WEBVTT - Ep 376: Reimagine What Business Looks Like 0:00:03.800 --> 0:00:18.520 Hey, hey, hey, we're bad, We're blad, We're but brown ambition, ambition. 0:00:19.600 --> 0:00:20.400 I missed you. 0:00:21.120 --> 0:00:23.360 I missed you too, but not you slowing the beat 0:00:23.360 --> 0:00:26.160 down on me. I was ready with the choreo and 0:00:26.200 --> 0:00:28.680 then I couldn't find it. I'm looking like a fool 0:00:28.680 --> 0:00:32.239 out here on this on the dance floor. Hello, my dear, 0:00:32.360 --> 0:00:34.479 how are you ben? I feel like I need to 0:00:34.479 --> 0:00:37.360 talk to you like this because I was a vacation. 0:00:38.880 --> 0:00:40.559 It wasn't a glamorous as the girls with. 0:00:40.640 --> 0:00:42.440 Well, although I don't know I have a Cockney accent. 0:00:43.520 --> 0:00:45.760 Well, I'll say this first and foremost. I had an 0:00:45.760 --> 0:00:49.280 amazing time. I don't know about Supergirl, but my forty 0:00:49.280 --> 0:00:51.560 three year old heart had an amazing time. 0:00:52.120 --> 0:00:53.600 And the little they are itinerary. 0:00:54.000 --> 0:00:57.400 So first we did London, London Town and it was 0:00:57.440 --> 0:00:58.880 super fun. You know, I went to the London. I 0:00:58.920 --> 0:01:02.680 had big bend Westminster Abbey's weather. Yeah, well actually it 0:01:02.720 --> 0:01:04.360 was really great weather. They didn't rain, not want you know, 0:01:04.440 --> 0:01:06.520 London is not known for its good weather. It was sunny. 0:01:06.720 --> 0:01:09.160 We said, a really cute place. And then too, what 0:01:09.200 --> 0:01:12.440 I liked is that we did high tea, you know, which, 0:01:12.480 --> 0:01:14.520 of course Supergirl was like, I don't drink tea. I 0:01:14.520 --> 0:01:20.200 was like drunk. We took a chocolate making class. It 0:01:20.240 --> 0:01:24.400 was just like she's like, oh, y'all, y'all with teenagers. 0:01:24.920 --> 0:01:27.119 Damn you took a grown and sexy baker. 0:01:27.760 --> 0:01:30.680 Y'all, how you don't punch them in the face. 0:01:32.200 --> 0:01:33.800 She's the kind of teenager that wants to go to 0:01:33.840 --> 0:01:35.360 a foreign country. So she could shop at Ah. 0:01:35.480 --> 0:01:37.640 I mean literally, she was like, can we go shopping? 0:01:38.120 --> 0:01:40.000 She's like, oh, there's the Babe store. I was like, 0:01:40.360 --> 0:01:44.720 so this is why you can't yees. So she loved 0:01:44.720 --> 0:01:46.640 the shopping them and she was like, you know, she 0:01:46.680 --> 0:01:48.720 thought London was pretty cool, you know, but still there 0:01:48.760 --> 0:01:50.440 was definitely times where it's like, can we have Chipotle? 0:01:50.520 --> 0:01:50.960 I'm like. 0:01:52.840 --> 0:01:52.920 No. 0:01:54.200 --> 0:01:57.600 And then the second trip, so we did four days London, 0:01:58.480 --> 0:02:00.800 five days Paris, like four nights, five days Paris, and 0:02:01.200 --> 0:02:03.480 Paris was like we did like a dinner cruise on 0:02:03.520 --> 0:02:06.000 the River Seine. I guess it's called but it's really beautiful. 0:02:06.040 --> 0:02:08.680 We got super dressed up. I mean like one day 0:02:08.720 --> 0:02:10.240 I did love is that we like, you know, outfits 0:02:10.280 --> 0:02:12.400 were definitely hitting. I mean, like your girl was. It 0:02:12.480 --> 0:02:14.960 was super cute. She had an okay time there because 0:02:14.960 --> 0:02:18.400 I'm not gonna lie that was kind of adultish, but whatever, child, 0:02:18.440 --> 0:02:18.920 you said. 0:02:18.720 --> 0:02:21.399 You want to have a cocktail on the river? 0:02:21.480 --> 0:02:24.239 Sound yes exactly. So it was like, you know, I 0:02:24.360 --> 0:02:25.800 was like, I don't even have a cocktail, but it 0:02:25.840 --> 0:02:29.200 was I was getting my life. And then we also 0:02:29.240 --> 0:02:32.160 went to She really loved Paris Disney. We went to 0:02:32.200 --> 0:02:34.880 Disney Parish, which that was That's when made me realize, oh, 0:02:34.919 --> 0:02:36.760 she got a kid, kid, but it nicely. We had 0:02:36.760 --> 0:02:38.440 a ton of fun because we got one of those 0:02:38.480 --> 0:02:42.040 like skip the line passes. So yeah, it was a 0:02:42.080 --> 0:02:44.320 really good time and I think that was her favorite day. 0:02:45.000 --> 0:02:48.560 We also did the top of the Eiffel Tower, which 0:02:50.040 --> 0:02:51.360 I wanted to strangle her. When I was like, oh, 0:02:51.360 --> 0:02:53.360 we're at the Affel Tower, she looked so unoppressed, like 0:02:53.560 --> 0:02:55.520 I guess. I was like, oh, because we have one 0:02:55.520 --> 0:02:57.880 of these in Newark. And then she was like, do 0:02:57.880 --> 0:02:58.480 we have to go to. 0:02:58.440 --> 0:03:01.200 The top, like you guys have an Eiffel Tower? 0:03:01.560 --> 0:03:03.280 No we don't, That's what I'm saying, like she's acting 0:03:03.280 --> 0:03:08.239 as it, but she was acting like girl. I guess, 0:03:08.320 --> 0:03:10.120 I'm like, sis, we live in Newark, New Jersey. No 0:03:10.160 --> 0:03:12.640 shade to Newark. I live here, but it's not giving 0:03:12.680 --> 0:03:13.280 Eiffel Tower. 0:03:13.320 --> 0:03:14.720 She okay, yeah. 0:03:14.760 --> 0:03:17.680 So I was like, Alissa, we're not walking were I like, 0:03:17.720 --> 0:03:19.520 some people do take the steps. I could see if 0:03:19.520 --> 0:03:20.520 she said, do we have to go to the top 0:03:20.520 --> 0:03:23.000 because we're taking the steps? We're taking the three minute elevator? 0:03:23.040 --> 0:03:26.960 Is that too much? So we did. We took beautiful pictures. Honestly, 0:03:27.280 --> 0:03:29.560 I'll just say I had a good time. We ated 0:03:29.600 --> 0:03:32.679 our first French cafe and POWDERI I was, this is 0:03:32.720 --> 0:03:38.360 your first Parisian cafe. She was like, okay, when do 0:03:38.480 --> 0:03:39.400 my friends wake up? 0:03:39.720 --> 0:03:39.920 You know? 0:03:40.000 --> 0:03:44.120 Because that was like her and so I will say this. 0:03:44.280 --> 0:03:47.120 That one the lesson I learned because A listen and 0:03:47.160 --> 0:03:48.839 I we don't. We didn't argue that we don't. We've 0:03:48.840 --> 0:03:52.520 never had an argumentative relationship. We're just listen. And I 0:03:52.560 --> 0:03:54.320 have always had very chill. I know how to give 0:03:54.320 --> 0:03:58.600 her her space. One I underestimated how much she would 0:03:58.640 --> 0:04:01.560 be homesick. So I'm like, oh, poor baby, because she 0:04:01.600 --> 0:04:03.440 and her mam are really really close, and now that 0:04:03.520 --> 0:04:06.640 Jarell's not here, they're even closer, and so I underestimated 0:04:06.680 --> 0:04:08.320 how much she would really just miss her mama, so 0:04:08.360 --> 0:04:11.560 I understood that, you know, because mama is home and 0:04:11.760 --> 0:04:14.720 two and like you know. And then lastly we finished 0:04:14.760 --> 0:04:16.760 up in Italy. We did the on Mafy Coast. We 0:04:16.760 --> 0:04:20.000 stayed at Sorrento. We took like this boat cruise and 0:04:20.040 --> 0:04:21.880 got to see like the coast and like get out 0:04:21.920 --> 0:04:25.200 and shop and eat gelato and like sit on the beach. 0:04:26.040 --> 0:04:28.000 She was like, Italy was my least favorite. I was like, 0:04:28.040 --> 0:04:32.960 really because it was pretty amazing. Literally our hotel was 0:04:33.040 --> 0:04:36.719 on the on the water, and she's like, wow, it's pretty. 0:04:36.880 --> 0:04:40.000 I was like, oh my god, is that a wow? So, 0:04:41.440 --> 0:04:44.360 but what I realized is that one Alyssa has not 0:04:44.440 --> 0:04:46.279 traveled a lot, Like you know, Jerrell and I had 0:04:46.279 --> 0:04:49.560 taken her to Florida in California, but not like extensively. 0:04:49.680 --> 0:04:52.120 So it to go from we've been to Florida twice 0:04:52.480 --> 0:04:56.560 to we're in a ten day vacation with me just 0:04:56.640 --> 0:04:59.160 me and you sharing a room because Alyssa does stay 0:04:59.200 --> 0:05:00.800 of me one to two weeks set of every month 0:05:00.839 --> 0:05:03.120 here like at the house, but you know, she has 0:05:03.120 --> 0:05:05.440 her own room, she moves about. I'm just basically here 0:05:05.480 --> 0:05:06.840 to make sure she eats and does so you know, 0:05:06.839 --> 0:05:08.000 I don't have to check on harm to due to 0:05:08.040 --> 0:05:10.800 her homework. She likes pretty self sufficient, so you know, 0:05:11.120 --> 0:05:14.239 sharing a room, you know, being in close quarters, which 0:05:14.440 --> 0:05:17.560 it wasn't bad, it's just different, you know. So I 0:05:17.600 --> 0:05:20.680 just I didn't anticipate how different that kind of like 0:05:21.080 --> 0:05:23.719 interaction would be for her and how much she's missed 0:05:23.760 --> 0:05:26.120 her mom. I think it would have been easier if 0:05:26.160 --> 0:05:28.640 the time zones weren't so different, because she would have 0:05:28.680 --> 0:05:30.600 to wait six hours before she could call her and 0:05:30.640 --> 0:05:32.440 just be like, hey, mam, see her face you know. 0:05:33.320 --> 0:05:35.159 So yeah, yeah, So I would have been cuter if 0:05:35.160 --> 0:05:36.520 she could FaceTime the girls at home. 0:05:36.640 --> 0:05:39.320 Yes, yes, I think that, you know, and also too that, 0:05:39.440 --> 0:05:41.480 like I mean, if I would have because I used points. 0:05:41.520 --> 0:05:43.640 If I'm being honest, shout out to Amex, Hey girl, 0:05:43.680 --> 0:05:47.640 you need to sponsor us. So I use AMEX largely 0:05:47.640 --> 0:05:49.040 for my business. I have a Gold card, but I 0:05:49.040 --> 0:05:51.640 don't use it as much I typically like, I have 0:05:51.680 --> 0:05:54.760 two businesses that use the AMEX card. And what I 0:05:54.800 --> 0:05:56.520 like about Amex is that my Gold card and my 0:05:56.560 --> 0:06:00.200 two Platinum cards, all the points accumulated accumulate into one 0:06:00.240 --> 0:06:03.279 bucket unless you otherwise ask them to separate the bucket, 0:06:03.640 --> 0:06:07.560 so they accumulated into this one bucket, and that bucket 0:06:07.600 --> 0:06:10.240 had over a million points, so I didn't really have 0:06:10.240 --> 0:06:12.280 to come out of pocket like I, you know, from 0:06:12.320 --> 0:06:15.920 the taxi rides or the rise that we preordained from 0:06:15.960 --> 0:06:20.200 all of the the activities like I used my Chase 0:06:20.240 --> 0:06:22.520 for remember Chase Go get your run, like the Chase 0:06:22.600 --> 0:06:23.320 venture card that we. 0:06:23.360 --> 0:06:27.480 Used to call Nope, Nope, still not still not chase. 0:06:30.040 --> 0:06:33.000 You're conflating the capital one venture with the chase. What 0:06:33.440 --> 0:06:36.400 you call the good the chase good, it's the chase 0:06:36.440 --> 0:06:37.560 that fire results. 0:06:37.760 --> 0:06:40.839 Yeah. So that card had like two hundred something thousand 0:06:40.880 --> 0:06:43.440 points or so. And so a friend of mine, Tory, 0:06:43.600 --> 0:06:45.760 helped because she does like luxury vacation, so she helped 0:06:45.800 --> 0:06:48.600 me book all of the excursions and things like we 0:06:48.640 --> 0:06:52.440 made We made pasta in Italy the best I oh 0:06:52.600 --> 0:06:55.920 my goodness, on like a farm that like picked, like 0:06:56.000 --> 0:06:58.880 the tomatoes fresh it was. And we made tara massou 0:06:58.960 --> 0:07:02.960 there girl, it was the best tasting. So that was amazing. 