WEBVTT - Like Mother, Like Daughter 0:00:14.280 --> 0:00:18.760 It's I Do Part two, one of your celebrity mentors, 0:00:18.840 --> 0:00:22.840 Kelly ben Simone, And today I am so excited because 0:00:22.960 --> 0:00:27.760 my gorgeous daughter, gorgeous and smart daughter Teddy ben Simone 0:00:27.840 --> 0:00:34.559 is joining me on the pod. Hi Teddy, Hi mom, 0:00:35.560 --> 0:00:39.880 Hi angel my princess girl. Look at you. Okay, let's 0:00:39.920 --> 0:00:43.479 get started, ted So this is Iety Part two. We're 0:00:43.520 --> 0:00:48.279 talking all things love. Okay, do you like to talk 0:00:48.280 --> 0:00:49.400 about love? Teddy? 0:00:50.159 --> 0:00:52.480 I love love. I'm a lover. 0:00:53.000 --> 0:00:53.680 Are you a lover? 0:00:54.640 --> 0:00:57.040 Yeah? I'm like a romantic person. I love love. 0:00:58.800 --> 0:01:01.160 I love that you look very beautiful. 0:01:01.800 --> 0:01:02.360 Thank you. 0:01:02.600 --> 0:01:06.600 That's set up for the audience. What kind of mother 0:01:06.720 --> 0:01:09.640 daughter dynamic? What would you say? We have? 0:01:10.160 --> 0:01:13.200 We are mother daughter, we are you and see are 0:01:13.200 --> 0:01:17.320 more like friends? Oh? We are like mother daughter? 0:01:17.720 --> 0:01:19.120 And what does that mean? Exactly? 0:01:19.400 --> 0:01:22.400 Like you're my mom and I'm your daughter, and we 0:01:22.440 --> 0:01:26.240 are a mother daughter. You gave birth to me. 0:01:27.080 --> 0:01:29.000 I did I exist now. 0:01:29.360 --> 0:01:34.000 It was the easiest birth. It was the easiest. I 0:01:34.040 --> 0:01:38.160 had a tricky sandwich and so good. We're like. I 0:01:38.200 --> 0:01:40.320 didn't want anyone to touch you. It was like do not. 0:01:41.240 --> 0:01:45.800 I don't remember, Kenny, but I love turkey sandwiches. They're delicious. 0:01:46.080 --> 0:01:49.320 How would you describe our relationship. I mean, I think 0:01:49.560 --> 0:01:52.080 I definitely see you as my daughter mom. 0:01:52.120 --> 0:01:54.600 We have a mother daughter relationship, Like you're my mom. 0:01:55.480 --> 0:02:00.120 Obviously I love you. Obviously, I think you're fabulous, but 0:02:00.600 --> 0:02:01.720 obviously you're my mom. 0:02:01.880 --> 0:02:03.800 Like, I'm going to be annoyed with you sometimes, I'm 0:02:03.800 --> 0:02:06.000 going to think you're cringe. I'm going to think you're embarrassing. 0:02:06.000 --> 0:02:08.679 I'm going to think you're annoying. I'm also going to 0:02:08.720 --> 0:02:12.040 think you're so bad. I'm gonna be like, oh my gosh, 0:02:12.160 --> 0:02:12.680 I'm annoyed. 0:02:13.120 --> 0:02:15.040 I love that. I love that you think I'm cringe. 0:02:15.120 --> 0:02:18.080 That makes me so happy. It makes me so unhappy, like, 0:02:18.240 --> 0:02:20.040 oh my god, my daughter called me cringe. To me, 0:02:20.120 --> 0:02:23.360 that's like music to my ears. Because it's like, I 0:02:23.400 --> 0:02:25.960 don't I want you to I want you to learn 0:02:26.000 --> 0:02:28.720 from my mistakes. I don't want you to just think 0:02:28.720 --> 0:02:31.799 that my mistakes are okay. What do you think about mistakes, Teddy? 0:02:32.040 --> 0:02:37.359 I think mistakes are great. Your mistakes mm hmmm, I 0:02:37.400 --> 0:02:38.519 mean they're not mine. 0:02:39.400 --> 0:02:41.440 I mean, like I feel. 0:02:41.360 --> 0:02:46.359 As though I'm sad that you had to experience those 0:02:46.400 --> 0:02:48.919 mistakes because I think that some mistakes that you've experienced 0:02:49.000 --> 0:02:53.600 or made were ones that had consequences that were not 0:02:53.639 --> 0:02:56.480 the most fabulous or pleasant. 