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Speaker 1: Welcome to We Talk Back Podcast, the production of iHeartRadio

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Speaker 1: and the Black Effect Network.

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Speaker 2: We're just two unapologetically black women with an opinion who talks.

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Speaker 1: What's up, y'all? It's your girl, AJ Holiday. What's up

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Speaker 1: Big Tam Bam?

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Speaker 2: Y'all, it's Tam Bam. I love y'all so so very much.

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Speaker 2: I love you to AJ. How you doing.

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Speaker 1: I'm fine, y'all.

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Speaker 2: We just got finished.

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Speaker 1: So that's why, bitch, I'm fine. I don't think we

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Speaker 1: should all the things bitch. I was outside Saturday.

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Speaker 2: It was cute too.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I'm posted my dress. Yeah I bought that dress.

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Speaker 1: Uh So let me back up a little bit. All right,

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Speaker 1: So y'all, there there are some elite black people in Charleston,

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Speaker 1: thank god. Okay, No, people be thinking Charleston just is

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Speaker 1: super ratchet. But this little crowd of people like from

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Speaker 1: age I don't know, like thirty five to thirty eight,

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Speaker 1: like they really be having shit going on here. So

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Speaker 1: don Lucci Prosecco and Rose is your first black owned

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Speaker 1: uh wine brand in South Carolina. Okay, Yeah, so they

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Speaker 1: had their Ruby the Ruby event this weekend, and I

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Speaker 1: did do like a little brief interview sweating late per usual.

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Speaker 1: I'm never really late. I'm gonna stop saying that. I

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Speaker 1: think I always be on time because I might have

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Speaker 1: missed the accident early. No, they got there when they

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Speaker 1: were supposed to, and.

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Speaker 2: I that's full shit, that's what way to look at it.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, and I got there when I was supposed to

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Speaker 1: because I still got things done. But man, the shit

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Speaker 1: was outside. It was hot as fuck. But it was beautiful. Okay,

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Speaker 1: it was so beautiful. And these men they pay attention

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Speaker 1: to the very small, intricate details of everything. The girl

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Speaker 1: they had caveat. They had pizza with their little brand.

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Speaker 1: Everything was branded, the candles, the pillows on the on

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Speaker 1: the sofas.

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Speaker 2: Uh.

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Speaker 1: They had somebody sitting there paint because it wasn't a museum,

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Speaker 1: the Gibbs Museum here in Charleston, so they had their

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Speaker 1: there are different. They got three different wines and champagne.

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Speaker 1: They had it like you know how you put in

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Speaker 1: like the glass case like a museum. It was so nice.

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Speaker 1: You go in the bathroom, they got the bottle with

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Speaker 1: the little lampshade on it, like like, how y'all know

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Speaker 1: to do this stuff? Everything smallest details? Yes, I love

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Speaker 1: that it was so nice, and yes, I had my

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Speaker 1: little dress on. Chak, I saw you I had it

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Speaker 1: was a couple of pounds for that dress because I

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Speaker 1: have bought that dress for in April to wear to

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Speaker 1: remember that movie premiere. I went to Miami. I bought

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Speaker 1: it to wear there. But the ship was too fucking

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Speaker 1: tight because that ship is one hundred percent cotton. It

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Speaker 1: ain't no stretch. It's either you getting in it and

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Speaker 1: there you're not. Yes, And I got in there. I

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Speaker 1: got in there. I don't pull some pictures. And then

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Speaker 1: we went out Sunday. We went for brunch Sunday.

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Speaker 2: Sitting up so good. You haven't it didn't.

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Speaker 1: Look like nothing, girl, girl, I almost put a brawn.

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Speaker 1: I glad I didn't boy, because that would have been milking.

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Speaker 1: And I had ship on underneath that dress. Nothing.

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Speaker 2: I think like since I lost weight, I lost titties too,

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Speaker 2: Like I just think I need a boy.

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Speaker 1: So at this point, leave them titties alone, because I know,

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Speaker 1: you know people who have since gotten them titties removed.

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Speaker 2: I just up at the top, like it's all sitting up.

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Speaker 1: We'll get the fat transferred to the titty down't see

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Speaker 1: how long that last? Instead, I wonder if I get

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Speaker 1: my back exactly. My homegirl had got her body done

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Speaker 1: in Saint Louis a long time ago, very like whoever

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Speaker 1: she wants to. If I get some shit done, I'm

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Speaker 1: flying to Saint Louis because it was like very very natural.

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Speaker 2: Because I want something. I put my fat in my

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Speaker 2: titty because.

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Speaker 1: I didn't get titties though. So what her doctor told

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Speaker 1: her is that all of all the women, the white women,

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Speaker 1: all want the fat put into their titties, and all

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Speaker 1: the all the black women want the fat put in

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Speaker 1: their ass. So she got the fat to the ass. Okay,

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Speaker 1: so she ain't get no titties.

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Speaker 2: Take my back, put it in my boots.

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Speaker 1: And if you need some extra fat, I'll don't how

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Speaker 1: big you want them.

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Speaker 2: I just want I don't even want bigger titties because

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Speaker 2: I don't want big titties. I just don't want like

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Speaker 2: they just all my girth is at the bottom. It's

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Speaker 2: just like a slope, like a beginner's ice skin slope.

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Speaker 2: You go flat across the top and then like a

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Speaker 2: little cuppage at the bottom. I hate that. So I

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Speaker 2: can't fill out of dress. I can't like it's so

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Speaker 2: weird because dresses, like, because I'm so bottom heavy like

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Speaker 2: the top, they'll assume that you got something up top,

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Speaker 2: so it just be like empty in the top and

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Speaker 2: like real full at the bottom.

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Speaker 1: That little stuff it.

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Speaker 2: Don't it's too tight at the bottom. We'll struggle with that.

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Speaker 1: Mm hmm. But that was my outside. I was outside

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Speaker 1: all weekend, y'all. We did a Sunday fun Day brunch

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Speaker 1: from I was outside from one to eight on a Sunday.

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Speaker 2: Oh you was outside this week? Yeah.

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Speaker 1: Now I'm recuperating, bitch, I've been fasten. I'm not eating

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Speaker 1: until Thursday. This watering the water fast. So yeah, don't

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Speaker 1: be getting my nerves. That was the first thing I said.

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Speaker 1: It's like, girl, I'm like really like texting you back,

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Speaker 1: like I haven't ate. I'm gonna need you to get

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Speaker 1: off my nuts because don't y'all sucking hung Im about

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Speaker 1: to take a bite out of crime.

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Speaker 2: If someone saying can you send that a SAP, does

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Speaker 2: that mean right then or does that mean as soon

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Speaker 2: as possible? I thought, as yeah, let us know what

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Speaker 2: y'all think. Somebody say I need this a SAP versus

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Speaker 2: can you send that as soon as possible? Afterny for

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Speaker 2: as soon as possible.

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Speaker 1: Which one y'all prefer. Don't tell me to do shiit

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Speaker 1: asap because I can't.

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Speaker 2: I can't do nothing A sap sandwich, that's a problem.

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Speaker 2: You had to say what She would have just read

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Speaker 2: that and be like cool. But because she was hungry,

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Speaker 2: it was all like crazy.

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Speaker 1: Or because I had a lot of shit to do.

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Speaker 2: So listen, my weekend. It was my besties dad's seventy

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Speaker 2: seventy seventy. I can't seventieth birthday say that shit to

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Speaker 2: save my life just now. And they were supposed to

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Speaker 2: go to New Orleans and all the flights out of

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Speaker 2: Charlotte got canceled from for a storm. It was like bad,

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Speaker 2: Like the airport was just crazy.

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Speaker 1: It was raining.

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Speaker 2: No, it was just lightning storm.

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Speaker 1: That's crazy. It's been happening over the whole country. One

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Speaker 1: of my people in Texas was saying they had an

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Speaker 1: electrical storm, Like so shit was going out because of

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Speaker 1: the thunder and the lightning.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, it wasn't. It wasn't raining, It wasn't. It was

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Speaker 2: just like the real sharp So they just couldn't fly

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Speaker 2: and like a couple of my clients got grounded. They

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Speaker 2: were going to New Orleans, my friend her and her bad.

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Speaker 2: So we was like, we want to still make his

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Speaker 2: birthday a good one. So we took him to this

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Speaker 2: restaurant in Charlick called Deluxe Fun Dining where the food

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Speaker 2: comes out on like all these crazy trays and smoke

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Speaker 2: and like different stuff. And we started we were drinking,

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Speaker 2: taking shots, and this man could drink. I like, I

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Speaker 2: haven't been drinking in a long time. And last week

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Speaker 2: when I could drink, I just had me like an

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Speaker 2: espresso martini. You know, I didn't really like go crazy,

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Speaker 2: but Saturday I had four shots of tequila. When I

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Speaker 2: tell you, I was down bad Sunday and Monday, like

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Speaker 2: so bad yesterday that my blood pressure was one one

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Speaker 2: ten over fifty eight.

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Speaker 1: Oh hell no, bitch, I was so dehydrated. That was

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Speaker 1: so dehydrated and need to go get some PDA.

