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Speaker 1: Scrubbing in with sack At Tilly and Tanya Brad and

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Speaker 1: I Heart Radio and People's Choice Award winning podcast. Hello everybody,

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Speaker 1: Happy Monday. How's everyone doing today? Lively awake? Super great.

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Speaker 1: You're the type of person that enjoys Mondays. I love Mondays.

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Speaker 1: It's like the start of a new week. It's like

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Speaker 1: setting up your entire week. It's like a fresh star.

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Speaker 1: You know. I never used to be that, but I'm

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Speaker 1: coming into that a little bit because I like getting

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Speaker 1: back to the routine. Like my Monday is a very regimented,

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Speaker 1: very set I'm here at this time, I do this

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Speaker 1: at this time. I have a whole thing. Yeah. And

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Speaker 1: if I'm comfort in it on Monday morning week to conquer, Yeah,

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Speaker 1: when it kicks in, I feel like I got comfort.

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Speaker 1: I'm back in a comfort zone. That's interesting. I love

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Speaker 1: not having a routine. What oh I took the angiogram tests?

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Speaker 1: Am I saying it? Right? Have you all done that?

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Speaker 1: It's it's hard to talk about then. I feel like

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Speaker 1: I didn't take it, but somebody told me what I was.

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Speaker 1: That's not how it works. People can guess like, like

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Speaker 1: it's pretty standard that I think. If you like if

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Speaker 1: people are really into it and know what the personality

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Speaker 1: traits are. They probably could guess yours, but you don't

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Speaker 1: know until you take the test. But no one can

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Speaker 1: be like you're four. I think I was like a

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Speaker 1: two or three or two? Is the helper? Which is

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Speaker 1: the enthusiast? Kind is the enthusiast, isn't she? I've never

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Speaker 1: taken it, so I don't know for sure. I'm a nine.

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Speaker 1: Nine You're a peacemaker, but just so accurate because one

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Speaker 1: of the main things is like, hates conflict, stays out

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Speaker 1: of anything. I hate it, avoided it. Well, you couldn't

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Speaker 1: avoid it when you went to dinner with Tania? Could

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Speaker 1: you know there was conflict there. I'm also really upset

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Speaker 1: that I lost that poll by so much. What was

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Speaker 1: the final score? Do we know? Actually I might be

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Speaker 1: able to find. Of course I'm not having like a

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Speaker 1: screenshot of it just to rub her. So here's the thing.

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Speaker 1: Becca posted the poll, and I was like, okay, like

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Speaker 1: her followers will side with her. I was like, I'm

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Speaker 1: gonna post a poll on mine because my followers will

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Speaker 1: side with me, you know, Oh no, no, no, no no.

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Speaker 1: It was like eighty nine percent Team Becca. I was

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Speaker 1: so offended. Honestly, that was kind of the more satisfying

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Speaker 1: part because I thought, this this big of a lead.

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Speaker 1: There's no way she's going to win the pole, even

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Speaker 1: if she posted on hers. But I was like, maybe her,

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Speaker 1: you know her like fans are very loyal to her

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Speaker 1: because they're very team Tanya, and they agree with everything

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Speaker 1: that she feels and says and thinks. And I was like,

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Speaker 1: this could be closer. And then I think it was

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Speaker 1: even more dressing. My final was eight seven percent. To

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Speaker 1: so tell everybody what we're talking about, because if they

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Speaker 1: didn't hear you on there with Ryan's Secrets earlier this

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Speaker 1: morning Monday, or they didn't watch my story, right, So,

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Speaker 1: Tony and I haven't had like a time where we've

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Speaker 1: just gone and hung out like one on one, and she,

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Speaker 1: you know, when Tanya says, I want to go out

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Speaker 1: and do something cute. I want to go out out,

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Speaker 1: I want to go fishing, throw my rod out. I

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Speaker 1: know that that's not just a dinner at you know,

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Speaker 1: a cafe. That's like we're getting dressed up, we're gonna go.

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Speaker 1: She's gonna drink what she never really ever drinks. We're

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Speaker 1: both gonna drink and then we're gonna have a good time.

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Speaker 1: So we go to this restaurant down the street from us,

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Speaker 1: and we're going to sit down. It's a really cute

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Speaker 1: restaurant's kind of like there's like a mountain but it's outside.

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Speaker 1: It's so cute. By the way, the vibe is so

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Speaker 1: cute and there. Yeah, it's called Fireflying Studio City in

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Speaker 1: case anyone wants to go. And we got to sit down,

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Speaker 1: and I go to sit on the side where I'm

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Speaker 1: facing the restaurant and chairs would have been booth side.

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Speaker 1: There was a booth and Tony comes and sits next

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Speaker 1: to me, and I'm I literally like my first reaction,

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Speaker 1: like without even thinking about her feelings, was like, what

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Speaker 1: to me sitting next to her. I was like wow,

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Speaker 1: and she was like, oh, I thought it'd be cute

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Speaker 1: don't need to see like everyone else. People have a

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Speaker 1: Like it was like, come on, I wanted to see

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Speaker 1: and that way she's closer. The tables were really far,

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Speaker 1: like I felt like I honestly felt like I had

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Speaker 1: I would have been so just I would have been

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Speaker 1: just uncomfortable internally with like the fact of what people

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Speaker 1: then the best part is the waitress actually told us

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Speaker 1: because I, you know, I wanted to get somebody else

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Speaker 1: really good going into the poll because the hostess who

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Speaker 1: end of the night, everybody ends up on the same side.

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Speaker 1: We were dating or something like what friends sit on

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Speaker 1: the same side? I do. I'm really surprised as the

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Speaker 1: first time this has come up, because if I had

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Speaker 1: same side as everybody. I would like to a lot.

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Speaker 1: We went medieval times and we sat on the subside. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: I mean, you don't really if you're in a movie,

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Speaker 1: each other. But yeah, I really felt confident going into this,

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Speaker 1: like I was like, oh, you know, like the waitress

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Speaker 1: I said, you're your People who are teamed Tanya are

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Speaker 1: way we also just need to talk about. So then

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Speaker 1: think was a mistake. I feel like we should have

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Speaker 1: been popping given like thirty more minutes, No, not thirty.

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Speaker 1: We went early. It was an early Saturday night. Then

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Speaker 1: to this last place and then I was like, Okay,

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Speaker 1: now what you know? Now what do we do? We

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Speaker 1: don't know what to do, and so I started texting

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Speaker 1: this guy. Oh my god, I forgot about this, and

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Speaker 1: I think I'm wasty at this point because I text him,

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Speaker 1: hey are you in l a Hey? Are you in

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Speaker 1: l a Hey? Are you in l a And like

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Speaker 1: do you say? So her phone glitches, so she types

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Speaker 1: Because he's not here full time. So she types it,

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Speaker 1: She's like, it won't send, it won't send. So I'm like,

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Speaker 1: so she sends it again, and so then all of

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Speaker 1: again and it said hey are you in la twice

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Speaker 1: and then Hey, Hey are you in? Hey? Are you

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Speaker 1: in Hey? And I panicked. I was like, like, nothing

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Speaker 1: was more Tanya happening. But I didn't even mean to.

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Speaker 1: That's the sad things, Like, I know I'm a little

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Speaker 1: like totally, but I wasn't even trying to at that.

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Speaker 1: That was an accident. And he responded and it wasn't

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Speaker 1: like bad, but it wasn't great. It was not great.

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Speaker 1: It was not great. And I feel like I already

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Speaker 1: the saying. I don't think that. I don't know what.

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Speaker 1: We're not even within a universe of a saying. It's existing,

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Speaker 1: shot the horse in the foot, myself in the foot.

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Speaker 1: you've already you've already gone there. Yeah, And you're saying

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Speaker 1: be beating a dead horse. Basically, I feel like you've

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Speaker 1: like he's gonna come to lay and I'm not going

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Speaker 1: to see him, and that's fine. But he responded okay.

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Speaker 1: He didn't say like he didn't like ignore you. No,

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Speaker 1: it was okay, but it wasn't like it was one

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Speaker 1: He was nervous. So our night ended shortly after that

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Speaker 1: really killed it. It was like time to go home

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Speaker 1: I've told Tony. I was like, we should do this

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Speaker 1: more often, like scheduled nights, because it's good to sit

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Speaker 1: down and chat. You know, opposite guys recognized more often

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Speaker 1: when you guys go out. Becca, I know, I feel

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Speaker 1: like you have like when we're together. I mean, no

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Speaker 1: perks that night. I feel like you get recognized more,

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Speaker 1: maybe like on a regular basis no chance at concerts.

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Speaker 1: Maybe yeah, you are the number one concert tonight. Get

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Speaker 1: when people come up depends on the venue. But in

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Speaker 1: the in the wild it's Becca. Oh, speaking of concerts.

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Speaker 1: I want to talk about Arianna all that stuff, but

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Speaker 1: went to Ariana ground speaking of concerts on Friday night,

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Speaker 1: Becca went to the Staple show earlier in the week

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Speaker 1: that multiple shows and multiple venues around Los Angeles. Becca,

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Speaker 1: how did you feel about the Ariana concert? I was

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Speaker 1: slightly underwhelmed. Um, she has wanted the I will say

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Speaker 1: personally offended. Yeah, I will say this, she has one

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Speaker 1: of the best voices, Like of anyone out there right now,

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Speaker 1: I would say yeah, but um, there wasn't a lot.

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Speaker 1: I think you have to realize My last concert was Pink,

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Speaker 1: where she's flying through the arena. No matter where you're sitting,

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Speaker 1: you feel like you're close to her. This was I

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Speaker 1: will say, comparing Pink to Ariana Grande. What is literally

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Speaker 1: not okay? And what way? Wait? And what way? Ari

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Speaker 1: is our queen? No? Also finish your story because I haven't.

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Speaker 1: I have something okay, um, I and I there was

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Speaker 1: or what do you want to know? And it was

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00:23:34,560 --> 00:23:37,720
Speaker 1: a huge response, so we have a million. But would

426
00:23:37,760 --> 00:23:39,679
Speaker 1: you make clear that this is a real thing that

427
00:23:39,840 --> 00:23:43,359
Speaker 1: really happened and I forget that all the time, Like

428
00:23:43,400 --> 00:23:47,280
Speaker 1: I'm like, I the fact that you lived this is

429
00:23:47,359 --> 00:23:51,480
Speaker 1: like beyond me. Oh well, it was crazy, I mean

430
00:23:51,680 --> 00:23:54,400
Speaker 1: I think yeah, and I think I listened to the podcast,

431
00:23:54,840 --> 00:23:57,320
Speaker 1: which is obviously it's like you're hearing it and it's

432
00:23:57,359 --> 00:23:59,560
Speaker 1: the story being told. But then you watch the show

433
00:23:59,600 --> 00:24:04,479
Speaker 1: and it so wild that even sitting here talking to

434
00:24:04,520 --> 00:24:06,520
Speaker 1: you and knowing that you went through it, it's hard

435
00:24:06,560 --> 00:24:10,520
Speaker 1: to like really wrap my brain around it. Yeah. Well,

436
00:24:10,760 --> 00:24:15,560
Speaker 1: I'm like five two and what I did was crazy

437
00:24:15,600 --> 00:24:19,640
Speaker 1: and you just wouldn't expect myself to come out of that,

438
00:24:20,080 --> 00:24:24,000
Speaker 1: you know, well, And I mean I'm assuming I feel

439
00:24:24,040 --> 00:24:28,240
Speaker 1: like the the podcast and the show were very similar

440
00:24:28,280 --> 00:24:30,639
Speaker 1: to each other, Like as far as like the things

441
00:24:30,640 --> 00:24:32,479
Speaker 1: that were said, like they did a great job. Did

442
00:24:32,520 --> 00:24:34,080
Speaker 1: you feel like they did a great job as far

443
00:24:34,119 --> 00:24:38,280
Speaker 1: as I really liked how they did it. Um, it

444
00:24:38,359 --> 00:24:43,959
Speaker 1: was just everything's different to you because it's your life,

445
00:24:44,520 --> 00:24:47,920
Speaker 1: and so you're like, oh, that's different, that's different there.

446
00:24:48,600 --> 00:24:55,080
Speaker 1: But how it was the sequence of it, like that

447
00:24:55,160 --> 00:24:58,800
Speaker 1: stuff happened. So it was just so crazy and so

448
00:24:58,840 --> 00:25:01,760
Speaker 1: surreal to see that and play in the TV show.

