Speaker 1: Hey you, thanks for listening to Horrible Decisions this week.
Speaker 1: Mandy and I just wanted to present a trigger warning.
Speaker 1: There is conversation about rape, so we just wanted to
Speaker 1: make you aware of that sensitive material.
Speaker 2: Guess what decision we're about to make? Horrible decision are y'all?
Speaker 2: Welcome to another episode of Horrid Blair. This is Jones.
Speaker 1: This might be the episode where you don't need to
Speaker 1: try to sing.
Speaker 3: First off, don't do that just because we got vocals
Speaker 3: joining us today.
Speaker 2: These vocals still hit. People say they love my voice. Hey,
Speaker 2: you have a nice voice.
Speaker 3: Okay, don't do day in the shower. That thing hit y'all.
Speaker 3: I'm the girl with the voice today. Okay, Mandy B
Speaker 3: what anyway?
Speaker 2: Ya Hey, my name is Weezy.
Speaker 1: Welcome back to another episode of the best podcast ever period.
Speaker 2: We have a guest that has been asked for.
Speaker 1: We had a little mini interview if y'all checked us
Speaker 1: out BT weekend, and there's probably two people out of
Speaker 1: seven hundred and six that we interview, but it was
Speaker 1: like there was.
Speaker 3: Like four hundred people and you was one of but
Speaker 3: you should have seen to let me who is the
Speaker 3: other one?
Speaker 2: Oh?
Speaker 3: I was it Masika. I like Masika Mosika. I enjoyed Mosika,
Speaker 3: actually enjoyed. And there was a nigga, Young Pooda.
Speaker 2: You wanted him. No, people were saying, oh oh no,
Speaker 2: sorry k Malcolm Mask, Malcolm Maze, they wanted. I was like, girl,
Speaker 2: Young Poodle was on Patreon stopping my man.
Speaker 3: I'm just saying, you made the originals. You just be
Speaker 3: making stuff up. I think she just liked that nigga.
Speaker 1: You know when Sexy Red came out with that ship bitch,
Speaker 1: I told.
Speaker 2: All my niggas all.
Speaker 3: She got a I love that for you, right, She's
Speaker 3: really the one keeping this show going.
Speaker 1: I'm only fucking too, Okay.
Speaker 2: I feel like you're being honest. I actually am.
Speaker 3: I love that you said that. Come on bringing in
Speaker 3: feelings because feeling sometimes eight. I feel like you're being honest.
Speaker 3: I have six niggas in rotation, and two of them
Speaker 3: I'm sleeping with. So what I'm gonna do is one
Speaker 3: New York win La. If New York or La fucks up, bitch,
Speaker 3: the other ones can jump in. By the way, not
Speaker 3: sure if we got to introduce you, but we are
Speaker 3: sitting with the beautiful, the sunctuous canaa days in the building.
Speaker 2: Hey, hello, hello, hello, and y'all.
Speaker 3: Y'all might want to watch the YouTube for this one
Speaker 3: because she came in sheer with nipple pier things and tattoos.
Speaker 2: Okay, so if this slips off.
Speaker 1: Looking all types not, Wait, had you like flashed a
Speaker 1: titty or taking nudes yet and like posted them?
Speaker 4: No, but I've always said, like, if my nudes get leaked,
Speaker 4: you're welcome.
Speaker 1: I'm sure he bit it iss like for you exactly,
Speaker 1: I told Mandy, Like, I'm gonna act like I'm upset,
Speaker 1: but low key feel like I'm validated, Like I really
Speaker 1: do think I look better naked.
Speaker 2: Actually, I'm positive I look better naked.
Speaker 3: Oh, if I could not wear clothes, I would be
Speaker 3: like I go to nude beaches when my friends come over. Bitch,
Speaker 3: you don't see these cities in this before. So my
Speaker 3: friends were naked. We sleep together naked. The only thing
Speaker 3: I won't cut.
Speaker 2: Naked off with your friends naked.
Speaker 3: Absolutely, I wish my friends on vacation we're all naked.
Speaker 3: I'm getting in bed naked and it's literally like we're
Speaker 3: both naked. We don't me and my friend my friends
Speaker 3: don't wear but.
Speaker 2: Jama's either, I don't john like.
Speaker 3: Okay, so when you with your friends, bitch, what pj
Speaker 3: is coming from? You think I'm to buy Pj's to
Speaker 3: be around my friend. I think it's because I'm actually
Speaker 3: like pretty gay, That's why people can. But I'm also
Speaker 3: the one that fucks my friends. You don't even fuck
Speaker 3: your friend, but I'll be fucking. So that's actually probably
Speaker 3: why we sleep together.
Speaker 2: Now you have drunk moments? No, you said that, No,
Speaker 2: but I fucked my friends. We ain't got to be
Speaker 2: drunk for me to fuck my friends.
Speaker 1: You said, fucking in the day fucking bitch in the
Speaker 1: daytime would be crazy, that bitch.
Speaker 2: I drink liquor in the daytime? Like, is that it's
Speaker 2: a little bit they good for you?
Speaker 3: Listen, well they found a little I'm gonna call you out.
Speaker 3: My engineer found a little bottle of Tito's in it
Speaker 3: because I knew Drizzly was gonna take too long. This
Speaker 3: is not an ad. But also so the liquor store
Speaker 3: around here been closed.
Speaker 2: I don't know what it's three, Sorry, it's five o'clock somewhere.
Speaker 3: You mean, I did want to ask you what you've
Speaker 3: been up to since we saw.
Speaker 2: You in La Get in my life together? About it? Touring?
Speaker 2: I'm on tour right now, so I have to ask you.
Speaker 2: Do you oppose in different cities?
Speaker 3: Please tell me? Tell me the touring life of an
Speaker 3: R and B artist.
Speaker 2: I need to know. I used to do that. I
Speaker 2: don't know why because I'm in a relationship.
Speaker 3: Oh well, you guys goes with me to different city.
Speaker 2: So does that y'all be picking up people together?
Speaker 3: No? No, no, we're not not yet. Oh but it
Speaker 3: will come. No, bitch, I had a little in it.
Speaker 2: Tell us more. I'm just.
Speaker 4: We're ready, we're ready to add a third into the
Speaker 4: area or just no, not a threattle, I mean, Christine's
Speaker 4: pretty much as physical.
Speaker 2: Unfortunate. How long have you been dating? Not the woman
Speaker 2: having an account? But I know it's.
Speaker 4: So bad he can't able to tell you to me,
Speaker 4: And I'm like five months officially, maybe I'll do it.
Speaker 2: I meant your neck bag.
Speaker 3: Look, okay, Zick is not here, girl closed them mount Sorry, Okay,
Speaker 3: so five months is new? How has he been with
Speaker 3: the touring and seeing that there's people that want you,
Speaker 3: both men and women. I'm sure like he's been comfortable
Speaker 3: with that. Yeah, he's totally fine, Okay.
Speaker 2: Does it turning line?
Speaker 4: No, I think he's had to get comfortable with it,
Speaker 4: just because he's not used to like being with people
Speaker 4: that are out there like that.
Speaker 2: Dang.
Speaker 3: Well, I can't wait until you start making songs about
Speaker 3: this nigga because I know everything you have now is
Speaker 3: not about him. So I did want to ask, and
Speaker 3: does he know who promised me is about? Because that's
Speaker 3: about a nigga that you said you want to fuck forelpha,
Speaker 3: So does he know that there's a nigga in your
Speaker 3: life that you want to fuck forever? And that if
Speaker 3: he decides to go on a break with you? Like
Speaker 3: my ex, we did thirteen breaks and I went to
Speaker 3: a nigga at the same time every time, does he
Speaker 3: know who that nigga is?
Speaker 2: It's actually I'm singing about a guy and a girl.
Speaker 4: There's different experiences, but I was feeling that in the moment.
Speaker 4: Now I'm good. I'm good on that, But every time
Speaker 4: the song comes on, no, he's.
Speaker 3: Like, I want to tell you the truth. You're only
Speaker 3: good on that because you really like this person right now? Yeah, yeah, yeah,
Speaker 3: I don't do breaks me neither can't.
Speaker 2: Once I'm done. It's finished for me. No no, no, no, okay.
Speaker 3: But when I say I don't do breaks, it's because
Speaker 3: a lot of people assume that when you are on
Speaker 3: a break in a relationship, you still owe some sort
Speaker 3: of respect to that partner, which is why every time
Speaker 3: me and that nigga went on a break, we broken
Speaker 3: up and I'm going to fuck someone else, whether you're
Speaker 3: upset or not, Like, I don't owe any responsibility to
Speaker 3: your feelings or not fucking someone else.
Speaker 2: Else because you felt like.
Speaker 1: I have to like get this off while I'm single,
Speaker 1: or I have to get this person on my mind,
Speaker 1: or did you fuck someone else because you've actually wanted
Speaker 1: to while you're with your partner.
Speaker 2: I mean, the promise me that we go fuck with
Speaker 2: elb of that nigga.
Speaker 3: I was glad to have him back in my life,
Speaker 3: but to me, honestly, it was it was my misconception,
Speaker 3: and y'all we've talked about it here before. Fucking someone
Speaker 3: else does not get you off the other person. And
Speaker 3: I think a part of me during a lot of
Speaker 3: those breakups, thought that I wouldn't be as hurt if
Speaker 3: I just went and felt like I could be pleased
Speaker 3: by someone else, especially the one person that I know
Speaker 3: pleases me every goddamn time, have been pleasing me for
Speaker 3: nine years.
Speaker 2: So I was like nine girl, nine.
Speaker 3: So I was like, let me just go back to
Speaker 3: the rivers and the lakes that I'm used to.
Speaker 2: This makes it easier, girl.
Speaker 1: I just had a conversation with Aniga where I had
Speaker 1: to tell him like he was like, yo, I just
Speaker 1: really want to check in, like you told me recently,
Speaker 1: like you need me to call you every day, and
Speaker 1: like I realized the other day when I called you
Speaker 1: super late you were disappointed. I want to check in
Speaker 1: about where we're at this d nigg I'm talking about.
Speaker 2: I said, well, let me just be talking light day girl.
Speaker 2: Oh yeah, you date different types. Go ahead, Yeah, So
Speaker 2: I said.
Speaker 1: Listen, I'm just gonna say this to you. You're my
Speaker 1: favorite right now. If you want to keep being my favorite,
Speaker 1: this is like, this is kind of what I'm used to.
Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying. I need the fucking text
Speaker 1: messages shit like that. If this is where you're at,
Speaker 1: if you give a fuck about being my favorite, this
Speaker 1: is what you would be doing. Don't get me wrong,
Speaker 1: and those other niggas. I'm just honestly not putting as
Speaker 1: much energy into them. So if you don't want to
Speaker 1: do that, or if you feel like what I'm asking
Speaker 1: you for is a stretch, someone else will become my favorite.
