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Speaker 2: out here on this on the dance floor. Hello, my dear,

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Speaker 2: how are you ben? I feel like I need to

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Speaker 2: talk to you like this because I was a vacation.

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Speaker 1: It wasn't a glamorous as the girls with.

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Speaker 2: Well, although I don't know I have a Cockney accent.

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Speaker 1: Well, I'll say this first and foremost. I had an

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Speaker 1: amazing time. I don't know about Supergirl, but my forty

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Speaker 2: And the little they are itinerary.

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Speaker 1: So first we did London, London Town and it was

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Speaker 2: Damn you took a grown and sexy baker.

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Speaker 1: Y'all, how you don't punch them in the face.

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Speaker 2: She's the kind of teenager that wants to go to

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Speaker 1: And then the second trip, so we did four days London,

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Speaker 2: I feel like, no matter what the relationship is, travel

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Speaker 1: I can collect points. So like now when I go somewhere,

432
00:19:42,960 --> 00:19:45,399
Speaker 1: I can use like I like right now Hilton and Marriot,

433
00:19:45,440 --> 00:19:47,600
Speaker 1: I both have three night free three night stays because

434
00:19:47,600 --> 00:19:49,760
Speaker 1: of the points I've accumulated, so I can use that

435
00:19:49,800 --> 00:19:52,880
Speaker 1: for my own like chilling time, you know. So honestly,

436
00:19:53,920 --> 00:19:56,639
Speaker 1: like the financial lesson in all of this is that, like,

437
00:19:56,680 --> 00:20:00,080
Speaker 1: you know, there are ways to kind of like like

438
00:20:00,320 --> 00:20:03,680
Speaker 1: monetize your choices on the back end, so you can

439
00:20:03,800 --> 00:20:05,840
Speaker 1: use it to enhance, like, you know, your life. If

440
00:20:05,840 --> 00:20:09,359
Speaker 1: you're if your job has you travel a lot, you know,

441
00:20:09,600 --> 00:20:11,840
Speaker 1: and you're flying a lot. Please if you don't have

442
00:20:12,160 --> 00:20:14,920
Speaker 1: you know, an airline loyalty, that's a great way to

443
00:20:15,840 --> 00:20:19,000
Speaker 1: accumulate points, you know, if you're if you're using a card,

444
00:20:19,480 --> 00:20:22,719
Speaker 1: you know, accumulating points that way. And also too, if

445
00:20:22,760 --> 00:20:24,639
Speaker 1: there's a hotel that you stay at, make sure you

446
00:20:24,680 --> 00:20:27,119
Speaker 1: sign up for whatever that loyalty is. And you know,

447
00:20:27,160 --> 00:20:29,680
Speaker 1: although because even though like companies would book me, it

448
00:20:29,680 --> 00:20:32,200
Speaker 1: didn't mean I couldn't put down my loyalty number, you

449
00:20:32,240 --> 00:20:34,040
Speaker 1: know when I got to the hotel and add the

450
00:20:34,080 --> 00:20:36,080
Speaker 1: points to that way. So there's just a really great

451
00:20:36,080 --> 00:20:39,600
Speaker 1: way to be able to to continue the good times,

452
00:20:39,960 --> 00:20:41,000
Speaker 1: you know, like passive.

453
00:20:41,080 --> 00:20:42,520
Speaker 2: I love, Yes, I've been you know. I think the

454
00:20:42,560 --> 00:20:45,080
Speaker 2: reason people get overwhelmed by the whole points game is

455
00:20:45,080 --> 00:20:47,240
Speaker 2: that it is a game, but the gamification people are

456
00:20:47,280 --> 00:20:49,320
Speaker 2: obsessed with this and that and the third and I

457
00:20:49,480 --> 00:20:50,960
Speaker 2: just like the way you're doing it is how I

458
00:20:50,960 --> 00:20:53,240
Speaker 2: feel like it works for me to just get the

459
00:20:53,320 --> 00:20:56,240
Speaker 2: right card yep, maybe one or two yep, and then

460
00:20:56,400 --> 00:20:58,439
Speaker 2: just do what you're going to do anyway, yes, and

461
00:20:58,480 --> 00:20:59,800
Speaker 2: then reap the rewards.

462
00:21:00,640 --> 00:21:02,320
Speaker 1: And if you ever get confused, there's a great like

463
00:21:02,480 --> 00:21:05,800
Speaker 1: the Points guy is a great resource. So there would

464
00:21:05,800 --> 00:21:07,600
Speaker 1: be times when I wasn't really sure about a thing

465
00:21:07,680 --> 00:21:09,399
Speaker 1: and I would just go on and like search to them,

466
00:21:09,400 --> 00:21:11,159
Speaker 1: and I'm like, because that's all he does all day,

467
00:21:11,160 --> 00:21:13,680
Speaker 1: every day, and he'll explain it really clearly, like Okay.

468
00:21:13,880 --> 00:21:17,520
Speaker 1: Then I would call American Express and say, hey, I've

469
00:21:17,520 --> 00:21:19,160
Speaker 1: read somewhere that I can use it in this way.

470
00:21:19,160 --> 00:21:21,359
Speaker 1: How do I do that? You know? So like he's

471
00:21:21,400 --> 00:21:23,359
Speaker 1: like super deep dive into it. But to Mandy's point,

472
00:21:23,640 --> 00:21:25,240
Speaker 1: I don't know how to do all that, just basic

473
00:21:25,320 --> 00:21:27,080
Speaker 1: uses of use of points. Yeah.

474
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Speaker 2: Yeah, Well you mentioned back to school, and can I

475
00:21:30,960 --> 00:21:34,919
Speaker 2: just tell you I became a mother last week. I

476
00:21:34,960 --> 00:21:37,959
Speaker 2: thought I was a mom before, but I wasn't. Actually

477
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Speaker 2: two weeks ago, two three weeks ago, when my mom

478
00:21:39,840 --> 00:21:41,800
Speaker 2: was in town and we went to Target, and we

479
00:21:41,840 --> 00:21:44,840
Speaker 2: went straight to the back to school section and I

480
00:21:44,960 --> 00:21:47,200
Speaker 2: let my three year old he picked out a lunch

481
00:21:47,280 --> 00:21:49,720
Speaker 2: box and a backpack. You know, they still make the

482
00:21:49,800 --> 00:21:53,920
Speaker 2: same little subject like notebooks. They haven't innovated those. They're

483
00:21:53,960 --> 00:21:57,960
Speaker 2: the same, the five the five star five subjects, spiral notebooks,

484
00:21:58,359 --> 00:22:02,840
Speaker 2: the number two pencils, Exo markers, the Elmer's glue. It's

485
00:22:02,880 --> 00:22:05,879
Speaker 2: all the same. And he was and I had my

486
00:22:05,960 --> 00:22:08,399
Speaker 2: little list on my phone and I was like, we

487
00:22:08,480 --> 00:22:10,880
Speaker 2: need this and that and this. One hundred and seventy

488
00:22:10,920 --> 00:22:13,760
Speaker 2: five dollars later, godly what.

489
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Speaker 1: And for a preschooler, for a rod Prie school, or.

490
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Speaker 2: Because you know, they wanted the you know, disinfectantn the

491
00:22:20,640 --> 00:22:25,520
Speaker 2: hand sanitizer, extra supplies for the classroom, and he wanted,

492
00:22:25,560 --> 00:22:28,080
Speaker 2: you know, he had to get brand new backpack, lunch box.

493
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Speaker 2: He never had any of that before. But it was

494
00:22:31,000 --> 00:22:34,399
Speaker 2: so I just kept looking at my mom like what

495
00:22:34,840 --> 00:22:37,360
Speaker 2: it was. It was so bizarre because for me, back

496
00:22:37,359 --> 00:22:39,639
Speaker 2: to school was like a really exciting time. I like

497
00:22:39,720 --> 00:22:43,000
Speaker 2: to get the new Lisa Frank whatever stationary set and

498
00:22:43,080 --> 00:22:45,239
Speaker 2: like my new shiny notebook, and I was like, this

499
00:22:45,359 --> 00:22:48,840
Speaker 2: year's gonna be different. I'm gonna have for friends and

500
00:22:48,880 --> 00:22:52,000
Speaker 2: I'm gonna do good in school. Eventually that happened, but anyway,

501
00:22:52,080 --> 00:22:55,520
Speaker 2: so Rio was getting his back to school supplies because

502
00:22:55,520 --> 00:22:59,359
Speaker 2: he's officially a prekter, and we did, I tell you,

503
00:22:59,400 --> 00:23:02,280
Speaker 2: we got so we had never had a lottery like

504
00:23:02,280 --> 00:23:04,600
Speaker 2: a universal pre K in my town where I live

505
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Speaker 2: in Westchester, which was really lame because basically every other

506
00:23:08,600 --> 00:23:11,359
Speaker 2: town around us has it, or city or I don't know,

507
00:23:11,400 --> 00:23:16,159
Speaker 2: they separate these little areas of Westchester very confusingly. So

508
00:23:16,400 --> 00:23:18,840
Speaker 2: finally we found out like the I think I was

509
00:23:18,880 --> 00:23:20,840
Speaker 2: in labor. I was at the hospital when we got

510
00:23:20,840 --> 00:23:23,000
Speaker 2: the email saying that there's going to be a UPK

511
00:23:23,160 --> 00:23:25,760
Speaker 2: program and you can enter. And I was like, make

512
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Speaker 2: me a reminder on my calendar because I want to

513
00:23:28,119 --> 00:23:31,400
Speaker 2: remember this. And they were only they're only thirty two spots.

514
00:23:31,960 --> 00:23:35,920
Speaker 2: He got in and he started on Thursday, and it's

515
00:23:36,000 --> 00:23:38,040
Speaker 2: really close to where we live, and it's actually on

516
00:23:38,080 --> 00:23:41,720
Speaker 2: the way to his old daycare. So for and I'm

517
00:23:41,760 --> 00:23:43,720
Speaker 2: in this group chat now with a lot of parents,

518
00:23:43,880 --> 00:23:46,480
Speaker 2: and I'm finding a lot of parents whose kids had

519
00:23:46,480 --> 00:23:49,480
Speaker 2: been homeschooled or like just had been home are struggling

520
00:23:49,560 --> 00:23:52,040
Speaker 2: with the you know, going into school for the first

521
00:23:52,040 --> 00:23:54,720
Speaker 2: time and like the anxiety and all that. And I

522
00:23:54,720 --> 00:23:57,040
Speaker 2: feel like, for me, Rio has been doing really well

523
00:23:57,080 --> 00:24:00,399
Speaker 2: and I think just because I had for I think

524
00:24:00,440 --> 00:24:02,200
Speaker 2: the past month or two ever since I found he

525
00:24:02,240 --> 00:24:04,879
Speaker 2: got in were we would drive past it, i'd pull it.

