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Speaker 1: talked to George Burge about pressure to get a second

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Speaker 1: sore losers, Amy Brown? There's a lot, but I will

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Speaker 1: tell you this. In the Vets Office with Doctor Josie

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Speaker 1: is back. Season two kicked off celebrity hair colorist Justin Anderson,

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Speaker 1: who you may know him from Arry Cavaliery. They had

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Speaker 1: a crazy conversation about a dog owner who wanted to

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Speaker 1: get their dog neuticles, which are implants like not getting neutered,

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Speaker 1: and then put fake ones in. God heard that was

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Speaker 1: the thing, but I didn't think it was real. So

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Speaker 1: in the Vets Office, if you like this, there's also

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Speaker 1: so much great information about animals, like go check it

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Speaker 1: out in the Vets Office with Doctor Josie.

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Speaker 2: But here's the clip.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, you're listening to In the Vets Office with Doctor

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Speaker 3: Josie Horchak.

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Speaker 4: We can ask you questions.

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Speaker 3: I'm not that smart about dogs, but like, why do

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Speaker 3: you have to neuter male dogs so they can't get

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Speaker 5: Yes, a, we don't want to be I don't want

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Speaker 5: to be a grandparent just yet. And then b they

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Speaker 5: a lot of like behavioral issues like getting into fights, marking,

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Speaker 5: and then really the big thing is they get prostatic

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Speaker 5: disease if they're not neutered, and certain kinds of cancer.

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Speaker 5: So that's like that's the big one.

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Speaker 4: Okay, Yeah.

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Speaker 5: The downside to it is they can get like they're

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Speaker 5: more likely to get fat. Oh really, because they don't

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Speaker 4: And so wait, so if they take the walls out,

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Speaker 4: they're likely to get fat.

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Speaker 5: You're more likely to put on weight. Oh, but I'd

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Speaker 4: Kevin's getting chunky. He's getting chunky right now. He's getting big,

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Speaker 4: but I love him bigger. Well, that's another question that

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Speaker 4: I want to ask you.

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Speaker 3: You have to really monitor their weight, right, especially when

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Speaker 3: they're smaller dogs.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, it's I mean, any dog, it's important. And that

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Speaker 4: He's four years old. It's like human.

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Speaker 5: Years, very classic. All you're twenty eight.

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Speaker 4: I gen't wait till he's in his thirties.

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Speaker 5: It's really classic that once they're neutered and then they

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Speaker 5: to pack on the LB's okay, their metabolis exactly.

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Speaker 5: we got to like get you on weight watching.

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Speaker 4: Okay, So then that's where he's at.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, because we took him recently to our vet and

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Speaker 4: I love when he's like bigger, but it's not healthy

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Speaker 4: God, it daily, Yeah it is.

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Speaker 7: You can spiral.

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Speaker 3: He's going to be stuffed for sure and next to

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Speaker 3: my bed for the rest.

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Speaker 4: Yeah doubt no, like for real, he's gonna be right there.

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Speaker 4: And then sometimes I have morbid thoughts.

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Speaker 3: I'm like, we just we all just go and Julia.

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Speaker 7: As your vet.

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Speaker 5: And then I've had a pet pass away and I

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Speaker 4: Oh my god, I do it.

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Speaker 4: No, humans are bad deal too.

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Speaker 5: I have clients all the time say to me when

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Speaker 4: Not being there, Oh my god, it's ot sound right now.

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Speaker 5: Like the NAD stuff.

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Speaker 5: And we already know our dogs are living a lot

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Speaker 4: Because of diet and stuff.

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Speaker 5: So when I first came out of practice, I lived

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Speaker 4: Got Boystound is fun the best. It's the best gay

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Speaker 5: to double dog dads. Oh there's nothing better.

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Speaker 3: I totally understand why our dogs lived the life. It's

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Speaker 5: Have you always have you had pets growing up? Have

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Speaker 3: But as we got older, I love like little dogs,

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Speaker 3: I need like a little bit of girth on their body,

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Speaker 4: You know, I'm a real like.

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Speaker 3: Cuddler, Like I like hold them tight and stuff, but

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Speaker 4: Sometimes they say, I read this thing the other day

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Speaker 3: But they're saying, like a study came out that said

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Speaker 4: Feels unsafe to them, right, Sure, they feel trapped.

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Speaker 3: So from a young because I like read all this stuff,

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Speaker 12: And so that's been something I've.

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Speaker 11: it'll tell you like in this industry, like you're going

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Speaker 11: I had a blessed life before this stuff took off,

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Speaker 11: And I'm just trying to have fun while I'm in

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Speaker 12: Yeah, saving and reinvesting.

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Speaker 12: And I've been really lucky.

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Speaker 12: But you never know when that turns off, and.

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Speaker 12: It's what I would be doing if it wasn't my job.

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Speaker 11: But I'm Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday, and usually I'll get up,

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Speaker 12: It's just like going fishing. You know, you wet a

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Speaker 11: Most days you don't catch anything, and you catch something small,

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Speaker 12: And that's kind of what we do.

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Speaker 11: Monday through Wednesday we go fishing for a hit song,

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Speaker 2: Cass up road.

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Speaker 13: Little food for Yourself life.

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Speaker 4: Oh it's pretty bad.

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Speaker 13: Hey, it's pretty beautiful, beautiful, laugh a little more exciting

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Speaker 8: So most of us are glued to our phones for

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Speaker 8: It just made me laugh, like I was about to

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Speaker 8: But she's so funny and this clip reminds me how

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Speaker 9: I had done to lose all this weight, But I

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Speaker 2: It costs a lot.

445
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Speaker 7: Of money, and it takes a lot of time, Like

446
00:17:15,760 --> 00:17:18,479
Speaker 7: it's really time consuming. But if you look it up,

447
00:17:18,520 --> 00:17:19,440
Speaker 7: it's called a divorce.

448
00:17:20,240 --> 00:17:20,520
Speaker 2: Okay.

449
00:17:20,520 --> 00:17:23,560
Speaker 8: So while I did find that to be funny and relatable,

450
00:17:24,359 --> 00:17:28,360
Speaker 8: the reminder in the humor here is that you never

451
00:17:28,440 --> 00:17:31,239
Speaker 8: know what someone has going on in their life. So

452
00:17:31,280 --> 00:17:34,320
Speaker 8: that's why we don't ask her comment about people's bodies.

453
00:17:34,560 --> 00:17:37,200
Speaker 8: And while Deney didn't really seem to care that someone

454
00:17:37,280 --> 00:17:41,000
Speaker 8: was asking about how she slimmed down and lost weight,

455
00:17:41,680 --> 00:17:45,280
Speaker 8: she made a joke about it. And others may laugh

456
00:17:45,320 --> 00:17:47,840
Speaker 8: and joke about it too, but deep down they may

457
00:17:47,880 --> 00:17:50,080
Speaker 8: not be able to handle it because the reason for

458
00:17:50,119 --> 00:17:53,679
Speaker 8: the weight loss or even weight gain or whatever it

459
00:17:53,720 --> 00:17:58,040
Speaker 8: is might be because of something sad, something hard, stressful, you know.

460
00:17:58,800 --> 00:18:01,480
Speaker 8: So just wanted to rode that little reminder in there

461
00:18:01,600 --> 00:18:03,560
Speaker 8: and also give you a little chuckle in case you

462
00:18:03,600 --> 00:18:05,920
Speaker 8: needed it. Or maybe you're going through something hard like

463
00:18:05,960 --> 00:18:09,680
Speaker 8: a divorce and you're like, oh huh, okay, you're not alone.

464
00:18:09,800 --> 00:18:13,480
Speaker 8: But back to our phone problem, I have a mini

465
00:18:13,640 --> 00:18:19,480
Speaker 8: challenge for you for us, a phone free hour each day,

466
00:18:20,240 --> 00:18:23,320
Speaker 8: just one hour where you put the phone aside and

467
00:18:23,800 --> 00:18:29,040
Speaker 8: really experience life distraction free, Like you could choose any

468
00:18:29,080 --> 00:18:31,840
Speaker 8: hour to do it, maybe while while working out, or

469
00:18:31,880 --> 00:18:34,359
Speaker 8: reading a book or going for a walk. It's a

470
00:18:34,359 --> 00:18:37,800
Speaker 8: small change, but I think the results will end up

471
00:18:37,840 --> 00:18:42,200
Speaker 8: being pretty big. Like without a screen just stealing our attention,

472
00:18:43,119 --> 00:18:47,720
Speaker 8: we're more present, engaged, and honestly, when I put my

473
00:18:47,760 --> 00:18:51,040
Speaker 8: phone away just feels refreshing. I mean, this is like

474
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Speaker 8: a mini digital detox that we can do together. It's

475
00:18:54,680 --> 00:18:59,359
Speaker 8: not some extreme thing required here. It's just a small,

476
00:18:59,400 --> 00:19:04,360
Speaker 8: realistic situation which coming up in the second thing, we're

477
00:19:04,359 --> 00:19:06,919
Speaker 8: going to talk about the power of small winds, and

478
00:19:06,960 --> 00:19:09,240
Speaker 8: that's sort of what this little hour a day will

479
00:19:09,240 --> 00:19:12,080
Speaker 8: be a little small wind that will add up and

480
00:19:12,160 --> 00:19:15,000
Speaker 8: be pretty powerful. And one way to go about this

481
00:19:15,080 --> 00:19:19,879
Speaker 8: challenge maybe would be to create a phone free zone

482
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Speaker 8: of sorts, like your bed. Maybe if you just don't

483
00:19:22,800 --> 00:19:24,679
Speaker 8: allow yourself to have your phone in your bed, then

484
00:19:24,720 --> 00:19:28,520
Speaker 8: that'll give you back some time, because studies showed that

485
00:19:28,680 --> 00:19:33,360
Speaker 8: when we leave the screens out of the bedroom, our

486
00:19:33,440 --> 00:19:37,240
Speaker 8: brains get the memo it's time to rest. I was

487
00:19:37,359 --> 00:19:40,480
Speaker 8: just talking about this with my daughter doing her homework

488
00:19:40,520 --> 00:19:43,280
Speaker 8: in her bed with her computer, I'm like, no, let's

489
00:19:43,320 --> 00:19:47,480
Speaker 8: go downstairs to either the island, the kitchen table, the

490
00:19:47,520 --> 00:19:49,359
Speaker 8: dining room table. Let's sit at a table and do

491
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Speaker 8: our homework or at a desk, because when we work

492
00:19:52,520 --> 00:19:56,080
Speaker 8: in our bed then our brain gets confused as to

493
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Speaker 8: what is happening, and we want our brain to get

494
00:19:59,680 --> 00:20:03,240
Speaker 8: the me to rest when we're in our beds. Hey,

495
00:20:03,320 --> 00:20:05,679
Speaker 8: I'm guilty of having my computer and my phone in

496
00:20:05,720 --> 00:20:07,480
Speaker 8: my beds. So I got to practice.

