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Speaker 1: Welcome to j dot IM, a production of I Heart Radio.

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Speaker 1: What's Up Everybody? It is a pleasure to be with

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Speaker 1: you again. Welcome to j dot IL the Podcast. This

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Speaker 1: is Jill Scott and I'm here with my sister friends

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Speaker 1: Lies st Cloud. Hello everybody, and the infamous song on

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Speaker 1: your commercial commercials age a great and Dan's hello there. Hello,

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Speaker 1: all sounds like a licensing bit, yests, what commercial is it?

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Speaker 1: Aga or I don't even know? That's funny? What song

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Speaker 1: is in the world of publishing. In the world of publishing,

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Speaker 1: you know, record companies own the copyright, so the permission

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Speaker 1: really wasn't mind to get. But because I own the publishing,

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Speaker 1: you gotta pay me. There you go, so they can

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Speaker 1: use it all they want to. But guess what give

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Speaker 1: me my queens? Your queens. Yeah, but don't say I

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Speaker 1: told you to take that medicine. I don't know what

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Speaker 1: that medicine is. Y'all better read. Don't make me laugh, y'all, listen,

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Speaker 1: y'all better do all y'all's due diligence. Don't say Kindred

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Speaker 1: told you to do it. Here, it's just a nice song.

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Speaker 1: It's a nice song, you know that goes for all medication,

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Speaker 1: you know, anything that you take out. You hear the

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Speaker 1: commercials they're always talking about, oh when this will help

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Speaker 1: you with whatever your your footage, but it also will

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Speaker 1: make your eye letters fall out and you put because

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Speaker 1: for me, it's the may cause that's the part that

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Speaker 1: it was priority. I don't want either, you know what

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Speaker 1: I'm saying, Thank you so much. I don't want either.

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Speaker 1: I'm a man. I don't want to die or I

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Speaker 1: don't want my COUCHI this thing, and I don't want

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Speaker 1: to die with stinky cool word up worked because you know,

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Speaker 1: whoever is in the mortgage is gonna talk about you. Um,

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Speaker 1: I'm gonna stop, y'all gotta can we not just y'all

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Speaker 1: not make me laugh? Y'all know it's a situation, family

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Speaker 1: and friends. Is that our dear sister lah Saint Claire

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Speaker 1: has had some fibroids removed from her body. Now for

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Speaker 1: for yeah, if you will what um Just for anybody

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Speaker 1: who who doesn't know, um, what fibroids are. It's like

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Speaker 1: it's like a tour. Some of them are big, some

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Speaker 1: of them are small. Um. But they are tumors that

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Speaker 1: are typically in the uterus and but nine tumors in

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Speaker 1: the uterus that are getting in the way of all

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Speaker 1: of what you're feeling. I've done nobody, get my pocketbook? Now,

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Speaker 1: where are my keys? Y'all fishes is not making this easy,

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Speaker 1: I swear to me. Laugh, do not laugh. Don't laugh

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Speaker 1: by it because this is recent. This is very recent

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Speaker 1: for her. And the how how would you you know?

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Speaker 1: You know, because the uterine fibroids causes like major excessive

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Speaker 1: bleeding for your monthly um, pelvic pain um, which can

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Speaker 1: be excruciating I hear, and that um, frequent urination, not

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Speaker 1: being able to to hold on to uh to your

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Speaker 1: water um. You know, women are walking around every day

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Speaker 1: with fibroids and not knowing what's going on. And don't

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Speaker 1: forget infertility and anemia. Wow, because if you're losing that

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Speaker 1: much blood, your iron is kind of like fucked right,

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Speaker 1: and that makes you makes it kind of and it

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Speaker 1: doesn't make it kind of difficult, but it makes it

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Speaker 1: hard to um do all the things that we have

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Speaker 1: to do, you know, because you're exhausted, You're you're losing

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Speaker 1: a lot of blood. You don't have iron. Two period

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Speaker 1: apps yet, two period app let's let's we got a

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Speaker 1: two period. We have to start before the surgery though,

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Speaker 1: like we really have to go back. Did you how

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Speaker 1: did you know that you had fibroids or what what

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Speaker 1: ticked you off? Because just gave some of the symptoms,

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Speaker 1: but explain. I think it was like a typical old

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Speaker 1: trip to my O, B, G Y N. And you know,

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Speaker 1: it got to the point where you can feel five roids,

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Speaker 1: usually from a girl's stomach, like you can touch them.

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Speaker 1: I don't like to because I don't like to know that.

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Speaker 1: I didn't like to know they were there. But my

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Speaker 1: doctor one day just touched and was like, huh, there's

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Speaker 1: something there, and so I think I got an ultra sound.

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Speaker 1: And that was over a decade ago, and they weren't

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Speaker 1: they were outside of my uterus. So at the time

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Speaker 1: the doctor was like, this is not gonna, you know,

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Speaker 1: prevent you from having children, so you don't have to

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Speaker 1: act on it immediately, you know, And so I didn't.

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Speaker 1: And ten years later they got bigger and bigger and

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Speaker 1: I knew I had. They were like, you know, it

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Speaker 1: and you're probably I love the line. I think a

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Speaker 1: at least four months pregnant. So yeahs that progressed and

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Speaker 1: I started getting older and they started getting bigger. I

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Speaker 1: finally said, I need to do something about this, even

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Speaker 1: if and if they were blocking my brother, my blessings.

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Speaker 1: Iss y'all know I'm in between on this baby thing,

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Speaker 1: but you know I got a good year. Don't tell

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Speaker 1: nobody before I just you know before it's like yeah,

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Speaker 1: so yeah, I decided, And of course there's with five broids.

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Speaker 1: Some women had the option of doing a laparoscopically, and

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Speaker 1: the reason I couldn't just because mines were way too big.

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Speaker 1: So I had to get up my inmectomy, which is

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Speaker 1: what I hear similar to a C section cut, and

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Speaker 1: he had to go in and I was told I

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Speaker 1: had ten and I sent y'all a picture of eight

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Speaker 1: and the largest one. One of my girlfriends likes to

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Speaker 1: compare the largest one to a roaster. She's like, that

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Speaker 1: looks like a roaster, because I would say that that's

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Speaker 1: great for roaster, like a chicken roaster, right that you

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Speaker 1: cook a chicken roaster. That's how big it was. I

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Speaker 1: would say that the picture did look like that, but

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Speaker 1: it was shocking. You know, you hear the word five broids,

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Speaker 1: and I hate to say it. It's become so normalized.

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Speaker 1: The majority of my girlfriends half of a grate story.