449
00:25:02,880 --> 00:25:04,560
Speaker 1: I'll bet that's got to be weird to see that.

450
00:25:04,560 --> 00:25:06,320
Speaker 1: When you heard it was Julia Garner, where was that

451
00:25:06,400 --> 00:25:09,000
Speaker 1: good news for you? You're like, oh, that seems perfect.

452
00:25:09,359 --> 00:25:12,000
Speaker 1: I honestly didn't know who she was. And then I

453
00:25:12,080 --> 00:25:15,360
Speaker 1: went and watched Ozark and I was like, I'm so

454
00:25:15,480 --> 00:25:18,439
Speaker 1: honored for her to play me. So I was happy

455
00:25:18,560 --> 00:25:21,760
Speaker 1: after I watched Ozark and I was like, Oh, she's amazing.

456
00:25:21,840 --> 00:25:24,240
Speaker 1: She's a brilliant actress. She was out of the Americans too.

457
00:25:24,320 --> 00:25:27,359
Speaker 1: Did you spend time with her? Um, we didn't spend

458
00:25:27,440 --> 00:25:33,240
Speaker 1: time together. She's a busy actress. So she literally went

459
00:25:33,320 --> 00:25:36,800
Speaker 1: from filming Ozark and then went to Dirty John and

460
00:25:36,840 --> 00:25:41,600
Speaker 1: then I met her maybe a month into filming, So

461
00:25:41,840 --> 00:25:44,639
Speaker 1: were you not have like was she just kind of

462
00:25:44,640 --> 00:25:47,080
Speaker 1: going off the podcast and what was set on there

463
00:25:47,359 --> 00:25:49,200
Speaker 1: for her? Like she didn't talk to you as far

464
00:25:49,280 --> 00:25:53,679
Speaker 1: as you know, she didn't talk to me. Um, she

465
00:25:53,840 --> 00:25:57,000
Speaker 1: just watched the podcast or listen to the podcast and

466
00:25:57,000 --> 00:25:59,800
Speaker 1: then watched I think Dateline and a few other and

467
00:26:00,000 --> 00:26:07,080
Speaker 1: reviews and then really tried to put her character into perspective.

468
00:26:08,200 --> 00:26:10,360
Speaker 1: I think we should get to some of the questions

469
00:26:10,359 --> 00:26:12,840
Speaker 1: because a lot of them are questions that I have. Yeah,

470
00:26:12,920 --> 00:26:15,040
Speaker 1: well one of a lot of them asked is about

471
00:26:16,560 --> 00:26:18,439
Speaker 1: and no one questions that you did what you had

472
00:26:18,480 --> 00:26:20,679
Speaker 1: to do and you're a hero for doing it. But

473
00:26:20,760 --> 00:26:23,720
Speaker 1: a lot of them asked about how when you kill someone,

474
00:26:24,480 --> 00:26:27,959
Speaker 1: how do you deal with that afterwards? Is there guilt?

475
00:26:28,160 --> 00:26:31,000
Speaker 1: Is there could have handled that differently? At such a

476
00:26:31,040 --> 00:26:33,480
Speaker 1: heavy question that a lot of them asked, but none

477
00:26:33,480 --> 00:26:36,639
Speaker 1: of us have ever gone through such a thing. John

478
00:26:36,800 --> 00:26:41,479
Speaker 1: was such an evil guy that I knew it was

479
00:26:41,520 --> 00:26:44,080
Speaker 1: either me or him, and he was going to kill

480
00:26:44,119 --> 00:26:48,120
Speaker 1: me no matter what. But I felt bad if there

481
00:26:48,160 --> 00:26:53,639
Speaker 1: was anyone that cared about him afterwards. And his sisters

482
00:26:53,840 --> 00:26:56,840
Speaker 1: came a couple of days after when I was out

483
00:26:56,880 --> 00:27:01,000
Speaker 1: of the hospital and then his daughter has found out

484
00:27:01,080 --> 00:27:05,040
Speaker 1: like months later, and just hearing what they had to

485
00:27:05,080 --> 00:27:10,840
Speaker 1: say that their relieved that he's gone. It was so

486
00:27:10,840 --> 00:27:14,040
Speaker 1: so great to hear that, because I just I don't

487
00:27:14,040 --> 00:27:18,680
Speaker 1: want to make anyone hurt. And I think, like you said,

488
00:27:19,760 --> 00:27:23,199
Speaker 1: he was so evil. He was not adding anything to

489
00:27:23,240 --> 00:27:25,560
Speaker 1: this world, you know, like, which I know it's like

490
00:27:25,560 --> 00:27:27,440
Speaker 1: a horrible thing to say, but like he was not

491
00:27:27,960 --> 00:27:31,159
Speaker 1: a good person, not at all, Like that's not a

492
00:27:31,200 --> 00:27:35,439
Speaker 1: bad thing to say about him. Um, Jodi, how has

493
00:27:35,520 --> 00:27:38,040
Speaker 1: this experience changed your dating habits? Like your guard has

494
00:27:38,080 --> 00:27:40,840
Speaker 1: to be up at all times. I'm well, I feel

495
00:27:40,880 --> 00:27:44,760
Speaker 1: like a psycho and NAN like analyzed guys now and

496
00:27:44,840 --> 00:27:48,960
Speaker 1: I'm like, oh, he's a sociopath. He's a narcissist. Oh

497
00:27:49,080 --> 00:27:52,560
Speaker 1: he I think he might be a psychopath. So I

498
00:27:52,680 --> 00:28:00,240
Speaker 1: just like I just really analyzed them, and I'm just like, oh, okay,

499
00:28:00,320 --> 00:28:03,160
Speaker 1: there's red flags there, there's red flags there. You must

500
00:28:03,200 --> 00:28:05,880
Speaker 1: be the best that seeing red flags. I think I'm

501
00:28:05,920 --> 00:28:08,760
Speaker 1: pretty good. Like sometimes I'm not gonna lie. I'll stick

502
00:28:08,800 --> 00:28:12,440
Speaker 1: around for entertainment with these guys and I'll be like, okay,

503
00:28:12,600 --> 00:28:16,280
Speaker 1: like what's going to happen? Next with them, and then

504
00:28:16,320 --> 00:28:18,680
Speaker 1: I'll be like, but I won't want to end up

505
00:28:18,680 --> 00:28:21,120
Speaker 1: with them at all, And I'm like, they're just strictly

506
00:28:21,280 --> 00:28:26,240
Speaker 1: entertainment for a moment. The next time you're seeing some Hey,

507
00:28:26,280 --> 00:28:28,600
Speaker 1: I'd like my friend Terror to come to dinner with us.

508
00:28:28,720 --> 00:28:33,120
Speaker 1: And out show has affected my dating life and I'm

509
00:28:33,160 --> 00:28:35,800
Speaker 1: just watching them, so I can't even imagine how it's

510
00:28:35,800 --> 00:28:39,640
Speaker 1: affected by me living it. Wow, Well that makes me

511
00:28:39,760 --> 00:28:44,440
Speaker 1: happy to hear that, because now women are seeing red flags. Yeah,

512
00:28:44,520 --> 00:28:47,000
Speaker 1: And I think it's like matters of the heart are

513
00:28:47,120 --> 00:28:51,360
Speaker 1: so blinding. I think it's obvious. I think we all

514
00:28:51,520 --> 00:28:54,000
Speaker 1: have felt that, but then like seeing it actually play

515
00:28:54,040 --> 00:28:55,520
Speaker 1: out the way that it did, I think it is.

516
00:28:55,600 --> 00:28:58,160
Speaker 1: I mean, I'm a little bit like too far where

517
00:28:58,200 --> 00:28:59,920
Speaker 1: I'm like very guarded, but I think a lot of

518
00:29:00,000 --> 00:29:02,880
Speaker 1: people are the other way, where they're like, yeah, here's

519
00:29:02,880 --> 00:29:08,400
Speaker 1: my address, compicure. It's like no girl, yeah, And when

520
00:29:08,600 --> 00:29:10,960
Speaker 1: like a guy comes picks you up, you're like, oh,

521
00:29:11,120 --> 00:29:15,320
Speaker 1: he's a gentleman o yeah, and they're like no, actually,

522
00:29:15,400 --> 00:29:16,720
Speaker 1: he just wants to see where you live and what

523
00:29:16,760 --> 00:29:20,240
Speaker 1: the security coade is. Yeah. Yeah. I grew up in

524
00:29:20,360 --> 00:29:22,200
Speaker 1: my you know, my parents are like, no, if he

525
00:29:22,240 --> 00:29:23,800
Speaker 1: wants to take you out on a day, he picks

526
00:29:23,840 --> 00:29:26,480
Speaker 1: you up. But it's like, that's not how it works

527
00:29:26,520 --> 00:29:29,840
Speaker 1: anymore with like apps and online dating, Like you can't

528
00:29:29,840 --> 00:29:34,000
Speaker 1: you you should not do that. I like highly recommend

529
00:29:34,400 --> 00:29:38,320
Speaker 1: meeting somewhere and not letting anyone know where you live

530
00:29:38,360 --> 00:29:40,400
Speaker 1: for the first time the first few times you hang out.

531
00:29:40,520 --> 00:29:43,120
Speaker 1: What is the difference between a psychopath and a sociopath?

532
00:29:43,400 --> 00:29:49,920
Speaker 1: I'm so a psychopath um, to be honest, I'm like,

533
00:29:50,320 --> 00:29:52,400
Speaker 1: I feel like I just look at them and I

534
00:29:52,560 --> 00:29:59,840
Speaker 1: know after reading so many books. But there's a couple

535
00:29:59,880 --> 00:30:06,080
Speaker 1: of fine lines, like a psychopath will hurt someone and

536
00:30:06,200 --> 00:30:10,920
Speaker 1: not have a conscience, And sociopaths really don't have conscience either,

537
00:30:11,600 --> 00:30:17,080
Speaker 1: but they're not going to come after and stob soone

538
00:30:17,240 --> 00:30:22,080
Speaker 1: normally they still have that capability in them. But a

539
00:30:22,160 --> 00:30:28,320
Speaker 1: psychopath is just like um American psycho psychopath, there's no

540
00:30:28,360 --> 00:30:31,240
Speaker 1: real line between right and wrong. Sociopath is aware of that,

541
00:30:31,280 --> 00:30:35,000
Speaker 1: but it still has no empathy for other humans. So

542
00:30:35,200 --> 00:30:41,560
Speaker 1: was John considered a psychopath? Psychopathy? What are some signs? Sorry,

543
00:30:41,600 --> 00:30:45,400
Speaker 1: what are some signs girls that are dating should look at?

544
00:30:45,480 --> 00:30:48,640
Speaker 1: Like red flags here and there that are like benign whatever,

545
00:30:48,680 --> 00:30:50,920
Speaker 1: but like big ones that women should look out for.

546
00:30:53,160 --> 00:30:57,960
Speaker 1: I feel like when they're too like always there, that's

547
00:30:57,960 --> 00:31:03,120
Speaker 1: a red flat. Um. A normal person is going to

548
00:31:03,200 --> 00:31:08,320
Speaker 1: have a job, They're gonna not have time to hang

549
00:31:08,360 --> 00:31:13,800
Speaker 1: out seven at your house. Um. And if they're just

550
00:31:16,760 --> 00:31:23,560
Speaker 1: always I'm trying to think, I'm just like always being there,

551
00:31:23,600 --> 00:31:27,240
Speaker 1: like holding your purse and stuff for you is like

552
00:31:27,320 --> 00:31:33,560
Speaker 1: something John did from my mom. He just that they're

553
00:31:33,560 --> 00:31:37,280
Speaker 1: bending over backwards too much. Yeah, yeah, he did, like

554
00:31:37,400 --> 00:31:40,160
Speaker 1: the coffee you drink for this movie in the morning,

555
00:31:40,920 --> 00:31:45,120
Speaker 1: you know, because she's like a busny, busy woman. Um.

