1 00:00:00,720 --> 00:00:04,559 Speaker 1: She met a wonderful man online and now she's engaged. 2 00:00:05,120 --> 00:00:09,319 Speaker 2: That's so cute. Oh my god, that's so cute. 3 00:00:09,400 --> 00:00:13,640 Speaker 3: Also, let that be a great reminder that, in the 4 00:00:13,640 --> 00:00:16,360 Speaker 3: words of Garth Brooks, thank God for unanswered prayers. 5 00:00:16,680 --> 00:00:19,960 Speaker 2: Calm Down with Erin and Carissa is a production of iHeartRadio. 6 00:00:33,159 --> 00:00:35,400 Speaker 2: Did you ever want to be a singer? I mean, 7 00:00:38,720 --> 00:00:42,240 Speaker 2: I don't know. I want to be a performer. 8 00:00:43,080 --> 00:00:45,080 Speaker 3: I would love to be a country star, like just 9 00:00:45,120 --> 00:00:48,800 Speaker 3: standing up on stage and like performing and like people 10 00:00:48,840 --> 00:00:51,960 Speaker 3: know your songs and there's like it's fun, like entertainment. 11 00:00:52,159 --> 00:00:54,080 Speaker 3: Welcome everybody to the pre game. I just was thinking 12 00:00:54,120 --> 00:00:55,760 Speaker 3: about it as I was doing a vocal warm up. 13 00:00:56,320 --> 00:00:58,920 Speaker 3: I finally got my voice back. Oh my god, my voice. 14 00:01:00,160 --> 00:01:02,840 Speaker 3: To the dismay of Steve. My voice was really going 15 00:01:02,840 --> 00:01:04,240 Speaker 3: in and out there for a couple of weeks, but 16 00:01:04,640 --> 00:01:06,520 Speaker 3: oh yeah, it's back. 17 00:01:07,360 --> 00:01:11,119 Speaker 2: I was singing Max's on a real thing. Okay. 18 00:01:11,200 --> 00:01:14,800 Speaker 3: So speaking of singers, we do you want to be 19 00:01:14,840 --> 00:01:17,760 Speaker 3: a singer? I want to be on beach Zam. I 20 00:01:17,760 --> 00:01:22,360 Speaker 3: want to try that very and then sell one note, 21 00:01:22,760 --> 00:01:24,440 Speaker 3: could get something into one note thing. 22 00:01:25,440 --> 00:01:29,520 Speaker 2: I okay. So Mac is very like. 23 00:01:31,040 --> 00:01:34,280 Speaker 3: He has his like homies right now that we're listening to. 24 00:01:35,040 --> 00:01:38,800 Speaker 3: We are very into Malwana's soundtrack. We are very into Alma. 25 00:01:38,959 --> 00:01:41,560 Speaker 3: We are very into like we've got our people stitch, 26 00:01:41,920 --> 00:01:42,360 Speaker 3: very into. 27 00:01:42,959 --> 00:01:47,880 Speaker 1: So we've decided we're going to start doing some real 28 00:01:47,960 --> 00:01:50,960 Speaker 1: music around up in here. So Mackie gets a song, 29 00:01:51,040 --> 00:01:53,160 Speaker 1: Mommy gets a song, Daddy gets a song, and our 30 00:01:53,240 --> 00:01:55,640 Speaker 1: many gets a song. And he's very cute because then 31 00:01:55,640 --> 00:01:58,160 Speaker 1: he's like, Mommy goes, and then he's like, no, mack 32 00:01:58,200 --> 00:02:01,960 Speaker 1: he goes. So anyways, Mommy goes, and our nanny was 33 00:02:02,000 --> 00:02:04,440 Speaker 1: so great she decided to put shake it Off on. 34 00:02:05,520 --> 00:02:09,320 Speaker 1: Mackie is very into this now, so I start listening 35 00:02:09,320 --> 00:02:11,280 Speaker 1: to it in the car with Mackie because we're playing 36 00:02:11,280 --> 00:02:14,720 Speaker 1: the song, and I was like kind of envisioning the 37 00:02:14,840 --> 00:02:18,160 Speaker 1: concert and I was thinking to myself, yes, I very 38 00:02:18,240 --> 00:02:20,959 Speaker 1: much love the performances. And that's when I started thinking 39 00:02:21,000 --> 00:02:24,040 Speaker 1: of you dancing around and going crazy, and I was like, 40 00:02:24,160 --> 00:02:26,760 Speaker 1: I need to I wish we had a chance to 41 00:02:26,800 --> 00:02:29,720 Speaker 1: go twice because I would have lived it up a 42 00:02:29,800 --> 00:02:32,920 Speaker 1: little bit more and shook it off, and then the 43 00:02:33,040 --> 00:02:36,160 Speaker 1: second time around, I would have just stayed and watched 44 00:02:36,160 --> 00:02:36,880 Speaker 1: the perform. 45 00:02:36,600 --> 00:02:38,639 Speaker 3: You know what, I mean, Taylor, would you mind going 46 00:02:38,680 --> 00:02:41,440 Speaker 3: back on another world tour because we would like to 47 00:02:41,480 --> 00:02:44,400 Speaker 3: go to your concert again. I'm really proud of us 48 00:02:44,440 --> 00:02:47,360 Speaker 3: so that we went, because that we could have easily 49 00:02:47,400 --> 00:02:49,720 Speaker 3: given the schedules and everything that happened been like, oh 50 00:02:49,720 --> 00:02:53,560 Speaker 3: we can't go, and it was we really like you 51 00:02:53,760 --> 00:02:56,079 Speaker 3: especially you could only go for like twenty four hours. 52 00:02:56,160 --> 00:03:01,040 Speaker 3: I stayed in lilanked Man. Yeah, it was great. The 53 00:03:01,360 --> 00:03:03,360 Speaker 3: So do I think about being a singer? No, I 54 00:03:03,440 --> 00:03:05,880 Speaker 3: want to be a performer. Okay, I'll be the singer 55 00:03:05,880 --> 00:03:09,640 Speaker 3: and you'll be the performer. Great, you'll do all the choreography. Okay, 56 00:03:09,840 --> 00:03:13,040 Speaker 3: we alread't even gotten a question yet on the pregame 57 00:03:13,080 --> 00:03:15,840 Speaker 3: perfect Emily Fazio, though she's got a question. Do you 58 00:03:15,919 --> 00:03:18,679 Speaker 3: still have work commitments with your crews outside of the 59 00:03:18,720 --> 00:03:23,160 Speaker 3: football season, Emily Fasio, I have, yes. I will be 60 00:03:24,080 --> 00:03:26,960 Speaker 3: working the Belmont Steaks, which is something that I love doing. 61 00:03:27,160 --> 00:03:30,120 Speaker 3: When is that infinity? It's in June, beginning of June. 62 00:03:30,240 --> 00:03:32,359 Speaker 3: I have an affinity for horse races. I used to 63 00:03:32,400 --> 00:03:34,079 Speaker 3: go to the track with my grandpa when I was younger. 64 00:03:34,160 --> 00:03:36,160 Speaker 3: So when Fox asked me a couple of years ago 65 00:03:36,160 --> 00:03:37,600 Speaker 3: to be a part of the broadcast. I was so 66 00:03:37,680 --> 00:03:40,839 Speaker 3: grateful because I love horse racing and it's always such 67 00:03:40,880 --> 00:03:43,320 Speaker 3: a fun crew and love being out there. 68 00:03:43,360 --> 00:03:45,160 Speaker 2: And it's at Saratoga for the last year. 69 00:03:45,200 --> 00:03:48,600 Speaker 3: So the last couple of years, Belmont Steaks is in 70 00:03:48,960 --> 00:03:52,640 Speaker 3: New York, but it was moved over to Saratoga, also 71 00:03:52,680 --> 00:03:55,880 Speaker 3: in New York, but a different racetrack because they were remodeling. 72 00:03:57,240 --> 00:03:58,280 Speaker 2: The Belmont Stakes tracks. 73 00:03:58,320 --> 00:03:59,640 Speaker 3: So anyways, this is going to be the last year 74 00:03:59,640 --> 00:04:01,839 Speaker 3: at Sarah, which has been really special because it's such 75 00:04:01,840 --> 00:04:03,560 Speaker 3: a like old school track. 76 00:04:03,800 --> 00:04:05,240 Speaker 2: AnyWho doing that in June. 77 00:04:05,360 --> 00:04:08,360 Speaker 3: I'm bett to do the Masters in April with Amazon, 78 00:04:08,880 --> 00:04:11,680 Speaker 3: not necessarily on the broadcasting side because it's new, but 79 00:04:11,720 --> 00:04:16,040 Speaker 3: I'm going there to represent Amazon with Wit and I 80 00:04:16,040 --> 00:04:17,440 Speaker 3: think Fits is going as well. 81 00:04:17,560 --> 00:04:18,960 Speaker 2: So yeah, here and there. 