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<v Speaker 1>We know, and then I get a little crazy. Yeah

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<v Speaker 1>that's not the way it's supposed to make. Sometimes my

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<v Speaker 1>vision is a little hazing. I can't tell who I

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<v Speaker 1>should try, which is who I meet me.

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<v Speaker 2>You would try to say, hey, guys, welcome back, friends, advisory,

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<v Speaker 2>good mom's bad choices. I'm Erica and I'm Janila, and

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<v Speaker 2>this is our podcast. What's up? Nothing? What's up? How's

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<v Speaker 2>your weekend? I feel like I haven't seen you. I know,

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<v Speaker 2>we're like ever since, even like though we recorded last week,

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<v Speaker 2>it was like so quick. I know, I don't think

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<v Speaker 2>I've seen you since then. So I'm just tired. I've

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<v Speaker 2>had like a really long week. I've traveled a lot

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<v Speaker 2>this week, and I went to North Carolina, South Carolina,

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<v Speaker 2>one of the Carolinas. Oh how was that? It was

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<v Speaker 2>really quick? I like never left the hotel, like I was.

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<v Speaker 2>She came and trained me in the hotel, in the

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<v Speaker 2>like in the room, so I had never left the hotel.

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<v Speaker 2>Did you learn anything? Oh?

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, I can't wait to near her these tidbits. Erica

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<v Speaker 3>like does really classy work and she's really popping. So

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<v Speaker 3>she's gonna be on Hscent. Well, she's already been on Hcent.

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<v Speaker 3>She got HSN training. Yeah, she's the bomb dot com

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<v Speaker 3>so now she's gonna be the ultra seller.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah. I checked me out on Home Shopping Net, you know,

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<v Speaker 2>for all you fifty plus woman listening, because I'm sure

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<v Speaker 2>there's a bunch. No, it was fine. It was just

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<v Speaker 2>a lot of information that I had to retain. And

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<v Speaker 2>then like she put a video camera in my face.

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<v Speaker 2>Was like, okay, now pretend like you're selling beauty blenders.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh like, oh shit, I know I know this, but

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<v Speaker 2>I it is lying. I study and then you guys,

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<v Speaker 2>I shot something that I can't say what it is.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm so excited.

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<v Speaker 3>But it's really good. It's really really good. So we'll

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<v Speaker 3>keep you posted. Yeah, but it's about to get largen

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<v Speaker 3>in charge.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't know about all that, baby, Baby, it's one

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<v Speaker 2>of your favorite TV shows that you will see at

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<v Speaker 2>me make an appearance on. It's definitely your fab and

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<v Speaker 2>if it's not, you need to try again press the

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<v Speaker 2>unsubscribed button. I'm just kidding.

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<v Speaker 3>I went out last night and I got really wasted,

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<v Speaker 3>and I was like, not my intention.

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<v Speaker 2>Wait, I saw Danny posted a video of you, and

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<v Speaker 2>you were like, I'm so hungry. I want rice, And

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<v Speaker 2>I was like, Luna is your child. That's all Luna

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<v Speaker 2>ever wants is rice, shrimp and root. Yeah, that's it. Strawberries.

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<v Speaker 3>My daughter has a really adult palette. She's very mature.

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<v Speaker 2>Shrimp shrimp. She wakes up in the morning like I

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<v Speaker 2>would like shrimp and white eggs. She's only these egg whites. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>I'm need to be going that diet, right. Yeah.

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<v Speaker 3>I went out with my some my Oddly enough, my

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<v Speaker 3>best friend is rather on the more conservative side compared

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<v Speaker 3>to me, so when it with her, I got wasted.

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<v Speaker 3>And then somehow I ended up at her friend's a

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<v Speaker 3>friend of a friend's like mansion house and there are

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<v Speaker 3>two bitches in the jacuzzi.

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<v Speaker 2>And I was like, I want to get in. She's like,

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<v Speaker 2>do not put in?

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<v Speaker 3>And I was like, it's calling my name. She like

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<v Speaker 3>looks away for two point five seconds. I removed all

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<v Speaker 3>my clothes except my panties and got into the jacuzzie.

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<v Speaker 3>She's like, what the fuck are you doing? Then I

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<v Speaker 3>was like, get me a towel. She's like, you didn't

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<v Speaker 3>think this through. I'm pretty sure I'm drunk. Ass Air

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<v Speaker 3>dried in the stranger's house and then got in the

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<v Speaker 3>uber and bitched about wanting rice.

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<v Speaker 2>Mmm, I thought would happen. That's that was the series

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<v Speaker 2>of events yet, right, Okay? Oh? Also today I went

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<v Speaker 2>to Rosco.

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<v Speaker 3>Was because I have family in town and everybody wants

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<v Speaker 3>to go to fucking Roscow's right. But anyway, I'm in

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<v Speaker 3>the liquor store and I met like this. I didn't

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<v Speaker 3>meet him. I was trying to meet him. It's like

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<v Speaker 3>a sexy white boy looked like sore. So I'm like,

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<v Speaker 3>I've over heard him say like again hair bradages black

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<v Speaker 3>friend is like they're braided.

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<v Speaker 2>He has like a little before ponytail.

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<v Speaker 3>I'm into ponytails and beards, so I'm like, yeah, the

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<v Speaker 3>ones that don't look homas. I'm like, are you Oh,

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<v Speaker 3>you're not from here? He's like, now, I'm visiting from Tampa.

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<v Speaker 3>I asked him like fifteen consecutive questions, and then I

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<v Speaker 3>left the store. I'm like told my friends, like, did

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<v Speaker 3>anybody else get that? I was flirting hard as fuck

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<v Speaker 3>though He's like yeah, I'm like, why didn't you ask

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<v Speaker 3>for my number? Anyway, and then coming to Rosco sitting

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<v Speaker 3>next to us, and now we're gonna move this along

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<v Speaker 3>quickly because we're meeting him at the Roosevelt.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh oh okay, wow, okay, what's his name? Name? Anonymous?

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<v Speaker 3>And no Tim Tim from Tampa, Tim from Tampa, Tampa,

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<v Speaker 3>Tim or Sewer, which is all all acceptable?

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<v Speaker 2>Tim from Tampa. Oh my god, that's pretty good. That's

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<v Speaker 2>pretty good. Anyway. What else happened this week? Oh? Really

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<v Speaker 2>sad news? Oh wait? Recital? Oh my, how could I forget?

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<v Speaker 2>I just came back to my daughter's first recital. I

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<v Speaker 2>don't know if Eddie mom's out there experience the recital circuit?

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<v Speaker 2>Do you feel like a real mom? I feel like

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<v Speaker 2>a real girl mom. I still had girl mom when

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<v Speaker 2>you put that hashtags like this bitch.

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<v Speaker 3>She's the first one who was like I looked at

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<v Speaker 3>mommy bloggers and they're all have this weird hashtag called

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<v Speaker 3>like girl mom and I don't get it. I'm like,

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<v Speaker 3>you get it, like you're the mom of a girl.

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<v Speaker 3>And she's like, oh, but.

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<v Speaker 2>It's so dumb. But that's why I put it, because

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<v Speaker 2>it's so it sounds so stupid.

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<v Speaker 3>Girl girl mom Like, yeah, okay, we didn't use that

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<v Speaker 3>hashtag moro often.

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<v Speaker 2>I mean, yeah, yeah, did you cry?

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<v Speaker 3>No?

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<v Speaker 2>But I was so happy. I was like, first of all,

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<v Speaker 2>she was the best in the class. She looked like

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<v Speaker 2>she was a damn teacher. First of all, it's like

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<v Speaker 2>they're those might that dance school, in particular, Creation Station

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<v Speaker 2>Dance is making a killing because there were like three

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<v Speaker 2>hundred people. They're kidding in that one little studio in Northward. No,

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<v Speaker 2>it's it was at a middle school because they have

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<v Speaker 2>different locations. Yeah, they do have, and all of them

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<v Speaker 2>had the recital at this one location today and it's

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<v Speaker 2>ten dollars a ticket, and so there was a lot

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<v Speaker 2>of people today.

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<v Speaker 3>Oh wow, anti paper class and the costume, and it's

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<v Speaker 3>been around for like years because me and Danielle wan

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<v Speaker 3>as kids.

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<v Speaker 2>That's what my mom said. My mom today was like

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<v Speaker 2>I met like a fully grown woman that went to

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<v Speaker 2>Creation States.

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<v Speaker 3>Me and Danielle went to hip hop class. I'm like

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<v Speaker 3>fourth grade, so that's how I was. A Creation Station

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<v Speaker 3>is the same one. But first of all, I'm a hustler.

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<v Speaker 3>So every time I see like an easy money situation,

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<v Speaker 3>I was like, do I have pictions to them to

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<v Speaker 3>teach a bunch of little brads how to do it?

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<v Speaker 2>This is like a come. I went to a birthday

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<v Speaker 2>party there. I was like, how much are you pay?

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<v Speaker 2>I'm like, one, well, I don't think they make that

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<v Speaker 2>much money. And that's why they do these because this

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<v Speaker 2>is when they make their money, these recitals. They killed

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<v Speaker 2>it because because they know families are gonna want to

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<v Speaker 2>see their kids. And it's so cute. It was a

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<v Speaker 2>durable I'm definitely sunning, lum up, so cute. But yes.

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<v Speaker 3>In other news, Oh, also for our fans that love us,

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<v Speaker 3>all twelve of you all, we're recording this one live

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<v Speaker 3>so you could check out our beautiful faces.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, we're we're we have a camera looking at it

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<v Speaker 2>right now. Hey we're so awkward. Yeah, so this will

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<v Speaker 2>be We'll see how consistent is I'm very hard. It's

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<v Speaker 2>really I'm consistency. It's a strong suit when it commitment.

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<v Speaker 2>Social media, I try, I mean working on it. You're

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<v Speaker 2>way better than I am. Oh and shout out to

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<v Speaker 2>all of any new followers because we had the beautiful

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<v Speaker 2>Amina but a fly on yesterday and we gained a

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<v Speaker 2>lot of great followers. I've been getting some messages from

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<v Speaker 2>people that are cool.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, I'm really so grateful every time someone's like, hey,

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<v Speaker 3>on I just listened I'm like.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh my god, I love it. I know you guys

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<v Speaker 2>have no idea. Like when you guys message us, I

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<v Speaker 2>like screenshot them and like send them to Jamila like

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<v Speaker 2>four am. I'm like, look, look, somebody likes us.

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<v Speaker 3>I know it keeps us going, so it makes me

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<v Speaker 3>feel like I've way more friends than I do. I

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<v Speaker 3>know I know, and also getting sick and don't forget

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<v Speaker 3>you can like still reach out to us if you

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<v Speaker 3>have any questions.

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<v Speaker 2>If you have any speaking but did you see your email?

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<v Speaker 2>I'll pull it up. If you have any questions you

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<v Speaker 2>know you have, you need some advice, let us know.

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<v Speaker 3>You can email us at Parental ADVISORYGMBC at gmail dot com.

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<v Speaker 2>Choices because sometimes you just need advice from girls that

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<v Speaker 2>you don't know or girls that you know. Don't judge you,

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<v Speaker 2>because we can't judge anyone. No, we can't. I'm surprised

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<v Speaker 2>we haven't anyone come for us. We're not We'll get there.

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<v Speaker 3>I can't wait for that time, particularly me and the

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<v Speaker 3>things I don't think through before I say, well.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm sure we Also, I remember when I said, what

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<v Speaker 2>did I say? About blackest remot that said some dumb shit. Okay,

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<v Speaker 2>so I was high, don't whatever, I should just don't

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<v Speaker 2>go look for that anyway, we're growing. What else happened

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<v Speaker 2>this week? We have Anthony Boardine died very sad and

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<v Speaker 2>it's so shocking because and you know what, and when

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<v Speaker 2>I was reading this, it's like suicide doesn't have a face,

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<v Speaker 2>you know what I mean, Like you look at someone

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<v Speaker 2>and you think they're living the perfect life. You don't

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<v Speaker 2>understand like how this person could commit aside, he's like

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<v Speaker 2>literally the last person I would think. He lives this

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<v Speaker 2>amazing life where he gets to travel and eat amazing

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<v Speaker 2>foods and go to all these obscure places and all

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<v Speaker 2>these like one in a million lifetime experiences. But he's struggling.

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<v Speaker 2>And I had because excuse me, I had no idea,

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<v Speaker 2>you know, and of course I had no idea. I

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<v Speaker 2>don't know him, But that's what I'm saying, Like that's perception. Like, yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>I saw a post today, like a meme that's my

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<v Speaker 2>whole life. I saw a name to it.

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<v Speaker 3>About basically not a meme, a post about like really,

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<v Speaker 3>you gotta really wonder, you got to really focus on

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<v Speaker 3>what makes you happy, and what does it? Because you think,

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<v Speaker 3>like getting to the bag is going to make you happy,

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<v Speaker 3>but then there's all these rich people and they're not

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<v Speaker 3>happy because they're not You're not. You think that makes

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<v Speaker 3>you happy, but you're not really being fulfilled.

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<v Speaker 2>I know. And that's why. That's something I thought about

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<v Speaker 2>actually with him, is that, you know, he traveled and

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<v Speaker 2>he was always seeking, and I wonder if that played

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<v Speaker 2>into like his unhappy you know, him always seeking. He's

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<v Speaker 2>always going to the next adventure to find the next high,

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<v Speaker 2>to not you know, to like keep trying to surpass

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<v Speaker 2>the last experience, and I don't know, it's just sad.

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<v Speaker 2>It's really sad. I'm sorry. I'm sorry. I did not

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<v Speaker 2>mean to smile.

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<v Speaker 3>I just got a text from Thor's I got on focused.

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<v Speaker 2>I have really bad ad D. Not really bad. I'm

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<v Speaker 2>like talking about Anthony smiling at me, and I'm what

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<v Speaker 2>the because I think he's like one of those hip

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<v Speaker 2>hop white boys.

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<v Speaker 3>He says stuff like the pool parties lit y'all slide in, like,

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<v Speaker 3>oh my god, I like it, Oh you do? I

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<v Speaker 3>love a hip hop white boy. And that's not really

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<v Speaker 3>trying to your art. You don't know that yet though,

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<v Speaker 3>let me let me have a little optimism.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm gonna let you be optimistic. But he would just

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<v Speaker 2>keep in mind that he's from Tampa. That means he

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<v Speaker 2>might be a little hip hop. It might be I

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<v Speaker 2>don't know, from Tampa.

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<v Speaker 3>You gotta you gotta a Florida boot. Well, he's not

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<v Speaker 3>a hip hop white boy, and.

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<v Speaker 2>He's actually black. It's actually a doctor. Stop stop bragging,

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<v Speaker 2>and you bragged for me, say shit anyway, So yes,

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<v Speaker 2>rest in peace, Anthony Bourdain. And please, if you know

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<v Speaker 2>anybody that is going through something, just check in on them.

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<v Speaker 2>Let people know you love them, because you just never

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<v Speaker 2>know what's going on.

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<v Speaker 3>So you see, And I think sometimes we get most

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<v Speaker 3>comfortable with friends we've had the longest forgetting to tell

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<v Speaker 3>them like I love you, I'm.

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<v Speaker 2>Proud of you, thank you, Are you cool?

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<v Speaker 3>Because you forget and it's obvious like people like, like

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<v Speaker 3>I said in another episode, like depression looks different for

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<v Speaker 3>everybody you know, and even right now, like even as

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<v Speaker 3>in a dawn realizing.

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<v Speaker 2>There's certain like some days I'm depressed.

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<v Speaker 3>And like and I won't get out of bed, and

0:11:49.760 --> 0:11:51.520
<v Speaker 3>I'm like, what the fuck is wrong with me? But

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<v Speaker 3>you have to acknowledge it to you know, get out

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<v Speaker 3>of that space.

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<v Speaker 2>I've talked to people. Yeah, ask people, how are you doing?

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<v Speaker 2>Sometimes that's it's as simple as that. And I realize

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<v Speaker 2>that sometimes I forget to ask people that, and it's

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<v Speaker 2>such a simple question, how are you?

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<v Speaker 3>How are you feeling? Oh my god, my boot asking

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<v Speaker 3>me the other day like, how are you feeling? And

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<v Speaker 3>I was just like, oh my god, that was so nice.

