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Speaker 1: My six year friendship just fell apart after we moved

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Speaker 2: You know, it happens something, it happens.

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Speaker 1: So a quick summary before we get into the thick

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Speaker 1: of it. I moved in with a good friend. She

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Speaker 1: I like that girl trash thouse, and now I'm out

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Speaker 1: two thousand dollars and the friend is probably in occult. Oh,

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Speaker 1: just start at the beginning. I guess I twenty four

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Speaker 1: the stars aligned and one of my best friends and

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Speaker 1: former roommates, also twenty four female from college, got a

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Speaker 1: job in the same area. For the purposes of this story,

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Speaker 1: i'll give her a fake name, Megan. Megan asked if

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Speaker 1: I wanted to be roommates, and I was absolutely thrilled.

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Speaker 1: We had been best friends for six years. This would

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Speaker 1: I was so excited to have someone to do that

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Speaker 1: I have a lot of social anxiety, and this friend

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Speaker 1: tended to bring me out of my shell and include

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Speaker 1: I also wasn't worried about it becoming one of those

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Speaker 1: surprise your good friend is actually bad to live with situations. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: there was some roomy drama when we lived together with

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Speaker 1: Boy was I wrong. We found a house and signed

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Speaker 1: family nearby until this point. Living together started out a

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Speaker 1: little awkward, but I chalked it up to the fact

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Speaker 1: almost always leave feeling awkward about things I said Slash

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Speaker 1: The strangeness started to evolve pretty quickly, though the following

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Speaker 1: tangents might sound a little off topic from the bad

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Speaker 1: roommate situation, but it all comes back together, I promise.

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Speaker 1: Tangent number one the boyfriend Megan moved in pretty immediately

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Speaker 1: after a week long trip to visit her sister in

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Speaker 1: another state. The sister had introduced her to this guy

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Speaker 1: who went to their church, and Megan came back from

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Speaker 1: I understand being infatuated with someone quickly, and Megan had

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Speaker 2: Head I was like, weird, weird.

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Speaker 1: Pretty quickly, it seemed like her relationship with him got

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Speaker 1: incredibly intense. Almost any time I was home, she'd be

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Speaker 1: That's just one example, but that was the vibe. He

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Speaker 3: If you like him so much, why I think that's

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Speaker 4: Can set Brittany thank you, thank you, thank you? From

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Speaker 1: Yeah, Then some red flags from the boyfriend started to

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Speaker 2: Yeah.

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Speaker 3: Do you think it's is it worth like, hey, here's

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Speaker 2: It just like leave it?

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Speaker 1: I think if she ever brings him up, which we

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Speaker 1: it seems like we're you know, yeah, like I don't

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Speaker 1: some examples of things I noticed. One time he came

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Speaker 1: overheard them talking about my dungeons and dragon stuff that

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Speaker 5: I love D and D.

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Speaker 3: Get out, get out, get out, believe.

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Speaker 1: I want you heard twenty You're freaking boring.

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Speaker 1: I didn't like this because Megan had played D and

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Speaker 3: Yeah, it's like anyone who is like trying to like

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Speaker 2: Their adult years is absolute loose, freaking whack.

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Speaker 1: If anyone, you know, if I'm talking to anyone and

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Speaker 5: Like, damn straight it is.

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Speaker 1: Are you fucking boring loser? Because you need to get

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Speaker 2: I'm gonna get my goblins to get you out of here.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, you're done, You're done.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I know about dragons.

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Speaker 5: We should do a D and D session.

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Speaker 1: We've been trying to, but we don't have a freaking DM.

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Speaker 1: Yeah. I love that. Now, looking back, I feel like

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Speaker 4: You don't know about that, John no oh, back when

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Speaker 2: Yeah, but was it like the church was out or

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Speaker 1: You know, it's kind of like in the you know,

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Speaker 3: Yeah, Okay, I've Yeah, I've had family members that are

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Speaker 1: Yeah. Interesting. Interesting. Anyway, going back to the boyfriend, anytime

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Speaker 3: Yeah, this dude is like, look, it's one thing to like,

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Speaker 3: oh yeah, I don't watch TV or whatever. Yeah, it's

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Speaker 1: Yeah, you know, no, absolutely, I mean, if she wants

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Speaker 2: But it's it's not her.

