WEBVTT - Staying In A Child's Place

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<v Speaker 1>Welcome to Can'tfully Reckless, the production of iHeart Radio and

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<v Speaker 1>the Black Effect and just like that were back on

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<v Speaker 1>the air. Welcome back to yet another Canfully Reckless episode

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<v Speaker 1>with your girl. Just hilarious. So look, y'all, false alarm.

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<v Speaker 1>You ever heard of false labor? I basically got played

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<v Speaker 1>with by my child, like I'm being pranked by my

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<v Speaker 1>unborn child, because it's like she want to come, but

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<v Speaker 1>she like psych you know what I'm saying, Like playing

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<v Speaker 1>big games with my cervix, playing big games with my uterists,

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<v Speaker 1>playing big games with my bladder. I feel like some

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<v Speaker 1>days she feel like she's about to just fall out

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<v Speaker 1>of that motherfucker. And then other days I feel like

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<v Speaker 1>she didn't like shimmied her way back up a little bit,

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<v Speaker 1>because some days I'm low, some days I'm hot. Y'all.

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<v Speaker 1>This this, this is a lot, y'all, And I know

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<v Speaker 1>that y'all know us. And I'm recording this shit on

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<v Speaker 1>a Monday, but it came out today, So this is

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<v Speaker 1>just two days ago. Now, I guarantee you I'm gonna

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<v Speaker 1>probably still be pregnant Wednesday. I just stopped like playing

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<v Speaker 1>with her at this point. Now. I posted some things

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<v Speaker 1>like yo, what do you do? I did ask people

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<v Speaker 1>like what do you do to like make the baby come? Now?

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<v Speaker 1>The reason why I did this, I went in for

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<v Speaker 1>an appointment two weeks ago. My doctor was like, oh,

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<v Speaker 1>she's extremely low, like I'd be surprised if you make

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<v Speaker 1>it to next week's appointment. Then I was only thirty

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<v Speaker 1>eight weeks. That's that's considered to be full term though,

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<v Speaker 1>so we're past the premie stage and everything. So I

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<v Speaker 1>was excited, like, oh shit, I'm about to have her,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, as nervous as I am later for that

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<v Speaker 1>nervous shit, Like this shit is not Pregnancy is not

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<v Speaker 1>fun anymore. It's exhausting, It's very uncomfortable in your leg

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<v Speaker 1>like on at home stretch, and last week's your last

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<v Speaker 1>day's is like whoa, you just want the baby out.

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<v Speaker 1>While I'm not rushing her. I was told, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>she might be coming, like you know, and it's looking

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<v Speaker 1>very promising. So I was just like, okay, so what

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<v Speaker 1>are some things. I've talked to doulas. I've talked to

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<v Speaker 1>women who've had dulas. I've talked to older women, younger women.

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<v Speaker 1>You know, everybody's different, So I'm not just just gonna

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<v Speaker 1>stop at just one person's opinion on what they think

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<v Speaker 1>I should do. But I did see in the comments

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<v Speaker 1>like why is she trying to rush her? Bitch, I'm

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<v Speaker 1>not trying to rush her. She was rushing and then

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<v Speaker 1>she played with me because I ended up making it

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<v Speaker 1>to next week. Why did I do the cast sole shit,

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<v Speaker 1>the castle shit I did that? I was shitty, My

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<v Speaker 1>buhle was raw. I'm glad I didn't go into labor

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<v Speaker 1>because for those who don't know, when you push your

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<v Speaker 1>baby out, you have to push like you're on the

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<v Speaker 1>toilet taking the number two. You don't push like you're

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<v Speaker 1>pushing them out of your vagil I. You know, you

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<v Speaker 1>push like you're taking a shit. So I'm so glad

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<v Speaker 1>because I would have had big hemorrhoids, you know what

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<v Speaker 1>I'm saying. Bajo was burning big raw like it was like, okay,

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<v Speaker 1>so why the fuck do people take this shit? You know? Now,

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<v Speaker 1>I wasn't aware because everybody who told me to take

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<v Speaker 1>it did tell me it's a laxative. But I had

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<v Speaker 1>no idea I would be shitty for that long. So

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<v Speaker 1>I'm glad that she didn't come. That would have been

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<v Speaker 1>like extremely painful. Then I'm trying to do this shit

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<v Speaker 1>without another DOORO, Like, I'm praying every day that I

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<v Speaker 1>do have the strength to me and I know I do,

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<v Speaker 1>but it's just like, oh my gosh, like giving birth

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<v Speaker 1>without another door, just even thinking of what the hell

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<v Speaker 1>that feels like is definitely intimidating to me. But I

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<v Speaker 1>want to do it. I do want to try to

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<v Speaker 1>birth this baby with no meads, no medicine and shit.

