WEBVTT - She Had His Baby 0:00:00.760 --> 0:00:03.760 This is the Ben and Ashley I Almost Famous Podcast 0:00:03.840 --> 0:00:04.640 with iHeartRadio. 0:00:05.840 --> 0:00:08.520 Hey guys, welcome to the Almost Famous Podcast. Today is 0:00:08.520 --> 0:00:11.600 the most exciting episode we've ever had because it is 0:00:11.720 --> 0:00:14.960 Ben and Jess's baby story. They just got on. It's 0:00:15.000 --> 0:00:16.599 the first time I've seen Ben for twelve days. But 0:00:16.600 --> 0:00:18.400 I said, it feels like eternity because there's been so 0:00:18.480 --> 0:00:22.240 much that has happened in his life since. And I 0:00:22.280 --> 0:00:24.880 also feel like you guys are celebrities right now because 0:00:25.920 --> 0:00:28.280 because like it's like, do I even know you anymore? 0:00:29.360 --> 0:00:34.680 Is there like a whole other perse your tool are people? Okay? Well, 0:00:34.720 --> 0:00:37.360 birth stories are my absolute favorite. I want every single 0:00:37.400 --> 0:00:42.080 detail of it. But first, how are you doing well? 0:00:42.120 --> 0:00:44.400 First of all, I knew that you would want every detail, 0:00:44.440 --> 0:00:46.440 so I literally journaled timestamps. 0:00:46.479 --> 0:00:49.239 She did, and we talked about it in the hospital. 0:00:49.280 --> 0:00:51.360 She goes, It's gonna be so great to talk about 0:00:51.360 --> 0:00:55.440 this with Ashley because I have everything timestamp Yes. 0:00:55.320 --> 0:00:58.160 Like why do I love birth stories with so much detail? 0:00:58.720 --> 0:01:01.279 I think because they're all so different, and like I 0:01:01.320 --> 0:01:03.520 want to tell mine now like I want everyone else. 0:01:03.560 --> 0:01:05.800 You know, you get it, right, I totally get it. 0:01:05.800 --> 0:01:08.840 It Also is just like such a big accomplishment that 0:01:08.880 --> 0:01:10.920 you like want everyone to know what you've done. 0:01:11.440 --> 0:01:15.119 I feel like, yeah, I think that there's definitely because 0:01:15.160 --> 0:01:17.199 there's a uniqueness to every single one. 0:01:17.400 --> 0:01:19.240 Yes, exactly what we're doing. 0:01:19.480 --> 0:01:22.440 Everyone is just like you're right. Everyone is like a 0:01:23.200 --> 0:01:26.200 rocky story. Well I don't know if I called mine 0:01:26.200 --> 0:01:30.479 a rocky stores. I was like, it's easy, but okay, ready, 0:01:30.760 --> 0:01:31.120 let's go. 0:01:32.040 --> 0:01:35.280 Okay, Well, we checked into the hospital Monday night at 0:01:35.600 --> 0:01:36.800 seven thirty. 0:01:36.560 --> 0:01:43.559 Ish, I'll add because we had a plan and the 0:01:43.560 --> 0:01:46.920 hospital had us at a check in time. We did 0:01:46.959 --> 0:01:51.000 something I would recommend to every couple that is able 0:01:51.120 --> 0:01:54.400 that is kind of planning an induction. We went to 0:01:54.480 --> 0:01:58.280 a great dinner together before we went to the hospital, 0:01:58.360 --> 0:02:00.880 so so cute. We have like a little date night. 0:02:01.320 --> 0:02:03.320 And it was weird because I was like, when we 0:02:03.400 --> 0:02:06.120 leave here, we're pulling up to a hospital to have 0:02:06.160 --> 0:02:08.480 a baby. So that's how we start our evening. 0:02:08.639 --> 0:02:12.160 And then yeah, and we checked in Monday, Monday night. 0:02:12.120 --> 0:02:16.079 Monday night, and I obviously I wasn't in active labor. 