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Speaker 2: Yeah I did, I did. I got me. I got

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Speaker 2: a watermelon and I ate a whole watermelon and I

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Speaker 2: drank four bottles of water in Apedia, like just to

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Speaker 2: get myself back together. But yeah, that was my weekend.

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Speaker 2: We turned up for his seventy years.

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Speaker 1: That's fun.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, it was a good time. But I don't think

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Speaker 2: I like liquor no more. I think I'm done with liquor.

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Speaker 1: That's not my homegirl. She just had a baby, and

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Speaker 1: she was like, I don't think I'm a drink no more.

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Speaker 1: Like I don't even miss it, Like why I'm drinking.

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Speaker 1: I'm like, yeah, it is poison, you know. I'm always

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Speaker 1: consciously aware of what it is that I'm partaking in,

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Speaker 1: and every time I drink, I'd be like, man, I'm

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Speaker 1: just poisoning my body. And that's why I don't drink often.

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Speaker 1: I might go outside five times a year for real,

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Speaker 1: five six times a year, So I'm drinking five or

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Speaker 1: six times for real, like aside from like a vaca.

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Speaker 1: If I go on vacation, I'm drinking. If I go

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Speaker 1: like outside a Saturday, I might have one or two drinks.

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Speaker 1: I don't indulge that often, and when I do, I

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Speaker 1: be fucked up the next day. Luckily, I ain't drink

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Speaker 1: nothing on Sunday, but I did drink a little bit

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Speaker 1: on Saturday, and luckily I was all right.

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Speaker 2: Luckily, me, me and my best friend get together. We

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Speaker 2: just be fu like.

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Speaker 1: It's just fun. I want to be loud and cussing

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Speaker 1: and talking loud like I don't want to be sober.

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Speaker 1: Everybody else drunk because nah, I'm like.

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Speaker 2: Mad, irritated. Yeah, y'all are ignorant, you know, but that

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Speaker 2: was my weekend and now I'm finally getting back. I

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Speaker 2: couldn't even go to the gym yesterday, y'all. It was

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Speaker 2: so bad, Like my doctor was like, if you try

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Speaker 2: to go to the gym with this blood person right now,

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Speaker 2: you might faint. Just stay home, drink water and put

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Speaker 2: your feet up. So yeah, that's what I did. But

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Speaker 2: I'm going today to this evening.

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Speaker 1: Let's getting the sins they doe. So apparently female frogs

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Speaker 1: take their death to avoid meeting with males they don't

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Speaker 1: find attractive.

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Speaker 2: It's not just us, it's not us.

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Speaker 1: The only difference is if we fake our fucking death,

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Speaker 1: the nigga stole might come and try to hump on

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Speaker 1: your ass, right.

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Speaker 2: They like they're talking, full body limp, floating upside down,

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Speaker 2: even holding their breath. It's the ultimate ghost move for

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Speaker 2: a frog, like I'm dead. I'm dead.

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Speaker 1: Now, I did that in a relationship now, pretending like

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Speaker 1: I'm sleep like we get in might that I'm planning

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Speaker 1: to have sex and all that shit I done changed

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Speaker 1: my my mind by the time we get home, Like

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Speaker 1: I'm I'm pretend sleeping hard as hell.

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Speaker 2: I definitely pretended to be sick to not have to

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Speaker 2: do it. I ain't think i'mna rock bucket.

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Speaker 1: When it becomes a job, I gotta get out of there.

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Speaker 1: When it becomes a job, I gotta get out of there.

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Speaker 1: Like we gotta do this.

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Speaker 2: Sometimes it just don't feel like it, you know.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, and then you can't deprive your partner of sex.

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Speaker 1: But god, damn, I'm gonna just be acting like a frog.

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Speaker 2: Be dead.

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Speaker 1: I'm dead. That's our little kids be. I've then one

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Speaker 1: eye open. I'm dead now. They't gonna be like, OPI

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Speaker 1: your mouth.

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Speaker 2: They do not care.

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Speaker 1: We're dad man. They're still trying to hump on you.

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Speaker 1: So I'm frogs.

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Speaker 1: Let me finish up the things like. It says, things

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Speaker 1: Fine exactly exactly. I get on my ass, let's go

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Speaker 1: I'm a fish head. You a chicken head. I don't

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Speaker 1: What the fuck else is going on Columbia? Like esthetically

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Speaker 2: Okay, where is the Yeah, where is the palmtal tree

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Speaker 2: Yeah, speaking a little fine shit, let's get into it.

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Speaker 2: We'll be right back. I ain't seen aj Sis April

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Speaker 2: I'm chilling. It's a big chilling vibes.

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Speaker 2: It is shout out the prime month. But I'm not gay.

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Speaker 2: I think yeah, I think you should like calm down

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Speaker 2: Because you just need to I like, just see what

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Speaker 1: we still end up in situationships. And what qualifies as

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Speaker 2: free like, it could be all kinds of things that

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Speaker 1: I think oftentimes one already wants to put a tie

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00:23:01,119 --> 00:23:04,199
Speaker 1: on it, right. I think sometimes people are escaping like

435
00:23:04,320 --> 00:23:08,240
Speaker 1: having to be like really like intimate, you know, having

436
00:23:08,240 --> 00:23:11,360
Speaker 1: to express real intimacy with somebody, So they put them

437
00:23:11,359 --> 00:23:15,320
Speaker 1: in this situation box where they're left in limbo and

438
00:23:15,440 --> 00:23:17,320
Speaker 1: don't really know if they're in a relationship with this

439
00:23:17,359 --> 00:23:20,040
Speaker 1: person not. But y'all doing all the things. See, I

440
00:23:20,080 --> 00:23:25,360
Speaker 1: went from a city, yes bitch, you are, and I

441
00:23:25,440 --> 00:23:30,040
Speaker 1: literally went from a situationship straight into an engagement. And

442
00:23:30,160 --> 00:23:34,080
Speaker 1: this person really didn't consider us being in a relationship

443
00:23:34,440 --> 00:23:36,520
Speaker 1: until he gave me a ring. Does that make sense?

444
00:23:36,560 --> 00:23:40,040
Speaker 1: Anybody that's manipulation, right, that's retarded?

445
00:23:40,760 --> 00:23:42,160
Speaker 2: Can I say that, Yes?

446
00:23:42,240 --> 00:23:44,960
Speaker 1: You can? Trump is president, you can stay retarded. Okay,

447
00:23:45,560 --> 00:23:49,040
Speaker 1: that's just hated. But it left me feeling like, am

448
00:23:49,040 --> 00:23:52,359
Speaker 1: I tripping? Like because in his mind, I believe he

449
00:23:52,440 --> 00:23:55,919
Speaker 1: thinks because you know, he didn't have to be he

450
00:23:55,920 --> 00:23:58,639
Speaker 1: doesn't have to be accountable the things he did prior

451
00:23:58,760 --> 00:24:02,200
Speaker 1: to the engagement, right, all the fucked up things. We

452
00:24:02,480 --> 00:24:05,119
Speaker 1: really wasn't together when that happened, but we was building

453
00:24:05,160 --> 00:24:09,840
Speaker 1: businesses that we were absolutely together. So this is why

454
00:24:09,880 --> 00:24:14,760
Speaker 1: I'm saying. Oftentimes one person is in a relationship, they

455
00:24:15,359 --> 00:24:19,200
Speaker 1: define the thing that they have going on as a relationship,

456
00:24:19,760 --> 00:24:23,200
Speaker 1: but the other person gets to say, well, I just

457
00:24:23,480 --> 00:24:24,159
Speaker 1: real murky.

458
00:24:25,600 --> 00:24:29,879
Speaker 2: I prefer I have been known to prefer.

459
00:24:31,040 --> 00:24:34,560
Speaker 1: A situationship. No, I don't prefer. I don't like me

460
00:24:35,000 --> 00:24:36,000
Speaker 1: is just so boxed.

461
00:24:36,080 --> 00:24:38,400
Speaker 2: It has been so boxed in for me, I start

462
00:24:38,440 --> 00:24:41,920
Speaker 2: feeling like claustrophobic and like I can't breathe.

463
00:24:44,480 --> 00:24:46,400
Speaker 1: You know, maybe I'd be like that too, And that's

464
00:24:46,400 --> 00:24:49,840
Speaker 1: why it's just it's almost like at two years, I

465
00:24:49,880 --> 00:24:53,080
Speaker 1: get kind of antsy mm hmm, I get kind of like.

466
00:24:55,920 --> 00:24:58,680
Speaker 2: So you start feeling like you're ready to leave? Yes,

467
00:24:58,800 --> 00:25:01,280
Speaker 2: I start feeling stuff, That's what I'm saying. Like I

468
00:25:01,320 --> 00:25:06,040
Speaker 2: started as soon as we start talking about like being exclusive,

469
00:25:06,320 --> 00:25:08,880
Speaker 2: That's when I start feeling like and it's just just.

