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Speaker 1: Welcome to another episode of Horrid Blood. This is the Yones.
Speaker 1: We are joined today by a very special guests. We
Speaker 1: are I'm weasing, oh yeah, and I'm Mandy by the way,
Speaker 1: which I'm don'ta be real. I don't know if you
Speaker 1: have l a energy to me. I was very surprised
Speaker 1: that you live here from oh are you? It was
Speaker 1: given what kind of energy? This is very healthy as well?
Speaker 1: What is je What does that do? Because, like I've
Speaker 1: been told, the people would beat juice does? But a man,
Speaker 1: what does watermelon? Juice? Too funny? You know what I'm saying.
Speaker 1: Put all of them nutrients inside, you know what I mean.
Speaker 1: But let's keep it clean. It makes it tastes good.
Speaker 1: Anything sweet, it filters out for your body. Really. Oh yeah,
Speaker 1: have you ever want to like taste super super sweet?
Speaker 1: Think about all the like vitamins they're giving to make
Speaker 1: your pussy taste good. That's all bullshit. It's just sweetshit sugar.
Speaker 1: It's bullshit. Just true or chocolate or candy like anything sweet. Now,
Speaker 1: see what I mean process. Sorry, we don't gonna make
Speaker 1: it that we got and I seen keys in the building.
Speaker 1: I feel like we're all like podcast family in a
Speaker 1: way because we're connected, except not really because we're not
Speaker 1: as you know, hotel. Oh we hold are you but
Speaker 1: you're not hop You just dressed like one. Listen, So
Speaker 1: somebody pull up the phone. What this definition of hotel?
Speaker 1: Here we go? Here we go? Not just I want
Speaker 1: to know, because you know, for me talk about certain
Speaker 1: conversations and words. I rat to know what it means
Speaker 1: to you to be honest when I say hotep, I'm
Speaker 1: making a joke in like spiritous way of like somebody
Speaker 1: that's like spiritually conscious, but I mean close. Hotep for
Speaker 1: those of you you know who don't know, is the
Speaker 1: gyp and word that roughly translates as to be satisfied
Speaker 1: at peace. The word also refers to an offering ritually
Speaker 1: presented to a deity or dead person. Hence, be pleased,
Speaker 1: be gracious, be at peace. You walked in and said peace,
Speaker 1: Uh it is, and and then it just say hieroglyphics. Yeah,
Speaker 1: a person would say hotel, it's a piece to be
Speaker 1: at pieces kind of like to be stoic. Right, it's
Speaker 1: just a state of being if anything, right, So damn
Speaker 1: real positive, you feel me. But that's that's why you know,
Speaker 1: when I start hearing the word hotep, it's more derogatory
Speaker 1: term in the way that people UH talk about people
Speaker 1: that I believe come off eccentrically conscious or I think
Speaker 1: what I've seen hotep when I learned the word. At first,
Speaker 1: it was dudes that were coming from this like women
Speaker 1: need to not talk, blahlah blah, and then we just
Speaker 1: throw the word hotep at them. But you don't think
Speaker 1: that you threw that on. So it was a very
Speaker 1: small percentage of man and then they threw it and
Speaker 1: cast a wide net. Right, what are you known for it? Like? Um,
Speaker 1: I think I'm mostly known just being the thought leader. Man.
Speaker 1: I I'm one who education leaders too. Oh that's a
Speaker 1: great time leaders over here. But I think right now
Speaker 1: it's more so being known as you know, one of
Speaker 1: the more outspoken voices in the black community, UM that
Speaker 1: you can go to for solid leadership. UM. And then
Speaker 1: we have the high level conversations which is booming right now.
Speaker 1: And then of course, you know, as a thought leader,
Speaker 1: you have to be somebody who actually got books. You
Speaker 1: have to have skill set, you have to be in
Speaker 1: a multiple industry. So I'm an entrepreneur. I teach financial
Speaker 1: education as far as spiritual education, physical and sometimes political
Speaker 1: at the same time. Yeah, I learned it. Um I
Speaker 1: think master Investors. So Ian as one of the investors
Speaker 1: in the studio and I was like, did you try? Yeah,
Speaker 1: I love you in He was like did you I said,
Speaker 1: did you know nineteen is out here? And he was
Speaker 1: like yeah. He was like, you know, he's really big
Speaker 1: for talking about crypto. Do people mainly like I think
Speaker 1: that it was just an easy niche for people to
Speaker 1: identify me with because I was one of the first
Speaker 1: main black voices to speak about crypto while everybody was
Speaker 1: shunning in and only talking about let's say, maybe stocks
Speaker 1: or safer financial investments. UM me and my platform. I
Speaker 1: remember we were talking about futures, crypto options, some of
Speaker 1: the riskier trading skill sets that you can get into.
Speaker 1: So you know, early only made a lot of people
Speaker 1: money by learning those skill sets, learning how to invest
Speaker 1: in crypto. And I listened to it and got into
Speaker 1: crypto and blockchain specifically because I felt like we talked
Speaker 1: about a lot of things in the black space. We
Speaker 1: don't have solutions for him. And I felt like cryptocurrency
Speaker 1: initially when I heard about it, it was a decentralized
Speaker 1: way to not have to use like government banking and
Speaker 1: things of that nature. You know how like we just
Speaker 1: lost like a billion crabs. What happened to the billion
Speaker 1: day traders like them? Niggas was on Twitter times day
Speaker 1: traders is making money right now? But no, because listen
Speaker 1: right now, whether it's stocks or crypto, if you trade,
Speaker 1: this is your market right long term, this might not
Speaker 1: be your market because you're gonna see your portfolio down,
Speaker 1: but if you if you are a trader, you're making
Speaker 1: a lot of money during this market. They had one
Speaker 1: of the craziest days just the other week, you understand me,
Speaker 1: where the market just shot up. I know me personally,
Speaker 1: right and I know other people that are making money
Speaker 1: a consistent and daily basis and they're posting their profits.
Speaker 1: If you don't know how to trade, it isn't much
Speaker 1: harder market because you're not gonna be as lucky. But
Speaker 1: if you actually had the skill set, this is the
Speaker 1: best market for you to be trading crypto or stocks. Now,
Speaker 1: Can I ask you that they have to be on
Speaker 1: like the computer almost for hours, like during the day.
Speaker 1: Like what is it like? I mean, I guess you
Speaker 1: wouldn't know what it's like dating them. But in terms
Speaker 1: of relationship, why them niggas like live on the computer
Speaker 1: their phones? Right? No, no, no, no, Because the market
Speaker 1: is not all day as far crypto is an all
Speaker 1: day market, but for the most part, people have targets
Speaker 1: that they want to make for out the day. How
Speaker 1: people set a certain of the trades, especially if you trade, um,
Speaker 1: the stock market and you're doing options, you're mostly gonna
Speaker 1: trade between you know, the morning and the afternoon. Right.
Speaker 1: The market if you're on this side of the West coast,
Speaker 1: it closes at one o'clock, right, so after that Joe
Speaker 1: job is done. Now, some people they're gonna study the market.
Speaker 1: Somebody like Mark Ian gonna tell you to study fifty
Speaker 1: pages a day. Now. I don't think that the average
Speaker 1: trader is doing nowhere near that, right. Some people they
Speaker 1: just set up like Mark bro At cheat code in them.
Speaker 1: What they have is like algorithmic trading, So they have
Speaker 1: like bots that tell them to help them with the
Speaker 1: signals of the trades, which yeah, and then they have
Speaker 1: some people that have communities, and those communities in the
Speaker 1: morning they tell you, this is the type of setups
Speaker 1: that we see in the market. That's what we think
Speaker 1: is going to go for the day. They take maybe
Speaker 1: one or two trades and then they're done for the day.
Speaker 1: And then if you're doing something like sex work, is
Speaker 1: just like it and it's giving sex work, but only
Speaker 1: probably the work feel but I don't know, it may
Speaker 1: be more profitable to sex work now, want to know?
Speaker 1: So obviously the ladies love you because I see him
Speaker 1: on every time I click on your live I'd be like,
Speaker 1: who we learned about some money down? So I just
Speaker 1: want you to take your clothes off? Is this no? Lie?
Speaker 1: Do people think that you're like this is a front
Speaker 1: like that, like, oh, you're be getting all the hose
Speaker 1: like this is the No, I've been doing this too
Speaker 1: long in front of the people, you know. I mean,
Speaker 1: I feel like if you, uh, nineteen, you know what?
Speaker 1: You know what? Men aren't only able to mother him
Speaker 1: my Christ Year's Christ Okay, that's next year for me
Speaker 1: then right now. But no, I've never had that issue
Speaker 1: just because I've been doing this so long in front
Speaker 1: of the people that you can see my history, like,
Speaker 1: you can't fake it when you got consistency, that's just character,
Speaker 1: that's fair. Consistency is key. Is that one of the nineteen?
Speaker 1: That's one and you actually don't. I don't think anyone
Speaker 1: knows much about your person like you do. You believe
Speaker 1: in just keeping relationships off of what you know. Most part,
Speaker 1: you gotta ask why do people want to know? For
Speaker 1: the most part, they don't want to know the support.
Speaker 1: They want to know that you know, I disagree. They
Speaker 1: want to know you're a relatable person. So yeah, some
Speaker 1: of that, but I'm saying to know the ends in
Speaker 1: the details of all of that, Yeah, I mean, I
Speaker 1: don't mind letting you know if I'm in a relationship
Speaker 1: or not, but you needing to know an update on
Speaker 1: it consistently. I feel like it's listen the way that
Speaker 1: we record, Like we both record this podcast, and we
Speaker 1: literally just recorded a Patreon episode yesterday and I was like,
Speaker 1: the things that we talked about. By the time it airs,
Speaker 1: I feel like it's a reality show because I'm talking
Speaker 1: about being single while I'm waking up next to my nigger.
Speaker 1: So it's just like, but it's two months, like what
Speaker 1: we recorded was two months ago, so it's like they don't.
Speaker 1: I know a lot of people that listen to us
Speaker 1: feel like they're in tune with our lives, but they
Speaker 1: know so many things be changing. People get invested into
Speaker 1: a relationship and then the next month they out of it.
Speaker 1: Then people mad at you for not being in that relationship,
Speaker 1: and then also a lot of the value. And this
Speaker 1: is one of the things I wanted to talk about
Speaker 1: with you too, because I feel like a lot of
Speaker 1: the conversations I've seen you have our masculine, feminine energy.
Speaker 1: I'm actually I prefer your clips to a lot of
Speaker 1: other socially conscious you know, that bracket of dudes, because
Speaker 1: I feel like you don't necessarily put women down. A
Speaker 1: lot of those men do, but it's still kind of
Speaker 1: has given fresh and it like just a little bit
Speaker 1: fresh and fit. Don't even stay back. I don't know.
Speaker 1: I just don't know. Niggas are ugly, and every bitch
Speaker 1: on the podcast is threaking specifically about them. But when
Speaker 1: when men to me speak on feminine energy or rows
Speaker 1: of women and what they should be doing or what
Speaker 1: they're not doing, to me, that's what that's given. I
Speaker 1: don't want to hear that I don't listen to see.
Speaker 1: I don't think it's nothing wrong with men giving their
Speaker 1: opinion on feminine energy or what they want from a woman.
Speaker 1: That's what we want the most, that's what we think
Speaker 1: about the most, understand me, So we're gonna have a
Speaker 1: huge opinion, ideology, and a philosophy on what we want.
Speaker 1: You gotta keep in mind too, there especially very demeaning.
Speaker 1: A lot of those guys really put women down. I
Speaker 1: don't know if we could find a clip where they're
Speaker 1: calling women women and not bitches in yeah, because we
Speaker 1: got a conflict driven, media based society. So you're talking
Speaker 1: about clips that go viral. Those are the men that
Speaker 1: have what people hate and they find distasteful, and they
Speaker 1: share and they talk about it and they make it successful.
Speaker 1: But there's pretty sure that there's plenty of men that's
Speaker 1: having respectful conversations about women, but that ain't gonna go viral,
Speaker 1: you understand me. The ignorance is gonna go viral way
Speaker 1: faster than respect. So that's what you see, But that's
Speaker 1: not the totality of what's happening. I know they got
Speaker 1: like Mano spheres and red pills and stuff, you know,
Speaker 1: for me, I didn't know nothing about that thing. My
Speaker 1: bro Mike Maschid told me about that ship. Um. But
Speaker 1: even them, they don't particularly you know, like successful men
Speaker 1: that you know, just get it out naturally, right, because
Speaker 1: I feel like they feel like they got to learn
Speaker 1: some kind of secret an algorithm of life in order
Speaker 1: to get with women and to walk a certain way.
Speaker 1: And they kind of like hate people that hate certain
Speaker 1: type of men. You know, that's like myself. You know,
Speaker 1: they corn balls of money. We just melanated and grateful.
Speaker 1: They the crypto dude that couldn't get pussy before the
Speaker 1: price went up. That's how That's what I really blanket
Speaker 1: those dudes into. But getting into the independent thing with women,
Speaker 1: I'm I'm curious on your opinion on this because since
Speaker 1: I've grown and elevated an entrepreneurship, like many women in
Speaker 1: our space, right, we all know these girls, I feel
Speaker 1: like I have the Kevin Samuel's esque crowd that will
Speaker 1: come in. And he wasn't necessarily I'm not a fan
Speaker 1: of his, but he wasn't necessarily a bit er whole
Speaker 1: type dude like Freshian fit. But he was one of
Speaker 1: those dudes that are like if you make a certain
Speaker 1: amount of money, men won't want you. You're not desirable.
