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Speaker 1: The Nicky Glazer Podcast. Nicky Glazer, here's Nikki Yeah popping

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Speaker 1: that ZeVA. Hi guys, Nicky Glazer here, I am welcome

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Speaker 1: to the show. It's Thursday on the Nicki Glazer Podcast.

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Speaker 1: Coming to you straight from St. Louis. Um by Curious

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Speaker 1: from St. Louis. I should say, um, Andrew Collins in

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Speaker 1: the next room with his uh with his girlfriend Brenna.

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Speaker 1: Miss you so much, Brenna. UM, I just missed her

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Speaker 1: when I leave the room. She got into town yesterday.

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Speaker 1: We had a really fun hang last night with the family.

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Speaker 1: UM My parents came over, Kirsten was here. We went

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Speaker 1: on Instagram live. Maybe some of you saw that. If

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Speaker 1: you missed it, it's because you don't follow Nicki Glazer

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Speaker 1: pod on Instagram. We had a good freaking time on there.

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Speaker 1: It's been a while since we've done a live on there,

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Speaker 1: but we gotta bring him back. I've just been so

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Speaker 1: bzzy that it's um I haven't thought to do it,

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Speaker 1: but I love going live on there. It's just it's

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Speaker 1: so much. I don't even go live on my own ever.

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Speaker 1: I don't think. I just love giving it right to

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Speaker 1: the besties. How are you all doing out? There. Noah,

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Speaker 1: how are you today? I'm good? Wait? Why did you

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Speaker 1: swit your eyes like that? Was I? Did I seem

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Speaker 1: not well yesterday? No? It did make it sound like

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Speaker 1: I was like concerned about you and like it was

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Speaker 1: like based on some kind of information. What kind of

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Speaker 1: vibes am I putting it out? Asked you yesterday? How

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Speaker 1: are you? How have you We've been so like, just

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Speaker 1: get in here, record no kind of pleasantries, boom boom

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Speaker 1: done go, Like there's been no um interaction because I've

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Speaker 1: just been running around. How have you been lately? Um?

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Speaker 1: You know, I was trying to I was thinking about

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Speaker 1: it yesterday. I've just been feeling very unmotivated and Obvio

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Speaker 1: asked me, He's like, are you depressed? And I'm like, no,

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Speaker 1: I'm I'm depressed. I'm not suppressed. And then I've just

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Speaker 1: kind of like had that in my mind, like am

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Speaker 1: I depressed over something? And like I'm trying to figure

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Speaker 1: out why I just don't feel motivated? You know, what

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Speaker 1: is there something on your mind that you're like, oh,

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Speaker 1: I get that done? Is this the thing that you

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Speaker 1: would have spent a hundred thousand dollars on yesterday? Like?

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Speaker 1: How stuff? Maybe that's adding to my depression because of

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Speaker 1: like a big burden. But um, I just don't feel

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Speaker 1: motivated to do anything extra, like even with jiu jitsu,

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Speaker 1: I'm not like in it like I was two years ago.

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Speaker 1: I don't feel like going and exploring Tucson, you know,

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Speaker 1: like I don't. I'm not doing this the things that

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Speaker 1: I enjoyed before. I don't know what I like. Uh,

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Speaker 1: you know the symptoms of depression on a zolof to dad,

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Speaker 1: are you enjoying things you once enjoyed? Are your family

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Speaker 1: members asking if you're depressed? No, it's I mean whenever

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Speaker 1: I kind of feel depressed, Like there's always symptoms where

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Speaker 1: you go, why do I feel fat today? And like

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Speaker 1: it's why do I Why am I comparing myself more?

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Speaker 1: Why am I getting in? Why why am I not curious?

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Speaker 1: I feel like that is a sign of it, of

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Speaker 1: like not being curious about the world. And I think

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Speaker 1: that's a symptom of depression, Like, um, like you're not

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Speaker 1: wanting to explore Tucson or just are you just tired? Yeah,

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Speaker 1: I feel so like burnt out. I think same, yeah,

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Speaker 1: and fe guilty over seas and then the guilt doesn't

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Speaker 1: help anything because more sad and yeah, I mean the

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Speaker 1: guilt is like, uh, I think that's a definite like

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Speaker 1: like that the guilt causes so much of the feeling

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Speaker 1: that we're feeling guilty about. It's just such a self

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Speaker 1: fulfilling thing, you know, Yes, like never have I felt

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Speaker 1: guilty and felt better for feeling guilty, you know. Like

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Speaker 1: I think it's we feel guilty so we can feel

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Speaker 1: like we were acknowledging that we're what we're doing is wrong,

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Speaker 1: so that it lifts some of the burden of being wrong,

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Speaker 1: because if you're just in denial of it, that's not good.

