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Speaker 2: We're just two unapologetically black women with an opinion who talks.
Speaker 3: Back, big nasty throat nigga. What's up, y'all? It's your girl, AJ.
Speaker 2: Holiday, y'all is stair Bama. I love y'all the season
Speaker 2: changing my ship cut off?
Speaker 3: You know it's dry and wet.
Speaker 2: Oh.
Speaker 3: I love y'all.
Speaker 2: I love you to AJ. How you doing how?
Speaker 3: And I love your back?
Speaker 2: How's your weekend? Well?
Speaker 3: My weekend was, uh, I did go outside this weekend? Okay, Okay.
Speaker 3: If y'all want to tell dinners and stuff I do eat.
Speaker 2: She wants to be like, I ain't do nothing. Oh wait,
Speaker 2: I did do something.
Speaker 3: Yeah, because it's not like super eventful. You know what
Speaker 3: I'm saying. I'm going to Miami this weekend, so I'll
Speaker 3: have maybe for next week. I have some things to
Speaker 3: tell you guys Miami. I'm one of my friends from well,
Speaker 3: she's a friend of a friend, like my first home
Speaker 3: girl I met when I moved to Saint Louis. This
Speaker 3: is her friend I met through her. She executive produced
Speaker 3: this movie called July seven. It's about the assassination of
Speaker 3: the Haitian president in twenty one or twenty two. I
Speaker 3: know the United States did does shit, but anyway, Yeah,
Speaker 3: so it's gonna be a lot of Haitians out there.
Speaker 3: I presume it's a black tie event. Oh yeah, and
Speaker 3: sit and my dress doesn't fit. Bitch, been trying to
Speaker 3: starve herself for a day, just only got one day.
Speaker 2: Well bring me back in Haitian girl, You do not.
Speaker 3: Want one of them niggas men. First of all, his
Speaker 3: mama gonna do some centrea on you something.
Speaker 2: I want one of them niggas with a side of
Speaker 2: black rice. They're black rice.
Speaker 3: Is good, black rice. It is good. I had black
Speaker 3: rice for the first time last year. I have used
Speaker 3: black rice to do my hair. You know, you do
Speaker 3: like the rice wash. I bought black rice to do
Speaker 3: that because it has like a lot of antioxidants and
Speaker 3: shit like that.
Speaker 2: Mh.
Speaker 3: But that fucking black rice is good, so good. It's good, nigga.
Speaker 2: His mama made it for me one time many years ago,
Speaker 2: and I was like, I think I could be Haitian.
Speaker 2: He could, Mary Haitian.
Speaker 3: What you had going on?
Speaker 2: Y'all? Oh? What did I do this weekend?
Speaker 3: Oh?
Speaker 2: I went to see the Hot Boys Tour. Lil Wayne
Speaker 2: and the Hot.
Speaker 3: Boys back that ass up.
Speaker 2: Oh my gud, y'all, if this show is coming to
Speaker 2: your city, please go see it. I had so much fun.
Speaker 2: I was going from sweet to sweet, drinking up Nigga's.
Speaker 3: Sounds about right.
Speaker 2: It was a good old negro, y'all. But I paid
Speaker 2: for it the next day because I had to fly
Speaker 2: back to New York in the morning. And I'm just
Speaker 2: not built like I used to, Like I used to
Speaker 2: be able to drink and then get up and function
Speaker 2: the next day.
Speaker 3: Oh yeah, that shit been over for me. I really
Speaker 3: have to plan them type of nights because I already
Speaker 3: know I'm gonna be in the house down bad the
Speaker 3: next day.
Speaker 2: The next day, all day. That's how you know liquor
Speaker 2: is poison.
Speaker 3: Yeah yeah, your body literally be like did stop?
Speaker 2: Yeah? It feels so good while you're doing it, though, because.
Speaker 3: You'd be feeling stupid while everybody else drunk and you
Speaker 3: just sitting there looking at them being stupid and drunk,
Speaker 3: Like you gotta join them or else, like you might
Speaker 3: hit somebody, like get your drunk ass away from me.
Speaker 2: It's not about going to have some drinks tonight. But
Speaker 2: I was like, nah, you ain't never over it. Relax,
Speaker 2: you drinks Sunday. You didn't drink Monday because you was
Speaker 2: hurting from Sunday. Did you drink on too day? Relaxed,
Speaker 2: it's Wednesday. Just be sober. But it's like wine night
Speaker 2: at this spot and everybody's going and I kind of
Speaker 2: want to go, but I'm not going to go.
Speaker 3: Not the wine night. Wine makes me feel depressed. And
Speaker 3: I don't even be depressed. It just makes me feel
Speaker 3: extremely mellow. I don't like it. Oh just down, you
Speaker 3: know what I'm saying. It's not you need up, you know. Yeah,
Speaker 3: like a little little man. I might have to mix
Speaker 3: it right with little little whoa got it. Let's get
Speaker 3: in the stupid internet news man, all right?
Speaker 2: I love this one. Glorilla calls Duke Dennis medium ugly.
Speaker 2: So it was a video and he was like he
Speaker 2: heard the song and he heard his name and he
Speaker 2: was like, wait, is she talk about me? In that
Speaker 2: first part where she says she like niggas medium ugly,
Speaker 2: she wouldn't talk about me in that part, but she was.
Speaker 3: He definitely was, so hold on, what's the legs?
Speaker 2: It?
Speaker 3: Says Gloria Raps that she likes her partners tall and
Speaker 3: grimy and mixed with a little bit of ugly, before
Speaker 3: seconds later calling out the popular streamer with the line,
Speaker 3: Duke Dennis, what's up with you? Is a lot of
Speaker 3: Tonni's fine. He's a nice looking boy. Is he not
Speaker 3: a nice looking man?
Speaker 2: Yeah, he's good looking. He's medium ugly, he's handsome.
Speaker 3: Is he medium ugly?
Speaker 2: Though?
Speaker 3: Is that what medium ugly is?
Speaker 2: When I think of medium ugly, I don't think of
Speaker 2: like ugly for real. I think like kind of right,
Speaker 2: it's just a little bit like not too manicured.
Speaker 3: Yeah, like I think of who do I think of?
Speaker 3: Like it? Just Alba is like medium ugly? Like it
Speaker 3: just Alba is not Like I can't even say he's
Speaker 3: not super aesthetically pleasing, because he is. You know, I
Speaker 3: think it's just all in cumbersing of all the things.
Speaker 2: The aura word.
Speaker 3: For your encumbensing. Encumbersing, y'all tell me what it is. Okay,
Speaker 3: I know what I'm trying to say anyway, But like
Speaker 3: the whole his aura like energy everything, you know what
Speaker 3: I'm saying, makes them this fine ass medium ugly, And
Speaker 3: I think just medium ugly means.
Speaker 2: Man, yeah to me too, because I feel like Aaron
Speaker 2: Pierre is not medium ugly. He's just beautiful. He's just
Speaker 2: like pretty. You know.
Speaker 3: I don't even think he's cute at all. See, that's
Speaker 3: the thing. So it's.
Speaker 2: I think he's like pretty either. No, he got that
Speaker 2: was pretty as he got all these beautiful like.
Speaker 3: All encompassing there you go, Google.
Speaker 2: I like words, man, uh so, but Skepta is just
Speaker 2: fine as hell. He's not.
Speaker 3: Girl the google him too right now.
Speaker 2: I am I adore him?
Speaker 3: Okay, So is he a medium ugly? A hood fine?
Speaker 3: Is hood fine a thing? I think? I think hood
Speaker 3: fine is also a thing?
Speaker 2: Hood fine?
Speaker 3: Yeah, Like niggas in Miami and.
Speaker 2: Me them ugly and hood fire and be kind of
Speaker 2: similar though, because it's just kind of like a little rough, you.
Speaker 3: Know, a little rugged.
Speaker 2: Yeah hmm.
Speaker 3: Oh. They got a picture of them together, how about that?
Speaker 2: Yeah, train, This is.