0:02:16.240 --> 0:02:19.480 I was like barely dilated. So their goal overnight was 0:02:19.480 --> 0:02:23.000 to get me dilated. We knew that she was head 0:02:23.080 --> 0:02:26.960 down and so I just like got all checked out, 0:02:26.960 --> 0:02:29.480 and then they started to give me sidotech to get 0:02:29.480 --> 0:02:33.000 dilated at like eight thirty that night, so I got 0:02:33.000 --> 0:02:36.680 that every four hours, and I started to have contractions 0:02:36.720 --> 0:02:39.560 at like nine thirty, but there wasn't any pattern to 0:02:39.600 --> 0:02:43.880 them or anything like that. So then they kept trying 0:02:43.880 --> 0:02:47.239 to put like the balloon in to dilate my cervix faster. 0:02:48.000 --> 0:02:50.280 Did you have the epidurla with the balloon in? No? 0:02:51.240 --> 0:02:51.720 Why not? 0:02:52.280 --> 0:02:54.800 I told you. My nurse told me. She was like, 0:02:54.880 --> 0:02:57.320 you can do it without an epidural, because because I 0:02:57.360 --> 0:02:59.880 wasn't dilated at all, she was like, if you get up, 0:02:59.880 --> 0:03:02.040 a girl you like can't get up for who knows 0:03:02.040 --> 0:03:05.200 how long. And I'm actually glad I didn't because I 0:03:05.280 --> 0:03:08.360 end up laboring for thirty six hours. So I was 0:03:08.400 --> 0:03:10.160 happy to be able to get up and stuff. 0:03:10.680 --> 0:03:14.360 Okay, I'm just this is not my story obviously, so 0:03:14.360 --> 0:03:16.040 I'm just going to chime in with my thoughts a 0:03:16.080 --> 0:03:17.000 little bit during this. 0:03:17.120 --> 0:03:18.960 Please, Yeah, we need the chime in. 0:03:19.120 --> 0:03:22.680 Yeah, We're gonna put a balloon in to help the dilation. 0:03:22.840 --> 0:03:26.120 I'm like, Oh, that doesn't sound that aggressive. Okay, just 0:03:26.160 --> 0:03:30.400 remember that thought. Just remember that thought, as she continues. 0:03:31.080 --> 0:03:33.880 So they try to put it in at twelve am, 0:03:34.000 --> 0:03:38.440 and I wasn't ready for it, but I did get 0:03:38.440 --> 0:03:41.320 pain management in my IV throughout. I wasn't like totally 0:03:41.680 --> 0:03:44.920 toughing it out because it was really aggressive. And then 0:03:44.920 --> 0:03:46.680 they tried to get at one forty five, but I 0:03:46.720 --> 0:03:50.680 still wasn't dilated. And then at four am they were 0:03:50.720 --> 0:03:54.160 finally able to get it in. So I'd had like 0:03:54.560 --> 0:03:58.440 three doses of the side attech by then, So we've 0:03:58.480 --> 0:03:59.080 got the balloon in. 0:03:59.240 --> 0:04:00.440 How many centimeters were you? 0:04:01.240 --> 0:04:04.000 I was only one to get the Holy moly, girl, 0:04:04.360 --> 0:04:07.560 I know. So then I got another side of TECK 0:04:07.600 --> 0:04:11.080 at eight fifteen to get even more dilated. And then 0:04:11.440 --> 0:04:13.640 at like around ten am, they tried to get the 0:04:13.640 --> 0:04:15.520 balloon out because it had been in there for six 0:04:15.560 --> 0:04:20.240 hours and it wasn't ready. And then they tried to 0:04:20.279 --> 0:04:22.240 get at one forty five and they only got half 0:04:22.240 --> 0:04:25.000 of it out, so then I still had like another 0:04:25.040 --> 0:04:27.760 half in because it makes like a sandwich around your cervix, 0:04:28.800 --> 0:04:31.080 so the other half was still in and so we 0:04:31.080 --> 0:04:32.600 were basically just like waiting all day. 0:04:32.880 --> 0:04:33.880 What did it feel like? 0:04:34.560 --> 0:04:37.800 Just like a lot of pressure, okay, And like I 0:04:37.839 --> 0:04:39.719 was still getting up and going to the bathroom and stuff, 0:04:39.720 --> 0:04:43.120 and it just felt like it just felt yeah, pressure 0:04:43.160 --> 0:04:45.920 and like there was something stuck up my body, which 0:04:45.960 --> 0:04:46.480 there was. 0:04:47.320 --> 0:04:50.360 Did you feel like with the contractions intense at this point? 