Speaker 1: Why is it that an independent woman seems like she
Speaker 1: can't be a good mate, wife, or mother? Like I
Speaker 1: still want to cook for money, even if I'm busting
Speaker 1: my head. It's counterintuitive, right because the part depended all Right,
Speaker 1: the same thing is saying that you want to depend
Speaker 1: it man? Right, These two go opposite of each other, right,
Speaker 1: because an independent woman depends on no one and a
Speaker 1: dependent man can be dependent on What should we depend
Speaker 1: on our man for for protection? Provision? Right? Um? It
Speaker 1: could be spiritual God, it could be education, a man
Speaker 1: who wants to you haven't said money yet? Please the
Speaker 1: profit that's been provided. But I'm saying, like, all of
Speaker 1: these things that I would want for a man, don't
Speaker 1: I would love them and pay for my ship. Right?
Speaker 1: That doesn't mean that you can't have your own money.
Speaker 1: But also why did you go directly to the independent
Speaker 1: and the dependent? All the pope? But do you not
Speaker 1: believe that two independent people can exist together in a relationship.
Speaker 1: I think they need each other. I think that what
Speaker 1: is the point of having relationships? The same thing, if
Speaker 1: you get a business partner that you don't need what
Speaker 1: are y'all in business for. That's actually a fairy buttal
Speaker 1: even though I don't necessarily agree. But we're not monolithic
Speaker 1: as human beings, and so to me, I've had this conversation.
Speaker 1: Even with my excellent like he often felt he struggled
Speaker 1: in how I needed him, or if I needed him,
Speaker 1: or how he should even show up as a man
Speaker 1: with me, And as women, even when we're independent, sometimes
Speaker 1: we just want comfort. Sometimes we want emotional maturity or
Speaker 1: someone just to be with, like so in the ways
Speaker 1: that I needed him, where men feel like this is
Speaker 1: what makes me a man? With everything you just listed off,
Speaker 1: it was frustrating to me as someone who I now don't.
Speaker 1: I'm not coming at you for your money, right because
Speaker 1: my bills are paid. You pay your own bills as
Speaker 1: human beings. The same way I look at friendships, I
Speaker 1: would hope that we can connect on just a human
Speaker 1: level and needing each other the same way I need
Speaker 1: my friends, the same way I'll run to my mom
Speaker 1: for certain things like I want to encompass you more
Speaker 1: than you being my bodyguard or my or my wallet. No,
Speaker 1: that is a very important aspect of it. Right, So
Speaker 1: a man is not just physical and material like. Being
Speaker 1: emotionally there for a woman is very important because women
Speaker 1: are more feelers, were more things. So those are where
Speaker 1: we have those mix ups in those opposites, right, being
Speaker 1: able to like men like to come to a conclusion
Speaker 1: of certain things and women like to feel their way
Speaker 1: through things. Right Like when you're having debates and argument,
Speaker 1: it's not about Yo, let's just come to the logical
Speaker 1: conclusion of this, because we want to end it by
Speaker 1: coming to a conclusion. Things. I was listening to Guru.
Speaker 1: He're talking about things die when they come to a conclusion. Right, Women,
Speaker 1: existing emotion, which is motion, is life. We want to
Speaker 1: continue for this thing to have life. We don't just
Speaker 1: want you to uh end this off with your logical
Speaker 1: thought process. So for a man, there's a lot of
Speaker 1: lack of learning how to be in your full development
Speaker 1: of a divine man, masculine man, and that goes beyond right.
Speaker 1: Most of our society teachers is like, yo, if you
Speaker 1: don't have money, if you don't have status. Right, if
Speaker 1: if you don't look good in material a women ain't
Speaker 1: going want you. Then when you get in a relationship,
Speaker 1: she's attracted to you. For those things. But now she
Speaker 1: wants you to have these other skills sets right to
Speaker 1: be emotionally there for But that's not what women are
Speaker 1: are propagating as the highest level of men that provide
Speaker 1: emotional support. So since you do believe that it would
Speaker 1: basically repel against each other, are you telling me that
Speaker 1: when you're meeting women are looking at women that ambitious
Speaker 1: women or women that want more aren't necessarily something that
Speaker 1: attracts you. I mean, if we're doing business together, for
Speaker 1: surely you know not in the impartnership. If if it
Speaker 1: depends on what my goal and or my vision is,
Speaker 1: does this fit into my goal and my vision? Otherwise
Speaker 1: you gotta literally like a woman having our own ambition ideas, vision,
Speaker 1: intelligence is immaculant, is beautiful, it's great at some point
Speaker 1: in times that sometimes that particular ambition will have y'all
Speaker 1: going in opposite directions. Right, So it's like your business
Speaker 1: is halfway across the planet. Mind is over here. We're
Speaker 1: too busy for each other. What about in this scenario
Speaker 1: a man wants emotional support as well. I don't understand,
Speaker 1: because that's what that feminine energy does. When you got
Speaker 1: a feminine woman after you're done dealing with the world.
Speaker 1: She's there helping console you. But she's dealing with the
Speaker 1: world as well. Y'all gotta goddamn console each other. Neither
Speaker 1: one of y'all got energy. So an independent so you
Speaker 1: don't like you don't like the word. A lot of
Speaker 1: independent women lack the type of feminine energy that is
Speaker 1: nurturing in the relationship. So let's say that we have
Speaker 1: no idea what you're talking about. Independent women that are
Speaker 1: I do want. Let's say they got a hair salon,
Speaker 1: hair business, right, they're making mad Now that's just on
Speaker 1: my mind because they're making mad breast. These are women
Speaker 1: making million right, I know you're talking about some girl
Speaker 1: told me I wouldn't because I random podcast and probably
Speaker 1: had a hair salon. But anyway, she said, y'all think
Speaker 1: you're successful with that? They are, you know, they're millionaires.
Speaker 1: So that girl working forty hours a week dealing with
Speaker 1: some stuff. What are the things she's probably lacking in
Speaker 1: femininity even though she's servicing women, those are probably her clientele.
Speaker 1: What are the things that she might be lacking as
Speaker 1: an entrepreneur that you could get from someone else. She's
Speaker 1: probably not gonna lack as we talked about. For me,
Speaker 1: as an entrepreneur knows like North, she's probably not laughing
Speaker 1: and she's a millionaire and she's successful. But as a
Speaker 1: feminine woman, two different things. It's your value in the world, right,
Speaker 1: and then there's your value to me as far as
Speaker 1: a person. And I'm in a relationship with I'm not
Speaker 1: in a relationship with the whole world. I only have
Speaker 1: expectations of this one person, right, And when we talk
Speaker 1: about relationships, we're talking about what we want and expect
Speaker 1: from this one person, not every woman in the world. Right.
Speaker 1: So if I'm a man that is already having my success, right,
Speaker 1: then therefore when I come home, I want someone there
Speaker 1: that can help console and and help me take it
Speaker 1: to that next level. What your success? But the men
Speaker 1: don't matter right now. They don't have options, you know
Speaker 1: what I'm saying. So a listener of our our content.
Speaker 1: But but listen though, because when we're talking about independent,
Speaker 1: independent people, right, and when we're talking about women specifically
Speaker 1: that are successful to a man, that success matters like
Speaker 1: this much, right, because it has nothing to do with
Speaker 1: how is that going to help me in life? Why
Speaker 1: is it a deterrent because I'm with splendy to you.
Speaker 1: Because a woman's money is her own money, right, So
Speaker 1: number one, it's not financially beneficial just because even the
Speaker 1: way that we have rows set up in society, that's
Speaker 1: beneficial if you don't have to spend your money on earth, right.
Speaker 1: But you, as a man, you're gonna always want to
Speaker 1: spend your money on your woman, right, because then what
Speaker 1: other value do you have in that relationship? You can't
Speaker 1: be a provider a woman. If a woman tell you,
Speaker 1: I don't need you to protect me, or damn, you
Speaker 1: don't need me in that area, like a man has
Speaker 1: to feel some sort of value, purpose and work in
Speaker 1: a relationship as well, the same way a woman will
Speaker 1: want to. If a man is completely taken care of
Speaker 1: her and she's asking him, you know, what can I do?
Speaker 1: And he say nothing, then she's gonna feel like, damn,
Speaker 1: what can I do? I don't have any value. You
Speaker 1: brought it back to the same two things though, and
Speaker 1: it's because this is literally the conversation I've had over
Speaker 1: the last two years with with my ex like a
Speaker 1: black Muslim man by the way, um uh and my
Speaker 1: other things. But but he you, you brought it right
Speaker 1: back to protecting and providing. And to me, my argument
Speaker 1: has always been, but yeah, but I show up and
Speaker 1: I cook as a woman. I show up and I'm
Speaker 1: thoughtful to his needs, his wants, um sexually, we communicate
Speaker 1: like this is where he didn't. He only provided in
Speaker 1: one way that he provide mentally and spiritually, emotionally. And
Speaker 1: that's where though, to me, in speaking to men, specifically
Speaker 1: black men, they don't feel their value is of any
Speaker 1: value if it's not protecting and providing. And I think
Speaker 1: that that's been the hard thing. It hasn't been defined
Speaker 1: that protecting is also protecting spiritual and emotionally as well. Right,
Speaker 1: It's not just physical protection, right because for the most
Speaker 1: part yet physical protection is not going to come up
Speaker 1: that often. That's not happening. You're not even proving that
Speaker 1: part to whether you can even be a great physical
Speaker 1: protector in the first place. But when you're talking about
Speaker 1: dividing that protection of every woman wants to feel safe,
Speaker 1: you understand me. She gets in the relationship with a
Speaker 1: man that could make her feel safe, that would actually
Speaker 1: override a lot of things that she would take from
Speaker 1: in another relationship. She feels unsafe. So protection is key.
Speaker 1: But that protection is financial protection, spiritual protection, emotional protection.
Speaker 1: All of those areas have to be encompassed when you
Speaker 1: say protecting and providing. So they're very big, but they're
Speaker 1: multi dimensional, right, And I think that some relationships first
Speaker 1: focus on one dimension, right, and so a man try
Speaker 1: to figure out how do I become great at this
Speaker 1: dimension and project myself at that. Then he gets in
Speaker 1: the relationship and now he's expected to be multi dimensional,
Speaker 1: which are most likely his weaknesses, right, And then he's
Speaker 1: graded on that when he's in a relationship. But what
Speaker 1: got him in a relationship was that one dimension. Well,
Speaker 1: I look like a protector, right, I look like a provider.
Speaker 1: I got some money, But that doesn't mean I got
Speaker 1: emotional intelligence. That doesn't mean I know how to spiritually
Speaker 1: console a person. That doesn't mean I really understand the
Speaker 1: dynamics of mass and effeminate energy. So I feel like
Speaker 1: a lot of men today have lost the art of manhood.
Speaker 1: So when they get in relationships, they react in a
Speaker 1: way that they know how what they say. I really
Speaker 1: appreciate you saying this because I feel like a lot
Speaker 1: of the rhet rhetoric we're here today. Black women are
Speaker 1: eclipsing black men in entrepreneurship numbers, right, which means that
Speaker 1: a lot of men are feeling insecure. So now they're like,
Speaker 1: you're losing your womanhood. Well we out here. Why shouldn't
Speaker 1: I be the best version of myself? Right? Is that
Speaker 1: making me undesirable? And I would say, then to those
Speaker 1: women that are speaking a man that can do those things,
Speaker 1: how do you show up in your opinion? Because we
Speaker 1: could answer this all day, But as you who are
Speaker 1: you know? With are interest in the women, how do
Speaker 1: you then show up for your for your mates and
Speaker 1: still provide for yourself? Like I don't want to wait
Speaker 1: five years at twenty years old for a negative Just
Speaker 1: show up when frankly a lot of them man should.
Speaker 1: Let's just be real. It's like, why can't I be
Speaker 1: building my empire too? I want a nice house, I
Speaker 1: want a vacation with my friends. What am I supposed
Speaker 1: to do? Am I not supposed to build while waiting
Speaker 1: for Are you know? Are you supposed to be? But
Speaker 1: listen that whole entire time, you understand me, because what
Speaker 1: you're talking about is building all of your ambitions. Right.
Speaker 1: When a man looks for for the most part, when
Speaker 1: you see a woman trying to look at like who
Speaker 1: are you? Though? You understand me, like because how much
Speaker 1: money you got and all of that ship, that's not
Speaker 1: what makes me attracted to you. What I'm saying, are
Speaker 1: you a nurturing person? Are you a good person? Are
Speaker 1: you a feminine person? Like? Who are you? At your core?
Speaker 1: You're talking about things as far as ambition and legacy.
Speaker 1: Those are masculine things. Those are very logical things that
Speaker 1: you want to provide for yourself. Those are masculine things well,
Speaker 1: because ambition is masculine energy. We all have masculine, feminine energy,
Speaker 1: but ambition to go out there material things like you know,
Speaker 1: I feel like even like a lot of things that
Speaker 1: we do is masculine. Of things we do is feminine right.
Speaker 1: The way we dress ourselves and in the way we
Speaker 1: express ourselves, that's a feminine thing. Fashion is feminine right,
Speaker 1: But going to get money that's more of a masculine
Speaker 1: pursuit in the way we go about doing it. Building
Speaker 1: business is a masculine disposition. That's a logical endeavor. It
Speaker 1: doesn't require emotions to build business. I want to throw
Speaker 1: something at you that I thought about years ago. We
Speaker 1: had episode with my mom, and my mom never worked.
Speaker 1: She was a housewife and she would always tell me like, Okay,
Speaker 1: we don't eat until daddy comes home. We gotta set
Speaker 1: his play, we gotta do this. And we had a
Speaker 1: episode with my mom where I cooked for my ex
Speaker 1: remember that I ended up dating him for a few years.
