Speaker 1: Frooking jewels, second dat day. A lot of times in dating,
Speaker 1: you'll meet somebody who's too good to be true, you
Speaker 1: know what I mean? They have like everything that you want,
Speaker 1: except there's something wrong with them. I know, I know
Speaker 1: for me, I met this girl one time, too good
Speaker 1: to be true. She was not the brightest, yeah, hot
Speaker 1: and mute, and I was like, she has everything that
Speaker 1: I look for in a woman. And then come to
Speaker 1: find out she's super close with her family and I
Speaker 1: can't day a girl who just ruin it for me.
Speaker 1: I was like, that is way too good to be true.
Speaker 1: Daddy issues when you need them. I know it sucked. Guys. Yea.
Speaker 1: Mary is on the phone with us and she thinks
Speaker 1: that she met a guy who is too good to
Speaker 1: be true. His name is Ray, and that's who she
Speaker 1: wants us to call today. Hi, Mary, how are you hey?
Speaker 1: I'm good? Thanks, how are you good? Thank you for
Speaker 1: your email. Appreciate it. So why don't you tell us
Speaker 1: a little bit about Ray, the guy that you want
Speaker 1: to call today? Okay, thanks, I appreciate it. I'm nervously,
Speaker 1: I'm glad. I don't know it. Okay. So I met
Speaker 1: him at the gym I just saw him like on
Speaker 1: an elliptical machine, and I kind of couldn't take my
Speaker 1: eyes off him. But I had to try hard too,
Speaker 1: you know, so he didn't notice. And I actually timed
Speaker 1: my walk to the water fountain in a way as
Speaker 1: he was wrapping up, you know, so you waited till
Speaker 1: he was walking the water fountain. Then he jumped on
Speaker 1: his back and he said, Hey, my name's Mary. Yeah, yeah,
Speaker 1: I wanted to Was that the first time you had
Speaker 1: ever seen him before? Yes, okay, I kind of timed it,
Speaker 1: and I my timing was certainly on my side because
Speaker 1: our eyes just locked and he said hey, and I
Speaker 1: saw hi. You know, I grew okay, so like I
Speaker 1: had never noticed him, and we just talked and it
Speaker 1: was instant that we had a connection, you know. Joking
Speaker 1: was really easy, lighthearted, and everything just kind of fell
Speaker 1: on a place. So he suggested we get some sushi
Speaker 1: the next night, and I said, sure. You so your
Speaker 1: email said that you think that he's too good to
Speaker 1: be true? Why is that? Oh my god, he is
Speaker 1: too good to be true. A great smile like that
Speaker 1: was the first thing that I noticed, okay, And I thought,
Speaker 1: that's a smile, right, but anything else is in place.
Speaker 1: He's never been divorced. He doesn't speak badly about women
Speaker 1: or his mom. He m great job. I'm so used
Speaker 1: to guys or I have to pay the bill and
Speaker 1: I don't mind caring that. Like they're never on top
Speaker 1: of it financially, and he works in finance. He's stable.
Speaker 1: You know, he's a gentleman. He pulls a chair out
Speaker 1: for me. It's a light. That's what kind of guys
Speaker 1: do you normally go out with? Mary? Musicians and guys
Speaker 1: who have really interesting that nothing gets musicians. I don't
Speaker 1: mean that, but they're just like people who are even
Speaker 1: if they say they work in finance, they're not stable.
Speaker 1: They're still living at home. They never have enough money.
Speaker 1: The way that you described everything about him. That's good, though,
Speaker 1: I just picture you out with like guys who have
Speaker 1: no job that are just like chicks, right, aren't they stupid?
Speaker 1: Hey pay the bill. I'm so angry about women right now. Well,
Speaker 1: maybe you don't know what it's right being a woman.
Speaker 1: That the thing is when you start dating guys like
Speaker 1: you know, like maybe they've been divorced and they've been
Speaker 1: so hurt that they can't trust women again. Or you know,
Speaker 1: I mean, this comes out and this guy just didn't
Speaker 1: have any He's too good, that's any It's too good
Speaker 1: to be too there's no issues. How did the date go?