Speaker 2: If he does all that, would you drop everybody else?
Speaker 1: Good question, girl, It's funny because he told me that
Speaker 1: he thinks I would.
Speaker 2: She's like, nope, I didn't answer my question though.
Speaker 3: That didn't get her.
Speaker 2: The truth. Okay, the truth will slitch you. He doesn't
Speaker 2: listen to my podcast? He will? Oh? I told my
Speaker 2: man he is banned from watching these types. I don't
Speaker 2: know if niggas say they don't, but they do. Yeah,
Speaker 2: he's probably gonna watch like do they? Okay, here's true,
Speaker 2: they do. They do long term.
Speaker 1: I'm really like missing the boyfriend, feeling like him and
Speaker 1: I spend weekends together. We do mad shit together, and
Speaker 1: we're involving each other. He's gonna watch my dog when
Speaker 1: I have to go do an event like I kind
Speaker 1: of like that. However, are the qualities that he's showing
Speaker 1: me things that I would want in a long term partner.
Speaker 2: I don't know.
Speaker 1: The reason that I'm not really sure though, is because
Speaker 1: a nigga could look at me and be like this
Speaker 1: bitch has a sex podcast. She talks about niggas every day,
Speaker 1: she's fucking done x y Z. She lives in two cities.
Speaker 1: Not a woman i'd want to be with, and then boom,
Speaker 1: you end up falling in love with me. So I
Speaker 1: don't fucking know that's really the answer.
Speaker 2: I don't know.
Speaker 1: I could say from what I'm looking at, maybe some
Speaker 1: of those qualities are something that's a fit, but I
Speaker 1: really don't know. My life isn't conventional, so maybe my
Speaker 1: relationship won't end up being either.
Speaker 2: I love how you can put all those sentences to
Speaker 2: say no. I'm all them to say no, waiting special.
Speaker 2: Then come on, Keanu, this is your interview. What are
Speaker 2: you doing? Actually? Welcome, guys, I'm gonna interview. The girls
Speaker 2: always do this, I'm sorry. What makes them special?
Speaker 1: I think is that I go on a lot of
Speaker 1: dates and I don't find anyone else as to be
Speaker 1: one as impressive.
Speaker 2: Two, I think the other fablest thing.
Speaker 1: God, I even cares the truth, like I do find
Speaker 1: the way he lives his life to be impressive.
Speaker 2: I also like the way that he treats me.
Speaker 1: But three, and this is very surface level but I
Speaker 1: can't explain this another way. Talk to a friend of
Speaker 1: mine recently, and I want you all to tell me
Speaker 1: if you have someone in your mind like this the
Speaker 1: first date I had with him, I can maybe think
Speaker 1: of a few other people in my life that the
Speaker 1: second I saw them, I was like oof, like they're fun,
Speaker 1: and I watched him in his brain.
Speaker 2: Thinking like, oh, she looks good, and he was so intense.
Speaker 1: And don't get me wrong, I fucked with niggas that
Speaker 1: may be even more conventionally attractive. But something about him
Speaker 1: and me in the way it was going to where
Speaker 1: like it's very undeniable. I literally couldn't explain it. I
Speaker 1: remember he said, no, it's like some movie shit that
Speaker 1: when you feel like that when you're looking at someone
Speaker 1: that is surface level, but.
Speaker 2: It ain't not. I led to a three year relationship
Speaker 2: with a narcissist. You don't like that about each other? Oh? Absolutely,
Speaker 2: because always.
Speaker 1: For you.
Speaker 2: But also it was the pandemic.
Speaker 3: We spent the first twenty days together and then I
Speaker 3: got flewed out of Florida before I.
Speaker 2: Made up my boyfriend. Before I made my boyfriend.
Speaker 3: If he was getting flued out, Florida was the place
Speaker 3: to go Florida and Atlanta during the panorama. But the
Speaker 3: whole time I was there, I was with a friend,
Speaker 3: so I wasn't flued out for sex. But I was
Speaker 3: there with a friend, and the whole time I could
Speaker 3: think about him. I was like, Wow, I just spent
Speaker 3: all this time with someone. I can't wait to get
Speaker 3: back to that.
Speaker 2: That's less.
Speaker 3: No, no, no, no no, it wasn't less because we literally
Speaker 3: were playing uno. I was cooking for him, we were
Speaker 3: watching TV shows, things that I hadn't done.
Speaker 1: It wasn't like about physical like looking at someone and
Speaker 1: being like him.
Speaker 2: Okay, wait this was narciss yes, six seven ball head older.
Speaker 2: I realized.
Speaker 3: Also he looked like this nigga I met All Star weekend,
Speaker 3: so I probably won't like.
Speaker 2: This is literally, oh, this is literally the same situation
Speaker 2: with my ex. It's so bad.
Speaker 3: Bald bald ball ball eleven years older than me, seventeen
Speaker 3: years older than me, and a narcissist.
Speaker 2: Yeah, and I was with him for a year and something. Yeah,
Speaker 2: I mean, I'm not gonna lie, I guess is good.
Speaker 3: No, I ain't gonna hold you keep the ball niggas
Speaker 3: away from me.
Speaker 2: I ain't gonna hold you, y'all.
Speaker 3: These two fingers, I know they put boodle holes and pussy.
Speaker 3: They now to braid your hair, nigga, come to me
Speaker 3: with a fro.
Speaker 2: I got you. I will core roll them. Things you
Speaker 2: want fishbones like bad? Why I used to? Do you
Speaker 2: want braids and beads? Whatever you want? Bring your ass
Speaker 2: to me with somebody? Do you think I like A
Speaker 2: I'm taking it now.
Speaker 3: I ain't gonna hold you. Bring your ass. I will
Speaker 3: learn how to retwist your hair from YouTube because the dread.
Speaker 2: Now, let me ask you something.
Speaker 1: That's why I was saying, I don't want to talk
Speaker 1: about spending time. Okay, what I'm talking about I really
Speaker 1: want and even people listening, I want you to tell
Speaker 1: me that attraction I'm talking about is it also mutually affirmed?
Speaker 1: Like do you have someone that you've seen like that's
Speaker 1: what I'm getting right now.
Speaker 2: And it's crazy.
Speaker 1: I mean I could be talking and he's thinking the
Speaker 1: same thing I am, like, Damn, you look good, that's.
Speaker 2: What it's okay. Are you feeling like you've had that before?
Speaker 2: And can you think of maybe how many times that's
Speaker 2: happened to you? Not many?
Speaker 4: I have many, if at all, I mean a lot
Speaker 4: of shit now happens over social media, so it's like
Speaker 4: you can't really you might be thinking that, but over
Speaker 4: the fucking phone. You know, this situation was so different
Speaker 4: because it was like we met through CALLI.
Speaker 2: We met through CALLI, and it was like, definitely had
Speaker 2: that moment. Why don't you like, would CALLI be the one?
Speaker 1: Then?
Speaker 2: Do you feel like no?
Speaker 1: Like dead as so thinking about introducing a partner, Mandy
Speaker 1: talks about how she had friends in her bedroom. I
Speaker 1: did the complete opposite. I would rather a stranger or
Speaker 1: someone I'm not that fan. How do you feel like
Speaker 1: you and Callie are close but you guys are making
Speaker 1: out any flirt and shit? I don't know you talked too,
Speaker 1: but would a friend be someone that you'd want to
Speaker 1: invite in or Yeah.
Speaker 4: We actually talked about that, and it's so funny. When
Speaker 4: Callie watches this, she's she's gonna love it. But we
Speaker 4: talked about that. But I think he's more comfortable with
Speaker 4: it being someone that was stranger, just because you know,
Speaker 4: it's like or what you know, Callie's really close to
Speaker 4: us and probably.
Speaker 3: That, Yeah, she lives literally a block away, so no,
Speaker 3: a friend that live in another state. I'm done with that.
Speaker 3: That's none of my stranger. Like I want to just
Speaker 3: find a stranger. I already have like the picture of
Speaker 3: what I want to.
Speaker 2: Do it tell us, tell us how you want this
Speaker 2: to go down? Okay.
Speaker 4: So the thing the only thing that's stopping me is
Speaker 4: like I'm I want it to be fun obviously, okay,
Speaker 4: but I also don't know what I feel like is
Speaker 4: going to be acceptable or not make me look at
Speaker 4: him a different way.
Speaker 2: Because I want to You don't know your boundaries exactly.
Speaker 2: I want to be this.
Speaker 4: I want to be the subject, like I want to
Speaker 4: be like the main character. So so I want to
Speaker 4: be and he'd be fine with this.
Speaker 2: So it's so what's ideal?
Speaker 4: But like it's it is me doing most of the
Speaker 4: action okay, okay, most of the eating, you, sucking, you, kissing, you, flipping,
Speaker 4: you doing everything. Yeah, and people are fucking. I just
Speaker 4: don't know who's fucking.
Speaker 2: What do you want him to?
Speaker 3: Then you want you would be comfortable than him being
Speaker 3: the pillow princess and the two of you getting onto
Speaker 3: him and you directing, you coordinating, and then yes, I'm
Speaker 3: the coordinator.
Speaker 2: Now I would love to know in your scenario, because
Speaker 2: this is where Weezy and I also differ.
Speaker 3: Did she get to spend the night and cuddle with
Speaker 3: y'all or do you send her home after good night?
Speaker 2: Thank you good night about that night too.
Speaker 1: So in a perfect world, my perfect unicorn experience was
Speaker 1: I was saying I was saying, she gotta go the
Speaker 1: second we fucked her and I realized like she like
Speaker 1: kind of knew her place a little bit.
Speaker 2: I liked t having her around. Plus we were in
Speaker 2: a little of drugs.
Speaker 1: But but like she was a vibe though she was like,
Speaker 1: what are you cooking this nigga tomorrow?
Speaker 2: And I was like why.
Speaker 1: She was like, because I'm gonna eat that with y'all
Speaker 1: and eat you. Like she was fun, but it doesn't
Speaker 1: like she made me feel like she was two into
Speaker 1: him and I felt way more comfortable. Yeah, so we
Speaker 1: were like we had warning sex together, Like I really
Speaker 1: genuinely enjoyed that. And I think I was like, she
Speaker 1: gotta go, she gotta go, because my own ego wasn't
Speaker 1: prepared for how I might feel.
Speaker 2: But you might be all right, what does he here?
Speaker 2: You going now? At the camera? Don get dang. I
Speaker 2: can show you, but we're not showing the cameras. Wait,
Speaker 2: can you held me my phone? You have it, let's
Speaker 2: talk about how well I don't.
Speaker 3: I don't even so I'm gonna be honest, I don't
Speaker 3: want to see it. Okay, I will, but list this
Speaker 3: is my phone screen.
Speaker 2: Oh are you fucking kidding me?
