1 00:00:07,280 --> 00:00:10,840 Speaker 1: Welcome back to Bachelor Happy Hours, Golden Hour. Thanks so 2 00:00:10,920 --> 00:00:14,000 Speaker 1: much for joining us today. We're so excited to be back. 3 00:00:14,200 --> 00:00:16,360 Speaker 1: How are you doing, my dear friend, Susan. 4 00:00:16,440 --> 00:00:19,919 Speaker 2: I'm doing great. I'm back into the cold weather. Actually 5 00:00:19,960 --> 00:00:22,640 Speaker 2: it's been like fifties, not bad. But tonight it's dropping 6 00:00:22,760 --> 00:00:26,720 Speaker 2: twenty degrees. We might get some flurries, some rain. 7 00:00:27,120 --> 00:00:29,840 Speaker 1: Oh god, Well, can I just tell you I found 8 00:00:29,880 --> 00:00:32,320 Speaker 1: a way to feel like I was in the hot sun. 9 00:00:33,760 --> 00:00:36,720 Speaker 1: I use some medication on my face that burned my face. 10 00:00:36,800 --> 00:00:39,280 Speaker 1: Now I'm peeling. It's not quite like being at the beach, 11 00:00:39,320 --> 00:00:41,000 Speaker 1: but you know the results, the same. 12 00:00:40,920 --> 00:00:43,400 Speaker 2: Cathy between your hair and your face. I mean, it's 13 00:00:43,400 --> 00:00:45,919 Speaker 2: twenty twenty six. This is a new season. 14 00:00:46,520 --> 00:00:48,519 Speaker 1: I know I got things to say about it too. 15 00:00:48,560 --> 00:00:51,880 Speaker 1: Let me just say twenty twenty six. I got things. 16 00:00:52,280 --> 00:00:54,480 Speaker 2: But I am excited for this new year. I really 17 00:00:54,520 --> 00:00:57,520 Speaker 2: am too. I love being in it. Let's see what happened. 18 00:00:57,560 --> 00:01:02,360 Speaker 2: So today we will be answered more of our fan questions. 19 00:01:02,400 --> 00:01:06,160 Speaker 2: But first, there is some very big news that came 20 00:01:06,200 --> 00:01:09,640 Speaker 2: out this week and we just have to talk about it. 21 00:01:09,800 --> 00:01:15,400 Speaker 1: Oh oh my gosh. Okay, So Joe and Serena have 22 00:01:15,600 --> 00:01:20,560 Speaker 1: officially parted ways. They are no longer the hosts of 23 00:01:20,920 --> 00:01:25,960 Speaker 1: Bachelor Happy Hour and Charity and Rachel, two of my favorites, 24 00:01:26,319 --> 00:01:31,480 Speaker 1: have taken over. It's like a whole new beginning. What 25 00:01:31,480 --> 00:01:32,399 Speaker 1: do you think about it? 26 00:01:32,480 --> 00:01:36,000 Speaker 2: First of all, Joe and Serena like, how many podcasts 27 00:01:36,000 --> 00:01:38,240 Speaker 2: did we do with them? I love them. They're like 28 00:01:38,319 --> 00:01:38,960 Speaker 2: the family. 29 00:01:39,640 --> 00:01:44,040 Speaker 1: So do you remember the first time and Serena? I've 30 00:01:44,080 --> 00:01:46,280 Speaker 1: never let her forget it. Every time we see each other, 31 00:01:46,319 --> 00:01:48,760 Speaker 1: we now joke about it. Do you remember the first 32 00:01:48,840 --> 00:01:52,320 Speaker 1: time we were on their podcast and Serena had said 33 00:01:52,440 --> 00:01:56,160 Speaker 1: something about me from Golden You know, I don't really 34 00:01:57,160 --> 00:01:59,200 Speaker 1: Oh I did? She goes. I never said it, and 35 00:01:59,280 --> 00:02:01,720 Speaker 1: I said, oh, yeah you did. And I said, but 36 00:02:01,880 --> 00:02:04,240 Speaker 1: she goes, but I and she was stuttering, she goes, 37 00:02:04,280 --> 00:02:06,080 Speaker 1: I really like you. I really like you. They are 38 00:02:06,240 --> 00:02:14,280 Speaker 1: wonderful people. But you know, listening to their last podcast, 39 00:02:14,600 --> 00:02:16,720 Speaker 1: it was, you know, they were talking to you. When 40 00:02:16,720 --> 00:02:20,480 Speaker 1: they started, they weren't married, and then they were married. 41 00:02:20,480 --> 00:02:22,960 Speaker 1: They weren't they they were legally married. I guess they 42 00:02:23,000 --> 00:02:25,240 Speaker 1: had a Justice to the Peace wedding. But they were 43 00:02:25,240 --> 00:02:28,280 Speaker 1: talking about how much their life had changed in the whatever. 44 00:02:28,320 --> 00:02:30,000 Speaker 1: It was two and a half years they had done 45 00:02:30,000 --> 00:02:32,880 Speaker 1: the podcast and how many things had changed, and I. 46 00:02:32,880 --> 00:02:35,840 Speaker 2: Thought, heart of Bachelor forever. 47 00:02:36,400 --> 00:02:40,079 Speaker 1: And I love that they talked about, you know, how 48 00:02:40,120 --> 00:02:43,800 Speaker 1: they met and how the best part for me though, 49 00:02:44,120 --> 00:02:47,120 Speaker 1: you know when people ask us, Susan, what is your 50 00:02:47,240 --> 00:02:51,919 Speaker 1: favorite interview and we go, uh, they did the same thing, 51 00:02:52,440 --> 00:02:54,560 Speaker 1: they like, how do you choose one? And I love 52 00:02:54,600 --> 00:02:57,240 Speaker 1: that they that they you know, mentioned that you know, 53 00:02:57,240 --> 00:02:58,480 Speaker 1: what's your favorite? I don't know. 54 00:02:59,240 --> 00:03:01,320 Speaker 2: I wonder what they're going to be doing. I'm sure 55 00:03:01,360 --> 00:03:02,360 Speaker 2: we will see them again. 56 00:03:02,560 --> 00:03:05,720 Speaker 1: Oh yeah, I mean I think I think who knows. 57 00:03:05,960 --> 00:03:08,359 Speaker 1: I think that they're not done with podcasting. I think 58 00:03:08,360 --> 00:03:12,000 Speaker 1: they're not done working together. They commented on how well 59 00:03:12,040 --> 00:03:14,760 Speaker 1: they work together, so I think that's really exciting. 60 00:03:15,120 --> 00:03:18,680 Speaker 2: And remember them saying it's an adjustment like living together, 61 00:03:19,080 --> 00:03:21,079 Speaker 2: working together all the same. 62 00:03:21,360 --> 00:03:25,320 Speaker 1: Yeah, place, I wouldn't know. I wouldn't know it. But 63 00:03:25,520 --> 00:03:30,880 Speaker 1: let's talk charity, Charity and Rachel. So I know Charity 64 00:03:31,440 --> 00:03:34,000 Speaker 1: better than I know Rachel. But I love them both. 65 00:03:34,160 --> 00:03:36,960 Speaker 1: I think they're going to be great. Here's here's what 66 00:03:37,160 --> 00:03:40,080 Speaker 1: struck me. And then I'm curious what you think. When 67 00:03:40,080 --> 00:03:44,480 Speaker 1: they started talking, they were both leads and so they 68 00:03:44,480 --> 00:03:47,000 Speaker 1: were talking about what happened on their show, and I'm like, 69 00:03:47,680 --> 00:03:48,120 Speaker 1: I don't know what. 70 00:03:48,360 --> 00:03:50,320 Speaker 2: You kind of get longs for a few minutes because 71 00:03:50,760 --> 00:03:55,120 Speaker 2: we weren't there, but they were so giddy and excited. 72 00:03:55,280 --> 00:03:59,600 Speaker 2: I'm so excited for them. It was like two girls just. 73 00:04:01,800 --> 00:04:05,000 Speaker 1: But I mean, I gotta admit listening to them talk 74 00:04:05,080 --> 00:04:08,320 Speaker 1: about the lead being the leads in their season and 75 00:04:08,640 --> 00:04:10,520 Speaker 1: you know, the one on one dates and the group 76 00:04:10,600 --> 00:04:12,680 Speaker 1: dates that went too long, I'm like, I want that. 77 00:04:13,040 --> 00:04:16,000 Speaker 1: I want that. So I am very excited. I loved 78 00:04:16,080 --> 00:04:19,919 Speaker 1: their first podcast. First of all, we got some tea 79 00:04:20,240 --> 00:04:22,640 Speaker 1: on on Charity's wedding. 80 00:04:23,400 --> 00:04:25,719 Speaker 2: And the seven outfits that she's going to have, you. 81 00:04:25,760 --> 00:04:27,720 Speaker 1: Know, and she's going to look fabulous in every one 82 00:04:27,760 --> 00:04:28,039 Speaker 1: of them. 83 00:04:28,160 --> 00:04:31,239 Speaker 2: But now in her thirtieth birthday celebration in Las Vegas, 84 00:04:31,279 --> 00:04:33,520 Speaker 2: that was okay, And why weren't we invited? 