Speaker 1: I don't know about you, but I'm really trying to
Speaker 1: be at a vacation mode. But the problem with that
Speaker 1: is then it's noon and I'm like, who wants a cocktail?
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Speaker 2: Welcome everybody to the Calm Down Podcast.
Speaker 3: Tie dog, I look tired.
Speaker 2: Oh you're tired.
Speaker 1: Well, here's what you're doing. You are catching up. Although
Speaker 1: I don't know why you're not sleeping. She just aerin
Speaker 1: just before we jumped on here. She just said she's
Speaker 1: not sleeping very well. As we enter our first official
Speaker 1: week of being off, why do you think you're not sleeping?
Speaker 3: I don't know.
Speaker 4: Well, the story is still an issue, and we've talked
Speaker 4: to a lot of people about like getting the surgery
Speaker 4: for him to help it.
Speaker 3: It's just not great. And I it's.
Speaker 4: Funny the more and more you're talking to couples in
Speaker 4: the streets, the more and more people deal with this,
Speaker 4: and people sleep in other rooms and I'm not doing
Speaker 4: that yet, and I kind of.
Speaker 3: Don't want to do that.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I don't like that.
Speaker 3: I don't want it.
Speaker 2: So for those of you that don't know, you.
Speaker 3: Don't want to get surgery is a snore.
Speaker 1: Steve also is a snore. He uses this stuff called
Speaker 1: I hate the.
Speaker 2: Name, it's terra. I'm going to call it the name.
Speaker 1: He just has this tape that he puts over his
Speaker 1: mouth that actually is very helpful. I totally noticed when
Speaker 1: he doesn't use it, So that's fine, but I get it. Man,
Speaker 1: snoring is so especially it's like once once you know
Speaker 1: what's happening. And the elbows, it's also not fair for
Speaker 1: them either, like just being like shoving at night every
Speaker 1: five seconds. All right, Well, what's the surgery consists of?
Speaker 1: Is it really invasive?
Speaker 2: I don't know. I think about it.
Speaker 3: Well, I know, but I just feel bad.
Speaker 4: Like so, he's obviously broken his nose several times he
Speaker 4: went and got checked out and or like you know,
Speaker 4: playing your sport, and this is a common thing with
Speaker 4: you guys. And we just picked some cracks in his
Speaker 4: nose and that would help him breathe a little better.
Speaker 3: So I don't know.
Speaker 4: It sounds easy, but it's also kind of like a
Speaker 4: semi not a nose job, but it's like a deviated
Speaker 4: septum crack in your note. I don't even know. I'm
Speaker 4: probably speaking out a tune. He broke his nose. I
Speaker 4: don't know, so we'll see.
Speaker 1: I just I'm getting at the sleeping in other rooms
Speaker 1: sing and I'm not either. This is when I didn't
Speaker 1: like the people I was with. I was always advocating, like,
Speaker 1: oh yeah, I actually want my own house. I don't
Speaker 1: even want to live in the same house as the
Speaker 1: person that should have been the first fucking sun I
Speaker 1: didn't like the person.
Speaker 2: I like sleeping.
Speaker 1: I want to like I like sleep like Steve and
Speaker 1: I like sleep like fully together.
Speaker 2: It's almost annoying.
Speaker 1: It's like leg over each other, like I'm like, oh yeah,
Speaker 1: I like sleeping, and I feel safer too that way.
Speaker 2: I don't know. I wouldn't want to sleep in another room.
Speaker 4: I just also feel like there's so much time we
Speaker 4: spend a part with our jobs, like six months out
Speaker 4: of the year that yeah, I'm not interested in the
Speaker 4: not sharing beds or sharing a room, so whatever, we'll
Speaker 4: figure it out. I just need to sleep. I need
Speaker 4: to sleep.
Speaker 1: You also have a child, your schedule? What time do
Speaker 1: you wake up every morning with him? So he goes
Speaker 1: to bed seven to seven, which is amazing. I usually
Speaker 1: like to be up by like six six thirty so
Speaker 1: I can be ready to go for him and if
Speaker 1: there's anything I need to get done before I do.
Speaker 2: Yeah, that's crazy.
Speaker 1: I mean we were never people that like we because
Speaker 1: I mean I don't have a baby, but dogs like
Speaker 1: dogs need my dogs.
Speaker 2: Like around six.
Speaker 1: Thirty, I hear willis like trancing around with us.
Speaker 2: Yeah, like he wants to go out.
Speaker 1: I've never been a person that like really slept in,
Speaker 1: but yeah, once you have a kid, like that's a
Speaker 1: whole difference, like you're up.
Speaker 3: It's over.
Speaker 4: And I don't know about Steve, but Jarrett can really
Speaker 4: sleep in, Like he can sleep in till eleven or
Speaker 4: twelve if you leave him alone.
Speaker 1: We talked about this the other day at the super
Speaker 1: Bowl when we're tiptoeing around to get ready for the
Speaker 1: super Bowl because podcast plus ones over there we're sleeping in.
Speaker 1: Also this if I have to hear one more day
Speaker 1: about this podcast. I went to go get coffee in
Speaker 1: town today and sweet Erica, who works at the coffee
Speaker 1: shop owns the shop, goes I.
Speaker 2: Heard Steve is starting a podcast.
Speaker 1: I go, no, he's not actually starting a podcast, But
Speaker 1: I swear to God these two and there's deep centers
Speaker 1: allicle today that Taylor Swift is the guest. Okay, relax,
Speaker 1: see Jared, you guys are adorable. If you actually do this,
Speaker 1: then I'll win the lottery. There's no way they follow
Speaker 1: up on this, but anyways, it's over all.