497
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Speaker 7: What I preach.

498
00:20:08,040 --> 00:20:10,480
Speaker 8: But lately, I feel like, because of the amount of

499
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Speaker 8: homework even happening in our home, even when we're around

500
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Speaker 8: the table and we're eating dinner, we've got our phones

501
00:20:16,000 --> 00:20:18,679
Speaker 8: and our computers out just to get everything done. And

502
00:20:18,720 --> 00:20:21,200
Speaker 8: I have my computer out during their homework because honestly,

503
00:20:21,280 --> 00:20:23,000
Speaker 8: I have to google how to help them with certain

504
00:20:23,040 --> 00:20:25,919
Speaker 8: things like math. But today I sort of I've just

505
00:20:25,960 --> 00:20:29,040
Speaker 8: had enough, and I'm like, I want real connection. I

506
00:20:29,080 --> 00:20:30,960
Speaker 8: want to sit down, I want to have dinner. I

507
00:20:30,960 --> 00:20:36,080
Speaker 8: want to be no phones. So that's something that I

508
00:20:36,119 --> 00:20:39,399
Speaker 8: decided to do today. Hopefully I can maybe do it

509
00:20:39,440 --> 00:20:41,960
Speaker 8: again tomorrow. And I'm being realistic it's not going to

510
00:20:42,000 --> 00:20:46,320
Speaker 8: happen every day at dinner. Honestly, junior high high school days,

511
00:20:46,680 --> 00:20:50,360
Speaker 8: like multiple kids, there aren't enough hours in the night

512
00:20:50,480 --> 00:20:53,040
Speaker 8: with all they have going on. But we got to

513
00:20:53,080 --> 00:20:56,400
Speaker 8: make sure we're intentional about that real time, that real

514
00:20:56,440 --> 00:20:59,440
Speaker 8: connection with our kids. And maybe it's not kids, maybe

515
00:20:59,440 --> 00:21:01,920
Speaker 8: it's your part or maybe your roommates, whatever it looks

516
00:21:02,000 --> 00:21:06,240
Speaker 8: like for you just when you're around the table, maybe

517
00:21:06,280 --> 00:21:11,280
Speaker 8: that's a no phone zone, your bed, no phone zone.

518
00:21:11,440 --> 00:21:14,640
Speaker 8: And again not every single night. And then maybe your

519
00:21:14,680 --> 00:21:17,920
Speaker 8: hour doesn't have to be consecutive. It could be a

520
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Speaker 8: thirty minute phone free situation and then later on thirty

521
00:21:21,520 --> 00:21:25,000
Speaker 8: or you do fifteen fifteen, fifteen fifteen, and that'll give

522
00:21:25,000 --> 00:21:29,600
Speaker 8: you your hour. Let's just start with that hour every day.

523
00:21:30,400 --> 00:21:33,040
Speaker 8: And I think taking a dedicated hour away from our

524
00:21:33,080 --> 00:21:35,080
Speaker 8: devices is going to allow us to just be present

525
00:21:35,119 --> 00:21:39,119
Speaker 8: and in the moment, which can for one, help with

526
00:21:39,160 --> 00:21:42,239
Speaker 8: the connection and our relationships. For two, that improves our

527
00:21:42,280 --> 00:21:46,879
Speaker 8: overall well being. For three, it can reduce anxiety and

528
00:21:46,920 --> 00:21:51,000
Speaker 8: then also four lead to mental clarity. There are four

529
00:21:51,040 --> 00:21:52,120
Speaker 8: benefits in this.

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Speaker 7: I also just.

531
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Speaker 8: Love the idea of connecting more with ourselves. Maybe not

532
00:21:56,480 --> 00:21:59,760
Speaker 8: even just others, but having that quiet time to re

533
00:22:00,080 --> 00:22:03,960
Speaker 8: set and recharge and find balance, because for me, I

534
00:22:04,000 --> 00:22:08,000
Speaker 8: feel constantly on and I need to be intentional about

535
00:22:08,000 --> 00:22:11,119
Speaker 8: taking time to reset. But sometimes I'm resetting with a

536
00:22:11,160 --> 00:22:14,800
Speaker 8: meditation and I'm using my phone to guide me on

537
00:22:14,880 --> 00:22:19,000
Speaker 8: a meditation, and that won't fit into the hour free

538
00:22:19,000 --> 00:22:21,480
Speaker 8: phone How am I going to say this the phone

539
00:22:21,520 --> 00:22:25,399
Speaker 8: free hour challenge? I'm gonna have to like be phone

540
00:22:25,440 --> 00:22:28,000
Speaker 8: free to meditate if I want to. I mean, I

541
00:22:28,000 --> 00:22:30,240
Speaker 8: can still do my walking meditation. I just have to

542
00:22:30,280 --> 00:22:33,720
Speaker 8: find another time to maybe walk without my phone or

543
00:22:33,720 --> 00:22:35,440
Speaker 8: do something else one hour day.

544
00:22:35,480 --> 00:22:35,880
Speaker 2: That's it.

545
00:22:36,160 --> 00:22:40,879
Speaker 8: Little by little, we're gonna be making more space for

546
00:22:41,080 --> 00:22:53,560
Speaker 8: real life.

547
00:22:55,560 --> 00:22:56,639
Speaker 14: We're gonna do it live.

548
00:22:57,560 --> 00:23:03,000
Speaker 3: We are the one, two, three sore losers.

549
00:23:03,119 --> 00:23:04,800
Speaker 2: What up, everybody? I am lunchbox.

550
00:23:04,880 --> 00:23:06,520
Speaker 15: I know the most about sports, so I'll give you

551
00:23:06,520 --> 00:23:10,359
Speaker 15: the sports facts, my sports opinions, because I'm pretty much

552
00:23:10,400 --> 00:23:12,280
Speaker 15: a sports genius, y'all.

553
00:23:12,280 --> 00:23:12,879
Speaker 2: It's Sison.

554
00:23:13,080 --> 00:23:14,920
Speaker 14: I'm from the North. I'm an alpha male. I live

555
00:23:14,960 --> 00:23:17,280
Speaker 14: on the North side of Nashville with Baser, my wife.

556
00:23:17,359 --> 00:23:19,800
Speaker 14: We do have a farm. It's beautiful, a lot of acreage,

557
00:23:20,000 --> 00:23:25,879
Speaker 14: no animals, a lot of crops. Hopefully soon corn pumpkins rye.

558
00:23:25,960 --> 00:23:30,080
Speaker 14: I believe maybe a little fescue to be determined.

559
00:23:31,160 --> 00:23:34,119
Speaker 15: Over to you, coach, And here's a clip from this

560
00:23:34,160 --> 00:23:40,040
Speaker 15: week's episode of The Sore Losers speaking out man. Yesterday

561
00:23:40,119 --> 00:23:42,960
Speaker 15: last night, we had we delivered dinner to a family.

562
00:23:44,000 --> 00:23:45,600
Speaker 15: The mom had surgery.

563
00:23:45,920 --> 00:23:46,919
Speaker 4: Whole man.

564
00:23:48,840 --> 00:23:50,560
Speaker 15: Wow, that fans loud, isn't it?

565
00:23:51,040 --> 00:23:51,679
Speaker 2: But that's okay?

566
00:23:52,240 --> 00:23:53,320
Speaker 15: Well why are you clapping?

567
00:23:54,280 --> 00:23:54,680
Speaker 14: Awesome?

568
00:23:57,040 --> 00:23:57,919
Speaker 2: What is awesome?

569
00:23:57,920 --> 00:23:58,840
Speaker 4: That's cool? You did that?

570
00:23:59,160 --> 00:24:01,919
Speaker 15: Oh yeah, yeah. Anyway, so we're friends with you know,

571
00:24:01,960 --> 00:24:03,720
Speaker 15: the couple of the kids are friends, and so we

572
00:24:03,840 --> 00:24:07,159
Speaker 15: took dinner over and we the kids play for a

573
00:24:07,200 --> 00:24:08,840
Speaker 15: little bit and then we're like, all right, well we're

574
00:24:08,880 --> 00:24:10,800
Speaker 15: gonna go. You know, I know you're not feeling well.

575
00:24:11,080 --> 00:24:13,639
Speaker 15: And the dad looks exhausted. Dude, he's been at this

576
00:24:13,680 --> 00:24:16,080
Speaker 15: for like five days because the mom is, you know,

577
00:24:16,200 --> 00:24:19,000
Speaker 15: laid up, and he just looks so tired. He wants

578
00:24:19,040 --> 00:24:20,280
Speaker 15: to just get to bed. We're like, we got to

579
00:24:20,280 --> 00:24:20,800
Speaker 15: get out of here.

