722
00:32:09,680 --> 00:32:12,160
Speaker 4: to leave. But I'm too nice slash awkward to do

723
00:32:12,200 --> 00:32:17,040
Speaker 4: more than politely nod and say, oh oh yeah that

724
00:32:17,160 --> 00:32:17,840
Speaker 4: was our response.

725
00:32:17,920 --> 00:32:20,760
Speaker 1: Well I have a good night to this day.

726
00:32:20,800 --> 00:32:23,080
Speaker 4: I am baffled by this behavior, but this story is

727
00:32:23,080 --> 00:32:23,880
Speaker 4: great for a laugh.

728
00:32:24,200 --> 00:32:24,760
Speaker 3: So true.

729
00:32:25,400 --> 00:32:28,200
Speaker 4: There's a small update. Yes, they broke up, but not

730
00:32:28,240 --> 00:32:31,520
Speaker 4: because of this. It was a while later. That's why

731
00:32:31,600 --> 00:32:34,000
Speaker 4: he knows how to pick them. At least she's not

732
00:32:34,040 --> 00:32:35,880
Speaker 4: as wild as his baby mama.

733
00:32:36,040 --> 00:32:38,480
Speaker 5: Oh no, there's probably another story for me.

734
00:32:38,640 --> 00:32:42,680
Speaker 1: Yeah that story dang man, right, so there's some relevant comments.

735
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Speaker 3: Wait, Did I miss that? Did she say I don't swallow?

736
00:32:46,320 --> 00:32:49,640
Speaker 1: She said, I don't swallow. That's my thing. She was

737
00:32:49,680 --> 00:32:51,200
Speaker 1: comparing her.

738
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Speaker 4: Bicy sleep tendencies to them marrying their high school sweetheart.

739
00:33:00,600 --> 00:33:02,920
Speaker 5: That's why. That's why.

740
00:33:01,400 --> 00:33:06,120
Speaker 3: I Oh, I know, but I think I register part

741
00:33:06,120 --> 00:33:08,000
Speaker 3: of it, and I was just confused.

742
00:33:08,040 --> 00:33:09,280
Speaker 1: You were actually was?

743
00:33:09,480 --> 00:33:10,719
Speaker 3: It was actually loading for me.

744
00:33:10,840 --> 00:33:13,080
Speaker 5: Yeah, apology is still loading.

745
00:33:13,200 --> 00:33:14,440
Speaker 1: So how do you feel about it now that.

746
00:33:14,960 --> 00:33:19,720
Speaker 3: It's the same. I'm shocked. It still doesn't make sense.

747
00:33:19,600 --> 00:33:20,320
Speaker 1: Now these comments.

748
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Speaker 4: Wow, she sounds fun love that she got told off

749
00:33:22,600 --> 00:33:26,200
Speaker 4: by your grandma so funny. I'm hoping they're not together anymore.

750
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Speaker 4: She rates with a chicken dance lady at a friend's wedding.

751
00:33:28,920 --> 00:33:31,280
Speaker 4: Opi replied, Haha, no, they're not. She was one of

752
00:33:31,280 --> 00:33:33,680
Speaker 4: those people who always gave me social anxiety, like I'm

753
00:33:33,720 --> 00:33:36,160
Speaker 4: supposed to smile and pretend that I'm remotely interested in

754
00:33:36,160 --> 00:33:45,000
Speaker 4: what you're saying. Comment to I've never swell instant dump haha.

755
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Speaker 5: On the internet, stays undefeated.

756
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Speaker 1: Yeah for real? Coment three. Are they still together? I

757
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Speaker 1: have to know?

758
00:33:49,680 --> 00:33:52,320
Speaker 4: Opie replied, haha, no, but this was not what broke

759
00:33:52,400 --> 00:33:54,440
Speaker 4: them up. She was an entitled nut, but he was

760
00:33:54,480 --> 00:33:59,360
Speaker 4: blindly and fatuous. Was she like really hot? Oh gotta

761
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Speaker 4: be god?

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Speaker 1: I really she doesn't swell, But she doesn't but she

763
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Speaker 1: doesn't swell.

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Speaker 2: Hey, it's Sam. We're going to get back to these stories.

765
00:34:06,720 --> 00:34:09,000
Speaker 2: But here's three minutes of ads from our sponsors.

766
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Speaker 3: My mother in law invited herself over for us sleepover

767
00:34:13,000 --> 00:34:15,799
Speaker 3: and is furious that we said, no, what are we

768
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Speaker 3: thirteen slumber parties? You don't have time for a slumber

769
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Speaker 3: body or adult.

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Speaker 1: I got taxes to do.

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Speaker 3: I twenty seven female, and my husband, thirty one male,

772
00:34:26,360 --> 00:34:29,960
Speaker 3: have been friends for nine years, dated for four years,

773
00:34:30,000 --> 00:34:33,200
Speaker 3: and married for two going on three years now. We

774
00:34:33,280 --> 00:34:36,200
Speaker 3: both did not have the best upbringing as children and

775
00:34:36,280 --> 00:34:39,560
Speaker 3: have always prided ourselves on building a healthy relationship and

776
00:34:39,640 --> 00:34:41,640
Speaker 3: home life for one another. By the way, this comes

777
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Speaker 3: from Scary Rip seventeen twenty three on the Okay Storytime

778
00:34:44,680 --> 00:34:47,200
Speaker 3: separate it. So when we started dating, my husband and

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Speaker 3: I started to spend a lot of our time with

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Speaker 3: my mother in law and her husband. Every weekend, and

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Speaker 3: yes I mean every weekend, with the exception of a

782
00:34:56,280 --> 00:35:00,799
Speaker 3: small handful we spent at her home, including every Christmas, Thanksgiving,

783
00:35:01,080 --> 00:35:05,920
Speaker 3: mother's and father's day and birthdays hers, her husband's, my husband's,

784
00:35:06,080 --> 00:35:09,440
Speaker 3: and mine. I have never been bothered by this, as

785
00:35:09,480 --> 00:35:11,520
Speaker 3: I was not very close with any of my family

786
00:35:11,640 --> 00:35:13,840
Speaker 3: at the start of our dating and quite enjoyed the

787
00:35:13,880 --> 00:35:15,960
Speaker 3: feeling of being a part of a family unit. This

788
00:35:16,080 --> 00:35:20,040
Speaker 3: evolved into spending each Friday through Sunday overnight at her house.

789
00:35:20,200 --> 00:35:23,200
Speaker 3: At the time, I thought we were forming meaningful memories.

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00:35:23,400 --> 00:35:26,399
Speaker 3: As time passed, I started to miss out on other things, though,

791
00:35:26,480 --> 00:35:28,560
Speaker 3: such as hanging out with my best friend and sister

792
00:35:28,719 --> 00:35:31,440
Speaker 3: the rare times that they were free, and eventually checking

793
00:35:31,440 --> 00:35:34,160
Speaker 3: in on my disabled mom before she moved out of state.

794
00:35:34,320 --> 00:35:36,640
Speaker 3: Fast forward to when we got married. We had a

795
00:35:36,680 --> 00:35:39,440
Speaker 3: simple courthouse wedding and held what was our reception in

796
00:35:39,480 --> 00:35:41,840
Speaker 3: my mother in law's large backyard as she and my

797
00:35:41,920 --> 00:35:45,280
Speaker 3: husband requested. The few friends I invited and my parents

798
00:35:45,320 --> 00:35:48,040
Speaker 3: along with my sister were present, among a great many

799
00:35:48,080 --> 00:35:50,520
Speaker 3: other people my husband and my mother in law invited.

800
00:35:50,680 --> 00:35:53,480
Speaker 3: It was a great day. However, we ended up staying

801
00:35:53,520 --> 00:35:55,879
Speaker 3: fairly late at my mother in law's that we ended

802
00:35:55,920 --> 00:35:58,040
Speaker 3: up pushing back the start of our honeymoon to the

803
00:35:58,080 --> 00:36:00,640
Speaker 3: next day. Once we got to our hote tell we

804
00:36:00,640 --> 00:36:02,800
Speaker 3: were so taken in by the room that we wanted

805
00:36:02,800 --> 00:36:05,280
Speaker 3: to send videos of it to a couple people, including

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00:36:05,280 --> 00:36:07,719
Speaker 3: our mother in law. This prompted her to ask if

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00:36:07,760 --> 00:36:10,719
Speaker 3: she and her husband could come by to see the

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00:36:10,840 --> 00:36:14,960
Speaker 3: room and use our hotel reservation as means to utilize

809
00:36:14,960 --> 00:36:18,359
Speaker 3: the pool that our hotel had that on their honeymoon.

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Speaker 6: How are you gonna invite yourself to someone's honeymoon.

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Speaker 3: Their honeymoon? Why do you even want to be on

812
00:36:25,120 --> 00:36:28,560
Speaker 3: their honeymoon. Yeah, they're gonna be having the spicy sleep.

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Speaker 6: They're like, I just want to make sure. I just

814
00:36:31,120 --> 00:36:32,560
Speaker 6: want to make sure they're doing it right.

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Speaker 3: Within an hour, she and her husband came into the

816
00:36:34,800 --> 00:36:38,040
Speaker 3: room and immediately started browsing around until she went into

817
00:36:38,080 --> 00:36:40,920
Speaker 3: the bathroom and found my washbag that she proceeded to

818
00:36:41,000 --> 00:36:44,239
Speaker 3: open up and start digging through. I unintentionally walked in

819
00:36:44,280 --> 00:36:46,920
Speaker 3: on her, and she immediately stopped what she was doing

820
00:36:46,960 --> 00:36:48,799
Speaker 3: to ask if the bag was mine, to which I

821
00:36:48,840 --> 00:36:51,560
Speaker 3: told her yes, then calmly walked over to zip it

822
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Speaker 3: back up. They then asked for our room card to

823
00:36:53,760 --> 00:36:55,480
Speaker 3: get into the pool and ask for us to meet

824
00:36:55,520 --> 00:36:57,880
Speaker 3: them down there. We eventually met them down at the

825
00:36:57,880 --> 00:37:00,840
Speaker 3: pool sometime later and they got tired, so they decided

826
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Speaker 3: to leave and give us some time to enjoy the

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Speaker 3: one night we had in our hotel. For the short

828
00:37:05,800 --> 00:37:07,839
Speaker 3: time we had it, it was great, but it did

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00:37:07,880 --> 00:37:10,239
Speaker 3: involve one to two more phone calls from my mother

830
00:37:10,280 --> 00:37:13,200
Speaker 3: in law before our checkout the following day. Shortly into

831
00:37:13,239 --> 00:37:15,560
Speaker 3: our marriage, we decided to help out a friend by

832
00:37:15,560 --> 00:37:18,480
Speaker 3: moving them in. This was a horrible decision as it

833
00:37:18,560 --> 00:37:22,600
Speaker 3: turned into two long years of caring for this friend financially, emotionally,

834
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Speaker 3: and mentally. Twenty four to seven. This decision really put

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Speaker 3: a strain on my husband and I due to the

836
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Speaker 3: lack of time on weekends spent at my mother in

837
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Speaker 3: law's and a lack of time every other moment during

838
00:37:32,920 --> 00:37:35,040
Speaker 3: the week at home. This prompted us to make the

839
00:37:35,080 --> 00:37:38,040
Speaker 3: decision to move. We had previously lost a pregnancy during

840
00:37:38,040 --> 00:37:40,279
Speaker 3: the last year we spent with the roommate, so we

841
00:37:40,320 --> 00:37:43,240
Speaker 3: decided wherever we did move, it would have to be safe,

842
00:37:43,360 --> 00:37:46,440
Speaker 3: have plenty of space, and have a good school district

843
00:37:46,520 --> 00:37:48,800
Speaker 3: for the family we wanted to start trying for again.

