WEBVTT - EP 341: Should Women Compete?? (Ft Kiana Lede’)

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<v Speaker 1>Hey you, thanks for listening to Horrible Decisions this week.

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<v Speaker 1>Mandy and I just wanted to present a trigger warning.

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<v Speaker 1>There is conversation about rape, so we just wanted to

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<v Speaker 1>make you aware of that sensitive material.

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<v Speaker 2>Guess what decision we're about to make? Horrible decision are y'all?

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<v Speaker 2>Welcome to another episode of Horrid Blair. This is Jones.

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<v Speaker 1>This might be the episode where you don't need to

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<v Speaker 1>try to sing.

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<v Speaker 3>First off, don't do that just because we got vocals

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<v Speaker 3>joining us today.

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<v Speaker 2>These vocals still hit. People say they love my voice. Hey,

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<v Speaker 2>you have a nice voice.

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<v Speaker 3>Okay, don't do day in the shower. That thing hit y'all.

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<v Speaker 3>I'm the girl with the voice today. Okay, Mandy B

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<v Speaker 3>what anyway?

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<v Speaker 2>Ya Hey, my name is Weezy.

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<v Speaker 1>Welcome back to another episode of the best podcast ever period.

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<v Speaker 2>We have a guest that has been asked for.

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<v Speaker 1>We had a little mini interview if y'all checked us

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<v Speaker 1>out BT weekend, and there's probably two people out of

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<v Speaker 1>seven hundred and six that we interview, but it was

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<v Speaker 1>like there was.

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<v Speaker 3>Like four hundred people and you was one of but

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<v Speaker 3>you should have seen to let me who is the

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<v Speaker 3>other one?

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<v Speaker 2>Oh?

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<v Speaker 3>I was it Masika. I like Masika Mosika. I enjoyed Mosika,

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<v Speaker 3>actually enjoyed. And there was a nigga, Young Pooda.

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<v Speaker 2>You wanted him. No, people were saying, oh oh no,

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<v Speaker 2>sorry k Malcolm Mask, Malcolm Maze, they wanted. I was like, girl,

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<v Speaker 2>Young Poodle was on Patreon stopping my man.

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<v Speaker 3>I'm just saying, you made the originals. You just be

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<v Speaker 3>making stuff up. I think she just liked that nigga.

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<v Speaker 1>You know when Sexy Red came out with that ship bitch,

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<v Speaker 1>I told.

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<v Speaker 2>All my niggas all.

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<v Speaker 3>She got a I love that for you, right, She's

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<v Speaker 3>really the one keeping this show going.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm only fucking too, Okay.

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<v Speaker 2>I feel like you're being honest. I actually am.

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<v Speaker 3>I love that you said that. Come on bringing in

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<v Speaker 3>feelings because feeling sometimes eight. I feel like you're being honest.

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<v Speaker 3>I have six niggas in rotation, and two of them

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<v Speaker 3>I'm sleeping with. So what I'm gonna do is one

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<v Speaker 3>New York win La. If New York or La fucks up, bitch,

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<v Speaker 3>the other ones can jump in. By the way, not

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<v Speaker 3>sure if we got to introduce you, but we are

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<v Speaker 3>sitting with the beautiful, the sunctuous canaa days in the building.

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<v Speaker 2>Hey, hello, hello, hello, and y'all.

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<v Speaker 3>Y'all might want to watch the YouTube for this one

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<v Speaker 3>because she came in sheer with nipple pier things and tattoos.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, so if this slips off.

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<v Speaker 1>Looking all types not, Wait, had you like flashed a

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<v Speaker 1>titty or taking nudes yet and like posted them?

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<v Speaker 4>No, but I've always said, like, if my nudes get leaked,

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<v Speaker 4>you're welcome.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm sure he bit it iss like for you exactly,

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<v Speaker 1>I told Mandy, Like, I'm gonna act like I'm upset,

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<v Speaker 1>but low key feel like I'm validated, Like I really

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<v Speaker 1>do think I look better naked.

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<v Speaker 2>Actually, I'm positive I look better naked.

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<v Speaker 3>Oh, if I could not wear clothes, I would be

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<v Speaker 3>like I go to nude beaches when my friends come over. Bitch,

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<v Speaker 3>you don't see these cities in this before. So my

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<v Speaker 3>friends were naked. We sleep together naked. The only thing

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<v Speaker 3>I won't cut.

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<v Speaker 2>Naked off with your friends naked.

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<v Speaker 3>Absolutely, I wish my friends on vacation we're all naked.

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<v Speaker 3>I'm getting in bed naked and it's literally like we're

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<v Speaker 3>both naked. We don't me and my friend my friends

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<v Speaker 3>don't wear but.

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<v Speaker 2>Jama's either, I don't john like.

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<v Speaker 3>Okay, so when you with your friends, bitch, what pj

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<v Speaker 3>is coming from? You think I'm to buy Pj's to

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<v Speaker 3>be around my friend. I think it's because I'm actually

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<v Speaker 3>like pretty gay, That's why people can. But I'm also

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<v Speaker 3>the one that fucks my friends. You don't even fuck

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<v Speaker 3>your friend, but I'll be fucking. So that's actually probably

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<v Speaker 3>why we sleep together.

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<v Speaker 2>Now you have drunk moments? No, you said that, No,

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<v Speaker 2>but I fucked my friends. We ain't got to be

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<v Speaker 2>drunk for me to fuck my friends.

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<v Speaker 1>You said, fucking in the day fucking bitch in the

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<v Speaker 1>daytime would be crazy, that bitch.

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<v Speaker 2>I drink liquor in the daytime? Like, is that it's

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<v Speaker 2>a little bit they good for you?

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<v Speaker 3>Listen, well they found a little I'm gonna call you out.

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<v Speaker 3>My engineer found a little bottle of Tito's in it

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<v Speaker 3>because I knew Drizzly was gonna take too long. This

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<v Speaker 3>is not an ad. But also so the liquor store

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<v Speaker 3>around here been closed.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't know what it's three, Sorry, it's five o'clock somewhere.

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<v Speaker 3>You mean, I did want to ask you what you've

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<v Speaker 3>been up to since we saw.

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<v Speaker 2>You in La Get in my life together? About it? Touring?

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<v Speaker 2>I'm on tour right now, so I have to ask you.

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<v Speaker 2>Do you oppose in different cities?

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<v Speaker 3>Please tell me? Tell me the touring life of an

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<v Speaker 3>R and B artist.

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<v Speaker 2>I need to know. I used to do that. I

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<v Speaker 2>don't know why because I'm in a relationship.

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<v Speaker 3>Oh well, you guys goes with me to different city.

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<v Speaker 2>So does that y'all be picking up people together?

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<v Speaker 3>No? No, no, we're not not yet. Oh but it

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<v Speaker 3>will come. No, bitch, I had a little in it.

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<v Speaker 2>Tell us more. I'm just.

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<v Speaker 4>We're ready, we're ready to add a third into the

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<v Speaker 4>area or just no, not a threattle, I mean, Christine's

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<v Speaker 4>pretty much as physical.

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<v Speaker 2>Unfortunate. How long have you been dating? Not the woman

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<v Speaker 2>having an account? But I know it's.

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<v Speaker 4>So bad he can't able to tell you to me,

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<v Speaker 4>And I'm like five months officially, maybe I'll do it.

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<v Speaker 2>I meant your neck bag.

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<v Speaker 3>Look, okay, Zick is not here, girl closed them mount Sorry, Okay,

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<v Speaker 3>so five months is new? How has he been with

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<v Speaker 3>the touring and seeing that there's people that want you,

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<v Speaker 3>both men and women. I'm sure like he's been comfortable

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<v Speaker 3>with that. Yeah, he's totally fine, Okay.

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<v Speaker 2>Does it turning line?

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<v Speaker 4>No, I think he's had to get comfortable with it,

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<v Speaker 4>just because he's not used to like being with people

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<v Speaker 4>that are out there like that.

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<v Speaker 2>Dang.

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<v Speaker 3>Well, I can't wait until you start making songs about

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<v Speaker 3>this nigga because I know everything you have now is

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<v Speaker 3>not about him. So I did want to ask, and

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<v Speaker 3>does he know who promised me is about? Because that's

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<v Speaker 3>about a nigga that you said you want to fuck forelpha,

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<v Speaker 3>So does he know that there's a nigga in your

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<v Speaker 3>life that you want to fuck forever? And that if

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<v Speaker 3>he decides to go on a break with you? Like

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<v Speaker 3>my ex, we did thirteen breaks and I went to

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<v Speaker 3>a nigga at the same time every time, does he

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<v Speaker 3>know who that nigga is?

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<v Speaker 2>It's actually I'm singing about a guy and a girl.

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<v Speaker 4>There's different experiences, but I was feeling that in the moment.

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<v Speaker 4>Now I'm good. I'm good on that, But every time

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<v Speaker 4>the song comes on, no, he's.

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<v Speaker 3>Like, I want to tell you the truth. You're only

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<v Speaker 3>good on that because you really like this person right now? Yeah, yeah, yeah,

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<v Speaker 3>I don't do breaks me neither can't.

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<v Speaker 2>Once I'm done. It's finished for me. No no, no, no, okay.

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<v Speaker 3>But when I say I don't do breaks, it's because

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<v Speaker 3>a lot of people assume that when you are on

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<v Speaker 3>a break in a relationship, you still owe some sort

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<v Speaker 3>of respect to that partner, which is why every time

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<v Speaker 3>me and that nigga went on a break, we broken

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<v Speaker 3>up and I'm going to fuck someone else, whether you're

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<v Speaker 3>upset or not, Like, I don't owe any responsibility to

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<v Speaker 3>your feelings or not fucking someone else.

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<v Speaker 2>Else because you felt like.

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<v Speaker 1>I have to like get this off while I'm single,

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<v Speaker 1>or I have to get this person on my mind,

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<v Speaker 1>or did you fuck someone else because you've actually wanted

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<v Speaker 1>to while you're with your partner.

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<v Speaker 2>I mean, the promise me that we go fuck with

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<v Speaker 2>elb of that nigga.

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<v Speaker 3>I was glad to have him back in my life,

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<v Speaker 3>but to me, honestly, it was it was my misconception,

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<v Speaker 3>and y'all we've talked about it here before. Fucking someone

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<v Speaker 3>else does not get you off the other person. And

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<v Speaker 3>I think a part of me during a lot of

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<v Speaker 3>those breakups, thought that I wouldn't be as hurt if

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<v Speaker 3>I just went and felt like I could be pleased

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<v Speaker 3>by someone else, especially the one person that I know

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<v Speaker 3>pleases me every goddamn time, have been pleasing me for

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<v Speaker 3>nine years.

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<v Speaker 2>So I was like nine girl, nine.

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<v Speaker 3>So I was like, let me just go back to

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<v Speaker 3>the rivers and the lakes that I'm used to.

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<v Speaker 2>This makes it easier, girl.

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<v Speaker 1>I just had a conversation with Aniga where I had

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<v Speaker 1>to tell him like he was like, yo, I just

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<v Speaker 1>really want to check in, like you told me recently,

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<v Speaker 1>like you need me to call you every day, and

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<v Speaker 1>like I realized the other day when I called you

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<v Speaker 1>super late you were disappointed. I want to check in

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<v Speaker 1>about where we're at this d nigg I'm talking about.

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<v Speaker 2>I said, well, let me just be talking light day girl.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh yeah, you date different types. Go ahead, Yeah, So

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<v Speaker 2>I said.

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<v Speaker 1>Listen, I'm just gonna say this to you. You're my

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<v Speaker 1>favorite right now. If you want to keep being my favorite,

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<v Speaker 1>this is like, this is kind of what I'm used to.

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<v Speaker 1>You know what I'm saying. I need the fucking text

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<v Speaker 1>messages shit like that. If this is where you're at,

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<v Speaker 1>if you give a fuck about being my favorite, this

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<v Speaker 1>is what you would be doing. Don't get me wrong,

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<v Speaker 1>and those other niggas. I'm just honestly not putting as

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<v Speaker 1>much energy into them. So if you don't want to

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<v Speaker 1>do that, or if you feel like what I'm asking

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<v Speaker 1>you for is a stretch, someone else will become my favorite.

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<v Speaker 2>If he does all that, would you drop everybody else?

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<v Speaker 1>Good question, girl, It's funny because he told me that

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<v Speaker 1>he thinks I would.

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<v Speaker 2>She's like, nope, I didn't answer my question though.

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<v Speaker 3>That didn't get her.

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<v Speaker 2>The truth. Okay, the truth will slitch you. He doesn't

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<v Speaker 2>listen to my podcast? He will? Oh? I told my

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<v Speaker 2>man he is banned from watching these types. I don't

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<v Speaker 2>know if niggas say they don't, but they do. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>he's probably gonna watch like do they? Okay, here's true,

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<v Speaker 2>they do. They do long term.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm really like missing the boyfriend, feeling like him and

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<v Speaker 1>I spend weekends together. We do mad shit together, and

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<v Speaker 1>we're involving each other. He's gonna watch my dog when

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<v Speaker 1>I have to go do an event like I kind

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<v Speaker 1>of like that. However, are the qualities that he's showing

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<v Speaker 1>me things that I would want in a long term partner.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't know.

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<v Speaker 1>The reason that I'm not really sure though, is because

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<v Speaker 1>a nigga could look at me and be like this

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<v Speaker 1>bitch has a sex podcast. She talks about niggas every day,

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<v Speaker 1>she's fucking done x y Z. She lives in two cities.

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<v Speaker 1>Not a woman i'd want to be with, and then boom,

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<v Speaker 1>you end up falling in love with me. So I

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<v Speaker 1>don't fucking know that's really the answer.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't know.

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<v Speaker 1>I could say from what I'm looking at, maybe some

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<v Speaker 1>of those qualities are something that's a fit, but I

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<v Speaker 1>really don't know. My life isn't conventional, so maybe my

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<v Speaker 1>relationship won't end up being either.

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<v Speaker 2>I love how you can put all those sentences to

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<v Speaker 2>say no. I'm all them to say no, waiting special.

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<v Speaker 2>Then come on, Keanu, this is your interview. What are

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<v Speaker 2>you doing? Actually? Welcome, guys, I'm gonna interview. The girls

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<v Speaker 2>always do this, I'm sorry. What makes them special?

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<v Speaker 1>I think is that I go on a lot of

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<v Speaker 1>dates and I don't find anyone else as to be

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<v Speaker 1>one as impressive.

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<v Speaker 2>Two, I think the other fablest thing.

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<v Speaker 1>God, I even cares the truth, like I do find

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<v Speaker 1>the way he lives his life to be impressive.

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<v Speaker 2>I also like the way that he treats me.

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<v Speaker 1>But three, and this is very surface level but I

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<v Speaker 1>can't explain this another way. Talk to a friend of

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<v Speaker 1>mine recently, and I want you all to tell me

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<v Speaker 1>if you have someone in your mind like this the

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<v Speaker 1>first date I had with him, I can maybe think

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<v Speaker 1>of a few other people in my life that the

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<v Speaker 1>second I saw them, I was like oof, like they're fun,

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<v Speaker 1>and I watched him in his brain.

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<v Speaker 2>Thinking like, oh, she looks good, and he was so intense.

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<v Speaker 1>And don't get me wrong, I fucked with niggas that

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<v Speaker 1>may be even more conventionally attractive. But something about him

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<v Speaker 1>and me in the way it was going to where

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<v Speaker 1>like it's very undeniable. I literally couldn't explain it. I

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<v Speaker 1>remember he said, no, it's like some movie shit that

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<v Speaker 1>when you feel like that when you're looking at someone

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<v Speaker 1>that is surface level, but.

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<v Speaker 2>It ain't not. I led to a three year relationship

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<v Speaker 2>with a narcissist. You don't like that about each other? Oh? Absolutely,

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<v Speaker 2>because always.

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<v Speaker 1>For you.

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<v Speaker 2>But also it was the pandemic.

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<v Speaker 3>We spent the first twenty days together and then I

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<v Speaker 3>got flewed out of Florida before I.

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<v Speaker 2>Made up my boyfriend. Before I made my boyfriend.

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<v Speaker 3>If he was getting flued out, Florida was the place

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<v Speaker 3>to go Florida and Atlanta during the panorama. But the

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<v Speaker 3>whole time I was there, I was with a friend,

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<v Speaker 3>so I wasn't flued out for sex. But I was

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<v Speaker 3>there with a friend, and the whole time I could

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<v Speaker 3>think about him. I was like, Wow, I just spent

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<v Speaker 3>all this time with someone. I can't wait to get

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<v Speaker 3>back to that.

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<v Speaker 2>That's less.

