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Speaker 2: On this week's episode in her Space. It really has

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Speaker 2: nothing to do with you, Like, it's all about their

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Speaker 2: perspective and the lens that they see life through. And

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Speaker 2: so I think I really appreciate you sharing how you

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Speaker 2: though you do you share? If you look at everything holistically,

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Speaker 2: her experience was here.

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Speaker 3: Welcome to her Space, a podcast dedicated to uplifting women

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Speaker 3: like you. We're your Costs Doctor Dominique Broussard, a colege

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Speaker 4: And Terry Lomax, a techie and motivational speaker.

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Speaker 2: In a world where black women are often misrepresented and misunderstood,

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Speaker 4: Hey girl. Hey, it's Terry here from the her Space podcast.

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Speaker 3: If you've been listening to us for a while, then

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Speaker 3: dot dom. Trust the process not see this quote to

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Speaker 2: So we talk about feedback in many of our episodes,

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Speaker 2: right we let you know that we really value your feedback.

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Speaker 3: But in terms of like learning or adventure, I would

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Speaker 2: That would be amazing. And what's your favorite drink? Alcoholic

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Speaker 2: or not alcoholic? Let's go with alcoholic, whine? Whine? What

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Speaker 2: kind of wine? Any kind? Any kind? I know, that's right,

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Speaker 3: Generally, like in the summertime, I prefer rose. If I'm

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Speaker 2: Yeah, And what makes your heart sing read I'm digging

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Speaker 3: Actually no, I will say that. And seeing family that

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Speaker 3: definitely would make my heart family.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I don't know, Dom. I'm trying to think, do

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Speaker 2: do we have more questions? Oh? Do you have any books?

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Speaker 3: Like I would say, so, okay, I I would say

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Speaker 3: my favorite book is Their Eyes Were Watching God by

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Speaker 3: Zora Neil Hurston. Oh, and that book will have a

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Speaker 3: in reading that, if you haven't read it, If maybe

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Speaker 3: Berry and Michael Ealy, not necessarily they're either of their

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Speaker 3: not necessarily into books, watching that movie is a good

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Speaker 3: way for you to kind of get a sense of

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Speaker 3: what the book was about. If there are other ways

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Speaker 3: in which other questions that we haven't asked that you're

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Speaker 3: just dying to know about me, Remember that we do

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Speaker 3: have a new segment called Ask doctor Dom on Tuesdays,

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Speaker 3: whatever it is that you're wanting to know about me.

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Speaker 2: Also, if you want to check out some of our

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Speaker 2: previous episodes to learn a bit more about doctor Dom

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Speaker 2: and some of the content that she shared on these episodes.

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Speaker 2: I would say that season one episode one, Welcome to

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Speaker 2: her Space, is a really good episode to start. Also,

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Speaker 2: Season two episode two, which is all about play deprivation

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Speaker 2: and that is all about what to do when you're

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Speaker 2: not part of the fun ministry or fun is not

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Speaker 2: your ministry, that was a good one. And then season

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Speaker 2: two episode nine, So what's therapy like anyway?

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Speaker 3: Hey lady, it's doctor Dom here from the her Space Podcast.

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Speaker 3: Every Tuesday, I'll choose a few questions and answer them

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Speaker 2: after me, There's something inside of me that's bigger than

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