Speaker 1: I went great. It was easy again, you know, just talking.
Speaker 1: It just seemed comfortable. And I mean he leaned towards me,
Speaker 1: and you know, he's complimented my dress and high looks,
Speaker 1: and he saw me in the gym, I was sweatier
Speaker 1: and I meant that more for a day. And he
Speaker 1: kiss me on the cheek, which is fine because it's
Speaker 1: the first day. I don't mind that it's not on on
Speaker 1: the list. I wouldn't. I wouldn't mind it if it was.
Speaker 1: But I don't mind that it wasn't. Five minutes later
Speaker 1: and there's there's nothing. And I know he mentioned I
Speaker 1: think he did said he was dating other people right now,
Speaker 1: so something came up. And he's such a perfect guy
Speaker 1: that of course I know he's going to be dating
Speaker 1: other guys. We're not in a relationship. I get it.
Speaker 1: I'm saying, don't worry, guys, you are fine right now.
Speaker 1: You can because you can slow down a little bit.
Speaker 1: Why hasn't I you know, I just wanted I just
Speaker 1: thought worked so well. I just thought maybe. But by
Speaker 1: the third day, I get a text about getting together
Speaker 1: another week, you know, and I apologize if I didn't
Speaker 1: hear this. You said a lot of words very much,
Speaker 1: and I may have missed it. How long has it
Speaker 1: been since you heard from this guy? Five days? Five
Speaker 1: day day? And have you seen him at the gym? No?
Speaker 1: Ask me if I've gone every day? Yes? Yeah, Why
Speaker 1: do you think he's not calling you back then? If
Speaker 1: the date went so well, I mean, either it's some
Speaker 1: horrible thing about myself. I don't know, or I'm just
Speaker 1: in the rotation of all the girls he can go
Speaker 1: out with and when it's my turn, you know, after
Speaker 1: this whatever the tenth girl second again, because I think
Speaker 1: he's probably very popular. Yeah, because he's so good. Yeah,
Speaker 1: he's not going to ever want for a date ever. Okay,
Speaker 1: it sounds like you're in love. Are you in love? Mary?
Speaker 1: I mean I'm in great, like like great? All right, well,
Speaker 1: we'll play a song, come back, call him and get
Speaker 1: your second date up date. Okay, thank you so much. Here, welcome,
Speaker 1: hang on rooking jubil in the morning. We're in the
Speaker 1: middle of a second date. Update and if you're just
Speaker 1: joining us. Mary is on the phone today. She wants
Speaker 1: to call a guy named Ray. They met at the gym,
Speaker 1: and according to her, she thinks that he's too good
Speaker 1: to be true. He's everything that she's ever wanted in
Speaker 1: a man. But it's been five days since she texted
Speaker 1: him and he has not responded, So we're about to
Speaker 1: call him, get him on the phone, and find out
Speaker 1: why he's not getting back to Mary. Mary, I do
Speaker 1: have a question for you, and I don't want you
Speaker 1: to be offended by this, but you sound a little
Speaker 1: obsessed with Ray. Okay, oh really, it's not necessarily a
Speaker 1: bad thing. I just want to know, like, on a
Speaker 1: scale of you want to wear his shirt to sleep
Speaker 1: at night so you can get his scent to I
Speaker 1: want to wear his skin every day for the rest
Speaker 1: of my life. Where do you fall in between that
Speaker 1: scale on obsession in the middle, in the middle. Okay, good,
Speaker 1: that's okay, you'll find him very often. I think it's
Speaker 1: perfectly fine to be excited about this guy. I know,
Speaker 1: and I assume you've done extensive Google searching on him
Speaker 1: as well as much as he asked you that today,
Speaker 1: it's normal you didn't find anything weird though, right, No, nothing,
Speaker 1: of course not. He's the perfect man. She googled his
Speaker 1: name and a picture of James Bond showed up. That's
Speaker 1: how perfect of a man he is. All right, well,
Speaker 1: I'm about to do the phone number and get him
Speaker 1: on the phone and find out why he's not responding
Speaker 1: to you. Okay, Oh god, thank you. Feel so nervous
Speaker 1: for thank you thinking. We'll just relaxing, get get him
Speaker 1: on the phone. We'll do this for you. Thank you,
Speaker 1: thank you so much. We're sorry. Oh my god. Did
Speaker 1: he disconnect his number because I texted him? No? I don't.