Speaker 2: Right, it's sober.
Speaker 1: We are in our first Okay, let's we just mentioned
Speaker 1: we have been off for a week now.
Speaker 2: We talked to the other day on the phone. We
Speaker 2: were just acting, not acting.
Speaker 1: We were discussing how the super Bowl felt like a
Speaker 1: month ago. So it's a week back into re entry.
Speaker 1: I am full ranch mode. You're giving yourself a minute
Speaker 1: and a beat to relax with your husband.
Speaker 2: I love that.
Speaker 1: And then when people this is what I love, like,
Speaker 1: oh well it's the off season, what are you gonna do?
Speaker 1: And I'm like, We're already back doing stuff in two weeks,
Speaker 1: you and I. And that's where I need to remind
Speaker 1: myself that we are very lucky. We have opportunities and
Speaker 1: like great things. We're looking forward to going to Tampa
Speaker 1: and all that stuff. But I'm really I don't know
Speaker 1: about you, but I'm really trying to like be in
Speaker 1: a vacation mode. But the problem with that is then
Speaker 1: it's noon, and I'm like, who wants a cocktail?
Speaker 4: And I'm like saying, oh, it's more being you told
Speaker 4: me to put Bailey's in my coffee. I know I
Speaker 4: had a beer at lunch today. I just I'll talk
Speaker 4: about it.
Speaker 1: There is a Corge light in my coffee. I want
Speaker 1: a coffee right now with Baileys. But I I work
Speaker 1: so hard on working out. It makes me happy and
Speaker 1: all that I have taken a beat off, but it
Speaker 1: is now like comfort food and beer and wine and tequila.
Speaker 4: Girl, I'm mixed in a salad today and I thought
Speaker 4: I was like so proud of myself.
Speaker 1: I know we're gonna let ourselves have at least two
Speaker 1: weeks of doing whatever we want and not feeling guilty
Speaker 1: about it.
Speaker 2: I think that's the other thing.
Speaker 1: And I don't know if you guys listening do this
Speaker 1: where it's like I feel guilty if I'm just being
Speaker 1: much lazy, or if you don't work out, or if
Speaker 1: you're going to have a drink at nine am or whatever.
Speaker 1: And I need to stop thinking like that, because we
Speaker 1: do work hard. We throw ourselves into our fashion, and
Speaker 1: so we need to like not feel bad if we're
Speaker 1: going to.
Speaker 4: Do it now, I know, but I really am like
Speaker 4: getting after it.
Speaker 2: Yeah true.
Speaker 4: My getting after it is two drinks at dinner, like
Speaker 4: a drink at lunch, and I'm just like, this is crazy.
Speaker 3: I not me.
Speaker 1: Like, here's the problem with being home home on the
Speaker 1: range out here is that because I'm actually doing stuff,
Speaker 1: like we're putting together or like building this other little
Speaker 1: like shed thing, we're doing all this eff so like
Speaker 1: you're doing work. So I'm cracking open the fricking beers
Speaker 1: or the twist. I'm gonna tell you, ever have one
Speaker 1: of those twisted teas. This is not an ad, but
Speaker 1: I wish it would.
Speaker 3: I feel like it'd be too sweet for me.
Speaker 2: Oh okay, well I love me some twisted tea.
Speaker 1: It's half whatever it is, must be vodka maybe, or
Speaker 1: it's like it's like an ornold palmer with vodka.
Speaker 2: I guess it's what it is. It is so good.
Speaker 2: And here's the problem.
Speaker 1: You throw some of those back and you don't realize
Speaker 1: you're getting twisted until all of a sudden you're.
Speaker 2: Like, whoa here am I?
Speaker 1: Yeah?
Speaker 2: No, seriously, but it's good.
Speaker 1: And that's the fun part too, where it's like when
Speaker 1: you're out working and you're like, I don't know. I
Speaker 1: feel like somehow I'm justifying instead of just sitting around,
Speaker 1: So fuck it, I'm not gonna feel guilty.
Speaker 2: So yeah, re entries going well, although I gotta tell you,
Speaker 2: here's the only thing.
Speaker 1: He's going to hear this and I don't care or
Speaker 1: there's gonna be a headline that he then sends to me.
Speaker 1: How about when we talked about not getting married. His
Speaker 1: friends are so funny. They send him these headlines like
Speaker 1: Carissa turns down proposal to Stephen Canderry and I'm.
Speaker 3: Like, okay headline.
Speaker 1: He goes, yeah, well my friends, you know. I'm like, Steve,
Speaker 1: you didn't actually propose. Relax, okay, But we are just
Speaker 1: here by it. I feel like we're on Survivor and
Speaker 1: him and I are the only people on the island,
Speaker 1: and I'm going to kill each other first me some Tommy.
Speaker 1: But at some point it's like every day for two weeks,
Speaker 1: just the same person I put down right and one
Speaker 1: week down. I haven't been alone, like by myself, Like
Speaker 1: I want to watch the shows. Like the other day
Speaker 1: I turned on the Kardashians and he walked in and
Speaker 1: go and walked out and I'm like, no, I want
Speaker 1: to watch what I want to watch. I don't want
Speaker 1: to be judged for the shows the music. And that's
Speaker 1: like I was listening to like Cameron Marlowe this new
Speaker 1: country or is it not new?
Speaker 2: But he's a country singer.
Speaker 1: I like you, and he goes, oh god, you have
Speaker 1: every song on repeat, and I'm like, you're on repeat.
