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Speaker 1: Oh where a drunk mind speak sober thoughts? Even so,

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Speaker 1: lolmost forgot the words I am dad bitch, that's what

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Speaker 1: I sit. Okay, So, as y'all can see, we have

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Speaker 1: a very special guest today. So we have Mona here,

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Speaker 1: and what's your exact title? I don't want to so

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Speaker 1: I'm a dating strategist. Okay, strategy now I like that

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Speaker 1: word because I don't want to be coach. We these

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Speaker 1: strategies in the streets. Yes, absolute, Okay, So you're gonna

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Speaker 1: just give us the rundown about like everything when it

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Speaker 1: comes to dating. Because we have this term that we

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Speaker 1: use on the show called Badb's Yes we love a

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Speaker 1: bad Bee honey, So a bd B for the people

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Speaker 1: that's this your first episode tuning in is a big

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Speaker 1: dig baller and y'all know, I feel like that's the

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Speaker 1: goals of everybody, Like everybody want to be everybody want

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Speaker 1: to ye everybody. So let us get a little background

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Speaker 1: about you, like how did you get into this? Like

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Speaker 1: what you got a degree in date niggas myself? No, listen,

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Speaker 1: I have a degree in dating the wrong kind. Listen, listen.

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Speaker 1: So honestly, I started out I wanted to be a

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Speaker 1: sugar baby. But then right, but then I discovered like,

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Speaker 1: you don't really want that life, like you don't really

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Speaker 1: want you want the connection. You want this. So then

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Speaker 1: I figured out, well, shoot, if you date men with

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Speaker 1: this type of mindset, then you don't got to be

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Speaker 1: a sugar baby. You can still be taken care of. It.

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Speaker 1: Could be a housewife with which you you know, if

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Speaker 1: housewife the kids and all of that, or you know,

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Speaker 1: just a housewife. That's what I aspire to be. So

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Speaker 1: that's really how it got started, studying and learning and

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Speaker 1: figuring out how to maneuver strategized. Yeah, because I need

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Speaker 1: a good strategy, is you know what I'm saying. So

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Speaker 1: we want to go ahead and just get into these

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Speaker 1: topics because I know we're gonna be long winness today,

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Speaker 1: especially me because I got I got my notepad. So

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Speaker 1: the first thing we want to talk about, because you know,

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Speaker 1: I got to do my research on your girls. Because

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Speaker 1: a lot of times people be like, oh, I'm a

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Speaker 1: dating coach, and they say like the most basic things,

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Speaker 1: and they say things that are so cliche and like, yeah,

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Speaker 1: generic things. So I feel like a lot of times,

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Speaker 1: a lot of dating coaches out there, they take advantage

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Speaker 1: do feel like that, especially as black women, I feel

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Speaker 1: like we have probably haven't the hardest in the dating world.

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Speaker 1: I don't want to say that, it's a probably, Yeah,

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Speaker 1: I do feel like because I feel like a lot

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Speaker 1: of people, we as black women, we get attacked a

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Speaker 1: lot in the media for one, and then it's like

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Speaker 1: everybody makes us feel like we're the least wanted demographic.

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Speaker 1: So it's like we already have to fight against that.

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Speaker 1: And then honestly, if you're if you are like me,

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Speaker 1: and you only date black men, babe. The opinion even small.

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Speaker 1: The piggas is slim. Yeah, it's slim. Yes, it's super

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Speaker 1: super slim. And it's like, if you feel like you

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Speaker 1: want a bd B, it's even oh yeah, it's even slam.

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Speaker 1: Just scales hunting. It's scarce. That's why I'll be trying

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Speaker 1: to hide. Mister Cabo, you got mygga girl, because once

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Speaker 1: you post them, he ain't saying y'all. Let me tell

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Speaker 1: you before this topic, this girl posted up bad B

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Speaker 1: marry nothing, and that that's what I said. They barely listen.

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Speaker 1: Listen just say that married rich one. So you crying,

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Speaker 1: you know you crying? Yes? Yes, movie, Okay, So let's

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Speaker 1: you had so many good topics. Let me just say

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Speaker 1: that first of all, like you just always hit the

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Speaker 1: that women need to know. We was literally on the

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Speaker 1: could not decide because it was because you had so

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Speaker 1: many important things that I feel like women need to

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Speaker 1: get out there and date somebody and not lowering your standards.

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Speaker 1: you said something that stuck with me, and it says

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Speaker 1: loyal comes with labels. It absolutely comes with labels. I

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Speaker 1: feel like we have been conditioned to be with one

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Speaker 1: conditioned like it's almost like if you're not then you're

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Speaker 1: a whole. You ask you that or whatever, and you

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Speaker 1: can date whoever. It doesn't mean you're sleeping with whoever.

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Speaker 1: So if you want me to be loyal to you

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Speaker 1: have to give me something to be loyal too, Like

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Speaker 1: what have you done to earn my loyalty for me

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Speaker 1: to date just you? I really feel like loyalty comes

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Speaker 1: with a ring. But you know absolutely, I mean we

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Speaker 1: who hasn't made a commitment to me, no commitment, Why

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Speaker 1: I owe you my loyalty, and you have not shown

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Speaker 1: showing me that you're serious right about me. But I

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Speaker 1: feel like I'm not gonna lie to This is where

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Speaker 1: I know I'll be sucking up at. I'm backwards because

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Speaker 1: I feel like, Oh, let me prove to him that

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Speaker 1: I do that. I definitely do do that. So it's

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Speaker 1: like I feel like, if I don't show him the loyalty,

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Speaker 1: then I'm never gonna get the label. Okay, how does

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Speaker 1: that work exactly? That's why you shouldn't be doing he

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Speaker 1: told you my playbook is wrong. Yeah, you gotta do

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Speaker 1: I always say that, no, nigga, you ain't the only one.

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Speaker 1: You gotta be real unavailable, like like real Okay, I

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Speaker 1: don't know, but don't be so ready like a lot

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Speaker 1: of times we do enteringt with that, like oh my gosh,

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Speaker 1: I have to show him like I used to be,

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Speaker 1: like a girl I used to be in that cooking

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Speaker 1: that I'm recovering I'm redeing somebody laying their hands on me.

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Speaker 1: So I don't do any of those things anymore, Like

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Speaker 1: you took me on five dates. I made you this

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Speaker 1: I love to like my nigga I do. I'm giving Beyonce,

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Speaker 1: let me care to you. It's given that so it's

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Speaker 1: I'll give until like I take everything about of me.

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Speaker 1: Do you what do you mean like men like causes,

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Speaker 1: like god like charities? Like do you say it's for

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Speaker 1: your business? No, because then he's like, oh then it's urgering,

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Speaker 1: it's right, then it's urderin like my girl got a

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Speaker 1: make it instead of a bag. It's a dream again. No, no, no,

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Speaker 1: I'm never act poor, just it's for assistance. If you

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Speaker 1: they aren't. So if I'm asking you to walk me

425
00:21:47,560 --> 00:21:49,840
Speaker 1: through it d in your life, then you like, now

426
00:21:49,880 --> 00:21:52,639
Speaker 1: you gotta think because I said I was this, but

427
00:21:52,800 --> 00:21:55,639
Speaker 1: now I gotta now, I gotta really give you a story.

428
00:21:55,960 --> 00:21:58,600
Speaker 1: Right now. We all got con now we don't get

429
00:21:58,640 --> 00:22:02,240
Speaker 1: in our draws before. But now I'm listening. I'm listening

430
00:22:02,320 --> 00:22:04,840
Speaker 1: for this and that. Okay. So I'm always asking that

431
00:22:04,920 --> 00:22:09,080
Speaker 1: I'm asking, Like if they say they're like, I'm looking

432
00:22:09,080 --> 00:22:11,159
Speaker 1: for a businessman. I need somebody in business, somebody who

433
00:22:11,160 --> 00:22:14,919
Speaker 1: knows about marketing. I need somebody knows how about digital marketing.

434
00:22:15,280 --> 00:22:17,360
Speaker 1: I need somebody that has a connect for like I'm

435
00:22:17,520 --> 00:22:20,280
Speaker 1: when I date, I'm dating strategically. I'm looking for men

436
00:22:20,359 --> 00:22:25,399
Speaker 1: that can assist me because I'm tired of buildings. I

437
00:22:25,720 --> 00:22:30,800
Speaker 1: like that dating empires. I'm the empire right here, sir, right, okay, okay,

438
00:22:31,000 --> 00:22:33,920
Speaker 1: So I'm just making sure that i'm looking. When I'm

439
00:22:35,040 --> 00:22:37,560
Speaker 1: getting into those rounds, it is for force. But we

440
00:22:37,640 --> 00:22:40,800
Speaker 1: get to said, okay, yeah, yeah, I mean I mean,

441
00:22:40,840 --> 00:22:43,920
Speaker 1: let's I would, right. I agree with that, though, what

442
00:22:44,240 --> 00:22:47,159
Speaker 1: like asking because we have we love to be like,

443
00:22:47,200 --> 00:22:52,639
Speaker 1: I'm an entrepreneur. Okay, but what do you do at pharmacist,

444
00:22:54,280 --> 00:23:01,240
Speaker 1: street pharmacist into street pharmaceuticals. Listen, twenties food a guy

445
00:23:01,400 --> 00:23:03,960
Speaker 1: in the cannabis business, and so I was learning from that.

446
00:23:04,200 --> 00:23:08,000
Speaker 1: But yeah, I'm down with that, you know. I'm always

447
00:23:08,119 --> 00:23:11,680
Speaker 1: that that way. Yeah, yeah, if you got a dispensary, yeah,

448
00:23:12,040 --> 00:23:16,960
Speaker 1: the right way. But I don't know. I'm not gonna lie.

449
00:23:16,960 --> 00:23:19,200
Speaker 1: I'm not dealing with No four X, neither a nigga either.

450
00:23:23,240 --> 00:23:25,159
Speaker 1: I don't want to hear about No X. But I

451
00:23:25,160 --> 00:23:27,720
Speaker 1: don't understand whole point because they like that if you

452
00:23:27,800 --> 00:23:29,560
Speaker 1: ask him what he do now, them niggas be so

453
00:23:29,760 --> 00:23:35,680
Speaker 1: passionate your you're off the whole day talking about it off,

454
00:23:35,800 --> 00:23:37,280
Speaker 1: you want to live the rest of your life broke,

455
00:23:37,760 --> 00:23:43,200
Speaker 1: your mom still has a job. That's how the four

456
00:23:43,359 --> 00:23:46,040
Speaker 1: X niggas talk like, I don't want no Fox niggas.

457
00:23:46,040 --> 00:23:49,560
Speaker 1: I honestly, thousand dollars with me could be one hundred

458
00:23:49,600 --> 00:23:54,120
Speaker 1: thousand by next week. That next week. But you think,

459
00:23:54,119 --> 00:23:56,680
Speaker 1: because we always talk about this with us, like we

460
00:23:56,720 --> 00:23:58,840
Speaker 1: feel like it's hard to find somebody to day because

461
00:23:58,960 --> 00:24:01,320
Speaker 1: we are very different out side of our show, and

462
00:24:01,880 --> 00:24:04,240
Speaker 1: we always try to find somebody who kind of does

463
00:24:04,280 --> 00:24:06,520
Speaker 1: the same thing as us or like in the industry,

464
00:24:06,960 --> 00:24:08,399
Speaker 1: Is that like a good way to go as far

465
00:24:08,440 --> 00:24:10,920
Speaker 1: as women with careers, Like, if you're a lawyer, look

466
00:24:11,040 --> 00:24:14,639
Speaker 1: for somebody who is like educated in law or somebody

467
00:24:14,680 --> 00:24:17,040
Speaker 1: that does something in that field, Like is it smart

468
00:24:17,119 --> 00:24:19,720
Speaker 1: to date people kind of in your same arena? So

469
00:24:19,800 --> 00:24:21,480
Speaker 1: I feel like you have to know your type. You

470
00:24:21,600 --> 00:24:23,320
Speaker 1: have to know your audience. You have to know who

471
00:24:23,400 --> 00:24:26,560
Speaker 1: you attract, not only with your personality, but with your

472
00:24:26,640 --> 00:24:30,280
Speaker 1: body type, how you wear your hair, your thought process

473
00:24:30,359 --> 00:24:33,600
Speaker 1: and things like that. I think you should date according

474
00:24:33,600 --> 00:24:35,680
Speaker 1: to your type. Like I attract a lot of businessmen.

475
00:24:35,720 --> 00:24:38,560
Speaker 1: I attract a lot of doctors, lawyers, like, and you

476
00:24:38,760 --> 00:24:47,760
Speaker 1: know your type. We ain't tight because one lawyer a lawyer.

477
00:24:47,880 --> 00:24:50,320
Speaker 1: We didn't, you know, but I was definitely talking to

478
00:24:50,600 --> 00:24:54,440
Speaker 1: a lawyer. Okay, this is lawyer pussy. Let's given. Annaly's

479
00:24:54,520 --> 00:25:02,000
Speaker 1: keating bitch, please I object, hope, don't do me. We

480
00:25:02,119 --> 00:25:05,520
Speaker 1: were talking. We were talking and he bought he bought

481
00:25:05,600 --> 00:25:07,600
Speaker 1: me some shoes. Oh well that's yeah, he was dating.

482
00:25:07,600 --> 00:25:13,879
Speaker 1: He bought you something and they was yeah, it was relatives.

483
00:25:14,160 --> 00:25:17,360
Speaker 1: We were dating. We were That's the story, and that's

484
00:25:17,400 --> 00:25:21,360
Speaker 1: the story about one time he was a lawyer. Man,

485
00:25:22,680 --> 00:25:25,320
Speaker 1: that's but that's still my friend. Honestly, I feel like,

486
00:25:26,320 --> 00:25:29,600
Speaker 1: you know, it's just it's a long distance. He way

487
00:25:29,960 --> 00:25:32,800
Speaker 1: far away. But if it was something was like yeah,

488
00:25:33,640 --> 00:25:35,600
Speaker 1: but all you were saying lawyer.

489
00:25:38,440 --> 00:25:38,640
Speaker 2: Yeah.

490
00:25:38,920 --> 00:25:42,600
Speaker 1: So like I just feel like you gotta know, like, okay,

491
00:25:42,720 --> 00:25:44,920
Speaker 1: so if you're out in your dady, like if what

492
00:25:45,080 --> 00:25:47,920
Speaker 1: type of person approaches you, like, what kind of mindset?

493
00:25:48,040 --> 00:25:54,879
Speaker 1: What were you looking at? Rappers niggas that got ctan?

494
00:25:56,400 --> 00:26:05,080
Speaker 1: I don't know. Now listen, I'm sell you that, yes,

495
00:26:05,920 --> 00:26:11,440
Speaker 1: they cash out. They do. Let me say something. I

496
00:26:11,560 --> 00:26:13,080
Speaker 1: know people be like, oh, I need to change the

497
00:26:13,160 --> 00:26:15,639
Speaker 1: type of man that I'm dating. I don't care what

498
00:26:15,800 --> 00:26:18,040
Speaker 1: nobody says. I will never stop dating Nagia. I will

499
00:26:18,160 --> 00:26:22,840
Speaker 1: never not love an icy nigga. I love Nageria. If

500
00:26:22,840 --> 00:26:24,320
Speaker 1: you're not the only one that make you think you

501
00:26:24,400 --> 00:26:30,480
Speaker 1: the only one the pedestal man, oh my god, maybe

502
00:26:30,520 --> 00:26:33,119
Speaker 1: that's my issue with Nigeria. You men may be a

503
00:26:33,200 --> 00:26:36,160
Speaker 1: little too clingy for me. I like it so cute.

504
00:26:36,200 --> 00:26:36,840
Speaker 3: I like my man.

505
00:26:37,160 --> 00:26:40,080
Speaker 1: They be whiny. I love my thirsty ass and I

506
00:26:40,280 --> 00:26:43,840
Speaker 1: love it a thirsty nigga, but not a whiny one.

507
00:26:45,280 --> 00:26:49,320
Speaker 1: I've never experienced a whiny Nigerian. I haven't. I will

508
00:26:49,359 --> 00:26:52,320
Speaker 1: say I haven't. Okay, So let's get to this next

509
00:26:52,359 --> 00:26:54,040
Speaker 1: time because I really want to talk about this because

510
00:26:54,040 --> 00:26:57,480
Speaker 1: we always talk about like the guys we date, but

511
00:26:57,600 --> 00:27:02,280
Speaker 1: I feel like there's more than athletes or rappers when

512
00:27:02,320 --> 00:27:04,680
Speaker 1: it comes to high caliber men. Like we tend to

513
00:27:04,800 --> 00:27:08,040
Speaker 1: date like CEOs of like their own company businesses and

514
00:27:08,119 --> 00:27:10,639
Speaker 1: things like that. But like in the industry that we're in,

515
00:27:11,000 --> 00:27:13,960
Speaker 1: but like you're saying, there's lawyers, there's doctors, there's you know,

516
00:27:14,040 --> 00:27:16,600
Speaker 1: there's people that make really good money outside of the

517
00:27:16,680 --> 00:27:18,960
Speaker 1: type of bdb's wee day, right, So I really want

518
00:27:19,000 --> 00:27:21,280
Speaker 1: to talk about how to pull high caliber man because

519
00:27:21,280 --> 00:27:23,639
Speaker 1: the girls are always asking us like where do we

520
00:27:23,720 --> 00:27:25,960
Speaker 1: find these men? Oh, girl, I'm in Houston, Where do

521
00:27:26,080 --> 00:27:28,399
Speaker 1: I go this? And that? So they do be asking

522
00:27:28,520 --> 00:27:29,920
Speaker 1: us that and not be like girl, if I know

523
00:27:30,280 --> 00:27:32,760
Speaker 1: I'm I'm not gonna go first, I'm dead. First of all,

524
00:27:32,800 --> 00:27:36,000
Speaker 1: we are not madam, We are not pimps, not We're

525
00:27:36,040 --> 00:27:38,960
Speaker 1: not doing all that. So what are some tips on

526
00:27:39,080 --> 00:27:42,840
Speaker 1: highs how to pull a high caliber man? So listen,

527
00:27:42,920 --> 00:27:45,280
Speaker 1: I'm gonna tell you something, and it's an unpopular opinion.

528
00:27:46,160 --> 00:27:49,320
Speaker 1: I'm scared. I know I'm scared too. You gotta become

529
00:27:49,320 --> 00:27:52,240
Speaker 1: a high caliber woman. Oh that's easy, I've already out.

530
00:27:52,600 --> 00:27:55,720
Speaker 1: Oh you gotta be an asset. Okay, you have to.

