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Speaker 1: Hey, y'all, Welcome back to Tribe July. Today, we are

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Speaker 1: joined by the lovely ladies of Black Girls Texting, and

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Speaker 1: you can expect to hear us talking about the different

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Speaker 1: types of friendship styles, how us women are way more

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Speaker 1: willing to foster relationships and resolve conflicts with our romantic

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Speaker 1: partners before our friends, the importance of showing love and

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Speaker 1: affection in our friendships, and how to have healthy conversations

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Speaker 1: with our friends when we're hurt, and how our parents'

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Speaker 1: disciplinary styles may have influenced our ability to deal with conflict,

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Speaker 1: and so much more. Stay tuned and enjoy.

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Speaker 2: Welcome back to Good Mom's Bad Choice. I'm Erica and.

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Speaker 1: I'm Mela, and it's wednesdayby Hola, Happy Wednesday.

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Speaker 3: Happy Wednesday from New York City.

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Speaker 2: New York City is kicking my motherfucking ass today.

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Speaker 1: First of all, we're jet setters. Last week we're in

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Speaker 1: Costa Rica. This week we're in New York.

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Speaker 2: It's okay, but also New York is kicking my ask today.

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Speaker 2: I'm fucking hot as shit here. And I thought the

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Speaker 2: valley was hot. I thought the Costa Rican jungle was

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Speaker 2: hot and seem me but and I know nigause in

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Speaker 2: New York, be like complaining about the heat and I'd.

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Speaker 3: Be like, oh, like relax, today I felt it.

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Speaker 2: I feel weak. I like barely made it up the stairs.

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Speaker 2: I'm kind of shaking, like I actually feel like a

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Speaker 2: little jittery, like I did coke or something like.

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Speaker 3: I don't know what's wrong.

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Speaker 4: But you know what it is.

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Speaker 1: It's it's heat plus subway plus backpack plus slow ash children.

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Speaker 1: Like It's like, if I'm want to be intended to

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Speaker 1: do public transportation, I have to be free and need

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Speaker 1: to be wearing only booty shorts and cow girl boots.

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Speaker 4: But I can't.

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Speaker 2: And we went to lunch with Jade from Getting Grown

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Speaker 2: podcast before this, and we were like, let's take the train,

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Speaker 2: and she was like acting like she was cool with it,

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Speaker 2: and then the low key she was like, bitch, I

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Speaker 2: haven't taken the train in five years. And I was

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Speaker 2: like really, She's like no, but I'll do this for you,

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Speaker 2: and I was.

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Speaker 3: Like it's fine.

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Speaker 2: And the moment we got off the train and we

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Speaker 2: hit that heat and just all of it, I was like,

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Speaker 2: I'm never taking the train again.

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Speaker 4: It's not for me.

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Speaker 2: By the way, I just meant to tell you we're

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Speaker 2: taking an uber home.

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Speaker 3: No fucking shit, bitch, I'm glad we're on.

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Speaker 1: Oh shit, I'm hot and you would think I'm skinny

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Speaker 1: and like in shape, but I'm not. Like three sets

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Speaker 1: of steps and it's a done deal. I'm wheezing. I'm unhappy.

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Speaker 1: I'm pissed.

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Speaker 3: But anyway, we're here. We love New York. So many questions.

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Speaker 1: Not only are you in New York, but we're joined

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Speaker 1: by our friends from Black Girl texting finally inhuman Yay.

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Speaker 3: We met you all in COVID and I know aparly

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Speaker 3: we meant walked in. I was like, hey, bitch, I

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Speaker 3: know what it did.

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Speaker 2: And now for real, it's so interesting how Covid did that,

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Speaker 2: like you connect with so many people, and because now

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Speaker 2: I'm starting to meet even Jade, like this is the

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Speaker 2: first time I met her too, and I was like,

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Speaker 2: I feel like I know you, bitch, Like we done

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Speaker 2: haven't we done did this before? Right, like even this

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Speaker 2: sitting down with you guys. So thank you guys so

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Speaker 2: much for coming back on this ship. How small you

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Speaker 2: are and I was like, everyone's always surprised by Jamila's size.

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Speaker 1: Everyone's like, oh my god, you're so small, and I'm like,

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Speaker 4: I feel tall and sick.

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Speaker 2: But someone wanted to wait, we're at this party. First

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Speaker 2: to you and they were like, are you from good

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Speaker 2: Mom's Bad Chorts. They're like, oh my god, Jamila, I

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Speaker 2: just want to put you on.

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Speaker 3: My back and carry you. Like like you should have

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Speaker 3: made her, you should have.

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Speaker 5: Told her she did it. She was like please, didn't wait,

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Speaker 5: She's like, please leading with you? Please, can I pick

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Speaker 5: you up? We're at like a dinner party. It wasn't

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Speaker 5: like a crazy party.

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Speaker 2: It wasn't the part they made single Mom's dinner evenge Wait.

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Speaker 1: She picked me up, and then after she was like,

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Speaker 1: I just have this thing about with like dwarves.

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Speaker 3: And minutes shut up. She's like I know you're She's like,

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Speaker 3: I know.

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Speaker 4: You're not one.

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Speaker 2: You're not one, but like I always put them on

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Speaker 4: I'm happy that's small you guys.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I wouldn't say dwarf or miss.

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Speaker 1: We don't have long legs in the long neck, so

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Speaker 1: I appear much taller than I am, and my personality

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Speaker 4: Wait, was this your first time riding the subway?

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Speaker 3: No?

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Speaker 4: No, I mean every time I do it, I'm like,

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Speaker 4: I don't, I don't.

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Speaker 3: This is not for you, you know what.

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Speaker 4: I'm trying to be sex in the city.

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Speaker 2: I actually have lived in New York a few times,

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Speaker 2: but I don't, you know, I'll be forgetting. And that's

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Speaker 2: because I was like, damn as cold as fuck here,

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Speaker 2: Like why the fuck did I move back here? But

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Speaker 2: now it's different too, because I have a child and

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Speaker 2: I'm doing navigating the subway, Whereas I feel like when

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Speaker 3: I'm in and out with her.

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Speaker 2: I'm like, come on, she's swinging around the goddamn pole.

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Speaker 1: I have out pull at my house. So the girls

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Speaker 1: are like, come on. As soon as as the train

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Speaker 1: looking at us.

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Speaker 2: I'm yelling, Jamila is calm. I'm just like, what the fuck?

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Speaker 6: No, did you see any like the train performers like show, yeah.

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Speaker 1: You get cursed out. I saw somebody got cursed out,

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Speaker 3: Talking about it for days.

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Speaker 4: I'm like, welcome to New York.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, excitement.

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Speaker 6: We're native New Yorkers and you guys are native l layers, layers.

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Speaker 3: Where are you all from? I'm from Brooklyn, Brooklyn.

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Speaker 2: Well, first of all, let's introduce you guys. Okay, yeah, okay.

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Speaker 2: We have black girls texting here. We have Chelsea and

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Speaker 2: shotgg Gwendolyn isn't joining us today because the bitch is late.

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Speaker 7: It's not she got when when when it's Lenen and

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Speaker 5: Okay, Glenn, the bitch. I hear she's working, but like

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Speaker 5: she'd be playing Glynn, how you gonna be playing on

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Speaker 5: the playing Okay, because here's my point, Like she takes

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Speaker 3: Oh my god, we have a friend like that. I

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Speaker 5: Though my laptop is right here, like if someone needs me,

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Speaker 5: not she takes her jackey into the area.

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Speaker 3: It's like it's not life. She's clocked it even though

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Speaker 5: But like, but I would have been, like she could

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Speaker 5: so i'm'll be remote because the niggas don't need you

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Speaker 3: Fuck are you doing so.

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Speaker 1: Basically saying lie to your job and then go on

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Speaker 1: camera and post it correct.

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Speaker 3: And they don't know when about not quite often I do.

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Speaker 3: They don't know.

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Speaker 2: They don't know, they don't know when it was, the

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Speaker 2: hour of the day, morning, night.

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Speaker 4: It could have been like an old.

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Speaker 3: A later gram or you know, fuck that job. You

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Speaker 3: don't know what job I'm even referring to.

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Speaker 4: I got many.

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Speaker 3: I wasn't talking about you. I'm talking about my side job.

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Speaker 1: You know, I sell jeans on the internet picks.

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Speaker 2: So you guys are New York natives. And how did

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Speaker 2: you guys meet and how did you guys become friends?

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Speaker 6: We met in high school through my first boyfriend, who

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Speaker 6: thinks he took my virginity.

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Speaker 3: But he didn't. I love that.

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Speaker 2: Now into the story he thinks he took your virginity.

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Speaker 2: Oh wait, so y'all go all the way back. Yes, okay,

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Speaker 2: because this month we're really focusing on tribe and community

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Speaker 2: and like talking about friendship.

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Speaker 3: It's what are you calling it? July?

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Speaker 4: Tribe tribe July?

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Speaker 1: Because it takes a village a mom, I mean to

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Speaker 1: raise a children, to raise a children, Aline, I'm gonna

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Speaker 1: be real. We just smoked weed and then we got

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Speaker 2: It takes a village to raise a woman, a mother,

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Speaker 2: a child, all of it together. It's not just motherhood.

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Speaker 2: It's like, you know, friendship, And I think I think

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Speaker 2: you guys know that too. You guys have a you know,

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Speaker 3: Did that holds you down?

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Speaker 2: And I just like, I think this month highlighting that

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Speaker 2: it's harder to make friends, and especially when you become

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Speaker 3: It's a whole other shit.

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Speaker 1: But we recently discovered we didn't realize it was a thing,

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Speaker 1: but one of our people were like, I love your

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Speaker 1: platonic friendship, your platonic love. I'm like, what do you mean,

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Speaker 1: Like we love each other, We're not fucking And she's like,

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Speaker 4: Thing, but like we do. We're co parents.

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Speaker 1: We we live, our kids are in camp together, we

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Speaker 1: vacation together, we work together. We love each other. We

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Speaker 1: consult with each other. If you checked the bank account,

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Speaker 1: I'm gonna tell you how much is in there because

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Speaker 1: we need to know.

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Speaker 3: I'm like, I don't want to know.

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Speaker 5: She's like, you're gonna know, Wendy, did you guys meet?

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Speaker 5: Was this later in life?

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Speaker 3: Five years ago? So we're new? No way? I love that.

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Speaker 6: I well, I'm like, it's funny that you said like

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Speaker 6: it takes a village with friends, because I feel like

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Speaker 6: I'm gonna be the first one to have a baby.

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Speaker 3: Probably yes. And then like is it weird?

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Speaker 4: I mean yes, which don't say, like, oh days that

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Speaker 4: birth control of bitch, she's not on birth control, which

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Speaker 4: is are you just risky over here?

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Speaker 3: Pull risk your whole life? But like was it weird?

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Speaker 4: Like were you like the first ones out of your

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Speaker 4: friendship friends to have kids?

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Speaker 2: Oh? Yeah, I mean I mean that's really I think

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Speaker 2: even that's why we have the podcast because we didn't

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Speaker 2: prior really to the podcast, like Jamila was really my

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Speaker 1: So we became friends because nobody else had a kid

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Speaker 1: in our friend group. In fact, we met because we

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Speaker 6: What's one of my friends is like dead ass serious?

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Speaker 2: I need to be the center of attention. Bitch, you

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Speaker 1: You got to really, really, really really think about that

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Speaker 4: And bitch, no it's not. You need to rethink.

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Speaker 3: Because do I have a story for y'all. Yes, you guys.

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Speaker 5: If you guys get motherfucking Oh, I can't wait tell

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Speaker 6: When are you, like, I don't know, this is a

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Speaker 3: Are you even ever ready for kid?

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Speaker 6: Never, because I feel like I'm getting that it it

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Speaker 2: I will say that you there is a maternal thing

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Speaker 2: You're life.

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Speaker 1: I think it's so cute and like happy and look

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Speaker 5: it's like baby, you know what's coming. No, she knows

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Speaker 3: But why, Chelsea, what's your son again? I'm a Capricorn.

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Speaker 4: I got three bitches friends just like you, Capricorn.

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Speaker 5: You guys get engaged and then you get married, let's

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Speaker 5: You don't want to have like marital bliss. No, I

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Speaker 3: Then no, it's some other way, girl.

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Speaker 4: I know. I just so you're gonna have one and

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Speaker 2: Listen, Babies are babies, are children are a blessing for sure.

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Speaker 2: I think me and Jamila just have PTSD post traumatic

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Speaker 2: It's changed. Our relationship has changed. Those people we don't

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Speaker 2: And we've just outgrown one another. And you know, when

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Speaker 2: you in your mind set up your life, I'm going

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Speaker 2: I think the undoing of that idea has been very painful,

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Speaker 3: I wouldn't change it for the.

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Speaker 2: say is just like I think, be careful, but also

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Speaker 3: It's the most beautiful. It is soiful. Are you anti

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Speaker 5: I am, but I'm also a fertile ass bitch. But

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Speaker 5: I don't think I'm not fertile. There's no way.

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Speaker 2: But it is the most beautiful experience. I highly recommend it.

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Speaker 4: Motherhood for but there's still no preparation for it.

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Speaker 3: No, can we just have a talk about this.

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Speaker 5: So you maybe fucking someone consistently and you're always using

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Speaker 1: You know they pull out method, Come on, that does

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Speaker 1: not work. But it doesn't not all the time. Look

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Speaker 3: I wasn't pulling out. I don't. I don't advocate for

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Speaker 5: No, no, no, this is not this message.

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Speaker 3: But I am not a medical doctor.

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Speaker 4: I don't know what the.

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Speaker 2: Pull up method works for some reason. Not shoot up

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Speaker 3: It depends.

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Speaker 1: Okay, women, bitches be thinking the like the tea is

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Speaker 4: But I have news for you, bitches.

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Speaker 1: These niggas be trying to jam a bitch up right,

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Speaker 1: you'd be all confused because the dick is good, and

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Speaker 1: you're like, okay, did you hear what Nick Cannon said?

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Speaker 6: and he was like, I'm having these babies on purpose.

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Speaker 3: How do you feel about that? Having a punty Well.

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Speaker 3: Was he on some hotep shit.

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Speaker 4: The way he said it, I stopped watching.

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Speaker 6: But I think his idea is like he's like stable,

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Speaker 2: I don't give a fuck if you pay for all

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Speaker 2: in some way, not get all of you, not know

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Speaker 2: And being in Costa Rica and seeing the community around her,

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Speaker 5: And like they really leaned into him as like a

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Speaker 5: So I really want to go the Courtney Kardashian room

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Speaker 6: That no no, no, no, no no no, not just so

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Speaker 4: It seems like Scott is doing He's not a great

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Speaker 5: He's not a great person, but he's like a leanden

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Speaker 4: It's different.

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Speaker 2: Correct, Like little girls when they look at their dads

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Speaker 3: Affects them too. I mean it's it's you can show up.

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Speaker 2: There's so many there's so many layers to parenthood and motherhood,

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Speaker 2: intentional if you're gonna do it, if you're gonna choose

440
00:18:55,520 --> 00:18:56,200
Speaker 2: to do it, you.

441
00:18:56,160 --> 00:19:00,399
Speaker 4: Know, and intentional doesn't necessarily mean like, oh, you know, I.

442
00:19:00,440 --> 00:19:02,520
Speaker 1: Had a baby with him already, I'm gonna do this.

443
00:19:02,680 --> 00:19:04,520
Speaker 1: I'm pregnant again by him, I'll just do it again.