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<v Speaker 3>No, no, no, no no, it wasn't less because we literally

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<v Speaker 3>were playing uno. I was cooking for him, we were

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<v Speaker 3>watching TV shows, things that I hadn't done.

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<v Speaker 1>It wasn't like about physical like looking at someone and

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<v Speaker 1>being like him.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, wait this was narciss yes, six seven ball head older.

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<v Speaker 2>I realized.

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<v Speaker 3>Also he looked like this nigga I met All Star weekend,

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<v Speaker 3>so I probably won't like.

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<v Speaker 2>This is literally, oh, this is literally the same situation

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<v Speaker 2>with my ex. It's so bad.

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<v Speaker 3>Bald bald ball ball eleven years older than me, seventeen

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<v Speaker 3>years older than me, and a narcissist.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, and I was with him for a year and something. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>I mean, I'm not gonna lie, I guess is good.

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<v Speaker 3>No, I ain't gonna hold you keep the ball niggas

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<v Speaker 3>away from me.

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<v Speaker 2>I ain't gonna hold you, y'all.

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<v Speaker 3>These two fingers, I know they put boodle holes and pussy.

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<v Speaker 3>They now to braid your hair, nigga, come to me

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<v Speaker 3>with a fro.

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<v Speaker 2>I got you. I will core roll them. Things you

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<v Speaker 2>want fishbones like bad? Why I used to? Do you

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<v Speaker 2>want braids and beads? Whatever you want? Bring your ass

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<v Speaker 2>to me with somebody? Do you think I like A

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<v Speaker 2>I'm taking it now.

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<v Speaker 3>I ain't gonna hold you. Bring your ass. I will

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<v Speaker 3>learn how to retwist your hair from YouTube because the dread.

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<v Speaker 2>Now, let me ask you something.

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<v Speaker 1>That's why I was saying, I don't want to talk

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<v Speaker 1>about spending time. Okay, what I'm talking about I really

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<v Speaker 1>want and even people listening, I want you to tell

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<v Speaker 1>me that attraction I'm talking about is it also mutually affirmed?

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<v Speaker 1>Like do you have someone that you've seen like that's

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<v Speaker 1>what I'm getting right now.

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<v Speaker 2>And it's crazy.

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<v Speaker 1>I mean I could be talking and he's thinking the

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<v Speaker 1>same thing I am, like, Damn, you look good, that's.

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<v Speaker 2>What it's okay. Are you feeling like you've had that before?

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<v Speaker 2>And can you think of maybe how many times that's

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<v Speaker 2>happened to you? Not many?

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<v Speaker 4>I have many, if at all, I mean a lot

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<v Speaker 4>of shit now happens over social media, so it's like

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<v Speaker 4>you can't really you might be thinking that, but over

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<v Speaker 4>the fucking phone. You know, this situation was so different

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<v Speaker 4>because it was like we met through CALLI.

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<v Speaker 2>We met through CALLI, and it was like, definitely had

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<v Speaker 2>that moment. Why don't you like, would CALLI be the one?

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<v Speaker 1>Then?

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<v Speaker 2>Do you feel like no?

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<v Speaker 1>Like dead as so thinking about introducing a partner, Mandy

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<v Speaker 1>talks about how she had friends in her bedroom. I

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<v Speaker 1>did the complete opposite. I would rather a stranger or

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<v Speaker 1>someone I'm not that fan. How do you feel like

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<v Speaker 1>you and Callie are close but you guys are making

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<v Speaker 1>out any flirt and shit? I don't know you talked too,

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<v Speaker 1>but would a friend be someone that you'd want to

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<v Speaker 1>invite in or Yeah.

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<v Speaker 4>We actually talked about that, and it's so funny. When

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<v Speaker 4>Callie watches this, she's she's gonna love it. But we

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<v Speaker 4>talked about that. But I think he's more comfortable with

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<v Speaker 4>it being someone that was stranger, just because you know,

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<v Speaker 4>it's like or what you know, Callie's really close to

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<v Speaker 4>us and probably.

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<v Speaker 3>That, Yeah, she lives literally a block away, so no,

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<v Speaker 3>a friend that live in another state. I'm done with that.

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<v Speaker 3>That's none of my stranger. Like I want to just

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<v Speaker 3>find a stranger. I already have like the picture of

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<v Speaker 3>what I want to.

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<v Speaker 2>Do it tell us, tell us how you want this

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<v Speaker 2>to go down? Okay.

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<v Speaker 4>So the thing the only thing that's stopping me is

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<v Speaker 4>like I'm I want it to be fun obviously, okay,

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<v Speaker 4>but I also don't know what I feel like is

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<v Speaker 4>going to be acceptable or not make me look at

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<v Speaker 4>him a different way.

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<v Speaker 2>Because I want to You don't know your boundaries exactly.

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<v Speaker 2>I want to be this.

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<v Speaker 4>I want to be the subject, like I want to

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<v Speaker 4>be like the main character. So so I want to

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<v Speaker 4>be and he'd be fine with this.

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<v Speaker 2>So it's so what's ideal?

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<v Speaker 4>But like it's it is me doing most of the

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<v Speaker 4>action okay, okay, most of the eating, you, sucking, you, kissing, you, flipping,

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<v Speaker 4>you doing everything. Yeah, and people are fucking. I just

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<v Speaker 4>don't know who's fucking.

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<v Speaker 2>What do you want him to?

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<v Speaker 3>Then you want you would be comfortable than him being

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<v Speaker 3>the pillow princess and the two of you getting onto

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<v Speaker 3>him and you directing, you coordinating, and then yes, I'm

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<v Speaker 3>the coordinator.

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<v Speaker 2>Now I would love to know in your scenario, because

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<v Speaker 2>this is where Weezy and I also differ.

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<v Speaker 3>Did she get to spend the night and cuddle with

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<v Speaker 3>y'all or do you send her home after good night?

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<v Speaker 2>Thank you good night about that night too.

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<v Speaker 1>So in a perfect world, my perfect unicorn experience was

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<v Speaker 1>I was saying I was saying, she gotta go the

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<v Speaker 1>second we fucked her and I realized like she like

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<v Speaker 1>kind of knew her place a little bit.

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<v Speaker 2>I liked t having her around. Plus we were in

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<v Speaker 2>a little of drugs.

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<v Speaker 1>But but like she was a vibe though she was like,

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<v Speaker 1>what are you cooking this nigga tomorrow?

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<v Speaker 2>And I was like why.

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<v Speaker 1>She was like, because I'm gonna eat that with y'all

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<v Speaker 1>and eat you. Like she was fun, but it doesn't

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<v Speaker 1>like she made me feel like she was two into

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<v Speaker 1>him and I felt way more comfortable. Yeah, so we

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<v Speaker 1>were like we had warning sex together, Like I really

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<v Speaker 1>genuinely enjoyed that. And I think I was like, she

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<v Speaker 1>gotta go, she gotta go, because my own ego wasn't

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<v Speaker 1>prepared for how I might feel.

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<v Speaker 2>But you might be all right, what does he here?

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<v Speaker 2>You going now? At the camera? Don get dang. I

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<v Speaker 2>can show you, but we're not showing the cameras. Wait,

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<v Speaker 2>can you held me my phone? You have it, let's

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<v Speaker 2>talk about how well I don't.

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<v Speaker 3>I don't even so I'm gonna be honest, I don't

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<v Speaker 3>want to see it. Okay, I will, but list this

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<v Speaker 3>is my phone screen.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh are you fucking kidding me?

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<v Speaker 3>And now oh oh but he's handsome, he's oh no, no, lie,

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<v Speaker 3>I thought you gotta keep just that just and that

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<v Speaker 3>was just a profile in the army. That was literally

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<v Speaker 3>the back of his head in the army, like the

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<v Speaker 3>same type of nigga.

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<v Speaker 4>This is no literally like it's disgusting, it's honestly discussing.

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<v Speaker 3>But also this is how simple we are. We literally

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<v Speaker 3>just saw the We just saw the back of his

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<v Speaker 3>head and an arm and we were like, yeah, yeah, yeah,

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<v Speaker 3>but you know, what, do you think that you'd have

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<v Speaker 3>a threesome type of girl?

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<v Speaker 2>Because I do. What do you mean?

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<v Speaker 3>We have the who hive here, and we have a

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<v Speaker 3>lot of different types of listeners.

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<v Speaker 2>We have the same niggas. Look at this good.

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<v Speaker 3>A little lighter, oh my god, yeah he's a little lighter,

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<v Speaker 3>and his dreads are a little thicker, Oh my god.

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<v Speaker 1>They're not free form I mean they are free for them.

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<v Speaker 1>But that's how in the locks I am right now.

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<v Speaker 1>I want to fucking do it all. But anyway, so okay,

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<v Speaker 1>you would be We're gonna help you with some steps

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<v Speaker 1>for your for your first three.

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<v Speaker 2>So I bank with him.

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<v Speaker 1>Now some other questions I have for you. So when

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<v Speaker 1>you are building a relationship, when you said we're not

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<v Speaker 1>ready yet, what are the type of things that you

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<v Speaker 1>were thinking? Because when people write in smandy and I

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<v Speaker 1>I was in a thro before. I've had a lot

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<v Speaker 1>of threes mix partner. She had me to sex clubs,

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<v Speaker 1>and so people ask a lot of questions, I want

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<v Speaker 1>to do that?

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<v Speaker 2>Sam back on a weekend, I'll say, sex club is

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<v Speaker 2>what she wants. I want to do that so bad.

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<v Speaker 2>Do you want to just wait? If you're in LA

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<v Speaker 2>my friends are throwing in l A one, I'll connect you.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay fantasy So okay, so.

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<v Speaker 4>My fantasy is to just fuck my partner, but in

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<v Speaker 4>a room for all other people.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh, you liked you want to be watch that?

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<v Speaker 4>I want to Yeah, I want everybody to be fucking

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<v Speaker 4>too like I enjoy that.

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<v Speaker 3>I want to be I mean one of the best,

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<v Speaker 3>one of the best things that I did was like

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<v Speaker 3>eat my man's ass in front of a room full

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<v Speaker 3>of people.

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<v Speaker 2>And it was like great. I was like, oh he

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<v Speaker 2>was shameless like that.

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<v Speaker 3>Wow, oh yeah, oh I don't know what he was

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<v Speaker 3>doing because my head was an ass. Like but the room,

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<v Speaker 3>like everyone in the like we made sure we were

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<v Speaker 3>in the middle of the room.

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<v Speaker 2>And this was during COVID, so like there was only

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<v Speaker 2>there was only ten.

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<v Speaker 3>Other people in the room, like they limited it to

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<v Speaker 3>like twelve.

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<v Speaker 2>To fifteen weeks. This quarantine is crazy.

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<v Speaker 3>You'll chill, you sound judgy. It's good, it's good, it's good.

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<v Speaker 3>All right, only call COVID after Mexico. But in Mexican

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<v Speaker 3>we were out of resort.

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<v Speaker 2>That money. I'm sorry. You know now I'm at the

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<v Speaker 2>point where we could deny a check. Here go. We

0:20:07.960 --> 0:20:09.800
<v Speaker 2>were like we still gonna go. We were like, they

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<v Speaker 2>want to fucking find you. We had to wear.

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<v Speaker 3>Masks, gets us to do all that going. When you

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<v Speaker 3>got through that resort, there was a phone party.

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<v Speaker 2>Bitch Nigga was drinking champagne. All the people's asses. Oh no,

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<v Speaker 2>I'm about you. You might be real. Yeah, you are ready,

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<v Speaker 2>you are ready.

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<v Speaker 4>I'm just like so excited to explore because I don't.

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<v Speaker 4>Everybody has sex, Like, I don't understand why we are why, right, Like,

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<v Speaker 4>it's so crazy.

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<v Speaker 2>But you know why we shame it.

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<v Speaker 1>Everybody has sex, but we have this idea of what

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<v Speaker 1>we want people to see us as one because we

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<v Speaker 1>know how other people are thinking. So for example, I

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<v Speaker 1>could be in a room full of sex positive people

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<v Speaker 1>in this moment, but if I told you guys that

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<v Speaker 1>had a train ran on me last night, maybe one

0:20:55.119 --> 0:20:59.520
<v Speaker 1>person would secretly think I'm a whore even though So

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<v Speaker 1>that's the there is some shame in stigma around it.

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<v Speaker 2>Right. So it's like, yes, everybody has sex.

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<v Speaker 1>But there's a limit to what we think someone is

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<v Speaker 1>able to do and still have a good idea of

0:21:10.760 --> 0:21:13.000
<v Speaker 1>who they are, right Like, look at how the Internet

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<v Speaker 1>is treating Britney Renner, Like, I don't think that there's

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<v Speaker 1>anything wrong with Britney Renner being hull. I do think

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<v Speaker 1>some of her fucking bullshit about kids or baby daddies

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<v Speaker 1>or some of her other ideas are crazy, but it's

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<v Speaker 1>not the whole shit.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, but we can't.

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<v Speaker 1>Wait to tear her up, and by we I mean

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<v Speaker 1>psciety about a lot of her thoughts A lot of

0:21:31.440 --> 0:21:35.040
<v Speaker 1>her opinions, and so people will hate watch something because

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<v Speaker 1>they think they have this self inflated idea of who

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<v Speaker 1>they are, like their moral ground is better than ours

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<v Speaker 1>because they didn't fuck thirty five niggas, which is definitely

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<v Speaker 1>a lie. But it's really that it's that we all

0:21:45.480 --> 0:21:50.320
<v Speaker 1>have sex, but there's still this like hierarchy of what's acceptable.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, I'll be honest, I wanted to ask you a question.

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<v Speaker 3>In the perception of you, not only as artists, but

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<v Speaker 3>in dating, you actually look like sex.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't know, like figure out right now? Have you

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<v Speaker 2>never gotten that before?

0:22:08.160 --> 0:22:11.560
<v Speaker 3>Like you ooz and and that's what I think a

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<v Speaker 3>lot of what like sometimes it can be a compliment.

0:22:15.280 --> 0:22:17.399
<v Speaker 3>Sometimes it's like, oh, this keeps me from looking like

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<v Speaker 3>the girl next door or someone that maybe someone will wife.

0:22:19.640 --> 0:22:22.560
<v Speaker 2>Maybe I look like the fun girl. But have you

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<v Speaker 2>gotten that before?

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<v Speaker 3>And do you kind of like I mean, with this outfit,

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<v Speaker 3>you're definitely living in it. But what does it mean

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<v Speaker 3>to you for a woman or a man to look

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<v Speaker 3>like they oose sex?

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<v Speaker 2>Like they just look like they Oh my god, get it,

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<v Speaker 2>give you. I mean, I love it. I love it.

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<v Speaker 2>I think honestly, when I was younger.

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<v Speaker 4>It used to really scare me because I'm being over

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<v Speaker 4>sexualized as a sixteen year old and a fifteen years

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<v Speaker 4>that's what's fucking disgusting. Yeah, So I ran away from

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<v Speaker 4>my physical appearance and my sexuality for a really long

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<v Speaker 4>time until I felt comfortable with it within myself to

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<v Speaker 4>be like, Okay, I'm.

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<v Speaker 2>Beautiful, like I'm sexy.

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<v Speaker 4>Let me show my leg with my own power, you know,

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<v Speaker 4>with my own confidence, because I was told to do that.

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<v Speaker 2>For what did you do to get there?

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<v Speaker 3>And how did you also shy away from, you know,

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<v Speaker 3>being looked at as a sexual object at a young age.

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<v Speaker 3>Because we do have some of y'all that love to

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<v Speaker 3>tell us y'all been listening to us since high school,

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<v Speaker 3>and it's being like wool dang, really, but for someone

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<v Speaker 3>who's who's maybe you know, even eighteen, let's make it

0:23:28.560 --> 0:23:32.360
<v Speaker 3>that like eighteen nineteen being sexualized, that's a space where

0:23:32.359 --> 0:23:34.679
<v Speaker 3>you're also really insecure and you don't know how to

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<v Speaker 3>maybe say no to advances or that is also one

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<v Speaker 3>of the things that maybe makes you feel validated or wanted,

0:23:42.760 --> 0:23:45.119
<v Speaker 3>is that these men want to fuck you, because babe,

0:23:45.240 --> 0:23:46.800
<v Speaker 3>we all know in our twenties we thought that that

0:23:46.840 --> 0:23:48.960
<v Speaker 3>meant something. We thought of a man wanted to put

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<v Speaker 3>their dick in us and fuck us that ooh we're beautiful,

0:23:52.080 --> 0:23:52.760
<v Speaker 3>ooh we're.

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<v Speaker 2>Worrying that I thought of they were sucking me. Ra

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<v Speaker 2>all that done something.