531
00:27:55,920 --> 00:27:57,840
Speaker 1: So you have to be like I was saying earlier,

532
00:27:57,840 --> 00:28:00,119
Speaker 1: you have to feel his need is what are his me?

533
00:28:01,160 --> 00:28:03,720
Speaker 1: Because a high caliber man is really looking for a

534
00:28:03,800 --> 00:28:06,440
Speaker 1: place of solace. You looking for a place of rest

535
00:28:06,520 --> 00:28:08,360
Speaker 1: in peace. He's got all this going on all day,

536
00:28:08,640 --> 00:28:10,639
Speaker 1: and he may talk to you about business, because that's

537
00:28:10,640 --> 00:28:11,879
Speaker 1: what I want to talk about. He may talk to

538
00:28:11,880 --> 00:28:14,399
Speaker 1: you about business, but it's what kind of environment can

539
00:28:14,440 --> 00:28:16,800
Speaker 1: you create for him when he's there? What kind of

540
00:28:16,920 --> 00:28:19,639
Speaker 1: experience so kind of along the way is what I

541
00:28:19,760 --> 00:28:22,440
Speaker 1: was saying. Like these women that are sending home in

542
00:28:22,480 --> 00:28:25,280
Speaker 1: their housewives, they've created an experience for their husbands and

543
00:28:25,359 --> 00:28:28,720
Speaker 1: be like dang for the rest of my life. Like

544
00:28:29,080 --> 00:28:31,480
Speaker 1: I said that on the past episode before because we

545
00:28:31,560 --> 00:28:34,920
Speaker 1: were talking about housewives and how it's a job.

546
00:28:35,359 --> 00:28:36,320
Speaker 2: It is.

547
00:28:36,520 --> 00:28:39,120
Speaker 1: It's a job because it's more than just cooking and cleaning,

548
00:28:39,280 --> 00:28:43,600
Speaker 1: Like you're creating your your man. Yeah, Like so I

549
00:28:43,720 --> 00:28:46,720
Speaker 1: definitely agree with that. See our strategy wasn't that bad, bitch.

550
00:28:47,640 --> 00:28:50,120
Speaker 1: We ain't that far off, And we weren't that far off, bitch.

551
00:28:50,200 --> 00:28:52,720
Speaker 1: We on the right path. Yeah yeah, And I mean

552
00:28:52,800 --> 00:28:55,320
Speaker 1: our one hundred percent agree with her too about having

553
00:28:55,400 --> 00:28:58,760
Speaker 1: to become how a woman of a high caliber. Today

554
00:28:58,840 --> 00:29:01,160
Speaker 1: these kind of mean because I like, prior to the

555
00:29:01,200 --> 00:29:04,280
Speaker 1: show taking off, we definitely would attract certain type of guys.

556
00:29:04,640 --> 00:29:07,560
Speaker 1: But I feel like now with my relationships with guys,

557
00:29:07,600 --> 00:29:10,400
Speaker 1: it be more longevity. It does well, they want to

558
00:29:10,440 --> 00:29:12,719
Speaker 1: stick around a little longer, and they are a lot

559
00:29:12,840 --> 00:29:17,400
Speaker 1: more intrigued about what I have going on business with

560
00:29:17,520 --> 00:29:19,800
Speaker 1: me now, because that's the that's the substance, that's to

561
00:29:19,880 --> 00:29:24,360
Speaker 1: meat the potatoes, like that's the soul. I will say

562
00:29:24,840 --> 00:29:28,520
Speaker 1: I can attest that because honestly, I'm a relationship girl.

563
00:29:29,240 --> 00:29:31,360
Speaker 1: I'm always the girl like when I deal with a man,

564
00:29:31,480 --> 00:29:34,520
Speaker 1: especially if I like him. I have men in my

565
00:29:34,640 --> 00:29:40,520
Speaker 1: life for years, So I will say that. What was

566
00:29:40,520 --> 00:29:42,120
Speaker 1: I about to say, I'm sorry, y'all, that's the one.

567
00:29:43,160 --> 00:29:45,400
Speaker 1: It's I'm used to having partners that I deal with

568
00:29:45,480 --> 00:29:48,040
Speaker 1: for a long time. But like Dreya says, like now

569
00:29:48,160 --> 00:29:50,080
Speaker 1: that we have the show and the show has taken off,

570
00:29:50,200 --> 00:29:53,160
Speaker 1: I feel like it's a little bit deeper. Okay, you know,

571
00:29:53,320 --> 00:29:55,840
Speaker 1: like you because people have people that they fuck for years,

572
00:29:55,960 --> 00:29:59,480
Speaker 1: that's normal. But now I feel like I have like relationships,

573
00:29:59,600 --> 00:30:02,600
Speaker 1: like meaningful relationships, like even if we don't work out,

574
00:30:02,720 --> 00:30:04,640
Speaker 1: like we're still gonna be cool. And it's like, you

575
00:30:04,720 --> 00:30:07,080
Speaker 1: know what I mean. And even with you, I have

576
00:30:07,280 --> 00:30:10,480
Speaker 1: never seen you deal with men like how you're dealing

577
00:30:10,560 --> 00:30:13,200
Speaker 1: with them now, what you mean like that way? I

578
00:30:13,400 --> 00:30:15,120
Speaker 1: just feel like before it was just kind of like

579
00:30:15,240 --> 00:30:17,520
Speaker 1: you meet a dude, y'all go on a little vacation,

580
00:30:17,680 --> 00:30:19,480
Speaker 1: you'd be like, girl, I do not like him. It's

581
00:30:19,600 --> 00:30:22,800
Speaker 1: not giving, and you are you get bored. I get

582
00:30:22,840 --> 00:30:25,160
Speaker 1: bored very right. But I feel like now like to

583
00:30:25,520 --> 00:30:27,720
Speaker 1: like the guy that you're dealing with now is like, damn,

584
00:30:27,800 --> 00:30:29,400
Speaker 1: this nigga made it past the three month mark. I

585
00:30:29,440 --> 00:30:36,440
Speaker 1: ain't seen that he made it. You know. He's doing

586
00:30:36,480 --> 00:30:38,880
Speaker 1: a good job though, And I feel like, but maybe

587
00:30:38,920 --> 00:30:41,360
Speaker 1: that's because you've grown as a woman. I feel like

588
00:30:41,400 --> 00:30:44,360
Speaker 1: they are also attracting different types of that's like you

589
00:30:44,440 --> 00:30:46,320
Speaker 1: know it's working when you start the track. You'd be like,

590
00:30:46,400 --> 00:30:50,160
Speaker 1: wait a minute, yeah, that's how you know it's working.

591
00:30:50,760 --> 00:30:52,560
Speaker 1: What you're doing is working. Yeah, I just feel like

592
00:30:52,640 --> 00:30:56,040
Speaker 1: the relationships, the conversations are different now, Like you just

593
00:30:56,160 --> 00:30:59,400
Speaker 1: kind of seem like me and respect me a little more.

594
00:31:00,000 --> 00:31:02,520
Speaker 1: I'm an R s B. Honest though, I feel like

595
00:31:02,680 --> 00:31:05,440
Speaker 1: it just brings out something different when you even with

596
00:31:05,680 --> 00:31:09,000
Speaker 1: dating like high caliber men. Yeah, they could ate anybody,

597
00:31:09,040 --> 00:31:11,680
Speaker 1: and they do sometimes they women who don't have anything

598
00:31:11,760 --> 00:31:14,840
Speaker 1: going on. But I think it brings something different out

599
00:31:14,840 --> 00:31:16,800
Speaker 1: of than when they date a woman who actually is

600
00:31:16,840 --> 00:31:19,200
Speaker 1: about her business and out here really getting money and

601
00:31:19,480 --> 00:31:24,200
Speaker 1: you know, yeah, that's not saying you gave you gave

602
00:31:24,320 --> 00:31:27,440
Speaker 1: them a charity, you gave them something to believe in. Okay,

603
00:31:27,520 --> 00:31:29,760
Speaker 1: So what makes because everybody always talking about, oh what's

604
00:31:29,760 --> 00:31:32,800
Speaker 1: the high but what makes a high caliber woman? Is

605
00:31:32,880 --> 00:31:35,440
Speaker 1: it the amount of money she makes? Like what makes

606
00:31:35,480 --> 00:31:38,200
Speaker 1: a woman high caliber? I think it's the same thing

607
00:31:38,240 --> 00:31:41,960
Speaker 1: that makes a man high caliber. I think it's what

608
00:31:42,680 --> 00:31:45,280
Speaker 1: I don't want to say, what you bring to the table,

609
00:31:45,320 --> 00:31:46,640
Speaker 1: because it's not what you brings to the table. We

610
00:31:46,720 --> 00:31:51,960
Speaker 1: hate to say it's listen now, that's the that's the

611
00:31:52,080 --> 00:31:59,000
Speaker 1: only thing I have. But I feel like she is

612
00:31:59,080 --> 00:32:01,280
Speaker 1: a woman that under stands her value. She is a

613
00:32:01,320 --> 00:32:03,760
Speaker 1: woman that understands. Like for me, I don't talk on

614
00:32:03,800 --> 00:32:05,280
Speaker 1: the phone after tent o'clock. You call me at the

615
00:32:05,320 --> 00:32:08,040
Speaker 1: ten clock. Why need to start doing that? Well, it's

616
00:32:08,080 --> 00:32:09,720
Speaker 1: because it's like you. I want you to know you

617
00:32:09,800 --> 00:32:11,520
Speaker 1: can't have my time, Like my time is my time.

618
00:32:12,200 --> 00:32:15,680
Speaker 1: I also make sure that, like what's going in my head,

619
00:32:15,680 --> 00:32:17,560
Speaker 1: what's going in my ears. I meditate every morning. I

620
00:32:17,600 --> 00:32:19,400
Speaker 1: make sure I'm going to the gym and making sure

621
00:32:20,400 --> 00:32:24,800
Speaker 1: that I'm practicing these skills that I will need once

622
00:32:25,000 --> 00:32:28,920
Speaker 1: I get that loyalty, that commitments and stuff like that.

623
00:32:29,160 --> 00:32:31,560
Speaker 1: But I really really feel like it's what you're saying.

624
00:32:31,680 --> 00:32:34,920
Speaker 1: You have substance, you're taught. Your conversations are different. You're

625
00:32:34,960 --> 00:32:36,680
Speaker 1: not talking about you may you may throw in oh

626
00:32:36,720 --> 00:32:38,920
Speaker 1: I got the new bag or whatever, but I'm also

627
00:32:39,000 --> 00:32:42,080
Speaker 1: talking about, oh, you know, when I went over here,

628
00:32:42,160 --> 00:32:44,280
Speaker 1: I was looking for this guy to my marketing thing

629
00:32:44,320 --> 00:32:45,720
Speaker 1: and then he told me this. And do you think

630
00:32:45,760 --> 00:32:48,480
Speaker 1: that's right? Because now he's I'm telling you, what's a

631
00:32:48,520 --> 00:32:51,360
Speaker 1: mental thing. You're creating this intimacy with him and you

632
00:32:51,400 --> 00:32:53,120
Speaker 1: don't even realize you're doing it, and you own and

633
00:32:53,200 --> 00:33:03,400
Speaker 1: you have to take your clothes off to do it. Yes, yes,

634
00:33:03,520 --> 00:33:05,160
Speaker 1: I mean you can put on your little sad robe.

635
00:33:05,680 --> 00:33:08,120
Speaker 1: I definitely, you know, face time. This morning, I was

636
00:33:08,160 --> 00:33:09,600
Speaker 1: getting dressed for a show, and I had my little

637
00:33:09,600 --> 00:33:11,560
Speaker 1: because this is a Leah Tah, so I was definitely

638
00:33:11,560 --> 00:33:13,000
Speaker 1: on face. So I'm like, yeah, I'm on the way

639
00:33:13,040 --> 00:33:19,520
Speaker 1: to word. Yeah, you gotta live them know what word? Okay,

640
00:33:19,600 --> 00:33:22,160
Speaker 1: But I'm glad that you pointed all those things out

641
00:33:22,240 --> 00:33:25,400
Speaker 1: because I feel like, as a woman in my twenties,

642
00:33:25,440 --> 00:33:28,320
Speaker 1: for so long, I felt like I wasn't good enough

643
00:33:28,360 --> 00:33:31,080
Speaker 1: because I wasn't making any money. Oh yeah, that's the

644
00:33:31,160 --> 00:33:34,280
Speaker 1: matter and that and I realized as I grow as

645
00:33:34,320 --> 00:33:36,280
Speaker 1: a woman, it's like it doesn't matter how much money

646
00:33:36,320 --> 00:33:38,680
Speaker 1: you have, because how many women have we met out

647
00:33:38,720 --> 00:33:40,640
Speaker 1: here in Atlanta that makes so much money but they

648
00:33:40,720 --> 00:33:43,640
Speaker 1: have no substance tonight. Yeah, I think it matters how

649
00:33:43,720 --> 00:33:46,000
Speaker 1: much money you make, but I think they when you

650
00:33:46,200 --> 00:33:49,400
Speaker 1: want to attract a certain type of man to take you, Siri,

651
00:33:50,000 --> 00:33:52,520
Speaker 1: you definitely should be able to hold your own right

652
00:33:52,920 --> 00:33:55,840
Speaker 1: and well, I think it's really about like ambition as well,

653
00:33:56,320 --> 00:33:59,880
Speaker 1: like sometimes I may not have the ends, like I'm

654
00:33:59,880 --> 00:34:02,080
Speaker 1: sure struggling by myself, and I may not be doing

655
00:34:02,200 --> 00:34:04,600
Speaker 1: as well, but I know, like I'm striving for more

656
00:34:04,600 --> 00:34:07,840
Speaker 1: than I'm working towards that because when I first moved

657
00:34:07,840 --> 00:34:10,479
Speaker 1: out here, I didn't have nothing, like literally, I would

658
00:34:10,480 --> 00:34:13,760
Speaker 1: get my paychecks and I had nothing left like because

659
00:34:13,760 --> 00:34:17,360
Speaker 1: I was just trying to stay afloat. But I always

660
00:34:17,520 --> 00:34:19,479
Speaker 1: knew what I wanted to do. So I was still

661
00:34:19,560 --> 00:34:22,360
Speaker 1: attracting these men that were really to come in and

662
00:34:22,480 --> 00:34:25,239
Speaker 1: help me. And see, that's what it is. It's the

663
00:34:25,360 --> 00:34:28,239
Speaker 1: ambition that they're attracted to. You're like, dang, she really

664
00:34:28,320 --> 00:34:32,200
Speaker 1: trying to It's not you know, I was watching I

665
00:34:32,320 --> 00:34:34,239
Speaker 1: rewatched The Housewives every so often because it's a lot

666
00:34:34,239 --> 00:34:37,120
Speaker 1: of different perspective or whatever. And I was watching Kim

667
00:34:37,840 --> 00:34:40,600
Speaker 1: and how she just she was herself and she really

668
00:34:40,680 --> 00:34:44,320
Speaker 1: didn't know going on, nothing going on, but it was

669
00:34:44,400 --> 00:34:46,160
Speaker 1: that she was just so shoe of herself and she

670
00:34:46,320 --> 00:34:48,600
Speaker 1: was so confident and so basically anything. She would have

671
00:34:48,600 --> 00:34:50,760
Speaker 1: said to the man, well I need this bracelet because

672
00:34:50,840 --> 00:34:53,040
Speaker 1: this brace is gonna make me feel whatever. So he

673
00:34:53,200 --> 00:34:54,719
Speaker 1: was like, well, shoot, I gotta make her feel like

674
00:34:54,800 --> 00:34:58,080
Speaker 1: why so he did it. But it was the conviction

675
00:34:58,239 --> 00:34:59,840
Speaker 1: behind it. So because you were trying to get on

676
00:34:59,840 --> 00:35:01,919
Speaker 1: your feet and you had that ambition. He was like, dang,

677
00:35:02,000 --> 00:35:05,160
Speaker 1: I gotta make sure my baby made Yeah. Maybe sometimes

678
00:35:05,239 --> 00:35:07,880
Speaker 1: that that is what it is, the ambition in the confidence.

679
00:35:08,040 --> 00:35:08,160
Speaker 2: Right.

680
00:35:08,239 --> 00:35:10,200
Speaker 1: Yeah. I think a lot of women make that mistake

681
00:35:10,280 --> 00:35:12,200
Speaker 1: as I did. Like you think like, oh, if I'm

682
00:35:12,200 --> 00:35:14,080
Speaker 1: not making X amount of money, I'm not gonna pull

683
00:35:14,880 --> 00:35:16,960
Speaker 1: type a certain type of man. But those type of man,

684
00:35:17,000 --> 00:35:18,840
Speaker 1: they don't really care how much money you have. They

685
00:35:18,960 --> 00:35:20,799
Speaker 1: just want to make sure that you have a good

686
00:35:20,880 --> 00:35:24,160
Speaker 1: head on your shoulders. Yeah, that's what makes make them

687
00:35:24,200 --> 00:35:28,279
Speaker 1: feel good. No, we know how to do that. But

688
00:35:28,400 --> 00:35:31,480
Speaker 1: even before but let me say this, even before I

689
00:35:31,600 --> 00:35:34,279
Speaker 1: really started making my own money, like for real, for real,

690
00:35:34,440 --> 00:35:37,520
Speaker 1: I still ask if I was hockey. I still as

691
00:35:37,760 --> 00:35:43,600
Speaker 1: I'm still as i'm asking now. But we're asking with

692
00:35:43,760 --> 00:35:46,359
Speaker 1: intention because you said give them calls, you give them,

693
00:35:46,600 --> 00:35:48,640
Speaker 1: you give them, you ask what intention? You ask? And

694
00:35:48,920 --> 00:35:50,920
Speaker 1: then when you ask what intention, you're asking more sincerely,

695
00:35:50,960 --> 00:35:53,480
Speaker 1: because yeah, I can go spend this money to do this,

696
00:35:53,600 --> 00:35:55,880
Speaker 1: but I don't want spent my money, right because I get.

697
00:35:55,960 --> 00:36:01,040
Speaker 1: I get I gave you the crown jewels, right because

698
00:36:01,040 --> 00:36:02,759
Speaker 1: that's something I wasn't doing. Like when I would ask

699
00:36:02,840 --> 00:36:04,360
Speaker 1: for shit, I'll just be like, oh, let me have this.

700
00:36:04,719 --> 00:36:06,440
Speaker 1: So he'd be like, all right, I do think you

701
00:36:06,560 --> 00:36:08,920
Speaker 1: have to have the intention behind you. Okay, let me

702
00:36:09,000 --> 00:36:11,200
Speaker 1: get some intention, because I'd be like, I just want

703
00:36:11,200 --> 00:36:13,040
Speaker 1: to go to the mall and some or I don't

704
00:36:13,040 --> 00:36:14,879
Speaker 1: even say that, I like, can I have some bread?