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Speaker 1: But it's like it's less about feeling like guilty. Whenever

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Speaker 1: people feel guilty, I'm just like, I mean, what what

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Speaker 1: does that give you? It just gives you. It just

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Speaker 1: adds to it. It never solved anything, And I know

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Speaker 1: that's just easier said of like anxiety has never made

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Speaker 1: someone like worrying about something doesn't solve it. Sometimes it

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Speaker 1: does because you like think about it a lot and

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Speaker 1: then you figure it out, I guess. But the guilt

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Speaker 1: is is like you have the guilt of like I'm

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Speaker 1: being lazy. I mean, I feel like that's what everything

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Speaker 1: we're just so scared of feeling lazy. It's because what

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Speaker 1: what what do you have guilt over of not exploring

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Speaker 1: like feeling guilty over the possibility of being depressed. Like,

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Speaker 1: m I I have it really really good right now

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Speaker 1: you know, I just deserve to feel depressed because I

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Speaker 1: don't deserve it. Yeah, I write that a lot, but

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Speaker 1: it's almost like, you know, depressions like a cold, like

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Speaker 1: you caught your it's not your fault, and it's like

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Speaker 1: in your brain and it's and yeah, there are things

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Speaker 1: you could be doing to get out of it. Oh,

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Speaker 1: go for a walk outside, meditate, call a friend, like

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Speaker 1: there's all these like things you could do, but sometimes

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Speaker 1: those things are too difficult to do, and a symptom

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Speaker 1: of the sickness that you have or like the little

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Speaker 1: about your going through is not being able to do

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Speaker 1: those things, you know, Like it's it's like asking someone

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Speaker 1: who has a cold just breathe clearly through your nose.

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Speaker 1: That's the same as telling a depressed person just go

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Speaker 1: for a walk outside or you know, and I think

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Speaker 1: just with mental illness things, it just seems like so like, well,

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Speaker 1: your bed. Like those things are just as difficult as like,

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Speaker 1: you know, telling someone who has a broken leg just

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Speaker 1: walk on it. But but it's it's it's nearly impossible.

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Speaker 1: So it's like I would say, forgive yourself. I would

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Speaker 1: say that I think you should be allowed to say

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Speaker 1: that you're depressed even though your life is good, but

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Speaker 1: on paper, um, because I don't know, you know what,

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Speaker 1: I think a lot. And I hate I hate saying

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Speaker 1: it's PMS for me um sometimes because that takes that

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Speaker 1: kind of makes men not be able to have that excuse,

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Speaker 1: or it makes it feels like you're just giving an excuse.

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Speaker 1: And then when you feel depressed and you're not I'm

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Speaker 1: just me being wrong. But like anything that is you,

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Speaker 1: you can't you don't want to be depressed, like if

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Speaker 1: you could like check a box and like tomorrow it's

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Speaker 1: like wake up depressed or not, you would like check

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Speaker 1: the box that said not depressed. Like no one wants

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Speaker 1: to be depressed. I mean some people do, maybe because

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Speaker 1: it's often a very negative outlook. The world is ending,

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Speaker 1: Nothing matters, Like I feel like, oh my god, I

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Speaker 1: see things like so clearly, and I don't want to

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Speaker 1: be happy and delusional and walk around like nothing's wrong

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Speaker 1: when everything is wrong, Like I don't want to be

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Speaker 1: one of the sheep. So sometimes I fight it because

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Speaker 1: it just feels right. But um but I don't think

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Speaker 1: anyone wants to feel depressed. So that's it's. It's just

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Speaker 1: so hard when things aren't a physical like manifestation of

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Speaker 1: I can't track the source of it because you even said,

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Speaker 1: that's making me depressed? And sometimes it is nothing. Sometimes

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Speaker 1: it's just a hormone change that is like at a

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Speaker 1: molecular level, and you don't have anything, you don't have

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Speaker 1: any say over it, or you wouldn't be able to

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Speaker 1: see it or point at it. But I definitely feel

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Speaker 1: that way about um. Yeah, lately, I've just felt what

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Speaker 1: just felt I did the same fucking thing last night. No,

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Speaker 1: I was such a I was kind of a brat

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Speaker 1: to my parents, which is just you know, their cameras

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Speaker 1: always felt that way, like when I get like Braddy

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Speaker 1: things like they're my parents, so they're super annoying. And

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Speaker 1: like your own parents make you crazy, no matter how

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Speaker 1: Even though I know that her life, she still has insecurities.

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Speaker 1: I've heard them. I still secretly think if I were her,

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Speaker 1: I wouldn't have those if I had Nikki's parents. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: I'm I'm addict to my parents, but and I know

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Speaker 1: freestyling a song about me moving back to St. Louis

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Speaker 1: and I'm already like worried I'm a narcissist and all

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Speaker 1: these things, and now you know, I have people being like, hey, um,

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Speaker 1: I really feel like it's just like I just have

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Speaker 1: thank god, she is really full of herself. So last

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Speaker 1: night we were singing about my return to St. Louis

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Speaker 1: and I want to know what you think about this.