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<v Speaker 1>And so after I push out, they load me up

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<v Speaker 1>with a perk perk. But yeah, other than that, I

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<v Speaker 1>don't know. So I'm not rushing her her. I've seen

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<v Speaker 1>that in a bunch of my fucking comments. I'm like,

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<v Speaker 1>look y'all, y'all can get blocked fucking around me, fucking

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<v Speaker 1>around with pregnantized I'm very sensitive, So don't play with

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<v Speaker 1>me like that. I would never do that, but I

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<v Speaker 1>will say she is being very stubborn, very stubborn. Last

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<v Speaker 1>appointment we went, they put the two straps like the

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<v Speaker 1>belts around your stomach to monitor your contractions and the

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<v Speaker 1>duration of them and how strong they are and you

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<v Speaker 1>know the time in between them and all that type shit.

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<v Speaker 1>And I have not one on that goddamn at that

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<v Speaker 1>appointment on that machine. I was having contractions that day.

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<v Speaker 1>They were just spread out. And then I want to know, like,

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<v Speaker 1>y'all give me feedback on this, if y'all been pregnant

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<v Speaker 1>and like close to the time that you're having a

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<v Speaker 1>baby and your contractions are more intense and more frequent

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<v Speaker 1>at night and then in the morning, it's like second now,

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<v Speaker 1>I was just playing, like what like, cause that's what's

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<v Speaker 1>been going on with me. Like at night, I don't

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<v Speaker 1>I have sleepless nights because I can't get comfortable. Every

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<v Speaker 1>time I do get comfortable, ten minutes later, here here

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<v Speaker 1>comes the biggest contraction I've ever fucking felt. They're always

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<v Speaker 1>worse than the one before, and shit, but only at night,

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<v Speaker 1>and then during the day they'd be like thirty minutes apart,

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<v Speaker 1>twenty minutes apart. I'm like, what the fuck? But at night,

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know, I don't know. I get like shooting

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<v Speaker 1>pain in my butt, I feel it in my vagina.

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<v Speaker 1>Like I'm not trying to scare anybody from having a

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<v Speaker 1>fucking baby. But listen, the older you get, the scarier

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<v Speaker 1>it gets. You know, Like I said, I told you

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<v Speaker 1>all the time and time before when I was nineteen

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<v Speaker 1>and I was pregnant. I had ashen at twenty. I

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<v Speaker 1>pushed that little baby out in thirty minutes. I ain't

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<v Speaker 1>give a fucking sorry, No, give me the drugs, give

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<v Speaker 1>me the abidoro or whatever. Whatever. It was a painful needle,

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<v Speaker 1>and I still felt the carefit of going through my

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<v Speaker 1>pe hole and shit. But like I was young, so

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<v Speaker 1>I was just ready to you know what I'm saying,

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<v Speaker 1>have them, get them home, take care of them, get

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<v Speaker 1>back to the streets. That's my truth. Whatever. I am

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<v Speaker 1>so scared as a thirty two year old pregnant woman,

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<v Speaker 1>you know. And then for other people in the coms

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<v Speaker 1>that I keep seeing and shit, So I'm confused why

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<v Speaker 1>she ain't like she never had a baby before. How

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<v Speaker 1>about you tried twelve years apart, bitch, how about you

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<v Speaker 1>do that and then come back and let me know

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<v Speaker 1>how you feel about it. Yeah, because this baby was planned.

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<v Speaker 1>This is what I want, and I want more after this,

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<v Speaker 1>but I don't know so because every pregnancy is different,

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<v Speaker 1>every woman is different, So yeah, it's gonna be like

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<v Speaker 1>the fucking first time. I don't even remember every fucking

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<v Speaker 1>thing because I was so fucking hired up from the epidural.