85 00:04:35,080 --> 00:04:35,320 Speaker 1: Mike? 86 00:04:35,400 --> 00:04:36,400 Speaker 2: I'm calling her. 87 00:04:37,240 --> 00:04:41,159 Speaker 1: Wait, can I just say she's when she's talking about, 88 00:04:41,200 --> 00:04:43,680 Speaker 1: you know, the big and of course I know how 89 00:04:43,720 --> 00:04:46,000 Speaker 1: old she is, right, but she's saying, you know, this 90 00:04:46,080 --> 00:04:48,200 Speaker 1: is the big one, and it's like it's it's like 91 00:04:48,520 --> 00:04:50,840 Speaker 1: she literally said, I believe I have to go back 92 00:04:50,839 --> 00:04:54,000 Speaker 1: and check my golden birthday. And I literally I was 93 00:04:54,040 --> 00:04:56,719 Speaker 1: out walking. I had my headset on and I'm listening 94 00:04:56,720 --> 00:05:01,040 Speaker 1: to her podcast and by golden birthday, the hell you are? Wait? 95 00:05:01,120 --> 00:05:03,760 Speaker 2: Do you remember turning thirty though? I mean, seriously, that 96 00:05:03,960 --> 00:05:05,280 Speaker 2: was a big day. 97 00:05:05,440 --> 00:05:08,239 Speaker 1: I don't I remember turning forty. I don't remember turning thirty. 98 00:05:08,279 --> 00:05:10,760 Speaker 2: Oh, I remember thirty. And I know what she's saying. 99 00:05:10,800 --> 00:05:13,160 Speaker 2: And she talked a lot about Frankie Taylor. They're so 100 00:05:13,240 --> 00:05:14,440 Speaker 2: excited about all this. 101 00:05:14,760 --> 00:05:16,840 Speaker 1: So I will say, you know, one of the things 102 00:05:16,839 --> 00:05:20,000 Speaker 1: I'm most excited about for their podcast. First of all, 103 00:05:20,080 --> 00:05:22,719 Speaker 1: they're fresh, and they're new, and they're excited, and they're 104 00:05:22,720 --> 00:05:26,280 Speaker 1: gonna have great ideas and thoughts. But I think they're 105 00:05:26,320 --> 00:05:31,160 Speaker 1: going to bring an incredible perspective to the podcast. Why 106 00:05:31,600 --> 00:05:35,160 Speaker 1: because they were leads and they are going to be 107 00:05:35,320 --> 00:05:39,520 Speaker 1: able to talk in their minds about what's going on 108 00:05:39,680 --> 00:05:43,720 Speaker 1: with Taylor and how she's doing with the situation she 109 00:05:43,800 --> 00:05:47,560 Speaker 1: finds herself in. And I think that's gonna be fascinating listening. 110 00:05:47,800 --> 00:05:50,240 Speaker 2: And the way they were talking. They were talking is 111 00:05:50,320 --> 00:05:52,760 Speaker 2: if there's gonna be some roller coaster rides. 112 00:05:52,920 --> 00:05:54,520 Speaker 1: I mean, yeah, she. 113 00:05:55,839 --> 00:05:58,880 Speaker 2: Taylor just steps out and does her things. She is 114 00:05:58,920 --> 00:05:59,560 Speaker 2: who she is. 115 00:05:59,600 --> 00:06:01,920 Speaker 1: She Yeah, I don't know. 116 00:06:02,080 --> 00:06:04,200 Speaker 2: I think very excited. We're excited about it. 117 00:06:04,320 --> 00:06:08,280 Speaker 1: I'm excited. I think that it is an incredible opportunity 118 00:06:08,360 --> 00:06:12,200 Speaker 1: for them to start on such a high note with Taylor. 119 00:06:12,360 --> 00:06:14,720 Speaker 1: And by the way, can I just say most people 120 00:06:14,800 --> 00:06:18,359 Speaker 1: say Taylor Frankie Paul, I'm going to just start calling 121 00:06:18,360 --> 00:06:20,039 Speaker 1: her Taylor instead. 122 00:06:19,720 --> 00:06:22,120 Speaker 2: Of I call her Frankie Taylor at the time. 123 00:06:23,040 --> 00:06:26,360 Speaker 1: So we're gonna we're gonna simplify this from now on. 124 00:06:26,640 --> 00:06:29,599 Speaker 1: We are Taylor, you call it Taylor. 125 00:06:29,640 --> 00:06:30,599 Speaker 2: I'll call her Frankie. 126 00:06:31,440 --> 00:06:34,839 Speaker 1: Oh, that'll confuse people. But I really do think that 127 00:06:34,839 --> 00:06:38,560 Speaker 1: that Rachel and I think they couldn't have chosen a 128 00:06:38,720 --> 00:06:43,520 Speaker 1: better twosome to take over Bachelor Happy Hour. I think 129 00:06:43,520 --> 00:06:46,440 Speaker 1: they're gonna do a great job. I'm so excited that 130 00:06:46,480 --> 00:06:51,359 Speaker 1: they're joining the podcast family and of course now so 131 00:06:51,560 --> 00:06:54,400 Speaker 1: much success. They don't need, they don't need wishes. They're 132 00:06:54,440 --> 00:06:56,800 Speaker 1: gonna be great, They're gonna they're gonna nail this. But 133 00:06:56,880 --> 00:06:58,840 Speaker 1: I really do think that the fact that they were 134 00:06:58,880 --> 00:07:01,960 Speaker 1: both leads is really going to bring a whole new 135 00:07:02,000 --> 00:07:02,880 Speaker 1: perspective to. 136 00:07:02,760 --> 00:07:07,479 Speaker 2: It, because you know what, what's happening. They knew how 137 00:07:07,520 --> 00:07:09,040 Speaker 2: it worked, so. 138 00:07:09,080 --> 00:07:10,560 Speaker 1: You know what's going to happen. You and I are 139 00:07:10,600 --> 00:07:12,640 Speaker 1: going to be lead, so we can change our perspective. 140 00:07:12,800 --> 00:07:13,640 Speaker 2: I'll tell you what. 141 00:07:13,880 --> 00:07:15,640 Speaker 1: But if you ever feel like we're selling a lot 142 00:07:15,680 --> 00:07:19,720 Speaker 1: of soap, no, but I'm so excited for the girls. 143 00:07:19,760 --> 00:07:23,280 Speaker 2: Congratulations. If you're listening, we cannot wait to talk to 144 00:07:23,280 --> 00:07:24,000 Speaker 2: you about it. 145 00:07:24,120 --> 00:07:26,480 Speaker 1: Okay, grats, Yeah, really, we did a great job. 146 00:07:26,560 --> 00:07:30,320 Speaker 2: Best all right, kath Should we get into today's episode? 147 00:07:30,560 --> 00:07:32,880 Speaker 1: Wait, I have to tell you today's episode. I'm so 148 00:07:32,920 --> 00:07:37,520 Speaker 1: excited about it because we're going to be talking about grandchildren, grandparenting. 149 00:07:37,600 --> 00:07:40,320 Speaker 1: And I have to tell you it's perfect timing because 150 00:07:40,440 --> 00:07:44,320 Speaker 1: I just had Linley, my seven year old granddaughter. I 151 00:07:44,400 --> 00:07:48,600 Speaker 1: had her because school hasn't gone back to session yet 152 00:07:48,880 --> 00:07:52,280 Speaker 1: for a couple of reasons, and parents have to work, 153 00:07:52,280 --> 00:07:54,480 Speaker 1: you know that whole thing. And so I had my 154 00:07:54,560 --> 00:07:58,240 Speaker 1: granddaughter spending the night with me and was here like 155 00:07:58,280 --> 00:08:01,120 Speaker 1: two and a half days. And I have to tell you, 156 00:08:01,720 --> 00:08:05,440 Speaker 1: I have forgotten what it's like. We did. I mean, 157 00:08:05,480 --> 00:08:08,280 Speaker 1: we hunted for turtles. I taught her I'm teaching not 158 00:08:08,400 --> 00:08:12,520 Speaker 1: a crochet. We went to the bookstore and got I'm 159 00:08:12,520 --> 00:08:14,400 Speaker 1: trying to get her to read, because everyone who knows 160 00:08:14,400 --> 00:08:17,040 Speaker 1: me knows I love books. So we sat there reading, 161 00:08:17,280 --> 00:08:23,480 Speaker 1: we baked brownies. I mean, it's like non stop entertainment. 162 00:08:23,720 --> 00:08:26,160 Speaker 1: I love it so much. But I have to tell you. 163 00:08:26,320 --> 00:08:29,440 Speaker 1: She went home last night and my son texted me. 164 00:08:29,600 --> 00:08:34,440 Speaker 1: Kyle who you know, and his wife Candy texted me 165 00:08:34,480 --> 00:08:38,840 Speaker 1: and they always do highs and lows every night at 166 00:08:38,880 --> 00:08:41,440 Speaker 1: the dinner table, the high for the day. Each person 167 00:08:41,520 --> 00:08:43,000 Speaker 1: says they're high for the day and they're low for 168 00:08:43,040 --> 00:08:46,120 Speaker 1: the day. And they both texted me and said Lindley's 169 00:08:46,240 --> 00:08:49,440 Speaker 1: high for the day was spending getting to spend a 170 00:08:49,440 --> 00:08:52,480 Speaker 1: few days with Kiki, which is my grandmother name, spending 171 00:08:52,480 --> 00:08:55,320 Speaker 1: a few days with Kiki that I'm so funny and 172 00:08:55,360 --> 00:08:58,480 Speaker 1: I'm so much fun and she had a best time, 173 00:08:58,520 --> 00:09:03,000 Speaker 1: and of course that just made my I just I 174 00:09:03,040 --> 00:09:03,280 Speaker 1: just went. 175 00:09:03,400 --> 00:09:06,000 Speaker 2: I loved their little card trick. I did it out I. 176 00:09:08,840 --> 00:09:10,839 Speaker 1: Was. She wouldn't teach it to me either. 