844
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Speaker 3: We stumbled upon a beautiful three bedroom, two bathroom house.

845
00:37:52,560 --> 00:37:55,120
Speaker 3: The only catch was it was one and a half

846
00:37:55,280 --> 00:37:58,279
Speaker 3: hours away from our current city. Our friends and you

847
00:37:58,400 --> 00:38:02,120
Speaker 3: guessed it. My mother in law, move go there immediately.

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Speaker 6: This person needs no consideration in terms of an hour

849
00:38:05,320 --> 00:38:07,600
Speaker 6: and a half is not so far away that it

850
00:38:07,640 --> 00:38:10,719
Speaker 6: is now inconceivable to see somebody also.

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Speaker 3: Blake, I think you need that hour and a half

852
00:38:12,280 --> 00:38:14,439
Speaker 3: to get away from your mom. Yeah, or your mother

853
00:38:14,480 --> 00:38:14,799
Speaker 3: in law.

854
00:38:14,920 --> 00:38:15,800
Speaker 1: Yes, exactly.

855
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Speaker 6: If she tries to say, like, this's just too far,

856
00:38:18,160 --> 00:38:22,120
Speaker 6: it's like it's literally like shorter than every movie you've

857
00:38:22,160 --> 00:38:22,760
Speaker 6: ever watched.

858
00:38:22,840 --> 00:38:25,919
Speaker 3: Yeah, I drive an hour and a half frequently in LA.

859
00:38:26,080 --> 00:38:28,959
Speaker 6: That is one and a half episodes of a television show.

860
00:38:29,040 --> 00:38:31,480
Speaker 3: You'll be fine. After a month of debating and reasoning,

861
00:38:31,640 --> 00:38:34,200
Speaker 3: we decided to take a chance before the house was gone.

862
00:38:34,239 --> 00:38:36,799
Speaker 3: Finally we come to the present. My husband and I

863
00:38:36,840 --> 00:38:39,279
Speaker 3: have been in our new home since June twenty twenty four.

864
00:38:39,400 --> 00:38:42,399
Speaker 3: We got pregnant in August. During the first two months here,

865
00:38:42,520 --> 00:38:44,919
Speaker 3: we did not get a single weekend to enjoy each

866
00:38:44,920 --> 00:38:47,080
Speaker 3: other or the home, as we had to host my

867
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Speaker 3: mother in law or drive the hour and a half

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Speaker 3: out her to keep things happy, as she did not

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00:38:52,040 --> 00:38:54,800
Speaker 3: approve of our decision at all. In fact, She fought

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00:38:54,800 --> 00:38:56,960
Speaker 3: our decision leading up to the move, and even when

871
00:38:57,080 --> 00:38:59,520
Speaker 3: is far to say she was going through withdrawals from

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00:38:59,640 --> 00:39:02,319
Speaker 3: us being close by anymore by the first month we

873
00:39:02,360 --> 00:39:04,440
Speaker 3: were here, when I got pregnant, she was the first

874
00:39:04,480 --> 00:39:06,800
Speaker 3: person to know and has since been more happy and

875
00:39:06,920 --> 00:39:10,000
Speaker 3: tolerant of our move out here. However, within the last month,

876
00:39:10,120 --> 00:39:12,680
Speaker 3: she left her husband and moved out of her house.

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Speaker 1: WHOA.

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00:39:13,560 --> 00:39:16,200
Speaker 3: This has made her not only act more erratic, but

879
00:39:16,440 --> 00:39:19,360
Speaker 3: it has made her more entitled to our time and home.

880
00:39:19,480 --> 00:39:21,919
Speaker 3: We had recently planned to go see my disabled mom

881
00:39:22,000 --> 00:39:25,279
Speaker 3: out of state for Thanksgiving. Considering this holiday's family no

882
00:39:25,360 --> 00:39:28,319
Speaker 3: longer had any plans went through divorce, and we had

883
00:39:28,360 --> 00:39:31,160
Speaker 3: never spent a holiday with any family of mine. We

884
00:39:31,239 --> 00:39:33,080
Speaker 3: had asked my mother in law if she could watch

885
00:39:33,120 --> 00:39:34,759
Speaker 3: the dogs so that they didn't have to be in

886
00:39:34,760 --> 00:39:37,200
Speaker 3: the car for thirteen hours there and back within a

887
00:39:37,239 --> 00:39:40,360
Speaker 3: matter of a couple days, especially because one dog is

888
00:39:40,480 --> 00:39:42,799
Speaker 3: fifteen and a half years old wow and the other

889
00:39:42,960 --> 00:39:45,640
Speaker 3: is two years old with severe car anxiety. Because she

890
00:39:45,719 --> 00:39:47,839
Speaker 3: was no longer in her husband's house, we offered our

891
00:39:47,880 --> 00:39:49,920
Speaker 3: home up for her to stay during our trip. To

892
00:39:49,920 --> 00:39:51,760
Speaker 3: do so a win win for everyone.

893
00:39:51,600 --> 00:39:54,520
Speaker 6: Or so we thought, I bet there's no way that

894
00:39:54,600 --> 00:39:57,000
Speaker 6: she overstays her welcome.

895
00:39:57,040 --> 00:40:01,720
Speaker 3: Never this mother, no way. She then decided to invite

896
00:40:01,719 --> 00:40:05,319
Speaker 3: herself over the weekend before our trip to sleepover, as

897
00:40:05,400 --> 00:40:07,440
Speaker 3: that way she could discuss how we wanted her to

898
00:40:07,480 --> 00:40:10,759
Speaker 3: watch the dogs. My husband and I, after having many

899
00:40:10,960 --> 00:40:14,319
Speaker 3: conversations over the last year about setting healthy boundaries with her,

900
00:40:14,560 --> 00:40:17,279
Speaker 3: decided that now would be the time to exercise that

901
00:40:17,440 --> 00:40:20,080
Speaker 3: for the first time. She called them stating, my bag

902
00:40:20,160 --> 00:40:22,120
Speaker 3: is back for this weekend and I'm all ready to

903
00:40:22,160 --> 00:40:25,400
Speaker 3: stay the night. He politely responded, telling her, we're actually

904
00:40:25,840 --> 00:40:28,799
Speaker 3: really busy this weekend preparing for the trip. It would

905
00:40:28,840 --> 00:40:30,680
Speaker 3: really work better if we just hung out for the

906
00:40:30,719 --> 00:40:33,279
Speaker 3: day tomorrow. I don't think we'll have much time or

907
00:40:33,440 --> 00:40:36,000
Speaker 3: energy for a sleepover. All right, So big moment for

908
00:40:36,040 --> 00:40:38,439
Speaker 3: this guy. How is the mom gonna respond to say?

909
00:40:38,800 --> 00:40:43,400
Speaker 3: How dare you? I'm having withdraws, I'm going to the hospital.

910
00:40:43,440 --> 00:40:45,840
Speaker 3: I'm having a heart attack because you don't love me.

911
00:40:46,080 --> 00:40:48,399
Speaker 3: You're trying to kick me out of your life. This

912
00:40:48,520 --> 00:40:51,399
Speaker 3: brought out her usual reaction the few times he has

913
00:40:51,480 --> 00:40:54,279
Speaker 3: ever told her no, she runs to guilt trip him

914
00:40:54,320 --> 00:40:57,440
Speaker 3: with backhanded comments like I guess I'm not that important,

915
00:40:57,800 --> 00:41:00,520
Speaker 3: but I'm doing you a favor, et cetera. Except this

916
00:41:00,600 --> 00:41:03,400
Speaker 3: time it was more extreme, resulting in her flying off

917
00:41:03,440 --> 00:41:06,520
Speaker 3: the handle, sobbing and proceeding to hang up on him.

918
00:41:06,560 --> 00:41:09,600
Speaker 3: This time it really upset him. My husband is very

919
00:41:09,640 --> 00:41:11,520
Speaker 3: close with his mom. That's pretty evident.

920
00:41:11,640 --> 00:41:13,759
Speaker 6: Well, I think that your husband is close to his

921
00:41:13,800 --> 00:41:18,719
Speaker 6: mom because she's developed a toxic, codependent, guilt trip relationship

922
00:41:18,760 --> 00:41:19,040
Speaker 6: with him.

923
00:41:19,120 --> 00:41:21,320
Speaker 3: I think your husband is close to his mom because

924
00:41:21,320 --> 00:41:23,480
Speaker 3: he's one of those lead backpack kids and she's got

925
00:41:23,520 --> 00:41:26,359
Speaker 3: a leash on him. So when it is strained or

926
00:41:26,400 --> 00:41:29,120
Speaker 3: she treats him in a negative way, he takes it

927
00:41:29,320 --> 00:41:31,680
Speaker 3: very personally. He spent a portion of the night crying

928
00:41:31,719 --> 00:41:34,520
Speaker 3: and questioning himself on if what he said was genuinely wrong.

929
00:41:34,719 --> 00:41:38,080
Speaker 3: This is when I got upset. I never ever interject

930
00:41:38,120 --> 00:41:41,440
Speaker 3: myself into conflict, particularly when it is with my in laws,

931
00:41:41,560 --> 00:41:43,640
Speaker 3: as I have always viewed it as not my place.

932
00:41:44,000 --> 00:41:45,919
Speaker 3: But I was reminded of a recent talk I had

933
00:41:45,960 --> 00:41:47,759
Speaker 3: with my husband in which he told me that I

934
00:41:47,760 --> 00:41:50,640
Speaker 3: should start being able to voice my discomforts and concerns

935
00:41:50,640 --> 00:41:53,280
Speaker 3: to his family when they arise, as they have only

936
00:41:53,320 --> 00:41:55,720
Speaker 3: ever provided me a safe space to be able to talk.

937
00:41:55,920 --> 00:41:58,520
Speaker 3: At the time, it was something that made sense and

938
00:41:58,560 --> 00:42:01,120
Speaker 3: we both believed, so I thought maybe it was a

939
00:42:01,160 --> 00:42:05,040
Speaker 3: good time to exercise his suggestion, especially considering he just

940
00:42:05,160 --> 00:42:07,799
Speaker 3: exercised mine by trying to set a boundary with his

941
00:42:07,840 --> 00:42:10,520
Speaker 3: mom by saying no. So I messaged her saying that

942
00:42:10,600 --> 00:42:12,440
Speaker 3: I was aware that it may not be my place,

943
00:42:12,600 --> 00:42:14,959
Speaker 3: but I cared deeply for her son and to see

944
00:42:15,000 --> 00:42:18,040
Speaker 3: him hurt is upsetting, particularly in the rare case that

945
00:42:18,080 --> 00:42:20,280
Speaker 3: he doesn't do what she wants because she always jumps

946
00:42:20,320 --> 00:42:22,480
Speaker 3: to making him feel bad. I reminded her that he's

947
00:42:22,520 --> 00:42:25,239
Speaker 3: a grown man and is not only allowed to say no,

948
00:42:25,640 --> 00:42:28,520
Speaker 3: but shouldn't have to explain why. I also reminded her

949
00:42:28,560 --> 00:42:30,359
Speaker 3: that with having a baby on the way, if we

950
00:42:30,400 --> 00:42:32,400
Speaker 3: want some time just the two of us, as that

951
00:42:32,480 --> 00:42:35,239
Speaker 3: has been rare, that is also not wrong from him

952
00:42:35,520 --> 00:42:38,560
Speaker 3: or I to want. Lastly, I suggested that she speak

953
00:42:38,600 --> 00:42:42,040
Speaker 3: to him more calmly and apologize. This deeply upset her.

954
00:42:42,120 --> 00:42:44,520
Speaker 3: She began lashing out on me and trying to play

955
00:42:44,560 --> 00:42:46,960
Speaker 3: the victim. Are you aware of how you're treating me?