Speaker 1: I think I probably doubt the wrong number. Let me
Speaker 1: try again. Okay. I hope that he didn't like cancel
Speaker 1: his phone because of you texting him. It doesn't make
Speaker 1: sense of it. No, it doesn't. I think you're okay,
Speaker 1: Let me just it's probably my fault. I missed down
Speaker 1: numbers all the time. I hope, I hope. Help help
Speaker 1: There we go. Hello, Hey, I was looking for Ray. Yeah, hey, Ray,
Speaker 1: how are you? This is Jewil from brook and Jewil
Speaker 1: in the morning. I'm sorry, what is this in regard
Speaker 1: to It's in regards to a date that you recently
Speaker 1: went on. Yeah, I didn't sign up for any date
Speaker 1: or anything like that. I know you didn't. Ray. I
Speaker 1: host a radio show it's called Brook and Jewil in
Speaker 1: the Morning, and you recently went out on a date
Speaker 1: with one of our listeners and they asked us to
Speaker 1: call you. Okay, you're gonna have to be a little
Speaker 1: bit more specific because I go out with a lot
Speaker 1: of women. Okay. Her name is Mary, and you met
Speaker 1: her at the gym. Oh okay, I remember Mary. She
Speaker 1: says that she's tried to reach out to you since
Speaker 1: your date, but you haven't responded, so she's wondering if
Speaker 1: she did something wrong. Um, I know, it's I know,
Speaker 1: it's a weird phone call. It's a segment that we
Speaker 1: do on our show called the second Date Update. If
Speaker 1: you don't call somebody back after a date and they
Speaker 1: have a question as to why, they'll email us so
Speaker 1: we can get you on the phone and ask. So
Speaker 1: we're asking on Mary's behalf if she did something wrong
Speaker 1: on your date. I mean, we married a nice girl
Speaker 1: and everything. I just you know, when you're like, meet
Speaker 1: somebody and you just feel like you're out of their
Speaker 1: league a little bit. I know, exactly what you're talking about. Ray.
Speaker 1: It happens to me all the time. So are you
Speaker 1: saying you don't feel like Mary's in your league or
Speaker 1: playing on your level? Yeah, I mean potentially. It was
Speaker 1: just it was the way you know, she was looking
Speaker 1: at me and the way she was talking to me.
Speaker 1: I felt like I was doing her a favor by
Speaker 1: going out with her. Did you feel this way? Did
Speaker 1: you feel this way before you went out with her?
Speaker 1: Or this happened like you realize that why you were
Speaker 1: out with her. We were at the gym, I got
Speaker 1: like this kind of desperate feel and you know, I
Speaker 1: was like, she's one of those girls I know I
Speaker 1: can sleep with them if we went on again. Like,
Speaker 1: why do you think that you know you can sleep
Speaker 1: with her because she was excited to go out with you. Well,
Speaker 1: I mean I don't really have a hard time finding women.
Speaker 1: You know, usually they just kind of come to me.
Speaker 1: I'm schedule permits them, you know. Okay, So would you
Speaker 1: qualify your date with Mary as a pity date? I
Speaker 1: feel like a a little harsh you know, I mean,
Speaker 1: sometimes just got a slum it, you know what I mean?
Speaker 1: Why you got to get back to charity? Why would
Speaker 1: you even go out with her to begin with? I mean,
Speaker 1: I don't think you're doing someone a favor by considering
Speaker 1: them less than you. You know, I'm sorry, I'm really
Speaker 1: trying not to be mean that, not wan I'm trying
Speaker 1: to do. It's just that I'm being honest. I feel
Speaker 1: like kind of doing her favor, and I thought, why not,
Speaker 1: I got nothing else to do, I might as well know,
Speaker 1: all right, I appreciate your honesty a lot. Really, Yeah,
Speaker 1: I mean it's hard to find people that will just
Speaker 1: be blunt about that kind of stuff. Normally people always
Speaker 1: are like, well, I don't know, we just didn't have
Speaker 1: good chemistry. I think you're an egomaniac. He's completely rude.