470
00:25:08,960 --> 00:25:11,439
Speaker 1: Way before two years at least, I'm in the relationship

471
00:25:11,440 --> 00:25:14,080
Speaker 1: and you're feeling stuffy. You like, soon then they can

472
00:25:14,119 --> 00:25:15,920
Speaker 1: start talking about a relationship about it, and.

473
00:25:16,440 --> 00:25:19,240
Speaker 2: Yeah, what do you think that's about?

474
00:25:19,240 --> 00:25:23,399
Speaker 1: Though we already talked about this, Timmy, you like the

475
00:25:23,520 --> 00:25:26,800
Speaker 1: unavailability of people. I think you know what I'm saying.

476
00:25:26,960 --> 00:25:31,440
Speaker 1: So I don't know, and I might also I might

477
00:25:31,480 --> 00:25:33,480
Speaker 1: be the same way, right, but I'll stay in a

478
00:25:33,520 --> 00:25:35,639
Speaker 1: thing a little bit longer than you do.

479
00:25:36,119 --> 00:25:38,440
Speaker 2: But that's not true. I just don't put a name

480
00:25:38,520 --> 00:25:38,840
Speaker 2: on it.

481
00:25:39,280 --> 00:25:39,880
Speaker 1: That's a fact.

482
00:25:41,000 --> 00:25:43,160
Speaker 2: I just don't put a title on it. I just

483
00:25:43,760 --> 00:25:46,440
Speaker 2: I struggle with that. Once we start putting titles on it,

484
00:25:46,440 --> 00:25:49,159
Speaker 2: it just starts getting that's so masculine of me. I

485
00:25:49,160 --> 00:25:52,159
Speaker 2: feel like, though, I feel like that's that's something a

486
00:25:52,200 --> 00:25:54,920
Speaker 2: man would say and not a woman. Typically a woman

487
00:25:55,000 --> 00:25:57,760
Speaker 2: is the one who's like, but this has been my

488
00:25:57,960 --> 00:26:01,320
Speaker 2: entire life, every like serious with relationship I've ever had.

489
00:26:01,760 --> 00:26:06,680
Speaker 2: I was given an ultimatum commit olie. Yeah.

490
00:26:07,160 --> 00:26:10,000
Speaker 1: Interesting the two times I always tell you you a

491
00:26:10,080 --> 00:26:15,120
Speaker 1: boy and here you are Elliott shirts.

492
00:26:15,119 --> 00:26:18,040
Speaker 2: So what sweaty is? And I feel comfortable?

493
00:26:19,160 --> 00:26:19,600
Speaker 1: Fuck that.

494
00:26:21,560 --> 00:26:23,440
Speaker 2: All right, So why are they so common now? Because

495
00:26:23,440 --> 00:26:23,960
Speaker 2: I feel like.

496
00:26:25,520 --> 00:26:28,159
Speaker 1: I think social media and dating apps, you know what

497
00:26:28,200 --> 00:26:30,840
Speaker 1: I'm saying, Like it's just hook up. It's just like

498
00:26:30,880 --> 00:26:35,679
Speaker 1: a hook up society essentially now, Like people are so

499
00:26:35,880 --> 00:26:39,679
Speaker 1: people think everybody's just so replaceable, Like Instagram is a

500
00:26:39,680 --> 00:26:42,600
Speaker 1: whole holo dex So the minute this one act up,

501
00:26:42,640 --> 00:26:45,200
Speaker 1: you can just go in there and scroll scroll, scroll, scroll, scroll,

502
00:26:46,000 --> 00:26:48,040
Speaker 1: throw the fishing line out there and see who catch.

503
00:26:48,840 --> 00:26:51,600
Speaker 2: I enjoyed the variety of new people, but I don't

504
00:26:51,640 --> 00:26:54,359
Speaker 2: want to have sex with them. Like if I could

505
00:26:54,400 --> 00:26:57,720
Speaker 2: have like multiple boyfriends that I didn't have to sleep with,

506
00:26:58,280 --> 00:27:01,399
Speaker 2: that would be ideal for me because I enjoy like

507
00:27:01,480 --> 00:27:06,119
Speaker 2: the company. I enjoy the perspective of new people, but

508
00:27:06,200 --> 00:27:08,159
Speaker 2: I just don't want everybody did.

509
00:27:09,440 --> 00:27:13,760
Speaker 1: Yeah, you know, we talk about nominogamy and polygamy and

510
00:27:13,800 --> 00:27:15,600
Speaker 1: all those things. I just don't know. How do you

511
00:27:15,720 --> 00:27:19,439
Speaker 1: how do you learn? Right if you are restricted to

512
00:27:19,520 --> 00:27:21,919
Speaker 1: this same person for the rest of your life, Like,

513
00:27:21,960 --> 00:27:25,520
Speaker 1: how do you get new information and new ideas? You

514
00:27:25,560 --> 00:27:28,119
Speaker 1: know what I'm saying, Because some things have to come

515
00:27:28,320 --> 00:27:31,919
Speaker 1: with a little bit more intimacy, Like some conversations you

516
00:27:32,000 --> 00:27:32,919
Speaker 1: might have with people.

517
00:27:33,280 --> 00:27:36,720
Speaker 2: But then there's something beautiful about finding that one person.

518
00:27:36,920 --> 00:27:39,439
Speaker 1: You know nothing about that. I said, it's one of us.

519
00:27:42,640 --> 00:27:46,320
Speaker 2: I said, there's something beautiful about I've seen it, you know,

520
00:27:46,480 --> 00:27:51,720
Speaker 2: like growing finding that one person and y'all grow old together,

521
00:27:52,800 --> 00:27:56,440
Speaker 2: and then that's beautiful. Like I like my ex boyfriends.

522
00:27:56,520 --> 00:27:59,560
Speaker 2: Aren't her and her husband they're in the cutest thing.

523
00:27:59,640 --> 00:28:02,240
Speaker 2: I haven't seen him in a while, but they're still together.

524
00:28:02,800 --> 00:28:06,199
Speaker 2: He still get jealous, like he still love her so

525
00:28:06,280 --> 00:28:08,520
Speaker 2: much and she loved him, and they're so cute. You know,

526
00:28:09,080 --> 00:28:11,119
Speaker 2: that's so cute. But I just feel like it's hard

527
00:28:11,160 --> 00:28:12,240
Speaker 2: to come by that now.

528
00:28:13,119 --> 00:28:13,560
Speaker 1: They know.

529
00:28:13,640 --> 00:28:17,600
Speaker 2: Ever since listen, since Remy and past Poos broke up,

530
00:28:17,680 --> 00:28:20,080
Speaker 2: I just feel like everybody do.

531
00:28:21,320 --> 00:28:23,600
Speaker 1: Man. They definitely I thought that was.

532
00:28:23,600 --> 00:28:25,399
Speaker 2: Gonna stay again as that could stay, huh.

533
00:28:25,440 --> 00:28:28,040
Speaker 1: It was definitely never a couple, not a couple of goals,

534
00:28:28,080 --> 00:28:30,880
Speaker 1: but like out of prison, that's all he did.

535
00:28:32,680 --> 00:28:36,479
Speaker 2: I just thought they were like very like urban and

536
00:28:36,560 --> 00:28:40,280
Speaker 2: cute and like locked in with each other no matter what.

537
00:28:40,880 --> 00:28:43,720
Speaker 1: I don't know. Mike like Ahs like the Hardships, my

538
00:28:43,880 --> 00:28:47,080
Speaker 1: ultimate like ghetto love story love couple. I like Gucci

539
00:28:47,120 --> 00:28:51,200
Speaker 1: Maine and Kishi Kor, Like I felt like they established like, oh,

540
00:28:51,280 --> 00:28:53,600
Speaker 1: niggas about to start getting married. Gucci don't got married.

541
00:28:54,400 --> 00:28:56,120
Speaker 1: May are about this black men are about to start

542
00:28:56,120 --> 00:29:00,080
Speaker 1: guessing an example more because Gucci main got married and

543
00:29:00,120 --> 00:29:01,760
Speaker 1: to glow up, you know what I'm saying, Like he

544
00:29:01,840 --> 00:29:04,920
Speaker 1: came home a whole nother person. Some people think literally.

545
00:29:04,680 --> 00:29:09,200
Speaker 2: He was not himself, but yeah, okay, that's a good example.

546
00:29:10,760 --> 00:29:15,719
Speaker 2: But they were similar, maybe not as glamorous as Keisha

547
00:29:15,800 --> 00:29:21,160
Speaker 2: Kor and Gucci, but like just a beautiful urban couple.

548
00:29:21,440 --> 00:29:26,480
Speaker 1: That was locked in. No, I don't like that word urban.

549
00:29:27,720 --> 00:29:33,840
Speaker 2: I'm just trying to be like carrag so niggas, so

550
00:29:33,920 --> 00:29:35,920
Speaker 2: niggas that was locked in with each other, and I

551
00:29:36,000 --> 00:29:39,680
Speaker 2: just I enjoyed the seeing that. And it wasn't the

552
00:29:39,680 --> 00:29:41,600
Speaker 2: man that went to jail. It was the woman. That's

553
00:29:41,640 --> 00:29:44,680
Speaker 2: what made it different. You know, like he held her

554
00:29:44,760 --> 00:29:46,160
Speaker 2: down while she was in jail.