580
00:24:21,119 --> 00:24:23,520
Speaker 14: I got to do my shirt again. I'm sweating.

581
00:24:23,600 --> 00:24:24,200
Speaker 2: I know it's hot.

582
00:24:24,359 --> 00:24:26,480
Speaker 15: I was gonna say that fan was making a big difference,

583
00:24:26,480 --> 00:24:29,080
Speaker 15: but it's not making that big of a difference. Unless

584
00:24:29,119 --> 00:24:31,200
Speaker 15: I angle myself this way and that computer screen is

585
00:24:31,280 --> 00:24:33,080
Speaker 15: not blocking it, then I can feel it a little bit.

586
00:24:33,480 --> 00:24:35,760
Speaker 14: I'm doing the same cape that Lunch posted the picture

587
00:24:35,760 --> 00:24:36,360
Speaker 14: of yesterday.

588
00:24:36,440 --> 00:24:41,120
Speaker 15: Yeah, on Wednesday. If we get in the we get

589
00:24:41,119 --> 00:24:43,159
Speaker 15: in the car, we're getting everybody buckling in, all right,

590
00:24:43,160 --> 00:24:45,600
Speaker 15: We're ready to go. And we're in their driveway and

591
00:24:45,640 --> 00:24:49,440
Speaker 15: I turned the car on and there's a lady standing

592
00:24:49,480 --> 00:24:53,879
Speaker 15: on the sidewalk right behind the car and she's just

593
00:24:53,920 --> 00:24:58,160
Speaker 15: standing there. I'm looking in the review rear view mirror

594
00:24:58,200 --> 00:24:59,959
Speaker 15: and the car's on. She has to see the car light.

595
00:25:00,000 --> 00:25:01,479
Speaker 14: It's right, hey, sweet tits.

596
00:25:02,600 --> 00:25:05,440
Speaker 15: And I mean two minutes, still standing there.

597
00:25:07,920 --> 00:25:09,320
Speaker 2: And the kid, dad, let's go.

598
00:25:09,400 --> 00:25:11,840
Speaker 15: And I'm like, there's someone you know standing back there,

599
00:25:12,840 --> 00:25:15,040
Speaker 15: and I'm like, I know she sees the lights, like

600
00:25:15,080 --> 00:25:19,320
Speaker 15: the red light and the tail lights are on. Three

601
00:25:19,359 --> 00:25:22,080
Speaker 15: minutes go by, and I finally, all right, maybe she

602
00:25:22,160 --> 00:25:23,840
Speaker 15: doesn't see me, so I'll put it in reverse so

603
00:25:23,880 --> 00:25:24,840
Speaker 15: she has to see me.

604
00:25:25,359 --> 00:25:27,800
Speaker 4: Whoa right, give her a blink.

605
00:25:28,880 --> 00:25:34,600
Speaker 15: So I put it in reverse and she's just standing

606
00:25:34,600 --> 00:25:37,840
Speaker 15: there with her dog in the very middle, right in

607
00:25:37,880 --> 00:25:40,960
Speaker 15: the middle, right behind the car. We are trying to

608
00:25:40,960 --> 00:25:43,280
Speaker 15: back out of this person's driveway, and we can't.

609
00:25:43,320 --> 00:25:43,960
Speaker 4: We are stuck.

610
00:25:44,320 --> 00:25:47,040
Speaker 15: There's nowhere to go. And she's just standing there and

611
00:25:47,080 --> 00:25:49,200
Speaker 15: the dogs just kind of squatted there, and the lady's

612
00:25:49,240 --> 00:25:51,680
Speaker 15: just standing there with the leash, not trying to move

613
00:25:51,680 --> 00:25:53,760
Speaker 15: the dog, not trying to do anything, just hanging out.

614
00:25:53,800 --> 00:25:55,080
Speaker 4: Hey, tit's on a stick.

615
00:25:56,720 --> 00:25:58,840
Speaker 15: And I'm like, what is she doing?

616
00:25:59,480 --> 00:26:03,200
Speaker 14: Influence sir? I mean, what descriptions of this last She's

617
00:26:03,240 --> 00:26:04,080
Speaker 14: eighty or twenty.

618
00:26:04,480 --> 00:26:05,800
Speaker 2: She's probably.

619
00:26:07,280 --> 00:26:12,960
Speaker 15: Forty eight, hot, brown hair, short, petite lady ray, very

620
00:26:13,040 --> 00:26:16,600
Speaker 15: nice shelf. Dog was kind of big, like a labradoodle.

621
00:26:17,480 --> 00:26:18,160
Speaker 15: Is that what they're called?

622
00:26:18,280 --> 00:26:21,160
Speaker 14: Is she wearing the ass leisure that everybody wears now?

623
00:26:21,400 --> 00:26:21,800
Speaker 2: Oh yeah.

624
00:26:21,840 --> 00:26:24,560
Speaker 15: She was wearing like a nice soft, like a light

625
00:26:24,640 --> 00:26:28,800
Speaker 15: pullover and some probably yoga pants, blacked yoga pants, and

626
00:26:28,800 --> 00:26:30,040
Speaker 15: it was a purple top.

627
00:26:30,200 --> 00:26:32,280
Speaker 14: Say less for the truckers.

628
00:26:33,200 --> 00:26:35,240
Speaker 2: She had some.

629
00:26:35,280 --> 00:26:38,840
Speaker 15: White, whitish gray tennis shoes on. That's what she was wearing.

630
00:26:38,880 --> 00:26:42,080
Speaker 15: The dog was a golden doodle. It was kind of

631
00:26:42,080 --> 00:26:45,440
Speaker 15: grayish for the truckers.

632
00:26:45,520 --> 00:26:46,240
Speaker 14: Was she tanned?

633
00:26:47,400 --> 00:26:47,520
Speaker 7: No?

634
00:26:47,560 --> 00:26:49,560
Speaker 15: I couldn't really tell. She had long sleeves on like

635
00:26:49,600 --> 00:26:54,120
Speaker 15: she and so finally I put it back in park

636
00:26:54,160 --> 00:26:57,440
Speaker 15: after five minutes of sitting there, and I get out

637
00:26:57,440 --> 00:26:58,960
Speaker 15: of the car and I kind of stick my head

638
00:26:59,000 --> 00:27:04,520
Speaker 15: around and that's when I see the problem. The dog's constipated.

639
00:27:06,119 --> 00:27:09,679
Speaker 15: The lady has a bag on her hand, and the

640
00:27:09,760 --> 00:27:12,959
Speaker 15: dog has half a poop out its butt and it

641
00:27:13,000 --> 00:27:15,520
Speaker 15: can't come out and it won't move. So she is

642
00:27:15,560 --> 00:27:18,960
Speaker 15: down there trying to physically with the hand in the bag,

643
00:27:19,280 --> 00:27:21,680
Speaker 15: rip the poop out of the butt.

644
00:27:21,840 --> 00:27:23,440
Speaker 14: You can't fault her for not moving.

645
00:27:23,720 --> 00:27:27,280
Speaker 15: I didn't know. She was so like concerned with her

646
00:27:27,280 --> 00:27:30,800
Speaker 15: dog and paying attention to her dog that she probably

647
00:27:30,800 --> 00:27:32,800
Speaker 15: didn't notice the vehicle. She couldn't She was trying to

648
00:27:32,960 --> 00:27:35,000
Speaker 15: She couldn't move the dog because it was already in

649
00:27:35,000 --> 00:27:38,040
Speaker 15: this like poop position, but that poop, and she had

650
00:27:38,040 --> 00:27:39,080
Speaker 15: that bag on there.

651
00:27:39,280 --> 00:27:42,760
Speaker 10: Hey mam, you gotta bear down. This is what I

652
00:27:42,840 --> 00:27:44,080
Speaker 10: do in the bathroom.

653
00:27:44,200 --> 00:27:47,080
Speaker 15: And she looks at me and she goes, oh, I'm sorry,

654
00:27:47,200 --> 00:27:49,520
Speaker 15: you know, are you lunch bots? I know you're trying

655
00:27:49,560 --> 00:27:51,520
Speaker 15: to move. She goes, my dog's having problems getting this

656
00:27:51,560 --> 00:27:52,040
Speaker 15: poop out.

657
00:27:52,400 --> 00:27:53,200
Speaker 2: How how's it going?

658
00:27:53,280 --> 00:27:55,040
Speaker 14: I'm a lunch And she's like, I'm trying to move him.

659
00:27:55,040 --> 00:27:55,399
Speaker 4: Out of the way.

660
00:27:55,400 --> 00:27:57,199
Speaker 15: I'm trying to move him out of the way. I'm like,

661
00:27:57,200 --> 00:27:58,760
Speaker 15: all right, so I get back in the car. I'm like,

662
00:27:58,800 --> 00:28:00,080
Speaker 15: get dad, what's going on?

663
00:28:00,240 --> 00:28:02,800
Speaker 10: Have you considered massaging the groin area?

664
00:28:03,320 --> 00:28:03,600
Speaker 4: Dad?

665
00:28:03,640 --> 00:28:04,639
Speaker 2: Why isn't she moving?

666
00:28:04,760 --> 00:28:06,960
Speaker 15: Dad? Can we go down? I'm like, Oh, the dog's

667
00:28:06,960 --> 00:28:07,560
Speaker 15: taking a poop.

668
00:28:07,600 --> 00:28:08,160
Speaker 2: Can I see?

669
00:28:08,200 --> 00:28:09,040
Speaker 15: Can I see?