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Speaker 1: My mom kept going like, we're so glad to have

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Speaker 1: Like I just want to detail, like why. And I

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Speaker 1: wasn't saying that to be like I don't trust that

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Speaker 1: and she's like, because it's just great having you back,

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Speaker 1: I kept going why, and then it led to like

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Speaker 1: Like can you give me one answer that you like

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Speaker 1: having me around? Because what I the conclusion I came

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Speaker 1: thought it was cool, but it was more like, okay,

426
00:23:27,359 --> 00:23:29,600
Speaker 1: but you're not. Do you have sexed? Honestly, I can't

427
00:23:29,600 --> 00:23:34,600
Speaker 1: believe you lasted a couple of innings? No way, what

428
00:23:34,640 --> 00:23:38,000
Speaker 1: were you doing for that amount of time? We were everything.

429
00:23:38,160 --> 00:23:40,560
Speaker 1: You know, when you're not with someone for a while. Yeah,

430
00:23:40,600 --> 00:23:43,679
Speaker 1: that's true. You break out all the stops right right,

431
00:23:43,760 --> 00:23:47,600
Speaker 1: you know, Yeah, that makes sense, and you can last.

432
00:23:47,800 --> 00:23:51,199
Speaker 1: Did you take a bague? I did take okay, and

433
00:23:51,240 --> 00:23:56,359
Speaker 1: then and then you um, so you took one of

434
00:23:56,400 --> 00:23:59,840
Speaker 1: those and then um, and you can last. Zolof makes

435
00:23:59,840 --> 00:24:02,480
Speaker 1: it you can't finish, but it doesn't help you not last.

436
00:24:03,160 --> 00:24:05,000
Speaker 1: It actually makes you last way longer. I'm yes, I

437
00:24:05,119 --> 00:24:10,240
Speaker 1: become a human dildo because I can't orgasm and I

438
00:24:10,280 --> 00:24:13,399
Speaker 1: can't not not get hard. So I'm just like I

439
00:24:13,480 --> 00:24:15,800
Speaker 1: might as well. Just my penis is dead. It's just

440
00:24:15,880 --> 00:24:17,960
Speaker 1: rigor mortar. When do you when do you know when

441
00:24:18,000 --> 00:24:23,400
Speaker 1: to stop? Then when the sun comes up? I mean, honestly,

442
00:24:23,480 --> 00:24:26,240
Speaker 1: like I mean when Joe Buck says, all right, guys,

443
00:24:26,359 --> 00:24:31,440
Speaker 1: great game tonight. Like what when the ten o'clock news

444
00:24:31,440 --> 00:24:34,359
Speaker 1: finally starts? I guess when? When when I hear the

445
00:24:34,480 --> 00:24:38,320
Speaker 1: rooster crow no I, which actually sounds like Joe Buck

446
00:24:38,359 --> 00:24:40,919
Speaker 1: a little bit. Uh No, I honestly no. I I

447
00:24:41,000 --> 00:24:43,359
Speaker 1: do have orgasm and it's just harder for But but

448
00:24:43,840 --> 00:24:47,280
Speaker 1: if you're not having one, when you know you're just

449
00:24:47,560 --> 00:24:51,879
Speaker 1: you're just done. Hopefully she does and then I'm done, right, Okay, Yeah,

450
00:24:52,000 --> 00:24:55,000
Speaker 1: it ends on her. Not I don't just go hey,

451
00:24:55,240 --> 00:24:57,719
Speaker 1: no boys, hanging it up. I was like, I do

452
00:24:57,760 --> 00:25:00,520
Speaker 1: everything I can to please her, and then when cheese please,

453
00:25:00,560 --> 00:25:03,960
Speaker 1: and I feel like there's just no way old dead

454
00:25:04,000 --> 00:25:08,080
Speaker 1: Penis is gonna walking dead head. Yeah, yeah, I just

455
00:25:08,240 --> 00:25:11,040
Speaker 1: I call it a day. I just hang up the cleats. Yeah.

456
00:25:11,080 --> 00:25:14,080
Speaker 1: I've had cursed in here the past couple of nights.

457
00:25:14,520 --> 00:25:16,879
Speaker 1: It's good, but I can't mask. There's no where to.

458
00:25:17,040 --> 00:25:19,919
Speaker 1: I can't masturbate when you have someone sleeping in your

459
00:25:19,920 --> 00:25:22,880
Speaker 1: bed with you. And I've been like wanting to, Like

460
00:25:23,080 --> 00:25:25,360
Speaker 1: I've just been kind of depressed and wanting to do.