956
00:42:47,200 --> 00:42:49,440
Speaker 3: You know I'm trying to do you a favor, right

957
00:42:49,480 --> 00:42:51,560
Speaker 3: now and I don't have to. I didn't realize my

958
00:42:51,640 --> 00:42:54,000
Speaker 3: wanting to spend time with you guys wasn't want you

959
00:42:54,080 --> 00:42:57,480
Speaker 3: both want it. I immediately became the target to began

960
00:42:57,600 --> 00:43:00,839
Speaker 3: blowing up my phone. Then my husband's he ignored her,

961
00:43:00,880 --> 00:43:03,480
Speaker 3: and I've responded to her one last time saying I

962
00:43:03,600 --> 00:43:06,120
Speaker 3: wasn't treating her in any poor manner. I was simply

963
00:43:06,160 --> 00:43:08,680
Speaker 3: telling her she hurt his feelings and needs to respect

964
00:43:08,680 --> 00:43:10,880
Speaker 3: his option to say no when he wants to. She

965
00:43:11,000 --> 00:43:13,760
Speaker 3: sent a slew of other text to me, each getting

966
00:43:13,800 --> 00:43:17,480
Speaker 3: more short, fused and manipulative, so I stopped responding.

967
00:43:17,560 --> 00:43:21,280
Speaker 6: This just feels like trademark, like weaponized defection.

968
00:43:21,520 --> 00:43:25,200
Speaker 3: Oh yeah, She's like, well, well, one she's saying, oh,

969
00:43:25,239 --> 00:43:27,080
Speaker 3: I'm your mother. You gotta treat your mother like this.

970
00:43:27,200 --> 00:43:29,200
Speaker 3: And then she's saying, oh, well, I'm watching your dog,

971
00:43:29,400 --> 00:43:32,680
Speaker 3: so that gives me literally free range, like to do whatever,

972
00:43:32,880 --> 00:43:34,360
Speaker 3: free range to do whatever I want to.

973
00:43:34,680 --> 00:43:36,520
Speaker 6: I hate when people do that where it's like, by

974
00:43:36,520 --> 00:43:38,640
Speaker 6: the way, I'm doing you a favor, which I don't

975
00:43:38,680 --> 00:43:40,799
Speaker 6: have to do. It's like, uh, yes, stupid, that's how

976
00:43:40,840 --> 00:43:43,839
Speaker 6: favors were do them because you're doing a favor ten

977
00:43:43,880 --> 00:43:44,560
Speaker 6: minutes past.

978
00:43:44,719 --> 00:43:46,920
Speaker 3: Then my sister in law, who never speaks to me

979
00:43:46,960 --> 00:43:50,160
Speaker 3: and hardly knows me, messages me on Facebook. Why are

980
00:43:50,160 --> 00:43:52,560
Speaker 3: you being mean to my mom? You better check yourself

981
00:43:52,600 --> 00:43:55,000
Speaker 3: before I check you. I don't care that you're pregnant.

982
00:43:55,080 --> 00:43:57,440
Speaker 3: Oh my god, it's always about what you want. You

983
00:43:57,480 --> 00:43:59,839
Speaker 3: can traw my brother his money and you have him

984
00:43:59,880 --> 00:44:01,759
Speaker 3: out to the middle of nowhere an hour and a

985
00:44:01,760 --> 00:44:04,840
Speaker 3: half away. You're so weird. She don't even work. You

986
00:44:04,960 --> 00:44:07,440
Speaker 3: probably left around with his best friend while I live

987
00:44:07,520 --> 00:44:09,759
Speaker 3: with you. Guys, anyway, I think you kind of have

988
00:44:09,840 --> 00:44:10,640
Speaker 3: to cut these people off.

989
00:44:10,880 --> 00:44:13,239
Speaker 6: I don't think you need them as a presence in

990
00:44:13,280 --> 00:44:15,880
Speaker 6: your life, especially you're about to have a baby, being pregnant,

991
00:44:16,160 --> 00:44:18,160
Speaker 6: trying to start advent. It's like you don't want these

992
00:44:18,200 --> 00:44:21,320
Speaker 6: people around your kid. I would around mind.

993
00:44:21,160 --> 00:44:24,399
Speaker 3: I have, you know, say over how you parents, what

994
00:44:24,440 --> 00:44:26,920
Speaker 3: you do with your kid. I feel like they're just gonna, like,

995
00:44:27,360 --> 00:44:30,160
Speaker 3: you know, take every inch that they can get. My

996
00:44:30,239 --> 00:44:32,319
Speaker 3: mother in law had called my sister in law, who

997
00:44:32,440 --> 00:44:34,640
Speaker 3: lives all the way on the other side of the country,

998
00:44:34,800 --> 00:44:37,480
Speaker 3: to explode and point the finger at me for a

999
00:44:37,520 --> 00:44:40,120
Speaker 3: bunch of things that aren't even remotely true, but all

1000
00:44:40,200 --> 00:44:42,520
Speaker 3: are things that resemble complaints for my mother in law

1001
00:44:42,560 --> 00:44:44,879
Speaker 3: over the years. I've been working at the same job

1002
00:44:44,960 --> 00:44:47,200
Speaker 3: for three years, but my mother in law doesn't see

1003
00:44:47,200 --> 00:44:49,640
Speaker 3: it as real work because my husband makes more money.

1004
00:44:49,719 --> 00:44:52,560
Speaker 3: This is something she poked at me for the entire time.

1005
00:44:52,680 --> 00:44:55,360
Speaker 3: The accusation I cheated on my husband with our roommate

1006
00:44:55,520 --> 00:44:58,520
Speaker 3: also has stemmed from my mother in law's complaints about

1007
00:44:58,520 --> 00:45:01,200
Speaker 3: how the roommate and I were too close. She usually

1008
00:45:01,239 --> 00:45:04,440
Speaker 3: accused our roommate of having a crush on me. That accusation,

1009
00:45:04,560 --> 00:45:07,200
Speaker 3: in particular was hurtful because I not only had seen

1010
00:45:07,239 --> 00:45:09,600
Speaker 3: what cheating did to my parents' marriage growing up, I

1011
00:45:09,680 --> 00:45:12,239
Speaker 3: had been cheated on in a previous engagement, and it

1012
00:45:12,320 --> 00:45:15,239
Speaker 3: broke me. I have never, nor will I ever, be

1013
00:45:15,320 --> 00:45:17,400
Speaker 3: the type to do something that I view as heartless

1014
00:45:17,400 --> 00:45:19,920
Speaker 3: to someone I care so deeply for. I'd also like

1015
00:45:19,960 --> 00:45:22,239
Speaker 3: to throw out there that my husband works from home,

1016
00:45:22,360 --> 00:45:24,640
Speaker 3: so he was there twenty four seven. There would have

1017
00:45:24,719 --> 00:45:27,319
Speaker 3: been no possible way for me to cheat, even if

1018
00:45:27,320 --> 00:45:29,640
Speaker 3: I wanted to. Also, when we told my mother in

1019
00:45:29,760 --> 00:45:32,680
Speaker 3: law that we were pregnant, we told her numerous times,

1020
00:45:32,920 --> 00:45:35,800
Speaker 3: do not tell anyone this is our news to share

1021
00:45:36,000 --> 00:45:38,440
Speaker 3: We were very serious about this rule because when we

1022
00:45:38,560 --> 00:45:41,240
Speaker 3: lost the baby the previous year, she had told many

1023
00:45:41,320 --> 00:45:44,160
Speaker 3: people and we had to share the difficult news ourselves

1024
00:45:44,440 --> 00:45:46,200
Speaker 3: that we wouldn't be parents just yet.

1025
00:45:46,320 --> 00:45:48,560
Speaker 6: Oh my god, I'm cutting her off after that.

1026
00:45:48,800 --> 00:45:51,399
Speaker 3: I yeah, I don't understand how your husband has let

1027
00:45:51,440 --> 00:45:54,640
Speaker 3: all this slide. We wanted to avoid that this time around.

1028
00:45:54,640 --> 00:45:56,680
Speaker 3: If things did not shake out. Okay, we did not

1029
00:45:56,760 --> 00:45:59,080
Speaker 3: yet tell his sister that we were pregnant. My mother

1030
00:45:59,120 --> 00:46:02,400
Speaker 3: in law did. This further broke my trust. I had

1031
00:46:02,400 --> 00:46:04,279
Speaker 3: told my sister in law that I was not being mean,

1032
00:46:04,400 --> 00:46:06,120
Speaker 3: that I was talking to my mother in law in

1033
00:46:06,160 --> 00:46:08,440
Speaker 3: a calm, adult manner, but that at this point, with

1034
00:46:08,520 --> 00:46:10,760
Speaker 3: how nasty she was getting, she could think and feel

1035
00:46:10,800 --> 00:46:13,719
Speaker 3: whatever she wanted to about the situation and me, she

1036
00:46:13,880 --> 00:46:17,080
Speaker 3: got even angrier and more volatile. I at this point

1037
00:46:17,239 --> 00:46:19,760
Speaker 3: was so upset. I gave my phone to my husband.

1038
00:46:19,880 --> 00:46:22,560
Speaker 3: When he saw what his family, but particularly his sister,

1039
00:46:22,600 --> 00:46:25,280
Speaker 3: had been saying, he lost it. He called his sister,

1040
00:46:25,680 --> 00:46:28,520
Speaker 3: screaming a point which she has never gotten to with

1041
00:46:28,600 --> 00:46:31,440
Speaker 3: anyone in our relationship, saying she had no right to

1042
00:46:31,560 --> 00:46:34,120
Speaker 3: ever speak to me that way. She proceeded to threaten

1043
00:46:34,160 --> 00:46:36,080
Speaker 3: to show up to the home to take care of me.

1044
00:46:36,440 --> 00:46:40,640
Speaker 3: She's insane. She's insane and also lives across the country.

1045
00:46:40,719 --> 00:46:44,120
Speaker 6: Cut her off, honestly, maybe like, call call somebody. I

1046
00:46:44,160 --> 00:46:47,160
Speaker 6: would if for threatening my pregnant wife, I'd be like,

1047
00:46:47,280 --> 00:46:49,600
Speaker 6: all right, Sis, I'm gonna try to ruin your life now. Yeah,

1048
00:46:49,600 --> 00:46:52,120
Speaker 6: You're sorry. Bye, you've crossed the line, to which he.

