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Speaker 1: Guess what decision we're about to make a horrible decisions. Welcome,

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Speaker 1: Oh you're right by bad Grand Rising King and Queens.

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Speaker 1: Welcome to another episode of Horrid Blood. This is the Yones.

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Speaker 1: We are joined today by a very special guests. We

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Speaker 1: are I'm weasing, oh yeah, and I'm Mandy by the way,

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Speaker 1: which I'm don'ta be real. I don't know if you

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Speaker 1: have l a energy to me. I was very surprised

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Speaker 1: that you live here from oh are you? It was

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Speaker 1: given what kind of energy? This is very healthy as well?

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Speaker 1: What is je What does that do? Because, like I've

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Speaker 1: been told, the people would beat juice does? But a man,

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Speaker 1: what does watermelon? Juice? Too funny? You know what I'm saying.

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Speaker 1: Put all of them nutrients inside, you know what I mean.

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Speaker 1: But let's keep it clean. It makes it tastes good.

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Speaker 1: Anything sweet, it filters out for your body. Really. Oh yeah,

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Speaker 1: have you ever want to like taste super super sweet?

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Speaker 1: Think about all the like vitamins they're giving to make

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Speaker 1: your pussy taste good. That's all bullshit. It's just sweetshit sugar.

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Speaker 1: It's bullshit. Just true or chocolate or candy like anything sweet. Now,

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Speaker 1: see what I mean process. Sorry, we don't gonna make

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Speaker 1: it that we got and I seen keys in the building.

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Speaker 1: I feel like we're all like podcast family in a

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Speaker 1: way because we're connected, except not really because we're not

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Speaker 1: as you know, hotel. Oh we hold are you but

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Speaker 1: you're not hop You just dressed like one. Listen, So

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Speaker 1: somebody pull up the phone. What this definition of hotel?

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Speaker 1: Here we go? Here we go? Not just I want

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Speaker 1: to know, because you know, for me talk about certain

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Speaker 1: conversations and words. I rat to know what it means

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Speaker 1: to you to be honest when I say hotep, I'm

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Speaker 1: making a joke in like spiritous way of like somebody

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Speaker 1: that's like spiritually conscious, but I mean close. Hotep for

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Speaker 1: those of you you know who don't know, is the

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Speaker 1: gyp and word that roughly translates as to be satisfied

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Speaker 1: at peace. The word also refers to an offering ritually

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Speaker 1: presented to a deity or dead person. Hence, be pleased,

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Speaker 1: be gracious, be at peace. You walked in and said peace,

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Speaker 1: Uh it is, and and then it just say hieroglyphics. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: a person would say hotel, it's a piece to be

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Speaker 1: at pieces kind of like to be stoic. Right, it's

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Speaker 1: just a state of being if anything, right, So damn

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Speaker 1: real positive, you feel me. But that's that's why you know,

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Speaker 1: when I start hearing the word hotep, it's more derogatory

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Speaker 1: term in the way that people UH talk about people

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Speaker 1: that I believe come off eccentrically conscious or I think

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Speaker 1: what I've seen hotep when I learned the word. At first,

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Speaker 1: it was dudes that were coming from this like women

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Speaker 1: need to not talk, blahlah blah, and then we just

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Speaker 1: throw the word hotep at them. But you don't think

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Speaker 1: that you threw that on. So it was a very

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Speaker 1: small percentage of man and then they threw it and

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Speaker 1: cast a wide net. Right, what are you known for it? Like? Um,

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Speaker 1: I think I'm mostly known just being the thought leader. Man.

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Speaker 1: I I'm one who education leaders too. Oh that's a

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Speaker 1: great time leaders over here. But I think right now

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Speaker 1: it's more so being known as you know, one of

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Speaker 1: we have the high level conversations which is booming right now.

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Speaker 1: And then of course, you know, as a thought leader,

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Speaker 1: you have to be somebody who actually got books. You

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Speaker 1: a multiple industry. So I'm an entrepreneur. I teach financial

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Speaker 1: education as far as spiritual education, physical and sometimes political

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Speaker 1: at the same time. Yeah, I learned it. Um I

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Speaker 1: day traders like them? Niggas was on Twitter times day

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Speaker 1: traders is making money right now? But no, because listen

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Speaker 1: right now, whether it's stocks or crypto, if you trade,

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Speaker 1: this is your market right long term, this might not

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Speaker 1: be your market because you're gonna see your portfolio down,

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Speaker 1: but if you if you are a trader, you're making

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Speaker 1: a lot of money during this market. They had one

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Speaker 1: of the craziest days just the other week, you understand me,

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Speaker 1: where the market just shot up. I know me personally,

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Speaker 1: right and I know other people that are making money

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Speaker 1: If you don't know how to trade, it isn't much

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Speaker 1: harder market because you're not gonna be as lucky. But

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Speaker 1: if you actually had the skill set, this is the

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Speaker 1: best market for you to be trading crypto or stocks. Now,

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Speaker 1: Can I ask you that they have to be on

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Speaker 1: Like what is it like? I mean, I guess you

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Speaker 1: of relationship, why them niggas like live on the computer

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Speaker 1: day market, but for the most part, people have targets

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Speaker 1: that they want to make for out the day. How

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Speaker 1: people set a certain of the trades, especially if you trade, um,

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Speaker 1: the stock market and you're doing options, you're mostly gonna

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Speaker 1: The market if you're on this side of the West coast,

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Speaker 1: Somebody like Mark Ian gonna tell you to study fifty

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Speaker 1: just set up like Mark bro At cheat code in them.

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Speaker 1: And then if you're doing something like sex work, is

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Speaker 1: probably the work feel but I don't know, it may

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Speaker 1: So obviously the ladies love you because I see him

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Speaker 1: on every time I click on your live I'd be like,

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Speaker 1: who we learned about some money down? So I just

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Speaker 1: want you to take your clothes off? Is this no? Lie?

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Speaker 1: Do people think that you're like this is a front

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Speaker 1: like that, like, oh, you're be getting all the hose

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Speaker 1: long in front of the people, you know. I mean,

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Speaker 1: I feel like if you, uh, nineteen, you know what?

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Speaker 1: You know what? Men aren't only able to mother him

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Speaker 1: my Christ Year's Christ Okay, that's next year for me

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Speaker 1: then right now. But no, I've never had that issue

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Speaker 1: just because I've been doing this so long in front

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Speaker 1: that's fair. Consistency is key. Is that one of the nineteen?

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Speaker 1: I don't think it's nothing wrong with men giving their

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Speaker 1: That's what we want the most, that's what we think

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Speaker 1: You gotta keep in mind too, there especially very demeaning.

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Speaker 1: A lot of those guys really put women down. I

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Speaker 1: But there's pretty sure that there's plenty of men that's

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Speaker 1: not the totality of what's happening. I know they got

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Speaker 1: women that are speaking a man that can do those things,

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Speaker 1: how do you show up in your opinion? Because we

427
00:21:35,840 --> 00:21:37,960
Speaker 1: could answer this all day, But as you who are

428
00:21:38,280 --> 00:21:41,320
Speaker 1: you know? With are interest in the women, how do

429
00:21:41,440 --> 00:21:44,200
Speaker 1: you then show up for your for your mates and

430
00:21:44,320 --> 00:21:46,280
Speaker 1: still provide for yourself? Like I don't want to wait

431
00:21:46,640 --> 00:21:49,280
Speaker 1: five years at twenty years old for a negative Just

432
00:21:49,400 --> 00:21:51,440
Speaker 1: show up when frankly a lot of them man should.

433
00:21:51,480 --> 00:21:53,159
Speaker 1: Let's just be real. It's like, why can't I be

434
00:21:53,240 --> 00:21:54,879
Speaker 1: building my empire too? I want a nice house, I

435
00:21:54,880 --> 00:21:57,200
Speaker 1: want a vacation with my friends. What am I supposed

436
00:21:57,240 --> 00:21:59,800
Speaker 1: to do? Am I not supposed to build while waiting

437
00:21:59,840 --> 00:22:02,639
Speaker 1: for Are you know? Are you supposed to be? But

438
00:22:02,920 --> 00:22:06,280
Speaker 1: listen that whole entire time, you understand me, because what

439
00:22:06,440 --> 00:22:10,199
Speaker 1: you're talking about is building all of your ambitions. Right.

440
00:22:10,760 --> 00:22:12,600
Speaker 1: When a man looks for for the most part, when

441
00:22:12,640 --> 00:22:14,199
Speaker 1: you see a woman trying to look at like who

442
00:22:14,320 --> 00:22:17,720
Speaker 1: are you? Though? You understand me, like because how much

443
00:22:17,760 --> 00:22:19,320
Speaker 1: money you got and all of that ship, that's not

444
00:22:19,480 --> 00:22:22,040
Speaker 1: what makes me attracted to you. What I'm saying, are

445
00:22:22,160 --> 00:22:24,320
Speaker 1: you a nurturing person? Are you a good person? Are

446
00:22:24,359 --> 00:22:27,600
Speaker 1: you a feminine person? Like? Who are you? At your core?

447
00:22:27,920 --> 00:22:30,760
Speaker 1: You're talking about things as far as ambition and legacy.

448
00:22:30,880 --> 00:22:33,480
Speaker 1: Those are masculine things. Those are very logical things that

449
00:22:33,520 --> 00:22:36,440
Speaker 1: you want to provide for yourself. Those are masculine things well,

450
00:22:36,520 --> 00:22:40,600
Speaker 1: because ambition is masculine energy. We all have masculine, feminine energy,

451
00:22:40,680 --> 00:22:45,200
Speaker 1: but ambition to go out there material things like you know,

452
00:22:45,320 --> 00:22:47,240
Speaker 1: I feel like even like a lot of things that

453
00:22:47,359 --> 00:22:50,359
Speaker 1: we do is masculine. Of things we do is feminine right.

454
00:22:50,480 --> 00:22:52,480
Speaker 1: The way we dress ourselves and in the way we

455
00:22:52,560 --> 00:22:55,520
Speaker 1: express ourselves, that's a feminine thing. Fashion is feminine right,

456
00:22:56,000 --> 00:22:58,359
Speaker 1: But going to get money that's more of a masculine

457
00:22:58,400 --> 00:23:00,320
Speaker 1: pursuit in the way we go about doing it. Building

458
00:23:00,400 --> 00:23:03,920
Speaker 1: business is a masculine disposition. That's a logical endeavor. It

459
00:23:03,960 --> 00:23:06,560
Speaker 1: doesn't require emotions to build business. I want to throw

460
00:23:06,640 --> 00:23:08,639
Speaker 1: something at you that I thought about years ago. We

461
00:23:08,720 --> 00:23:10,840
Speaker 1: had episode with my mom, and my mom never worked.

462
00:23:10,880 --> 00:23:14,200
Speaker 1: She was a housewife and she would always tell me like, Okay,

463
00:23:14,240 --> 00:23:16,080
Speaker 1: we don't eat until daddy comes home. We gotta set

464
00:23:16,119 --> 00:23:17,720
Speaker 1: his play, we gotta do this. And we had a

465
00:23:17,720 --> 00:23:19,760
Speaker 1: episode with my mom where I cooked for my ex

466
00:23:19,800 --> 00:23:21,920
Speaker 1: remember that I ended up dating him for a few years.

467
00:23:21,960 --> 00:23:25,440
Speaker 1: But Mandy was like, no fucking way, we should not

468
00:23:25,560 --> 00:23:27,439
Speaker 1: be cooking, or you shouldn't be cooking for a nikodis

469
00:23:27,480 --> 00:23:29,080
Speaker 1: not your man. I was like, well, how I wanna

470
00:23:29,400 --> 00:23:31,080
Speaker 1: he comes over, he takes me to dinner. This is

471
00:23:31,160 --> 00:23:33,320
Speaker 1: my way to show him. And that was really what

472
00:23:33,480 --> 00:23:36,560
Speaker 1: my mom taught me to do. Now we've had split

473
00:23:36,640 --> 00:23:40,440
Speaker 1: comments on this, right where one why do these things

474
00:23:40,480 --> 00:23:42,400
Speaker 1: for a man that aren't you man yet? Right, he's

475
00:23:42,400 --> 00:23:45,000
Speaker 1: got the cow that he didn't buy it, so to speak,

476
00:23:45,080 --> 00:23:47,440
Speaker 1: something like that. And on the other end, in my brain,

477
00:23:47,560 --> 00:23:49,520
Speaker 1: I was like, well, I'm showing him I'm a good girlfriend.

478
00:23:49,680 --> 00:23:51,320
Speaker 1: But man, he's like, well, you're doing all this ship

479
00:23:51,520 --> 00:23:54,800
Speaker 1: before years girlfriend, right when you're a boss bitch. On

480
00:23:54,880 --> 00:23:56,560
Speaker 1: this side, he should be happy to be with a

481
00:23:56,600 --> 00:23:59,359
Speaker 1: woman like you. What is the role that women should

482
00:23:59,359 --> 00:24:02,320
Speaker 1: be taking when initially dating. Should they be showing up

483
00:24:02,880 --> 00:24:05,200
Speaker 1: all the way in their full selves like that. I

484
00:24:05,280 --> 00:24:07,600
Speaker 1: think that you show up whoever they are. I mean

485
00:24:07,720 --> 00:24:10,920
Speaker 1: that whole idea. And this is a trick back, like

486
00:24:11,000 --> 00:24:13,240
Speaker 1: if you gotta ask yourself, is that successful? Right? We

487
00:24:13,320 --> 00:24:14,920
Speaker 1: get a lot of advice from my parents that just

488
00:24:15,040 --> 00:24:19,200
Speaker 1: don't matter. It wasn't right. You understand me, and so

489
00:24:19,680 --> 00:24:22,840
Speaker 1: we will be remembering a lot of indoctrination and traditionalism

490
00:24:22,920 --> 00:24:25,520
Speaker 1: that your parents passed down from their parents and parents.

491
00:24:25,880 --> 00:24:28,240
Speaker 1: But that ship didn't matter. We want to see a

492
00:24:28,320 --> 00:24:30,840
Speaker 1: woman for who they are. If you're a cooker, then cook.

493
00:24:31,280 --> 00:24:33,640
Speaker 1: You understand me. Don't do it because you're in a relationship,

494
00:24:33,760 --> 00:24:35,560
Speaker 1: or not do it because you're not in a relationship.

495
00:24:35,880 --> 00:24:37,800
Speaker 1: If you're a woman that likes to cook, just cook,

496
00:24:37,920 --> 00:24:39,800
Speaker 1: and then I'm gonna see Okay, that's that's one of

497
00:24:39,840 --> 00:24:41,640
Speaker 1: the things I like about it. She likes to cook.

498
00:24:42,040 --> 00:24:44,080
Speaker 1: You understand me, don't It's like if you get with

499
00:24:44,160 --> 00:24:46,080
Speaker 1: a man you think it's spiritual, then you start faking

500
00:24:46,119 --> 00:24:48,760
Speaker 1: like you meditate every day. If that ain't, that ain't

501
00:24:48,760 --> 00:24:52,119
Speaker 1: what you do. I mean, I'm pretty sure you feel me.

502
00:24:52,440 --> 00:24:53,960
Speaker 1: I feel like people try to show up as a

503
00:24:54,040 --> 00:24:56,600
Speaker 1: reflection of what they think they want they partner to

504
00:24:56,640 --> 00:24:58,639
Speaker 1: see in them and what their partner is attracted to.

505
00:24:59,080 --> 00:25:00,920
Speaker 1: But I feel like if you off as your true self,

506
00:25:00,960 --> 00:25:02,879
Speaker 1: then you give a person an opportunity to like you

507
00:25:03,000 --> 00:25:06,320
Speaker 1: for you. You understand me, Because, like I said, maybe

508
00:25:06,359 --> 00:25:08,600
Speaker 1: a person could be impressed by the things that you've done,

509
00:25:08,640 --> 00:25:10,440
Speaker 1: but that's not the reason they gonna love you, you

510
00:25:10,560 --> 00:25:12,240
Speaker 1: understand me. They're gonna love you for how you treat

511
00:25:12,280 --> 00:25:14,320
Speaker 1: them or how you make them feel right. And so

512
00:25:14,680 --> 00:25:16,240
Speaker 1: that's the same thing with a man. If you're gonna

513
00:25:16,240 --> 00:25:18,080
Speaker 1: make a man feel good, he's gonna want that in

514
00:25:18,200 --> 00:25:21,320
Speaker 1: his life, you understand me. And it depends on his

515
00:25:21,480 --> 00:25:23,960
Speaker 1: level of maturity and development as a man, because every

516
00:25:24,040 --> 00:25:26,840
Speaker 1: man is different. So a lot of times women in

517
00:25:27,000 --> 00:25:30,120
Speaker 1: society speak on men like we are monolitht right. There's

518
00:25:30,320 --> 00:25:35,760
Speaker 1: varying degrees levels, educations, like ethnicities, backgrounds. Everybody is different

519
00:25:35,760 --> 00:25:38,680
Speaker 1: than their development. So it also may just be that

520
00:25:38,840 --> 00:25:41,640
Speaker 1: you may be attracted to men who are not fully developed,

521
00:25:42,080 --> 00:25:43,840
Speaker 1: you understand me. And so a lot of women are

522
00:25:43,880 --> 00:25:46,639
Speaker 1: not attracted to mature man. They attracted to, you know,

523
00:25:46,760 --> 00:25:49,240
Speaker 1: immature things, and then when they get in the relationship,

524
00:25:49,280 --> 00:25:51,719
Speaker 1: they want that man to be mature and it's like, damn, well,

525
00:25:51,760 --> 00:25:58,720
Speaker 1: that ain't why you want it. Let's talk about as

526
00:25:58,760 --> 00:26:02,720
Speaker 1: a man who feel like respects women. Let's talk about

527
00:26:03,240 --> 00:26:07,960
Speaker 1: whole asked next, because here's what's going on. Really spend

528
00:26:07,960 --> 00:26:10,480
Speaker 1: a lot of time thinking about them, but because I

529
00:26:10,560 --> 00:26:12,199
Speaker 1: think they really do need to hear from you. Right,

530
00:26:12,600 --> 00:26:15,880
Speaker 1: here's the here's the thing, define how asking. I'm gonna say,

531
00:26:16,359 --> 00:26:18,520
Speaker 1: a lot of the men today that have money have

532
00:26:18,720 --> 00:26:21,639
Speaker 1: access to a bunch of women. The more cloud the

533
00:26:21,720 --> 00:26:24,520
Speaker 1: more women you have, and we're attracted to the men

534
00:26:24,600 --> 00:26:27,320
Speaker 1: with money, right, the castanova. But at the same time,

535
00:26:28,040 --> 00:26:30,560
Speaker 1: are you really able to develop fully as a man

536
00:26:30,760 --> 00:26:33,240
Speaker 1: to that level that you're talking about if you running

537
00:26:33,240 --> 00:26:34,760
Speaker 1: around with a bunch of women? Do you think that

538
00:26:34,880 --> 00:26:38,280
Speaker 1: men are able to show up in their most masculine

539
00:26:38,359 --> 00:26:42,159
Speaker 1: energy if they've got ten or fifteen girls and freaking rotation?

540
00:26:42,480 --> 00:26:44,480
Speaker 1: Like do men with money having a bunch of women?

541
00:26:44,560 --> 00:26:46,280
Speaker 1: Is that something that's gonna come with it? Is that

542
00:26:46,359 --> 00:26:48,800
Speaker 1: something women should expect? Well, I think women are attracted

543
00:26:48,880 --> 00:26:51,720
Speaker 1: to money, you understand me, And so therefore men with

544
00:26:51,920 --> 00:26:53,720
Speaker 1: money off they have the options that have a lot

545
00:26:53,800 --> 00:26:56,680
Speaker 1: of women. Right, So that's just the reality. Now, but

546
00:26:56,760 --> 00:26:59,399
Speaker 1: that doesn't make you a man, right. I think you

547
00:26:59,480 --> 00:27:01,760
Speaker 1: gotta die on what is a man? Right? I think

548
00:27:01,840 --> 00:27:05,000
Speaker 1: that it's it's when a man is his principles, you know,

549
00:27:05,040 --> 00:27:06,879
Speaker 1: I mean it's his virtues and the things that he

550
00:27:06,960 --> 00:27:09,840
Speaker 1: believes in. That qualifies a man is the way he thinks. Right,

551
00:27:10,160 --> 00:27:12,480
Speaker 1: So to go from being a boy to a man,

552
00:27:12,920 --> 00:27:14,680
Speaker 1: that means that he's changed the way he thinks in

553
00:27:14,720 --> 00:27:17,800
Speaker 1: a way that he manages himself. He's developed himself into

554
00:27:17,880 --> 00:27:20,359
Speaker 1: this position. The problem is not a lot of women

555
00:27:20,400 --> 00:27:23,520
Speaker 1: know how to identify man. Right. So you're looking at

556
00:27:23,560 --> 00:27:27,640
Speaker 1: a male, right, who may still be maturely as a boy. Right,

557
00:27:27,800 --> 00:27:31,040
Speaker 1: and you may still be attracted to boyish things. You mean,

558
00:27:31,160 --> 00:27:33,000
Speaker 1: as a woman, that's what you want because you may

559
00:27:33,040 --> 00:27:38,040
Speaker 1: still be young and a girl. And yo, just saying,

560
00:27:38,119 --> 00:27:40,960
Speaker 1: I mean just the way a man dresses and the

561
00:27:41,280 --> 00:27:43,919
Speaker 1: money he has and the status he has. These are

562
00:27:43,960 --> 00:27:47,280
Speaker 1: more you know ship that we learned in high school. Right, popularity?