82 00:04:20,080 --> 00:04:21,800 Speaker 3: I hope that I hope that you and I do 83 00:04:21,839 --> 00:04:24,680 Speaker 3: stuff for the World Cup. Obviously not covering matches per SAE, 84 00:04:24,720 --> 00:04:27,560 Speaker 3: because we've got a great crew that specifically covers soccer, 85 00:04:27,600 --> 00:04:30,120 Speaker 3: but I would love to be part of anything that 86 00:04:30,160 --> 00:04:32,799 Speaker 3: Fox does. I know we haven't talked with our powers 87 00:04:32,839 --> 00:04:36,520 Speaker 3: that be, but Eric Shanks or brad'say, if you're listening, 88 00:04:36,920 --> 00:04:39,960 Speaker 3: we do love the World cup Colin can't wait for 89 00:04:40,680 --> 00:04:41,400 Speaker 3: Fox to have that. 90 00:04:41,440 --> 00:04:42,600 Speaker 2: It's going to be really really cool. 91 00:04:42,640 --> 00:04:46,960 Speaker 1: So yeah, I've been anything lined up with these guys. 92 00:04:47,240 --> 00:04:50,479 Speaker 1: Yet we're on a text chain that's alive and well. 93 00:04:52,040 --> 00:04:56,159 Speaker 1: But you know whatever, things always pop up. Things are 94 00:04:56,200 --> 00:05:01,919 Speaker 1: always popping up. Okay, ours setter Berg, this is a 95 00:05:01,920 --> 00:05:03,480 Speaker 1: great question. What's your bagsite? 96 00:05:03,520 --> 00:05:03,839 Speaker 2: Now? 97 00:05:03,960 --> 00:05:07,920 Speaker 1: Are we starting fresh for next season? Very interested? Yes, 98 00:05:08,040 --> 00:05:10,440 Speaker 1: I think I should start fresh. I don't know what 99 00:05:10,520 --> 00:05:13,760 Speaker 1: it'll be. I'm still out there in the streets looking. 100 00:05:14,680 --> 00:05:18,039 Speaker 1: But I wasn't mad per se about this bag. Dom 101 00:05:18,200 --> 00:05:20,960 Speaker 1: sent me a cute text. She's like, you inspired me, 102 00:05:21,040 --> 00:05:23,880 Speaker 1: and I was like, no, Chris inspired you because she 103 00:05:23,960 --> 00:05:25,200 Speaker 1: ended up getting a bag like that. 104 00:05:25,400 --> 00:05:28,480 Speaker 3: She's so cute, the cutest. But you're not going to 105 00:05:28,520 --> 00:05:31,480 Speaker 3: go back to the backpack, right, No? I need to 106 00:05:31,520 --> 00:05:34,200 Speaker 3: grow up. No, it's not about that. You could still 107 00:05:34,200 --> 00:05:35,919 Speaker 3: do a backpack. I just want you to do a 108 00:05:35,960 --> 00:05:37,599 Speaker 3: backpack that like doesn't look like you're. 109 00:05:37,480 --> 00:05:39,599 Speaker 2: Going to school like you. 110 00:05:40,120 --> 00:05:43,960 Speaker 3: Well, again, there's a time they have really chic cool backpacks. 111 00:05:43,960 --> 00:05:46,640 Speaker 3: And just to be clear, this isn't like, oh I 112 00:05:46,680 --> 00:05:48,800 Speaker 3: need you to go out by a ten thousand dollars 113 00:05:48,880 --> 00:05:53,120 Speaker 3: nine It's about practicality. Like here you are dressed looking 114 00:05:53,240 --> 00:05:55,920 Speaker 3: like goddamn runway model and we got the you know, 115 00:05:56,000 --> 00:05:56,560 Speaker 3: the backpack. 116 00:05:56,640 --> 00:06:00,000 Speaker 2: That's a little remedial. We need to like stay. 117 00:05:59,760 --> 00:06:02,400 Speaker 3: In an eleganted state, and that doesn't mean high price point. 118 00:06:02,440 --> 00:06:05,599 Speaker 3: It just means, like the accessory needs to match the 119 00:06:05,640 --> 00:06:08,479 Speaker 3: incredible outfits that you always have. So that was my 120 00:06:09,760 --> 00:06:13,719 Speaker 3: intent behind motivating you or asking can we get a bag? 121 00:06:14,160 --> 00:06:14,840 Speaker 2: I liked the. 122 00:06:14,839 --> 00:06:17,760 Speaker 1: Move too where I had the oversized bag. I didn't 123 00:06:17,800 --> 00:06:19,400 Speaker 1: like the move where I felt like I needed to 124 00:06:19,440 --> 00:06:22,039 Speaker 1: stuff it with everything that I never even us But 125 00:06:22,080 --> 00:06:24,160 Speaker 1: then I like this small purse in it, because then 126 00:06:24,200 --> 00:06:25,480 Speaker 1: that was my purse on the road. 127 00:06:25,880 --> 00:06:26,400 Speaker 2: Cute. 128 00:06:26,720 --> 00:06:30,400 Speaker 3: Yeah see, good, good good, Yeah that was greamous. I'm 129 00:06:30,440 --> 00:06:33,279 Speaker 3: a single college student. I have had a few Valentine's 130 00:06:33,320 --> 00:06:35,400 Speaker 3: Days by myself, which is totally fine, but I was 131 00:06:35,440 --> 00:06:38,200 Speaker 3: hoping for a Gallantine's Day this year, and unfortunately none 132 00:06:38,200 --> 00:06:40,839 Speaker 3: of my friends were available because they all have boyfriends. 133 00:06:40,920 --> 00:06:43,039 Speaker 3: Oh well, now my birthday is coming up and I 134 00:06:43,080 --> 00:06:44,560 Speaker 3: spent that alone. 135 00:06:44,279 --> 00:06:45,039 Speaker 2: Last year too. 136 00:06:45,600 --> 00:06:48,479 Speaker 3: Feeling a little nervous, this is going to be a 137 00:06:48,520 --> 00:06:52,200 Speaker 3: repeat of Valentine's Day and previous birthdays. Any advice on 138 00:06:52,240 --> 00:06:54,240 Speaker 3: what I can do here. I'm good by myself, but 139 00:06:54,279 --> 00:06:56,160 Speaker 3: I'm really hoping to celebrate with others. 140 00:06:56,520 --> 00:06:56,719 Speaker 2: Well. 141 00:06:56,760 --> 00:06:59,520 Speaker 3: First of all, Anonymous, I love your vulnerability. I love 142 00:06:59,600 --> 00:07:03,160 Speaker 3: your honest about how you feel with these situations, because 143 00:07:03,240 --> 00:07:06,080 Speaker 3: I have spent a lot of birthdays a lot. I've 144 00:07:06,120 --> 00:07:09,320 Speaker 3: spent birthdays and Valentine's Days alone and not had a 145 00:07:09,360 --> 00:07:12,520 Speaker 3: significant other. Or I don't really love doing birthday parties. 146 00:07:12,560 --> 00:07:14,920 Speaker 3: I don't like being like the center of attention when 147 00:07:14,960 --> 00:07:15,800 Speaker 3: it comes to that stuff. 148 00:07:15,840 --> 00:07:17,640 Speaker 2: So I feel you on that. 149 00:07:18,160 --> 00:07:21,760 Speaker 3: But what about doing something that's not necessarily on your 150 00:07:21,800 --> 00:07:26,080 Speaker 3: birthday or on Valentine's Day, but somewhere around that day, 151 00:07:26,120 --> 00:07:29,560 Speaker 3: and you planned the girl's trip or you plan the 152 00:07:29,720 --> 00:07:33,040 Speaker 3: dinner party, because then that way you're taking the initiative, 153 00:07:33,040 --> 00:07:35,800 Speaker 3: but it doesn't necessarily have to center around those two holidays. 154 00:07:35,880 --> 00:07:38,400 Speaker 3: And I also like doing things where it's just kind 155 00:07:38,440 --> 00:07:40,800 Speaker 3: of for no reason, where you can just say, like, 156 00:07:41,240 --> 00:07:43,040 Speaker 3: I love you girls, and I want to get together 157 00:07:43,080 --> 00:07:44,720 Speaker 3: and I want to have a fun brunch or I 158 00:07:44,720 --> 00:07:47,200 Speaker 3: want to do something like that, and then you guys 159 00:07:47,240 --> 00:07:49,280 Speaker 3: have so much fun doing that, then maybe somebody else 160 00:07:49,280 --> 00:07:51,200 Speaker 3: in the group is motivated to do the next one, 161 00:07:51,560 --> 00:07:53,440 Speaker 3: or maybe you set up something where you do sort 162 00:07:53,480 --> 00:07:56,200 Speaker 3: of a calendar rotation of each girl is responsible for 163 00:07:56,280 --> 00:07:59,120 Speaker 3: planning something every few months, and then you have that 164 00:07:59,200 --> 00:08:01,080 Speaker 3: on your calendar thing to look forward to. But it's 165 00:08:01,120 --> 00:08:04,800 Speaker 3: not so much pressure with just your birthday or Valentine's Day. 166 00:08:04,840 --> 00:08:06,280 Speaker 3: And then the other thing I would say for your 167 00:08:06,280 --> 00:08:10,000 Speaker 3: birthday is plan a trip maybe with family members or 168 00:08:10,040 --> 00:08:12,840 Speaker 3: a sister or a mom or something like that where 169 00:08:13,040 --> 00:08:15,720 Speaker 3: you don't have to be alone, but it doesn't necessarily have. 170 00:08:15,720 --> 00:08:20,120 Speaker 2: To be with a friend, group or boyfriend. I live Wally's. 171 00:08:21,200 --> 00:08:24,400 Speaker 3: I would like to plan that wally World. I love Waalies. 