0:04:51.040 --> 0:04:54.200 They weren't. It was more like cramping contractions. It wasn't 0:04:54.200 --> 0:04:58.560 like active, active labor. Okay, it really wasn't that bad. 0:04:58.600 --> 0:04:59.960 We were just sitting around. 0:05:00.000 --> 0:05:02.120 I know why you're asking me. I have no idea 0:05:02.680 --> 0:05:03.920 you were in time. 0:05:04.600 --> 0:05:05.760 I see the same thing. 0:05:05.920 --> 0:05:06.200 I know. 0:05:06.680 --> 0:05:10.080 I'm like, it wasn't that bad, right, yeah, or like 0:05:10.160 --> 0:05:11.599 that part was bad, right. 0:05:11.839 --> 0:05:15.400 Such a blur. But then at four they got the 0:05:15.440 --> 0:05:18.640 balloon out and I was four cin ameters dilated and 0:05:18.800 --> 0:05:21.479 they could feel her head, and then at four point 0:05:21.480 --> 0:05:24.680 thirty I started to have like the craziest contraction. So 0:05:24.760 --> 0:05:26.960 four thirty PM on Tuesday. 0:05:27.400 --> 0:05:31.039 Right, so you are already like been in bed for 0:05:32.400 --> 0:05:33.760 almost two full days. 0:05:33.480 --> 0:05:36.400 Now almost one? Yeah, one full day? 0:05:36.760 --> 0:05:38.680 Oh yeah it was Monday, Okay, so never Tuesday at 0:05:39.000 --> 0:05:40.880 a pm? Okay, yeah, yes almost for us. 0:05:40.920 --> 0:05:45.080 Yeah, So that Tuesday afternoon, we were just like sitting 0:05:45.120 --> 0:05:46.760 talking to my parents, and all of a sudden I 0:05:46.839 --> 0:05:51.560 was getting like the worst pain in contractions, ever, and 0:05:51.720 --> 0:05:54.160 so we called in the nurse to get my epidural started. 0:05:55.040 --> 0:05:56.960 And so that's this is where the action happens. It's 0:05:56.960 --> 0:05:58.520 been kind of bowing up to this point. 0:05:58.760 --> 0:06:02.840 Okay, okay, because is Ben's caption. I wasn't sure if 0:06:02.880 --> 0:06:07.200 it was all about just the birth of his daughter 0:06:07.360 --> 0:06:10.920 being like the craziest adventure, or whether there was an 0:06:10.960 --> 0:06:11.960 adventure to the birth. 0:06:12.160 --> 0:06:15.560 There was an adventure, I'd say, no matter what, Like 0:06:15.720 --> 0:06:18.719 now that we've gone through it and I saw, just 0:06:18.920 --> 0:06:22.400 do it, no matter how good or bad it goes, 0:06:22.600 --> 0:06:25.479 it is an adventure. It is the wildest thing I've 0:06:25.560 --> 0:06:29.039 ever been a part of, from start to finish. The 0:06:29.080 --> 0:06:36.960 balloon getting removed even to this day, like seeing Waynna 0:06:37.080 --> 0:06:41.120 come out was wild? Was it full frontal or above? 0:06:41.960 --> 0:06:42.559 I did both? 0:06:43.200 --> 0:06:43.960 Oh, you did both? 0:06:44.080 --> 0:06:47.360 Okay, But the balloon part was like when it got removed, 0:06:47.400 --> 0:06:50.279 I was like, you are a like I don't know 0:06:50.320 --> 0:06:53.640 how a human being is doing what you're doing because 0:06:53.680 --> 0:06:56.000 it was so much bigger than I expected it to be. 0:06:56.800 --> 0:07:00.000 God, And it was like was it like a baby's head? 0:07:00.560 --> 0:07:04.240 Yeah, one hundred percent, and it like I don't I 0:07:04.240 --> 0:07:06.120 still don't get it, Like I I meant it when 0:07:06.160 --> 0:07:08.760 I said I don't have words, because like it's the 0:07:08.839 --> 0:07:11.400 whole thing was just me probably like standing there like 0:07:12.320 --> 0:07:16.320 I don't understand, and she was just was And I 0:07:16.360 --> 0:07:19.040 don't think this is like even a compliment because I 0:07:19.040 --> 0:07:22.200 don't think it's necessary. She was so tough, like there 0:07:22.240 --> 0:07:28.640 was very little like screaming like crying, like it was 0:07:28.680 --> 0:07:30.640 just like she was in it, like this was like 0:07:30.680 --> 0:07:33.440 a this was game day and she was full on 0:07:33.640 --> 0:07:36.600 like I'm going to make this thing happen. Yeah, and 0:07:36.640 --> 0:07:39.720 I was watching it like in pain, like my for myself. 