444
00:19:04,680 --> 00:19:07,280
Speaker 1: Like it doesn't always look like that, Like if for

445
00:19:07,359 --> 00:19:09,240
Speaker 1: you your family, it looks different, you know what I mean,

446
00:19:09,280 --> 00:19:12,520
Speaker 1: maybe not perfect, but different. And just because like for us,

447
00:19:12,600 --> 00:19:14,840
Speaker 1: we have babies with someone that didn't work out with

448
00:19:14,960 --> 00:19:17,400
Speaker 1: and if we do decide to have other kids, it's

449
00:19:17,440 --> 00:19:19,359
Speaker 1: not gonna be with that nigga, it's because it didn't

450
00:19:19,400 --> 00:19:19,800
Speaker 1: work out.

451
00:19:19,840 --> 00:19:21,280
Speaker 4: And that's okay too, And like.

452
00:19:21,440 --> 00:19:25,320
Speaker 1: Maybe this next stepdad will have you know, some fathering

453
00:19:25,359 --> 00:19:27,280
Speaker 1: that has to do in this child's life. And I

454
00:19:27,320 --> 00:19:29,400
Speaker 1: expect that and maybe they'll have a kid and I'll

455
00:19:29,400 --> 00:19:32,600
Speaker 1: mother that. Like I think this idea that you know

456
00:19:32,600 --> 00:19:35,199
Speaker 1: who's your the mother and father figure are just like

457
00:19:35,280 --> 00:19:37,320
Speaker 1: so standard, like you get married, then you have a baby,

458
00:19:37,320 --> 00:19:39,800
Speaker 1: and then this is perfect. Like it rarely happens that way,

459
00:19:40,000 --> 00:19:41,920
Speaker 1: and I think as women we have to be open

460
00:19:42,000 --> 00:19:44,439
Speaker 1: to it, like maybe looking differently, or maybe it's just

461
00:19:44,520 --> 00:19:48,920
Speaker 1: like you platonically parent with your friend, but your babies

462
00:19:48,960 --> 00:19:51,720
Speaker 1: are cared for, you know, and like maybe you're the

463
00:19:51,800 --> 00:19:55,040
Speaker 1: uncle or your friend that's a guy comes through and

464
00:19:55,119 --> 00:19:57,760
Speaker 1: as the male figure. So it's just more about like

465
00:19:58,280 --> 00:20:01,160
Speaker 1: it's not necessarily like this checklist of meet and nick,

466
00:20:01,160 --> 00:20:04,000
Speaker 1: get fall in love, get married, have a baby, happily

467
00:20:04,040 --> 00:20:06,840
Speaker 1: ever after, you know, like sometimes that shit looks different

468
00:20:06,840 --> 00:20:09,080
Speaker 1: and there's other people that have to contribute to that

469
00:20:09,200 --> 00:20:11,240
Speaker 1: village and people pick up or other people left off,

470
00:20:11,240 --> 00:20:13,840
Speaker 1: and like, obviously our goal is to fall in love

471
00:20:13,880 --> 00:20:16,879
Speaker 1: and maintain a family and a household, and it be

472
00:20:16,960 --> 00:20:19,280
Speaker 1: that way, but it's just not always that way.

473
00:20:19,480 --> 00:20:21,439
Speaker 2: Well do you think because you saw your parents, you've

474
00:20:21,480 --> 00:20:24,160
Speaker 2: obviously they've grown up with both your parents in the household,

475
00:20:24,200 --> 00:20:29,000
Speaker 2: Like does that make you feel like you because you're

476
00:20:29,000 --> 00:20:31,240
Speaker 2: not ready to have children, right, so you don't feel

477
00:20:31,280 --> 00:20:34,080
Speaker 2: pressed to do that, but you've had an example of

478
00:20:34,080 --> 00:20:35,720
Speaker 2: that in your own home. Is there is there a

479
00:20:35,760 --> 00:20:38,000
Speaker 2: reason why or is it just because you're like I

480
00:20:38,040 --> 00:20:40,320
Speaker 2: know that that's possible, and I'm a wait till it

481
00:20:40,359 --> 00:20:41,560
Speaker 2: feels all the way.

482
00:20:41,480 --> 00:20:43,120
Speaker 3: Right or yeah, until it feels right.

483
00:20:43,160 --> 00:20:45,880
Speaker 5: And I think because like I love my parents and

484
00:20:45,920 --> 00:20:49,160
Speaker 5: like they had uncle. Well, actually, technically my dad did

485
00:20:49,240 --> 00:20:51,840
Speaker 5: do it very conventionally, like he married this woman had

486
00:20:51,840 --> 00:20:52,720
Speaker 5: a kid at twenty two.

487
00:20:52,960 --> 00:20:53,720
Speaker 3: I think it's old.

488
00:20:53,840 --> 00:20:56,159
Speaker 5: So that was like normal back in the day, and

489
00:20:56,200 --> 00:20:58,080
Speaker 5: then it didn't work out and now he's with my mom.

490
00:20:58,119 --> 00:21:01,439
Speaker 5: But then when I see the dynamic with my mom

491
00:21:01,920 --> 00:21:04,960
Speaker 5: and like she tried with the two other men and

492
00:21:04,960 --> 00:21:06,840
Speaker 5: it didn't really work out, Like I'm always.

493
00:21:06,480 --> 00:21:08,000
Speaker 3: Like, oh my god, it's so awkward.

494
00:21:08,080 --> 00:21:10,760
Speaker 5: Like I know my sisters are like like they don't

495
00:21:10,760 --> 00:21:13,119
Speaker 5: have that dynamic, and so I guess my paranoia is

496
00:21:13,160 --> 00:21:17,040
Speaker 5: around like if I mix it up too much, I'm

497
00:21:17,040 --> 00:21:18,160
Speaker 5: playing Roulette.

498
00:21:21,600 --> 00:21:24,040
Speaker 4: Yeah, but who knows they're playing roulette either way.

499
00:21:24,080 --> 00:21:25,680
Speaker 3: Girl, Yeah, it's roulette the whole life.

500
00:21:26,080 --> 00:21:30,200
Speaker 5: Let life like one way of doing it, And I

501
00:21:30,200 --> 00:21:31,840
Speaker 5: guess that's what the tribe thing is about too, Like

502
00:21:31,880 --> 00:21:35,639
Speaker 5: you basically alluded to this like okay, fine, like maybe

503
00:21:35,640 --> 00:21:37,919
Speaker 5: baby daddy is like but then you might have like

504
00:21:38,160 --> 00:21:41,159
Speaker 5: uncle blah blah blah or godfather this or that or

505
00:21:41,200 --> 00:21:44,119
Speaker 5: other people that can kind of like help aid in

506
00:21:44,160 --> 00:21:45,359
Speaker 5: that for sure.

507
00:21:46,400 --> 00:21:51,920
Speaker 3: Wait, how old are you guys again? Twenty eight? Twenty five?

508
00:21:53,359 --> 00:21:55,760
Speaker 5: I'm like, are telling the truth? I'm just I'm looking

509
00:21:55,760 --> 00:21:57,160
Speaker 5: at at you. Are you going to tell the truth?

510
00:21:57,160 --> 00:21:58,320
Speaker 5: Are you gonna lie?

511
00:21:58,600 --> 00:21:59,879
Speaker 3: You can't lie? Why would you have?

512
00:21:59,840 --> 00:22:03,000
Speaker 6: As just like an inside joke. I've been saying I

513
00:22:03,080 --> 00:22:05,200
Speaker 6: was twenty five for a long time, like the past

514
00:22:05,200 --> 00:22:07,800
Speaker 6: three years. It's not really I'm trying.

515
00:22:08,000 --> 00:22:08,560
Speaker 3: Isn't mathing?

516
00:22:09,240 --> 00:22:12,920
Speaker 5: I am twenty eight, I'll be twenty nine very soon. Leo, Hey,

517
00:22:13,280 --> 00:22:13,879
Speaker 5: Leo gang.

518
00:22:14,359 --> 00:22:16,119
Speaker 2: Wait, so tell me before we got into all this,

519
00:22:16,200 --> 00:22:18,240
Speaker 2: I wanted to know how you guys met, oh, right,

520
00:22:18,600 --> 00:22:20,200
Speaker 2: even in high school and.

521
00:22:20,320 --> 00:22:21,359
Speaker 3: Met in high school.

522
00:22:21,560 --> 00:22:23,720
Speaker 6: She I was at boarding school, and she was like

523
00:22:24,080 --> 00:22:25,600
Speaker 6: a wild New York City.

524
00:22:25,720 --> 00:22:28,040
Speaker 3: You were boarding school? Yes, you look like you'd be

525
00:22:28,080 --> 00:22:30,040
Speaker 3: at boarding school. We look like boarding school.

526
00:22:30,080 --> 00:22:33,000
Speaker 2: You know. I just got a flash me too. People

527
00:22:33,000 --> 00:22:34,480
Speaker 2: would think I was at boarding school too.

528
00:22:34,800 --> 00:22:37,040
Speaker 1: But also the first time I recorded with this bitch

529
00:22:37,359 --> 00:22:38,240
Speaker 1: on zoom.

530
00:22:39,280 --> 00:22:41,240
Speaker 3: She shows up in sunglasses.

531
00:22:41,400 --> 00:22:42,600
Speaker 4: I'm like, you're in the house.

532
00:22:42,640 --> 00:22:45,399
Speaker 3: She rolled up to the zoom like he's like, susun.

533
00:22:45,520 --> 00:22:46,879
Speaker 4: She's like, she's like hey.

534
00:22:47,119 --> 00:22:48,480
Speaker 2: I was like, so, I was like, so, you're just

535
00:22:48,480 --> 00:22:50,200
Speaker 2: going to keep those sunn't hi?

536
00:22:50,920 --> 00:22:51,720
Speaker 3: She did? She did?

537
00:22:51,800 --> 00:22:53,080
Speaker 4: She more than the whole.

538
00:22:55,200 --> 00:22:58,720
Speaker 3: Of course. I was like, coming out again, you're still

539
00:22:58,720 --> 00:22:59,400
Speaker 3: see it.

540
00:23:00,320 --> 00:23:04,080
Speaker 4: The shirt aggressively fight her.

541
00:23:04,080 --> 00:23:07,240
Speaker 2: I mean her nipples aggressively fight clothing, like they literally

542
00:23:07,280 --> 00:23:09,600
Speaker 2: like they want they do they do?

543
00:23:10,040 --> 00:23:11,000
Speaker 3: Okay, So we.

544
00:23:11,560 --> 00:23:13,800
Speaker 6: I was coming home from like a break anyways, I

545
00:23:13,800 --> 00:23:18,440
Speaker 6: started dating a New York boy, her friend, and we

546
00:23:18,480 --> 00:23:19,240
Speaker 6: became friends.

547
00:23:19,320 --> 00:23:21,439
Speaker 5: Yeah, I think he was like, you need to meet her.

548
00:23:21,560 --> 00:23:24,480
Speaker 5: She's really cool. She's from Brooklyn but doesn't live here,

549
00:23:24,600 --> 00:23:27,320
Speaker 5: and like, you know, take her out on the town.

550
00:23:27,400 --> 00:23:30,640
Speaker 5: And so I was like sure, Yeah, And like the

551
00:23:30,640 --> 00:23:32,920
Speaker 5: the day I lost my or the day he thinks

552
00:23:32,920 --> 00:23:35,440
Speaker 5: I lost my virginity at his house, she was also

553
00:23:35,480 --> 00:23:37,119
Speaker 5: sleeping over, so she was there.

554
00:23:38,080 --> 00:23:40,560
Speaker 3: So yeah, at what point did you ever confess to

555
00:23:40,640 --> 00:23:41,280
Speaker 3: him that no?

556
00:23:41,560 --> 00:23:45,119
Speaker 6: Okay, I mean she probably knows by now, but like

557
00:23:45,200 --> 00:23:46,640
Speaker 6: the story of like my first.

558
00:23:47,000 --> 00:23:48,600
Speaker 3: You guys, so he'll definitely know now.

559
00:23:48,440 --> 00:23:53,960
Speaker 1: Great, Mark, it wasn't you, so, my fucking Marie, you

560
00:23:54,000 --> 00:23:54,919
Speaker 1: are not the father.

561
00:23:57,000 --> 00:23:59,840
Speaker 6: I think that Like that story just like sounded nicer,

562
00:23:59,920 --> 00:24:02,879
Speaker 6: like my high school boyfriend we went to prom together.

563
00:24:03,119 --> 00:24:06,840
Speaker 1: Oh my god, recently recently did a whole I know? Yeah,

564
00:24:06,960 --> 00:24:09,320
Speaker 1: so yeah, same, yeah didn't you guys?

565
00:24:09,440 --> 00:24:12,640
Speaker 5: You lied to right virginity stories? You guys told virginity

566
00:24:12,640 --> 00:24:13,400
Speaker 5: stories recently?

567
00:24:14,520 --> 00:24:15,080
Speaker 3: How did you guys?

568
00:24:15,359 --> 00:24:15,479
Speaker 8: So?

569
00:24:15,480 --> 00:24:17,480
Speaker 3: How did you lose your virginity in real life?

570
00:24:17,600 --> 00:24:21,560
Speaker 5: I lost my virginity to someone that everyone used to

571
00:24:21,560 --> 00:24:22,560
Speaker 5: call Spanish J.

572
00:24:23,680 --> 00:24:27,720
Speaker 3: Virginity Spanish J. Yeah, you know Spanish. Everybody used to

573
00:24:27,760 --> 00:24:29,119
Speaker 3: know Spanish. I used to be dancing.

574
00:24:29,200 --> 00:24:32,040
Speaker 4: Wait and you just knowing I didn't know what Spanish J.

575
00:24:32,400 --> 00:24:38,399
Speaker 4: Correct I that's hilarious but cool.

576
00:24:39,800 --> 00:24:41,159
Speaker 3: Now I said his name. I don't want to be

577
00:24:41,240 --> 00:24:50,080
Speaker 3: like nobody Spanish because people don't know Spanish.

578
00:24:50,200 --> 00:24:51,840
Speaker 5: My thing is like I'm still very unsure on his

579
00:24:51,880 --> 00:24:53,680
Speaker 5: sexual orientation and like that's not my business.

580
00:24:53,800 --> 00:24:56,560
Speaker 3: That's why I'm so Chelsea said he'd be body rolling.

581
00:24:56,640 --> 00:24:59,320
Speaker 5: Right like listen, no one's are no one's at ten,

582
00:25:00,040 --> 00:25:03,600
Speaker 5: but like he gives like right right in this middle

583
00:25:03,640 --> 00:25:08,000
Speaker 5: in the mid four point five hello way, But yeah, I.

584
00:25:07,840 --> 00:25:09,560
Speaker 3: Was comfortable with his impulsive.

585
00:25:09,760 --> 00:25:12,119
Speaker 5: I don't know like what you all signs are, but

586
00:25:12,160 --> 00:25:14,439
Speaker 5: I'm like very in yo.

587
00:25:14,760 --> 00:25:18,240
Speaker 2: She's a cancer cancer, yes, Capricorn leo yo.

588
00:25:19,320 --> 00:25:22,160
Speaker 5: And but I think my Gemini rising makes me actually

589
00:25:22,240 --> 00:25:22,920
Speaker 5: very impulsive.

590
00:25:22,960 --> 00:25:23,639
Speaker 3: Oh my god, that's me.

591
00:25:23,760 --> 00:25:26,159
Speaker 4: That's my Gemini too, because bitch be like, okay.