705
00:36:15,280 --> 00:36:18,360
Speaker 1: And you listen and you and you can go wherever

706
00:36:18,400 --> 00:36:22,520
Speaker 1: you're going with it? Right, you gotta give him an intention,

707
00:36:23,000 --> 00:36:26,080
Speaker 1: So go ahead, girl, go ahead, because I'm into it.

708
00:36:26,719 --> 00:36:28,440
Speaker 1: I got to know. So we kind of wanted to

709
00:36:29,000 --> 00:36:32,000
Speaker 1: touch on like the road blocks, Like what roadblocks? Do

710
00:36:32,040 --> 00:36:34,080
Speaker 1: you think a lot of women here when they're trying

711
00:36:34,120 --> 00:36:37,680
Speaker 1: to get these type of men. Okay, what you said?

712
00:36:38,000 --> 00:36:43,000
Speaker 1: This one here, you gotta fix the inside. Okay. If

713
00:36:43,080 --> 00:36:45,399
Speaker 1: you have not fixed the inside, that's you will bleed

714
00:36:45,520 --> 00:36:50,000
Speaker 1: all over these men. These men are used to confident women,

715
00:36:50,320 --> 00:36:53,480
Speaker 1: women who can hold their own in any room. And

716
00:36:53,600 --> 00:36:56,960
Speaker 1: if you are getting upset or jealous about simple things

717
00:36:57,000 --> 00:36:58,600
Speaker 1: like you didn't come me back after her time, this

718
00:36:58,800 --> 00:37:02,400
Speaker 1: man is making me we does not have work to

719
00:37:02,560 --> 00:37:05,800
Speaker 1: call you back immediately. So working on those things that

720
00:37:05,840 --> 00:37:09,040
Speaker 1: you're insecure about, all those things like like like the

721
00:37:09,120 --> 00:37:11,359
Speaker 1: little triggers that keep roaring the back up or whatever

722
00:37:11,520 --> 00:37:14,000
Speaker 1: fix all of that. And then I saw somebody yesterday

723
00:37:14,760 --> 00:37:17,759
Speaker 1: she said, she said, you don't need to heal. She said,

724
00:37:17,800 --> 00:37:19,799
Speaker 1: you just need some standards of some boundaries, because if

725
00:37:19,800 --> 00:37:22,560
Speaker 1: you get some standards and boundaries, the healing will come.

726
00:37:23,360 --> 00:37:26,480
Speaker 1: The more you block what you don't want and only

727
00:37:26,600 --> 00:37:29,239
Speaker 1: receive what you do want, the healing will come. And

728
00:37:29,600 --> 00:37:32,359
Speaker 1: doing is believing. When you do it, you see it's happening,

729
00:37:32,400 --> 00:37:36,520
Speaker 1: you'd be like, oh my god, yes, yes, yes, don't

730
00:37:36,520 --> 00:37:38,359
Speaker 1: be like me. I had to. I was well into

731
00:37:38,440 --> 00:37:40,000
Speaker 1: my well into my thirties, but I was in my

732
00:37:40,080 --> 00:37:41,759
Speaker 1: thirties before I got it. But when I got it,

733
00:37:42,600 --> 00:37:44,719
Speaker 1: I ain't never going back. And that's why I know

734
00:37:44,800 --> 00:37:46,799
Speaker 1: we have a lot of young listeners. But I feel

735
00:37:46,880 --> 00:37:49,279
Speaker 1: like we always said, look, lex P went through that,

736
00:37:49,400 --> 00:37:51,279
Speaker 1: so you ain't got to go through that. Yeah, And

737
00:37:51,360 --> 00:37:54,040
Speaker 1: I feel like we both have dated me and they

738
00:37:54,120 --> 00:37:57,839
Speaker 1: did not deserve our time, especially as much time as

739
00:37:57,920 --> 00:38:00,520
Speaker 1: we gave them out of our life. But I really

740
00:38:00,719 --> 00:38:02,040
Speaker 1: like the fact that you said that like one of

741
00:38:02,080 --> 00:38:07,320
Speaker 1: the roadblocks being the insecurities and the jealousy things. Because

742
00:38:07,800 --> 00:38:10,440
Speaker 1: I was actually having a conversation with mister Cobbo the

743
00:38:10,440 --> 00:38:13,040
Speaker 1: other day, and he was saying, like I was asking,

744
00:38:13,200 --> 00:38:16,279
Speaker 1: like what what would make him mad? Like I was like, okay,

745
00:38:16,280 --> 00:38:17,800
Speaker 1: well this make you mad if I posted something on

746
00:38:17,880 --> 00:38:19,760
Speaker 1: my story, and so he was like, well no, because

747
00:38:20,400 --> 00:38:22,560
Speaker 1: I would have to know, like I want to hear

748
00:38:22,600 --> 00:38:24,759
Speaker 1: it from your mouth. Like if I see something I

749
00:38:24,840 --> 00:38:26,920
Speaker 1: don't like, i'mna just like either I'm gonna ask you

750
00:38:26,960 --> 00:38:30,120
Speaker 1: about it or I'm just gonna be like, well, obviously

751
00:38:30,440 --> 00:38:32,080
Speaker 1: this is not nothing too serious that I need to

752
00:38:32,160 --> 00:38:34,320
Speaker 1: worry about, because if she's posting it, you know what

753
00:38:34,400 --> 00:38:37,839
Speaker 1: I'm saying, and I'm not like that you asking a question.

754
00:38:38,080 --> 00:38:40,560
Speaker 1: I'm not asking questions, but I'm getting mad. I'm a

755
00:38:40,719 --> 00:38:47,919
Speaker 1: I'm a poster justin Laboy. Mean, you know what I'm saying,

756
00:38:47,920 --> 00:38:50,520
Speaker 1: I'm subb tweeting. I'm like, man, fuck these nigga. I'm

757
00:38:50,960 --> 00:38:54,440
Speaker 1: dependent on me nothing. I'm good on my You stab

758
00:38:54,520 --> 00:38:55,759
Speaker 1: me in the back, but I'm gonna punch you in

759
00:38:55,800 --> 00:39:01,399
Speaker 1: the front. Really are an assumption maker. But I feel

760
00:39:01,520 --> 00:39:04,000
Speaker 1: like I would definitely post a slug on my store

761
00:39:04,080 --> 00:39:06,600
Speaker 1: as soon as I see it. I would ask no questions.

762
00:39:06,640 --> 00:39:09,520
Speaker 1: I'm gonna lie I'm in the summer because I'm not

763
00:39:09,600 --> 00:39:09,920
Speaker 1: gonna lie.

764
00:39:10,000 --> 00:39:10,160
Speaker 2: See.

765
00:39:10,400 --> 00:39:12,399
Speaker 1: My confidence is out of this world. I really think

766
00:39:12,440 --> 00:39:14,960
Speaker 1: I'm the baddest bitch. I'm the funniest bitch. Can't nobody

767
00:39:15,080 --> 00:39:17,960
Speaker 1: touch me. But I feel like I'm the ultimate partner.

768
00:39:18,360 --> 00:39:20,360
Speaker 1: So when somebody post something that I don't like, I'm like,

769
00:39:20,440 --> 00:39:23,040
Speaker 1: do you know what you have? And I get so

770
00:39:23,400 --> 00:39:26,480
Speaker 1: mad and I start. Instead of talking to them about it,

771
00:39:26,920 --> 00:39:29,400
Speaker 1: I just be like, well, I start moving a little funny.

772
00:39:30,120 --> 00:39:31,560
Speaker 1: That's what we're supposed to be supposed to take another

773
00:39:31,600 --> 00:39:34,160
Speaker 1: niggas okay, because he's gonna be like I'm doing you.

774
00:39:34,680 --> 00:39:36,759
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, he messing up. I can't believe he don't

775
00:39:36,800 --> 00:39:38,959
Speaker 1: know what you And so then we get a little

776
00:39:38,960 --> 00:39:40,640
Speaker 1: confidence and you go, you don't really care no more

777
00:39:41,200 --> 00:39:44,000
Speaker 1: somebody already that's why you need a team. Okay, okay,

778
00:39:44,040 --> 00:39:52,680
Speaker 1: so right there, both do yes? Yes, not that okay? Okay,

779
00:39:52,719 --> 00:39:56,719
Speaker 1: because you don't talk to him. No, you can't talk

780
00:39:56,760 --> 00:39:59,040
Speaker 1: to him because you're supposed to stay by the benefits

781
00:39:59,120 --> 00:40:02,560
Speaker 1: less right benefits and we got to move on. Uh

782
00:40:02,640 --> 00:40:03,880
Speaker 1: So continue to talk to him as long as you

783
00:40:03,920 --> 00:40:06,080
Speaker 1: get in the benefits. But like play a cool like,

784
00:40:06,200 --> 00:40:10,160
Speaker 1: oh that's what you're doing. M listen and be out

785
00:40:10,239 --> 00:40:13,640
Speaker 1: on the date with the thing showing the restaurant. Okay,

786
00:40:14,000 --> 00:40:16,440
Speaker 1: like that's how you And then you're wondering how when

787
00:40:16,440 --> 00:40:19,520
Speaker 1: I'm doing video off some salmon. I always post my

788
00:40:19,640 --> 00:40:21,360
Speaker 1: salmon when I'm mad, but they don't know it's an

789
00:40:21,360 --> 00:40:25,759
Speaker 1: old video from time every time. Who you're not even

790
00:40:25,840 --> 00:40:29,960
Speaker 1: out to eat you? Yeah, little dry ass salmon and

791
00:40:30,080 --> 00:40:33,040
Speaker 1: she's wore you mad at get you a couple of pictures.

792
00:40:34,920 --> 00:40:36,719
Speaker 1: You gotta have you a little rotation. No, I do

793
00:40:36,840 --> 00:40:41,719
Speaker 1: have a few more, now, a few more. Now we

794
00:40:41,840 --> 00:40:45,040
Speaker 1: gotta post the restaurant. And then also to like when

795
00:40:45,080 --> 00:40:47,040
Speaker 1: you if you like, before you go out, sometimes just

796
00:40:47,080 --> 00:40:49,880
Speaker 1: do your little thing like this, hit it out. You

797
00:40:49,920 --> 00:40:53,040
Speaker 1: don't know the house in the bed. I'm glad to

798
00:40:53,160 --> 00:40:55,120
Speaker 1: know that it's not a toxic trade because I've always

799
00:40:55,160 --> 00:40:58,600
Speaker 1: thought there was a time to make a bed. First

800
00:40:58,640 --> 00:41:00,640
Speaker 1: of all, Bitch, you don't post it's a picture of

801
00:41:00,719 --> 00:41:03,320
Speaker 1: some sad men or a fire selfie. Bitch, you'll be

802
00:41:03,440 --> 00:41:08,800
Speaker 1: a fucking Tahiti. This would be like, yes for the international,

803
00:41:13,120 --> 00:41:17,360
Speaker 1: she was blowing my phone. I love my phone, but

804
00:41:17,440 --> 00:41:21,279
Speaker 1: I was not answering it. We're talking about this with

805
00:41:21,360 --> 00:41:26,920
Speaker 1: the parents. Listen, listen, it's uh, it's chess. It's definitely

806
00:41:26,960 --> 00:41:30,040
Speaker 1: not checkers. Okay, so ready to do stuff like that

807
00:41:30,120 --> 00:41:33,680
Speaker 1: if there's no time. But what if you're dating a

808
00:41:33,719 --> 00:41:36,520
Speaker 1: guy that's like super nonchalant and he's not gonna react

809
00:41:36,560 --> 00:41:38,440
Speaker 1: and my saying nothing, that wouldn't be dating like that.

810
00:41:39,080 --> 00:41:44,719
Speaker 1: Who I gonna be crazy? But please be s This

811
00:41:44,880 --> 00:41:47,200
Speaker 1: is my thing. I tend to date guys that are

812
00:41:47,280 --> 00:41:50,600
Speaker 1: like nonchalant and chill in the moment, and then like

813
00:41:50,760 --> 00:41:52,480
Speaker 1: later on they'll bring it up to me, like how

814
00:41:52,600 --> 00:41:54,080
Speaker 1: mad they were and they was trying to play. Oh

815
00:41:54,120 --> 00:41:56,920
Speaker 1: that's good enough. Okay, so that's good in the moment.

816
00:41:56,960 --> 00:41:59,880
Speaker 1: I'll be mad too, but I'm nonchalant essentially to these men.

817
00:42:00,040 --> 00:42:02,359
Speaker 1: The men always think I'm nonchalant. They don't know I'm

818
00:42:02,360 --> 00:42:04,040
Speaker 1: on the phone with dread Crown. That's how it's supposed

819
00:42:04,040 --> 00:42:08,120
Speaker 1: to be there. You supposed to call your homegirl him homegirl. Okay,

820
00:42:08,160 --> 00:42:10,840
Speaker 1: so we're doing right. So it's okay if he's like

821
00:42:10,920 --> 00:42:17,640
Speaker 1: nonchalant in the moment as he cares, Okay, yeah, yeah,

822
00:42:17,760 --> 00:42:20,680
Speaker 1: men act like they don't care. It's not the way. Yeah,

823
00:42:20,680 --> 00:42:23,360
Speaker 1: I don't like I need a little passion, a little

824
00:42:23,440 --> 00:42:25,200
Speaker 1: I need a lot of passion. Let me tell you

825
00:42:25,280 --> 00:42:27,080
Speaker 1: something my best friend Killer told me the other day.

826
00:42:27,200 --> 00:42:29,560
Speaker 1: She said, the reason that she likes men that dress

827
00:42:29,640 --> 00:42:32,920
Speaker 1: flashy and that have flashy jewelry and that are just

828
00:42:33,000 --> 00:42:35,120
Speaker 1: out going because they tend to be more passionate in

829
00:42:35,160 --> 00:42:38,319
Speaker 1: their relationships. Like she feels like men that like put

830
00:42:38,400 --> 00:42:41,400
Speaker 1: on sweatpants and sweatshirts just to go anywhere, like the

831
00:42:41,480 --> 00:42:43,319
Speaker 1: niggas that were Nike Tech all the time. Like those

832
00:42:43,400 --> 00:42:45,719
Speaker 1: niggas are too like laid back in chill. She was, like,

833
00:42:45,840 --> 00:42:48,000
Speaker 1: men that are passionate, they want to be passionate in

834
00:42:48,120 --> 00:42:50,440
Speaker 1: every aspect of their lives. Yeah, how you do one thing,

835
00:42:50,600 --> 00:42:52,719
Speaker 1: they do everything that makes it That makes sense. But

836
00:42:52,840 --> 00:42:55,160
Speaker 1: I like Nike Tech niggas. I never thought about that though.

837
00:42:55,160 --> 00:42:57,879
Speaker 1: I just liked them because I like the usteady, right.

838
00:42:57,960 --> 00:43:00,000
Speaker 1: But you know, honestly, the only nigga that I've really

839
00:43:00,200 --> 00:43:02,440
Speaker 1: ever dated that's like flashy with his clothes and his

840
00:43:02,520 --> 00:43:05,680
Speaker 1: jewelry is Big Papa. I tend to like the Nike

841
00:43:05,840 --> 00:43:10,320
Speaker 1: Tech niggas. You know that guy, all right? I like

842
00:43:11,040 --> 00:43:16,640
Speaker 1: I like quiet, like the stride of silence. Yeah, I

843
00:43:16,840 --> 00:43:21,239
Speaker 1: like that, But I like, I don't really have a

844
00:43:21,400 --> 00:43:24,440
Speaker 1: dress type I got like a when he's talking, you

845
00:43:24,480 --> 00:43:26,279
Speaker 1: can tell me on what your words like, not like

846
00:43:26,719 --> 00:43:30,960
Speaker 1: sexual stuff, but like while you're talking, like wait a minute,

847
00:43:31,400 --> 00:43:35,160
Speaker 1: like how you were like, okay, give me a day

848
00:43:35,200 --> 00:43:36,560
Speaker 1: in your life like I had. I did a lot

849
00:43:36,560 --> 00:43:38,120
Speaker 1: of older man. I had this man call me Regal.

850
00:43:38,160 --> 00:43:43,200
Speaker 1: I said, I had to look at it. If I'm

851
00:43:43,320 --> 00:43:45,239
Speaker 1: talking to the only real I know is the movie.

852
00:43:46,560 --> 00:43:49,760
Speaker 1: That's the only Regal I know that real fancy. Okay,

853
00:43:49,840 --> 00:43:56,320
Speaker 1: So now we're gonna get into about about about about

854
00:43:56,360 --> 00:44:00,359
Speaker 1: about Okay, so I've been I'm selling it right now.

855
00:44:00,600 --> 00:44:02,759
Speaker 1: Me too, Me too. I haven't had sex in a month.

856
00:44:03,160 --> 00:44:06,440
Speaker 1: Oh no, I'm oh that's a long time. I'm like,

857
00:44:10,760 --> 00:44:13,920
Speaker 1: that's amazing, amazing. I'm about ready though, I feel like

858
00:44:13,960 --> 00:44:17,160
Speaker 1: I'm getting to the point. Okay, So I saw this

859
00:44:17,239 --> 00:44:19,879
Speaker 1: on your page. So I want to talk about being

860
00:44:20,080 --> 00:44:24,120
Speaker 1: accidentally celibated and if it's like beneficial, like does it work?

861
00:44:24,239 --> 00:44:26,160
Speaker 1: Like what is the point of being celibate and does

862
00:44:26,239 --> 00:44:29,080
Speaker 1: it work? Because I keep you said accidentally it was

863
00:44:29,120 --> 00:44:31,200
Speaker 1: an accident, y'all. I forgot to have sex because that's

864
00:44:31,239 --> 00:44:33,719
Speaker 1: what happened to me six months. But it was really

865
00:44:33,800 --> 00:44:36,800
Speaker 1: accident because I just felt like a nigga didn't deserve

866
00:44:36,880 --> 00:44:40,000
Speaker 1: my life right, So it was an accident because then

867
00:44:40,040 --> 00:44:43,879
Speaker 1: I'm like, now it's like I held on this long.

868
00:44:44,560 --> 00:44:47,440
Speaker 1: Do I really just want to give it to just anybody,

869
00:44:47,600 --> 00:44:51,360
Speaker 1: like I'm like, and then I'm like, Dan, if I

870
00:44:51,480 --> 00:44:53,480
Speaker 1: give it to anybody, is he gonna because I want

871
00:44:53,520 --> 00:44:58,320
Speaker 1: you to knock it like I want to be. I

872
00:44:58,400 --> 00:45:01,960
Speaker 1: want to be putting me in the wheel. So now

873
00:45:02,080 --> 00:45:05,080
Speaker 1: that's why I'm just like, and I almost I almost

874
00:45:05,120 --> 00:45:08,880
Speaker 1: had an incident. He was giving me always say b

875
00:45:09,040 --> 00:45:13,279
Speaker 1: dB Yeah, I call it b d E. He was

876
00:45:13,320 --> 00:45:16,640
Speaker 1: giving me all of it. But y'all, the man was married.