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Speaker 1: No, it's not. I think there is a certain and

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Speaker 1: there is another tangent, but before we into that, I

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Speaker 1: all of the don't give up yourself for your partner.

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Speaker 1: It should be kind of your going together.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, yeah, they should support your interests almost they're really bad.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, it's not like you're making him watch TV or

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Speaker 3: And this is way wait, this is a friend. This

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Speaker 1: She had driven us both there. I was also shocked

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Speaker 1: You know, if they're awful about your friend being non binary,

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Speaker 2: Megan needs to be Megan again.

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Speaker 1: Yes, Okay, this may sounds crazy, but that was all

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Speaker 1: basically just backstory. That is crazy, that's freaking crazy. This

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Speaker 5: Oh no, oh, we just got the tip of the iceba.

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Speaker 5: This is just mean, we haven't even.

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Speaker 2: I've never seen these movies.

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Speaker 1: If this were that movie, I understood. I don't watch

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Speaker 1: She told me, you know what John's doings, He's eating

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Speaker 1: She had always seemed focused, ambitious, and reliable to me,

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Speaker 1: Even though I was thinking all this, I still didn't

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Speaker 3: Just don't stress like it's it's not like you know,

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Speaker 3: Maybe you could just like suck them up, you know,

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Speaker 1: Then you want up a problem.

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Speaker 2: Stop it, stop it stop.

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Speaker 1: She promised that I would not be left responsible for

438
00:20:16,000 --> 00:20:18,479
Speaker 1: our full rent. We split it fifty to fifty, and

439
00:20:18,520 --> 00:20:20,520
Speaker 1: that while she wanted to look for a different person

440
00:20:20,560 --> 00:20:22,720
Speaker 1: to take over her room, she wanted me to have

441
00:20:22,880 --> 00:20:25,800
Speaker 1: full approval over anyone we found, and if we didn't

442
00:20:25,840 --> 00:20:27,920
Speaker 1: find someone that I wanted to live with, she would

443
00:20:28,000 --> 00:20:30,280
Speaker 1: continue paying her half of the rent even though she

444
00:20:30,359 --> 00:20:33,160
Speaker 1: wasn't living there through the end of the lease. That's good,

445
00:20:33,400 --> 00:20:36,639
Speaker 1: So Sly, I agreed to this situation. I feel like

446
00:20:36,680 --> 00:20:38,800
Speaker 1: that's a fair situation. I was gonna say, like, she's

447
00:20:38,880 --> 00:20:39,880
Speaker 1: not fully cuckoo.

448
00:20:39,960 --> 00:20:42,320
Speaker 4: She sounds like, Okay, she's got reasoning and she's gonna

449
00:20:42,320 --> 00:20:44,120
Speaker 4: help you out well until.

450
00:20:44,000 --> 00:20:46,680
Speaker 3: Well, wow, wow, does she live up to those big

451
00:20:46,720 --> 00:20:47,560
Speaker 3: lofty words.

452
00:20:47,840 --> 00:20:48,439
Speaker 2: I don't think that.

453
00:20:49,200 --> 00:20:51,720
Speaker 1: Megan also had a cat that lived with us. She

454
00:20:51,840 --> 00:20:54,600
Speaker 1: is the chillest, sweetest cat in the world. When she

455
00:20:54,640 --> 00:20:57,159
Speaker 1: announced that she was moving, Megan told me that the

456
00:20:57,200 --> 00:21:00,639
Speaker 1: place she found doesn't allow animals, so she has to

457
00:21:00,720 --> 00:21:01,679
Speaker 1: leave the cat behind.

458
00:21:01,800 --> 00:21:04,040
Speaker 2: She's even giving up her pet for this guy.

459
00:21:04,880 --> 00:21:09,240
Speaker 3: Come on, I'm definitely going to guess yes, he's trying

460
00:21:09,240 --> 00:21:11,240
Speaker 3: to shape her and force her into this.

461
00:21:11,240 --> 00:21:12,040
Speaker 2: Trad wife thing.