Speaker 1: But Mandy was like, no fucking way, we should not
Speaker 1: be cooking, or you shouldn't be cooking for a nikodis
Speaker 1: not your man. I was like, well, how I wanna
Speaker 1: he comes over, he takes me to dinner. This is
Speaker 1: my way to show him. And that was really what
Speaker 1: my mom taught me to do. Now we've had split
Speaker 1: comments on this, right where one why do these things
Speaker 1: for a man that aren't you man yet? Right, he's
Speaker 1: got the cow that he didn't buy it, so to speak,
Speaker 1: something like that. And on the other end, in my brain,
Speaker 1: I was like, well, I'm showing him I'm a good girlfriend.
Speaker 1: But man, he's like, well, you're doing all this ship
Speaker 1: before years girlfriend, right when you're a boss bitch. On
Speaker 1: this side, he should be happy to be with a
Speaker 1: woman like you. What is the role that women should
Speaker 1: be taking when initially dating. Should they be showing up
Speaker 1: all the way in their full selves like that. I
Speaker 1: think that you show up whoever they are. I mean
Speaker 1: that whole idea. And this is a trick back, like
Speaker 1: if you gotta ask yourself, is that successful? Right? We
Speaker 1: get a lot of advice from my parents that just
Speaker 1: don't matter. It wasn't right. You understand me, and so
Speaker 1: we will be remembering a lot of indoctrination and traditionalism
Speaker 1: that your parents passed down from their parents and parents.
Speaker 1: But that ship didn't matter. We want to see a
Speaker 1: woman for who they are. If you're a cooker, then cook.
Speaker 1: You understand me. Don't do it because you're in a relationship,
Speaker 1: or not do it because you're not in a relationship.
Speaker 1: If you're a woman that likes to cook, just cook,
Speaker 1: and then I'm gonna see Okay, that's that's one of
Speaker 1: the things I like about it. She likes to cook.
Speaker 1: You understand me, don't It's like if you get with
Speaker 1: a man you think it's spiritual, then you start faking
Speaker 1: like you meditate every day. If that ain't, that ain't
Speaker 1: what you do. I mean, I'm pretty sure you feel me.
Speaker 1: I feel like people try to show up as a
Speaker 1: reflection of what they think they want they partner to
Speaker 1: see in them and what their partner is attracted to.
Speaker 1: But I feel like if you off as your true self,
Speaker 1: then you give a person an opportunity to like you
Speaker 1: for you. You understand me, Because, like I said, maybe
Speaker 1: a person could be impressed by the things that you've done,
Speaker 1: but that's not the reason they gonna love you, you
Speaker 1: understand me. They're gonna love you for how you treat
Speaker 1: them or how you make them feel right. And so
Speaker 1: that's the same thing with a man. If you're gonna
Speaker 1: make a man feel good, he's gonna want that in
Speaker 1: his life, you understand me. And it depends on his
Speaker 1: level of maturity and development as a man, because every
Speaker 1: man is different. So a lot of times women in
Speaker 1: society speak on men like we are monolitht right. There's
Speaker 1: varying degrees levels, educations, like ethnicities, backgrounds. Everybody is different
Speaker 1: than their development. So it also may just be that
Speaker 1: you may be attracted to men who are not fully developed,
Speaker 1: you understand me. And so a lot of women are
Speaker 1: not attracted to mature man. They attracted to, you know,
Speaker 1: immature things, and then when they get in the relationship,
Speaker 1: they want that man to be mature and it's like, damn, well,
Speaker 1: that ain't why you want it. Let's talk about as
Speaker 1: a man who feel like respects women. Let's talk about
Speaker 1: whole asked next, because here's what's going on. Really spend
Speaker 1: a lot of time thinking about them, but because I
Speaker 1: think they really do need to hear from you. Right,
Speaker 1: here's the here's the thing, define how asking. I'm gonna say,
Speaker 1: a lot of the men today that have money have
Speaker 1: access to a bunch of women. The more cloud the
Speaker 1: more women you have, and we're attracted to the men
Speaker 1: with money, right, the castanova. But at the same time,
Speaker 1: are you really able to develop fully as a man
Speaker 1: to that level that you're talking about if you running
Speaker 1: around with a bunch of women? Do you think that
Speaker 1: men are able to show up in their most masculine
Speaker 1: energy if they've got ten or fifteen girls and freaking rotation?
Speaker 1: Like do men with money having a bunch of women?
Speaker 1: Is that something that's gonna come with it? Is that
Speaker 1: something women should expect? Well, I think women are attracted
Speaker 1: to money, you understand me, And so therefore men with
Speaker 1: money off they have the options that have a lot
Speaker 1: of women. Right, So that's just the reality. Now, but
Speaker 1: that doesn't make you a man, right. I think you
Speaker 1: gotta die on what is a man? Right? I think
Speaker 1: that it's it's when a man is his principles, you know,
Speaker 1: I mean it's his virtues and the things that he
Speaker 1: believes in. That qualifies a man is the way he thinks. Right,
Speaker 1: So to go from being a boy to a man,
Speaker 1: that means that he's changed the way he thinks in
Speaker 1: a way that he manages himself. He's developed himself into
Speaker 1: this position. The problem is not a lot of women
Speaker 1: know how to identify man. Right. So you're looking at
Speaker 1: a male, right, who may still be maturely as a boy. Right,
Speaker 1: and you may still be attracted to boyish things. You mean,
Speaker 1: as a woman, that's what you want because you may
Speaker 1: still be young and a girl. And yo, just saying,
Speaker 1: I mean just the way a man dresses and the
Speaker 1: money he has and the status he has. These are
Speaker 1: more you know ship that we learned in high school. Right, popularity?
Speaker 1: You understand me, who looks like they got some money?
Speaker 1: And you know what other type of women are attracted
Speaker 1: to him? Right? But does that man is that man respectful?
Speaker 1: Does he have dignity, does he have couraged Is he intelligent?
Speaker 1: Is he loyal right? Is he responsible? Is a discipline?
Speaker 1: Is he focused those equalities of a man that most
Speaker 1: women are not looking at to determine whether they're attracted
Speaker 1: to worm and and I wanted to step in on
Speaker 1: that as well, just because it's been something current. Uh.
Speaker 1: Floyd Mayweather, who is one of those very wealthy men
Speaker 1: with a lot of women, He recently took to um
Speaker 1: his Instagram and put everybody always asks me when am
Speaker 1: I getting married? Or why am I not married? I'm
Speaker 1: not married for the same reason. The divorce rate is
Speaker 1: so high. The only person I will truly trust is myself.
Speaker 1: Therefore it eliminates disappointment. He said he has nothing against
Speaker 1: people who are married. Those are just his personal beliefs.
Speaker 1: He has multiple women, and Elie Choppa also just came
Speaker 1: out and said that I want multiple women. We talked
Speaker 1: about No that young boy he and he's he's like
Speaker 1: twenty years old. He was in a relationship with a
Speaker 1: woman who was like thirty and she thought that he
Speaker 1: could she could convince him that he could be monogamous.
Speaker 1: He went into the relationships saying I needed these multiple women.
Speaker 1: And so because we do talk about non traditional relationships.
Speaker 1: I also don't want to just throw it out there
Speaker 1: that niggas who entertain multiple women with a lot of
Speaker 1: money are stunted mature mature wise, because I don't think
Speaker 1: they are. I think they're a little bit more honest
Speaker 1: than the regular niggas that are saying that they could
Speaker 1: be monogamous and they can't and they're cheating. So I
Speaker 1: do just want to like distinguish that even the men
Speaker 1: with money are very open about not only their access
Speaker 1: but that they need multiple ways. But also then you
Speaker 1: gotta take an account, man, if you are a man
Speaker 1: that lives in to Dolan twenty two today, right, the
Speaker 1: old reality is completely different than any other man in
Speaker 1: any other period in time, Like no other men in
Speaker 1: any other period when all the rules and construct was
Speaker 1: created has social media, right this Actually it changes the
Speaker 1: level of discipline and responsibility and focus that a man
Speaker 1: will have when it comes to choosing a woman. That's
Speaker 1: it's a fact, you understand, mex ain't of us see
Speaker 1: all of the twerking in his life. Because I'm just
Speaker 1: saying it's different. It's a really honest thing. Okay, because okay,
Speaker 1: I agree, like I think temptation always exists, but like
Speaker 1: I can't imagine knowing you could just click on her
Speaker 1: and have her. You know what I'm saying, Like you
Speaker 1: can now that is crazy. Players don't even got to
Speaker 1: go to the club no more. They slide in d
Speaker 1: M S. Bitch, pull up to the hotel. Nick is
Speaker 1: not going out to dinners. They're not going to clubs.
Speaker 1: Is A is a delivery service? We go Uber the
Speaker 1: sex delivery service. Okay, I know that pizza. Now they
Speaker 1: deliver women. Do you put on you're having a share ride?
Speaker 1: Did you? I don't even get share rides only. I
Speaker 1: do want to know have you ever had like a
Speaker 1: whole phase and by that I mean just like sleeping
Speaker 1: around having fun? Or is it difficult for you because
Speaker 1: you do feel like you need to be spiritually connected
Speaker 1: for women? Can you like just have on one night?
Speaker 1: And you know, I'm from Oakland, man, So growing up
Speaker 1: I got I got an older brother, you understand me.
Speaker 1: He taught me the game at a young age. So
Speaker 1: at a young age, I wanted to solve my royal
Speaker 1: oats as well. And I looked at it that strikes
Speaker 1: on the belt you feel royal. Look how you make
Speaker 1: this ship. Sound ready understand me where I feel like
Speaker 1: always once a far you understand me, you know, no
Speaker 1: nice but yeah, I'm I'm a man. You understand imaculate being.
Speaker 1: So can we go at a high level? You know,
Speaker 1: I've always had women attracted to me at a high level.
Speaker 1: You understand me. And I got multiple brothers. You understand me,
Speaker 1: and they've always had that as well. And you know,
Speaker 1: being from oakn California, learned how to speak very well
Speaker 1: and communicate with women. He said, I love the conversations
Speaker 1: that it ain't never been an issue. It's all I'm saying.
Speaker 1: But see, but but listen because a lot of men
Speaker 1: learn how to, you know, first get women through social media.
Speaker 1: So that changed the dynamic psychologically or how they look
Speaker 1: at women and how they look at themselves. Right about
Speaker 1: our age though, we're the last reality, like you have
Speaker 1: to go to the mall. Yeah, you eat the movie theaters.
Speaker 1: You know that the man around thirty two to thirty
Speaker 1: five recently because I've always seemed to be attracted them
Speaker 1: in their forties and now I'm starting to like it
Speaker 1: because they kind of own the ship that I'm on.
Speaker 1: They'll still do something nice like leave me a voice
Speaker 1: message or like not be scared to be a little
Speaker 1: about man, you just went a voice message, a lot
Speaker 1: of voice No, that mean that you didn't answer the call.
Speaker 1: You're sitting there so they can leave voice messages. I
Speaker 1: see you a voice note. Voice. You're not leaving a
Speaker 1: voice sail? Is it not a voice message when it's
Speaker 1: attempt after after the bre's a voice mess message. I
Speaker 1: mean at the voice masch Yeah. Voice note is when
Speaker 1: they directly believing and they'd be talking nice and I
Speaker 1: like that. I don't like that because the voice notes. Now, nigga,
Speaker 1: why you can pick up your phone. I hate a
Speaker 1: text message. Yes, I like the voice but the text
Speaker 1: message to me is too casual. It's a letter. A
Speaker 1: text message is a letter, mention. It ain't no text
Speaker 1: message that it's a comment. You know what I mean.
Speaker 1: It's it's a it's a miniature letter, no standards. I
Speaker 1: want a voice note. That's sad, that's really bad. Actually
Speaker 1: the voice knows some good food is some dick? Okay?
Speaker 1: Speaking of dicks, Yes, we're gonna get into yours. We'll
Speaker 1: not get into me alright. One of the craziest clips.
Speaker 1: And I told you this is why we brought ship
Speaker 1: made me laugh so hard, mainly because you know when
Speaker 1: you're like at this point where you hear something so
Speaker 1: woke that you're like, damn, am I sleep? So there
Speaker 1: was a dude you're interviewed all high level conversations. What
Speaker 1: was his name? When I'm talking with the Snickers, and
Speaker 1: he talked about the oversexualization of black men, which we
Speaker 1: know is true, but one of the things you guys
Speaker 1: covered with seamen retention, which I feel like it is
Speaker 1: insane because I can't imagine I'm having sex. I'm like, oh,
Speaker 1: I told my home. I told Chris. So we were
Speaker 1: having this conversation today, um, because I can't remember she
Speaker 1: met you somewhere. I don't even I think maybe investments, um,
Speaker 1: and we were talking. I was like, yeah, he does
Speaker 1: the seam. She said that nigga childish and I don't
Speaker 1: even want to hear about it because we hear about
Speaker 1: athlete with the way that women we we want to
Speaker 1: see that that's almost our sign of you being pleased
Speaker 1: by us, and that's doing our job. And like the
Speaker 1: way we talked about how you expect women to show
Speaker 1: you always do it. Who said, first of all, y'all.
Speaker 1: Y'all are saying a lot of things that I actually
Speaker 1: do or what I don't do. I don't think I
Speaker 1: said on that episode whether I practice actor seeming retention
Speaker 1: all the time or not at all. I don't know
Speaker 1: that you were talking about it periods though, When when
Speaker 1: do you practice it? So, I mean I've tried it before,
Speaker 1: you understand me. I think that I first read up
Speaker 1: on seeming retension and the benefits, right, So what is it?