0:07:39.760 --> 0:07:42.440 So okay, she can now go to where. 0:07:42.240 --> 0:07:44.880 Like because I need to know what the epidural was 0:07:44.880 --> 0:07:46.240 in When they took out the balloon. 0:07:46.600 --> 0:07:51.640 No, and I didn't realize. I didn't realize that it 0:07:51.680 --> 0:07:54.960 should have been no one like really because they came 0:07:54.960 --> 0:07:56.600 in and they were like, okay, you're definitely ready to 0:07:56.600 --> 0:07:58.240 get the balloon out, like I'm just gonna do it. 0:07:58.280 --> 0:08:00.040 Are you good? And I was like yeah, like I 0:08:00.080 --> 0:08:02.440 didn't think it was going to be anything. And then 0:08:02.840 --> 0:08:05.000 my nurse on the shift change was like, you didn't 0:08:05.000 --> 0:08:07.160 get your epidural for the balloon coming out? I was 0:08:07.200 --> 0:08:09.960 like no, but it was fine. 0:08:09.960 --> 0:08:12.880 It was very brief because it was just like whoa, yeah, 0:08:12.880 --> 0:08:13.160 it just. 0:08:13.120 --> 0:08:13.880 Popped right out. 0:08:14.320 --> 0:08:17.440 No, yeah, okay, okay. 0:08:17.480 --> 0:08:22.520 So then I get the epidural and this is at 0:08:22.680 --> 0:08:26.520 five PM, and the epidural goes in like totally fine. 0:08:26.840 --> 0:08:30.800 I like I had a great anesthesiologist. It didn't hurt 0:08:30.880 --> 0:08:31.800 like I thought it would. 0:08:32.280 --> 0:08:35.400 I told you. I was like, why, I'm no offense 0:08:35.440 --> 0:08:38.040 to people who have fears of needles, but you're not 0:08:38.080 --> 0:08:38.719 looking at it. 0:08:39.280 --> 0:08:40.560 No, I was. 0:08:40.600 --> 0:08:42.520 I right when I said, it hurts just as much 0:08:42.520 --> 0:08:45.160 as maybe a botox prick in your forehead, yes. 0:08:45.120 --> 0:08:47.959 Or like a beasting like something like that. Like it's 0:08:48.040 --> 0:08:51.960 really nothing so wild and quick, yes, so quick. But 0:08:52.000 --> 0:08:55.000 the problem was I had a huge blood pressure drop. 0:08:55.360 --> 0:08:58.240 Like I got it in and then all of a sudden, 0:08:58.800 --> 0:09:00.960 Ben said, I turned like really really white, and I 0:09:01.000 --> 0:09:04.000 looked at the mcg all just know. I was like yeah, 0:09:04.000 --> 0:09:07.560 I was like, I'm super lightheaded, and I like thought 0:09:07.559 --> 0:09:09.720 I was going to pass out. And then her blood 0:09:09.720 --> 0:09:13.080 pressure dropped and so we lost her heartbeat for like 0:09:13.200 --> 0:09:16.680 ten minutes. So they like, yeah, they flipped me on 0:09:16.760 --> 0:09:19.600 all fours, So I'm on all fours in my hospital 0:09:19.600 --> 0:09:22.360 gown and like ten doctors come rushing in. It turns 0:09:22.400 --> 0:09:24.440 out this is like very common and not like as 0:09:24.440 --> 0:09:26.640 big of it of an emergency as we thought it was. 0:09:27.960 --> 0:09:28.680 But it was scary. 0:09:28.760 --> 0:09:30.240 I think you getting on all fours and like your 0:09:30.240 --> 0:09:33.040 blood pressure going down sounds normal. Her them not being 0:09:33.040 --> 0:09:35.440 able to find a heartbeat on her for ten minutes, yeah, 0:09:35.800 --> 0:09:36.200 oh wow. 0:09:36.200 --> 0:09:38.480 They were getting ready to roll me back for a 0:09:38.520 --> 0:09:39.040 C section. 