Speaker 1: Why am I even speaking with this kind of intensity
Speaker 1: because you said you're dying, dude, and it's been nine
Speaker 1: months and it's just time. It's time for you to
Speaker 1: start figuring this out with your brain and not your heart.
Speaker 1: What's up, guys, Welcome back to the podcast. Guest today.
Speaker 1: My brother Parker, longtime guest on this podcast, always throws
Speaker 1: out the bombs of wisdom. Every time you're on, we
Speaker 1: get the best tiktoks. Oh you have just throw out
Speaker 1: the bombs, man, it's good to be back. We started
Speaker 1: a lot of you guys. I know a lot of
Speaker 1: y'all came from TikTok to this platform to hear the podcast,
Speaker 1: and we started posting these TikTok clips from this podcast
Speaker 1: a couple of years ago. And I believe it started
Speaker 1: because of a show that you were on with me
Speaker 1: and you were just throwing out these bombs about being
Speaker 1: content or single or something actually when you were single,
Speaker 1: and we posted it and it started going viral on
Speaker 1: TikTok and we're like, well, we should do more of these,
Speaker 1: and now we do them, you know, three times a week,
Speaker 1: especially with relationships stuff, because people are so hungry to
Speaker 1: figure out either who their person is, or how to
Speaker 1: get over a past relationship. Everything in that genre goes viral,
Speaker 1: it seems like because everyone is so thirsty for it.
Speaker 1: I'll be honest, So this podcast I answer your questions.
Speaker 1: You could email me Grangersmith Podcast at gmail dot com.
Speaker 1: They pour into my inbox. Ask me any subject. Can
Speaker 1: I say this every time? Ask me anything, but I'll
Speaker 1: be honest. We're leaning now on this podcast. Probably seventy
Speaker 1: five percent of the emails that are coming in or
Speaker 1: about relationship problems. Usually it's never it's never like a
Speaker 1: you know, a good scenario. It's always some kind of problem.
Speaker 1: Heartbreak is usually at the center of it. So I
Speaker 1: then now it makes me think a lot about it,
Speaker 1: and I appreciate it. Thanks for your questions, and we'll
Speaker 1: dive into them here in a second. But it's interesting
Speaker 1: that I was telling the guys at ee appearrel yesterday,
Speaker 1: it's almost like heartbreak is like a pandemic in the world. Really,
Speaker 1: I don't know if pandemic is the right word. Epidemic.
Speaker 1: It's an epidemic in the world heartbreak and people are
Speaker 1: walking around sick and they're looking for a cure, which
Speaker 1: is why, you know, so many of them come to
Speaker 1: this podcast because they're just trying everything. It's like, well,
Speaker 1: I've done this and this and this, I might as
Speaker 1: well also email the podcast and we'll get into it.
Speaker 1: But thanks for being here. Maybe we should record an
Speaker 1: entire episode about that. But maybe every episode already is
Speaker 1: kind of about that. But maybe you could record an
Speaker 1: episode about that with the biggest scenarios that anytime anybody asks,
Speaker 1: you could just send them that link to that podcast. Yeah,
Speaker 1: but it's still fun having fresh ones, and everybody thinks
Speaker 1: that it has to be specifically answered about their specific scenario.
Speaker 1: I got a question a couple of weeks ago, and
Speaker 1: it basically said I'm dealing with heartbreak. My girl left me.
Speaker 1: And it said, I know that you talk about this
Speaker 1: every week, but this one's different. And I thought that
Speaker 1: was interesting, And it's not discounting that guy and his
Speaker 1: question at all, but it's just it highlights the fact
Speaker 1: that everyone feels like theirs is different, Like I know
Speaker 1: you've answered people's questions about heartbreak, but my story is different,
Speaker 1: like she really was the one and now she's gone
Speaker 1: and I'm really hurting here. I know those other people
Speaker 1: said the same thing, but I'm really hurting. And that
Speaker 1: goes to show you too that when you listen to
Speaker 1: questions about it from the outside looking in, it's never
Speaker 1: that bad until it hits you, and then you go,
Speaker 1: I'm actually dying. What can I do? And so anyway,
Speaker 1: welcome to the podcast. Let's dive into the questions. First one.
Speaker 1: First one in the docket here says pick me, pick
Speaker 1: me help, I'm alone. That's the subject line, says, Hi Grandeur.
Speaker 1: My name is Joe. I'm twenty three years old, recently
Speaker 1: had a break up and this isn't the first time
Speaker 1: I've gone through this. Here it is. I'm obviously very
Speaker 1: heartbroken right now, there's the word already. But I'm realizing
Speaker 1: my tendency to cling to people because I'm not okay
Speaker 1: being alone. My ex says, I ruin relationships because I'm
Speaker 1: overbearing and dependent for them for my happiness. I'd literally
Speaker 1: have a denial or excuse me. I'd literally have a
Speaker 1: dental school interview next week. And I have a lot
Speaker 1: going on for my life. I consider myself attractive and
Speaker 1: all I want to do is love someone and be loved.
Speaker 1: But somehow I'm still depressed and hate being alone. I
Speaker 1: feel like I'm the only person on the planet even
Speaker 1: when others are in the room. I don't know what
Speaker 1: to do. Any encouragement would help. Thanks. So Joe, he's
Speaker 1: twenty three, and it's funny, this is exactly what we
Speaker 1: just said. So we have these are the key things here,
Speaker 1: heartbroken we have I'm the only person on the planet,
Speaker 1: like I'm the only one dealing with this. Yeah, you
Speaker 1: mentioned that your brain something subconsciously. We were just talking
Speaker 1: before we got on this, and he was like, grangeers, Like,
Speaker 1: it's almost like when you're going through a breakup, your
Speaker 1: brain is like that was your only chance to reproduce
Speaker 1: and find a mate, and now you're done. And so
Speaker 1: it's like the animal part of our brain. I may
Speaker 1: mess this up, but it's like the older part of
Speaker 1: your brain is the amygdala, and that's the part that's
Speaker 1: the fight or flight. That's the part of your brain
Speaker 1: that gets very emotional, that gets that suffers the most
Speaker 1: in those first few days of grief. That is basically
Speaker 1: the same emotion after a breakup is grief that you
Speaker 1: were talking about after a loss, because you're grieving the
Speaker 1: loss of this person and it's hard to just view
Speaker 1: it from a bird's eye view for that that neo cortex,
Speaker 1: the newer part of your brain to be able to
Speaker 1: be like, look, you're gonna be okay, you're not viewing
Speaker 1: this clearly right now from your current state. Yeah, it's interesting.
