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Speaker 1: I bailed on my family Vegas trip because my grandpa

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Speaker 1: is a creep. This is all answering the question.

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Speaker 2: Who is it from?

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Speaker 1: Though, well, I but it doesn't say what's The question

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Speaker 2: But where's from the question is how do you stand

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Speaker 2: up to your parents best family.

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Speaker 1: I'm gonna read again, I bail on my family Vegas

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Speaker 1: trip because my grandpa's a creep. And this comes from our.

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Speaker 3: Slash Okay stud Let's go. That's our subreddit.

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Speaker 1: Go to our slash Okay story time on reddit to

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Speaker 3: We'll read it.

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Speaker 1: But this first story comes from Aggressive Tier six six one,

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Speaker 1: and they say a few wants ago, my grandma finally

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Speaker 1: found peace after a long fight with Alzheimer's. During that

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Speaker 1: long battle, her main caretaker was her husband, Tim. Tim

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Speaker 1: has been in my life since the day I was born.

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Speaker 1: He played a grandfather role, but always asked to be

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Speaker 1: just Tim. This will become relevant, I promise.

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Speaker 1: Anyway, if you know anything about Alzheimer's, you know it

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Speaker 1: can get really ugly, really fast. The grandma we once

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Speaker 1: took a toll on all of us, but Tim had

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Speaker 1: very little escape from it for years. He hadn't been

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Speaker 1: So after grieving my cousin, Kelly and I thought it

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Speaker 1: would be a fun idea to take Tim on a

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Speaker 1: When Tim and Grandma were both healthy, they frequented Vegas often.

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Speaker 1: We thought it would be a perfect place to thank

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Speaker 1: perfect place. I'm thinking what happened in Vegas will now

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Speaker 2: It won't be pretty in Vegas.

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Speaker 3: Stayed in Vegas this time.

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Speaker 1: We shared it with their moms, who both thought it

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Speaker 1: sounded great as well, so we filled in Tim. He

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Speaker 1: Kelly and my plan, though he started questioning me about

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Speaker 1: my relationship with Tim prior to my grandma's illness. It

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Speaker 1: consisted of the man being horrendously inappropriate to me and

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Speaker 1: every other female around, so totally fair. At the time, though,

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Speaker 1: I told him I didn't want to think about the past.

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Speaker 1: said Tim is not blood related.

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Speaker 2: Yeah no, And I think what was just happening was,

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Speaker 2: ohpuh suggested this trip, and then when telling her husband,

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Speaker 1: Always very object stafying.

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Speaker 1: Upon telling my husband about Kelly started questioning. At the time,

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Speaker 1: I wanted to believe that maybe Tim had changed, but

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Speaker 1: I can't believe Cody Co's in the story. Stop djinggedly allegedly.

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Speaker 2: Oh my god, this horrible, horrible man.

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Speaker 1: When my mom called me and told me about this.

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Speaker 1: It brought every happy memory back. For example, he regularly

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Speaker 3: Well.

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Speaker 1: Furthermore, when I was twelve and walked out with a

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Speaker 2: I hate him. Vince has put that thing down, And

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Speaker 3: Like put Tim down. Done.

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Speaker 1: Like three years later, I witnessed him do the exact

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Speaker 2: That's ridiculous. That is ridiculous. If you were an adult

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Speaker 3: Out keeping the peace. How about like avoiding your child

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Speaker 4: That's crazy. How about that I was about to say, oh,

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Speaker 4: maybe he didn't know that the age of consent was eighteen,

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Speaker 4: and what Yep, that's what AI Google says.

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Speaker 1: No, that makes so much more sense.

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Speaker 1: I feel like having the age of consent be twenty

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Speaker 3: To his basically stepping grandchildren to his family, to his

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Speaker 3: That's so, so, so so dangerous.

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Speaker 3: And I truly believe this is one of the most

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Speaker 2: No, yeah, because you're teaching them and that's that is

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Speaker 1: So anyway, those are just a couple examples among many

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Speaker 1: beyond thankful that he cared for my grandma, but that

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Speaker 1: My mom says I shouldn't let him ruin our trip

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Speaker 1: Do you think Ope is being a dick by canceling?

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Speaker 3: Not at all? The other family is rewarding his behavior

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Speaker 2: Just I think if someone ever makes you uncomfortable, you

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Speaker 3: Agreed and just again, it's just like so so so

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Speaker 1: I'm just surprised because I'm surprised that no one is

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Speaker 1: You need someone to break the reality distortion fields, you know,

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Speaker 2: And I think everyone gets those gut feelings, especially I

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Speaker 1: Yeah, agreed, Yeah, ikey icky man, but yeah, Tyler says

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Speaker 1: You can family, You can you can realize that someone

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Speaker 2: Exactly like yeah, okay, but you weren't near a mind.

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Speaker 3: Les off my comments, Mike. But yeah, I'm I'm hoping

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Speaker 1: But let's get into this update. So firstly, I really

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Speaker 1: or feelings. Thank you all so very much. I did

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Speaker 3: Oh yeah, this is our such a story time.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, the best community I'm reading. Go submit stories to

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Speaker 2: Yeah. These are the type of stories that I'm I'm picking.

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Speaker 1: Shout out so Fia, shout out so fil. I did

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Speaker 1: I'm not asking anyone to stand up for me anymore.

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Speaker 2: Yes, If you don't want to be touched and you

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Speaker 2: Should be a safe person for you to go and say, hey,

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Speaker 2: Diana says, children are people too, they aren't objects to

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Speaker 1: And Alyssa Mondy says, my body, my rules.

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Speaker 3: Yep, shout out, shout out to ope again a member

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Speaker 2: And I also really appreciate that op is kind of

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Speaker 1: Yeah, someone to finally say this is not okay and

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Speaker 3: More greed payment. But also, we just hit a wheel.

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Speaker 3: Spin Look at that?

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Speaker 1: Look at that nice let's spin that wheel?

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Speaker 3: Spin that wheel that we found?

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Speaker 4: It's not Jeopardy Trivia, so you can just splurt it.

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Speaker 3: Out what is it? Oh?

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Speaker 2: So I don't have to say what is okay? Do

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Speaker 3: I like that.

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Speaker 3: I think we need buzzers. I think we need buzzers too.

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Speaker 4: It's like buzzer downstairs.

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Speaker 1: you want to see more sibling rivalry, or rivalry. Do

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Speaker 2: I don't know that'd be fair. Did you did mom

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Speaker 2: say her whether or not I did meats?

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Speaker 1: I don't know if it's at a swim meet, but

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Speaker 3: There is a picture.

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Speaker 2: I can find you. I can find you my awards

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Speaker 2: because I have them.

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Speaker 4: Who pended the Mona Lisa.

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Speaker 2: Proof leon O you want Wait, that's it?

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Speaker 3: That's it?

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Speaker 3: At one point, yeah, I thought, I think we.

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Speaker 4: That John almost gone on the boat but he didn't?

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Speaker 2: There were you? Did you not have a period of time?

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Speaker 2: Were you obsessed with the Titanic?

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Speaker 4: The conspiracy theories on the Titanic is wold? I love those? Okay.

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Speaker 4: What is the smallest country in the world, my landing?

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Speaker 3: The Vatican?

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Speaker 2: Wow?

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Speaker 4: Again, where is this coming from who discovered penicillin? O?

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Speaker 4: I'm allergic to it.

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Speaker 4: No, no, no, who who invented pillin Chat?

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Speaker 3: I've heard the name before Chat You got it? Uh?

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Speaker 3: What is it?

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Speaker 4: All right? It is Alexander Fleming didn't know that. What

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Speaker 4: is the hardest natural substance?

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Speaker 3: It was one of them?

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Speaker 4: I heard Sophia the clearest. But I could be wrong.

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Speaker 4: Get to gone to Sam zero challenging questions. What is

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Speaker 4: Which element has the atomic number one hydrogen A two

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Speaker 3: Nineteen forty eight, nineteen forty five?

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Speaker 2: Yep, oh, I knew around. I knew it was around that.

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Speaker 4: Because this one's too easy. Who's the author of the

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Speaker 4: Harry Potter. What is the most abundant gas in the

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Speaker 4: Earth's oxygen? John three, Sam one, you were what's happening? Okay?

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Speaker 4: These are harder? Which planet is known as the Red planet? Oh?

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Speaker 1: birthday and felt like Sharon.

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Speaker 3: Love birthday, birthday? Birthday?

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Speaker 4: Was that right? Yeah? Mars?

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Speaker 3: What's this?

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Speaker 4: What's the rarest blood type in humans?

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Speaker 2: Positive?

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Speaker 3: What was it negative?

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Speaker 2: I didn't even who.

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Speaker 4: Was known as the father of modern physics?

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Speaker 1: Is it modern that.

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Speaker 3: I know?

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Speaker 2: I has sitated?

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Speaker 3: Gonna say Albenheimer?

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Speaker 4: Hello? And what year did the Berlin wallfall?

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Speaker 3: N Yes?

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Speaker 1: Oh, ship too quick?

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Speaker 3: I didn't even know I know of this stuff.

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Speaker 2: I don't know. I've failed so hard at literally everybody.

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Speaker 1: I don't understand because I feel like John, I've never

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Speaker 1: seen you be good at trivia yet me either.

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Speaker 3: This is crazy.

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Speaker 4: What is the capital of Australia?

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Speaker 3: Canbar?

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Speaker 1: Melbourne's what Canba?

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Speaker 3: Yeah? Wow?

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Speaker 4: Wow, You're not even Australia and not even Australian.

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Speaker 2: I looked that up last time.

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Speaker 4: Who composed the Four Seasons?

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Speaker 2: But Beytail, Bany Valley.

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Speaker 1: The Valdivaldi.

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Speaker 3: Because of me?

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Speaker 4: You didn't get it right. What is the square root

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Speaker 4: of two hundred and fifty.

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Speaker 3: Six twelve no.

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Speaker 1: Thirty four, fourteen.

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Speaker 2: Two, fifteen, sixteen seventeen.

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Speaker 4: Who is the first woman to win a Nobel p

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Speaker 4: of Nobel Prize and Franklin.

451
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Speaker 2: Florence nightmale and frank.

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Speaker 1: Not Florence See who a Noble Peace Prize, Nobel Prize?

453
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Speaker 3: Uh, m Amelia, I.

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Speaker 4: Love her the best. Let's go.

455
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Speaker 2: I knew that that was mercury. You didn't know was okay?

456
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Speaker 2: I knew it was in that field.

457
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Speaker 4: Okay. Which country won the first FIFA World Cup in

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Speaker 4: nineteen thirty Argentina No.

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Speaker 3: France, UK No Nope, Portugal Nope, nope, Uh.

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Speaker 2: Africa Nope, notth Africa.

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Speaker 3: Nope, Joland, Ireland mose.

462
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Speaker 4: People don't know I play No, not Brazil now.

463
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Speaker 3: Mexico.

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Speaker 2: The U s Okay, I don't know. I'm saying I

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Speaker 2: don't know.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, I said, got a point.

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Speaker 2: You did say that, all right?

471
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Speaker 4: Very difficult. What is the name of the first artificial

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Speaker 4: satellite launched by the Soviet Union in nine yep, oh yeah,

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Speaker 4: and it's back up Sofa seven, John five, Sam six.

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Speaker 4: I don't know how you did that, Sam, Come back boy?

475
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Speaker 4: And then who is the Greek goddess of wisdom?

476
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Speaker 3: And ye say it? You can't beat me at freak Mythology.

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Speaker 4: Which Shakespeare play features the character bylock Iliad.

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Speaker 2: I don't know, no, okay.

479
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Speaker 3: Roman and Juliet, I don't know any.

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Speaker 2: It's not it's not is it to to merchant in Merchant.

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Speaker 1: To?

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Speaker 2: No, I didn't get it. It was it was someone

483
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Speaker 2: else I was actually getting. I was trying to remember

484
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Speaker 2: merchant in Venice, but I was thinking of the what.

485
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Speaker 4: Is the oldest university in the United States?

486
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Speaker 3: Harvard?

487
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Speaker 4: John? What, I'm the one I'm joking? What is your son?

488
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Speaker 4: Who wrote the physical physiological? Ye, physological work of Critic

489
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Speaker 4: of Pure Reason?

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Speaker 3: Thomas uh Jefferson, No, Adam Smith?

491
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Speaker 4: Nope.

492
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Speaker 3: But what was the name of it again?

493
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Speaker 4: Theological of Pure Reason?

494
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Speaker 3: Critic of Pure Reason? Leonardo da Vinci, Michael Angel.

495
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Speaker 4: Okay, what is the name? First clone sheep?

496
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Speaker 3: Oh dolly, let's go.

497
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Speaker 4: Yeah in what? In which year did the Battle of

498
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Speaker 4: Hackus take place?

499
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Speaker 1: Nineteen twelve eighteen sixty four, eighteen seventy four, eighteen eighteen twelve.

500
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Speaker 4: One sixty six. Who's discovered the structure of DNA?

501
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Speaker 2: Oh it was those two brothers, right, No, it was

502
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Speaker 2: a woman, either two brothers or a woman. And I

503
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Speaker 2: can't remember any.

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Speaker 3: Robert DNA.

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Speaker 2: Who was it?

506
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Speaker 3: Emanuel can't I'm not I'm rereading that.

507
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Speaker 4: Oh yeah, no, that was Who was it? James Watson

508
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Speaker 4: and Francis.

509
00:27:15,240 --> 00:27:17,960
Speaker 2: Right, it was two guys. I freaking knew it.

510
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Speaker 1: All right.

511
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Speaker 4: Who was your second president of the United States?

512
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Speaker 2: Yep, I said Damas Jefferson.

513
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Speaker 3: John Smith.

514
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Speaker 4: Accident nearly impossible. What is the largest non star by radius?

515
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Speaker 3: No, that's not right, big star Centaur, that's dope name

516
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Speaker 3: uh nine eight seven X, I'm the biggest star.

517
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Speaker 4: I don't know, I'm the big murdered. I don't know really,

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Speaker 4: U y scuty.

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Speaker 3: Uy scuty by scibbety a right?

520
00:28:06,880 --> 00:28:09,800
Speaker 4: Which country has the most time zones? Uh?

521
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Speaker 3: Russia, America, China. It's not Russia in the US, Asia, Africa.

522
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Speaker 4: You're gonna be so shocked.

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Speaker 6: I'm not going to give It's not Russia, Italy, Farous, Germany,

524
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Speaker 6: no idea?

525
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Speaker 3: What country South Africa?

526
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Speaker 4: Canada, Brazil.

527
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Speaker 1: What are we are we Canada, Antarctica.

528
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Speaker 4: Antarctica's going to be so pissed at this answer.

529
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Speaker 3: US.

530
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Speaker 2: I already said the US, so.

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Speaker 1: I already somewhere in South Mexico.

532
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Speaker 3: What what is it? All right?

533
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Speaker 4: You ready?

534
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Speaker 3: Yeah?

535
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Speaker 4: North Korea, France including France overseas territories.

536
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Speaker 2: I think I said, France can sell me. That tell

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Speaker 2: me if I said.

538
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Speaker 4: France, Oh people, as I said last one, we'll do

539
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Speaker 4: the hardest one here. Who wrote the divine comedy?

540
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Speaker 3: Oh? Divine comedy?

541
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Speaker 2: Was no.

542
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Speaker 3: Damn Inferno?

543
00:29:22,040 --> 00:29:23,600
Speaker 4: No Dante Aligrari?

544
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Speaker 2: No, I I know Dante's Inferno is the.

545
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Speaker 4: Seven seven one six?

546
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Speaker 2: Did I win?

547
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Speaker 3: No? Wait? What more?

548
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Speaker 4: What more?

549
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Speaker 3: That was great?

550
00:29:37,240 --> 00:29:39,520
Speaker 2: I didn't even need Dante's great.

551
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Speaker 4: Don't we have someone here who?

552
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Speaker 3: Oh?

553
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Speaker 2: Maybe I should have known because Dante and bought ally.

554
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Speaker 3: and my younger sister when when he was finally caught,

557
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Speaker 3: she actually took his side. Our family was strained for years.

558
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Speaker 3: She was under is another doctor?

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Speaker 2: Sorry?

560
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Speaker 3: Hearts in the chat for Blonde Brunette, Josephine Madala Burquis,

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Speaker 3: acknowledge my girl. Rosly. That's the woman I.

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Speaker 2: Was talking about. I said there was a woman and

567
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Speaker 2: there were two guys. I was freaking right.

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Speaker 3: Someone did say it was like, uh, maybe Watson and

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Speaker 3: Krik maybe like uh Edison did it?

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Speaker 2: A Rina Maya says, I said Paris. I didn't. I

571
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Speaker 2: didn't specify France. Oh yeah, freaking right.

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Speaker 3: I don't know.

573
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Speaker 2: I think that's close.

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Speaker 3: Great. I love that. Johnny crushed it.

575
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Speaker 2: You really crushed it.

576
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Speaker 3: I surprised myself.

577
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Speaker 2: I want but you did.

578
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Speaker 3: Thank you. See I let you all believe I was

579
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Speaker 3: an idiot to strike back.

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Speaker 2: You did great?

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Speaker 4: You did great.

582
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Speaker 1: Yeah, we well we tied.

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Speaker 3: Huh oh we should swap out?

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Speaker 1: Yeah well we maybe we swap out when when Yeah here,

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Speaker 1: well that means we.

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Speaker 3: membership need the long stream to distract me after my

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Speaker 3: husband admitted to the hospital and no way I will

594
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Speaker 3: be sleeping tonight. Guys hearts in the chat. Let's send

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Speaker 3: some love to to Lego Queen Chin. We are all

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Speaker 3: hoping for a speedier recovery, and we're here to hang

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Speaker 3: out with you and hopefully give you a smile and

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Speaker 3: laugh along the way. Oh, all of love to you.

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Speaker 2: All right, let's get into this. Where did say?

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Speaker 3: Sam is running away? But you know we can, we

601
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Speaker 3: can hang out, we can reach not us.

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00:32:19,520 --> 00:32:22,840
Speaker 2: He doubted my swim, He doubted it. And guess who

603
00:32:22,880 --> 00:32:27,800
Speaker 2: believed Sophia and stood by her side? Me, my best friend.

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Speaker 3: That's right.

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Speaker 2: Now you can see it.

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Speaker 3: Now, you can see it.

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Speaker 2: All right, let's get freaking into it.

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Speaker 6: It real.

609
00:32:36,480 --> 00:32:40,280
Speaker 2: I threatened to cut off my parents over a new bedframe.

610
00:32:40,640 --> 00:32:41,880
Speaker 2: It got them off.

611
00:32:42,120 --> 00:32:44,160
Speaker 3: I'm about to reframe this relationship.

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00:32:44,160 --> 00:32:48,920
Speaker 2: It's over, and this stands the question of how do

613
00:32:48,960 --> 00:32:49,840
Speaker 2: you stand up.

614
00:32:49,720 --> 00:32:51,400
Speaker 3: To your parents, not on a bed frame.

615
00:32:51,680 --> 00:32:53,800
Speaker 2: So true. By the way, you can join us live

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Speaker 2: on YouTube every weekday at three pm Pacific Sanda time.

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Speaker 2: Just that part profile so immediate. Taylor in ninety three

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Speaker 2: forty says, I will try and keep this short and sweet.

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Speaker 2: This just happened yesterday. I, twenty five female, had recently

620
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Speaker 2: decided that I needed a new bed frame.

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Speaker 3: Controversial.

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00:33:13,080 --> 00:33:15,800
Speaker 2: Sometimes you have to realize that the frame I had

623
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Speaker 2: previously had was something that I had since I began

624
00:33:19,000 --> 00:33:21,680
Speaker 2: that I had since I began college in twenty seventeen.

625
00:33:22,160 --> 00:33:24,240
Speaker 2: When I moved out into my own apartment in twenty

626
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Speaker 2: twenty two, it was given to me as a gift.

627
00:33:26,960 --> 00:33:29,880
Speaker 2: Flash forward to about three weeks ago. My frame began

628
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Speaker 2: to crumble and parts of it were flaking off in

629
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Speaker 2: big chunks. When trying to put any weight on it,

630
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Speaker 2: the frame, along with the mattress would tilt upward in air.

631
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Speaker 2: Oh yeah, give me one. I had my boyfriend twenty

632
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Speaker 2: six mail come take a look at it and see

633
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Speaker 2: if it was fixable. But no thinking on it and

634
00:33:48,440 --> 00:33:50,680
Speaker 2: not wanting to try and keep fixing it, knowing it

635
00:33:50,720 --> 00:33:53,560
Speaker 2: would fall apart, I decided to throw the frame away.

636
00:33:54,120 --> 00:33:57,280
Speaker 2: I mentioned this to my parents fifty six male and

637
00:33:57,320 --> 00:34:00,680
Speaker 2: fifty four female respectively, in passing, as I've mentioned it

638
00:34:00,720 --> 00:34:04,640
Speaker 2: before with them, and my father was furious at me

639
00:34:05,280 --> 00:34:08,279
Speaker 2: the summon up what he said, I spent two K

640
00:34:08,520 --> 00:34:11,200
Speaker 2: on that frame, and you had the audacity to throw

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00:34:11,239 --> 00:34:13,680
Speaker 2: it away? Who k on a frame?

642
00:34:15,400 --> 00:34:16,600
Speaker 3: Who came out a frame?

643
00:34:16,719 --> 00:34:19,800
Speaker 2: I spent like one hundred bucks on my frame?

644
00:34:20,040 --> 00:34:23,640
Speaker 3: Yeah, two K and it's it's crumbling, and it's crumbling.

645
00:34:23,640 --> 00:34:25,719
Speaker 3: It's crumbling, like, say it up for a few years.

646
00:34:25,880 --> 00:34:26,680
Speaker 4: It's a bad deal.

647
00:34:26,920 --> 00:34:27,640
Speaker 2: Five years.

648
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Speaker 3: This is the craziest thing I've ever reast this. The

649
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Speaker 3: dad should be locked up for being the dumbest like

650
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Speaker 3: spender of all time.

651
00:34:35,200 --> 00:34:36,040
Speaker 2: Yeah, you're an idiot.

652
00:34:36,040 --> 00:34:36,520
Speaker 3: Block them way.

653
00:34:36,600 --> 00:34:37,920
Speaker 4: Yeah, I don't even need a frame.

654
00:34:39,160 --> 00:34:41,200
Speaker 2: Why couldn't you wait until we got back from our

655
00:34:41,280 --> 00:34:43,960
Speaker 2: vacation for me to see if it was fixable? For

656
00:34:44,080 --> 00:34:46,640
Speaker 2: extra context, my parents went on a three to four

657
00:34:46,640 --> 00:34:49,600
Speaker 2: week vacation and we're taking a long drive up to

658
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Speaker 2: Washington State and then traveling back to Texas. I live

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00:34:53,600 --> 00:34:55,920
Speaker 2: about thirty minutes from where my parents live, so it's

660
00:34:55,920 --> 00:34:58,480
Speaker 2: a long drive for them to visit me. There is

661
00:34:58,520 --> 00:35:01,080
Speaker 2: a furniture store in front of my Hurtman complex. So

662
00:35:01,239 --> 00:35:03,560
Speaker 2: I decided I would go in there and look around.

663
00:35:04,120 --> 00:35:06,160
Speaker 2: I saw a frame that I liked and decided that

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Speaker 2: I would get it along with a coffee table for

665
00:35:08,040 --> 00:35:11,840
Speaker 2: my living room. Adulting love it. I filled out the paperwork,

666
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Speaker 2: and since I brought something there a year prior, I

667
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Speaker 2: have a line of credit and the amount I would

668
00:35:16,200 --> 00:35:18,480
Speaker 2: pay a month would not be that much, sixty months

669
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Speaker 2: with zero percent interest. I called my mom about it

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00:35:23,160 --> 00:35:26,080
Speaker 2: yesterday evening and told her about it and how excited

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Speaker 2: I was. But the one drawback is that my mom

672
00:35:29,280 --> 00:35:33,840
Speaker 2: always speaks to me on speakerphone. My father overheard our conversation.

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Speaker 2: He blew up at me again, saying, why would you

674
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Speaker 2: do this? Why are you making decisions without our inputs?

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00:35:42,680 --> 00:35:44,960
Speaker 3: She's who is this? Father?

676
00:35:45,320 --> 00:35:49,360
Speaker 2: She's twenty five. She's twenty five. Why do you care?

677
00:35:50,000 --> 00:35:53,040
Speaker 2: That's a twenty five year old she doesn't even live with.

678
00:35:53,080 --> 00:35:56,759
Speaker 3: What oh dad, Oh my gosh. I need to get

679
00:35:56,800 --> 00:36:02,680
Speaker 3: your approval for this bedframe. Twenty five year old adult

680
00:36:02,840 --> 00:36:05,520
Speaker 3: living on her own, and even that is side. It's

681
00:36:05,560 --> 00:36:07,280
Speaker 3: like it's a bed frame.

682
00:36:07,080 --> 00:36:07,560
Speaker 2: A bad frame.

683
00:36:07,640 --> 00:36:10,440
Speaker 3: Even if she was fourteen years old, ten years old.

684
00:36:10,760 --> 00:36:13,520
Speaker 2: Yeah, I don't know any continues and why would you

685
00:36:13,560 --> 00:36:17,759
Speaker 2: put yourself in potential financial difficulties? Perhaps she's getting a

686
00:36:17,840 --> 00:36:20,960
Speaker 2: mucher bed frame. My mom was trying to get him

687
00:36:20,960 --> 00:36:22,560
Speaker 2: to stop yelling at me, and I was on the

688
00:36:22,560 --> 00:36:26,240
Speaker 2: other end trying hard not to cry. After what seemed

689
00:36:26,280 --> 00:36:29,359
Speaker 2: like forever going back and forth, we hung up and

690
00:36:29,400 --> 00:36:31,440
Speaker 2: my mom went to talk text me and asked me

691
00:36:31,480 --> 00:36:33,719
Speaker 2: about the frame and the coffee table and what color

692
00:36:33,760 --> 00:36:37,000
Speaker 2: it was. I basically told her that it would have

693
00:36:37,000 --> 00:36:39,759
Speaker 2: been nice that dad would be at least happy about it.

694
00:36:40,160 --> 00:36:42,560
Speaker 2: My mom tried to justify it by saying he worries

695
00:36:42,600 --> 00:36:44,200
Speaker 2: for you and doesn't want you to be in any

696
00:36:44,200 --> 00:36:47,040
Speaker 2: financial stress. He just wants you to be in regular stress,

697
00:36:48,480 --> 00:36:51,120
Speaker 2: and that in these kinds of situations you need someone

698
00:36:51,160 --> 00:36:52,839
Speaker 2: with a sound mind to help you.

699
00:36:52,800 --> 00:36:54,560
Speaker 3: Make decisions sound mind.

700
00:36:55,239 --> 00:36:57,719
Speaker 2: He's an anyo, it's an idiot, he's a he's a

701
00:36:58,120 --> 00:37:02,400
Speaker 2: like irresponsible. I blew up at her and said that

702
00:37:02,440 --> 00:37:06,200
Speaker 2: I'm tired of him always dropping on my conversations and

703
00:37:06,280 --> 00:37:08,479
Speaker 2: at this point in my life, I'm ready to cut

704
00:37:08,520 --> 00:37:11,439
Speaker 2: both of them off. I can't continue on not being

705
00:37:11,440 --> 00:37:14,640
Speaker 2: able to hear any conversation with her without him overhearing

706
00:37:15,000 --> 00:37:17,719
Speaker 2: and giving his two cents when it's not needed, or

707
00:37:17,840 --> 00:37:20,640
Speaker 2: fear of any type of consequences for what he hears.

708
00:37:21,080 --> 00:37:23,360
Speaker 2: She apologized and said she would have a conversation with

709
00:37:23,440 --> 00:37:25,719
Speaker 2: him about that, but to not cut them off. Her

710
00:37:25,719 --> 00:37:28,920
Speaker 2: words were, only have each other in this world, and

711
00:37:28,960 --> 00:37:32,160
Speaker 2: your father only wants but it's best for you. At

712
00:37:32,160 --> 00:37:34,759
Speaker 2: the end of that conversation, I told her that if

713
00:37:34,800 --> 00:37:38,399
Speaker 2: this happens again, I will cut them both off, and

714
00:37:38,560 --> 00:37:42,480
Speaker 2: that this isn't a threat, it's a promise. My furniture

715
00:37:42,520 --> 00:37:44,520
Speaker 2: is coming in a couple of days, and instead of

716
00:37:44,560 --> 00:37:47,520
Speaker 2: being happy, I'm writing this and crying, wondering if I

717
00:37:47,640 --> 00:37:51,319
Speaker 2: was wrong. So Reddit, am I the a hole for

718
00:37:51,400 --> 00:37:54,000
Speaker 2: threatening to cut off my parents? For the reactions about

719
00:37:54,040 --> 00:38:01,040
Speaker 2: me buying a new bed frame? And there is an edit? Yeah? Also,

720
00:38:01,239 --> 00:38:06,640
Speaker 2: oh my god, Intertwined, thank you for the twenty gifted

721
00:38:06,840 --> 00:38:08,879
Speaker 2: membership to the chat.

722
00:38:09,280 --> 00:38:13,880
Speaker 3: Do it Sophia. Wait wait, I'm I'm floating in space.

723
00:38:14,880 --> 00:38:18,319
Speaker 3: There's there's no gravity because we have just entered the

724
00:38:18,480 --> 00:38:23,319
Speaker 3: Intertwined realm. That's like our version of Interstellar.

725
00:38:23,840 --> 00:38:27,000
Speaker 2: Okay, thank you.

726
00:38:27,000 --> 00:38:31,520
Speaker 3: Intertring whelms the rule of the realms. But your comment

727
00:38:31,560 --> 00:38:32,440
Speaker 3: on this story.

728
00:38:34,160 --> 00:38:35,760
Speaker 2: The under of my arms.

729
00:38:37,960 --> 00:38:40,160
Speaker 4: Wow, that's what a great comment, you.

730
00:38:40,120 --> 00:38:42,480
Speaker 3: Know that is. I think that was so you know,

731
00:38:43,120 --> 00:38:45,360
Speaker 3: the the if you think about the under arms of

732
00:38:45,360 --> 00:38:47,520
Speaker 3: this story, yeah, you know, if you think about it,

733
00:38:47,600 --> 00:38:49,879
Speaker 3: the dad is the armpit of father. You're so true,

734
00:38:49,960 --> 00:38:54,319
Speaker 3: you know what I mean, dude. But yeah, the mom

735
00:38:54,360 --> 00:38:55,479
Speaker 3: says something about, oh, they.

736
00:38:55,400 --> 00:38:57,120
Speaker 2: Need to shed some light on the situation.

737
00:38:57,400 --> 00:39:05,080
Speaker 3: They really do, unlike the pa pale under society. Yeah,

738
00:39:05,320 --> 00:39:07,600
Speaker 3: like this dad is in no way. Oh oh, here's

739
00:39:07,600 --> 00:39:10,480
Speaker 3: what I was gonna say. Some people could be like, oh,

740
00:39:10,520 --> 00:39:13,200
Speaker 3: it's it's like one interaction, like, oh, you gotta this

741
00:39:13,280 --> 00:39:16,439
Speaker 3: is probably the tip tip tip of the iceberg. Yeah,

742
00:39:16,719 --> 00:39:19,600
Speaker 3: I would have to imagine this is there's like so

743
00:39:19,719 --> 00:39:22,120
Speaker 3: many other instances that happened before, and this is the

744
00:39:22,320 --> 00:39:26,720
Speaker 3: straw and b the Hamel's back. It is so insane.

745
00:39:26,760 --> 00:39:29,560
Speaker 3: And why is the mom saying this?

746
00:39:29,960 --> 00:39:31,160
Speaker 2: I hate it?

747
00:39:31,280 --> 00:39:35,279
Speaker 3: This keeping the peace? BS? And like you know, I'm

748
00:39:35,360 --> 00:39:37,560
Speaker 3: not the best with confrontation and things of this nature

749
00:39:37,600 --> 00:39:42,040
Speaker 3: in the family, but like, like you can't you know,

750
00:39:42,320 --> 00:39:45,320
Speaker 3: subjugate the other family members to all this, BS?

751
00:39:45,600 --> 00:39:47,279
Speaker 2: No, no, no, are you not?

752
00:39:47,400 --> 00:39:49,759
Speaker 3: Are you not? Worried about your your or are you not?

753
00:39:50,120 --> 00:39:51,399
Speaker 3: I don't know if the right word is like worried

754
00:39:51,480 --> 00:39:53,600
Speaker 3: or concerned? Like do you want your child to go

755
00:39:53,680 --> 00:39:56,560
Speaker 3: through this kind of treatment?

756
00:39:56,760 --> 00:40:03,359
Speaker 2: Yeah? Really believable, very unbelievable. But there is another Well.

757
00:40:03,680 --> 00:40:04,520
Speaker 3: Let's let's get into it.

758
00:40:04,560 --> 00:40:07,840
Speaker 2: Yeah, let's see give op Opie drops these parents? Mmmm

759
00:40:08,760 --> 00:40:09,640
Speaker 2: uh right.

760
00:40:12,360 --> 00:40:12,480
Speaker 6: Edit.

761
00:40:13,640 --> 00:40:16,640
Speaker 2: I'm new to posting anything on Reddit, so I'm unsure

762
00:40:16,760 --> 00:40:19,600
Speaker 2: on how to add my original post, but I'm here

763
00:40:19,800 --> 00:40:23,200
Speaker 2: in the comments to answer some questions. Number one, why

764
00:40:23,280 --> 00:40:26,080
Speaker 2: did the frame not last longer than it did? A

765
00:40:26,200 --> 00:40:28,680
Speaker 2: month after moving into my apartment in twenty twenty two,

766
00:40:28,960 --> 00:40:31,439
Speaker 2: my apartment got flooded due to a pipe burst during

767
00:40:31,480 --> 00:40:34,520
Speaker 2: a cold snap. The water came through my ceiling fan

768
00:40:34,719 --> 00:40:37,560
Speaker 2: and fire alarm, which happened to be over my bed.

769
00:40:37,800 --> 00:40:38,440
Speaker 3: Oh that's.

770
00:40:40,000 --> 00:40:41,600
Speaker 2: As I was trying to move the mattress and the

771
00:40:41,640 --> 00:40:44,279
Speaker 2: box springs. I didn't have any tools to take the

772
00:40:44,320 --> 00:40:46,200
Speaker 2: frame apart as there are a lot of screws that

773
00:40:46,280 --> 00:40:49,000
Speaker 2: need to be drilled in slash out. So my thought

774
00:40:49,120 --> 00:40:51,719
Speaker 2: is that the frame was beginning to possibly decay due

775
00:40:51,760 --> 00:40:54,359
Speaker 2: to the exposure of the water. Presumably this is a yeah,

776
00:40:54,400 --> 00:40:56,799
Speaker 2: I think said, this is a wooden ram Yeah. Uh

777
00:40:57,080 --> 00:40:59,520
Speaker 2: so maybe he didn't buy a bad frame, but he's

778
00:40:59,600 --> 00:41:01,960
Speaker 2: it's still ridiculous that I bought a two thousand dollars frame.

779
00:41:02,160 --> 00:41:04,200
Speaker 3: Like I would text him with a picture of me

780
00:41:04,440 --> 00:41:08,320
Speaker 3: like holding the crumbling yash. She's like my bed frame.

