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Speaker 1: Hey you, thanks for listening to Horrible Decisions this week.

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Speaker 1: Mandy and I just wanted to present a trigger warning.

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Speaker 1: There is conversation about rape, so we just wanted to

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Speaker 1: make you aware of that sensitive material.

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Speaker 2: Guess what decision we're about to make? Horrible decision are y'all?

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Speaker 2: Welcome to another episode of Horrid Blair. This is Jones.

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Speaker 1: This might be the episode where you don't need to

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Speaker 1: try to sing.

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Speaker 3: First off, don't do that just because we got vocals

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Speaker 3: joining us today.

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Speaker 2: These vocals still hit. People say they love my voice. Hey,

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Speaker 2: you have a nice voice.

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Speaker 3: Okay, don't do day in the shower. That thing hit y'all.

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Speaker 3: I'm the girl with the voice today. Okay, Mandy B

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Speaker 3: what anyway?

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Speaker 2: Ya Hey, my name is Weezy.

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Speaker 1: Welcome back to another episode of the best podcast ever period.

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Speaker 2: We have a guest that has been asked for.

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Speaker 1: We had a little mini interview if y'all checked us

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Speaker 1: out BT weekend, and there's probably two people out of

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Speaker 1: seven hundred and six that we interview, but it was

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Speaker 1: like there was.

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Speaker 3: Like four hundred people and you was one of but

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Speaker 3: you should have seen to let me who is the

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Speaker 3: other one?

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Speaker 2: Oh?

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Speaker 3: I was it Masika. I like Masika Mosika. I enjoyed Mosika,

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Speaker 3: actually enjoyed. And there was a nigga, Young Pooda.

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Speaker 2: You wanted him. No, people were saying, oh oh no,

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Speaker 2: sorry k Malcolm Mask, Malcolm Maze, they wanted. I was like, girl,

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Speaker 2: Young Poodle was on Patreon stopping my man.

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Speaker 3: I'm just saying, you made the originals. You just be

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Speaker 3: making stuff up. I think she just liked that nigga.

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Speaker 1: You know when Sexy Red came out with that ship bitch,

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Speaker 1: I told.

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Speaker 2: All my niggas all.

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Speaker 3: She got a I love that for you, right, She's

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Speaker 3: really the one keeping this show going.

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Speaker 1: I'm only fucking too, Okay.

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Speaker 2: I feel like you're being honest. I actually am.

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Speaker 3: I love that you said that. Come on bringing in

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Speaker 3: feelings because feeling sometimes eight. I feel like you're being honest.

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Speaker 3: I have six niggas in rotation, and two of them

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Speaker 3: I'm sleeping with. So what I'm gonna do is one

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Speaker 3: New York win La. If New York or La fucks up, bitch,

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Speaker 3: the other ones can jump in. By the way, not

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Speaker 3: sure if we got to introduce you, but we are

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Speaker 3: sitting with the beautiful, the sunctuous canaa days in the building.

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Speaker 2: Hey, hello, hello, hello, and y'all.

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Speaker 3: Y'all might want to watch the YouTube for this one

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Speaker 3: because she came in sheer with nipple pier things and tattoos.

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Speaker 2: Okay, so if this slips off.

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Speaker 1: Looking all types not, Wait, had you like flashed a

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Speaker 1: titty or taking nudes yet and like posted them?

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Speaker 4: No, but I've always said, like, if my nudes get leaked,

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Speaker 4: you're welcome.

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Speaker 1: I'm sure he bit it iss like for you exactly,

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Speaker 1: I told Mandy, Like, I'm gonna act like I'm upset,

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Speaker 1: but low key feel like I'm validated, Like I really

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Speaker 1: do think I look better naked.

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Speaker 2: Actually, I'm positive I look better naked.

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Speaker 3: Oh, if I could not wear clothes, I would be

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Speaker 3: like I go to nude beaches when my friends come over. Bitch,

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Speaker 3: you don't see these cities in this before. So my

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Speaker 3: friends were naked. We sleep together naked. The only thing

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Speaker 3: I won't cut.

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Speaker 2: Naked off with your friends naked.

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Speaker 3: Absolutely, I wish my friends on vacation we're all naked.

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Speaker 3: I'm getting in bed naked and it's literally like we're

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Speaker 3: both naked. We don't me and my friend my friends

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Speaker 3: don't wear but.

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Speaker 2: Jama's either, I don't john like.

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Speaker 3: Okay, so when you with your friends, bitch, what pj

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Speaker 3: is coming from? You think I'm to buy Pj's to

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Speaker 3: be around my friend. I think it's because I'm actually

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Speaker 3: like pretty gay, That's why people can. But I'm also

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Speaker 3: the one that fucks my friends. You don't even fuck

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Speaker 3: your friend, but I'll be fucking. So that's actually probably

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Speaker 3: why we sleep together.

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Speaker 2: Now you have drunk moments? No, you said that, No,

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Speaker 2: but I fucked my friends. We ain't got to be

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Speaker 2: drunk for me to fuck my friends.

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Speaker 1: You said, fucking in the day fucking bitch in the

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Speaker 1: daytime would be crazy, that bitch.

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Speaker 2: I drink liquor in the daytime? Like, is that it's

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Speaker 2: a little bit they good for you?

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Speaker 3: Listen, well they found a little I'm gonna call you out.

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Speaker 3: My engineer found a little bottle of Tito's in it

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Speaker 3: because I knew Drizzly was gonna take too long. This

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Speaker 3: is not an ad. But also so the liquor store

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Speaker 2: I don't know what it's three, Sorry, it's five o'clock somewhere.

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Speaker 3: You mean, I did want to ask you what you've

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Speaker 3: been up to since we saw.

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Speaker 2: You in La Get in my life together? About it? Touring?

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Speaker 2: I'm on tour right now, so I have to ask you.

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Speaker 2: Do you oppose in different cities?

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Speaker 3: Please tell me? Tell me the touring life of an

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Speaker 3: R and B artist.

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Speaker 2: I need to know. I used to do that. I

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Speaker 2: don't know why because I'm in a relationship.

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Speaker 3: Oh well, you guys goes with me to different city.

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Speaker 2: So does that y'all be picking up people together?

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Speaker 3: No? No, no, we're not not yet. Oh but it

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Speaker 3: will come. No, bitch, I had a little in it.

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Speaker 2: Tell us more. I'm just.

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Speaker 4: We're ready, we're ready to add a third into the

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Speaker 4: area or just no, not a threattle, I mean, Christine's

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Speaker 4: pretty much as physical.

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Speaker 2: Unfortunate. How long have you been dating? Not the woman

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Speaker 2: having an account? But I know it's.

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Speaker 4: So bad he can't able to tell you to me,

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Speaker 4: And I'm like five months officially, maybe I'll do it.

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Speaker 2: I meant your neck bag.

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Speaker 3: Look, okay, Zick is not here, girl closed them mount Sorry, Okay,

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Speaker 3: so five months is new? How has he been with

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Speaker 3: the touring and seeing that there's people that want you,

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Speaker 3: both men and women. I'm sure like he's been comfortable

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Speaker 3: with that. Yeah, he's totally fine, Okay.

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Speaker 2: Does it turning line?

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Speaker 4: No, I think he's had to get comfortable with it,

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Speaker 4: just because he's not used to like being with people

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Speaker 3: Well, I can't wait until you start making songs about

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Speaker 3: this nigga because I know everything you have now is

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Speaker 3: does he know who promised me is about? Because that's

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Speaker 3: So does he know that there's a nigga in your

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Speaker 3: my ex, we did thirteen breaks and I went to

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Speaker 2: It's actually I'm singing about a guy and a girl.

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Speaker 4: There's different experiences, but I was feeling that in the moment.

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Speaker 4: Now I'm good. I'm good on that, But every time

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Speaker 3: Like, I want to tell you the truth. You're only

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Speaker 3: good on that because you really like this person right now? Yeah, yeah, yeah,

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Speaker 3: I don't do breaks me neither can't.

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Speaker 2: Once I'm done. It's finished for me. No no, no, no, okay.

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Speaker 3: But when I say I don't do breaks, it's because

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Speaker 3: a lot of people assume that when you are on

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Speaker 3: a break in a relationship, you still owe some sort

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Speaker 3: of respect to that partner, which is why every time

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Speaker 3: up and I'm going to fuck someone else, whether you're

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Speaker 2: Else because you felt like.

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Speaker 1: I have to like get this off while I'm single,

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Speaker 1: or did you fuck someone else because you've actually wanted

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Speaker 2: I mean, the promise me that we go fuck with

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Speaker 3: I was glad to have him back in my life,

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Speaker 3: but to me, honestly, it was it was my misconception,

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Speaker 3: and y'all we've talked about it here before. Fucking someone

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Speaker 3: else does not get you off the other person. And

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Speaker 3: I think a part of me during a lot of

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Speaker 3: those breakups, thought that I wouldn't be as hurt if

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Speaker 3: I just went and felt like I could be pleased

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Speaker 3: by someone else, especially the one person that I know

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Speaker 3: pleases me every goddamn time, have been pleasing me for

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Speaker 3: nine years.

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Speaker 2: So I was like nine girl, nine.

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Speaker 3: So I was like, let me just go back to

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Speaker 3: the rivers and the lakes that I'm used to.

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Speaker 2: This makes it easier, girl.

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Speaker 1: I just had a conversation with Aniga where I had

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Speaker 1: to tell him like he was like, yo, I just

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Speaker 1: really want to check in, like you told me recently,

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Speaker 1: super late you were disappointed. I want to check in

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Speaker 2: I said, well, let me just be talking light day girl.

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Speaker 2: Oh yeah, you date different types. Go ahead, Yeah, So

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Speaker 2: I said.

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Speaker 1: Listen, I'm just gonna say this to you. You're my

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Speaker 1: this is like, this is kind of what I'm used to.

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Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying. I need the fucking text

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Speaker 1: messages shit like that. If this is where you're at,

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Speaker 1: if you give a fuck about being my favorite, this

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Speaker 1: is what you would be doing. Don't get me wrong,

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Speaker 1: and those other niggas. I'm just honestly not putting as

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Speaker 1: much energy into them. So if you don't want to

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Speaker 1: do that, or if you feel like what I'm asking

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Speaker 1: you for is a stretch, someone else will become my favorite.

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Speaker 2: If he does all that, would you drop everybody else?

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Speaker 1: Good question, girl, It's funny because he told me that

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Speaker 1: he thinks I would.

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Speaker 2: She's like, nope, I didn't answer my question though.

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Speaker 3: That didn't get her.

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Speaker 2: The truth. Okay, the truth will slitch you. He doesn't

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Speaker 2: listen to my podcast? He will? Oh? I told my

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Speaker 2: man he is banned from watching these types. I don't

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Speaker 2: know if niggas say they don't, but they do. Yeah,

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Speaker 2: he's probably gonna watch like do they? Okay, here's true,

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Speaker 2: they do. They do long term.

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Speaker 1: I'm really like missing the boyfriend, feeling like him and

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Speaker 1: I spend weekends together. We do mad shit together, and

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Speaker 1: we're involving each other. He's gonna watch my dog when

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Speaker 1: I have to go do an event like I kind

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Speaker 1: of like that. However, are the qualities that he's showing

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Speaker 1: me things that I would want in a long term partner.

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Speaker 2: I don't know.

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Speaker 1: The reason that I'm not really sure though, is because

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Speaker 1: a nigga could look at me and be like this

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Speaker 1: bitch has a sex podcast. She talks about niggas every day,

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Speaker 1: she's fucking done x y Z. She lives in two cities.

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Speaker 1: Not a woman i'd want to be with, and then boom,

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Speaker 1: you end up falling in love with me. So I

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Speaker 1: don't fucking know that's really the answer.

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Speaker 2: I love how you can put all those sentences to

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Speaker 2: Then come on, Keanu, this is your interview. What are

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Speaker 2: always do this, I'm sorry. What makes them special?

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Speaker 2: Two, I think the other fablest thing.

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Speaker 1: But three, and this is very surface level but I

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Speaker 1: And don't get me wrong, I fucked with niggas that

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Speaker 2: It ain't not. I led to a three year relationship

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Speaker 1: For you.

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Speaker 2: But also it was the pandemic.

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Speaker 3: We spent the first twenty days together and then I

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Speaker 2: Made up my boyfriend. Before I made my boyfriend.

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Speaker 3: If he was getting flued out, Florida was the place

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Speaker 2: That's less.

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Speaker 3: No, no, no, no no, it wasn't less because we literally

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Speaker 1: It wasn't like about physical like looking at someone and

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Speaker 2: Okay, wait this was narciss yes, six seven ball head older.

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Speaker 3: Also he looked like this nigga I met All Star weekend,

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Speaker 2: This is literally, oh, this is literally the same situation

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Speaker 3: Bald bald ball ball eleven years older than me, seventeen

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Speaker 2: Yeah, and I was with him for a year and something. Yeah,

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Speaker 2: I mean, I'm not gonna lie, I guess is good.

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Speaker 3: No, I ain't gonna hold you keep the ball niggas

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Speaker 2: I ain't gonna hold you, y'all.

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Speaker 3: These two fingers, I know they put boodle holes and pussy.

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Speaker 3: They now to braid your hair, nigga, come to me

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Speaker 2: I got you. I will core roll them. Things you

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Speaker 2: want fishbones like bad? Why I used to? Do you

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Speaker 2: want braids and beads? Whatever you want? Bring your ass

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Speaker 2: I'm taking it now.

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Speaker 3: I ain't gonna hold you. Bring your ass. I will

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Speaker 2: Now, let me ask you something.

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Speaker 1: That's why I was saying, I don't want to talk

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Speaker 1: Like do you have someone that you've seen like that's

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Speaker 2: And it's crazy.

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Speaker 1: I mean I could be talking and he's thinking the

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Speaker 2: What it's okay. Are you feeling like you've had that before?

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Speaker 2: And can you think of maybe how many times that's

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Speaker 4: I have many, if at all, I mean a lot

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Speaker 4: you can't really you might be thinking that, but over

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Speaker 4: the fucking phone. You know, this situation was so different

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Speaker 4: because it was like we met through CALLI.

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Speaker 2: We met through CALLI, and it was like, definitely had

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Speaker 2: that moment. Why don't you like, would CALLI be the one?

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Speaker 1: Then?

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Speaker 2: Do you feel like no?

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Speaker 1: Like dead as so thinking about introducing a partner, Mandy

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Speaker 1: someone I'm not that fan. How do you feel like

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Speaker 1: you and Callie are close but you guys are making

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Speaker 1: out any flirt and shit? I don't know you talked too,

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Speaker 1: but would a friend be someone that you'd want to

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Speaker 4: We actually talked about that, and it's so funny. When

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Speaker 3: That, Yeah, she lives literally a block away, so no,

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Speaker 3: a friend that live in another state. I'm done with that.

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Speaker 3: That's none of my stranger. Like I want to just

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Speaker 2: Do it tell us, tell us how you want this

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Speaker 4: So the thing the only thing that's stopping me is

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Speaker 4: like I'm I want it to be fun obviously, okay,

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Speaker 2: Because I want to You don't know your boundaries exactly.

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Speaker 2: I want to be this.

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Speaker 4: I want to be the subject, like I want to

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Speaker 2: So it's so what's ideal?

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Speaker 4: But like it's it is me doing most of the

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Speaker 4: action okay, okay, most of the eating, you, sucking, you, kissing, you, flipping,

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Speaker 4: you doing everything. Yeah, and people are fucking. I just

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Speaker 2: What do you want him to?

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Speaker 3: Then you want you would be comfortable than him being

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Speaker 2: Now I would love to know in your scenario, because

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Speaker 3: Did she get to spend the night and cuddle with

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Speaker 2: Thank you good night about that night too.

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Speaker 1: So in a perfect world, my perfect unicorn experience was

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Speaker 1: I was saying I was saying, she gotta go the

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Speaker 2: I liked t having her around. Plus we were in

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Speaker 1: But but like she was a vibe though she was like,

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Speaker 2: And I was like why.

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Speaker 1: She was like, because I'm gonna eat that with y'all

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Speaker 1: like she made me feel like she was two into

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Speaker 2: But you might be all right, what does he here?

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Speaker 2: You going now? At the camera? Don get dang. I

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Speaker 2: can you held me my phone? You have it, let's

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Speaker 3: I don't even so I'm gonna be honest, I don't

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Speaker 3: want to see it. Okay, I will, but list this

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Speaker 2: Oh are you fucking kidding me?

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Speaker 3: And now oh oh but he's handsome, he's oh no, no, lie,

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Speaker 3: I thought you gotta keep just that just and that

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Speaker 4: This is no literally like it's disgusting, it's honestly discussing.

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Speaker 3: But also this is how simple we are. We literally

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Speaker 3: but you know, what, do you think that you'd have

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Speaker 2: Because I do. What do you mean?

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Speaker 3: We have the who hive here, and we have a

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Speaker 2: We have the same niggas. Look at this good.

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Speaker 3: A little lighter, oh my god, yeah he's a little lighter,

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Speaker 3: and his dreads are a little thicker, Oh my god.

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Speaker 1: They're not free form I mean they are free for them.

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Speaker 1: But that's how in the locks I am right now.