556
00:31:45,200 --> 00:31:48,320
Speaker 1: So it's just things like that. And then I was

557
00:31:48,360 --> 00:31:51,520
Speaker 1: actually on a date the other day and it was

558
00:31:51,560 --> 00:31:53,840
Speaker 1: like the third or fourth date. So I let him

559
00:31:53,880 --> 00:31:59,880
Speaker 1: come over. Thanks, but red flag here. I have a

560
00:32:00,040 --> 00:32:04,520
Speaker 1: happy and I was telling her no and like putting

561
00:32:04,720 --> 00:32:08,000
Speaker 1: pressure in her mouth and she would just squil once

562
00:32:08,000 --> 00:32:10,200
Speaker 1: and I would let her go so she would know

563
00:32:10,280 --> 00:32:13,480
Speaker 1: not to bite. And then he did it and he

564
00:32:13,480 --> 00:32:16,160
Speaker 1: held it down and she was squealing and I literally

565
00:32:16,200 --> 00:32:19,240
Speaker 1: had to tell him like, hey, that's good enough, like

566
00:32:20,120 --> 00:32:24,400
Speaker 1: don't do that. And so a sociopath or psychopath will

567
00:32:24,680 --> 00:32:30,040
Speaker 1: um not no limits with that. Wow, because like a

568
00:32:30,080 --> 00:32:32,240
Speaker 1: normal person, like if I did that was especially with

569
00:32:32,320 --> 00:32:35,920
Speaker 1: someone else's dog, that was somebody else's dog, well I wouldn't. Yeah,

570
00:32:35,960 --> 00:32:37,720
Speaker 1: I know. But if they said like, hey, this is

571
00:32:37,720 --> 00:32:40,600
Speaker 1: how you do it, like here, you try it, and

572
00:32:40,640 --> 00:32:42,800
Speaker 1: if as soon as the dogs squealed, I would be like,

573
00:32:43,160 --> 00:32:45,960
Speaker 1: oh my gosh, I'm so sorry. Are you okay? Yeah,

574
00:32:46,240 --> 00:32:50,400
Speaker 1: that's like a normal reaction. But if someone puts pressure

575
00:32:50,400 --> 00:32:54,239
Speaker 1: and the dogs squealing and then they just enjoying, I

576
00:32:54,280 --> 00:32:56,800
Speaker 1: feel out of that having enjoyment out of that, then

577
00:32:56,840 --> 00:33:01,680
Speaker 1: I'm like, there's something wrong. So let's just say there

578
00:33:01,760 --> 00:33:05,800
Speaker 1: was not another date after that three to four. Good

579
00:33:05,840 --> 00:33:09,720
Speaker 1: for you getting pretty far, man, It's gotta be tough.

580
00:33:09,920 --> 00:33:12,440
Speaker 1: It's gotta be tough for you to trust anybody. Um.

581
00:33:12,840 --> 00:33:15,160
Speaker 1: On the Amanda brought this up and I wanted to

582
00:33:15,200 --> 00:33:17,720
Speaker 1: ask you about this too. On the podcast, I said

583
00:33:17,720 --> 00:33:20,360
Speaker 1: that it was your love of The Walking Dead that

584
00:33:20,560 --> 00:33:23,640
Speaker 1: made you know the best way to take this guy out?

585
00:33:23,720 --> 00:33:26,960
Speaker 1: Is that right? Is that accurate? It is? I watched

586
00:33:27,160 --> 00:33:32,000
Speaker 1: The Walking Dead religiously, so I feel like when you're

587
00:33:32,480 --> 00:33:36,640
Speaker 1: watching it so much, if you are in a situation

588
00:33:36,680 --> 00:33:40,080
Speaker 1: like that, you're going to respond how they did on TV.

589
00:33:40,800 --> 00:33:44,840
Speaker 1: And so when he attacked me, I was able to

590
00:33:44,880 --> 00:33:47,880
Speaker 1: get the knife and defend myself and then I ended

591
00:33:47,960 --> 00:33:51,080
Speaker 1: up stabbing him in the head and like folding his

592
00:33:51,200 --> 00:33:54,040
Speaker 1: head as he was falling down on me because I

593
00:33:54,080 --> 00:34:00,320
Speaker 1: didn't want to get bit Wow. So like not like

594
00:34:00,440 --> 00:34:03,560
Speaker 1: he was going to bite me, but it's just you know,

595
00:34:03,720 --> 00:34:07,160
Speaker 1: if you're fighting a zombie, you don't want to turn

596
00:34:07,240 --> 00:34:11,440
Speaker 1: into one. Well, also, like he could have, like he

597
00:34:11,480 --> 00:34:15,279
Speaker 1: could have retaliated that way in like self defense. He

598
00:34:15,320 --> 00:34:17,240
Speaker 1: could have like that may have been his only weapon.

599
00:34:17,960 --> 00:34:20,080
Speaker 1: This is fascinating and I'm sorry if I'm going to

600
00:34:20,120 --> 00:34:21,520
Speaker 1: a dark place here, but you got him in the

601
00:34:21,520 --> 00:34:24,120
Speaker 1: side of the head. Um, So I got him once

602
00:34:24,200 --> 00:34:27,200
Speaker 1: in the forehead and then in the eye, and the

603
00:34:27,239 --> 00:34:31,960
Speaker 1: eyes the softest point of entry for the head often used.

604
00:34:32,040 --> 00:34:34,279
Speaker 1: And that's and that's when you kind of saw that

605
00:34:34,320 --> 00:34:38,000
Speaker 1: this was over, Yes, And that's when I pushed him

606
00:34:38,000 --> 00:34:41,319
Speaker 1: off me and tossed the knife and then got away

607
00:34:41,360 --> 00:34:45,879
Speaker 1: from his body. And then your dog was like, basically

608
00:34:46,160 --> 00:34:49,120
Speaker 1: is that accurate? How because in the show, like the

609
00:34:49,160 --> 00:34:53,600
Speaker 1: dog was like attacking him, Hi, Cash was attacking his ankles.

610
00:34:54,200 --> 00:34:57,040
Speaker 1: Cash actually let me know that he was there before

611
00:34:57,280 --> 00:35:00,680
Speaker 1: I knew he was there, and then I I thought

612
00:35:00,719 --> 00:35:02,759
Speaker 1: he was a homeless guy. So I was like, oh,

613
00:35:03,000 --> 00:35:05,400
Speaker 1: just knock it off, Cash, and then he did, and

614
00:35:05,440 --> 00:35:08,640
Speaker 1: then he was preparing for the attack in the car.

615
00:35:08,800 --> 00:35:13,200
Speaker 1: So wow. But he saw him in the car. Cash

616
00:35:13,239 --> 00:35:18,200
Speaker 1: saw him in the car. Yes, I have chills. Like

617
00:35:19,280 --> 00:35:21,200
Speaker 1: Marina asked a question on this topic, would you have

618
00:35:21,239 --> 00:35:23,960
Speaker 1: done anything differently to prevent that attack from happening in

619
00:35:23,960 --> 00:35:31,040
Speaker 1: the first place? Excellent question. There's nothing that I could

620
00:35:31,080 --> 00:35:35,839
Speaker 1: have done differently in the situation, um, But there are

621
00:35:35,880 --> 00:35:42,279
Speaker 1: things that my mom could have done differently. She contacted

622
00:35:42,360 --> 00:35:49,000
Speaker 1: John back. And if someone's stocking you and sending threatening

623
00:35:49,040 --> 00:35:51,960
Speaker 1: messages to you, you don't want to respond, or you

624
00:35:52,000 --> 00:35:54,960
Speaker 1: want to respond one time and be like leading me alone,

625
00:35:55,120 --> 00:35:59,080
Speaker 1: I am scared of you. Don't block him, ride away.

626
00:35:59,200 --> 00:36:03,320
Speaker 1: Let like a few messages come through because he's crazy,

627
00:36:03,440 --> 00:36:06,759
Speaker 1: so he's gonna say some crazy things. And then when

628
00:36:06,800 --> 00:36:09,880
Speaker 1: those messages come through, block him and then go straight

629
00:36:09,920 --> 00:36:13,839
Speaker 1: to the police station and report him. Because if you

630
00:36:14,160 --> 00:36:19,160
Speaker 1: show that you are engaging and with someone like this,

631
00:36:19,400 --> 00:36:23,000
Speaker 1: then the police are not going to take you seriously.

632
00:36:25,000 --> 00:36:27,840
Speaker 1: So this is an excellent advice for our listeners think,

633
00:36:28,080 --> 00:36:31,960
Speaker 1: So I would just recommend don't engage with them and

634
00:36:31,960 --> 00:36:36,480
Speaker 1: go straight to the police. So engage wants to establish stop,

635
00:36:36,600 --> 00:36:38,359
Speaker 1: leave me alone, I'm scared of you, and then let

636
00:36:38,440 --> 00:36:40,600
Speaker 1: him go nuts for a while just to gather evidence,

637
00:36:41,000 --> 00:36:45,799
Speaker 1: then go to the police. And also, if you've done

638
00:36:45,800 --> 00:36:49,440
Speaker 1: anything differently that day to avoid him or avoid the incident,

639
00:36:49,560 --> 00:36:53,040
Speaker 1: he'd still be alive and tormenting your family. So I'm

640
00:36:53,080 --> 00:36:56,520
Speaker 1: sure you'd find another would have found another way, you know, like, yeah,

641
00:36:56,760 --> 00:36:59,040
Speaker 1: because a psychopath has a note, like you said, there's

642
00:36:59,040 --> 00:37:01,759
Speaker 1: no limits, it's not It's not like the police being

643
00:37:01,800 --> 00:37:05,200
Speaker 1: involved would have stopped him from trying to harm you

644
00:37:05,320 --> 00:37:07,200
Speaker 1: or your family. He wanted you gone, right because you

645
00:37:07,200 --> 00:37:09,920
Speaker 1: were the voice. You were the strongest leader of the

646
00:37:09,960 --> 00:37:14,239
Speaker 1: anti John movement in the family. Right. I'm no, Actually,

647
00:37:14,920 --> 00:37:17,759
Speaker 1: my sister was was just the sister that is not

648
00:37:17,880 --> 00:37:21,520
Speaker 1: part of the show with the podcast. She well she's

649
00:37:21,560 --> 00:37:25,400
Speaker 1: in the podcast Jacqueline, and then her character in the

650
00:37:25,440 --> 00:37:29,680
Speaker 1: show has a different name, Veronica. Why is that At

651
00:37:29,680 --> 00:37:34,480
Speaker 1: the time, she just really wanted her privacy. It's not

652
00:37:34,560 --> 00:37:39,239
Speaker 1: easy watching your trauma and things that happened in your

653
00:37:39,280 --> 00:37:44,359
Speaker 1: life play out on the TV. So it's hard to

654
00:37:44,400 --> 00:37:47,840
Speaker 1: watch that and it just takes a toll on you mentally.

655
00:37:49,160 --> 00:37:51,920
Speaker 1: So she just was having a very hard time with

656
00:37:52,000 --> 00:37:56,280
Speaker 1: it and just really wanted privacy at that time because

657
00:37:56,440 --> 00:37:59,319
Speaker 1: how I guess, like it happened forever ago. I mean

658
00:37:59,360 --> 00:38:04,960
Speaker 1: this was semi recent, right, It will be three years

659
00:38:05,000 --> 00:38:10,719
Speaker 1: on August. Yeah, So it's not like something that like

660
00:38:10,880 --> 00:38:14,960
Speaker 1: you've I mean, obviously you've had some time to process it,

661
00:38:15,000 --> 00:38:17,839
Speaker 1: but like for something that traumatic, it's not like it's

662
00:38:17,880 --> 00:38:20,200
Speaker 1: been like, oh it's been ten years or something. It's

663
00:38:20,239 --> 00:38:23,560
Speaker 1: like still very fresh. Yeah. I know, it's still very fresh,

664
00:38:23,640 --> 00:38:27,120
Speaker 1: and I definitely have a lot more therapy to go through,

665
00:38:27,200 --> 00:38:30,879
Speaker 1: but like I feel like I've made such an improvement

666
00:38:31,040 --> 00:38:33,399
Speaker 1: just with that time. But with the show, it does

667
00:38:33,440 --> 00:38:36,680
Speaker 1: like read trigger stuff. Yeah. I was gonna ask if

668
00:38:36,760 --> 00:38:40,200
Speaker 1: it helped you like rewatching it and like processing it,

669
00:38:40,280 --> 00:38:42,400
Speaker 1: or if it was more of like brought back so

670
00:38:42,480 --> 00:38:44,640
Speaker 1: many things that you felt like, oh no, I took

671
00:38:44,640 --> 00:38:48,520
Speaker 1: a step back in the moment, it felt as if

672
00:38:48,640 --> 00:38:53,799
Speaker 1: I took a step back. But overall, I feel like

673
00:38:54,200 --> 00:38:58,680
Speaker 1: I am stronger being able to watch that, and now

674
00:38:58,719 --> 00:39:03,160
Speaker 1: I'm able to watch the attack scene and say, oh,

675
00:39:03,239 --> 00:39:07,359
Speaker 1: that's Julia. She's playing a character and that's not me

676
00:39:08,040 --> 00:39:11,719
Speaker 1: in that moment. Do you think because there was the

677
00:39:11,800 --> 00:39:14,840
Speaker 1: podcast and there's Dateline and there's the show, do you

678
00:39:14,880 --> 00:39:17,040
Speaker 1: think is there more to come? Like, is there going

679
00:39:17,080 --> 00:39:19,480
Speaker 1: to be another show? Do they want to make a movie?

