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Speaker 1: Welcome to Jay dot il a production of I Heart

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Speaker 1: Radio Plus Up. Everybody, Welcome to Jay dot Ilga podcast.

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Speaker 1: It is always such a pleasure to have these kind

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Speaker 1: of conversations. I'm be with mine, my sister friends, Asia

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Speaker 1: Graydon Dandler. That would be me darling, and it is

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Speaker 1: her darling. I'm the fantastic, amazing and wonderful Layah sat

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Speaker 1: Claire President. I don't I don't want to use that

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Speaker 1: accent when I say Liah st Schel having a big

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Speaker 1: hat and smack pitches right, baby with a big fan. Honey,

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Speaker 1: she needs to be fanned at all times. And you

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Speaker 1: should say things like you have the audacity. You have

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Speaker 1: the audacity you have to call everybody sweetie. Yeah, right

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Speaker 1: now I'm in a deer stage. I gotta get out

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Speaker 1: of that. So yeah, I work on that. Dear is

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Speaker 1: tough because I like it myself, but it also feels

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Speaker 1: like I'm descending. It's it's shady, it is. It does

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Speaker 1: give the proper auntie shade. Dear. Yeah, I like a

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Speaker 1: sweetie because the sweetie is kind of like a It's

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Speaker 1: it's kind of shady, but it's like, I love you, baby,

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Speaker 1: but you need to serve this little bit of shade. Okay, sweetie,

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Speaker 1: we have that we can do these things. Yes, I'm

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Speaker 1: a darling. I like darling. What's up, darl That sounds

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Speaker 1: like you? Darling. Darling is like all of our words

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Speaker 1: are us like as a deer. I'm definitely a sweetie.

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Speaker 1: You're definitely a darling. Listen here, darling, because I was

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Speaker 1: just saying that that darling sits on me right right.

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Speaker 1: So where in this process of raising a child, um,

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Speaker 1: we have gone through a multiple uh fool a five

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Speaker 1: six schools. I think that we've gone to like six

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Speaker 1: different schools in pre k till now. And um, the

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Speaker 1: reason for that is because it wasn't they weren't a

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Speaker 1: good fit. It just wasn't good. Understand. I was one

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Speaker 1: of those kids. Yeah, and I realized how important it

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Speaker 1: was that the school that my kid has been in

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Speaker 1: the majority of his time and should feel good to us. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: to us, not just me, to just him, but to

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Speaker 1: us as a unit. Right. That's some dope mommy ship

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Speaker 1: right there. I don't know if you'll know, but when

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Speaker 1: you when you start thinking about that, like mommy's that's

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Speaker 1: some dope mommy ship. I know because my mama thought

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Speaker 1: like that, saying, yeah, go ahead, appreciate it. Yeah for sure. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: I'm doing work in the summer times. Yeah yeah, yeah, yeah,

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Speaker 1: I'm doing work in the summer times. Get this book,

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Speaker 1: Get into this work book, Sook. We're at this one

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Speaker 1: school and and now you know, Jet was um and

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Speaker 1: he was one of the only chocolate chips and in

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Speaker 1: the cookie chocolate chips, and they wanted to take him

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Speaker 1: on a trip to the plantation. Lord God sucks, creator

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Speaker 1: of all things. Lord God, I come to you today

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Speaker 1: as humbly as I know how. Keat me and hold

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Speaker 1: me so I don't walk up in here and set

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Speaker 1: a fire amongst this building. Lord, I thank you for

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Speaker 1: holding me and protecting me, so I don't kill everybody.

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Speaker 1: And this mother bird, by your bird, by your burn. Right. So,

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Speaker 1: of course we got out of that school because you know,

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Speaker 1: I was like, so, are you teaching these kids about slavery?

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Speaker 1: Is that what this is about. No, we're going to

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Speaker 1: teach them how hard the pioneers worked. I said, that's enough,

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Speaker 1: that's enough. We out. So we left that school and

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Speaker 1: we went to another school. And this school is more

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Speaker 1: diverse than I said. Okay, this looks like it's going

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Speaker 1: to be promising. Um, But there was this elitist attitude

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Speaker 1: that made me ill. It made Jet uncomfortable. It made

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Speaker 1: me ill, and I was just like, this is not

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Speaker 1: gonna work out either. So I had the privilege and

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Speaker 1: pleasure of meeting this sister. Okay, Um, her name is

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Speaker 1: Sharon Green, first of all, and she is the executive

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Speaker 1: director for Sisters Inspiring Sisters. It's known Assist Circles Incorporated. Um,

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Speaker 1: Sharon is a bad mother. Shut okay, w walka walker good.

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Speaker 1: First of all, she's gorgeous. Okay, that's that's a co

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Speaker 1: sign that I don't want to Anna try sign it.

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Speaker 1: I'm gonna try sign it. That's right. A truly quite startling,

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Speaker 1: you know when when you see this woman. But her

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Speaker 1: range of information is just she she introduced me to

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Speaker 1: schools that I didn't know existed. She introduced me to

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Speaker 1: a way of my son processing information that I just

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Speaker 1: thought was, well, who are you and how did you?

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Speaker 1: How does the world not have you? Ladies and gentlemen,

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Speaker 1: please miss Sharon Green. Ain't Sharon Hey? Isn't even a thing?

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Speaker 1: I'm like, is this even a thing? Sharing all around

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Speaker 1: the world or listen, what what So what do we

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Speaker 1: call somebody like you, Sharon, other than fairy god mother

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Speaker 1: and intuitive coach? Got to be more someone who comes

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Speaker 1: in and is passionate. So when I did, when I

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Speaker 1: I don't have a brick and water, I come in

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Speaker 1: your home and I stay with you, so you know,

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Speaker 1: I come in and I'm asking questions that really start

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Speaker 1: from the womb, right, And then it makes you go, oh, well,

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Speaker 1: they well, I guess that is a DNA thing. Huh,

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Speaker 1: it's not a jet thing. It's not a well. I

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Speaker 1: have three sons, a zeky Way or Californi or yend

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Speaker 1: Day cal found I love what. I'm sorry, person's name

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Speaker 1: zeke Way, cal Funny yes, and end Day I don't know.

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Speaker 1: And well one is a d C actually, and all

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Speaker 1: the people the blackest name they love. I love it.

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Speaker 1: And so the thing for me is about how do

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Speaker 1: we um how do we parent to passion and purpose

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Speaker 1: right as opposed to what we want we want. We

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Speaker 1: want our children to be saved, we want them to

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Speaker 1: be brave, we want them to be self sufficient, But

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Speaker 1: how are we showing up in our homes and modeling

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Speaker 1: that way right? And so we think school is supposed

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Speaker 1: to do it. No, school is just a place to

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Speaker 1: socialize and really to learn how to navigate in the world. Right,

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Speaker 1: So when we go in as black parents and we're like, well,

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Speaker 1: you're not reading this and you're not doing that, but

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Speaker 1: what's in your home? So how are we demanding institutions

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Speaker 1: that we're supposed to do in our home? So that

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Speaker 1: becomes an ouch yeah right there, like like how y'all?

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Speaker 1: So then I started asking and they're like, oh, he

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Speaker 1: doesn't know how to do maths. I said, well, where

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Speaker 1: and so what happened in teenage life? Well, okay, so

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Speaker 1: you don't think it's a DNA thing, right, Oh foll

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Speaker 1: disclosure My oldest one has bipolar. Just amazing. He's juicy.

