Speaker 1: Hey, it's Brook and Jeffrey and you have found the
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Speaker 1: something a little different called our Awkward Tuesday Phone Call.
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Speaker 1: Yeah, totally, totally, And that's anytime you have an awkward situation,
Speaker 1: you call us for help and then we just you know,
Speaker 1: air all your dirty laundry so you get to enjoy
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Speaker 4: One of the biggest milestones in every relationship is the
Speaker 4: first major fight over something really really dumb.
Speaker 1: Yeah, and it has to be something.
Speaker 4: Yeah, like when Brooke almost left Michael all because he
Speaker 4: insisted the soy sauce had to be stored in the fridge.
Speaker 1: It doesn't make sense the restaurants.
Speaker 4: Thank you, Michael, Thank you, Jeffrey A good point.
Speaker 1: Yeah, never poisoned ever by soy sauce.
Speaker 4: You won that argument for sure. Well, one of our
Speaker 4: listeners is gone through something similar, and she admits she
Speaker 4: may have gotten overly emotional during a text exchange with
Speaker 4: her ex boyfriend. Question is sauce experty? Can we work
Speaker 4: our magic and answer the soy sauce question before things
Speaker 4: get really ugly. You're gonna find out your brand new
Speaker 4: awkward Tuesday phone call right after this. It's awkward.
Speaker 1: It's Tuesday.
Speaker 4: It's awkward Tuesday phone call. When you're in love, sometimes
Speaker 4: you do crazy, irrational, emotionally charged things.
Speaker 1: Like have kids. Is that what you're saying? No?
Speaker 4: No, maybe that's your life story. But later on you
Speaker 4: come to regret those things, like for me on Valentine's Day.
Speaker 4: And I know some of you in this I've heard
Speaker 4: this before, but when I was in college, I basically
Speaker 4: destroyed my own fraternity house. After I invited two women
Speaker 4: to the Valentine's Day party, both said yes, and once
Speaker 4: they arrived, neither hung out with me the entire day.
Speaker 4: So yes, the ceiling above my bed had to be
Speaker 4: kicked in. Oh thank you Bacardi. Oh it's not fair.
Speaker 1: I'm glad I don't see angry Jeffrey because that sounds
Speaker 1: like mirror.
Speaker 4: That's in love, Jeffrey. But today what they're dealing with
Speaker 4: a regret that was also spawned out of love. Not
Speaker 4: sure if Bacarty was involved in their misfortunes, but let's
Speaker 4: talk to Jennifer about it. Jennifer, how you doing.
Speaker 3: I'm good, Hi, guy.
Speaker 1: Just one red flag talking to another possible red flag.
Speaker 4: Even talk about Macarty like Bacarty orange flea. Yeah, yeah,
Speaker 4: I made all the good decisions back would walk.
Speaker 1: Yeah, Jennifer, Please tell us that you're making smarter choices
Speaker 1: than Jeffrey.
Speaker 4: Maybe that's my girl, all right, tell us about your situation.
Speaker 4: How has love come back to bite you?
Speaker 1: So?
Speaker 3: I was dating a guy for four months. His name
Speaker 3: is Jason, and we met when my car got desclined
Speaker 3: at a bar and he offered to pay for it opportunists.
Speaker 1: Yes, that's cute.
Speaker 3: Yeah, And we started hanging out, and I was very
Speaker 3: clear with him that I like it when he pays
Speaker 3: attention to me, Like, for example, When I say that,
Speaker 3: I mean like, if I'm on the couch with you,
Speaker 3: look at me, listen to me, respond to me.
Speaker 4: Well, that's three whole things that you're asking a man
Speaker 4: to do while he's sitting on a couch. You tell us,
Speaker 4: he's a big ask.
Speaker 1: You just you don't want your boyfriend to ignore you.
Speaker 1: Is that what you're saying? No, watching the movie, only
Speaker 1: look at.
Speaker 3: But also like, so be checking the sports score constantly,
Speaker 3: like know that I'm there, present with me as well?
Speaker 4: Be present?
Speaker 1: Okay, I mean is this something like how soon into
Speaker 1: the relationship did you lay this down there?