Speaker 3: And now oh oh but he's handsome, he's oh no, no, lie,
Speaker 3: I thought you gotta keep just that just and that
Speaker 3: was just a profile in the army. That was literally
Speaker 3: the back of his head in the army, like the
Speaker 3: same type of nigga.
Speaker 4: This is no literally like it's disgusting, it's honestly discussing.
Speaker 3: But also this is how simple we are. We literally
Speaker 3: just saw the We just saw the back of his
Speaker 3: head and an arm and we were like, yeah, yeah, yeah,
Speaker 3: but you know, what, do you think that you'd have
Speaker 3: a threesome type of girl?
Speaker 2: Because I do. What do you mean?
Speaker 3: We have the who hive here, and we have a
Speaker 3: lot of different types of listeners.
Speaker 2: We have the same niggas. Look at this good.
Speaker 3: A little lighter, oh my god, yeah he's a little lighter,
Speaker 3: and his dreads are a little thicker, Oh my god.
Speaker 1: They're not free form I mean they are free for them.
Speaker 1: But that's how in the locks I am right now.
Speaker 1: I want to fucking do it all. But anyway, so okay,
Speaker 1: you would be We're gonna help you with some steps
Speaker 1: for your for your first three.
Speaker 2: So I bank with him.
Speaker 1: Now some other questions I have for you. So when
Speaker 1: you are building a relationship, when you said we're not
Speaker 1: ready yet, what are the type of things that you
Speaker 1: were thinking? Because when people write in smandy and I
Speaker 1: I was in a thro before. I've had a lot
Speaker 1: of threes mix partner. She had me to sex clubs,
Speaker 1: and so people ask a lot of questions, I want
Speaker 1: to do that?
Speaker 2: Sam back on a weekend, I'll say, sex club is
Speaker 2: what she wants. I want to do that so bad.
Speaker 2: Do you want to just wait? If you're in LA
Speaker 2: my friends are throwing in l A one, I'll connect you.
Speaker 2: Okay fantasy So okay, so.
Speaker 4: My fantasy is to just fuck my partner, but in
Speaker 4: a room for all other people.
Speaker 2: Oh, you liked you want to be watch that?
Speaker 4: I want to Yeah, I want everybody to be fucking
Speaker 4: too like I enjoy that.
Speaker 3: I want to be I mean one of the best,
Speaker 3: one of the best things that I did was like
Speaker 3: eat my man's ass in front of a room full
Speaker 3: of people.
Speaker 2: And it was like great. I was like, oh he
Speaker 2: was shameless like that.
Speaker 3: Wow, oh yeah, oh I don't know what he was
Speaker 3: doing because my head was an ass. Like but the room,
Speaker 3: like everyone in the like we made sure we were
Speaker 3: in the middle of the room.
Speaker 2: And this was during COVID, so like there was only
Speaker 2: there was only ten.
Speaker 3: Other people in the room, like they limited it to
Speaker 3: like twelve.
Speaker 2: To fifteen weeks. This quarantine is crazy.
Speaker 3: You'll chill, you sound judgy. It's good, it's good, it's good.
Speaker 3: All right, only call COVID after Mexico. But in Mexican
Speaker 3: we were out of resort.
Speaker 2: That money. I'm sorry. You know now I'm at the
Speaker 2: point where we could deny a check. Here go. We
Speaker 2: were like we still gonna go. We were like, they
Speaker 2: want to fucking find you. We had to wear.
Speaker 3: Masks, gets us to do all that going. When you
Speaker 3: got through that resort, there was a phone party.
Speaker 2: Bitch Nigga was drinking champagne. All the people's asses. Oh no,
Speaker 2: I'm about you. You might be real. Yeah, you are ready,
Speaker 2: you are ready.
Speaker 4: I'm just like so excited to explore because I don't.
Speaker 4: Everybody has sex, Like, I don't understand why we are why, right, Like,
Speaker 4: it's so crazy.
Speaker 2: But you know why we shame it.
Speaker 1: Everybody has sex, but we have this idea of what
Speaker 1: we want people to see us as one because we
Speaker 1: know how other people are thinking. So for example, I
Speaker 1: could be in a room full of sex positive people
Speaker 1: in this moment, but if I told you guys that
Speaker 1: had a train ran on me last night, maybe one
Speaker 1: person would secretly think I'm a whore even though So
Speaker 1: that's the there is some shame in stigma around it.
Speaker 2: Right. So it's like, yes, everybody has sex.
Speaker 1: But there's a limit to what we think someone is
Speaker 1: able to do and still have a good idea of
Speaker 1: who they are, right Like, look at how the Internet
Speaker 1: is treating Britney Renner, Like, I don't think that there's
Speaker 1: anything wrong with Britney Renner being hull. I do think
Speaker 1: some of her fucking bullshit about kids or baby daddies
Speaker 1: or some of her other ideas are crazy, but it's
Speaker 1: not the whole shit.
Speaker 2: Yeah, but we can't.
Speaker 1: Wait to tear her up, and by we I mean
Speaker 1: psciety about a lot of her thoughts A lot of
Speaker 1: her opinions, and so people will hate watch something because
Speaker 1: they think they have this self inflated idea of who
Speaker 1: they are, like their moral ground is better than ours
Speaker 1: because they didn't fuck thirty five niggas, which is definitely
Speaker 1: a lie. But it's really that it's that we all
Speaker 1: have sex, but there's still this like hierarchy of what's acceptable.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I'll be honest, I wanted to ask you a question.
Speaker 3: In the perception of you, not only as artists, but
Speaker 3: in dating, you actually look like sex.
Speaker 2: I don't know, like figure out right now? Have you
Speaker 2: never gotten that before?
Speaker 3: Like you ooz and and that's what I think a
Speaker 3: lot of what like sometimes it can be a compliment.
Speaker 3: Sometimes it's like, oh, this keeps me from looking like
Speaker 3: the girl next door or someone that maybe someone will wife.
Speaker 2: Maybe I look like the fun girl. But have you
Speaker 2: gotten that before?
Speaker 3: And do you kind of like I mean, with this outfit,
Speaker 3: you're definitely living in it. But what does it mean
Speaker 3: to you for a woman or a man to look
Speaker 3: like they oose sex?
Speaker 2: Like they just look like they Oh my god, get it,
Speaker 2: give you. I mean, I love it. I love it.
Speaker 2: I think honestly, when I was younger.
Speaker 4: It used to really scare me because I'm being over
Speaker 4: sexualized as a sixteen year old and a fifteen years
Speaker 4: that's what's fucking disgusting. Yeah, So I ran away from
Speaker 4: my physical appearance and my sexuality for a really long
Speaker 4: time until I felt comfortable with it within myself to
Speaker 4: be like, Okay, I'm.
Speaker 2: Beautiful, like I'm sexy.
Speaker 4: Let me show my leg with my own power, you know,
Speaker 4: with my own confidence, because I was told to do that.
Speaker 2: For what did you do to get there?
Speaker 3: And how did you also shy away from, you know,
Speaker 3: being looked at as a sexual object at a young age.
Speaker 3: Because we do have some of y'all that love to
Speaker 3: tell us y'all been listening to us since high school,
Speaker 3: and it's being like wool dang, really, but for someone
Speaker 3: who's who's maybe you know, even eighteen, let's make it
Speaker 3: that like eighteen nineteen being sexualized, that's a space where
Speaker 3: you're also really insecure and you don't know how to
Speaker 3: maybe say no to advances or that is also one
Speaker 3: of the things that maybe makes you feel validated or wanted,
Speaker 3: is that these men want to fuck you, because babe,
Speaker 3: we all know in our twenties we thought that that
Speaker 3: meant something. We thought of a man wanted to put
Speaker 3: their dick in us and fuck us that ooh we're beautiful,
Speaker 3: ooh we're.
Speaker 2: Worrying that I thought of they were sucking me. Ra
Speaker 2: all that done something.
Speaker 3: But see, and a lot of people in their thirties
Speaker 3: and forties still think that dumb test notion too. So
Speaker 3: I wanted to to ask you, like, how you protected
Speaker 3: yourself in your sexuality and then also how you found
Speaker 3: the beauty in also your sexuality both.
Speaker 2: Ways, that's a good question.
Speaker 3: When I was younger, I don't think I protected myself necessarily, okay,
Speaker 3: because there was a lot of people that I trusted,
Speaker 3: and like, being on my own that young in LA
Speaker 3: made me really vulnerable to that kind of stuff.
Speaker 2: And you know, it was a lot of older people
Speaker 2: telling me, you.
Speaker 4: Know, show your leg, do this, do that, and you
Speaker 4: listen to people that are older than you because they
Speaker 4: think you think they know more. That's what we told
Speaker 4: or even people that were like predators in my life
Speaker 4: when I was so young, being fifteen in studios by myself,
Speaker 4: it was like, oh, this guy says this, Okay, well
Speaker 4: I should listen. And then it ended up being like
Speaker 4: something super creepy. And I remember like my parents were
Speaker 4: super strict, so I would literally hide things that were
Speaker 4: going on with predators from my parents. Wow, because like
Speaker 4: we had this rule where you know, they would check
Speaker 4: my phone all the time. I wasn't allowed to have boyfriends.
Speaker 4: I was when we were in text boys twenty six.
Speaker 4: I wasn't allowed to text boys until I was like
Speaker 4: a freshman in high school.
Speaker 2: But they would still check my phone all the time.
Speaker 4: So it was like it actually hindered me because I
Speaker 4: wasn't able to navigate and have those conversations right and
Speaker 4: what was wrong exactly were like with men. And then
Speaker 4: sixteen fifteen, I'm out in La by myself with these
Speaker 4: grown ass men who were all fucking disgusting.
Speaker 1: Have you seen the video of a father calling the police.
Speaker 1: There's a ring I saw it on Van Lathan's page.
Speaker 1: There's a ring camera recording the police. He's like, yo,
Speaker 1: I called you guys like ten hours ago, and he
Speaker 1: was calling about his eleven year old daughter who was
Speaker 1: talking to a predator online. And the woman, a woman
Speaker 1: cop said she's a He's like, she's being manipulated to
Speaker 1: take naked photos of herself. And she said, do you
Speaker 1: know that your daughter can be charged with soliciting child porn?
Speaker 2: Did you see this? No?
Speaker 1: And it's on video and the dude is like, excuse me,
Speaker 1: she's eleven years old.
Speaker 2: She's like, yeah, are you aware?
Speaker 1: Like she was sending on child phography and he was like,
Speaker 1: you guys, have a nice night, Like wow, I aren't
Speaker 1: even discussing back and forth. It was one of the
Speaker 1: craziest things I'd probably seen online all year. The comments
Speaker 1: were insane. I'm hoping and pretty sure these people have
Speaker 1: gotten fired, but like I.
Speaker 4: Hope so wop she's been through to make her think that,
Speaker 4: Like what the fuck put that in her head?