Speaker 1: You are on repeat every day my life. Go find
Speaker 1: something else to do. I need a loan time.
Speaker 2: And I love him so much, but I'm like, so,
Speaker 2: how's it going.
Speaker 3: I get it. I feel like we are trying.
Speaker 4: You're treading lightly over here because I was in such
Speaker 4: a mood at super Bowl, not like pissed off or anything.
Speaker 3: But it's like, hey, don't piss me off.
Speaker 4: I need to get out of my way. So I
Speaker 4: feel like both sides are treading lightly to kind of
Speaker 4: it's like it's what you posted of your dogs the
Speaker 4: other day, kind of playing with each other and being.
Speaker 2: Like yeah, yeah, like which one's gonna go?
Speaker 1: Or it's like are we on the verge of like
Speaker 1: we're playing or we're about to get in a fight,
Speaker 1: Like which one is it? Because that's the thing I know,
Speaker 1: I said it last week. But like sweet Steve and
Speaker 1: Jarrett have been they know during the season, they know
Speaker 1: during the season, like we always have that, like we're working,
Speaker 1: we're working, and now in our even limited time off,
Speaker 1: we're not working, so we don't really have the excuse
Speaker 1: to be like leave us alone or be bitchy.
Speaker 3: Yeah.
Speaker 1: AnyWho, So re entry is going great. It actually is fine.
Speaker 1: I just need to like re entry, this is this
Speaker 1: is my hour. Did you ever have that? Did your
Speaker 1: parents ever do this when you were growing up? My
Speaker 1: mom used dous all the time that I'd have to
Speaker 1: go into my room and have quiet time for an hour.
Speaker 3: Like I talked to her, I love it alone.
Speaker 1: She's like, go use your imagination, go play dolls, go
Speaker 1: play barbies, like leave me alone for an hour.
Speaker 2: And I feel like maybe I my child steed the.
Speaker 3: Way a person needs it they do.
Speaker 1: He walks in with his laptop and I'm like, WHOA,
Speaker 1: not that much alone time?
Speaker 2: You know what I mean?
Speaker 3: AnyWho?
Speaker 1: Oh my god, all right, everybody get it together. Okay,
Speaker 1: we have some great headlines that we would love to
Speaker 1: rip through because welcome to our off season.
Speaker 2: We actually get to pay attention to things other than sports.
Speaker 1: Although the first headline still involves one of our favorites,
Speaker 1: Saquon Barkley gives each of his linemen a truck full
Speaker 1: of beer. Earlier this week, Barkley and Jalen Hurts form
Speaker 1: by the Tonight Show. Saquon told Tonight's show that if
Speaker 1: he was going on the show, his offensive linement needed
Speaker 1: to come as well. I also need to interject here.
Speaker 1: Did you see that clip where he pulled the ball
Speaker 1: boy out?
Speaker 2: I know you. Did you have the parade?
Speaker 1: I think the dream it's everything right For those of
Speaker 1: you that don't know what I'm talking about, Seque's going
Speaker 1: and high fiving people that were at the parade in Philly.
Speaker 1: He recognizes the ball boy and he's like, wait, why
Speaker 1: are you not here? Obviously the boy was probably like
Speaker 1: I wasn't allowed to go over there. He lifts him
Speaker 1: up and then puts him, you know, in with them
Speaker 1: to celebrate, and it's just so sweet. So the gist
Speaker 1: of this is that saque wouldn't go on The Tonight
Speaker 1: Show without his offensive line and then gifts them bud
Speaker 1: light loaded with ninety cases of beer each. You know,
Speaker 1: it's just great because think about that, like, it's so
Speaker 1: easy for people to be individuals, and he's not. He's
Speaker 1: like my success. I think he also said that he
Speaker 1: if there was ever I don't maybe he didn't say it,
Speaker 1: but if there was ever a statue directed of him,
Speaker 1: that he'd want it to be with his offensive linemantal.
Speaker 2: I just love it.
Speaker 3: I just love him. I loved as part of this,
Speaker 3: Go bud light. This was so cute. You just said it.
Speaker 4: In ninety cases of beer, with each case holding twenty
Speaker 4: four cans. That's twenty one hundred and sixty cans, or
Speaker 4: nearly one for every yard Barkley gained in the regular season.
Speaker 4: Go credit, Like that was so cute. Wait, though, did
Speaker 4: you see from that parade? I couldn't get enough of it.
Speaker 4: I adore that team. Howie Roseman gashed in the head,
Speaker 4: Oh my god, because the fans were probably throwing them beers,
Speaker 4: like that's the way to do. I know when the
Speaker 4: parades that they had for this Stanley Cup, like they're
Speaker 4: trying to throw the guy's.
Speaker 3: Beers and then they chug them and it's.
Speaker 4: Like, gosh, oh my god, that was like a severe gash.
Speaker 4: And then Cooper de Jean got one too.
Speaker 1: I think, oh did he I didn't see that one,
Speaker 1: but yeah, Howie Roseman, what did g And then he
Speaker 1: also was like fuck it and just continues to like.
Speaker 3: Leave for this team.
Speaker 2: That's gonna be a nice scar. Oh that's a good story. Though.
Speaker 2: I got hit in the head at the Super Bowl
Speaker 2: parade from a beer.
Speaker 4: Did you see the fan that was just vomiting over
Speaker 4: like some sort of like security line and was still
Speaker 4: doing the.
Speaker 3: Chant as he was puking, Like.
Speaker 2: I didn't.
Speaker 4: But that's fantiords Man, so so good. All right, this
Speaker 4: is a good one. Lay it scrolled down. Okay, what
Speaker 4: is phobo? Experts reveal how to battle the latest anxiety
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Speaker 3: Oh, Chris, I don't know this word. Where are we ruminating?
