WEBVTT - Ep 241: Sex Ed Failed Us All (Ft. Dr. Heather) 0:00:02.520 --> 0:00:09.040 Guess what decision we're about to make a horrible decisions. Hey, guys, 0:00:09.520 --> 0:00:15.320 welcome to yet another motherfucking episode of Horrible. This is Yon. 0:00:15.880 --> 0:00:18.360 I'm your girl, Mandy ba aka pet Sign, Okay, Debt 0:00:18.360 --> 0:00:22.320 bitch ak full corpus a k A Pagan Marco Beach. 0:00:22.680 --> 0:00:26.280 I'm just s wheezy and we are here with Her 0:00:26.360 --> 0:00:30.360 name is Heather, but she's actually black and but also 0:00:30.520 --> 0:00:34.159 a doctor. So we got a doctor in the happy 0:00:34.360 --> 0:00:38.319 only black Heather out there. You're not, I'm not. It's 0:00:38.360 --> 0:00:41.479 so crazy. My cousin, who also grew up in the Bronx, 0:00:41.680 --> 0:00:44.279 is also named Heather because my father from the Bronx. 0:00:44.400 --> 0:00:51.000 There's two Heather from the Bronx and we black. Well, 0:00:51.040 --> 0:00:54.040 I'm excited to have you guys. Um, we did have 0:00:54.200 --> 0:00:57.520 a doctor. We got a few like healthcare professionals here 0:00:57.520 --> 0:01:00.520 on Horrible Decisions. Um. Our last b g way and 0:01:00.640 --> 0:01:04.320 we had on was Dr Christina, and I think before 0:01:04.480 --> 0:01:07.760 that we had on when we've talked about the vagina, 0:01:08.200 --> 0:01:11.680 maybe just Michelle Hope just likes in the industry. But 0:01:11.720 --> 0:01:15.520 I mean, our pussies are changing, they're getting older, so exactly, 0:01:16.440 --> 0:01:19.920 I need vaginary rejuvenation and a conversation about what's going 0:01:19.959 --> 0:01:23.480 on down there. Why do you need vaginal like rejuvenation though, Like, 0:01:23.480 --> 0:01:25.800 why do you need it? Okay? So um, I did 0:01:25.800 --> 0:01:27.560 this TV show called sex Cells, and I went to 0:01:27.600 --> 0:01:30.280 this place called the V Spot and they have this 0:01:30.400 --> 0:01:32.080 menu of all the different things you could do with 0:01:32.080 --> 0:01:34.920 your vagina. A woman from the Real Housewives owned it. 0:01:35.000 --> 0:01:36.840 I don't know if you've ever heard about this place, 0:01:36.880 --> 0:01:40.600 but at the V Spot, yeah, and actually she was great. 0:01:40.640 --> 0:01:43.120 She said the V stood provolva, like you know, and 0:01:43.160 --> 0:01:44.479 she was like, we just want to make sure women 0:01:44.720 --> 0:01:46.679 can take care of their bodies. And she's like, we 0:01:46.720 --> 0:01:49.320 do vegacial vaginal rejuvenation. I went on this fucking thing 0:01:49.400 --> 0:01:51.240 to like tighten my keygels and it was like a 0:01:51.360 --> 0:01:54.160 mile a minute, like electrocuting me. It was fun, though, 0:01:54.400 --> 0:01:56.680 but now I want badgin and rejuvenation because it's like 0:01:56.720 --> 0:02:00.240 I heard, it's a vagacial and they like basically make 0:02:00.280 --> 0:02:02.760 your pussy even tighter. Not yet once I popped the 0:02:02.800 --> 0:02:05.040 baby out, yeah, because I'm like, if you do it 0:02:05.080 --> 0:02:06.880 now and make it too tight and then you're not 0:02:06.920 --> 0:02:09.640 able to do what you actually want to do. I 0:02:09.680 --> 0:02:12.639 wanted to be like Supertan like, oh my god, sorry, 0:02:12.720 --> 0:02:16.840 I can I also ask you before, only only because 0:02:16.880 --> 0:02:19.040 I'm a super fans san and she just brought up 0:02:19.040 --> 0:02:21.760 Real Housewives. Do you watch Mary to Medicine and do 0:02:21.800 --> 0:02:24.919 you like the representation of black women doctors on that show? 0:02:25.400 --> 0:02:31.320 So ay, Gonna Andy, I mean Andy Cohen is someone 0:02:31.360 --> 0:02:36.080 who I appreciate because I'm always entertained and honestly married 0:02:36.120 --> 0:02:38.960 to medicine. I don't think that's a terrible job. I 0:02:39.000 --> 0:02:42.120 think it's honest, it's real and certain respects. Like people 0:02:42.160 --> 0:02:45.760 always expect doctors to be like these people