1049
00:46:52,120 --> 00:46:55,000
Speaker 3: Responded with letting her know he would call the police, yes,

1050
00:46:55,040 --> 00:46:57,160
Speaker 3: and that with this behavior, she will not be allowed

1051
00:46:57,160 --> 00:47:00,480
Speaker 3: around our child once it's born. This whole thing up

1052
00:47:00,520 --> 00:47:03,200
Speaker 3: into now a week's long fight. I blocked my sister

1053
00:47:03,200 --> 00:47:06,080
Speaker 3: in law on everything, because, aside from the abhorrent action

1054
00:47:06,200 --> 00:47:08,759
Speaker 3: to threaten me while I'm pregnant, my husband has told

1055
00:47:08,800 --> 00:47:11,680
Speaker 3: me plenty about her fabricating stories for her benefit and

1056
00:47:11,800 --> 00:47:15,359
Speaker 3: instigating physical altercations with people for whatever reason she could

1057
00:47:15,440 --> 00:47:18,080
Speaker 3: during her lifetime, usually to the point of landing her

1058
00:47:18,080 --> 00:47:21,200
Speaker 3: in juvie several times before she turned team. My mother

1059
00:47:21,239 --> 00:47:24,160
Speaker 3: in law, however, whom I respected on a deeper level

1060
00:47:24,160 --> 00:47:26,799
Speaker 3: than my own family, decided to carry out her fight

1061
00:47:26,840 --> 00:47:30,520
Speaker 3: with me for about three more days, each message and

1062
00:47:30,719 --> 00:47:33,480
Speaker 3: day getting worse. You accuse me of stealing her son

1063
00:47:33,520 --> 00:47:36,000
Speaker 3: away and that I'm responsible for her losing him a

1064
00:47:36,040 --> 00:47:38,840
Speaker 3: second time in her life, and then basically said I

1065
00:47:38,960 --> 00:47:41,120
Speaker 3: was rich for expecting her to feel bad for me

1066
00:47:41,320 --> 00:47:44,440
Speaker 3: over what her daughter said after I attacked her. I

1067
00:47:44,560 --> 00:47:47,400
Speaker 3: tried to reason with her during these three days, reminding

1068
00:47:47,440 --> 00:47:50,040
Speaker 3: her several times that it was inappropriate to cause such

1069
00:47:50,080 --> 00:47:53,200
Speaker 3: stress to a high risk pregnant woman, like at this point,

1070
00:47:53,320 --> 00:47:55,719
Speaker 3: just block her, block her and call the police and

1071
00:47:55,960 --> 00:47:58,839
Speaker 3: say that you're being harassed. Yep, especially with how long

1072
00:47:58,920 --> 00:48:02,280
Speaker 3: we waited for this baby. She just wanted to keep fighting,

1073
00:48:02,400 --> 00:48:05,000
Speaker 3: so I unfortunately came to the conclusion that I needed

1074
00:48:05,000 --> 00:48:07,880
Speaker 3: to block her. Thank you for taking my advice, but

1075
00:48:08,040 --> 00:48:10,839
Speaker 3: the time being as well. Since then, both my sister

1076
00:48:10,880 --> 00:48:12,960
Speaker 3: in law and mother in law have dug in to

1077
00:48:13,080 --> 00:48:15,440
Speaker 3: attack my husband as much as they could, and have

1078
00:48:15,600 --> 00:48:18,360
Speaker 3: further tried to isolate him from other means of support

1079
00:48:18,440 --> 00:48:20,520
Speaker 3: in his family. He's had to block his sister for

1080
00:48:20,600 --> 00:48:24,080
Speaker 3: her now fabricating stories about him and saying horrid things

1081
00:48:24,120 --> 00:48:26,640
Speaker 3: about him that I don't care to repeat because they're

1082
00:48:26,719 --> 00:48:29,440
Speaker 3: so bad. He then spent two weeks trying to reason

1083
00:48:29,480 --> 00:48:32,359
Speaker 3: with his mom, practically begging her for a phone call

1084
00:48:32,440 --> 00:48:34,080
Speaker 3: so that they may try to sit and have a

1085
00:48:34,120 --> 00:48:37,400
Speaker 3: constructive conversation about her actions and how this all started.

1086
00:48:37,480 --> 00:48:39,600
Speaker 3: She ignored him up until tonight when he said he

1087
00:48:39,640 --> 00:48:41,600
Speaker 3: was no longer going to be the only one working

1088
00:48:41,640 --> 00:48:44,359
Speaker 3: to mend the relationship and in turn found someone else

1089
00:48:44,400 --> 00:48:46,920
Speaker 3: to manage the baby shower. Considering the current state of

1090
00:48:46,960 --> 00:48:49,399
Speaker 3: things with her. Currently, you can join us live every

1091
00:48:49,400 --> 00:48:52,120
Speaker 3: week to at three PMPSD on YouTube, Facebook and TikTok

1092
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Speaker 3: just tap her profile.

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Speaker 6: Indeed, well, we set a boundary in he put his

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00:48:56,040 --> 00:48:58,520
Speaker 6: foot down and he said, you will not be I'm

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Speaker 6: not going to be one side. Just yeah, trying to

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Speaker 6: fix this.

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Speaker 3: You gotta put in the work.

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Speaker 6: Yeah.

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Speaker 3: It is insane to me that this all started because

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Speaker 3: she said I'm coming to sleep over and they were like, hey,

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Speaker 3: we're busy that day, and then she proceeded to throw

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Speaker 3: a fit, a huge freaking tantrum, got her daughter involved,

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Speaker 3: who then threatened Opee over literally just saying like, hey

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Speaker 3: we're busy that night.

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Speaker 6: Yeah, No, it's uh.

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00:49:25,040 --> 00:49:28,360
Speaker 3: These people are crazy. She immediately called them and lost

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00:49:28,440 --> 00:49:31,319
Speaker 3: her mind, same old story of almost a month later,

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00:49:31,400 --> 00:49:34,000
Speaker 3: how she is the victim, how I attacked her, how

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00:49:34,000 --> 00:49:36,879
Speaker 3: I am a horrible daughter in law and wife then

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00:49:37,120 --> 00:49:40,040
Speaker 3: trying to talk poorly about my disabled mother. When he

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00:49:40,120 --> 00:49:42,520
Speaker 3: decided not to budge on holding her accountable for this

1112
00:49:42,600 --> 00:49:44,960
Speaker 3: whole thing, she hung up on him again, just like

1113
00:49:45,080 --> 00:49:47,080
Speaker 3: she did the phone call that started this all, and

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00:49:47,120 --> 00:49:50,600
Speaker 3: he decided to stop engaging with her entirely until she

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00:49:50,680 --> 00:49:54,200
Speaker 3: can calm down a bit. So after that long mouthful,

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00:49:54,400 --> 00:49:56,600
Speaker 3: tell me, am, I the ale.

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Speaker 6: No confident, No, no.

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Speaker 3: You're the butterfly and this butterfly effect of a story.

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Speaker 6: And you know what, y'all are both gonna be better

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Speaker 6: off for not having these Just like, toxic doesn't even

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00:50:11,040 --> 00:50:15,080
Speaker 6: cut it just it's radioactive, and it's that really annoying

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00:50:15,239 --> 00:50:18,520
Speaker 6: kind of toxic where it's like it's not outright negative.

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Speaker 6: At first, it's like it's the weaponized positivity, the weaponized

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Speaker 6: but I just love you so much, and then if

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Speaker 6: you still don't budge, then it flips in does a

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Speaker 6: one to eighty, and then she just started to just

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00:50:28,080 --> 00:50:28,880
Speaker 6: get attacked.

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Speaker 3: But that is the end of that story. So we'll

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Speaker 3: see you for the next one.

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Speaker 6: Yep, we got another one coming right up, Hey, John

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00:50:34,440 --> 00:50:36,560
Speaker 6: ogi host here, we're gonna get back to this episode.

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Speaker 1: But a quick three minute break of ads from a

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Speaker 1: sponsor's keeping the show alive.

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Speaker 6: My selfish mother in law ruined my wedding so badly

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00:50:45,200 --> 00:50:48,280
Speaker 6: that it hasn't even registered that I'm married.

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Speaker 3: You were just blue screening the whole time.

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Speaker 6: Hi, y'all, I've been a listener of the podcast for

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00:50:53,239 --> 00:50:56,040
Speaker 6: a long time and just needed event about what all

1139
00:50:56,120 --> 00:50:59,000
Speaker 6: happened with my wedding because I'm still trying to process this.

1140
00:50:59,200 --> 00:51:00,640
Speaker 6: I don't want to take it out on my mother

1141
00:51:00,680 --> 00:51:03,000
Speaker 6: in law before our honeymoon. My mother in law has

1142
00:51:03,120 --> 00:51:05,680
Speaker 6: caused little bits of chaos here and there throughout the

1143
00:51:05,719 --> 00:51:08,319
Speaker 6: wedding process, but it was all things that I could

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Speaker 6: overlook or ignore until yesterday. By the way, this comes

1145
00:51:12,120 --> 00:51:16,520
Speaker 6: from user baywatch Blondie on the r slash okay storytime subreddit.

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00:51:16,680 --> 00:51:19,080
Speaker 6: So for starters, my husband and I wanted to get

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Speaker 6: married in October, but we couldn't because she and her

1148
00:51:22,239 --> 00:51:25,160
Speaker 6: husband had cruises scheduled for the whole month. We had

1149
00:51:25,280 --> 00:51:28,080
Speaker 6: changed the date twice before we ended up landing on

1150
00:51:28,120 --> 00:51:30,160
Speaker 6: a date that we went with, and even then they

1151
00:51:30,200 --> 00:51:32,799
Speaker 6: had a cruise scheduled for that weekend. But I put

1152
00:51:32,800 --> 00:51:35,879
Speaker 6: my foot down and said enough A few months went

1153
00:51:35,920 --> 00:51:38,719
Speaker 6: by and we continue to plan. Eventually I started to

1154
00:51:38,719 --> 00:51:40,920
Speaker 6: bring her into the wedding process. I have a lot

1155
00:51:40,920 --> 00:51:43,360
Speaker 6: of childhood trauma when it comes to trusting people to

1156
00:51:43,520 --> 00:51:46,400
Speaker 6: actually help me with things, and so I was working

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00:51:46,480 --> 00:51:49,279
Speaker 6: exclusively with my husband for a long time. When it

1158
00:51:49,320 --> 00:51:51,799
Speaker 6: came to our wedding planning. As we approached the date,

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00:51:52,040 --> 00:51:54,359
Speaker 6: we invited her to come to the venue with us

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00:51:54,360 --> 00:51:57,080
Speaker 6: so we could figure out the layout. She has planned

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Speaker 6: a bunch of weddings for my husband's stepsibl, but they

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00:52:00,800 --> 00:52:04,160
Speaker 6: were in smaller venues Because of that, these weddings were

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00:52:04,239 --> 00:52:06,960
Speaker 6: laid out where the ceremony was happening while people were

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Speaker 6: already seated at their tables for the reception. I had

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00:52:10,480 --> 00:52:13,319
Speaker 6: gone to one of these weddings and saw pictures of

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Speaker 6: the others before we got engaged, and did not like

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00:52:16,080 --> 00:52:18,200
Speaker 6: the aesthetics of how it was laid out. It was

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00:52:18,239 --> 00:52:21,680
Speaker 6: always clunky, the bride was tripping over some sort of chair,

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00:52:21,800 --> 00:52:24,319
Speaker 6: and the pictures didn't turn out that great. People also

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00:52:24,400 --> 00:52:27,160
Speaker 6: had their backs seated to the ceremony, so they couldn't

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Speaker 6: fully see what was going on.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, why would I don't understand the reason.

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00:52:30,800 --> 00:52:35,200
Speaker 6: She expected us to do this layout, despite having enough

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00:52:35,320 --> 00:52:37,400
Speaker 6: room to have the ceremony in a front yard and

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00:52:37,440 --> 00:52:38,960
Speaker 6: the reception in the backyard.

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Speaker 1: As we were getting married at an airbnb.

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Speaker 3: Kind of like the mullet of weddings.

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Speaker 6: Business in the front party in the back. I told

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Speaker 6: her I did not want to do this and that

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00:52:48,320 --> 00:52:51,040
Speaker 6: instead I would rather just have the chairs moved from

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00:52:51,080 --> 00:52:54,040
Speaker 6: the ceremony to the reception. She kept insisting to do

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Speaker 6: it her way, but eventually dropped the subject. As we

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00:52:57,239 --> 00:53:00,040
Speaker 6: got closer to the wedding date, my husband requested that

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00:53:00,080 --> 00:53:02,719
Speaker 6: we start bringing his mom and other family members into

1185
00:53:02,760 --> 00:53:05,799
Speaker 6: help us, as my family wasn't able to assist. I

1186
00:53:05,960 --> 00:53:08,000
Speaker 6: have gone to a lot of therapy when it comes

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Speaker 6: to trusting people, so I decided to take a chance

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Speaker 6: and trust his mom. Things were going well at first

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Speaker 6: until about three days before the wedding. The forecast changed

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Speaker 6: drastically for us, and we were questioning whether we were

1191
00:53:20,960 --> 00:53:23,920
Speaker 6: going to need to get tense and canopies because of

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00:53:23,960 --> 00:53:27,160
Speaker 6: the percentage of rain. Chance my mother in law took

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Speaker 6: this opportunity to insist to me that we should do

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Speaker 6: the ceremony at the same place as the reception, which

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Speaker 6: is such a weird thing to be hung up on because.