0:09:39.200 --> 0:09:39.600 Yeah. 0:09:39.679 --> 0:09:42.920 Yeah. So they had like a small like her like 0:09:43.000 --> 0:09:46.960 Whinnie's heart rate dropped like they could still find it, 0:09:47.000 --> 0:09:51.640 but it was like severely low. And it was this 0:09:52.480 --> 0:09:55.720 I think this is like a typical dad moment in 0:09:55.760 --> 0:10:00.360 the hospital. So like I when we first just got 0:10:00.400 --> 0:10:02.640 to the hospital, the nurse's head like kind of like 0:10:03.040 --> 0:10:04.520 we were talking to them and they're like, you know, 0:10:04.679 --> 0:10:07.080 I was like, what is a dad's strategy during this 0:10:07.120 --> 0:10:10.760 whole like process, And they said, you know, we see 0:10:10.800 --> 0:10:13.880 it all. We see dads come in rolling their Xbox, 0:10:14.320 --> 0:10:16.200 hook it up through the TV, put their headphones in 0:10:16.240 --> 0:10:19.080 and the nerd kid and never pay attention for like 0:10:19.559 --> 0:10:22.200 the whole time. And I'm like, well that's that's a 0:10:22.200 --> 0:10:25.120 little bunch. And then they're like and then we have 0:10:25.200 --> 0:10:27.800 dads that are like hovering like always like up in 0:10:27.840 --> 0:10:32.079 our business, like never leaving the bedside like and they're 0:10:32.080 --> 0:10:35.480 like that just makes work hard. And so like I 0:10:35.600 --> 0:10:37.800 in my mind was like, okay, I need to be present, 0:10:37.920 --> 0:10:43.280 but not hovering. I want to be present, but I 0:10:43.320 --> 0:10:45.440 don't want to like be standing at just A's bedside 0:10:45.480 --> 0:10:47.040 the whole time because these people know what they're doing. 0:10:47.440 --> 0:10:50.680 So the epidural goes in and I was sitting in 0:10:50.720 --> 0:10:52.920 front of Jess like just kind of like that's what 0:10:52.960 --> 0:10:55.120 they tell you to do, yeah, like hanging out. 0:10:55.040 --> 0:10:56.400 With her, hold her hands. 0:10:56.440 --> 0:10:59.640 Yeah, and it was done, and everybody's okay, everything's good 0:10:59.760 --> 0:11:02.079 and just like just give a few minutes. So she 0:11:02.200 --> 0:11:05.440 lays back in bed and then like some other nurses 0:11:05.480 --> 0:11:07.600 come in and like start like doing some stuff with her. 0:11:07.640 --> 0:11:09.400 So I get up and I walk over to my 0:11:09.520 --> 0:11:14.040 sofa bed and Indiana Basketball was about to come in, 0:11:14.120 --> 0:11:17.640 so I start logging into my peacock account and on 0:11:17.679 --> 0:11:20.520 my iPad and I look up and all of a sudden, 0:11:20.600 --> 0:11:23.840 like there's ten doctors in the room, and so I 0:11:23.880 --> 0:11:27.040 remember just looking around like I don't understand what's happening. 0:11:27.360 --> 0:11:28.960 And a nurse comes over and sits by me and 0:11:28.960 --> 0:11:32.240 she's like, this is very normal, but like you should 0:11:32.280 --> 0:11:36.880 prepare to get rolled back into like the or. I'm like, 0:11:36.920 --> 0:11:39.240 what what do you mean? Like this is normal and 0:11:39.280 --> 0:11:41.720 we're going to the or. So by the time it 0:11:41.800 --> 0:11:45.800 happened and it was done, I was just kind of 0:11:45.840 --> 0:11:48.920 like not processing it. That was kind of a theme 0:11:48.960 --> 0:11:50.640 for me. I think for the to those two days 0:11:50.720 --> 0:11:53.560 is like I was slow to process exactly what was 0:11:53.600 --> 0:11:54.920 happening when it was happening. 0:11:56.280 --> 0:11:58.800 Okay, But all the nurses said that Ben should teach 0:11:58.840 --> 0:12:01.080 a lesson to h Bins on how to be in 0:12:01.160 --> 0:12:04.560 the delivery room because he was so awesome, Like he 0:12:05.200 --> 0:12:08.840 was the perfect support. That's perfect, I'll imagine. Yeah, I know, 0:12:09.160 --> 0:12:13.480 no surprise, but it was the best. But once my 0:12:13.480 --> 0:12:16.679 epidural was in and like I was good, they broke 0:12:16.760 --> 0:12:19.319 my water. Yeah, and I was ninety percent. 