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Speaker 1: I want to fucking do it all. But anyway, so okay,

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Speaker 1: you would be We're gonna help you with some steps

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Speaker 1: for your for your first three.

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Speaker 2: So I bank with him.

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Speaker 1: Now some other questions I have for you. So when

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Speaker 1: I was in a thro before. I've had a lot

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Speaker 2: Sam back on a weekend, I'll say, sex club is

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Speaker 2: Do you want to just wait? If you're in LA

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Speaker 2: Okay fantasy So okay, so.

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Speaker 4: My fantasy is to just fuck my partner, but in

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Speaker 2: Oh, you liked you want to be watch that?

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Speaker 4: I want to Yeah, I want everybody to be fucking

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Speaker 3: I want to be I mean one of the best,

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Speaker 3: one of the best things that I did was like

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Speaker 2: And it was like great. I was like, oh he

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Speaker 3: Wow, oh yeah, oh I don't know what he was

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Speaker 3: in the middle of the room.

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Speaker 2: And this was during COVID, so like there was only

443
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Speaker 2: there was only ten.

444
00:19:44,720 --> 00:19:46,800
Speaker 3: Other people in the room, like they limited it to

445
00:19:46,880 --> 00:19:47,560
Speaker 3: like twelve.

446
00:19:47,320 --> 00:19:52,440
Speaker 2: To fifteen weeks. This quarantine is crazy.

447
00:19:52,560 --> 00:19:55,880
Speaker 3: You'll chill, you sound judgy. It's good, it's good, it's good.

448
00:19:55,920 --> 00:20:00,560
Speaker 3: All right, only call COVID after Mexico. But in Mexican

449
00:20:00,600 --> 00:20:01,920
Speaker 3: we were out of resort.

450
00:20:02,760 --> 00:20:04,800
Speaker 2: That money. I'm sorry. You know now I'm at the

451
00:20:04,800 --> 00:20:07,959
Speaker 2: point where we could deny a check. Here go. We

452
00:20:07,960 --> 00:20:09,800
Speaker 2: were like we still gonna go. We were like, they

453
00:20:09,840 --> 00:20:11,720
Speaker 2: want to fucking find you. We had to wear.

454
00:20:11,720 --> 00:20:14,399
Speaker 3: Masks, gets us to do all that going. When you

455
00:20:14,440 --> 00:20:16,439
Speaker 3: got through that resort, there was a phone party.

456
00:20:16,480 --> 00:20:22,919
Speaker 2: Bitch Nigga was drinking champagne. All the people's asses. Oh no,

457
00:20:22,920 --> 00:20:26,160
Speaker 2: I'm about you. You might be real. Yeah, you are ready,

458
00:20:27,000 --> 00:20:27,880
Speaker 2: you are ready.

459
00:20:28,119 --> 00:20:31,520
Speaker 4: I'm just like so excited to explore because I don't.

460
00:20:31,840 --> 00:20:36,560
Speaker 4: Everybody has sex, Like, I don't understand why we are why, right, Like,

461
00:20:36,640 --> 00:20:37,920
Speaker 4: it's so crazy.

462
00:20:37,760 --> 00:20:38,879
Speaker 2: But you know why we shame it.

463
00:20:39,920 --> 00:20:43,680
Speaker 1: Everybody has sex, but we have this idea of what

464
00:20:43,720 --> 00:20:45,960
Speaker 1: we want people to see us as one because we

465
00:20:46,040 --> 00:20:49,320
Speaker 1: know how other people are thinking. So for example, I

466
00:20:49,320 --> 00:20:51,040
Speaker 1: could be in a room full of sex positive people

467
00:20:51,040 --> 00:20:52,800
Speaker 1: in this moment, but if I told you guys that

468
00:20:52,920 --> 00:20:55,120
Speaker 1: had a train ran on me last night, maybe one

469
00:20:55,119 --> 00:20:59,520
Speaker 1: person would secretly think I'm a whore even though So

470
00:20:59,600 --> 00:21:02,600
Speaker 1: that's the there is some shame in stigma around it.

471
00:21:02,680 --> 00:21:05,840
Speaker 2: Right. So it's like, yes, everybody has sex.

472
00:21:05,640 --> 00:21:08,480
Speaker 1: But there's a limit to what we think someone is

473
00:21:08,520 --> 00:21:10,720
Speaker 1: able to do and still have a good idea of

474
00:21:10,760 --> 00:21:13,000
Speaker 1: who they are, right Like, look at how the Internet

475
00:21:13,040 --> 00:21:15,840
Speaker 1: is treating Britney Renner, Like, I don't think that there's

476
00:21:15,840 --> 00:21:18,880
Speaker 1: anything wrong with Britney Renner being hull. I do think

477
00:21:18,920 --> 00:21:22,919
Speaker 1: some of her fucking bullshit about kids or baby daddies

478
00:21:22,960 --> 00:21:25,600
Speaker 1: or some of her other ideas are crazy, but it's

479
00:21:25,640 --> 00:21:26,240
Speaker 1: not the whole shit.

480
00:21:26,359 --> 00:21:27,520
Speaker 2: Yeah, but we can't.

481
00:21:27,200 --> 00:21:29,000
Speaker 1: Wait to tear her up, and by we I mean

482
00:21:29,000 --> 00:21:31,439
Speaker 1: psciety about a lot of her thoughts A lot of

483
00:21:31,440 --> 00:21:35,040
Speaker 1: her opinions, and so people will hate watch something because

484
00:21:35,080 --> 00:21:37,320
Speaker 1: they think they have this self inflated idea of who

485
00:21:37,359 --> 00:21:39,640
Speaker 1: they are, like their moral ground is better than ours

486
00:21:39,680 --> 00:21:42,200
Speaker 1: because they didn't fuck thirty five niggas, which is definitely

487
00:21:42,240 --> 00:21:45,440
Speaker 1: a lie. But it's really that it's that we all

488
00:21:45,480 --> 00:21:50,320
Speaker 1: have sex, but there's still this like hierarchy of what's acceptable.

489
00:21:50,400 --> 00:21:52,480
Speaker 2: Yeah, I'll be honest, I wanted to ask you a question.

490
00:21:54,040 --> 00:21:57,000
Speaker 3: In the perception of you, not only as artists, but

491
00:21:57,160 --> 00:21:59,840
Speaker 3: in dating, you actually look like sex.

492
00:22:00,840 --> 00:22:06,680
Speaker 2: I don't know, like figure out right now? Have you

493
00:22:06,840 --> 00:22:08,080
Speaker 2: never gotten that before?

494
00:22:08,160 --> 00:22:11,560
Speaker 3: Like you ooz and and that's what I think a

495
00:22:11,600 --> 00:22:15,200
Speaker 3: lot of what like sometimes it can be a compliment.

496
00:22:15,280 --> 00:22:17,399
Speaker 3: Sometimes it's like, oh, this keeps me from looking like

497
00:22:17,440 --> 00:22:19,600
Speaker 3: the girl next door or someone that maybe someone will wife.

498
00:22:19,640 --> 00:22:22,560
Speaker 2: Maybe I look like the fun girl. But have you

499
00:22:22,600 --> 00:22:23,399
Speaker 2: gotten that before?

500
00:22:23,800 --> 00:22:26,240
Speaker 3: And do you kind of like I mean, with this outfit,

501
00:22:26,280 --> 00:22:29,239
Speaker 3: you're definitely living in it. But what does it mean

502
00:22:29,280 --> 00:22:32,400
Speaker 3: to you for a woman or a man to look

503
00:22:32,440 --> 00:22:33,440
Speaker 3: like they oose sex?

504
00:22:33,520 --> 00:22:36,280
Speaker 2: Like they just look like they Oh my god, get it,

505
00:22:36,640 --> 00:22:39,800
Speaker 2: give you. I mean, I love it. I love it.

506
00:22:40,160 --> 00:22:42,600
Speaker 2: I think honestly, when I was younger.

507
00:22:42,680 --> 00:22:45,920
Speaker 4: It used to really scare me because I'm being over

508
00:22:45,960 --> 00:22:48,640
Speaker 4: sexualized as a sixteen year old and a fifteen years

509
00:22:48,680 --> 00:22:52,520
Speaker 4: that's what's fucking disgusting. Yeah, So I ran away from

510
00:22:53,000 --> 00:22:56,400
Speaker 4: my physical appearance and my sexuality for a really long

511
00:22:56,480 --> 00:22:59,560
Speaker 4: time until I felt comfortable with it within myself to

512
00:22:59,600 --> 00:23:01,040
Speaker 4: be like, Okay, I'm.

513
00:23:00,880 --> 00:23:02,280
Speaker 2: Beautiful, like I'm sexy.

514
00:23:02,400 --> 00:23:04,720
Speaker 4: Let me show my leg with my own power, you know,

515
00:23:04,760 --> 00:23:08,239
Speaker 4: with my own confidence, because I was told to do that.

516
00:23:08,480 --> 00:23:10,480
Speaker 2: For what did you do to get there?

517
00:23:11,080 --> 00:23:14,359
Speaker 3: And how did you also shy away from, you know,

518
00:23:15,000 --> 00:23:17,520
Speaker 3: being looked at as a sexual object at a young age.

519
00:23:17,640 --> 00:23:19,600
Speaker 3: Because we do have some of y'all that love to

520
00:23:19,600 --> 00:23:21,480
Speaker 3: tell us y'all been listening to us since high school,

521
00:23:21,880 --> 00:23:25,600
Speaker 3: and it's being like wool dang, really, but for someone

522
00:23:25,640 --> 00:23:28,560
Speaker 3: who's who's maybe you know, even eighteen, let's make it

523
00:23:28,560 --> 00:23:32,360
Speaker 3: that like eighteen nineteen being sexualized, that's a space where

524
00:23:32,359 --> 00:23:34,679
Speaker 3: you're also really insecure and you don't know how to

525
00:23:35,080 --> 00:23:40,000
Speaker 3: maybe say no to advances or that is also one

526
00:23:40,000 --> 00:23:42,639
Speaker 3: of the things that maybe makes you feel validated or wanted,

527
00:23:42,760 --> 00:23:45,119
Speaker 3: is that these men want to fuck you, because babe,

528
00:23:45,240 --> 00:23:46,800
Speaker 3: we all know in our twenties we thought that that

529
00:23:46,840 --> 00:23:48,960
Speaker 3: meant something. We thought of a man wanted to put

530
00:23:49,000 --> 00:23:51,880
Speaker 3: their dick in us and fuck us that ooh we're beautiful,

531
00:23:52,080 --> 00:23:52,760
Speaker 3: ooh we're.

532
00:23:52,720 --> 00:23:54,119
Speaker 2: Worrying that I thought of they were sucking me. Ra

533
00:23:54,119 --> 00:23:54,840
Speaker 2: all that done something.

534
00:23:54,920 --> 00:23:57,359
Speaker 3: But see, and a lot of people in their thirties

535
00:23:57,359 --> 00:23:59,600
Speaker 3: and forties still think that dumb test notion too. So

536
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Speaker 3: I wanted to to ask you, like, how you protected

537
00:24:02,240 --> 00:24:07,040
Speaker 3: yourself in your sexuality and then also how you found

538
00:24:07,440 --> 00:24:10,600
Speaker 3: the beauty in also your sexuality both.

539
00:24:10,400 --> 00:24:12,000
Speaker 2: Ways, that's a good question.

540
00:24:12,760 --> 00:24:21,600
Speaker 3: When I was younger, I don't think I protected myself necessarily, okay,

541
00:24:22,200 --> 00:24:23,880
Speaker 3: because there was a lot of people that I trusted,

542
00:24:24,040 --> 00:24:27,200
Speaker 3: and like, being on my own that young in LA

543
00:24:28,040 --> 00:24:30,280
Speaker 3: made me really vulnerable to that kind of stuff.

544
00:24:30,320 --> 00:24:32,040
Speaker 2: And you know, it was a lot of older people

545
00:24:32,200 --> 00:24:33,320
Speaker 2: telling me, you.

546
00:24:33,280 --> 00:24:36,960
Speaker 4: Know, show your leg, do this, do that, and you

547
00:24:37,040 --> 00:24:38,719
Speaker 4: listen to people that are older than you because they

548
00:24:38,760 --> 00:24:41,400
Speaker 4: think you think they know more. That's what we told

549
00:24:41,600 --> 00:24:45,000
Speaker 4: or even people that were like predators in my life

550
00:24:45,040 --> 00:24:48,000
Speaker 4: when I was so young, being fifteen in studios by myself,

551
00:24:48,080 --> 00:24:51,960
Speaker 4: it was like, oh, this guy says this, Okay, well

552
00:24:52,000 --> 00:24:53,960
Speaker 4: I should listen. And then it ended up being like

553
00:24:54,000 --> 00:24:56,560
Speaker 4: something super creepy. And I remember like my parents were

554
00:24:56,560 --> 00:25:00,680
Speaker 4: super strict, so I would literally hide things that were

555
00:25:00,720 --> 00:25:06,199
Speaker 4: going on with predators from my parents. Wow, because like

556
00:25:06,720 --> 00:25:08,840
Speaker 4: we had this rule where you know, they would check

557
00:25:08,880 --> 00:25:11,240
Speaker 4: my phone all the time. I wasn't allowed to have boyfriends.

558
00:25:11,280 --> 00:25:13,240
Speaker 4: I was when we were in text boys twenty six.

559
00:25:13,760 --> 00:25:15,800
Speaker 4: I wasn't allowed to text boys until I was like

560
00:25:16,119 --> 00:25:17,280
Speaker 4: a freshman in high school.

561
00:25:17,280 --> 00:25:18,760
Speaker 2: But they would still check my phone all the time.

562
00:25:18,800 --> 00:25:22,959
Speaker 4: So it was like it actually hindered me because I

563
00:25:23,040 --> 00:25:26,800
Speaker 4: wasn't able to navigate and have those conversations right and

564
00:25:26,920 --> 00:25:29,880
Speaker 4: what was wrong exactly were like with men. And then

565
00:25:30,359 --> 00:25:34,720
Speaker 4: sixteen fifteen, I'm out in La by myself with these

566
00:25:34,760 --> 00:25:36,919
Speaker 4: grown ass men who were all fucking disgusting.

567
00:25:37,040 --> 00:25:41,440
Speaker 1: Have you seen the video of a father calling the police.

568
00:25:41,560 --> 00:25:44,600
Speaker 1: There's a ring I saw it on Van Lathan's page.

569
00:25:45,240 --> 00:25:47,600
Speaker 1: There's a ring camera recording the police. He's like, yo,

570
00:25:47,720 --> 00:25:50,679
Speaker 1: I called you guys like ten hours ago, and he

571
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Speaker 1: was calling about his eleven year old daughter who was

572
00:25:52,640 --> 00:25:56,919
Speaker 1: talking to a predator online. And the woman, a woman

573
00:25:57,080 --> 00:26:01,399
Speaker 1: cop said she's a He's like, she's being manipulated to

574
00:26:01,400 --> 00:26:03,520
Speaker 1: take naked photos of herself. And she said, do you

575
00:26:03,560 --> 00:26:06,680
Speaker 1: know that your daughter can be charged with soliciting child porn?

576
00:26:06,960 --> 00:26:07,879
Speaker 2: Did you see this? No?

577
00:26:08,760 --> 00:26:11,399
Speaker 1: And it's on video and the dude is like, excuse me,

578
00:26:11,440 --> 00:26:12,400
Speaker 1: she's eleven years old.

579
00:26:12,720 --> 00:26:13,840
Speaker 2: She's like, yeah, are you aware?

580
00:26:13,920 --> 00:26:15,639
Speaker 1: Like she was sending on child phography and he was like,

581
00:26:15,680 --> 00:26:18,760
Speaker 1: you guys, have a nice night, Like wow, I aren't

582
00:26:18,760 --> 00:26:22,080
Speaker 1: even discussing back and forth. It was one of the

583
00:26:22,160 --> 00:26:25,080
Speaker 1: craziest things I'd probably seen online all year. The comments

584
00:26:25,080 --> 00:26:28,439
Speaker 1: were insane. I'm hoping and pretty sure these people have

585
00:26:28,480 --> 00:26:29,720
Speaker 1: gotten fired, but like I.

586
00:26:29,720 --> 00:26:33,320
Speaker 4: Hope so wop she's been through to make her think that,

587
00:26:34,000 --> 00:26:37,000
Speaker 4: Like what the fuck put that in her head?

588
00:26:37,240 --> 00:26:39,439
Speaker 3: I'm not gonna lie be okay to say something oh

589
00:26:39,880 --> 00:26:42,280
Speaker 3: the cop Yes, yeah, I was gonna say the eleven

590
00:26:42,359 --> 00:26:45,040
Speaker 3: year old. I think seeing what social media has done

591
00:26:45,040 --> 00:26:47,960
Speaker 3: now and the access like to be fair, I think

592
00:26:48,000 --> 00:26:50,720
Speaker 3: when I was eleven, I was using fake pictures of

593
00:26:50,760 --> 00:26:53,480
Speaker 3: jane i Eko in the mall like this is me

594
00:26:54,160 --> 00:26:56,560
Speaker 3: and I'm sixteen and really I'm.