Speaker 2: Yep?
Speaker 3: We get it on the what if, the anxiety that
Speaker 3: something better will come along, which makes it undesirable to
Speaker 3: commit to existing choices when making a decision.
Speaker 2: I don't know.
Speaker 3: Do you have to make yourself nuts doing it?
Speaker 2: Yeah?
Speaker 1: I've been reading that book that Mel Robbins book that
Speaker 1: everyone's reading, which there's a reason that everyone's writing it.
Speaker 2: It's called let Them. The premise is if you're not.
Speaker 1: Invited to a party and everybody else's let them, let
Speaker 1: them have their party. Like, don't spend energy on things
Speaker 1: that you can't control. It was an idea that she
Speaker 1: was talking about. Her son was going to prom and
Speaker 1: or whatever homecoming and he didn't have a restaurant booked,
Speaker 1: and he didn't have the car booked, and he didn't
Speaker 1: have a carissage for his day. He didn't have all
Speaker 1: these things, and she was like freaking out about it,
Speaker 1: and finally her daughter says to her, like, let him,
Speaker 1: Like if he doesn't have a reservation, like then he's
Speaker 1: not going to have a reservation. Or if he doesn't
Speaker 1: have a carssage, then he's not going to have one.
Speaker 1: Like the mom's anxiety over her kid not having stuff
Speaker 1: is not going to make it better. If anything, the
Speaker 1: kid was like, Mom, leave me the fuck alone kind.
Speaker 2: Of a thing.
Speaker 1: So that idea in life that it's like, if you
Speaker 1: don't have and I'm really really trying to do this,
Speaker 1: I need to practice what it is that I preach
Speaker 1: in terms of like Steve is so laid back about
Speaker 1: stuff and he doesn't stress. He doesn't stress over the
Speaker 1: small stuff. And I didn't even know that I was
Speaker 1: a micromanager until you get around somebody that's not and
Speaker 1: his ability to do it so uh, like the aforementioned
Speaker 1: projects that we're working on, I'm like, yeah, but if
Speaker 1: we don't do this now and then and then if
Speaker 1: it rains, and it's just like and he's like okay,
Speaker 1: then it rains and it gets wet, like what's the
Speaker 1: big deal? Like I worry about things that I can't control,
Speaker 1: and I'm trying to be better about that because I
Speaker 1: do feel like I stress about stuff that I don't
Speaker 1: need to and I don't. It's getting more and more.
Speaker 1: I used to be super laid back, and now it's
Speaker 1: just like this. I don't know, it's because he's so
Speaker 1: way back. Yeah, I want to you know, who I
Speaker 1: want to be. I want to be the person that's
Speaker 1: like what fuck it? And I and I.
Speaker 3: Know really like off fuck it though, like who are people? Okay?
Speaker 3: But and I love Steve, it's just about to be
Speaker 3: something so terrible.
Speaker 4: Give me an off fuck it person that's I'm not
Speaker 4: saying this about Steve, So get that out of the way,
Speaker 4: because he is off fuck it.
Speaker 3: But he's also really really, really really motivated.
Speaker 4: Who is an absolute awe effort and it's super.
Speaker 3: I know, no, I know, I know who, I know.
Speaker 1: It's like finding it's striking that balance. You want to name,
Speaker 1: you want to name, you want to name? Send a
Speaker 1: fucking rella. Anybody knows, pretty woman, stay with us.
Speaker 4: I mean, I'll give a guy that's super laid back,
Speaker 4: but it's suber successful and Travis Kelsey, Michael.
Speaker 1: Street hand, Oh yeah, Eron, did you have a clip
Speaker 1: that I posted of him?
Speaker 2: So we were you know how send that to me?
Speaker 2: I will.
Speaker 3: What was happening? I saw it quick.
Speaker 2: So the side.
Speaker 1: Agents here is during the Super Bowl, So all of
Speaker 1: us are in a green room, right, So we're at
Speaker 1: obviously we're at the stadium because the boys are going
Speaker 1: to go out and do uh uh halftime. So we're
Speaker 1: all back in the green room and there's like two
Speaker 1: rows of chairs. So all the boys in the front,
Speaker 1: Terry Howie, Jimmy Gronk, Us in the back, Charles Jewels, shregs.
Speaker 2: Like.
Speaker 1: I had this moment and I took this picture of
Speaker 1: like all of them sitting there. I never take for granted,
Speaker 1: like you know, and I don't know if Jimmy is
Speaker 1: retiring or what he's doing, but like, I just have
Speaker 1: these moments where I'm like, these are people that like
Speaker 1: I are my family, are your family, and just sitting
Speaker 1: there and watching maybe what could be our last super
Speaker 1: Bowl altogether.
Speaker 2: I don't know, I just like got a little emotional.
Speaker 1: But I have this thing where when I'm doing updates
Speaker 1: and I see Aaron come on, I always film it,
Speaker 1: like I just become a proud friend and like film
Speaker 1: it and I just want to like support her. So
Speaker 1: I had my phone out to film you doing your
Speaker 1: halftime hit, and Stray had just walked over and he
Speaker 1: was like eating his hamburger and he saw me filming,
Speaker 1: and so he like gives Aaron these like air kisses
Speaker 1: and then does this like little dance thing basically just
Speaker 1: like also saying how proud of you he was, and
Speaker 1: it was really sweet. But anyways, I don't know why
Speaker 1: we brought the oh because that's.