0:02:56.760 --> 0:02:59.120 You know, obviously, like when you make a mistake or 0:02:59.160 --> 0:03:01.160 you make a choice, you can't always foresee what the 0:03:01.160 --> 0:03:03.440 future is going to be. That's why we make. 0:03:03.400 --> 0:03:05.919 Choices and make decisions, and then you know, you make 0:03:05.960 --> 0:03:11.280 me the one once the outcome happens. But I'm because 0:03:11.320 --> 0:03:16.880 I've seen the consequences of your mistakes so far, I 0:03:16.960 --> 0:03:20.200 know to not make those same choices. 0:03:21.040 --> 0:03:25.200 I'm a single parent, as you know, I'm your single mom. 0:03:25.400 --> 0:03:29.480 As I know I'm yes, I present to you as 0:03:29.480 --> 0:03:31.000 the both the mother and you have it. You have 0:03:31.040 --> 0:03:33.320 a dad, but as I present to you as the 0:03:33.320 --> 0:03:36.000 mother and the father, so I take care of you. 0:03:36.200 --> 0:03:41.160 I'm your provider, I'm your I'm your I'm your rock. 0:03:41.280 --> 0:03:43.880 I mean, I'm you know, we love, we love your dad, 0:03:44.160 --> 0:03:48.120 and we understand my mother very very good. 0:03:47.960 --> 0:03:50.440 At and my dad is my dad like I have 0:03:50.480 --> 0:03:51.880 a father. You're not like a. 0:03:51.840 --> 0:03:56.560 Father, yes, but you have me as your parent. So 0:03:57.760 --> 0:04:01.880 let's talk about like some mistakes because I'm actually really 0:04:01.920 --> 0:04:04.960 curious and I think this is a talk about them. 0:04:05.560 --> 0:04:09.920 Why not talk about them with on a podcast that's 0:04:10.000 --> 0:04:12.200 really helped me to be a better version of myself. 0:04:13.640 --> 0:04:16.159 So I love that what kind of mistakes have I made? 0:04:16.240 --> 0:04:17.040 Don't make me cry? 0:04:18.360 --> 0:04:23.760 I think you've made mistakes in your romantic partners before. 0:04:25.520 --> 0:04:33.440 Absolutely. I think that your biggest mistake is you don't. 0:04:34.600 --> 0:04:36.560 I think something you can still learn from is that 0:04:36.600 --> 0:04:40.040 you need to when someone tells you this is wrong. 0:04:40.200 --> 0:04:41.640 I think this is a bad choice. I think this 0:04:41.680 --> 0:04:45.680 is a bad person. Whatever, it's be wise to listen 0:04:45.680 --> 0:04:49.440 to them, because obviously I think that it's a big 0:04:49.480 --> 0:04:51.240 I mean, that's a big thing to say to someone 0:04:51.320 --> 0:04:54.080 because in everyday life, when someone tells you that's a 0:04:54.080 --> 0:04:55.360 bad choice, you'd be like, what do you know? You're 0:04:55.360 --> 0:04:56.880 not mean, you're not living my life, you don't know 0:04:57.000 --> 0:04:58.200 my experience, you don't know me. 0:04:58.320 --> 0:05:01.599 No one knows you better than yourself. But I think 0:05:01.640 --> 0:05:05.880 that listening to friends and family. 0:05:07.120 --> 0:05:10.360 Or you know, hey, this person is not a great 0:05:10.480 --> 0:05:14.440 choice for you. Knowing that people who love and care 0:05:14.440 --> 0:05:19.320 about you are telling you to lead this person, maybe 0:05:19.320 --> 0:05:20.040 that should. 