Speaker 1: Welcome to Can'tfully Reckless, the production of iHeart Radio and
Speaker 1: the Black Effect and just like that were back on
Speaker 1: the air. Welcome back to yet another Canfully Reckless episode
Speaker 1: with your girl. Just hilarious. So look, y'all, false alarm.
Speaker 1: You ever heard of false labor? I basically got played
Speaker 1: with by my child, like I'm being pranked by my
Speaker 1: unborn child, because it's like she want to come, but
Speaker 1: she like psych you know what I'm saying, Like playing
Speaker 1: big games with my cervix, playing big games with my uterists,
Speaker 1: playing big games with my bladder. I feel like some
Speaker 1: days she feel like she's about to just fall out
Speaker 1: of that motherfucker. And then other days I feel like
Speaker 1: she didn't like shimmied her way back up a little bit,
Speaker 1: because some days I'm low, some days I'm hot. Y'all.
Speaker 1: This this, this is a lot, y'all, And I know
Speaker 1: that y'all know us. And I'm recording this shit on
Speaker 1: a Monday, but it came out today, So this is
Speaker 1: just two days ago. Now, I guarantee you I'm gonna
Speaker 1: probably still be pregnant Wednesday. I just stopped like playing
Speaker 1: with her at this point. Now. I posted some things
Speaker 1: like yo, what do you do? I did ask people
Speaker 1: like what do you do to like make the baby come? Now?
Speaker 1: The reason why I did this, I went in for
Speaker 1: an appointment two weeks ago. My doctor was like, oh,
Speaker 1: she's extremely low, like I'd be surprised if you make
Speaker 1: it to next week's appointment. Then I was only thirty
Speaker 1: eight weeks. That's that's considered to be full term though,
Speaker 1: so we're past the premie stage and everything. So I
Speaker 1: was excited, like, oh shit, I'm about to have her,
Speaker 1: you know, as nervous as I am later for that
Speaker 1: nervous shit, Like this shit is not Pregnancy is not
Speaker 1: fun anymore. It's exhausting, It's very uncomfortable in your leg
Speaker 1: like on at home stretch, and last week's your last
Speaker 1: day's is like whoa, you just want the baby out.
Speaker 1: While I'm not rushing her. I was told, you know,
Speaker 1: she might be coming, like you know, and it's looking
Speaker 1: very promising. So I was just like, okay, so what
Speaker 1: are some things. I've talked to doulas. I've talked to
Speaker 1: women who've had dulas. I've talked to older women, younger women.
Speaker 1: You know, everybody's different, So I'm not just just gonna
Speaker 1: stop at just one person's opinion on what they think
Speaker 1: I should do. But I did see in the comments
Speaker 1: like why is she trying to rush her? Bitch, I'm
Speaker 1: not trying to rush her. She was rushing and then
Speaker 1: she played with me because I ended up making it
Speaker 1: to next week. Why did I do the cast sole shit,
Speaker 1: the castle shit I did that? I was shitty, My
Speaker 1: buhle was raw. I'm glad I didn't go into labor
Speaker 1: because for those who don't know, when you push your
Speaker 1: baby out, you have to push like you're on the
Speaker 1: toilet taking the number two. You don't push like you're
Speaker 1: pushing them out of your vagil I. You know, you
Speaker 1: push like you're taking a shit. So I'm so glad
Speaker 1: because I would have had big hemorrhoids, you know what
Speaker 1: I'm saying. Bajo was burning big raw like it was like, okay,
Speaker 1: so why the fuck do people take this shit? You know? Now,
Speaker 1: I wasn't aware because everybody who told me to take
Speaker 1: it did tell me it's a laxative. But I had
Speaker 1: no idea I would be shitty for that long. So
Speaker 1: I'm glad that she didn't come. That would have been
Speaker 1: like extremely painful. Then I'm trying to do this shit
Speaker 1: without another DOORO, Like, I'm praying every day that I
Speaker 1: do have the strength to me and I know I do,
Speaker 1: but it's just like, oh my gosh, like giving birth
Speaker 1: without another door, just even thinking of what the hell
Speaker 1: that feels like is definitely intimidating to me. But I
Speaker 1: want to do it. I do want to try to
Speaker 1: birth this baby with no meads, no medicine and shit.