462
00:21:12,160 --> 00:21:15,879
Speaker 1: Absolutely. She asked if I wanted the cat, and I

463
00:21:15,920 --> 00:21:19,240
Speaker 1: said absolutely. The cat comes back later. I felt like

464
00:21:19,280 --> 00:21:22,560
Speaker 1: the only two things to say were either Okay, I'm

465
00:21:22,680 --> 00:21:24,560
Speaker 1: okay with you moving as long as I don't get

466
00:21:24,560 --> 00:21:26,720
Speaker 1: stuck with a rando roommate or one hundred percent of

467
00:21:26,760 --> 00:21:29,000
Speaker 1: the rent, or no, you're not moving and we're going

468
00:21:29,040 --> 00:21:31,240
Speaker 1: to live together and you'll hate me until July. She

469
00:21:31,440 --> 00:21:34,080
Speaker 1: was my best friend in college. I trusted her word

470
00:21:34,160 --> 00:21:35,919
Speaker 1: that she would make sure we found a roommate I

471
00:21:36,000 --> 00:21:38,320
Speaker 1: was comfortable with, or she would keep paying a rent.

472
00:21:38,400 --> 00:21:40,760
Speaker 1: That is not what happened. We both went to visit

473
00:21:40,800 --> 00:21:43,399
Speaker 1: our families over winter break. When I came back, she

474
00:21:43,520 --> 00:21:45,760
Speaker 1: was prepared to move out, and about a week later

475
00:21:45,840 --> 00:21:49,280
Speaker 1: in January, she moved. She hadn't found anyone to fill

476
00:21:49,280 --> 00:21:52,200
Speaker 1: the room before she left, but was continuing to post

477
00:21:52,240 --> 00:21:56,399
Speaker 1: online in various Facebook groups and West websites searching for roommates.

478
00:21:56,480 --> 00:22:00,040
Speaker 1: I did not participate in the roommates searching process. This

479
00:22:00,440 --> 00:22:02,320
Speaker 1: is where I might have been the wrong but I

480
00:22:02,320 --> 00:22:03,880
Speaker 1: felt like she's the one who left in the middle

481
00:22:03,920 --> 00:22:06,159
Speaker 1: of her lease. She was no longer dealing with their

482
00:22:06,240 --> 00:22:09,080
Speaker 1: extremely stressful jobs, and I had my half of the

483
00:22:09,119 --> 00:22:11,520
Speaker 1: rent ready to be covered, so I didn't post anything

484
00:22:11,640 --> 00:22:13,760
Speaker 1: or try to find a new roommate. The only thing

485
00:22:13,800 --> 00:22:16,600
Speaker 1: I don't think it is Op's responsibility, but I think

486
00:22:16,640 --> 00:22:19,200
Speaker 1: you have to be a little bit involved just so

487
00:22:19,320 --> 00:22:20,480
Speaker 1: you get the roommate.

488
00:22:20,240 --> 00:22:20,760
Speaker 2: That you want.

489
00:22:21,080 --> 00:22:23,720
Speaker 1: Yeah, maybe it's like she gives you options and you

490
00:22:23,760 --> 00:22:24,560
Speaker 1: look through that. Yeah.

491
00:22:24,600 --> 00:22:27,960
Speaker 3: Yeah, like, hey, you do the work, you know, like

492
00:22:28,240 --> 00:22:31,040
Speaker 3: post on the right places, but I have like ultimate

493
00:22:31,080 --> 00:22:33,800
Speaker 3: approval of the person because I need to be living

494
00:22:34,040 --> 00:22:35,440
Speaker 3: with this person who's going to be in there.

495
00:22:35,440 --> 00:22:36,520
Speaker 2: So yeah, I think.

