Speaker 1: We know, and then I get a little crazy. Yeah
Speaker 1: that's not the way it's supposed to make. Sometimes my
Speaker 1: vision is a little hazing. I can't tell who I
Speaker 1: should try, which is who I meet me.
Speaker 2: You would try to say, hey, guys, welcome back, friends, advisory,
Speaker 2: good mom's bad choices. I'm Erica and I'm Janila, and
Speaker 2: this is our podcast. What's up? Nothing? What's up? How's
Speaker 2: your weekend? I feel like I haven't seen you. I know,
Speaker 2: we're like ever since, even like though we recorded last week,
Speaker 2: it was like so quick. I know, I don't think
Speaker 2: I've seen you since then. So I'm just tired. I've
Speaker 2: had like a really long week. I've traveled a lot
Speaker 2: this week, and I went to North Carolina, South Carolina,
Speaker 2: one of the Carolinas. Oh how was that? It was
Speaker 2: really quick? I like never left the hotel, like I was.
Speaker 2: She came and trained me in the hotel, in the
Speaker 2: like in the room, so I had never left the hotel.
Speaker 2: Did you learn anything? Oh?
Speaker 3: Yeah, I can't wait to near her these tidbits. Erica
Speaker 3: like does really classy work and she's really popping. So
Speaker 3: she's gonna be on Hscent. Well, she's already been on Hcent.
Speaker 3: She got HSN training. Yeah, she's the bomb dot com
Speaker 3: so now she's gonna be the ultra seller.
Speaker 2: Yeah. I checked me out on Home Shopping Net, you know,
Speaker 2: for all you fifty plus woman listening, because I'm sure
Speaker 2: there's a bunch. No, it was fine. It was just
Speaker 2: a lot of information that I had to retain. And
Speaker 2: then like she put a video camera in my face.
Speaker 2: Was like, okay, now pretend like you're selling beauty blenders.
Speaker 2: Oh like, oh shit, I know I know this, but
Speaker 2: I it is lying. I study and then you guys,
Speaker 2: I shot something that I can't say what it is.
Speaker 2: I'm so excited.
Speaker 3: But it's really good. It's really really good. So we'll
Speaker 3: keep you posted. Yeah, but it's about to get largen
Speaker 3: in charge.
Speaker 2: I don't know about all that, baby, Baby, it's one
Speaker 2: of your favorite TV shows that you will see at
Speaker 2: me make an appearance on. It's definitely your fab and
Speaker 2: if it's not, you need to try again press the
Speaker 2: unsubscribed button. I'm just kidding.
Speaker 3: I went out last night and I got really wasted,
Speaker 3: and I was like, not my intention.
Speaker 2: Wait, I saw Danny posted a video of you, and
Speaker 2: you were like, I'm so hungry. I want rice, And
Speaker 2: I was like, Luna is your child. That's all Luna
Speaker 2: ever wants is rice, shrimp and root. Yeah, that's it. Strawberries.
Speaker 3: My daughter has a really adult palette. She's very mature.
Speaker 2: Shrimp shrimp. She wakes up in the morning like I
Speaker 2: would like shrimp and white eggs. She's only these egg whites. Yeah,
Speaker 2: I'm need to be going that diet, right. Yeah.
Speaker 3: I went out with my some my Oddly enough, my
Speaker 3: best friend is rather on the more conservative side compared
Speaker 3: to me, so when it with her, I got wasted.
Speaker 3: And then somehow I ended up at her friend's a
Speaker 3: friend of a friend's like mansion house and there are
Speaker 3: two bitches in the jacuzzi.
Speaker 2: And I was like, I want to get in. She's like,
Speaker 2: do not put in?
Speaker 3: And I was like, it's calling my name. She like
Speaker 3: looks away for two point five seconds. I removed all
Speaker 3: my clothes except my panties and got into the jacuzzie.
Speaker 3: She's like, what the fuck are you doing? Then I
Speaker 3: was like, get me a towel. She's like, you didn't
Speaker 3: think this through. I'm pretty sure I'm drunk. Ass Air
Speaker 3: dried in the stranger's house and then got in the
Speaker 3: uber and bitched about wanting rice.
Speaker 2: Mmm, I thought would happen. That's that was the series
Speaker 2: of events yet, right, Okay? Oh? Also today I went
Speaker 2: to Rosco.
Speaker 3: Was because I have family in town and everybody wants
Speaker 3: to go to fucking Roscow's right. But anyway, I'm in
Speaker 3: the liquor store and I met like this. I didn't
Speaker 3: meet him. I was trying to meet him. It's like
Speaker 3: a sexy white boy looked like sore. So I'm like,
Speaker 3: I've over heard him say like again hair bradages black
Speaker 3: friend is like they're braided.
Speaker 2: He has like a little before ponytail.
Speaker 3: I'm into ponytails and beards, so I'm like, yeah, the
Speaker 3: ones that don't look homas. I'm like, are you Oh,
Speaker 3: you're not from here? He's like, now, I'm visiting from Tampa.
Speaker 3: I asked him like fifteen consecutive questions, and then I
Speaker 3: left the store. I'm like told my friends, like, did
Speaker 3: anybody else get that? I was flirting hard as fuck
Speaker 3: though He's like yeah, I'm like, why didn't you ask
Speaker 3: for my number? Anyway, and then coming to Rosco sitting
Speaker 3: next to us, and now we're gonna move this along
Speaker 3: quickly because we're meeting him at the Roosevelt.
Speaker 2: Oh oh okay, wow, okay, what's his name? Name? Anonymous?
Speaker 3: And no Tim Tim from Tampa, Tim from Tampa, Tampa,
Speaker 3: Tim or Sewer, which is all all acceptable?
Speaker 2: Tim from Tampa. Oh my god, that's pretty good. That's
Speaker 2: pretty good. Anyway. What else happened this week? Oh? Really
Speaker 2: sad news? Oh wait? Recital? Oh my, how could I forget?
Speaker 2: I just came back to my daughter's first recital. I
Speaker 2: don't know if Eddie mom's out there experience the recital circuit?
Speaker 2: Do you feel like a real mom? I feel like
Speaker 2: a real girl mom. I still had girl mom when
Speaker 2: you put that hashtags like this bitch.
Speaker 3: She's the first one who was like I looked at
Speaker 3: mommy bloggers and they're all have this weird hashtag called
Speaker 3: like girl mom and I don't get it. I'm like,
Speaker 3: you get it, like you're the mom of a girl.
Speaker 3: And she's like, oh, but.
Speaker 2: It's so dumb. But that's why I put it, because
Speaker 2: it's so it sounds so stupid.
Speaker 3: Girl girl mom Like, yeah, okay, we didn't use that
Speaker 3: hashtag moro often.
Speaker 2: I mean, yeah, yeah, did you cry?
Speaker 3: No?
Speaker 2: But I was so happy. I was like, first of all,
Speaker 2: she was the best in the class. She looked like
Speaker 2: she was a damn teacher. First of all, it's like
Speaker 2: they're those might that dance school, in particular, Creation Station
Speaker 2: Dance is making a killing because there were like three
Speaker 2: hundred people. They're kidding in that one little studio in Northward. No,
Speaker 2: it's it was at a middle school because they have
Speaker 2: different locations. Yeah, they do have, and all of them
Speaker 2: had the recital at this one location today and it's
Speaker 2: ten dollars a ticket, and so there was a lot
Speaker 2: of people today.
Speaker 3: Oh wow, anti paper class and the costume, and it's
Speaker 3: been around for like years because me and Danielle wan
Speaker 3: as kids.
Speaker 2: That's what my mom said. My mom today was like
Speaker 2: I met like a fully grown woman that went to
Speaker 2: Creation States.
Speaker 3: Me and Danielle went to hip hop class. I'm like
Speaker 3: fourth grade, so that's how I was. A Creation Station
Speaker 3: is the same one. But first of all, I'm a hustler.
Speaker 3: So every time I see like an easy money situation,
Speaker 3: I was like, do I have pictions to them to
Speaker 3: teach a bunch of little brads how to do it?
Speaker 2: This is like a come. I went to a birthday
Speaker 2: party there. I was like, how much are you pay?
Speaker 2: I'm like, one, well, I don't think they make that
Speaker 2: much money. And that's why they do these because this
Speaker 2: is when they make their money, these recitals. They killed
Speaker 2: it because because they know families are gonna want to
Speaker 2: see their kids. And it's so cute. It was a
Speaker 2: durable I'm definitely sunning, lum up, so cute. But yes.
Speaker 3: In other news, Oh, also for our fans that love us,
Speaker 3: all twelve of you all, we're recording this one live
Speaker 3: so you could check out our beautiful faces.
Speaker 2: Yeah, we're we're we have a camera looking at it
Speaker 2: right now. Hey we're so awkward. Yeah, so this will
Speaker 2: be We'll see how consistent is I'm very hard. It's
Speaker 2: really I'm consistency. It's a strong suit when it commitment.
Speaker 2: Social media, I try, I mean working on it. You're
Speaker 2: way better than I am. Oh and shout out to
Speaker 2: all of any new followers because we had the beautiful
Speaker 2: Amina but a fly on yesterday and we gained a
Speaker 2: lot of great followers. I've been getting some messages from
Speaker 2: people that are cool.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I'm really so grateful every time someone's like, hey,
Speaker 3: on I just listened I'm like.
Speaker 2: Oh my god, I love it. I know you guys
Speaker 2: have no idea. Like when you guys message us, I
Speaker 2: like screenshot them and like send them to Jamila like
Speaker 2: four am. I'm like, look, look, somebody likes us.
Speaker 3: I know it keeps us going, so it makes me
Speaker 3: feel like I've way more friends than I do. I
Speaker 3: know I know, and also getting sick and don't forget
Speaker 3: you can like still reach out to us if you
Speaker 3: have any questions.
Speaker 2: If you have any speaking but did you see your email?
Speaker 2: I'll pull it up. If you have any questions you
Speaker 2: know you have, you need some advice, let us know.