461
00:25:25,920 --> 00:25:29,400
Speaker 1: I don't smoke wheat anymore. I don't I've been eating

462
00:25:29,400 --> 00:25:31,879
Speaker 1: a little bit more than I've wanted to because I'm

463
00:25:31,920 --> 00:25:35,000
Speaker 1: just that's a way to like anesthetize my feelings a

464
00:25:35,000 --> 00:25:37,960
Speaker 1: little bit, but like there's nothing I can do to

465
00:25:39,280 --> 00:25:42,760
Speaker 1: just jove me to have a jolt of like feeling

466
00:25:43,320 --> 00:25:48,119
Speaker 1: that might like disrupt the thing in my brain saying

467
00:25:48,160 --> 00:25:51,240
Speaker 1: like you're not good enough, You're pale, you're spray tan

468
00:25:51,400 --> 00:25:55,040
Speaker 1: is gross, You're keep picking at your skin like all

469
00:25:55,080 --> 00:25:57,399
Speaker 1: the things that I'm just like last night, even my

470
00:25:57,480 --> 00:25:59,240
Speaker 1: dad was like, what is that like on my leg?

471
00:25:59,280 --> 00:26:00,960
Speaker 1: And I was like, oh, pick up my skin because

472
00:26:00,960 --> 00:26:03,960
Speaker 1: I'm having anxiety. And then she's like moved on like

473
00:26:04,240 --> 00:26:06,640
Speaker 1: he wanted to like some answer that was gonna be

474
00:26:06,680 --> 00:26:09,680
Speaker 1: like not disturbing, and I go, I just pick at it,

475
00:26:10,000 --> 00:26:12,800
Speaker 1: and he was just like once, like I think my

476
00:26:13,359 --> 00:26:18,200
Speaker 1: I honestly think it was like and that I think

477
00:26:18,240 --> 00:26:22,600
Speaker 1: that honestly bummed me out. Like when other people see

478
00:26:22,640 --> 00:26:25,439
Speaker 1: the things in me that are like like he doesn't

479
00:26:25,440 --> 00:26:27,399
Speaker 1: know about my when people call it out, that know

480
00:26:27,560 --> 00:26:29,359
Speaker 1: that like that's why I'm out about it. So if

481
00:26:29,440 --> 00:26:30,800
Speaker 1: you call it out, I'm like, oh, it's because I

482
00:26:30,840 --> 00:26:32,840
Speaker 1: told you about it. But when someone who doesn't know

483
00:26:33,000 --> 00:26:34,960
Speaker 1: about it is like, what the funk are you doing

484
00:26:35,000 --> 00:26:37,840
Speaker 1: to yourself? I'm like, shit, I've got a problem. And

485
00:26:37,880 --> 00:26:40,159
Speaker 1: I think that's why I kind of spiraled because I

486
00:26:40,160 --> 00:26:41,560
Speaker 1: was thinking about it last time. I'm like, why am

487
00:26:41,560 --> 00:26:44,760
Speaker 1: I in such a fucking bad mood after my parents left?

488
00:26:45,400 --> 00:26:47,879
Speaker 1: And it was just like I was just so down

489
00:26:48,119 --> 00:26:50,320
Speaker 1: for some reason. And I think it was because yesterday

490
00:26:50,359 --> 00:26:53,680
Speaker 1: was just a long It's been a long life. Honestly,

491
00:26:55,080 --> 00:26:58,479
Speaker 1: it's been a long life. It really adds like I

492
00:26:58,520 --> 00:27:01,680
Speaker 1: can't even you know, I haven't taken a break and

493
00:27:01,840 --> 00:27:04,159
Speaker 1: I haven't had a day off and I don't I

494
00:27:04,200 --> 00:27:06,239
Speaker 1: don't even know when I'm picking at it again. I

495
00:27:06,320 --> 00:27:09,919
Speaker 1: just I don't even know. When people see the actual

496
00:27:10,000 --> 00:27:13,560
Speaker 1: like physical like a physical thing that represents your whole

497
00:27:13,600 --> 00:27:16,920
Speaker 1: life and you can't and they go, what is going

498
00:27:17,040 --> 00:27:18,960
Speaker 1: on there? And I mean that's pretty much like what's

499
00:27:19,000 --> 00:27:22,480
Speaker 1: going on with your life and like and that can

500
00:27:22,520 --> 00:27:26,040
Speaker 1: be like that's why you don't have or like to me,

501
00:27:26,119 --> 00:27:28,520
Speaker 1: that's like why I don't have a boyfriend, not because

502
00:27:28,560 --> 00:27:31,639
Speaker 1: of that thing, but because I'm crazy and like I