670
00:28:09,480 --> 00:28:10,119
Speaker 13: No, guys?

671
00:28:11,280 --> 00:28:14,440
Speaker 15: And then I put it in reverse again to just

672
00:28:14,520 --> 00:28:16,159
Speaker 15: kind of watch on the camera because I'm like, I

673
00:28:16,160 --> 00:28:16,920
Speaker 15: want to see the action.

674
00:28:17,119 --> 00:28:20,120
Speaker 14: Well did she address at all why the car cannot

675
00:28:20,119 --> 00:28:20,560
Speaker 14: back out?

676
00:28:20,600 --> 00:28:23,520
Speaker 15: Well, she said the dog won't move. She said, I'm sorry.

677
00:28:23,560 --> 00:28:25,919
Speaker 15: I tried to move. I said, okay, and.

678
00:28:26,160 --> 00:28:29,320
Speaker 10: Well, let me get your number roll. I don't know why,

679
00:28:29,400 --> 00:28:32,240
Speaker 10: but i'd put it back in reverse. I could watch

680
00:28:32,240 --> 00:28:35,840
Speaker 10: on the camera eight because I might. I mean, I

681
00:28:35,920 --> 00:28:36,920
Speaker 10: might as well see the action.

682
00:28:37,880 --> 00:28:40,600
Speaker 15: And after eight minutes and thirty seconds of sitting in

683
00:28:40,640 --> 00:28:48,240
Speaker 15: the driveway, the poop was removed. She used her hand

684
00:28:48,600 --> 00:28:51,560
Speaker 15: in that bag to kind of yank that poop out

685
00:28:51,560 --> 00:28:53,520
Speaker 15: of there, and the dog moved out of the way.

686
00:28:53,640 --> 00:28:55,880
Speaker 14: Dude, that is patience for you to actually get out,

687
00:28:56,000 --> 00:28:57,240
Speaker 14: not to do the horn.

688
00:28:57,680 --> 00:28:58,560
Speaker 2: The horn.

689
00:29:00,400 --> 00:29:03,120
Speaker 14: That actually was you being the bigger person that deserves

690
00:29:03,120 --> 00:29:03,840
Speaker 14: a round of applause.

691
00:29:04,760 --> 00:29:05,600
Speaker 4: So that was a big night.

692
00:29:05,680 --> 00:29:05,800
Speaker 13: Man.

693
00:29:05,840 --> 00:29:08,680
Speaker 15: We delivered dinner, we watched a lady deliver a poop

694
00:29:08,680 --> 00:29:11,120
Speaker 15: out of the butt. I mean, it was an incredible

695
00:29:11,400 --> 00:29:26,640
Speaker 15: evening for me.

696
00:29:32,880 --> 00:29:36,840
Speaker 16: I have always really loved to talk about attachment theory,

697
00:29:36,880 --> 00:29:40,120
Speaker 16: so I'm really excited not only because this amazing person

698
00:29:40,160 --> 00:29:42,240
Speaker 16: that's joining us is an expert in this field, but

699
00:29:42,240 --> 00:29:45,640
Speaker 16: also because we share the same name. It's doctor Morgan Anderson,

700
00:29:45,720 --> 00:29:49,040
Speaker 16: and she's a psychologist and attachment theory expert.

701
00:29:49,160 --> 00:29:49,960
Speaker 2: Morgan, how are you.

702
00:29:50,680 --> 00:29:53,280
Speaker 6: I am doing great. Thank you so much for having me.

703
00:29:53,360 --> 00:29:55,440
Speaker 6: And yes, I love that we have the same name.

704
00:29:55,480 --> 00:29:56,040
Speaker 2: It's awesome.

705
00:29:56,200 --> 00:29:59,280
Speaker 16: It's interesting that you mentioned that because I look at

706
00:29:59,520 --> 00:30:02,479
Speaker 16: myself in my early twenties when I was dating and

707
00:30:02,720 --> 00:30:06,400
Speaker 16: I as an anxiously attached person. I was always finding

708
00:30:06,440 --> 00:30:11,000
Speaker 16: myself in situationships or in relationships with avoidance or disorganized

709
00:30:11,200 --> 00:30:14,120
Speaker 16: or men who knew how to bread crumb or gaslight.

710
00:30:14,280 --> 00:30:17,320
Speaker 16: And as I evolved as a human being and like

711
00:30:17,520 --> 00:30:20,200
Speaker 16: really recognize I hated the way that I felt, and

712
00:30:20,240 --> 00:30:22,240
Speaker 16: I hated the way that I was being treated and

713
00:30:22,320 --> 00:30:24,840
Speaker 16: started to grow and to become who I am now

714
00:30:25,160 --> 00:30:29,160
Speaker 16: in Morgan, who's thirty one. I cannot be bothered if

715
00:30:29,200 --> 00:30:32,320
Speaker 16: somebody even gives me a hint of a breadcrumb or

716
00:30:32,640 --> 00:30:35,360
Speaker 16: in the direction of being an avoidant, I'm like, oh, yeap,

717
00:30:35,520 --> 00:30:37,760
Speaker 16: bread stop sign, I'm out. I'm getting out of the car.

718
00:30:37,880 --> 00:30:39,480
Speaker 16: You can continue on, but it's not going to be

719
00:30:39,520 --> 00:30:42,800
Speaker 16: with me. It's interesting just watching the evolution of myself

720
00:30:42,800 --> 00:30:45,520
Speaker 16: having figured that out. So I want that for other

721
00:30:45,560 --> 00:30:48,080
Speaker 16: people if they've found themselves in one of these other

722
00:30:48,200 --> 00:30:51,520
Speaker 16: three in trying to find themselves to a secure attachment.

723
00:30:51,840 --> 00:30:54,840
Speaker 6: Ooh, let's talk about this. This is good, this is juicy.

724
00:30:55,320 --> 00:30:59,080
Speaker 6: So when you're showing up with insecure attachment style like

725
00:30:59,120 --> 00:31:02,120
Speaker 6: you were talking about, also myself in my twenties as well,

726
00:31:02,640 --> 00:31:08,040
Speaker 6: your brain your attachment system. You are attracted to emotionally

727
00:31:08,080 --> 00:31:13,320
Speaker 6: unavailable partners, that is your emotional home. Those partners fit

728
00:31:13,400 --> 00:31:17,920
Speaker 6: the model of what your brain knows is true about relationships,

729
00:31:18,280 --> 00:31:21,840
Speaker 6: so you are definitely attracted to those people. And of

730
00:31:21,960 --> 00:31:27,000
Speaker 6: course avoidantly attached people are attracted to anxiously attach people

731
00:31:27,480 --> 00:31:31,240
Speaker 6: as well because it also fits their emotional home. It's

732
00:31:31,280 --> 00:31:37,280
Speaker 6: this perfect storm of that magnetic attraction. And this is

733
00:31:37,280 --> 00:31:39,200
Speaker 6: why it can be so hard to break out of it,

734
00:31:39,280 --> 00:31:42,080
Speaker 6: and the only way to break out of it is

735
00:31:42,120 --> 00:31:44,640
Speaker 6: to not get an avoidantly attached person.

736
00:31:44,400 --> 00:31:44,880
Speaker 13: To love you.

737
00:31:45,280 --> 00:31:48,120
Speaker 6: Like spoiler alert for everyone out there. That's not how

738
00:31:48,120 --> 00:31:51,600
Speaker 6: you break out of it. It's to change internally and

739
00:31:51,680 --> 00:31:54,320
Speaker 6: to do the work on yourself so that you become

740
00:31:54,400 --> 00:31:58,320
Speaker 6: securely attached and now you are attracted to a different

741
00:31:58,360 --> 00:31:59,120
Speaker 6: type of partner.

742
00:31:59,200 --> 00:32:02,080
Speaker 16: It's really hard because even as someone who is a

743
00:32:02,200 --> 00:32:06,400
Speaker 16: secure attachment now and in the dating field currently, there

744
00:32:06,520 --> 00:32:10,120
Speaker 16: is an overwhelming amount of people who are avoidant and

745
00:32:10,160 --> 00:32:11,800
Speaker 16: who are emotionally unavailable.

746
00:32:11,960 --> 00:32:13,320
Speaker 7: I don't know if that's.

747
00:32:13,240 --> 00:32:16,280
Speaker 16: Just we're moralware that that's who they are, or if

748
00:32:16,280 --> 00:32:19,080
Speaker 16: we're just in a very specific timeframe where this is happening.

749
00:32:19,080 --> 00:32:20,720
Speaker 7: I don't, you know, I don't know the science behind

750
00:32:20,760 --> 00:32:21,120
Speaker 7: any of that.

751
00:32:21,240 --> 00:32:25,560
Speaker 16: But from personal experience, even being a secure attachment, they're

752
00:32:25,600 --> 00:32:28,640
Speaker 16: still finding me, They're still coming. Yes, the only thing

753
00:32:28,680 --> 00:32:30,960
Speaker 16: that has changed is that I can now see it

754
00:32:31,080 --> 00:32:31,800
Speaker 16: for what it is.