Speaker 3: You can email us at Parental ADVISORYGMBC at gmail dot com.
Speaker 3: You can also DM us at Good Moms Underscore Bad.
Speaker 2: Choices because sometimes you just need advice from girls that
Speaker 2: you don't know or girls that you know. Don't judge you,
Speaker 2: because we can't judge anyone. No, we can't. I'm surprised
Speaker 2: we haven't anyone come for us. We're not We'll get there.
Speaker 3: I can't wait for that time, particularly me and the
Speaker 3: things I don't think through before I say, well.
Speaker 2: I'm sure we Also, I remember when I said, what
Speaker 2: did I say? About blackest remot that said some dumb shit. Okay,
Speaker 2: so I was high, don't whatever, I should just don't
Speaker 2: go look for that anyway, we're growing. What else happened
Speaker 2: this week? We have Anthony Boardine died very sad and
Speaker 2: it's so shocking because and you know what, and when
Speaker 2: I was reading this, it's like suicide doesn't have a face,
Speaker 2: you know what I mean, Like you look at someone
Speaker 2: and you think they're living the perfect life. You don't
Speaker 2: understand like how this person could commit aside, he's like
Speaker 2: literally the last person I would think. He lives this
Speaker 2: amazing life where he gets to travel and eat amazing
Speaker 2: foods and go to all these obscure places and all
Speaker 2: these like one in a million lifetime experiences. But he's struggling.
Speaker 2: And I had because excuse me, I had no idea,
Speaker 2: you know, and of course I had no idea. I
Speaker 2: don't know him, But that's what I'm saying, Like that's perception. Like, yeah,
Speaker 2: I saw a post today, like a meme that's my
Speaker 2: whole life. I saw a name to it.
Speaker 3: About basically not a meme, a post about like really,
Speaker 3: you gotta really wonder, you got to really focus on
Speaker 3: what makes you happy, and what does it? Because you think,
Speaker 3: like getting to the bag is going to make you happy,
Speaker 3: but then there's all these rich people and they're not
Speaker 3: happy because they're not You're not. You think that makes
Speaker 3: you happy, but you're not really being fulfilled.
Speaker 2: I know. And that's why. That's something I thought about
Speaker 2: actually with him, is that, you know, he traveled and
Speaker 2: he was always seeking, and I wonder if that played
Speaker 2: into like his unhappy you know, him always seeking. He's
Speaker 2: always going to the next adventure to find the next high,
Speaker 2: to not you know, to like keep trying to surpass
Speaker 2: the last experience, and I don't know, it's just sad.
Speaker 2: It's really sad. I'm sorry. I'm sorry. I did not
Speaker 2: mean to smile.
Speaker 3: I just got a text from Thor's I got on focused.
Speaker 2: I have really bad ad D. Not really bad. I'm
Speaker 2: like talking about Anthony smiling at me, and I'm what
Speaker 2: the because I think he's like one of those hip
Speaker 2: hop white boys.
Speaker 3: He says stuff like the pool parties lit y'all slide in, like,
Speaker 3: oh my god, I like it, Oh you do? I
Speaker 3: love a hip hop white boy. And that's not really
Speaker 3: trying to your art. You don't know that yet though,
Speaker 3: let me let me have a little optimism.
Speaker 2: I'm gonna let you be optimistic. But he would just
Speaker 2: keep in mind that he's from Tampa. That means he
Speaker 2: might be a little hip hop. It might be I
Speaker 2: don't know, from Tampa.
Speaker 3: You gotta you gotta a Florida boot. Well, he's not
Speaker 3: a hip hop white boy, and.
Speaker 2: He's actually black. It's actually a doctor. Stop stop bragging,
Speaker 2: and you bragged for me, say shit anyway, So yes,
Speaker 2: rest in peace, Anthony Bourdain. And please, if you know
Speaker 2: anybody that is going through something, just check in on them.
Speaker 2: Let people know you love them, because you just never
Speaker 2: know what's going on.
Speaker 3: So you see, And I think sometimes we get most
Speaker 3: comfortable with friends we've had the longest forgetting to tell
Speaker 3: them like I love you, I'm.
Speaker 2: Proud of you, thank you, Are you cool?
Speaker 3: Because you forget and it's obvious like people like, like
Speaker 3: I said in another episode, like depression looks different for
Speaker 3: everybody you know, and even right now, like even as
Speaker 3: in a dawn realizing.
Speaker 2: There's certain like some days I'm depressed.
Speaker 3: And like and I won't get out of bed, and
Speaker 3: I'm like, what the fuck is wrong with me? But
Speaker 3: you have to acknowledge it to you know, get out
Speaker 3: of that space.
Speaker 2: I've talked to people. Yeah, ask people, how are you doing?
Speaker 2: Sometimes that's it's as simple as that. And I realize
Speaker 2: that sometimes I forget to ask people that, and it's
Speaker 2: such a simple question, how are you?
Speaker 3: How are you feeling? Oh my god, my boot asking
Speaker 3: me the other day like, how are you feeling? And
Speaker 3: I was just like, oh my god, that was so nice.
Speaker 3: And I clearly I've never been in a healthy relationship
Speaker 3: in my life.
Speaker 2: But no, it's true though you don't. Yeah, people forget
Speaker 2: to ask you that question, and you forget to check
Speaker 2: in with yourself. Yeah, am I feeling okay? Am I happy?
Speaker 2: Am I f filled? Like, I don't know how I'm feeling?
Speaker 2: How am I feeling right now?
Speaker 3: It's like, because you're like going through the motions, you're moving, moving, moving, moving, Yeah,
Speaker 3: living in.
Speaker 2: A fast, fast life, fast day and age.
Speaker 3: Speaking of fast lives, Kim Kardashian's request for a pardon
Speaker 3: got granted by her homeboy Trump.
Speaker 4: World Wind for everybody, Kim's no political Fourteen years seasons later,
Speaker 4: when she's accumulated fourteen billion dollars, She's done something positive
Speaker 4: for a community.
Speaker 2: You know, it's more I'm less mad at her and
Speaker 2: more mad at Donald not mad, like I'm so happy
Speaker 2: for this woman that she's out and she's able to
Speaker 2: be with her family. Like I'm not trying to take
Speaker 2: that away at all. But this is such a political
Speaker 2: so clearly obviously such a political move for Donald Trump
Speaker 2: because black people don't fuck with him. And also, you know,
Speaker 2: he is part of the problem with prison reform, like
Speaker 2: him and all his rich friends. Prison is is like
Speaker 2: a booming industry for for sure, so much money. It's slavery.
Speaker 2: He's not modern days doing anything to change that. He
Speaker 2: just did this so we would shut up, and then
Speaker 2: anytime we talk about it, he'll bring this up again.
Speaker 2: And he's he's gearing up for reelection.
Speaker 3: He's also discussing, uh, lifting the ban on marijuana federally
Speaker 3: or whatever. But I heard that that's like also because
Speaker 3: of you know, he's trying to get relected. I don't
Speaker 3: fuck with Trump, And I think that Kim Kardashian should
Speaker 3: have been being active in the community or you have
Speaker 3: that much influence, that much money, and like you said,
Speaker 3: the jail sysm like it's been a fucked up situation
Speaker 3: since Reagan.
Speaker 2: So but you know what, honestly, I'm not mad at
Speaker 2: Kim because there's a lot of black women out here
Speaker 2: that don't do anything that Kim is doing. You know,
Speaker 2: and you're black, you know what I mean? What are
Speaker 2: you doing? Like? I get it because she comes with
Speaker 2: so much baggage attached to her. It was not even
Speaker 2: the baggage.
Speaker 3: But who do you think, honestly, what black woman minus Oprah?
Speaker 3: I think, who do you think has that much influence
Speaker 3: like socially and financially minus like Oprah?
Speaker 2: What black woman has that much?
Speaker 3: Like even like even her range of following like young
Speaker 3: to old?
Speaker 2: Who like what black women can you say has the same?
Speaker 2: I mean not the same maybe like a Tyra Banks
Speaker 2: or even there's actors that make a lot of money,
Speaker 2: you know what I mean, But we also don't know
Speaker 2: what they do behind closed stores. But I'm not mad
Speaker 2: at it. I'm not. Trump and Kim are the same person,
Speaker 2: and that's why they can relate to each other because
Speaker 2: they're both like TV reality wars, you know what I mean.
Speaker 2: And that's why it makes it That's why it makes
Speaker 2: the situation meant dirty. You know, if it was anybody else,
Speaker 2: we wouldn't be talking about this. But it's because she
Speaker 2: and her family are such like like they're just she
Speaker 2: corny and Donald Trump is a corny person that's now
Speaker 2: our fucking president, and it just makes it like, it
Speaker 2: just makes it dirty.
Speaker 3: Listening to Kim Kardashian talk anything remotely educated and palalytical is.
Speaker 2: The most irritating.
Speaker 3: It's just like listening to Connie talk about stupid shit.
Speaker 3: It's just like stupid.
Speaker 2: I don't want to hear it. I don't want to
Speaker 2: hear like. I'm happy. I hope you continues to do it.
Speaker 3: I hope if you fucking make a change, bitch, finally
Speaker 3: do something important. You do have two black hands and
Speaker 3: a black husband. It's a three big three, oh yeah, third,
Speaker 3: and it's a big It's a big thing that affects
Speaker 3: the black household and it has for years. So absolutely
Speaker 3: I'm with the agenda. But like listening to her talk
Speaker 3: smart is annoying. Period.
Speaker 2: I think, yeah, when she was talking, she was like
Speaker 2: she was like yeah, and so they're like ban Jones
Speaker 2: is like, so how did it happen? Tell me what happened,
Speaker 2: and she's like, well, well, I was at a photo shoot.
Speaker 2: I was like I got the call and like it's
Speaker 2: like okay, You're like, we didn't need to know you
Speaker 2: want a photo shoot.