503
00:27:31,680 --> 00:27:38,840
Speaker 1: can't stop picking up my leg Yeah, I mean I agree,

504
00:27:39,480 --> 00:27:43,840
Speaker 1: I just like how much it hurts. I think it

505
00:27:43,880 --> 00:27:46,280
Speaker 1: really hurt my feelings that my parents couldn't articulate why

506
00:27:46,320 --> 00:27:50,000
Speaker 1: they like having me around. No, But then after the song,

507
00:27:50,040 --> 00:27:51,960
Speaker 1: I go no truly, and then my dad kind of

508
00:27:51,960 --> 00:27:54,120
Speaker 1: took me aside, was like, we love you because you're

509
00:27:54,119 --> 00:27:56,120
Speaker 1: funny and you're fun and he like kind of told

510
00:27:56,160 --> 00:27:57,960
Speaker 1: me some things. But he had to like go in

511
00:27:57,960 --> 00:28:00,320
Speaker 1: the next room and like think about it and like

512
00:28:00,600 --> 00:28:02,199
Speaker 1: spending I had to give him extra time, like on

513
00:28:02,200 --> 00:28:03,840
Speaker 1: the S A T S to come up with why

514
00:28:03,840 --> 00:28:06,640
Speaker 1: he likes his daughter. Well, you did give him multiple choice, yeah,

515
00:28:06,760 --> 00:28:08,840
Speaker 1: I mean, and I think he chose D not in

516
00:28:08,960 --> 00:28:13,840
Speaker 1: the above. But I know, but I think, like I think,

517
00:28:13,880 --> 00:28:18,320
Speaker 1: like sometimes it's hard, like if you if I have

518
00:28:18,440 --> 00:28:22,440
Speaker 1: trouble articulating why I love someone or like trouble articulating

519
00:28:22,480 --> 00:28:28,800
Speaker 1: the But I think maybe your mom might be kind

520
00:28:28,800 --> 00:28:31,040
Speaker 1: of similar though, you know, it's like it's not always

521
00:28:31,040 --> 00:28:33,760
Speaker 1: easy to like pinpoint, you know, I'm sure they could

522
00:28:33,800 --> 00:28:36,159
Speaker 1: come up with specific stories where the thing is, I

523
00:28:36,200 --> 00:28:38,560
Speaker 1: just don't think that they actually like me, and that

524
00:28:38,640 --> 00:28:43,000
Speaker 1: might be the case, Like I don't think they I

525
00:28:43,040 --> 00:28:47,400
Speaker 1: think that they probably talk massive shit about me behind

526
00:28:47,440 --> 00:28:49,480
Speaker 1: my back. What do you think they're saying and why

527
00:28:49,520 --> 00:28:54,080
Speaker 1: do you think I think famous? I think they like me.

528
00:28:54,240 --> 00:28:59,280
Speaker 1: They tolerate me because I'm like that. They're like they

529
00:28:59,320 --> 00:29:01,680
Speaker 1: love me off asleep because that their I'm their daughter,

530
00:29:01,680 --> 00:29:04,840
Speaker 1: and they want to protect me and make sure they

531
00:29:04,920 --> 00:29:06,640
Speaker 1: let me live at home because they love me and

532
00:29:06,640 --> 00:29:09,480
Speaker 1: they want me to be safe. But it's less about

533
00:29:09,560 --> 00:29:14,080
Speaker 1: like we like who you are and more about like

534
00:29:14,160 --> 00:29:16,080
Speaker 1: your and I know they do like who I am.

535
00:29:16,120 --> 00:29:18,440
Speaker 1: My dad is like because you're positive and you and

536
00:29:18,480 --> 00:29:21,040
Speaker 1: my dad like sometimes cries when he like, here's how

537
00:29:21,120 --> 00:29:24,239
Speaker 1: much I their daughter like affects people's lives and like

538
00:29:24,560 --> 00:29:27,479
Speaker 1: makes people feel special. And they see me meet my fans,

539
00:29:27,520 --> 00:29:31,040
Speaker 1: like sometimes I want them to see like my meet

540
00:29:31,080 --> 00:29:34,000
Speaker 1: and greets so they can see like people love me,

541
00:29:34,480 --> 00:29:37,280
Speaker 1: like really appreciate what I get do for them, and

542
00:29:37,280 --> 00:29:39,680
Speaker 1: like I'm not just some because every I think every

543
00:29:39,680 --> 00:29:42,400
Speaker 1: time we hang out, I I feel like they're just

544
00:29:42,440 --> 00:29:46,280
Speaker 1: like gott Nikki and her like just bettering herself and

545
00:29:46,320 --> 00:29:49,760
Speaker 1: all these like woo woo new age like love yourself,

546
00:29:49,760 --> 00:29:52,720
Speaker 1: accept yourself, like I've accepted myself. They just kind of