Speaker 1: Let's talk about? So first benefit is disciplined, right. It's
Speaker 1: the same thing if you're fasten for food, right, And
Speaker 1: so we made the food sex connection on there, and
Speaker 1: the food sex connection is like when you eat, you're
Speaker 1: generally going to have more blood flowing down to your
Speaker 1: general your genital areas, right, So that's going to automatically
Speaker 1: leave opportunity for more excitement, you understand me? Or arouse you? Right?
Speaker 1: Just food and sex period. But when we're talking about fasting,
Speaker 1: fasting now it's less blood going down towards your general areas.
Speaker 1: Now you're actually more disciplined, because when you are fasting
Speaker 1: from anything, you start to think about all the other
Speaker 1: things that you don't need as well, Right, excitement leaves
Speaker 1: the way to mind and so during sex it's the
Speaker 1: you know what happens during sex, You start breathing, you
Speaker 1: start changing energy. Well, no, that's not coming. Revenge is
Speaker 1: holding your come and saving it and saving it and
Speaker 1: saving it. So to me, steeming retention just never having
Speaker 1: the peak or no, that's that's two different things. So
Speaker 1: it can be that it can be actually fastened from sex, right,
Speaker 1: or it can be during the time of sex. You
Speaker 1: are learning to disconnect orgasm from ejaculation. And I wanted
Speaker 1: to ask you that because it literally says you can
Speaker 1: learn how to orgasm without ejaculating. What does that then?
Speaker 1: What does that? See? Well, now y'all talked about polygamy, right,
Speaker 1: so back in the day, let's say if a man
Speaker 1: has multiple women, he got to be able to satisfy
Speaker 1: those multiple women as well. Right. Imagine you're the one
Speaker 1: that don't get it. But what I'm saying, so if
Speaker 1: he can separate actually having uh ejaculating from his orgasm,
Speaker 1: then he can have sex over and over and over
Speaker 1: and over. Have you talked yourself how to do that?
Speaker 1: You know, I'm gonna master of anything you have you ever? Um,
Speaker 1: I had recently, Like a friend of mine talks about
Speaker 1: breathwork and d m TW your brain naturally gives dm
Speaker 1: T is that part of it? Well, would you um
Speaker 1: have any orgasm? That's what they call cheat or energy right,
Speaker 1: So that's what they call mental orgasms as well. So
Speaker 1: the idea is keeping that energy sustained within the body, right,
Speaker 1: Because that's saying creative force, that powerful force that comes
Speaker 1: together when you have sex. That's life force, that's creative force,
Speaker 1: that's producing force. So at the man has an orgasm
Speaker 1: or ejaculates is different than that the woman, our body
Speaker 1: breaks down because now we have to recreate that semen right.
Speaker 1: Where a woman's body is different, she can continue to
Speaker 1: have orgasms without getting tired. So a man's body is
Speaker 1: from put different than a woman's body. So that's Western
Speaker 1: sex practice is just more so coming together having sex,
Speaker 1: whether you're talking about Eastern practices is more tentric where
Speaker 1: it is reviving of the energy and it is less
Speaker 1: of you know, humping and it's more of uh making
Speaker 1: love if you will, Yeah, it says. The other names
Speaker 1: for semen retention is quitis, reservatives, seeming o conservation, and
Speaker 1: sexual continence. And like you were saying where we see
Speaker 1: it as a western part of Western civil civilizations to
Speaker 1: just have sex. It actually says that steaming retention is
Speaker 1: part of practices such as Taoism tantric sex. Like you said,
Speaker 1: uh my tuna careza and kayan pu yang yang she said,
Speaker 1: now like literally bro though times. But yeah, that's the
Speaker 1: weaving of energy. That's what that's what that tantric is
Speaker 1: is weaving your energies together, you understand me, which actually
Speaker 1: makes the sex last longer rather than just jumping into
Speaker 1: it is a real, real I've only done tantric sex
Speaker 1: with women, which is the most intense thing because I
Speaker 1: think sometimes men that testosterone gets you in a rush.
Speaker 1: And with women I've had it on shrooms. It was
Speaker 1: great tantwer sex. But it's like the refractory period for men,
Speaker 1: which is the time it takes to get back up,
Speaker 1: like women can keep having multiple orgasms or reserve it well.
Speaker 1: So you see. Also, I feel like women are selfish
Speaker 1: in that area the same men are selfish and men
Speaker 1: because nowadays women do not know how to help a
Speaker 1: man have multiple orgasm is the same way. Hold on
Speaker 1: the wait, wait, wait, let me finish my sentence. Let
Speaker 1: me finish my sentence the same way. Historically men have
Speaker 1: not known how to have help women have multiple orgasms.
Speaker 1: But see the whole idea of the Eastern It is
Speaker 1: a partnership, y'all, both coming together to help each other
Speaker 1: expand in that area. Right, And that's kind of like
Speaker 1: how you know you got to think about sex is
Speaker 1: the same way you kind of do the relationship and
Speaker 1: a little bit at the same time, right, because people
Speaker 1: usually put responsibility on one partner for that comfort or
Speaker 1: that for that satisfaction, right when it's supposed to be
Speaker 1: a partnership of both energies coming together to help each
Speaker 1: other climax to that area. Wholeheartedly agree, because I think
Speaker 1: pleasure has I don't know, I feel like sometimes it
Speaker 1: shifts where we put it all on the women like
Speaker 1: she is the servicemen, and then a lot of like
Speaker 1: Pello princesses women that just to go hello, pillo, Hello,
Speaker 1: there we go he said it, right, You think I
Speaker 1: can't say the word pillow? How you saying hello hello whatever?
Speaker 1: Where women will just pretty much lay there and not
Speaker 1: do much, right. But I think it has shifted over
Speaker 1: time as like men have to fund the shift out
Speaker 1: of you women have to make sure they do this,
Speaker 1: And really, in reality, the best sex I've ever had
Speaker 1: is when we're both pleasers, and when you're both focused
Speaker 1: on pleasing each other, it turns into the best sex.
Speaker 1: And truly, that's kind of what tantra is. You do
Speaker 1: have to connect with each other's bodies, and I think
Speaker 1: it's a very sexy thing to learn each other. Like
Speaker 1: a lot of people will come on here and say
Speaker 1: their best tip for sexist communication, which gets exhausting, But
Speaker 1: all that really means is talking about it together. Like, yeah,
Speaker 1: you can tell somebody what you want, but you should
Speaker 1: be asking too, because I would hate if someone sucked me,
Speaker 1: especially after seven years of doing this show, and be
Speaker 1: like she was terrible, Like but maybe you just weren't
Speaker 1: for him, Like maybe you could be too kiky, too freaky,
Speaker 1: too nasty for somebody and they could think that you
Speaker 1: were bad. But I definitely am a chameleon with sex.
Speaker 1: What does it mean? It means like if I know
Speaker 1: I've got a really really really nasty bitch and then
Speaker 1: maybe one is just kind of like, oh I just
Speaker 1: want to I'll do that. I I get off on
Speaker 1: whatever you're getting off on to be honest. Yeah, I
Speaker 1: have my own kings, But like, I think that's how
Speaker 1: we can learn to be better partners. We should figure
Speaker 1: out what you like and take pleasure and you having pleasure.
Speaker 1: And a lot of people can't do that, you know
Speaker 1: what I'm saying. They're so focused on themselves that we
Speaker 1: can't enjoy the other person having pleasure. That means being
Speaker 1: able to give someone an orgasm and getting nothing from it.
Speaker 1: Like if you're only thinking about yourself during sex, it's
Speaker 1: not really going to be that enjoyable, how, you know
Speaker 1: what I mean? I think that people just need to
Speaker 1: learn how to number one half partnerships. You understand me.
Speaker 1: Like when we talk about relationships, I think everybody kind
Speaker 1: of you know, uh, dehumanizes each other. The way men
Speaker 1: talk about women, the way women talk about man is
Speaker 1: completely dehumanized. There's nothing spiritual about it anymore at all.
Speaker 1: And if you don't have a spiritual connection with a person,
Speaker 1: and that relationship is gonna end at some point in time, quick, right,
Speaker 1: all of those other things that's going to keep you together,
Speaker 1: Like what Mayweather talked about, number one the reason for
Speaker 1: most divorces finances. So the statement didn't make sense. To
Speaker 1: me because Maywhether got he can barely read in right, right,
Speaker 1: I ain't gonna say that, I don't I think the right.
Speaker 1: But he's highly intelligent. You understand me, you you don't,
Speaker 1: you don't. You don't get to the level of Mayweather
Speaker 1: of ownership, of being undefeated and creating those kind of
Speaker 1: deals and getting that kind of money. You know, one
Speaker 1: thing he knows to read is the contracts, and I
Speaker 1: feel like that's enough, especially for black because a lot
Speaker 1: of black men know how to read a lot of books,
Speaker 1: but when it comes to them contracts and that legal leaves,
Speaker 1: they don't know how to do that. And he does
Speaker 1: pretty good business as far as him being able to
Speaker 1: amass that well. But I just wanted to say that.
Speaker 1: But at the end of the day, you know, when
Speaker 1: you're talking about most relationships or felling because of money,
Speaker 1: and then also just the courture today around marriage, right,
Speaker 1: there's no marriage culture, there's no real celebration of that.
Speaker 1: There's more celebration the whole courture than there is family culture.
Speaker 1: That's fair, And I think that we're in a in
Speaker 1: a space of sexual liberation for where women never could
Speaker 1: like celebrate the fact that they enjoyed sex, that they
Speaker 1: enjoyed their bodies, that they enjoyed the things that they
Speaker 1: could wear. You're saying is basically the umbrella of celebration
Speaker 1: of But to me, it's free, it's sexually freedom because
Speaker 1: I was gonna say when I say, when I make jokes,
Speaker 1: when I talk about whole ship, right, yeah, like I don't.
Speaker 1: I wish I was getting some dick, but I ain't
Speaker 1: even know how right now. But I'll joke about me
Speaker 1: one because to me it's the umbrella of like, I'm
Speaker 1: sexually liberated, right, right, I'm free to do whatever I
Speaker 1: want to have a lot of ownership over my body.
Speaker 1: I know what I like the right to do that.
Speaker 1: So I understand where women have been historically oppressed, right,
Speaker 1: and many different facets. I think what's dangerous is today
Speaker 1: where the word freedom and liberation is used where a
Speaker 1: lot of people can actually become slaves that they sexual
Speaker 1: desires and it's not freek. They're more addicted to it, right,
Speaker 1: So when you start crossing the line where sexual addiction
Speaker 1: or a person is actually you know, being enslaved by
Speaker 1: the lower desires because they can't control themselves, that's not
Speaker 1: liberation and that's not freedom. But everything can fit under
Speaker 1: this umbrella. So I think that the brand is misguided.
Speaker 1: What brand the brand of sexual liberation and sexual freedom?
Speaker 1: So see this, this is where it's like it teeters
Speaker 1: for me. A lot of our show is about unleashing
Speaker 1: kinks and sex lives of people. Right, it goes to
Speaker 1: different umbrellas, like an episode with yours. It's not necessarily that,
Speaker 1: but many people that we've learned over the years don't
Speaker 1: really understand one how to channel their sexual energy to
Speaker 1: what they're into, or three how to explore it in
Speaker 1: a safe way. That to me is under that umbrella.
Speaker 1: Because if I don't have dialogue with when i'm whether
Speaker 1: it be at a college or at our Lives show,
Speaker 1: a lot of women will come out to us say
Speaker 1: I had my first orgasm because of you, or I
Speaker 1: was able to lose my virginity because I had sexual
Speaker 1: trauma and I couldn't disconnect it like it's all in there.
Speaker 1: What about the or to have all of you know,
Speaker 1: the sexual problems where they don't have sexual discipline? Right?
Speaker 1: So is that community being addressed as well? Where the
Speaker 1: right men and women? Right, it's it's men and women.
Speaker 1: I'm not when I hear the sex culture is not
Speaker 1: just the women's cultures as men and women that is
Speaker 1: now participating because there's if women are having sex with men,
Speaker 1: then you know, I mean, it's both our courts. I'm
Speaker 1: not a fan of sex actics. I dated one. It
Speaker 1: was awful, right, So, but that's what I mean. A
Speaker 1: lot of people are being driven by sex, right they
Speaker 1: most most people, most marketing is based on sex sex sales. Right,
Speaker 1: So you're buying the fly clothes, the shoes, that all
Speaker 1: of this stuff so you can increase your chances of
Speaker 1: having sex. Right. That's that's This is the probably one
Speaker 1: of the bigger issues with relationships is that men trying
Speaker 1: to increase their chances of having sex, they have sex
Speaker 1: with the woman. Woman becomes emotionally connected, she has expectations
Speaker 1: of the man. Man has no expectations of the self.
Speaker 1: She's heart broken, she hates man, and then it's a cycle.
Speaker 1: I do think this is a male lead thing, though,
Speaker 1: and I'll tell you why. I think that most things
Speaker 1: that women do are for the male gays. I think
Speaker 1: that the reason horrible decisions became quote unquote popular to
Speaker 1: some is because we doesn't need to be air quotes
Speaker 1: around popular. No, I mean quote unquote. I was saying
Speaker 1: why this popular this particular reason because we do talk
Speaker 1: about sexual health. But when I air quotes, it is
Speaker 1: because Mandy and I were normal girls talking about our
Speaker 1: own sex lives right without fear of men judging us.
Speaker 1: And a lot of times any home girl I have
Speaker 1: to me, I have I'm friends with a lot of baddies.
Speaker 1: The ship they do is for the male gays, and
Speaker 1: it's because men are sexually driven. I noticed a different
Speaker 1: difference singing and I'm not playing with you. If I
Speaker 1: wear this outfit out or I'll wear a skirt, men
Speaker 1: coming up to me is a huge difference. When I
Speaker 1: saw you at that black fleat market ship the week before,
Speaker 1: I wear a week the month before I were addressed.