0:07:03.040 --> 0:07:06.039 She did enjoy them, and so, you know, so she 0:07:06.240 --> 0:07:07.839 like all those types of like like I said, we 0:07:07.880 --> 0:07:10.880 did chocolate, making high tea. We had all these excursions 0:07:11.840 --> 0:07:14.080 and fun things that we did. So she used my 0:07:14.240 --> 0:07:17.320 Chase points for those things because she said that the 0:07:17.440 --> 0:07:21.200 choices were more robust there, and then she used MX 0:07:21.280 --> 0:07:24.680 for the hotels, and then I had United Points because 0:07:24.720 --> 0:07:26.920 I flied so much with the United that she used 0:07:26.920 --> 0:07:29.280 that for the for the flight, and so it was 0:07:29.360 --> 0:07:31.800 just great because if I'm being honest, that trip was 0:07:31.840 --> 0:07:34.200 probably if I would have paid out of pocket, because 0:07:34.200 --> 0:07:36.480 we did, I wouldn't have paid this out of pocket 0:07:36.560 --> 0:07:39.600 because but because it was points, it probably was at 0:07:39.720 --> 0:07:43.720 least fifteen thousand dollars honestly, I know, like because we 0:07:43.760 --> 0:07:46.600 flew first class, which is business, so you know, but 0:07:46.640 --> 0:07:48.200 I didn't have to, like, you know, normally if we 0:07:48.200 --> 0:07:50.080 were going I'm not gonna lie just because of the cost. 0:07:50.120 --> 0:07:51.600 I probably just if I was paying out of pocket, 0:07:51.640 --> 0:07:55.520 would have paid and said okay, economy, and I wouldn't 0:07:55.520 --> 0:07:58.920 have done maybe three countries, maybe just too because Paris 0:07:58.920 --> 0:08:01.760 and London are closer to each other. But because literally 0:08:01.800 --> 0:08:04.120 it was just what I did pay out of pocket 0:08:04.240 --> 0:08:06.160 was just like the food and things like that, which 0:08:06.240 --> 0:08:09.760 was fairly nominal relatively speaking, because two of the hotels 0:08:09.760 --> 0:08:14.040 had breakfast included. But it's like. Honestly, it took as 0:08:14.080 --> 0:08:15.960 a like for those of y'all who are like parents, 0:08:16.040 --> 0:08:18.360 you know, especially the kids you gave birth to. It 0:08:18.400 --> 0:08:22.880 took me maybe like a day or two to to 0:08:23.000 --> 0:08:25.240 remind myself that I am allowed to have a good 0:08:25.280 --> 0:08:29.880 time even if she is adjusting to the fact that 0:08:29.920 --> 0:08:31.720 she's not home. Do you know what I mean? Because 0:08:31.720 --> 0:08:34.480 at first I felt bad about I am. I am 0:08:34.480 --> 0:08:36.320 I free to have a good time if she's having 0:08:36.480 --> 0:08:37.960 if she's still trying to figure out how she feels 0:08:37.960 --> 0:08:39.200 about where we are, because I'm like, girl. 0:08:39.200 --> 0:08:41.600 Get my life, you know. Yeah. 0:08:41.640 --> 0:08:44.600 And so once I was like, Tiffany, it's allowed you 0:08:44.640 --> 0:08:47.080 are here to continue to check in on her, to help, 0:08:47.200 --> 0:08:50.480 you know, expand her like view of the world, to 0:08:50.480 --> 0:08:53.520 show her like we went to the Palace of Versailles, 0:08:53.559 --> 0:08:55.840 which is gorgeous. She didn't like it so much, like 0:08:55.880 --> 0:08:59.160 the because we walked the gardens and she was like, 0:08:59.200 --> 0:09:01.600 he hate that. But one day she'll look back and 0:09:01.640 --> 0:09:03.240 look back at all those pictures and be like, wow, 0:09:03.240 --> 0:09:06.120 I can't believe I was there. So I was like, 0:09:06.160 --> 0:09:09.120 it's your job to expand her knowledge, expand what she's seen. 0:09:09.600 --> 0:09:11.800 She might not love it, in the moment, that's okay, 0:09:12.000 --> 0:09:15.000 and we negotiated. I was like, tomorrow we're supposed to 0:09:15.080 --> 0:09:16.720 do this, but you seem tired. We don't have to 0:09:16.760 --> 0:09:18.360 do that. I can cancel now we get our money 0:09:18.400 --> 0:09:20.760 back and we could just chill, you know. So there 0:09:20.760 --> 0:09:22.360 were two things that we kind of took off the 0:09:22.520 --> 0:09:25.440 because it was a pretty packed itinerary, just. 0:09:25.679 --> 0:09:30.600 Like traveling with my husband, to be honest, ah, and 0:09:30.640 --> 0:09:34.400 I feel like, no matter what the relationship is, travel 0:09:34.520 --> 0:09:38.160 will always present like a different version of the person 0:09:38.200 --> 0:09:39.959 that you never knew, or like you'll find new things 0:09:40.000 --> 0:09:44.120 about them and about yourself and you'll learn for next time. 0:09:44.360 --> 0:09:47.920 And you know, the first year of my relationship with 0:09:47.960 --> 0:09:50.600 my husband at the time, I can't believe. I got 0:09:50.640 --> 0:09:53.320 a group on trip to Turkey and it was like 0:09:53.400 --> 0:09:56.200 thirteen days and it was one of these It was 0:09:56.240 --> 0:09:58.960 one of these like group travel trips, like a tour group, 0:09:59.280 --> 0:10:01.520 and you were on big bus and we went to 0:10:01.640 --> 0:10:04.760 six cities in thirteen days. We were on that bus 0:10:04.840 --> 0:10:06.400 every other day and it was kind of like napping 0:10:06.400 --> 0:10:08.880 on the bus. And I didn't know that he can't 0:10:08.920 --> 0:10:13.040 sleep anywhere but a sort of mattress that costs hundreds 0:10:13.080 --> 0:10:15.880 of thousands, if not dollars. But anyway, a very expensive 0:10:15.920 --> 0:10:18.680 mattress with a pillow with a temperature controlled you know, 0:10:18.760 --> 0:10:21.760 air conditioning in the corner, and like, you know, all 0:10:21.800 --> 0:10:25.520 of his favorite things next time on the nightstand. So 0:10:25.559 --> 0:10:28.040 oh wow, I'm the fact that we survived that trip 0:10:28.800 --> 0:10:31.720 because me, I'm like, I will do any I will sleep, 0:10:31.840 --> 0:10:33.960 I can sleep standing up, I'll sleep on the hard 0:10:33.960 --> 0:10:36.679 dirt floor. I'm gonna I was gonna get up at 0:10:36.679 --> 0:10:39.559 four am for the hot air balloon excursion in Cappadocia, 0:10:40.040 --> 0:10:43.760 because when are you going to be in Cappadocia? And 0:10:43.800 --> 0:10:45.360 I was like, how am I going to do with 0:10:45.400 --> 0:10:48.160 the guy who sleeps through this? He didn't. I dragged 0:10:48.160 --> 0:10:51.720 his ass to the hard hot air balloons. But anyway, yeah, 0:10:51.760 --> 0:10:55.000 so I completely get it. And I don't know, I 0:10:55.040 --> 0:10:58.280 was not as mature as you are in this moment, 0:10:58.440 --> 0:11:01.480 as like back then, I it's like this guy sucks 0:11:02.000 --> 0:11:05.160 and we don't travel the same and he's just like 0:11:05.280 --> 0:11:07.400 not in La da da da da. But cut to 0:11:08.040 --> 0:11:11.080 our last big trip to Portugal or No Costa Rica 0:11:11.120 --> 0:11:14.600 actually Costa Rica a baby moon. That was like I 0:11:14.640 --> 0:11:18.320 was so proud of myself for the restraint that I 0:11:18.520 --> 0:11:22.120 had and the compromises and how we came up with 0:11:22.160 --> 0:11:24.480 the trip where we both could enjoy. Yeah. 0:11:24.520 --> 0:11:27.280 So no, I like that because you start to realize that, 0:11:27.320 --> 0:11:29.400 like it's okay for people to have different because I'm 0:11:29.400 --> 0:11:32.720 not gonna lie. It was really endearing because Girell was 0:11:32.760 --> 0:11:35.640 not a big travel He wanted me like his favorite thing, 0:11:35.720 --> 0:11:37.240 like let's go to this nice place so I could 0:11:37.240 --> 0:11:39.800 stay in the hotel and watch movies like that. And 0:11:39.840 --> 0:11:41.920 so to watch her kind of do that, I was like, 0:11:42.000 --> 0:11:44.680 if that ain't her daddy like, So it was just 0:11:44.760 --> 0:11:47.240 kind of like oh and I told her. And what 0:11:47.280 --> 0:11:49.240 I really really appreciated is like by the time we 0:11:49.240 --> 0:11:50.800 got to Italy and she was like really kind of 0:11:50.840 --> 0:11:52.960 like over it and tired. I was like, I know 0:11:53.000 --> 0:11:54.360 you're having a hard time. She's like, I don't want 0:11:54.360 --> 0:11:57.520 to see him ungrateful because I am really grateful and everybody, 0:11:57.559 --> 0:11:58.840 I guess she was like, you know, sharing her mom 0:11:58.880 --> 0:12:00.880 and everybody tell me I'm so great. It's just that 0:12:00.960 --> 0:12:02.360 I miss home. I missed my mom. I said, O, 0:12:02.440 --> 0:12:04.160 let's say you're allowed. I hope you know that you're 0:12:04.160 --> 0:12:07.000 allowed to not love every single thing we've done. You're 0:12:07.040 --> 0:12:10.240 allowed to, you know, miss your mom, You're allowed to 0:12:10.280 --> 0:12:13.440 miss your friends. You know. I said, honestly, let's discuss 0:12:13.480 --> 0:12:15.000 so we could talk about, like what you'd like to 0:12:15.000 --> 0:12:16.280 do next time? How would this look? 0:12:16.400 --> 0:12:16.600 You know? 0:12:17.200 --> 0:12:19.200 And she was like you know that. She really aloaded, 0:12:19.280 --> 0:12:21.600 like I like this, and I was like, okay. But 0:12:21.640 --> 0:12:24.560 I was so glad that she felt safe to be 0:12:24.600 --> 0:12:26.360 able to share that, because I was like, I'm not 0:12:26.360 --> 0:12:28.079 going to offer any judgment. If she would have done 0:12:28.120 --> 0:12:31.040 this day two or three, I certainly would have felt defensive, 0:12:31.080 --> 0:12:34.080 but by then I had already remedied and rectified with myself. 0:12:34.360 --> 0:12:37.040 It is okay for her to have her own separate experience. 0:12:37.760 --> 0:12:40.520 You cannot create what you want her to feel, but 0:12:40.559 --> 0:12:42.440 you can just create the experience and have her lean 0:12:42.480 --> 0:12:45.680 into it. And so it was funny like because at 0:12:45.679 --> 0:12:46.839 the end she was like, you know, I know I 0:12:46.920 --> 0:12:49.199 chose because she chose London in past, She's like, I 0:12:49.240 --> 0:12:51.000 know I chose London Paris, but I feel like maybe 0:12:51.040 --> 0:12:52.200 I should have chose Canada. 0:12:53.040 --> 0:12:58.120 Girl, no shade to our Canadian friend, no shade. 0:12:58.280 --> 0:13:00.240 But I said, girl, if you wanted to go to 0:13:00.280 --> 0:13:02.040 Caromel or we could have took the train there and 0:13:02.120 --> 0:13:05.120 back in two days. But I was rolling in my 0:13:05.160 --> 0:13:08.360 head and I thought, okay, Alyssa, because her birthday's coming up. 0:13:08.320 --> 0:13:09.400 The wildfires and all. 0:13:09.559 --> 0:13:11.240 I mean, she just like cause she was like, it's 0:13:11.280 --> 0:13:14.480 the same time zone as mommy. It's not as far 0:13:14.920 --> 0:13:17.520 I know, And I just said, okay, like you know, 0:13:17.559 --> 0:13:19.920 I told her that next time, we're gonna do more 0:13:19.920 --> 0:13:22.240 research on like where we're going and what to expect, 0:13:22.400 --> 0:13:24.800 and we can certainly stay closer like a Mexico or 0:13:24.880 --> 0:13:27.320 Jamaica or Canada until you feel, until you get older, 0:13:27.360 --> 0:13:29.040 you get more and more comfortable. But I said, I'm 0:13:29.080 --> 0:13:30.840 really glad that you she said, But I am honestly 0:13:30.840 --> 0:13:33.560 really glad I got to experience this, and so, like 0:13:33.640 --> 0:13:36.000 you know, that was it was a really like I said, 0:13:36.360 --> 0:13:38.640 once I flipped the switch in my head, I had 0:13:38.720 --> 0:13:43.000 an amazing time. I mean in Italy. The hotel where 0:13:43.000 --> 0:13:45.000 we stay, which is so beautiful, that was on like 0:13:45.120 --> 0:13:48.040 the coast, so you can literally where you had breakfast. 