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<v Speaker 3>And I clearly I've never been in a healthy relationship

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<v Speaker 3>in my life.

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<v Speaker 2>But no, it's true though you don't. Yeah, people forget

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<v Speaker 2>to ask you that question, and you forget to check

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<v Speaker 2>in with yourself. Yeah, am I feeling okay? Am I happy?

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<v Speaker 2>Am I f filled? Like, I don't know how I'm feeling?

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<v Speaker 2>How am I feeling right now?

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<v Speaker 3>It's like, because you're like going through the motions, you're moving, moving, moving, moving, Yeah,

0:12:27.960 --> 0:12:28.400
<v Speaker 3>living in.

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<v Speaker 2>A fast, fast life, fast day and age.

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<v Speaker 3>Speaking of fast lives, Kim Kardashian's request for a pardon

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<v Speaker 3>got granted by her homeboy Trump.

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<v Speaker 4>World Wind for everybody, Kim's no political Fourteen years seasons later,

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<v Speaker 4>when she's accumulated fourteen billion dollars, She's done something positive

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<v Speaker 4>for a community.

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<v Speaker 2>You know, it's more I'm less mad at her and

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<v Speaker 2>more mad at Donald not mad, like I'm so happy

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<v Speaker 2>for this woman that she's out and she's able to

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<v Speaker 2>be with her family. Like I'm not trying to take

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<v Speaker 2>that away at all. But this is such a political

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<v Speaker 2>so clearly obviously such a political move for Donald Trump

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<v Speaker 2>because black people don't fuck with him. And also, you know,

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<v Speaker 2>he is part of the problem with prison reform, like

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<v Speaker 2>him and all his rich friends. Prison is is like

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<v Speaker 2>a booming industry for for sure, so much money. It's slavery.

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<v Speaker 2>He's not modern days doing anything to change that. He

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<v Speaker 2>just did this so we would shut up, and then

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<v Speaker 2>anytime we talk about it, he'll bring this up again.

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<v Speaker 2>And he's he's gearing up for reelection.

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<v Speaker 3>He's also discussing, uh, lifting the ban on marijuana federally

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<v Speaker 3>or whatever. But I heard that that's like also because

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<v Speaker 3>of you know, he's trying to get relected. I don't

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<v Speaker 3>fuck with Trump, And I think that Kim Kardashian should

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<v Speaker 3>have been being active in the community or you have

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<v Speaker 3>that much influence, that much money, and like you said,

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<v Speaker 3>the jail sysm like it's been a fucked up situation

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<v Speaker 3>since Reagan.

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<v Speaker 2>So but you know what, honestly, I'm not mad at

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<v Speaker 2>Kim because there's a lot of black women out here

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<v Speaker 2>that don't do anything that Kim is doing. You know,

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<v Speaker 2>and you're black, you know what I mean? What are

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<v Speaker 2>you doing? Like? I get it because she comes with

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<v Speaker 2>so much baggage attached to her. It was not even

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<v Speaker 2>the baggage.

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<v Speaker 3>But who do you think, honestly, what black woman minus Oprah?

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<v Speaker 3>I think, who do you think has that much influence

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<v Speaker 3>like socially and financially minus like Oprah?

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<v Speaker 2>What black woman has that much?

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<v Speaker 3>Like even like even her range of following like young

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<v Speaker 3>to old?

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<v Speaker 2>Who like what black women can you say has the same?

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<v Speaker 2>I mean not the same maybe like a Tyra Banks

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<v Speaker 2>or even there's actors that make a lot of money,

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<v Speaker 2>you know what I mean, But we also don't know

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<v Speaker 2>what they do behind closed stores. But I'm not mad

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<v Speaker 2>at it. I'm not. Trump and Kim are the same person,

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<v Speaker 2>and that's why they can relate to each other because

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<v Speaker 2>they're both like TV reality wars, you know what I mean.

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<v Speaker 2>And that's why it makes it That's why it makes

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<v Speaker 2>the situation meant dirty. You know, if it was anybody else,

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<v Speaker 2>we wouldn't be talking about this. But it's because she

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<v Speaker 2>and her family are such like like they're just she

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<v Speaker 2>corny and Donald Trump is a corny person that's now

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<v Speaker 2>our fucking president, and it just makes it like, it

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<v Speaker 2>just makes it dirty.

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<v Speaker 3>Listening to Kim Kardashian talk anything remotely educated and palalytical is.

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<v Speaker 2>The most irritating.

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<v Speaker 3>It's just like listening to Connie talk about stupid shit.

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<v Speaker 3>It's just like stupid.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't want to hear it. I don't want to

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<v Speaker 2>hear like. I'm happy. I hope you continues to do it.

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<v Speaker 3>I hope if you fucking make a change, bitch, finally

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<v Speaker 3>do something important. You do have two black hands and

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<v Speaker 3>a black husband. It's a three big three, oh yeah, third,

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<v Speaker 3>and it's a big It's a big thing that affects

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<v Speaker 3>the black household and it has for years. So absolutely

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<v Speaker 3>I'm with the agenda. But like listening to her talk

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<v Speaker 3>smart is annoying. Period.

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<v Speaker 2>I think, yeah, when she was talking, she was like

0:15:58.880 --> 0:16:01.360
<v Speaker 2>she was like yeah, and so they're like ban Jones

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<v Speaker 2>is like, so how did it happen? Tell me what happened,

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<v Speaker 2>and she's like, well, well, I was at a photo shoot.

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<v Speaker 2>I was like I got the call and like it's

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<v Speaker 2>like okay, You're like, we didn't need to know you

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<v Speaker 2>want a photo shoot.

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<v Speaker 3>Just like tell us like and just like you know,

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<v Speaker 3>like waiting on the call, like just to find out

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<v Speaker 3>what happened, like on pins and nails.

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<v Speaker 2>There's just so much.

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<v Speaker 3>It's just so you know, I'm just like, shut the

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<v Speaker 3>fuck up, please get to the point. Shit, I can

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<v Speaker 3>in my head, I could totally hear fucking Her and

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<v Speaker 3>Kanye in the bed like having these deep, shallow discussions

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<v Speaker 3>and circles, and I'm like, oh god, they're perfect.

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<v Speaker 2>For each other.

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<v Speaker 3>Her, Kanye and fucking Trump are fucking best friend circle.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh my god.

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<v Speaker 3>Anyway, speaking of friend circles.

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<v Speaker 2>Speaking of friend circles, today's episode is about maybe a

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<v Speaker 2>few things, but we want to focus song what not

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<v Speaker 2>to do as a friend, what you don't do in case.

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<v Speaker 3>You bitches needed. We want you to be able to

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<v Speaker 3>gentify a bad friend. We want you to be able

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<v Speaker 3>to cut out a bad friend, and we want you

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<v Speaker 3>to be a better friend. If these are any things

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<v Speaker 3>that you do the friend code, the friend code.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, basically that being one of them, being the biggest

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<v Speaker 2>one for like me personally, is do you as a

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<v Speaker 2>friend stay stay friends with your ex? Like would your

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<v Speaker 2>best friend stay friends? Yeah? Is that okay? Are there

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<v Speaker 2>different reasons? Are there different scenarios where it is okay

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<v Speaker 2>versus not okay? Or is it just never okay?

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<v Speaker 3>When you text me like I want to talk about this,

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<v Speaker 3>I was like, what are we gonna talk about?

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<v Speaker 2>Because the answer is just fuck no. I was just

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<v Speaker 2>like no, duh, Like why are you talking about? Like?

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<v Speaker 2>What else are we gonna say? Because it's so clear? Well,

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<v Speaker 2>I think some people might disagree. Does she have a vagina?

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<v Speaker 2>I don't. I mean, it's a girl. I don't know.

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<v Speaker 2>It's like I mean, I'm sure there's some people that

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<v Speaker 2>listen to us that probably still talk to one of

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<v Speaker 2>their friends' exes okay and can and justifies it and

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<v Speaker 2>can justify it.

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<v Speaker 3>Okay, Let's let's go over the justifications because this is

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<v Speaker 3>what I said. These were my first questions. Were they

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<v Speaker 3>friends with your ex before you? Were they best friends

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<v Speaker 3>with your ex before you? And those were the only

0:18:19.480 --> 0:18:26.800
<v Speaker 3>questions related. Are their cousins? Isn't our brother? These are

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<v Speaker 3>the only circumstances in which it may be.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay because it's still questionable. Some cousins you don't need

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<v Speaker 2>to talk to. I'm just kidding. It's true, it's true.

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<v Speaker 3>And especially I think one of the biggest things the

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<v Speaker 3>terms on which they broke up. If you had to

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<v Speaker 3>like mature breakup and we just parted our ways, fine,

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<v Speaker 3>you know you have you've developed friendships with people over

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<v Speaker 3>years of time.

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<v Speaker 2>That's natural. But other than that, like you know what

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<v Speaker 2>I mean? Wait, I forgot.

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<v Speaker 3>I just said, well, how they broke up, how they

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<v Speaker 3>oh yeah, how they treat your friend?

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, I mean I think all those play effactor for me.

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<v Speaker 2>It's like I feel like, why, why do you want

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<v Speaker 2>to touch on your specific Yeah. So I basically have

0:19:08.760 --> 0:19:12.760
<v Speaker 2>this situation going on in my life where my ex,

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<v Speaker 2>my friend became like a middleman in my situation between

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<v Speaker 2>me and my ex, Like he they they became friends

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<v Speaker 2>and well they kind of knew each other before, but

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<v Speaker 2>not really. It was more so like he didn't really

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<v Speaker 2>remember her and she had met him a few times

0:19:29.520 --> 0:19:32.720
<v Speaker 2>through so she didn't like introduce you to him. No, Okay,

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<v Speaker 2>So basically when we're in our relationship, my ex, whenever

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<v Speaker 2>we'd have a fight, she would call her and she

0:19:42.400 --> 0:19:47.639
<v Speaker 2>became like our middle man, like she would like a therapist. Almost, yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>which happens. Which happens, But don't do that. If you're

0:19:50.720 --> 0:19:54.159
<v Speaker 2>doing that currently, stop that shit now because clearly that

0:19:54.320 --> 0:19:56.240
<v Speaker 2>means there's going to be a gray area. There's a

0:19:56.280 --> 0:19:59.199
<v Speaker 2>lot of gray areas there, and some people don't know

0:19:59.240 --> 0:20:04.359
<v Speaker 2>when to step away from that position, you know. So anyway,

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<v Speaker 2>so they Yeah, so they have that relationship and like

0:20:07.200 --> 0:20:09.359
<v Speaker 2>you know, like when he would go on tour and

0:20:09.400 --> 0:20:10.960
<v Speaker 2>were and like and she lived in New York for

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<v Speaker 2>a while, so when I was on tour, like she'd

0:20:12.960 --> 0:20:15.000
<v Speaker 2>go to his shows while they were like while I

0:20:15.119 --> 0:20:16.719
<v Speaker 2>was here or whatever, and that was fine, Like I

0:20:16.760 --> 0:20:18.240
<v Speaker 2>was happy. I'm happy that they had.

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<v Speaker 3>A really I mean, for the most part, you want

0:20:19.600 --> 0:20:22.080
<v Speaker 3>your friends to Yeah, it's almost a hundred percent.

0:20:22.160 --> 0:20:25.040
<v Speaker 2>Like I really enjoyed that my best friend and my

0:20:25.800 --> 0:20:28.240
<v Speaker 2>best friend who is my was my partner, have a

0:20:28.280 --> 0:20:29.840
<v Speaker 2>really relationship. Yeah for sure.

0:20:29.920 --> 0:20:33.080
<v Speaker 3>Yeah, we're not like crazy women here, not like don't

0:20:33.119 --> 0:20:36.480
<v Speaker 3>talk to my mind, No, I'm honest, Like borderline is

0:20:36.520 --> 0:20:38.439
<v Speaker 3>your man too, Like that's how I feel because I've

0:20:38.480 --> 0:20:41.280
<v Speaker 3>had friends station to me and I'm like like it's

0:20:41.320 --> 0:20:42.719
<v Speaker 3>like that's how it's supposed to be.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, yeah, no, for sure, I was. I've always supported

0:20:47.040 --> 0:20:49.879
<v Speaker 2>and been happy about the relationship that they had no

0:20:50.000 --> 0:20:55.080
<v Speaker 2>jealousy at all. So then basically me and my ex

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<v Speaker 2>broke up a while ago, and I had a situation

0:20:58.680 --> 0:21:02.359
<v Speaker 2>where I told her something and I believe that she

0:21:02.520 --> 0:21:06.160
<v Speaker 2>told him, and it caused a drama between me and him,

0:21:06.280 --> 0:21:08.399
<v Speaker 2>and so it was I'm thinking, like, why are you

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<v Speaker 2>telling him things that a or not his business?

0:21:12.320 --> 0:21:15.000
<v Speaker 3>And B you missed the part where you specifically told

0:21:15.000 --> 0:21:16.760
<v Speaker 3>her don't tell him, right.

0:21:17.040 --> 0:21:20.080
<v Speaker 2>And so let me just be really honest here. I

0:21:20.119 --> 0:21:23.560
<v Speaker 2>don't have proof that she told him, but she's literally

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<v Speaker 2>the only person I could have told him. So it's

0:21:25.320 --> 0:21:27.280
<v Speaker 2>one of those situations where you just know you know

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<v Speaker 2>what I mean.

0:21:28.000 --> 0:21:30.920
<v Speaker 3>And then when she confronted her about it, the answer

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<v Speaker 3>was did you tell X Y and z x Y

0:21:33.160 --> 0:21:33.480
<v Speaker 3>and Z.

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<v Speaker 2>And the answer was I don't think so, no, which

0:21:37.800 --> 0:21:41.680
<v Speaker 2>means you're lying. Well, yeah, yes, I believe she's lying,

0:21:41.760 --> 0:21:44.040
<v Speaker 2>of course, But if your first thing is I don't

0:21:44.040 --> 0:21:46.720
<v Speaker 2>think so, and I specifically told you do not say

0:21:46.760 --> 0:21:52.480
<v Speaker 2>this information to this person, are you slow? No? Stupid?

0:21:52.000 --> 0:21:55.840
<v Speaker 2>I think I also caught her off guard, and so

0:21:55.920 --> 0:21:58.760
<v Speaker 2>she you know, I know when you are she intended

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<v Speaker 2>on telling you like I slept up. I don't know

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<v Speaker 2>about all that, but when you catch anybody off guard,

0:22:03.280 --> 0:22:05.560
<v Speaker 2>their first reaction is to defend themselves, you know what

0:22:05.600 --> 0:22:11.240
<v Speaker 2>I mean? True, So and lie? Yeah, unfortunately sometimes yeah, yeah,

0:22:11.320 --> 0:22:13.720
<v Speaker 2>especially when you're wrong. Okay, So let you know you're wrong,

0:22:13.760 --> 0:22:15.159
<v Speaker 2>and it's just because you're wrong with me. You're a

0:22:15.240 --> 0:22:17.080
<v Speaker 2>terrible person. But you need to think about all the

0:22:17.080 --> 0:22:18.920
<v Speaker 2>things you do, you know what I mean. So, I

0:22:19.000 --> 0:22:23.640
<v Speaker 2>mean I've done shit where I've been like oh yeah shit, yeah. Yeah,

0:22:23.640 --> 0:22:26.159
<v Speaker 2>but it's like I'm sorry, not like but just just

0:22:26.200 --> 0:22:27.359
<v Speaker 2>admit it. Yeah, admit it.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, even after like you're one of your best friends

0:22:30.200 --> 0:22:32.080
<v Speaker 3>with someone. First of all, they've been like what was

0:22:32.080 --> 0:22:34.760
<v Speaker 3>it like twenty years? Yeah, I mean I've fallen out

0:22:34.760 --> 0:22:37.120
<v Speaker 3>with my friend of twenty years and I'm bitter.

0:22:37.280 --> 0:22:40.040
<v Speaker 2>I'm like, I'm not a bitter, but I'm like I

0:22:40.080 --> 0:22:42.000
<v Speaker 2>can hold on to some shit. And I was like,

0:22:42.080 --> 0:22:42.919
<v Speaker 2>I'm not speaking to her.