595
00:26:56,440 --> 00:26:57,400
Speaker 2: Twelve or thirteen.

596
00:26:57,800 --> 00:26:59,840
Speaker 3: So literally, I don't know if y'all remember, like all

597
00:26:59,840 --> 00:27:03,440
Speaker 3: the airbrush photos I forgot. Janae Iiko had a whole

598
00:27:03,480 --> 00:27:06,119
Speaker 3: bunch online and I used to find them all in

599
00:27:06,119 --> 00:27:08,159
Speaker 3: those message boards where I used to read that you

600
00:27:08,240 --> 00:27:11,040
Speaker 3: fucked all of the b twok members. But Janey, you know,

601
00:27:11,160 --> 00:27:13,880
Speaker 3: was a cousin, so she was floating around in those

602
00:27:13,880 --> 00:27:16,440
Speaker 3: message boards. So I use her pictures all the time

603
00:27:16,680 --> 00:27:19,159
Speaker 3: because I was younger, but I had never gotten to

604
00:27:19,200 --> 00:27:22,040
Speaker 3: the point at that at that moment where I would

605
00:27:22,119 --> 00:27:27,520
Speaker 3: use sexual pictures. However, now where bikini photos, bathroom photos,

606
00:27:27,640 --> 00:27:31,080
Speaker 3: mirror pictures of all your favorite celebs, I mean, anyone

607
00:27:31,160 --> 00:27:34,280
Speaker 3: younger I would say than twenty four to twenty five.

608
00:27:34,880 --> 00:27:37,480
Speaker 2: Rihanna's nipples are out for everyone, like.

609
00:27:37,760 --> 00:27:40,480
Speaker 3: Kim Kay, and just the way that we have almost

610
00:27:40,560 --> 00:27:44,199
Speaker 3: glorified as well just accepting your body. I think that

611
00:27:44,240 --> 00:27:47,360
Speaker 3: there's a different narrative being taught as well to children. Yeah,

612
00:27:47,400 --> 00:27:50,320
Speaker 3: and it's it's I think it really is the parent's

613
00:27:50,400 --> 00:27:54,760
Speaker 3: responsibility to have those conversations. But it's really hard because

614
00:27:54,920 --> 00:27:56,159
Speaker 3: you can have it and then they go to their

615
00:27:56,160 --> 00:27:58,320
Speaker 3: friend's house, you can have it, and then they're at

616
00:27:58,359 --> 00:28:00,080
Speaker 3: school longer than they're with you.

617
00:28:00,080 --> 00:28:00,480
Speaker 2: You right.

618
00:28:00,920 --> 00:28:03,920
Speaker 3: I just think we're in a very very scary era

619
00:28:04,440 --> 00:28:07,399
Speaker 3: of protecting people but also holding people accountable and I

620
00:28:07,480 --> 00:28:10,199
Speaker 3: just talked about this. There's a lot of layers to it,

621
00:28:10,240 --> 00:28:11,440
Speaker 3: so I don't want to get into it. But we're

622
00:28:11,440 --> 00:28:14,480
Speaker 3: from Florida with some Florida girls, and they just passed

623
00:28:14,480 --> 00:28:18,600
Speaker 3: the law in Florida were pedophiles who violate anyone under

624
00:28:18,600 --> 00:28:22,880
Speaker 3: twelve years old the death penalty, and so I mean,

625
00:28:24,160 --> 00:28:26,880
Speaker 3: that's not the right thing to do. But again, it's

626
00:28:26,960 --> 00:28:31,159
Speaker 3: unfortunate when law enforcement, Well no, it's unfortunately. Yeah, Well

627
00:28:31,320 --> 00:28:33,560
Speaker 3: to me, it's well, only there's a few there's a

628
00:28:33,600 --> 00:28:37,560
Speaker 3: few things with that only and recently spoke about it.

629
00:28:37,680 --> 00:28:40,720
Speaker 2: But I think when you I was all for it,

630
00:28:40,800 --> 00:28:43,080
Speaker 2: I'm like, yeah, kill them. I don't like them.

631
00:28:43,320 --> 00:28:48,000
Speaker 3: But then when you get into well, not only wrongfully accused,

632
00:28:48,040 --> 00:28:51,760
Speaker 3: but proof and so to know that anyone under the

633
00:28:52,160 --> 00:28:55,080
Speaker 3: under twelve has to prove that this happened to them,

634
00:28:55,240 --> 00:29:00,479
Speaker 3: what that looks like retraumatizing children to make something ballot

635
00:29:00,640 --> 00:29:04,080
Speaker 3: or make or have enough proof to really charge someone.

636
00:29:04,600 --> 00:29:07,720
Speaker 3: Seeing how awesome men don't want to listen to women

637
00:29:07,840 --> 00:29:10,920
Speaker 3: when things happen, or the fact that depending on the

638
00:29:10,960 --> 00:29:14,320
Speaker 3: pennies a woman has, people may think that you invited

639
00:29:14,400 --> 00:29:17,280
Speaker 3: on Like we talked about that case in Germany, she

640
00:29:17,360 --> 00:29:19,840
Speaker 3: had lace Spannies on. She was right, and the literal

641
00:29:19,840 --> 00:29:21,880
Speaker 3: court threw it out because she was like laate Spannies.

642
00:29:22,000 --> 00:29:24,320
Speaker 3: She asked for it. So I just think that we're

643
00:29:24,320 --> 00:29:28,480
Speaker 3: also in this place where we're dealing with men still

644
00:29:28,520 --> 00:29:30,680
Speaker 3: in very high positions that really don't care about us.

645
00:29:30,680 --> 00:29:32,320
Speaker 2: Look at them taking away our rights to have kids.

646
00:29:32,360 --> 00:29:35,080
Speaker 1: I mean, I think that maybe there's good that'll come

647
00:29:35,080 --> 00:29:36,440
Speaker 1: out of this more than that it's all too good

648
00:29:36,520 --> 00:29:40,320
Speaker 1: that comes out soldiers dying more. And you know, I

649
00:29:40,720 --> 00:29:42,640
Speaker 1: say that all the time when people are like when

650
00:29:42,640 --> 00:29:44,720
Speaker 1: they used to talk about protesting and shit, oh my god,

651
00:29:44,840 --> 00:29:47,520
Speaker 1: what about the black owned businesses? Oh fucking well, cities

652
00:29:47,560 --> 00:29:49,760
Speaker 1: need to get destroyed, burnt up. That's what the fuck shit.

653
00:29:49,880 --> 00:29:51,160
Speaker 2: That's how my brain works.

654
00:29:51,160 --> 00:29:53,240
Speaker 1: I don't give a fuck who falls down for the

655
00:29:53,320 --> 00:29:55,400
Speaker 1: end of the road to look better. Okay, So that

656
00:29:55,840 --> 00:29:58,040
Speaker 1: is kind of how like my maybe little Malcolm X's

657
00:29:58,040 --> 00:29:58,520
Speaker 1: brain works.

658
00:29:58,680 --> 00:30:03,240
Speaker 4: Come on, Malcolm A really funny enough cities have burned down,

659
00:30:03,320 --> 00:30:06,240
Speaker 4: yet she's like, we're still paving the window.

660
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Speaker 1: Honestly, I'm just a very radical thinker in that way,

661
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Speaker 1: Like I kind of don't care. I think that like

662
00:30:12,680 --> 00:30:15,720
Speaker 1: we're so backwards in many aspects that like, I don't

663
00:30:15,720 --> 00:30:19,840
Speaker 1: think about the what if this person that person? I mean, anyway, Beach,

664
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Speaker 1: I found a vanilla shit and I'm curious to know

665
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Speaker 1: if you've ever had an injury, because.

666
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Speaker 3: This week, what did you say vanilla shit? Van van

667
00:30:31,920 --> 00:30:34,200
Speaker 3: is our sex in the news segment. Oh okay, So

668
00:30:34,320 --> 00:30:36,520
Speaker 3: this is something that really happened that probably made the

669
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Speaker 3: New York Post or some crazy news outlet.

670
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Speaker 1: In October twenty nineteen, a woman named Emma McGuinness was

671
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Speaker 1: celebrating her thirtieth birthday at Walt Disney.

672
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Speaker 2: But you too old to be celebrated.

673
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Speaker 1: She got on a water slide Typhoon in a typho

674
00:30:49,920 --> 00:30:56,560
Speaker 1: lagoon and experienced a painful wedgie dear vaginal lacerations, so

675
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Speaker 1: she filed the lawsuit on the water park where she

676
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Speaker 1: took the Humungo Cowabunga water slide. Disney said he puts

677
00:31:03,000 --> 00:31:05,240
Speaker 1: riders in an enclosed body slide, sending them on a

678
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Speaker 1: two hundred foot drop in the dark, and it sprays

679
00:31:08,720 --> 00:31:11,400
Speaker 1: their way to a surprise ending. So she was wearing

680
00:31:11,400 --> 00:31:15,720
Speaker 1: a one piece swimsuit. Things ended painfully despite listening to

681
00:31:15,760 --> 00:31:17,920
Speaker 1: the ride operators who told her to cross her arms,

682
00:31:18,000 --> 00:31:19,280
Speaker 1: laid back, you know how they do that whole thing

683
00:31:19,280 --> 00:31:22,520
Speaker 1: when you want to slide. So, the impact of the

684
00:31:22,600 --> 00:31:26,640
Speaker 1: slide and her standing at the standing water at the

685
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Speaker 1: bottom caused her clothing to forcefully be put between her

686
00:31:29,360 --> 00:31:32,240
Speaker 1: legs and water was violently forced inside of her.

687
00:31:32,600 --> 00:31:35,640
Speaker 2: She experienced immediate pain. Blood rushed down her legs.

688
00:31:35,760 --> 00:31:38,080
Speaker 1: She was taken to a hospital and they sent her

689
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Speaker 1: for a pair for kindacologic injuries, severe bodily injury to

690
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Speaker 1: her vagina, and she got fifty thousand dollars.

691
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Speaker 2: Bitch, that's not enough.

692
00:31:47,280 --> 00:31:50,240
Speaker 3: Well, well, this is the thing, which is why when

693
00:31:50,240 --> 00:31:53,280
Speaker 3: I saw this, I was like, oh, we got soup

694
00:31:53,280 --> 00:31:55,560
Speaker 3: for anything now. She literally only sold for her surgery.

695
00:31:55,560 --> 00:31:58,800
Speaker 3: Colls like, so that's all enough. Well, no, I felt

696
00:31:58,800 --> 00:32:02,960
Speaker 3: the same. She had literal damage done to her intestine.

697
00:32:03,200 --> 00:32:05,880
Speaker 3: So it went also so far up like when I

698
00:32:05,960 --> 00:32:09,240
Speaker 3: was hearing and reading further into the details of what

699
00:32:09,320 --> 00:32:10,160
Speaker 3: actually happened.

700
00:32:10,480 --> 00:32:11,600
Speaker 2: I think that's the thing.

701
00:32:13,000 --> 00:32:15,200
Speaker 3: They probably were able to protect themselves because they do

702
00:32:15,280 --> 00:32:17,840
Speaker 3: tell you the exact way. They could also probably say

703
00:32:17,880 --> 00:32:20,600
Speaker 3: thousands of people have ridden the slide. This has never happened.

704
00:32:20,840 --> 00:32:24,160
Speaker 3: This is a once and a you know million chances that.

705
00:32:24,800 --> 00:32:29,160
Speaker 1: On Good Morning America, my vagina was beautiful. I called

706
00:32:29,160 --> 00:32:31,800
Speaker 1: horrible decisions. Everybody wanted to eat it.

707
00:32:31,880 --> 00:32:35,200
Speaker 2: And now my clip is gone. Yeah, not my clit is.

708
00:32:35,360 --> 00:32:38,760
Speaker 1: Have you ever had a sex related injury, even though

709
00:32:38,800 --> 00:32:40,960
Speaker 1: this one was a water slide, like, I've definitely not

710
00:32:41,000 --> 00:32:43,760
Speaker 1: been able to talk the next day from the throat fucking ooh.

711
00:32:44,040 --> 00:32:47,960
Speaker 2: I've definitely had some soreness, some soreness, but that's a nothing.

712
00:32:49,360 --> 00:32:50,720
Speaker 2: You've been able to walk even fine.

713
00:32:51,880 --> 00:32:54,880
Speaker 4: Yeah, I mean there's definitely it's not an injury like it.

714
00:32:54,880 --> 00:32:57,920
Speaker 4: It's definitely uncomfortable, but I kind of liked the pain

715
00:32:57,960 --> 00:32:59,800
Speaker 4: because it feels like, Okay, I remember last night.

716
00:33:00,000 --> 00:33:00,520
Speaker 2: Every time I.

717
00:33:01,960 --> 00:33:04,600
Speaker 1: Last night, every time my cough and I laugh and

718
00:33:04,640 --> 00:33:06,320
Speaker 1: you feel you, I can feel you.

719
00:33:06,320 --> 00:33:10,880
Speaker 4: You're still here with me, baby, You're still He is.

720
00:33:10,800 --> 00:33:13,520
Speaker 2: Coming right out. No, just like anal sex, you know,

721
00:33:13,600 --> 00:33:15,520
Speaker 2: shit comes out differently. The next twenty four.

722
00:33:15,400 --> 00:33:18,640
Speaker 1: Hours, I feel my mind had a tilted uterus and

723
00:33:18,680 --> 00:33:20,640
Speaker 1: I literally was like, oh, who is he?

724
00:33:21,520 --> 00:33:25,920
Speaker 2: I wouldn't even want them. I'm any here. I do

725
00:33:26,040 --> 00:33:30,440
Speaker 2: not want Yes, you know what's crazy? Birth control that

726
00:33:30,480 --> 00:33:32,200
Speaker 2: works for me and There's been a lot of like,

727
00:33:32,360 --> 00:33:33,960
Speaker 2: what does that mean that you've been pregnant before? Or

728
00:33:33,960 --> 00:33:35,840
Speaker 2: you just gave me I actually have been pregnant off

729
00:33:35,880 --> 00:33:37,040
Speaker 2: of which one?

730
00:33:37,320 --> 00:33:40,480
Speaker 4: Uh So I tried all the pills. I tried the shots,

731
00:33:40,560 --> 00:33:42,760
Speaker 4: Like the pills would make me like super depressed or

732
00:33:43,080 --> 00:33:45,680
Speaker 4: make me gain weight. The shots made me gain weight

733
00:33:45,920 --> 00:33:46,560
Speaker 4: really bad.

734
00:33:47,200 --> 00:33:49,640
Speaker 2: Then so different.

735
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Speaker 4: So then I started trying to do this natural thing

736
00:33:51,600 --> 00:33:54,600
Speaker 4: where I would take my temperature every morning as soon

737
00:33:54,600 --> 00:33:56,920
Speaker 4: as I woke up and mark in my calendar and

738
00:33:56,920 --> 00:33:59,160
Speaker 4: then it would tell me when I was ovulating. So

739
00:33:59,240 --> 00:34:01,880
Speaker 4: I was doing that and that's just really tricky, Like

740
00:34:01,880 --> 00:34:02,360
Speaker 4: you wake up.

741
00:34:02,760 --> 00:34:04,600
Speaker 1: Don't give me a better The rhythm method didn't work

742
00:34:04,600 --> 00:34:07,480
Speaker 1: for you. Had a while Saturday night, I told you,

743
00:34:07,560 --> 00:34:07,960
Speaker 1: I think.

744
00:34:07,800 --> 00:34:11,440
Speaker 2: The rhythm method is I mean also, I was also twenty.

745
00:34:11,360 --> 00:34:14,160
Speaker 4: Like I was like you, I don't really know your body.

746
00:34:14,320 --> 00:34:17,080
Speaker 4: I did not know my body, okay, So yeah, then

747
00:34:17,080 --> 00:34:21,040
Speaker 4: I got pregnant. That fucked okay literally and that's how

748
00:34:21,080 --> 00:34:21,840
Speaker 4: I ended up pregnant.

749
00:34:21,960 --> 00:34:22,799
Speaker 2: So you got fun.

750
00:34:22,920 --> 00:34:27,160
Speaker 1: I've been losing the rhythm method. I was pregnant the

751
00:34:27,200 --> 00:34:29,640
Speaker 1: last time at twenty five on thirty two. I have

752
00:34:29,880 --> 00:34:34,120
Speaker 1: not had any kind of cream price stitch during ovulation.

753
00:34:34,800 --> 00:34:39,799
Speaker 1: Now I am really on time though, like twenty eight

754
00:34:39,800 --> 00:34:42,560
Speaker 1: to twenty nine days like this, Like it's not off

755
00:34:42,800 --> 00:34:45,160
Speaker 1: to the point where it's a little scary. And now

756
00:34:45,200 --> 00:34:48,080
Speaker 1: that I'm like sleeping with someone new, and I'm just like,

757
00:34:48,160 --> 00:34:51,839
Speaker 1: you know, new people knew. One person new new.

758
00:34:52,400 --> 00:34:57,320
Speaker 3: No you, he adds a celer went through together.

759
00:34:57,880 --> 00:34:58,960
Speaker 2: Yeah, one person is new.