547
00:29:52,800 --> 00:29:54,640
Speaker 1: roll their eyes and they're like that's for you, and

548
00:29:54,640 --> 00:29:57,960
Speaker 1: it doesn't work for us, and stop projecting your own

549
00:29:58,080 --> 00:30:00,480
Speaker 1: like they don't understand that it's a big your thing

550
00:30:00,520 --> 00:30:02,560
Speaker 1: and that it that. But I mean, I think you're

551
00:30:02,560 --> 00:30:07,200
Speaker 1: saying things that like, okay, if how do I put

552
00:30:07,280 --> 00:30:11,160
Speaker 1: this where? It's like they're pretty simple people in a

553
00:30:11,160 --> 00:30:14,920
Speaker 1: lot of ways, and I think like everything you're saying,

554
00:30:15,000 --> 00:30:17,640
Speaker 1: like I'm bettering myself, I'm doing and they just like

555
00:30:17,720 --> 00:30:21,120
Speaker 1: want to eat their oreos and not hear about that

556
00:30:21,520 --> 00:30:26,600
Speaker 1: at ten am. You could see why they could go, Okay,

557
00:30:26,800 --> 00:30:30,520
Speaker 1: you're being a little a lot right now, and that's okay.

558
00:30:30,640 --> 00:30:32,200
Speaker 1: But that doesn't mean that they don't love you. I

559
00:30:32,240 --> 00:30:34,560
Speaker 1: mean they show you through their actions all the time

560
00:30:34,600 --> 00:30:38,040
Speaker 1: how much they love you. They show up, they take

561
00:30:38,160 --> 00:30:40,520
Speaker 1: your dog when you need it. They like they do

562
00:30:40,640 --> 00:30:42,560
Speaker 1: things for you. If you call on your mom right

563
00:30:42,640 --> 00:30:44,640
Speaker 1: now and you know I need you, she would do

564
00:30:44,680 --> 00:30:48,160
Speaker 1: whatever the fuck it takes to be like I just don't. Um,

565
00:30:48,280 --> 00:30:50,640
Speaker 1: that's not what my love language isn't like showing up

566
00:30:50,680 --> 00:30:53,280
Speaker 1: for me. My love language is like how are you feeling?

567
00:30:54,040 --> 00:30:58,440
Speaker 1: Like what? Um, oh you why why do you like

568
00:30:58,520 --> 00:31:01,040
Speaker 1: that kind of shoe? I mean like even like not

569
00:31:01,160 --> 00:31:04,320
Speaker 1: like oh my god, you're always so cute. You look beautiful,

570
00:31:04,400 --> 00:31:07,240
Speaker 1: like my mom, you said yesterday when we were getting botox.

571
00:31:07,320 --> 00:31:09,800
Speaker 1: She's like because one of the questions I had to

572
00:31:09,800 --> 00:31:11,920
Speaker 1: ask her for the fact that there were cameras there

573
00:31:12,120 --> 00:31:16,320
Speaker 1: to just like prompt conversation, was um, you know, mom,

574
00:31:16,360 --> 00:31:19,480
Speaker 1: what made you get botox? And she goes, well, you Nikki,

575
00:31:19,560 --> 00:31:22,000
Speaker 1: because she was like, ever, I've just seen you get

576
00:31:22,080 --> 00:31:24,120
Speaker 1: so beautiful lately. And I just looked at her and go,

577
00:31:24,200 --> 00:31:27,160
Speaker 1: what did she do? She's so beautiful all of a sudden,

578
00:31:27,160 --> 00:31:31,560
Speaker 1: You're just like so And all my friends they constantly

579
00:31:31,600 --> 00:31:36,280
Speaker 1: are writing me saying, Nicky, so beautiful, Nikki looks so gorgeous,

580
00:31:36,280 --> 00:31:40,720
Speaker 1: and I'm just like, that's like I think she liked

581
00:31:40,840 --> 00:31:45,120
Speaker 1: like I think that my parents, my mom, Like yesterday

582
00:31:45,160 --> 00:31:48,160
Speaker 1: I said that, Um, you know, I'm at a place

583
00:31:48,160 --> 00:31:50,520
Speaker 1: in my life where I feel like maybe I'm not

584
00:31:50,560 --> 00:31:52,840
Speaker 1: fully there, but I could be. I could you know,

585
00:31:53,120 --> 00:31:58,320
Speaker 1: have serious like facial disfigurement or something terrible, could take

586
00:31:58,360 --> 00:32:01,320
Speaker 1: all my looks from me or whatever, and I could

587
00:32:01,320 --> 00:32:03,760
Speaker 1: still like be okay and like myself and not want

588
00:32:03,760 --> 00:32:06,440
Speaker 1: to like die and not be a part of this world.