177 00:09:11,480 --> 00:09:12,840 Speaker 2: She's just the card. 178 00:09:14,559 --> 00:09:16,520 Speaker 1: It was hysteric. I couldn't believe it. She wants to 179 00:09:16,559 --> 00:09:19,320 Speaker 1: be a magician. That's today, you know, next week she 180 00:09:19,360 --> 00:09:22,280 Speaker 1: wants to be a gymnast. She's just it is so fun. 181 00:09:22,280 --> 00:09:25,480 Speaker 1: Grandparent is so different from children. And I'm just gonna 182 00:09:25,480 --> 00:09:27,200 Speaker 1: tell you one thing I did that I would never 183 00:09:27,480 --> 00:09:31,200 Speaker 1: let my children do. I'm embarrassed to admit it. I 184 00:09:31,360 --> 00:09:36,320 Speaker 1: let her have pizza for dinner with and she dips 185 00:09:36,360 --> 00:09:38,000 Speaker 1: it in ranch dressing. 186 00:09:38,400 --> 00:09:40,679 Speaker 2: Oh god, a lot of the younger generations, I know. 187 00:09:40,720 --> 00:09:43,880 Speaker 1: It's just And then and then the brownies we made, 188 00:09:43,960 --> 00:09:46,199 Speaker 1: she had those for dessert, and then guess what she 189 00:09:46,280 --> 00:09:51,199 Speaker 1: had for lunch the next day, more pizza dipped in rans. 190 00:09:51,200 --> 00:09:53,280 Speaker 2: So what's wrong with that? You never let your kids 191 00:09:53,360 --> 00:09:54,679 Speaker 2: have pizza for dinner. 192 00:09:55,400 --> 00:09:59,000 Speaker 1: And the next day for lunch. No, no, why because 193 00:09:59,280 --> 00:10:01,959 Speaker 1: fruits vegta balance meals, you know. 194 00:10:02,440 --> 00:10:06,320 Speaker 2: For God's sake, Kathy, I'm just my baseball season and 195 00:10:06,360 --> 00:10:08,559 Speaker 2: your kids are athletes, you get Oh. 196 00:10:08,320 --> 00:10:10,160 Speaker 1: No, we did no, no, no, no, we did that too. 197 00:10:10,200 --> 00:10:12,160 Speaker 1: We'd have hot dogs at the dug out. No, we 198 00:10:12,200 --> 00:10:12,719 Speaker 1: did that too. 199 00:10:13,320 --> 00:10:17,600 Speaker 2: Anyway, all right, so today we are back and we're 200 00:10:17,640 --> 00:10:20,600 Speaker 2: going to answer more of our fan questions and we 201 00:10:20,679 --> 00:10:22,959 Speaker 2: are excited to check in with you guys and dish 202 00:10:23,000 --> 00:10:26,120 Speaker 2: out some But first I'm going to start us off 203 00:10:26,240 --> 00:10:30,440 Speaker 2: with a question of the day, Kath, what are your 204 00:10:30,679 --> 00:10:35,720 Speaker 2: favorite and least favorite parts of being a grandparent. 205 00:10:36,280 --> 00:10:38,840 Speaker 1: Okay, the favorite part is, like I was just talking 206 00:10:38,840 --> 00:10:43,560 Speaker 1: about spending time with them, I have also the two 207 00:10:43,600 --> 00:10:46,439 Speaker 1: and a half year old granddaughter and then three grandsons. 208 00:10:47,840 --> 00:10:51,040 Speaker 1: Well you know, it's watching them going to the sporting events, 209 00:10:51,440 --> 00:10:55,160 Speaker 1: going to their dance recitals, baking with them, cooking with them, 210 00:10:55,679 --> 00:10:58,360 Speaker 1: spoiling them because you know what, it's not my problem 211 00:10:58,400 --> 00:11:01,240 Speaker 1: when they go home. Oh wait, that is that is 212 00:11:01,320 --> 00:11:04,120 Speaker 1: my I don't want to see my favorite part. But 213 00:11:05,200 --> 00:11:10,640 Speaker 1: I love the least favorite. Honestly, the least favorite is 214 00:11:11,440 --> 00:11:13,599 Speaker 1: I have to change my schedule when they come to 215 00:11:13,640 --> 00:11:16,959 Speaker 1: stay with me. I can't. For example, I couldn't go 216 00:11:17,000 --> 00:11:19,640 Speaker 1: out and leave Linley and go walk my five miles 217 00:11:19,679 --> 00:11:22,200 Speaker 1: so I couldn't do it that. You know, two days 218 00:11:22,280 --> 00:11:26,280 Speaker 1: I missed, which was hard for me. That's me being selfish. 219 00:11:26,400 --> 00:11:30,320 Speaker 1: But I love the fact that my kids get a 220 00:11:30,400 --> 00:11:34,240 Speaker 1: chance to spend a little time, you know, without having 221 00:11:34,240 --> 00:11:36,680 Speaker 1: to make dinner and get kids up in the morning. 222 00:11:37,679 --> 00:11:40,720 Speaker 1: But I also love that, you know, they're not my 223 00:11:40,920 --> 00:11:44,559 Speaker 1: problem to discipline. My problem is to love them, hand 224 00:11:44,600 --> 00:11:48,360 Speaker 1: down culture, tradition, and just have fun with them. My 225 00:11:48,400 --> 00:11:50,880 Speaker 1: little two and a half year old granddaughter. I just 226 00:11:51,160 --> 00:11:55,719 Speaker 1: love watching her grow and watching her learn. And she 227 00:11:55,760 --> 00:11:58,959 Speaker 1: speaks Spanish and English. She's in an immersion program. I 228 00:11:59,040 --> 00:12:01,880 Speaker 1: love watching her be her. You know, I didn't have 229 00:12:01,960 --> 00:12:03,520 Speaker 1: time as a parent. What about you? 230 00:12:04,320 --> 00:12:07,480 Speaker 2: I have them in all stages. So Julian is the 231 00:12:07,559 --> 00:12:11,200 Speaker 2: oldest one, and I cannot believe he's fifteen and a half. 232 00:12:11,280 --> 00:12:11,760 Speaker 2: In May. 233 00:12:12,200 --> 00:12:14,679 Speaker 1: I got one eighteen January. 234 00:12:14,320 --> 00:12:18,240 Speaker 2: Thrive, I know, Oh my god. Then I have Mason, 235 00:12:18,280 --> 00:12:20,760 Speaker 2: who is the athlete, and we go to his games. 236 00:12:21,400 --> 00:12:26,720 Speaker 2: You know, Bella, the teenage granddaughter going through hormones, just 237 00:12:26,760 --> 00:12:29,679 Speaker 2: got a period. Her mother's not real pleased with her. 238 00:12:29,800 --> 00:12:34,760 Speaker 2: She's moody being a grandparent. I hear my daughter complain. 239 00:12:34,880 --> 00:12:38,400 Speaker 2: But when you're looking at it, you know, it's like, well, Britt, 240 00:12:38,440 --> 00:12:40,960 Speaker 2: this is what do you think you did? But my 241 00:12:41,080 --> 00:12:43,800 Speaker 2: favorite part of the two four year olds, okay, once 242 00:12:43,880 --> 00:12:48,200 Speaker 2: my son's one's my daughter. I took my son's Stella 243 00:12:48,679 --> 00:12:53,840 Speaker 2: with me to Virginia to see my daughter and Tovey. 244 00:12:54,520 --> 00:12:58,440 Speaker 2: On the way home, Stella is sharp. On the way home, 245 00:12:58,520 --> 00:13:04,960 Speaker 2: she says, Mimi, how come Tovy only drink diet soda 246 00:13:05,080 --> 00:13:06,280 Speaker 2: and eat oreos. 247 00:13:06,400 --> 00:13:11,560 Speaker 1: I was like, oh, I'm sorry your granddaughter drinks diet soda. 248 00:13:12,240 --> 00:13:16,119 Speaker 2: Britney is a diet soda. Well, I was, I came undone. 249 00:13:16,640 --> 00:13:21,480 Speaker 2: The thing I don't like, my least favorite part is 250 00:13:21,800 --> 00:13:27,240 Speaker 2: watching how they're raising the kids. They're disciplined and they're 251 00:13:27,800 --> 00:13:32,320 Speaker 2: they're what they do because I am totally different in 252 00:13:32,400 --> 00:13:36,000 Speaker 2: my values and my views as some of your kids 253 00:13:36,200 --> 00:13:38,839 Speaker 2: do theirs like that is a struggle. 254 00:13:38,600 --> 00:13:41,280 Speaker 1: I will say, you are. I hadn't thought of that. 255 00:13:41,360 --> 00:13:45,880 Speaker 1: You're absolutely right. When when Kyle got divorced, so as 256 00:13:45,960 --> 00:13:50,800 Speaker 1: all of you may remember, Susan officiated Kyle's second marriage, 257 00:13:50,800 --> 00:13:54,320 Speaker 1: and they're very happily married, and I inherited three wonderful 258 00:13:54,360 --> 00:13:57,959 Speaker 1: grandsons in addition to my two granddaughters son I have five. 259 00:13:58,440 --> 00:14:01,840 Speaker 1: But I was worried. It's so interesting that you say 260 00:14:01,840 --> 00:14:06,200 Speaker 1: that I was worried that my son, you know, the guild, 261 00:14:06,280 --> 00:14:10,360 Speaker 1: all that of getting divorced and kids switching homes and 262 00:14:10,400 --> 00:14:13,760 Speaker 1: all that, that he would be a permissive father, that 263 00:14:14,000 --> 00:14:18,280 Speaker 1: anything Lidley wanted she'd get, And I really was worried. 