526
00:24:05,080 --> 00:24:06,600
Speaker 2: I'd be like, this is where your door is going

527
00:24:06,640 --> 00:24:08,760
Speaker 2: to be. Let's go see if there's any decorations, let's

528
00:24:08,760 --> 00:24:11,360
Speaker 2: see the playgrounds built yet, because it's all brand new.

529
00:24:11,400 --> 00:24:16,400
Speaker 2: And and just seeing him, you know, get this huge backpack.

530
00:24:16,440 --> 00:24:18,760
Speaker 2: They asked for a full sized backpack. I don't know why.

531
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Speaker 2: It's like two thirds of his body.

532
00:24:23,240 --> 00:24:25,720
Speaker 1: What does he have a like a character or whatever

533
00:24:25,760 --> 00:24:26,080
Speaker 1: on it?

534
00:24:26,880 --> 00:24:31,120
Speaker 2: So he chose the He chose a neon frog like design.

535
00:24:31,680 --> 00:24:33,359
Speaker 2: I think he thinks they're dinosaurs. I didn't want to

536
00:24:33,359 --> 00:24:35,760
Speaker 2: tell him because it was really cute, but they're like

537
00:24:36,000 --> 00:24:38,040
Speaker 2: all the different color different frogs and stuff. And he

538
00:24:38,080 --> 00:24:39,919
Speaker 2: got the matching lunch box, and then he picked out

539
00:24:39,960 --> 00:24:43,720
Speaker 2: a little like Bento box for his food, and in

540
00:24:43,840 --> 00:24:46,879
Speaker 2: true mom of a toddler fashion, what to put in

541
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Speaker 2: it kept me up the night before and I was like,

542
00:24:49,280 --> 00:24:52,000
Speaker 2: if you don't relax about what to put in his lunchbox,

543
00:24:52,040 --> 00:24:56,240
Speaker 2: I just had him decide. And luckily my husband's mother

544
00:24:56,400 --> 00:24:59,720
Speaker 2: has been here the past few days helping and his

545
00:25:00,080 --> 00:25:03,080
Speaker 2: rio requested tostes, and I was like, my little.

546
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Speaker 1: Dominican pace, does he say it with an accent?

547
00:25:07,359 --> 00:25:09,880
Speaker 2: Oh no, no, no, he's he's just but it's really cute.

548
00:25:09,880 --> 00:25:13,040
Speaker 2: He's starting to finally learn something Spanish. But I was

549
00:25:13,080 --> 00:25:14,639
Speaker 2: just telling my mother in law this morning because she

550
00:25:14,680 --> 00:25:17,040
Speaker 2: was lamenting the fact that, you know, the kids don't

551
00:25:17,040 --> 00:25:20,560
Speaker 2: speak Spanish and her other nieces and nephews kids don't

552
00:25:20,600 --> 00:25:23,399
Speaker 2: speak Spanish. And I was like, listen, Myra, I promise

553
00:25:23,480 --> 00:25:28,720
Speaker 2: you in my own Spanish telo prometto. I'm a Rio

554
00:25:28,800 --> 00:25:33,840
Speaker 2: Francisco Santos. I can't have a son in the world

555
00:25:33,880 --> 00:25:37,840
Speaker 2: whose name is Rio Francisco Santos and he can't speak Spanish,

556
00:25:37,880 --> 00:25:40,200
Speaker 2: Like what am I doing? False advertising? You know, he's

557
00:25:40,240 --> 00:25:43,000
Speaker 2: going to be set up for failure, so he has

558
00:25:43,040 --> 00:25:46,280
Speaker 2: to learn. But yeah, he asked her his toes and

559
00:25:46,320 --> 00:25:48,280
Speaker 2: I made him a girl cheese and he chose that.

560
00:25:48,480 --> 00:25:48,960
Speaker 1: Okay.

561
00:25:49,200 --> 00:25:52,600
Speaker 2: He selected his own strawberries and he put them in

562
00:25:52,640 --> 00:25:55,240
Speaker 2: his little bento box and he had a great He

563
00:25:55,280 --> 00:25:59,280
Speaker 2: had a great first day. And I was like haggard

564
00:25:59,320 --> 00:26:02,560
Speaker 2: by the time to him off. And I only had

565
00:26:02,640 --> 00:26:05,480
Speaker 2: him home for a week in between, so for the

566
00:26:05,600 --> 00:26:10,520
Speaker 2: parents would look like if your camp or your your school,

567
00:26:10,640 --> 00:26:12,680
Speaker 2: like whatever you had your kids in this summer, if

568
00:26:12,680 --> 00:26:15,560
Speaker 2: there was a gap between that in real school. God

569
00:26:15,600 --> 00:26:19,440
Speaker 2: bless you. I toast to you this entire care off

570
00:26:19,520 --> 00:26:22,520
Speaker 2: of French press. This is for us, okay, because we

571
00:26:22,600 --> 00:26:24,040
Speaker 2: did it, no question.

572
00:26:24,080 --> 00:26:26,679
Speaker 1: The financial question as a result of him getting so

573
00:26:26,880 --> 00:26:30,919
Speaker 1: universal pre K is something that's been into it for

574
00:26:30,960 --> 00:26:32,439
Speaker 1: a long time. It means the kids get to go

575
00:26:32,480 --> 00:26:35,520
Speaker 1: to school for free, basically because they consider pre K

576
00:26:35,640 --> 00:26:38,360
Speaker 1: part of public school, which is free. So how much

577
00:26:38,400 --> 00:26:39,920
Speaker 1: are you saving as a result, Like what were you

578
00:26:39,960 --> 00:26:41,760
Speaker 1: paying for daycare? And for how much are you saving?

579
00:26:42,480 --> 00:26:44,560
Speaker 2: Oh? My god, thank you for asking me, because I

580
00:26:44,640 --> 00:26:48,119
Speaker 2: just wanted to. Oh, I feel so good. I was

581
00:26:48,200 --> 00:26:54,120
Speaker 2: paying two thousand and fifty five dollars for yes, a month,

582
00:26:54,280 --> 00:26:57,080
Speaker 2: for five day a week, all day daycare, and what's

583
00:26:57,080 --> 00:26:59,920
Speaker 2: all day time time from I would drop him off

584
00:27:00,080 --> 00:27:01,760
Speaker 2: like nine and I pick him up at four thirty

585
00:27:01,840 --> 00:27:05,080
Speaker 2: or five okay, okay, so like ninety five and yeah,

586
00:27:05,119 --> 00:27:08,760
Speaker 2: so UPK it is free. This is true, but the

587
00:27:08,920 --> 00:27:12,320
Speaker 2: catches they have very limited hours, so it's only from

588
00:27:12,400 --> 00:27:15,480
Speaker 2: nine am to two pm, which is a very short

589
00:27:15,560 --> 00:27:18,800
Speaker 2: day and for most working Americans, like, nah, you can't,

590
00:27:18,840 --> 00:27:21,320
Speaker 2: you can't do that. Not only that, but I live

591
00:27:21,400 --> 00:27:24,280
Speaker 2: in a I live about forty minutes outside of Manhattan

592
00:27:24,320 --> 00:27:26,919
Speaker 2: where a lot of parents who live here work for

593
00:27:26,960 --> 00:27:28,760
Speaker 2: the proximity to the city, but you have to get

594
00:27:28,760 --> 00:27:31,159
Speaker 2: on a train, and so my husband's commutes like an

595
00:27:31,160 --> 00:27:34,440
Speaker 2: hour and fifteen minutes. So nine am drop off, we'll

596
00:27:34,440 --> 00:27:36,640
Speaker 2: get him to the office at ten thirty. Like there's

597
00:27:36,720 --> 00:27:38,320
Speaker 2: just for a lot of parents that is not going

598
00:27:38,400 --> 00:27:40,560
Speaker 2: to work. So for the low, low price of five

599
00:27:40,680 --> 00:27:44,280
Speaker 2: hundred dollars, we can pay for a little bit of time,

600
00:27:44,359 --> 00:27:46,440
Speaker 2: like to drop him off early and pick him up late,

601
00:27:46,480 --> 00:27:49,480
Speaker 2: so at four thirty, so we're still saving significantly.

602
00:27:49,520 --> 00:27:50,840
Speaker 1: So that's five hundred dollars for the month.

603
00:27:51,400 --> 00:27:54,840
Speaker 2: For the month, Oh that's great, fifteen hundred. Yeah, and

604
00:27:54,840 --> 00:27:57,240
Speaker 2: not only that, but I didn't realize what the benefit

605
00:27:57,359 --> 00:27:59,080
Speaker 2: is is one of the biggest things for me that's

606
00:27:59,080 --> 00:28:01,879
Speaker 2: become a benefit is that he's in a class with

607
00:28:01,960 --> 00:28:04,399
Speaker 2: the kids. He's going to go to kindergarten. I love that,

608
00:28:04,760 --> 00:28:07,040
Speaker 2: and then first grade and then second grade. They're all

609
00:28:07,040 --> 00:28:10,359
Speaker 2: a little same school district. Yes for real, though with

610
00:28:10,440 --> 00:28:12,320
Speaker 2: one of the moms made a Facebook group and when

611
00:28:12,359 --> 00:28:14,800
Speaker 2: I looked at it and it said the class of

612
00:28:14,840 --> 00:28:15,800
Speaker 2: twenty thirty.

613
00:28:15,480 --> 00:28:21,119
Speaker 1: Sevens Oh my god, my heart dropped, Oh my god.