496
00:22:36,680 --> 00:22:38,200
Speaker 1: I mean, like I've been in that situation where we

497
00:22:38,240 --> 00:22:39,840
Speaker 1: had to get a sub letter and stuff, and the

498
00:22:39,880 --> 00:22:43,960
Speaker 1: person who was responsible for the rent found, you know,

499
00:22:44,080 --> 00:22:46,560
Speaker 1: did all of that stuff, and then we jumped on

500
00:22:46,640 --> 00:22:49,960
Speaker 1: a call so that we could all talk to that person. Yes, yeah,

501
00:22:50,000 --> 00:22:51,959
Speaker 1: which I think is just the best way to what

502
00:22:52,000 --> 00:22:53,840
Speaker 1: you got to do. I really hate the idea of

503
00:22:53,880 --> 00:22:56,360
Speaker 1: living with someone I don't know. It gives me crazy

504
00:22:56,480 --> 00:22:58,880
Speaker 1: amount of anxiety. I was willing to try it if

505
00:22:58,880 --> 00:23:01,080
Speaker 1: Megan found someone, because cause I understood that it'd be

506
00:23:01,119 --> 00:23:03,119
Speaker 1: bad for Megan to have to continue paying ment for

507
00:23:03,119 --> 00:23:05,480
Speaker 1: seven months in an apartment she wasn't living it. But

508
00:23:05,520 --> 00:23:08,679
Speaker 1: I still couldn't make myself participate in the search. Megan

509
00:23:08,720 --> 00:23:11,840
Speaker 1: would have conversations with potential roommates and they would come

510
00:23:11,920 --> 00:23:15,080
Speaker 1: toward the house. I never met anyone who toured because

511
00:23:15,080 --> 00:23:17,960
Speaker 1: they almost always came with the property manager during the

512
00:23:18,040 --> 00:23:20,640
Speaker 1: day while I was at work. If they had been interested,

513
00:23:20,720 --> 00:23:22,480
Speaker 1: our next step would have been for us to meet

514
00:23:22,880 --> 00:23:24,919
Speaker 1: and for me to decide if I was willing to

515
00:23:24,960 --> 00:23:28,080
Speaker 1: basically re sign the least with them. Eventually, Megan told

516
00:23:28,119 --> 00:23:30,160
Speaker 1: me about this couple that wanted to move into the room.

517
00:23:30,200 --> 00:23:33,560
Speaker 1: I said no immediately. No. I wasn't comfortable living with

518
00:23:33,600 --> 00:23:36,160
Speaker 1: a couple because of a plethora of reasons. One new

519
00:23:36,200 --> 00:23:38,600
Speaker 1: person was already going to be hard for me. Two

520
00:23:38,720 --> 00:23:41,240
Speaker 1: seemed impossible. I also wouldn't even want to live with

521
00:23:41,240 --> 00:23:43,320
Speaker 1: a couple that I was already best friends with because

522
00:23:43,359 --> 00:23:46,400
Speaker 1: we share a wall, that's a weird third wheel dynamic,

523
00:23:46,600 --> 00:23:49,760
Speaker 1: et cetera. So I said no without meeting up with them.

524
00:23:49,800 --> 00:23:52,000
Speaker 1: I think this is when Megan got mad. She thought

525
00:23:52,000 --> 00:23:53,679
Speaker 1: it was rude of me to not even talk to

526
00:23:53,720 --> 00:23:55,480
Speaker 1: this couple and see if I liked them. I was

527
00:23:55,560 --> 00:23:58,680
Speaker 1: extremely busy with working on our big musical and was

528
00:23:58,720 --> 00:24:01,720
Speaker 1: staying after school and eight pm most nights, and thought

529
00:24:01,720 --> 00:24:03,640
Speaker 1: it would be a huge waste of time to meet

530
00:24:03,720 --> 00:24:05,800
Speaker 1: up with these people when I know nothing they say

531
00:24:05,880 --> 00:24:08,520
Speaker 1: would change my mind about not wanting to live with

532
00:24:08,520 --> 00:24:10,720
Speaker 1: the couple. They could be the nicest people in the world,

533
00:24:10,880 --> 00:24:13,200
Speaker 1: we could become besties, and I still wouldn't want to

534
00:24:13,240 --> 00:24:15,920
Speaker 1: live with two other people in a two bedroom house.

535
00:24:16,200 --> 00:24:19,160
Speaker 1: Near the end of January, Megan texted me a message

536
00:24:19,200 --> 00:24:20,960
Speaker 1: saying that she thought it might be a good idea

537
00:24:21,080 --> 00:24:23,640
Speaker 1: for both of us to terminate the lease early. I had,

538
00:24:23,840 --> 00:24:26,679
Speaker 1: up to that point the worst panic attack of my life.

