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Speaker 1: said it. Time now for today's Strawberry Letter. If you

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Speaker 1: just like we're gonna read this one right here right now.

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Speaker 1: Buggle up, hold on tight. We got it for you here.

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Speaker 1: It is a straw every letter. Thank you, nephew subject.

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Speaker 1: My mind says no, but my body says yes. Dear

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Speaker 1: Stephen Shirley, my husband and I have been married for

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Speaker 1: nine wonderful years and we've never had any major issues

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Speaker 1: in our marriage. He's great with the kids, he's a

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Speaker 1: great provider, and he's a hard working man. The only

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Speaker 1: touchy subject seems to be our sex life, or lack thereof.

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Speaker 1: He's eight years older. He's forty eight and I'm forty.

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Speaker 1: He's been taking medicine that prevents him from becoming aroused,

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Speaker 1: and it's a big problem for me. Before we got married,

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Speaker 1: we had sex all the time, and I mean all

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Speaker 1: the time, but now he doesn't care to have sex

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Speaker 1: at all. Maybe twice a month, but then it's not satisfying.

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Speaker 1: I know he loves me, and I don't think he's

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Speaker 1: having sex with anyone. I am very passionate about everything

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Speaker 1: that sex entails, so you can call me a bit

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Speaker 1: of a freak. I let him know what I want

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Speaker 1: without being overly aggressive, but my attempts failed most of

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Speaker 1: the time. We have talked about it, and he said

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Speaker 1: sometimes I'm doing too much and he doesn't need all

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Speaker 1: of that. But I think it's because he can't get

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Speaker 1: aroused because of my high sex drive and my need

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Speaker 1: to be freaky between the sheets. I've been thinking about

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Speaker 1: stepping out. I know cheating is the easy route, and

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Speaker 1: I'll probably end up regretting it later, but I have

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Speaker 1: wants and needs. I have a male friend that has

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Speaker 1: been flirting with me for a while, and he cops

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Speaker 1: a field here and there, but nothing serious has happened

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Speaker 1: between us. Every time he's close to me, I start

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Speaker 1: sweating and I lose my breath. I have dreams of

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Speaker 1: making love to this man, and I imagine us doing

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Speaker 1: it for hours, but then I snap out of it

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Speaker 1: and remember I'm married. My body is telling me yes,

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Speaker 1: but my mom says no. Should I be honest with

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Speaker 1: my husband? Please help? Well? Yeah, I think you should

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Speaker 1: be honest with your husband in the sense of telling

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Speaker 1: him how you're feeling about you know, what's going on

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Speaker 1: in your marriage. Of course, you should be honest about

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Speaker 1: that you're feeling neglected and all of that. I think

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Speaker 1: forty eight is really young to be giving up sex

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Speaker 1: with your wife, especially when you guys used to go

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Speaker 1: at it so much early on. If you hadn't mentioned

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Speaker 1: that he's on medication, I would definitely say he's probably cheating,

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Speaker 1: But since the meds you say are keeping him from

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Speaker 1: getting aroused, I think therein lies your problem. Again, forty

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Speaker 1: eight is way too young for this, and a forty

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Speaker 1: year old woman is just entering her prime, So you

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Speaker 1: do want to continue to go at it all the time.

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Speaker 1: To be cut off from something you love and need

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Speaker 1: like that can make you really crazy. It can make

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Speaker 1: you thinking about stepping out and all of that. I'm

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Speaker 1: not surprised you're thinking about cheating. So can he talk

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Speaker 1: to his doctor about lowering his dosage or changing to

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Speaker 1: another med that won't affect his libido like this? I say,

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Speaker 1: you guys have to go this route first before you

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Speaker 1: actually start cheating, because it's in the back of your

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Speaker 1: mind and that's where it always starts you. You never

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Speaker 1: know how that could end up. A lot of patients

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Speaker 1: is going to be required on your part, as you

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Speaker 1: and your husband, who will give you some resistance, some

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Speaker 1: major resistance when you when you bring this subject up.