Speaker 1: It's like, if you just want to simplify everything in this,
Speaker 1: in this email and heartbreak in general, you your your body,
Speaker 1: the animalistic side of your brain says, find mate, make offspring,
Speaker 1: and in doing that, you're on you're you're literally on
Speaker 1: a hunt. So it's a scarcity mindset. Yeah, it's a
Speaker 1: scarcity mindset, and you're on the hunt for the qualifications
Speaker 1: that your brain says, good to go. So you scan
Speaker 1: the world and you scan everyone around you, and your
Speaker 1: brain goes got it, boom, and it says like match,
Speaker 1: found mate, and and then you go latch on. And
Speaker 1: then you try everything you can to get the mate
Speaker 1: so that you could the animalistic side of you can
Speaker 1: make offspring. It's really all it comes down to. And
Speaker 1: then when you mess up or she leaves or whatever
Speaker 1: whatever scenario, she's gone sounds like a nineties country song,
Speaker 1: She's gone, She's gone, and your brain then revolts against
Speaker 1: that and makes you sick, which is why we call
Speaker 1: it heart broken. It feels you feel broken, and your
Speaker 1: brain is telling you two things. Either, go get her
Speaker 1: at all costs, because if you don't, you're gonna die.
Speaker 1: You're not going to eat or sleep, and you're not
Speaker 1: gonna breathe and your heart's not gonna beat anymore. So
Speaker 1: go getter or you die. Or two, you better you
Speaker 1: better find an equivalent mate fast. You better find someone
Speaker 1: equal to this fast. And nothing in those two animalistic
Speaker 1: demands that your brain is giving you does it. Do
Speaker 1: you have space to say, wait, wait a minute, there's
Speaker 1: three and a half billion girls on this planet. I'm
Speaker 1: not gonna die. I'm gonna nourish myself with food. Eventually
Speaker 1: I'll sleep, I'll settle down, and I'll find someone else.
Speaker 1: But you really have to suppress that animalistic mentality. And
Speaker 1: that's what we see with Joe, except for Joe has
Speaker 1: a deeper you. Joe goes one step further than a girl,
Speaker 1: then he's saying, this is many girls. This happens to
Speaker 1: him repeatedly, and his ex told him he ruins relationships
Speaker 1: because he's overbearing and dependent on them for happiness, which Joe,
Speaker 1: you know you know whether or not that's true or not.
Speaker 1: You know that's an issue when you wrote the sentence.
Speaker 1: You knew this was a huge problem for you when
Speaker 1: you wrote me the sentence saying I literally am too
Speaker 1: overbearing and dependent on them for happiness. Okay, where do
Speaker 1: we go from here? Let's stop right there. The question
Speaker 1: is that could answer a lot of these questions. Where
Speaker 1: do you find happiness exactly? Can it just come from
Speaker 1: yourself or do you have to find somebody else to
Speaker 1: fulfill it. That's an open ended question, and we're leaving
Speaker 1: We're leaving space for someone that's listening out there to
Speaker 1: answer that for themselves, because because that is the question, Joe,
Speaker 1: that you have to wrestle with. Do I need someone
Speaker 1: else to make me happy? Do you? Well? Buddy? The
Speaker 1: answers no. The answer is obviously resounding no. A relationship
Speaker 1: is supposed to add to you and add to your
Speaker 1: life and add to the joy and happiness that you
Speaker 1: already have, but not complete a half of joy that
Speaker 1: you have or a half of happiness that you have.
Speaker 1: I've said it before in this podcast, Joe, you're not
Speaker 1: walking around right now as an incomplete human like if
Speaker 1: you give an X ray of your body, you know,
Speaker 1: a cat scan of everything going on in your body.
Speaker 1: The doctor would not find anything half completed inside of you,
Speaker 1: including your heart, including your brain, and every other piece
Speaker 1: of you is whole already. And so we have to
Speaker 1: come to grips with that as humans that we don't
Speaker 1: need another human to complete our happiness, which ties into
Speaker 1: the idea of soulmate, which I know you've talked about before,
Speaker 1: which comes from Greek mythology. I don't know if you've
Speaker 1: talked about that where Zeus cuts people in half. It
Speaker 1: was an old Greek mythology idea where every person when
Speaker 1: they were created was cut in half, and they were
Speaker 1: created as half, as half a person, and their mission
Speaker 1: was to go find their other half what to complete themselves.
Speaker 1: So this is something that's been brought into our minds
Speaker 1: that it's the biggest lie of the world that you
Speaker 1: are not complete on your own, you have to go
Speaker 1: find someone else to complete you. And then specifically with
Speaker 1: that scenario, it's the idea of there's only one person
Speaker 1: that you can find that would come work. What that
Speaker 1: says to me too, is that back way back then,
Speaker 1: thousands of years ago, this was still a problem It
Speaker 1: was a problem then and it's still a problem now.
Speaker 1: Like as a species, we haven't learned any better, we
Speaker 1: haven't figured out a way around this at all. For
Speaker 1: thousands of years, they were still dealing with it, just
Speaker 1: some fourteen year old Roman boy and his sandals, crying
Speaker 1: because you girls stood him up. And I need to
Speaker 1: say to you because I feel like, I feel like
Speaker 1: I'm talking about happiness here and I need to say
Speaker 1: of can a spouse that you love create more happiness
Speaker 1: in your life? Yes? Absolutely that we're not saying that
Speaker 1: a family. We need community, we need people around us.
Speaker 1: We're encouraged to be married, and we're encouraged to be
Speaker 1: married to our best friend, and that will bring you
Speaker 1: more happiness. But that's not what you're saying, Joe. You're
Speaker 1: saying you're depending on all of your happiness with someone else.
Speaker 1: And so that's that's what we wrestle with here. And
Speaker 1: that's the question. And this is something you have to
Speaker 1: you have to dig deep. You're depressed and you hate
Speaker 1: being alone. You have to find this out on yourself.