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Speaker 3: It's like, we have to do it.

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Speaker 6: It's not a thing. Stop making this a thing. It's

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Speaker 6: not a thing. I explained that we had a plan

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Speaker 6: to be able to move forward with our original layout,

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Speaker 6: but she kept arguing with me.

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Speaker 1: Eventually I came.

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Speaker 6: Up with the compromise that if the rain was still

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00:53:52,960 --> 00:53:55,360
Speaker 6: a high percentage chance the day of the wedding, we

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00:53:55,360 --> 00:53:58,200
Speaker 6: would still have the ceremony separate from the reception, but

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00:53:58,239 --> 00:54:00,600
Speaker 6: they would both be in the back ye, so it

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Speaker 6: would be a faster transition.

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Speaker 3: Why do we need to transition so fast?

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Speaker 6: When I told her this, her response was, quote, I'm

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Speaker 6: glad you came down from your pedestal and back to reality.

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Speaker 3: What is this freaking knock her off her bedestale real quick.

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00:54:16,080 --> 00:54:19,160
Speaker 6: I would immediately knock her off her pedestal as having

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00:54:19,239 --> 00:54:21,600
Speaker 6: anything to do with the planning. I'd be like, and

1213
00:54:22,120 --> 00:54:23,520
Speaker 6: I'm tipping it over right now.

1214
00:54:23,680 --> 00:54:25,200
Speaker 3: So I didn't realize it was your wedding.

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Speaker 6: Yeah, I was really hurt by this back to reality comment,

1216
00:54:28,760 --> 00:54:30,680
Speaker 6: but I let it go. I let my husband know

1217
00:54:30,760 --> 00:54:33,279
Speaker 6: the next day what her comment was, but we both

1218
00:54:33,400 --> 00:54:36,040
Speaker 6: decided she was probably just stressed because there were a

1219
00:54:36,080 --> 00:54:38,440
Speaker 6: lot of little kids running around in her house as

1220
00:54:38,480 --> 00:54:42,000
Speaker 6: the wedding party was putting together their bouquets during that time. However,

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Speaker 6: the next morning, after brunch with my grandparents, I was

1222
00:54:45,080 --> 00:54:48,120
Speaker 6: informed that they decided they wanted to haul all of

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00:54:48,160 --> 00:54:50,880
Speaker 6: the wedding stuff in their trailer to the venue, roughly

1224
00:54:51,040 --> 00:54:54,720
Speaker 6: five hours before they had originally told us. The day before,

1225
00:54:54,880 --> 00:54:57,439
Speaker 6: they had already told us that they likely weren't going

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00:54:57,480 --> 00:54:59,759
Speaker 6: to be at the rehearsal, but would drop the things

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Speaker 6: off after her husband got off work. He got off

1228
00:55:02,800 --> 00:55:05,440
Speaker 6: work early that day, so they decided they wanted to

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00:55:05,480 --> 00:55:08,319
Speaker 6: try and beat traffic. The problem was I didn't have

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Speaker 6: everything gathered to go into the trailer yet. I was

1231
00:55:11,160 --> 00:55:13,399
Speaker 6: in such a rush that I forgot important things at

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Speaker 6: my house, including the marriage license and the rings, and

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00:55:17,080 --> 00:55:19,440
Speaker 6: needed someone to go get them for me. We also

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Speaker 6: had people from out of town that didn't have vehicles

1235
00:55:22,400 --> 00:55:25,160
Speaker 6: who needed to get to the venue. After everything was

1236
00:55:25,239 --> 00:55:28,000
Speaker 6: packed up and people were loaded into the cars, there

1237
00:55:28,040 --> 00:55:30,440
Speaker 6: was no room for me to go to the venue.

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00:55:30,560 --> 00:55:33,800
Speaker 6: My husband was at the airport picking some more people

1239
00:55:33,880 --> 00:55:35,840
Speaker 6: up and was going to meet us at the venue.

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Speaker 6: At the time of the rehearsal, Why are.

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Speaker 3: They in charge of picking people up? But you gotta

1242
00:55:39,680 --> 00:55:42,440
Speaker 3: figure it out, like all of those guests need to

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Speaker 3: figure it out. This is insane. I would never ask

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Speaker 3: the bride or the groom on their wedding day.

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Speaker 6: Well, I think, I think this is technically not the

1246
00:55:52,760 --> 00:55:54,160
Speaker 6: wedding day, it's the rehearsal.

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Speaker 3: Still, no, I'm getting an uber.

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Speaker 6: I ended up calling my mom to give me a

1249
00:55:58,280 --> 00:56:00,600
Speaker 6: ride and also helped me carry the rest of the

1250
00:56:00,600 --> 00:56:03,400
Speaker 6: stuff to the venue because things were so rushed that

1251
00:56:03,480 --> 00:56:06,319
Speaker 6: half of our food was forgotten. I cried in front

1252
00:56:06,320 --> 00:56:08,720
Speaker 6: of his mom's house for about forty five minutes until

1253
00:56:08,760 --> 00:56:12,279
Speaker 6: my mom got there because I felt so alone and abandoned.

1254
00:56:12,400 --> 00:56:15,560
Speaker 6: Everyone got to the venue before me and started trying

1255
00:56:15,600 --> 00:56:18,680
Speaker 6: to plan without me. I called my maid of honor

1256
00:56:18,719 --> 00:56:20,960
Speaker 6: as well as one of the groomsmen that I've known

1257
00:56:21,000 --> 00:56:23,920
Speaker 6: since childhood, and they took over and made sure that

1258
00:56:24,080 --> 00:56:27,360
Speaker 6: nothing was set up without my permission. It's my understanding

1259
00:56:27,440 --> 00:56:29,640
Speaker 6: that this frustrated my mother in law because she was

1260
00:56:29,680 --> 00:56:32,640
Speaker 6: told she couldn't do things the way she wanted because

1261
00:56:32,680 --> 00:56:34,719
Speaker 6: of the rushing of the trailer, and because I got

1262
00:56:34,719 --> 00:56:37,920
Speaker 6: to the venue so late. Because I was left behind

1263
00:56:38,200 --> 00:56:40,319
Speaker 6: we didn't set up the night before like we were

1264
00:56:40,360 --> 00:56:43,680
Speaker 6: supposed to. This meant that the entire day of the wedding,

1265
00:56:43,800 --> 00:56:46,080
Speaker 6: all of the wedding party was running around trying to

1266
00:56:46,160 --> 00:56:48,200
Speaker 6: set up the wedding, and we did not get to

1267
00:56:48,320 --> 00:56:51,920
Speaker 6: rehearse anything. This resulted in many things being forgotten or

1268
00:56:51,920 --> 00:56:54,080
Speaker 6: missing because I was not able to set them up

1269
00:56:54,120 --> 00:56:56,400
Speaker 6: the night before. Mother in law told me she was

1270
00:56:56,440 --> 00:56:58,680
Speaker 6: going to be at the venue by two and instead

1271
00:56:58,680 --> 00:57:00,960
Speaker 6: showed up at the time of the wedding. Her daughter

1272
00:57:01,000 --> 00:57:03,080
Speaker 6: was supposed to be one of the flower girls, but

1273
00:57:03,200 --> 00:57:06,080
Speaker 6: she let her daughter run around on the playground outside

1274
00:57:06,120 --> 00:57:08,319
Speaker 6: and didn't want to try to wrangle her into her

1275
00:57:08,360 --> 00:57:11,080
Speaker 6: flower girl dress while she was wet and muddy, so

1276
00:57:11,120 --> 00:57:13,520
Speaker 6: she decided to skip her being a flower girl and

1277
00:57:13,600 --> 00:57:17,480
Speaker 6: didn't inform anyone, including her toddler daughter, who tried to

1278
00:57:17,560 --> 00:57:20,280
Speaker 6: join the girls as they walked down the aisle. I

1279
00:57:20,320 --> 00:57:21,840
Speaker 6: feel like at this point the mother in law was

1280
00:57:21,880 --> 00:57:22,920
Speaker 6: doing this out of spite.

1281
00:57:23,000 --> 00:57:25,960
Speaker 3: I think so. I think she's just like, whatever, you

1282
00:57:26,000 --> 00:57:27,880
Speaker 3: don't want me to help out at the way, or

1283
00:57:27,920 --> 00:57:29,600
Speaker 3: you don't want me like to listen to any of

1284
00:57:29,600 --> 00:57:31,200
Speaker 3: my ideas that you don't get any of my help.

1285
00:57:31,320 --> 00:57:33,400
Speaker 6: I guess we're gonna I guess you guys can have

1286
00:57:33,640 --> 00:57:36,160
Speaker 6: all the fun in the world. Moving your tables and

1287
00:57:36,240 --> 00:57:39,560
Speaker 6: chairs around when you have to do the reception separately

1288
00:57:39,640 --> 00:57:42,800
Speaker 6: from the ceremony exhausting. She also did not sit in

1289
00:57:42,800 --> 00:57:46,520
Speaker 6: the reserved seating during the ceremony, and so my husband's

1290
00:57:46,520 --> 00:57:51,240
Speaker 6: family seating was practically empty because they all stood behind.

1291
00:57:51,480 --> 00:57:54,480
Speaker 6: I found out later that this was because she decided

1292
00:57:54,520 --> 00:57:57,840
Speaker 6: she wanted to take pictures despite the signs that said

1293
00:57:57,920 --> 00:58:01,080
Speaker 6: no cell phones please. Right after that ceremony, we began

1294
00:58:01,160 --> 00:58:04,120
Speaker 6: taking pictures. While we were taking pictures, we were informed

1295
00:58:04,120 --> 00:58:07,040
Speaker 6: that the guests were starving and needed to eat. We

1296
00:58:07,120 --> 00:58:10,280
Speaker 6: kept repeatedly being bombarded with that, to the point that

1297
00:58:10,320 --> 00:58:13,080
Speaker 6: my husband eventually compromised and said, okay, go ahead and

1298
00:58:13,120 --> 00:58:16,360
Speaker 6: serve everyone. When we made our entrance, the dance floor

1299
00:58:16,480 --> 00:58:20,240
Speaker 6: was stopping wet with towels, as no one had dried

1300
00:58:20,280 --> 00:58:23,040
Speaker 6: off the dance floor from the rain before they put

1301
00:58:23,080 --> 00:58:25,720
Speaker 6: the canopy over it. The fire pit was not going,

1302
00:58:25,760 --> 00:58:28,320
Speaker 6: so it was cold, and almost all of the food

1303
00:58:28,360 --> 00:58:31,680
Speaker 6: that I had specifically added to the menu for myself

1304
00:58:31,960 --> 00:58:35,280
Speaker 6: was gone. I had bought nice plates and silverware, but

1305
00:58:35,360 --> 00:58:37,600
Speaker 6: as I looked around. Many people were eating out of

1306
00:58:37,680 --> 00:58:41,880
Speaker 6: styrofoam to go containers because his mother was serving people

1307
00:58:41,960 --> 00:58:44,720
Speaker 6: in those to go containers, despite the fact that it

1308
00:58:44,800 --> 00:58:47,560
Speaker 6: was buffet style. Mother in law shouldn't be allowed to

1309
00:58:47,600 --> 00:58:49,800
Speaker 6: plan a wedding for the rest of her life.