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<v Speaker 3>But see, and a lot of people in their thirties

0:23:57.359 --> 0:23:59.600
<v Speaker 3>and forties still think that dumb test notion too. So

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<v Speaker 3>I wanted to to ask you, like, how you protected

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<v Speaker 3>yourself in your sexuality and then also how you found

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<v Speaker 3>the beauty in also your sexuality both.

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<v Speaker 2>Ways, that's a good question.

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<v Speaker 3>When I was younger, I don't think I protected myself necessarily, okay,

0:24:22.200 --> 0:24:23.880
<v Speaker 3>because there was a lot of people that I trusted,

0:24:24.040 --> 0:24:27.200
<v Speaker 3>and like, being on my own that young in LA

0:24:28.040 --> 0:24:30.280
<v Speaker 3>made me really vulnerable to that kind of stuff.

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<v Speaker 2>And you know, it was a lot of older people

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<v Speaker 2>telling me, you.

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<v Speaker 4>Know, show your leg, do this, do that, and you

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<v Speaker 4>listen to people that are older than you because they

0:24:38.760 --> 0:24:41.400
<v Speaker 4>think you think they know more. That's what we told

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<v Speaker 4>or even people that were like predators in my life

0:24:45.040 --> 0:24:48.000
<v Speaker 4>when I was so young, being fifteen in studios by myself,

0:24:48.080 --> 0:24:51.960
<v Speaker 4>it was like, oh, this guy says this, Okay, well

0:24:52.000 --> 0:24:53.960
<v Speaker 4>I should listen. And then it ended up being like

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<v Speaker 4>something super creepy. And I remember like my parents were

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<v Speaker 4>super strict, so I would literally hide things that were

0:25:00.720 --> 0:25:06.199
<v Speaker 4>going on with predators from my parents. Wow, because like

0:25:06.720 --> 0:25:08.840
<v Speaker 4>we had this rule where you know, they would check

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<v Speaker 4>my phone all the time. I wasn't allowed to have boyfriends.

0:25:11.280 --> 0:25:13.240
<v Speaker 4>I was when we were in text boys twenty six.

0:25:13.760 --> 0:25:15.800
<v Speaker 4>I wasn't allowed to text boys until I was like

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<v Speaker 4>a freshman in high school.

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<v Speaker 2>But they would still check my phone all the time.

0:25:18.800 --> 0:25:22.959
<v Speaker 4>So it was like it actually hindered me because I

0:25:23.040 --> 0:25:26.800
<v Speaker 4>wasn't able to navigate and have those conversations right and

0:25:26.920 --> 0:25:29.880
<v Speaker 4>what was wrong exactly were like with men. And then

0:25:30.359 --> 0:25:34.720
<v Speaker 4>sixteen fifteen, I'm out in La by myself with these

0:25:34.760 --> 0:25:36.919
<v Speaker 4>grown ass men who were all fucking disgusting.

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<v Speaker 1>Have you seen the video of a father calling the police.

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<v Speaker 1>There's a ring I saw it on Van Lathan's page.

0:25:45.240 --> 0:25:47.600
<v Speaker 1>There's a ring camera recording the police. He's like, yo,

0:25:47.720 --> 0:25:50.679
<v Speaker 1>I called you guys like ten hours ago, and he

0:25:50.800 --> 0:25:52.639
<v Speaker 1>was calling about his eleven year old daughter who was

0:25:52.640 --> 0:25:56.919
<v Speaker 1>talking to a predator online. And the woman, a woman

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<v Speaker 1>cop said she's a He's like, she's being manipulated to

0:26:01.400 --> 0:26:03.520
<v Speaker 1>take naked photos of herself. And she said, do you

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<v Speaker 1>know that your daughter can be charged with soliciting child porn?

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<v Speaker 2>Did you see this? No?

0:26:08.760 --> 0:26:11.399
<v Speaker 1>And it's on video and the dude is like, excuse me,

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<v Speaker 1>she's eleven years old.

0:26:12.720 --> 0:26:13.840
<v Speaker 2>She's like, yeah, are you aware?

0:26:13.920 --> 0:26:15.639
<v Speaker 1>Like she was sending on child phography and he was like,

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<v Speaker 1>you guys, have a nice night, Like wow, I aren't

0:26:18.760 --> 0:26:22.080
<v Speaker 1>even discussing back and forth. It was one of the

0:26:22.160 --> 0:26:25.080
<v Speaker 1>craziest things I'd probably seen online all year. The comments

0:26:25.080 --> 0:26:28.439
<v Speaker 1>were insane. I'm hoping and pretty sure these people have

0:26:28.480 --> 0:26:29.720
<v Speaker 1>gotten fired, but like I.

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<v Speaker 4>Hope so wop she's been through to make her think that,

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<v Speaker 4>Like what the fuck put that in her head?

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<v Speaker 3>I'm not gonna lie be okay to say something oh

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<v Speaker 3>the cop Yes, yeah, I was gonna say the eleven

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<v Speaker 3>year old. I think seeing what social media has done

0:26:45.040 --> 0:26:47.960
<v Speaker 3>now and the access like to be fair, I think

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<v Speaker 3>when I was eleven, I was using fake pictures of

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<v Speaker 3>jane i Eko in the mall like this is me

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<v Speaker 3>and I'm sixteen and really I'm.

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<v Speaker 2>Twelve or thirteen.

0:26:57.800 --> 0:26:59.840
<v Speaker 3>So literally, I don't know if y'all remember, like all

0:26:59.840 --> 0:27:03.440
<v Speaker 3>the airbrush photos I forgot. Janae Iiko had a whole

0:27:03.480 --> 0:27:06.119
<v Speaker 3>bunch online and I used to find them all in

0:27:06.119 --> 0:27:08.159
<v Speaker 3>those message boards where I used to read that you

0:27:08.240 --> 0:27:11.040
<v Speaker 3>fucked all of the b twok members. But Janey, you know,

0:27:11.160 --> 0:27:13.880
<v Speaker 3>was a cousin, so she was floating around in those

0:27:13.880 --> 0:27:16.440
<v Speaker 3>message boards. So I use her pictures all the time

0:27:16.680 --> 0:27:19.159
<v Speaker 3>because I was younger, but I had never gotten to

0:27:19.200 --> 0:27:22.040
<v Speaker 3>the point at that at that moment where I would

0:27:22.119 --> 0:27:27.520
<v Speaker 3>use sexual pictures. However, now where bikini photos, bathroom photos,

0:27:27.640 --> 0:27:31.080
<v Speaker 3>mirror pictures of all your favorite celebs, I mean, anyone

0:27:31.160 --> 0:27:34.280
<v Speaker 3>younger I would say than twenty four to twenty five.

0:27:34.880 --> 0:27:37.480
<v Speaker 2>Rihanna's nipples are out for everyone, like.

0:27:37.760 --> 0:27:40.480
<v Speaker 3>Kim Kay, and just the way that we have almost

0:27:40.560 --> 0:27:44.199
<v Speaker 3>glorified as well just accepting your body. I think that

0:27:44.240 --> 0:27:47.360
<v Speaker 3>there's a different narrative being taught as well to children. Yeah,

0:27:47.400 --> 0:27:50.320
<v Speaker 3>and it's it's I think it really is the parent's

0:27:50.400 --> 0:27:54.760
<v Speaker 3>responsibility to have those conversations. But it's really hard because

0:27:54.920 --> 0:27:56.159
<v Speaker 3>you can have it and then they go to their

0:27:56.160 --> 0:27:58.320
<v Speaker 3>friend's house, you can have it, and then they're at

0:27:58.359 --> 0:28:00.080
<v Speaker 3>school longer than they're with you.

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<v Speaker 2>You right.

0:28:00.920 --> 0:28:03.920
<v Speaker 3>I just think we're in a very very scary era

0:28:04.440 --> 0:28:07.399
<v Speaker 3>of protecting people but also holding people accountable and I

0:28:07.480 --> 0:28:10.199
<v Speaker 3>just talked about this. There's a lot of layers to it,

0:28:10.240 --> 0:28:11.440
<v Speaker 3>so I don't want to get into it. But we're

0:28:11.440 --> 0:28:14.480
<v Speaker 3>from Florida with some Florida girls, and they just passed

0:28:14.480 --> 0:28:18.600
<v Speaker 3>the law in Florida were pedophiles who violate anyone under

0:28:18.600 --> 0:28:22.880
<v Speaker 3>twelve years old the death penalty, and so I mean,

0:28:24.160 --> 0:28:26.880
<v Speaker 3>that's not the right thing to do. But again, it's

0:28:26.960 --> 0:28:31.159
<v Speaker 3>unfortunate when law enforcement, Well no, it's unfortunately. Yeah, Well

0:28:31.320 --> 0:28:33.560
<v Speaker 3>to me, it's well, only there's a few there's a

0:28:33.600 --> 0:28:37.560
<v Speaker 3>few things with that only and recently spoke about it.

0:28:37.680 --> 0:28:40.720
<v Speaker 2>But I think when you I was all for it,

0:28:40.800 --> 0:28:43.080
<v Speaker 2>I'm like, yeah, kill them. I don't like them.

0:28:43.320 --> 0:28:48.000
<v Speaker 3>But then when you get into well, not only wrongfully accused,

0:28:48.040 --> 0:28:51.760
<v Speaker 3>but proof and so to know that anyone under the

0:28:52.160 --> 0:28:55.080
<v Speaker 3>under twelve has to prove that this happened to them,

0:28:55.240 --> 0:29:00.479
<v Speaker 3>what that looks like retraumatizing children to make something ballot

0:29:00.640 --> 0:29:04.080
<v Speaker 3>or make or have enough proof to really charge someone.

0:29:04.600 --> 0:29:07.720
<v Speaker 3>Seeing how awesome men don't want to listen to women

0:29:07.840 --> 0:29:10.920
<v Speaker 3>when things happen, or the fact that depending on the

0:29:10.960 --> 0:29:14.320
<v Speaker 3>pennies a woman has, people may think that you invited

0:29:14.400 --> 0:29:17.280
<v Speaker 3>on Like we talked about that case in Germany, she

0:29:17.360 --> 0:29:19.840
<v Speaker 3>had lace Spannies on. She was right, and the literal

0:29:19.840 --> 0:29:21.880
<v Speaker 3>court threw it out because she was like laate Spannies.

0:29:22.000 --> 0:29:24.320
<v Speaker 3>She asked for it. So I just think that we're

0:29:24.320 --> 0:29:28.480
<v Speaker 3>also in this place where we're dealing with men still

0:29:28.520 --> 0:29:30.680
<v Speaker 3>in very high positions that really don't care about us.

0:29:30.680 --> 0:29:32.320
<v Speaker 2>Look at them taking away our rights to have kids.

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<v Speaker 1>I mean, I think that maybe there's good that'll come

0:29:35.080 --> 0:29:36.440
<v Speaker 1>out of this more than that it's all too good

0:29:36.520 --> 0:29:40.320
<v Speaker 1>that comes out soldiers dying more. And you know, I

0:29:40.720 --> 0:29:42.640
<v Speaker 1>say that all the time when people are like when

0:29:42.640 --> 0:29:44.720
<v Speaker 1>they used to talk about protesting and shit, oh my god,

0:29:44.840 --> 0:29:47.520
<v Speaker 1>what about the black owned businesses? Oh fucking well, cities

0:29:47.560 --> 0:29:49.760
<v Speaker 1>need to get destroyed, burnt up. That's what the fuck shit.

0:29:49.880 --> 0:29:51.160
<v Speaker 2>That's how my brain works.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't give a fuck who falls down for the

0:29:53.320 --> 0:29:55.400
<v Speaker 1>end of the road to look better. Okay, So that

0:29:55.840 --> 0:29:58.040
<v Speaker 1>is kind of how like my maybe little Malcolm X's

0:29:58.040 --> 0:29:58.520
<v Speaker 1>brain works.

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<v Speaker 4>Come on, Malcolm A really funny enough cities have burned down,

0:30:03.320 --> 0:30:06.240
<v Speaker 4>yet she's like, we're still paving the window.

0:30:06.440 --> 0:30:09.160
<v Speaker 1>Honestly, I'm just a very radical thinker in that way,

0:30:09.280 --> 0:30:12.600
<v Speaker 1>Like I kind of don't care. I think that like

0:30:12.680 --> 0:30:15.720
<v Speaker 1>we're so backwards in many aspects that like, I don't

0:30:15.720 --> 0:30:19.840
<v Speaker 1>think about the what if this person that person? I mean, anyway, Beach,

0:30:23.800 --> 0:30:25.840
<v Speaker 1>I found a vanilla shit and I'm curious to know

0:30:25.880 --> 0:30:28.840
<v Speaker 1>if you've ever had an injury, because.

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<v Speaker 3>This week, what did you say vanilla shit? Van van

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<v Speaker 3>is our sex in the news segment. Oh okay, So

0:30:34.320 --> 0:30:36.520
<v Speaker 3>this is something that really happened that probably made the

0:30:36.520 --> 0:30:38.600
<v Speaker 3>New York Post or some crazy news outlet.

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<v Speaker 1>In October twenty nineteen, a woman named Emma McGuinness was

0:30:42.720 --> 0:30:44.560
<v Speaker 1>celebrating her thirtieth birthday at Walt Disney.

0:30:44.600 --> 0:30:45.840
<v Speaker 2>But you too old to be celebrated.

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<v Speaker 1>She got on a water slide Typhoon in a typho

0:30:49.920 --> 0:30:56.560
<v Speaker 1>lagoon and experienced a painful wedgie dear vaginal lacerations, so

0:30:56.600 --> 0:30:59.600
<v Speaker 1>she filed the lawsuit on the water park where she

0:30:59.640 --> 0:31:02.920
<v Speaker 1>took the Humungo Cowabunga water slide. Disney said he puts

0:31:03.000 --> 0:31:05.240
<v Speaker 1>riders in an enclosed body slide, sending them on a

0:31:05.240 --> 0:31:08.160
<v Speaker 1>two hundred foot drop in the dark, and it sprays

0:31:08.720 --> 0:31:11.400
<v Speaker 1>their way to a surprise ending. So she was wearing

0:31:11.400 --> 0:31:15.720
<v Speaker 1>a one piece swimsuit. Things ended painfully despite listening to

0:31:15.760 --> 0:31:17.920
<v Speaker 1>the ride operators who told her to cross her arms,

0:31:18.000 --> 0:31:19.280
<v Speaker 1>laid back, you know how they do that whole thing

0:31:19.280 --> 0:31:22.520
<v Speaker 1>when you want to slide. So, the impact of the

0:31:22.600 --> 0:31:26.640
<v Speaker 1>slide and her standing at the standing water at the

0:31:26.640 --> 0:31:29.280
<v Speaker 1>bottom caused her clothing to forcefully be put between her

0:31:29.360 --> 0:31:32.240
<v Speaker 1>legs and water was violently forced inside of her.

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<v Speaker 2>She experienced immediate pain. Blood rushed down her legs.

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<v Speaker 1>She was taken to a hospital and they sent her

0:31:38.080 --> 0:31:42.960
<v Speaker 1>for a pair for kindacologic injuries, severe bodily injury to

0:31:43.000 --> 0:31:45.640
<v Speaker 1>her vagina, and she got fifty thousand dollars.

0:31:45.920 --> 0:31:47.000
<v Speaker 2>Bitch, that's not enough.

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<v Speaker 3>Well, well, this is the thing, which is why when

0:31:50.240 --> 0:31:53.280
<v Speaker 3>I saw this, I was like, oh, we got soup

0:31:53.280 --> 0:31:55.560
<v Speaker 3>for anything now. She literally only sold for her surgery.

0:31:55.560 --> 0:31:58.800
<v Speaker 3>Colls like, so that's all enough. Well, no, I felt

0:31:58.800 --> 0:32:02.960
<v Speaker 3>the same. She had literal damage done to her intestine.

0:32:03.200 --> 0:32:05.880
<v Speaker 3>So it went also so far up like when I

0:32:05.960 --> 0:32:09.240
<v Speaker 3>was hearing and reading further into the details of what

0:32:09.320 --> 0:32:10.160
<v Speaker 3>actually happened.

0:32:10.480 --> 0:32:11.600
<v Speaker 2>I think that's the thing.

0:32:13.000 --> 0:32:15.200
<v Speaker 3>They probably were able to protect themselves because they do

0:32:15.280 --> 0:32:17.840
<v Speaker 3>tell you the exact way. They could also probably say

0:32:17.880 --> 0:32:20.600
<v Speaker 3>thousands of people have ridden the slide. This has never happened.

0:32:20.840 --> 0:32:24.160
<v Speaker 3>This is a once and a you know million chances that.

0:32:24.800 --> 0:32:29.160
<v Speaker 1>On Good Morning America, my vagina was beautiful. I called

0:32:29.160 --> 0:32:31.800
<v Speaker 1>horrible decisions. Everybody wanted to eat it.