755
00:32:32,280 --> 00:32:34,760
Speaker 6: The Ye're no longer attracted to it, so you're not

756
00:32:34,880 --> 00:32:38,360
Speaker 6: playing into it, So you're ending those connections so much

757
00:32:38,400 --> 00:32:41,479
Speaker 6: more quickly than you would have in the past. And

758
00:32:41,560 --> 00:32:43,719
Speaker 6: I'll give you some of the research on this. So

759
00:32:44,160 --> 00:32:46,760
Speaker 6: number one is that you're not wrong that there are

760
00:32:46,760 --> 00:32:50,360
Speaker 6: more avoidantly attached people in the dating pool because they

761
00:32:50,400 --> 00:32:54,640
Speaker 6: find themselves in and out of relationships more frequently, right,

762
00:32:54,800 --> 00:32:57,240
Speaker 6: So they're in a relationship and then they're back in

763
00:32:57,280 --> 00:33:00,600
Speaker 6: the dating pool. So yes, there are, for poor punately,

764
00:33:00,800 --> 00:33:04,280
Speaker 6: more people who have avoidant attachment who are in the

765
00:33:04,360 --> 00:33:07,360
Speaker 6: dating pool. And then the other stat that is somewhat

766
00:33:07,680 --> 00:33:13,280
Speaker 6: terrifying to me is that avoidant attachment is the quickest

767
00:33:13,600 --> 00:33:18,480
Speaker 6: growing attachment style, So we have more people becoming avoidantly

768
00:33:18,520 --> 00:33:20,880
Speaker 6: attached than any other attachment style.

769
00:33:21,120 --> 00:33:23,480
Speaker 16: Oh gosh, that makes me so sad because it's already

770
00:33:23,560 --> 00:33:24,720
Speaker 16: rough out here in these streets.

771
00:33:24,800 --> 00:33:26,840
Speaker 2: Okay, we don't need to make it work.

772
00:33:27,120 --> 00:33:29,120
Speaker 6: There is hope. I want to get to the hopeful part.

773
00:33:29,160 --> 00:33:30,720
Speaker 6: But let's we could talk about this more.

774
00:33:31,720 --> 00:33:31,880
Speaker 9: Well.

775
00:33:31,920 --> 00:33:34,360
Speaker 16: It's funny, you know, my friends will often look at

776
00:33:34,360 --> 00:33:36,520
Speaker 16: me because of the relationships that I've been in there like,

777
00:33:36,560 --> 00:33:40,040
Speaker 16: I'm always surprised that you haven't become an avoidant based

778
00:33:40,080 --> 00:33:44,040
Speaker 16: on your experiences, And I think once you've had enough

779
00:33:44,160 --> 00:33:48,160
Speaker 16: experiences on the other side of an avoidant, you never

780
00:33:48,280 --> 00:33:50,960
Speaker 16: want to be that way. Your hope is to never

781
00:33:51,080 --> 00:33:54,480
Speaker 16: show up to another person like that because of how

782
00:33:54,520 --> 00:33:57,440
Speaker 16: painful it is to be on that receiving end. And

783
00:33:57,840 --> 00:34:00,240
Speaker 16: it doesn't mean that anybody's at fault for being those

784
00:34:00,280 --> 00:34:01,960
Speaker 16: types of things. We're all human, we of have to

785
00:34:01,960 --> 00:34:05,320
Speaker 16: go through life experiences. But once you've felt that, and

786
00:34:05,320 --> 00:34:07,200
Speaker 16: once you've been on the other side, or been the

787
00:34:07,240 --> 00:34:10,680
Speaker 16: anxiously attached or the avoidant whatever, you know how much

788
00:34:10,719 --> 00:34:14,279
Speaker 16: pain is caused from that. And there's no benefit from

789
00:34:14,320 --> 00:34:17,720
Speaker 16: me switching attachments from secure to avoidant just simply because

790
00:34:17,719 --> 00:34:18,399
Speaker 16: I've been hurt.

791
00:34:18,640 --> 00:34:23,400
Speaker 6: What's really fascinating is that both the anxious attachment and

792
00:34:23,600 --> 00:34:29,319
Speaker 6: avoidant attachment, they actually are emotionally unavailable. They're both emotionally unavailable,

793
00:34:29,520 --> 00:34:32,160
Speaker 6: which I know is kind of mind blowing. Avoidantly attached

794
00:34:32,160 --> 00:34:36,400
Speaker 6: people are emotionally unavailable to their partners. Anxiously attached people

795
00:34:36,480 --> 00:35:01,319
Speaker 6: are emotionally unavailable to themselves.

796
00:35:01,840 --> 00:35:03,640
Speaker 4: She's a queen and talking and.

797
00:35:06,320 --> 00:35:09,239
Speaker 3: She's getting really not afraid to feel as episode, and so.

798
00:35:09,680 --> 00:35:12,520
Speaker 4: Just let it flow. No one can do we quiet

799
00:35:13,280 --> 00:35:14,480
Speaker 4: carey lone.

800
00:35:15,719 --> 00:35:20,560
Speaker 9: It's sounding care lone, But I think about life like this,

801
00:35:20,920 --> 00:35:23,239
Speaker 9: like in one hundred and fifty years, we're all gonna

802
00:35:23,239 --> 00:35:25,720
Speaker 9: be dead. Nobody's gonna remember any of us. It doesn't

803
00:35:25,800 --> 00:35:28,359
Speaker 9: matter anything that we do. But it does, do you

804
00:35:28,360 --> 00:35:31,840
Speaker 9: know what I mean? Like people never like remember anything

805
00:35:33,400 --> 00:35:36,000
Speaker 9: other than how you make them feel. That's it. So

806
00:35:36,560 --> 00:35:40,160
Speaker 9: I think my mind set is, like I do want

807
00:35:40,200 --> 00:35:43,200
Speaker 9: to make a difference. Like obviously I want to be

808
00:35:44,040 --> 00:35:47,000
Speaker 9: at a point in my career that I don't have

809
00:35:47,040 --> 00:35:49,279
Speaker 9: to beg to go on tour with somebody. Oh I

810
00:35:49,320 --> 00:35:52,480
Speaker 9: don't have to like get an email and them say, oh,

811
00:35:52,520 --> 00:35:54,600
Speaker 9: well it's a buy on. I'm like, no, I'm not

812
00:35:54,600 --> 00:35:56,320
Speaker 9: getting in debt, like I want to go on to

813
00:35:56,400 --> 00:35:59,000
Speaker 9: it because you want me there, or like I can

814
00:35:59,080 --> 00:36:02,840
Speaker 9: do a headline to and out. I've got that in

815
00:36:02,880 --> 00:36:05,680
Speaker 9: the UK, but I'm trying to get that here. And

816
00:36:05,719 --> 00:36:09,120
Speaker 9: I think, like I want to be successful. I am successful,

817
00:36:09,760 --> 00:36:12,080
Speaker 9: Yes you are successful, but I would like to be

818
00:36:12,120 --> 00:36:16,080
Speaker 9: even more successful because I am a connection person. I'm

819
00:36:16,120 --> 00:36:19,040
Speaker 9: like very emotional. I feel my feelings. I know what

820
00:36:19,080 --> 00:36:22,520
Speaker 9: it feels like to be alone, and I want my

821
00:36:22,600 --> 00:36:26,480
Speaker 9: songs to reach as many people as possible just to

822
00:36:26,600 --> 00:36:28,520
Speaker 9: I want to be I want to be of service

823
00:36:28,680 --> 00:36:31,440
Speaker 9: to people. I want to be of service because I

824
00:36:31,440 --> 00:36:35,000
Speaker 9: think that's my gift in this life and purpose. So

825
00:36:35,520 --> 00:36:40,080
Speaker 9: I think whatever desire is planted in your heart, like

826
00:36:40,200 --> 00:36:42,960
Speaker 9: on a timeline somewhere, you've already got it. So I

827
00:36:42,960 --> 00:36:44,880
Speaker 9: think you have to become it before you are it.

828
00:36:45,360 --> 00:36:49,360
Speaker 9: And now that I'm in like a different energetic space,

829
00:36:49,760 --> 00:36:53,640
Speaker 9: things seem to be I think I was just like chasing,

830
00:36:53,840 --> 00:36:57,359
Speaker 9: chasing after people like hey, I am talented, Hey can

831
00:36:57,400 --> 00:37:00,320
Speaker 9: I'll play that show? I like, you know, and I'm like, no,

832
00:37:00,880 --> 00:37:06,560
Speaker 9: I don't need to, Like I'm really not interested in

833
00:37:06,640 --> 00:37:12,279
Speaker 9: the whole fickle like, oh now we'll now now you're cool,

834
00:37:12,560 --> 00:37:14,560
Speaker 9: you know, now now that you've proved yourself and you've

835
00:37:14,560 --> 00:37:16,719
Speaker 9: done all the work, now we'll have a meeting with

836
00:37:16,800 --> 00:37:19,719
Speaker 9: you or take you on. I'm like, I'm just not

837
00:37:19,880 --> 00:37:22,799
Speaker 9: that way. I've never been that way. I've got I've

838
00:37:22,800 --> 00:37:25,120
Speaker 9: had friends since I've been like, you know, the same

839
00:37:25,160 --> 00:37:28,560
Speaker 9: friends since four years old. Like the people that I love,

840
00:37:29,120 --> 00:37:32,279
Speaker 9: I will literally do anything for them, and I try

841
00:37:32,320 --> 00:37:34,279
Speaker 9: and show up for people because I feel like your

842
00:37:34,320 --> 00:37:38,360
Speaker 9: word is important. I'm generally always late, which is a

843
00:37:38,440 --> 00:37:40,879
Speaker 9: thing I'm working on, but I do show up.

844
00:37:41,000 --> 00:37:42,960
Speaker 7: I show up, and I just love the.