Speaker 1: You have to figure this out because because and I
Speaker 1: would put I would put a hold on any relationship
Speaker 1: right now, I would stop anything from coming your way
Speaker 1: until this is something that you've wrestled with enough now, Parker,
Speaker 1: and I would say that you could find your answers
Speaker 1: in the Bible. You could find all answers in the Bible. Really,
Speaker 1: it's it's our roadmap as Christians. Now, I don't know
Speaker 1: if you believe that or not. So I'm gonna lead
Speaker 1: you there like one beggar telling another beggar where he
Speaker 1: found bread. I no better than you, Joe, but I'm
Speaker 1: gonna tell you where I found these answers, and then
Speaker 1: you could take it for what you want. But it
Speaker 1: has saved me, and I know it's saved Parker and
Speaker 1: millions of others to be able to look at the Bible.
Speaker 1: And I heard Rich Wilkerson on Instagram the other day,
Speaker 1: who's an Instagram buddy of mine, But he said that Jesus,
Speaker 1: Jesus came and saved the world while being single. He
Speaker 1: saved the whole world what he was single? So what
Speaker 1: could you do? Single? Like? What are you doing? Single?
Speaker 1: Most complete human to ever live? Yes, was single? He
Speaker 1: was single. So Joe, the I know the end result
Speaker 1: for you. The end result is you're going to find
Speaker 1: out I'm twenty three, and I know that that probably
Speaker 1: seems old to you, but you've got a ways to go.
Speaker 1: Let's talk when you're twenty seven, twenty eight and you've
Speaker 1: had four years of being single by yourself, and you go,
Speaker 1: you know what, you know what? I figured out. I
Speaker 1: figured out I had some hobbies. I figured out I
Speaker 1: got some good buddies. I figured out I'm got I'm
Speaker 1: doing good at this indental school. Now. I figured out
Speaker 1: that I'm finding happiness through other things in my life
Speaker 1: and has nothing to do with the relationship. And what's
Speaker 1: crazy is when you figure that out, how attractive that's
Speaker 1: going to be to a really good mate, a really
Speaker 1: good relationship in the future. It's that I don't I
Speaker 1: don't think there's anything more attractive to a man or
Speaker 1: woman than someone that is intent and happy on their own.
Speaker 1: And there is nothing more appalling and and and turn
Speaker 1: off than someone that is needing someone else to feed
Speaker 1: them happiness. That is, that is a terrible thing to
Speaker 1: put off. So even though you say you're a good
Speaker 1: looking guy, I'm telling you right now, you're not a
Speaker 1: good looking guy. When you're putting off this feeling of
Speaker 1: dependence and people could see it. It's like a horse.
Speaker 1: A horse could could fill a fly, you know, on
Speaker 1: its back. Well, they could sense that, just like a
Speaker 1: girl can sense in you. Within two dates, Oh man,
Speaker 1: this guy's dependent. He needs he needs something, and I'm
Speaker 1: out and figuring this out. Joe is going to help
Speaker 1: you tremendously. All right, cool, let's move on. I think
Speaker 1: we I think we got that one. Next one says
Speaker 1: hey man, I'm a big fan. My name is Dylan,
Speaker 1: originally from Waller, Texas, living in Aggie Land. Now, whoop,
Speaker 1: just looking for an answer to something. After prayer and
Speaker 1: meditation and all that, what does it take to do
Speaker 1: right by you? I find myself doing everything I can
Speaker 1: to make everyone happy except myself. But I feel like
Speaker 1: if I do anything for myself to improve my own
Speaker 1: mental health, even I'm gonna lose my family. I've prayed
Speaker 1: and spent a lot of time thinking about it, but
Speaker 1: I don't feel like I've seen an answer yet. I'm
Speaker 1: not sure what else I could do, because, to tell
Speaker 1: you the truth, Bubba, I'm at the end of my
Speaker 1: rope anyway. Thanks for what you do. Your music and
Speaker 1: your outreach to folks are inspiring. Thank you In advance
Speaker 1: for any advice. God bless you, Dylan. So Dylan is
Speaker 1: saying he's looking for happiness. He's saying, I find myself
Speaker 1: doing everything I can to make everyone else happy except myself.
Speaker 1: But I feel like if I do anything for myself
Speaker 1: to improve my mental health, I'm gonna lose my family.
Speaker 1: I hear this a lot. It's the person who says,
Speaker 1: what happens if you help so many people along the
Speaker 1: way that you forgot about yourself, And it's almost like
Speaker 1: it's almost like a humble brag where it's like, I
Speaker 1: help so many people that I completely forgot about myself,
Speaker 1: But if your own mental health has completely deteriorated, like
Speaker 1: that's nothing to be proud of. I'm not saying that
Speaker 1: he's I'm not like trying to harp on him or anything,
Speaker 1: but I think it's what I've heard a guys say before,
Speaker 1: is it's like the paradox of of you find your
Speaker 1: most inner joy and hope is found in thinking about
Speaker 1: others more and of yourself less, which sounds like what
Speaker 1: he's saying, but that's not bringing him joy. What do
Speaker 1: you think is going on there? I think I don't
Speaker 1: think we're hearing the full story from Dylan, I think,
Speaker 1: and and hey, all respect to your brother, all respect.
Speaker 1: I appreciate the email. And people know if you if
Speaker 1: you're gonna email me, we're gonna talk through this. Like
Speaker 1: we're sitting around a campfire. It's just me and you,
Speaker 1: and it's late at night, and we're going to walk
Speaker 1: through it. And I want to. I want to get
Speaker 1: to some of the harder stuff, and I wanna I
Speaker 1: want to kind of tag you a little bit here,
Speaker 1: and and I want to say that because it's no
Speaker 1: it's no offense to you. But I think what Parker's
Speaker 1: getting at is I think there. I think you're looking
Speaker 1: to help people so that you could feel good about yourself.
Speaker 1: And that's no way to help people. You have to
Speaker 1: go in selflessly. And what's amazing about looking after people
Speaker 1: and helping people and doing things for others is that
Speaker 1: if you do that in a humble way, in a genuine,
Speaker 1: selfless way, it fulfills you. It really does. That's why
Speaker 1: that's why so many people go out and just make
Speaker 1: a career out of philanthropy, you know, and and and
Speaker 1: giving back to the community. That's why we do it
Speaker 1: at EE Apparel. I mean think about every every launch
Speaker 1: that we do every season to launch at e a Perl,
Speaker 1: we give a big portion back to the community, to
Speaker 1: some some organization. Well why do we do that? I mean, ultimately,
Speaker 1: why do we do it? Most of the people we
Speaker 1: give to we don't really know personally, we don't really
Speaker 1: see the result of it. It's not like it's a
Speaker 1: tax reason thing. But the reason we do it ultimately
Speaker 1: is because it feels good. Like when we could go
Speaker 1: cut a big old check to some hospital or to
Speaker 1: some youth group or some veteran organization. When we cut
Speaker 1: a big check and we hand it to them, we
Speaker 1: walk away and we're like, it feels really good. That
Speaker 1: feels good, and that's a that's a crazy thing that
Speaker 1: you give back and you are benefiting from it. So, Dylan,
Speaker 1: you should be feeling that if it's if it's coming
Speaker 1: from a genuine place of selflessness, then when you're pouring
Speaker 1: into others, you should feel. Man, I feel alive. I
Speaker 1: just helped this old lady across the street. I got
Speaker 1: her to the other side, and when I left and
Speaker 1: waved goodbye, and she had tears in her eyes. I
Speaker 1: felt so good. And if you don't, if you think
Speaker 1: I help this old lady and she didn't even say
Speaker 1: thank you, then you know, boom, you did it for
Speaker 1: the wrong reasons. You came at it the wrong way.