1310
00:58:49,640 --> 00:58:52,920
Speaker 3: Literally, never again. I don't understand why she thinks this

1311
00:58:53,040 --> 00:58:53,520
Speaker 3: is good.

1312
00:58:53,720 --> 00:58:56,520
Speaker 6: She made me and my husband's plates into go containers

1313
00:58:56,520 --> 00:58:59,880
Speaker 6: and handed them to me with no silverware or drinks,

1314
00:59:00,280 --> 00:59:03,200
Speaker 6: and my food was cold. As my husband sat down

1315
00:59:03,200 --> 00:59:05,680
Speaker 6: to finally eat, she came to us and told us

1316
00:59:05,720 --> 00:59:07,600
Speaker 6: that we needed to cut the cake because people were

1317
00:59:07,640 --> 00:59:10,040
Speaker 6: beginning to leave. The wedding had been less than an

1318
00:59:10,080 --> 00:59:12,640
Speaker 6: hour in and we hadn't even had our first dance

1319
00:59:12,720 --> 00:59:15,160
Speaker 6: because the dance floor was still messed up. When we

1320
00:59:15,160 --> 00:59:18,120
Speaker 6: were having our first dance, I asked my husband if

1321
00:59:18,120 --> 00:59:21,000
Speaker 6: we still wanted to do the parent dances, and he

1322
00:59:21,120 --> 00:59:24,200
Speaker 6: sadly looked down and said, I don't know where my

1323
00:59:24,280 --> 00:59:26,040
Speaker 6: mom is, so probably not.

1324
00:59:26,360 --> 00:59:29,240
Speaker 3: This is devastating. If I was at this wedding, I

1325
00:59:29,320 --> 00:59:31,800
Speaker 3: feel so intensely bad for these people.

1326
00:59:31,960 --> 00:59:35,000
Speaker 6: My dad was lined up and ready to go, so

1327
00:59:35,200 --> 00:59:37,960
Speaker 6: I did my father daughter dance and one of the

1328
00:59:37,960 --> 00:59:40,520
Speaker 6: groom's been tracked down his mom so that he could

1329
00:59:40,560 --> 00:59:43,480
Speaker 6: have his dance with her. As soon as the cake

1330
00:59:43,760 --> 00:59:47,400
Speaker 6: was cut, she and her husband and daughter left, which

1331
00:59:47,440 --> 00:59:50,720
Speaker 6: prompted other people to start leaving because family had left.

1332
00:59:50,800 --> 00:59:52,080
Speaker 3: I would like sob, I would soop.

1333
00:59:52,200 --> 00:59:56,880
Speaker 6: We had no garter to toss, no bouquet, no speeches.

1334
00:59:57,280 --> 01:00:00,000
Speaker 6: We did not get to do the shots with everybody

1335
01:00:00,240 --> 01:00:02,560
Speaker 6: that we wanted to. I barely got to eat, and

1336
01:00:02,600 --> 01:00:04,360
Speaker 6: I didn't have any of the drinks that I had

1337
01:00:04,360 --> 01:00:07,920
Speaker 6: specifically gotten for myself. The next morning, rolls around to

1338
01:00:07,960 --> 01:00:10,560
Speaker 6: pack everything up, and things that I needed for the

1339
01:00:10,560 --> 01:00:13,520
Speaker 6: honeymoon got put into the trailer because she was rushing

1340
01:00:13,600 --> 01:00:15,680
Speaker 6: us to get off the property because she wanted to

1341
01:00:15,680 --> 01:00:18,840
Speaker 6: go back home. The entire process from the day before

1342
01:00:18,840 --> 01:00:20,960
Speaker 6: the wedding to the day after the wedding was her

1343
01:00:21,040 --> 01:00:23,680
Speaker 6: rushing us because she didn't want to be there, and

1344
01:00:23,760 --> 01:00:26,360
Speaker 6: it was obvious in the middle of all that. As

1345
01:00:26,400 --> 01:00:29,440
Speaker 6: a little bonus, my mother also had a complete meltdown

1346
01:00:29,480 --> 01:00:31,520
Speaker 6: at my maid of honor in front of the entire

1347
01:00:31,640 --> 01:00:34,880
Speaker 6: wedding party the night before, while I was half dressed,

1348
01:00:34,880 --> 01:00:37,000
Speaker 6: trying on the wedding dress to make sure it actually fit.

1349
01:00:37,160 --> 01:00:39,960
Speaker 6: The meltdown was so bad that it triggered my sister

1350
01:00:40,040 --> 01:00:42,600
Speaker 6: and I to disassociate completely.

1351
01:00:44,000 --> 01:00:45,520
Speaker 1: My other bridesmaids were.

1352
01:00:45,400 --> 01:00:47,760
Speaker 6: Crying while my maid of honor and her thought, my

1353
01:00:47,840 --> 01:00:49,800
Speaker 6: mother has never liked my maid of honor because my

1354
01:00:49,840 --> 01:00:51,800
Speaker 6: maid of honor speaks her mind and was there to

1355
01:00:51,800 --> 01:00:55,120
Speaker 6: witness my mother being emotionally abusive after a major surgery

1356
01:00:55,400 --> 01:00:57,560
Speaker 6: I had a couple years ago. You know what is

1357
01:00:57,880 --> 01:01:02,000
Speaker 6: way easier than major surgery is joining us when we

1358
01:01:02,040 --> 01:01:06,720
Speaker 6: go live every weekday at three pm on YouTube, Facebook, TikTok,

1359
01:01:06,760 --> 01:01:08,280
Speaker 6: and Twitch. All you gotta do is tap on our

1360
01:01:08,280 --> 01:01:12,200
Speaker 6: profile and you're in. Just tap it so easy we

1361
01:01:12,320 --> 01:01:15,720
Speaker 6: might have be live right now. Literally, cut your mom,

1362
01:01:15,800 --> 01:01:18,600
Speaker 6: cutut them off, cut your parents off, cut the mom out.

1363
01:01:19,000 --> 01:01:22,120
Speaker 6: Where are the dads? Yeah, where are the rest of

1364
01:01:22,360 --> 01:01:23,640
Speaker 6: anyone with sense?

1365
01:01:24,000 --> 01:01:27,439
Speaker 3: Literally anyone else? Find them and cut your mom's off.

1366
01:01:27,720 --> 01:01:29,640
Speaker 6: Really, all you have to do is not make a

1367
01:01:29,680 --> 01:01:32,600
Speaker 6: scene and make someone else's special day about you and

1368
01:01:32,720 --> 01:01:36,000
Speaker 6: your weird obsession with combining things that don't need to

1369
01:01:36,040 --> 01:01:38,800
Speaker 6: be combined. All in all, I'm trying to figure out

1370
01:01:38,880 --> 01:01:41,280
Speaker 6: if I say anything to my mother in law or not. Oh,

1371
01:01:41,680 --> 01:01:45,160
Speaker 6: you say something, My husband is very hurt by her actions.

1372
01:01:45,280 --> 01:01:47,400
Speaker 6: She did not get to go to her oldest son's

1373
01:01:47,440 --> 01:01:49,960
Speaker 6: wedding because he had a courthouse wedding and did not

1374
01:01:50,160 --> 01:01:52,680
Speaker 6: invite her. This was her one chance to be at

1375
01:01:52,720 --> 01:01:56,160
Speaker 6: her other son's wedding, and she completely sabotaged the entire

1376
01:01:56,240 --> 01:01:58,720
Speaker 6: thing and acted as if it was a burden for

1377
01:01:58,800 --> 01:02:01,360
Speaker 6: her to be there. Oh and she called me by

1378
01:02:01,400 --> 01:02:04,920
Speaker 6: his ex's name earlier today by accident while we were

1379
01:02:04,960 --> 01:02:05,840
Speaker 6: cleaning things up.

1380
01:02:05,920 --> 01:02:08,360
Speaker 3: That would be the I would just like, I mean,

1381
01:02:08,440 --> 01:02:10,280
Speaker 3: I know we already talked about the moments where we'd

1382
01:02:10,280 --> 01:02:12,640
Speaker 3: start sobbing, but I would that would be a moral

1383
01:02:12,720 --> 01:02:13,200
Speaker 3: of this.

1384
01:02:13,160 --> 01:02:16,720
Speaker 6: Story is don't be this mother, don't be this.

1385
01:02:16,720 --> 01:02:19,160
Speaker 3: Mother in law. Like, cut your mother in law's off, and.

1386
01:02:19,240 --> 01:02:22,520
Speaker 6: They're like this, boundaries and discussions need to be had

1387
01:02:22,560 --> 01:02:24,200
Speaker 6: here because this was intentional.

1388
01:02:24,320 --> 01:02:27,120
Speaker 1: This is an accidentally. Absolutely she took.

1389
01:02:26,960 --> 01:02:29,360
Speaker 6: It personally that you didn't let her literally have her

1390
01:02:29,560 --> 01:02:30,600
Speaker 6: entire way with your wedding.

1391
01:02:30,720 --> 01:02:32,320
Speaker 3: But that is the end of that story.

1392
01:02:32,440 --> 01:02:34,480
Speaker 6: It is. And we got another one coming right up

1393
01:02:34,560 --> 01:02:35,000
Speaker 6: right now.

1394
01:02:36,160 --> 01:02:38,520
Speaker 3: My sister in law posted a picture of my father

1395
01:02:38,640 --> 01:02:41,440
Speaker 3: in the ICU, then got upset when I.

1396
01:02:41,400 --> 01:02:43,720
Speaker 1: Told her to the lead it icee us in the chat.

1397
01:02:43,880 --> 01:02:46,400
Speaker 3: I've never made a post before, but this happened a

1398
01:02:46,440 --> 01:02:49,960
Speaker 3: while ago and has a long term ramplications on my family,

1399
01:02:50,080 --> 01:02:51,760
Speaker 3: and I want to know if it's really me who

1400
01:02:51,800 --> 01:02:54,520
Speaker 3: is the a hole in this situation. I, forty female,

1401
01:02:54,520 --> 01:02:57,160
Speaker 3: and my brother thirty two male, have not spoken in

1402
01:02:57,280 --> 01:03:00,520
Speaker 3: almost a year because of the situation, and our relationship

1403
01:03:00,520 --> 01:03:03,880
Speaker 3: has been strained even longer, mostly because of sister in law.

1404
01:03:03,960 --> 01:03:06,440
Speaker 3: By the way, this comes from Seaside Escape to on

1405
01:03:06,480 --> 01:03:09,480
Speaker 3: the Okay Storytime Separady. So, about eighteen months ago, my

1406
01:03:09,560 --> 01:03:12,040
Speaker 3: dad had a medical procedure that didn't go well and

1407
01:03:12,080 --> 01:03:14,160
Speaker 3: he ended up having a stroke and was in the

1408
01:03:14,400 --> 01:03:17,360
Speaker 3: ICU for a very long time. I was his guardian

1409
01:03:17,400 --> 01:03:19,320
Speaker 3: at the time, so I was in charge of making

1410
01:03:19,360 --> 01:03:22,800
Speaker 3: his medical and financial decisions. There were restrictions on how

1411
01:03:22,880 --> 01:03:24,960
Speaker 3: many people could be in the room at the same time,

1412
01:03:25,160 --> 01:03:27,240
Speaker 3: so I wasn't there when my bro and sister in

1413
01:03:27,280 --> 01:03:29,600
Speaker 3: law came to visit. They brought their daughter as well,

1414
01:03:29,680 --> 01:03:32,120
Speaker 3: and I found out the next morning when I checked

1415
01:03:32,120 --> 01:03:34,920
Speaker 3: Facebook that they had made a post asking for thoughts

1416
01:03:34,960 --> 01:03:38,000
Speaker 3: and prayers, which to me is cringe and not something

1417
01:03:38,000 --> 01:03:40,680
Speaker 3: I would ever do nor would my dad. But what

1418
01:03:40,720 --> 01:03:43,160
Speaker 3: got me upset was when I looked at her pictures

1419
01:03:43,200 --> 01:03:46,800
Speaker 3: and video and saw my dad with tubes, et cetera

1420
01:03:46,880 --> 01:03:50,160
Speaker 3: in his throat in the background. I was absolutely furious

1421
01:03:50,200 --> 01:03:52,240
Speaker 3: because I thought that was such a huge invasion of

1422
01:03:52,280 --> 01:03:55,120
Speaker 3: his privacy. My dad is not huge on social media

1423
01:03:55,200 --> 01:03:57,800
Speaker 3: and he does not post pictures of himself or talk

1424
01:03:57,800 --> 01:04:00,920
Speaker 3: about his personal life online. Like both my parents, they

1425
01:04:00,920 --> 01:04:03,040
Speaker 3: are lurkers and just like to look at the picks

1426
01:04:03,040 --> 01:04:05,840
Speaker 3: of family and friends and see what's happening in the community.