264 00:14:18,400 --> 00:14:23,400 Speaker 1: Oh my heavens. Linley is the most well behaved. She's 265 00:14:23,560 --> 00:14:28,200 Speaker 1: creative beyond belief. She's polite, she carries her dishes to 266 00:14:28,280 --> 00:14:32,960 Speaker 1: the sink, she doesn't interrupt. She's seven and she is 267 00:14:33,000 --> 00:14:35,640 Speaker 1: a graceful young lady. And that is due to Candy 268 00:14:35,760 --> 00:14:40,360 Speaker 1: and Kyle making her toe the rope. And you're exactly right, 269 00:14:40,480 --> 00:14:44,640 Speaker 1: like it doesn't happen. I think. I think once our 270 00:14:44,760 --> 00:14:49,440 Speaker 1: kids became parents, they're like, oh shit, this is what 271 00:14:49,480 --> 00:14:52,840 Speaker 1: it's like to be a parent. It doesn't just happen. 272 00:14:52,920 --> 00:14:56,160 Speaker 1: Please and thank you and making your bed and cleaning 273 00:14:56,160 --> 00:14:59,160 Speaker 1: your room, and you have to do. And guess what 274 00:15:00,280 --> 00:15:03,320 Speaker 1: our children are now realizing what you and I learned, 275 00:15:03,360 --> 00:15:06,360 Speaker 1: which is parenting is hard work. 276 00:15:07,000 --> 00:15:10,120 Speaker 2: And there for a book of instructions. 277 00:15:10,480 --> 00:15:13,320 Speaker 1: And I will say I've said this many times to 278 00:15:13,400 --> 00:15:18,520 Speaker 1: my kids. You you are not your children's friends like 279 00:15:18,760 --> 00:15:21,880 Speaker 1: my kids were. Don't you remember when your kids were young. 280 00:15:21,960 --> 00:15:23,720 Speaker 1: I have this all the time. My kids will come 281 00:15:23,720 --> 00:15:26,160 Speaker 1: home and go, Mom, I can't believe you won't let 282 00:15:26,240 --> 00:15:30,800 Speaker 1: us do that because Joey's mother and I looked at 283 00:15:30,880 --> 00:15:34,760 Speaker 1: them and would always say I said that, first of all, yeah, exactly. 284 00:15:34,840 --> 00:15:37,400 Speaker 1: First of all, I would say, I don't care what 285 00:15:37,480 --> 00:15:41,160 Speaker 1: Joey's mother does. And secondly, I'm not here to be 286 00:15:41,240 --> 00:15:44,000 Speaker 1: your friend. I am here to raise you to be 287 00:15:44,040 --> 00:15:47,080 Speaker 1: the best adult you can be. So I'm really sorry 288 00:15:47,520 --> 00:15:51,080 Speaker 1: that you can't go toilet paper the neighbor's house. But 289 00:15:51,120 --> 00:15:51,960 Speaker 1: we're not doing that. 290 00:15:53,040 --> 00:15:55,960 Speaker 2: Mine was a big thing on curfew. Everybody was allowed 291 00:15:55,960 --> 00:15:59,560 Speaker 2: out later than I was. Oh yeah, Mom, Why why 292 00:16:00,080 --> 00:16:03,160 Speaker 2: father said nothing good happens after eleven at night? 293 00:16:03,520 --> 00:16:06,520 Speaker 1: Oh I must have known your father because I said 294 00:16:06,520 --> 00:16:08,280 Speaker 1: nothing good happens after nine. 295 00:16:08,960 --> 00:16:10,280 Speaker 2: Well, I had to be home at nine, but that 296 00:16:10,320 --> 00:16:12,640 Speaker 2: when I was younger. As I got older, even they 297 00:16:12,680 --> 00:16:13,600 Speaker 2: still have rules. 298 00:16:14,080 --> 00:16:17,120 Speaker 1: Well, I think it's going to be interesting. You know, 299 00:16:17,160 --> 00:16:19,640 Speaker 1: we're going to get into some questions here, but I 300 00:16:19,720 --> 00:16:23,760 Speaker 1: think it's really going to be interesting to see how 301 00:16:24,480 --> 00:16:28,040 Speaker 1: our children, well your daughter, I'm gonna have to talk 302 00:16:28,080 --> 00:16:30,880 Speaker 1: to Brittany. Brittany. My psa few today is get that 303 00:16:30,960 --> 00:16:33,520 Speaker 1: kid off died? So not good for children, not good 304 00:16:33,520 --> 00:16:35,440 Speaker 1: for anyone, but definitely not for children. 305 00:16:35,800 --> 00:16:38,000 Speaker 2: And as you said, we are coming back here and 306 00:16:38,120 --> 00:16:42,520 Speaker 2: answering some of the questions, and we're really excited that 307 00:16:42,560 --> 00:16:44,960 Speaker 2: you guys are here with us, and we're here to 308 00:16:45,040 --> 00:16:55,000 Speaker 2: dish out some more advice. Kathy, after being the favorite 309 00:16:55,080 --> 00:16:58,680 Speaker 2: and not so favorite part of grandparenting, let's hear what 310 00:16:58,760 --> 00:17:01,800 Speaker 2: our listeners had say. Would you like to go first 311 00:17:01,880 --> 00:17:03,120 Speaker 2: or would you like me to go first? 312 00:17:03,280 --> 00:17:07,000 Speaker 1: Here we go, I'll take first one. Mary Anne writes, Hi, 313 00:17:07,119 --> 00:17:10,680 Speaker 1: Kathy and Susan, I'm a big fan and look forward 314 00:17:10,720 --> 00:17:13,720 Speaker 1: to your episodes each week. I know you are both 315 00:17:13,760 --> 00:17:16,880 Speaker 1: grandparents and would love your thoughts on what the role 316 00:17:16,960 --> 00:17:20,199 Speaker 1: of a grandparent means to you. I recently had a 317 00:17:20,240 --> 00:17:23,159 Speaker 1: discussion with my daughter about my role as a grandparent. 318 00:17:23,240 --> 00:17:26,040 Speaker 1: I am sixty six years old. I have two tenage 319 00:17:26,080 --> 00:17:29,240 Speaker 1: grandchildren and two under the age of eight. My daughter 320 00:17:29,320 --> 00:17:33,119 Speaker 1: told me that grandparents should not share opinions, experiences, or 321 00:17:33,200 --> 00:17:36,480 Speaker 1: life lessons with the grandchildren. She believes that it is 322 00:17:36,520 --> 00:17:40,560 Speaker 1: the parent's role and that grandparents should just quote, spend 323 00:17:40,600 --> 00:17:44,399 Speaker 1: time and have fun unquote with their grandchildren. I was 324 00:17:44,480 --> 00:17:47,560 Speaker 1: hurt by this and don't agree, but will respect her wishes. 325 00:17:47,800 --> 00:17:50,480 Speaker 1: But I also don't want to be silenced. I love 326 00:17:50,560 --> 00:17:54,040 Speaker 1: to share my life experiences when relevant with my grandchildren. 327 00:17:54,080 --> 00:17:56,240 Speaker 1: We have lots of fun and I feel like I 328 00:17:56,280 --> 00:18:00,199 Speaker 1: have so much more to offer them. Grandparents have knowledge, wisdom, 329 00:18:00,400 --> 00:18:03,879 Speaker 1: life experiences, and can be great mentors as well. I 330 00:18:03,960 --> 00:18:08,440 Speaker 1: want to be more than just a quote unquote fun grandparent, 331 00:18:09,200 --> 00:18:12,639 Speaker 1: What happened to teaching our children to respect, admire, and 332 00:18:12,680 --> 00:18:17,240 Speaker 1: perhaps learn from the senior generation. What are your thoughts? Also, 333 00:18:17,560 --> 00:18:21,119 Speaker 1: keep living your best lives, ladies, you rock well, Thank you, 334 00:18:21,160 --> 00:18:24,240 Speaker 1: we are rocking. What do you say to her, Susan. 335 00:18:24,080 --> 00:18:28,840 Speaker 2: MARYM I agree whole one hundred and fifty thousand percent. 336 00:18:28,920 --> 00:18:32,119 Speaker 2: Even though because the generations are so different, by the 337 00:18:32,160 --> 00:18:36,040 Speaker 2: time we have grandchildren, they love our stories. I mean, 338 00:18:36,080 --> 00:18:39,720 Speaker 2: they're not as crazy as their parents would be. But 339 00:18:40,920 --> 00:18:44,840 Speaker 2: why would your daughter try to silence you? And so 340 00:18:45,080 --> 00:18:50,400 Speaker 2: you're telling them something negative or scary that might haunt them, 341 00:18:50,440 --> 00:18:52,000 Speaker 2: But of course you wouldn't do that. 342 00:18:53,160 --> 00:18:56,040 Speaker 1: So happy a couple of fun, right, I have a 343 00:18:56,080 --> 00:19:00,679 Speaker 1: couple of thoughts on it. I like you, Marriam. I 344 00:19:00,720 --> 00:19:05,760 Speaker 1: do tell my grandchildren's stories about me as a child 345 00:19:06,320 --> 00:19:09,640 Speaker 1: and stories about their their parents, you know, their parents 346 00:19:09,680 --> 00:19:13,040 Speaker 1: when they were children. Here's what I would encourage you. 347 00:19:13,240 --> 00:19:16,200 Speaker 1: My thought is, I agree with Susan, the world's coming 348 00:19:16,200 --> 00:19:20,000 Speaker 1: to and you here to feel the building. We're agreeing. 349 00:19:20,400 --> 00:19:23,119 Speaker 1: Here's I do agree that we have lots of wisdom. 350 00:19:23,200 --> 00:19:25,120 Speaker 1: I agree with you as well. We have a lot 351 00:19:25,160 --> 00:19:29,440 Speaker 1: of life experiences and we want to be the fun grandparent, 352 00:19:29,520 --> 00:19:33,159 Speaker 1: but we also want to share our life experiences. I 353 00:19:33,400 --> 00:19:38,760 Speaker 1: do think that it is not okay if our children 354 00:19:39,280 --> 00:19:43,720 Speaker 1: tell us that they don't want us to discipline their children. 