0:05:19.760 --> 0:05:23.960 Be something that you should listen to more in life. 0:05:24.040 --> 0:05:26.599 Like if people say don't do it, you shouldn't be like, 0:05:27.200 --> 0:05:27.760 what do you know? 0:05:27.800 --> 0:05:30.120 You're not me. You could be like, why do you 0:05:30.200 --> 0:05:30.920 say that. 0:05:31.000 --> 0:05:32.919 I'm not like, oh my god, let me be a 0:05:32.960 --> 0:05:35.120 martyr because I need to be a martyr. I'm not 0:05:35.200 --> 0:05:35.520 like that. 0:05:35.839 --> 0:05:38.360 I don't think it's martyrdom though. I think it's just 0:05:38.400 --> 0:05:41.960 you know, making a choice. For example, you know, you 0:05:42.200 --> 0:05:45.560 you you had a romantic partner when I was younger, 0:05:47.400 --> 0:05:49.440 friends and family told you maybe this is not a 0:05:49.440 --> 0:05:55.760 good choice, you know, and instead of necessarily saying, you 0:05:55.800 --> 0:05:57.120 know what, I'm going to listen to what you have 0:05:57.160 --> 0:05:58.720 to say, why do you say this to you, were 0:05:58.760 --> 0:06:03.600 just like I'm gonna continue doing this instead. I mean, 0:06:03.640 --> 0:06:05.479 I wasn't saying anything because I was younger, But I 0:06:05.480 --> 0:06:07.839 think that, like, if you had listened to those people 0:06:07.880 --> 0:06:10.599 at that time, you wouldn't have made so many mistakes 0:06:10.640 --> 0:06:13.800 later when I say that you've made mistakes, and what 0:06:13.839 --> 0:06:17.200 I mean is that, you know, I think that you have. 0:06:18.480 --> 0:06:21.520 I think in romantic situations, I think that you either 0:06:22.279 --> 0:06:25.919 give someone way too many chances or you give them 0:06:26.000 --> 0:06:29.560 like no leash at all, and you don't, like you 0:06:29.800 --> 0:06:31.839 like the tiniest thing. You're like, oh my god, I 0:06:31.880 --> 0:06:34.799 hate that I'm writing them off, and it's like whoa 0:06:35.880 --> 0:06:37.880 you know, you know, he used. 0:06:37.680 --> 0:06:39.920 The wrong fork at dinner. I mean actually pretty bad. 0:06:39.960 --> 0:06:40.640 But whatever. 0:06:40.960 --> 0:06:44.640 No, that's a different thing, because I think i'd be like, 0:06:44.680 --> 0:06:48.360 there are your manners, but no, but not everyone knows 0:06:48.400 --> 0:06:51.160 about you know, table manners. And then not using the 0:06:51.240 --> 0:06:53.240 right fork at dinner. But it's a tiny fork, solid fork. 0:06:53.279 --> 0:06:53.520 Hello. 0:06:53.680 --> 0:06:56.560 No, no, But what you were saying about about picking 0:06:56.560 --> 0:06:58.760 and choosing people and giving them too many chances, I 0:06:58.800 --> 0:07:02.600 think too that one of the things that I was 0:07:02.680 --> 0:07:07.880 doing is that although I was saying and presenting myself 0:07:07.920 --> 0:07:12.080 saying that I was looking for someone to share my 0:07:12.160 --> 0:07:14.560 life with and to when I you know, I mean 0:07:14.920 --> 0:07:17.600 from you know, from like from the minute I got divorced, 0:07:17.600 --> 0:07:18.840 I was like, you know what, I want a better 0:07:18.880 --> 0:07:20.600 life for my girls. I want a better life for 0:07:20.680 --> 0:07:25.680 my girls. And that's always what I wanted. And I 0:07:25.800 --> 0:07:32.240 was so concerned that you guys would not have a 0:07:32.280 --> 0:07:36.280 better life than what my parents gave to me that 0:07:36.680 --> 0:07:40.440 I didn't see men for actually for who they were. 0:07:41.080 --> 0:07:45.560 I was so laser focused on you guys and providing 0:07:45.640 --> 0:07:49.080 for you that, you know, if they were the nicest guy, 0:07:49.520 --> 0:07:51.760 I didn't see them. If they were the worst guy, 0:07:52.360 --> 0:07:55.640 I didn't see them like I literally did not see 0:07:55.840 --> 0:07:58.000 who they were. I mean, people would make mistakes or 0:07:58.000 --> 0:08:00.400 they would do things, and I was like, you know, 0:08:00.600 --> 0:08:04.640 I just wasn't I wasn't present, I wasn't available. I 0:08:04.760 --> 0:08:07.640 was So you know how they talk about like, you know, 0:08:08.320 --> 0:08:11.680 dating unavailable