Speaker 3: I'm not gonna lie be okay to say something oh
Speaker 3: the cop Yes, yeah, I was gonna say the eleven
Speaker 3: year old. I think seeing what social media has done
Speaker 3: now and the access like to be fair, I think
Speaker 3: when I was eleven, I was using fake pictures of
Speaker 3: jane i Eko in the mall like this is me
Speaker 3: and I'm sixteen and really I'm.
Speaker 2: Twelve or thirteen.
Speaker 3: So literally, I don't know if y'all remember, like all
Speaker 3: the airbrush photos I forgot. Janae Iiko had a whole
Speaker 3: bunch online and I used to find them all in
Speaker 3: those message boards where I used to read that you
Speaker 3: fucked all of the b twok members. But Janey, you know,
Speaker 3: was a cousin, so she was floating around in those
Speaker 3: message boards. So I use her pictures all the time
Speaker 3: because I was younger, but I had never gotten to
Speaker 3: the point at that at that moment where I would
Speaker 3: use sexual pictures. However, now where bikini photos, bathroom photos,
Speaker 3: mirror pictures of all your favorite celebs, I mean, anyone
Speaker 3: younger I would say than twenty four to twenty five.
Speaker 2: Rihanna's nipples are out for everyone, like.
Speaker 3: Kim Kay, and just the way that we have almost
Speaker 3: glorified as well just accepting your body. I think that
Speaker 3: there's a different narrative being taught as well to children. Yeah,
Speaker 3: and it's it's I think it really is the parent's
Speaker 3: responsibility to have those conversations. But it's really hard because
Speaker 3: you can have it and then they go to their
Speaker 3: friend's house, you can have it, and then they're at
Speaker 3: school longer than they're with you.
Speaker 2: You right.
Speaker 3: I just think we're in a very very scary era
Speaker 3: of protecting people but also holding people accountable and I
Speaker 3: just talked about this. There's a lot of layers to it,
Speaker 3: so I don't want to get into it. But we're
Speaker 3: from Florida with some Florida girls, and they just passed
Speaker 3: the law in Florida were pedophiles who violate anyone under
Speaker 3: twelve years old the death penalty, and so I mean,
Speaker 3: that's not the right thing to do. But again, it's
Speaker 3: unfortunate when law enforcement, Well no, it's unfortunately. Yeah, Well
Speaker 3: to me, it's well, only there's a few there's a
Speaker 3: few things with that only and recently spoke about it.
Speaker 2: But I think when you I was all for it,
Speaker 2: I'm like, yeah, kill them. I don't like them.
Speaker 3: But then when you get into well, not only wrongfully accused,
Speaker 3: but proof and so to know that anyone under the
Speaker 3: under twelve has to prove that this happened to them,
Speaker 3: what that looks like retraumatizing children to make something ballot
Speaker 3: or make or have enough proof to really charge someone.
Speaker 3: Seeing how awesome men don't want to listen to women
Speaker 3: when things happen, or the fact that depending on the
Speaker 3: pennies a woman has, people may think that you invited
Speaker 3: on Like we talked about that case in Germany, she
Speaker 3: had lace Spannies on. She was right, and the literal
Speaker 3: court threw it out because she was like laate Spannies.
Speaker 3: She asked for it. So I just think that we're
Speaker 3: also in this place where we're dealing with men still
Speaker 3: in very high positions that really don't care about us.
Speaker 2: Look at them taking away our rights to have kids.
Speaker 1: I mean, I think that maybe there's good that'll come
Speaker 1: out of this more than that it's all too good
Speaker 1: that comes out soldiers dying more. And you know, I
Speaker 1: say that all the time when people are like when
Speaker 1: they used to talk about protesting and shit, oh my god,
Speaker 1: what about the black owned businesses? Oh fucking well, cities
Speaker 1: need to get destroyed, burnt up. That's what the fuck shit.
Speaker 2: That's how my brain works.
Speaker 1: I don't give a fuck who falls down for the
Speaker 1: end of the road to look better. Okay, So that
Speaker 1: is kind of how like my maybe little Malcolm X's
Speaker 1: brain works.
Speaker 4: Come on, Malcolm A really funny enough cities have burned down,
Speaker 4: yet she's like, we're still paving the window.
Speaker 1: Honestly, I'm just a very radical thinker in that way,
Speaker 1: Like I kind of don't care. I think that like
Speaker 1: we're so backwards in many aspects that like, I don't
Speaker 1: think about the what if this person that person? I mean, anyway, Beach,
Speaker 1: I found a vanilla shit and I'm curious to know
Speaker 1: if you've ever had an injury, because.
Speaker 3: This week, what did you say vanilla shit? Van van
Speaker 3: is our sex in the news segment. Oh okay, So
Speaker 3: this is something that really happened that probably made the
Speaker 3: New York Post or some crazy news outlet.
Speaker 1: In October twenty nineteen, a woman named Emma McGuinness was
Speaker 1: celebrating her thirtieth birthday at Walt Disney.
Speaker 2: But you too old to be celebrated.
Speaker 1: She got on a water slide Typhoon in a typho
Speaker 1: lagoon and experienced a painful wedgie dear vaginal lacerations, so
Speaker 1: she filed the lawsuit on the water park where she
Speaker 1: took the Humungo Cowabunga water slide. Disney said he puts
Speaker 1: riders in an enclosed body slide, sending them on a
Speaker 1: two hundred foot drop in the dark, and it sprays
Speaker 1: their way to a surprise ending. So she was wearing
Speaker 1: a one piece swimsuit. Things ended painfully despite listening to
Speaker 1: the ride operators who told her to cross her arms,
Speaker 1: laid back, you know how they do that whole thing
Speaker 1: when you want to slide. So, the impact of the
Speaker 1: slide and her standing at the standing water at the
Speaker 1: bottom caused her clothing to forcefully be put between her
Speaker 1: legs and water was violently forced inside of her.
Speaker 2: She experienced immediate pain. Blood rushed down her legs.
Speaker 1: She was taken to a hospital and they sent her
Speaker 1: for a pair for kindacologic injuries, severe bodily injury to
Speaker 1: her vagina, and she got fifty thousand dollars.
Speaker 2: Bitch, that's not enough.
Speaker 3: Well, well, this is the thing, which is why when
Speaker 3: I saw this, I was like, oh, we got soup
Speaker 3: for anything now. She literally only sold for her surgery.
Speaker 3: Colls like, so that's all enough. Well, no, I felt
Speaker 3: the same. She had literal damage done to her intestine.
Speaker 3: So it went also so far up like when I
Speaker 3: was hearing and reading further into the details of what
Speaker 3: actually happened.
Speaker 2: I think that's the thing.
Speaker 3: They probably were able to protect themselves because they do
Speaker 3: tell you the exact way. They could also probably say
Speaker 3: thousands of people have ridden the slide. This has never happened.
Speaker 3: This is a once and a you know million chances that.
Speaker 1: On Good Morning America, my vagina was beautiful. I called
Speaker 1: horrible decisions. Everybody wanted to eat it.
Speaker 2: And now my clip is gone. Yeah, not my clit is.
Speaker 1: Have you ever had a sex related injury, even though
Speaker 1: this one was a water slide, like, I've definitely not
Speaker 1: been able to talk the next day from the throat fucking ooh.
Speaker 2: I've definitely had some soreness, some soreness, but that's a nothing.
Speaker 2: You've been able to walk even fine.
Speaker 4: Yeah, I mean there's definitely it's not an injury like it.
Speaker 4: It's definitely uncomfortable, but I kind of liked the pain
Speaker 4: because it feels like, Okay, I remember last night.
Speaker 2: Every time I.
Speaker 1: Last night, every time my cough and I laugh and
Speaker 1: you feel you, I can feel you.
Speaker 4: You're still here with me, baby, You're still He is.
Speaker 2: Coming right out. No, just like anal sex, you know,
Speaker 2: shit comes out differently. The next twenty four.
Speaker 1: Hours, I feel my mind had a tilted uterus and
Speaker 1: I literally was like, oh, who is he?
Speaker 2: I wouldn't even want them. I'm any here. I do
Speaker 2: not want Yes, you know what's crazy? Birth control that
Speaker 2: works for me and There's been a lot of like,
Speaker 2: what does that mean that you've been pregnant before? Or
Speaker 2: you just gave me I actually have been pregnant off
Speaker 2: of which one?
Speaker 4: Uh So I tried all the pills. I tried the shots,
Speaker 4: Like the pills would make me like super depressed or
Speaker 4: make me gain weight. The shots made me gain weight
Speaker 4: really bad.
Speaker 2: Then so different.
Speaker 4: So then I started trying to do this natural thing
Speaker 4: where I would take my temperature every morning as soon
Speaker 4: as I woke up and mark in my calendar and
Speaker 4: then it would tell me when I was ovulating. So
Speaker 4: I was doing that and that's just really tricky, Like
Speaker 4: you wake up.
Speaker 1: Don't give me a better The rhythm method didn't work
Speaker 1: for you. Had a while Saturday night, I told you,
Speaker 1: I think.
Speaker 2: The rhythm method is I mean also, I was also twenty.
Speaker 4: Like I was like you, I don't really know your body.
Speaker 4: I did not know my body, okay, So yeah, then
Speaker 4: I got pregnant. That fucked okay literally and that's how
Speaker 4: I ended up pregnant.
Speaker 2: So you got fun.
Speaker 1: I've been losing the rhythm method. I was pregnant the
Speaker 1: last time at twenty five on thirty two. I have
Speaker 1: not had any kind of cream price stitch during ovulation.
Speaker 1: Now I am really on time though, like twenty eight
Speaker 1: to twenty nine days like this, Like it's not off
Speaker 1: to the point where it's a little scary. And now
Speaker 1: that I'm like sleeping with someone new, and I'm just like,
Speaker 1: you know, new people knew. One person new new.
Speaker 3: No you, he adds a celer went through together.
Speaker 2: Yeah, one person is new.
Speaker 1: I'm literally like, oh god, now I have to sit
Speaker 1: here and talk through this shit with this nigga now,
Speaker 1: like because I can't sleep with two people without condoms, right,
Speaker 1: and I've been fucking one person for years with a condom.
Speaker 2: So I'm like, okay, maybe you and I could take
Speaker 2: a chance. Bitch.
Speaker 1: This shit is nerve wrecking. I forgot what it's like
Speaker 1: to fuck somebody like this. Oh my god, it's none juw.
Speaker 1: That was Saturday. It's Tuesday. It's been all my mind
Speaker 1: every day. Am I with child?
Speaker 2: It's October? I don't know three I'm fucking ovulating on
Speaker 2: October eleventh.
Speaker 1: But I'm like, let's do Like I am scared, and
Speaker 1: I don't know if the anxiety is worse or getting
Speaker 1: fat from birth control is worse.
Speaker 2: And now I realize that sex is so awful, bitch.
Speaker 1: I want to fill out my cream piy fantasies, no
Speaker 1: pun on the fill like that shit is fucking hot.