355 00:19:45,040 --> 00:19:47,959 Speaker 1: I think that's okay. But even that, I must say, Susan, 356 00:19:48,040 --> 00:19:51,320 Speaker 1: I draw the line. I kind of say my house, 357 00:19:51,480 --> 00:19:56,879 Speaker 1: my rules. Now by that, I'm not going to uh, 358 00:19:57,160 --> 00:20:01,800 Speaker 1: discipline my granddaughter and say, I just said you she 359 00:20:01,880 --> 00:20:06,200 Speaker 1: had ranch and pizza. I'm ranch dressing. I would never 360 00:20:06,240 --> 00:20:08,280 Speaker 1: have let my kids do that, and they would have 361 00:20:08,320 --> 00:20:11,040 Speaker 1: had and if I did, because it's not healthy, but 362 00:20:11,119 --> 00:20:13,560 Speaker 1: I would have I would have let them have if 363 00:20:13,600 --> 00:20:15,920 Speaker 1: I would have let them do it occasionally, if they 364 00:20:16,000 --> 00:20:20,280 Speaker 1: had vegetables, fruits and vegetables on a side serving with 365 00:20:20,320 --> 00:20:22,359 Speaker 1: a pizza. But of course that defeats the point of 366 00:20:22,400 --> 00:20:25,639 Speaker 1: having pizza Knight. So we did Pizza Night's at our house. 367 00:20:26,040 --> 00:20:28,639 Speaker 1: That kind of thing I will do. I am not 368 00:20:29,400 --> 00:20:36,639 Speaker 1: going to discipline my children's my grandchildren on the way 369 00:20:37,680 --> 00:20:41,040 Speaker 1: they speak unless they're rude to me. I'm not going 370 00:20:41,119 --> 00:20:42,960 Speaker 1: to give them life lessons. 371 00:20:43,240 --> 00:20:45,760 Speaker 2: Well now, God remind them. If they didn't say thank you, 372 00:20:45,840 --> 00:20:47,439 Speaker 2: so what do you say? Oh? Thank you? 373 00:20:47,560 --> 00:20:50,400 Speaker 1: Yes, I do that as well. But for example, you 374 00:20:50,440 --> 00:20:54,280 Speaker 1: do you think maybe maybe her kids are divorced. I mean, 375 00:20:54,440 --> 00:20:58,960 Speaker 1: my I don't talk about my son's ex wife with 376 00:20:58,960 --> 00:21:01,560 Speaker 1: with my granddaughter. And when my granddaughter brings her up, 377 00:21:01,880 --> 00:21:05,320 Speaker 1: I say things like, oh, that's nice. Nice, you know, 378 00:21:05,520 --> 00:21:07,840 Speaker 1: I'm sure she's busy, you know whatever. I try to 379 00:21:07,920 --> 00:21:10,720 Speaker 1: keep it berry on the up and up. But I 380 00:21:10,880 --> 00:21:14,600 Speaker 1: think maybe your daughter Mary is afraid that you are 381 00:21:15,640 --> 00:21:19,680 Speaker 1: teaching her some value. In other words, they don't maybe 382 00:21:19,840 --> 00:21:21,840 Speaker 1: they don't go to church, and you want to take 383 00:21:21,880 --> 00:21:24,640 Speaker 1: her to church. You can't do that if the parents 384 00:21:24,760 --> 00:21:28,240 Speaker 1: don't want her reading the Bible. That's a great example 385 00:21:28,280 --> 00:21:31,520 Speaker 1: to me. If if you're if her parents the kids 386 00:21:31,680 --> 00:21:35,280 Speaker 1: parents don't want the kids reading the Bible, or then 387 00:21:35,320 --> 00:21:38,879 Speaker 1: you can't take them, or you can't take them to temple, 388 00:21:39,000 --> 00:21:42,040 Speaker 1: You can't take them to church, you can't do those 389 00:21:42,080 --> 00:21:45,520 Speaker 1: things with them. You can't take your children grandchildren to 390 00:21:46,000 --> 00:21:50,520 Speaker 1: a rally, a political rally. Those are choices that the 391 00:21:50,640 --> 00:21:51,840 Speaker 1: parent gets to make. 392 00:21:52,680 --> 00:21:57,120 Speaker 2: And when her daughter says life lessons, you learn from 393 00:21:57,240 --> 00:22:01,639 Speaker 2: life lessons when somebody's else somebody else's life lesson, well 394 00:22:01,680 --> 00:22:06,320 Speaker 2: I wouldn't want her to share like my grandkids can 395 00:22:06,440 --> 00:22:07,320 Speaker 2: teach me things. 396 00:22:07,520 --> 00:22:10,240 Speaker 1: Okay, But Susan, what if your what if your granddaughter, 397 00:22:10,760 --> 00:22:14,359 Speaker 1: your your grand let's say your teenage granddaughter. You were 398 00:22:14,359 --> 00:22:17,399 Speaker 1: over there babysitting and she brought home. I'm making this 399 00:22:17,520 --> 00:22:21,040 Speaker 1: up a failing math test. You're you're you're babysitting, they're 400 00:22:21,040 --> 00:22:23,840 Speaker 1: out of town. She brought home a failing math test. 401 00:22:24,160 --> 00:22:26,560 Speaker 1: Are you going to sit down and make her correct 402 00:22:26,600 --> 00:22:27,200 Speaker 1: the answers? 403 00:22:28,720 --> 00:22:32,000 Speaker 2: I'm not going why she failed it? What's going on? 404 00:22:32,440 --> 00:22:35,960 Speaker 1: No, See, that's not your business, not your thing. That's 405 00:22:36,119 --> 00:22:38,600 Speaker 1: to me. I'm not saying you're wrong. I'm saying I 406 00:22:38,640 --> 00:22:41,600 Speaker 1: think that's what Mariam is getting at here, Mariam's daughter. 407 00:22:41,920 --> 00:22:45,719 Speaker 1: So I think Mary, my advice to you is, I 408 00:22:45,760 --> 00:22:48,160 Speaker 1: agree with you. We do have lots of life lessons 409 00:22:48,200 --> 00:22:50,520 Speaker 1: and some of the fun stories and all those things 410 00:22:50,600 --> 00:22:54,800 Speaker 1: I think are passing along heritage traditions are fabulous. But 411 00:22:54,920 --> 00:22:59,640 Speaker 1: I think the two things, yeah, your opinion on. 412 00:22:59,680 --> 00:23:02,360 Speaker 2: Because your opinion and our kid's opinion might be too. 413 00:23:02,520 --> 00:23:05,760 Speaker 1: Yeah, you don't exactly. You don't get to if if 414 00:23:05,800 --> 00:23:08,920 Speaker 1: you are not a current support of our president and 415 00:23:08,960 --> 00:23:12,680 Speaker 1: your child is you don't get to tell your grandchildren 416 00:23:13,080 --> 00:23:16,160 Speaker 1: what you think it's those kinds of things that might 417 00:23:16,359 --> 00:23:22,040 Speaker 1: be against her her daughters. So I would have the conversation. 418 00:23:22,160 --> 00:23:25,639 Speaker 2: As she says, I love to share my life experience 419 00:23:26,160 --> 00:23:31,159 Speaker 2: when relevant. What is wrong with that? Oh, guys, you 420 00:23:31,160 --> 00:23:33,359 Speaker 2: you think this is nuts. But when I was a 421 00:23:33,400 --> 00:23:36,919 Speaker 2: little girl and my daddy came home and got me 422 00:23:37,040 --> 00:23:40,399 Speaker 2: this or whatever what you felt like, there's nothing wrong 423 00:23:40,440 --> 00:23:41,480 Speaker 2: with that. I don't think. 424 00:23:41,560 --> 00:23:46,040 Speaker 1: Okay, how about this one. That's lovely, that's very Norman rockwellish. 425 00:23:46,119 --> 00:23:48,480 Speaker 1: Let me give you another. Let me give you another one. 426 00:23:50,040 --> 00:23:51,840 Speaker 1: This did not happen to me, but I'm it's a 427 00:23:51,840 --> 00:23:59,600 Speaker 1: great story. You know, Linley, When I was sixteen, I 428 00:23:59,680 --> 00:24:02,960 Speaker 1: got caught stealing a car and I had to go, 429 00:24:03,080 --> 00:24:06,520 Speaker 1: oh my god, it didn't that's a life lesson. 430 00:24:06,640 --> 00:24:07,920 Speaker 2: Why would you tell someone? 431 00:24:08,000 --> 00:24:12,119 Speaker 1: I don't know, but I'm saying we are assuming that 432 00:24:12,800 --> 00:24:16,399 Speaker 1: all life lessons are nice stories. And I went to 433 00:24:16,440 --> 00:24:18,480 Speaker 1: the store and I gave the woman behind me ten 434 00:24:18,520 --> 00:24:21,639 Speaker 1: dollars for her groceries. No, maybe she had an issue 435 00:24:21,640 --> 00:24:25,720 Speaker 1: with drugs, Maybe she stole cars. Maybe I'm saying you 436 00:24:26,400 --> 00:24:32,320 Speaker 1: have to. And so my advice, Mariam is, ask your 437 00:24:32,440 --> 00:24:37,480 Speaker 1: daughter what experiences you can share with her with your grandchildren. 438 00:24:37,640 --> 00:24:41,440 Speaker 1: That's what I would do. That's a lot you wouldn't, Susan. 439 00:24:41,800 --> 00:24:42,920 Speaker 2: No, I don't think I would. 