Speaker 4: Successful and success laid back and super lazy he is,
Speaker 4: but he isn't like not I don't know, he's not
Speaker 4: laid back with his success. I mean, he's never not working.
Speaker 4: I know how laid back that is.
Speaker 2: But he makes it look he makes it look effortless.
Speaker 3: Effortless.
Speaker 1: Maybe that's why we think it's you know, I mean,
Speaker 1: I think that's with anything. I guess that's even with athletes,
Speaker 1: when they make things look so easy, but you know
Speaker 1: how much work goes into it that I don't know.
Speaker 1: This is a whole like tangent, but I don't know.
Speaker 1: I just I want to be that person that doesn't
Speaker 1: stress about all the little things. I don't because it's
Speaker 1: also fucking annoying, like if I used to sleep, yeah,
Speaker 1: or like if I'm if I hear myself bitch about
Speaker 1: these little things, if I'm my partner, you know those
Speaker 1: things where they're like, fuck, she's nagging again, or she is.
Speaker 1: It's like, I don't want to be that person. I
Speaker 1: want to be the person that like when Steve goes
Speaker 1: away and let's whatever, a guy with the boys, and
Speaker 1: he's like, hers is so chill, she didn't care.
Speaker 2: He ain't saying that about me. Uh uh. He's like,
Speaker 2: oh fuck, what's she good? And I know he doesn't
Speaker 2: talk a ship.
Speaker 3: First weekend away I ever had with Jarrett. He was like, God,
Speaker 3: you're so easy going.
Speaker 2: I was like, got it fooled? That's it the book?
Speaker 3: I know?
Speaker 2: Should we try it for a week?
Speaker 4: I need to calm down. I do I pen the name,
Speaker 4: I just do. I just am like, here's an example.
Speaker 4: And I don't know if this is OCD or what
Speaker 4: the hell it is, but like, we had friends staying here.
Speaker 4: If it was you staying here, it'd be the same way.
Speaker 4: It was very concerned about the air temperature because they
Speaker 4: made a big deal about how they had to It
Speaker 4: wasn't a big deal, but they stated they like it
Speaker 4: at sixty eight, they sleep good at sixty eight.
Speaker 3: I'm like, worried all fucking night. What if it's at
Speaker 3: sixty eight?
Speaker 1: Your people so though, well, that's because you want to
Speaker 1: make sure you put and I don't say this is like,
Speaker 1: you know, because you're gonna be.
Speaker 2: Like, oh you you are.
Speaker 1: You want to make sure that everybody else is happy
Speaker 1: before you are, which is of great quality.
Speaker 2: But at the same tim like there is a little bit.
Speaker 1: Of that, like, hey, if they're uncomfortable, they can change
Speaker 1: the THIRDO stat I've been one of your guest twelve years.
Speaker 1: You can know you can change what I'm saying. You
Speaker 1: can change the temperature. They're adults, they.
Speaker 3: Know how it works, so there's a.
Speaker 2: Little bit of that. Maybe I will.
Speaker 1: I'm gonna get you this book and read a little
Speaker 1: bit of it, and even if you just absorb some
Speaker 1: of it, because I'm I'm really trying because it's something
Speaker 1: I want.
Speaker 2: To be better.
Speaker 4: At and I need to be better at it, especially
Speaker 4: with a kid, because interesting, he's got a cold again
Speaker 4: and it's a whole thing, Like God, this has been
Speaker 4: two weeks, but there's no fever, and he's got to
Speaker 4: just write it out and I'm like, you know, in
Speaker 4: the middle of the night checking on him and things
Speaker 4: like that, Like I got.
Speaker 3: To calm down.
Speaker 1: Well, let's have for She's very busy and very popular,
Speaker 1: but I'm going to throw out a request to sweet
Speaker 1: mel Robbins and I would love for her to give
Speaker 1: us some tips and tricks on this, because tips and tricks, Yeah,
Speaker 1: because I think, you know, it would benefit both of us.
Speaker 1: And he also too, like I don't want to change
Speaker 1: everything about myself, but that's one thing I don't like
Speaker 1: about myself. Just high strung agree, moving right along. We've
Speaker 1: been happily married for seventy five years. Here's our secret
Speaker 1: to everlasting love. This headline goes on to say the
Speaker 1: secret is learning when to keep your mouth shut. Trudy
Speaker 1: and Alan Tomlinson. Another thing I'm not good at. I
Speaker 1: can't help myself even if I want to, and I'll
Speaker 1: keep it shut for a minute. And then I finally like, oh,
Speaker 1: this was me yesterday. I couldn't I couldn't help myself.
Speaker 1: We went in state, so we had renovated this the
Speaker 1: guest house up here, so I was like, we should
Speaker 1: go up and see, like if the water works, like
Speaker 1: you know, whatever.
Speaker 2: So when there are guests it's comfortable.
Speaker 1: I want to take a shower, and the shower's fucking freezing, right,
Speaker 1: And isn't that the worst? It's not the worst, but
Speaker 1: isn't it So? Yep, you spend money, you want something
Speaker 1: to work. I need to not give an s I know.
Speaker 1: So I so I'm like fuck it. I'm like, Okay,
Speaker 1: the water. I don't know why it doesn't work. It
Speaker 1: turns out I had to light the pilot. The whole
Speaker 1: thing is like whatever, but I don't want to fucking
Speaker 1: do that. This is the part that I struggle with.
Speaker 1: I am even though I don't look like it right now,
Speaker 1: because I look like a boy. I want to be
Speaker 1: the woman in the relationship. I want to say to him,
Speaker 1: you go fix it, go light the pilot. Why am
Speaker 1: I underneath the house?