563
00:27:47,440 --> 00:27:49,320
Speaker 1: You understand me, who looks like they got some money?

564
00:27:49,359 --> 00:27:51,680
Speaker 1: And you know what other type of women are attracted

565
00:27:51,720 --> 00:27:54,480
Speaker 1: to him? Right? But does that man is that man respectful?

566
00:27:54,520 --> 00:27:57,760
Speaker 1: Does he have dignity, does he have couraged Is he intelligent?

567
00:27:57,960 --> 00:28:01,080
Speaker 1: Is he loyal right? Is he responsible? Is a discipline?

568
00:28:01,160 --> 00:28:04,160
Speaker 1: Is he focused those equalities of a man that most

569
00:28:04,200 --> 00:28:06,560
Speaker 1: women are not looking at to determine whether they're attracted

570
00:28:06,600 --> 00:28:08,320
Speaker 1: to worm and and I wanted to step in on

571
00:28:08,400 --> 00:28:11,760
Speaker 1: that as well, just because it's been something current. Uh.

572
00:28:12,280 --> 00:28:15,600
Speaker 1: Floyd Mayweather, who is one of those very wealthy men

573
00:28:15,680 --> 00:28:18,439
Speaker 1: with a lot of women, He recently took to um

574
00:28:19,160 --> 00:28:22,239
Speaker 1: his Instagram and put everybody always asks me when am

575
00:28:22,240 --> 00:28:24,680
Speaker 1: I getting married? Or why am I not married? I'm

576
00:28:24,720 --> 00:28:26,680
Speaker 1: not married for the same reason. The divorce rate is

577
00:28:26,720 --> 00:28:29,600
Speaker 1: so high. The only person I will truly trust is myself.

578
00:28:29,920 --> 00:28:33,080
Speaker 1: Therefore it eliminates disappointment. He said he has nothing against

579
00:28:33,119 --> 00:28:35,639
Speaker 1: people who are married. Those are just his personal beliefs.

580
00:28:36,000 --> 00:28:38,960
Speaker 1: He has multiple women, and Elie Choppa also just came

581
00:28:39,000 --> 00:28:42,480
Speaker 1: out and said that I want multiple women. We talked

582
00:28:42,480 --> 00:28:48,400
Speaker 1: about No that young boy he and he's he's like

583
00:28:48,480 --> 00:28:50,360
Speaker 1: twenty years old. He was in a relationship with a

584
00:28:50,680 --> 00:28:53,440
Speaker 1: woman who was like thirty and she thought that he

585
00:28:53,520 --> 00:28:57,880
Speaker 1: could she could convince him that he could be monogamous.

586
00:28:58,120 --> 00:29:00,960
Speaker 1: He went into the relationships saying I needed these multiple women.

587
00:29:01,240 --> 00:29:05,520
Speaker 1: And so because we do talk about non traditional relationships.

588
00:29:05,760 --> 00:29:07,600
Speaker 1: I also don't want to just throw it out there

589
00:29:08,040 --> 00:29:11,800
Speaker 1: that niggas who entertain multiple women with a lot of

590
00:29:11,880 --> 00:29:16,280
Speaker 1: money are stunted mature mature wise, because I don't think

591
00:29:16,280 --> 00:29:18,240
Speaker 1: they are. I think they're a little bit more honest

592
00:29:18,520 --> 00:29:20,800
Speaker 1: than the regular niggas that are saying that they could

593
00:29:20,800 --> 00:29:23,920
Speaker 1: be monogamous and they can't and they're cheating. So I

594
00:29:24,280 --> 00:29:27,000
Speaker 1: do just want to like distinguish that even the men

595
00:29:27,080 --> 00:29:29,960
Speaker 1: with money are very open about not only their access

596
00:29:30,000 --> 00:29:31,840
Speaker 1: but that they need multiple ways. But also then you

597
00:29:31,920 --> 00:29:33,800
Speaker 1: gotta take an account, man, if you are a man

598
00:29:33,920 --> 00:29:37,080
Speaker 1: that lives in to Dolan twenty two today, right, the

599
00:29:37,160 --> 00:29:39,520
Speaker 1: old reality is completely different than any other man in

600
00:29:39,520 --> 00:29:41,880
Speaker 1: any other period in time, Like no other men in

601
00:29:41,960 --> 00:29:44,200
Speaker 1: any other period when all the rules and construct was

602
00:29:44,280 --> 00:29:49,040
Speaker 1: created has social media, right this Actually it changes the

603
00:29:49,360 --> 00:29:52,560
Speaker 1: level of discipline and responsibility and focus that a man

604
00:29:52,640 --> 00:29:55,320
Speaker 1: will have when it comes to choosing a woman. That's

605
00:29:55,480 --> 00:30:00,480
Speaker 1: it's a fact, you understand, mex ain't of us see

606
00:30:00,520 --> 00:30:04,840
Speaker 1: all of the twerking in his life. Because I'm just

607
00:30:04,960 --> 00:30:10,320
Speaker 1: saying it's different. It's a really honest thing. Okay, because okay,

608
00:30:11,040 --> 00:30:14,680
Speaker 1: I agree, like I think temptation always exists, but like

609
00:30:15,120 --> 00:30:17,880
Speaker 1: I can't imagine knowing you could just click on her

610
00:30:17,920 --> 00:30:19,760
Speaker 1: and have her. You know what I'm saying, Like you

611
00:30:19,840 --> 00:30:22,640
Speaker 1: can now that is crazy. Players don't even got to

612
00:30:22,680 --> 00:30:24,760
Speaker 1: go to the club no more. They slide in d

613
00:30:24,960 --> 00:30:27,080
Speaker 1: M S. Bitch, pull up to the hotel. Nick is

614
00:30:27,160 --> 00:30:29,120
Speaker 1: not going out to dinners. They're not going to clubs.

615
00:30:30,160 --> 00:30:34,760
Speaker 1: Is A is a delivery service? We go Uber the

616
00:30:34,840 --> 00:30:40,479
Speaker 1: sex delivery service. Okay, I know that pizza. Now they

617
00:30:40,520 --> 00:30:45,360
Speaker 1: deliver women. Do you put on you're having a share ride?

618
00:30:45,440 --> 00:30:51,360
Speaker 1: Did you? I don't even get share rides only. I

619
00:30:51,480 --> 00:30:54,160
Speaker 1: do want to know have you ever had like a

620
00:30:54,240 --> 00:30:57,400
Speaker 1: whole phase and by that I mean just like sleeping

621
00:30:57,400 --> 00:31:00,600
Speaker 1: around having fun? Or is it difficult for you because

622
00:31:01,040 --> 00:31:03,479
Speaker 1: you do feel like you need to be spiritually connected

623
00:31:03,520 --> 00:31:06,040
Speaker 1: for women? Can you like just have on one night?

624
00:31:06,160 --> 00:31:08,400
Speaker 1: And you know, I'm from Oakland, man, So growing up

625
00:31:08,440 --> 00:31:10,680
Speaker 1: I got I got an older brother, you understand me.

626
00:31:10,720 --> 00:31:12,480
Speaker 1: He taught me the game at a young age. So

627
00:31:12,640 --> 00:31:15,000
Speaker 1: at a young age, I wanted to solve my royal

628
00:31:15,080 --> 00:31:17,600
Speaker 1: oats as well. And I looked at it that strikes

629
00:31:17,640 --> 00:31:20,440
Speaker 1: on the belt you feel royal. Look how you make

630
00:31:20,520 --> 00:31:28,320
Speaker 1: this ship. Sound ready understand me where I feel like

631
00:31:29,320 --> 00:31:34,120
Speaker 1: always once a far you understand me, you know, no

632
00:31:34,360 --> 00:31:39,160
Speaker 1: nice but yeah, I'm I'm a man. You understand imaculate being.

633
00:31:39,280 --> 00:31:41,640
Speaker 1: So can we go at a high level? You know,

634
00:31:41,760 --> 00:31:44,480
Speaker 1: I've always had women attracted to me at a high level.

635
00:31:44,560 --> 00:31:48,000
Speaker 1: You understand me. And I got multiple brothers. You understand me,

636
00:31:48,080 --> 00:31:50,320
Speaker 1: and they've always had that as well. And you know,

637
00:31:50,440 --> 00:31:52,520
Speaker 1: being from oakn California, learned how to speak very well

638
00:31:52,560 --> 00:31:55,000
Speaker 1: and communicate with women. He said, I love the conversations

639
00:31:56,000 --> 00:31:58,280
Speaker 1: that it ain't never been an issue. It's all I'm saying.

640
00:31:58,960 --> 00:32:01,600
Speaker 1: But see, but but listen because a lot of men

641
00:32:01,800 --> 00:32:05,520
Speaker 1: learn how to, you know, first get women through social media.

642
00:32:06,120 --> 00:32:08,880
Speaker 1: So that changed the dynamic psychologically or how they look

643
00:32:08,920 --> 00:32:11,520
Speaker 1: at women and how they look at themselves. Right about

644
00:32:11,560 --> 00:32:15,280
Speaker 1: our age though, we're the last reality, like you have

645
00:32:15,400 --> 00:32:18,040
Speaker 1: to go to the mall. Yeah, you eat the movie theaters.

646
00:32:18,520 --> 00:32:21,200
Speaker 1: You know that the man around thirty two to thirty

647
00:32:21,280 --> 00:32:23,360
Speaker 1: five recently because I've always seemed to be attracted them

648
00:32:23,360 --> 00:32:26,080
Speaker 1: in their forties and now I'm starting to like it

649
00:32:26,320 --> 00:32:28,640
Speaker 1: because they kind of own the ship that I'm on.

650
00:32:28,800 --> 00:32:31,360
Speaker 1: They'll still do something nice like leave me a voice

651
00:32:31,400 --> 00:32:33,600
Speaker 1: message or like not be scared to be a little

652
00:32:33,600 --> 00:32:37,479
Speaker 1: about man, you just went a voice message, a lot

653
00:32:37,560 --> 00:32:40,440
Speaker 1: of voice No, that mean that you didn't answer the call.

654
00:32:43,240 --> 00:32:47,480
Speaker 1: You're sitting there so they can leave voice messages. I

655
00:32:47,600 --> 00:32:53,000
Speaker 1: see you a voice note. Voice. You're not leaving a

656
00:32:53,080 --> 00:32:58,080
Speaker 1: voice sail? Is it not a voice message when it's

657
00:32:58,080 --> 00:33:02,400
Speaker 1: attempt after after the bre's a voice mess message. I

658
00:33:02,440 --> 00:33:04,959
Speaker 1: mean at the voice masch Yeah. Voice note is when

659
00:33:05,000 --> 00:33:09,600
Speaker 1: they directly believing and they'd be talking nice and I

660
00:33:09,680 --> 00:33:12,280
Speaker 1: like that. I don't like that because the voice notes. Now, nigga,

661
00:33:12,280 --> 00:33:17,520
Speaker 1: why you can pick up your phone. I hate a

662
00:33:17,640 --> 00:33:20,480
Speaker 1: text message. Yes, I like the voice but the text

663
00:33:20,560 --> 00:33:23,560
Speaker 1: message to me is too casual. It's a letter. A

664
00:33:23,640 --> 00:33:27,040
Speaker 1: text message is a letter, mention. It ain't no text

665
00:33:27,080 --> 00:33:31,920
Speaker 1: message that it's a comment. You know what I mean.

666
00:33:32,000 --> 00:33:34,320
Speaker 1: It's it's a it's a miniature letter, no standards. I

667
00:33:34,360 --> 00:33:37,360
Speaker 1: want a voice note. That's sad, that's really bad. Actually

668
00:33:37,680 --> 00:33:40,640
Speaker 1: the voice knows some good food is some dick? Okay?

669
00:33:41,000 --> 00:33:44,160
Speaker 1: Speaking of dicks, Yes, we're gonna get into yours. We'll

670
00:33:44,200 --> 00:33:47,920
Speaker 1: not get into me alright. One of the craziest clips.

671
00:33:47,960 --> 00:33:50,040
Speaker 1: And I told you this is why we brought ship

672
00:33:50,280 --> 00:33:55,000
Speaker 1: made me laugh so hard, mainly because you know when

673
00:33:55,040 --> 00:33:56,760
Speaker 1: you're like at this point where you hear something so

674
00:33:56,880 --> 00:34:00,080
Speaker 1: woke that you're like, damn, am I sleep? So there

675
00:34:00,160 --> 00:34:05,960
Speaker 1: was a dude you're interviewed all high level conversations. What

676
00:34:06,120 --> 00:34:08,880
Speaker 1: was his name? When I'm talking with the Snickers, and

677
00:34:09,000 --> 00:34:11,600
Speaker 1: he talked about the oversexualization of black men, which we

678
00:34:11,640 --> 00:34:13,480
Speaker 1: know is true, but one of the things you guys

679
00:34:13,560 --> 00:34:17,640
Speaker 1: covered with seamen retention, which I feel like it is

680
00:34:17,680 --> 00:34:22,040
Speaker 1: insane because I can't imagine I'm having sex. I'm like, oh,

681
00:34:22,120 --> 00:34:23,839
Speaker 1: I told my home. I told Chris. So we were

682
00:34:23,880 --> 00:34:26,719
Speaker 1: having this conversation today, um, because I can't remember she

683
00:34:26,840 --> 00:34:30,560
Speaker 1: met you somewhere. I don't even I think maybe investments, um,

684
00:34:31,320 --> 00:34:32,839
Speaker 1: and we were talking. I was like, yeah, he does

685
00:34:32,880 --> 00:34:35,520
Speaker 1: the seam. She said that nigga childish and I don't

686
00:34:35,520 --> 00:34:37,439
Speaker 1: even want to hear about it because we hear about

687
00:34:37,440 --> 00:34:42,040
Speaker 1: athlete with the way that women we we want to

688
00:34:42,080 --> 00:34:45,320
Speaker 1: see that that's almost our sign of you being pleased

689
00:34:45,360 --> 00:34:46,920
Speaker 1: by us, and that's doing our job. And like the

690
00:34:46,960 --> 00:34:49,279
Speaker 1: way we talked about how you expect women to show

691
00:34:50,920 --> 00:34:53,480
Speaker 1: you always do it. Who said, first of all, y'all.

692
00:34:53,560 --> 00:34:55,360
Speaker 1: Y'all are saying a lot of things that I actually

693
00:34:55,440 --> 00:34:57,400
Speaker 1: do or what I don't do. I don't think I

694
00:34:57,520 --> 00:35:00,800
Speaker 1: said on that episode whether I practice actor seeming retention

695
00:35:00,880 --> 00:35:03,719
Speaker 1: all the time or not at all. I don't know

696
00:35:03,880 --> 00:35:06,440
Speaker 1: that you were talking about it periods though, When when

697
00:35:06,640 --> 00:35:08,880
Speaker 1: do you practice it? So, I mean I've tried it before,

698
00:35:09,080 --> 00:35:11,359
Speaker 1: you understand me. I think that I first read up

699
00:35:11,440 --> 00:35:14,400
Speaker 1: on seeming retension and the benefits, right, So what is it?

700
00:35:14,480 --> 00:35:17,120
Speaker 1: Let's talk about? So first benefit is disciplined, right. It's

701
00:35:17,160 --> 00:35:19,320
Speaker 1: the same thing if you're fasten for food, right, And

702
00:35:19,440 --> 00:35:21,520
Speaker 1: so we made the food sex connection on there, and

703
00:35:21,560 --> 00:35:24,040
Speaker 1: the food sex connection is like when you eat, you're

704
00:35:24,120 --> 00:35:26,319
Speaker 1: generally going to have more blood flowing down to your

705
00:35:26,360 --> 00:35:30,800
Speaker 1: general your genital areas, right, So that's going to automatically

706
00:35:30,960 --> 00:35:34,880
Speaker 1: leave opportunity for more excitement, you understand me? Or arouse you? Right?

707
00:35:35,320 --> 00:35:38,800
Speaker 1: Just food and sex period. But when we're talking about fasting,

708
00:35:39,000 --> 00:35:42,160
Speaker 1: fasting now it's less blood going down towards your general areas.

709
00:35:42,520 --> 00:35:45,120
Speaker 1: Now you're actually more disciplined, because when you are fasting

710
00:35:45,239 --> 00:35:47,759
Speaker 1: from anything, you start to think about all the other

711
00:35:47,840 --> 00:35:51,000
Speaker 1: things that you don't need as well, Right, excitement leaves

712
00:35:51,040 --> 00:35:53,200
Speaker 1: the way to mind and so during sex it's the

713
00:35:53,840 --> 00:35:55,840
Speaker 1: you know what happens during sex, You start breathing, you

714
00:35:55,920 --> 00:36:00,719
Speaker 1: start changing energy. Well, no, that's not coming. Revenge is

715
00:36:00,840 --> 00:36:03,239
Speaker 1: holding your come and saving it and saving it and

716
00:36:03,320 --> 00:36:06,160
Speaker 1: saving it. So to me, steeming retention just never having

717
00:36:06,200 --> 00:36:09,040
Speaker 1: the peak or no, that's that's two different things. So

718
00:36:09,200 --> 00:36:12,319
Speaker 1: it can be that it can be actually fastened from sex, right,

719
00:36:12,840 --> 00:36:14,800
Speaker 1: or it can be during the time of sex. You

720
00:36:14,920 --> 00:36:19,000
Speaker 1: are learning to disconnect orgasm from ejaculation. And I wanted

721
00:36:19,040 --> 00:36:21,600
Speaker 1: to ask you that because it literally says you can

722
00:36:21,719 --> 00:36:25,359
Speaker 1: learn how to orgasm without ejaculating. What does that then?

723
00:36:25,640 --> 00:36:28,319
Speaker 1: What does that? See? Well, now y'all talked about polygamy, right,

724
00:36:28,400 --> 00:36:30,359
Speaker 1: so back in the day, let's say if a man

725
00:36:30,440 --> 00:36:32,560
Speaker 1: has multiple women, he got to be able to satisfy

726
00:36:32,640 --> 00:36:35,400
Speaker 1: those multiple women as well. Right. Imagine you're the one

727
00:36:35,440 --> 00:36:37,200
Speaker 1: that don't get it. But what I'm saying, so if

728
00:36:37,239 --> 00:36:41,560
Speaker 1: he can separate actually having uh ejaculating from his orgasm,

729
00:36:41,640 --> 00:36:43,560
Speaker 1: then he can have sex over and over and over

730
00:36:43,640 --> 00:36:45,360
Speaker 1: and over. Have you talked yourself how to do that?

731
00:36:46,000 --> 00:36:49,839
Speaker 1: You know, I'm gonna master of anything you have you ever? Um,

732
00:36:50,360 --> 00:36:54,399
Speaker 1: I had recently, Like a friend of mine talks about

733
00:36:54,400 --> 00:36:57,200
Speaker 1: breathwork and d m TW your brain naturally gives dm

734
00:36:57,280 --> 00:37:01,520
Speaker 1: T is that part of it? Well, would you um

735
00:37:01,719 --> 00:37:04,920
Speaker 1: have any orgasm? That's what they call cheat or energy right,

736
00:37:05,040 --> 00:37:07,880
Speaker 1: So that's what they call mental orgasms as well. So

737
00:37:08,200 --> 00:37:11,960
Speaker 1: the idea is keeping that energy sustained within the body, right,

738
00:37:12,040 --> 00:37:15,239
Speaker 1: Because that's saying creative force, that powerful force that comes

739
00:37:15,280 --> 00:37:18,480
Speaker 1: together when you have sex. That's life force, that's creative force,

740
00:37:18,600 --> 00:37:22,040
Speaker 1: that's producing force. So at the man has an orgasm

741
00:37:22,280 --> 00:37:25,360
Speaker 1: or ejaculates is different than that the woman, our body

742
00:37:25,600 --> 00:37:28,839
Speaker 1: breaks down because now we have to recreate that semen right.