440 00:24:43,920 --> 00:24:46,000 Speaker 1: And that's why your granddaughter's drinking diet coke. 441 00:24:47,240 --> 00:24:49,560 Speaker 2: She's four and I don't live with her, but she 442 00:24:49,600 --> 00:24:51,919 Speaker 2: would not do that in my house, let me tell you. 443 00:24:52,080 --> 00:24:55,480 Speaker 2: But you know what I learned from my grandkids. They 444 00:24:55,560 --> 00:24:57,880 Speaker 2: helped me with the cell phone. Things I didn't even 445 00:24:57,920 --> 00:25:01,400 Speaker 2: know existed on my phone. They're you have a seventeen 446 00:25:02,640 --> 00:25:04,560 Speaker 2: How do I do it? Guys? And they do it 447 00:25:04,600 --> 00:25:08,040 Speaker 2: for you, and I go, no, no, no, teach mebe slow down. 448 00:25:08,600 --> 00:25:10,159 Speaker 2: You just do this this this. 449 00:25:10,520 --> 00:25:13,159 Speaker 1: Can I tell you by two and a half year 450 00:25:13,200 --> 00:25:16,600 Speaker 1: old granddaughter. So I don't again my thing. Oh that's 451 00:25:16,640 --> 00:25:21,960 Speaker 1: another example, by the way, if that is another great example. 452 00:25:22,400 --> 00:25:26,760 Speaker 1: If you think that screen time is find not a problem, 453 00:25:26,880 --> 00:25:30,040 Speaker 1: and you let your and but your daughter. 454 00:25:30,000 --> 00:25:32,000 Speaker 2: There's a certain time of day they're allowed. 455 00:25:32,080 --> 00:25:35,960 Speaker 1: No, no, no, that's her rule, right, that's your daughter's rule. 456 00:25:36,520 --> 00:25:40,240 Speaker 1: If if my son or my daughter has a rule 457 00:25:40,280 --> 00:25:43,639 Speaker 1: that the kids don't have screen time, Kyle's daughter is 458 00:25:43,680 --> 00:25:46,919 Speaker 1: not allowed and I support it, by the way, is 459 00:25:46,960 --> 00:25:50,240 Speaker 1: not allowed when she's staying with them. She is not 460 00:25:50,400 --> 00:25:54,119 Speaker 1: allowed any time on the iPad, any of it. I 461 00:25:54,160 --> 00:25:57,880 Speaker 1: holy support that kids get enough of it at school. Now, 462 00:25:58,000 --> 00:26:01,680 Speaker 1: let's say Linluiss at school. A lot of kids here, Yes, 463 00:26:01,760 --> 00:26:03,720 Speaker 1: they learn on iPads a lot of. 464 00:26:03,840 --> 00:26:06,320 Speaker 2: The learning something. But it's not like a movie. 465 00:26:06,119 --> 00:26:08,239 Speaker 1: Or oh no, no, no no, it's I say they 466 00:26:08,240 --> 00:26:11,320 Speaker 1: have enough time on doing lessons and things. They have 467 00:26:11,440 --> 00:26:14,000 Speaker 1: enough screen time at school. But let's just say, Susan 468 00:26:14,359 --> 00:26:16,320 Speaker 1: that Linley was at my house and you know, I'd 469 00:26:16,480 --> 00:26:18,760 Speaker 1: really like to be reading a book or needle pointing, 470 00:26:19,520 --> 00:26:21,960 Speaker 1: and so I say, literally, just pick up your iPad 471 00:26:22,000 --> 00:26:26,359 Speaker 1: and here's my iPad. That is wrong. That is me 472 00:26:26,600 --> 00:26:31,800 Speaker 1: putting my my value system. That's a great example, putting 473 00:26:31,800 --> 00:26:36,000 Speaker 1: my values ahead of what my son's values are. So 474 00:26:36,080 --> 00:26:39,200 Speaker 1: that's I think what she's getting at. So again, Mariam, 475 00:26:39,280 --> 00:26:43,520 Speaker 1: I would encourage you to find out exactly what it 476 00:26:43,680 --> 00:26:47,040 Speaker 1: is she doesn't want you to share, because you're absolutely right. 477 00:26:47,080 --> 00:26:51,000 Speaker 1: We do have lots of great stories and heritage to 478 00:26:51,240 --> 00:26:54,560 Speaker 1: pass along in traditions to our kids, that folklore that 479 00:26:54,920 --> 00:26:58,560 Speaker 1: we lose right after a few generations. So I love 480 00:26:58,680 --> 00:27:02,240 Speaker 1: that have that. Oh, it was about conversation. Talk with 481 00:27:02,359 --> 00:27:03,360 Speaker 1: your child. 482 00:27:03,359 --> 00:27:15,439 Speaker 2: Learn the rules next is Chris, Hi, Kathy, and Susan. First, 483 00:27:15,720 --> 00:27:19,680 Speaker 2: let me say how much I enjoy listening to your podcasts. 484 00:27:20,040 --> 00:27:24,720 Speaker 2: I have a question regarding grandchildren. Our daughter is pregnant 485 00:27:24,720 --> 00:27:28,399 Speaker 2: with our first granddaughter. She's due in March, and we 486 00:27:28,480 --> 00:27:32,600 Speaker 2: are beyond excited. The problem is we live in Las 487 00:27:32,680 --> 00:27:39,280 Speaker 2: Vegas and they're in Tulsa, Oklahoma. None of my grandparents 488 00:27:39,320 --> 00:27:42,879 Speaker 2: lived locally to me growing up, and neither were my 489 00:27:43,080 --> 00:27:46,320 Speaker 2: daughter's grandparents, and we all felt like we missed out. 490 00:27:46,920 --> 00:27:51,960 Speaker 2: My husband and I have always wanted to be those 491 00:27:52,040 --> 00:27:55,440 Speaker 2: grandparents who live close so the grandkids could come over 492 00:27:55,600 --> 00:27:59,240 Speaker 2: any time within reason, and we could be involved in 493 00:27:59,280 --> 00:28:02,720 Speaker 2: their lives. We are sixty one and fifty six and 494 00:28:02,800 --> 00:28:07,600 Speaker 2: have jobs. We also love living in Vegas. Tulsa from 495 00:28:07,680 --> 00:28:12,680 Speaker 2: what we've seen, isn't exactly where we see ourselves enjoying living, 496 00:28:13,200 --> 00:28:16,720 Speaker 2: and we don't know any one other than our daughter 497 00:28:16,840 --> 00:28:20,400 Speaker 2: and son in law and his family. But it isn't. 498 00:28:20,840 --> 00:28:27,359 Speaker 2: But isn't it ultimately about family? It shouldn't matter where 499 00:28:27,400 --> 00:28:30,000 Speaker 2: you live as long as you're close to them, right 500 00:28:30,760 --> 00:28:35,520 Speaker 2: or is it okay to be long distance slash FaceTime grandparents? 501 00:28:36,160 --> 00:28:38,800 Speaker 2: I know we'll be sad and feel like we're missing out, 502 00:28:39,000 --> 00:28:42,560 Speaker 2: but we also have to have a life outside of 503 00:28:42,880 --> 00:28:47,720 Speaker 2: just the grandkids. There's no chance of them leaving Tulsa, 504 00:28:47,840 --> 00:28:50,440 Speaker 2: and I don't blame them. It's a great place to 505 00:28:50,560 --> 00:28:53,280 Speaker 2: raise a family. I respect you both in the wisdom 506 00:28:53,320 --> 00:28:55,880 Speaker 2: you bring to the show and would love any advice 507 00:28:56,000 --> 00:29:01,120 Speaker 2: or experiences you could share. Happy twenty twenty six and 508 00:29:01,280 --> 00:29:04,280 Speaker 2: we wish you the same, Chris, Happy twenty twenty six 509 00:29:04,400 --> 00:29:10,200 Speaker 2: and whoa, I get it. I totally get this. There's 510 00:29:10,240 --> 00:29:12,720 Speaker 2: a way to still be in their lives. Yes, you 511 00:29:12,800 --> 00:29:15,840 Speaker 2: will have to result to FaceTime, but you got to 512 00:29:15,880 --> 00:29:19,400 Speaker 2: be around in the beginning and visit enough so that 513 00:29:19,480 --> 00:29:23,680 Speaker 2: they're comfortable and knowing who you are, because kids get 514 00:29:23,720 --> 00:29:27,560 Speaker 2: that strange thing when you're not really around. Christopher was 515 00:29:27,600 --> 00:29:31,640 Speaker 2: his pet peeve about Stella knowing her me me, and 516 00:29:31,920 --> 00:29:34,440 Speaker 2: we're very close because I babysat the first year of 517 00:29:34,480 --> 00:29:34,920 Speaker 2: her life. 518 00:29:35,160 --> 00:29:38,600 Speaker 1: Yes, but that's because you live locally, is her point. 