0:32:31.880 --> 0:32:35.200
<v Speaker 2>And now my clip is gone. Yeah, not my clit is.

0:32:35.360 --> 0:32:38.760
<v Speaker 1>Have you ever had a sex related injury, even though

0:32:38.800 --> 0:32:40.960
<v Speaker 1>this one was a water slide, like, I've definitely not

0:32:41.000 --> 0:32:43.760
<v Speaker 1>been able to talk the next day from the throat fucking ooh.

0:32:44.040 --> 0:32:47.960
<v Speaker 2>I've definitely had some soreness, some soreness, but that's a nothing.

0:32:49.360 --> 0:32:50.720
<v Speaker 2>You've been able to walk even fine.

0:32:51.880 --> 0:32:54.880
<v Speaker 4>Yeah, I mean there's definitely it's not an injury like it.

0:32:54.880 --> 0:32:57.920
<v Speaker 4>It's definitely uncomfortable, but I kind of liked the pain

0:32:57.960 --> 0:32:59.800
<v Speaker 4>because it feels like, Okay, I remember last night.

0:33:00.000 --> 0:33:00.520
<v Speaker 2>Every time I.

0:33:01.960 --> 0:33:04.600
<v Speaker 1>Last night, every time my cough and I laugh and

0:33:04.640 --> 0:33:06.320
<v Speaker 1>you feel you, I can feel you.

0:33:06.320 --> 0:33:10.880
<v Speaker 4>You're still here with me, baby, You're still He is.

0:33:10.800 --> 0:33:13.520
<v Speaker 2>Coming right out. No, just like anal sex, you know,

0:33:13.600 --> 0:33:15.520
<v Speaker 2>shit comes out differently. The next twenty four.

0:33:15.400 --> 0:33:18.640
<v Speaker 1>Hours, I feel my mind had a tilted uterus and

0:33:18.680 --> 0:33:20.640
<v Speaker 1>I literally was like, oh, who is he?

0:33:21.520 --> 0:33:25.920
<v Speaker 2>I wouldn't even want them. I'm any here. I do

0:33:26.040 --> 0:33:30.440
<v Speaker 2>not want Yes, you know what's crazy? Birth control that

0:33:30.480 --> 0:33:32.200
<v Speaker 2>works for me and There's been a lot of like,

0:33:32.360 --> 0:33:33.960
<v Speaker 2>what does that mean that you've been pregnant before? Or

0:33:33.960 --> 0:33:35.840
<v Speaker 2>you just gave me I actually have been pregnant off

0:33:35.880 --> 0:33:37.040
<v Speaker 2>of which one?

0:33:37.320 --> 0:33:40.480
<v Speaker 4>Uh So I tried all the pills. I tried the shots,

0:33:40.560 --> 0:33:42.760
<v Speaker 4>Like the pills would make me like super depressed or

0:33:43.080 --> 0:33:45.680
<v Speaker 4>make me gain weight. The shots made me gain weight

0:33:45.920 --> 0:33:46.560
<v Speaker 4>really bad.

0:33:47.200 --> 0:33:49.640
<v Speaker 2>Then so different.

0:33:49.680 --> 0:33:51.600
<v Speaker 4>So then I started trying to do this natural thing

0:33:51.600 --> 0:33:54.600
<v Speaker 4>where I would take my temperature every morning as soon

0:33:54.600 --> 0:33:56.920
<v Speaker 4>as I woke up and mark in my calendar and

0:33:56.920 --> 0:33:59.160
<v Speaker 4>then it would tell me when I was ovulating. So

0:33:59.240 --> 0:34:01.880
<v Speaker 4>I was doing that and that's just really tricky, Like

0:34:01.880 --> 0:34:02.360
<v Speaker 4>you wake up.

0:34:02.760 --> 0:34:04.600
<v Speaker 1>Don't give me a better The rhythm method didn't work

0:34:04.600 --> 0:34:07.480
<v Speaker 1>for you. Had a while Saturday night, I told you,

0:34:07.560 --> 0:34:07.960
<v Speaker 1>I think.

0:34:07.800 --> 0:34:11.440
<v Speaker 2>The rhythm method is I mean also, I was also twenty.

0:34:11.360 --> 0:34:14.160
<v Speaker 4>Like I was like you, I don't really know your body.

0:34:14.320 --> 0:34:17.080
<v Speaker 4>I did not know my body, okay, So yeah, then

0:34:17.080 --> 0:34:21.040
<v Speaker 4>I got pregnant. That fucked okay literally and that's how

0:34:21.080 --> 0:34:21.840
<v Speaker 4>I ended up pregnant.

0:34:21.960 --> 0:34:22.799
<v Speaker 2>So you got fun.

0:34:22.920 --> 0:34:27.160
<v Speaker 1>I've been losing the rhythm method. I was pregnant the

0:34:27.200 --> 0:34:29.640
<v Speaker 1>last time at twenty five on thirty two. I have

0:34:29.880 --> 0:34:34.120
<v Speaker 1>not had any kind of cream price stitch during ovulation.

0:34:34.800 --> 0:34:39.799
<v Speaker 1>Now I am really on time though, like twenty eight

0:34:39.800 --> 0:34:42.560
<v Speaker 1>to twenty nine days like this, Like it's not off

0:34:42.800 --> 0:34:45.160
<v Speaker 1>to the point where it's a little scary. And now

0:34:45.200 --> 0:34:48.080
<v Speaker 1>that I'm like sleeping with someone new, and I'm just like,

0:34:48.160 --> 0:34:51.839
<v Speaker 1>you know, new people knew. One person new new.

0:34:52.400 --> 0:34:57.320
<v Speaker 3>No you, he adds a celer went through together.

0:34:57.880 --> 0:34:58.960
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, one person is new.

0:34:59.800 --> 0:35:02.160
<v Speaker 1>I'm literally like, oh god, now I have to sit

0:35:02.200 --> 0:35:04.319
<v Speaker 1>here and talk through this shit with this nigga now,

0:35:04.480 --> 0:35:07.560
<v Speaker 1>like because I can't sleep with two people without condoms, right,

0:35:07.560 --> 0:35:10.080
<v Speaker 1>and I've been fucking one person for years with a condom.

0:35:10.239 --> 0:35:11.759
<v Speaker 2>So I'm like, okay, maybe you and I could take

0:35:11.760 --> 0:35:12.799
<v Speaker 2>a chance. Bitch.

0:35:12.840 --> 0:35:14.759
<v Speaker 1>This shit is nerve wrecking. I forgot what it's like

0:35:14.800 --> 0:35:17.640
<v Speaker 1>to fuck somebody like this. Oh my god, it's none juw.

0:35:17.719 --> 0:35:20.040
<v Speaker 1>That was Saturday. It's Tuesday. It's been all my mind

0:35:20.080 --> 0:35:21.560
<v Speaker 1>every day. Am I with child?

0:35:21.760 --> 0:35:26.239
<v Speaker 2>It's October? I don't know three I'm fucking ovulating on

0:35:26.280 --> 0:35:27.080
<v Speaker 2>October eleventh.

0:35:27.080 --> 0:35:30.480
<v Speaker 1>But I'm like, let's do Like I am scared, and

0:35:30.560 --> 0:35:32.520
<v Speaker 1>I don't know if the anxiety is worse or getting

0:35:32.520 --> 0:35:33.839
<v Speaker 1>fat from birth control is worse.

0:35:34.160 --> 0:35:38.360
<v Speaker 2>And now I realize that sex is so awful, bitch.

0:35:38.400 --> 0:35:41.040
<v Speaker 1>I want to fill out my cream piy fantasies, no

0:35:41.239 --> 0:35:43.680
<v Speaker 1>pun on the fill like that shit is fucking hot.

0:35:44.120 --> 0:35:46.840
<v Speaker 1>I have a crazy like, oh my god, come in

0:35:46.880 --> 0:35:47.719
<v Speaker 1>this pussy kink.

0:35:48.960 --> 0:35:51.120
<v Speaker 2>I just think putting it a sex. But you had

0:35:51.160 --> 0:35:53.799
<v Speaker 2>like moments and bit or you always.

0:35:53.520 --> 0:35:56.840
<v Speaker 1>In between your condom, always condoms and or with my

0:35:56.880 --> 0:36:00.000
<v Speaker 1>ex boyfriend, just complete rhythm method.

0:36:00.600 --> 0:36:03.680
<v Speaker 2>But like, yeah, I've been on some shit, bitch.

0:36:04.239 --> 0:36:06.400
<v Speaker 4>Wait, so even when you were with your ex boyfriend,

0:36:06.480 --> 0:36:07.520
<v Speaker 4>still condoms every time?

0:36:07.560 --> 0:36:09.920
<v Speaker 1>No, no, no, we didn't use, but we were. We weren't

0:36:09.920 --> 0:36:15.120
<v Speaker 1>doing creampie shit, especially during opulation. So right now I'm

0:36:15.160 --> 0:36:18.359
<v Speaker 1>not doing it while I'm ovulating. I'm just saying it's

0:36:18.360 --> 0:36:20.480
<v Speaker 1>making me check this period track every five minutes.

0:36:21.080 --> 0:36:21.239
<v Speaker 2>Bro.

0:36:21.360 --> 0:36:23.279
<v Speaker 1>I started getting a little upset today and hungry, and

0:36:23.280 --> 0:36:24.080
<v Speaker 1>I'm like, am I pregnant?

0:36:24.080 --> 0:36:26.880
<v Speaker 2>It's been four days? Like I am scared.

0:36:27.160 --> 0:36:29.920
<v Speaker 4>Have you took in a pregnancy before because you were scared?

0:36:30.040 --> 0:36:31.120
<v Speaker 4>Have you ever had to take Plan B?

0:36:32.120 --> 0:36:34.120
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, but I don't want to right now because I'm

0:36:34.160 --> 0:36:34.839
<v Speaker 1>so on time.

0:36:35.160 --> 0:36:37.160
<v Speaker 2>Also Plan B I hate it.

0:36:37.480 --> 0:36:40.080
<v Speaker 1>First of all, everybody remembers the Plan B in jail

0:36:40.160 --> 0:36:41.560
<v Speaker 1>story where I had to slip up where I was

0:36:41.600 --> 0:36:43.960
<v Speaker 1>fucking with this gangbanger and I had to take plan B.

0:36:44.200 --> 0:36:45.719
<v Speaker 1>And then he did the courtesy called like, how are

0:36:45.719 --> 0:36:47.680
<v Speaker 1>you feeling? Because you know what makes us cramp? I

0:36:47.719 --> 0:36:48.520
<v Speaker 1>hate that whole thing.

0:36:48.560 --> 0:36:50.120
<v Speaker 3>I don't want to deal with this. I want to

0:36:50.120 --> 0:36:52.600
<v Speaker 3>I'd rather deal with that than an actual baby. Call

0:36:52.719 --> 0:36:55.120
<v Speaker 3>me and ask me if I'm cramping. Nigga, call me

0:36:55.200 --> 0:36:56.680
<v Speaker 3>and I'm gonna tell you.

0:36:56.680 --> 0:36:58.839
<v Speaker 2>Do kno my period on early, but it's god damn peel,

0:36:58.840 --> 0:37:02.080
<v Speaker 2>but it ain't no baby. I'd rather that than a baby. Brother.

0:37:02.120 --> 0:37:02.239
<v Speaker 3>Man.

0:37:02.320 --> 0:37:04.200
<v Speaker 1>I go to last lap right, shout out to bigger

0:37:04.640 --> 0:37:07.239
<v Speaker 1>this stuff. There's a chick there who's pregnant. She's a bartender,

0:37:07.280 --> 0:37:09.359
<v Speaker 1>and she was saying to me, I'm like, I don't

0:37:09.360 --> 0:37:11.279
<v Speaker 1>even realize you were pregnant. Maybe I'm so drunk when

0:37:11.320 --> 0:37:12.799
<v Speaker 1>I come in here. The first thing out of her

0:37:12.840 --> 0:37:15.879
<v Speaker 1>mouth she's mad, funny. She goes yup to playing bes man.

0:37:16.440 --> 0:37:18.279
<v Speaker 1>This baby kick throw yes.

0:37:19.440 --> 0:37:24.839
<v Speaker 2>I didn't want to hear that. The night right there,

0:37:25.160 --> 0:37:26.239
<v Speaker 2>the night that's a.

0:37:26.200 --> 0:37:37.320
<v Speaker 3>Fighter, a fighter, Get the fucking egg.

0:37:35.800 --> 0:37:39.279
<v Speaker 2>You a gift card. This baby couldn't what She's like,

0:37:39.280 --> 0:37:41.799
<v Speaker 2>can you imagine two playing bees? And I was like, no,

0:37:41.880 --> 0:37:42.520
<v Speaker 2>I can't.

0:37:42.719 --> 0:37:45.360
<v Speaker 3>Well, maybe one canceled the other out too, Like maybe

0:37:45.360 --> 0:37:47.440
<v Speaker 3>you're not like you know how, you're not supposed to

0:37:47.440 --> 0:37:50.880
<v Speaker 3>double up condoms. You might not supposed to be doubling

0:37:50.960 --> 0:37:53.759
<v Speaker 3>up playing beas double up condoms, no, because they can

0:37:53.880 --> 0:37:56.680
<v Speaker 3>they can break if you double up condoms. People double

0:37:56.760 --> 0:38:00.960
<v Speaker 3>up dummies, probably twenty year olds. Maybe, like let me

0:38:00.960 --> 0:38:03.200
<v Speaker 3>get some extraction. Why that's what she found with the

0:38:03.239 --> 0:38:05.440
<v Speaker 3>extra plan B who told her to take two Plan B?

0:38:06.840 --> 0:38:10.080
<v Speaker 2>Right now, we all know it's just one. It's just one.

0:38:10.160 --> 0:38:12.920
<v Speaker 2>Look even we all know it's just one. She's Latina,

0:38:13.000 --> 0:38:17.319
<v Speaker 2>you know that extra five? Yeah? Well up, bro.

0:38:17.960 --> 0:38:20.080
<v Speaker 1>Me and this nigga was having a conversation this weeker

0:38:20.239 --> 0:38:23.719
<v Speaker 1>right about uh people Like He's like, oh, you know,

0:38:23.719 --> 0:38:25.400
<v Speaker 1>when I date women with young moms, they kind of

0:38:25.400 --> 0:38:27.000
<v Speaker 1>act like this when I date you were older moms.

0:38:27.040 --> 0:38:28.719
<v Speaker 1>He's like, I've noticed this trend in women. I'm like,

0:38:28.719 --> 0:38:31.640
<v Speaker 1>that's really interesting. He's like, most Latina shicks I've dated

0:38:31.680 --> 0:38:34.520
<v Speaker 1>have young moms and their relationship to their mom is

0:38:34.520 --> 0:38:37.080
<v Speaker 1>so sister like whatever. He's like, when I date like

0:38:37.160 --> 0:38:39.600
<v Speaker 1>African girls, or Caribbean girls, they kind of.

0:38:39.520 --> 0:38:40.120
<v Speaker 2>Have older parents.

0:38:40.160 --> 0:38:42.440
<v Speaker 1>He's like, it's this fucking weird thing of how the

0:38:42.440 --> 0:38:45.680
<v Speaker 1>women treat me. He's like with the younger moms, He's like,

0:38:45.719 --> 0:38:47.600
<v Speaker 1>I noticed that, Like they have a little bit of

0:38:47.680 --> 0:38:50.560
<v Speaker 1>gender roles in different like standards. And he's like, now,

0:38:50.600 --> 0:38:53.560
<v Speaker 1>when I'm meeting women on a first date, I low

0:38:53.640 --> 0:38:55.120
<v Speaker 1>keep be asking how old their parents are.

0:38:55.960 --> 0:38:58.600
<v Speaker 2>Wow, isn't that weird? And it's just interesting because I

0:38:58.640 --> 0:39:01.560
<v Speaker 2>don't really be Probably that's really people have a no fantasy.

0:39:01.640 --> 0:39:04.480
<v Speaker 2>Be careful. He might like that they be hecky licenses.

0:39:04.719 --> 0:39:09.600
<v Speaker 2>He might be I'm just saying, no king shaming. Austin, Texas.

0:39:09.880 --> 0:39:12.440
<v Speaker 2>I'm coming there next week November first.

0:39:12.880 --> 0:39:14.600
<v Speaker 1>Come and party with me because I'm the host of

0:39:14.600 --> 0:39:17.520
<v Speaker 1>Broccoli City's Coco Butter Afrotech.

0:39:17.719 --> 0:39:20.239
<v Speaker 2>I've never been, but listen, my husband might be here

0:39:20.520 --> 0:39:21.000
<v Speaker 2>and it's.