Speaker 3: Just like tell us like and just like you know,
Speaker 3: like waiting on the call, like just to find out
Speaker 3: what happened, like on pins and nails.
Speaker 2: There's just so much.
Speaker 3: It's just so you know, I'm just like, shut the
Speaker 3: fuck up, please get to the point. Shit, I can
Speaker 3: in my head, I could totally hear fucking Her and
Speaker 3: Kanye in the bed like having these deep, shallow discussions
Speaker 3: and circles, and I'm like, oh god, they're perfect.
Speaker 2: For each other.
Speaker 3: Her, Kanye and fucking Trump are fucking best friend circle.
Speaker 2: Oh my god.
Speaker 3: Anyway, speaking of friend circles.
Speaker 2: Speaking of friend circles, today's episode is about maybe a
Speaker 2: few things, but we want to focus song what not
Speaker 2: to do as a friend, what you don't do in case.
Speaker 3: You bitches needed. We want you to be able to
Speaker 3: gentify a bad friend. We want you to be able
Speaker 3: to cut out a bad friend, and we want you
Speaker 3: to be a better friend. If these are any things
Speaker 3: that you do the friend code, the friend code.
Speaker 2: Yeah, basically that being one of them, being the biggest
Speaker 2: one for like me personally, is do you as a
Speaker 2: friend stay stay friends with your ex? Like would your
Speaker 2: best friend stay friends? Yeah? Is that okay? Are there
Speaker 2: different reasons? Are there different scenarios where it is okay
Speaker 2: versus not okay? Or is it just never okay?
Speaker 3: When you text me like I want to talk about this,
Speaker 3: I was like, what are we gonna talk about?
Speaker 2: Because the answer is just fuck no. I was just
Speaker 2: like no, duh, Like why are you talking about? Like?
Speaker 2: What else are we gonna say? Because it's so clear? Well,
Speaker 2: I think some people might disagree. Does she have a vagina?
Speaker 2: I don't. I mean, it's a girl. I don't know.
Speaker 2: It's like I mean, I'm sure there's some people that
Speaker 2: listen to us that probably still talk to one of
Speaker 2: their friends' exes okay and can and justifies it and
Speaker 2: can justify it.
Speaker 3: Okay, Let's let's go over the justifications because this is
Speaker 3: what I said. These were my first questions. Were they
Speaker 3: friends with your ex before you? Were they best friends
Speaker 3: with your ex before you? And those were the only
Speaker 3: questions related. Are their cousins? Isn't our brother? These are
Speaker 3: the only circumstances in which it may be.
Speaker 2: Okay because it's still questionable. Some cousins you don't need
Speaker 2: to talk to. I'm just kidding. It's true, it's true.
Speaker 3: And especially I think one of the biggest things the
Speaker 3: terms on which they broke up. If you had to
Speaker 3: like mature breakup and we just parted our ways, fine,
Speaker 3: you know you have you've developed friendships with people over
Speaker 3: years of time.
Speaker 2: That's natural. But other than that, like you know what
Speaker 2: I mean? Wait, I forgot.
Speaker 3: I just said, well, how they broke up, how they
Speaker 3: oh yeah, how they treat your friend?
Speaker 2: Yeah, I mean I think all those play effactor for me.
Speaker 2: It's like I feel like, why, why do you want
Speaker 2: to touch on your specific Yeah. So I basically have
Speaker 2: this situation going on in my life where my ex,
Speaker 2: my friend became like a middleman in my situation between
Speaker 2: me and my ex, Like he they they became friends
Speaker 2: and well they kind of knew each other before, but
Speaker 2: not really. It was more so like he didn't really
Speaker 2: remember her and she had met him a few times
Speaker 2: through so she didn't like introduce you to him. No, Okay,
Speaker 2: So basically when we're in our relationship, my ex, whenever
Speaker 2: we'd have a fight, she would call her and she
Speaker 2: became like our middle man, like she would like a therapist. Almost, yeah,
Speaker 2: which happens. Which happens, But don't do that. If you're
Speaker 2: doing that currently, stop that shit now because clearly that
Speaker 2: means there's going to be a gray area. There's a
Speaker 2: lot of gray areas there, and some people don't know
Speaker 2: when to step away from that position, you know. So anyway,
Speaker 2: so they Yeah, so they have that relationship and like
Speaker 2: you know, like when he would go on tour and
Speaker 2: were and like and she lived in New York for
Speaker 2: a while, so when I was on tour, like she'd
Speaker 2: go to his shows while they were like while I
Speaker 2: was here or whatever, and that was fine, Like I
Speaker 2: was happy. I'm happy that they had.
Speaker 3: A really I mean, for the most part, you want
Speaker 3: your friends to Yeah, it's almost a hundred percent.
Speaker 2: Like I really enjoyed that my best friend and my
Speaker 2: best friend who is my was my partner, have a
Speaker 2: really relationship. Yeah for sure.
Speaker 3: Yeah, we're not like crazy women here, not like don't
Speaker 3: talk to my mind, No, I'm honest, Like borderline is
Speaker 3: your man too, Like that's how I feel because I've
Speaker 3: had friends station to me and I'm like like it's
Speaker 3: like that's how it's supposed to be.
Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, no, for sure, I was. I've always supported
Speaker 2: and been happy about the relationship that they had no
Speaker 2: jealousy at all. So then basically me and my ex
Speaker 2: broke up a while ago, and I had a situation
Speaker 2: where I told her something and I believe that she
Speaker 2: told him, and it caused a drama between me and him,
Speaker 2: and so it was I'm thinking, like, why are you
Speaker 2: telling him things that a or not his business?
Speaker 3: And B you missed the part where you specifically told
Speaker 3: her don't tell him, right.
Speaker 2: And so let me just be really honest here. I
Speaker 2: don't have proof that she told him, but she's literally
Speaker 2: the only person I could have told him. So it's
Speaker 2: one of those situations where you just know you know
Speaker 2: what I mean.
Speaker 3: And then when she confronted her about it, the answer
Speaker 3: was did you tell X Y and z x Y
Speaker 3: and Z.
Speaker 2: And the answer was I don't think so, no, which
Speaker 2: means you're lying. Well, yeah, yes, I believe she's lying,
Speaker 2: of course, But if your first thing is I don't
Speaker 2: think so, and I specifically told you do not say
Speaker 2: this information to this person, are you slow? No? Stupid?
Speaker 2: I think I also caught her off guard, and so
Speaker 2: she you know, I know when you are she intended
Speaker 2: on telling you like I slept up. I don't know
Speaker 2: about all that, but when you catch anybody off guard,
Speaker 2: their first reaction is to defend themselves, you know what
Speaker 2: I mean? True, So and lie? Yeah, unfortunately sometimes yeah, yeah,
Speaker 2: especially when you're wrong. Okay, So let you know you're wrong,
Speaker 2: and it's just because you're wrong with me. You're a
Speaker 2: terrible person. But you need to think about all the
Speaker 2: things you do, you know what I mean. So, I
Speaker 2: mean I've done shit where I've been like oh yeah shit, yeah. Yeah,
Speaker 2: but it's like I'm sorry, not like but just just
Speaker 2: admit it. Yeah, admit it.
Speaker 3: Yeah, even after like you're one of your best friends
Speaker 3: with someone. First of all, they've been like what was
Speaker 3: it like twenty years? Yeah, I mean I've fallen out
Speaker 3: with my friend of twenty years and I'm bitter.
Speaker 2: I'm like, I'm not a bitter, but I'm like I
Speaker 2: can hold on to some shit. And I was like,
Speaker 2: I'm not speaking to her.
Speaker 3: No, I didn't even say that, I'm not gonna speak
Speaker 3: to her for like six months, eight months.
Speaker 2: Or you put a time like you knew, Yeah, you
Speaker 2: knew that you'd be back.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I mean, honestly, as spiteful as I am, and
Speaker 3: as much as I don't forget, I'm very forgiving, Like
Speaker 3: I genuinely. First of all, friends are hard to come by,
Speaker 3: and once you've invested twenty years in a friendship, like
Speaker 3: it's some past friendship, it's your sister.
Speaker 2: Like I genuinely believe that.
Speaker 3: So I'm not like and I'm coming to the place
Speaker 3: like you accept people as they are, fuck ups and all,
Speaker 3: and like that's a part of friendship.
Speaker 2: So I didn't think I was never going to be
Speaker 2: friends with that person.
Speaker 3: There's things I said I would never do that I'm
Speaker 3: doing now because obviously I'm over it.
Speaker 2: But even this situation, I am really annoyed and I've
Speaker 2: been like doing it. I love her, I still love her,
Speaker 2: and like, I hope that we can work it out,
Speaker 2: but right now we're in a place where it's not
Speaker 2: we're not working it out, and so it's making me angry.
Speaker 2: And I've tried to reach out to work it out,
Speaker 2: and it's like, you know, she was she resists. She
Speaker 2: was like showing me resistance towards trying to work it
Speaker 2: out because she she felt attacked, you know what I mean.
Speaker 2: And you know, I know that I reached out and
Speaker 2: I was aggressive about it because I was angry. But
Speaker 2: I also know that I'm right, you know, and so
Speaker 2: I mean, I absolutely think you're right. I think I
Speaker 2: know that I didn't approach it correctly, and that's why
Speaker 2: I try to reach out to her. And I was like, hey,
Speaker 2: you know what, I should have done that, because she said,
Speaker 2: choose did you tell so?
Speaker 5: Then?
Speaker 2: Okay, so then let me get finished the story. So
Speaker 2: I approached her. She denied it, then came back like
Speaker 2: a few like that same day and was called me
Speaker 2: and said like I spoke to him, which annoyed me,
Speaker 2: and was like and he said that you you did
Speaker 2: blah blah blah and this and da da da da dah.
Speaker 2: I'm sorry. I don't I don't I didn't tell him.