680
00:39:19,640 --> 00:39:21,760
Speaker 1: Like do you know of any plans of like extending

681
00:39:21,760 --> 00:39:26,720
Speaker 1: the story further? Well, there's this season two a Dirty Giant, Yes,

682
00:39:26,840 --> 00:39:31,759
Speaker 1: but it's a different story. Yes, it's probably going to

683
00:39:31,880 --> 00:39:38,160
Speaker 1: be another um Con Artists or something along that line. Okay, yeah,

684
00:39:38,360 --> 00:39:42,799
Speaker 1: and then um, as for my family, we are actually

685
00:39:43,040 --> 00:39:46,120
Speaker 1: in the works of doing like a reality TV show,

686
00:39:46,200 --> 00:39:52,520
Speaker 1: design show. Yeah. Um, it's so is your mom? Is

687
00:39:52,520 --> 00:39:56,839
Speaker 1: she dating again? She is? Are y'all like, we get

688
00:39:56,880 --> 00:40:00,360
Speaker 1: to screen him before you go on a date with that? Well,

689
00:40:00,480 --> 00:40:04,359
Speaker 1: I always see the joke. I was like, well, he's

690
00:40:04,400 --> 00:40:07,319
Speaker 1: probably scared of me. I'm going to let him know

691
00:40:07,440 --> 00:40:11,520
Speaker 1: that I'll take care of him if anything happened, And

692
00:40:11,640 --> 00:40:15,000
Speaker 1: so I just like, it's the joke. I won't do

693
00:40:15,080 --> 00:40:18,839
Speaker 1: that again unless like I have to. But it's just

694
00:40:18,920 --> 00:40:22,399
Speaker 1: like fun, like throw it out at them and make

695
00:40:22,440 --> 00:40:25,520
Speaker 1: them a little nervous. I am. I. Actually it was

696
00:40:25,520 --> 00:40:27,919
Speaker 1: like around Christmas time I walked by. I was looking

697
00:40:27,960 --> 00:40:29,640
Speaker 1: at Christmas Nights and I walked by the house that

698
00:40:29,719 --> 00:40:33,239
Speaker 1: they actually filmed the show Dirty John in in Long Pease, yeah,

699
00:40:33,280 --> 00:40:36,200
Speaker 1: and in Naples, like right by the water, and I

700
00:40:36,280 --> 00:40:38,160
Speaker 1: was like, oh, my gosh, this is the house that

701
00:40:38,280 --> 00:40:41,040
Speaker 1: they filmed Dirty John in. And like literally everybody on

702
00:40:41,040 --> 00:40:43,279
Speaker 1: the outside was like oh, like taking pictures. And then

703
00:40:43,280 --> 00:40:45,479
Speaker 1: the people inside the house. I don't know if it's

704
00:40:45,560 --> 00:40:48,920
Speaker 1: people lived there, but they were watching Dirty John and

705
00:40:48,920 --> 00:40:51,160
Speaker 1: it's like, you know, it's like all glasses. We could

706
00:40:51,160 --> 00:40:53,279
Speaker 1: totally see through that they were watching the show. And

707
00:40:53,320 --> 00:40:56,280
Speaker 1: I was like, this is so weird. It's like Christmas

708
00:40:56,320 --> 00:41:00,759
Speaker 1: and like this is the trippiest experience. I think it

709
00:41:00,920 --> 00:41:06,080
Speaker 1: was like an air beam b so who knows she's

710
00:41:06,120 --> 00:41:08,120
Speaker 1: in there, but they're all watching it. There's like a

711
00:41:08,800 --> 00:41:11,440
Speaker 1: twelve of them in there. Oh my gosh, that's crazy.

712
00:41:12,200 --> 00:41:17,839
Speaker 1: They were like having the full experience. They got the podcast.

713
00:41:18,160 --> 00:41:20,799
Speaker 1: I meanwhile, people walking on the streets or on the

714
00:41:20,800 --> 00:41:23,120
Speaker 1: sidewalk or like taking selfies in front of the house.

715
00:41:25,440 --> 00:41:27,080
Speaker 1: Paloma brings up a good point. I think it's a

716
00:41:27,160 --> 00:41:29,759
Speaker 1: very relatable question. What do you what's your advice for

717
00:41:30,520 --> 00:41:33,200
Speaker 1: dealing with a family member who is seeing or married

718
00:41:33,239 --> 00:41:35,480
Speaker 1: to somebody that you think is a terrible person, Like,

719
00:41:35,520 --> 00:41:37,719
Speaker 1: what are you doing? How do you get involved with

720
00:41:37,760 --> 00:41:42,400
Speaker 1: that without affecting your relationship with that family member? With

721
00:41:42,480 --> 00:41:49,560
Speaker 1: my mom at one point, I actually cut all ties

722
00:41:49,640 --> 00:41:52,799
Speaker 1: with her, and she was helping me out financially at

723
00:41:52,800 --> 00:41:54,800
Speaker 1: the time, so I was like that that was pretty hard.

724
00:41:55,560 --> 00:41:58,719
Speaker 1: I'm so I just like had all ties with her,

725
00:41:59,239 --> 00:42:01,840
Speaker 1: and then that was so hard to do because she

726
00:42:02,040 --> 00:42:07,000
Speaker 1: is my mom and I don't want to lose my mom.

727
00:42:07,160 --> 00:42:12,480
Speaker 1: So John hated my other sister. He wouldn't allow my

728
00:42:12,520 --> 00:42:16,160
Speaker 1: mom to see my other sister, but he would allow

729
00:42:16,239 --> 00:42:21,120
Speaker 1: her to see me because I was like the nice one,

730
00:42:21,200 --> 00:42:25,759
Speaker 1: I guess. And I also told him or told my

731
00:42:25,840 --> 00:42:29,120
Speaker 1: mom to tell him, that I would get together with

732
00:42:29,280 --> 00:42:34,680
Speaker 1: John and talk about our differences. So I was always

733
00:42:34,719 --> 00:42:37,640
Speaker 1: the one like I didn't think John would do this

734
00:42:37,760 --> 00:42:41,200
Speaker 1: at all, and he never did. But I was just

735
00:42:41,280 --> 00:42:50,239
Speaker 1: the one supporting the relationship in my mom's eyes. So um,

736
00:42:50,280 --> 00:42:54,640
Speaker 1: I kind of just tried to manipulate her in some ways.

737
00:42:55,600 --> 00:42:57,360
Speaker 1: So why why were you the target? And excuse me

738
00:42:57,400 --> 00:42:59,520
Speaker 1: if I'm not remembering this. If you weren't the anti

739
00:42:59,600 --> 00:43:02,520
Speaker 1: John Gaide. Why were you somebody wanted to take out?

740
00:43:04,640 --> 00:43:07,440
Speaker 1: I think that he thought that I was going to

741
00:43:07,520 --> 00:43:11,640
Speaker 1: be an easy target, and I think that I might

742
00:43:11,719 --> 00:43:18,840
Speaker 1: be my mom's favorite child, so well I'm like her youngest,

743
00:43:19,200 --> 00:43:25,040
Speaker 1: so maybe the family. So I feel like he was

744
00:43:25,080 --> 00:43:26,840
Speaker 1: going to come after me because it was going to

745
00:43:26,960 --> 00:43:33,799
Speaker 1: really sting her. Yeah, so it makes sense. Um, well,

746
00:43:33,840 --> 00:43:36,120
Speaker 1: Gianna Rotaco wanted to say, I just need you to

747
00:43:36,160 --> 00:43:37,960
Speaker 1: know that you are truly a hero and I'm so

748
00:43:38,120 --> 00:43:40,680
Speaker 1: taken aback with everything you did to save yourself. You

749
00:43:40,680 --> 00:43:43,120
Speaker 1: are a true role model for women to follow. Always

750
00:43:43,120 --> 00:43:46,160
Speaker 1: trust your gut and fight like hell. A nice comment

751
00:43:46,160 --> 00:43:49,200
Speaker 1: from It's so nice. Thank you. You really are on

752
00:43:49,360 --> 00:43:52,160
Speaker 1: a lot. I mean, yeah, you're you're a hero, and

753
00:43:52,200 --> 00:43:55,000
Speaker 1: that's really cool. I mean it's not cool that you

754
00:43:55,040 --> 00:43:57,440
Speaker 1: had to go through that, but it's cool that people

755
00:43:57,480 --> 00:44:01,040
Speaker 1: are like so supportive of you and what you did

756
00:44:01,080 --> 00:44:04,160
Speaker 1: and everyone's like it kind of gave people this girl

757
00:44:04,200 --> 00:44:07,560
Speaker 1: power moment because you're like this tiny, little little thing

758
00:44:07,680 --> 00:44:10,080
Speaker 1: and he was he was a big dude, Like he

759
00:44:10,160 --> 00:44:15,120
Speaker 1: was like six too, and you handled it. Thanks. At

760
00:44:15,200 --> 00:44:17,520
Speaker 1: what point when you're seeing someone new, do you mention

761
00:44:17,640 --> 00:44:22,960
Speaker 1: that you're Tarran Knewell from the Dirty John World. Okay,

762
00:44:23,040 --> 00:44:25,600
Speaker 1: so a lot of people actually like stare at me

763
00:44:26,040 --> 00:44:28,400
Speaker 1: and then they're like, probably like where do I know

764
00:44:28,480 --> 00:44:31,719
Speaker 1: this girl crime? And then some people will come up

765
00:44:31,719 --> 00:44:33,360
Speaker 1: to me and be like, oh, did we go to

766
00:44:33,440 --> 00:44:36,319
Speaker 1: high school together and stuff? And I'm I'll be in

767
00:44:36,320 --> 00:44:38,719
Speaker 1: like Texas, so I'll be like, no, we didn't go

768
00:44:38,800 --> 00:44:42,680
Speaker 1: to high together, and then they'll be like where do

769
00:44:42,760 --> 00:44:45,840
Speaker 1: I know you from? And like what TV shows do

770
00:44:45,880 --> 00:44:50,080
Speaker 1: you watch? Then it will just kind of go like that.

771
00:44:50,960 --> 00:44:53,400
Speaker 1: I also feel like, for some reason, sometimes when people

772
00:44:53,480 --> 00:44:58,239
Speaker 1: approach people that they like want you to say like

773
00:44:58,280 --> 00:45:00,680
Speaker 1: they already know how they know you, but they don't

774
00:45:00,719 --> 00:45:02,239
Speaker 1: want to just come out and say it because they

775
00:45:02,280 --> 00:45:05,440
Speaker 1: were like, is she comfortable with, you know, being recognized

776
00:45:05,560 --> 00:45:08,719
Speaker 1: or whatever? Yeah, but I'm sure every I mean if

777
00:45:08,800 --> 00:45:11,400
Speaker 1: I saw you because we were we talked about it

778
00:45:11,920 --> 00:45:14,840
Speaker 1: the show a lot while I was on, so I

779
00:45:14,880 --> 00:45:19,680
Speaker 1: would be I texted Amanda Stands saying I saw her

780
00:45:19,680 --> 00:45:22,279
Speaker 1: in real life and we talked for a little bit

781
00:45:22,360 --> 00:45:24,640
Speaker 1: or something like that, and I was like, I'm so jealous,

782
00:45:25,400 --> 00:45:29,960
Speaker 1: so sweet. I know she's the best, um, but I

783
00:45:30,000 --> 00:45:32,719
Speaker 1: did see that you recently opened opened up a few

784
00:45:32,719 --> 00:45:35,080
Speaker 1: weeks ago about a guy like grabbing you at a

785
00:45:35,120 --> 00:45:39,200
Speaker 1: bar or something. Okay, so that was just like a

786
00:45:39,280 --> 00:45:43,320
Speaker 1: guy grabbed me by the waist, like non aggressive or anything.