172 00:08:24,480 --> 00:08:27,760 Speaker 3: I haven't been at Walies in forever. It is get 173 00:08:27,760 --> 00:08:31,360 Speaker 3: the high love table, good good night at Wally's. Do 174 00:08:32,000 --> 00:08:34,600 Speaker 3: have fun night like one of your Yeah, like, it 175 00:08:34,640 --> 00:08:36,520 Speaker 3: doesn't even have to be on your birthday, but just 176 00:08:36,640 --> 00:08:39,280 Speaker 3: know if you do end up like having people aren't 177 00:08:39,320 --> 00:08:41,640 Speaker 3: really around for that day, well great, I already set 178 00:08:41,640 --> 00:08:42,080 Speaker 3: this up. 179 00:08:42,920 --> 00:08:44,480 Speaker 1: We're going to have this in a couple of weeks. 180 00:08:44,520 --> 00:08:46,160 Speaker 1: So if you I know, I'm kind of the same 181 00:08:46,160 --> 00:08:47,920 Speaker 1: way as Chris. I don't really care about a birthday. 182 00:08:47,960 --> 00:08:50,720 Speaker 3: I'm good, but I do love like a great dinner, 183 00:08:50,880 --> 00:08:53,600 Speaker 3: drinks well. For example, Aaron and I share a birthday, 184 00:08:53,840 --> 00:08:57,200 Speaker 3: and we don't necessarily like celebrating on the birthday. I 185 00:08:57,200 --> 00:08:59,120 Speaker 3: have PTSD about the one year we were we did 186 00:08:59,160 --> 00:09:00,280 Speaker 3: try to do that and then we were to fight 187 00:09:00,320 --> 00:09:02,480 Speaker 3: about something, and like now I'm just always like fearful. 188 00:09:02,480 --> 00:09:03,880 Speaker 3: I'm like, I don't ever want to fight with you, 189 00:09:03,960 --> 00:09:05,840 Speaker 3: and I definitely don't want it to be on our birthday. 190 00:09:06,320 --> 00:09:08,760 Speaker 3: So we have already talked about planning a vacation in 191 00:09:08,800 --> 00:09:09,120 Speaker 3: the month. 192 00:09:09,200 --> 00:09:10,880 Speaker 2: I think it was who was paying for dinner. 193 00:09:11,040 --> 00:09:15,160 Speaker 3: Maybe that's probably just sotillas are good, though, I just 194 00:09:15,280 --> 00:09:17,240 Speaker 3: didn't I just don't like the idea of it's like, oh, 195 00:09:17,280 --> 00:09:19,160 Speaker 3: we have to go on this trip and it's our birthday. 196 00:09:19,280 --> 00:09:21,280 Speaker 3: It's just more of like we put it on our calendar, 197 00:09:21,320 --> 00:09:23,760 Speaker 3: because look, people get busy, and if you don't put 198 00:09:23,800 --> 00:09:26,000 Speaker 3: it on your calendar, then other things creep in. 199 00:09:26,240 --> 00:09:27,080 Speaker 2: And now season. 200 00:09:29,040 --> 00:09:30,520 Speaker 3: By the way, Al said that the other day and 201 00:09:30,520 --> 00:09:32,960 Speaker 3: got in the elevator and he goes, oh, God, the 202 00:09:33,000 --> 00:09:36,160 Speaker 3: season's already starting, and I was like, Al, it is March. 203 00:09:36,280 --> 00:09:39,520 Speaker 3: It's not happening yet, but it does creep It does 204 00:09:39,600 --> 00:09:40,480 Speaker 3: really go by fast. 205 00:09:40,480 --> 00:09:43,599 Speaker 2: If you start planning out. Hence the importance of vacations. 206 00:09:43,880 --> 00:09:46,080 Speaker 2: We aw me to get a dinner on the books 207 00:09:46,080 --> 00:09:46,800 Speaker 2: with him as well. 208 00:09:46,840 --> 00:09:50,319 Speaker 3: At some point he has mentioned it. Oh cute, you 209 00:09:50,440 --> 00:10:03,600 Speaker 3: believe in miracles exactly. Okay, this is such an interesting 210 00:10:03,679 --> 00:10:06,240 Speaker 3: question because I am very particular about certain things. 211 00:10:06,400 --> 00:10:09,360 Speaker 2: Lisa Myers K eight again. Do you like when your 212 00:10:09,440 --> 00:10:12,920 Speaker 2: laundry is touched transferred from washer to dryer? 213 00:10:13,160 --> 00:10:16,959 Speaker 1: Let me do it. I have never thought of this before. 214 00:10:17,559 --> 00:10:19,800 Speaker 1: This does not bother me. I'll tell you what does 215 00:10:19,880 --> 00:10:25,800 Speaker 1: bother me. Hair on the ground that's not mine, wet 216 00:10:25,920 --> 00:10:28,720 Speaker 1: hair like other people's wet hair. 217 00:10:29,040 --> 00:10:31,560 Speaker 2: I am so disgusted. 218 00:10:31,120 --> 00:10:37,520 Speaker 1: On the shower wall. Yeah, no, I don't really think 219 00:10:37,520 --> 00:10:42,120 Speaker 1: about that about the laundry, do you. 220 00:10:42,160 --> 00:10:42,199 Speaker 2: No. 221 00:10:42,280 --> 00:10:44,880 Speaker 3: I don't care if you do a transfer situation, because 222 00:10:44,880 --> 00:10:47,040 Speaker 3: I'll il will say. Steve's very cognizant of like, hey, 223 00:10:47,120 --> 00:10:51,199 Speaker 3: if there's like I don't know, I mean, here's let 224 00:10:51,200 --> 00:10:53,160 Speaker 3: me back this story up. I don't want Steve doing 225 00:10:53,160 --> 00:10:55,600 Speaker 3: my laundry. Okay, it's the same way I want two 226 00:10:55,600 --> 00:10:59,120 Speaker 3: different bathrooms. There should be some mystery about stuff, right, 227 00:10:59,360 --> 00:11:01,439 Speaker 3: and it's not. It's like dirty chone. These things like 228 00:11:01,480 --> 00:11:04,280 Speaker 3: it's not like that, but just clothes are dirty or like, 229 00:11:04,679 --> 00:11:07,320 Speaker 3: you know, the the yoga pants stink or the whatever. 230 00:11:07,400 --> 00:11:10,160 Speaker 3: Like I don't need my boyfriend touching my dirty clothes. 231 00:11:10,200 --> 00:11:12,760 Speaker 3: And by the way, I'm not touching his. I know 232 00:11:12,760 --> 00:11:15,360 Speaker 3: Steve doesn't like folding his laundry. He like hates folding. 233 00:11:15,400 --> 00:11:17,200 Speaker 3: So you know what, I'm happy to fold it. Why 234 00:11:17,280 --> 00:11:17,960 Speaker 3: because it's clean. 235 00:11:18,240 --> 00:11:19,560 Speaker 2: Because I'm gonna tell you what I don't want. 236 00:11:19,760 --> 00:11:22,600 Speaker 3: I don't want the off chance something's dirty and I 237 00:11:22,640 --> 00:11:24,640 Speaker 3: see it, and now I'm like, I'm turned off, and 238 00:11:24,720 --> 00:11:26,720 Speaker 3: I don't want that. Okay, it's like, why you have 239 00:11:26,760 --> 00:11:28,720 Speaker 3: your own bathroom. I have my own bathroom. We can 240 00:11:28,760 --> 00:11:32,560 Speaker 3: just keep something separate and a little mystery. So don't 241 00:11:32,600 --> 00:11:33,439 Speaker 3: do my laundry. 242 00:11:33,559 --> 00:11:34,280 Speaker 2: I will fold it. 243 00:11:34,320 --> 00:11:38,160 Speaker 3: But also if he did, which I know he's done, 244 00:11:38,200 --> 00:11:40,560 Speaker 3: because like he'll startle his a load of his own wash, 245 00:11:40,600 --> 00:11:42,840 Speaker 3: so he'll move my stuff from the wash to the dryer. 246 00:11:43,120 --> 00:11:45,720 Speaker 3: I don't care about that because he's good about not 247 00:11:45,840 --> 00:11:48,560 Speaker 3: putting things in the dryer that don't go there, Like 248 00:11:48,600 --> 00:11:50,520 Speaker 3: he would be like, oh, if this looks like it 249 00:11:50,520 --> 00:11:52,000 Speaker 3: needs to be hung up, he would do that. He's 250 00:11:52,040 --> 00:11:53,280 Speaker 3: not a guy that just like throws all the shit 251 00:11:53,320 --> 00:11:54,440 Speaker 3: in the dryer and then it comes out and it 252 00:11:54,440 --> 00:11:54,839 Speaker 3: looks like it. 253 00:11:55,040 --> 00:11:58,840 Speaker 2: You know, Willis could wear it. So I'm okay with that. 254 00:11:58,920 --> 00:12:01,839 Speaker 2: But yeah, just don't touch my dirty laundry. I get that. 255 00:12:02,120 --> 00:12:02,599 Speaker 2: I'm into it. 256 00:12:03,960 --> 00:12:07,439 Speaker 3: Okay, okay, we got Anna K twenty three. If you 257 00:12:07,520 --> 00:12:10,439 Speaker 3: had to pick any land or sea animal, what would 258 00:12:10,440 --> 00:12:13,200 Speaker 3: you be? I love this game. I've play this game 259 00:12:13,240 --> 00:12:16,600 Speaker 3: actually with my girlfriend Megan, and she was it's her 260 00:12:17,000 --> 00:12:20,240 Speaker 3: well she now has two children with him. But Chris, 261 00:12:20,280 --> 00:12:22,440 Speaker 3: shout out Chris. He's a friend and listener of the podcast. 