Speaker 6: The first week?
Speaker 1: The first week?
Speaker 3: Okay, okay, Yeah, it's pretty clear. That's what I like,
Speaker 3: and that's how I like to be dated.
Speaker 4: You know, it's good to establish rules early on in
Speaker 4: the courtship sometimes, And.
Speaker 1: It worked for four months. Yeah. Yeah, so he was
Speaker 1: into it. He was fine with it.
Speaker 3: I mean, he agreed because you had no other choice.
Speaker 3: But then one day throw me off and he stopped.
Speaker 1: Wait, wait, what happened, he stopped paying attention to you.
Speaker 3: So one day he just didn't respond to me for
Speaker 3: an entire twenty four hours, he didn't respond to my text.
Speaker 3: I get upset, like, clearly he doesn't respect me enough
Speaker 3: to answer one text. I don't care how busy you are.
Speaker 3: I'll give you three hours.
Speaker 1: Max.
Speaker 4: Oh okay, so you're not even together in the same
Speaker 4: space right now, you're texting him and he's not responding, right, okay.
Speaker 1: Are you guys in the same city or is he
Speaker 1: traveling for work?
Speaker 3: We're in the same city. So I dumped him overjeck.
Speaker 1: Oh oh, that seems a little rash.
Speaker 4: Was he in a surgery or something? Yeah, you don't
Speaker 4: know what he was doing?
Speaker 3: Well, you know, the next morning, he's like, are you joking?
Speaker 3: I was just busy. We literally talk every day. Do
Speaker 3: you want to be with me? And I was like, uh,
Speaker 3: becuse you were a small for twenty four hours, so
Speaker 3: no thanks, Like, look.
Speaker 2: Okay, in the wildest defense of my life, listen here,
Speaker 2: if you're used to texting someone every single day, morning, noon,
Speaker 2: and night, and then one day four months later with
Speaker 2: no explanation, that does seem out of the blue. I
Speaker 2: don't know if you break up, but that's very weird.
Speaker 1: Maybe you don't even have to talk about it. You
Speaker 1: just dump them via text. Mean it's a different story,
Speaker 1: are you, Like, are you regretting it now? Is that
Speaker 1: why you're calling our show?
Speaker 3: Well, you know, when I dumped him overjecks, I kind
Speaker 3: of got me thinking about the other stuff that annoys me,
Speaker 3: Like he never posts on social media ever, Like I
Speaker 3: like some guys i'm dating sends me Instagram funny men
Speaker 3: their phones.
Speaker 1: You want them looking at me.
Speaker 4: That's not true. She wants them on the phone talking
Speaker 4: to her and not looking at anything else.
Speaker 2: Okay, sorry, picture of you get off your phone.
Speaker 4: Okay.
Speaker 1: So you started snowballing with all these reasons that you
Speaker 1: were right to dump him.
Speaker 3: Yeah, so then I get worked up. I block him
Speaker 3: from every as one does.
Speaker 1: Yeah, it's a reasonable thing.
Speaker 3: It's been a few weeks and I regret it, and
Speaker 3: I realized I've a got a little overly emotional about it.
Speaker 1: Huh, Well that's there's maybe some gross there. So did
Speaker 1: you reach out to him and apologize? No?
Speaker 3: Well, that's why I'm asking you guys, Like I don't
Speaker 3: know how to ask him to go back with me
Speaker 3: and give me a chance.
Speaker 4: Yeah, this is this is the first time we're going
Speaker 4: to be reaching out to your ex boyfriend after you
Speaker 4: dumped him over text.
Speaker 1: Because he didn't respond to you in twenty four hours.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I mean I overreacted. Yes, I know this now
Speaker 3: you know, and I I regret it, and I probably
Speaker 3: should thought about it or taking a couple of deep breaths.
Speaker 3: But it really picked me off.
Speaker 4: Okay, I think, honestly, a lot of what you just
Speaker 4: said right there to us would be great to put
Speaker 4: somewhere in the conversation when we reach out to him.
Speaker 4: Very awkward call that.
Speaker 1: What's funny is I always think of the opposite. I
Speaker 1: always thinking that all sounds like an excuse? Is why
Speaker 1: it's okay that she did that? Like, that's not an apology.