877
00:45:16,760 --> 00:45:19,479
Speaker 1: I can't do it. Oh no, I can't do that. Yeah,

878
00:45:19,600 --> 00:45:21,279
Speaker 1: I can't do the I can't do it. I had

879
00:45:21,280 --> 00:45:23,239
Speaker 1: to do some investigating to find it though, because he

880
00:45:23,400 --> 00:45:27,040
Speaker 1: was not up for it up front about it. But yeah, yeah,

881
00:45:27,160 --> 00:45:30,719
Speaker 1: I said, now wonder, Yeah, they always come the strongest

882
00:45:31,320 --> 00:45:34,360
Speaker 1: they do. But that's but now we know why we

883
00:45:34,480 --> 00:45:37,879
Speaker 1: always come to strong we do. But I will say

884
00:45:37,960 --> 00:45:41,040
Speaker 1: for me like I'm not I'm not gonna lie to you,

885
00:45:41,200 --> 00:45:42,719
Speaker 1: like I haven't had sex for a month, which is

886
00:45:42,800 --> 00:45:46,040
Speaker 1: a long time for me. I'm I love sex. I'm

887
00:45:46,120 --> 00:45:50,000
Speaker 1: very sexually act. I am It's amazing. But for me,

888
00:45:50,200 --> 00:45:53,240
Speaker 1: I feel like now I can't have sex with somebody

889
00:45:53,280 --> 00:45:56,520
Speaker 1: if it's just physical, like just having sex. To have sex,

890
00:45:56,600 --> 00:45:59,040
Speaker 1: like I have to have some type of emotional feelings

891
00:45:59,120 --> 00:46:01,680
Speaker 1: for you, you know what I mean. So it's like

892
00:46:01,920 --> 00:46:04,480
Speaker 1: for me, I know, like I don't think I could

893
00:46:04,520 --> 00:46:06,759
Speaker 1: ever be celibate. I really don't, cause I feel like

894
00:46:06,760 --> 00:46:08,600
Speaker 1: as soon as I see mister Cabo, it's going down,

895
00:46:08,880 --> 00:46:10,320
Speaker 1: Like you know what I'm saying, Like do you have

896
00:46:10,400 --> 00:46:13,040
Speaker 1: a reason. I mean, you don't live in the same city,

897
00:46:13,280 --> 00:46:15,560
Speaker 1: So it's like I don't see him as often as

898
00:46:15,640 --> 00:46:18,120
Speaker 1: I don't ever, I don't have no men in Atlanta.

899
00:46:18,400 --> 00:46:22,040
Speaker 1: I don't date in Atlanta anymore. Okay, Like the men

900
00:46:22,160 --> 00:46:25,000
Speaker 1: that I've dated in Atlanta just never works out. I

901
00:46:25,040 --> 00:46:27,120
Speaker 1: don't know. It's something about Atlanta men or men that

902
00:46:27,239 --> 00:46:29,879
Speaker 1: have lived in Atlanta over a year. I just don't

903
00:46:29,960 --> 00:46:32,480
Speaker 1: like them. What do you feel like they First of all,

904
00:46:32,560 --> 00:46:34,759
Speaker 1: the ratio of women to men is all it is.

905
00:46:35,120 --> 00:46:36,800
Speaker 1: And then if you find out, like we said, to

906
00:46:36,920 --> 00:46:40,600
Speaker 1: find a good man, it's hard because we're all dating,

907
00:46:40,680 --> 00:46:42,960
Speaker 1: we all have options. But when you find like a

908
00:46:43,000 --> 00:46:46,640
Speaker 1: BDB in Atlanta. He got too many options. It's about

909
00:46:46,680 --> 00:46:48,920
Speaker 1: three bitches that's in love with him, two of them

910
00:46:48,960 --> 00:46:50,840
Speaker 1: that got a baby for him, one of them that

911
00:46:50,960 --> 00:46:53,560
Speaker 1: just got his number last night. I probably used to

912
00:46:53,600 --> 00:46:56,120
Speaker 1: talk to one of your friends. I like a little competition,

913
00:46:56,239 --> 00:46:58,960
Speaker 1: But bitch, this ain't the Olympics home. I'm not gave

914
00:46:59,040 --> 00:47:02,080
Speaker 1: you the nothing Olympics. I'm not doing that. It's just

915
00:47:02,360 --> 00:47:05,759
Speaker 1: it's just too much. Like the ratio of men to

916
00:47:05,840 --> 00:47:08,160
Speaker 1: women is off in Atlanta. And I, like you said,

917
00:47:08,239 --> 00:47:10,080
Speaker 1: like a lot of men like to stunt out here.

918
00:47:10,600 --> 00:47:12,759
Speaker 1: Like I'm not trying to be funny or like talk

919
00:47:12,880 --> 00:47:15,520
Speaker 1: my shit, but like I'm really out here working. I'm

920
00:47:15,560 --> 00:47:18,479
Speaker 1: really out here doing shit, making myself a better person.

921
00:47:18,600 --> 00:47:20,680
Speaker 1: So if you trying to approach me and you own

922
00:47:20,719 --> 00:47:22,440
Speaker 1: something like oh yeah I do this, I'll do that,

923
00:47:22,520 --> 00:47:25,040
Speaker 1: and you a scammer, I'm not fussing with on scammer.

924
00:47:25,120 --> 00:47:27,680
Speaker 1: Your piece is not even hitting like that. I want that.

925
00:47:27,960 --> 00:47:31,440
Speaker 1: I want somebody who's legit doing something for themselves. Like so,

926
00:47:31,640 --> 00:47:33,080
Speaker 1: I feel like a lot of the men in Atlanta

927
00:47:33,200 --> 00:47:35,439
Speaker 1: just be on some bullshit. So I do always find

928
00:47:35,480 --> 00:47:39,360
Speaker 1: myself in these long distance situations. But it's like that

929
00:47:39,440 --> 00:47:41,160
Speaker 1: might be your thing though, because you work so much.

930
00:47:41,840 --> 00:47:43,719
Speaker 1: I mean I do work, but I do have a

931
00:47:43,760 --> 00:47:46,520
Speaker 1: lot of time. But like I said, i'd be feeling

932
00:47:46,600 --> 00:47:53,959
Speaker 1: like I'm accidentally loyal. Now you gotta am But dude,

933
00:47:54,120 --> 00:47:57,120
Speaker 1: I can't. None of these dudes interest me. Like you

934
00:47:57,239 --> 00:47:59,879
Speaker 1: don't go nowhere. It might not be honny. Yeah, because

935
00:48:00,120 --> 00:48:04,359
Speaker 1: Marianne outside, he's very much outside is outside. But prior

936
00:48:04,480 --> 00:48:07,200
Speaker 1: today you didn't. I mean yeah, but it's like, I'm

937
00:48:07,239 --> 00:48:09,600
Speaker 1: not like to be in the house watching TV. You

938
00:48:09,680 --> 00:48:11,200
Speaker 1: got a day for a fun You got a date

939
00:48:11,239 --> 00:48:14,560
Speaker 1: for assignments, yeah, date to practice different stuff, Like that's

940
00:48:14,600 --> 00:48:16,520
Speaker 1: what I do, Like if I want to. One of

941
00:48:16,560 --> 00:48:18,480
Speaker 1: my friends actually taught me this to like she's like, oh,

942
00:48:18,480 --> 00:48:20,320
Speaker 1: I dated this guy's I can practice being vulnerbro. I

943
00:48:20,360 --> 00:48:22,840
Speaker 1: feel like he's somebody I could talk to. So like

944
00:48:22,960 --> 00:48:25,719
Speaker 1: day for that day to practice different skills or whatever.

945
00:48:25,840 --> 00:48:28,279
Speaker 1: Because all of this is preparation for you. If your

946
00:48:28,320 --> 00:48:29,719
Speaker 1: goal is to get the ring, all of this is

947
00:48:29,800 --> 00:48:31,560
Speaker 1: preparation for that. I won't be able to walk in

948
00:48:31,600 --> 00:48:34,000
Speaker 1: any room and carry any conversation, so day for practice,

949
00:48:34,400 --> 00:48:36,480
Speaker 1: So I will say this something that I do that.

950
00:48:36,600 --> 00:48:38,160
Speaker 1: I said that I'm going to do this year is

951
00:48:38,239 --> 00:48:41,080
Speaker 1: I'm going to be more intentional about my wants and

952
00:48:41,160 --> 00:48:43,680
Speaker 1: my absolutely on the first day, I'm letting a nigga know,

953
00:48:43,920 --> 00:48:46,680
Speaker 1: like I want a man, I want to thanking for

954
00:48:46,680 --> 00:48:48,800
Speaker 1: a girlfriend cause I'm looking for I'm looking for a fiance.

955
00:48:48,920 --> 00:48:50,799
Speaker 1: I'm looking for I'm looking for. I'm not gonna lie,

956
00:48:50,880 --> 00:48:52,759
Speaker 1: like I told I literally, Okay. So I got this

957
00:48:52,880 --> 00:48:54,680
Speaker 1: other dude that I talked to. We've been dealing with

958
00:48:54,719 --> 00:48:57,160
Speaker 1: each other on and off for like sixty years, rapper Bay.

959
00:48:57,960 --> 00:48:59,680
Speaker 1: I literally told him, I said, if you don't give

960
00:48:59,719 --> 00:49:01,160
Speaker 1: me a ring by the end of the year, there's

961
00:49:01,200 --> 00:49:04,040
Speaker 1: no purpose of us continuing to do this. Okay. So

962
00:49:04,320 --> 00:49:06,759
Speaker 1: like if we're not, you know what I'm saying, Like,

963
00:49:06,960 --> 00:49:08,480
Speaker 1: what's the point of us just kind of doing this

964
00:49:08,560 --> 00:49:10,480
Speaker 1: back and forth here? Like we've grown, we're both in

965
00:49:10,560 --> 00:49:12,800
Speaker 1: our thirties, we're both making money doing what we're supposed

966
00:49:12,800 --> 00:49:14,680
Speaker 1: to do. So I feel like I told him that,

967
00:49:15,080 --> 00:49:18,719
Speaker 1: and it's like the end of this year. Yeah, the

968
00:49:18,840 --> 00:49:20,239
Speaker 1: end of this year. Okay. So it's like, but I

969
00:49:20,280 --> 00:49:21,960
Speaker 1: feel like I just need to be more intentional. So

970
00:49:22,040 --> 00:49:24,080
Speaker 1: maybe I do need to like just date other people

971
00:49:24,160 --> 00:49:26,600
Speaker 1: for practice. Yeah, you can also say the same thing

972
00:49:26,640 --> 00:49:29,319
Speaker 1: you were saying about the commitment without saying it must

973
00:49:29,360 --> 00:49:31,120
Speaker 1: be a ring. You can say, listen, this is what

974
00:49:31,200 --> 00:49:33,080
Speaker 1: I'm looking for, this is where my life is going.

975
00:49:33,239 --> 00:49:38,160
Speaker 1: Are you in alignment with that? Because if you are,

976
00:49:38,360 --> 00:49:40,759
Speaker 1: then we need to make steps towards that. But if not,

977
00:49:41,040 --> 00:49:43,200
Speaker 1: then you know, I need to make steps towards what

978
00:49:43,239 --> 00:49:49,160
Speaker 1: I'm actually looking for. So I have so I have

979
00:49:49,320 --> 00:49:51,200
Speaker 1: a little like I just feel like you can say

980
00:49:51,680 --> 00:49:53,920
Speaker 1: anything to anyone as long as you figure out how

981
00:49:53,960 --> 00:49:55,799
Speaker 1: to say it in a way that speaks to them,

982
00:49:55,840 --> 00:49:58,400
Speaker 1: because it's not about what you say, is how you say. Absolutely,

983
00:49:59,200 --> 00:50:02,320
Speaker 1: are you a shake e spirraitial? But I mean maybe

984
00:50:02,840 --> 00:50:07,400
Speaker 1: because she got it the game on lock, But no,

985
00:50:07,560 --> 00:50:10,480
Speaker 1: I definitely feel like you should maybe try to be

986
00:50:10,640 --> 00:50:15,640
Speaker 1: celibate for a little bit. Why not experience I want

987
00:50:15,680 --> 00:50:19,800
Speaker 1: to funk. I mean I definitely wanted to when I

988
00:50:19,880 --> 00:50:21,440
Speaker 1: did it for six months, but I mean it was

989
00:50:21,520 --> 00:50:23,880
Speaker 1: a very liberating experience. Like I was shocked that I

990
00:50:23,880 --> 00:50:28,200
Speaker 1: could last that long without having tags, and I feel

991
00:50:28,200 --> 00:50:29,800
Speaker 1: like it gave me a chance to really get to

992
00:50:30,000 --> 00:50:32,400
Speaker 1: know some of the people that I was like texting

993
00:50:32,520 --> 00:50:39,240
Speaker 1: and talking. I don't really want to get good points

994
00:50:39,280 --> 00:50:42,880
Speaker 1: that you made. Maybe I can practice on someone else.

995
00:50:43,480 --> 00:50:45,120
Speaker 1: I mean, I'm gonna still be fucking on the side,

996
00:50:45,200 --> 00:50:49,000
Speaker 1: right absolutely, that's a part of your team. On the team,

997
00:50:49,040 --> 00:50:52,239
Speaker 1: and I can start dating somebody knew and like yes,

998
00:50:52,800 --> 00:50:54,719
Speaker 1: but you don't even got to say that, right you

999
00:50:54,920 --> 00:50:58,879
Speaker 1: just gotta you know, just don't do don't. I'm gonna

1000
00:50:58,880 --> 00:51:02,400
Speaker 1: try to. I'm a really I swear. Next guy that

1001
00:51:02,480 --> 00:51:04,120
Speaker 1: I date, I want to tell him my intentions on

1002
00:51:04,200 --> 00:51:10,239
Speaker 1: the first date. You not getting no pussy, So I'm

1003
00:51:10,280 --> 00:51:11,839
Speaker 1: not gonna tell him that. I'm just saying what I'm

1004
00:51:11,920 --> 00:51:14,400
Speaker 1: going to do. Yeah, Yeah, I'm going to tell him

1005
00:51:14,400 --> 00:51:16,880
Speaker 1: my intention and I'm not gonna give him no puzzy

1006
00:51:17,560 --> 00:51:19,680
Speaker 1: because those are things that I don't I never tell

1007
00:51:19,719 --> 00:51:21,920
Speaker 1: a guy my intentions. Like I'll be on a date

1008
00:51:21,920 --> 00:51:23,880
Speaker 1: with a god. I'm like, oh, this might be my husband,

1009
00:51:23,920 --> 00:51:26,120
Speaker 1: but he don't even be knowing that I might meet

1010
00:51:26,160 --> 00:51:27,480
Speaker 1: a god. I'm like, oh, I just want to go

1011
00:51:27,560 --> 00:51:29,360
Speaker 1: to the islands with you, and he don't even be

1012
00:51:29,480 --> 00:51:31,920
Speaker 1: knowing that. Like, I never tell people my intentions insert

1013
00:51:32,080 --> 00:51:34,359
Speaker 1: intention here. Oh, if you want to, if you meet

1014
00:51:34,360 --> 00:51:36,600
Speaker 1: a guy, he's always here and there going on the plane.

1015
00:51:36,640 --> 00:51:38,160
Speaker 1: Say that you're like, oh, yeah, I'm looking now you

1016
00:51:38,280 --> 00:51:40,440
Speaker 1: know what his assignment is, looking to travel with him

1017
00:51:40,560 --> 00:51:42,759
Speaker 1: Like that's how you practice, like oh this man that

1018
00:51:43,320 --> 00:51:46,879
Speaker 1: you let him know like I want to come. I will.

1019
00:51:46,920 --> 00:51:48,560
Speaker 1: That's how you say, yeah, I'm looking to you know,

1020
00:51:48,600 --> 00:51:50,520
Speaker 1: I've been traveling a lot. I see that you're on

1021
00:51:50,640 --> 00:51:53,080
Speaker 1: the move. I would love to accompany you on some

1022
00:51:53,239 --> 00:51:54,880
Speaker 1: of your on some of your trips to see how

1023
00:51:55,360 --> 00:51:57,920
Speaker 1: see the dynamics of what goes on in your operation.

1024
00:51:58,080 --> 00:52:00,719
Speaker 1: I see the words something because I'd be like, bituait come?

1025
00:52:01,600 --> 00:52:03,080
Speaker 1: I mean you can say that to what you always

1026
00:52:03,160 --> 00:52:05,080
Speaker 1: want to be authentic to who you are because they

1027
00:52:05,239 --> 00:52:12,480
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1028
00:52:12,760 --> 00:52:15,040
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Speaker 1: meals plus three special gifts. Okay, don't say we never

1054
00:53:27,160 --> 00:53:30,640
Speaker 1: got y'all nothing. Okay, Okay, So we have talked, we

1055
00:53:30,760 --> 00:53:35,719
Speaker 1: have talked down we have so kind of like evaluated

1056
00:53:35,800 --> 00:53:37,840
Speaker 1: us in our personalities, Like why does we want to

1057
00:53:37,880 --> 00:53:39,440
Speaker 1: know why we don't have a like why do you

1058
00:53:39,520 --> 00:53:42,680
Speaker 1: feel like me? Okay, but before you give a sorry

1059
00:53:42,760 --> 00:53:45,840
Speaker 1: value you, Okay, let me say this. I'm I'm loud,

1060
00:53:46,040 --> 00:53:49,800
Speaker 1: I'm very outspoken. I curse a lot. People maybe me

1061
00:53:49,960 --> 00:53:52,360
Speaker 1: feel bad for cursonal line. We'll not men that I

1062
00:53:52,480 --> 00:53:54,520
Speaker 1: deal with because they don't care because they be cussing too.

