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Speaker 1: generation or to another group of girls, but you are

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Speaker 1: not that. You are fifteen, and you have to learn

427
00:27:20,800 --> 00:27:24,880
Speaker 1: to be fifteen. I love the John Wesley quote earn

428
00:27:24,920 --> 00:27:27,000
Speaker 1: all you can, save all you can, give all you can,

429
00:27:27,720 --> 00:27:30,440
Speaker 1: but that is not that quote. John did not mean

430
00:27:30,480 --> 00:27:34,200
Speaker 1: that for a fifteen year old girl. He didn't mean

431
00:27:34,240 --> 00:27:37,560
Speaker 1: it for a fifteen year old boy. That's not what

432
00:27:37,640 --> 00:27:41,919
Speaker 1: he meant. It's a wonderful piece of advice and a

433
00:27:42,000 --> 00:27:45,240
Speaker 1: nice little quote to hang on the wall, but it's

434
00:27:45,280 --> 00:27:47,520
Speaker 1: not something to worry about or to think about. When

435
00:27:47,560 --> 00:27:53,200
Speaker 1: the season changes, and it will, you'll be ready. You're

436
00:27:53,240 --> 00:27:57,760
Speaker 1: not in that season yet. Just be fifteen, Just be fifteen,

437
00:27:58,920 --> 00:28:06,880
Speaker 1: all right? Say it is this that makes sense? Let's

438
00:28:06,920 --> 00:28:09,120
Speaker 1: hit another one here to the subject line, says traveling

439
00:28:09,160 --> 00:28:11,920
Speaker 1: Pipeliner at Grande. I'd like to stay anonymous. I'm twenty

440
00:28:12,000 --> 00:28:15,000
Speaker 1: years old from South Louisiana. Me and my girlfriend have

441
00:28:15,080 --> 00:28:17,680
Speaker 1: been together for a year. I was wondering, with all

442
00:28:17,720 --> 00:28:21,000
Speaker 1: the traveling you do for concerts, how do you keep

443
00:28:21,040 --> 00:28:24,080
Speaker 1: motivated and stay on path doing what you love without

444
00:28:24,200 --> 00:28:27,919
Speaker 1: missing your family and friends. I'm currently sixteen hours away

445
00:28:28,160 --> 00:28:31,080
Speaker 1: from home working on a pipeline, and I'm wanting to

446
00:28:31,119 --> 00:28:33,520
Speaker 1: give up my dreams to be with my family and friends.

447
00:28:34,280 --> 00:28:40,880
Speaker 1: Thanks for the advice, all right, mister anonymous. I appreciate you, buddy,

448
00:28:40,880 --> 00:28:44,320
Speaker 1: Thank you so much for emailing shout out to South Louisiana.

449
00:28:44,400 --> 00:28:51,480
Speaker 1: And let me dive into this. You are twenty, you

450
00:28:52,360 --> 00:28:56,640
Speaker 1: have a girlfriend, you're not married, and you're missing your family.

451
00:28:58,320 --> 00:29:00,000
Speaker 1: I would like to dive in a little bit deeper

452
00:29:00,040 --> 00:29:02,080
Speaker 1: about what you mean here, because I'm not sure if

453
00:29:02,080 --> 00:29:04,680
Speaker 1: you're talking about your girlfriend specifically that you miss her

454
00:29:04,680 --> 00:29:07,520
Speaker 1: and you love her and you're sixteen hours away from her,

455
00:29:07,800 --> 00:29:12,120
Speaker 1: or if you're talking about mom and dad, brother, sister,

456
00:29:12,200 --> 00:29:18,800
Speaker 1: stuff like that, and there's a difference. I believe. I

457
00:29:18,800 --> 00:29:20,760
Speaker 1: believe there's a difference. And so that's what I kind

458
00:29:20,760 --> 00:29:25,240
Speaker 1: of want to dive into, is that I think, well,

459
00:29:25,280 --> 00:29:28,720
Speaker 1: first of all, you can't compare me in my travels

460
00:29:28,720 --> 00:29:32,640
Speaker 1: with yours, because there's twenty three years difference and a

461
00:29:32,640 --> 00:29:37,720
Speaker 1: lot of life different between us. I was once twenty

462
00:29:38,320 --> 00:29:44,120
Speaker 1: living fifteen hours away, so almost exactly the same scenario.