0:22:43.000 --> 0:22:44.480
<v Speaker 3>No, I didn't even say that, I'm not gonna speak

0:22:44.520 --> 0:22:46.200
<v Speaker 3>to her for like six months, eight months.

0:22:46.000 --> 0:22:47.760
<v Speaker 2>Or you put a time like you knew, Yeah, you

0:22:47.800 --> 0:22:48.760
<v Speaker 2>knew that you'd be back.

0:22:48.880 --> 0:22:53.040
<v Speaker 3>Yeah, I mean, honestly, as spiteful as I am, and

0:22:53.080 --> 0:22:55.639
<v Speaker 3>as much as I don't forget, I'm very forgiving, Like

0:22:55.720 --> 0:22:58.200
<v Speaker 3>I genuinely. First of all, friends are hard to come by,

0:22:58.760 --> 0:23:02.240
<v Speaker 3>and once you've invested twenty years in a friendship, like

0:23:02.280 --> 0:23:04.440
<v Speaker 3>it's some past friendship, it's your sister.

0:23:04.280 --> 0:23:05.680
<v Speaker 2>Like I genuinely believe that.

0:23:06.080 --> 0:23:07.960
<v Speaker 3>So I'm not like and I'm coming to the place

0:23:08.040 --> 0:23:10.880
<v Speaker 3>like you accept people as they are, fuck ups and all,

0:23:10.960 --> 0:23:12.160
<v Speaker 3>and like that's a part of friendship.

0:23:12.200 --> 0:23:13.639
<v Speaker 2>So I didn't think I was never going to be

0:23:13.680 --> 0:23:14.399
<v Speaker 2>friends with that person.

0:23:14.520 --> 0:23:16.400
<v Speaker 3>There's things I said I would never do that I'm

0:23:16.440 --> 0:23:18.680
<v Speaker 3>doing now because obviously I'm over it.

0:23:19.080 --> 0:23:23.840
<v Speaker 2>But even this situation, I am really annoyed and I've

0:23:23.840 --> 0:23:27.800
<v Speaker 2>been like doing it. I love her, I still love her,

0:23:27.880 --> 0:23:29.880
<v Speaker 2>and like, I hope that we can work it out,

0:23:30.000 --> 0:23:31.679
<v Speaker 2>but right now we're in a place where it's not

0:23:31.800 --> 0:23:34.280
<v Speaker 2>we're not working it out, and so it's making me angry.

0:23:34.760 --> 0:23:36.840
<v Speaker 2>And I've tried to reach out to work it out,

0:23:36.920 --> 0:23:40.240
<v Speaker 2>and it's like, you know, she was she resists. She

0:23:40.280 --> 0:23:42.280
<v Speaker 2>was like showing me resistance towards trying to work it

0:23:42.280 --> 0:23:46.320
<v Speaker 2>out because she she felt attacked, you know what I mean.

0:23:46.400 --> 0:23:49.000
<v Speaker 2>And you know, I know that I reached out and

0:23:49.000 --> 0:23:51.639
<v Speaker 2>I was aggressive about it because I was angry. But

0:23:51.680 --> 0:23:54.840
<v Speaker 2>I also know that I'm right, you know, and so

0:23:55.040 --> 0:23:56.800
<v Speaker 2>I mean, I absolutely think you're right. I think I

0:23:56.840 --> 0:23:58.440
<v Speaker 2>know that I didn't approach it correctly, and that's why

0:23:58.480 --> 0:24:00.000
<v Speaker 2>I try to reach out to her. And I was like, hey,

0:24:00.119 --> 0:24:01.800
<v Speaker 2>you know what, I should have done that, because she said,

0:24:01.880 --> 0:24:03.320
<v Speaker 2>choose did you tell so?

0:24:03.359 --> 0:24:03.479
<v Speaker 5>Then?

0:24:03.520 --> 0:24:05.560
<v Speaker 2>Okay, so then let me get finished the story. So

0:24:05.800 --> 0:24:10.080
<v Speaker 2>I approached her. She denied it, then came back like

0:24:10.160 --> 0:24:12.800
<v Speaker 2>a few like that same day and was called me

0:24:12.840 --> 0:24:15.280
<v Speaker 2>and said like I spoke to him, which annoyed me,

0:24:15.600 --> 0:24:17.880
<v Speaker 2>and was like and he said that you you did

0:24:17.920 --> 0:24:20.000
<v Speaker 2>blah blah blah and this and da da da da dah.

0:24:20.080 --> 0:24:22.439
<v Speaker 2>I'm sorry. I don't I don't I didn't tell him.

0:24:22.440 --> 0:24:24.119
<v Speaker 2>I don't think I told him. I don't think it

0:24:24.520 --> 0:24:26.919
<v Speaker 2>wasn't it wasn't like it was. It wasn't like I

0:24:27.000 --> 0:24:29.719
<v Speaker 2>definitive I did not tell him. It was like, I

0:24:29.760 --> 0:24:34.040
<v Speaker 2>don't remember telling him. So so anyway, so then I

0:24:34.200 --> 0:24:36.560
<v Speaker 2>was like, you know what, I really need you to

0:24:36.560 --> 0:24:38.880
<v Speaker 2>make a decision. I was like, you know, I'm I'm

0:24:38.880 --> 0:24:41.440
<v Speaker 2>not really the type of person that makes people choose friends,

0:24:41.520 --> 0:24:44.160
<v Speaker 2>but in this particular situation, it's getting messy. I feel

0:24:44.160 --> 0:24:47.359
<v Speaker 2>like it's being messed. Like this situation is so Me

0:24:47.400 --> 0:24:49.280
<v Speaker 2>and my ex broke up in September. It's almost been

0:24:49.359 --> 0:24:52.360
<v Speaker 2>a year, close to a year, but it's still fresh,

0:24:52.480 --> 0:24:54.199
<v Speaker 2>you know. I deal with this every single day, with

0:24:54.359 --> 0:24:56.639
<v Speaker 2>like dealing with him and my daughter and trying to

0:24:56.680 --> 0:24:58.720
<v Speaker 2>work on our friendship. And it's not easy, and we

0:24:58.800 --> 0:25:02.280
<v Speaker 2>have really bad days and we have okay days and yeah,

0:25:02.320 --> 0:25:06.439
<v Speaker 2>and it's like I you know, anyway, So I just

0:25:06.520 --> 0:25:08.119
<v Speaker 2>was like, I need you to make a choice. Are

0:25:08.160 --> 0:25:09.959
<v Speaker 2>you my friend or you his friend? Because you've been

0:25:09.960 --> 0:25:12.440
<v Speaker 2>my friend for twenty years and I just don't think

0:25:12.480 --> 0:25:14.000
<v Speaker 2>that there's no reason for you to be friends. I

0:25:14.000 --> 0:25:17.320
<v Speaker 2>don't understand your friendship. I was like, does he call

0:25:17.400 --> 0:25:20.760
<v Speaker 2>and check in on you? Like, I don't get why

0:25:20.800 --> 0:25:22.800
<v Speaker 2>it's necessary for you to be friends with him? And

0:25:22.800 --> 0:25:25.320
<v Speaker 2>then she said fit do you Oh this was later,

0:25:25.480 --> 0:25:28.159
<v Speaker 2>so then she was like, well, I don't really, I

0:25:28.160 --> 0:25:30.440
<v Speaker 2>don't me and Freddie have a friendship. I don't understand ed.

0:25:30.640 --> 0:25:31.800
<v Speaker 2>And I was like, well, I think you need to

0:25:31.800 --> 0:25:33.440
<v Speaker 2>think about it, and then we got kind of got

0:25:33.440 --> 0:25:38.080
<v Speaker 2>off the phone. She said she apologized for me being

0:25:38.080 --> 0:25:40.120
<v Speaker 2>mad at her. She texted you that. No, on the phone,

0:25:40.160 --> 0:25:41.600
<v Speaker 2>She's like, well, I'm sorry, I feel like you're mad

0:25:41.640 --> 0:25:43.679
<v Speaker 2>at me, but like I'm sorry if you're mad at me,

0:25:43.880 --> 0:25:45.639
<v Speaker 2>not like I'm sorry for me, but I'm sorry about it.

0:25:45.760 --> 0:25:48.120
<v Speaker 2>So anyway, we didn't talk for like maybe a month

0:25:48.200 --> 0:25:51.480
<v Speaker 2>after that because I was like pissed and just confused.

0:25:52.040 --> 0:25:54.040
<v Speaker 2>And then like maybe like a month and a half,

0:25:54.040 --> 0:25:55.399
<v Speaker 2>that's when I reached out to her and said, you know,

0:25:55.880 --> 0:25:57.320
<v Speaker 2>like I was thinking about her, and I was like,

0:25:57.359 --> 0:25:59.720
<v Speaker 2>you know what, I should apologize for how I came

0:25:59.720 --> 0:26:02.320
<v Speaker 2>at her, but like let's just move past this, you know.

0:26:02.440 --> 0:26:04.200
<v Speaker 2>And so then she texted me back and was like,

0:26:04.680 --> 0:26:07.119
<v Speaker 2>you know you everything is not about you. You make

0:26:07.160 --> 0:26:10.560
<v Speaker 2>everything about yourself. You haven't come and visited me out here.

0:26:10.920 --> 0:26:13.959
<v Speaker 2>She doesn't live in LA and uh, you even come

0:26:14.080 --> 0:26:16.399
<v Speaker 2>visit me out here, and you know, I feel really

0:26:16.440 --> 0:26:19.200
<v Speaker 2>insulted you would question me and your baby daddy's friendship.

0:26:19.240 --> 0:26:21.520
<v Speaker 2>We went through this near death experience. They went through

0:26:21.520 --> 0:26:28.119
<v Speaker 2>a near death experience. A good car accident. No, his

0:26:28.440 --> 0:26:31.840
<v Speaker 2>show got shot up. It sounds really, so I don't know.

0:26:31.800 --> 0:26:33.600
<v Speaker 3>Her, and I don't like, I'm sure I'll meet her

0:26:33.600 --> 0:26:35.680
<v Speaker 3>eventually and it's gonna be like, yeah, I'm giving you

0:26:35.720 --> 0:26:37.639
<v Speaker 3>a really bad version of who she is because she's

0:26:37.680 --> 0:26:40.240
<v Speaker 3>actually a cool person, but this situation is not cool.

0:26:40.520 --> 0:26:41.919
<v Speaker 2>Those sound like excuses to me.

0:26:42.160 --> 0:26:44.520
<v Speaker 3>You went through a near death experience because the show

0:26:44.600 --> 0:26:45.440
<v Speaker 3>got shot up.

0:26:45.640 --> 0:26:48.840
<v Speaker 2>Girl, Like, yeah, you actually put you in danger girl.

0:26:49.720 --> 0:26:52.520
<v Speaker 2>So then anyway, I was like, okay, whatever, I like,

0:26:52.680 --> 0:26:54.760
<v Speaker 2>was like I read all that and I was like, okay, girl,

0:26:54.800 --> 0:26:56.399
<v Speaker 2>I can't. I was like, anyway, so she do want

0:26:56.440 --> 0:26:57.800
<v Speaker 2>to talk or no? And then she was like I

0:26:57.800 --> 0:26:59.040
<v Speaker 2>don't know, no, no, and then she's like, okay, we

0:26:59.080 --> 0:27:01.320
<v Speaker 2>can talk on Saturday. Saturday came around, I was like,

0:27:01.320 --> 0:27:03.159
<v Speaker 2>what time? She never hit me back? Hit me back

0:27:03.200 --> 0:27:05.720
<v Speaker 2>a week later, Hey, sorry, I've been busy with school

0:27:06.920 --> 0:27:09.840
<v Speaker 2>schedules of conversation. She wanted to schedule it and lives

0:27:09.840 --> 0:27:12.720
<v Speaker 2>on a busy bitch, so yes, I am. So then

0:27:13.240 --> 0:27:15.520
<v Speaker 2>she never reached back out, and so I felt like

0:27:15.520 --> 0:27:18.320
<v Speaker 2>I reached out twice, she didn't reciprocate, and I'm cool.

0:27:18.720 --> 0:27:21.280
<v Speaker 2>So then fast forward to a few days ago, I

0:27:21.359 --> 0:27:25.840
<v Speaker 2>asked baby Daddy pouring one. Yes, I'm good. I asked

0:27:25.880 --> 0:27:27.439
<v Speaker 2>baby Daddy, Hey, have you talked to so and so?

0:27:27.520 --> 0:27:28.720
<v Speaker 2>And he was like, yeah, I talked to her like

0:27:28.720 --> 0:27:31.000
<v Speaker 2>two days ago. She's moving back to La Da Da

0:27:31.119 --> 0:27:33.480
<v Speaker 2>Da Da. Daddy like had all this new information about

0:27:33.560 --> 0:27:36.679
<v Speaker 2>my best friend who's talking to my baby daddy, And

0:27:36.720 --> 0:27:39.040
<v Speaker 2>I just felt away about that. It really pissed me

0:27:39.080 --> 0:27:41.680
<v Speaker 2>the fuck off. I'm actually getting angry right now thinking

0:27:41.720 --> 0:27:43.480
<v Speaker 2>about it. I think you agree, I would agree, Like,

0:27:43.600 --> 0:27:45.919
<v Speaker 2>but who's your friend? Like what the fuck?

0:27:46.240 --> 0:27:46.440
<v Speaker 3>Yeah?

0:27:46.440 --> 0:27:49.159
<v Speaker 2>I think it's weird. Why do you know more about

0:27:49.240 --> 0:27:51.760
<v Speaker 2>my best friend? And she's like deliberately not really still

0:27:51.800 --> 0:27:54.639
<v Speaker 2>talking to you, And I just I don't know. It

0:27:54.760 --> 0:27:56.959
<v Speaker 2>just did not sit with me right, And I just

0:27:56.960 --> 0:28:01.080
<v Speaker 2>feel really uncomfortable about that whole situation, like, you know,

0:28:01.760 --> 0:28:05.960
<v Speaker 2>like especially because our relationship, me and my baby dad's

0:28:06.000 --> 0:28:08.200
<v Speaker 2>relationship did not end well and it was not my fault.

0:28:08.240 --> 0:28:10.080
<v Speaker 2>It was his fault, and it has been something that

0:28:10.119 --> 0:28:14.199
<v Speaker 2>he you know, he cheated so many times and been disrespectful,

0:28:14.720 --> 0:28:17.639
<v Speaker 2>and like for me, it's like, why would you want

0:28:17.680 --> 0:28:20.680
<v Speaker 2>to be friends with someone? Yeah, it's I'm not saying

0:28:20.720 --> 0:28:22.640
<v Speaker 2>that Baby Daddy is not is not him the same

0:28:22.680 --> 0:28:25.280
<v Speaker 2>Baby Daddy is. I'm not saying he's not a good person.

0:28:25.520 --> 0:28:27.440
<v Speaker 2>He definitely has to work on a lot of shit,

0:28:27.800 --> 0:28:31.680
<v Speaker 2>but still, like, why would you want to still parley

0:28:31.760 --> 0:28:33.560
<v Speaker 2>with someone who's hurt your best friend?

0:28:33.720 --> 0:28:36.600
<v Speaker 3>Repeatedly, I don't get it. I honestly don't get it.

0:28:36.840 --> 0:28:38.040
<v Speaker 3>So it's hard for me to give you.

0:28:38.120 --> 0:28:39.800
<v Speaker 2>Like, so for those of you out there, do you

0:28:39.800 --> 0:28:42.560
<v Speaker 2>I don't know, like, am I shripping? Like I feel

0:28:42.560 --> 0:28:45.200
<v Speaker 2>like I'm not tripping. I'm trying to not be an

0:28:45.360 --> 0:28:47.800
<v Speaker 2>angry person, and I feel that this situation is making

0:28:47.840 --> 0:28:50.680
<v Speaker 2>me angry. I feel the angry and that's why today

0:28:50.760 --> 0:28:53.800
<v Speaker 2>I told baby Daddy. I was like, hey, so, do

0:28:53.840 --> 0:28:56.480
<v Speaker 2>you have spacing your garage? And he was like what?