Speaker 1: An apology is just I'm sorry, like not, but you
Speaker 1: really ticked me off.
Speaker 2: Hold on, what's our goal here? Are we spelling it out?
Speaker 2: You want him back? Or are we trying to subtly
Speaker 2: convince him that he's missing out on you?
Speaker 3: Whatever works? Guys, I want to date him again, So
Speaker 3: can you help me?
Speaker 4: Okay, We'll try. We're going to come back. Give you
Speaker 4: a little bit of advice, whether it's a sincere apology
Speaker 4: or a subtle threat, and we'll try and make your
Speaker 4: awkward Tuesday phone call right after this. Hold on, it's awkward.
Speaker 4: It's Tuesday.
Speaker 2: It's awkward Tuesday phone call, Brooke.
Speaker 4: I have a question. How hard is it to admit
Speaker 4: when you're wrong?
Speaker 1: It's actually pretty easy? Yeah, all the time. I haven't done.
Speaker 4: Are you kidding me?
Speaker 1: I admit I wrong all the time.
Speaker 4: Well, we took an informal poll around the office recently,
Speaker 4: and it had to be a secret poll. Yeah, obviously
Speaker 4: because some people here are afraid of you and quote
Speaker 4: what you might do to their careers and families. But
Speaker 4: I will say your name was up there as one
Speaker 4: of the people that gets the most votes for someone
Speaker 4: who can't admit openly when they're wrong.
Speaker 1: But I say it all the time.
Speaker 4: Maybe that's just happening in your head. You should try
Speaker 4: it out every once in a while.
Speaker 1: Maybe you're listening skills aren't very good.
Speaker 4: Oh wow, a person.
Speaker 2: You're constantly apologizing.
Speaker 4: We have a similar mindset on the phone with us
Speaker 4: right now named Jennifer, who regrets breaking up with her
Speaker 4: because he didn't text her back one day into their
Speaker 4: four month long relationships. So, Brooks, since you and her
Speaker 4: think alike, why don't you talk to work give her
Speaker 4: some advice on how on what you would do in
Speaker 4: this situation.
Speaker 1: Everyone knows that's the type of person I am, Jennifer,
Speaker 1: and I am here for you. But I actually do
Speaker 1: have a good plan for you. Okay, Jennifer, you told
Speaker 1: us about a story when you first met where he
Speaker 1: rescued you after your credit card got declined. Remember you guys,
Speaker 1: remember that. Yeah, he is the guy who wants to
Speaker 1: be the Knight in shining armor. So guess what, you're
Speaker 1: another damsel in distress right now. You need to call him.
Speaker 1: You need to tell him something's broken at your house
Speaker 1: and he is the manliest man, is the only one
Speaker 1: that can fix it, and I guarantee he'll come rushing back.
Speaker 2: Actually, you're probably right.
Speaker 4: What do you think about that, Jennifer, Make up some
Speaker 4: sort of scenario he can save you from.
Speaker 1: Yeah, and then you're like cute and sexy when he
Speaker 1: shows up, just my chance.
Speaker 3: Do you think he'll fall for it?
Speaker 1: Yes?
Speaker 2: Yeah, we're guys, We're dumb.
Speaker 1: Yeah, it could be like, I don't know how handy
Speaker 1: he is maybe like a broken outlet or a.
Speaker 3: Well, if the guy is saying yes, then I'll try it.
Speaker 4: One of the guys is saying yes, it could be
Speaker 4: worth a shot, though, jose What what's your advice for Jennifer?
Speaker 2: Well, you seem like a very passionate person, like very
Speaker 2: intense person, which isn't a bad thing, but sometimes intense
Speaker 2: people can be more you know, ran Te, So I
Speaker 2: think you just need to convince him that you were
Speaker 2: ranting when you sent that breakup text. You didn't really
Speaker 2: mean it, You weren't serious, you were just mad.
Speaker 1: I think that's gaslighting. That's like the definition of gas lighting.
Speaker 2: Whatever works to get him back is to get him back,
Speaker 2: and I think that'll.