760
00:34:59,800 --> 00:35:02,160
Speaker 1: I'm literally like, oh god, now I have to sit

761
00:35:02,200 --> 00:35:04,319
Speaker 1: here and talk through this shit with this nigga now,

762
00:35:04,480 --> 00:35:07,560
Speaker 1: like because I can't sleep with two people without condoms, right,

763
00:35:07,560 --> 00:35:10,080
Speaker 1: and I've been fucking one person for years with a condom.

764
00:35:10,239 --> 00:35:11,759
Speaker 2: So I'm like, okay, maybe you and I could take

765
00:35:11,760 --> 00:35:12,799
Speaker 2: a chance. Bitch.

766
00:35:12,840 --> 00:35:14,759
Speaker 1: This shit is nerve wrecking. I forgot what it's like

767
00:35:14,800 --> 00:35:17,640
Speaker 1: to fuck somebody like this. Oh my god, it's none juw.

768
00:35:17,719 --> 00:35:20,040
Speaker 1: That was Saturday. It's Tuesday. It's been all my mind

769
00:35:20,080 --> 00:35:21,560
Speaker 1: every day. Am I with child?

770
00:35:21,760 --> 00:35:26,239
Speaker 2: It's October? I don't know three I'm fucking ovulating on

771
00:35:26,280 --> 00:35:27,080
Speaker 2: October eleventh.

772
00:35:27,080 --> 00:35:30,480
Speaker 1: But I'm like, let's do Like I am scared, and

773
00:35:30,560 --> 00:35:32,520
Speaker 1: I don't know if the anxiety is worse or getting

774
00:35:32,520 --> 00:35:33,839
Speaker 1: fat from birth control is worse.

775
00:35:34,160 --> 00:35:38,360
Speaker 2: And now I realize that sex is so awful, bitch.

776
00:35:38,400 --> 00:35:41,040
Speaker 1: I want to fill out my cream piy fantasies, no

777
00:35:41,239 --> 00:35:43,680
Speaker 1: pun on the fill like that shit is fucking hot.

778
00:35:44,120 --> 00:35:46,840
Speaker 1: I have a crazy like, oh my god, come in

779
00:35:46,880 --> 00:35:47,719
Speaker 1: this pussy kink.

780
00:35:48,960 --> 00:35:51,120
Speaker 2: I just think putting it a sex. But you had

781
00:35:51,160 --> 00:35:53,799
Speaker 2: like moments and bit or you always.

782
00:35:53,520 --> 00:35:56,840
Speaker 1: In between your condom, always condoms and or with my

783
00:35:56,880 --> 00:36:00,000
Speaker 1: ex boyfriend, just complete rhythm method.

784
00:36:00,600 --> 00:36:03,680
Speaker 2: But like, yeah, I've been on some shit, bitch.

785
00:36:04,239 --> 00:36:06,400
Speaker 4: Wait, so even when you were with your ex boyfriend,

786
00:36:06,480 --> 00:36:07,520
Speaker 4: still condoms every time?

787
00:36:07,560 --> 00:36:09,920
Speaker 1: No, no, no, we didn't use, but we were. We weren't

788
00:36:09,920 --> 00:36:15,120
Speaker 1: doing creampie shit, especially during opulation. So right now I'm

789
00:36:15,160 --> 00:36:18,359
Speaker 1: not doing it while I'm ovulating. I'm just saying it's

790
00:36:18,360 --> 00:36:20,480
Speaker 1: making me check this period track every five minutes.

791
00:36:21,080 --> 00:36:21,239
Speaker 2: Bro.

792
00:36:21,360 --> 00:36:23,279
Speaker 1: I started getting a little upset today and hungry, and

793
00:36:23,280 --> 00:36:24,080
Speaker 1: I'm like, am I pregnant?

794
00:36:24,080 --> 00:36:26,880
Speaker 2: It's been four days? Like I am scared.

795
00:36:27,160 --> 00:36:29,920
Speaker 4: Have you took in a pregnancy before because you were scared?

796
00:36:30,040 --> 00:36:31,120
Speaker 4: Have you ever had to take Plan B?

797
00:36:32,120 --> 00:36:34,120
Speaker 1: Yeah, but I don't want to right now because I'm

798
00:36:34,160 --> 00:36:34,839
Speaker 1: so on time.

799
00:36:35,160 --> 00:36:37,160
Speaker 2: Also Plan B I hate it.

800
00:36:37,480 --> 00:36:40,080
Speaker 1: First of all, everybody remembers the Plan B in jail

801
00:36:40,160 --> 00:36:41,560
Speaker 1: story where I had to slip up where I was

802
00:36:41,600 --> 00:36:43,960
Speaker 1: fucking with this gangbanger and I had to take plan B.

803
00:36:44,200 --> 00:36:45,719
Speaker 1: And then he did the courtesy called like, how are

804
00:36:45,719 --> 00:36:47,680
Speaker 1: you feeling? Because you know what makes us cramp? I

805
00:36:47,719 --> 00:36:48,520
Speaker 1: hate that whole thing.

806
00:36:48,560 --> 00:36:50,120
Speaker 3: I don't want to deal with this. I want to

807
00:36:50,120 --> 00:36:52,600
Speaker 3: I'd rather deal with that than an actual baby. Call

808
00:36:52,719 --> 00:36:55,120
Speaker 3: me and ask me if I'm cramping. Nigga, call me

809
00:36:55,200 --> 00:36:56,680
Speaker 3: and I'm gonna tell you.

810
00:36:56,680 --> 00:36:58,839
Speaker 2: Do kno my period on early, but it's god damn peel,

811
00:36:58,840 --> 00:37:02,080
Speaker 2: but it ain't no baby. I'd rather that than a baby. Brother.

812
00:37:02,120 --> 00:37:02,239
Speaker 3: Man.

813
00:37:02,320 --> 00:37:04,200
Speaker 1: I go to last lap right, shout out to bigger

814
00:37:04,640 --> 00:37:07,239
Speaker 1: this stuff. There's a chick there who's pregnant. She's a bartender,

815
00:37:07,280 --> 00:37:09,359
Speaker 1: and she was saying to me, I'm like, I don't

816
00:37:09,360 --> 00:37:11,279
Speaker 1: even realize you were pregnant. Maybe I'm so drunk when

817
00:37:11,320 --> 00:37:12,799
Speaker 1: I come in here. The first thing out of her

818
00:37:12,840 --> 00:37:15,879
Speaker 1: mouth she's mad, funny. She goes yup to playing bes man.

819
00:37:16,440 --> 00:37:18,279
Speaker 1: This baby kick throw yes.

820
00:37:19,440 --> 00:37:24,839
Speaker 2: I didn't want to hear that. The night right there,

821
00:37:25,160 --> 00:37:26,239
Speaker 2: the night that's a.

822
00:37:26,200 --> 00:37:37,320
Speaker 3: Fighter, a fighter, Get the fucking egg.

823
00:37:35,800 --> 00:37:39,279
Speaker 2: You a gift card. This baby couldn't what She's like,

824
00:37:39,280 --> 00:37:41,799
Speaker 2: can you imagine two playing bees? And I was like, no,

825
00:37:41,880 --> 00:37:42,520
Speaker 2: I can't.

826
00:37:42,719 --> 00:37:45,360
Speaker 3: Well, maybe one canceled the other out too, Like maybe

827
00:37:45,360 --> 00:37:47,440
Speaker 3: you're not like you know how, you're not supposed to

828
00:37:47,440 --> 00:37:50,880
Speaker 3: double up condoms. You might not supposed to be doubling

829
00:37:50,960 --> 00:37:53,759
Speaker 3: up playing beas double up condoms, no, because they can

830
00:37:53,880 --> 00:37:56,680
Speaker 3: they can break if you double up condoms. People double

831
00:37:56,760 --> 00:38:00,960
Speaker 3: up dummies, probably twenty year olds. Maybe, like let me

832
00:38:00,960 --> 00:38:03,200
Speaker 3: get some extraction. Why that's what she found with the

833
00:38:03,239 --> 00:38:05,440
Speaker 3: extra plan B who told her to take two Plan B?

834
00:38:06,840 --> 00:38:10,080
Speaker 2: Right now, we all know it's just one. It's just one.

835
00:38:10,160 --> 00:38:12,920
Speaker 2: Look even we all know it's just one. She's Latina,

836
00:38:13,000 --> 00:38:17,319
Speaker 2: you know that extra five? Yeah? Well up, bro.

837
00:38:17,960 --> 00:38:20,080
Speaker 1: Me and this nigga was having a conversation this weeker

838
00:38:20,239 --> 00:38:23,719
Speaker 1: right about uh people Like He's like, oh, you know,

839
00:38:23,719 --> 00:38:25,400
Speaker 1: when I date women with young moms, they kind of

840
00:38:25,400 --> 00:38:27,000
Speaker 1: act like this when I date you were older moms.

841
00:38:27,040 --> 00:38:28,719
Speaker 1: He's like, I've noticed this trend in women. I'm like,

842
00:38:28,719 --> 00:38:31,640
Speaker 1: that's really interesting. He's like, most Latina shicks I've dated

843
00:38:31,680 --> 00:38:34,520
Speaker 1: have young moms and their relationship to their mom is

844
00:38:34,520 --> 00:38:37,080
Speaker 1: so sister like whatever. He's like, when I date like

845
00:38:37,160 --> 00:38:39,600
Speaker 1: African girls, or Caribbean girls, they kind of.

846
00:38:39,520 --> 00:38:40,120
Speaker 2: Have older parents.

847
00:38:40,160 --> 00:38:42,440
Speaker 1: He's like, it's this fucking weird thing of how the

848
00:38:42,440 --> 00:38:45,680
Speaker 1: women treat me. He's like with the younger moms, He's like,

849
00:38:45,719 --> 00:38:47,600
Speaker 1: I noticed that, Like they have a little bit of

850
00:38:47,680 --> 00:38:50,560
Speaker 1: gender roles in different like standards. And he's like, now,

851
00:38:50,600 --> 00:38:53,560
Speaker 1: when I'm meeting women on a first date, I low

852
00:38:53,640 --> 00:38:55,120
Speaker 1: keep be asking how old their parents are.

853
00:38:55,960 --> 00:38:58,600
Speaker 2: Wow, isn't that weird? And it's just interesting because I

854
00:38:58,640 --> 00:39:01,560
Speaker 2: don't really be Probably that's really people have a no fantasy.

855
00:39:01,640 --> 00:39:04,480
Speaker 2: Be careful. He might like that they be hecky licenses.

856
00:39:04,719 --> 00:39:09,600
Speaker 2: He might be I'm just saying, no king shaming. Austin, Texas.

857
00:39:09,880 --> 00:39:12,440
Speaker 2: I'm coming there next week November first.

858
00:39:12,880 --> 00:39:14,600
Speaker 1: Come and party with me because I'm the host of

859
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Speaker 1: Broccoli City's Coco Butter Afrotech.

860
00:39:17,719 --> 00:39:20,239
Speaker 2: I've never been, but listen, my husband might be here

861
00:39:20,520 --> 00:39:21,000
Speaker 2: and it's.

862
00:39:20,840 --> 00:39:24,240
Speaker 1: Gonna be warehouse block party vibes all night long featuring

863
00:39:24,280 --> 00:39:28,719
Speaker 1: spins by Jay Murphy and DJ Cody Terrell. It's on Wednesday,

864
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Speaker 1: November one at the Empire Garage. The show starts at

865
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Speaker 1: seven point thirty. The link Coco Butterparty dot com. Click

866
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Speaker 1: in the description of this episode. Get your tickets because

867
00:39:40,719 --> 00:39:43,760
Speaker 1: I'm trying to shake some heads. Now, hor dur segment.

868
00:39:43,840 --> 00:39:45,400
Speaker 1: I'm going to give a sex tip because I just

869
00:39:45,440 --> 00:39:47,600
Speaker 1: tried something new and we normally ask our guests, but

870
00:39:47,880 --> 00:39:50,799
Speaker 1: I definitely want yours. But bitch, I had sex with

871
00:39:50,880 --> 00:39:54,080
Speaker 1: heels on. I know that that sounds so basic.

872
00:39:54,840 --> 00:39:58,360
Speaker 2: Bitch, if you want my cavs, don't want that workout?

873
00:39:58,400 --> 00:40:00,279
Speaker 2: You got it? No, because you don't put I'm on

874
00:40:00,280 --> 00:40:02,520
Speaker 2: the bed. Oh you didn't stand up? Oh girl, I

875
00:40:02,560 --> 00:40:05,200
Speaker 2: had to put my feet and let me show you.

876
00:40:05,239 --> 00:40:07,320
Speaker 2: So you have a dress on? Please beat beat.

877
00:40:07,400 --> 00:40:11,480
Speaker 1: I Basically when I was getting I kept need like this, okay,

878
00:40:11,680 --> 00:40:14,839
Speaker 1: I had them up and they were up in the air.

879
00:40:15,560 --> 00:40:16,240
Speaker 1: Oh girl.

880
00:40:16,960 --> 00:40:18,359
Speaker 2: It was like fucking a striple hole.

881
00:40:18,800 --> 00:40:21,399
Speaker 1: Indeed, in the middle of the sex because I looked

882
00:40:21,400 --> 00:40:23,799
Speaker 1: like a little striple hole, I was like asking him

883
00:40:23,800 --> 00:40:24,040
Speaker 1: his name.

884
00:40:24,080 --> 00:40:25,360
Speaker 2: I was like, you got a girlfriend, and he was

885
00:40:25,360 --> 00:40:27,040
Speaker 2: looking at me like this bitch is crazy. Bro.

886
00:40:27,160 --> 00:40:29,440
Speaker 1: I was in full role play mode because these one

887
00:40:29,520 --> 00:40:31,480
Speaker 1: god damn Steve Madden's shoes.

888
00:40:32,000 --> 00:40:35,480
Speaker 2: Now I'll just put some goddamn shoes on them. That's it.

889
00:40:35,680 --> 00:40:38,480
Speaker 3: If they brand knew even better. I'm too clumsy. I'll

890
00:40:38,480 --> 00:40:39,719
Speaker 3: put that nigga in the eye with the heel.

891
00:40:39,920 --> 00:40:41,000
Speaker 2: Oh. I was really yeah.

892
00:40:41,200 --> 00:40:44,000
Speaker 3: I ain't got no coordination, a bitch halfway. I ain't

893
00:40:44,000 --> 00:40:45,799
Speaker 3: got no rhythm, but I could throw the ass back

894
00:40:45,840 --> 00:40:46,520
Speaker 3: and that's about it.

895
00:40:46,640 --> 00:40:48,200
Speaker 2: Do you know, don't be asking me to coordinate to

896
00:40:48,239 --> 00:40:49,920
Speaker 2: do a routine in the bedroom. Do you talk with

897
00:40:49,960 --> 00:40:54,120
Speaker 2: shoes on? I don't think I've ever done that before.

898
00:40:54,160 --> 00:40:54,760
Speaker 2: Do it tonight?

899
00:40:54,760 --> 00:40:59,719
Speaker 3: Bro off the stage, off the stage, on the stage, not.

900
00:40:59,760 --> 00:41:02,840
Speaker 2: On the No, keep the heels on. Go back to

901
00:41:02,880 --> 00:41:07,359
Speaker 2: the bay and get it now. Sex tipt from you

902
00:41:08,920 --> 00:41:10,879
Speaker 2: and I know you got one. This is like very

903
00:41:10,920 --> 00:41:13,360
Speaker 2: on the spot. You guys, what did you do? You

904
00:41:13,400 --> 00:41:15,520
Speaker 2: not listen to the show? We just talked to you

905
00:41:15,719 --> 00:41:16,640
Speaker 2: like three months.

906
00:41:16,440 --> 00:41:18,839
Speaker 3: Ago, and god damn la, I know we ain't got

907
00:41:18,840 --> 00:41:20,080
Speaker 3: a will for you to spend today.

908
00:41:20,160 --> 00:41:24,440
Speaker 2: But I like the wheel. I like games.

909
00:41:24,520 --> 00:41:27,000
Speaker 3: I felt like youmn no girl, we want to get

910
00:41:27,040 --> 00:41:29,120
Speaker 3: to know you and your sex tips and how good

911
00:41:29,120 --> 00:41:31,280
Speaker 3: you are in the Bedroom's your new finance man.

912
00:41:31,360 --> 00:41:34,799
Speaker 2: That's all? Yeh? No, Okay, let me think about it.

913
00:41:34,840 --> 00:41:37,560
Speaker 2: What got him to be all about you?

914
00:41:37,560 --> 00:41:40,440
Speaker 3: You said he does everything for you, act of service,

915
00:41:40,480 --> 00:41:42,680
Speaker 3: He shows up for you he clean.

916
00:41:42,719 --> 00:41:44,759
Speaker 2: Like, that's why I'm not. I love he want to

917
00:41:44,760 --> 00:41:45,120
Speaker 2: be the third.

918
00:41:45,120 --> 00:41:47,640
Speaker 3: So I just know what even a relationship wise, like

919
00:41:48,000 --> 00:41:50,040
Speaker 3: what is your tip to getting a guy to even

920
00:41:50,080 --> 00:41:52,279
Speaker 3: show up for you like that? Like did you do

921
00:41:52,360 --> 00:41:54,799
Speaker 3: something specially in the bedroom that he's brought up or

922
00:41:55,440 --> 00:41:57,520
Speaker 3: did you show up differently with him than you have

923
00:41:57,760 --> 00:41:58,520
Speaker 3: in the past.