0:28:56.560 --> 0:28:58.720
<v Speaker 2>And this was that lunch after my daughter's recital, and

0:28:58.760 --> 0:29:00.360
<v Speaker 2>I was really tired and I was kind of one

0:29:00.600 --> 0:29:04.120
<v Speaker 2>and pissy and bitchy, and he was like, yeah, I

0:29:04.120 --> 0:29:04.800
<v Speaker 2>got space.

0:29:04.840 --> 0:29:05.040
<v Speaker 3>Why?

0:29:05.080 --> 0:29:07.520
<v Speaker 2>And I was like, so you got space for boxes?

0:29:08.120 --> 0:29:10.000
<v Speaker 2>He's like yeah. I was like, so you can put

0:29:10.080 --> 0:29:12.080
<v Speaker 2>so and so ship in your garage. He was like,

0:29:12.080 --> 0:29:13.880
<v Speaker 2>what do you mean. I'm like, her ship's been in

0:29:13.880 --> 0:29:15.200
<v Speaker 2>my garage for two years.

0:29:15.840 --> 0:29:17.720
<v Speaker 3>I've clearly you guys are the best fucking friends, so

0:29:17.760 --> 0:29:18.959
<v Speaker 3>maybe she needs to transfer.

0:29:19.160 --> 0:29:22.120
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, And I was like, because she's your He was

0:29:22.160 --> 0:29:25.480
<v Speaker 2>like okay, And I was like, is that my problem? Wait?

0:29:25.600 --> 0:29:27.760
<v Speaker 2>Did you proceed to put the shit in this car? No,

0:29:27.800 --> 0:29:30.760
<v Speaker 2>it's in my garage. I was like. I was like,

0:29:30.800 --> 0:29:32.520
<v Speaker 2>I was like, because that's your friend. And then he

0:29:32.560 --> 0:29:34.120
<v Speaker 2>got really quiet and then he got mad at me.

0:29:34.240 --> 0:29:38.120
<v Speaker 2>Kind of why. I don't know, because he did. I

0:29:38.120 --> 0:29:40.120
<v Speaker 2>could just tell he got mad. He didn't like get mad.

0:29:40.160 --> 0:29:41.320
<v Speaker 2>He didn't want he doesn't want to be in an

0:29:41.360 --> 0:29:44.200
<v Speaker 2>awkward situation. He isn't. And I was like, am I wrong?

0:29:44.240 --> 0:29:45.360
<v Speaker 2>And he's like, I don't want to talk about it

0:29:45.440 --> 0:29:47.360
<v Speaker 2>right now? And I'm like why He's like I don't

0:29:47.400 --> 0:29:51.120
<v Speaker 2>want to talk about it right now. I was like, okay, good,

0:29:51.160 --> 0:29:53.760
<v Speaker 2>because there's nothing to talk about. You're getting it. I'm

0:29:53.760 --> 0:29:56.120
<v Speaker 2>putting it in the trunk. And I feel like I'm

0:29:56.120 --> 0:29:59.200
<v Speaker 2>being petty. I know I'm being paid. Actually I don't

0:29:59.200 --> 0:30:00.959
<v Speaker 2>think it'd being that petty. I think it's kind of petty,

0:30:01.000 --> 0:30:05.120
<v Speaker 2>but I'm And although I followed her, I have followed

0:30:05.120 --> 0:30:07.720
<v Speaker 2>a friend because she like I wonder her pictures popped

0:30:07.760 --> 0:30:09.320
<v Speaker 2>up on my instant and I've been and I've been

0:30:09.360 --> 0:30:11.800
<v Speaker 2>stewing in this, like I've been stewing in all of

0:30:11.840 --> 0:30:13.600
<v Speaker 2>this and just pissed me off. And I was like,

0:30:13.640 --> 0:30:15.560
<v Speaker 2>I'm lovely her. I was like, oh my god, it's so.

0:30:15.640 --> 0:30:18.240
<v Speaker 3>Like, no, I don't twenty eighteen. I've done it. I've

0:30:18.240 --> 0:30:22.160
<v Speaker 3>literally done it. So I think that you're right. You know,

0:30:22.360 --> 0:30:24.480
<v Speaker 3>I would tell you if you're wrong. I don't know

0:30:24.560 --> 0:30:26.760
<v Speaker 3>her personally, so I'm judging, yeah.

0:30:26.560 --> 0:30:28.560
<v Speaker 2>You are. I mean, I mean, I know because and

0:30:28.600 --> 0:30:31.320
<v Speaker 2>that's rightfully so, because you don't know her that whole person,

0:30:31.360 --> 0:30:31.800
<v Speaker 2>So I'm not.

0:30:32.080 --> 0:30:34.520
<v Speaker 3>But I also my other question to her was like,

0:30:34.640 --> 0:30:36.240
<v Speaker 3>do you think she has a crush on this nigga?

0:30:36.440 --> 0:30:39.400
<v Speaker 3>Because that is but I know, I know, probably not,

0:30:39.520 --> 0:30:41.960
<v Speaker 3>But like from a person from the outside linking in,

0:30:42.240 --> 0:30:44.080
<v Speaker 3>these are questions that I would ask because even when

0:30:44.080 --> 0:30:46.600
<v Speaker 3>we're telling her, she's like, what is she like trying

0:30:46.600 --> 0:30:48.680
<v Speaker 3>to do him? They mess around before and obviously no,

0:30:48.840 --> 0:30:51.160
<v Speaker 3>but those are the type of things that starts to

0:30:51.240 --> 0:30:54.680
<v Speaker 3>like linger because I don't, what do you want to be.

0:30:54.640 --> 0:30:57.000
<v Speaker 2>Friends with them? So bad? For he's not that cool?

0:30:57.320 --> 0:31:00.360
<v Speaker 2>I don't. I don't feel that way. I don't get

0:31:00.360 --> 0:31:00.840
<v Speaker 2>that from me.

0:31:01.000 --> 0:31:03.479
<v Speaker 3>No, you know, we're water signs. You're you're like low

0:31:03.560 --> 0:31:06.440
<v Speaker 3>key's psychic, so you would know. No, it's true until

0:31:06.480 --> 0:31:09.000
<v Speaker 3>all my my new boyfriends, I'm psychic, so don't try me.

0:31:09.280 --> 0:31:11.200
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, I don't think so that's not the vibe I get.

0:31:11.240 --> 0:31:15.280
<v Speaker 2>I just feel like I don't know. I don't know anyway. Yeah,

0:31:15.400 --> 0:31:17.680
<v Speaker 2>so that's a friend. That's a friend. No No, in

0:31:17.720 --> 0:31:18.120
<v Speaker 2>my opinion.

0:31:18.160 --> 0:31:19.560
<v Speaker 3>Wait, let me tell you about my friend. No no,

0:31:19.600 --> 0:31:24.080
<v Speaker 3>because it's hilarious. I have a friend. I'm actually friends.

0:31:23.800 --> 0:31:24.560
<v Speaker 2>With her brother more.

0:31:24.680 --> 0:31:28.400
<v Speaker 3>But whatever, we developed like friendship, like a pretty very

0:31:28.400 --> 0:31:29.040
<v Speaker 3>close friendship.

0:31:29.040 --> 0:31:31.360
<v Speaker 2>I was in her wedding first of all. I was.

0:31:31.800 --> 0:31:34.320
<v Speaker 3>She told me I was in her wedding. Then like

0:31:34.720 --> 0:31:38.200
<v Speaker 3>months before the wedding comes up, I'm like, yo, am

0:31:38.240 --> 0:31:39.880
<v Speaker 3>I still in the wedding. You haven't told me anything?

0:31:39.920 --> 0:31:41.480
<v Speaker 3>And she's like, actually, I didn't know if he'd be

0:31:41.520 --> 0:31:44.040
<v Speaker 3>able to do it. And I'm like, okay, that's weird,

0:31:44.040 --> 0:31:45.520
<v Speaker 3>Like why even tell someone you're in the wedding to

0:31:45.520 --> 0:31:47.320
<v Speaker 3>begin with. And then she tried to blame like my

0:31:47.360 --> 0:31:49.120
<v Speaker 3>baby's daddy, like you have all this stuff going on

0:31:49.160 --> 0:31:51.920
<v Speaker 3>with your own baby's son. I'm like Okay, whatever, bitch weird,

0:31:51.960 --> 0:31:53.920
<v Speaker 3>but okay, I'm like, but I've been turned bit like,

0:31:54.040 --> 0:31:55.040
<v Speaker 3>how are you gonna tell me I'm gonna be in

0:31:55.040 --> 0:31:55.400
<v Speaker 3>your wedding?

0:31:55.400 --> 0:31:57.360
<v Speaker 2>And then like a month before tell me I'm not.

0:31:57.640 --> 0:32:01.360
<v Speaker 2>But whatever. But she just like was she drunk one night?

0:32:01.360 --> 0:32:05.000
<v Speaker 3>And it's like no, no, no. If she wasn't drunk,

0:32:05.000 --> 0:32:06.800
<v Speaker 3>she was like, you're definitely. It was like, you're definitely

0:32:06.840 --> 0:32:08.800
<v Speaker 3>gonna be in the wedding. And I was like, okay, whatever,

0:32:08.920 --> 0:32:12.120
<v Speaker 3>we're she wouldn't be my wedding. I'll be honest. I

0:32:12.120 --> 0:32:15.479
<v Speaker 3>didn't think that then, so I wasn't no sweat off

0:32:15.560 --> 0:32:17.960
<v Speaker 3>my brow, but then I fucking.

0:32:19.840 --> 0:32:21.000
<v Speaker 2>I.

0:32:22.280 --> 0:32:24.520
<v Speaker 3>Anyway, we ended up going to a bachelor party, bachelorette

0:32:24.560 --> 0:32:26.840
<v Speaker 3>party the bitch that was supposed to be in the wedding.

0:32:26.840 --> 0:32:28.600
<v Speaker 3>They get into it because the bitch is like a

0:32:28.640 --> 0:32:30.840
<v Speaker 3>real bad mom and she would like take her baby

0:32:30.880 --> 0:32:33.440
<v Speaker 3>and she's like a little scripper. She'd be like posted

0:32:33.520 --> 0:32:36.000
<v Speaker 3>shripper pictures that's in the in the locker room, and

0:32:36.040 --> 0:32:38.680
<v Speaker 3>then like one picture of her daughter every fourteen posts.

0:32:38.720 --> 0:32:40.840
<v Speaker 2>She's just like, you know, the some holes are just hoes.

0:32:40.920 --> 0:32:42.880
<v Speaker 2>Mm hmm. Whatever, that's not my friend.

0:32:42.920 --> 0:32:45.320
<v Speaker 3>Anyway, So the bitch was on the bachelotte party wanting

0:32:45.360 --> 0:32:46.720
<v Speaker 3>to go to the club because she's a hoe and

0:32:46.720 --> 0:32:48.520
<v Speaker 3>there was like a basketball player there and my friend

0:32:48.560 --> 0:32:51.840
<v Speaker 3>was like my yeah whatever. Friend in air quotes, it's like,

0:32:51.840 --> 0:32:53.320
<v Speaker 3>we're not going to the club tonight. I already spent

0:32:53.360 --> 0:32:56.560
<v Speaker 3>five grand on like the day party. We're all tired. Anyway,

0:32:56.960 --> 0:33:00.000
<v Speaker 3>the girls proceeds to go, she flips out, kicks her

0:33:00.120 --> 0:33:03.320
<v Speaker 3>out the wedding, kicks her off the fucking bachelorette party,

0:33:03.800 --> 0:33:07.440
<v Speaker 3>and then it's like, Jamilla, you're in. So I'm like, okay,

0:33:07.520 --> 0:33:10.040
<v Speaker 3>the keep in mind the wedding is literally doing makes

0:33:10.080 --> 0:33:11.880
<v Speaker 3>me get away when she's on my managed to pay

0:33:11.920 --> 0:33:14.680
<v Speaker 3>for it. Wait you have there's like a hair cot

0:33:14.760 --> 0:33:17.800
<v Speaker 3>for her. She literally picks people that like would look good.

0:33:17.920 --> 0:33:19.840
<v Speaker 3>So this is this lets you know, like she doesn't

0:33:19.840 --> 0:33:22.840
<v Speaker 3>have a lot of friends because she's difficult. She's very

0:33:22.880 --> 0:33:25.200
<v Speaker 3>like I've never been more afraid of a friend. Like

0:33:25.280 --> 0:33:28.400
<v Speaker 3>she can cuss anybody out in a pulp, like so quickly.

0:33:28.440 --> 0:33:31.160
<v Speaker 2>It's very admirable. Like she's very honest, Like she's good,

0:33:31.240 --> 0:33:32.520
<v Speaker 2>she's a good Oh.

0:33:32.480 --> 0:33:35.920
<v Speaker 3>You she'll wreck you, like in an instant I'm almost

0:33:36.120 --> 0:33:39.160
<v Speaker 3>nervous to go places with her because she will wreck

0:33:39.200 --> 0:33:39.960
<v Speaker 3>you in an instant.

0:33:40.120 --> 0:33:42.520
<v Speaker 2>And one time she we.

0:33:42.400 --> 0:33:44.400
<v Speaker 3>Were in Vegas at that same bachelotte party and there

0:33:44.440 --> 0:33:47.240
<v Speaker 3>was like she's a mean bitch. There were someone like

0:33:47.320 --> 0:33:49.520
<v Speaker 3>kind of fat next to her. She's like, Yo, you're

0:33:49.560 --> 0:33:51.560
<v Speaker 3>too fat to be that close to people. You need

0:33:51.560 --> 0:33:54.880
<v Speaker 3>to back the fuck up. You need to find like space.

0:33:55.200 --> 0:33:57.959
<v Speaker 3>She's just like a mean ass, like she can be

0:33:58.000 --> 0:34:01.720
<v Speaker 3>like a bitch, so but she's also like a sweet

0:34:01.840 --> 0:34:03.600
<v Speaker 3>heart person, like she do anything for anyone.

0:34:03.640 --> 0:34:05.520
<v Speaker 2>It's like a weird, okay, weird thing.

0:34:06.240 --> 0:34:11.120
<v Speaker 3>Anyway, it's fucking hilarious when I think of it. Like

0:34:11.160 --> 0:34:13.319
<v Speaker 3>a couple of months ago, it was International Women's Day.

0:34:13.800 --> 0:34:15.920
<v Speaker 3>So I got drunk one night at my house and

0:34:15.960 --> 0:34:18.120
<v Speaker 3>I started, like, first of all, I copied Erica because

0:34:18.120 --> 0:34:19.520
<v Speaker 3>I saw this bitch do it on her answer story,

0:34:19.600 --> 0:34:23.880
<v Speaker 3>Like good idea. Start screenshatting bitches all my friends International

0:34:23.960 --> 0:34:27.600
<v Speaker 3>Women's Day, adding him. The next morning, at six o'clock

0:34:27.600 --> 0:34:30.520
<v Speaker 3>in the morning, bitch texts me some mean as shit

0:34:30.680 --> 0:34:34.640
<v Speaker 3>like that's why you're struggling, you're lazy, used INKM you

0:34:34.680 --> 0:34:39.440
<v Speaker 3>did it intentionally. I'm like, I intentionally didn't include you

0:34:39.480 --> 0:34:42.600
<v Speaker 3>on my social so I was like, so a cough.

0:34:42.640 --> 0:34:44.480
<v Speaker 2>But I was like, it's six o'clock in the morning.

0:34:44.480 --> 0:34:46.120
<v Speaker 2>But she was mad that you didn't post her on

0:34:46.160 --> 0:34:48.799
<v Speaker 2>your International Women's Day posts. It's like women that you

0:34:48.840 --> 0:34:50.359
<v Speaker 2>love or whatever. Yeah, that's the stories. Keep in mind.

0:34:50.400 --> 0:34:52.560
<v Speaker 3>I also didn't like post my I also didn't post

0:34:52.600 --> 0:34:56.440
<v Speaker 3>my mom because I literally got drunk.

0:34:56.600 --> 0:34:57.840
<v Speaker 2>There was people. The next day, I was like, I

0:34:57.880 --> 0:35:01.160
<v Speaker 2>posted her. I don't even think about this bitch.

