WEBVTT - Self help can be helpful

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<v Speaker 1>Welcome to Before Breakfast, a production of I Heart Radio.

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<v Speaker 1>Good Morning. This is Laura. Welcome to the Before Breakfast podcast.

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<v Speaker 1>Today's tip is that self help can be helpful. Reading

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<v Speaker 1>or rereading some of the classic self help books can

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<v Speaker 1>be a fun way to fire yourself up for making

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<v Speaker 1>the most of daily life. Because I write self help books,

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<v Speaker 1>I have read a lot of other self help books

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<v Speaker 1>over the years, and many of them are well forgettable,

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<v Speaker 1>but a few have definitely stood out. I remember encountering

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<v Speaker 1>the late Stephen Coveys The Seven Habits of Highly Effective

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<v Speaker 1>People a few years after it came out, and finding

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<v Speaker 1>certain precepts such as begin with the end in mind

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<v Speaker 1>and put first things first. Quite insightful. Thinking through my

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<v Speaker 1>prior these ahead of each week and thinking of them

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<v Speaker 1>for both work and my personal life has helped me

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<v Speaker 1>manage long term projects like book writing while trying to

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<v Speaker 1>create a happy home life too. But it's not just

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<v Speaker 1>Covey who's had some good advice. Dale Carnegie leans more

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<v Speaker 1>towards the personality ethic that Covey sometimes laments, but he

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<v Speaker 1>was quite wise about human nature. People like to hear

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<v Speaker 1>their names, people do things when they want to do things,

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<v Speaker 1>So if you want them to do something, you are

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<v Speaker 1>better off arousing in them an eager want. As he

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<v Speaker 1>puts it, I am not sure I have gotten my

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<v Speaker 1>two year old to experience an eager want for potty trading,

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<v Speaker 1>but I am definitely trying to think about it from

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<v Speaker 1>his perspective. Even the most offbeat folks might have some

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<v Speaker 1>useful ideas. Men are from Mars, women are from Venus.

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<v Speaker 1>Isn't exactly scientific, but I have still found it helpful

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<v Speaker 1>to realize that when men get upset, they may just

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<v Speaker 1>want to go into their caves for a while, even

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<v Speaker 1>if they do have a high degree of emotional intelligence.

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<v Speaker 1>And that old favorite the rules also much not to like.

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<v Speaker 1>But if you are a single woman looking for a

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<v Speaker 1>long term relationship with a man, it's continued sales show

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<v Speaker 1>there may be some insights into the male mind in there.

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<v Speaker 1>In any case, if you see a book that's been

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<v Speaker 1>out for a long time and people seem to still

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<v Speaker 1>be reading it, maybe it's available in paperback, or the

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<v Speaker 1>copy in a used bookstore is well worn, that might

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<v Speaker 1>be a sign that it could be useful. My rule

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<v Speaker 1>is this books are pretty cheap. You can almost always

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<v Speaker 1>get an e book for less than twenty dollars, you

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<v Speaker 1>can certainly score a used paperback for less than that.

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<v Speaker 1>Read with a critical mindset, you do not actually have

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<v Speaker 1>to turn down a Saturday night date. If your potential

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<v Speaker 1>Prince Charming asks on Thursday, as the rules suggests, he's

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<v Speaker 1>supposed to ask by Wednesday. But if you do get

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<v Speaker 1>one good idea that improves your life, that was money

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<v Speaker 1>well spent, and sometimes with self help, you already know

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<v Speaker 1>the advice, but you need to be reminded of it.

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<v Speaker 1>That is certainly the case with some of the rules

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<v Speaker 1>in Tranquility by Tuesday, which is my next self help

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<v Speaker 1>book and which is out this week. The book is

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<v Speaker 1>about nine of my favorite time management rules and what

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<v Speaker 1>happened when a d fifty people tried them out over

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<v Speaker 1>nine weeks. Now, probably most people know that they should

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<v Speaker 1>get to bed on time and get some physical activity

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<v Speaker 1>and plan how they'll spend their time and not flit

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<v Speaker 1>in and out of things all day long. But when

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<v Speaker 1>we are reminded and convinced, we do it. That was

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<v Speaker 1>the case for people who tried out my nine rules

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<v Speaker 1>for Tranquility by Tuesday. I measured them on various dimensions

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<v Speaker 1>before and after I found that their overall time satisfaction

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<v Speaker 1>scores improved by over the project. That isn't doubling. But

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<v Speaker 1>if you were a wealth manager, you'd take sixteen percent

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<v Speaker 1>returns over nine weeks. Right. Self help can be helpful,

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<v Speaker 1>So why not ask a friend for a favorite book

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<v Speaker 1>recommendation and give a book a try. One good idea

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<v Speaker 1>isn't a high bar, but one good idea can be priceless,

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<v Speaker 1>which isn't bad for a few bucks or a swipe

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<v Speaker 1>of a library card. In the meantime, this is Laura.

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<v Speaker 1>Thanks for listening, and here's to making the most of

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