who don't fight, 0:02:46.440 --> 0:02:49.240 who don't drink, who don't curse, and we do all 0:02:49.320 --> 0:02:52.520 those things. So I kind of like showing that side 0:02:52.560 --> 0:02:55.040 of us um and I think it does fine with 0:02:55.160 --> 0:02:58.200 black women because I feel like the black doctors on 0:02:58.320 --> 0:03:02.760 there are are working. I know some of them personally, 0:03:02.800 --> 0:03:05.400 and I know some of them like you know, in 0:03:05.480 --> 0:03:09.800 professional settings, and they are there are people who work, 0:03:09.880 --> 0:03:12.000 you know what I mean? So doctor, have the can 0:03:12.040 --> 0:03:14.600 you go ahead before we really get into the get 0:03:14.600 --> 0:03:17.840 into the good ship okay, get into the good okay 0:03:17.840 --> 0:03:20.160 of this episode, can you let our audience know what 0:03:20.240 --> 0:03:22.440 type of doctor you are? So I'm an O B 0:03:22.600 --> 0:03:25.920 G y N. So that's an obstetrician kynecologist. You just 0:03:25.960 --> 0:03:30.880 being pussies, basically, that's right, have you? Um? Like, if 0:03:30.919 --> 0:03:32.360 you said you listen to our show before, how do 0:03:32.360 --> 0:03:37.720 you find horrible decisions? So basically the reason why even 0:03:37.960 --> 0:03:41.400 ended up finding your lovely program is that I'm always 0:03:41.400 --> 0:03:45.200 trying to find ways to not shock myself when patients 0:03:45.240 --> 0:03:47.360 come to me with different things. Right, so I want 0:03:47.360 --> 0:03:49.640 to know what people are doing in the streets. So 0:03:50.200 --> 0:03:54.880 they're doing lemon cream pies. Do you know what that is? Well, 0:03:54.960 --> 0:03:57.880 I know what the cream pipe. I guess if it's yellow, 0:03:59.760 --> 0:04:03.920 I'm and is their urine involved? Yeah? Interesting? Inside? Thank 0:04:03.920 --> 0:04:06.200 you for backing us up their interesting. Well you're in 0:04:06.240 --> 0:04:09.920 a starles, So I mean did your the Alabama hot 0:04:09.920 --> 0:04:13.160 pocket episode? No, I did not hear about it. When 0:04:13.200 --> 0:04:16.599 you close your ears, kids ship in a pussy and 0:04:16.760 --> 0:04:19.640 that's not as great. I don't think our listeners do it. 0:04:19.680 --> 0:04:22.200 We do have some Middle America folks now, but I 0:04:22.240 --> 0:04:25.040 feel like they're elevated. But that sounds real down home 0:04:25.120 --> 0:04:28.080 to me. Yeah, Like when you're so bored, you just like, 0:04:28.160 --> 0:04:30.760 let me just ship. Let's figure out like different things 0:04:30.839 --> 0:04:34.279 for us to do when you're when you listen to Horrible, 0:04:34.360 --> 0:04:38.039 have you heard us say anything wrong about baginal health 0:04:38.160 --> 0:04:40.320 and if so, you did it like strike of Corby, 0:04:40.440 --> 0:04:42.320 like oh my god, or something that we asked a 0:04:42.360 --> 0:04:43.800 question about where you're like, I need to come on 0:04:43.800 --> 0:04:47.799 the show a few things. But I mean, I feel 0:04:47.800 --> 0:04:51.600 like so when I usually see people the pussy's broken, 0:04:51.920 --> 0:04:55.719 vagina broken, she's said, maybe as dry as hell. Maybe 0:04:55.760 --> 0:05:01.840 it's dry, Maybe it's not smellingthing I thought you're didn't 0:05:02.160 --> 0:05:07.239 insecure pussy. Maybe it's dry as hell. Maybe it really 0:05:07.279 --> 0:05:13.280 spelled pussy, which I don't have. Well, we're gonna get 0:05:13.279 --> 0:05:16.800 into a little bit of the vaginal things later. I 0:05:16.800 --> 0:05:19.279 did want to start off as well, because you are 0:05:19.320 --> 0:05:23.680 also an educator as well as a medical professional. I 0:05:23.720 --> 0:05:30.400 wanted to know for the icebreaker of this episode three ways, um, 0:05:30.440 --> 0:05:34.760 that we have all been failed by sex education. So 0:05:34.880 --> 0:05:36.840 could you share with us three things that we all 0:05:36.880 --> 0:05:40.200 should have learned in sex at early on that most 