614
00:28:21,480 --> 00:28:24,280
Speaker 2: But I never had the benefit. And I don't know

615
00:28:24,280 --> 00:28:26,360
Speaker 2: where where our lives will take us. Who knows if

616
00:28:26,359 --> 00:28:29,840
Speaker 2: he'll graduate from the school district. But and I was

617
00:28:29,840 --> 00:28:31,560
Speaker 2: talking to my mom about this, because my mom was

618
00:28:31,560 --> 00:28:34,800
Speaker 2: a single mom of four kids for a long time,

619
00:28:35,000 --> 00:28:37,080
Speaker 2: and you know, one of her biggest regrets, she said,

620
00:28:37,119 --> 00:28:39,040
Speaker 2: is that she wasn't able to be as involved with

621
00:28:39,120 --> 00:28:43,680
Speaker 2: our school lives because she was surviving. And I don't

622
00:28:43,720 --> 00:28:45,840
Speaker 2: remember ever missing that. Like I would see the other

623
00:28:45,840 --> 00:28:48,040
Speaker 2: moms who are more involved and just be like, Okay,

624
00:28:48,280 --> 00:28:52,840
Speaker 2: nice cupcakes, thank you, miss Jones. But she's like, because

625
00:28:52,840 --> 00:28:55,320
Speaker 2: I was starting to kind of, you know, think, oh,

626
00:28:55,360 --> 00:28:57,800
Speaker 2: all these like back to school things and like the parents'

627
00:28:57,880 --> 00:29:01,400
Speaker 2: nights and the mom group on Facebook, and she says, Mandy,

628
00:29:01,800 --> 00:29:03,920
Speaker 2: you're gonna regret it if you don't invest and get

629
00:29:03,920 --> 00:29:06,240
Speaker 2: to know. And I'm so glad that she and get

630
00:29:06,280 --> 00:29:08,320
Speaker 2: to know the parents and the teachers and stuff and

631
00:29:08,320 --> 00:29:10,240
Speaker 2: be really involved because you have the privilege of being

632
00:29:10,240 --> 00:29:15,240
Speaker 2: more involved than I did. And it's really true, it's

633
00:29:15,280 --> 00:29:17,920
Speaker 2: really true. So I feel not only are we saving

634
00:29:17,960 --> 00:29:19,880
Speaker 2: the money, but it just it feels good and it

635
00:29:19,920 --> 00:29:23,040
Speaker 2: feels like this shouldn't be special in twenty twenty three

636
00:29:23,440 --> 00:29:28,200
Speaker 2: to have your kids in public preschool, Like it just

637
00:29:28,560 --> 00:29:31,400
Speaker 2: makes so much sense, Like why don't we and why

638
00:29:31,720 --> 00:29:34,640
Speaker 2: do we still have so many places where UPK is

639
00:29:34,680 --> 00:29:37,960
Speaker 2: a special you know, announcement, a special treat or doesn't

640
00:29:37,960 --> 00:29:43,320
Speaker 2: even exist. So we're just very grateful and any parents

641
00:29:43,320 --> 00:29:45,200
Speaker 2: who sent their kids off to school last week or

642
00:29:45,240 --> 00:29:48,719
Speaker 2: the week before or whenever, just bless we survived this summer.

643
00:29:49,760 --> 00:29:52,840
Speaker 1: You should seeing Carol, you know, she got Roman and

644
00:29:52,920 --> 00:29:56,760
Speaker 1: Mimi she was clicking her heels, honey because she was like,

645
00:29:56,880 --> 00:30:00,800
Speaker 1: oh my god, and like they're in the school. I

646
00:30:00,840 --> 00:30:02,080
Speaker 1: think the last year. That was the first time they

647
00:30:02,080 --> 00:30:03,280
Speaker 1: were in the same school, which.

648
00:30:03,080 --> 00:30:04,920
Speaker 2: Is Mimi's a what kindergarten?

649
00:30:05,000 --> 00:30:07,960
Speaker 1: Now no, she's going to first grade? No no, wait, yeah,

650
00:30:08,000 --> 00:30:09,960
Speaker 1: she's going to first grade. She was in kindergarten last year.

651
00:30:10,280 --> 00:30:12,120
Speaker 1: Now a million is really smart, Like you know, roma

652
00:30:12,160 --> 00:30:13,520
Speaker 1: be teaching her all the things she needs to know.

653
00:30:13,640 --> 00:30:16,600
Speaker 1: Forget her mama, that's his baby. And so Carol said,

654
00:30:16,600 --> 00:30:17,840
Speaker 1: like you know, if I mean y'all heard me talking

655
00:30:17,840 --> 00:30:19,320
Speaker 1: about Roman and that a million a Millia is pretty

656
00:30:19,360 --> 00:30:22,040
Speaker 1: like girl, I got I got it together. I'm smart,

657
00:30:22,240 --> 00:30:25,920
Speaker 1: but and Roman can be a little bit timid, although

658
00:30:25,960 --> 00:30:28,920
Speaker 1: he's obviously super smart. She said that like one time

659
00:30:28,920 --> 00:30:30,200
Speaker 1: in the middle of the night, she like woke her up.

660
00:30:30,240 --> 00:30:33,120
Speaker 1: It's like mommy, and like right before school, She's like what.

661
00:30:33,240 --> 00:30:35,240
Speaker 1: She's like, I'm scared about school. She's like, it's the

662
00:30:35,240 --> 00:30:36,880
Speaker 1: same school you always go to. She said, yeah, but

663
00:30:37,120 --> 00:30:38,880
Speaker 1: I'm going to first grade and it's going to be

664
00:30:38,920 --> 00:30:43,840
Speaker 1: really hard. Oh I know, not dared devil. Amelia not

665
00:30:44,320 --> 00:30:45,600
Speaker 1: let me give you my If you tell a million,

666
00:30:45,600 --> 00:30:47,360
Speaker 1: I'm gonna spank your booty. She towed it up, like

667
00:30:47,480 --> 00:30:50,959
Speaker 1: do it as a side of a kid that never

668
00:30:51,000 --> 00:30:54,800
Speaker 1: gets spanked, Like not that Amelia not mem talk to

669
00:30:54,840 --> 00:30:57,520
Speaker 1: adults like she's grown and some. But I love what

670
00:30:57,640 --> 00:31:01,040
Speaker 1: Carol told her. She said, Amelia, who won the spelling

671
00:31:01,080 --> 00:31:04,000
Speaker 1: bee in your school? In your class? She's like I did.

672
00:31:04,280 --> 00:31:06,440
Speaker 1: She's said, who's the best reader in your Custo Mills

673
00:31:06,480 --> 00:31:08,040
Speaker 1: are really good reader. She's been reading since she was three.

674
00:31:08,080 --> 00:31:11,760
Speaker 1: Because Roman, she's like I am, And she was like,

675
00:31:11,800 --> 00:31:13,880
Speaker 1: don't you know everything that Roman knows? She said, I do.

676
00:31:13,960 --> 00:31:16,680
Speaker 1: And he's like, She's like, he's in third grade. Do

677
00:31:16,760 --> 00:31:18,600
Speaker 1: you think third grade is harder than first grade? She's

678
00:31:18,640 --> 00:31:20,040
Speaker 1: like no, She's like, so if you know everything that

679
00:31:20,160 --> 00:31:22,680
Speaker 1: Roman knows and you're going to be in first grade,

680
00:31:22,680 --> 00:31:24,720
Speaker 1: then you're going to do just fine. And I was like, oh,

681
00:31:24,840 --> 00:31:26,280
Speaker 1: look at you, a good parodo. She was like, now

682
00:31:26,360 --> 00:31:30,120
Speaker 1: go back to sleep. But I just thought that that

683
00:31:30,200 --> 00:31:32,600
Speaker 1: was like, oh, well, all your kiddo's going off to school,

684
00:31:33,200 --> 00:31:35,280
Speaker 1: you know, like, don't forget to give them a little encouragement,

685
00:31:35,280 --> 00:31:39,080
Speaker 1: because even the little tough ones like maybe sometimes need

686
00:31:39,160 --> 00:31:41,880
Speaker 1: a little encouragement. But that's a teacher. Honestly, I loved

687
00:31:41,920 --> 00:31:44,480
Speaker 1: back to school even though so I was like, oh God,

688
00:31:44,760 --> 00:31:46,160
Speaker 1: back to school. But then I see all love my

689
00:31:46,160 --> 00:31:48,640
Speaker 1: little babies trucking on in and what I do love,

690
00:31:48,720 --> 00:31:50,360
Speaker 1: which I'm glad they're doing more of. It seems like

691
00:31:50,360 --> 00:31:52,640
Speaker 1: in school. Is that the same thing happens at their

692
00:31:52,680 --> 00:31:55,480
Speaker 1: school is that you're in the same class and their

693
00:31:55,640 --> 00:31:57,760
Speaker 1: school goes up to eighth grade, so they get to

694
00:31:57,760 --> 00:32:00,600
Speaker 1: stay in their cohort from pre k all the way

695
00:32:00,680 --> 00:32:03,320
Speaker 1: up to eighth grade. To imagine. Yeah, so like that's

696
00:32:03,360 --> 00:32:05,120
Speaker 1: great for a kid like Roman. Who doesn't make friends

697
00:32:05,160 --> 00:32:07,920
Speaker 1: easily because he's so shy. He wasn't scared this year

698
00:32:07,960 --> 00:32:10,239
Speaker 1: because he's like this. Kids from last year, the same

699
00:32:10,280 --> 00:32:14,400
Speaker 1: ones I didn't talk to, they're back, you know, and

700
00:32:14,440 --> 00:32:16,920
Speaker 1: so like I love that. Like I think cohort learning

701
00:32:17,040 --> 00:32:19,480
Speaker 1: is is great because it allows kids who need a

702
00:32:19,480 --> 00:32:23,240
Speaker 1: little more time to like navigate socially. It gives them

703
00:32:23,280 --> 00:32:25,080
Speaker 1: that opportunity. So I love that.

704
00:32:25,760 --> 00:32:29,280
Speaker 2: As a fellow Roman. As a child, that's great. Because

705
00:32:29,320 --> 00:32:31,800
Speaker 2: I moved school so much. It was it was, it

706
00:32:31,840 --> 00:32:35,520
Speaker 2: was not happening for me. So oh well that was

707
00:32:35,560 --> 00:32:37,120
Speaker 2: I'm glad that you had a good trip. We back

708
00:32:37,160 --> 00:32:39,440
Speaker 2: to school, We back to Brown ambition. We are celebrating

709
00:32:39,520 --> 00:32:40,320
Speaker 2: eight years.

710
00:32:40,480 --> 00:32:44,280
Speaker 1: Go to girl, Yes we are you taking me? I

711
00:32:44,360 --> 00:32:45,560
Speaker 1: know we have to plan something.

712
00:32:45,920 --> 00:32:47,840
Speaker 2: I think we had something on the calendar for Friday.

713
00:32:47,920 --> 00:32:48,280
Speaker 1: I saw that.

714
00:32:48,320 --> 00:32:49,880
Speaker 2: I actually do I do hold.

715
00:32:49,680 --> 00:32:51,640
Speaker 1: For I know we have a whole I'm gonna have

716
00:32:51,640 --> 00:32:52,520
Speaker 1: to a range track on that.

717
00:32:53,800 --> 00:32:59,040
Speaker 2: So every year has the last eight years meant.

718
00:32:58,960 --> 00:33:01,720
Speaker 1: Not to beside? I feel like when we do, let's

719
00:33:01,800 --> 00:33:04,680
Speaker 1: let's have given let's do the sushi like what I

720
00:33:04,800 --> 00:33:08,240
Speaker 1: give just kidding, Let's do a sushi class has like

721
00:33:08,280 --> 00:33:09,720
Speaker 1: a fun like, yeah, let's make that.

722
00:33:09,800 --> 00:33:12,680
Speaker 2: I would love that, love it. But eight years oh

723
00:33:12,720 --> 00:33:14,240
Speaker 2: my goodness, I.