0:39:20.840 --> 0:39:24.240
<v Speaker 1>Gonna be warehouse block party vibes all night long featuring

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<v Speaker 1>spins by Jay Murphy and DJ Cody Terrell. It's on Wednesday,

0:39:28.880 --> 0:39:32.640
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<v Speaker 1>seven point thirty. The link Coco Butterparty dot com. Click

0:39:37.360 --> 0:39:40.719
<v Speaker 1>in the description of this episode. Get your tickets because

0:39:40.719 --> 0:39:43.760
<v Speaker 1>I'm trying to shake some heads. Now, hor dur segment.

0:39:43.840 --> 0:39:45.400
<v Speaker 1>I'm going to give a sex tip because I just

0:39:45.440 --> 0:39:47.600
<v Speaker 1>tried something new and we normally ask our guests, but

0:39:47.880 --> 0:39:50.799
<v Speaker 1>I definitely want yours. But bitch, I had sex with

0:39:50.880 --> 0:39:54.080
<v Speaker 1>heels on. I know that that sounds so basic.

0:39:54.840 --> 0:39:58.360
<v Speaker 2>Bitch, if you want my cavs, don't want that workout?

0:39:58.400 --> 0:40:00.279
<v Speaker 2>You got it? No, because you don't put I'm on

0:40:00.280 --> 0:40:02.520
<v Speaker 2>the bed. Oh you didn't stand up? Oh girl, I

0:40:02.560 --> 0:40:05.200
<v Speaker 2>had to put my feet and let me show you.

0:40:05.239 --> 0:40:07.320
<v Speaker 2>So you have a dress on? Please beat beat.

0:40:07.400 --> 0:40:11.480
<v Speaker 1>I Basically when I was getting I kept need like this, okay,

0:40:11.680 --> 0:40:14.839
<v Speaker 1>I had them up and they were up in the air.

0:40:15.560 --> 0:40:16.240
<v Speaker 1>Oh girl.

0:40:16.960 --> 0:40:18.359
<v Speaker 2>It was like fucking a striple hole.

0:40:18.800 --> 0:40:21.399
<v Speaker 1>Indeed, in the middle of the sex because I looked

0:40:21.400 --> 0:40:23.799
<v Speaker 1>like a little striple hole, I was like asking him

0:40:23.800 --> 0:40:24.040
<v Speaker 1>his name.

0:40:24.080 --> 0:40:25.360
<v Speaker 2>I was like, you got a girlfriend, and he was

0:40:25.360 --> 0:40:27.040
<v Speaker 2>looking at me like this bitch is crazy. Bro.

0:40:27.160 --> 0:40:29.440
<v Speaker 1>I was in full role play mode because these one

0:40:29.520 --> 0:40:31.480
<v Speaker 1>god damn Steve Madden's shoes.

0:40:32.000 --> 0:40:35.480
<v Speaker 2>Now I'll just put some goddamn shoes on them. That's it.

0:40:35.680 --> 0:40:38.480
<v Speaker 3>If they brand knew even better. I'm too clumsy. I'll

0:40:38.480 --> 0:40:39.719
<v Speaker 3>put that nigga in the eye with the heel.

0:40:39.920 --> 0:40:41.000
<v Speaker 2>Oh. I was really yeah.

0:40:41.200 --> 0:40:44.000
<v Speaker 3>I ain't got no coordination, a bitch halfway. I ain't

0:40:44.000 --> 0:40:45.799
<v Speaker 3>got no rhythm, but I could throw the ass back

0:40:45.840 --> 0:40:46.520
<v Speaker 3>and that's about it.

0:40:46.640 --> 0:40:48.200
<v Speaker 2>Do you know, don't be asking me to coordinate to

0:40:48.239 --> 0:40:49.920
<v Speaker 2>do a routine in the bedroom. Do you talk with

0:40:49.960 --> 0:40:54.120
<v Speaker 2>shoes on? I don't think I've ever done that before.

0:40:54.160 --> 0:40:54.760
<v Speaker 2>Do it tonight?

0:40:54.760 --> 0:40:59.719
<v Speaker 3>Bro off the stage, off the stage, on the stage, not.

0:40:59.760 --> 0:41:02.840
<v Speaker 2>On the No, keep the heels on. Go back to

0:41:02.880 --> 0:41:07.359
<v Speaker 2>the bay and get it now. Sex tipt from you

0:41:08.920 --> 0:41:10.879
<v Speaker 2>and I know you got one. This is like very

0:41:10.920 --> 0:41:13.360
<v Speaker 2>on the spot. You guys, what did you do? You

0:41:13.400 --> 0:41:15.520
<v Speaker 2>not listen to the show? We just talked to you

0:41:15.719 --> 0:41:16.640
<v Speaker 2>like three months.

0:41:16.440 --> 0:41:18.839
<v Speaker 3>Ago, and god damn la, I know we ain't got

0:41:18.840 --> 0:41:20.080
<v Speaker 3>a will for you to spend today.

0:41:20.160 --> 0:41:24.440
<v Speaker 2>But I like the wheel. I like games.

0:41:24.520 --> 0:41:27.000
<v Speaker 3>I felt like youmn no girl, we want to get

0:41:27.040 --> 0:41:29.120
<v Speaker 3>to know you and your sex tips and how good

0:41:29.120 --> 0:41:31.280
<v Speaker 3>you are in the Bedroom's your new finance man.

0:41:31.360 --> 0:41:34.799
<v Speaker 2>That's all? Yeh? No, Okay, let me think about it.

0:41:34.840 --> 0:41:37.560
<v Speaker 2>What got him to be all about you?

0:41:37.560 --> 0:41:40.440
<v Speaker 3>You said he does everything for you, act of service,

0:41:40.480 --> 0:41:42.680
<v Speaker 3>He shows up for you he clean.

0:41:42.719 --> 0:41:44.759
<v Speaker 2>Like, that's why I'm not. I love he want to

0:41:44.760 --> 0:41:45.120
<v Speaker 2>be the third.

0:41:45.120 --> 0:41:47.640
<v Speaker 3>So I just know what even a relationship wise, like

0:41:48.000 --> 0:41:50.040
<v Speaker 3>what is your tip to getting a guy to even

0:41:50.080 --> 0:41:52.279
<v Speaker 3>show up for you like that? Like did you do

0:41:52.360 --> 0:41:54.799
<v Speaker 3>something specially in the bedroom that he's brought up or

0:41:55.440 --> 0:41:57.520
<v Speaker 3>did you show up differently with him than you have

0:41:57.760 --> 0:41:58.520
<v Speaker 3>in the past.

0:42:00.160 --> 0:42:04.279
<v Speaker 4>First in the bedroom On the bedroom topic, I'm just

0:42:04.360 --> 0:42:07.239
<v Speaker 4>always down to do anything, and I think me being

0:42:07.320 --> 0:42:10.320
<v Speaker 4>so open about that lets people like I'm so open,

0:42:10.440 --> 0:42:12.600
<v Speaker 4>like upfront, like I try anything.

0:42:13.000 --> 0:42:15.239
<v Speaker 2>I literally try anything once. Is there anything that you

0:42:15.360 --> 0:42:16.000
<v Speaker 2>probably like it?

0:42:16.040 --> 0:42:18.439
<v Speaker 3>But is there anything that you've tried once that you're like, Okay,

0:42:18.480 --> 0:42:19.640
<v Speaker 3>I'm not gonna do that again.

0:42:20.800 --> 0:42:23.720
<v Speaker 2>No, okay, what do you think of something? I tried

0:42:23.840 --> 0:42:26.760
<v Speaker 2>something that I said I was never gonna do. Girl,

0:42:26.880 --> 0:42:27.480
<v Speaker 2>tell me.

0:42:27.880 --> 0:42:31.319
<v Speaker 4>I said I was never ever gonna say daddy never.

0:42:31.600 --> 0:42:33.800
<v Speaker 4>I was like, absolutely, I have too many real daddy

0:42:33.800 --> 0:42:37.200
<v Speaker 4>issues to do that. Absolutely not same Now I'm doing

0:42:37.280 --> 0:42:37.600
<v Speaker 4>it all.

0:42:37.480 --> 0:42:40.600
<v Speaker 2>This him Dad.

0:42:40.680 --> 0:42:45.080
<v Speaker 4>I never thought. I literally never thought. I always swore

0:42:45.160 --> 0:42:45.719
<v Speaker 4>on my grade.

0:42:45.760 --> 0:42:47.719
<v Speaker 2>Did he ask you or did you just feel like

0:42:47.840 --> 0:42:52.560
<v Speaker 2>it's given? Dad? I asked him, Okay, are you into that?

0:42:52.800 --> 0:42:54.719
<v Speaker 4>Because I had told him literally within the first week,

0:42:54.760 --> 0:42:57.240
<v Speaker 4>I'm not doing that, like I'm down for anything.

0:42:57.280 --> 0:42:59.640
<v Speaker 2>The one thing I won't do is do this. And

0:42:59.680 --> 0:43:00.960
<v Speaker 2>he was like, okay, fine, like.

0:43:02.600 --> 0:43:04.600
<v Speaker 4>And then I asked him if he wanted that, and

0:43:04.640 --> 0:43:07.040
<v Speaker 4>he's very like he just wants to keep me happy

0:43:07.120 --> 0:43:07.440
<v Speaker 4>and like.

0:43:07.440 --> 0:43:09.720
<v Speaker 2>Feel the best I would ever feel.

0:43:10.080 --> 0:43:12.640
<v Speaker 4>So he was like, I'm not like crazing it, like

0:43:12.640 --> 0:43:14.640
<v Speaker 4>I don't need it, you know, like it's fine.

0:43:14.719 --> 0:43:16.439
<v Speaker 2>I was like, but you want it.

0:43:16.360 --> 0:43:18.640
<v Speaker 4>And he's like no, like I but I can tell

0:43:18.640 --> 0:43:24.520
<v Speaker 4>in his face he's like I don't know. And I

0:43:24.560 --> 0:43:28.840
<v Speaker 4>was like, ie, someone, I will fucking try it. Fuck it,

0:43:29.040 --> 0:43:31.239
<v Speaker 4>I'll try it because I felt comfortable with him, like

0:43:31.280 --> 0:43:34.440
<v Speaker 4>I felt safe. I never felt that safe with someone

0:43:34.600 --> 0:43:38.040
<v Speaker 4>ever before in my life. Wow, ever, like to the

0:43:38.120 --> 0:43:41.919
<v Speaker 4>point where like when I got raped, I got raped

0:43:41.960 --> 0:43:45.920
<v Speaker 4>anally and that was like so bad because you know

0:43:46.040 --> 0:43:50.200
<v Speaker 4>that's just yeah, no, oh you're marry. And I never

0:43:50.239 --> 0:43:52.560
<v Speaker 4>could do it after that, Like I've tried it with

0:43:52.600 --> 0:43:55.080
<v Speaker 4>people and started crying and like I just could not

0:43:55.200 --> 0:43:57.160
<v Speaker 4>do it. He's the only person that I've been able

0:43:57.200 --> 0:43:59.359
<v Speaker 4>to do that with ever, and I have to because

0:43:59.400 --> 0:44:01.920
<v Speaker 4>I was so happy they just felt healed.

0:44:01.600 --> 0:44:05.800
<v Speaker 2>From that experience. Wow, it was really so crazy. I was.

0:44:07.160 --> 0:44:11.000
<v Speaker 4>Nineteen, damn Wow, the guy was twenty six.

0:44:11.600 --> 0:44:14.200
<v Speaker 3>What was that conversation like with your partner, Like to

0:44:14.280 --> 0:44:17.239
<v Speaker 3>know that this was a healing moment for you but

0:44:17.400 --> 0:44:21.080
<v Speaker 3>also a moment of overcoming trauma something that I mean

0:44:21.120 --> 0:44:24.480
<v Speaker 3>a lot of people who've experienced assault in various ways,

0:44:24.480 --> 0:44:27.360
<v Speaker 3>they feel like that is absolutely something.

0:44:27.080 --> 0:44:28.080
<v Speaker 2>I'll never be able to do.

0:44:28.920 --> 0:44:30.440
<v Speaker 3>You thought that you would never be able to do it,

0:44:30.480 --> 0:44:31.960
<v Speaker 3>and now you found a partner that you're safe with

0:44:32.080 --> 0:44:35.359
<v Speaker 3>doing it. That after talk, that aftercare whatuld that look

0:44:35.440 --> 0:44:38.000
<v Speaker 3>like when he saw you crying or you talked.

0:44:37.840 --> 0:44:38.600
<v Speaker 2>After the tears.

0:44:38.719 --> 0:44:41.080
<v Speaker 4>I'm like, he was just hugging me for so long

0:44:41.239 --> 0:44:44.200
<v Speaker 4>and he was like, I'm so grateful that you do

0:44:44.320 --> 0:44:46.239
<v Speaker 4>that with me and that you feel so safe with me,

0:44:46.520 --> 0:44:49.439
<v Speaker 4>And I'm so happy for you and I'm so proud

0:44:49.480 --> 0:44:51.480
<v Speaker 4>of you. I'm so happy that you got to enjoy

0:44:51.520 --> 0:44:56.000
<v Speaker 4>the experience. Like it was just like the most beautiful moment.

0:44:57.320 --> 0:45:01.799
<v Speaker 2>It was beautiful. That was such a touching, but it

0:45:01.840 --> 0:45:02.400
<v Speaker 2>really was.

0:45:02.560 --> 0:45:06.759
<v Speaker 4>I just felt so like cared for and it was

0:45:06.840 --> 0:45:11.279
<v Speaker 4>like also to go from having someone be at their

0:45:11.320 --> 0:45:13.600
<v Speaker 4>own pace when I'm not at their pace, right to

0:45:13.640 --> 0:45:17.239
<v Speaker 4>having someone be at my pace knowing my experiences was

0:45:17.440 --> 0:45:22.319
<v Speaker 4>so just like affirming, reaffirming, and I felt such a

0:45:22.360 --> 0:45:26.120
<v Speaker 4>relief when when I felt relieved, I felt the relief.

0:45:26.760 --> 0:45:30.640
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, because somebody fake it, Like I believe a lot

0:45:30.640 --> 0:45:31.640
<v Speaker 1>of women fake it too.

0:45:32.400 --> 0:45:33.799
<v Speaker 2>I want you to feel safe doing X, Y.

0:45:33.920 --> 0:45:36.760
<v Speaker 1>Z with me, and they may even weaponize it against

0:45:36.760 --> 0:45:39.799
<v Speaker 1>that man later, you know, like you never know if

0:45:39.840 --> 0:45:41.480
<v Speaker 1>someone is just putting on to get you.

0:45:41.520 --> 0:45:43.040
<v Speaker 2>No one's nicer than someone hasn't.

0:45:42.840 --> 0:45:45.040
<v Speaker 1>Bucked you yet, you know what I mean, or somebody

0:45:45.040 --> 0:45:47.120
<v Speaker 1>that wants something from you, and so you just kind

0:45:47.200 --> 0:45:48.120
<v Speaker 1>of don't know.

0:45:48.640 --> 0:45:51.040
<v Speaker 2>If someone has an experience that they're wanting to get out.

0:45:50.880 --> 0:45:54.319
<v Speaker 1>Of you, they will be fucking kind employees before they

0:45:54.320 --> 0:45:56.560
<v Speaker 1>get the job, you know what I'm saying. It's like, really,

0:45:56.560 --> 0:45:58.760
<v Speaker 1>how are you gonna treat me? Right in that middle?

0:45:59.080 --> 0:46:01.359
<v Speaker 1>So in the beginning, it's very difficult. So I think

0:46:01.360 --> 0:46:03.719
<v Speaker 1>it's dope that you got to have that experience with

0:46:03.840 --> 0:46:07.000
<v Speaker 1>a man. Yes, five months and yeah, I'm actually the

0:46:07.040 --> 0:46:08.400
<v Speaker 1>only man I've been able to have.

0:46:08.520 --> 0:46:12.520
<v Speaker 3>I want to ask you another question, uh, because yeah,

0:46:12.520 --> 0:46:16.880
<v Speaker 3>this was on air, this wasn't off air heeling from

0:46:16.960 --> 0:46:22.400
<v Speaker 3>a narcissistic relationship. I asked that because I haven't been

0:46:22.440 --> 0:46:25.680
<v Speaker 3>able to really fully been touched. Like, Okay, I did

0:46:25.760 --> 0:46:28.840
<v Speaker 3>get finger banged. That was nice, any aim, But that

0:46:28.920 --> 0:46:31.760
<v Speaker 3>was only one guy in the last like five six months.

0:46:32.320 --> 0:46:35.640
<v Speaker 3>You just said before yesterday, Well listen, I'm about to

0:46:35.640 --> 0:46:38.800
<v Speaker 3>bleed again in the last five periods.