262 00:12:22,520 --> 00:12:24,840 Speaker 3: Chris is so great. I said, Chris, what would you be? 263 00:12:24,960 --> 00:12:27,200 Speaker 3: And before he I don't know why I asked, I 264 00:12:27,200 --> 00:12:29,640 Speaker 3: already know what he would say. He said golden retriever 265 00:12:29,760 --> 00:12:32,120 Speaker 3: and I said, goddamn right, you would be because he 266 00:12:32,280 --> 00:12:36,079 Speaker 3: is exactly that. Everyone loves Chris. He's so nice, he's 267 00:12:36,080 --> 00:12:39,720 Speaker 3: so easy to get along with. So I'm like, I'd 268 00:12:39,720 --> 00:12:42,559 Speaker 3: be a dolphin. I was just going to say, people, 269 00:12:43,280 --> 00:12:45,760 Speaker 3: I love the water, I want to have fun, I 270 00:12:45,800 --> 00:12:48,960 Speaker 3: want to be playful, and like, yeah, I just think 271 00:12:48,960 --> 00:12:49,400 Speaker 3: that I would. 272 00:12:49,440 --> 00:12:52,320 Speaker 2: I would love to be a dolphin. I agree about you? Agreed. 273 00:12:52,440 --> 00:12:54,920 Speaker 1: I would have to be some sort of dolphin or 274 00:12:55,400 --> 00:13:00,720 Speaker 1: like whale situation, but maybe a humpback chilling like playing 275 00:13:00,800 --> 00:13:01,240 Speaker 1: out there. 276 00:13:01,840 --> 00:13:03,200 Speaker 2: Why hump back, I don't know. 277 00:13:03,280 --> 00:13:06,000 Speaker 3: I think they're great the way they leap and just 278 00:13:06,160 --> 00:13:11,559 Speaker 3: do their thing. Great will killer ralls love, upset kil 279 00:13:11,640 --> 00:13:18,120 Speaker 3: rows are sexy bub shambo. Yeah, save him right, Mary, 280 00:13:18,200 --> 00:13:21,000 Speaker 3: go forward to sister. All right, Mary, My husband is 281 00:13:21,000 --> 00:13:24,560 Speaker 3: a referee grinding his way up the ladder. He's been 282 00:13:24,600 --> 00:13:28,120 Speaker 3: a rough our entire relationship over twenty years now wow. 283 00:13:28,240 --> 00:13:30,760 Speaker 3: And the more he moves up, the more demanding it 284 00:13:30,800 --> 00:13:33,200 Speaker 3: becomes on his schedule. But he's very close to getting 285 00:13:33,240 --> 00:13:36,760 Speaker 3: the highest level he's been working towards. Keep in mind, 286 00:13:36,800 --> 00:13:39,360 Speaker 3: this is an addiction to his Oh, this is not 287 00:13:39,440 --> 00:13:43,760 Speaker 3: an addiction. This is a This is in addition to 288 00:13:43,800 --> 00:13:46,760 Speaker 3: his regular job. Yes, referees are regular people who have 289 00:13:46,840 --> 00:13:49,480 Speaker 3: regular jobs who do this on the side. We also 290 00:13:49,600 --> 00:13:51,520 Speaker 3: have a six year old son. How do I keep 291 00:13:51,520 --> 00:13:55,320 Speaker 3: supporting him while this gets harder and more demanding and 292 00:13:55,360 --> 00:13:58,080 Speaker 3: I'm basically a single mom for big portions of the year. 293 00:13:58,160 --> 00:14:01,280 Speaker 3: I find it fascinating about our officials that do have 294 00:14:01,760 --> 00:14:06,000 Speaker 3: second jobs, and this isn't the job that pays the 295 00:14:06,000 --> 00:14:09,199 Speaker 3: bills either the one that they work not on Sundays 296 00:14:09,320 --> 00:14:10,319 Speaker 3: is the one that does it. 297 00:14:10,400 --> 00:14:12,120 Speaker 2: So then you think about the balance. 298 00:14:12,160 --> 00:14:15,079 Speaker 1: Like she just said, they have kids, they have partners, 299 00:14:15,160 --> 00:14:18,000 Speaker 1: it's kudos to you. As much as I bitch about 300 00:14:18,000 --> 00:14:21,160 Speaker 1: the travel and all of that, that is a lot 301 00:14:21,240 --> 00:14:21,840 Speaker 1: on the plate. 302 00:14:22,440 --> 00:14:23,640 Speaker 2: How do you balance it? 303 00:14:23,720 --> 00:14:25,600 Speaker 3: I mean, if this is his dream, it sounds like 304 00:14:25,640 --> 00:14:28,560 Speaker 3: you're already doing a great job of it being supportive. 305 00:14:29,080 --> 00:14:29,760 Speaker 2: That's a lot. 306 00:14:29,960 --> 00:14:38,320 Speaker 3: I don't know, Oh, Mary, I had never thought about 307 00:14:38,320 --> 00:14:40,960 Speaker 3: that too, and shame on me for not thinking about it. 308 00:14:41,000 --> 00:14:43,760 Speaker 3: But it's like when we see you know, ref's officials 309 00:14:43,800 --> 00:14:47,560 Speaker 3: anybody where, it's like I just assume like that's their 310 00:14:47,680 --> 00:14:49,840 Speaker 3: main job and that isn't the case all the time. 311 00:14:50,000 --> 00:14:52,520 Speaker 3: So that is such a great point in Mary, thank 312 00:14:52,560 --> 00:14:55,920 Speaker 3: you for highlighting that, because it is it's something that 313 00:14:56,160 --> 00:14:59,600 Speaker 3: you have to balance. I will say this, if being 314 00:14:59,640 --> 00:15:03,400 Speaker 3: a refer is clearly his passion, because he's doing that 315 00:15:03,480 --> 00:15:05,880 Speaker 3: in addition to a job where she's you know, to 316 00:15:05,960 --> 00:15:08,960 Speaker 3: support the family. Things like that, I would just ask 317 00:15:09,440 --> 00:15:11,880 Speaker 3: so you don't feel like your being neglected or your 318 00:15:11,920 --> 00:15:15,120 Speaker 3: family's being neglected because he's pursuing his dream. I would 319 00:15:15,160 --> 00:15:18,000 Speaker 3: just say to him, would I will continue to support 320 00:15:18,040 --> 00:15:21,920 Speaker 3: you in your dream, but I also have dreams outside 321 00:15:21,920 --> 00:15:24,880 Speaker 3: of my responsibilities for this family, and that is I 322 00:15:24,920 --> 00:15:27,160 Speaker 3: want to take up I don't know if it's pottery 323 00:15:27,240 --> 00:15:29,600 Speaker 3: or if I want to take up whatever, whatever your 324 00:15:29,800 --> 00:15:33,560 Speaker 3: passion or I love traveling or something where maybe you 325 00:15:33,560 --> 00:15:36,160 Speaker 3: guys can sit down and have a constructive conversation about 326 00:15:36,440 --> 00:15:40,960 Speaker 3: the time he's allocating to his passion. You should also 327 00:15:41,000 --> 00:15:43,080 Speaker 3: feel balanced in the scale that you are getting an 328 00:15:43,080 --> 00:15:45,360 Speaker 3: opportunity to pursue your passion as well. And I think 329 00:15:45,400 --> 00:15:49,480 Speaker 3: back on my mom raising kids like my dad admittingly, 330 00:15:49,520 --> 00:15:51,960 Speaker 3: and he would say this, like he loved playing football 331 00:15:52,040 --> 00:15:52,640 Speaker 3: so much. 332 00:15:52,480 --> 00:15:53,560 Speaker 2: But he had my sister. 333 00:15:53,960 --> 00:15:55,640 Speaker 3: They had my sister at a really early age, at 334 00:15:55,680 --> 00:15:57,720 Speaker 3: eighteen years old, so he had to stop playing football 335 00:15:58,040 --> 00:16:00,360 Speaker 3: and came home and had to work two jobs support 336 00:16:00,400 --> 00:16:03,680 Speaker 3: my mom and my family. And my mom also worked 337 00:16:03,720 --> 00:16:05,280 Speaker 3: in all these things, but he would go and play 338 00:16:05,280 --> 00:16:07,720 Speaker 3: flag football a couple of nights a week to sort 339 00:16:07,720 --> 00:16:11,400 Speaker 3: of fulfill that hobby and passion of his. So my 340 00:16:11,520 --> 00:16:14,000 Speaker 3: mom stayed at home when she wasn't working and took 341 00:16:14,080 --> 00:16:16,240 Speaker 3: care of kids and kind of all that. Well, now 342 00:16:16,320 --> 00:16:19,760 Speaker 3: that they've gotten older. My dad completely caters to my 343 00:16:19,840 --> 00:16:23,320 Speaker 3: mom's passions and hobbies. He built her a greenhouse and 344 00:16:23,400 --> 00:16:25,880 Speaker 3: built her all these things because she loves gardening. So 345 00:16:25,920 --> 00:16:30,280 Speaker 3: it's like it might not come right now, but know 346 00:16:30,400 --> 00:16:32,240 Speaker 3: that if you guys have a great relationship and you 347 00:16:32,240 --> 00:16:36,000 Speaker 3: can talk about that, just be like Mary, sweetheart, I 348 00:16:36,040 --> 00:16:37,880 Speaker 3: love you. I will follow this dream for you, but 349 00:16:38,040 --> 00:16:40,800 Speaker 3: know that I also have these other dreams and hopes 350 00:16:40,800 --> 00:16:43,360 Speaker 3: and maybe meet me down the road with mine, or 351 00:16:43,480 --> 00:16:45,600 Speaker 3: balance the scale. When it's not football season, or if 352 00:16:45,600 --> 00:16:49,160 Speaker 3: he's a I'm not sure, maybe he's a basketball referee, 353 00:16:49,200 --> 00:16:52,400 Speaker 3: whatever the season is, that you guys just have that 354 00:16:52,480 --> 00:16:56,120 Speaker 3: constructive conversation and also sure your kids feel about it. 355 00:16:56,320 --> 00:16:57,880 Speaker 3: Maybe your kids don't like your dad being gone, and 356 00:16:57,920 --> 00:16:59,680 Speaker 3: then he's going to have to be like, sorry. 