781
00:41:08,600 --> 00:41:11,560
Speaker 2: Yeah No, he's like one of those YouTubers that uses

782
00:41:11,600 --> 00:41:13,880
Speaker 2: like Ramen, you know what I'm talking about, where they

783
00:41:13,960 --> 00:41:16,560
Speaker 2: use Ramen to fix things and they glue it. Yeah,

784
00:41:16,800 --> 00:41:17,880
Speaker 2: that's what That's what this is.

785
00:41:18,040 --> 00:41:18,560
Speaker 3: That's funny.

786
00:41:18,719 --> 00:41:21,520
Speaker 2: Number two, Why did I choose to do the sixty

787
00:41:21,600 --> 00:41:22,040
Speaker 2: month plan?

788
00:41:22,320 --> 00:41:24,840
Speaker 3: Did we know that? Oh yeah, sh cu percent was

789
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Speaker 3: zuropr Oh.

790
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Speaker 2: Okay, this isn't my first time doing this. I had

791
00:41:28,800 --> 00:41:31,080
Speaker 2: bought a couch and table last July, went out with

792
00:41:31,160 --> 00:41:31,520
Speaker 2: my mom.

793
00:41:31,760 --> 00:41:32,320
Speaker 3: Not new to this.

794
00:41:32,520 --> 00:41:34,680
Speaker 2: The table I paid for it upfront in cash, and

795
00:41:34,800 --> 00:41:38,000
Speaker 2: the couch technically a love sleep love seat, but I

796
00:41:38,080 --> 00:41:40,560
Speaker 2: call it a couch. I decided to finance that with

797
00:41:40,680 --> 00:41:44,400
Speaker 2: a similar plan. I understand that these are monthly recurring payments.

798
00:41:44,560 --> 00:41:47,040
Speaker 2: I paid off the couch this April slash May, so

799
00:41:47,120 --> 00:41:49,800
Speaker 2: it was under one year of having it. Also, presumably

800
00:41:49,880 --> 00:41:51,120
Speaker 2: can you pay more off?

801
00:41:51,719 --> 00:41:51,959
Speaker 4: Yeah?

802
00:41:52,360 --> 00:41:54,440
Speaker 2: Yeah, like right, you can pay also if you wanted to.

803
00:41:54,640 --> 00:41:56,759
Speaker 3: I imagine especially in this one because it is a

804
00:41:57,040 --> 00:42:00,640
Speaker 3: zero percent. Yeah, it changes sometimes, but like I have mapped.

805
00:42:01,000 --> 00:42:04,040
Speaker 2: Yeah, number three, did I ask them to bail me

806
00:42:04,120 --> 00:42:08,239
Speaker 2: out or anything of anything or having financial struggles? The

807
00:42:08,320 --> 00:42:10,440
Speaker 2: answer is no. I've been able to be fine on

808
00:42:10,600 --> 00:42:12,520
Speaker 2: my own for a year and a half on my own.

809
00:42:12,719 --> 00:42:14,880
Speaker 2: I would rather have nothing in my bank account than

810
00:42:14,920 --> 00:42:17,399
Speaker 2: tell him that my father is the kind of person

811
00:42:17,440 --> 00:42:20,279
Speaker 2: who would turn any situation to when I told you so.

812
00:42:20,440 --> 00:42:24,560
Speaker 2: Moment number four, how much did everything cost? I don't

813
00:42:24,560 --> 00:42:26,480
Speaker 2: want to give out the total amount, but I will

814
00:42:26,560 --> 00:42:29,840
Speaker 2: explain how much a month it is. It's about forty

815
00:42:29,920 --> 00:42:37,279
Speaker 2: five dollars a month. The bedn nd, what is it.

816
00:42:37,400 --> 00:42:39,960
Speaker 3: With these expensive bed guys? Guys?

817
00:42:40,280 --> 00:42:41,160
Speaker 2: Am I crazy?

818
00:42:41,280 --> 00:42:44,359
Speaker 3: You know what I'm going to get out of a sponsorship? Iikia, Guys,

819
00:42:44,480 --> 00:42:47,040
Speaker 3: I'm going to give out another sponsorship Facebook Market. Oh okay,

820
00:42:47,120 --> 00:42:51,120
Speaker 3: hold on, hold on, we have solutions, I kia, we

821
00:42:51,239 --> 00:42:52,520
Speaker 3: have solutions to these issues.

822
00:42:52,600 --> 00:42:54,879
Speaker 2: I'm so confused. I went on Amazon. I bought mine

823
00:42:54,920 --> 00:42:57,040
Speaker 2: for like less than one hundred, like about one hundred,

824
00:42:57,320 --> 00:43:01,080
Speaker 2: maybe one hundred and fifty at most on Amazon there is,

825
00:43:01,200 --> 00:43:03,000
Speaker 2: there is truly bed frame.

826
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Speaker 4: If she's doing a sixty month APR forty five dollars

827
00:43:06,080 --> 00:43:07,280
Speaker 4: a month, that's how much it cost.

828
00:43:07,200 --> 00:43:09,840
Speaker 2: Bad frame two hundred and sixty nine uh three forty

829
00:43:09,920 --> 00:43:13,120
Speaker 2: nine one forty nine ninety nine dollars. I'm trying to

830
00:43:13,160 --> 00:43:15,680
Speaker 2: find an expensive one. Let's go most expensive.

831
00:43:15,840 --> 00:43:20,800
Speaker 3: So you could say, uh, like, hey, that's not a good.

832
00:43:21,520 --> 00:43:24,719
Speaker 2: Or seventy nine four nineteen ninety nine. I can't even

833
00:43:24,800 --> 00:43:26,359
Speaker 2: find one thousand dollars one.

834
00:43:27,120 --> 00:43:27,680
Speaker 3: This is crazy.

835
00:43:27,840 --> 00:43:29,880
Speaker 2: I can't even find in one thousand dollars one.

836
00:43:29,960 --> 00:43:31,840
Speaker 3: Guys, you're not in the diamond bed frame.

837
00:43:32,160 --> 00:43:34,719
Speaker 2: Why are you spending twenty five hundred dollars on a

838
00:43:34,760 --> 00:43:40,280
Speaker 2: bed frame? That's ridiculous? What twenty that's.

839
00:43:40,120 --> 00:43:43,640
Speaker 3: Even more, twenty seven hundred dollars. This is ridiculous insanity.

840
00:43:44,239 --> 00:43:45,440
Speaker 2: You guys are bad at financially.

841
00:43:45,480 --> 00:43:47,839
Speaker 3: So yeah, the one criticism for Opie did not buy

842
00:43:47,880 --> 00:43:48,440
Speaker 3: that expensive.

843
00:43:48,640 --> 00:43:50,600
Speaker 2: You're I mean, like, you're in the right about your parents,

844
00:43:50,920 --> 00:43:53,520
Speaker 2: but you're both in the wrong about how much you

845
00:43:53,600 --> 00:43:57,640
Speaker 2: should be spending on a bed frame. Yesumm, where was

846
00:43:57,719 --> 00:44:00,120
Speaker 2: I So if the bad frame had drawers on a

847
00:44:00,160 --> 00:44:02,439
Speaker 2: side that open up, which I like as it means

848
00:44:02,440 --> 00:44:05,040
Speaker 2: a bit more extra storage. So in total, it's the headboard,

849
00:44:05,200 --> 00:44:09,000
Speaker 2: footboard with storage rails, the drawers themselves, and the coffee table,

850
00:44:09,760 --> 00:44:11,880
Speaker 2: all of which had the furniture protection along with that,

851
00:44:12,280 --> 00:44:15,160
Speaker 2: and then relevant comments. Opie says, this isn't my first

852
00:44:15,320 --> 00:44:17,600
Speaker 2: first time doing this. I had bought a couch and

853
00:44:17,680 --> 00:44:20,240
Speaker 2: table last July, went out with my mom. The table

854
00:44:20,280 --> 00:44:22,040
Speaker 2: I paid for up. Oh I said that that one's

855
00:44:22,040 --> 00:44:26,480
Speaker 2: already kind of ummm yeah that was already said as well.

856
00:44:26,600 --> 00:44:28,440
Speaker 2: So that is the end of that story.

857
00:44:28,440 --> 00:44:32,160
Speaker 3: It's over done, so I am.

858
00:44:34,080 --> 00:44:38,279
Speaker 2: Yeah, I think I just not over how much they

859
00:44:38,320 --> 00:44:39,080
Speaker 2: said it is.

860
00:44:39,280 --> 00:44:42,960
Speaker 3: It is like so infuriating, but that's not the point

861
00:44:43,000 --> 00:44:45,799
Speaker 3: of the story. Yeah. Yeah, so breaking it down, break

862
00:44:45,880 --> 00:44:49,279
Speaker 3: its dad absolutely a whole. Ah, here's a question, is

863
00:44:49,320 --> 00:44:49,680
Speaker 3: mom and a.

864
00:44:49,719 --> 00:44:51,160
Speaker 2: Hole a little bit because she's complicit?

865
00:44:51,280 --> 00:44:51,800
Speaker 3: I agree?

866
00:44:51,880 --> 00:44:53,440
Speaker 2: Yeah, I say a lot of it, a lot of

867
00:44:53,480 --> 00:44:54,640
Speaker 2: it because she's being complicit.

868
00:44:54,680 --> 00:44:55,480
Speaker 4: Again I agree.

869
00:44:55,560 --> 00:44:59,040
Speaker 3: I think it's so it's again going with this like

870
00:44:59,120 --> 00:45:01,920
Speaker 3: whole protecting the piece the family type thing, but.

871
00:45:01,960 --> 00:45:06,000
Speaker 2: He's actively making everyone stressed out it Ah.

872
00:45:06,600 --> 00:45:15,719
Speaker 3: Yeah, that that grinds my gears. Grinder man, grinder Man, Yeah,

873
00:45:15,719 --> 00:45:17,880
Speaker 3: I get the dad out of here. But but I

874
00:45:18,480 --> 00:45:20,520
Speaker 3: and he didn't even he didn't even comment on the

875
00:45:21,400 --> 00:45:24,480
Speaker 3: He could have given her the correct advice, which is like, hey,

876
00:45:24,680 --> 00:45:28,360
Speaker 3: that's actually a lot to spend and like just so you,

877
00:45:28,600 --> 00:45:32,879
Speaker 3: but he also spent two grand so talk he can't

878
00:45:32,880 --> 00:45:36,560
Speaker 3: even talk. I can't even freak of talk, damn. And

879
00:45:36,640 --> 00:45:39,359
Speaker 3: all his comments were basically irrelevant to what he chose

880
00:45:39,400 --> 00:45:40,839
Speaker 3: to actually say when he could have said something smart

881
00:45:40,840 --> 00:45:44,799
Speaker 3: and informative. No, no, he's an idiot. No man, Op,

882
00:45:45,800 --> 00:45:48,400
Speaker 3: protect your piece, but by a cheaper bed frame for

883
00:45:49,160 --> 00:45:54,480
Speaker 3: forgot bank account man, Yeah, protect protect that. But yeah,

884
00:45:55,880 --> 00:45:56,719
Speaker 3: I think that's about it.

885
00:45:58,040 --> 00:46:02,120
Speaker 2: So P the a hole just financially responsible.

886
00:46:01,560 --> 00:46:03,560
Speaker 3: No, yeah, but actually.

887
00:46:05,360 --> 00:46:09,760
Speaker 2: Advisable, advised, but not in a whole in the slightest.

888
00:46:09,840 --> 00:46:11,200
Speaker 3: Good for you for standing up for yourself.

889
00:46:11,239 --> 00:46:12,960
Speaker 2: You can do. You can buy whatever you want as

890
00:46:13,000 --> 00:46:17,359
Speaker 2: long as you're you know, it's that's your choice. I will.

891
00:46:17,440 --> 00:46:20,239
Speaker 2: I would just say there are cheaper bed friends and true.

892
00:46:20,440 --> 00:46:25,480
Speaker 3: The real final point go no contact or not as

893
00:46:25,560 --> 00:46:26,000
Speaker 3: OP did.

894
00:46:27,080 --> 00:46:29,400
Speaker 2: It seems as though this is an ongoing issue. So

895
00:46:29,480 --> 00:46:31,640
Speaker 2: I think that OP made the decision that was right

896
00:46:31,719 --> 00:46:32,000
Speaker 2: for them.

897
00:46:32,080 --> 00:46:34,680
Speaker 3: Yeah, given given what we were kind of assuming is

898
00:46:34,840 --> 00:46:37,399
Speaker 3: so it is an exception. We're assuming this is one

899
00:46:37,560 --> 00:46:40,800
Speaker 3: in a long line of like these like controlling things.

900
00:46:40,960 --> 00:46:43,759
Speaker 2: Someone said, someone said in Australia that would be a

901
00:46:43,760 --> 00:46:49,920
Speaker 2: normal price. I'm going to text my mom asks Sandra,

902
00:46:50,120 --> 00:46:54,799
Speaker 2: that's my great aunt. How much a bed frame as

903
00:46:55,320 --> 00:46:56,000
Speaker 2: in Australia.

904
00:46:56,080 --> 00:46:58,320
Speaker 3: He's really answering all of our questions today we needed

905
00:46:59,239 --> 00:47:02,239
Speaker 3: or h we need it for stream mom?

906
00:47:03,360 --> 00:47:03,640
Speaker 5: Mom?

907
00:47:04,360 --> 00:47:05,920
Speaker 2: Okay, sleigh, here we go.

908
00:47:06,360 --> 00:47:07,359
Speaker 3: We have slaveday.

909
00:47:08,080 --> 00:47:09,040
Speaker 2: But that's the end of that story.

910
00:47:09,120 --> 00:47:16,399
Speaker 3: Well, there we go, should we Uh that are coming up? Oh?

911
00:47:17,200 --> 00:47:18,200
Speaker 2: I need to go to the bath.

912
00:47:18,640 --> 00:47:21,919
Speaker 3: Uh go get out of my face, and I'm gonna

913
00:47:21,920 --> 00:47:26,040
Speaker 3: talk to the people. What's good people?

914
00:47:28,280 --> 00:47:28,400
Speaker 4: Oh?

915
00:47:28,440 --> 00:47:29,920
Speaker 3: Do we have any donuts that we haven't right yet?

916
00:47:33,040 --> 00:47:33,960
Speaker 3: I think we're all caught up.

917
00:47:34,920 --> 00:47:36,359
Speaker 4: Yeah, yeah, that's all of them.

918
00:47:36,520 --> 00:47:40,160
Speaker 3: Let's freaking go for ninety six. For ninety six, I

919
00:47:40,239 --> 00:47:42,960
Speaker 3: looked into custom made bed frames from family owned businesses

920
00:47:43,239 --> 00:47:44,840
Speaker 3: and they were on two to three K, but not

921
00:47:44,920 --> 00:47:47,000
Speaker 3: from a furniture store. That's the thing. It's like, okay,

922
00:47:47,040 --> 00:47:49,600
Speaker 3: yeah you can. You can get anything at an expensive cost.

923
00:47:50,040 --> 00:47:50,160
Speaker 1: Uh.

924
00:47:50,200 --> 00:47:54,239
Speaker 3: Dixie Blue Seal also says mine was Amish built but

925
00:47:55,000 --> 00:47:58,640
Speaker 3: like they're literally so there's such a plethora of fantastic

926
00:47:58,760 --> 00:48:01,240
Speaker 3: options in the range of few hundred dollars that's extremely

927
00:48:01,320 --> 00:48:04,640
Speaker 3: high quality that you just don't need to go anywhere

928
00:48:05,080 --> 00:48:07,520
Speaker 3: near maybe in your like forever home type situation or

929
00:48:07,520 --> 00:48:10,560
Speaker 3: if you have like crazy money. But guys, what are

930
00:48:10,680 --> 00:48:13,359
Speaker 3: we doing? What are we doing? Riley? Let me ask

931
00:48:13,400 --> 00:48:13,600
Speaker 3: you this.

932
00:48:14,040 --> 00:48:17,360
Speaker 4: Did you have the there's like a large Amish community

933
00:48:17,680 --> 00:48:20,360
Speaker 4: next to like, oh yeah, yeah, we had a Amish

934
00:48:20,400 --> 00:48:23,880
Speaker 4: community and bashta did you.

935
00:48:23,880 --> 00:48:28,200
Speaker 3: Get the the like fireplace and like other like wooden

936
00:48:28,560 --> 00:48:30,879
Speaker 3: you know, furniture ads on TV?

937
00:48:31,239 --> 00:48:33,160
Speaker 4: Yeah, yeah, yeah, they had billboards of them and stuff.

938
00:48:33,200 --> 00:48:38,239
Speaker 4: We actually would like give wood to those Amish companies, right, yeah, yeah,

939
00:48:38,280 --> 00:48:39,200
Speaker 4: they'd get wood from us.

940
00:48:39,400 --> 00:48:41,520
Speaker 3: Dude, yeah, dude, there was There was literally so many

941
00:48:41,560 --> 00:48:44,080
Speaker 3: TV commercials. There's this one like classic one. I'm pretty

942
00:48:44,080 --> 00:48:46,320
Speaker 3: sure it was like a local adka, but it was

943
00:48:46,440 --> 00:48:50,520
Speaker 3: like this like electric Amish fireplace, which I always found.

944
00:48:50,880 --> 00:48:56,960
Speaker 4: Hilarious because how would they know that that works? That's

945
00:48:56,960 --> 00:48:59,080
Speaker 4: a great question, Like I could see them building it

946
00:48:59,160 --> 00:48:59,920
Speaker 4: and doing all the thing.

947
00:49:00,200 --> 00:49:06,320
Speaker 3: But is a spectrum because a lot of amuse you

948
00:49:06,440 --> 00:49:09,400
Speaker 3: use that simple electricity and because I think lunites is

949
00:49:09,440 --> 00:49:10,479
Speaker 3: the specific type.

950
00:49:10,640 --> 00:49:15,560
Speaker 4: Did you ever watch the the uh freaking documentaries of

951
00:49:15,600 --> 00:49:16,279
Speaker 4: the Amish people?

952
00:49:16,600 --> 00:49:17,399
Speaker 3: I didn't watch them.

953
00:49:17,560 --> 00:49:21,320
Speaker 4: I love them. They were like, oh, the Amish gangs.

954
00:49:22,280 --> 00:49:25,600
Speaker 4: They used to have the Amish gangs in They really.

955
00:49:25,480 --> 00:49:28,719
Speaker 1: Would cut off people's beards, like there was like there

956
00:49:28,840 --> 00:49:31,520
Speaker 1: was Amish gangs that would go against other Amish gangs

957
00:49:31,560 --> 00:49:32,640
Speaker 1: and cut off people's beards.

958
00:49:33,480 --> 00:49:35,319
Speaker 3: That's crazy. That's too much.

959
00:49:35,680 --> 00:49:37,960
Speaker 1: It is too much, but you know what else, it's

960
00:49:38,040 --> 00:49:42,200
Speaker 1: never too much? What adding another person on this stream?

961
00:49:43,280 --> 00:49:55,400
Speaker 3: Let's do it? Come on over stuff, have no regard

962
00:49:55,520 --> 00:49:56,040
Speaker 3: for the lights.

963
00:49:56,480 --> 00:49:59,960
Speaker 1: Okay, So, uh, Steph is my best friend from college,

964
00:50:00,400 --> 00:50:03,680
Speaker 1: his girlfriend and also now a friend. And she literally

965
00:50:04,040 --> 00:50:04,800
Speaker 1: just came off.

966
00:50:04,719 --> 00:50:10,000
Speaker 4: Work literally that's right, get that like and under your

967
00:50:10,080 --> 00:50:12,040
Speaker 4: chin and tried to.

968
00:50:13,600 --> 00:50:16,920
Speaker 1: And wait, yeah, really it should be right below the Yeah,

969
00:50:16,960 --> 00:50:18,160
Speaker 1: that's that's pretty good. Can you hear it?

970
00:50:20,400 --> 00:50:20,920
Speaker 4: Beautiful?

971
00:50:21,560 --> 00:50:22,160
Speaker 3: That is us.

972
00:50:22,840 --> 00:50:25,240
Speaker 1: But yeah, so Steph is also Steph, what are you studying?

973
00:50:25,680 --> 00:50:27,600
Speaker 2: I'm going into psychiatry.

974
00:50:27,320 --> 00:50:32,080
Speaker 1: So literally low key and actual brain doctor that may

975
00:50:32,520 --> 00:50:37,320
Speaker 1: be uh credited to give advice like we've been flippantly

976
00:50:37,320 --> 00:50:38,920
Speaker 1: giving it, but.

977
00:50:39,360 --> 00:50:44,200
Speaker 3: Way more qualified. I's actually had years of experience. We

978
00:50:44,320 --> 00:50:47,839
Speaker 3: also have years of experience analyzing these insane stories. That's true.

979
00:50:48,120 --> 00:50:54,960
Speaker 1: So who really knows the brain better Steph? So Steph

980
00:50:55,080 --> 00:50:58,719
Speaker 1: is going to be popping in and pipeing in and

981
00:50:59,160 --> 00:51:01,560
Speaker 1: shall we give it started? Yeah, you didn't do some

982
00:51:01,680 --> 00:51:06,799
Speaker 1: parts of the stat chatt it'd be nice, Yeah, chat chat.

983
00:51:06,880 --> 00:51:09,759
Speaker 1: You better be nice. We see you, Yeah, we see you.

984
00:51:09,920 --> 00:51:11,520
Speaker 1: Steph is one of the nicest people I know.

985
00:51:12,640 --> 00:51:13,000
Speaker 4: Be nice.

986
00:51:14,440 --> 00:51:16,680
Speaker 3: All right, she'll get into it. Let's do it. Am

987
00:51:16,680 --> 00:51:20,040
Speaker 3: I who's reading? Am I reading? I just readould you?

988
00:51:20,640 --> 00:51:22,960
Speaker 3: Did you read about Amish people? We were talking about

989
00:51:23,000 --> 00:51:26,600
Speaker 3: Amish people. There was a bed frame that costs twenty

990
00:51:26,680 --> 00:51:30,480
Speaker 3: seven hundred dollars. Crazy, I know, twenty seven hundred dollars.

991
00:51:30,560 --> 00:51:32,680
Speaker 3: So that got me and Riley to talking about in

992
00:51:32,800 --> 00:51:35,520
Speaker 3: our hometowns, there's like like all these like Amish to

993
00:51:35,600 --> 00:51:36,800
Speaker 3: like Amish electric fireplace?

994
00:51:36,880 --> 00:51:39,160
Speaker 1: Can they make?

995
00:51:39,360 --> 00:51:39,920
Speaker 3: Is that allowed?

996
00:51:40,040 --> 00:51:42,680
Speaker 4: It's almost as a spectrum, as John said, that is true.

997
00:51:43,320 --> 00:51:45,440
Speaker 3: As I learned an amage country, I did. I did

998
00:51:45,560 --> 00:51:46,880
Speaker 3: learn that. But that.

999
00:51:49,000 --> 00:51:52,320
Speaker 1: Would also make really good stuff, like high quality stuff,

1000
00:51:52,360 --> 00:51:53,600
Speaker 1: because I think they like take their.

1001
00:51:53,520 --> 00:51:54,600
Speaker 3: Time, that's their whole thing.

1002
00:51:54,680 --> 00:51:54,799
Speaker 5: Man.

1003
00:51:54,880 --> 00:51:58,520
Speaker 1: But also the Amish aren't a monolith. There's a spectrum

1004
00:52:00,200 --> 00:52:04,360
Speaker 1: talk talk talk, talk, that talk. The slippy toe is

1005
00:52:04,440 --> 00:52:07,919
Speaker 1: a slight slidey toes. I always, I always say that wrong.

1006
00:52:08,239 --> 00:52:10,520
Speaker 1: Stephan used to weigh in on Sam's golden rules.

1007
00:52:12,760 --> 00:52:14,920
Speaker 3: That's that sounds like a fun It's gonna hate.

1008
00:52:14,680 --> 00:52:20,200
Speaker 1: My golden It's a predictive toolold you you could, you couldn't,

1009
00:52:21,760 --> 00:52:25,759
Speaker 1: or maybe she will agree if enough context is given.

1010
00:52:28,280 --> 00:52:33,160
Speaker 3: What what what? What episode we are on? Yeah?

1011
00:52:33,200 --> 00:52:36,480
Speaker 1: Sorry, I was not listening. Three cool there, It is

1012
00:52:36,520 --> 00:52:42,880
Speaker 1: all right, thanks baby cakes. Okay, I dated my friend's

1013
00:52:42,960 --> 00:52:45,040
Speaker 1: therapist even though she begged me not to.

1014
00:52:47,760 --> 00:52:48,000
Speaker 3: Listen.

1015
00:52:48,680 --> 00:52:49,840
Speaker 1: Gotta get the inside deats.

1016
00:52:50,239 --> 00:52:51,360
Speaker 3: No pree therapy.

1017
00:52:52,320 --> 00:52:56,640
Speaker 1: Pree therapy, you're kind of getting an inside look into

1018
00:52:56,719 --> 00:52:58,640
Speaker 1: your girlfriend so you could do even better.

1019
00:52:58,920 --> 00:53:01,560
Speaker 2: No unethical, aethical.

1020
00:53:03,840 --> 00:53:05,800
Speaker 1: This is all to answer the question is it important

1021
00:53:05,880 --> 00:53:08,640
Speaker 1: for your friends to get along with your partner? Also,

1022
00:53:08,719 --> 00:53:10,239
Speaker 1: by the way, it's important for you to get along

1023
00:53:10,280 --> 00:53:13,359
Speaker 1: with us because we go live every weekday at three PMPSD,

1024
00:53:13,560 --> 00:53:14,920
Speaker 1: So hop on over to YouTube if you want to

1025
00:53:14,920 --> 00:53:17,399
Speaker 1: go see us live and chat with us. This first

1026
00:53:17,440 --> 00:53:21,880
Speaker 1: story comes from Careful Blacksmith two eight three, and they

1027
00:53:21,960 --> 00:53:25,480
Speaker 1: say I don't want to dock to myself, thus the anonymity.

1028
00:53:25,600 --> 00:53:28,160
Speaker 1: I have a very tight knit group of friends. We

1029
00:53:28,280 --> 00:53:30,520
Speaker 1: are always there for each other for all the ups

1030
00:53:30,560 --> 00:53:33,360
Speaker 1: and downs. I see them all as my sister and

1031
00:53:33,520 --> 00:53:36,919
Speaker 1: have never done anything that would affect them negatively. Well,

1032
00:53:37,480 --> 00:53:40,960
Speaker 1: a few years back, something really horrible happened to one

1033
00:53:41,000 --> 00:53:44,440
Speaker 1: of them, Susan, and she went into a downward spiral.

1034
00:53:44,800 --> 00:53:48,399
Speaker 1: After many crappy therapists, she finally found one that worked

1035
00:53:48,400 --> 00:53:52,280
Speaker 1: for her, and she started slowly to crawl herself out.

1036
00:53:52,160 --> 00:53:52,920
Speaker 3: Of the darkness.

1037
00:53:53,000 --> 00:53:57,920
Speaker 1: Opie's kind of a poet with I'm imagining Suitsan in

1038
00:53:58,000 --> 00:54:02,640
Speaker 1: a dark area, and now she's for Congress to Susan

1039
00:54:02,719 --> 00:54:03,399
Speaker 1: for doing the work.

1040
00:54:03,640 --> 00:54:07,080
Speaker 4: Also Congress to Kristin Fila to getting us another thirty minutes.

1041
00:54:07,160 --> 00:54:11,400
Speaker 1: Who thanks for the five gifted memberships? Did we already

1042
00:54:11,400 --> 00:54:12,600
Speaker 1: shout out intertwined realms?

1043
00:54:14,040 --> 00:54:14,360
Speaker 3: Should we?

1044
00:54:14,719 --> 00:54:17,560
Speaker 1: We'll wait, We'll wait, But intertwinal realms, you are good.

1045
00:54:17,480 --> 00:54:20,680
Speaker 2: Night, Stephanie. Don't let the depression get the best of you.

1046
00:54:23,480 --> 00:54:24,400
Speaker 1: We love you, Stephanie.

1047
00:54:25,120 --> 00:54:27,000
Speaker 3: And who was here?

1048
00:54:28,600 --> 00:54:31,839
Speaker 1: I moved away to a nearby city about five months ago.

1049
00:54:32,280 --> 00:54:34,000
Speaker 1: My new home is about an hour and a half

1050
00:54:34,080 --> 00:54:36,800
Speaker 1: right away from where I grew up. When all the

1051
00:54:36,920 --> 00:54:40,520
Speaker 1: necessities were paid for, I went on an impromptu holiday

1052
00:54:40,600 --> 00:54:43,560
Speaker 1: to Greece when I calculated that I had some money

1053
00:54:43,600 --> 00:54:46,759
Speaker 1: to spare there. I met an amazing guy on my

1054
00:54:46,960 --> 00:54:50,600
Speaker 1: first day in a restaurant. We immediately clicked. This has

1055
00:54:50,840 --> 00:54:55,280
Speaker 1: never happened to me before, the little little romance abroad

1056
00:54:55,719 --> 00:54:59,720
Speaker 1: love that initially planned a hiking type of solo holiday,

1057
00:54:59,760 --> 00:55:02,239
Speaker 1: but we we spent eleven days together. I found out

1058
00:55:02,320 --> 00:55:04,600
Speaker 1: he lives in the same city that I moved to,

1059
00:55:04,760 --> 00:55:07,920
Speaker 1: so naturally he changed his ticket and came back with me.

1060
00:55:08,480 --> 00:55:11,600
Speaker 1: I told my friends about it. Everyone was happy for me,

1061
00:55:12,280 --> 00:55:15,160
Speaker 1: even Susan. And again, Susan is the person that's getting

1062
00:55:15,200 --> 00:55:17,239
Speaker 1: the therapy right now, so I guess you see it

1063
00:55:17,400 --> 00:55:19,439
Speaker 1: enough light to see the light for her friends, that's

1064
00:55:19,480 --> 00:55:22,719
Speaker 1: good doing the work, Susan, that's you. I feel like

1065
00:55:22,880 --> 00:55:26,239
Speaker 1: the Susan character is going to uh do something bad.

1066
00:55:27,480 --> 00:55:31,120
Speaker 1: That's my conspiracy theory. During the holiday, he did tell

1067
00:55:31,200 --> 00:55:33,160
Speaker 1: me he worked in the mental health field, but we

1068
00:55:33,280 --> 00:55:35,960
Speaker 1: were too busy enjoying our time together to be talking

1069
00:55:36,040 --> 00:55:41,800
Speaker 1: about the specifics of work. When we returned, we continued dating.

1070
00:55:42,600 --> 00:55:47,360
Speaker 1: We still are well long story short, turns out he

1071
00:55:48,239 --> 00:55:56,880
Speaker 1: is Susan's therapist. And now I understand I dated my

1072
00:55:56,960 --> 00:56:01,879
Speaker 1: friend's therapist. Yes, but that wasn't all purpose. So question

1073
00:56:02,920 --> 00:56:06,680
Speaker 1: to the professional. Yeah, if you find out you are

1074
00:56:06,840 --> 00:56:12,520
Speaker 1: dating your friend's therapist, do you ditch the date, the

1075
00:56:12,640 --> 00:56:15,839
Speaker 1: friend or the therapist or do you keep all three?

1076
00:56:16,320 --> 00:56:19,799
Speaker 3: Oh man and no pressure. But this is an official.

1077
00:56:19,480 --> 00:56:23,080
Speaker 2: Degree for all Yeah, well in the name of science.

1078
00:56:24,040 --> 00:56:27,360
Speaker 7: Well no, actually, officially there's no rule as if it

1079
00:56:27,520 --> 00:56:29,640
Speaker 7: was your own patient and you were dating them, like

1080
00:56:29,760 --> 00:56:34,840
Speaker 7: you actually cannot like therapists slash as a psychiatrist, for example,

1081
00:56:34,880 --> 00:56:37,920
Speaker 7: you can never date a patient. Fun fact, if you're

1082
00:56:37,920 --> 00:56:41,160
Speaker 7: a medical doctor, you technically can date a patient, but

1083
00:56:41,239 --> 00:56:44,440
Speaker 7: it has to be like two years after you've like

1084
00:56:44,600 --> 00:56:47,920
Speaker 7: stopped treating them completely. So that was interesting to me

1085
00:56:48,000 --> 00:56:54,960
Speaker 7: because there's actually rules that I don't know if you

1086
00:56:55,040 --> 00:57:00,320
Speaker 7: get disbarred, but that's actually something that we learn, like

1087
00:57:00,520 --> 00:57:01,800
Speaker 7: what you can and can't do.

1088
00:57:01,920 --> 00:57:04,799
Speaker 2: So like as a psychiatrist, you can never date a patient, but.

1089
00:57:04,880 --> 00:57:08,360
Speaker 1: You could date, but you could friend, but you could date.

1090
00:57:08,280 --> 00:57:11,480
Speaker 7: The friend of a patient of a patient. But you

1091
00:57:11,560 --> 00:57:15,000
Speaker 7: know that's more of a personal ethical Would you really want.

1092
00:57:14,880 --> 00:57:18,280
Speaker 1: To So if you were if you were the therapist

1093
00:57:18,400 --> 00:57:21,200
Speaker 1: guy in this case and you found out you were

1094
00:57:21,320 --> 00:57:23,920
Speaker 1: dating the friend of a patient, would you change anything.

1095
00:57:25,520 --> 00:57:28,920
Speaker 7: I feel like that really depends, Like if this is

1096
00:57:29,040 --> 00:57:31,040
Speaker 7: just a fling and you don't see it going anywhere

1097
00:57:31,080 --> 00:57:33,960
Speaker 7: and you actually have like a therapeutic relationship with a patient,

1098
00:57:34,600 --> 00:57:36,920
Speaker 7: I feel like maybe the professional thing would be to

1099
00:57:37,120 --> 00:57:38,720
Speaker 7: like and the fling.

1100
00:57:39,120 --> 00:57:40,919
Speaker 1: But this is a guy that she met in Greece,

1101
00:57:40,960 --> 00:57:44,080
Speaker 1: that she instantly clicked with, that flew back from Greece.

1102
00:57:43,840 --> 00:57:44,360
Speaker 3: To be with her.

1103
00:57:44,800 --> 00:57:47,120
Speaker 2: Back in the day, I clicked with many people abroad,

1104
00:57:47,480 --> 00:57:50,200
Speaker 2: and uh, you know what, you move on. I have

1105
00:57:50,640 --> 00:57:57,080
Speaker 2: the love of my life now. You can always connect

1106
00:57:57,120 --> 00:57:59,880
Speaker 2: with people. Okay, there's lots of ways.

1107
00:58:00,000 --> 00:58:06,720
Speaker 1: All right, So, uh, the professional opinion is b but

1108
00:58:06,840 --> 00:58:09,240
Speaker 1: it's more it's it's it's more of the therapist to

1109
00:58:09,280 --> 00:58:12,439
Speaker 1: do the dumping than op because oh, he's not really

1110
00:58:12,520 --> 00:58:15,000
Speaker 1: in any conflict. Well, I guess with the friend, I

1111
00:58:15,080 --> 00:58:16,960
Speaker 1: don't know, I guess, oh he is kind of in conflict.

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Speaker 3: I feel like that is that is a question because

1113
00:58:20,080 --> 00:58:24,840
Speaker 3: because it's like, what if what if you start started

1114
00:58:24,920 --> 00:58:25,800
Speaker 3: dating my therapist?