724
00:33:14,320 --> 00:33:16,200
Speaker 1: Know we have a middle schooler. We have a broad

725
00:33:16,240 --> 00:33:19,480
Speaker 1: and missing middle schooler, Cydebar. Before we jump into break Girl,

726
00:33:19,760 --> 00:33:22,880
Speaker 1: I heard you had Drake on or whatever.

727
00:33:24,520 --> 00:33:27,360
Speaker 2: Listen when my little she told my little my little

728
00:33:27,360 --> 00:33:29,000
Speaker 2: brother Alex was a guest on the show. And I

729
00:33:29,040 --> 00:33:32,160
Speaker 2: actually listened back to that episode and I enjoyed it. Yeah,

730
00:33:32,240 --> 00:33:35,120
Speaker 2: it was during it because I had to listen to

731
00:33:35,200 --> 00:33:39,080
Speaker 2: him a lot, and I had to like, it was

732
00:33:39,280 --> 00:33:41,800
Speaker 2: very strange interviewing my brother, But once I got through

733
00:33:41,840 --> 00:33:43,680
Speaker 2: the weirdness of it, it was actually great. I think

734
00:33:43,720 --> 00:33:47,480
Speaker 2: he's just a fantastic person, you know, independent of being

735
00:33:47,960 --> 00:33:51,200
Speaker 2: my flesh and blood. But yes, see for yourself if

736
00:33:51,240 --> 00:33:53,440
Speaker 2: you think he looks like me me.

737
00:33:53,720 --> 00:33:56,840
Speaker 1: Literally, I mean he doesn't like you, I be but literally, Like,

738
00:33:57,000 --> 00:33:58,800
Speaker 1: it was so funny to read the comments on our ig.

739
00:33:59,160 --> 00:34:00,520
Speaker 1: People were like girl for I mean, I was like,

740
00:34:00,800 --> 00:34:04,320
Speaker 1: they got break because you know, I been calling Hi

741
00:34:04,360 --> 00:34:06,560
Speaker 1: drink for the longest and y'all are like, Tiffany, you

742
00:34:07,240 --> 00:34:09,440
Speaker 1: I told you grow out a totally Listen.

743
00:34:09,719 --> 00:34:13,440
Speaker 2: She wasn't lying, Okay, she wasn't lying, and like Drake,

744
00:34:13,480 --> 00:34:15,800
Speaker 2: he has a lot going on and he is creative

745
00:34:15,960 --> 00:34:18,719
Speaker 2: and fantastic. I was thinking about him and I when

746
00:34:18,719 --> 00:34:22,120
Speaker 2: you were talking about Roman and me. I can't say

747
00:34:22,200 --> 00:34:24,760
Speaker 2: I was as sweet to my little brother as Romans

748
00:34:24,760 --> 00:34:28,960
Speaker 2: seems to be to me me. But however, that sibling,

749
00:34:29,120 --> 00:34:32,960
Speaker 2: that sibling bond and competitiveness and is just amazing. So

750
00:34:33,719 --> 00:34:37,399
Speaker 2: definitely check out that episode. But let's take a quick break,

751
00:34:37,760 --> 00:34:40,160
Speaker 2: take a little deep breath of woosa. Check on your

752
00:34:40,239 --> 00:34:42,279
Speaker 2: Uber Eats order, make sure they got your order right

753
00:34:42,320 --> 00:34:47,280
Speaker 2: and right back ba.

754
00:34:49,560 --> 00:34:53,719
Speaker 1: And we're bad and we're black and brown and all

755
00:34:53,719 --> 00:34:56,920
Speaker 1: the things we have not done brown break, brown, Bruce

756
00:34:57,000 --> 00:34:59,080
Speaker 1: in a such a long.

757
00:34:58,920 --> 00:35:00,200
Speaker 2: Time, such a long time time.

758
00:35:00,239 --> 00:35:03,120
Speaker 1: I'm ready though, right I can't eat, I can't barely

759
00:35:03,120 --> 00:35:09,040
Speaker 1: remember a song. And now it's time to boost up

760
00:35:09,120 --> 00:35:12,719
Speaker 1: break or boost up, break up, boost up break? Are

761
00:35:12,760 --> 00:35:19,160
Speaker 1: you gonna boost? Are you gonna break? What you're gonna do?

762
00:35:19,239 --> 00:35:25,080
Speaker 1: What you gonna take? I know, with my limited memory,

763
00:35:25,400 --> 00:35:28,359
Speaker 1: you know, sidebarb, I think I might have ADHD.

764
00:35:29,560 --> 00:35:31,879
Speaker 2: That was very in now, yeah it is.

765
00:35:32,120 --> 00:35:34,319
Speaker 1: But I was thinking to myself like I was like

766
00:35:34,360 --> 00:35:37,359
Speaker 1: reading you know some symptoms because you know WebMD, but

767
00:35:37,480 --> 00:35:40,080
Speaker 1: honestly because someone had asked me that I was talking to,

768
00:35:40,160 --> 00:35:43,400
Speaker 1: like the psychologist whatever. She was one of my mentees

769
00:35:43,400 --> 00:35:47,320
Speaker 1: at my mentor Tiffany like my dot on my business mentorship,

770
00:35:47,560 --> 00:35:48,840
Speaker 1: and she had come out to see me and I

771
00:35:48,960 --> 00:35:51,200
Speaker 1: was talking, you know me, I'd be talking and then

772
00:35:51,239 --> 00:35:52,920
Speaker 1: my brain goes this way, and then I would be like,

773
00:35:53,000 --> 00:35:54,680
Speaker 1: right cause I'm Friday. I'm like, oh, that's right. You

774
00:35:54,680 --> 00:35:56,799
Speaker 1: weren't in my head think what I was thinking. And

775
00:35:56,880 --> 00:35:58,840
Speaker 1: she was like, have you ever been diagnosed for ADAH?

776
00:35:59,000 --> 00:36:01,279
Speaker 1: She's like, I'm not diagnosed you, but there are some

777
00:36:01,360 --> 00:36:06,799
Speaker 1: things here And I was like, no, but you know what,

778
00:36:07,000 --> 00:36:10,480
Speaker 1: that wouldn't be too crazy. And she was like, I said,

779
00:36:10,520 --> 00:36:12,920
Speaker 1: you know, if it is, it's that good ADHD because

780
00:36:12,920 --> 00:36:15,439
Speaker 1: it got me. She was like, truthfully, Tiffany, in women,

781
00:36:15,560 --> 00:36:19,680
Speaker 1: especially Black women, it presents you know, like, you know,

782
00:36:19,719 --> 00:36:21,920
Speaker 1: not in this way that drags you down, you know,

783
00:36:22,080 --> 00:36:23,880
Speaker 1: like to your point you know you've been able to

784
00:36:24,360 --> 00:36:27,440
Speaker 1: be creative and motivated and all this other stuff. But

785
00:36:27,480 --> 00:36:29,960
Speaker 1: I told her, my memory is like I can either

786
00:36:30,000 --> 00:36:32,799
Speaker 1: remember like the most minute random detail or like what

787
00:36:32,840 --> 00:36:34,480
Speaker 1: was her name that she just told me like five

788
00:36:34,480 --> 00:36:37,279
Speaker 1: minutes ago, and so anyway, I had asked doctor Green

789
00:36:37,320 --> 00:36:39,600
Speaker 1: if I should get tested for ADHD. I mean, she

790
00:36:39,760 --> 00:36:42,239
Speaker 1: was like, I mean, certainly you can, you know. She's like,

791
00:36:42,280 --> 00:36:43,520
Speaker 1: as long as you're not gonna use it as a

792
00:36:43,520 --> 00:36:45,520
Speaker 1: thing to make yourself feel bad about. I'm like, nah,

793
00:36:45,680 --> 00:36:48,040
Speaker 1: but it might be helpful to say, oh, if I

794
00:36:48,040 --> 00:36:50,840
Speaker 1: find out I do have ADHD, here are some tools

795
00:36:50,880 --> 00:36:52,839
Speaker 1: to help you remember certain things or when I'm having

796
00:36:52,840 --> 00:36:55,640
Speaker 1: a hard time pushing through it. I think it just

797
00:36:55,800 --> 00:36:58,080
Speaker 1: might help. So as an adult, it's harder to get

798
00:36:58,120 --> 00:37:00,840
Speaker 1: like classified or whatever. So but I'm gonna work with

799
00:37:00,880 --> 00:37:03,960
Speaker 1: my therapists to like learn like what are the how

800
00:37:04,000 --> 00:37:06,880
Speaker 1: do I go about figuring out if I do? And

801
00:37:06,920 --> 00:37:09,359
Speaker 1: then if I am, what are some tools and things

802
00:37:09,440 --> 00:37:11,000
Speaker 1: I can use to help me with the parts that

803
00:37:11,040 --> 00:37:11,880
Speaker 1: I do struggle with?

804
00:37:11,960 --> 00:37:14,799
Speaker 2: You know? So yeah, I just want to say you're yeah,

805
00:37:14,880 --> 00:37:16,880
Speaker 2: your therapist wouldn't diagnose you, though it has to be

806
00:37:16,960 --> 00:37:18,080
Speaker 2: a psychologist.

807
00:37:18,200 --> 00:37:19,880
Speaker 1: I believe so. But doctor Green was like, I can

808
00:37:19,880 --> 00:37:21,560
Speaker 1: give you know, I can connect you if you She's like,

809
00:37:21,560 --> 00:37:23,480
Speaker 1: if you really want to know, certainly, you know, I

810
00:37:23,480 --> 00:37:25,239
Speaker 1: can connect you. Her concern was like, are you trying

811
00:37:25,280 --> 00:37:28,160
Speaker 1: to find out because you're feeling bad about something. I'm like, no, honestly,

812
00:37:28,160 --> 00:37:31,080
Speaker 1: I don't, like I would want to know because it's like, oh,

813
00:37:31,160 --> 00:37:33,320
Speaker 1: so the fact that I have a hard time remembering

814
00:37:33,360 --> 00:37:37,040
Speaker 1: stuff is that and that here's a tool that people

815
00:37:37,239 --> 00:37:38,960
Speaker 1: use to do so or whatever. I'm not looking to

816
00:37:38,960 --> 00:37:41,040
Speaker 1: take any medication or anything like that. I'm like, girl,

817
00:37:41,080 --> 00:37:44,560
Speaker 1: we're good, but I'm just curious because that would be helpful. Like, oh,

818
00:37:44,640 --> 00:37:46,839
Speaker 1: that's why, because my.

819
00:37:46,960 --> 00:37:49,840
Speaker 2: Lot to be flippant about it, ADHD is like really,

820
00:37:50,040 --> 00:37:53,680
Speaker 2: you know, like gaining like more awareness. And you're maybe

821
00:37:53,680 --> 00:37:56,359
Speaker 2: the third adult friend I've had who I had two

822
00:37:56,360 --> 00:37:58,799
Speaker 2: that have been diagnosed, and you're the third to like

823
00:37:58,800 --> 00:37:59,279
Speaker 2: bring it up.