Speaker 1: I mean, if you're Jennifer Lawrence, you're not going to
Speaker 1: go out with some guy that manages a subway like
Speaker 1: that's You're gonna find someone that's I'm equal footing with you,
Speaker 1: and I just I felt like you stepped below me. Okay,
Speaker 1: Like I said, thanks for your honesty, man, I also
Speaker 1: have to be honest with you now and let you
Speaker 1: know that Mary is actually on the phone listening to this. Yeah, Hi,
Speaker 1: I'm here, Hi, I mean, hi, Look Mary, I'm not
Speaker 1: trying to be mean. Do you already? I know? I know,
Speaker 1: I understand completely. You know what I mean? I get it, Mary, Mary, Mary,
Speaker 1: Mary hard as you and you are a rare catch.
Speaker 1: You just know it. Mary. Did you hear what he
Speaker 1: was just saying about you? Did you hear what he
Speaker 1: was just saying about it? But I don't mind, because
Speaker 1: I can try to be better. I'd rather know, and
Speaker 1: then I have a goal. I'd rather know that and
Speaker 1: I could try to be better. No, Mary, you love
Speaker 1: yourself for who you are, and you have some self
Speaker 1: confidence and some self I know about loving myself for
Speaker 1: who I am right now. But we could still always
Speaker 1: want to improve and hope to improve it. Otherwise, what's
Speaker 1: the point, you know? But I'm going to try to
Speaker 1: get better. But what if you say that I was constructive?
Speaker 1: He just slammed you. I didn't take it that way.
Speaker 1: I mean, he's kind of right. He's high standards, and
Speaker 1: like I said, I told you guys, he's an amazing guy.
Speaker 1: He's rare. And you know, Ray, it was an honor
Speaker 1: just to have dinner with you. If you guys, talk
Speaker 1: to more, you'll you'll figure it out. Like I did Mary.
Speaker 1: I appreciate that you want to do to work up
Speaker 1: to eventually being in my league. And to be fair,
Speaker 1: I feel like the book a little bit of work.
Speaker 1: I think that you know you could be there. There's
Speaker 1: a few things I definitely know this aren't eight, but
Speaker 1: you know you can improve on. Like you know, I
Speaker 1: know if you were kind of going for some more
Speaker 1: fatty chloric wood or out on a date. Man, I
Speaker 1: feel like, you know, if we get away from that
Speaker 1: kind of stuff can really help you. You mean, okay, okay,
Speaker 1: I can work on that because put me in the
Speaker 1: level you're in, and then it would be it would
Speaker 1: be my honor to try to do that. Verry, are
Speaker 1: you serious? Don't He's right, I don't mind. It's like
Speaker 1: a parent that loves you and wants you to be
Speaker 1: her best. I think you have. I do want to
Speaker 1: be better. I've always wanted to be better. And if
Speaker 1: this is the way I get, you know, to understand
Speaker 1: how to be better, then it's abdussing. You're walking into
Speaker 1: like a controlling, narcissistic ego maniac. I have to say something.
Speaker 1: You guys have been nice to me, but enough enough.
Speaker 1: You shouldn't talk about in this way. I know who
Speaker 1: he is. I met him. You're a baby to jell Us.
Speaker 1: We stop being so rude to him, or I'm gonna
Speaker 1: have to get out the phone. I'm Mary, I'm sorry,
Speaker 1: we're being rude. Y. Do you feel like we're being
Speaker 1: rude to you? You're being Yeah, I feel like there's
Speaker 1: some unfair you know, jobs being made to me because
Speaker 1: I'm trying to Mary becomes the really pretty person. I
Speaker 1: know this. Oh my god, what are you doing? Well?
Speaker 1: In that case, I'm doing I'm an adult, and I
Speaker 1: don't think it's very respectful what you guys are doing. Hey, Mary,
Speaker 1: it's true, you're an adult. You can make your own decisions.