Speaker 1: Nikas was on my dick. I have the same face, bro.
Speaker 1: So at the end of the day, what is it?
Speaker 1: What's really going on? Where his grades were different? Are
Speaker 1: women over sexualizing themselves to get men? Well, a lot
Speaker 1: of them. They're doing it to get money, you understand me.
Speaker 1: I think that now it's for success. A lot of
Speaker 1: it ain't even for men no more. Right now they
Speaker 1: understand that the curture of sex sales. Like I heard
Speaker 1: a woman talking about, well, she went and got her
Speaker 1: new ass because she knew there was going to increase
Speaker 1: her opportunities. Right, So a lot of this, you know,
Speaker 1: body modification has nothing to do with men, per se,
Speaker 1: has everything to do with women ambition right towards success
Speaker 1: and careers and opportunities that they want because men don't,
Speaker 1: I mean to be honest, especially when it comes to
Speaker 1: like fake assis and stuff. We don't care about that
Speaker 1: kind of stuff, you understand me, not not not the
Speaker 1: larger population of men. To look at the large but
Speaker 1: you said, we're talking about the sixth what you're talking
Speaker 1: about visual creatures as you brought up with women are
Speaker 1: being in social media now, but the ambition is to
Speaker 1: land the men with the money who are going to
Speaker 1: spend the money on that, right. But they're doing it
Speaker 1: for the likes and the comments now, right, So they're
Speaker 1: not doing it for the male gays. They're doing it
Speaker 1: for society's gays, right, so that they can increase because
Speaker 1: now women are watching those videos with women that have
Speaker 1: you know, the large asses and the breast and all
Speaker 1: of this stuff. They're doing it for views. They're doing
Speaker 1: it to become personalities. They're doing it. Do you believe this?
Speaker 1: But the bartenders all got their bodies done to make
Speaker 1: more money and to get access to the men with money.
Speaker 1: That's that's still capitalism. You're not doing it for a
Speaker 1: partner though, that's different. And a lot of women who
Speaker 1: don't want to fully work and maybe don't want to
Speaker 1: be a startender or bartender forever, they're hoping to land
Speaker 1: a man that can provide for them. So then they're
Speaker 1: really doing it so that they can be that. How
Speaker 1: are they can provide for themselves? They understand me. So
Speaker 1: a lot of women they're trying to figure out how
Speaker 1: do I capitalize off society standards? Are selling sex the
Speaker 1: male gays without eat, needing a man. So the idea is,
Speaker 1: I'm going to capitalize visually. How I know men are
Speaker 1: attracted and stimulated by this, but I don't actually want
Speaker 1: a man, you understand me. So it's a completely different
Speaker 1: than a woman saying that I'm going to wear this
Speaker 1: small dress so that I can get a man. I'll
Speaker 1: be honest, and then I I I feel like it's
Speaker 1: the opposite. And unfortunately it's because where men mostly do
Speaker 1: leave with their pockets. Women are doing this because maybe
Speaker 1: they don't want a certain type of man, they want
Speaker 1: a certain type of lifestyle, and so literally a lifestyle
Speaker 1: normally comes with the attachment to a man. I only
Speaker 1: want to be a housewife, and I don't want to work.
Speaker 1: I just want to be at home, and I want
Speaker 1: the nice bags, and I want the nice car, and
Speaker 1: I want to live in the mansion. So even going
Speaker 1: to modify their body is in hopes to land that
Speaker 1: man that will get them the lifestyle that they truly want.
Speaker 1: That's part of it. But also when you look at
Speaker 1: like look at female rappers, most their main audience is
Speaker 1: not man, right, but yet they're very sexualized in a
Speaker 1: wedy that they dress. Right, you're gonna look at why,
Speaker 1: You're gonna look at um any one of those there
Speaker 1: was are like women and young girls that's watching that,
Speaker 1: and like gay men that's watching that for the most
Speaker 1: part the same time, right, that was the core audience
Speaker 1: that they getting their money from. So I'm saying that
Speaker 1: a lot of this sexual liberation, a lot of this
Speaker 1: culture now is based on capitalism, has nothing to do
Speaker 1: whether you actually want a partner or not. So how
Speaker 1: do you then become the person that to me, I
Speaker 1: think one of the things that really helped me developed
Speaker 1: into a good partner and woman was being able to
Speaker 1: have some leadership roles and become independent. I really believe
Speaker 1: it fueled me into being a better partner. Like I
Speaker 1: understood what it was like to manage people, to manage
Speaker 1: my own house and my own ship, and now I
Speaker 1: think I can live the life to where I can
Speaker 1: have some time about I have the team and I
Speaker 1: could be a good partner. But how do we as
Speaker 1: women become that quote unquote boss bitch and at the
Speaker 1: same time be able to still find someone that we
Speaker 1: can meet that will give us those family, that family
Speaker 1: that we all want. Right, Well, what do you want
Speaker 1: to do the person that you with? Do you want
Speaker 1: to help them? What do you want to do for
Speaker 1: the person that you But here's the thing, though, because
Speaker 1: the person that you're with, if they're not here yet, right, Like,
Speaker 1: That's what I'm saying because basically this independence is a
Speaker 1: deterrent to men that are successful, Because you're right, successful
Speaker 1: men don't want what did he want to Shopper say, like,
Speaker 1: I don't Tiana great whatever, I don't need none of that.
Speaker 1: So it's like, how do you coexist? To me? What
Speaker 1: do I want to do? I would love to be
Speaker 1: someone's partner in crime. I would love to know that
Speaker 1: you can come home at night. I really I would
Speaker 1: love a man to know that I'm not a robber
Speaker 1: bank well. I don't want to just rub your head, bro,
Speaker 1: I want you to know that I'm also well read,
Speaker 1: I'm also smart. That feels good to me, and it
Speaker 1: gives me. I asked the question because I think it's
Speaker 1: very clear as far as what society expects from men,
Speaker 1: but there's not much clarity on what what society expects
Speaker 1: from whom. I do agree with that you understand. But
Speaker 1: I shouldn't be answering that question though. That's the question
Speaker 1: to you. But then women said they don't want man's opinions.
Speaker 1: So it's a very confusing thing what I'm saying. But y'all,
Speaker 1: y'all started this off with you know what I'm saying,
Speaker 1: you don't want opinions and man's opinions because because but
Speaker 1: though women are taking that as disrespect, they're saying that
Speaker 1: this is misogyny, this is this that in the third
Speaker 1: So there's a lot of conversation of men seeing what
Speaker 1: they want. I think misogyny is in your face. Don't
Speaker 1: be doing X y Z basically sit at home, do nothing.
Speaker 1: But that's that's the thing too. And everything that you
Speaker 1: just said, and I was I was listening. I feel
Speaker 1: like you have to understand in partnership, right, you said,
Speaker 1: I can read a book, I can do this, I
Speaker 1: can manage, and I'm not saying I can't. All right
Speaker 1: at my point, but let me finish. You said that
Speaker 1: that makes you feel valuable. How you feel valuable to
Speaker 1: yourself is not necessarily how you're gonna show up in
Speaker 1: value toee partner. And so the things that you pride
Speaker 1: yourself and being able to do that may not matter
Speaker 1: at all you do. He just asked me, what do
Speaker 1: I want to do for a man? So I can
Speaker 1: only explain what I read in a book like that's
Speaker 1: for me, you know, for a factor. I'm that ba.
Speaker 1: My niggas don't even know what man. Let me talk
Speaker 1: because you're I'm not I'm letting, I'm asking you. Then
Speaker 1: you're trying to throw a book in my face. I
Speaker 1: have all I'm not throwing a book at all. What
Speaker 1: I'm saying, stop being so defensive. Literally what I'm saying,
Speaker 1: don't tell me what you just said. You feel value
Speaker 1: in and hold pride in is what also NINETEENA saying
Speaker 1: where we are prideful and feel we hold value in
Speaker 1: being boss as bitches a man may not. So his
Speaker 1: question was, then, how, how and in what ways would
Speaker 1: you bring value to a partner outside of He didn't
Speaker 1: say outside of you just asked me. And then let's
Speaker 1: look at it like this. When a man builds himself up,
Speaker 1: part of the way he's building himself up is so
Speaker 1: that he can be a good partner to a woman. Right.
Speaker 1: When a woman thinks about ambition, the way she builds
Speaker 1: herself up has nothing to do with whether she's going
Speaker 1: to be a good partner to a man. Right, So
Speaker 1: I then ask the question what is a woman supposed
Speaker 1: to do? What is her role in the relationship? Because
Speaker 1: I remember when there was big conversation around well what
Speaker 1: does a woman bring to the table, and a lot
Speaker 1: of people just say at presents, And obviously that's not
Speaker 1: enough because then now have the ability to have the
Speaker 1: presence of women like they are kings now, which is
Speaker 1: my point in saying that I do think there's any
Speaker 1: to me. You can learn how to cook, bro, I'm
Speaker 1: sorry you can't. You can't really learn how to be nurturing.
Speaker 1: And I know that's one of my greatest assets in
Speaker 1: any relationship platonically as well. But when I say that
Speaker 1: I'm not just a girl that will cook and clean,
Speaker 1: I do have more to me. That point was to
Speaker 1: say that to me is the value that I also bring.
Speaker 1: But I I think it's something to bring up because
Speaker 1: it seems as though it's a deterrent to men. How
Speaker 1: can women show up as strong people and also be
Speaker 1: in their feminine energy because we look the word strong
Speaker 1: is very interesting in the way it's used, right, because
Speaker 1: like and and and that's specifically in context of like
Speaker 1: black courture. Right, because strong woman don't want to be
Speaker 1: called a strong life because that's that's masculine. Right. How
Speaker 1: can you show up as a feminine woman because a
Speaker 1: man want a feminine woman. Right. You're talking about strength
Speaker 1: for yourself, but it has nothing to do with whether
Speaker 1: that's a value in the relationship. Because femininity is strength.
Speaker 1: So if you have strength and know if you're strong
Speaker 1: in the areas of being nurturing, being the helpmate, being
Speaker 1: a communicator, right, being able to be intuitive, being a
Speaker 1: guide in that area. Then now you have value, right,
Speaker 1: because now I have this woman on my side, that's
Speaker 1: like my second mind over here. You understand me, Like,
Speaker 1: that's that's an increased value. She sees things that I
Speaker 1: don't see. She has the energy that I don't have.
Speaker 1: She brings that to me. Right, she see things about
Speaker 1: myself that I don't see about myself. Right, that's a
Speaker 1: that's a powerful guiding energy that you can have in
Speaker 1: a woman. Right. She's like, you know, all great men
Speaker 1: throughout time, you can't become president as a single man. Right,
Speaker 1: you have to have a family because leading a family
Speaker 1: this micro cause him to leading a nation. It's always
Speaker 1: married men are the most successful, and I mean that's
Speaker 1: that's having that's having the made. But isn't it interesting
Speaker 1: that single women almost seem the most success And it's
Speaker 1: like that's the mother? What is what is your great
Speaker 1: of success? What I'm talking about, Like when you talk
Speaker 1: about CEOs, are just women out there most great success? Though?
Speaker 1: It's the question because you gotta also financially like the
Speaker 1: men that are making money out Let's look at historically,
Speaker 1: why are women in a position, specifically black women, Right,
Speaker 1: in a position at the end, right now, right, So
Speaker 1: when you look at our community, specifically black community, it's
Speaker 1: a very different kind of dynamic than anybody else Historically.
Speaker 1: It's not that black men have been lazy. Right, there's
Speaker 1: nowhere in history where you can find from eighteen sixty five,
Speaker 1: we got out of slavery, industrial ages, black men starting businesses,
Speaker 1: created Greenwood and created sixty plus more towns that was
Speaker 1: destroyed by this government America. Right, there was the crack agenda.
Speaker 1: There was multitude of different things, redlining, lack of loans,
Speaker 1: black code, so many different things, pipeline to prison, bad
Speaker 1: education system. So it wasn't that black men was just
Speaker 1: being lazy for the last a hundred plus years. No,
Speaker 1: it's that we have always been most targeted group in America. Right,
Speaker 1: and capitalism as we white or women go after, they
Speaker 1: call it patriarchy, but they're talking about white capitalistic structures
Speaker 1: that black men have never been included in at a
Speaker 1: high level to become successful. So now they find our
Speaker 1: women to be less threatening and they're opening up that
Speaker 1: door because that further creates a wedge and the gap.
Speaker 1: Look at the conversations being had now, right that your
Speaker 1: success is weaponized to say that we're failures. They are
Speaker 1: giving women the door. You're saying, well, absolutely doors have
Speaker 1: been opened. So women are Look at Kamala Harris right
Speaker 1: as a vice president. Look at you know, um um,
Speaker 1: what's the judge that just became the judge. Then you've
Speaker 1: got all these there's a lot of black women in
Speaker 1: positions of power. When they talk about diversity, they're going
Speaker 1: to promote different black women there and they putting out
Speaker 1: their gender. They're gonna put a black woman in front
Speaker 1: of that to represent them. The power structure is still
Speaker 1: the same. But this individual success is supposed to represent
Speaker 1: progress for the Black community, which it doesn't. Right, one
Speaker 1: person successful does not present progress whatsoever. That's just their career. Now,
Speaker 1: the reality of it is is that all of that
Speaker 1: has also been built off the backs of Black men
Speaker 1: being killed and murdered and thrown in jail. Look at
Speaker 1: the whole thing with George Floyd. He had to be
Speaker 1: killed for a lot of white guilt to be propped
Speaker 1: up to the height that it is. And now diversity
Speaker 1: and inclusion is representation of women and black women leadership.