592
00:25:26,000 --> 00:25:29,520
Speaker 1: Okay, you want to go to space and go to Mars.

593
00:25:29,640 --> 00:25:33,240
Speaker 3: Okay, what's on me going? Let me move this meeting.

594
00:25:33,560 --> 00:25:34,359
Speaker 3: I've got ship to do.

595
00:25:35,119 --> 00:25:35,639
Speaker 4: I'll do that.

596
00:25:35,680 --> 00:25:37,080
Speaker 5: And I think at the time, I was like, I

597
00:25:37,160 --> 00:25:39,359
Speaker 5: just want to lose my virginity. Everyone's making such a

598
00:25:39,400 --> 00:25:40,400
Speaker 5: big deal about this kid.

599
00:25:40,560 --> 00:25:43,399
Speaker 4: By the way, Spanish DoD Spanish Jay know that he

600
00:25:43,560 --> 00:25:44,600
Speaker 4: was taking your virginia?

601
00:25:44,680 --> 00:25:45,199
Speaker 3: Yeah, I think so.

602
00:25:45,359 --> 00:25:48,240
Speaker 5: Like he lived on the Upper West Side, I like

603
00:25:48,320 --> 00:25:51,639
Speaker 5: went up there to his place and like, you know,

604
00:25:51,720 --> 00:25:53,199
Speaker 5: we did it, and I was like, well, this is

605
00:25:53,280 --> 00:25:57,160
Speaker 5: underwhelming as fuck. But then the second time I fucked

606
00:25:57,160 --> 00:26:03,960
Speaker 5: this Dominican guy uptown like one like, oh I'm Kacan guy.

607
00:26:05,600 --> 00:26:06,600
Speaker 3: Now that was a different story.

608
00:26:06,640 --> 00:26:08,800
Speaker 5: His dick was big as fuck, and that's when my

609
00:26:09,080 --> 00:26:10,280
Speaker 5: cherry actually popped.

610
00:26:10,400 --> 00:26:10,879
Speaker 3: Oh so.

611
00:26:12,840 --> 00:26:14,640
Speaker 5: I don't know what we want to call the first

612
00:26:14,720 --> 00:26:16,720
Speaker 5: you know, the first time, like doing the do in

613
00:26:16,760 --> 00:26:20,679
Speaker 5: the first time. If we're considering the blood the bloody

614
00:26:20,680 --> 00:26:23,440
Speaker 5: show breaking, then that's the real time.

615
00:26:23,480 --> 00:26:25,560
Speaker 3: So I guess I have two. It's whenever you say

616
00:26:25,640 --> 00:26:26,239
Speaker 3: you lost it.

617
00:26:26,680 --> 00:26:31,480
Speaker 5: I was thirteen, uh with the Spanish J and then

618
00:26:31,520 --> 00:26:34,400
Speaker 5: maybe fourteen with Big Dick Dominican.

619
00:26:35,480 --> 00:26:39,080
Speaker 3: Yeah, that's about my name is Spanish J. Wow. Yeah,

620
00:26:39,400 --> 00:26:41,159
Speaker 3: I can't believe you didn't know that. No, maybe you

621
00:26:41,200 --> 00:26:41,840
Speaker 3: did tell me that.

622
00:26:41,920 --> 00:26:44,080
Speaker 2: I wonder if Big Dick Dominican's dick is still big now,

623
00:26:44,320 --> 00:26:46,440
Speaker 2: only because when you're like fourteen, like you be thinking

624
00:26:46,440 --> 00:26:47,040
Speaker 2: shit is big?

625
00:26:47,400 --> 00:26:49,560
Speaker 3: You revisit that you'd be like nigga, Oh, I see,

626
00:26:49,600 --> 00:26:54,040
Speaker 3: I was like, no, I dick, why have it?

627
00:26:54,680 --> 00:26:57,159
Speaker 2: I'm wondering that because like I like, I will let

628
00:26:57,240 --> 00:26:59,320
Speaker 2: you know, you think like man, when I think about

629
00:26:59,320 --> 00:27:01,679
Speaker 2: like your best sex experiences as a teenager or like

630
00:27:01,720 --> 00:27:03,800
Speaker 2: what you hold as like the best ones at that time,

631
00:27:03,840 --> 00:27:05,960
Speaker 2: and then I think back, like was that Actually.

632
00:27:05,920 --> 00:27:07,919
Speaker 3: No, I think the dicks are big. I think I

633
00:27:07,920 --> 00:27:08,919
Speaker 3: think your perception is right.

634
00:27:08,960 --> 00:27:10,480
Speaker 1: All the dicks I thought were big in high school

635
00:27:10,520 --> 00:27:11,680
Speaker 1: are still big in adulthood.

636
00:27:11,840 --> 00:27:14,480
Speaker 4: However, is the sex good is a difference? Yeah?

637
00:27:14,560 --> 00:27:17,680
Speaker 2: Right, No, that was like Hallway and like a lot

638
00:27:17,720 --> 00:27:19,640
Speaker 2: of just pumping, pump, a lot of pumping.

639
00:27:19,920 --> 00:27:22,320
Speaker 4: Speaking of big dick, did you guys watch sex Life?

640
00:27:22,480 --> 00:27:24,400
Speaker 4: Not yet, but can we watch it today?

641
00:27:24,440 --> 00:27:25,119
Speaker 3: Okay, we're watching it.

642
00:27:25,200 --> 00:27:28,160
Speaker 4: Okay, just keep your eyes open on episode three?

643
00:27:28,640 --> 00:27:30,440
Speaker 3: Don't are you in it?

644
00:27:31,720 --> 00:27:32,000
Speaker 4: Oh?

645
00:27:32,000 --> 00:27:32,680
Speaker 3: But a big dick?

646
00:27:32,760 --> 00:27:35,560
Speaker 2: Is is it the big Dominican?

647
00:27:36,119 --> 00:27:38,040
Speaker 3: Is it Big Dominican coming?

648
00:27:38,080 --> 00:27:40,520
Speaker 6: Oh my god?

649
00:27:40,240 --> 00:27:43,240
Speaker 5: I tried to watch that with this guy I'm seeing,

650
00:27:43,880 --> 00:27:46,240
Speaker 5: but then he didn't want to see big dick Dominicans.

651
00:27:46,640 --> 00:27:49,080
Speaker 3: There's so many stories like you're coming at me fast.

652
00:27:49,119 --> 00:27:52,439
Speaker 3: I know you're getting very cut up. What y'all been

653
00:27:52,440 --> 00:27:53,320
Speaker 3: in the black girl texting?

654
00:27:54,320 --> 00:27:58,520
Speaker 2: Like dating now and like a lot of different guys

655
00:27:58,560 --> 00:27:59,120
Speaker 2: different things.

656
00:27:59,200 --> 00:28:02,240
Speaker 4: She squired it, I squirted hi welcome.

657
00:28:02,280 --> 00:28:05,120
Speaker 5: But then I was like, the fuck. If the other

658
00:28:05,160 --> 00:28:07,760
Speaker 5: guy listens, he's gonna know it wasn't him.

659
00:28:07,800 --> 00:28:08,960
Speaker 3: It wasn't him. They knows you like that.

660
00:28:09,040 --> 00:28:10,720
Speaker 4: Niggas be nosy.

661
00:28:11,040 --> 00:28:15,000
Speaker 6: I've been listening to this podcast and make him manipulate

662
00:28:15,040 --> 00:28:17,440
Speaker 6: you if if they like they try very sick.

663
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Speaker 5: But the thing is, I think I don't know a god.

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Speaker 5: And he's like, damn, like you'd be taking carry your

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Speaker 4: Because that's a lie.

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Speaker 2: You had the whole lot of conversations. What happened not

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Speaker 4: Anyways, Instagram.

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Speaker 6: Okay, so my virginity story I was in Spain, and

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Speaker 3: To like, wait, this is the real one. I was like, no, bitch,

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Speaker 6: It was sixteen wow in Spain, and we like went

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Speaker 3: It was like a cafricar and it was curated.

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Speaker 6: Actually didn't tell anyone that I had lost my virginity,

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Speaker 6: like I told.

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Speaker 3: No one for like years.

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Speaker 6: Anyway, So we went to this like abandoned house place

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Speaker 3: He was from Switzerland or.

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Speaker 5: Joe Colonizer Virginity white man.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, it was terrible.

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Speaker 1: I was like, what is happening on the flip side?

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Speaker 1: You figured you're in Spain?

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Speaker 3: Fuck it? You know?

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Speaker 2: The key key elements sound really sexy though, like dogious

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Speaker 6: But the fact that but what was traumatizing about it

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Speaker 3: But okay, so why was it so bad? Was it?

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Speaker 3: What was so terrible?

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Speaker 6: I don't want to lose it that way to some

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Speaker 3: Why did you do it? Seen and dumb?

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Speaker 5: Why?

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Speaker 2: I'm sure I just thought, I'm like, did you say no,

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Speaker 2: I'm drunk.

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Speaker 3: It was like my first time drinking was like in Spain.

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Speaker 2: Really it doesn't count taking you under my wing much

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Speaker 6: I barely even felt it. I was like, am I Like,

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Speaker 6: is my vagina too big?

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Speaker 3: Or something? Have you?

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Speaker 4: Have you had sex with the white? Sent then with

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Speaker 3: Yeah, with the white?

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Speaker 2: I call him with the white. I thought that way

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Speaker 3: Talked about you. But there was this one Filipino guy

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Speaker 2: There was a few, but he was one of them,

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Speaker 2: and then we tried to switch positions and still I

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Speaker 2: them too, because I wanted to see what kind of

886
00:38:08,520 --> 00:38:12,560
Speaker 2: friendship style you guys think you have. The first one

887
00:38:12,680 --> 00:38:15,160
Speaker 2: is a discerning friendship style. These are people with a

888
00:38:15,719 --> 00:38:19,680
Speaker 2: few very close friends. Emotional closeness is high, the friendship

889
00:38:19,760 --> 00:38:21,839
Speaker 2: tend to have lasted a long time, and These folks

890
00:38:21,880 --> 00:38:24,680
Speaker 2: are less likely to form new friendships in mid.

891
00:38:24,520 --> 00:38:26,480
Speaker 3: To late life. But what are they called it?

892
00:38:26,760 --> 00:38:30,480
Speaker 2: A discerning friendship? Basically, you major friendship friends a long

893
00:38:30,480 --> 00:38:32,680
Speaker 2: time ago. You don't really fuck with new niggas. It's

894
00:38:33,000 --> 00:38:35,000
Speaker 2: is y y'all are very very close friends, like who

895
00:38:35,040 --> 00:38:38,200
Speaker 2: are you hanging out with now? Number two is the

896
00:38:38,280 --> 00:38:43,279
Speaker 2: independent friendship style, and those with an independent style don't

897
00:38:43,280 --> 00:38:46,479
Speaker 2: maintain that that many friendships either. But they're also less

898
00:38:46,560 --> 00:38:48,919
Speaker 2: likely to be emotionally close to the friends they have.

899
00:38:49,280 --> 00:38:53,399
Speaker 2: They're content to socialize casually. Often their friendships are circumstantial

900
00:38:53,440 --> 00:38:56,440
Speaker 2: form with people they know from school, work, neighbors, but

901
00:38:56,480 --> 00:38:59,920
Speaker 2: not maintained in circumstances wait, and not maintained if so,

902
00:39:00,000 --> 00:39:01,120
Speaker 2: circumstances change.

903
00:39:01,640 --> 00:39:03,040
Speaker 3: So that's not She's not like a.

904
00:39:02,960 --> 00:39:09,640
Speaker 4: Bitch opportunist only for particular reason.

905
00:39:10,040 --> 00:39:10,879
Speaker 3: I no offense if.

906
00:39:12,840 --> 00:39:13,759
Speaker 5: I think I have elements of.

907
00:39:17,080 --> 00:39:21,920
Speaker 2: The third one is select selectively acquisitive friendship style. These

908
00:39:21,960 --> 00:39:24,320
Speaker 2: are the people who are out there meeting new people

909
00:39:24,320 --> 00:39:27,400
Speaker 2: all the time and uh. Some in their circle are

910
00:39:27,440 --> 00:39:29,680
Speaker 2: intimate friends. Some are much more casual, but they are

911
00:39:29,719 --> 00:39:32,920
Speaker 2: all thought of his friends. Acquisitive people also tend to

912
00:39:32,920 --> 00:39:36,080
Speaker 2: have friendships of varied duration. Some last decades, others are

913
00:39:36,080 --> 00:39:40,320
Speaker 2: more fleeting and circumstantial. Selectively acquisite people, however, are somewhat

914
00:39:40,440 --> 00:39:43,680
Speaker 2: choosy about which friendships they maintain over long, longer periods

915
00:39:43,719 --> 00:39:49,480
Speaker 2: of time as compared to unconditionally acquisitive people. So yeah,

916
00:39:49,520 --> 00:39:50,800
Speaker 2: it means like, you can make a lot of friends,

917
00:39:50,800 --> 00:39:51,719
Speaker 2: but they can come, they go.

918
00:39:52,719 --> 00:40:01,120
Speaker 8: Who cares additional or unconditional That is selectively acquisitive acquisitive,

919
00:40:01,320 --> 00:40:05,920
Speaker 8: and then the last one is unconditionally acquisitive friendship style.

920
00:40:06,040 --> 00:40:08,560
Speaker 2: This group has the largest number of friends of the

921
00:40:08,600 --> 00:40:12,360
Speaker 2: four types. Although the emotional closeness differs friend to friend,

922
00:40:12,440 --> 00:40:16,359
Speaker 2: it is on average relatively low. There's also a wide

923
00:40:16,440 --> 00:40:19,080
Speaker 2: range of friendship duration in this group. Overall, this group

924
00:40:19,120 --> 00:40:21,320
Speaker 2: is more about socializing than emotional support.

925
00:40:22,600 --> 00:40:25,760
Speaker 3: So are you an unconditional inquisitive meaning?

926
00:40:25,960 --> 00:40:28,080
Speaker 2: I think that means that basically, you have a lot

927
00:40:28,120 --> 00:40:30,720
Speaker 2: of friends, but no one's that close, but you're friendly

928
00:40:30,760 --> 00:40:31,200
Speaker 2: as fuck.

929
00:40:32,280 --> 00:40:34,080
Speaker 3: Selectively means you're friendly.

930
00:40:33,760 --> 00:40:36,440
Speaker 2: As fuck, but like you don't need to keep everyone,

931
00:40:36,480 --> 00:40:38,440
Speaker 2: but you do, like are close to certain people.

932
00:40:39,360 --> 00:40:41,000
Speaker 3: Independent means I don't know, you kind.

933
00:40:40,840 --> 00:40:42,719
Speaker 2: Of just don't really fuck with nobody, just like go

934
00:40:42,800 --> 00:40:45,319
Speaker 2: to work, they're your friends, then you're not at work

935
00:40:45,360 --> 00:40:46,240
Speaker 2: the angel friends.

936
00:40:47,120 --> 00:40:49,560
Speaker 3: And then discerning is you only made.

937
00:40:49,480 --> 00:40:52,080
Speaker 4: Friends in kindergarten and after that, Yeah.

938
00:40:52,040 --> 00:40:54,719
Speaker 3: Why do they all suck? They're all not the best,

939
00:40:54,760 --> 00:40:55,720
Speaker 3: but I guess they're realistic.

940
00:40:55,760 --> 00:40:57,839
Speaker 5: I mean, the reason why I said the second one,

941
00:40:57,880 --> 00:41:00,719
Speaker 5: the independent, is because I do you get close with

942
00:41:00,719 --> 00:41:03,320
Speaker 5: people like at work and then like there are somewhere

943
00:41:03,360 --> 00:41:05,279
Speaker 5: it's just like all right, I don't work here, no.