0:46:38.880 --> 0:46:40.720
<v Speaker 2>Okay when this episode airs.

0:46:40.760 --> 0:46:44.680
<v Speaker 3>I'm trying to be timely here, but I've been triggered

0:46:44.719 --> 0:46:46.879
<v Speaker 3>in the thought of men touching me that's made me cry,

0:46:47.080 --> 0:46:49.040
<v Speaker 3>like even at the sex club, a place where I

0:46:49.160 --> 0:46:53.560
<v Speaker 3>felt comfortable, and then even in a conversation right, and

0:46:53.760 --> 0:46:56.800
<v Speaker 3>a part of me leaving that relationship. I don't trust

0:46:56.800 --> 0:46:58.920
<v Speaker 3>myself as much as I don't trust men. And there

0:46:59.000 --> 0:47:03.040
<v Speaker 3>was another guy, Yes, there was another guy recently talking

0:47:03.040 --> 0:47:05.120
<v Speaker 3>to me, and he was so nice and so kind,

0:47:05.600 --> 0:47:07.440
<v Speaker 3>and I immediately went to my friends and I was like,

0:47:07.520 --> 0:47:09.360
<v Speaker 3>I feel like I'm being love bombed. I feel like

0:47:09.440 --> 0:47:12.399
<v Speaker 3>he's this isn't real, I like, And so it kind

0:47:12.440 --> 0:47:15.120
<v Speaker 3>of even is keeping me from allowing maybe someone who's

0:47:15.160 --> 0:47:17.200
<v Speaker 3>genuinely nice and maybe this is just who they are,

0:47:17.440 --> 0:47:20.359
<v Speaker 3>to even show up in that way because I'm well,

0:47:20.920 --> 0:47:24.560
<v Speaker 3>but also I'm just attaching nice gestures to this man

0:47:24.680 --> 0:47:25.400
<v Speaker 3>is loved bombing me.

0:47:26.000 --> 0:47:27.640
<v Speaker 2>This man is probably a narcissist.

0:47:28.120 --> 0:47:29.879
<v Speaker 3>I don't want to feel taken advantage of, and I've

0:47:29.920 --> 0:47:30.799
<v Speaker 3>completely pushed away.

0:47:31.200 --> 0:47:34.880
<v Speaker 4>I felt the same way because I was I was

0:47:35.320 --> 0:47:40.799
<v Speaker 4>with that person, that demon, that devil, who was a narcissist.

0:47:41.000 --> 0:47:43.359
<v Speaker 4>And then the next person that I got involved with

0:47:43.600 --> 0:47:45.680
<v Speaker 4>was also a narcissist.

0:47:45.239 --> 0:47:47.879
<v Speaker 2>There's a lot I was not so used to. I

0:47:47.920 --> 0:47:51.319
<v Speaker 2>was conditioned to be loved by narcissists for a very

0:47:51.360 --> 0:47:55.000
<v Speaker 2>long time. How do you, how are you? What does

0:47:55.080 --> 0:47:55.399
<v Speaker 2>that mean?

0:47:55.840 --> 0:47:55.960
<v Speaker 3>My?

0:47:57.800 --> 0:47:59.719
<v Speaker 4>Some of the most important people that were in my

0:47:59.800 --> 0:48:03.640
<v Speaker 4>life for a really long time, we're narcissist. And because

0:48:03.680 --> 0:48:07.160
<v Speaker 4>when you're a really genuine person and you're you allow

0:48:07.160 --> 0:48:09.319
<v Speaker 4>yourself to be so vulnerable, they take advantage of that.

0:48:09.920 --> 0:48:11.680
<v Speaker 2>They love that, they feed off they do.

0:48:12.360 --> 0:48:18.640
<v Speaker 4>So I was conditioned to give into narcissistic people and

0:48:18.640 --> 0:48:21.799
<v Speaker 4>and deal with their shit, and so that felt like

0:48:21.840 --> 0:48:23.840
<v Speaker 4>home to me. It felt comfortable. That's what I was

0:48:23.920 --> 0:48:30.799
<v Speaker 4>used to. Silencing yourself, yes, and by someone, but they're

0:48:30.840 --> 0:48:34.000
<v Speaker 4>really just controlling and like almost want to cut all

0:48:34.000 --> 0:48:36.439
<v Speaker 4>the other even narcissistic people out of your life because

0:48:36.440 --> 0:48:38.520
<v Speaker 4>that way they have more control over you. So I

0:48:38.560 --> 0:48:41.600
<v Speaker 4>was with that person and then the next situation, I

0:48:41.640 --> 0:48:47.480
<v Speaker 4>was in narcissist, but that lasted way shorter, way way shorter.

0:48:47.239 --> 0:48:49.000
<v Speaker 2>Because you're able to pick up on the red flag.

0:48:49.080 --> 0:48:51.440
<v Speaker 4>Yeah, I was just like making myself enough and I

0:48:51.520 --> 0:48:53.520
<v Speaker 4>know that I'm good on my own and this.

0:48:53.400 --> 0:48:55.719
<v Speaker 2>Ship is fucking crazy. I'm done with that.

0:48:56.040 --> 0:48:58.520
<v Speaker 4>And the same crazy shit that the guy that the

0:48:58.600 --> 0:49:03.600
<v Speaker 4>guy did before this person, it was the same thing

0:49:03.680 --> 0:49:06.440
<v Speaker 4>that she was doing. So I was just like, this

0:49:06.080 --> 0:49:08.520
<v Speaker 4>is this is crazy. I see the signs now when

0:49:08.560 --> 0:49:10.440
<v Speaker 4>the person real quick because you.

0:49:10.480 --> 0:49:13.399
<v Speaker 3>Just said something, when we speak of narcissists, it could

0:49:13.440 --> 0:49:16.440
<v Speaker 3>apply to both men. And yes, it's not just I

0:49:16.480 --> 0:49:19.879
<v Speaker 3>know we talk about narcissistic men so much like this

0:49:20.000 --> 0:49:21.640
<v Speaker 3>isn't We're not male bashing.

0:49:21.960 --> 0:49:23.719
<v Speaker 2>We're not just putting this title on men.

0:49:24.400 --> 0:49:28.640
<v Speaker 3>It could be with anyone who holds manipulative relationships with

0:49:28.760 --> 0:49:34.240
<v Speaker 3>other people. And yeah, there's type it in the hashtag

0:49:34.320 --> 0:49:35.960
<v Speaker 3>is crazy. I've been down the rabbit hole for the

0:49:36.040 --> 0:49:36.680
<v Speaker 3>last four months.

0:49:36.719 --> 0:49:38.640
<v Speaker 2>The hashtag is crazy. Oh girl.

0:49:39.600 --> 0:49:43.399
<v Speaker 3>The algorithm of once you start seeing narcissistic shit, you

0:49:43.440 --> 0:49:47.160
<v Speaker 3>start seeing the memes triggering what was it? It's people

0:49:47.200 --> 0:49:50.640
<v Speaker 3>that literally show up. And I found out even all

0:49:50.640 --> 0:49:53.160
<v Speaker 3>the breakups was for a reason. The pulling away every

0:49:53.200 --> 0:49:55.040
<v Speaker 3>time he broke up with me because I questioned him

0:49:55.320 --> 0:49:57.440
<v Speaker 3>is what led to me silencing myself at the end,

0:49:58.120 --> 0:50:01.400
<v Speaker 3>like it's why I knew you lying, And instead of

0:50:01.480 --> 0:50:04.680
<v Speaker 3>ruining the high of our roller coaster, because I didn't

0:50:04.680 --> 0:50:07.240
<v Speaker 3>want to keep going like this, I would just ignore

0:50:07.320 --> 0:50:09.120
<v Speaker 3>when I knew he was lying, or when he was

0:50:09.160 --> 0:50:11.400
<v Speaker 3>doing something he wasn't supposed to do. For when I

0:50:11.440 --> 0:50:13.720
<v Speaker 3>knew there was no way he was at another fucking funeral,

0:50:13.800 --> 0:50:16.160
<v Speaker 3>because you've been to about three in the last motherfucking

0:50:16.200 --> 0:50:19.359
<v Speaker 3>three months. So nobody this nigga was lying by going

0:50:19.400 --> 0:50:21.680
<v Speaker 3>to funerals should have known because he lied about going

0:50:21.680 --> 0:50:23.879
<v Speaker 3>to Panama for suits and he didn't even have a job,

0:50:23.920 --> 0:50:24.840
<v Speaker 3>so I don't know why he had to go to

0:50:24.840 --> 0:50:26.440
<v Speaker 3>Panama for suits. I found out later he was in

0:50:26.440 --> 0:50:28.640
<v Speaker 3>Panama with a bitch. I don't you know what.

0:50:28.719 --> 0:50:30.920
<v Speaker 2>I'm just over it. I'm not gonna lie the next

0:50:30.960 --> 0:50:31.560
<v Speaker 2>thing I date.

0:50:31.760 --> 0:50:34.680
<v Speaker 3>He got three funerals caps, otherwise I'm gonna feel like.

0:50:34.800 --> 0:50:37.319
<v Speaker 2>He's so negative everyone around him is dying. I don't

0:50:37.360 --> 0:50:37.879
<v Speaker 2>want to be in.

0:50:37.840 --> 0:50:41.000
<v Speaker 3>His life because something ain't right. I don't want to

0:50:41.000 --> 0:50:43.800
<v Speaker 3>be around nobody else. You got three funerals, Max, Nigga,

0:50:43.800 --> 0:50:45.759
<v Speaker 3>if you come and date me and everybody around you

0:50:45.760 --> 0:50:48.160
<v Speaker 3>starts dropping like flies, I gotta go because I might.

0:50:48.040 --> 0:50:51.160
<v Speaker 2>Be nixt by. Wish you well, hope your morning peace.

0:50:51.400 --> 0:50:53.719
<v Speaker 2>That Nigga had a funeral every motherfucking month, and I

0:50:53.719 --> 0:50:56.200
<v Speaker 2>should have known some man, right, oh my.

0:50:56.400 --> 0:50:58.279
<v Speaker 1>And at this point, maybe this is why you had

0:50:58.280 --> 0:51:00.160
<v Speaker 1>this outlook about people taking time off.

0:51:00.280 --> 0:51:03.640
<v Speaker 3>But maybe maybe my issue with bereathming is that Nigga

0:51:03.719 --> 0:51:08.080
<v Speaker 3>might need to see the obituary something, oh my, funeral

0:51:08.080 --> 0:51:08.440
<v Speaker 3>every month.

0:51:08.440 --> 0:51:10.280
<v Speaker 2>And now I just feel like he was just using

0:51:10.280 --> 0:51:11.560
<v Speaker 2>it because that's.

0:51:11.400 --> 0:51:15.480
<v Speaker 3>The one thing you can't tell, y'all right.

0:51:15.960 --> 0:51:19.040
<v Speaker 1>And it was like a day or two and so

0:51:21.040 --> 0:51:22.239
<v Speaker 1>when he talked to he was like, I'm sorry, I

0:51:22.280 --> 0:51:24.960
<v Speaker 1>was doing that for my parents. My homeboy was like, listen,

0:51:25.080 --> 0:51:27.279
<v Speaker 1>I'm gonna get his tip. He's like, I'm using the

0:51:27.280 --> 0:51:29.160
<v Speaker 1>ship on hose And I still feel like there may

0:51:29.160 --> 0:51:32.200
<v Speaker 1>be a chance that we could fuck, But I'm telling

0:51:32.200 --> 0:51:35.719
<v Speaker 1>you anyway, he said, anytime I know, I'm slipping.

0:51:35.440 --> 0:51:37.400
<v Speaker 2>Up of the bitch say you lost somebody.

0:51:37.480 --> 0:51:41.120
<v Speaker 1>No, it's not that he said, I have to almost

0:51:41.239 --> 0:51:44.880
<v Speaker 1>create some family ship because the bitch will be crazy

0:51:45.160 --> 0:51:45.759
<v Speaker 1>if she telling me.

0:51:45.760 --> 0:51:48.040
<v Speaker 2>I wouldn't with my mother's sucking m But that's what

0:51:48.040 --> 0:51:50.759
<v Speaker 2>I'm saying. A funeral is one thing you can't be like, no,

0:51:50.840 --> 0:51:53.440
<v Speaker 2>were you really you can't.

0:51:54.040 --> 0:51:55.960
<v Speaker 3>You can't really be like let me see the body.

0:51:56.320 --> 0:51:59.839
<v Speaker 3>You can't do no shit like you know what I mean?

0:52:00.400 --> 0:52:02.719
<v Speaker 2>And then like this is crazy.

0:52:03.360 --> 0:52:05.360
<v Speaker 1>See if he got a suit on basetime them that

0:52:05.400 --> 0:52:06.799
<v Speaker 1>they'd be like babyish wanted the same.

0:52:07.000 --> 0:52:09.279
<v Speaker 3>No, because right now you could go anywhere. Niggas could

0:52:09.320 --> 0:52:10.960
<v Speaker 3>have on black teats depending on what type.

0:52:10.800 --> 0:52:13.759
<v Speaker 2>Of funeral it is. What type of funeral could it be?

0:52:13.840 --> 0:52:16.040
<v Speaker 3>Man, have you guys seen the funerals where they put

0:52:16.080 --> 0:52:18.759
<v Speaker 3>the nigga and bomb them, dress them up like they

0:52:18.760 --> 0:52:22.000
<v Speaker 3>had a club, and now the whole funeral got like

0:52:22.080 --> 0:52:25.080
<v Speaker 3>they got hit using going around the funeral that you

0:52:25.120 --> 0:52:26.520
<v Speaker 3>ain't seeing no funerals like that.

0:52:26.840 --> 0:52:29.280
<v Speaker 2>It'd be a club, it'd be a celebration of life.

0:52:29.680 --> 0:52:32.640
<v Speaker 4>Okay, wait wait wait, I want to just say some

0:52:32.680 --> 0:52:36.520
<v Speaker 4>name with quick yes the thing because I was really

0:52:36.560 --> 0:52:41.839
<v Speaker 4>scared that when I started this situation that it was

0:52:42.239 --> 0:52:45.040
<v Speaker 4>love bombing because he was so so nice to me

0:52:45.239 --> 0:52:48.480
<v Speaker 4>and like so giving, so caring, so thoughtful, and I

0:52:48.520 --> 0:52:51.600
<v Speaker 4>was like love love and I was just honest with

0:52:51.680 --> 0:52:54.080
<v Speaker 4>him and was like, this is the past situations that

0:52:54.120 --> 0:52:57.000
<v Speaker 4>I've been in. This is what I'm afraid of. And

0:52:57.040 --> 0:52:58.680
<v Speaker 4>he was like, oh so you and he said it

0:52:58.680 --> 0:53:01.960
<v Speaker 4>before me. He was like, oh so you, like are

0:53:02.000 --> 0:53:04.680
<v Speaker 4>worried that this is left on me? And even him

0:53:04.719 --> 0:53:09.160
<v Speaker 4>saying that was like, Okay, you're aware enough, Like you're

0:53:09.160 --> 0:53:12.919
<v Speaker 4>aware enough of the situation, and you even saying that

0:53:13.280 --> 0:53:17.640
<v Speaker 4>is giving me some sort of positive feeling affirmation that.

0:53:18.160 --> 0:53:20.600
<v Speaker 2>Some sort of like because he's also validating my.

0:53:20.560 --> 0:53:24.719
<v Speaker 4>Experiences before that he's my age, twenty six, and I've

0:53:24.880 --> 0:53:26.879
<v Speaker 4>never been with somebody my age. But I'm also never

0:53:27.320 --> 0:53:32.280
<v Speaker 4>another nigga more mature than him ever ever, And also

0:53:32.960 --> 0:53:34.080
<v Speaker 4>that works in two ways.

0:53:34.160 --> 0:53:37.279
<v Speaker 2>But also what I internet.

0:53:37.200 --> 0:53:39.120
<v Speaker 4>Is that he also has so much time to grow too,

0:53:40.200 --> 0:53:43.680
<v Speaker 4>because he's twenty six, you too, to be honest.

0:53:43.840 --> 0:53:44.480
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, me too.

0:53:44.640 --> 0:53:47.640
<v Speaker 1>I love conversations where I told a man I wasn't

0:53:47.680 --> 0:53:51.040
<v Speaker 1>willing to sit around for his growth face if I

0:53:51.120 --> 0:53:53.760
<v Speaker 1>met him at twenty six, I would, and I think

0:53:55.239 --> 0:54:00.319
<v Speaker 1>I am not really dating men that are my they're

0:54:00.320 --> 0:54:01.200
<v Speaker 1>always a little bit older.

0:54:01.239 --> 0:54:04.040
<v Speaker 2>So maybe let's just say thirty six plus. I don't

0:54:04.080 --> 0:54:06.040
<v Speaker 2>know if I'm waiting to see you grow at thirty six.