Speaker 1: But you have never seen a campaign ever where said
Speaker 1: that we want to have more black male inclusion or
Speaker 1: black mail diversity. There has never been a campaign to
Speaker 1: this day. It still doesn't women have been counted out.
Speaker 1: I'm not saying you haven't been counted out, But in
Speaker 1: that same token with black women have been counted out,
Speaker 1: black men have always been counted out. I agree with
Speaker 1: you on that too, so but I'm saying that the
Speaker 1: success that black women are enjoying is a part of
Speaker 1: the fact that black men have been a war economically
Speaker 1: in this country. So now we're looking at the results
Speaker 1: of the last one years and black women saying that, look,
Speaker 1: we're successful. What y'all nigga is doing, It's like, you
Speaker 1: know that the reason that everything has been cutted up
Speaker 1: in atmosphere, it's because of everything that happened before. It's
Speaker 1: not that just just generation is just better than the
Speaker 1: women and men before. Women black women are not understanding
Speaker 1: that men are in Black men specifically are incarcerated at
Speaker 1: alignment rates, or that the crack emmagemic epidemic ruined families.
Speaker 1: But like, but that's not don't step up like black
Speaker 1: women do. That's just facts. We can google this ship,
Speaker 1: but that you can't say. But that is huge there's
Speaker 1: no other people in America that can say that. Like,
Speaker 1: so when you say, who cares that the incarceration is
Speaker 1: high black men? But I'm saying but when you say but,
Speaker 1: it minimizes, it minimizes that reality. Right when listen, black
Speaker 1: men on the most targeted. We have the highest rates
Speaker 1: of homicide, violence, cancer, every disease. We have the worst
Speaker 1: statistics of any group in America. Yet it's not seen
Speaker 1: as the highest priority in America. When people talk about activism,
Speaker 1: why because nobody cares, you understand me. So when black men,
Speaker 1: young black men today at this generation are starting from
Speaker 1: from way behind in the eight ball. And then they
Speaker 1: also saying that, well, now you're behind this black woman
Speaker 1: who's doing better than you. So it's becoming weaponized against
Speaker 1: each other. Now its battleless success of the sexist. Now
Speaker 1: her financial success is a representation of your failure. Right,
Speaker 1: And this is what's crossing a bigger widen gap because
Speaker 1: she's saying that I'm doing better than you what you're
Speaker 1: doing nigger, and you're not. You are of the generation
Speaker 1: that gets the benefit because this is where society is.
Speaker 1: But that's only because of everything that happened before you.
Speaker 1: I don't want to believe because I don't speak that
Speaker 1: way about man that makes less than me that are doing.
Speaker 1: I don't ever be like, what the funk are you doing?
Speaker 1: I want to know somebody out there. That's the tone though,
Speaker 1: that's the tone that men here when we talk about
Speaker 1: it ain't what you say is how you said all
Speaker 1: the time, even with men that talk about women and
Speaker 1: the things that they want from women most of the
Speaker 1: time in correct, but their tone, then let's maybe dig
Speaker 1: into I feel like when I have this conversation with
Speaker 1: black women millionaires, typically they always say something to me
Speaker 1: about how they've never felt like they were prioritized that
Speaker 1: men that are in their lane or of their caliber
Speaker 1: are dating models that aren't black, whether they be Latina
Speaker 1: or and we know they're halfhi Latina's but or white women, like,
Speaker 1: what about the black women that are feeling left out?
Speaker 1: When did when did any time in the world black
Speaker 1: man said that they wanted or man said that they
Speaker 1: wanted a millionaire woman, that's something that she wanted for herself,
Speaker 1: but it was never a qualification for attractiveness. And on
Speaker 1: the foot five, as women, we do think that and
Speaker 1: men have always want what I'm saying we want six.
Speaker 1: My point about that THO was success in men. We're
Speaker 1: talking about successful women. Are the successful men going after
Speaker 1: black women? Yeah, a lot of successful most black men
Speaker 1: marry black women. Yes, that's true. Most people of any
Speaker 1: race married their own race. But we do see a
Speaker 1: lot of glorified relationships where black men successful, which means
Speaker 1: the media and say, we don't Black people don't own
Speaker 1: the media if we had our opportunities. Women don't have
Speaker 1: that idea of putting it black men down, so that
Speaker 1: whereas that that is glorified in the media. But I
Speaker 1: don't want to make the monolith of black women being
Speaker 1: successful and going out If I had a daughter, I
Speaker 1: would want her to go out there and get it too.
Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying. I think that I love
Speaker 1: the fact that black women are getting money and are successful.
Speaker 1: But you also see the challenges now right that we're
Speaker 1: talking about nature of masculine and feminine. Right, men are
Speaker 1: not going to change their nature to be attracted to
Speaker 1: women with money. That's not it, right. So a man
Speaker 1: with money just wants to and they every time that
Speaker 1: we got to start posting the food. Man and women
Speaker 1: should not just be going for men with money, and
Speaker 1: I think that's probably the bigger issue because most black
Speaker 1: men ain't got that much money, so most black men
Speaker 1: women don't want the average man. That's the whole Kevin
Speaker 1: Samuel's argument is that your expectations are higher in reality,
Speaker 1: and when you look at the numbers, right, so now
Speaker 1: you've got twenty women, a hundred women, a thousand women
Speaker 1: going at the one man, and then you mad at
Speaker 1: that man for choosing ten percent of the options. We
Speaker 1: had that clip that you, um, what was it about
Speaker 1: women competing? M hmm. Do you think that women should
Speaker 1: be competing for man? And if so, what are the
Speaker 1: things that can make a woman stand out. I think
Speaker 1: human beings can always compete for each other because at
Speaker 1: the end of the day, a man don't want to
Speaker 1: have any what you know, good man, let's say I'm
Speaker 1: good man, don't want any woman to have his baby,
Speaker 1: and a woman don't want to have a baby with
Speaker 1: any man. So they're always going to be competing with
Speaker 1: what they feel like is the top of the stock.
Speaker 1: That's human nature, that's beyond society rods. When you strip
Speaker 1: people of jobs titled careers, all of that, we talk
Speaker 1: about human beings so I feel like developing yourself to
Speaker 1: be the best person possible, right, increases your attractiveness. Now,
Speaker 1: the problem is is that what we're socially engineered to
Speaker 1: see as attractive is these things that will bring a
Speaker 1: person to you, but they're not gonna keep you there. Right. So, well,
Speaker 1: if I even want to compete in the social atmosphere
Speaker 1: of what people are attracted to, I gotta step out,
Speaker 1: fly God, look a certain way, right, I gotta have
Speaker 1: these particular brands on. I got to have social status, right,
Speaker 1: I have to have some money. So this is how
Speaker 1: I even be seen. Now I'm competing against people who
Speaker 1: are seeing in that same life. Right. So now, of course,
Speaker 1: now you got to be a communicator. Now you've got
Speaker 1: Now the personality comes into it. Now when you're dating
Speaker 1: that person, how do you keep that person so they
Speaker 1: don't end up going to somebody else? Now you're talking
Speaker 1: about character, right, how do I treat this person where
Speaker 1: we can have longevity? It may work out for a year,
Speaker 1: maybe two, then they're back in the dating pool. Right.
Speaker 1: So it's different levels. And I believe that in old
Speaker 1: times they used to think about character. What type of
Speaker 1: person is that? Right? You bringing somebody home to your parents.
Speaker 1: Is this a noble person? Who's their family, what's their background,
Speaker 1: where they come from. It was a real investigation into
Speaker 1: the character of who these people were. Now this investigation
Speaker 1: on what they have rather than who they are. For sure,
Speaker 1: when you talk about top of the stock people, specifically
Speaker 1: for women, since we know that it's not success or money,
Speaker 1: what are some things you think off the bat? Are
Speaker 1: it for women that are competing for them? Um? I
Speaker 1: think look at the things that break up relationships. Um,
Speaker 1: just loyalty, honesty, discipline, focus, passion. Right, we're gonna get
Speaker 1: to this. You know, sex, but you can't you can't
Speaker 1: know that. You can't know the sexual part of y'all
Speaker 1: have sex, you understand me. So sex is an experience
Speaker 1: you gotta have with somebody. The rest of you, I
Speaker 1: mean everything else. You can start investigating at least to
Speaker 1: start looking for those things, right, you understand me. You
Speaker 1: can have a communication about what type of sex, and
Speaker 1: you can learn little things about a person, but you
Speaker 1: ain't gonna know until you do it right, So you
Speaker 1: can't you know, you can't test out everything before you
Speaker 1: buy it. You know, I'm talking about some things. You
Speaker 1: you know you just gotta get uh, nonphysical communication about right.
Speaker 1: But as a man, you know, because it's it's the
Speaker 1: phase that we skip now in society, which is that
Speaker 1: whole um um what they call it when you're not
Speaker 1: sexually with somebody and you have somebody there with you. Yum, Tommy,
Speaker 1: you know what, tom I feel like the word. Yeah,
Speaker 1: we know that was always a part of relationships, even
Speaker 1: with marriages, right, there was a courting phase. We don't
Speaker 1: court first. What should women be expecting from men with
Speaker 1: courting today? Well? Yeah, I mean I would say, you know,
Speaker 1: all of the I can't tell you about the different
Speaker 1: dating types. I don't even know. Some women like flowers,
Speaker 1: some people don't like hours, some people want to I
Speaker 1: think that basic things is communication, right, talking with somebody?
Speaker 1: Can they hold a conversation that keeps you interested for
Speaker 1: a long period of time? Right? Because if they can,
Speaker 1: and y'all feel like, yo, I can just chill with
Speaker 1: this person and talk for hours, then you maybe could
Speaker 1: be with that person for days. Then you may be
Speaker 1: that person for weeks or months. But if y'all can't
Speaker 1: hold a decent conversation, but you sexually attracted to that person,
Speaker 1: So let me just forget about that. Or the person
Speaker 1: got money is I don't need to talk to them
Speaker 1: much anyway. But so what we do is we often
Speaker 1: ignore the signs instead of magnify, right, So we ignore
Speaker 1: all the red signs for some of the green signs.
Speaker 1: You understand me, Well, this is a go, so for
Speaker 1: get the real signs. You can't even talk to breath
Speaker 1: for an hour straight, two hours straight, right, And I'm
Speaker 1: talking about not in though heightened situation. It's the most
Speaker 1: beautiful restaurant in the world. Can y'all fucking sit on
Speaker 1: the park bench and talk to each other and hold
Speaker 1: each other? You know what I'm saying. That might not
Speaker 1: be sexy for how society looks at it, but I'm
Speaker 1: talking about long term relationships. If you want short term
Speaker 1: and none of this matters for you. If you are
Speaker 1: long term, then who they are and who you are,
Speaker 1: and those two people actually meeting matters the most that
Speaker 1: I'd agree with that, And what is their religion? What
Speaker 1: is the ethnicity? This is the thing. It's not just
Speaker 1: about dating inside race. You gotta dating inside your ethnicity. Right.
Speaker 1: The difference between race and ethnicity is vast. The person
Speaker 1: you can date a black woman, but her ethnic background
Speaker 1: could be a different religion. Right, she speaks a different
Speaker 1: type of language, she has a different customs and beliefs
Speaker 1: and values. Right, do you all share that same ethnic
Speaker 1: background with each other, because those are gonna be the
Speaker 1: things that keep you together. Why do you think that is, though,
Speaker 1: because there's so many to me interracial relationships and not
Speaker 1: that I'm in one to whatever. I'm just saying, like,
Speaker 1: why do you think that the ethnicity boils down to it?
Speaker 1: Because ethnicity is those share common values that you have.
Speaker 1: You understand me, those beliefs that you have, because in
Speaker 1: the Black community, we don't all share the same beliefs
Speaker 1: on relationships, share the same belief on politics, share the
Speaker 1: same belief on God, right, share the same beliefs on
Speaker 1: how masculine and feminine roles are supposed to go with
Speaker 1: inside that relationship. So if you meet a woman of
Speaker 1: the same ethnic background but of a different race, you
Speaker 1: may feel like she has more shared things with you
Speaker 1: that you can get along with. Right, So we don't
Speaker 1: often realize that all Black people have different ethnicities as
Speaker 1: well inside our diasporas, So we think we have to
Speaker 1: jump all the way outside of our race to find
Speaker 1: somebody of the same ethnicity. Do you what when you're
Speaker 1: like dating, do you ever think about that? Because I mean,
Speaker 1: I told you I'm dating a Muslim right now, and
Speaker 1: it's or I did multiple Muslims actually, but I think
Speaker 1: that's also just because I like niggas from Harlem apparently,
Speaker 1: and everybody is a Muslim um. I don't know the knowledge,
Speaker 1: so I don't look at that. I'm one of those
Speaker 1: people that questioned so much. I don't think I'm coming
Speaker 1: in with the way I perceive what I want my
Speaker 1: household to be. I'm also a woman that doesn't want
Speaker 1: marriage or children, so to me, how I date, how
Speaker 1: I look for a partner is definitely different than someone
Speaker 1: who's looking. You know, I told you how people treat
Speaker 1: kids period, like, and this was yesterday. I said this.
Speaker 1: I watch it all the time, down to how men
Speaker 1: talk to my dog. I think it's really important to
Speaker 1: see how people treat kids or someone younger, because that
Speaker 1: always tells me character how I just stay away from them.
Speaker 1: That's I mean, how do you always get in a
Speaker 1: situation where you're around a person and children or I'm saying,
Speaker 1: like a barbecue, know as you're developing a relationship when
Speaker 1: they're on the to a barbecue in in a minute.
Speaker 1: I ain't never said I ain't been to barbecue'll be
Speaker 1: saying stuff, I ain't been to a barbecue in a minute.