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<v Speaker 1>So that's the thing. That's another reason why I want

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<v Speaker 1>to do natural and then shit these days way different

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<v Speaker 1>from shit back in the days. You know what I'm saying,

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<v Speaker 1>Long long time AGO's days, shit was different. We are

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<v Speaker 1>now in this type of time. Like you know, you

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<v Speaker 1>have to think things through. You have to just go

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<v Speaker 1>inside of a fucking hospital and have a baby like

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<v Speaker 1>you cannot do that. You have to plan. This is serious.

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<v Speaker 1>You're bringing life into the world. You have to know

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<v Speaker 1>your doctor. You have to be comfortable with your doctor

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<v Speaker 1>and your fucking nurses because the doctor don't even get

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<v Speaker 1>there until the baby. Damn near ray slide out. Shit,

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<v Speaker 1>you gotta deal with nurses who don't give a fuck,

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<v Speaker 1>you know. If that's the case. You know what I'm

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<v Speaker 1>saying at the end of the day, is you in

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<v Speaker 1>your life? Oh my god, the man have a contraction

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<v Speaker 1>right now, But it's not bad because the daytime, see

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<v Speaker 1>what I'm saying. So this is like a play contraction. Anyway.

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<v Speaker 1>Let me get into these stories because somebody get mad

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<v Speaker 1>at this little girl, Oh Marley Marley. I love her

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<v Speaker 1>name and wait to meet her and cassa ass out

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<v Speaker 1>because you tried it. If you love me, you'll listen

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<v Speaker 1>to this commercial and then we'll be right back. All right,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm just hi. I want to start by saying thank

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<v Speaker 1>you for replying to this message if you ever open it. Okay, So,

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<v Speaker 1>my dad is getting married and I've grown a really,

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<v Speaker 1>really good bond with my soon to be stepmom. Her

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<v Speaker 1>and my dad are literally the cutest thing when they're together.

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<v Speaker 1>Before I move on with the story, could we please

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<v Speaker 1>keep this anonymous because this is really not my place

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<v Speaker 1>to speak on. So why the fuck is you writing me?

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<v Speaker 1>But I just don't know what to do. I mean,

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<v Speaker 1>but Doug, girl, everybody's anonymous. Let me give you some

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<v Speaker 1>more insight. My step mom is a flight ascendant, so

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<v Speaker 1>she'd be gone days at a time. I'm only eighteen

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<v Speaker 1>years old and I live with my mom. So when

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<v Speaker 1>I go to visit my dad, he has a new

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<v Speaker 1>female over there. Oh my good. Every time almost Oh

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<v Speaker 1>my god. It's definitely your place to tell me your business.

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<v Speaker 1>So I'm glad you're doing this. Continuing it started to

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<v Speaker 1>make me go over there a lot less and just

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<v Speaker 1>look at him different, and he could tell the difference

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<v Speaker 1>between my attitude. But he just don't care, and it

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<v Speaker 1>feels like I should just mind my business and stay

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<v Speaker 1>in a child's place. Me and my stepmom actually talk

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<v Speaker 1>quite frequently, and I think she's starting to pick up

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<v Speaker 1>on some things because she does vent to me. But

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<v Speaker 1>it's like I don't really know what to say without

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<v Speaker 1>saying it, so I kind of stopped responding to her

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<v Speaker 1>as well dying. So I feel like you're in on it.

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<v Speaker 1>I know there are some things I could say, but

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<v Speaker 1>I really don't want to upset anyone or make things worse.

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<v Speaker 1>I just don't know what to do. Oh poor baby, Listen,

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<v Speaker 1>you're eighteen. No child should be called in the middle of,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, the drama of what their parents are going

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<v Speaker 1>through or what they see being willingly done. I don't

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<v Speaker 1>know why your father would even allow such activity while

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<v Speaker 1>you're almost grown as be over there, like you're eighteen.

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<v Speaker 1>You're not fucking eight. You're not six, you're not five.

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<v Speaker 1>Like you know what I'm saying. You are about to

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<v Speaker 1>be a grown woman. You're eighteen. You know what's going on.

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<v Speaker 1>You know you're not legally grown, but shit, you grown.

