WEBVTT - Second Date Update PODCAST: “He’s Too Perfect”

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<v Speaker 1>Frooking jewels, second dat day. A lot of times in dating,

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<v Speaker 1>you'll meet somebody who's too good to be true, you

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<v Speaker 1>know what I mean? They have like everything that you want,

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<v Speaker 1>except there's something wrong with them. I know, I know

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<v Speaker 1>for me, I met this girl one time, too good

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<v Speaker 1>to be true. She was not the brightest, yeah, hot

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<v Speaker 1>and mute, and I was like, she has everything that

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<v Speaker 1>I look for in a woman. And then come to

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<v Speaker 1>find out she's super close with her family and I

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<v Speaker 1>can't day a girl who just ruin it for me.

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<v Speaker 1>I was like, that is way too good to be true.

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<v Speaker 1>Daddy issues when you need them. I know it sucked. Guys. Yea.

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<v Speaker 1>Mary is on the phone with us and she thinks

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<v Speaker 1>that she met a guy who is too good to

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<v Speaker 1>be true. His name is Ray, and that's who she

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<v Speaker 1>wants us to call today. Hi, Mary, how are you hey?

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<v Speaker 1>I'm good? Thanks, how are you good? Thank you for

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<v Speaker 1>your email. Appreciate it. So why don't you tell us

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<v Speaker 1>a little bit about Ray, the guy that you want

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<v Speaker 1>to call today? Okay, thanks, I appreciate it. I'm nervously,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm glad. I don't know it. Okay. So I met

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<v Speaker 1>him at the gym I just saw him like on

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<v Speaker 1>an elliptical machine, and I kind of couldn't take my

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<v Speaker 1>eyes off him. But I had to try hard too,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, so he didn't notice. And I actually timed

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<v Speaker 1>my walk to the water fountain in a way as

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<v Speaker 1>he was wrapping up, you know, so you waited till

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<v Speaker 1>he was walking the water fountain. Then he jumped on

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<v Speaker 1>his back and he said, Hey, my name's Mary. Yeah, yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>I wanted to Was that the first time you had

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<v Speaker 1>ever seen him before? Yes, okay, I kind of timed it,

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<v Speaker 1>and I my timing was certainly on my side because

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<v Speaker 1>our eyes just locked and he said hey, and I

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<v Speaker 1>saw hi. You know, I grew okay, so like I

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<v Speaker 1>had never noticed him, and we just talked and it

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<v Speaker 1>was instant that we had a connection, you know. Joking

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<v Speaker 1>was really easy, lighthearted, and everything just kind of fell

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<v Speaker 1>on a place. So he suggested we get some sushi

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<v Speaker 1>the next night, and I said, sure. You so your

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<v Speaker 1>email said that you think that he's too good to

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<v Speaker 1>be true? Why is that? Oh my god, he is

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<v Speaker 1>too good to be true. A great smile like that

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<v Speaker 1>was the first thing that I noticed, okay, And I thought,

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<v Speaker 1>that's a smile, right, but anything else is in place.

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<v Speaker 1>He's never been divorced. He doesn't speak badly about women

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<v Speaker 1>or his mom. He m great job. I'm so used

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<v Speaker 1>to guys or I have to pay the bill and

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<v Speaker 1>I don't mind caring that. Like they're never on top

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<v Speaker 1>of it financially, and he works in finance. He's stable.

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<v Speaker 1>You know, he's a gentleman. He pulls a chair out

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<v Speaker 1>for me. It's a light. That's what kind of guys

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<v Speaker 1>do you normally go out with? Mary? Musicians and guys

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<v Speaker 1>who have really interesting that nothing gets musicians. I don't

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<v Speaker 1>mean that, but they're just like people who are even

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<v Speaker 1>if they say they work in finance, they're not stable.

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<v Speaker 1>They're still living at home. They never have enough money.

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<v Speaker 1>The way that you described everything about him. That's good, though,

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<v Speaker 1>I just picture you out with like guys who have

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<v Speaker 1>no job that are just like chicks, right, aren't they stupid?

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<v Speaker 1>Hey pay the bill. I'm so angry about women right now. Well,

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<v Speaker 1>maybe you don't know what it's right being a woman.

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<v Speaker 1>That the thing is when you start dating guys like

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<v Speaker 1>you know, like maybe they've been divorced and they've been

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<v Speaker 1>so hurt that they can't trust women again. Or you know,

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<v Speaker 1>I mean, this comes out and this guy just didn't

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<v Speaker 1>have any He's too good, that's any It's too good

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<v Speaker 1>to be too there's no issues. How did the date go?