Speaker 1: I have a crazy like, oh my god, come in
Speaker 1: this pussy kink.
Speaker 2: I just think putting it a sex. But you had
Speaker 2: like moments and bit or you always.
Speaker 1: In between your condom, always condoms and or with my
Speaker 1: ex boyfriend, just complete rhythm method.
Speaker 2: But like, yeah, I've been on some shit, bitch.
Speaker 4: Wait, so even when you were with your ex boyfriend,
Speaker 4: still condoms every time?
Speaker 1: No, no, no, we didn't use, but we were. We weren't
Speaker 1: doing creampie shit, especially during opulation. So right now I'm
Speaker 1: not doing it while I'm ovulating. I'm just saying it's
Speaker 1: making me check this period track every five minutes.
Speaker 2: Bro.
Speaker 1: I started getting a little upset today and hungry, and
Speaker 1: I'm like, am I pregnant?
Speaker 2: It's been four days? Like I am scared.
Speaker 4: Have you took in a pregnancy before because you were scared?
Speaker 4: Have you ever had to take Plan B?
Speaker 1: Yeah, but I don't want to right now because I'm
Speaker 1: so on time.
Speaker 2: Also Plan B I hate it.
Speaker 1: First of all, everybody remembers the Plan B in jail
Speaker 1: story where I had to slip up where I was
Speaker 1: fucking with this gangbanger and I had to take plan B.
Speaker 1: And then he did the courtesy called like, how are
Speaker 1: you feeling? Because you know what makes us cramp? I
Speaker 1: hate that whole thing.
Speaker 3: I don't want to deal with this. I want to
Speaker 3: I'd rather deal with that than an actual baby. Call
Speaker 3: me and ask me if I'm cramping. Nigga, call me
Speaker 3: and I'm gonna tell you.
Speaker 2: Do kno my period on early, but it's god damn peel,
Speaker 2: but it ain't no baby. I'd rather that than a baby. Brother.
Speaker 3: Man.
Speaker 1: I go to last lap right, shout out to bigger
Speaker 1: this stuff. There's a chick there who's pregnant. She's a bartender,
Speaker 1: and she was saying to me, I'm like, I don't
Speaker 1: even realize you were pregnant. Maybe I'm so drunk when
Speaker 1: I come in here. The first thing out of her
Speaker 1: mouth she's mad, funny. She goes yup to playing bes man.
Speaker 1: This baby kick throw yes.
Speaker 2: I didn't want to hear that. The night right there,
Speaker 2: the night that's a.
Speaker 3: Fighter, a fighter, Get the fucking egg.
Speaker 2: You a gift card. This baby couldn't what She's like,
Speaker 2: can you imagine two playing bees? And I was like, no,
Speaker 2: I can't.
Speaker 3: Well, maybe one canceled the other out too, Like maybe
Speaker 3: you're not like you know how, you're not supposed to
Speaker 3: double up condoms. You might not supposed to be doubling
Speaker 3: up playing beas double up condoms, no, because they can
Speaker 3: they can break if you double up condoms. People double
Speaker 3: up dummies, probably twenty year olds. Maybe, like let me
Speaker 3: get some extraction. Why that's what she found with the
Speaker 3: extra plan B who told her to take two Plan B?
Speaker 2: Right now, we all know it's just one. It's just one.
Speaker 2: Look even we all know it's just one. She's Latina,
Speaker 2: you know that extra five? Yeah? Well up, bro.
Speaker 1: Me and this nigga was having a conversation this weeker
Speaker 1: right about uh people Like He's like, oh, you know,
Speaker 1: when I date women with young moms, they kind of
Speaker 1: act like this when I date you were older moms.
Speaker 1: He's like, I've noticed this trend in women. I'm like,
Speaker 1: that's really interesting. He's like, most Latina shicks I've dated
Speaker 1: have young moms and their relationship to their mom is
Speaker 1: so sister like whatever. He's like, when I date like
Speaker 1: African girls, or Caribbean girls, they kind of.
Speaker 2: Have older parents.
Speaker 1: He's like, it's this fucking weird thing of how the
Speaker 1: women treat me. He's like with the younger moms, He's like,
Speaker 1: I noticed that, Like they have a little bit of
Speaker 1: gender roles in different like standards. And he's like, now,
Speaker 1: when I'm meeting women on a first date, I low
Speaker 1: keep be asking how old their parents are.
Speaker 2: Wow, isn't that weird? And it's just interesting because I
Speaker 2: don't really be Probably that's really people have a no fantasy.
Speaker 2: Be careful. He might like that they be hecky licenses.
Speaker 2: He might be I'm just saying, no king shaming. Austin, Texas.
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Speaker 1: I'm trying to shake some heads. Now, hor dur segment.
Speaker 1: I'm going to give a sex tip because I just
Speaker 1: tried something new and we normally ask our guests, but
Speaker 1: I definitely want yours. But bitch, I had sex with
Speaker 1: heels on. I know that that sounds so basic.
Speaker 2: Bitch, if you want my cavs, don't want that workout?
Speaker 2: You got it? No, because you don't put I'm on
Speaker 2: the bed. Oh you didn't stand up? Oh girl, I
Speaker 2: had to put my feet and let me show you.
Speaker 2: So you have a dress on? Please beat beat.
Speaker 1: I Basically when I was getting I kept need like this, okay,
Speaker 1: I had them up and they were up in the air.
Speaker 1: Oh girl.
Speaker 2: It was like fucking a striple hole.
Speaker 1: Indeed, in the middle of the sex because I looked
Speaker 1: like a little striple hole, I was like asking him
Speaker 1: his name.
Speaker 2: I was like, you got a girlfriend, and he was
Speaker 2: looking at me like this bitch is crazy. Bro.
Speaker 1: I was in full role play mode because these one
Speaker 1: god damn Steve Madden's shoes.
Speaker 2: Now I'll just put some goddamn shoes on them. That's it.
Speaker 3: If they brand knew even better. I'm too clumsy. I'll
Speaker 3: put that nigga in the eye with the heel.
Speaker 2: Oh. I was really yeah.
Speaker 3: I ain't got no coordination, a bitch halfway. I ain't
Speaker 3: got no rhythm, but I could throw the ass back
Speaker 3: and that's about it.
Speaker 2: Do you know, don't be asking me to coordinate to
Speaker 2: do a routine in the bedroom. Do you talk with
Speaker 2: shoes on? I don't think I've ever done that before.
Speaker 2: Do it tonight?
Speaker 3: Bro off the stage, off the stage, on the stage, not.
Speaker 2: On the No, keep the heels on. Go back to
Speaker 2: the bay and get it now. Sex tipt from you
Speaker 2: and I know you got one. This is like very
Speaker 2: on the spot. You guys, what did you do? You
Speaker 2: not listen to the show? We just talked to you
Speaker 2: like three months.
Speaker 3: Ago, and god damn la, I know we ain't got
Speaker 3: a will for you to spend today.
Speaker 2: But I like the wheel. I like games.
Speaker 3: I felt like youmn no girl, we want to get
Speaker 3: to know you and your sex tips and how good
Speaker 3: you are in the Bedroom's your new finance man.
Speaker 2: That's all? Yeh? No, Okay, let me think about it.
Speaker 2: What got him to be all about you?
Speaker 3: You said he does everything for you, act of service,
Speaker 3: He shows up for you he clean.
Speaker 2: Like, that's why I'm not. I love he want to
Speaker 2: be the third.
Speaker 3: So I just know what even a relationship wise, like
Speaker 3: what is your tip to getting a guy to even
Speaker 3: show up for you like that? Like did you do
Speaker 3: something specially in the bedroom that he's brought up or
Speaker 3: did you show up differently with him than you have
Speaker 3: in the past.
Speaker 4: First in the bedroom On the bedroom topic, I'm just
Speaker 4: always down to do anything, and I think me being
Speaker 4: so open about that lets people like I'm so open,
Speaker 4: like upfront, like I try anything.
Speaker 2: I literally try anything once. Is there anything that you
Speaker 2: probably like it?
Speaker 3: But is there anything that you've tried once that you're like, Okay,
Speaker 3: I'm not gonna do that again.
Speaker 2: No, okay, what do you think of something? I tried
Speaker 2: something that I said I was never gonna do. Girl,
Speaker 2: tell me.
Speaker 4: I said I was never ever gonna say daddy never.
Speaker 4: I was like, absolutely, I have too many real daddy
Speaker 4: issues to do that. Absolutely not same Now I'm doing
Speaker 4: it all.
Speaker 2: This him Dad.
Speaker 4: I never thought. I literally never thought. I always swore
Speaker 4: on my grade.
Speaker 2: Did he ask you or did you just feel like
Speaker 2: it's given? Dad? I asked him, Okay, are you into that?
Speaker 4: Because I had told him literally within the first week,
Speaker 4: I'm not doing that, like I'm down for anything.
Speaker 2: The one thing I won't do is do this. And
Speaker 2: he was like, okay, fine, like.
Speaker 4: And then I asked him if he wanted that, and
Speaker 4: he's very like he just wants to keep me happy
Speaker 4: and like.
Speaker 2: Feel the best I would ever feel.
Speaker 4: So he was like, I'm not like crazing it, like
Speaker 4: I don't need it, you know, like it's fine.
Speaker 2: I was like, but you want it.
Speaker 4: And he's like no, like I but I can tell
Speaker 4: in his face he's like I don't know. And I
Speaker 4: was like, ie, someone, I will fucking try it. Fuck it,
Speaker 4: I'll try it because I felt comfortable with him, like
Speaker 4: I felt safe. I never felt that safe with someone
Speaker 4: ever before in my life. Wow, ever, like to the
Speaker 4: point where like when I got raped, I got raped
Speaker 4: anally and that was like so bad because you know
Speaker 4: that's just yeah, no, oh you're marry. And I never
Speaker 4: could do it after that, Like I've tried it with
Speaker 4: people and started crying and like I just could not
Speaker 4: do it. He's the only person that I've been able
Speaker 4: to do that with ever, and I have to because
Speaker 4: I was so happy they just felt healed.
Speaker 2: From that experience. Wow, it was really so crazy. I was.
Speaker 4: Nineteen, damn Wow, the guy was twenty six.
Speaker 3: What was that conversation like with your partner, Like to
Speaker 3: know that this was a healing moment for you but
Speaker 3: also a moment of overcoming trauma something that I mean
Speaker 3: a lot of people who've experienced assault in various ways,
Speaker 3: they feel like that is absolutely something.
Speaker 2: I'll never be able to do.
Speaker 3: You thought that you would never be able to do it,
Speaker 3: and now you found a partner that you're safe with
Speaker 3: doing it. That after talk, that aftercare whatuld that look
Speaker 3: like when he saw you crying or you talked.
Speaker 2: After the tears.