Speaker 1: That wasn't a selfless thing, that was looking for a reward,
Speaker 1: that was looking for some kind of payment back. And
Speaker 1: so that's the test. Do you feel it naturally? Does
Speaker 1: the old lady not even have to say thank you
Speaker 1: at all? Does she not say anything and you walk
Speaker 1: away and go that's a good thing, Then you know,
Speaker 1: then it came from the good place. Our grandmother many
Speaker 1: she has lived a selfless life of giving back to
Speaker 1: her family, and she's like ninety six. Her whole life,
Speaker 1: she has done nothing but pay it forward to when
Speaker 1: she was a little girl, to her family working on
Speaker 1: the farm, to when she started having babies, to when
Speaker 1: she started having grandbabies and then great grandbabies. All she
Speaker 1: has done is cook for people, rub people's feet, scratch
Speaker 1: people's back, run errands for him, go help the widow
Speaker 1: across the street that's sick, and bring her food. She
Speaker 1: does this for ninety six years. She has done this,
Speaker 1: and I think that's a big reason why she's still alive.
Speaker 1: And I think it's a big reason why she's so
Speaker 1: she has so much energy, and she's so sharp and
Speaker 1: love's life because she has spent a life of servitude.
Speaker 1: So I think, I think, Dylan, your mentality is on
Speaker 1: the right path of serving others. But I don't know
Speaker 1: if your heart's all the way into it, because you
Speaker 1: keep going back to what about me? And at the
Speaker 1: end he said, I'm afraid if I do what's best
Speaker 1: for me, I'll lose my family, which is also a paradox.
Speaker 1: Those two things shouldn't be butting heads with each other, right.
Speaker 1: It's like, ideally you are serving your wife, your children,
Speaker 1: your family, and it's again, it's hard because I don't
Speaker 1: know the exact situation. If we're talking about a wife,
Speaker 1: and if we're talking about children, then the serving of
Speaker 1: your family is your duty as the husband and father.
Speaker 1: And at the end of the day, if you don't
Speaker 1: get any respect, if you don't get anything in return,
Speaker 1: that's okay because you're doing that unto Christ, because Christ
Speaker 1: tells you to do that. And so it doesn't matter
Speaker 1: if you're not getting any of the feelings of respect
Speaker 1: or thank you or a gratitude back. You're doing it
Speaker 1: because you're gonna get rewards for it in heaven, because
Speaker 1: Jesus says so so at the end when he says
Speaker 1: that I'm afraid I'll lose my family. But then if
Speaker 1: he's talking about brothers and sisters and drama that I
Speaker 1: don't really know, I don't really know the whole story.
Speaker 1: Let me put it in perspective of myself and music.
Speaker 1: And as much as we've gone out and played music
Speaker 1: for twenty years, gone out and played there's only so
Speaker 1: many times I can go play a show for me
Speaker 1: like I need a reward, I need a crowd to
Speaker 1: applaud me, I need I need some kind of self
Speaker 1: gratification from doing this. There's only only so many times
Speaker 1: I can get on an airplane and leave my family
Speaker 1: on an early flight and go out to tour to
Speaker 1: get that kind of gratification. There's only so many times
Speaker 1: I can get on the bus and drive for three
Speaker 1: days all the way across the country on minimal sleep,
Speaker 1: and go play a show so that I can get applause.
Speaker 1: But when we switched as a mentality as a band
Speaker 1: that we're going out for a purpose, We're going out
Speaker 1: to help others, to serve others, through music, we're going
Speaker 1: to be the corridor for music that could bring a
Speaker 1: smile to their face. And after the pandemic, it was like, well,
Speaker 1: that mattered even more that a lot of these people
Speaker 1: haven't been out in twelve, sixteen, eighteen months, And so
Speaker 1: we put this mentality in our minds as a band
Speaker 1: that we're going to go out and play music for
Speaker 1: a purpose, for one person to hear a song, to smile,
Speaker 1: to remember something they haven't thought about in a long time,
Speaker 1: to forget something that don't want to think about anymore,
Speaker 1: to have just a little bit a piece of joy,
Speaker 1: three minutes at a time, song by song for ninety minutes.
Speaker 1: And then when we walk up the stage, knowing we
Speaker 1: did that without anything in return, we go it mattered. Okay,
Speaker 1: that's why we have to leave our families to go
Speaker 1: do this, because we're doing something that's greater than ourselves,
Speaker 1: greater than anything we could do on our own. And
Speaker 1: if I walked away every time and thought, man, that
Speaker 1: crowd didn't cheer very loud, and that's that can happen
Speaker 1: to me. It can, but I have to dismiss it
Speaker 1: and go that's not why I'm here. I'm here to serve.
Speaker 1: That's that's why God gave me this gift to serve
Speaker 1: and serve, and serve and serve until I die, servants
Speaker 1: until we die. I heard someone say the other day
Speaker 1: Paul the Apostle, after being beaten, shipwrecked, thrown in jail.
Speaker 1: Do you think he was like, Man, I need a
Speaker 1: self care day. I need me, I need I need
Speaker 1: to go to the spa. I need to get my
Speaker 1: shoulders rubbed. I need some green tea. I mean maybe
Speaker 1: part of him thought that I would love to catch
Speaker 1: a break here, But it's like this guy had been
Speaker 1: through everything imaginable. No wife, no children, no sex, none
Speaker 1: of the food that he liked. Probably, I mean, he's
Speaker 1: been through everything, and he had such fullness of and
Speaker 1: peace and hope that everybody in the world today is like,
Speaker 1: where do I find that. I'm not finding it anywhere.