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Speaker 1: He he pulls up. I love it that he's juicy

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Speaker 1: to you. Yeah, he's juicy. Love that. Yeah. And so

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Speaker 1: but for us, and our role is to create these

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Speaker 1: safe and brave spaces. So when I went in to

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Speaker 1: I'm not here. I just need to see if you

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Speaker 1: like him, if you know him when you went to

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Speaker 1: his school. I'm sorry. So you're saying go to the

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Speaker 1: clients that trust me. They ain't scared me, I ain't

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Speaker 1: scared them, and and we have those brave conversations. It's uncomfortable, right,

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Speaker 1: but I'm not there to make you comfortable because clearly

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Speaker 1: some stuff is going on in your house. How much

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Speaker 1: time do you spend at the home before you're like, okay,

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Speaker 1: know the house got a lot going on. And so

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Speaker 1: in Jamaica, we have this thing called come see me

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Speaker 1: and come live with me is two different things. So

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Speaker 1: if I see you, I see you. But if I

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Speaker 1: come live with you, that's a whole game changer. Right.

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Speaker 1: You can't hide it. You can't, you don't and so

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Speaker 1: for me, I take it very personal and engaging. And

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Speaker 1: I know that there's a storm going on, and I

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Speaker 1: want to help understand that I can be the calm

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Speaker 1: And so you go to the school, right, and so

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Speaker 1: like what we like and we don't like we like.

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Speaker 1: And so teachers, it's a known fact, especially for black children,

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Speaker 1: that when a teacher engages with the student on a

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Speaker 1: real talk after the break. Come, so what do we

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Speaker 1: know about our kids? Right? We know that our kids

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Speaker 1: they're empathic, We they we just teach them how to

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Speaker 1: because your energy ain't right, go back, go back. You

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Speaker 1: don't everybody ain't for everybody. I used to it all

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Speaker 1: I had this really great epiphany. Right I'm sleeping and

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Speaker 1: what it came to me. It just came to me.

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Speaker 1: So I said, Jill, you should homeschool night here just

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Speaker 1: she said, nair now here, No, not here. I didn't

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Speaker 1: want to home school. She said, work like actability. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: but it talks about stability and talks about nurturing, talks

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Speaker 1: about building confidence, right, and that's what he needed at

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Speaker 1: He didn't know that he loved Mad. Of course, if

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Speaker 1: you're a brilliant musician like Jet, you gotta know Mad.

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Speaker 1: Mm hmmm. Like it makes sense right, Like it's in there.

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Speaker 1: That's the thing. It's it's already in there. It's a

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Speaker 1: matter of the pathway out. Now. I'm going to say

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Speaker 1: easy process. Um. It was very humbling. Um. I got

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Speaker 1: of them are thinking about your sharing, get out of

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Speaker 1: home schooling anyway. Okay, right, yeah, we want to talking

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Speaker 1: about my journey. You already know Agent has six children,

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Speaker 1: oh you trust listen, I have My children have been

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Speaker 1: in every type of school, including home school. My children

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Speaker 1: that the timing is so perfect, Like every six weeks

423
00:28:43,840 --> 00:28:47,520
Speaker 1: there's a clockwork, right, so literally by time you miss

424
00:28:47,560 --> 00:28:50,840
Speaker 1: your child, you see them, and you see them for

425
00:28:52,120 --> 00:28:55,800
Speaker 1: a weekend, a long weekend. They also have long breaks. Um.

426
00:28:56,080 --> 00:28:59,480
Speaker 1: It creates a level of independence that is needed when

427
00:28:59,520 --> 00:29:03,320
Speaker 1: you are a parent who travels a lot, right, and

428
00:29:03,440 --> 00:29:08,080
Speaker 1: then the trust and responsibility it really speeds out a

429
00:29:08,200 --> 00:29:12,680
Speaker 1: lot quicker in that regards. Then there's also the worldview.

430
00:29:14,320 --> 00:29:18,400
Speaker 1: Boarding schools are international. Children are from all over the world.

431
00:29:18,720 --> 00:29:24,200
Speaker 1: They're like minds. It also supports uh engagement of having

432
00:29:24,320 --> 00:29:28,680
Speaker 1: conversations and learning about things in a different way. And

433
00:29:28,760 --> 00:29:32,560
Speaker 1: so when you're in certain states of America, you know,

434
00:29:34,360 --> 00:29:36,880
Speaker 1: we don't get that all the time. And and the

435
00:29:37,000 --> 00:29:41,480
Speaker 1: diversity not just of race, but culture and ethnicity. I

436
00:29:41,640 --> 00:29:44,920
Speaker 1: knew that was important, you know, to you, And so

437
00:29:45,080 --> 00:29:47,520
Speaker 1: that was one of the reasons why I suggested. Another

438
00:29:47,600 --> 00:29:51,280
Speaker 1: reason why I suggest uh I have suggested in the

439
00:29:51,400 --> 00:29:57,640
Speaker 1: past is based on the student's intellect and need to

440
00:29:58,880 --> 00:30:02,320
Speaker 1: move in a way that was a lot quicker than

441
00:30:02,400 --> 00:30:06,560
Speaker 1: what the other options were available for that particular student.

442
00:30:06,840 --> 00:30:09,640
Speaker 1: So I do look at that. And then also sometimes

443
00:30:09,720 --> 00:30:14,200
Speaker 1: it's about resource, right, because when you do go to

444
00:30:14,320 --> 00:30:19,080
Speaker 1: these institutions, they do make the resources available to students.

445
00:30:19,480 --> 00:30:25,040
Speaker 1: And if there is um some resource lack in communities

446
00:30:25,120 --> 00:30:28,400
Speaker 1: and the student is able to be able to go

447
00:30:28,520 --> 00:30:32,360
Speaker 1: into those places and and hang, I don't leave them.

448
00:30:32,480 --> 00:30:35,760
Speaker 1: I don't leave my students at all. And so you know,

449
00:30:36,560 --> 00:30:39,440
Speaker 1: it's important that they understand where they're going and why

450
00:30:39,520 --> 00:30:42,960
Speaker 1: they're going there, right, And I started that out with

451
00:30:43,120 --> 00:30:47,720
Speaker 1: my sons, and so I introduced boarding schools to all

452
00:30:48,160 --> 00:30:53,440
Speaker 1: my students as an option but not a requirement. And

453
00:30:53,720 --> 00:30:55,920
Speaker 1: and it's not that the parent is a bad parent.

454
00:30:56,480 --> 00:30:59,600
Speaker 1: It is really just an added to the to the

455
00:30:59,680 --> 00:31:03,120
Speaker 1: ability of the lifestyle, the mission, the vision, and the

456
00:31:03,240 --> 00:31:07,040
Speaker 1: values of the home. And um, so, no, he didn't

457
00:31:07,120 --> 00:31:09,280
Speaker 1: need to go to boarding school, but I thought that

458
00:31:09,360 --> 00:31:13,959
Speaker 1: it was important. And I've done this for other families

459
00:31:14,000 --> 00:31:18,240
Speaker 1: as well, to reel back, and homeschool allows that even

460
00:31:18,280 --> 00:31:20,400
Speaker 1: if it's just for a year. So we had this

461
00:31:20,520 --> 00:31:24,160
Speaker 1: thing called the pandemic, right, and it was a force.