0:13:48.080 --> 0:13:51.440 You're like, oh, hey, ocean, you cute. They had a 0:13:51.640 --> 0:13:55.080 cistern hotel that you can go to because they had 0:13:55.120 --> 0:13:57.840 this beautiful private beach that was like a cold that 0:13:57.880 --> 0:13:59.720 you walk into and opened up into this beach that 0:13:59.760 --> 0:14:02.160 looked like out of a movie. And of course I 0:14:02.160 --> 0:14:03.440 asked the listener, you want to go with me? Which 0:14:03.440 --> 0:14:04.880 I was hoping she said no, and she did. I 0:14:04.920 --> 0:14:06.280 was like, yay, cause I don't want to sell it 0:14:06.520 --> 0:14:08.960 selling teenager sitting with me. So I was like, what 0:14:08.960 --> 0:14:11.000 are you gonna do? I told the hotel like, there's 0:14:11.000 --> 0:14:13.440 the like the there's like a you know, the woman 0:14:13.480 --> 0:14:15.360 who was at the front desk. I'm like, she's going 0:14:15.400 --> 0:14:18.040 to be here, you know, by herself. She can't leave 0:14:18.080 --> 0:14:20.400 the hotel. There's no place to really go anywhere because 0:14:20.440 --> 0:14:22.200 it's private. I was like, she can go to the 0:14:22.200 --> 0:14:23.800 They have a little private beach at that one and 0:14:23.920 --> 0:14:26.720 like a pool or sit on your private deck. And 0:14:26.760 --> 0:14:29.800 I said, you know, you could order anything because because 0:14:29.800 --> 0:14:31.560 of MX, we had like one hundred or two hundred 0:14:31.560 --> 0:14:34.000 dollars credit to the room for food. You know. I 0:14:34.040 --> 0:14:35.800 was like, you know, try to keep it under fifty bucks, 0:14:36.320 --> 0:14:38.600 like whatever you order, and so you know, and if 0:14:38.600 --> 0:14:40.320 you do decide to go to the beach at the pool, 0:14:40.640 --> 0:14:43.240 just FaceTime me and you know. So she was like okay, 0:14:43.440 --> 0:14:45.360 So it gave her time to also have time to herself. 0:14:45.400 --> 0:14:46.720 But when I tell you, when I got to that 0:14:47.560 --> 0:14:49.680 private beach called that you had to get to by 0:14:50.200 --> 0:14:54.160 golf cart, I mean gave me a picture to oh 0:14:54.200 --> 0:14:56.680 my goodness, take me there. There was literally so it 0:14:57.040 --> 0:14:59.880 opened up like this rock formation opened up into this 0:15:00.120 --> 0:15:02.600 looks like an oval that you walk through and it's 0:15:02.720 --> 0:15:07.080 just like this crystal blue sea, green water and maybe 0:15:07.240 --> 0:15:12.520 like what's maybe like ten beach chairs and three or 0:15:12.520 --> 0:15:16.760 four people out there, So it's just I mean no kids. 0:15:17.000 --> 0:15:19.720 And first of all, Italians are so like romantic. All 0:15:19.720 --> 0:15:20.440 the couples were making it. 0:15:20.520 --> 0:15:23.280 I was like, oh, I'm liking to South America too. 0:15:23.320 --> 0:15:25.520 They love a park bench and a makeout sesh. 0:15:25.880 --> 0:15:28.440 So I was just like it was so beautiful. And 0:15:28.480 --> 0:15:33.000 then they had a restaurant like built into like the 0:15:33.960 --> 0:15:37.320 side of the cove with the freshest everything. I was like, 0:15:37.360 --> 0:15:40.400 I'll take it out the salad with a not I mean, 0:15:40.440 --> 0:15:43.240 it was so delus. The only thing missing is I 0:15:43.240 --> 0:15:45.080 felt like if I drank wine, I should be drinking wine, 0:15:45.720 --> 0:15:50.440 you know, but it was had a little glass of wine. 0:15:50.680 --> 0:15:53.080 But what I tell you, I spent like five hours 0:15:53.120 --> 0:15:56.280 there just looking at the water, wading into the water, 0:15:56.920 --> 0:16:01.280 like listening to music. It was so I feel like 0:16:01.280 --> 0:16:02.880 I should get back because they're a kid back at 0:16:02.880 --> 0:16:04.720 the hotel. So I would just text her every hour 0:16:04.920 --> 0:16:07.240 you get yes, did you leave their own now? I 0:16:07.280 --> 0:16:12.520 was like okay bye. Yeah, but I was like, yeah, 0:16:12.520 --> 0:16:14.280 I'm glad to be back. But I had a really 0:16:14.280 --> 0:16:14.760 great time. 0:16:15.560 --> 0:16:17.880 I think definitely years will pass and she'll look back 0:16:17.920 --> 0:16:19.560 on it, you know, and wish that she had been 0:16:19.560 --> 0:16:22.520 a little older. Yeah, and you know whatever. But I 0:16:22.560 --> 0:16:25.040 do want to say, though, the thing that she's discovering, 0:16:25.080 --> 0:16:27.040 which I think is really important, and I think it's 0:16:27.240 --> 0:16:29.200 I wouldn't want anyone to listen to this and think 0:16:29.240 --> 0:16:31.520 I shouldn't let my teenager or my young kid like 0:16:31.840 --> 0:16:35.040 go out and be homesick, because I think being homesick 0:16:35.080 --> 0:16:39.120 is an important part of the journey into adulthood. It's 0:16:39.200 --> 0:16:41.920 like letting your tether get longer and longer like you've 0:16:41.960 --> 0:16:44.920 always wanted it to be, and then realizing that home 0:16:44.960 --> 0:16:47.040 really is where the heart is. And I'm going to 0:16:47.120 --> 0:16:50.240 sound super cliche and like I don't care, but the 0:16:50.240 --> 0:16:54.680 thing is, like, sometimes I believe that we envision travel 0:16:54.920 --> 0:16:57.160 to be this like destination where where we go, there 0:16:57.200 --> 0:16:59.480 will be a better version of ourselves and our relationships 0:16:59.480 --> 0:17:02.040 will be better and we'll come back and you know, 0:17:02.200 --> 0:17:04.600 things will feel better, and you like vacations are, so 0:17:05.040 --> 0:17:06.520 you know, we'll just if we can just make it 0:17:06.560 --> 0:17:09.240 to summer vacation, then things will be better. But then 0:17:09.280 --> 0:17:10.920 you go and what you find out as you come 0:17:10.960 --> 0:17:13.600 back and the same old bullshit's waiting for you, And 0:17:13.720 --> 0:17:16.280 like a vacation is never going to fix if something's 0:17:16.320 --> 0:17:19.280 not right, and it also is never going to replace 0:17:19.680 --> 0:17:22.399 like where you feel home and where you feel loved 0:17:22.440 --> 0:17:25.800 and safe. So I'm really proud of her too, for 0:17:26.480 --> 0:17:28.200 you know she went. I mean, you made it pretty 0:17:28.240 --> 0:17:32.040 easy for her that she went. But it just reminds 0:17:32.080 --> 0:17:34.760 me of how I felt. I didn't have near as 0:17:34.800 --> 0:17:36.399 many comforts as she did. But when I started to 0:17:36.400 --> 0:17:39.919 travel by myself and get really homesick, and I'd be like, 0:17:39.960 --> 0:17:42.719 why do I feel this way? I should be so lucky. 0:17:43.080 --> 0:17:45.320 This is what I wanted. I bought this one, no 0:17:45.400 --> 0:17:48.679 one sent me here. But then I just realized, like, 0:17:49.280 --> 0:17:51.360 it just means that you've got something good at home, 0:17:51.400 --> 0:17:54.160 and it's okay to miss it at the end, Yeah, 0:17:54.240 --> 0:17:56.760 to miss it and to sometimes not leave it if 0:17:56.760 --> 0:17:59.320 you just are happy, yeah where you are, you know 0:17:59.359 --> 0:18:03.479 what I mean. I love that I get it, and 0:18:03.520 --> 0:18:06.160 I hope that you know, we go to Canada next time, 0:18:08.560 --> 0:18:10.120 say some of those points for yourself to. 0:18:10.119 --> 0:18:13.040 Yeah, oh girl please. We had so many like that, Yeah, 0:18:13.080 --> 0:18:15.240 I have like after literally as soon as we landed, 0:18:15.280 --> 0:18:17.239 after that, I took my sisters and I we went 0:18:17.280 --> 0:18:20.199 to Chicago because my sister Karen lives in Chicago with 0:18:20.480 --> 0:18:23.560 you know, her husband. Yes, And so literally I landed 0:18:23.560 --> 0:18:26.040 and the next scientist, Yeah, the scientist she's met to 0:18:26.240 --> 0:18:28.840 a doctor, And so we landed and we went and 0:18:28.880 --> 0:18:30.440 it was and said, we had such a great trip. 0:18:30.440 --> 0:18:33.479 It was a really nice wine down trip because we 0:18:33.480 --> 0:18:35.960 weren't going to Chicago to like do Chicago we things. 0:18:36.000 --> 0:18:39.160 We literally just hotel, went to her house all day, 0:18:39.280 --> 0:18:41.680 the kids played. My sister Carol and her two kids 0:18:41.800 --> 0:18:44.920 played with my sister Karen's kid, Lily. They were around 0:18:44.920 --> 0:18:47.200 the same age, the same height, so they just played 0:18:47.240 --> 0:18:48.760 all day and then we went home in the evening. 0:18:48.800 --> 0:18:51.680 So it was really like just like chilling at home, 0:18:51.720 --> 0:18:53.919 but my sister's house. So it was really nice to 0:18:54.040 --> 0:18:56.439 go and have kind of like this wine down and 0:18:56.480 --> 0:18:58.960 sister time before school started for all the kids. She 0:18:59.080 --> 0:19:00.800 was so happy that we came. We are there for 0:19:00.840 --> 0:19:03.480 like four days. And I use points to do that too, 0:19:04.160 --> 0:19:06.320 Like honestly, I never was a big I didn't really 0:19:06.359 --> 0:19:10.800 get like the point thing, but especially because of the 0:19:10.840 --> 0:19:12.639 fact that I have a business, I get to accumulate 0:19:12.680 --> 0:19:15.120 them so much faster. And I make sure that every 0:19:15.200 --> 0:19:17.359 trip I'm on, if someone flies me out or whatever, 0:19:17.400 --> 0:19:20.439 I always put my you know, my number, my United number. 0:19:20.640 --> 0:19:23.679 I insist ideally can I fly United because United has 0:19:23.680 --> 0:19:26.120 a hub in Newark, and so that way I can 0:19:26.119 --> 0:19:29.119 collect you know, these points. So for me personally, I 0:19:29.160 --> 0:19:30.920 get to enjoy the fruits or even like if I'm 0:19:30.920 --> 0:19:34.239 staying in a hotel, I have Hilton and Marriott and 0:19:34.320 --> 0:19:36.600 so like if a brand wants to put me up, 0:19:36.680 --> 0:19:39.000 I try to get put up in a hotel where 0:19:39.000 --> 0:19:42.880 I can collect points. So like now when I go somewhere, 0:19:42.960 --> 0:19:45.399 I can use like I like right now Hilton and Marriot, 0:19:45.440 --> 0:19:47.600 I both have three night free three night stays because 0:19:47.600 --> 0:19:49.760 of the points I've accumulated, so I can use that 0:19:49.800 --> 0:19:52.880 for my own like chilling time, you know. So honestly, 0:19:53.920 --> 0:19:56.639 like the financial lesson in all of this is that, like, 0:19:56.680 --> 0:20:00.080 you know, there are ways to kind of like like 0:20:00.320 --> 0:20:03.680 monetize your choices on the back end, so you can 0:20:03.800 --> 0:20:05.840 use it to enhance, like, you know, your life. If 0:20:05.840 --> 0:20:09.359 you're if your job has you travel a lot, you know, 0:20:09.600 --> 0:20:11.840 and you're flying a lot. Please if you don't have 0:20:12.160 --> 0:20:14.920 you know, an airline loyalty, that's a great way to 0:20:15.840 --> 0:20:19.000 accumulate points, you know, if you're if you're using a card, 0:20:19.480 --> 0:20:22.719 you know, accumulating points that way. And also too, if 0:20:22.760 --> 0:20:24.639 there's a hotel that you stay at, make sure you 0:20:24.680 --> 0:20:27.119 sign up for whatever that loyalty is. And you know, 0:20:27.160 --> 0:20:29.680 although because even though like companies would book me, it 0:20:29.680 --> 0:20:32.200 didn't mean I couldn't put down my loyalty number, you 0:20:32.240 --> 0:20:34.040 know when I got to the hotel and add the 0:20:34.080 --> 0:20:36.080 points to that way. So there's just a really great 0:20:36.080 --> 0:20:39.600 way to be able to to continue the good times, 0:20:39.960 --> 0:20:41.000 you know, like passive. 