824
00:37:59,320 --> 00:38:02,040
Speaker 1: But yeah, yeah, but I know for some people, I mean,

825
00:38:02,080 --> 00:38:04,239
Speaker 1: I know that there are components that are really hard.

826
00:38:04,239 --> 00:38:06,759
Speaker 1: Some people can't navigate, some people can't day to day

827
00:38:06,840 --> 00:38:09,600
Speaker 1: life is too hard. But she said that it presents

828
00:38:10,040 --> 00:38:12,680
Speaker 1: very differently in girls and women. She said, which is

829
00:38:13,080 --> 00:38:16,160
Speaker 1: likely why you might not have ever been because you

830
00:38:16,160 --> 00:38:20,520
Speaker 1: were so high functioning, you know, And so yeah, like

831
00:38:20,600 --> 00:38:22,520
Speaker 1: if I do, then I'm like, oh, okay, you know,

832
00:38:22,960 --> 00:38:24,640
Speaker 1: like what are you know, what are the things I

833
00:38:24,680 --> 00:38:27,479
Speaker 1: can do to to help me with the parts because

834
00:38:27,480 --> 00:38:30,360
Speaker 1: I remember distinctly. I remember I can literally see myself

835
00:38:30,640 --> 00:38:33,160
Speaker 1: sitting in like it was like my math class. I

836
00:38:33,200 --> 00:38:35,640
Speaker 1: think I was like either middle school or high school.

837
00:38:35,840 --> 00:38:38,760
Speaker 1: And I forgot something. And I remember thinking to myself

838
00:38:39,280 --> 00:38:41,360
Speaker 1: because we had just found out that our math teacher

839
00:38:41,440 --> 00:38:43,600
Speaker 1: was diagnosed with dementia, even though she was very young.

840
00:38:43,840 --> 00:38:45,080
Speaker 1: I mean I didn't at the time. I didn't think

841
00:38:45,080 --> 00:38:46,799
Speaker 1: she was only forty. But at the time, you know,

842
00:38:46,880 --> 00:38:48,680
Speaker 1: forty in high school is like girl, you hold e

843
00:38:48,760 --> 00:38:50,719
Speaker 1: the way. So when the people, the girls said that

844
00:38:50,760 --> 00:38:52,640
Speaker 1: she I was like, Okay, well she forty ain't got

845
00:38:52,640 --> 00:38:59,080
Speaker 1: about right. They're like, no, girl, no. And I remember thinking, well,

846
00:38:59,160 --> 00:39:02,279
Speaker 1: one of the reasons is because she was very forgetful.

847
00:39:02,360 --> 00:39:04,359
Speaker 1: She would take attendance like three or four times doing

848
00:39:04,360 --> 00:39:06,399
Speaker 1: out the class. We thought it was silly. She would

849
00:39:06,440 --> 00:39:09,120
Speaker 1: forget names even though you know, so I just and

850
00:39:09,160 --> 00:39:13,960
Speaker 1: I remember thinking, well, that's I forget those things. But

851
00:39:14,160 --> 00:39:17,880
Speaker 1: I don't have dementia because I'm young. But I remember thinking, Tiffany,

852
00:39:18,520 --> 00:39:21,600
Speaker 1: I need you to remember that when you get old

853
00:39:21,800 --> 00:39:24,880
Speaker 1: and you still have a bad memory, it's not dementia.

854
00:39:25,040 --> 00:39:28,680
Speaker 1: It's just you. Like I remember this distinctly, like trying

855
00:39:28,680 --> 00:39:30,600
Speaker 1: to burn that into my brain. So I wasn't like,

856
00:39:30,719 --> 00:39:32,879
Speaker 1: oh my gosh, it's like so yeah. When I'm eighty

857
00:39:32,920 --> 00:39:34,759
Speaker 1: years old and I'm like, what's he saying? Like you

858
00:39:34,840 --> 00:39:41,480
Speaker 1: know she's old, I'm like, now I've been forgot stop anyway,

859
00:39:42,680 --> 00:39:43,040
Speaker 1: go ahead.

860
00:39:43,040 --> 00:39:44,880
Speaker 2: I used to watch Oprah way too young. I'd be

861
00:39:44,920 --> 00:39:47,240
Speaker 2: like looking at forty year old fifty year old women's

862
00:39:47,239 --> 00:39:54,200
Speaker 2: problems and thinking, I have oh, okay, brown, boots, Brown, is.

863
00:39:54,120 --> 00:39:55,960
Speaker 1: You gonna boost? You're gonna break mandra.

864
00:39:56,360 --> 00:39:58,440
Speaker 2: I am going to do a huge boost because I

865
00:39:58,480 --> 00:40:01,200
Speaker 2: am just so damn proud of one of my oldest friends.

866
00:40:01,440 --> 00:40:04,800
Speaker 2: Her name is Julie Lone, and she is a children's

867
00:40:04,800 --> 00:40:08,480
Speaker 2: book author. On top of being you get it's so

868
00:40:08,600 --> 00:40:13,040
Speaker 2: good So Julie, she works nine to five for Disney

869
00:40:13,080 --> 00:40:15,279
Speaker 2: actually in their books division, and she's been publishing for

870
00:40:15,360 --> 00:40:17,360
Speaker 2: a long time. She and I went to journalism school

871
00:40:17,400 --> 00:40:20,439
Speaker 2: together and used to work on the newspaper together. And

872
00:40:20,600 --> 00:40:24,240
Speaker 2: she just published a children's book that's so so damn

873
00:40:24,800 --> 00:40:27,719
Speaker 2: special and adorable and beautiful. It's called The Truth about

874
00:40:27,800 --> 00:40:31,440
Speaker 2: Dragons and it's the perfect red I would say for

875
00:40:31,560 --> 00:40:34,759
Speaker 2: like Toddler's An Above and the beautiful thing about it

876
00:40:34,800 --> 00:40:37,920
Speaker 2: is Julia is Chinese, her husband is white American. Well,

877
00:40:37,920 --> 00:40:42,480
Speaker 2: she's Chinese American. Her husban's white, and he's not a

878
00:40:42,560 --> 00:40:48,960
Speaker 2: cheese he's white. He's white and white Americans like what

879
00:40:49,080 --> 00:40:53,439
Speaker 2: I ordered from Beach for her. I don't know. He's

880
00:40:53,480 --> 00:40:57,480
Speaker 2: Caucasian anyway. And they have a three year old and

881
00:40:57,520 --> 00:41:00,520
Speaker 2: an eight month old. And it was during the pandemic

882
00:41:00,600 --> 00:41:03,319
Speaker 2: when she was, you know, like a new mom, just

883
00:41:03,360 --> 00:41:06,840
Speaker 2: like I was. And her son, Kieran is yeah, he

884
00:41:06,880 --> 00:41:10,000
Speaker 2: has dual heritages, and so she wrote the book The

885
00:41:10,040 --> 00:41:13,040
Speaker 2: Truth about Dragons and the stories about two different versions

886
00:41:13,040 --> 00:41:15,800
Speaker 2: of what a dragon is told through the points of

887
00:41:15,880 --> 00:41:19,040
Speaker 2: view of his grandmother's So the grandmother from the Chinese

888
00:41:19,080 --> 00:41:22,160
Speaker 2: side and the grandmother from the white American cheese side.

889
00:41:22,239 --> 00:41:25,960
Speaker 1: And where could the girls get it?

890
00:41:26,920 --> 00:41:30,200
Speaker 2: Everywhere? I think it's published with Macmillan. So yeah, any

891
00:41:30,200 --> 00:41:34,880
Speaker 2: bookstore online we can post a link to, like a

892
00:41:34,920 --> 00:41:37,520
Speaker 2: good a good bookstore for y'all to buy from. But

893
00:41:37,760 --> 00:41:40,000
Speaker 2: Truth about Dragons is the book. And I'm just so

894
00:41:40,080 --> 00:41:43,560
Speaker 2: proud of Julie because, like me, you know, she's just

895
00:41:43,560 --> 00:41:45,239
Speaker 2: one of those friends who've gotten so much closer since

896
00:41:45,280 --> 00:41:47,760
Speaker 2: having kids. And also I got to see this book

897
00:41:47,760 --> 00:41:49,760
Speaker 2: when it was you know, she just got the pages

898
00:41:49,800 --> 00:41:53,760
Speaker 2: back from the illustrator. And she's just always been really

899
00:41:53,960 --> 00:41:56,600
Speaker 2: focused on her art, even as she was working nine

900
00:41:56,600 --> 00:42:01,640
Speaker 2: to five. So oh does she know the writing? Okay, yeah, no,

901
00:42:01,719 --> 00:42:04,359
Speaker 2: she didn't draw it, but the writing. And I was

902
00:42:04,520 --> 00:42:08,480
Speaker 2: at her book launch it's really adorable book launch in

903
00:42:08,560 --> 00:42:11,279
Speaker 2: her where she lives in Connecticut, this past weekend. And

904
00:42:11,320 --> 00:42:15,160
Speaker 2: there's just something really special about being in this age

905
00:42:15,160 --> 00:42:17,520
Speaker 2: that we're at, like with my friends and friends that

906
00:42:17,560 --> 00:42:20,520
Speaker 2: I knew, you know, almost two decades ago in college,

907
00:42:21,719 --> 00:42:25,279
Speaker 2: but getting to see us reap what we've sown, you know,

908
00:42:25,360 --> 00:42:28,000
Speaker 2: like to sit in the audience and see one of

909
00:42:28,080 --> 00:42:30,960
Speaker 2: my beloved friends who twenty years ago is just you know,

910
00:42:31,880 --> 00:42:34,680
Speaker 2: dreaming about being an author, and getting her to like

911
00:42:34,840 --> 00:42:37,120
Speaker 2: release her children's book and it's not even her first,

912
00:42:37,120 --> 00:42:39,040
Speaker 2: but it just made me so warm and fuzzy inside.

913
00:42:39,080 --> 00:42:41,160
Speaker 2: It's really fun to get to see your friends live

914
00:42:41,200 --> 00:42:42,439
Speaker 2: their dreams in real time.

915
00:42:42,520 --> 00:42:44,719
Speaker 1: So I'm looking at this now, like I see I'm like,

916
00:42:44,760 --> 00:42:47,640
Speaker 1: oh my gosh, look all these amazing reviews. The illustrations

917
00:42:47,680 --> 00:42:53,160
Speaker 1: are just they're stunning, stunning, Oh my goodness, ah, this

918
00:42:53,320 --> 00:42:57,880
Speaker 1: is just like and honestly, yeah, this is this is

919
00:42:57,960 --> 00:43:01,840
Speaker 1: just great. Okay, So I love this, you know, you

920
00:43:01,880 --> 00:43:05,000
Speaker 1: know I love me illustration. So this is and it's

921
00:43:05,040 --> 00:43:08,080
Speaker 1: an editor's pick book for best book ages six to eight.