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<v Speaker 1>And if he knows that you have a relationship with

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<v Speaker 1>your stepmother, I don't even understand why the hell he

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<v Speaker 1>would allow for, you know, other women to be around

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<v Speaker 1>you when you go over there. I don't understand it

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<v Speaker 1>unless he, like you said, really don't give a fuck,

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<v Speaker 1>because that's honestly, with that showing that's also a form

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<v Speaker 1>of disrespect to you. Whether he looks at it like

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<v Speaker 1>that or not, I don't know if you feel disrespected

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<v Speaker 1>because you didn't say that, but that's disrespectful in any

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<v Speaker 1>type of way. I would definitely if my dad was

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<v Speaker 1>getting married and I'm eighteen and he sees that I

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<v Speaker 1>have a relationship with my step mom, which you always

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<v Speaker 1>want to see, especially if this is the woman or

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<v Speaker 1>the man that you're marrying and is not the other

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<v Speaker 1>co parent of the child that you know that you have.

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<v Speaker 1>And you know you want that, you want your kids

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<v Speaker 1>to love your soon to be spoused, You want your

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<v Speaker 1>kids to to you know, you want good bonds with people.

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<v Speaker 1>You want to secure that, you want to make sure

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<v Speaker 1>your kids are around the right people. You want to

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<v Speaker 1>just make sure everything is fine. And I feel like, yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>he don't give a fuck, damn. So your advisory question

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<v Speaker 1>is just like what to do? You don't know what

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<v Speaker 1>to do, You don't want to be caught in the middle.

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<v Speaker 1>You don't want to make things worse. I think you

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<v Speaker 1>should talk to your dad, to be honest. The reason

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<v Speaker 1>why I'm so torn on you telling this stepmom exactly

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<v Speaker 1>what's going on is because I can tell you haven't

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<v Speaker 1>talked to your father yet, you know, or you that

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<v Speaker 1>would have been something that you would have definitely included.

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<v Speaker 1>I think you should definitely talk to your dad first, because,

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<v Speaker 1>for one, he is your blood relative. He is your father.

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<v Speaker 1>You know, you came out of his balls, So I

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<v Speaker 1>would be like, look, dad, and obviously you know you're

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<v Speaker 1>cool with your dad. You go over there, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>and all of that type of stuff. You live with

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<v Speaker 1>your mom, but you know, you know, and your dad

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<v Speaker 1>seem like y'all close for the most part as well.

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<v Speaker 1>I think you should sit down and have a conversation

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<v Speaker 1>with him and ask him how serious is his marriage

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<v Speaker 1>to him? How serious is you know, his engagement to him?

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<v Speaker 1>Because I noticed that when I come over here, it's

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<v Speaker 1>like a different female every week, you know, And I

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<v Speaker 1>know that we just gonna call her Shehrry, your stepmom.

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<v Speaker 1>I know Sherry travels. I know she's the flight attendant.

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<v Speaker 1>I know she's not always here. You know. I know that,

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<v Speaker 1>and I know men have needs and all that type

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<v Speaker 1>of stuff, but it hurts me to see you with

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<v Speaker 1>a different woman, knowing that you are engaged to Sherry,

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<v Speaker 1>and I love Sharry. You know. This is who you

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<v Speaker 1>introduced me to. This is the woman you're gonna marry,

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<v Speaker 1>This is, you know, the woman that I've been getting

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<v Speaker 1>close with. And so I just want you to know

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<v Speaker 1>how this makes me feel and then see what he says.

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<v Speaker 1>You know what I'm saying that's more or less giving

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<v Speaker 1>him your perspective on it rather than questioning his adultery

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<v Speaker 1>pretty much, because he's an adult. Yeah, kids just stay

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<v Speaker 1>in a kids place or whatever, but you're eighteen and

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<v Speaker 1>he's willingly doing it around you, unapologetically intentionally, Like these

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<v Speaker 1>are his intentions. And I'm not saying that his intentions

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<v Speaker 1>are bad or to even make you a cheater, because honestly,

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<v Speaker 1>that's what he in hindsight could do as well. That

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<v Speaker 1>could make you shy away from marriage. Who knows why

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<v Speaker 1>he not with your mom anymore, you know, But I'm

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<v Speaker 1>just saying he's not really teaching you great things about

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<v Speaker 1>fucking relationships, like and how that goes or whatever. Hold up,

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<v Speaker 1>Hold up. I know this shit getting good, but listen

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<v Speaker 1>to just a couple seconds of a commercial. If you

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<v Speaker 1>love me, you'll listen. So I think you should sit

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<v Speaker 1>down and talk to your dad, and then if you

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<v Speaker 1>want talk to your step you know what I'm saying.