0:20:41.080 --> 0:20:42.520 I love, Yes, I've been you know. I think the 0:20:42.560 --> 0:20:45.080 reason people get overwhelmed by the whole points game is 0:20:45.080 --> 0:20:47.240 that it is a game, but the gamification people are 0:20:47.280 --> 0:20:49.320 obsessed with this and that and the third and I 0:20:49.480 --> 0:20:50.960 just like the way you're doing it is how I 0:20:50.960 --> 0:20:53.240 feel like it works for me to just get the 0:20:53.320 --> 0:20:56.240 right card yep, maybe one or two yep, and then 0:20:56.400 --> 0:20:58.439 just do what you're going to do anyway, yes, and 0:20:58.480 --> 0:20:59.800 then reap the rewards. 0:21:00.640 --> 0:21:02.320 And if you ever get confused, there's a great like 0:21:02.480 --> 0:21:05.800 the Points guy is a great resource. So there would 0:21:05.800 --> 0:21:07.600 be times when I wasn't really sure about a thing 0:21:07.680 --> 0:21:09.399 and I would just go on and like search to them, 0:21:09.400 --> 0:21:11.159 and I'm like, because that's all he does all day, 0:21:11.160 --> 0:21:13.680 every day, and he'll explain it really clearly, like Okay. 0:21:13.880 --> 0:21:17.520 Then I would call American Express and say, hey, I've 0:21:17.520 --> 0:21:19.160 read somewhere that I can use it in this way. 0:21:19.160 --> 0:21:21.359 How do I do that? You know? So like he's 0:21:21.400 --> 0:21:23.359 like super deep dive into it. But to Mandy's point, 0:21:23.640 --> 0:21:25.240 I don't know how to do all that, just basic 0:21:25.320 --> 0:21:27.080 uses of use of points. Yeah. 0:21:27.280 --> 0:21:30.800 Yeah, Well you mentioned back to school, and can I 0:21:30.960 --> 0:21:34.919 just tell you I became a mother last week. I 0:21:34.960 --> 0:21:37.959 thought I was a mom before, but I wasn't. Actually 0:21:37.960 --> 0:21:39.800 two weeks ago, two three weeks ago, when my mom 0:21:39.840 --> 0:21:41.800 was in town and we went to Target, and we 0:21:41.840 --> 0:21:44.840 went straight to the back to school section and I 0:21:44.960 --> 0:21:47.200 let my three year old he picked out a lunch 0:21:47.280 --> 0:21:49.720 box and a backpack. You know, they still make the 0:21:49.800 --> 0:21:53.920 same little subject like notebooks. They haven't innovated those. They're 0:21:53.960 --> 0:21:57.960 the same, the five the five star five subjects, spiral notebooks, 0:21:58.359 --> 0:22:02.840 the number two pencils, Exo markers, the Elmer's glue. It's 0:22:02.880 --> 0:22:05.879 all the same. And he was and I had my 0:22:05.960 --> 0:22:08.399 little list on my phone and I was like, we 0:22:08.480 --> 0:22:10.880 need this and that and this. One hundred and seventy 0:22:10.920 --> 0:22:13.760 five dollars later, godly what. 0:22:14.080 --> 0:22:16.960 And for a preschooler, for a rod Prie school, or. 0:22:17.000 --> 0:22:20.560 Because you know, they wanted the you know, disinfectantn the 0:22:20.640 --> 0:22:25.520 hand sanitizer, extra supplies for the classroom, and he wanted, 0:22:25.560 --> 0:22:28.080 you know, he had to get brand new backpack, lunch box. 0:22:28.080 --> 0:22:30.879 He never had any of that before. But it was 0:22:31.000 --> 0:22:34.399 so I just kept looking at my mom like what 0:22:34.840 --> 0:22:37.360 it was. It was so bizarre because for me, back 0:22:37.359 --> 0:22:39.639 to school was like a really exciting time. I like 0:22:39.720 --> 0:22:43.000 to get the new Lisa Frank whatever stationary set and 0:22:43.080 --> 0:22:45.239 like my new shiny notebook, and I was like, this 0:22:45.359 --> 0:22:48.840 year's gonna be different. I'm gonna have for friends and 0:22:48.880 --> 0:22:52.000 I'm gonna do good in school. Eventually that happened, but anyway, 0:22:52.080 --> 0:22:55.520 so Rio was getting his back to school supplies because 0:22:55.520 --> 0:22:59.359 he's officially a prekter, and we did, I tell you, 0:22:59.400 --> 0:23:02.280 we got so we had never had a lottery like 0:23:02.280 --> 0:23:04.600 a universal pre K in my town where I live 0:23:04.640 --> 0:23:08.600 in Westchester, which was really lame because basically every other 0:23:08.600 --> 0:23:11.359 town around us has it, or city or I don't know, 0:23:11.400 --> 0:23:16.159 they separate these little areas of Westchester very confusingly. So 0:23:16.400 --> 0:23:18.840 finally we found out like the I think I was 0:23:18.880 --> 0:23:20.840 in labor. I was at the hospital when we got 0:23:20.840 --> 0:23:23.000 the email saying that there's going to be a UPK 0:23:23.160 --> 0:23:25.760 program and you can enter. And I was like, make 0:23:25.880 --> 0:23:28.119 me a reminder on my calendar because I want to 0:23:28.119 --> 0:23:31.400 remember this. And they were only they're only thirty two spots. 0:23:31.960 --> 0:23:35.920 He got in and he started on Thursday, and it's 0:23:36.000 --> 0:23:38.040 really close to where we live, and it's actually on 0:23:38.080 --> 0:23:41.720 the way to his old daycare. So for and I'm 0:23:41.760 --> 0:23:43.720 in this group chat now with a lot of parents, 0:23:43.880 --> 0:23:46.480 and I'm finding a lot of parents whose kids had 0:23:46.480 --> 0:23:49.480 been homeschooled or like just had been home are struggling 0:23:49.560 --> 0:23:52.040 with the you know, going into school for the first 0:23:52.040 --> 0:23:54.720 time and like the anxiety and all that. And I 0:23:54.720 --> 0:23:57.040 feel like, for me, Rio has been doing really well 0:23:57.080 --> 0:24:00.399 and I think just because I had for I think 0:24:00.440 --> 0:24:02.200 the past month or two ever since I found he 0:24:02.240 --> 0:24:04.879 got in were we would drive past it, i'd pull it. 0:24:05.080 --> 0:24:06.600 I'd be like, this is where your door is going 0:24:06.640 --> 0:24:08.760 to be. Let's go see if there's any decorations, let's 0:24:08.760 --> 0:24:11.360 see the playgrounds built yet, because it's all brand new. 0:24:11.400 --> 0:24:16.400 And and just seeing him, you know, get this huge backpack. 0:24:16.440 --> 0:24:18.760 They asked for a full sized backpack. I don't know why. 0:24:18.960 --> 0:24:20.439 It's like two thirds of his body. 0:24:23.240 --> 0:24:25.720 What does he have a like a character or whatever 0:24:25.760 --> 0:24:26.080 on it? 0:24:26.880 --> 0:24:31.120 So he chose the He chose a neon frog like design. 0:24:31.680 --> 0:24:33.359 I think he thinks they're dinosaurs. I didn't want to 0:24:33.359 --> 0:24:35.760 tell him because it was really cute, but they're like 0:24:36.000 --> 0:24:38.040 all the different color different frogs and stuff. And he 0:24:38.080 --> 0:24:39.919 got the matching lunch box, and then he picked out 0:24:39.960 --> 0:24:43.720 a little like Bento box for his food, and in 0:24:43.840 --> 0:24:46.879 true mom of a toddler fashion, what to put in 0:24:46.960 --> 0:24:49.280 it kept me up the night before and I was like, 0:24:49.280 --> 0:24:52.000 if you don't relax about what to put in his lunchbox, 0:24:52.040 --> 0:24:56.240 I just had him decide. And luckily my husband's mother 0:24:56.400 --> 0:24:59.720 has been here the past few days helping and his 0:25:00.080 --> 0:25:03.080 rio requested tostes, and I was like, my little. 0:25:02.880 --> 0:25:06.119 Dominican pace, does he say it with an accent? 0:25:07.359 --> 0:25:09.880 Oh no, no, no, he's he's just but it's really cute. 0:25:09.880 --> 0:25:13.040 He's starting to finally learn something Spanish. But I was 0:25:13.080 --> 0:25:14.639 just telling my mother in law this morning because she 0:25:14.680 --> 0:25:17.040 was lamenting the fact that, you know, the kids don't 0:25:17.040 --> 0:25:20.560 speak Spanish and her other nieces and nephews kids don't 0:25:20.600 --> 0:25:23.399 speak Spanish. And I was like, listen, Myra, I promise 0:25:23.480 --> 0:25:28.720 you in my own Spanish telo prometto. I'm a Rio 0:25:28.800 --> 0:25:33.840 Francisco Santos. I can't have a son in the world 0:25:33.880 --> 0:25:37.840 whose name is Rio Francisco Santos and he can't speak Spanish, 0:25:37.880 --> 0:25:40.200 Like what am I doing? False advertising? You know, he's 0:25:40.240 --> 0:25:43.000 going to be set up for failure, so he has 0:25:43.040 --> 0:25:46.280 to learn. But yeah, he asked her his toes and 0:25:46.320 --> 0:25:48.280 I made him a girl cheese and he chose that. 0:25:48.480 --> 0:25:48.960 Okay. 0:25:49.200 --> 0:25:52.600 He selected his own strawberries and he put them in 0:25:52.640 --> 0:25:55.240 his little bento box and he had a great He 0:25:55.280 --> 0:25:59.280 had a great first day. And I was like haggard 0:25:59.320 --> 0:26:02.560 by the time to him off. And I only had 0:26:02.640 --> 0:26:05.480 him home for a week in between, so for the 0:26:05.600 --> 0:26:10.520 parents would look like if your camp or your your school, 0:26:10.640 --> 0:26:12.680 like whatever you had your kids in this summer, if 0:26:12.680 --> 0:26:15.560 there was a gap between that in real school. God 0:26:15.600 --> 0:26:19.440 bless you. I toast to you this entire care off 0:26:19.520 --> 0:26:22.520 of French press. This is for us, okay, because we 0:26:22.600 --> 0:26:24.040 did it, no question. 0:26:24.080 --> 0:26:26.679 The financial question as a result of him getting so 0:26:26.880 --> 0:26:30.919 universal pre K is something that's been into it for 0:26:30.960 --> 0:26:32.439 a long time. It means the kids get to go 0:26:32.480 --> 0:26:35.520 to school for free, basically because they consider pre K 0:26:35.640 --> 0:26:38.360 part of public school, which is free. So how much 0:26:38.400 --> 0:26:39.920 are you saving as a result, Like what were you 0:26:39.960 --> 0:26:41.760 paying for daycare? And for how much are you saving? 0:26:42.480 --> 0:26:44.560 Oh? My god, thank you for asking me, because I 0:26:44.640 --> 0:26:48.119 just wanted to. Oh, I feel so good. I was 0:26:48.200 --> 0:26:54.120 paying two thousand and fifty five dollars for yes, a month, 0:26:54.280 --> 0:26:57.080 for five day a week, all day daycare, and what's 0:26:57.080 --> 0:26:59.920 all day time time from I would drop him off 0:27:00.080 --> 0:27:01.760 like nine and I pick him up at four thirty 0:27:01.840 --> 0:27:05.080 or five okay, okay, so like ninety five and yeah, 0:27:05.119 --> 0:27:08.760 so UPK it is free. This is true, but the 0:27:08.920 --> 0:27:12.320 catches they have very limited hours, so it's only from 0:27:12.400 --> 0:27:15.480 nine am to two pm, which is a very short 0:27:15.560 --> 0:27:18.800 day and for most working Americans, like, nah, you can't, 0:27:18.840 --> 0:27:21.320 you can't do that. Not only that, but I live 0:27:21.400 --> 0:27:24.280 in a I live about forty minutes outside of Manhattan 0:27:24.320 --> 0:27:26.919 where a lot of parents who live here work for 0:27:26.960 --> 0:27:28.760 the proximity to the city, but you have to get 0:27:28.760 --> 0:27:31.159 on a train, and so my husband's commutes like an 0:27:31.160 --> 0:27:34.440 hour and fifteen minutes. So nine am drop off, we'll 0:27:34.440 --> 0:27:36.640 get him to the office at ten thirty. Like there's 0:27:36.720 --> 0:27:38.320 just for a lot of parents that is not going 0:27:38.400 --> 0:27:40.560 to work. So for the low, low price of five 0:27:40.680 --> 0:27:44.280 hundred dollars, we can pay for a little bit of time, 0:27:44.359 --> 0:27:46.440 like to drop him off early and pick him up late, 0:27:46.480 --> 0:27:49.480 so at four thirty, so we're still saving significantly. 0:27:49.520 --> 0:27:50.840 So that's five hundred dollars for the month. 