462
00:31:24,560 --> 00:31:27,000
Speaker 1: There was a level of respect that came for teachers

463
00:31:27,480 --> 00:31:31,160
Speaker 1: and also an understanding of looking at your child like

464
00:31:31,320 --> 00:31:33,800
Speaker 1: how are you showing up now? What do I need

465
00:31:33,880 --> 00:31:37,480
Speaker 1: to do a little differently to engage with you in

466
00:31:37,560 --> 00:31:39,480
Speaker 1: a way. And then we have this whole thing with

467
00:31:39,640 --> 00:31:42,760
Speaker 1: social media, and so they were there. There are things

468
00:31:42,800 --> 00:31:45,280
Speaker 1: that I was saying to parents, you know, like let's

469
00:31:45,320 --> 00:31:48,160
Speaker 1: create safe and brave spaces for us to I love

470
00:31:48,280 --> 00:31:51,560
Speaker 1: this term brave spaces. I think we're all kind of

471
00:31:51,960 --> 00:31:55,760
Speaker 1: we're all familiar with safe spaces, but I would love

472
00:31:55,800 --> 00:31:57,800
Speaker 1: to hear more about what a brave space looks like.

473
00:31:58,440 --> 00:32:03,040
Speaker 1: A brave space is where you allow every individual in

474
00:32:03,200 --> 00:32:07,920
Speaker 1: that space to be able to speak without threat right,

475
00:32:08,680 --> 00:32:13,040
Speaker 1: and to learn that as they especially for children, as

476
00:32:13,080 --> 00:32:19,840
Speaker 1: they're learning resiliency and how to uh choose healthy choices

477
00:32:19,920 --> 00:32:23,000
Speaker 1: in their life that they can question in a way

478
00:32:23,480 --> 00:32:28,800
Speaker 1: that is authentic to their voice. And so no, it

479
00:32:28,880 --> 00:32:31,360
Speaker 1: doesn't have to be cursing, but it has to be

480
00:32:31,600 --> 00:32:36,280
Speaker 1: in a way that they are comfortable and that they

481
00:32:36,360 --> 00:32:40,520
Speaker 1: can be heard and then they can receive correction with love.

482
00:32:41,680 --> 00:32:44,760
Speaker 1: But the parent has to be so we I do

483
00:32:44,920 --> 00:32:48,200
Speaker 1: this thing called detachment Fridays. I got that from deepoc Chopra.

484
00:32:48,800 --> 00:32:53,479
Speaker 1: So every day is a day of a particular theme. Right,

485
00:32:53,640 --> 00:32:56,880
Speaker 1: so everything is possible. That means that there's no limit.

486
00:32:57,040 --> 00:32:59,959
Speaker 1: So Monday's everything is possible. So for the little kid,

487
00:33:00,040 --> 00:33:03,040
Speaker 1: is you just say, all right, what's possible today? Right?

488
00:33:04,760 --> 00:33:07,880
Speaker 1: You know, for a teenager you might say, so, what's

489
00:33:08,040 --> 00:33:11,120
Speaker 1: what's your agenda? What's what's possible for you? What are

490
00:33:11,160 --> 00:33:13,600
Speaker 1: you looking forward to in your life? What are your goals?

491
00:33:13,720 --> 00:33:16,480
Speaker 1: What are your things? And then the next day is

492
00:33:16,640 --> 00:33:21,200
Speaker 1: if you want something, give it every everything. There's always

493
00:33:21,280 --> 00:33:23,800
Speaker 1: one to give. But get you a pen of paper.

494
00:33:25,560 --> 00:33:33,160
Speaker 1: Hold on, let me write my theory. It's possible. Yeah,

495
00:33:33,200 --> 00:33:38,520
Speaker 1: everything is possible. So for little ones, grandchildren, children, you know,

496
00:33:38,680 --> 00:33:42,640
Speaker 1: there's just so what's possible? Like hot all about let's

497
00:33:42,680 --> 00:33:46,680
Speaker 1: run out in the rain. Okay? You know, teenagers, what's possible?

498
00:33:46,680 --> 00:33:50,760
Speaker 1: I don't know, Well, this could be possible, I okay?

499
00:33:51,200 --> 00:33:52,800
Speaker 1: Or you know, a real time you have that real time,

500
00:33:52,880 --> 00:33:57,320
Speaker 1: real talk about other stuff grown adults. Things that teenagers

501
00:33:57,360 --> 00:33:59,680
Speaker 1: think that they think it's possible, but they don't know

502
00:33:59,760 --> 00:34:03,600
Speaker 1: that consequences behind that. If you want something to give it.

503
00:34:04,840 --> 00:34:08,960
Speaker 1: That is, always give with a happy heart. Right, you

504
00:34:09,120 --> 00:34:12,799
Speaker 1: teach kids, oh share here you can have a peace

505
00:34:12,840 --> 00:34:14,480
Speaker 1: of mind after day and I ate it all and

506
00:34:14,840 --> 00:34:16,960
Speaker 1: licked all over, and they give it to you here,

507
00:34:17,400 --> 00:34:20,520
Speaker 1: you know, or remember that last French fry you look

508
00:34:20,560 --> 00:34:23,120
Speaker 1: all over so nobody else would take it like, well,

509
00:34:23,160 --> 00:34:25,759
Speaker 1: why don't you just get that French fride? Right? And

510
00:34:25,840 --> 00:34:27,920
Speaker 1: then the next one is when you make a choice,

511
00:34:28,560 --> 00:34:34,239
Speaker 1: you change the future. It's called karma. And then this

512
00:34:34,400 --> 00:34:37,080
Speaker 1: is the one my I love. We say, don't say no,

513
00:34:37,360 --> 00:34:40,000
Speaker 1: go with the flow. So everyone who has terrible tubes,

514
00:34:40,040 --> 00:34:43,040
Speaker 1: there's no such thing as terrible tudes, and there's no

515
00:34:43,200 --> 00:34:46,279
Speaker 1: such thing as well. I guess they do have annoying teenagers,

516
00:34:46,400 --> 00:34:49,360
Speaker 1: but you know when they come in, uh, don't say no,

517
00:34:49,680 --> 00:34:52,480
Speaker 1: just come with the flow. Just flow, so that way

518
00:34:52,560 --> 00:34:56,520
Speaker 1: you create peace, right, and that they are able to

519
00:34:56,760 --> 00:34:59,800
Speaker 1: feel except they have to feel accepted within themselves, but

520
00:35:00,000 --> 00:35:04,440
Speaker 1: where they feel accepted by others, well, I'm caring you

521
00:35:04,640 --> 00:35:09,680
Speaker 1: just how you know, don't say no, go with the flow.

522
00:35:10,640 --> 00:35:14,520
Speaker 1: Mm hmm. I love that. But I'm gonna tell you

523
00:35:14,680 --> 00:35:19,120
Speaker 1: right now, I'm black. I'm black, and I know that

524
00:35:19,280 --> 00:35:23,520
Speaker 1: for us black parents mothers and family. Mothers especially that

525
00:35:24,040 --> 00:35:28,480
Speaker 1: don't say no, go with the flow gets challenging. That

526
00:35:28,680 --> 00:35:31,080
Speaker 1: doesn't mean that you don't say no to things that

527
00:35:31,160 --> 00:35:35,160
Speaker 1: are dangerous, but even then, so there's a sweet spot

528
00:35:35,239 --> 00:35:37,120
Speaker 1: that I'm trying to find and if I can, if

529
00:35:37,160 --> 00:35:40,560
Speaker 1: I can bottle it, it'll be great what worked in

530
00:35:40,640 --> 00:35:45,239
Speaker 1: the old school, because we're forgetting where the y'all check

531
00:35:45,320 --> 00:35:49,560
Speaker 1: this out. That's right here, and everybody in our generation listening,

532
00:35:49,800 --> 00:35:53,160
Speaker 1: we're the last generation that understands what old school because

533
00:35:53,200 --> 00:35:55,879
Speaker 1: we're not transferring. Yeah, we've been having this conversation way

534
00:35:55,960 --> 00:35:59,759
Speaker 1: too much. Well, you know what I have to say

535
00:35:59,840 --> 00:36:04,319
Speaker 1: that is today I was cleaning my living My daughter

536
00:36:05,040 --> 00:36:09,920
Speaker 1: is one month into being a mother, one month bless her.