743
00:37:28,880 --> 00:37:31,000
Speaker 1: Where a woman's body is different, she can continue to

744
00:37:31,040 --> 00:37:33,920
Speaker 1: have orgasms without getting tired. So a man's body is

745
00:37:33,960 --> 00:37:37,360
Speaker 1: from put different than a woman's body. So that's Western

746
00:37:37,480 --> 00:37:40,280
Speaker 1: sex practice is just more so coming together having sex,

747
00:37:40,920 --> 00:37:44,120
Speaker 1: whether you're talking about Eastern practices is more tentric where

748
00:37:44,239 --> 00:37:47,000
Speaker 1: it is reviving of the energy and it is less

749
00:37:47,080 --> 00:37:50,680
Speaker 1: of you know, humping and it's more of uh making

750
00:37:50,760 --> 00:37:52,919
Speaker 1: love if you will, Yeah, it says. The other names

751
00:37:52,960 --> 00:37:57,239
Speaker 1: for semen retention is quitis, reservatives, seeming o conservation, and

752
00:37:57,320 --> 00:38:01,200
Speaker 1: sexual continence. And like you were saying where we see

753
00:38:01,239 --> 00:38:04,840
Speaker 1: it as a western part of Western civil civilizations to

754
00:38:04,960 --> 00:38:08,400
Speaker 1: just have sex. It actually says that steaming retention is

755
00:38:08,440 --> 00:38:11,799
Speaker 1: part of practices such as Taoism tantric sex. Like you said,

756
00:38:12,280 --> 00:38:19,759
Speaker 1: uh my tuna careza and kayan pu yang yang she said,

757
00:38:19,840 --> 00:38:23,279
Speaker 1: now like literally bro though times. But yeah, that's the

758
00:38:23,360 --> 00:38:26,400
Speaker 1: weaving of energy. That's what that's what that tantric is

759
00:38:26,680 --> 00:38:29,640
Speaker 1: is weaving your energies together, you understand me, which actually

760
00:38:30,120 --> 00:38:33,200
Speaker 1: makes the sex last longer rather than just jumping into

761
00:38:33,280 --> 00:38:38,040
Speaker 1: it is a real, real I've only done tantric sex

762
00:38:38,120 --> 00:38:41,400
Speaker 1: with women, which is the most intense thing because I

763
00:38:41,480 --> 00:38:44,680
Speaker 1: think sometimes men that testosterone gets you in a rush.

764
00:38:45,520 --> 00:38:47,719
Speaker 1: And with women I've had it on shrooms. It was

765
00:38:47,800 --> 00:38:51,799
Speaker 1: great tantwer sex. But it's like the refractory period for men,

766
00:38:51,880 --> 00:38:53,400
Speaker 1: which is the time it takes to get back up,

767
00:38:53,480 --> 00:38:56,560
Speaker 1: like women can keep having multiple orgasms or reserve it well.

768
00:38:56,600 --> 00:38:59,000
Speaker 1: So you see. Also, I feel like women are selfish

769
00:38:59,040 --> 00:39:00,960
Speaker 1: in that area the same men are selfish and men

770
00:39:02,000 --> 00:39:05,440
Speaker 1: because nowadays women do not know how to help a

771
00:39:05,520 --> 00:39:08,279
Speaker 1: man have multiple orgasm is the same way. Hold on

772
00:39:08,600 --> 00:39:11,000
Speaker 1: the wait, wait, wait, let me finish my sentence. Let

773
00:39:11,080 --> 00:39:14,960
Speaker 1: me finish my sentence the same way. Historically men have

774
00:39:15,120 --> 00:39:17,840
Speaker 1: not known how to have help women have multiple orgasms.

775
00:39:17,880 --> 00:39:20,160
Speaker 1: But see the whole idea of the Eastern It is

776
00:39:20,200 --> 00:39:22,960
Speaker 1: a partnership, y'all, both coming together to help each other

777
00:39:23,080 --> 00:39:25,600
Speaker 1: expand in that area. Right, And that's kind of like

778
00:39:25,719 --> 00:39:27,920
Speaker 1: how you know you got to think about sex is

779
00:39:27,960 --> 00:39:29,759
Speaker 1: the same way you kind of do the relationship and

780
00:39:29,800 --> 00:39:32,719
Speaker 1: a little bit at the same time, right, because people

781
00:39:32,880 --> 00:39:35,880
Speaker 1: usually put responsibility on one partner for that comfort or

782
00:39:35,920 --> 00:39:38,400
Speaker 1: that for that satisfaction, right when it's supposed to be

783
00:39:38,440 --> 00:39:41,279
Speaker 1: a partnership of both energies coming together to help each

784
00:39:41,320 --> 00:39:44,640
Speaker 1: other climax to that area. Wholeheartedly agree, because I think

785
00:39:45,160 --> 00:39:47,640
Speaker 1: pleasure has I don't know, I feel like sometimes it

786
00:39:47,680 --> 00:39:49,759
Speaker 1: shifts where we put it all on the women like

787
00:39:49,840 --> 00:39:52,200
Speaker 1: she is the servicemen, and then a lot of like

788
00:39:52,320 --> 00:39:55,840
Speaker 1: Pello princesses women that just to go hello, pillo, Hello,

789
00:39:56,000 --> 00:39:57,480
Speaker 1: there we go he said it, right, You think I

790
00:39:57,520 --> 00:40:02,800
Speaker 1: can't say the word pillow? How you saying hello hello whatever?

791
00:40:03,239 --> 00:40:05,520
Speaker 1: Where women will just pretty much lay there and not

792
00:40:05,640 --> 00:40:08,200
Speaker 1: do much, right. But I think it has shifted over

793
00:40:08,280 --> 00:40:10,759
Speaker 1: time as like men have to fund the shift out

794
00:40:10,800 --> 00:40:12,680
Speaker 1: of you women have to make sure they do this,

795
00:40:13,000 --> 00:40:15,600
Speaker 1: And really, in reality, the best sex I've ever had

796
00:40:15,960 --> 00:40:18,880
Speaker 1: is when we're both pleasers, and when you're both focused

797
00:40:18,920 --> 00:40:21,719
Speaker 1: on pleasing each other, it turns into the best sex.

798
00:40:21,800 --> 00:40:24,480
Speaker 1: And truly, that's kind of what tantra is. You do

799
00:40:24,640 --> 00:40:26,960
Speaker 1: have to connect with each other's bodies, and I think

800
00:40:26,960 --> 00:40:28,960
Speaker 1: it's a very sexy thing to learn each other. Like

801
00:40:29,000 --> 00:40:31,120
Speaker 1: a lot of people will come on here and say

802
00:40:31,120 --> 00:40:34,520
Speaker 1: their best tip for sexist communication, which gets exhausting, But

803
00:40:34,600 --> 00:40:37,600
Speaker 1: all that really means is talking about it together. Like, yeah,

804
00:40:37,640 --> 00:40:39,960
Speaker 1: you can tell somebody what you want, but you should

805
00:40:40,000 --> 00:40:43,600
Speaker 1: be asking too, because I would hate if someone sucked me,

806
00:40:43,719 --> 00:40:45,560
Speaker 1: especially after seven years of doing this show, and be

807
00:40:45,640 --> 00:40:49,120
Speaker 1: like she was terrible, Like but maybe you just weren't

808
00:40:49,160 --> 00:40:52,160
Speaker 1: for him, Like maybe you could be too kiky, too freaky,

809
00:40:52,200 --> 00:40:55,000
Speaker 1: too nasty for somebody and they could think that you

810
00:40:55,120 --> 00:40:58,520
Speaker 1: were bad. But I definitely am a chameleon with sex.

811
00:40:59,640 --> 00:41:01,600
Speaker 1: What does it mean? It means like if I know

812
00:41:01,800 --> 00:41:04,520
Speaker 1: I've got a really really really nasty bitch and then

813
00:41:04,760 --> 00:41:06,560
Speaker 1: maybe one is just kind of like, oh I just

814
00:41:06,680 --> 00:41:10,239
Speaker 1: want to I'll do that. I I get off on

815
00:41:10,320 --> 00:41:12,040
Speaker 1: whatever you're getting off on to be honest. Yeah, I

816
00:41:12,080 --> 00:41:13,920
Speaker 1: have my own kings, But like, I think that's how

817
00:41:14,000 --> 00:41:16,320
Speaker 1: we can learn to be better partners. We should figure

818
00:41:16,360 --> 00:41:19,920
Speaker 1: out what you like and take pleasure and you having pleasure.

819
00:41:19,960 --> 00:41:22,120
Speaker 1: And a lot of people can't do that, you know

820
00:41:22,160 --> 00:41:24,560
Speaker 1: what I'm saying. They're so focused on themselves that we

821
00:41:24,719 --> 00:41:27,520
Speaker 1: can't enjoy the other person having pleasure. That means being

822
00:41:27,560 --> 00:41:29,960
Speaker 1: able to give someone an orgasm and getting nothing from it.

823
00:41:30,360 --> 00:41:33,200
Speaker 1: Like if you're only thinking about yourself during sex, it's

824
00:41:33,239 --> 00:41:35,759
Speaker 1: not really going to be that enjoyable, how, you know

825
00:41:35,800 --> 00:41:37,759
Speaker 1: what I mean? I think that people just need to

826
00:41:37,840 --> 00:41:41,000
Speaker 1: learn how to number one half partnerships. You understand me.

827
00:41:41,160 --> 00:41:44,359
Speaker 1: Like when we talk about relationships, I think everybody kind

828
00:41:44,400 --> 00:41:48,480
Speaker 1: of you know, uh, dehumanizes each other. The way men

829
00:41:48,560 --> 00:41:50,840
Speaker 1: talk about women, the way women talk about man is

830
00:41:50,880 --> 00:41:54,359
Speaker 1: completely dehumanized. There's nothing spiritual about it anymore at all.

831
00:41:54,920 --> 00:41:57,200
Speaker 1: And if you don't have a spiritual connection with a person,

832
00:41:57,239 --> 00:42:00,440
Speaker 1: and that relationship is gonna end at some point in time, quick, right,

833
00:42:00,560 --> 00:42:02,560
Speaker 1: all of those other things that's going to keep you together,

834
00:42:03,040 --> 00:42:06,600
Speaker 1: Like what Mayweather talked about, number one the reason for

835
00:42:06,680 --> 00:42:09,840
Speaker 1: most divorces finances. So the statement didn't make sense. To

836
00:42:09,880 --> 00:42:12,759
Speaker 1: me because Maywhether got he can barely read in right, right,

837
00:42:13,600 --> 00:42:17,000
Speaker 1: I ain't gonna say that, I don't I think the right.

838
00:42:17,040 --> 00:42:20,040
Speaker 1: But he's highly intelligent. You understand me, you you don't,

839
00:42:20,160 --> 00:42:21,920
Speaker 1: you don't. You don't get to the level of Mayweather

840
00:42:21,960 --> 00:42:25,200
Speaker 1: of ownership, of being undefeated and creating those kind of

841
00:42:25,239 --> 00:42:26,960
Speaker 1: deals and getting that kind of money. You know, one

842
00:42:26,960 --> 00:42:28,719
Speaker 1: thing he knows to read is the contracts, and I

843
00:42:28,800 --> 00:42:32,120
Speaker 1: feel like that's enough, especially for black because a lot

844
00:42:32,160 --> 00:42:34,000
Speaker 1: of black men know how to read a lot of books,

845
00:42:34,080 --> 00:42:36,279
Speaker 1: but when it comes to them contracts and that legal leaves,

846
00:42:36,640 --> 00:42:38,120
Speaker 1: they don't know how to do that. And he does

847
00:42:38,200 --> 00:42:40,040
Speaker 1: pretty good business as far as him being able to

848
00:42:40,080 --> 00:42:41,520
Speaker 1: amass that well. But I just wanted to say that.

849
00:42:41,960 --> 00:42:44,600
Speaker 1: But at the end of the day, you know, when

850
00:42:44,640 --> 00:42:47,440
Speaker 1: you're talking about most relationships or felling because of money,

851
00:42:47,520 --> 00:42:51,040
Speaker 1: and then also just the courture today around marriage, right,

852
00:42:51,120 --> 00:42:53,759
Speaker 1: there's no marriage culture, there's no real celebration of that.

853
00:42:54,080 --> 00:42:57,040
Speaker 1: There's more celebration the whole courture than there is family culture.

854
00:42:58,120 --> 00:43:00,880
Speaker 1: That's fair, And I think that we're in a in

855
00:43:00,960 --> 00:43:04,560
Speaker 1: a space of sexual liberation for where women never could

856
00:43:05,160 --> 00:43:07,640
Speaker 1: like celebrate the fact that they enjoyed sex, that they

857
00:43:07,719 --> 00:43:10,799
Speaker 1: enjoyed their bodies, that they enjoyed the things that they

858
00:43:10,880 --> 00:43:14,840
Speaker 1: could wear. You're saying is basically the umbrella of celebration

859
00:43:14,920 --> 00:43:19,320
Speaker 1: of But to me, it's free, it's sexually freedom because

860
00:43:19,719 --> 00:43:21,799
Speaker 1: I was gonna say when I say, when I make jokes,

861
00:43:21,840 --> 00:43:24,880
Speaker 1: when I talk about whole ship, right, yeah, like I don't.

862
00:43:24,960 --> 00:43:26,600
Speaker 1: I wish I was getting some dick, but I ain't

863
00:43:26,640 --> 00:43:28,200
Speaker 1: even know how right now. But I'll joke about me

864
00:43:28,320 --> 00:43:32,560
Speaker 1: one because to me it's the umbrella of like, I'm

865
00:43:32,600 --> 00:43:35,960
Speaker 1: sexually liberated, right, right, I'm free to do whatever I

866
00:43:36,000 --> 00:43:37,799
Speaker 1: want to have a lot of ownership over my body.

867
00:43:38,080 --> 00:43:39,840
Speaker 1: I know what I like the right to do that.

868
00:43:40,440 --> 00:43:46,759
Speaker 1: So I understand where women have been historically oppressed, right,

869
00:43:47,120 --> 00:43:50,760
Speaker 1: and many different facets. I think what's dangerous is today

870
00:43:50,880 --> 00:43:53,680
Speaker 1: where the word freedom and liberation is used where a

871
00:43:53,719 --> 00:43:56,040
Speaker 1: lot of people can actually become slaves that they sexual

872
00:43:56,080 --> 00:43:59,319
Speaker 1: desires and it's not freek. They're more addicted to it, right,

873
00:43:59,400 --> 00:44:02,000
Speaker 1: So when you start crossing the line where sexual addiction

874
00:44:02,600 --> 00:44:05,480
Speaker 1: or a person is actually you know, being enslaved by

875
00:44:05,560 --> 00:44:07,920
Speaker 1: the lower desires because they can't control themselves, that's not

876
00:44:08,040 --> 00:44:10,879
Speaker 1: liberation and that's not freedom. But everything can fit under

877
00:44:10,920 --> 00:44:13,239
Speaker 1: this umbrella. So I think that the brand is misguided.

878
00:44:13,960 --> 00:44:17,280
Speaker 1: What brand the brand of sexual liberation and sexual freedom?

879
00:44:17,480 --> 00:44:20,720
Speaker 1: So see this, this is where it's like it teeters

880
00:44:20,760 --> 00:44:24,680
Speaker 1: for me. A lot of our show is about unleashing

881
00:44:25,080 --> 00:44:27,279
Speaker 1: kinks and sex lives of people. Right, it goes to

882
00:44:27,320 --> 00:44:29,880
Speaker 1: different umbrellas, like an episode with yours. It's not necessarily that,

883
00:44:30,440 --> 00:44:34,479
Speaker 1: but many people that we've learned over the years don't

884
00:44:34,520 --> 00:44:38,239
Speaker 1: really understand one how to channel their sexual energy to

885
00:44:38,480 --> 00:44:40,880
Speaker 1: what they're into, or three how to explore it in

886
00:44:40,960 --> 00:44:44,560
Speaker 1: a safe way. That to me is under that umbrella.

887
00:44:44,600 --> 00:44:47,600
Speaker 1: Because if I don't have dialogue with when i'm whether

888
00:44:47,600 --> 00:44:49,439
Speaker 1: it be at a college or at our Lives show,

889
00:44:50,160 --> 00:44:51,480
Speaker 1: a lot of women will come out to us say

890
00:44:51,520 --> 00:44:53,400
Speaker 1: I had my first orgasm because of you, or I

891
00:44:53,520 --> 00:44:55,520
Speaker 1: was able to lose my virginity because I had sexual

892
00:44:55,600 --> 00:44:58,879
Speaker 1: trauma and I couldn't disconnect it like it's all in there.

893
00:44:59,160 --> 00:45:02,160
Speaker 1: What about the or to have all of you know,

894
00:45:02,320 --> 00:45:05,120
Speaker 1: the sexual problems where they don't have sexual discipline? Right?

895
00:45:05,560 --> 00:45:08,480
Speaker 1: So is that community being addressed as well? Where the

896
00:45:10,239 --> 00:45:13,160
Speaker 1: right men and women? Right, it's it's men and women.

897
00:45:13,200 --> 00:45:15,320
Speaker 1: I'm not when I hear the sex culture is not

898
00:45:15,440 --> 00:45:17,640
Speaker 1: just the women's cultures as men and women that is

899
00:45:17,680 --> 00:45:21,319
Speaker 1: now participating because there's if women are having sex with men,

900
00:45:21,520 --> 00:45:23,440
Speaker 1: then you know, I mean, it's both our courts. I'm

901
00:45:23,440 --> 00:45:24,960
Speaker 1: not a fan of sex actics. I dated one. It

902
00:45:25,040 --> 00:45:27,279
Speaker 1: was awful, right, So, but that's what I mean. A

903
00:45:27,360 --> 00:45:29,920
Speaker 1: lot of people are being driven by sex, right they

904
00:45:30,080 --> 00:45:33,480
Speaker 1: most most people, most marketing is based on sex sex sales. Right,

905
00:45:33,520 --> 00:45:35,920
Speaker 1: So you're buying the fly clothes, the shoes, that all

906
00:45:36,000 --> 00:45:37,800
Speaker 1: of this stuff so you can increase your chances of

907
00:45:37,880 --> 00:45:41,759
Speaker 1: having sex. Right. That's that's This is the probably one

908
00:45:41,800 --> 00:45:44,399
Speaker 1: of the bigger issues with relationships is that men trying

909
00:45:44,400 --> 00:45:46,960
Speaker 1: to increase their chances of having sex, they have sex

910
00:45:47,040 --> 00:45:50,520
Speaker 1: with the woman. Woman becomes emotionally connected, she has expectations

911
00:45:50,600 --> 00:45:53,080
Speaker 1: of the man. Man has no expectations of the self.

912
00:45:53,320 --> 00:45:56,000
Speaker 1: She's heart broken, she hates man, and then it's a cycle.

913
00:46:01,320 --> 00:46:04,120
Speaker 1: I do think this is a male lead thing, though,

914
00:46:04,160 --> 00:46:07,279
Speaker 1: and I'll tell you why. I think that most things

915
00:46:07,400 --> 00:46:11,000
Speaker 1: that women do are for the male gays. I think

916
00:46:11,120 --> 00:46:15,440
Speaker 1: that the reason horrible decisions became quote unquote popular to

917
00:46:15,640 --> 00:46:19,040
Speaker 1: some is because we doesn't need to be air quotes

918
00:46:19,040 --> 00:46:22,560
Speaker 1: around popular. No, I mean quote unquote. I was saying

919
00:46:22,600 --> 00:46:28,920
Speaker 1: why this popular this particular reason because we do talk

920
00:46:28,920 --> 00:46:31,480
Speaker 1: about sexual health. But when I air quotes, it is

921
00:46:31,480 --> 00:46:33,600
Speaker 1: because Mandy and I were normal girls talking about our

922
00:46:33,640 --> 00:46:38,880
Speaker 1: own sex lives right without fear of men judging us.

923
00:46:40,000 --> 00:46:43,960
Speaker 1: And a lot of times any home girl I have

924
00:46:44,320 --> 00:46:46,560
Speaker 1: to me, I have I'm friends with a lot of baddies.

925
00:46:47,560 --> 00:46:49,600
Speaker 1: The ship they do is for the male gays, and

926
00:46:49,640 --> 00:46:53,200
Speaker 1: it's because men are sexually driven. I noticed a different

927
00:46:53,480 --> 00:46:55,480
Speaker 1: difference singing and I'm not playing with you. If I

928
00:46:55,600 --> 00:46:58,279
Speaker 1: wear this outfit out or I'll wear a skirt, men

929
00:46:58,400 --> 00:47:00,640
Speaker 1: coming up to me is a huge difference. When I

930
00:47:00,680 --> 00:47:03,680
Speaker 1: saw you at that black fleat market ship the week before,

931
00:47:03,719 --> 00:47:05,760
Speaker 1: I wear a week the month before I were addressed.

932
00:47:06,040 --> 00:47:07,839
Speaker 1: Nikas was on my dick. I have the same face, bro.

933
00:47:08,440 --> 00:47:10,719
Speaker 1: So at the end of the day, what is it?

934
00:47:11,080 --> 00:47:13,239
Speaker 1: What's really going on? Where his grades were different? Are

935
00:47:13,280 --> 00:47:16,040
Speaker 1: women over sexualizing themselves to get men? Well, a lot

936
00:47:16,080 --> 00:47:18,120
Speaker 1: of them. They're doing it to get money, you understand me.