555
00:29:46,440 --> 00:29:47,960
Speaker 1: And that's why I feel like a lot of men

556
00:29:48,000 --> 00:29:50,200
Speaker 1: probably don't have respect for Pappus. You see all the

557
00:29:50,320 --> 00:29:53,640
Speaker 1: jokes online. It's like he like he's the woman and

558
00:29:53,680 --> 00:29:57,240
Speaker 1: he likes these tough He likes tough women, you know

559
00:29:57,240 --> 00:30:00,320
Speaker 1: what I'm saying. So do he like tough women for

560
00:30:00,400 --> 00:30:02,680
Speaker 1: a man to be just your woman is in prison

561
00:30:02,720 --> 00:30:05,400
Speaker 1: for shooting somebody, like you didn't do that type of time.

562
00:30:05,440 --> 00:30:08,360
Speaker 1: Your girl didn't and you waited for her like that

563
00:30:08,520 --> 00:30:08,880
Speaker 1: is what.

564
00:30:10,600 --> 00:30:13,400
Speaker 2: You waited for her, Like you said it like very

565
00:30:13,560 --> 00:30:15,440
Speaker 2: like that's condescending of him.

566
00:30:15,600 --> 00:30:18,960
Speaker 1: Gender roll flop flip flu fuck.

567
00:30:20,280 --> 00:30:22,760
Speaker 2: It is because his new cheek kill whoop ass? When

568
00:30:22,760 --> 00:30:25,680
Speaker 2: ain't gonna talk about her too much? She can fight,

569
00:30:26,560 --> 00:30:30,200
Speaker 2: I'm not skinned. It also, Remy obviously has guns. She

570
00:30:31,200 --> 00:30:31,680
Speaker 2: can fight.

571
00:30:32,880 --> 00:30:35,360
Speaker 1: Who's trying to fight? So have you ever been in

572
00:30:35,360 --> 00:30:39,120
Speaker 1: a situationship and like couldn't leave it because of emotions?

573
00:30:39,880 --> 00:30:44,920
Speaker 2: Yes, I just got out of a situationship that I

574
00:30:45,040 --> 00:30:48,360
Speaker 2: was in for a long long time. And I still

575
00:30:48,360 --> 00:30:51,120
Speaker 2: think about him all the time. But I had to

576
00:30:51,120 --> 00:30:53,280
Speaker 2: get up out of her. I broke my foot behind

577
00:30:53,280 --> 00:30:57,360
Speaker 2: that ship, y'all. I broke my foot behind that ship.

578
00:30:57,800 --> 00:30:59,240
Speaker 2: And that's when I was like, all right, you know what,

579
00:30:59,440 --> 00:31:04,160
Speaker 2: girls start, go go and get your life together. So

580
00:31:05,520 --> 00:31:08,480
Speaker 2: but it's like, it's a what's the word I'm looking for.

581
00:31:08,560 --> 00:31:12,320
Speaker 2: It's a soul tar. Sometimes you have a soul tar

582
00:31:12,440 --> 00:31:15,160
Speaker 2: with someone and you just gotta untether and that shit

583
00:31:15,320 --> 00:31:18,160
Speaker 2: be hard, and that ain't nothing but the devil, you know.

584
00:31:18,960 --> 00:31:22,720
Speaker 1: Yeah, I feel like anything confusing is the devil. If

585
00:31:22,720 --> 00:31:27,840
Speaker 1: I'm in any any situation and I don't know exactly

586
00:31:27,880 --> 00:31:30,400
Speaker 1: what's going on, it got it like only the devil

587
00:31:30,400 --> 00:31:32,120
Speaker 1: will be trying to confuse you like that. So why

588
00:31:32,120 --> 00:31:36,120
Speaker 1: would anybody want to be engaging with anyone and not

589
00:31:36,200 --> 00:31:39,760
Speaker 1: just tell them what's up? Hey, I want to fuck sometimes?

590
00:31:40,480 --> 00:31:44,840
Speaker 1: You know, I was dating somebody who was too honest, right,

591
00:31:46,440 --> 00:31:47,360
Speaker 1: See that's the problem.

592
00:31:47,600 --> 00:31:49,840
Speaker 2: You wanted to get ass honest. But then you're talking

593
00:31:49,840 --> 00:31:50,840
Speaker 2: about he too honest?

594
00:31:51,040 --> 00:31:52,560
Speaker 1: Like I would call him like you want to do

595
00:31:52,640 --> 00:31:54,840
Speaker 1: something like I want to come over and he and

596
00:31:54,880 --> 00:31:57,920
Speaker 1: he would say shit like I kind of want to,

597
00:31:58,040 --> 00:32:00,920
Speaker 1: but then I don't.

598
00:32:02,520 --> 00:32:05,080
Speaker 2: And how would you receive that? Because what does that mean?

599
00:32:05,320 --> 00:32:08,520
Speaker 1: What the fuck does that mean? You know what I'm saying.

600
00:32:08,600 --> 00:32:11,200
Speaker 1: So when he started liking me more, right.

601
00:32:11,760 --> 00:32:14,440
Speaker 2: When the tables turned, I always.

602
00:32:13,920 --> 00:32:16,280
Speaker 1: Kind of like at I was at the tail end

603
00:32:16,320 --> 00:32:18,880
Speaker 1: of the bullshit at that point. I was tired of

604
00:32:19,440 --> 00:32:22,640
Speaker 1: being in a being in a situation with somebody like

605
00:32:23,800 --> 00:32:25,760
Speaker 1: that's not even courting at that point, because we like

606
00:32:26,480 --> 00:32:28,200
Speaker 1: a year and a half locked in you don't have

607
00:32:28,200 --> 00:32:30,560
Speaker 1: been to my mama house. We'd be chilling. You know

608
00:32:30,560 --> 00:32:32,120
Speaker 1: what I'm saying. We're doing the nasty.

609
00:32:32,520 --> 00:32:33,680
Speaker 2: Oh, I know who you're talking about.

610
00:32:34,360 --> 00:32:37,040
Speaker 1: I'm taking your places, pulling out with your ass and

611
00:32:37,640 --> 00:32:43,160
Speaker 1: Chelsea boots. Oh, Chelsea, don't.

612
00:32:43,280 --> 00:32:46,120
Speaker 2: Don't fuck with no niggas who wear Chelsea boots. Okay,

613
00:32:47,080 --> 00:32:49,440
Speaker 2: niggas sent me a picture this weekend with Chelsea boots

614
00:32:49,440 --> 00:32:52,760
Speaker 2: on the boots on the ground. Because he was.

615
00:32:55,240 --> 00:33:00,800
Speaker 1: Get so, I was always feeling confused and I couldn't

616
00:33:00,840 --> 00:33:04,080
Speaker 1: really check him on stuff because you left.

617
00:33:04,000 --> 00:33:07,080
Speaker 2: The door open and he was honest and you were

618
00:33:07,120 --> 00:33:07,719
Speaker 2: he was honest.

619
00:33:07,720 --> 00:33:11,600
Speaker 1: He's single, and so am I essentially. But when I

620
00:33:11,640 --> 00:33:14,760
Speaker 1: started like just hanging out a little bit extra or

621
00:33:14,880 --> 00:33:18,360
Speaker 1: not being as available, he actually told me like he

622
00:33:18,400 --> 00:33:20,800
Speaker 1: don't like how he feels. Well, I have been feeling

623
00:33:20,880 --> 00:33:22,600
Speaker 1: like that for a year and a half and we

624
00:33:22,680 --> 00:33:26,880
Speaker 1: could have been together building a whole life. But obviously

625
00:33:27,200 --> 00:33:30,240
Speaker 1: I don't know. It's not too late, child, Lease it

626
00:33:30,320 --> 00:33:35,080
Speaker 1: is too late. Okay, it is too fucking late. I'll

627
00:33:35,080 --> 00:33:36,200
Speaker 1: play around a little bit.

628
00:33:36,040 --> 00:33:38,600
Speaker 2: But I'm just scared I'm gonna choose the wrong person

629
00:33:39,200 --> 00:33:42,719
Speaker 2: and end up by like I feel like if I

630
00:33:42,760 --> 00:33:45,960
Speaker 2: don't like start going to therapy and like working through.

631
00:33:46,160 --> 00:33:50,320
Speaker 1: I let you go to therapy. I stopped why.