537
00:36:11,440 --> 00:36:15,120
Speaker 1: And I was going through the room and I said,

538
00:36:15,320 --> 00:36:18,520
Speaker 1: why is this here? And I had picked up something,

539
00:36:18,560 --> 00:36:20,080
Speaker 1: a cord or something that was on the floor and

540
00:36:20,160 --> 00:36:24,359
Speaker 1: she said, I told them to move that. I knew

541
00:36:24,360 --> 00:36:27,239
Speaker 1: you wouldn't like it. And then I went to something

542
00:36:27,280 --> 00:36:30,479
Speaker 1: else and I said, this shouldn't be like this. Y'all

543
00:36:30,560 --> 00:36:33,000
Speaker 1: need to get in this corner. Why are these things

544
00:36:33,080 --> 00:36:36,719
Speaker 1: being left downstairs? She's I told them not to do that.

545
00:36:37,640 --> 00:36:40,359
Speaker 1: I knew that that would be something you did not want.

546
00:36:41,840 --> 00:36:44,719
Speaker 1: And I think in a lot of ways. And I

547
00:36:44,760 --> 00:36:46,640
Speaker 1: want to go back to this because on the podcast

548
00:36:46,719 --> 00:36:49,479
Speaker 1: we talked about my daughter, who was fairly young. She's

549
00:36:49,520 --> 00:36:51,960
Speaker 1: twenty years old, she's become a mother, and there was

550
00:36:52,000 --> 00:36:55,160
Speaker 1: a little talk after the podcasts and comments and different

551
00:36:55,200 --> 00:36:58,120
Speaker 1: people who d m me since who talked about how

552
00:36:58,480 --> 00:37:02,000
Speaker 1: they support ordered at me in my support of her.

553
00:37:03,000 --> 00:37:06,720
Speaker 1: She lives in my home, we are every day talking

554
00:37:07,080 --> 00:37:11,640
Speaker 1: and communicating about her being a mother, and what you

555
00:37:11,800 --> 00:37:14,759
Speaker 1: just said just became very important to me because I

556
00:37:14,920 --> 00:37:20,160
Speaker 1: recognize she has an opportunity to learn mothering, to learn

557
00:37:20,280 --> 00:37:24,239
Speaker 1: her womanhood, and to experience it in real time at

558
00:37:24,320 --> 00:37:28,440
Speaker 1: the same time. And I'm grateful for this moment to

559
00:37:28,560 --> 00:37:30,440
Speaker 1: be able to pass these things onto her because these

560
00:37:30,480 --> 00:37:32,960
Speaker 1: are things my mother taught me. So I'm thinking of

561
00:37:33,080 --> 00:37:36,000
Speaker 1: what my mother, how she mothered I am mothering in

562
00:37:36,160 --> 00:37:39,719
Speaker 1: real time and also guiding and teaching my daughter to mother.

563
00:37:40,160 --> 00:37:43,319
Speaker 1: So this is really important and I want to bring

564
00:37:43,400 --> 00:37:46,560
Speaker 1: this up in this moment because we tend to push

565
00:37:46,640 --> 00:37:52,080
Speaker 1: aside our adult children so quickly out into the world

566
00:37:52,320 --> 00:37:57,560
Speaker 1: when they really need these moments to be in not

567
00:37:57,760 --> 00:38:01,160
Speaker 1: just conversation but in exist stints with us so that

568
00:38:01,280 --> 00:38:05,040
Speaker 1: they can watch, learn and soak in so many of

569
00:38:05,120 --> 00:38:09,800
Speaker 1: the very of the you know, the the nuanced things

570
00:38:09,880 --> 00:38:12,680
Speaker 1: that we are bringing from the old school, those things

571
00:38:12,760 --> 00:38:14,880
Speaker 1: that they remember. My daughter says to me the other day,

572
00:38:14,920 --> 00:38:17,040
Speaker 1: she saw mean and said, if your mother sweeps rugs,

573
00:38:17,160 --> 00:38:21,440
Speaker 1: don't mess with her. She's not to be played with

574
00:38:21,880 --> 00:38:24,120
Speaker 1: if you have a mother that sweeps rugs. And I

575
00:38:24,239 --> 00:38:27,919
Speaker 1: laughed because I most definitely sweep rugs. But I only

576
00:38:27,960 --> 00:38:31,600
Speaker 1: sweep rugs because my mother swept rugs. You know what

577
00:38:31,640 --> 00:38:34,320
Speaker 1: I mean. These are small things. These are small things,

578
00:38:34,880 --> 00:38:36,960
Speaker 1: but this is what I thought about when you said that.

579
00:38:37,080 --> 00:38:41,879
Speaker 1: I'm like, this is interesting, something that I think people

580
00:38:42,040 --> 00:38:46,680
Speaker 1: may have looked at me sideways for. I'm like, oh yeah,

581
00:38:46,760 --> 00:38:48,960
Speaker 1: y'all gonna swear and sit down. I'm gonna sit here

582
00:38:48,960 --> 00:38:51,200
Speaker 1: and allowed this child to really learn as much as

583
00:38:51,280 --> 00:38:53,719
Speaker 1: she possibly can because she needs to be able to

584
00:38:53,800 --> 00:38:56,520
Speaker 1: pass this to my granddaughter. This is gonna be important.

585
00:38:56,960 --> 00:38:58,759
Speaker 1: But you know, my these I'm writing these things down

586
00:38:58,800 --> 00:39:01,480
Speaker 1: from my grand baby because I'm a well you what

587
00:39:01,600 --> 00:39:05,640
Speaker 1: you're gonna transfer, right, So what we're as grandparents. I'm

588
00:39:05,640 --> 00:39:09,760
Speaker 1: not a grandparent yet, but it's that that's another stage

589
00:39:09,920 --> 00:39:12,600
Speaker 1: of transfers, right. So people said, well you didn't do

590
00:39:12,680 --> 00:39:17,440
Speaker 1: that for me, bo, Well you know, you now know,

591
00:39:17,880 --> 00:39:21,320
Speaker 1: so you're transfer right, and it's okay. It really is

592
00:39:21,480 --> 00:39:23,759
Speaker 1: just great. The other one I wanted to say is

593
00:39:23,880 --> 00:39:26,600
Speaker 1: every time you wish or one you plan to see,

594
00:39:26,960 --> 00:39:30,560
Speaker 1: so what you think is what is. What you think

595
00:39:30,680 --> 00:39:33,160
Speaker 1: is what is. And so we can't have any negative

596
00:39:33,200 --> 00:39:37,000
Speaker 1: conversations around our children, and we can't have them in

597
00:39:37,160 --> 00:39:41,560
Speaker 1: schools that are having negative conversations around them or directly

598
00:39:41,680 --> 00:39:44,440
Speaker 1: to them. And that was when That's one of the

599
00:39:44,480 --> 00:39:46,880
Speaker 1: reasons why I go into the schools. It's not about

600
00:39:46,920 --> 00:39:50,360
Speaker 1: the grades, it's how you addressing the child or the

601
00:39:50,440 --> 00:39:54,480
Speaker 1: young teenager. Are you are you hearing them? I have

602
00:39:54,640 --> 00:39:57,400
Speaker 1: to say, you know, I'm on the social media sometimes

603
00:39:58,160 --> 00:40:02,759
Speaker 1: and I'm noticing that a lot of parents are and

604
00:40:02,920 --> 00:40:07,080
Speaker 1: like cousin at their children. So a lot of that happening,

605
00:40:08,239 --> 00:40:12,880
Speaker 1: and and they're so little that they're little, tiny people,

606
00:40:14,040 --> 00:40:17,680
Speaker 1: and I don't that bothers me so much. I don't

607
00:40:17,840 --> 00:40:20,239
Speaker 1: you know, that's not my house, it's not my child,

608
00:40:20,320 --> 00:40:22,000
Speaker 1: but it is my child, and I don't like that.