937
00:47:18,200 --> 00:47:20,279
Speaker 1: I think that now it's for success. A lot of

938
00:47:20,320 --> 00:47:22,880
Speaker 1: it ain't even for men no more. Right now they

939
00:47:23,000 --> 00:47:26,439
Speaker 1: understand that the curture of sex sales. Like I heard

940
00:47:26,440 --> 00:47:28,279
Speaker 1: a woman talking about, well, she went and got her

941
00:47:28,360 --> 00:47:30,240
Speaker 1: new ass because she knew there was going to increase

942
00:47:30,280 --> 00:47:33,560
Speaker 1: her opportunities. Right, So a lot of this, you know,

943
00:47:33,680 --> 00:47:37,000
Speaker 1: body modification has nothing to do with men, per se,

944
00:47:37,160 --> 00:47:40,160
Speaker 1: has everything to do with women ambition right towards success

945
00:47:40,239 --> 00:47:43,799
Speaker 1: and careers and opportunities that they want because men don't,

946
00:47:43,840 --> 00:47:45,719
Speaker 1: I mean to be honest, especially when it comes to

947
00:47:45,760 --> 00:47:47,560
Speaker 1: like fake assis and stuff. We don't care about that

948
00:47:47,640 --> 00:47:51,640
Speaker 1: kind of stuff, you understand me, not not not the

949
00:47:51,760 --> 00:47:55,200
Speaker 1: larger population of men. To look at the large but

950
00:47:55,280 --> 00:47:57,160
Speaker 1: you said, we're talking about the sixth what you're talking

951
00:47:57,160 --> 00:47:59,680
Speaker 1: about visual creatures as you brought up with women are

952
00:47:59,719 --> 00:48:02,400
Speaker 1: being in social media now, but the ambition is to

953
00:48:02,640 --> 00:48:04,480
Speaker 1: land the men with the money who are going to

954
00:48:04,560 --> 00:48:06,160
Speaker 1: spend the money on that, right. But they're doing it

955
00:48:06,239 --> 00:48:08,759
Speaker 1: for the likes and the comments now, right, So they're

956
00:48:08,800 --> 00:48:10,360
Speaker 1: not doing it for the male gays. They're doing it

957
00:48:10,480 --> 00:48:13,520
Speaker 1: for society's gays, right, so that they can increase because

958
00:48:13,560 --> 00:48:15,759
Speaker 1: now women are watching those videos with women that have

959
00:48:16,360 --> 00:48:19,160
Speaker 1: you know, the large asses and the breast and all

960
00:48:19,200 --> 00:48:21,000
Speaker 1: of this stuff. They're doing it for views. They're doing

961
00:48:21,040 --> 00:48:25,759
Speaker 1: it to become personalities. They're doing it. Do you believe this?

962
00:48:26,000 --> 00:48:29,080
Speaker 1: But the bartenders all got their bodies done to make

963
00:48:29,200 --> 00:48:32,959
Speaker 1: more money and to get access to the men with money.

964
00:48:33,040 --> 00:48:35,880
Speaker 1: That's that's still capitalism. You're not doing it for a

965
00:48:35,960 --> 00:48:38,560
Speaker 1: partner though, that's different. And a lot of women who

966
00:48:38,640 --> 00:48:41,000
Speaker 1: don't want to fully work and maybe don't want to

967
00:48:41,000 --> 00:48:43,920
Speaker 1: be a startender or bartender forever, they're hoping to land

968
00:48:43,960 --> 00:48:46,319
Speaker 1: a man that can provide for them. So then they're

969
00:48:46,360 --> 00:48:48,080
Speaker 1: really doing it so that they can be that. How

970
00:48:48,120 --> 00:48:50,840
Speaker 1: are they can provide for themselves? They understand me. So

971
00:48:50,880 --> 00:48:54,279
Speaker 1: a lot of women they're trying to figure out how

972
00:48:54,400 --> 00:48:57,920
Speaker 1: do I capitalize off society standards? Are selling sex the

973
00:48:58,000 --> 00:49:01,279
Speaker 1: male gays without eat, needing a man. So the idea is,

974
00:49:01,480 --> 00:49:04,040
Speaker 1: I'm going to capitalize visually. How I know men are

975
00:49:04,040 --> 00:49:06,960
Speaker 1: attracted and stimulated by this, but I don't actually want

976
00:49:07,000 --> 00:49:09,560
Speaker 1: a man, you understand me. So it's a completely different

977
00:49:09,560 --> 00:49:11,239
Speaker 1: than a woman saying that I'm going to wear this

978
00:49:11,320 --> 00:49:13,799
Speaker 1: small dress so that I can get a man. I'll

979
00:49:13,800 --> 00:49:17,600
Speaker 1: be honest, and then I I I feel like it's

980
00:49:17,680 --> 00:49:21,120
Speaker 1: the opposite. And unfortunately it's because where men mostly do

981
00:49:21,280 --> 00:49:24,000
Speaker 1: leave with their pockets. Women are doing this because maybe

982
00:49:24,040 --> 00:49:26,319
Speaker 1: they don't want a certain type of man, they want

983
00:49:26,320 --> 00:49:29,840
Speaker 1: a certain type of lifestyle, and so literally a lifestyle

984
00:49:29,960 --> 00:49:33,160
Speaker 1: normally comes with the attachment to a man. I only

985
00:49:33,200 --> 00:49:34,839
Speaker 1: want to be a housewife, and I don't want to work.

986
00:49:35,080 --> 00:49:36,560
Speaker 1: I just want to be at home, and I want

987
00:49:36,600 --> 00:49:38,520
Speaker 1: the nice bags, and I want the nice car, and

988
00:49:38,560 --> 00:49:40,600
Speaker 1: I want to live in the mansion. So even going

989
00:49:40,680 --> 00:49:43,520
Speaker 1: to modify their body is in hopes to land that

990
00:49:43,719 --> 00:49:46,520
Speaker 1: man that will get them the lifestyle that they truly want.

991
00:49:46,840 --> 00:49:48,520
Speaker 1: That's part of it. But also when you look at

992
00:49:48,640 --> 00:49:52,080
Speaker 1: like look at female rappers, most their main audience is

993
00:49:52,120 --> 00:49:55,480
Speaker 1: not man, right, but yet they're very sexualized in a

994
00:49:55,520 --> 00:49:57,520
Speaker 1: wedy that they dress. Right, you're gonna look at why,

995
00:49:57,719 --> 00:50:00,279
Speaker 1: You're gonna look at um any one of those there

996
00:50:00,360 --> 00:50:02,279
Speaker 1: was are like women and young girls that's watching that,

997
00:50:02,400 --> 00:50:04,200
Speaker 1: and like gay men that's watching that for the most

998
00:50:04,280 --> 00:50:06,720
Speaker 1: part the same time, right, that was the core audience

999
00:50:06,760 --> 00:50:08,920
Speaker 1: that they getting their money from. So I'm saying that

1000
00:50:09,160 --> 00:50:11,279
Speaker 1: a lot of this sexual liberation, a lot of this

1001
00:50:11,400 --> 00:50:14,400
Speaker 1: culture now is based on capitalism, has nothing to do

1002
00:50:14,640 --> 00:50:18,040
Speaker 1: whether you actually want a partner or not. So how

1003
00:50:18,120 --> 00:50:22,520
Speaker 1: do you then become the person that to me, I

1004
00:50:22,600 --> 00:50:24,600
Speaker 1: think one of the things that really helped me developed

1005
00:50:24,600 --> 00:50:27,360
Speaker 1: into a good partner and woman was being able to

1006
00:50:27,440 --> 00:50:31,960
Speaker 1: have some leadership roles and become independent. I really believe

1007
00:50:32,000 --> 00:50:33,719
Speaker 1: it fueled me into being a better partner. Like I

1008
00:50:33,880 --> 00:50:37,080
Speaker 1: understood what it was like to manage people, to manage

1009
00:50:37,080 --> 00:50:40,160
Speaker 1: my own house and my own ship, and now I

1010
00:50:40,239 --> 00:50:41,640
Speaker 1: think I can live the life to where I can

1011
00:50:41,719 --> 00:50:43,440
Speaker 1: have some time about I have the team and I

1012
00:50:43,480 --> 00:50:46,480
Speaker 1: could be a good partner. But how do we as

1013
00:50:46,560 --> 00:50:50,960
Speaker 1: women become that quote unquote boss bitch and at the

1014
00:50:51,040 --> 00:50:54,840
Speaker 1: same time be able to still find someone that we

1015
00:50:54,960 --> 00:50:57,960
Speaker 1: can meet that will give us those family, that family

1016
00:50:58,000 --> 00:50:59,680
Speaker 1: that we all want. Right, Well, what do you want

1017
00:50:59,680 --> 00:51:01,399
Speaker 1: to do the person that you with? Do you want

1018
00:51:01,440 --> 00:51:03,200
Speaker 1: to help them? What do you want to do for

1019
00:51:03,280 --> 00:51:05,280
Speaker 1: the person that you But here's the thing, though, because

1020
00:51:05,360 --> 00:51:09,480
Speaker 1: the person that you're with, if they're not here yet, right, Like,

1021
00:51:09,640 --> 00:51:12,200
Speaker 1: That's what I'm saying because basically this independence is a

1022
00:51:12,239 --> 00:51:15,400
Speaker 1: deterrent to men that are successful, Because you're right, successful

1023
00:51:15,400 --> 00:51:17,160
Speaker 1: men don't want what did he want to Shopper say, like,

1024
00:51:17,160 --> 00:51:20,200
Speaker 1: I don't Tiana great whatever, I don't need none of that.

1025
00:51:20,640 --> 00:51:23,440
Speaker 1: So it's like, how do you coexist? To me? What

1026
00:51:23,560 --> 00:51:25,200
Speaker 1: do I want to do? I would love to be

1027
00:51:25,360 --> 00:51:28,000
Speaker 1: someone's partner in crime. I would love to know that

1028
00:51:28,080 --> 00:51:30,759
Speaker 1: you can come home at night. I really I would

1029
00:51:30,840 --> 00:51:32,719
Speaker 1: love a man to know that I'm not a robber

1030
00:51:32,760 --> 00:51:34,640
Speaker 1: bank well. I don't want to just rub your head, bro,

1031
00:51:34,760 --> 00:51:37,439
Speaker 1: I want you to know that I'm also well read,

1032
00:51:37,640 --> 00:51:39,920
Speaker 1: I'm also smart. That feels good to me, and it

1033
00:51:40,000 --> 00:51:42,680
Speaker 1: gives me. I asked the question because I think it's

1034
00:51:42,800 --> 00:51:45,880
Speaker 1: very clear as far as what society expects from men,

1035
00:51:46,239 --> 00:51:49,040
Speaker 1: but there's not much clarity on what what society expects

1036
00:51:49,040 --> 00:51:50,800
Speaker 1: from whom. I do agree with that you understand. But

1037
00:51:50,800 --> 00:51:53,040
Speaker 1: I shouldn't be answering that question though. That's the question

1038
00:51:53,080 --> 00:51:55,760
Speaker 1: to you. But then women said they don't want man's opinions.

1039
00:51:55,800 --> 00:51:59,000
Speaker 1: So it's a very confusing thing what I'm saying. But y'all,

1040
00:51:59,080 --> 00:52:01,439
Speaker 1: y'all started this off with you know what I'm saying,

1041
00:52:01,520 --> 00:52:05,120
Speaker 1: you don't want opinions and man's opinions because because but

1042
00:52:06,640 --> 00:52:10,239
Speaker 1: though women are taking that as disrespect, they're saying that

1043
00:52:10,400 --> 00:52:12,600
Speaker 1: this is misogyny, this is this that in the third

1044
00:52:12,680 --> 00:52:15,440
Speaker 1: So there's a lot of conversation of men seeing what

1045
00:52:15,520 --> 00:52:19,359
Speaker 1: they want. I think misogyny is in your face. Don't

1046
00:52:19,360 --> 00:52:22,160
Speaker 1: be doing X y Z basically sit at home, do nothing.

1047
00:52:22,200 --> 00:52:24,560
Speaker 1: But that's that's the thing too. And everything that you

1048
00:52:24,640 --> 00:52:26,879
Speaker 1: just said, and I was I was listening. I feel

1049
00:52:26,920 --> 00:52:30,360
Speaker 1: like you have to understand in partnership, right, you said,

1050
00:52:31,080 --> 00:52:32,920
Speaker 1: I can read a book, I can do this, I

1051
00:52:32,960 --> 00:52:35,440
Speaker 1: can manage, and I'm not saying I can't. All right

1052
00:52:35,680 --> 00:52:38,120
Speaker 1: at my point, but let me finish. You said that

1053
00:52:38,239 --> 00:52:41,560
Speaker 1: that makes you feel valuable. How you feel valuable to

1054
00:52:41,680 --> 00:52:44,480
Speaker 1: yourself is not necessarily how you're gonna show up in

1055
00:52:44,560 --> 00:52:47,640
Speaker 1: value toee partner. And so the things that you pride

1056
00:52:47,680 --> 00:52:50,120
Speaker 1: yourself and being able to do that may not matter

1057
00:52:50,200 --> 00:52:52,400
Speaker 1: at all you do. He just asked me, what do

1058
00:52:52,600 --> 00:52:55,160
Speaker 1: I want to do for a man? So I can

1059
00:52:55,200 --> 00:52:57,279
Speaker 1: only explain what I read in a book like that's

1060
00:52:57,320 --> 00:52:59,680
Speaker 1: for me, you know, for a factor. I'm that ba.

1061
00:53:00,239 --> 00:53:03,680
Speaker 1: My niggas don't even know what man. Let me talk

1062
00:53:03,680 --> 00:53:07,279
Speaker 1: because you're I'm not I'm letting, I'm asking you. Then

1063
00:53:07,400 --> 00:53:08,960
Speaker 1: you're trying to throw a book in my face. I

1064
00:53:09,040 --> 00:53:11,400
Speaker 1: have all I'm not throwing a book at all. What

1065
00:53:11,520 --> 00:53:14,200
Speaker 1: I'm saying, stop being so defensive. Literally what I'm saying,

1066
00:53:14,239 --> 00:53:17,400
Speaker 1: don't tell me what you just said. You feel value

1067
00:53:17,440 --> 00:53:21,279
Speaker 1: in and hold pride in is what also NINETEENA saying

1068
00:53:21,520 --> 00:53:24,400
Speaker 1: where we are prideful and feel we hold value in

1069
00:53:24,480 --> 00:53:27,560
Speaker 1: being boss as bitches a man may not. So his

1070
00:53:27,680 --> 00:53:31,680
Speaker 1: question was, then, how, how and in what ways would

1071
00:53:31,719 --> 00:53:35,640
Speaker 1: you bring value to a partner outside of He didn't

1072
00:53:35,680 --> 00:53:38,799
Speaker 1: say outside of you just asked me. And then let's

1073
00:53:38,840 --> 00:53:41,440
Speaker 1: look at it like this. When a man builds himself up,

1074
00:53:41,520 --> 00:53:43,719
Speaker 1: part of the way he's building himself up is so

1075
00:53:44,000 --> 00:53:46,239
Speaker 1: that he can be a good partner to a woman. Right.

1076
00:53:46,600 --> 00:53:48,880
Speaker 1: When a woman thinks about ambition, the way she builds

1077
00:53:48,920 --> 00:53:51,200
Speaker 1: herself up has nothing to do with whether she's going

1078
00:53:51,239 --> 00:53:53,200
Speaker 1: to be a good partner to a man. Right, So

1079
00:53:53,320 --> 00:53:56,120
Speaker 1: I then ask the question what is a woman supposed

1080
00:53:56,160 --> 00:53:58,960
Speaker 1: to do? What is her role in the relationship? Because

1081
00:53:58,960 --> 00:54:01,160
Speaker 1: I remember when there was big conversation around well what

1082
00:54:01,239 --> 00:54:02,839
Speaker 1: does a woman bring to the table, and a lot

1083
00:54:02,840 --> 00:54:05,239
Speaker 1: of people just say at presents, And obviously that's not

1084
00:54:05,440 --> 00:54:07,880
Speaker 1: enough because then now have the ability to have the

1085
00:54:07,960 --> 00:54:10,080
Speaker 1: presence of women like they are kings now, which is

1086
00:54:10,120 --> 00:54:13,000
Speaker 1: my point in saying that I do think there's any

1087
00:54:13,200 --> 00:54:15,560
Speaker 1: to me. You can learn how to cook, bro, I'm

1088
00:54:15,600 --> 00:54:18,480
Speaker 1: sorry you can't. You can't really learn how to be nurturing.

1089
00:54:18,560 --> 00:54:20,400
Speaker 1: And I know that's one of my greatest assets in

1090
00:54:20,480 --> 00:54:24,120
Speaker 1: any relationship platonically as well. But when I say that

1091
00:54:24,239 --> 00:54:26,040
Speaker 1: I'm not just a girl that will cook and clean,

1092
00:54:26,120 --> 00:54:27,920
Speaker 1: I do have more to me. That point was to

1093
00:54:28,000 --> 00:54:30,520
Speaker 1: say that to me is the value that I also bring.

1094
00:54:31,000 --> 00:54:33,759
Speaker 1: But I I think it's something to bring up because

1095
00:54:33,800 --> 00:54:36,719
Speaker 1: it seems as though it's a deterrent to men. How

1096
00:54:37,080 --> 00:54:40,640
Speaker 1: can women show up as strong people and also be

1097
00:54:40,800 --> 00:54:43,320
Speaker 1: in their feminine energy because we look the word strong

1098
00:54:43,520 --> 00:54:45,680
Speaker 1: is very interesting in the way it's used, right, because

1099
00:54:46,320 --> 00:54:48,920
Speaker 1: like and and and that's specifically in context of like

1100
00:54:49,040 --> 00:54:53,600
Speaker 1: black courture. Right, because strong woman don't want to be

1101
00:54:53,680 --> 00:54:57,359
Speaker 1: called a strong life because that's that's masculine. Right. How

1102
00:54:57,480 --> 00:54:59,520
Speaker 1: can you show up as a feminine woman because a

1103
00:54:59,560 --> 00:55:02,320
Speaker 1: man want a feminine woman. Right. You're talking about strength

1104
00:55:02,400 --> 00:55:04,520
Speaker 1: for yourself, but it has nothing to do with whether

1105
00:55:04,560 --> 00:55:07,680
Speaker 1: that's a value in the relationship. Because femininity is strength.

1106
00:55:08,040 --> 00:55:09,959
Speaker 1: So if you have strength and know if you're strong

1107
00:55:10,040 --> 00:55:12,520
Speaker 1: in the areas of being nurturing, being the helpmate, being

1108
00:55:12,560 --> 00:55:15,960
Speaker 1: a communicator, right, being able to be intuitive, being a

1109
00:55:16,040 --> 00:55:19,600
Speaker 1: guide in that area. Then now you have value, right,

1110
00:55:19,680 --> 00:55:22,200
Speaker 1: because now I have this woman on my side, that's

1111
00:55:22,239 --> 00:55:25,000
Speaker 1: like my second mind over here. You understand me, Like,

1112
00:55:25,200 --> 00:55:27,960
Speaker 1: that's that's an increased value. She sees things that I

1113
00:55:28,040 --> 00:55:30,239
Speaker 1: don't see. She has the energy that I don't have.

1114
00:55:30,400 --> 00:55:32,879
Speaker 1: She brings that to me. Right, she see things about

1115
00:55:32,960 --> 00:55:35,560
Speaker 1: myself that I don't see about myself. Right, that's a

1116
00:55:35,680 --> 00:55:38,040
Speaker 1: that's a powerful guiding energy that you can have in

1117
00:55:38,120 --> 00:55:41,319
Speaker 1: a woman. Right. She's like, you know, all great men

1118
00:55:41,400 --> 00:55:45,000
Speaker 1: throughout time, you can't become president as a single man. Right,

1119
00:55:45,360 --> 00:55:47,600
Speaker 1: you have to have a family because leading a family

1120
00:55:47,880 --> 00:55:50,240
Speaker 1: this micro cause him to leading a nation. It's always

1121
00:55:50,520 --> 00:55:54,319
Speaker 1: married men are the most successful, and I mean that's

1122
00:55:54,400 --> 00:55:56,920
Speaker 1: that's having that's having the made. But isn't it interesting

1123
00:55:57,480 --> 00:56:00,879
Speaker 1: that single women almost seem the most success And it's

1124
00:56:00,920 --> 00:56:03,560
Speaker 1: like that's the mother? What is what is your great

1125
00:56:03,640 --> 00:56:06,600
Speaker 1: of success? What I'm talking about, Like when you talk

1126
00:56:06,600 --> 00:56:10,799
Speaker 1: about CEOs, are just women out there most great success? Though?

1127
00:56:10,800 --> 00:56:14,400
Speaker 1: It's the question because you gotta also financially like the

1128
00:56:14,440 --> 00:56:16,560
Speaker 1: men that are making money out Let's look at historically,

1129
00:56:16,600 --> 00:56:19,160
Speaker 1: why are women in a position, specifically black women, Right,

1130
00:56:19,200 --> 00:56:21,759
Speaker 1: in a position at the end, right now, right, So

1131
00:56:22,040 --> 00:56:25,239
Speaker 1: when you look at our community, specifically black community, it's

1132
00:56:25,280 --> 00:56:29,000
Speaker 1: a very different kind of dynamic than anybody else Historically.