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00:58:26,360 --> 00:58:32,440
Speaker 1: You know, dude, give me your numberst each other. We

1116
00:58:32,560 --> 00:58:34,920
Speaker 1: we we kind of act as each other's therapists. Sometimes

1117
00:58:35,720 --> 00:58:42,360
Speaker 1: there's technically to Nima, I I am Naima's friend dating.

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00:58:46,320 --> 00:58:47,240
Speaker 1: I'm not going to figure out.

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00:58:47,480 --> 00:58:49,880
Speaker 4: You could know John could do it. John is dating

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00:58:49,960 --> 00:58:55,080
Speaker 4: Nima and Nima Sam's friend and yeah, boom.

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Speaker 7: Well I could be your psychiatrist. You're my boyfriend's best friend.

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00:58:58,920 --> 00:59:02,520
Speaker 7: How would that make you if I was your psychiatry.

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00:59:02,600 --> 00:59:06,520
Speaker 3: Oh yeah, I would feel okay.

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00:59:06,320 --> 00:59:10,480
Speaker 2: With that would be okay, it's a big ye, that

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00:59:10,520 --> 00:59:13,120
Speaker 2: would be I'd be a psychiatrist.

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00:59:13,400 --> 00:59:15,880
Speaker 3: Yeah, talk that talk.

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00:59:16,120 --> 00:59:18,160
Speaker 1: But let's get back into this story. So a few

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00:59:18,200 --> 00:59:21,240
Speaker 1: years back something Wait, we've already read that initially planned

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00:59:21,280 --> 00:59:25,360
Speaker 1: solo and we would turn continued dating. Okay, So when

1130
00:59:25,400 --> 00:59:28,680
Speaker 1: it finally clicked for her, she told me I had

1131
00:59:28,800 --> 00:59:31,720
Speaker 1: to drop him. She said she was happy for me

1132
00:59:31,840 --> 00:59:34,320
Speaker 1: having a holiday fling, but she didn't feel comfortable that

1133
00:59:34,400 --> 00:59:37,200
Speaker 1: I was dating the guy that had all her confidential

1134
00:59:37,320 --> 00:59:40,480
Speaker 1: info and that he might even be breaking some h

1135
00:59:40,600 --> 00:59:43,920
Speaker 1: I PAA, so some hipA rules by dating me?

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00:59:44,440 --> 00:59:48,400
Speaker 7: Is he I mean if he doesn't disclose anything, then no,

1137
00:59:49,480 --> 00:59:51,200
Speaker 7: I mean he literally can't say.

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00:59:52,680 --> 00:59:53,360
Speaker 3: I told her.

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00:59:53,520 --> 00:59:56,920
Speaker 1: Neither one of us knew that she herself felt he

1140
00:59:57,400 --> 01:00:00,040
Speaker 1: that I told her neither one of us knew, and

1141
01:00:00,160 --> 01:00:02,680
Speaker 1: that she herself felt he was a great therapist, So

1142
01:00:02,880 --> 01:00:05,560
Speaker 1: why couldn't she trust that he would keep it professional?

1143
01:00:06,560 --> 01:00:09,560
Speaker 1: I told her that he hadn't told me anything about

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01:00:09,560 --> 01:00:11,920
Speaker 1: any of his clients, and I had never asked him

1145
01:00:11,920 --> 01:00:14,440
Speaker 1: about it either. We were always in the moment with

1146
01:00:14,520 --> 01:00:17,080
Speaker 1: each other instead of worrying about who and what happened

1147
01:00:17,120 --> 01:00:20,200
Speaker 1: during work hours. Which if one of her closest friends

1148
01:00:20,320 --> 01:00:22,800
Speaker 1: is a patient of his and they just found out

1149
01:00:22,840 --> 01:00:25,920
Speaker 1: about it, it probably speaks to the level of confidentiality

1150
01:00:25,960 --> 01:00:26,920
Speaker 1: that he has with his patients.

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01:00:28,080 --> 01:00:29,600
Speaker 3: Green flag, Green Flag.

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01:00:30,040 --> 01:00:32,479
Speaker 1: At her next appointment, she confronted him and had asked

1153
01:00:32,520 --> 01:00:35,040
Speaker 1: him to dump me or she would report him.

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01:00:36,680 --> 01:00:36,880
Speaker 3: Oh.

1155
01:00:38,360 --> 01:00:42,520
Speaker 1: He reassured her he would never violate patient confidentiality, but

1156
01:00:42,640 --> 01:00:48,080
Speaker 1: she kept harassing him for the next few appointments. So

1157
01:00:48,200 --> 01:00:51,080
Speaker 1: what do you do, STEPH? Professional opinion? I mean, I

1158
01:00:51,160 --> 01:00:53,720
Speaker 1: think you know, this is my best story to introduce

1159
01:00:53,720 --> 01:00:58,080
Speaker 1: step literally too. That was like a total accident too,

1160
01:00:58,440 --> 01:00:59,160
Speaker 1: that's crazy.

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01:00:59,480 --> 01:01:01,960
Speaker 7: I think the tough part here is that, for example,

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01:01:02,320 --> 01:01:05,080
Speaker 7: this therapist I'm sure is very is being very professional.

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01:01:05,280 --> 01:01:05,919
Speaker 2: So that's great.

1164
01:01:05,960 --> 01:01:09,120
Speaker 7: If he's not disclosing any information, cool. I think the

1165
01:01:09,240 --> 01:01:12,400
Speaker 7: issue now just becomes between the two friends, because that

1166
01:01:12,960 --> 01:01:16,160
Speaker 7: must be awkward for the patient to be like, oh

1167
01:01:16,240 --> 01:01:18,480
Speaker 7: my gosh, like you are dating my therapy.

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01:01:18,840 --> 01:01:19,720
Speaker 1: How can I open up?

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01:01:20,120 --> 01:01:22,040
Speaker 7: I exactly, And so I feel like if anything that

1170
01:01:22,320 --> 01:01:26,200
Speaker 7: kind of ruins the therapeutic relationship for the patient doesn't

1171
01:01:26,240 --> 01:01:30,080
Speaker 7: necessarily mean that the therapist is doing anything wrong. So

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01:01:30,200 --> 01:01:32,040
Speaker 7: I think in this case it might be like a

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01:01:32,440 --> 01:01:35,640
Speaker 7: dump the therapist and move on, because if you aren't

1174
01:01:35,680 --> 01:01:37,840
Speaker 7: able to open up to them anymore because of this

1175
01:01:37,880 --> 01:01:40,360
Speaker 7: awkward situation, then they're not going to be helpful.

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01:01:40,480 --> 01:01:43,200
Speaker 1: So maybe Susan should dump the therapist. That's basically I.

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01:01:43,280 --> 01:01:46,160
Speaker 2: Think it's so if you know everything else is.

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01:01:46,480 --> 01:01:49,720
Speaker 1: Yeah, Rater says, can you imagine how awkward it would

1179
01:01:49,720 --> 01:01:52,120
Speaker 1: be to double date with your therapist or to spend

1180
01:01:52,160 --> 01:01:53,480
Speaker 1: holitay is with the therapy?

1181
01:01:53,760 --> 01:01:55,120
Speaker 3: Yeah, that's great point.

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01:01:55,600 --> 01:01:57,840
Speaker 2: No, my therapist is dope. I've been wanting to hang

1183
01:01:57,880 --> 01:01:58,600
Speaker 2: out with them.

1184
01:01:58,640 --> 01:01:59,920
Speaker 1: So is that allowed?

1185
01:02:00,240 --> 01:02:00,280
Speaker 4: No?

1186
01:02:01,240 --> 01:02:03,720
Speaker 1: But if you're not allowed, then what like what do

1187
01:02:03,800 --> 01:02:04,160
Speaker 1: you do in this?

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01:02:04,760 --> 01:02:08,400
Speaker 7: So my therapists moved to a different school and so like,

1189
01:02:09,160 --> 01:02:12,080
Speaker 7: technically if I happened to like email them and like

1190
01:02:13,560 --> 01:02:16,360
Speaker 7: ask to get tacos, like it might be possible.

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01:02:16,600 --> 01:02:17,600
Speaker 1: Is she still your therapist?

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01:02:17,800 --> 01:02:18,800
Speaker 2: He is not anymore.

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01:02:19,800 --> 01:02:23,960
Speaker 1: Okay, so then then it's okay, right, Okay, So he

1194
01:02:24,120 --> 01:02:27,040
Speaker 1: talked to me about her harassing him to dump me

1195
01:02:27,280 --> 01:02:30,000
Speaker 1: as it wasn't part of patient confidentiality?

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01:02:30,680 --> 01:02:30,960
Speaker 3: Is it not?

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01:02:31,240 --> 01:02:34,000
Speaker 1: If it's not in the session, maybe it's outside the session. Oh,

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01:02:34,800 --> 01:02:37,600
Speaker 1: Olivia Gray says, I'm a therapist and the ACA Ethical

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Speaker 1: Code says it's never allowed for the APA. It's five

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01:02:41,360 --> 01:02:44,560
Speaker 1: years after ending treatment with a client. I'd never entertained

1201
01:02:44,600 --> 01:02:46,560
Speaker 1: the thought of dating any of my clients.

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Speaker 3: Yikes.

1203
01:02:47,880 --> 01:02:52,000
Speaker 2: Well, they're not dating their client. They're not dating they're.

1204
01:02:51,680 --> 01:02:55,400
Speaker 1: Dating a client's friend and a half years. Two and

1205
01:02:55,440 --> 01:02:59,479
Speaker 1: a half years to friends, half life for every degree

1206
01:02:59,520 --> 01:03:01,439
Speaker 1: of separation from your original client.

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01:03:02,600 --> 01:03:03,200
Speaker 3: Yep, there we go.

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01:03:04,840 --> 01:03:07,760
Speaker 1: He wanted to know if I felt the same way

1209
01:03:07,800 --> 01:03:10,120
Speaker 1: about him as he did about me, and if we

1210
01:03:10,240 --> 01:03:13,960
Speaker 1: had a future together, and I said yes. After that,

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01:03:14,200 --> 01:03:17,560
Speaker 1: he recused himself from being her therapist and recommended one

1212
01:03:17,720 --> 01:03:22,600
Speaker 1: of his colleagues to her. Since then, Susan has been

1213
01:03:22,680 --> 01:03:27,040
Speaker 1: on a smear campaign against me and our tight knit

1214
01:03:27,160 --> 01:03:32,120
Speaker 1: group Since then, Susan has been on a smear campaign

1215
01:03:32,160 --> 01:03:34,920
Speaker 1: against me, and our tight knit group isn't so tight anymore.

1216
01:03:35,520 --> 01:03:38,080
Speaker 1: She didn't take him up on his recommendation, and due

1217
01:03:38,120 --> 01:03:41,120
Speaker 1: to being out of therapy, she started to drink again,

1218
01:03:41,560 --> 01:03:44,400
Speaker 1: and one of our friends told me she rarely bathes

1219
01:03:44,800 --> 01:03:48,600
Speaker 1: and other parts of her hygiene have suffered too. She

1220
01:03:48,720 --> 01:03:50,800
Speaker 1: has also skipped a lot of days of work and

1221
01:03:51,000 --> 01:03:54,880
Speaker 1: might lose her job. She isn't faking her downward spiral,

1222
01:03:55,200 --> 01:03:57,880
Speaker 1: but I can't go through with what she and her

1223
01:03:57,960 --> 01:03:59,680
Speaker 1: other friends want me to do, which is end the

1224
01:03:59,720 --> 01:04:00,520
Speaker 1: really relationship.

1225
01:04:00,880 --> 01:04:01,160
Speaker 3: Wow.

1226
01:04:02,040 --> 01:04:04,080
Speaker 1: So it's kind of like it's almost like she has

1227
01:04:04,160 --> 01:04:08,040
Speaker 1: a choice between do I end this relationship and basically

1228
01:04:08,760 --> 01:04:11,440
Speaker 1: contribute to getting my friend out of this downward spiral,

1229
01:04:11,960 --> 01:04:15,160
Speaker 1: or do I keep the relationship and maybe contribute further

1230
01:04:15,640 --> 01:04:16,600
Speaker 1: to the downward spiral.

1231
01:04:16,760 --> 01:04:19,480
Speaker 2: But why is Susan sticking with the therapist then?

1232
01:04:19,880 --> 01:04:21,800
Speaker 1: Because she's not in the right mind.

1233
01:04:22,280 --> 01:04:29,960
Speaker 2: Yeah she I mean, yeah, Susan.

1234
01:04:30,600 --> 01:04:34,560
Speaker 1: Commander Waddle says, Oh God, Susan is spiraling. And it's like,

1235
01:04:34,640 --> 01:04:36,800
Speaker 1: I imagine it's really I mean, especially when you open

1236
01:04:36,880 --> 01:04:38,880
Speaker 1: up and you're in a really bad spot. I imagine

1237
01:04:39,280 --> 01:04:41,640
Speaker 1: switching therapists can No, that's a lot.

1238
01:04:41,720 --> 01:04:44,960
Speaker 7: It's really someone that you connect with and that you're

1239
01:04:45,040 --> 01:04:48,400
Speaker 7: comfortable feeling vulnerable with. So I mean it's yeah, it's tough.

1240
01:04:48,720 --> 01:04:52,240
Speaker 1: Yeah, they say, he is just a man, and there

1241
01:04:52,280 --> 01:04:54,560
Speaker 1: are millions of men out there for me, So why

1242
01:04:54,680 --> 01:04:58,320
Speaker 1: won't I dump him for her? Aren't there a bunch

1243
01:04:58,360 --> 01:05:02,360
Speaker 1: of other therapists Susan? It took Susan this long to

1244
01:05:02,440 --> 01:05:05,160
Speaker 1: find a good therapist, and it took her and and

1245
01:05:06,080 --> 01:05:08,480
Speaker 1: it took her an hour and a half to drive

1246
01:05:08,560 --> 01:05:10,680
Speaker 1: to him, but she did it despite the commute to

1247
01:05:10,720 --> 01:05:13,440
Speaker 1: get better. According to them, she might not find a

1248
01:05:13,480 --> 01:05:16,760
Speaker 1: good therapist closer or within that driving distance, and she

1249
01:05:16,960 --> 01:05:21,080
Speaker 1: is exhausted all the nearby possibilities. They are telling me,

1250
01:05:21,520 --> 01:05:27,720
Speaker 1: I am risking her life for a holiday fling. Am

1251
01:05:28,040 --> 01:05:32,280
Speaker 1: I the a hole for being the hurdle and her recovery?

1252
01:05:32,720 --> 01:05:38,720
Speaker 1: And there is a thick, juicy edit honestly feels more

1253
01:05:38,840 --> 01:05:41,360
Speaker 1: like an update than an edit. But I'm gonna pause

1254
01:05:41,520 --> 01:05:44,800
Speaker 1: right here please and ask that question, which is like

1255
01:05:45,160 --> 01:05:48,200
Speaker 1: one of the hardest questions. I mean, it's it truly

1256
01:05:48,280 --> 01:05:49,520
Speaker 1: feels like life and death.

1257
01:05:49,640 --> 01:05:51,919
Speaker 2: This is a This is a really tough one.

1258
01:05:52,480 --> 01:05:58,000
Speaker 3: Yeah, right now.

1259
01:05:59,560 --> 01:06:01,680
Speaker 2: I have no clue. I think, Yeah, there's just like

1260
01:06:01,840 --> 01:06:04,000
Speaker 2: everyone has a role in this situation.

1261
01:06:05,280 --> 01:06:10,000
Speaker 1: Refer to Susan to zok docyd Yeah there's dude, what

1262
01:06:10,800 --> 01:06:14,520
Speaker 1: editor put zoc ez oc doc god right after the police.

1263
01:06:14,720 --> 01:06:16,920
Speaker 7: Please feel like Susan is being a little bit like

1264
01:06:17,040 --> 01:06:20,720
Speaker 7: vindictive though, you know, like because this whole like smear

1265
01:06:20,840 --> 01:06:23,800
Speaker 7: campaign and like, yeah, this guy is a professional and

1266
01:06:23,880 --> 01:06:26,240
Speaker 7: it's also like their friend, you know, Like I feel

1267
01:06:26,240 --> 01:06:29,680
Speaker 7: like maybe there's an intervention that needs to be staged

1268
01:06:29,800 --> 01:06:30,680
Speaker 7: between the three of them.

1269
01:06:30,760 --> 01:06:33,080
Speaker 3: Yeah, here's what I feel. So I kind of almost

1270
01:06:33,120 --> 01:06:35,360
Speaker 3: look at it as like when you're like be a

1271
01:06:35,440 --> 01:06:37,480
Speaker 3: citizen of a country, for example, you have like a

1272
01:06:37,520 --> 01:06:39,280
Speaker 3: certain civic dude be like okay, like be a good

1273
01:06:39,320 --> 01:06:41,120
Speaker 3: member of your community and like vote and like these

1274
01:06:41,200 --> 01:06:44,080
Speaker 3: kinds so do make a reasonable effort to be a

1275
01:06:44,280 --> 01:06:47,680
Speaker 3: good contributing member to society. But then there comes a

1276
01:06:47,800 --> 01:06:51,840
Speaker 3: point where it's like do I like do the absolute

1277
01:06:51,960 --> 01:06:55,120
Speaker 3: most and like give up the most important things of

1278
01:06:55,520 --> 01:06:56,120
Speaker 3: my life for.

1279
01:06:56,800 --> 01:07:00,960
Speaker 1: And it sounds like this relationship is really it has

1280
01:07:01,520 --> 01:07:05,760
Speaker 1: gone beyond just a holiday fling football people in this relationship,

1281
01:07:06,000 --> 01:07:08,680
Speaker 1: which is not I think how the friend group and

1282
01:07:08,800 --> 01:07:10,720
Speaker 1: Susan is looking at it. It's like, oh, like, why

1283
01:07:10,760 --> 01:07:13,480
Speaker 1: aren't you just ditching this holiday fling. Obviously you care

1284
01:07:13,520 --> 01:07:16,840
Speaker 1: about Susan more than just some some guy that's slinging

1285
01:07:16,920 --> 01:07:20,920
Speaker 1: his wang around on Greece, but talk about it. But

1286
01:07:21,120 --> 01:07:23,280
Speaker 1: I think now it's reached a point where it's actually

1287
01:07:23,320 --> 01:07:28,240
Speaker 1: like super deep. So I think it's unfair for Susan

1288
01:07:28,280 --> 01:07:30,120
Speaker 1: to ask that. But it's like, also, she's not in

1289
01:07:30,200 --> 01:07:31,280
Speaker 1: the right mind too, So.

1290
01:07:32,040 --> 01:07:36,320
Speaker 3: Yeah, I think I think Opie, you know, go as

1291
01:07:36,400 --> 01:07:39,600
Speaker 3: far as you can to help within that like reasonable amount,

1292
01:07:39,760 --> 01:07:41,640
Speaker 3: but at the end of the day, you can't like

1293
01:07:42,320 --> 01:07:45,200
Speaker 3: just snap your fingers and you know, control. And I

1294
01:07:45,520 --> 01:07:49,120
Speaker 3: don't know that it's necessarily as tragic as it is

1295
01:07:49,200 --> 01:07:54,160
Speaker 3: to say. I don't know if it's Opie's obligation.

1296
01:07:53,800 --> 01:07:57,040
Speaker 1: To And it's not like Opie said, oh, Susan, you

1297
01:07:57,120 --> 01:08:00,720
Speaker 1: can't see my like like him as a therapist because

1298
01:08:00,720 --> 01:08:04,560
Speaker 1: I'm dating him anymore. Like they made every like they

1299
01:08:04,680 --> 01:08:07,760
Speaker 1: tried as much as they could to make accommodations for

1300
01:08:07,880 --> 01:08:10,640
Speaker 1: Susan in this weird scenario, and she was like, I

1301
01:08:10,760 --> 01:08:14,160
Speaker 1: want him all to myself, And I think Riley highlighted

1302
01:08:14,240 --> 01:08:17,160
Speaker 1: some comment that it was like maybe Susan is in

1303
01:08:17,320 --> 01:08:20,280
Speaker 1: love or obsessed in some way with the therapist. I

1304
01:08:20,320 --> 01:08:21,240
Speaker 1: don't know if does that.

1305
01:08:22,439 --> 01:08:24,560
Speaker 7: I'm sure it does. But also keep in mind, like

1306
01:08:24,760 --> 01:08:27,040
Speaker 7: who knows what this person's mental health is, like great,

1307
01:08:27,120 --> 01:08:28,000
Speaker 7: like they're in therapy.

1308
01:08:28,320 --> 01:08:30,960
Speaker 2: Who knows for what could be mild, could be severe.

1309
01:08:31,120 --> 01:08:34,160
Speaker 7: So I mean it's it's not uncommon for people to

1310
01:08:34,280 --> 01:08:37,880
Speaker 7: feel like attached to their therapists, and so maybe they

1311
01:08:37,960 --> 01:08:40,040
Speaker 7: feel like possessive towards their therapists.

1312
01:08:40,160 --> 01:08:40,760
Speaker 4: You know, who knows.

1313
01:08:40,800 --> 01:08:43,760
Speaker 1: Well, I've heard a lot of people being possessive. I

1314
01:08:44,200 --> 01:08:49,040
Speaker 1: had a friend that didn't recommend or like, like a

1315
01:08:49,120 --> 01:08:53,800
Speaker 1: friend was looking for a therapist and heard good things

1316
01:08:53,840 --> 01:08:56,519
Speaker 1: from her other friend about the therapist or friend was

1317
01:08:56,560 --> 01:08:59,439
Speaker 1: going to and was going to go and get her therapist,

1318
01:08:59,479 --> 01:09:01,160
Speaker 1: and she's like, no, I don't want you having the same.

1319
01:09:01,040 --> 01:09:01,640
Speaker 3: Therapist as me.

1320
01:09:01,960 --> 01:09:03,760
Speaker 2: Yeah, you know, people are particular.

1321
01:09:04,200 --> 01:09:07,160
Speaker 1: So and I've never I haven't gone to like, I

1322
01:09:07,240 --> 01:09:09,559
Speaker 1: haven't had that relationship. I haven't really gone to therapy,

1323
01:09:09,600 --> 01:09:11,480
Speaker 1: and so I haven't had that relationship. But I imagine

1324
01:09:11,800 --> 01:09:14,160
Speaker 1: if you're you know, spilling a lot of your internal

1325
01:09:14,240 --> 01:09:17,880
Speaker 1: truths for a long time there. It could be very

1326
01:09:18,040 --> 01:09:20,240
Speaker 1: natural to become attached to your therapist in that way.

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Speaker 3: I literally emailed my homies therapist to day right before

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Speaker 3: the stream really recommended Yeah, but yeah, I could say

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Speaker 3: it happening a lot, But ultimately I would say not

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Speaker 3: opis in the in the impossible choice, the impossible choices,

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Speaker 3: You're ultimately not completely responsible.

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Speaker 1: Yeah for Susan's But Kristin Foyla says, regardless of the

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01:09:43,360 --> 01:09:46,799
Speaker 1: relationship with Ope, the therapist should absolutely cut off Susan

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01:09:46,960 --> 01:09:49,760
Speaker 1: as a patience. Transference is a thing, But how do

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01:09:49,800 --> 01:09:51,280
Speaker 1: you do transference elegantly?

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Speaker 4: Have you watched Monk?

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01:09:54,360 --> 01:09:54,840
Speaker 3: I haven't.

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01:09:54,920 --> 01:09:58,440
Speaker 1: He was pissed when he when he transferred therapists.

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01:09:58,120 --> 01:10:00,720
Speaker 4: Just don't do that. Then thought you're better.

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01:10:01,600 --> 01:10:01,880
Speaker 3: Nice.

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01:10:02,840 --> 01:10:05,800
Speaker 1: Joh Riley blind B says ending a relationship isn't going

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01:10:05,880 --> 01:10:08,679
Speaker 1: to change her downward spiral. She needs serious help.

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Speaker 3: My question is what happens. Well, let's get into the edit.

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01:10:16,240 --> 01:10:18,880
Speaker 1: So, so a lot of people misunderstood the timeline and

1345
01:10:18,920 --> 01:10:21,880
Speaker 1: are confused about HIPPA. I'll give some more info here.

1346
01:10:21,960 --> 01:10:24,280
Speaker 1: I tried to post this earlier on but after typing

1347
01:10:24,320 --> 01:10:26,439
Speaker 1: it out, it wouldn't post, so I'm trying again. I

1348
01:10:26,520 --> 01:10:29,680
Speaker 1: did not date him for eleven days before she found out,

1349
01:10:29,880 --> 01:10:32,800
Speaker 1: unlike so many have posted here and the numerous people

1350
01:10:32,880 --> 01:10:35,759
Speaker 1: who have wished death upon me in the chat, because

1351
01:10:35,800 --> 01:10:38,519
Speaker 1: you know how Reddit goes crazy. We were together for

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01:10:38,680 --> 01:10:40,519
Speaker 1: those eleven days in Greece, and then we dated for

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01:10:40,640 --> 01:10:43,080
Speaker 1: two months before she figured out my new boyfriend was

1354
01:10:43,120 --> 01:10:46,000
Speaker 1: her therapist. During those two months, we spent almost every

1355
01:10:46,160 --> 01:10:48,800
Speaker 1: evening together and the weekends too. I guess you can

1356
01:10:48,880 --> 01:10:53,280
Speaker 1: call it speed racing a relationship to be fair relationships

1357
01:10:53,320 --> 01:10:56,479
Speaker 1: while traveling our speed runs because instead of having like

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01:10:56,560 --> 01:10:59,599
Speaker 1: four dates in a month, you have living together. Yeah

1359
01:10:59,600 --> 01:11:05,960
Speaker 1: you're yep, yep. John's referring to my girlfriend about that.

1360
01:11:06,040 --> 01:11:07,320
Speaker 1: We did for a month, but we saw each other

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01:11:07,360 --> 01:11:08,400
Speaker 1: every day and up together.

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Speaker 4: We're together for three years.

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01:11:10,479 --> 01:11:13,639
Speaker 1: Yeah three honestly if you like, if you're seeing each

1364
01:11:13,680 --> 01:11:18,000
Speaker 1: other once a week, kind of similar amount of time spent. Okay,

1365
01:11:18,840 --> 01:11:21,240
Speaker 1: but I have never met anyone like him before, and

1366
01:11:21,439 --> 01:11:25,080
Speaker 1: he feels the same about me. The first session after

1367
01:11:25,160 --> 01:11:27,280
Speaker 1: it clicked for her, she used to tell him to

1368
01:11:27,439 --> 01:11:29,479
Speaker 1: dump me. So first session after it clicked, he's like,

1369
01:11:29,560 --> 01:11:32,680
Speaker 1: dump dump her right now, he never told me she

1370
01:11:32,960 --> 01:11:36,960
Speaker 1: uh this because she was his patient. She outed herself

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01:11:37,200 --> 01:11:40,000
Speaker 1: as his patient the next two sessions they had. She

1372
01:11:40,280 --> 01:11:42,360
Speaker 1: also used to convince him to dump me while he

1373
01:11:42,520 --> 01:11:44,760
Speaker 1: was trying to help her to transition to someone else,

1374
01:11:45,000 --> 01:11:48,200
Speaker 1: but she spent the time to convince him to dump me.

1375
01:11:48,720 --> 01:11:50,760
Speaker 1: He told me all of this, and a lot of

1376
01:11:50,880 --> 01:11:54,439
Speaker 1: our mutual friends referred to this because obviously she shared

1377
01:11:54,520 --> 01:11:57,519
Speaker 1: this info with them, So I think that's an important distinction.

1378
01:11:57,920 --> 01:12:02,920
Speaker 1: The information wasn't leaking from the therapist Opie's boyfriend, It

1379
01:12:03,040 --> 01:12:04,599
Speaker 1: was leaking through Susan.

1380
01:12:04,760 --> 01:12:07,799
Speaker 3: Maybe she should she keep some fish confidential. Yeah, Susan.

1381
01:12:08,600 --> 01:12:11,160
Speaker 1: The fourth session didn't even start because she had the

1382
01:12:11,280 --> 01:12:13,960
Speaker 1: jacket on and hadn't even closed the door before she

1383
01:12:14,080 --> 01:12:18,920
Speaker 1: went full nu nuclear about reporting him for dating someone

1384
01:12:19,040 --> 01:12:22,519
Speaker 1: from her close social circle, something she had mentioned in

1385
01:12:22,600 --> 01:12:24,680
Speaker 1: the first session too. He didn't get paid for it,

1386
01:12:24,840 --> 01:12:27,840
Speaker 1: even though legally he could, despite it not counting as

1387
01:12:27,840 --> 01:12:30,360
Speaker 1: a session. Four sessions in two and a half weeks.

1388
01:12:30,640 --> 01:12:33,320
Speaker 1: He wasn't stringing her along for a long time before

1389
01:12:33,400 --> 01:12:36,680
Speaker 1: letting her go. This smear campaign started almost immediately, and

1390
01:12:36,760 --> 01:12:41,520
Speaker 1: it has lasted three out of five months of my relationship.

1391
01:12:41,600 --> 01:12:41,880
Speaker 3: With him.

1392
01:12:42,040 --> 01:12:46,360
Speaker 1: Oh, he works in a building that is subsidized by

1393
01:12:46,520 --> 01:12:49,000
Speaker 1: the branch that is responsible for health in our country,

1394
01:12:49,200 --> 01:12:51,720
Speaker 1: but they also take private clients patients. As there are

1395
01:12:51,840 --> 01:12:54,799
Speaker 1: a few other types of health workers, including specialized nurses,

1396
01:12:55,160 --> 01:12:57,680
Speaker 1: they have people that are regulators of the practice. He

1397
01:12:57,760 --> 01:12:59,560
Speaker 1: went to one of his senior colleagues and one of

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01:12:59,600 --> 01:13:03,439
Speaker 1: the regular therapists with an administrative role that also provide

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01:13:03,520 --> 01:13:06,360
Speaker 1: therapy for those that work in the field. After confirming

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01:13:06,400 --> 01:13:08,920
Speaker 1: that he could discuss this issue with me, he mentioned

1401
01:13:08,960 --> 01:13:11,280
Speaker 1: about the harassment in the last session. Because it is

1402
01:13:11,439 --> 01:13:15,520
Speaker 1: not called for because it is not covered under patient confidentiality,

1403
01:13:15,920 --> 01:13:19,520
Speaker 1: the session wasn't even regarded as a session. This regulator

1404
01:13:19,600 --> 01:13:22,520
Speaker 1: told him to tell me about the harassment as significant

1405
01:13:22,560 --> 01:13:26,879
Speaker 1: others can be targeted by patients see below for more details.

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01:13:27,000 --> 01:13:30,680
Speaker 3: So real quick by understanding of that is basically like

1407
01:13:31,040 --> 01:13:34,240
Speaker 3: the officials are telling him, You are telling the therapist

1408
01:13:34,320 --> 01:13:37,320
Speaker 3: you haven't done anything wrong. You have what you haven't

1409
01:13:37,360 --> 01:13:37,880
Speaker 3: done anything?

1410
01:13:37,960 --> 01:13:40,360
Speaker 1: Yes, you haven't done anything wrong. And you can tell your.

1411
01:13:40,240 --> 01:13:42,920
Speaker 2: Significant other partner because you're in danger.

1412
01:13:43,240 --> 01:13:45,120
Speaker 1: Yeah, and the part yeah, like you're in danger and

1413
01:13:45,160 --> 01:13:48,040
Speaker 1: the partners in danger because like patients like this can

1414
01:13:48,120 --> 01:13:52,280
Speaker 1: target significant others right right. Him coming to me and

1415
01:13:52,400 --> 01:13:54,760
Speaker 1: asking me about our future is something I worked out

1416
01:13:54,840 --> 01:13:57,519
Speaker 1: after the fact of the timeline of events. He was

1417
01:13:57,600 --> 01:14:00,760
Speaker 1: intent on stopping to see her anyways when I told

1418
01:14:00,880 --> 01:14:03,479
Speaker 1: him he was her therapist, but when I did, he

1419
01:14:03,640 --> 01:14:06,680
Speaker 1: neither confirmed or denied it. Also, I really want to

1420
01:14:06,720 --> 01:14:09,240
Speaker 1: quickly say, they must like each other a lot to

1421
01:14:09,520 --> 01:14:11,759
Speaker 1: endure all this and keep together.

1422
01:14:12,240 --> 01:14:13,479
Speaker 2: Yeah, so true.

1423
01:14:13,520 --> 01:14:15,519
Speaker 1: So it must be hella deep because if it was

1424
01:14:15,680 --> 01:14:18,519
Speaker 1: just like, oh, I'm not sure, like maybe they would

1425
01:14:18,520 --> 01:14:19,000
Speaker 1: have broken up.

1426
01:14:19,080 --> 01:14:23,679
Speaker 3: Yeah. She I'm gonna go through three months of absolute torture. Yeah, dude,

1427
01:14:23,760 --> 01:14:24,320
Speaker 3: know that.

1428
01:14:24,800 --> 01:14:26,920
Speaker 1: I'm honestly like, I'm shipping them more and more.

1429
01:14:27,040 --> 01:14:28,479
Speaker 2: He likes her, yeah, he.

1430
01:14:30,640 --> 01:14:33,719
Speaker 1: Only after the fourth session did he mention the harassment

1431
01:14:33,800 --> 01:14:37,439
Speaker 1: because his workplace wanted texts confirming that she had outed

1432
01:14:37,479 --> 01:14:39,519
Speaker 1: herself in case she wanted to make a false claim.

1433
01:14:39,840 --> 01:14:41,640
Speaker 1: I didn't type out every detail, as I wanted to

1434
01:14:41,680 --> 01:14:43,840
Speaker 1: give a quicker, shorter version of the read due to

1435
01:14:43,880 --> 01:14:46,280
Speaker 1: an incident in our country where a mental health worker's

1436
01:14:46,360 --> 01:14:50,559
Speaker 1: son was poked with a sharp object by a patient

1437
01:14:50,800 --> 01:14:54,160
Speaker 1: that stalked him home and started harassing him. Certain things

1438
01:14:54,200 --> 01:14:57,639
Speaker 1: are not covered under patient confidentiality as she outed herself,

1439
01:14:57,840 --> 01:15:00,240
Speaker 1: and he hasn't mentioned anything. I don't know how things

1440
01:15:00,280 --> 01:15:02,439
Speaker 1: work in your country, but everyone does not live in

1441
01:15:02,520 --> 01:15:05,920
Speaker 1: the USA. Legally, he hasn't broken any laws, as significant

1442
01:15:05,960 --> 01:15:08,719
Speaker 1: others can and do get notified if there are concerns.

1443
01:15:08,920 --> 01:15:11,040
Speaker 1: This is why they advise therapists not to have recent

1444
01:15:11,160 --> 01:15:14,400
Speaker 1: pictures of children and not to use their legal names

1445
01:15:14,479 --> 01:15:17,200
Speaker 1: for social media that can be used to track their

1446
01:15:17,280 --> 01:15:20,519
Speaker 1: daily routine. There are other safeguards too, Is that true?