632
00:33:50,720 --> 00:33:53,600
Speaker 2: Because my therapist became my homeboy, and it just was

633
00:33:53,680 --> 00:33:59,760
Speaker 2: like our relationship changed, our dynamic change, so I can't

634
00:34:00,080 --> 00:34:07,200
Speaker 2: can't be my therapist became my homeboy, you know, and

635
00:34:07,200 --> 00:34:10,120
Speaker 2: we started talking outside of therapy, and it just no

636
00:34:10,160 --> 00:34:18,200
Speaker 2: longer became uh a safe space. And that's why that's

637
00:34:18,239 --> 00:34:22,279
Speaker 2: why he was giving me free therapy. No, he was

638
00:34:22,280 --> 00:34:25,320
Speaker 2: giving me excellent therapy. But and he still does a

639
00:34:25,360 --> 00:34:29,680
Speaker 2: little bit, but it's not like you know, ongoing therapy

640
00:34:29,719 --> 00:34:33,040
Speaker 2: and like working through things. And I need that because

641
00:34:33,080 --> 00:34:35,120
Speaker 2: I know I'm a commitment fold and I know that

642
00:34:35,360 --> 00:34:39,640
Speaker 2: I have like like even I love my hair in locks,

643
00:34:39,640 --> 00:34:41,800
Speaker 2: but I will not put my hair in locks because

644
00:34:41,800 --> 00:34:45,799
Speaker 2: I can't commit. Yeah, it's just too like start hyperventilating.

645
00:34:45,840 --> 00:34:48,160
Speaker 2: I'm stuck into something, you know. And that's just how

646
00:34:48,200 --> 00:34:51,120
Speaker 2: my relationships have been my entire life. And I don't

647
00:34:51,160 --> 00:34:56,120
Speaker 2: know with men. I will commit to females, not in

648
00:34:56,160 --> 00:35:00,000
Speaker 2: a lesbian way, happy prima, not in a lesbian way,

649
00:35:00,040 --> 00:35:02,640
Speaker 2: but like in friendships for life, I'll be like we

650
00:35:02,880 --> 00:35:06,840
Speaker 2: locked in for life Ashley we aj we locked in

651
00:35:06,920 --> 00:35:10,000
Speaker 2: for life. I can say that, I can say that,

652
00:35:10,960 --> 00:35:15,439
Speaker 2: you know, in perpetuity, but with these men, I'd be like, shit,

653
00:35:15,680 --> 00:35:19,040
Speaker 2: you cool, you know, and I don't know what that

654
00:35:19,480 --> 00:35:22,200
Speaker 2: might be, like a daddy issue or I don't know

655
00:35:22,200 --> 00:35:22,719
Speaker 2: what that is.

656
00:35:22,760 --> 00:35:24,600
Speaker 1: Why is today? I think it's just you know, you

657
00:35:25,239 --> 00:35:28,280
Speaker 1: you're in relationships with people and you start learning things

658
00:35:28,320 --> 00:35:31,600
Speaker 1: like every relationship. Like the other night, I sat down,

659
00:35:31,719 --> 00:35:34,719
Speaker 1: Remember we have our list of the kind of I'm

660
00:35:34,760 --> 00:35:36,960
Speaker 1: going through a breakup right now, y'all. Okay, it's been

661
00:35:37,000 --> 00:35:42,320
Speaker 1: going on for months, and I revamped my thing based

662
00:35:42,400 --> 00:35:46,440
Speaker 1: because I have new data now, new information. I know

663
00:35:47,440 --> 00:35:49,640
Speaker 1: more things I don't like now, I know more things

664
00:35:49,640 --> 00:35:52,000
Speaker 1: I would like now, you know, out of a partner.

665
00:35:52,040 --> 00:35:53,960
Speaker 1: And I don't think these look like y'all can make

666
00:35:53,960 --> 00:35:57,080
Speaker 1: a list. I don't think it's outlandish, like to have real,

667
00:35:57,920 --> 00:36:02,560
Speaker 1: like specific characteristics of the type of person you want,

668
00:36:02,640 --> 00:36:04,839
Speaker 1: even if people may call it shallow, I don't know,

669
00:36:04,880 --> 00:36:07,920
Speaker 1: put it down, write the shit down, you know. But

670
00:36:08,200 --> 00:36:10,920
Speaker 1: there's like new things now that I've discovered over the

671
00:36:11,000 --> 00:36:13,080
Speaker 1: last year and a half that I need out of

672
00:36:13,120 --> 00:36:15,839
Speaker 1: a partner. Like it's I got super non negotiable.

673
00:36:21,200 --> 00:36:24,200
Speaker 2: Have you discovered things that you need to be as

674
00:36:24,239 --> 00:36:24,800
Speaker 2: a partner?

675
00:36:25,520 --> 00:36:28,719
Speaker 1: Absolutely, And I also discover things I'm just not as

676
00:36:28,760 --> 00:36:31,160
Speaker 1: a partner. You know what I'm saying. I'm not the

677
00:36:31,200 --> 00:36:33,400
Speaker 1: most thoughtful person, and I've.

678
00:36:34,080 --> 00:36:36,040
Speaker 2: Really that it's so crazy.

679
00:36:36,080 --> 00:36:39,120
Speaker 1: But I definitely show up for people in a million

680
00:36:39,160 --> 00:36:42,319
Speaker 1: other ways. So like, I know, I'm not the like

681
00:36:42,880 --> 00:36:45,520
Speaker 1: the friend who going to see some shit and be like, oh,

682
00:36:45,920 --> 00:36:47,840
Speaker 1: actually might like that, or telling you might like that

683
00:36:47,880 --> 00:36:50,719
Speaker 1: and I would buy it. It depends maybe sometimes right

684
00:36:51,040 --> 00:36:54,200
Speaker 1: or shut up, I probably watch you some shit. I

685
00:36:54,280 --> 00:36:56,919
Speaker 1: not bought a bit some shit before. I've never bought

686
00:36:56,960 --> 00:36:59,359
Speaker 1: you nothing. Okay, I'm gonna sene you the Costal Canna

687
00:36:59,320 --> 00:37:01,600
Speaker 1: because y'all I would sa Costco like last week and

688
00:37:01,680 --> 00:37:04,839
Speaker 1: they do still have them candos I've been see but

689
00:37:05,560 --> 00:37:07,600
Speaker 1: my mama took me on the shopping spirit of Costco

690
00:37:07,640 --> 00:37:08,360
Speaker 1: for my birthday.

691
00:37:08,440 --> 00:37:12,960
Speaker 2: Although you saw my candle, you just kept on walking.

692
00:37:13,239 --> 00:37:15,319
Speaker 1: You know why, because I couldn't leave that big ass

693
00:37:15,320 --> 00:37:17,400
Speaker 1: candle in the car because Melt and I live on

694
00:37:17,440 --> 00:37:19,600
Speaker 1: the third floor. So like, I had a bunch of shit,

695
00:37:20,360 --> 00:37:22,000
Speaker 1: you know what I'm saying. And now add on this

696
00:37:22,080 --> 00:37:25,040
Speaker 1: fucking thirty pound candle. Yeah, but they are in there,

697
00:37:25,400 --> 00:37:28,279
Speaker 1: and I'm buy you a candle. Okay, I'm gonna buy it.

698
00:37:28,400 --> 00:37:29,600
Speaker 2: My birthday is in two weeks.

699
00:37:29,600 --> 00:37:31,359
Speaker 1: Oh, I'm gonna send that candle. Got it?

700
00:37:31,400 --> 00:37:31,719
Speaker 2: All right?

701
00:37:31,760 --> 00:37:34,040
Speaker 1: We're so yeah, I'm not we cooked back, y'all.

702
00:37:34,160 --> 00:37:36,440
Speaker 2: We're gonna see if I got that fucking candle.

703
00:37:37,200 --> 00:37:39,960
Speaker 1: I'm not that thoughtful in a relationship. You know. I

704
00:37:40,040 --> 00:37:42,239
Speaker 1: like flowers. I like flesh flowers, like my dude he

705
00:37:42,239 --> 00:37:43,959
Speaker 1: would bring me. I would have fresh flower.

706
00:37:43,960 --> 00:37:46,759
Speaker 2: Oh, let me interjet. Have you used any other ship

707
00:37:46,840 --> 00:37:49,160
Speaker 2: that I haven't bought? You like them books in them

708
00:37:49,239 --> 00:37:50,440
Speaker 2: journals and you.

709
00:37:50,960 --> 00:37:53,920
Speaker 1: Bought me two journals. You bought me a Gratitude journal,

710
00:37:54,400 --> 00:37:57,399
Speaker 1: which I probably have like six entries from that.

711
00:37:57,440 --> 00:37:59,919
Speaker 2: Year, and so toy twenty one.

712
00:38:00,120 --> 00:38:01,560
Speaker 1: Yeah, and it's it right.

713
00:38:01,960 --> 00:38:05,920
Speaker 2: No, I bought you another another journal. It was like

714
00:38:06,000 --> 00:38:08,120
Speaker 2: a daily planner.

715
00:38:08,280 --> 00:38:10,480
Speaker 1: Yeah, oh yeah you did. It's a little black one.

716
00:38:10,840 --> 00:38:12,840
Speaker 1: So it's on the side of my bed next to

717
00:38:13,160 --> 00:38:17,879
Speaker 1: all the other ship that I don't be using. Yeah,

718
00:38:17,920 --> 00:38:19,799
Speaker 1: but I do have a spell book I write and

719
00:38:19,800 --> 00:38:22,200
Speaker 1: that ship all the time. That's it. I know what

720
00:38:22,239 --> 00:38:25,160
Speaker 1: to get you mixed and it's leather bound.