924
00:42:00,160 --> 00:42:04,279
Speaker 4: First in the bedroom On the bedroom topic, I'm just

925
00:42:04,360 --> 00:42:07,239
Speaker 4: always down to do anything, and I think me being

926
00:42:07,320 --> 00:42:10,320
Speaker 4: so open about that lets people like I'm so open,

927
00:42:10,440 --> 00:42:12,600
Speaker 4: like upfront, like I try anything.

928
00:42:13,000 --> 00:42:15,239
Speaker 2: I literally try anything once. Is there anything that you

929
00:42:15,360 --> 00:42:16,000
Speaker 2: probably like it?

930
00:42:16,040 --> 00:42:18,439
Speaker 3: But is there anything that you've tried once that you're like, Okay,

931
00:42:18,480 --> 00:42:19,640
Speaker 3: I'm not gonna do that again.

932
00:42:20,800 --> 00:42:23,720
Speaker 2: No, okay, what do you think of something? I tried

933
00:42:23,840 --> 00:42:26,760
Speaker 2: something that I said I was never gonna do. Girl,

934
00:42:26,880 --> 00:42:27,480
Speaker 2: tell me.

935
00:42:27,880 --> 00:42:31,319
Speaker 4: I said I was never ever gonna say daddy never.

936
00:42:31,600 --> 00:42:33,800
Speaker 4: I was like, absolutely, I have too many real daddy

937
00:42:33,800 --> 00:42:37,200
Speaker 4: issues to do that. Absolutely not same Now I'm doing

938
00:42:37,280 --> 00:42:37,600
Speaker 4: it all.

939
00:42:37,480 --> 00:42:40,600
Speaker 2: This him Dad.

940
00:42:40,680 --> 00:42:45,080
Speaker 4: I never thought. I literally never thought. I always swore

941
00:42:45,160 --> 00:42:45,719
Speaker 4: on my grade.

942
00:42:45,760 --> 00:42:47,719
Speaker 2: Did he ask you or did you just feel like

943
00:42:47,840 --> 00:42:52,560
Speaker 2: it's given? Dad? I asked him, Okay, are you into that?

944
00:42:52,800 --> 00:42:54,719
Speaker 4: Because I had told him literally within the first week,

945
00:42:54,760 --> 00:42:57,240
Speaker 4: I'm not doing that, like I'm down for anything.

946
00:42:57,280 --> 00:42:59,640
Speaker 2: The one thing I won't do is do this. And

947
00:42:59,680 --> 00:43:00,960
Speaker 2: he was like, okay, fine, like.

948
00:43:02,600 --> 00:43:04,600
Speaker 4: And then I asked him if he wanted that, and

949
00:43:04,640 --> 00:43:07,040
Speaker 4: he's very like he just wants to keep me happy

950
00:43:07,120 --> 00:43:07,440
Speaker 4: and like.

951
00:43:07,440 --> 00:43:09,720
Speaker 2: Feel the best I would ever feel.

952
00:43:10,080 --> 00:43:12,640
Speaker 4: So he was like, I'm not like crazing it, like

953
00:43:12,640 --> 00:43:14,640
Speaker 4: I don't need it, you know, like it's fine.

954
00:43:14,719 --> 00:43:16,439
Speaker 2: I was like, but you want it.

955
00:43:16,360 --> 00:43:18,640
Speaker 4: And he's like no, like I but I can tell

956
00:43:18,640 --> 00:43:24,520
Speaker 4: in his face he's like I don't know. And I

957
00:43:24,560 --> 00:43:28,840
Speaker 4: was like, ie, someone, I will fucking try it. Fuck it,

958
00:43:29,040 --> 00:43:31,239
Speaker 4: I'll try it because I felt comfortable with him, like

959
00:43:31,280 --> 00:43:34,440
Speaker 4: I felt safe. I never felt that safe with someone

960
00:43:34,600 --> 00:43:38,040
Speaker 4: ever before in my life. Wow, ever, like to the

961
00:43:38,120 --> 00:43:41,919
Speaker 4: point where like when I got raped, I got raped

962
00:43:41,960 --> 00:43:45,920
Speaker 4: anally and that was like so bad because you know

963
00:43:46,040 --> 00:43:50,200
Speaker 4: that's just yeah, no, oh you're marry. And I never

964
00:43:50,239 --> 00:43:52,560
Speaker 4: could do it after that, Like I've tried it with

965
00:43:52,600 --> 00:43:55,080
Speaker 4: people and started crying and like I just could not

966
00:43:55,200 --> 00:43:57,160
Speaker 4: do it. He's the only person that I've been able

967
00:43:57,200 --> 00:43:59,359
Speaker 4: to do that with ever, and I have to because

968
00:43:59,400 --> 00:44:01,920
Speaker 4: I was so happy they just felt healed.

969
00:44:01,600 --> 00:44:05,800
Speaker 2: From that experience. Wow, it was really so crazy. I was.

970
00:44:07,160 --> 00:44:11,000
Speaker 4: Nineteen, damn Wow, the guy was twenty six.

971
00:44:11,600 --> 00:44:14,200
Speaker 3: What was that conversation like with your partner, Like to

972
00:44:14,280 --> 00:44:17,239
Speaker 3: know that this was a healing moment for you but

973
00:44:17,400 --> 00:44:21,080
Speaker 3: also a moment of overcoming trauma something that I mean

974
00:44:21,120 --> 00:44:24,480
Speaker 3: a lot of people who've experienced assault in various ways,

975
00:44:24,480 --> 00:44:27,360
Speaker 3: they feel like that is absolutely something.

976
00:44:27,080 --> 00:44:28,080
Speaker 2: I'll never be able to do.

977
00:44:28,920 --> 00:44:30,440
Speaker 3: You thought that you would never be able to do it,

978
00:44:30,480 --> 00:44:31,960
Speaker 3: and now you found a partner that you're safe with

979
00:44:32,080 --> 00:44:35,359
Speaker 3: doing it. That after talk, that aftercare whatuld that look

980
00:44:35,440 --> 00:44:38,000
Speaker 3: like when he saw you crying or you talked.

981
00:44:37,840 --> 00:44:38,600
Speaker 2: After the tears.

982
00:44:38,719 --> 00:44:41,080
Speaker 4: I'm like, he was just hugging me for so long

983
00:44:41,239 --> 00:44:44,200
Speaker 4: and he was like, I'm so grateful that you do

984
00:44:44,320 --> 00:44:46,239
Speaker 4: that with me and that you feel so safe with me,

985
00:44:46,520 --> 00:44:49,439
Speaker 4: And I'm so happy for you and I'm so proud

986
00:44:49,480 --> 00:44:51,480
Speaker 4: of you. I'm so happy that you got to enjoy

987
00:44:51,520 --> 00:44:56,000
Speaker 4: the experience. Like it was just like the most beautiful moment.

988
00:44:57,320 --> 00:45:01,799
Speaker 2: It was beautiful. That was such a touching, but it

989
00:45:01,840 --> 00:45:02,400
Speaker 2: really was.

990
00:45:02,560 --> 00:45:06,759
Speaker 4: I just felt so like cared for and it was

991
00:45:06,840 --> 00:45:11,279
Speaker 4: like also to go from having someone be at their

992
00:45:11,320 --> 00:45:13,600
Speaker 4: own pace when I'm not at their pace, right to

993
00:45:13,640 --> 00:45:17,239
Speaker 4: having someone be at my pace knowing my experiences was

994
00:45:17,440 --> 00:45:22,319
Speaker 4: so just like affirming, reaffirming, and I felt such a

995
00:45:22,360 --> 00:45:26,120
Speaker 4: relief when when I felt relieved, I felt the relief.

996
00:45:26,760 --> 00:45:30,640
Speaker 1: Yeah, because somebody fake it, Like I believe a lot

997
00:45:30,640 --> 00:45:31,640
Speaker 1: of women fake it too.

998
00:45:32,400 --> 00:45:33,799
Speaker 2: I want you to feel safe doing X, Y.

999
00:45:33,920 --> 00:45:36,760
Speaker 1: Z with me, and they may even weaponize it against

1000
00:45:36,760 --> 00:45:39,799
Speaker 1: that man later, you know, like you never know if

1001
00:45:39,840 --> 00:45:41,480
Speaker 1: someone is just putting on to get you.

1002
00:45:41,520 --> 00:45:43,040
Speaker 2: No one's nicer than someone hasn't.

1003
00:45:42,840 --> 00:45:45,040
Speaker 1: Bucked you yet, you know what I mean, or somebody

1004
00:45:45,040 --> 00:45:47,120
Speaker 1: that wants something from you, and so you just kind

1005
00:45:47,200 --> 00:45:48,120
Speaker 1: of don't know.

1006
00:45:48,640 --> 00:45:51,040
Speaker 2: If someone has an experience that they're wanting to get out.

1007
00:45:50,880 --> 00:45:54,319
Speaker 1: Of you, they will be fucking kind employees before they

1008
00:45:54,320 --> 00:45:56,560
Speaker 1: get the job, you know what I'm saying. It's like, really,

1009
00:45:56,560 --> 00:45:58,760
Speaker 1: how are you gonna treat me? Right in that middle?

1010
00:45:59,080 --> 00:46:01,359
Speaker 1: So in the beginning, it's very difficult. So I think

1011
00:46:01,360 --> 00:46:03,719
Speaker 1: it's dope that you got to have that experience with

1012
00:46:03,840 --> 00:46:07,000
Speaker 1: a man. Yes, five months and yeah, I'm actually the

1013
00:46:07,040 --> 00:46:08,400
Speaker 1: only man I've been able to have.

1014
00:46:08,520 --> 00:46:12,520
Speaker 3: I want to ask you another question, uh, because yeah,

1015
00:46:12,520 --> 00:46:16,880
Speaker 3: this was on air, this wasn't off air heeling from

1016
00:46:16,960 --> 00:46:22,400
Speaker 3: a narcissistic relationship. I asked that because I haven't been

1017
00:46:22,440 --> 00:46:25,680
Speaker 3: able to really fully been touched. Like, Okay, I did

1018
00:46:25,760 --> 00:46:28,840
Speaker 3: get finger banged. That was nice, any aim, But that

1019
00:46:28,920 --> 00:46:31,760
Speaker 3: was only one guy in the last like five six months.

1020
00:46:32,320 --> 00:46:35,640
Speaker 3: You just said before yesterday, Well listen, I'm about to

1021
00:46:35,640 --> 00:46:38,800
Speaker 3: bleed again in the last five periods.

1022
00:46:38,880 --> 00:46:40,720
Speaker 2: Okay when this episode airs.

1023
00:46:40,760 --> 00:46:44,680
Speaker 3: I'm trying to be timely here, but I've been triggered

1024
00:46:44,719 --> 00:46:46,879
Speaker 3: in the thought of men touching me that's made me cry,

1025
00:46:47,080 --> 00:46:49,040
Speaker 3: like even at the sex club, a place where I

1026
00:46:49,160 --> 00:46:53,560
Speaker 3: felt comfortable, and then even in a conversation right, and

1027
00:46:53,760 --> 00:46:56,800
Speaker 3: a part of me leaving that relationship. I don't trust

1028
00:46:56,800 --> 00:46:58,920
Speaker 3: myself as much as I don't trust men. And there

1029
00:46:59,000 --> 00:47:03,040
Speaker 3: was another guy, Yes, there was another guy recently talking

1030
00:47:03,040 --> 00:47:05,120
Speaker 3: to me, and he was so nice and so kind,

1031
00:47:05,600 --> 00:47:07,440
Speaker 3: and I immediately went to my friends and I was like,

1032
00:47:07,520 --> 00:47:09,360
Speaker 3: I feel like I'm being love bombed. I feel like

1033
00:47:09,440 --> 00:47:12,399
Speaker 3: he's this isn't real, I like, And so it kind

1034
00:47:12,440 --> 00:47:15,120
Speaker 3: of even is keeping me from allowing maybe someone who's

1035
00:47:15,160 --> 00:47:17,200
Speaker 3: genuinely nice and maybe this is just who they are,

1036
00:47:17,440 --> 00:47:20,359
Speaker 3: to even show up in that way because I'm well,

1037
00:47:20,920 --> 00:47:24,560
Speaker 3: but also I'm just attaching nice gestures to this man

1038
00:47:24,680 --> 00:47:25,400
Speaker 3: is loved bombing me.

1039
00:47:26,000 --> 00:47:27,640
Speaker 2: This man is probably a narcissist.

1040
00:47:28,120 --> 00:47:29,879
Speaker 3: I don't want to feel taken advantage of, and I've

1041
00:47:29,920 --> 00:47:30,799
Speaker 3: completely pushed away.

1042
00:47:31,200 --> 00:47:34,880
Speaker 4: I felt the same way because I was I was

1043
00:47:35,320 --> 00:47:40,799
Speaker 4: with that person, that demon, that devil, who was a narcissist.

1044
00:47:41,000 --> 00:47:43,359
Speaker 4: And then the next person that I got involved with

1045
00:47:43,600 --> 00:47:45,680
Speaker 4: was also a narcissist.

1046
00:47:45,239 --> 00:47:47,879
Speaker 2: There's a lot I was not so used to. I

1047
00:47:47,920 --> 00:47:51,319
Speaker 2: was conditioned to be loved by narcissists for a very

1048
00:47:51,360 --> 00:47:55,000
Speaker 2: long time. How do you, how are you? What does

1049
00:47:55,080 --> 00:47:55,399
Speaker 2: that mean?

1050
00:47:55,840 --> 00:47:55,960
Speaker 3: My?

1051
00:47:57,800 --> 00:47:59,719
Speaker 4: Some of the most important people that were in my

1052
00:47:59,800 --> 00:48:03,640
Speaker 4: life for a really long time, we're narcissist. And because

1053
00:48:03,680 --> 00:48:07,160
Speaker 4: when you're a really genuine person and you're you allow

1054
00:48:07,160 --> 00:48:09,319
Speaker 4: yourself to be so vulnerable, they take advantage of that.

1055
00:48:09,920 --> 00:48:11,680
Speaker 2: They love that, they feed off they do.

1056
00:48:12,360 --> 00:48:18,640
Speaker 4: So I was conditioned to give into narcissistic people and

1057
00:48:18,640 --> 00:48:21,799
Speaker 4: and deal with their shit, and so that felt like

1058
00:48:21,840 --> 00:48:23,840
Speaker 4: home to me. It felt comfortable. That's what I was

1059
00:48:23,920 --> 00:48:30,799
Speaker 4: used to. Silencing yourself, yes, and by someone, but they're

1060
00:48:30,840 --> 00:48:34,000
Speaker 4: really just controlling and like almost want to cut all

1061
00:48:34,000 --> 00:48:36,439
Speaker 4: the other even narcissistic people out of your life because

1062
00:48:36,440 --> 00:48:38,520
Speaker 4: that way they have more control over you. So I

1063
00:48:38,560 --> 00:48:41,600
Speaker 4: was with that person and then the next situation, I

1064
00:48:41,640 --> 00:48:47,480
Speaker 4: was in narcissist, but that lasted way shorter, way way shorter.

1065
00:48:47,239 --> 00:48:49,000
Speaker 2: Because you're able to pick up on the red flag.

1066
00:48:49,080 --> 00:48:51,440
Speaker 4: Yeah, I was just like making myself enough and I

1067
00:48:51,520 --> 00:48:53,520
Speaker 4: know that I'm good on my own and this.

1068
00:48:53,400 --> 00:48:55,719
Speaker 2: Ship is fucking crazy. I'm done with that.

1069
00:48:56,040 --> 00:48:58,520
Speaker 4: And the same crazy shit that the guy that the

1070
00:48:58,600 --> 00:49:03,600
Speaker 4: guy did before this person, it was the same thing

1071
00:49:03,680 --> 00:49:06,440
Speaker 4: that she was doing. So I was just like, this

1072
00:49:06,080 --> 00:49:08,520
Speaker 4: is this is crazy. I see the signs now when

1073
00:49:08,560 --> 00:49:10,440
Speaker 4: the person real quick because you.

1074
00:49:10,480 --> 00:49:13,399
Speaker 3: Just said something, when we speak of narcissists, it could

1075
00:49:13,440 --> 00:49:16,440
Speaker 3: apply to both men. And yes, it's not just I

1076
00:49:16,480 --> 00:49:19,879
Speaker 3: know we talk about narcissistic men so much like this

1077
00:49:20,000 --> 00:49:21,640
Speaker 3: isn't We're not male bashing.

1078
00:49:21,960 --> 00:49:23,719
Speaker 2: We're not just putting this title on men.

1079
00:49:24,400 --> 00:49:28,640
Speaker 3: It could be with anyone who holds manipulative relationships with

1080
00:49:28,760 --> 00:49:34,240
Speaker 3: other people. And yeah, there's type it in the hashtag

1081
00:49:34,320 --> 00:49:35,960
Speaker 3: is crazy. I've been down the rabbit hole for the

1082
00:49:36,040 --> 00:49:36,680
Speaker 3: last four months.