Speaker 2: I don't think I told him. I don't think it
Speaker 2: wasn't it wasn't like it was. It wasn't like I
Speaker 2: definitive I did not tell him. It was like, I
Speaker 2: don't remember telling him. So so anyway, so then I
Speaker 2: was like, you know what, I really need you to
Speaker 2: make a decision. I was like, you know, I'm I'm
Speaker 2: not really the type of person that makes people choose friends,
Speaker 2: but in this particular situation, it's getting messy. I feel
Speaker 2: like it's being messed. Like this situation is so Me
Speaker 2: and my ex broke up in September. It's almost been
Speaker 2: a year, close to a year, but it's still fresh,
Speaker 2: you know. I deal with this every single day, with
Speaker 2: like dealing with him and my daughter and trying to
Speaker 2: work on our friendship. And it's not easy, and we
Speaker 2: have really bad days and we have okay days and yeah,
Speaker 2: and it's like I you know, anyway, So I just
Speaker 2: was like, I need you to make a choice. Are
Speaker 2: you my friend or you his friend? Because you've been
Speaker 2: my friend for twenty years and I just don't think
Speaker 2: that there's no reason for you to be friends. I
Speaker 2: don't understand your friendship. I was like, does he call
Speaker 2: and check in on you? Like, I don't get why
Speaker 2: it's necessary for you to be friends with him? And
Speaker 2: then she said fit do you Oh this was later,
Speaker 2: so then she was like, well, I don't really, I
Speaker 2: don't me and Freddie have a friendship. I don't understand ed.
Speaker 2: And I was like, well, I think you need to
Speaker 2: think about it, and then we got kind of got
Speaker 2: off the phone. She said she apologized for me being
Speaker 2: mad at her. She texted you that. No, on the phone,
Speaker 2: She's like, well, I'm sorry, I feel like you're mad
Speaker 2: at me, but like I'm sorry if you're mad at me,
Speaker 2: not like I'm sorry for me, but I'm sorry about it.
Speaker 2: So anyway, we didn't talk for like maybe a month
Speaker 2: after that because I was like pissed and just confused.
Speaker 2: And then like maybe like a month and a half,
Speaker 2: that's when I reached out to her and said, you know,
Speaker 2: like I was thinking about her, and I was like,
Speaker 2: you know what, I should apologize for how I came
Speaker 2: at her, but like let's just move past this, you know.
Speaker 2: And so then she texted me back and was like,
Speaker 2: you know you everything is not about you. You make
Speaker 2: everything about yourself. You haven't come and visited me out here.
Speaker 2: She doesn't live in LA and uh, you even come
Speaker 2: visit me out here, and you know, I feel really
Speaker 2: insulted you would question me and your baby daddy's friendship.
Speaker 2: We went through this near death experience. They went through
Speaker 2: a near death experience. A good car accident. No, his
Speaker 2: show got shot up. It sounds really, so I don't know.
Speaker 3: Her, and I don't like, I'm sure I'll meet her
Speaker 3: eventually and it's gonna be like, yeah, I'm giving you
Speaker 3: a really bad version of who she is because she's
Speaker 3: actually a cool person, but this situation is not cool.
Speaker 2: Those sound like excuses to me.
Speaker 3: You went through a near death experience because the show
Speaker 3: got shot up.
Speaker 2: Girl, Like, yeah, you actually put you in danger girl.
Speaker 2: So then anyway, I was like, okay, whatever, I like,
Speaker 2: was like I read all that and I was like, okay, girl,
Speaker 2: I can't. I was like, anyway, so she do want
Speaker 2: to talk or no? And then she was like I
Speaker 2: don't know, no, no, and then she's like, okay, we
Speaker 2: can talk on Saturday. Saturday came around, I was like,
Speaker 2: what time? She never hit me back? Hit me back
Speaker 2: a week later, Hey, sorry, I've been busy with school
Speaker 2: schedules of conversation. She wanted to schedule it and lives
Speaker 2: on a busy bitch, so yes, I am. So then
Speaker 2: she never reached back out, and so I felt like
Speaker 2: I reached out twice, she didn't reciprocate, and I'm cool.
Speaker 2: So then fast forward to a few days ago, I
Speaker 2: asked baby Daddy pouring one. Yes, I'm good. I asked
Speaker 2: baby Daddy, Hey, have you talked to so and so?
Speaker 2: And he was like, yeah, I talked to her like
Speaker 2: two days ago. She's moving back to La Da Da
Speaker 2: Da Da. Daddy like had all this new information about
Speaker 2: my best friend who's talking to my baby daddy, And
Speaker 2: I just felt away about that. It really pissed me
Speaker 2: the fuck off. I'm actually getting angry right now thinking
Speaker 2: about it. I think you agree, I would agree, Like,
Speaker 2: but who's your friend? Like what the fuck?
Speaker 3: Yeah?
Speaker 2: I think it's weird. Why do you know more about
Speaker 2: my best friend? And she's like deliberately not really still
Speaker 2: talking to you, And I just I don't know. It
Speaker 2: just did not sit with me right, And I just
Speaker 2: feel really uncomfortable about that whole situation, like, you know,
Speaker 2: like especially because our relationship, me and my baby dad's
Speaker 2: relationship did not end well and it was not my fault.
Speaker 2: It was his fault, and it has been something that
Speaker 2: he you know, he cheated so many times and been disrespectful,
Speaker 2: and like for me, it's like, why would you want
Speaker 2: to be friends with someone? Yeah, it's I'm not saying
Speaker 2: that Baby Daddy is not is not him the same
Speaker 2: Baby Daddy is. I'm not saying he's not a good person.
Speaker 2: He definitely has to work on a lot of shit,
Speaker 2: but still, like, why would you want to still parley
Speaker 2: with someone who's hurt your best friend?
Speaker 3: Repeatedly, I don't get it. I honestly don't get it.
Speaker 3: So it's hard for me to give you.
Speaker 2: Like, so for those of you out there, do you
Speaker 2: I don't know, like, am I shripping? Like I feel
Speaker 2: like I'm not tripping. I'm trying to not be an
Speaker 2: angry person, and I feel that this situation is making
Speaker 2: me angry. I feel the angry and that's why today
Speaker 2: I told baby Daddy. I was like, hey, so, do
Speaker 2: you have spacing your garage? And he was like what?
Speaker 2: And this was that lunch after my daughter's recital, and
Speaker 2: I was really tired and I was kind of one
Speaker 2: and pissy and bitchy, and he was like, yeah, I
Speaker 2: got space.
Speaker 3: Why?
Speaker 2: And I was like, so you got space for boxes?
Speaker 2: He's like yeah. I was like, so you can put
Speaker 2: so and so ship in your garage. He was like,
Speaker 2: what do you mean. I'm like, her ship's been in
Speaker 2: my garage for two years.
Speaker 3: I've clearly you guys are the best fucking friends, so
Speaker 3: maybe she needs to transfer.
Speaker 2: Yeah, And I was like, because she's your He was
Speaker 2: like okay, And I was like, is that my problem? Wait?
Speaker 2: Did you proceed to put the shit in this car? No,
Speaker 2: it's in my garage. I was like. I was like,
Speaker 2: I was like, because that's your friend. And then he
Speaker 2: got really quiet and then he got mad at me.
Speaker 2: Kind of why. I don't know, because he did. I
Speaker 2: could just tell he got mad. He didn't like get mad.
Speaker 2: He didn't want he doesn't want to be in an
Speaker 2: awkward situation. He isn't. And I was like, am I wrong?
Speaker 2: And he's like, I don't want to talk about it
Speaker 2: right now? And I'm like why He's like I don't
Speaker 2: want to talk about it right now. I was like, okay, good,
Speaker 2: because there's nothing to talk about. You're getting it. I'm
Speaker 2: putting it in the trunk. And I feel like I'm
Speaker 2: being petty. I know I'm being paid. Actually I don't
Speaker 2: think it'd being that petty. I think it's kind of petty,
Speaker 2: but I'm And although I followed her, I have followed
Speaker 2: a friend because she like I wonder her pictures popped
Speaker 2: up on my instant and I've been and I've been
Speaker 2: stewing in this, like I've been stewing in all of
Speaker 2: this and just pissed me off. And I was like,
Speaker 2: I'm lovely her. I was like, oh my god, it's so.
Speaker 3: Like, no, I don't twenty eighteen. I've done it. I've
Speaker 3: literally done it. So I think that you're right. You know,
Speaker 3: I would tell you if you're wrong. I don't know
Speaker 3: her personally, so I'm judging, yeah.
Speaker 2: You are. I mean, I mean, I know because and
Speaker 2: that's rightfully so, because you don't know her that whole person,
Speaker 2: So I'm not.
Speaker 3: But I also my other question to her was like,
Speaker 3: do you think she has a crush on this nigga?
Speaker 3: Because that is but I know, I know, probably not,
Speaker 3: But like from a person from the outside linking in,
Speaker 3: these are questions that I would ask because even when
Speaker 3: we're telling her, she's like, what is she like trying
Speaker 3: to do him? They mess around before and obviously no,
Speaker 3: but those are the type of things that starts to
Speaker 3: like linger because I don't, what do you want to be.
Speaker 2: Friends with them? So bad? For he's not that cool?
Speaker 2: I don't. I don't feel that way. I don't get
Speaker 2: that from me.
Speaker 3: No, you know, we're water signs. You're you're like low
Speaker 3: key's psychic, so you would know. No, it's true until
Speaker 3: all my my new boyfriends, I'm psychic, so don't try me.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I don't think so that's not the vibe I get.
Speaker 2: I just feel like I don't know. I don't know anyway. Yeah,
Speaker 2: so that's a friend. That's a friend. No No, in
Speaker 2: my opinion.
Speaker 3: Wait, let me tell you about my friend. No no,
Speaker 3: because it's hilarious. I have a friend. I'm actually friends.
Speaker 2: With her brother more.
Speaker 3: But whatever, we developed like friendship, like a pretty very
Speaker 3: close friendship.
Speaker 2: I was in her wedding first of all. I was.