463
00:29:44,200 --> 00:29:47,680
Speaker 1: When I was twenty, I was living fifteen hours away

464
00:29:48,000 --> 00:29:54,440
Speaker 1: from my family, and I missed them. But those years

465
00:29:54,800 --> 00:29:59,480
Speaker 1: that time away was so valuable for me and what

466
00:29:59,560 --> 00:30:02,840
Speaker 1: I learned earned when I got out of the house.

467
00:30:02,880 --> 00:30:04,480
Speaker 1: When I was twenty and I got out and I

468
00:30:04,520 --> 00:30:06,840
Speaker 1: went into a new state. I went to the state

469
00:30:06,840 --> 00:30:09,280
Speaker 1: of Tennessee. I didn't know anybody in the whole state.

470
00:30:10,040 --> 00:30:13,920
Speaker 1: And as I was working and meeting people and learning

471
00:30:13,960 --> 00:30:16,800
Speaker 1: to make money and save money and give money. Just

472
00:30:16,840 --> 00:30:19,880
Speaker 1: like the last question, I had to learn that. I

473
00:30:19,880 --> 00:30:22,320
Speaker 1: had to learn how to earn, learn how to save,

474
00:30:22,560 --> 00:30:25,640
Speaker 1: learn how to give through I love how these two

475
00:30:25,720 --> 00:30:28,720
Speaker 1: questions have suddenly connected, but I had to learn that

476
00:30:28,760 --> 00:30:32,800
Speaker 1: through making mistakes. Like uh oh, I can't save if

477
00:30:32,800 --> 00:30:35,720
Speaker 1: I don't earn, I can't give if I don't save,

478
00:30:37,040 --> 00:30:40,800
Speaker 1: I can't earn unless I get a good job. This

479
00:30:40,960 --> 00:30:44,080
Speaker 1: job I have right now is not good. Okay. Now,

480
00:30:44,120 --> 00:30:45,880
Speaker 1: I made some money and I spent it. I didn't

481
00:30:45,880 --> 00:30:49,280
Speaker 1: save it. I have nothing to give. It's like you

482
00:30:49,360 --> 00:30:52,520
Speaker 1: have to make those mistakes, and you make those mistakes

483
00:30:52,680 --> 00:30:56,040
Speaker 1: away from your family, so that a you're not hurting

484
00:30:56,080 --> 00:30:58,800
Speaker 1: anybody in your family and b they are not there

485
00:30:59,040 --> 00:31:01,880
Speaker 1: as a safety to grab you and lift you up.

486
00:31:02,840 --> 00:31:07,520
Speaker 1: They've done that for eighteen years plus. We've got a

487
00:31:07,520 --> 00:31:10,280
Speaker 1: little boy right now, Maverick. He's a year and a

488
00:31:10,360 --> 00:31:14,640
Speaker 1: half right now. We're gonna constantly catch him. When he falls.

489
00:31:14,760 --> 00:31:17,320
Speaker 1: We're the safety net. We're gonna get him when he's

490
00:31:17,320 --> 00:31:19,320
Speaker 1: going down the stairs. We're gonna pick him up to

491
00:31:19,360 --> 00:31:22,000
Speaker 1: make sure he doesn't go too fast. When he goes

492
00:31:22,040 --> 00:31:25,040
Speaker 1: out and he's he's heading for the road, we're gonna

493
00:31:25,040 --> 00:31:28,920
Speaker 1: grab him. We're gonna be around him constantly, creating that

494
00:31:29,000 --> 00:31:32,120
Speaker 1: safety net. That's what we do. But once he gets

495
00:31:32,120 --> 00:31:35,480
Speaker 1: to be a certain age, you have to go out

496
00:31:35,520 --> 00:31:38,520
Speaker 1: on your own. And that's that's where you are now.