Speaker 1: And so after I push out, they load me up
Speaker 1: with a perk perk. But yeah, other than that, I
Speaker 1: don't know. So I'm not rushing her her. I've seen
Speaker 1: that in a bunch of my fucking comments. I'm like,
Speaker 1: look y'all, y'all can get blocked fucking around me, fucking
Speaker 1: around with pregnantized I'm very sensitive, So don't play with
Speaker 1: me like that. I would never do that, but I
Speaker 1: will say she is being very stubborn, very stubborn. Last
Speaker 1: appointment we went, they put the two straps like the
Speaker 1: belts around your stomach to monitor your contractions and the
Speaker 1: duration of them and how strong they are and you
Speaker 1: know the time in between them and all that type shit.
Speaker 1: And I have not one on that goddamn at that
Speaker 1: appointment on that machine. I was having contractions that day.
Speaker 1: They were just spread out. And then I want to know, like,
Speaker 1: y'all give me feedback on this, if y'all been pregnant
Speaker 1: and like close to the time that you're having a
Speaker 1: baby and your contractions are more intense and more frequent
Speaker 1: at night and then in the morning, it's like second now,
Speaker 1: I was just playing, like what like, cause that's what's
Speaker 1: been going on with me. Like at night, I don't
Speaker 1: I have sleepless nights because I can't get comfortable. Every
Speaker 1: time I do get comfortable, ten minutes later, here here
Speaker 1: comes the biggest contraction I've ever fucking felt. They're always
Speaker 1: worse than the one before, and shit, but only at night,
Speaker 1: and then during the day they'd be like thirty minutes apart,
Speaker 1: twenty minutes apart. I'm like, what the fuck? But at night,
Speaker 1: I don't know, I don't know. I get like shooting
Speaker 1: pain in my butt, I feel it in my vagina.
Speaker 1: Like I'm not trying to scare anybody from having a
Speaker 1: fucking baby. But listen, the older you get, the scarier
Speaker 1: it gets. You know, Like I said, I told you
Speaker 1: all the time and time before when I was nineteen
Speaker 1: and I was pregnant. I had ashen at twenty. I
Speaker 1: pushed that little baby out in thirty minutes. I ain't
Speaker 1: give a fucking sorry, No, give me the drugs, give
Speaker 1: me the abidoro or whatever. Whatever. It was a painful needle,
Speaker 1: and I still felt the carefit of going through my
Speaker 1: pe hole and shit. But like I was young, so
Speaker 1: I was just ready to you know what I'm saying,
Speaker 1: have them, get them home, take care of them, get
Speaker 1: back to the streets. That's my truth. Whatever. I am
Speaker 1: so scared as a thirty two year old pregnant woman,
Speaker 1: you know. And then for other people in the coms
Speaker 1: that I keep seeing and shit, So I'm confused why
Speaker 1: she ain't like she never had a baby before. How
Speaker 1: about you tried twelve years apart, bitch, how about you
Speaker 1: do that and then come back and let me know
Speaker 1: how you feel about it. Yeah, because this baby was planned.
Speaker 1: This is what I want, and I want more after this,
Speaker 1: but I don't know so because every pregnancy is different,
Speaker 1: every woman is different, So yeah, it's gonna be like
Speaker 1: the fucking first time. I don't even remember every fucking
Speaker 1: thing because I was so fucking hired up from the epidural.
Speaker 1: So that's the thing. That's another reason why I want
Speaker 1: to do natural and then shit these days way different
Speaker 1: from shit back in the days. You know what I'm saying,
Speaker 1: Long long time AGO's days, shit was different. We are
Speaker 1: now in this type of time. Like you know, you
Speaker 1: have to think things through. You have to just go
Speaker 1: inside of a fucking hospital and have a baby like
Speaker 1: you cannot do that. You have to plan. This is serious.
Speaker 1: You're bringing life into the world. You have to know
Speaker 1: your doctor. You have to be comfortable with your doctor
Speaker 1: and your fucking nurses because the doctor don't even get
Speaker 1: there until the baby. Damn near ray slide out. Shit,
Speaker 1: you gotta deal with nurses who don't give a fuck,
Speaker 1: you know. If that's the case. You know what I'm
Speaker 1: saying at the end of the day, is you in
Speaker 1: your life? Oh my god, the man have a contraction
Speaker 1: right now, But it's not bad because the daytime, see
Speaker 1: what I'm saying. So this is like a play contraction. Anyway.
Speaker 1: Let me get into these stories because somebody get mad
Speaker 1: at this little girl, Oh Marley Marley. I love her
Speaker 1: name and wait to meet her and cassa ass out
Speaker 1: because you tried it. If you love me, you'll listen
Speaker 1: to this commercial and then we'll be right back. All right,
Speaker 1: I'm just hi. I want to start by saying thank
Speaker 1: you for replying to this message if you ever open it. Okay, So,
Speaker 1: my dad is getting married and I've grown a really,
Speaker 1: really good bond with my soon to be stepmom. Her
Speaker 1: and my dad are literally the cutest thing when they're together.