1133
00:56:29,160 --> 00:56:31,640
Speaker 1: It's not that black men have been lazy. Right, there's

1134
00:56:31,680 --> 00:56:34,520
Speaker 1: nowhere in history where you can find from eighteen sixty five,

1135
00:56:34,560 --> 00:56:37,680
Speaker 1: we got out of slavery, industrial ages, black men starting businesses,

1136
00:56:38,040 --> 00:56:41,320
Speaker 1: created Greenwood and created sixty plus more towns that was

1137
00:56:41,400 --> 00:56:45,120
Speaker 1: destroyed by this government America. Right, there was the crack agenda.

1138
00:56:45,200 --> 00:56:48,520
Speaker 1: There was multitude of different things, redlining, lack of loans,

1139
00:56:48,680 --> 00:56:51,919
Speaker 1: black code, so many different things, pipeline to prison, bad

1140
00:56:52,400 --> 00:56:54,880
Speaker 1: education system. So it wasn't that black men was just

1141
00:56:55,040 --> 00:56:58,000
Speaker 1: being lazy for the last a hundred plus years. No,

1142
00:56:58,280 --> 00:57:02,120
Speaker 1: it's that we have always been most targeted group in America. Right,

1143
00:57:02,320 --> 00:57:05,719
Speaker 1: and capitalism as we white or women go after, they

1144
00:57:05,760 --> 00:57:09,120
Speaker 1: call it patriarchy, but they're talking about white capitalistic structures

1145
00:57:09,480 --> 00:57:11,880
Speaker 1: that black men have never been included in at a

1146
00:57:11,960 --> 00:57:15,640
Speaker 1: high level to become successful. So now they find our

1147
00:57:15,719 --> 00:57:17,840
Speaker 1: women to be less threatening and they're opening up that

1148
00:57:17,920 --> 00:57:20,040
Speaker 1: door because that further creates a wedge and the gap.

1149
00:57:20,160 --> 00:57:23,280
Speaker 1: Look at the conversations being had now, right that your

1150
00:57:23,360 --> 00:57:26,440
Speaker 1: success is weaponized to say that we're failures. They are

1151
00:57:26,520 --> 00:57:29,320
Speaker 1: giving women the door. You're saying, well, absolutely doors have

1152
00:57:29,440 --> 00:57:32,840
Speaker 1: been opened. So women are Look at Kamala Harris right

1153
00:57:33,040 --> 00:57:36,240
Speaker 1: as a vice president. Look at you know, um um,

1154
00:57:37,000 --> 00:57:39,320
Speaker 1: what's the judge that just became the judge. Then you've

1155
00:57:39,320 --> 00:57:41,080
Speaker 1: got all these there's a lot of black women in

1156
00:57:41,120 --> 00:57:44,120
Speaker 1: positions of power. When they talk about diversity, they're going

1157
00:57:44,160 --> 00:57:46,760
Speaker 1: to promote different black women there and they putting out

1158
00:57:46,760 --> 00:57:48,720
Speaker 1: their gender. They're gonna put a black woman in front

1159
00:57:48,760 --> 00:57:51,320
Speaker 1: of that to represent them. The power structure is still

1160
00:57:51,360 --> 00:57:54,560
Speaker 1: the same. But this individual success is supposed to represent

1161
00:57:54,640 --> 00:57:58,280
Speaker 1: progress for the Black community, which it doesn't. Right, one

1162
00:57:58,480 --> 00:58:03,240
Speaker 1: person successful does not present progress whatsoever. That's just their career. Now,

1163
00:58:03,440 --> 00:58:05,360
Speaker 1: the reality of it is is that all of that

1164
00:58:05,600 --> 00:58:08,720
Speaker 1: has also been built off the backs of Black men

1165
00:58:09,280 --> 00:58:12,360
Speaker 1: being killed and murdered and thrown in jail. Look at

1166
00:58:12,400 --> 00:58:14,120
Speaker 1: the whole thing with George Floyd. He had to be

1167
00:58:14,280 --> 00:58:16,040
Speaker 1: killed for a lot of white guilt to be propped

1168
00:58:16,120 --> 00:58:18,400
Speaker 1: up to the height that it is. And now diversity

1169
00:58:18,440 --> 00:58:21,720
Speaker 1: and inclusion is representation of women and black women leadership.

1170
00:58:22,160 --> 00:58:25,040
Speaker 1: But you have never seen a campaign ever where said

1171
00:58:25,120 --> 00:58:27,280
Speaker 1: that we want to have more black male inclusion or

1172
00:58:27,360 --> 00:58:30,280
Speaker 1: black mail diversity. There has never been a campaign to

1173
00:58:30,440 --> 00:58:32,880
Speaker 1: this day. It still doesn't women have been counted out.

1174
00:58:33,480 --> 00:58:35,680
Speaker 1: I'm not saying you haven't been counted out, But in

1175
00:58:35,760 --> 00:58:38,400
Speaker 1: that same token with black women have been counted out,

1176
00:58:38,440 --> 00:58:40,680
Speaker 1: black men have always been counted out. I agree with

1177
00:58:40,800 --> 00:58:42,640
Speaker 1: you on that too, so but I'm saying that the

1178
00:58:42,720 --> 00:58:45,280
Speaker 1: success that black women are enjoying is a part of

1179
00:58:45,880 --> 00:58:48,720
Speaker 1: the fact that black men have been a war economically

1180
00:58:48,760 --> 00:58:52,200
Speaker 1: in this country. So now we're looking at the results

1181
00:58:52,360 --> 00:58:54,680
Speaker 1: of the last one years and black women saying that, look,

1182
00:58:54,680 --> 00:58:56,680
Speaker 1: we're successful. What y'all nigga is doing, It's like, you

1183
00:58:56,840 --> 00:58:59,680
Speaker 1: know that the reason that everything has been cutted up

1184
00:58:59,760 --> 00:59:03,760
Speaker 1: in atmosphere, it's because of everything that happened before. It's

1185
00:59:03,800 --> 00:59:06,240
Speaker 1: not that just just generation is just better than the

1186
00:59:06,320 --> 00:59:09,000
Speaker 1: women and men before. Women black women are not understanding

1187
00:59:09,120 --> 00:59:11,840
Speaker 1: that men are in Black men specifically are incarcerated at

1188
00:59:11,840 --> 00:59:15,080
Speaker 1: alignment rates, or that the crack emmagemic epidemic ruined families.

1189
00:59:15,440 --> 00:59:19,240
Speaker 1: But like, but that's not don't step up like black

1190
00:59:19,280 --> 00:59:21,760
Speaker 1: women do. That's just facts. We can google this ship,

1191
00:59:21,800 --> 00:59:24,240
Speaker 1: but that you can't say. But that is huge there's

1192
00:59:24,280 --> 00:59:26,520
Speaker 1: no other people in America that can say that. Like,

1193
00:59:26,680 --> 00:59:29,240
Speaker 1: so when you say, who cares that the incarceration is

1194
00:59:29,320 --> 00:59:32,440
Speaker 1: high black men? But I'm saying but when you say but,

1195
00:59:32,640 --> 00:59:37,720
Speaker 1: it minimizes, it minimizes that reality. Right when listen, black

1196
00:59:37,760 --> 00:59:40,040
Speaker 1: men on the most targeted. We have the highest rates

1197
00:59:40,120 --> 00:59:44,640
Speaker 1: of homicide, violence, cancer, every disease. We have the worst

1198
00:59:44,640 --> 00:59:47,880
Speaker 1: statistics of any group in America. Yet it's not seen

1199
00:59:48,080 --> 00:59:51,160
Speaker 1: as the highest priority in America. When people talk about activism,

1200
00:59:51,840 --> 00:59:55,840
Speaker 1: why because nobody cares, you understand me. So when black men,

1201
00:59:56,000 --> 00:59:58,880
Speaker 1: young black men today at this generation are starting from

1202
00:59:59,120 --> 01:00:01,640
Speaker 1: from way behind in the eight ball. And then they

1203
01:00:01,720 --> 01:00:04,040
Speaker 1: also saying that, well, now you're behind this black woman

1204
01:00:04,080 --> 01:00:06,960
Speaker 1: who's doing better than you. So it's becoming weaponized against

1205
01:00:07,040 --> 01:00:10,320
Speaker 1: each other. Now its battleless success of the sexist. Now

1206
01:00:10,800 --> 01:00:14,920
Speaker 1: her financial success is a representation of your failure. Right,

1207
01:00:15,120 --> 01:00:18,160
Speaker 1: And this is what's crossing a bigger widen gap because

1208
01:00:18,160 --> 01:00:19,960
Speaker 1: she's saying that I'm doing better than you what you're

1209
01:00:19,960 --> 01:00:23,240
Speaker 1: doing nigger, and you're not. You are of the generation

1210
01:00:23,280 --> 01:00:25,240
Speaker 1: that gets the benefit because this is where society is.

1211
01:00:25,360 --> 01:00:27,520
Speaker 1: But that's only because of everything that happened before you.

1212
01:00:27,720 --> 01:00:30,040
Speaker 1: I don't want to believe because I don't speak that

1213
01:00:30,120 --> 01:00:32,800
Speaker 1: way about man that makes less than me that are doing.

1214
01:00:32,840 --> 01:00:34,480
Speaker 1: I don't ever be like, what the funk are you doing?

1215
01:00:34,520 --> 01:00:36,440
Speaker 1: I want to know somebody out there. That's the tone though,

1216
01:00:36,760 --> 01:00:39,160
Speaker 1: that's the tone that men here when we talk about

1217
01:00:42,080 --> 01:00:43,640
Speaker 1: it ain't what you say is how you said all

1218
01:00:43,680 --> 01:00:45,600
Speaker 1: the time, even with men that talk about women and

1219
01:00:45,640 --> 01:00:47,280
Speaker 1: the things that they want from women most of the

1220
01:00:47,280 --> 01:00:54,960
Speaker 1: time in correct, but their tone, then let's maybe dig

1221
01:00:55,080 --> 01:00:57,320
Speaker 1: into I feel like when I have this conversation with

1222
01:00:58,760 --> 01:01:03,240
Speaker 1: black women millionaires, typically they always say something to me

1223
01:01:03,360 --> 01:01:06,800
Speaker 1: about how they've never felt like they were prioritized that

1224
01:01:07,320 --> 01:01:09,640
Speaker 1: men that are in their lane or of their caliber

1225
01:01:10,000 --> 01:01:14,760
Speaker 1: are dating models that aren't black, whether they be Latina

1226
01:01:15,160 --> 01:01:17,920
Speaker 1: or and we know they're halfhi Latina's but or white women, like,

1227
01:01:18,440 --> 01:01:20,840
Speaker 1: what about the black women that are feeling left out?

1228
01:01:21,840 --> 01:01:24,640
Speaker 1: When did when did any time in the world black

1229
01:01:24,720 --> 01:01:26,440
Speaker 1: man said that they wanted or man said that they

1230
01:01:26,480 --> 01:01:30,080
Speaker 1: wanted a millionaire woman, that's something that she wanted for herself,

1231
01:01:30,160 --> 01:01:33,840
Speaker 1: but it was never a qualification for attractiveness. And on

1232
01:01:33,960 --> 01:01:36,520
Speaker 1: the foot five, as women, we do think that and

1233
01:01:36,640 --> 01:01:40,000
Speaker 1: men have always want what I'm saying we want six.

1234
01:01:40,200 --> 01:01:42,360
Speaker 1: My point about that THO was success in men. We're

1235
01:01:42,360 --> 01:01:45,200
Speaker 1: talking about successful women. Are the successful men going after

1236
01:01:45,280 --> 01:01:48,400
Speaker 1: black women? Yeah, a lot of successful most black men

1237
01:01:48,560 --> 01:01:51,680
Speaker 1: marry black women. Yes, that's true. Most people of any

1238
01:01:51,760 --> 01:01:54,720
Speaker 1: race married their own race. But we do see a

1239
01:01:54,840 --> 01:01:59,120
Speaker 1: lot of glorified relationships where black men successful, which means

1240
01:01:59,200 --> 01:02:01,920
Speaker 1: the media and say, we don't Black people don't own

1241
01:02:01,960 --> 01:02:04,600
Speaker 1: the media if we had our opportunities. Women don't have

1242
01:02:04,720 --> 01:02:06,960
Speaker 1: that idea of putting it black men down, so that

1243
01:02:07,120 --> 01:02:09,440
Speaker 1: whereas that that is glorified in the media. But I

1244
01:02:09,480 --> 01:02:11,440
Speaker 1: don't want to make the monolith of black women being

1245
01:02:11,480 --> 01:02:13,520
Speaker 1: successful and going out If I had a daughter, I

1246
01:02:13,560 --> 01:02:15,080
Speaker 1: would want her to go out there and get it too.

1247
01:02:15,240 --> 01:02:17,240
Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying. I think that I love

1248
01:02:17,320 --> 01:02:19,800
Speaker 1: the fact that black women are getting money and are successful.

1249
01:02:19,840 --> 01:02:22,840
Speaker 1: But you also see the challenges now right that we're

1250
01:02:22,880 --> 01:02:25,880
Speaker 1: talking about nature of masculine and feminine. Right, men are

1251
01:02:25,920 --> 01:02:27,720
Speaker 1: not going to change their nature to be attracted to

1252
01:02:27,800 --> 01:02:31,200
Speaker 1: women with money. That's not it, right. So a man

1253
01:02:31,280 --> 01:02:36,840
Speaker 1: with money just wants to and they every time that

1254
01:02:36,920 --> 01:02:39,000
Speaker 1: we got to start posting the food. Man and women

1255
01:02:39,040 --> 01:02:41,120
Speaker 1: should not just be going for men with money, and

1256
01:02:41,200 --> 01:02:43,160
Speaker 1: I think that's probably the bigger issue because most black

1257
01:02:43,200 --> 01:02:45,800
Speaker 1: men ain't got that much money, so most black men

1258
01:02:45,920 --> 01:02:48,200
Speaker 1: women don't want the average man. That's the whole Kevin

1259
01:02:48,280 --> 01:02:51,800
Speaker 1: Samuel's argument is that your expectations are higher in reality,

1260
01:02:52,240 --> 01:02:55,200
Speaker 1: and when you look at the numbers, right, so now

1261
01:02:55,400 --> 01:02:57,840
Speaker 1: you've got twenty women, a hundred women, a thousand women

1262
01:02:57,880 --> 01:02:59,920
Speaker 1: going at the one man, and then you mad at

1263
01:03:00,040 --> 01:03:02,040
Speaker 1: that man for choosing ten percent of the options. We

1264
01:03:02,120 --> 01:03:04,040
Speaker 1: had that clip that you, um, what was it about

1265
01:03:04,080 --> 01:03:07,600
Speaker 1: women competing? M hmm. Do you think that women should

1266
01:03:07,600 --> 01:03:09,800
Speaker 1: be competing for man? And if so, what are the

1267
01:03:09,880 --> 01:03:12,000
Speaker 1: things that can make a woman stand out. I think

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01:03:12,080 --> 01:03:14,880
Speaker 1: human beings can always compete for each other because at

1269
01:03:14,880 --> 01:03:16,760
Speaker 1: the end of the day, a man don't want to

1270
01:03:16,800 --> 01:03:19,120
Speaker 1: have any what you know, good man, let's say I'm

1271
01:03:19,160 --> 01:03:20,800
Speaker 1: good man, don't want any woman to have his baby,

1272
01:03:20,840 --> 01:03:22,160
Speaker 1: and a woman don't want to have a baby with

1273
01:03:22,280 --> 01:03:24,760
Speaker 1: any man. So they're always going to be competing with

1274
01:03:24,880 --> 01:03:26,520
Speaker 1: what they feel like is the top of the stock.

1275
01:03:27,120 --> 01:03:30,120
Speaker 1: That's human nature, that's beyond society rods. When you strip

1276
01:03:30,200 --> 01:03:32,560
Speaker 1: people of jobs titled careers, all of that, we talk

1277
01:03:32,600 --> 01:03:36,240
Speaker 1: about human beings so I feel like developing yourself to

1278
01:03:36,320 --> 01:03:40,280
Speaker 1: be the best person possible, right, increases your attractiveness. Now,

1279
01:03:40,480 --> 01:03:44,280
Speaker 1: the problem is is that what we're socially engineered to

1280
01:03:44,440 --> 01:03:47,800
Speaker 1: see as attractive is these things that will bring a

1281
01:03:47,880 --> 01:03:51,400
Speaker 1: person to you, but they're not gonna keep you there. Right. So, well,

1282
01:03:51,680 --> 01:03:54,320
Speaker 1: if I even want to compete in the social atmosphere

1283
01:03:54,720 --> 01:03:57,160
Speaker 1: of what people are attracted to, I gotta step out,

1284
01:03:57,280 --> 01:03:59,880
Speaker 1: fly God, look a certain way, right, I gotta have

1285
01:04:00,000 --> 01:04:03,560
Speaker 1: these particular brands on. I got to have social status, right,

1286
01:04:03,840 --> 01:04:05,560
Speaker 1: I have to have some money. So this is how

1287
01:04:05,600 --> 01:04:08,520
Speaker 1: I even be seen. Now I'm competing against people who

1288
01:04:08,560 --> 01:04:12,200
Speaker 1: are seeing in that same life. Right. So now, of course,

1289
01:04:12,240 --> 01:04:14,320
Speaker 1: now you got to be a communicator. Now you've got

1290
01:04:14,400 --> 01:04:17,080
Speaker 1: Now the personality comes into it. Now when you're dating

1291
01:04:17,080 --> 01:04:18,680
Speaker 1: that person, how do you keep that person so they

1292
01:04:18,720 --> 01:04:21,240
Speaker 1: don't end up going to somebody else? Now you're talking

1293
01:04:21,280 --> 01:04:24,160
Speaker 1: about character, right, how do I treat this person where

1294
01:04:24,240 --> 01:04:26,720
Speaker 1: we can have longevity? It may work out for a year,

1295
01:04:27,080 --> 01:04:29,600
Speaker 1: maybe two, then they're back in the dating pool. Right.

1296
01:04:29,680 --> 01:04:32,800
Speaker 1: So it's different levels. And I believe that in old

1297
01:04:32,920 --> 01:04:35,720
Speaker 1: times they used to think about character. What type of

1298
01:04:35,800 --> 01:04:38,480
Speaker 1: person is that? Right? You bringing somebody home to your parents.

1299
01:04:38,840 --> 01:04:41,200
Speaker 1: Is this a noble person? Who's their family, what's their background,

1300
01:04:41,200 --> 01:04:43,400
Speaker 1: where they come from. It was a real investigation into

1301
01:04:43,440 --> 01:04:46,960
Speaker 1: the character of who these people were. Now this investigation

1302
01:04:47,040 --> 01:04:49,720
Speaker 1: on what they have rather than who they are. For sure,

1303
01:04:50,280 --> 01:04:54,080
Speaker 1: when you talk about top of the stock people, specifically

1304
01:04:54,160 --> 01:04:57,080
Speaker 1: for women, since we know that it's not success or money,

1305
01:04:57,520 --> 01:05:00,600
Speaker 1: what are some things you think off the bat? Are

1306
01:05:00,720 --> 01:05:03,480
Speaker 1: it for women that are competing for them? Um? I

1307
01:05:03,560 --> 01:05:06,600
Speaker 1: think look at the things that break up relationships. Um,

1308
01:05:06,800 --> 01:05:12,080
Speaker 1: just loyalty, honesty, discipline, focus, passion. Right, we're gonna get

1309
01:05:12,080 --> 01:05:14,800
Speaker 1: to this. You know, sex, but you can't you can't

1310
01:05:14,840 --> 01:05:16,680
Speaker 1: know that. You can't know the sexual part of y'all

1311
01:05:16,680 --> 01:05:19,280
Speaker 1: have sex, you understand me. So sex is an experience

1312
01:05:19,280 --> 01:05:21,240
Speaker 1: you gotta have with somebody. The rest of you, I

1313
01:05:21,320 --> 01:05:23,720
Speaker 1: mean everything else. You can start investigating at least to

1314
01:05:23,760 --> 01:05:26,400
Speaker 1: start looking for those things, right, you understand me. You

1315
01:05:26,440 --> 01:05:28,640
Speaker 1: can have a communication about what type of sex, and

1316
01:05:29,040 --> 01:05:31,000
Speaker 1: you can learn little things about a person, but you

1317
01:05:31,040 --> 01:05:32,920
Speaker 1: ain't gonna know until you do it right, So you

1318
01:05:33,000 --> 01:05:36,280
Speaker 1: can't you know, you can't test out everything before you

1319
01:05:36,400 --> 01:05:38,640
Speaker 1: buy it. You know, I'm talking about some things. You

1320
01:05:38,800 --> 01:05:43,640
Speaker 1: you know you just gotta get uh, nonphysical communication about right.