Speaker 3: A picture of Skeptic and Aaron here together, and both
Speaker 3: of these niggas was in the club. I am definitely
Speaker 3: picking Skeptic I think men behaved a little bit more
Speaker 3: when light skin niggas was in. These dark skinned niggas,
Speaker 3: you thinking they bad bitches many more than the light
Speaker 3: skinned niggas did.
Speaker 2: Let me tell you when that shit started, Wesley Snipes
Speaker 2: kicked that ship off. Wesley Snipes kid the dark niggas
Speaker 2: thinking bitches down hill.
Speaker 3: Ever since then, Wesley Snipes.
Speaker 2: Wesley Snipes then came motherfucking Moore's chestnut and it was over.
Speaker 3: Diggs ass, Yeah, what's that movie? I just seen a
Speaker 3: clip of it with Wesley Snipes and Along changing places, right,
Speaker 3: not changing places?
Speaker 2: It was uh ah, God, damn Wesley Snipes and Nia alone.
Speaker 3: Yeah, not Along, excuse me, not you along to violate
Speaker 3: them dis ap paary acts. Oh yeah, okay, I saw
Speaker 3: a clip like from a part of that movie the
Speaker 3: other day and that ship was so fucking triggering how
Speaker 3: he was gassedlighting the fuck out of her. Did you
Speaker 3: do you remember seeing that?
Speaker 2: You remember that movie that?
Speaker 4: Well?
Speaker 2: I have to see it again.
Speaker 3: Let's watch that movie this week. Can come back talk
Speaker 3: about it next week.
Speaker 2: Okay, let's do it. Everybody watched Disaperiodics. We're going I'll
Speaker 2: talk about it on the shu.
Speaker 3: You know Terry McMillan had that's in a chokehold as
Speaker 3: fucking kids, Yeah she did.
Speaker 2: There's no reason that we should have been reading that
Speaker 2: type of literure.
Speaker 3: And I think we probably have a better perspective of it,
Speaker 3: or different perspective now as adults too. We'll have a
Speaker 3: different lens.
Speaker 2: Yes, like just watching like waiting to exhale as a
Speaker 2: grown woman versus when I watched it as a Child's
Speaker 2: just such change lens. Yeah, oh, and nothing has changed
Speaker 2: in thirty years. We're going through the same exact shit.
Speaker 3: Ain't nothing changed. So y'all like fine hood fine or
Speaker 3: medium ugly niggas? I think we all like medium ugly anyway.
Speaker 3: I prefer speaking of medium ugly. What happened?
Speaker 2: I said, I don't want to know nigga who thinks
Speaker 2: he better than me?
Speaker 3: Yeah, be in the bathroom and the mari longer than you.
Speaker 2: Yeah, like doing it. I hate listen as much as
Speaker 2: I love Drake. I hate how he do that little
Speaker 2: potty lip thing. Stop doing that?
Speaker 3: You know, Drake thinking a bad bitch all day.
Speaker 2: He just posted a new PITCHU, and I'm like, damn
Speaker 2: motherfucking fine, And I don't even you know, red Bones
Speaker 2: ain't really my type, but him and that ty Lepley,
Speaker 2: Oh my.
Speaker 3: Now, ty Lepley is like ty Lepley has a different
Speaker 3: His look is different though, like he is fine and
Speaker 3: he has a grunge look at the same time. And
Speaker 3: he's not pretty though he's just fucking gorgeous. He's not pretty,
Speaker 3: you know, Like he's not a pretty light skin nigga.
Speaker 3: He might be light skin, but still a dark nigga.
Speaker 3: Drake is just light skin.
Speaker 2: Oh, here we go, brothers.
Speaker 3: No no. But speaking of medium ugly and ship, which
Speaker 3: y'all think about Neil, Neil is technically medium ugly. He
Speaker 3: take the hat off right.
Speaker 2: Yeah, and he's I feel like his personality might be
Speaker 2: a little medium ugly too, because he's just been some
Speaker 2: bad stuff coming out about him. I mean, I don't listen.
Speaker 2: If you're in the parly lifestyle and you can afford,
Speaker 2: you can have as many bitch as you can afford,
Speaker 2: as far as I'm concerned, as long as everybody is
Speaker 2: in the know. But I just hate that. I just
Speaker 2: always associated Neo with a gentleman, you know, like the
Speaker 2: dun correct.
Speaker 4: Bad stuff, those hats and suits and the year of
Speaker 4: the Gentleman album, and I thought he was a family man.
Speaker 2: And it's just all that's how you just never you
Speaker 2: think you know a person.
Speaker 3: Yeah, so he actually speaks on telling his kids about
Speaker 3: his poly relationship. He continues to double down against any
Speaker 3: anyone criticizing criticizing his embrace of polyamory, it says, following
Speaker 3: his divorce in twenty twenty two, when his ex wife
Speaker 3: Crystal Renee accused Neo of infidelity, the forty five year
Speaker 3: old singer had and spotted out in public with multiple
Speaker 3: partners and spoken about his perspective on dating. So he
Speaker 3: has multiple girlfriends. Now, everybody know each other, everybody on
Speaker 3: vacation together. Everybody looking like they be having a great
Speaker 3: time with him.
Speaker 2: They look pretty happy. But well, remember what was that rapper?
Speaker 2: He had, like a couple girls and his harem rapper.
Speaker 2: He was like kind of fat, he had a big
Speaker 2: old but.
Speaker 3: Oh then they got to Texas what's the name? Two times?
Speaker 3: Two times?
Speaker 2: A couple of times that didn't work out though you
Speaker 2: saw high that ended sadly like that, Just like you know,
Speaker 2: it's hard, first of all, getting three bitches to get
Speaker 2: along with each other for over years.
Speaker 3: Just impressive they were getting along them niggas. Be Those
Speaker 3: are the men that have high tolerance for like headaches
Speaker 3: and bullshit. They it's like that, like they just are
Speaker 3: able to function in that type of toxicity. Yeah, so
Speaker 3: I am actually happy he's finally living in his truth
Speaker 3: quote unquote unless y'all human's favorite shit to say, living
Speaker 3: in the truth, which is some bullshit. But yeah, now
Speaker 3: he's not lying to women at least, like he has
Speaker 3: all these women that knows know what they're getting into
Speaker 3: and they are signing up for it, right, so they
Speaker 3: have all full control and all consent for the bullshit.
Speaker 3: Unlike his ex wives. He had the first wife have
Speaker 3: a damn tie her tubes, telling her he didn't want
Speaker 3: any more children. That he left her, then married Crystal Renee,
Speaker 3: had two kids with her, cheated on her with a stripper,
Speaker 3: and got that bitch pregnant too. Mm hmm.
Speaker 2: That's what I'm saying. Just not the year of the Gentleman.
Speaker 2: I guess that was.
Speaker 3: I was doing all this while making their songs. Well,
Speaker 3: I'm so sick of love songs.
Speaker 2: Yes, should listened.
Speaker 3: Yeah, they ain't never lie.
Speaker 2: It's scary out here, that's like why Sometimes I be thinking,
Speaker 2: like should we all pick one person? I think as
Speaker 2: a woman, it seems like you're be getting the short
Speaker 2: end of the sticks sometimes.
Speaker 3: You know, men created marriage so they can all somebody,
Speaker 3: so everybody would have a chance at getting pussy. That's
Speaker 3: what I believe. Okay, just lock lock in a female
Speaker 3: whoever you can lock in, lock her in. You know,
Speaker 3: I don't like it.
Speaker 2: I don't. I mean, like before that, they would be
Speaker 2: clubbing bitches over the head to get their pussy.
Speaker 3: You know, like, man, I don't think that's happening. Not
Speaker 3: the most black people.
Speaker 2: How do you have humanity came about? You know, like
Speaker 2: continue to speak humanity.
Speaker 3: We've been humans, this human for a very long time.