0:54:06.160 --> 0:54:08.560
<v Speaker 3>I ain't gonna hold you, bitch, I was still entertain

0:54:08.600 --> 0:54:10.440
<v Speaker 3>I told you it's twenty two to fifty two for me.

0:54:10.520 --> 0:54:12.719
<v Speaker 2>Right now, I will go down. It's one to.

0:54:12.719 --> 0:54:15.200
<v Speaker 3>Two the fifty two talk to me. I think they

0:54:15.280 --> 0:54:17.840
<v Speaker 3>all about the same, that's they all. But they're literally

0:54:17.840 --> 0:54:20.279
<v Speaker 3>the same from twenty two to fifty two. The only

0:54:20.280 --> 0:54:22.360
<v Speaker 3>difference is they money. So that's why you gotta have.

0:54:22.480 --> 0:54:25.040
<v Speaker 3>You gotta scrab a ball into a hoop of some differences.

0:54:25.040 --> 0:54:27.120
<v Speaker 3>I'd be a millionaire twenty two for me to entertain you.

0:54:27.239 --> 0:54:28.160
<v Speaker 3>Now face them, bitch.

0:54:32.000 --> 0:54:33.879
<v Speaker 1>I want to talk about something that the men may

0:54:33.920 --> 0:54:36.560
<v Speaker 1>appreciate today.

0:54:36.760 --> 0:54:40.120
<v Speaker 2>I want to talk about competing for a man and

0:54:40.160 --> 0:54:40.919
<v Speaker 2>seducing men.

0:54:41.960 --> 0:54:45.319
<v Speaker 1>I had a conversation recently where I was joking about

0:54:45.320 --> 0:54:48.640
<v Speaker 1>the favorite thing with my homegirl and she was like,

0:54:49.400 --> 0:54:51.000
<v Speaker 1>how many people do you think so and so it's

0:54:51.080 --> 0:54:52.719
<v Speaker 1>dating like whatever, And she's like, cause you don't need

0:54:52.719 --> 0:54:55.680
<v Speaker 1>to be competing with no bitch, and I'm like, I

0:54:55.680 --> 0:54:57.719
<v Speaker 1>don't be rud with you, bro, Like, I don't think

0:54:57.800 --> 0:55:01.000
<v Speaker 1>that anyone dope that I meet doesn't have someone else

0:55:01.040 --> 0:55:02.879
<v Speaker 1>that wants them, especially men.

0:55:03.480 --> 0:55:05.600
<v Speaker 2>Women find there's more dope.

0:55:05.400 --> 0:55:07.320
<v Speaker 1>Women out here than there are men, Like, lets to

0:55:07.400 --> 0:55:10.520
<v Speaker 1>be honest, So I think that it's really opposite. Like

0:55:10.520 --> 0:55:12.239
<v Speaker 1>one of my homeboys right now is like, bro, like,

0:55:12.719 --> 0:55:14.480
<v Speaker 1>these girls will act like they're about to cut me

0:55:14.520 --> 0:55:16.279
<v Speaker 1>off because they want more, and then two days later

0:55:16.360 --> 0:55:19.600
<v Speaker 1>they're like bruh to anyone listening. I almost wonted if

0:55:19.640 --> 0:55:21.440
<v Speaker 1>I did this too. He's like, this bitch was straight

0:55:21.480 --> 0:55:22.520
<v Speaker 1>up in my house, like do you want me to

0:55:22.560 --> 0:55:25.279
<v Speaker 1>leave now? Like I'm actually looking for something more whatever whatever.

0:55:25.280 --> 0:55:26.560
<v Speaker 1>And he's like, no, you don't have to leave, like

0:55:26.560 --> 0:55:28.319
<v Speaker 1>just because I want to casually date, like you know,

0:55:28.360 --> 0:55:30.959
<v Speaker 1>you can relax. I'm not some shitty niggle like too,

0:55:31.400 --> 0:55:33.000
<v Speaker 1>She's like, I don't want to leave myself on and

0:55:33.040 --> 0:55:36.600
<v Speaker 1>whatever he said. Forty eight hours later, the girl's like, Okay,

0:55:36.640 --> 0:55:38.680
<v Speaker 1>I think I can maybe do this. So a lot

0:55:38.760 --> 0:55:40.520
<v Speaker 1>of women nowadays are kind of just molding to what

0:55:40.600 --> 0:55:41.480
<v Speaker 1>men want right.

0:55:41.480 --> 0:55:44.200
<v Speaker 2>All the time. So yes, there's ALU.

0:55:44.360 --> 0:55:47.520
<v Speaker 1>If you meet someone fine, even if they broke you mean,

0:55:47.560 --> 0:55:51.480
<v Speaker 1>someone rich, even if they're ugly, someone else is probably

0:55:51.560 --> 0:55:56.200
<v Speaker 1>vying after that, right, So one, at some point, are

0:55:56.239 --> 0:55:58.360
<v Speaker 1>we cool with being a little bit competitive? And I

0:55:58.400 --> 0:56:01.000
<v Speaker 1>want to know if either of you won't really you, Kima,

0:56:01.440 --> 0:56:03.600
<v Speaker 1>have you had a situation where you felt like you

0:56:03.680 --> 0:56:06.759
<v Speaker 1>were competing with another woman and did you try at all?

0:56:06.880 --> 0:56:14.440
<v Speaker 2>Like, were you okay with it? No? How do you know?

0:56:15.200 --> 0:56:18.640
<v Speaker 4>Because I'm I'm just I feel like the people that

0:56:18.680 --> 0:56:21.960
<v Speaker 4>I've been with in the past, whether it's just fucking

0:56:22.040 --> 0:56:25.200
<v Speaker 4>or it's like relationships, I'm always number one no matter what,

0:56:25.400 --> 0:56:29.839
<v Speaker 4>and like they will cut everything off. They have cut

0:56:29.880 --> 0:56:31.759
<v Speaker 4>everything off and will for me.

0:56:32.160 --> 0:56:34.200
<v Speaker 2>So like, but I don't even think about saying that

0:56:34.840 --> 0:56:36.320
<v Speaker 2>unless yeah.

0:56:36.160 --> 0:56:38.600
<v Speaker 4>But like most of the time we ended up in relationships, okay,

0:56:38.640 --> 0:56:40.400
<v Speaker 4>but even if we didn't, that's what it was.

0:56:40.960 --> 0:56:41.360
<v Speaker 2>So like.

0:56:42.200 --> 0:56:44.680
<v Speaker 4>Also, I don't really like fuck people that aren't obsessed

0:56:44.680 --> 0:56:47.239
<v Speaker 4>with me either, so like that's probably what it is too.

0:56:47.440 --> 0:56:49.440
<v Speaker 4>It's like you get a shot to be in my

0:56:49.520 --> 0:56:51.600
<v Speaker 4>pussy if you're obsessed with me, and I know you're obsessed.

0:56:51.680 --> 0:56:54.279
<v Speaker 2>What is obsessed with you? Look like it's bad. It's bad.

0:56:54.400 --> 0:56:54.799
<v Speaker 2>It's bad.

0:56:54.800 --> 0:56:57.040
<v Speaker 3>That's why you ended up with two nurses exactly. Like

0:56:57.120 --> 0:57:00.120
<v Speaker 3>it's bad, that's not it's not it's not a good thing.

0:57:00.520 --> 0:57:02.960
<v Speaker 3>But like if someone if someone.

0:57:02.640 --> 0:57:04.920
<v Speaker 4>Is obsessed with themselves and obsessed with me and treats

0:57:04.920 --> 0:57:09.080
<v Speaker 4>me amazing, then I love that. But like people have

0:57:09.200 --> 0:57:11.239
<v Speaker 4>like not had a life for themselves and kind of

0:57:11.280 --> 0:57:14.760
<v Speaker 4>took my life as their own. Say, I been obsessed

0:57:14.800 --> 0:57:17.440
<v Speaker 4>with me, and like, I think I liked that before

0:57:17.720 --> 0:57:21.240
<v Speaker 4>because I liked being sought after and like I can't

0:57:21.280 --> 0:57:23.480
<v Speaker 4>let go of you because they're so amazing. But then

0:57:23.480 --> 0:57:25.360
<v Speaker 4>that also, like when I broke up with them, that

0:57:25.880 --> 0:57:27.800
<v Speaker 4>you were like, I did not. It wasn't in my

0:57:27.800 --> 0:57:29.120
<v Speaker 4>favor at that point.

0:57:29.560 --> 0:57:32.320
<v Speaker 1>So when it comes to competing, I guess I would

0:57:32.320 --> 0:57:36.640
<v Speaker 1>ask you, like, how do you think, if at all,

0:57:37.280 --> 0:57:38.960
<v Speaker 1>you would be willing if someone was like, hey, there's

0:57:38.960 --> 0:57:40.640
<v Speaker 1>like other women I'm dating, but I'm really into you,

0:57:40.680 --> 0:57:41.760
<v Speaker 1>and you wanted to pursue them.

0:57:42.080 --> 0:57:44.280
<v Speaker 3>We've talked about competitive dating all the time. I think

0:57:44.360 --> 0:57:47.040
<v Speaker 3>that that's natural, that's normal. What do you think you'd

0:57:47.080 --> 0:57:49.520
<v Speaker 3>be bitch hunger games made the best bitch win.

0:57:49.840 --> 0:57:51.360
<v Speaker 1>What do you think are some things you'd be willing

0:57:51.400 --> 0:57:53.000
<v Speaker 1>to do to show up in a way.

0:57:53.200 --> 0:57:54.000
<v Speaker 2>I'm showing up as me.

0:57:54.480 --> 0:57:57.480
<v Speaker 3>I work, if I if I have, you gonna know

0:57:57.560 --> 0:58:00.360
<v Speaker 3>that I like picklebacks and caviar. You're gonna know that

0:58:00.440 --> 0:58:02.760
<v Speaker 3>I like to go out and do live music. You're

0:58:02.760 --> 0:58:04.480
<v Speaker 3>gonna know that I like die bars. You're gonna know

0:58:04.520 --> 0:58:04.800
<v Speaker 3>that I.

0:58:04.880 --> 0:58:05.800
<v Speaker 2>Like not you.

0:58:05.800 --> 0:58:07.360
<v Speaker 3>No, but that's what I'm saying. I'm not showing up

0:58:07.400 --> 0:58:08.880
<v Speaker 3>in any other way. These are the things I like

0:58:08.920 --> 0:58:12.480
<v Speaker 3>to do. You date another women, cool, but this is

0:58:12.560 --> 0:58:14.800
<v Speaker 3>me so I'm and hopefully you like me more than

0:58:14.800 --> 0:58:15.400
<v Speaker 3>the other women.

0:58:15.480 --> 0:58:17.560
<v Speaker 2>But I have a little I'm not dating here.

0:58:17.800 --> 0:58:20.960
<v Speaker 1>I think that what I've been seeing recently from just

0:58:21.000 --> 0:58:23.040
<v Speaker 1>discussing with other women and just like kind of the

0:58:23.080 --> 0:58:26.919
<v Speaker 1>trend of even having male friends. I feel like every

0:58:26.960 --> 0:58:29.800
<v Speaker 1>bad bitch expects that, like dudes are lucky to fuck her,

0:58:30.440 --> 0:58:32.880
<v Speaker 1>and what we're not realizing is that And this is

0:58:32.920 --> 0:58:35.360
<v Speaker 1>no shade to what either you were saying, Like this

0:58:35.440 --> 0:58:37.640
<v Speaker 1>is us all knowing we have a standard. But I

0:58:37.640 --> 0:58:40.600
<v Speaker 1>think the issue that sometimes we're seeing on the other

0:58:40.720 --> 0:58:43.720
<v Speaker 1>end is like there are men that have the same

0:58:43.760 --> 0:58:45.560
<v Speaker 1>shit going on and they're like, bro, I'm a good dude,

0:58:45.600 --> 0:58:47.800
<v Speaker 1>but like now I have to sit here and do

0:58:47.840 --> 0:58:50.360
<v Speaker 1>all this shit because I have to try to win you, Like,

0:58:50.760 --> 0:58:52.160
<v Speaker 1>what are women doing at all for men?

0:58:52.160 --> 0:58:52.720
<v Speaker 2>If anything?

0:58:52.800 --> 0:58:54.360
<v Speaker 1>And if you feel like you have to do nothing

0:58:54.360 --> 0:58:57.040
<v Speaker 1>for men, cool, But I do think there should be

0:58:57.080 --> 0:59:01.240
<v Speaker 1>some dialogue, especially as women, knowing that we have women listening,

0:59:01.320 --> 0:59:06.160
<v Speaker 1>where every girl can't think that just because they're pretty

0:59:06.200 --> 0:59:07.560
<v Speaker 1>with a great job, that's enough.

0:59:07.800 --> 0:59:09.840
<v Speaker 2>Oh I never said that. No, I'm not saying that

0:59:09.960 --> 0:59:11.320
<v Speaker 2>you are saying that's right.

0:59:11.400 --> 0:59:13.240
<v Speaker 1>But I do think a lot of girls are thinking,

0:59:13.680 --> 0:59:16.560
<v Speaker 1>I have a degree, I've got an amazing job, I've

0:59:16.600 --> 0:59:20.680
<v Speaker 1>got good benefits, i'm wifey material, I barely go out.

0:59:21.000 --> 0:59:22.080
<v Speaker 2>He should want to be with me.

0:59:22.600 --> 0:59:25.480
<v Speaker 1>And the problem with that is like that doesn't really

0:59:25.520 --> 0:59:28.040
<v Speaker 1>show what you're doing for that person, Like how are

0:59:28.040 --> 0:59:29.960
<v Speaker 1>you showing up as a good partner? Are women even

0:59:30.080 --> 0:59:32.880
<v Speaker 1>talking and doing these things? Are they just showing anything

0:59:32.920 --> 0:59:33.720
<v Speaker 1>that separates them?

0:59:33.760 --> 0:59:35.320
<v Speaker 2>So that's the thing. I ain't showing up as a

0:59:35.320 --> 0:59:36.400
<v Speaker 2>partner before I'm a partner.

0:59:36.760 --> 0:59:39.000
<v Speaker 3>So I think if a man is honest enough to

0:59:39.120 --> 0:59:43.000
<v Speaker 3>also let you know I'm entertaining of the bitches, chances

0:59:43.040 --> 0:59:46.320
<v Speaker 3>are you're probably not in the top of the running.

0:59:46.800 --> 0:59:48.640
<v Speaker 3>A man is honest with people that he wants to

0:59:48.680 --> 0:59:50.840
<v Speaker 3>be casual with. I think otherwise, men lie.

0:59:50.840 --> 0:59:51.480
<v Speaker 2>We've talked about that.

0:59:51.520 --> 0:59:53.520
<v Speaker 3>I do think a man will lie and be like, no,

0:59:53.640 --> 0:59:56.600
<v Speaker 3>I'm only entertaining you, or they don't want you to

0:59:56.600 --> 0:59:58.520
<v Speaker 3>know that you're having to compete with other women. They're

0:59:58.520 --> 1:00:00.400
<v Speaker 3>going to show up and see as much as they can.

1:00:00.840 --> 1:00:03.280
<v Speaker 3>Like to me that I think that's the case. I know,

1:00:03.400 --> 1:00:06.400
<v Speaker 3>like you've been open with your partners recently, but I

1:00:06.440 --> 1:00:10.080
<v Speaker 3>think that if you have your eye closer on one

1:00:10.080 --> 1:00:11.720
<v Speaker 3>price to where you know you'll cut all the mother

1:00:11.760 --> 1:00:14.320
<v Speaker 3>bitches off. You're not sitting here and letting them know

1:00:14.560 --> 1:00:16.760
<v Speaker 3>that you got all these mediocre bitches that you might

1:00:16.840 --> 1:00:17.920
<v Speaker 3>not even be letting.

1:00:17.760 --> 1:00:19.880
<v Speaker 1>Up into the game that are my Like, I can

1:00:19.920 --> 1:00:22.720
<v Speaker 1>think of two three men I know right now that

1:00:22.800 --> 1:00:25.400
<v Speaker 1>have told me like, yo, I'm feeling this girl so much,

1:00:25.440 --> 1:00:27.880
<v Speaker 1>but I can't let her know because like, I don't

1:00:27.920 --> 1:00:28.960
<v Speaker 1>know if I'm ready in this moment.

1:00:29.000 --> 1:00:31.680
<v Speaker 2>But like, bro, I'm telling you, I don't think that's true.

1:00:31.680 --> 1:00:33.680
<v Speaker 2>I mean, well, there's not one stop shop for anything.