519 00:29:38,800 --> 00:29:42,040 Speaker 2: Toby. It took me time. I would go down to 520 00:29:42,120 --> 00:29:44,400 Speaker 2: Virginia a couple times a year. She comes up a 521 00:29:44,400 --> 00:29:46,520 Speaker 2: couple times a year, and it took a lot of time. 522 00:29:46,840 --> 00:29:49,960 Speaker 2: Dicky is down there a lot. My ex he was 523 00:29:50,080 --> 00:29:53,160 Speaker 2: very close to Toby, but she has come around. She 524 00:29:53,280 --> 00:29:55,840 Speaker 2: knows her MEMI and it does work. 525 00:29:56,320 --> 00:30:04,920 Speaker 1: I think so. I also, I also Chris lived near 526 00:30:05,120 --> 00:30:08,560 Speaker 1: one set of grandparents uh and the other set I 527 00:30:08,600 --> 00:30:11,719 Speaker 1: did not live close to. However, there was not FaceTime 528 00:30:12,200 --> 00:30:14,280 Speaker 1: and the and the resources we have now to keep 529 00:30:14,320 --> 00:30:17,720 Speaker 1: in contact. Having said that, I was much closer to 530 00:30:17,920 --> 00:30:21,160 Speaker 1: my mother's parents than I was to my dad's because 531 00:30:21,200 --> 00:30:24,560 Speaker 1: they live my mother's live locally. Having said that, you 532 00:30:24,640 --> 00:30:28,400 Speaker 1: guys are working and there's not much you can do, 533 00:30:28,480 --> 00:30:32,000 Speaker 1: but is it okay? Of course it's okay forgive yourself, 534 00:30:33,680 --> 00:30:38,239 Speaker 1: give yourself the latitude to say, look, this isn't what 535 00:30:38,280 --> 00:30:40,480 Speaker 1: we thought it would be, but we're working. We have 536 00:30:40,640 --> 00:30:44,480 Speaker 1: friends in Las Vegas. We have a life in Las Vegas. 537 00:30:45,040 --> 00:30:48,000 Speaker 1: I think Susan's right spend. I don't blame you for 538 00:30:48,080 --> 00:30:51,040 Speaker 1: not wanting to leave. I think, you know, my kids 539 00:30:51,080 --> 00:30:57,040 Speaker 1: every time they talk conceptually, my daughter and her husband, 540 00:30:57,080 --> 00:31:01,000 Speaker 1: my son, occasionally they conceptually talk about living somewhere else. 541 00:31:01,000 --> 00:31:02,720 Speaker 1: I don't think it's ever going to happen, but they 542 00:31:02,720 --> 00:31:07,480 Speaker 1: talk about it, and I say to them, you know, 543 00:31:08,560 --> 00:31:11,360 Speaker 1: like if they move back to the Northeast, I don't 544 00:31:11,400 --> 00:31:13,280 Speaker 1: want to go back to the cold. You know, she 545 00:31:13,320 --> 00:31:15,200 Speaker 1: doesn't want to go to Tulsa. I don't want to 546 00:31:15,240 --> 00:31:17,640 Speaker 1: go back to the northeast. I don't like the snow, 547 00:31:18,160 --> 00:31:22,640 Speaker 1: and so these are choices we make as parents and grandparents. However, 548 00:31:22,680 --> 00:31:26,080 Speaker 1: I will say I am retired, and if any of 549 00:31:26,120 --> 00:31:30,840 Speaker 1: my kids moved, I and you know the Susan next Well, 550 00:31:30,880 --> 00:31:33,400 Speaker 1: it costs a lot of money to travel, but I 551 00:31:33,440 --> 00:31:37,560 Speaker 1: would try to spend at least a week a month 552 00:31:38,880 --> 00:31:42,760 Speaker 1: with you know, whoever moves or if I moved whatever, 553 00:31:42,800 --> 00:31:45,800 Speaker 1: I mean, I could move away. I do think it's 554 00:31:45,880 --> 00:31:50,880 Speaker 1: very important. But I do think FaceTime has changed a lot. 555 00:31:51,440 --> 00:31:55,120 Speaker 2: And also they got to prepare themselves because his family 556 00:31:55,320 --> 00:31:58,680 Speaker 2: is going to be local. When you go to visit, 557 00:31:58,840 --> 00:32:01,040 Speaker 2: there's going to be some jeil because they're going to 558 00:32:01,120 --> 00:32:05,480 Speaker 2: be very attached to his parents and that's what they're 559 00:32:05,480 --> 00:32:09,680 Speaker 2: familiar with. But it's not forever, Like I said, it 560 00:32:09,800 --> 00:32:12,600 Speaker 2: takes a few years and they'll they'll know you because 561 00:32:12,720 --> 00:32:15,640 Speaker 2: you obviously will love them to death, and you'll face time, 562 00:32:16,120 --> 00:32:16,320 Speaker 2: you know. 563 00:32:17,480 --> 00:32:21,120 Speaker 1: I mean, I think it's listen, it's not a question 564 00:32:21,160 --> 00:32:24,959 Speaker 1: whether it's okay or not okay, because you guys are working. 565 00:32:25,360 --> 00:32:27,480 Speaker 1: It's you. You know, some of these things are out 566 00:32:27,520 --> 00:32:31,440 Speaker 1: of your control. So Chris, you can't unless you can 567 00:32:31,520 --> 00:32:34,720 Speaker 1: relocate and you're willing to. It doesn't matter whether it's 568 00:32:34,760 --> 00:32:37,720 Speaker 1: okay or not, because you both are gainfully employed in 569 00:32:37,800 --> 00:32:41,120 Speaker 1: Las Vegas, Nevada. I get it. And the other thing 570 00:32:41,200 --> 00:32:43,800 Speaker 1: is you don't know that they'll always stay. Likely they 571 00:32:43,840 --> 00:32:46,960 Speaker 1: will stay there for his family's there. But it's hard. 572 00:32:47,040 --> 00:32:49,840 Speaker 1: Susan's right. You're going to have to adapt to the 573 00:32:49,920 --> 00:32:52,280 Speaker 1: new idea that you're not going to see them every day. 574 00:32:52,320 --> 00:32:55,720 Speaker 1: You're not going to be babysitting holidays. 575 00:32:55,760 --> 00:32:57,720 Speaker 2: You know you're going to go on the holidays and 576 00:32:57,800 --> 00:33:00,520 Speaker 2: decide will they come to you on any helliway? It's 577 00:33:00,600 --> 00:33:01,240 Speaker 2: not easy. 578 00:33:01,400 --> 00:33:06,160 Speaker 1: Yeah, And is it ultimately about family? It is ultimately 579 00:33:06,200 --> 00:33:09,600 Speaker 1: about family. And guess what, you and your husband are 580 00:33:09,640 --> 00:33:13,320 Speaker 1: a family too, and you have a life. So the 581 00:33:13,480 --> 00:33:16,520 Speaker 1: question you could have asked is but isn't it ultimately 582 00:33:16,560 --> 00:33:19,640 Speaker 1: about sacrifice because you and your husband are a family, 583 00:33:19,680 --> 00:33:23,000 Speaker 1: And the answer is no, it's not ultimately about sacrifice 584 00:33:23,040 --> 00:33:25,800 Speaker 1: for me and I love my grandmake. 585 00:33:26,040 --> 00:33:28,560 Speaker 2: A trip and you could have the baby come out 586 00:33:28,600 --> 00:33:30,240 Speaker 2: and stay with you or not. 587 00:33:30,400 --> 00:33:34,240 Speaker 1: If they're working. Not if they're working tough, That's what 588 00:33:34,280 --> 00:33:37,640 Speaker 1: I'm saying. It's not it's that they've got they have 589 00:33:38,440 --> 00:33:41,880 Speaker 1: a number of years. They're damned if they do. 590 00:33:44,240 --> 00:33:48,200 Speaker 2: The baby coming on the grid, Yeah, coming, and that 591 00:33:48,240 --> 00:33:50,480 Speaker 2: baby will know you love them. 592 00:33:50,200 --> 00:33:54,520 Speaker 1: Yeah, you just you. You can send gifts, but talking 593 00:33:54,520 --> 00:33:58,320 Speaker 1: to them. There's lots of things you can do. Recording books, face, 594 00:33:58,440 --> 00:34:02,720 Speaker 1: you can report, record with your voice. It's not ideal. 595 00:34:03,120 --> 00:34:05,680 Speaker 1: You might be spending a lot of your vacation time 596 00:34:05,840 --> 00:34:08,040 Speaker 1: in Tulsa, Oklahoma. 597 00:34:08,760 --> 00:34:10,759 Speaker 2: Uh, bring the baby to. 598 00:34:10,719 --> 00:34:15,400 Speaker 1: Her to I would stay in Vegas. The weather's better, really, 599 00:34:16,040 --> 00:34:18,840 Speaker 1: And I think you don't pay taxes in Nevada, do you? 600 00:34:19,120 --> 00:34:21,359 Speaker 1: And you certainly do in Oklahoma. I'm always looking at 601 00:34:21,360 --> 00:34:22,240 Speaker 1: the financial peace. 602 00:34:22,400 --> 00:34:24,360 Speaker 2: I don't think i'd want to move to Oklahoma, no 603 00:34:24,400 --> 00:34:24,879 Speaker 2: matter what. 604 00:34:25,520 --> 00:34:28,959 Speaker 1: I'll visit well from Texas. Let me just say, living 605 00:34:29,000 --> 00:34:33,240 Speaker 1: in Texas Oklahoma, I mean it's like the arch rivals, 606 00:34:33,239 --> 00:34:37,080 Speaker 1: the two school sides. You know, they have a lot 607 00:34:37,120 --> 00:34:39,640 Speaker 1: of They have a lot of bad weather in Oklahoma. 608 00:34:39,680 --> 00:34:42,160 Speaker 1: They get during the spring, they get lots of are 609 00:34:42,400 --> 00:34:46,920 Speaker 1: cyclone bad windstorms and rainstorms coming to their tornadoes. That's 610 00:34:46,960 --> 00:34:49,399 Speaker 1: what I was looking for tornadoes, lots of them. 611 00:34:49,800 --> 00:34:53,000 Speaker 2: Just swallow it. Love that baby to death, be a 612 00:34:53,040 --> 00:34:55,279 Speaker 2: part of its life. You're not going to FaceTime when 613 00:34:55,320 --> 00:34:58,560 Speaker 2: the baby's two months old, obviously, yeah, I will say 614 00:34:58,560 --> 00:35:00,400 Speaker 2: you go visit, be there. 