787
00:45:43,480 --> 00:45:48,440
Speaker 1: It was just he grabbed me and a stranger. Yeah,

788
00:45:48,600 --> 00:45:52,520
Speaker 1: and just to move me because he needed to shoot

789
00:45:52,560 --> 00:45:56,600
Speaker 1: his pull ball. You know, guys do this and they

790
00:45:56,640 --> 00:45:59,319
Speaker 1: don't need to do this. We're when we're walking. Guys

791
00:45:59,320 --> 00:46:01,400
Speaker 1: will walk past in a crowd and put their hand

792
00:46:01,440 --> 00:46:03,520
Speaker 1: on your lower back around your Wait, there's no need.

793
00:46:03,719 --> 00:46:06,520
Speaker 1: That's that touching people? Can you stop touching strangers because

794
00:46:06,520 --> 00:46:09,280
Speaker 1: there's no need for that, or like above the waist

795
00:46:09,280 --> 00:46:12,520
Speaker 1: maybe if you need someone like on the shoulders. Excuse me,

796
00:46:13,600 --> 00:46:18,880
Speaker 1: right right. I know you know he's into it, but

797
00:46:18,880 --> 00:46:21,520
Speaker 1: I bet that's probably triggering for you. Yeah, it was

798
00:46:21,600 --> 00:46:25,600
Speaker 1: so triggering because that's how John grabbed me. It wasn't

799
00:46:25,640 --> 00:46:28,160
Speaker 1: that he grabbed me like, well, he did grab me

800
00:46:28,239 --> 00:46:30,680
Speaker 1: kind of aggressively, but he grabbed me by the waist.

801
00:46:31,880 --> 00:46:35,080
Speaker 1: And I did the same motion I did with this guy,

802
00:46:35,520 --> 00:46:38,319
Speaker 1: like looked right up at him and I was like,

803
00:46:39,120 --> 00:46:43,319
Speaker 1: don't ever grab a girl by the waist, and like

804
00:46:44,360 --> 00:46:46,960
Speaker 1: I was just happy. I didn't hit him in that

805
00:46:47,040 --> 00:46:52,080
Speaker 1: moment because just going through a trauma, you're in fider

806
00:46:52,160 --> 00:46:56,439
Speaker 1: flight mode. And I worked through that trigger a little bit,

807
00:46:56,680 --> 00:47:02,480
Speaker 1: but not enough, so on it it made me had

808
00:47:02,520 --> 00:47:07,040
Speaker 1: bad dreams about John again and just retriggered me again.

809
00:47:07,120 --> 00:47:10,600
Speaker 1: And now I have to switch up my therapy because

810
00:47:10,680 --> 00:47:13,320
Speaker 1: I was doing talk therapy and doing great with that.

811
00:47:14,239 --> 00:47:18,440
Speaker 1: But when you're retriggered, it's important to do UM therapy

812
00:47:18,520 --> 00:47:24,879
Speaker 1: like E MDR or exposure therapy or other extensive therapies.

813
00:47:25,600 --> 00:47:27,600
Speaker 1: What what is the difference what do they do in

814
00:47:27,640 --> 00:47:33,359
Speaker 1: those like UM E M d R is where with me,

815
00:47:33,520 --> 00:47:36,360
Speaker 1: I had little tappers that like buzzed in my hand

816
00:47:37,040 --> 00:47:39,960
Speaker 1: and I would go through the trauma. But at first,

817
00:47:40,239 --> 00:47:41,920
Speaker 1: when you're doing E M d R, you have to

818
00:47:42,239 --> 00:47:46,560
Speaker 1: establish like a safe place and so I my safe

819
00:47:46,560 --> 00:47:49,239
Speaker 1: place is this place in Montana where I used to

820
00:47:49,239 --> 00:47:52,359
Speaker 1: go fishing with my dad, and then I brought my

821
00:47:52,520 --> 00:47:56,280
Speaker 1: dog into that picture, so it's like just the ultimate

822
00:47:56,360 --> 00:48:00,000
Speaker 1: safe spot for me. And then UM, you go through

823
00:48:00,040 --> 00:48:04,399
Speaker 1: your trauma, and then when you start to feel like

824
00:48:04,480 --> 00:48:07,000
Speaker 1: an eight or nine or ten, you kind of have

825
00:48:07,080 --> 00:48:10,800
Speaker 1: to go back to your safe spot and then UM,

826
00:48:10,960 --> 00:48:13,879
Speaker 1: you just keep going through your trauma, and each time

827
00:48:13,960 --> 00:48:18,160
Speaker 1: you hope that it lessons and you kind of figure

828
00:48:18,160 --> 00:48:21,439
Speaker 1: out things that you kind of did right and your

829
00:48:21,440 --> 00:48:27,080
Speaker 1: trauma and realized that it couldn't go any different and

830
00:48:27,200 --> 00:48:32,200
Speaker 1: that you are here and you are safe, and it's

831
00:48:32,239 --> 00:48:35,880
Speaker 1: just really helpful because it rewires the brain with like

832
00:48:36,040 --> 00:48:39,680
Speaker 1: doing the buzzers and stuff everything at the same time.

833
00:48:40,000 --> 00:48:41,960
Speaker 1: Is that what they did with Owen on the episode

834
00:48:41,960 --> 00:48:43,880
Speaker 1: of Grace and not even remember when he went in

835
00:48:43,960 --> 00:48:47,840
Speaker 1: and everything on this podcast goes back to Grayson. I

836
00:48:47,920 --> 00:48:54,240
Speaker 1: love well because I just I feel like you're talking

837
00:48:54,280 --> 00:48:58,440
Speaker 1: about the trauma and that you're in like currently in therapy,

838
00:48:58,520 --> 00:49:00,640
Speaker 1: and that's something that's part of your life. Is really

839
00:49:00,680 --> 00:49:04,879
Speaker 1: brave because you know, that's it's real life, and it's

840
00:49:05,000 --> 00:49:07,680
Speaker 1: how you get through the days after going through what

841
00:49:07,760 --> 00:49:09,520
Speaker 1: you went through. So I really applaud you for like

842
00:49:09,840 --> 00:49:11,920
Speaker 1: being open and honest about that, because I think a

843
00:49:11,920 --> 00:49:16,440
Speaker 1: lot of people are scared to like not only do

844
00:49:16,480 --> 00:49:19,560
Speaker 1: that for themselves, but also talk about it so openly.

845
00:49:19,640 --> 00:49:21,920
Speaker 1: So I think that's really important that you're doing that. Well.

846
00:49:22,000 --> 00:49:24,400
Speaker 1: Thank you. I just hope it helps other people that

847
00:49:24,719 --> 00:49:28,799
Speaker 1: don't have the means that I had to, you know,

848
00:49:29,000 --> 00:49:32,719
Speaker 1: go and do that themselves. You know you mentioned your dad.

849
00:49:33,000 --> 00:49:37,640
Speaker 1: Is he still around? Yeah? Um, well, I love my dad.

850
00:49:37,719 --> 00:49:40,480
Speaker 1: We get lunch and dinner every now and then. She's

851
00:49:40,560 --> 00:49:42,960
Speaker 1: so proud of you. I mean I can't even imagine. Oh,

852
00:49:43,000 --> 00:49:47,399
Speaker 1: he's very proud. He's just like a very quiet man. Yeah.

853
00:49:47,520 --> 00:49:49,719
Speaker 1: If one of my daughters did what you did, oh man,

854
00:49:50,160 --> 00:49:55,880
Speaker 1: oh gosh. I have a hard time with that. Yeah,

855
00:49:55,920 --> 00:49:57,640
Speaker 1: I literally like, and I don't I'm not eve gonna

856
00:49:57,640 --> 00:49:59,319
Speaker 1: put it out there. I'm not gonna say what I think.

857
00:49:59,360 --> 00:50:04,200
Speaker 1: But if I were your position there, I not I

858
00:50:04,239 --> 00:50:07,279
Speaker 1: would not have been the same. Yeah, I like, don't think.

859
00:50:07,320 --> 00:50:10,279
Speaker 1: I'm like, I want, I actually want to be stronger

860
00:50:10,880 --> 00:50:14,719
Speaker 1: because I think in instances like that, I tend to

861
00:50:14,719 --> 00:50:16,840
Speaker 1: get like just scared. But would you have known that

862
00:50:16,840 --> 00:50:18,319
Speaker 1: you'd have been able to do that? If not for

863
00:50:18,360 --> 00:50:22,200
Speaker 1: that situation, I would have never Like, well, I believe

864
00:50:22,760 --> 00:50:24,879
Speaker 1: I believe in God. I believe that he was there

865
00:50:24,960 --> 00:50:26,920
Speaker 1: with me that day, and then it was kind of

866
00:50:26,960 --> 00:50:31,880
Speaker 1: like that's my path and that's what he put me

867
00:50:31,960 --> 00:50:34,920
Speaker 1: on this earth to do. And then now I'm on

868
00:50:34,960 --> 00:50:37,759
Speaker 1: this planet to talk to women and let them know

869
00:50:37,840 --> 00:50:41,919
Speaker 1: that there are psychopaths and there there's evil in this road.

870
00:50:42,640 --> 00:50:44,359
Speaker 1: I almost feel like I need to take some sort

871
00:50:44,360 --> 00:50:48,160
Speaker 1: of like self defense class because like, truly well, I

872
00:50:48,160 --> 00:50:51,319
Speaker 1: I also think like you're you, I feel like you

873
00:50:51,360 --> 00:50:53,560
Speaker 1: would be able to handle something like that. I don't

874
00:50:53,600 --> 00:50:57,000
Speaker 1: think you're I don't think her natural, Like I don't

875
00:50:57,040 --> 00:51:01,880
Speaker 1: think she ever thought that she'd be do it, like

876
00:51:01,920 --> 00:51:05,200
Speaker 1: the adrenaline and the just fight or flight, like she

877
00:51:05,320 --> 00:51:08,360
Speaker 1: knew that if it wasn't if it wasn't him, it

878
00:51:08,480 --> 00:51:12,799
Speaker 1: was her. So and I hated him, And if you

879
00:51:13,000 --> 00:51:17,920
Speaker 1: hated someone like you could probably kill them a lot

880
00:51:17,960 --> 00:51:22,320
Speaker 1: easier than if you loved someone at one point, you know. Yeah,

881
00:51:22,360 --> 00:51:24,960
Speaker 1: and like you said, he wasn't like he had any

882
00:51:25,040 --> 00:51:28,480
Speaker 1: redeeming qualities. Like watching the show and listening to the podcast,

883
00:51:28,560 --> 00:51:31,799
Speaker 1: I'm like, I was so frusher with your mom. I'm like,

884
00:51:31,840 --> 00:51:36,440
Speaker 1: what is she doing? There was a general feeling from

885
00:51:36,440 --> 00:51:39,719
Speaker 1: everyone who watched and listen, But I get it. I

886
00:51:39,800 --> 00:51:43,600
Speaker 1: truly do her mom. Yeah, I really do. Like I

887
00:51:43,640 --> 00:51:47,319
Speaker 1: sympathized with her her. I say her character was real

888
00:51:47,480 --> 00:51:52,200
Speaker 1: human so much because I have I haven't been there,

889
00:51:52,200 --> 00:51:56,440
Speaker 1: but I think we've all been there. I'm extremely close

890
00:51:56,520 --> 00:51:59,759
Speaker 1: with her. Um I would be lying if I said

891
00:51:59,800 --> 00:52:05,440
Speaker 1: I forgive her for everything that happened. But you know,

892
00:52:05,560 --> 00:52:11,279
Speaker 1: there's no time limit on forgiveness, and every day I'm

893
00:52:11,320 --> 00:52:14,200
Speaker 1: working on my relationship with her, So that's good enough

894
00:52:14,239 --> 00:52:17,920
Speaker 1: for me at this moment. Yeah. Wow, I love how

895
00:52:17,960 --> 00:52:21,680
Speaker 1: honest you are. So real. Um, thank you so much

896
00:52:21,719 --> 00:52:25,200
Speaker 1: for coming on. We so appreciate. Thank you so much.

897
00:52:25,320 --> 00:52:29,240
Speaker 1: We thank you guys so much for having me yea fascinating. Yeah,

898
00:52:29,520 --> 00:52:33,560
Speaker 1: and for the good tips. Well thanks. So, as we mentioned,

899
00:52:33,680 --> 00:52:36,200
Speaker 1: Beca and I went out recently and we imbibed a

900
00:52:36,200 --> 00:52:39,400
Speaker 1: little bit and you actually took you took some cheers.