0:12:19.559 --> 0:12:21.559 Like she just like like the heart rate just went 0:12:21.600 --> 0:12:23.480 back up after you like change positions. 0:12:23.760 --> 0:12:29.760 Yes, so changed positions. She was fine obviously, yeah, and 0:12:29.880 --> 0:12:31.840 I was okay too. I was just like a little 0:12:31.840 --> 0:12:35.120 shaken up. Yeah, but they just like went for it. 0:12:35.240 --> 0:12:38.800 After that, It's it's a uh I mean, I'm sure 0:12:38.800 --> 0:12:40.400 people are going to listen to this and be like, oh, yeah, 0:12:40.400 --> 0:12:42.240 that happened to me, or I know somebody happened to 0:12:42.960 --> 0:12:47.400 It's a like almost like tortuous experience because at this 0:12:47.520 --> 0:12:51.680 point Jessica I had now seen probably an hour before 0:12:51.720 --> 0:12:53.959 that like her mother bear coming out like all of 0:12:54.000 --> 0:12:58.320 a sudden, like her mentality changed her, like the way 0:12:58.400 --> 0:13:00.560 she was going through it changed, like she is she 0:13:00.840 --> 0:13:03.280 was becoming a mom in front, like in front. 0:13:03.040 --> 0:13:03.679 Of my eyes. 0:13:04.640 --> 0:13:09.880 And so this like blood pressure drop happens, and all 0:13:09.880 --> 0:13:11.640 of a sudden, like I said, it happens so fast 0:13:11.720 --> 0:13:14.559 that like it kind of feels like an emergency. Probably 0:13:14.760 --> 0:13:18.360 is considered an emergency. So Jessica's on all fours and 0:13:18.400 --> 0:13:21.360 she's wondering what is happening. I don't feel good. My 0:13:21.400 --> 0:13:24.440 blood pressure is low. And they're starting to talk like 0:13:24.480 --> 0:13:28.760 hey Whennie's blood pressure is low? And then so like 0:13:28.960 --> 0:13:31.480 jess starts getting anxious, right like is she okay? She 0:13:31.520 --> 0:13:33.520 starts asking like is whinny okay? Is whinny okay? Is 0:13:33.559 --> 0:13:34.760 whinny okay? Yeah? 0:13:34.840 --> 0:13:36.679 Are you just like we like you're are you just 0:13:36.720 --> 0:13:38.240 like oh maybe I just want to get the sea 0:13:38.280 --> 0:13:39.720 sections just so I don't have to worry. 0:13:39.880 --> 0:13:41.560 Yes. I looked at them and I was like, whatever 0:13:41.640 --> 0:13:43.880 it takes to get her out healthy, like do it. 0:13:43.960 --> 0:13:45.319 Like I looked at my nurse and said that, and 0:13:45.360 --> 0:13:46.160 she was like noted. 0:13:46.960 --> 0:13:51.960 And and then to get this problem fixed, they give 0:13:52.000 --> 0:13:55.920 you a medication to speed up your heart rate. So 0:13:55.960 --> 0:14:00.320 you're anxious about your like baby and her health, like 0:14:00.360 --> 0:14:03.520 you're freaking out, you're scared for the baby. And then 0:14:03.559 --> 0:14:07.120 they give you this medication to speed up your heart rate. 0:14:07.400 --> 0:14:10.720 So then you get more anxious. And now I'm anxious 0:14:10.760 --> 0:14:13.760 because Jess is like medically anxious. She's already anxious, but 0:14:13.800 --> 0:14:17.240 now she's like hyper anxious and like scared. So this 0:14:17.280 --> 0:14:19.640 whole thing feels like a whirlwind. And then it's done 0:14:19.960 --> 0:14:22.480 and everybody leaves and you're just it's just like the 0:14:22.480 --> 0:14:25.240 three of you, you, your nurse, the two of us 0:14:25.280 --> 0:14:27.000 in the nurse in the room again and it's like quiet, 0:14:27.000 --> 0:14:28.800 and you're like, what just happened? 