944
00:41:05,239 --> 00:41:06,759
Speaker 3: More, stop calling. That has done.

945
00:41:06,840 --> 00:41:11,319
Speaker 5: Yeah, and it's not necessarily like after work we are

946
00:41:11,440 --> 00:41:13,920
Speaker 5: always hanging out, Like I have the work friends that

947
00:41:13,960 --> 00:41:16,080
Speaker 5: it's like, let's go grab a drink. But like you

948
00:41:16,080 --> 00:41:18,000
Speaker 5: ain't my nigga, Like I'm gonna tell you, like all

949
00:41:18,400 --> 00:41:20,000
Speaker 5: you're not gonna call me shda. Like at work, people

950
00:41:20,040 --> 00:41:22,359
Speaker 5: call me by they don't know her real name, yeah,

951
00:41:22,800 --> 00:41:24,800
Speaker 5: just by my first name. But it's like a nickname

952
00:41:25,040 --> 00:41:26,040
Speaker 5: play on my first name.

953
00:41:26,520 --> 00:41:28,280
Speaker 2: So I feel like I don't even know you right,

954
00:41:29,120 --> 00:41:33,440
Speaker 2: perfect exactly, So like it's like they don't even get

955
00:41:33,480 --> 00:41:36,680
Speaker 2: past like knowing like how my name is call me right,

956
00:41:37,080 --> 00:41:39,240
Speaker 2: but like we cool, we go grab a drink whatever,

957
00:41:39,280 --> 00:41:40,799
Speaker 2: and then like if I move on to another job,

958
00:41:40,840 --> 00:41:42,400
Speaker 2: it's like it's been fun by.

959
00:41:42,320 --> 00:41:45,680
Speaker 3: But like, what's wrong with that? No? I agree.

960
00:41:45,719 --> 00:41:51,400
Speaker 5: I guess it's like a closer acquaintance. Yeah yeah, like

961
00:41:51,440 --> 00:41:52,880
Speaker 5: I guess you wouldn't call them a friend.

962
00:41:53,120 --> 00:41:53,879
Speaker 3: I have none of.

963
00:41:53,760 --> 00:42:00,320
Speaker 4: Those, Well college only four, So well.

964
00:42:00,239 --> 00:42:02,000
Speaker 6: She needs to go back to school because I think

965
00:42:02,040 --> 00:42:03,880
Speaker 6: that's incorrect. They all sound so bad.

966
00:42:04,000 --> 00:42:04,960
Speaker 3: So which one would you?

967
00:42:05,040 --> 00:42:08,799
Speaker 2: I think that I'm selectively acquisitive, like I like this

968
00:42:09,520 --> 00:42:12,160
Speaker 2: with no friends. No, it's when I'm meeting people and

969
00:42:12,280 --> 00:42:15,000
Speaker 2: some some are intimate friends and some are more casual.

970
00:42:15,239 --> 00:42:17,799
Speaker 3: Okay, I think maybe I'm not the third one. That's

971
00:42:17,800 --> 00:42:19,400
Speaker 3: the third one. Okay, I'm the third one, and.

972
00:42:19,680 --> 00:42:22,080
Speaker 2: I'm choosy about which ones I want to maintain. And

973
00:42:22,160 --> 00:42:23,839
Speaker 2: I am because I'd be like, oh, like that bitch,

974
00:42:24,080 --> 00:42:26,040
Speaker 2: she was cool like on Tuesdays.

975
00:42:26,239 --> 00:42:29,120
Speaker 1: I've gotten better with being more choosy as i've gotten older,

976
00:42:29,200 --> 00:42:31,560
Speaker 1: because before I'm like, we met for like literally, I'm

977
00:42:31,560 --> 00:42:34,640
Speaker 1: the type of person if we pass somebody, if we

978
00:42:34,719 --> 00:42:37,399
Speaker 1: pass like talk briefly, talk to somebody in like a crowd,

979
00:42:37,440 --> 00:42:39,000
Speaker 1: I'm like, oh my god, that's such a good time too,

980
00:42:39,160 --> 00:42:40,799
Speaker 1: Like if I walk away, and now I'm like, oh,

981
00:42:40,840 --> 00:42:44,080
Speaker 1: take my Instagram even if I don't ever message them again.

982
00:42:44,080 --> 00:42:45,520
Speaker 4: I'm like, what if I was supposed to be friends

983
00:42:45,520 --> 00:42:47,160
Speaker 4: with them? Man, I didn't say bye?

984
00:42:47,520 --> 00:42:49,960
Speaker 1: Like that's how I think, Like, Wow, that's supposed to

985
00:42:49,960 --> 00:42:50,399
Speaker 1: be my friend.

986
00:42:50,480 --> 00:42:53,040
Speaker 2: I have no concept of what that feels like at all.

987
00:42:53,320 --> 00:42:57,040
Speaker 2: I'm whenever I'm like, damn, maybe like a nigga does

988
00:42:57,040 --> 00:42:57,439
Speaker 2: that said?

989
00:42:57,520 --> 00:42:58,040
Speaker 3: Okay, like.

990
00:42:59,480 --> 00:43:02,160
Speaker 5: That is not packed there, Like maybe that nigga supposed

991
00:43:02,200 --> 00:43:04,040
Speaker 5: to be my husband. I didn't give you my number.

992
00:43:05,640 --> 00:43:09,400
Speaker 6: Well, we had a friendship coach on and she was incredible. Actually,

993
00:43:09,400 --> 00:43:11,760
Speaker 6: if you're doing like a friend month, you should definitely

994
00:43:11,760 --> 00:43:12,200
Speaker 6: have her own.

995
00:43:12,800 --> 00:43:15,680
Speaker 5: Might be a little like whoa, this is a rodeo

996
00:43:16,280 --> 00:43:19,200
Speaker 5: a little wow, but but she just she very square.

997
00:43:19,400 --> 00:43:20,560
Speaker 4: You all are wild.

998
00:43:20,920 --> 00:43:26,160
Speaker 3: You can't know I was nipple wild. You put the

999
00:43:26,239 --> 00:43:28,280
Speaker 3: pillow over it, so we don't have to do editing

1000
00:43:28,320 --> 00:43:31,120
Speaker 3: and things. We're gonna have to put a little and

1001
00:43:31,760 --> 00:43:38,200
Speaker 3: the pillow. Okay. I think it's in now if you

1002
00:43:38,280 --> 00:43:39,960
Speaker 3: stay seated like this.

1003
00:43:41,120 --> 00:43:43,240
Speaker 6: Okay, So with your friends, I know it's probably different

1004
00:43:43,280 --> 00:43:46,240
Speaker 6: with you too, because you're like, you know, two peas

1005
00:43:46,239 --> 00:43:48,600
Speaker 6: in a pod. But with your other friends, when you

1006
00:43:48,640 --> 00:43:52,520
Speaker 6: get into like issue, do you like like deal with it, Like,

1007
00:43:52,600 --> 00:43:54,560
Speaker 6: are you like, hey, let's talk or is it just

1008
00:43:54,600 --> 00:43:56,640
Speaker 6: like I'm not fucking you, You're just a friend, so

1009
00:43:56,880 --> 00:43:57,919
Speaker 6: moving on you're cut off?

1010
00:43:59,040 --> 00:44:01,560
Speaker 3: No, it's not moving on cut off. I definitely made

1011
00:44:01,600 --> 00:44:02,480
Speaker 3: a deal with it, but I'm.

1012
00:44:02,320 --> 00:44:05,360
Speaker 2: Gonna I'll probably wait a little while to like see

1013
00:44:05,520 --> 00:44:07,520
Speaker 2: how I should deal with it. Sometimes I can be

1014
00:44:07,520 --> 00:44:10,320
Speaker 2: passive aggressive, I don't and then not, and then eventually

1015
00:44:10,400 --> 00:44:11,880
Speaker 2: I'll have to say something because I know I'm being

1016
00:44:11,880 --> 00:44:16,120
Speaker 2: a bitch. But I definitely would never just cut off

1017
00:44:16,120 --> 00:44:18,480
Speaker 2: a friend without having a conversation. Okay, And if I

1018
00:44:18,480 --> 00:44:20,120
Speaker 2: do cut you off, you're I'm gonna tell you I'm

1019
00:44:20,120 --> 00:44:23,439
Speaker 2: cutting you off. I'm pretty like open about the cutoff. Yeah,

1020
00:44:23,440 --> 00:44:25,400
Speaker 2: I'm really bad at that. So if I care, if

1021
00:44:25,440 --> 00:44:27,200
Speaker 2: I cared about you, like if I don't, if it's

1022
00:44:27,320 --> 00:44:30,920
Speaker 2: casual whatever. But I've literally had a conversation with a

1023
00:44:30,960 --> 00:44:36,040
Speaker 2: girl we know her, and I was just like, I

1024
00:44:36,080 --> 00:44:37,560
Speaker 2: don't have any interest in being a friend.

1025
00:44:38,320 --> 00:44:40,200
Speaker 3: What is that? You said it? Who we met through

1026
00:44:40,280 --> 00:44:41,440
Speaker 3: kind of damn?

1027
00:44:42,080 --> 00:44:44,399
Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah like that though.

1028
00:44:44,480 --> 00:44:46,400
Speaker 3: Yeah, I was like, we don't really have mutual interests.

1029
00:44:46,400 --> 00:44:48,120
Speaker 2: When we don't have a lot in common, you're just

1030
00:44:48,160 --> 00:44:50,600
Speaker 2: not my type of person. So was there like a

1031
00:44:50,800 --> 00:44:52,839
Speaker 2: did something happen or did there was a few things

1032
00:44:52,840 --> 00:44:54,600
Speaker 2: happened that I was just like and it wasn't like

1033
00:44:54,600 --> 00:44:57,520
Speaker 2: anything terrible, but it was just like, I don't really,

1034
00:44:57,600 --> 00:44:57,879
Speaker 2: I don't.

1035
00:44:58,120 --> 00:45:00,600
Speaker 3: Then she kept she kept calling me hang on. I

1036
00:45:00,640 --> 00:45:01,799
Speaker 3: was like, I just need to tell this bitch.

1037
00:45:01,920 --> 00:45:04,680
Speaker 1: This is also someone who we know has also like

1038
00:45:04,680 --> 00:45:07,520
Speaker 1: I know two other separate friends who have also cut

1039
00:45:07,560 --> 00:45:10,919
Speaker 1: the same bitch off with like the same directness.

1040
00:45:10,960 --> 00:45:12,400
Speaker 4: It's it's obviously this bitch.

1041
00:45:12,520 --> 00:45:14,600
Speaker 2: Yeah you know what I'm talking about. It it's her, Yeah,

1042
00:45:14,640 --> 00:45:15,080
Speaker 2: she's her.

1043
00:45:15,480 --> 00:45:18,080
Speaker 3: But any guilt, like maybe she's traumatized.

1044
00:45:18,160 --> 00:45:20,120
Speaker 2: I didn't feel guilt because I felt like I was

1045
00:45:20,120 --> 00:45:22,839
Speaker 2: ethical about it. Yeah, like you know, like I didn't

1046
00:45:22,840 --> 00:45:24,919
Speaker 2: ghost her, you know, I felt like, Wow, I really

1047
00:45:25,000 --> 00:45:25,759
Speaker 2: was mature about it.

1048
00:45:25,840 --> 00:45:28,640
Speaker 1: How about in your inner like because obviously you guys

1049
00:45:28,640 --> 00:45:30,520
Speaker 1: work together, you're very very close friends.

1050
00:45:30,560 --> 00:45:33,160
Speaker 4: So like between the three of you, would.

1051
00:45:32,920 --> 00:45:36,120
Speaker 1: You guys, would would you say it's easy to directly

1052
00:45:36,200 --> 00:45:39,080
Speaker 1: like address issues, because like that's not something we're taught

1053
00:45:39,080 --> 00:45:41,120
Speaker 1: in friendships, you know what I mean, Like conflict does

1054
00:45:41,160 --> 00:45:43,920
Speaker 1: not like conflict resolution is what they teaching corporate, but

1055
00:45:44,000 --> 00:45:46,840
Speaker 1: not like in your personal life. And sometimes even sometimes

1056
00:45:46,840 --> 00:45:49,640
Speaker 1: you get so close to people you don't know how

1057
00:45:49,680 --> 00:45:51,600
Speaker 1: to go about conflict or you really forget to like

1058
00:45:51,680 --> 00:45:53,960
Speaker 1: love on them or show them affection because you're just like, yeah, bit, you'

1059
00:45:54,000 --> 00:45:54,279
Speaker 1: my friend.

1060
00:45:54,920 --> 00:45:55,480
Speaker 3: You know what I mean?

1061
00:45:55,880 --> 00:45:58,600
Speaker 2: But you will fucking love on and resolve a conflict

1062
00:45:58,600 --> 00:45:59,560
Speaker 2: with a man real quick.

1063
00:46:00,040 --> 00:46:03,520
Speaker 3: Your friends, you'd be like, mm, fuck her. Yeah that's

1064
00:46:03,560 --> 00:46:03,759
Speaker 3: to me.

1065
00:46:03,840 --> 00:46:07,279
Speaker 6: That's a problem. Yeah, but I do it. But it's

1066
00:46:07,320 --> 00:46:08,280
Speaker 6: a problem.

1067
00:46:08,440 --> 00:46:08,520
Speaker 2: No.

1068
00:46:08,640 --> 00:46:11,040
Speaker 6: When we get into ship, we we've like cussed each

1069
00:46:11,040 --> 00:46:14,040
Speaker 6: other out, but we've like known each other for a

1070
00:46:14,120 --> 00:46:17,480
Speaker 6: long time, so it's like, it's probably not good to

1071
00:46:17,560 --> 00:46:17,920
Speaker 6: do that.

1072
00:46:18,680 --> 00:46:21,000
Speaker 4: And afterwards I always apologize.

1073
00:46:22,000 --> 00:46:23,719
Speaker 3: Are you saying that I don't. I usually do it

1074
00:46:23,760 --> 00:46:27,239
Speaker 3: first and you do it second. That's great. Do you

1075
00:46:27,239 --> 00:46:29,360
Speaker 3: do it first, not first? I do it first. I

1076
00:46:29,360 --> 00:46:30,759
Speaker 3: thought that's the I can't lie.

1077
00:46:31,640 --> 00:46:33,400
Speaker 4: But I'm just like, I'm sorry that I called you

1078
00:46:33,440 --> 00:46:35,640
Speaker 4: a dumb ass bitch. I don't mean that.

1079
00:46:35,719 --> 00:46:38,040
Speaker 6: Yeah, I was just really frustrated in the moment because

1080
00:46:38,040 --> 00:46:39,920
Speaker 6: of X y Z. I think, I but you know

1081
00:46:39,960 --> 00:46:42,200
Speaker 6: what you you do. But I'm also like, yeah, you

1082
00:46:42,239 --> 00:46:44,320
Speaker 6: call me dump messpage like whatever, yeah, because she actually

1083
00:46:44,400 --> 00:46:46,840
Speaker 6: doesn't care versus me, I will like hold on to

1084
00:46:46,960 --> 00:46:47,799
Speaker 6: it for.

1085
00:46:47,480 --> 00:46:51,200
Speaker 3: My years prices, I'm real nasty and you needed to

1086
00:46:51,200 --> 00:46:52,759
Speaker 3: curse me out and we just go keep it moving.