Speaker 3: There's another group of people who are kind of young
Speaker 3: on the planet now. They might have been in kieves
Speaker 3: and knocking bitches over the fucking end. We have we
Speaker 3: have cultures where women were like real life metriarchs, Like
Speaker 3: we was running shit and men did what we told
Speaker 3: him to do. So all thezulus, Yeah, a lot of
Speaker 3: different tries, a lot of different cultures. Yeah, we're getting
Speaker 3: back there too, were getting back there right now. That's
Speaker 3: why the niggas be fighting us so hard because they
Speaker 3: know it's coming. The moa arc is coming back. Furthermore,
Speaker 3: of speaking on medium ugly, what you think about Uh,
Speaker 3: it's a medium ugly day. What did you think about
Speaker 3: Cruci possibly dating Dionne Sanders.
Speaker 2: Oh, I'm here for it. I'm a fan of dion Sanders.
Speaker 2: I like his energy is very strong masculine energy. And
Speaker 2: I know if it's true, he is kneeling Kruci little
Speaker 2: self to the bed.
Speaker 3: Yes, I like that for her because I know he
Speaker 3: probably like real healthy, he gets up and joll every morning.
Speaker 3: Nigga got good heart health. That ship wrong, bitch. I
Speaker 3: know it's strong. It looked like it gets strong.
Speaker 2: And he's probably like very like like uh, very like
Speaker 2: not bossy, but like that's a grown man, Like you're
Speaker 2: not playing with Leon Sanders. Like she probably had to
Speaker 2: be a little baby that Listen. I don't see them together,
Speaker 2: but I'm here for it.
Speaker 3: Yeah, she's like that.
Speaker 2: You don't seem like she was like a man that
Speaker 2: much more sure than her.
Speaker 3: But I'm probably tired.
Speaker 2: I'm probably wrong.
Speaker 3: Yeah that's what happened. You just listen, get somebody who
Speaker 3: ain't playing no more games? Ship they tired. They don't
Speaker 3: want to do much. They won't lay the fuck down
Speaker 3: to Yeah, aplication, take some yacht trips.
Speaker 2: You know, I got invited to Barbados next week, and
Speaker 2: I'm trying to decide to do. I don't want to go.
Speaker 3: Go. I'm so jealous. I'm going to Barbados this year.
Speaker 3: I'm jealous. If you go, you ever been? I know
Speaker 3: I want to.
Speaker 2: Live there Wednesday to Sunday.
Speaker 3: That's not long enough. I need nine days. I ain't
Speaker 3: got expensive.
Speaker 2: I gotta go to school. That's where I have to
Speaker 2: be after it, like they're going to be gone. But
Speaker 2: I can't. I can't go. I already paid those classes,
Speaker 2: so I got to cook.
Speaker 3: Yeah, Barbado's expensive as hell too.
Speaker 2: Man, But yeah, I don't know. We'll see, We'll see
Speaker 2: if I go.
Speaker 3: Go, man, go for me. I'm going this year for sure,
Speaker 3: and I'm gonna take a long trip if I got
Speaker 3: to go by my fucking self.
Speaker 2: Do we have a baddie. It's the last week of it, there.
Speaker 3: Is, y'all. But you know, Black history is all year.
Speaker 3: Black history is American history. And you know, I was
Speaker 3: having a little back and forth with a friend of mine,
Speaker 3: a very close friend of mine about this the other
Speaker 3: day when I saw the headline, because man, I swear
Speaker 3: all I get is negative hairline and negative political headlines
Speaker 3: all the time. Remember how to tell you Tammy. But
Speaker 3: it wasn't just you. I mean in that day, I mean,
Speaker 3: motherfuckers was slamming me. And it's like, I feel like
Speaker 3: people be trying to get you on it. Ah got
Speaker 3: you look at this hat. This is your voto for
Speaker 3: type shit. No it's not internal. No, I don't think.
Speaker 3: I really don't think it's internal because I don't think
Speaker 3: that people were critiquing any other president as much as
Speaker 3: the current president. People were not the Shade Room and
Speaker 3: nigga when the Shade Room have did the Shade Room
Speaker 3: post about Biden Son Smith of coke and shit instead
Speaker 3: of coke off a stripper butt and have an underage
Speaker 3: girls and a and a uh yeah, none of that
Speaker 3: shit ever happened. I don't know about done embezzling all
Speaker 3: type of money in Ukraine. Whedon saw none of those headlines,
Speaker 3: the things that are now coming out in the news,
Speaker 3: which is why he pardoned his entire family. But those
Speaker 3: were never headlines on black media. So what I would
Speaker 3: like to see is some of the positive things, especially
Speaker 3: when it's pertaining to black people.
Speaker 2: Listen, I hear anything positive black.
Speaker 3: Yeah. So Alice Marie Johnson, I don't know if y'all
Speaker 3: have ever heard of her, but just recently Trump appointed
Speaker 3: her to be pardons are So this is a newly
Speaker 3: creative position in one of his kind, you know, in
Speaker 3: American history. So, she's an American justice reform advocate and
Speaker 3: former federal prisoner. She was convicted in nineteen ninety six
Speaker 3: for her involvement in Memphis cocaine trafficking organization and sentenced
Speaker 3: to life in prisonment. Now they're saying she was aheaded organization,
Speaker 3: but she had never been in jail a day in
Speaker 3: her life, pride to being convicted and sentenced to life
Speaker 3: in prison. So she in twenty eighteen, June twenty eighteen,
Speaker 3: after serving twenty one years in prison, she was released
Speaker 3: by the She was released from the Federal Correctional Institution Aliceville,
Speaker 3: wherever that is. And then she did get clemency from
Speaker 3: Trump as well, And I think Kim Kardashian helped with data.
Speaker 3: And so since then, since she's been out, she's been
Speaker 3: you know, working on prison reform. She's helped other people
Speaker 3: gain their freedom as well. So last week February twentieth,
Speaker 3: twenty twenty five, Trump named her as his administration's pardons
Speaker 3: are And I think that's great news as much black
Speaker 3: people as we.
Speaker 2: Have more parts are exactly so.
Speaker 3: She would be she'd be working, you know, with the
Speaker 3: Department of Justice, and it is exactly what it is,
Speaker 3: just like you have the borders are the person who's
Speaker 3: who was in charge.
Speaker 2: So she's pretty much taken Kim Kardashian job because that's what.
Speaker 3: Well, Kim Kardashian was just the face because she's a
Speaker 3: big name, right. There's people who Kim Kardashian was working with,
Speaker 3: like different organizations that do this shit like they you
Speaker 3: know what I'm saying, they help people get pardons all
Speaker 3: the time. But Kim Kardashian, you know, she's been helping
Speaker 3: because of who she is.
Speaker 2: Why not definitely was the prior.
Speaker 3: She was the face of a partner. Yeah. Yeah, So
Speaker 3: I mean, whoever we got put in place to help.
Speaker 2: This black woman. I always support black women, black women
Speaker 2: doing great things. What's her name?
Speaker 3: Her name is Alice Marie Johnson, and she is a
Speaker 3: baddie and a Jeminiah.
Speaker 2: We salute you. You're a baddie who talks back.
Speaker 3: All right, y'all, So I know we were talking about
Speaker 3: who the hell was we talking about anyway, y'all? Oh
Speaker 3: when we were talking about neo ass side bitches, name bitches,
Speaker 3: new bitches, Baby Mama is all ship?
Speaker 2: Oh is red blue bitches?
Speaker 3: This week we want to know, you know, because the
Speaker 3: side bitches be be thinking that they be women. Let's come, okay,
Speaker 3: side women, the side women, the extracurricular activity women. You know,
Speaker 3: my one I The the thing I hate to see
Speaker 3: them say is don't ask me, actual man, bitch, who
Speaker 3: are you talking to? And then the main you know,
Speaker 3: the main who thinks she's entitled to all the things
Speaker 3: like who's really winning? Who's the main chick versus the
Speaker 3: side chick for this this week's episode.
Speaker 2: Who's winning that fight?
Speaker 3: Like who's you ever't been a side chick? All right, y'all, were.
Speaker 2: Gonna get into that conversation when well, give it.
Speaker 3: What's up?
Speaker 2: Y'all?