1:00:33.880 --> 1:00:37.280
<v Speaker 1>Let's be in an era where men are definitely being

1:00:37.280 --> 1:00:39.760
<v Speaker 1>more transparent, because that is the trend of how relationships

1:00:39.880 --> 1:00:40.520
<v Speaker 1>be because they.

1:00:40.400 --> 1:00:41.760
<v Speaker 3>Want to let you know they don't want to fuck

1:00:41.800 --> 1:00:43.160
<v Speaker 3>you and be with you and then also be able

1:00:43.200 --> 1:00:45.080
<v Speaker 3>to fuck other women. I think the trend of us

1:00:45.120 --> 1:00:49.320
<v Speaker 3>even having conversations about poly open relationships, non ethical non

1:00:49.360 --> 1:00:51.920
<v Speaker 3>monogamy is what's also leading men to be more honest

1:00:51.960 --> 1:00:52.200
<v Speaker 3>as well.

1:00:52.280 --> 1:00:54.479
<v Speaker 1>You're saying men will lie to someone they want, they.

1:00:54.400 --> 1:00:56.800
<v Speaker 3>Will, but that's because that's the whole guys if they're

1:00:56.840 --> 1:00:58.920
<v Speaker 3>dating someone they really like and they're like, I only

1:00:59.000 --> 1:01:00.920
<v Speaker 3>believe in monogamy, I don't do three SOMs and I

1:01:00.920 --> 1:01:03.280
<v Speaker 3>don't do this, that's where the lies come in because

1:01:03.280 --> 1:01:04.960
<v Speaker 3>they really like these women and they're not willing to

1:01:05.040 --> 1:01:08.680
<v Speaker 3>lead those women because this woman wants a faithful monogamous relationship.

1:01:08.960 --> 1:01:11.560
<v Speaker 3>So I think when you let someone know that you're

1:01:12.040 --> 1:01:14.240
<v Speaker 3>talking to other women, that's where you also kind of

1:01:14.280 --> 1:01:15.040
<v Speaker 3>test the temperature.

1:01:16.080 --> 1:01:19.040
<v Speaker 2>Are you is that okay with you? Are you ethically

1:01:19.040 --> 1:01:21.080
<v Speaker 2>non monogamous? Are you open? Are you cool with an

1:01:21.080 --> 1:01:21.920
<v Speaker 2>open relationship?

1:01:22.160 --> 1:01:24.919
<v Speaker 3>A lot of men are coming in using the word polly,

1:01:25.040 --> 1:01:26.880
<v Speaker 3>not knowing what the fucking means or the boundaries and

1:01:27.080 --> 1:01:29.160
<v Speaker 3>that they still have to be honest with everybody, but

1:01:29.200 --> 1:01:31.840
<v Speaker 3>also testing the temperature because there's a lot more women

1:01:31.880 --> 1:01:33.040
<v Speaker 3>that are okay with that.

1:01:33.680 --> 1:01:36.880
<v Speaker 1>I think that you can prioritize someone you're dating and

1:01:36.960 --> 1:01:38.680
<v Speaker 1>be super interested in them, and at the same time

1:01:38.760 --> 1:01:40.280
<v Speaker 1>be like, hey, I am dating other people, but like

1:01:40.320 --> 1:01:42.840
<v Speaker 1>I want to keep doing this, Like I think that's okay.

1:01:42.840 --> 1:01:45.640
<v Speaker 1>I don't necessarily know if you're gonna lie. I don't

1:01:45.680 --> 1:01:47.640
<v Speaker 1>want any women listening to things just because a man

1:01:47.720 --> 1:01:50.640
<v Speaker 1>told you that that he doesn't have interest in you.

1:01:50.720 --> 1:01:53.320
<v Speaker 1>I've ended up with three boyfriends that were dating other

1:01:53.360 --> 1:01:54.440
<v Speaker 1>people at the time, so.

1:01:54.560 --> 1:01:55.000
<v Speaker 2>I don't know.

1:01:55.080 --> 1:01:59.560
<v Speaker 3>Again, I don't say anything as a one size fits all.

1:01:59.640 --> 1:02:03.400
<v Speaker 3>I think your experience, my experience, Keana's experience all difference

1:02:03.440 --> 1:02:05.480
<v Speaker 3>from each other. We're not sitting here and saying there's

1:02:05.520 --> 1:02:07.360
<v Speaker 3>a right way or wrong way to do anything. But

1:02:07.400 --> 1:02:09.240
<v Speaker 3>if we're gonna have a conversation and share all of

1:02:09.280 --> 1:02:12.120
<v Speaker 3>these three different experiences, I think we should all be

1:02:12.160 --> 1:02:13.840
<v Speaker 3>able to share what our thought process is on it.

1:02:13.880 --> 1:02:17.160
<v Speaker 3>And I think for me personally, from the conversations I

1:02:17.160 --> 1:02:19.400
<v Speaker 3>have with my male friends and the relationships I've been in,

1:02:19.680 --> 1:02:22.280
<v Speaker 3>that's been the truth for me.

1:02:22.360 --> 1:02:23.720
<v Speaker 2>And I'm also around a lot more.

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<v Speaker 3>Lifestyle people than you are, so to me, that's the

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<v Speaker 3>guise of what I've been told.

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<v Speaker 1>What do you think, Keana, when you're dating and you know,

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<v Speaker 1>men are seeming like someone that you'd want to end

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<v Speaker 1>up with or maybe hubby boy for material whatever that

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<v Speaker 1>might look like. What are ways that you show up

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<v Speaker 1>as a good partner that you feel like make you

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<v Speaker 1>stand out?

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<v Speaker 4>Honestly, I think it's just like my vulnerability and how

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<v Speaker 4>genuine I am because I and the safe space that

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<v Speaker 4>I provide for that person too, because honestly, there's not

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<v Speaker 4>a lot of people that can make everybody feel safe,

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<v Speaker 4>no matter what they say and what has happened to

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<v Speaker 4>them and what they do. I'm very accepting and loving

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<v Speaker 4>most people and most importantly understanding, so as long as

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<v Speaker 4>you're communicating with me. A lot of people can't take

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<v Speaker 4>communication without getting defensive, you know, or letting ego play

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<v Speaker 4>into it. And I am not that person. Like I

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<v Speaker 4>will literally sit there and listen to your whole life

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<v Speaker 4>story and ask you questions and be like, oh wow, okay,

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<v Speaker 4>and that's.

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<v Speaker 2>Your depending on that, how does it make you feel?

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<v Speaker 4>Because I'm just so inquisitive, like I want to know everything,

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<v Speaker 4>so like I will ask those questions, like about threesomes.

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<v Speaker 2>That a lot of people probably don't ask.

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<v Speaker 4>A lot of people are afraid to ask because they

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<v Speaker 4>don't want to hear the wrong answer.

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<v Speaker 2>And that you're going to be like, Okay, you're judging.

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<v Speaker 4>Much exactly exactly, and I'm not judging at all. And

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<v Speaker 4>I think that provides a really safe space for people.

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<v Speaker 4>I think what makes me stand out is just me

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<v Speaker 4>being me and my personality. And I think, unfortunately, the

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<v Speaker 4>other thing that makes me stand out is my lifestyle

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<v Speaker 4>because even though it's kind of unconventional and like the

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<v Speaker 4>hours are weird and everything, like, I do get certain

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<v Speaker 4>benefits and perks that a person would also get if they.

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<v Speaker 2>Were with me. Yeah, you could do. That does play

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<v Speaker 2>into it.

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<v Speaker 4>When I'm dating or even if I'm like talking to

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<v Speaker 4>someone or fucking or whatever, they see that and the

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<v Speaker 4>wrong person will like latch onto that and try to

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<v Speaker 4>get something out of me or cling on to me

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<v Speaker 4>just for that thing. So that's something that I've been

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<v Speaker 4>having to watch out for.

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<v Speaker 2>My homegirl that does pr is experiencing that. Yeah, he's like,

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<v Speaker 2>is he fucking with me? Or is something I just

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<v Speaker 2>have liter shit to do every weekend? Yeah? Exactly? And

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<v Speaker 2>what do you think about you?

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<v Speaker 1>What do you think that men are like the most

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<v Speaker 1>impressed with you by when they're like dating you.

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<v Speaker 2>That I'm smart, don't.

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<v Speaker 3>I don't think people expect it because of the persona

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<v Speaker 3>on the internet in my pods, but just that a

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<v Speaker 3>I'm I'm super caring. I want to make everyone's life

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<v Speaker 3>better around me, and I don't want them to stress

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<v Speaker 3>about anything.

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<v Speaker 2>So if there's anything I can do, I'm going to

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<v Speaker 2>do it.

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<v Speaker 3>But also that we can have conversations about what you

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<v Speaker 3>want to do professionally where you see your future. Like

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<v Speaker 3>I'm all about setting goals and being intentional and being

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<v Speaker 3>able to have those conversations and having ways to help

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<v Speaker 3>and connect resources and whatever I can do to help

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<v Speaker 3>anybody around me, I do. And so I'm just giving.

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<v Speaker 3>I'm very giving and supportive and supportive to.

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<v Speaker 2>Whatever you want to do.

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<v Speaker 3>Now, if you broke and want to be a rapper,

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<v Speaker 3>I don't know about day not at my big one.

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<v Speaker 2>Nobody to pass you.

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<v Speaker 3>But yeah, but I want to get into it because

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<v Speaker 3>before we get out of here, you are touring Grudges,

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<v Speaker 3>which is a phenomenal album. Again, one on my face

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<v Speaker 3>literally promised me as in my top twenty five play

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<v Speaker 3>songs on my Apple so just.

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<v Speaker 2>You know, streaming.

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<v Speaker 3>Hopefully you're going to get those coins because the music industry,

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<v Speaker 3>you know, but you're about to hit your international stops.

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<v Speaker 2>Yes, is this like a big deal? This like have

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<v Speaker 2>you been to some of these points when we're.

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<v Speaker 3>Supposed to do internet four years ago?

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<v Speaker 1>I'm sure you're way bigger now, so it's even more

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<v Speaker 1>I've been though.

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<v Speaker 4>Are going to hit so excited because I have been

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<v Speaker 4>there since my last tour, which was I was doing

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<v Speaker 4>my uh EP and like all the venues were so

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<v Speaker 4>much smaller, and it's kind of.

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<v Speaker 3>Like, by the way, y'all, she slowed down New York

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<v Speaker 3>and had to add another show. So if you if

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<v Speaker 3>you're not even familiar with Keana, make sure you go

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<v Speaker 3>check on all the DSPs, because baby, it's giving.

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<v Speaker 2>You can have to it, you can cry to it.

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<v Speaker 3>You can think of somebody you don't want to think

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<v Speaker 3>about to it. All the musical at least evoke emotion,

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<v Speaker 3>and I love that.

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<v Speaker 2>What is the city the country you're most excited about.

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<v Speaker 3>Oh, I'm least excited about Australia.

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<v Speaker 4>I'm least excited for one of the cities and I'm

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<v Speaker 4>not going to say which city is because my ex

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<v Speaker 4>is from that city.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh okay, it's giving, so I mean personal trauma.

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<v Speaker 4>I'm excited for the fans and that, okay, but it's

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<v Speaker 4>given personal trial.

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<v Speaker 2>It's gonnager. But also my best friend that passed away

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<v Speaker 2>is from Sydney, so I'm excited for that.

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<v Speaker 3>Another one that's going to bring back memory.

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<v Speaker 2>And I will tell you, I need you to go

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<v Speaker 2>see the little people.

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<v Speaker 3>I know I can't call them the other word, but

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<v Speaker 3>little people box in the Philippine.

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<v Speaker 2>What's up the N word?

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<v Speaker 3>Uh? They literally call it that in the Philippines, but

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<v Speaker 3>I'm not gonna call it. Actually, yeah, we could bleep

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<v Speaker 3>it out. So they're boxing in the Philippines and it's

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<v Speaker 3>so cool you go and they like, I don't know

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<v Speaker 3>why they do it, but it's entertaining as fuck. Everyone

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<v Speaker 3>like drinks beers with the handle and it's just that.

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<v Speaker 3>There's also I want to say, the Philippines also has

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<v Speaker 3>the pussy show, which they have in Thailand.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, have you been a sailent ping pong? No?

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<v Speaker 3>They always wanted to go. They shoot ping pongs out

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<v Speaker 3>of their pussy then you can hit it. So look

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<v Speaker 3>up the pussy show and.

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<v Speaker 2>Look you can hit it with paddles. Yeah, they can

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<v Speaker 2>hand you the paddle the no no, no, no no, the answer.

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<v Speaker 1>But there's a lot of games that they do with

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<v Speaker 1>their vaginas that like you get involved in, like maybe

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<v Speaker 1>you'll be pulling a string out of there forever you have.

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<v Speaker 2>It's like stream.

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<v Speaker 3>The Philippines is so much fun fun, Like literally you

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<v Speaker 3>can hand them a marker and they'll be like, and

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<v Speaker 3>what's your name?

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<v Speaker 2>And what their pussy? The marker goes in and they

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<v Speaker 2>on the chest.

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<v Speaker 3>This girl Amsterdam is in the Philippines, but like so cool.

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<v Speaker 3>And I will say, in the Philippines I went to, Oh,

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<v Speaker 3>I can't remember the city now.

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<v Speaker 2>But just the Manila. I was a Manila. The Oh

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<v Speaker 2>my god. They are the dopest.

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<v Speaker 3>Because it's probably gonna be something racist to say, but

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<v Speaker 3>they the niggas of Asia, like they literally are treated

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<v Speaker 3>that way. Their dark skinned and they will tell you

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<v Speaker 3>but also they speak the best English. But they are

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<v Speaker 3>just the nicest, Like they don't treat Americans like in

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<v Speaker 3>different parts of Asia you might get stand offish, especially

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<v Speaker 3>if there's a person of color. The Philippines was cool

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<v Speaker 3>as fuck. Shout out to everybody in the Philippines them

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<v Speaker 3>Nigga's coolest. Fuck I ain't even gonna Yeah, so you.

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<v Speaker 1>Just watched Beyonce's concerts and I was like, I came

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<v Speaker 1>all the way from the Philippines.

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<v Speaker 3>I was like, damn, you're really I hope you enjoyed

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<v Speaker 3>as much as I did. Like that's so that's the

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<v Speaker 3>play that the flight wasn't so far. I would go again,

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<v Speaker 3>I really And then they have other beautiful islands that

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<v Speaker 3>I wasn't able to get to, but.

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<v Speaker 2>So there you go. Oh my god. I had been for.

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<v Speaker 3>Soul too, and the fashion I'm so excited girl spas

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<v Speaker 3>the Ramen vending machine thing machine.

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<v Speaker 2>So Japan.

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<v Speaker 1>Japan was probably like for me, like transforming in fashion

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<v Speaker 1>is right up there. And meeting so many Koreans in

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<v Speaker 1>LA has really made me, like, you know, when you

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<v Speaker 1>have Southern friends, you're like, oh, should I gotta go

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<v Speaker 1>to New Orleans?

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<v Speaker 2>Whatever? The fuck? That shit really has made me want

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<v Speaker 2>to be in fucking Korea.

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<v Speaker 3>You never been, no the Korea that Americans And of

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<v Speaker 3>course yeah there's two parts. I never know the difference anyway,

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<v Speaker 3>So they can purchase stream and also follow.

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<v Speaker 4>You following me at Keana the day k I N

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<v Speaker 4>A L E d E. And you can find effort

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<v Speaker 4>that there's a link in my bio where you can

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<v Speaker 4>little click it and find every.

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<v Speaker 3>So what we're gonna do is include that same link

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<v Speaker 3>in the description of this episode.

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<v Speaker 2>That's what we're gonna do to make sure nigga right

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<v Speaker 2>next to it. Nigga nigga. Yes, we will, We absolutely will.

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<v Speaker 3>And also, as you guys know, next weekend we're in London,

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<v Speaker 3>so October the twenty eighth, make sure you pull up

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<v Speaker 3>to us in London. Mandy convinced me, yeap got my

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<v Speaker 3>fifth now, bitch, it's given, okay. And then November fifth,

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<v Speaker 3>we are in Toronto, so those are two international shows,

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<v Speaker 3>and then we are back here on the East Coast

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<v Speaker 3>to wrap up. Boston and Philly is sold out, but

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<v Speaker 3>you can still get your tickets for DC, and honestly,

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<v Speaker 3>by now New York may be sold out, but DC

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<v Speaker 3>New York if you can, and again Toronto and London.

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<v Speaker 3>We're looking forward to seeing you get your tickets now

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<v Speaker 3>at hor hive dot com. Ketu, thank you for joining

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<v Speaker 3>us again so much, hey, and thank you all for

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<v Speaker 3>listening to you at another episode of Horrible Decision, Hi

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<v Speaker 3>everybody ye