1447
01:15:21,000 --> 01:15:24,400
Speaker 7: Yeah, I mean honestly, I sometimes I'm like scared for

1448
01:15:24,479 --> 01:15:27,680
Speaker 7: the future, Like yeah, yeah, because there's patients that I

1449
01:15:27,760 --> 01:15:32,400
Speaker 7: mean have done really like crazy stuff too, like they'll

1450
01:15:32,439 --> 01:15:35,960
Speaker 7: follow like find out where you live. I mean keep

1451
01:15:35,960 --> 01:15:37,880
Speaker 7: in mind, like we're treating people that are like really

1452
01:15:38,000 --> 01:15:41,120
Speaker 7: stick yeah, randon. This is like most like therapists, like

1453
01:15:41,960 --> 01:15:44,040
Speaker 7: you know, you're not dealing with like a key like

1454
01:15:44,800 --> 01:15:45,960
Speaker 7: psychotic patients.

1455
01:15:46,000 --> 01:15:49,080
Speaker 2: You know there's levels and stuff, but like you never.

1456
01:15:49,040 --> 01:15:51,360
Speaker 7: Know what's gonna happen. And like if someone you can

1457
01:15:51,600 --> 01:15:55,280
Speaker 7: just Google search anything and like find my information, you.

1458
01:15:55,320 --> 01:15:56,320
Speaker 2: Know, like you never know.

1459
01:15:56,760 --> 01:15:59,800
Speaker 1: Is that something that like you've you're you're thinking about,

1460
01:15:59,840 --> 01:16:04,640
Speaker 1: are thinking about of having some level of anonymity on

1461
01:16:05,360 --> 01:16:08,120
Speaker 1: the internet about like who you are and what you do,

1462
01:16:08,280 --> 01:16:10,559
Speaker 1: or at least about your like like at least familial

1463
01:16:10,640 --> 01:16:12,040
Speaker 1: and anonymity.

1464
01:16:12,280 --> 01:16:15,439
Speaker 7: Well, I feel like I used to post a lot

1465
01:16:15,520 --> 01:16:19,120
Speaker 7: more on social media before I started med school, and

1466
01:16:19,200 --> 01:16:21,400
Speaker 7: then during med school I still posted a little bit,

1467
01:16:21,520 --> 01:16:25,240
Speaker 7: but I actually have like stopped posting a lot because

1468
01:16:25,280 --> 01:16:29,880
Speaker 7: I feel like kind of weird, like I'm being perceived

1469
01:16:30,040 --> 01:16:33,959
Speaker 7: not only by my colleagues but also potentially my patience.

1470
01:16:34,720 --> 01:16:37,599
Speaker 2: And again like I am not I will graduate in May.

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Speaker 7: I'm not a physician yet, but it is a thing

1472
01:16:41,880 --> 01:16:44,679
Speaker 7: that I think about, and so I feel like everything

1473
01:16:44,720 --> 01:16:47,679
Speaker 7: that I post online like I just are cautious about.

1474
01:16:48,080 --> 01:16:52,720
Speaker 3: Yeah, well, welcome to an internet show. I know I am.

1475
01:16:55,120 --> 01:16:57,680
Speaker 1: So there are other safeguards too, So stop saying he

1476
01:16:57,800 --> 01:16:59,519
Speaker 1: broke the law. I am a significant other and he

1477
01:16:59,600 --> 01:17:01,640
Speaker 1: only meant the harassment after okaying it with work, so

1478
01:17:01,680 --> 01:17:03,960
Speaker 1: I could be aware for my own safety. The bigger

1479
01:17:04,040 --> 01:17:06,439
Speaker 1: city I am in is not a metropolis like New

1480
01:17:06,520 --> 01:17:08,600
Speaker 1: York or Tokyo. My country only has a handful of

1481
01:17:08,720 --> 01:17:11,559
Speaker 1: millions in the entire country. The bigger city is bigger

1482
01:17:11,600 --> 01:17:13,320
Speaker 1: than the previous one, but a lot of you would

1483
01:17:13,320 --> 01:17:15,080
Speaker 1: probably call it a small city. The fact that I

1484
01:17:15,120 --> 01:17:17,120
Speaker 1: would bump into someone from my country in that region

1485
01:17:17,160 --> 01:17:19,479
Speaker 1: of the world, which is probably the number one holiday

1486
01:17:19,520 --> 01:17:23,160
Speaker 1: destination for my people, are high, even higher when we

1487
01:17:23,320 --> 01:17:25,479
Speaker 1: both live in the city closest to the airport. I

1488
01:17:25,600 --> 01:17:28,759
Speaker 1: hope this clears things up. And this is all to answer,

1489
01:17:29,280 --> 01:17:32,160
Speaker 1: is it important for your friends to get along with

1490
01:17:32,479 --> 01:17:35,479
Speaker 1: your partner? Also, we're a live right now, so you know,

1491
01:17:35,680 --> 01:17:37,599
Speaker 1: come join the live kick click or profile.

1492
01:17:37,880 --> 01:17:38,280
Speaker 3: There we go.

1493
01:17:39,080 --> 01:17:42,679
Speaker 1: But yeah, what a complex problem.

1494
01:17:42,800 --> 01:17:45,719
Speaker 3: I think. I think what we've learned from the situation

1495
01:17:46,160 --> 01:17:49,439
Speaker 3: is that therapists and psychiatrists should take their clients' phones

1496
01:17:49,560 --> 01:17:54,519
Speaker 3: and hit up every single person looking for a partner, because, wow,

1497
01:17:55,160 --> 01:17:57,439
Speaker 3: what a relationship that has stood the test.

1498
01:17:57,640 --> 01:18:01,360
Speaker 1: Yeah, you know, screw Tinder, screw and you just take

1499
01:18:01,600 --> 01:18:05,960
Speaker 1: your class just bulk you know those like old school

1500
01:18:06,080 --> 01:18:10,040
Speaker 1: like bulk email chains and stuff. Just just like no,

1501
01:18:15,560 --> 01:18:18,040
Speaker 1: but it does I feel it like it speaks to

1502
01:18:18,120 --> 01:18:20,599
Speaker 1: how strong their connection is that they are enduring all

1503
01:18:20,680 --> 01:18:20,880
Speaker 1: of this.

1504
01:18:21,360 --> 01:18:22,439
Speaker 2: And he's a good therapist.

1505
01:18:22,640 --> 01:18:24,360
Speaker 7: Yeah, I mean the fact that he was able to

1506
01:18:24,479 --> 01:18:28,080
Speaker 7: like maintain that confidentiality for that long, Like that's that's great.

1507
01:18:28,240 --> 01:18:31,960
Speaker 1: He's doing everything right. Yeah, he's doing everything right, So

1508
01:18:32,040 --> 01:18:34,920
Speaker 1: shout out him, Susan. I hope you find the help

1509
01:18:35,000 --> 01:18:36,000
Speaker 1: that you need.

1510
01:18:36,479 --> 01:18:39,439
Speaker 2: We support you, Susan and Op.

1511
01:18:39,520 --> 01:18:42,320
Speaker 3: I'm sorry you got in the middle. Just just truly

1512
01:18:42,360 --> 01:18:43,560
Speaker 3: an innocent bystander.

1513
01:18:44,200 --> 01:18:46,759
Speaker 1: Who would you least want to be in this story?

1514
01:18:49,160 --> 01:18:53,160
Speaker 7: Well, the thing is, it depends how bad this campaign is,

1515
01:18:53,360 --> 01:18:55,160
Speaker 7: because I wouldn't want to be the therapist if this

1516
01:18:55,280 --> 01:18:59,560
Speaker 7: is actually like threatening their job. Yeah, who knows what

1517
01:18:59,640 --> 01:19:03,920
Speaker 7: this person is doing. But also I feel like the

1518
01:19:04,120 --> 01:19:07,240
Speaker 7: friend is like, well, I feel like she's kind of

1519
01:19:07,280 --> 01:19:09,160
Speaker 7: wishy washy and like how much she wants to like

1520
01:19:09,360 --> 01:19:11,760
Speaker 7: do for this. I feel like she's even acknowledging that

1521
01:19:11,840 --> 01:19:12,600
Speaker 7: Susan's kind of.

1522
01:19:12,680 --> 01:19:14,560
Speaker 1: Like, yeah, I think she well, I think at this

1523
01:19:14,680 --> 01:19:16,400
Speaker 1: point she's like, I'm distancing things.

1524
01:19:16,680 --> 01:19:17,320
Speaker 2: Yeah exactly.

1525
01:19:17,520 --> 01:19:19,439
Speaker 7: So it's like, you know, I think Susan's kind of

1526
01:19:19,800 --> 01:19:22,920
Speaker 7: unfortunately cast aside getting the short end of the stick

1527
01:19:22,960 --> 01:19:25,840
Speaker 7: because it's not her fault that that they're you know,

1528
01:19:26,000 --> 01:19:28,439
Speaker 7: that her best friend fell in love with the therapist

1529
01:19:28,520 --> 01:19:29,839
Speaker 7: and now it's just kind of ruined.

1530
01:19:30,200 --> 01:19:33,400
Speaker 1: Yeah, I feel like things suck most for Susan, But

1531
01:19:34,120 --> 01:19:37,519
Speaker 1: like they didn't. You know, Opie and the boyfriend didn't

1532
01:19:37,520 --> 01:19:38,080
Speaker 1: do anything wrong.

1533
01:19:38,120 --> 01:19:39,680
Speaker 3: They didn't do anything right, and they were they were

1534
01:19:39,720 --> 01:19:41,160
Speaker 3: punished for doing nothing.

1535
01:19:41,280 --> 01:19:48,640
Speaker 1: Yeah, basically, but that's where the story ends. But we

1536
01:19:48,760 --> 01:19:52,120
Speaker 1: have more stories for y'all, don't you worry. But before

1537
01:19:52,160 --> 01:19:56,920
Speaker 1: we do, let's read the doto. Sammy, I'm doing good everyone.

1538
01:19:57,200 --> 01:19:59,720
Speaker 1: No spider is going to take this male carrier out.

1539
01:19:59,760 --> 01:20:03,040
Speaker 1: There has been calls of getting rear ended in side swipe,

1540
01:20:03,080 --> 01:20:04,840
Speaker 1: but no bug is going to take me out. I

1541
01:20:04,920 --> 01:20:07,800
Speaker 1: do have a dash cam in my male vehicle and

1542
01:20:08,000 --> 01:20:10,559
Speaker 1: a personal Vehl Kill to keep me safe. I feel

1543
01:20:10,640 --> 01:20:13,320
Speaker 1: like if you have any driving job, dash cam is

1544
01:20:13,520 --> 01:20:18,720
Speaker 1: absolutely necessary. And Sammy, thanks for the five gifted membership.

1545
01:20:20,200 --> 01:20:24,800
Speaker 1: We appreciate you. Duchess Cassanda five months of membership. My

1546
01:20:25,040 --> 01:20:33,120
Speaker 1: frame costs six thousand dollars, king size, solid hardwood, two bedsides.

1547
01:20:33,439 --> 01:20:36,440
Speaker 1: It comes with smart ports and lights for our devices.

1548
01:20:36,600 --> 01:20:39,800
Speaker 1: Also like the stream you guys, you even want to

1549
01:20:39,880 --> 01:20:41,840
Speaker 1: spin that wheel once we get to seven hundred and

1550
01:20:41,840 --> 01:20:42,600
Speaker 1: fifty legs come on.

1551
01:20:43,000 --> 01:20:44,920
Speaker 4: And Duchess is in Australia.

1552
01:20:45,400 --> 01:20:49,719
Speaker 1: Yeah, so that's but still six thousand dollars for freakin'

1553
01:20:49,840 --> 01:20:52,919
Speaker 1: oh well, maybe it costs more to ship stuff to Australia.

1554
01:20:53,040 --> 01:20:53,280
Speaker 4: Maybe.

1555
01:20:53,600 --> 01:20:56,920
Speaker 3: If there's one thing I've learned today, it is that

1556
01:20:57,040 --> 01:20:59,280
Speaker 3: all therapists and psychiatry should hit up all of their

1557
01:20:59,320 --> 01:21:00,679
Speaker 3: clients for for lifetime.

1558
01:21:01,560 --> 01:21:04,599
Speaker 1: And there are such expensive bed frames. I never would

1559
01:21:04,600 --> 01:21:07,639
Speaker 1: have imagined. Yeah, I did not have a bed frame

1560
01:21:07,880 --> 01:21:12,160
Speaker 1: for years. They tell you, last year you saved thousand,

1561
01:21:12,200 --> 01:21:15,439
Speaker 1: thousands of dollars. Now I have a bed frame. Now

1562
01:21:15,720 --> 01:21:17,720
Speaker 1: it came with the house. I wonder how much that

1563
01:21:17,840 --> 01:21:18,559
Speaker 1: bed frame gots.

1564
01:21:18,840 --> 01:21:21,280
Speaker 3: Probably one hundred thousand dollars. Who knows.

1565
01:21:21,720 --> 01:21:22,720
Speaker 4: I don't have a bed frame.

1566
01:21:23,360 --> 01:21:24,920
Speaker 3: You see, yes, you do.

1567
01:21:25,080 --> 01:21:25,880
Speaker 1: You have my bed frame.

1568
01:21:26,360 --> 01:21:27,200
Speaker 4: That's a bed frame.

1569
01:21:27,320 --> 01:21:28,160
Speaker 3: It is a bed frame.

1570
01:21:28,320 --> 01:21:31,200
Speaker 1: I sleep on the ground. What do you mean it

1571
01:21:31,320 --> 01:21:34,920
Speaker 1: has it's just very thin. It like it's like wood,

1572
01:21:35,439 --> 01:21:36,280
Speaker 1: but it's on the ground.

1573
01:21:36,880 --> 01:21:38,400
Speaker 4: I basically have a mattress on the ground.

1574
01:21:38,520 --> 01:21:41,040
Speaker 3: But it's you have a frame like the.

1575
01:21:43,840 --> 01:21:49,720
Speaker 2: Personal persons, Oh yeah, yeah, the containers. Yeah, pallett.

1576
01:21:50,680 --> 01:21:53,879
Speaker 1: It's like a fancy palate. It's it's not just a palette.

1577
01:21:54,320 --> 01:21:55,320
Speaker 2: It's a pillow palette.

1578
01:21:59,600 --> 01:22:03,880
Speaker 3: Christian full hat. They said five gifted membership. A lot

1579
01:22:03,880 --> 01:22:06,640
Speaker 3: of gifted memberships, streams yeah, and thank you for the

1580
01:22:06,720 --> 01:22:09,519
Speaker 3: ten dollars tip from shy with no common attachment, no

1581
01:22:09,640 --> 01:22:13,040
Speaker 3: content maybe and then drop.

1582
01:22:12,960 --> 01:22:16,720
Speaker 1: Some Saturns in the chat, because saturns in the chat,

1583
01:22:16,760 --> 01:22:18,960
Speaker 1: you have to We have gone into inter collect a

1584
01:22:19,080 --> 01:22:27,320
Speaker 1: hyper joy. The Fox four three two one ten gifted memberships.

1585
01:22:27,720 --> 01:22:28,800
Speaker 3: Has been donated today.

1586
01:22:28,880 --> 01:22:29,240
Speaker 4: Let's go.

1587
01:22:29,880 --> 01:22:31,920
Speaker 3: Thank you Bella for the five buck tip on the

1588
01:22:31,960 --> 01:22:35,080
Speaker 3: donal link. Hello Nuby and welcome guys. Is stuff not

1589
01:22:35,800 --> 01:22:41,920
Speaker 3: just crashing the absolute thor's hammer of invitable commentary? What

1590
01:22:42,080 --> 01:22:43,160
Speaker 3: a perfect sactor.

1591
01:22:43,320 --> 01:22:46,560
Speaker 1: You've dropped Saturns in the chat, Drop some docs in

1592
01:22:46,640 --> 01:22:49,680
Speaker 1: the chat, doctors in their chat. Doctors.

1593
01:22:50,120 --> 01:22:51,240
Speaker 3: She will be one in May.

1594
01:22:51,960 --> 01:22:55,320
Speaker 2: Yes, she'll report me on this show.

1595
01:22:55,680 --> 01:22:58,479
Speaker 3: She is one. Yeah, I don't care. She's my doctor.

1596
01:22:58,720 --> 01:23:03,240
Speaker 3: I am by the Johns, certified born of me. You

1597
01:23:03,439 --> 01:23:04,600
Speaker 3: are doctor? No?

1598
01:23:04,760 --> 01:23:07,160
Speaker 1: No, no, you doctor?

1599
01:23:07,760 --> 01:23:09,479
Speaker 3: You're a John doctor? Can you? Yeah?

1600
01:23:09,520 --> 01:23:09,880
Speaker 6: There we go?

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01:23:10,600 --> 01:23:19,320
Speaker 3: Yeah, that's John doctor and uh oh kimberly fine celebrating

1602
01:23:19,360 --> 01:23:22,479
Speaker 3: five minutes of membership. Can Steph get doctor Romani on

1603
01:23:22,720 --> 01:23:26,360
Speaker 3: stream because my brain would explode? Who is that?

1604
01:23:26,640 --> 01:23:27,920
Speaker 2: I can pretend to be them?

1605
01:23:28,320 --> 01:23:28,720
Speaker 1: Who's that?

1606
01:23:29,120 --> 01:23:29,280
Speaker 3: There?

1607
01:23:29,640 --> 01:23:30,719
Speaker 2: Can make your brain explode?

1608
01:23:30,800 --> 01:23:34,400
Speaker 3: You can play a doctor on her mind. Yes, let

1609
01:23:34,520 --> 01:23:36,000
Speaker 3: us know who that is. Maybe that's a good guest

1610
01:23:36,040 --> 01:23:37,560
Speaker 3: that we should get on the show. I don't know.

1611
01:23:37,920 --> 01:23:38,960
Speaker 1: Have you heard of doctor Romani?

1612
01:23:39,200 --> 01:23:40,519
Speaker 2: No, but I will look them up after this.

1613
01:23:40,720 --> 01:23:42,280
Speaker 3: Yeah, guys, hit hit.

1614
01:23:42,200 --> 01:23:45,800
Speaker 1: The doctor, Cody Brady. This is not Sam's nurse. No,

1615
01:23:46,080 --> 01:23:51,400
Speaker 1: this is my my friend's girlfriend. Yes, I went on

1616
01:23:51,400 --> 01:23:52,559
Speaker 1: a date with a nurse yesterday.

1617
01:23:52,840 --> 01:23:58,439
Speaker 2: Oh oh they meant that. Yeah, this is my best friend.

1618
01:23:58,240 --> 01:24:03,000
Speaker 1: In law friend e Shawn's girlfriend. Uh, you'll, you'll you

1619
01:24:03,000 --> 01:24:05,519
Speaker 1: would see him on my Instagram. He's also in my

1620
01:24:05,680 --> 01:24:10,639
Speaker 1: dating profile in the background. In the background is feature.

1621
01:24:10,880 --> 01:24:11,880
Speaker 2: But he's not available.

1622
01:24:12,000 --> 01:24:14,960
Speaker 1: He's not available. He's very taken. He is lostrely taken.

1623
01:24:15,080 --> 01:24:18,200
Speaker 1: Locky the one of the healthiest relationships that I know,

1624
01:24:18,360 --> 01:24:20,439
Speaker 1: by the way I look at them, and I'm like,

1625
01:24:20,560 --> 01:24:27,559
Speaker 1: I want that. Oh so literally, doctor giving relationship a brain.

1626
01:24:27,720 --> 01:24:32,200
Speaker 1: Doctor who's in a healthy relationship, giving a relationship advice.

1627
01:24:32,360 --> 01:24:35,240
Speaker 3: She was born to be here. Wow, born to be here.

1628
01:24:36,000 --> 01:24:38,479
Speaker 2: I'm so happy. Yeah, I'm so happy I could be here.

1629
01:24:39,439 --> 01:24:42,640
Speaker 1: But you know what, I'm happy to be here for

1630
01:24:42,920 --> 01:24:52,160
Speaker 1: what this next story? Where's John's phone? Oh you're breezy,

1631
01:24:52,280 --> 01:24:54,880
Speaker 1: bree eight, says, bring her back, please, she hasn't left,

1632
01:24:54,960 --> 01:24:55,599
Speaker 1: she's still here.

1633
01:24:56,680 --> 01:24:59,960
Speaker 3: She's right there. Don't manifest the wrong thing. It's a

1634
01:25:00,040 --> 01:25:02,760
Speaker 3: under the couch. I hit it your.

1635
01:25:05,120 --> 01:25:08,400
Speaker 1: Breezy bree says, But she is also probably incredibly busy.

1636
01:25:08,479 --> 01:25:12,680
Speaker 1: What you think doctors work? Come on, some descriptions.

1637
01:25:12,720 --> 01:25:12,920
Speaker 4: Come on.

1638
01:25:13,160 --> 01:25:16,120
Speaker 2: Yeah, I supposed to wear this outfit. FYI, I did

1639
01:25:16,240 --> 01:25:17,080
Speaker 2: have a change of clothes.

1640
01:25:17,200 --> 01:25:20,240
Speaker 1: It works so well, you look so official.

1641
01:25:20,479 --> 01:25:21,840
Speaker 3: Yes, what is it again?

1642
01:25:22,000 --> 01:25:25,080
Speaker 4: Rally A six fifty three?

1643
01:25:25,680 --> 01:25:30,320
Speaker 1: Yep, thanks, partner, that's fifty three? All right, three, let's

1644
01:25:30,360 --> 01:25:32,120
Speaker 1: do it. Let's do it, partner. Is it going to

1645
01:25:32,160 --> 01:25:33,479
Speaker 1: be another psychiatrist story?

1646
01:25:33,520 --> 01:25:37,920
Speaker 3: Because of it is really hilarious. Well, let's see, I

1647
01:25:39,120 --> 01:25:43,600
Speaker 3: dated my friend's therapist, even though she begs me not to. No,

1648
01:25:44,360 --> 01:25:47,040
Speaker 3: I just read that. Yep, I asked if it was

1649
01:25:47,120 --> 01:25:50,479
Speaker 3: that one. Oh sorry, okay, here we go. Are you ready?

1650
01:25:52,200 --> 01:25:53,880
Speaker 3: Let's do it. I'm on the right one now, thank you.

1651
01:25:54,439 --> 01:25:57,160
Speaker 3: I told my roommate I don't cook for her. Now

1652
01:25:57,479 --> 01:25:58,360
Speaker 3: she won't talk to me.

1653
01:25:58,880 --> 01:26:01,560
Speaker 1: Your roommate is your than cook? Doesn't she know that?

1654
01:26:01,680 --> 01:26:01,720
Speaker 4: No?

1655
01:26:01,840 --> 01:26:02,599
Speaker 2: Your mom.

1656
01:26:04,240 --> 01:26:06,599
Speaker 3: And this answer the question is it important for your

1657
01:26:06,680 --> 01:26:09,040
Speaker 3: friends to get along? With your partner. I have thoughts

1658
01:26:09,080 --> 01:26:11,040
Speaker 3: on that. This comes from haunting Athlete nine fifty one,

1659
01:26:11,040 --> 01:26:13,840
Speaker 3: who says, I twenty one male, and my girlfriend E,

1660
01:26:14,240 --> 01:26:18,160
Speaker 3: twenty female, lived together with a roommate, a thirty one female.

1661
01:26:18,600 --> 01:26:22,639
Speaker 3: We all contribute equally to our monthly house food, food

1662
01:26:22,800 --> 01:26:26,280
Speaker 3: meant for everyone, not one specific person budget. We can

1663
01:26:26,400 --> 01:26:28,920
Speaker 3: still have our own food. It is. It is not illegal.

1664
01:26:29,600 --> 01:26:31,640
Speaker 4: Communists talk about it.

1665
01:26:32,840 --> 01:26:36,320
Speaker 1: Riley my favorite communist dude. Absolutely do you think a

1666
01:26:36,360 --> 01:26:40,040
Speaker 1: red mic talk about it? And as long as we communicate,

1667
01:26:40,720 --> 01:26:43,720
Speaker 1: so nobody eats anyone else's food. A couple of weeks ago,

1668
01:26:43,840 --> 01:26:48,400
Speaker 1: I made myself and my girlfriend E some spaghetti with.

1669
01:26:48,600 --> 01:26:49,479
Speaker 3: The house food.

1670
01:26:49,680 --> 01:26:52,200
Speaker 1: Okay, so there's house food that everyone contributes to, and

1671
01:26:52,320 --> 01:26:53,600
Speaker 1: then there's like my.

1672
01:26:53,760 --> 01:26:55,880
Speaker 3: Food food me food, don't touch up.

1673
01:26:56,280 --> 01:26:58,479
Speaker 1: That's such an interesting way of doing I've never heard

1674
01:26:58,520 --> 01:26:58,720
Speaker 1: of that.

1675
01:27:00,760 --> 01:27:00,800
Speaker 3: It.

1676
01:27:01,200 --> 01:27:03,240
Speaker 1: Wait, we all just buy our own food. Oh yeah, yeah,

1677
01:27:04,000 --> 01:27:05,000
Speaker 1: I've never heard of house.

1678
01:27:04,880 --> 01:27:08,080
Speaker 7: Oh house food? Oh yeah eean did that with meat?

1679
01:27:08,120 --> 01:27:13,280
Speaker 7: They had some like communal foods, what like frozen random

1680
01:27:13,400 --> 01:27:14,960
Speaker 7: things and eggs.

1681
01:27:15,760 --> 01:27:18,719
Speaker 1: I guess you know, eggs are a good communal food.

1682
01:27:18,760 --> 01:27:21,559
Speaker 2: But honestly, I prefer doing like our own.

1683
01:27:21,800 --> 01:27:24,320
Speaker 1: Yeah, the like, oh, like, hey, can I borrow some

1684
01:27:24,439 --> 01:27:24,560
Speaker 1: of this?

1685
01:27:24,720 --> 01:27:24,880
Speaker 3: Yeah?

1686
01:27:24,960 --> 01:27:26,439
Speaker 2: Yeah exactly, it all go bad.

1687
01:27:26,640 --> 01:27:29,880
Speaker 1: Yeah, no one will know, yeah exactly. I feel like

1688
01:27:29,920 --> 01:27:33,639
Speaker 1: the communal food either gets eaten too quickly or goes rotten.

1689
01:27:34,960 --> 01:27:37,160
Speaker 3: System milk milk.

1690
01:27:36,960 --> 01:27:39,519
Speaker 4: If someone had communal milk, Like we'll say someone bought

1691
01:27:39,560 --> 01:27:41,040
Speaker 4: two gallons of milk and you know they're not going

1692
01:27:41,080 --> 01:27:43,240
Speaker 4: to drink it before they leave, and you just have

1693
01:27:43,320 --> 01:27:45,799
Speaker 4: a bowl of cereal that you need to milk for potatoes.

1694
01:27:47,760 --> 01:27:48,559
Speaker 3: Should be able to.

1695
01:27:48,680 --> 01:27:52,960
Speaker 2: Share if you're in need. Yeah, yeah, yeah yeah.

1696
01:27:53,320 --> 01:27:56,960
Speaker 1: I Riley use some of my milk, which I am

1697
01:27:57,000 --> 01:27:59,680
Speaker 1: okay with, and even it would be thirty cents for it,

1698
01:28:00,000 --> 01:28:02,080
Speaker 1: And I'm like, what are you doing? You can you

1699
01:28:02,200 --> 01:28:03,559
Speaker 1: can just take my milk.

1700
01:28:03,960 --> 01:28:06,920
Speaker 3: Let's hoard all your resources for ourselves. That's what I'm saying.

1701
01:28:07,080 --> 01:28:10,200
Speaker 1: Riley used my milk down my teeth. Oh, I want

1702
01:28:10,280 --> 01:28:12,280
Speaker 1: you to be a big strong boy. Good good. I

1703
01:28:12,360 --> 01:28:13,720
Speaker 1: have two gallons, I know.

1704
01:28:17,080 --> 01:28:20,920
Speaker 3: Anyways, So a couple of weeks ago, I made myself

1705
01:28:21,000 --> 01:28:23,040
Speaker 3: my girlfriend eat some spaghetti with the house food, just

1706
01:28:23,160 --> 01:28:27,960
Speaker 3: noodles and generic brand canned sauce. Nothing fancy, quick and easy,

1707
01:28:28,040 --> 01:28:29,280
Speaker 3: because I was feeling lazy.

1708
01:28:29,760 --> 01:28:29,880
Speaker 1: Uh.

1709
01:28:30,640 --> 01:28:32,800
Speaker 3: My roommate a was at work until late that night,

1710
01:28:32,880 --> 01:28:36,200
Speaker 3: and myself and my girlfriend ended up finishing all the spaghetti.

1711
01:28:38,040 --> 01:28:42,360
Speaker 3: When my roommate Alan came home, she saw the dirty

1712
01:28:42,400 --> 01:28:48,160
Speaker 3: pot in the sink and made a comment, Elena, there

1713
01:28:48,200 --> 01:28:51,120
Speaker 3: we go, there we go. I asked if she wanted

1714
01:28:51,160 --> 01:28:53,000
Speaker 3: me to save some for her next time I made it,

1715
01:28:53,200 --> 01:28:56,720
Speaker 3: but she really didn't give me a straight answer. I

1716
01:28:56,800 --> 01:28:59,840
Speaker 3: got the feeling that she wanted me to, though, so

1717
01:29:00,200 --> 01:29:02,120
Speaker 3: I made a mental note to do that next time

1718
01:29:02,160 --> 01:29:04,920
Speaker 3: I made spaghetti, and I moved on now. A few

1719
01:29:05,080 --> 01:29:10,000
Speaker 3: days later, I made some pork chops again, nothing fancy,

1720
01:29:10,080 --> 01:29:13,719
Speaker 3: and my girlfriend Edith wasn't hungry and didn't eat her portion.

1721
01:29:13,840 --> 01:29:18,640
Speaker 3: She just chose the oldest name ever, Edith. It's thinkable me.

1722
01:29:19,680 --> 01:29:21,880
Speaker 3: Who's who's eating one of the kids.

1723
01:29:22,040 --> 01:29:23,720
Speaker 2: Yeah, they're really popping right now.

1724
01:29:24,080 --> 01:29:28,080
Speaker 1: Oh dude, despicable. Me just gave a refresh to the

1725
01:29:28,160 --> 01:29:31,240
Speaker 1: name Edith. I bet you a bunch of kids are

1726
01:29:31,280 --> 01:29:34,040
Speaker 1: going to be named Edith now, And yet you mock

1727
01:29:34,120 --> 01:29:35,320
Speaker 1: my choice. I did.

1728
01:29:35,439 --> 01:29:37,880
Speaker 3: I did because it is the oldest sounding name. Shame

1729
01:29:37,960 --> 01:29:40,040
Speaker 3: on you. Maybe it was one of your peers when

1730
01:29:40,120 --> 01:29:46,200
Speaker 3: you were growing up, but nine nice get them. So

1731
01:29:46,640 --> 01:29:49,040
Speaker 3: Edith wasn't hungry and didn't eat her portion, so I

1732
01:29:49,160 --> 01:29:51,760
Speaker 3: offered it to my girlfriend Elena when she came home.

1733
01:29:52,120 --> 01:29:54,320
Speaker 3: She accepted. However, when she put the food in the

1734
01:29:54,360 --> 01:29:57,560
Speaker 3: microwave to warm it, she made a face as the

1735
01:29:57,680 --> 01:30:00,560
Speaker 3: smell hit her. She tried to not let me see it,

1736
01:30:00,960 --> 01:30:03,840
Speaker 3: but I could tell that she wasn't thrilled. She took

1737
01:30:03,880 --> 01:30:06,320
Speaker 3: the food into her room to eat, which isn't unusual

1738
01:30:06,360 --> 01:30:08,680
Speaker 3: for her, so I don't know if she finished it

1739
01:30:08,840 --> 01:30:11,880
Speaker 3: or what. Since then, whenever we're in the kitchen together

1740
01:30:12,000 --> 01:30:14,880
Speaker 3: and I'm cooking, she's been kind of hovering over my

1741
01:30:15,000 --> 01:30:17,240
Speaker 3: shoulder and trying to give me advice on how to

1742
01:30:17,360 --> 01:30:18,360
Speaker 3: season my food.

1743
01:30:18,600 --> 01:30:21,120
Speaker 1: Oh, so Edith is like, dude, you're cooking.

1744
01:30:21,320 --> 01:30:24,760
Speaker 2: Thanks, I'm confused.

1745
01:30:25,840 --> 01:30:29,960
Speaker 1: What you're confused? We have never been confused in any

1746
01:30:30,040 --> 01:30:31,920
Speaker 1: story ever. We have perfect reading one.

1747
01:30:34,880 --> 01:30:36,880
Speaker 3: All the time that are like, Wow, you guys don't

1748
01:30:36,960 --> 01:30:37,639
Speaker 3: understand the story.

1749
01:30:37,840 --> 01:30:39,760
Speaker 1: It's not like we have to repeat parts of the

1750
01:30:39,840 --> 01:30:42,080
Speaker 1: stories because we don't understand.

1751
01:30:42,120 --> 01:30:43,800
Speaker 4: It's not like we have a white board to help you.

1752
01:30:43,960 --> 01:30:46,759
Speaker 1: Yeah, it's not like we have Sophia's unfinished or finished

1753
01:30:46,800 --> 01:30:49,719
Speaker 1: thoughts that literally baps out stories for us. So let's

1754
01:30:49,760 --> 01:30:50,720
Speaker 1: let's talk about it, let's do it.

1755
01:30:50,800 --> 01:30:53,120
Speaker 3: We'll do it. We often don't know what's going on,

1756
01:30:53,439 --> 01:30:59,280
Speaker 3: so literally we'll do what's happening. So basically, we have

1757
01:30:59,520 --> 01:31:03,960
Speaker 3: Elena who is sorry, Edith who is the girlfriend, and Elena,

1758
01:31:04,080 --> 01:31:06,560
Speaker 3: who is the roommate. By the way, I should know,

1759
01:31:07,400 --> 01:31:10,599
Speaker 3: OP and the girlfriend twenty one and twenty The roommate

1760
01:31:10,680 --> 01:31:12,479
Speaker 3: a thirty one thirty one.

1761
01:31:12,520 --> 01:31:17,720
Speaker 1: I'm getting some generational okay, like, is the roommate like, hey, like,

1762
01:31:18,000 --> 01:31:19,519
Speaker 1: I'm let me, let me help you out.

1763
01:31:20,040 --> 01:31:22,400
Speaker 7: Okay, wait wait wait wait, but she's the thirty one

1764
01:31:22,439 --> 01:31:25,519
Speaker 7: Oh yeah, mad is mad at the cooking?

1765
01:31:26,040 --> 01:31:26,200
Speaker 3: Yes?

1766
01:31:26,360 --> 01:31:28,760
Speaker 2: Yes, right, because it's not season how ope?

1767
01:31:28,880 --> 01:31:29,200
Speaker 3: How cool?

1768
01:31:29,280 --> 01:31:32,400
Speaker 1: How old is opgun twenty two twenty and twenty one

1769
01:31:32,560 --> 01:31:34,519
Speaker 1: twenty so opp is twenty one.

1770
01:31:34,520 --> 01:31:35,320
Speaker 3: Op is twenty one.