Speaker 2: You know? And I did it?
Speaker 3: I said, do what you underneath the house? Doing that
Speaker 3: where it's the house.
Speaker 1: Is gonna blow up because I'm down there trying to
Speaker 1: find a pilot Like you're the guy, Go be the guy.
Speaker 2: I'm sorry.
Speaker 1: When it comes to certain things, I'm like, taking out
Speaker 1: the trash, that's a boy job. There's some jobs that
Speaker 1: are boy jobs, folding clothes, all this.
Speaker 2: I don't care. You guys can make this a fucking headline.
Speaker 2: I don't care.
Speaker 1: I full close because I think that's as more of
Speaker 1: a like, you know, thing that I can do. Because
Speaker 1: Steve doesn't like it, I'll do that, But I ain't
Speaker 1: crawling underneath the goddamn house to fix the pilot light. Anyways,
Speaker 1: I digress. So I just took a shower. I'm like, fine,
Speaker 1: I'll make it a cold plunge. I'll make this a
Speaker 1: whole experience. I'll just take a whatever feel I felt fantastic. Afterwards,
Speaker 1: he goes down to take a hot shower. I couldn't
Speaker 1: help myself. He came back up and I go, oh,
Speaker 1: you couldn't just take I go you cold plunge every day,
Speaker 1: but you couldn't just do that. I also couldn't keep
Speaker 1: my fucking mouth shut. He goes, no, I wanted to
Speaker 1: go take a hot shower? Is that okay with you?
Speaker 1: And I was like, why did I have to say something?
Speaker 1: Why do I have to say something? Just shut up?
Speaker 1: It had nothing to do with him. He wanted a
Speaker 1: hot shower. I was fine with the cold shower. Just
Speaker 1: shut up, Carissa. I couldn't help myself.
Speaker 3: Did you like the pilot?
Speaker 1: No, because it was his job and he didn't even
Speaker 1: go do it cold. Yeah, which because until he crawls
Speaker 1: his ass underneath this house, things are going great. I
Speaker 1: love it. There's so but it's true though, keeping my
Speaker 1: mouth shut. That's a good seventy Also, you've been happily
Speaker 1: married for seventy five years. How did you get married
Speaker 1: at fifteen? That's fantastic. Good for you.
Speaker 4: Guys, Carissa, here we go, my boyfriend laughs. Ambition is
Speaker 4: not tirebreaker. I was caught at at least the work day.
Speaker 4: He prefers to nap. I'm already annoyed because I can't nap.
Speaker 4: My partner and I have different ideas of what it
Speaker 4: means to work hard. I was raised by parents who
Speaker 4: encourage me to put my nose to the grindstone every
Speaker 4: minute of every day. My boyfriend, however, views work as
Speaker 4: a means to an end. If he completes his work
Speaker 4: in less than forty hours, he spend the rest of
Speaker 4: the workday doing whatever he pleases. Often he'll just take
Speaker 4: a nap. Who is he, George Costanza? That's crazy, Well
Speaker 4: he can just take a nap.
Speaker 1: Yeah, am absolutely not, absolutely not. I'm be so attractive
Speaker 1: at all. I've had to don't want ryan and look
Speaker 1: like this. I mean, honestly, there's nothing more unattractive to
Speaker 1: me than people that don't work hard. Get that you
Speaker 1: can take a beat, enjoy your vacation, have a moment.
Speaker 1: But I used to say to one of my exes,
Speaker 1: there's a Monday, bro, Like, what do you mean? Because
Speaker 1: his whole thing was like this proverbial vacation that he
Speaker 1: was on, Like it was just like does on the
Speaker 1: nose and so relaxed, bro.
Speaker 2: And it's like, hey, there's a Monday.
Speaker 1: Does on the on the nose mean as you're a surfer,
Speaker 1: but like nose, this is the.
Speaker 2: It was like you gotta like a baby putting your
Speaker 2: toes in your nose.
Speaker 1: What's the yoga pos where they're like happy baby feet.
Speaker 2: That just comfy to do that?
Speaker 1: I get that's good. No, absolutely not. I I am
Speaker 1: someone and you're the same way. We are probably workaholics,
Speaker 1: which is why we're high strung and you need to
Speaker 1: fucking chill out sometimes.
Speaker 2: But laziness, there is.
Speaker 1: No, no, no part of that anymore for me.
Speaker 2: Uh.
Speaker 1: I didn't wait too many scholarships for some losers that
Speaker 1: I was with, and I.
Speaker 2: Thought, oh, you know what, they just don't want to work.
Speaker 2: It's they enjoy life. Mark.
Speaker 1: You can enjoy life and work and there's a healthy balance.
Speaker 1: I believe in that, like you and Jarrett like we'll
Speaker 1: take vacation together, and Steve and I do like, that's fine,
Speaker 1: you don't have to twenty four seven three sixty five,
Speaker 1: but you've got to have work ethic or else. Sorry, no,
Speaker 1: because then you just get resembful. Well, this sweet girl's
Speaker 1: like outworking and he's taken a nap. I'd like to
Speaker 1: take a nap?
Speaker 3: What job?
Speaker 1: Let's you take a nap if you're t to carry Bradshaw.
Speaker 1: If you're tired, you take a napa. You don't move
Speaker 1: to napa.
Speaker 3: That's a goody. Last we this is interesting. You hit it.
Speaker 1: Work wife Valentine's cards spark heated debate about appropriateness of
Speaker 1: workplace relationships.
Speaker 2: Ooh now viral TikTok.