guys, Well, these all the guys that I 0:08:11.720 --> 0:08:14.280 was going on dates with or I was in relationships 0:08:14.280 --> 0:08:18.360 were with a highly unavailable woman. And that was me. 0:08:19.960 --> 0:08:24.080 Yeah, I know, but I think that you also know. 0:08:24.880 --> 0:08:28.960 I know you know, my mom, I'm aware. I think 0:08:29.000 --> 0:08:29.400 that you. 0:08:31.680 --> 0:08:34.640 Have this idea of what your perfect person is in 0:08:34.679 --> 0:08:37.240 your brain and you. 0:08:38.679 --> 0:08:43.720 See yourself as like you're like, Okay, this is me 0:08:45.080 --> 0:08:46.000 and this is what I want. 0:08:46.480 --> 0:08:53.400 And I'm fifty seven, fifty seven, and I feel like 0:08:53.760 --> 0:08:56.480 I've lived this long, and I've waited this long. I 0:08:56.480 --> 0:08:58.599 still should have exactly what I want. I should be 0:08:58.640 --> 0:09:00.160 able to have my cake, I should be able to 0:09:00.200 --> 0:09:02.160 eat it, and I should be able to share with everybody. 0:09:02.720 --> 0:09:04.960 And in reality, that's not the way life works. 0:09:05.440 --> 0:09:07.440 That's not where the way romance works, and that's not 0:09:07.480 --> 0:09:09.520 the way finding a partner works. 0:09:09.880 --> 0:09:11.240 I'm a firm believer. 0:09:11.120 --> 0:09:14.640 In like you, I always sew like my friends like 0:09:14.840 --> 0:09:16.280 and I'm even tell you this all the time, where 0:09:16.280 --> 0:09:18.320 it's like you have to think of your perfect person 0:09:18.400 --> 0:09:21.880 and your brain and say, like you're ten things or 0:09:21.920 --> 0:09:23.800 twenty things that you want in your perfect person, whether 0:09:23.800 --> 0:09:27.800 it's physical traits, like intellectual traits, emotional traits, mental traits, 0:09:27.840 --> 0:09:30.800 all these things. Put them on on a piece of 0:09:30.840 --> 0:09:33.840 paper and then like cut them in and like cut 0:09:33.840 --> 0:09:35.800 a third of them away and like get take off 0:09:35.880 --> 0:09:37.960 like a third of them, be like okay. And that's 0:09:38.000 --> 0:09:40.760 more of a reality of like what people are. Because 0:09:41.240 --> 0:09:44.040 if you're expecting to have your perfect person, then you 0:09:44.120 --> 0:09:45.760 need to understand that you would eat to be. 0:09:45.720 --> 0:09:48.040 Saying that you are a perfect person. Or I always 0:09:48.080 --> 0:09:49.160 say to you, think. 0:09:49.040 --> 0:09:51.520 Of your ideal man and then think of his ideal woman, 0:09:52.240 --> 0:09:53.360 and are you that person? 0:09:53.480 --> 0:09:55.120 I love that. I love that when you say that. 0:10:05.320 --> 0:10:08.800 So if you're talking about my dear deal man, and 0:10:08.880 --> 0:10:12.360 I think, I love you so much and I really 0:10:12.400 --> 0:10:15.400 appreciate you saying those beautiful things. What what do you 0:10:15.440 --> 0:10:18.600 think are three to five things that you think that 0:10:18.640 --> 0:10:21.240 I kind of what kind of three to five characteristics 0:10:21.760 --> 0:10:23.680 that you think that I needed a man. 0:10:23.920 --> 0:10:27.160 I think you need someone who is patient. I think 0:10:27.160 --> 0:10:34.880 you need someone who is understanding and someone who is intelligent. 0:10:35.480 --> 0:10:39.160 I love that is that three understanding of what that's 0:10:39.240 --> 0:10:44.920 three understanding of what my emotions, understanding of the world, 0:10:45.559 --> 0:10:47.160 like understanding understanding. 