Speaker 3: Welcome, and we talk about podcasts, and today we're delving
Speaker 3: in a controversial topic with relationships. Okay, main chick versus
Speaker 3: side chick? Who winning does anybody win.
Speaker 2: Nobody wins when the family fuse. Okay, you ain't family
Speaker 2: if you're the sidebitch.
Speaker 3: Now according to who that's true? Now, side bitch be
Speaker 3: turned into the main fast.
Speaker 2: Sometimes sometimes they do and sometimes they don't. We saw
Speaker 2: that movie The Family that Praise God, you these movies,
Speaker 2: I think it was, but don't give me the Lion.
Speaker 2: So it had Alfree Woodard in it. I can't think
Speaker 2: of that white lady's name, but she's in it. She
Speaker 2: was amazing and Sonata Lathan okay, and she played the
Speaker 2: side chick to.
Speaker 3: L Oh what happened? That was a rumor.
Speaker 2: I don't know anything about that. So, yeah, she played
Speaker 2: the side chick to the Kiff Cart that was his name,
Speaker 2: the white guy who was Yeah, and she had the car,
Speaker 2: she had all the money. She had like three hundred
Speaker 2: thousand in her savings. But it did not end well
Speaker 2: for her.
Speaker 3: Didn't she get pregnant?
Speaker 2: She said, my son is a Kiff Card. But I
Speaker 2: don't know how true that was because they never really
Speaker 2: went back into that.
Speaker 3: Okay, I definitely remember the movie now, see.
Speaker 2: But yeah, she was like side bitch extraordinary, you know.
Speaker 3: So let's let's define the roles, right, what are the
Speaker 3: roles of the main chick?
Speaker 2: You would say everything everything important, Like all right, she
Speaker 2: gives the kids, she's with the family, she nurtures, like
Speaker 2: she feeds the family. She is his one and only
Speaker 2: when it comes to it, like it'll be like him
Speaker 2: and her when it's all over. That's the main chick.
Speaker 2: That's the one that everybody knows about. That's the one
Speaker 2: who takes the family portraits. That's his main. Yeah, that's
Speaker 2: the main So that's the wife. Well, not necessarily because
Speaker 2: it could be a girlfriend too.
Speaker 3: Okay, we'll talk about it from both both aspects, like
Speaker 3: a married man would a side or married woman would
Speaker 3: a side. And then like the boyfriend girlfriend okay, because
Speaker 3: I feel like with boyfriend girlfriends, like if you ain't married,
Speaker 3: like you like fair game.
Speaker 2: Yeah, you like you can't post somebody for you're a homewrecker.
Speaker 2: You fucking my boyfriend. No, he's out here choosing right
Speaker 2: if that's your husband. Now, now you got to let
Speaker 2: the stand on my boyfriend.
Speaker 3: Really don't suit in the state of North Carolina.
Speaker 2: I mean sometimes like we will look at a girl
Speaker 2: crazy if she messing with somebody man and maybe they
Speaker 2: not married though.
Speaker 3: The celebrity world, I look at all the people crazy,
Speaker 3: like if you fucking we all know that's that lady husband.
Speaker 2: Are her boyfriend there? Yeah?
Speaker 3: Why are you on him? And then you talking crazy that.
Speaker 2: Ship with Jello Jello ball and Nikki Baby. That hurt
Speaker 2: my feeling.
Speaker 3: We know that. That's so why you why you on him?
Speaker 3: That's why I like, I love Sweetie. I like Sweetie
Speaker 3: a lot man what she do, but I just did
Speaker 3: not like seeing Sweety on little baby lap, like you
Speaker 3: know that's Jada way the old man. Yeah, it's just
Speaker 3: why are you doing that? Chicken headish anyway? And it
Speaker 3: was so what's the world is?
Speaker 2: But they wasn't married though, so it's not married, but
Speaker 2: they are publicly that if his laugh is open, do
Speaker 2: he does she know his lap open?
Speaker 3: But see, this is why I say women also have
Speaker 3: to take accountability. The owners does not just fall on
Speaker 3: the man. Like, yes, the home record is the motherfucker
Speaker 3: that's in the home. But if you intentionally and knowingly
Speaker 3: engage with a man knowing.
Speaker 2: That you reationship, you're just as culpable.
Speaker 3: You know what I'm saying. You can now I've definitely
Speaker 3: been on some ask him, don't asks me type ship.
Speaker 3: You know what I'm saying. With a boyfriend situation at work,
Speaker 3: Ain't that the same shit? Huh?
Speaker 2: Ain't that the same ship? Though?
Speaker 3: You know how I find out like because most men,
Speaker 3: like you don't know, they're not going to tell you
Speaker 3: that in a relationship. Now, all of a sudden, somebody
Speaker 3: randomly calling your cell phone. So when a person does that,
Speaker 3: I'm never gonna let you feel like you got to live. Sorry,
Speaker 3: I might cuss him out, but you don't got no
Speaker 3: love when you call him, Okay, because you're coming to
Speaker 3: me as a woman, and I'm coming as a sniper
Speaker 3: every time period. Okay, So saidebitches. So side bitches don't
Speaker 3: have like pictures with family, and they don't be on
Speaker 3: vacation with the Sometimes, yes, a lot with the sidebitch.
Speaker 2: I mean sometimes the family like the sidekick better than
Speaker 2: they like the man.
Speaker 3: And they waiting for her to get the hell up
Speaker 3: out of there.
Speaker 2: Yeah, it's a slippery slopes, it really is. It's it's
Speaker 2: real nasty.
Speaker 3: I feel like when women cheat, like we actually have
Speaker 3: side men like because only because men play the side
Speaker 3: better than women. Yeah, when women play the side y'all
Speaker 3: calling this man's wife, y'all, popping up places, y'all getting
Speaker 3: pregnant y'all in the video, Like Diddy, it's a woman
Speaker 3: with a man, is like he really playing his role.
Speaker 2: Right because he don't want the responsibility of being mad
Speaker 2: all the time? You know what? That mad?
Speaker 3: Yeah? He I think side chicks don't want the man
Speaker 3: all the time either, like do acquire him? The relationship
Speaker 3: oftentimes soils typically.
Speaker 2: You know what, when it's a younger woman and an
Speaker 2: older man, I think that dynamic is like I don't
Speaker 2: want him for real. I just want the bag right
Speaker 2: he doing, he takes me out, I have fun. I
Speaker 2: don't want her responsibility. But when they're peers, when they're
Speaker 2: about the same age, that woman might want that man
Speaker 2: for real, you know, like he's gonna leave her for
Speaker 2: me energy. Yeah, And that's just the biggest mistake as
Speaker 2: far as I'm concerned. Don't ever want to take a
Speaker 2: man from out of a home.
Speaker 3: Yeah, because side pitches be cooking for niggas like you tripping?
Speaker 2: Why are you cooking for are? Like? Because trying to
Speaker 2: do all the things that the wife isn't, you know,
Speaker 2: or the main chick isn't. That's what they're trying to
Speaker 2: fill that space.
Speaker 3: And I just feel like if he's gonna be a
Speaker 3: side girl, it's like a fun position, right, business trips,
Speaker 3: you know, you with him, things like that, like and
Speaker 3: you just always shut the fuck up and quiet, don't talk. Girl,
Speaker 3: Cholston got some drama going on. It's a girl and
Speaker 3: there she They put it all on you on Facebook.
Speaker 3: How they went and beat up the husband's girlfriend who
Speaker 3: apparently they used to have threesomes with, but he chose
Speaker 3: the other person.
Speaker 2: Yeah, what happened with Stevie j and Mimi and Joscelyn
Speaker 2: her name.
Speaker 3: They used to these three sons together.
Speaker 2: That's what I That's what I thought, like they had
Speaker 2: like an intimate fum relationship. And then he kind of
Speaker 2: went another direction.
Speaker 3: No, these are real life ratchets, Like I'm gonna sing
Speaker 3: you this Facebook video because the bitch got her stucking
Speaker 3: still hanging off. It was her her daughter, which is
Speaker 3: a young adult. His mama, His mama was there because
Speaker 3: it happened at her house. And he likes the wife better.