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Speaker 1: I don't know about y'all, but the majority of my

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Speaker 1: girl and have a five boys story. Yeah, I wouldn't

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Speaker 1: say that. Yeah, I wouldn't see the majority, but definitely

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Speaker 1: within my friend group more than one. So there's a

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Speaker 1: kept thinking, Okay, yeah, I know this happens. I know

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Speaker 1: it's a mask. I know it's this. There was something

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Speaker 1: about actually seeing the photo that I was just like, Wow,

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Speaker 1: I have to sit with that for a minute. And

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Speaker 1: I was just like m m, Well, first off, I'm

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Speaker 1: looking at you, and I just I haven't seen you,

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Speaker 1: but i'm looking at you in video. Now y'all don't

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Speaker 1: know this, but I'm looking at her to the video

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Speaker 1: and I just want to embrace you and hug you

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Speaker 1: because all the greatness that you've been and not unknowing

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Speaker 1: you were carrying all that. It's like I'm looking at

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Speaker 1: you and I'm I'm angry because I'm like why do

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Speaker 1: there's not anything being done. And that's the thing, And

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Speaker 1: I swear the guy y'all every time this week, in

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Speaker 1: a couple of years ago. I swear that's the conversation.

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Speaker 1: And and it's it's all sisters. And I know we're

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Speaker 1: not add percent. I think the numbers are seventy, but

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Speaker 1: it's enough that really makes you wonder. It's enough that

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Speaker 1: Kamala Harris allegedly has a task force to find out

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Speaker 1: what's going on with it, and which makes me wonder

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Speaker 1: about her as a black woman who hasn't had any

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Speaker 1: children yet. It's just so many of these stories going

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Speaker 1: around that is so common that we don't talk about.

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Speaker 1: And then our mothers it was something different for them.

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Speaker 1: It wasn't on name, it wasn't a name for it then.

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Speaker 1: So it's kind of scary. Back to what you were saying, Asia,

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Speaker 1: in the sense of this epidemic that's happening with black

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Speaker 1: women and the no sense of urgency and black men.

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Speaker 1: They're learning, but they're surprised, like they just people just

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Speaker 1: don't know down And we just walked through it, like

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Speaker 1: you know how we are assistants. We just we talked

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Speaker 1: to each moving you talk amongst themselves and we're gonna

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Speaker 1: I was talking to my girls and I was like, yo,

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Speaker 1: what and y'all too. I was like, you know, you're

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Speaker 1: apples to do four to six weeks recovery. What does

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Speaker 1: that look like what I'm supposed to be doing? Like

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Speaker 1: after a week, I'm almost like lay down, like I

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Speaker 1: don't know how to rest. Like what I was looking

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Speaker 1: rest afterwards or recuperate, and what I don't see all

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Speaker 1: After childbirth, I was told to rest. I had home birth,

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Speaker 1: so I had midwives who made me stay in bed.

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Speaker 1: But typically that's not the practice. The practices you get

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Speaker 1: but you're still supposed to rest when you go home. No, girl,

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Speaker 1: and all ain't set up like that. It's not set

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Speaker 1: up like that. I I called some villagers in, but

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Speaker 1: when I called, you know, so, I at a certain point,

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Speaker 1: I was so hungry that I got up, went down

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Speaker 1: I'm like, I'm supposed to eat. I know that I

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Speaker 1: And when you're talking about rest after a major surgery,

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Speaker 1: that kind of inconsistency. It doesn't change just because you

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Speaker 1: in general, but particularly for black women, it rears its

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Speaker 1: another time, but it's like, who comes for the black

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Speaker 1: woman when she down bad? You know what I'm saying,

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Speaker 1: Who comes for her for real when she's down bad.

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Speaker 1: You know, my mom could have come, but she was

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Speaker 1: taking care of my grandmother and she was in her

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Speaker 1: last days, so we had to pick and choose. But

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Speaker 1: even in that sense, you know, my my mom is

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Speaker 1: here taking care of me. I'm so blessed and grateful

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Speaker 1: that she could come from DC to California. But shoot,

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Speaker 1: my mom don't know how to rest, so she knows

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Speaker 1: how to take care of me. Yeah, he's doing a fanto,

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Speaker 1: but it's mhmm. This it's interesting. And you know I

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Speaker 1: was telling Amber, you know why the doctors tell you.

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Speaker 1: You know, my doctor said, I'm doing really good. I'm

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Speaker 1: on me, because you know, you gotta poop to get

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Speaker 1: the out the hospital. You gotta you gotta pass that gas.

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Speaker 1: number two. And it's interesting. I will say this. While

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Speaker 1: And on my first night, after my first night, I

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Speaker 1: if you want to go home, you can go home.

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Speaker 1: is a youthful person but they're having a hard time

426
00:25:05,880 --> 00:25:10,720
Speaker 1: holding their water, you know you have to please suggest

427
00:25:10,760 --> 00:25:14,840
Speaker 1: them to see a guy in of cologist somewhere. The

428
00:25:15,480 --> 00:25:20,359
Speaker 1: challenging portion is that, um, Initially, when I moved to Tennessee,

429
00:25:20,560 --> 00:25:23,720
Speaker 1: I'm just gonna speak on my own experience. I'm searching

430
00:25:23,760 --> 00:25:25,879
Speaker 1: around trying to find a guy in of cologist, because

431
00:25:25,880 --> 00:25:29,480
Speaker 1: that's what adult women do. You know. We make sure

432
00:25:29,520 --> 00:25:34,879
Speaker 1: to maintain our our coucci and I could not find um.

433
00:25:35,240 --> 00:25:38,240
Speaker 1: I could not get an appointment the first time. You

434
00:25:38,280 --> 00:25:40,560
Speaker 1: want the first time appointment, honey, six months. I could

435
00:25:40,600 --> 00:25:42,480
Speaker 1: not get an appoint to me the first year. You

436
00:25:42,560 --> 00:25:44,840
Speaker 1: gotta get in the system first, you gotta get in. Yeah,

437
00:25:44,880 --> 00:25:51,919
Speaker 1: that's six six months from now, six months months months,

438
00:25:51,920 --> 00:25:54,720
Speaker 1: Like that's insane. It's interesting. I was thinking when the

439
00:25:54,760 --> 00:25:56,840
Speaker 1: Asians talking about the celebrity aspect, because you know, usually

440
00:25:56,840 --> 00:25:59,320
Speaker 1: you can match an issue with the celebrity. This is

441
00:25:59,359 --> 00:26:01,640
Speaker 1: not one of those issues. I was thinking, the only

442
00:26:01,680 --> 00:26:04,879
Speaker 1: time I've heard is being spoken about on television, and

443
00:26:04,920 --> 00:26:18,400
Speaker 1: I know y'all are like, yeah, you're talking about Cynthia Bailey. Yeah, yes, yes, yes, yes.