589
00:32:06,440 --> 00:32:07,960
Speaker 1: It would be very hard about saying it would be

590
00:32:08,040 --> 00:32:12,320
Speaker 1: like it's the same, but like, yeah, but I feel

591
00:32:12,360 --> 00:32:14,320
Speaker 1: like I said, you know, and I think you love

592
00:32:14,360 --> 00:32:17,840
Speaker 1: me just as much if I were you know, extremely

593
00:32:17,880 --> 00:32:20,680
Speaker 1: overweight or whatever it is. And the truth is, I

594
00:32:20,760 --> 00:32:24,760
Speaker 1: don't know that that's true. I think that my mom might.

595
00:32:25,800 --> 00:32:28,479
Speaker 1: She would just be she would be disappointed, and that

596
00:32:28,520 --> 00:32:30,080
Speaker 1: makes I think, that makes me sad. Is that I

597
00:32:30,160 --> 00:32:33,760
Speaker 1: got more love from my parents when I became famous

598
00:32:33,800 --> 00:32:38,840
Speaker 1: and beautiful. And that's what Why Why wouldn't I That's

599
00:32:38,840 --> 00:32:41,360
Speaker 1: why when as a kid and I wasn't that. My

600
00:32:41,360 --> 00:32:43,600
Speaker 1: mom even said yesterday, Andrew, I just said this one.

601
00:32:43,720 --> 00:32:45,800
Speaker 1: I guess she never told me and my sister we

602
00:32:45,800 --> 00:32:47,240
Speaker 1: were She goes, I don't know where you got this

603
00:32:47,280 --> 00:32:49,360
Speaker 1: idea that Lauren was so much more beautiful than you.

604
00:32:49,440 --> 00:32:51,560
Speaker 1: I never told either of you girls you were beautiful.

605
00:32:51,600 --> 00:32:53,640
Speaker 1: I never I made a point never to say it.

606
00:32:54,240 --> 00:32:56,360
Speaker 1: And I was like at first, I was like, oh,

607
00:32:56,400 --> 00:32:59,160
Speaker 1: that's kind of I'm never I never tell Poppy she's beautiful.

608
00:32:59,200 --> 00:33:02,720
Speaker 1: I always say you're so cute, and you're so smart,

609
00:33:02,800 --> 00:33:06,239
Speaker 1: and you're so like fun and funny, and I just

610
00:33:06,520 --> 00:33:09,040
Speaker 1: I don't want to. I don't say things about looks

611
00:33:09,680 --> 00:33:11,680
Speaker 1: um or try not to sometimes it's hard because she

612
00:33:11,800 --> 00:33:14,680
Speaker 1: is so beautiful, but I don't still want her to

613
00:33:14,760 --> 00:33:18,680
Speaker 1: like have that value on that. And I thought, that's

614
00:33:18,680 --> 00:33:20,400
Speaker 1: why my mom said she didn't say we were beautiful,

615
00:33:20,400 --> 00:33:21,640
Speaker 1: But I go, why did you not say that? And

616
00:33:21,680 --> 00:33:23,240
Speaker 1: she goes, because I just didn't want you getting a

617
00:33:23,240 --> 00:33:25,840
Speaker 1: big head and thinking you were better, like, which is

618
00:33:25,920 --> 00:33:30,080
Speaker 1: kind of the same idea, but it's more of like, yeah,

619
00:33:30,120 --> 00:33:34,960
Speaker 1: it's it's because on the flip side, now she's telling

620
00:33:34,960 --> 00:33:37,680
Speaker 1: you you're beautiful all the time, and I hate it

621
00:33:37,720 --> 00:33:40,600
Speaker 1: and hate it, so obviously there's somewhere in the middle.

622
00:33:40,960 --> 00:33:42,800
Speaker 1: I'm glad she didn't say we were beautiful as a kid,

623
00:33:42,920 --> 00:33:46,000
Speaker 1: I just think that her motivations for doing so, we're

624
00:33:46,080 --> 00:33:49,200
Speaker 1: not the reasons you're not think like a big head

625
00:33:49,200 --> 00:33:51,360
Speaker 1: in the sense that she was competitive with you. No, no, no,

626
00:33:51,440 --> 00:33:53,760
Speaker 1: she just didn't want us thinking we were better than people, which,

627
00:33:53,800 --> 00:33:55,960
Speaker 1: by the way, like it's the same, it's the same

628
00:33:56,000 --> 00:33:58,440
Speaker 1: idea of like there's then you have value on that,

629
00:33:58,520 --> 00:34:00,160
Speaker 1: but it's not about like I don't want my daughters

630
00:34:00,240 --> 00:34:04,000
Speaker 1: to like think to think that that matters so much.