539
00:24:26,680 --> 00:24:29,200
Speaker 1: Oh no, she said she couldn't afford paying rent in

540
00:24:29,240 --> 00:24:31,520
Speaker 1: two states at once, when we haven't been able to

541
00:24:31,560 --> 00:24:34,439
Speaker 1: find anyone serious about taking over her room. I freaked

542
00:24:34,480 --> 00:24:36,399
Speaker 1: out about this for a while, because where did she

543
00:24:36,480 --> 00:24:38,600
Speaker 1: expect me to live? Did she want me to move

544
00:24:38,600 --> 00:24:40,400
Speaker 1: in the middle of a tech week for our musical?

545
00:24:40,480 --> 00:24:43,159
Speaker 1: I thought this was insanely inconsiderate. I then called my

546
00:24:43,280 --> 00:24:45,400
Speaker 1: dad and we read over the lease together. It turned

547
00:24:45,440 --> 00:24:48,439
Speaker 1: out that she had read the lease wrong. If we

548
00:24:48,520 --> 00:24:50,960
Speaker 1: broke the lease, we would still be responsible for the

549
00:24:51,000 --> 00:24:54,320
Speaker 1: rent for the months of February through July. Oh, and

550
00:24:54,520 --> 00:24:56,960
Speaker 1: would also have to pay an extra fee of two

551
00:24:57,000 --> 00:24:58,639
Speaker 1: thousand dollars for breaking it.

552
00:24:59,040 --> 00:25:02,520
Speaker 3: WHOA, So basically she can't you can't break Yeah, you

553
00:25:02,560 --> 00:25:05,200
Speaker 3: still can still pay for all of the rent and

554
00:25:05,240 --> 00:25:07,160
Speaker 3: a two thousand dollars Like fine.

555
00:25:06,880 --> 00:25:08,480
Speaker 1: So there's literally no reason to break in.

556
00:25:08,600 --> 00:25:13,600
Speaker 2: There's bro terrible, terrible lease. Terrible I have like.

557
00:25:14,000 --> 00:25:18,560
Speaker 1: Megan, But I also I do think that op needs

558
00:25:18,560 --> 00:25:20,359
Speaker 1: to be a little bit involved in this process of

559
00:25:20,359 --> 00:25:21,160
Speaker 1: finding any person.

560
00:25:21,320 --> 00:25:21,600
Speaker 2: Yeah.

561
00:25:21,720 --> 00:25:24,480
Speaker 3: Again, it's like understand the spirit of like, hey, you're

562
00:25:24,520 --> 00:25:26,280
Speaker 3: the one doing this, so you should be the one

563
00:25:26,440 --> 00:25:30,560
Speaker 3: billing it. But again, Opie should be just in viewing

564
00:25:30,600 --> 00:25:31,600
Speaker 3: it over seeing me.

565
00:25:31,600 --> 00:25:35,480
Speaker 1: A little bit, especially if you have really specific needs

566
00:25:35,520 --> 00:25:38,320
Speaker 1: and desires for a roommate. Yeah, then like you know,

567
00:25:38,400 --> 00:25:41,080
Speaker 1: go ask your friends say, hey, do we know anyone

568
00:25:41,160 --> 00:25:44,160
Speaker 1: who's looking for a roommate or something. Yeah, So it's

569
00:25:44,240 --> 00:25:47,680
Speaker 1: it just speeds it up. Yes, it is Megan's responsibility,

570
00:25:47,680 --> 00:25:49,679
Speaker 1: but I think if you want a person that you

571
00:25:49,920 --> 00:25:52,000
Speaker 1: like to live with you, then you gotta get in that.