845
00:37:42,960 --> 00:37:45,040
Speaker 9: People that have shown up for me in this town

846
00:37:45,080 --> 00:37:47,960
Speaker 9: and they had no need to that. I didn't have

847
00:37:48,040 --> 00:37:52,040
Speaker 9: anything going on. And what's cool is like all these

848
00:37:52,080 --> 00:37:54,520
Speaker 9: little moments like I just played the Country Music Hall

849
00:37:54,560 --> 00:37:58,400
Speaker 9: of Fame and the Opry ways another like milestone and

850
00:37:58,440 --> 00:38:01,279
Speaker 9: I've only been here a year and a half. That's

851
00:38:01,360 --> 00:38:05,440
Speaker 9: it and fast I'm trying to but it's because of

852
00:38:05,480 --> 00:38:07,399
Speaker 9: them as well, and it's like nice that I get

853
00:38:07,440 --> 00:38:09,839
Speaker 9: to share that with them. That's what I want. That's

854
00:38:09,880 --> 00:38:12,920
Speaker 9: what makes it for me that I get to share

855
00:38:13,200 --> 00:38:15,480
Speaker 9: that sort of stuff. And also on like a personal

856
00:38:15,640 --> 00:38:18,399
Speaker 9: level now at a point where I'm like, I want

857
00:38:18,440 --> 00:38:20,120
Speaker 9: to share my life with someone. I want to build

858
00:38:20,120 --> 00:38:22,600
Speaker 9: a life with someone and for them to bear witness

859
00:38:22,680 --> 00:38:25,840
Speaker 9: to it, because after time I spend on my phone

860
00:38:26,120 --> 00:38:29,759
Speaker 9: alone editing to get like I don't know, two hundred

861
00:38:29,840 --> 00:38:33,120
Speaker 9: fewds or people. You know, I'm like, gosh, it's hilarious,

862
00:38:33,400 --> 00:38:37,120
Speaker 9: Like consistency is everything twenty just like let's go keep on.

863
00:38:38,239 --> 00:38:40,160
Speaker 6: I freaking love you.

864
00:38:40,160 --> 00:38:43,480
Speaker 7: You are speaking like the inside of my mind.

865
00:38:43,560 --> 00:38:45,720
Speaker 9: You know, if I do ever quit the music industry,

866
00:38:45,760 --> 00:38:48,239
Speaker 9: I'm going to start a podcast and like be like

867
00:38:48,360 --> 00:38:52,359
Speaker 9: the Bridgeton of Nashville, and I'm just gonna like I'm

868
00:38:52,400 --> 00:38:55,799
Speaker 9: going to tell I'm just gonna expose everyone. No, I'm joking, no,

869
00:38:55,880 --> 00:38:59,040
Speaker 9: but I really I started this nonprofit called ie Woman

870
00:38:59,080 --> 00:39:02,279
Speaker 9: because I was absolutely horrified of how many women were

871
00:39:02,320 --> 00:39:05,720
Speaker 9: not on the radio. I was like, this, this doesn't

872
00:39:05,719 --> 00:39:07,800
Speaker 9: happen in the UKID it's like best song wins.

873
00:39:08,160 --> 00:39:10,200
Speaker 5: Really yeah, it doesn't matter how cool you are, what

874
00:39:10,239 --> 00:39:10,920
Speaker 5: politics you have.

875
00:39:11,880 --> 00:39:14,839
Speaker 9: I mean there's politics everywhere, but I feel like I'm

876
00:39:14,880 --> 00:39:18,799
Speaker 9: also in this town that it is a bit that's

877
00:39:18,840 --> 00:39:22,080
Speaker 9: been difficult to navigate, Like I don't understand the system.

878
00:39:22,160 --> 00:39:25,279
Speaker 9: The politics don't make sense. And also there's so many

879
00:39:25,320 --> 00:39:29,040
Speaker 9: amazing female artists that why are they not on the radio.

880
00:39:29,360 --> 00:39:32,399
Speaker 9: And it's like, oh they people don't want to listen

881
00:39:32,480 --> 00:39:35,359
Speaker 9: to female artists. I'm like, yeah they do. And the

882
00:39:35,360 --> 00:39:38,920
Speaker 9: most can I just say, the most international artists of

883
00:39:39,040 --> 00:39:43,399
Speaker 9: all time are females Shanaya, Dolly, those who I grew

884
00:39:43,520 --> 00:39:46,640
Speaker 9: up with from the UK, Like, oh globally do you

885
00:39:46,719 --> 00:39:49,480
Speaker 9: know what I mean? So I don't know. I'm like

886
00:39:49,520 --> 00:39:54,400
Speaker 9: a very girl's girl and just don't don't get it.

887
00:39:54,440 --> 00:39:57,120
Speaker 9: But I'm not gonna like I'm not complaining about it.

888
00:39:57,160 --> 00:39:59,200
Speaker 9: I'm just like it is one of them things that

889
00:39:59,239 --> 00:40:01,680
Speaker 9: you're just like, all right, I just got to find

890
00:40:01,719 --> 00:40:04,879
Speaker 9: a new another way in, you know, a new way in.

891
00:40:05,040 --> 00:40:07,600
Speaker 7: What's your method?

892
00:40:07,640 --> 00:40:09,560
Speaker 9: Just be so good that they can't ignore me.

893
00:40:11,320 --> 00:40:12,160
Speaker 2: I think it's happening.

894
00:40:13,239 --> 00:40:15,239
Speaker 9: No, I just want to be myself and I want

895
00:40:15,280 --> 00:40:19,200
Speaker 9: people like you know, I am not like Elanie Wilson.

896
00:40:19,680 --> 00:40:21,720
Speaker 9: I mean, I love that girl, She's one of my friends,

897
00:40:21,719 --> 00:40:26,319
Speaker 9: but I'm not like I do veer on the more

898
00:40:26,520 --> 00:40:28,920
Speaker 9: poppier side of things because I love to dance. So

899
00:40:28,960 --> 00:40:33,760
Speaker 9: it's more like in the Land of Shanaia Megan trya

900
00:40:34,120 --> 00:40:38,719
Speaker 9: Miley like. I think my write in is very country

901
00:40:39,000 --> 00:40:42,279
Speaker 9: esque of like storytelling, but I like to sprinkle it

902
00:40:42,320 --> 00:40:45,240
Speaker 9: with a bit of you know, pop. But to be honest,

903
00:40:45,400 --> 00:40:48,719
Speaker 9: like country now is just like pop music. That's what

904
00:40:48,760 --> 00:40:53,040
Speaker 9: pop means, popular culture, and it is. It's like massive

905
00:40:53,239 --> 00:40:57,560
Speaker 9: in Europe, and I just I just find it's funny

906
00:40:57,680 --> 00:41:02,520
Speaker 9: sometimes that people will give you any excuse to say no.

907
00:41:04,040 --> 00:41:08,760
Speaker 9: And obviously I'm British, I'm not from here. I'm doing

908
00:41:08,840 --> 00:41:12,520
Speaker 9: country creature prop music. It's like there is a way

909
00:41:12,760 --> 00:41:15,560
Speaker 9: that a mold that you have to fit and I don't.

910
00:41:16,400 --> 00:41:20,320
Speaker 9: But then I'm like you know, Jelly's story is really

911
00:41:20,360 --> 00:41:24,280
Speaker 9: inspiring and Haidie like, they get played on rock radio

912
00:41:24,360 --> 00:41:27,919
Speaker 9: as well. I don't here anybody saying I mean, they're

913
00:41:27,920 --> 00:41:30,239
Speaker 9: already successful, so I guess you can do what you

914
00:41:30,239 --> 00:41:31,479
Speaker 9: want when you get to that level.

915
00:41:31,680 --> 00:41:33,920
Speaker 7: That's like, but they came out with rock influences.

916
00:41:33,920 --> 00:41:34,640
Speaker 5: They didn't hide it.

917
00:41:34,920 --> 00:41:35,360
Speaker 2: Yeah they were.

918
00:41:36,280 --> 00:41:39,360
Speaker 9: I'm not trying to hide it, and I'm never you know,

919
00:41:39,480 --> 00:41:41,480
Speaker 9: it's up to the listener at the end of the day,

920
00:41:41,640 --> 00:41:42,400
Speaker 9: just let the song do.

921
00:41:42,520 --> 00:41:45,719
Speaker 2: That's talking. Hey, it's Mike d And this week on

922
00:41:45,880 --> 00:41:48,360
Speaker 2: Movie Mike's Movie Podcast, my wife Kelsey and I shared

923
00:41:48,400 --> 00:41:51,040
Speaker 2: our best and worst for the month of October. All

924
00:41:51,160 --> 00:41:53,640
Speaker 2: things we watched in theaters are streaming at home, and

925
00:41:53,680 --> 00:41:55,359
Speaker 2: we let you know whether or not these movies are

926
00:41:55,360 --> 00:41:57,800
Speaker 2: worth your time and money or if you should skip

927
00:41:57,840 --> 00:41:59,640
Speaker 2: them all together. So here's just a little bit of

928
00:41:59,680 --> 00:42:01,719
Speaker 2: our Be sure to check out the full episode of

929
00:42:01,760 --> 00:42:04,640
Speaker 2: Movie Mike's Movie Podcast and hit me up on socials

930
00:42:04,680 --> 00:42:07,440
Speaker 2: at Mike Dstro. That's d E S t r O.

931
00:42:09,280 --> 00:42:11,239
Speaker 2: All right, we'll get into our movies of the month

932
00:42:11,280 --> 00:42:13,759
Speaker 2: now for October. You kick us off best movie you

933
00:42:13,800 --> 00:42:16,120
Speaker 2: saw in October in your opinion.

934
00:42:15,960 --> 00:42:18,359
Speaker 7: So easy, We live in time, the sad one.

935
00:42:18,719 --> 00:42:21,239
Speaker 2: Yeah, you were waiting to be sad, And I think

936
00:42:21,280 --> 00:42:23,520
Speaker 2: I felt a little bit different about this movie because

937
00:42:23,600 --> 00:42:25,840
Speaker 2: everybody was saying, how sad it is going to be.