497
00:31:38,960 --> 00:31:41,760
Speaker 1: So being alone, here's what I want to say, being

498
00:31:41,800 --> 00:31:46,920
Speaker 1: sixteen hours away, being twenty years old, missing your family

499
00:31:47,000 --> 00:31:53,800
Speaker 1: like crazy and your friends is good for you. That's

500
00:31:54,040 --> 00:31:56,960
Speaker 1: all I say all that to say, it's good for you. Man.

501
00:31:58,040 --> 00:32:02,000
Speaker 1: You're being refined. You need this. I know you miss

502
00:32:02,000 --> 00:32:04,840
Speaker 1: your friends, I know you miss your girlfriend, I know

503
00:32:04,920 --> 00:32:08,000
Speaker 1: you miss your mom and dad. But this is something

504
00:32:08,040 --> 00:32:09,800
Speaker 1: that needs to happen in your life right now, and

505
00:32:09,880 --> 00:32:13,320
Speaker 1: it needs to happen to everyone around your age. In

506
00:32:13,400 --> 00:32:17,240
Speaker 1: my opinion, you can't stay in the house in mom's

507
00:32:17,240 --> 00:32:20,360
Speaker 1: basement and have her bring your meat loaf while you're

508
00:32:20,400 --> 00:32:23,400
Speaker 1: playing video games. You can't do that. You got to

509
00:32:23,440 --> 00:32:25,760
Speaker 1: get out. You have to tackle the world. You have

510
00:32:25,840 --> 00:32:31,200
Speaker 1: to fall and pick yourself back up. Mama's not around anymore,

511
00:32:31,560 --> 00:32:34,440
Speaker 1: Girlfriend's not around, your friends, your buddies are not around.

512
00:32:35,080 --> 00:32:38,320
Speaker 1: You fall, you pick yourself up. That's how you learn.

513
00:32:38,640 --> 00:32:43,000
Speaker 1: That is so valuable. To do this. You need to

514
00:32:43,000 --> 00:32:44,680
Speaker 1: be where you are right now. It needs to hurt

515
00:32:44,680 --> 00:32:46,640
Speaker 1: a little bit, needs to sting. You need to lay

516
00:32:46,680 --> 00:32:49,240
Speaker 1: your head on your pillow and go. This kind of sucks.

517
00:32:50,600 --> 00:32:53,200
Speaker 1: I miss Mom. I feel like crying right now. It's

518
00:32:53,240 --> 00:32:59,280
Speaker 1: my birthday today. I remember that I was eighteen years old.

519
00:33:00,280 --> 00:33:02,440
Speaker 1: I was in the Core Cadets at Texas A and M.

520
00:33:05,160 --> 00:33:09,120
Speaker 1: And I was a freshman and the core Cadets it's

521
00:33:09,160 --> 00:33:12,760
Speaker 1: a military academy at Texas A and M. And I

522
00:33:12,760 --> 00:33:14,880
Speaker 1: remember as a freshman, we didn't know anybody that they

523
00:33:14,880 --> 00:33:16,960
Speaker 1: put you. They give you a roommate that you don't

524
00:33:17,000 --> 00:33:20,640
Speaker 1: know at all, and they're just there's all these rules

525
00:33:20,680 --> 00:33:22,640
Speaker 1: and they're yelling at you, and you got a shaved head,

526
00:33:22,680 --> 00:33:25,600
Speaker 1: and that you don't have anything except this tiny foot

527
00:33:25,600 --> 00:33:27,400
Speaker 1: locker and what's in it. And you gotta keep a

528
00:33:27,440 --> 00:33:31,040
Speaker 1: perfect bed with perfect, perfect foldings all on the edges

529
00:33:31,080 --> 00:33:32,880
Speaker 1: of the bed, and you got a safety pennant and

530
00:33:32,880 --> 00:33:35,000
Speaker 1: stuff so that doesn't come out. And then you got

531
00:33:35,000 --> 00:33:36,400
Speaker 1: to sleep on top of the bed because you don't

532
00:33:36,440 --> 00:33:38,200
Speaker 1: want to sleep in the bed because it messes it up.