0:27:51.400 --> 0:27:54.840 For the month, Oh that's great, fifteen hundred. Yeah, and 0:27:54.840 --> 0:27:57.240 not only that, but I didn't realize what the benefit 0:27:57.359 --> 0:27:59.080 is is one of the biggest things for me that's 0:27:59.080 --> 0:28:01.879 become a benefit is that he's in a class with 0:28:01.960 --> 0:28:04.399 the kids. He's going to go to kindergarten. I love that, 0:28:04.760 --> 0:28:07.040 and then first grade and then second grade. They're all 0:28:07.040 --> 0:28:10.359 a little same school district. Yes for real, though with 0:28:10.440 --> 0:28:12.320 one of the moms made a Facebook group and when 0:28:12.359 --> 0:28:14.800 I looked at it and it said the class of 0:28:14.840 --> 0:28:15.800 twenty thirty. 0:28:15.480 --> 0:28:21.119 Sevens Oh my god, my heart dropped, Oh my god. 0:28:21.480 --> 0:28:24.280 But I never had the benefit. And I don't know 0:28:24.280 --> 0:28:26.360 where where our lives will take us. Who knows if 0:28:26.359 --> 0:28:29.840 he'll graduate from the school district. But and I was 0:28:29.840 --> 0:28:31.560 talking to my mom about this, because my mom was 0:28:31.560 --> 0:28:34.800 a single mom of four kids for a long time, 0:28:35.000 --> 0:28:37.080 and you know, one of her biggest regrets, she said, 0:28:37.119 --> 0:28:39.040 is that she wasn't able to be as involved with 0:28:39.120 --> 0:28:43.680 our school lives because she was surviving. And I don't 0:28:43.720 --> 0:28:45.840 remember ever missing that. Like I would see the other 0:28:45.840 --> 0:28:48.040 moms who are more involved and just be like, Okay, 0:28:48.280 --> 0:28:52.840 nice cupcakes, thank you, miss Jones. But she's like, because 0:28:52.840 --> 0:28:55.320 I was starting to kind of, you know, think, oh, 0:28:55.360 --> 0:28:57.800 all these like back to school things and like the parents' 0:28:57.880 --> 0:29:01.400 nights and the mom group on Facebook, and she says, Mandy, 0:29:01.800 --> 0:29:03.920 you're gonna regret it if you don't invest and get 0:29:03.920 --> 0:29:06.240 to know. And I'm so glad that she and get 0:29:06.280 --> 0:29:08.320 to know the parents and the teachers and stuff and 0:29:08.320 --> 0:29:10.240 be really involved because you have the privilege of being 0:29:10.240 --> 0:29:15.240 more involved than I did. And it's really true, it's 0:29:15.280 --> 0:29:17.920 really true. So I feel not only are we saving 0:29:17.960 --> 0:29:19.880 the money, but it just it feels good and it 0:29:19.920 --> 0:29:23.040 feels like this shouldn't be special in twenty twenty three 0:29:23.440 --> 0:29:28.200 to have your kids in public preschool, Like it just 0:29:28.560 --> 0:29:31.400 makes so much sense, Like why don't we and why 0:29:31.720 --> 0:29:34.640 do we still have so many places where UPK is 0:29:34.680 --> 0:29:37.960 a special you know, announcement, a special treat or doesn't 0:29:37.960 --> 0:29:43.320 even exist. So we're just very grateful and any parents 0:29:43.320 --> 0:29:45.200 who sent their kids off to school last week or 0:29:45.240 --> 0:29:48.719 the week before or whenever, just bless we survived this summer. 0:29:49.760 --> 0:29:52.840 You should seeing Carol, you know, she got Roman and 0:29:52.920 --> 0:29:56.760 Mimi she was clicking her heels, honey because she was like, 0:29:56.880 --> 0:30:00.800 oh my god, and like they're in the school. I 0:30:00.840 --> 0:30:02.080 think the last year. That was the first time they 0:30:02.080 --> 0:30:03.280 were in the same school, which. 0:30:03.080 --> 0:30:04.920 Is Mimi's a what kindergarten? 0:30:05.000 --> 0:30:07.960 Now no, she's going to first grade? No no, wait, yeah, 0:30:08.000 --> 0:30:09.960 she's going to first grade. She was in kindergarten last year. 0:30:10.280 --> 0:30:12.120 Now a million is really smart, Like you know, roma 0:30:12.160 --> 0:30:13.520 be teaching her all the things she needs to know. 0:30:13.640 --> 0:30:16.600 Forget her mama, that's his baby. And so Carol said, 0:30:16.600 --> 0:30:17.840 like you know, if I mean y'all heard me talking 0:30:17.840 --> 0:30:19.320 about Roman and that a million a Millia is pretty 0:30:19.360 --> 0:30:22.040 like girl, I got I got it together. I'm smart, 0:30:22.240 --> 0:30:25.920 but and Roman can be a little bit timid, although 0:30:25.960 --> 0:30:28.920 he's obviously super smart. She said that like one time 0:30:28.920 --> 0:30:30.200 in the middle of the night, she like woke her up. 0:30:30.240 --> 0:30:33.120 It's like mommy, and like right before school, She's like what. 0:30:33.240 --> 0:30:35.240 She's like, I'm scared about school. She's like, it's the 0:30:35.240 --> 0:30:36.880 same school you always go to. She said, yeah, but 0:30:37.120 --> 0:30:38.880 I'm going to first grade and it's going to be 0:30:38.920 --> 0:30:43.840 really hard. Oh I know, not dared devil. Amelia not 0:30:44.320 --> 0:30:45.600 let me give you my If you tell a million, 0:30:45.600 --> 0:30:47.360 I'm gonna spank your booty. She towed it up, like 0:30:47.480 --> 0:30:50.959 do it as a side of a kid that never 0:30:51.000 --> 0:30:54.800 gets spanked, Like not that Amelia not mem talk to 0:30:54.840 --> 0:30:57.520 adults like she's grown and some. But I love what 0:30:57.640 --> 0:31:01.040 Carol told her. She said, Amelia, who won the spelling 0:31:01.080 --> 0:31:04.000 bee in your school? In your class? She's like I did. 0:31:04.280 --> 0:31:06.440 She's said, who's the best reader in your Custo Mills 0:31:06.480 --> 0:31:08.040 are really good reader. She's been reading since she was three. 0:31:08.080 --> 0:31:11.760 Because Roman, she's like I am, And she was like, 0:31:11.800 --> 0:31:13.880 don't you know everything that Roman knows? She said, I do. 0:31:13.960 --> 0:31:16.680 And he's like, She's like, he's in third grade. Do 0:31:16.760 --> 0:31:18.600 you think third grade is harder than first grade? She's 0:31:18.640 --> 0:31:20.040 like no, She's like, so if you know everything that 0:31:20.160 --> 0:31:22.680 Roman knows and you're going to be in first grade, 0:31:22.680 --> 0:31:24.720 then you're going to do just fine. And I was like, oh, 0:31:24.840 --> 0:31:26.280 look at you, a good parodo. She was like, now 0:31:26.360 --> 0:31:30.120 go back to sleep. But I just thought that that 0:31:30.200 --> 0:31:32.600 was like, oh, well, all your kiddo's going off to school, 0:31:33.200 --> 0:31:35.280 you know, like, don't forget to give them a little encouragement, 0:31:35.280 --> 0:31:39.080 because even the little tough ones like maybe sometimes need 0:31:39.160 --> 0:31:41.880 a little encouragement. But that's a teacher. Honestly, I loved 0:31:41.920 --> 0:31:44.480 back to school even though so I was like, oh God, 0:31:44.760 --> 0:31:46.160 back to school. But then I see all love my 0:31:46.160 --> 0:31:48.640 little babies trucking on in and what I do love, 0:31:48.720 --> 0:31:50.360 which I'm glad they're doing more of. It seems like 0:31:50.360 --> 0:31:52.640 in school. Is that the same thing happens at their 0:31:52.680 --> 0:31:55.480 school is that you're in the same class and their 0:31:55.640 --> 0:31:57.760 school goes up to eighth grade, so they get to 0:31:57.760 --> 0:32:00.600 stay in their cohort from pre k all the way 0:32:00.680 --> 0:32:03.320 up to eighth grade. To imagine. Yeah, so like that's 0:32:03.360 --> 0:32:05.120 great for a kid like Roman. Who doesn't make friends 0:32:05.160 --> 0:32:07.920 easily because he's so shy. He wasn't scared this year 0:32:07.960 --> 0:32:10.239 because he's like this. Kids from last year, the same 0:32:10.280 --> 0:32:14.400 ones I didn't talk to, they're back, you know, and 0:32:14.440 --> 0:32:16.920 so like I love that. Like I think cohort learning 0:32:17.040 --> 0:32:19.480 is is great because it allows kids who need a 0:32:19.480 --> 0:32:23.240 little more time to like navigate socially. It gives them 0:32:23.280 --> 0:32:25.080 that opportunity. So I love that. 0:32:25.760 --> 0:32:29.280 As a fellow Roman. As a child, that's great. Because 0:32:29.320 --> 0:32:31.800 I moved school so much. It was it was, it 0:32:31.840 --> 0:32:35.520 was not happening for me. So oh well that was 0:32:35.560 --> 0:32:37.120 I'm glad that you had a good trip. We back 0:32:37.160 --> 0:32:39.440 to school, We back to Brown ambition. We are celebrating 0:32:39.520 --> 0:32:40.320 eight years. 0:32:40.480 --> 0:32:44.280 Go to girl, Yes we are you taking me? I 0:32:44.360 --> 0:32:45.560 know we have to plan something. 0:32:45.920 --> 0:32:47.840 I think we had something on the calendar for Friday. 0:32:47.920 --> 0:32:48.280 I saw that. 0:32:48.320 --> 0:32:49.880 I actually do I do hold. 0:32:49.680 --> 0:32:51.640 For I know we have a whole I'm gonna have 0:32:51.640 --> 0:32:52.520 to a range track on that. 0:32:53.800 --> 0:32:59.040 So every year has the last eight years meant. 0:32:58.960 --> 0:33:01.720 Not to beside? I feel like when we do, let's 0:33:01.800 --> 0:33:04.680 let's have given let's do the sushi like what I 0:33:04.800 --> 0:33:08.240 give just kidding, Let's do a sushi class has like 0:33:08.280 --> 0:33:09.720 a fun like, yeah, let's make that. 0:33:09.800 --> 0:33:12.680 I would love that, love it. But eight years oh 0:33:12.720 --> 0:33:14.240 my goodness, I. 0:33:14.320 --> 0:33:16.200 Know we have a middle schooler. We have a broad 0:33:16.240 --> 0:33:19.480 and missing middle schooler, Cydebar. Before we jump into break Girl, 0:33:19.760 --> 0:33:22.880 I heard you had Drake on or whatever. 0:33:24.520 --> 0:33:27.360 Listen when my little she told my little my little 0:33:27.360 --> 0:33:29.000 brother Alex was a guest on the show. And I 0:33:29.040 --> 0:33:32.160 actually listened back to that episode and I enjoyed it. Yeah, 0:33:32.240 --> 0:33:35.120 it was during it because I had to listen to 0:33:35.200 --> 0:33:39.080 him a lot, and I had to like, it was 0:33:39.280 --> 0:33:41.800 very strange interviewing my brother, But once I got through 0:33:41.840 --> 0:33:43.680 the weirdness of it, it was actually great. I think 0:33:43.720 --> 0:33:47.480 he's just a fantastic person, you know, independent of being 0:33:47.960 --> 0:33:51.200 my flesh and blood. But yes, see for yourself if 0:33:51.240 --> 0:33:53.440 you think he looks like me me. 0:33:53.720 --> 0:33:56.840 Literally, I mean he doesn't like you, I be but literally, Like, 0:33:57.000 --> 0:33:58.800 it was so funny to read the comments on our ig. 0:33:59.160 --> 0:34:00.520 People were like girl for I mean, I was like, 0:34:00.800 --> 0:34:04.320 they got break because you know, I been calling Hi 0:34:04.360 --> 0:34:06.560 drink for the longest and y'all are like, Tiffany, you 0:34:07.240 --> 0:34:09.440 I told you grow out a totally Listen. 