721
00:38:28,080 --> 00:38:31,719
Speaker 2: Go on contibity bubbity boot bitch. Listen y'all when I

722
00:38:31,719 --> 00:38:35,680
Speaker 2: walked in. Also, she gonna say bibbity bobbity pebbage. Take

723
00:38:35,680 --> 00:38:38,239
Speaker 2: that shit off.

724
00:38:38,880 --> 00:38:40,000
Speaker 1: Because what is happening?

725
00:38:40,080 --> 00:38:42,360
Speaker 2: No, I'm chilling today.

726
00:38:42,920 --> 00:38:46,520
Speaker 1: Yeah, so I don't know. I learned, Uh, I do

727
00:38:46,640 --> 00:38:49,400
Speaker 1: have Everybody comes with bullshit. I definitely don't want a

728
00:38:49,440 --> 00:38:53,960
Speaker 1: situationship for any next anything. And I'm really not even uh.

729
00:38:53,680 --> 00:38:54,560
Speaker 2: It's hot outside.

730
00:38:55,440 --> 00:38:58,200
Speaker 1: Yeah, I don't really feel like men right now. I

731
00:38:58,239 --> 00:38:58,800
Speaker 1: really don't.

732
00:38:59,040 --> 00:39:00,560
Speaker 2: So you don't want no man for the summer?

733
00:39:00,600 --> 00:39:03,120
Speaker 1: No, I don't no not to need a man for

734
00:39:03,160 --> 00:39:04,759
Speaker 1: the summer because I want to be pregnant by the

735
00:39:04,840 --> 00:39:07,080
Speaker 1: end of the year. I don't know how that's supposed

736
00:39:07,120 --> 00:39:10,640
Speaker 1: to work. So you don't want to go on a vacations, Oh,

737
00:39:10,640 --> 00:39:12,040
Speaker 1: I'm going on some type of something.

738
00:39:12,440 --> 00:39:14,800
Speaker 2: So you gotta have you, You gotta have somebody to do.

739
00:39:15,120 --> 00:39:17,000
Speaker 1: It would have to be a situationship. It could be

740
00:39:17,040 --> 00:39:19,239
Speaker 1: a friend. I feel like situationships come with a lot

741
00:39:19,239 --> 00:39:20,000
Speaker 1: of emotions.

742
00:39:20,040 --> 00:39:22,240
Speaker 2: So hold on, wait, wait when you say a friend,

743
00:39:22,600 --> 00:39:24,920
Speaker 2: what's the difference are you gonna if you go on

744
00:39:24,920 --> 00:39:25,480
Speaker 2: a vacation.

745
00:39:26,160 --> 00:39:31,000
Speaker 1: Typically vacations clue a male friend that you're having sex with.

746
00:39:31,480 --> 00:39:35,320
Speaker 2: So that's the situationship. No, I don't mean, what's the difference.

747
00:39:35,320 --> 00:39:37,759
Speaker 1: That's why I think that situationships this is a totally

748
00:39:37,800 --> 00:39:42,919
Speaker 1: different thing. Situationships come with emotion and it's usually one person.

749
00:39:44,120 --> 00:39:46,160
Speaker 2: You can have a like, it could be a situation.

750
00:39:46,320 --> 00:39:49,279
Speaker 2: It depends on what the situation is. So you can

751
00:39:49,360 --> 00:39:51,239
Speaker 2: have a guy like I know a girl like one

752
00:39:51,280 --> 00:39:54,320
Speaker 2: of my hair clients, she got a guy who she

753
00:39:54,440 --> 00:39:57,360
Speaker 2: deal with. She got a man, he got a girlfriend.

754
00:39:58,000 --> 00:40:00,440
Speaker 2: They see each other out in the club and they together,

755
00:40:00,600 --> 00:40:03,319
Speaker 2: they hook up, and then they go they separate ways,

756
00:40:04,239 --> 00:40:05,600
Speaker 2: and they do that all the time.

757
00:40:06,200 --> 00:40:09,279
Speaker 1: I don't think that's the situationship. I just think that

758
00:40:09,360 --> 00:40:13,200
Speaker 1: they're they're too adults who enjoy having sex with each other,

759
00:40:14,160 --> 00:40:17,440
Speaker 1: Like that's the situation. No, I think yeah, and then

760
00:40:17,520 --> 00:40:22,600
Speaker 1: and they like link that's they that's their situationship. You

761
00:40:22,680 --> 00:40:25,080
Speaker 1: said it's deeper, it gotta be deeper. I think it is.

762
00:40:25,600 --> 00:40:28,160
Speaker 2: No, it don't, it really don't. It just depends on

763
00:40:28,200 --> 00:40:29,359
Speaker 2: what the situation is.

764
00:40:29,440 --> 00:40:31,279
Speaker 1: A lot of times people be in situations I.

765
00:40:31,200 --> 00:40:33,960
Speaker 2: Feel like you gotta the only the only thing you

766
00:40:34,040 --> 00:40:36,960
Speaker 2: gotta be doing to be included in the situationship. It

767
00:40:36,960 --> 00:40:39,840
Speaker 2: has to happen frequent, and you gotta be having sex.

768
00:40:41,160 --> 00:40:46,000
Speaker 2: And that's the situationship. And it's just different situations. What's

769
00:40:46,000 --> 00:40:51,919
Speaker 2: the situation y'all not together, y'all having sex frequently? What's

770
00:40:51,960 --> 00:40:52,600
Speaker 2: the situation?

771
00:40:53,160 --> 00:40:55,359
Speaker 1: I don't know. I don't think. I just I think

772
00:40:55,400 --> 00:40:57,480
Speaker 1: I have a different idea in my mind about what

773
00:40:58,480 --> 00:41:00,839
Speaker 1: that thing is. So you got to be I think

774
00:41:00,920 --> 00:41:05,040
Speaker 1: men benefit more from situationships women be wanting. I feel

775
00:41:05,040 --> 00:41:08,160
Speaker 1: like it's limbo. You're stuck in a live and and

776
00:41:08,160 --> 00:41:14,280
Speaker 1: and uh, you're stuck in like purgatory relationship. Purgatory essentially.

777
00:41:14,680 --> 00:41:16,640
Speaker 2: You know what I'm saying, you want, But not every

778
00:41:16,680 --> 00:41:18,640
Speaker 2: woman wants to be with that nigga they're in a

779
00:41:18,719 --> 00:41:21,719
Speaker 2: situationship or man that they're in a situationship with.

780
00:41:21,840 --> 00:41:23,959
Speaker 1: You don't really want to have at this big age,

781
00:41:24,000 --> 00:41:25,680
Speaker 1: I do not want to have sex with somebody that

782
00:41:25,760 --> 00:41:29,640
Speaker 1: I don't like or I don't see the futureship with

783
00:41:29,840 --> 00:41:32,160
Speaker 1: you're saying. That's why I said, I like variety, but

784
00:41:32,640 --> 00:41:34,239
Speaker 1: I don't want to sleep with all these people. I

785
00:41:34,239 --> 00:41:36,600
Speaker 1: don't want to sleep with none of I just want

786
00:41:36,600 --> 00:41:41,880
Speaker 1: their energy. Oh, I mean energy suck. Yeah, I want to,

787
00:41:41,920 --> 00:41:43,960
Speaker 1: like I want to. I want to be in there,

788
00:41:44,080 --> 00:41:45,160
Speaker 1: like I want the vibes.

789
00:41:45,239 --> 00:41:48,120
Speaker 2: I create vibes. Though I create vibes, I bring good energy,

790
00:41:48,320 --> 00:41:50,360
Speaker 2: and I be wanting to be around good energy. But

791
00:41:50,440 --> 00:41:53,520
Speaker 2: I enjoy variety, you know, in different perspectives.

792
00:41:53,920 --> 00:41:57,600
Speaker 1: Mmmm, I don't know what. I guess that that would

793
00:41:57,640 --> 00:42:01,239
Speaker 1: be just be dating. I wouldn't I enjoy dating. Yeah,

794
00:42:01,760 --> 00:42:06,120
Speaker 1: that's dating, you know, like, and you should date, right,

795
00:42:06,280 --> 00:42:08,600
Speaker 1: And I think more women should date and not be

796
00:42:08,680 --> 00:42:11,160
Speaker 1: having sex. You don't have to have sex with everybody

797
00:42:11,200 --> 00:42:12,120
Speaker 1: you hanging out with.

798
00:42:12,280 --> 00:42:15,040
Speaker 2: Listen, I don't have sex with nobody. It was so funny.

799
00:42:17,040 --> 00:42:19,160
Speaker 2: I was with my you know, I'm not even gonna

800
00:42:19,160 --> 00:42:22,319
Speaker 2: tell that story, no telling, No, I'm not, because that's

801
00:42:22,320 --> 00:42:24,640
Speaker 2: what I really enjoy their company. I don'tant to even

802
00:42:25,040 --> 00:42:26,279
Speaker 2: share that business on here.

803
00:42:27,040 --> 00:42:29,200
Speaker 1: Do you think a situationship could ever become like a

804
00:42:29,239 --> 00:42:31,240
Speaker 1: healthy relationship? Yeah?