0:10:46.720 --> 0:10:49.840 Of like you and your experiences and like Like an 0:10:49.920 --> 0:10:52.520 understanding person doesn't mean that they understand a certain thing, 0:10:52.960 --> 0:10:55.440 but they're willing to They're not the kind of someone 0:10:55.440 --> 0:10:58.439 who's understanding is not going to be like you say, X, 0:10:58.520 --> 0:10:59.559 y Z thing happens. 0:11:00.080 --> 0:11:01.400 They're not going to react immediately. 0:11:01.440 --> 0:11:03.280 They're going to think about all these other things and 0:11:03.280 --> 0:11:04.880 all these other factors, and then they're going to make 0:11:04.880 --> 0:11:07.959 a judgment after. It's just someone who's not really reactive, 0:11:08.320 --> 0:11:12.600 and they are very much so the kind of person 0:11:12.600 --> 0:11:14.640 who looked at the bigger picture and looks at it 0:11:14.600 --> 0:11:17.839 and takes everything else and puts it together to make 0:11:17.880 --> 0:11:18.600 their decision. 0:11:18.880 --> 0:11:20.840 You know, it's interesting because I, you know, one of 0:11:20.880 --> 0:11:23.680 the So there's two things that I that happened when 0:11:23.679 --> 0:11:25.319 I when I go on a date. The first thing 0:11:25.440 --> 0:11:27.960 is that they asked me about Scary Island. Not like 0:11:28.080 --> 0:11:31.040 what happened. So I'm like, Okay, obviously. 0:11:30.720 --> 0:11:33.600 Why are you dating men that know about what scary Island? 0:11:34.320 --> 0:11:37.040 I couldn't even tell you what happened on Scary Island. 0:11:37.880 --> 0:11:39.240 I couldn't tell you what happened. 0:11:39.320 --> 0:11:42.320 I actually like it because it means that they have 0:11:42.440 --> 0:11:44.840 a genuine interest in me. So I think that's kind of. 0:11:46.320 --> 0:11:46.400 Ish. 0:11:47.400 --> 0:11:50.640 And the second thing they asked me is oh my god, like, 0:11:51.200 --> 0:11:54.360 you're so busy on social and you're in you know, 0:11:54.400 --> 0:11:56.520 you're like, what do you do for a living? 0:11:57.000 --> 0:11:58.280 Where are you finding these people? 0:11:58.600 --> 0:12:01.720 It's just that's just how people. That's how men in 0:12:01.760 --> 0:12:04.880 their fifties, that's how they respond. That's what they's maybe 0:12:04.920 --> 0:12:06.160 go from a man in his sixties. 0:12:06.240 --> 0:12:08.640 This is bizarre, mom. I'm not kidding. If a man 0:12:08.960 --> 0:12:10.840 like that would be shocking to me. If I went 0:12:10.880 --> 0:12:12.480 on a date with someone and they were like, how 0:12:12.640 --> 0:12:14.680 was this big fight that you had with people? 0:12:15.480 --> 0:12:17.920 I would be like, what do you what do you talking? 0:12:17.960 --> 0:12:20.200 Can you remember that I'm in my fifties so it's 0:12:20.240 --> 0:12:23.000 like we're the same age. So they're kind of trying 0:12:23.000 --> 0:12:26.560 to ask me things that are really like relatable. That's 0:12:26.559 --> 0:12:27.400 what they're trying to do. 0:12:27.679 --> 0:12:30.720 I don't think that would be these are that would 0:12:30.720 --> 0:12:33.520 be I think it's the red flag if they're like, hey, 0:12:34.120 --> 0:12:37.960 how was going on scary Island you. I would be like, what, 0:12:38.760 --> 0:12:41.000 like I've that would be shocking to me. Mom, I'm 0:12:41.000 --> 0:12:44.040 in my twenties. I've never had a guy on any 0:12:44.120 --> 0:12:46.800 date ever asked me what it was like to have. 0:12:46.760 --> 0:12:49.640 A parent be on a Bravo show I love you well. 0:12:49.640 --> 0:12:51.680 They don't even ask me about, like, are you close 0:12:51.720 --> 0:12:52.160 to your parents? 