609
00:40:22,680 --> 00:40:25,359
Speaker 1: I don't like that it's a responsibility that would just said,

610
00:40:25,360 --> 00:40:27,719
Speaker 1: oh no, you don't get don't do that, because that

611
00:40:28,560 --> 00:40:34,400
Speaker 1: what you plant is what grows words. It's come on

612
00:40:34,560 --> 00:40:38,680
Speaker 1: now talking to three major words. Smith right here, Come on, y'all,

613
00:40:38,960 --> 00:40:42,480
Speaker 1: what you say? What you here? So as you're in

614
00:40:42,640 --> 00:40:45,920
Speaker 1: schools and in homes and people live around, we have

615
00:40:46,080 --> 00:40:49,320
Speaker 1: to have braves. That's what a brave spaces. Oh No, Like,

616
00:40:49,880 --> 00:40:52,560
Speaker 1: I don't like the words shut up. That's violent to me.

617
00:40:53,920 --> 00:40:58,960
Speaker 1: That means that you're dismissing everything that my tone, my words,

618
00:40:59,239 --> 00:41:03,160
Speaker 1: my nunciation, Like you just totally there. Right, So you're

619
00:41:03,200 --> 00:41:05,800
Speaker 1: telling a child shut up? What did they do? So

620
00:41:05,920 --> 00:41:09,360
Speaker 1: if they hear that from a teacher, why would they perform?

621
00:41:10,320 --> 00:41:13,120
Speaker 1: And so if you don't go in to see what's

622
00:41:13,200 --> 00:41:16,560
Speaker 1: going on, No, and you can go into school and

623
00:41:16,680 --> 00:41:21,840
Speaker 1: here teachers correct with love. That is amazing. It's not

624
00:41:22,000 --> 00:41:25,160
Speaker 1: like they don't exist. You just have to be right

625
00:41:25,320 --> 00:41:28,919
Speaker 1: there to make it happen. Right, and then you wanna

626
00:41:29,160 --> 00:41:31,239
Speaker 1: be open to life and journey? Hey, what do you

627
00:41:31,280 --> 00:41:34,080
Speaker 1: want to do? Okay? You know one of the things

628
00:41:34,120 --> 00:41:36,440
Speaker 1: that we're seeing a lot of which is really beautiful,

629
00:41:37,080 --> 00:41:40,879
Speaker 1: is roles switching. Right, we don't have defining of gender roles.

630
00:41:40,880 --> 00:41:44,080
Speaker 1: And so you have daddy's brandon girls ears, the moms

631
00:41:44,120 --> 00:41:47,839
Speaker 1: playing basketball, football or you know, cooking and with their

632
00:41:47,920 --> 00:41:50,320
Speaker 1: sons and doing all kinds of stuff. So you know,

633
00:41:50,719 --> 00:41:53,640
Speaker 1: just be open to whatever life has, because the journey

634
00:41:53,880 --> 00:41:58,400
Speaker 1: is beautiful. It's raw, it's awful, it's painful, it's joyful,

635
00:41:58,520 --> 00:42:01,880
Speaker 1: it's fun. It's just all of that stuff. Right for

636
00:42:02,040 --> 00:42:04,520
Speaker 1: another Again, I always say full disclosure. I've talked on

637
00:42:04,640 --> 00:42:08,160
Speaker 1: other podcasts and so things that I'm saying now is

638
00:42:08,160 --> 00:42:10,640
Speaker 1: not things that I did not before. But my youngest

639
00:42:10,719 --> 00:42:17,480
Speaker 1: one UM learned compassion because I had breast cancer. He

640
00:42:17,719 --> 00:42:19,520
Speaker 1: used to stay in one room and I would be

641
00:42:19,640 --> 00:42:24,239
Speaker 1: shouting yeah about babe, and then finally he just was like,

642
00:42:24,600 --> 00:42:26,880
Speaker 1: you know, let me just stay in a bit because

643
00:42:27,600 --> 00:42:30,280
Speaker 1: he wanted to sleep, but I had to take my drugs,

644
00:42:30,320 --> 00:42:33,400
Speaker 1: so while I was throwing up or doing whatever. And

645
00:42:33,560 --> 00:42:36,000
Speaker 1: so I didn't find out till years later, well a

646
00:42:36,120 --> 00:42:40,320
Speaker 1: year later, when he wrote in his um essay to

647
00:42:40,440 --> 00:42:43,200
Speaker 1: college that you know, they were asking what is it,

648
00:42:43,520 --> 00:42:46,880
Speaker 1: you know, what was your responsibility? And he said to

649
00:42:47,000 --> 00:42:50,520
Speaker 1: take care of my mom and that he learned compassion.

650
00:42:51,560 --> 00:42:56,600
Speaker 1: I was like, oh, so life teaches you right, school

651
00:42:56,719 --> 00:43:00,480
Speaker 1: is life life to school. We can't separate them. UM,

652
00:43:00,880 --> 00:43:02,920
Speaker 1: So you've got to be open to the journey and

653
00:43:03,160 --> 00:43:08,040
Speaker 1: enjoy it. And then always tell your children that they

654
00:43:08,160 --> 00:43:13,080
Speaker 1: here for a reason. And so if you're parenting to

655
00:43:13,160 --> 00:43:16,680
Speaker 1: the purpose and passion of that child, then of course

656
00:43:16,760 --> 00:43:18,960
Speaker 1: you have to go. You have to be diligent and

657
00:43:19,520 --> 00:43:23,680
Speaker 1: intentional on choosing the schools. And so it's not about

658
00:43:23,760 --> 00:43:26,640
Speaker 1: the correction. It's not about the punishment of what the

659
00:43:26,680 --> 00:43:29,360
Speaker 1: school is doing. It's not about the accolades. It's like,

660
00:43:29,440 --> 00:43:33,799
Speaker 1: do you know my child? And and and that has

661
00:43:33,880 --> 00:43:36,320
Speaker 1: to be whether it's eleven hundred people in the school

662
00:43:36,800 --> 00:43:40,279
Speaker 1: or if it's five in the school. My child is

663
00:43:40,360 --> 00:43:43,840
Speaker 1: important and you need to know that. And so we

664
00:43:44,160 --> 00:43:48,279
Speaker 1: now you know different stages. You the child who's in

665
00:43:48,360 --> 00:43:52,760
Speaker 1: the foundational stage that they are UM, the elementary school

666
00:43:53,120 --> 00:43:58,160
Speaker 1: and then the middle school you're learning to UM help

667
00:43:58,239 --> 00:44:03,240
Speaker 1: them formulate questions. They always ask questions that the question

668
00:44:03,360 --> 00:44:05,600
Speaker 1: question questions and I don't know, they answer to look

669
00:44:05,600 --> 00:44:07,160
Speaker 1: it up. Right. We used to say look it up.