922
00:43:08,120 --> 00:43:10,160
Speaker 1: It got to be an editor's pick on the Zong,

923
00:43:10,480 --> 00:43:11,320
Speaker 1: so that's awesome.

924
00:43:11,840 --> 00:43:16,000
Speaker 2: It's doing really well. She's just brilliant and way too humble.

925
00:43:17,080 --> 00:43:19,800
Speaker 2: So I love to shout her out. And obviously, Cocoa

926
00:43:19,800 --> 00:43:23,880
Speaker 2: golf like girl, he won the US Open, congratulations a

927
00:43:24,120 --> 00:43:26,120
Speaker 2: tennis but I know it was fat.

928
00:43:26,160 --> 00:43:29,040
Speaker 1: Yes, okay, I guess I like to thank my haters.

929
00:43:29,080 --> 00:43:30,759
Speaker 1: I'll say, Coco, yes, gen Z.

930
00:43:31,360 --> 00:43:34,560
Speaker 2: Baby Snoop dogg. Girl like to save myself, think myself,

931
00:43:35,400 --> 00:43:36,279
Speaker 2: me myself and I.

932
00:43:36,440 --> 00:43:41,640
Speaker 1: She said, you thought this ain't Serena, Like, okay, no,

933
00:43:41,880 --> 00:43:44,839
Speaker 1: this arena, but you know Serena, y'all, y'all drag her

934
00:43:44,840 --> 00:43:46,799
Speaker 1: through the money. She tried her best to rise a buve.

935
00:43:46,880 --> 00:43:49,560
Speaker 1: Coco said, oh, we don't do that here. These young kids.

936
00:43:49,640 --> 00:43:51,600
Speaker 1: Is like, now, yo, you're gonna get your licked back

937
00:43:51,920 --> 00:43:52,399
Speaker 1: right back.

938
00:43:52,480 --> 00:43:57,040
Speaker 2: Yeah, yes, okay, what are you gonna do? Booster break.

939
00:43:57,160 --> 00:44:02,759
Speaker 1: I'm gonna be be because I've been feeling really like,

940
00:44:02,880 --> 00:44:04,360
Speaker 1: you know, ever since year old passed away, I just

941
00:44:04,400 --> 00:44:06,960
Speaker 1: said to myself that there's a big transition that I've

942
00:44:07,000 --> 00:44:09,560
Speaker 1: been wanting to have, and I just didn't. I've just

943
00:44:09,680 --> 00:44:12,560
Speaker 1: been in a weird space of like, I know that

944
00:44:12,640 --> 00:44:15,600
Speaker 1: I don't want to do what I've done before, but

945
00:44:15,680 --> 00:44:17,400
Speaker 1: I don't want to not do what some of the

946
00:44:17,400 --> 00:44:20,040
Speaker 1: things I've done. I'm talking about professionally, especially, so I've

947
00:44:20,080 --> 00:44:23,120
Speaker 1: made some adjustments to like, you know, like I y'all know,

948
00:44:23,160 --> 00:44:25,719
Speaker 1: I walk every day, take my naps, spend more time

949
00:44:25,760 --> 00:44:29,520
Speaker 1: with family and friends. But professionally, I felt like I

950
00:44:29,640 --> 00:44:31,759
Speaker 1: haven't gotten to the place where I want to be,

951
00:44:32,360 --> 00:44:34,200
Speaker 1: meaning like how I want life to go. I want

952
00:44:34,200 --> 00:44:36,480
Speaker 1: my professional life to line up more aligned with my

953
00:44:36,560 --> 00:44:39,839
Speaker 1: personal life. And so recently I just kind of reached

954
00:44:39,840 --> 00:44:41,279
Speaker 1: a fever pitch where I was like, I don't want

955
00:44:41,280 --> 00:44:43,120
Speaker 1: to do the budgetista in the same way anymore. I

956
00:44:43,200 --> 00:44:45,239
Speaker 1: had to admit that I said it in therapy. I

957
00:44:45,280 --> 00:44:47,000
Speaker 1: told doctor Green. She's like, this is the first time,

958
00:44:47,120 --> 00:44:49,000
Speaker 1: and she's like, I've known this, but I've been waiting

959
00:44:49,000 --> 00:44:51,560
Speaker 1: for you to say the words, And I said, I've

960
00:44:51,560 --> 00:44:53,600
Speaker 1: been afraid to say the words because does that mean

961
00:44:53,640 --> 00:44:55,640
Speaker 1: I want to walk away from this business. She said,

962
00:44:56,280 --> 00:44:58,920
Speaker 1: that's not what you said. But it's okay to admit

963
00:44:58,960 --> 00:45:00,640
Speaker 1: the way you've been doing it, you don't want to

964
00:45:00,640 --> 00:45:03,920
Speaker 1: do it because it's very face front, it's very dancing

965
00:45:03,960 --> 00:45:06,680
Speaker 1: for a dollar, it's very busy, busy busy, and although

966
00:45:06,719 --> 00:45:10,319
Speaker 1: I've definitely reduced it, it's not enough, you know, like

967
00:45:10,400 --> 00:45:13,440
Speaker 1: it's been like a low key version of what I

968
00:45:13,480 --> 00:45:17,319
Speaker 1: was doing before, and it's not enough. And admitting that

969
00:45:17,480 --> 00:45:20,160
Speaker 1: kind of like it opened up the floodgates because what

970
00:45:20,200 --> 00:45:22,680
Speaker 1: I was most afraid about was telling the team, which

971
00:45:22,719 --> 00:45:24,799
Speaker 1: I have because I wouldn't tell y'all first. It's like, well,

972
00:45:24,800 --> 00:45:27,080
Speaker 1: what does that mean, you know, because there are people

973
00:45:27,120 --> 00:45:29,319
Speaker 1: who depend on the business and everything else. But I

974
00:45:29,400 --> 00:45:31,880
Speaker 1: shared kind of like the fact that like, I don't

975
00:45:32,520 --> 00:45:35,239
Speaker 1: I don't want to not do the budgetista, but not

976
00:45:35,320 --> 00:45:37,360
Speaker 1: like this, and I'm not sure what this looks like,

977
00:45:38,560 --> 00:45:41,040
Speaker 1: you know. And I was like, you know, I want

978
00:45:41,120 --> 00:45:43,759
Speaker 1: us to figure it out together. I want us to navigate,

979
00:45:44,000 --> 00:45:47,239
Speaker 1: but you have the space and the freedom to say,

980
00:45:47,320 --> 00:45:49,359
Speaker 1: you know what, maybe I want something that's a little

981
00:45:49,400 --> 00:45:51,359
Speaker 1: more stable. I mean not that I mean I pay

982
00:45:51,440 --> 00:45:53,439
Speaker 1: you know, you know, y'all know I pay. I never

983
00:45:53,800 --> 00:45:55,960
Speaker 1: not paid a meaning Like, I don't know what the

984
00:45:56,080 --> 00:45:57,879
Speaker 1: ups and downs to come are and I don't know

985
00:45:58,120 --> 00:46:00,120
Speaker 1: you know where the company is going to land. I

986
00:46:00,280 --> 00:46:02,640
Speaker 1: just wanted to give you the grace to know that.

987
00:46:02,760 --> 00:46:04,880
Speaker 1: Like if you're like I have to move on or whatever,

988
00:46:05,440 --> 00:46:07,680
Speaker 1: you could do so without judgment for me. But I'm

989
00:46:07,760 --> 00:46:10,880
Speaker 1: just sharing that there's a transition coming and I'm not

990
00:46:10,920 --> 00:46:13,560
Speaker 1: sure how it's going to land. And they were really think,

991
00:46:13,640 --> 00:46:18,319
Speaker 1: thank you so much for being so transparent and honest, Tiffany,

992
00:46:18,400 --> 00:46:20,440
Speaker 1: And we want to stay. We want to figure out

993
00:46:20,480 --> 00:46:22,799
Speaker 1: what the new iteration of this is, which honestly, as

994
00:46:22,840 --> 00:46:25,719
Speaker 1: a result of that, like we have come up with

995
00:46:25,760 --> 00:46:27,560
Speaker 1: a really good idea. And I'm just like, I wish

996
00:46:27,600 --> 00:46:31,000
Speaker 1: I would have tell you something, Sola, and so what

997
00:46:31,040 --> 00:46:32,680
Speaker 1: I would really love to be in the business stuff.

998
00:46:32,719 --> 00:46:34,040
Speaker 1: So the part of the budget theese I like the

999
00:46:34,040 --> 00:46:37,000
Speaker 1: most is the teaching part. Like I love showing up,

1000
00:46:37,040 --> 00:46:40,440
Speaker 1: I love teaching. I love I hate having to sell something.

1001
00:46:40,480 --> 00:46:42,480
Speaker 1: I'm like, oh my god, I hate this. I hate

1002
00:46:42,560 --> 00:46:44,879
Speaker 1: having to have a product or whatever. It's just exhausting.

1003
00:46:44,920 --> 00:46:46,840
Speaker 1: I don't like that part. And I said, if it

1004
00:46:46,840 --> 00:46:48,680
Speaker 1: was up to me when I first started the budgetist

1005
00:46:48,719 --> 00:46:51,839
Speaker 1: to I did everything for free, you know, But then

1006
00:46:51,840 --> 00:46:53,799
Speaker 1: as you have a business, it's hard to do. It's

1007
00:46:54,360 --> 00:46:56,200
Speaker 1: how do you do everything for free but still have

1008
00:46:56,239 --> 00:46:58,520
Speaker 1: a business that pays your employees because they have to

1009
00:46:58,520 --> 00:47:01,239
Speaker 1: be paid, you know. And so I thought, well, what

1010
00:47:01,400 --> 00:47:04,400
Speaker 1: if one of the things that we're really good at

1011
00:47:04,400 --> 00:47:08,120
Speaker 1: at Budganista is gathering insights about like the thoughts, hopes,

1012
00:47:08,200 --> 00:47:10,880
Speaker 1: dreams of the women that I serve, largely black women.

1013
00:47:11,280 --> 00:47:13,279
Speaker 1: I said, there has to be company. Well, I know

1014
00:47:13,480 --> 00:47:15,880
Speaker 1: for a fact because I see companies roll out products

1015
00:47:15,920 --> 00:47:17,960
Speaker 1: or services that they hope are going to land in

1016
00:47:17,960 --> 00:47:20,640
Speaker 1: our community. And I'm like, girl, nobody cares about that.