533
00:33:38,240 --> 00:33:40,840
Speaker 1: Then you're just living in this world. It's like a prison.

534
00:33:41,640 --> 00:33:45,200
Speaker 1: And I remember laying there one night and I started

535
00:33:45,200 --> 00:33:50,120
Speaker 1: thinking about where I was and the perspective of where

536
00:33:50,120 --> 00:33:51,800
Speaker 1: I was, and looking up. I was on the bottom

537
00:33:51,840 --> 00:33:53,920
Speaker 1: bunk looking up at the top bunk. My roommate up there.

538
00:33:53,920 --> 00:33:55,960
Speaker 1: I didn't even know him. His name was really's good

539
00:33:55,960 --> 00:34:00,280
Speaker 1: friends with him. Now, I just all of a sudden

540
00:34:00,320 --> 00:34:06,280
Speaker 1: it occurred to me, out of the blue, it's my birthday.

541
00:34:06,440 --> 00:34:11,879
Speaker 1: I'm nineteen today. I'm nineteen today. And I started crying, y'all.

542
00:34:11,920 --> 00:34:17,480
Speaker 1: I started crying, I'm nineteen, and I forgot. This is

543
00:34:17,520 --> 00:34:20,719
Speaker 1: the first time Mama didn't come in and say happy birthday.

544
00:34:21,560 --> 00:34:23,600
Speaker 1: First time I didn't get a big old handshake from

545
00:34:23,680 --> 00:34:27,319
Speaker 1: Dad saying happy birthday, son. First time I didn't go

546
00:34:27,400 --> 00:34:30,160
Speaker 1: to like a school and people said, hey, it's Granger's birthday.

547
00:34:31,040 --> 00:34:34,440
Speaker 1: Nobody knew. I was laying in that bed looking up

548
00:34:34,440 --> 00:34:38,320
Speaker 1: at that bunk above me, and I thought, Man, this sucks.

549
00:34:38,400 --> 00:34:41,040
Speaker 1: It's my birthday and I forgot. I forgot my own

550
00:34:41,120 --> 00:34:44,319
Speaker 1: birthday because because of the pain I've been living in.

551
00:34:45,400 --> 00:34:49,640
Speaker 1: I'm exaggerating, but I needed that. That was good for me.

552
00:34:50,000 --> 00:34:51,919
Speaker 1: Here I am, all these years later telling that story

553
00:34:51,960 --> 00:34:54,560
Speaker 1: because it was good for me. It mattered. You don't

554
00:34:54,600 --> 00:34:56,480
Speaker 1: need to have Mama cooking meat loaf for you all

555
00:34:56,520 --> 00:34:59,239
Speaker 1: the time. This good that you're missing her. I love

556
00:34:59,280 --> 00:35:01,600
Speaker 1: that you're on this PI. I love that you're sixteen

557
00:35:01,640 --> 00:35:04,040
Speaker 1: hours away. I love that it hurts a little bit.

558
00:35:04,320 --> 00:35:06,000
Speaker 1: I love that you're about to have a birthday or

559
00:35:06,040 --> 00:35:08,240
Speaker 1: you just did. And you know exactly what I'm talking about.

560
00:35:08,880 --> 00:35:12,879
Speaker 1: Guess what all this is gonna resolve one day. You're

561
00:35:12,880 --> 00:35:16,200
Speaker 1: gonna take what you learned. You're gonna take this refinement

562
00:35:16,440 --> 00:35:19,399
Speaker 1: and go back back into your life. Maybe you're gonna

563
00:35:19,400 --> 00:35:22,080
Speaker 1: marry this girl, but you're gonna be better for it.