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<v Speaker 1>Then I keep forgetting. You're only eighteen. Like you said,

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<v Speaker 1>you don't want to be in the middle, but you

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<v Speaker 1>do feel some type of way, and you do feel

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<v Speaker 1>guilty because you know some things, and your step mom

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<v Speaker 1>is venting to you and shit like that. I mean,

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<v Speaker 1>does she have any kids? I mean, does she have friends?

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<v Speaker 1>Does she? I know she gets lonely as shit on

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<v Speaker 1>the road and things like that. But like, and the

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<v Speaker 1>most disrespectful thing, baby girl, about all of this shit

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<v Speaker 1>is this, nigga, your daddy is bringing these women in

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<v Speaker 1>the house. It ain't like he getting hotel rooms. It's

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<v Speaker 1>not like he going to their house. It's not like

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<v Speaker 1>he taking these girls out so you're never able to see.

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<v Speaker 1>It's like these women are in he and his fiance's house.

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<v Speaker 1>You know what I'm saying. Even if it is his house,

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<v Speaker 1>his fiance, that's his fiance. She lives there when she's home.

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<v Speaker 1>Am I right or am I wrong? I'm not sure

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<v Speaker 1>you know what I mean? But your dad got a

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<v Speaker 1>lot of fucking growing up to do. And it's not

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<v Speaker 1>even about not cheating, you know what I'm saying, Like

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<v Speaker 1>when my dad and my mom divorced and shit, it

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<v Speaker 1>wasn't even really about like cheating. The reason, the reason

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<v Speaker 1>why I'm saying he is a lot of fucking growing

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<v Speaker 1>up to do is because a lot of men and

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<v Speaker 1>a lot of women they want two things at once

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<v Speaker 1>that they can't have. You know, you ever heard of

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<v Speaker 1>the saying you want your cake and eat it too?

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<v Speaker 1>I mean, but I hate that saying because it's like, bitch,

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<v Speaker 1>what I'm I supposed to do with cake? Sit here

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<v Speaker 1>and look at it. I'm supposed to eat my fucking cake.

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<v Speaker 1>So I don't like that saying. But you can't be

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<v Speaker 1>engaged to someone about to walk down an hour with

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<v Speaker 1>somebody like this is pre marital, like this is, you

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<v Speaker 1>know what I'm saying, and then showing your fucking royal

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<v Speaker 1>oats before we even get to the out, like nigga,

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<v Speaker 1>this is already supposed to be out of your fucking system,

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<v Speaker 1>like you know, before you got down on one knee

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<v Speaker 1>and proposed to me, because that's why you get That's

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<v Speaker 1>why you proposed to somebody, right, because this is your partner,

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<v Speaker 1>this is your person, This is the person that you

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<v Speaker 1>want to spend the rest of your life with. Hopefully,

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<v Speaker 1>you know if that's not too overrated for some years.

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<v Speaker 1>You know what I'm saying, Like, that's what marriage is.

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<v Speaker 1>And I think people get married for the wrong reasons

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<v Speaker 1>these days, which I've shared with my listeners before, I've

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<v Speaker 1>always said it. I think people have lost the meaning

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<v Speaker 1>of marriage and they're only looking at like the wedding

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<v Speaker 1>and looking at the positive and looking at the advantages

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<v Speaker 1>of being married. Nobody's really preparing for what a fucking

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<v Speaker 1>marriage really is. You know what I'm saying, Because it

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<v Speaker 1>ain't about you no more. But your dad is being

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<v Speaker 1>selfish as shit because it is about him. He wanted

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<v Speaker 1>to live like a bachelor. So I'm saying he got

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<v Speaker 1>a lot of growing up to do because he needs

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<v Speaker 1>to take accountability and just realize himself and be able

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<v Speaker 1>to say it out loud. I can't be with one woman.