1771
01:31:35,640 --> 01:31:40,320
Speaker 1: I think I think the the roommate is probably maybe

1772
01:31:40,479 --> 01:31:42,720
Speaker 1: like is maybe just being like, let me teach you

1773
01:31:43,040 --> 01:31:46,840
Speaker 1: how to make some good food because you suck at

1774
01:31:46,880 --> 01:31:52,280
Speaker 1: making food. It sounds like benevolent, okay, whoa could be

1775
01:31:52,880 --> 01:31:54,800
Speaker 1: or could be? Also, I would just like to point

1776
01:31:54,840 --> 01:31:58,840
Speaker 1: out that sometimes these stories are so complex even doctors

1777
01:31:58,880 --> 01:31:59,760
Speaker 1: can't understand them.

1778
01:32:00,120 --> 01:32:03,320
Speaker 3: Got some slash slide.

1779
01:32:03,760 --> 01:32:04,599
Speaker 2: Nobody's perfect.

1780
01:32:04,920 --> 01:32:09,840
Speaker 3: Yeah, So doooo where am i? Riley? Give me your

1781
01:32:09,920 --> 01:32:14,880
Speaker 3: beautiful little head on wherever I'm at? So beautiful zoom,

1782
01:32:15,000 --> 01:32:18,160
Speaker 3: give me that head? Give it to me? Where is it?

1783
01:32:18,800 --> 01:32:20,080
Speaker 3: Showed it to you? Where?

1784
01:32:20,120 --> 01:32:20,240
Speaker 1: Oh?

1785
01:32:20,280 --> 01:32:22,000
Speaker 3: I see it? A few days later, I made some

1786
01:32:22,040 --> 01:32:24,960
Speaker 3: pork pork chops, again, nothing fancy. Edith wasn't hungry and

1787
01:32:25,000 --> 01:32:27,040
Speaker 3: deneed her portion, so I offered it to Elena. When

1788
01:32:27,080 --> 01:32:30,120
Speaker 3: she came home, she accepted it. Okay, So she accepted it. However,

1789
01:32:30,439 --> 01:32:31,840
Speaker 3: when she put it in the microwave to warm it,

1790
01:32:31,920 --> 01:32:33,760
Speaker 3: she made a face as the smell hit her. So

1791
01:32:33,920 --> 01:32:37,599
Speaker 3: it's the girlfriend who is not vibing with the food

1792
01:32:37,680 --> 01:32:39,200
Speaker 3: right now. At this point in the.

1793
01:32:39,200 --> 01:32:42,280
Speaker 2: Story, I thought Edith was the girlfriend.

1794
01:32:42,360 --> 01:32:45,280
Speaker 3: I think Edith the girl, and.

1795
01:32:45,360 --> 01:32:48,479
Speaker 7: She didn't want the food, so Elena I offered it,

1796
01:32:48,800 --> 01:32:50,920
Speaker 7: offered it to Elena, and Elena heated it up.

1797
01:32:51,400 --> 01:32:54,280
Speaker 2: Yes, and now she's naked a stank okay, so Elena? Yeah? Yeah?

1798
01:32:54,360 --> 01:32:59,120
Speaker 1: So wait Elena, No, no, Elena, Wait, Edith is the girlfriend.

1799
01:32:59,160 --> 01:33:04,479
Speaker 1: Sorry wait, I'm Edith. Elena is the thirty one year

1800
01:33:04,520 --> 01:33:08,840
Speaker 1: old roommate that's teaching ope how to make food. Elena's

1801
01:33:08,880 --> 01:33:11,720
Speaker 1: like put in the microwave, and Edith is like ew,

1802
01:33:11,920 --> 01:33:15,840
Speaker 1: that smells bat Oh, No, Elena's like you that smells God.

1803
01:33:15,920 --> 01:33:17,320
Speaker 1: But Elena put it in the microwave.

1804
01:33:17,760 --> 01:33:19,240
Speaker 3: Let me let me read it back the time when

1805
01:33:19,240 --> 01:33:21,120
Speaker 3: I say, my girlfriend in my roommate. Okay, A few

1806
01:33:21,160 --> 01:33:23,920
Speaker 3: days later, I made some port chalks. Again, nothing fancy,

1807
01:33:24,479 --> 01:33:29,720
Speaker 3: nothing fancy at all, but my girlfriend ateieth my girlfriend either,

1808
01:33:29,880 --> 01:33:32,400
Speaker 3: she wasn't hungry and she didn't eat her portion. So

1809
01:33:32,520 --> 01:33:35,920
Speaker 3: I offered it to my roommate Elena when she came home.

1810
01:33:36,280 --> 01:33:39,320
Speaker 3: My roommate Elena accepted it. However, when she put the

1811
01:33:39,360 --> 01:33:41,040
Speaker 3: food in the microwave to warm it, she made a

1812
01:33:41,120 --> 01:33:44,000
Speaker 3: face as the smell hit her. She tried. My roommate

1813
01:33:44,040 --> 01:33:46,439
Speaker 3: Elena tried to not let me see it, but I

1814
01:33:46,479 --> 01:33:49,920
Speaker 3: could tell that my roommate Helena was not thrilled. She

1815
01:33:50,040 --> 01:33:52,040
Speaker 3: took the food into a room to eat, which isn't

1816
01:33:52,120 --> 01:33:54,080
Speaker 3: unusual for her, so I don't know if she finished

1817
01:33:54,080 --> 01:33:54,400
Speaker 3: it or what.

1818
01:33:54,880 --> 01:33:57,599
Speaker 1: Okay, so roommate Elena is just like this is gross.

1819
01:33:57,720 --> 01:34:00,000
Speaker 3: Yes, yes, since then, whenever in the kitchen to get

1820
01:34:00,200 --> 01:34:02,439
Speaker 3: and I'm cooking, she's been kind of hovering over my

1821
01:34:02,479 --> 01:34:04,000
Speaker 3: shoulder and trying to give me advice on how to

1822
01:34:04,000 --> 01:34:07,280
Speaker 3: season my food. And honestly, sometimes it's good advice. I'm

1823
01:34:07,280 --> 01:34:09,479
Speaker 3: one of those people who've used cooking as a constant

1824
01:34:09,600 --> 01:34:15,600
Speaker 3: learning thing, so I don't mind taking suggestions. However, she

1825
01:34:16,000 --> 01:34:18,639
Speaker 3: gave me an attitude whenever I didn't do something how

1826
01:34:18,720 --> 01:34:22,040
Speaker 3: she wanted or liked. It was always subtle and unspoken

1827
01:34:22,520 --> 01:34:26,600
Speaker 3: until yesterday. Uh oh, I was making spaghetti again, the

1828
01:34:26,720 --> 01:34:33,400
Speaker 3: steaky spaghetti when I may. When I make spaghetti, I

1829
01:34:33,600 --> 01:34:36,800
Speaker 3: keep noodles in the sauce separate so everyone can choose

1830
01:34:36,880 --> 01:34:38,120
Speaker 3: how much sauce they want.

1831
01:34:39,360 --> 01:34:44,200
Speaker 4: I've seen this before, you have, Yeah, really? Yeah, sorry,

1832
01:34:44,240 --> 01:34:46,240
Speaker 4: there's this this reddits story where this guy would keep

1833
01:34:46,320 --> 01:34:48,519
Speaker 4: the noodles separate for his girlfriend, and then one time

1834
01:34:48,560 --> 01:34:49,640
Speaker 4: he did it and it turned out he was a

1835
01:34:49,680 --> 01:34:50,800
Speaker 4: horrible person cheated on her.

1836
01:34:52,600 --> 01:34:55,479
Speaker 2: That's unrelated to the pasta no, yeah, just.

1837
01:34:55,560 --> 01:34:57,439
Speaker 4: Like he was a bad person because he wouldn't have

1838
01:34:57,439 --> 01:35:00,719
Speaker 4: separated at first, and then also turned out he ch oh.

1839
01:35:01,040 --> 01:35:03,479
Speaker 3: Yes, you remember that one. I remember that one. I

1840
01:35:03,640 --> 01:35:04,200
Speaker 3: remember that.

1841
01:35:04,320 --> 01:35:06,599
Speaker 1: One, and it was like like it was it started

1842
01:35:06,640 --> 01:35:09,160
Speaker 1: with spaghetti and we're like, oh, like that's a character flaw,

1843
01:35:09,240 --> 01:35:11,800
Speaker 1: but it's not that bad. But then he was inconsiderate

1844
01:35:11,840 --> 01:35:14,000
Speaker 1: about everything and concerned to the point where he cheated

1845
01:35:14,040 --> 01:35:14,280
Speaker 1: on her.

1846
01:35:15,320 --> 01:35:17,200
Speaker 3: So you know, it starts with spaghetti.

1847
01:35:17,920 --> 01:35:23,160
Speaker 2: Correlation, not causation or direct connection.

1848
01:35:24,240 --> 01:35:28,639
Speaker 3: So, uh, my roommate Elena had seen me make spaghetti before,

1849
01:35:28,840 --> 01:35:32,880
Speaker 3: but this time she said, I make it the white

1850
01:35:32,920 --> 01:35:36,000
Speaker 3: people way. I was going to call this. I was

1851
01:35:36,160 --> 01:35:38,920
Speaker 3: going to call this. Why didn't I call it Riley?

1852
01:35:40,040 --> 01:35:45,400
Speaker 3: I feel it's important to note that she is also white. Also.

1853
01:35:45,520 --> 01:35:49,479
Speaker 1: Aren't Italians the makers of spaghetti white?

1854
01:35:50,040 --> 01:35:51,800
Speaker 3: What even that debate?

1855
01:35:52,080 --> 01:35:54,400
Speaker 1: Yeah, debate, it's a big debate.

1856
01:35:54,439 --> 01:35:54,920
Speaker 3: No, it's not.

1857
01:35:56,040 --> 01:36:00,000
Speaker 1: You're saying the inventors of spaghetti, not me, which people

1858
01:36:00,439 --> 01:36:03,200
Speaker 1: the people? People are debating where spaghetti comes from. People

1859
01:36:03,240 --> 01:36:07,320
Speaker 1: are debating it's literally spaghetti, spaghette, spaghette.

1860
01:36:07,760 --> 01:36:11,240
Speaker 3: Where's my spaghette? That's one of my favorite beames me too.

1861
01:36:11,720 --> 01:36:13,960
Speaker 3: I feel it's important to note that she is also white.

1862
01:36:14,160 --> 01:36:16,320
Speaker 3: She said that I should mix the sauce in, and

1863
01:36:16,400 --> 01:36:18,240
Speaker 3: I told her that isn't how I make it. She

1864
01:36:18,439 --> 01:36:20,320
Speaker 3: told me that she liked it better when it was

1865
01:36:20,400 --> 01:36:23,559
Speaker 3: pre mixed. And here's where I maybe went too far.

1866
01:36:23,960 --> 01:36:26,519
Speaker 3: I told her I don't care how she likes it,

1867
01:36:26,920 --> 01:36:29,720
Speaker 3: because I wasn't cooking it for her. I told her

1868
01:36:29,880 --> 01:36:32,720
Speaker 3: that when I cook, mine and my girlfriend's preferences are

1869
01:36:32,760 --> 01:36:35,320
Speaker 3: the only things I consider, because the food is being

1870
01:36:35,360 --> 01:36:37,760
Speaker 3: made for us and not her. If she doesn't like it,

1871
01:36:38,040 --> 01:36:40,920
Speaker 3: she has her own food to make and there is

1872
01:36:41,000 --> 01:36:47,879
Speaker 3: nothing stopping her from eat. Get wrecked, go off, get wrecked.

1873
01:36:48,400 --> 01:36:52,760
Speaker 3: Eat those words. Yeah, okay, it's a delicious meal. She

1874
01:36:52,880 --> 01:36:55,800
Speaker 3: got all huffy and stormed off, and later on my

1875
01:36:55,960 --> 01:36:59,080
Speaker 3: girlfriend Edith said, my tone came off a bit angry.

1876
01:37:00,120 --> 01:37:00,639
Speaker 3: Was it angry?

1877
01:37:00,960 --> 01:37:03,680
Speaker 2: I was just stating a fact, But maybe there is

1878
01:37:03,720 --> 01:37:05,360
Speaker 2: a way to put it out more gently.

1879
01:37:05,720 --> 01:37:08,280
Speaker 3: I don't know. I'm told that I can sometimes come

1880
01:37:08,320 --> 01:37:10,400
Speaker 3: off as an a hole without meaning to that I

1881
01:37:10,560 --> 01:37:13,200
Speaker 3: have one of those resting faces that makes me look

1882
01:37:13,240 --> 01:37:16,080
Speaker 3: angry all the time, even when I'm not so. Am

1883
01:37:16,320 --> 01:37:19,200
Speaker 3: I the a whole quick edit. Made a post onto

1884
01:37:19,240 --> 01:37:22,280
Speaker 3: my actual profile to clarify some stuff. Edit to Everything's resolved,

1885
01:37:22,439 --> 01:37:25,400
Speaker 3: we good, but there is an update which leads me

1886
01:37:25,439 --> 01:37:29,720
Speaker 3: to believe that everything is not good, that we not good.

1887
01:37:29,880 --> 01:37:32,920
Speaker 1: Also, Carol Castle says, too bad, make it yourself then

1888
01:37:33,120 --> 01:37:37,160
Speaker 1: I agree, make yourself truly.

1889
01:37:37,360 --> 01:37:41,160
Speaker 3: So let's let's before we dive into this next update. Uh,

1890
01:37:41,600 --> 01:37:45,560
Speaker 3: Stephan sam s Squared is op the A hole? What

1891
01:37:45,720 --> 01:37:45,960
Speaker 3: say you?

1892
01:37:46,400 --> 01:37:46,599
Speaker 1: Hell?

1893
01:37:47,640 --> 01:37:49,800
Speaker 7: Yeah, you know, if you don't like their spaghetti, don't

1894
01:37:49,840 --> 01:37:50,080
Speaker 7: eat it.

1895
01:37:51,240 --> 01:37:51,799
Speaker 2: End a story.

1896
01:37:52,080 --> 01:37:55,840
Speaker 1: I feel like this is a clear cut case. Also

1897
01:37:57,880 --> 01:38:01,960
Speaker 1: unrelated to the spaghetti situation. Yes, is a thirty one

1898
01:38:02,080 --> 01:38:05,040
Speaker 1: year old living with a twenty and twenty one year

1899
01:38:05,080 --> 01:38:06,320
Speaker 1: old weird.

1900
01:38:07,320 --> 01:38:07,720
Speaker 6: We know.

1901
01:38:09,439 --> 01:38:15,880
Speaker 3: One uh group of three people that create Yeah, well

1902
01:38:15,960 --> 01:38:18,080
Speaker 3: that feels different. It is kind of different.

1903
01:38:18,120 --> 01:38:21,400
Speaker 7: I think the age okay, we're I'm not going to

1904
01:38:21,439 --> 01:38:25,799
Speaker 7: disclose our ages never mind, but they know I was twenty.

1905
01:38:26,400 --> 01:38:28,559
Speaker 7: I remember I made a friend when I was studying

1906
01:38:28,560 --> 01:38:30,880
Speaker 7: abroad and they were thirty one, and I literally could

1907
01:38:30,960 --> 01:38:33,680
Speaker 7: not tell because like we just like we're talking like

1908
01:38:33,800 --> 01:38:36,560
Speaker 7: normal and like we were traveling together and it like

1909
01:38:36,720 --> 01:38:42,040
Speaker 7: didn't feel weird at all. So maybe contextual, Yeah, I

1910
01:38:42,120 --> 01:38:43,800
Speaker 7: had friends, Yeah, twenty five to thirty.

1911
01:38:43,920 --> 01:38:46,400
Speaker 4: That's like you were so and I are okay living

1912
01:38:46,439 --> 01:38:50,320
Speaker 4: with you guys, it's okay. Yet we do a pretty good.

1913
01:38:53,439 --> 01:38:57,479
Speaker 1: All right, I have age's old, but you know, obviously

1914
01:38:57,560 --> 01:39:01,200
Speaker 1: there's a generational difference. That's caving us spaghetti rift and

1915
01:39:01,439 --> 01:39:02,920
Speaker 1: so maybe it's not working out.

1916
01:39:03,439 --> 01:39:06,200
Speaker 4: Dude, did you know that people put sugar in their spaghetti?

1917
01:39:07,080 --> 01:39:07,320
Speaker 3: They do?

1918
01:39:07,640 --> 01:39:07,880
Speaker 2: Elf?

1919
01:39:08,200 --> 01:39:11,960
Speaker 1: Yeah, dude, Elf, well like other people, like real people,

1920
01:39:12,240 --> 01:39:12,759
Speaker 1: real people.

1921
01:39:12,960 --> 01:39:13,240
Speaker 3: Wow.

1922
01:39:15,080 --> 01:39:20,439
Speaker 4: Yeah, he would be real to me if Will Ferrell

1923
01:39:20,479 --> 01:39:23,720
Speaker 4: decided to do ELF two. But he said he looked

1924
01:39:23,800 --> 01:39:25,439
Speaker 4: ridiculous of the movie, so he wasn't going to. So

1925
01:39:25,520 --> 01:39:26,160
Speaker 4: that breaks my heart.

1926
01:39:26,200 --> 01:39:27,400
Speaker 1: He looked ridiculously funny.

1927
01:39:27,439 --> 01:39:30,799
Speaker 2: That's ridiculous exactly called comedy.

1928
01:39:31,280 --> 01:39:33,720
Speaker 3: You know what's you know, what's realer than that? What?

1929
01:39:35,040 --> 01:39:38,479
Speaker 3: Let's go? So hey, I posted on am I the

1930
01:39:38,560 --> 01:39:40,479
Speaker 3: a hole and then ft off for a bit and

1931
01:39:40,600 --> 01:39:44,040
Speaker 3: the post sort of blew up. Huh, So I wanted

1932
01:39:44,080 --> 01:39:46,559
Speaker 3: to pop in and show you just kidding and clear

1933
01:39:46,640 --> 01:39:48,679
Speaker 3: up a few things. The sub breddit has a character limit.

1934
01:39:49,160 --> 01:39:51,560
Speaker 3: Uh that had that had me really pressed trying to

1935
01:39:51,600 --> 01:39:53,320
Speaker 3: fit in what I thought was the most relevant info.

1936
01:39:53,360 --> 01:39:56,080
Speaker 3: So I'm sorry. Uh, then everything was super clear, That's

1937
01:39:56,160 --> 01:39:59,439
Speaker 3: my bad. One common misconception was that I was only

1938
01:39:59,600 --> 01:40:03,439
Speaker 3: using house food for said spaghetti. So let me clarify something.

1939
01:40:03,479 --> 01:40:07,240
Speaker 3: We're about to get some some new evidence there is

1940
01:40:07,280 --> 01:40:11,080
Speaker 3: a pathetic nerve war going on where Sam and Riley

1941
01:40:11,080 --> 01:40:12,960
Speaker 3: are trying to shoot each other and it is literally

1942
01:40:13,040 --> 01:40:14,679
Speaker 3: completely hitting all of the things in between.

1943
01:40:14,680 --> 01:40:16,200
Speaker 4: You hit the mirror just right, it will hit me.

1944
01:40:16,280 --> 01:40:16,960
Speaker 4: I did it before.

1945
01:40:17,520 --> 01:40:22,680
Speaker 3: Yeah, this is your one shot, one opportunity, and you

1946
01:40:22,800 --> 01:40:26,800
Speaker 3: missed it. Miss this opportunity of a lifetime I got.

1947
01:40:26,920 --> 01:40:29,799
Speaker 3: I got Sophia on that yesterday and she was clueless

1948
01:40:29,800 --> 01:40:30,719
Speaker 3: and it was beautiful.

1949
01:40:30,760 --> 01:40:32,519
Speaker 1: She doesn't listen to any eminem I know. I don't

1950
01:40:32,520 --> 01:40:34,760
Speaker 1: think she listened. She she does not listen to any

1951
01:40:35,040 --> 01:40:35,400
Speaker 1: hip hop.

1952
01:40:35,520 --> 01:40:39,160
Speaker 3: She thought that Metro Boomin producer Tag was shouting out

1953
01:40:39,200 --> 01:40:42,200
Speaker 3: the Metro station of my favorite thing.

1954
01:40:42,120 --> 01:40:45,160
Speaker 1: Ever and her the closest thing that she listens to

1955
01:40:45,360 --> 01:40:47,000
Speaker 1: that is hip hop is Hamilton.

1956
01:40:47,760 --> 01:40:49,880
Speaker 3: I knew it. I knew it. So but back to

1957
01:40:49,960 --> 01:40:53,719
Speaker 3: these noodles. The noodles were house food, but the sauce

1958
01:40:53,880 --> 01:40:56,400
Speaker 3: was a specific, albeit generic brand that I prefer to buy,

1959
01:40:56,720 --> 01:40:59,880
Speaker 3: so it was my food. Our house food mainly consists

1960
01:40:59,880 --> 01:41:03,439
Speaker 3: of staples like bread, pasta, eggs, milk, et cetera, things

1961
01:41:03,760 --> 01:41:07,360
Speaker 3: which are easily customizable to suit each person's tastes. The

1962
01:41:07,439 --> 01:41:11,240
Speaker 3: pork chops I mentioned were also my food. Another thing

1963
01:41:11,400 --> 01:41:13,160
Speaker 3: was that people seem to be assuming that I was

1964
01:41:13,200 --> 01:41:16,439
Speaker 3: cooking her portion of the pasta, considering that she would

1965
01:41:16,479 --> 01:41:19,439
Speaker 3: technically have paid one third of it. I could see

1966
01:41:19,439 --> 01:41:21,960
Speaker 3: where this was sort of coming from. But this was

1967
01:41:22,040 --> 01:41:23,760
Speaker 3: where we brought back up when she first moved in.

1968
01:41:24,040 --> 01:41:27,040
Speaker 3: We agreed that figuring out that. We agreed that figuring

1969
01:41:27,080 --> 01:41:28,800
Speaker 3: out thirds like that when it comes to this just

1970
01:41:28,880 --> 01:41:31,880
Speaker 3: complicates things further. We operate under a if you cook it,

1971
01:41:32,000 --> 01:41:33,040
Speaker 3: it's yours mentality.

1972
01:41:33,320 --> 01:41:36,200
Speaker 1: I just want to take a moment to appreciate that

1973
01:41:36,600 --> 01:41:40,040
Speaker 1: the last story was literally life and death. Yes, and

1974
01:41:40,240 --> 01:41:47,800
Speaker 1: this whole story is about spaghetti. One would say it

1975
01:41:47,920 --> 01:41:50,120
Speaker 1: is the sauce of life. It is the sauce of

1976
01:41:50,240 --> 01:41:52,760
Speaker 1: leg you know, the most quintessential dish.

1977
01:41:53,040 --> 01:41:54,840
Speaker 4: I have a different sauce of life in my head.

1978
01:41:55,160 --> 01:42:01,240
Speaker 3: You know what screw you get out? Okay, so the

1979
01:42:01,360 --> 01:42:01,960
Speaker 3: pasta I.

1980
01:42:02,080 --> 01:42:04,840
Speaker 2: Made picture be confused?

1981
01:42:07,240 --> 01:42:08,240
Speaker 3: Confused? Steph meme?

1982
01:42:09,520 --> 01:42:10,559
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, memes, Steph.

1983
01:42:10,960 --> 01:42:11,519
Speaker 3: Yeah, there you go.

1984
01:42:11,920 --> 01:42:13,559
Speaker 4: Nice, nice memes.

1985
01:42:13,960 --> 01:42:17,280
Speaker 1: And I'm particularly talking to you, Sydney without kids. We

1986
01:42:17,360 --> 01:42:19,960
Speaker 1: aren't direct we were directly talking to you. Be nice

1987
01:42:20,000 --> 01:42:20,639
Speaker 1: in your memes.

1988
01:42:20,840 --> 01:42:23,400
Speaker 2: Kidney without kidneys. I love kidneys.

1989
01:42:24,200 --> 01:42:25,040
Speaker 3: She loves kidneys.

1990
01:42:26,640 --> 01:42:29,599
Speaker 2: Come on, yeah, both of them, Yes barely. I didn't

1991
01:42:29,640 --> 01:42:30,240
Speaker 2: have surgery.

1992
01:42:31,040 --> 01:42:32,519
Speaker 4: Do you sell them on the black market?

1993
01:42:33,160 --> 01:42:33,880
Speaker 2: Don't worry about it.

1994
01:42:35,479 --> 01:42:40,360
Speaker 3: How do you think she paid that? So the pasta,

1995
01:42:41,200 --> 01:42:44,000
Speaker 3: the pasta that I made was not half hers and

1996
01:42:44,120 --> 01:42:48,960
Speaker 3: half mine. It was just fine. Let the courts know. Okay,

1997
01:42:50,160 --> 01:42:52,439
Speaker 3: this system has worked for us for over a year.

1998
01:42:52,920 --> 01:42:55,519
Speaker 3: It is. It has thus been dubbed the spaghetti system,

1999
01:42:55,760 --> 01:42:58,360
Speaker 3: and it has ruled our nation for thousands of years.

2000
01:42:59,560 --> 01:43:00,720
Speaker 2: Was like spaghetti gate.

2001
01:43:00,920 --> 01:43:03,599
Speaker 3: Yes, this is spaghetti gate, and I sort of doubt

2002
01:43:03,640 --> 01:43:05,639
Speaker 3: that this is the root of our problem. The Senate

2003
01:43:05,720 --> 01:43:09,439
Speaker 3: has not voted against the spaghetti system in a millennia. Okay. Also,

2004
01:43:09,600 --> 01:43:13,160
Speaker 3: with the first spaghetti meal mentioned, I made enough four

2005
01:43:13,280 --> 01:43:16,000
Speaker 3: two people, not one, but two, me and my girlfriend,

2006
01:43:16,040 --> 01:43:18,400
Speaker 3: and that is it. I did not make these. I

2007
01:43:18,520 --> 01:43:21,760
Speaker 3: did not make three portions. Now the second time, after

2008
01:43:21,840 --> 01:43:24,360
Speaker 3: I figured out that she wanted some, I did indeed

2009
01:43:24,600 --> 01:43:28,160
Speaker 3: make three count of three portions, since she would be

2010
01:43:28,200 --> 01:43:30,720
Speaker 3: eating with us. I don't know why people assumed I

2011
01:43:30,800 --> 01:43:33,160
Speaker 3: was making more than I needed. But then again, it's

2012
01:43:33,200 --> 01:43:35,400
Speaker 3: the Internet, and I bet some people really just like

2013
01:43:35,520 --> 01:43:39,120
Speaker 3: are really just like that. Oh, people caring this much

2014
01:43:39,160 --> 01:43:40,200
Speaker 3: about spaghetti gate.

2015
01:43:40,320 --> 01:43:41,679
Speaker 2: Yeah, how is this so long?

2016
01:43:42,240 --> 01:43:45,639
Speaker 1: This is probably I feel the same way as Steph.

2017
01:43:46,439 --> 01:43:48,400
Speaker 1: I'm like, are we really talking about sphetti?

2018
01:43:48,680 --> 01:43:51,519
Speaker 2: How is it still going? Yes, just eat your own

2019
01:43:51,600 --> 01:43:52,320
Speaker 2: dank spaghetti.

2020
01:43:52,640 --> 01:43:53,520
Speaker 4: Don't make spaghetti.

2021
01:43:53,800 --> 01:43:56,240
Speaker 1: Yeah, I honestly banned spaghetti in this album.

2022
01:43:56,320 --> 01:43:58,240
Speaker 2: Had some seasoning so your roommate doesn't get messed.

2023
01:43:58,280 --> 01:44:02,120
Speaker 3: The spaghetti Senate would literally crumbled, crumble, the entire foundation

2024
01:44:02,320 --> 01:44:08,120
Speaker 3: fabric of spaghetti society would would uh noodle would noodle away.

2025
01:44:08,800 --> 01:44:12,160
Speaker 3: All that said, the answer I saw most often was

2026
01:44:12,200 --> 01:44:15,920
Speaker 3: that discussion about the food budget. The Senate needs to

2027
01:44:16,040 --> 01:44:19,160
Speaker 3: vote on the food budget. Look, it needed to be had,

2028
01:44:19,320 --> 01:44:22,160
Speaker 3: and these things needed to be properly split between the

2029
01:44:22,240 --> 01:44:26,320
Speaker 3: three of us. Some would say two thirds majority needed

2030
01:44:26,360 --> 01:44:30,840
Speaker 3: to suffice the vote and properly spit between the three

2031
01:44:30,880 --> 01:44:32,920
Speaker 3: of us. And while I am on the fence, I

2032
01:44:33,040 --> 01:44:35,400
Speaker 3: do think it's worth bringing up with Edith and Elena.

2033
01:44:35,640 --> 01:44:38,040
Speaker 3: So that's probably what I'm gonna do. I'm gonna give

2034
01:44:38,120 --> 01:44:41,760
Speaker 3: Elena a bit more time to calm down, since she

2035
01:44:41,880 --> 01:44:46,280
Speaker 3: still seemed cold after she left work earlier. This is

2036
01:44:46,320 --> 01:44:48,280
Speaker 3: the most important issue of our times.

2037
01:44:48,760 --> 01:44:53,400
Speaker 1: Okay, I don't know why, uh Klalajaras and Trump aren't

2038
01:44:53,400 --> 01:44:55,960
Speaker 1: talking about this right now. You know, spaghetti gate is

2039
01:44:56,439 --> 01:44:58,320
Speaker 1: the thing that should be debated in America.

2040
01:44:58,400 --> 01:45:01,360
Speaker 3: I think this is going this, this story about spaghetti

2041
01:45:01,520 --> 01:45:05,919
Speaker 3: will determine whether our society continues or immediately defines a generation.

2042
01:45:06,600 --> 01:45:08,800
Speaker 3: It defines the human race as we know.

2043
01:45:09,200 --> 01:45:11,040
Speaker 2: I think they should divorce their grocery.

2044
01:45:11,400 --> 01:45:18,760
Speaker 1: I think I think so divorce, divorce worse, dude, you

2045
01:45:18,880 --> 01:45:21,600
Speaker 1: started a divorce chand unknowingly is.

2046
01:45:21,600 --> 01:45:22,000
Speaker 2: That a thing?

2047
01:45:22,200 --> 01:45:26,160
Speaker 1: That's a thing? Guys, Steph just came in, crushed it,

2048
01:45:26,520 --> 01:45:31,559
Speaker 1: just crushed it immediately, the doom firing myself myself.

2049
01:45:32,000 --> 01:45:32,400
Speaker 3: Here I go.

2050
01:45:32,720 --> 01:45:35,120
Speaker 2: Then you just stop noodling around. You know what, Adam,

2051
01:45:35,640 --> 01:45:38,360
Speaker 2: You're right, You're right, But guys.

2052
01:45:40,800 --> 01:45:46,800
Speaker 3: Up, because I don't want the hottest saucage stuff know

2053
01:45:47,320 --> 01:45:49,360
Speaker 3: that you've ever seen in your entire life, and we

2054
01:45:49,439 --> 01:45:52,880
Speaker 3: are going to through it. We're gonna barrel things. So

2055
01:45:53,400 --> 01:45:55,479
Speaker 3: all right, I figured I should give you guys one

2056
01:45:55,560 --> 01:46:00,880
Speaker 3: last update before I vanished myself. Lena Edith All sat

2057
01:46:01,000 --> 01:46:04,280
Speaker 3: down at the spaghetti Court last night after Lena got

2058
01:46:04,320 --> 01:46:07,680
Speaker 3: off work. Okay, I brought up what happened the other

2059
01:46:07,800 --> 01:46:11,800
Speaker 3: night with the spaghetti and I explained how I saw things. Look.

2060
01:46:11,920 --> 01:46:14,479
Speaker 3: To sum it up what I said, I told her

2061
01:46:14,720 --> 01:46:17,400
Speaker 3: that while I appreciated her sometimes in the kitchen, uh,

2062
01:46:17,520 --> 01:46:19,719
Speaker 3: since she has more experience than me, I didn't understand

2063
01:46:19,760 --> 01:46:21,920
Speaker 3: her insistent insisting on something.

2064
01:46:27,560 --> 01:46:32,479
Speaker 5: Yeah, we're gonna focus on the spaghetti, insisting on something

2065
01:46:32,520 --> 01:46:35,320
Speaker 5: as small as stirring the sauce it and whatnot?

2066
01:46:35,760 --> 01:46:39,320
Speaker 3: Stirring the sauce of this relationship? Am I right when

2067
01:46:39,400 --> 01:46:41,680
Speaker 3: she could simply stir the sauce in herself on her

2068
01:46:41,720 --> 01:46:44,200
Speaker 3: own plate. I was mindful of my tone and my

2069
01:46:44,320 --> 01:46:47,559
Speaker 3: wording the time around, and I think that helped. After

2070
01:46:47,720 --> 01:46:50,439
Speaker 3: I had said my piece to the spaghetti council, uh,

2071
01:46:50,680 --> 01:46:55,520
Speaker 3: Elena led out a long sigh and apologized.

2072
01:46:54,840 --> 01:46:58,040
Speaker 1: Finally, I don't care.

2073
01:46:58,160 --> 01:46:58,840
Speaker 3: I don't care.

2074
01:47:00,160 --> 01:47:01,800
Speaker 2: Should I send her to a second y? Y?

2075
01:47:02,479 --> 01:47:02,679
Speaker 5: Yes?

2076
01:47:02,880 --> 01:47:06,679
Speaker 1: If you are obsessing this much about spaghetti, you need help.

2077
01:47:07,560 --> 01:47:11,680
Speaker 1: You need help unity before and on.

2078
01:47:12,240 --> 01:47:18,599
Speaker 3: Our noodle since uninety us once before all. Oh my god.

2079
01:47:19,280 --> 01:47:22,120
Speaker 3: She explained that she had come home for a long

2080
01:47:22,280 --> 01:47:25,439
Speaker 3: day of work before she joined the Spaghetti Citadel, and

2081
01:47:25,560 --> 01:47:28,120
Speaker 3: when she came home she was pretty moody and ended

2082
01:47:28,240 --> 01:47:32,800
Speaker 3: up taking that out on me. Projection projecting through the spaghetti.

2083
01:47:33,680 --> 01:47:36,840
Speaker 3: She said that growing up, her family had always mixed

2084
01:47:36,840 --> 01:47:42,479
Speaker 3: in the sauce trauma.

2085
01:47:43,160 --> 01:47:45,640
Speaker 1: This goes back to her childhood, okay, and she.

2086
01:47:45,760 --> 01:47:49,800
Speaker 3: Had never actually eaten it any other way, So when

2087
01:47:49,880 --> 01:47:52,000
Speaker 3: she saw something she perceived as new in her brain,

2088
01:47:52,400 --> 01:47:53,560
Speaker 3: she kind of flipped out about it.

2089
01:47:53,720 --> 01:47:56,880
Speaker 1: Dude, she does need therapy, and she's flipping out about

2090
01:47:56,960 --> 01:48:00,880
Speaker 1: spaghetti sauce. She has some unresolved thoughts trophy family trauma. Okay,

2091
01:48:00,920 --> 01:48:05,280
Speaker 1: deep spaghetti therapy, dude, it's the purest form.

2092
01:48:05,680 --> 01:48:07,960
Speaker 3: I told her, I understood, and I apologized for maybe

2093
01:48:08,000 --> 01:48:10,160
Speaker 3: coming off more annoyed than I actually felt. I also

2094
01:48:10,360 --> 01:48:17,240
Speaker 3: took this opportunity to explain to Elena why I got

2095
01:48:17,880 --> 01:48:19,080
Speaker 3: freaking kidding me.

2096
01:48:19,800 --> 01:48:20,639
Speaker 2: It's so important.