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Speaker 1: But you got to try and tackle this issue. You

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Speaker 1: gotta tackle it. I just say, don't hesitate to do it.

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Speaker 1: No time like the present, But you guys got to

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Speaker 1: get this out in the open and talk about it,

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Speaker 1: because this is the stuff that will ruin a marriage. Steve,

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Speaker 1: let me just go to the bottom of this letter

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Speaker 1: right here before we mess around loose sight of what

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Speaker 1: you really need to know. The last question in your

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Speaker 1: letter was should I be honest with my hood us?

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Speaker 1: What are you talking about? Saying? Hell? Is this what

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Speaker 1: I think you're talking about? You holding home, you're fitting it,

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Speaker 1: going in tell your husband. Let me read this from

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Speaker 1: the letter, that you have a male friend that's been

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Speaker 1: flirting with you for a while and he cops a

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Speaker 1: feel here now, but nothing serious has happened between us,

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Speaker 1: and every time he close to me, I started sweating

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Speaker 1: and I lose my breath. I have dreams of making

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Speaker 1: love to this man, and I imagine us doing it

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Speaker 1: for hours, but then I snap out of Remember man,

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Speaker 1: my body is telling me yes, but my mind saying there.

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Speaker 1: Should I be honest with my husband? You're talking about saying?

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Speaker 1: You're talking about saying that damn paragraph that I just read.

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Speaker 1: First of all, let me ask you a couple of

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Speaker 1: quick Your husband blacky is he black? Stew as to me?

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Speaker 1: She can't, she's not here. Okay, let me tell you

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Speaker 1: something if this is a black dude that you're fitting

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Speaker 1: to tell it to, first of all, let me tell

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Speaker 1: you what ha happened to you. If this is a

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Speaker 1: white dude, he gonna handle it, damn Neil, the same

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Speaker 1: way a black dude with man, don't take this new

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Speaker 1: We're gonna snap, go crazy. What you're fitting to do? What? Yeah?

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Speaker 1: And he cops a field every now and then you not.

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Speaker 1: Now the dude that's coping the field gonna get it

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Speaker 1: ashop as soon as he finds who that is rested.

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Speaker 1: Was a whole bunch of study. Okay, hold that thought.

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Speaker 1: We'll be back with part two of Steve's response, coming

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Speaker 1: up at twenty three minutes after the hour. Subject my

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Speaker 1: mind says no, but my body says yes. We'll be

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Speaker 1: back right after this. You're listening show, all right, Steve,

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Speaker 1: come on, let's recap today's Strawberry letter. The subject my

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Speaker 1: mind says no, but my body says yes. This one

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Speaker 1: her husband forty eight. He taking some medicine that's causing

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Speaker 1: him not to be aroused. I'm gonna go out on

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Speaker 1: a limb here and say that's diabetes or high blood

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Speaker 1: pressure medicine. I'm doctor could be something else but diabetes medication.

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Speaker 1: I know a couple of partners say it kind of bugs,

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Speaker 1: but there's a counter to that too. So you know,

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Speaker 1: he made the only appeals he could be taken. But

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Speaker 1: we're gonna do something about this. Can't get aroused business?

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Speaker 1: Have you been watching the commercials? It's commercials on TV

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Speaker 1: that has to get your attention if you have an

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Speaker 1: arousal problem. Here is the line on the commercial that

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Speaker 1: disturbs me the most. But if you have an erection

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Speaker 1: lasting more than four hours, call your doctor. If I've

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Speaker 1: been having trouble with a direction and I finally get

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Speaker 1: one that's going for four hours, you really think I'm

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Speaker 1: thing called doctor? This is not about you. See? Do

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Speaker 1: you really think I'm fitting to waste this precious for

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Speaker 1: bag back down? No, no, I'm tapping you on your

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Speaker 1: back all eating were gonna beat up in here bears