Speaker 3: She told me I was in her wedding. Then like
Speaker 3: months before the wedding comes up, I'm like, yo, am
Speaker 3: I still in the wedding. You haven't told me anything?
Speaker 3: And she's like, actually, I didn't know if he'd be
Speaker 3: able to do it. And I'm like, okay, that's weird,
Speaker 3: Like why even tell someone you're in the wedding to
Speaker 3: begin with. And then she tried to blame like my
Speaker 3: baby's daddy, like you have all this stuff going on
Speaker 3: with your own baby's son. I'm like Okay, whatever, bitch weird,
Speaker 3: but okay, I'm like, but I've been turned bit like,
Speaker 3: how are you gonna tell me I'm gonna be in
Speaker 3: your wedding?
Speaker 2: And then like a month before tell me I'm not.
Speaker 2: But whatever. But she just like was she drunk one night?
Speaker 3: And it's like no, no, no. If she wasn't drunk,
Speaker 3: she was like, you're definitely. It was like, you're definitely
Speaker 3: gonna be in the wedding. And I was like, okay, whatever,
Speaker 3: we're she wouldn't be my wedding. I'll be honest. I
Speaker 3: didn't think that then, so I wasn't no sweat off
Speaker 3: my brow, but then I fucking.
Speaker 2: I.
Speaker 3: Anyway, we ended up going to a bachelor party, bachelorette
Speaker 3: party the bitch that was supposed to be in the wedding.
Speaker 3: They get into it because the bitch is like a
Speaker 3: real bad mom and she would like take her baby
Speaker 3: and she's like a little scripper. She'd be like posted
Speaker 3: shripper pictures that's in the in the locker room, and
Speaker 3: then like one picture of her daughter every fourteen posts.
Speaker 2: She's just like, you know, the some holes are just hoes.
Speaker 2: Mm hmm. Whatever, that's not my friend.
Speaker 3: Anyway, So the bitch was on the bachelotte party wanting
Speaker 3: to go to the club because she's a hoe and
Speaker 3: there was like a basketball player there and my friend
Speaker 3: was like my yeah whatever. Friend in air quotes, it's like,
Speaker 3: we're not going to the club tonight. I already spent
Speaker 3: five grand on like the day party. We're all tired. Anyway,
Speaker 3: the girls proceeds to go, she flips out, kicks her
Speaker 3: out the wedding, kicks her off the fucking bachelorette party,
Speaker 3: and then it's like, Jamilla, you're in. So I'm like, okay,
Speaker 3: the keep in mind the wedding is literally doing makes
Speaker 3: me get away when she's on my managed to pay
Speaker 3: for it. Wait you have there's like a hair cot
Speaker 3: for her. She literally picks people that like would look good.
Speaker 3: So this is this lets you know, like she doesn't
Speaker 3: have a lot of friends because she's difficult. She's very
Speaker 3: like I've never been more afraid of a friend. Like
Speaker 3: she can cuss anybody out in a pulp, like so quickly.
Speaker 2: It's very admirable. Like she's very honest, Like she's good,
Speaker 2: she's a good Oh.
Speaker 3: You she'll wreck you, like in an instant I'm almost
Speaker 3: nervous to go places with her because she will wreck
Speaker 3: you in an instant.
Speaker 2: And one time she we.
Speaker 3: Were in Vegas at that same bachelotte party and there
Speaker 3: was like she's a mean bitch. There were someone like
Speaker 3: kind of fat next to her. She's like, Yo, you're
Speaker 3: too fat to be that close to people. You need
Speaker 3: to back the fuck up. You need to find like space.
Speaker 3: She's just like a mean ass, like she can be
Speaker 3: like a bitch, so but she's also like a sweet
Speaker 3: heart person, like she do anything for anyone.
Speaker 2: It's like a weird, okay, weird thing.
Speaker 3: Anyway, it's fucking hilarious when I think of it. Like
Speaker 3: a couple of months ago, it was International Women's Day.
Speaker 3: So I got drunk one night at my house and
Speaker 3: I started, like, first of all, I copied Erica because
Speaker 3: I saw this bitch do it on her answer story,
Speaker 3: Like good idea. Start screenshatting bitches all my friends International
Speaker 3: Women's Day, adding him. The next morning, at six o'clock
Speaker 3: in the morning, bitch texts me some mean as shit
Speaker 3: like that's why you're struggling, you're lazy, used INKM you
Speaker 3: did it intentionally. I'm like, I intentionally didn't include you
Speaker 3: on my social so I was like, so a cough.
Speaker 2: But I was like, it's six o'clock in the morning.
Speaker 2: But she was mad that you didn't post her on
Speaker 2: your International Women's Day posts. It's like women that you
Speaker 2: love or whatever. Yeah, that's the stories. Keep in mind.
Speaker 3: I also didn't like post my I also didn't post
Speaker 3: my mom because I literally got drunk.
Speaker 2: There was people. The next day, I was like, I
Speaker 2: posted her. I don't even think about this bitch.
Speaker 3: But so she sent me this long post about all
Speaker 3: this evil shit. First of all, okay, and we can
Speaker 3: be background. She is a smart girl. She has a degree,
Speaker 3: but she chose to be a dancer. She met a rich,
Speaker 3: older Caucasian man. Oh she met him stripping yeah. Oh
Speaker 3: and god ended up marrying him. I don't for the benefits.
Speaker 3: It's like not even a secret, not to him, not
Speaker 3: to anyone. It's like I'm making.
Speaker 2: My life like she's she tells him like, what the
Speaker 2: fuck do you think this is? Like you can't. She's
Speaker 2: so straightforward. She'd be like she runs him. Yeah, you
Speaker 2: can't embarrass me. This is why I'm with you, like
Speaker 2: for you to pay. So I didn't have kids she.
Speaker 3: Thought about it, but she also thinks he's crazy because
Speaker 3: he makes her fucking miserable because it's she's not in love.
Speaker 2: I think at one point maybe she could have been.
Speaker 3: I mean, anyway, bitch gets a lot of money on
Speaker 3: a regular basis from this dude, like a lot for them.
Speaker 2: There's like absolutely nothing, and.
Speaker 3: So for her to be calling me lazy, I'm like, bitch,
Speaker 3: you didn't even try to start her business with this
Speaker 3: surplus of money you get every month, you absolutely do nothing.
Speaker 2: So I was like, it's six o'clock in the morning,
Speaker 2: it's international.
Speaker 3: I think you're taking International Women's Day and Instagram a
Speaker 3: little too seriously and yeah, like.
Speaker 2: So what happened did you tell her? How did you
Speaker 2: respond to her? Girl? That was it? It's it's six am?
Speaker 2: Or are you kidding me? It's nice to know? Which good? Nice?
Speaker 3: How nice to know how you feel about our friendship
Speaker 3: at the end, and I, you know, and then I
Speaker 3: and then she wrote more like you did it intentionally
Speaker 3: to that and I.
Speaker 2: Liked it by mistake, you know, like my life phone
Speaker 2: even like girl. But then I smoked weed and then
Speaker 2: I felt really bad for her. I was like, wow,
Speaker 2: like you were.
Speaker 3: Like looking through my insistor and you're waiting for your
Speaker 3: face to pop up, like that's really that's actually gonna
Speaker 3: Like I felt bad, like I am a bad friend.
Speaker 2: I'm like, oh my god, like that that was fucked up.
Speaker 2: Oh no, I felt oh no, I thought you meant
Speaker 2: the other way because I felt bad because she needs
Speaker 2: that validation. Felt so bad both.
Speaker 3: I felt bad that you need the validation and I
Speaker 3: felt bad that it hurt you so much, you know
Speaker 3: what I mean, Like, and she's done things for me
Speaker 3: because she's not doing anything else. But like at an offering,
Speaker 3: you're like you have real conversations with your girlfriends, and
Speaker 3: it's like, bitch, this is going on in my life
Speaker 3: and like whatever.
Speaker 2: But then like I don't like people who throw shit
Speaker 2: in your face, like you don't.
Speaker 3: First of all, bitch, I'm gonna thirty year old bitch
Speaker 3: like I've been doing my life, my whole life by myself,
Speaker 3: Like I don't get help from nobody, So you can't
Speaker 3: throw anything in my face because I will cut you
Speaker 3: off as I have and I will continue. So anyway,
Speaker 3: I ended up getting high this again. Weed is my
Speaker 3: best friend because I like, at first I was pissed.
Speaker 2: I was gonna go in, like, how are you gonna
Speaker 2: call me lazy? You actually don't do anything.
Speaker 3: You actually married someone so that you could be lazy, right,
Speaker 3: But like whatever, And I ended up smoking weed and
Speaker 3: I was like, I didn't apologize, but I like try
Speaker 3: to like post some other people, and then I posted
Speaker 3: her post. I ended up doing it the next day.
Speaker 3: I was like, my crazy ass friend, but no, and
Speaker 3: we've tried. She pushed me a happy Mother's Day and
Speaker 3: shit whatever, and I had to think, like it does
Speaker 3: it matter to me that much?
Speaker 2: It doesn't.
Speaker 3: I still love her. I knew she was crazy before
Speaker 3: I've been known she was crazy. She's very crazy, so
Speaker 3: I'm not that mad. But yesterday was National Best Friend Day.
Speaker 3: Also I followed her. I didn't follow her, so yes
Speaker 3: she was National best Friend Day. So I started posting people.
Speaker 3: But never was like, I don't have pictures everybody. I
Speaker 3: don't feel I got a lot of friends, and I whatever.
Speaker 3: I just I just feel reasons to post it anyway.
Speaker 3: She wrote like a subliminal like, first of all, I
Speaker 3: stop following her. Some my two other friends showed me.
Speaker 3: But it's like Beyonce is laying in a pool, and
Speaker 3: it's like, this is me and my million dollar home,
Speaker 3: not giving a fuck about friends, National friend Day and
Speaker 3: fake ass bitches who are posting this like some other shit.