Speaker 1: Before I move on with the story, could we please
Speaker 1: keep this anonymous because this is really not my place
Speaker 1: to speak on. So why the fuck is you writing me?
Speaker 1: But I just don't know what to do. I mean,
Speaker 1: but Doug, girl, everybody's anonymous. Let me give you some
Speaker 1: more insight. My step mom is a flight ascendant, so
Speaker 1: she'd be gone days at a time. I'm only eighteen
Speaker 1: years old and I live with my mom. So when
Speaker 1: I go to visit my dad, he has a new
Speaker 1: female over there. Oh my good. Every time almost Oh
Speaker 1: my god. It's definitely your place to tell me your business.
Speaker 1: So I'm glad you're doing this. Continuing it started to
Speaker 1: make me go over there a lot less and just
Speaker 1: look at him different, and he could tell the difference
Speaker 1: between my attitude. But he just don't care, and it
Speaker 1: feels like I should just mind my business and stay
Speaker 1: in a child's place. Me and my stepmom actually talk
Speaker 1: quite frequently, and I think she's starting to pick up
Speaker 1: on some things because she does vent to me. But
Speaker 1: it's like I don't really know what to say without
Speaker 1: saying it, so I kind of stopped responding to her
Speaker 1: as well dying. So I feel like you're in on it.
Speaker 1: I know there are some things I could say, but
Speaker 1: I really don't want to upset anyone or make things worse.
Speaker 1: I just don't know what to do. Oh poor baby, Listen,
Speaker 1: you're eighteen. No child should be called in the middle of,
Speaker 1: you know, the drama of what their parents are going
Speaker 1: through or what they see being willingly done. I don't
Speaker 1: know why your father would even allow such activity while
Speaker 1: you're almost grown as be over there, like you're eighteen.
Speaker 1: You're not fucking eight. You're not six, you're not five.
Speaker 1: Like you know what I'm saying. You are about to
Speaker 1: be a grown woman. You're eighteen. You know what's going on.
Speaker 1: You know you're not legally grown, but shit, you grown.
Speaker 1: And if he knows that you have a relationship with
Speaker 1: your stepmother, I don't even understand why the hell he
Speaker 1: would allow for, you know, other women to be around
Speaker 1: you when you go over there. I don't understand it
Speaker 1: unless he, like you said, really don't give a fuck,
Speaker 1: because that's honestly, with that showing that's also a form
Speaker 1: of disrespect to you. Whether he looks at it like
Speaker 1: that or not, I don't know if you feel disrespected
Speaker 1: because you didn't say that, but that's disrespectful in any
Speaker 1: type of way. I would definitely if my dad was
Speaker 1: getting married and I'm eighteen and he sees that I
Speaker 1: have a relationship with my step mom, which you always
Speaker 1: want to see, especially if this is the woman or
Speaker 1: the man that you're marrying and is not the other
Speaker 1: co parent of the child that you know that you have.
Speaker 1: And you know you want that, you want your kids
Speaker 1: to love your soon to be spoused, You want your
Speaker 1: kids to to you know, you want good bonds with people.
Speaker 1: You want to secure that, you want to make sure
Speaker 1: your kids are around the right people. You want to
Speaker 1: just make sure everything is fine. And I feel like, yeah,
Speaker 1: he don't give a fuck, damn. So your advisory question
Speaker 1: is just like what to do? You don't know what
Speaker 1: to do, You don't want to be caught in the middle.
Speaker 1: You don't want to make things worse. I think you
Speaker 1: should talk to your dad, to be honest. The reason
Speaker 1: why I'm so torn on you telling this stepmom exactly
Speaker 1: what's going on is because I can tell you haven't
Speaker 1: talked to your father yet, you know, or you that
Speaker 1: would have been something that you would have definitely included.
Speaker 1: I think you should definitely talk to your dad first, because,
Speaker 1: for one, he is your blood relative. He is your father.
Speaker 1: You know, you came out of his balls, So I
Speaker 1: would be like, look, dad, and obviously you know you're
Speaker 1: cool with your dad. You go over there, you know,
Speaker 1: and all of that type of stuff. You live with
Speaker 1: your mom, but you know, you know, and your dad
Speaker 1: seem like y'all close for the most part as well.
Speaker 1: I think you should sit down and have a conversation
Speaker 1: with him and ask him how serious is his marriage
Speaker 1: to him? How serious is you know, his engagement to him?