1083
00:49:36,719 --> 00:49:38,640
Speaker 2: The hashtag is crazy. Oh girl.

1084
00:49:39,600 --> 00:49:43,399
Speaker 3: The algorithm of once you start seeing narcissistic shit, you

1085
00:49:43,440 --> 00:49:47,160
Speaker 3: start seeing the memes triggering what was it? It's people

1086
00:49:47,200 --> 00:49:50,640
Speaker 3: that literally show up. And I found out even all

1087
00:49:50,640 --> 00:49:53,160
Speaker 3: the breakups was for a reason. The pulling away every

1088
00:49:53,200 --> 00:49:55,040
Speaker 3: time he broke up with me because I questioned him

1089
00:49:55,320 --> 00:49:57,440
Speaker 3: is what led to me silencing myself at the end,

1090
00:49:58,120 --> 00:50:01,400
Speaker 3: like it's why I knew you lying, And instead of

1091
00:50:01,480 --> 00:50:04,680
Speaker 3: ruining the high of our roller coaster, because I didn't

1092
00:50:04,680 --> 00:50:07,240
Speaker 3: want to keep going like this, I would just ignore

1093
00:50:07,320 --> 00:50:09,120
Speaker 3: when I knew he was lying, or when he was

1094
00:50:09,160 --> 00:50:11,400
Speaker 3: doing something he wasn't supposed to do. For when I

1095
00:50:11,440 --> 00:50:13,720
Speaker 3: knew there was no way he was at another fucking funeral,

1096
00:50:13,800 --> 00:50:16,160
Speaker 3: because you've been to about three in the last motherfucking

1097
00:50:16,200 --> 00:50:19,359
Speaker 3: three months. So nobody this nigga was lying by going

1098
00:50:19,400 --> 00:50:21,680
Speaker 3: to funerals should have known because he lied about going

1099
00:50:21,680 --> 00:50:23,879
Speaker 3: to Panama for suits and he didn't even have a job,

1100
00:50:23,920 --> 00:50:24,840
Speaker 3: so I don't know why he had to go to

1101
00:50:24,840 --> 00:50:26,440
Speaker 3: Panama for suits. I found out later he was in

1102
00:50:26,440 --> 00:50:28,640
Speaker 3: Panama with a bitch. I don't you know what.

1103
00:50:28,719 --> 00:50:30,920
Speaker 2: I'm just over it. I'm not gonna lie the next

1104
00:50:30,960 --> 00:50:31,560
Speaker 2: thing I date.

1105
00:50:31,760 --> 00:50:34,680
Speaker 3: He got three funerals caps, otherwise I'm gonna feel like.

1106
00:50:34,800 --> 00:50:37,319
Speaker 2: He's so negative everyone around him is dying. I don't

1107
00:50:37,360 --> 00:50:37,879
Speaker 2: want to be in.

1108
00:50:37,840 --> 00:50:41,000
Speaker 3: His life because something ain't right. I don't want to

1109
00:50:41,000 --> 00:50:43,800
Speaker 3: be around nobody else. You got three funerals, Max, Nigga,

1110
00:50:43,800 --> 00:50:45,759
Speaker 3: if you come and date me and everybody around you

1111
00:50:45,760 --> 00:50:48,160
Speaker 3: starts dropping like flies, I gotta go because I might.

1112
00:50:48,040 --> 00:50:51,160
Speaker 2: Be nixt by. Wish you well, hope your morning peace.

1113
00:50:51,400 --> 00:50:53,719
Speaker 2: That Nigga had a funeral every motherfucking month, and I

1114
00:50:53,719 --> 00:50:56,200
Speaker 2: should have known some man, right, oh my.

1115
00:50:56,400 --> 00:50:58,279
Speaker 1: And at this point, maybe this is why you had

1116
00:50:58,280 --> 00:51:00,160
Speaker 1: this outlook about people taking time off.

1117
00:51:00,280 --> 00:51:03,640
Speaker 3: But maybe maybe my issue with bereathming is that Nigga

1118
00:51:03,719 --> 00:51:08,080
Speaker 3: might need to see the obituary something, oh my, funeral

1119
00:51:08,080 --> 00:51:08,440
Speaker 3: every month.

1120
00:51:08,440 --> 00:51:10,280
Speaker 2: And now I just feel like he was just using

1121
00:51:10,280 --> 00:51:11,560
Speaker 2: it because that's.

1122
00:51:11,400 --> 00:51:15,480
Speaker 3: The one thing you can't tell, y'all right.

1123
00:51:15,960 --> 00:51:19,040
Speaker 1: And it was like a day or two and so

1124
00:51:21,040 --> 00:51:22,239
Speaker 1: when he talked to he was like, I'm sorry, I

1125
00:51:22,280 --> 00:51:24,960
Speaker 1: was doing that for my parents. My homeboy was like, listen,

1126
00:51:25,080 --> 00:51:27,279
Speaker 1: I'm gonna get his tip. He's like, I'm using the

1127
00:51:27,280 --> 00:51:29,160
Speaker 1: ship on hose And I still feel like there may

1128
00:51:29,160 --> 00:51:32,200
Speaker 1: be a chance that we could fuck, But I'm telling

1129
00:51:32,200 --> 00:51:35,719
Speaker 1: you anyway, he said, anytime I know, I'm slipping.

1130
00:51:35,440 --> 00:51:37,400
Speaker 2: Up of the bitch say you lost somebody.

1131
00:51:37,480 --> 00:51:41,120
Speaker 1: No, it's not that he said, I have to almost

1132
00:51:41,239 --> 00:51:44,880
Speaker 1: create some family ship because the bitch will be crazy

1133
00:51:45,160 --> 00:51:45,759
Speaker 1: if she telling me.

1134
00:51:45,760 --> 00:51:48,040
Speaker 2: I wouldn't with my mother's sucking m But that's what

1135
00:51:48,040 --> 00:51:50,759
Speaker 2: I'm saying. A funeral is one thing you can't be like, no,

1136
00:51:50,840 --> 00:51:53,440
Speaker 2: were you really you can't.

1137
00:51:54,040 --> 00:51:55,960
Speaker 3: You can't really be like let me see the body.

1138
00:51:56,320 --> 00:51:59,839
Speaker 3: You can't do no shit like you know what I mean?

1139
00:52:00,400 --> 00:52:02,719
Speaker 2: And then like this is crazy.

1140
00:52:03,360 --> 00:52:05,360
Speaker 1: See if he got a suit on basetime them that

1141
00:52:05,400 --> 00:52:06,799
Speaker 1: they'd be like babyish wanted the same.

1142
00:52:07,000 --> 00:52:09,279
Speaker 3: No, because right now you could go anywhere. Niggas could

1143
00:52:09,320 --> 00:52:10,960
Speaker 3: have on black teats depending on what type.

1144
00:52:10,800 --> 00:52:13,759
Speaker 2: Of funeral it is. What type of funeral could it be?

1145
00:52:13,840 --> 00:52:16,040
Speaker 3: Man, have you guys seen the funerals where they put

1146
00:52:16,080 --> 00:52:18,759
Speaker 3: the nigga and bomb them, dress them up like they

1147
00:52:18,760 --> 00:52:22,000
Speaker 3: had a club, and now the whole funeral got like

1148
00:52:22,080 --> 00:52:25,080
Speaker 3: they got hit using going around the funeral that you

1149
00:52:25,120 --> 00:52:26,520
Speaker 3: ain't seeing no funerals like that.

1150
00:52:26,840 --> 00:52:29,280
Speaker 2: It'd be a club, it'd be a celebration of life.

1151
00:52:29,680 --> 00:52:32,640
Speaker 4: Okay, wait wait wait, I want to just say some

1152
00:52:32,680 --> 00:52:36,520
Speaker 4: name with quick yes the thing because I was really

1153
00:52:36,560 --> 00:52:41,839
Speaker 4: scared that when I started this situation that it was

1154
00:52:42,239 --> 00:52:45,040
Speaker 4: love bombing because he was so so nice to me

1155
00:52:45,239 --> 00:52:48,480
Speaker 4: and like so giving, so caring, so thoughtful, and I

1156
00:52:48,520 --> 00:52:51,600
Speaker 4: was like love love and I was just honest with

1157
00:52:51,680 --> 00:52:54,080
Speaker 4: him and was like, this is the past situations that

1158
00:52:54,120 --> 00:52:57,000
Speaker 4: I've been in. This is what I'm afraid of. And

1159
00:52:57,040 --> 00:52:58,680
Speaker 4: he was like, oh so you and he said it

1160
00:52:58,680 --> 00:53:01,960
Speaker 4: before me. He was like, oh so you, like are

1161
00:53:02,000 --> 00:53:04,680
Speaker 4: worried that this is left on me? And even him

1162
00:53:04,719 --> 00:53:09,160
Speaker 4: saying that was like, Okay, you're aware enough, Like you're

1163
00:53:09,160 --> 00:53:12,919
Speaker 4: aware enough of the situation, and you even saying that

1164
00:53:13,280 --> 00:53:17,640
Speaker 4: is giving me some sort of positive feeling affirmation that.

1165
00:53:18,160 --> 00:53:20,600
Speaker 2: Some sort of like because he's also validating my.

1166
00:53:20,560 --> 00:53:24,719
Speaker 4: Experiences before that he's my age, twenty six, and I've

1167
00:53:24,880 --> 00:53:26,879
Speaker 4: never been with somebody my age. But I'm also never

1168
00:53:27,320 --> 00:53:32,280
Speaker 4: another nigga more mature than him ever ever, And also

1169
00:53:32,960 --> 00:53:34,080
Speaker 4: that works in two ways.

1170
00:53:34,160 --> 00:53:37,279
Speaker 2: But also what I internet.

1171
00:53:37,200 --> 00:53:39,120
Speaker 4: Is that he also has so much time to grow too,

1172
00:53:40,200 --> 00:53:43,680
Speaker 4: because he's twenty six, you too, to be honest.

1173
00:53:43,840 --> 00:53:44,480
Speaker 2: Yeah, me too.

1174
00:53:44,640 --> 00:53:47,640
Speaker 1: I love conversations where I told a man I wasn't

1175
00:53:47,680 --> 00:53:51,040
Speaker 1: willing to sit around for his growth face if I

1176
00:53:51,120 --> 00:53:53,760
Speaker 1: met him at twenty six, I would, and I think

1177
00:53:55,239 --> 00:54:00,319
Speaker 1: I am not really dating men that are my they're

1178
00:54:00,320 --> 00:54:01,200
Speaker 1: always a little bit older.

1179
00:54:01,239 --> 00:54:04,040
Speaker 2: So maybe let's just say thirty six plus. I don't

1180
00:54:04,080 --> 00:54:06,040
Speaker 2: know if I'm waiting to see you grow at thirty six.

1181
00:54:06,160 --> 00:54:08,560
Speaker 3: I ain't gonna hold you, bitch, I was still entertain

1182
00:54:08,600 --> 00:54:10,440
Speaker 3: I told you it's twenty two to fifty two for me.

1183
00:54:10,520 --> 00:54:12,719
Speaker 2: Right now, I will go down. It's one to.

1184
00:54:12,719 --> 00:54:15,200
Speaker 3: Two the fifty two talk to me. I think they

1185
00:54:15,280 --> 00:54:17,840
Speaker 3: all about the same, that's they all. But they're literally

1186
00:54:17,840 --> 00:54:20,279
Speaker 3: the same from twenty two to fifty two. The only

1187
00:54:20,280 --> 00:54:22,360
Speaker 3: difference is they money. So that's why you gotta have.

1188
00:54:22,480 --> 00:54:25,040
Speaker 3: You gotta scrab a ball into a hoop of some differences.

1189
00:54:25,040 --> 00:54:27,120
Speaker 3: I'd be a millionaire twenty two for me to entertain you.

1190
00:54:27,239 --> 00:54:28,160
Speaker 3: Now face them, bitch.

1191
00:54:32,000 --> 00:54:33,879
Speaker 1: I want to talk about something that the men may

1192
00:54:33,920 --> 00:54:36,560
Speaker 1: appreciate today.

1193
00:54:36,760 --> 00:54:40,120
Speaker 2: I want to talk about competing for a man and

1194
00:54:40,160 --> 00:54:40,919
Speaker 2: seducing men.

1195
00:54:41,960 --> 00:54:45,319
Speaker 1: I had a conversation recently where I was joking about

1196
00:54:45,320 --> 00:54:48,640
Speaker 1: the favorite thing with my homegirl and she was like,

1197
00:54:49,400 --> 00:54:51,000
Speaker 1: how many people do you think so and so it's

1198
00:54:51,080 --> 00:54:52,719
Speaker 1: dating like whatever, And she's like, cause you don't need

1199
00:54:52,719 --> 00:54:55,680
Speaker 1: to be competing with no bitch, and I'm like, I

1200
00:54:55,680 --> 00:54:57,719
Speaker 1: don't be rud with you, bro, Like, I don't think

1201
00:54:57,800 --> 00:55:01,000
Speaker 1: that anyone dope that I meet doesn't have someone else

1202
00:55:01,040 --> 00:55:02,879
Speaker 1: that wants them, especially men.

1203
00:55:03,480 --> 00:55:05,600
Speaker 2: Women find there's more dope.

1204
00:55:05,400 --> 00:55:07,320
Speaker 1: Women out here than there are men, Like, lets to

1205
00:55:07,400 --> 00:55:10,520
Speaker 1: be honest, So I think that it's really opposite. Like

1206
00:55:10,520 --> 00:55:12,239
Speaker 1: one of my homeboys right now is like, bro, like,

1207
00:55:12,719 --> 00:55:14,480
Speaker 1: these girls will act like they're about to cut me

1208
00:55:14,520 --> 00:55:16,279
Speaker 1: off because they want more, and then two days later

1209
00:55:16,360 --> 00:55:19,600
Speaker 1: they're like bruh to anyone listening. I almost wonted if

1210
00:55:19,640 --> 00:55:21,440
Speaker 1: I did this too. He's like, this bitch was straight

1211
00:55:21,480 --> 00:55:22,520
Speaker 1: up in my house, like do you want me to

1212
00:55:22,560 --> 00:55:25,279
Speaker 1: leave now? Like I'm actually looking for something more whatever whatever.

1213
00:55:25,280 --> 00:55:26,560
Speaker 1: And he's like, no, you don't have to leave, like

1214
00:55:26,560 --> 00:55:28,319
Speaker 1: just because I want to casually date, like you know,

1215
00:55:28,360 --> 00:55:30,959
Speaker 1: you can relax. I'm not some shitty niggle like too,

1216
00:55:31,400 --> 00:55:33,000
Speaker 1: She's like, I don't want to leave myself on and

1217
00:55:33,040 --> 00:55:36,600
Speaker 1: whatever he said. Forty eight hours later, the girl's like, Okay,

1218
00:55:36,640 --> 00:55:38,680
Speaker 1: I think I can maybe do this. So a lot

1219
00:55:38,760 --> 00:55:40,520
Speaker 1: of women nowadays are kind of just molding to what

1220
00:55:40,600 --> 00:55:41,480
Speaker 1: men want right.

1221
00:55:41,480 --> 00:55:44,200
Speaker 2: All the time. So yes, there's ALU.

1222
00:55:44,360 --> 00:55:47,520
Speaker 1: If you meet someone fine, even if they broke you mean,

1223
00:55:47,560 --> 00:55:51,480
Speaker 1: someone rich, even if they're ugly, someone else is probably

1224
00:55:51,560 --> 00:55:56,200
Speaker 1: vying after that, right, So one, at some point, are

1225
00:55:56,239 --> 00:55:58,360
Speaker 1: we cool with being a little bit competitive? And I

1226
00:55:58,400 --> 00:56:01,000
Speaker 1: want to know if either of you won't really you, Kima,

1227
00:56:01,440 --> 00:56:03,600
Speaker 1: have you had a situation where you felt like you

1228
00:56:03,680 --> 00:56:06,759
Speaker 1: were competing with another woman and did you try at all?

1229
00:56:06,880 --> 00:56:14,440
Speaker 2: Like, were you okay with it? No? How do you know?

1230
00:56:15,200 --> 00:56:18,640
Speaker 4: Because I'm I'm just I feel like the people that

1231
00:56:18,680 --> 00:56:21,960
Speaker 4: I've been with in the past, whether it's just fucking

1232
00:56:22,040 --> 00:56:25,200
Speaker 4: or it's like relationships, I'm always number one no matter what,

1233
00:56:25,400 --> 00:56:29,839
Speaker 4: and like they will cut everything off. They have cut

1234
00:56:29,880 --> 00:56:31,759
Speaker 4: everything off and will for me.

1235
00:56:32,160 --> 00:56:34,200
Speaker 2: So like, but I don't even think about saying that

1236
00:56:34,840 --> 00:56:36,320
Speaker 2: unless yeah.

1237
00:56:36,160 --> 00:56:38,600
Speaker 4: But like most of the time we ended up in relationships, okay,

1238
00:56:38,640 --> 00:56:40,400
Speaker 4: but even if we didn't, that's what it was.