1321
01:05:44,000 --> 01:05:47,760
Speaker 1: But as a man, you know, because it's it's the

1322
01:05:47,880 --> 01:05:50,360
Speaker 1: phase that we skip now in society, which is that

1323
01:05:50,560 --> 01:05:54,120
Speaker 1: whole um um what they call it when you're not

1324
01:05:54,800 --> 01:05:59,320
Speaker 1: sexually with somebody and you have somebody there with you. Yum, Tommy,

1325
01:05:59,360 --> 01:06:04,480
Speaker 1: you know what, tom I feel like the word. Yeah,

1326
01:06:05,080 --> 01:06:08,480
Speaker 1: we know that was always a part of relationships, even

1327
01:06:08,560 --> 01:06:11,400
Speaker 1: with marriages, right, there was a courting phase. We don't

1328
01:06:11,480 --> 01:06:13,920
Speaker 1: court first. What should women be expecting from men with

1329
01:06:14,080 --> 01:06:19,200
Speaker 1: courting today? Well? Yeah, I mean I would say, you know,

1330
01:06:19,440 --> 01:06:21,600
Speaker 1: all of the I can't tell you about the different

1331
01:06:21,680 --> 01:06:23,800
Speaker 1: dating types. I don't even know. Some women like flowers,

1332
01:06:23,880 --> 01:06:26,800
Speaker 1: some people don't like hours, some people want to I

1333
01:06:26,920 --> 01:06:31,520
Speaker 1: think that basic things is communication, right, talking with somebody?

1334
01:06:31,560 --> 01:06:33,680
Speaker 1: Can they hold a conversation that keeps you interested for

1335
01:06:33,720 --> 01:06:36,080
Speaker 1: a long period of time? Right? Because if they can,

1336
01:06:36,200 --> 01:06:37,840
Speaker 1: and y'all feel like, yo, I can just chill with

1337
01:06:37,920 --> 01:06:40,120
Speaker 1: this person and talk for hours, then you maybe could

1338
01:06:40,120 --> 01:06:41,720
Speaker 1: be with that person for days. Then you may be

1339
01:06:41,880 --> 01:06:44,320
Speaker 1: that person for weeks or months. But if y'all can't

1340
01:06:44,360 --> 01:06:47,760
Speaker 1: hold a decent conversation, but you sexually attracted to that person,

1341
01:06:47,880 --> 01:06:49,880
Speaker 1: So let me just forget about that. Or the person

1342
01:06:49,960 --> 01:06:51,440
Speaker 1: got money is I don't need to talk to them

1343
01:06:51,520 --> 01:06:56,720
Speaker 1: much anyway. But so what we do is we often

1344
01:06:56,880 --> 01:07:00,920
Speaker 1: ignore the signs instead of magnify, right, So we ignore

1345
01:07:00,960 --> 01:07:02,960
Speaker 1: all the red signs for some of the green signs.

1346
01:07:03,400 --> 01:07:05,760
Speaker 1: You understand me, Well, this is a go, so for

1347
01:07:05,840 --> 01:07:08,520
Speaker 1: get the real signs. You can't even talk to breath

1348
01:07:08,560 --> 01:07:11,280
Speaker 1: for an hour straight, two hours straight, right, And I'm

1349
01:07:11,280 --> 01:07:13,960
Speaker 1: talking about not in though heightened situation. It's the most

1350
01:07:13,960 --> 01:07:16,680
Speaker 1: beautiful restaurant in the world. Can y'all fucking sit on

1351
01:07:16,760 --> 01:07:18,280
Speaker 1: the park bench and talk to each other and hold

1352
01:07:18,280 --> 01:07:21,400
Speaker 1: each other? You know what I'm saying. That might not

1353
01:07:21,520 --> 01:07:23,800
Speaker 1: be sexy for how society looks at it, but I'm

1354
01:07:23,840 --> 01:07:26,280
Speaker 1: talking about long term relationships. If you want short term

1355
01:07:26,320 --> 01:07:28,120
Speaker 1: and none of this matters for you. If you are

1356
01:07:28,280 --> 01:07:30,680
Speaker 1: long term, then who they are and who you are,

1357
01:07:30,880 --> 01:07:33,560
Speaker 1: and those two people actually meeting matters the most that

1358
01:07:34,480 --> 01:07:37,640
Speaker 1: I'd agree with that, And what is their religion? What

1359
01:07:37,880 --> 01:07:39,920
Speaker 1: is the ethnicity? This is the thing. It's not just

1360
01:07:40,040 --> 01:07:43,480
Speaker 1: about dating inside race. You gotta dating inside your ethnicity. Right.

1361
01:07:43,880 --> 01:07:46,360
Speaker 1: The difference between race and ethnicity is vast. The person

1362
01:07:46,600 --> 01:07:48,920
Speaker 1: you can date a black woman, but her ethnic background

1363
01:07:48,960 --> 01:07:51,400
Speaker 1: could be a different religion. Right, she speaks a different

1364
01:07:51,440 --> 01:07:53,600
Speaker 1: type of language, she has a different customs and beliefs

1365
01:07:53,680 --> 01:07:57,680
Speaker 1: and values. Right, do you all share that same ethnic

1366
01:07:57,800 --> 01:08:00,160
Speaker 1: background with each other, because those are gonna be the

1367
01:08:00,240 --> 01:08:03,040
Speaker 1: things that keep you together. Why do you think that is, though,

1368
01:08:03,240 --> 01:08:06,920
Speaker 1: because there's so many to me interracial relationships and not

1369
01:08:07,040 --> 01:08:09,320
Speaker 1: that I'm in one to whatever. I'm just saying, like,

1370
01:08:09,880 --> 01:08:12,360
Speaker 1: why do you think that the ethnicity boils down to it?

1371
01:08:12,840 --> 01:08:15,720
Speaker 1: Because ethnicity is those share common values that you have.

1372
01:08:16,120 --> 01:08:18,840
Speaker 1: You understand me, those beliefs that you have, because in

1373
01:08:18,920 --> 01:08:21,000
Speaker 1: the Black community, we don't all share the same beliefs

1374
01:08:21,040 --> 01:08:23,479
Speaker 1: on relationships, share the same belief on politics, share the

1375
01:08:23,479 --> 01:08:26,200
Speaker 1: same belief on God, right, share the same beliefs on

1376
01:08:26,640 --> 01:08:29,040
Speaker 1: how masculine and feminine roles are supposed to go with

1377
01:08:29,240 --> 01:08:32,160
Speaker 1: inside that relationship. So if you meet a woman of

1378
01:08:32,240 --> 01:08:34,920
Speaker 1: the same ethnic background but of a different race, you

1379
01:08:35,040 --> 01:08:37,320
Speaker 1: may feel like she has more shared things with you

1380
01:08:37,439 --> 01:08:39,800
Speaker 1: that you can get along with. Right, So we don't

1381
01:08:39,840 --> 01:08:43,040
Speaker 1: often realize that all Black people have different ethnicities as

1382
01:08:43,080 --> 01:08:45,600
Speaker 1: well inside our diasporas, So we think we have to

1383
01:08:45,680 --> 01:08:47,519
Speaker 1: jump all the way outside of our race to find

1384
01:08:47,600 --> 01:08:51,840
Speaker 1: somebody of the same ethnicity. Do you what when you're

1385
01:08:51,920 --> 01:08:53,519
Speaker 1: like dating, do you ever think about that? Because I mean,

1386
01:08:53,560 --> 01:08:55,160
Speaker 1: I told you I'm dating a Muslim right now, and

1387
01:08:55,240 --> 01:08:59,000
Speaker 1: it's or I did multiple Muslims actually, but I think

1388
01:08:59,080 --> 01:09:01,839
Speaker 1: that's also just because I like niggas from Harlem apparently,

1389
01:09:02,200 --> 01:09:09,080
Speaker 1: and everybody is a Muslim um. I don't know the knowledge,

1390
01:09:16,080 --> 01:09:18,479
Speaker 1: so I don't look at that. I'm one of those

1391
01:09:18,520 --> 01:09:21,639
Speaker 1: people that questioned so much. I don't think I'm coming

1392
01:09:21,720 --> 01:09:24,800
Speaker 1: in with the way I perceive what I want my

1393
01:09:24,840 --> 01:09:26,639
Speaker 1: household to be. I'm also a woman that doesn't want

1394
01:09:26,640 --> 01:09:30,240
Speaker 1: marriage or children, so to me, how I date, how

1395
01:09:30,280 --> 01:09:33,599
Speaker 1: I look for a partner is definitely different than someone

1396
01:09:33,640 --> 01:09:36,280
Speaker 1: who's looking. You know, I told you how people treat

1397
01:09:36,439 --> 01:09:39,240
Speaker 1: kids period, like, and this was yesterday. I said this.

1398
01:09:39,400 --> 01:09:41,920
Speaker 1: I watch it all the time, down to how men

1399
01:09:42,040 --> 01:09:44,720
Speaker 1: talk to my dog. I think it's really important to

1400
01:09:44,760 --> 01:09:47,439
Speaker 1: see how people treat kids or someone younger, because that

1401
01:09:47,560 --> 01:09:49,760
Speaker 1: always tells me character how I just stay away from them.

1402
01:09:50,000 --> 01:09:51,439
Speaker 1: That's I mean, how do you always get in a

1403
01:09:51,479 --> 01:09:54,679
Speaker 1: situation where you're around a person and children or I'm saying,

1404
01:09:54,720 --> 01:09:58,200
Speaker 1: like a barbecue, know as you're developing a relationship when

1405
01:09:58,240 --> 01:10:02,479
Speaker 1: they're on the to a barbecue in in a minute.

1406
01:10:03,880 --> 01:10:06,040
Speaker 1: I ain't never said I ain't been to barbecue'll be

1407
01:10:06,160 --> 01:10:08,679
Speaker 1: saying stuff, I ain't been to a barbecue in a minute.

1408
01:10:11,320 --> 01:10:15,680
Speaker 1: A lot of kids like I just was very just

1409
01:10:16,040 --> 01:10:18,280
Speaker 1: for me. That's one of those partnership things where like

1410
01:10:18,400 --> 01:10:20,519
Speaker 1: it's a hard note I'm going a few days. I

1411
01:10:20,600 --> 01:10:22,439
Speaker 1: see how they're talking to someone young, if they answer

1412
01:10:22,479 --> 01:10:24,320
Speaker 1: the phone to a family member, how they speak to him,

1413
01:10:24,400 --> 01:10:28,080
Speaker 1: especially the mother. Also one of those when when men

1414
01:10:28,200 --> 01:10:31,240
Speaker 1: talk about their exes and they shoot on them immediately.

1415
01:10:32,240 --> 01:10:35,439
Speaker 1: I don't like that idea that people gotta hate their exes.

1416
01:10:36,080 --> 01:10:38,400
Speaker 1: That's terrible. I also think that people just hold onto

1417
01:10:38,479 --> 01:10:41,519
Speaker 1: trauma to victimize themselves and make themselves feel better about

1418
01:10:41,560 --> 01:10:43,680
Speaker 1: their own role in their self destruction. My ex as

1419
01:10:43,680 --> 01:10:45,160
Speaker 1: a piece of ship, but the other ones was good.

1420
01:10:45,240 --> 01:10:48,200
Speaker 1: The recent one was bad. But to be really, when

1421
01:10:48,720 --> 01:10:50,720
Speaker 1: ever I talked about him as someone else, I make

1422
01:10:50,800 --> 01:10:53,760
Speaker 1: sure not too emotionally dump because I do want men

1423
01:10:53,840 --> 01:10:56,120
Speaker 1: to know like I chose to be with this person

1424
01:10:56,160 --> 01:10:57,920
Speaker 1: for a certain amount of years. I liked something about

1425
01:10:57,960 --> 01:11:00,560
Speaker 1: then he was a whole I thought that was what

1426
01:11:00,680 --> 01:11:02,160
Speaker 1: connected us in the beginning. I just didn't know he

1427
01:11:02,200 --> 01:11:04,439
Speaker 1: was gonna keep holding. You know what I'm saying speaking

1428
01:11:04,479 --> 01:11:07,640
Speaker 1: of hoing and in relationships. So before we get out

1429
01:11:07,640 --> 01:11:09,880
Speaker 1: of here, I want to talk about new dynamics and relationships.

1430
01:11:09,960 --> 01:11:12,680
Speaker 1: So we see throut poles, we see a lot of

1431
01:11:12,760 --> 01:11:15,960
Speaker 1: threesomes going on, things like that. Do you think in

1432
01:11:16,080 --> 01:11:19,120
Speaker 1: the age of polygamy, that's to me an older thought.

1433
01:11:19,160 --> 01:11:21,280
Speaker 1: We're now polyamory is more of a new thing that

1434
01:11:21,400 --> 01:11:26,600
Speaker 1: people can prosper in that in polygamy, poly polygamy is

1435
01:11:26,600 --> 01:11:28,640
Speaker 1: when the women aren't we're just the man can have

1436
01:11:28,760 --> 01:11:33,240
Speaker 1: multiple partners. Polyamories where they both date each other, doesn't

1437
01:11:33,240 --> 01:11:35,360
Speaker 1: even say men, let's make it easy for you men

1438
01:11:35,600 --> 01:11:38,800
Speaker 1: dating women that also are dating each other. Or throttles

1439
01:11:38,840 --> 01:11:40,559
Speaker 1: where the women have sex with each other. That's that's

1440
01:11:40,600 --> 01:11:42,560
Speaker 1: a new idea of polygamy. But that was never the

1441
01:11:42,680 --> 01:11:46,320
Speaker 1: idea of polygamy. Um the idea of polygamy was was

1442
01:11:46,439 --> 01:11:49,160
Speaker 1: completely different. It was it was based on foundations of

1443
01:11:49,240 --> 01:11:51,880
Speaker 1: nation building and like bringing people into the household, but

1444
01:11:52,000 --> 01:11:55,240
Speaker 1: doing it the right way. Right, So you know these

1445
01:11:55,280 --> 01:11:58,200
Speaker 1: new ideas and standards that people just create definitions and

1446
01:11:58,640 --> 01:12:00,519
Speaker 1: just put on work. That's why I always acting people

1447
01:12:00,520 --> 01:12:01,880
Speaker 1: what does that mean to you? Because I don't want

1448
01:12:01,880 --> 01:12:03,720
Speaker 1: to be having a conversation which we talked about two

1449
01:12:03,720 --> 01:12:07,160
Speaker 1: different truffles. Right, you have women that are bisexual, like

1450
01:12:07,240 --> 01:12:09,760
Speaker 1: again we're speaking with men. I don't think it's gonna work.

1451
01:12:10,080 --> 01:12:12,000
Speaker 1: I'll just put a blanket statement on it. I think

1452
01:12:12,040 --> 01:12:15,080
Speaker 1: that because I think everything in a long time, right,

1453
01:12:15,160 --> 01:12:17,519
Speaker 1: It's like everybody got all these new concepts of how

1454
01:12:17,560 --> 01:12:20,080
Speaker 1: they want to run businesses. But then you've got people

1455
01:12:20,120 --> 01:12:22,679
Speaker 1: that's been running business for thirty fifty years and these

1456
01:12:22,680 --> 01:12:25,640
Speaker 1: always they come and they go right, even you know

1457
01:12:25,920 --> 01:12:29,240
Speaker 1: in uh in the stock trading world, right, people can

1458
01:12:29,320 --> 01:12:32,160
Speaker 1: have successful ways they go about making a million dollars,

1459
01:12:32,240 --> 01:12:34,599
Speaker 1: two million dollars, but can they do it again? Right?

1460
01:12:34,960 --> 01:12:38,080
Speaker 1: And so a lot of people are going for can

1461
01:12:38,360 --> 01:12:41,240
Speaker 1: things satisfy my desires in the short term? So so

1462
01:12:41,439 --> 01:12:43,200
Speaker 1: are you then saying you're a fan of monogamy for

1463
01:12:43,320 --> 01:12:47,200
Speaker 1: two people? I am yes. I mean because I think

1464
01:12:47,200 --> 01:12:49,160
Speaker 1: that that's where you first learn yourself and you learn

1465
01:12:49,200 --> 01:12:52,559
Speaker 1: discipline and you learn relationship. Is I think everything else

1466
01:12:52,720 --> 01:12:54,840
Speaker 1: is you're not wanting to learn yourself in that and

1467
01:12:54,880 --> 01:12:58,640
Speaker 1: you want to throw in all of these other uh circumstance.

1468
01:12:58,640 --> 01:13:00,280
Speaker 1: What about a couple that get some pussy just the

1469
01:13:00,360 --> 01:13:03,479
Speaker 1: vacation you go to Vegas? She cut. Do you think

1470
01:13:03,560 --> 01:13:05,920
Speaker 1: that can ruin when couples start exploring, because we see

1471
01:13:05,920 --> 01:13:08,160
Speaker 1: that a lot couple of a lot of couples like that,

1472
01:13:08,240 --> 01:13:10,600
Speaker 1: A lot of couples that have started exploring threesomes have

1473
01:13:10,760 --> 01:13:12,720
Speaker 1: been ruined because of that in a long term. They

1474
01:13:12,760 --> 01:13:14,360
Speaker 1: think that it's cool in the short term, and then

1475
01:13:14,439 --> 01:13:16,439
Speaker 1: they realized, like damn, it wasn't for me or the

1476
01:13:16,520 --> 01:13:19,439
Speaker 1: other person wants to consistently have that thing happen, And

1477
01:13:19,560 --> 01:13:22,840
Speaker 1: now you know emotionally and spiritually that relationship is not

1478
01:13:22,960 --> 01:13:26,560
Speaker 1: the same. The thing about you know, relationships is that

1479
01:13:26,920 --> 01:13:30,320
Speaker 1: you build a certain integrity. Right. Integrity is the foundation

1480
01:13:30,400 --> 01:13:32,680
Speaker 1: of something, right, it is what it's made of. When

1481
01:13:32,720 --> 01:13:35,320
Speaker 1: you add somebody else in that, they disrupt the integrity

1482
01:13:35,360 --> 01:13:37,000
Speaker 1: of that. So it's no longer the same thing that

1483
01:13:37,120 --> 01:13:41,280
Speaker 1: you are initially built. Adding them to the relationship into

1484
01:13:41,720 --> 01:13:44,040
Speaker 1: the sex, because once you're adding them into the sex,

1485
01:13:44,120 --> 01:13:48,240
Speaker 1: you're adding them into the most powerful part of the relationship. Right. Physically,

1486
01:13:48,280 --> 01:13:50,720
Speaker 1: we got memories as well, not just mentally, so our

1487
01:13:50,760 --> 01:13:53,080
Speaker 1: body remembers the people that we with, We remember the

1488
01:13:53,120 --> 01:13:55,560
Speaker 1: circumstances that were in So sex is one of the

1489
01:13:55,640 --> 01:13:57,800
Speaker 1: most powerful part of the relationships. So if you add

1490
01:13:57,880 --> 01:14:00,600
Speaker 1: somebody in there, even casually, they're out part of that

1491
01:14:00,680 --> 01:14:03,400
Speaker 1: relationship history. You know what I'm saying. Your relationship got

1492
01:14:03,479 --> 01:14:07,240
Speaker 1: a blockchain. They don't forget. It's called the cock chain.

1493
01:14:09,720 --> 01:14:11,880
Speaker 1: All right, I was Do you feel like we went

1494
01:14:11,960 --> 01:14:15,840
Speaker 1: easy on you? No, I went easy on y'all. Know what,

1495
01:14:16,479 --> 01:14:22,280
Speaker 1: I ll get people what they want. What's your favorite position?