Speaker 3: I mean, she likes the wife better. But they all
Speaker 3: jumped the girlfriend.
Speaker 2: Oh that's that's fucked up. He chose yeah, instead of jumping.
Speaker 3: But the girlfriend was talking shit online, well maybe rebuttal
Speaker 3: online to the girls talking She like, I'm not about
Speaker 3: to just shut the fuck up all the time while
Speaker 3: you talking shit to me just because you supposedly the
Speaker 3: wife like he obviously is out the door.
Speaker 2: Was it a real wife, like were they legal years?
Speaker 2: I don't think. I mean, I don't think the sor shit.
Speaker 2: I think she should be quiet. I don't think she
Speaker 2: should be arguing. But you don't really have a lyric
Speaker 2: to stand on. This woman has a valid reason to
Speaker 2: be angry with you, but.
Speaker 3: She came in as a unicorn, so you invited that
Speaker 3: shit into your relationship. And then maybe y'all cucies ain't matchup,
Speaker 3: and he chose the unicorn.
Speaker 2: Is it always just about Cucci? I don't think it's
Speaker 2: always just about Cucci.
Speaker 3: So I heard that he's making and I don't even
Speaker 3: know these people. Girl, This is just what I heard
Speaker 3: to the grapevine, Like he he's actually even trying to
Speaker 3: change his life for this girl. She's a little younger
Speaker 3: than the one he's married to. The wife obviously is
Speaker 3: super ratchet, right, But I think they all kind of remedial. Also,
Speaker 3: I don't know, it sounds like a.
Speaker 2: Very remedial situation. But there are times where men will
Speaker 2: have a wife and been with her for a long
Speaker 2: time and then trade her in for a new model.
Speaker 2: That happens. It'll start as like just an affair and
Speaker 2: then becomes the the side becomes the main because she's
Speaker 2: more youthful, makes him feel younger, makes him feel more alive.
Speaker 3: Well, my mom is a prototype, because that's swear of God.
Speaker 3: All my daddy girlfriends and current wife, they're younger than
Speaker 3: my mama, but they look like my mama.
Speaker 2: Like, that's really like a younger version of you. That's
Speaker 2: so hurtful.
Speaker 3: They didn't really win the winner. Okay, I'm not paying
Speaker 3: on bills with Nigga. That's the way to work. Why
Speaker 3: you got this, old man?
Speaker 2: Is there perks of being a side chick? Though? Are there,
Speaker 2: like really perks?
Speaker 3: They're suppose it's supposed to be about perks. You're not
Speaker 3: supposed to be falling in love and all this shit,
Speaker 3: but people do it.
Speaker 2: So how do you how do you stop from like
Speaker 2: you don't be delusional? I'm like such a hopeless romantic.
Speaker 2: I don't think I could like survive in that type
Speaker 2: of relationship me because I'm a fall in love.
Speaker 3: I'm not gonna fall in love because I match energy.
Speaker 3: So if I don't feel you falling in love with me,
Speaker 3: I'm not just going.
Speaker 2: I can't you think the niggas don't love their side
Speaker 2: nigga be acted up at home being mean to his
Speaker 2: wife because him and his side bitch having a bad day.
Speaker 3: Remember that. I was like, you'll be surprised how me,
Speaker 3: but just have relationship issues with your nigga right?
Speaker 2: Why you so sad?
Speaker 3: Baby? I gotta nobody like that man got you.
Speaker 2: Getting your nigga tad because his side bitch hurting his head.
Speaker 3: Dog. I used to be like, listen, don't like my
Speaker 3: space is zenned out. My whole life. Wherever I'm at
Speaker 3: is zen It's quiet, it's smell good, it's clean, it's
Speaker 3: fun over here. Don't bring that bullshit that you got
Speaker 3: going on at the house, your baby mama and the
Speaker 3: kids and all that shit. And now you're coming over
Speaker 3: here mad, disturbing my piece. I ain't do nothing to you, yeah,
Speaker 3: but obviously you need an outlet right quick. And now
Speaker 3: you're coming to my house with the bullshit. So I've
Speaker 3: in my twenties. I definitely spent some years in a
Speaker 3: situation like that, and I did not know about the
Speaker 3: other person initially, but you already fall in love. Yeah,
Speaker 3: you know what I'm saying. So it's hard to get
Speaker 3: out of there. But you got too, bitch. I had
Speaker 3: to move, Yeah, I don't know, like relocate.
Speaker 2: Sometimes I think, all right, so I'm single, and i've
Speaker 2: been single for a minute now, but I'll be feeling
Speaker 2: like if I had because I'm kind of stuck in
Speaker 2: my waist a little bit, if I had a man
Speaker 2: in the home all the time. I already told you
Speaker 2: I might want him to have a side, bitch, so
Speaker 2: he could just like get on my face a little bit.
Speaker 2: Not right away, but after ten years, after ten years
Speaker 2: looking at this nigga day in and day out, like damn,
Speaker 2: ain't nobody check it for you? God Dad, Well, like
Speaker 2: I'm the import person who like you, I get me
Speaker 2: a break, nigga go to her house at the while,
Speaker 2: I don't.
Speaker 3: Really care no more, but I just better not I'll
Speaker 3: find out about it. You be, just just don't let
Speaker 3: me find out if you're out here outside, because the
Speaker 3: minute I find out like I don't have patience for
Speaker 3: finding out no more. Yeah, but if you're doing it
Speaker 3: and I don't know more, part to you, bro, and
Speaker 3: if she okay with the amount of time that you
Speaker 3: give her, Hey, man, y'all do y'all think, just don't
Speaker 3: bring me nothing.
Speaker 2: After two years, I'm feeling like I might be feeling
Speaker 2: like that. I might just be saying that I might
Speaker 2: be heartbroken if I found out my man was doing that.
Speaker 2: But the way, how is my life right now? I
Speaker 2: know that that space would make me happy, but like
Speaker 2: you know, time away, So maybe I probably need like
Speaker 2: an open situation, but not at first, just maybe like
Speaker 2: later seeing the same person day after day after day
Speaker 2: for a year after year after year.
Speaker 3: That don't sound crazy, It is crazy. I'm living it
Speaker 3: right now.
Speaker 2: Too much pressure when I'm home alone.
Speaker 3: Yeah, and he don't even get on my nerve and
Speaker 3: none of that shit. Like I really really be chilling,
Speaker 3: like we have a little I can count how many
Speaker 3: times we like had a little back of forth. You
Speaker 3: know what I'm saying that Nigga told me, Hey, he
Speaker 3: told me to shut the fuck up the other day. Now,
Speaker 3: I was pissed about that.
Speaker 2: You probably needed to.
Speaker 3: Like, because he was really shuffling trying to get the
Speaker 3: fuck out of the house, and I just was still
Speaker 3: going at him, sounding like my mom heard my mama voice.
Speaker 2: Come up my body, bitch.
Speaker 3: Because you know, I was mad about the equipment. If
Speaker 3: I let you hold something dog like, take care of it,
Speaker 3: you know. So it's not about the things. It is
Speaker 3: what is your value system?
Speaker 2: Our value systems don't it was it was an accident.
Speaker 3: It looked like he was changing oil with my fucking
Speaker 3: cable and that nigga, don't fix that car, okay, So yeah, like,
Speaker 3: take care of my things, treat your ship, how to
Speaker 3: fuck you ever you want to. But when it comes
Speaker 3: to my things, don't touch him. And then he gets mad.
Speaker 3: When I asked him how to touch my things, he
Speaker 3: told you to because he was shuffling at the door.
Speaker 3: I said, yeah, you' trying to hurry up to get
Speaker 3: out the house in it. He shut the fuck up.
Speaker 3: That's the rude.
Speaker 2: Hell.
Speaker 3: Know, well I should have not It's okay to shut
Speaker 3: up something, No, because I be shutting up a lot.
Speaker 3: So when I do yell and I get mad, it's
Speaker 3: because I have already shut the fuck up twenty times over. Yeah, okay,
Speaker 3: so now you're gonna get this.