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<v Speaker 1>I went great. It was easy again, you know, just talking.

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<v Speaker 1>It just seemed comfortable. And I mean he leaned towards me,

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<v Speaker 1>and you know, he's complimented my dress and high looks,

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<v Speaker 1>and he saw me in the gym, I was sweatier

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<v Speaker 1>and I meant that more for a day. And he

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<v Speaker 1>kiss me on the cheek, which is fine because it's

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<v Speaker 1>the first day. I don't mind that it's not on on

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<v Speaker 1>the list. I wouldn't. I wouldn't mind it if it was.

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<v Speaker 1>But I don't mind that it wasn't. Five minutes later

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<v Speaker 1>and there's there's nothing. And I know he mentioned I

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<v Speaker 1>think he did said he was dating other people right now,

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<v Speaker 1>so something came up. And he's such a perfect guy

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<v Speaker 1>that of course I know he's going to be dating

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<v Speaker 1>other guys. We're not in a relationship. I get it.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm saying, don't worry, guys, you are fine right now.

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<v Speaker 1>You can because you can slow down a little bit.

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<v Speaker 1>Why hasn't I you know, I just wanted I just

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<v Speaker 1>thought worked so well. I just thought maybe. But by

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<v Speaker 1>the third day, I get a text about getting together

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<v Speaker 1>another week, you know, and I apologize if I didn't

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<v Speaker 1>hear this. You said a lot of words very much,

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<v Speaker 1>and I may have missed it. How long has it

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<v Speaker 1>been since you heard from this guy? Five days? Five

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<v Speaker 1>day day? And have you seen him at the gym? No?

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<v Speaker 1>Ask me if I've gone every day? Yes? Yeah, Why

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<v Speaker 1>do you think he's not calling you back then? If

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<v Speaker 1>the date went so well, I mean, either it's some

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<v Speaker 1>horrible thing about myself. I don't know, or I'm just

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<v Speaker 1>in the rotation of all the girls he can go

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<v Speaker 1>out with and when it's my turn, you know, after

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<v Speaker 1>this whatever the tenth girl second again, because I think

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<v Speaker 1>he's probably very popular. Yeah, because he's so good. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>he's not going to ever want for a date ever. Okay,

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<v Speaker 1>it sounds like you're in love. Are you in love? Mary?

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<v Speaker 1>I mean I'm in great, like like great? All right, well,

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<v Speaker 1>we'll play a song, come back, call him and get

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<v Speaker 1>your second date up date. Okay, thank you so much. Here, welcome,

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<v Speaker 1>hang on rooking jubil in the morning. We're in the

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<v Speaker 1>middle of a second date. Update and if you're just

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<v Speaker 1>joining us. Mary is on the phone today. She wants

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<v Speaker 1>to call a guy named Ray. They met at the gym,

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<v Speaker 1>and according to her, she thinks that he's too good

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<v Speaker 1>to be true. He's everything that she's ever wanted in

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<v Speaker 1>a man. But it's been five days since she texted

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<v Speaker 1>him and he has not responded, So we're about to

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<v Speaker 1>call him, get him on the phone, and find out

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<v Speaker 1>why he's not getting back to Mary. Mary, I do

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<v Speaker 1>have a question for you, and I don't want you

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<v Speaker 1>to be offended by this, but you sound a little

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<v Speaker 1>obsessed with Ray. Okay, oh really, it's not necessarily a

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<v Speaker 1>bad thing. I just want to know, like, on a

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<v Speaker 1>scale of you want to wear his shirt to sleep

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<v Speaker 1>at night so you can get his scent to I

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<v Speaker 1>want to wear his skin every day for the rest

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<v Speaker 1>of my life. Where do you fall in between that

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<v Speaker 1>scale on obsession in the middle, in the middle. Okay, good,

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<v Speaker 1>that's okay, you'll find him very often. I think it's

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<v Speaker 1>perfectly fine to be excited about this guy. I know,

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<v Speaker 1>and I assume you've done extensive Google searching on him

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<v Speaker 1>as well as much as he asked you that today,

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<v Speaker 1>it's normal you didn't find anything weird though, right, No, nothing,

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<v Speaker 1>of course not. He's the perfect man. She googled his

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<v Speaker 1>name and a picture of James Bond showed up. That's

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<v Speaker 1>how perfect of a man he is. All right, well,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm about to do the phone number and get him

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<v Speaker 1>on the phone and find out why he's not responding

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<v Speaker 1>to you. Okay, Oh god, thank you. Feel so nervous

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<v Speaker 1>for thank you thinking. We'll just relaxing, get get him

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<v Speaker 1>on the phone. We'll do this for you. Thank you,

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<v Speaker 1>thank you so much. We're sorry. Oh my god. Did

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<v Speaker 1>he disconnect his number because I texted him? No? I don't.