Speaker 1: It's not at the spa, and it's not in your
Speaker 1: own desires. Yeah, Dylan, keep on serving, brother, keep on
Speaker 1: serving back, and do it from a whole heart. Open
Speaker 1: your heart up to your family, serve others. You'll get
Speaker 1: that joy. You'll get it back. We're gonna take a
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Speaker 1: subject line is called moving Forward. It says, hey Grangerin'm
Speaker 1: gonna make this brief as I can. I love the podcast,
Speaker 1: love the music, been a fan for a while. My
Speaker 1: name is Nick. I'm from Northwest Washington, thirty five years old.
Speaker 1: Me and my ex broke up about nine months ago.
Speaker 1: I've been coming to grips with the loss about her
Speaker 1: not coming back, but still to this day, every day
Speaker 1: I hurt. I need some advice to move forward. I'm
Speaker 1: one hundred percent not ready to go out and date.
Speaker 1: I would say that I still love her, or as
Speaker 1: you say, the thought of her help me please, I
Speaker 1: still feel like I'm drowning. Nick, Okay, I'll say this.
Speaker 1: I'll try to keep this concise. I don't mean to
Speaker 1: be unempathetic with this, because I've been through breakups where
Speaker 1: I cannot eat, I cannot sleep, I cry all the time.
Speaker 1: I mean three four five days, losing weight, losing hope,
Speaker 1: like what am I going to do. And I've thought
Speaker 1: about this a lot, Like you said, you've thought about
Speaker 1: this a lot, I would say a few things. First off,
Speaker 1: I think that when a breakup completely shatters you, you
Speaker 1: let yourself emotionally surpass the level that that relationship was
Speaker 1: actually at. You didn't guard your heart. That's what That's
Speaker 1: why the bye says above all else, guard your heart.
Speaker 1: You need to be like at the gate with a
Speaker 1: spear like. That's not to say you're going to be distrusting.
Speaker 1: That's not going to say you're going to be disrespectful,
Speaker 1: but maybe you'll be a little more cautious before you
Speaker 1: say I love you and you look into someone's eyes,
Speaker 1: maybe that's going to be you protecting your heart. In
Speaker 1: terms of the conversations that you're having. Maybe I'm not
Speaker 1: going to talk about how many kids I'm going to have,
Speaker 1: or where we're going to live, or wedding plans and
Speaker 1: let myself fall into that prematurely in the next relationship.
Speaker 1: And I'm really telling this to people who either are
Speaker 1: single or are early on in a relationship that haven't
Speaker 1: gotten to that point, because it's going to save you
Speaker 1: so much heartache. Don't let yourself get to that point,
Speaker 1: especially if you're being physical with someone that you're not
Speaker 1: married to. That's why God made sex to literally bond
Speaker 1: a husband and a wife together so that they would
Speaker 1: not leave each other, so that they would be chemically
Speaker 1: bonded together. And so when you're physical before marriage, that's
Speaker 1: why it makes the breakup so hard. So if you're
Speaker 1: able to keep those boundaries emotionally and physically, it's going
Speaker 1: to save you so much down the road. Number two
Speaker 1: I would just say, in terms of like practical advice. Okay, Parker,
Speaker 1: I already got to this point. I am emotionally shattered,
Speaker 1: I cannot eat, I still love her, I can't stop
Speaker 1: thinking about her. Just some practical advice that I would
Speaker 1: say is Number one. Try not to wallow in the past.
Speaker 1: Don't think about it. Don't think about all these situations scenarios.
Speaker 1: What could have been. She just told me she loved me,
Speaker 1: and now she just doesn't ever want to see me again.
Speaker 1: What the heck? Don't work. Don't try not to wallow
Speaker 1: in that. Number two, you don't need closure. Don't go
Speaker 1: try to meet up with her. You don't need to
Speaker 1: go get your sweater back from the house. Getting lunch
Speaker 1: with her is not going to solve anything or make
Speaker 1: you feel better. That's just you wanting that relationship back,
Speaker 1: and same thing. If they're wanting that from you, don't
Speaker 1: let them give you any excuses to come back. It's
Speaker 1: just going to make it harder. Focus on your sleep,
Speaker 1: Focus on your diet, Try to eat healthy, give yourself
Speaker 1: some physical activity. If your body's moving, your dopamine's going
Speaker 1: to be flowing in your brain, you're gonna be feeling better.
Speaker 1: And try to surround yourself with other human beings. Don't
Speaker 1: be alone. This is not the time to be a
Speaker 1: lone wolf. That's when the mistakes happen is when you're
Speaker 1: by yourself. You don't like what we were talking about earlier.
Speaker 1: That old part of your brain is just running going,
Speaker 1: I'm so screwed. I'm never going to find anybody again.
Speaker 1: You need people who are emotionally unbiased. Going, dude, there
Speaker 1: are three point five billion girls in the world. You're
Speaker 1: going to be completely fine. Get involved with the church.
Speaker 1: If you're not, go shake somebody's hand, join a sports team,
Speaker 1: get around people's that's awesome. I'm glad you went practical too,
Speaker 1: because the first you know your first point. You know,
Speaker 1: my mind immediately went to what if they were married?
Speaker 1: You know, what if they were married and you did
Speaker 1: give your full self all in because that we get
Speaker 1: just as many of those questions on this podcast too. Yeah,
Speaker 1: that was that was if you are unmarried, that's when
Speaker 1: you can. If you're married, you are all in, Your
Speaker 1: heart's all in, there's no going back. Man. Somehow I
Speaker 1: just lost that question. It just disappeared on my phone. Okay,
Speaker 1: but I remember what he said, So this is where
Speaker 1: I would go. I would I would say nine months
Speaker 1: is a long time. Like that's a long time. I
Speaker 1: would guess that the reason it's gone so long is
Speaker 1: you're still perpetuating it somehow in your mind with something
Speaker 1: like do you have a folder on your phone of
Speaker 1: her pictures? You know, like is there something Is there
Speaker 1: a gift that she gave you for Christmas one year
Speaker 1: and you have it in your closet and you go
Speaker 1: touch it every day before you go to sleep, Like
Speaker 1: is there anything connected with her that you are still
Speaker 1: perpetuating your brain? You're still training your brain that this
Speaker 1: is still my life, this is still my life. There's
Speaker 1: a necklace she gave you and you still wear it.