0:34:09.719 --> 0:34:13.440 She wasn't lying, Okay, she wasn't lying, and like Drake, 0:34:13.480 --> 0:34:15.800 he has a lot going on and he is creative 0:34:15.960 --> 0:34:18.719 and fantastic. I was thinking about him and I when 0:34:18.719 --> 0:34:22.120 you were talking about Roman and me. I can't say 0:34:22.200 --> 0:34:24.760 I was as sweet to my little brother as Romans 0:34:24.760 --> 0:34:28.960 seems to be to me me. But however, that sibling, 0:34:29.120 --> 0:34:32.960 that sibling bond and competitiveness and is just amazing. So 0:34:33.719 --> 0:34:37.399 definitely check out that episode. But let's take a quick break, 0:34:37.760 --> 0:34:40.160 take a little deep breath of woosa. Check on your 0:34:40.239 --> 0:34:42.279 Uber Eats order, make sure they got your order right 0:34:42.320 --> 0:34:47.280 and right back ba. 0:34:49.560 --> 0:34:53.719 And we're bad and we're black and brown and all 0:34:53.719 --> 0:34:56.920 the things we have not done brown break, brown, Bruce 0:34:57.000 --> 0:34:59.080 in a such a long. 0:34:58.920 --> 0:35:00.200 Time, such a long time time. 0:35:00.239 --> 0:35:03.120 I'm ready though, right I can't eat, I can't barely 0:35:03.120 --> 0:35:09.040 remember a song. And now it's time to boost up 0:35:09.120 --> 0:35:12.719 break or boost up, break up, boost up break? Are 0:35:12.760 --> 0:35:19.160 you gonna boost? Are you gonna break? What you're gonna do? 0:35:19.239 --> 0:35:25.080 What you gonna take? I know, with my limited memory, 0:35:25.400 --> 0:35:28.359 you know, sidebarb, I think I might have ADHD. 0:35:29.560 --> 0:35:31.879 That was very in now, yeah it is. 0:35:32.120 --> 0:35:34.319 But I was thinking to myself like I was like 0:35:34.360 --> 0:35:37.359 reading you know some symptoms because you know WebMD, but 0:35:37.480 --> 0:35:40.080 honestly because someone had asked me that I was talking to, 0:35:40.160 --> 0:35:43.400 like the psychologist whatever. She was one of my mentees 0:35:43.400 --> 0:35:47.320 at my mentor Tiffany like my dot on my business mentorship, 0:35:47.560 --> 0:35:48.840 and she had come out to see me and I 0:35:48.960 --> 0:35:51.200 was talking, you know me, I'd be talking and then 0:35:51.239 --> 0:35:52.920 my brain goes this way, and then I would be like, 0:35:53.000 --> 0:35:54.680 right cause I'm Friday. I'm like, oh, that's right. You 0:35:54.680 --> 0:35:56.799 weren't in my head think what I was thinking. And 0:35:56.880 --> 0:35:58.840 she was like, have you ever been diagnosed for ADAH? 0:35:59.000 --> 0:36:01.279 She's like, I'm not diagnosed you, but there are some 0:36:01.360 --> 0:36:06.799 things here And I was like, no, but you know what, 0:36:07.000 --> 0:36:10.480 that wouldn't be too crazy. And she was like, I said, 0:36:10.520 --> 0:36:12.920 you know, if it is, it's that good ADHD because 0:36:12.920 --> 0:36:15.439 it got me. She was like, truthfully, Tiffany, in women, 0:36:15.560 --> 0:36:19.680 especially Black women, it presents you know, like, you know, 0:36:19.719 --> 0:36:21.920 not in this way that drags you down, you know, 0:36:22.080 --> 0:36:23.880 like to your point you know you've been able to 0:36:24.360 --> 0:36:27.440 be creative and motivated and all this other stuff. But 0:36:27.480 --> 0:36:29.960 I told her, my memory is like I can either 0:36:30.000 --> 0:36:32.799 remember like the most minute random detail or like what 0:36:32.840 --> 0:36:34.480 was her name that she just told me like five 0:36:34.480 --> 0:36:37.279 minutes ago, and so anyway, I had asked doctor Green 0:36:37.320 --> 0:36:39.600 if I should get tested for ADHD. I mean, she 0:36:39.760 --> 0:36:42.239 was like, I mean, certainly you can, you know. She's like, 0:36:42.280 --> 0:36:43.520 as long as you're not gonna use it as a 0:36:43.520 --> 0:36:45.520 thing to make yourself feel bad about. I'm like, nah, 0:36:45.680 --> 0:36:48.040 but it might be helpful to say, oh, if I 0:36:48.040 --> 0:36:50.840 find out I do have ADHD, here are some tools 0:36:50.880 --> 0:36:52.839 to help you remember certain things or when I'm having 0:36:52.840 --> 0:36:55.640 a hard time pushing through it. I think it just 0:36:55.800 --> 0:36:58.080 might help. So as an adult, it's harder to get 0:36:58.120 --> 0:37:00.840 like classified or whatever. So but I'm gonna work with 0:37:00.880 --> 0:37:03.960 my therapists to like learn like what are the how 0:37:04.000 --> 0:37:06.880 do I go about figuring out if I do? And 0:37:06.920 --> 0:37:09.359 then if I am, what are some tools and things 0:37:09.440 --> 0:37:11.000 I can use to help me with the parts that 0:37:11.040 --> 0:37:11.880 I do struggle with? 0:37:11.960 --> 0:37:14.799 You know? So yeah, I just want to say you're yeah, 0:37:14.880 --> 0:37:16.880 your therapist wouldn't diagnose you, though it has to be 0:37:16.960 --> 0:37:18.080 a psychologist. 0:37:18.200 --> 0:37:19.880 I believe so. But doctor Green was like, I can 0:37:19.880 --> 0:37:21.560 give you know, I can connect you if you She's like, 0:37:21.560 --> 0:37:23.480 if you really want to know, certainly, you know, I 0:37:23.480 --> 0:37:25.239 can connect you. Her concern was like, are you trying 0:37:25.280 --> 0:37:28.160 to find out because you're feeling bad about something. I'm like, no, honestly, 0:37:28.160 --> 0:37:31.080 I don't, like I would want to know because it's like, oh, 0:37:31.160 --> 0:37:33.320 so the fact that I have a hard time remembering 0:37:33.360 --> 0:37:37.040 stuff is that and that here's a tool that people 0:37:37.239 --> 0:37:38.960 use to do so or whatever. I'm not looking to 0:37:38.960 --> 0:37:41.040 take any medication or anything like that. I'm like, girl, 0:37:41.080 --> 0:37:44.560 we're good, but I'm just curious because that would be helpful. Like, oh, 0:37:44.640 --> 0:37:46.839 that's why, because my. 0:37:46.960 --> 0:37:49.840 Lot to be flippant about it, ADHD is like really, 0:37:50.040 --> 0:37:53.680 you know, like gaining like more awareness. And you're maybe 0:37:53.680 --> 0:37:56.359 the third adult friend I've had who I had two 0:37:56.360 --> 0:37:58.799 that have been diagnosed, and you're the third to like 0:37:58.800 --> 0:37:59.279 bring it up. 0:37:59.320 --> 0:38:02.040 But yeah, yeah, but I know for some people, I mean, 0:38:02.080 --> 0:38:04.239 I know that there are components that are really hard. 0:38:04.239 --> 0:38:06.759 Some people can't navigate, some people can't day to day 0:38:06.840 --> 0:38:09.600 life is too hard. But she said that it presents 0:38:10.040 --> 0:38:12.680 very differently in girls and women. She said, which is 0:38:13.080 --> 0:38:16.160 likely why you might not have ever been because you 0:38:16.160 --> 0:38:20.520 were so high functioning, you know, And so yeah, like 0:38:20.600 --> 0:38:22.520 if I do, then I'm like, oh, okay, you know, 0:38:22.960 --> 0:38:24.640 like what are you know, what are the things I 0:38:24.680 --> 0:38:27.479 can do to to help me with the parts because 0:38:27.480 --> 0:38:30.360 I remember distinctly. I remember I can literally see myself 0:38:30.640 --> 0:38:33.160 sitting in like it was like my math class. I 0:38:33.200 --> 0:38:35.640 think I was like either middle school or high school. 0:38:35.840 --> 0:38:38.760 And I forgot something. And I remember thinking to myself 0:38:39.280 --> 0:38:41.360 because we had just found out that our math teacher 0:38:41.440 --> 0:38:43.600 was diagnosed with dementia, even though she was very young. 0:38:43.840 --> 0:38:45.080 I mean I didn't at the time. I didn't think 0:38:45.080 --> 0:38:46.799 she was only forty. But at the time, you know, 0:38:46.880 --> 0:38:48.680 forty in high school is like girl, you hold e 0:38:48.760 --> 0:38:50.719 the way. So when the people, the girls said that 0:38:50.760 --> 0:38:52.640 she I was like, Okay, well she forty ain't got 0:38:52.640 --> 0:38:59.080 about right. They're like, no, girl, no. And I remember thinking, well, 0:38:59.160 --> 0:39:02.279 one of the reasons is because she was very forgetful. 0:39:02.360 --> 0:39:04.359 She would take attendance like three or four times doing 0:39:04.360 --> 0:39:06.399 out the class. We thought it was silly. She would 0:39:06.440 --> 0:39:09.120 forget names even though you know, so I just and 0:39:09.160 --> 0:39:13.960 I remember thinking, well, that's I forget those things. But 0:39:14.160 --> 0:39:17.880 I don't have dementia because I'm young. But I remember thinking, Tiffany, 0:39:18.520 --> 0:39:21.600 I need you to remember that when you get old 0:39:21.800 --> 0:39:24.880 and you still have a bad memory, it's not dementia. 0:39:25.040 --> 0:39:28.680 It's just you. Like I remember this distinctly, like trying 0:39:28.680 --> 0:39:30.600 to burn that into my brain. So I wasn't like, 0:39:30.719 --> 0:39:32.879 oh my gosh, it's like so yeah. When I'm eighty 0:39:32.920 --> 0:39:34.759 years old and I'm like, what's he saying? Like you 0:39:34.840 --> 0:39:41.480 know she's old, I'm like, now I've been forgot stop anyway, 0:39:42.680 --> 0:39:43.040 go ahead. 0:39:43.040 --> 0:39:44.880 I used to watch Oprah way too young. I'd be 0:39:44.920 --> 0:39:47.240 like looking at forty year old fifty year old women's 0:39:47.239 --> 0:39:54.200 problems and thinking, I have oh, okay, brown, boots, Brown, is. 0:39:54.120 --> 0:39:55.960 You gonna boost? You're gonna break mandra. 0:39:56.360 --> 0:39:58.440 I am going to do a huge boost because I 0:39:58.480 --> 0:40:01.200 am just so damn proud of one of my oldest friends. 0:40:01.440 --> 0:40:04.800 Her name is Julie Lone, and she is a children's 0:40:04.800 --> 0:40:08.480 book author. On top of being you get it's so 0:40:08.600 --> 0:40:13.040 good So Julie, she works nine to five for Disney 0:40:13.080 --> 0:40:15.279 actually in their books division, and she's been publishing for 0:40:15.360 --> 0:40:17.360 a long time. She and I went to journalism school 0:40:17.400 --> 0:40:20.439 together and used to work on the newspaper together. And 0:40:20.600 --> 0:40:24.240 she just published a children's book that's so so damn 0:40:24.800 --> 0:40:27.719 special and adorable and beautiful. It's called The Truth about 0:40:27.800 --> 0:40:31.440 Dragons and it's the perfect red I would say for 0:40:31.560 --> 0:40:34.759 like Toddler's An Above and the beautiful thing about it 0:40:34.800 --> 0:40:37.920 is Julia is Chinese, her husband is white American. Well, 0:40:37.920 --> 0:40:42.480 she's Chinese American. Her husban's white, and he's not a 0:40:42.560 --> 0:40:48.960 cheese he's white. He's white and white Americans like what 0:40:49.080 --> 0:40:53.439 I ordered from Beach for her. I don't know. He's 0:40:53.480 --> 0:40:57.480 Caucasian anyway. And they have a three year old and 0:40:57.520 --> 0:41:00.520 an eight month old. And it was during the pandemic 0:41:00.600 --> 0:41:03.319 when she was, you know, like a new mom, just 0:41:03.360 --> 0:41:06.840 like I was. And her son, Kieran is yeah, he 0:41:06.880 --> 0:41:10.000 has dual heritages, and so she wrote the book The 0:41:10.040 --> 0:41:13.040 Truth about Dragons and the stories about two different versions 0:41:13.040 --> 0:41:15.800 of what a dragon is told through the points of 0:41:15.880 --> 0:41:19.040 view of his grandmother's So the grandmother from the Chinese 0:41:19.080 --> 0:41:22.160 side and the grandmother from the white American cheese side. 0:41:22.239 --> 0:41:25.960 And where could the girls get it? 0:41:26.920 --> 0:41:30.200 Everywhere? I think it's published with Macmillan. So yeah, any 0:41:30.200 --> 0:41:34.880 bookstore online we can post a link to, like a 0:41:34.920 --> 0:41:37.520 good a good bookstore for y'all to buy from. But 0:41:37.760 --> 0:41:40.000 Truth about Dragons is the book. And I'm just so 0:41:40.080 --> 0:41:43.560 proud of Julie because, like me, you know, she's just 0:41:43.560 --> 0:41:45.239 one of those friends who've gotten so much closer since 0:41:45.280 --> 0:41:47.760 having kids. And also I got to see this book 0:41:47.760 --> 0:41:49.760 when it was you know, she just got the pages 0:41:49.800 --> 0:41:53.760 back from the illustrator. And she's just always been really 0:41:53.960 --> 0:41:56.600 focused on her art, even as she was working nine 0:41:56.600 --> 0:42:01.640 to five. So oh does she know the writing? Okay, yeah, no, 0:42:01.719 --> 0:42:04.359 she didn't draw it, but the writing. And I was 0:42:04.520 --> 0:42:08.480 at her book launch it's really adorable book launch in 0:42:08.560 --> 0:42:11.279 her where she lives in Connecticut, this past weekend. And 0:42:11.320 --> 0:42:15.160 there's just something really special about being in this age 0:42:15.160 --> 0:42:17.520 that we're at, like with my friends and friends that 0:42:17.560 --> 0:42:20.520 I knew, you know, almost two decades ago in college, 0:42:21.719 --> 0:42:25.279 but getting to see us reap what we've sown, you know, 0:42:25.360 --> 0:42:28.000 like to sit in the audience and see one of 0:42:28.080 --> 0:42:30.960 my beloved friends who twenty years ago is just you know, 0:42:31.880 --> 0:42:34.680 dreaming about being an author, and getting her to like 0:42:34.840 --> 0:42:37.120 release her children's book and it's not even her first, 0:42:37.120 --> 0:42:39.040 but it just made me so warm and fuzzy inside. 