1087
00:46:53,120 --> 00:46:58,399
Speaker 6: Yeah, and then Glenn is like same, She'll you can

1088
00:46:58,400 --> 00:47:00,000
Speaker 6: tell her sorry, I called you a dumb ass.

1089
00:47:00,440 --> 00:47:01,360
Speaker 3: Glenn is in the middle.

1090
00:47:02,840 --> 00:47:06,200
Speaker 5: We all have like different dynamics, but like i'd say,

1091
00:47:08,000 --> 00:47:13,000
Speaker 5: I don't know, Glenn is usually so quiet, and then it's.

1092
00:47:12,840 --> 00:47:15,000
Speaker 3: Like are you are you mad? Are you not mad?

1093
00:47:15,239 --> 00:47:16,240
Speaker 3: What the fuck is happening?

1094
00:47:16,480 --> 00:47:17,960
Speaker 5: Like yeah, I feel like we probably had to be

1095
00:47:18,000 --> 00:47:20,080
Speaker 5: like what's happening many times?

1096
00:47:20,560 --> 00:47:23,439
Speaker 3: Yeah, But but I do want to be better about like.

1097
00:47:25,200 --> 00:47:29,040
Speaker 6: Recognizing like the positive things like I'll say it here,

1098
00:47:29,160 --> 00:47:32,000
Speaker 6: like on Father's Day when you texted me because my

1099
00:47:32,160 --> 00:47:34,719
Speaker 6: father died and like that meant so much to me.

1100
00:47:35,360 --> 00:47:36,640
Speaker 3: But I never like said that.

1101
00:47:36,880 --> 00:47:38,759
Speaker 2: Right, you know, and like and that's what I was

1102
00:47:38,800 --> 00:47:40,839
Speaker 2: telling her, Like I think so often like we don't

1103
00:47:41,000 --> 00:47:43,200
Speaker 2: like tell our friends like I love you, and we

1104
00:47:43,239 --> 00:47:46,320
Speaker 2: don't tell them like the things that we appreciate about

1105
00:47:46,360 --> 00:47:49,960
Speaker 2: one another. We just assume that they're known, and like,

1106
00:47:50,640 --> 00:47:52,840
Speaker 2: I feel like it's really important. It's been a practice

1107
00:47:52,840 --> 00:47:54,560
Speaker 2: for me because for me, like I haven't always been

1108
00:47:54,600 --> 00:47:57,080
Speaker 2: like I guess the girls girl in ways I've obviously,

1109
00:47:57,160 --> 00:47:59,360
Speaker 2: I feel like I've always had female friends for sure,

1110
00:47:59,760 --> 00:48:03,719
Speaker 2: but there was like a level of boundary that I

1111
00:48:03,760 --> 00:48:05,360
Speaker 2: always put up a little bit.

1112
00:48:05,320 --> 00:48:08,879
Speaker 3: You know that I was like, Mmm, don't touch me, please, yeah,

1113
00:48:08,960 --> 00:48:11,120
Speaker 3: touch me, and like especially that what do you think

1114
00:48:11,120 --> 00:48:12,120
Speaker 3: that's from? I don't know.

1115
00:48:12,160 --> 00:48:14,560
Speaker 2: I just really felt uncomfortable with women touching me, like

1116
00:48:14,560 --> 00:48:16,759
Speaker 2: like I have a friend, I have a friend or

1117
00:48:16,840 --> 00:48:19,879
Speaker 2: girls like my friend Stephanie. She's like such a lover

1118
00:48:20,160 --> 00:48:23,040
Speaker 2: and like so affectionate I remember in high school and

1119
00:48:23,080 --> 00:48:24,600
Speaker 2: I would be like, she's so fucking weird, like she

1120
00:48:24,640 --> 00:48:28,480
Speaker 2: why is she always touching people me? Like you're crossing

1121
00:48:28,560 --> 00:48:30,480
Speaker 2: my boundaries? And I was like, what is this fucking

1122
00:48:30,480 --> 00:48:34,040
Speaker 2: weird boundary? Like did she like there's no trauma from

1123
00:48:34,080 --> 00:48:36,520
Speaker 2: her here? Like and also there's really no trauma in

1124
00:48:36,520 --> 00:48:39,239
Speaker 2: that space, I think, But like I don't know, and

1125
00:48:39,400 --> 00:48:41,480
Speaker 2: I've had to work through that, and I think I

1126
00:48:41,560 --> 00:48:45,800
Speaker 2: think honestly having a daughter has really helped me heal

1127
00:48:45,840 --> 00:48:48,360
Speaker 2: whatever that A lot of whatever that was for me

1128
00:48:48,520 --> 00:48:53,360
Speaker 2: with women and femininity and yeah, I guess affection Damn.

1129
00:48:53,480 --> 00:48:56,239
Speaker 3: Maybe I need a daughter or a therapist.

1130
00:48:55,880 --> 00:48:58,200
Speaker 6: Because I feel the exact same way, Like I have

1131
00:48:58,320 --> 00:49:01,640
Speaker 6: like an affectionate issue, like I don't really touch people

1132
00:49:01,760 --> 00:49:04,440
Speaker 6: or like, and I have this new friend Gabby shout

1133
00:49:04,440 --> 00:49:06,799
Speaker 6: out to her. She always says I love you. She

1134
00:49:06,800 --> 00:49:09,480
Speaker 6: always hugs me, and it feels good. It's not like

1135
00:49:09,520 --> 00:49:12,280
Speaker 6: I feel grossed out. I just like feel like I freeze.

1136
00:49:12,320 --> 00:49:14,239
Speaker 6: I don't like, am I supposed to say back?

1137
00:49:14,320 --> 00:49:14,520
Speaker 3: Yeah?

1138
00:49:15,800 --> 00:49:17,640
Speaker 4: Yeah, you tighter?

1139
00:49:17,800 --> 00:49:19,240
Speaker 3: Like it's very strange.

1140
00:49:20,239 --> 00:49:23,040
Speaker 6: Yeah, Like during her bachelorette she like like told me

1141
00:49:23,080 --> 00:49:24,960
Speaker 6: all this like sweet stuff how much she loves me,

1142
00:49:25,000 --> 00:49:30,080
Speaker 6: and I was like, are you on Molly, Like no, bitch,

1143
00:49:30,280 --> 00:49:31,440
Speaker 6: Like I just fucking love you.

1144
00:49:31,480 --> 00:49:32,280
Speaker 3: And it was so weird.

1145
00:49:32,400 --> 00:49:35,560
Speaker 6: But anyways, the point of that was when I have children,

1146
00:49:35,640 --> 00:49:37,640
Speaker 6: I want them to be affectionate. So I'm like, I

1147
00:49:37,640 --> 00:49:40,120
Speaker 6: need to fix whatever this is because I want to

1148
00:49:40,200 --> 00:49:43,799
Speaker 6: model it for them. But it wasn't modeled for me,

1149
00:49:44,200 --> 00:49:47,160
Speaker 6: so I don't know how to do it. It's a practice,

1150
00:49:47,280 --> 00:49:48,640
Speaker 6: it really is. It's a practice.

1151
00:49:48,640 --> 00:49:51,319
Speaker 2: I mean it's it's it's definitely a practice for me

1152
00:49:51,360 --> 00:49:53,200
Speaker 2: too in my friendships and like checking in with my

1153
00:49:53,239 --> 00:49:56,000
Speaker 2: friends and making sure that I'm like, you know, being

1154
00:49:56,120 --> 00:49:57,840
Speaker 2: kind to them because I know that I can be

1155
00:49:58,040 --> 00:50:03,239
Speaker 2: very like same, you know, and like me and me

1156
00:50:03,320 --> 00:50:05,760
Speaker 2: love have be been together for literally like sixteen days

1157
00:50:05,880 --> 00:50:10,279
Speaker 2: straight and crazy and like I've had I know more

1158
00:50:10,360 --> 00:50:10,719
Speaker 2: than that.

1159
00:50:10,880 --> 00:50:12,839
Speaker 1: We've been in Coasta, Rica for two weeks and we're

1160
00:50:12,840 --> 00:50:14,960
Speaker 1: about to come up on our third week.

1161
00:50:16,080 --> 00:50:16,640
Speaker 3: Traveling.

1162
00:50:16,800 --> 00:50:19,680
Speaker 2: That's like yeah, and it's like we're getting on each

1163
00:50:19,680 --> 00:50:21,799
Speaker 2: other's nerves and it's like but me, Like the thing

1164
00:50:21,880 --> 00:50:23,560
Speaker 2: about us is like we're not going to curse each

1165
00:50:23,560 --> 00:50:26,440
Speaker 2: other out. We're just gonna like be like okay, like

1166
00:50:26,800 --> 00:50:29,720
Speaker 2: or nye or I'm just gonna be like I'll be back.

1167
00:50:30,280 --> 00:50:33,480
Speaker 6: Well, you can't curse out of cancer and you're just

1168
00:50:33,520 --> 00:50:34,600
Speaker 6: like a demon person.

1169
00:50:34,719 --> 00:50:36,080
Speaker 4: No, you can't curse out of cancer.

1170
00:50:36,560 --> 00:50:36,799
Speaker 3: You can.

1171
00:50:36,920 --> 00:50:38,960
Speaker 2: She probably would be better at cursing me out than

1172
00:50:39,000 --> 00:50:41,239
Speaker 2: I would be. Really, I'm in scorpio, but I'm like,

1173
00:50:41,360 --> 00:50:43,879
Speaker 2: I'm more like an energy vamp, like I will fuck

1174
00:50:43,920 --> 00:50:46,239
Speaker 2: you up with my energy, but like she will fuck

1175
00:50:46,280 --> 00:50:47,240
Speaker 2: you up with her words.

1176
00:50:47,280 --> 00:50:49,719
Speaker 3: Like she's really quick with it. She's quick with the words.

1177
00:50:49,760 --> 00:50:52,000
Speaker 2: I'd be like sometimes she'll be going off on like

1178
00:50:52,080 --> 00:50:53,440
Speaker 2: someone else about someone else.

1179
00:50:53,239 --> 00:50:56,480
Speaker 3: I'm like, Damn, that was really good. God Damn, Like shit,

1180
00:50:56,640 --> 00:50:57,600
Speaker 3: I didn't have that in me.

1181
00:50:59,040 --> 00:51:01,920
Speaker 5: I that you know that about yourself. I think that

1182
00:51:02,000 --> 00:51:05,560
Speaker 5: helps too, right, Like I'm terrible with confrontation. I like,

1183
00:51:05,680 --> 00:51:09,200
Speaker 5: can't do it. But if you force me to confront it. Wow,

1184
00:51:09,800 --> 00:51:11,319
Speaker 5: It's very similar to my sex life.

1185
00:51:11,440 --> 00:51:13,040
Speaker 3: But I feel like with you.

1186
00:51:13,560 --> 00:51:16,719
Speaker 6: I feel like with you, like when someone confronts you,

1187
00:51:17,040 --> 00:51:20,240
Speaker 6: it's like you run away from them versus like hearing

1188
00:51:20,280 --> 00:51:24,279
Speaker 6: what they're saying and making the you do. Yes, I

1189
00:51:24,320 --> 00:51:26,480
Speaker 6: think you're getting better at it since you've started therapy, though,

1190
00:51:26,600 --> 00:51:27,600
Speaker 6: Oh okay no.

1191
00:51:27,719 --> 00:51:29,400
Speaker 5: Because I feel like if you, if you present the

1192
00:51:29,440 --> 00:51:32,879
Speaker 5: problem to me, then at least I can be like, okay, fine, Yeah.

1193
00:51:32,880 --> 00:51:34,880
Speaker 5: Maybe I don't immediately receive it, but I can, like

1194
00:51:35,000 --> 00:51:38,040
Speaker 5: I can sit on it, but like, I will never

1195
00:51:38,080 --> 00:51:39,359
Speaker 5: be the first person to bring it up.

1196
00:51:39,520 --> 00:51:41,640
Speaker 3: I just I'm like, oh like it, But you know what.

1197
00:51:41,800 --> 00:51:44,640
Speaker 1: On the contrary, I have a Leo best friend who

1198
00:51:45,160 --> 00:51:47,799
Speaker 1: could literally curse me out of a five minutes.

1199
00:51:47,960 --> 00:51:49,799
Speaker 4: I'm like, you want to go get a drink? You

1200
00:51:49,800 --> 00:51:50,640
Speaker 4: want to hit this lune.

1201
00:51:50,680 --> 00:51:53,960
Speaker 1: I'm like, and it's fine, but I have another can

1202
00:51:54,120 --> 00:51:58,360
Speaker 1: I mean Capricorn best friend who oddly will not say shit.

1203
00:51:58,880 --> 00:52:01,600
Speaker 5: And like, wait, like four years and I'm like, bitch,

1204
00:52:01,719 --> 00:52:02,840
Speaker 5: are we even friends?

1205
00:52:02,920 --> 00:52:04,799
Speaker 1: Like why the fuck are you? Like what the fuck

1206
00:52:04,800 --> 00:52:06,799
Speaker 1: are you talking about? And it just like started to

1207
00:52:06,800 --> 00:52:09,320
Speaker 1: irritate me about her, Like I don't really like confrontation either,

1208
00:52:09,680 --> 00:52:11,719
Speaker 1: but I'm even learning about myself as a woman, like

1209
00:52:12,320 --> 00:52:13,360
Speaker 1: I am very sensitive.

1210
00:52:13,400 --> 00:52:15,160
Speaker 4: I know I get defensive, but.

1211
00:52:15,520 --> 00:52:18,120
Speaker 1: Also like even for myself, I'll hold on to some

1212
00:52:18,160 --> 00:52:20,560
Speaker 1: shit for years, but I'm like, bitch, you need to

1213
00:52:20,640 --> 00:52:22,520
Speaker 1: if it's gonna bother you that much, you can remember

1214
00:52:22,520 --> 00:52:23,520
Speaker 1: it two years from now, you.

1215
00:52:23,480 --> 00:52:25,360
Speaker 3: Need to say it the fuck right now.

1216
00:52:25,800 --> 00:52:27,600
Speaker 1: But like sometimes like I don't know what it is

1217
00:52:27,640 --> 00:52:29,840
Speaker 1: about just saying like, hey girl, you said something to

1218
00:52:29,840 --> 00:52:31,640
Speaker 1: me the other day that hurt my feelings. You said

1219
00:52:31,640 --> 00:52:33,160
Speaker 1: something to me the other day that hurt my feelings. Actually,

1220
00:52:33,160 --> 00:52:34,480
Speaker 1: what did I tell you? I've been holding on in

1221
00:52:34,560 --> 00:52:38,080
Speaker 1: for two days now, come on, no, we can't.

1222
00:52:38,800 --> 00:52:39,719
Speaker 3: Let's deal with it.

1223
00:52:39,880 --> 00:52:42,839
Speaker 1: The other day two days ago, forty eight hours ago,

1224
00:52:42,920 --> 00:52:45,239
Speaker 1: you said, well, I was like, what was I I

1225
00:52:45,239 --> 00:52:46,799
Speaker 1: was about to go somewhere with my friend and she

1226
00:52:46,880 --> 00:52:49,000
Speaker 1: was like you need to stay, Like don't be like

1227
00:52:49,040 --> 00:52:51,120
Speaker 1: your baby daddy, Like you say, your baby daddy, doesn't

1228
00:52:51,160 --> 00:52:52,560
Speaker 1: drop her, just drop her off.

1229
00:52:52,680 --> 00:52:54,480
Speaker 3: And I was like, don't ever got married?