Speaker 2: But once you get to a space where nigga is
Speaker 2: verbally telling you to shut the fuck up, maybe just shut.
Speaker 3: Up, or maybe take accountability and say, you know what,
Speaker 3: you're right, my bad. I do care about more shit
Speaker 3: than sneakers. I do. I do care about you know,
Speaker 3: your cables and things.
Speaker 2: I think probably by that point you had already driven
Speaker 2: it home and now you was just like because I.
Speaker 3: Didn't get a response from him, that was the first
Speaker 3: response with shut the fuck up anywhere?
Speaker 2: Going to work, don't nobody, No, we might have just
Speaker 2: got off though.
Speaker 3: No, for real, the nigga had just just got off, right.
Speaker 2: I had a long day at work. Whatever, talk about
Speaker 2: a motherfucker.
Speaker 3: I don't be on it. I don't be on nobody
Speaker 3: hit that bad. So if I get on your ass,
Speaker 3: you deserve it, okay. And I was already fucking aggravated
Speaker 3: at your ass too. So it's one thirty PM and
Speaker 3: I'm tidy. Humans.
Speaker 2: I was like, she wants to be on her period
Speaker 2: day might have been, Yeah, it was given. It was
Speaker 2: given period energy.
Speaker 3: Okay, so a period.
Speaker 2: She was like, I don't have the bandwidth for any
Speaker 2: more of this today. I'm done.
Speaker 3: I still did the work though I did Okay, yeah,
Speaker 3: that's all that matter. I would not have been able
Speaker 3: to do that if we kept going to circles and
Speaker 3: then I just calculate time different because I know my bullshit.
Speaker 3: Some people don't know they bullshit. I know our bullshit
Speaker 3: as a team, so I know how long it takes
Speaker 3: us to do things. So I'm calculating that in my mind.
Speaker 2: But I feel like you did it this time. I
Speaker 2: absolutely did.
Speaker 3: I absolutely knew he wasn't going to have time for
Speaker 3: some next shit. Now we happened to because of our bullshit.
Speaker 2: I knew it would play out just like.
Speaker 3: How shut up by?
Speaker 2: You know what I'm saying.
Speaker 3: That's what I'm saying.
Speaker 2: Like we're gonna have a break. I was like, yeah, okay.
Speaker 3: So supposedly the main chick is public. Okay, they have
Speaker 3: the official title, the social Recognition Emotional Investment. But I
Speaker 3: feel like the man loves the side it's been on.
Speaker 3: How long she've been around. I feel like you sleep
Speaker 3: in anybody long enough, you be around anyone long enough,
Speaker 3: you are going to develop feelings for them, right, you
Speaker 3: know what I'm saying. You may not be about to
Speaker 3: discard your entire family for this person, and some people have.
Speaker 3: Kevin Hart, for example, he didn't discard his family, but
Speaker 3: he you know his wife.
Speaker 2: Well, I think they had already broken up before.
Speaker 3: This is why, this is why Tory Hart always be
Speaker 3: like because remember his current wife, what's her name? Yeah,
Speaker 3: that's somebody else. Even anyway, Kevin hart current wife, I
Speaker 3: remember her putting like up online like how long they
Speaker 3: had been together, and the ex wife commented, oh, okay,
Speaker 3: that's interesting, So y'all been together eight years, so it
Speaker 3: overlapped their marriage. M Yeah. Absolutely. She was a side
Speaker 3: chick and he married her so.
Speaker 2: And had made a family.
Speaker 3: Yeah, so I mean, if he didn't want to have
Speaker 3: the hard conversation.
Speaker 2: I will always tell women not to play that role.
Speaker 2: I don't think like nine times out of ten is
Speaker 2: not gonna end well unless you're just in it for
Speaker 2: the perse. But if you're looking for the man to
Speaker 2: leave his family and be with you nine times out
Speaker 2: of ten, that's not gonna happen.
Speaker 3: And then you also keep him how you get him right?
Speaker 3: You know? So now you you don't expect that to
Speaker 3: happen to you when he's ready to swap it out right.
Speaker 3: I just saw this post, and I don't know if
Speaker 3: this was real. I thought I believe it was real.
Speaker 3: But it was a woman and she was saying how
Speaker 3: it was a white woman. She was saying how she
Speaker 3: fell in love with this man and he had a wife,
Speaker 3: and basically he told the wife, I'm in love with
Speaker 3: somebody else. I'm no less in love with you, though,
Speaker 3: and I want y'all to meet.
Speaker 2: And then how did that go?
Speaker 3: He brought them in to the table together. They both
Speaker 3: they had conversations and they I guess neither one of
Speaker 3: them wanted to leave, so they now they're just yes,
Speaker 3: but like still separate though, Like he has a girlfriend
Speaker 3: and a wife and he eventually left both of them
Speaker 3: for somebody else.
Speaker 2: And I you see, you can't listen. You can't please them.
Speaker 3: You cannot.
Speaker 2: That's why I say it's important to set boundaries and
Speaker 2: not do things just to please your man.
Speaker 3: Exactly.
Speaker 2: You can't just just be doing things to please your man,
Speaker 2: because you will find yourself in the bottom of a poll.
Speaker 3: Up YOA says, may get cheated on but gets social recognition. Yes, duh, yeah,
Speaker 3: of course. So the one of the UH pro cons
Speaker 3: to being a main chick is that you may get
Speaker 3: cheated on, right, You can't get cheated on as the.
Speaker 2: Side right because you already the cheat right and the cheat.
Speaker 3: So the side check is the second option may get
Speaker 3: treated better than the main, but without commitment.
Speaker 2: You got me sitting up in the house with these
Speaker 2: kids all day and you out gallivan with some bitch
Speaker 2: and a casino.
Speaker 3: Yeah, no stress over there. Over here, you gotta be
Speaker 3: a husband, you gotta be a daddy, all the things.
Speaker 3: So now this is your like fun time outlet over here.
Speaker 2: I can understand why a man would want that.
Speaker 3: Yeah, and some say, you know, I think a lot
Speaker 3: of wives they may not admit it. They may not
Speaker 3: admit that maybe the side made their.
Speaker 2: Their relationships better better.
Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, absolutely, I just can't be there because I'm
Speaker 3: gonna want somebody else too, Like you're not gonna want
Speaker 3: me to be your sivage because your sivage got a nigga.
Speaker 2: Well, no, that's not true. Some people, like two married
Speaker 2: people will cheat together, like they'll be each other's side,
Speaker 2: and it makes it easier because the side doesn't need
Speaker 2: you for the other things. Like so sometimes women want
Speaker 2: that man to be their man, and he can't be
Speaker 2: their man because he's already somebody else's. But they already
Speaker 2: got a man at home. They don't need him for
Speaker 2: all of that shit, you see what I'm saying.
Speaker 3: So that makes it that's why it's easy for women
Speaker 3: to have a side than men. Yeah, women be over
Speaker 3: there waiting on the man. So that's why she got
Speaker 3: too much time to think, go get you a man,
Speaker 3: right while being the side. Maybe you tell him, maybe
Speaker 3: you don't.
Speaker 2: So when I was in Europe, I had this client
Speaker 2: and her she had like got her a side nigga,
Speaker 2: a younger like she was in her fifties. She looked
Speaker 2: really really good though. She took me really good care
Speaker 2: of herself, and she had like a thirty something year
Speaker 2: old side guy. And she was expressing that she didn't
Speaker 2: really want to ever cheat on her husband, but her
Speaker 2: husband had let herself go so badly. She had been
Speaker 2: on him about, you know, taking care of himself, and
Speaker 2: he just was getting fat and now his dick wouldn't work.
Speaker 2: And she said they had not had sex in three years,
Speaker 2: and she like took making him go to the doctor,
Speaker 2: the doctor.
Speaker 3: And she's healthy.