357 00:17:00,000 --> 00:17:00,360 Speaker 2: I don't know. 358 00:17:00,440 --> 00:17:02,760 Speaker 3: I just think there's a lot there, but just communicating 359 00:17:02,880 --> 00:17:03,560 Speaker 3: might be helpful. 360 00:17:04,840 --> 00:17:08,000 Speaker 2: Second part. Second part that my second question. 361 00:17:08,040 --> 00:17:10,760 Speaker 3: I'm really struggling with the criticism he gets as a 362 00:17:10,800 --> 00:17:12,880 Speaker 3: ref It's hard to sit in the stands with our 363 00:17:12,880 --> 00:17:15,320 Speaker 3: son and have people yelling you suck at him or 364 00:17:15,359 --> 00:17:17,520 Speaker 3: accuse him of cheating in some way. It's tough given 365 00:17:17,560 --> 00:17:20,439 Speaker 3: how demanding this is and then you see how he 366 00:17:20,480 --> 00:17:23,800 Speaker 3: gets treated sometimes. Any tips on handling and dealing with 367 00:17:23,840 --> 00:17:27,320 Speaker 3: the harshness or criticisms, I would liken it to how 368 00:17:27,359 --> 00:17:32,239 Speaker 3: the players get talked about from the opposing teams. If 369 00:17:32,280 --> 00:17:33,879 Speaker 3: your son or you are having hard time with it, 370 00:17:33,920 --> 00:17:37,560 Speaker 3: be like, well, the only reason they're saying that is 371 00:17:37,640 --> 00:17:41,000 Speaker 3: because they, you know, are rooting for the other team, 372 00:17:41,240 --> 00:17:44,080 Speaker 3: or that the team doesn't like it if dad calls 373 00:17:44,080 --> 00:17:46,359 Speaker 3: a holding penalty because it hurts their team. 374 00:17:46,440 --> 00:17:47,359 Speaker 2: It's not personal. 375 00:17:47,880 --> 00:17:51,600 Speaker 3: These fans are just yelling at an idea of your 376 00:17:51,640 --> 00:17:54,320 Speaker 3: father because they want their team to win. So maybe 377 00:17:54,600 --> 00:17:58,400 Speaker 3: make sure that you yourself don't realize that it's personal, 378 00:17:58,800 --> 00:18:02,399 Speaker 3: that it's just him doing his job. And also, you know, 379 00:18:03,160 --> 00:18:05,879 Speaker 3: being in the stands, think about if you're the wife, 380 00:18:05,920 --> 00:18:08,360 Speaker 3: I mean, you have been the wife of a professional 381 00:18:08,600 --> 00:18:12,080 Speaker 3: hockey player, So if you hear those things, it's not personal. 382 00:18:12,240 --> 00:18:15,560 Speaker 3: They just want their significant other to do better or something, 383 00:18:15,600 --> 00:18:17,120 Speaker 3: and you might be standing in the way of that. 384 00:18:17,480 --> 00:18:21,320 Speaker 1: Yeah, my husband has been down on the sideline with 385 00:18:21,359 --> 00:18:24,320 Speaker 1: me and has said it's not his favorite because people 386 00:18:24,440 --> 00:18:28,000 Speaker 1: just say the craziest shit. I think that's kind of 387 00:18:28,000 --> 00:18:32,800 Speaker 1: what you Unfortunately set yourself up for especially when you 388 00:18:33,040 --> 00:18:35,240 Speaker 1: have a what is it, a six year old in 389 00:18:35,280 --> 00:18:36,440 Speaker 1: the stands as well. 390 00:18:36,480 --> 00:18:37,160 Speaker 2: That's hard to hear. 391 00:18:37,480 --> 00:18:41,359 Speaker 1: I was remembering one time, not one time, but we 392 00:18:41,400 --> 00:18:46,879 Speaker 1: did the NFC Championship Tampa Bay at Green Bay. It 393 00:18:46,920 --> 00:18:49,399 Speaker 1: was twenty twenty. It was when Tampa Bay won the 394 00:18:49,440 --> 00:18:54,640 Speaker 1: Super Bowl, and I knew that Tom's oldest son, Jack 395 00:18:54,880 --> 00:18:56,600 Speaker 1: was going to be in the stands. I actually help 396 00:18:56,680 --> 00:19:00,840 Speaker 1: them get game, get tickets to Lampo Lampo. They are 397 00:19:00,880 --> 00:19:03,720 Speaker 1: some of the most thoughtful fans. They are very, very sweet. 398 00:19:03,760 --> 00:19:06,720 Speaker 1: But I think TV had thrown a couple interceptions in 399 00:19:06,760 --> 00:19:08,639 Speaker 1: that game. I'm hoping it's a couple because they'll be 400 00:19:08,680 --> 00:19:10,920 Speaker 1: pissed if he hears about this and be like, what up, girl, 401 00:19:11,040 --> 00:19:15,240 Speaker 1: Just but I remember what you mean about Yeah, Jack 402 00:19:15,440 --> 00:19:18,080 Speaker 1: at that time being like, oh my god, like I 403 00:19:18,119 --> 00:19:20,800 Speaker 1: can't imagine the things people are saying about his dad. 404 00:19:20,880 --> 00:19:24,560 Speaker 1: But Jack knew that, like Jack knows, you know, watching 405 00:19:24,600 --> 00:19:26,879 Speaker 1: his dad and not sitting in a suite, sitting you know, 406 00:19:27,320 --> 00:19:29,399 Speaker 1: in the stands, He's going to hear it. So I 407 00:19:29,440 --> 00:19:32,320 Speaker 1: would assume you just have to really prepare yourself for it. 408 00:19:32,320 --> 00:19:35,200 Speaker 1: It does suck, Like I mean half the times when 409 00:19:35,240 --> 00:19:37,360 Speaker 1: I hear the things people say about me when I'm 410 00:19:37,359 --> 00:19:39,439 Speaker 1: walking by and they're not pleasant. And it's been a 411 00:19:39,440 --> 00:19:42,760 Speaker 1: fan who's very well. He had multiple interceptions in that 412 00:19:42,800 --> 00:19:45,760 Speaker 1: win over Green Bay. But we still love you kid. 413 00:19:47,280 --> 00:19:50,800 Speaker 3: Your career worked out. Yeah, it was good for you. 414 00:19:50,800 --> 00:19:53,800 Speaker 3: You just got to know like that sex and I 415 00:19:53,840 --> 00:19:56,280 Speaker 3: always think what would their mother think right now if 416 00:19:56,280 --> 00:19:58,080 Speaker 3: they heard these things that they were saying. I know 417 00:19:58,119 --> 00:20:00,159 Speaker 3: your six year old won't get that, and sometimes it 418 00:20:00,200 --> 00:20:03,480 Speaker 3: doesn't help. But maybe just sitting in the stands is 419 00:20:03,520 --> 00:20:06,640 Speaker 3: when you don't do you sit out? Yeah, that's that's 420 00:20:06,640 --> 00:20:08,360 Speaker 3: a good point. Maybe you wait till he's a little 421 00:20:08,400 --> 00:20:10,520 Speaker 3: bit older and understands. But I understand he wants to 422 00:20:10,560 --> 00:20:12,960 Speaker 3: go to the game. It's just like, hey, there's gonna 423 00:20:12,960 --> 00:20:14,720 Speaker 3: be said. Things that are said, but it's not personal 424 00:20:14,760 --> 00:20:16,680 Speaker 3: about your dad. They just want their team to win. 425 00:20:16,880 --> 00:20:17,280 Speaker 2: Totally. 426 00:20:26,600 --> 00:20:31,200 Speaker 1: Next m three pres My husband just said, I love 427 00:20:31,359 --> 00:20:32,119 Speaker 1: ordering food. 428 00:20:33,240 --> 00:20:38,280 Speaker 2: What is your favorite takeout order? Well, it depends on 429 00:20:38,320 --> 00:20:40,840 Speaker 2: the mood. Sure, I just had for lunch. I just 430 00:20:40,880 --> 00:20:43,560 Speaker 2: had a Tokaya Fahda bowl. 431 00:20:43,800 --> 00:20:47,960 Speaker 3: Thing. I've been a chicken you know, the one, the 432 00:20:48,000 --> 00:20:51,120 Speaker 3: shredded one. I and a tortilla soup. I have been 433 00:20:51,240 --> 00:20:57,640 Speaker 3: ordering way too much. It is astronomically expensive because all 434 00:20:57,680 --> 00:20:59,640 Speaker 3: the surg charges all of this, and then you want 435 00:20:59,640 --> 00:21:01,560 Speaker 3: to make sure tip the delivery. Do now, and by 436 00:21:01,640 --> 00:21:05,000 Speaker 3: the way, I want to I want to take this opportunity. 