1230
00:52:54,680 --> 00:52:55,440
Speaker 5: I dy.

1231
00:52:57,040 --> 00:52:57,400
Speaker 3: Inside.

1232
00:52:57,400 --> 00:52:59,840
Speaker 1: I was like, but I didn't say anything for today's

1233
00:52:59,840 --> 00:53:01,759
Speaker 1: cause so obviously I know she loves me, and I

1234
00:53:01,800 --> 00:53:03,600
Speaker 1: know everything she says to me is because she's like, but.

1235
00:53:03,600 --> 00:53:04,320
Speaker 3: I hurt your feelings.

1236
00:53:04,320 --> 00:53:05,840
Speaker 1: She was looking out for me and looking out for

1237
00:53:05,880 --> 00:53:08,319
Speaker 1: my kid and like always has my best interests in mine.

1238
00:53:08,560 --> 00:53:10,960
Speaker 1: But I'm like, as a woman, as a like person,

1239
00:53:11,080 --> 00:53:13,400
Speaker 1: what the fuck about my grown ass, thirty three year

1240
00:53:13,440 --> 00:53:15,760
Speaker 1: old ass? And I'm not like, bitch, that hurt my feelings.

1241
00:53:15,760 --> 00:53:17,759
Speaker 1: But Erica is good at what she will do. If

1242
00:53:17,800 --> 00:53:19,640
Speaker 1: she says something, even if I'm not even thinking about it,

1243
00:53:19,719 --> 00:53:23,480
Speaker 1: she'd like, I'm sorry that I said this too. I apologize.

1244
00:53:23,560 --> 00:53:24,080
Speaker 3: That's good.

1245
00:53:24,160 --> 00:53:25,600
Speaker 2: I like, thank you well, and I'm sorry that I

1246
00:53:25,600 --> 00:53:27,600
Speaker 2: said that, because I know that that's not that that

1247
00:53:27,680 --> 00:53:30,319
Speaker 2: wasn't a good comparison at the time, And like, I

1248
00:53:30,360 --> 00:53:32,359
Speaker 2: think me and her had been like off of like

1249
00:53:32,560 --> 00:53:36,760
Speaker 2: this trip of like we've both had these intense interactions

1250
00:53:36,760 --> 00:53:39,759
Speaker 2: with our children's father, and we had just gotten our

1251
00:53:39,840 --> 00:53:42,080
Speaker 2: kids back, and like I was just feeling like very

1252
00:53:42,080 --> 00:53:44,759
Speaker 2: everything was like very sensitive to me, and like.

1253
00:53:44,960 --> 00:53:46,760
Speaker 3: I just was like on edge.

1254
00:53:47,080 --> 00:53:48,759
Speaker 2: And so I'm sorry that I said that to you,

1255
00:53:49,320 --> 00:53:52,080
Speaker 2: And I wasn't saying I didn't that wasn't the right comparison,

1256
00:53:52,080 --> 00:53:53,359
Speaker 2: But I really was saying that in love.

1257
00:53:53,560 --> 00:53:55,160
Speaker 3: No, I know, and I know that I know that.

1258
00:53:55,280 --> 00:53:57,960
Speaker 2: Concern for your for Luna because I love her so

1259
00:53:58,040 --> 00:53:59,920
Speaker 2: much and she's always can come with me. I know,

1260
00:54:00,160 --> 00:54:02,439
Speaker 2: I know, I know that was it, but it wasn't

1261
00:54:02,440 --> 00:54:04,279
Speaker 2: the right way. And I know I know myself. I

1262
00:54:04,320 --> 00:54:05,680
Speaker 2: know when I do it, and I'm like I was,

1263
00:54:07,600 --> 00:54:08,319
Speaker 2: but I was like then.

1264
00:54:08,239 --> 00:54:10,600
Speaker 3: I'm like, oh, I have to say something. I'm like

1265
00:54:10,640 --> 00:54:16,399
Speaker 3: maybe she didn't notice, and it's like.

1266
00:54:16,320 --> 00:54:19,120
Speaker 6: It's just like like the different conflict. That's oh my god,

1267
00:54:19,880 --> 00:54:20,480
Speaker 6: this is so cool.

1268
00:54:20,480 --> 00:54:22,200
Speaker 2: Well, speaking of this, because I you know, I wanted

1269
00:54:22,239 --> 00:54:24,840
Speaker 2: to ask you guys some questions about and just like

1270
00:54:25,160 --> 00:54:28,680
Speaker 2: I feel like these are conversations too that like are uncomfortable, right,

1271
00:54:28,719 --> 00:54:30,520
Speaker 2: like that we don't always have with our friends, and

1272
00:54:30,560 --> 00:54:32,640
Speaker 2: we don't ask these certain questions because you're.

1273
00:54:32,440 --> 00:54:34,120
Speaker 3: Like, oh, like they're uncomfortable.

1274
00:54:34,120 --> 00:54:35,920
Speaker 2: I wanted to get upset, and it's like but we

1275
00:54:35,960 --> 00:54:38,279
Speaker 2: want to like sit in front of you know, our

1276
00:54:38,320 --> 00:54:40,120
Speaker 2: partners and men and we want to dig deep.

1277
00:54:40,160 --> 00:54:45,600
Speaker 3: And I don't do this with niggas either.

1278
00:54:45,640 --> 00:54:47,919
Speaker 4: Okay, you're a liar.

1279
00:54:48,680 --> 00:54:49,239
Speaker 3: No, no, no.

1280
00:54:49,360 --> 00:54:52,040
Speaker 5: That was my biggest issue with my ex. He was

1281
00:54:52,080 --> 00:54:55,799
Speaker 5: like you just like the like right before we broke up,

1282
00:54:56,080 --> 00:54:57,920
Speaker 5: he did some stupid shit. I couldn't even do it.

1283
00:54:57,960 --> 00:54:59,320
Speaker 5: I was like, I grab my ship. I was like,

1284
00:54:59,440 --> 00:55:01,279
Speaker 5: I'm leaving and he was like on the floor, like no,

1285
00:55:02,719 --> 00:55:04,000
Speaker 5: and I was like, I don't want to talk to you.

1286
00:55:04,080 --> 00:55:05,680
Speaker 5: He was like, what is the issue? I was like, fuck,

1287
00:55:05,760 --> 00:55:10,240
Speaker 5: youn't even like sit and I'm packing that I can't.

1288
00:55:10,120 --> 00:55:10,480
Speaker 3: I can't.

1289
00:55:10,719 --> 00:55:12,480
Speaker 6: I feel like that's because you had had enough though,

1290
00:55:12,480 --> 00:55:14,200
Speaker 6: But I feel like, okay, I feel like you do

1291
00:55:14,200 --> 00:55:15,880
Speaker 6: it more with men than you do Yes.

1292
00:55:15,680 --> 00:55:16,560
Speaker 3: But we all do that.

1293
00:55:17,800 --> 00:55:19,440
Speaker 5: It's more of the second chances, but less of me

1294
00:55:19,480 --> 00:55:22,200
Speaker 5: being like vocal about my frustrations. And so he's always like,

1295
00:55:22,200 --> 00:55:26,479
Speaker 5: I cannot read your mind, shutdah, And I'm like, why try?

1296
00:55:26,520 --> 00:55:29,320
Speaker 3: And I can't pretty obvious, Hell have you known me?

1297
00:55:29,360 --> 00:55:31,520
Speaker 4: You should be able to read my He're.

1298
00:55:31,360 --> 00:55:33,640
Speaker 5: On some buckshit and that's why I'm mad. And I

1299
00:55:33,640 --> 00:55:35,120
Speaker 5: don't even need to tell your bitch ass.

1300
00:55:35,239 --> 00:55:37,840
Speaker 1: But it's so necessary as women and as like human

1301
00:55:37,880 --> 00:55:40,080
Speaker 1: beings that we can, like even to say that to

1302
00:55:40,200 --> 00:55:42,120
Speaker 1: Eric has like I had to first recognize that's a trigger,

1303
00:55:42,120 --> 00:55:44,799
Speaker 1: that it triggered me, yes, and then like work, you

1304
00:55:44,800 --> 00:55:46,800
Speaker 1: know what I mean, like a lot of times, or

1305
00:55:46,880 --> 00:55:49,360
Speaker 1: that shit makes made me uncomfortable or that. Like I

1306
00:55:49,400 --> 00:55:52,160
Speaker 1: had an ex boyfriend and I was going through something

1307
00:55:52,200 --> 00:55:53,919
Speaker 1: and I told him on the phone like I'm so mad,

1308
00:55:53,960 --> 00:55:56,040
Speaker 1: like something with my mom, which was so personal.

1309
00:55:56,080 --> 00:55:57,920
Speaker 4: But then like later that night he came to pick

1310
00:55:57,960 --> 00:55:59,520
Speaker 4: me up and he was like, let's talk. And I

1311
00:55:59,560 --> 00:56:02,560
Speaker 4: was like, oh, Tom, But.

1312
00:56:02,560 --> 00:56:04,400
Speaker 1: It was like I told this nigga about my problem

1313
00:56:04,480 --> 00:56:05,719
Speaker 1: and now I want to talk about it because that's

1314
00:56:05,719 --> 00:56:06,839
Speaker 1: what you do on relationships.

1315
00:56:06,840 --> 00:56:07,279
Speaker 3: But I had to.

1316
00:56:07,560 --> 00:56:09,960
Speaker 4: I had to deal with myself that I am a.

1317
00:56:09,960 --> 00:56:12,840
Speaker 1: Very touchy, cuddly, I love you person, but like sometimes

1318
00:56:12,840 --> 00:56:15,399
Speaker 1: when it comes to really digging deep about my own shit,

1319
00:56:15,760 --> 00:56:18,120
Speaker 1: I'm not really I'll dig deep into your shit all day.

1320
00:56:18,160 --> 00:56:20,000
Speaker 4: I love on you, you need to cuddle, but when

1321
00:56:20,000 --> 00:56:20,520
Speaker 4: it comes to.

1322
00:56:20,480 --> 00:56:23,440
Speaker 1: Me, I'm not that comfortable about like a addressing my feelings.

1323
00:56:24,040 --> 00:56:26,880
Speaker 1: But it's just a strange thing because I thought that

1324
00:56:26,880 --> 00:56:28,440
Speaker 1: that was something I was good at because I'm good

1325
00:56:28,440 --> 00:56:30,640
Speaker 1: at it with other people. So it's just like being

1326
00:56:30,719 --> 00:56:33,680
Speaker 1: self aware is such a like you to be self

1327
00:56:33,719 --> 00:56:36,920
Speaker 1: aware in your like platonic friendships with your girlfriends and

1328
00:56:36,960 --> 00:56:39,319
Speaker 1: in your love relationships and with yourself is the only

1329
00:56:39,360 --> 00:56:41,799
Speaker 1: way that you can like actually improve as a human being.

1330
00:56:42,000 --> 00:56:43,359
Speaker 5: I have a question, and I might fuck your whole

1331
00:56:43,360 --> 00:56:44,759
Speaker 5: shit up because I see you holding your phone like

1332
00:56:44,760 --> 00:56:46,440
Speaker 5: you're ready for like the things I'm not.

1333
00:56:46,640 --> 00:56:47,560
Speaker 3: I'm not. I remember here.

1334
00:56:47,600 --> 00:56:50,160
Speaker 5: I'm like cool, Okay, I'm gonna ask my question and

1335
00:56:50,280 --> 00:56:51,200
Speaker 5: I want to get to your point.

1336
00:56:51,239 --> 00:56:54,600
Speaker 3: Okay, do you is it sup? Personal?

1337
00:56:54,760 --> 00:56:56,480
Speaker 4: Do you beat your kids?

1338
00:56:56,800 --> 00:57:01,319
Speaker 3: Not be like good ass? Do I spank my child?

1339
00:57:01,400 --> 00:57:01,920
Speaker 3: I guess I have.

1340
00:57:02,080 --> 00:57:05,080
Speaker 2: I've definitely spanked my child. I have definitely versus beat

1341
00:57:05,160 --> 00:57:08,439
Speaker 2: that's he got beat. Okay, what's the different like close fist,

1342
00:57:08,480 --> 00:57:10,480
Speaker 2: open hand, like that's the difference. Is that the difference

1343
00:57:10,480 --> 00:57:14,279
Speaker 2: between because my daughter's beat me and I definitely hit

1344
00:57:14,280 --> 00:57:15,919
Speaker 2: her back because I told her I was I don't

1345
00:57:15,920 --> 00:57:17,840
Speaker 2: ever hit me unless you want to get hit back, period,

1346
00:57:18,440 --> 00:57:21,320
Speaker 2: And that's just life, and that's just life in general.

1347
00:57:21,600 --> 00:57:22,960
Speaker 3: Have I spanked her? Yes?

1348
00:57:23,160 --> 00:57:26,320
Speaker 2: I have I I know, like there's you know, people

1349
00:57:26,320 --> 00:57:28,960
Speaker 2: that are like anti hitting kids, and I support that

1350
00:57:29,000 --> 00:57:32,320
Speaker 2: as well. But I'm a black woman, I'm a black mother,

1351
00:57:32,600 --> 00:57:35,480
Speaker 2: And don't say I'm just saying. I'm not saying it's

1352
00:57:35,640 --> 00:57:38,560
Speaker 2: the black way, but this is these are the ways.

1353
00:57:38,560 --> 00:57:39,160
Speaker 3: Like my father.

1354
00:57:39,920 --> 00:57:42,240
Speaker 2: I was fearful of my father because all he had

1355
00:57:42,280 --> 00:57:44,800
Speaker 2: to do was what my ass one time. And I

1356
00:57:44,920 --> 00:57:47,080
Speaker 2: was like, oh no, no, no, okay, But that's the

1357
00:57:47,440 --> 00:57:49,400
Speaker 2: and the queer is the way. But and and and

1358
00:57:49,480 --> 00:57:52,040
Speaker 2: I don't necessarily think fear is the way. That's not

1359
00:57:52,360 --> 00:57:54,840
Speaker 2: that's not how I want my daughter to navigate in

1360
00:57:54,880 --> 00:57:57,560
Speaker 2: our relationship. But there is a level of respect. And

1361
00:57:57,600 --> 00:58:00,200
Speaker 2: these kids be wilding the fuck out and there is

1362
00:58:00,240 --> 00:58:02,160
Speaker 2: no reasoning with a three year old who's having a

1363
00:58:02,200 --> 00:58:04,600
Speaker 2: fucking meltdown at the mall in front of everyone for

1364
00:58:04,640 --> 00:58:07,840
Speaker 2: the fourth hundredth time. And I'm tired and I haven't

1365
00:58:07,840 --> 00:58:09,040
Speaker 2: slept because you were up all night.

1366
00:58:09,520 --> 00:58:12,840
Speaker 5: Yeah, And like we moms lose their shit sometimes. Absolutely

1367
00:58:13,320 --> 00:58:15,520
Speaker 5: I understand that. But I think a lot of my

1368
00:58:15,880 --> 00:58:17,520
Speaker 5: and I've talked to my therapists about this, so this

1369
00:58:17,560 --> 00:58:19,280
Speaker 5: is like nothing new, but I think a lot of

1370
00:58:19,320 --> 00:58:23,280
Speaker 5: my challenges with emoting and like handling conflict was like

1371
00:58:23,600 --> 00:58:26,640
Speaker 5: the minute I got frustrated and something happened, my mom

1372
00:58:26,720 --> 00:58:28,479
Speaker 5: was just like beating my ass. So I wasn't able

1373
00:58:28,480 --> 00:58:30,640
Speaker 5: to be like, well, Mom, I'm.