0:05:40.240 --> 0:05:44.280 of us did not well. One, the vagina should smell 0:05:44.320 --> 0:05:49.680 like a vagina. Okay, that's that part, huge, um, if 0:05:49.720 --> 0:05:51.839 you had to describe it to someone that didn't have 0:05:51.880 --> 0:05:54.520 a nose. What would you say? But if they didn't 0:05:54.560 --> 0:06:00.640 have a nose, would you know what I'm saying? Yeah? 0:06:00.720 --> 0:06:04.039 Because like I actually I agree right, Like I've heard 0:06:04.080 --> 0:06:06.719 that said so many times. Vagina, a vaginas I supposed 0:06:06.720 --> 0:06:09.640 to smell like flowers or water. But what is it? 0:06:10.120 --> 0:06:12.040 How do you describe? I think mine just has a 0:06:12.160 --> 0:06:14.840 natural musk and I like the smell of it, but 0:06:14.920 --> 0:06:17.440 I also don't know how to describe it. Yeah, I 0:06:17.480 --> 0:06:19.440 don't really know how to describe it either, but I 0:06:19.480 --> 0:06:22.039 know what It shouldn't smell like that, you know what 0:06:22.080 --> 0:06:25.280 I mean? So it's like when you show. We went 0:06:25.320 --> 0:06:27.520 to a live show in Atlanta and they also traveled 0:06:27.560 --> 0:06:30.000 and came to another live show and he literally sat 0:06:30.080 --> 0:06:33.280 next to his girlfriend and said that her vagina smelled 0:06:33.320 --> 0:06:38.400 like salmon, he said, and we were just like, the 0:06:38.400 --> 0:06:41.840 whole audience is just like, oh no, honey, wait at 0:06:41.880 --> 0:06:45.640 the smell? What else would it like? In the present? 0:06:45.720 --> 0:06:48.400 He was talking about her. She was right next to 0:06:48.480 --> 0:06:53.640 him in the past, regardless, she was paying were your 0:06:53.680 --> 0:06:57.800 mask past? What you're telling me? He was talking about 0:06:57.800 --> 0:07:00.400 the business? Who were there? We've talked about? How do 0:07:00.440 --> 0:07:04.880 you just I don't know why it's just not something 0:07:04.920 --> 0:07:09.159 that is. Yeah, like healthy vagina doesn't smell like to 0:07:09.200 --> 0:07:11.240 be honest, even the pride fish don't be smelling that good. 0:07:11.360 --> 0:07:15.000 I mean does like fish just don't smell good. Ever, 0:07:15.120 --> 0:07:19.600 is there any good smelling fish? No? Not really no, no, right, 0:07:19.840 --> 0:07:21.800 I mean salmon with butter and caper is kind of 0:07:21.840 --> 0:07:23.600 be hit And I'd be like, but now you add 0:07:23.640 --> 0:07:32.960 and added, you do it. So I am adding smelling 0:07:33.040 --> 0:07:36.360 kind of good bro legs on my hands. The other 0:07:36.440 --> 0:07:40.000 day and it was nighttime and I was around my 0:07:40.080 --> 0:07:41.960 mom and I got drunk. I was like, I can't 0:07:42.000 --> 0:07:44.360 even master me. Now she's gonna last for days. My 0:07:44.400 --> 0:07:46.800 mom was laughing and she was maybe, well, like scrubby 0:07:46.840 --> 0:07:48.800 with lemon or well, what can we do? And I 0:07:48.840 --> 0:07:50.400 was like, I don't need you to to help me master 0:07:51.400 --> 0:07:53.480 right up. She's like, I know, but you're right. You 0:07:53.520 --> 0:07:56.240 can't put it up there. Then it's really gonna smell 0:07:56.280 --> 0:08:01.320 like no. Okay, So outside of aagina should smell like vagina. 0:08:01.360 --> 0:08:04.200 Give us two more that we should have learned early on. Um. So, 0:08:04.280 --> 0:08:08.320 another big thing is that sex shouldn't hurt. And a 0:08:08.400 --> 0:08:12.600 lot of people get that thought because people talk about 0:08:12.600 --> 0:08:15.200 losing virginity and like so they're like, oh, when you 0:08:15.240 --> 0:08:17.920 lose your virginity, it may hurt. And then some people 0:08:17.960 --> 0:08:21.480 don't realize that that's like not a continual thing. Is 0:08:21.520 --> 0:08:26.280 the cherry popping a real thing for something? Yeah? Right? Like, well, 0:08:26.280 --> 0:08:28.080 I mean I know that. That's That's when even when 0:08:28.080 --> 0:08:30.560 I was looking up sex, smiths