Speaker 1: There's those shoes that she bought you a couple of
Speaker 1: years go and you still wear them. Man, if you're
Speaker 1: nine months in and you feel like you're drowning, then
Speaker 1: it's it's time to get serious about this. It's time
Speaker 1: to get it's time to get serious. I would suggest this.
Speaker 1: I would suggest I would suggest journaling a journal every
Speaker 1: morning and Parker. Parker gets a lot of screenshots of
Speaker 1: my journals from years ago because they're funny. But you
Speaker 1: could see your progress so well through journaling, and you
Speaker 1: could you can compartmentalize what's going on in your head
Speaker 1: through journaling, So I would I would encourage you to
Speaker 1: write down what you're thinking, how you're thinking it, and
Speaker 1: what triggered it, and then also write down what triggered
Speaker 1: the downfall, so you're gonna it's it's very similar to grief.
Speaker 1: Grief and heartache are like close brothers. Parker and I
Speaker 1: were just talking about this. So in grief, you think
Speaker 1: about it in terms of of like a pattern, like
Speaker 1: a waveform, and there's a crest and there's the trough,
Speaker 1: and you're always moving. It's grief is never constant, the
Speaker 1: same level. Never there's times when you're like, I don't
Speaker 1: feel that bad right now, and then an hour later
Speaker 1: you're like, I'm dying. I'm literally dying right now. And
Speaker 1: that's the flow of it. So recognize the flow, Recognize
Speaker 1: where you are in the flow. Are you up? Are
Speaker 1: you down? Why are you down? Is that it was
Speaker 1: there a reason, and there might not because the flow
Speaker 1: just continues to happen. But nine months in, you're still hurting.
Speaker 1: You're doing something. You're doing something to keep your brain attached.
Speaker 1: So go through and start writing this down. And I'm serious, man,
Speaker 1: I'm serious. I think you're looking at a picture on
Speaker 1: your phone. I think you're you're wearing a necklace or
Speaker 1: a ring. I think you're maybe you're living in the
Speaker 1: same apartment where you guys lived. Move out, dude, it's
Speaker 1: time to change apartments. It's you have a dog that
Speaker 1: you got with her. It's time to give the dog away.
Speaker 1: It's time to start erasing this because you're not getting well.
Speaker 1: Why am I even speaking with this kind of intensity
Speaker 1: Because you said you're dying, dude, and it's been nine months,
Speaker 1: and it's it's just time. It's time for you to
Speaker 1: start figuring this out with your brain and not your heart.
Speaker 1: So put your heart aside because your heart, your heart
Speaker 1: is giving you that animalistic idea of lost mate, need
Speaker 1: find and breed like that. That's what your heart is
Speaker 1: telling you, and your brain needs to go, Okay, I
Speaker 1: need to I need to figure out what is happening.
Speaker 1: Parker said. Some great things community, stay around, community, nourishment,
Speaker 1: keep nourished. Exercise could help facility facilitate the nourishment. Stay
Speaker 1: in light. I was just in Alaska and it was
Speaker 1: dark for three days and all of us that my
Speaker 1: whole band and crew were missing the sunshine because humans
Speaker 1: need light. That starts playing tricks on your brain when
Speaker 1: you're in darkness. So make sure you got the shades open. Hey,
Speaker 1: spend some and go to Florida and take a couple
Speaker 1: buddies and you guys, go to Pensacola or whatever and
Speaker 1: get some sunshine with your buddies and set out, go
Speaker 1: to some restaurant where you're sitting on a pier and
Speaker 1: you get a cold beer with your buddies and the
Speaker 1: sun is just blasting you. And then tell me, tell
Speaker 1: me in that moment if you're still drowning in that moment,
Speaker 1: because I promise you you're gonna find these patterns your
Speaker 1: brain is in and you're gonna be able to defeat it.
Speaker 1: But only if you recognize search yourself and recognize what
Speaker 1: you're thinking and what you're feeling, and write it down
Speaker 1: and calculate it like it's a serious problem. Cool. I agreed. Okay,
Speaker 1: here's another one subject line many issues family, God and relationships.
Speaker 1: Dear mister Smith, I'm seventeen years old. I would like
Speaker 1: to remain anonymous. My biggest question regarding issues with my
Speaker 1: is regarding issues with my father and my mother. They've
Speaker 1: been split up for a while now, but I could
Speaker 1: always I can't always pick sides. How could I help
Speaker 1: myself in this situation? Also, I was wondering how I
Speaker 1: could work on my work ethic because my grandfather is
Speaker 1: very sick and I cannot balance school and ranch as
Speaker 1: easily as I want to. My second question is about God.
Speaker 1: I don't pray, I don't attend church, I don't attend
Speaker 1: CCD as regularly as I wish. Is there any way
Speaker 1: I could help with this, as well as anything else
Speaker 1: I struggle with. My last question is my inability to
Speaker 1: maintain a relationship that is healthy. I try to help
Speaker 1: anyone I can. I try to help my grandfather and schoolwork,
Speaker 1: and I can't keep up. I can't fit the time
Speaker 1: to talk to anyone to get to know them. But
Speaker 1: things talk about girls here. Either they don't like any
Speaker 1: of my ideas or this or that, or she refuses
Speaker 1: to let me use any type of methods to relieve
Speaker 1: my stress. I'm not sure what that means. Sure as
Speaker 1: a pickaxe and beat, not a hay bill. All right,
Speaker 1: what other ways can I release my stress? Okay, I'm
Speaker 1: gonna stop there, Anonymous. This is what I feel like
Speaker 1: when I read you. When I'm reading your email, I
Speaker 1: feel like this is what you told me. Dude. I
Speaker 1: have this fe this sharp pain in my kidney and
Speaker 1: it's like crushing me. And every time I walk, I
Speaker 1: feel a sharp pain and it's moving around. And also
Speaker 1: I have my lower spine there is this pinching and
Speaker 1: it grabs my muscle. And then also my last thing
Speaker 1: is there's something that my headaches are getting worse, and
Speaker 1: every time I wake up, my headaches are worse. And
Speaker 1: also I don't ever go to the doctor. So how
Speaker 1: can you help me like I feel like that? That's
Speaker 1: the question, right, Summed up like, Bro, you're you're sick
Speaker 1: in a lot of ways, and and full respect to you,
Speaker 1: you're you're sick in a lot of ways, and you're
Speaker 1: not going to the doctor. How do I know? Because
Speaker 1: you said it right here. I don't pray, I don't
Speaker 1: attend church, I don't go to CCD. Is there any
Speaker 1: way I could help with this? Go to any of it?