564
00:35:23,080 --> 00:35:24,920
Speaker 1: You will have gone on this adventure and you'll be

565
00:35:24,920 --> 00:35:28,520
Speaker 1: better for it, better equipped now to move forward. Good

566
00:35:28,520 --> 00:35:33,160
Speaker 1: on you, Anonymous, Stay where you are, brother. It's another

567
00:35:33,239 --> 00:35:43,279
Speaker 1: question here. Subc decline on this one says, I know

568
00:35:43,360 --> 00:35:45,680
Speaker 1: you're really busy, but please read this. I need your help.

569
00:35:46,400 --> 00:35:49,480
Speaker 1: That's what I'm here for. Hey, grange'er, sorry in advance

570
00:35:49,560 --> 00:35:51,960
Speaker 1: for this email. But my name is Luke. I'm nineteen.

571
00:35:52,120 --> 00:35:54,680
Speaker 1: I'm in Indiana. My girlfriend and I have been off

572
00:35:54,719 --> 00:35:57,680
Speaker 1: and on for five years. She's very attached to her

573
00:35:57,719 --> 00:36:01,040
Speaker 1: parents and feels that they need to It shows that

574
00:36:01,080 --> 00:36:04,440
Speaker 1: she needs to rely on them for everything. We're currently

575
00:36:04,480 --> 00:36:07,719
Speaker 1: both in college. I'm looking to join a trade but

576
00:36:08,280 --> 00:36:10,600
Speaker 1: she felt the need to ask her parents how they

577
00:36:10,640 --> 00:36:13,799
Speaker 1: felt about me doing such a job, and they do

578
00:36:13,920 --> 00:36:18,600
Speaker 1: not like it because they're not manual labor people like me.

579
00:36:19,960 --> 00:36:22,719
Speaker 1: My parents are divorced. She gets mad when I go

580
00:36:23,200 --> 00:36:26,799
Speaker 1: to my dad's to visit with him, and when I

581
00:36:26,840 --> 00:36:30,440
Speaker 1: do stuff with my friends or my family. But for

582
00:36:30,560 --> 00:36:34,560
Speaker 1: her it's okay. I got into I got her into church,

583
00:36:35,440 --> 00:36:39,279
Speaker 1: and I feel guilty if I leave her after showing

584
00:36:39,360 --> 00:36:42,919
Speaker 1: her what it's like to be loved by God. I'm

585
00:36:42,960 --> 00:36:46,120
Speaker 1: just lost and I need help. I've prayed for this

586
00:36:46,520 --> 00:36:50,400
Speaker 1: for many nights, but I haven't seen any results yet

587
00:36:50,680 --> 00:36:55,920
Speaker 1: as my strength or in my relationship. Sorry, my reading's

588
00:36:55,920 --> 00:36:59,400
Speaker 1: not very good on this. Emil but my patience is growing.

589
00:37:00,600 --> 00:37:03,839
Speaker 1: Any advice for the situation and what to do, think

590
00:37:03,880 --> 00:37:06,200
Speaker 1: you in advance. Luke. Okay, Luke, let me recap because

591
00:37:06,200 --> 00:37:08,319
Speaker 1: I just did some really bad reading on this. You

592
00:37:08,360 --> 00:37:11,120
Speaker 1: are nineteen. I've been with this girl for five years.

593
00:37:11,480 --> 00:37:15,000
Speaker 1: She is attached to her parents and she feels the

594
00:37:15,040 --> 00:37:19,160
Speaker 1: need to rely on them for everything. You're both currently

595
00:37:19,200 --> 00:37:21,799
Speaker 1: in college, but you're looking to join a trade. She

596
00:37:21,960 --> 00:37:24,480
Speaker 1: asked her parents how they felt about that. They said no,

597
00:37:24,920 --> 00:37:28,880
Speaker 1: because they are not manual labor people. Your parents are divorced.