0:12:52.200 --> 0:12:54.719 I'm like yeah, and they're like, okay, great, because one 0:12:54.760 --> 0:12:56.920 part of you on a TV show is so like that, 0:12:57.160 --> 0:12:59.360 if that even part of you even still exists in 0:12:59.400 --> 0:13:03.560 you right now, it's so small and insignificant. It's stupid 0:13:03.559 --> 0:13:05.000 to me that that would even be a question that 0:13:05.040 --> 0:13:07.040 someone would ask, And they need to be gone. 0:13:08.000 --> 0:13:09.199 Teddy Beautiful. 0:13:09.480 --> 0:13:10.960 I'm sorry, that's bizarre. 0:13:11.240 --> 0:13:13.400 So what do you think about the men I've dated recently? 0:13:13.640 --> 0:13:14.599 What are your thoughts? 0:13:14.920 --> 0:13:18.080 I like them, the ones that I've met, I like. 0:13:18.760 --> 0:13:22.400 So you think I'm making better choices, absolutely, even the 0:13:22.400 --> 0:13:24.680 ones that cheat, cheat is going cheat. 0:13:25.000 --> 0:13:25.800 I think that. 0:13:29.000 --> 0:13:30.280 You're okay with cheaters. 0:13:32.000 --> 0:13:33.559 Who is okay with cheaters? 0:13:34.040 --> 0:13:35.280 No one, no one. 0:13:35.360 --> 0:13:36.360 I'm not okay with cheaters. 0:13:36.360 --> 0:13:40.880 Like I feel as though when you cheat in the 0:13:41.040 --> 0:13:44.600 legitimate cheating way, that is hideous and that is the 0:13:44.600 --> 0:13:47.240 worst thing you could Like, I know for a fact 0:13:47.880 --> 0:13:51.120 that if I got cheated on, I would be I 0:13:51.160 --> 0:13:53.199 would be so upset. If I was truly in love 0:13:53.200 --> 0:13:55.920 with that person, I'd be so upset with them number one, 0:13:56.200 --> 0:13:58.040 because I'd be like, you ruin this forever, I'll never 0:13:58.040 --> 0:13:59.600 be able to ever trust you again and will never 0:13:59.640 --> 0:14:00.480 be able to together. 0:14:00.600 --> 0:14:01.199 It's done. 0:14:01.400 --> 0:14:05.080 Like I know that myself to be transparent with you. 0:14:05.080 --> 0:14:05.280 You know. 0:14:05.320 --> 0:14:07.960 That's one of the reasons why I do have such 0:14:08.000 --> 0:14:10.800 a guard up when it comes to dating, is because 0:14:10.960 --> 0:14:15.600 I have been cheated on so much, and you know, 0:14:15.640 --> 0:14:18.040 I put you guys first, and I'm a you know 0:14:18.160 --> 0:14:21.240 outside you know, in my business world, I wore my 0:14:21.280 --> 0:14:24.040 business hat. But when it's family time, as you know, 0:14:24.440 --> 0:14:27.480 it's all family, all you guys. 0:14:27.760 --> 0:14:31.920 And plus the phone, the phone is a family member. 0:14:32.000 --> 0:14:37.200 That's my other sister, that's your stepsister. Yeah, she's evil. 0:14:38.640 --> 0:14:39.280 You know what I'm. 0:14:39.120 --> 0:14:41.560 Always on the phone texting is because I didn't want 0:14:41.560 --> 0:14:43.280 to be calling. I didn't want to be talking on 0:14:43.320 --> 0:14:45.280 the phone with you guys, And that's why I would 0:14:45.280 --> 0:14:47.880 text all the time. It's because I didn't want you 0:14:47.920 --> 0:14:49.680 guys to think that I wasn't listening to you. 0:14:49.800 --> 0:14:52.000 But you weren't. You were texting on the phone. 0:14:51.840 --> 0:14:54.600 Always listening. I listened to everything you think. You think 0:14:54.600 --> 0:14:58.160 I don't listen to what you're saying. I listened to 0:14:58.400 --> 0:14:59.920 absolutely wem. 0:15:00.120 --> 0:15:01.320 I will ask you. 0:15:01.320 --> 0:15:04.160 You'll be on the phone or whatever, and I'll say, Mom, 0:15:04.160 --> 0:15:07.480 what I just say? You say one second? And I'll say, 0:15:07.480 --> 0:15:08.440 I never said one second? 0:15:09.040 --> 0:15:11.400 My favorite one you guys, Mom'm getting a tattoo. I'm like, 0:15:12.120 --> 0:15:15.680 I see, see, why are you getta gettato? Why is 0:15:15.680 --> 0:15:16.680 that I'm getting tattooed? 