437 00:21:05,359 --> 00:21:08,280 Speaker 3: Don't just give the one dollar, don't just give the 438 00:21:08,320 --> 00:21:12,239 Speaker 3: whatever this person has. I understand it's their job, but 439 00:21:12,320 --> 00:21:15,560 Speaker 3: they have gotten in the car. They are working hard 440 00:21:15,600 --> 00:21:17,840 Speaker 3: for you. So you don't have to leave your house. 441 00:21:18,119 --> 00:21:19,880 Speaker 3: If you were at the restaurant, you would have tip 442 00:21:19,920 --> 00:21:22,200 Speaker 3: twenty percent. So if you don't want to tip twenty percent, 443 00:21:22,240 --> 00:21:24,639 Speaker 3: I understand that because that driver didn't make the food. 444 00:21:24,920 --> 00:21:27,639 Speaker 3: But the driver is still having to look for a 445 00:21:27,680 --> 00:21:29,720 Speaker 3: place to park, get out of their car. They're in 446 00:21:29,760 --> 00:21:33,000 Speaker 3: an LA that's not easy exactly. They're having to do 447 00:21:33,119 --> 00:21:35,320 Speaker 3: all the things that you don't want to do out 448 00:21:35,320 --> 00:21:37,680 Speaker 3: of convenience. And I understand they have chosen this job. 449 00:21:37,800 --> 00:21:40,399 Speaker 3: That's fine, but they're doing it to support their family 450 00:21:40,440 --> 00:21:43,920 Speaker 3: or support themselves. And I just really think it's important 451 00:21:43,960 --> 00:21:45,840 Speaker 3: that don't look at that tip of like, oh, it's 452 00:21:46,080 --> 00:21:49,680 Speaker 3: you know extra, It's like, no, it's part of the service. 453 00:21:50,119 --> 00:21:54,159 Speaker 3: And really respect those drivers because they're doing all the 454 00:21:54,240 --> 00:21:56,919 Speaker 3: crappy part of the you got to just sit your 455 00:21:56,920 --> 00:21:58,720 Speaker 3: ass on the couch and have food show up, like 456 00:21:58,760 --> 00:21:59,359 Speaker 3: how long you are? We? 457 00:21:59,560 --> 00:22:02,480 Speaker 2: So anyway, But I've been ordering way to along those time. 458 00:22:02,920 --> 00:22:06,399 Speaker 3: I am ordering every meal and it's it's not okay. 459 00:22:06,440 --> 00:22:09,239 Speaker 3: I need to start going to the grocery store. I 460 00:22:09,280 --> 00:22:10,399 Speaker 3: don't have the excuse it. 461 00:22:10,400 --> 00:22:12,960 Speaker 2: It's the season. I'm so busy. I'm just going out convenience. 462 00:22:13,359 --> 00:22:15,760 Speaker 3: I need to be an adult and I need to 463 00:22:15,800 --> 00:22:17,919 Speaker 3: get back to that idea of like and even cooking 464 00:22:17,960 --> 00:22:20,640 Speaker 3: for Steve once a week. I mean, my god, once 465 00:22:20,680 --> 00:22:23,439 Speaker 3: a week is nothing. So I'm going to grow up, okay, 466 00:22:23,600 --> 00:22:25,560 Speaker 3: And I need to get some leafy greens. 467 00:22:25,640 --> 00:22:26,320 Speaker 2: I really do. 468 00:22:26,480 --> 00:22:28,639 Speaker 1: It's just like now after this, I have to go 469 00:22:28,640 --> 00:22:30,919 Speaker 1: to my gym and then we're home at five thirty 470 00:22:31,080 --> 00:22:33,600 Speaker 1: and it's like a convenient I'm to go to this store, 471 00:22:33,920 --> 00:22:36,480 Speaker 1: but I also don't want to eat out. It's everything's 472 00:22:36,520 --> 00:22:38,880 Speaker 1: tasting the same and it's gross. 473 00:22:39,359 --> 00:22:42,359 Speaker 2: I agree, So what are you ordering? 474 00:22:42,800 --> 00:22:45,600 Speaker 3: What would the The thing is we've ordered everything as 475 00:22:45,800 --> 00:22:49,520 Speaker 3: the air one muffet and the coffee, but I think 476 00:22:49,520 --> 00:22:51,600 Speaker 3: it's it's hard to say what we're ordering, because it 477 00:22:51,600 --> 00:22:52,760 Speaker 3: also depends. 478 00:22:52,400 --> 00:22:53,879 Speaker 2: On your mood. 479 00:22:54,720 --> 00:22:58,400 Speaker 3: Yeah, okay, and no, I sorry this is you Nope, 480 00:22:58,880 --> 00:23:01,119 Speaker 3: no matter anonymous. How do you go about telling a 481 00:23:01,119 --> 00:23:03,280 Speaker 3: friend she's being a bad friend she doesn't respond to 482 00:23:03,320 --> 00:23:05,400 Speaker 3: text or calls, and when she is around or responds, 483 00:23:05,640 --> 00:23:08,520 Speaker 3: she's being rude and blaming others for her own mistakes. 484 00:23:08,880 --> 00:23:11,280 Speaker 3: Don't know what to say to her, or if I 485 00:23:11,359 --> 00:23:12,280 Speaker 3: should at all. 486 00:23:13,720 --> 00:23:16,360 Speaker 2: I'm bad this happen, I would, and I would just. 487 00:23:16,400 --> 00:23:21,080 Speaker 3: Say it like, hey, like this isn't really I mean, 488 00:23:21,240 --> 00:23:22,080 Speaker 3: maybe don't freeze it. 489 00:23:22,119 --> 00:23:23,119 Speaker 2: This isn't working for me. 490 00:23:23,200 --> 00:23:26,400 Speaker 3: But I'm struggling with this. 491 00:23:26,400 --> 00:23:29,560 Speaker 1: This makes me feel this way. I know you're not 492 00:23:29,640 --> 00:23:31,560 Speaker 1: trying to, but can we talk about it? 493 00:23:31,920 --> 00:23:32,359 Speaker 3: M hmm. 494 00:23:33,240 --> 00:23:34,000 Speaker 2: I think that's good. 495 00:23:34,080 --> 00:23:37,320 Speaker 3: Aaron's also really good at She did this the other day, 496 00:23:37,320 --> 00:23:39,119 Speaker 3: you guys. I was up at the ranch and I 497 00:23:39,160 --> 00:23:41,199 Speaker 3: had something happen and I was just not on my 498 00:23:41,280 --> 00:23:43,640 Speaker 3: phone and I was in like a bad head space 499 00:23:43,720 --> 00:23:46,159 Speaker 3: and I wasn't responding to text I wasn't. I just 500 00:23:46,200 --> 00:23:47,920 Speaker 3: put my phone on the charger and like walked away. 501 00:23:48,400 --> 00:23:52,560 Speaker 3: And she is so intuitive. She knew something was wrong 502 00:23:53,040 --> 00:23:56,159 Speaker 3: and when I wasn't answering. Then she texts Steve and 503 00:23:56,200 --> 00:23:58,919 Speaker 3: she checked on me, and she was worried about me. 504 00:23:59,680 --> 00:24:03,600 Speaker 3: I was so grateful to have I mean, I'm always 505 00:24:03,600 --> 00:24:06,399 Speaker 3: grateful for Aaron, but in those moments, I'm reminded of 506 00:24:06,440 --> 00:24:09,840 Speaker 3: how lucky am I to have someone care enough to 507 00:24:09,960 --> 00:24:12,359 Speaker 3: track me down to make sure I am okay, that 508 00:24:12,400 --> 00:24:15,040 Speaker 3: it's not just physical, but like, did emotionally something happen 509 00:24:15,160 --> 00:24:17,840 Speaker 3: or whatever. And So this is what I think about 510 00:24:17,920 --> 00:24:20,040 Speaker 3: some of the most successful people I know in my life. 511 00:24:20,040 --> 00:24:25,120 Speaker 3: And I've said this before, CEOs of companies, whatever, they 512 00:24:25,240 --> 00:24:30,440 Speaker 3: respond very quickly to text to emails, and it's. 513 00:24:30,240 --> 00:24:31,080 Speaker 2: Not across the board. 514 00:24:31,119 --> 00:24:32,520 Speaker 3: And when I say, like, oh, in five minutes, no, 515 00:24:32,640 --> 00:24:34,800 Speaker 3: but it's within twenty four hours. 516 00:24:34,960 --> 00:24:37,040 Speaker 2: So I always think, if these people. 517 00:24:36,880 --> 00:24:41,000 Speaker 3: Who are running the world or running big companies can 518 00:24:41,080 --> 00:24:44,080 Speaker 3: have the respect to respond, why the fuck can my 519 00:24:44,200 --> 00:24:47,399 Speaker 3: friends not respond? And again, if they're the good friends, 520 00:24:47,520 --> 00:24:50,040 Speaker 3: you don't expect a response in five minutes or whatever. 521 00:24:50,320 --> 00:24:52,760 Speaker 3: But I think that's a bullshit excuse to say I've 522 00:24:52,800 --> 00:24:54,520 Speaker 3: been just so busy I can't respond. 523 00:24:55,200 --> 00:24:56,080 Speaker 2: No, you know what it means. 