1496
01:14:23,080 --> 01:14:25,599
Speaker 1: Man um on the throne? You know, I'm telling ball,

1497
01:14:25,640 --> 01:14:27,320
Speaker 1: I just like being a nice thought leader. You know

1498
01:14:27,360 --> 01:14:31,280
Speaker 1: what I'm saying, teaching people the game, you know, as

1499
01:14:31,320 --> 01:14:36,720
Speaker 1: a black guy from you. And it can't be communication. Man,

1500
01:14:36,760 --> 01:14:40,240
Speaker 1: I would say, massage beforehand. You understand me. If you

1501
01:14:40,280 --> 01:14:43,320
Speaker 1: give each other massages, you understand me. It changes the

1502
01:14:43,400 --> 01:14:47,080
Speaker 1: dynamics of sex. It electrically charges and connect y'all sound

1503
01:14:47,160 --> 01:14:50,720
Speaker 1: like this is disgusting. You are him? This is so weird. Hey,

1504
01:14:50,760 --> 01:14:55,000
Speaker 1: where I gotta go? Because listen secrets. But listen, No,

1505
01:14:55,160 --> 01:14:57,519
Speaker 1: that's that's that's that's been a secret throughout time. This

1506
01:14:57,600 --> 01:14:59,280
Speaker 1: is the thing about sex is the oldest thing we've

1507
01:14:59,320 --> 01:15:02,160
Speaker 1: ever done. And then to stretch you after. That's another

1508
01:15:02,320 --> 01:15:09,840
Speaker 1: thing you before stretching. Chill, chill, chill, chill, chill. No,

1509
01:15:10,000 --> 01:15:13,280
Speaker 1: but for real though, because listen, Sexually, the massage creates

1510
01:15:13,320 --> 01:15:15,720
Speaker 1: a deeper intimate connection. Now, if you want to go

1511
01:15:15,800 --> 01:15:17,880
Speaker 1: to a whole another level, you understand me, you might

1512
01:15:17,960 --> 01:15:21,400
Speaker 1: want to medit. No, listen, no, listen. You all already

1513
01:15:21,439 --> 01:15:23,200
Speaker 1: talked about all of the physical stuff, so I'm gonna

1514
01:15:23,200 --> 01:15:27,040
Speaker 1: give you some of the spiritual go ahead. So you know,

1515
01:15:27,200 --> 01:15:29,519
Speaker 1: y'all sitting close to each other on the end of

1516
01:15:29,560 --> 01:15:31,840
Speaker 1: the bed, y'all got some of the tents. Y'all can

1517
01:15:31,880 --> 01:15:34,760
Speaker 1: be naked or with y'all you know, you don't have

1518
01:15:34,840 --> 01:15:37,040
Speaker 1: to be naked before. And but it got full clothing

1519
01:15:37,080 --> 01:15:40,640
Speaker 1: y'all in the bit you know, talking about so the

1520
01:15:40,680 --> 01:15:43,639
Speaker 1: street clothes, No, not at all, right, So then y'all

1521
01:15:43,680 --> 01:15:45,800
Speaker 1: got the music flowing. You know what I'm saying, put

1522
01:15:45,840 --> 01:15:50,000
Speaker 1: on some radio hypsi and drum music. Gyps and drums

1523
01:15:50,840 --> 01:15:53,479
Speaker 1: like you don't talk to like Joe Brent fire has Well,

1524
01:15:53,479 --> 01:15:57,000
Speaker 1: I ain't at I ain't going into my playlist. What

1525
01:15:57,120 --> 01:15:59,160
Speaker 1: I'm saying is you're throwing some of that music. So

1526
01:15:59,280 --> 01:16:01,439
Speaker 1: now y'all cat in the same vibration, y'all in the

1527
01:16:01,520 --> 01:16:04,200
Speaker 1: same mental space, because y'all, let's say if you had

1528
01:16:04,240 --> 01:16:06,000
Speaker 1: your own day, he had his own day. Y'all can

1529
01:16:06,040 --> 01:16:08,800
Speaker 1: be in two completely different mental planes. So what y'all

1530
01:16:08,840 --> 01:16:11,360
Speaker 1: doing is y'all connecting right on the same mental plane

1531
01:16:11,400 --> 01:16:14,599
Speaker 1: and spiritual plane. Then y'all connecting on the physical plane.

1532
01:16:14,920 --> 01:16:18,360
Speaker 1: You don't talking about man, you're talking about the sex

1533
01:16:18,479 --> 01:16:21,479
Speaker 1: or the medic It could be, it could be sure,

1534
01:16:21,520 --> 01:16:23,280
Speaker 1: it could be five minutes, you know what I'm saying.

1535
01:16:23,280 --> 01:16:24,720
Speaker 1: It could be to him and depending on y'all, but

1536
01:16:24,840 --> 01:16:26,439
Speaker 1: it doesn't have to go that long. But it's like

1537
01:16:26,840 --> 01:16:30,080
Speaker 1: you all the sort of like visualizing connecting together, right,

1538
01:16:30,160 --> 01:16:33,559
Speaker 1: and so creating that connection beforehand, then you are going

1539
01:16:33,640 --> 01:16:36,639
Speaker 1: into the most electrical thing that human beings can do, right,

1540
01:16:36,680 --> 01:16:39,040
Speaker 1: which has provide each other pleasure. You understand me, And

1541
01:16:39,080 --> 01:16:41,280
Speaker 1: that's one of the highest states of joy. So I

1542
01:16:41,400 --> 01:16:44,840
Speaker 1: believe that instead of you are bringing the world into

1543
01:16:45,320 --> 01:16:48,120
Speaker 1: your bedroom from all of the thoughts, ideas and things,

1544
01:16:48,520 --> 01:16:50,360
Speaker 1: you're in a calm state when you have sex, so

1545
01:16:50,439 --> 01:16:53,160
Speaker 1: you're not passing along with your problems and issues. You

1546
01:16:53,280 --> 01:16:56,479
Speaker 1: understand me, That's why a lot of people may like smoke,

1547
01:16:57,040 --> 01:17:00,240
Speaker 1: and it makes the man go. He go go longer

1548
01:17:00,320 --> 01:17:03,080
Speaker 1: because he's calmer. Right, So when the sexes are riled up,

1549
01:17:03,120 --> 01:17:06,120
Speaker 1: that's when the man starts to have an orgasm and ejaculate.

1550
01:17:06,160 --> 01:17:08,479
Speaker 1: But if you come into a calmer state, now you

1551
01:17:08,560 --> 01:17:10,360
Speaker 1: know you can handle what can we do? If it's

1552
01:17:10,360 --> 01:17:12,720
Speaker 1: not Egyptian drums, that might freaking it ain't gotta just

1553
01:17:12,800 --> 01:17:16,799
Speaker 1: be Egyptian. It could be ocean ways, could be nature sounds,

1554
01:17:17,320 --> 01:17:18,960
Speaker 1: it could be anything. And then y'all can go into

1555
01:17:19,040 --> 01:17:21,240
Speaker 1: y'all playlist or whatever y'all want to put off. They

1556
01:17:21,240 --> 01:17:23,200
Speaker 1: can just talk about me because I was like, I

1557
01:17:23,240 --> 01:17:25,200
Speaker 1: don't do the stars and moon shap He's like, nigger,

1558
01:17:25,320 --> 01:17:30,080
Speaker 1: you put on galaxy lights and you know you gotta

1559
01:17:30,120 --> 01:17:32,160
Speaker 1: do the cost of energies. You know what I'm talking about.

1560
01:17:32,240 --> 01:17:34,640
Speaker 1: But that's that's the key though. But see that's what

1561
01:17:34,720 --> 01:17:36,840
Speaker 1: I'm saying. So you know women that got the plants

1562
01:17:36,880 --> 01:17:40,320
Speaker 1: and she got the oils, and you know, she man,

1563
01:17:40,439 --> 01:17:44,439
Speaker 1: let's talk about the plants, and that's life because listen, plants.

1564
01:17:44,560 --> 01:17:47,719
Speaker 1: Lets me know at least an aspect that you're nurturing,

1565
01:17:48,240 --> 01:17:50,720
Speaker 1: You understand, because you gotta consistently water plants. For a

1566
01:17:50,800 --> 01:17:52,200
Speaker 1: woman to be in a relationship with a man, she

1567
01:17:52,240 --> 01:17:56,639
Speaker 1: gotta water him as well. That ain't work. That's regular,

1568
01:17:56,760 --> 01:17:59,280
Speaker 1: that's regular stuff. See, this is this is femininity, is

1569
01:17:59,320 --> 01:18:02,960
Speaker 1: what I'm telling you. That way. You gotta be feminine

1570
01:18:03,000 --> 01:18:04,519
Speaker 1: to think that way. You know what I'm saying man

1571
01:18:04,800 --> 01:18:06,760
Speaker 1: to look at women in that way? No, you're just

1572
01:18:06,800 --> 01:18:09,080
Speaker 1: gonna be masculine and feminine. I think this idea, like

1573
01:18:09,200 --> 01:18:11,400
Speaker 1: woke mean so many different things to so many people.

1574
01:18:11,479 --> 01:18:14,200
Speaker 1: Some people say woke is the new sleep, Woke is

1575
01:18:14,240 --> 01:18:16,880
Speaker 1: political ships hate. I mean woke as far as like,

1576
01:18:17,160 --> 01:18:19,040
Speaker 1: I don't know if men have ever came at home

1577
01:18:19,560 --> 01:18:21,599
Speaker 1: and they always comment on my plans because there's a lot,

1578
01:18:21,680 --> 01:18:23,880
Speaker 1: but ever came in and said you're a nurturer because

1579
01:18:23,920 --> 01:18:27,400
Speaker 1: there are plans? No, I don't think conscious thing. It's

1580
01:18:27,439 --> 01:18:29,760
Speaker 1: like when you go into a woman's atmosphere, it just

1581
01:18:29,760 --> 01:18:32,880
Speaker 1: should be a certain type of energy because that's your energy. Right.

1582
01:18:33,160 --> 01:18:35,599
Speaker 1: If you come in there and there's no life in there,

1583
01:18:35,640 --> 01:18:37,680
Speaker 1: how you gonna bring life to me? You know I'm

1584
01:18:37,680 --> 01:18:40,519
Speaker 1: talking about if you go in there there's no food

1585
01:18:40,600 --> 01:18:43,360
Speaker 1: in the kitchen, You understand me? I know you don't cook, right,

1586
01:18:43,439 --> 01:18:46,639
Speaker 1: So these are subconscious things that we noticed a woman having,

1587
01:18:46,800 --> 01:18:48,679
Speaker 1: like the plants and the crystals and all of those

1588
01:18:48,720 --> 01:18:51,680
Speaker 1: different things. That's how she charges herself up right, A

1589
01:18:51,760 --> 01:18:54,360
Speaker 1: woman has a different responsibility than man. Y'all have a wound.

1590
01:18:54,680 --> 01:18:56,800
Speaker 1: We don't have that. So those different things that you

1591
01:18:56,880 --> 01:18:58,719
Speaker 1: have to do to take care of that wound, because

1592
01:18:58,800 --> 01:19:00,840
Speaker 1: you're going to bring life, you have the ability to

1593
01:19:00,920 --> 01:19:04,800
Speaker 1: bring life. You are completely more emotionally available than man

1594
01:19:04,920 --> 01:19:08,200
Speaker 1: because you have a woe, right, So you produce different

1595
01:19:09,240 --> 01:19:12,400
Speaker 1: estrogen and different chemicals. So your environment should be a

1596
01:19:12,439 --> 01:19:14,840
Speaker 1: reflection of your nature. Right the same way, if you're

1597
01:19:14,840 --> 01:19:16,840
Speaker 1: going too a man's home and everything is pink, it's

1598
01:19:16,840 --> 01:19:19,120
Speaker 1: not reflective of his nature. You don't want that kind

1599
01:19:19,120 --> 01:19:21,400
Speaker 1: of man. I don't want a dirty when I know

1600
01:19:21,479 --> 01:19:24,519
Speaker 1: that when they have a clean when you see because

1601
01:19:24,600 --> 01:19:27,920
Speaker 1: also that's that's a I think that's very masculine as well,

1602
01:19:27,960 --> 01:19:31,800
Speaker 1: because it's very logical, right, clean cleanliness, You understand me,

1603
01:19:31,920 --> 01:19:34,120
Speaker 1: because now it's it's like a man when he wants

1604
01:19:34,160 --> 01:19:35,680
Speaker 1: to do something going to O C D. I need

1605
01:19:35,720 --> 01:19:37,599
Speaker 1: everything to be in perfect state so I can think.

1606
01:19:38,160 --> 01:19:39,920
Speaker 1: So what you're looking at is you're looking at a

1607
01:19:40,000 --> 01:19:42,120
Speaker 1: chamber of thoughts like this is a thinking man's room

1608
01:19:42,200 --> 01:19:44,360
Speaker 1: unless it's like a creative and then they can work

1609
01:19:44,400 --> 01:19:46,760
Speaker 1: in different chaos. Yeah, I sick another night and I

1610
01:19:46,920 --> 01:19:49,080
Speaker 1: was like, oh, I'll take a picture of the plate

1611
01:19:49,120 --> 01:19:51,519
Speaker 1: when I've done this thing. Was like, m that doesn't

1612
01:19:51,520 --> 01:19:53,400
Speaker 1: really do anything for me. Send me a picture of

1613
01:19:53,439 --> 01:19:56,719
Speaker 1: the kitchen. Think cleaned, all the all the pots of pads,

1614
01:19:56,760 --> 01:19:59,439
Speaker 1: I sort of guy, all the pots of players, Show

1615
01:19:59,479 --> 01:20:01,640
Speaker 1: me a clean think that actually is? What with your

1616
01:20:01,720 --> 01:20:09,400
Speaker 1: dating there? Well? You know, I think it's an interesting

1617
01:20:09,479 --> 01:20:12,840
Speaker 1: question to pose of as someone that doesn't want kids

1618
01:20:12,960 --> 01:20:16,760
Speaker 1: or marriage, but its dating a Muslim man? How do

1619
01:20:16,880 --> 01:20:19,960
Speaker 1: you make sure that does he ever complain about that?

1620
01:20:20,520 --> 01:20:23,280
Speaker 1: Because like he's been happy in his relationship with you.

1621
01:20:23,320 --> 01:20:25,880
Speaker 1: What I'm saying like, does he ever feel like he's unfulfilled?

1622
01:20:25,920 --> 01:20:28,240
Speaker 1: Because those are some of the things that you're saying,

1623
01:20:28,240 --> 01:20:30,760
Speaker 1: that black musliman one that depends on what his vision is,

1624
01:20:31,000 --> 01:20:33,519
Speaker 1: you understand me. I think that the idea for most

1625
01:20:33,600 --> 01:20:35,280
Speaker 1: men is you got a vision that your woman is

1626
01:20:35,280 --> 01:20:37,720
Speaker 1: going to produce children because you want to you want

1627
01:20:37,760 --> 01:20:41,000
Speaker 1: to reproduce yourself. That's legacy, right, That's that's a very

1628
01:20:41,120 --> 01:20:44,400
Speaker 1: high standard of manhood. Right, So when you talk to anybody,

1629
01:20:44,400 --> 01:20:46,160
Speaker 1: you gotta ask them what their long term vision is

1630
01:20:46,240 --> 01:20:48,639
Speaker 1: because for me, I can tell when the relationship don't

1631
01:20:48,640 --> 01:20:51,280
Speaker 1: work is when they don't have alignment, right if there

1632
01:20:51,320 --> 01:20:53,800
Speaker 1: are non negotiables that I have on the table and

1633
01:20:53,920 --> 01:20:56,439
Speaker 1: you have some on the table and there's nothing else

1634
01:20:56,479 --> 01:20:59,360
Speaker 1: to go from me non negotiable because I think that's

1635
01:20:59,400 --> 01:21:03,320
Speaker 1: also just an unfair way to view women, knowing that

1636
01:21:03,479 --> 01:21:08,160
Speaker 1: so many have fertility issues and can't create life. Um,

1637
01:21:08,800 --> 01:21:10,200
Speaker 1: And so to me, it has more to do not

1638
01:21:10,280 --> 01:21:13,200
Speaker 1: even with religion, but more so what you want out

1639
01:21:13,240 --> 01:21:16,160
Speaker 1: of partnership, not even family building, just because I do know,

1640
01:21:16,320 --> 01:21:18,559
Speaker 1: like and that's the conversation I've had with so many

1641
01:21:18,600 --> 01:21:21,240
Speaker 1: of my friends that I feel as though, well, what

1642
01:21:21,400 --> 01:21:25,200
Speaker 1: is my value with men if I can't create life?

1643
01:21:25,439 --> 01:21:27,240
Speaker 1: And so yeah, I mean, I still just want to

1644
01:21:27,280 --> 01:21:31,000
Speaker 1: be very clear that that's that's every woman can So

1645
01:21:31,280 --> 01:21:34,000
Speaker 1: every woman can't. But that's a sub topic, and I

1646
01:21:34,080 --> 01:21:38,120
Speaker 1: think that's a very much smaller percentage that people make

1647
01:21:38,160 --> 01:21:41,519
Speaker 1: decisions from, right, people that have reproductive issues, and that's

1648
01:21:41,560 --> 01:21:44,000
Speaker 1: completely different. That is a physical thing. You're talking about

1649
01:21:44,040 --> 01:21:47,000
Speaker 1: people that just don't want to have children because that's

1650
01:21:47,040 --> 01:21:49,000
Speaker 1: part of their beliefs, you understand me, and they don't.

1651
01:21:49,040 --> 01:21:51,519
Speaker 1: They don't want to. And I also don't want it

1652
01:21:51,560 --> 01:21:54,439
Speaker 1: to be conflated because some people can use that argument

1653
01:21:54,479 --> 01:21:56,760
Speaker 1: when it has nothing to do with the reason why

1654
01:21:56,840 --> 01:21:59,720
Speaker 1: they don't want to have children. Are you. Are you

1655
01:22:00,200 --> 01:22:05,760
Speaker 1: with like new reproductive ways like egg freezing in? I

1656
01:22:05,840 --> 01:22:08,240
Speaker 1: mean I wouldn't. I mean for people that need it, Yeah,

1657
01:22:08,439 --> 01:22:10,519
Speaker 1: the people that really want to have children, if they

1658
01:22:10,640 --> 01:22:12,920
Speaker 1: like adopted and figuring out all of these different stuff

1659
01:22:12,960 --> 01:22:15,479
Speaker 1: that's on them. But I feel like as a as

1660
01:22:15,520 --> 01:22:18,599
Speaker 1: an alternative because of the way you want your lifestyle

1661
01:22:18,640 --> 01:22:20,720
Speaker 1: to be, I'm not cool with it. You know what

1662
01:22:20,880 --> 01:22:24,240
Speaker 1: I gotta say. You impressed me with that answer because

1663
01:22:24,280 --> 01:22:26,840
Speaker 1: you're not as all the way as I thought you were.

1664
01:22:26,920 --> 01:22:30,200
Speaker 1: I don't appreciate women who may believe in science or

1665
01:22:30,240 --> 01:22:34,240
Speaker 1: not can't be empathetic enough to understand why women would

1666
01:22:34,280 --> 01:22:36,840
Speaker 1: want to make that choice. Yeah, I mean, I'm multidimensional.

1667
01:22:36,840 --> 01:22:39,040
Speaker 1: I just look at everything, not from my perspective. I

1668
01:22:39,120 --> 01:22:41,559
Speaker 1: look at everybody perspective. I'm not just talking to people

1669
01:22:41,600 --> 01:22:43,680
Speaker 1: who think like me. I'm talking to the world. So

1670
01:22:44,160 --> 01:22:46,120
Speaker 1: if I'm talking to the world. I'm thinking of, like,

1671
01:22:46,240 --> 01:22:49,639
Speaker 1: what is a circumstance in a condition where this would

1672
01:22:49,640 --> 01:22:52,679
Speaker 1: be acceptable because this person doesn't have the same ability

1673
01:22:52,760 --> 01:22:55,519
Speaker 1: like every other human being. Then yeah, but I feel

1674
01:22:55,560 --> 01:22:59,360
Speaker 1: like once it becomes an alternative right because of lifestyle,

1675
01:22:59,479 --> 01:23:01,439
Speaker 1: then that's you want to stay skinny. No, it's very

1676
01:23:01,479 --> 01:23:03,880
Speaker 1: important for men to hear you say that seriously. Yeah,

1677
01:23:03,920 --> 01:23:06,400
Speaker 1: I think it's I think too many people do use

1678
01:23:06,479 --> 01:23:10,280
Speaker 1: the excuses of using like modern ways, and then they

1679
01:23:10,320 --> 01:23:12,600
Speaker 1: start throwing in statistics and stuff that have nothing to

1680
01:23:12,680 --> 01:23:15,439
Speaker 1: do with them, right, and so they actually disrespect the

1681
01:23:15,479 --> 01:23:18,519
Speaker 1: people that actually need those alternatives because it has nothing

1682
01:23:18,560 --> 01:23:20,280
Speaker 1: to do what they need. I told Mandy on a

1683
01:23:20,280 --> 01:23:23,040
Speaker 1: Patreon episode recently that I just found out I had

1684
01:23:23,120 --> 01:23:24,960
Speaker 1: five braids and the doctor told me I gotta freeze

1685
01:23:25,000 --> 01:23:27,679
Speaker 1: my eggs. And I told one of my male friends

1686
01:23:27,800 --> 01:23:30,200
Speaker 1: and he was like, You're gonna meet so many men

1687
01:23:30,240 --> 01:23:34,240
Speaker 1: that ain't gon gonna with you after that, And I'm like, yo,

1688
01:23:34,439 --> 01:23:36,400
Speaker 1: Like I couldn't even believe he said that to me

1689
01:23:36,479 --> 01:23:39,040
Speaker 1: instead of saying like, sorry, that happens to you. But

1690
01:23:39,160 --> 01:23:41,360
Speaker 1: with steady unlike people want natural kids, I'm like the

1691
01:23:41,560 --> 01:23:43,800
Speaker 1: ag freason means I can still carry the kids. I mean,

1692
01:23:43,920 --> 01:23:45,720
Speaker 1: just today, I feel like I don't know what men

1693
01:23:45,800 --> 01:23:48,479
Speaker 1: and women won't out there. I think people have all

1694
01:23:48,600 --> 01:23:50,919
Speaker 1: sort of different things that they want. Now I'm surprised

1695
01:23:51,000 --> 01:23:53,479
Speaker 1: every single day I learned something that you did, so

1696
01:23:53,840 --> 01:23:55,960
Speaker 1: I can't say what men and women don't want. I

1697
01:23:56,040 --> 01:23:58,599
Speaker 1: feel like these alternative lifestyles that I'm seeing every single

1698
01:23:58,720 --> 01:24:00,560
Speaker 1: day is let me know that they don't even know

1699
01:24:00,600 --> 01:24:02,519
Speaker 1: what they want. What's something alternative you think you do?