938
00:42:26,320 --> 00:42:29,240
Speaker 2: Just based on the trailer, you can tell that Florence

939
00:42:29,280 --> 00:42:31,759
Speaker 2: Pugh is gonna get cancer. You see her, they sit

940
00:42:31,800 --> 00:42:35,239
Speaker 2: down at the doctor's office. She has hair cut to

941
00:42:35,280 --> 00:42:37,239
Speaker 2: a scene and she has no hair, shaved head. I

942
00:42:37,239 --> 00:42:39,520
Speaker 2: love that she committed to the shaved head. She commits

943
00:42:39,880 --> 00:42:42,800
Speaker 2: because whenever you didn't see Furriosa with me, right.

944
00:42:43,120 --> 00:42:44,160
Speaker 7: Yeah, I saw in my family.

945
00:42:44,680 --> 00:42:46,799
Speaker 2: We saw all the same time, different theaters. The thing

946
00:42:46,800 --> 00:42:48,800
Speaker 2: that I annoyed me about that movie is Anya Taylor

947
00:42:48,880 --> 00:42:50,840
Speaker 2: Joy did not shave her head. She wore like a

948
00:42:50,880 --> 00:42:54,160
Speaker 2: shaved head wig and it was so distracting to me.

949
00:42:54,480 --> 00:42:56,239
Speaker 2: And I feel like that also took her out of

950
00:42:56,239 --> 00:42:58,680
Speaker 2: that role because if you're not fully committing to it,

951
00:42:59,560 --> 00:43:01,480
Speaker 2: I don't bel leave you. And if I don't believe you,

952
00:43:01,520 --> 00:43:03,959
Speaker 2: I'm not gonna enjoy the movie. But Florence Pew straight

953
00:43:04,040 --> 00:43:04,960
Speaker 2: up shaved a head for real.

954
00:43:05,280 --> 00:43:07,160
Speaker 7: To be fair, I was looking forward to being Sad

955
00:43:07,200 --> 00:43:10,120
Speaker 7: because it did come out on the weekend that it

956
00:43:10,160 --> 00:43:12,319
Speaker 7: is the anniversary of when my dad passed away when

957
00:43:12,320 --> 00:43:13,920
Speaker 7: I was younger, so I feel like I needed a

958
00:43:13,960 --> 00:43:16,880
Speaker 7: cathartic release. I actually couldn't cry as much as I

959
00:43:16,960 --> 00:43:18,160
Speaker 7: needed to. It was disappointing.

960
00:43:18,200 --> 00:43:19,080
Speaker 2: Did you cry at all?

961
00:43:19,239 --> 00:43:23,240
Speaker 7: I teared up, but the tears didn't necessarily like free flow.

962
00:43:23,440 --> 00:43:24,920
Speaker 7: The girl across the aisle from us.

963
00:43:24,960 --> 00:43:26,799
Speaker 2: Yeah, there were people falling there.

964
00:43:26,600 --> 00:43:28,000
Speaker 7: And then in the bathroom she was like, I don't

965
00:43:28,000 --> 00:43:30,160
Speaker 7: know how everyone else is crying.

966
00:43:29,960 --> 00:43:31,640
Speaker 2: And I think it's because I knew that it was

967
00:43:31,680 --> 00:43:33,759
Speaker 2: going to be said that I had this maybe this

968
00:43:33,920 --> 00:43:36,280
Speaker 2: guard up a little bit that I knew what to expect.

969
00:43:36,640 --> 00:43:38,839
Speaker 7: It was also done in such a way that like

970
00:43:39,040 --> 00:43:40,920
Speaker 7: it was very just like beautiful.

971
00:43:41,200 --> 00:43:43,239
Speaker 2: I love the way this movie was done. And I

972
00:43:43,320 --> 00:43:46,160
Speaker 2: told you afterwards that I almost felt bad even giving

973
00:43:46,160 --> 00:43:48,600
Speaker 2: it a grade because it just felt like one of

974
00:43:48,600 --> 00:43:51,879
Speaker 2: those movies that was essential to life. It didn't feel like, oh,

975
00:43:51,920 --> 00:43:54,160
Speaker 2: here's the beginning of this movie, here's the middle part

976
00:43:54,200 --> 00:43:56,080
Speaker 2: of this movie. It just flowed like life, like you

977
00:43:56,120 --> 00:43:59,399
Speaker 2: were getting a peek into these characters, just overwhelmingly sad

978
00:43:59,440 --> 00:44:02,560
Speaker 2: situation of her dealing with cancer, her trying to find

979
00:44:02,560 --> 00:44:05,440
Speaker 2: her purpose in life. They have a daughter, and all

980
00:44:05,520 --> 00:44:07,960
Speaker 2: the things that they wanted to accomplish in life kind

981
00:44:08,000 --> 00:44:11,640
Speaker 2: of get put on hold. It is just a complex story,

982
00:44:12,120 --> 00:44:14,480
Speaker 2: taking like what otherwise would just be this really just

983
00:44:14,560 --> 00:44:17,279
Speaker 2: small slice of life story and making it feel so

984
00:44:17,320 --> 00:44:19,279
Speaker 2: much bigger and larger. And I think that's because you

985
00:44:19,320 --> 00:44:23,160
Speaker 2: have Florence Pew and Andrew Garfield together who have amazing chemistry.

986
00:44:23,560 --> 00:44:26,760
Speaker 7: They really do. I'm gonna give it five stars.

987
00:44:26,680 --> 00:44:30,440
Speaker 2: Five stars. Wow, I'd probably I'd probably go on the

988
00:44:30,480 --> 00:44:32,560
Speaker 2: four point five out of five because I feel like

989
00:44:32,600 --> 00:44:35,760
Speaker 2: it's there's nothing that I would change about the movie.

990
00:44:35,840 --> 00:44:38,120
Speaker 2: I love the way how of course it's called We

991
00:44:38,160 --> 00:44:40,480
Speaker 2: Live in Time. It would hop around in different timelines,

992
00:44:40,480 --> 00:44:42,879
Speaker 2: which I think made it way more enjoyable to watch.

993
00:44:42,920 --> 00:44:46,520
Speaker 2: You would see them from their very beginning of their relationship,

994
00:44:46,600 --> 00:44:48,759
Speaker 2: towards the end of their relationship, the middle. It just

995
00:44:48,840 --> 00:44:51,360
Speaker 2: kind of jumped around, and I think for somebody with

996
00:44:51,440 --> 00:44:54,920
Speaker 2: like an add brain, it would be really engaging to

997
00:44:54,960 --> 00:44:57,400
Speaker 2: watch because you're not just watching a continuous story.

998
00:44:57,480 --> 00:44:59,200
Speaker 7: I think we all have add at this point.

999
00:44:59,360 --> 00:45:00,760
Speaker 2: Yeah, I'm the Internet.

1000
00:45:01,120 --> 00:45:03,839
Speaker 7: I'm playing the pandemic. Like we we just sat at

1001
00:45:03,840 --> 00:45:06,800
Speaker 7: home on our phones. It was like tiny screen, big screen,

1002
00:45:06,880 --> 00:45:09,360
Speaker 7: medium screen, and then it just kind of rewired our brains.

1003
00:45:09,400 --> 00:45:12,400
Speaker 2: It's funny now that even our break from our screen

1004
00:45:12,520 --> 00:45:15,640
Speaker 2: is a screen, because we were like, all right, let's

1005
00:45:15,640 --> 00:45:18,440
Speaker 2: put down the phones and watch nice, wholesome television on

1006
00:45:18,480 --> 00:45:20,640
Speaker 2: a bigger screen. Yeah, that's all we do is just

1007
00:45:20,640 --> 00:45:21,320
Speaker 2: look at screens.

1008
00:45:21,400 --> 00:45:23,400
Speaker 7: But I think it's different because it's not like scrolling,

1009
00:45:23,440 --> 00:45:25,840
Speaker 7: and your eyes aren't like rapidly seeing a lot.

1010
00:45:25,640 --> 00:45:28,560
Speaker 2: Of and it's not a constant like here's fifteen seconds,

1011
00:45:28,560 --> 00:45:31,720
Speaker 2: here's five seconds, here's two seconds exactly. Here's the costco guys,

1012
00:45:31,760 --> 00:45:34,080
Speaker 2: here's your worst for October.

1013
00:45:34,560 --> 00:45:37,200
Speaker 7: Joker terrible, hated it.

1014
00:45:37,680 --> 00:45:40,400
Speaker 2: I feel like you never even got invested in this

1015
00:45:40,480 --> 00:45:44,080
Speaker 2: movie whatsoever. Where I found parts of it that I enjoyed. No,

1016
00:45:44,200 --> 00:45:46,120
Speaker 2: there was like little pockets of it that I was like, okay,

1017
00:45:46,120 --> 00:45:49,040
Speaker 2: now we're getting good. You were just disconnected the entire time.

1018
00:45:49,120 --> 00:45:51,600
Speaker 7: I didn't even take out my movie candy because it

1019
00:45:51,680 --> 00:45:56,840
Speaker 7: was not worth wasting my expensive Swedish candy on this film.

1020
00:45:56,920 --> 00:45:59,320
Speaker 2: Dang, that is the worst. You can't even snack your No,

1021
00:45:59,440 --> 00:45:59,959
Speaker 2: it wasn't worth.

1022
00:45:59,880 --> 00:46:01,480
Speaker 7: My I was like, I should save this for a

1023
00:46:01,520 --> 00:46:04,680
Speaker 7: movie that I'm enjoying. So I just took out my phone,

1024
00:46:04,680 --> 00:46:06,759
Speaker 7: turned on the brightness, and scrolled. I don't worry. I'm

1025
00:46:06,760 --> 00:46:09,239
Speaker 7: not an a hole like I turn it down and

1026
00:46:09,280 --> 00:46:10,120
Speaker 7: no one can see me.