1427
01:04:05,960 --> 01:04:08,120
Speaker 3: Not only was it posted by sister in law and

1428
01:04:08,280 --> 01:04:11,160
Speaker 3: brother was tagged, but my sister in law's mom also

1429
01:04:11,240 --> 01:04:13,960
Speaker 3: shared it to her own profile for all her random

1430
01:04:14,000 --> 01:04:16,880
Speaker 3: friends to see. I immediately called my mom to see

1431
01:04:16,880 --> 01:04:19,800
Speaker 3: if I was justified in my feelings of absolute rage,

1432
01:04:19,920 --> 01:04:22,360
Speaker 3: and she would also know him the best since she

1433
01:04:22,480 --> 01:04:25,080
Speaker 3: is his ex and they also had similar online styles.

1434
01:04:25,280 --> 01:04:27,680
Speaker 3: She agreed and didn't think he would want that, and

1435
01:04:27,720 --> 01:04:30,200
Speaker 3: said she definitely wouldn't want a picture of her online

1436
01:04:30,280 --> 01:04:32,960
Speaker 3: like that, nor would she want everyone to know her business,

1437
01:04:33,080 --> 01:04:35,960
Speaker 3: and that she even needed a plea for prayers. So

1438
01:04:36,120 --> 01:04:38,320
Speaker 3: I texted my brother and told him that the post

1439
01:04:38,480 --> 01:04:40,520
Speaker 3: needed to come down. And that I didn't think it

1440
01:04:40,560 --> 01:04:42,720
Speaker 3: was appropriate and that he would not like that. My

1441
01:04:42,800 --> 01:04:45,120
Speaker 3: brother said, it's not like it's a big secret he

1442
01:04:45,200 --> 01:04:45,840
Speaker 3: had a stroke.

1443
01:04:46,040 --> 01:04:46,440
Speaker 1: Uh what?

1444
01:04:46,880 --> 01:04:49,520
Speaker 3: The only people who know need to know your whole

1445
01:04:49,560 --> 01:04:51,960
Speaker 3: friend group on Facebook and sister in law's mom's friend

1446
01:04:52,000 --> 01:04:55,080
Speaker 3: group does not need to anyway. While he didn't apparently

1447
01:04:55,120 --> 01:04:57,240
Speaker 3: agree with me, he said he would have taken it down.

1448
01:04:57,360 --> 01:05:00,160
Speaker 3: This is where things got bad. While texting my brother bother,

1449
01:05:00,320 --> 01:05:02,640
Speaker 3: my sister in law sends the longest text to me

1450
01:05:02,880 --> 01:05:05,560
Speaker 3: to tell me why I'm wrong. Basically, this is a

1451
01:05:05,560 --> 01:05:08,880
Speaker 3: common theme in our relationship dynamic. I text, call, I

1452
01:05:08,920 --> 01:05:10,919
Speaker 3: hang out with my brother, and sister in law makes

1453
01:05:10,960 --> 01:05:13,560
Speaker 3: sure to text or email me and tell me talking

1454
01:05:13,600 --> 01:05:15,760
Speaker 3: points to have with him. Why she can't let that

1455
01:05:15,840 --> 01:05:18,840
Speaker 3: man talk for himself is beyond me. Actually, I do know.

1456
01:05:19,120 --> 01:05:21,959
Speaker 3: He apparently can't handle his family, which is odd since

1457
01:05:21,960 --> 01:05:24,200
Speaker 3: we bend over backwards for them, since my mom and

1458
01:05:24,240 --> 01:05:27,160
Speaker 3: I are push over people pleasers. Working on it y'all, well,

1459
01:05:27,280 --> 01:05:29,280
Speaker 3: it seems like you are. You are taking the right

1460
01:05:29,320 --> 01:05:32,800
Speaker 3: steps saying hey, don't post that picture anyway. I'm apparently

1461
01:05:32,920 --> 01:05:35,120
Speaker 3: selfish and a bee for not letting them share a

1462
01:05:35,160 --> 01:05:37,800
Speaker 3: pick and video of their daughter singing to her papa.

1463
01:05:37,960 --> 01:05:40,840
Speaker 3: To me, this is just attention seeking behavior. No one

1464
01:05:40,880 --> 01:05:43,480
Speaker 3: needs to know what is going on in his personal life.

1465
01:05:43,560 --> 01:05:45,800
Speaker 3: If you want to share, feel free to call the

1466
01:05:45,800 --> 01:05:48,320
Speaker 3: relevant people who need to know, send the video and

1467
01:05:48,400 --> 01:05:50,680
Speaker 3: a text to your mom, et cetera. But to share

1468
01:05:50,680 --> 01:05:54,240
Speaker 3: a picture of someone in the ICU, incapacitated with tubes

1469
01:05:54,280 --> 01:05:56,840
Speaker 3: all over and unable to give consent just seems like

1470
01:05:56,960 --> 01:05:58,240
Speaker 3: weird a behavior to me.

1471
01:05:58,480 --> 01:06:00,880
Speaker 6: I think the behavior is that it's like, it's I

1472
01:06:00,920 --> 01:06:03,800
Speaker 6: want attention. It's making me look, my look, this person

1473
01:06:03,960 --> 01:06:08,479
Speaker 6: is somebody asking me if I'm okay about this exactly, like.

1474
01:06:08,600 --> 01:06:11,400
Speaker 3: It's like, oh, you're so sweet, like dance for your papa.

1475
01:06:12,160 --> 01:06:14,320
Speaker 3: I mean, what are we even talking about here? But

1476
01:06:14,400 --> 01:06:16,720
Speaker 3: this caused a huge fight, and my mom took my

1477
01:06:16,880 --> 01:06:19,680
Speaker 3: side in this, and ever since then we haven't spoken.

1478
01:06:19,800 --> 01:06:22,080
Speaker 3: My sister in law blocked me from Facebook. I can't

1479
01:06:22,120 --> 01:06:24,320
Speaker 3: even search her name, which I didn't even know was possible.

1480
01:06:24,400 --> 01:06:27,320
Speaker 3: She also had her sister mom and others do the same.

1481
01:06:27,400 --> 01:06:29,760
Speaker 3: It's fine because if I wanted to see your page

1482
01:06:29,760 --> 01:06:31,720
Speaker 3: and catch up on my niece, I have many ways

1483
01:06:31,720 --> 01:06:34,040
Speaker 3: to do so, though I never do it. Honestly, just

1484
01:06:34,160 --> 01:06:36,960
Speaker 3: hurts too much. Since this happened last year, I missed

1485
01:06:36,960 --> 01:06:40,320
Speaker 3: my niece's birthday and all the holidays. My brother never

1486
01:06:40,360 --> 01:06:43,400
Speaker 3: even texted me for my birthday. When my dad passed

1487
01:06:43,840 --> 01:06:46,520
Speaker 3: right before Christmas, he left us a little bit of money.

1488
01:06:46,560 --> 01:06:49,280
Speaker 3: There wasn't much left after in home care costs and

1489
01:06:49,320 --> 01:06:51,680
Speaker 3: getting him set up with a skilled nursing facility, but

1490
01:06:51,720 --> 01:06:53,479
Speaker 3: we had to meet in person to get this taken

1491
01:06:53,520 --> 01:06:55,560
Speaker 3: care of. I brought my brother a gift since this

1492
01:06:55,680 --> 01:06:58,280
Speaker 3: meeting landed on his actual birthday. The whole thing was

1493
01:06:58,320 --> 01:07:00,840
Speaker 3: weird since I hadn't seen him in so long, and

1494
01:07:01,040 --> 01:07:03,600
Speaker 3: especially without sister in law. I really wanted to talk

1495
01:07:03,640 --> 01:07:05,840
Speaker 3: to him and got the guts As we were leaving.

1496
01:07:05,920 --> 01:07:07,920
Speaker 3: He seemed to be trying to dip the f out

1497
01:07:07,920 --> 01:07:09,919
Speaker 3: of there, but I caught up with him and gave

1498
01:07:09,960 --> 01:07:12,720
Speaker 3: him his gift and said, I'd really love to talk sometime,

1499
01:07:12,920 --> 01:07:15,120
Speaker 3: and then I miss him and my niece. He said

1500
01:07:15,120 --> 01:07:17,080
Speaker 3: that is really hard for him because he feels he

1501
01:07:17,120 --> 01:07:19,440
Speaker 3: has to choose between his wife and sister, and he

1502
01:07:19,600 --> 01:07:21,480
Speaker 3: has to choose his wife. I said, I get it,

1503
01:07:21,560 --> 01:07:23,560
Speaker 3: but it just seems so silly to be fighting about this,

1504
01:07:23,760 --> 01:07:26,280
Speaker 3: and it's not what Dad would want, and Mom hates

1505
01:07:26,360 --> 01:07:30,280
Speaker 3: having to do two separate everythings, Holiday's, Mother's Day, et cetera,

1506
01:07:30,440 --> 01:07:32,600
Speaker 3: and it's really hard on her. He didn't seem to

1507
01:07:32,720 --> 01:07:34,840
Speaker 3: argue and said Mom was fine with it. She isn't

1508
01:07:34,920 --> 01:07:37,520
Speaker 3: and tells me quite often how it makes her physically

1509
01:07:37,560 --> 01:07:40,040
Speaker 3: ill that this all has happened. I offered to sit

1510
01:07:40,120 --> 01:07:42,640
Speaker 3: down with him and her or just her or all

1511
01:07:42,680 --> 01:07:44,880
Speaker 3: of us or whatever. I just wanted to talk and

1512
01:07:44,920 --> 01:07:47,920
Speaker 3: get this figured out. That was eleven months ago. Six

1513
01:07:47,960 --> 01:07:50,240
Speaker 3: months ago, I texted and said I missed him and

1514
01:07:50,280 --> 01:07:52,960
Speaker 3: said maybe we should get a drink sometime. No answer.

1515
01:07:53,080 --> 01:07:54,720
Speaker 3: My guess is she won't let him reach out to

1516
01:07:54,720 --> 01:07:56,760
Speaker 3: me because she rules the roost in that house and

1517
01:07:56,880 --> 01:08:00,400
Speaker 3: always has him not even texting me seems pretty odd.