901
00:52:39,840 --> 00:52:43,080
Speaker 1: So I got home. I've noticed, like, what if I

902
00:52:43,120 --> 00:52:45,920
Speaker 1: go out and I drink, whether it's two drinks or

903
00:52:46,800 --> 00:52:51,279
Speaker 1: an excessive amount, I feel horrible the next day and

904
00:52:51,320 --> 00:52:53,160
Speaker 1: I can feel it coming along the night before, Like

905
00:52:53,200 --> 00:52:55,680
Speaker 1: as I'm getting into bed, I'm like, oh no, I

906
00:52:55,680 --> 00:52:59,640
Speaker 1: can already feel it going south. Um. So I had

907
00:52:59,680 --> 00:53:03,319
Speaker 1: the Years capsules in my backpack from earlier that day,

908
00:53:03,600 --> 00:53:06,600
Speaker 1: and I took them out and took two of them

909
00:53:06,719 --> 00:53:10,920
Speaker 1: before I went to bed. I woke up feeling like

910
00:53:10,960 --> 00:53:13,600
Speaker 1: I didn't even drink. Well, I wish I would have

911
00:53:13,640 --> 00:53:16,680
Speaker 1: done that because I woke up feeling like h e

912
00:53:16,800 --> 00:53:20,560
Speaker 1: double hockey sticks the next day. So I am going

913
00:53:20,600 --> 00:53:22,239
Speaker 1: to take your suggestion and I'm going to take some

914
00:53:22,280 --> 00:53:25,680
Speaker 1: of those next time I'm drinking. I it was one

915
00:53:25,719 --> 00:53:28,200
Speaker 1: of those satisfying moments where I was like, I'm going

916
00:53:28,280 --> 00:53:30,920
Speaker 1: to take these and see how it works. And it

917
00:53:31,000 --> 00:53:32,840
Speaker 1: was a game changer. And now you want to spread

918
00:53:32,840 --> 00:53:36,000
Speaker 1: the words. So like an ant acid for alcohol, cheers

919
00:53:36,040 --> 00:53:39,600
Speaker 1: after alcohol aid neutralizes alcohols negative effects so that you

920
00:53:39,640 --> 00:53:42,960
Speaker 1: can wake up feeling great, no more headaches, nausea, or

921
00:53:43,000 --> 00:53:46,560
Speaker 1: sluggishness the next day. And it's healthy for your liver too. Yeah.

922
00:53:46,560 --> 00:53:49,319
Speaker 1: So to use Cheers, you simply take two to four

923
00:53:49,320 --> 00:53:53,319
Speaker 1: capsules after your last alcoholic beverage. I took two, but

924
00:53:53,560 --> 00:53:56,680
Speaker 1: I'm glad to know that you can take up four. Yeah,

925
00:53:56,760 --> 00:53:59,359
Speaker 1: depending on how m you drink. If you don't wake

926
00:53:59,440 --> 00:54:02,200
Speaker 1: up feeling its fifty better the next day, you'll get

927
00:54:02,239 --> 00:54:05,319
Speaker 1: your money back guaranteed. Let me just tell you I

928
00:54:05,440 --> 00:54:08,319
Speaker 1: was more than fift the next day. Yeah. I am

929
00:54:08,360 --> 00:54:12,080
Speaker 1: like all about this. They have never found something that

930
00:54:12,760 --> 00:54:16,040
Speaker 1: um works like this for like to help with the

931
00:54:16,080 --> 00:54:18,359
Speaker 1: after effects of drinking alcohol. I know. I mean, I've

932
00:54:18,400 --> 00:54:20,359
Speaker 1: heard every remedy under the sun, and none of them works.

933
00:54:20,360 --> 00:54:22,840
Speaker 1: So I'm excited to try these. So to order, visit

934
00:54:23,160 --> 00:54:27,040
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935
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936
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938
00:54:37,680 --> 00:54:40,920
Speaker 1: It's the best thing to happen to alcohol since alcohol.

939
00:54:41,120 --> 00:54:42,600
Speaker 1: And what's the website again? I missed it when you

940
00:54:42,640 --> 00:54:45,400
Speaker 1: said it the other time. It's Cheers Health dot com

941
00:54:45,560 --> 00:54:49,480
Speaker 1: and use promo code Becca. All right, let's get Melissa

942
00:54:49,520 --> 00:54:53,160
Speaker 1: on the line. Where's Melissa? We all read an email here.

943
00:54:54,000 --> 00:54:56,000
Speaker 1: Do we have a plan or does she write out

944
00:54:56,000 --> 00:54:58,160
Speaker 1: a plan for us? I think she has a plan, Melissa,

945
00:55:00,280 --> 00:55:04,440
Speaker 1: I'm Melissa. Okay, thank you guys so much for doing this.

946
00:55:04,719 --> 00:55:06,520
Speaker 1: Oh my gosh, are you kidding? This is the most

947
00:55:06,560 --> 00:55:08,680
Speaker 1: exciting thing we've done in a long time. There's a

948
00:55:08,719 --> 00:55:11,280
Speaker 1: meeting at noons. We should get to this fairly quickly.

949
00:55:11,280 --> 00:55:12,640
Speaker 1: I don't want to keep her from her day, but

950
00:55:12,719 --> 00:55:15,680
Speaker 1: let me read your email here, She writes, I absolutely

951
00:55:15,680 --> 00:55:18,239
Speaker 1: love you guys. My younger sister, Kaylee has always loved

952
00:55:18,280 --> 00:55:20,759
Speaker 1: Becca and Tanya and encouraged me to listen to the podcast.

953
00:55:21,200 --> 00:55:23,360
Speaker 1: I wasn't planning to have kids, but I just found

954
00:55:23,360 --> 00:55:26,080
Speaker 1: out I'm pregnant and my sister is going to be

955
00:55:26,160 --> 00:55:29,400
Speaker 1: so excited and completely shocked. I was hoping that you

956
00:55:29,440 --> 00:55:31,680
Speaker 1: could all help me call Kaylee to tell her she's

957
00:55:31,680 --> 00:55:34,719
Speaker 1: a Becca and I'm one thousand percent Tanya. Well, let's

958
00:55:34,719 --> 00:55:36,840
Speaker 1: test that if you went to a restaurant, would you

959
00:55:36,880 --> 00:55:38,759
Speaker 1: ever sit on the same side of the table as

960
00:55:38,760 --> 00:55:40,920
Speaker 1: the one other person you're going out to dinner with?

961
00:55:41,719 --> 00:55:45,280
Speaker 1: Oh my gosh, I started to do that all the times,

962
00:55:46,120 --> 00:55:48,760
Speaker 1: way deep into the team tom Girl in my own heart.

963
00:55:49,480 --> 00:55:51,239
Speaker 1: I've been married for eight years. My younger sister and

964
00:55:51,239 --> 00:55:53,840
Speaker 1: older brother already have kids, so they'll be still thrilled.

965
00:55:53,920 --> 00:55:58,319
Speaker 1: Was that weird when you're younger sister had kids before you, Yes,

966
00:55:59,080 --> 00:56:01,480
Speaker 1: so you were like just throughout your life, you were

967
00:56:01,640 --> 00:56:04,000
Speaker 1: always kind of like, I don't want to have kids,

968
00:56:04,080 --> 00:56:08,120
Speaker 1: or you were like, oh, if it happens, it happens. Whatever. Um.

969
00:56:08,160 --> 00:56:10,840
Speaker 1: I did not really, Um, I didn't really want to

970
00:56:10,840 --> 00:56:13,480
Speaker 1: have kids. My husband has always wanted to have kids,

971
00:56:13,480 --> 00:56:16,000
Speaker 1: so I think once we got married, I had to

972
00:56:16,040 --> 00:56:19,560
Speaker 1: shift my mindset a little bit. But um, yeah, this

973
00:56:19,640 --> 00:56:21,760
Speaker 1: is a this was not planned. This is a big shock.

974
00:56:22,760 --> 00:56:25,200
Speaker 1: I'm not quite ready, but here we go. I don't

975
00:56:25,239 --> 00:56:28,440
Speaker 1: think anyone's ever I've always heard this, but everyone says

976
00:56:29,160 --> 00:56:32,359
Speaker 1: you're just never ready for what you take on as

977
00:56:32,360 --> 00:56:34,160
Speaker 1: a parent. And Mark is the only one in here

978
00:56:34,200 --> 00:56:37,319
Speaker 1: who can really vouch for that. But you're just doing

979
00:56:37,320 --> 00:56:40,600
Speaker 1: the best you can. Every day everything's new. Um, what

980
00:56:40,680 --> 00:56:44,440
Speaker 1: did you want them to pretend to be? So this

981
00:56:44,600 --> 00:56:48,000
Speaker 1: is actually true? I'm interviewing his volunteer to Holden's Home

982
00:56:48,040 --> 00:56:51,160
Speaker 1: and my sister knows that, and so I was thinking, um,

983
00:56:51,360 --> 00:56:54,880
Speaker 1: that you guys could kind of pretend to be somebody

984
00:56:55,160 --> 00:56:58,400
Speaker 1: calling it the character reference. So they're from like personnel

985
00:56:58,640 --> 00:57:01,759
Speaker 1: at the what is it? It's a children's home, a

986
00:57:01,880 --> 00:57:05,080
Speaker 1: children's home. Yeah, so you can meet the personnel director

987
00:57:05,080 --> 00:57:06,959
Speaker 1: of the children's home and you're calling, I feel dumb.

988
00:57:07,640 --> 00:57:12,880
Speaker 1: Is a children's home? What exactly is that? Um? So

989
00:57:13,000 --> 00:57:17,360
Speaker 1: this one is actually for kids who's been abused, so

990
00:57:17,480 --> 00:57:20,040
Speaker 1: they it is kind of a halfway home before they

991
00:57:20,080 --> 00:57:22,560
Speaker 1: decide where they'll go live and still going to foster here.

992
00:57:22,760 --> 00:57:25,600
Speaker 1: My dad ran one of these places in Neil's Villa, Wisconsin.

993
00:57:26,160 --> 00:57:29,320
Speaker 1: Sounds just like what you're describing. Yeah, so you're you're

994
00:57:29,360 --> 00:57:34,000
Speaker 1: interviewing to work there here, Yeah, just do here. Yeah,

995
00:57:34,680 --> 00:57:36,919
Speaker 1: you're a great person. You are going to be such

996
00:57:36,960 --> 00:57:40,160
Speaker 1: an amazing mom. I feel bad pretending to be there.

997
00:57:41,720 --> 00:57:45,720
Speaker 1: So how how do you want to transh we could

998
00:57:45,720 --> 00:57:49,840
Speaker 1: be from ZIP recruiter and say that your sister Melissa

999
00:57:50,360 --> 00:57:52,360
Speaker 1: is applying for a job. That's the smartest way to

1000
00:57:52,440 --> 00:57:54,960
Speaker 1: hire h Right. I just feel bad saying that we're

1001
00:57:55,000 --> 00:57:57,720
Speaker 1: front you know, recruiter and she's a fan of the podcast.

1002
00:57:57,760 --> 00:58:00,720
Speaker 1: She's going to know and gonna have to change your

1003
00:58:00,760 --> 00:58:04,600
Speaker 1: voice too. It's always a giveaway. Okay, So why don't

1004
00:58:04,640 --> 00:58:06,680
Speaker 1: you just say hi there, I'm calling to chuck up

1005
00:58:06,760 --> 00:58:09,120
Speaker 1: on Melissa's references. You don't have to get into the

1006
00:58:09,160 --> 00:58:12,160
Speaker 1: children something, Okay, No, yeah, saying she interviewed for she

1007
00:58:12,360 --> 00:58:17,880
Speaker 1: is looking into position to volunteer volunteer position? Our names?

1008
00:58:17,880 --> 00:58:21,240
Speaker 1: What are our names? Um? I'll be Tiffany, and you

1009
00:58:21,280 --> 00:58:23,320
Speaker 1: can be You're always Tiffany because you got a tea.

1010
00:58:23,640 --> 00:58:28,400
Speaker 1: But everyone knows who should be. He's a fan Taylor Taylor. Right,

1011
00:58:28,440 --> 00:58:38,440
Speaker 1: who do you Selena? Taylor Taylor? And um Katherine okay,

1012
00:58:38,560 --> 00:58:44,320
Speaker 1: Katherine Avery All right eastern dial if you don't mind. Okay,

1013
00:58:45,160 --> 00:58:47,800
Speaker 1: who was I again? You're going to be a Taylor Taylor.