1063
00:53:54,840 --> 00:53:56,759
Speaker 1: But I feel like a lot of times maybe like ooh,

1064
00:53:57,160 --> 00:53:59,320
Speaker 1: like you talk so bad because I'd be like fuck that,

1065
00:53:59,480 --> 00:54:04,960
Speaker 1: nigga it. So people be like, oh, that's not like

1066
00:54:05,360 --> 00:54:08,080
Speaker 1: we all have potty mouth, right, So is that like

1067
00:54:08,360 --> 00:54:11,040
Speaker 1: like your language? Like is that? Honestly, don't think any

1068
00:54:11,080 --> 00:54:13,960
Speaker 1: of those things matter because everyone has the person, everyone

1069
00:54:14,000 --> 00:54:16,359
Speaker 1: has their type, everyone has something that draws a certain

1070
00:54:16,400 --> 00:54:18,200
Speaker 1: person into it. So I don't think that's that's an

1071
00:54:18,239 --> 00:54:20,040
Speaker 1: issue at all. But like I said, you gotta know

1072
00:54:20,120 --> 00:54:21,800
Speaker 1: your audience, you gotta know your type, you gotta know

1073
00:54:21,840 --> 00:54:25,680
Speaker 1: what you attract and then just be you. Because men

1074
00:54:25,760 --> 00:54:28,440
Speaker 1: are just looking for peace, looking for a play. They

1075
00:54:28,480 --> 00:54:32,759
Speaker 1: look for peace, they really are and looks intimacy my

1076
00:54:32,920 --> 00:54:35,520
Speaker 1: ex Well, I'm not about to get back with him,

1077
00:54:35,719 --> 00:54:38,080
Speaker 1: but he definitely be calling me talking about why you

1078
00:54:38,160 --> 00:54:41,840
Speaker 1: can't just be my peece. Well, he also has to

1079
00:54:41,840 --> 00:54:47,000
Speaker 1: bring you piece to be peace. Let me stressed out

1080
00:54:47,080 --> 00:54:51,200
Speaker 1: so bad I was losing my head. I thought it

1081
00:54:51,200 --> 00:54:53,520
Speaker 1: would definitely I would look at his story and I

1082
00:54:53,600 --> 00:54:56,840
Speaker 1: would start crying. But he definitely tells me that I

1083
00:54:56,960 --> 00:54:58,560
Speaker 1: used to stress him. He'd be like, you know, you

1084
00:54:58,640 --> 00:55:00,720
Speaker 1: used to stress me out because you just don't be quiet.

1085
00:55:01,200 --> 00:55:03,800
Speaker 1: You don't be quiet, you don't and you don't know

1086
00:55:04,040 --> 00:55:04,279
Speaker 1: you're not.

1087
00:55:04,640 --> 00:55:12,520
Speaker 3: You woke up in the Cayman was like, stressful, listen,

1088
00:55:12,800 --> 00:55:15,920
Speaker 3: stress them out, stress them stress.

1089
00:55:16,120 --> 00:55:19,759
Speaker 1: But that's what I'm gonna do. Please bring me peace.

1090
00:55:19,800 --> 00:55:22,560
Speaker 1: I am stressing you, okay, So let me ask you this. So,

1091
00:55:22,719 --> 00:55:26,280
Speaker 1: going back to the loyalty comment, if a nigga brings

1092
00:55:26,360 --> 00:55:28,359
Speaker 1: us peace, it's okay to bring them peace. If there's

1093
00:55:28,440 --> 00:55:31,360
Speaker 1: no relationship, yeah, you can bring him peace. But the

1094
00:55:31,480 --> 00:55:39,080
Speaker 1: thing is like my friend, and it's it's a proven

1095
00:55:39,400 --> 00:55:43,200
Speaker 1: like women need consistency, men need inconsistency. So you gotta

1096
00:55:43,239 --> 00:55:46,280
Speaker 1: be a little you gotta be a little off of balance.

1097
00:55:46,400 --> 00:55:48,759
Speaker 1: He can't always win. You are a day the ugly

1098
00:55:48,840 --> 00:55:50,320
Speaker 1: guy and all of a sudden, he thinks he the

1099
00:55:50,400 --> 00:55:54,120
Speaker 1: man because you gave him. You gave him too much.

1100
00:55:54,360 --> 00:55:57,560
Speaker 1: You gave him too he gave too much. Comment he's

1101
00:55:57,680 --> 00:56:01,080
Speaker 1: certain that his position is stable. And then tonight I'm saying,

1102
00:56:01,440 --> 00:56:03,920
Speaker 1: me and my best friend have something we call the drailway.

1103
00:56:04,719 --> 00:56:08,000
Speaker 1: So I don't follow I'm following mister Cowbo one time

1104
00:56:08,000 --> 00:56:10,000
Speaker 1: because he had pissed me off and I just unfollow

1105
00:56:10,160 --> 00:56:12,400
Speaker 1: him and he was like, yo, I've seen you and

1106
00:56:12,560 --> 00:56:14,520
Speaker 1: follow me like it's cool with like what's up with?

1107
00:56:14,680 --> 00:56:16,400
Speaker 1: And I was like, I'll talk to you later. And

1108
00:56:16,520 --> 00:56:18,799
Speaker 1: it works. I mean, it always worked. I don't even

1109
00:56:18,840 --> 00:56:21,839
Speaker 1: follow Nigga's day I talked to on social media. Yeah,

1110
00:56:22,280 --> 00:56:24,480
Speaker 1: like in the first place, we call it the drailway.

1111
00:56:25,040 --> 00:56:28,319
Speaker 1: When you got to like, dude, get I gotta take

1112
00:56:28,360 --> 00:56:31,480
Speaker 1: your energy. Like I said, I'm very big on letting

1113
00:56:31,640 --> 00:56:34,640
Speaker 1: me know, like you just the option when they start

1114
00:56:34,680 --> 00:56:36,719
Speaker 1: cutting up. Now, when you're doing what you're supposed to do,

1115
00:56:37,200 --> 00:56:40,400
Speaker 1: I'm absolutely gonna be so sweet and so submissive and

1116
00:56:40,680 --> 00:56:46,399
Speaker 1: so sweet and so submissive. But when you start cutting up, now,

1117
00:56:46,760 --> 00:56:49,560
Speaker 1: you're making me change the dynamic of our relationship. And

1118
00:56:49,640 --> 00:56:51,560
Speaker 1: so now I have to show you this whole other

1119
00:56:51,640 --> 00:56:54,399
Speaker 1: side of me that you didn't even know exists. Right,

1120
00:56:54,600 --> 00:56:57,520
Speaker 1: And Okay, this is my problem because I don't mind

1121
00:56:57,560 --> 00:57:00,520
Speaker 1: showing people the drailway and doing that sit. I don't

1122
00:57:00,560 --> 00:57:03,880
Speaker 1: know every time you did you did that works. But

1123
00:57:04,239 --> 00:57:07,480
Speaker 1: I'm tired. I don't want to play games no more.

1124
00:57:07,640 --> 00:57:09,440
Speaker 1: But I still feel like I don't know because I'm

1125
00:57:09,480 --> 00:57:11,960
Speaker 1: still single. But that's what I'm saying. Like, so, if

1126
00:57:12,000 --> 00:57:14,040
Speaker 1: a man does hurts my feelings, I just want to

1127
00:57:14,120 --> 00:57:15,759
Speaker 1: tell you, like nigga, you hurt my feelings and I

1128
00:57:15,880 --> 00:57:17,320
Speaker 1: want him to fix it. I don't want to have

1129
00:57:17,440 --> 00:57:21,040
Speaker 1: to like pay you back by going into Heiti. I

1130
00:57:21,080 --> 00:57:23,720
Speaker 1: don't want to go to Toohiti. But we gotta set

1131
00:57:23,760 --> 00:57:26,040
Speaker 1: the tone from the beginning. If we like certain things.

1132
00:57:26,080 --> 00:57:28,200
Speaker 1: You like romance, you got to introduce that from the beginning.

1133
00:57:28,240 --> 00:57:30,600
Speaker 1: If you like your man to be the one like it,

1134
00:57:30,640 --> 00:57:32,440
Speaker 1: start from the first argument and the first argument. If

1135
00:57:32,440 --> 00:57:35,960
Speaker 1: you the first person apologize, it's you already lost you.

1136
00:57:36,200 --> 00:57:38,800
Speaker 1: He always got to be the one. I don't give

1137
00:57:38,840 --> 00:57:42,560
Speaker 1: a dorn how bad it's tearing you up inside. Okay,

1138
00:57:42,760 --> 00:57:45,600
Speaker 1: you call your girl, you set the tone from the beginning.

1139
00:57:45,760 --> 00:57:47,560
Speaker 1: I can't tell you how many times like doing it

1140
00:57:47,640 --> 00:57:50,120
Speaker 1: the wrong way. Then I saw like, oh, I gotta

1141
00:57:50,160 --> 00:57:51,960
Speaker 1: let him know up front that's what I'm trying to

1142
00:57:52,000 --> 00:57:56,480
Speaker 1: do by I don't I just about to say a

1143
00:57:56,520 --> 00:57:57,800
Speaker 1: different word. My dad don't like want to use that

1144
00:57:57,840 --> 00:58:02,680
Speaker 1: word by teaching him how to treat you him that

1145
00:58:02,760 --> 00:58:04,280
Speaker 1: from the beginning. And I think a lot of women

1146
00:58:04,480 --> 00:58:06,480
Speaker 1: steer from that. You feel like, oh, I don't have

1147
00:58:06,520 --> 00:58:08,160
Speaker 1: to I shouldn't have to teach no grown ass man.

1148
00:58:08,200 --> 00:58:11,120
Speaker 1: But I'm not gonna lie, Like I feel like nobody

1149
00:58:11,280 --> 00:58:13,200
Speaker 1: just comes in a situation knowing how to love you

1150
00:58:13,320 --> 00:58:15,520
Speaker 1: and knowing what you want. So I think it's definitely

1151
00:58:15,600 --> 00:58:17,880
Speaker 1: okay to teach people how like this is what I like,

1152
00:58:18,000 --> 00:58:20,520
Speaker 1: this is what I expect, because I want if I'm

1153
00:58:20,520 --> 00:58:22,920
Speaker 1: dealing with somebody that I like, tell me what you

1154
00:58:23,080 --> 00:58:25,120
Speaker 1: want and expect of me so I can do that.

1155
00:58:25,240 --> 00:58:27,440
Speaker 1: I want to make you happy. So I feel like

1156
00:58:27,520 --> 00:58:29,160
Speaker 1: it's so we should be able to do that for

1157
00:58:29,280 --> 00:58:32,160
Speaker 1: men as well. I mean, for sure, but you definitely

1158
00:58:32,280 --> 00:58:34,800
Speaker 1: have to be stern, like she was saying, like when

1159
00:58:35,160 --> 00:58:37,640
Speaker 1: if something, if a dude does something, you cannot be

1160
00:58:37,720 --> 00:58:40,480
Speaker 1: the first to apologize and give in, even if it's

1161
00:58:40,560 --> 00:58:42,840
Speaker 1: killing you inside. I literally did the guy that I

1162
00:58:43,000 --> 00:58:44,760
Speaker 1: just bought the gift for, I didn't talk to him

1163
00:58:44,800 --> 00:58:47,520
Speaker 1: for what like a month and a half. You're too strong, bitch,

1164
00:58:49,760 --> 00:58:50,760
Speaker 1: but I can't do it.

1165
00:58:51,920 --> 00:58:53,120
Speaker 2: I had to do what I had to do.

1166
00:58:53,240 --> 00:58:56,040
Speaker 1: But when he came back, Shanelle bag money, you know,

1167
00:58:56,840 --> 00:59:01,439
Speaker 1: you gotta do what you gotta do. It's it's not allow. Yeah,

1168
00:59:03,080 --> 00:59:06,240
Speaker 1: it's hard. I won't reach out to you, but it's

1169
00:59:06,360 --> 00:59:10,280
Speaker 1: just like it's hard. It's hard. It's definitely hard. So

1170
00:59:12,600 --> 00:59:14,440
Speaker 1: what do you think we have to do in order

1171
00:59:14,480 --> 00:59:19,880
Speaker 1: to get it? A man, the very first thing is

1172
00:59:20,120 --> 00:59:22,480
Speaker 1: to know what you want, and you can't start off

1173
00:59:22,520 --> 00:59:25,400
Speaker 1: saying I want to be married. You gotta finesse it,

1174
00:59:25,560 --> 00:59:28,560
Speaker 1: Like you know, I'm looking for someone that is supportive

1175
00:59:28,600 --> 00:59:30,200
Speaker 1: to be in my dreams. I'm looking for somebody that

1176
00:59:30,280 --> 00:59:32,840
Speaker 1: shows up for me. I'm looking for someone that really

1177
00:59:32,920 --> 00:59:35,040
Speaker 1: really shows me that I'm the woman that he would

1178
00:59:35,080 --> 00:59:37,320
Speaker 1: like in his life, because I know what type of

1179
00:59:37,640 --> 00:59:42,040
Speaker 1: energy that I bring to this relationship and I would

1180
00:59:42,120 --> 00:59:43,960
Speaker 1: like the same in return. So that's what you say,

1181
00:59:44,040 --> 00:59:46,280
Speaker 1: because if you're listening all the qualities of a husband,

1182
00:59:46,840 --> 00:59:49,720
Speaker 1: men know exactly what you're saying. If without you saying

1183
00:59:49,800 --> 00:59:51,520
Speaker 1: it that same way I used to like, I used

1184
00:59:51,520 --> 00:59:52,640
Speaker 1: to get on the phone with you guys like this

1185
00:59:52,760 --> 00:59:56,440
Speaker 1: in my old life. I'm looking for helpmate. Nowadays, if

1186
00:59:56,480 --> 00:59:57,760
Speaker 1: I say that, I won't say it like that. But

1187
00:59:57,800 --> 00:59:59,920
Speaker 1: if I'm saying that back in the day, they'd be like, oh,

1188
01:00:00,000 --> 01:00:02,480
Speaker 1: oh you look might take care of you. But now, yes,

1189
01:00:02,840 --> 01:00:05,000
Speaker 1: yes I am, yeah, yeah, yes I am. But I'm

1190
01:00:05,040 --> 01:00:06,760
Speaker 1: not saying it and helped me. I'm saying it in

1191
01:00:06,760 --> 01:00:09,000
Speaker 1: the other verbage so they understand if you're gonna be

1192
01:00:09,080 --> 01:00:12,040
Speaker 1: with me, this is what I require your expectations, so

1193
01:00:12,280 --> 01:00:15,920
Speaker 1: you know right right at least you know you put

1194
01:00:15,960 --> 01:00:18,000
Speaker 1: it out there because a lot of times like we'd

1195
01:00:18,000 --> 01:00:20,000
Speaker 1: be like so I think that's the main thing. Like

1196
01:00:20,120 --> 01:00:22,360
Speaker 1: women just need to be more intentional and say their

1197
01:00:22,400 --> 01:00:26,520
Speaker 1: intention But you'll look, you will find exactly what you're

1198
01:00:26,520 --> 01:00:28,320
Speaker 1: looking for, and you gotta run away from anything to

1199
01:00:28,440 --> 01:00:30,720
Speaker 1: look like it though. You can't just stick around. You

1200
01:00:30,800 --> 01:00:34,160
Speaker 1: can't stick around because it's not gonna change when he

1201
01:00:34,320 --> 01:00:36,400
Speaker 1: really show up, when they're real him show up. Oh

1202
01:00:36,400 --> 01:00:39,920
Speaker 1: it's kind of yeah once something all longer, sirs me,

1203
01:00:40,000 --> 01:00:42,960
Speaker 1: I'm deeping. I can't like I don't care if we

1204
01:00:43,080 --> 01:00:45,240
Speaker 1: had fun in the first three months, I'm not gonna

1205
01:00:45,400 --> 01:00:48,600
Speaker 1: have fun anymore, or you not what you do now?

1206
01:00:48,800 --> 01:00:51,120
Speaker 1: That sounds like too much like torture. Yeah, I feel

1207
01:00:51,240 --> 01:00:54,440
Speaker 1: like with Throwback Bay, I definitely stuck around way too

1208
01:00:54,560 --> 01:00:57,640
Speaker 1: Like I was unhappy for like a good six months,

1209
01:00:57,880 --> 01:01:01,040
Speaker 1: like happens, very unhappy. But I feel like now I'm

1210
01:01:01,080 --> 01:01:03,760
Speaker 1: more so like you if I'm sad more than i'm

1211
01:01:03,800 --> 01:01:05,960
Speaker 1: happy and you stressing me out, like it's easier for

1212
01:01:06,040 --> 01:01:08,480
Speaker 1: me to move around just because I'm very happy with

1213
01:01:08,600 --> 01:01:10,560
Speaker 1: my life, absolutely, And I think a lot of women

1214
01:01:10,640 --> 01:01:13,320
Speaker 1: mess up is because they're looking for somebody to complete them.

1215
01:01:13,440 --> 01:01:15,560
Speaker 1: Like I'm complete, I'm good. I'm just like to put

1216
01:01:15,560 --> 01:01:17,080
Speaker 1: an icing on the cake for you to make my

1217
01:01:17,200 --> 01:01:19,680
Speaker 1: life easier and more fun. But like I could be

1218
01:01:19,800 --> 01:01:21,520
Speaker 1: in my house watching grays in at me all day.

1219
01:01:21,520 --> 01:01:23,840
Speaker 1: I have a very good time. But that comes with

1220
01:01:23,920 --> 01:01:25,960
Speaker 1: being comfortable with yourself and who you are and what

1221
01:01:26,040 --> 01:01:28,120
Speaker 1: your breed in an environment that you created. And you

1222
01:01:28,200 --> 01:01:30,320
Speaker 1: were talking about the roadblocks, that's a roadblock if you're

1223
01:01:30,760 --> 01:01:34,240
Speaker 1: if your internal extra environments aren't at peace, then you're

1224
01:01:34,280 --> 01:01:35,680
Speaker 1: not gonna be at piece. You're not gonna be happy.

1225
01:01:35,720 --> 01:01:37,160
Speaker 1: If you can't spend time with yourself and get to

1226
01:01:37,200 --> 01:01:39,360
Speaker 1: know yourself and be happy by yourself, then you constantly

1227
01:01:39,440 --> 01:01:42,880
Speaker 1: chasing happiness in another person. But listen, like you said,

1228
01:01:43,080 --> 01:01:44,680
Speaker 1: it's not grades. But I get on there and watch

1229
01:01:44,760 --> 01:01:47,480
Speaker 1: my reality ratchet reality TV right and be in my

1230
01:01:47,560 --> 01:01:49,920
Speaker 1: house because I'm not getting up and getting dressed and

1231
01:01:50,000 --> 01:01:53,520
Speaker 1: doing this for anybody that doesn't deserve the energy. Right. Yeah,

1232
01:01:53,600 --> 01:01:56,200
Speaker 1: I feel like if y'all didn't have, y'all no bad

1233
01:01:56,280 --> 01:01:59,800
Speaker 1: out because baby, I'm getting a boyfriend this year. Yeah. Too,

1234
01:02:00,520 --> 01:02:02,800
Speaker 1: i haven't had a boyfriend in so long, but I'm

1235
01:02:02,840 --> 01:02:05,000
Speaker 1: gonna get I'm committed to getting when I am, I'm

1236
01:02:05,040 --> 01:02:11,680
Speaker 1: getting well about to have yes, yees have sex this year.