Speaker 2: Yeah, she's very in the gym and everything, and she
Speaker 2: was like, the doctor would tell him what to do
Speaker 2: to help, like, you know, promote better penal function, and
Speaker 2: he just wouldn't do none of the stuff. So she's like,
Speaker 2: I waited three years for him to try to get
Speaker 2: it together, and he just won't do it. He's just
Speaker 2: not motivated to take care of himself, and I can't
Speaker 2: do it for him. So I would and got somebody
Speaker 2: who could fuck me.
Speaker 3: Yeah, or maybe he needed enough, maybe they I think
Speaker 3: sometimes I just saw this and said it, either you
Speaker 3: want to cross mountains with your partner, or there'll be
Speaker 3: the mountain you gotta cross. Right, So sometimes people be
Speaker 3: in uh, this state of depression whatever it could be
Speaker 3: this other person, maybe she's no longer for him obviously, right,
Speaker 3: she really should have just left.
Speaker 2: Yeah, that's what I say.
Speaker 3: I mean, but leave and then he probably would get
Speaker 3: somebody that would motivate him in a different way, you
Speaker 3: know what I'm saying. Right, It was just complacent in something.
Speaker 2: But I also think like they had so much together
Speaker 2: at that point.
Speaker 3: That staying together because of responsibility, and they.
Speaker 2: Got kids, you know that aren't out of high school yet,
Speaker 2: so it wasn't as easy to just be like, oh,
Speaker 2: let's just separate, you know, and they got all that
Speaker 2: financial you know, endeavors together, so it's cheaper the keeper
Speaker 2: or killing the keeper. What No, don't kill but listen,
Speaker 2: we like when we're talking about a woman doing it,
Speaker 2: and I'm like, oh, now I understand that. As soon
Speaker 2: as we talk about a man doing it, I'm like
Speaker 2: that bastard that fucking right.
Speaker 3: So who really has the power in these relationships? Because
Speaker 3: the side bitch got the power to piss you off, right, Like,
Speaker 3: who's really getting like good treatment the man?
Speaker 2: The man is getting the best of everything. Yeah, he
Speaker 2: gets to go have his fun and have fourn a
Speaker 2: kid with this girl who is fun time. He don't
Speaker 2: have to worry about responsibilities with hers, just his outlet.
Speaker 2: And then he gets to go have a family with
Speaker 2: this other person and build generational wealth and have a family.
Speaker 2: You know, like you just winning on both sides.
Speaker 3: Yeah, so basically then nobody's winning between the main.
Speaker 2: And Yeah, they don't win at all, you know, I don't.
Speaker 3: Know, I feel like I know the main isn't. Well,
Speaker 3: she could win if she divorces and takes all the
Speaker 3: things that may be a way of winning she doesn't
Speaker 3: win the relationship and then the side. I mean, if
Speaker 3: she can actually play the role as a side and
Speaker 3: get all the things, you know what I'm saying, people
Speaker 3: be getting intuition, paid, all types of shit if you
Speaker 3: could be a proper side bitch.
Speaker 2: But I guess it depends on how you define winning,
Speaker 2: you know, like, because why isn't the main winning, Especially
Speaker 2: if like this man takes care of her, She don't
Speaker 2: have to want for nothing, don't have to worry about
Speaker 2: like responsibilities outside of like nurturing the family and taking
Speaker 2: care of the kids. I'm making it seem like.
Speaker 3: That that is a lot of shit responsibility while you
Speaker 3: round here gallivanting. Absolutely not.
Speaker 2: I would love to sit home, go to pilates in
Speaker 2: the morning with my hot yoga and then cook a
Speaker 2: meal and then take care of the kids, and that
Speaker 2: would be my only responsibility. Women are doing that and
Speaker 2: maintaining full time jobs and having it, you know, wear
Speaker 2: all these different hats at the same time. So I mean,
Speaker 2: if you're gonna have a side bitch, you need to
Speaker 2: be able to take care of me. Ain't nothing worse
Speaker 2: than a nigga having a side bitch who ain't got
Speaker 2: no money. You know.
Speaker 3: That now those who got it's not even for those men,
Speaker 3: but they doing it, I know the most. No, but
Speaker 3: who is allowing that though?
Speaker 4: Right?
Speaker 3: Because he don't even got enough money already for the
Speaker 3: woman he has. And now you gotta lie to your ass.
Speaker 2: And go to their house to pick him up.
Speaker 3: Not you really gotta cook for this nigga because he
Speaker 3: can't eat otherwise, right.
Speaker 2: You the side bitch and you picking them up for
Speaker 2: the house?
Speaker 3: Man may be having options. Man, So when these niggas be,
Speaker 3: these in cels be on these podcasts, dog, they don't
Speaker 3: have nothing to do with women. Why you ain't getting pussy,
Speaker 3: get some charisma, get some smell good, get a haircut,
Speaker 3: get a hairline. Get It's because somebody want to give
Speaker 3: you some kucci. Okay, it just may not be the
Speaker 3: kuchie you think you're supposed to have access to. And
Speaker 3: I think that's that's why they be fucking mad, because yeah,
Speaker 3: you you you might can't get the ten you know
Speaker 3: they like the number uh rate women. It's this post
Speaker 3: I'm trying to find. And I don't know if I
Speaker 3: uh if we talked about this on the show or not.
Speaker 3: Where the girl basically the husband was saying how he
Speaker 3: had been cheating on his wife for a while, and
Speaker 3: then he stopped cheating, and then three years later she
Speaker 3: basically gave him some divorce papers, like I'm leaving, I'm
Speaker 3: in love with somebody else, and I'm marrying that person.
Speaker 2: Did we talk about that? No, we did not. Girl,
Speaker 2: what's good for the goose is good for the game. Yeah.
Speaker 3: So he he had been with his wife for a
Speaker 3: while and he admitted that he had cheated on her.
Speaker 3: She knew, yeah, uh huh. He said he kept getting
Speaker 3: caught cheating.
Speaker 2: Okay, life around.
Speaker 3: Yes, And he said that his child, which is not
Speaker 3: her child, and then their child together was basically happy
Speaker 3: for the mom. So it's here. It's so. It says
Speaker 3: my wife and I have been married for twenty years.
Speaker 3: I will admit that I have cheated on her. Throughout
Speaker 3: the years. She caught me each and every time. I
Speaker 3: got tired of being caught, so I stopped. Two years ago.
Speaker 3: At dinner with our family Saturday night, my wife comes out,
Speaker 3: gives me divorce papers and tells me she's leaving. Why
Speaker 3: would she want to leave me? I changed for her,
Speaker 3: I changed for her. Good boy. I had a nigga
Speaker 3: tell me that shit.
Speaker 2: I give all my bitches up for you.
Speaker 3: I didn't tell you to do that.
Speaker 2: I just told you you.
Speaker 3: Couldn't do this and that nigga, you could have chose
Speaker 3: that anyway. So he was like, I changed for her
Speaker 3: exclamation point. We raised children together, we have a home together,
Speaker 3: and I was planning on surprising her with a new car.
Speaker 3: Apparently my son, who was not her son, knew about it.
Speaker 3: Our daughter knew about it, and they had the nerve
Speaker 3: to fucking congratulate her. She told me that she was
Speaker 3: She has been in a relationship for the last three years,
Speaker 3: and she decided to marry this guy. At first, I
Speaker 3: thought it was a joke because her routine has never changed. See,
Speaker 3: women know how to do the ship and that's love,
Speaker 3: he said. Dinner is on the table at the same
Speaker 3: time every night. She ain't miss a beat. Okay, men,
Speaker 3: y'all not coming home.
Speaker 2: Like like scared right now, Like.
Speaker 3: You better beat me.
Speaker 2: You can have a signed nigga, especially if you know
Speaker 2: you ain't treating her right.
Speaker 3: We are cats.
Speaker 2: You can't cheat over and over and over again. I
Speaker 2: think there'll be no karma.
Speaker 3: Exact, he said. I don't know how. Excuse me, he said,
Speaker 3: I don't know when and how she had time and
Speaker 3: cheat on me, and I did not know. I will
Speaker 3: not leave her. I would not let her leave this
Speaker 3: marriage easily. He says. She would have to leave with
Speaker 3: absolutely nothing. My question is how does she do all this?