0:14:29.480 --> 0:14:31.880 That's so funny. So my dad had you know, he's 0:14:31.920 --> 0:14:36.040 anantasysiologist forre you guys listening, and he has not worked 0:14:36.040 --> 0:14:37.920 on the Once you get to a certain like point 0:14:37.920 --> 0:14:39.720 in your career, you can kind of decide what kind 0:14:39.720 --> 0:14:42.240 of cases you want to take. And he hasn't been 0:14:42.240 --> 0:14:45.360 on the Obie floor and at least a decade, I 0:14:45.360 --> 0:14:48.280 would say, like fifteen years, because he says it's the 0:14:48.320 --> 0:14:51.760 most unpredictable place in the entire hospital, and it makes 0:14:51.800 --> 0:14:54.440 him so nervous because every case is just he did 0:14:54.600 --> 0:14:57.040 never know what to expect, and they turn so quickly. 0:14:57.240 --> 0:15:00.920 Oh I totally yeah one, and like anything good I 0:15:00.960 --> 0:15:03.880 could have, anyone could be rolled back at any time, 0:15:04.000 --> 0:15:06.200 you know, like you just have no idea because it's 0:15:06.280 --> 0:15:07.000 up to the baby. 0:15:07.920 --> 0:15:10.360 And this is when you think, like how in the 0:15:10.400 --> 0:15:15.320 world did we deliver children over one hundred years ago? 0:15:15.360 --> 0:15:17.120 Like how did not even one hundred years ago, but 0:15:17.200 --> 0:15:20.720 like seventy years ago, Like how was this a thing? 0:15:21.160 --> 0:15:23.720 How are we so lucky to live in this like 0:15:24.000 --> 0:15:28.160 seventy year period of this world? Because if you needed 0:15:28.200 --> 0:15:31.680 to see section back in the eighteen hundreds, eh no, 0:15:32.800 --> 0:15:33.600 I know, we. 0:15:33.520 --> 0:15:35.680 Talked about that so much with their nurse, like what 0:15:35.800 --> 0:15:36.600 did you do? 0:15:37.960 --> 0:15:51.000 I don't know, crazy, so wild? Okay, so now you're 0:15:51.120 --> 0:15:54.320 chill and you got your epidural, they broke your water 0:15:54.480 --> 0:15:55.480 you barely felt that. 0:15:55.760 --> 0:15:57.160 Yeah, and then nothing. 0:15:57.760 --> 0:16:00.720 Yeah, and so now you're just chilling waiting to dilate more. 0:16:01.040 --> 0:16:03.720 Yes, I have the potocin drift the whole time too, 0:16:03.840 --> 0:16:07.240 so I'm like having contractions. I was having contractions every 0:16:07.280 --> 0:16:10.400 two minutes for like ten hours. 0:16:10.160 --> 0:16:12.040 And you had no idea, no idea. 0:16:12.520 --> 0:16:17.600 Yeah, but at like what time was it? At ten pm, 0:16:17.920 --> 0:16:20.280 my nurse came in and did like a circuit where 0:16:20.320 --> 0:16:24.240 she changed my positions, like the mile circuit, so you 0:16:24.320 --> 0:16:27.400 changed positions, and she was like massaging my pelvis and 0:16:27.480 --> 0:16:29.600 just like getting baby to like move down into my 0:16:29.640 --> 0:16:33.200 pelvis more. And so we did that for like an hour, 0:16:33.520 --> 0:16:36.800 and then I fell asleep and then they checked my 0:16:36.960 --> 0:16:40.320 dilation at eleven and or no, they checked my dilation 0:16:40.360 --> 0:16:43.880 at eleven and I was seven centimeters dilated and the 0:16:43.960 --> 0:16:48.160 nurse could see Winnie's hair, which is crazy. And then 0:16:48.200 --> 0:16:49.920 I fell asleep for an hour and a half, and 0:16:49.960 --> 0:16:53.800 at twelve thirty am on Wednesday, I was ten centimeters 0:16:53.840 --> 0:16:57.320 dilated and so we were ready to push. 0:16:57.360 --> 0:16:59.680 And when they said okay, we're ready to push, what 0:16:59.720 --> 0:17:00.760 were your feelings? 0:17:01.080 --> 0:17:04.840 I was so excited because we've been there for so long, 0:17:05.760 --> 0:17:08.119 just like waiting and like I was being poked and 0:17:08.160 --> 0:17:11.960 prodded and like I'm just so excited. But Ben was 0:17:12.000 --> 0:17:14.159 fast asleep, so the nurse had to wake him up 0:17:14.200 --> 0:17:15.560 and woke him up and it was like it's time 0:17:15.600 --> 0:17:16.640 to push. And then it was like. 0:17:19.320 --> 0:17:20.400 It's so crazy. 