1237
01:02:11,760 --> 01:02:15,840
Speaker 1: I'm just gonna go ahead and you having sex, having you,

1238
01:02:16,720 --> 01:02:21,840
Speaker 1: it's gonna be. You're good. I haven't had a boyfriend

1239
01:02:21,920 --> 01:02:24,520
Speaker 1: in twenty seventeen, so I feel like i'm more than

1240
01:02:24,520 --> 01:02:28,560
Speaker 1: a heal from that situation. So yeah, I just feel

1241
01:02:28,560 --> 01:02:31,080
Speaker 1: like I'm ready. I feel like i'm complete. I've worked

1242
01:02:31,120 --> 01:02:34,240
Speaker 1: on myself and I feel like I have something to

1243
01:02:34,360 --> 01:02:36,680
Speaker 1: offer somebody, now, you know what I mean. Like, Yeah,

1244
01:02:36,880 --> 01:02:38,880
Speaker 1: I definitely feel like i'm at a point in my

1245
01:02:38,920 --> 01:02:40,960
Speaker 1: life where I have more to bring to the table

1246
01:02:41,560 --> 01:02:43,600
Speaker 1: than I did in the past, even though it ain't

1247
01:02:43,640 --> 01:02:46,080
Speaker 1: about the table. It's not. It's not because I take

1248
01:02:46,080 --> 01:02:48,600
Speaker 1: that bitch with me when I go home. I ain't

1249
01:02:49,080 --> 01:02:52,240
Speaker 1: over there, all right, So now we're gonna get into

1250
01:02:52,680 --> 01:02:59,240
Speaker 1: the bot. Hey about bow bow About what you listening

1251
01:02:59,280 --> 01:03:02,400
Speaker 1: to this week? Girl, I didn't listening to gunn Okay,

1252
01:03:02,560 --> 01:03:06,880
Speaker 1: you're pushing p new album. Okay, listening to gun it

1253
01:03:07,160 --> 01:03:09,280
Speaker 1: is Pee, But I don't know if I really like

1254
01:03:09,440 --> 01:03:12,800
Speaker 1: that song. You don't like pushing Pee? It's cool. I

1255
01:03:13,160 --> 01:03:15,440
Speaker 1: feel like it's a little overrated as far as like

1256
01:03:15,640 --> 01:03:17,760
Speaker 1: all of the other songs that are on the album.

1257
01:03:18,320 --> 01:03:21,160
Speaker 1: Of course I love the little Baby song, twenty five Carre, Yeah,

1258
01:03:22,200 --> 01:03:26,960
Speaker 1: twenty five Kjki. Of course South to West is a

1259
01:03:27,000 --> 01:03:30,080
Speaker 1: good song. Yeah, I like that one. The song was

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Speaker 1: twenty one Savage. Thought I was playing twenty one savage

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01:03:32,760 --> 01:03:37,800
Speaker 1: bea savage snapping love his features lately. I funk with

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Speaker 1: him even though he British Beans in the Morning, like

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01:03:40,480 --> 01:03:45,800
Speaker 1: he's I fuck with us bees. He definitely he's wrong

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01:03:46,040 --> 01:03:48,760
Speaker 1: with this leg. So y'all don't think Beans in the Morning.

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01:03:48,840 --> 01:03:51,840
Speaker 1: He didn't even live there that long. But his mama,

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01:03:51,880 --> 01:03:57,520
Speaker 1: did you know? She did. I love and I love

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01:03:57,760 --> 01:04:01,680
Speaker 1: a bean bitch all the beautiful. I love me a

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01:04:01,800 --> 01:04:05,760
Speaker 1: good bean bitch. I'm from fucking Orange text Baby, I'm

1269
01:04:05,760 --> 01:04:09,200
Speaker 1: gonna eat me a motherfucking bean. Bee from Orange Shakes

1270
01:04:09,240 --> 01:04:11,760
Speaker 1: has gotta do with you, because you know, that's like

1271
01:04:11,840 --> 01:04:14,840
Speaker 1: a main dish, like on Louisiana, like people cook rice

1272
01:04:14,920 --> 01:04:18,080
Speaker 1: and beans and that, right, Yeah, Like that's a Southern thing.

1273
01:04:18,320 --> 01:04:20,400
Speaker 1: Like if you think of like when people talk about

1274
01:04:20,480 --> 01:04:22,680
Speaker 1: beans and other regions, they put it as a side.

1275
01:04:23,320 --> 01:04:25,400
Speaker 1: A bean is a dish there, it's a whole. Now,

1276
01:04:25,920 --> 01:04:28,880
Speaker 1: that's a fucking meal, baby, Like I love being bean.

1277
01:04:28,960 --> 01:04:32,080
Speaker 1: So I don't fault twenty one beans for breakfast girl anyway.

1278
01:04:33,120 --> 01:04:35,680
Speaker 1: So this is my vibe for the week. It's gonna

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01:04:35,760 --> 01:04:37,840
Speaker 1: whole album because if I name all the songs that

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01:04:37,920 --> 01:04:42,920
Speaker 1: I like, I did, I did. I thought it was

1281
01:04:43,000 --> 01:04:46,400
Speaker 1: interesting because they mashed up two songs at the end,

1282
01:04:47,040 --> 01:04:48,800
Speaker 1: But I mean I liked it. I thought it was cute.

1283
01:04:48,840 --> 01:04:51,360
Speaker 1: But I'm not gonna lie. I'm kind of over all

1284
01:04:51,440 --> 01:04:53,880
Speaker 1: of these remakes. I'm just over it. I Mean, we're

1285
01:04:53,960 --> 01:04:56,720
Speaker 1: all around the originality, but That's how people felt when

1286
01:04:56,760 --> 01:04:58,560
Speaker 1: The Night, I mean the nineties was doing a lot

1287
01:04:58,600 --> 01:05:01,520
Speaker 1: of remakes too, like but now it's like the remake

1288
01:05:01,640 --> 01:05:03,760
Speaker 1: remake like you know what I mean, we three times

1289
01:05:03,840 --> 01:05:06,720
Speaker 1: anything remaking home like, let it go, let it go.

1290
01:05:06,840 --> 01:05:08,920
Speaker 1: It's just like TV shows. They could instantly keep trying

1291
01:05:08,960 --> 01:05:13,960
Speaker 1: to remake the same TV shows. Let this shit go. Now,

1292
01:05:14,000 --> 01:05:19,280
Speaker 1: they could bring their Prince looks interesting. Yeah, they but

1293
01:05:19,360 --> 01:05:22,320
Speaker 1: they made it to a drama. It's not a drama.

1294
01:05:22,520 --> 01:05:25,040
Speaker 1: They bring it back the game too, Yeah, no, they

1295
01:05:25,120 --> 01:05:29,600
Speaker 1: only it wasn't good. Damn. I don't know. It's not

1296
01:05:29,680 --> 01:05:31,520
Speaker 1: the same without Mad School. It's not the same with

1297
01:05:31,600 --> 01:05:35,120
Speaker 1: our Med School. It's just Irwin, like, I don't know why.

1298
01:05:36,000 --> 01:05:37,600
Speaker 1: And he had that baby on the way. The ten

1299
01:05:37,760 --> 01:05:39,520
Speaker 1: was hot. It was hot, and I feel like they

1300
01:05:39,760 --> 01:05:42,640
Speaker 1: tried to reboot it a second time and it didn't

1301
01:05:42,680 --> 01:05:44,520
Speaker 1: go well. So why are y'all trying to reboot it

1302
01:05:44,640 --> 01:05:46,640
Speaker 1: eight third time? I'm not gonna lie. I'm actually I'm

1303
01:05:46,680 --> 01:05:48,600
Speaker 1: interested to see the fresh principal though, because they took

1304
01:05:48,640 --> 01:05:51,520
Speaker 1: it from like, ay, I want to see it. I'm

1305
01:05:51,520 --> 01:05:56,080
Speaker 1: gonna be peacock, I think, okay, service peacock. Okay, So

1306
01:05:56,200 --> 01:05:58,160
Speaker 1: my bop of the Week. This song actually came out

1307
01:05:58,160 --> 01:06:02,000
Speaker 1: in twenty twenty, and I always would hear it on

1308
01:06:02,160 --> 01:06:04,920
Speaker 1: like Instagram like reels when people would make reals like

1309
01:06:05,000 --> 01:06:07,560
Speaker 1: it was a really popular song. But I finally found it.

1310
01:06:08,160 --> 01:06:10,800
Speaker 1: This is definitely like an indie pop rock song, so

1311
01:06:10,880 --> 01:06:13,120
Speaker 1: if you're not into that stuff, don't even don't even.

1312
01:06:14,000 --> 01:06:14,040
Speaker 2: So.

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01:06:14,200 --> 01:06:17,800
Speaker 1: This song is called heat Waves by Glass Animals, and

1314
01:06:18,400 --> 01:06:21,040
Speaker 1: first of all, it's just a really groovy song. Like

1315
01:06:21,920 --> 01:06:25,120
Speaker 1: he the guy. It's a band, and the guy when

1316
01:06:25,120 --> 01:06:27,480
Speaker 1: he performs it a lot, he does it acoustic, and

1317
01:06:27,600 --> 01:06:29,480
Speaker 1: I was just like, these lyrics are so beautiful, but

1318
01:06:29,560 --> 01:06:32,360
Speaker 1: I don't know what he's talking about. So I actually

1319
01:06:32,440 --> 01:06:34,919
Speaker 1: watched a video of him explaining the meaning of the song,

1320
01:06:35,040 --> 01:06:37,240
Speaker 1: and it made me like the song even more so.

1321
01:06:37,400 --> 01:06:40,560
Speaker 1: The song is basically about when you're dating someone and

1322
01:06:40,680 --> 01:06:44,000
Speaker 1: you try to become what they like, and you'd be like, oh,

1323
01:06:44,080 --> 01:06:46,720
Speaker 1: he's like, oh I like anime. You're like, oh, I

1324
01:06:46,880 --> 01:06:49,760
Speaker 1: love Anime. It's like when you just lose yourself in

1325
01:06:49,840 --> 01:06:53,000
Speaker 1: a person. I love this song. I love what songs

1326
01:06:53,040 --> 01:06:54,400
Speaker 1: have good meetings, and I feel like we can all

1327
01:06:54,440 --> 01:06:56,280
Speaker 1: relate to that, like we've all dated a person and

1328
01:06:56,360 --> 01:06:59,080
Speaker 1: pretended to like the stuff that they like. So that's

1329
01:06:59,120 --> 01:07:02,320
Speaker 1: my bop of the week called heat Waves by Glass Animals.

1330
01:07:02,400 --> 01:07:04,360
Speaker 1: It's such a good song and it's a good vibe.

1331
01:07:04,520 --> 01:07:10,920
Speaker 1: So okay, y'all. So I have like a forever Bob.

1332
01:07:11,760 --> 01:07:13,840
Speaker 1: We love it Forever. I have it Forever Bob. And

1333
01:07:13,920 --> 01:07:15,600
Speaker 1: then I got one that everyone needs to listening to.

1334
01:07:16,040 --> 01:07:18,320
Speaker 1: So my forever Bob is return of the mac Mark

1335
01:07:18,360 --> 01:07:30,520
Speaker 1: Morrison We Like You. That was like the favorite song.

1336
01:07:30,600 --> 01:07:35,760
Speaker 1: Hold it over, listen, listen Bob, you put that on.

1337
01:07:36,280 --> 01:07:40,120
Speaker 1: You remember who you are every time. And then I'm

1338
01:07:40,160 --> 01:07:42,520
Speaker 1: so in tune. Like if ever I'm having a bad

1339
01:07:42,640 --> 01:07:45,800
Speaker 1: day or whatever, I go, like, this song is popular,

1340
01:07:45,880 --> 01:07:47,520
Speaker 1: but it still comes on the radio today. I'll go

1341
01:07:47,680 --> 01:07:49,120
Speaker 1: to the car, It'll come on the radio. I'll be

1342
01:07:49,200 --> 01:07:50,520
Speaker 1: in a story, come on the radio, and that's how

1343
01:07:50,560 --> 01:07:55,120
Speaker 1: I know. Okay, that's all I need. I need one song,

1344
01:07:55,240 --> 01:08:02,760
Speaker 1: but I need yeah and yes, okay, So what's y'all

1345
01:08:02,880 --> 01:08:05,480
Speaker 1: y'll about that everybody should be listening to. Meg has

1346
01:08:05,520 --> 01:08:09,160
Speaker 1: a song called sugar Baby. Oh yeah, that's the new one,

1347
01:08:09,240 --> 01:08:12,320
Speaker 1: the new one right, no, no, the album, the Good

1348
01:08:12,360 --> 01:08:15,240
Speaker 1: News News album, Like, yeah, you need to invest in

1349
01:08:15,320 --> 01:08:18,000
Speaker 1: this and support black business. I love it period. Yeah,

1350
01:08:18,040 --> 01:08:20,200
Speaker 1: and if y'all didn't listen to Meg's recent project where

1351
01:08:20,240 --> 01:08:22,439
Speaker 1: she had all the freestyles on there, it was great.

1352
01:08:23,200 --> 01:08:25,920
Speaker 1: Let me just say this, her bars go not fucking

1353
01:08:25,960 --> 01:08:29,960
Speaker 1: with her bars like Meg is rapping circles around the

1354
01:08:30,120 --> 01:08:34,120
Speaker 1: fucking girls. Yeah, they like really can't hang like. Y'all

1355
01:08:34,120 --> 01:08:36,920
Speaker 1: can say what y'all want. Y'all cannot like her. Y'all

1356
01:08:36,960 --> 01:08:39,080
Speaker 1: can't say that she's this and she's that, but you

1357
01:08:39,160 --> 01:08:41,760
Speaker 1: cannot take away that the bars are there. I can't

1358
01:08:41,800 --> 01:08:44,799
Speaker 1: think of nobody that's out right now that could freestyle

1359
01:08:44,920 --> 01:08:48,679
Speaker 1: and hang with her. Yeah, it's given. She's from Houston

1360
01:08:48,760 --> 01:08:57,560
Speaker 1: and they produced the freestyle Kings and Queens because I

1361
01:08:57,680 --> 01:09:01,439
Speaker 1: was about hold on hold look, I don came down

1362
01:09:01,600 --> 01:09:05,200
Speaker 1: now An came up. I'm on that, Paul mind, you

1363
01:09:05,360 --> 01:09:08,200
Speaker 1: got it on your mind. I'm real, real thick, and

1364
01:09:08,439 --> 01:09:17,840
Speaker 1: I'm very fucking fine. I'm ready whatever you ready, Let's

1365
01:09:17,920 --> 01:09:24,759
Speaker 1: do this. Okay, don't get into for your heart segment

1366
01:09:24,800 --> 01:09:26,559
Speaker 1: of the show. If you want to question you answer

1367
01:09:26,640 --> 01:09:28,960
Speaker 1: on the show, make sure you email us at Askpoor

1368
01:09:29,080 --> 01:09:32,200
Speaker 1: Minds at gmail dot com. If you're a Patreon member,

1369
01:09:32,240 --> 01:09:33,800
Speaker 1: make sure, you put that in the subject because you

1370
01:09:33,840 --> 01:09:36,840
Speaker 1: get to skip the line. So let's go ahead and

1371
01:09:36,880 --> 01:09:38,760
Speaker 1: get into it. You want to go first, Yeah, I'll

1372
01:09:38,760 --> 01:09:40,400
Speaker 1: go first. All right, what's up?

1373
01:09:40,520 --> 01:09:40,760
Speaker 2: Lady?

1374
01:09:40,880 --> 01:09:43,920
Speaker 1: Sending love to you both. My homegirl constantly offers her

1375
01:09:44,080 --> 01:09:47,600
Speaker 1: unsolicitied opinion and advice in regards to my relationships and

1376
01:09:47,680 --> 01:09:50,280
Speaker 1: dating life. I was engaged and it didn't work out.

1377
01:09:50,800 --> 01:09:53,040
Speaker 1: I rebounded with someone who I ended up dating for

1378
01:09:53,120 --> 01:09:56,240
Speaker 1: two years, but as a rebound, that shit didn't work either,

1379
01:09:56,320 --> 01:09:58,599
Speaker 1: and I ended up with two heartbreaks back to back.

1380
01:09:59,080 --> 01:10:01,759
Speaker 1: I recently realized, okay, do to a job and change

1381
01:10:01,840 --> 01:10:04,840
Speaker 1: my number. Me and this same homegirl was on the phone,

1382
01:10:04,880 --> 01:10:06,800
Speaker 1: and she proceeded to ask me who did I give

1383
01:10:06,840 --> 01:10:11,439
Speaker 1: my number two from my old life, insinuating my exes

1384
01:10:11,520 --> 01:10:14,639
Speaker 1: from my past two relationships. I was like, girl, why

1385
01:10:14,680 --> 01:10:17,320
Speaker 1: do you care? She proceeds to tell me, I don't

1386
01:10:17,320 --> 01:10:19,840
Speaker 1: think you need to bring your past into your new life,

1387
01:10:19,880 --> 01:10:21,560
Speaker 1: and I think you need to be by yourself for

1388
01:10:21,640 --> 01:10:25,000
Speaker 1: a while. This annoyed the fuck out of me because

1389
01:10:25,080 --> 01:10:27,719
Speaker 1: I shouldn't have to explain shit to you as my friend,

1390
01:10:28,040 --> 01:10:30,640
Speaker 1: and furthermore, I am grown, so my decisions don't need

1391
01:10:30,720 --> 01:10:33,760
Speaker 1: your unsolicited opinions or advice unless I ask for it.

1392
01:10:34,520 --> 01:10:37,160
Speaker 1: I decided I need to set boundaries with her, but

1393
01:10:37,240 --> 01:10:39,280
Speaker 1: I just wanted you all's opinion on how to do

1394
01:10:39,400 --> 01:10:42,280
Speaker 1: that without coming across like I don't appreciate her concern.

1395
01:10:42,800 --> 01:10:45,120
Speaker 1: I also feel like if I was to spend the

1396
01:10:45,120 --> 01:10:47,479
Speaker 1: block with one of my exes, she would probably not

1397
01:10:47,600 --> 01:10:50,120
Speaker 1: fuck with me anymore because of who I'm dating. If

1398
01:10:50,160 --> 01:10:52,560
Speaker 1: your friends started fucking back with someone you don't like

1399
01:10:53,000 --> 01:10:54,960
Speaker 1: or think it's good for them, how much of that

1400
01:10:55,080 --> 01:10:58,599
Speaker 1: do you let affect y'all's relationship or if you don't

1401
01:10:58,720 --> 01:11:00,800
Speaker 1: like if you don't, I don't like who your friend

1402
01:11:00,840 --> 01:11:03,360
Speaker 1: is dating. Have you ever stopped fucking with them because

1403
01:11:03,400 --> 01:11:08,880
Speaker 1: of their relationship in person that they are dating. I haven't.