0:15:16.800 --> 0:15:17.080 See? 0:15:17.280 --> 0:15:19.600 Always will do the craziest thing whenever you're on the 0:15:19.640 --> 0:15:22.280 phone ignoring us. She will be like, okay, let's say, 0:15:22.440 --> 0:15:24.240 what's the craziest thing I could say to upset her? 0:15:24.280 --> 0:15:26.520 Right? I'm like, she doesn't even care tattoo. 0:15:27.560 --> 0:15:29.240 She's like, I'm going to get tattoo on my forehead 0:15:29.320 --> 0:15:31.080 of you know something inside? 0:15:31.320 --> 0:15:33.280 How do you how do you like? 0:15:34.520 --> 0:15:34.880 Okay? 0:15:35.800 --> 0:15:40.160 Tell how do you feel about? How do you feel 0:15:40.520 --> 0:15:44.800 when I introduce you two different two men? How do 0:15:44.800 --> 0:15:46.120 you feel? How does it make you feel? 0:15:46.760 --> 0:15:51.520 Sometimes I'm like I should I never really care. I'm 0:15:51.640 --> 0:15:53.560 like trying to be nice and friendly, and I was like, hey, 0:15:53.600 --> 0:15:54.120 how are you? 0:15:54.160 --> 0:15:58.360 But I also it's never I. 0:15:58.320 --> 0:16:01.240 Think it is because I'm you know, I'm twenty Yeah, 0:16:01.280 --> 0:16:02.240 I just turned twenty five. 0:16:03.240 --> 0:16:05.320 I'm twenty five now weird. 0:16:05.200 --> 0:16:06.800 But like, how did you know when you were younger? 0:16:06.840 --> 0:16:08.560 How did you know that it was someone that I 0:16:08.640 --> 0:16:12.360 liked what I met them? But how did you know 0:16:12.400 --> 0:16:14.240 that I was them? I mean, you met a lot 0:16:14.280 --> 0:16:16.680 of men from like I mean there I know a 0:16:16.680 --> 0:16:18.960 lot of males that are like you know a lot 0:16:18.960 --> 0:16:20.520 of I mean, I work with a lot of gay men. 0:16:21.120 --> 0:16:23.160 I was aware of they were gay. Mom, I wasn't 0:16:23.200 --> 0:16:26.840 thinking that broadly. Your hairdresser who I was, clearly he 0:16:26.920 --> 0:16:29.720 was clearly gay. I wasn't like, are you getting my mom? 0:16:30.000 --> 0:16:32.760 Like I was aware. I knew, you explained to me, 0:16:34.040 --> 0:16:34.600 and I knew. 0:16:35.280 --> 0:16:37.160 Do you miss? Is there anyone that I dated that 0:16:37.200 --> 0:16:37.840 you miss? 0:16:38.200 --> 0:16:39.000 Can I say the name? 0:16:39.400 --> 0:16:41.440 Well, you can't say their name, but you can describe them. 0:16:41.600 --> 0:16:46.960 They were someone you went to college with Columbia and they. 0:16:48.280 --> 0:16:49.600 Are my favorite always? 0:16:50.520 --> 0:16:53.200 Oh yes, he's so. 0:16:53.120 --> 0:16:55.600 Because also Grandpa loved him so much, and Grandma loved 0:16:55.640 --> 0:16:57.720 him so much, and everyone in the family loves him. 0:16:57.800 --> 0:16:59.160 What do you like about him? 0:16:59.760 --> 0:17:04.199 He is I think my biggest thing with him was 0:17:04.280 --> 0:17:06.840 just like he's such a family oriented guy in the 0:17:06.840 --> 0:17:10.600 way where it's like he loves he loves you, but 0:17:10.640 --> 0:17:14.040 he also loves our family and he loves me like see, 0:17:14.080 --> 0:17:17.560 he loves me, he loves like he knows and love 0:17:17.720 --> 0:17:21.320 or loved Grandpa and Grandma, and he knows like your 0:17:21.359 --> 0:17:25.520 siblings and your siblings all like him. And I found 0:17:25.600 --> 0:17:29.960 him to be like super fun and like lighthearted, but 0:17:30.080 --> 0:17:33.640 also I don't know, I just feel like he really 0:17:33.640 --> 0:17:36.280 fit in. And I thought he was a really good 0:17:36.280 --> 0:17:38.399 match