Speaker 1: Because I noticed that when I come over here, it's
Speaker 1: like a different female every week, you know, And I
Speaker 1: know that we just gonna call her Shehrry, your stepmom.
Speaker 1: I know Sherry travels. I know she's the flight attendant.
Speaker 1: I know she's not always here. You know. I know that,
Speaker 1: and I know men have needs and all that type
Speaker 1: of stuff, but it hurts me to see you with
Speaker 1: a different woman, knowing that you are engaged to Sherry,
Speaker 1: and I love Sharry. You know. This is who you
Speaker 1: introduced me to. This is the woman you're gonna marry,
Speaker 1: This is, you know, the woman that I've been getting
Speaker 1: close with. And so I just want you to know
Speaker 1: how this makes me feel and then see what he says.
Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying that's more or less giving
Speaker 1: him your perspective on it rather than questioning his adultery
Speaker 1: pretty much, because he's an adult. Yeah, kids just stay
Speaker 1: in a kids place or whatever, but you're eighteen and
Speaker 1: he's willingly doing it around you, unapologetically intentionally, Like these
Speaker 1: are his intentions. And I'm not saying that his intentions
Speaker 1: are bad or to even make you a cheater, because honestly,
Speaker 1: that's what he in hindsight could do as well. That
Speaker 1: could make you shy away from marriage. Who knows why
Speaker 1: he not with your mom anymore, you know, But I'm
Speaker 1: just saying he's not really teaching you great things about
Speaker 1: fucking relationships, like and how that goes or whatever. Hold up,
Speaker 1: Hold up. I know this shit getting good, but listen
Speaker 1: to just a couple seconds of a commercial. If you
Speaker 1: love me, you'll listen. So I think you should sit
Speaker 1: down and talk to your dad, and then if you
Speaker 1: want talk to your step you know what I'm saying.
Speaker 1: Then I keep forgetting. You're only eighteen. Like you said,
Speaker 1: you don't want to be in the middle, but you
Speaker 1: do feel some type of way, and you do feel
Speaker 1: guilty because you know some things, and your step mom
Speaker 1: is venting to you and shit like that. I mean,
Speaker 1: does she have any kids? I mean, does she have friends?
Speaker 1: Does she? I know she gets lonely as shit on
Speaker 1: the road and things like that. But like, and the
Speaker 1: most disrespectful thing, baby girl, about all of this shit
Speaker 1: is this, nigga, your daddy is bringing these women in
Speaker 1: the house. It ain't like he getting hotel rooms. It's
Speaker 1: not like he going to their house. It's not like
Speaker 1: he taking these girls out so you're never able to see.
Speaker 1: It's like these women are in he and his fiance's house.
Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying. Even if it is his house,
Speaker 1: his fiance, that's his fiance. She lives there when she's home.
Speaker 1: Am I right or am I wrong? I'm not sure
Speaker 1: you know what I mean? But your dad got a
Speaker 1: lot of fucking growing up to do. And it's not
Speaker 1: even about not cheating, you know what I'm saying, Like
Speaker 1: when my dad and my mom divorced and shit, it
Speaker 1: wasn't even really about like cheating. The reason, the reason
Speaker 1: why I'm saying he is a lot of fucking growing
Speaker 1: up to do is because a lot of men and
Speaker 1: a lot of women they want two things at once
Speaker 1: that they can't have. You know, you ever heard of
Speaker 1: the saying you want your cake and eat it too?
Speaker 1: I mean, but I hate that saying because it's like, bitch,
Speaker 1: what I'm I supposed to do with cake? Sit here
Speaker 1: and look at it. I'm supposed to eat my fucking cake.
Speaker 1: So I don't like that saying. But you can't be
Speaker 1: engaged to someone about to walk down an hour with
Speaker 1: somebody like this is pre marital, like this is, you
Speaker 1: know what I'm saying, and then showing your fucking royal
Speaker 1: oats before we even get to the out, like nigga,
Speaker 1: this is already supposed to be out of your fucking system,
Speaker 1: like you know, before you got down on one knee
Speaker 1: and proposed to me, because that's why you get That's
Speaker 1: why you proposed to somebody, right, because this is your partner,
Speaker 1: this is your person, This is the person that you
Speaker 1: want to spend the rest of your life with. Hopefully,
Speaker 1: you know if that's not too overrated for some years.
Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying, Like, that's what marriage is.