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Speaker 1: he So, now that there's ways to deal with that,

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Speaker 1: But let's get back to your letter. Yea. So now

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Speaker 1: you say that you've tried everything and y'all ain't having

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Speaker 1: sex once a more then you said, so, I'm very

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Speaker 1: passionate about everything that sex entails. Yeah, so you can

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Speaker 1: call me a bit of a freak. Now, when a

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Speaker 1: woman says this, fellas, pin your ears back, get ready,

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Speaker 1: head calm. If a woman says I'm a bit of

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Speaker 1: a freak, strap up your saddle, get your chaps all,

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Speaker 1: get your spurs rather furs. It's riding time. But the

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Speaker 1: problem is you're gonna have to give all of them

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Speaker 1: spurs and them chaps because she fit to ride you.

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Speaker 1: She says, I'm a bit of a free and she said,

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Speaker 1: I let him know what I want, and then we

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Speaker 1: have talked about it. Now he says sometimes I'm doing

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Speaker 1: too much and he don't need all that. See, now,

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Speaker 1: let's go back to your line, was you can call

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Speaker 1: me a bit of a freak, a bit Your man

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Speaker 1: had just told you he don't need all that. Your

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Speaker 1: ass is too much? What are you doing in now?

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Speaker 1: When you hear a man say he don't need all that?

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Speaker 1: What is you doing in now? Every time we got

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Speaker 1: to get the works, every time we have sex, we

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Speaker 1: get all of it. You gonna do all the tricks

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Speaker 1: every time you're too much, Let's just do this this evening,

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Speaker 1: gonna go to sleep. What is all this overhill, Come

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Speaker 1: on overhill. My hands is on the wall. Now I'm

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Speaker 1: and not die. Okay, I got a question. Can you

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Speaker 1: touch the ceiling like you did the other day? What?

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Speaker 1: Can you touch the ceiling like you did? You know

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Speaker 1: when you jumped in, had your legs on the chandelione,

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Speaker 1: more thing for you. Go into your question, chick, I've

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Speaker 1: been thinking about stepping out. It's what the lady says.

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Speaker 1: Now here's the letter. I know cheating is the easy route.

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Speaker 1: What girl, listen to me. Cheating is hard work. You

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Speaker 1: have no idea. What you're setting yourself up for. Cheating

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Speaker 1: is hard ass work. Who you got to lie? Lie, Lie, lie?

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Speaker 1: Cheating is not easy for those of you have never cheated,

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Speaker 1: and I'm considered taking that route. I want you to

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Speaker 1: know something. Cheating is very very hard. Ain't nothing easy

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Speaker 1: So if you think cheating is easy, that's why. That's

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Speaker 1: that's why people get busted all the time because they

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Speaker 1: thought it was easy. It's hard. What's your question? Shell? Okay,

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Speaker 1: So she said when before they got married, Steve, they

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Speaker 1: had sex all the time and all the time, all

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Speaker 1: the time, right right, So now I'm asking she too

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Speaker 1: much because of his condition. Yeah, that part of it

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Speaker 1: is part of the condition. But he tied to only

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Speaker 1: forty eight. But he tied. Man, that's just so much.

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Speaker 1: We're just doing too much. But she wasn't too much before.

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Speaker 1: I don't like keep chewing. I don't want you chewing

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Speaker 1: I don't like the biting. No more. No, I don't know,

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Speaker 1: I don't like all that nombre. You know. I don't

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Speaker 1: I don't want to run around like that. No more.

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Speaker 1: I'm tired. I gotta go to work. I'm forty. I

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Speaker 1: don't want to run around the room and do laps

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Speaker 1: no moment. I don't like driving off the dress and

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Speaker 1: no more, I don't want to do no flip off

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Speaker 1: the dough knob. I don't like that. No more, you

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Speaker 1: don't And I don't want you to be ind over

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Speaker 1: And I pushed the dough knob on you I don't

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