1027
00:46:10,600 --> 00:46:11,000
Speaker 2: But I was.

1028
00:46:12,040 --> 00:46:14,640
Speaker 7: I don't think my attention was ever kept during this film.

1029
00:46:14,719 --> 00:46:16,960
Speaker 2: I'll also say at the regal we go to in

1030
00:46:17,000 --> 00:46:20,360
Speaker 2: the recliner seats, you really can't see the person's cell phone,

1031
00:46:20,400 --> 00:46:23,120
Speaker 2: like behind you or next to you if you turn

1032
00:46:23,200 --> 00:46:25,360
Speaker 2: down the brightness. And I also put it on like

1033
00:46:25,400 --> 00:46:27,439
Speaker 2: the night mode where it changed everything black.

1034
00:46:27,880 --> 00:46:29,480
Speaker 7: I just keep mine on night mode. I know that's

1035
00:46:29,560 --> 00:46:30,440
Speaker 7: kind of psychotic of me.

1036
00:46:30,760 --> 00:46:32,520
Speaker 2: All the time I have mine on dark mode. You

1037
00:46:32,600 --> 00:46:35,000
Speaker 2: know that I haven't noticed. I didn't know that you do.

1038
00:46:35,360 --> 00:46:35,759
Speaker 4: I do?

1039
00:46:36,080 --> 00:46:39,320
Speaker 7: Yeah, Like my notes background is, oh my texts.

1040
00:46:39,680 --> 00:46:40,839
Speaker 2: I guess I didn't realize that.

1041
00:46:41,080 --> 00:46:43,319
Speaker 7: Yeah, I like it better. It doesn't hurt my eyes

1042
00:46:43,360 --> 00:46:43,719
Speaker 7: as much.

1043
00:46:43,760 --> 00:46:45,600
Speaker 2: I'll do it in the movie because I'll occasionally make

1044
00:46:45,640 --> 00:46:46,359
Speaker 2: a note.

1045
00:46:46,080 --> 00:46:49,240
Speaker 7: On occasionally you're making notes during every film we see.

1046
00:46:49,320 --> 00:46:51,400
Speaker 2: I make a lot of notes because I want to

1047
00:46:51,440 --> 00:46:52,040
Speaker 2: remember it.

1048
00:46:53,040 --> 00:46:55,880
Speaker 7: Eighteen minutes and thirty two seconds this happened.

1049
00:46:56,040 --> 00:46:57,920
Speaker 2: I do I time every single I know, right, when

1050
00:46:57,960 --> 00:47:00,319
Speaker 2: we start, I hit the stop. I know, because the

1051
00:47:00,320 --> 00:47:02,560
Speaker 2: time online is never right. It includes the credits, and

1052
00:47:02,560 --> 00:47:06,080
Speaker 2: sometimes even that's off. I have to know for sure.

1053
00:47:07,960 --> 00:47:09,720
Speaker 2: Was it the singing for you? Or is it the story?

1054
00:47:09,800 --> 00:47:10,640
Speaker 2: Or was it everything?

1055
00:47:11,040 --> 00:47:14,280
Speaker 7: Listen or is it Lady Gaga? Big fan of Lady Gaga.

1056
00:47:15,400 --> 00:47:18,920
Speaker 7: We have to stop making every movie she's in a musical. Listen.

1057
00:47:19,040 --> 00:47:21,760
Speaker 7: I love her, love her music, love her makeup line,

1058
00:47:21,920 --> 00:47:25,239
Speaker 7: she does great things. We gotta stop just period it was.

1059
00:47:25,960 --> 00:47:28,840
Speaker 7: It wasn't even original songs, because I don't mind a musical.

1060
00:47:28,920 --> 00:47:29,680
Speaker 7: I love Broadway.

1061
00:47:29,719 --> 00:47:31,040
Speaker 2: It was a jukebox musical.

1062
00:47:31,360 --> 00:47:33,400
Speaker 7: I just am kind of also over Walking Phoenix.

1063
00:47:33,760 --> 00:47:39,160
Speaker 2: Really yeah, because of Napoleon No, I.

1064
00:47:39,200 --> 00:47:41,640
Speaker 7: Just feel like it's kind of a douche maybe interesting.

1065
00:47:41,719 --> 00:47:44,600
Speaker 2: I mean, for a while, he was one of my

1066
00:47:44,640 --> 00:47:47,000
Speaker 2: favorite actors. I just feel like he hasn't done a

1067
00:47:47,040 --> 00:47:49,359
Speaker 2: movie recently that I've really enjoyed him in.

1068
00:47:49,719 --> 00:47:52,040
Speaker 7: I also hated the First Joker because I was so

1069
00:47:52,040 --> 00:47:53,399
Speaker 7: physically stressed, and.

1070
00:47:53,400 --> 00:47:55,240
Speaker 2: You thought this one was going to be as stressful.

1071
00:47:55,320 --> 00:47:57,640
Speaker 7: I think I actually would have rather been that stressed again, and.

1072
00:47:57,560 --> 00:47:59,759
Speaker 2: I wish it would have been that, And I told you, like, hey,

1073
00:48:00,280 --> 00:48:01,920
Speaker 2: good thing is, it's not gonna be that dark, But

1074
00:48:01,960 --> 00:48:02,600
Speaker 2: then we got this.

1075
00:48:02,880 --> 00:48:07,280
Speaker 7: I think I would have preferred darkness yeah over singing.

1076
00:48:07,560 --> 00:48:10,319
Speaker 2: Yeah. I didn't mind so much the music. It just

1077
00:48:10,400 --> 00:48:14,799
Speaker 2: felt like the Joker character was a complete departure from

1078
00:48:14,880 --> 00:48:16,920
Speaker 2: what he was in Part one. And I think the director,

1079
00:48:17,000 --> 00:48:20,000
Speaker 2: Todd Phillips almost hated what he created with the first

1080
00:48:20,000 --> 00:48:24,400
Speaker 2: one that people were I think he didn't expect people

1081
00:48:24,440 --> 00:48:27,160
Speaker 2: to react to the Joker the way they did and

1082
00:48:27,239 --> 00:48:29,480
Speaker 2: kind of idolize them in a way, and I think

1083
00:48:29,520 --> 00:48:31,960
Speaker 2: that kind of made him upset that he wanted to

1084
00:48:32,000 --> 00:48:35,440
Speaker 2: tell people like, Oh, this character I've created that's been

1085
00:48:35,520 --> 00:48:38,520
Speaker 2: like this beacon now for this type of person. I

1086
00:48:38,560 --> 00:48:42,719
Speaker 2: wanted to completely destroy that and derail this character and

1087
00:48:42,760 --> 00:48:46,799
Speaker 2: make them completely unrecognizable. So what we got was not

1088
00:48:46,960 --> 00:48:49,359
Speaker 2: the Joker that we were expecting from the first one,

1089
00:48:49,600 --> 00:48:51,200
Speaker 2: and I think that's what I hated most because it

1090
00:48:51,239 --> 00:48:52,880
Speaker 2: didn't feel like that. It felt like a slap in

1091
00:48:52,920 --> 00:48:54,920
Speaker 2: the face to me. And then you throw in the

1092
00:48:55,000 --> 00:48:57,960
Speaker 2: music and singing, and it commits to that so much

1093
00:48:58,000 --> 00:48:59,600
Speaker 2: that I still think that he made the movie he

1094
00:48:59,640 --> 00:49:02,760
Speaker 2: intended to make, but it was not what anybody wanted.

1095
00:49:03,200 --> 00:49:03,600
Speaker 7: It was not.

1096
00:49:03,760 --> 00:49:05,400
Speaker 2: I feel like if there was a movie we were

1097
00:49:05,400 --> 00:49:07,440
Speaker 2: gonna walk out of this year, that probably would have

1098
00:49:07,440 --> 00:49:08,640
Speaker 2: been close to one.

1099
00:49:08,480 --> 00:49:10,719
Speaker 7: I would have loved to have fuck.

1100
00:49:10,480 --> 00:49:10,800
Speaker 4: Out of that.

1101
00:49:11,280 --> 00:49:14,000
Speaker 2: It was pretty long, too. The only thing it had

1102
00:49:14,040 --> 00:49:16,480
Speaker 2: going for it was that it looked good. I thought

1103
00:49:16,480 --> 00:49:17,839
Speaker 2: the cinematography was still great.

1104
00:49:17,960 --> 00:49:20,280
Speaker 7: No, if that's enough to redeem a two hours.

1105
00:49:20,160 --> 00:49:22,120
Speaker 2: It's really not. But that was the only thing I

1106
00:49:22,120 --> 00:49:24,520
Speaker 2: was like, Well, at least that shot looked cool. Aside

1107
00:49:24,520 --> 00:49:26,719
Speaker 2: from that, there was very few things to be excited about.

1108
00:49:26,800 --> 00:49:29,239
Speaker 7: I honestly should have just gone to see whatever else

1109
00:49:29,280 --> 00:49:31,239
Speaker 7: they were screening and then been like, text me when

1110
00:49:31,239 --> 00:49:31,640
Speaker 7: you're done.

1111
00:49:40,440 --> 00:49:42,560
Speaker 1: Thank you guys for listening to this week's Sunday sample,

1112
00:49:42,640 --> 00:49:45,000
Speaker 1: or if there's anything that you like maybe you don't.

1113
00:49:44,880 --> 00:49:48,000
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1114
00:49:48,520 --> 00:49:48,920
Speaker 2: Thank you.

1115
00:49:49,120 --> 00:49:49,799
Speaker 4: Have a great week.

1116
00:50:00,520 --> 00:50:00,759
Speaker 7: Zero