444
00:26:18,400 --> 00:26:20,320
Speaker 1: It's because she had five wards and the way that

445
00:26:20,960 --> 00:26:23,520
Speaker 1: the way that I remember Peter said some ship that

446
00:26:23,640 --> 00:26:26,320
Speaker 1: really fucked me up because he just made a comment

447
00:26:26,359 --> 00:26:29,200
Speaker 1: about how it was hard to have sex with her sometimes,

448
00:26:30,040 --> 00:26:33,840
Speaker 1: and I was like, the fuck And she went into

449
00:26:34,080 --> 00:26:41,119
Speaker 1: her five ard situation, and so because sex is an

450
00:26:41,160 --> 00:26:44,520
Speaker 1: issue sometimes with five rights here and it was noticeable

451
00:26:44,560 --> 00:26:50,320
Speaker 1: because she was a model and right right, so it's

452
00:26:50,359 --> 00:26:56,000
Speaker 1: like clearly something is wrong. But you know, I like, yeah,

453
00:26:56,000 --> 00:26:58,600
Speaker 1: I never looked at you once and thought, oh, you

454
00:26:58,680 --> 00:27:01,280
Speaker 1: looked four months prectant. You ever looked for months pregnant

455
00:27:01,280 --> 00:27:07,600
Speaker 1: to me? Ever? But I was like, all right, well,

456
00:27:07,640 --> 00:27:09,320
Speaker 1: what I was saying is that this is more this

457
00:27:09,400 --> 00:27:14,520
Speaker 1: is more recent. But the brat was talking about this

458
00:27:14,560 --> 00:27:20,639
Speaker 1: here recently because she's newly married. She was talking about

459
00:27:20,680 --> 00:27:24,520
Speaker 1: having a baby, and there was something to five boyds, yes,

460
00:27:24,800 --> 00:27:28,240
Speaker 1: that five boys being an issue for her and I

461
00:27:28,480 --> 00:27:31,600
Speaker 1: and and it was circulating quite a bit on the internet,

462
00:27:31,880 --> 00:27:35,280
Speaker 1: I mean on social media. But they were talking about that,

463
00:27:35,320 --> 00:27:37,080
Speaker 1: and I said, wow, that's probably one of the few

464
00:27:37,119 --> 00:27:40,040
Speaker 1: times that I've seen the celebrity also talk about five boids.

465
00:27:40,440 --> 00:27:43,719
Speaker 1: And it's you know, fitting at this time period, because honestly,

466
00:27:43,960 --> 00:27:46,679
Speaker 1: there is a little bit more conversation going on about

467
00:27:46,680 --> 00:27:50,520
Speaker 1: it than I remember having in the past, but still

468
00:27:50,560 --> 00:27:53,439
Speaker 1: not even close to enough. And then also to like

469
00:27:53,560 --> 00:27:56,960
Speaker 1: the study like studying black women. I remember someone sent

470
00:27:57,040 --> 00:27:59,840
Speaker 1: me an article years ago about how black women are

471
00:27:59,840 --> 00:28:05,000
Speaker 1: just not studied, like we just there's not enough research

472
00:28:05,760 --> 00:28:11,760
Speaker 1: about our bodies. So most times even treatments and medicines

473
00:28:11,800 --> 00:28:15,200
Speaker 1: and things like that are not really catered towards any

474
00:28:15,280 --> 00:28:19,479
Speaker 1: kind of study. That happened that that any extensive study

475
00:28:19,480 --> 00:28:22,920
Speaker 1: that's happened around our bodies and our lived experience. Just recently,

476
00:28:22,960 --> 00:28:29,320
Speaker 1: they started to paint the examples brown, all the examples

477
00:28:29,359 --> 00:28:32,560
Speaker 1: of the uterus and the baby in utero, and and

478
00:28:32,560 --> 00:28:35,879
Speaker 1: and all the they were never. They were never brown people,

479
00:28:36,000 --> 00:28:39,800
Speaker 1: never brown babies, never brown bodies. Never, And I would

480
00:28:39,800 --> 00:28:42,040
Speaker 1: it's interested. I would like amberd to talk about this

481
00:28:42,120 --> 00:28:44,120
Speaker 1: because one of my random girlfriends hit me up the

482
00:28:44,160 --> 00:28:46,360
Speaker 1: other day. Again. We were like, what you're doing recovery.

483
00:28:46,440 --> 00:28:48,120
Speaker 1: She was like, oh, I had it too, And then

484
00:28:48,160 --> 00:28:50,720
Speaker 1: she sends me an article about well my girlfriend had

485
00:28:50,840 --> 00:28:52,800
Speaker 1: she had another girlfriend who had like I don't know

486
00:28:52,880 --> 00:28:55,800
Speaker 1: fifty but she got rid of them naturally. Now I

487
00:28:55,800 --> 00:28:58,400
Speaker 1: said to her, I'm not going to read this article

488
00:28:58,520 --> 00:29:00,480
Speaker 1: right now because I just had my back to me

489
00:29:01,000 --> 00:29:06,080
Speaker 1: and I don't. I don't try to regrets. Don't worry

490
00:29:06,080 --> 00:29:08,360
Speaker 1: it will spell it for you in your phone. But

491
00:29:09,120 --> 00:29:12,400
Speaker 1: I do know that sugar and diet and things of

492
00:29:12,440 --> 00:29:14,640
Speaker 1: that nature. But my thing is it sounds like if

493
00:29:14,640 --> 00:29:17,520
Speaker 1: you really want to get rid of fibroids naturally, you

494
00:29:17,600 --> 00:29:19,840
Speaker 1: just don't. You don't eat nothing that you want to eat,

495
00:29:19,880 --> 00:29:24,080
Speaker 1: and you live a life of strict discipline. But yeah, Amber,

496
00:29:24,080 --> 00:29:26,240
Speaker 1: can you speak on this whole natural way of getting

497
00:29:26,280 --> 00:29:28,080
Speaker 1: rid of these? So I want you to got all

498
00:29:28,080 --> 00:29:30,920
Speaker 1: the notes you my approaches and urbanist. I believe there's

499
00:29:31,040 --> 00:29:34,160
Speaker 1: a like a symbiotic relationship between Eastern and Western medicine.

500
00:29:34,200 --> 00:29:35,720
Speaker 1: I don't believe you you have to be all natural,

501
00:29:35,800 --> 00:29:37,480
Speaker 1: you have to be all this. I think that they

502
00:29:37,520 --> 00:29:39,520
Speaker 1: can really work together, and I wish more people had

503
00:29:39,560 --> 00:29:42,240
Speaker 1: that attitude towards it, like they can work together. You

504
00:29:42,280 --> 00:29:44,680
Speaker 1: can have am I amact to me, because maybe that's

505
00:29:44,720 --> 00:29:46,440
Speaker 1: what you needed, you know, Like I feel like if

506
00:29:46,440 --> 00:29:49,640
Speaker 1: someone has the level of fibroids that you have, trying

507
00:29:49,680 --> 00:29:54,000
Speaker 1: to clear that naturally would take a decade, you know

508
00:29:54,080 --> 00:29:56,840
Speaker 1: what I'm saying. So I believe, like you know, like

509
00:29:56,880 --> 00:29:58,320
Speaker 1: I don't think that you made the wrong choice at

510
00:29:58,320 --> 00:30:00,080
Speaker 1: all or you should have any regrets about your an

511
00:30:00,320 --> 00:30:02,400
Speaker 1: It's all about how you move from here, because now

512
00:30:02,400 --> 00:30:04,160
Speaker 1: that you've had this clearing, how are you now going

513
00:30:04,200 --> 00:30:06,240
Speaker 1: to nourish your body? And I don't think it's I

514
00:30:06,280 --> 00:30:08,640
Speaker 1: don't think it's about there's no way to there's no

515
00:30:08,680 --> 00:30:10,840
Speaker 1: way to be perfect or live talks in free anyways,

516
00:30:11,320 --> 00:30:13,440
Speaker 1: So like that's not the answer. Have the things that

517
00:30:13,480 --> 00:30:15,840
Speaker 1: you want in moderation, you know, take your herbs, take

518
00:30:15,880 --> 00:30:18,760
Speaker 1: care of your body. Being connected with your body. I

519
00:30:18,800 --> 00:30:22,200
Speaker 1: personally think that's the biggest piece, Like are you connected

520
00:30:22,200 --> 00:30:23,880
Speaker 1: and are you listening when something is off so that

521
00:30:23,920 --> 00:30:26,640
Speaker 1: you can adjust? You know, are you are you in

522
00:30:26,680 --> 00:30:28,280
Speaker 1: touch with your body? Are you taking that four to

523
00:30:28,360 --> 00:30:30,480
Speaker 1: six weeks to listen to her and learn her talk

524
00:30:30,560 --> 00:30:32,800
Speaker 1: to her. So I'm not bad. I'm not bad for

525
00:30:32,880 --> 00:30:35,680
Speaker 1: getting cut and not just cutting sugar and what I

526
00:30:35,720 --> 00:30:39,680
Speaker 1: needed to do, because I mean, I do feel like

527
00:30:40,080 --> 00:30:42,600
Speaker 1: if that is a way to do it, at some

528
00:30:42,640 --> 00:30:45,680
Speaker 1: point maybe I should. I don't. It's just listen, I'm

529
00:30:45,680 --> 00:30:47,120
Speaker 1: gonna tell you. I'm gonna tell you what I used

530
00:30:47,160 --> 00:30:50,560
Speaker 1: to tell people about well about childbirths, but oh I

531
00:30:50,640 --> 00:30:53,000
Speaker 1: want to have natural child boys or should I have?

532
00:30:53,120 --> 00:30:55,640
Speaker 1: I feel bad because I got drugs or this, that

533
00:30:55,760 --> 00:30:58,760
Speaker 1: and the other, and I'm like, listen, when that baby comes,

534
00:31:00,080 --> 00:31:03,400
Speaker 1: nobody's gonna give you a medal, Honey. You're not gonna

535
00:31:03,440 --> 00:31:06,680
Speaker 1: get a star, You're not gonna get an award, you're

536
00:31:06,680 --> 00:31:10,440
Speaker 1: not gonna get a certificate for none of that. That's

537
00:31:10,440 --> 00:31:14,080
Speaker 1: why you have to make a decision that works for you.

538
00:31:14,880 --> 00:31:17,800
Speaker 1: If you had done it naturally, guess what. Guess who

539
00:31:17,840 --> 00:31:25,080
Speaker 1: would have showed up at your doorstep with with a trophy? Nobody. Okay,

540
00:31:25,680 --> 00:31:27,200
Speaker 1: you have to wake up in the morning and be

541
00:31:27,320 --> 00:31:31,520
Speaker 1: okay with your decision and how you listen to your

542
00:31:31,680 --> 00:31:35,840
Speaker 1: body and your experience. And I'm tired of we get

543
00:31:35,880 --> 00:31:41,120
Speaker 1: shamed for enough. Ship. Can we just start marking something

544
00:31:41,160 --> 00:31:44,080
Speaker 1: off of this list of things that we have to

545
00:31:44,120 --> 00:31:48,720
Speaker 1: fucking be in order for everyone to be comfortable? Girl, please,

546
00:31:48,760 --> 00:31:50,320
Speaker 1: I had to get over the guilt of having a

547
00:31:50,320 --> 00:31:52,480
Speaker 1: white male doctor for a second. I was like, oh

548
00:31:52,520 --> 00:31:58,840
Speaker 1: Lord Jesus, but he was so good. He was great,

549
00:31:58,880 --> 00:32:04,160
Speaker 1: a great surgeony, you know. M Yeah, so yeah, you're right, Asia,

550
00:32:04,360 --> 00:32:07,240
Speaker 1: We're working I'm speaking for all its folks listening. We're

551
00:32:07,240 --> 00:32:10,120
Speaker 1: working through it. We write no medals being given here.

552
00:32:10,240 --> 00:32:13,280
Speaker 1: I'm glad you brought it up though, because again, these

553
00:32:13,320 --> 00:32:15,120
Speaker 1: are the things that go on in our minds and

554
00:32:15,160 --> 00:32:18,239
Speaker 1: we don't discuss them, we don't say them publicly, and

555
00:32:18,240 --> 00:32:20,640
Speaker 1: we just sit with that. And it's more sitting, and

556
00:32:20,680 --> 00:32:23,080
Speaker 1: it's more thinking, and it's more mulling, and it's more

557
00:32:23,080 --> 00:32:26,040
Speaker 1: things that are backing themselves up in our emotions and

558
00:32:26,040 --> 00:32:28,680
Speaker 1: our thoughts and our bodies, and it's just we can't

559
00:32:28,680 --> 00:32:33,760
Speaker 1: do this anymore to ourselves. I saw something was aman

560
00:32:33,840 --> 00:32:38,440
Speaker 1: have been yesterday where a young woman was talking about

561
00:32:38,560 --> 00:32:42,000
Speaker 1: I think it was like American horror Stories of Happening.

562
00:32:42,560 --> 00:32:47,480
Speaker 1: I've been watching too. I love those two l Yeah,

563
00:32:47,600 --> 00:32:50,880
Speaker 1: I'm glad to see it too. Um. And the young

564
00:32:50,960 --> 00:32:55,800
Speaker 1: woman on the show said that fear wasn't our biggest enemy.

565
00:32:55,920 --> 00:33:01,440
Speaker 1: It's shame. Oh yeah, I like that thing hit different

566
00:33:01,680 --> 00:33:07,240
Speaker 1: than it different, So like have the shame of having

567
00:33:07,360 --> 00:33:11,320
Speaker 1: or choosing two as a somebody that you know, maybe holistic,

568
00:33:11,680 --> 00:33:17,400
Speaker 1: having surgery. Listen, you know, that's that's about going into

569
00:33:17,480 --> 00:33:20,880
Speaker 1: in itself and listening to yourself for real. It's it's

570
00:33:20,880 --> 00:33:24,840
Speaker 1: about making a decision for real and in the quietest

571
00:33:24,920 --> 00:33:30,760
Speaker 1: place for was what benefits you the most? And UM

572
00:33:30,840 --> 00:33:34,240
Speaker 1: that's it, honey, That's that's really the gist of it.

573
00:33:35,320 --> 00:33:37,480
Speaker 1: You know. I like, I'd like whatever said about having

574
00:33:37,480 --> 00:33:40,520
Speaker 1: a doctor that is both um or choosing you know

575
00:33:40,920 --> 00:33:45,200
Speaker 1: doctor that is both holistic and you know certified board

576
00:33:45,520 --> 00:33:49,040
Speaker 1: uh m D. I only know of one. Um, I'm

577
00:33:49,080 --> 00:33:54,080
Speaker 1: sure there's others. UM. I definitely invite all doctors that

578
00:33:54,080 --> 00:33:57,560
Speaker 1: that are indeed s to get into some holistic medicine

579
00:33:57,600 --> 00:33:59,680
Speaker 1: as well and make that a part of your practice.

580
00:34:00,000 --> 00:34:02,880
Speaker 1: You have to do it, you know, quietly, but nonetheless.

581
00:34:02,920 --> 00:34:06,120
Speaker 1: You know we're talking about Dr Frederick Burton, yes on

582
00:34:06,520 --> 00:34:13,200
Speaker 1: City Line Avenue, Philadelphia. Yeah, I think I've heard of him. Okay, alright, alright.

583
00:34:13,280 --> 00:34:16,200
Speaker 1: It's it's a lot of blood tests, I'll say. And

584
00:34:16,440 --> 00:34:19,480
Speaker 1: the tests are not for when when someone takes your blood,

585
00:34:20,200 --> 00:34:26,160
Speaker 1: typically they're testing for what they're looking for. Only with

586
00:34:26,239 --> 00:34:33,840
Speaker 1: a holistic doctor, they're testing for everything everything, any any insufficiency,

587
00:34:34,080 --> 00:34:40,040
Speaker 1: any abnormality. Um, they're looking for that, you know, Um,

588
00:34:40,080 --> 00:34:42,880
Speaker 1: any kind of instruction. If you get to your doctor

589
00:34:42,880 --> 00:34:45,000
Speaker 1: to about that too, I forget. But there's a way

590
00:34:45,000 --> 00:34:47,400
Speaker 1: to get your laughs and really have him go through everything.

591
00:34:47,560 --> 00:34:51,200
Speaker 1: I can't remember the terminology, you know, But yet you're right, Jil. Yeah.

592
00:34:51,920 --> 00:34:55,520
Speaker 1: More than more than anything, UM, it's the kind of

593
00:34:55,560 --> 00:34:59,759
Speaker 1: general upticking self awareness and that kind of general up

594
00:34:59,760 --> 00:35:03,160
Speaker 1: to I can just saying I want more out of

595
00:35:03,320 --> 00:35:09,480
Speaker 1: my interactions with my caregivers and stretching your village, you know,

596
00:35:09,760 --> 00:35:12,439
Speaker 1: expanding your village and things like that. And I know

597
00:35:13,520 --> 00:35:16,200
Speaker 1: I know that it's just like, Okay, it's just more

598
00:35:16,640 --> 00:35:26,880
Speaker 1: goddamn black girl homework. But I'm here for trying to

599
00:35:26,920 --> 00:35:30,480
Speaker 1: get that money for them. Yeah, I'm going to get

600
00:35:30,520 --> 00:35:34,799
Speaker 1: that money for the rent. But it feels good too.

601
00:35:34,800 --> 00:35:37,799
Speaker 1: I wouldn't want to be nothing else. No, no, And

602
00:35:37,840 --> 00:35:39,680
Speaker 1: I gotta said, but I could tell that it can

603
00:35:39,680 --> 00:35:42,920
Speaker 1: get a little heavy having the list of things that

604
00:35:43,000 --> 00:35:45,920
Speaker 1: you have to do to counteract the systems that are

605
00:35:45,960 --> 00:35:48,520
Speaker 1: working against you. So it's like, oh, well, I gotta

606
00:35:48,560 --> 00:35:50,400
Speaker 1: do this, we gotta do that. I gotta go therapy,

607
00:35:50,400 --> 00:35:52,479
Speaker 1: I gotta work out, I gotta trick merbs, I gotta

608
00:35:52,520 --> 00:35:55,960
Speaker 1: have this, I gotta have that in this twenty four

609
00:35:56,000 --> 00:35:57,839
Speaker 1: hours in a goddamn day, you still got to earn

610
00:35:57,840 --> 00:36:00,640
Speaker 1: a coin. Yeah, So I get I get it that

611
00:36:00,680 --> 00:36:05,840
Speaker 1: it's a lot, but it's it's a necessary thing to

612
00:36:05,920 --> 00:36:10,560
Speaker 1: get closer to a place of peace. It is the

613
00:36:11,200 --> 00:36:14,200
Speaker 1: labor of of finding peace. Right. It's still lighter than

614
00:36:14,239 --> 00:36:16,399
Speaker 1: what your mama and your grandmama went through. And even

615
00:36:16,400 --> 00:36:19,200
Speaker 1: though it feels heavier, sometimes it only feels heavier because

616
00:36:19,480 --> 00:36:24,120
Speaker 1: you have more resources and words. M hmm. Yeah, those

617
00:36:24,160 --> 00:36:26,600
Speaker 1: resources and words are heavy, but you have them and

618
00:36:26,640 --> 00:36:34,239
Speaker 1: they didn't. So knowledge is power and purdy girls speaking,

619
00:36:34,400 --> 00:36:38,080
Speaker 1: I'll run, y'all want me to run something? Did I say?

620
00:36:40,480 --> 00:36:42,360
Speaker 1: Y'all love me around? But I love you. I'm about

621
00:36:42,360 --> 00:36:46,960
Speaker 1: the whole of your holding to this table. I'm just

622
00:36:47,000 --> 00:36:57,280
Speaker 1: trying to help, just trying to help. More real talk

623
00:36:57,480 --> 00:37:09,680
Speaker 1: after the break. We need to be healthy. We have.

624
00:37:09,920 --> 00:37:13,239
Speaker 1: We have this amazing gift of life. There's so much

625
00:37:13,280 --> 00:37:15,680
Speaker 1: to do with it. There's so much to see, there's

626
00:37:15,680 --> 00:37:19,200
Speaker 1: so much to taste, there's so many people to encounter,

627
00:37:19,680 --> 00:37:24,640
Speaker 1: people to love, people to learn from experiences like, there's

628
00:37:24,680 --> 00:37:28,600
Speaker 1: so much to do. So you know, we want you,

629
00:37:28,960 --> 00:37:33,120
Speaker 1: and it takes a lot to manage all its dopeness.

630
00:37:33,160 --> 00:37:36,239
Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying. We want you to to

631
00:37:36,280 --> 00:37:39,959
Speaker 1: pay attention to your body, really really pay attention to it.

632
00:37:40,360 --> 00:37:44,359
Speaker 1: I'm guilty. I'm guilty. So just don't please don't listen

633
00:37:44,360 --> 00:37:47,759
Speaker 1: to this like, oh, you know she's doing everything she

634
00:37:47,920 --> 00:37:53,520
Speaker 1: can and I feel and funk up. Okay, clear about man.

635
00:37:54,680 --> 00:38:01,440
Speaker 1: I'm trying to probioticator, right said the smoothie or something.

636
00:38:01,560 --> 00:38:04,920
Speaker 1: Put the key for the key for key for whatever

637
00:38:04,960 --> 00:38:07,319
Speaker 1: these stuff. It tastes like vinegar. I can't do that

638
00:38:07,640 --> 00:38:10,960
Speaker 1: with the bottom with the balls at the What is

639
00:38:10,960 --> 00:38:18,040
Speaker 1: she talking about? My brags? Apple cider, vinegar, cheer, cheese.

640
00:38:18,440 --> 00:38:21,000
Speaker 1: I can't do that. Listen, you can do all of

641
00:38:21,040 --> 00:38:24,080
Speaker 1: it if you got if your smoothie game is right, son,

642
00:38:24,520 --> 00:38:26,719
Speaker 1: and you know how to layer that john up. If

643
00:38:26,760 --> 00:38:28,600
Speaker 1: you put the cheer in there, when you put the

644
00:38:28,640 --> 00:38:30,719
Speaker 1: first layer of juice, that ship will disappear and you

645
00:38:30,880 --> 00:38:35,160
Speaker 1: never know it's in there. Come on, man, come on,

646
00:38:35,960 --> 00:38:40,040
Speaker 1: I got okay, I said it. I don't like movies.

647
00:38:41,400 --> 00:38:44,879
Speaker 1: I don't like I don't. I don't like salmon. I'm

648
00:38:44,880 --> 00:38:53,480
Speaker 1: not eating. I can't. I can't put nothing nothing. I

649
00:38:53,520 --> 00:38:55,640
Speaker 1: can't do it. But I bet I bet a bitch

650
00:38:55,680 --> 00:38:57,719
Speaker 1: eat a salmon cake. But I bet a bit eat

651
00:38:57,760 --> 00:39:01,520
Speaker 1: a salmon cake. I ate my mother's. That's the only

652
00:39:01,600 --> 00:39:04,359
Speaker 1: salmon cake I'll eat. I'll eat my mother's. But I said,

653
00:39:04,520 --> 00:39:06,800
Speaker 1: how you get your own magazine? If you have the oils,

654
00:39:07,400 --> 00:39:11,920
Speaker 1: you drink these have no choice? Are you making me sweat?

655
00:39:11,960 --> 00:39:14,239
Speaker 1: I need you to drink the oils, and I need

656
00:39:14,280 --> 00:39:16,239
Speaker 1: you to. I mean, I like smoothies, but they're not

657
00:39:16,320 --> 00:39:19,359
Speaker 1: a part of my daily I don't. I don't like y'all.

658
00:39:19,680 --> 00:39:22,120
Speaker 1: Y'all gotta vite a mix, like maybe pushing those at

659
00:39:22,120 --> 00:39:29,680
Speaker 1: the costs go hard. I'd rather juice and that's a

660
00:39:29,680 --> 00:39:35,880
Speaker 1: lot that's a lot of work too. But don't y'all know,

661
00:39:36,239 --> 00:39:38,239
Speaker 1: can we just can we just okay, so part of

662
00:39:38,280 --> 00:39:40,160
Speaker 1: our reparations, Can I just get a white lady to

663
00:39:40,200 --> 00:39:42,759
Speaker 1: come over here and make this stuff for me? Please? John?

664
00:39:42,840 --> 00:39:45,040
Speaker 1: But juice? You got a smoothie place or something? I

665
00:39:45,080 --> 00:39:48,120
Speaker 1: don't know, I mean my own personal white ladies who

666
00:39:48,200 --> 00:39:50,799
Speaker 1: say white ladies make the best smoothies. Oh my god, y'all,

667
00:39:51,520 --> 00:39:54,000
Speaker 1: I didn't say they make the best movies. See that

668
00:39:54,160 --> 00:39:56,560
Speaker 1: you said something? Say I just want to use her label.

669
00:39:56,600 --> 00:39:59,520
Speaker 1: I don't want I'm not using Okay, See if you're

670
00:39:59,520 --> 00:40:02,120
Speaker 1: trying to reverses, I don't want to. I don't feel

671
00:40:02,120 --> 00:40:04,239
Speaker 1: like making a smoothie and cleaning the juice. So and

672
00:40:04,280 --> 00:40:06,200
Speaker 1: I am about to ask, no black woman, cannot y'all

673
00:40:06,239 --> 00:40:08,359
Speaker 1: just stop the world with this announcement? I couldnt believe

674
00:40:08,440 --> 00:40:11,040
Speaker 1: that agent and jail y'all both don't with the movies.

675
00:40:11,120 --> 00:40:16,839
Speaker 1: Y'all like that. I didn't say it. I like going

676
00:40:16,920 --> 00:40:20,040
Speaker 1: out part of my daily life is what I had said.

677
00:40:20,320 --> 00:40:22,759
Speaker 1: We gotta do something we gotta do something. How are

678
00:40:22,760 --> 00:40:24,359
Speaker 1: you gonna get there? Because you know you ain't gonna

679
00:40:24,360 --> 00:40:25,840
Speaker 1: just take the sea mass in your mouth. You know

680
00:40:25,880 --> 00:40:27,239
Speaker 1: you gotta put it. Sometimes you gotta push it in

681
00:40:27,280 --> 00:40:28,920
Speaker 1: the smoothie that you don't want to I'm gonna take.

682
00:40:30,280 --> 00:40:32,920
Speaker 1: That's where we differ. No, that's what we differ. I

683
00:40:32,960 --> 00:40:35,920
Speaker 1: will take a spoonful of sea mass quick, easy like that,

684
00:40:36,120 --> 00:40:39,320
Speaker 1: soak mine and blended, and I'll take a See, I

685
00:40:39,520 --> 00:40:42,080
Speaker 1: like to be done with my stuff. I just like

686
00:40:43,239 --> 00:40:48,200
Speaker 1: hold my nose and take it. And yes, that doesn't

687
00:40:48,280 --> 00:40:50,920
Speaker 1: bother me. And also to like I said, they also

688
00:40:51,040 --> 00:40:54,480
Speaker 1: make the flavor sea mass now from a good company. Yes,

689
00:40:54,920 --> 00:40:58,200
Speaker 1: I don't want to be all sugary, right, but now

690
00:40:58,280 --> 00:41:00,040
Speaker 1: they have those. You put them in the freeze it,

691
00:41:00,080 --> 00:41:02,000
Speaker 1: then you take them out just scoop. Put you a

692
00:41:02,040 --> 00:41:04,400
Speaker 1: little spoon in there, scoop it out. You're right, You're right.

693
00:41:04,840 --> 00:41:07,640
Speaker 1: We definitely want to celebrate what a good company for

694
00:41:07,719 --> 00:41:10,879
Speaker 1: sea moss is my I do the sea moss jel

695
00:41:10,960 --> 00:41:13,239
Speaker 1: and I love it because every time it could be

696
00:41:13,440 --> 00:41:17,040
Speaker 1: my imagination, but every time I take it, I swear

697
00:41:17,160 --> 00:41:23,560
Speaker 1: in every time, and that what kind of seams jell

698
00:41:23,719 --> 00:41:27,319
Speaker 1: are you like just a regular it's like a seams jel.

699
00:41:27,320 --> 00:41:29,840
Speaker 1: I don't even I got it from like G n

700
00:41:29,920 --> 00:41:31,839
Speaker 1: C or so. I feel like the sea moss thing

701
00:41:32,120 --> 00:41:35,680
Speaker 1: is definitely like one of the gifts of the pandemic

702
00:41:35,960 --> 00:41:43,759
Speaker 1: because sea moss became like a household name. I was like, y'all,

703
00:41:44,160 --> 00:41:47,920
Speaker 1: I said, I was like, ain't nobody can talk about this,

704
00:41:50,160 --> 00:41:52,239
Speaker 1: but I was loving it. Black folks will sea moss

705
00:41:52,280 --> 00:41:57,719
Speaker 1: in it up? And it's Africa because it's not the

706
00:41:57,800 --> 00:42:00,279
Speaker 1: Irish sea moths, right, Maybe it's the African right, just

707
00:42:01,440 --> 00:42:04,520
Speaker 1: because sometimes I don't know, don't it come out the ocean.

708
00:42:05,760 --> 00:42:08,120
Speaker 1: Irish is not where it's where it's from. You can

709
00:42:08,160 --> 00:42:11,320
Speaker 1: get Irish sea mus and Jamaica. Just na just say that.

710
00:42:11,440 --> 00:42:13,279
Speaker 1: It's just what it's called. What the plants called. Thank you.

711
00:42:15,440 --> 00:42:18,319
Speaker 1: Somebody out getting the amber was like, y'all on here

712
00:42:18,400 --> 00:42:21,400
Speaker 1: being dumb. Let me get in here and hit us together.

713
00:42:23,560 --> 00:42:26,399
Speaker 1: Let me because they don't hear being dumb. Let's stop

714
00:42:26,520 --> 00:42:34,799
Speaker 1: faking stop thank you am real black. If you take

715
00:42:34,840 --> 00:42:39,440
Speaker 1: that irishive, that's not buff right, just cut to shame,

716
00:42:39,600 --> 00:42:44,440
Speaker 1: Cut to shame, cut the shame. We've already discussed this.

717
00:42:45,719 --> 00:42:52,240
Speaker 1: Just try your best. That is that is the gist

718
00:42:52,360 --> 00:42:56,840
Speaker 1: of it all. Yes, it is, try your best. And

719
00:42:57,200 --> 00:42:59,279
Speaker 1: like we've been saying over and over and over again,

720
00:42:59,360 --> 00:43:02,800
Speaker 1: him say again, pay attention to your body. Just pay attention.

721
00:43:03,080 --> 00:43:08,759
Speaker 1: I don't listen. Look, look, lissen, you smell what's going

722
00:43:08,840 --> 00:43:17,640
Speaker 1: on with you before anybody else. H before anybody else.

723
00:43:18,440 --> 00:43:21,120
Speaker 1: There's literally no reason for somebody else to tell you

724
00:43:21,239 --> 00:43:26,560
Speaker 1: about you. But in the words of the great Jennifer Lewis,

725
00:43:26,760 --> 00:43:31,880
Speaker 1: come on, if you're sitting ship long enough, it stops stinking.

726
00:43:32,160 --> 00:43:37,080
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, that's true. I can't I can't say that

727
00:43:37,239 --> 00:43:42,000
Speaker 1: about like like cats. People have cats, cats p all

728
00:43:42,040 --> 00:43:47,480
Speaker 1: over the place and going nose blind. Definitely have the

729
00:43:47,520 --> 00:43:54,120
Speaker 1: place been like Oh but that's the thing. That is

730
00:43:54,160 --> 00:43:56,480
Speaker 1: the I'm telling you, that's the thing. So listen to

731
00:43:56,560 --> 00:43:59,640
Speaker 1: your body so you don't go numb to it. Oh

732
00:44:00,800 --> 00:44:04,120
Speaker 1: you know you don't. You don't go deftly drop college

733
00:44:06,400 --> 00:44:09,920
Speaker 1: like this. I didn't even say that. I was just

734
00:44:10,040 --> 00:44:19,360
Speaker 1: building off of Mrs Lewis, and we like, congratulations to

735
00:44:19,440 --> 00:44:22,560
Speaker 1: her who she just got her stall and the beautiful

736
00:44:23,040 --> 00:44:30,240
Speaker 1: yeah coming. I got to see things that I wonder

737
00:44:30,680 --> 00:44:33,239
Speaker 1: every time I see a black woman. Oh, no, I'm not.

738
00:44:33,280 --> 00:44:35,120
Speaker 1: It's not putting that nower I'm saying when I think

739
00:44:35,120 --> 00:44:38,319
Speaker 1: about black single black women. But y'all know what I'm

740
00:44:38,320 --> 00:44:41,440
Speaker 1: about to say, that's gonna believe you're like, I wonder

741
00:44:41,440 --> 00:44:44,919
Speaker 1: if that has anything to do. I got you one

742
00:44:46,480 --> 00:44:50,400
Speaker 1: one when a couple of weeks ago when I went

743
00:44:50,440 --> 00:44:54,719
Speaker 1: to see my lady, well, that's still have a small,

744
00:44:54,880 --> 00:44:57,480
Speaker 1: one small fibroid in there, and she was like, it's

745
00:44:57,520 --> 00:44:59,520
Speaker 1: nothing to worry about right now. And I was like, okay,

746
00:44:59,600 --> 00:45:02,319
Speaker 1: you said right now, it's gonna be something to worry

747
00:45:02,320 --> 00:45:05,800
Speaker 1: about later. No, you know, because they tell us that

748
00:45:05,880 --> 00:45:10,360
Speaker 1: as you approached menopause, they shrink. So it's like, but

749
00:45:11,000 --> 00:45:13,320
Speaker 1: there is this small gap if you're still a fertile

750
00:45:13,400 --> 00:45:16,080
Speaker 1: myrtle that if they rid of it, you know you well, no,

751
00:45:16,160 --> 00:45:19,759
Speaker 1: either way, you're probably fertile. But yeah, and menopause they

752
00:45:19,760 --> 00:45:21,919
Speaker 1: start to shrink because they do come back. Some people

753
00:45:21,960 --> 00:45:23,760
Speaker 1: will get I've known plenty of women who have gotten

754
00:45:24,200 --> 00:45:27,120
Speaker 1: vibrate is removed at an earlier age. They come back,

755
00:45:27,160 --> 00:45:29,759
Speaker 1: they have to get the removed again. But that really

756
00:45:29,880 --> 00:45:32,680
Speaker 1: is what Amber was talking about, Like, has your conversation

757
00:45:32,760 --> 00:45:36,600
Speaker 1: with yourself change? Has what you're feeding yourself change, feeding

758
00:45:36,640 --> 00:45:39,640
Speaker 1: your mental and your physical, Like, what are the conversations

759
00:45:39,680 --> 00:45:41,799
Speaker 1: you're having with your body? What are the conversations you're

760
00:45:41,840 --> 00:45:45,480
Speaker 1: having with yourself? I mean, just all these things that

761
00:45:45,680 --> 00:45:52,000
Speaker 1: rest and recuperation and reprogramming and resetting and and and

762
00:45:52,200 --> 00:45:54,120
Speaker 1: and really figuring out what am I going to do

763
00:45:54,200 --> 00:45:56,720
Speaker 1: with this freedom? What am I gonna do with this lightness,

764
00:45:56,800 --> 00:45:59,200
Speaker 1: this weight that I've allowed to go away? What do

765
00:45:59,320 --> 00:46:02,200
Speaker 1: I do to not welcome it back? I mean, that's

766
00:46:02,280 --> 00:46:04,239
Speaker 1: part of it too. And if we haven't been thinking

767
00:46:04,239 --> 00:46:05,960
Speaker 1: about that. First of all, we ain't been talking about this.

768
00:46:06,440 --> 00:46:09,480
Speaker 1: So we most certainly probably as it has as a community,

769
00:46:09,600 --> 00:46:12,680
Speaker 1: been talking about the aftermath of it all. So you know,

770
00:46:12,840 --> 00:46:15,560
Speaker 1: there's the treatments, there's the there's the medical treatments, but

771
00:46:15,600 --> 00:46:17,560
Speaker 1: then there's what is the life? What is the life

772
00:46:17,600 --> 00:46:20,680
Speaker 1: you want to live afterwards? Because like she said, this

773
00:46:20,760 --> 00:46:23,239
Speaker 1: could be generational. Want you don't want to give these

774
00:46:23,320 --> 00:46:25,640
Speaker 1: habits in these ways of thinking to the next generation

775
00:46:25,680 --> 00:46:28,520
Speaker 1: of girls and women. I need like a guide on tape. Yeah,

776
00:46:28,600 --> 00:46:31,680
Speaker 1: tell me I love. I need that. I need for

777
00:46:31,760 --> 00:46:36,799
Speaker 1: the next few weeks, some aftermation. I need an app

778
00:46:36,880 --> 00:46:40,520
Speaker 1: for this that's what I'm saying. Oh baby, put it

779
00:46:40,600 --> 00:46:43,440
Speaker 1: out there in the atmosphere. Hey, ladies out there that

780
00:46:43,600 --> 00:46:46,680
Speaker 1: had all the tech girls like, come up with an

781
00:46:46,719 --> 00:46:53,399
Speaker 1: act rest and recovery as you. I can't hurt myself,

782
00:46:53,440 --> 00:46:55,080
Speaker 1: but I want to do it that hard to I know,

783
00:46:55,760 --> 00:47:11,560
Speaker 1: she said so to herself. What is happening? That is

784
00:47:11,600 --> 00:47:13,680
Speaker 1: so good? Baby? One of our babies, one of our nieces.

785
00:47:14,239 --> 00:47:16,000
Speaker 1: This is a nephew. Come on, niece is a nephew, y'all?

786
00:47:16,080 --> 00:47:25,120
Speaker 1: Come on, y'all listening exactly what's it called them? Again?

787
00:47:25,160 --> 00:47:29,200
Speaker 1: What's it called Rest and Recovery Act? Y'r. Auntie is

788
00:47:29,200 --> 00:47:31,560
Speaker 1: gonna need about ten percent of the deal that you

789
00:47:31,640 --> 00:47:35,720
Speaker 1: may be just maybe five. We'll talk about it. Maybe

790
00:47:38,400 --> 00:47:44,960
Speaker 1: capitalists society and I need my reparations. I'm joking. Only

791
00:47:45,080 --> 00:47:48,000
Speaker 1: just doing problems that you know, an idea. It's not

792
00:47:48,160 --> 00:47:51,239
Speaker 1: something that can be copyrighting. I know, Just do the work.

793
00:47:51,960 --> 00:47:55,160
Speaker 1: Just give Mama has a day job. Look, Auntie has

794
00:47:55,200 --> 00:47:57,759
Speaker 1: a day job. Just an idea, So you can take

795
00:47:57,840 --> 00:47:59,160
Speaker 1: that one for free. I got another one day to

796
00:47:59,200 --> 00:48:01,640
Speaker 1: come right down. It's there, you go. I got another one.

797
00:48:01,719 --> 00:48:04,120
Speaker 1: Just give us the hook up so that we know

798
00:48:04,200 --> 00:48:06,560
Speaker 1: how to do it that we know how to rest

799
00:48:06,719 --> 00:48:11,800
Speaker 1: and properly. I'll take all the music, I'll take the chimes,

800
00:48:12,120 --> 00:48:16,319
Speaker 1: I'll take the herbs. I'll take it. Let's go. Oh,

801
00:48:18,880 --> 00:48:21,680
Speaker 1: give it all the tips for the hat. Okay, okay, okay,

802
00:48:22,800 --> 00:48:25,880
Speaker 1: give us what you got, give it to us. Listen,

803
00:48:26,560 --> 00:48:29,800
Speaker 1: this is mutual aid. Yeah, I haven't heard that in

804
00:48:29,840 --> 00:48:33,359
Speaker 1: a long time. We're working together to figure it out.

805
00:48:33,719 --> 00:48:37,640
Speaker 1: We are, y'all. This it's a dire. It's it's gotten.

806
00:48:37,840 --> 00:48:42,520
Speaker 1: It's it's it's real serious, it is. It is your mom,

807
00:48:42,800 --> 00:48:44,880
Speaker 1: and it is your aunts and your your sisters and

808
00:48:44,960 --> 00:48:48,400
Speaker 1: your girlfriends, and you and your daughter and you and

809
00:48:48,600 --> 00:48:56,840
Speaker 1: me and my babies. Yeah, this should I sweep? He

810
00:48:56,920 --> 00:49:02,560
Speaker 1: had another thing to unpack. Uh, put in the laundry,

811
00:49:03,680 --> 00:49:07,160
Speaker 1: put in a dryer, or hang it outside. Either way,

812
00:49:07,920 --> 00:49:11,279
Speaker 1: it must be done. We thank you so so, so

813
00:49:11,400 --> 00:49:15,719
Speaker 1: so much for listening to Jay dot Ilga podcast. We

814
00:49:16,000 --> 00:49:20,080
Speaker 1: look forward to sharing information with you, and we look

815
00:49:20,160 --> 00:49:23,080
Speaker 1: forward to to learning more about ourselves as we grow.

816
00:49:24,440 --> 00:49:29,680
Speaker 1: You are loved, you are abundant, and goddamn it, you

817
00:49:29,800 --> 00:49:43,840
Speaker 1: are worthy. Thank you so much. Chos period. How do

818
00:49:43,960 --> 00:49:49,880
Speaker 1: you eat an elephant? One by? It time? Hey, listeners,

819
00:49:50,120 --> 00:49:55,319
Speaker 1: it's Amber the producer here. Just another reminder that everyone's

820
00:49:55,360 --> 00:49:58,239
Speaker 1: body is unique and what may work for one woman

821
00:49:58,560 --> 00:50:02,040
Speaker 1: may not work for another. So if you're suffering from fibroids,

822
00:50:02,160 --> 00:50:04,600
Speaker 1: work with your medical team to determine the best course

823
00:50:04,680 --> 00:50:09,080
Speaker 1: of action for yourself. Leah mentioned Vice President Kamala Harris's

824
00:50:09,200 --> 00:50:14,440
Speaker 1: task poise for fibroids. The VP did introduce the Uterine

825
00:50:14,520 --> 00:50:19,520
Speaker 1: Fibroid Research and Education Act into Congress. In for more

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Speaker 1: information on the act, I'll drop a link in the

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Speaker 1: show notes. Hi, if you have comments on something you

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Speaker 1: said in this episode called eight six six, Hey Jill,

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Speaker 1: if you want to add to this conversation, that's eight

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