Speaker 1: A lot of kids like I just was very just
Speaker 1: for me. That's one of those partnership things where like
Speaker 1: it's a hard note I'm going a few days. I
Speaker 1: see how they're talking to someone young, if they answer
Speaker 1: the phone to a family member, how they speak to him,
Speaker 1: especially the mother. Also one of those when when men
Speaker 1: talk about their exes and they shoot on them immediately.
Speaker 1: I don't like that idea that people gotta hate their exes.
Speaker 1: That's terrible. I also think that people just hold onto
Speaker 1: trauma to victimize themselves and make themselves feel better about
Speaker 1: their own role in their self destruction. My ex as
Speaker 1: a piece of ship, but the other ones was good.
Speaker 1: The recent one was bad. But to be really, when
Speaker 1: ever I talked about him as someone else, I make
Speaker 1: sure not too emotionally dump because I do want men
Speaker 1: to know like I chose to be with this person
Speaker 1: for a certain amount of years. I liked something about
Speaker 1: then he was a whole I thought that was what
Speaker 1: connected us in the beginning. I just didn't know he
Speaker 1: was gonna keep holding. You know what I'm saying speaking
Speaker 1: of hoing and in relationships. So before we get out
Speaker 1: of here, I want to talk about new dynamics and relationships.
Speaker 1: So we see throut poles, we see a lot of
Speaker 1: threesomes going on, things like that. Do you think in
Speaker 1: the age of polygamy, that's to me an older thought.
Speaker 1: We're now polyamory is more of a new thing that
Speaker 1: people can prosper in that in polygamy, poly polygamy is
Speaker 1: when the women aren't we're just the man can have
Speaker 1: multiple partners. Polyamories where they both date each other, doesn't
Speaker 1: even say men, let's make it easy for you men
Speaker 1: dating women that also are dating each other. Or throttles
Speaker 1: where the women have sex with each other. That's that's
Speaker 1: a new idea of polygamy. But that was never the
Speaker 1: idea of polygamy. Um the idea of polygamy was was
Speaker 1: completely different. It was it was based on foundations of
Speaker 1: nation building and like bringing people into the household, but
Speaker 1: doing it the right way. Right, So you know these
Speaker 1: new ideas and standards that people just create definitions and
Speaker 1: just put on work. That's why I always acting people
Speaker 1: what does that mean to you? Because I don't want
Speaker 1: to be having a conversation which we talked about two
Speaker 1: different truffles. Right, you have women that are bisexual, like
Speaker 1: again we're speaking with men. I don't think it's gonna work.
Speaker 1: I'll just put a blanket statement on it. I think
Speaker 1: that because I think everything in a long time, right,
Speaker 1: It's like everybody got all these new concepts of how
Speaker 1: they want to run businesses. But then you've got people
Speaker 1: that's been running business for thirty fifty years and these
Speaker 1: always they come and they go right, even you know
Speaker 1: in uh in the stock trading world, right, people can
Speaker 1: have successful ways they go about making a million dollars,
Speaker 1: two million dollars, but can they do it again? Right?
Speaker 1: And so a lot of people are going for can
Speaker 1: things satisfy my desires in the short term? So so
Speaker 1: are you then saying you're a fan of monogamy for
Speaker 1: two people? I am yes. I mean because I think
Speaker 1: that that's where you first learn yourself and you learn
Speaker 1: discipline and you learn relationship. Is I think everything else
Speaker 1: is you're not wanting to learn yourself in that and
Speaker 1: you want to throw in all of these other uh circumstance.
Speaker 1: What about a couple that get some pussy just the
Speaker 1: vacation you go to Vegas? She cut. Do you think
Speaker 1: that can ruin when couples start exploring, because we see
Speaker 1: that a lot couple of a lot of couples like that,
Speaker 1: A lot of couples that have started exploring threesomes have
Speaker 1: been ruined because of that in a long term. They
Speaker 1: think that it's cool in the short term, and then
Speaker 1: they realized, like damn, it wasn't for me or the
Speaker 1: other person wants to consistently have that thing happen, And
Speaker 1: now you know emotionally and spiritually that relationship is not
Speaker 1: the same. The thing about you know, relationships is that
Speaker 1: you build a certain integrity. Right. Integrity is the foundation
Speaker 1: of something, right, it is what it's made of. When
Speaker 1: you add somebody else in that, they disrupt the integrity
Speaker 1: of that. So it's no longer the same thing that
Speaker 1: you are initially built. Adding them to the relationship into
Speaker 1: the sex, because once you're adding them into the sex,
Speaker 1: you're adding them into the most powerful part of the relationship. Right. Physically,
Speaker 1: we got memories as well, not just mentally, so our
Speaker 1: body remembers the people that we with, We remember the
Speaker 1: circumstances that were in So sex is one of the
Speaker 1: most powerful part of the relationships. So if you add
Speaker 1: somebody in there, even casually, they're out part of that
Speaker 1: relationship history. You know what I'm saying. Your relationship got
Speaker 1: a blockchain. They don't forget. It's called the cock chain.
Speaker 1: All right, I was Do you feel like we went
Speaker 1: easy on you? No, I went easy on y'all. Know what,
Speaker 1: I ll get people what they want. What's your favorite position?
Speaker 1: Man um on the throne? You know, I'm telling ball,
Speaker 1: I just like being a nice thought leader. You know
Speaker 1: what I'm saying, teaching people the game, you know, as
Speaker 1: a black guy from you. And it can't be communication. Man,
Speaker 1: I would say, massage beforehand. You understand me. If you
Speaker 1: give each other massages, you understand me. It changes the
Speaker 1: dynamics of sex. It electrically charges and connect y'all sound
Speaker 1: like this is disgusting. You are him? This is so weird. Hey,
Speaker 1: where I gotta go? Because listen secrets. But listen, No,
Speaker 1: that's that's that's that's been a secret throughout time. This
Speaker 1: is the thing about sex is the oldest thing we've
Speaker 1: ever done. And then to stretch you after. That's another
Speaker 1: thing you before stretching. Chill, chill, chill, chill, chill. No,
Speaker 1: but for real though, because listen, Sexually, the massage creates
Speaker 1: a deeper intimate connection. Now, if you want to go
Speaker 1: to a whole another level, you understand me, you might
Speaker 1: want to medit. No, listen, no, listen. You all already
Speaker 1: talked about all of the physical stuff, so I'm gonna
Speaker 1: give you some of the spiritual go ahead. So you know,
Speaker 1: y'all sitting close to each other on the end of
Speaker 1: the bed, y'all got some of the tents. Y'all can
Speaker 1: be naked or with y'all you know, you don't have
Speaker 1: to be naked before. And but it got full clothing
Speaker 1: y'all in the bit you know, talking about so the
Speaker 1: street clothes, No, not at all, right, So then y'all
Speaker 1: got the music flowing. You know what I'm saying, put
Speaker 1: on some radio hypsi and drum music. Gyps and drums
Speaker 1: like you don't talk to like Joe Brent fire has Well,
Speaker 1: I ain't at I ain't going into my playlist. What
Speaker 1: I'm saying is you're throwing some of that music. So
Speaker 1: now y'all cat in the same vibration, y'all in the
Speaker 1: same mental space, because y'all, let's say if you had
Speaker 1: your own day, he had his own day. Y'all can
Speaker 1: be in two completely different mental planes. So what y'all
Speaker 1: doing is y'all connecting right on the same mental plane
Speaker 1: and spiritual plane. Then y'all connecting on the physical plane.
Speaker 1: You don't talking about man, you're talking about the sex
Speaker 1: or the medic It could be, it could be sure,
Speaker 1: it could be five minutes, you know what I'm saying.
Speaker 1: It could be to him and depending on y'all, but
Speaker 1: it doesn't have to go that long. But it's like
Speaker 1: you all the sort of like visualizing connecting together, right,
Speaker 1: and so creating that connection beforehand, then you are going
Speaker 1: into the most electrical thing that human beings can do, right,
Speaker 1: which has provide each other pleasure. You understand me, And
Speaker 1: that's one of the highest states of joy. So I
Speaker 1: believe that instead of you are bringing the world into
Speaker 1: your bedroom from all of the thoughts, ideas and things,
Speaker 1: you're in a calm state when you have sex, so
Speaker 1: you're not passing along with your problems and issues. You
Speaker 1: understand me, That's why a lot of people may like smoke,
Speaker 1: and it makes the man go. He go go longer
Speaker 1: because he's calmer. Right, So when the sexes are riled up,
Speaker 1: that's when the man starts to have an orgasm and ejaculate.
Speaker 1: But if you come into a calmer state, now you
Speaker 1: know you can handle what can we do? If it's
Speaker 1: not Egyptian drums, that might freaking it ain't gotta just
Speaker 1: be Egyptian. It could be ocean ways, could be nature sounds,
Speaker 1: it could be anything. And then y'all can go into
Speaker 1: y'all playlist or whatever y'all want to put off. They
Speaker 1: can just talk about me because I was like, I
Speaker 1: don't do the stars and moon shap He's like, nigger,
Speaker 1: you put on galaxy lights and you know you gotta
Speaker 1: do the cost of energies. You know what I'm talking about.
Speaker 1: But that's that's the key though. But see that's what
Speaker 1: I'm saying. So you know women that got the plants
Speaker 1: and she got the oils, and you know, she man,
Speaker 1: let's talk about the plants, and that's life because listen, plants.
Speaker 1: Lets me know at least an aspect that you're nurturing,
Speaker 1: You understand, because you gotta consistently water plants. For a
Speaker 1: woman to be in a relationship with a man, she
Speaker 1: gotta water him as well. That ain't work. That's regular,
Speaker 1: that's regular stuff. See, this is this is femininity, is
Speaker 1: what I'm telling you. That way. You gotta be feminine
Speaker 1: to think that way. You know what I'm saying man
Speaker 1: to look at women in that way? No, you're just
Speaker 1: gonna be masculine and feminine. I think this idea, like
Speaker 1: woke mean so many different things to so many people.
Speaker 1: Some people say woke is the new sleep, Woke is
Speaker 1: political ships hate. I mean woke as far as like,
Speaker 1: I don't know if men have ever came at home
Speaker 1: and they always comment on my plans because there's a lot,
Speaker 1: but ever came in and said you're a nurturer because
Speaker 1: there are plans? No, I don't think conscious thing. It's
Speaker 1: like when you go into a woman's atmosphere, it just
Speaker 1: should be a certain type of energy because that's your energy. Right.
Speaker 1: If you come in there and there's no life in there,
Speaker 1: how you gonna bring life to me? You know I'm
Speaker 1: talking about if you go in there there's no food
Speaker 1: in the kitchen, You understand me? I know you don't cook, right,
Speaker 1: So these are subconscious things that we noticed a woman having,
Speaker 1: like the plants and the crystals and all of those
Speaker 1: different things. That's how she charges herself up right, A
Speaker 1: woman has a different responsibility than man. Y'all have a wound.
Speaker 1: We don't have that. So those different things that you
Speaker 1: have to do to take care of that wound, because
Speaker 1: you're going to bring life, you have the ability to
Speaker 1: bring life. You are completely more emotionally available than man
Speaker 1: because you have a woe, right, So you produce different
Speaker 1: estrogen and different chemicals. So your environment should be a
Speaker 1: reflection of your nature. Right the same way, if you're
Speaker 1: going too a man's home and everything is pink, it's
Speaker 1: not reflective of his nature. You don't want that kind
Speaker 1: of man. I don't want a dirty when I know
Speaker 1: that when they have a clean when you see because
Speaker 1: also that's that's a I think that's very masculine as well,
Speaker 1: because it's very logical, right, clean cleanliness, You understand me,
Speaker 1: because now it's it's like a man when he wants
Speaker 1: to do something going to O C D. I need
Speaker 1: everything to be in perfect state so I can think.
Speaker 1: So what you're looking at is you're looking at a
Speaker 1: chamber of thoughts like this is a thinking man's room
Speaker 1: unless it's like a creative and then they can work
Speaker 1: in different chaos. Yeah, I sick another night and I
Speaker 1: was like, oh, I'll take a picture of the plate
Speaker 1: when I've done this thing. Was like, m that doesn't
Speaker 1: really do anything for me. Send me a picture of
Speaker 1: the kitchen. Think cleaned, all the all the pots of pads,
Speaker 1: I sort of guy, all the pots of players, Show
Speaker 1: me a clean think that actually is? What with your
Speaker 1: dating there? Well? You know, I think it's an interesting
Speaker 1: question to pose of as someone that doesn't want kids
Speaker 1: or marriage, but its dating a Muslim man? How do
Speaker 1: you make sure that does he ever complain about that?
Speaker 1: Because like he's been happy in his relationship with you.
Speaker 1: What I'm saying like, does he ever feel like he's unfulfilled?
Speaker 1: Because those are some of the things that you're saying,
Speaker 1: that black musliman one that depends on what his vision is,
Speaker 1: you understand me. I think that the idea for most
Speaker 1: men is you got a vision that your woman is
Speaker 1: going to produce children because you want to you want
Speaker 1: to reproduce yourself. That's legacy, right, That's that's a very
Speaker 1: high standard of manhood. Right, So when you talk to anybody,
Speaker 1: you gotta ask them what their long term vision is
Speaker 1: because for me, I can tell when the relationship don't
Speaker 1: work is when they don't have alignment, right if there
Speaker 1: are non negotiables that I have on the table and
Speaker 1: you have some on the table and there's nothing else
Speaker 1: to go from me non negotiable because I think that's
Speaker 1: also just an unfair way to view women, knowing that
Speaker 1: so many have fertility issues and can't create life. Um,
Speaker 1: And so to me, it has more to do not
Speaker 1: even with religion, but more so what you want out
Speaker 1: of partnership, not even family building, just because I do know,
Speaker 1: like and that's the conversation I've had with so many
Speaker 1: of my friends that I feel as though, well, what
Speaker 1: is my value with men if I can't create life?