like the idea of 0:08:30.560 --> 0:08:33.480 a cherry popping not everyone's cherry pops. Well maybe because 0:08:33.480 --> 0:08:35.719 it did in another way, they say, they say, the 0:08:35.800 --> 0:08:39.080 gym um riding a bike, it could have happened to 0:08:39.160 --> 0:08:42.280 you before. But if I'm not mistaken, everyone has a 0:08:42.320 --> 0:08:47.400 hymen every every but again it's not associated directly with 0:08:47.440 --> 0:08:49.240 sex all the time, which is why when we talked 0:08:49.240 --> 0:08:51.360 about the t I thing, the idea that he was 0:08:51.440 --> 0:08:54.240 checking on his daughter's hymen was just like yours. Do 0:08:54.280 --> 0:08:56.160 you remember a moment where it happened to you or 0:08:56.160 --> 0:08:59.040 you don't know? I don't know exactly. Yeah, I don't know. 0:08:59.240 --> 0:09:01.120 Yeah I don't. I don't And most people don't have 0:09:01.160 --> 0:09:05.000 that experience. You don't either. I remember like vividly, Yeah, bro, 0:09:05.080 --> 0:09:08.520 it went down my leg, the blood it was bad. Yeah, 0:09:08.559 --> 0:09:10.600 I must have been like write a whole bunch of bicycles. 0:09:13.640 --> 0:09:16.199 Maybe you're about riding home on a nig. You're like, 0:09:16.240 --> 0:09:18.040 all right, man, but you know what, I have heavy 0:09:18.040 --> 0:09:20.960 periods now, maybe that's why it's actually bleeding the whole time. 0:09:21.000 --> 0:09:24.800 Mandy barely has periods. Maybe you had only because I'm 0:09:24.840 --> 0:09:28.520 one of God's chosen, that's all. Like this three day period, 0:09:29.240 --> 0:09:32.800 You're so lucky. I'm so blessed are yours? Mine are 0:09:32.800 --> 0:09:35.679 like six days? And I'm like, so I have six 0:09:35.760 --> 0:09:37.959 days of bleeding and then the six days before I'm 0:09:38.000 --> 0:09:43.079 like a bit well cry, I'm crying like it's like today, right, 0:09:43.120 --> 0:09:46.520 because I'm I will share. I am definitely in that 0:09:46.559 --> 0:09:50.800 pre period luteal phase. Right. And so today somebody was 0:09:50.800 --> 0:09:53.240 telling me about how they're surprising their grandma and she's 0:09:53.240 --> 0:09:55.120 in her nineties and she hasn't and they haven't seen 0:09:55.120 --> 0:09:57.600 her since before the pandemic. And I'm like, I love 0:09:57.720 --> 0:09:59.559 those videos. Send me a video of that so I 0:09:59.600 --> 0:10:02.199 can cry. And I'm like, who am I? Who the 0:10:02.240 --> 0:10:04.200 hell is? It's weird, but I wanted to I want 0:10:04.200 --> 0:10:07.000 you to SENTI right, I all I want to post this. 0:10:08.760 --> 0:10:11.319 I love the surprise videos. You know, it was like 0:10:11.640 --> 0:10:13.400 and I was like, I'm tearing up just thinking about 0:10:13.440 --> 0:10:15.840 this right now. Okay, No, that's way too emotional. And 0:10:15.880 --> 0:10:19.520 what's number three? Give me number three that should learned earlier? Yeah, 0:10:19.600 --> 0:10:23.440 so numbers three is that you shouldn't be cleaning inside 0:10:23.440 --> 0:10:26.040 your vagina, right, and that your vagina and volva are 0:10:26.080 --> 0:10:29.240 two separate things. Why bonus? Why the hell was them 0:10:29.320 --> 0:10:33.480 douches the Summer's eve bullshit? Douches like introduced as something 0:10:33.520 --> 0:10:36.040 that we should do because they got money and so 0:10:36.080 --> 0:10:40.959 they're paying for like things like that, because the seminine 0:10:40.960 --> 0:10:46.960 care industry is a multifillion dollars and so it's a 0:10:47.200 --> 0:10:50.480 very these everybody wants there vagina to smelling flowers. We're 0:10:50.480 --> 0:10:52.920 always the saming that it smells bad. I remember when 0:10:52.920 --> 0:10:56.000 I was like younger I was, I wasn't even having 0:10:56.040 --> 0:10:58.480 sex yet, and I bought a douche, didn't know how 0:10:58.480 --> 0:11:00.080 to use it and never even put a tamp on in, 0:11:00.120 --> 0:11:01.960 and I was like, well, I have to smell good, 0:11:02.559 --> 0:11:05.800 like what if I get fingered tonight, like just dumb ship. 0:11:05.960 --> 0:11:10.199 And I think that, um, the association to the smell 0:11:11.040 --> 0:11:13.840 not needing to smell like like it has to smell 0:11:13.880 --> 0:11:16.720 like something else is the problem. Also when you walk 0:11:16.800 --> 0:11:20.080 down the aisle. I was just in Walgreens, so I 0:11:20.160 --> 0:11:22.200 only use I used something from Hole of Foods. It's 0:11:22.200 --> 0:11:24.160 a natural vaginal wash. I've been using it for like 0:11:24.200 --> 0:11:28.280 four years now. I ran out, had to go to Walgreens, 0:11:28.320 --> 0:11:31.319 and I was like, yo, there's nothing here, Like I 0:11:31.360 --> 0:11:35.199 literally used water, and like I think whatever plane sofa 0:11:35.280 --> 0:11:37.040 had for just the outside, like I didn't even want 0:11:37.080 --> 0:11:39.840 to touch the lips. I was freaking out because everything 0:11:39.960 --> 0:11:44.120 I looked at had this name Midnight Flower Rose Garden. 0:11:44.800 --> 0:11:47.720 And I'm like, nigga, what if I smell like a 0:11:47.800 --> 0:11:50.480 candle in my pussy? It ain't right. I also think 0:11:50.520 --> 0:11:54.200 the important thing too, I don't think like the important 0:11:54.240 --> 0:11:58.440 like all literally washed my my whole body, and then 0:11:58.480 --> 0:12:00.240 I'll put like I have the little loop up for 0:12:00.320 --> 0:12:02.600 my hand. So I washed my whole body, and then 0:12:02.640 --> 0:12:04.720 once all the soap is gone, then I go in 0:12:04.800 --> 0:12:07.280 with just my bare hands. Because I think a lot 0:12:07.320 --> 0:12:09.400 of people don't understand as well, because I know, as 0:12:09.440 --> 0:12:12.360 black folks be using loofless and wash cloths, the white 0:12:12.400 --> 0:12:16.880 folks don't even use water but or shower at all. 0:12:17.320 --> 0:12:22.880 But the loot stop we have maybe we have thirty 0:12:22.880 --> 0:12:25.040 five and guess what, they still don't shower. It doesn't 0:12:25.040 --> 0:12:27.679 matter if they listen another So I'm helping your new 0:12:27.720 --> 0:12:33.000 white listener. But but no, like even just learning the 0:12:33.040 --> 0:12:35.720 importance again as a fucking adult, Like you shouldn't even 0:12:35.760 --> 0:12:38.440 be using your wash rag to go in there and 0:12:38.480 --> 0:12:41.120 clean the outside because of course it has all of 0:12:41.520 --> 0:12:44.520 your dove soap or whatever you use. And then also 0:12:44.600 --> 0:12:47.760 like a lot of people aren't just read like changing 0:12:47.760 --> 0:12:50.720 out their loofas and watch class every day. So also 0:12:50.920 --> 0:12:53.520 just that bacteria that you washed off, you're now entering 0:12:53.520 --> 0:12:57.720 into your phone in the shower, Like, yeah, I'm not 0:12:57.800 --> 0:13:00.800 I'm not even kidding. I came home after a two weeks, right, 0:13:00.840 --> 0:13:03.280 and I was like, what smells what? And when I 0:13:03.280 --> 0:13:04.760 picked up the loof I was like, oh my god, 0:13:04.920 --> 0:13:06.480 I went the last time I was here, I could 0:13:06.520 --> 0:13:09.080 smell it was smelled old. Imagine if I didn't think 0:13:09.120 --> 0:13:10.640 for a moment, I would have just been scrubbing on 0:13:10.720 --> 0:13:15.120 like oh ship, Yeah, well, let's get into if you 0:13:15.160 --> 0:13:17.079 are listening to us for the very first time today 0:13:17.080 --> 0:13:20.040 because you just love that we brought the education is 0:13:20.120 --> 0:13:25.160 sheet our Vanilla's Ship segment gives you sex in the 0:13:25.160 --> 0:13:29.559 news and for this one girl, we're talking as TVs. Okay, So, 0:13:29.760 --> 0:13:39.480 speaking of which, my panties are so t I'm around, 0:13:39.960 --> 0:13:42.839 but no, babe, I remember like when I was younger, 0:13:42.880 --> 0:13:45.560 my mom was like, don't sit with the wet swimsuits 0:13:45.800 --> 0:13:48.920 and make sure the panties are loose, and they