0:35:01.600 --> 0:35:04.000
<v Speaker 3>But so she sent me this long post about all

0:35:04.040 --> 0:35:06.440
<v Speaker 3>this evil shit. First of all, okay, and we can

0:35:06.520 --> 0:35:10.200
<v Speaker 3>be background. She is a smart girl. She has a degree,

0:35:10.280 --> 0:35:13.120
<v Speaker 3>but she chose to be a dancer. She met a rich,

0:35:13.239 --> 0:35:17.600
<v Speaker 3>older Caucasian man. Oh she met him stripping yeah. Oh

0:35:17.640 --> 0:35:22.000
<v Speaker 3>and god ended up marrying him. I don't for the benefits.

0:35:22.080 --> 0:35:23.960
<v Speaker 3>It's like not even a secret, not to him, not

0:35:24.000 --> 0:35:26.279
<v Speaker 3>to anyone. It's like I'm making.

0:35:25.960 --> 0:35:28.040
<v Speaker 2>My life like she's she tells him like, what the

0:35:28.080 --> 0:35:30.400
<v Speaker 2>fuck do you think this is? Like you can't. She's

0:35:30.480 --> 0:35:33.960
<v Speaker 2>so straightforward. She'd be like she runs him. Yeah, you

0:35:33.960 --> 0:35:36.440
<v Speaker 2>can't embarrass me. This is why I'm with you, like

0:35:36.920 --> 0:35:40.879
<v Speaker 2>for you to pay. So I didn't have kids she.

0:35:40.840 --> 0:35:42.919
<v Speaker 3>Thought about it, but she also thinks he's crazy because

0:35:42.960 --> 0:35:45.840
<v Speaker 3>he makes her fucking miserable because it's she's not in love.

0:35:46.040 --> 0:35:47.759
<v Speaker 2>I think at one point maybe she could have been.

0:35:47.880 --> 0:35:50.080
<v Speaker 3>I mean, anyway, bitch gets a lot of money on

0:35:50.080 --> 0:35:53.680
<v Speaker 3>a regular basis from this dude, like a lot for them.

0:35:53.719 --> 0:35:56.000
<v Speaker 2>There's like absolutely nothing, and.

0:35:55.840 --> 0:35:57.960
<v Speaker 3>So for her to be calling me lazy, I'm like, bitch,

0:35:58.040 --> 0:35:59.839
<v Speaker 3>you didn't even try to start her business with this

0:36:00.280 --> 0:36:03.520
<v Speaker 3>surplus of money you get every month, you absolutely do nothing.

0:36:04.200 --> 0:36:06.040
<v Speaker 2>So I was like, it's six o'clock in the morning,

0:36:06.040 --> 0:36:06.600
<v Speaker 2>it's international.

0:36:06.640 --> 0:36:08.880
<v Speaker 3>I think you're taking International Women's Day and Instagram a

0:36:08.920 --> 0:36:12.920
<v Speaker 3>little too seriously and yeah, like.

0:36:13.360 --> 0:36:14.840
<v Speaker 2>So what happened did you tell her? How did you

0:36:14.880 --> 0:36:17.680
<v Speaker 2>respond to her? Girl? That was it? It's it's six am?

0:36:18.160 --> 0:36:21.279
<v Speaker 2>Or are you kidding me? It's nice to know? Which good? Nice?

0:36:21.280 --> 0:36:22.920
<v Speaker 3>How nice to know how you feel about our friendship

0:36:22.920 --> 0:36:25.520
<v Speaker 3>at the end, and I, you know, and then I

0:36:25.560 --> 0:36:28.320
<v Speaker 3>and then she wrote more like you did it intentionally

0:36:28.320 --> 0:36:28.920
<v Speaker 3>to that and I.

0:36:29.040 --> 0:36:30.640
<v Speaker 2>Liked it by mistake, you know, like my life phone

0:36:30.640 --> 0:36:33.520
<v Speaker 2>even like girl. But then I smoked weed and then

0:36:33.520 --> 0:36:35.640
<v Speaker 2>I felt really bad for her. I was like, wow,

0:36:35.760 --> 0:36:36.480
<v Speaker 2>like you were.

0:36:36.280 --> 0:36:38.680
<v Speaker 3>Like looking through my insistor and you're waiting for your

0:36:38.719 --> 0:36:41.720
<v Speaker 3>face to pop up, like that's really that's actually gonna

0:36:41.760 --> 0:36:43.680
<v Speaker 3>Like I felt bad, like I am a bad friend.

0:36:43.719 --> 0:36:45.399
<v Speaker 2>I'm like, oh my god, like that that was fucked up.

0:36:45.440 --> 0:36:47.759
<v Speaker 2>Oh no, I felt oh no, I thought you meant

0:36:47.760 --> 0:36:50.479
<v Speaker 2>the other way because I felt bad because she needs

0:36:50.480 --> 0:36:52.320
<v Speaker 2>that validation. Felt so bad both.

0:36:52.360 --> 0:36:54.080
<v Speaker 3>I felt bad that you need the validation and I

0:36:54.080 --> 0:36:56.239
<v Speaker 3>felt bad that it hurt you so much, you know

0:36:56.320 --> 0:36:58.120
<v Speaker 3>what I mean, Like, and she's done things for me

0:36:58.200 --> 0:37:02.080
<v Speaker 3>because she's not doing anything else. But like at an offering,

0:37:02.160 --> 0:37:04.279
<v Speaker 3>you're like you have real conversations with your girlfriends, and

0:37:04.280 --> 0:37:06.320
<v Speaker 3>it's like, bitch, this is going on in my life

0:37:06.360 --> 0:37:07.200
<v Speaker 3>and like whatever.

0:37:07.560 --> 0:37:08.839
<v Speaker 2>But then like I don't like people who throw shit

0:37:08.920 --> 0:37:09.759
<v Speaker 2>in your face, like you don't.

0:37:09.840 --> 0:37:11.640
<v Speaker 3>First of all, bitch, I'm gonna thirty year old bitch

0:37:11.680 --> 0:37:14.560
<v Speaker 3>like I've been doing my life, my whole life by myself,

0:37:14.600 --> 0:37:16.160
<v Speaker 3>Like I don't get help from nobody, So you can't

0:37:16.160 --> 0:37:17.920
<v Speaker 3>throw anything in my face because I will cut you

0:37:17.960 --> 0:37:22.840
<v Speaker 3>off as I have and I will continue. So anyway,

0:37:23.640 --> 0:37:26.600
<v Speaker 3>I ended up getting high this again. Weed is my

0:37:26.680 --> 0:37:29.640
<v Speaker 3>best friend because I like, at first I was pissed.

0:37:29.680 --> 0:37:30.879
<v Speaker 2>I was gonna go in, like, how are you gonna

0:37:30.880 --> 0:37:33.320
<v Speaker 2>call me lazy? You actually don't do anything.

0:37:33.360 --> 0:37:36.239
<v Speaker 3>You actually married someone so that you could be lazy, right,

0:37:36.560 --> 0:37:38.920
<v Speaker 3>But like whatever, And I ended up smoking weed and

0:37:38.960 --> 0:37:41.919
<v Speaker 3>I was like, I didn't apologize, but I like try

0:37:41.960 --> 0:37:43.880
<v Speaker 3>to like post some other people, and then I posted

0:37:43.920 --> 0:37:46.480
<v Speaker 3>her post. I ended up doing it the next day.

0:37:46.480 --> 0:37:50.319
<v Speaker 3>I was like, my crazy ass friend, but no, and

0:37:50.360 --> 0:37:52.160
<v Speaker 3>we've tried. She pushed me a happy Mother's Day and

0:37:52.200 --> 0:37:55.319
<v Speaker 3>shit whatever, and I had to think, like it does

0:37:55.360 --> 0:37:56.319
<v Speaker 3>it matter to me that much?

0:37:56.400 --> 0:37:56.800
<v Speaker 2>It doesn't.

0:37:56.840 --> 0:37:58.640
<v Speaker 3>I still love her. I knew she was crazy before

0:37:58.719 --> 0:38:01.360
<v Speaker 3>I've been known she was crazy. She's very crazy, so

0:38:01.520 --> 0:38:06.839
<v Speaker 3>I'm not that mad. But yesterday was National Best Friend Day.

0:38:07.520 --> 0:38:10.080
<v Speaker 3>Also I followed her. I didn't follow her, so yes

0:38:10.080 --> 0:38:12.239
<v Speaker 3>she was National best Friend Day. So I started posting people.

0:38:12.239 --> 0:38:13.640
<v Speaker 3>But never was like, I don't have pictures everybody. I

0:38:13.680 --> 0:38:15.960
<v Speaker 3>don't feel I got a lot of friends, and I whatever.

0:38:16.640 --> 0:38:19.320
<v Speaker 3>I just I just feel reasons to post it anyway.

0:38:19.520 --> 0:38:21.759
<v Speaker 3>She wrote like a subliminal like, first of all, I

0:38:21.800 --> 0:38:23.680
<v Speaker 3>stop following her. Some my two other friends showed me.

0:38:23.719 --> 0:38:25.960
<v Speaker 3>But it's like Beyonce is laying in a pool, and

0:38:26.000 --> 0:38:29.680
<v Speaker 3>it's like, this is me and my million dollar home,

0:38:29.920 --> 0:38:32.799
<v Speaker 3>not giving a fuck about friends, National friend Day and

0:38:32.880 --> 0:38:36.120
<v Speaker 3>fake ass bitches who are posting this like some other shit.

0:38:36.320 --> 0:38:38.680
<v Speaker 2>It's like, well, that's the thing she thought she could

0:38:38.719 --> 0:38:41.280
<v Speaker 2>buy her friendships and she's seeing that no one cares

0:38:41.360 --> 0:38:44.000
<v Speaker 2>if you're a terrible person. Sounds like she's kind of it.

0:38:44.320 --> 0:38:46.320
<v Speaker 2>She's not a terrible person, but she is a mean person.

0:38:46.360 --> 0:38:49.160
<v Speaker 2>I mean that's kind of terrible. Rite Like how much

0:38:49.280 --> 0:38:50.960
<v Speaker 2>like when you are sitting next to a fat person,

0:38:51.080 --> 0:38:53.520
<v Speaker 2>you fat shame somebody or a large person, excuse me,

0:38:53.960 --> 0:38:56.799
<v Speaker 2>Like and you and you are fat shaming them? Like

0:38:56.960 --> 0:38:59.520
<v Speaker 2>that sounds like a pretty terrible person. She's not a

0:38:59.600 --> 0:39:03.200
<v Speaker 2>terrible she's just like she got some shit to work out.

0:39:03.280 --> 0:39:06.120
<v Speaker 3>She does, she does, and like everybody else, like everybody else,

0:39:06.239 --> 0:39:08.279
<v Speaker 3>you know, that's the whole thing. Like with friends, you

0:39:08.360 --> 0:39:10.160
<v Speaker 3>got to accept people as they are and we all

0:39:10.200 --> 0:39:12.960
<v Speaker 3>have shortcomings, like I ain't perfect, You ain't perfect, Like

0:39:13.120 --> 0:39:15.800
<v Speaker 3>there's things about myself that I'm working on, as our people.

0:39:16.000 --> 0:39:17.759
<v Speaker 3>But when you choose to be friends with someone or

0:39:17.840 --> 0:39:19.719
<v Speaker 3>not working on or not not, you be just.

0:39:19.719 --> 0:39:21.360
<v Speaker 2>Me and general I always say we're gonna work on

0:39:21.400 --> 0:39:24.799
<v Speaker 2>some shit and then it takes like four hundred years. Yeah, yeah,

0:39:25.120 --> 0:39:25.680
<v Speaker 2>we'll get there.

0:39:25.960 --> 0:39:30.279
<v Speaker 3>But I mean, I don't know. I think there's like

0:39:30.360 --> 0:39:33.120
<v Speaker 3>a scale. What do they see, like a sexuality scale.

0:39:33.160 --> 0:39:37.880
<v Speaker 3>There's a scale because people are weird. People are weird

0:39:37.960 --> 0:39:40.279
<v Speaker 3>and they have different things. And I've learned I'm trying.

0:39:40.280 --> 0:39:42.960
<v Speaker 3>I'm really sensitive. I'm a cancer and it's like my downside,

0:39:42.960 --> 0:39:44.200
<v Speaker 3>but I'm like tough on the outside.

0:39:44.280 --> 0:39:46.440
<v Speaker 2>Sensitive and the sentence. Okay, so this girl that I'm

0:39:46.680 --> 0:39:50.120
<v Speaker 2>my best friend, she's a cancer and I'm a scorpio.

0:39:50.200 --> 0:39:52.120
<v Speaker 2>So that's why I know I probably stung her real

0:39:52.160 --> 0:39:55.000
<v Speaker 2>qol right right fa, and that's why she's like because

0:39:55.000 --> 0:39:55.960
<v Speaker 2>I have another scorpio.

0:39:56.320 --> 0:39:59.280
<v Speaker 3>Like we're really close and like sometimes I'm like, gets

0:39:59.320 --> 0:40:01.640
<v Speaker 3>so annoyed with her and I'm like, but then I

0:40:02.000 --> 0:40:04.440
<v Speaker 3>get over it. So that's you know, It's like because

0:40:04.920 --> 0:40:08.319
<v Speaker 3>scorpios can't be sharp ass times, and cancers can too.

0:40:08.360 --> 0:40:09.799
<v Speaker 2>It just takes a lot, a lot, a lot, I

0:40:09.840 --> 0:40:12.640
<v Speaker 2>think cancers for me and what I've noticed, well, I'm

0:40:12.680 --> 0:40:14.600
<v Speaker 2>not with you yet because I'm still we haven't had

0:40:14.640 --> 0:40:18.880
<v Speaker 2>an argument yet. Hopefully we never do. I feel like

0:40:18.960 --> 0:40:21.520
<v Speaker 2>cancer sometimes I should judge all of you guys. But

0:40:21.600 --> 0:40:24.600
<v Speaker 2>you guys want people to know what you're thinking. I'm

0:40:24.600 --> 0:40:26.520
<v Speaker 2>not that camp. I mean like you want us to

0:40:26.520 --> 0:40:28.960
<v Speaker 2>be able to read your mind. No, no, no, I'm pretty.

0:40:28.960 --> 0:40:31.719
<v Speaker 2>I'm pretty. I'll let you know. Ask me, I'll tell you.

0:40:32.920 --> 0:40:34.799
<v Speaker 3>But I'm also on the Gemini cusps, so I think

0:40:34.840 --> 0:40:37.920
<v Speaker 3>I have like a good balance of not fucking sensitive,

0:40:38.040 --> 0:40:40.360
<v Speaker 3>little crazy, a little crazy, little sound stuff, right.

0:40:40.960 --> 0:40:43.040
<v Speaker 2>Because I'm a little bit about that. Well, I'm a

0:40:43.080 --> 0:40:48.120
<v Speaker 2>double scorpio, so I'm just intense and when i'm mad, Well,

0:40:48.160 --> 0:40:51.400
<v Speaker 2>your face even Today's even Today's stars, like does she

0:40:51.440 --> 0:40:51.920
<v Speaker 2>want to do this?

0:40:51.960 --> 0:40:55.359
<v Speaker 3>I'm like, yeah, that's just her face, Like no, no, no,

0:40:55.440 --> 0:40:57.640
<v Speaker 3>yeah she does. She's all about this life. She's just

0:40:58.160 --> 0:40:58.879
<v Speaker 3>her natural thing.

0:40:59.280 --> 0:41:04.160
<v Speaker 2>This is really no, I'm not even kidding, like this

0:41:04.280 --> 0:41:08.920
<v Speaker 2>is Is this the theme for twenty eighteen? Are resting? No?

0:41:09.000 --> 0:41:11.080
<v Speaker 2>Because literally this week when I went to go do

0:41:11.160 --> 0:41:14.600
<v Speaker 2>my HSSON training, the lady was like she said something

0:41:14.600 --> 0:41:17.320
<v Speaker 2>about my face, and I was like, are you fucking

0:41:17.480 --> 0:41:18.800
<v Speaker 2>hitting me? You're like, how about it?

0:41:19.360 --> 0:41:23.120
<v Speaker 3>I was like, Felicia, you mean like I'm going through

0:41:23.160 --> 0:41:25.120
<v Speaker 3>all the people that have told me about my face

0:41:25.160 --> 0:41:27.520
<v Speaker 3>in the last like thirty days. But I'm like, yo,

0:41:27.760 --> 0:41:31.920
<v Speaker 3>is a bitch unhappy just my face that looks at it.

0:41:32.400 --> 0:41:34.520
<v Speaker 2>She was like, you know, just look like more pleasant

0:41:34.520 --> 0:41:36.840
<v Speaker 2>when you're listening. And I was like, well, like this

0:41:38.239 --> 0:41:41.840
<v Speaker 2>And because she like, she's literally I'm like digesting tons

0:41:41.840 --> 0:41:44.399
<v Speaker 2>of information from her, so I'm like trying. She wants

0:41:44.440 --> 0:41:46.279
<v Speaker 2>you to look happy while you're listening to her. Yeah,

0:41:46.719 --> 0:41:48.600
<v Speaker 2>she's like, you know, not just for HSCENT, just for

0:41:48.680 --> 0:41:51.080
<v Speaker 2>life in general. I didn't. I cannot believe the bitch

0:41:51.120 --> 0:41:54.319
<v Speaker 2>said for life in general. She's like because she likes

0:41:54.920 --> 0:41:56.960
<v Speaker 2>the woman who the woman who was stepped into the

0:41:57.080 --> 0:42:00.680
<v Speaker 2>role of growing our HSN business was also told this

0:42:00.719 --> 0:42:03.399
<v Speaker 2>woman that she wants to like help groom me as

0:42:03.480 --> 0:42:05.080
<v Speaker 2>for it to be a CEO. So these are the

0:42:05.120 --> 0:42:08.600
<v Speaker 2>CEO tips. Also, wow, I get it. I literally can't.

0:42:08.600 --> 0:42:10.239
<v Speaker 2>Did you write notes? Because I can't wait to look

0:42:10.360 --> 0:42:12.600
<v Speaker 2>them over. I'm like, I feel like a freak. That

0:42:12.680 --> 0:42:15.200
<v Speaker 2>was the first and only note that I really truly

0:42:15.520 --> 0:42:17.880
<v Speaker 2>listened to. No, I mean that was like a behavioral note.

0:42:17.880 --> 0:42:20.040
<v Speaker 2>It's only behavioral body language.

0:42:20.360 --> 0:42:22.279
<v Speaker 3>I cannot believe she's an in life in gen not

0:42:22.320 --> 0:42:25.480
<v Speaker 3>just rach in life and she's like an old white lady.

0:42:25.600 --> 0:42:28.799
<v Speaker 2>It's like etiquette school. No, she's really cool. She's really

0:42:29.080 --> 0:42:32.279
<v Speaker 2>she's like from Atlanta, Georgia. Okay, but she's lived in

0:42:32.320 --> 0:42:35.360
<v Speaker 2>New York or like for like ten years in Pennsylvania,

0:42:35.440 --> 0:42:39.279
<v Speaker 2>but now she lives in North Carolina. Husband, but no,

0:42:39.360 --> 0:42:41.880
<v Speaker 2>she's really cool. But I'm just like, wow, this is

0:42:41.920 --> 0:42:44.239
<v Speaker 2>the thing, this is the thing in my warmth in

0:42:44.280 --> 0:42:49.320
<v Speaker 2>my face, Oh my god. Anyway, but anyway, yeah, I

0:42:49.360 --> 0:42:51.400
<v Speaker 2>don't know where we left off with your friend.

0:42:51.440 --> 0:42:56.200
<v Speaker 3>But well, she's crazy and and even like that comment,

0:42:56.280 --> 0:42:58.280
<v Speaker 3>like the subliminal. First of all, I don't do subliminal

0:42:58.320 --> 0:43:01.000
<v Speaker 3>Instagram fucking posts unless it's like someone I don't care

0:43:01.120 --> 0:43:01.960
<v Speaker 3>call I.

0:43:02.040 --> 0:43:04.480
<v Speaker 2>Just but like, yeah, it's stupid.

0:43:05.840 --> 0:43:07.520
<v Speaker 3>People are stupid, and you gotta be able to put

0:43:07.520 --> 0:43:11.560
<v Speaker 3>limits on what you can which you're willing to accept,

0:43:11.640 --> 0:43:13.640
<v Speaker 3>Like can I don't need you as a.

0:43:13.560 --> 0:43:14.279
<v Speaker 2>Friend, but I want you?

0:43:14.400 --> 0:43:17.920
<v Speaker 3>Is it too more than like more hassle than it

0:43:17.960 --> 0:43:20.239
<v Speaker 3>is like fun? And that's the thing, is like I

0:43:20.280 --> 0:43:21.839
<v Speaker 3>love her, I do. I still love her. I'm gonna

0:43:21.840 --> 0:43:24.759
<v Speaker 3>always love her. Like she's great too, Luna, she loves Luna.

0:43:25.000 --> 0:43:27.680
<v Speaker 3>I wouldn't even like hold it against her, But every

0:43:27.719 --> 0:43:30.319
<v Speaker 3>time I'm around her, she's just like I'm set, like

0:43:30.320 --> 0:43:32.560
<v Speaker 3>I'm hypercented not to piss her off because I don't

0:43:32.560 --> 0:43:34.839
<v Speaker 3>feel like dealing with her piss offness. And then she's

0:43:34.920 --> 0:43:37.920
<v Speaker 3>unhappy because she's married to someone she's unhappy with.

0:43:38.280 --> 0:43:39.960
<v Speaker 2>And I'm sitting here like listening to all your shit.

0:43:40.040 --> 0:43:41.840
<v Speaker 3>But then like when it's when we're talking about it,

0:43:41.960 --> 0:43:43.719
<v Speaker 3>like you, when I'm talking about my real shit, where

0:43:43.719 --> 0:43:46.440
<v Speaker 3>I'm not making like twenty grand every month for doing nothing,

0:43:46.480 --> 0:43:48.200
<v Speaker 3>you can't you're not understanding.

0:43:48.239 --> 0:43:50.800
<v Speaker 2>But like bitch used to hustle. It used to be stripping.

0:43:50.840 --> 0:43:52.360
<v Speaker 3>Not that I'm stripping, but you know, a hustle is

0:43:52.360 --> 0:43:54.680
<v Speaker 3>a hustle, and I don't knock any strippers.

0:43:54.760 --> 0:43:55.799
<v Speaker 2>You know, do what you gotta do.

0:43:55.920 --> 0:44:00.880
<v Speaker 3>But even at be married for money, I'm honestly, she

0:44:01.120 --> 0:44:03.000
<v Speaker 3>was crazy when she dated for love, so I think

0:44:03.000 --> 0:44:05.520
<v Speaker 3>it's actually a good mutual and he's crazy to her husband,

0:44:05.520 --> 0:44:09.200
<v Speaker 3>so it's like basically a perfect fucking couple. But it's just,

0:44:09.440 --> 0:44:11.120
<v Speaker 3>you know, you gotta be kind to your friends, you

0:44:11.200 --> 0:44:13.440
<v Speaker 3>gotta be conscious of yourself, and you gotta love people,

0:44:13.480 --> 0:44:15.640
<v Speaker 3>and you gotta be like you can't just be saying

0:44:15.680 --> 0:44:19.120
<v Speaker 3>anything to everybody because you're fucking sensitive and hurt, like

0:44:19.280 --> 0:44:21.719
<v Speaker 3>they used your words, like I tell Lenna.

0:44:21.600 --> 0:44:25.560
<v Speaker 2>Use your words. So sometimes friends gotta get cut off.

0:44:25.560 --> 0:44:27.080
<v Speaker 3>Girl. And I told Erica this, and I'm not saying

0:44:27.080 --> 0:44:29.080
<v Speaker 3>this about your twenty year friendship. Obviously you guys you're

0:44:29.080 --> 0:44:30.120
<v Speaker 3>not gonna stop being friends.

0:44:30.120 --> 0:44:34.640
<v Speaker 2>But we might have to hear this talk about me.

0:44:35.680 --> 0:44:37.719
<v Speaker 3>But you know, you grow out of friendships, you grow up,

0:44:37.760 --> 0:44:40.080
<v Speaker 3>you grow out of people, and that's okay, and I

0:44:40.200 --> 0:44:42.960
<v Speaker 3>have to accept that, Like it's okay, it's okay, and

0:44:43.000 --> 0:44:44.759
<v Speaker 3>it's okay to accept. Like even me and my best

0:44:44.760 --> 0:44:47.280
<v Speaker 3>friend got into it last year for like this is someone.

0:44:47.440 --> 0:44:49.640
<v Speaker 3>We were like, we're like lesbians about the.

0:44:49.600 --> 0:44:54.080
<v Speaker 2>Sex and about what without the sax. Yeah, Like we're

0:44:54.120 --> 0:44:55.920
<v Speaker 2>like we're like always becoming codependent.

0:44:56.160 --> 0:44:59.120
<v Speaker 3>And I told Erica I should probably not repe this

0:44:59.320 --> 0:45:03.879
<v Speaker 3>really stupid colm I made last episode, But we got

0:45:03.920 --> 0:45:06.319
<v Speaker 3>into it because like two guys we knew, drank a

0:45:06.360 --> 0:45:09.680
<v Speaker 3>gallon of Hennessy on fucking Thanksgiving and then got into

0:45:09.760 --> 0:45:10.320
<v Speaker 3>a fight.

0:45:10.120 --> 0:45:13.319
<v Speaker 2>In her house. Nothing got broken. Actually my friend got

0:45:13.520 --> 0:45:14.440
<v Speaker 2>beat the fuck up.

0:45:15.400 --> 0:45:19.560
<v Speaker 3>Actually this friend is this pertains the episode because the

0:45:19.600 --> 0:45:23.480
<v Speaker 3>friend I brought is actually my baby's daddy's friend that

0:45:23.560 --> 0:45:29.680
<v Speaker 3>I met him through. But in my defense, as first

0:45:29.680 --> 0:45:31.680
<v Speaker 3>of all, my baby daddy did me wrong, so I

0:45:31.719 --> 0:45:33.400
<v Speaker 3>don't really give a fuck what you think.

0:45:33.960 --> 0:45:36.879
<v Speaker 2>And second of all, I feel like.

0:45:36.800 --> 0:45:39.080
<v Speaker 3>Our friendship was month, like we had a closer friendship

0:45:39.600 --> 0:45:42.319
<v Speaker 3>and we had grew grown a closer friendship than they

0:45:42.480 --> 0:45:44.080
<v Speaker 3>really had, and I could see it, but.

0:45:44.080 --> 0:45:45.480
<v Speaker 2>Clearly I was the only one.

0:45:45.960 --> 0:45:48.000
<v Speaker 3>But they anyway, these two guys got in a fight

0:45:48.080 --> 0:45:49.520
<v Speaker 3>because they drank a gallon of Hennessy.

0:45:49.600 --> 0:45:51.080
<v Speaker 2>First of all, my friend is not black and only

0:45:51.120 --> 0:45:51.880
<v Speaker 2>dates the black.

0:45:51.640 --> 0:45:54.960
<v Speaker 3>Guys, okay, and then got mad at me for happening

0:45:55.000 --> 0:45:56.960
<v Speaker 3>when my friend I brought got beat up and I

0:45:57.040 --> 0:45:58.879
<v Speaker 3>was like, you want to date black guys your whole life,

0:45:58.920 --> 0:46:02.680
<v Speaker 3>but you don't know that niggas and Tennessee can sometimes

0:46:02.760 --> 0:46:06.879
<v Speaker 3>equal and tragedy. Yeah, so you want to be black

0:46:06.920 --> 0:46:08.600
<v Speaker 3>eyes and you want to get mad at me because

0:46:08.800 --> 0:46:10.839
<v Speaker 3>they got in a fight, But like, how about these

0:46:10.840 --> 0:46:12.560
<v Speaker 3>two grown men? And I was like, Okay, this is

0:46:12.560 --> 0:46:14.640
<v Speaker 3>like a black role thing, and I know I shan't

0:46:14.680 --> 0:46:17.000
<v Speaker 3>say that, shouldn't say that, and I know it's not real,

0:46:17.080 --> 0:46:18.759
<v Speaker 3>like we're all human, we're the human race.

0:46:19.120 --> 0:46:23.480
<v Speaker 2>But like that's the like a low key black role.

0:46:23.680 --> 0:46:25.880
<v Speaker 3>Don't bring Gallon Hennessy and think niggas my nugget in

0:46:25.920 --> 0:46:28.839
<v Speaker 3>a fight. That's for all our unblack followers too. Don't

0:46:28.840 --> 0:46:30.719
<v Speaker 3>bring Gallon Hennessy with a bunch of niggas I don't

0:46:30.719 --> 0:46:32.040
<v Speaker 3>know each other, because it could be a fight.

0:46:32.120 --> 0:46:33.920
<v Speaker 2>It's like just it's like, don't bring Hennessy to the

0:46:33.960 --> 0:46:36.920
<v Speaker 2>black party. Don't bring like tequila or vodka to the

0:46:37.120 --> 0:46:40.800
<v Speaker 2>actually tequila to the white party, right, yeah, what's adequate

0:46:41.080 --> 0:46:45.839
<v Speaker 2>to like white boy wasted? Yeah, yeah, don't bring yagmeister,

0:46:46.239 --> 0:46:48.880
<v Speaker 2>So that's sucking a white boy party. I just want broken,

0:46:50.080 --> 0:46:53.440
<v Speaker 2>like the white boys to shirt's taken off.

0:46:53.680 --> 0:46:58.520
<v Speaker 3>Right because no one plus one equals, to which I was, like,

0:46:59.160 --> 0:47:01.080
<v Speaker 3>she's been winning every reason to not be my friend.

0:47:01.160 --> 0:47:02.279
<v Speaker 2>And then you have to think about it.

0:47:02.280 --> 0:47:07.200
<v Speaker 3>Sometimes subliminally, subconsciously, people are harboring other things and then

0:47:07.440 --> 0:47:11.799
<v Speaker 3>when something happens, that's there, that's their motivation to act

0:47:11.880 --> 0:47:14.640
<v Speaker 3>on other harbored feelings, you know what I'm saying. But

0:47:14.680 --> 0:47:17.319
<v Speaker 3>in general, because my friend's gonna listen to this, I mean,

0:47:17.320 --> 0:47:18.560
<v Speaker 3>like I can't really brought this shit up again.

0:47:19.640 --> 0:47:23.920
<v Speaker 2>I'm a cancer again. I don't forget anything. But yeah, like,

0:47:23.960 --> 0:47:25.960
<v Speaker 2>well you love each other. Oh h, it's my sister.

0:47:26.080 --> 0:47:26.759
<v Speaker 2>Even my dad.

0:47:26.800 --> 0:47:28.560
<v Speaker 3>I was like, I tell my dad, like, stop fucking

0:47:28.560 --> 0:47:31.600
<v Speaker 3>calling her. She's not your daughter. Okay, you're getting confused again,

0:47:32.080 --> 0:47:34.080
<v Speaker 3>whose side or you won? And then I was saying

0:47:34.120 --> 0:47:35.719
<v Speaker 3>all my family members like, it's just a black thing,

0:47:35.719 --> 0:47:37.360
<v Speaker 3>and they're like, no, it's not like whatever.

0:47:38.040 --> 0:47:40.760
<v Speaker 2>Jamala's a response to anything that she can't understand.

0:47:41.040 --> 0:47:43.520
<v Speaker 3>Wait, I just don't get it. It's black, it's it's

0:47:43.560 --> 0:47:45.200
<v Speaker 3>a black thing. It's a black thing. You don't get it.

0:47:45.920 --> 0:47:47.439
<v Speaker 2>I'm not racist, I swear to god.

0:47:48.680 --> 0:47:53.479
<v Speaker 3>I'm actually very broadly no, but I do feel about

0:47:53.480 --> 0:47:54.439
<v Speaker 3>the hennessy and shit.