1014
00:58:48,200 --> 00:58:51,680
Speaker 1: You're calling to check up on Melissa's references, and I'm

1015
00:58:51,920 --> 00:58:54,720
Speaker 1: say I have my my coworker here. What's your voice

1016
00:58:54,720 --> 00:59:05,720
Speaker 1: going to be's gonna be down? Like? Deep? Hello? Is

1017
00:59:05,720 --> 00:59:13,520
Speaker 1: this Kaylee? Are you there? Hi? You? Oh? I'm sorry, Hi.

1018
00:59:13,760 --> 00:59:18,240
Speaker 1: We were calling. Um, we had a job application from

1019
00:59:18,280 --> 00:59:20,760
Speaker 1: your sister, Melissa, and you were listed as a reference,

1020
00:59:21,880 --> 00:59:24,320
Speaker 1: and we were calling to just get some information about her.

1021
00:59:24,400 --> 00:59:26,480
Speaker 1: What do you think about her as a person? If

1022
00:59:26,480 --> 00:59:30,040
Speaker 1: you think she would be great for our company? Oh?

1023
00:59:30,080 --> 00:59:35,000
Speaker 1: My god, Um, Melissa is incredible. She's incredibly um dependable,

1024
00:59:35,920 --> 00:59:39,840
Speaker 1: I know that she. Um is just dedicated to her

1025
00:59:39,840 --> 00:59:42,440
Speaker 1: work and when she sets her mind to something, she

1026
00:59:42,800 --> 00:59:47,360
Speaker 1: always follows through. Um. She keeps my daughter actually pretty regularly.

1027
00:59:48,040 --> 00:59:53,720
Speaker 1: And Um, she's just really trustworthy. Oh that's amazing. Do

1028
00:59:53,800 --> 00:59:56,400
Speaker 1: you think she would be a great mom? Like? Do

1029
00:59:56,440 --> 00:59:58,280
Speaker 1: you think she's good with kids? Do you do you

1030
00:59:58,280 --> 01:00:02,000
Speaker 1: trust her at lutely? After my daughter actually chooses her

1031
01:00:02,040 --> 01:00:07,960
Speaker 1: over me sometime? Wonder? Yes? Um? And my daughter is

1032
01:00:08,080 --> 01:00:10,880
Speaker 1: very very shy and doesn't like many people. And Melissa

1033
01:00:11,040 --> 01:00:14,600
Speaker 1: is like one of maybe two or three people that

1034
01:00:14,760 --> 01:00:18,960
Speaker 1: she just loves. Has Has Melissa been taking care of

1035
01:00:19,000 --> 01:00:23,240
Speaker 1: your daughter since she was a baby. Yes? Um, so

1036
01:00:23,360 --> 01:00:26,680
Speaker 1: we live really far apart. Melissa would drive two and

1037
01:00:26,680 --> 01:00:30,640
Speaker 1: a half hours to come keep her when she was newborn.

1038
01:00:30,720 --> 01:00:34,400
Speaker 1: She kept her a couple of times, and she she

1039
01:00:34,600 --> 01:00:38,440
Speaker 1: drives all that way pretty regularly just to keep Avery

1040
01:00:38,520 --> 01:00:41,040
Speaker 1: for a little bit. That is so wonderful. Do you

1041
01:00:41,080 --> 01:00:45,200
Speaker 1: know what she listens to when she's driving? I don't.

1042
01:00:45,240 --> 01:00:49,480
Speaker 1: I don't. Um. I know she really loved podcasts. She

1043
01:00:49,600 --> 01:00:51,680
Speaker 1: listens to a lot of podcasts, but I'm not sure

1044
01:00:51,720 --> 01:00:56,520
Speaker 1: what exactly are there. Are there any concerning podcasts? Are

1045
01:00:56,520 --> 01:01:00,840
Speaker 1: they clean? What do they? You know? Always clean? Yes? Um,

1046
01:01:00,920 --> 01:01:05,840
Speaker 1: she really listens to educational podcast Oh okay, could you

1047
01:01:05,840 --> 01:01:07,760
Speaker 1: have any, like, off the top of your head who

1048
01:01:07,840 --> 01:01:09,720
Speaker 1: she listens to, just so we can kind of get

1049
01:01:09,720 --> 01:01:13,480
Speaker 1: a background. Um. To be honest, I don't know. I

1050
01:01:13,560 --> 01:01:17,320
Speaker 1: just know she's always talking about listening to podcasts, but

1051
01:01:17,360 --> 01:01:20,600
Speaker 1: I don't know exactly which ones. I'm sorry, She's always

1052
01:01:20,600 --> 01:01:23,479
Speaker 1: trying to get me to listen to some motivational ones

1053
01:01:23,600 --> 01:01:26,840
Speaker 1: and things like that. I just never really followed through

1054
01:01:26,880 --> 01:01:32,200
Speaker 1: and listen to those. Well, Kaylee, I know it's so bad.

1055
01:01:34,360 --> 01:01:36,680
Speaker 1: My name is actually Tanya and this is Becky here

1056
01:01:40,600 --> 01:01:46,040
Speaker 1: at all? Can I say that the only podcast you

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01:01:46,160 --> 01:01:49,120
Speaker 1: listen to, Well, we're really not holling. Ras is not

1058
01:01:49,200 --> 01:01:53,360
Speaker 1: going to kill her? Well, don't kill her because we

1059
01:01:53,520 --> 01:01:57,040
Speaker 1: have some really exciting news. Can we get some sound

1060
01:01:57,040 --> 01:02:06,320
Speaker 1: effects every here? Mark, you are going to be Oh

1061
01:02:06,360 --> 01:02:10,080
Speaker 1: my blacks want to cry? Melissa? Is Melissa on the

1062
01:02:10,120 --> 01:02:15,440
Speaker 1: line stiff, I'm here? You did you really not tell me?

1063
01:02:16,680 --> 01:02:20,400
Speaker 1: I really did not. I was waiting for this. Okay, listen.

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01:02:20,880 --> 01:02:24,080
Speaker 1: She has said from the beginning. If I ever tell

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01:02:24,120 --> 01:02:26,040
Speaker 1: you I'm gonna be pregnant, it's going to be through

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01:02:26,720 --> 01:02:31,480
Speaker 1: through y'all. So here we go. I'm actually shocked that

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01:02:31,560 --> 01:02:34,040
Speaker 1: you didn't recognize that it was us, like you were

1068
01:02:34,080 --> 01:02:37,560
Speaker 1: like really, you were really selling it, like really like

1069
01:02:37,640 --> 01:02:40,760
Speaker 1: she was did no voice? Can we hear some more

1070
01:02:40,800 --> 01:02:44,440
Speaker 1: of that voice you were doing? Uh? So that's really great.

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01:02:47,960 --> 01:02:51,240
Speaker 1: I was so nervous. Oh my god, this is crazy, Melissa.

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Speaker 1: Are you serious? Yeah? How far long are you? Oh

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01:02:55,320 --> 01:03:01,000
Speaker 1: my gosh, baby's gonna have a cousin. So great, this

1074
01:03:01,240 --> 01:03:04,320
Speaker 1: is so funny. You were so nervous for this character

1075
01:03:04,400 --> 01:03:08,960
Speaker 1: reference because you like, yeah, you talked it up so much.

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01:03:10,840 --> 01:03:13,400
Speaker 1: I mean, you have you have a great um, like

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01:03:13,480 --> 01:03:16,120
Speaker 1: you're a great reference to have on the I feel

1078
01:03:16,120 --> 01:03:18,439
Speaker 1: like Mark is like welling up a little bit. Yeah,

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01:03:18,440 --> 01:03:20,320
Speaker 1: it's a little bit. You couldn't have a cause it

1080
01:03:20,360 --> 01:03:22,360
Speaker 1: is very sweet. Yeah, that does get sweet. But also

1081
01:03:22,400 --> 01:03:24,760
Speaker 1: I was laughing so hard to voice. There's some residual

1082
01:03:24,800 --> 01:03:29,240
Speaker 1: tears earlier. Wait, Melissa, how far? How far along are you?

1083
01:03:29,680 --> 01:03:35,040
Speaker 1: Almost three months? Bliss? Didn't they are you your three months?

1084
01:03:36,160 --> 01:03:42,800
Speaker 1: I thought it was six weeks? I was holding out

1085
01:03:45,440 --> 01:03:50,960
Speaker 1: podcast for the podcast. Well, congratulations you guys, We love you.

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01:03:51,000 --> 01:03:54,200
Speaker 1: Thank you so much for listening, and congratulations on being

1087
01:03:54,320 --> 01:03:59,400
Speaker 1: a new mom and aunt and thank you involved. Yeah,

1088
01:03:59,520 --> 01:04:02,720
Speaker 1: if you have a girl, Tanya is a great name.

1089
01:04:02,840 --> 01:04:06,520
Speaker 1: Becca is a great name. Boy you have Beckham Beckham

1090
01:04:07,120 --> 01:04:16,919
Speaker 1: or Tanner. I like it. Thank you guys so much

1091
01:04:17,000 --> 01:04:19,960
Speaker 1: for doing this week. We love y'all. Oh, we love y'all.

1092
01:04:20,000 --> 01:04:26,439
Speaker 1: Thank you so much. Congratulations again, bye guy bye. Thank

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01:04:26,440 --> 01:04:29,000
Speaker 1: God Forbecca and that because I literally got one word

1094
01:04:29,040 --> 01:04:32,000
Speaker 1: out and I could not control my laughter. I'm sure

1095
01:04:32,040 --> 01:04:35,360
Speaker 1: I had filmed you because the way your lips lips

1096
01:04:35,360 --> 01:04:38,920
Speaker 1: are hilarious. It's kind of an Owen Wilson voice. You're doing.

1097
01:04:41,000 --> 01:04:44,680
Speaker 1: It's probably a man or a woman. I literally what

1098
01:04:44,720 --> 01:04:46,600
Speaker 1: did I say? I said one word? Said one word?

1099
01:04:46,640 --> 01:04:48,600
Speaker 1: You said hello? And then she's like, are you still there?

1100
01:04:48,720 --> 01:04:51,840
Speaker 1: Erica was on the floor. Can you can you do

1101
01:04:51,880 --> 01:04:56,960
Speaker 1: the voice again? Yeah? I was like, why is this? Kyle?

1102
01:04:57,160 --> 01:05:00,880
Speaker 1: Why is this? Why is this? Kaylee? At the boys?

1103
01:05:01,720 --> 01:05:07,800
Speaker 1: Please look at her? It's like a duck? Why do

1104
01:05:07,880 --> 01:05:11,320
Speaker 1: I need to do that with my list? Like me

1105
01:05:12,880 --> 01:05:15,800
Speaker 1: really a method actor. I felt like she was a

1106
01:05:15,840 --> 01:05:19,240
Speaker 1: little upset that she didn't know there was some genuine

1107
01:05:19,320 --> 01:05:21,680
Speaker 1: annoyance there that you didn't already know. But isn't that

1108
01:05:21,760 --> 01:05:23,720
Speaker 1: the grace, Like you're just a wait three months, right,

1109
01:05:24,200 --> 01:05:25,680
Speaker 1: that's what they say, But it's your sister, You're says

1110
01:05:25,800 --> 01:05:28,040
Speaker 1: you tell immediately your mommy told me. I also think

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01:05:28,080 --> 01:05:32,080
Speaker 1: normally she probably was like, without even realizing it, upset

1112
01:05:32,120 --> 01:05:34,600
Speaker 1: that she hadn't figured, you know, like because a lot

1113
01:05:34,600 --> 01:05:36,920
Speaker 1: of times, you know, you're like are you pregnant? You know,

1114
01:05:37,360 --> 01:05:39,240
Speaker 1: and she's probably like, why didn't I know this? But

1115
01:05:39,440 --> 01:05:41,440
Speaker 1: also she said she never wanted kids, so she probably

1116
01:05:41,440 --> 01:05:46,480
Speaker 1: didn't even think like it was a thing. It's so exciting, Tany.

1117
01:05:46,480 --> 01:05:48,480
Speaker 1: You wanted to address this other email we got from Susan,

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01:05:49,120 --> 01:05:51,760
Speaker 1: I would also like to address it. Yeah, why why

1119
01:05:51,840 --> 01:05:55,960
Speaker 1: why is every podcast about setting Tanya up? I need

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01:05:56,000 --> 01:05:59,240
Speaker 1: you to read it like a little bit more like okay, sure?

1121
01:05:59,760 --> 01:06:03,760
Speaker 1: Why why why is every podcast about setting Tanya up?