Speaker 1: And so yeah, I mean, I still just want to
Speaker 1: be very clear that that's that's every woman can So
Speaker 1: every woman can't. But that's a sub topic, and I
Speaker 1: think that's a very much smaller percentage that people make
Speaker 1: decisions from, right, people that have reproductive issues, and that's
Speaker 1: completely different. That is a physical thing. You're talking about
Speaker 1: people that just don't want to have children because that's
Speaker 1: part of their beliefs, you understand me, and they don't.
Speaker 1: They don't want to. And I also don't want it
Speaker 1: to be conflated because some people can use that argument
Speaker 1: when it has nothing to do with the reason why
Speaker 1: they don't want to have children. Are you. Are you
Speaker 1: with like new reproductive ways like egg freezing in? I
Speaker 1: mean I wouldn't. I mean for people that need it, Yeah,
Speaker 1: the people that really want to have children, if they
Speaker 1: like adopted and figuring out all of these different stuff
Speaker 1: that's on them. But I feel like as a as
Speaker 1: an alternative because of the way you want your lifestyle
Speaker 1: to be, I'm not cool with it. You know what
Speaker 1: I gotta say. You impressed me with that answer because
Speaker 1: you're not as all the way as I thought you were.
Speaker 1: I don't appreciate women who may believe in science or
Speaker 1: not can't be empathetic enough to understand why women would
Speaker 1: want to make that choice. Yeah, I mean, I'm multidimensional.
Speaker 1: I just look at everything, not from my perspective. I
Speaker 1: look at everybody perspective. I'm not just talking to people
Speaker 1: who think like me. I'm talking to the world. So
Speaker 1: if I'm talking to the world. I'm thinking of, like,
Speaker 1: what is a circumstance in a condition where this would
Speaker 1: be acceptable because this person doesn't have the same ability
Speaker 1: like every other human being. Then yeah, but I feel
Speaker 1: like once it becomes an alternative right because of lifestyle,
Speaker 1: then that's you want to stay skinny. No, it's very
Speaker 1: important for men to hear you say that seriously. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I think it's I think too many people do use
Speaker 1: the excuses of using like modern ways, and then they
Speaker 1: start throwing in statistics and stuff that have nothing to
Speaker 1: do with them, right, and so they actually disrespect the
Speaker 1: people that actually need those alternatives because it has nothing
Speaker 1: to do what they need. I told Mandy on a
Speaker 1: Patreon episode recently that I just found out I had
Speaker 1: five braids and the doctor told me I gotta freeze
Speaker 1: my eggs. And I told one of my male friends
Speaker 1: and he was like, You're gonna meet so many men
Speaker 1: that ain't gon gonna with you after that, And I'm like, yo,
Speaker 1: Like I couldn't even believe he said that to me
Speaker 1: instead of saying like, sorry, that happens to you. But
Speaker 1: with steady unlike people want natural kids, I'm like the
Speaker 1: ag freason means I can still carry the kids. I mean,
Speaker 1: just today, I feel like I don't know what men
Speaker 1: and women won't out there. I think people have all
Speaker 1: sort of different things that they want. Now I'm surprised
Speaker 1: every single day I learned something that you did, so
Speaker 1: I can't say what men and women don't want. I
Speaker 1: feel like these alternative lifestyles that I'm seeing every single
Speaker 1: day is let me know that they don't even know
Speaker 1: what they want. What's something alternative you think you do?
Speaker 1: I ain't doing no alternatives. I am no alternative. Well
Speaker 1: before we get out, but I'm gonna say this. I
Speaker 1: feel like being uh, the type of like black guy
Speaker 1: that I am, masculine energy that I am. I'm already
Speaker 1: to alternative to society because I feel like this is
Speaker 1: no longer the norm. I'm the exception. Now you understand me.
Speaker 1: And so being like myself is where young men are
Speaker 1: trying to get themselves up to right because I grew
Speaker 1: up with a different kind of foundation. I grew up
Speaker 1: in the state where I've seen black men with money
Speaker 1: and power and consciousness right and business and entrepreneurship. Right.
Speaker 1: I I look and I study the great so for me,
Speaker 1: I'm of this the one percent on the planet Earth.
Speaker 1: I'm not in representation of the average male, you understand me.
Speaker 1: So I'm trying to teach to be above average. I am,
Speaker 1: and that's why I'm a good representation because you know, um,
Speaker 1: I'm teaching people how to walk in their power, how
Speaker 1: to think with power. And at the same time, I
Speaker 1: don't make excuses for ship. Understand me, everything I got
Speaker 1: is because I went and built it myself. I want
Speaker 1: to learn something and then I did something about them.
Speaker 1: Nothing was given. There's no wars given, there was no
Speaker 1: doors open. That's why I made a tweet the other day.
Speaker 1: It's like, it ain't no more O g s out here,
Speaker 1: and I wasn't talking about like it ain't old people
Speaker 1: that give advice. It's plenty of them, but it ain't
Speaker 1: people that is in industries that's opening the doors and
Speaker 1: providing opportunities for younger generation because they see that potential
Speaker 1: and they want to help guide them in that space.
Speaker 1: So for me, what I do is I actually educate
Speaker 1: and I teach people. And now our goal is to
Speaker 1: open up some type of opportunities that I didn't have.
Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying because I do want to
Speaker 1: duplicate myself. It shouldn't just be one fine guy walking around.
Speaker 1: You can't do that ship without let it go. I
Speaker 1: feel like the average person should stop chasing sex right now, right,
Speaker 1: men and women like I feel like this is a
Speaker 1: very important season for you to discipline yourself. We're going
Speaker 1: in a recession, possibly a global depression, right, and a
Speaker 1: lot of people spend money just on trying to increase
Speaker 1: their eyes and having sex. So let's be clear, we
Speaker 1: to keep watching this show. Okay, y'all keep watching the show,
Speaker 1: but you don't need to keep watching them hosts. All right,
Speaker 1: that's this is a real I'm very serious though, because
Speaker 1: I feel like a lot of young men out there
Speaker 1: chasing sex and a lot of women out there chasing sex. Right,
Speaker 1: And that ambitious energy that you put towards sex, if
Speaker 1: it was put towards business or skill development, you will
Speaker 1: be in a much better place, right. You will are value.
Speaker 1: Don't focus too much, don't be too infous. No, I mean,
Speaker 1: I'm not gonna tell women to not be too ambitious.
Speaker 1: I just want to say, make sure you develop yourself feminine. Right,
Speaker 1: there's a soft business life as well, right, where you're
Speaker 1: not trying to become a man in business. You want
Speaker 1: to become a woman in business. And I think early
Speaker 1: on women were trying to become just like men in business,
Speaker 1: and now I think the new turn of the century
Speaker 1: is how do I become how do I be feminine
Speaker 1: in business? At the same time, because the example of
Speaker 1: aspiration was white man, I want to be a CEO,
Speaker 1: so that act just like a white man. So when
Speaker 1: you bring that energy back to the household, I want that.
Speaker 1: I want feminate energy. That's what attracts me. I do
Speaker 1: think there's a place for both. Like, um, there's this
Speaker 1: chick I was getting into it with online who said
Speaker 1: women aren't good leaders and or shouldn't be leaders, that
Speaker 1: she's a lazy leader. She said women shouldn't be leaders.
Speaker 1: There's there's no way for that. We need rules and protocol.
Speaker 1: But I gotta be real, like, I think that's a
Speaker 1: really weak argument. And Mandy and I were saying, like,
Speaker 1: if maybe she talked about being a housewife or something
Speaker 1: like that, maybe that would make sense. But like, if
Speaker 1: you won't work, I do think you should be absolutely
Speaker 1: the best at what you do. I'm not out here
Speaker 1: to just be second fiddle to anybody, Like, no matter
Speaker 1: what I do, I'm going to be the best of
Speaker 1: the best, and that's probably why I am a leader
Speaker 1: and what I do. However, I think that encouraging women
Speaker 1: to lead has opened a lot of those stories you
Speaker 1: were talking about when you talked about giving people opportunities.
Speaker 1: That's my real goal. First it was to get money,
Speaker 1: and then I realized, now I got what I want,
Speaker 1: and I love growing it for others. And I think
Speaker 1: we've got to give black women a lot more credit
Speaker 1: as they're hiring an alarming rates and black themen are
Speaker 1: doing a really good job at keeping Ship black. I've
Speaker 1: been giving out so much money. I know you talked
Speaker 1: about Kenya Barry is recently about putting l g B
Speaker 1: t Q people in and Asian people and ship. But
Speaker 1: I work for him and I've managed seven figure budgets
Speaker 1: and I have yet to cut somebody white a check,
Speaker 1: like you know it's your cutty black Muslims from checks talk.
Speaker 1: But my point is like, we've definitely got to give
Speaker 1: these black women some credit. That's why I don't. I
Speaker 1: don't have no hate towards no black women. I love
Speaker 1: black women. You understand me. And I love to see
Speaker 1: successful black women. I just don't like how media pits
Speaker 1: it against each other. You understand, it doesn't have to
Speaker 1: be that black women's success represents black men failures at
Speaker 1: all like that. And I think that that's the key
Speaker 1: one we're talking about it because if we don't own
Speaker 1: the media, and black men don't own the media, black
Speaker 1: women don't own the media, so we don't own the
Speaker 1: narrative that we even discuss, right, And I think that
Speaker 1: that's the most dangerous thing because they control what we
Speaker 1: think about each other because they put out these arguments
Speaker 1: in these conflicts and they keep us talking about it
Speaker 1: as if that's the normal issue that exists in our
Speaker 1: society and on the average day and basis, a black
Speaker 1: man knows a black woman that he gets along with,
Speaker 1: that he builds with, you understand me. And if those
Speaker 1: was highlighted more, it would be more examples for people
Speaker 1: to follow, people to watch, and people to go after.
Speaker 1: But because it's the negative bullshit that's being pushed by
Speaker 1: you know, these companies, therefore, we don't even look at
Speaker 1: each other as brother and sister and family matters anymore.
Speaker 1: Are you should we snap? I mean, it was poetic
Speaker 1: tell us tell people where to find you. And you
Speaker 1: have a podcast, right yeah, Um, it's a talk show
Speaker 1: more than a podcast. What's the difference. Well, because it's
Speaker 1: more of a visual experience more than anything. If you
Speaker 1: go look at all of your talk shows back in
Speaker 1: the day, right, whether it was Oprah or whether it
Speaker 1: was I don't know, any talk show you think of,
Speaker 1: we rival them. You understand me at a high level,
Speaker 1: like when you watch it, it's a it's a visual
Speaker 1: experience with the b row. It's like watching the documentary.
Speaker 1: You understand me. So, um, right now, we're just getting
Speaker 1: more into the audio experience, right to make sure that
Speaker 1: more people are listening to it as well. Audio got
Speaker 1: the dollars that YouTube CP don't think. Look I asked,
Speaker 1: I asked Charlotte Magne this morning about that. You understand me,
Speaker 1: And I asked the topio from Revolt and that was
Speaker 1: giving me the game on the video and the audio side.
Speaker 1: Because video, I think we had like five million viewers
Speaker 1: last month. You understand me. So now it's trying to
Speaker 1: get up the audio side's interesting thing. Like we remember
Speaker 1: academics went on and said nobody listened to horrible decisions
Speaker 1: thinging ship because he's a YouTube guy and Charlotte Magne
Speaker 1: got on brilliant. It was like, you don't really understand.
Speaker 1: And I had a meeting. You know, I was telling
Speaker 1: you about it before, but this dude was saying, like,
Speaker 1: I know that you're building these video podcasts, but I
Speaker 1: can't explain to you how much higher the CPM is
Speaker 1: for audio. Like people that listen to audio get paid
Speaker 1: so much more because people find you when clicking on
Speaker 1: a video, so taking them back, it's we're weird. I
Speaker 1: think the I think it's going to turn where people
Speaker 1: see the value and video more um and certain production
Speaker 1: studios and distribution do still right now, like revort' is more.
Speaker 1: I think Focus where they value video a lot. They're
Speaker 1: getting a podcasts well, well they're they're building it out
Speaker 1: right now. But the audio right now, man, that's key.
Speaker 1: I think everybody should have a podcast. I don't think
Speaker 1: you can have enough. I just think that the average
Speaker 1: podcast not even getting that many listens in the first place.
Speaker 1: What what what what they get is they make people
Speaker 1: feel like it's over saturated and it's not right. The
Speaker 1: most industries are not over saturated. Music writing, a book, podcast,
Speaker 1: every the average person should have those things, right. Number one,
Speaker 1: it is a way for if you have a business,
Speaker 1: you should have a podcast. It's a way for people
Speaker 1: to hear about your business, throwing commercials in it. I
Speaker 1: put mom, we started off, I only had commercials for
Speaker 1: my business in there. Right, you're talking about millions and
Speaker 1: millions of views. So now fifteen twenty million views later,
Speaker 1: those are fifteen twenty million people that now know about
Speaker 1: my products, know about my services. So if without that media,
Speaker 1: let's say the economy starts to slow down in other areas,
Speaker 1: I can still use media to help give me a boost.
Speaker 1: So if you don't have that, then you don't have
Speaker 1: power in the space nowhere. You gotta go pay somebody
Speaker 1: else to try to get the attention. So attention is
Speaker 1: the one commodity that, regardless of what's going on in
Speaker 1: the world, it continues to increase in value. Yeah, I mean,
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