524 00:24:56,119 --> 00:24:58,600 Speaker 3: It signals to me you're not important enough for me 525 00:24:58,640 --> 00:25:01,399 Speaker 3: to respond to you, because because I get that life 526 00:25:01,400 --> 00:25:03,679 Speaker 3: happens and everyone has other priorities and I'm not the 527 00:25:03,720 --> 00:25:06,760 Speaker 3: top of someone's priority list. But what I do is 528 00:25:06,840 --> 00:25:09,040 Speaker 3: if I see a text and I open it and 529 00:25:09,119 --> 00:25:11,440 Speaker 3: don't respond right away because I'm either driving or I'm 530 00:25:11,440 --> 00:25:13,440 Speaker 3: busy or I don't you know, just not in the headspace, 531 00:25:13,720 --> 00:25:16,200 Speaker 3: I will then go back through and I'll I'll market 532 00:25:16,320 --> 00:25:17,240 Speaker 3: like I haven't read it. 533 00:25:17,560 --> 00:25:19,000 Speaker 2: So it's in my phone. 534 00:25:19,240 --> 00:25:22,960 Speaker 3: I need to do emails too, so it signals to me, hey, 535 00:25:23,359 --> 00:25:26,240 Speaker 3: this hasn't been quote read. So I don't forget about it, 536 00:25:26,240 --> 00:25:28,159 Speaker 3: because I don't want to be rude and not respond 537 00:25:28,160 --> 00:25:30,640 Speaker 3: to someone, especially like there will be times where someone 538 00:25:30,680 --> 00:25:32,679 Speaker 3: says something really nice and then I'm like, shit, I 539 00:25:32,680 --> 00:25:36,000 Speaker 3: didn't respond like this just it just feels rude. Now 540 00:25:36,080 --> 00:25:37,680 Speaker 3: I've also, in the same breath been like, oh, just 541 00:25:37,680 --> 00:25:39,440 Speaker 3: because we have phones doesn't mean people have to respond 542 00:25:39,480 --> 00:25:42,480 Speaker 3: right away. What I'm trying to get at is if 543 00:25:42,520 --> 00:25:45,919 Speaker 3: this is your friend and the person just doesn't respond 544 00:25:45,960 --> 00:25:49,280 Speaker 3: to text or calls or whatever, Like I always say this, 545 00:25:49,440 --> 00:25:52,520 Speaker 3: but it's a bank account in friendships, there's deposits and withdrawals, 546 00:25:52,560 --> 00:25:54,600 Speaker 3: and if they continue to just be the friend that 547 00:25:54,640 --> 00:25:57,040 Speaker 3: they don't care enough to respond to you, then maybe 548 00:25:57,080 --> 00:25:58,879 Speaker 3: that's not a friend that you want in your life. 549 00:25:58,960 --> 00:26:02,280 Speaker 3: And or they have something going on that is putting 550 00:26:02,320 --> 00:26:03,760 Speaker 3: them in a position like I had the other day 551 00:26:03,760 --> 00:26:06,000 Speaker 3: at the ranch where I did it, so then check 552 00:26:06,040 --> 00:26:06,400 Speaker 3: on them. 553 00:26:06,720 --> 00:26:08,560 Speaker 2: So again, it's about communication. 554 00:26:08,680 --> 00:26:11,440 Speaker 3: It's about being honest about something and then also being like, hey, 555 00:26:11,480 --> 00:26:13,800 Speaker 3: is there something more going on here because this isn't 556 00:26:13,920 --> 00:26:16,239 Speaker 3: like you or if this person is always doing that, 557 00:26:16,320 --> 00:26:19,480 Speaker 3: be like, hey, you're a shitty friend, and I'm not 558 00:26:19,520 --> 00:26:21,320 Speaker 3: going to chase you down every time I want to 559 00:26:21,359 --> 00:26:23,320 Speaker 3: like talk to you, Like the relationship has to go 560 00:26:23,359 --> 00:26:23,879 Speaker 3: both ways. 561 00:26:24,359 --> 00:26:25,920 Speaker 2: Yeah, love it. 562 00:26:26,880 --> 00:26:30,439 Speaker 1: Our margaert reat. Do you listen to music before you 563 00:26:30,480 --> 00:26:32,199 Speaker 1: go on air? To pump you up before I go 564 00:26:32,240 --> 00:26:34,159 Speaker 1: to the game? I do usually during like hair and 565 00:26:34,240 --> 00:26:38,040 Speaker 1: makeup in the car on our way. Kevi and I 566 00:26:38,080 --> 00:26:41,520 Speaker 1: are always together. We always and Clinton are sweet security. 567 00:26:41,800 --> 00:26:45,520 Speaker 1: We always do a good jam session you. Richard Sherman 568 00:26:45,720 --> 00:26:48,680 Speaker 1: is our resident DJ. He always has a speaker with him. 569 00:26:49,040 --> 00:26:54,600 Speaker 1: He is always playing music. Then he'll take requests. He's like, cet, 570 00:26:54,800 --> 00:26:57,240 Speaker 1: what's your vibe right now? What are we listening to? 571 00:26:57,640 --> 00:26:59,359 Speaker 1: Or like he'll come like I don't really know you 572 00:26:59,400 --> 00:27:02,359 Speaker 1: pick everyone. We all ride in the van on the 573 00:27:02,400 --> 00:27:05,119 Speaker 1: way over together. Also on Sunday morning. 574 00:27:05,240 --> 00:27:07,120 Speaker 3: I mean it's early. It's like when we go out 575 00:27:07,119 --> 00:27:09,800 Speaker 3: for sometimes pre tapes are different things. It's like seven o'clock, 576 00:27:10,000 --> 00:27:12,680 Speaker 3: and I'm big on energy, like it's seven o'clock in 577 00:27:12,720 --> 00:27:15,000 Speaker 3: the morning, like the same way that players have music 578 00:27:15,040 --> 00:27:17,119 Speaker 3: to warm up at the stadium. Like it gets me 579 00:27:17,200 --> 00:27:19,399 Speaker 3: pumped up, It gets me excited, it makes me awake. 580 00:27:19,680 --> 00:27:22,679 Speaker 3: So I always put on music with Charles and Julian 581 00:27:22,720 --> 00:27:24,720 Speaker 3: and the boys. So yeah, I love it. I can't 582 00:27:24,720 --> 00:27:27,760 Speaker 3: get enough music. I have music on constantly. It's a 583 00:27:27,840 --> 00:27:31,600 Speaker 3: mood booster for me. I just I love it and 584 00:27:31,720 --> 00:27:34,240 Speaker 3: I miss I fell in love with a wedding venue 585 00:27:34,359 --> 00:27:37,120 Speaker 3: right after getting engaged. I realized an acquaintance who had 586 00:27:37,160 --> 00:27:40,000 Speaker 3: asked me to be a bridesmaid despite us only hanging 587 00:27:40,040 --> 00:27:42,280 Speaker 3: out twice in the past year, had already booked it. 588 00:27:42,600 --> 00:27:46,520 Speaker 3: She tracked my location on a random Monday afternoon, no 589 00:27:46,960 --> 00:27:49,679 Speaker 3: saw I was at the venue and accuse me of 590 00:27:49,720 --> 00:27:53,520 Speaker 3: being sneaky and betraying her. She says the venue is 591 00:27:53,520 --> 00:27:57,080 Speaker 3: emotionally exclusive to her and her wedding and that she'll 592 00:27:57,119 --> 00:27:59,399 Speaker 3: never be okay with me or anyone close to her 593 00:27:59,480 --> 00:28:00,000 Speaker 3: getting married. 594 00:28:00,119 --> 00:28:00,359 Speaker 2: There? 595 00:28:01,000 --> 00:28:03,320 Speaker 3: Am I crazy? Or is she completely out of bounds? 596 00:28:03,480 --> 00:28:05,679 Speaker 3: She is so far out of bound, she's out of 597 00:28:05,680 --> 00:28:09,639 Speaker 3: the stadium. This is cuckoo behavior. It also sounds like 598 00:28:09,680 --> 00:28:12,400 Speaker 3: she really doesn't have anything else in her life. 599 00:28:12,320 --> 00:28:19,200 Speaker 1: To put her thoughts. Life people like this, I just can't. 600 00:28:19,320 --> 00:28:21,760 Speaker 1: I was thinking about the other day, my wedding. 601 00:28:21,880 --> 00:28:23,960 Speaker 2: I loved my wedding. It was great, it was amazing, 602 00:28:24,200 --> 00:28:26,920 Speaker 2: my thing in my life. No. 603 00:28:27,280 --> 00:28:29,920 Speaker 1: I mean I was going through fucking IVF at the time, 604 00:28:29,960 --> 00:28:32,399 Speaker 1: and I remember how jacked up my body was, and 605 00:28:32,440 --> 00:28:33,720 Speaker 1: it was just it. 606 00:28:33,600 --> 00:28:36,040 Speaker 2: Was great and it was wonderful. It was amazing. But 607 00:28:36,080 --> 00:28:39,280 Speaker 2: it's not like I was like, no, youse, dope. I 608 00:28:39,440 --> 00:28:43,320 Speaker 2: venue like okay, And I get that some. 609 00:28:43,440 --> 00:28:46,040 Speaker 3: Wedding like look, I've had multiple weddings, as we know, 610 00:28:46,440 --> 00:28:48,479 Speaker 3: none of them like you were not either one of them. 611 00:28:48,600 --> 00:28:49,280 Speaker 2: It was not my thing. 