Speaker 1: A woman shopping for Valentine's cards this week expresses shocked
Speaker 1: to find cards addressed to a work wife or work husband.
Speaker 1: The cards read for my work wife or husband on
Speaker 1: Boundin's day, I've finally found someone just as inappropriate as me.
Speaker 3: I like it.
Speaker 2: I do too. In fact, I wish I would.
Speaker 4: I I would give I got him from my west
Speaker 4: husband's plural because you have you have more than one, and.
Speaker 1: So do I.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I'm a polygamist. I mean, I've got so many
Speaker 2: work husbands at this point. Thanks Kevin.
Speaker 4: When he's getting on United and none of us have
Speaker 4: status on United, he brings all of us. He goes,
Speaker 4: these are all my wives and some of them are
Speaker 4: men too.
Speaker 3: So it's fine.
Speaker 2: And you know what's so great?
Speaker 1: So a shout out to Rachel Burkhardt and to Jared
Speaker 1: Stole and to Stephen Candary that when you're getting up
Speaker 1: and making a list, Melissa Whitworth, when you're getting up,
Speaker 1: Toby Gonzalez, the list goes on.
Speaker 2: When you're getting up and making.
Speaker 1: A speech about your crew and how amazing they are,
Speaker 1: and you reference Kevin, your work husband, and then Rachel's
Speaker 1: sitting right there.
Speaker 2: She knows what this is.
Speaker 1: She knows all of these people that were lucky enough
Speaker 1: to work with, and they're significant, they're plus ones.
Speaker 2: Hence the podcast.
Speaker 1: You either have to get on board or you don't,
Speaker 1: and you can't be sensitive about it because there's no
Speaker 1: confusion about where the lines are here. But it is
Speaker 1: a term of endearment that we spend so much time
Speaker 1: with these people that yeah, I don't I don't have
Speaker 1: any problem with this, but I guess if you're insecure
Speaker 1: in your relationship, like I again have been with insecure
Speaker 1: people and if I would have said work husband, they
Speaker 1: would have ah lost their shit. So I think it's
Speaker 1: about the security of your relationship.
Speaker 4: Yeah, Jared is so grateful for Kevin Burkhart, for Rich Gross,
Speaker 4: Casey Garland, Rich Russo, and they have all my work
Speaker 4: husbands on here because they hear a lot and they
Speaker 4: take care of me and vice versa. Like it's very
Speaker 4: much a family and it's funny. I was just talking
Speaker 4: to Tom Brady about that yesterday and like our crew
Speaker 4: and you know, just what it's like.
Speaker 3: And he was really sweet. He said, you know, I.
Speaker 4: Guess when I started this, I didn't realize it was
Speaker 4: so much like a family. And he's like, we really
Speaker 4: have a great group. I'm like, oh my god, like
Speaker 4: those dinners we go to all of us and coach,
Speaker 4: you know, in the in the other room coming in
Speaker 4: and you know, Aaron, I got to tell you that
Speaker 4: outfit is great and they're so sweet and it is
Speaker 4: such a family. And I don't know, I've been other places,
Speaker 4: but I just with Fox and our group and how
Speaker 4: we really truly it is no bullshit, love each other
Speaker 4: and take care of each other. Yeah, And it's like
Speaker 4: if somebody's got something, we all know about it and
Speaker 4: how can we help. You know, somebody says something funny,
Speaker 4: we're all there championing them to say something else funnier,
Speaker 4: because like it's hilarious when one of us is on one.
Speaker 4: So yeah, it's a really really special thing. But Jarrett
Speaker 4: is very grateful for my work husbands because they have
Speaker 4: to deal with the nonsense.
Speaker 1: I'm gonna say he's probably relieved so he doesn't have
Speaker 1: to listen to me a bitch most of the time.
Speaker 4: But yeah, but you're my work wife too, Like I
Speaker 4: call you, I'm like, can I just talk to you
Speaker 4: about something?
Speaker 1: If you're lucky enough to have people that you know, again,
Speaker 1: you're spending that much time on the road with, and
Speaker 1: it doesn't matter what profession. There's a lot of people
Speaker 1: business people that travel on the road together, and.
Speaker 2: Yeah, you spend more time away than you do at home.
Speaker 2: But yeah, I don't know, I get it.
Speaker 1: I mean if you don't have if you've never been
Speaker 1: on the other side of that though, Like I'm not
Speaker 1: a gel you're not a jealous person either, Like I'm not.
Speaker 2: Trusting I trust you. That's bit me in the ass before.
Speaker 1: I've had people cheat on me, and so I think
Speaker 1: there's also that moment where you're like, maybe I'm too trusting,
Speaker 1: But I also here's my thing on that not trying
Speaker 1: to go down a rabbit hole of bit cheating. Going
Speaker 1: back to Mel Robbins, if the person's going to cheat
Speaker 1: let them. I'm gonna let Harma find out. And if
Speaker 1: I find out, you're going to be six feet under.
Speaker 1: And I don't even mean that physically, just in my mind,
Speaker 1: you're dead to me, like keep moving on. So if
Speaker 1: you want to take that risk, and you want to
Speaker 1: risk a good thing, Steve or you know whatever, like.
Speaker 2: Go for it.
Speaker 1: I just don't have the time or energy to like, no,
Speaker 1: be going through your phone or worried about that, Like
Speaker 1: think about how much I'll speak for myself. I used
Speaker 1: to worry about that shit all the time, and I'm like, no,
Speaker 1: if they're gonna cheat me worrying about it, Like fine,
Speaker 1: then whoever you're cheating with, you can have him because
Speaker 1: he's a piece of shit.