2097
01:48:21,760 --> 01:48:24,120
Speaker 1: Listen, story, listen, listen.

2098
01:48:24,439 --> 01:48:30,400
Speaker 3: My older my older sibling has autism and is incredibly okay.

2099
01:48:30,960 --> 01:48:33,920
Speaker 3: And look, when we were kids, they would refuse anything

2100
01:48:34,000 --> 01:48:37,639
Speaker 3: that wasn't plain buttered noodles. So the separation of noodles

2101
01:48:37,720 --> 01:48:41,080
Speaker 3: and sauce was our family's a way of accommodating. Dare

2102
01:48:41,120 --> 01:48:44,040
Speaker 3: I say, uniting everyone? And I guess that sort of

2103
01:48:44,040 --> 01:48:46,400
Speaker 3: stuck with me since it's how I grew up. She

2104
01:48:46,600 --> 01:48:49,080
Speaker 3: said that it made sense, and I told her it

2105
01:48:49,160 --> 01:48:51,880
Speaker 3: really mattered that I could stir for her portion of

2106
01:48:52,120 --> 01:48:55,800
Speaker 3: plausa when she's having a rough day. She smiled and

2107
01:48:55,920 --> 01:48:59,479
Speaker 3: said it's not necessary, but I heard this tone in

2108
01:48:59,520 --> 01:49:02,280
Speaker 3: her voice again, so I think I'm gonna do it anyways,

2109
01:49:02,600 --> 01:49:03,320
Speaker 3: and see how.

2110
01:49:03,240 --> 01:49:06,360
Speaker 1: She responds, lou Key, Now I'm now I'm team spaghetti.

2111
01:49:06,439 --> 01:49:07,360
Speaker 1: Now I'm like the story.

2112
01:49:07,960 --> 01:49:08,200
Speaker 3: Guys.

2113
01:49:08,720 --> 01:49:09,799
Speaker 1: It wasn't about spaghetti.

2114
01:49:09,840 --> 01:49:11,559
Speaker 3: It was about the whole time.

2115
01:49:11,680 --> 01:49:16,760
Speaker 7: Now, the family trauma, family traumaua, remembering the bowl of

2116
01:49:16,800 --> 01:49:18,200
Speaker 7: spaghetti you had when you were three.

2117
01:49:18,479 --> 01:49:19,519
Speaker 3: I see things like that.

2118
01:49:19,720 --> 01:49:23,280
Speaker 1: That scene in Rattiituey where he eats eats the Ratti

2119
01:49:23,360 --> 01:49:26,559
Speaker 1: tuey and he goes exactly and then he's back as

2120
01:49:26,560 --> 01:49:28,200
Speaker 1: a kid falling on his bike.

2121
01:49:28,520 --> 01:49:32,679
Speaker 3: Now, since so many people seemed confused about the house

2122
01:49:32,760 --> 01:49:36,120
Speaker 3: food system the Senate of Spaghetti, I decided to bring

2123
01:49:36,200 --> 01:49:38,760
Speaker 3: this up and ask if it was in anyway real.

2124
01:49:41,080 --> 01:49:44,120
Speaker 3: She said no, that she didn't really mind the system

2125
01:49:44,200 --> 01:49:47,759
Speaker 3: we have. So the spaghetti citadel lives another day. Wow,

2126
01:49:49,920 --> 01:49:52,400
Speaker 3: she said, it probably would have happened no matter what

2127
01:49:52,560 --> 01:49:55,920
Speaker 3: I had made. The uprising of spaghetti was inevitable since

2128
01:49:56,040 --> 01:49:59,160
Speaker 3: in her mind right then, anything that wasn't made her

2129
01:49:59,240 --> 01:50:02,720
Speaker 3: way was wrong now. Edith also agreed that as of

2130
01:50:02,840 --> 01:50:05,479
Speaker 3: right now, our food, our house food system is working,

2131
01:50:05,840 --> 01:50:08,559
Speaker 3: and neither of them saw a reason to change. Therefore

2132
01:50:08,680 --> 01:50:12,000
Speaker 3: the unanimous vote not even two thirds the Spaghetti Senate

2133
01:50:12,120 --> 01:50:14,800
Speaker 3: has spoken. After that, we kind of just hung out

2134
01:50:14,840 --> 01:50:17,000
Speaker 3: in the living room for a while, talking about weirdly

2135
01:50:17,040 --> 01:50:19,960
Speaker 3: specific food preferences we have in the vein in the

2136
01:50:20,000 --> 01:50:24,320
Speaker 3: same venus spaghetti. It turns out we're all pretty picky

2137
01:50:24,360 --> 01:50:27,720
Speaker 3: about random food items and it only makes sense to us,

2138
01:50:27,960 --> 01:50:30,040
Speaker 3: like I will only eat hot dogs if they're not

2139
01:50:30,240 --> 01:50:36,080
Speaker 3: actually hot dogs but Polish sausages. And you're joking and

2140
01:50:36,240 --> 01:50:39,559
Speaker 3: it has to have mustard. Okay, I'm not sure if

2141
01:50:39,640 --> 01:50:42,719
Speaker 3: that's something else, and honestly don't care. Not not the point.

2142
01:50:42,960 --> 01:50:46,120
Speaker 3: The point is our strange is specific food food prefaces

2143
01:50:46,520 --> 01:50:50,400
Speaker 3: can be accommodated more often than not, except Edith putting

2144
01:50:50,439 --> 01:50:53,479
Speaker 3: ranch dressing on her spaghetti. I love her, but her

2145
01:50:53,560 --> 01:50:57,320
Speaker 3: crimes can never be forgiven. Oh, I'm a spaghetti sentate.

2146
01:50:58,400 --> 01:51:01,599
Speaker 7: And they all lived happily ever after in spaghetti Paradise.

2147
01:51:01,800 --> 01:51:05,960
Speaker 3: We just went through a Roman Empire level, you know,

2148
01:51:06,479 --> 01:51:09,080
Speaker 3: story and rise and fall and rise again.

2149
01:51:09,200 --> 01:51:10,599
Speaker 4: I kind of have some trauma from.

2150
01:51:10,840 --> 01:51:13,680
Speaker 7: You know, so is this a discussion you have to

2151
01:51:13,720 --> 01:51:16,360
Speaker 7: have with every roommate like, Hey, how do you like

2152
01:51:16,439 --> 01:51:17,040
Speaker 7: your study?

2153
01:51:17,320 --> 01:51:17,519
Speaker 3: Yeah?

2154
01:51:17,800 --> 01:51:20,559
Speaker 1: Yeah, and how does it relate to autism in your family?

2155
01:51:20,680 --> 01:51:25,639
Speaker 3: Exactly what child trauma is? Are we addressing through the sauce? Yeah,

2156
01:51:25,840 --> 01:51:27,479
Speaker 3: that's the question. Wow.

2157
01:51:27,600 --> 01:51:29,479
Speaker 1: It's kind of like reading tea leaves at the end

2158
01:51:29,560 --> 01:51:32,600
Speaker 1: of like drinking your your tea, Like like it's like,

2159
01:51:32,880 --> 01:51:35,240
Speaker 1: what what does your spaghetti say about you? That's a

2160
01:51:35,280 --> 01:51:39,760
Speaker 1: BuzzFeed quiz right there, or a shopman quiz.

2161
01:51:40,360 --> 01:51:43,120
Speaker 2: Therapy quiz therapy quiz. I mean, it looks like they

2162
01:51:43,280 --> 01:51:44,320
Speaker 2: have a lot to unpack.

2163
01:51:44,520 --> 01:51:47,519
Speaker 3: They have those those like black blob charts, right yeah.

2164
01:51:48,479 --> 01:51:51,040
Speaker 2: That's like yeah, like I've never like seen when.

2165
01:51:50,960 --> 01:51:52,120
Speaker 4: You know what?

2166
01:51:54,160 --> 01:51:56,800
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, because I feel like they use it a lot,

2167
01:51:57,479 --> 01:51:58,240
Speaker 1: see what you're.

2168
01:51:58,080 --> 01:52:00,800
Speaker 7: Speaking about, But I never know in a cute setting,

2169
01:52:00,840 --> 01:52:02,400
Speaker 7: which like I'm in the eer right now, Like we

2170
01:52:02,520 --> 01:52:03,920
Speaker 7: never do that because they just come in.

2171
01:52:05,000 --> 01:52:06,000
Speaker 2: This is an emergency.

2172
01:52:06,400 --> 01:52:08,160
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, you don't have time to say yeah.

2173
01:52:08,040 --> 01:52:10,760
Speaker 2: Yeah, we're really look like, yeah, do you want to

2174
01:52:10,800 --> 01:52:11,280
Speaker 2: kill someone?

2175
01:52:11,439 --> 01:52:13,600
Speaker 3: Heay, how do you prefer your spaghetti.

2176
01:52:14,880 --> 01:52:15,840
Speaker 4: Really dive into this.

2177
01:52:16,320 --> 01:52:20,320
Speaker 3: But guys, that's it. Look thank god the this we

2178
01:52:20,520 --> 01:52:25,320
Speaker 3: lost like thirty people. We went through the Great Spaghetti

2179
01:52:25,400 --> 01:52:29,160
Speaker 3: Wars of Edith and Elena, but the Spaghetti Citadel survived.

2180
01:52:29,240 --> 01:52:32,240
Speaker 2: The Senate voted, and we are here, back to prosperity.

2181
01:52:32,800 --> 01:52:35,200
Speaker 1: If you were to rate that story one out of three,

2182
01:52:35,479 --> 01:52:38,840
Speaker 1: one you hated it, two of your three you liked it.

2183
01:52:39,880 --> 01:52:41,680
Speaker 1: What did you think? Put your answers in the chat.

2184
01:52:42,320 --> 01:52:44,160
Speaker 1: I want to know what you thought of the spaghetti

2185
01:52:44,160 --> 01:52:44,599
Speaker 1: said at all.

2186
01:52:44,680 --> 01:52:45,040
Speaker 3: That's right.

2187
01:52:45,240 --> 01:52:49,519
Speaker 1: But we do have another story, possibly our last story

2188
01:52:49,600 --> 01:52:52,439
Speaker 1: of the stream. We got thirteen minutes left in the stream.

2189
01:52:52,600 --> 01:52:54,719
Speaker 1: Oh my, so we'll have to make it a little quick.

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01:52:55,439 --> 01:52:56,839
Speaker 4: Don't worry, we'll be back tomorrow.

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01:52:57,080 --> 01:53:04,360
Speaker 1: Don't exactly, do not do not wet sweaty spaghetti, Mom, Spaghetti, Mom, spaghetti.

2192
01:53:04,720 --> 01:53:05,960
Speaker 1: You look nervous, but don't be.

2193
01:53:07,720 --> 01:53:10,880
Speaker 3: All right? Are you ready get into this next story?

2194
01:53:12,240 --> 01:53:15,320
Speaker 1: My best friend and my husband suddenly stopped talking to

2195
01:53:15,439 --> 01:53:20,080
Speaker 1: each other. I think they cheated. Now we got steaks,

2196
01:53:20,439 --> 01:53:24,280
Speaker 1: table steaks right now, So this is all I answered

2197
01:53:24,280 --> 01:53:26,240
Speaker 1: the question isn't important for your friends to get along

2198
01:53:26,360 --> 01:53:28,160
Speaker 1: with your partner? By the way, we go live every

2199
01:53:28,240 --> 01:53:31,200
Speaker 1: day three PMPSD, so join us there. This first story

2200
01:53:31,280 --> 01:53:35,719
Speaker 1: comes from tea friend husband, and they say something weird

2201
01:53:36,160 --> 01:53:40,439
Speaker 1: is happening between my husband and my best friend Dana,

2202
01:53:41,120 --> 01:53:43,120
Speaker 1: and I don't know if my head is making up

2203
01:53:43,160 --> 01:53:47,680
Speaker 1: stories or their actions are really suspicious. I'm seeing a

2204
01:53:47,720 --> 01:53:49,320
Speaker 1: lot of ones on the spaghetti story.

2205
01:53:50,640 --> 01:53:51,280
Speaker 4: What was it again?

2206
01:53:51,320 --> 01:53:52,559
Speaker 3: One was best, one was.

2207
01:53:52,600 --> 01:53:57,240
Speaker 1: Worst, one was bad, two me. I see a lot

2208
01:53:57,280 --> 01:54:01,000
Speaker 1: of ones and twos. Sophia is running out of stories

2209
01:54:01,080 --> 01:54:03,080
Speaker 1: with the amount of stories that we are reading. By

2210
01:54:03,080 --> 01:54:06,639
Speaker 1: the way, So something weird is happening between my husband

2211
01:54:06,680 --> 01:54:08,400
Speaker 1: and my best friend Dana, and I don't know if

2212
01:54:08,439 --> 01:54:10,320
Speaker 1: my head is just making up stories or their actions

2213
01:54:10,360 --> 01:54:13,240
Speaker 1: are really suspicious. My husband Phil and I have been

2214
01:54:13,280 --> 01:54:15,559
Speaker 1: married for four years and are both in our thirties.

2215
01:54:15,880 --> 01:54:18,320
Speaker 1: We are very happy together. He loves me a lot,

2216
01:54:18,439 --> 01:54:21,559
Speaker 1: but sometimes I have caught him lying to protect my feelings,

2217
01:54:21,720 --> 01:54:25,240
Speaker 1: which I do not really like. Dana is my best

2218
01:54:25,280 --> 01:54:27,640
Speaker 1: friend since college and we were roommates. Just to give

2219
01:54:27,720 --> 01:54:29,880
Speaker 1: some background about Dana, she was in a long term

2220
01:54:29,920 --> 01:54:32,200
Speaker 1: relationship with her boyfriend for three years, but they broke

2221
01:54:32,320 --> 01:54:37,080
Speaker 1: up last year. He was also very insecure about Dana

2222
01:54:37,400 --> 01:54:41,960
Speaker 1: and was very controlling about Dana and who she oops

2223
01:54:42,280 --> 01:54:45,240
Speaker 1: and about who she hangs out with. Dana's boyfriend was

2224
01:54:45,280 --> 01:54:48,520
Speaker 1: really jealous of Phil for some reason, and they would

2225
01:54:48,560 --> 01:54:53,440
Speaker 1: avoid hanging out with us. And again, Phil is Op's husband.

2226
01:54:57,080 --> 01:54:57,160
Speaker 4: So.

2227
01:55:01,880 --> 01:55:07,680
Speaker 1: Nope, he's hus Where was I Dana's boyfriend a fellows Phil. However,

2228
01:55:07,760 --> 01:55:11,840
Speaker 1: since the breakup, Danna's boyfriend was really jealous Phil for

2229
01:55:11,920 --> 01:55:15,000
Speaker 1: some reason and they would avoid hanging out with us. However,

2230
01:55:15,080 --> 01:55:17,600
Speaker 1: since the breakup, Dana and I have gotten closer and

2231
01:55:17,680 --> 01:55:20,280
Speaker 1: spend a lot of time shopping, going out to restaurants,

2232
01:55:20,320 --> 01:55:23,360
Speaker 1: et cetera. And Phil also loves to tag along with

2233
01:55:23,520 --> 01:55:26,880
Speaker 1: us occasionally but not always. Phil and my friend Dana

2234
01:55:27,280 --> 01:55:30,200
Speaker 1: also get along well, and my friend Dana has told

2235
01:55:30,280 --> 01:55:33,560
Speaker 1: me that if I find another Phil my husband, I

2236
01:55:33,720 --> 01:55:36,720
Speaker 1: need to set up a blind date between them asap.

2237
01:55:37,240 --> 01:55:37,480
Speaker 3: Well.

2238
01:55:37,920 --> 01:55:41,640
Speaker 1: One month ago, my husband Phil and my friend Dana

2239
01:55:41,800 --> 01:55:44,240
Speaker 1: and I plan to go to a concert in our town.

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01:55:44,920 --> 01:55:47,240
Speaker 1: Bill was really excited as it was one of his

2241
01:55:47,400 --> 01:55:50,360
Speaker 1: favorite bands. I started feeling unwell the morning of the

2242
01:55:50,440 --> 01:55:53,360
Speaker 1: concert and just wanted rest, while my husband Phil was

2243
01:55:53,400 --> 01:55:55,760
Speaker 1: disappointed but told me that we can offer our tickets

2244
01:55:55,800 --> 01:55:58,000
Speaker 1: to our friends and we can see the band another time.

2245
01:55:58,720 --> 01:56:00,360
Speaker 1: I didn't really want to spoil it for him, so

2246
01:56:00,480 --> 01:56:03,520
Speaker 1: I called a few of my friends and my friend Jess,

2247
01:56:03,840 --> 01:56:06,280
Speaker 1: mutual friend with Dana, was happy to go to the

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01:56:06,360 --> 01:56:10,960
Speaker 1: concert in my place. My husband Phil still wanted to cancel,

2249
01:56:11,080 --> 01:56:13,760
Speaker 1: but I insisted he went as I would have felt

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01:56:13,840 --> 01:56:17,400
Speaker 1: bad if he missed the concert. They all went well

2251
01:56:17,480 --> 01:56:21,080
Speaker 1: together and enjoyed the concert. My husband Phil kept sending

2252
01:56:21,120 --> 01:56:24,080
Speaker 1: me photos all throughout the light all throughout the night,

2253
01:56:24,360 --> 01:56:27,839
Speaker 1: and the concert ended at eleven PM, but I slept

2254
01:56:27,920 --> 01:56:29,280
Speaker 1: before that due to my medication.

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01:56:30,000 --> 01:56:30,200
Speaker 3: Well.

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01:56:30,960 --> 01:56:34,520
Speaker 1: When I woke up in the morning, I was alone

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01:56:35,080 --> 01:56:40,360
Speaker 1: in the bed. Phil did not come back. I quickly

2258
01:56:40,520 --> 01:56:44,880
Speaker 1: checked my messages and Phil's last message was as eleven PM,

2259
01:56:45,400 --> 01:56:47,840
Speaker 1: saying that they are leaving the concert and he should

2260
01:56:47,880 --> 01:56:53,440
Speaker 1: be home soon after dropping off Dana. So Dana was

2261
01:56:54,400 --> 01:56:58,480
Speaker 1: oh PE's friend. I went to the living room and

2262
01:56:58,720 --> 01:57:01,920
Speaker 1: Phil was sleeping on the sofa in the same clothes

2263
01:57:01,960 --> 01:57:04,040
Speaker 1: he warded the concert. Okay, so maybe he was just

2264
01:57:04,120 --> 01:57:06,600
Speaker 1: like didn't want to wake up Opeep, or maybe he

2265
01:57:06,720 --> 01:57:09,920
Speaker 1: was cheating. I waited for him to get up. I

2266
01:57:10,000 --> 01:57:12,120
Speaker 1: asked him about the night and when he returned home.

2267
01:57:12,440 --> 01:57:15,120
Speaker 1: He said they came back around two or three am.

2268
01:57:15,440 --> 01:57:17,560
Speaker 1: He said that there were multiple accidents outside of the

2269
01:57:17,640 --> 01:57:20,520
Speaker 1: concert venue and traffic was horrible. He said he dropped

2270
01:57:20,600 --> 01:57:23,200
Speaker 1: Dana at her place and came home directly. I asked

2271
01:57:23,280 --> 01:57:24,920
Speaker 1: him why he was sleeping on the sofa, and he

2272
01:57:25,040 --> 01:57:26,720
Speaker 1: told me he did not want to disturb me and

2273
01:57:26,880 --> 01:57:28,960
Speaker 1: also was too tired to change out of his clothes.

2274
01:57:30,040 --> 01:57:32,640
Speaker 1: Bil had some glitter on his clothes, but that was

2275
01:57:32,720 --> 01:57:35,160
Speaker 1: from dancing in the crowd at the concert, so he

2276
01:57:35,640 --> 01:57:39,800
Speaker 1: just crashed on the sofa and slept immediately. It seemed plausible,

2277
01:57:40,320 --> 01:57:44,240
Speaker 1: and Dana also confirmed the story, which to me, right

2278
01:57:44,320 --> 01:57:46,560
Speaker 1: now I'm seeing a bunch of ICUs in the chat.

2279
01:57:46,840 --> 01:57:50,320
Speaker 1: So if you see something, let us know. But right

2280
01:57:50,400 --> 01:57:53,880
Speaker 1: now everything checks out. Oh ICEE you means like you

2281
01:57:53,960 --> 01:57:54,839
Speaker 1: see what's coming.

2282
01:58:00,040 --> 01:58:02,040
Speaker 3: Different? I see.

2283
01:58:02,520 --> 01:58:05,960
Speaker 1: But honestly, this relationship could be the ice you honestly

2284
01:58:06,120 --> 01:58:09,000
Speaker 1: live support. But do you think do you think, uh,

2285
01:58:09,840 --> 01:58:12,520
Speaker 1: everything checks out? Because right now to me, on the surface,

2286
01:58:12,600 --> 01:58:14,520
Speaker 1: everything seems to check out. Like he said he was

2287
01:58:14,560 --> 01:58:16,240
Speaker 1: going to go to the concert, he texted it when

2288
01:58:16,280 --> 01:58:17,920
Speaker 1: he when when they leaved.

2289
01:58:18,680 --> 01:58:23,640
Speaker 3: I just saw the comment there we go, we have

2290
01:58:24,040 --> 01:58:28,440
Speaker 3: we have John with the with the flow chart. So basically,

2291
01:58:28,680 --> 01:58:31,480
Speaker 3: let me get this right, Opie. Opie is married to

2292
01:58:31,520 --> 01:58:33,920
Speaker 3: Phil the husband, and then there's a friend Dana, and

2293
01:58:34,080 --> 01:58:36,600
Speaker 3: Opie is like wondering, like, oh, is there.

2294
01:58:36,560 --> 01:58:38,800
Speaker 1: Only another friend Jess but less important than the story.

2295
01:58:38,960 --> 01:58:42,720
Speaker 3: Jess is literally so irrelevant. Yeah, and there op He's

2296
01:58:42,760 --> 01:58:46,200
Speaker 3: wondering if they are maybe having an affair because they

2297
01:58:46,320 --> 01:58:49,560
Speaker 3: both were like out late at the concert together. Yes,

2298
01:58:49,760 --> 01:58:51,760
Speaker 3: get some glitter on his clothes, but he.

2299
01:58:51,920 --> 01:58:54,280
Speaker 1: Was he was on the couch. Everything checks out, though,

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01:58:54,560 --> 01:58:57,680
Speaker 1: Like I mean, if I if I was in that

2301
01:58:57,840 --> 01:58:59,880
Speaker 1: relationship and I was Opie, I would be like, oh,

2302
01:59:00,040 --> 01:59:02,640
Speaker 1: like everything checks out? Or do you guys think differently?

2303
01:59:03,800 --> 01:59:05,400
Speaker 1: I think, so, yeah, what do you think stef.

2304
01:59:06,800 --> 01:59:07,040
Speaker 2: Ike?

2305
01:59:08,200 --> 01:59:08,440
Speaker 5: You are?

2306
01:59:08,560 --> 01:59:09,680
Speaker 1: You were in Yike's territory.

2307
01:59:09,840 --> 01:59:13,840
Speaker 2: I'm in like a little suspicious What are you suspicious of?

2308
01:59:15,680 --> 01:59:18,200
Speaker 7: I feel like there seems to be some miscommunication here,

2309
01:59:18,400 --> 01:59:20,200
Speaker 7: and the fact that he has been guarded in the

2310
01:59:20,240 --> 01:59:23,040
Speaker 7: past and like lies to protect her feelings makes me

2311
01:59:23,120 --> 01:59:29,080
Speaker 7: feel like, Okay, well maybe it's not the most like honest, but.

2312
01:59:29,200 --> 01:59:32,080
Speaker 1: Is there any red flags in what he said so far?

2313
01:59:32,320 --> 01:59:32,360
Speaker 3: No?

2314
01:59:34,000 --> 01:59:35,360
Speaker 2: No blatant red flag.

2315
01:59:35,440 --> 01:59:37,440
Speaker 1: I don't see any blatant red flags except for the

2316
01:59:37,520 --> 01:59:38,040
Speaker 1: fact that.

2317
01:59:39,560 --> 01:59:40,040
Speaker 3: He is.

2318
01:59:41,640 --> 01:59:44,880
Speaker 1: Has lied in the past. But what definitely is a

2319
01:59:44,960 --> 01:59:49,080
Speaker 1: green flag is Shira Yuki with the one hundred dollar

2320
01:59:49,520 --> 01:59:53,200
Speaker 1: tip and sixteen cents Sheira has given us even gang,

2321
01:59:53,720 --> 01:59:56,440
Speaker 1: we appreciate you. Share a Yuki shout out to you.

2322
01:59:56,600 --> 01:59:57,960
Speaker 1: I haven't. I feel like I haven't seen you in

2323
01:59:58,040 --> 02:00:01,200
Speaker 1: a stream in a sec now, at least in my streams.

2324
02:00:01,760 --> 02:00:06,640
Speaker 1: I know you've been around, But Shira, our beloved, our beloved,

2325
02:00:06,680 --> 02:00:12,000
Speaker 1: Shira Yuki. Yeah, lfg's in the chat for Shira Yuki,

2326
02:00:13,640 --> 02:00:16,840
Speaker 1: so we're gonna keep going. However, the weird behavior started

2327
02:00:16,920 --> 02:00:20,080
Speaker 1: after this night. Firstly, Phil stopped tagging along with me

2328
02:00:20,400 --> 02:00:22,840
Speaker 1: when I was hanging out with Dana. He would come

2329
02:00:22,960 --> 02:00:25,720
Speaker 1: up with the most unbelievable reasons to avoid going out

2330
02:00:25,760 --> 02:00:28,360
Speaker 1: with me when Dana was there. Phil has also been

2331
02:00:28,400 --> 02:00:30,680
Speaker 1: a bit aloof with me since that night, and I've

2332
02:00:30,720 --> 02:00:32,800
Speaker 1: noticed him spending a lot more time in his home

2333
02:00:32,880 --> 02:00:35,920
Speaker 1: office playing video games at night instead of coming to bed.

2334
02:00:36,640 --> 02:00:39,240
Speaker 1: Two weeks ago, I invited Dana to our house for

2335
02:00:39,400 --> 02:00:41,840
Speaker 1: drinks after we went out shopping, and she also started

2336
02:00:41,840 --> 02:00:44,800
Speaker 1: giving reasons to avoid coming to our place. Dana has

2337
02:00:44,920 --> 02:00:49,160
Speaker 1: not visited our place since that day. The only time

2338
02:00:49,240 --> 02:00:51,680
Speaker 1: Phil and Dana saw each other was during a house

2339
02:00:51,760 --> 02:00:54,440
Speaker 1: party at my friend's place last weekend. I was observing

2340
02:00:54,520 --> 02:00:58,080
Speaker 1: their behavior and they both were avoiding each other. I

2341
02:00:58,160 --> 02:01:00,560
Speaker 1: asked Phil about why he's avoiding Dana, and he said

2342
02:01:00,600 --> 02:01:03,880
Speaker 1: that as just in my imagination. Dana also said the same,

2343
02:01:04,240 --> 02:01:07,120
Speaker 1: but then starts giving me bs reasons for not coming

2344
02:01:07,160 --> 02:01:11,560
Speaker 1: over to our apartment. I feel in my gut the

2345
02:01:11,640 --> 02:01:15,160
Speaker 1: behavior is suspicious, but I'm not sure if it's my insecurity.

2346
02:01:15,440 --> 02:01:18,240
Speaker 1: How do I know what's going on? I have gone

2347
02:01:18,280 --> 02:01:20,960
Speaker 1: through Phil's phone multiple times. The only messages between him

2348
02:01:20,960 --> 02:01:23,520
Speaker 1: and Dana are very sparse, and there are no messages

2349
02:01:23,640 --> 02:01:26,640
Speaker 1: since that night. I feel something happened between them that

2350
02:01:26,800 --> 02:01:30,320
Speaker 1: night and both are just avoiding answering even basic questions

2351
02:01:30,560 --> 02:01:33,840
Speaker 1: about why they are avoiding each other. Am I the

2352
02:01:33,880 --> 02:01:36,600
Speaker 1: a hole for assuming the worst? I really do not

2353
02:01:36,720 --> 02:01:39,440
Speaker 1: want to come off as insecure, but it is killing

2354
02:01:39,520 --> 02:01:43,240
Speaker 1: me from the inside. And we have a thick juicy update.

2355
02:01:44,040 --> 02:01:48,200
Speaker 1: Thick juicy update coming in. But what are conspiracy theories?

2356
02:01:50,400 --> 02:01:53,640
Speaker 7: They made out at the concert? Whoa with Glitter?

2357
02:01:54,920 --> 02:01:56,440
Speaker 3: Pretty good? Theory. Pretty good theory.

2358
02:01:56,520 --> 02:01:59,480
Speaker 2: Now they're not talking, Joe, what do you think?

2359
02:02:00,400 --> 02:02:03,440
Speaker 3: I think that's pretty accurate. Oh, but to throw something else?

2360
02:02:04,120 --> 02:02:10,080
Speaker 1: Oh, getting us another thirty minutes, Shira Yuki, we appreciate

2361
02:02:10,240 --> 02:02:13,880
Speaker 1: you twenty gifted memberships, putting us over the edge, giving

2362
02:02:13,960 --> 02:02:18,520
Speaker 1: us seventeen seventy six. Shout out to our founding fathers

2363
02:02:18,600 --> 02:02:22,800
Speaker 1: and shout out to Shira Yuki and Melis six eight fifteen.

2364
02:02:22,920 --> 02:02:26,840
Speaker 1: Thank you guys for all you do. Thanks for the

2365
02:02:26,920 --> 02:02:32,680
Speaker 1: ten bucks. What is yeahs an idiot?

2366
02:02:33,160 --> 02:02:34,560
Speaker 3: You made plans? Stupid?

2367
02:02:35,080 --> 02:02:36,960
Speaker 1: I can't believe you made plans. Come on, John, what

2368
02:02:37,120 --> 02:02:37,480
Speaker 1: do you know?

2369
02:02:37,720 --> 02:02:37,760
Speaker 4: This?

2370
02:02:38,120 --> 02:02:39,160
Speaker 3: No better? I made plans?

2371
02:02:39,440 --> 02:02:39,960
Speaker 4: What did you do?

2372
02:02:40,120 --> 02:02:40,760
Speaker 2: What did you plan?

2373
02:02:41,040 --> 02:02:44,000
Speaker 1: I literally today is the only day I don't have plans.

2374
02:02:44,240 --> 02:02:45,440
Speaker 3: I made plans because I'm stupid.

2375
02:02:45,600 --> 02:02:47,920
Speaker 1: You're a silly goose, super silly. We all know not

2376
02:02:48,040 --> 02:02:50,360
Speaker 1: to make plans on Tuesday, because they monopolize our time.

2377
02:02:50,600 --> 02:02:51,680
Speaker 2: Is Tuesday, the day.

2378
02:02:52,080 --> 02:02:54,400
Speaker 3: Tuesday is the day, the day, the day, the day

2379
02:02:54,600 --> 02:02:58,920
Speaker 3: they rally their legions on our stream.

2380
02:02:59,000 --> 02:03:00,920
Speaker 2: They bring the y Yes.

2381
02:03:01,280 --> 02:03:04,720
Speaker 1: Also, to be clear, you do not have to stay

2382
02:03:05,120 --> 02:03:06,960
Speaker 1: if you don't want to. If you have to go,

2383
02:03:07,520 --> 02:03:11,400
Speaker 1: I'm fine, now okay, cool, Yeah, at any at any

2384
02:03:11,480 --> 02:03:12,360
Speaker 1: point when I.

2385
02:03:12,440 --> 02:03:14,640
Speaker 2: Just had to take on to his flight to Africa.

2386
02:03:15,360 --> 02:03:18,320
Speaker 2: Oh right, eight pm, but what time is it.

2387
02:03:19,560 --> 02:03:24,600
Speaker 3: Don't tell him that I'm just kidding. Actually probably in.

2388
02:03:24,640 --> 02:03:25,720
Speaker 1: A bit gradu.

2389
02:03:28,040 --> 02:03:30,200
Speaker 2: No, I mean, I think we can finish the story.

2390
02:03:31,240 --> 02:03:34,640
Speaker 3: Cool sounds good, but yeah, to put it in another theory,

2391
02:03:34,760 --> 02:03:38,160
Speaker 3: I think that they both went to a strip club together,

2392
02:03:39,280 --> 02:03:42,800
Speaker 3: accidentally got the stripper to grind so hard that the

2393
02:03:42,880 --> 02:03:45,560
Speaker 3: stripper had a heart attack, had to bury the body,

2394
02:03:46,000 --> 02:03:48,400
Speaker 3: and now they are both accomplices and murder and that's

2395
02:03:48,440 --> 02:03:48,920
Speaker 3: why they're.

2396
02:03:48,800 --> 02:03:52,240
Speaker 1: Being And they kissed because it was just so hectic in.

2397
02:03:52,280 --> 02:03:54,040
Speaker 3: The in the moments of passion, they're like, wow, you

2398
02:03:54,280 --> 02:03:56,720
Speaker 3: you had me do so much together. They had a kiss,

2399
02:03:56,840 --> 02:03:59,880
Speaker 3: and now now we're here it's untold.

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02:04:00,320 --> 02:04:04,800
Speaker 1: I think my most realistic conspiracy theory, right next to John's,

2401
02:04:05,240 --> 02:04:09,960
Speaker 1: is that that I think that she made a move

2402
02:04:10,040 --> 02:04:14,120
Speaker 1: on him and now he feels weird about the relationship

2403
02:04:14,200 --> 02:04:15,720
Speaker 1: as a whole or vice versa.

2404
02:04:15,880 --> 02:04:18,000
Speaker 3: But then why wouldn't he say something. Wouldn't he be like, hey,

2405
02:04:18,520 --> 02:04:19,600
Speaker 3: your friend made a move on me.

2406
02:04:19,960 --> 02:04:21,800
Speaker 2: No, because he doesn't want to hurt her feelings.

2407
02:04:21,880 --> 02:04:27,520
Speaker 3: Yes, Oh, he loves and he lies to protect her feelings. Oh,

2408
02:04:27,600 --> 02:04:29,360
Speaker 3: I don't want to take away your best friend from you.

2409
02:04:29,600 --> 02:04:30,400
Speaker 3: I don't want to be the one that.

2410
02:04:30,720 --> 02:04:33,400
Speaker 2: Yeah, look, I let Sam take my boyfriend all the time.

2411
02:04:33,720 --> 02:04:34,120
Speaker 3: It's true.

2412
02:04:34,240 --> 02:04:35,160
Speaker 2: You learn to deal with it.

2413
02:04:36,400 --> 02:04:39,360
Speaker 3: I give him little kisses on the cheek. Thirty man stealer.

2414
02:04:41,360 --> 02:04:44,880
Speaker 1: Well update, I was briefly able to get access to

2415
02:04:44,920 --> 02:04:47,760
Speaker 1: Phil's phone last night. I did not have time to

2416
02:04:47,880 --> 02:04:51,480
Speaker 1: retrieve any deleted messages. However, thanks to someone's idea, I

2417
02:04:51,600 --> 02:04:54,280
Speaker 1: opened his camera gallery and went through the photos he

2418
02:04:54,360 --> 02:04:57,960
Speaker 1: took that night. One important thing that jumped out was

2419
02:04:58,080 --> 02:05:01,680
Speaker 1: Dana's outfit. Dana was wearing a white T shirt and

2420
02:05:01,840 --> 02:05:04,839
Speaker 1: denim to the concert, and it was an outdoor concert.