kind. Yes. Well, 0:13:49.040 --> 0:13:51.959 I wanted to let you guys know, don't blame our 0:13:52.000 --> 0:13:56.240 show for this, but this marks the sixth consecutive year 0:13:56.679 --> 0:14:00.840 of record breaking cases of sexually trans minted disease in 0:14:00.880 --> 0:14:02.920 the US. And y'all, I'm about to give you the 0:14:02.960 --> 0:14:06.080 ten states that are the highest in there, and if 0:14:06.120 --> 0:14:09.640 it's your state, you might just want to go get um. Well, 0:14:09.800 --> 0:14:14.240 two thousand nineteen, more than two point five million cases 0:14:14.600 --> 0:14:18.720 of chlamydia, gnarrhea, and syphilis reported, according to the CDC 0:14:19.560 --> 0:14:22.760 Prevention um. The CDC data looked at states with the 0:14:22.800 --> 0:14:27.440 highest cases of chlamydia, gunaria, syphilis, and congenital syphilis. What 0:14:27.600 --> 0:14:29.760 is congenital syphilis. That's a different type of syphilis. So 0:14:29.800 --> 0:14:32.000 that's if your mama has syphilis and gave it to 0:14:32.000 --> 0:14:34.680 you as like when you were as a child, you 0:14:35.600 --> 0:14:39.120 were in utero and your mom had syphilis and you 0:14:39.160 --> 0:14:43.280 got it that way, and could you get rid of that? Um, 0:14:43.320 --> 0:14:45.640 not really, because it causes certain birth defects that you 0:14:45.680 --> 0:14:48.440 have for like the rest of your life. Oh careful 0:14:48.480 --> 0:14:51.360 out there, guys. Is they all have something that's tested 0:14:51.480 --> 0:14:54.880 on women before giving birth. Yep, we test you and 0:14:54.880 --> 0:14:57.480 and we test you and treat you if you're positive. 0:14:58.480 --> 0:15:04.120 Oh wow, oh wow. Ship, my homegirl got canary while 0:15:04.160 --> 0:15:09.280 she was pregnant, and I remember she was freaking out because, um, 0:15:09.320 --> 0:15:11.560 and this is when I was ship in high school. 0:15:12.040 --> 0:15:14.560 I think maybe he might win her second partner. And 0:15:14.640 --> 0:15:17.120 she was so scared and everybody was freaking out about 0:15:17.120 --> 0:15:19.000 it because they didn't know what medicine, what dosage to 0:15:19.000 --> 0:15:22.240 give her. She had a high roots pregnancy. And we 0:15:22.720 --> 0:15:27.440 really need to just keep in mind like the fallopian 0:15:27.520 --> 0:15:29.880 tubes and STDs. People make jokes and I even I 0:15:29.920 --> 0:15:31.480 do about like, oh, I'll just take a pill and 0:15:31.480 --> 0:15:34.040 get rid of it, But like it's a lot of damage, 0:15:34.200 --> 0:15:37.320 especially if you don't catch it. And that's the thing. 0:15:37.720 --> 0:15:40.360 A lot of a lot of women a aren't in 0:15:40.440 --> 0:15:43.160 tune enough with their bodies to even realize a change. 0:15:43.200 --> 0:15:46.600 But also there are so many of these STDs that 0:15:46.760 --> 0:15:50.120 some people may not even see symptoms, Like I didn't 0:15:50.160 --> 0:15:55.080 even get symptoms from sucking COVID. So there's that is 0:15:56.640 --> 0:15:58.560 Sometimes I look at my nigga, like when he came 0:15:58.560 --> 0:16:00.240 back from the cad out, and I'm like, I tell 0:16:00.240 --> 0:16:04.320 you right now, speaking of the class, we're gonna talk 0:16:04.360 --> 0:16:08.320 about the ten uh states with the most cases of 0:16:08.440 --> 0:16:13.920 clamidia and you had one out of ten, correct, wueezy. 0:16:14.280 --> 0:16:21.040 Georgia is in there. Um so we have Alaska, Mississippi, Louisiana, 0:16:21.320 --> 0:16:25.920 South Carolina, New Mexico, North Carolina, Georgia, Alabama, New York, 0:16:25.920 --> 0:16:32.640 and Illinois. They that rank the loil actually New Hampshire. 0:16:32.680 --> 0:16:35.560 But also I don't know anyone that lives there. But Alaska, 0:16:35.600 --> 0:16:37.240 we don't know anyone who lives there either. But maybe 0:16:37.240 --> 0:16:41.440 that's what what are they doing? How far any Canadian store? 