Speaker 3: And I didn't know.
Speaker 2: Because while you was out doing you, she was doing
Speaker 2: her too. We was making love to you.
Speaker 3: You can making love like what you thought. You know
Speaker 3: what I'm saying, Oh.
Speaker 2: What about that show Pee Valley, which I can't wait
Speaker 2: for it to come back on. Don't do that and
Speaker 2: that's a good show. We miss you, Uncle Clifford. But
Speaker 2: where the wife? She was the doctor, and she was
Speaker 2: married to Andre. Andre was the politician. And he went
Speaker 2: back to Chuck Lisa and he was trying to like
Speaker 2: revitalize Chuck Lisa and things like that. And he started
Speaker 2: messing with the stripper Autumn Autumn Night and oh yeah, yeah,
Speaker 2: and he had affair with Autumn Night. And he came
Speaker 2: home and his wife was in there fucking another doctor
Speaker 2: in they house.
Speaker 3: Wasn't she a unicorn in a relationship?
Speaker 2: No? Okay, No, he was in Chuck a Lisa. His
Speaker 2: wife was in Atlanta, I believe, okay, And he went
Speaker 2: to Chuck Lisa and he met autumn night, and then
Speaker 2: they started having an affair. And I think they only
Speaker 2: ended up really having sex one time, you know, but
Speaker 2: they were like, you know, it was a build up.
Speaker 2: But then he came home to his wife. He had
Speaker 2: been gone for a long time, and when he came home,
Speaker 2: his wife had another doctor in the house having sex
Speaker 2: with him. And my friend was like, oh, she fucked
Speaker 2: up for that.
Speaker 3: Well in the house.
Speaker 2: Yeah, in the house that the like, don't bring no
Speaker 2: you can fuck around get killed for that. Yeah, don't
Speaker 2: in your house. That's crazy, Like you just don't give
Speaker 2: you got you give zero fucks. But what's good for
Speaker 2: the goose is good for the gain. They're like, if
Speaker 2: he was home instead of out in Chuck A. Lisa
Speaker 2: having sex for the strip girl, his wife probably would
Speaker 2: have been involved with him and not with this other person.
Speaker 2: You left space for that exactly.
Speaker 3: Yeah. Oh when you got too much time and think
Speaker 3: all type of shit happened.
Speaker 2: Yeah right now that house. Now, don't do that, anybody.
Speaker 2: Do not. If you decide that you want to have
Speaker 2: a side relationship, do not bring them in your home.
Speaker 2: Whether you.
Speaker 3: Probably still now, I got shit, missed it bags.
Speaker 2: You did that video like I'll bet my side big house,
Speaker 2: and I got his wife shoes off. She had shoes
Speaker 2: that looked like Monica.
Speaker 3: Be fun li you on my life.
Speaker 2: That's dangerous.
Speaker 3: Yeah. So this nigga, he want to know how she
Speaker 3: did it. She did it because she she The reason
Speaker 3: how she was able to do is because she actually
Speaker 3: cared about your fucking feelings until she didn't anymore. Because
Speaker 3: obviously you was fucking cartwheeling doing the douggie and the
Speaker 3: fucking trip out on her heart for years and kept
Speaker 3: getting caught. So you were being sloppy and a lot
Speaker 3: of times you don't even gott to look for shit
Speaker 3: like men. Really, Just like the other day, I was
Speaker 3: hiding behind the island at the house, hiding from Dasha
Speaker 3: and she and she like crept up. I'm waiting for
Speaker 3: her to come in front of me. I look behind me.
Speaker 3: This is how sneaky women are. Okay, we're gonna we're
Speaker 3: gonna bury all ship buried, the ship ticket to the grave,
Speaker 3: and men will literally leave the ship on the table
Speaker 3: for to see. I remember this nigga had condoms and
Speaker 3: movie tickets in his trash can. I didn't I didn't
Speaker 3: go through his trash can look for these things. They
Speaker 3: were at the top and I just was throwing something
Speaker 3: in the trash can. So this weekend you was fucking
Speaker 3: and taking a bitch to the.
Speaker 2: Movies, right. I remember I found a condom in the
Speaker 2: bed and he was like, he let his homeboy come
Speaker 2: over there.
Speaker 3: It's always the homeboy.
Speaker 2: You got a five bedroom house. Why did they fucking
Speaker 2: your bedroom? Why wouldn't they? Yeah, just just telling me
Speaker 2: like you lying in my now you're playing in my
Speaker 2: face because the lies are stupid. It don't make no sense.
Speaker 3: This wasn't my man, right, this is my whole nigga.
Speaker 3: We was having we had sex and now we about
Speaker 3: to go to sleeping ship. Hide as hell. Something wrapping
Speaker 3: around my fucking toes underneath to cover fannies. What a
Speaker 3: low mucus in it too? I still want to sleep.
Speaker 3: This ain't my nigga. I mean, what you expect you
Speaker 3: he fucking somebody else, but goddamn sheet.
Speaker 2: That's the thing. You're laying in the sheet like the
Speaker 2: disrespect of putting me. But you never know how many
Speaker 2: business have been because I don't even know if niggas
Speaker 2: watch they don't.
Speaker 3: They don't, So you be.
Speaker 2: Laying in a woman's sweat spot off.
Speaker 3: Remember we did Poor Minds, and I was like, I
Speaker 3: buy men's sheets. It's not because I'm worrying about hooping
Speaker 3: fucking on the sheets. I like nice linens. I want
Speaker 3: to feel comfortable in your.
Speaker 2: Ship, right, So I'm gonna do all the things right
Speaker 2: because you might buy him. He still might somebody.
Speaker 3: Now you fucking on my sheet. Oh he has good
Speaker 3: tasting linen, exactly, these thousand count cotton organic cotton. Nobody's winning.
Speaker 3: I agree with you when you say the man man
Speaker 3: is winning. It's just about perspective. It's subjective who the
Speaker 3: actual winner is. You start throwing kids in there, sh'it
Speaker 3: get fucking messy, because we do know that men get side.
Speaker 3: Bitch is pregnant all the time because you're not using
Speaker 3: the condom with her, you know, well you should be, yeah,
Speaker 3: but oftentimes they're not looking with somebody for a whole year.
Speaker 2: You're still using the condom. Girl, If it's somebody on
Speaker 2: the side of your relationship, you should not be having
Speaker 2: unprotected yea.
Speaker 3: And that's why your wife trying to figure out, why
Speaker 3: the hell exactly? Yeah, we be knowing. Even if you
Speaker 3: don't say nothing, we ain't caught you. Our body tell
Speaker 3: us you're cheating. Fuck nigga anyway, Damn fuck nigga anyway. Yeah.
Speaker 2: So, by social standards, the main is always gonna be
Speaker 2: the one that women champion, Like, we're always gonna be
Speaker 2: on her side. And now we're gonna be like, this
Speaker 2: is the one he chose. The other woman is, you know,
Speaker 2: conspiring with this man, and people can get hurt, you know.
Speaker 2: The one who's in the dark is the one who
Speaker 2: can ultimately be hurt.
Speaker 3: You know.
Speaker 2: So I identify with that more and I side with
Speaker 2: that more. However, when we talk of terms of winning,
Speaker 2: nobody wins when the family fuse, the man wins. He's
Speaker 2: the winner. Yeah, and that's it.
Speaker 3: Stay off these people, husband, man, that's not gonna stop
Speaker 3: because you don't want nobody on yours. This is what
Speaker 3: that That's why I don't fuck with people husbands, because
Speaker 3: I might. I might beat your ass up about mine.
Speaker 3: I listen, might beat your ass up about my husband.
Speaker 3: I might pull up to your house.
Speaker 2: Prior to ten years of my marriage. Don't fuck with.
Speaker 3: I'm the ten years. Call me first, let me see
Speaker 3: if I like you girl? What you're doing it on Saturday?
Speaker 2: Can you can? I can go? Thank you girl. I
Speaker 2: would see y'all some money now that aspiring.
Speaker 3: The man conspiring with the side right.
Speaker 2: Got it about the house?
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