2421
02:05:05,360 --> 02:05:08,360
Speaker 1: She took off her shirt and was only wearing a

2422
02:05:08,400 --> 02:05:12,320
Speaker 1: blue bikini top. She had some glittering fake tattoos on

2423
02:05:12,480 --> 02:05:15,080
Speaker 1: her shoulder and her back. By the end of the night,

2424
02:05:15,360 --> 02:05:17,960
Speaker 1: she was again wearing a shirt, so for the glitter

2425
02:05:18,120 --> 02:05:21,520
Speaker 1: to be on Phil's car seat and his clothes, Dana

2426
02:05:22,280 --> 02:05:25,520
Speaker 1: had to have taken her shirt off in the car.

2427
02:05:26,080 --> 02:05:31,720
Speaker 3: Yo, this is some FBI level. This is some Surewalk stuff. Wow.

2428
02:05:32,600 --> 02:05:36,040
Speaker 1: I was so angry and could not keep my cool anymore.

2429
02:05:37,080 --> 02:05:42,880
Speaker 1: I went and confronted Phil. He immediately broke down and

2430
02:05:43,000 --> 02:05:45,880
Speaker 1: apologized to me. He said that it was his fault

2431
02:05:46,080 --> 02:05:49,560
Speaker 1: that he took it too far and was feeling very

2432
02:05:49,680 --> 02:05:52,240
Speaker 1: guilty all month. He said that he did not want

2433
02:05:52,280 --> 02:05:54,800
Speaker 1: to tell me because I would have been very upset

2434
02:05:55,200 --> 02:05:59,920
Speaker 1: and he just wanted to forget it coward. I told

2435
02:06:00,160 --> 02:06:04,280
Speaker 1: him to tell me what happened in detail, and he did.

2436
02:06:05,840 --> 02:06:10,880
Speaker 3: On the detail, Yes, the detail. We must be tortured.

2437
02:06:11,680 --> 02:06:11,720
Speaker 5: No.

2438
02:06:12,320 --> 02:06:14,960
Speaker 1: He told me that Dana and Jess both got drunk

2439
02:06:15,040 --> 02:06:19,240
Speaker 1: during the concert. Oh Bill had told Bill had to

2440
02:06:19,360 --> 02:06:23,520
Speaker 1: hold Dana while talking. Bill had to hold Dana while

2441
02:06:23,600 --> 02:06:26,680
Speaker 1: taking her to the car. Dana slept in the car

2442
02:06:26,800 --> 02:06:29,160
Speaker 1: for an hour while Phil was driving.

2443
02:06:29,680 --> 02:06:30,240
Speaker 3: She got up.

2444
02:06:30,800 --> 02:06:34,200
Speaker 1: She started playing music and singing loudly. At one point

2445
02:06:34,360 --> 02:06:36,960
Speaker 1: she told Phil that it is hot in the car,

2446
02:06:37,360 --> 02:06:39,840
Speaker 1: and before he could lower the AC temperature, she took

2447
02:06:39,880 --> 02:06:43,200
Speaker 1: off her shirt. Bill said he was very uncomfortable at

2448
02:06:43,240 --> 02:06:45,720
Speaker 1: this point and asked Dana if it's okay if he

2449
02:06:45,880 --> 02:06:48,080
Speaker 1: drives to our house and she could sleep in the

2450
02:06:48,120 --> 02:06:51,120
Speaker 1: guest room, as her apartment would have added another thirty

2451
02:06:51,240 --> 02:06:56,200
Speaker 1: minutes to the drive. He insisted that she wanted to

2452
02:06:56,280 --> 02:06:59,760
Speaker 1: go home, so Phil took her home. As she got out,

2453
02:07:00,320 --> 02:07:03,400
Speaker 1: he asked Phil if he could walk her back to

2454
02:07:03,520 --> 02:07:09,160
Speaker 1: her apartment as she felt tipsy. But I see us

2455
02:07:09,160 --> 02:07:11,400
Speaker 1: in the chat if you see he's coming. After she

2456
02:07:11,640 --> 02:07:15,640
Speaker 1: opened the apartment door, he hugged Phil and said thank you.

2457
02:07:16,480 --> 02:07:19,280
Speaker 1: Bill said that he was sorry that the hug lingered

2458
02:07:19,320 --> 02:07:21,600
Speaker 1: too wrong, and they had a moment.

2459
02:07:24,280 --> 02:07:26,160
Speaker 3: I had. Do you think this is trickle truth?

2460
02:07:26,400 --> 02:07:28,280
Speaker 2: What a hug?

2461
02:07:28,560 --> 02:07:29,880
Speaker 1: Do you think they're getting a trickle truth?

2462
02:07:29,920 --> 02:07:30,080
Speaker 4: Though?

2463
02:07:30,760 --> 02:07:32,440
Speaker 1: Is it just a hug? If she's just admitting to

2464
02:07:32,520 --> 02:07:34,520
Speaker 1: a hug? But it was actually more my question.

2465
02:07:34,680 --> 02:07:36,640
Speaker 3: Did she ever put her shirt back on?

2466
02:07:37,000 --> 02:07:37,040
Speaker 4: No?

2467
02:07:37,200 --> 02:07:39,280
Speaker 1: I don't think so, because that's how the glitter got

2468
02:07:39,320 --> 02:07:40,840
Speaker 1: on him, or at least that's what he's saying.

2469
02:07:41,080 --> 02:07:43,920
Speaker 3: Oh, but she's still wearing her bikini top. Probably yeah, okay.

2470
02:07:44,000 --> 02:07:48,280
Speaker 1: I had tears rolling down my eyes and asked him

2471
02:07:48,920 --> 02:07:54,000
Speaker 1: if they kissed. Bill told me, of course not, but

2472
02:07:54,120 --> 02:07:56,840
Speaker 1: he cannot describe it, but there was definitely a moment

2473
02:07:56,920 --> 02:07:59,920
Speaker 1: between them where it was like a hug that lingered.

2474
02:07:59,640 --> 02:08:00,840
Speaker 3: A little bit too long.

2475
02:08:01,040 --> 02:08:04,240
Speaker 4: Eye contact, Yeah, bjis.

2476
02:08:07,000 --> 02:08:09,400
Speaker 1: He told me that Dana invited him in but he

2477
02:08:09,560 --> 02:08:12,480
Speaker 1: immediately told Dana that he had to leave and made

2478
02:08:12,520 --> 02:08:16,240
Speaker 1: a run to the car. I kept on asking what happened,

2479
02:08:16,560 --> 02:08:18,640
Speaker 1: and he just said they had a moment that he

2480
02:08:18,680 --> 02:08:21,200
Speaker 1: felt he could not control and just got out of there.

2481
02:08:22,000 --> 02:08:25,320
Speaker 1: After he came home, Dana messaged Phil that he should

2482
02:08:25,320 --> 02:08:28,000
Speaker 1: have come inside the apartment. Bill kept on telling Dana

2483
02:08:28,120 --> 02:08:29,800
Speaker 1: that it was an accident and to forget about it,

2484
02:08:30,200 --> 02:08:32,800
Speaker 1: but Dana kept on asking Phil if he has attracted

2485
02:08:32,800 --> 02:08:35,400
Speaker 1: to her and if he had a good time. Phil

2486
02:08:35,520 --> 02:08:38,240
Speaker 1: told Dana that he has not attracted her and never

2487
02:08:38,360 --> 02:08:41,120
Speaker 1: will be and told her to not tell me about it.

2488
02:08:41,760 --> 02:08:44,960
Speaker 1: She agreed, and he deleted all the messages. He said

2489
02:08:45,000 --> 02:08:47,200
Speaker 1: that he sat on the sofa because they were messaging

2490
02:08:47,280 --> 02:08:49,440
Speaker 1: each other for a long time and he did not

2491
02:08:49,680 --> 02:08:52,400
Speaker 1: want me to hear it. I asked him if he

2492
02:08:52,400 --> 02:08:55,200
Speaker 1: could retrieve the messages, and he told me he deleted

2493
02:08:55,240 --> 02:08:58,120
Speaker 1: them and also cleaned all his archive and sent messages.

2494
02:08:58,880 --> 02:09:01,880
Speaker 1: He wanted to forget the incident ever happened. I showed

2495
02:09:01,920 --> 02:09:04,440
Speaker 1: him my post and thanks to my comment, we went

2496
02:09:04,520 --> 02:09:07,480
Speaker 1: to find the messages on the SD card. Phil was

2497
02:09:07,560 --> 02:09:10,720
Speaker 1: right and the messages were the same as Phil described. Okay,

2498
02:09:10,760 --> 02:09:15,720
Speaker 1: really quick, How do you guys feel about Phil right now?

2499
02:09:16,000 --> 02:09:17,360
Speaker 1: Is this breakup territory?

2500
02:09:17,560 --> 02:09:18,160
Speaker 2: Absolutely?

2501
02:09:18,840 --> 02:09:22,640
Speaker 3: Yeah, I think that Phil like why hide it? Yeah?

2502
02:09:23,040 --> 02:09:24,320
Speaker 4: Like you like?

2503
02:09:24,520 --> 02:09:27,840
Speaker 3: It seems to me that in the way that Phil

2504
02:09:27,960 --> 02:09:31,200
Speaker 3: was describing it, he kind of did everything right. It

2505
02:09:31,280 --> 02:09:33,120
Speaker 3: was like, Okay, maybe there's a hug that lingered too long,

2506
02:09:33,200 --> 02:09:37,720
Speaker 3: so I removed myself from the situation, and he was like,

2507
02:09:38,560 --> 02:09:39,600
Speaker 3: but why hide it?

2508
02:09:39,760 --> 02:09:39,960
Speaker 2: Why?

2509
02:09:40,160 --> 02:09:40,400
Speaker 5: Yeah?

2510
02:09:40,520 --> 02:09:41,040
Speaker 3: It feels like.

2511
02:09:42,760 --> 02:09:45,120
Speaker 1: What we said before is he hid the messages because

2512
02:09:45,160 --> 02:09:47,720
Speaker 1: he didn't want to ruin the relationship that OPI had

2513
02:09:47,840 --> 02:09:52,520
Speaker 1: with her friend and is lying to as she said

2514
02:09:52,520 --> 02:09:55,080
Speaker 1: in the beginning, to protect her feelings your partner.

2515
02:09:55,120 --> 02:09:57,560
Speaker 7: Trump's that And I feel like that's like you can't

2516
02:09:57,640 --> 02:09:59,000
Speaker 7: have anything without communication.

2517
02:10:00,760 --> 02:10:05,200
Speaker 1: So do you think if he said do you think

2518
02:10:05,360 --> 02:10:08,000
Speaker 1: he said it immediately, it would have been different, Yes,

2519
02:10:08,680 --> 02:10:11,720
Speaker 1: orse definitely. But the fact that he hit it for

2520
02:10:11,800 --> 02:10:14,920
Speaker 1: a month means like, can you trust? And I think

2521
02:10:15,000 --> 02:10:18,320
Speaker 1: this is kind of a I think this is a

2522
02:10:20,320 --> 02:10:30,120
Speaker 1: an example of if if you communicate as as soon

2523
02:10:30,160 --> 02:10:33,680
Speaker 1: as possible, you can even make like pretty bad situations

2524
02:10:34,040 --> 02:10:38,720
Speaker 1: like workable. But the longer that things go. And also

2525
02:10:38,800 --> 02:10:41,920
Speaker 1: I think what also we saw is she already knew

2526
02:10:41,960 --> 02:10:44,200
Speaker 1: the red flag from the beginning. She literally set it

2527
02:10:44,320 --> 02:10:47,360
Speaker 1: up front even before this update. She was like, he

2528
02:10:47,520 --> 02:10:51,600
Speaker 1: lies to protect my feelings, which is not a good

2529
02:10:51,720 --> 02:10:54,400
Speaker 1: character trait because it's people pleasing, and it's also like,

2530
02:10:54,760 --> 02:10:56,640
Speaker 1: it's not lying to protect your feelings. I feel like

2531
02:10:56,720 --> 02:10:57,600
Speaker 1: it's more lying.

2532
02:10:57,520 --> 02:11:03,360
Speaker 3: To Finch of the image of that she has of him,

2533
02:11:03,440 --> 02:11:03,920
Speaker 3: and also to.

2534
02:11:03,960 --> 02:11:07,400
Speaker 1: Maybe lying to not have to deal with her feelings. Yep,

2535
02:11:07,600 --> 02:11:08,840
Speaker 1: I think that's more what it is.

2536
02:11:08,960 --> 02:11:12,600
Speaker 4: Yeah, which is onto Dana. She was in a long

2537
02:11:12,720 --> 02:11:15,680
Speaker 4: term relationship, she got out of it. It was very abusive.

2538
02:11:16,160 --> 02:11:18,600
Speaker 4: Her boyfriend would control who she would be around a lot.

2539
02:11:18,680 --> 02:11:20,160
Speaker 4: I feel like this is her way of being, like

2540
02:11:20,560 --> 02:11:22,240
Speaker 4: I can hang out with whoever I want and do

2541
02:11:22,360 --> 02:11:24,960
Speaker 4: whatever I want now, And this is like a sense

2542
02:11:25,000 --> 02:11:26,720
Speaker 4: of rebellion. I kind of see between.

2543
02:11:27,120 --> 02:11:30,480
Speaker 2: You know, she's free, Yeah, she's free to do whatever.

2544
02:11:31,960 --> 02:11:32,880
Speaker 3: Are you in her class?

2545
02:11:33,080 --> 02:11:33,400
Speaker 1: Riley?

2546
02:11:33,480 --> 02:11:34,280
Speaker 3: What's going on here?

2547
02:11:35,120 --> 02:11:35,320
Speaker 4: Are you?

2548
02:11:35,360 --> 02:11:36,240
Speaker 3: When are you graduating?

2549
02:11:36,320 --> 02:11:36,560
Speaker 4: Dude?

2550
02:11:36,560 --> 02:11:39,720
Speaker 3: I'm learning you crushed it. Well, we do have.

2551
02:11:41,320 --> 02:11:46,240
Speaker 1: More of the story. This is where things got super weird.

2552
02:11:47,000 --> 02:11:49,480
Speaker 1: We're not even in weird territory. Oh not the weird

2553
02:11:49,560 --> 02:11:52,920
Speaker 1: territory right now, I invited Dana for brunch yesterday and

2554
02:11:53,040 --> 02:11:55,080
Speaker 1: met her. I told her that I talked to Phil

2555
02:11:55,360 --> 02:11:58,839
Speaker 1: and he confessed everything that happened night. And he confessed

2556
02:11:58,960 --> 02:12:02,320
Speaker 1: everything that happened that night during the concert. I asked

2557
02:12:02,320 --> 02:12:04,320
Speaker 1: her that I wanted to give her a chance to

2558
02:12:04,360 --> 02:12:07,879
Speaker 1: tell her side of the story. Dana immediately became defensive.

2559
02:12:08,240 --> 02:12:11,280
Speaker 1: The story was the same until they got to her apartment.

2560
02:12:12,360 --> 02:12:15,200
Speaker 1: Dana said that she opened her apartment door, she gave

2561
02:12:15,280 --> 02:12:18,480
Speaker 1: Phil a long hug for a great evening. She said

2562
02:12:18,920 --> 02:12:22,920
Speaker 1: that she could feel Phil wanted more, but nothing happened

2563
02:12:23,000 --> 02:12:25,840
Speaker 1: beyond that. I asked her why she invited him inside

2564
02:12:25,880 --> 02:12:28,760
Speaker 1: the apartment. She told me that she wanted to offer

2565
02:12:28,920 --> 02:12:32,200
Speaker 1: him some water and a snack as he was driving

2566
02:12:32,320 --> 02:12:36,600
Speaker 1: for a long time. Sus I said that it's really

2567
02:12:36,760 --> 02:12:40,160
Speaker 1: a b move to invite my husband in her apartment

2568
02:12:40,240 --> 02:12:42,960
Speaker 1: at one am at night when she felt he wanted

2569
02:12:43,080 --> 02:12:45,440
Speaker 1: more from her than a hug. She said that I

2570
02:12:45,520 --> 02:12:48,080
Speaker 1: was just being jealous and crazy. We started arguing, and

2571
02:12:48,160 --> 02:12:50,839
Speaker 1: she blurted out that she was not the one popping

2572
02:12:51,200 --> 02:12:53,800
Speaker 1: boners during the hug.

2573
02:12:54,360 --> 02:12:55,440
Speaker 4: That's what the moment is.

2574
02:12:56,720 --> 02:12:58,240
Speaker 3: That's what the moment was.

2575
02:13:00,240 --> 02:13:06,400
Speaker 1: It was a little movement ah oh Man. I told

2576
02:13:06,440 --> 02:13:08,360
Speaker 1: her she is never going to see Phil again in

2577
02:13:08,400 --> 02:13:12,240
Speaker 1: her life as our friendship is done. She started shouting

2578
02:13:12,280 --> 02:13:14,400
Speaker 1: that she know Phil loves her and he does not

2579
02:13:14,640 --> 02:13:17,640
Speaker 1: act on it because of me. She went on about

2580
02:13:17,680 --> 02:13:20,280
Speaker 1: how I'm always complaining about Phil and do not deserve him.

2581
02:13:20,480 --> 02:13:22,280
Speaker 1: She said that Phil has been so nice to her

2582
02:13:22,360 --> 02:13:24,440
Speaker 1: after the breakup and she feels he would leave me

2583
02:13:24,560 --> 02:13:26,880
Speaker 1: for her if he had the chance. She finally said

2584
02:13:27,080 --> 02:13:30,200
Speaker 1: that she could make Phil way happier than I ever could,

2585
02:13:30,520 --> 02:13:33,160
Speaker 1: and he started to realize it now. At this point,

2586
02:13:33,240 --> 02:13:35,240
Speaker 1: I just wanted to avoid a blowout and walked away.

2587
02:13:35,600 --> 02:13:38,400
Speaker 1: I talked to Phil at night and what Dana said.

2588
02:13:38,680 --> 02:13:41,080
Speaker 1: He confirmed to me that he did become aroused when

2589
02:13:41,120 --> 02:13:43,600
Speaker 1: hugging Dana that night, and he does not know why.

2590
02:13:43,960 --> 02:13:46,760
Speaker 1: Dana held his hand and invited him after the hug

2591
02:13:46,880 --> 02:13:48,800
Speaker 1: and he just ran towards his car. He said he

2592
02:13:48,880 --> 02:13:52,120
Speaker 1: feels guilty about him. He said he feels guilty about it,

2593
02:13:52,200 --> 02:13:54,080
Speaker 1: but does not mean he has feelings for Dana. He

2594
02:13:54,120 --> 02:13:56,360
Speaker 1: said he's very happy being married to me and would

2595
02:13:56,440 --> 02:13:57,640
Speaker 1: like to keep it that way for the rest of

2596
02:13:57,680 --> 02:14:00,280
Speaker 1: his life. Although I am relieved that nothing happened between them.

2597
02:14:00,320 --> 02:14:02,480
Speaker 1: It's hard for me to process my thoughts. I feel

2598
02:14:02,520 --> 02:14:04,760
Speaker 1: mad at Phil for hugging Dana in the middle of

2599
02:14:04,800 --> 02:14:08,080
Speaker 1: the night when she's barely wearing anything. He should know better.

2600
02:14:08,440 --> 02:14:10,520
Speaker 1: On the other hand, I feel like an a hole

2601
02:14:10,680 --> 02:14:13,520
Speaker 1: myself that my best friend had a thing for my

2602
02:14:13,640 --> 02:14:16,920
Speaker 1: husband that I had no clue about and push both

2603
02:14:16,960 --> 02:14:19,680
Speaker 1: of them to go to the concert together. Also, if

2604
02:14:19,680 --> 02:14:22,320
Speaker 1: you're hugging someone for long enough to get to an erection,

2605
02:14:22,960 --> 02:14:24,000
Speaker 1: probably a bad move.

2606
02:14:25,160 --> 02:14:27,840
Speaker 3: Comments it's harder to tell.

2607
02:14:28,640 --> 02:14:31,120
Speaker 7: But also like, why was he hugging her in her

2608
02:14:31,200 --> 02:14:32,320
Speaker 7: inebriated state?

2609
02:14:33,120 --> 02:14:35,680
Speaker 3: Hmm he they said she didn't.

2610
02:14:36,000 --> 02:14:37,680
Speaker 2: She didn't have a shirt on, Like I would just

2611
02:14:37,720 --> 02:14:43,440
Speaker 2: be like respectfully, no, yeah, okayib elbow.

2612
02:14:44,640 --> 02:14:49,640
Speaker 1: Both I feel are pretty toxic. DNA seems even like

2613
02:14:49,800 --> 02:14:56,160
Speaker 1: way toxic. I feel like the husband is making some

2614
02:14:56,680 --> 02:15:00,360
Speaker 1: very bad choices and has a toxic character trait. Uh,

2615
02:15:00,600 --> 02:15:03,600
Speaker 1: we got trickle truth. He like didn't mention like, if

2616
02:15:03,600 --> 02:15:05,680
Speaker 1: you're being confronted with us, he should have immediately said

2617
02:15:05,800 --> 02:15:08,360
Speaker 1: I popped a popped a pitched a tent when I

2618
02:15:08,440 --> 02:15:11,840
Speaker 1: was hugging data, which maybe would have made things a

2619
02:15:11,920 --> 02:15:13,840
Speaker 1: little bit better than it. Coming from him, I mean,

2620
02:15:14,240 --> 02:15:15,800
Speaker 1: not a great thing to have to admit, but.

2621
02:15:16,080 --> 02:15:21,160
Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, dude, I mean here's here's my question. Do

2622
02:15:21,240 --> 02:15:25,600
Speaker 3: they deserve each other in data and in the negative?

2623
02:15:25,680 --> 02:15:29,600
Speaker 3: In the negative way of like is it is it worth?

2624
02:15:31,440 --> 02:15:31,480
Speaker 4: No?

2625
02:15:31,800 --> 02:15:34,840
Speaker 3: Like it's Bill does not seem like the man.

2626
02:15:34,800 --> 02:15:37,400
Speaker 1: Tricia de sis phil is a pathological liar as a

2627
02:15:38,360 --> 02:15:42,360
Speaker 1: as a medical doctor in training, does this feel like

2628
02:15:42,520 --> 02:15:43,520
Speaker 1: pathological lying?

2629
02:15:43,680 --> 02:15:44,000
Speaker 2: I don't know.

2630
02:15:44,120 --> 02:15:46,840
Speaker 7: I think like a part of me wants to give them,

2631
02:15:47,080 --> 02:15:51,480
Speaker 7: like both of them, grace individually, but I think like

2632
02:15:51,520 --> 02:15:55,000
Speaker 7: the situation oh as a whole just is not favorable

2633
02:15:55,160 --> 02:15:57,440
Speaker 7: for them because it's like I think he you know,

2634
02:15:57,520 --> 02:16:00,200
Speaker 7: he was honest about everything, but it was just like

2635
02:16:00,520 --> 02:16:03,879
Speaker 7: the timing and the fact that he has this like history,

2636
02:16:04,240 --> 02:16:04,480
Speaker 7: but he.

2637
02:16:04,600 --> 02:16:08,480
Speaker 1: Was only honest after being confronted, which I think is

2638
02:16:08,520 --> 02:16:13,360
Speaker 1: an important distinction, like honesty when it's still so.

2639
02:16:13,480 --> 02:16:16,080
Speaker 2: Super red flag and I don't know that that would

2640
02:16:16,120 --> 02:16:18,800
Speaker 2: ever fly for me, but you know, like.

2641
02:16:20,800 --> 02:16:23,280
Speaker 1: I feel it's not like I U. For me, the

2642
02:16:23,320 --> 02:16:27,680
Speaker 1: biggest red flag is not what what actually happened the communication.

2643
02:16:27,880 --> 02:16:29,400
Speaker 3: It's the communication that is.

2644
02:16:29,880 --> 02:16:33,520
Speaker 1: Like the if that happened to me as like a

2645
02:16:33,600 --> 02:16:36,560
Speaker 1: partner if I was Ope, Yeah, I feel like I

2646
02:16:36,600 --> 02:16:39,360
Speaker 1: would be way more upset about the trickle truth, oh

2647
02:16:39,400 --> 02:16:41,920
Speaker 1: for sure, and the actual things that occurred, because you

2648
02:16:42,000 --> 02:16:43,560
Speaker 1: know that that means like, you know, what else are

2649
02:16:43,560 --> 02:16:44,080
Speaker 1: you hiding.

2650
02:16:43,920 --> 02:16:45,040
Speaker 7: At that at the end of the day, it's his

2651
02:16:45,160 --> 02:16:47,520
Speaker 7: responsibility to tell his partner, like this happened.

2652
02:16:48,040 --> 02:16:51,360
Speaker 3: And I'm getting into conspiracy theory land, but I think

2653
02:16:51,560 --> 02:16:54,560
Speaker 3: that he I think what's happening with both of them

2654
02:16:54,720 --> 02:16:57,800
Speaker 3: is they're both like building these like feelings for each

2655
02:16:57,840 --> 02:17:03,520
Speaker 3: other and op kind of I think if left unattended,

2656
02:17:03,840 --> 02:17:06,680
Speaker 3: it would have exploded and they would have gotten together.

2657
02:17:07,000 --> 02:17:10,200
Speaker 1: Well, actually, I think a little bit slightly differently. I

2658
02:17:10,360 --> 02:17:15,080
Speaker 1: think the boner was the explosion and that's why they separated.

2659
02:17:15,120 --> 02:17:17,080
Speaker 1: Phil was like, I don't want to talk to her anymore.

2660
02:17:17,280 --> 02:17:19,360
Speaker 1: This is too real, this is getting to the point,

2661
02:17:19,640 --> 02:17:23,160
Speaker 1: and separated. But I think what Phil did wrong, I mean,

2662
02:17:23,360 --> 02:17:25,320
Speaker 1: he filled a lot wrong, But the biggest thing I

2663
02:17:25,400 --> 02:17:28,320
Speaker 1: feel like he did wrong was not talking about anything

2664
02:17:28,360 --> 02:17:29,400
Speaker 1: immediately after it happened.

2665
02:17:29,480 --> 02:17:32,520
Speaker 3: Yeah, no, I agree with that, or even well, I

2666
02:17:32,560 --> 02:17:36,440
Speaker 3: guess was she home at homelessly because they left separately

2667
02:17:36,480 --> 02:17:39,039
Speaker 3: after the concert, right, they stayed longer in the concert or.

2668
02:17:39,200 --> 02:17:41,880
Speaker 1: What happened is so they went to the concert together

2669
02:17:41,959 --> 02:17:46,240
Speaker 1: because Op couldn't go, and then she insisted to be

2670
02:17:46,400 --> 02:17:49,280
Speaker 1: driven back to her house, probably to make a move

2671
02:17:49,320 --> 02:17:51,960
Speaker 1: on Phil. And then it was like can you walk

2672
02:17:52,040 --> 02:17:55,560
Speaker 1: me to my apartment to make a move on Phil,

2673
02:17:55,920 --> 02:17:57,880
Speaker 1: and then kind of made a move on Phil with

2674
02:17:58,040 --> 02:18:02,160
Speaker 1: the hug Phil poppeda popped a boner and then it was.

2675
02:18:02,200 --> 02:18:04,920
Speaker 3: Like, oh, here's my question. Why didn't he tell her

2676
02:18:05,040 --> 02:18:08,119
Speaker 3: literally instantly in the moment that like, yo, your friend

2677
02:18:08,240 --> 02:18:11,760
Speaker 3: is like super sloshed, and I think I like, well,

2678
02:18:11,800 --> 02:18:16,640
Speaker 3: she was asleep. Op went no, no, no, like even

2679
02:18:16,720 --> 02:18:17,240
Speaker 3: just text her.

2680
02:18:18,040 --> 02:18:19,560
Speaker 1: I mean I think he I think he could he

2681
02:18:19,800 --> 02:18:21,640
Speaker 1: he could have done it, but she he texted her

2682
02:18:21,640 --> 02:18:23,880
Speaker 1: at eleven, she didn't respond because she was asleep, So

2683
02:18:24,560 --> 02:18:27,840
Speaker 1: it could have been that, but still, like what would

2684
02:18:27,840 --> 02:18:31,080
Speaker 1: have the best thing is to like to be like, hey,

2685
02:18:31,200 --> 02:18:34,200
Speaker 1: this happened immediately, and then the next day when she

2686
02:18:34,320 --> 02:18:37,200
Speaker 1: wakes up like hey this happened immediately a month later,

2687
02:18:37,240 --> 02:18:38,640
Speaker 1: it makes it bad.

2688
02:18:38,959 --> 02:18:41,760
Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, I feel like I would have, Like if

2689
02:18:41,800 --> 02:18:44,560
Speaker 3: there was in the moment where it's like, Okay, this

2690
02:18:44,680 --> 02:18:47,920
Speaker 3: person needs to get home safe. It's like even if

2691
02:18:47,920 --> 02:18:50,000
Speaker 3: they're not even if they're not not around, like hey,

2692
02:18:50,120 --> 02:18:52,960
Speaker 3: just letting you know, like this is happening. Yeah, I

2693
02:18:53,160 --> 02:18:55,440
Speaker 3: gonna get her home safe for whatever.

2694
02:18:55,720 --> 02:18:57,640
Speaker 7: That's fine, you know, like good on him taking care

2695
02:18:57,680 --> 02:19:01,280
Speaker 7: of the friend. But also like things started getting three.

2696
02:19:03,280 --> 02:19:06,840
Speaker 1: But that's where this story ends. Wow, and I believe

2697
02:19:06,920 --> 02:19:11,119
Speaker 1: that is where our time with Steph ens. So Sophia

2698
02:19:11,280 --> 02:19:14,640
Speaker 1: is going to take my place while I walk Steph out.

2699
02:19:16,040 --> 02:19:21,480
Speaker 1: Huh but uh. Put some docs in the chat shout out,

2700
02:19:22,840 --> 02:19:26,000
Speaker 1: thank you for coming on the show. You were great,

2701
02:19:26,200 --> 02:19:29,360
Speaker 1: happy to be here, and maybe she'll be back soon.

2702
02:19:29,720 --> 02:19:32,160
Speaker 2: All right, bye, everyone.

2703
02:19:32,000 --> 02:19:41,200
Speaker 3: Day what's up, ladies and gentlemen, it's your boy. We're up.

2704
02:19:43,800 --> 02:19:51,920
Speaker 3: I've been cutting half. There we go. Kimberly Fine says

2705
02:19:52,000 --> 02:19:55,760
Speaker 3: in the moment he would own it. Yeah, like own

2706
02:19:55,840 --> 02:19:58,760
Speaker 3: up to it. I don't know, Joslyn says, Op, please

2707
02:19:58,879 --> 02:20:04,000
Speaker 3: dump Phil, doctor Phil. That's what we're saying. Oh my god,

2708
02:20:05,840 --> 02:20:08,120
Speaker 3: bye guys, guys, Thanks for thanks for all of the

2709
02:20:08,520 --> 02:20:11,959
Speaker 3: kind comments of stuff. Love love to see this, love

2710
02:20:12,080 --> 02:20:17,480
Speaker 3: to see this. Nicole hadn't sam hobbling out loll look

2711
02:20:17,680 --> 02:20:22,400
Speaker 3: he he heroically rolled his ankle harder than it's ever rolled. Okay,

2712
02:20:22,480 --> 02:20:26,320
Speaker 3: ladies and gentlemen. He he took a stand and then

2713
02:20:26,400 --> 02:20:30,600
Speaker 3: took a fall. Okay, and you know, consequences happened. Sometimes

2714
02:20:31,200 --> 02:20:36,200
Speaker 3: that's what happened. So there we go, Sophia.

2715
02:20:36,280 --> 02:20:39,200
Speaker 2: How you doing, I'm doing chill. I was just reading

2716
02:20:39,320 --> 02:20:40,560
Speaker 2: my book and eating some dinner.

2717
02:20:40,840 --> 02:20:46,039
Speaker 3: Love that. Yeah, dude, I haven't eat today. I haven't

2718
02:20:46,080 --> 02:20:46,840
Speaker 3: eaten lunch today.

2719
02:20:46,840 --> 02:20:48,600
Speaker 2: They're sushi and the little fridge.

2720
02:20:48,879 --> 02:20:51,160
Speaker 3: I'm gonna I'm gonna hop on some stuff in a bit,

2721
02:20:51,560 --> 02:20:54,600
Speaker 3: on some food. But I have to I have to

2722
02:20:54,640 --> 02:20:58,080
Speaker 3: stay with the gang. I have to say. Caro says

2723
02:20:58,240 --> 02:21:01,520
Speaker 3: lm ao take a stand, and the universe would told

2724
02:21:01,600 --> 02:21:03,800
Speaker 3: him to sit back down and do this lot.

2725
02:21:04,800 --> 02:21:06,520
Speaker 2: He literally has to be here.

2726
02:21:06,879 --> 02:21:10,080
Speaker 3: That's correct. Like we will we will explode if we

2727
02:21:11,120 --> 02:21:13,680
Speaker 3: if we leave. Oh, by the way, we are what.

2728
02:21:15,280 --> 02:21:15,400
Speaker 4: You know.

2729
02:21:15,440 --> 02:21:17,160
Speaker 3: I was about to say, Sapie, we're about to say.

2730
02:21:17,280 --> 02:21:18,959
Speaker 3: I was about to say, we're one like away from

2731
02:21:18,959 --> 02:21:19,960
Speaker 3: a wheelsip. I think that's what.

2732
02:21:20,280 --> 02:21:22,440
Speaker 2: Well, it sounds like you counted your chickens a little

2733
02:21:22,480 --> 02:21:23,000
Speaker 2: too soon.

2734
02:21:23,200 --> 02:21:26,520
Speaker 3: I did, because they hash said, we got ourselves wheelspin

2735
02:21:26,640 --> 02:21:29,480
Speaker 3: on a hand. Why don't we why don't we do

2736
02:21:29,760 --> 02:21:32,760
Speaker 3: a John and soap wheel Spin? How does that sound?

2737
02:21:34,760 --> 02:21:35,280
Speaker 4: Man me?

2738
02:21:36,280 --> 02:21:39,080
Speaker 3: We're bringing it up right now and we gotta spend

2739
02:21:39,120 --> 02:21:47,520
Speaker 3: a wheel for you. Yeah easy? Whoa, no, all right,

2740
02:21:47,720 --> 02:21:53,600
Speaker 3: let's spin that. We all Sophia can't talk? What is that?

2741
02:21:54,560 --> 02:21:56,560
Speaker 3: Ten more minutes.

2742
02:21:58,480 --> 02:22:00,000
Speaker 2: Remembers members?

2743
02:22:01,560 --> 02:22:07,000
Speaker 3: Oh my good Dolly goubers. Guys, guys, we're doing this

2744
02:22:07,120 --> 02:22:09,920
Speaker 3: new little thing. You guys have been so amazing at

2745
02:22:09,920 --> 02:22:13,000
Speaker 3: growing our family and bringing more bringing more nights to

2746
02:22:13,040 --> 02:22:16,400
Speaker 3: our army. Okay, we're going to give ten memberships away

2747
02:22:16,480 --> 02:22:19,240
Speaker 3: right now because that is what Riley added to the

2748
02:22:19,240 --> 02:22:22,879
Speaker 3: wheel and we need. We will not stop. We will

2749
02:22:22,959 --> 02:22:32,120
Speaker 3: not stop until we will not stop. We will not

2750
02:22:32,200 --> 02:22:36,640
Speaker 3: stop until every human being on planet Earth is a

2751
02:22:36,720 --> 02:22:42,920
Speaker 3: member of our family. Okay, by now, what are we doing?