1700
01:24:03,240 --> 01:24:07,400
Speaker 1: I ain't doing no alternatives. I am no alternative. Well

1701
01:24:07,439 --> 01:24:10,960
Speaker 1: before we get out, but I'm gonna say this. I

1702
01:24:11,080 --> 01:24:13,960
Speaker 1: feel like being uh, the type of like black guy

1703
01:24:14,040 --> 01:24:16,639
Speaker 1: that I am, masculine energy that I am. I'm already

1704
01:24:16,680 --> 01:24:19,400
Speaker 1: to alternative to society because I feel like this is

1705
01:24:19,520 --> 01:24:22,600
Speaker 1: no longer the norm. I'm the exception. Now you understand me.

1706
01:24:23,080 --> 01:24:26,760
Speaker 1: And so being like myself is where young men are

1707
01:24:26,800 --> 01:24:29,120
Speaker 1: trying to get themselves up to right because I grew

1708
01:24:29,240 --> 01:24:31,160
Speaker 1: up with a different kind of foundation. I grew up

1709
01:24:31,560 --> 01:24:33,479
Speaker 1: in the state where I've seen black men with money

1710
01:24:33,600 --> 01:24:39,000
Speaker 1: and power and consciousness right and business and entrepreneurship. Right.

1711
01:24:39,080 --> 01:24:41,800
Speaker 1: I I look and I study the great so for me,

1712
01:24:42,400 --> 01:24:44,920
Speaker 1: I'm of this the one percent on the planet Earth.

1713
01:24:45,120 --> 01:24:48,080
Speaker 1: I'm not in representation of the average male, you understand me.

1714
01:24:48,160 --> 01:24:51,200
Speaker 1: So I'm trying to teach to be above average. I am,

1715
01:24:51,439 --> 01:24:54,720
Speaker 1: and that's why I'm a good representation because you know, um,

1716
01:24:54,840 --> 01:24:56,640
Speaker 1: I'm teaching people how to walk in their power, how

1717
01:24:56,680 --> 01:24:58,479
Speaker 1: to think with power. And at the same time, I

1718
01:24:58,520 --> 01:25:01,120
Speaker 1: don't make excuses for ship. Understand me, everything I got

1719
01:25:01,400 --> 01:25:03,200
Speaker 1: is because I went and built it myself. I want

1720
01:25:03,240 --> 01:25:05,320
Speaker 1: to learn something and then I did something about them.

1721
01:25:05,720 --> 01:25:08,240
Speaker 1: Nothing was given. There's no wars given, there was no

1722
01:25:08,400 --> 01:25:10,880
Speaker 1: doors open. That's why I made a tweet the other day.

1723
01:25:10,880 --> 01:25:12,599
Speaker 1: It's like, it ain't no more O g s out here,

1724
01:25:13,040 --> 01:25:15,120
Speaker 1: and I wasn't talking about like it ain't old people

1725
01:25:15,160 --> 01:25:17,479
Speaker 1: that give advice. It's plenty of them, but it ain't

1726
01:25:17,520 --> 01:25:19,760
Speaker 1: people that is in industries that's opening the doors and

1727
01:25:19,840 --> 01:25:23,479
Speaker 1: providing opportunities for younger generation because they see that potential

1728
01:25:23,520 --> 01:25:25,120
Speaker 1: and they want to help guide them in that space.

1729
01:25:25,640 --> 01:25:28,200
Speaker 1: So for me, what I do is I actually educate

1730
01:25:28,240 --> 01:25:30,439
Speaker 1: and I teach people. And now our goal is to

1731
01:25:30,520 --> 01:25:32,439
Speaker 1: open up some type of opportunities that I didn't have.

1732
01:25:32,760 --> 01:25:34,000
Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying because I do want to

1733
01:25:34,040 --> 01:25:37,559
Speaker 1: duplicate myself. It shouldn't just be one fine guy walking around.

1734
01:25:37,720 --> 01:25:41,840
Speaker 1: You can't do that ship without let it go. I

1735
01:25:41,960 --> 01:25:46,000
Speaker 1: feel like the average person should stop chasing sex right now, right,

1736
01:25:46,120 --> 01:25:47,880
Speaker 1: men and women like I feel like this is a

1737
01:25:48,040 --> 01:25:51,160
Speaker 1: very important season for you to discipline yourself. We're going

1738
01:25:51,200 --> 01:25:54,600
Speaker 1: in a recession, possibly a global depression, right, and a

1739
01:25:54,680 --> 01:25:57,360
Speaker 1: lot of people spend money just on trying to increase

1740
01:25:57,400 --> 01:25:59,200
Speaker 1: their eyes and having sex. So let's be clear, we

1741
01:25:59,560 --> 01:26:02,679
Speaker 1: to keep watching this show. Okay, y'all keep watching the show,

1742
01:26:03,160 --> 01:26:09,240
Speaker 1: but you don't need to keep watching them hosts. All right,

1743
01:26:09,520 --> 01:26:14,080
Speaker 1: that's this is a real I'm very serious though, because

1744
01:26:14,120 --> 01:26:15,920
Speaker 1: I feel like a lot of young men out there

1745
01:26:16,000 --> 01:26:18,720
Speaker 1: chasing sex and a lot of women out there chasing sex. Right,

1746
01:26:19,200 --> 01:26:21,840
Speaker 1: And that ambitious energy that you put towards sex, if

1747
01:26:21,880 --> 01:26:24,840
Speaker 1: it was put towards business or skill development, you will

1748
01:26:24,880 --> 01:26:28,120
Speaker 1: be in a much better place, right. You will are value.

1749
01:26:28,400 --> 01:26:31,400
Speaker 1: Don't focus too much, don't be too infous. No, I mean,

1750
01:26:31,600 --> 01:26:33,639
Speaker 1: I'm not gonna tell women to not be too ambitious.

1751
01:26:33,640 --> 01:26:36,200
Speaker 1: I just want to say, make sure you develop yourself feminine. Right,

1752
01:26:36,240 --> 01:26:38,599
Speaker 1: there's a soft business life as well, right, where you're

1753
01:26:38,640 --> 01:26:40,840
Speaker 1: not trying to become a man in business. You want

1754
01:26:40,880 --> 01:26:43,240
Speaker 1: to become a woman in business. And I think early

1755
01:26:43,360 --> 01:26:45,839
Speaker 1: on women were trying to become just like men in business,

1756
01:26:45,920 --> 01:26:47,679
Speaker 1: and now I think the new turn of the century

1757
01:26:47,800 --> 01:26:50,040
Speaker 1: is how do I become how do I be feminine

1758
01:26:50,080 --> 01:26:52,920
Speaker 1: in business? At the same time, because the example of

1759
01:26:53,000 --> 01:26:55,840
Speaker 1: aspiration was white man, I want to be a CEO,

1760
01:26:55,920 --> 01:26:57,559
Speaker 1: so that act just like a white man. So when

1761
01:26:57,600 --> 01:26:59,800
Speaker 1: you bring that energy back to the household, I want that.

1762
01:27:00,360 --> 01:27:02,960
Speaker 1: I want feminate energy. That's what attracts me. I do

1763
01:27:03,120 --> 01:27:05,360
Speaker 1: think there's a place for both. Like, um, there's this

1764
01:27:05,840 --> 01:27:08,200
Speaker 1: chick I was getting into it with online who said

1765
01:27:08,200 --> 01:27:11,400
Speaker 1: women aren't good leaders and or shouldn't be leaders, that

1766
01:27:11,760 --> 01:27:14,360
Speaker 1: she's a lazy leader. She said women shouldn't be leaders.

1767
01:27:14,400 --> 01:27:16,839
Speaker 1: There's there's no way for that. We need rules and protocol.

1768
01:27:17,240 --> 01:27:19,600
Speaker 1: But I gotta be real, like, I think that's a

1769
01:27:19,720 --> 01:27:22,000
Speaker 1: really weak argument. And Mandy and I were saying, like,

1770
01:27:22,080 --> 01:27:24,599
Speaker 1: if maybe she talked about being a housewife or something

1771
01:27:24,680 --> 01:27:26,760
Speaker 1: like that, maybe that would make sense. But like, if

1772
01:27:26,800 --> 01:27:29,560
Speaker 1: you won't work, I do think you should be absolutely

1773
01:27:29,600 --> 01:27:31,519
Speaker 1: the best at what you do. I'm not out here

1774
01:27:31,640 --> 01:27:34,720
Speaker 1: to just be second fiddle to anybody, Like, no matter

1775
01:27:34,800 --> 01:27:36,120
Speaker 1: what I do, I'm going to be the best of

1776
01:27:36,160 --> 01:27:37,800
Speaker 1: the best, and that's probably why I am a leader

1777
01:27:37,840 --> 01:27:42,000
Speaker 1: and what I do. However, I think that encouraging women

1778
01:27:42,080 --> 01:27:44,400
Speaker 1: to lead has opened a lot of those stories you

1779
01:27:44,439 --> 01:27:46,760
Speaker 1: were talking about when you talked about giving people opportunities.

1780
01:27:47,160 --> 01:27:49,840
Speaker 1: That's my real goal. First it was to get money,

1781
01:27:49,880 --> 01:27:51,519
Speaker 1: and then I realized, now I got what I want,

1782
01:27:51,560 --> 01:27:53,720
Speaker 1: and I love growing it for others. And I think

1783
01:27:53,840 --> 01:27:56,040
Speaker 1: we've got to give black women a lot more credit

1784
01:27:56,120 --> 01:28:00,280
Speaker 1: as they're hiring an alarming rates and black themen are

1785
01:28:00,320 --> 01:28:03,720
Speaker 1: doing a really good job at keeping Ship black. I've

1786
01:28:03,760 --> 01:28:06,040
Speaker 1: been giving out so much money. I know you talked

1787
01:28:06,040 --> 01:28:08,120
Speaker 1: about Kenya Barry is recently about putting l g B

1788
01:28:08,200 --> 01:28:10,640
Speaker 1: t Q people in and Asian people and ship. But

1789
01:28:10,960 --> 01:28:14,960
Speaker 1: I work for him and I've managed seven figure budgets

1790
01:28:15,280 --> 01:28:17,160
Speaker 1: and I have yet to cut somebody white a check,

1791
01:28:17,600 --> 01:28:21,679
Speaker 1: like you know it's your cutty black Muslims from checks talk.

1792
01:28:22,600 --> 01:28:24,599
Speaker 1: But my point is like, we've definitely got to give

1793
01:28:24,640 --> 01:28:28,600
Speaker 1: these black women some credit. That's why I don't. I

1794
01:28:28,640 --> 01:28:30,800
Speaker 1: don't have no hate towards no black women. I love

1795
01:28:30,880 --> 01:28:32,880
Speaker 1: black women. You understand me. And I love to see

1796
01:28:33,200 --> 01:28:35,960
Speaker 1: successful black women. I just don't like how media pits

1797
01:28:36,000 --> 01:28:40,680
Speaker 1: it against each other. You understand, it doesn't have to

1798
01:28:40,760 --> 01:28:44,920
Speaker 1: be that black women's success represents black men failures at

1799
01:28:44,960 --> 01:28:47,439
Speaker 1: all like that. And I think that that's the key

1800
01:28:47,560 --> 01:28:49,320
Speaker 1: one we're talking about it because if we don't own

1801
01:28:49,400 --> 01:28:51,720
Speaker 1: the media, and black men don't own the media, black

1802
01:28:51,760 --> 01:28:53,800
Speaker 1: women don't own the media, so we don't own the

1803
01:28:53,920 --> 01:28:56,439
Speaker 1: narrative that we even discuss, right, And I think that

1804
01:28:56,560 --> 01:28:58,680
Speaker 1: that's the most dangerous thing because they control what we

1805
01:28:58,800 --> 01:29:01,960
Speaker 1: think about each other because they put out these arguments

1806
01:29:02,000 --> 01:29:04,560
Speaker 1: in these conflicts and they keep us talking about it

1807
01:29:04,640 --> 01:29:07,000
Speaker 1: as if that's the normal issue that exists in our

1808
01:29:07,040 --> 01:29:09,559
Speaker 1: society and on the average day and basis, a black

1809
01:29:09,600 --> 01:29:11,320
Speaker 1: man knows a black woman that he gets along with,

1810
01:29:11,720 --> 01:29:14,120
Speaker 1: that he builds with, you understand me. And if those

1811
01:29:14,200 --> 01:29:16,479
Speaker 1: was highlighted more, it would be more examples for people

1812
01:29:16,479 --> 01:29:18,800
Speaker 1: to follow, people to watch, and people to go after.

1813
01:29:18,960 --> 01:29:21,920
Speaker 1: But because it's the negative bullshit that's being pushed by

1814
01:29:22,479 --> 01:29:25,720
Speaker 1: you know, these companies, therefore, we don't even look at

1815
01:29:25,760 --> 01:29:28,120
Speaker 1: each other as brother and sister and family matters anymore.

1816
01:29:30,160 --> 01:29:35,360
Speaker 1: Are you should we snap? I mean, it was poetic

1817
01:29:35,680 --> 01:29:37,920
Speaker 1: tell us tell people where to find you. And you

1818
01:29:38,000 --> 01:29:40,479
Speaker 1: have a podcast, right yeah, Um, it's a talk show

1819
01:29:40,560 --> 01:29:44,240
Speaker 1: more than a podcast. What's the difference. Well, because it's

1820
01:29:44,280 --> 01:29:47,360
Speaker 1: more of a visual experience more than anything. If you

1821
01:29:47,479 --> 01:29:49,439
Speaker 1: go look at all of your talk shows back in

1822
01:29:49,479 --> 01:29:52,320
Speaker 1: the day, right, whether it was Oprah or whether it

1823
01:29:52,520 --> 01:29:55,000
Speaker 1: was I don't know, any talk show you think of,

1824
01:29:56,120 --> 01:29:59,080
Speaker 1: we rival them. You understand me at a high level,

1825
01:29:59,240 --> 01:30:01,479
Speaker 1: like when you watch it, it's a it's a visual

1826
01:30:01,560 --> 01:30:04,360
Speaker 1: experience with the b row. It's like watching the documentary.

1827
01:30:04,760 --> 01:30:07,639
Speaker 1: You understand me. So, um, right now, we're just getting

1828
01:30:07,640 --> 01:30:10,800
Speaker 1: more into the audio experience, right to make sure that

1829
01:30:10,920 --> 01:30:13,559
Speaker 1: more people are listening to it as well. Audio got

1830
01:30:13,640 --> 01:30:16,839
Speaker 1: the dollars that YouTube CP don't think. Look I asked,

1831
01:30:17,000 --> 01:30:19,840
Speaker 1: I asked Charlotte Magne this morning about that. You understand me,

1832
01:30:20,000 --> 01:30:22,080
Speaker 1: And I asked the topio from Revolt and that was

1833
01:30:22,120 --> 01:30:24,759
Speaker 1: giving me the game on the video and the audio side.

1834
01:30:25,120 --> 01:30:27,320
Speaker 1: Because video, I think we had like five million viewers

1835
01:30:27,439 --> 01:30:29,519
Speaker 1: last month. You understand me. So now it's trying to

1836
01:30:29,600 --> 01:30:34,280
Speaker 1: get up the audio side's interesting thing. Like we remember

1837
01:30:34,320 --> 01:30:37,280
Speaker 1: academics went on and said nobody listened to horrible decisions

1838
01:30:37,280 --> 01:30:41,320
Speaker 1: thinging ship because he's a YouTube guy and Charlotte Magne

1839
01:30:41,360 --> 01:30:43,479
Speaker 1: got on brilliant. It was like, you don't really understand.

1840
01:30:43,560 --> 01:30:45,280
Speaker 1: And I had a meeting. You know, I was telling

1841
01:30:45,280 --> 01:30:46,960
Speaker 1: you about it before, but this dude was saying, like,

1842
01:30:47,760 --> 01:30:50,560
Speaker 1: I know that you're building these video podcasts, but I

1843
01:30:50,680 --> 01:30:53,240
Speaker 1: can't explain to you how much higher the CPM is

1844
01:30:53,560 --> 01:30:56,800
Speaker 1: for audio. Like people that listen to audio get paid

1845
01:30:56,960 --> 01:31:00,920
Speaker 1: so much more because people find you when clicking on

1846
01:31:01,000 --> 01:31:05,280
Speaker 1: a video, so taking them back, it's we're weird. I

1847
01:31:05,400 --> 01:31:08,120
Speaker 1: think the I think it's going to turn where people

1848
01:31:08,160 --> 01:31:11,439
Speaker 1: see the value and video more um and certain production

1849
01:31:11,560 --> 01:31:14,760
Speaker 1: studios and distribution do still right now, like revort' is more.

1850
01:31:14,840 --> 01:31:18,760
Speaker 1: I think Focus where they value video a lot. They're

1851
01:31:18,760 --> 01:31:23,680
Speaker 1: getting a podcasts well, well they're they're building it out

1852
01:31:23,760 --> 01:31:26,680
Speaker 1: right now. But the audio right now, man, that's key.

1853
01:31:26,760 --> 01:31:29,559
Speaker 1: I think everybody should have a podcast. I don't think

1854
01:31:29,600 --> 01:31:31,360
Speaker 1: you can have enough. I just think that the average

1855
01:31:31,360 --> 01:31:33,679
Speaker 1: podcast not even getting that many listens in the first place.

1856
01:31:35,760 --> 01:31:38,280
Speaker 1: What what what what they get is they make people

1857
01:31:38,320 --> 01:31:40,640
Speaker 1: feel like it's over saturated and it's not right. The

1858
01:31:40,840 --> 01:31:45,480
Speaker 1: most industries are not over saturated. Music writing, a book, podcast,

1859
01:31:45,720 --> 01:31:48,920
Speaker 1: every the average person should have those things, right. Number one,

1860
01:31:49,040 --> 01:31:50,960
Speaker 1: it is a way for if you have a business,

1861
01:31:50,960 --> 01:31:52,599
Speaker 1: you should have a podcast. It's a way for people

1862
01:31:52,640 --> 01:31:55,560
Speaker 1: to hear about your business, throwing commercials in it. I

1863
01:31:55,680 --> 01:31:58,479
Speaker 1: put mom, we started off, I only had commercials for

1864
01:31:58,560 --> 01:32:01,120
Speaker 1: my business in there. Right, you're talking about millions and

1865
01:32:01,160 --> 01:32:04,720
Speaker 1: millions of views. So now fifteen twenty million views later,

1866
01:32:05,200 --> 01:32:07,840
Speaker 1: those are fifteen twenty million people that now know about

1867
01:32:07,920 --> 01:32:11,559
Speaker 1: my products, know about my services. So if without that media,

1868
01:32:11,760 --> 01:32:14,599
Speaker 1: let's say the economy starts to slow down in other areas,

1869
01:32:14,680 --> 01:32:17,240
Speaker 1: I can still use media to help give me a boost.

1870
01:32:17,680 --> 01:32:19,200
Speaker 1: So if you don't have that, then you don't have

1871
01:32:19,320 --> 01:32:21,439
Speaker 1: power in the space nowhere. You gotta go pay somebody

1872
01:32:21,520 --> 01:32:24,760
Speaker 1: else to try to get the attention. So attention is

1873
01:32:24,840 --> 01:32:27,160
Speaker 1: the one commodity that, regardless of what's going on in

1874
01:32:27,240 --> 01:32:29,880
Speaker 1: the world, it continues to increase in value. Yeah, I mean,

1875
01:32:29,960 --> 01:32:32,439
Speaker 1: so what y'all doing over here? You understand me, y'all

1876
01:32:32,439 --> 01:32:35,320
Speaker 1: gonna always have value. Sex, go always sell. People are

1877
01:32:35,320 --> 01:32:37,400
Speaker 1: always not gonna know what to do in relationship. They

1878
01:32:37,560 --> 01:32:41,360
Speaker 1: always make horrible decisions. I always need high level conversations

1879
01:32:41,760 --> 01:32:43,880
Speaker 1: like that. A matter of fact, make us what was

1880
01:32:43,920 --> 01:32:45,679
Speaker 1: it high level Pussy. We gotta make that a shirt,

1881
01:32:45,800 --> 01:32:49,920
Speaker 1: start a little network, be the high Level Pussy. But anyway,

1882
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Speaker 1: promoting our business. Check us out if you want some

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Speaker 1: Conversations and thank you guys for tuning in to get

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