670
00:44:07,239 --> 00:44:10,600
Speaker 1: Now they say google it and so so so that

671
00:44:10,800 --> 00:44:13,600
Speaker 1: part right, we used to go get that the encyclopedias

672
00:44:13,600 --> 00:44:17,000
Speaker 1: and you'd be flipping through where's the answer? I don't

673
00:44:17,040 --> 00:44:19,520
Speaker 1: know see and the other pieces. You don't have to

674
00:44:19,600 --> 00:44:23,839
Speaker 1: be highly educated to educate your children. So a lot

675
00:44:23,840 --> 00:44:26,000
Speaker 1: of people say, oh, I can't host homeschool though I'm

676
00:44:26,040 --> 00:44:32,200
Speaker 1: not that smart. No, you. Here's countless stories of parents

677
00:44:32,280 --> 00:44:35,200
Speaker 1: back in the day who would read a calculus chapter

678
00:44:35,840 --> 00:44:40,400
Speaker 1: to go ahead and teach their kids calculus. You have

679
00:44:40,480 --> 00:44:43,160
Speaker 1: to make the time because even a new man looks

680
00:44:43,160 --> 00:44:49,160
Speaker 1: scared that something else. So in homeschooling, In homeschooling, um

681
00:44:49,360 --> 00:44:52,640
Speaker 1: this Jill, Look, there's so many Yeah, but there are

682
00:44:52,640 --> 00:44:55,879
Speaker 1: also so many resources for homes right, but ms chill,

683
00:44:55,920 --> 00:44:58,440
Speaker 1: did you learn some things that you have to relearn

684
00:44:58,520 --> 00:45:03,440
Speaker 1: to teach again? Oh? My god? Yeah? And it was painful.

685
00:45:04,320 --> 00:45:06,320
Speaker 1: I'm not I'm not gonna I'm not gonna lie to you.

686
00:45:06,440 --> 00:45:08,840
Speaker 1: The only reason why I stuck it out was I

687
00:45:08,880 --> 00:45:11,239
Speaker 1: stuck it out for him, you know. And then I've

688
00:45:11,320 --> 00:45:15,960
Speaker 1: got this annoying woman texting me and calling me and

689
00:45:16,440 --> 00:45:20,440
Speaker 1: holding me accountable all the time. Um, and it just

690
00:45:20,600 --> 00:45:23,239
Speaker 1: agitated my soul. Soide, not only did I want to

691
00:45:24,040 --> 00:45:27,480
Speaker 1: um enriched jet, but I also wanted to keep this

692
00:45:27,600 --> 00:45:32,920
Speaker 1: woman off my back. Math that's dope. Bless your new

693
00:45:33,000 --> 00:45:41,520
Speaker 1: math because I had the outsource. More conversation after the break.

694
00:45:53,200 --> 00:46:00,760
Speaker 1: Understand that Sharon Green is She's an academic consultant amongst

695
00:46:01,040 --> 00:46:04,760
Speaker 1: many many many other things. And the point and purpose

696
00:46:05,120 --> 00:46:11,680
Speaker 1: is to uplift and enrich um our children, to elevate

697
00:46:11,800 --> 00:46:15,360
Speaker 1: our children. Um, and not just the piece, but the

698
00:46:15,520 --> 00:46:20,760
Speaker 1: whole kid, the whole child. So it's not just their academics,

699
00:46:21,400 --> 00:46:26,640
Speaker 1: it's also their spirit. It's also their energy. Um. She's

700
00:46:26,760 --> 00:46:29,759
Speaker 1: very mindful of energy in those ways. So if you're

701
00:46:29,880 --> 00:46:32,920
Speaker 1: if you're looking for an a Jan levon zant of

702
00:46:33,800 --> 00:46:39,200
Speaker 1: educating your child, then you're looking for Sharon Green. So

703
00:46:39,400 --> 00:46:42,560
Speaker 1: are there are their Sharing Green counterparts throughout the country?

704
00:46:42,719 --> 00:46:45,719
Speaker 1: I know there're cis, but it's just do that is something.

705
00:46:46,400 --> 00:46:48,840
Speaker 1: Their Girls is a nonprofit that I have that I

706
00:46:48,920 --> 00:46:53,200
Speaker 1: work with girls and I help them in their social

707
00:46:53,280 --> 00:46:58,959
Speaker 1: emotional intelligence, really getting them U. Yeah. The the parent

708
00:46:59,000 --> 00:47:02,239
Speaker 1: coaching and life coach is really a passion of mine.

709
00:47:02,280 --> 00:47:06,319
Speaker 1: I learned um as I was doing my parenting thing.

710
00:47:06,520 --> 00:47:09,640
Speaker 1: You know, because you don't get it, you don't get directions,

711
00:47:09,800 --> 00:47:11,560
Speaker 1: you're one of a kind. Sharing I feel like you're

712
00:47:11,600 --> 00:47:13,440
Speaker 1: telling us that you may be one of the contact

713
00:47:13,480 --> 00:47:16,440
Speaker 1: I think I am. I think well, I think, well,

714
00:47:16,520 --> 00:47:18,520
Speaker 1: this is one thing I've noticed a lot of times

715
00:47:18,600 --> 00:47:21,120
Speaker 1: with people like Sharing Green. What's so important is that

716
00:47:21,440 --> 00:47:25,719
Speaker 1: we as the broader population have to start demanding that

717
00:47:26,239 --> 00:47:29,920
Speaker 1: people like Sharon Green and Sharon Green herself be the

718
00:47:30,040 --> 00:47:33,680
Speaker 1: person that gets the consulting contracts with the school district,

719
00:47:34,160 --> 00:47:37,280
Speaker 1: be the person who's the head of the school board.

720
00:47:37,320 --> 00:47:40,759
Speaker 1: Is that something you want? Though? So there's this there's

721
00:47:40,800 --> 00:47:44,560
Speaker 1: this thing about a licensing and accountability that I might

722
00:47:44,600 --> 00:47:46,919
Speaker 1: not be able to say certain things if I have those,

723
00:47:47,280 --> 00:47:50,960
Speaker 1: But there are there are abilities of consulting that I

724
00:47:51,080 --> 00:47:53,800
Speaker 1: think a lot of people are now. The pandemic was

725
00:47:53,840 --> 00:47:58,160
Speaker 1: a beautiful thing, ladies, because it really allows people to

726
00:47:58,320 --> 00:48:01,359
Speaker 1: look at who they're being and how they're showing up.

727
00:48:01,719 --> 00:48:05,680
Speaker 1: And in education we're seeing gaps, and those gaps that

728
00:48:05,800 --> 00:48:09,239
Speaker 1: we're looking at, especially for our children, we haven't even

729
00:48:09,320 --> 00:48:13,280
Speaker 1: seen the beginning of it. So understand that our children

730
00:48:13,320 --> 00:48:17,360
Speaker 1: were not in school to identify who they were becoming

731
00:48:17,480 --> 00:48:20,799
Speaker 1: and being for two and a half years some three

732
00:48:21,760 --> 00:48:25,160
Speaker 1: and so there's some social emotional intelligence issues that are

733
00:48:25,400 --> 00:48:30,320
Speaker 1: coming about. And if you didn't have it, so school

734
00:48:30,360 --> 00:48:34,040
Speaker 1: was also a safe payment for our children. Teachers were

735
00:48:34,120 --> 00:48:36,839
Speaker 1: missing the kids as well as the students were missing

736
00:48:36,920 --> 00:48:40,040
Speaker 1: the environments that they were in right, real time, real talk,

737
00:48:40,040 --> 00:48:42,840
Speaker 1: because homes ain't always what they think they should be.