Speaker 4: Work, Okay, a little bit of make yourself a damsel
Speaker 4: in distress, a little bit of gaslight him for causing
Speaker 4: all of your problems. We've been dating for four months.
Speaker 2: You just don't know how I am.
Speaker 1: It's your fault.
Speaker 4: Yeah, how does that sound, Jennifer? You feel ready now
Speaker 4: to make this call?
Speaker 3: I think so good.
Speaker 4: And if anything doesn't go according to our plan, Brook
Speaker 4: is more than willing to admit that she is wrong.
Speaker 1: All You're right, I could see nothing going wrong with
Speaker 1: this at all?
Speaker 4: Exactly.
Speaker 1: I feel that he's going to be so open to
Speaker 1: dating again.
Speaker 4: You are ready?
Speaker 1: Here we go.
Speaker 4: I'm dialing your ex boyfriend Jason right now. What'll steppen
Speaker 4: if we feel like you need little help?
Speaker 6: Hello? Hey you? How's it going?
Speaker 3: Uh?
Speaker 6: This is awkward? What's going on?
Speaker 3: Why are you calling? I?
Speaker 6: Just?
Speaker 3: How have you been.
Speaker 6: Fine?
Speaker 3: How about you good? I actually went to the bar
Speaker 3: where we first met and I just thought of you. Okay,
Speaker 3: how's work going?
Speaker 4: Yeah?
Speaker 6: I know it's been good. But can I can I
Speaker 6: help you with something? Or what are you calling?
Speaker 3: Well? You probably want to say something to me, So
Speaker 3: I'm ready when you are. Uh, you're calling me and
Speaker 3: you want me to say something like I'm confused? Yeah, okay, fine,
Speaker 3: I'll go for you. I just hate how everything went
Speaker 3: down with us. I mean, you definitely should have talked
Speaker 3: on the phone, and I also went a little crazy
Speaker 3: and like may have overreacted a little but a little
Speaker 3: A little yeah, a little, but I would that word
Speaker 3: to describe it. But but I'm willing to forgive you
Speaker 3: for what you did.
Speaker 6: You're willing to forgive me? Are you serious? Like you're
Speaker 6: calling me out of the blue asking me to apologize
Speaker 6: to you when you're the one who just like went,
Speaker 6: that's crazy you pretty much, Jason.
Speaker 3: I think you're interrupting me. I really hope you're not.
Speaker 3: I just wanted to give you a fair chance to apologize.
Speaker 6: Unfortunately, I'm sorry, but you're not going to get an
Speaker 6: apology from me because you are the one who put
Speaker 6: us in this comen So yeah, I'm not really sure
Speaker 6: what you're expecting from me.
Speaker 3: Let me just make it really easy for you, like
Speaker 3: I So what you need to do is just apologize
Speaker 3: to me because you know and say sorry, Jennifer. You know,
Speaker 3: I know you wanted to see me, and I.
Speaker 6: Know that a day shouldn't go wild, like don't text
Speaker 6: me back, or making it so easy for me really
Speaker 6: really just made my day here, Okay, I.
Speaker 3: Get this is hard for you maybe and you're adding
Speaker 3: sarcasm on top of that, but just so I'll help
Speaker 3: you start it off, I'm very very sorry for not
Speaker 3: responding to you and making you feel neglected. I'll you know,
Speaker 3: I'll make it up to y'all. I'll even let you
Speaker 3: get my groceries or buy me dinner or pay me rent,
Speaker 3: like whatever. Gesture you want to show, you.
Speaker 6: Know, are you actually being serious right now?
Speaker 3: Like I yes, I am. And also I actually have
Speaker 3: something that's broken at my house and it's hoping you
Speaker 3: can fixed it. It's an outlet, I would.
Speaker 2: Say, sex.
Speaker 6: What the hell is actually going on? Like, we're all
Speaker 6: these people on the phone.
Speaker 4: Jason, we're a radio show called Brook and Jeffrey in
Speaker 4: the morning.
Speaker 6: Oh, I'm so uncomfortable right now beyond the radio.
Speaker 4: Yeah, we're doing something called an awkward Tuesday phone call,
Speaker 4: trying to help out our friend Jennifer here with an issue.