Speaker 4: I'm like, he was just hugging me for so long
Speaker 4: and he was like, I'm so grateful that you do
Speaker 4: that with me and that you feel so safe with me,
Speaker 4: And I'm so happy for you and I'm so proud
Speaker 4: of you. I'm so happy that you got to enjoy
Speaker 4: the experience. Like it was just like the most beautiful moment.
Speaker 2: It was beautiful. That was such a touching, but it
Speaker 2: really was.
Speaker 4: I just felt so like cared for and it was
Speaker 4: like also to go from having someone be at their
Speaker 4: own pace when I'm not at their pace, right to
Speaker 4: having someone be at my pace knowing my experiences was
Speaker 4: so just like affirming, reaffirming, and I felt such a
Speaker 4: relief when when I felt relieved, I felt the relief.
Speaker 1: Yeah, because somebody fake it, Like I believe a lot
Speaker 1: of women fake it too.
Speaker 2: I want you to feel safe doing X, Y.
Speaker 1: Z with me, and they may even weaponize it against
Speaker 1: that man later, you know, like you never know if
Speaker 1: someone is just putting on to get you.
Speaker 2: No one's nicer than someone hasn't.
Speaker 1: Bucked you yet, you know what I mean, or somebody
Speaker 1: that wants something from you, and so you just kind
Speaker 1: of don't know.
Speaker 2: If someone has an experience that they're wanting to get out.
Speaker 1: Of you, they will be fucking kind employees before they
Speaker 1: get the job, you know what I'm saying. It's like, really,
Speaker 1: how are you gonna treat me? Right in that middle?
Speaker 1: So in the beginning, it's very difficult. So I think
Speaker 1: it's dope that you got to have that experience with
Speaker 1: a man. Yes, five months and yeah, I'm actually the
Speaker 1: only man I've been able to have.
Speaker 3: I want to ask you another question, uh, because yeah,
Speaker 3: this was on air, this wasn't off air heeling from
Speaker 3: a narcissistic relationship. I asked that because I haven't been
Speaker 3: able to really fully been touched. Like, Okay, I did
Speaker 3: get finger banged. That was nice, any aim, But that
Speaker 3: was only one guy in the last like five six months.
Speaker 3: You just said before yesterday, Well listen, I'm about to
Speaker 3: bleed again in the last five periods.
Speaker 2: Okay when this episode airs.
Speaker 3: I'm trying to be timely here, but I've been triggered
Speaker 3: in the thought of men touching me that's made me cry,
Speaker 3: like even at the sex club, a place where I
Speaker 3: felt comfortable, and then even in a conversation right, and
Speaker 3: a part of me leaving that relationship. I don't trust
Speaker 3: myself as much as I don't trust men. And there
Speaker 3: was another guy, Yes, there was another guy recently talking
Speaker 3: to me, and he was so nice and so kind,
Speaker 3: and I immediately went to my friends and I was like,
Speaker 3: I feel like I'm being love bombed. I feel like
Speaker 3: he's this isn't real, I like, And so it kind
Speaker 3: of even is keeping me from allowing maybe someone who's
Speaker 3: genuinely nice and maybe this is just who they are,
Speaker 3: to even show up in that way because I'm well,
Speaker 3: but also I'm just attaching nice gestures to this man
Speaker 3: is loved bombing me.
Speaker 2: This man is probably a narcissist.
Speaker 3: I don't want to feel taken advantage of, and I've
Speaker 3: completely pushed away.
Speaker 4: I felt the same way because I was I was
Speaker 4: with that person, that demon, that devil, who was a narcissist.
Speaker 4: And then the next person that I got involved with
Speaker 4: was also a narcissist.
Speaker 2: There's a lot I was not so used to. I
Speaker 2: was conditioned to be loved by narcissists for a very
Speaker 2: long time. How do you, how are you? What does
Speaker 2: that mean?
Speaker 3: My?
Speaker 4: Some of the most important people that were in my
Speaker 4: life for a really long time, we're narcissist. And because
Speaker 4: when you're a really genuine person and you're you allow
Speaker 4: yourself to be so vulnerable, they take advantage of that.
Speaker 2: They love that, they feed off they do.
Speaker 4: So I was conditioned to give into narcissistic people and
Speaker 4: and deal with their shit, and so that felt like
Speaker 4: home to me. It felt comfortable. That's what I was
Speaker 4: used to. Silencing yourself, yes, and by someone, but they're
Speaker 4: really just controlling and like almost want to cut all
Speaker 4: the other even narcissistic people out of your life because
Speaker 4: that way they have more control over you. So I
Speaker 4: was with that person and then the next situation, I
Speaker 4: was in narcissist, but that lasted way shorter, way way shorter.
Speaker 2: Because you're able to pick up on the red flag.
Speaker 4: Yeah, I was just like making myself enough and I
Speaker 4: know that I'm good on my own and this.
Speaker 2: Ship is fucking crazy. I'm done with that.
Speaker 4: And the same crazy shit that the guy that the
Speaker 4: guy did before this person, it was the same thing
Speaker 4: that she was doing. So I was just like, this
Speaker 4: is this is crazy. I see the signs now when
Speaker 4: the person real quick because you.
Speaker 3: Just said something, when we speak of narcissists, it could
Speaker 3: apply to both men. And yes, it's not just I
Speaker 3: know we talk about narcissistic men so much like this
Speaker 3: isn't We're not male bashing.
Speaker 2: We're not just putting this title on men.
Speaker 3: It could be with anyone who holds manipulative relationships with
Speaker 3: other people. And yeah, there's type it in the hashtag
Speaker 3: is crazy. I've been down the rabbit hole for the
Speaker 3: last four months.
Speaker 2: The hashtag is crazy. Oh girl.
Speaker 3: The algorithm of once you start seeing narcissistic shit, you
Speaker 3: start seeing the memes triggering what was it? It's people
Speaker 3: that literally show up. And I found out even all
Speaker 3: the breakups was for a reason. The pulling away every
Speaker 3: time he broke up with me because I questioned him
Speaker 3: is what led to me silencing myself at the end,
Speaker 3: like it's why I knew you lying, And instead of
Speaker 3: ruining the high of our roller coaster, because I didn't
Speaker 3: want to keep going like this, I would just ignore
Speaker 3: when I knew he was lying, or when he was
Speaker 3: doing something he wasn't supposed to do. For when I
Speaker 3: knew there was no way he was at another fucking funeral,
Speaker 3: because you've been to about three in the last motherfucking
Speaker 3: three months. So nobody this nigga was lying by going
Speaker 3: to funerals should have known because he lied about going
Speaker 3: to Panama for suits and he didn't even have a job,
Speaker 3: so I don't know why he had to go to
Speaker 3: Panama for suits. I found out later he was in
Speaker 3: Panama with a bitch. I don't you know what.
Speaker 2: I'm just over it. I'm not gonna lie the next
Speaker 2: thing I date.
Speaker 3: He got three funerals caps, otherwise I'm gonna feel like.
Speaker 2: He's so negative everyone around him is dying. I don't
Speaker 2: want to be in.
Speaker 3: His life because something ain't right. I don't want to
Speaker 3: be around nobody else. You got three funerals, Max, Nigga,
Speaker 3: if you come and date me and everybody around you
Speaker 3: starts dropping like flies, I gotta go because I might.
Speaker 2: Be nixt by. Wish you well, hope your morning peace.
Speaker 2: That Nigga had a funeral every motherfucking month, and I
Speaker 2: should have known some man, right, oh my.
Speaker 1: And at this point, maybe this is why you had
Speaker 1: this outlook about people taking time off.
Speaker 3: But maybe maybe my issue with bereathming is that Nigga
Speaker 3: might need to see the obituary something, oh my, funeral
Speaker 3: every month.
Speaker 2: And now I just feel like he was just using
Speaker 2: it because that's.
Speaker 3: The one thing you can't tell, y'all right.
Speaker 1: And it was like a day or two and so
Speaker 1: when he talked to he was like, I'm sorry, I
Speaker 1: was doing that for my parents. My homeboy was like, listen,
Speaker 1: I'm gonna get his tip. He's like, I'm using the
Speaker 1: ship on hose And I still feel like there may
Speaker 1: be a chance that we could fuck, But I'm telling
Speaker 1: you anyway, he said, anytime I know, I'm slipping.
Speaker 2: Up of the bitch say you lost somebody.
Speaker 1: No, it's not that he said, I have to almost
Speaker 1: create some family ship because the bitch will be crazy
Speaker 1: if she telling me.
Speaker 2: I wouldn't with my mother's sucking m But that's what
Speaker 2: I'm saying. A funeral is one thing you can't be like, no,
Speaker 2: were you really you can't.
Speaker 3: You can't really be like let me see the body.
Speaker 3: You can't do no shit like you know what I mean?
Speaker 2: And then like this is crazy.
Speaker 1: See if he got a suit on basetime them that
Speaker 1: they'd be like babyish wanted the same.
Speaker 3: No, because right now you could go anywhere. Niggas could
Speaker 3: have on black teats depending on what type.
Speaker 2: Of funeral it is. What type of funeral could it be?
Speaker 3: Man, have you guys seen the funerals where they put
Speaker 3: the nigga and bomb them, dress them up like they
Speaker 3: had a club, and now the whole funeral got like
Speaker 3: they got hit using going around the funeral that you
Speaker 3: ain't seeing no funerals like that.
Speaker 2: It'd be a club, it'd be a celebration of life.
Speaker 4: Okay, wait wait wait, I want to just say some
Speaker 4: name with quick yes the thing because I was really
Speaker 4: scared that when I started this situation that it was
Speaker 4: love bombing because he was so so nice to me
Speaker 4: and like so giving, so caring, so thoughtful, and I
Speaker 4: was like love love and I was just honest with
Speaker 4: him and was like, this is the past situations that
Speaker 4: I've been in. This is what I'm afraid of. And
Speaker 4: he was like, oh so you and he said it
Speaker 4: before me. He was like, oh so you, like are
Speaker 4: worried that this is left on me? And even him
Speaker 4: saying that was like, Okay, you're aware enough, Like you're
Speaker 4: aware enough of the situation, and you even saying that
Speaker 4: is giving me some sort of positive feeling affirmation that.
Speaker 2: Some sort of like because he's also validating my.
Speaker 4: Experiences before that he's my age, twenty six, and I've
Speaker 4: never been with somebody my age. But I'm also never
Speaker 4: another nigga more mature than him ever ever, And also
Speaker 4: that works in two ways.
Speaker 2: But also what I internet.
Speaker 4: Is that he also has so much time to grow too,
Speaker 4: because he's twenty six, you too, to be honest.
Speaker 2: Yeah, me too.
Speaker 1: I love conversations where I told a man I wasn't
Speaker 1: willing to sit around for his growth face if I
Speaker 1: met him at twenty six, I would, and I think
Speaker 1: I am not really dating men that are my they're
Speaker 1: always a little bit older.