738
00:48:43,160 --> 00:48:45,719
Speaker 1: And this is not just for elementary school, it's all

739
00:48:45,760 --> 00:48:49,960
Speaker 1: way up to college, you know. So so people didn't

740
00:48:50,000 --> 00:48:53,040
Speaker 1: have safe spaces to be and they used schools as

741
00:48:53,080 --> 00:48:55,440
Speaker 1: a safe payment. And so we have to understand that,

742
00:48:55,800 --> 00:48:59,520
Speaker 1: you know, these teachers are doing so they're doing everything right.

743
00:49:00,080 --> 00:49:02,680
Speaker 1: So they're not maybe sharing green because they're a teacher,

744
00:49:03,040 --> 00:49:08,120
Speaker 1: but they have toiletries, they have food, they have you know,

745
00:49:08,320 --> 00:49:11,960
Speaker 1: lunch money, they have emergency money, they got closed, they

746
00:49:12,000 --> 00:49:14,680
Speaker 1: got all kinds of stuff going on outside of just

747
00:49:14,800 --> 00:49:17,880
Speaker 1: trying to do the academics right. And so I just

748
00:49:18,000 --> 00:49:21,120
Speaker 1: want to say that we're blessed that if you can't

749
00:49:21,160 --> 00:49:26,400
Speaker 1: afford to to homeschool, and I don't mean financially, I'm

750
00:49:26,480 --> 00:49:31,000
Speaker 1: talking about spiritually and emotionally, because we all can afford it.

751
00:49:31,320 --> 00:49:34,520
Speaker 1: We just have to do without some things. Right. We

752
00:49:34,640 --> 00:49:39,520
Speaker 1: might not have to have that bag, but or that car,

753
00:49:40,560 --> 00:49:46,480
Speaker 1: or go on that trip, but we you know, all

754
00:49:46,560 --> 00:49:48,719
Speaker 1: three yes. And then they went on to go to

755
00:49:48,840 --> 00:49:53,439
Speaker 1: Excelsior and U. Yeah they went to some so I have, Yeah,

756
00:49:53,840 --> 00:49:56,000
Speaker 1: they have when they went to HBC. But they all

757
00:49:56,040 --> 00:49:59,400
Speaker 1: went to pretty top schools in the nation, in the world.

758
00:50:00,200 --> 00:50:04,600
Speaker 1: And with the U, I'm curious, Howard, Okay, of course

759
00:50:04,880 --> 00:50:13,200
Speaker 1: I went. I went to Yeah, no, because because the

760
00:50:13,400 --> 00:50:16,880
Speaker 1: h U is a serious thing. Now, I respected, I respected.

761
00:50:16,920 --> 00:50:19,000
Speaker 1: I would love it. I love it. But I just

762
00:50:19,120 --> 00:50:21,920
Speaker 1: want to say that, you know, we all have our path.

763
00:50:22,400 --> 00:50:25,239
Speaker 1: Everyone can't home school, everyone can't go to private school,

764
00:50:25,280 --> 00:50:27,719
Speaker 1: everyone can't go to boarding school. But what everybody can

765
00:50:27,800 --> 00:50:30,400
Speaker 1: do is love. And what everybody can do is be

766
00:50:30,520 --> 00:50:36,160
Speaker 1: intentional about supporting their child and advocating for their child.

767
00:50:36,520 --> 00:50:41,480
Speaker 1: So you don't go into school like you go in advocating. Okay, so, yes,

768
00:50:41,560 --> 00:50:44,799
Speaker 1: there's a problem here. What resources do you have available?

769
00:50:46,440 --> 00:50:50,800
Speaker 1: Mm hmmm. I love the smile after and that's what

770
00:50:50,920 --> 00:50:55,120
Speaker 1: I do. And and and if you don't have the resources,

771
00:50:55,160 --> 00:50:57,480
Speaker 1: I'm sure there's someone on your board where there's maybe

772
00:50:57,560 --> 00:51:01,600
Speaker 1: some volunteers in your school that can help, right, Yes, absolutely,

773
00:51:01,800 --> 00:51:07,520
Speaker 1: I watched this woman disarmed every teacher, principal, city councilman.

774
00:51:08,360 --> 00:51:12,200
Speaker 1: It's it's it's not only the smile, it's the directness

775
00:51:13,000 --> 00:51:18,520
Speaker 1: of the information and the question that she's asking. Yeah. Intention,

776
00:51:18,640 --> 00:51:22,000
Speaker 1: She talked about intention in the very beginning. There's an

777
00:51:22,040 --> 00:51:26,800
Speaker 1: intention behind your eyes, your smile, everything, it's and it

778
00:51:26,960 --> 00:51:31,560
Speaker 1: is love. And love does not mean to not be direct. Fact,

779
00:51:31,680 --> 00:51:34,719
Speaker 1: to be love means exactly that to be direct, to

780
00:51:34,800 --> 00:51:37,520
Speaker 1: be clear, to have the right intention. If you if

781
00:51:37,520 --> 00:51:40,920
Speaker 1: you're beginning in with love, then it's not about the

782
00:51:41,000 --> 00:51:44,400
Speaker 1: other emotions that come in between, positive or negative. It

783
00:51:44,560 --> 00:51:46,680
Speaker 1: just is. But we can work it out because the

784
00:51:46,840 --> 00:51:50,440
Speaker 1: end goal is the child. Oh I love that. Do

785
00:51:50,520 --> 00:51:53,480
Speaker 1: you understand? Smile? See that's what it's like. The three

786
00:51:53,520 --> 00:51:56,080
Speaker 1: facets to that smile. One of them is you say

787
00:51:57,000 --> 00:52:01,040
Speaker 1: you got it, you got it? Yeah, yes, yes, Saron.

788
00:52:01,320 --> 00:52:04,440
Speaker 1: The other one is do you hear me? And then

789
00:52:04,520 --> 00:52:10,320
Speaker 1: the other one come on baby, just do it. I

790
00:52:10,440 --> 00:52:12,600
Speaker 1: want to throw that in there too real quick that that.

791
00:52:12,800 --> 00:52:18,080
Speaker 1: Sharon also has a lot of knowledge about UM grants

792
00:52:18,760 --> 00:52:24,040
Speaker 1: and UM assistance uh in in whatever kind of school

793
00:52:24,120 --> 00:52:26,880
Speaker 1: that you want your kid to go to. UM. So

794
00:52:27,040 --> 00:52:32,800
Speaker 1: imagine your page is full of like amazing, Oh okay,

795
00:52:33,239 --> 00:52:39,640
Speaker 1: oh it is she she um. She definitely received emails

796
00:52:40,200 --> 00:52:44,200
Speaker 1: and we all are we all? Yeah, I told you

797
00:52:44,360 --> 00:52:47,839
Speaker 1: how old. I'm keeping you so clean, and that's all right,

798
00:52:49,040 --> 00:52:52,160
Speaker 1: you You're probably keeping yourself from headache. But I think,

799
00:52:52,480 --> 00:52:57,719
Speaker 1: I think really the blessing of you is you know,

800
00:52:58,120 --> 00:53:02,480
Speaker 1: layered and wide in this conversation as because you've really

801
00:53:02,560 --> 00:53:05,000
Speaker 1: kind of laid down a lot of information for everyone.