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<v Speaker 1>I think I probably doubt the wrong number. Let me

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<v Speaker 1>try again. Okay. I hope that he didn't like cancel

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<v Speaker 1>his phone because of you texting him. It doesn't make

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<v Speaker 1>sense of it. No, it doesn't. I think you're okay,

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<v Speaker 1>Let me just it's probably my fault. I missed down

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<v Speaker 1>numbers all the time. I hope, I hope. Help help

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<v Speaker 1>There we go. Hello, Hey, I was looking for Ray. Yeah, hey, Ray,

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<v Speaker 1>how are you? This is Jewil from brook and Jewil

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<v Speaker 1>in the morning. I'm sorry, what is this in regard

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<v Speaker 1>to It's in regards to a date that you recently

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<v Speaker 1>went on. Yeah, I didn't sign up for any date

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<v Speaker 1>or anything like that. I know you didn't. Ray. I

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<v Speaker 1>host a radio show it's called Brook and Jewil in

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<v Speaker 1>the Morning, and you recently went out on a date

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<v Speaker 1>with one of our listeners and they asked us to

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<v Speaker 1>call you. Okay, you're gonna have to be a little

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<v Speaker 1>bit more specific because I go out with a lot

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<v Speaker 1>of women. Okay. Her name is Mary, and you met

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<v Speaker 1>her at the gym. Oh okay, I remember Mary. She

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<v Speaker 1>says that she's tried to reach out to you since

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<v Speaker 1>your date, but you haven't responded, so she's wondering if

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<v Speaker 1>she did something wrong. Um, I know, it's I know,

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<v Speaker 1>it's a weird phone call. It's a segment that we

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<v Speaker 1>do on our show called the second Date Update. If

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<v Speaker 1>you don't call somebody back after a date and they

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<v Speaker 1>have a question as to why, they'll email us so

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<v Speaker 1>we can get you on the phone and ask. So

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<v Speaker 1>we're asking on Mary's behalf if she did something wrong

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<v Speaker 1>on your date. I mean, we married a nice girl

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<v Speaker 1>and everything. I just you know, when you're like, meet

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<v Speaker 1>somebody and you just feel like you're out of their

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<v Speaker 1>league a little bit. I know, exactly what you're talking about. Ray.

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<v Speaker 1>It happens to me all the time. So are you

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<v Speaker 1>saying you don't feel like Mary's in your league or

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<v Speaker 1>playing on your level? Yeah, I mean potentially. It was

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<v Speaker 1>just it was the way you know, she was looking

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<v Speaker 1>at me and the way she was talking to me.

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<v Speaker 1>I felt like I was doing her a favor by

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<v Speaker 1>going out with her. Did you feel this way? Did

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<v Speaker 1>you feel this way before you went out with her?

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<v Speaker 1>Or this happened like you realize that why you were

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<v Speaker 1>out with her. We were at the gym, I got

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<v Speaker 1>like this kind of desperate feel and you know, I

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<v Speaker 1>was like, she's one of those girls I know I

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<v Speaker 1>can sleep with them if we went on again. Like,

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<v Speaker 1>why do you think that you know you can sleep

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<v Speaker 1>with her because she was excited to go out with you. Well,

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<v Speaker 1>I mean I don't really have a hard time finding women.

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<v Speaker 1>You know, usually they just kind of come to me.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm schedule permits them, you know. Okay, So would you

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<v Speaker 1>qualify your date with Mary as a pity date? I

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<v Speaker 1>feel like a a little harsh you know, I mean,

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<v Speaker 1>sometimes just got a slum it, you know what I mean?

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<v Speaker 1>Why you got to get back to charity? Why would

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<v Speaker 1>you even go out with her to begin with? I mean,

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<v Speaker 1>I don't think you're doing someone a favor by considering

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<v Speaker 1>them less than you. You know, I'm sorry, I'm really

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<v Speaker 1>trying not to be mean that, not wan I'm trying

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<v Speaker 1>to do. It's just that I'm being honest. I feel

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<v Speaker 1>like kind of doing her favor, and I thought, why not,

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<v Speaker 1>I got nothing else to do, I might as well know,

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<v Speaker 1>all right, I appreciate your honesty a lot. Really, Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>I mean it's hard to find people that will just

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<v Speaker 1>be blunt about that kind of stuff. Normally people always

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<v Speaker 1>are like, well, I don't know, we just didn't have

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<v Speaker 1>good chemistry. I think you're an egomaniac. He's completely rude.