1374
00:58:30,480 --> 00:58:32,880
Speaker 3: Upset, I'm feeling this, I'm feeling this.

1375
00:58:33,200 --> 00:58:35,240
Speaker 5: And so it was and listen, she and I she

1376
00:58:35,280 --> 00:58:37,720
Speaker 5: already knows vibes. She came from a crazy ass family herself.

1377
00:58:37,760 --> 00:58:39,960
Speaker 5: So like, it's just like one of those things where

1378
00:58:39,960 --> 00:58:43,160
Speaker 5: I realized that that not only impacts your relationship with

1379
00:58:43,200 --> 00:58:46,120
Speaker 5: your parents, your friends, your loved ones, where it's like

1380
00:58:46,480 --> 00:58:48,680
Speaker 5: I feel like a lot of times I wasn't given

1381
00:58:48,840 --> 00:58:51,920
Speaker 5: like the your voice, your voice didn't matter correct, and

1382
00:58:51,960 --> 00:58:54,280
Speaker 5: it was just like what are you crying for.

1383
00:58:54,320 --> 00:58:55,160
Speaker 4: Or that day?

1384
00:58:55,240 --> 00:58:56,960
Speaker 1: And I'll give you a reason to cry, yeah, And

1385
00:58:57,000 --> 00:59:00,480
Speaker 1: I was like, my nigga, I'm already crying about it.

1386
00:59:00,480 --> 00:59:01,880
Speaker 3: This shit is fucking crazy. Yeah.

1387
00:59:01,920 --> 00:59:03,320
Speaker 5: And so I talked to my therapist about this a

1388
00:59:03,400 --> 00:59:05,720
Speaker 5: lot because I'm like, yo, I have such a hard

1389
00:59:05,720 --> 00:59:09,160
Speaker 5: time like even identifying those emotions because it was like

1390
00:59:09,240 --> 00:59:13,040
Speaker 5: I feel like so stunted and that shit is fucking hard.

1391
00:59:13,200 --> 00:59:15,000
Speaker 3: And that's why is my point.

1392
00:59:15,040 --> 00:59:17,400
Speaker 6: I feel like you like being around people that only

1393
00:59:17,400 --> 00:59:20,720
Speaker 6: give you the happy emotion all the time. Mmm, Like

1394
00:59:20,800 --> 00:59:24,240
Speaker 6: if they give any challenge, like, oh I'm confronting you

1395
00:59:24,280 --> 00:59:25,600
Speaker 6: because of this, you like run.

1396
00:59:25,480 --> 00:59:29,320
Speaker 3: Away from them. No, no, not my vibe? Yeah too much.

1397
00:59:29,840 --> 00:59:32,120
Speaker 3: I wonder if I'm connected. I have Pamela tomorrow.

1398
00:59:34,440 --> 00:59:35,760
Speaker 4: I mean I say this all the time.

1399
00:59:35,880 --> 00:59:39,040
Speaker 1: I'm like, the childhood trauma coming out in adulthood is real,

1400
00:59:39,120 --> 00:59:42,960
Speaker 1: and like I didn't I did get beat, but like

1401
00:59:43,040 --> 00:59:44,960
Speaker 1: not all the time. I got ignored a lot, and

1402
00:59:45,040 --> 00:59:46,760
Speaker 1: I gotta like, oh, you're okay, shut the fuck up,

1403
00:59:47,360 --> 00:59:49,680
Speaker 1: and like that was just like the way we communicate

1404
00:59:49,720 --> 00:59:50,320
Speaker 1: in our family.

1405
00:59:50,440 --> 00:59:51,919
Speaker 3: And so that probably is.

1406
00:59:51,800 --> 00:59:55,640
Speaker 1: The reason why I don't like I'm emotional and shit,

1407
00:59:55,720 --> 00:59:59,400
Speaker 1: but I'm not necessarily super expressive about my emotions.

1408
00:59:59,840 --> 01:00:01,600
Speaker 3: Like I'll talk all day with you and get.

1409
01:00:01,440 --> 01:00:03,440
Speaker 1: Deep, but it doesn't have to be like necessarily emotionally

1410
01:00:03,440 --> 01:00:06,280
Speaker 1: deep about myself. But like I'm realizing and shout out

1411
01:00:06,320 --> 01:00:08,520
Speaker 1: to Jessica Rose because she's big on like the not

1412
01:00:08,920 --> 01:00:11,000
Speaker 1: hitting your kids, and I totally understand that.

1413
01:00:11,080 --> 01:00:14,000
Speaker 4: And like, for obvious reasons, you can't just go like shut.

1414
01:00:13,800 --> 01:00:14,240
Speaker 3: The fuck up.

1415
01:00:14,480 --> 01:00:14,680
Speaker 6: You know.

1416
01:00:14,800 --> 01:00:17,080
Speaker 1: I can't do that at work, can't do that at McDonald's.

1417
01:00:17,080 --> 01:00:20,000
Speaker 1: You just can't be beaten people. And I've definitely spanked

1418
01:00:20,080 --> 01:00:21,840
Speaker 1: my kid and I noticed early like damn if I

1419
01:00:21,840 --> 01:00:24,120
Speaker 1: don't do it really hard, she's just not faced.

1420
01:00:24,600 --> 01:00:26,880
Speaker 2: But as as she also it hurts you more than

1421
01:00:27,200 --> 01:00:27,800
Speaker 2: them half the time.

1422
01:00:27,880 --> 01:00:28,960
Speaker 3: And I know, but as she.

1423
01:00:28,920 --> 01:00:31,160
Speaker 4: Gets older, and I'm like, I birthed the.

1424
01:00:31,160 --> 01:00:35,280
Speaker 1: Black child, Why are you acting Caucasian? This is not

1425
01:00:35,320 --> 01:00:37,200
Speaker 1: what I fucking signed up for. Like one time she

1426
01:00:37,240 --> 01:00:39,840
Speaker 1: went in her room like was kicking the door. Yeah, no,

1427
01:00:40,040 --> 01:00:41,240
Speaker 1: I was like, who the hoo?

1428
01:00:41,240 --> 01:00:43,000
Speaker 3: On the fuck? Where do they get that from? Do

1429
01:00:43,040 --> 01:00:43,959
Speaker 3: you think they see it on TV?

1430
01:00:44,120 --> 01:00:45,280
Speaker 4: I think Friends TV?

1431
01:00:45,720 --> 01:00:49,320
Speaker 1: Like yeah, all of the above, and just the spirit

1432
01:00:49,960 --> 01:00:53,640
Speaker 1: the spirit, and so let's see what happens. How bad

1433
01:00:53,680 --> 01:00:55,640
Speaker 1: can she beat me? And I've realized, like just like

1434
01:00:55,640 --> 01:00:57,920
Speaker 1: a pop, she don't really give a fuck.

1435
01:00:57,960 --> 01:01:00,000
Speaker 4: I'll be like, I gotta really abuse you.

1436
01:01:00,520 --> 01:01:01,960
Speaker 3: I'm going to do it. I gotta go there.

1437
01:01:02,080 --> 01:01:03,720
Speaker 4: Huh, You're really gonna make a bitch try it.

1438
01:01:04,160 --> 01:01:06,400
Speaker 1: But like as I get older, like as she gets older,

1439
01:01:06,440 --> 01:01:09,240
Speaker 1: I'm just like trying not because I'm very impatient. I

1440
01:01:09,240 --> 01:01:11,160
Speaker 1: tell Eric on the way out here, I'm like they

1441
01:01:11,160 --> 01:01:13,800
Speaker 1: were talking, they're just like singing off key for like

1442
01:01:13,840 --> 01:01:14,960
Speaker 1: twenty minutes straight.

1443
01:01:15,520 --> 01:01:19,920
Speaker 4: I'm like I can't, literally drives me nuts.

1444
01:01:19,920 --> 01:01:21,720
Speaker 1: I'm like, what the fuck you have to be so

1445
01:01:21,840 --> 01:01:25,080
Speaker 1: loud for like so irritating. But I'm like, bitch, you

1446
01:01:25,120 --> 01:01:27,200
Speaker 1: need patience and you need to calm down, you know,

1447
01:01:27,360 --> 01:01:30,880
Speaker 1: like I'm like trying to talk myself down, but also

1448
01:01:31,000 --> 01:01:33,400
Speaker 1: like you have to give your kids space to communicate

1449
01:01:33,400 --> 01:01:35,680
Speaker 1: and to feel. But also like you could do all that,

1450
01:01:35,720 --> 01:01:36,720
Speaker 1: but shit's not gonna happen.

1451
01:01:36,800 --> 01:01:37,600
Speaker 4: You just won't get shit.

1452
01:01:38,360 --> 01:01:40,640
Speaker 1: And I try to tell them like because we spoiled

1453
01:01:40,640 --> 01:01:42,320
Speaker 1: the fuck out of our kids, Like our kids just

1454
01:01:42,360 --> 01:01:45,920
Speaker 1: flew out here together. They're in camp, they're in cinema camp,

1455
01:01:45,960 --> 01:01:48,800
Speaker 1: and shit, like they are free children. But also like

1456
01:01:49,640 --> 01:01:51,880
Speaker 1: it's hard to get like it's hard to discipline, and

1457
01:01:51,920 --> 01:01:55,080
Speaker 1: also not I don't recommend it, but good luck.

1458
01:01:56,000 --> 01:02:01,360
Speaker 3: Yeah I didn't. Really I got like three beating. Oh girl.

1459
01:02:02,000 --> 01:02:04,080
Speaker 5: I used to lock myself in the bathroom because I

1460
01:02:04,120 --> 01:02:06,280
Speaker 5: was like, I'm about to get fucked that you are.

1461
01:02:06,160 --> 01:02:06,960
Speaker 3: A different kind of kid.

1462
01:02:06,960 --> 01:02:09,160
Speaker 6: Though you would talk back, I mean not saying you

1463
01:02:09,200 --> 01:02:11,840
Speaker 6: deserved it, but you would talk differently than I would

1464
01:02:11,840 --> 01:02:12,320
Speaker 6: speak to.

1465
01:02:12,280 --> 01:02:15,520
Speaker 3: My Well, yes, yes, yes, but my mom, you're just spicy.

1466
01:02:15,800 --> 01:02:16,000
Speaker 3: I was.

1467
01:02:17,480 --> 01:02:19,600
Speaker 5: I think one day I said to my mom, my

1468
01:02:19,640 --> 01:02:21,000
Speaker 5: mom was beating me as a teenager.

1469
01:02:21,040 --> 01:02:21,960
Speaker 3: I was like, this is the ghetto.

1470
01:02:23,200 --> 01:02:25,080
Speaker 5: And I was like, you need to use your words.

1471
01:02:28,080 --> 01:02:29,200
Speaker 4: She was like what did you say?

1472
01:02:29,280 --> 01:02:32,920
Speaker 3: And I was like, use your words? What is that?

1473
01:02:32,960 --> 01:02:35,400
Speaker 3: Probably pissed her off, like why are we like why

1474
01:02:35,440 --> 01:02:37,560
Speaker 3: are we low key fighting? What is happening?

1475
01:02:37,640 --> 01:02:40,320
Speaker 5: Like, I'm sixteen years old, I'm gonna least.

1476
01:02:40,320 --> 01:02:42,080
Speaker 1: I've never been that way, Like I will beat you up,

1477
01:02:42,200 --> 01:02:43,920
Speaker 1: like I told her, like, my natural instinct is to

1478
01:02:44,040 --> 01:02:46,320
Speaker 1: hit you back. So good luck that happened. I told

1479
01:02:46,320 --> 01:02:47,600
Speaker 1: my mom that, I'm like, you realize, like if you

1480
01:02:47,640 --> 01:02:48,520
Speaker 1: hit me, I'm gonna hit you back.

1481
01:02:48,560 --> 01:02:51,200
Speaker 3: Ye at a certain age, Yeah, you give it up.

1482
01:02:51,480 --> 01:02:55,120
Speaker 6: She didn't be my ash. Yeah, we've had a tussel

1483
01:02:55,160 --> 01:02:58,800
Speaker 6: or two. I'm embarrassed. This is very ghetto.

1484
01:02:58,880 --> 01:03:00,840
Speaker 1: I am embarrassed to admit that I have fought my

1485
01:03:00,880 --> 01:03:05,960
Speaker 1: mom like in adulhood, like more than once twice specifically.

1486
01:03:06,280 --> 01:03:10,800
Speaker 4: She'd beat my ass both times. She's not that much

1487
01:03:10,840 --> 01:03:11,440
Speaker 4: bigger than me.

1488
01:03:11,640 --> 01:03:13,320
Speaker 1: She's definitely done that time.

1489
01:03:13,800 --> 01:03:17,560
Speaker 3: Has that mommy power. She has that tago would be

1490
01:03:17,600 --> 01:03:20,880
Speaker 3: working out. Your mom can outrun you any day. I'm like,

1491
01:03:20,920 --> 01:03:22,080
Speaker 3: I'm actually be her ass.

1492
01:03:22,280 --> 01:03:24,320
Speaker 2: Her mom would be up, I'd be the personal trainer.

1493
01:03:24,360 --> 01:03:25,640
Speaker 2: Her mom would be up next. And I was like,

1494
01:03:25,640 --> 01:03:28,040
Speaker 2: where's to me. She's like, I don't know, Like your.

1495
01:03:27,920 --> 01:03:30,040
Speaker 3: Mom was up at seventy am working out.

1496
01:03:30,080 --> 01:03:33,440
Speaker 1: Okay, but I never want that, Like I never want

1497
01:03:33,560 --> 01:03:36,040
Speaker 1: to be a fucking a grown up. I mean, I'm

1498
01:03:36,040 --> 01:03:37,800
Speaker 1: already grown out someone but learned to be grown And

1499
01:03:37,840 --> 01:03:41,720
Speaker 1: we're fucking so in the ghetto though we're fighting each other.

1500
01:03:41,800 --> 01:03:43,440
Speaker 3: We've got to get out of the ghetto. We got to.

1501
01:03:43,600 --> 01:03:46,080
Speaker 1: We got a heel, like the cycle, we have to

1502
01:03:46,160 --> 01:03:50,640
Speaker 1: and like here we are talking confronting our friendship issues

1503
01:03:50,680 --> 01:03:52,520
Speaker 1: on fucking microphone.

1504
01:03:52,600 --> 01:03:54,160
Speaker 4: I love it.

1505
01:03:54,880 --> 01:03:58,120
Speaker 2: Oh my gosh, thank you ladies for coming on the pod.

1506
01:04:00,920 --> 01:04:02,479
Speaker 3: I think this is Gwendolen's bitch ass.

1507
01:04:02,720 --> 01:04:09,000
Speaker 4: Oh decided Gwendolin it's gonna be employee of the month

1508
01:04:09,000 --> 01:04:09,960
Speaker 4: because she won't listen to.

1509
01:04:14,400 --> 01:04:16,240
Speaker 3: Well or can we do the tarot card thing?

1510
01:04:16,440 --> 01:04:18,400
Speaker 1: Well, I think we're gonna do it later, Okay, Yeah,

1511
01:04:18,520 --> 01:04:21,919
Speaker 1: but I did want to ask I did last time.

1512
01:04:22,640 --> 01:04:23,959
Speaker 4: I don't know when you came on our show.

1513
01:04:23,960 --> 01:04:30,600
Speaker 1: You guys had such a wonderful, memorable, beautiful, uh horrse story?