2752
02:22:43,320 --> 02:22:46,800
Speaker 4: Oh yeah, Riley's and Riley's setting it up stickers and

2753
02:22:46,840 --> 02:22:51,039
Speaker 4: super chats. I might I might be able to let

2754
02:22:51,120 --> 02:22:55,120
Speaker 4: me switch my account. Whoa, So, guys, we're we're on it,

2755
02:22:55,879 --> 02:22:58,119
Speaker 4: all right, we are. We are on the case.

2756
02:22:58,360 --> 02:23:03,080
Speaker 3: We're on the case. That's so awesome. People are liking it,

2757
02:23:04,000 --> 02:23:06,360
Speaker 3: people are people are liking this idea, guys. The question

2758
02:23:06,480 --> 02:23:07,640
Speaker 3: is will we be able to do it? I don't

2759
02:23:07,640 --> 02:23:10,240
Speaker 3: know that's that's we're looking into it. We're looking into

2760
02:23:10,280 --> 02:23:13,480
Speaker 3: it as we speak. I'm looking into it simultaneously as

2761
02:23:13,560 --> 02:23:17,400
Speaker 3: Riley's looking at it. Ah, my head.

2762
02:23:21,240 --> 02:23:22,280
Speaker 4: On the go to O B S.

2763
02:23:22,600 --> 02:23:26,040
Speaker 2: I freaking do what do it? Freaking do it?

2764
02:23:26,240 --> 02:23:28,840
Speaker 3: That's just handa. Don't cut John and half guy. Let me, Sophia,

2765
02:23:28,959 --> 02:23:29,200
Speaker 3: let me.

2766
02:23:29,320 --> 02:23:31,640
Speaker 4: Live, well, let me give memberships, let me live.

2767
02:23:31,840 --> 02:23:32,680
Speaker 3: I might be able to do it.

2768
02:23:32,959 --> 02:23:33,680
Speaker 4: What the freak?

2769
02:23:35,560 --> 02:23:39,360
Speaker 3: But guys, yes, and we're gonna, We're gonna, we're gonna

2770
02:23:39,400 --> 02:23:41,360
Speaker 3: hit another story. Oh should we let's Sophia, let's go

2771
02:23:41,360 --> 02:23:43,760
Speaker 3: ahead and add another Oh wait, I was gonna add

2772
02:23:43,760 --> 02:23:44,680
Speaker 3: another ten minutes, but.

2773
02:23:46,320 --> 02:23:50,640
Speaker 2: I won't. We are going to ready for another story.

2774
02:23:50,840 --> 02:23:52,840
Speaker 3: You know we're ready for another story. I'm gonna see

2775
02:23:52,840 --> 02:23:57,000
Speaker 3: you real quick. If if I cannot assist Riley in

2776
02:23:57,480 --> 02:24:01,480
Speaker 3: giving me people what they want, I have a bunch

2777
02:24:01,560 --> 02:24:11,320
Speaker 3: of you need to just flick through here swap all right, Sophia,

2778
02:24:11,320 --> 02:24:12,199
Speaker 3: where I'm what am I reading?

2779
02:24:13,200 --> 02:24:13,440
Speaker 5: Tell me.

2780
02:24:16,920 --> 02:24:23,400
Speaker 1: Six six fifty seven s one six one.

2781
02:24:24,720 --> 02:24:29,800
Speaker 4: That's the wrong one either, it still has the two options. Uh,

2782
02:24:29,879 --> 02:24:30,400
Speaker 4: switch through.

2783
02:24:30,959 --> 02:24:33,560
Speaker 3: I have my like John fry one and then maybe okay,

2784
02:24:33,640 --> 02:24:36,960
Speaker 3: storytime because I think I was able to see it

2785
02:24:37,080 --> 02:24:40,640
Speaker 3: before on Okay the Okay storytime account. Do we know

2786
02:24:40,680 --> 02:24:43,320
Speaker 3: if it's an S one or S two, Sophia, it's

2787
02:24:43,480 --> 02:24:47,440
Speaker 3: S one. Let's freaking go all right, s I am ready.

2788
02:24:49,720 --> 02:24:52,800
Speaker 3: My boyfriend offered to take me to Europe, but now

2789
02:24:52,920 --> 02:24:56,959
Speaker 3: he wants me to pay him back. Well, hey, Sophia,

2790
02:24:58,280 --> 02:25:00,520
Speaker 3: happy birthday. Here's this new car.

2791
02:25:00,680 --> 02:25:01,800
Speaker 2: Oh my god, thank you so much.

2792
02:25:01,920 --> 02:25:05,320
Speaker 3: I'll take it, Sofia. That will be thirty thousand dollars

2793
02:25:05,400 --> 02:25:12,520
Speaker 3: plus ten percent interest here right now. Yep, guys, this

2794
02:25:12,640 --> 02:25:14,720
Speaker 3: is the answer. What are the deal breakers in a relationship?

2795
02:25:14,720 --> 02:25:16,600
Speaker 3: And it comes from the Garden of Thorns, who says,

2796
02:25:16,760 --> 02:25:19,120
Speaker 3: I don't even know how our way to start this,

2797
02:25:19,280 --> 02:25:22,120
Speaker 3: but here it goes. My boyfriend twenty four male and

2798
02:25:22,240 --> 02:25:25,200
Speaker 3: I twenty five female, have been together for years. We

2799
02:25:25,320 --> 02:25:28,520
Speaker 3: both live separately, and he recently moved out on his own. However,

2800
02:25:28,680 --> 02:25:31,480
Speaker 3: his family is now staying with him on and off. Wow.

2801
02:25:31,959 --> 02:25:33,720
Speaker 3: We've always had a good relationship when it came to

2802
02:25:33,800 --> 02:25:36,160
Speaker 3: respecting each other's boundaries and having a solid foundation in

2803
02:25:36,280 --> 02:25:39,000
Speaker 3: terms of trust. For the most part, our outings would

2804
02:25:39,040 --> 02:25:42,440
Speaker 3: go something like this. He would usually insisted on picking

2805
02:25:42,520 --> 02:25:44,600
Speaker 3: up the bill whenever we did dinner dates. I don't

2806
02:25:44,600 --> 02:25:48,000
Speaker 3: know anybody like that. I would buy the tickets on

2807
02:25:48,120 --> 02:25:50,320
Speaker 3: movie dates, and if he bought them, I would buy

2808
02:25:50,400 --> 02:25:53,560
Speaker 3: the food. That was until two years ago when I

2809
02:25:53,720 --> 02:25:57,120
Speaker 3: stopped working as I was diagnosed with a chronic autoimmune

2810
02:25:57,120 --> 02:26:00,000
Speaker 3: illness and then went through a very severe depression because

2811
02:26:00,200 --> 02:26:04,600
Speaker 3: of it. A year into me not working, he began

2812
02:26:04,720 --> 02:26:08,039
Speaker 3: to voice his frustration at quote unquote financially supporting our

2813
02:26:08,120 --> 02:26:11,440
Speaker 3: relationship by paying for dates. We definitely didn't go out

2814
02:26:11,480 --> 02:26:13,160
Speaker 3: on as many as we used to at this point.

2815
02:26:13,600 --> 02:26:16,800
Speaker 3: Fast forward to last September, I finally began to feel

2816
02:26:16,879 --> 02:26:20,200
Speaker 3: like myself again and decided to continue my undergrad which

2817
02:26:20,240 --> 02:26:23,240
Speaker 3: I had stopped to work full time to support my

2818
02:26:23,320 --> 02:26:27,280
Speaker 3: single mom prior to an illness, and was receiving my

2819
02:26:27,480 --> 02:26:31,600
Speaker 3: countries and was receiving my country's student loans. My boyfriend's

2820
02:26:31,680 --> 02:26:34,240
Speaker 3: family got a condo in Europe a few years back.

2821
02:26:34,640 --> 02:26:37,240
Speaker 3: He works full time, so his parents and siblings would

2822
02:26:37,240 --> 02:26:39,520
Speaker 3: go for the summer and I would temporarily stay with

2823
02:26:39,600 --> 02:26:42,080
Speaker 3: him at their family home to help out with the

2824
02:26:42,120 --> 02:26:45,480
Speaker 3: household stuff and watching the dog. One year he ended

2825
02:26:45,520 --> 02:26:47,960
Speaker 3: up going. One year he ended up going up for

2826
02:26:48,080 --> 02:26:51,000
Speaker 3: the holidays, and I stayed back with his dog. Well,

2827
02:26:51,080 --> 02:26:54,000
Speaker 3: fast forward now to this past holiday season, they were

2828
02:26:54,040 --> 02:26:56,760
Speaker 3: planning on going. They were planning on going, and my

2829
02:26:56,840 --> 02:26:59,600
Speaker 3: boyfriend asked me if I would come, But I told

2830
02:26:59,680 --> 02:27:02,520
Speaker 3: him this is completely outside of the realm of possibility

2831
02:27:02,560 --> 02:27:06,720
Speaker 3: for me given my financial situation. They're going on vacation. Ope,

2832
02:27:06,720 --> 02:27:09,560
Speaker 3: he has not been able to work. It's out of

2833
02:27:09,600 --> 02:27:11,879
Speaker 3: the budget. Yeah, it's out of the budget, Sophia.

2834
02:27:11,840 --> 02:27:12,760
Speaker 2: It's out of the budget.

2835
02:27:13,280 --> 02:27:16,120
Speaker 3: Over the following weeks, he proceeded to insist that he

2836
02:27:16,240 --> 02:27:19,720
Speaker 3: really wanted me there, that was important for him, That

2837
02:27:19,840 --> 02:27:24,039
Speaker 3: was important for him for that was important to him

2838
02:27:24,160 --> 02:27:26,720
Speaker 3: for us to enjoy this together, and offered to pay

2839
02:27:26,760 --> 02:27:29,720
Speaker 3: for the trip. I declined once again, as it didn't

2840
02:27:29,720 --> 02:27:33,039
Speaker 3: feel right to accept something like this, but he continued

2841
02:27:33,120 --> 02:27:35,720
Speaker 3: insisting and assured me that he would take care of everything.

2842
02:27:35,879 --> 02:27:38,360
Speaker 3: All I needed to do was I was bringing some

2843
02:27:38,440 --> 02:27:41,280
Speaker 3: spending money for myself. I still felt bad, so I

2844
02:27:41,400 --> 02:27:44,039
Speaker 3: looked into my student loans and saw that I still

2845
02:27:44,120 --> 02:27:50,440
Speaker 3: had some funds left released. He did some calculations and

2846
02:27:50,959 --> 02:27:53,800
Speaker 3: figured I'd receive five hundred dollars in my account. So

2847
02:27:54,680 --> 02:27:57,200
Speaker 3: and we agreed that I would use this money to

2848
02:27:57,320 --> 02:27:59,240
Speaker 3: pay him back in a way, even if it's just

2849
02:27:59,320 --> 02:28:01,960
Speaker 3: a small part. At this point, flights were going for

2850
02:28:01,959 --> 02:28:05,119
Speaker 3: around thirteen hundred dollars, but asked him not to purchase

2851
02:28:05,240 --> 02:28:08,520
Speaker 3: anything in the event of a price spike before talking

2852
02:28:08,600 --> 02:28:11,520
Speaker 3: to me. Let's let's take a real quick pause here, Sophia. Yeah,

2853
02:28:14,440 --> 02:28:16,480
Speaker 3: I see an ICU in the chat. I see a

2854
02:28:16,680 --> 02:28:17,200
Speaker 3: big old.

2855
02:28:17,360 --> 02:28:17,760
Speaker 4: I see you.

2856
02:28:17,959 --> 02:28:19,480
Speaker 3: What's your big old? I see your scenes if you.

2857
02:28:20,760 --> 02:28:23,600
Speaker 2: I am seeing that he is not going to talk

2858
02:28:23,680 --> 02:28:24,320
Speaker 2: to her before.

2859
02:28:25,840 --> 02:28:28,480
Speaker 3: Oh that's a great icee you. Yeah. I am seeing

2860
02:28:28,680 --> 02:28:31,480
Speaker 3: that he did this once, and I predict it's going

2861
02:28:31,520 --> 02:28:34,480
Speaker 3: to become a pattern where he's basically like, hey, like, oh,

2862
02:28:34,600 --> 02:28:36,120
Speaker 3: let me pay, like let me do this, d da

2863
02:28:36,200 --> 02:28:38,600
Speaker 3: da da, And he's like, I'm so tired of financially

2864
02:28:38,600 --> 02:28:40,680
Speaker 3: supporting you, like oh my gosh, like it's such a

2865
02:28:40,720 --> 02:28:43,840
Speaker 3: financial burden. And it's like, sir, you were the one

2866
02:28:43,920 --> 02:28:48,520
Speaker 3: that is offering, offering to do it, and then turning

2867
02:28:48,600 --> 02:28:51,039
Speaker 3: around and it's like, yeah, I.

2868
02:28:51,080 --> 02:28:54,600
Speaker 2: Think, I think if you offer, then you don't have

2869
02:28:55,160 --> 02:28:56,920
Speaker 2: any claim over that money.

2870
02:28:57,640 --> 02:29:02,440
Speaker 3: Exactly exactly like you The con the implicit contract in

2871
02:29:02,560 --> 02:29:06,680
Speaker 3: offering something is knowing that it is offering something, not

2872
02:29:06,800 --> 02:29:11,840
Speaker 3: alone you're giving, not giving a loan, yeah, or something

2873
02:29:12,160 --> 02:29:12,360
Speaker 3: like that.

2874
02:29:12,840 --> 02:29:15,000
Speaker 2: No, I think I think in the earlier part of

2875
02:29:15,040 --> 02:29:17,040
Speaker 2: the story where he was like, I'm paying a lot

2876
02:29:17,200 --> 02:29:20,720
Speaker 2: for food and dates and stuff and express that concern,

2877
02:29:20,840 --> 02:29:23,080
Speaker 2: I think that is a different thing that's valid. But

2878
02:29:23,200 --> 02:29:25,959
Speaker 2: this is where he's like, this is in Yeah, he's

2879
02:29:26,080 --> 02:29:27,879
Speaker 2: just offering and that's just a gift.

2880
02:29:27,680 --> 02:29:30,360
Speaker 3: At that point. Look, that's what I'm iceeing. Guys put

2881
02:29:30,440 --> 02:29:31,960
Speaker 3: an icy in the chat. If you see that too,

2882
02:29:32,160 --> 02:29:34,680
Speaker 3: or maybe you don't and you think I'm a raging lunatant,

2883
02:29:35,600 --> 02:29:39,080
Speaker 3: that's also valid. But let's find out. I spent the

2884
02:29:39,120 --> 02:29:42,760
Speaker 3: following three weeks reminding him that prices would spike soon. However,

2885
02:29:42,879 --> 02:29:45,600
Speaker 3: he ended up waiting until the last minute, and he

2886
02:29:45,760 --> 02:29:50,400
Speaker 3: bought a twenty seven hundred dollars flightah and didn't let

2887
02:29:50,480 --> 02:29:55,320
Speaker 3: me know until after the fact. Two days before our flight,

2888
02:29:55,480 --> 02:29:58,640
Speaker 3: I asked I was asked to be a bridesmaid. My

2889
02:29:58,760 --> 02:30:00,720
Speaker 3: boyfriend was with me in all the ride home, he

2890
02:30:00,840 --> 02:30:04,400
Speaker 3: expressed that sense I'd have to eventually pay for my

2891
02:30:04,560 --> 02:30:08,320
Speaker 3: own flight. Uh for the bat for the bachelor trip.

2892
02:30:08,480 --> 02:30:12,320
Speaker 3: Bachelor trip he thought it was only fair that I

2893
02:30:12,520 --> 02:30:14,480
Speaker 3: pay him back one thousand.

2894
02:30:14,200 --> 02:30:17,920
Speaker 2: Dollars and OPI has already said that she only has

2895
02:30:17,959 --> 02:30:19,440
Speaker 2: about five hundred dollars, right.

2896
02:30:19,600 --> 02:30:22,959
Speaker 3: Yeah, he was the one that like, did this crazy,

2897
02:30:23,040 --> 02:30:26,200
Speaker 3: which is already crazy, Like, yeah, looking at your student

2898
02:30:26,400 --> 02:30:31,840
Speaker 3: loans too, Yeah, to do this is insanity, ridiculous.

2899
02:30:32,879 --> 02:30:34,680
Speaker 2: I was at I was asked to be a bribesman.

2900
02:30:35,120 --> 02:30:35,760
Speaker 2: I always say this.

2901
02:30:37,240 --> 02:30:39,680
Speaker 3: He was adamant that if I went on a trip,

2902
02:30:39,800 --> 02:30:41,360
Speaker 3: that I should pay him back more. And at this

2903
02:30:41,480 --> 02:30:44,920
Speaker 3: point I couldn't really cancel. I fell back into a corner,

2904
02:30:45,040 --> 02:30:48,520
Speaker 3: so I said, Okay. Once we got back, I learned

2905
02:30:48,560 --> 02:30:51,280
Speaker 3: that my student loan had actually gone straight towards my

2906
02:30:51,400 --> 02:30:55,400
Speaker 3: tuition and no funds were released into my account. Our

2907
02:30:55,480 --> 02:30:56,720
Speaker 3: relationship has been rockies.

2908
02:30:57,400 --> 02:30:58,920
Speaker 2: I mean even just the fact that it was a

2909
02:30:58,959 --> 02:31:01,480
Speaker 2: student loan, that she was taking out money from his.

2910
02:31:02,800 --> 02:31:04,680
Speaker 3: It shouldn't have been done in the first place. Yeah,

2911
02:31:04,760 --> 02:31:08,560
Speaker 3: I used my student loans to buy cars from an

2912
02:31:08,560 --> 02:31:11,800
Speaker 3: auction to try and flip with student loans. Was that

2913
02:31:11,840 --> 02:31:14,920
Speaker 3: a smart idea? No? But if it made money, it

2914
02:31:14,920 --> 02:31:16,680
Speaker 3: would have been a smart idea. It would have been great.

2915
02:31:17,080 --> 02:31:18,880
Speaker 3: I lost all the money, but you know it was

2916
02:31:19,800 --> 02:31:22,080
Speaker 3: it would have been fair. Do you really really lose everything?

2917
02:31:23,720 --> 02:31:25,920
Speaker 3: I didn't lose everything. Now, how much do you use

2918
02:31:28,920 --> 02:31:33,120
Speaker 3: like percentage wise? I probably went from like five or

2919
02:31:33,240 --> 02:31:37,519
Speaker 3: seven grand to like two grand. I think that's significant

2920
02:31:37,560 --> 02:31:40,720
Speaker 3: something like that. That's a nineteen year old. That's eighteen

2921
02:31:41,280 --> 02:31:45,360
Speaker 3: significant as an eighteen year old dang ros learning lessons.

2922
02:31:45,800 --> 02:31:47,920
Speaker 3: And you know, my parents encouraged it really and it

2923
02:31:48,000 --> 02:31:51,080
Speaker 3: actually turned out to be the most w parenting unexpected

2924
02:31:51,120 --> 02:31:54,440
Speaker 3: parenting move ever. Why because it taught me like to

2925
02:31:54,600 --> 02:31:57,720
Speaker 3: not blow. I'm not even joking, like that is one

2926
02:31:57,760 --> 02:32:02,480
Speaker 3: of the most informative experience of my like early adult.

2927
02:32:02,160 --> 02:32:04,920
Speaker 1: Tth Yeah, I mean I think, like, I think it

2928
02:32:05,200 --> 02:32:08,879
Speaker 1: is important. It's important to learn what losing money feels

2929
02:32:08,959 --> 02:32:10,039
Speaker 1: like before you big money.

2930
02:32:10,160 --> 02:32:13,120
Speaker 3: They they let me fail in specific guide rails that

2931
02:32:13,320 --> 02:32:16,280
Speaker 3: like made me learn and grow like exponent.

2932
02:32:16,440 --> 02:32:18,240
Speaker 1: Yeah, and they knew you were gonna like you're gonna

2933
02:32:18,320 --> 02:32:20,400
Speaker 1: like be you were gonna be okay, that's right.

2934
02:32:20,680 --> 02:32:23,920
Speaker 3: Yeah, But I digress from my parents' great parenting. I

2935
02:32:24,040 --> 02:32:27,080
Speaker 3: fell back into a depression not me, ok as my

2936
02:32:27,200 --> 02:32:30,360
Speaker 3: university went on strike and my symptoms came back. I

2937
02:32:30,480 --> 02:32:31,960
Speaker 3: tried to find a job that would work for me

2938
02:32:32,000 --> 02:32:34,520
Speaker 3: in my situation, but I had no luck. I recently

2939
02:32:34,879 --> 02:32:36,879
Speaker 3: recovered from my flare up and one of my old

2940
02:32:36,920 --> 02:32:40,080
Speaker 3: bosses graciously hired me back as a server, giving me

2941
02:32:40,200 --> 02:32:43,240
Speaker 3: one shift per week for now until more shifts open up.

2942
02:32:43,920 --> 02:32:46,600
Speaker 3: I should also mention that my boyfriend's dog sadly passed

2943
02:32:46,600 --> 02:32:49,240
Speaker 3: away a month ago. My boyfriend's family went away for

2944
02:32:49,320 --> 02:32:52,400
Speaker 3: Europe again, and my friends flew out for the bachelorette

2945
02:32:52,400 --> 02:32:55,200
Speaker 3: trip that I unfortunately could not go on. While on

2946
02:32:55,280 --> 02:32:57,840
Speaker 3: the phone with my boyfriend, I jokingly asked him when

2947
02:32:57,879 --> 02:33:00,240
Speaker 3: he'd asked me to come stay with him now that

2948
02:33:00,320 --> 02:33:03,120
Speaker 3: he's got the place to himself. He coldly responded, I

2949
02:33:03,200 --> 02:33:05,480
Speaker 3: don't need you to stay with me. The dog's gone.

2950
02:33:05,800 --> 02:33:09,200
Speaker 3: Why would I feed two people? Why would I feed

2951
02:33:09,280 --> 02:33:12,480
Speaker 3: two people? Would I could just feed my self when

2952
02:33:12,480 --> 02:33:19,840
Speaker 3: I could? Yeah, that's fine for what for the gifted membership?

2953
02:33:20,000 --> 02:33:26,879
Speaker 3: Oh that's so horrible, dude, this I was a bit

2954
02:33:26,959 --> 02:33:29,920
Speaker 3: taken aback. We had an argument about this, but he

2955
02:33:30,000 --> 02:33:33,480
Speaker 3: didn't really understand why it was hurtful. A day later,

2956
02:33:33,600 --> 02:33:35,959
Speaker 3: I told him I was scheduled for my first shift back,

2957
02:33:36,000 --> 02:33:38,400
Speaker 3: and he responded saying that we should go on a

2958
02:33:38,520 --> 02:33:42,959
Speaker 3: repayment plan, and that he was again thinking twenty percent

2959
02:33:43,160 --> 02:33:46,560
Speaker 3: of each weekly pay I receive. Now this is a

2960
02:33:46,640 --> 02:33:49,560
Speaker 3: great place to stop and inform Sam, who is completely

2961
02:33:50,160 --> 02:33:53,640
Speaker 3: coming in blind here, so quick deal the rview deal

2962
02:33:53,680 --> 02:33:57,840
Speaker 3: The R view. So basically OP and boyfriend in a relationship.

2963
02:33:58,760 --> 02:34:00,400
Speaker 3: In the beginning, he would like, you know, offer to

2964
02:34:00,400 --> 02:34:01,960
Speaker 3: pay all the time for like dinners and stuff. He

2965
02:34:02,040 --> 02:34:04,480
Speaker 3: was kind of paying for the majority of stuff. She

2966
02:34:04,640 --> 02:34:10,280
Speaker 3: had a autoimmune issues, couldn't work anymore. And then later

2967
02:34:10,879 --> 02:34:12,920
Speaker 3: Op he was like, I feel like I'm like financially

2968
02:34:13,200 --> 02:34:15,600
Speaker 3: for supporting you, et cetera, et cetera. From what we know,

2969
02:34:15,720 --> 02:34:17,959
Speaker 3: he kind of considued he continued to be the one

2970
02:34:18,040 --> 02:34:20,160
Speaker 3: like offering kind of like no, no, no, I'm paying. No, no, no,

2971
02:34:20,320 --> 02:34:23,039
Speaker 3: I'm paying right, So kind of like, oh gosh, I'm

2972
02:34:23,120 --> 02:34:25,640
Speaker 3: like doing so much to financially support you. Meanwhile, he's

2973
02:34:25,680 --> 02:34:27,560
Speaker 3: like no, no, no, I'm paying, no, no, no, I'm paying.

2974
02:34:29,360 --> 02:34:34,440
Speaker 3: So then the relationship was not looking so great. The

2975
02:34:35,280 --> 02:34:37,640
Speaker 3: boyfriend's family was doing this vacation. He's like, really want

2976
02:34:37,680 --> 02:34:40,560
Speaker 3: you here, Like I can't afford it. Hey, I'll pay

2977
02:34:40,640 --> 02:34:42,760
Speaker 3: for the vacation, don't worry about it. She's like, as

2978
02:34:42,800 --> 02:34:45,000
Speaker 3: long as you don't like do it against me, or

2979
02:34:45,240 --> 02:34:46,879
Speaker 3: hold it against me, or or get a flight that's

2980
02:34:46,920 --> 02:34:50,400
Speaker 3: too expensive. And they looked into her student loans to

2981
02:34:50,480 --> 02:34:53,360
Speaker 3: see if she can get some money to help, you know,

2982
02:34:54,040 --> 02:34:56,119
Speaker 3: over it, right, Like a five hundred from the student loans.

2983
02:34:56,760 --> 02:34:58,960
Speaker 3: The plane tickets went from thirteen hundred to twenty seven

2984
02:34:59,040 --> 02:35:02,520
Speaker 3: hundred dollars. And he looked it without telling her explicitly

2985
02:35:02,640 --> 02:35:05,440
Speaker 3: what she told him, not when they were like.

2986
02:35:05,600 --> 02:35:08,520
Speaker 1: Coming to her and was he going to like he

2987
02:35:08,640 --> 02:35:09,760
Speaker 1: was expecting her to pay for that.

2988
02:35:11,400 --> 02:35:13,960
Speaker 3: Now he's getting a job. Now he's saying how he

2989
02:35:14,040 --> 02:35:16,640
Speaker 3: wants her to pay her back. Wow, that's what he's

2990
02:35:16,640 --> 02:35:19,200
Speaker 3: getting to know. Again, I was so messed up. Yeah,

2991
02:35:19,240 --> 02:35:21,720
Speaker 3: so I'll read this last lineback. A day later, I

2992
02:35:21,760 --> 02:35:23,280
Speaker 3: told him I was scheduled for my first shift back,

2993
02:35:23,280 --> 02:35:25,400
Speaker 3: and he responded saying that we should go over a

2994
02:35:25,520 --> 02:35:29,080
Speaker 3: repayment plan. And he was thinking that twenty percent of

2995
02:35:29,640 --> 02:35:32,720
Speaker 3: each of my weekly pay I receive goes to him,

2996
02:35:34,000 --> 02:35:36,600
Speaker 3: so twenty percent God goes straight to him. When he

2997
02:35:36,840 --> 02:35:40,480
Speaker 3: offered to basically he said he was going to pay

2998
02:35:40,560 --> 02:35:43,520
Speaker 3: it completely. Yes, again, I was a bit taken aback

2999
02:35:43,600 --> 02:35:45,720
Speaker 3: since I hadn't even worked my first shift yet and

3000
02:35:45,760 --> 02:35:48,160
Speaker 3: I was planning on using my first pay to buy

3001
02:35:48,440 --> 02:35:51,080
Speaker 3: my medication as I had been off of them for

3002
02:35:51,200 --> 02:35:54,200
Speaker 3: a month. I asked him how much he expected back

3003
02:35:54,320 --> 02:35:57,720
Speaker 3: since I skipped the bachelorette trip and he and he

3004
02:35:57,760 --> 02:36:00,800
Speaker 3: said we agreed on one thousand dollars and he wasn't

3005
02:36:00,840 --> 02:36:04,320
Speaker 3: going to have this discussion again, so I said, okay.

3006
02:36:04,920 --> 02:36:06,720
Speaker 3: It's been two weeks since my first shift, and so

3007
02:36:06,800 --> 02:36:09,560
Speaker 3: he's collected twenty percent for me twice. The last time

3008
02:36:09,600 --> 02:36:12,000
Speaker 3: he collected, he had asked me to make him dinner.

3009
02:36:12,440 --> 02:36:14,959
Speaker 3: He was complaining that he was hungry, and I said okay,

3010
02:36:15,240 --> 02:36:17,560
Speaker 3: So he came over with the ingredients and I made

3011
02:36:17,560 --> 02:36:20,360
Speaker 3: the meal, despite already having made a different meal earlier

3012
02:36:20,400 --> 02:36:23,720
Speaker 3: for my family. That same night, we were intimate. Immediately

3013
02:36:23,760 --> 02:36:26,600
Speaker 3: after we finished is when he decided to ask me

3014
02:36:27,000 --> 02:36:36,440
Speaker 3: for the cash. Bro timing. This guy, Hi sucks. This

3015
02:36:36,600 --> 02:36:39,720
Speaker 3: guy sucks. I don't know if I'm being crazy here,

3016
02:36:39,800 --> 02:36:41,840
Speaker 3: but it just felt so degrading. And he texted me

3017
02:36:41,920 --> 02:36:43,520
Speaker 3: when he got home that night saying, I know it

3018
02:36:43,600 --> 02:36:46,440
Speaker 3: sucks having to pay me back, but it'll be good

3019
02:36:46,480 --> 02:36:49,280
Speaker 3: for your word, as in, it'll teach me how to

3020
02:36:49,360 --> 02:36:51,840
Speaker 3: keep my word. We ended up having a fight about it,

3021
02:36:51,879 --> 02:36:54,360
Speaker 3: where he basically threw in my face the fact that

3022
02:36:54,440 --> 02:36:56,959
Speaker 3: if he were in my shoes, he would either never

3023
02:36:57,240 --> 02:36:59,320
Speaker 3: let someone pay for him to go on a trip

3024
02:36:59,720 --> 02:37:01,680
Speaker 3: or he would offer to pay them back. And fall, Bro,

3025
02:37:01,840 --> 02:37:05,240
Speaker 3: you like you insisted you pushed her so hard to

3026
02:37:05,320 --> 02:37:07,920
Speaker 3: do this. I guess that's what I guess that's what

3027
02:37:08,040 --> 02:37:10,600
Speaker 3: he's been expecting of me, especially with the comments he's

3028
02:37:10,640 --> 02:37:13,120
Speaker 3: made towards me lately. It seems like he resents me

3029
02:37:13,240 --> 02:37:15,720
Speaker 3: a lot. I've tried to be patient and agreeable, but

3030
02:37:15,800 --> 02:37:17,760
Speaker 3: it seems like I can't even really say how I

3031
02:37:17,840 --> 02:37:20,440
Speaker 3: feel since money is involved. I spoke to my sister

3032
02:37:20,480 --> 02:37:22,720
Speaker 3: about this recently, and she was shocked to hear all

3033
02:37:22,800 --> 02:37:25,000
Speaker 3: of this and pointed out how alarming it was. And

3034
02:37:25,160 --> 02:37:27,440
Speaker 3: now I don't know what to think or how to feel.

3035
02:37:28,120 --> 02:37:30,800
Speaker 3: Quick atag to close this out. Okay, guys, yes, I

3036
02:37:30,879 --> 02:37:32,760
Speaker 3: see all of you are pointing out my first comment

3037
02:37:32,800 --> 02:37:34,800
Speaker 3: in this s read where I said I don't want

3038
02:37:34,840 --> 02:37:37,560
Speaker 3: to break up. Please allow me to clarify. I replied

3039
02:37:37,600 --> 02:37:39,840
Speaker 3: to the first comment on this post, and since I

3040
02:37:39,959 --> 02:37:42,320
Speaker 3: was nervous from Uh, I was still nervous from posting.

3041
02:37:42,520 --> 02:37:44,360
Speaker 3: I got a little scared that maybe I gave off

3042
02:37:44,360 --> 02:37:46,480
Speaker 3: the impression that I want to leave him to avoid

3043
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Speaker 3: paying him back. To be clear, I do realize now

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Speaker 3: that would be perfectly fine to do at this point. Again,

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Speaker 3: I am not against ending the relationship. I really don't

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Speaker 3: know what else to say.

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Speaker 1: And end it, and to end it just that is

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Speaker 1: a terrible relationship.

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Speaker 3: End it. He is awful. He's so manipulative. It is

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Speaker 3: super clear to answer the question, what are deal breakers

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02:38:13,080 --> 02:38:16,680
Speaker 3: in a relationship when they basically coerce you into, like

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Speaker 3: push you into doing something and then punish you for that. Yeah,

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Speaker 3: he literally was like, let me pay, let me pay.

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Speaker 3: Oh my gosh, why are you such a financial burden?

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Speaker 3: He kept pushing her into into situations where he would

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Speaker 3: be the one paying, kept punishing her for it.

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Speaker 1: It just just it's kind of like the idea, if

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Speaker 1: you give someone a gift, you can't ask for it back,

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Speaker 1: and that's eli And uh, yeah, I think I think

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Speaker 1: this is is is terrible.

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Speaker 3: She needs to leave immediately. But you know who so

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Speaker 3: beautifully gave our amazing community a gift? Whoop him share

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Speaker 3: a Yuki with twenty more gifted memberships. You you you

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Speaker 3: share a yu Ya Yuki back in the chat again.

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Speaker 3: Thanks fifty vel for the twenty bucks super chat. Thanks

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Speaker 3: Sabine Williams for the five oh one. I don't trust

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Speaker 3: doctor Phil. Neither do we MLK celebrating formans of membership.

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Speaker 3: Lets go kimberly fine. Okay, okay, feet wait was it?

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Speaker 4: Uh?

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Speaker 3: Okay? Fiends need more chaos for our ear holes. Let's go, guys.

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Speaker 3: We figured out the gifting the ten memberships, so we

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Speaker 3: did it. Congrats to everyone who got those and the

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Speaker 3: tom Let thanks to five to five buck tip. I

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Speaker 3: have a chronic illness that has had that has me

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Speaker 3: unable to work. I live on a fixed income via

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Speaker 3: Social Security disability. Anyone who's close to me, friends and

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Speaker 3: partners understand I have limited resources. OPI needs to run.

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Speaker 3: This man doesn't love her.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, agreed and shout out tom Let for gifting on

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Speaker 1: the tiplink the tip point love this, Yes, we love

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Speaker 1: the tip, We love to see you, but yeah, I

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Speaker 1: feel like this. The boyfriend does not understand what this

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Speaker 1: person needs and is actively doing things that endanger per Basically, yes,

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Speaker 1: but that I think is where this stream ends. That's

3085
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Speaker 1: all she wrote.

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Speaker 3: That's all she wrote.

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