1518
01:08:00,560 --> 01:08:02,360
Speaker 3: I have a lot of theories about what's going on,

1519
01:08:02,480 --> 01:08:04,320
Speaker 3: but I don't know. So am I the a hole

1520
01:08:04,320 --> 01:08:06,520
Speaker 3: for getting upset with my sister in law for posting

1521
01:08:06,520 --> 01:08:09,360
Speaker 3: a picture of my dad online after having a stroke

1522
01:08:09,520 --> 01:08:13,040
Speaker 3: and being incapacitated in the ICU, even though that decision

1523
01:08:13,080 --> 01:08:16,040
Speaker 3: apparently split the whole family up. By the way, we

1524
01:08:16,120 --> 01:08:18,240
Speaker 3: would never want to split you up. From us. So

1525
01:08:18,400 --> 01:08:22,080
Speaker 3: just join us live every weekday a three pmpst on YouTube, Facebook, TikTok,

1526
01:08:22,080 --> 01:08:23,799
Speaker 3: and Twitch. Just tap a profat.

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01:08:23,960 --> 01:08:25,960
Speaker 6: It just takes one tap. We might even be live

1528
01:08:26,080 --> 01:08:29,519
Speaker 6: right now, coach, and you should go check who knows.

1529
01:08:29,600 --> 01:08:31,040
Speaker 6: It is a little bit left to the story. But

1530
01:08:31,080 --> 01:08:34,479
Speaker 6: before we get into it, any final thoughts about this terrible,

1531
01:08:34,600 --> 01:08:38,360
Speaker 6: terrible sister in law and her kind of cowed husband.

1532
01:08:38,479 --> 01:08:40,360
Speaker 3: It feels like he's a little bit whimmed.

1533
01:08:40,520 --> 01:08:43,320
Speaker 6: It's hard when you get told happy wife, happy life,

1534
01:08:43,400 --> 01:08:47,240
Speaker 6: and your wife behaves like this. Yeah, so you.

1535
01:08:47,640 --> 01:08:49,639
Speaker 3: Gotta leave all of your family behind.

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01:08:49,960 --> 01:08:52,720
Speaker 6: Don't be taking pictures of people in the ICU while

1537
01:08:52,720 --> 01:08:56,720
Speaker 6: they're incapacitated to get attention. Yeah, it's like so such

1538
01:08:56,760 --> 01:09:01,080
Speaker 6: an unhuman thing to do. It's like a detic empathy,

1539
01:09:01,240 --> 01:09:01,599
Speaker 6: it is.

1540
01:09:01,680 --> 01:09:04,080
Speaker 3: It's also it's like when you know, you have big

1541
01:09:04,280 --> 01:09:08,200
Speaker 3: creators who go and take videos of like unhoused people

1542
01:09:08,360 --> 01:09:10,519
Speaker 3: and they're like, look, I'm doing such a good job,

1543
01:09:10,800 --> 01:09:13,080
Speaker 3: don't you think so? And it's like, okay, well we

1544
01:09:13,120 --> 01:09:14,760
Speaker 3: should maybe be a little bit more respectful.

1545
01:09:14,880 --> 01:09:17,519
Speaker 6: Yeah, maybe just like do that instead of like turning

1546
01:09:17,520 --> 01:09:18,479
Speaker 6: them into a prop.

1547
01:09:18,800 --> 01:09:22,839
Speaker 3: Yeah, they're no dancing monkey and neither is uh the stats,

1548
01:09:22,880 --> 01:09:23,400
Speaker 3: Well they are.

1549
01:09:23,360 --> 01:09:26,479
Speaker 6: For one hundred dollars. No, that's not good. Don't do that.

1550
01:09:26,800 --> 01:09:27,880
Speaker 1: We can't be doing bad.

1551
01:09:27,960 --> 01:09:29,080
Speaker 3: But there is more to the story.

1552
01:09:29,280 --> 01:09:29,439
Speaker 6: Edit.

1553
01:09:29,760 --> 01:09:32,120
Speaker 3: This wasn't a full on headshot of him or anything,

1554
01:09:32,200 --> 01:09:34,120
Speaker 3: but a pick slash video as well as a reel

1555
01:09:34,240 --> 01:09:36,760
Speaker 3: of their daughters singing to him sitting on his hospital bed.

1556
01:09:36,840 --> 01:09:38,200
Speaker 3: There was a shot or two of them in the

1557
01:09:38,240 --> 01:09:41,240
Speaker 3: background since he was barely seen, and they didn't think

1558
01:09:41,240 --> 01:09:41,960
Speaker 3: it was a big deal.

1559
01:09:42,080 --> 01:09:43,080
Speaker 6: And I definitely did.

1560
01:09:43,280 --> 01:09:45,479
Speaker 3: As I said in another comment, I was getting texts

1561
01:09:45,520 --> 01:09:48,960
Speaker 3: asking if he was passed away or dying after that post,

1562
01:09:49,080 --> 01:09:51,160
Speaker 3: and I thought I was just in very poor taste

1563
01:09:51,240 --> 01:09:53,480
Speaker 3: and not what he would have been okay with. Epeist

1564
01:09:53,560 --> 01:09:56,000
Speaker 3: forty two says what did op say to sister in

1565
01:09:56,080 --> 01:09:58,280
Speaker 3: law in conversation that led to break and sister in

1566
01:09:58,360 --> 01:10:00,840
Speaker 3: law blocking Opee and her brother and iaw contacting her.

1567
01:10:01,000 --> 01:10:03,679
Speaker 3: Did Ope call sister in law or her daughter age

1568
01:10:03,840 --> 01:10:06,240
Speaker 3: an attention seeker or worse? Or is that just how

1569
01:10:06,280 --> 01:10:08,479
Speaker 3: Opie refers to them here? What did Opie say to

1570
01:10:08,560 --> 01:10:11,640
Speaker 3: lead to being blocked from one conversation? And Opie responds,

1571
01:10:11,760 --> 01:10:14,080
Speaker 3: I mean while I and people I know wouldn't want

1572
01:10:14,120 --> 01:10:16,360
Speaker 3: to be pictured ill like that. In ICU, it sounds

1573
01:10:16,360 --> 01:10:18,040
Speaker 3: like it was a video of niece with the father

1574
01:10:18,120 --> 01:10:21,560
Speaker 3: in the background and her own brother before any interaction

1575
01:10:21,680 --> 01:10:23,840
Speaker 3: with his wife. The sister in law didn't see it

1576
01:10:23,880 --> 01:10:26,120
Speaker 3: as a big deal. Sister in law was wrong, but

1577
01:10:26,160 --> 01:10:28,760
Speaker 3: her husband, Opie's brother, clearly had no problem with it.

1578
01:10:28,800 --> 01:10:30,800
Speaker 3: And if Opie wants to say sister in law is

1579
01:10:30,840 --> 01:10:33,519
Speaker 3: a sociopath who blocked her for no reason, okay, But

1580
01:10:33,600 --> 01:10:36,040
Speaker 3: I have to ask what exactly did Opie say to

1581
01:10:36,120 --> 01:10:38,640
Speaker 3: sister in law and did she Insultanie also or if

1582
01:10:38,680 --> 01:10:42,240
Speaker 3: Opie can't remember, maybe it was really bad. Opie says no,

1583
01:10:42,560 --> 01:10:45,799
Speaker 3: I never called sister in law or anyone attention seeking,

1584
01:10:45,920 --> 01:10:48,639
Speaker 3: and especially never said anything about my niece. When sister

1585
01:10:48,680 --> 01:10:51,280
Speaker 3: in law butted into my brother and I's conversation with

1586
01:10:51,360 --> 01:10:54,160
Speaker 3: a very lengthy text, I asked why she was speaking

1587
01:10:54,200 --> 01:10:56,040
Speaker 3: to me that way and why my brother could not

1588
01:10:56,320 --> 01:10:58,920
Speaker 3: talk to me himself, and I firmly said it's not

1589
01:10:59,000 --> 01:11:01,200
Speaker 3: what he would have wanted, and thought it was disrespectful.

1590
01:11:01,240 --> 01:11:03,120
Speaker 3: I was getting text from people asking if he had

1591
01:11:03,120 --> 01:11:06,000
Speaker 3: passed away or was passing away, and just wanted his

1592
01:11:06,040 --> 01:11:08,360
Speaker 3: wishes respected. She said to not speak to her like

1593
01:11:08,400 --> 01:11:10,519
Speaker 3: a child, and she didn't see anything wrong with that,

1594
01:11:10,640 --> 01:11:12,400
Speaker 3: And hundreds of other people do it online.

1595
01:11:12,520 --> 01:11:14,559
Speaker 1: Yes, so that makes you a child.

1596
01:11:14,840 --> 01:11:17,800
Speaker 3: Hundreds of other people do a lot of things every day,

1597
01:11:18,120 --> 01:11:19,479
Speaker 3: and some of those things are illegal.

1598
01:11:19,600 --> 01:11:21,920
Speaker 6: But don't speak to me like that because I don't

1599
01:11:22,080 --> 01:11:24,800
Speaker 6: like being told when my actions are not acceptable.

1600
01:11:24,920 --> 01:11:27,040
Speaker 3: I said it wasn't about her, and it was about

1601
01:11:27,120 --> 01:11:29,879
Speaker 3: him and what he would want. I was called immature

1602
01:11:30,000 --> 01:11:32,040
Speaker 3: and childish, et cetera. I don't know. It was a

1603
01:11:32,040 --> 01:11:34,160
Speaker 3: bit of a crap show. I always just kept the

1604
01:11:34,200 --> 01:11:37,120
Speaker 3: peace and never had a backbone in any past family situation.

1605
01:11:37,400 --> 01:11:39,760
Speaker 3: This was the first time they probably heard me talk

1606
01:11:39,840 --> 01:11:42,240
Speaker 3: like this. But I was so angry for my dad

1607
01:11:42,320 --> 01:11:45,680
Speaker 3: and finally had enough. Wow, And that is the end

1608
01:11:45,680 --> 01:11:48,400
Speaker 3: of that story. It is I'm proud of op for

1609
01:11:48,439 --> 01:11:49,840
Speaker 3: standing up for herself and her dad.

1610
01:11:49,960 --> 01:11:53,040
Speaker 6: Yeah, as am I, because I think that is the

1611
01:11:53,160 --> 01:11:56,720
Speaker 6: right move unless dad is Unless dad has like a

1612
01:11:56,920 --> 01:12:01,879
Speaker 6: hundred videos of himself doing TikTok dances like that's another story.

1613
01:12:02,040 --> 01:12:04,920
Speaker 6: But like, but no, it's crazy for them to be.

1614
01:12:05,160 --> 01:12:07,280
Speaker 6: First of all, that comment where it was like, did

1615
01:12:07,280 --> 01:12:11,040
Speaker 6: you call them attention seeking. Newsflash, buddy, that's what that was.

1616
01:12:11,160 --> 01:12:14,000
Speaker 3: They literally were like, when we're being attention seeking, every

1617
01:12:14,080 --> 01:12:17,400
Speaker 3: single thing that is posted on social media is posted

1618
01:12:17,600 --> 01:12:18,679
Speaker 3: to get attention.

1619
01:12:18,920 --> 01:12:21,040
Speaker 1: Yes, like, and that doesn't necessarily mean.

1620
01:12:20,960 --> 01:12:24,559
Speaker 6: Everything is bad, but it's like no one posts something

1621
01:12:24,600 --> 01:12:27,960
Speaker 6: because they're like, I want no one to see this

1622
01:12:28,640 --> 01:12:30,960
Speaker 6: for me exactly. Like that's I don't know. So it

1623
01:12:31,360 --> 01:12:35,360
Speaker 6: definitely feels like she kind of she turned her father

1624
01:12:35,479 --> 01:12:39,360
Speaker 6: in laws stay in the ICU into a commodity for

1625
01:12:39,479 --> 01:12:42,840
Speaker 6: her to gain social credit exaccurrency exactly so to speak.

1626
01:12:42,960 --> 01:12:44,800
Speaker 3: Yes, but that is the end of that story and

1627
01:12:44,920 --> 01:12:47,519
Speaker 3: this episode. So if you love us, make sure to

1628
01:12:47,560 --> 01:12:51,080
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