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<v Speaker 1>I can't I can't be with one woman. Well my

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<v Speaker 1>dad figured that out, Yes, my dad, Well my dad

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<v Speaker 1>realized I just want to be free, were his words,

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<v Speaker 1>and that he could be comfortable in saying that and

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<v Speaker 1>not criticized, not look down on, not be called the

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<v Speaker 1>worst person in the world. Because my mom and my

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<v Speaker 1>dad got married at such a young age, both straight

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<v Speaker 1>out of high school. You know what I'm saying, they

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<v Speaker 1>never got to live their bachelor, bachelorette life, nothing like that.

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<v Speaker 1>So that's what happens. You get married young and then

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<v Speaker 1>you start cheating, you know, or you know, it just

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<v Speaker 1>don't work. You know, it's a lot of reasons why

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<v Speaker 1>people shouldn't get married too young. You know what I mean.

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<v Speaker 1>That's serious. That's a serious covenant between you and a person,

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<v Speaker 1>a commitment. That's just not like boyfriend girlfriend. It's a

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<v Speaker 1>lot of shit you got to go through to get divorced.

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<v Speaker 1>It's a lot of shit you should have to go

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<v Speaker 1>through before you get married. So you know if this

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<v Speaker 1>is your person or not. But that's why I need

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<v Speaker 1>you to talk to your dad first, and then if

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<v Speaker 1>you feel like it you don't getting away with your dad,

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<v Speaker 1>feel free to talk to your step mom. You know

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<v Speaker 1>what I'm saying. Do you talk to your mom? I

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<v Speaker 1>know your mind probably like shit, that's somebody else had

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<v Speaker 1>ache now, baby, because I already went through all that shit.

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<v Speaker 1>But sorry, didn't want to laugh there. But do you

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<v Speaker 1>talk to your mom about it? You know, has your

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<v Speaker 1>mom developed a relationship with your step mom? Not to

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<v Speaker 1>put her in the middle of it, either, but sometimes

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<v Speaker 1>one woman needs another woman, you know. And you're a child.

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<v Speaker 1>You're a child, but you are a young lady. You

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<v Speaker 1>know right from wrong, and you know that your dad

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<v Speaker 1>ain't really shit for real. I'm sorry. As a dad,

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know how it is. But as a man,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, in a relationship or you know, someone to

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<v Speaker 1>take serious. Now, he ain't shit, you know. So yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm not really coming at him as a dad. But nah,

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<v Speaker 1>and again shit, So I think, sit down, talk to him,

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<v Speaker 1>Like I said, get back with me. Let me know

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<v Speaker 1>if you did, try to talk to him, and and

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<v Speaker 1>then do what you feel at the end of the day.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't want to be caught up in the middle.

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<v Speaker 1>But say if that were you, you know what I'm saying.

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<v Speaker 1>Say if you was somebody step mother and you got

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<v Speaker 1>close to his eighteen year old daughter and you're starting

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<v Speaker 1>to see his patterns change and all that type of shit,

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<v Speaker 1>blah blah blah. Would you want to put that daughter

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<v Speaker 1>in the middle and ask her what do you know?

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<v Speaker 1>Or would the daughter come to you? You know, would

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<v Speaker 1>you even want the do you know? You know what

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<v Speaker 1>I'm saying, like, I don't know. You gotta look at

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<v Speaker 1>it from all perspectives. And I know, like I said,

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<v Speaker 1>you're so young, you don't want to like you say,

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<v Speaker 1>you young, you don't want to deal with it. But shit,

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<v Speaker 1>you write me about it. I'm not gonna say it's

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<v Speaker 1>not your business to speak on because he puts you

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<v Speaker 1>in the middle of it. He kind of did put

0:19:32.480 --> 0:19:34.440
<v Speaker 1>you in the middle of it, or you wouldn't notice. Shit,

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<v Speaker 1>you know what I'm saying, Like, he just sloppy. He

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<v Speaker 1>don't even give a fuck, you know. So just get

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<v Speaker 1>back with me, baby girl, all right, And just like that,

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<v Speaker 1>we've come to yet the end of another Catholic, reckless

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<v Speaker 1>episode with your girl. Just hilarious. Okay, so next week,

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<v Speaker 1>hopefully I have this baby. Guys, next week, we just

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<v Speaker 1>gonna keep on saying next week. By then I'll be

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<v Speaker 1>forty one weeks. I'm actually ten months pregnant now, so yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>we'll see. But love you guys, and tune in next

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