1514
01:04:31,840 --> 01:04:34,720
Speaker 3: Oh what was it? Was it YouTube? Yeah? The train?

1515
01:04:34,840 --> 01:04:35,240
Speaker 3: The train?

1516
01:04:35,560 --> 01:04:42,160
Speaker 6: But that nobody or was that glennon? Oh we told both? Okay,

1517
01:04:42,240 --> 01:04:44,440
Speaker 6: tell AHOs story. You've had a few recently, so like

1518
01:04:44,560 --> 01:04:45,520
Speaker 6: I want I want a new one.

1519
01:04:45,800 --> 01:04:47,320
Speaker 1: First of all, I feel like me and Shade should

1520
01:04:47,320 --> 01:04:48,640
Speaker 1: never hang out on the supervised.

1521
01:04:49,160 --> 01:04:50,360
Speaker 3: I'd be like, where are you guys?

1522
01:04:50,360 --> 01:04:51,960
Speaker 4: Like we just came to Spain.

1523
01:04:52,360 --> 01:04:54,120
Speaker 3: We met a guy on the train and he said, come,

1524
01:04:56,480 --> 01:04:58,080
Speaker 3: they are going to be like where these bitches.

1525
01:05:00,160 --> 01:05:04,320
Speaker 5: A whole story? Well one, I just told the sporting story.

1526
01:05:04,520 --> 01:05:07,800
Speaker 5: So I feel like, should I retell I have one

1527
01:05:07,840 --> 01:05:08,720
Speaker 5: from like two days ago?

1528
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Speaker 4: Oh?

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01:05:09,160 --> 01:05:12,440
Speaker 3: Yeah, share it. We love freshies, freshies. Okay. So I've

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01:05:12,440 --> 01:05:13,440
Speaker 3: been seeing this guy.

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01:05:14,840 --> 01:05:18,680
Speaker 5: And it's been it's been going pretty pretty nice. And

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01:05:19,320 --> 01:05:21,080
Speaker 5: we were all hanging out. Glenn was actually with us,

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01:05:21,360 --> 01:05:21,880
Speaker 5: and I was like.

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Speaker 3: Let's go back to my place to watch a movie.

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01:05:23,960 --> 01:05:26,680
Speaker 5: Whole time I was ready to trap trap that nigga

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01:05:26,720 --> 01:05:30,200
Speaker 5: in Matt Chris and so Glenn had to get something

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01:05:30,240 --> 01:05:34,400
Speaker 5: and he like carried her ac into her apartment. So gentleman,

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01:05:34,600 --> 01:05:37,600
Speaker 5: such a gentleman, and then she was like, uh, so,

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01:05:37,800 --> 01:05:39,840
Speaker 5: like do you still want me to come watch a

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01:05:39,880 --> 01:05:41,920
Speaker 5: movie with you? And I was like, oh, well, I know,

1541
01:05:42,040 --> 01:05:44,040
Speaker 5: like you you're home and like, you know, you probably

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01:05:44,080 --> 01:05:46,160
Speaker 5: don't really want to, and she was like I mean,

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01:05:46,320 --> 01:05:48,640
Speaker 5: she was like, I mean I can't, and I was like, no,

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01:05:48,880 --> 01:05:50,920
Speaker 5: it should be comfortable. At the same time, I was

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01:05:50,920 --> 01:05:53,120
Speaker 5: trying not to look like a fiend, but I was

1546
01:05:53,160 --> 01:05:55,680
Speaker 5: like and she was like, yeah, I'm gonna say my

1547
01:05:55,720 --> 01:05:57,400
Speaker 5: ass here. And then he was like, oh, well, I'll

1548
01:05:57,440 --> 01:05:59,360
Speaker 5: still watch the movie with you. So we went back.

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01:05:59,760 --> 01:06:02,080
Speaker 5: Wasn't no fucking movie going on. Next thing, I know,

1550
01:06:02,800 --> 01:06:05,360
Speaker 5: couch busting it wide open, long boom.

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01:06:05,520 --> 01:06:09,680
Speaker 3: That ship was amazing. I was like, wow, wow.

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01:06:10,920 --> 01:06:13,240
Speaker 5: On my like brand new, not that new, but my

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01:06:13,400 --> 01:06:16,880
Speaker 5: nice leather cow. Then we take that ship upstairs. Glen

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01:06:16,880 --> 01:06:19,240
Speaker 5: will hear this because we have we had you got upstairs,

1555
01:06:19,240 --> 01:06:21,880
Speaker 5: you rich New York City.

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01:06:22,640 --> 01:06:23,240
Speaker 3: Glenn knows this.

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01:06:23,600 --> 01:06:25,640
Speaker 5: I hadn't sucked his dick yet because I was really

1558
01:06:25,640 --> 01:06:27,200
Speaker 5: scared of it.

1559
01:06:27,360 --> 01:06:27,800
Speaker 3: Really big.

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01:06:27,880 --> 01:06:30,000
Speaker 5: It's big, but like we didn't have had like the

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01:06:30,000 --> 01:06:33,479
Speaker 5: FLA exchange. And then he was like that's sixty nine

1562
01:06:33,520 --> 01:06:38,720
Speaker 5: and I was like yeah, yeah, yeah. So like that

1563
01:06:38,880 --> 01:06:41,240
Speaker 5: was so fire and we were just like fucking all

1564
01:06:41,280 --> 01:06:43,120
Speaker 5: over my bed, like all on the edge, all over.

1565
01:06:43,200 --> 01:06:45,120
Speaker 5: I had to go open up the fucking new fan.

1566
01:06:45,240 --> 01:06:46,640
Speaker 5: I got a new fan. I was like, bitch, let

1567
01:06:46,640 --> 01:06:48,920
Speaker 5: me get this fan. We're naked like opening while I'm

1568
01:06:48,920 --> 01:06:54,160
Speaker 5: doing so many Like we had to literally open up

1569
01:06:54,160 --> 01:06:54,680
Speaker 5: like the new fan.

1570
01:06:54,720 --> 01:06:56,280
Speaker 3: I just got delivered because it was so hot.

1571
01:06:56,680 --> 01:07:00,600
Speaker 5: But like we just can fuck like non stop and

1572
01:07:00,640 --> 01:07:04,640
Speaker 5: it is so good, but it's so different than the

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01:07:04,720 --> 01:07:06,880
Speaker 5: other guy and fucking that made me squirt and like

1574
01:07:06,960 --> 01:07:10,880
Speaker 5: I almost want to like conjoin the maybe lets.

1575
01:07:10,680 --> 01:07:11,280
Speaker 3: Them run a train.

1576
01:07:11,320 --> 01:07:13,080
Speaker 4: Wait, wait, would you do a male male female because

1577
01:07:13,120 --> 01:07:13,560
Speaker 4: that's when.

1578
01:07:13,520 --> 01:07:15,320
Speaker 3: I would definitely do a ma male female.

1579
01:07:16,800 --> 01:07:18,160
Speaker 4: That's my wish to baby Jesus.

1580
01:07:19,760 --> 01:07:20,640
Speaker 3: She would not do it.

1581
01:07:20,720 --> 01:07:21,360
Speaker 4: I was like, you.

1582
01:07:21,360 --> 01:07:23,760
Speaker 3: Would do that? Would you do dp? I would do

1583
01:07:23,800 --> 01:07:25,520
Speaker 3: it all. Just bring me two niggas that are down.

1584
01:07:25,600 --> 01:07:27,600
Speaker 2: I was working on it. I was working on it,

1585
01:07:27,640 --> 01:07:28,840
Speaker 2: but then when theyggat started tripping.

1586
01:07:28,920 --> 01:07:32,600
Speaker 3: Let's alsay a prayer, Please God, Hey guys, dear God,

1587
01:07:32,760 --> 01:07:33,120
Speaker 3: do that.

1588
01:07:34,200 --> 01:07:36,440
Speaker 1: Please God, you shut the fuck up and don't interrupt

1589
01:07:36,440 --> 01:07:39,720
Speaker 1: our ship with God. Dear God, please, can you please

1590
01:07:39,720 --> 01:07:43,040
Speaker 1: include black girls texting and good Mom's about choices minus

1591
01:07:43,120 --> 01:07:49,120
Speaker 1: Chelsea for a male male female beautiful three way love, platonic, respectful,

1592
01:07:49,200 --> 01:07:52,200
Speaker 1: all about us three way if it includes DP or

1593
01:07:52,240 --> 01:07:54,720
Speaker 1: maybe one person on the titty, one person on the pussy, Yes,

1594
01:07:54,760 --> 01:07:55,440
Speaker 1: we would.

1595
01:07:55,320 --> 01:07:58,000
Speaker 4: Really we would really love you and we would.

1596
01:07:57,800 --> 01:07:58,480
Speaker 3: Really love that.

1597
01:07:58,840 --> 01:08:01,440
Speaker 1: And so also include a miss and like maybe a

1598
01:08:01,440 --> 01:08:05,720
Speaker 1: fourhand massage just to jump it off, and maybe some ice.

1599
01:08:05,720 --> 01:08:07,080
Speaker 3: Maybe like grapes being fed to me.

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01:08:07,640 --> 01:08:11,320
Speaker 6: Yeah, those eyes are actually fruit to get on your knees.

1601
01:08:11,840 --> 01:08:13,840
Speaker 4: Fruit should the mic won't go there.

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01:08:14,160 --> 01:08:17,040
Speaker 1: Fruit should also be included, Dear God, Amen, and air

1603
01:08:17,080 --> 01:08:17,840
Speaker 1: conditioning Amen.

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01:08:19,040 --> 01:08:19,320
Speaker 3: Amen.

1605
01:08:19,600 --> 01:08:23,559
Speaker 5: Yeah, Amen, that's the affirmation for the day. That is

1606
01:08:23,600 --> 01:08:26,040
Speaker 5: it the way I want a four him number one.

1607
01:08:26,080 --> 01:08:27,600
Speaker 5: Anytime I get a massage and get turned on, it

1608
01:08:27,600 --> 01:08:29,720
Speaker 5: could be an eighty or a woman I'm like immediately

1609
01:08:29,720 --> 01:08:33,840
Speaker 5: turned on. And my dream is a forehand massage from

1610
01:08:33,920 --> 01:08:35,559
Speaker 5: two niggas with a happy ending.

1611
01:08:36,040 --> 01:08:38,519
Speaker 2: I recently had had a happy in Costa Rica and

1612
01:08:39,680 --> 01:08:40,679
Speaker 2: what I highly recommend.

1613
01:08:40,720 --> 01:08:41,960
Speaker 3: That's my dream.

1614
01:08:42,000 --> 01:08:43,680
Speaker 2: I've already shared on the podcast, but I'll tell you

1615
01:08:43,720 --> 01:08:44,800
Speaker 2: about all about it later.

1616
01:08:44,920 --> 01:08:46,400
Speaker 3: It's it's just it's the.

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01:08:46,400 --> 01:08:49,720
Speaker 2: Complete, it completes the massage. There's no reason to have

1618
01:08:49,720 --> 01:08:52,160
Speaker 2: a massage and not have a happy est. Literally literally,

1619
01:08:52,280 --> 01:08:55,320
Speaker 2: it just completes it. It really is the ultimate ending release.

1620
01:08:55,160 --> 01:08:58,320
Speaker 5: Because you're so stimulated and then like a blue ball.

1621
01:08:58,479 --> 01:09:01,559
Speaker 6: Yeah, when I get a massage, something happens with my

1622
01:09:01,680 --> 01:09:04,680
Speaker 6: like my digestive system, and I always.

1623
01:09:04,439 --> 01:09:08,320
Speaker 2: Have to poop when it worked for me, because okay

1624
01:09:08,479 --> 01:09:10,160
Speaker 2: immediately or like afterwards, like.

1625
01:09:10,200 --> 01:09:12,559
Speaker 6: During like the second half of the massage, I'm always like,

1626
01:09:12,760 --> 01:09:14,840
Speaker 6: please take it, don't push.

1627
01:09:15,520 --> 01:09:18,040
Speaker 3: Oh god, I'm about to ship myself on your stomach.

1628
01:09:18,439 --> 01:09:20,960
Speaker 2: I don't know, but no, I don't drink, probably because

1629
01:09:21,000 --> 01:09:25,000
Speaker 2: it's like it's the lymph nodes are lymph yeah flush.

1630
01:09:25,120 --> 01:09:26,640
Speaker 3: Like you're sensitive. It wouldn't work for me.

1631
01:09:27,160 --> 01:09:30,600
Speaker 5: I leave there like I've literally been this massage and

1632
01:09:30,640 --> 01:09:32,479
Speaker 5: then they leave, They're like get dressed.

1633
01:09:32,280 --> 01:09:33,840
Speaker 3: And I have to like rub one out. I feel you,

1634
01:09:33,880 --> 01:09:35,200
Speaker 3: and I'm so happy this is the last thing.

1635
01:09:35,240 --> 01:09:36,640
Speaker 1: But I'm so happy that you said one time you

1636
01:09:36,720 --> 01:09:38,920
Speaker 1: got a massage by an old lady and kind of

1637
01:09:38,920 --> 01:09:40,599
Speaker 1: got turned on because that happened to me, like an

1638
01:09:40,600 --> 01:09:42,160
Speaker 1: old tie woman, and I was like, what the fuck

1639
01:09:42,240 --> 01:09:44,200
Speaker 1: is wrong with you? So now that we share that

1640
01:09:44,240 --> 01:09:45,879
Speaker 1: in comment. I know it's not me, it's just the massage.

1641
01:09:45,920 --> 01:09:51,320
Speaker 3: No, it's I'm not related. I'm not I've done this.

1642
01:09:51,720 --> 01:09:54,000
Speaker 5: We've gotten massages together and I've had to.

1643
01:09:55,640 --> 01:09:58,880
Speaker 3: I don't blun wrong. I know what you're talking.

1644
01:09:59,800 --> 01:10:01,800
Speaker 2: I'm I'm very convinced that I have to come now

1645
01:10:01,840 --> 01:10:04,280
Speaker 2: after every massage, whether it's a happy ending or it's

1646
01:10:04,320 --> 01:10:06,559
Speaker 2: me finishing somewhere. When they leave, you know, they leave

1647
01:10:06,560 --> 01:10:09,000
Speaker 2: you in the room, I'm gonna have to just bring it,

1648
01:10:09,080 --> 01:10:11,040
Speaker 2: like a vibrator in my pocket and.

1649
01:10:11,080 --> 01:10:13,960
Speaker 3: No, get the oil, an idea and just to get

1650
01:10:13,960 --> 01:10:14,599
Speaker 3: it out real quick.

1651
01:10:14,920 --> 01:10:16,719
Speaker 2: What if you know they're always waiting outside with water

1652
01:10:16,840 --> 01:10:17,880
Speaker 2: like it's the perfect ending.

1653
01:10:17,920 --> 01:10:19,640
Speaker 6: What if there was a massage table with like a

1654
01:10:19,640 --> 01:10:23,960
Speaker 6: little thing it vibrated that everybody don't want to know

1655
01:10:24,360 --> 01:10:26,679
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1656
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Speaker 3: You're getting the massage. No, I'm honest.

1657
01:10:29,280 --> 01:10:31,920
Speaker 5: There's nothing like two hands like that takes me back,

1658
01:10:32,000 --> 01:10:33,120
Speaker 5: that takes me back to my youth.

1659
01:10:33,200 --> 01:10:35,200
Speaker 3: I need to get back to that because I'm I'm.

1660
01:10:35,200 --> 01:10:38,000
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1661
01:10:38,160 --> 01:10:40,720
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1662
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