Speaker 2: It's like, well, that's the thing she thought she could
Speaker 2: buy her friendships and she's seeing that no one cares
Speaker 2: if you're a terrible person. Sounds like she's kind of it.
Speaker 2: She's not a terrible person, but she is a mean person.
Speaker 2: I mean that's kind of terrible. Rite Like how much
Speaker 2: like when you are sitting next to a fat person,
Speaker 2: you fat shame somebody or a large person, excuse me,
Speaker 2: Like and you and you are fat shaming them? Like
Speaker 2: that sounds like a pretty terrible person. She's not a
Speaker 2: terrible she's just like she got some shit to work out.
Speaker 3: She does, she does, and like everybody else, like everybody else,
Speaker 3: you know, that's the whole thing. Like with friends, you
Speaker 3: got to accept people as they are and we all
Speaker 3: have shortcomings, like I ain't perfect, You ain't perfect, Like
Speaker 3: there's things about myself that I'm working on, as our people.
Speaker 3: But when you choose to be friends with someone or
Speaker 3: not working on or not not, you be just.
Speaker 2: Me and general I always say we're gonna work on
Speaker 2: some shit and then it takes like four hundred years. Yeah, yeah,
Speaker 2: we'll get there.
Speaker 3: But I mean, I don't know. I think there's like
Speaker 3: a scale. What do they see, like a sexuality scale.
Speaker 3: There's a scale because people are weird. People are weird
Speaker 3: and they have different things. And I've learned I'm trying.
Speaker 3: I'm really sensitive. I'm a cancer and it's like my downside,
Speaker 3: but I'm like tough on the outside.
Speaker 2: Sensitive and the sentence. Okay, so this girl that I'm
Speaker 2: my best friend, she's a cancer and I'm a scorpio.
Speaker 2: So that's why I know I probably stung her real
Speaker 2: qol right right fa, and that's why she's like because
Speaker 2: I have another scorpio.
Speaker 3: Like we're really close and like sometimes I'm like, gets
Speaker 3: so annoyed with her and I'm like, but then I
Speaker 3: get over it. So that's you know, It's like because
Speaker 3: scorpios can't be sharp ass times, and cancers can too.
Speaker 2: It just takes a lot, a lot, a lot, I
Speaker 2: think cancers for me and what I've noticed, well, I'm
Speaker 2: not with you yet because I'm still we haven't had
Speaker 2: an argument yet. Hopefully we never do. I feel like
Speaker 2: cancer sometimes I should judge all of you guys. But
Speaker 2: you guys want people to know what you're thinking. I'm
Speaker 2: not that camp. I mean like you want us to
Speaker 2: be able to read your mind. No, no, no, I'm pretty.
Speaker 2: I'm pretty. I'll let you know. Ask me, I'll tell you.
Speaker 3: But I'm also on the Gemini cusps, so I think
Speaker 3: I have like a good balance of not fucking sensitive,
Speaker 3: little crazy, a little crazy, little sound stuff, right.
Speaker 2: Because I'm a little bit about that. Well, I'm a
Speaker 2: double scorpio, so I'm just intense and when i'm mad, Well,
Speaker 2: your face even Today's even Today's stars, like does she
Speaker 2: want to do this?
Speaker 3: I'm like, yeah, that's just her face, Like no, no, no,
Speaker 3: yeah she does. She's all about this life. She's just
Speaker 3: her natural thing.
Speaker 2: This is really no, I'm not even kidding, like this
Speaker 2: is Is this the theme for twenty eighteen? Are resting? No?
Speaker 2: Because literally this week when I went to go do
Speaker 2: my HSSON training, the lady was like she said something
Speaker 2: about my face, and I was like, are you fucking
Speaker 2: hitting me? You're like, how about it?
Speaker 3: I was like, Felicia, you mean like I'm going through
Speaker 3: all the people that have told me about my face
Speaker 3: in the last like thirty days. But I'm like, yo,
Speaker 3: is a bitch unhappy just my face that looks at it.
Speaker 2: She was like, you know, just look like more pleasant
Speaker 2: when you're listening. And I was like, well, like this
Speaker 2: And because she like, she's literally I'm like digesting tons
Speaker 2: of information from her, so I'm like trying. She wants
Speaker 2: you to look happy while you're listening to her. Yeah,
Speaker 2: she's like, you know, not just for HSCENT, just for
Speaker 2: life in general. I didn't. I cannot believe the bitch
Speaker 2: said for life in general. She's like because she likes
Speaker 2: the woman who the woman who was stepped into the
Speaker 2: role of growing our HSN business was also told this
Speaker 2: woman that she wants to like help groom me as
Speaker 2: for it to be a CEO. So these are the
Speaker 2: CEO tips. Also, wow, I get it. I literally can't.
Speaker 2: Did you write notes? Because I can't wait to look
Speaker 2: them over. I'm like, I feel like a freak. That
Speaker 2: was the first and only note that I really truly
Speaker 2: listened to. No, I mean that was like a behavioral note.
Speaker 2: It's only behavioral body language.
Speaker 3: I cannot believe she's an in life in gen not
Speaker 3: just rach in life and she's like an old white lady.
Speaker 2: It's like etiquette school. No, she's really cool. She's really
Speaker 2: she's like from Atlanta, Georgia. Okay, but she's lived in
Speaker 2: New York or like for like ten years in Pennsylvania,
Speaker 2: but now she lives in North Carolina. Husband, but no,
Speaker 2: she's really cool. But I'm just like, wow, this is
Speaker 2: the thing, this is the thing in my warmth in
Speaker 2: my face, Oh my god. Anyway, but anyway, yeah, I
Speaker 2: don't know where we left off with your friend.
Speaker 3: But well, she's crazy and and even like that comment,
Speaker 3: like the subliminal. First of all, I don't do subliminal
Speaker 3: Instagram fucking posts unless it's like someone I don't care
Speaker 3: call I.
Speaker 2: Just but like, yeah, it's stupid.
Speaker 3: People are stupid, and you gotta be able to put
Speaker 3: limits on what you can which you're willing to accept,
Speaker 3: Like can I don't need you as a.
Speaker 2: Friend, but I want you?
Speaker 3: Is it too more than like more hassle than it
Speaker 3: is like fun? And that's the thing, is like I
Speaker 3: love her, I do. I still love her. I'm gonna
Speaker 3: always love her. Like she's great too, Luna, she loves Luna.
Speaker 3: I wouldn't even like hold it against her, But every
Speaker 3: time I'm around her, she's just like I'm set, like
Speaker 3: I'm hypercented not to piss her off because I don't
Speaker 3: feel like dealing with her piss offness. And then she's
Speaker 3: unhappy because she's married to someone she's unhappy with.
Speaker 2: And I'm sitting here like listening to all your shit.
Speaker 3: But then like when it's when we're talking about it,
Speaker 3: like you, when I'm talking about my real shit, where
Speaker 3: I'm not making like twenty grand every month for doing nothing,
Speaker 3: you can't you're not understanding.
Speaker 2: But like bitch used to hustle. It used to be stripping.
Speaker 3: Not that I'm stripping, but you know, a hustle is
Speaker 3: a hustle, and I don't knock any strippers.
Speaker 2: You know, do what you gotta do.
Speaker 3: But even at be married for money, I'm honestly, she
Speaker 3: was crazy when she dated for love, so I think
Speaker 3: it's actually a good mutual and he's crazy to her husband,
Speaker 3: so it's like basically a perfect fucking couple. But it's just,
Speaker 3: you know, you gotta be kind to your friends, you
Speaker 3: gotta be conscious of yourself, and you gotta love people,
Speaker 3: and you gotta be like you can't just be saying
Speaker 3: anything to everybody because you're fucking sensitive and hurt, like
Speaker 3: they used your words, like I tell Lenna.
Speaker 2: Use your words. So sometimes friends gotta get cut off.
Speaker 3: Girl. And I told Erica this, and I'm not saying
Speaker 3: this about your twenty year friendship. Obviously you guys you're
Speaker 3: not gonna stop being friends.
Speaker 2: But we might have to hear this talk about me.
Speaker 3: But you know, you grow out of friendships, you grow up,
Speaker 3: you grow out of people, and that's okay, and I
Speaker 3: have to accept that, Like it's okay, it's okay, and
Speaker 3: it's okay to accept. Like even me and my best
Speaker 3: friend got into it last year for like this is someone.
Speaker 3: We were like, we're like lesbians about the.
Speaker 2: Sex and about what without the sax. Yeah, Like we're
Speaker 2: like we're like always becoming codependent.
Speaker 3: And I told Erica I should probably not repe this
Speaker 3: really stupid colm I made last episode, But we got
Speaker 3: into it because like two guys we knew, drank a
Speaker 3: gallon of Hennessy on fucking Thanksgiving and then got into
Speaker 3: a fight.
Speaker 2: In her house. Nothing got broken. Actually my friend got
Speaker 2: beat the fuck up.
Speaker 3: Actually this friend is this pertains the episode because the
Speaker 3: friend I brought is actually my baby's daddy's friend that
Speaker 3: I met him through. But in my defense, as first
Speaker 3: of all, my baby daddy did me wrong, so I
Speaker 3: don't really give a fuck what you think.
Speaker 2: And second of all, I feel like.
Speaker 3: Our friendship was month, like we had a closer friendship
Speaker 3: and we had grew grown a closer friendship than they
Speaker 3: really had, and I could see it, but.
Speaker 2: Clearly I was the only one.
Speaker 3: But they anyway, these two guys got in a fight
Speaker 3: because they drank a gallon of Hennessy.
Speaker 2: First of all, my friend is not black and only
Speaker 2: dates the black.
Speaker 3: Guys, okay, and then got mad at me for happening
Speaker 3: when my friend I brought got beat up and I
Speaker 3: was like, you want to date black guys your whole life,
Speaker 3: but you don't know that niggas and Tennessee can sometimes
Speaker 3: equal and tragedy. Yeah, so you want to be black
Speaker 3: eyes and you want to get mad at me because
Speaker 3: they got in a fight, But like, how about these
Speaker 3: two grown men? And I was like, Okay, this is
Speaker 3: like a black role thing, and I know I shan't
Speaker 3: say that, shouldn't say that, and I know it's not real,
Speaker 3: like we're all human, we're the human race.
