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Speaker 1: Welcome to Can'tfully Reckless, the production of iHeart Radio and

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Speaker 1: the Black Effect and just like that were back on

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Speaker 1: the air. Welcome back to yet another Canfully Reckless episode

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Speaker 1: with your girl. Just hilarious. So look, y'all, false alarm.

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Speaker 1: You ever heard of false labor? I basically got played

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Speaker 1: with by my child, like I'm being pranked by my

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Speaker 1: unborn child, because it's like she want to come, but

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Speaker 1: she like psych you know what I'm saying, Like playing

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Speaker 1: big games with my cervix, playing big games with my uterists,

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Speaker 1: playing big games with my bladder. I feel like some

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Speaker 1: days she feel like she's about to just fall out

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Speaker 1: of that motherfucker. And then other days I feel like

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Speaker 1: she didn't like shimmied her way back up a little bit,

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Speaker 1: because some days I'm low, some days I'm hot. Y'all.

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Speaker 1: This this, this is a lot, y'all, And I know

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Speaker 1: that y'all know us. And I'm recording this shit on

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Speaker 1: a Monday, but it came out today, So this is

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Speaker 1: just two days ago. Now, I guarantee you I'm gonna

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Speaker 1: probably still be pregnant Wednesday. I just stopped like playing

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Speaker 1: with her at this point. Now. I posted some things

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Speaker 1: like yo, what do you do? I did ask people

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Speaker 1: like what do you do to like make the baby come? Now?

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Speaker 1: The reason why I did this, I went in for

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Speaker 1: an appointment two weeks ago. My doctor was like, oh,

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Speaker 1: she's extremely low, like I'd be surprised if you make

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Speaker 1: it to next week's appointment. Then I was only thirty

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Speaker 1: eight weeks. That's that's considered to be full term though,

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Speaker 1: so we're past the premie stage and everything. So I

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Speaker 1: was excited, like, oh shit, I'm about to have her,

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Speaker 1: you know, as nervous as I am later for that

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Speaker 1: nervous shit, Like this shit is not Pregnancy is not

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Speaker 1: fun anymore. It's exhausting, It's very uncomfortable in your leg

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Speaker 1: like on at home stretch, and last week's your last

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Speaker 1: day's is like whoa, you just want the baby out.

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Speaker 1: While I'm not rushing her. I was told, you know,

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Speaker 1: she might be coming, like you know, and it's looking

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Speaker 1: very promising. So I was just like, okay, so what

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Speaker 1: are some things. I've talked to doulas. I've talked to

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Speaker 1: women who've had dulas. I've talked to older women, younger women.

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Speaker 1: You know, everybody's different, So I'm not just just gonna

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Speaker 1: stop at just one person's opinion on what they think

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Speaker 1: I should do. But I did see in the comments

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Speaker 1: like why is she trying to rush her? Bitch, I'm

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Speaker 1: not trying to rush her. She was rushing and then

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Speaker 1: she played with me because I ended up making it

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Speaker 1: to next week. Why did I do the cast sole shit,

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Speaker 1: the castle shit I did that? I was shitty, My

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Speaker 1: buhle was raw. I'm glad I didn't go into labor

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Speaker 1: because for those who don't know, when you push your

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Speaker 1: toilet taking the number two. You don't push like you're

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Speaker 1: pushing them out of your vagil I. You know, you

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Speaker 1: push like you're taking a shit. So I'm so glad

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Speaker 1: because I would have had big hemorrhoids, you know what

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Speaker 1: I'm saying. Bajo was burning big raw like it was like, okay,

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Speaker 1: so why the fuck do people take this shit? You know? Now,

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Speaker 1: I wasn't aware because everybody who told me to take

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Speaker 1: it did tell me it's a laxative. But I had

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Speaker 1: no idea I would be shitty for that long. So

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Speaker 1: I'm glad that she didn't come. That would have been

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Speaker 1: like extremely painful. Then I'm trying to do this shit

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Speaker 1: without another DOORO, Like, I'm praying every day that I

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Speaker 1: but it's just like, oh my gosh, like giving birth

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Speaker 1: without another door, just even thinking of what the hell

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Speaker 1: that feels like is definitely intimidating to me. But I

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Speaker 1: want to do it. I do want to try to

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Speaker 1: birth this baby with no meads, no medicine and shit.

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Speaker 1: And so after I push out, they load me up

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Speaker 1: with a perk perk. But yeah, other than that, I

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Speaker 1: don't know. So I'm not rushing her her. I've seen

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Speaker 1: that in a bunch of my fucking comments. I'm like,

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Speaker 1: look y'all, y'all can get blocked fucking around me, fucking

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Speaker 1: around with pregnantized I'm very sensitive, So don't play with

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Speaker 1: will say she is being very stubborn, very stubborn. Last

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Speaker 1: appointment we went, they put the two straps like the

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Speaker 1: belts around your stomach to monitor your contractions and the

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Speaker 1: know the time in between them and all that type shit.

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Speaker 1: And I have not one on that goddamn at that

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Speaker 1: They were just spread out. And then I want to know, like,

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Speaker 1: y'all give me feedback on this, if y'all been pregnant

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Speaker 1: at night and then in the morning, it's like second now,

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Speaker 1: I was just playing, like what like, cause that's what's

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Speaker 1: I have sleepless nights because I can't get comfortable. Every

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Speaker 1: comes the biggest contraction I've ever fucking felt. They're always

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Speaker 1: worse than the one before, and shit, but only at night,

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Speaker 1: and then during the day they'd be like thirty minutes apart,

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Speaker 1: twenty minutes apart. I'm like, what the fuck? But at night,

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Speaker 1: pain in my butt, I feel it in my vagina.