802
00:53:05,120 --> 00:53:06,920
Speaker 1: But I just want, I always want to circle back

803
00:53:06,960 --> 00:53:10,560
Speaker 1: to it because what you said about intention and about

804
00:53:10,680 --> 00:53:13,360
Speaker 1: love is so important because people do get caught up

805
00:53:13,360 --> 00:53:16,840
Speaker 1: in what they do not have access to, and I

806
00:53:17,040 --> 00:53:20,080
Speaker 1: think there's so much about a child who was loved.

807
00:53:20,120 --> 00:53:23,040
Speaker 1: When a child is loved and going out into the world,

808
00:53:23,680 --> 00:53:27,040
Speaker 1: there that is a different energy that you are putting

809
00:53:27,080 --> 00:53:31,360
Speaker 1: out there. That is a different, completely different thing. That

810
00:53:31,560 --> 00:53:34,480
Speaker 1: is that that that grows in a way that you

811
00:53:34,600 --> 00:53:38,439
Speaker 1: cannot even imagine, and and and continues to give back

812
00:53:38,520 --> 00:53:40,919
Speaker 1: to you in ways that you can't even you can't

813
00:53:40,960 --> 00:53:44,279
Speaker 1: even quantify it. It's a beautiful thing. So I feel

814
00:53:44,320 --> 00:53:46,960
Speaker 1: people should really really hear you on that. You know,

815
00:53:47,080 --> 00:53:49,160
Speaker 1: the rest of it are details and things I have

816
00:53:49,239 --> 00:53:52,560
Speaker 1: to do with your specific child, But that right there,

817
00:53:53,880 --> 00:53:55,520
Speaker 1: how does love show up? What does it look like?

818
00:53:56,560 --> 00:53:59,040
Speaker 1: You know? And that's my one right there that got

819
00:53:59,120 --> 00:54:02,320
Speaker 1: me running mean just just walk with it, run with it,

820
00:54:02,760 --> 00:54:05,640
Speaker 1: and love with it, you know, and give yourself grace

821
00:54:06,120 --> 00:54:09,640
Speaker 1: every day all day because we don't know. And it's

822
00:54:09,680 --> 00:54:12,560
Speaker 1: okay to say, I'm so sorry. I apologized to my

823
00:54:12,640 --> 00:54:17,279
Speaker 1: kids all the times. My bad, she does, because it's

824
00:54:17,360 --> 00:54:22,480
Speaker 1: it's just this is this, Oh, I apologize my kids

825
00:54:22,520 --> 00:54:25,040
Speaker 1: all the time. My mother apologized to me, my mom,

826
00:54:25,960 --> 00:54:39,040
Speaker 1: my mom. Look well, I remember, I remember my mama

827
00:54:39,040 --> 00:54:43,840
Speaker 1: getting fussed at by her friends, like what this is.

828
00:54:43,960 --> 00:54:48,880
Speaker 1: This is one of the many ways where we're uplifting

829
00:54:48,920 --> 00:54:55,120
Speaker 1: our little people. We've been blessed two be the portal

830
00:54:55,480 --> 00:54:59,239
Speaker 1: to be the beginning. You know, they're very big part

831
00:54:59,280 --> 00:55:02,800
Speaker 1: of their universe. And the goal, I always believe this

832
00:55:03,160 --> 00:55:05,560
Speaker 1: is the goal is to help them fly on their own.

833
00:55:07,320 --> 00:55:09,439
Speaker 1: And if if you send them out into the world

834
00:55:09,480 --> 00:55:12,000
Speaker 1: with love, they come back, they come right back to you,

835
00:55:12,680 --> 00:55:14,839
Speaker 1: and then they fly off again if you've done it right.

836
00:55:14,960 --> 00:55:19,399
Speaker 1: I think it is. Everybody doesn't fly at the same time,

837
00:55:20,040 --> 00:55:25,920
Speaker 1: and no north fly the same way. They do not,

838
00:55:27,080 --> 00:55:32,560
Speaker 1: and it's fine, and it's fine the same sky. It'll

839
00:55:32,560 --> 00:55:34,919
Speaker 1: be there when it takes a lot of pressure off

840
00:55:35,120 --> 00:55:39,640
Speaker 1: of you and your kids when and and a lot

841
00:55:39,760 --> 00:55:43,200
Speaker 1: of the pressure is really what makes I know pressure,

842
00:55:43,480 --> 00:55:47,360
Speaker 1: and sometimes it will make me anxious, you know, and

843
00:55:47,560 --> 00:55:51,239
Speaker 1: and anxiety is not a good feeling at all. And

844
00:55:51,320 --> 00:55:53,279
Speaker 1: the funny thing is when you peel it back, you

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Speaker 1: creation and not one of my trauma. Mr frank Levitt,

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Speaker 1: I I forgive you. That's oh, I don't forgive Mr

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Speaker 1: I was, I'm sorry, I'm this whole conversation I was

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Speaker 1: really do wrong to me because what happens to you

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Speaker 1: in return is never, never, never nice. It's never a

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Speaker 1: good thing. So he lost his tenure. He was accused

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Speaker 1: that part, that last part um was actual what happened

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Speaker 1: so yeah, but that it would have been nice, I

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Speaker 1: can't have to say it would have been nice to

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Speaker 1: have an advocate at that time. So, like Sharon Greene said,

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Speaker 1: definitely be an advocate for your children. If they're telling

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Speaker 1: Believe them and show up. And I'm not saying necessarily

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Speaker 1: have about your vassline and take off your earie. You

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Speaker 1: can say it. You can say it and smile, you

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Speaker 1: can be like, you can be like. There's a lot

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Speaker 1: of threat behind that smile right there. Yeah, share his goals,

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Speaker 1: but everybody ain't gonna make the goals. Just don't touch

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Speaker 1: nobody you can help. Yeah, you know, I just wanted

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Speaker 1: to say, be an advocate and not a helicopter. Okay, yeah,

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Speaker 1: yeah advocate. Thank you so much for being here with

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Speaker 1: us at j dot il the podcast. I really hope

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Speaker 1: that everyone within listening ears um, every parent, every auntie,

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Speaker 1: time to jot down some things. If you haven't refined,

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Speaker 1: listen to this podcast all over again. I can definitely

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Speaker 1: attest to share In's views and her practice as being helpful.

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Speaker 1: I see the benefit of my own parenting with this

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Speaker 1: benefit um for my son. And that's really what you want. Huh,

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Speaker 1: that's really what you want? Yeah? Yeah, thanks y'all. Thank you.

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Speaker 1: How do you eat an elephant? One by it? Kind

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Speaker 1: pain listeners, It's Amber, your fearless producer here. Ms. Sharon

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Speaker 1: is truly a gift that keeps on giving her energy

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Speaker 1: and her life. Just wow. We learned a lot about

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Speaker 1: educational choices from this conversation, but I know I still

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Speaker 1: have a lot of questions, and I imagine you do too,

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Speaker 1: so I'm going to leave you with some articles in

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Speaker 1: the show notes I give a deeper understanding of the

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Speaker 1: range of choices for you and your family. And if

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Speaker 1: you want to work with Sharon as an educational coach

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Speaker 1: or consultant, you can connect with her through her company,

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Speaker 1: bloom Tree Educational Services. I'll drop a link in the

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Speaker 1: show notes to her company as well. Happy Learning. Hi

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Speaker 1: if you have comments on something we said in this

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Speaker 1: episode called eight six six, Hey Jill, if you want

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Speaker 1: to add to this conversation, that's eight six six nine

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