1404
01:11:09,640 --> 01:11:12,559
Speaker 1: I just feel like if my friend is dating somebody

1405
01:11:12,640 --> 01:11:14,439
Speaker 1: that I know is not good for her that I

1406
01:11:14,479 --> 01:11:18,960
Speaker 1: don't like, I voiced my opinion once and that's it.

1407
01:11:19,600 --> 01:11:22,360
Speaker 1: But to leave my friend alone and stop fucking that's

1408
01:11:22,360 --> 01:11:24,439
Speaker 1: none of my business. You gotta leat grown people. You

1409
01:11:24,439 --> 01:11:27,000
Speaker 1: gotta let people be grown. And honestly, I'm the person

1410
01:11:27,280 --> 01:11:30,760
Speaker 1: I have niggas in my life that they should not

1411
01:11:30,920 --> 01:11:32,680
Speaker 1: be there at all, and I know that, and my

1412
01:11:32,800 --> 01:11:35,120
Speaker 1: friends know that. But you have to move on whenever

1413
01:11:35,240 --> 01:11:38,560
Speaker 1: you're ready, right, Hain't nobody tell you? Oh? Because like

1414
01:11:38,720 --> 01:11:41,160
Speaker 1: if I was talking to somebody and Dreda didn't like them,

1415
01:11:41,560 --> 01:11:43,280
Speaker 1: and she stopped fucking with me because I was still

1416
01:11:43,320 --> 01:11:45,120
Speaker 1: fucking with them, she can cut me off, but I'm

1417
01:11:45,120 --> 01:11:47,160
Speaker 1: gonna still be with this person. That's gonna make me

1418
01:11:47,240 --> 01:11:50,840
Speaker 1: probably lean on that person even more. So. I feel

1419
01:11:50,880 --> 01:11:52,959
Speaker 1: like as a friend, you have to know your boundaries

1420
01:11:53,000 --> 01:11:56,160
Speaker 1: with your friends, Like your opinion isn't always needed. Yeah,

1421
01:11:56,520 --> 01:11:59,080
Speaker 1: I one hundred percent agree with that. I've never stopped

1422
01:11:59,120 --> 01:12:01,800
Speaker 1: being friends with any body because of who they chose today.

1423
01:12:01,920 --> 01:12:05,160
Speaker 1: Like Leck said, if I don't really care for the person,

1424
01:12:05,600 --> 01:12:07,479
Speaker 1: I'll let you know one time. But I'm not speaking

1425
01:12:07,560 --> 01:12:10,400
Speaker 1: on any no more because it's really not my bea'sness,

1426
01:12:10,439 --> 01:12:12,080
Speaker 1: you know what I mean. You have to be happy.

1427
01:12:12,120 --> 01:12:14,040
Speaker 1: It's your life. You only need one life, and you

1428
01:12:14,160 --> 01:12:17,320
Speaker 1: have to be happy with your own choices. So what

1429
01:12:17,439 --> 01:12:21,679
Speaker 1: do you think you that friend that's like girl leaving

1430
01:12:21,680 --> 01:12:24,360
Speaker 1: them alone? Listen, So I do? I do? I do

1431
01:12:24,479 --> 01:12:26,120
Speaker 1: totally agree. You have to get to a point where

1432
01:12:26,800 --> 01:12:29,920
Speaker 1: the friendship is more important than whatever the friendship is

1433
01:12:29,960 --> 01:12:34,600
Speaker 1: more important than whatever she's doing. But it sounds like

1434
01:12:34,680 --> 01:12:37,400
Speaker 1: your friend has the friend got good concern Like it

1435
01:12:37,520 --> 01:12:39,360
Speaker 1: sounds like this is like a pattern and a friend

1436
01:12:39,479 --> 01:12:41,200
Speaker 1: is trying to look out And I feel like this

1437
01:12:41,400 --> 01:12:43,559
Speaker 1: used toppen too me a lot. Like you, you can't

1438
01:12:43,600 --> 01:12:46,120
Speaker 1: want a more than somebody else wanted if the girl

1439
01:12:46,160 --> 01:12:48,400
Speaker 1: doesn't want it, the friend is just you wasting your

1440
01:12:48,400 --> 01:12:50,840
Speaker 1: time and your energy, right, okay, girl being here when

1441
01:12:50,880 --> 01:12:53,880
Speaker 1: you get done right? Right? I mean you can't help

1442
01:12:53,920 --> 01:12:56,400
Speaker 1: somebody else doesn't want to be helped, you can, you know?

1443
01:12:56,479 --> 01:13:01,360
Speaker 1: I feel like as long as it's the relationship isn't

1444
01:13:01,439 --> 01:13:05,760
Speaker 1: affecting y'all's friendship, I don't as long as you're not

1445
01:13:05,960 --> 01:13:09,080
Speaker 1: calling me every day crying about the man and just

1446
01:13:09,200 --> 01:13:12,400
Speaker 1: don't confide in her about him. Yeah, but I don't

1447
01:13:12,439 --> 01:13:14,960
Speaker 1: think that she should be getting mad at the friend

1448
01:13:15,120 --> 01:13:18,040
Speaker 1: because I do agree with you about like maybe there

1449
01:13:18,320 --> 01:13:21,160
Speaker 1: is a real cause for concern, right, So you should

1450
01:13:21,240 --> 01:13:23,840
Speaker 1: never be mad at your friend for being concerned about you.

1451
01:13:26,240 --> 01:13:28,760
Speaker 1: What's up, y'all? Show girl XP any sure girls are

1452
01:13:28,800 --> 01:13:30,800
Speaker 1: in the cold, and we are here to tell y'all

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Speaker 1: your counselor at any time whenever you need to. Yeah,

1460
01:13:54,640 --> 01:13:58,360
Speaker 1: you can text them, do phone calls, FaceTime, whatever is convenient,

1461
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Speaker 1: convenient for you, and it's better than like waiting in

1462
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Speaker 1: the office with traditional therapy. Y'all know, we are still

1463
01:14:03,720 --> 01:14:05,080
Speaker 1: in the pandemic, so I know a lot of people

1464
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Speaker 1: be nervous about going to the doctor's office and doing

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Speaker 1: stuff like that. So you can definitely do this in

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Speaker 1: the comfort of your own home. And they are very

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Speaker 1: specific with the counselor that they choose for you. You

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01:14:15,080 --> 01:14:17,439
Speaker 1: get to choose all your options, so it makes it

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01:14:17,600 --> 01:14:20,439
Speaker 1: super easy. So yeah, so we actually have a patient review.

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01:14:20,760 --> 01:14:24,040
Speaker 1: It says jose Fernandez is a very good therapyst He

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Speaker 1: is professional, thoughtful, and non judgmental. This person was dealing

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Speaker 1: with relationship issues, intimacy related issues, sleeping disorders, and bipolar disorder.

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01:14:34,200 --> 01:14:38,080
Speaker 1: So you're going to visit betterhelp dot com backslash Poor Minds.

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01:14:38,160 --> 01:14:41,599
Speaker 1: That's better, help and join the over one million people

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Speaker 1: who have taken charge of their mental health. So you

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Speaker 1: also get ten percent off of your first months whenever

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Speaker 1: you use the cold Poor Minds. But they also have

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Speaker 1: financial aid available, so make sure y'all sign up and

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01:14:53,400 --> 01:14:57,639
Speaker 1: start your therapy. Okay, so let's go to question two.

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01:14:57,840 --> 01:15:00,680
Speaker 1: It says, hello, Poor Minds. I'm a fan of the

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01:15:00,720 --> 01:15:05,200
Speaker 1: show and love Lexandrea a lot. However, the movies and

1482
01:15:05,320 --> 01:15:09,879
Speaker 1: series portions are spoilers. I personally hate spoilers for programs

1483
01:15:09,920 --> 01:15:12,439
Speaker 1: I've never seen. It's annoying to have to skip through

1484
01:15:12,479 --> 01:15:15,799
Speaker 1: the shows and miss out on funny content because of this. Typically,

1485
01:15:15,920 --> 01:15:18,200
Speaker 1: when I want to see reviews or commentary, I search

1486
01:15:18,240 --> 01:15:22,000
Speaker 1: for videos on YouTube for this. Additionally, the series and

1487
01:15:22,120 --> 01:15:24,880
Speaker 1: question are random. We have no idea what it's going

1488
01:15:24,960 --> 01:15:28,599
Speaker 1: to be talked about. There's no announcement or fan voting system.

1489
01:15:28,920 --> 01:15:31,840
Speaker 1: I suggest you guys discontinue this segment or create a

1490
01:15:31,960 --> 01:15:34,320
Speaker 1: new show where you guys dedicate time to talk about

1491
01:15:34,400 --> 01:15:36,760
Speaker 1: movies and shows. First of all, this is my shit,

1492
01:15:37,160 --> 01:15:40,880
Speaker 1: right and I feel like who tweeted me dec and

1493
01:15:40,960 --> 01:15:43,280
Speaker 1: I ignored it? Well, not only that. But I feel like,

1494
01:15:43,400 --> 01:15:45,920
Speaker 1: first of all, we let y'all know before the segment, jow,

1495
01:15:46,600 --> 01:15:49,760
Speaker 1: this has spoilers in it, and this is the movie

1496
01:15:49,800 --> 01:15:51,559
Speaker 1: we'ere and this is the movie that we're talking about.

1497
01:15:51,720 --> 01:15:55,120
Speaker 1: We are very complex people. We have things going on

1498
01:15:55,320 --> 01:15:58,120
Speaker 1: outside of badb's and money and daddy. So if I

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01:15:58,200 --> 01:15:59,680
Speaker 1: want to talk about a movie that I saw that

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01:15:59,720 --> 01:16:03,200
Speaker 1: was More the Good Bitch, I'm Steve Beech with Spielberg

1501
01:16:03,240 --> 01:16:05,559
Speaker 1: and it's Oh, I'm gonna give it's given e Burn

1502
01:16:05,600 --> 01:16:07,960
Speaker 1: and Roper bitch, I'll know what the fuck I'm talking about.

1503
01:16:08,439 --> 01:16:11,320
Speaker 1: I just feel like, yeah, I mean, I don't see

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01:16:11,400 --> 01:16:13,720
Speaker 1: the issue with just skipping. I mean, so maybe what

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01:16:13,840 --> 01:16:17,240
Speaker 1: we can do going forward, No, it's put a time stamp. No,

1506
01:16:17,600 --> 01:16:20,080
Speaker 1: I'm putting the time stamp in the bio so that

1507
01:16:20,240 --> 01:16:22,840
Speaker 1: you can see where it starts. But we're not gonna

1508
01:16:22,840 --> 01:16:25,320
Speaker 1: stop doing that signia because a lot of people actually

1509
01:16:25,439 --> 01:16:27,800
Speaker 1: really really like, more people enjoy than people hated. And

1510
01:16:28,360 --> 01:16:31,799
Speaker 1: like I said, we're we're we have we're very complex

1511
01:16:31,920 --> 01:16:35,040
Speaker 1: people and I'm I love movies. I'm a movie. Yeah,

1512
01:16:35,439 --> 01:16:37,439
Speaker 1: I sit at home and I watch movies all day.

1513
01:16:37,560 --> 01:16:39,840
Speaker 1: So Poor Minds is about our lives and what we

1514
01:16:39,920 --> 01:16:41,880
Speaker 1: have going on. So if I see a really good movie,

1515
01:16:42,160 --> 01:16:43,720
Speaker 1: I want to share that when you listen and I

1516
01:16:43,760 --> 01:16:45,760
Speaker 1: don't see a problem, and we let y'all know that

1517
01:16:45,880 --> 01:16:50,439
Speaker 1: we're spoiling the movie ahead of time. So the show's elolving.

1518
01:16:50,560 --> 01:16:52,640
Speaker 1: I think a lot of people, you know, a lot,

1519
01:16:52,760 --> 01:16:54,439
Speaker 1: especially a lot of y'all who have been listening to

1520
01:16:54,520 --> 01:16:56,680
Speaker 1: the show for a really long time. Y'all kind of

1521
01:16:56,720 --> 01:16:58,639
Speaker 1: want the show to stay the same. But the show

1522
01:16:58,760 --> 01:17:01,400
Speaker 1: is growing and evolving. We're adding new sigmas and stuff,

1523
01:17:02,320 --> 01:17:05,439
Speaker 1: but we can't please everybody. Hopefully you still, you know,

1524
01:17:05,560 --> 01:17:07,200
Speaker 1: stick around and least in the whole thing. I don't

1525
01:17:07,200 --> 01:17:11,960
Speaker 1: care because, like I say, and people will watch the

1526
01:17:12,040 --> 01:17:14,160
Speaker 1: movie and be like, oh my god, it was so good.

1527
01:17:14,280 --> 01:17:16,280
Speaker 1: People will still watch the movie and be like, it's

1528
01:17:16,360 --> 01:17:21,840
Speaker 1: so good every part, And honestly, you know what, let's

1529
01:17:21,880 --> 01:17:25,559
Speaker 1: just move on. Question number three. Hey, ladies, I've been

1530
01:17:25,640 --> 01:17:29,960
Speaker 1: following you Tough. Wait what they've been following us tough?

1531
01:17:30,080 --> 01:17:32,599
Speaker 1: Like girl, I ain't even drunk. I don't know what's

1532
01:17:32,600 --> 01:17:35,040
Speaker 1: going on. I've been following you Tough for about a

1533
01:17:35,160 --> 01:17:37,160
Speaker 1: year now, and this is truly one of the most

1534
01:17:37,240 --> 01:17:39,920
Speaker 1: down to earth and relatable podcasts I've ever listened to.

1535
01:17:40,400 --> 01:17:43,479
Speaker 1: I Love y'all Beaches. I just listened to an episode

1536
01:17:43,479 --> 01:17:45,639
Speaker 1: where one of the topics you touched on was purpose.

1537
01:17:46,040 --> 01:17:47,880
Speaker 1: I've known my purpose for a long time, but the

1538
01:17:47,960 --> 01:17:50,400
Speaker 1: way my family's name is set up, I don't feel

1539
01:17:50,439 --> 01:17:53,200
Speaker 1: one hundred percent confident and fulfilling it. My father is

1540
01:17:53,240 --> 01:17:56,160
Speaker 1: a prominent pastor in the Midwest. My family has been

1541
01:17:56,240 --> 01:17:59,320
Speaker 1: held under a microscope since before I was even conceived.

1542
01:17:59,720 --> 01:18:02,320
Speaker 1: Every thing I say and do has always been a

1543
01:18:02,360 --> 01:18:05,920
Speaker 1: direct reflection of them. I write fiction books about real

1544
01:18:06,000 --> 01:18:08,840
Speaker 1: life issues that have to deal with sex and relationships, mainly.

1545
01:18:09,280 --> 01:18:11,560
Speaker 1: I released a short story about a month ago, and

1546
01:18:11,680 --> 01:18:14,720
Speaker 1: I got amazing reviews from readers. The story included a

1547
01:18:14,800 --> 01:18:17,479
Speaker 1: very detailed sex scene that was loosely based on an

1548
01:18:17,560 --> 01:18:20,679
Speaker 1: experience I had. When my parents got wind of the story,

1549
01:18:20,840 --> 01:18:23,880
Speaker 1: they read it and immediately made me feel awful. I

1550
01:18:24,040 --> 01:18:26,320
Speaker 1: know that this is my lane, this is my purpose.

1551
01:18:26,560 --> 01:18:27,960
Speaker 1: I want to be able to do this in a

1552
01:18:28,040 --> 01:18:31,160
Speaker 1: way that doesn't compromise my family's integrity, but I also

1553
01:18:31,280 --> 01:18:33,679
Speaker 1: want to stay true to myself. How did you, guys,

1554
01:18:33,760 --> 01:18:35,960
Speaker 1: resonate with the fact that the content you put out

1555
01:18:36,000 --> 01:18:38,240
Speaker 1: could disappoint the ones that you love the most, the

1556
01:18:38,360 --> 01:18:45,560
Speaker 1: ones that you have the utmost respect for. Well, Honestly,

1557
01:18:46,000 --> 01:18:49,439
Speaker 1: when first started doing Poor Minds, I didn't even tell

1558
01:18:49,479 --> 01:18:51,720
Speaker 1: I would never even tell my family the name of

1559
01:18:51,760 --> 01:18:53,240
Speaker 1: the show when they would ask me what it was,

1560
01:18:53,320 --> 01:18:56,799
Speaker 1: because at first I did feel like the subject matters

1561
01:18:56,880 --> 01:18:59,559
Speaker 1: sometimes is a little crazy. We talk about some wild

1562
01:18:59,640 --> 01:19:01,160
Speaker 1: shit and I don't really know if I be wanting

1563
01:19:01,240 --> 01:19:03,880
Speaker 1: my family to see me in that like, so I

1564
01:19:03,920 --> 01:19:06,680
Speaker 1: didn't used to tell them, but now it is what

1565
01:19:06,800 --> 01:19:09,920
Speaker 1: it is. I'm grown so and this is my life.

1566
01:19:10,120 --> 01:19:12,320
Speaker 1: This is my life, this is my decision to do

1567
01:19:12,479 --> 01:19:15,719
Speaker 1: this show, and it's pretty damn successful. So I'm proud

1568
01:19:15,760 --> 01:19:18,320
Speaker 1: of it. And I'm not ashamed of what I talk

1569
01:19:18,360 --> 01:19:20,120
Speaker 1: about on the show anymore. I'm not ashamed of the

1570
01:19:20,160 --> 01:19:21,800
Speaker 1: woman that I am. I just feel like you have

1571
01:19:21,920 --> 01:19:24,920
Speaker 1: to grow into being yourself and be confident in who

1572
01:19:24,960 --> 01:19:26,680
Speaker 1: you are. I tell one of my friends this all

1573
01:19:26,720 --> 01:19:28,960
Speaker 1: the time, because she actually is a person who is

1574
01:19:29,040 --> 01:19:31,639
Speaker 1: kind of obsessed with what her family thinks to her,

1575
01:19:32,160 --> 01:19:36,160
Speaker 1: and because of it, she usually is never happy. You

1576
01:19:36,360 --> 01:19:39,479
Speaker 1: just gotta do you, Honestly, that's the best advice I

1577
01:19:39,520 --> 01:19:39,840
Speaker 1: can give.