805
00:42:31,239 --> 00:42:35,560
Speaker 2: Absolutely. Sometimes it's just like two people having fun and

806
00:42:35,600 --> 00:42:38,640
Speaker 2: then it turns into something else, it turns into more.

807
00:42:38,920 --> 00:42:41,240
Speaker 1: You don't think it could happen. It does happen.

808
00:42:42,880 --> 00:42:47,880
Speaker 2: One of my friends right now, she's with it, locked

809
00:42:47,920 --> 00:42:51,160
Speaker 2: in and they got two kids. It was a situationship.

810
00:42:51,200 --> 00:42:54,400
Speaker 2: They would like just be like travel buddies. They meet

811
00:42:54,520 --> 00:42:58,600
Speaker 2: different places around the world, you know, vacation they were

812
00:42:58,640 --> 00:43:01,640
Speaker 2: like vacation friends. That's what they would do. And then

813
00:43:01,920 --> 00:43:04,880
Speaker 2: she got pregnant and then she had a baby, and

814
00:43:04,920 --> 00:43:07,600
Speaker 2: they still wasn't like when she got pregnant, I don't

815
00:43:07,600 --> 00:43:09,640
Speaker 2: feel like they was like really locked in like that.

816
00:43:10,160 --> 00:43:13,200
Speaker 2: You know, they fucked with each other hard, but and

817
00:43:13,239 --> 00:43:15,560
Speaker 2: then all of it just turned into something more. And

818
00:43:15,600 --> 00:43:18,000
Speaker 2: now they're a family and they have a beautiful family

819
00:43:18,080 --> 00:43:19,160
Speaker 2: and they're happy together.

820
00:43:20,280 --> 00:43:24,960
Speaker 1: And that was a situation ship. Was she talking to

821
00:43:24,960 --> 00:43:26,640
Speaker 1: other people? Was he talking to other people?

822
00:43:26,960 --> 00:43:29,840
Speaker 2: We don't know, We don't Yeah, she was talking to

823
00:43:29,880 --> 00:43:33,520
Speaker 2: other people, Like, yeah, she was dating and I think

824
00:43:33,560 --> 00:43:36,680
Speaker 2: he was too, you know, but they were just like

825
00:43:36,920 --> 00:43:39,279
Speaker 2: they had enjoyed it. And that thing went on for

826
00:43:39,320 --> 00:43:41,880
Speaker 2: like eight years before she got pregnant him, before she

827
00:43:41,920 --> 00:43:44,600
Speaker 2: got pregnant by him, I know. And now they got

828
00:43:44,600 --> 00:43:48,720
Speaker 2: a beautiful family. So it can happen. It has happened,

829
00:43:48,719 --> 00:43:49,480
Speaker 2: It does happen.

830
00:43:52,000 --> 00:43:53,880
Speaker 1: I don't know. I don't think I can be in

831
00:43:54,040 --> 00:43:57,239
Speaker 1: limbo too long with somebody, Like I've definitely done it.

832
00:43:58,080 --> 00:44:01,840
Speaker 1: And when you when you want more, you want stability.

833
00:44:02,360 --> 00:44:04,440
Speaker 1: I don't. I'd be wanting to, Like I always say,

834
00:44:04,480 --> 00:44:08,080
Speaker 1: I like to feel single in relationships, but I don't

835
00:44:08,120 --> 00:44:11,520
Speaker 1: really like to be single.

836
00:44:12,320 --> 00:44:14,720
Speaker 2: So you think it I'm the reader hearing it says

837
00:44:14,840 --> 00:44:18,600
Speaker 2: the emotional burnout of being almost loved. So you think,

838
00:44:18,680 --> 00:44:21,000
Speaker 2: like situationships is almost low.

839
00:44:21,160 --> 00:44:24,680
Speaker 1: Yes, I do, I think, And that's why I said.

840
00:44:24,680 --> 00:44:29,680
Speaker 1: I think men and men benefit more from situationships because

841
00:44:29,719 --> 00:44:32,120
Speaker 1: they don't have that. They don't have to deal with

842
00:44:32,280 --> 00:44:35,479
Speaker 1: the emotions of a woman, right, they can just say, hey,

843
00:44:35,600 --> 00:44:37,840
Speaker 1: excuse me, sweetie, we not together like that, Yeah, we

844
00:44:37,960 --> 00:44:39,279
Speaker 1: smashing raw.

845
00:44:40,320 --> 00:44:45,360
Speaker 2: But that's you say that, Like the situationships are always

846
00:44:45,360 --> 00:44:48,080
Speaker 2: because there's a woman who wants to be with this

847
00:44:48,160 --> 00:44:49,480
Speaker 2: man and it's not the case.

848
00:44:50,320 --> 00:44:53,000
Speaker 1: What's the percentage? What is the percentage? It's so many

849
00:44:53,000 --> 00:44:56,160
Speaker 1: fucking flute fries fruit flies flying around in the here.

850
00:44:56,360 --> 00:44:57,480
Speaker 2: I know, what is it?

851
00:44:58,640 --> 00:45:01,200
Speaker 1: What is the percentage? Then? Because I think like it's

852
00:45:01,239 --> 00:45:05,399
Speaker 1: a high percentage of women who are stuck in relationship

853
00:45:05,880 --> 00:45:10,839
Speaker 1: situationship purgatory. Then men, I don't know.

854
00:45:11,200 --> 00:45:16,359
Speaker 2: I don't know. I think especially these young girls, these

855
00:45:16,400 --> 00:45:20,399
Speaker 2: young girls is out here not caring. They really don't care.

856
00:45:22,400 --> 00:45:25,440
Speaker 2: I care too, That's why I do. That's why, and

857
00:45:25,480 --> 00:45:28,640
Speaker 2: that's why I don't. I don't be fucking like that

858
00:45:28,760 --> 00:45:31,400
Speaker 2: because I like we fucking I'm in love, like we

859
00:45:31,520 --> 00:45:33,279
Speaker 2: go together. I don't want to be I want to

860
00:45:33,320 --> 00:45:35,839
Speaker 2: be with you. So that's why I don't do it

861
00:45:35,840 --> 00:45:36,200
Speaker 2: no more.

862
00:45:37,719 --> 00:45:38,800
Speaker 1: I stopped.

863
00:45:39,960 --> 00:45:48,200
Speaker 2: Like once I turned thirty two years ago. It's shit whatever,

864
00:45:49,400 --> 00:45:53,320
Speaker 2: Just stop doing that because it's just something about sleeping

865
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Speaker 2: with someone and sharing your body for me. It just

866
00:45:56,840 --> 00:45:57,759
Speaker 2: I feel connected.

867
00:45:59,239 --> 00:45:59,879
Speaker 1: Yeah, I don't.

868
00:46:00,400 --> 00:46:02,360
Speaker 2: No, you don't feel that connectional.

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Speaker 1: So we put a little poll. I'm trying to see

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Speaker 1: if we got any any responses. I wanted to hear

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Speaker 1: about other people's situationships, y'all, I would love we like

872
00:46:13,280 --> 00:46:17,840
Speaker 1: to hear other people's business. Okay, so call us. You

873
00:46:17,840 --> 00:46:21,239
Speaker 1: don't like you don't like being nosy. I like it.

874
00:46:21,280 --> 00:46:22,000
Speaker 2: I get tired.

875
00:46:22,440 --> 00:46:24,920
Speaker 1: I like it. I get tired, y'all call it, call it,

876
00:46:25,000 --> 00:46:28,239
Speaker 1: call us and tell us about your situationships called nine one, nine, four, ten,

877
00:46:28,360 --> 00:46:31,240
Speaker 1: seventy seven, thirty five, and tell me all your motherfucking business.

878
00:46:32,040 --> 00:46:34,960
Speaker 2: Listen, you got three minutes before it's gonna hang up

879
00:46:35,000 --> 00:46:37,040
Speaker 2: on you, and you got a call back, so put

880
00:46:37,040 --> 00:46:38,160
Speaker 2: your timer on or something.

881
00:46:38,360 --> 00:46:40,919
Speaker 1: I think situationships are dangerous. I feel like everybody should

882
00:46:40,920 --> 00:46:45,040
Speaker 1: stay the fuck up out of them. Children come through situationships.

883
00:46:45,200 --> 00:46:49,600
Speaker 1: We need you don't You need children with both family,

884
00:46:49,920 --> 00:46:53,000
Speaker 1: both people in the household. When children are born out

885
00:46:53,000 --> 00:46:58,120
Speaker 1: of side situations and situationships, it is a strenuous relationship

886
00:46:58,160 --> 00:47:01,920
Speaker 1: at that point between these two adult It's not Nothing

887
00:47:02,120 --> 00:47:03,960
Speaker 1: good comes out of situationships.

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00:47:04,719 --> 00:47:07,040
Speaker 2: I mean, I get what you're saying, but I mean,

889
00:47:07,120 --> 00:47:08,359
Speaker 2: in twenty twenty.