0:16:41.480 --> 0:16:45.280 Can you really go get a condom? I mean in Alaska? Yeah, 0:16:45.320 --> 0:16:47.360 And if any think they have that accident in Alaska, 0:16:47.520 --> 0:16:51.200 I know I wanted to do it. God, That's why 0:16:51.200 --> 0:16:54.840 I'm having a small community accent. This is not southern. 0:16:54.920 --> 0:16:57.400 This is like we live in a place where we 0:16:57.440 --> 0:17:01.120 don't have stores like that. A condom for I'm gonna 0:17:01.160 --> 0:17:04.960 pull it out and shoot it on her bed one 0:17:05.000 --> 0:17:07.240 of the other things that I actually as well wanted 0:17:07.280 --> 0:17:11.520 to share because this is a motherfucking black ass podcast. Um. 0:17:11.560 --> 0:17:15.160 The CDC data actually illustrates the STD rates were one 0:17:15.200 --> 0:17:19.160 to two times higher for Hispanic and Latino populations, UM, 0:17:19.200 --> 0:17:24.320 and rates for American, Indian, Alaska, Native, Native, Hawaiian and 0:17:24.400 --> 0:17:28.200 other Pacific islander populations were three to five times higher. 0:17:29.600 --> 0:17:33.840 Data also showed You're ready, I was like oodcast now 0:17:34.880 --> 0:17:38.480 the data showed the STD rates were five to eight 0:17:38.560 --> 0:17:46.160 times higher among now now listeners are like and take that, Amanda. UM. 0:17:46.200 --> 0:17:49.440 So the thing is, I have a two part question 0:17:49.480 --> 0:17:53.560 to this. A for the CDC, this says that these 0:17:53.560 --> 0:17:57.640 are all SATs from twenty nineteen UM, and so it's 0:17:58.440 --> 0:18:02.400 one why are these sat almost two years old? So 0:18:02.480 --> 0:18:05.520 you have to understand that different health departments have different 0:18:05.560 --> 0:18:10.320 criteria for how you report these right. So, UM, any 0:18:10.359 --> 0:18:14.159 clinic you go to, private, public, they all have to 0:18:14.200 --> 0:18:16.080 get this data and it takes a while, and it 0:18:16.119 --> 0:18:18.800 depends on what state you're from, because we're talking about 0:18:18.840 --> 0:18:22.480 places like Alaska, We're talking about places like Florida, We're 0:18:22.520 --> 0:18:24.680 talking about what what does that mean? What does that mean? 0:18:24.720 --> 0:18:27.480 Where it may not be centralized, It may not be 0:18:28.080 --> 0:18:31.280 a central type of way that they collect all this data, 0:18:31.440 --> 0:18:33.280 so it takes a while to get all in the 0:18:33.359 --> 0:18:36.040 data for the whole country. Florida is sucking up votes 0:18:36.119 --> 0:18:40.959 for the presidency and our STD stats. Probably what are 0:18:41.040 --> 0:18:45.280 we from there, dude? They're just embarrassing. Floria cannot get 0:18:45.280 --> 0:18:47.679 their ship together. Any place I've ever been to, I 0:18:47.720 --> 0:18:49.280 hate it the Plan Parent and then I go to 0:18:49.280 --> 0:18:51.760 this place called the Center. It's an lgbt Q friendly 0:18:51.760 --> 0:18:54.320 place if you want to have a free test over there. 0:18:54.480 --> 0:18:56.680 I always go when I'm downtown because I'm like, oh, 0:18:56.680 --> 0:18:59.359 it's so easy. There you go, you peanut cup, you 0:18:59.359 --> 0:19:02.679 just need your I D. So this is parked up 0:19:02.680 --> 0:19:04.800 because I'm like giving the place props. At the same time, 0:19:05.960 --> 0:19:08.520 they pick up with no cover, handed it to the 0:19:08.520 --> 0:19:09.960 girl and I was like, Okay, when do I know 0:19:10.000 --> 0:19:12.359 and she was like, well, if we call you, you'll know. 0:19:14.880 --> 0:19:21.199 I'm gonna panic long Like that is the worst me 0:19:21.200 --> 0:19:25.600 A twist top not the question. The second question I 0:19:25.640 --> 0:19:28.240 had for you, based on even how it's been for 0:19:28.359 --> 0:19:31.760 you working during COVID, do you see do you predict 0:19:31.760 --> 0:19:33.800 that those numbers will go down because so many people 0:19:33.840 --> 0:19:35.600 were locked in their homes or do you feel like 0:19:35.960 --> 0:19:40.199 it would also continue to rise. For I think it 0:19:40.240 --> 0:19:43.880 actually might go down to be because I do think 0:19:43.920 --> 0:19:47.200 that people just kind of buttied up and figured it out. 0:19:47.560 --> 0:19:50.080 I mean, but of the people, that's how I got 0:19:50.080 --> 0:19:54.080 a boyfriend. Look at you. It's gone now, but it 0:19:54.119 --> 0:19:56.240 was cute all last. We'll come for you. Yeah, that 0:19:56.320 --> 0:20:00.119 party as long as he left with and you as 0:20:00.240 --> 0:20:03.040 the relationship with. No, Yeah, let's I hope we win. 0:20:03.600 --> 0:20:05.320 We were good and clean whole time. I loved it. 0:20:05.400 --> 0:20:07.919 I loved it for us. Come on, I mean, damn, 0:20:08.080 --> 0:20:11.960 look at us. So yeah, I mean I guess I 0:20:12.040 --> 0:20:14.959 agree as well. Um have you have you had as 0:20:15.000 --> 0:20:17.719 many scares? And also can you talk about where you 0:20:17.840 --> 0:20:19.679 had been? Like where do you work? What part of 0:20:19.720 --> 0:20:24.600 New York? The Bronx, the Boogie. But I'm in Queen's now. 0:20:24.720 --> 0:20:28.720 But I'm in Queen's doing now, I shout out, Cathar, 0:20:29.280 --> 0:20:34.360 let's go. I grew up in park. Now they're speaking, 0:20:34.520 --> 0:20:39.119 I want to say. I want to say, okay, And 0:20:40.440 --> 0:20:42.800 is it private? Is it? So? I worked for the 0:20:42.840 --> 0:20:47.240 public hospital system, so Um, I see any and everybody, 0:20:47.480 --> 0:20:50.439 people who have insurance, people who don't have insurance, people 0:20:50.680 --> 0:20:53.479 who got their immigration paper straight, people who don't. I 0:20:53.520 --> 0:20:57.879 see everybody. How what is the easiest way for uh 0:20:57.920 --> 0:21:01.119 someone that does not have insurance to get access to 0:21:01.400 --> 0:21:04.400 STD testing or what would you recommend? So the free 0:21:04.440 --> 0:21:08.639 clinic works, like the free clinic works, and there's a 0:21:08.680 --> 0:21:12.680 lot of different iterations of free clinics. Right. So, um, 0:21:12.720 --> 0:21:15.320 in the hospital where I am, we have clinic space 0:21:15.400 --> 0:21:19.399 in the hospital and we worked to whatever you know, 0:21:20.000 --> 0:21:22.400 income you have, right so if you don't have money, 0:21:22.480 --> 0:21:24.679 we'll see you. If you, you know, make a little something. 0:21:24.800 --> 0:21:29.520 We have a sliding cli dollars just we need because 0:21:29.520 --> 0:21:34.280 we gotta keep these lights on. I went to a 0:21:34.320 --> 0:21:36.760 free clinic when we first quit our job years ago 0:21:37.000 --> 0:21:40.400 for STD testing, and I had a really shitty experience 0:21:40.400 --> 0:21:43.000 because it was like I waited like six hours to 0:21:43.080 --> 0:21:46.040 be seen, and then once I got seen, they were 0:21:46.080 --> 0:21:48.880 like asking me how much I made my last pace step, 0:21:48.920 --> 0:21:50.480 But then my pay step was too close to when 0:21:50.480 --> 0:21:51.760 I went, and I was like, Nick, I don't have 0:21:51.800 --> 0:21:54.240 a job nowhere. I know what is it? But damn, 0:21:54.640 --> 0:21:57.159 And I mean I couldn't even be seen that day. 0:21:57.240 --> 0:21:59.879 Until they determined that my income was low enough to 0:22:00.119 --> 0:22:03.440 get tested for free, they wouldn't even take the sample. 0:22:03.800 --> 0:22:06.560 And then once they did take the sample, they said, 0:22:06.600 --> 0:22:09.080 if something came back wrong, They're like, well, what do 0:22:09.160 --> 0:22:10.200 you want to test for? I was like, well, I 0:22:10.240 --> 0:22:11.959 want to test for everything. And then they started breaking 0:22:12.000 --> 0:22:15.760 down that goneria cost more, lamidia was cheaper, and I'm like, 0:22:16.000 --> 0:22:18.359 they don't even And we've talked about this on the show. 0:22:18.359 --> 0:22:22.080 We've had a few episodes around her feet, herpie simplex. 0:22:22.560 --> 0:22:25.440 That is an actual test because they assume everyone has 0:22:25.480 --> 0:22:28.200