Speaker 1: And I think people get married for the wrong reasons
Speaker 1: these days, which I've shared with my listeners before, I've
Speaker 1: always said it. I think people have lost the meaning
Speaker 1: of marriage and they're only looking at like the wedding
Speaker 1: and looking at the positive and looking at the advantages
Speaker 1: of being married. Nobody's really preparing for what a fucking
Speaker 1: marriage really is. You know what I'm saying, Because it
Speaker 1: ain't about you no more. But your dad is being
Speaker 1: selfish as shit because it is about him. He wanted
Speaker 1: to live like a bachelor. So I'm saying he got
Speaker 1: a lot of growing up to do because he needs
Speaker 1: to take accountability and just realize himself and be able
Speaker 1: to say it out loud. I can't be with one woman.
Speaker 1: I can't I can't be with one woman. Well my
Speaker 1: dad figured that out, Yes, my dad, Well my dad
Speaker 1: realized I just want to be free, were his words,
Speaker 1: and that he could be comfortable in saying that and
Speaker 1: not criticized, not look down on, not be called the
Speaker 1: worst person in the world. Because my mom and my
Speaker 1: dad got married at such a young age, both straight
Speaker 1: out of high school. You know what I'm saying, they
Speaker 1: never got to live their bachelor, bachelorette life, nothing like that.
Speaker 1: So that's what happens. You get married young and then
Speaker 1: you start cheating, you know, or you know, it just
Speaker 1: don't work. You know, it's a lot of reasons why
Speaker 1: people shouldn't get married too young. You know what I mean.
Speaker 1: That's serious. That's a serious covenant between you and a person,
Speaker 1: a commitment. That's just not like boyfriend girlfriend. It's a
Speaker 1: lot of shit you got to go through to get divorced.
Speaker 1: It's a lot of shit you should have to go
Speaker 1: through before you get married. So you know if this
Speaker 1: is your person or not. But that's why I need
Speaker 1: you to talk to your dad first, and then if
Speaker 1: you feel like it you don't getting away with your dad,
Speaker 1: feel free to talk to your step mom. You know
Speaker 1: what I'm saying. Do you talk to your mom? I
Speaker 1: know your mind probably like shit, that's somebody else had
Speaker 1: ache now, baby, because I already went through all that shit.
Speaker 1: But sorry, didn't want to laugh there. But do you
Speaker 1: talk to your mom about it? You know, has your
Speaker 1: mom developed a relationship with your step mom? Not to
Speaker 1: put her in the middle of it, either, but sometimes
Speaker 1: one woman needs another woman, you know. And you're a child.
Speaker 1: You're a child, but you are a young lady. You
Speaker 1: know right from wrong, and you know that your dad
Speaker 1: ain't really shit for real. I'm sorry. As a dad,
Speaker 1: I don't know how it is. But as a man,
Speaker 1: you know, in a relationship or you know, someone to
Speaker 1: take serious. Now, he ain't shit, you know. So yeah,
Speaker 1: I'm not really coming at him as a dad. But nah,
Speaker 1: and again shit, So I think, sit down, talk to him,
Speaker 1: Like I said, get back with me. Let me know
Speaker 1: if you did, try to talk to him, and and
Speaker 1: then do what you feel at the end of the day.
Speaker 1: I don't want to be caught up in the middle.
Speaker 1: But say if that were you, you know what I'm saying.
Speaker 1: Say if you was somebody step mother and you got
Speaker 1: close to his eighteen year old daughter and you're starting
Speaker 1: to see his patterns change and all that type of shit,
Speaker 1: blah blah blah. Would you want to put that daughter
Speaker 1: in the middle and ask her what do you know?
Speaker 1: Or would the daughter come to you? You know, would
Speaker 1: you even want the do you know? You know what
Speaker 1: I'm saying, like, I don't know. You gotta look at
Speaker 1: it from all perspectives. And I know, like I said,
Speaker 1: you're so young, you don't want to like you say,
Speaker 1: you young, you don't want to deal with it. But shit,
Speaker 1: you write me about it. I'm not gonna say it's
Speaker 1: not your business to speak on because he puts you
Speaker 1: in the middle of it. He kind of did put
Speaker 1: you in the middle of it, or you wouldn't notice. Shit,
Speaker 1: you know what I'm saying, Like, he just sloppy. He
Speaker 1: don't even give a fuck, you know. So just get
Speaker 1: back with me, baby girl, all right, And just like that,
Speaker 1: we've come to yet the end of another Catholic, reckless
Speaker 1: episode with your girl. Just hilarious. Okay, so next week,
Speaker 1: hopefully I have this baby. Guys, next week, we just
Speaker 1: gonna keep on saying next week. By then I'll be
Speaker 1: forty one weeks. I'm actually ten months pregnant now, so yeah,
Speaker 1: we'll see. But love you guys, and tune in next
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