1578
01:19:39,840 --> 01:19:39,880
Speaker 3: You.

1579
01:19:40,000 --> 01:19:40,200
Speaker 2: Do you.

1580
01:19:40,479 --> 01:19:42,840
Speaker 1: I mean if your family, the family members that's gonna

1581
01:19:42,880 --> 01:19:44,479
Speaker 1: support it and fuck with it, they're gonna support it

1582
01:19:44,520 --> 01:19:46,400
Speaker 1: and fuck with it. And the ones it's not, Oh

1583
01:19:46,479 --> 01:19:48,479
Speaker 1: well they fucking not. But they're not paying your buse,

1584
01:19:49,720 --> 01:19:52,840
Speaker 1: they're not putting food on your table. So yeah, I

1585
01:19:52,920 --> 01:19:55,760
Speaker 1: feel the same way. Like but also sometimes you have

1586
01:19:55,840 --> 01:19:58,320
Speaker 1: to prove people wrong. I feel like, yeah, whenever we

1587
01:19:58,400 --> 01:19:59,920
Speaker 1: started the show, my mom was just kind of like

1588
01:20:00,479 --> 01:20:02,439
Speaker 1: It's not that she wasn't supportive, she was just kind

1589
01:20:02,439 --> 01:20:04,400
Speaker 1: of like, what are you doing? Like you're talking about

1590
01:20:04,479 --> 01:20:07,840
Speaker 1: sucking big and for what? You putting your business all

1591
01:20:07,920 --> 01:20:10,320
Speaker 1: out there for what? Like she was just like, bitch,

1592
01:20:10,560 --> 01:20:13,720
Speaker 1: wow cool, but why, Like this is not. So it

1593
01:20:13,800 --> 01:20:15,320
Speaker 1: got to a point where it was like, Okay, let

1594
01:20:15,360 --> 01:20:18,000
Speaker 1: me show you. Let me show you why. So sometimes

1595
01:20:18,479 --> 01:20:20,160
Speaker 1: you have to just stay focused and keep doing what

1596
01:20:20,160 --> 01:20:22,040
Speaker 1: you're doing. Because, baby, let me tell you something. Once

1597
01:20:22,080 --> 01:20:24,280
Speaker 1: you signed that publishing deal and you got a million

1598
01:20:24,280 --> 01:20:26,479
Speaker 1: dollar check coming in, best believe your daddy gonna be

1599
01:20:26,520 --> 01:20:28,559
Speaker 1: the first one like baby, I raised you love donate

1600
01:20:28,600 --> 01:20:30,680
Speaker 1: to the church. He gonna want to donation. Why you

1601
01:20:30,720 --> 01:20:35,280
Speaker 1: know what I'm saying. And Valley, so you know we

1602
01:20:35,400 --> 01:20:37,400
Speaker 1: need that team. But you know what I'm saying, So

1603
01:20:37,720 --> 01:20:39,080
Speaker 1: you just have to stay on the path. And I'm

1604
01:20:39,120 --> 01:20:40,920
Speaker 1: not saying that your parents are like that, but sometimes

1605
01:20:41,000 --> 01:20:43,240
Speaker 1: people just if they're not seeing any results from it,

1606
01:20:43,320 --> 01:20:46,120
Speaker 1: they don't really necessarily believe in it. So staying your purpose,

1607
01:20:46,160 --> 01:20:47,679
Speaker 1: stay in your path, and you have to stay focused

1608
01:20:47,720 --> 01:20:49,960
Speaker 1: because a lot of times, and not just my mom,

1609
01:20:50,120 --> 01:20:52,679
Speaker 1: a lot of people were like, why is she talking

1610
01:20:52,880 --> 01:20:55,000
Speaker 1: like that? And why is she doing this? But I

1611
01:20:55,120 --> 01:20:57,840
Speaker 1: always knew I was supposed to entertain people. I'm SUSI

1612
01:20:57,840 --> 01:20:59,760
Speaker 1: to make people laugh, I'm to make people feel good.

1613
01:21:00,160 --> 01:21:02,800
Speaker 1: But until like I was able to do this and

1614
01:21:02,880 --> 01:21:06,000
Speaker 1: support myself, that's when people was like, Okay, I get

1615
01:21:06,080 --> 01:21:08,559
Speaker 1: it now I agree. So you you see the vision,

1616
01:21:09,120 --> 01:21:11,439
Speaker 1: but that's what it is about being a creative and

1617
01:21:11,560 --> 01:21:14,000
Speaker 1: being an entrepreneur and being a CEO and being a

1618
01:21:14,080 --> 01:21:16,880
Speaker 1: business owner. You see the vision, but everybody not gonna

1619
01:21:16,880 --> 01:21:19,240
Speaker 1: see the vision because God only gave it to you exactly,

1620
01:21:19,360 --> 01:21:21,360
Speaker 1: so you don't see stuff that other people don't see.

1621
01:21:21,439 --> 01:21:23,400
Speaker 1: So just keep grinding and keep pushing it. You just

1622
01:21:23,439 --> 01:21:25,680
Speaker 1: can't give a foot. I just wanted to tell her,

1623
01:21:25,960 --> 01:21:30,240
Speaker 1: like a ghost name if she's like wants to save

1624
01:21:30,280 --> 01:21:34,240
Speaker 1: her family name right under a ghost Oh yeah, strategist

1625
01:21:34,360 --> 01:21:39,000
Speaker 1: and that's a vain that's no, I know this. No,

1626
01:21:39,080 --> 01:21:41,920
Speaker 1: that's not her real name. Oh yeah, she wrote all

1627
01:21:41,960 --> 01:21:44,000
Speaker 1: those books under ago. I mean you at this point

1628
01:21:44,160 --> 01:21:47,880
Speaker 1: we know what her name is at first? Like, no,

1629
01:21:48,000 --> 01:21:51,000
Speaker 1: I feel like nobody. Oh so that's a good idea too.

1630
01:21:51,120 --> 01:21:53,360
Speaker 1: You know, you use a ghost name because you know

1631
01:21:53,400 --> 01:21:54,880
Speaker 1: we want de bush it like that because I was, like,

1632
01:21:54,920 --> 01:21:58,800
Speaker 1: my name is let be born in North Texas. Well,

1633
01:21:59,040 --> 01:22:05,160
Speaker 1: we couldn't really do that, says and our voices don't

1634
01:22:05,240 --> 01:22:09,800
Speaker 1: help that now, okay, so question for it, says, Hey, y'all,

1635
01:22:10,000 --> 01:22:12,320
Speaker 1: I love the shows. I'm twenty four years old and

1636
01:22:12,360 --> 01:22:15,240
Speaker 1: I'm currently dating a guy who's fifty years older than me.

1637
01:22:15,320 --> 01:22:18,920
Speaker 1: Oh yes, we're fifty years fifty years Oh my bad,

1638
01:22:19,080 --> 01:22:24,519
Speaker 1: so about the same. He's courtry. We've been dating for

1639
01:22:24,640 --> 01:22:27,360
Speaker 1: four years now. When I was twenty, I fell in

1640
01:22:27,439 --> 01:22:29,200
Speaker 1: love with what he could do for me. Now he

1641
01:22:29,280 --> 01:22:32,240
Speaker 1: wants to take the relationship further, like marriage, and my

1642
01:22:32,360 --> 01:22:34,840
Speaker 1: selfish for not wanting to marry him. I feel like

1643
01:22:34,920 --> 01:22:37,040
Speaker 1: he's settled in his season of time and I'm just

1644
01:22:37,160 --> 01:22:40,639
Speaker 1: now starting my life. Girl, he's very You're twenty four,

1645
01:22:40,720 --> 01:22:43,719
Speaker 1: he's fifty. He's fifty years older than you. He's seventy.

1646
01:22:43,800 --> 01:22:47,040
Speaker 1: For a marry that man. He about to die. Get

1647
01:22:47,240 --> 01:22:50,000
Speaker 1: in the wind on that policy. The trust. Girl's on

1648
01:22:50,080 --> 01:22:52,519
Speaker 1: the trime. By the time he died, you'll probably be

1649
01:22:52,640 --> 01:22:54,720
Speaker 1: like twenty eight, twenty nine, thirty, And then you got

1650
01:22:54,760 --> 01:22:58,360
Speaker 1: all this money and now you can nine. You'll marry

1651
01:22:58,400 --> 01:23:00,760
Speaker 1: that man. I would marry him. I would. I'm not

1652
01:23:00,840 --> 01:23:03,560
Speaker 1: gonna lie. That's what I feel like. Just do what

1653
01:23:03,680 --> 01:23:05,920
Speaker 1: you do when you're young. Have fun, girl, marry that

1654
01:23:06,000 --> 01:23:07,800
Speaker 1: man and get that man. Just make sure you're in

1655
01:23:08,160 --> 01:23:11,920
Speaker 1: the trust, the trust, the trust, because it cannot be

1656
01:23:12,680 --> 01:23:15,240
Speaker 1: I feel like do it. This might be some bad advice,

1657
01:23:16,320 --> 01:23:19,360
Speaker 1: but I feel like old bitch. Will he go to sleep? Girl,

1658
01:23:19,400 --> 01:23:23,720
Speaker 1: Go do what you do. He's not gonna know about

1659
01:23:23,760 --> 01:23:27,040
Speaker 1: to get up. Look him down with some being gay,

1660
01:23:27,080 --> 01:23:29,400
Speaker 1: He'll be all right. Now you put that melatonin spray

1661
01:23:29,400 --> 01:23:33,200
Speaker 1: on his pillow. It's over. It's lack of light. It's

1662
01:23:33,320 --> 01:23:36,479
Speaker 1: over lack of light. Put a little that she needs

1663
01:23:36,560 --> 01:23:38,880
Speaker 1: food to break up the capsule. Not us talking about

1664
01:23:39,479 --> 01:23:40,880
Speaker 1: we are not gonna do this. This is what we're

1665
01:23:40,920 --> 01:23:43,920
Speaker 1: not gonna do. I love that man and take care

1666
01:23:43,960 --> 01:23:48,240
Speaker 1: of him. Listen. Okay, that's all we have to say,

1667
01:23:48,240 --> 01:23:54,080
Speaker 1: because very rich, exactly, and I hope he has to. No,

1668
01:23:54,200 --> 01:23:59,120
Speaker 1: I don't said that's implied. Yeah, well she said because

1669
01:23:59,160 --> 01:24:01,280
Speaker 1: of what he does for her. So okay, if he's

1670
01:24:01,400 --> 01:24:04,080
Speaker 1: doing a lot, and I'm talking about houses and cars

1671
01:24:04,120 --> 01:24:06,040
Speaker 1: a lot, because seventy four is a lot, and the

1672
01:24:06,080 --> 01:24:08,439
Speaker 1: girl's been doing it for years the girls of other races,

1673
01:24:08,880 --> 01:24:11,880
Speaker 1: I don't see anything wrong. And the blueprint for it

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01:24:12,000 --> 01:24:12,559
Speaker 1: she did.

1675
01:24:14,280 --> 01:24:14,519
Speaker 2: For it.

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01:24:15,120 --> 01:24:18,280
Speaker 1: Hello, you' all ready for this song? I'm ready, but

1677
01:24:18,320 --> 01:24:20,280
Speaker 1: I forgot what song it is. Oh, let me send it.

1678
01:24:20,640 --> 01:24:22,840
Speaker 1: You see me the lyrics, let me move it. I

1679
01:24:23,120 --> 01:24:26,400
Speaker 1: am so excited because you so excited, first of all,

1680
01:24:26,520 --> 01:24:29,000
Speaker 1: because this is my girl. Let me send it. I'll

1681
01:24:29,000 --> 01:24:31,559
Speaker 1: send this about the y'all, okay, so we can all

1682
01:24:31,640 --> 01:24:35,880
Speaker 1: have the lyrics. Everybody got it, got out. I don't

1683
01:24:35,880 --> 01:24:39,600
Speaker 1: want to get back at it. Listen who you was

1684
01:24:39,600 --> 01:24:43,080
Speaker 1: singing the first words? Hold on, wait, I don't know,

1685
01:24:43,160 --> 01:24:44,680
Speaker 1: because this is a good one. We might have to

1686
01:24:44,720 --> 01:24:47,360
Speaker 1: sing this. I want to do to then. Okay, don't

1687
01:24:47,400 --> 01:24:51,680
Speaker 1: give it a right bitch. Okay, I can't really give

1688
01:24:51,760 --> 01:24:59,800
Speaker 1: my groom everybody. First of all, everybody go like this me, me, me, everybody. Okay,

1689
01:25:00,040 --> 01:25:04,400
Speaker 1: you try to be ready first part together five six seven, Hey,

1690
01:25:04,520 --> 01:25:08,760
Speaker 1: let's go. Let's get it crunk up bonny bonne and

1691
01:25:09,000 --> 01:25:12,759
Speaker 1: this dancer read we got y'all open, now your float

1692
01:25:12,920 --> 01:25:16,160
Speaker 1: and so it's gotta dance, slam me. Don't need no

1693
01:25:16,439 --> 01:25:20,479
Speaker 1: hate the ration hall a ration and this dancer read,

1694
01:25:20,640 --> 01:25:24,880
Speaker 1: let's get it perculating while you waiting, So just dance

1695
01:25:24,960 --> 01:25:29,759
Speaker 1: on me then I don't know, yeah, yeah that krawn.

1696
01:25:30,320 --> 01:25:32,600
Speaker 1: My memory is in the spot tonight and now my

1697
01:25:32,720 --> 01:25:37,120
Speaker 1: beg you feel you feel a just party with me.

1698
01:25:38,080 --> 01:25:42,680
Speaker 1: Let Lucid set your bid the free so when you

1699
01:25:42,760 --> 01:25:46,880
Speaker 1: step inside, jump on the floor. Let's get it crunk

1700
01:25:47,000 --> 01:25:50,800
Speaker 1: up bone, fun of bone and down there read we

1701
01:25:51,040 --> 01:25:55,000
Speaker 1: got our open now your floating, So it's gotta dance

1702
01:25:55,080 --> 01:25:59,280
Speaker 1: for me. Don't need no hate. Ration haha, ration and

1703
01:25:59,439 --> 01:26:10,120
Speaker 1: this that while you waited, So just about time loosen

1704
01:26:10,200 --> 01:26:12,920
Speaker 1: some p and copy you ag and go head and

1705
01:26:13,040 --> 01:26:15,920
Speaker 1: rocket ice because we celebrate no more drama in all

1706
01:26:16,000 --> 01:26:20,840
Speaker 1: lie with the DJ. Okay, all right, I'm we don't

1707
01:26:21,000 --> 01:26:26,760
Speaker 1: really no hate up. We just trying to love one

1708
01:26:26,920 --> 01:26:32,880
Speaker 1: another watch out and have a good time. No more drama.

1709
01:26:33,200 --> 01:26:37,120
Speaker 1: And I'm like, hard to make a dom you did?

1710
01:26:37,200 --> 01:26:41,800
Speaker 1: I see your problem, not mine, even the being we

1711
01:26:42,080 --> 01:26:46,360
Speaker 1: gonna celebrate all night. Let's have on sunight and no fight.

1712
01:26:46,840 --> 01:26:52,160
Speaker 1: Turn that drain track way up all night. I thought

1713
01:26:52,200 --> 01:26:57,120
Speaker 1: you was gonna do the but she'd be like, oh yeah,

1714
01:26:57,280 --> 01:27:00,519
Speaker 1: I was too early. I was too early. But let

1715
01:27:00,600 --> 01:27:07,160
Speaker 1: me just say had the boss lord, no boot. It

1716
01:27:07,280 --> 01:27:11,479
Speaker 1: was the dancing. Can you imagine holeration in this dancer? Like,

1717
01:27:11,880 --> 01:27:16,559
Speaker 1: let's get it drunk drunk was using the word crunk.

1718
01:27:16,680 --> 01:27:19,040
Speaker 1: It was a wild time. I still use the word crunk.

1719
01:27:19,800 --> 01:27:24,080
Speaker 1: All right. There another episode afore minds you know y'

1720
01:27:25,520 --> 01:27:31,719
Speaker 1: she was crump like this episode was crump. Okay, remember

1721
01:27:32,400 --> 01:27:37,719
Speaker 1: followed John, So this episode wasn't It was a little crunk.

1722
01:27:37,840 --> 01:27:46,640
Speaker 1: You know we did. But thank you so much us

1723
01:27:46,680 --> 01:27:49,400
Speaker 1: on the shows. Go ahead and let them know where

1724
01:27:49,400 --> 01:27:52,760
Speaker 1: they can find you. Yes, yes, yes, so I am

1725
01:27:52,960 --> 01:27:57,360
Speaker 1: on all platforms. You glob girl official, the letter, you

1726
01:27:57,960 --> 01:28:01,479
Speaker 1: glow Girl Official. We do have a class coming up.

1727
01:28:01,640 --> 01:28:04,439
Speaker 1: It's called Quality Control. It's dropping in February, so make

1728
01:28:04,479 --> 01:28:08,280
Speaker 1: sure you do that. Get your tickets. Okay, I like

1729
01:28:08,400 --> 01:28:10,439
Speaker 1: that I like that, Okay, thank you, so, and you

1730
01:28:10,760 --> 01:28:13,000
Speaker 1: do you offer like one on one classes for the girls.

1731
01:28:13,080 --> 01:28:14,640
Speaker 1: So I don't offer one on one, but I have

1732
01:28:14,800 --> 01:28:17,320
Speaker 1: a membership that's starting on the twenty fifth January, and

1733
01:28:17,439 --> 01:28:19,400
Speaker 1: it's gonna be type. It's gonna be like a group

1734
01:28:19,479 --> 01:28:21,680
Speaker 1: coaching setting, okay, so they can get the same, just

1735
01:28:21,760 --> 01:28:23,519
Speaker 1: not me one on one because my time is too values.

1736
01:28:23,600 --> 01:28:25,439
Speaker 1: I know that's right. So we're gonna put all her

1737
01:28:25,520 --> 01:28:28,040
Speaker 1: info in the by YOA so y'all can find her.

1738
01:28:28,120 --> 01:28:30,160
Speaker 1: Y'all need some classes, y'all need all the help. I

1739
01:28:30,240 --> 01:28:32,040
Speaker 1: know y'all need help because I need because we need it.

1740
01:28:32,040 --> 01:28:34,960
Speaker 1: I'm about to join the class. I'm gonna see y'all enough.

1741
01:28:35,160 --> 01:28:38,840
Speaker 1: I'll see look, we'll see y'all there. Thank y'all so

1742
01:28:38,960 --> 01:28:41,040
Speaker 1: much for tuning in, and we'll see y'all next week.

1743
01:28:41,240 --> 01:28:41,720
Speaker 1: By y'all,