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<v Speaker 1>I mean, if you're Jennifer Lawrence, you're not going to

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<v Speaker 1>go out with some guy that manages a subway like

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<v Speaker 1>that's You're gonna find someone that's I'm equal footing with you,

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<v Speaker 1>and I just I felt like you stepped below me. Okay,

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<v Speaker 1>Like I said, thanks for your honesty, man, I also

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<v Speaker 1>have to be honest with you now and let you

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<v Speaker 1>know that Mary is actually on the phone listening to this. Yeah, Hi,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm here, Hi, I mean, hi, Look Mary, I'm not

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<v Speaker 1>trying to be mean. Do you already? I know? I know,

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<v Speaker 1>I understand completely. You know what I mean? I get it, Mary, Mary, Mary,

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<v Speaker 1>Mary hard as you and you are a rare catch.

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<v Speaker 1>You just know it. Mary. Did you hear what he

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<v Speaker 1>was just saying about you? Did you hear what he

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<v Speaker 1>was just saying about it? But I don't mind, because

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<v Speaker 1>I can try to be better. I'd rather know, and

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<v Speaker 1>then I have a goal. I'd rather know that and

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<v Speaker 1>I could try to be better. No, Mary, you love

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<v Speaker 1>yourself for who you are, and you have some self

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<v Speaker 1>confidence and some self I know about loving myself for

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<v Speaker 1>who I am right now. But we could still always

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<v Speaker 1>want to improve and hope to improve it. Otherwise, what's

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<v Speaker 1>the point, you know? But I'm going to try to

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<v Speaker 1>get better. But what if you say that I was constructive?

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<v Speaker 1>He just slammed you. I didn't take it that way.

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<v Speaker 1>I mean, he's kind of right. He's high standards, and

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<v Speaker 1>like I said, I told you guys, he's an amazing guy.

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<v Speaker 1>He's rare. And you know, Ray, it was an honor

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<v Speaker 1>just to have dinner with you. If you guys, talk

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<v Speaker 1>to more, you'll you'll figure it out. Like I did Mary.

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<v Speaker 1>I appreciate that you want to do to work up

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<v Speaker 1>to eventually being in my league. And to be fair,

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<v Speaker 1>I feel like the book a little bit of work.

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<v Speaker 1>I think that you know you could be there. There's

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<v Speaker 1>a few things I definitely know this aren't eight, but

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<v Speaker 1>you know you can improve on. Like you know, I

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<v Speaker 1>know if you were kind of going for some more

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<v Speaker 1>fatty chloric wood or out on a date. Man, I

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<v Speaker 1>feel like, you know, if we get away from that

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<v Speaker 1>kind of stuff can really help you. You mean, okay, okay,

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<v Speaker 1>I can work on that because put me in the

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<v Speaker 1>level you're in, and then it would be it would

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<v Speaker 1>be my honor to try to do that. Verry, are

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<v Speaker 1>you serious? Don't He's right, I don't mind. It's like

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<v Speaker 1>a parent that loves you and wants you to be

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<v Speaker 1>her best. I think you have. I do want to

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<v Speaker 1>be better. I've always wanted to be better. And if

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<v Speaker 1>this is the way I get, you know, to understand

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<v Speaker 1>how to be better, then it's abdussing. You're walking into

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<v Speaker 1>like a controlling, narcissistic ego maniac. I have to say something.

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<v Speaker 1>You guys have been nice to me, but enough enough.

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<v Speaker 1>You shouldn't talk about in this way. I know who

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<v Speaker 1>he is. I met him. You're a baby to jell Us.

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<v Speaker 1>We stop being so rude to him, or I'm gonna

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<v Speaker 1>have to get out the phone. I'm Mary, I'm sorry,

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<v Speaker 1>we're being rude. Y. Do you feel like we're being

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<v Speaker 1>rude to you? You're being Yeah, I feel like there's

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<v Speaker 1>some unfair you know, jobs being made to me because

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<v Speaker 1>I'm trying to Mary becomes the really pretty person. I

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<v Speaker 1>know this. Oh my god, what are you doing? Well?

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<v Speaker 1>In that case, I'm doing I'm an adult, and I

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<v Speaker 1>don't think it's very respectful what you guys are doing. Hey, Mary,

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<v Speaker 1>it's true, you're an adult. You can make your own decisions.