Speaker 2: So maybe let's just say thirty six plus. I don't
Speaker 2: know if I'm waiting to see you grow at thirty six.
Speaker 3: I ain't gonna hold you, bitch, I was still entertain
Speaker 3: I told you it's twenty two to fifty two for me.
Speaker 2: Right now, I will go down. It's one to.
Speaker 3: Two the fifty two talk to me. I think they
Speaker 3: all about the same, that's they all. But they're literally
Speaker 3: the same from twenty two to fifty two. The only
Speaker 3: difference is they money. So that's why you gotta have.
Speaker 3: You gotta scrab a ball into a hoop of some differences.
Speaker 3: I'd be a millionaire twenty two for me to entertain you.
Speaker 3: Now face them, bitch.
Speaker 1: I want to talk about something that the men may
Speaker 1: appreciate today.
Speaker 2: I want to talk about competing for a man and
Speaker 2: seducing men.
Speaker 1: I had a conversation recently where I was joking about
Speaker 1: the favorite thing with my homegirl and she was like,
Speaker 1: how many people do you think so and so it's
Speaker 1: dating like whatever, And she's like, cause you don't need
Speaker 1: to be competing with no bitch, and I'm like, I
Speaker 1: don't be rud with you, bro, Like, I don't think
Speaker 1: that anyone dope that I meet doesn't have someone else
Speaker 1: that wants them, especially men.
Speaker 2: Women find there's more dope.
Speaker 1: Women out here than there are men, Like, lets to
Speaker 1: be honest, So I think that it's really opposite. Like
Speaker 1: one of my homeboys right now is like, bro, like,
Speaker 1: these girls will act like they're about to cut me
Speaker 1: off because they want more, and then two days later
Speaker 1: they're like bruh to anyone listening. I almost wonted if
Speaker 1: I did this too. He's like, this bitch was straight
Speaker 1: up in my house, like do you want me to
Speaker 1: leave now? Like I'm actually looking for something more whatever whatever.
Speaker 1: And he's like, no, you don't have to leave, like
Speaker 1: just because I want to casually date, like you know,
Speaker 1: you can relax. I'm not some shitty niggle like too,
Speaker 1: She's like, I don't want to leave myself on and
Speaker 1: whatever he said. Forty eight hours later, the girl's like, Okay,
Speaker 1: I think I can maybe do this. So a lot
Speaker 1: of women nowadays are kind of just molding to what
Speaker 1: men want right.
Speaker 2: All the time. So yes, there's ALU.
Speaker 1: If you meet someone fine, even if they broke you mean,
Speaker 1: someone rich, even if they're ugly, someone else is probably
Speaker 1: vying after that, right, So one, at some point, are
Speaker 1: we cool with being a little bit competitive? And I
Speaker 1: want to know if either of you won't really you, Kima,
Speaker 1: have you had a situation where you felt like you
Speaker 1: were competing with another woman and did you try at all?
Speaker 2: Like, were you okay with it? No? How do you know?
Speaker 4: Because I'm I'm just I feel like the people that
Speaker 4: I've been with in the past, whether it's just fucking
Speaker 4: or it's like relationships, I'm always number one no matter what,
Speaker 4: and like they will cut everything off. They have cut
Speaker 4: everything off and will for me.
Speaker 2: So like, but I don't even think about saying that
Speaker 2: unless yeah.
Speaker 4: But like most of the time we ended up in relationships, okay,
Speaker 4: but even if we didn't, that's what it was.
Speaker 2: So like.
Speaker 4: Also, I don't really like fuck people that aren't obsessed
Speaker 4: with me either, so like that's probably what it is too.
Speaker 4: It's like you get a shot to be in my
Speaker 4: pussy if you're obsessed with me, and I know you're obsessed.
Speaker 2: What is obsessed with you? Look like it's bad. It's bad.
Speaker 2: It's bad.
Speaker 3: That's why you ended up with two nurses exactly. Like
Speaker 3: it's bad, that's not it's not it's not a good thing.
Speaker 3: But like if someone if someone.
Speaker 4: Is obsessed with themselves and obsessed with me and treats
Speaker 4: me amazing, then I love that. But like people have
Speaker 4: like not had a life for themselves and kind of
Speaker 4: took my life as their own. Say, I been obsessed
Speaker 4: with me, and like, I think I liked that before
Speaker 4: because I liked being sought after and like I can't
Speaker 4: let go of you because they're so amazing. But then
Speaker 4: that also, like when I broke up with them, that
Speaker 4: you were like, I did not. It wasn't in my
Speaker 4: favor at that point.
Speaker 1: So when it comes to competing, I guess I would
Speaker 1: ask you, like, how do you think, if at all,
Speaker 1: you would be willing if someone was like, hey, there's
Speaker 1: like other women I'm dating, but I'm really into you,
Speaker 1: and you wanted to pursue them.
Speaker 3: We've talked about competitive dating all the time. I think
Speaker 3: that that's natural, that's normal. What do you think you'd
Speaker 3: be bitch hunger games made the best bitch win.
Speaker 1: What do you think are some things you'd be willing
Speaker 1: to do to show up in a way.
Speaker 2: I'm showing up as me.
Speaker 3: I work, if I if I have, you gonna know
Speaker 3: that I like picklebacks and caviar. You're gonna know that
Speaker 3: I like to go out and do live music. You're
Speaker 3: gonna know that I like die bars. You're gonna know
Speaker 3: that I.
Speaker 2: Like not you.
Speaker 3: No, but that's what I'm saying. I'm not showing up
Speaker 3: in any other way. These are the things I like
Speaker 3: to do. You date another women, cool, but this is
Speaker 3: me so I'm and hopefully you like me more than
Speaker 3: the other women.
Speaker 2: But I have a little I'm not dating here.
Speaker 1: I think that what I've been seeing recently from just
Speaker 1: discussing with other women and just like kind of the
Speaker 1: trend of even having male friends. I feel like every
Speaker 1: bad bitch expects that, like dudes are lucky to fuck her,
Speaker 1: and what we're not realizing is that And this is
Speaker 1: no shade to what either you were saying, Like this
Speaker 1: is us all knowing we have a standard. But I
Speaker 1: think the issue that sometimes we're seeing on the other
Speaker 1: end is like there are men that have the same
Speaker 1: shit going on and they're like, bro, I'm a good dude,
Speaker 1: but like now I have to sit here and do
Speaker 1: all this shit because I have to try to win you, Like,
Speaker 1: what are women doing at all for men?
Speaker 2: If anything?
Speaker 1: And if you feel like you have to do nothing
Speaker 1: for men, cool, But I do think there should be
Speaker 1: some dialogue, especially as women, knowing that we have women listening,
Speaker 1: where every girl can't think that just because they're pretty
Speaker 1: with a great job, that's enough.
Speaker 2: Oh I never said that. No, I'm not saying that
Speaker 2: you are saying that's right.
Speaker 1: But I do think a lot of girls are thinking,
Speaker 1: I have a degree, I've got an amazing job, I've
Speaker 1: got good benefits, i'm wifey material, I barely go out.
Speaker 2: He should want to be with me.
Speaker 1: And the problem with that is like that doesn't really
Speaker 1: show what you're doing for that person, Like how are
Speaker 1: you showing up as a good partner? Are women even
Speaker 1: talking and doing these things? Are they just showing anything
Speaker 1: that separates them?
Speaker 2: So that's the thing. I ain't showing up as a
Speaker 2: partner before I'm a partner.
Speaker 3: So I think if a man is honest enough to
Speaker 3: also let you know I'm entertaining of the bitches, chances
Speaker 3: are you're probably not in the top of the running.
Speaker 3: A man is honest with people that he wants to
Speaker 3: be casual with. I think otherwise, men lie.
Speaker 2: We've talked about that.
Speaker 3: I do think a man will lie and be like, no,
Speaker 3: I'm only entertaining you, or they don't want you to
Speaker 3: know that you're having to compete with other women. They're
Speaker 3: going to show up and see as much as they can.
Speaker 3: Like to me that I think that's the case. I know,
Speaker 3: like you've been open with your partners recently, but I
Speaker 3: think that if you have your eye closer on one
Speaker 3: price to where you know you'll cut all the mother
Speaker 3: bitches off. You're not sitting here and letting them know
Speaker 3: that you got all these mediocre bitches that you might
Speaker 3: not even be letting.
Speaker 1: Up into the game that are my Like, I can
Speaker 1: think of two three men I know right now that
Speaker 1: have told me like, yo, I'm feeling this girl so much,
Speaker 1: but I can't let her know because like, I don't
Speaker 1: know if I'm ready in this moment.
Speaker 2: But like, bro, I'm telling you, I don't think that's true.
Speaker 2: I mean, well, there's not one stop shop for anything.
Speaker 1: Let's be in an era where men are definitely being
Speaker 1: more transparent, because that is the trend of how relationships
Speaker 1: be because they.
Speaker 3: Want to let you know they don't want to fuck
Speaker 3: you and be with you and then also be able
Speaker 3: to fuck other women. I think the trend of us
Speaker 3: even having conversations about poly open relationships, non ethical non
Speaker 3: monogamy is what's also leading men to be more honest
Speaker 3: as well.
Speaker 1: You're saying men will lie to someone they want, they.
Speaker 3: Will, but that's because that's the whole guys if they're
Speaker 3: dating someone they really like and they're like, I only
Speaker 3: believe in monogamy, I don't do three SOMs and I
Speaker 3: don't do this, that's where the lies come in because
Speaker 3: they really like these women and they're not willing to
Speaker 3: lead those women because this woman wants a faithful monogamous relationship.
Speaker 3: So I think when you let someone know that you're
Speaker 3: talking to other women, that's where you also kind of
Speaker 3: test the temperature.
Speaker 2: Are you is that okay with you? Are you ethically
Speaker 2: non monogamous? Are you open? Are you cool with an
Speaker 2: open relationship?
Speaker 3: A lot of men are coming in using the word polly,
Speaker 3: not knowing what the fucking means or the boundaries and
Speaker 3: that they still have to be honest with everybody, but
Speaker 3: also testing the temperature because there's a lot more women
Speaker 3: that are okay with that.
Speaker 1: I think that you can prioritize someone you're dating and
Speaker 1: be super interested in them, and at the same time
Speaker 1: be like, hey, I am dating other people, but like
Speaker 1: I want to keep doing this, Like I think that's okay.
Speaker 1: I don't necessarily know if you're gonna lie. I don't
Speaker 1: want any women listening to things just because a man
Speaker 1: told you that that he doesn't have interest in you.
Speaker 1: I've ended up with three boyfriends that were dating other
Speaker 1: people at the time, so.
Speaker 2: I don't know.
Speaker 3: Again, I don't say anything as a one size fits all.