Speaker 2: But like that's the like a low key black role.
Speaker 3: Don't bring Gallon Hennessy and think niggas my nugget in
Speaker 3: a fight. That's for all our unblack followers too. Don't
Speaker 3: bring Gallon Hennessy with a bunch of niggas I don't
Speaker 3: know each other, because it could be a fight.
Speaker 2: It's like just it's like, don't bring Hennessy to the
Speaker 2: black party. Don't bring like tequila or vodka to the
Speaker 2: actually tequila to the white party, right, yeah, what's adequate
Speaker 2: to like white boy wasted? Yeah, yeah, don't bring yagmeister,
Speaker 2: So that's sucking a white boy party. I just want broken,
Speaker 2: like the white boys to shirt's taken off.
Speaker 3: Right because no one plus one equals, to which I was, like,
Speaker 3: she's been winning every reason to not be my friend.
Speaker 2: And then you have to think about it.
Speaker 3: Sometimes subliminally, subconsciously, people are harboring other things and then
Speaker 3: when something happens, that's there, that's their motivation to act
Speaker 3: on other harbored feelings, you know what I'm saying. But
Speaker 3: in general, because my friend's gonna listen to this, I mean,
Speaker 3: like I can't really brought this shit up again.
Speaker 2: I'm a cancer again. I don't forget anything. But yeah, like,
Speaker 2: well you love each other. Oh h, it's my sister.
Speaker 2: Even my dad.
Speaker 3: I was like, I tell my dad, like, stop fucking
Speaker 3: calling her. She's not your daughter. Okay, you're getting confused again,
Speaker 3: whose side or you won? And then I was saying
Speaker 3: all my family members like, it's just a black thing,
Speaker 3: and they're like, no, it's not like whatever.
Speaker 2: Jamala's a response to anything that she can't understand.
Speaker 3: Wait, I just don't get it. It's black, it's it's
Speaker 3: a black thing. It's a black thing. You don't get it.
Speaker 2: I'm not racist, I swear to god.
Speaker 3: I'm actually very broadly no, but I do feel about
Speaker 3: the hennessy and shit.
Speaker 2: Anyway, do you have any other bad friend stories that
Speaker 2: you want to tell? I mean, I just would say
Speaker 2: like for me, like, to me, the definition of a
Speaker 2: good friend is someone who is like, you know, it's
Speaker 2: a give and take. It's not tit for tat. It's
Speaker 2: not like I did this for you, you did this
Speaker 2: for me, which I feel like that's what's happening in
Speaker 2: this situation. And like, you know, I feel like loyalty, Yeah, loyalty.
Speaker 2: And also I think communication just like it's just like
Speaker 2: a blood relationship. You need to communicate.
Speaker 3: If just talk about your feelings, how do you feel,
Speaker 3: what's making you upset? It's very basic. But be adult
Speaker 3: enough in like actually like brave enough to talk. Cause
Speaker 3: then for friends, we should be able to discuss anything.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I mean, just like ours. But I rescrying. Oh shit,
Speaker 2: it's no just press the space far Sorry about that.
Speaker 2: We're back, and I think we were just talking about
Speaker 2: friendships and what is important in having a productive one,
Speaker 2: because right now mine is not being very productive. But
Speaker 2: it's probably my fault too. I mean I've tried to
Speaker 2: reach out and communicate. Maybe I could reach out again,
Speaker 2: but it's it's your fault. I don't think so. I'm
Speaker 2: a place in my life where I just you know,
Speaker 2: I'm trying to preserve my energy if it feels like
Speaker 2: it's being taken away from me. I'm very selfish with it.
Speaker 2: I'm very and maybe to like a fault, maybe to
Speaker 2: a fault like I just she can't come in. It's okay,
Speaker 2: I think that come on by.
Speaker 3: Yeah, for all our listeners that are like under thirty,
Speaker 3: I think it's like really big right now because it's like,
Speaker 3: I don't want to use any energy that I do
Speaker 3: not need for any reason.
Speaker 2: But also, if you're.
Speaker 3: Under thirty, you're thinking about like and you having similar feelings.
Speaker 5: It's best to get in tune with yourself now and
Speaker 5: cut off people that are not good for you, serving you,
Speaker 5: serving you, period and a serving sounds People assume serving
Speaker 5: is such a like a negative like a negative thing,
Speaker 5: but like, okay, one second.
Speaker 2: No, it's just I mean, I guess I think people
Speaker 2: do have like the word serving has a negative connotation,
Speaker 2: but I just feel like it means like feeding your soul.
Speaker 2: You're supposed to She should be feeding your soul, he
Speaker 2: should being your soul, and vice versa. If you don't
Speaker 2: feel like it's.
Speaker 3: There's no benefit, you're not growing, You're not like there's
Speaker 3: nothing you're getting, You're not feeling like leaving these people
Speaker 3: feeling like I'm so glad I just spent some time
Speaker 3: with this person. I feel fulfilled. Then they can be
Speaker 3: cut off right, they're cut off able.
Speaker 2: And I have a friend like that that I definitely
Speaker 2: feel like that this friend in particular that I'm having
Speaker 2: this issue with, I don't feel like I don't feel
Speaker 2: like she needs to be cut off. I just feel
Speaker 2: like we're in a fight and she needs to pick
Speaker 2: a side. Yeah, well that's true. Can you crack that
Speaker 2: door a little bit little bit? Oh, we have a question. Okay,
Speaker 2: So we have a question that we got from someone
Speaker 2: on our website. Yes, someone had a question for us
Speaker 2: on our website. Guys, we do have a website that
Speaker 2: you can ask those questions on.
Speaker 3: It's called Good Moms, Bad Choices dot com.
Speaker 2: Please come now this question.
Speaker 3: Go to the contact page and then you can choose
Speaker 3: to be anonymous or name anonymous or with your name,
Speaker 3: and then you can submit.
Speaker 2: And this person wanted to remain anonymous.
Speaker 3: Also, if you have any horries, please submit because eventually
Speaker 3: me and Erica, I know it's gonna sound crazy, we
Speaker 3: might run out. Probably not, but we help us out
Speaker 3: so we're not the only ones. Okay, this person said,
Speaker 3: please don't share my name. Ladies, I have a question
Speaker 3: for the show. I'm recently out of a seven year
Speaker 3: relationship that I feel might have contributed to the demand.
Speaker 3: I might have contributed to the demise due to letting
Speaker 3: my physical appearance go. Now that I realized that I wish,
Speaker 3: Now that I realize that I wish I would have
Speaker 3: told he would have told me that out of love.
Speaker 2: So the first question is no, no. The first question.
Speaker 3: Is would you be okay with the guy telling you
Speaker 3: to slim down or his visual pleasure?
Speaker 2: For his visual pleasure or attraction?
Speaker 3: My second question is, since I've broken up, I'm really
Speaker 3: wanting to embrace my attraction to women. Growing up, my
Speaker 3: guardian would have thrown the Bible at me, But being
Speaker 3: a molested child, I have always been attracted to girls,
Speaker 3: and I don't know if that had much to do
Speaker 3: with the attraction or not by the question by My
Speaker 3: third question is in I'm in my mid thirties, potential maids,
Speaker 3: ladies and family take me serious? Will will potential mates,
Speaker 3: ladies and family take me seriously? With a mid life
Speaker 3: change of teams? I know these are two These are
Speaker 3: long and two parts. Maybe answering them on two different shows.
Speaker 2: I don't know. Oh no, we answer right now? Girl, okay?
Speaker 2: The first question said they let herself go and then
Speaker 2: what was the actual question? Is it okay? Would okay?
Speaker 3: The first question is would you be okay with the
Speaker 3: guy telling you to slim down for his visual pleasure
Speaker 3: or attraction? I think it's all about delivery. It's that's
Speaker 3: major key finesse. It's called finesse.
Speaker 2: Do you have any I mean yeah, I mean of
Speaker 2: course you you. The question is did you feel good
Speaker 2: about yourself during that time? You know what I mean?
Speaker 2: Because if you felt good and you gain that weight,
Speaker 2: then that's all that matters. So then if he doesn't
Speaker 2: feel like you look good, that's a whole other issue.
Speaker 2: You know what I mean, when you feel when you're
Speaker 2: feeling your best.
Speaker 3: I guess it's just like if a guy isn't like
Speaker 3: a short haircut and once you were long hair.
Speaker 2: Like sure, you know, like I guess, yeah, do you
Speaker 2: want to do that? Do you feel like you're not attractive?
Speaker 2: Do you feel like you don't look good? It's it's
Speaker 2: about you.
Speaker 3: It's really about you, and the man is just like
Speaker 3: a side dish.
Speaker 2: So I mean, I will hope my partner could be
Speaker 2: honest with me. I hope we can have like a loving,
Speaker 2: like she said, conversation about it, not like a damn girl,
Speaker 2: you like look different, you need to lose some like,
Speaker 2: nothing like that. Yeah, I think there's a delivery. Like
Speaker 2: even I when I gained all my weight and my privacy.
Speaker 2: I gained seventy pounds that after I had I I
Speaker 2: still struggled to the forty pounds that I'd gained, And
Speaker 2: I don't my fiance at the time didn't voice that
Speaker 2: to me, but I think that I'm sure like there
Speaker 2: was a I mean, I don't know. I don't know
Speaker 2: how he felt about it. He never said anything to me,
Speaker 2: which almost was worse because I was like, what are
Speaker 2: you thinking? Like, I know you've known, I know the
Speaker 2: stomach looks different, but also.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I think Also, no, no her nana so oh okay.
Speaker 3: She's used to telling her mom, so oh nana as
Speaker 3: a nibble, yeahanas nibble to the mom who breastfed for
Speaker 3: quaite too long.