612 00:28:49,320 --> 00:28:51,280 Speaker 3: In fact, no one was at the first one. I 613 00:28:51,360 --> 00:28:53,200 Speaker 3: mean my parents weren't even at the first one, and 614 00:28:53,280 --> 00:28:55,840 Speaker 3: then COVID happened in the second one. It's not my thing, 615 00:28:56,040 --> 00:28:58,920 Speaker 3: it's not it's it was nothing that said. 616 00:28:58,960 --> 00:29:02,600 Speaker 2: I will respect that. Oh, my god, this is, you know, 617 00:29:02,840 --> 00:29:05,080 Speaker 2: something I've dreamed of since I was a little girl. 618 00:29:05,600 --> 00:29:09,080 Speaker 3: However, however, that's okay that you have a dream and 619 00:29:09,160 --> 00:29:10,800 Speaker 3: you have it in your head that this should be, 620 00:29:11,360 --> 00:29:13,040 Speaker 3: you know, the place that you get married. But the 621 00:29:13,160 --> 00:29:17,080 Speaker 3: behavior of her following you and tracking you down like 622 00:29:17,560 --> 00:29:20,440 Speaker 3: that seems a little single white female stalker ish too, 623 00:29:20,560 --> 00:29:23,400 Speaker 3: if we've seen the movie. But it just feels like, hey, 624 00:29:23,720 --> 00:29:25,760 Speaker 3: as my girl over here likes to say, what's really 625 00:29:25,800 --> 00:29:29,440 Speaker 3: going on here? Because this is exactly not what got 626 00:29:29,520 --> 00:29:34,400 Speaker 3: susceptible behavior? And so yeah, I think you and if 627 00:29:34,440 --> 00:29:37,200 Speaker 3: you're not like that obsessed with the location, to just 628 00:29:37,280 --> 00:29:39,360 Speaker 3: avoid the drama, like pick a different spot. 629 00:29:39,760 --> 00:29:43,280 Speaker 2: But if this is a place that you really liked, then. 630 00:29:43,160 --> 00:29:47,040 Speaker 3: Fucking have it there too, to like, should you should 631 00:29:47,080 --> 00:29:49,200 Speaker 3: not have to act we as to some girl that's 632 00:29:49,240 --> 00:29:52,080 Speaker 3: acting cuckoo, And if you like the place and it 633 00:29:52,200 --> 00:29:53,920 Speaker 3: was your idea first, then be like, hey, guess what, 634 00:29:54,440 --> 00:29:57,040 Speaker 3: we're both going to get married here and I'm going 635 00:29:57,080 --> 00:29:57,800 Speaker 3: to do it better than you. 636 00:29:57,920 --> 00:29:59,840 Speaker 2: No I'm kidding, but like, just have it there. 637 00:30:00,080 --> 00:30:02,200 Speaker 3: You should not have to not have it at a 638 00:30:02,240 --> 00:30:04,960 Speaker 3: place just because she's acting like a lunatic. So no, 639 00:30:05,080 --> 00:30:08,520 Speaker 3: and also maybe we should rethink that friendship. It's crazy 640 00:30:08,600 --> 00:30:11,800 Speaker 3: behavior to me. Okay, we have an anonymous follow up. 641 00:30:11,840 --> 00:30:15,960 Speaker 3: The original question was from March twenty twenty five. Just 642 00:30:16,080 --> 00:30:18,880 Speaker 3: moved into my apartment complex and I have a cute neighbor. 643 00:30:19,040 --> 00:30:23,200 Speaker 3: Oh yeah, email real me. How do I find out 644 00:30:23,240 --> 00:30:27,920 Speaker 3: if he's single? Oh? I like this. Our advice was start, Oh, 645 00:30:28,000 --> 00:30:30,320 Speaker 3: I'm acting like we haven't heard this. Our advice start 646 00:30:30,360 --> 00:30:32,880 Speaker 3: with Instagram. See if there's anything you can find out there, 647 00:30:33,040 --> 00:30:35,400 Speaker 3: or maybe you get lucky with a rom com moment 648 00:30:35,520 --> 00:30:38,200 Speaker 3: coming home from being out with the girls and he's 649 00:30:38,240 --> 00:30:40,520 Speaker 3: coming back at the same time and you have the 650 00:30:40,560 --> 00:30:43,400 Speaker 3: liquid courage, should just ask him, Hey, are you single? 651 00:30:43,880 --> 00:30:47,360 Speaker 1: The follow up is he was single. I did end 652 00:30:47,440 --> 00:30:50,080 Speaker 1: up getting his number. Hey now, and nothing really ever 653 00:30:50,200 --> 00:30:53,520 Speaker 1: came of it. Okay, at least you tried. Because she 654 00:30:53,840 --> 00:30:57,320 Speaker 1: met a wonderful man online and now she's engaged. 655 00:30:57,920 --> 00:31:02,120 Speaker 2: That's so cute. Oh my god, that's so cute. 656 00:31:02,200 --> 00:31:07,200 Speaker 3: Also, let that be a great reminder that, in the 657 00:31:07,240 --> 00:31:10,400 Speaker 3: words of Garth Brooks, thank God for unanswered prayers, because 658 00:31:11,200 --> 00:31:13,680 Speaker 3: just because you think like you're you're oh, this will 659 00:31:13,720 --> 00:31:17,400 Speaker 3: be that you put yourself out there you made the 660 00:31:17,480 --> 00:31:21,080 Speaker 3: intro fine, and that was not what was meant to be. 661 00:31:21,360 --> 00:31:24,320 Speaker 2: Oh my god, this is so exciting and so exciting, 662 00:31:24,760 --> 00:31:27,240 Speaker 2: very very sweet. That's very very sweet. 663 00:31:27,400 --> 00:31:31,560 Speaker 3: Please it's not you fighting over the wedding venue. Yeah 664 00:31:31,640 --> 00:31:34,520 Speaker 3: that too, but no, that's very cute. I always had 665 00:31:34,640 --> 00:31:36,480 Speaker 3: dreams of, you know, Melroe's place made it look so 666 00:31:36,640 --> 00:31:40,000 Speaker 3: chic to like date your neighbor and like have that thing. However, 667 00:31:40,680 --> 00:31:42,440 Speaker 3: if the date your neighbor thing goes wrong and then 668 00:31:42,480 --> 00:31:45,560 Speaker 3: he's your neighbor, and now we got that situation and 669 00:31:45,680 --> 00:31:48,040 Speaker 3: then yeah, my god, imagine and then you got to 670 00:31:48,080 --> 00:31:51,640 Speaker 3: sit there and like be worried every single time. God 671 00:31:51,800 --> 00:31:53,880 Speaker 3: imagine that would be awful. And then you've got to 672 00:31:54,000 --> 00:31:56,920 Speaker 3: move because the whole thing. So, yeah, it's a good show. 673 00:31:57,400 --> 00:31:59,280 Speaker 3: It is. It's a great show. I don't know if 674 00:31:59,280 --> 00:32:01,840 Speaker 3: I encourage ing the neighbor, but make sure you're friends 675 00:32:01,880 --> 00:32:03,120 Speaker 3: with your name. It's very important to be friends with 676 00:32:03,120 --> 00:32:05,360 Speaker 3: your neighbor if you ever need anything. Also for safety reasons. 677 00:32:05,400 --> 00:32:07,840 Speaker 3: I could go on and on about this, but yeah, 678 00:32:08,080 --> 00:32:12,520 Speaker 3: that's adorable. Well, congratulations on your engagement and everybody, thank 679 00:32:12,600 --> 00:32:16,160 Speaker 3: you so much for your question. Yeah, hey, you know 680 00:32:16,240 --> 00:32:18,520 Speaker 3: what I'm going to say real quick, anonymous, thank you 681 00:32:18,640 --> 00:32:21,719 Speaker 3: guys for following up. We get invested in these stories, 682 00:32:21,800 --> 00:32:24,239 Speaker 3: so I think it's really sweet that you guys let 683 00:32:24,320 --> 00:32:26,960 Speaker 3: us know what's happening after our advice, and hopefully the 684 00:32:27,160 --> 00:32:29,200 Speaker 3: advice is good. But we love that. 685 00:32:29,800 --> 00:32:30,600 Speaker 2: So we love you guys. 686 00:32:30,960 --> 00:32:34,360 Speaker 3: All right, Migal hop fun at uh my Jim and 687 00:32:35,280 --> 00:32:37,280 Speaker 3: make that leafy green meal that you want. 688 00:32:37,120 --> 00:32:41,320 Speaker 2: To know, what's the healthy start? How about my cooking it. 689 00:32:41,760 --> 00:32:44,320 Speaker 2: We'll start tomorrow home to fire it up on the barbie. 690 00:32:46,160 --> 00:32:48,960 Speaker 2: You are Barbie. I'll have Steven over to help you. 691 00:32:49,320 --> 00:32:55,320 Speaker 2: I love you, guys, Bye, love you. Calm Down with 692 00:32:55,560 --> 00:32:57,960 Speaker 2: Erin and Carissa is a production of iHeartRadio. 693 00:32:58,160 --> 00:33:01,280 Speaker 3: For more podcasts from iHeart Radio with the iHeartRadio app, 694 00:33:01,480 --> 00:33:04,040 Speaker 3: Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts