WEBVTT - Office Happy Hour with Kate Flannery

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<v Speaker 1>Wind Down and Podcast. All right, welcome to another podcast

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<v Speaker 1>of Winddown with Michael Coston and Janna Kramer. I'm sorry,

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<v Speaker 1>Janna Kramer and Michael Cosson. We're never going to get

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<v Speaker 1>a good entrance to the show. No, probably not, but

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<v Speaker 1>that's okay. How's Quarantine life for you? Bed, Same old,

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<v Speaker 1>same old, And that's our show. So we'll see you

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<v Speaker 1>next week. No, we've been full of just this past

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<v Speaker 1>week we've been crazy productive. We really have painting rooms

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<v Speaker 1>doing stuff, doing stuff. We painted them the office, we

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<v Speaker 1>painted the barroom. Speaking of the office, we have Kate

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<v Speaker 1>Flannery on today, who is buried in the hit sitcom

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<v Speaker 1>The Office, which is probably my top two, probably my

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<v Speaker 1>number one actually of all times to your second one

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<v Speaker 1>side felt that's up there. Yeah, what's number two? But

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<v Speaker 1>that's sitcoms. But then you have shows like you know,

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<v Speaker 1>what's number two, probably Signild, what What's on? What's Teetering on? Three?

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<v Speaker 1>Then Caribbean Enthusiasm, which is all this is all like

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<v Speaker 1>the same kind of stuff, yeah, which and then you

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<v Speaker 1>have you know, shows like The Wire yet Dexter, you

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<v Speaker 1>got Game of Thrones, you got all that kind of stuff.

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<v Speaker 1>But anyways, um, I'm I'm really excited to talk to

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<v Speaker 1>her because I know her from Dancing with Stars. Hey,

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<v Speaker 1>were you guys in the same season? No, she was

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<v Speaker 1>just on this last season. Yeah. Um. But you know,

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<v Speaker 1>I've never watched an episode of the Office, so I

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<v Speaker 1>feel like this podcast should just be like it's the

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<v Speaker 1>Mic and Cake Show featuring Jana I. I don't know.

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<v Speaker 1>I just I love um Steve carl I feel like

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<v Speaker 1>I need to see I think the problem was I

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<v Speaker 1>would You'd be watching it and I would just come

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<v Speaker 1>in and see a few seconds of it, and you'd

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<v Speaker 1>be like laughing, and I would look at and go,

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<v Speaker 1>that's funny. I don't understand. You gotta understand. You gotta

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<v Speaker 1>understand the characters, the stories. But I but I like

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<v Speaker 1>love Seinfeld. I feel like you can watch Seinfeld and

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<v Speaker 1>laugh at anything. Well, the Office is the same way

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<v Speaker 1>if you have seen it before. So like Comedy Central

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<v Speaker 1>always has the Office in rotation like constantly, so I

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<v Speaker 1>could turn on that at any moment. It could be

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<v Speaker 1>any episode. I don't know exactly what's going on, and

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<v Speaker 1>I'll laugh like I would like I did the first time.

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<v Speaker 1>That's awesome. See. Maybe because I really love Kate, and

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<v Speaker 1>I'm excited to talk to her, especially because I heard

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<v Speaker 1>that she while she was filming The Office, she was

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<v Speaker 1>a waitress. Still, like, I love that. I just think

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<v Speaker 1>that's so cool. I wonder if was it a dream

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<v Speaker 1>or was I wanting to do a waitress job last year?

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<v Speaker 1>Did I dream that? Definitely didn't tell me that. See,

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<v Speaker 1>I miss waitressing, like I would still do it right now.

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<v Speaker 1>I would for fun. I mean, if I have kids,

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<v Speaker 1>I probably would. I enjoy it. I love waitressing until

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<v Speaker 1>you didn't and then you quit. No, I love it.

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<v Speaker 1>I would do it, I seriously, I think if I could.

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<v Speaker 1>I just I don't know. I love being able to

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<v Speaker 1>help people and making their experience great for sure. But

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<v Speaker 1>maybe it's so crazy. But maybe I had a dream

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<v Speaker 1>about that. But I had a dream that I was

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<v Speaker 1>applying somewhere for waitressing shop. I swear, what kind of

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<v Speaker 1>restaurant would you waitress? It's a good question because I've

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<v Speaker 1>done all of them. I've done Joe's Crap Chat, I've

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<v Speaker 1>done Fridays, I've done Applebee's, I've done Greek Island. I've

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<v Speaker 1>done you know, I've literally done every but the only

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<v Speaker 1>ones I haven't done were the real highst like the

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<v Speaker 1>upper like the one we went to a love in Park,

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<v Speaker 1>Matt whatever, Madison Park. I don't think I would want

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<v Speaker 1>to do that kind of restaurant. I was just gonna say,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, you couldn't. I couldn't. It's too stuffy. Well

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<v Speaker 1>and would you like you Kevin, Like I couldn't even

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<v Speaker 1>take it serious? You shoot from the hip too much.

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<v Speaker 1>Where if you went to a restaurant like that, next thing,

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<v Speaker 1>you know you back, don't get that because that's just

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<v Speaker 1>can disgusting, like that's how you'd beat I mean, I'm

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<v Speaker 1>just really honest, Like when people came to the wood

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<v Speaker 1>Ranch girl and uh what in l A when I

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<v Speaker 1>used to waitress there, and yes it's a one by

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<v Speaker 1>the grove. And funny story, I was stealing toilet paper

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<v Speaker 1>before COVID nineteen. Me and Diana were so poor in

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<v Speaker 1>our electricity went off and we were stealing paper toilet

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<v Speaker 1>paper from wood Ranch because we didn't I wouldn't have

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<v Speaker 1>enough money to buy like toilet paper. Um. But then

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<v Speaker 1>I booked night and then I quit, Gee what you

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<v Speaker 1>gotta do? Um? But yeah, no, anyways, but no, I

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<v Speaker 1>would have to be It would have to be a

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<v Speaker 1>chill place like that, and I wouldn't want to go

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<v Speaker 1>back to. I didn't like being a bar girl. I

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<v Speaker 1>hated that because I'm not the bar chick there, like

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<v Speaker 1>here's a shot and I'm like, yeah, babe, and then

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<v Speaker 1>I like throw it away. Anyways, Well, I do feel

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<v Speaker 1>I have a lot of empathy for those people in

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<v Speaker 1>that profession right now because of everything going on, and

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<v Speaker 1>that must that must really suck. And I hope, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>they're able to find some work somewhere and and everything.

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<v Speaker 1>And I hope people that have lost their jobs are

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<v Speaker 1>able to do something to take care of themselves. And

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<v Speaker 1>you know, I seldom do I read comments, or do

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<v Speaker 1>we read comments about this podcast or anything really that

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<v Speaker 1>we post, but I saw one recently when we were

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<v Speaker 1>talking about the quarantine sen and someone was kind of

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<v Speaker 1>going off on us about, uh, we're being insensitive or

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<v Speaker 1>something about giving people crap being out and about wait,

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<v Speaker 1>we were insensitive about what we were. You know, we

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<v Speaker 1>were just second being insensitive about people, you know, being

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<v Speaker 1>out in public, and we're like, stay at home, don't

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<v Speaker 1>go out. But just like anything, you have to take

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<v Speaker 1>it with. It's all in context. You have to take

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<v Speaker 1>it with a grain of salt. We're not saying everyone

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<v Speaker 1>should stay in their house and not leave at all.

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<v Speaker 1>We understand people have to make a living, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>we are if you're an essential worker and you have

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<v Speaker 1>to or you have to make a living, you have

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<v Speaker 1>to make the money. You know. We're not saying people

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<v Speaker 1>that everyone should stay home, and I'm not I'm not

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<v Speaker 1>trying to defend what we're saying. I'm just trying to

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<v Speaker 1>make it clear just so people put it in perspective that, yes,

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<v Speaker 1>we we appreciate the fact that we've been blessing. We're

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<v Speaker 1>in a fortunate situation where we can work from um

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<v Speaker 1>um and we're doing okay right now. But we totally

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<v Speaker 1>understand the grind of if you have to work, you

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<v Speaker 1>have to work. If you have to make money, you

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<v Speaker 1>have to make money. You gotta do what you gotta

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<v Speaker 1>do to provide for yourself and your family and stay safe.

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<v Speaker 1>So if you've got to leave the house, do it.

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<v Speaker 1>But it's all about what we're talking about. Are there's

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<v Speaker 1>people that we hear about or see that are out

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<v Speaker 1>and goofing around or maybe they don't have to be out,

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<v Speaker 1>or you know, abusing the system right now because they

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<v Speaker 1>are naive about the situation. That's all we're saying. I

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<v Speaker 1>just think again, just everything's got to be taken into

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<v Speaker 1>the right perspective. And now I'm reading comments downloaded a

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<v Speaker 1>month ago and cannot get through even one episode due

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<v Speaker 1>to how vapid and shallow jan it was. I'm sorry.

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<v Speaker 1>Do you think that it's like mean tweets? You know,

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<v Speaker 1>so toxic? Oh well, it's all, It's all good. Everyone

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<v Speaker 1>can have their opinions. I just I just don't want

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<v Speaker 1>people are actual fans listening to this if they are

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<v Speaker 1>in that situation. I didn't want them to be felt

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<v Speaker 1>like I selated from from what we're saying. I didn't

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<v Speaker 1>want them to take it the incorrect way. I don't

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<v Speaker 1>care the person that wrote the comment, who gives it,

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<v Speaker 1>but yeah, so people that care about the show and

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<v Speaker 1>that we care about So I'm sorry, I have to

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<v Speaker 1>say almost zanex quen Mike said, Janna thrives in chaos. Seriously,

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<v Speaker 1>Janna can't even function on a daily basis unless she's medicated.

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<v Speaker 1>What or she freaks out, wines, cries, and flat out

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<v Speaker 1>has panic attacks if she thinks the wind is blowing

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<v Speaker 1>in the wrong direction. She thrives on zanex more like it. Um,

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<v Speaker 1>I don't take zanex. So wow, that's kind of funny

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<v Speaker 1>because it's just so ridiculous. People are crazy, I know whatever,

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<v Speaker 1>um it is what it is. I feel like the

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<v Speaker 1>ones people I do listen they are getting something out

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<v Speaker 1>of it. Yeah, it's either the train wreck you love

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<v Speaker 1>to listen to or oh that's why you look at

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<v Speaker 1>reviews almost for anything, and it's either five stars or

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<v Speaker 1>one star. Like there's very seldom are people because this

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<v Speaker 1>is like anything right subjective. People can have their opinion.

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<v Speaker 1>It's I'm sure there's some episodes where people who are

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<v Speaker 1>even a fan of the show are kind of like,

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<v Speaker 1>it wasn't my favorite one, but hopefully the next week

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<v Speaker 1>or the week before was great for them. But most

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<v Speaker 1>of the time, this is just like a movie. It's

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<v Speaker 1>just like a you know, music genre. It's just like

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<v Speaker 1>anything you like, what you like, and if it's in

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<v Speaker 1>the middle of that, people aren't gonna or if you

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<v Speaker 1>just listen to one episode like someone goes, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>Janna left at Mike for not hustling. It's like we're

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<v Speaker 1>we crack on each other, you know. But anyways, um,

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<v Speaker 1>I feel like at the end of the day. Hopefully

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<v Speaker 1>we're helping people too with some of our situations. We

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<v Speaker 1>we air our dirty laundry to help other people. M hm.

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<v Speaker 1>You know, although the other day though, in therapy, it's

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<v Speaker 1>not great to have therapy sessions in quarantine. Yeah, it's

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<v Speaker 1>hard when you're on zoom and there's a way out. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>we're having therapy last week and I thought it was

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<v Speaker 1>a great therapy session. There was ten minutes and you know,

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<v Speaker 1>it was like a therapist was like, so, what are

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<v Speaker 1>ways that y'all can connect together? And how that got

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<v Speaker 1>us into an argument? Shocking um, But you know, within

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<v Speaker 1>those two minutes and Mike gets up, gets up and

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<v Speaker 1>storms out, and and the therapist is like, this is

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<v Speaker 1>why I hate doing these kind of sessions because now

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<v Speaker 1>you're just stuck in the house and what do you say,

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<v Speaker 1>Is he coming back? You're like nope, Yeah, He's like,

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<v Speaker 1>is he gonna come back? I was like, now he's done,

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<v Speaker 1>He's done, And he goes, well, how is this gonna

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<v Speaker 1>How is this going to resolve? I was like, well,

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<v Speaker 1>one or two things. He's either gonna be in a

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<v Speaker 1>hole the rest of the day and you know, puff

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<v Speaker 1>his chest out and whatever or hell, apologize for being

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<v Speaker 1>defensive and then we'll talk it out. And it was

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<v Speaker 1>the ladder. I know, it was kind of cool, super cool,

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<v Speaker 1>but yeah, I was like, but no, he's done and

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<v Speaker 1>I'm gonna go now and gray, but I went for it.

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<v Speaker 1>Came back from a walk and I even said to

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<v Speaker 1>my girlfriends, I was like, up here it is. It's

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<v Speaker 1>either going to be good and rest of the day.

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<v Speaker 1>We're a bad rest of the day. Did they text

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<v Speaker 1>you and ask you later? Um? Now, I mean you

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<v Speaker 1>were like out with the kids and playing so killing

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<v Speaker 1>the game, riding the scooter. But yeah, all right, well

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<v Speaker 1>let's take a break and we'll come back and warm

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<v Speaker 1>things up for to have Kate Flannery on. So what

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<v Speaker 1>was your favorite episode of Office before we get her on?

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<v Speaker 1>Because I just want to get some Office knowledge. You

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<v Speaker 1>can't there's not one anyone will say. When season nine,

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<v Speaker 1>when Dwight and Angela are going to get married, it's

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<v Speaker 1>like the one of the last episodes of the whole series,

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<v Speaker 1>is she married in it? No? No, she's a train wreck, alcoholic.

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<v Speaker 1>It's like two kids. I think, drives a minivan. She's

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<v Speaker 1>an animal. She's awesome. So Anyways, this episode at the

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<v Speaker 1>end is when Michael Scott comes back and at the

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<v Speaker 1>perfect timing he pulls out of That's what she said,

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<v Speaker 1>with like tears in his eyes. And it's just like

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<v Speaker 1>that when you were crying on the plane that Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>actually no, I think that was when he married Holly.

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<v Speaker 1>I look over, I was like, are you crying? That

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<v Speaker 1>the best watching the office telling you man, you get invested.

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<v Speaker 1>Let me ask you this because I was thinking this

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<v Speaker 1>before the break because someone asked Kate this as well.

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<v Speaker 1>But when someone's on a show, such a popular show

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<v Speaker 1>that has this following, that's just timeless. As you were

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<v Speaker 1>two on One Tree Hill and how big that still is.

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<v Speaker 1>Do you ever get tired talking about it? Really? Because

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<v Speaker 1>it's the show that made you the golf forever. Be

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<v Speaker 1>so grateful for One Tree Hill. And I love meeting

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<v Speaker 1>New Tree Hill or fans. I love it. I'll talk

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<v Speaker 1>to them blue in the face about One Tree Hill.

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<v Speaker 1>I love it. It's good to know because I feel bad,

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<v Speaker 1>you know now being in this kind of position we

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<v Speaker 1>interview people and have those discussions. It's you and I

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<v Speaker 1>have both know what it's like to be on the

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<v Speaker 1>receiving end and get the same questions about certain things

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<v Speaker 1>and just have to talk about it until you're blue

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<v Speaker 1>in the face. But it's good. It's refreshing to know

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<v Speaker 1>that when it comes to something like that career wise,

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<v Speaker 1>that you have that appreciation and respect for that. Now

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<v Speaker 1>here's the the other side of it. If I was

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<v Speaker 1>on a show that I was actually the entire like

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<v Speaker 1>I was only blessed, I mean not blessed, like I

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<v Speaker 1>only did three seasons. So if I did nine seasons

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<v Speaker 1>of it, or if I did, I mean, let's say

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<v Speaker 1>I was. I mean, for example, are our buddy Bob Sagett,

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<v Speaker 1>you know Danny Tanner, I mean Heenan said he's not

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<v Speaker 1>sick of talking about tree, I mean a full house.

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<v Speaker 1>But at the same time, if you're type cast and

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<v Speaker 1>they were all that is what it would that's where

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<v Speaker 1>it would get hard because it's like they only see

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<v Speaker 1>him or you know, for quite a long time as

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<v Speaker 1>Danny Tanner, Like that's why, um, what's his face? Uncle

0:14:20.080 --> 0:14:22.320
<v Speaker 1>Jesse wanted to do anything but Uncle Jesse, and he

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<v Speaker 1>started to do like these really dark dramas and murder

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<v Speaker 1>because he just wanted to be so out of it.

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<v Speaker 1>But no one believed that, you know, So I think

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<v Speaker 1>that is the only that's but I feel like people

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<v Speaker 1>like Steve Carrell don't have that issue because they're already

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<v Speaker 1>so yeah, but I think even someone like Steve Carrell,

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<v Speaker 1>who yes, we see now how first he is in

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<v Speaker 1>his ability to act, but at the beginning, it was

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<v Speaker 1>all comedic stuff. It was isn't like Michael Shannon too,

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<v Speaker 1>which were we just watching with Waco Who's wasn't he

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<v Speaker 1>comedy to not really know? Um? But you know, he

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<v Speaker 1>was four year old virgin and those kind of an

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<v Speaker 1>anchorman and all that kind of stuff. He was like

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<v Speaker 1>the sidekick, funny random guy, um the Office. I mean,

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<v Speaker 1>he took that over, but still it's mostly comedy. And

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<v Speaker 1>you know, but now you see him on things with

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<v Speaker 1>uh the Morning show him. No, I'm saying he before

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<v Speaker 1>he was just kind of this side part like co star,

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<v Speaker 1>but he was the star of the office and like

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<v Speaker 1>owned it, like took it over as and like delivered

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<v Speaker 1>every day. Um. But yeah, no, that's refreshing to know.

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<v Speaker 1>And I but even when we talked to Bob before,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, he even said he went through a transition

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<v Speaker 1>where he was sick of it, sick of being known

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<v Speaker 1>as as Danny Tanner and like always being like you said,

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<v Speaker 1>type casted in that and then he kind of later

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<v Speaker 1>on realized and appreciated it all over again, especially because

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<v Speaker 1>of all these streaming services and gainey new fans like

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<v Speaker 1>you said you are you're talking to new Tree Hillers,

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<v Speaker 1>and the fact that there's teenagers that are becoming true

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<v Speaker 1>Tree Hill fans right now because of streaming services is amazing. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>for sure, interesting, But yeah, I wonder, I don't know.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm excited and I'm excited. Talked her too. She she's

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<v Speaker 1>one of seven children, which means she's a hustler um,

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<v Speaker 1>and yeah, I'm excited to get her on to take

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<v Speaker 1>one my break before we have her colin, let's do it, Okay,

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<v Speaker 1>all right to rive Katey, Hey good, how are you?

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<v Speaker 1>Oh my gosh, I just want to can I start?

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<v Speaker 1>I loved watching you and dancing with the stars. Thank you?

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<v Speaker 1>So you're so sweet. Oh my gosh. I literally just

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<v Speaker 1>got a text from Pasha, my partner. He's not he's

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<v Speaker 1>in um Staten Island with this with his wife and family.

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<v Speaker 1>So yeah, yeah, I mean you did. I I was

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<v Speaker 1>just because Michael is like the biggest office fan that

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<v Speaker 1>has ever lived. Um and and I you know, I

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<v Speaker 1>I love you from Dancing with the Stars, and I

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<v Speaker 1>was just like you were not only um, you you

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<v Speaker 1>were just how do I say it, Like you were

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<v Speaker 1>beautiful but yet you were relatable and you but yet

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<v Speaker 1>you were funny like you were you had all of

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<v Speaker 1>it together and just like an amazing package. Like I

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<v Speaker 1>one thousand percent, I think you should have won. Like

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<v Speaker 1>you were amazing and you were relatable, and I just

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<v Speaker 1>I loved watching you like you made me happy every

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<v Speaker 1>time you danced. So that's so I really appreciate that

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<v Speaker 1>I was. It was a really unexpected process for me.

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<v Speaker 1>I didn't expect to enjoy it as much. I didn't

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<v Speaker 1>like the judging. But other than that, you know, I

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<v Speaker 1>didn't I didn't like that part either. Geta balls, you know, sorry,

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<v Speaker 1>I get a little meretith when I talk about the judges.

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<v Speaker 1>But like, you know, you know, I know me and

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<v Speaker 1>me and Julianne went at it like one time, but

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<v Speaker 1>you know it happens because it's just like you put

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<v Speaker 1>so much work into it. It's like you know, you're

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<v Speaker 1>not a dancer, but you sure as heck fuled me

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<v Speaker 1>and I thought I loved it. So I had a

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<v Speaker 1>great teacher. Seriously, Pasha is a great teacher, and I

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<v Speaker 1>thought he was a great addition to the show. And

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<v Speaker 1>I actually did. I did a bunch of the tour.

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<v Speaker 1>I just got off the road with the Dancing with

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<v Speaker 1>the Stars tour, which is crazy. I did um forty

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<v Speaker 1>three shows. I supposed to do fifty four but we

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<v Speaker 1>got pulled off early. But it was intense, I gotta

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<v Speaker 1>tell you, I literally, I mean it's a lot. We

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<v Speaker 1>were you know, we played Radio City and gosh, that's

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<v Speaker 1>so cool. You're on Rocket rollbus. I mean I got

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<v Speaker 1>the bedroom, so I felt a little twanky, but it

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<v Speaker 1>was so tough. You got the star room in the back,

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<v Speaker 1>and like if you call it that, yes, all the

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<v Speaker 1>beer cans came rolling back to my I love all right,

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<v Speaker 1>Michael go you know, first of all, I mean, I

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<v Speaker 1>have a million questions, but I'll start slow. I was

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<v Speaker 1>asking Janna this because Jenna was on a on a

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<v Speaker 1>TV show that ran for a long time, One Tree Hill,

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<v Speaker 1>and has this cult following and stuff, and obviously the

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<v Speaker 1>office does. And always wonder if people who have had

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<v Speaker 1>the level of success on the singular show like you have.

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<v Speaker 1>Do you ever get tired talking about it? I don't

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<v Speaker 1>you know why I had such It was such a

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<v Speaker 1>great experience, and I feel like the love that people

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<v Speaker 1>have for it is so intense and like they're so

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<v Speaker 1>invested that I don't. I mean, I always wondered, like,

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<v Speaker 1>what's I mean? And maybe it's just luck. But the

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<v Speaker 1>writing was so amazing that even if I didn't speak

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<v Speaker 1>for days when we were shooting, I didn't care. It

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<v Speaker 1>was hysterical, like it was so smart, and I just

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<v Speaker 1>felt like, you know, I'm just so proud of it.

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<v Speaker 1>I love that people are like consuming it, like they're

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<v Speaker 1>breathing it is sleeping and breathing it like they can't

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<v Speaker 1>turn it off. But it's crazy. I heard a rumor

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<v Speaker 1>you were still waitressing during the show first season. Yeah.

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<v Speaker 1>I kept my restaurant job because I wasn't sure if

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<v Speaker 1>it was going to get picked up. We had all season,

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<v Speaker 1>just six episodes for the first season, so I literally

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<v Speaker 1>covered my shift store in the weekend. I worked my

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<v Speaker 1>said they runched, Oh my gosh, and it started air

0:20:05.240 --> 0:20:08.720
<v Speaker 1>and and one customer said to me, excuse me, did

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<v Speaker 1>you just get a HYS direct to me? And I

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<v Speaker 1>was like, what, what the hell? No, actually, no, no,

0:20:15.200 --> 0:20:17.600
<v Speaker 1>actually I messed it up. They said, aren't you lactose

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<v Speaker 1>intolerant and I said, uh, well, thanks, yes, and thanks

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<v Speaker 1>for not bringing up my hys directed me that the

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<v Speaker 1>Alliance it's so weird. I mean, you know, it's so crazy.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh my gosh, but yeah, it was. It was so

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<v Speaker 1>so strong, and then like you know, and then it

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<v Speaker 1>clearly became clear that the show was going to move

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<v Speaker 1>forward and ever since, like Steve, you know, Steve came

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<v Speaker 1>out with forty year old Virgin. The signs were up

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<v Speaker 1>before we started season two and I was like, oh,

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<v Speaker 1>this could be really big, so you know, and then

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<v Speaker 1>when when that came out, it was like everyone just

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<v Speaker 1>you know, wanted more because Steve is such a He's amazing.

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<v Speaker 1>He's really I mean, I feel like we wrote on

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<v Speaker 1>his coattails in such a great way for such a

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<v Speaker 1>long time. Yes and no, at the same as a fan,

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<v Speaker 1>I just yeah, I mean Steve was amazing. I mean,

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<v Speaker 1>he carried such a heavy load on that show and

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<v Speaker 1>just delivered every time. But I think to your point,

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<v Speaker 1>the writing was so great where I felt like they

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<v Speaker 1>equally included everyone in that cast from you to Kevin too.

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<v Speaker 1>I mean, everybody like had their storylines. You knew so

0:21:19.240 --> 0:21:22.000
<v Speaker 1>much about every character where they wrote it in. It

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<v Speaker 1>was just like, and you know, Jane was making fun

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<v Speaker 1>of me. Were later in the seasons, I'm like, we're traveling,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm like crying to the office. She's like, what in

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<v Speaker 1>this a comedy? While you cry? I was like, you

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<v Speaker 1>don't know the whole backstory and it's just everywhere else.

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<v Speaker 1>So there's so much hard I thought. The Jim Pan

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<v Speaker 1>thing was always like, especially in the beginning, was so heartbreaking.

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<v Speaker 1>It would make me upset. As we were in the

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<v Speaker 1>writer's room, like just reading, like you know, reading each episode,

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<v Speaker 1>doing the table read. I'll be like, no, I'd be

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<v Speaker 1>so bummed when they'd almost get together. They're like, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>it was just so painful. Do you have I mean,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm sure you have a million any specific memory from

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<v Speaker 1>that show that you're like, this was just that special

0:22:02.920 --> 0:22:07.280
<v Speaker 1>day or that special episode for you personally. Well, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>it's funny. I feel like Michael's last Dundees were amazing

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<v Speaker 1>for a number of reasons because that was the Walk

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<v Speaker 1>of Shame when Diego and Michael Scott come to Meredith's house.

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<v Speaker 1>She's coming in for the night before. That was the

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<v Speaker 1>first and the only time we got to see nervous House.

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<v Speaker 1>So I just love the whole exchange. I thought it

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<v Speaker 1>was just I just like the whole less is more thing.

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<v Speaker 1>And I love that they never gave up on that,

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<v Speaker 1>because sometimes when seasons continue with shows, characters sort of

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<v Speaker 1>morph and they kind of start talking too much and

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<v Speaker 1>they get some of the exposition and they sort of

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<v Speaker 1>lose what was funny about them. I love that the

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<v Speaker 1>writers never ruined Meredith. They didn't, you know what I mean.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know, even if I had like a lot

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<v Speaker 1>to do in one episode, like Lis or something, I

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<v Speaker 1>still felt like, Okay, that's okay, that's enough, Okay, we

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<v Speaker 1>can we can go back. You know, I never because

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<v Speaker 1>I know a lot of actors, like they like to

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<v Speaker 1>count lines and they get a little insecure. And I

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<v Speaker 1>was nervous at first, but only because I thought I

0:22:58.840 --> 0:23:00.840
<v Speaker 1>was going to get fired when when like if my

0:23:00.880 --> 0:23:03.480
<v Speaker 1>storyline got cut. But then I realized, like I realized

0:23:03.480 --> 0:23:05.760
<v Speaker 1>there was this great chess game going on, and just

0:23:05.880 --> 0:23:08.399
<v Speaker 1>let them, you know, let the writers, let the producers

0:23:08.440 --> 0:23:10.640
<v Speaker 1>play this game like they're doing a great job. Don't

0:23:10.680 --> 0:23:12.520
<v Speaker 1>mess it up by being an actor with a complaint,

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<v Speaker 1>for sure. But when I appreciate your performance is because

0:23:16.560 --> 0:23:18.680
<v Speaker 1>the yeah, the writers can write all this good stuff.

0:23:18.960 --> 0:23:21.600
<v Speaker 1>I feel like you're The physical comedy you brought to

0:23:21.680 --> 0:23:25.159
<v Speaker 1>your character was very underrated. And you know in scenes

0:23:25.200 --> 0:23:28.399
<v Speaker 1>like when you're being dragged into rehab from Dwight, putting

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<v Speaker 1>the back of your head with the bat like everything,

0:23:31.040 --> 0:23:35.119
<v Speaker 1>it's just like your mannerisms. That was why the writing

0:23:35.200 --> 0:23:37.160
<v Speaker 1>was funny, is because you made it funny through your

0:23:37.160 --> 0:23:40.720
<v Speaker 1>delivery and the physical nature of your Because sometimes my

0:23:40.800 --> 0:23:43.160
<v Speaker 1>lines will get cut because basically they would say, like, well,

0:23:43.280 --> 0:23:45.119
<v Speaker 1>your face sort of said what your line was, And

0:23:45.119 --> 0:23:47.840
<v Speaker 1>I was like, I get that. You know, we don't

0:23:47.840 --> 0:23:49.840
<v Speaker 1>need the words. If you sort of see my expression,

0:23:49.880 --> 0:23:51.960
<v Speaker 1>you kind of get it right. You know, it's funny.

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<v Speaker 1>Um There's the other scenes that I really really loved

0:23:54.720 --> 0:24:01.440
<v Speaker 1>were um uh when when um uh Michael Scott proposed

0:24:01.480 --> 0:24:04.000
<v Speaker 1>to Holly and then the sprinklers went off because he

0:24:04.080 --> 0:24:06.679
<v Speaker 1>lived too many It was so great to be a

0:24:06.720 --> 0:24:08.760
<v Speaker 1>part of, Like I just felt like, oh my gosh,

0:24:09.119 --> 0:24:11.119
<v Speaker 1>that whole like the departure of Michael Scott was so

0:24:11.160 --> 0:24:13.439
<v Speaker 1>emotional for all of us, and me in particular, and

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<v Speaker 1>my boyfriend. I met my boyfriend on the show of

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<v Speaker 1>the Office, and he because he's the still photographer for NBC,

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<v Speaker 1>so he was working time to time, so like he

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<v Speaker 1>would be in the fake men's room a lot. That's

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<v Speaker 1>where I'd meet him. Like, yeah, so he was in

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<v Speaker 1>the fake men's room the whole time when Holly's coming

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<v Speaker 1>through and we have the can't like we're lined up

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<v Speaker 1>before she goes like my head and hit sees. So

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<v Speaker 1>it was just something great to share. It was really awesome. Absolutely,

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<v Speaker 1>what are your parents saying now, because I know they

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<v Speaker 1>didn't want you to be an actress, so are they?

0:24:45.359 --> 0:24:47.840
<v Speaker 1>My mom wasn't a real big honest, this is the thing.

0:24:47.840 --> 0:24:50.040
<v Speaker 1>I wanted to be a child stars. They were like, Um,

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<v Speaker 1>that's not gonna happen. My dad on a bar is

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<v Speaker 1>like okay, whatever. Um, but you know, I think at

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<v Speaker 1>one point, I think about a year before because I

0:24:59.359 --> 0:25:01.520
<v Speaker 1>was forty years when I got the Office, so I

0:25:01.560 --> 0:25:03.440
<v Speaker 1>had been guest starring. I've done a lot of Broadway.

0:25:03.480 --> 0:25:05.520
<v Speaker 1>I was a second city. I mean, I had some

0:25:06.160 --> 0:25:08.480
<v Speaker 1>minor successes that like told me I was doing the

0:25:08.560 --> 0:25:12.200
<v Speaker 1>right thing, but um, I felt like a year before,

0:25:12.320 --> 0:25:14.000
<v Speaker 1>maybe six months before I got the office. My dad

0:25:14.040 --> 0:25:16.440
<v Speaker 1>actually said to me, because he was the most importive,

0:25:16.880 --> 0:25:18.440
<v Speaker 1>he was sort of like, are you sure you don't

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<v Speaker 1>want to do something else. I was like, oh my god.

0:25:20.480 --> 0:25:22.119
<v Speaker 1>Like if he's saying like, oh no, I like this

0:25:22.200 --> 0:25:25.720
<v Speaker 1>is getting bad. Um. But yeah, I think at first

0:25:25.800 --> 0:25:28.000
<v Speaker 1>they were sort of like we watched the whole thing

0:25:28.040 --> 0:25:30.439
<v Speaker 1>and you barely talked, you know, me talk, you know.

0:25:30.880 --> 0:25:32.920
<v Speaker 1>And then after a while they kind of bought on.

0:25:33.000 --> 0:25:35.399
<v Speaker 1>But that was okay. So I would just not to

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<v Speaker 1>take the call from Philadelphia which was three hours earlier,

0:25:37.880 --> 0:25:40.520
<v Speaker 1>because sometimes I wouldn't know what God edited out or

0:25:40.560 --> 0:25:42.240
<v Speaker 1>and so I'm like, Okay, I don't want to get

0:25:42.280 --> 0:25:44.520
<v Speaker 1>upset about what's in around. I know, I know there's

0:25:44.520 --> 0:25:46.320
<v Speaker 1>something bigger here, so you just have to sort of

0:25:46.359 --> 0:25:49.360
<v Speaker 1>trust the process. I had to trust the process, like

0:25:49.400 --> 0:25:51.840
<v Speaker 1>I don't know a lot of what was it for

0:25:51.880 --> 0:25:53.800
<v Speaker 1>you that's kind of stayed in it too, because I know,

0:25:53.920 --> 0:25:55.600
<v Speaker 1>I mean I sometimes I think about your aunt too,

0:25:55.760 --> 0:25:57.399
<v Speaker 1>you know, And I mean for me, I'm like, who

0:25:57.480 --> 0:25:59.800
<v Speaker 1>knows if I'll ever book anything ever again. So it's

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<v Speaker 1>and you kind of like well maybe, okay, what else

0:26:01.920 --> 0:26:04.000
<v Speaker 1>can I do? So what what was it for you?

0:26:04.040 --> 0:26:05.840
<v Speaker 1>They were like, no, like this is this is it?

0:26:05.960 --> 0:26:09.840
<v Speaker 1>And well, I think I remember like nine eleven, I

0:26:09.880 --> 0:26:12.160
<v Speaker 1>was waiting tables in Beverly Hills at the same restaurant

0:26:12.280 --> 0:26:14.640
<v Speaker 1>was um And we started the office in two thousand four,

0:26:14.720 --> 0:26:16.480
<v Speaker 1>so it was three years before that, and I was

0:26:16.520 --> 0:26:18.680
<v Speaker 1>doing my comedy act, The Lampshades, was doing it every

0:26:18.720 --> 0:26:21.640
<v Speaker 1>week and and auditioning and sometimes getting some you know

0:26:22.000 --> 0:26:25.280
<v Speaker 1>parts here and there. I thought, you know, if this

0:26:25.359 --> 0:26:27.800
<v Speaker 1>is it, this is all this is. I think I'm

0:26:27.800 --> 0:26:29.640
<v Speaker 1>okay with this, Like if I could go with that,

0:26:29.880 --> 0:26:33.000
<v Speaker 1>because nine eleven was like very reflective, you know, for

0:26:33.960 --> 0:26:35.359
<v Speaker 1>I don't know, I just feel like a lot of

0:26:35.400 --> 0:26:38.680
<v Speaker 1>people made really interesting decisions at that time. I feel

0:26:38.680 --> 0:26:41.720
<v Speaker 1>like a lot of people got divorced that time or whatever,

0:26:41.880 --> 0:26:44.320
<v Speaker 1>change jobs. But I was like, okay, I could live

0:26:44.359 --> 0:26:46.960
<v Speaker 1>with that. I could really live with that. So I

0:26:47.000 --> 0:26:49.520
<v Speaker 1>think that was just like I just got more and

0:26:49.560 --> 0:26:52.399
<v Speaker 1>more tenacious and just kind of did everything I could.

0:26:52.600 --> 0:26:54.479
<v Speaker 1>I love that, and you almost didn't. You're like, okay,

0:26:54.480 --> 0:26:56.439
<v Speaker 1>like this is this is good, Like I'm able to

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<v Speaker 1>do things here, and you didn't put that pressure like

0:26:58.560 --> 0:27:00.679
<v Speaker 1>I'm a failure because I feel like that's where I know,

0:27:00.680 --> 0:27:02.800
<v Speaker 1>that's where I go a lot where I'm like, it's

0:27:02.840 --> 0:27:05.720
<v Speaker 1>just Hallmark or whatever, and I'm constantly saying that, and

0:27:05.760 --> 0:27:08.200
<v Speaker 1>it's like, but it's still work, and it's still you're

0:27:08.240 --> 0:27:10.919
<v Speaker 1>still acting. It's still you're still doing but it's like

0:27:11.280 --> 0:27:14.080
<v Speaker 1>it's not that like dream job that you think it is.

0:27:14.119 --> 0:27:16.159
<v Speaker 1>But I love kind of that outlook to say, no,

0:27:16.400 --> 0:27:20.440
<v Speaker 1>that's that's still great and you're doing anything Hallmark because

0:27:20.440 --> 0:27:23.920
<v Speaker 1>I did a Hallmark Christmas movie probably like was it

0:27:24.320 --> 0:27:27.159
<v Speaker 1>two thousand ten or something like ten years ago, And

0:27:27.200 --> 0:27:29.520
<v Speaker 1>I remember there was this great actor that was in

0:27:30.160 --> 0:27:33.600
<v Speaker 1>UM in the cast. He had like he had one

0:27:34.480 --> 0:27:37.080
<v Speaker 1>uh he did movies and stuff. His name is Edward Herman.

0:27:37.080 --> 0:27:39.400
<v Speaker 1>He played like FDR and a TV movie in the seventies.

0:27:39.400 --> 0:27:40.960
<v Speaker 1>It was like a big deal. But anyway, he was

0:27:40.960 --> 0:27:42.960
<v Speaker 1>like a legit dude, like he did. I think he

0:27:43.040 --> 0:27:46.040
<v Speaker 1>was in UM Oh my god, Oh what is it?

0:27:46.359 --> 0:27:48.520
<v Speaker 1>Oh my god, I'm thinking that. I'm trying to think

0:27:48.560 --> 0:27:51.000
<v Speaker 1>of the movie that was about the water Gate. Anyway,

0:27:51.000 --> 0:27:52.560
<v Speaker 1>he's been He was in a lot of like very

0:27:52.960 --> 0:27:56.120
<v Speaker 1>early seventies movies, like really legit, dude. And I said

0:27:56.160 --> 0:27:57.840
<v Speaker 1>to him, Oh my god, I'm having such a hard

0:27:57.920 --> 0:28:00.680
<v Speaker 1>time because I feel like I don't believe myself. This is,

0:28:00.840 --> 0:28:02.960
<v Speaker 1>you know, not the way I talked. And he said, listen,

0:28:03.280 --> 0:28:07.760
<v Speaker 1>he goes, you wanna you're you're if we're presenting cheese,

0:28:07.920 --> 0:28:11.000
<v Speaker 1>you want to make the cheese delicious something like, you

0:28:11.040 --> 0:28:13.000
<v Speaker 1>want to make it really appetizing. It's sort of like

0:28:13.080 --> 0:28:15.080
<v Speaker 1>get out of your own way. Like basically what he

0:28:15.119 --> 0:28:17.879
<v Speaker 1>said to me was like stopping so full of whatever

0:28:17.960 --> 0:28:20.040
<v Speaker 1>you think that you're supposed to be doing. And just

0:28:20.520 --> 0:28:22.600
<v Speaker 1>because I'll be honest with you, there's so many people

0:28:22.680 --> 0:28:26.480
<v Speaker 1>I know that live on the Hallmark movies. They live

0:28:26.640 --> 0:28:28.440
<v Speaker 1>on that channel, and I feel like, who am I

0:28:28.720 --> 0:28:33.119
<v Speaker 1>to think that. I mean, I'm lucky to be in

0:28:33.280 --> 0:28:36.680
<v Speaker 1>their homes, you know, on their TVs. I mean, I

0:28:36.840 --> 0:28:40.000
<v Speaker 1>just really feel like there's a humility factor that kicks

0:28:40.040 --> 0:28:42.680
<v Speaker 1>in and and you know, everybody has to listen to

0:28:42.720 --> 0:28:45.600
<v Speaker 1>their own voice. But it's also like good over yourself. Yeah,

0:28:46.680 --> 0:28:48.640
<v Speaker 1>very true. I mean that's hard with any kind of

0:28:48.760 --> 0:28:52.680
<v Speaker 1>entertainment profession, whether it's acting, music, professional athletics. It's like

0:28:52.760 --> 0:28:55.480
<v Speaker 1>we all have experienced that where you reach a certain

0:28:55.760 --> 0:28:59.280
<v Speaker 1>level and it still feels like it's not enough, right,

0:28:59.320 --> 0:29:01.840
<v Speaker 1>Like you think about how many young actresses would die

0:29:01.880 --> 0:29:03.680
<v Speaker 1>to be in a Hallmark movie or die to being

0:29:03.720 --> 0:29:06.200
<v Speaker 1>a commercial, or how many college kids would love to

0:29:06.240 --> 0:29:08.480
<v Speaker 1>be on the team when I was on and it's

0:29:09.000 --> 0:29:12.720
<v Speaker 1>but it's any award winning or that Netflix show, and

0:29:12.760 --> 0:29:16.040
<v Speaker 1>you're like, I'm still not good enough to get there, right.

0:29:16.120 --> 0:29:20.040
<v Speaker 1>It's just finding finding that balance between being you know,

0:29:20.960 --> 0:29:24.440
<v Speaker 1>happy with where you're at, but not but not complacent.

0:29:24.960 --> 0:29:26.960
<v Speaker 1>You know it's well, And I think the secret to

0:29:27.160 --> 0:29:30.040
<v Speaker 1>is like, you know, everybody uh wants to get what

0:29:30.120 --> 0:29:32.280
<v Speaker 1>they want, but do you really want what you get?

0:29:33.400 --> 0:29:35.920
<v Speaker 1>You have to really make peace with that. What is it?

0:29:36.120 --> 0:29:38.920
<v Speaker 1>What do they say comparison is the thief of joy

0:29:39.280 --> 0:29:43.800
<v Speaker 1>for sure and a fortune cookie, but it's so truly

0:29:43.880 --> 0:29:47.320
<v Speaker 1>it's all your joy. And I just feel like, oh

0:29:47.440 --> 0:29:49.240
<v Speaker 1>my god, if you can just shut like put the

0:29:49.320 --> 0:29:52.280
<v Speaker 1>blinders on, like she asked. That was something I actually

0:29:52.360 --> 0:29:53.920
<v Speaker 1>learned on you have to go the stars, like, don't

0:29:53.960 --> 0:29:57.280
<v Speaker 1>compare yourself to other people person in that competition. For

0:29:57.400 --> 0:30:00.160
<v Speaker 1>most of the competition, I was all the other been

0:30:00.200 --> 0:30:02.280
<v Speaker 1>one of their twenties and I'm like, I remember getting

0:30:02.360 --> 0:30:04.040
<v Speaker 1>like two high scores two weeks in a row, and

0:30:04.120 --> 0:30:05.560
<v Speaker 1>like they kind of give me a little shade in

0:30:05.600 --> 0:30:11.560
<v Speaker 1>the ladieshop, and I'm like, what, like, just work harder,

0:30:11.680 --> 0:30:17.400
<v Speaker 1>what's wrong with you? You know, that's amazing, but it's

0:30:17.400 --> 0:30:19.520
<v Speaker 1>also just like again, like you just gotta keep your

0:30:19.560 --> 0:30:22.160
<v Speaker 1>eyes on your own paper, and it's hard. It's hard,

0:30:22.720 --> 0:30:24.840
<v Speaker 1>and you know, and whatever whatever you know. I mean,

0:30:24.960 --> 0:30:26.560
<v Speaker 1>if if it means you need to get off your

0:30:26.600 --> 0:30:29.240
<v Speaker 1>butt and stop waiting for other people to get your work,

0:30:29.280 --> 0:30:31.640
<v Speaker 1>and maybe you need to create your own stuff, you know,

0:30:31.840 --> 0:30:33.880
<v Speaker 1>I mean whatever that means, because I feel like I

0:30:34.640 --> 0:30:36.560
<v Speaker 1>do a lot of stage stuff just because I hate

0:30:36.760 --> 0:30:39.120
<v Speaker 1>waiting for the phone to ring, right, Yeah, for sure.

0:30:39.200 --> 0:30:41.840
<v Speaker 1>And it's just about hustling too. Was there any with

0:30:42.120 --> 0:30:44.400
<v Speaker 1>with a cast in the office, with that many kind

0:30:44.440 --> 0:30:47.480
<v Speaker 1>of people who all impacted the show so greatly, was

0:30:47.560 --> 0:30:50.680
<v Speaker 1>there any kind of natural contention of like, man, you know,

0:30:50.760 --> 0:30:52.560
<v Speaker 1>there's been a few weeks in the row, Angela has

0:30:52.600 --> 0:30:55.680
<v Speaker 1>gotten a little bit more, Meredith has gotten a little

0:30:55.680 --> 0:30:59.360
<v Speaker 1>bit more. You know, I feel like we were because

0:30:59.400 --> 0:31:01.880
<v Speaker 1>we all start to kind of us on, you know,

0:31:02.000 --> 0:31:04.560
<v Speaker 1>kind of unknowns, all of the unknowns pretty much. That

0:31:04.640 --> 0:31:06.840
<v Speaker 1>really wasn't I feel like we were pretty much rooting

0:31:06.840 --> 0:31:09.800
<v Speaker 1>for people, you know. I also feel like Steve said

0:31:09.840 --> 0:31:12.400
<v Speaker 1>us such a great tone because things were happening for him.

0:31:12.480 --> 0:31:15.200
<v Speaker 1>I mean, he had not started movies before this, and

0:31:15.280 --> 0:31:17.400
<v Speaker 1>I feel like if he's not acting like a jerk

0:31:17.520 --> 0:31:19.320
<v Speaker 1>like then no one else really, So I feel like

0:31:19.400 --> 0:31:23.360
<v Speaker 1>he set the tone. That's cool. The douchebag factor really

0:31:23.520 --> 0:31:26.320
<v Speaker 1>low on the show, which was great. Did you have

0:31:26.480 --> 0:31:29.560
<v Speaker 1>to take do a lot of takes with a lot

0:31:29.640 --> 0:31:32.160
<v Speaker 1>of these scenes, because I mean, I watch again as

0:31:32.200 --> 0:31:33.920
<v Speaker 1>a fan, I'm like, there's no way in hell I

0:31:33.960 --> 0:31:36.600
<v Speaker 1>could keep it straight faced, Like how the hell do

0:31:36.640 --> 0:31:40.560
<v Speaker 1>you do that? But in that kind of show, are

0:31:40.600 --> 0:31:43.480
<v Speaker 1>you me? But you also ruin up for other people

0:31:43.560 --> 0:31:46.200
<v Speaker 1>like you were on the take laughing, and also like

0:31:46.320 --> 0:31:49.440
<v Speaker 1>you have to you guys are like let's go. I

0:31:49.520 --> 0:31:53.600
<v Speaker 1>want to get home. Stop laughing. It's so true. And

0:31:53.640 --> 0:31:55.800
<v Speaker 1>I also feel like, also you're part of the funny

0:31:55.840 --> 0:31:58.360
<v Speaker 1>if you can keep it together for sure, like like

0:31:58.520 --> 0:32:00.440
<v Speaker 1>you know, then you're then you're in it it. So

0:32:00.520 --> 0:32:02.440
<v Speaker 1>you just have to, you know, do And sometimes I'm

0:32:02.440 --> 0:32:04.600
<v Speaker 1>like I'm gonna drama, I'm gonna drama. I'm gonna drama,

0:32:04.720 --> 0:32:09.160
<v Speaker 1>Like I kind of things to myself, like what I

0:32:09.240 --> 0:32:11.360
<v Speaker 1>can't even imagine. Um, Kate, can you tell us about,

0:32:11.600 --> 0:32:15.040
<v Speaker 1>um what you're doing right now, because um, you're helping

0:32:15.320 --> 0:32:19.760
<v Speaker 1>COVID nineteen raising some money right yes, Amaze is this

0:32:19.920 --> 0:32:23.920
<v Speaker 1>amazing organization that, um they're connected to the variety of

0:32:24.000 --> 0:32:27.840
<v Speaker 1>Boys and Girls clubs of Los Angeles and they you know,

0:32:27.960 --> 0:32:30.960
<v Speaker 1>they're basically trying to keep the kids that go to

0:32:31.440 --> 0:32:33.720
<v Speaker 1>the boys and girls clubs like they are. They go

0:32:33.880 --> 0:32:36.440
<v Speaker 1>for exercise, but they also go for food. They get

0:32:36.520 --> 0:32:39.320
<v Speaker 1>fed there, and you know, all those things are closed

0:32:39.400 --> 0:32:41.040
<v Speaker 1>right now, so we need to figure out how to

0:32:41.080 --> 0:32:43.600
<v Speaker 1>feed these kids. So what we're doing is we're asking

0:32:43.640 --> 0:32:47.840
<v Speaker 1>people to donate, and um, we're uh gonna pick some

0:32:48.000 --> 0:32:51.040
<v Speaker 1>people from the people who donate, um to have a

0:32:52.120 --> 0:32:58.000
<v Speaker 1>virtual coffee date with creed Oscar plays jan and mea

0:32:58.040 --> 0:33:02.320
<v Speaker 1>plays Manredeth. So it's gonna be that's awesome. So I

0:33:02.400 --> 0:33:05.480
<v Speaker 1>feel like if that's not incentive, I mean, um, yeah,

0:33:05.840 --> 0:33:07.920
<v Speaker 1>what is I mean? But also just the incidive of

0:33:07.960 --> 0:33:10.920
<v Speaker 1>the kids, like come on, like we're I know, everybody's

0:33:10.920 --> 0:33:14.680
<v Speaker 1>having a lot of weird issues right now. Financially actually

0:33:14.960 --> 0:33:18.160
<v Speaker 1>all that stuff. But I'll bet you have food in

0:33:18.200 --> 0:33:21.160
<v Speaker 1>your stomach. You know, I bet you've got a roof

0:33:21.200 --> 0:33:22.680
<v Speaker 1>over your head and you're not you know. I mean,

0:33:22.760 --> 0:33:25.400
<v Speaker 1>it's just I don't know, it's just a little perspective,

0:33:25.960 --> 0:33:31.120
<v Speaker 1>perspective and people can go to Amy's dot com dot

0:33:31.160 --> 0:33:34.520
<v Speaker 1>com slash the office. Um yeah, and it's uh, you know,

0:33:34.640 --> 0:33:36.800
<v Speaker 1>it's easy. You don't have to give a lot. Really,

0:33:36.880 --> 0:33:39.720
<v Speaker 1>I mean a little bit. I said, if everyone just

0:33:39.800 --> 0:33:42.440
<v Speaker 1>gives a dollar, like, imagine how much money can be raised.

0:33:43.280 --> 0:33:48.400
<v Speaker 1>That's that's actually that's right. I mean it's crazy. So yeah,

0:33:48.440 --> 0:33:50.080
<v Speaker 1>I mean maybe that one thing you're going to buy

0:33:50.120 --> 0:33:53.640
<v Speaker 1>on Amazon that you don't really need, right, Okay, thank

0:33:53.680 --> 0:33:55.280
<v Speaker 1>you so so much for taking time out of your

0:33:55.320 --> 0:33:57.200
<v Speaker 1>day to be with us. Go call your boyfriend back

0:33:57.400 --> 0:34:00.960
<v Speaker 1>and we appreciate your time. Appreciate so much, Kate. You

0:34:01.040 --> 0:34:04.400
<v Speaker 1>guys are awesome. Take care of Kate. Oh, I forgot

0:34:04.440 --> 0:34:11.399
<v Speaker 1>to show my dundee. Oh that's so great. I don't

0:34:11.440 --> 0:34:13.080
<v Speaker 1>know what this is, but I'm sure he'll fill me in.

0:34:13.160 --> 0:34:17.719
<v Speaker 1>I'll feel you in. This makes my heart warm a dundee. Yeah,

0:34:18.000 --> 0:34:21.000
<v Speaker 1>I'll tell you. I'll feel you in don't mind my

0:34:21.160 --> 0:34:28.920
<v Speaker 1>pretty wife. Okay, we're awesome. Thank you, thank you. Oh

0:34:29.000 --> 0:34:32.640
<v Speaker 1>my goodness, I love her. You have to, I think,

0:34:33.200 --> 0:34:36.960
<v Speaker 1>sorry like you, but you didn't say something like she

0:34:37.160 --> 0:34:42.640
<v Speaker 1>was she's Oh my goodness, she was awesome. I just

0:34:42.719 --> 0:34:46.640
<v Speaker 1>have to make a little asterix though, too. I love Hallmark, Okay.

0:34:47.440 --> 0:34:50.120
<v Speaker 1>I would like to be the new Laurie Loughlin for sure.

0:34:50.320 --> 0:34:52.040
<v Speaker 1>So that was just like back in the day. I

0:34:52.200 --> 0:34:54.239
<v Speaker 1>used to be like, oh, because you know, I see

0:34:54.239 --> 0:34:57.600
<v Speaker 1>people on things that I'm like, well, I mean, anybody

0:34:57.680 --> 0:35:00.440
<v Speaker 1>wants to be you on the billboard going down sunset

0:35:00.520 --> 0:35:03.400
<v Speaker 1>and you know, but I'm I'm happy to be a

0:35:03.480 --> 0:35:07.000
<v Speaker 1>Hallmark girl. You love the Hallmark. I love the Hallmark Channel.

0:35:07.000 --> 0:35:09.719
<v Speaker 1>I love life. Great to you, they love you, love them.

0:35:10.120 --> 0:35:12.840
<v Speaker 1>But she's amazing, so much fun. I just want to

0:35:12.840 --> 0:35:14.840
<v Speaker 1>sit down and have coffee with her, for sure. But

0:35:14.880 --> 0:35:16.960
<v Speaker 1>she reminds me of your aunt a little bit. Yeah,

0:35:16.960 --> 0:35:19.120
<v Speaker 1>because your aunts in the Second City. It's just like that,

0:35:19.440 --> 0:35:22.200
<v Speaker 1>like you know, and she worked her butt off and

0:35:22.280 --> 0:35:24.000
<v Speaker 1>she got her you know, she got her break. I love.

0:35:24.080 --> 0:35:26.279
<v Speaker 1>I just love that so much. All right, um, let's

0:35:26.320 --> 0:35:40.160
<v Speaker 1>take a break and then let's read some email. Do

0:35:40.200 --> 0:35:42.319
<v Speaker 1>you want to read an email? Bib did you really

0:35:42.320 --> 0:35:43.840
<v Speaker 1>want me to read the email? Which one do you

0:35:43.880 --> 0:35:48.239
<v Speaker 1>want me to read? Do you? Uh? Carly? Carly? Okay? No, no, Anonymous,

0:35:48.280 --> 0:35:51.760
<v Speaker 1>I'm sorry, Anonymous. I mean Carly needs to be heard too, Okay.

0:35:51.840 --> 0:35:55.080
<v Speaker 1>Quarantined and no therapy. I've been with my husband for

0:35:55.239 --> 0:35:58.680
<v Speaker 1>thirteen years, married for seven. We have three kids together.

0:35:58.800 --> 0:36:00.799
<v Speaker 1>Are two boys are twelve, up in six, and our

0:36:00.880 --> 0:36:04.000
<v Speaker 1>girl is eighteen months. Just three weeks ago, my husband

0:36:04.040 --> 0:36:08.160
<v Speaker 1>confessed to me that he was shoot um. Just three

0:36:08.200 --> 0:36:10.400
<v Speaker 1>weeks ago, my husband confessed to me that he was

0:36:10.480 --> 0:36:14.520
<v Speaker 1>unfaithful to me twice over ten years ago. He says

0:36:14.600 --> 0:36:16.560
<v Speaker 1>it was just a one time thing, and he's a

0:36:16.600 --> 0:36:18.719
<v Speaker 1>great man who I know made very poor choices. So

0:36:18.800 --> 0:36:20.520
<v Speaker 1>I gave him one condition, we have to go to

0:36:20.600 --> 0:36:23.359
<v Speaker 1>couples therapy. Now with the quarantine, we've not been able

0:36:23.440 --> 0:36:25.480
<v Speaker 1>to go to therapy or speak to anyone. Now that

0:36:25.560 --> 0:36:28.520
<v Speaker 1>the kids are home and my husband is working from home.

0:36:29.000 --> 0:36:31.080
<v Speaker 1>He sleeps in the guest bedroom when I asked him

0:36:31.320 --> 0:36:33.719
<v Speaker 1>um to. But sometimes that is not enough. Some days

0:36:33.760 --> 0:36:36.799
<v Speaker 1>are good, others not so much. I have hoped for us,

0:36:36.960 --> 0:36:38.960
<v Speaker 1>but we need help and it's hard to get it. Now,

0:36:39.520 --> 0:36:41.719
<v Speaker 1>what are some other ways we can work on our

0:36:41.760 --> 0:36:44.759
<v Speaker 1>marriage without therapy? Right now? You know it's so hard

0:36:44.800 --> 0:36:48.880
<v Speaker 1>about that. It's like it's twofold. First is like I

0:36:49.200 --> 0:36:51.480
<v Speaker 1>love that he told her, Like what a gift that

0:36:51.680 --> 0:36:54.279
<v Speaker 1>like he gave her because she doesn't have to find out,

0:36:54.640 --> 0:36:56.360
<v Speaker 1>Like she didn't have to find out. She didn't have,

0:36:58.040 --> 0:37:00.719
<v Speaker 1>you know, to discover it. So like at shows right

0:37:00.760 --> 0:37:03.960
<v Speaker 1>there that he must have just been guilt ridden with

0:37:04.200 --> 0:37:07.560
<v Speaker 1>all this guilt and that you know, he just couldn't

0:37:07.600 --> 0:37:09.239
<v Speaker 1>live with that anymore. So you want to tell her.

0:37:09.280 --> 0:37:12.360
<v Speaker 1>And I think that's great that he did that. However,

0:37:15.480 --> 0:37:19.800
<v Speaker 1>now she's in that place where it's all been a lie. Mhm.

0:37:21.000 --> 0:37:22.839
<v Speaker 1>How could he have said these things to me? How

0:37:22.960 --> 0:37:27.000
<v Speaker 1>could he have done these things? Oh? I bet? Okay,

0:37:27.040 --> 0:37:29.040
<v Speaker 1>So ten years ago when we were having our one

0:37:29.440 --> 0:37:33.000
<v Speaker 1>kid and you know, when we went to this or

0:37:33.080 --> 0:37:34.640
<v Speaker 1>we went to this birthday party, that was a lie,

0:37:35.040 --> 0:37:39.080
<v Speaker 1>and like this was a lie because of one incident

0:37:41.000 --> 0:37:43.000
<v Speaker 1>makes it all a lie for us. And that's what's

0:37:43.080 --> 0:37:45.960
<v Speaker 1>just so like devastating because it's almost like in my

0:37:46.120 --> 0:37:49.600
<v Speaker 1>mind and I this is probably the worst thing ever

0:37:49.680 --> 0:37:51.560
<v Speaker 1>I could ever say. But if it was one time.

0:37:51.600 --> 0:37:52.840
<v Speaker 1>I want to be like, I don't even want to

0:37:52.880 --> 0:37:56.160
<v Speaker 1>know because I don't want my past to feel like

0:37:56.239 --> 0:37:58.879
<v Speaker 1>a lie. But then like, but then it is a lie,

0:37:58.960 --> 0:38:01.520
<v Speaker 1>because that's a lie that you're like keeping from me.

0:38:01.640 --> 0:38:04.919
<v Speaker 1>So it's such a weird. Yeah, I was just gonna

0:38:05.000 --> 0:38:07.920
<v Speaker 1>ask you. And this isn't me believing that this is

0:38:08.080 --> 0:38:10.839
<v Speaker 1>the what should have happened, or this isn't me saying

0:38:10.880 --> 0:38:13.480
<v Speaker 1>this is what I do. This is just me kind

0:38:13.520 --> 0:38:16.839
<v Speaker 1>of playing devil's advocate just for the topic of conversation.

0:38:17.920 --> 0:38:22.480
<v Speaker 1>And when it's something that happened that long ago, like

0:38:22.600 --> 0:38:25.000
<v Speaker 1>you said, he must have been just eaten away by

0:38:25.040 --> 0:38:29.480
<v Speaker 1>this um over time. I still want to know. No, no, no,

0:38:29.640 --> 0:38:32.239
<v Speaker 1>for sure, But if you look at it from a

0:38:32.360 --> 0:38:35.560
<v Speaker 1>big picture, like stand away from it, you're like, okay,

0:38:36.400 --> 0:38:40.279
<v Speaker 1>say he hasn't done anything in over ten years and

0:38:40.520 --> 0:38:45.040
<v Speaker 1>they have these three kids in its great life. It's

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<v Speaker 1>also I can see how difficult it is to get

0:38:50.280 --> 0:38:53.239
<v Speaker 1>to the point to say something when you're like, man,

0:38:53.320 --> 0:38:58.880
<v Speaker 1>I don't want to hurt this person's it's it's so tough. Ultimately,

0:38:59.080 --> 0:39:01.479
<v Speaker 1>you can never go wrong telling the truth, bottom line,

0:39:01.560 --> 0:39:03.080
<v Speaker 1>And I can never go wrong, and I think at

0:39:03.080 --> 0:39:04.799
<v Speaker 1>the end of the day, that is always the right

0:39:04.840 --> 0:39:06.759
<v Speaker 1>thing to do, is to tell the truth because no

0:39:06.920 --> 0:39:09.319
<v Speaker 1>matter what, if that person, like that person is living

0:39:09.360 --> 0:39:11.600
<v Speaker 1>with that lie in that shame and for them, that's

0:39:11.600 --> 0:39:16.480
<v Speaker 1>so important to tell and to like let that go. Now,

0:39:17.040 --> 0:39:20.560
<v Speaker 1>obviously the it's going to end up hurting the spouse

0:39:20.920 --> 0:39:23.719
<v Speaker 1>or the partner, and that's unfortunate, but this, you know,

0:39:24.000 --> 0:39:26.320
<v Speaker 1>it's very unfair, and it's it's all those things. But

0:39:26.520 --> 0:39:28.399
<v Speaker 1>that is, at the end of the day, the right

0:39:28.480 --> 0:39:30.680
<v Speaker 1>thing to do. And even though I say I don't

0:39:30.680 --> 0:39:34.359
<v Speaker 1>want to, like even if it's one time, I do. Yeah,

0:39:34.400 --> 0:39:36.120
<v Speaker 1>it's a it's a do, but don't. And I think

0:39:36.160 --> 0:39:39.320
<v Speaker 1>of it like insects in the city, when Steve cheated

0:39:39.360 --> 0:39:41.880
<v Speaker 1>on Miranda, Um, it was just that and like in

0:39:42.000 --> 0:39:44.239
<v Speaker 1>Carrious like it was just that one time, you know,

0:39:45.000 --> 0:39:49.319
<v Speaker 1>and I feel like, yes, it was just that one time.

0:39:49.480 --> 0:39:52.720
<v Speaker 1>But Steve, look how upset he was, like he couldn't

0:39:52.800 --> 0:39:57.520
<v Speaker 1>have that lie and obviously like he had to let

0:39:57.640 --> 0:40:01.319
<v Speaker 1>that go. So I don't know. I I would say,

0:40:01.440 --> 0:40:05.640
<v Speaker 1>like it ways to help them. I mean, it's it's

0:40:05.680 --> 0:40:08.480
<v Speaker 1>so hard not kind of being in that space. What

0:40:08.600 --> 0:40:11.359
<v Speaker 1>I would say and what I've learned is that even

0:40:11.440 --> 0:40:13.440
<v Speaker 1>though maybe to you and I'm not saying that you're

0:40:13.480 --> 0:40:15.960
<v Speaker 1>doing this, I'm just making this up, saying that you

0:40:16.080 --> 0:40:19.360
<v Speaker 1>might be thinking those memories are alive, but those memories

0:40:19.440 --> 0:40:22.720
<v Speaker 1>are still your memories, so whatever. So like, for example,

0:40:22.760 --> 0:40:24.320
<v Speaker 1>I used to say to Mike, all the time, you

0:40:24.440 --> 0:40:28.080
<v Speaker 1>took away my first year of marriage, my first yeah,

0:40:28.120 --> 0:40:30.400
<v Speaker 1>first year of marriage and are walking down the aisle,

0:40:30.440 --> 0:40:32.160
<v Speaker 1>so that must have not been real. So the marriage

0:40:32.200 --> 0:40:35.560
<v Speaker 1>wasn't real, you know, Jolie's birth, all that stuff, being pregnant.

0:40:35.640 --> 0:40:38.160
<v Speaker 1>So I let him take those memories from me. And

0:40:38.239 --> 0:40:42.480
<v Speaker 1>my therapist kept saying to me, no, you were present there,

0:40:43.520 --> 0:40:46.759
<v Speaker 1>that doesn't that's not for him. He can't take those

0:40:46.880 --> 0:40:50.800
<v Speaker 1>memories from you. But I held I let him have

0:40:51.040 --> 0:40:53.160
<v Speaker 1>that power to take that memory because I'm like, well

0:40:53.239 --> 0:40:55.759
<v Speaker 1>he wasn't present, and she's like, but were you? Were

0:40:55.840 --> 0:40:59.760
<v Speaker 1>you present? Those memories are still real. Your relationship memory

0:41:00.800 --> 0:41:05.239
<v Speaker 1>might be taken, but your memory of those things can

0:41:05.280 --> 0:41:08.440
<v Speaker 1>still be real. And also to you know guys, and

0:41:08.800 --> 0:41:10.719
<v Speaker 1>I'm not saying just guys, but like women too, when

0:41:10.960 --> 0:41:13.000
<v Speaker 1>when you're in that relationship, I knew I've done this too.

0:41:13.200 --> 0:41:16.840
<v Speaker 1>I can like you guys said, um, you can, and I,

0:41:17.160 --> 0:41:18.680
<v Speaker 1>like I said, I've done this too where I have

0:41:19.160 --> 0:41:24.920
<v Speaker 1>um compartmentalized it. So maybe he was present, but like,

0:41:25.880 --> 0:41:27.160
<v Speaker 1>how do you how do you say that? Because I'm

0:41:27.160 --> 0:41:31.080
<v Speaker 1>like you, you you were and you weren't. Really You're

0:41:31.080 --> 0:41:34.040
<v Speaker 1>a version of your one version was present. Yeah, I mean,

0:41:34.080 --> 0:41:39.000
<v Speaker 1>I can see how one lie can go over, can

0:41:39.160 --> 0:41:43.520
<v Speaker 1>bleed over into other memories. But ultimately, you know, I

0:41:43.640 --> 0:41:45.560
<v Speaker 1>was still present at our wedding and still there and

0:41:45.640 --> 0:41:47.440
<v Speaker 1>the same thing with our daughter. And I know it's

0:41:47.480 --> 0:41:50.160
<v Speaker 1>hard to believe that because of things that had gone

0:41:50.200 --> 0:41:54.120
<v Speaker 1>on or we're going on, but I'll still there in present. Um,

0:41:55.760 --> 0:42:00.839
<v Speaker 1>you know my thing, I guess for any kind of uh,

0:42:01.480 --> 0:42:04.720
<v Speaker 1>I don't know advice. Again, we're not professionals, but early

0:42:04.840 --> 0:42:06.920
<v Speaker 1>on what did help us once we discovered it was

0:42:07.040 --> 0:42:10.279
<v Speaker 1>the fantos check in and just to have for when

0:42:10.320 --> 0:42:12.719
<v Speaker 1>you're in this kind of environment around each other so

0:42:12.960 --> 0:42:17.880
<v Speaker 1>much where passiveness could be so easy, and getting angry

0:42:17.960 --> 0:42:20.160
<v Speaker 1>with each other and getting short and defensive with each other,

0:42:20.760 --> 0:42:24.160
<v Speaker 1>having it the nightly check in, especially at this vulnerable time,

0:42:24.880 --> 0:42:28.319
<v Speaker 1>just to speak on your feelings, affirm each other, express needs,

0:42:28.400 --> 0:42:30.080
<v Speaker 1>and own anything you need to own for that day

0:42:31.080 --> 0:42:33.239
<v Speaker 1>and just do you want to go through that again

0:42:33.320 --> 0:42:35.319
<v Speaker 1>just in case if someone has missed that, Yeah, if

0:42:35.400 --> 0:42:37.840
<v Speaker 1>if if anyone out there has missed that. And for anonymous,

0:42:38.360 --> 0:42:40.040
<v Speaker 1>you express your feelings to each other. You can just

0:42:40.080 --> 0:42:42.960
<v Speaker 1>state your feelings and you can do a brief description

0:42:43.080 --> 0:42:45.359
<v Speaker 1>why you're feeling that way. I'm feeling angry, I'm feeling hurt,

0:42:45.360 --> 0:42:48.440
<v Speaker 1>I'm feeling sad, I'm feeling happy, I'm feeling whatever it

0:42:48.520 --> 0:42:51.480
<v Speaker 1>may be, you affirm your partner affirmed them. It could

0:42:51.480 --> 0:42:53.560
<v Speaker 1>be something as simple as, hey, I appreciate you cooking dinner,

0:42:53.760 --> 0:42:56.560
<v Speaker 1>clean up the kitchen, to hey, I appreciate you not

0:42:56.640 --> 0:42:59.279
<v Speaker 1>getting defensive when I expressed my feelings earlier today or

0:42:59.680 --> 0:43:02.000
<v Speaker 1>when I was kind of acting mean towards you. You didn't,

0:43:02.320 --> 0:43:06.719
<v Speaker 1>you know, retaliate um needs you express your needs of

0:43:07.160 --> 0:43:09.040
<v Speaker 1>you know, around things coming up or in that day

0:43:09.120 --> 0:43:10.880
<v Speaker 1>or in that moment, or say hey, I really need

0:43:10.920 --> 0:43:14.000
<v Speaker 1>you to be more empathetic and you know, and maybe

0:43:14.040 --> 0:43:20.160
<v Speaker 1>apologize again or and then you know, own own anything

0:43:20.239 --> 0:43:25.480
<v Speaker 1>any anything that you did, and just being on the

0:43:25.520 --> 0:43:29.160
<v Speaker 1>receiving end of things to hear, you know, especially early

0:43:29.239 --> 0:43:31.640
<v Speaker 1>on when Janna would sit there and do these check

0:43:31.719 --> 0:43:37.400
<v Speaker 1>ins and own something from that day or recently of Hey, ultimately,

0:43:37.480 --> 0:43:39.359
<v Speaker 1>I am sorry for being mean towards you, or being

0:43:39.400 --> 0:43:43.680
<v Speaker 1>past ever being aggressive and reacting in a negative place

0:43:43.840 --> 0:43:48.279
<v Speaker 1>around being hurt. Like just receiving her owning that motivated

0:43:48.360 --> 0:43:53.120
<v Speaker 1>me more to be empathetic. So that's the only thing

0:43:53.160 --> 0:43:55.400
<v Speaker 1>I could really say in this time, with no therapy

0:43:55.520 --> 0:43:59.000
<v Speaker 1>and around each other so much, just over communicate those

0:43:59.040 --> 0:44:02.560
<v Speaker 1>feelings so it becomes a more natural thing. Yeah, I

0:44:02.680 --> 0:44:04.480
<v Speaker 1>love it, and I'm sorry that y'all are in that space.

0:44:04.600 --> 0:44:06.920
<v Speaker 1>But I love the fact that you guys are willing

0:44:07.000 --> 0:44:08.959
<v Speaker 1>to fight through it because I think if two people

0:44:09.000 --> 0:44:12.640
<v Speaker 1>can well, we believe that if two people um work together,

0:44:12.880 --> 0:44:17.520
<v Speaker 1>you can get through it. All Right, Babe, I think

0:44:17.560 --> 0:44:20.560
<v Speaker 1>that's it. I think that's it. Um, you're ready to

0:44:20.640 --> 0:44:23.920
<v Speaker 1>go kill the parent game. By the way, can we

0:44:24.000 --> 0:44:27.320
<v Speaker 1>talk about can we do like the next episode? Do

0:44:27.640 --> 0:44:31.680
<v Speaker 1>um like a mommy dad episode? Just talk like all kids.

0:44:32.320 --> 0:44:34.880
<v Speaker 1>Let's do it, Okay, alright, bye guys,