for you. And I like how I liked the 0:17:38.440 --> 0:17:39.680 person you were. 0:17:40.119 --> 0:17:41.000 When you were with him. 0:17:41.400 --> 0:17:43.720 I obviously love you always, but I think that he 0:17:43.760 --> 0:17:45.080 brought out a really good side of you. 0:17:45.600 --> 0:17:47.760 So when I when I broke up with him or 0:17:47.840 --> 0:17:49.800 when we stopped dating, is. 0:17:49.920 --> 0:17:52.200 So mad at you? I was so mad. I was like, Mom, how. 0:17:52.040 --> 0:17:53.840 Did you find out? How did I tell you? 0:17:53.600 --> 0:17:55.879 You told me? I was like, where is he? We 0:17:55.880 --> 0:17:56.200 should go? 0:17:56.359 --> 0:17:59.080 Because he didn't live here, didn't he didn't leave all 0:17:59.080 --> 0:18:00.840 the time, he like lived here, and then he moved 0:18:00.920 --> 0:18:04.359 back because he was done working whatever he's doing here. 0:18:04.800 --> 0:18:06.359 He moved back, and I was like, oh, when are 0:18:06.400 --> 0:18:08.840 we seeing him again or whatever, and you were like, uh, 0:18:09.240 --> 0:18:11.560 I guess I don't know. Whenever you want. I was like, 0:18:12.560 --> 0:18:14.600 what do you mean, what do you mean whenever I want? 0:18:14.680 --> 0:18:14.879 Like that? 0:18:14.920 --> 0:18:16.280 Why is it in my court? And you were like, 0:18:16.280 --> 0:18:17.879 we're all not seeing hither anyone. I was like why, 0:18:18.200 --> 0:18:19.240 and he told me and I was like, that's a 0:18:19.240 --> 0:18:19.919 stupid answer. 0:18:20.520 --> 0:18:23.320 He's such a great guy. He's such a great guy. 0:18:23.480 --> 0:18:29.120 And you know, again, I am looking for consistency too. 0:18:29.280 --> 0:18:32.040 So it's like, just because he's a great guy doesn't 0:18:32.080 --> 0:18:33.320 mean that he's consistent. 0:18:33.560 --> 0:18:36.360 Well, not everyone's consistent in life. Are you consistent? 0:18:36.800 --> 0:18:41.760 I'm pretty consistent, pretty clousten. I have like I have 0:18:41.920 --> 0:18:45.119 one I have like one path that I follow and 0:18:45.160 --> 0:18:46.919 then sometimes I go off of it a little bit. 0:18:46.960 --> 0:18:51.600 But so that's not being consistent. You literally we're like, 0:18:51.960 --> 0:18:54.840 I'm consistent. I do one thing all the time, but 0:18:54.920 --> 0:18:56.280 sometimes I don't do that thing. 0:18:56.800 --> 0:18:59.280 I think that what I really liked about him as well, 0:18:59.320 --> 0:19:01.680 and what I and what you liked is that, yes, 0:19:01.760 --> 0:19:04.960 he's super family oriented, which is something that's super important 0:19:04.960 --> 0:19:07.440 to you and I and to your sisters see it, 0:19:08.119 --> 0:19:11.640 and to my parents, and I know the most will 0:19:11.800 --> 0:19:14.800 say that was like that is something that lacks with 0:19:14.880 --> 0:19:17.879 a lot of men that I that I have dated, 0:19:18.480 --> 0:19:21.399 is that they just aren't family oriented. They just are 0:19:21.400 --> 0:19:24.040 feeling gorgeous and think that you know, they're going to 0:19:24.080 --> 0:19:28.159 be you know, loving, you know what they think that 0:19:28.160 --> 0:19:32.000 they're they're attaching themselves to some kind of like you know, 0:19:32.640 --> 0:19:35.880 Disney movie and we're real life, and it's just very 0:19:36.440 --> 0:19:39.360 you know sometimes it's really it makes me very sad 0:19:39.440 --> 0:19:44.480 because I can see that they are not taking the 0:19:44.560 --> 0:19:48.280 relationship seriously and that they want to just be like 0:19:48.359 --> 0:19:51.040 with Kelly Bensma, which is really well. 0:19:50.920 --> 0:19:52.760