572
00:25:52,160 --> 00:25:55,200
Speaker 3: One thing I would suggest to her is like, hey, look,

573
00:25:55,320 --> 00:25:56,760
Speaker 3: you know you don't want to be on the hook

574
00:25:56,800 --> 00:25:59,679
Speaker 3: for the whole amount of rent. What if like we

575
00:25:59,760 --> 00:26:02,159
Speaker 3: either a found someone who is like you know that

576
00:26:02,240 --> 00:26:04,159
Speaker 3: I like that was willing to cover like you know,

577
00:26:04,359 --> 00:26:06,919
Speaker 3: more of the lease, or you get someone again that

578
00:26:06,960 --> 00:26:08,720
Speaker 3: we like, but like you just pay.

579
00:26:08,600 --> 00:26:09,320
Speaker 2: Like a little bit.

580
00:26:09,400 --> 00:26:09,600
Speaker 1: Yeah.

581
00:26:09,640 --> 00:26:11,600
Speaker 3: So it's like because it's like, hey, listen, you you

582
00:26:11,720 --> 00:26:13,679
Speaker 3: kind of got to deal with the consequences of your actions.

583
00:26:13,720 --> 00:26:16,240
Speaker 3: You're leaving this early, You're kind of leaving me hung

584
00:26:16,240 --> 00:26:18,679
Speaker 3: out to dry. Sure, so like just do like a

585
00:26:18,720 --> 00:26:21,520
Speaker 3: small portion of what you would have been paying that way,

586
00:26:21,600 --> 00:26:23,879
Speaker 3: like I have to pay less. It helps it helps

587
00:26:23,920 --> 00:26:26,480
Speaker 3: us get like she could maybe even subsidize someone who's

588
00:26:26,520 --> 00:26:29,680
Speaker 3: like a better fit, you know, like there's I don't know, yeah,

589
00:26:29,800 --> 00:26:30,480
Speaker 3: I don't.

590
00:26:30,320 --> 00:26:32,840
Speaker 1: Like get the money. I mean, yeah, this is I

591
00:26:32,880 --> 00:26:35,040
Speaker 1: don't know. I think there's a little bit of mistakes

592
00:26:35,080 --> 00:26:36,280
Speaker 1: going on in both ends here.

593
00:26:36,560 --> 00:26:40,520
Speaker 4: Yeah, especially this lease agreement. Dude, why are you finding

594
00:26:40,520 --> 00:26:41,920
Speaker 4: out about this now?

595
00:26:43,640 --> 00:26:47,280
Speaker 2: Begetting that definitely seems like it. Yeah, neither of them did.

596
00:26:47,320 --> 00:26:49,480
Speaker 1: Probably, Yeah, it doesn't seem like it because I mean

597
00:26:49,680 --> 00:26:53,240
Speaker 1: he's like, oh, she didn't be the least doesn't see like, yeah, yeah,

598
00:26:53,280 --> 00:26:55,880
Speaker 1: I centered that information and she admitted that she had

599
00:26:55,920 --> 00:26:57,760
Speaker 1: read it wrong, but then got mad at me for

600
00:26:57,840 --> 00:26:59,920
Speaker 1: not helping in the search for a new roommate. I

601
00:27:00,280 --> 00:27:02,560
Speaker 1: agree with. She called me immature for not responding to

602
00:27:02,600 --> 00:27:05,359
Speaker 1: messages quickly and for not sharing her roommates search posts

603
00:27:05,400 --> 00:27:08,159
Speaker 1: on Facebook, et cetera. Admittedly I am really bad at

604
00:27:08,200 --> 00:27:11,119
Speaker 1: replying to messages, but this was also an extremely busy

605
00:27:11,160 --> 00:27:13,640
Speaker 1: time in my life. On top of my full time

606
00:27:13,680 --> 00:27:16,480
Speaker 1: teaching job, I was also directing the after school musical

607
00:27:16,600 --> 00:27:19,160
Speaker 1: and we were in the crazy midst of that process.