0:47:55.200 --> 0:47:58.400
<v Speaker 2>Anyway, do you have any other bad friend stories that

0:47:58.520 --> 0:48:03.279
<v Speaker 2>you want to tell? I mean, I just would say

0:48:03.400 --> 0:48:06.000
<v Speaker 2>like for me, like, to me, the definition of a

0:48:06.000 --> 0:48:10.640
<v Speaker 2>good friend is someone who is like, you know, it's

0:48:10.640 --> 0:48:13.279
<v Speaker 2>a give and take. It's not tit for tat. It's

0:48:13.280 --> 0:48:14.920
<v Speaker 2>not like I did this for you, you did this

0:48:14.960 --> 0:48:16.759
<v Speaker 2>for me, which I feel like that's what's happening in

0:48:16.760 --> 0:48:22.560
<v Speaker 2>this situation. And like, you know, I feel like loyalty, Yeah, loyalty.

0:48:22.600 --> 0:48:25.080
<v Speaker 2>And also I think communication just like it's just like

0:48:25.080 --> 0:48:27.400
<v Speaker 2>a blood relationship. You need to communicate.

0:48:27.440 --> 0:48:30.280
<v Speaker 3>If just talk about your feelings, how do you feel,

0:48:30.280 --> 0:48:33.520
<v Speaker 3>what's making you upset? It's very basic. But be adult

0:48:33.680 --> 0:48:40.120
<v Speaker 3>enough in like actually like brave enough to talk. Cause

0:48:40.120 --> 0:48:43.680
<v Speaker 3>then for friends, we should be able to discuss anything.

0:48:46.040 --> 0:48:54.600
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, I mean, just like ours. But I rescrying. Oh shit,

0:48:54.880 --> 0:49:15.719
<v Speaker 2>it's no just press the space far Sorry about that.

0:49:15.760 --> 0:49:20.400
<v Speaker 2>We're back, and I think we were just talking about

0:49:21.239 --> 0:49:26.160
<v Speaker 2>friendships and what is important in having a productive one,

0:49:26.280 --> 0:49:28.440
<v Speaker 2>because right now mine is not being very productive. But

0:49:28.480 --> 0:49:30.520
<v Speaker 2>it's probably my fault too. I mean I've tried to

0:49:30.520 --> 0:49:32.800
<v Speaker 2>reach out and communicate. Maybe I could reach out again,

0:49:33.480 --> 0:49:38.400
<v Speaker 2>but it's it's your fault. I don't think so. I'm

0:49:38.440 --> 0:49:40.600
<v Speaker 2>a place in my life where I just you know,

0:49:40.960 --> 0:49:43.080
<v Speaker 2>I'm trying to preserve my energy if it feels like

0:49:43.120 --> 0:49:46.040
<v Speaker 2>it's being taken away from me. I'm very selfish with it.

0:49:46.120 --> 0:49:49.360
<v Speaker 2>I'm very and maybe to like a fault, maybe to

0:49:49.400 --> 0:49:52.840
<v Speaker 2>a fault like I just she can't come in. It's okay,

0:49:53.239 --> 0:49:54.960
<v Speaker 2>I think that come on by.

0:49:55.600 --> 0:49:58.320
<v Speaker 3>Yeah, for all our listeners that are like under thirty,

0:49:58.400 --> 0:50:00.640
<v Speaker 3>I think it's like really big right now because it's like,

0:50:00.640 --> 0:50:02.480
<v Speaker 3>I don't want to use any energy that I do

0:50:02.560 --> 0:50:03.720
<v Speaker 3>not need for any reason.

0:50:04.280 --> 0:50:05.680
<v Speaker 2>But also, if you're.

0:50:05.640 --> 0:50:09.560
<v Speaker 3>Under thirty, you're thinking about like and you having similar feelings.

0:50:09.400 --> 0:50:12.439
<v Speaker 5>It's best to get in tune with yourself now and

0:50:12.719 --> 0:50:16.440
<v Speaker 5>cut off people that are not good for you, serving you,

0:50:16.520 --> 0:50:20.040
<v Speaker 5>serving you, period and a serving sounds People assume serving

0:50:20.200 --> 0:50:23.680
<v Speaker 5>is such a like a negative like a negative thing,

0:50:23.760 --> 0:50:27.520
<v Speaker 5>but like, okay, one second.

0:50:27.640 --> 0:50:30.160
<v Speaker 2>No, it's just I mean, I guess I think people

0:50:30.200 --> 0:50:32.520
<v Speaker 2>do have like the word serving has a negative connotation,

0:50:32.600 --> 0:50:34.480
<v Speaker 2>but I just feel like it means like feeding your soul.

0:50:34.520 --> 0:50:36.840
<v Speaker 2>You're supposed to She should be feeding your soul, he

0:50:36.880 --> 0:50:39.120
<v Speaker 2>should being your soul, and vice versa. If you don't

0:50:39.120 --> 0:50:40.000
<v Speaker 2>feel like it's.

0:50:39.840 --> 0:50:42.160
<v Speaker 3>There's no benefit, you're not growing, You're not like there's

0:50:42.160 --> 0:50:44.560
<v Speaker 3>nothing you're getting, You're not feeling like leaving these people

0:50:44.600 --> 0:50:47.080
<v Speaker 3>feeling like I'm so glad I just spent some time

0:50:47.120 --> 0:50:49.520
<v Speaker 3>with this person. I feel fulfilled. Then they can be

0:50:49.560 --> 0:50:51.759
<v Speaker 3>cut off right, they're cut off able.

0:50:52.120 --> 0:50:53.800
<v Speaker 2>And I have a friend like that that I definitely

0:50:53.840 --> 0:50:56.200
<v Speaker 2>feel like that this friend in particular that I'm having

0:50:56.200 --> 0:50:59.040
<v Speaker 2>this issue with, I don't feel like I don't feel

0:50:59.040 --> 0:51:01.000
<v Speaker 2>like she needs to be cut off. I just feel

0:51:01.000 --> 0:51:04.359
<v Speaker 2>like we're in a fight and she needs to pick

0:51:04.400 --> 0:51:07.400
<v Speaker 2>a side. Yeah, well that's true. Can you crack that

0:51:07.440 --> 0:51:10.680
<v Speaker 2>door a little bit little bit? Oh, we have a question. Okay,

0:51:10.719 --> 0:51:13.280
<v Speaker 2>So we have a question that we got from someone

0:51:13.320 --> 0:51:16.120
<v Speaker 2>on our website. Yes, someone had a question for us

0:51:16.160 --> 0:51:17.960
<v Speaker 2>on our website. Guys, we do have a website that

0:51:18.000 --> 0:51:19.080
<v Speaker 2>you can ask those questions on.

0:51:19.520 --> 0:51:23.160
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0:51:23.280 --> 0:51:24.759
<v Speaker 2>Please come now this question.

0:51:24.880 --> 0:51:27.600
<v Speaker 3>Go to the contact page and then you can choose

0:51:27.640 --> 0:51:30.279
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0:51:30.360 --> 0:51:31.480
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0:51:31.640 --> 0:51:33.799
<v Speaker 2>And this person wanted to remain anonymous.

0:51:34.080 --> 0:51:37.320
<v Speaker 3>Also, if you have any horries, please submit because eventually

0:51:37.480 --> 0:51:39.520
<v Speaker 3>me and Erica, I know it's gonna sound crazy, we

0:51:39.640 --> 0:51:43.560
<v Speaker 3>might run out. Probably not, but we help us out

0:51:43.640 --> 0:51:46.640
<v Speaker 3>so we're not the only ones. Okay, this person said,

0:51:46.760 --> 0:51:48.680
<v Speaker 3>please don't share my name. Ladies, I have a question

0:51:48.760 --> 0:51:50.719
<v Speaker 3>for the show. I'm recently out of a seven year

0:51:50.719 --> 0:51:53.360
<v Speaker 3>relationship that I feel might have contributed to the demand.

0:51:53.480 --> 0:51:55.800
<v Speaker 3>I might have contributed to the demise due to letting

0:51:55.800 --> 0:51:59.040
<v Speaker 3>my physical appearance go. Now that I realized that I wish,

0:51:59.239 --> 0:52:01.279
<v Speaker 3>Now that I realize that I wish I would have

0:52:01.320 --> 0:52:03.160
<v Speaker 3>told he would have told me that out of love.

0:52:03.760 --> 0:52:08.560
<v Speaker 2>So the first question is no, no. The first question.

0:52:08.440 --> 0:52:11.319
<v Speaker 3>Is would you be okay with the guy telling you

0:52:11.360 --> 0:52:13.280
<v Speaker 3>to slim down or his visual pleasure?

0:52:13.680 --> 0:52:15.440
<v Speaker 2>For his visual pleasure or attraction?

0:52:16.160 --> 0:52:19.399
<v Speaker 3>My second question is, since I've broken up, I'm really

0:52:19.440 --> 0:52:22.960
<v Speaker 3>wanting to embrace my attraction to women. Growing up, my

0:52:23.040 --> 0:52:25.399
<v Speaker 3>guardian would have thrown the Bible at me, But being

0:52:25.440 --> 0:52:27.840
<v Speaker 3>a molested child, I have always been attracted to girls,

0:52:27.880 --> 0:52:29.239
<v Speaker 3>and I don't know if that had much to do

0:52:29.280 --> 0:52:33.440
<v Speaker 3>with the attraction or not by the question by My

0:52:33.520 --> 0:52:37.240
<v Speaker 3>third question is in I'm in my mid thirties, potential maids,

0:52:37.320 --> 0:52:41.000
<v Speaker 3>ladies and family take me serious? Will will potential mates,

0:52:41.520 --> 0:52:43.879
<v Speaker 3>ladies and family take me seriously? With a mid life

0:52:44.000 --> 0:52:47.000
<v Speaker 3>change of teams? I know these are two These are

0:52:47.000 --> 0:52:50.320
<v Speaker 3>long and two parts. Maybe answering them on two different shows.

0:52:50.360 --> 0:52:52.520
<v Speaker 2>I don't know. Oh no, we answer right now? Girl, okay?

0:52:52.520 --> 0:52:54.080
<v Speaker 2>The first question said they let herself go and then

0:52:54.120 --> 0:52:57.320
<v Speaker 2>what was the actual question? Is it okay? Would okay?

0:52:58.280 --> 0:52:59.759
<v Speaker 3>The first question is would you be okay with the

0:52:59.760 --> 0:53:02.120
<v Speaker 3>guy telling you to slim down for his visual pleasure

0:53:02.200 --> 0:53:06.680
<v Speaker 3>or attraction? I think it's all about delivery. It's that's

0:53:06.880 --> 0:53:09.760
<v Speaker 3>major key finesse. It's called finesse.

0:53:09.800 --> 0:53:13.120
<v Speaker 2>Do you have any I mean yeah, I mean of

0:53:13.160 --> 0:53:16.799
<v Speaker 2>course you you. The question is did you feel good

0:53:16.800 --> 0:53:18.480
<v Speaker 2>about yourself during that time? You know what I mean?

0:53:18.520 --> 0:53:20.120
<v Speaker 2>Because if you felt good and you gain that weight,

0:53:20.160 --> 0:53:22.560
<v Speaker 2>then that's all that matters. So then if he doesn't

0:53:22.560 --> 0:53:24.840
<v Speaker 2>feel like you look good, that's a whole other issue.

0:53:24.920 --> 0:53:26.439
<v Speaker 2>You know what I mean, when you feel when you're

0:53:26.480 --> 0:53:27.280
<v Speaker 2>feeling your best.

0:53:27.719 --> 0:53:29.319
<v Speaker 3>I guess it's just like if a guy isn't like

0:53:29.320 --> 0:53:31.400
<v Speaker 3>a short haircut and once you were long hair.

0:53:35.160 --> 0:53:37.160
<v Speaker 2>Like sure, you know, like I guess, yeah, do you

0:53:37.200 --> 0:53:39.400
<v Speaker 2>want to do that? Do you feel like you're not attractive?

0:53:39.400 --> 0:53:41.040
<v Speaker 2>Do you feel like you don't look good? It's it's

0:53:41.040 --> 0:53:41.560
<v Speaker 2>about you.

0:53:41.920 --> 0:53:45.520
<v Speaker 3>It's really about you, and the man is just like

0:53:45.239 --> 0:53:47.440
<v Speaker 3>a side dish.

0:53:48.040 --> 0:53:50.200
<v Speaker 2>So I mean, I will hope my partner could be

0:53:50.239 --> 0:53:53.360
<v Speaker 2>honest with me. I hope we can have like a loving,

0:53:53.480 --> 0:53:57.439
<v Speaker 2>like she said, conversation about it, not like a damn girl,

0:53:57.480 --> 0:53:59.319
<v Speaker 2>you like look different, you need to lose some like,

0:53:59.360 --> 0:54:02.319
<v Speaker 2>nothing like that. Yeah, I think there's a delivery. Like

0:54:02.360 --> 0:54:04.440
<v Speaker 2>even I when I gained all my weight and my privacy.

0:54:04.520 --> 0:54:06.400
<v Speaker 2>I gained seventy pounds that after I had I I

0:54:06.440 --> 0:54:09.319
<v Speaker 2>still struggled to the forty pounds that I'd gained, And

0:54:10.320 --> 0:54:13.920
<v Speaker 2>I don't my fiance at the time didn't voice that

0:54:13.960 --> 0:54:16.080
<v Speaker 2>to me, but I think that I'm sure like there

0:54:16.160 --> 0:54:18.000
<v Speaker 2>was a I mean, I don't know. I don't know

0:54:18.040 --> 0:54:19.880
<v Speaker 2>how he felt about it. He never said anything to me,

0:54:20.360 --> 0:54:22.799
<v Speaker 2>which almost was worse because I was like, what are

0:54:22.840 --> 0:54:25.719
<v Speaker 2>you thinking? Like, I know you've known, I know the

0:54:25.719 --> 0:54:28.960
<v Speaker 2>stomach looks different, but also.

0:54:29.760 --> 0:54:35.280
<v Speaker 3>Yeah, I think Also, no, no her nana so oh okay.

0:54:35.719 --> 0:54:37.680
<v Speaker 3>She's used to telling her mom, so oh nana as

0:54:37.719 --> 0:54:42.960
<v Speaker 3>a nibble, yeahanas nibble to the mom who breastfed for

0:54:43.040 --> 0:54:43.640
<v Speaker 3>quaite too long.

0:54:45.880 --> 0:54:48.239
<v Speaker 2>What we're gonna say, yeah, how you feel? Also, you

0:54:48.360 --> 0:54:50.680
<v Speaker 2>have to be when the delivery happens.

0:54:51.120 --> 0:54:53.719
<v Speaker 3>You got to be aware of you're being overly sensitive

0:54:53.960 --> 0:54:56.120
<v Speaker 3>if you have let yourself go, if it and not

0:54:56.160 --> 0:54:58.400
<v Speaker 3>even like physically a figure, if you've gained weight, but like,

0:54:59.080 --> 0:55:01.640
<v Speaker 3>am I like getting us up for date night? You know, like,

0:55:01.840 --> 0:55:05.000
<v Speaker 3>am I doing a little something extra? Because in a relationship,

0:55:05.040 --> 0:55:08.279
<v Speaker 3>like shit gets comfortable and you do like sometimes you

0:55:08.320 --> 0:55:10.239
<v Speaker 3>can let yourself go. But there was times I was like,

0:55:10.440 --> 0:55:13.000
<v Speaker 3>how do you love me? I was like shit, But

0:55:13.200 --> 0:55:14.600
<v Speaker 3>you know, so it has to go both way.

0:55:14.719 --> 0:55:17.200
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, I don't think that necessarily. All is when you

0:55:17.239 --> 0:55:20.160
<v Speaker 2>say let go doesn't always pertain to Wait, you know

0:55:20.160 --> 0:55:21.960
<v Speaker 2>what I mean? You know who you were before you

0:55:22.040 --> 0:55:24.160
<v Speaker 2>were a mother, and if you were that girl that

0:55:24.239 --> 0:55:26.000
<v Speaker 2>got dressed and put that makeup on, and that was

0:55:26.040 --> 0:55:28.120
<v Speaker 2>what made you feel good and then what attracted him

0:55:28.200 --> 0:55:31.560
<v Speaker 2>to you, and then after that maybe you don't feel

0:55:31.600 --> 0:55:33.560
<v Speaker 2>that good and maybe you don't do that anymore. Maybe

0:55:33.560 --> 0:55:36.000
<v Speaker 2>that can help contribute to, you know, getting you feeling

0:55:36.560 --> 0:55:38.879
<v Speaker 2>all and good again. But if that's who you are

0:55:38.920 --> 0:55:40.719
<v Speaker 2>now and you're happy that way, you don't need the

0:55:40.719 --> 0:55:43.560
<v Speaker 2>makeup anymore, then that's another that's a whole Nay, it's

0:55:43.560 --> 0:55:47.000
<v Speaker 2>about how you feel. So the second part of the

0:55:47.040 --> 0:55:49.520
<v Speaker 2>question is lotta racy.