0:42:39.080 --> 0:42:41.160 It's really fun to get to see your friends live 0:42:41.200 --> 0:42:42.439 their dreams in real time. 0:42:42.520 --> 0:42:44.719 So I'm looking at this now, like I see I'm like, 0:42:44.760 --> 0:42:47.640 oh my gosh, look all these amazing reviews. The illustrations 0:42:47.680 --> 0:42:53.160 are just they're stunning, stunning, Oh my goodness, ah, this 0:42:53.320 --> 0:42:57.880 is just like and honestly, yeah, this is this is 0:42:57.960 --> 0:43:01.840 just great. Okay, So I love this, you know, you 0:43:01.880 --> 0:43:05.000 know I love me illustration. So this is and it's 0:43:05.040 --> 0:43:08.080 an editor's pick book for best book ages six to eight. 0:43:08.120 --> 0:43:10.160 It got to be an editor's pick on the Zong, 0:43:10.480 --> 0:43:11.320 so that's awesome. 0:43:11.840 --> 0:43:16.000 It's doing really well. She's just brilliant and way too humble. 0:43:17.080 --> 0:43:19.800 So I love to shout her out. And obviously, Cocoa 0:43:19.800 --> 0:43:23.880 golf like girl, he won the US Open, congratulations a 0:43:24.120 --> 0:43:26.120 tennis but I know it was fat. 0:43:26.160 --> 0:43:29.040 Yes, okay, I guess I like to thank my haters. 0:43:29.080 --> 0:43:30.759 I'll say, Coco, yes, gen Z. 0:43:31.360 --> 0:43:34.560 Baby Snoop dogg. Girl like to save myself, think myself, 0:43:35.400 --> 0:43:36.279 me myself and I. 0:43:36.440 --> 0:43:41.640 She said, you thought this ain't Serena, Like, okay, no, 0:43:41.880 --> 0:43:44.839 this arena, but you know Serena, y'all, y'all drag her 0:43:44.840 --> 0:43:46.799 through the money. She tried her best to rise a buve. 0:43:46.880 --> 0:43:49.560 Coco said, oh, we don't do that here. These young kids. 0:43:49.640 --> 0:43:51.600 Is like, now, yo, you're gonna get your licked back 0:43:51.920 --> 0:43:52.399 right back. 0:43:52.480 --> 0:43:57.040 Yeah, yes, okay, what are you gonna do? Booster break. 0:43:57.160 --> 0:44:02.759 I'm gonna be be because I've been feeling really like, 0:44:02.880 --> 0:44:04.360 you know, ever since year old passed away, I just 0:44:04.400 --> 0:44:06.960 said to myself that there's a big transition that I've 0:44:07.000 --> 0:44:09.560 been wanting to have, and I just didn't. I've just 0:44:09.680 --> 0:44:12.560 been in a weird space of like, I know that 0:44:12.640 --> 0:44:15.600 I don't want to do what I've done before, but 0:44:15.680 --> 0:44:17.400 I don't want to not do what some of the 0:44:17.400 --> 0:44:20.040 things I've done. I'm talking about professionally, especially, so I've 0:44:20.080 --> 0:44:23.120 made some adjustments to like, you know, like I y'all know, 0:44:23.160 --> 0:44:25.719 I walk every day, take my naps, spend more time 0:44:25.760 --> 0:44:29.520 with family and friends. But professionally, I felt like I 0:44:29.640 --> 0:44:31.759 haven't gotten to the place where I want to be, 0:44:32.360 --> 0:44:34.200 meaning like how I want life to go. I want 0:44:34.200 --> 0:44:36.480 my professional life to line up more aligned with my 0:44:36.560 --> 0:44:39.839 personal life. And so recently I just kind of reached 0:44:39.840 --> 0:44:41.279 a fever pitch where I was like, I don't want 0:44:41.280 --> 0:44:43.120 to do the budgetista in the same way anymore. I 0:44:43.200 --> 0:44:45.239 had to admit that I said it in therapy. I 0:44:45.280 --> 0:44:47.000 told doctor Green. She's like, this is the first time, 0:44:47.120 --> 0:44:49.000 and she's like, I've known this, but I've been waiting 0:44:49.000 --> 0:44:51.560 for you to say the words, And I said, I've 0:44:51.560 --> 0:44:53.600 been afraid to say the words because does that mean 0:44:53.640 --> 0:44:55.640 I want to walk away from this business. She said, 0:44:56.280 --> 0:44:58.920 that's not what you said. But it's okay to admit 0:44:58.960 --> 0:45:00.640 the way you've been doing it, you don't want to 0:45:00.640 --> 0:45:03.920 do it because it's very face front, it's very dancing 0:45:03.960 --> 0:45:06.680 for a dollar, it's very busy, busy busy, and although 0:45:06.719 --> 0:45:10.319 I've definitely reduced it, it's not enough, you know, like 0:45:10.400 --> 0:45:13.440 it's been like a low key version of what I 0:45:13.480 --> 0:45:17.319 was doing before, and it's not enough. And admitting that 0:45:17.480 --> 0:45:20.160 kind of like it opened up the floodgates because what 0:45:20.200 --> 0:45:22.680 I was most afraid about was telling the team, which 0:45:22.719 --> 0:45:24.799 I have because I wouldn't tell y'all first. It's like, well, 0:45:24.800 --> 0:45:27.080 what does that mean, you know, because there are people 0:45:27.120 --> 0:45:29.319 who depend on the business and everything else. But I 0:45:29.400 --> 0:45:31.880 shared kind of like the fact that like, I don't 0:45:32.520 --> 0:45:35.239 I don't want to not do the budgetista, but not 0:45:35.320 --> 0:45:37.360 like this, and I'm not sure what this looks like, 0:45:38.560 --> 0:45:41.040 you know. And I was like, you know, I want 0:45:41.120 --> 0:45:43.759 us to figure it out together. I want us to navigate, 0:45:44.000 --> 0:45:47.239 but you have the space and the freedom to say, 0:45:47.320 --> 0:45:49.359 you know what, maybe I want something that's a little 0:45:49.400 --> 0:45:51.359 more stable. I mean not that I mean I pay 0:45:51.440 --> 0:45:53.439 you know, you know, y'all know I pay. I never 0:45:53.800 --> 0:45:55.960 not paid a meaning Like, I don't know what the 0:45:56.080 --> 0:45:57.879 ups and downs to come are and I don't know 0:45:58.120 --> 0:46:00.120 you know where the company is going to land. I 0:46:00.280 --> 0:46:02.640 just wanted to give you the grace to know that. 0:46:02.760 --> 0:46:04.880 Like if you're like I have to move on or whatever, 0:46:05.440 --> 0:46:07.680 you could do so without judgment for me. But I'm 0:46:07.760 --> 0:46:10.880 just sharing that there's a transition coming and I'm not 0:46:10.920 --> 0:46:13.560 sure how it's going to land. And they were really think, 0:46:13.640 --> 0:46:18.319 thank you so much for being so transparent and honest, Tiffany, 0:46:18.400 --> 0:46:20.440 And we want to stay. We want to figure out 0:46:20.480 --> 0:46:22.799 what the new iteration of this is, which honestly, as 0:46:22.840 --> 0:46:25.719 a result of that, like we have come up with 0:46:25.760 --> 0:46:27.560 a really good idea. And I'm just like, I wish 0:46:27.600 --> 0:46:31.000 I would have tell you something, Sola, and so what 0:46:31.040 --> 0:46:32.680 I would really love to be in the business stuff. 0:46:32.719 --> 0:46:34.040 So the part of the budget theese I like the 0:46:34.040 --> 0:46:37.000 most is the teaching part. Like I love showing up, 0:46:37.040 --> 0:46:40.440 I love teaching. I love I hate having to sell something. 0:46:40.480 --> 0:46:42.480 I'm like, oh my god, I hate this. I hate 0:46:42.560 --> 0:46:44.879 having to have a product or whatever. It's just exhausting. 0:46:44.920 --> 0:46:46.840 I don't like that part. And I said, if it 0:46:46.840 --> 0:46:48.680 was up to me when I first started the budgetist 0:46:48.719 --> 0:46:51.839 to I did everything for free, you know, But then 0:46:51.840 --> 0:46:53.799 as you have a business, it's hard to do. It's 0:46:54.360 --> 0:46:56.200 how do you do everything for free but still have 0:46:56.239 --> 0:46:58.520 a business that pays your employees because they have to 0:46:58.520 --> 0:47:01.239 be paid, you know. And so I thought, well, what 0:47:01.400 --> 0:47:04.400 if one of the things that we're really good at 0:47:04.400 --> 0:47:08.120 at Budganista is gathering insights about like the thoughts, hopes, 0:47:08.200 --> 0:47:10.880 dreams of the women that I serve, largely black women. 0:47:11.280 --> 0:47:13.279 I said, there has to be company. Well, I know 0:47:13.480 --> 0:47:15.880 for a fact because I see companies roll out products 0:47:15.920 --> 0:47:17.960 or services that they hope are going to land in 0:47:17.960 --> 0:47:20.640 our community. And I'm like, girl, nobody cares about that. 0:47:20.640 --> 0:47:23.279 That's not aligned, that's not moral, that's not fair. And 0:47:23.320 --> 0:47:27.520 I said, well, what if I could give away, which 0:47:27.560 --> 0:47:28.839 is what I want to do all the things I'm 0:47:28.880 --> 0:47:33.759 doing with the budgetiessta for free and on the back end, 0:47:33.840 --> 0:47:36.040 because I already gather insights. Y'all give me insights all 0:47:36.080 --> 0:47:39.680 the time. We have surveys upwards of two hundred thousand respondents, 0:47:39.880 --> 0:47:42.160 and I use those insights to create, like I use 0:47:42.239 --> 0:47:44.879 the insight to create geting with money. I use those 0:47:44.920 --> 0:47:47.680 insights to create the next literature challenge or whatever it is. 0:47:47.920 --> 0:47:50.200 But I was like, I know they're companies who also 0:47:50.239 --> 0:47:52.720 want to create good products and services that are aligned 0:47:52.960 --> 0:47:55.400 with this audience. So what if I use those insights 0:47:55.440 --> 0:47:58.600 to say I can consult, I can help for you 0:47:58.680 --> 0:48:01.160 to be like, this is how you're articas misaligned. Here's 0:48:01.160 --> 0:48:03.520 how you get align based upon the insights that I've gathered. 0:48:03.840 --> 0:48:05.400 And so that's what I'd like to be in the 0:48:05.400 --> 0:48:09.359 business of ethical insights, you know, And so I don't 0:48:09.400 --> 0:48:10.520 know what that looks like. I'm not gonna lie. We 0:48:10.560 --> 0:48:11.840 just came up with this a week ago, so you know, 0:48:11.880 --> 0:48:16.000 I'm just over here chatting. But I'm excited about it 0:48:16.040 --> 0:48:18.600 because one of the things I'm sharing it because one 0:48:18.600 --> 0:48:21.400 of the things I've learned in business is that like 0:48:21.520 --> 0:48:24.239 to share the thing. And so since I started to 0:48:24.239 --> 0:48:25.719 share it in the last week, I've reached out to 0:48:25.760 --> 0:48:29.360 like friends and corporate spaces. The response has been amazing. 0:48:29.760 --> 0:48:32.319 I was sharing, like, for example, like, we did a 0:48:32.320 --> 0:48:35.440 Liverature Challenge in twenty twenty three, which is our twenty 0:48:35.440 --> 0:48:39.200 one day free course that I do typically every January, 0:48:39.200 --> 0:48:42.399 give or take, and three hundred thousand people signed up, 0:48:43.320 --> 0:48:45.680 and we took surveys from everyone, and like I said, 0:48:45.680 --> 0:48:48.400 we usually use those insights just internally, like they want this, 0:48:48.440 --> 0:48:51.040 they hate that, they love this. And so we have 0:48:51.120 --> 0:48:55.280 our next challenge that'll be launching in twenty twenty four January, 0:48:55.560 --> 0:48:59.560 and I'm like, are there organization's companies brands that are like, uh, 0:48:59.600 --> 0:49:02.440 I'd love to know what tens of thousands of women, 0:49:03.200 --> 0:49:06.480 specifically Black women. It's not all black women, because I 0:49:06.520 --> 0:49:09.120 know exactly who we're like seventy five percent women, and 0:49:09.200 --> 0:49:10.920 like eighty percent of them are black, but still the 0:49:11.120 --> 0:49:13.280 majority of Black women what they think and feel about 0:49:13.320 --> 0:49:15.799 a thing. It doesn't just have to be a financial thing. 