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00:47:08,040 --> 00:47:11,239
Speaker 1: Five, get off the damn dating apps. Go out.

891
00:47:11,400 --> 00:47:14,880
Speaker 2: There is a lot of I mean there, let's be honest.

892
00:47:15,400 --> 00:47:20,600
Speaker 2: The black family unit has changed. The dynamic is different.

893
00:47:20,840 --> 00:47:25,560
Speaker 2: You know, a lot of black families are in different homes,

894
00:47:25,640 --> 00:47:28,560
Speaker 2: They're not in the same household.

895
00:47:28,680 --> 00:47:32,799
Speaker 1: And where is that getting us? We are fucked up?

896
00:47:33,520 --> 00:47:36,600
Speaker 2: So yeah, yeah, but that's the reality of things.

897
00:47:36,280 --> 00:47:38,600
Speaker 1: Though, you know, it doesn't have to be the reality

898
00:47:38,640 --> 00:47:41,920
Speaker 1: of things. I'm for people not being in situationships, like

899
00:47:42,000 --> 00:47:45,560
Speaker 1: actually date people you know, and actually get into actual

900
00:47:45,640 --> 00:47:49,480
Speaker 1: real relationships. Start your families, do things the right way.

901
00:47:49,520 --> 00:47:51,919
Speaker 1: Like you know, I'm not no super religious person, right,

902
00:47:52,520 --> 00:47:56,719
Speaker 1: but the Bible basic instructions before leaving earth right. The

903
00:47:56,760 --> 00:47:59,719
Speaker 1: Bible does give you a pretty nice instruction guide on

904
00:47:59,800 --> 00:48:02,360
Speaker 1: high to live so you don't get fucked up, you

905
00:48:02,360 --> 00:48:06,319
Speaker 1: know what I'm saying. Like it's still got some botion,

906
00:48:06,480 --> 00:48:08,080
Speaker 1: and they're like, you know, you're not supposed to fortunicate

907
00:48:08,160 --> 00:48:09,800
Speaker 1: with your neighbor's wife, but don't say nothing about the

908
00:48:09,800 --> 00:48:12,080
Speaker 1: bitch around the corner, so you will still do.

909
00:48:12,560 --> 00:48:16,200
Speaker 2: It says don't fornicate period until you're married. I mean,

910
00:48:16,200 --> 00:48:18,040
Speaker 2: we're going if we're going biblical.

911
00:48:17,640 --> 00:48:20,000
Speaker 1: And it says nothing about Mary for love either. It

912
00:48:20,040 --> 00:48:23,520
Speaker 1: says if you can't sustain from not having sex anymore thing,

913
00:48:23,520 --> 00:48:27,759
Speaker 1: you should find a wife. So I don't know, I

914
00:48:27,800 --> 00:48:32,560
Speaker 1: just feel like people are I'm I'm stressed out about

915
00:48:32,560 --> 00:48:35,319
Speaker 1: the black community right now. I'm not black, nom more, y'all.

916
00:48:35,320 --> 00:48:37,440
Speaker 1: I forgot to tell y'all, I'm gold with a little degreen.

917
00:48:37,640 --> 00:48:41,000
Speaker 2: So listen, how you stressed out about a community you

918
00:48:41,000 --> 00:48:42,440
Speaker 2: don't even belong to it anymore?

919
00:48:42,640 --> 00:48:49,440
Speaker 1: The word uh not expatriate. I have uh not excommunicated.

920
00:48:48,600 --> 00:48:50,440
Speaker 2: Your expet from the black community.

921
00:48:50,560 --> 00:48:55,360
Speaker 1: Not expat I'm looking for h I have divested. No,

922
00:48:55,400 --> 00:48:56,160
Speaker 1: I'm not divested.

923
00:48:56,320 --> 00:48:58,880
Speaker 2: I'm gonna say now you divested from the black community.

924
00:48:58,880 --> 00:48:59,400
Speaker 2: It's crazy.

925
00:48:59,560 --> 00:49:03,080
Speaker 1: No, I'm not I divested, but I just it's a

926
00:49:03,080 --> 00:49:04,759
Speaker 1: lot of things that we got going on. I just

927
00:49:04,760 --> 00:49:08,000
Speaker 1: don't agree with you, know what I'm saying. So listen,

928
00:49:08,000 --> 00:49:08,359
Speaker 1: if you.

929
00:49:08,360 --> 00:49:11,239
Speaker 2: Are so situationships are one of them. You think that

930
00:49:11,360 --> 00:49:14,799
Speaker 2: relationship or the hooked up culture gotta stop. It's so

931
00:49:14,880 --> 00:49:17,360
Speaker 2: crazy that you your age now, you know what that

932
00:49:17,400 --> 00:49:21,000
Speaker 2: reminds me of, Like my grandma telling me these are

933
00:49:21,120 --> 00:49:24,319
Speaker 2: last days. And I'm like, Grandma, You're seventy years old

934
00:49:24,440 --> 00:49:26,400
Speaker 2: and now you're talking about it's our last days and

935
00:49:26,480 --> 00:49:27,600
Speaker 2: I'm just a young bud.

936
00:49:28,080 --> 00:49:29,799
Speaker 1: You know why is that you feel with me talking

937
00:49:29,800 --> 00:49:30,359
Speaker 1: to you right now?

938
00:49:30,520 --> 00:49:32,840
Speaker 2: No, I'm saying you talking to the people, not me

939
00:49:33,360 --> 00:49:36,279
Speaker 2: talking to the audience, like saying, you're not being in

940
00:49:36,360 --> 00:49:39,080
Speaker 2: hellas situationships in your life, and now you're telling.

941
00:49:38,840 --> 00:49:42,480
Speaker 1: Hella, I have been in one. I have been Excuse me,

942
00:49:42,480 --> 00:49:48,799
Speaker 1: I've been in two situationships in life. Okay too, Compee girl, Well,

943
00:49:48,840 --> 00:49:52,520
Speaker 1: if if it turns into a relationship, wasn't really a situationship.

944
00:49:54,360 --> 00:49:59,520
Speaker 1: I mean, like I begetting to the end, it was

945
00:49:59,640 --> 00:50:04,800
Speaker 1: never nothing else going on. I'm tired of saying situationship anyway,

946
00:50:05,320 --> 00:50:07,960
Speaker 1: don't uh, y'all.

947
00:50:08,000 --> 00:50:09,799
Speaker 2: When y'all watch this, I want you to watch it

948
00:50:09,800 --> 00:50:13,080
Speaker 2: with your homegirls and take a sip of your drink.

949
00:50:13,200 --> 00:50:16,600
Speaker 2: Every time we say situationship. It shouldn't go out to

950
00:50:16,640 --> 00:50:18,000
Speaker 2: the day party or stuff like that.

951
00:50:19,680 --> 00:50:21,319
Speaker 1: Anyway. What's your last last time?

952
00:50:23,680 --> 00:50:27,799
Speaker 2: Listen? Life is short. Do what makes you happy, you know,

953
00:50:27,920 --> 00:50:30,319
Speaker 2: do it feels good, but just be prepared for the

954
00:50:30,360 --> 00:50:33,960
Speaker 2: consequences of all your choices. That's my last last.

955
00:50:35,719 --> 00:50:41,840
Speaker 1: Y'all. I choose clarity over confusion, because that's all my

956
00:50:42,040 --> 00:50:46,560
Speaker 1: situationships is offering. If you don't know where you stand

957
00:50:46,600 --> 00:50:49,680
Speaker 1: in someone else's life, if you're having a call another

958
00:50:49,719 --> 00:50:54,120
Speaker 1: bitch to ask her if she's fucking with him, fucking

959
00:50:54,160 --> 00:50:57,760
Speaker 1: with this man, you you gotta check in with somebody

960
00:50:57,760 --> 00:50:59,560
Speaker 1: else to see where you stand in this man's life.

961
00:50:59,600 --> 00:51:02,160
Speaker 1: You are and that's super duper situation ship. Get out

962
00:51:02,160 --> 00:51:07,160
Speaker 1: of there, save your life. But all situation girls, shut

963
00:51:07,239 --> 00:51:13,160
Speaker 1: up you a boy anyway, There can be clarity within

964
00:51:13,200 --> 00:51:13,840
Speaker 1: your situation.

965
00:51:13,920 --> 00:51:14,960
Speaker 2: This is what it is.

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00:51:15,480 --> 00:51:17,799
Speaker 1: I guess anyway, y'all. If you enjoy this episode, y'all

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Speaker 1: tune in every Thursday on The Black Effect. iHeart radio app.

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Speaker 1: Where the fuck you get your podcast at? This your.

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00:51:25,320 --> 00:51:28,000
Speaker 2: Yeah it's Sam Mam. I got on T shirt and sweatpants.

970
00:51:28,000 --> 00:51:31,920
Speaker 2: Maybe that's the energy I'm giving today. Maybe I am

971
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Speaker 2: a dyke today.

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00:51:32,680 --> 00:51:33,400
Speaker 1: Fuck you bitch.

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00:51:34,800 --> 00:51:39,759
Speaker 2: Remember to speak now and never hold your nuts.

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