1122
01:06:04,280 --> 01:06:07,040
Speaker 1: Trust me when I say her aggressive approach for a

1123
01:06:07,120 --> 01:06:11,160
Speaker 1: husband is scaring them off. She needs to relax. I

1124
01:06:11,240 --> 01:06:14,840
Speaker 1: just listen to the podcast once again about Tanya's search

1125
01:06:14,920 --> 01:06:19,520
Speaker 1: from Ann getting old new topic plays. Currently listening to

1126
01:06:19,520 --> 01:06:23,440
Speaker 1: a single shamming episode leaving the room for him, Okay,

1127
01:06:23,640 --> 01:06:26,960
Speaker 1: leaving room, leaving room for him like in your bed. Okay.

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01:06:27,080 --> 01:06:29,280
Speaker 1: If these men listen to your podcasts, they will think

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01:06:29,280 --> 01:06:36,120
Speaker 1: you're crazy. Sorry, but great entertainment. That's nice. I feel

1130
01:06:36,120 --> 01:06:38,400
Speaker 1: like this is one of the like you remember that

1131
01:06:38,480 --> 01:06:40,680
Speaker 1: message I got from that person that d M that

1132
01:06:40,760 --> 01:06:45,760
Speaker 1: was just like so rude. It could be her, really,

1133
01:06:46,000 --> 01:06:49,200
Speaker 1: I don't know, like that, it's like she's like bashing you.

1134
01:06:49,320 --> 01:06:51,440
Speaker 1: And then at the it's like, but great entertainment, Like

1135
01:06:51,440 --> 01:06:55,560
Speaker 1: I love listening to it, but you're totally scaring off

1136
01:06:55,640 --> 01:06:58,080
Speaker 1: your future has so is that ever concerned of yours

1137
01:06:58,120 --> 01:07:02,560
Speaker 1: that you're scaring off your future husband. Yes, Susan, I

1138
01:07:02,680 --> 01:07:05,880
Speaker 1: say what I say when I want to say it

1139
01:07:06,120 --> 01:07:09,200
Speaker 1: how I want to say it, because I am a

1140
01:07:09,200 --> 01:07:11,200
Speaker 1: modern woman and I do what I want, and I

1141
01:07:11,240 --> 01:07:18,640
Speaker 1: don't do this for anybody else's acceptance or appreciation or entertainment.

1142
01:07:18,840 --> 01:07:21,480
Speaker 1: I am just living my life and this is how

1143
01:07:21,520 --> 01:07:25,760
Speaker 1: I choose to live it. I um, I hope or

1144
01:07:25,760 --> 01:07:29,840
Speaker 1: not hope. I genuinely seek out doing life with a partner,

1145
01:07:30,440 --> 01:07:33,960
Speaker 1: and it is a big topic of my life, in

1146
01:07:34,000 --> 01:07:36,320
Speaker 1: my every day and I see no fault of that.

1147
01:07:36,360 --> 01:07:39,240
Speaker 1: If I were like aggressively trying to get my dream job,

1148
01:07:39,320 --> 01:07:42,480
Speaker 1: would you be judging me as hard? Probably not, just

1149
01:07:42,560 --> 01:07:44,280
Speaker 1: because you know what I mean. Like, it's such a

1150
01:07:44,280 --> 01:07:46,840
Speaker 1: double standard, and I'm here to say And actually, for

1151
01:07:46,880 --> 01:07:50,080
Speaker 1: every one email like this, I get fifteen others of

1152
01:07:50,120 --> 01:07:52,440
Speaker 1: girls being like, I'm in the same boat as you.

1153
01:07:52,520 --> 01:07:54,320
Speaker 1: I've done the same thing. So I say things that

1154
01:07:54,360 --> 01:07:57,240
Speaker 1: are embarrassing for people to admit, and I'll just admit

1155
01:07:57,280 --> 01:07:59,880
Speaker 1: them because I don't care. Also, I would like to say,

1156
01:08:00,120 --> 01:08:03,280
Speaker 1: because I haven't talked about my dating life, I feel

1157
01:08:03,280 --> 01:08:05,840
Speaker 1: like you've had to kind of step up in the

1158
01:08:05,920 --> 01:08:08,720
Speaker 1: sense because people want to know about that, and you've

1159
01:08:08,760 --> 01:08:11,320
Speaker 1: had to kind of take that on and we focus

1160
01:08:11,360 --> 01:08:14,040
Speaker 1: more on yours because I'm not talking about mine. So

1161
01:08:14,080 --> 01:08:16,519
Speaker 1: I think that's also a big part of why it

1162
01:08:16,560 --> 01:08:20,120
Speaker 1: feels heavy, in that it's always about your dating life

1163
01:08:20,160 --> 01:08:21,479
Speaker 1: and we don't talk about I think if I was

1164
01:08:21,479 --> 01:08:23,679
Speaker 1: talking about mine, it would it wouldn't feels so much

1165
01:08:23,720 --> 01:08:28,360
Speaker 1: like Yeah, but I appreciate you being open and honest

1166
01:08:28,439 --> 01:08:30,760
Speaker 1: and real about what's going on in your life because

1167
01:08:30,800 --> 01:08:33,000
Speaker 1: I think a lot of people who are single and

1168
01:08:33,080 --> 01:08:37,599
Speaker 1: going through that desire to have a partner, and like

1169
01:08:37,720 --> 01:08:39,920
Speaker 1: waiting on the right person or waiting for the right

1170
01:08:39,960 --> 01:08:42,479
Speaker 1: timing really relates to what you're talking about. So, Susan,

1171
01:08:43,040 --> 01:08:45,720
Speaker 1: I hope that you're happy and you're if you're in

1172
01:08:45,720 --> 01:08:50,599
Speaker 1: a relationship and you've found your person, and if not,

1173
01:08:51,320 --> 01:08:55,640
Speaker 1: I hope that you are more open about seeking that

1174
01:08:55,720 --> 01:08:58,160
Speaker 1: out and finding someone if that's what you desire, and

1175
01:08:58,280 --> 01:09:02,040
Speaker 1: maybe try and good night to your protection. But it's

1176
01:09:02,040 --> 01:09:04,440
Speaker 1: like it's things like that, like, yes, that's obviously embarrassing

1177
01:09:04,439 --> 01:09:05,760
Speaker 1: to admit, do you know what I mean? Like it

1178
01:09:05,760 --> 01:09:08,800
Speaker 1: obviously sounds crazy to other people. I can't tell you

1179
01:09:08,840 --> 01:09:12,040
Speaker 1: how many people message me privately in my d M s,

1180
01:09:12,120 --> 01:09:14,719
Speaker 1: which is fine, saying that they have done the exact

1181
01:09:14,800 --> 01:09:17,720
Speaker 1: same thing, and I'm like, that's the thing. Like, I'm like,

1182
01:09:17,800 --> 01:09:19,840
Speaker 1: I know a lot of people are doing these weird

1183
01:09:20,680 --> 01:09:22,599
Speaker 1: things because I'm not like, do you know what I mean?

1184
01:09:22,680 --> 01:09:25,040
Speaker 1: But they just talk about it. A number of how

1185
01:09:25,040 --> 01:09:27,639
Speaker 1: many people said that they do that as well? At

1186
01:09:27,720 --> 01:09:33,240
Speaker 1: least thirty yes, with everything, all the embarrassing things I say,

1187
01:09:33,320 --> 01:09:36,080
Speaker 1: I get so many d ms like I lit this

1188
01:09:36,200 --> 01:09:38,519
Speaker 1: candle the other day, that's like bringing love into my life.

1189
01:09:38,520 --> 01:09:40,720
Speaker 1: A woman. Two girls message me saying they lit this

1190
01:09:40,760 --> 01:09:43,040
Speaker 1: exact same candle and after the candle burned all the

1191
01:09:43,040 --> 01:09:47,400
Speaker 1: way down, they found their husbands every day in May.

1192
01:09:48,800 --> 01:09:50,439
Speaker 1: And it came to me from the Jonas brothers. So

1193
01:09:50,439 --> 01:09:53,479
Speaker 1: I feel like it's definitely holy. It's definitely something's going

1194
01:09:53,520 --> 01:09:58,840
Speaker 1: on there. It's doing in May so far, so far?

1195
01:09:59,479 --> 01:10:05,160
Speaker 1: Hey are you in l A? Are you? Hey? Um?

1196
01:10:05,400 --> 01:10:08,280
Speaker 1: Still crickets? That thing has really sprung to my attention,

1197
01:10:08,320 --> 01:10:11,439
Speaker 1: and you're aware of you may have met somebody that

1198
01:10:11,479 --> 01:10:13,200
Speaker 1: you didn't give a second thought too, but that will

1199
01:10:13,240 --> 01:10:14,960
Speaker 1: turn out to be the one. But she did say

1200
01:10:15,000 --> 01:10:19,439
Speaker 1: would be like apparent like they would like, Oh yeah,

1201
01:10:19,560 --> 01:10:23,559
Speaker 1: kind of one of those moments. So any upcoming guest

1202
01:10:23,640 --> 01:10:27,320
Speaker 1: in the studio, What do we have next week? Jessica Alba,

1203
01:10:27,320 --> 01:10:30,719
Speaker 1: I don't see you too necessarily, also taken cash Jamie

1204
01:10:30,720 --> 01:10:34,719
Speaker 1: Fox was supposed to come by. He's gonna he's taken. Yeah,

1205
01:10:35,479 --> 01:10:38,519
Speaker 1: nobody leaps to mind. All right, maybe it'll be a

1206
01:10:38,760 --> 01:10:42,800
Speaker 1: last minute edition and it's coming in. Oh. She does

1207
01:10:42,840 --> 01:10:45,439
Speaker 1: say Diplo has great hands. That's all I remember you

1208
01:10:45,479 --> 01:10:50,080
Speaker 1: ever saying about diplow he has great hands, family compliment.

1209
01:10:50,160 --> 01:10:52,120
Speaker 1: I like, weirdly went and looked at his hands and

1210
01:10:52,680 --> 01:10:57,840
Speaker 1: good right, they're nice. Um, all right, that was I

1211
01:10:57,840 --> 01:11:01,080
Speaker 1: feel like this was a great podcast. Lots of lots

1212
01:11:01,120 --> 01:11:08,800
Speaker 1: of um action. Tara was just amazing, Like there's so

1213
01:11:08,800 --> 01:11:12,240
Speaker 1: many adjectives to describe what if we I'm like processing

1214
01:11:12,240 --> 01:11:16,439
Speaker 1: at all and then we like delivered great news to someone. Yeah,

1215
01:11:16,479 --> 01:11:26,880
Speaker 1: a lot of action reaction. Susan like black that out.

1216
01:11:27,520 --> 01:11:29,439
Speaker 1: I'm actually glad that we read that because I honestly

1217
01:11:29,600 --> 01:11:31,080
Speaker 1: I saw it in the in the thing and I

1218
01:11:31,120 --> 01:11:32,880
Speaker 1: was like, I feel like they're probably not gonna do

1219
01:11:32,920 --> 01:11:34,920
Speaker 1: that because I think it's gonna hurt my feelings. No,

1220
01:11:34,920 --> 01:11:37,040
Speaker 1: no, no no, I wanted to address it because I thought

1221
01:11:37,080 --> 01:11:39,200
Speaker 1: it was rude. We will take your complaint emails if

1222
01:11:39,240 --> 01:11:42,400
Speaker 1: you have them, Yeah, bring them on rubbing in and

1223
01:11:42,479 --> 01:11:45,720
Speaker 1: I hurt media dot com. Yeah, we love a good

1224
01:11:45,720 --> 01:11:49,800
Speaker 1: complaint email. Not too many of them. We go for

1225
01:11:49,920 --> 01:11:53,320
Speaker 1: the nice ones, like looking for advice or baby news. Yeah,

1226
01:11:53,439 --> 01:11:56,599
Speaker 1: we'd like the nice ones. Yeah. Um, all right, well

1227
01:11:57,520 --> 01:12:01,599
Speaker 1: until next time. That's so sad to our next date

1228
01:12:01,720 --> 01:12:04,000
Speaker 1: night when we sat on opposite sides of the table.

1229
01:12:04,720 --> 01:12:09,320
Speaker 1: Time of death. See how she avoids the question. Sorry,

1230
01:12:09,320 --> 01:12:11,880
Speaker 1: he came back to life for a second. Now now

1231
01:12:11,880 --> 01:12:14,840
Speaker 1: he's official Time of death. Twelve vote two