1239
00:56:40,960 --> 00:56:41,360
Speaker 2: So like.

1240
00:56:42,200 --> 00:56:44,680
Speaker 4: Also, I don't really like fuck people that aren't obsessed

1241
00:56:44,680 --> 00:56:47,239
Speaker 4: with me either, so like that's probably what it is too.

1242
00:56:47,440 --> 00:56:49,440
Speaker 4: It's like you get a shot to be in my

1243
00:56:49,520 --> 00:56:51,600
Speaker 4: pussy if you're obsessed with me, and I know you're obsessed.

1244
00:56:51,680 --> 00:56:54,279
Speaker 2: What is obsessed with you? Look like it's bad. It's bad.

1245
00:56:54,400 --> 00:56:54,799
Speaker 2: It's bad.

1246
00:56:54,800 --> 00:56:57,040
Speaker 3: That's why you ended up with two nurses exactly. Like

1247
00:56:57,120 --> 00:57:00,120
Speaker 3: it's bad, that's not it's not it's not a good thing.

1248
00:57:00,520 --> 00:57:02,960
Speaker 3: But like if someone if someone.

1249
00:57:02,640 --> 00:57:04,920
Speaker 4: Is obsessed with themselves and obsessed with me and treats

1250
00:57:04,920 --> 00:57:09,080
Speaker 4: me amazing, then I love that. But like people have

1251
00:57:09,200 --> 00:57:11,239
Speaker 4: like not had a life for themselves and kind of

1252
00:57:11,280 --> 00:57:14,760
Speaker 4: took my life as their own. Say, I been obsessed

1253
00:57:14,800 --> 00:57:17,440
Speaker 4: with me, and like, I think I liked that before

1254
00:57:17,720 --> 00:57:21,240
Speaker 4: because I liked being sought after and like I can't

1255
00:57:21,280 --> 00:57:23,480
Speaker 4: let go of you because they're so amazing. But then

1256
00:57:23,480 --> 00:57:25,360
Speaker 4: that also, like when I broke up with them, that

1257
00:57:25,880 --> 00:57:27,800
Speaker 4: you were like, I did not. It wasn't in my

1258
00:57:27,800 --> 00:57:29,120
Speaker 4: favor at that point.

1259
00:57:29,560 --> 00:57:32,320
Speaker 1: So when it comes to competing, I guess I would

1260
00:57:32,320 --> 00:57:36,640
Speaker 1: ask you, like, how do you think, if at all,

1261
00:57:37,280 --> 00:57:38,960
Speaker 1: you would be willing if someone was like, hey, there's

1262
00:57:38,960 --> 00:57:40,640
Speaker 1: like other women I'm dating, but I'm really into you,

1263
00:57:40,680 --> 00:57:41,760
Speaker 1: and you wanted to pursue them.

1264
00:57:42,080 --> 00:57:44,280
Speaker 3: We've talked about competitive dating all the time. I think

1265
00:57:44,360 --> 00:57:47,040
Speaker 3: that that's natural, that's normal. What do you think you'd

1266
00:57:47,080 --> 00:57:49,520
Speaker 3: be bitch hunger games made the best bitch win.

1267
00:57:49,840 --> 00:57:51,360
Speaker 1: What do you think are some things you'd be willing

1268
00:57:51,400 --> 00:57:53,000
Speaker 1: to do to show up in a way.

1269
00:57:53,200 --> 00:57:54,000
Speaker 2: I'm showing up as me.

1270
00:57:54,480 --> 00:57:57,480
Speaker 3: I work, if I if I have, you gonna know

1271
00:57:57,560 --> 00:58:00,360
Speaker 3: that I like picklebacks and caviar. You're gonna know that

1272
00:58:00,440 --> 00:58:02,760
Speaker 3: I like to go out and do live music. You're

1273
00:58:02,760 --> 00:58:04,480
Speaker 3: gonna know that I like die bars. You're gonna know

1274
00:58:04,520 --> 00:58:04,800
Speaker 3: that I.

1275
00:58:04,880 --> 00:58:05,800
Speaker 2: Like not you.

1276
00:58:05,800 --> 00:58:07,360
Speaker 3: No, but that's what I'm saying. I'm not showing up

1277
00:58:07,400 --> 00:58:08,880
Speaker 3: in any other way. These are the things I like

1278
00:58:08,920 --> 00:58:12,480
Speaker 3: to do. You date another women, cool, but this is

1279
00:58:12,560 --> 00:58:14,800
Speaker 3: me so I'm and hopefully you like me more than

1280
00:58:14,800 --> 00:58:15,400
Speaker 3: the other women.

1281
00:58:15,480 --> 00:58:17,560
Speaker 2: But I have a little I'm not dating here.

1282
00:58:17,800 --> 00:58:20,960
Speaker 1: I think that what I've been seeing recently from just

1283
00:58:21,000 --> 00:58:23,040
Speaker 1: discussing with other women and just like kind of the

1284
00:58:23,080 --> 00:58:26,919
Speaker 1: trend of even having male friends. I feel like every

1285
00:58:26,960 --> 00:58:29,800
Speaker 1: bad bitch expects that, like dudes are lucky to fuck her,

1286
00:58:30,440 --> 00:58:32,880
Speaker 1: and what we're not realizing is that And this is

1287
00:58:32,920 --> 00:58:35,360
Speaker 1: no shade to what either you were saying, Like this

1288
00:58:35,440 --> 00:58:37,640
Speaker 1: is us all knowing we have a standard. But I

1289
00:58:37,640 --> 00:58:40,600
Speaker 1: think the issue that sometimes we're seeing on the other

1290
00:58:40,720 --> 00:58:43,720
Speaker 1: end is like there are men that have the same

1291
00:58:43,760 --> 00:58:45,560
Speaker 1: shit going on and they're like, bro, I'm a good dude,

1292
00:58:45,600 --> 00:58:47,800
Speaker 1: but like now I have to sit here and do

1293
00:58:47,840 --> 00:58:50,360
Speaker 1: all this shit because I have to try to win you, Like,

1294
00:58:50,760 --> 00:58:52,160
Speaker 1: what are women doing at all for men?

1295
00:58:52,160 --> 00:58:52,720
Speaker 2: If anything?

1296
00:58:52,800 --> 00:58:54,360
Speaker 1: And if you feel like you have to do nothing

1297
00:58:54,360 --> 00:58:57,040
Speaker 1: for men, cool, But I do think there should be

1298
00:58:57,080 --> 00:59:01,240
Speaker 1: some dialogue, especially as women, knowing that we have women listening,

1299
00:59:01,320 --> 00:59:06,160
Speaker 1: where every girl can't think that just because they're pretty

1300
00:59:06,200 --> 00:59:07,560
Speaker 1: with a great job, that's enough.

1301
00:59:07,800 --> 00:59:09,840
Speaker 2: Oh I never said that. No, I'm not saying that

1302
00:59:09,960 --> 00:59:11,320
Speaker 2: you are saying that's right.

1303
00:59:11,400 --> 00:59:13,240
Speaker 1: But I do think a lot of girls are thinking,

1304
00:59:13,680 --> 00:59:16,560
Speaker 1: I have a degree, I've got an amazing job, I've

1305
00:59:16,600 --> 00:59:20,680
Speaker 1: got good benefits, i'm wifey material, I barely go out.

1306
00:59:21,000 --> 00:59:22,080
Speaker 2: He should want to be with me.

1307
00:59:22,600 --> 00:59:25,480
Speaker 1: And the problem with that is like that doesn't really

1308
00:59:25,520 --> 00:59:28,040
Speaker 1: show what you're doing for that person, Like how are

1309
00:59:28,040 --> 00:59:29,960
Speaker 1: you showing up as a good partner? Are women even

1310
00:59:30,080 --> 00:59:32,880
Speaker 1: talking and doing these things? Are they just showing anything

1311
00:59:32,920 --> 00:59:33,720
Speaker 1: that separates them?

1312
00:59:33,760 --> 00:59:35,320
Speaker 2: So that's the thing. I ain't showing up as a

1313
00:59:35,320 --> 00:59:36,400
Speaker 2: partner before I'm a partner.

1314
00:59:36,760 --> 00:59:39,000
Speaker 3: So I think if a man is honest enough to

1315
00:59:39,120 --> 00:59:43,000
Speaker 3: also let you know I'm entertaining of the bitches, chances

1316
00:59:43,040 --> 00:59:46,320
Speaker 3: are you're probably not in the top of the running.

1317
00:59:46,800 --> 00:59:48,640
Speaker 3: A man is honest with people that he wants to

1318
00:59:48,680 --> 00:59:50,840
Speaker 3: be casual with. I think otherwise, men lie.

1319
00:59:50,840 --> 00:59:51,480
Speaker 2: We've talked about that.

1320
00:59:51,520 --> 00:59:53,520
Speaker 3: I do think a man will lie and be like, no,

1321
00:59:53,640 --> 00:59:56,600
Speaker 3: I'm only entertaining you, or they don't want you to

1322
00:59:56,600 --> 00:59:58,520
Speaker 3: know that you're having to compete with other women. They're

1323
00:59:58,520 --> 01:00:00,400
Speaker 3: going to show up and see as much as they can.

1324
01:00:00,840 --> 01:00:03,280
Speaker 3: Like to me that I think that's the case. I know,

1325
01:00:03,400 --> 01:00:06,400
Speaker 3: like you've been open with your partners recently, but I

1326
01:00:06,440 --> 01:00:10,080
Speaker 3: think that if you have your eye closer on one

1327
01:00:10,080 --> 01:00:11,720
Speaker 3: price to where you know you'll cut all the mother

1328
01:00:11,760 --> 01:00:14,320
Speaker 3: bitches off. You're not sitting here and letting them know

1329
01:00:14,560 --> 01:00:16,760
Speaker 3: that you got all these mediocre bitches that you might

1330
01:00:16,840 --> 01:00:17,920
Speaker 3: not even be letting.

1331
01:00:17,760 --> 01:00:19,880
Speaker 1: Up into the game that are my Like, I can

1332
01:00:19,920 --> 01:00:22,720
Speaker 1: think of two three men I know right now that

1333
01:00:22,800 --> 01:00:25,400
Speaker 1: have told me like, yo, I'm feeling this girl so much,

1334
01:00:25,440 --> 01:00:27,880
Speaker 1: but I can't let her know because like, I don't

1335
01:00:27,920 --> 01:00:28,960
Speaker 1: know if I'm ready in this moment.

1336
01:00:29,000 --> 01:00:31,680
Speaker 2: But like, bro, I'm telling you, I don't think that's true.

1337
01:00:31,680 --> 01:00:33,680
Speaker 2: I mean, well, there's not one stop shop for anything.

1338
01:00:33,880 --> 01:00:37,280
Speaker 1: Let's be in an era where men are definitely being

1339
01:00:37,280 --> 01:00:39,760
Speaker 1: more transparent, because that is the trend of how relationships

1340
01:00:39,880 --> 01:00:40,520
Speaker 1: be because they.

1341
01:00:40,400 --> 01:00:41,760
Speaker 3: Want to let you know they don't want to fuck

1342
01:00:41,800 --> 01:00:43,160
Speaker 3: you and be with you and then also be able

1343
01:00:43,200 --> 01:00:45,080
Speaker 3: to fuck other women. I think the trend of us

1344
01:00:45,120 --> 01:00:49,320
Speaker 3: even having conversations about poly open relationships, non ethical non

1345
01:00:49,360 --> 01:00:51,920
Speaker 3: monogamy is what's also leading men to be more honest

1346
01:00:51,960 --> 01:00:52,200
Speaker 3: as well.

1347
01:00:52,280 --> 01:00:54,479
Speaker 1: You're saying men will lie to someone they want, they.

1348
01:00:54,400 --> 01:00:56,800
Speaker 3: Will, but that's because that's the whole guys if they're

1349
01:00:56,840 --> 01:00:58,920
Speaker 3: dating someone they really like and they're like, I only

1350
01:00:59,000 --> 01:01:00,920
Speaker 3: believe in monogamy, I don't do three SOMs and I

1351
01:01:00,920 --> 01:01:03,280
Speaker 3: don't do this, that's where the lies come in because

1352
01:01:03,280 --> 01:01:04,960
Speaker 3: they really like these women and they're not willing to

1353
01:01:05,040 --> 01:01:08,680
Speaker 3: lead those women because this woman wants a faithful monogamous relationship.

1354
01:01:08,960 --> 01:01:11,560
Speaker 3: So I think when you let someone know that you're

1355
01:01:12,040 --> 01:01:14,240
Speaker 3: talking to other women, that's where you also kind of

1356
01:01:14,280 --> 01:01:15,040
Speaker 3: test the temperature.

1357
01:01:16,080 --> 01:01:19,040
Speaker 2: Are you is that okay with you? Are you ethically

1358
01:01:19,040 --> 01:01:21,080
Speaker 2: non monogamous? Are you open? Are you cool with an

1359
01:01:21,080 --> 01:01:21,920
Speaker 2: open relationship?

1360
01:01:22,160 --> 01:01:24,919
Speaker 3: A lot of men are coming in using the word polly,

1361
01:01:25,040 --> 01:01:26,880
Speaker 3: not knowing what the fucking means or the boundaries and

1362
01:01:27,080 --> 01:01:29,160
Speaker 3: that they still have to be honest with everybody, but

1363
01:01:29,200 --> 01:01:31,840
Speaker 3: also testing the temperature because there's a lot more women

1364
01:01:31,880 --> 01:01:33,040
Speaker 3: that are okay with that.

1365
01:01:33,680 --> 01:01:36,880
Speaker 1: I think that you can prioritize someone you're dating and

1366
01:01:36,960 --> 01:01:38,680
Speaker 1: be super interested in them, and at the same time

1367
01:01:38,760 --> 01:01:40,280
Speaker 1: be like, hey, I am dating other people, but like

1368
01:01:40,320 --> 01:01:42,840
Speaker 1: I want to keep doing this, Like I think that's okay.

1369
01:01:42,840 --> 01:01:45,640
Speaker 1: I don't necessarily know if you're gonna lie. I don't

1370
01:01:45,680 --> 01:01:47,640
Speaker 1: want any women listening to things just because a man

1371
01:01:47,720 --> 01:01:50,640
Speaker 1: told you that that he doesn't have interest in you.

1372
01:01:50,720 --> 01:01:53,320
Speaker 1: I've ended up with three boyfriends that were dating other

1373
01:01:53,360 --> 01:01:54,440
Speaker 1: people at the time, so.

1374
01:01:54,560 --> 01:01:55,000
Speaker 2: I don't know.

1375
01:01:55,080 --> 01:01:59,560
Speaker 3: Again, I don't say anything as a one size fits all.

1376
01:01:59,640 --> 01:02:03,400
Speaker 3: I think your experience, my experience, Keana's experience all difference

1377
01:02:03,440 --> 01:02:05,480
Speaker 3: from each other. We're not sitting here and saying there's

1378
01:02:05,520 --> 01:02:07,360
Speaker 3: a right way or wrong way to do anything. But

1379
01:02:07,400 --> 01:02:09,240
Speaker 3: if we're gonna have a conversation and share all of

1380
01:02:09,280 --> 01:02:12,120
Speaker 3: these three different experiences, I think we should all be

1381
01:02:12,160 --> 01:02:13,840
Speaker 3: able to share what our thought process is on it.

1382
01:02:13,880 --> 01:02:17,160
Speaker 3: And I think for me personally, from the conversations I

1383
01:02:17,160 --> 01:02:19,400
Speaker 3: have with my male friends and the relationships I've been in,

1384
01:02:19,680 --> 01:02:22,280
Speaker 3: that's been the truth for me.

1385
01:02:22,360 --> 01:02:23,720
Speaker 2: And I'm also around a lot more.

1386
01:02:23,640 --> 01:02:27,480
Speaker 3: Lifestyle people than you are, so to me, that's the

1387
01:02:27,520 --> 01:02:29,080
Speaker 3: guise of what I've been told.

1388
01:02:29,600 --> 01:02:34,240
Speaker 1: What do you think, Keana, when you're dating and you know,

1389
01:02:35,400 --> 01:02:38,600
Speaker 1: men are seeming like someone that you'd want to end

1390
01:02:38,640 --> 01:02:41,040
Speaker 1: up with or maybe hubby boy for material whatever that

1391
01:02:41,120 --> 01:02:44,520
Speaker 1: might look like. What are ways that you show up

1392
01:02:44,560 --> 01:02:46,280
Speaker 1: as a good partner that you feel like make you

1393
01:02:46,360 --> 01:02:46,840
Speaker 1: stand out?