Speaker 2: So like you go for it.
Speaker 1: I just don't think like that's where I should spend
Speaker 1: my energy. But that also comes with age.
Speaker 4: I told you, But there's also women that are you know,
Speaker 4: like our age, that do worry about that because they're probably.
Speaker 3: With totally real cheaters, you know, totally.
Speaker 4: If there's any relationship I should be worried about, it's
Speaker 4: shir it's with Steve Penderry. I mean, there's just so
Speaker 4: many plans and professions we're doing and I don't know
Speaker 4: anything about it. I have to read about it, so
Speaker 4: you have a lot of explaining to do, sir.
Speaker 2: Oh yeah, I.
Speaker 4: Miss so I'm not gonna lie. I do miss them
Speaker 4: a lot. I miss you.
Speaker 3: I like the time away is great, but it was
Speaker 3: so funny.
Speaker 4: I just saw home and it was a Sunday, and
Speaker 4: I said, you know, well, we can't keep away from
Speaker 4: each other on a Sunday.
Speaker 1: You know.
Speaker 3: I was like, oh, yeah, but I do. I miss
Speaker 3: my guys.
Speaker 4: I know some of them just work dayturna five hundred,
Speaker 4: so I got to check in.
Speaker 3: But yeah, I miss those guys.
Speaker 1: I saw Myers yesterday because I just saw the highlights
Speaker 1: because there was a rain delay, so I didn't see
Speaker 1: the race.
Speaker 3: But oh yeah, they are rain delays.
Speaker 1: Chris Myers. Can I just speaking of another work Husard.
Speaker 1: Chris Myers is one of the funniest people I've ever
Speaker 1: speaking of people we miss.
Speaker 2: I love him.
Speaker 1: And for those of you listening to the podcast and
Speaker 1: you're like, what's happening in these people? Chris Myers is.
Speaker 1: He does football, he does NASCAR, he does the dog Show.
Speaker 1: If you've never seen Chris Myers, call a Westminster dog show.
Speaker 1: You're missing out in life, but you are. Yeah, it's
Speaker 1: all good. We have a lot of things to be
Speaker 1: thankful for. So to recap we need to calm down.
Speaker 1: We need to not stress about things we can't control.
Speaker 1: We need to prioritize some personal space.
Speaker 3: And the major casting our meeting.
Speaker 1: Gonna yep, we're gonna meet Taylor Swift in the way
Speaker 1: that we want. It needs to be under our terms
Speaker 1: and conditions and something she'd agreed to, which is a
Speaker 1: good time, privacy and who gives a fuck?
Speaker 2: And I need to get you some sleep.
Speaker 3: I know, I'm gonna have a cup of coffee. What
Speaker 3: watching right now?
Speaker 2: A way to sleep?
Speaker 4: I know, Well it's four o'clock. What should I be
Speaker 4: watching right now?
Speaker 3: Like? What am I watching? What do I to dive into?
Speaker 4: I want the I want our people to let me know,
Speaker 4: like what do they recommend? I do need to I
Speaker 4: do need to catch up on Salt Lake. I guess
Speaker 4: Beverly Hills. The people staying here are huge fans of
Speaker 4: the Summerhouse. I've never done that before.
Speaker 2: I'll tell you a good show to watch. Paradise.
Speaker 1: Paradise, It's honest, It's on Hulu and it's Sterling Brown
Speaker 1: and he was in it's the same guy that wrote
Speaker 1: This is Us and Rounds the actor and this is
Speaker 1: Us and he's an m incredible It's I. I although
Speaker 1: I like to binge something and it's only the like
Speaker 1: come out every week episode, So I need to like
Speaker 1: take a few weeks off and then jump back into
Speaker 1: it because I like.
Speaker 3: When I have a notice just came out.
Speaker 2: Oh, okay, we are you into that? I am? I am.
Speaker 1: I was really into season one. Season two lost me
Speaker 1: a little bit. But I can dive right back in.
Speaker 3: Sure. Okay, it's like a whole new cast, whole new season.
Speaker 1: Great, all right, but yeah, calm down, community, What else
Speaker 1: should we be watching. I need some binge worthy series
Speaker 1: one that maybe have a few seasons that like I
Speaker 1: just don't even know about.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I got.
Speaker 4: To finish The Bear. I never finished that season. We
Speaker 4: started it in the summer, and we need to finish it.
Speaker 2: The Crown.
Speaker 1: I never finished the Crown, you told me, Yeah, so good,
Speaker 1: so good.
Speaker 3: I missed the Crown, all right, Yeah, let.
Speaker 2: Us know, Yeah, let us know. I love you. You
Speaker 2: look so cozy, comfy and adorable. I love you. I
Speaker 2: miss you.
Speaker 1: I'll see you in a couple of weeks. And you, guys,
Speaker 1: thank you for listening. Also, if you have heard anything
Speaker 1: on this podcast that you have thoughts to, comments and concerns,
Speaker 1: please give us some feedback in our questions because it
Speaker 1: really means a lot. You guys, ask us questions and
Speaker 1: ask us to answer them. I would love some feedback
Speaker 1: on how we can like work on the things that
Speaker 1: Aaron and I.
Speaker 2: Want to work on.
Speaker 1: Zipper zipper, zipper and calming down and I don't know,
Speaker 1: just living life, living our best life. I'm going to
Speaker 1: go on another cocktail because fuck it, you know I'm.
Speaker 3: Going to put a cocktail in my coffee.
Speaker 2: No, that's not true, all right, I love you, I
Speaker 2: love you. Calm Down with Erin and Carissa is a
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