Speaker 3: I think your experience, my experience, Keana's experience all difference
Speaker 3: from each other. We're not sitting here and saying there's
Speaker 3: a right way or wrong way to do anything. But
Speaker 3: if we're gonna have a conversation and share all of
Speaker 3: these three different experiences, I think we should all be
Speaker 3: able to share what our thought process is on it.
Speaker 3: And I think for me personally, from the conversations I
Speaker 3: have with my male friends and the relationships I've been in,
Speaker 3: that's been the truth for me.
Speaker 2: And I'm also around a lot more.
Speaker 3: Lifestyle people than you are, so to me, that's the
Speaker 3: guise of what I've been told.
Speaker 1: What do you think, Keana, when you're dating and you know,
Speaker 1: men are seeming like someone that you'd want to end
Speaker 1: up with or maybe hubby boy for material whatever that
Speaker 1: might look like. What are ways that you show up
Speaker 1: as a good partner that you feel like make you
Speaker 1: stand out?
Speaker 4: Honestly, I think it's just like my vulnerability and how
Speaker 4: genuine I am because I and the safe space that
Speaker 4: I provide for that person too, because honestly, there's not
Speaker 4: a lot of people that can make everybody feel safe,
Speaker 4: no matter what they say and what has happened to
Speaker 4: them and what they do. I'm very accepting and loving
Speaker 4: most people and most importantly understanding, so as long as
Speaker 4: you're communicating with me. A lot of people can't take
Speaker 4: communication without getting defensive, you know, or letting ego play
Speaker 4: into it. And I am not that person. Like I
Speaker 4: will literally sit there and listen to your whole life
Speaker 4: story and ask you questions and be like, oh wow, okay,
Speaker 4: and that's.
Speaker 2: Your depending on that, how does it make you feel?
Speaker 4: Because I'm just so inquisitive, like I want to know everything,
Speaker 4: so like I will ask those questions, like about threesomes.
Speaker 2: That a lot of people probably don't ask.
Speaker 4: A lot of people are afraid to ask because they
Speaker 4: don't want to hear the wrong answer.
Speaker 2: And that you're going to be like, Okay, you're judging.
Speaker 4: Much exactly exactly, and I'm not judging at all. And
Speaker 4: I think that provides a really safe space for people.
Speaker 4: I think what makes me stand out is just me
Speaker 4: being me and my personality. And I think, unfortunately, the
Speaker 4: other thing that makes me stand out is my lifestyle
Speaker 4: because even though it's kind of unconventional and like the
Speaker 4: hours are weird and everything, like, I do get certain
Speaker 4: benefits and perks that a person would also get if they.
Speaker 2: Were with me. Yeah, you could do. That does play
Speaker 2: into it.
Speaker 4: When I'm dating or even if I'm like talking to
Speaker 4: someone or fucking or whatever, they see that and the
Speaker 4: wrong person will like latch onto that and try to
Speaker 4: get something out of me or cling on to me
Speaker 4: just for that thing. So that's something that I've been
Speaker 4: having to watch out for.
Speaker 2: My homegirl that does pr is experiencing that. Yeah, he's like,
Speaker 2: is he fucking with me? Or is something I just
Speaker 2: have liter shit to do every weekend? Yeah? Exactly? And
Speaker 2: what do you think about you?
Speaker 1: What do you think that men are like the most
Speaker 1: impressed with you by when they're like dating you.
Speaker 2: That I'm smart, don't.
Speaker 3: I don't think people expect it because of the persona
Speaker 3: on the internet in my pods, but just that a
Speaker 3: I'm I'm super caring. I want to make everyone's life
Speaker 3: better around me, and I don't want them to stress
Speaker 3: about anything.
Speaker 2: So if there's anything I can do, I'm going to
Speaker 2: do it.
Speaker 3: But also that we can have conversations about what you
Speaker 3: want to do professionally where you see your future. Like
Speaker 3: I'm all about setting goals and being intentional and being
Speaker 3: able to have those conversations and having ways to help
Speaker 3: and connect resources and whatever I can do to help
Speaker 3: anybody around me, I do. And so I'm just giving.
Speaker 3: I'm very giving and supportive and supportive to.
Speaker 2: Whatever you want to do.
Speaker 3: Now, if you broke and want to be a rapper,
Speaker 3: I don't know about day not at my big one.
Speaker 2: Nobody to pass you.
Speaker 3: But yeah, but I want to get into it because
Speaker 3: before we get out of here, you are touring Grudges,
Speaker 3: which is a phenomenal album. Again, one on my face
Speaker 3: literally promised me as in my top twenty five play
Speaker 3: songs on my Apple so just.
Speaker 2: You know, streaming.
Speaker 3: Hopefully you're going to get those coins because the music industry,
Speaker 3: you know, but you're about to hit your international stops.
Speaker 2: Yes, is this like a big deal? This like have
Speaker 2: you been to some of these points when we're.
Speaker 3: Supposed to do internet four years ago?
Speaker 1: I'm sure you're way bigger now, so it's even more
Speaker 1: I've been though.
Speaker 4: Are going to hit so excited because I have been
Speaker 4: there since my last tour, which was I was doing
Speaker 4: my uh EP and like all the venues were so
Speaker 4: much smaller, and it's kind of.
Speaker 3: Like, by the way, y'all, she slowed down New York
Speaker 3: and had to add another show. So if you if
Speaker 3: you're not even familiar with Keana, make sure you go
Speaker 3: check on all the DSPs, because baby, it's giving.
Speaker 2: You can have to it, you can cry to it.
Speaker 3: You can think of somebody you don't want to think
Speaker 3: about to it. All the musical at least evoke emotion,
Speaker 3: and I love that.
Speaker 2: What is the city the country you're most excited about.
Speaker 3: Oh, I'm least excited about Australia.
Speaker 4: I'm least excited for one of the cities and I'm
Speaker 4: not going to say which city is because my ex
Speaker 4: is from that city.
Speaker 2: Oh okay, it's giving, so I mean personal trauma.
Speaker 4: I'm excited for the fans and that, okay, but it's
Speaker 4: given personal trial.
Speaker 2: It's gonnager. But also my best friend that passed away
Speaker 2: is from Sydney, so I'm excited for that.
Speaker 3: Another one that's going to bring back memory.
Speaker 2: And I will tell you, I need you to go
Speaker 2: see the little people.
Speaker 3: I know I can't call them the other word, but
Speaker 3: little people box in the Philippine.
Speaker 2: What's up the N word?
Speaker 3: Uh? They literally call it that in the Philippines, but
Speaker 3: I'm not gonna call it. Actually, yeah, we could bleep
Speaker 3: it out. So they're boxing in the Philippines and it's
Speaker 3: so cool you go and they like, I don't know
Speaker 3: why they do it, but it's entertaining as fuck. Everyone
Speaker 3: like drinks beers with the handle and it's just that.
Speaker 3: There's also I want to say, the Philippines also has
Speaker 3: the pussy show, which they have in Thailand.
Speaker 2: Yeah, have you been a sailent ping pong? No?
Speaker 3: They always wanted to go. They shoot ping pongs out
Speaker 3: of their pussy then you can hit it. So look
Speaker 3: up the pussy show and.
Speaker 2: Look you can hit it with paddles. Yeah, they can
Speaker 2: hand you the paddle the no no, no, no no, the answer.
Speaker 1: But there's a lot of games that they do with
Speaker 1: their vaginas that like you get involved in, like maybe
Speaker 1: you'll be pulling a string out of there forever you have.
Speaker 2: It's like stream.
Speaker 3: The Philippines is so much fun fun, Like literally you
Speaker 3: can hand them a marker and they'll be like, and
Speaker 3: what's your name?
Speaker 2: And what their pussy? The marker goes in and they
Speaker 2: on the chest.
Speaker 3: This girl Amsterdam is in the Philippines, but like so cool.
Speaker 3: And I will say, in the Philippines I went to, Oh,
Speaker 3: I can't remember the city now.
Speaker 2: But just the Manila. I was a Manila. The Oh
Speaker 2: my god. They are the dopest.
Speaker 3: Because it's probably gonna be something racist to say, but
Speaker 3: they the niggas of Asia, like they literally are treated
Speaker 3: that way. Their dark skinned and they will tell you
Speaker 3: but also they speak the best English. But they are
Speaker 3: just the nicest, Like they don't treat Americans like in
Speaker 3: different parts of Asia you might get stand offish, especially
Speaker 3: if there's a person of color. The Philippines was cool
Speaker 3: as fuck. Shout out to everybody in the Philippines them
Speaker 3: Nigga's coolest. Fuck I ain't even gonna Yeah, so you.
Speaker 1: Just watched Beyonce's concerts and I was like, I came
Speaker 1: all the way from the Philippines.
Speaker 3: I was like, damn, you're really I hope you enjoyed
Speaker 3: as much as I did. Like that's so that's the
Speaker 3: play that the flight wasn't so far. I would go again,
Speaker 3: I really And then they have other beautiful islands that
Speaker 3: I wasn't able to get to, but.
Speaker 2: So there you go. Oh my god. I had been for.
Speaker 3: Soul too, and the fashion I'm so excited girl spas
Speaker 3: the Ramen vending machine thing machine.
Speaker 2: So Japan.
Speaker 1: Japan was probably like for me, like transforming in fashion
Speaker 1: is right up there. And meeting so many Koreans in
Speaker 1: LA has really made me, like, you know, when you
Speaker 1: have Southern friends, you're like, oh, should I gotta go
Speaker 1: to New Orleans?
Speaker 2: Whatever? The fuck? That shit really has made me want
Speaker 2: to be in fucking Korea.
Speaker 3: You never been, no the Korea that Americans And of
Speaker 3: course yeah there's two parts. I never know the difference anyway,
Speaker 3: So they can purchase stream and also follow.
Speaker 4: You following me at Keana the day k I N
Speaker 4: A L E d E. And you can find effort
Speaker 4: that there's a link in my bio where you can
Speaker 4: little click it and find every.
Speaker 3: So what we're gonna do is include that same link
Speaker 3: in the description of this episode.
Speaker 2: That's what we're gonna do to make sure nigga right
Speaker 2: next to it. Nigga nigga. Yes, we will, We absolutely will.
Speaker 3: And also, as you guys know, next weekend we're in London,
Speaker 3: so October the twenty eighth, make sure you pull up
Speaker 3: to us in London. Mandy convinced me, yeap got my
Speaker 3: fifth now, bitch, it's given, okay. And then November fifth,
Speaker 3: we are in Toronto, so those are two international shows,
Speaker 3: and then we are back here on the East Coast
Speaker 3: to wrap up. Boston and Philly is sold out, but
Speaker 3: you can still get your tickets for DC, and honestly,
Speaker 3: by now New York may be sold out, but DC
Speaker 3: New York if you can, and again Toronto and London.
Speaker 3: We're looking forward to seeing you get your tickets now
Speaker 3: at hor hive dot com. Ketu, thank you for joining
Speaker 3: us again so much, hey, and thank you all for
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