598
00:37:29,000 --> 00:37:30,480
Speaker 1: She gets mad if you go to your dad's and

599
00:37:30,560 --> 00:37:33,239
Speaker 1: visit and do stuff with him and your friends or

600
00:37:33,280 --> 00:37:35,640
Speaker 1: your family. But it's okay for her to do the

601
00:37:35,680 --> 00:37:38,560
Speaker 1: same thing. You got her into church. You don't want

602
00:37:38,600 --> 00:37:41,800
Speaker 1: to leave her because that would be hypocritical in your mind,

603
00:37:41,880 --> 00:37:44,160
Speaker 1: because you have showed her what it's like to be

604
00:37:44,200 --> 00:37:46,600
Speaker 1: loved by God, and now you're gonna leave her. You

605
00:37:46,640 --> 00:37:50,520
Speaker 1: feel lost. That is your email. Okay. It's also important

606
00:37:50,520 --> 00:37:52,839
Speaker 1: that you said I've prayed for this for many nights,

607
00:37:52,840 --> 00:38:00,680
Speaker 1: but I haven't seen any results. Okay, let's start with

608
00:38:00,719 --> 00:38:03,880
Speaker 1: the prayer. Let's start with your prayer. You prayed for

609
00:38:03,960 --> 00:38:08,160
Speaker 1: this many nights with no results. Well, that's nothing new.

610
00:38:10,239 --> 00:38:12,719
Speaker 1: That doesn't sound out of character for God to have

611
00:38:12,760 --> 00:38:16,920
Speaker 1: you hold on and hold on and hold on until

612
00:38:16,920 --> 00:38:23,359
Speaker 1: you start wondering. Am I asking the right thing? Have

613
00:38:23,400 --> 00:38:30,319
Speaker 1: you thought about that? God's not answering my prayer? Am

614
00:38:30,320 --> 00:38:37,360
Speaker 1: I asking the right prayer? Because God is sovereign, He

615
00:38:37,480 --> 00:38:41,160
Speaker 1: is purposeful, He is all planning. He knows every hair

616
00:38:41,280 --> 00:38:46,120
Speaker 1: on your head, he knows your exact days. So sometimes

617
00:38:46,120 --> 00:38:49,960
Speaker 1: when we pray, if we're forgetting that, if we're forgetting

618
00:38:49,960 --> 00:38:53,680
Speaker 1: that he's sovereign that it's his will, not ours. If

619
00:38:53,680 --> 00:38:59,360
Speaker 1: we forget that, then we start getting frustrated until we realize, Oh,

620
00:39:00,040 --> 00:39:04,400
Speaker 1: I'm just praying what I want, like Santa Claus, like

621
00:39:04,440 --> 00:39:07,320
Speaker 1: a Genie in the bottle, I'm just rubbing the bottle, saying, Genie,

622
00:39:07,320 --> 00:39:10,040
Speaker 1: come out and grant me my wishes, and he goes,

623
00:39:10,760 --> 00:39:15,000
Speaker 1: don't tell me how to get my glory. I am sovereign,

624
00:39:15,600 --> 00:39:21,280
Speaker 1: I am planning, I am purposing. I know my plans

625
00:39:21,280 --> 00:39:25,640
Speaker 1: I have for you. When are you going to learn

626
00:39:25,680 --> 00:39:31,360
Speaker 1: to pray for a sovereignty situation? Like Gott? I know

627
00:39:31,920 --> 00:39:35,880
Speaker 1: you're working something right now. I know you're doing something.

628
00:39:36,680 --> 00:39:39,719
Speaker 1: I know you're teaching me. I know you're disciplining me.