1394
01:02:49,840 --> 01:02:53,120
Speaker 4: Honestly, I think it's just like my vulnerability and how

1395
01:02:53,200 --> 01:02:57,920
Speaker 4: genuine I am because I and the safe space that

1396
01:02:57,960 --> 01:03:01,760
Speaker 4: I provide for that person too, because honestly, there's not

1397
01:03:01,880 --> 01:03:04,120
Speaker 4: a lot of people that can make everybody feel safe,

1398
01:03:04,200 --> 01:03:06,440
Speaker 4: no matter what they say and what has happened to

1399
01:03:06,480 --> 01:03:09,520
Speaker 4: them and what they do. I'm very accepting and loving

1400
01:03:09,920 --> 01:03:14,200
Speaker 4: most people and most importantly understanding, so as long as

1401
01:03:14,240 --> 01:03:16,760
Speaker 4: you're communicating with me. A lot of people can't take

1402
01:03:16,760 --> 01:03:20,840
Speaker 4: communication without getting defensive, you know, or letting ego play

1403
01:03:20,840 --> 01:03:23,880
Speaker 4: into it. And I am not that person. Like I

1404
01:03:23,920 --> 01:03:25,880
Speaker 4: will literally sit there and listen to your whole life

1405
01:03:25,920 --> 01:03:29,160
Speaker 4: story and ask you questions and be like, oh wow, okay,

1406
01:03:29,320 --> 01:03:29,680
Speaker 4: and that's.

1407
01:03:29,560 --> 01:03:31,200
Speaker 2: Your depending on that, how does it make you feel?

1408
01:03:31,240 --> 01:03:34,000
Speaker 4: Because I'm just so inquisitive, like I want to know everything,

1409
01:03:34,480 --> 01:03:39,160
Speaker 4: so like I will ask those questions, like about threesomes.

1410
01:03:38,720 --> 01:03:40,400
Speaker 2: That a lot of people probably don't ask.

1411
01:03:40,680 --> 01:03:42,200
Speaker 4: A lot of people are afraid to ask because they

1412
01:03:42,200 --> 01:03:43,760
Speaker 4: don't want to hear the wrong answer.

1413
01:03:43,520 --> 01:03:46,600
Speaker 2: And that you're going to be like, Okay, you're judging.

1414
01:03:46,360 --> 01:03:50,160
Speaker 4: Much exactly exactly, and I'm not judging at all. And

1415
01:03:50,200 --> 01:03:52,240
Speaker 4: I think that provides a really safe space for people.

1416
01:03:52,360 --> 01:03:56,120
Speaker 4: I think what makes me stand out is just me

1417
01:03:56,200 --> 01:03:58,440
Speaker 4: being me and my personality. And I think, unfortunately, the

1418
01:03:58,480 --> 01:04:00,560
Speaker 4: other thing that makes me stand out is my lifestyle

1419
01:04:01,120 --> 01:04:03,560
Speaker 4: because even though it's kind of unconventional and like the

1420
01:04:03,600 --> 01:04:08,560
Speaker 4: hours are weird and everything, like, I do get certain

1421
01:04:08,600 --> 01:04:12,280
Speaker 4: benefits and perks that a person would also get if they.

1422
01:04:12,160 --> 01:04:15,600
Speaker 2: Were with me. Yeah, you could do. That does play

1423
01:04:15,640 --> 01:04:16,160
Speaker 2: into it.

1424
01:04:16,560 --> 01:04:19,000
Speaker 4: When I'm dating or even if I'm like talking to

1425
01:04:19,040 --> 01:04:21,480
Speaker 4: someone or fucking or whatever, they see that and the

1426
01:04:21,520 --> 01:04:24,280
Speaker 4: wrong person will like latch onto that and try to

1427
01:04:24,320 --> 01:04:27,040
Speaker 4: get something out of me or cling on to me

1428
01:04:27,280 --> 01:04:29,520
Speaker 4: just for that thing. So that's something that I've been

1429
01:04:29,560 --> 01:04:30,600
Speaker 4: having to watch out for.

1430
01:04:30,640 --> 01:04:33,960
Speaker 2: My homegirl that does pr is experiencing that. Yeah, he's like,

1431
01:04:34,000 --> 01:04:35,560
Speaker 2: is he fucking with me? Or is something I just

1432
01:04:35,600 --> 01:04:37,800
Speaker 2: have liter shit to do every weekend? Yeah? Exactly? And

1433
01:04:37,920 --> 01:04:38,600
Speaker 2: what do you think about you?

1434
01:04:38,640 --> 01:04:39,960
Speaker 1: What do you think that men are like the most

1435
01:04:40,000 --> 01:04:43,240
Speaker 1: impressed with you by when they're like dating you.

1436
01:04:43,280 --> 01:04:45,160
Speaker 2: That I'm smart, don't.

1437
01:04:45,240 --> 01:04:47,560
Speaker 3: I don't think people expect it because of the persona

1438
01:04:49,000 --> 01:04:52,440
Speaker 3: on the internet in my pods, but just that a

1439
01:04:52,880 --> 01:04:55,720
Speaker 3: I'm I'm super caring. I want to make everyone's life

1440
01:04:55,720 --> 01:04:58,080
Speaker 3: better around me, and I don't want them to stress

1441
01:04:58,080 --> 01:04:58,560
Speaker 3: about anything.

1442
01:04:58,560 --> 01:04:59,800
Speaker 2: So if there's anything I can do, I'm going to

1443
01:04:59,840 --> 01:05:00,080
Speaker 2: do it.

1444
01:05:01,120 --> 01:05:03,360
Speaker 3: But also that we can have conversations about what you

1445
01:05:03,400 --> 01:05:06,880
Speaker 3: want to do professionally where you see your future. Like

1446
01:05:06,920 --> 01:05:11,200
Speaker 3: I'm all about setting goals and being intentional and being

1447
01:05:11,240 --> 01:05:14,040
Speaker 3: able to have those conversations and having ways to help

1448
01:05:14,080 --> 01:05:16,560
Speaker 3: and connect resources and whatever I can do to help

1449
01:05:16,560 --> 01:05:19,080
Speaker 3: anybody around me, I do. And so I'm just giving.

1450
01:05:19,440 --> 01:05:22,440
Speaker 3: I'm very giving and supportive and supportive to.

1451
01:05:22,760 --> 01:05:23,520
Speaker 2: Whatever you want to do.

1452
01:05:23,560 --> 01:05:24,880
Speaker 3: Now, if you broke and want to be a rapper,

1453
01:05:24,880 --> 01:05:27,000
Speaker 3: I don't know about day not at my big one.

1454
01:05:27,360 --> 01:05:28,000
Speaker 2: Nobody to pass you.

1455
01:05:28,920 --> 01:05:31,000
Speaker 3: But yeah, but I want to get into it because

1456
01:05:31,360 --> 01:05:34,880
Speaker 3: before we get out of here, you are touring Grudges,

1457
01:05:35,480 --> 01:05:38,920
Speaker 3: which is a phenomenal album. Again, one on my face

1458
01:05:39,000 --> 01:05:40,800
Speaker 3: literally promised me as in my top twenty five play

1459
01:05:40,920 --> 01:05:43,160
Speaker 3: songs on my Apple so just.

1460
01:05:43,120 --> 01:05:43,800
Speaker 2: You know, streaming.

1461
01:05:43,880 --> 01:05:46,680
Speaker 3: Hopefully you're going to get those coins because the music industry,

1462
01:05:46,760 --> 01:05:51,360
Speaker 3: you know, but you're about to hit your international stops.

1463
01:05:51,480 --> 01:05:55,440
Speaker 2: Yes, is this like a big deal? This like have

1464
01:05:55,520 --> 01:05:57,400
Speaker 2: you been to some of these points when we're.

1465
01:05:57,280 --> 01:06:02,120
Speaker 3: Supposed to do internet four years ago?

1466
01:06:02,320 --> 01:06:04,200
Speaker 1: I'm sure you're way bigger now, so it's even more

1467
01:06:05,320 --> 01:06:06,360
Speaker 1: I've been though.

1468
01:06:06,200 --> 01:06:08,520
Speaker 4: Are going to hit so excited because I have been

1469
01:06:08,560 --> 01:06:12,160
Speaker 4: there since my last tour, which was I was doing

1470
01:06:12,280 --> 01:06:15,440
Speaker 4: my uh EP and like all the venues were so

1471
01:06:15,520 --> 01:06:16,840
Speaker 4: much smaller, and it's kind of.

1472
01:06:16,880 --> 01:06:19,000
Speaker 3: Like, by the way, y'all, she slowed down New York

1473
01:06:19,040 --> 01:06:21,720
Speaker 3: and had to add another show. So if you if

1474
01:06:21,720 --> 01:06:24,000
Speaker 3: you're not even familiar with Keana, make sure you go

1475
01:06:24,280 --> 01:06:26,840
Speaker 3: check on all the DSPs, because baby, it's giving.

1476
01:06:27,360 --> 01:06:29,600
Speaker 2: You can have to it, you can cry to it.

1477
01:06:29,840 --> 01:06:31,880
Speaker 3: You can think of somebody you don't want to think

1478
01:06:31,880 --> 01:06:36,680
Speaker 3: about to it. All the musical at least evoke emotion,

1479
01:06:37,720 --> 01:06:38,560
Speaker 3: and I love that.

1480
01:06:38,840 --> 01:06:43,720
Speaker 2: What is the city the country you're most excited about.

1481
01:06:44,040 --> 01:06:48,000
Speaker 3: Oh, I'm least excited about Australia.

1482
01:06:49,080 --> 01:06:51,040
Speaker 4: I'm least excited for one of the cities and I'm

1483
01:06:51,040 --> 01:06:52,800
Speaker 4: not going to say which city is because my ex

1484
01:06:52,880 --> 01:06:53,520
Speaker 4: is from that city.

1485
01:06:53,680 --> 01:06:57,280
Speaker 2: Oh okay, it's giving, so I mean personal trauma.

1486
01:06:57,400 --> 01:07:00,919
Speaker 4: I'm excited for the fans and that, okay, but it's

1487
01:07:00,920 --> 01:07:01,880
Speaker 4: given personal trial.

1488
01:07:01,920 --> 01:07:05,720
Speaker 2: It's gonnager. But also my best friend that passed away

1489
01:07:05,760 --> 01:07:07,240
Speaker 2: is from Sydney, so I'm excited for that.

1490
01:07:07,520 --> 01:07:11,040
Speaker 3: Another one that's going to bring back memory.

1491
01:07:11,080 --> 01:07:13,480
Speaker 2: And I will tell you, I need you to go

1492
01:07:13,520 --> 01:07:14,400
Speaker 2: see the little people.

1493
01:07:14,600 --> 01:07:16,880
Speaker 3: I know I can't call them the other word, but

1494
01:07:16,960 --> 01:07:18,960
Speaker 3: little people box in the Philippine.

1495
01:07:19,000 --> 01:07:21,439
Speaker 2: What's up the N word?

1496
01:07:21,840 --> 01:07:24,080
Speaker 3: Uh? They literally call it that in the Philippines, but

1497
01:07:24,120 --> 01:07:25,680
Speaker 3: I'm not gonna call it. Actually, yeah, we could bleep

1498
01:07:25,680 --> 01:07:29,760
Speaker 3: it out. So they're boxing in the Philippines and it's

1499
01:07:29,840 --> 01:07:33,600
Speaker 3: so cool you go and they like, I don't know

1500
01:07:33,600 --> 01:07:35,960
Speaker 3: why they do it, but it's entertaining as fuck. Everyone

1501
01:07:36,000 --> 01:07:39,560
Speaker 3: like drinks beers with the handle and it's just that.

1502
01:07:39,840 --> 01:07:42,800
Speaker 3: There's also I want to say, the Philippines also has

1503
01:07:42,840 --> 01:07:45,560
Speaker 3: the pussy show, which they have in Thailand.

1504
01:07:46,040 --> 01:07:48,160
Speaker 2: Yeah, have you been a sailent ping pong? No?

1505
01:07:48,240 --> 01:07:51,120
Speaker 3: They always wanted to go. They shoot ping pongs out

1506
01:07:51,120 --> 01:07:53,760
Speaker 3: of their pussy then you can hit it. So look

1507
01:07:53,800 --> 01:07:54,720
Speaker 3: up the pussy show and.

1508
01:07:54,680 --> 01:07:56,640
Speaker 2: Look you can hit it with paddles. Yeah, they can

1509
01:07:56,640 --> 01:08:00,000
Speaker 2: hand you the paddle the no no, no, no no, the answer.

1510
01:08:00,720 --> 01:08:02,640
Speaker 1: But there's a lot of games that they do with

1511
01:08:02,680 --> 01:08:05,200
Speaker 1: their vaginas that like you get involved in, like maybe

1512
01:08:05,240 --> 01:08:07,600
Speaker 1: you'll be pulling a string out of there forever you have.

1513
01:08:08,520 --> 01:08:12,920
Speaker 2: It's like stream.

1514
01:08:10,200 --> 01:08:17,920
Speaker 3: The Philippines is so much fun fun, Like literally you

1515
01:08:17,960 --> 01:08:20,400
Speaker 3: can hand them a marker and they'll be like, and

1516
01:08:20,479 --> 01:08:21,160
Speaker 3: what's your name?

1517
01:08:21,320 --> 01:08:25,360
Speaker 2: And what their pussy? The marker goes in and they

1518
01:08:25,520 --> 01:08:26,000
Speaker 2: on the chest.

1519
01:08:26,240 --> 01:08:31,599
Speaker 3: This girl Amsterdam is in the Philippines, but like so cool.

1520
01:08:31,640 --> 01:08:35,439
Speaker 3: And I will say, in the Philippines I went to, Oh,

1521
01:08:35,479 --> 01:08:37,400
Speaker 3: I can't remember the city now.

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Speaker 2: But just the Manila. I was a Manila. The Oh

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Speaker 2: my god. They are the dopest.

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Speaker 3: Because it's probably gonna be something racist to say, but

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Speaker 3: they the niggas of Asia, like they literally are treated

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01:08:50,439 --> 01:08:52,479
Speaker 3: that way. Their dark skinned and they will tell you

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Speaker 3: but also they speak the best English. But they are

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Speaker 3: just the nicest, Like they don't treat Americans like in

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Speaker 3: different parts of Asia you might get stand offish, especially

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Speaker 3: if there's a person of color. The Philippines was cool

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Speaker 3: as fuck. Shout out to everybody in the Philippines them

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Speaker 3: Nigga's coolest. Fuck I ain't even gonna Yeah, so you.

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Speaker 1: Just watched Beyonce's concerts and I was like, I came

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Speaker 1: all the way from the Philippines.

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Speaker 3: I was like, damn, you're really I hope you enjoyed

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Speaker 3: as much as I did. Like that's so that's the

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Speaker 3: play that the flight wasn't so far. I would go again,

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Speaker 3: I really And then they have other beautiful islands that

1539
01:09:23,360 --> 01:09:24,800
Speaker 3: I wasn't able to get to, but.

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Speaker 2: So there you go. Oh my god. I had been for.

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Speaker 3: Soul too, and the fashion I'm so excited girl spas

1542
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Speaker 3: the Ramen vending machine thing machine.

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Speaker 2: So Japan.

1544
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Speaker 1: Japan was probably like for me, like transforming in fashion

1545
01:09:45,080 --> 01:09:47,920
Speaker 1: is right up there. And meeting so many Koreans in

1546
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Speaker 1: LA has really made me, like, you know, when you

1547
01:09:51,360 --> 01:09:52,880
Speaker 1: have Southern friends, you're like, oh, should I gotta go

1548
01:09:52,880 --> 01:09:53,400
Speaker 1: to New Orleans?

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Speaker 2: Whatever? The fuck? That shit really has made me want

1550
01:09:56,439 --> 01:09:57,599
Speaker 2: to be in fucking Korea.

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Speaker 3: You never been, no the Korea that Americans And of

1552
01:10:01,040 --> 01:10:07,040
Speaker 3: course yeah there's two parts. I never know the difference anyway,

1553
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Speaker 3: So they can purchase stream and also follow.

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Speaker 4: You following me at Keana the day k I N

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Speaker 4: A L E d E. And you can find effort

1556
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Speaker 4: that there's a link in my bio where you can

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Speaker 4: little click it and find every.

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01:10:22,040 --> 01:10:24,439
Speaker 3: So what we're gonna do is include that same link

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Speaker 3: in the description of this episode.

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Speaker 2: That's what we're gonna do to make sure nigga right

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Speaker 2: next to it. Nigga nigga. Yes, we will, We absolutely will.

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Speaker 3: And also, as you guys know, next weekend we're in London,

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Speaker 3: so October the twenty eighth, make sure you pull up

1564
01:10:39,080 --> 01:10:44,439
Speaker 3: to us in London. Mandy convinced me, yeap got my

1565
01:10:44,600 --> 01:10:48,439
Speaker 3: fifth now, bitch, it's given, okay. And then November fifth,

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Speaker 3: we are in Toronto, so those are two international shows,

1567
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Speaker 3: and then we are back here on the East Coast

1568
01:10:55,439 --> 01:10:58,040
Speaker 3: to wrap up. Boston and Philly is sold out, but

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Speaker 3: you can still get your tickets for DC, and honestly,

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01:11:01,120 --> 01:11:04,240
Speaker 3: by now New York may be sold out, but DC

1571
01:11:05,400 --> 01:11:08,240
Speaker 3: New York if you can, and again Toronto and London.

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Speaker 3: We're looking forward to seeing you get your tickets now

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01:11:10,320 --> 01:11:13,040
Speaker 3: at hor hive dot com. Ketu, thank you for joining

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Speaker 3: us again so much, hey, and thank you all for

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Speaker 3: listening to you at another episode of Horrible Decision, Hi

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Speaker 3: everybody ye