0:17:21.160 --> 0:17:24.840 When I went to sleep, she was four centimeters they'd 0:17:24.880 --> 0:17:28.920 just broken her water and so they're like, hey, if 0:17:28.920 --> 0:17:31.560 you want to like get some sleep, now's your time. 0:17:32.200 --> 0:17:33.439 And I was like when is this, Like when do 0:17:33.520 --> 0:17:35.399 you think this could happen. They're like it will happen 0:17:35.560 --> 0:17:38.600 like early morning, Like, yeah, I'm gonna go to sleep, 0:17:38.840 --> 0:17:44.040 like if everything's good. She's like, looks like take a nap. 0:17:44.840 --> 0:17:46.919 And so when they woke me up, to're like all right, 0:17:46.920 --> 0:17:50.040 then it's time to push. I I'll never forget that 0:17:50.080 --> 0:17:54.280 feeling of like, oh, it's now happening, like we are. 0:17:54.960 --> 0:17:56.800 And I looked at Jess and she has like this 0:17:56.920 --> 0:17:59.879 smile and happy tears and she's like are you ready? 0:18:00.440 --> 0:18:03.439 And I'm like I'm ready, and we just are like 0:18:04.400 --> 0:18:08.000 I guess we're gonna go through this until we have 0:18:08.040 --> 0:18:08.880 a baby. 0:18:09.119 --> 0:18:11.760 Yeah. It's so weird because it's like so crazy for us. 0:18:11.840 --> 0:18:14.159 And then the nurses are like we do this multiple 0:18:14.240 --> 0:18:14.840 times a day. 0:18:15.160 --> 0:18:16.440 Yeah, and it's time. 0:18:16.480 --> 0:18:17.280 Let's just it's time. 0:18:17.359 --> 0:18:17.879 Let's do it. 0:18:18.040 --> 0:18:18.240 Yeah. 0:18:18.240 --> 0:18:19.399 She was like are you ready to you want to 0:18:19.400 --> 0:18:19.760 do it now? 0:18:20.040 --> 0:18:21.120 I was like yeah. 0:18:21.280 --> 0:18:25.600 Like so, Jess and I kind of had a birth 0:18:25.640 --> 0:18:30.639 plan tentatively where I was going to DJ, like I 0:18:30.680 --> 0:18:36.760 brought a speaker to DJ pushing part, and so there 0:18:36.800 --> 0:18:39.479 was like a like Jess would like go through and 0:18:39.560 --> 0:18:41.440 push and then rest and she'd be like, all right, 0:18:41.480 --> 0:18:43.800 new song, next song, A little I want a little faster, 0:18:44.200 --> 0:18:46.919 a little slower, because I start out with like some 0:18:47.160 --> 0:18:50.440 like real slow, Like I have this playlist on Spotify 0:18:50.440 --> 0:18:53.240 that I made for Jess that we like that she 0:18:53.280 --> 0:18:55.240 can listen to anytime she wants to add songs to 0:18:55.320 --> 0:18:58.719 and so, but it's like lovey and slow, and so 0:18:58.760 --> 0:19:00.159 I started playing that. I was like this is be 0:19:00.200 --> 0:19:02.479 sweet and she's like, no, we got to speed this up. 0:19:02.520 --> 0:19:05.680 Let's get nineties like pop. And I'm like, okay, nineties pop. 0:19:05.720 --> 0:19:08.000 So in sync comes on. That works for a little bit, 0:19:08.080 --> 0:19:10.480 and then we move into like what's going to make 0:19:10.600 --> 0:19:13.720 people dance on tables? And I'm like, all right, that playlist, 0:19:13.840 --> 0:19:14.560 let me type that in. 0:19:15.359 --> 0:19:19.320 It's my favorite playlist on Spotify. It's like making dunk 0:19:19.400 --> 0:19:22.640 people dance on tables or something like that. It's so good. 0:19:22.680 --> 0:19:24.480 But I was it was the middle of the night. 0:19:25.000 --> 0:19:27.919 I started pushing at one thirty, so I was like 0:19:28.000 --> 0:19:30.600 falling asleep in between contractions. So I had to have. 0:19:30.560 --> 0:19:33.840