629
00:39:40,239 --> 00:39:43,080
Speaker 1: I know you're churning something deep inside of me, refining

630
00:39:43,120 --> 00:39:45,200
Speaker 1: me so that I could be closer to you, so

631
00:39:45,239 --> 00:39:50,600
Speaker 1: that I can glorify you better. When is that prayer

632
00:39:50,640 --> 00:39:55,840
Speaker 1: going to start being in your nightly prayers? Here? Gotta

633
00:39:57,280 --> 00:39:59,839
Speaker 1: I love this girl, you know my heart. I don't

634
00:39:59,840 --> 00:40:01,880
Speaker 1: need to tell you. You know my heart. God, you

635
00:40:01,920 --> 00:40:05,279
Speaker 1: know I love this girl. But I feel like I'm

636
00:40:05,320 --> 00:40:08,640
Speaker 1: hitting a brick wall right now. Show me what you're

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Speaker 1: doing in this so that I could better glorify you.

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Speaker 1: If it's being with her or not, I'm gonna continue

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Speaker 1: walking down this path. Close it off, and I feel

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Speaker 1: like you're doing that right now. Change my heart, God,

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Speaker 1: renew me from the inside out, because my flesh wants

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Speaker 1: this and that's not always aligning with what you need.

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Speaker 1: Show me, God, show me your way, your path, not mine.

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Speaker 1: Don't let me get in the way here, God, when

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Speaker 1: are you gonna start praying that Luke outside looking in

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Speaker 1: this girl? Selfish this girl? What's what she wants? You've

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Speaker 1: been with her five years meaning you're nineteen, meaning you've

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Speaker 1: been with her since you were fourteen. Bro, she's no

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Speaker 1: good for you. That's what I see. You're telling me

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Speaker 1: you want to join, you want to go into a trade,

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Speaker 1: and her parents say no, they don't like it because

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Speaker 1: they're they're not manual labor people. Do you know how

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Speaker 1: crazy that sounds. If your friend told you this, you'd say,

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Speaker 1: bro dump her, break up with her. That's what you

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Speaker 1: would say to any of your best friends. You would

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Speaker 1: be hating your friend if you said stay with her,

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Speaker 1: just just please her as much as you can. Luke,

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Speaker 1: you would hate your friend if you told him that.

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Speaker 1: You know this. If this was you, you'd say, break

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Speaker 1: up with her. Your parents are divorced. You want to

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Speaker 1: go see your dad, and she gets mad when you

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Speaker 1: do stuff with him or your friends. Yet she gets

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Speaker 1: to do it. Dump her. She is too self involved.

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Speaker 1: This is not love. You're just You're just a pond

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Speaker 1: in her little dream. You just you are are making

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Speaker 1: her little world go around because you are. You have

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Speaker 1: stepped into her kingdom lower case K, and you are

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Speaker 1: providing what she needs as a servant of her kingdom.

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Speaker 1: You're meeting a criteria that she needs in a man.

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Speaker 1: Time to leave the kingdom, break the gates, get out,

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Speaker 1: don't worry about this whole thing. You took her to

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Speaker 1: church and you've shown her what it's like to be

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Speaker 1: loved by God. No no, no, no no, that's not

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Speaker 1: to be loved by God has nothing to do with

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Speaker 1: any of the stuff you've just mentioned. You feeling me.

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Speaker 1: I understand that sometimes you're in a situation like this

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Speaker 1: and it seems like the walls are closing in. You say,

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Speaker 1: I'm lost and I need help. I'm praying, my strength

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Speaker 1: is waning. I understand when you're in it, but when

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Speaker 1: you're outside and I'm reading it and all these people

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Speaker 1: are listening on this podcast, everyone is saying, Luke, leave her,

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Speaker 1: leave her. You're nineteen, no kids yet, no kids yet.

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Speaker 1: You got a clean slate, a new chapter, turn the page.

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Speaker 1: Thank you guys for emailing Luke. I appreciate you brother,

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Speaker 1: all you guys for being vulnerable and opening up. I

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Speaker 1: love you for that and we'll see you next Monday.

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Speaker 1: Thanks for joining me on the Granger Smith podcast. I

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Speaker 1: appreciate all of you guys. You could help me out

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