0:49:15.840 --> 0:49:17.680 The good thing is I'm able to ask any question, 0:49:17.880 --> 0:49:19.959 do you have natural hair? How long do you sleep 0:49:19.960 --> 0:49:22.960 at night? Like my audience, we've built like such an 0:49:23.040 --> 0:49:27.560 amazing space of trust and so yeah, and so like 0:49:27.600 --> 0:49:30.160 I've kind of shared that that and I've gotten such 0:49:30.200 --> 0:49:32.479 great responses to people who wanted to partner to see 0:49:32.480 --> 0:49:36.200 like what I would like to know. So as I 0:49:36.239 --> 0:49:38.960 twist and turn into this new space, it won't really 0:49:39.000 --> 0:49:41.799 look that different to the audience because what it just 0:49:41.800 --> 0:49:44.280 looks like is more stuff is free from tivity. Yay, 0:49:44.520 --> 0:49:48.960 you know, but on the back end it feels less stressful. 0:49:49.440 --> 0:49:51.560 The onnus of me showing up and having a dance 0:49:51.600 --> 0:49:54.319 for a dollar is like not there as much. It 0:49:54.360 --> 0:49:57.239 allows the team to take on a bigger role, you know, 0:49:57.360 --> 0:49:59.080 and like me to just do the part that I like, 0:49:59.160 --> 0:50:01.760 which is just sir y'all. And so I'm just really 0:50:01.800 --> 0:50:04.920 like like it. That's the boost. It's like, you know, 0:50:04.960 --> 0:50:08.200 sometimes you're so afraid of making the change that you 0:50:08.239 --> 0:50:12.120 don't realize there's actually more opportunity, more money, more whatever, 0:50:12.600 --> 0:50:14.640 you know, if you have the courage to pivot and 0:50:14.680 --> 0:50:15.280 make the change. 0:50:15.280 --> 0:50:17.200 So, you know, for those of you who say that 0:50:17.239 --> 0:50:20.120 again for the girls in the back, girl, because it's 0:50:20.160 --> 0:50:22.719 just it's it is scary though, because I'm not gonna lie. 0:50:22.760 --> 0:50:25.200 This is almost since the beginning of Budgetiesta. This is 0:50:25.200 --> 0:50:28.319 one of our worst financial years that we've had, you know. 0:50:28.440 --> 0:50:29.520 Just before the budgets. 0:50:29.760 --> 0:50:31.839 Yeah, for the budget Lisa, financially you. 0:50:31.800 --> 0:50:34.239 Know, if you haven't wanted to, yes, you haven't been 0:50:34.280 --> 0:50:34.799 around as much. 0:50:34.880 --> 0:50:36.560 Yeah, yeah, because I you know, like because if I 0:50:36.640 --> 0:50:38.280 dance for a dollar, you know, we're gonna make millions 0:50:38.320 --> 0:50:41.040 of me. We just barely will clear a million if 0:50:41.040 --> 0:50:44.560 we're lucky, which is like what for the Budgetissa, That's 0:50:44.600 --> 0:50:47.560 like unheard of. But it made me realize how much 0:50:47.640 --> 0:50:50.480 of the business relied upon me dancing for a dollar. 0:50:51.320 --> 0:50:52.920 And I think the team was scared because it's like, 0:50:52.920 --> 0:50:55.640 if Tiffany doesn't dance, what will we eat? And that's 0:50:55.640 --> 0:50:58.000 what I thought too. But I'm like, there has to 0:50:58.040 --> 0:51:00.399 be a business where I don't got to dance. Oh 0:51:00.520 --> 0:51:01.799 you know what I mean. And so I was, but 0:51:01.840 --> 0:51:04.480 I was afraid to make the transition, and so now 0:51:04.560 --> 0:51:07.439 I'm just like I have to because, like I told 0:51:07.480 --> 0:51:09.879 the team, I'm not completely out of steam, but I'm 0:51:10.000 --> 0:51:12.640 just about So if we don't pivot, there will be nothing. 0:51:13.080 --> 0:51:15.440 So if we can pivot and make money in a 0:51:15.480 --> 0:51:17.640 way that doesn't require that, then I could just do 0:51:17.719 --> 0:51:19.799 the thing I really like so much. And like I said, 0:51:19.800 --> 0:51:23.799 it's already like the the partnerships are already starting to 0:51:23.880 --> 0:51:26.400 tentatively form where I feel really good, like, wait, we 0:51:26.400 --> 0:51:28.600 don't have to work nearly as hard. I can just 0:51:28.600 --> 0:51:30.120 do this thing for free. I don't have to close 0:51:30.120 --> 0:51:32.399 a deal and have to be like by this like whoo, 0:51:32.760 --> 0:51:36.600 So to me, I just there's a lift and a light. 0:51:36.680 --> 0:51:39.560 And so I hope for those of you who are listening, 0:51:39.640 --> 0:51:42.640 who are you know, thinking about making a pivot, that 0:51:42.719 --> 0:51:45.719 there's definitely like this space between where you are where 0:51:45.719 --> 0:51:47.600 you want to be, and you do as much work 0:51:47.640 --> 0:51:49.719 to get the space as close as possible, but there 0:51:49.800 --> 0:51:52.520 is a moment where it's not gonna get any closer, 0:51:52.560 --> 0:51:55.400 where you actually have to leap. And that's the scary 0:51:55.440 --> 0:51:57.719 part where you're like, Okay, maybe I could reach It's 0:51:57.719 --> 0:51:59.600 like no, no, You're gonna have to let go the 0:51:59.600 --> 0:52:03.920 safety here and leap across this last little bridge. And 0:52:04.000 --> 0:52:07.240 so I've left, we haven't quite landed yet. We go see, 0:52:07.280 --> 0:52:09.680 but it's looking pretty good on this side. 0:52:09.719 --> 0:52:13.360 So and you're not leaping alone. And to actually tell 0:52:13.680 --> 0:52:17.040 your team, you know, Roseen Logan and I can care 0:52:17.760 --> 0:52:24.759 like yeah, and Tracy assuming everybody knows yeah, tell everybody no, yes, 0:52:25.000 --> 0:52:27.400 and then realizing that you know, you can reimagine what 0:52:27.440 --> 0:52:29.880 your business looks like for you with these other with 0:52:29.960 --> 0:52:32.239 everyone's input, and because at the end of the day, 0:52:32.239 --> 0:52:33.759 you've got such a good team who wants you to 0:52:33.800 --> 0:52:36.439 thrive and survive, or you're not just doing it of course, 0:52:36.440 --> 0:52:38.719 you're doing it for the for their income because we 0:52:38.760 --> 0:52:41.440 all got to eat right. But there's like a genuine 0:52:41.480 --> 0:52:43.760 loyalty and trust the same that you've built with your community, 0:52:43.800 --> 0:52:47.080 also with people who's who work for you and they 0:52:47.120 --> 0:52:48.759 want to see and I think that is you know, 0:52:48.800 --> 0:52:50.520 it speaks volumes of you as a leader and as 0:52:50.560 --> 0:52:53.080 a person and all of that. And I'm I'm excited 0:52:53.080 --> 0:52:55.560 for the new the newest, new chapter. You can heep 0:52:55.640 --> 0:52:58.440 have a new chapters every damn year if you want to, 0:52:58.880 --> 0:53:01.000 like you have permission, I'll do. And I think it's 0:53:01.040 --> 0:53:03.279 great that you're yeah, sharing that. 0:53:03.440 --> 0:53:05.440 I'm just really excited. My biggest thing is like I 0:53:05.480 --> 0:53:08.040 was really worried that the team would feel betrayed. That's 0:53:08.040 --> 0:53:10.480 what kept me here for so long. If I'm being honest, 0:53:10.480 --> 0:53:12.960 I was like, oh, I don't want They've worked so hard, 0:53:13.080 --> 0:53:15.960 and what I'm saying is that we're making a transition 0:53:16.040 --> 0:53:18.680 where it might not work and maybe I should just 0:53:18.680 --> 0:53:21.040 suffer through it. So everybody and I'm like Tiffany, and 0:53:21.080 --> 0:53:22.560 it's so crazy because you have that in your mind. 0:53:22.560 --> 0:53:24.120 But when I told the team, they're like, girl, we 0:53:24.160 --> 0:53:25.799 could tell you tire. We're like, what could we do 0:53:25.840 --> 0:53:29.840 to alleviate Tiffany, we're so worried and so yeah, building 0:53:29.880 --> 0:53:33.000 a really great team and yeah, so I'm honestly, yeah, 0:53:33.000 --> 0:53:36.319 I'm just really, really really excited about the pivoty because 0:53:36.320 --> 0:53:38.680 one thing about me is like, you know, you know, 0:53:38.680 --> 0:53:40.200 I know how to put in work for us to 0:53:40.239 --> 0:53:43.080 be successful. I just want to, like, like I said, 0:53:43.160 --> 0:53:48.880 navigate differently. So yay, it's like boosteple, you know, for 0:53:48.920 --> 0:53:49.440 the pivot. 0:53:50.239 --> 0:53:51.719 It's almost like you're one of the you know how 0:53:51.719 --> 0:53:54.520 they say, like jay Z and Nas, these are the 0:53:54.560 --> 0:53:57.880 first retiring hip hop artists or because hip hop's really young, they' 0:53:57.960 --> 0:54:00.600 just celebrated fifty years Happy birthday hip hop. And it's 0:54:00.640 --> 0:54:03.040 almost like you're one of the OG influencers and you're 0:54:03.080 --> 0:54:05.279 sort of like paving. What does it look like to 0:54:05.400 --> 0:54:09.120 age well as an influencer? Es like, because you can't 0:54:09.160 --> 0:54:12.920 be doing to go and trying to chase the next 0:54:12.960 --> 0:54:17.760 social media trying forever, right, So I think that it's yeah, 0:54:17.960 --> 0:54:22.600 so I think that fly fly bird so the rest 0:54:22.640 --> 0:54:23.479 of us can watch. 0:54:23.719 --> 0:54:26.000 Yeah, No, I never thought about that. You're right doing 0:54:26.040 --> 0:54:28.120 this because there are people there, like in the music 0:54:28.160 --> 0:54:31.400 industry that like unfortunately never pivoted so they are sixty 0:54:31.480 --> 0:54:34.680 still on tour, which no shade or whatever. But I 0:54:34.719 --> 0:54:37.480 want to be like a nas or jay Z, who 0:54:37.600 --> 0:54:41.080 before that happened pivoted and twisted in a way that 0:54:41.080 --> 0:54:43.120 they're like, Okay, Like you know jay Z every once 0:54:43.200 --> 0:54:44.400 in a while for fun, He's like, I do a 0:54:44.400 --> 0:54:46.640 little rat for fun, But he doesn't. He's not doing 0:54:46.640 --> 0:54:48.480 it for money. It's for the love of making music. 0:54:48.800 --> 0:54:51.520 But he has built this underlying business that sees him through. 0:54:51.520 --> 0:54:53.759 But you're absolutely right. I want to you know, like 0:54:53.800 --> 0:54:55.279 I told people, remember before, I was like, I want 0:54:55.320 --> 0:54:57.600 to be less Sean Carter more, more, less jay Z 0:54:57.719 --> 0:55:01.800 more Sean Carter, Yes, you know, so less than the performer. 0:55:01.520 --> 0:55:02.800 As Diddy Moore Shankolm. 0:55:02.960 --> 0:55:06.000 Yes, Like I want to be like like the the 0:55:06.080 --> 0:55:09.120 you know, I'm a businessman and I'm a business man, 0:55:09.239 --> 0:55:12.040 you know, Like yeah, so I'm excited. I'm excited just 0:55:12.040 --> 0:55:13.440 to kind of share the ups and downs and the 0:55:13.520 --> 0:55:17.000 transparency of like what it all looks like. So as 0:55:17.040 --> 0:55:19.240 if you're going through something similar, whether it's in corporate 0:55:19.280 --> 0:55:21.480 or your own business or whatever, you know, maybe there's 0:55:21.480 --> 0:55:22.960 some takeaways you can take away. 0:55:23.200 --> 0:55:28.120 So take them, get them for free. While you can't. Well, 0:55:28.280 --> 0:55:29.840 so happy to be back in the stew with you, 0:55:30.040 --> 0:55:34.439 beautiful eight years. I know I can't wait first TOHI date. Yes, 0:55:34.960 --> 0:55:37.200 I'm really I'm the wifey in this relationship, So I'll 0:55:37.200 --> 0:55:44.319 plan it. Don't worry, I won't. I won't think ill 0:55:44.360 --> 0:55:48.400 things about it. Plan. I got to plant my own night. 0:55:50.560 --> 0:55:53.160 Yo. 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