Speaker 2: What we're gonna say, yeah, how you feel? Also, you
Speaker 2: have to be when the delivery happens.
Speaker 3: You got to be aware of you're being overly sensitive
Speaker 3: if you have let yourself go, if it and not
Speaker 3: even like physically a figure, if you've gained weight, but like,
Speaker 3: am I like getting us up for date night? You know, like,
Speaker 3: am I doing a little something extra? Because in a relationship,
Speaker 3: like shit gets comfortable and you do like sometimes you
Speaker 3: can let yourself go. But there was times I was like,
Speaker 3: how do you love me? I was like shit, But
Speaker 3: you know, so it has to go both way.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I don't think that necessarily. All is when you
Speaker 2: say let go doesn't always pertain to Wait, you know
Speaker 2: what I mean? You know who you were before you
Speaker 2: were a mother, and if you were that girl that
Speaker 2: got dressed and put that makeup on, and that was
Speaker 2: what made you feel good and then what attracted him
Speaker 2: to you, and then after that maybe you don't feel
Speaker 2: that good and maybe you don't do that anymore. Maybe
Speaker 2: that can help contribute to, you know, getting you feeling
Speaker 2: all and good again. But if that's who you are
Speaker 2: now and you're happy that way, you don't need the
Speaker 2: makeup anymore, then that's another that's a whole Nay, it's
Speaker 2: about how you feel. So the second part of the
Speaker 2: question is lotta racy.
Speaker 3: My second question is, since I've broken up, I'm really
Speaker 3: wanting to embrace my attraction to women growing up. Okay,
Speaker 3: my guardian would have thrown the Bible at me being
Speaker 3: molested child, I've always been attracted to girls. I don't
Speaker 3: know if that played much of a part in the
Speaker 3: attraction or not. But my question is in my mid thirties.
Speaker 2: May be taken seriously.
Speaker 3: Oh care cares as the fun. Do whatever you want
Speaker 3: to do. I mean, if you want to try one
Speaker 3: life to live and if you want to try some
Speaker 3: shit out, try it out and you might like it,
Speaker 3: you might not.
Speaker 2: But if you got to try it out. You can't
Speaker 2: live your life based on what your family and your
Speaker 2: friends are going to think of you. If you want
Speaker 2: to date women, then do that and you might not
Speaker 2: even like it. Who cares? And they don't even have
Speaker 2: to know, Like what nothing you have to keep secrets either,
Speaker 2: But it's just like do what you gotta do.
Speaker 3: You could do it a couple of times and see
Speaker 3: if you feel serious about it, you know, I mean,
Speaker 3: then you know it's nobody's business what you do. And
Speaker 3: if you feel like another thing, if you know it's
Speaker 3: the topic today. If you feel like someone's judging you,
Speaker 3: I mean sometimes it's family. It's not as simple.
Speaker 2: But you don't need.
Speaker 3: Friends that are gonna judge you. And you got to
Speaker 3: tell people like yo, I don't care about your opinion.
Speaker 3: I wasn't asking when I want your opinion, I'll ask.
Speaker 2: You you dating a woman is not the end of
Speaker 2: the world. I guess some people would look at it
Speaker 2: as like, oh, you know, if you're like she said,
Speaker 2: her family would throw the Bible at her head. She
Speaker 2: had this idea, you know, when she was younger, in
Speaker 2: her youth, so you know, that's a whole different mentality.
Speaker 2: But like, you have to know that that is not
Speaker 2: the end of the world. You trying that out. If
Speaker 2: you're not going to hell, you'll be okay.
Speaker 3: You will do You're definitely going to hell because God
Speaker 3: made everybody right and he's he likes whitty Man, and
Speaker 3: so do it sounds like.
Speaker 2: You are newly single. You might have just got your like, uh,
Speaker 2: Sellah got her groove back and you want to go
Speaker 2: have some fun, girl, Go do that please and come
Speaker 2: back and tell us how it was. Please submit some
Speaker 2: horries because we want to know. And if you're a
Speaker 2: first time listener, you don't know what a horry is.
Speaker 2: A horry is basically a horror story, and you can
Speaker 2: interpret that however you want. It could be a terrible
Speaker 2: sexual story, or it can be you being a horror
Speaker 2: and it's a story.
Speaker 3: And it's kind of funny and it was fun, or
Speaker 3: maybe it wasn't fun. Doesn't really matter. Everybody has some
Speaker 3: and we embraced them at Good Moms. We want to hear,
Speaker 3: we want to hear about them. We're gonna not gonna
Speaker 3: tell our say because our kids are getting old and listening.
Speaker 3: We're gonna and they won't leave us alone right now.
Speaker 3: So that's it. But oh, also back to the question
Speaker 3: about like the being molested and the Bible thing. I'm
Speaker 3: more of a spiritualist. I'm not like so I don't
Speaker 3: feel like you should let you're upbringing in the church,
Speaker 3: you know, change or persuade what you want to try
Speaker 3: and what you're obviously feeling you want to do. And
Speaker 3: also like being molested, I mean, I don't know if
Speaker 3: you're must be like a man or a woman.
Speaker 2: Not that it matters.
Speaker 3: Things happen to us in our lives, and especially as
Speaker 3: like teenagers or children.
Speaker 2: They play a part.
Speaker 3: In our adulthood, whether it be negative or positive. And
Speaker 3: that's just the reality of it. A lot of women
Speaker 3: have been molested and had like sexual abuse, and it
Speaker 3: does I mean, do you.
Speaker 2: Think that being molested contributes to your attraction to a
Speaker 2: certain sex? Sometimes and sometimes no.
Speaker 3: I was a major lesbian for a lot of years,
Speaker 3: and I will say, like ninety nine percent of the
Speaker 3: girls I dated had been molested by men, But I've
Speaker 3: had women that were never and they just didn't have
Speaker 3: a desire for dick and.
Speaker 2: I like girls, and I don't.
Speaker 3: I mean, like I was molested, like by an older
Speaker 3: kid kind of, so I didn't. I don't think it
Speaker 3: traumatized me. Maybe it did, or maybe I'm suppressing some memories.
Speaker 3: But every all I'm saying is everything that happens to
Speaker 3: us in our lives, good and bad, we have to
Speaker 3: recognize and we have to see how that affects us
Speaker 3: now and then we get past it.
Speaker 2: And you know, and that's a part of it, if
Speaker 2: it's exploring it, if.
Speaker 3: It's if it's you know, just don't let just don't
Speaker 3: let things that's happened to you and your lives dictate
Speaker 3: your adulthood and your future, your future, because you know,
Speaker 3: shit happens to everybody. And I'm not, you know, making
Speaker 3: it light.
Speaker 2: No, I mean, it's easier said than done, but obviously,
Speaker 2: but first step, the first step is recognition. If you
Speaker 2: can recognize that, then you're already making progress. Yeah, you
Speaker 2: know for sure.
Speaker 3: Yeah, and then you also like to want to fuck
Speaker 3: with women, you don't need to make an excuse for it.
Speaker 2: You could do whatever you want. You don't have to like,
Speaker 2: oh you know what I mean, Like just do what
Speaker 2: you want, yeah, because as your mom or your auntie,
Speaker 2: your uncle going to be in.
Speaker 3: The room with you, like at the end of we
Speaker 3: come in this bitch a loon and we go out alone, period,
Speaker 3: point blank. And if anything, if you look at this
Speaker 3: watching like seeing all the suicide attempts, like with that
Speaker 3: suicide attempt, successful suicides like Kate Spade and Anthony Bourdain,
Speaker 3: and obviously.
Speaker 2: This happens every day. Like literally, life is short. Do
Speaker 2: what you want to do, like if anything, like hold
Speaker 2: those people close that you love, love who you want
Speaker 2: to love, because you just don't know what can happen tomorrow.
Speaker 2: Like I think about this, like the volcano erupting in Guatemala,
Speaker 2: Like it's just such a freak accident, and those people
Speaker 2: had no idea what was going to happen to them tomorrow,
Speaker 2: and now their lives are changed forever. Just do what
Speaker 2: you want to do, because life is short.
Speaker 3: Yeah, and teach your kids to do the same shit
Speaker 3: I teach you all that, Like do you want to
Speaker 3: wear that green wig in public?
Speaker 2: Did you let her wherever you're I don't you want
Speaker 2: to wear that shit? Let's go. I don't care. I
Speaker 2: don't want you to grow up and be like, oh,
Speaker 2: Judy said, this isn't not a cute outfit. I'm not
Speaker 2: going to wear it. Do you dance like nobody's watching?
Speaker 2: And date who we want to love? And all that
Speaker 2: other shit. So that was a good question.
Speaker 3: I hope they answered it appropriately. And if anyone else
Speaker 3: has any more questions.
Speaker 2: Yeah, please send them our away. We love your questions.
Speaker 2: It makes us have to think and it also helps
Speaker 2: me like walk through things that I'm.
Speaker 3: Going through right, like, oh yeah this is important, Yeah
Speaker 3: this happened to me or something.
Speaker 2: Yeah, anything else you want to.
Speaker 3: Add today, my dear, I don't think so Erica's classy
Speaker 3: as is about to get her nails then at her
Speaker 3: house because she real world class.
Speaker 2: Just kidding. No, First of all, that's what I do
Speaker 2: for a living.
Speaker 3: I'm a mobile esthetician, so I'm all about the class yess. Yes,
Speaker 3: all right, Well, we love you guys very much, thank
Speaker 3: you for listening.
Speaker 2: And uh, we'll talk to you next week. Yeah, I
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Speaker 2: you still help with me? What about your friends?
Speaker 1: You understand Brown get you down?
Speaker 2: What about your friends?
Speaker 1: What about to be down beat me? I am a
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Speaker 1: can ride some my prits.
Speaker 2: Don't saying to one. Let's just say I can make
Speaker 2: it in a bit when.
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Speaker 3: tell me I'm to be next to me?
Speaker 2: Tell because I want something I don't know that