608
00:27:19,440 --> 00:27:22,240
Speaker 1: Crazy busy, basically just coming home to sleep and doing

609
00:27:22,320 --> 00:27:25,399
Speaker 1: it all over again. The next day, on January twenty fifth,

610
00:27:25,480 --> 00:27:28,679
Speaker 1: Megan sent me a message at ten thirty am telling

611
00:27:28,720 --> 00:27:31,399
Speaker 1: me about a girl for this story I'll call her Lucy,

612
00:27:31,480 --> 00:27:33,160
Speaker 1: that she had found to take over the room telling

613
00:27:33,240 --> 00:27:35,760
Speaker 1: me a bit about her. At ten thirty two, she said,

614
00:27:35,840 --> 00:27:37,520
Speaker 1: please respond as soon as you can so I can

615
00:27:37,600 --> 00:27:40,160
Speaker 1: update Lucy. At ten thirty four, she sent me another text,

616
00:27:40,200 --> 00:27:42,560
Speaker 1: saying this should be the last roommate call I'd have

617
00:27:42,640 --> 00:27:44,800
Speaker 1: to do, and that she's sorry it taken me so long.

618
00:27:44,880 --> 00:27:47,840
Speaker 1: I was teaching classes. I did not read it nor respond.

619
00:27:47,880 --> 00:27:50,399
Speaker 1: I was in class. At four twenty one pm, Megan

620
00:27:50,520 --> 00:27:52,560
Speaker 1: sent me a text asking if I had seen it.

621
00:27:52,680 --> 00:27:55,760
Speaker 1: I was in rehearsal. I did not read it or respond. Again,

622
00:27:56,280 --> 00:27:59,560
Speaker 1: you had to have been able to check your phone. Yeah,

623
00:28:00,000 --> 00:28:02,120
Speaker 1: you don't get lunch breaks. You're telling me you don't

624
00:28:02,119 --> 00:28:02,879
Speaker 1: look at your phone.

625
00:28:03,040 --> 00:28:03,280
Speaker 2: Yeah.

626
00:28:03,320 --> 00:28:05,960
Speaker 3: Also, I want to say earlier, I think I think

627
00:28:05,960 --> 00:28:07,920
Speaker 3: while it would have been better for her to been

628
00:28:07,920 --> 00:28:11,159
Speaker 3: involved in the process, I'm not necessarily like giving a

629
00:28:11,240 --> 00:28:13,520
Speaker 3: strike against her other than it's like just not in

630
00:28:13,560 --> 00:28:14,439
Speaker 3: her own self interest.

631
00:28:14,480 --> 00:28:16,080
Speaker 1: Yes, that's the thing. I think that she's doing things

632
00:28:16,080 --> 00:28:17,360
Speaker 1: that aren't in her own self.

633
00:28:17,200 --> 00:28:20,320
Speaker 2: Interest, right right. Yeah, it's like, hey, yourself.

634
00:28:19,920 --> 00:28:22,760
Speaker 1: Is the problem, but you are making so many more

635
00:28:22,800 --> 00:28:24,000
Speaker 1: problems for yourself.

636
00:28:24,160 --> 00:28:25,640
Speaker 5: Yeah, what's more important here?

637
00:28:25,680 --> 00:28:28,119
Speaker 1: The school musical or you're living stone. You're literally like

638
00:28:28,200 --> 00:28:30,240
Speaker 1: your living situation that you said like you could. I

639
00:28:30,240 --> 00:28:33,240
Speaker 1: don't know that's causing you a panic. Like my director

640
00:28:33,280 --> 00:28:35,240
Speaker 1: in high school, in middle school, sometimes they had to

641
00:28:35,280 --> 00:28:37,240
Speaker 1: take a day off and there was always an assistant,

642
00:28:37,280 --> 00:28:39,360
Speaker 1: So you know, do you have an assistant that could

643
00:28:39,360 --> 00:28:42,640
Speaker 1: maybe take over for an hour while you sorted this out?

644
00:28:42,720 --> 00:28:45,360
Speaker 2: Do you think an assistant can make the greatest show onners?

645
00:28:45,520 --> 00:28:46,520
Speaker 2: Do you really think that.

646
00:28:46,480 --> 00:28:48,600
Speaker 1: No Op, he needs to have complete control of it.

647
00:28:48,680 --> 00:28:50,240
Speaker 2: Yeah, that's that's right.

648
00:28:50,640 --> 00:28:52,840
Speaker 1: Yeah, I think he's being a little silly.

649
00:28:53,320 --> 00:28:54,600
Speaker 2: Yeah, lit silliness.