1017
00:47:20,640 --> 00:47:23,279
Speaker 1: That's not aligned, that's not moral, that's not fair. And

1018
00:47:23,320 --> 00:47:27,520
Speaker 1: I said, well, what if I could give away, which

1019
00:47:27,560 --> 00:47:28,839
Speaker 1: is what I want to do all the things I'm

1020
00:47:28,880 --> 00:47:33,759
Speaker 1: doing with the budgetiessta for free and on the back end,

1021
00:47:33,840 --> 00:47:36,040
Speaker 1: because I already gather insights. Y'all give me insights all

1022
00:47:36,080 --> 00:47:39,680
Speaker 1: the time. We have surveys upwards of two hundred thousand respondents,

1023
00:47:39,880 --> 00:47:42,160
Speaker 1: and I use those insights to create, like I use

1024
00:47:42,239 --> 00:47:44,879
Speaker 1: the insight to create geting with money. I use those

1025
00:47:44,920 --> 00:47:47,680
Speaker 1: insights to create the next literature challenge or whatever it is.

1026
00:47:47,920 --> 00:47:50,200
Speaker 1: But I was like, I know they're companies who also

1027
00:47:50,239 --> 00:47:52,720
Speaker 1: want to create good products and services that are aligned

1028
00:47:52,960 --> 00:47:55,400
Speaker 1: with this audience. So what if I use those insights

1029
00:47:55,440 --> 00:47:58,600
Speaker 1: to say I can consult, I can help for you

1030
00:47:58,680 --> 00:48:01,160
Speaker 1: to be like, this is how you're articas misaligned. Here's

1031
00:48:01,160 --> 00:48:03,520
Speaker 1: how you get align based upon the insights that I've gathered.

1032
00:48:03,840 --> 00:48:05,400
Speaker 1: And so that's what I'd like to be in the

1033
00:48:05,400 --> 00:48:09,359
Speaker 1: business of ethical insights, you know, And so I don't

1034
00:48:09,400 --> 00:48:10,520
Speaker 1: know what that looks like. I'm not gonna lie. We

1035
00:48:10,560 --> 00:48:11,840
Speaker 1: just came up with this a week ago, so you know,

1036
00:48:11,880 --> 00:48:16,000
Speaker 1: I'm just over here chatting. But I'm excited about it

1037
00:48:16,040 --> 00:48:18,600
Speaker 1: because one of the things I'm sharing it because one

1038
00:48:18,600 --> 00:48:21,400
Speaker 1: of the things I've learned in business is that like

1039
00:48:21,520 --> 00:48:24,239
Speaker 1: to share the thing. And so since I started to

1040
00:48:24,239 --> 00:48:25,719
Speaker 1: share it in the last week, I've reached out to

1041
00:48:25,760 --> 00:48:29,360
Speaker 1: like friends and corporate spaces. The response has been amazing.

1042
00:48:29,760 --> 00:48:32,319
Speaker 1: I was sharing, like, for example, like, we did a

1043
00:48:32,320 --> 00:48:35,440
Speaker 1: Liverature Challenge in twenty twenty three, which is our twenty

1044
00:48:35,440 --> 00:48:39,200
Speaker 1: one day free course that I do typically every January,

1045
00:48:39,200 --> 00:48:42,399
Speaker 1: give or take, and three hundred thousand people signed up,

1046
00:48:43,320 --> 00:48:45,680
Speaker 1: and we took surveys from everyone, and like I said,

1047
00:48:45,680 --> 00:48:48,400
Speaker 1: we usually use those insights just internally, like they want this,

1048
00:48:48,440 --> 00:48:51,040
Speaker 1: they hate that, they love this. And so we have

1049
00:48:51,120 --> 00:48:55,280
Speaker 1: our next challenge that'll be launching in twenty twenty four January,

1050
00:48:55,560 --> 00:48:59,560
Speaker 1: and I'm like, are there organization's companies brands that are like, uh,

1051
00:48:59,600 --> 00:49:02,440
Speaker 1: I'd love to know what tens of thousands of women,

1052
00:49:03,200 --> 00:49:06,480
Speaker 1: specifically Black women. It's not all black women, because I

1053
00:49:06,520 --> 00:49:09,120
Speaker 1: know exactly who we're like seventy five percent women, and

1054
00:49:09,200 --> 00:49:10,920
Speaker 1: like eighty percent of them are black, but still the

1055
00:49:11,120 --> 00:49:13,280
Speaker 1: majority of Black women what they think and feel about

1056
00:49:13,320 --> 00:49:15,799
Speaker 1: a thing. It doesn't just have to be a financial thing.

1057
00:49:15,840 --> 00:49:17,680
Speaker 1: The good thing is I'm able to ask any question,

1058
00:49:17,880 --> 00:49:19,959
Speaker 1: do you have natural hair? How long do you sleep

1059
00:49:19,960 --> 00:49:22,960
Speaker 1: at night? Like my audience, we've built like such an

1060
00:49:23,040 --> 00:49:27,560
Speaker 1: amazing space of trust and so yeah, and so like

1061
00:49:27,600 --> 00:49:30,160
Speaker 1: I've kind of shared that that and I've gotten such

1062
00:49:30,200 --> 00:49:32,479
Speaker 1: great responses to people who wanted to partner to see

1063
00:49:32,480 --> 00:49:36,200
Speaker 1: like what I would like to know. So as I

1064
00:49:36,239 --> 00:49:38,960
Speaker 1: twist and turn into this new space, it won't really

1065
00:49:39,000 --> 00:49:41,799
Speaker 1: look that different to the audience because what it just

1066
00:49:41,800 --> 00:49:44,280
Speaker 1: looks like is more stuff is free from tivity. Yay,

1067
00:49:44,520 --> 00:49:48,960
Speaker 1: you know, but on the back end it feels less stressful.

1068
00:49:49,440 --> 00:49:51,560
Speaker 1: The onnus of me showing up and having a dance

1069
00:49:51,600 --> 00:49:54,319
Speaker 1: for a dollar is like not there as much. It

1070
00:49:54,360 --> 00:49:57,239
Speaker 1: allows the team to take on a bigger role, you know,

1071
00:49:57,360 --> 00:49:59,080
Speaker 1: and like me to just do the part that I like,

1072
00:49:59,160 --> 00:50:01,760
Speaker 1: which is just sir y'all. And so I'm just really

1073
00:50:01,800 --> 00:50:04,920
Speaker 1: like like it. That's the boost. It's like, you know,

1074
00:50:04,960 --> 00:50:08,200
Speaker 1: sometimes you're so afraid of making the change that you

1075
00:50:08,239 --> 00:50:12,120
Speaker 1: don't realize there's actually more opportunity, more money, more whatever,

1076
00:50:12,600 --> 00:50:14,640
Speaker 1: you know, if you have the courage to pivot and

1077
00:50:14,680 --> 00:50:15,280
Speaker 1: make the change.

1078
00:50:15,280 --> 00:50:17,200
Speaker 2: So, you know, for those of you who say that

1079
00:50:17,239 --> 00:50:20,120
Speaker 2: again for the girls in the back, girl, because it's

1080
00:50:20,160 --> 00:50:22,719
Speaker 2: just it's it is scary though, because I'm not gonna lie.

1081
00:50:22,760 --> 00:50:25,200
Speaker 1: This is almost since the beginning of Budgetiesta. This is

1082
00:50:25,200 --> 00:50:28,319
Speaker 1: one of our worst financial years that we've had, you know.

1083
00:50:28,440 --> 00:50:29,520
Speaker 2: Just before the budgets.

1084
00:50:29,760 --> 00:50:31,839
Speaker 1: Yeah, for the budget Lisa, financially you.

1085
00:50:31,800 --> 00:50:34,239
Speaker 2: Know, if you haven't wanted to, yes, you haven't been

1086
00:50:34,280 --> 00:50:34,799
Speaker 2: around as much.

1087
00:50:34,880 --> 00:50:36,560
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, because I you know, like because if I

1088
00:50:36,640 --> 00:50:38,280
Speaker 1: dance for a dollar, you know, we're gonna make millions

1089
00:50:38,320 --> 00:50:41,040
Speaker 1: of me. We just barely will clear a million if

1090
00:50:41,040 --> 00:50:44,560
Speaker 1: we're lucky, which is like what for the Budgetissa, That's

1091
00:50:44,600 --> 00:50:47,560
Speaker 1: like unheard of. But it made me realize how much

1092
00:50:47,640 --> 00:50:50,480
Speaker 1: of the business relied upon me dancing for a dollar.

1093
00:50:51,320 --> 00:50:52,920
Speaker 1: And I think the team was scared because it's like,

1094
00:50:52,920 --> 00:50:55,640
Speaker 1: if Tiffany doesn't dance, what will we eat? And that's

1095
00:50:55,640 --> 00:50:58,000
Speaker 1: what I thought too. But I'm like, there has to

1096
00:50:58,040 --> 00:51:00,399
Speaker 1: be a business where I don't got to dance. Oh

1097
00:51:00,520 --> 00:51:01,799
Speaker 1: you know what I mean. And so I was, but

1098
00:51:01,840 --> 00:51:04,480
Speaker 1: I was afraid to make the transition, and so now

1099
00:51:04,560 --> 00:51:07,439
Speaker 1: I'm just like I have to because, like I told

1100
00:51:07,480 --> 00:51:09,879
Speaker 1: the team, I'm not completely out of steam, but I'm

1101
00:51:10,000 --> 00:51:12,640
Speaker 1: just about So if we don't pivot, there will be nothing.

1102
00:51:13,080 --> 00:51:15,440
Speaker 1: So if we can pivot and make money in a

1103
00:51:15,480 --> 00:51:17,640
Speaker 1: way that doesn't require that, then I could just do

1104
00:51:17,719 --> 00:51:19,799
Speaker 1: the thing I really like so much. And like I said,

1105
00:51:19,800 --> 00:51:23,799
Speaker 1: it's already like the the partnerships are already starting to

1106
00:51:23,880 --> 00:51:26,400
Speaker 1: tentatively form where I feel really good, like, wait, we

1107
00:51:26,400 --> 00:51:28,600
Speaker 1: don't have to work nearly as hard. I can just

1108
00:51:28,600 --> 00:51:30,120
Speaker 1: do this thing for free. I don't have to close

1109
00:51:30,120 --> 00:51:32,399
Speaker 1: a deal and have to be like by this like whoo,

1110
00:51:32,760 --> 00:51:36,600
Speaker 1: So to me, I just there's a lift and a light.