Speaker 1: And if you feel like Ray is right and you
Speaker 1: were out of his league and apparently you want to
Speaker 1: work on getting into his league, I'll ask the question,
Speaker 1: would you guys like to go on a second date? Ray?
Speaker 1: We will pay for you to go on a second
Speaker 1: date with Mary if you will accept. I mean, yeah,
Speaker 1: but I can't promise to be another date after that? Okay, Mary,
Speaker 1: are you willing to give it another try? I mean,
Speaker 1: I hope we have another date, but I think it's
Speaker 1: a great to have an opportunity to try again. So yeah,
Speaker 1: all right, well, congratulations you guys, we're sending you out
Speaker 1: on a second date. Ray. I have to tell you you,
Speaker 1: thank you, thank you, thank you for giving me another chance.
Speaker 1: I would not let you down. I promised you I
Speaker 1: will not let you down. Welcome. Okay, How every butterfly
Speaker 1: starts out in Caterpillar in the Morning text in at
Speaker 1: seven eight five nine two that simply says, what the
Speaker 1: f just happened? It's Brooke and Jewil in the Morning talking,
Speaker 1: of course, about the second Date update. And this is
Speaker 1: probably the first second date update we've done where I'm
Speaker 1: not a fan of either of these people. Yeah, honestly,
Speaker 1: Mary is the girl from the second Date update. She
Speaker 1: wanted us to call this guy named Ray. The whole time.
Speaker 1: She's talking about how perfect he was, how amazing he was.
Speaker 1: She's always wanted to date a guy like this. They
Speaker 1: ended up going out. He wasn't calling her back. We
Speaker 1: got him on the phone, and the reason he wasn't
Speaker 1: calling her back was, well, she's not really on my level.
Speaker 1: And I sort of went out with her because sometimes
Speaker 1: you gotta slum it. She seemed like a nice girl
Speaker 1: when I met her, and I figured I'd throw the
Speaker 1: dame a bone, let her go out with a big
Speaker 1: fish like Ray. That was his whole attitude the whole time.
Speaker 1: And I thought for sure, like we were going to
Speaker 1: get her on the line, you know, because she's listening
Speaker 1: to all this and she was gonna just rage on
Speaker 1: this guy or end up crying because he was so
Speaker 1: mean to her. Instead, she was like, Ray, You're just
Speaker 1: so amazing. I can change. I can be whatever you
Speaker 1: need me to be. I want to play on your level.
Speaker 1: I really want to. It is so sad. I just
Speaker 1: want to like that girl. I just wish there was
Speaker 1: like an injection of self confidence that you could take
Speaker 1: like a shot, and I would give that to her. Yeah,
Speaker 1: she definitely needs to shower in some old spice swell though.
Speaker 1: I did see a text message that came in and says,
Speaker 1: this is totally going to turn on Ray because she's
Speaker 1: gonna end up like falling in love with him, stalking him,
Speaker 1: and then eventually like making a skin doll out of use.
Speaker 1: Here's a clip in case you missed it. You're walking
Speaker 1: into like a controlling, narcissistic ego maniac. I say something,
Speaker 1: you guys have been nice to me, but enough enough.
Speaker 1: You shouldn't talk about in this way. I know who
Speaker 1: he is. I met him really distell us. Please stop
Speaker 1: being so weird to him, or I'm gonna have to
Speaker 1: get out of the phone. That was That was my
Speaker 1: favorite part from the second Adye up date is how
Speaker 1: she got mad at us because we were like, dude,
Speaker 1: you're kind of a douche. Yeah, and she's like, stop
Speaker 1: talking about him like that. He's amazing and I will
Speaker 1: do whatever it takes to be on his level. I've
Speaker 1: never heard a guy be able to call a girl
Speaker 1: not on his level. She's a little chubby and eats
Speaker 1: the wrong foods and probably not hot enough for him,
Speaker 1: and she's still in his la palm of his name
Speaker 1: does so then you know what, actually probably one of
Speaker 1: the most successful second dates with that, because those two
Speaker 1: really deserve each other. There's somebody for everybody out there. Yes,