650
00:28:54,680 --> 00:28:57,000
Speaker 1: At six fifty six, Megan tried to call me and

651
00:28:57,080 --> 00:28:59,480
Speaker 1: I didn't answer. I was in rehearsal. She texted me

652
00:28:59,560 --> 00:29:02,360
Speaker 1: again asking about moving forward with this new roommate and

653
00:29:02,400 --> 00:29:03,880
Speaker 1: wanted to make a group chat with the three of

654
00:29:03,960 --> 00:29:06,560
Speaker 1: us to figure it out. Eight thirty three pm, we

655
00:29:06,560 --> 00:29:09,320
Speaker 1: were wrapping up rehearsal and she sent me another message

656
00:29:09,440 --> 00:29:11,960
Speaker 1: asking again if I wanted to move forward with her

657
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Speaker 1: as a tenant, asking me to please respond, and saying

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Speaker 1: the longer we make her wait, the higher chance she

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Speaker 1: might find someone else. I really need you to start

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Speaker 1: responding to me so I can follow up with her.

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Speaker 1: She then said it's not fair for you to assume

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Speaker 1: I'm going to pay half the rent when I'm finding

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Speaker 1: food options for tenants. She has my full approval, we

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Speaker 1: just need yours. I went through all of these messages

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Speaker 1: after rehearsal, way more than what I retyped here. For

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Speaker 1: the most part, I was majorly summarizing, and I may

667
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Speaker 1: have been in the wrong for this, but I was

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Speaker 1: a little petty and didn't respond right away. Oh peace, stop, dude,

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Speaker 1: this is not the time to chat.

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Speaker 3: Oh my god, this is for you panic.

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Speaker 1: Attack about having to pay for the rent. She's trying

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Speaker 1: to get a roommate for you. You're a little bit

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Speaker 1: the Ale. I honestly, I'm a little bit oh piece

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Speaker 1: the a hole. I mean, Meghan is still the Ale

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Speaker 1: for sure, but oh he's a little bit the.

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Speaker 2: Ale here, I will say.

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Speaker 3: And also in defense of Megan here, yeah, Megan is

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Speaker 3: pretty on top of it.

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Speaker 1: Megan gave a month in advance, which honestly, I mean,

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Speaker 1: it is pretty quick and it's when people break leases,

681
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Speaker 1: but it's not like a week in a day.

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Speaker 3: She's I think she's doing a lot considering the circumstances.

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Speaker 1: I agree, which yeah.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, Megan doesn't even have to help, like, I mean, yeah,

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Speaker 4: she does. But at the end of the day, Megan

686
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Speaker 4: is like, I'm gone, whatever, break the lease.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, if I have to pay it, I mean I

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Speaker 5: don't know.

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Speaker 1: I mean, like like Megan's for other reasons, yeah, like

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Speaker 1: not liking her non binary friends. Yeah, Megan, But but

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Speaker 1: in this specific case, she's trying.

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Speaker 3: She's actually like pretty on top of it, and like

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Speaker 3: the deeper in this process it goes, It's like the

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Speaker 3: more Megan is like trying to like really stay like yo, yo, hey,

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Speaker 3: let's do this and make this happen.

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Speaker 1: Like isn't fair for her to pay for half the

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Speaker 1: least when she's not living there?

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Speaker 3: Yeah, but I mean she did, like she even contract aside.

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Speaker 2: I'm like, it's like you.

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Speaker 3: Guys, and and look, at the end of the day,

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Speaker 3: you shouldn't not do what you want with your life

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00:31:06,760 --> 00:31:09,200
Speaker 3: because you had this, you know, understanding with your friend

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Speaker 3: to live in an apartment, Like like, do do what you

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Speaker 3: want with your life. But at the same time, that

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Speaker 3: doesn't mean you don't have the responsibility of that understanding

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Speaker 3: and agreement you had with with that person.

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Speaker 1: Says Megan's four. But I think I'm on that train.

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Speaker 1: I think everyone's here kind.

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Speaker 4: Of everyone heres being just a little goofy.

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Speaker 2: There is ladies and gentlemen, and that's why he's here.

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Speaker 2: This is the Big Bucks