Speaker 1: Start today. It's like someone that wants to get into jogging.
Speaker 1: How do you start jogging? You know you want a jog,
Speaker 1: you know you need a jog for your health. How
Speaker 1: do you start by putting on your shoes? Like you
Speaker 1: put on your shoes and you tie them up. That's
Speaker 1: how you start. So the same thing, man, how do
Speaker 1: I pray? Will get down on your knees and start
Speaker 1: and you say, God, it's me. I don't know. I
Speaker 1: haven't I haven't spoken to you in a long time.
Speaker 1: But I'm coming to you because I'm struggling and I've
Speaker 1: got a lot of issues. I'm struggling with my mom
Speaker 1: and dad and my grandfather and balance in school and
Speaker 1: ranch work, and I don't know what to do. I
Speaker 1: don't have anywhere to turn, and so I'm coming to you.
Speaker 1: I'm gonna start doing this daily, multiple times a day.
Speaker 1: And when I think about struggling, I'm going to you.
Speaker 1: I'm gonna give it to you. And then you go in.
Speaker 1: You open up your Bible, say John one. I'm reading
Speaker 1: John right now. So that's where I'll go. John one,
Speaker 1: Open it up, John one one. Start there. I'm gonna
Speaker 1: read one paragraph in the morning. One paragraph. You're gonna
Speaker 1: start small and start digging into that. So instead of saying,
Speaker 1: I've got this pain in my back, it's like pinching,
Speaker 1: so I think I'm gonna try a band aid. No, dude,
Speaker 1: you need to go to a doctor that looks at
Speaker 1: your spine. That pain you have in your side, you
Speaker 1: need to go to a specialist that has an X
Speaker 1: ray that looks inside. Don't try to fix it with
Speaker 1: anything else. So I'm not gonna try to fix it
Speaker 1: with you and your question any other way besides the
Speaker 1: main question. You're sick. It's time to go to the doctor.
Speaker 1: In other words, it's time to start praying to God.
Speaker 1: What would you say if if someone's listening to that
Speaker 1: and going grangel, what does God have to do with
Speaker 1: any of this? He asked it. I don't have time
Speaker 1: for my work. I'm depressed, I'm anxious, I can't find
Speaker 1: a girlfriend, I'm not happy on my own, I'm discontent.
Speaker 1: But what does God have anything to do with that? Like,
Speaker 1: I need real life solution. You're talking about someone that's
Speaker 1: listening because he asked it. Specifically, you're talking about another
Speaker 1: listener that wouldn't have asked that. Yes, someone who hears
Speaker 1: that and goes, what does God have to do with that? Well?
Speaker 1: Why is? Why is why is the Why is God
Speaker 1: the doctor in that situation that's going to that's going
Speaker 1: to solve the rest of it? Why is that going
Speaker 1: to be the first domino? Do you think? Well, the
Speaker 1: only way to heal the human heart is by going
Speaker 1: to the one that created it. Just like if you
Speaker 1: have a serious computer problem in your Ford truck, the
Speaker 1: only one that could fix it is the manufacturer that
Speaker 1: created it. Why Because they know the blueprints of it
Speaker 1: and so they know how to fix the computer problem
Speaker 1: in your Ford truck. And Joe at the body shop
Speaker 1: down the street can't do it. You can't sit there
Speaker 1: on YouTube and do it. If it's a serious computer problem,
Speaker 1: only the manufacturer can do it. And so when we
Speaker 1: look at ourselves, our bodies, our hearts, our minds, are
Speaker 1: our depression, our anxiety, our stress, and every other human
Speaker 1: problem that we all share. The only one that could
Speaker 1: fix it is the one that created it. And you
Speaker 1: realize that your body was created for a purpose and
Speaker 1: a very intricate, complicated, mysterious, perfect way by a creator.
Speaker 1: Unless you think you came from Amba's unless you think
Speaker 1: you came literally from some kind of bacteria, And if
Speaker 1: you do, If you think you came from some kind
Speaker 1: of bacteria, then in all due respect, I would say
Speaker 1: good luck with that. Then I can't help you in
Speaker 1: your question. I can't help you in any of this stuff.
Speaker 1: But if you're coming to me saying my question is
Speaker 1: about God, I don't pray. I would say, you're driving
Speaker 1: around in a pickup truck with a blown computer that
Speaker 1: keeps throwing your transmission out of whack, and you're not
Speaker 1: going to the dealership. Pull it into the dealership and
Speaker 1: say take it it's yours. You made it. Please, whatever
Speaker 1: it takes. I need my truck back. Look at it.
Speaker 1: Dig into this, please. You made it, You know how
Speaker 1: to do it, you have the blueprint. I don't That
Speaker 1: was great. It reminds me of a John Piper sermon
Speaker 1: I watched the other day where in Jeremiah, God the
Speaker 1: Father is saying, I have the flowing water of life.
Speaker 1: I have the wellspring of life, and they've turned their
Speaker 1: backs on it and they're digging wells with where the
Speaker 1: water doesn't hold. It just flows right through it. And
Speaker 1: so he's like, the ultimate evil is not just the
Speaker 1: murder and the theft and the adultery, it's fundamentally the
Speaker 1: cause of all those evils is you turning your back
Speaker 1: and saying you can take a trip. Creator. I'm gonna
Speaker 1: suck on this dirt and I'm gonna dig here because
Speaker 1: I think I can find the solution right here in
Speaker 1: this dirt. And then I'm gonna die and I'm gonna
Speaker 1: hate you forever. When he's just like, I have it.
Speaker 1: I made you, Yeah, I have the answer. Yeah. What's crazy,
Speaker 1: Anonymous here is that we have a roadmap to our lives.
Speaker 1: Have the construct, the instruction manual. It's called the Bible,
Speaker 1: and it is laid out beautifully and and concisely and
Speaker 1: very understandable, and you could dive into it at any
Speaker 1: at any point really, and you could dive into your
Speaker 1: your own personal instruction manual, and go Okay, if I
Speaker 1: if I think this way, if I if I position
Speaker 1: my heart this way, if I humble myself this way,
Speaker 1: and I believe this way, and then I see the
Speaker 1: results of this, then things will slowly start becoming more clear.