0:55:50.480 --> 0:55:52.480
<v Speaker 3>My second question is, since I've broken up, I'm really

0:55:52.480 --> 0:55:54.680
<v Speaker 3>wanting to embrace my attraction to women growing up. Okay,

0:55:54.800 --> 0:55:57.799
<v Speaker 3>my guardian would have thrown the Bible at me being

0:55:57.840 --> 0:55:59.839
<v Speaker 3>molested child, I've always been attracted to girls. I don't

0:55:59.880 --> 0:56:01.400
<v Speaker 3>know if that played much of a part in the

0:56:01.400 --> 0:56:04.720
<v Speaker 3>attraction or not. But my question is in my mid thirties.

0:56:04.719 --> 0:56:05.720
<v Speaker 2>May be taken seriously.

0:56:06.600 --> 0:56:09.040
<v Speaker 3>Oh care cares as the fun. Do whatever you want

0:56:09.040 --> 0:56:11.160
<v Speaker 3>to do. I mean, if you want to try one

0:56:11.200 --> 0:56:12.799
<v Speaker 3>life to live and if you want to try some

0:56:12.840 --> 0:56:14.799
<v Speaker 3>shit out, try it out and you might like it,

0:56:14.840 --> 0:56:15.239
<v Speaker 3>you might not.

0:56:15.480 --> 0:56:17.160
<v Speaker 2>But if you got to try it out. You can't

0:56:17.239 --> 0:56:19.480
<v Speaker 2>live your life based on what your family and your

0:56:19.480 --> 0:56:21.040
<v Speaker 2>friends are going to think of you. If you want

0:56:21.040 --> 0:56:23.200
<v Speaker 2>to date women, then do that and you might not

0:56:23.239 --> 0:56:24.840
<v Speaker 2>even like it. Who cares? And they don't even have

0:56:24.920 --> 0:56:27.520
<v Speaker 2>to know, Like what nothing you have to keep secrets either,

0:56:27.520 --> 0:56:29.040
<v Speaker 2>But it's just like do what you gotta do.

0:56:29.160 --> 0:56:30.960
<v Speaker 3>You could do it a couple of times and see

0:56:31.000 --> 0:56:33.279
<v Speaker 3>if you feel serious about it, you know, I mean,

0:56:33.320 --> 0:56:34.960
<v Speaker 3>then you know it's nobody's business what you do. And

0:56:34.960 --> 0:56:38.000
<v Speaker 3>if you feel like another thing, if you know it's

0:56:38.040 --> 0:56:40.200
<v Speaker 3>the topic today. If you feel like someone's judging you,

0:56:40.280 --> 0:56:42.640
<v Speaker 3>I mean sometimes it's family. It's not as simple.

0:56:42.719 --> 0:56:43.839
<v Speaker 2>But you don't need.

0:56:43.760 --> 0:56:45.520
<v Speaker 3>Friends that are gonna judge you. And you got to

0:56:45.560 --> 0:56:48.760
<v Speaker 3>tell people like yo, I don't care about your opinion.

0:56:48.800 --> 0:56:51.600
<v Speaker 3>I wasn't asking when I want your opinion, I'll ask.

0:56:51.480 --> 0:56:53.120
<v Speaker 2>You you dating a woman is not the end of

0:56:53.160 --> 0:56:54.759
<v Speaker 2>the world. I guess some people would look at it

0:56:54.840 --> 0:56:57.520
<v Speaker 2>as like, oh, you know, if you're like she said,

0:56:57.560 --> 0:56:59.239
<v Speaker 2>her family would throw the Bible at her head. She

0:56:59.320 --> 0:57:01.799
<v Speaker 2>had this idea, you know, when she was younger, in

0:57:01.840 --> 0:57:04.080
<v Speaker 2>her youth, so you know, that's a whole different mentality.

0:57:04.120 --> 0:57:06.719
<v Speaker 2>But like, you have to know that that is not

0:57:07.120 --> 0:57:09.520
<v Speaker 2>the end of the world. You trying that out. If

0:57:09.560 --> 0:57:11.680
<v Speaker 2>you're not going to hell, you'll be okay.

0:57:11.480 --> 0:57:13.439
<v Speaker 3>You will do You're definitely going to hell because God

0:57:13.480 --> 0:57:17.320
<v Speaker 3>made everybody right and he's he likes whitty Man, and

0:57:17.360 --> 0:57:18.400
<v Speaker 3>so do it sounds like.

0:57:18.480 --> 0:57:22.200
<v Speaker 2>You are newly single. You might have just got your like, uh,

0:57:22.560 --> 0:57:24.800
<v Speaker 2>Sellah got her groove back and you want to go

0:57:24.880 --> 0:57:27.960
<v Speaker 2>have some fun, girl, Go do that please and come

0:57:28.000 --> 0:57:30.600
<v Speaker 2>back and tell us how it was. Please submit some

0:57:30.680 --> 0:57:33.000
<v Speaker 2>horries because we want to know. And if you're a

0:57:33.040 --> 0:57:34.840
<v Speaker 2>first time listener, you don't know what a horry is.

0:57:34.960 --> 0:57:38.360
<v Speaker 2>A horry is basically a horror story, and you can

0:57:38.480 --> 0:57:40.640
<v Speaker 2>interpret that however you want. It could be a terrible

0:57:40.680 --> 0:57:42.720
<v Speaker 2>sexual story, or it can be you being a horror

0:57:42.720 --> 0:57:43.720
<v Speaker 2>and it's a story.

0:57:43.520 --> 0:57:45.200
<v Speaker 3>And it's kind of funny and it was fun, or

0:57:45.200 --> 0:57:48.280
<v Speaker 3>maybe it wasn't fun. Doesn't really matter. Everybody has some

0:57:48.640 --> 0:57:50.840
<v Speaker 3>and we embraced them at Good Moms. We want to hear,

0:57:51.440 --> 0:57:55.040
<v Speaker 3>we want to hear about them. We're gonna not gonna

0:57:55.080 --> 0:57:58.120
<v Speaker 3>tell our say because our kids are getting old and listening.

0:58:00.160 --> 0:58:02.000
<v Speaker 3>We're gonna and they won't leave us alone right now.

0:58:02.080 --> 0:58:05.400
<v Speaker 3>So that's it. But oh, also back to the question

0:58:05.440 --> 0:58:09.200
<v Speaker 3>about like the being molested and the Bible thing. I'm

0:58:09.240 --> 0:58:13.400
<v Speaker 3>more of a spiritualist. I'm not like so I don't

0:58:13.440 --> 0:58:17.360
<v Speaker 3>feel like you should let you're upbringing in the church,

0:58:18.640 --> 0:58:21.800
<v Speaker 3>you know, change or persuade what you want to try

0:58:21.840 --> 0:58:24.240
<v Speaker 3>and what you're obviously feeling you want to do. And

0:58:24.320 --> 0:58:27.760
<v Speaker 3>also like being molested, I mean, I don't know if

0:58:27.760 --> 0:58:29.160
<v Speaker 3>you're must be like a man or a woman.

0:58:29.360 --> 0:58:30.240
<v Speaker 2>Not that it matters.

0:58:30.600 --> 0:58:34.520
<v Speaker 3>Things happen to us in our lives, and especially as

0:58:34.560 --> 0:58:35.840
<v Speaker 3>like teenagers or children.

0:58:36.040 --> 0:58:37.600
<v Speaker 2>They play a part.

0:58:37.440 --> 0:58:40.560
<v Speaker 3>In our adulthood, whether it be negative or positive. And

0:58:40.760 --> 0:58:42.480
<v Speaker 3>that's just the reality of it. A lot of women

0:58:42.520 --> 0:58:46.680
<v Speaker 3>have been molested and had like sexual abuse, and it

0:58:46.720 --> 0:58:48.240
<v Speaker 3>does I mean, do you.

0:58:48.160 --> 0:58:50.840
<v Speaker 2>Think that being molested contributes to your attraction to a

0:58:50.840 --> 0:58:52.720
<v Speaker 2>certain sex? Sometimes and sometimes no.

0:58:53.400 --> 0:58:55.480
<v Speaker 3>I was a major lesbian for a lot of years,

0:58:55.520 --> 0:58:57.960
<v Speaker 3>and I will say, like ninety nine percent of the

0:58:57.960 --> 0:59:01.720
<v Speaker 3>girls I dated had been molested by men, But I've

0:59:01.760 --> 0:59:04.280
<v Speaker 3>had women that were never and they just didn't have

0:59:04.320 --> 0:59:06.520
<v Speaker 3>a desire for dick and.

0:59:07.880 --> 0:59:10.960
<v Speaker 2>I like girls, and I don't.

0:59:11.000 --> 0:59:13.520
<v Speaker 3>I mean, like I was molested, like by an older

0:59:13.600 --> 0:59:15.560
<v Speaker 3>kid kind of, so I didn't. I don't think it

0:59:15.640 --> 0:59:18.720
<v Speaker 3>traumatized me. Maybe it did, or maybe I'm suppressing some memories.

0:59:19.080 --> 0:59:22.520
<v Speaker 3>But every all I'm saying is everything that happens to

0:59:22.600 --> 0:59:25.080
<v Speaker 3>us in our lives, good and bad, we have to

0:59:25.440 --> 0:59:27.600
<v Speaker 3>recognize and we have to see how that affects us

0:59:27.640 --> 0:59:29.040
<v Speaker 3>now and then we get past it.

0:59:29.080 --> 0:59:30.640
<v Speaker 2>And you know, and that's a part of it, if

0:59:30.640 --> 0:59:31.959
<v Speaker 2>it's exploring it, if.

0:59:31.880 --> 0:59:34.480
<v Speaker 3>It's if it's you know, just don't let just don't

0:59:34.560 --> 0:59:36.440
<v Speaker 3>let things that's happened to you and your lives dictate

0:59:36.960 --> 0:59:39.640
<v Speaker 3>your adulthood and your future, your future, because you know,

0:59:40.280 --> 0:59:42.680
<v Speaker 3>shit happens to everybody. And I'm not, you know, making

0:59:42.680 --> 0:59:43.200
<v Speaker 3>it light.

0:59:43.520 --> 0:59:46.040
<v Speaker 2>No, I mean, it's easier said than done, but obviously,

0:59:46.200 --> 0:59:49.000
<v Speaker 2>but first step, the first step is recognition. If you

0:59:49.040 --> 0:59:52.320
<v Speaker 2>can recognize that, then you're already making progress. Yeah, you

0:59:52.360 --> 0:59:54.880
<v Speaker 2>know for sure.

0:59:55.120 --> 0:59:57.200
<v Speaker 3>Yeah, and then you also like to want to fuck

0:59:57.240 --> 0:59:58.840
<v Speaker 3>with women, you don't need to make an excuse for it.

0:59:58.880 --> 1:00:00.160
<v Speaker 2>You could do whatever you want. You don't have to like,

1:00:00.160 --> 1:00:01.600
<v Speaker 2>oh you know what I mean, Like just do what

1:00:01.640 --> 1:00:03.480
<v Speaker 2>you want, yeah, because as your mom or your auntie,

1:00:03.480 --> 1:00:04.360
<v Speaker 2>your uncle going to be in.

1:00:04.280 --> 1:00:07.160
<v Speaker 3>The room with you, like at the end of we

1:00:07.240 --> 1:00:09.880
<v Speaker 3>come in this bitch a loon and we go out alone, period,

1:00:09.960 --> 1:00:14.360
<v Speaker 3>point blank. And if anything, if you look at this

1:00:15.160 --> 1:00:18.240
<v Speaker 3>watching like seeing all the suicide attempts, like with that

1:00:18.320 --> 1:00:22.560
<v Speaker 3>suicide attempt, successful suicides like Kate Spade and Anthony Bourdain,

1:00:22.640 --> 1:00:23.520
<v Speaker 3>and obviously.

1:00:23.120 --> 1:00:27.800
<v Speaker 2>This happens every day. Like literally, life is short. Do

1:00:27.880 --> 1:00:29.959
<v Speaker 2>what you want to do, like if anything, like hold

1:00:30.000 --> 1:00:32.240
<v Speaker 2>those people close that you love, love who you want

1:00:32.240 --> 1:00:36.080
<v Speaker 2>to love, because you just don't know what can happen tomorrow.

1:00:36.160 --> 1:00:40.680
<v Speaker 2>Like I think about this, like the volcano erupting in Guatemala,

1:00:40.720 --> 1:00:42.840
<v Speaker 2>Like it's just such a freak accident, and those people

1:00:42.880 --> 1:00:45.280
<v Speaker 2>had no idea what was going to happen to them tomorrow,

1:00:45.680 --> 1:00:48.360
<v Speaker 2>and now their lives are changed forever. Just do what

1:00:48.360 --> 1:00:50.000
<v Speaker 2>you want to do, because life is short.

1:00:50.400 --> 1:00:53.600
<v Speaker 3>Yeah, and teach your kids to do the same shit

1:00:53.840 --> 1:00:56.720
<v Speaker 3>I teach you all that, Like do you want to

1:00:56.760 --> 1:00:58.000
<v Speaker 3>wear that green wig in public?

1:00:58.160 --> 1:01:01.800
<v Speaker 2>Did you let her wherever you're I don't you want

1:01:01.800 --> 1:01:03.800
<v Speaker 2>to wear that shit? Let's go. I don't care. I

1:01:03.800 --> 1:01:05.240
<v Speaker 2>don't want you to grow up and be like, oh,

1:01:05.720 --> 1:01:07.520
<v Speaker 2>Judy said, this isn't not a cute outfit. I'm not

1:01:07.520 --> 1:01:10.520
<v Speaker 2>going to wear it. Do you dance like nobody's watching?

1:01:10.920 --> 1:01:13.120
<v Speaker 2>And date who we want to love? And all that

1:01:13.160 --> 1:01:16.640
<v Speaker 2>other shit. So that was a good question.

1:01:16.920 --> 1:01:19.560
<v Speaker 3>I hope they answered it appropriately. And if anyone else

1:01:19.600 --> 1:01:20.720
<v Speaker 3>has any more questions.

1:01:20.520 --> 1:01:23.000
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, please send them our away. We love your questions.

1:01:23.000 --> 1:01:25.560
<v Speaker 2>It makes us have to think and it also helps

1:01:25.600 --> 1:01:27.160
<v Speaker 2>me like walk through things that I'm.

1:01:27.040 --> 1:01:29.680
<v Speaker 3>Going through right, like, oh yeah this is important, Yeah

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<v Speaker 3>this happened to me or something.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, anything else you want to.

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<v Speaker 3>Add today, my dear, I don't think so Erica's classy

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<v Speaker 3>as is about to get her nails then at her

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<v Speaker 3>house because she real world class.

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<v Speaker 2>Just kidding. No, First of all, that's what I do

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<v Speaker 2>for a living.

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<v Speaker 3>I'm a mobile esthetician, so I'm all about the class yess. Yes,

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<v Speaker 3>all right, Well, we love you guys very much, thank

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<v Speaker 3>you for listening.

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<v Speaker 2>And uh, we'll talk to you next week. Yeah, I

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<v Speaker 2>want to say I will not be flying by guys,

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<v Speaker 2>you still help with me? What about your friends?

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<v Speaker 1>You understand Brown get you down?

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<v Speaker 2>What about your friends?

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<v Speaker 1>What about to be down beat me? I am a

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<v Speaker 1>little too friends and so do thing I heetically say,

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<v Speaker 1>can ride some my prits.

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<v Speaker 2>Don't saying to one. Let's just say I can make

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<v Speaker 2>it in a bit when.

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<v Speaker 3>The results are not wanting to test, Tonay, can you

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<v Speaker 3>tell me I'm to be next to me?

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<v Speaker 2>Tell because I want something I don't know that