1111
00:51:36,680 --> 00:51:39,560
Speaker 1: And so I hope for those of you who are listening,

1112
00:51:39,640 --> 00:51:42,640
Speaker 1: who are you know, thinking about making a pivot, that

1113
00:51:42,719 --> 00:51:45,719
Speaker 1: there's definitely like this space between where you are where

1114
00:51:45,719 --> 00:51:47,600
Speaker 1: you want to be, and you do as much work

1115
00:51:47,640 --> 00:51:49,719
Speaker 1: to get the space as close as possible, but there

1116
00:51:49,800 --> 00:51:52,520
Speaker 1: is a moment where it's not gonna get any closer,

1117
00:51:52,560 --> 00:51:55,400
Speaker 1: where you actually have to leap. And that's the scary

1118
00:51:55,440 --> 00:51:57,719
Speaker 1: part where you're like, Okay, maybe I could reach It's

1119
00:51:57,719 --> 00:51:59,600
Speaker 1: like no, no, You're gonna have to let go the

1120
00:51:59,600 --> 00:52:03,920
Speaker 1: safety here and leap across this last little bridge. And

1121
00:52:04,000 --> 00:52:07,240
Speaker 1: so I've left, we haven't quite landed yet. We go see,

1122
00:52:07,280 --> 00:52:09,680
Speaker 1: but it's looking pretty good on this side.

1123
00:52:09,719 --> 00:52:13,360
Speaker 2: So and you're not leaping alone. And to actually tell

1124
00:52:13,680 --> 00:52:17,040
Speaker 2: your team, you know, Roseen Logan and I can care

1125
00:52:17,760 --> 00:52:24,759
Speaker 2: like yeah, and Tracy assuming everybody knows yeah, tell everybody no, yes,

1126
00:52:25,000 --> 00:52:27,400
Speaker 2: and then realizing that you know, you can reimagine what

1127
00:52:27,440 --> 00:52:29,880
Speaker 2: your business looks like for you with these other with

1128
00:52:29,960 --> 00:52:32,239
Speaker 2: everyone's input, and because at the end of the day,

1129
00:52:32,239 --> 00:52:33,759
Speaker 2: you've got such a good team who wants you to

1130
00:52:33,800 --> 00:52:36,439
Speaker 2: thrive and survive, or you're not just doing it of course,

1131
00:52:36,440 --> 00:52:38,719
Speaker 2: you're doing it for the for their income because we

1132
00:52:38,760 --> 00:52:41,440
Speaker 2: all got to eat right. But there's like a genuine

1133
00:52:41,480 --> 00:52:43,760
Speaker 2: loyalty and trust the same that you've built with your community,

1134
00:52:43,800 --> 00:52:47,080
Speaker 2: also with people who's who work for you and they

1135
00:52:47,120 --> 00:52:48,759
Speaker 2: want to see and I think that is you know,

1136
00:52:48,800 --> 00:52:50,520
Speaker 2: it speaks volumes of you as a leader and as

1137
00:52:50,560 --> 00:52:53,080
Speaker 2: a person and all of that. And I'm I'm excited

1138
00:52:53,080 --> 00:52:55,560
Speaker 2: for the new the newest, new chapter. You can heep

1139
00:52:55,640 --> 00:52:58,440
Speaker 2: have a new chapters every damn year if you want to,

1140
00:52:58,880 --> 00:53:01,000
Speaker 2: like you have permission, I'll do. And I think it's

1141
00:53:01,040 --> 00:53:03,279
Speaker 2: great that you're yeah, sharing that.

1142
00:53:03,440 --> 00:53:05,440
Speaker 1: I'm just really excited. My biggest thing is like I

1143
00:53:05,480 --> 00:53:08,040
Speaker 1: was really worried that the team would feel betrayed. That's

1144
00:53:08,040 --> 00:53:10,480
Speaker 1: what kept me here for so long. If I'm being honest,

1145
00:53:10,480 --> 00:53:12,960
Speaker 1: I was like, oh, I don't want They've worked so hard,

1146
00:53:13,080 --> 00:53:15,960
Speaker 1: and what I'm saying is that we're making a transition

1147
00:53:16,040 --> 00:53:18,680
Speaker 1: where it might not work and maybe I should just

1148
00:53:18,680 --> 00:53:21,040
Speaker 1: suffer through it. So everybody and I'm like Tiffany, and

1149
00:53:21,080 --> 00:53:22,560
Speaker 1: it's so crazy because you have that in your mind.

1150
00:53:22,560 --> 00:53:24,120
Speaker 1: But when I told the team, they're like, girl, we

1151
00:53:24,160 --> 00:53:25,799
Speaker 1: could tell you tire. We're like, what could we do

1152
00:53:25,840 --> 00:53:29,840
Speaker 1: to alleviate Tiffany, we're so worried and so yeah, building

1153
00:53:29,880 --> 00:53:33,000
Speaker 1: a really great team and yeah, so I'm honestly, yeah,

1154
00:53:33,000 --> 00:53:36,319
Speaker 1: I'm just really, really really excited about the pivoty because

1155
00:53:36,320 --> 00:53:38,680
Speaker 1: one thing about me is like, you know, you know,

1156
00:53:38,680 --> 00:53:40,200
Speaker 1: I know how to put in work for us to

1157
00:53:40,239 --> 00:53:43,080
Speaker 1: be successful. I just want to, like, like I said,

1158
00:53:43,160 --> 00:53:48,880
Speaker 1: navigate differently. So yay, it's like boosteple, you know, for

1159
00:53:48,920 --> 00:53:49,440
Speaker 1: the pivot.

1160
00:53:50,239 --> 00:53:51,719
Speaker 2: It's almost like you're one of the you know how

1161
00:53:51,719 --> 00:53:54,520
Speaker 2: they say, like jay Z and Nas, these are the

1162
00:53:54,560 --> 00:53:57,880
Speaker 2: first retiring hip hop artists or because hip hop's really young, they'

1163
00:53:57,960 --> 00:54:00,600
Speaker 2: just celebrated fifty years Happy birthday hip hop. And it's

1164
00:54:00,640 --> 00:54:03,040
Speaker 2: almost like you're one of the OG influencers and you're

1165
00:54:03,080 --> 00:54:05,279
Speaker 2: sort of like paving. What does it look like to

1166
00:54:05,400 --> 00:54:09,120
Speaker 2: age well as an influencer? Es like, because you can't

1167
00:54:09,160 --> 00:54:12,920
Speaker 2: be doing to go and trying to chase the next

1168
00:54:12,960 --> 00:54:17,760
Speaker 2: social media trying forever, right, So I think that it's yeah,

1169
00:54:17,960 --> 00:54:22,600
Speaker 2: so I think that fly fly bird so the rest

1170
00:54:22,640 --> 00:54:23,479
Speaker 2: of us can watch.

1171
00:54:23,719 --> 00:54:26,000
Speaker 1: Yeah, No, I never thought about that. You're right doing

1172
00:54:26,040 --> 00:54:28,120
Speaker 1: this because there are people there, like in the music

1173
00:54:28,160 --> 00:54:31,400
Speaker 1: industry that like unfortunately never pivoted so they are sixty

1174
00:54:31,480 --> 00:54:34,680
Speaker 1: still on tour, which no shade or whatever. But I

1175
00:54:34,719 --> 00:54:37,480
Speaker 1: want to be like a nas or jay Z, who

1176
00:54:37,600 --> 00:54:41,080
Speaker 1: before that happened pivoted and twisted in a way that

1177
00:54:41,080 --> 00:54:43,120
Speaker 1: they're like, Okay, Like you know jay Z every once

1178
00:54:43,200 --> 00:54:44,400
Speaker 1: in a while for fun, He's like, I do a

1179
00:54:44,400 --> 00:54:46,640
Speaker 1: little rat for fun, But he doesn't. He's not doing

1180
00:54:46,640 --> 00:54:48,480
Speaker 1: it for money. It's for the love of making music.

1181
00:54:48,800 --> 00:54:51,520
Speaker 1: But he has built this underlying business that sees him through.

1182
00:54:51,520 --> 00:54:53,759
Speaker 1: But you're absolutely right. I want to you know, like

1183
00:54:53,800 --> 00:54:55,279
Speaker 1: I told people, remember before, I was like, I want

1184
00:54:55,320 --> 00:54:57,600
Speaker 1: to be less Sean Carter more, more, less jay Z

1185
00:54:57,719 --> 00:55:01,800
Speaker 1: more Sean Carter, Yes, you know, so less than the performer.

1186
00:55:01,520 --> 00:55:02,800
Speaker 2: As Diddy Moore Shankolm.

1187
00:55:02,960 --> 00:55:06,000
Speaker 1: Yes, Like I want to be like like the the

1188
00:55:06,080 --> 00:55:09,120
Speaker 1: you know, I'm a businessman and I'm a business man,

1189
00:55:09,239 --> 00:55:12,040
Speaker 1: you know, Like yeah, so I'm excited. I'm excited just

1190
00:55:12,040 --> 00:55:13,440
Speaker 1: to kind of share the ups and downs and the

1191
00:55:13,520 --> 00:55:17,000
Speaker 1: transparency of like what it all looks like. So as

1192
00:55:17,040 --> 00:55:19,240
Speaker 1: if you're going through something similar, whether it's in corporate

1193
00:55:19,280 --> 00:55:21,480
Speaker 1: or your own business or whatever, you know, maybe there's

1194
00:55:21,480 --> 00:55:22,960
Speaker 1: some takeaways you can take away.

1195
00:55:23,200 --> 00:55:28,120
Speaker 2: So take them, get them for free. While you can't. Well,

1196
00:55:28,280 --> 00:55:29,840
Speaker 2: so happy to be back in the stew with you,

1197
00:55:30,040 --> 00:55:34,439
Speaker 2: beautiful eight years. I know I can't wait first TOHI date. Yes,

1198
00:55:34,960 --> 00:55:37,200
Speaker 2: I'm really I'm the wifey in this relationship, So I'll

1199
00:55:37,200 --> 00:55:44,319
Speaker 2: plan it. Don't worry, I won't. I won't think ill

1200
00:55:44,360 --> 00:55:48,400
Speaker 2: things about it. Plan. I got to plant my own night.

1201
00:55:50,560 --> 00:55:53,160
Speaker 1: Yo. We will see you on Friday, riding for b

1202
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Speaker 1: a q A.

1203
00:55:53,960 --> 00:55:54,080
Speaker 2: You know.

1204
00:55:54,080 --> 00:55:56,680
Speaker 1: If you have questions, we have some answers and send

1205
00:55:56,680 --> 00:55:58,840
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1206
00:55:58,840 --> 00:56:02,560
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00:56:02,800 --> 00:56:04,880
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1209
00:56:08,360 --> 00:56:11,239
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1210
00:56:11,239 --> 00:56:11,960
Speaker 1: you on Friday.

1211
00:56:12,120 --> 00:56:14,759
Speaker 2: Bye and thank y'all for eight years. I forgot to

1212
00:56:14,800 --> 00:56:16,960
Speaker 2: thank you guys the listener. B A fam would not

1213
00:56:17,000 --> 00:56:20,040
Speaker 2: be here without you and one one walk love forever.

1214
00:56:20,080 --> 00:56:20,640
Speaker 1: Bye y'all.

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Speaker 2: Ma I excuse us, who's listening