Speaker 1: I'll slowly start feeling more joy, more peace, more love,
Speaker 1: more contentment, more happiness. And we could start the list
Speaker 1: of of the results of this, of people that have
Speaker 1: experienced this, But you really have to do it yourself.
Speaker 1: And I would say, I would say, right off the bat,
Speaker 1: your first step. Your first step is when you to
Speaker 1: this podcast, you hit your knees and then you be
Speaker 1: as casual as you can and go God, I'm so
Speaker 1: sorry that I have turned my back on you. I
Speaker 1: have these problems mounting, but you created me, and you
Speaker 1: know you know how to how you know how to
Speaker 1: guide me through these problems. You're not gonna eliminate them
Speaker 1: from me, you're not gonna wipe them out of my life,
Speaker 1: but you're gonna guide me through it and then give
Speaker 1: me peace through it and guard my heart and mind
Speaker 1: through it. And your second step is go to church
Speaker 1: on Sunday. Just show up whatever you're wearing. Just show up.
Speaker 1: Sit down, hey, sit down on the back, sit down
Speaker 1: on the very back, and just know I'm here, I'm present,
Speaker 1: I'm showing up. I've got too many problems to not
Speaker 1: And if you're thinking this at seventeen, what do you
Speaker 1: think you're gonna think when you're twenty seven? What do
Speaker 1: you think you're gonna think when you're thirty seven? Just
Speaker 1: saying you think these problems are gonna start going away
Speaker 1: and you're gonna figure it out by the time you're
Speaker 1: twenty or do you think they're gonna start compounding and
Speaker 1: getting worse. That's my question to you. Your grandfather, your
Speaker 1: grandfather's sick. Is he still gonna be sick when you're
Speaker 1: twenty seven thirty seven? No, he's not going to be here.
Speaker 1: Then what are you gonna do? That's another question for you. Okay,
Speaker 1: moving on, take a break. Wow, the subjecline here is military. Hello,
Speaker 1: mister Smith. My name is Tanner Moore. I live in
Speaker 1: Post Falls, Idaho. I'm seventeen thinking about joining the military.
Speaker 1: I come from a very religious family. Do you have
Speaker 1: any thoughts on this? I don't if he should join
Speaker 1: the military. Yeah, it's the classic idea of should I
Speaker 1: join something so violent that has potential of killing. Oh,
Speaker 1: he's saying that that could I think that's what he's thinking.
Speaker 1: What do you think about that? It's it's very justified
Speaker 1: biblically to be a military, Yeah, law enforcement military. I
Speaker 1: mean greater love. There is no greater love than this
Speaker 1: than the lay down your life for your friends. Like
Speaker 1: that's that's one of the first things. Like that's what
Speaker 1: police officers get tattooed on them. There is no greater
Speaker 1: love than laying your life down for your friends. Would
Speaker 1: you say that's if your country is is fighting for
Speaker 1: the right cause, because there could be a situation where
Speaker 1: it was it wouldn't be justified, right, I think. So,
Speaker 1: it's it's important to remember, you know ten commandments do
Speaker 1: not murder. Well, it's it's commonly misunderstood is do not kill.
Speaker 1: But killing is justified in the right way. It's murder,
Speaker 1: that's not Yeah. So if your your motive is everything,
Speaker 1: motive is everything. If you're in the military and and
Speaker 1: you have to kill somebody, you're not breaking a law here,
Speaker 1: you're not breaking a biblical law. It's murder. It's the
Speaker 1: it's the evil intent of murder. That's the problem. So Tanner,
Speaker 1: I would send you, I would send you go straight
Speaker 1: to YouTube with this. I mean, there are some really
Speaker 1: beautiful sermons and videos of people explaining, whether it's law
Speaker 1: enforcement or military, the honorable position to take to take
Speaker 1: your faith into the military and to do it in
Speaker 1: a very faithful, honorable way to God and be a warrior.
Speaker 1: And then look in the Bible. There's so many warriors
Speaker 1: your subject line, you know, military, There's so many warriors
Speaker 1: starting with David. Go read go read David all through Samuel.
Speaker 1: I mean, the dude was a warrior, and he was faithful,
Speaker 1: and he was honorable. So yeah, absolutely. I would also say,
Speaker 1: and this is saying I was okay, I'll say two
Speaker 1: of my best friends are marine pilots, and I have
Speaker 1: an amazing respect for the military. I think it could
Speaker 1: be an amazing option for you. And then I would
Speaker 1: also just say, be aware of the foundational desire of
Speaker 1: a man, young man's heart to want respect and to
Speaker 1: want to stand for something greater than himself. Not saying
Speaker 1: that women don't have that, but fundamentally, men have this
Speaker 1: desire when there's a war, when there's conflict, to be
Speaker 1: honored to be respected to they like, I need to
Speaker 1: be in that. I need to be a part of that.
Speaker 1: I need to be putting my life in that. And
Speaker 1: so ask yourself, am I trying to find my ultimate
Speaker 1: meaning as a human being through my military service? Because
Speaker 1: there's a lot of old kernels in generals that have
Speaker 1: a lot of respect in the military, but they don't
Speaker 1: have a relationship with Christ. And so make sure that
Speaker 1: you're fundamentally getting your identity from from God and not
Speaker 1: just filling that void with military service. Not to say
Speaker 1: that you can't do both, but it's just something to
Speaker 1: be aware of. Yeah. Absolutely, I would say go for it, brother,
Speaker 1: go for it wholeheartedly. It's a great career and you're
Speaker 1: going to inspire so many and ultimately you're you're protecting
Speaker 1: me and my family and and we owe you that debt.
Speaker 1: So I hope that you do, and I hope you
Speaker 1: don't have any kind of hang ups with it because
Speaker 1: of a religious family. Also understand that when you say
Speaker 1: religious family, you might not mean Christianity, So there's that
Speaker 1: it might be. My only point was I remember, like
Speaker 1: three or four years ago, I was definitely going to
Speaker 1: go into the marine, Corps and I and I looking back,
Speaker 1: was trying to find some sort of meaning from my
Speaker 1: life that I think that I am in a better
Speaker 1: spot where God needs me now, not being the military.
Speaker 1: Not to say that I couldn't find purpose doing that,
Speaker 1: and I think it would have been amazing, But I
Speaker 1: was trying to fill a void with the military at
Speaker 1: that at that time in my life that can only
Speaker 1: be filled through God. That's that's great. I forgot. I
Speaker 1: forgot about that, and then we stole you away for eeg. Yeah,
Speaker 1: so many good questions here today and so many more
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