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<v Speaker 1>And if you feel like Ray is right and you

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<v Speaker 1>were out of his league and apparently you want to

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<v Speaker 1>work on getting into his league, I'll ask the question,

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<v Speaker 1>would you guys like to go on a second date? Ray?

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<v Speaker 1>We will pay for you to go on a second

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<v Speaker 1>date with Mary if you will accept. I mean, yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>but I can't promise to be another date after that? Okay, Mary,

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<v Speaker 1>are you willing to give it another try? I mean,

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<v Speaker 1>I hope we have another date, but I think it's

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<v Speaker 1>a great to have an opportunity to try again. So yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>all right, well, congratulations you guys, we're sending you out

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<v Speaker 1>on a second date. Ray. I have to tell you you,

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<v Speaker 1>thank you, thank you, thank you for giving me another chance.

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<v Speaker 1>I would not let you down. I promised you I

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<v Speaker 1>will not let you down. Welcome. Okay, How every butterfly

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<v Speaker 1>starts out in Caterpillar in the Morning text in at

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<v Speaker 1>seven eight five nine two that simply says, what the

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<v Speaker 1>f just happened? It's Brooke and Jewil in the Morning talking,

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<v Speaker 1>of course, about the second Date update. And this is

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<v Speaker 1>probably the first second date update we've done where I'm

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<v Speaker 1>not a fan of either of these people. Yeah, honestly,

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<v Speaker 1>Mary is the girl from the second Date update. She

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<v Speaker 1>wanted us to call this guy named Ray. The whole time.

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<v Speaker 1>She's talking about how perfect he was, how amazing he was.

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<v Speaker 1>She's always wanted to date a guy like this. They

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<v Speaker 1>ended up going out. He wasn't calling her back. We

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<v Speaker 1>got him on the phone, and the reason he wasn't

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<v Speaker 1>calling her back was, well, she's not really on my level.

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<v Speaker 1>And I sort of went out with her because sometimes

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<v Speaker 1>you gotta slum it. She seemed like a nice girl

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<v Speaker 1>when I met her, and I figured I'd throw the

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<v Speaker 1>dame a bone, let her go out with a big

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<v Speaker 1>fish like Ray. That was his whole attitude the whole time.

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<v Speaker 1>And I thought for sure, like we were going to

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<v Speaker 1>get her on the line, you know, because she's listening

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<v Speaker 1>to all this and she was gonna just rage on

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<v Speaker 1>this guy or end up crying because he was so

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<v Speaker 1>mean to her. Instead, she was like, Ray, You're just

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<v Speaker 1>so amazing. I can change. I can be whatever you

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<v Speaker 1>need me to be. I want to play on your level.

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<v Speaker 1>I really want to. It is so sad. I just

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<v Speaker 1>want to like that girl. I just wish there was

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<v Speaker 1>like an injection of self confidence that you could take

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<v Speaker 1>like a shot, and I would give that to her. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>she definitely needs to shower in some old spice swell though.

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<v Speaker 1>I did see a text message that came in and says,

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<v Speaker 1>this is totally going to turn on Ray because she's

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<v Speaker 1>gonna end up like falling in love with him, stalking him,

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<v Speaker 1>and then eventually like making a skin doll out of use.

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<v Speaker 1>Here's a clip in case you missed it. You're walking

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<v Speaker 1>into like a controlling, narcissistic ego maniac. I say something,

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<v Speaker 1>you guys have been nice to me, but enough enough.

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<v Speaker 1>You shouldn't talk about in this way. I know who

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<v Speaker 1>he is. I met him really distell us. Please stop

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<v Speaker 1>being so weird to him, or I'm gonna have to

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<v Speaker 1>get out of the phone. That was That was my

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<v Speaker 1>favorite part from the second Adye up date is how

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<v Speaker 1>she got mad at us because we were like, dude,

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<v Speaker 1>you're kind of a douche. Yeah, and she's like, stop

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<v Speaker 1>talking about him like that. He's amazing and I will

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<v Speaker 1>do whatever it takes to be on his level. I've

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<v Speaker 1>never heard a guy be able to call a girl

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<v Speaker 1>not on his level. She's a little chubby and eats

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<v Speaker 1>the wrong foods and probably not hot enough for him,

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<v Speaker 1>and she's still in his la palm of his name

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<v Speaker 1>does so then you know what, actually probably one of

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<v Speaker 1>the most successful second dates with that, because those two

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<v Speaker 1>really deserve each other. There's somebody for everybody out there. Yes,