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Speaker 1: Like I'm not trying to scare anybody from having a

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Speaker 1: fucking baby. But listen, the older you get, the scarier

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Speaker 1: it gets. You know, Like I said, I told you

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Speaker 1: all the time and time before when I was nineteen

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Speaker 1: and I was pregnant. I had ashen at twenty. I

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Speaker 1: pushed that little baby out in thirty minutes. I ain't

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Speaker 1: give a fucking sorry, No, give me the drugs, give

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Speaker 1: me the abidoro or whatever. Whatever. It was a painful needle,

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Speaker 1: and I still felt the carefit of going through my

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Speaker 1: pe hole and shit. But like I was young, so

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Speaker 1: I was just ready to you know what I'm saying,

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Speaker 1: have them, get them home, take care of them, get

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Speaker 1: back to the streets. That's my truth. Whatever. I am

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Speaker 1: so scared as a thirty two year old pregnant woman,

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Speaker 1: you know. And then for other people in the coms

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Speaker 1: she ain't like she never had a baby before. How

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Speaker 1: about you tried twelve years apart, bitch, how about you

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Speaker 1: do that and then come back and let me know

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Speaker 1: how you feel about it. Yeah, because this baby was planned.

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Speaker 1: This is what I want, and I want more after this,

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Speaker 1: but I don't know so because every pregnancy is different,

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Speaker 1: the fucking first time. I don't even remember every fucking

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Speaker 1: So that's the thing. That's another reason why I want

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Speaker 1: to do natural and then shit these days way different

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Speaker 1: Long long time AGO's days, shit was different. We are

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Speaker 1: you cannot do that. You have to plan. This is serious.

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Speaker 1: You're bringing life into the world. You have to know

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Speaker 1: there until the baby. Damn near ray slide out. Shit,

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Speaker 1: you know. If that's the case. You know what I'm

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Speaker 1: your life? Oh my god, the man have a contraction

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Speaker 1: what I'm saying. So this is like a play contraction. Anyway.

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Speaker 1: Let me get into these stories because somebody get mad

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Speaker 1: at this little girl, Oh Marley Marley. I love her

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Speaker 1: name and wait to meet her and cassa ass out

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Speaker 1: because you tried it. If you love me, you'll listen

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Speaker 1: to this commercial and then we'll be right back. All right,

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Speaker 1: I'm just hi. I want to start by saying thank

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Speaker 1: you for replying to this message if you ever open it. Okay, So,

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Speaker 1: my dad is getting married and I've grown a really,

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Speaker 1: really good bond with my soon to be stepmom. Her

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Speaker 1: and my dad are literally the cutest thing when they're together.

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Speaker 1: Before I move on with the story, could we please

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Speaker 1: keep this anonymous because this is really not my place

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Speaker 1: to speak on. So why the fuck is you writing me?

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Speaker 1: But I just don't know what to do. I mean,

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Speaker 1: but Doug, girl, everybody's anonymous. Let me give you some

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Speaker 1: more insight. My step mom is a flight ascendant, so

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Speaker 1: she'd be gone days at a time. I'm only eighteen

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Speaker 1: years old and I live with my mom. So when

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Speaker 1: my god. It's definitely your place to tell me your business.

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Speaker 1: So I'm glad you're doing this. Continuing it started to

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Speaker 1: make me go over there a lot less and just

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Speaker 1: between my attitude. But he just don't care, and it

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Speaker 1: feels like I should just mind my business and stay

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Speaker 1: in a child's place. Me and my stepmom actually talk

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Speaker 1: on some things because she does vent to me. But

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Speaker 1: as well dying. So I feel like you're in on it.

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Speaker 1: I know there are some things I could say, but

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Speaker 1: I really don't want to upset anyone or make things worse.

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Speaker 1: you're eighteen. No child should be called in the middle of,

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Speaker 1: you know, the drama of what their parents are going

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Speaker 1: through or what they see being willingly done. I don't

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Speaker 1: know why your father would even allow such activity while

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Speaker 1: you're almost grown as be over there, like you're eighteen.

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Speaker 1: You're not fucking eight. You're not six, you're not five.

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Speaker 1: Like you know what I'm saying. You are about to

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Speaker 1: You know you're not legally grown, but shit, you grown.

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Speaker 1: And if he knows that you have a relationship with

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Speaker 1: would allow for, you know, other women to be around

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Speaker 1: because that's honestly, with that showing that's also a form

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Speaker 1: of disrespect to you. Whether he looks at it like

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Speaker 1: because you didn't say that, but that's disrespectful in any

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Speaker 1: type of way. I would definitely if my dad was

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Speaker 1: getting married and I'm eighteen and he sees that I

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Speaker 1: want to see, especially if this is the woman or

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Speaker 1: And you know you want that, you want your kids

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Speaker 1: to love your soon to be spoused, You want your

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Speaker 1: he don't give a fuck, damn. So your advisory question

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Speaker 1: is just like what to do? You don't know what

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Speaker 1: You don't want to make things worse. I think you

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Speaker 1: should talk to your dad, to be honest. The reason

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