615 00:35:00,960 --> 00:35:05,040 Speaker 1: I will say, just having had you can, just having 616 00:35:05,280 --> 00:35:09,239 Speaker 1: had my granddaughter with me and I love when the 617 00:35:09,280 --> 00:35:12,600 Speaker 1: little one comes, I will tell you. Do you agree? 618 00:35:13,000 --> 00:35:17,319 Speaker 1: The time goes by very quickly. My three grandsons, I mean, 619 00:35:17,360 --> 00:35:19,799 Speaker 1: they never spend the night here. They're in sports and 620 00:35:19,920 --> 00:35:23,520 Speaker 1: band and jazz band and four age club. I mean, 621 00:35:23,560 --> 00:35:27,520 Speaker 1: they have so many activities so I which you're not 622 00:35:27,560 --> 00:35:30,000 Speaker 1: gonna like hearing, Chris, I'm trying to soak up as 623 00:35:30,120 --> 00:35:33,280 Speaker 1: much time as I can while they're really young, because 624 00:35:33,320 --> 00:35:35,359 Speaker 1: my other are two and a half. Well she'll be three. 625 00:35:35,400 --> 00:35:38,440 Speaker 1: I can't believe she'll be three in April, but you know, 626 00:35:38,600 --> 00:35:42,759 Speaker 1: almost three year old and a seven year old. I'm 627 00:35:42,760 --> 00:35:44,600 Speaker 1: trying to soak up and have them come over and 628 00:35:44,640 --> 00:35:47,480 Speaker 1: spend time with them as much as I can because 629 00:35:47,600 --> 00:35:49,319 Speaker 1: they get to that point where they want to be 630 00:35:49,360 --> 00:35:53,400 Speaker 1: with their friends and they have activities. It's hard. I mean, 631 00:35:53,560 --> 00:35:56,160 Speaker 1: you just don't then, do you let me ask you Susan, 632 00:35:56,160 --> 00:36:01,160 Speaker 1: do you talk to your teenage grandchildren? Do you do 633 00:36:01,239 --> 00:36:03,720 Speaker 1: you call them? Do they call you on the phone. 634 00:36:03,920 --> 00:36:07,160 Speaker 2: Once in a while, we text? They only call if 635 00:36:07,160 --> 00:36:08,000 Speaker 2: they need something. 636 00:36:08,280 --> 00:36:09,880 Speaker 1: I was Is that true? Okay? 637 00:36:10,080 --> 00:36:13,600 Speaker 2: Mm hmm. My son will text out of nowhere. I 638 00:36:13,600 --> 00:36:15,760 Speaker 2: love you, mom, thanks for being my mom. 639 00:36:16,560 --> 00:36:17,319 Speaker 1: Which is done? Is this? 640 00:36:17,760 --> 00:36:18,360 Speaker 2: Christopher? 641 00:36:19,040 --> 00:36:21,799 Speaker 1: Christopher will text you. But I'm talking about your grandchildren 642 00:36:21,840 --> 00:36:23,440 Speaker 1: that are old enough to use the phone. You know, 643 00:36:23,600 --> 00:36:27,479 Speaker 1: they don't just call you to say hi. No, see, 644 00:36:27,520 --> 00:36:29,200 Speaker 1: I want my grandkids to do that. 645 00:36:29,760 --> 00:36:32,640 Speaker 2: I want them to reach out to them and text 646 00:36:32,760 --> 00:36:35,239 Speaker 2: is way easier. Half the time they're punished they don't 647 00:36:35,239 --> 00:36:36,000 Speaker 2: have a phone, But. 648 00:36:37,560 --> 00:36:39,560 Speaker 1: That's because they had too many diet soda? Is it 649 00:36:39,719 --> 00:36:40,520 Speaker 1: the sugar went to? 650 00:36:41,040 --> 00:36:44,040 Speaker 2: And I'll text, Hey, it's me me, what's up? 651 00:36:44,920 --> 00:36:46,320 Speaker 1: Yeah? No response? 652 00:36:46,719 --> 00:36:48,640 Speaker 2: Yeah yeah yeah yeah yeah. 653 00:36:48,680 --> 00:36:51,640 Speaker 1: But you don't face you do you face? 654 00:36:52,080 --> 00:36:53,840 Speaker 2: I see them? 655 00:36:54,200 --> 00:36:54,239 Speaker 1: No? 656 00:36:55,400 --> 00:36:59,319 Speaker 2: Yeah? Well babies, I do even Stella, Like if I 657 00:36:59,440 --> 00:37:04,560 Speaker 2: call Britain, she'll be like FaceTime and me FaceTime me 658 00:37:04,719 --> 00:37:05,600 Speaker 2: FaceTime maybe. 659 00:37:05,680 --> 00:37:08,280 Speaker 1: But that's because they love that's because they love the screen. 660 00:37:08,560 --> 00:37:09,880 Speaker 1: You know, they want to know because. 661 00:37:09,640 --> 00:37:11,480 Speaker 2: They love me me, they want to see me and 662 00:37:11,520 --> 00:37:14,560 Speaker 2: she wants to show me what she's doing. Is that 663 00:37:14,680 --> 00:37:19,280 Speaker 2: stellar year old going on five? That was Tovey definitely. 664 00:37:19,760 --> 00:37:24,560 Speaker 1: So it's very funny because my my almost three year 665 00:37:24,600 --> 00:37:30,480 Speaker 1: old granddaughters, she can uh, it's crazy what she can do. 666 00:37:30,800 --> 00:37:34,360 Speaker 1: When she gets my daughter's phone. She knows how to scroll, 667 00:37:34,840 --> 00:37:37,360 Speaker 1: she knows. She's also frozen it where you know you 668 00:37:37,400 --> 00:37:39,200 Speaker 1: have to wait twenty minutes to unlock it. 669 00:37:39,200 --> 00:37:41,399 Speaker 2: It's also when you're in the car and they're cranky, here, 670 00:37:41,560 --> 00:37:43,560 Speaker 2: put music on, give them the phone. 671 00:37:44,239 --> 00:37:45,239 Speaker 1: Tell you know what I do? 672 00:37:45,320 --> 00:37:47,600 Speaker 2: You do that with nursery rhyme songs? 673 00:37:47,960 --> 00:37:50,920 Speaker 1: Okay, Stella will ask for it. Well, we do that. 674 00:37:51,000 --> 00:37:53,000 Speaker 1: But you know what I because you know I was 675 00:37:53,040 --> 00:37:54,080 Speaker 1: at an education person. 676 00:37:54,160 --> 00:37:57,040 Speaker 2: We all sing I do we do that? 677 00:37:57,120 --> 00:38:00,399 Speaker 1: We play music? I play I play classical music for them. 678 00:38:00,440 --> 00:38:03,399 Speaker 1: Sometimes I play pop music. We'll do Taylor Swift because 679 00:38:03,400 --> 00:38:05,239 Speaker 1: my seven year old loves that. But you know what, 680 00:38:05,320 --> 00:38:07,000 Speaker 1: you know what I do with my the young ones. 681 00:38:07,040 --> 00:38:09,600 Speaker 1: I did it with Linley and now I'm doing with Reese. 682 00:38:09,600 --> 00:38:11,719 Speaker 1: The almost three year old will sit in the car 683 00:38:11,800 --> 00:38:16,040 Speaker 1: and I'll say I see something green and oh yes, 684 00:38:16,200 --> 00:38:19,160 Speaker 1: and then I'll do I'll say, look at that stops. 685 00:38:19,400 --> 00:38:21,600 Speaker 1: You're gonna I can already hear you laughing. How many 686 00:38:21,640 --> 00:38:24,880 Speaker 1: sides does it have? And try to teach them the letters? 687 00:38:25,040 --> 00:38:31,680 Speaker 1: Ask what sound doeses mat like? I mean, it's like 688 00:38:31,960 --> 00:38:33,920 Speaker 1: it's like we are preschool in my car when I 689 00:38:33,960 --> 00:38:36,680 Speaker 1: have them, but they seem to have fun with it, 690 00:38:36,719 --> 00:38:37,480 Speaker 1: and I'm. 691 00:38:37,360 --> 00:38:41,600 Speaker 2: Preschool with the adults when I'm driving. You start Remember 692 00:38:41,640 --> 00:38:43,359 Speaker 2: I might have played this with you, I don't know. 693 00:38:43,880 --> 00:38:46,680 Speaker 2: You start with the letter A and you name an 694 00:38:46,760 --> 00:38:49,880 Speaker 2: animal and you have to repeat each letter. By the 695 00:38:49,920 --> 00:38:52,080 Speaker 2: time you're getting through the alphabet, it gets a little 696 00:38:52,120 --> 00:38:54,799 Speaker 2: crazy and people look at me like, Susan, you're really 697 00:38:54,840 --> 00:38:57,720 Speaker 2: playing that game on bored people. We got three more hours. 698 00:38:57,840 --> 00:39:00,520 Speaker 1: Let's go, Susan, you've forgotten we did that at the 699 00:39:00,560 --> 00:39:03,040 Speaker 1: first time we went to Saint Martin with Nancy when 700 00:39:03,040 --> 00:39:05,080 Speaker 1: we got lost on that dark road at night. 701 00:39:05,360 --> 00:39:07,960 Speaker 2: Let's like, are you serious? 702 00:39:08,040 --> 00:39:10,040 Speaker 1: We are lost, we know not where we are and 703 00:39:10,080 --> 00:39:12,200 Speaker 1: sus wants to play alphabet. Great. Perfect. 704 00:39:12,239 --> 00:39:14,440 Speaker 2: It takes your mind off of things. But you know what, 705 00:39:14,480 --> 00:39:18,200 Speaker 2: we could just chat all day long and this was 706 00:39:18,320 --> 00:39:20,839 Speaker 2: a lot of fun. 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