Speaker 4: And I will say, just to take her side, I
Speaker 4: didn't hear any apology whatever. She gave me a lot
Speaker 4: of chances there be sarcastic.
Speaker 6: Well, I'm actually I'm very thankful that you guys just
Speaker 6: witnessed that because this has been my life. Isn't this ridiculous?
Speaker 6: What can you actually believe?
Speaker 4: This is real? Jennifer, you told us that you wanted
Speaker 4: to like see.
Speaker 1: Him again because you were sorry, remember you?
Speaker 3: But he needs to apologized.
Speaker 4: Yeah, everybody knows a sincere apology is always better when
Speaker 4: you force somebody to give it makes total sense. That's right,
Speaker 4: jeff That is right either way. However you want to
Speaker 4: look at this. There were some hurt feelings on both sides,
Speaker 4: and I think what would really help is to get
Speaker 4: an apology out there from both of you at the
Speaker 4: same time. So all count to three and you guys
Speaker 4: can both say I'm sorry to each other ready one, two, three.
Speaker 3: I'm sorry you didn't text me back, still.
Speaker 4: Saying awkwardly silence over there.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I think Jason's made up his mind, Jeffrey. I
Speaker 1: don't think he's going to go over and fix the outlet.
Speaker 4: No, he wants to go over and give her an
Speaker 4: in person apology because an in phone apology wasn't enough.
Speaker 4: Is that what you're thinking, Jason.
Speaker 3: You hit it right on the head.
Speaker 4: Yeah, I just know these things.
Speaker 1: He finally gets you.
Speaker 4: Yeah, he does.
Speaker 6: He hurts you right, And you know what, Jennifer, I've
Speaker 6: actually moved on and I have a day tonight, So
Speaker 6: I just don't know, like there's really no purpose in
Speaker 6: these kind of calls moving forward.
Speaker 4: Just oh.
Speaker 3: Good luck. I'm sure she likes we texted back as well.
Speaker 1: I don't think this she'll probably throw a fit about it.
Speaker 4: I don't think you're reading in between the line what
Speaker 4: he's saying, is he wants you to show up to the.
Speaker 3: May you do that, Jennifer, take your time and place.
Speaker 6: You really are crazy and fun.
Speaker 4: Oh my god, man, talk about being nervous for your
Speaker 4: first date now because you want to impress the new
Speaker 4: girl because Jennifer might show up out of nowhere dressed
Speaker 4: up as one of the waiters.
Speaker 1: I don't even say that and put that in her hands.
Speaker 4: It just means that she loves him.
Speaker 1: No, it does not.
Speaker 4: It means somebody needs either way.
Speaker 1: BOK and Jeffrey in the Morning, Well, a lot of
Speaker 1: people have a lot of opinions. Yes right now, Yo,
Speaker 1: it's Jeffrey in the Morning. Thanks for sticking around apart three,
Speaker 1: and there is just a lot to cover right now. Yeah,
Speaker 1: because I mean we were shocked. Yeah, we didn't expect
Speaker 1: her to come off like that. Yeah, you know, I
Speaker 1: thought she was going to be the one apologizing.
Speaker 5: Man was Yeah that was Oh and it is triggering
Speaker 5: all the keywords in the comments, and we got narcissists,
Speaker 5: crazy nuts, run, suffocating, toxic, immature check for.
Speaker 1: A tracker.
Speaker 2: Listening hearing a gold mine right, Yes.
Speaker 1: That could be someone's type.
Speaker 5: Yeah, right now, I want to scroll there's a lot
Speaker 5: of comments, but let me try to find maybe there
Speaker 5: will be the one person.
Speaker 1: Yeah, and the one person seeing it yet though she
Speaker 1: really is actually destined for is a reality show? Yes,
Speaker 1: that is perfect reality show. You're right, So hopefully there's
Speaker 1: a producer listening that she gets her shot.
Speaker 2: And make more money than all of us.
Speaker 1: There's got to be the villain on every reality show. Her.
Speaker 1: We've got her in your comments. And for second here
Speaker 1: it's Brook and Jeffrey in the Morning.