631
00:34:04,040 --> 00:34:06,680
Speaker 1: It's more about I didn't want them to think I

632
00:34:06,680 --> 00:34:09,880
Speaker 1: didn't want them to know how much power they could wield,

633
00:34:09,960 --> 00:34:12,400
Speaker 1: because it's almost like I didn't want you going around

634
00:34:12,440 --> 00:34:16,319
Speaker 1: thinking you were hot shit. Nick. Yeah, well see that's

635
00:34:16,360 --> 00:34:19,560
Speaker 1: tough too because then it's like that created different kind

636
00:34:19,600 --> 00:34:23,080
Speaker 1: of problems where you Because my dad heard I was

637
00:34:23,200 --> 00:34:25,040
Speaker 1: said I was beautiful all the time, so I thought,

638
00:34:25,360 --> 00:34:28,160
Speaker 1: that's that's weird that one parent says it all the

639
00:34:28,160 --> 00:34:31,759
Speaker 1: time and the other never says it. And also my

640
00:34:31,800 --> 00:34:33,680
Speaker 1: mom used to say she was ugly all the time,

641
00:34:33,719 --> 00:34:37,239
Speaker 1: so my mom clearly has knows what is beautiful and ugly.

642
00:34:37,280 --> 00:34:38,920
Speaker 1: If my mom is able to say it to herself

643
00:34:38,960 --> 00:34:41,080
Speaker 1: in the mirror and I don't hear it from her

644
00:34:41,200 --> 00:34:45,479
Speaker 1: about me, I think I probably internalized I probably ugly

645
00:34:45,480 --> 00:34:47,239
Speaker 1: because if I was beautiful, my mom would tell me

646
00:34:47,480 --> 00:34:51,080
Speaker 1: because she told herself she's ugly all the time. Yeah,

647
00:34:51,400 --> 00:34:53,400
Speaker 1: so tough because like my mom does the same thing.

648
00:34:53,480 --> 00:34:55,719
Speaker 1: She will say, oh, you're so hand and when I

649
00:34:55,719 --> 00:34:59,160
Speaker 1: feel my ugly sometimes my handsome boy, and I'm like,

650
00:34:59,480 --> 00:35:02,239
Speaker 1: not not this year, like or not this month, Like

651
00:35:02,400 --> 00:35:04,880
Speaker 1: I know how I'm looking right now, so I and

652
00:35:04,960 --> 00:35:07,919
Speaker 1: she she comments on my looks a lot. Then my dad,

653
00:35:07,960 --> 00:35:10,120
Speaker 1: I don't think it's ever been like, you're a handsome boy.

654
00:35:10,200 --> 00:35:16,040
Speaker 1: Obviously it's different with father son. But like I think though,

655
00:35:16,080 --> 00:35:18,200
Speaker 1: it's stem problems. If you don't hear that from your mom,

656
00:35:18,239 --> 00:35:19,839
Speaker 1: then it's like, it's not that you want to be

657
00:35:19,840 --> 00:35:21,720
Speaker 1: better than other people, you just want to be equal

658
00:35:21,760 --> 00:35:23,520
Speaker 1: to other people. You don't want to feel less than

659
00:35:24,120 --> 00:35:26,200
Speaker 1: if you never hear from her, if you're putting a

660
00:35:26,200 --> 00:35:28,080
Speaker 1: lot of value on your looks, well I was smart

661
00:35:28,200 --> 00:35:31,320
Speaker 1: enough to know my mom isn't someone that walks around

662
00:35:31,320 --> 00:35:33,640
Speaker 1: and doesn't judges people's looks because I hear her do

663
00:35:33,680 --> 00:35:36,200
Speaker 1: it all the time. And to have no opinion of

664
00:35:36,239 --> 00:35:38,960
Speaker 1: what my looks, I'm guessing if I were beautiful, she'd

665
00:35:39,000 --> 00:35:43,200
Speaker 1: probably say something, So her absence of saying something leads

666
00:35:43,239 --> 00:35:46,399
Speaker 1: me to just I always think a thousand steps ad.

667
00:35:46,400 --> 00:35:49,680
Speaker 1: I'm a little bit. I was, I'm a little um.

668
00:35:49,719 --> 00:35:52,719
Speaker 1: I have the brain. I have a weird brain, and

669
00:35:52,760 --> 00:35:55,680
Speaker 1: so I think that I was like, okay, if this

670
00:35:55,760 --> 00:35:58,840
Speaker 1: equals this, then this, and my dad tells me I'm beautiful.

671
00:35:58,880 --> 00:36:01,399
Speaker 1: So obviously that's not a for boden thing to say

672
00:36:01,400 --> 00:36:03,840
Speaker 1: in my house. If it if you wanted to say it,

673
00:36:03,920 --> 00:36:06,239
Speaker 1: you could. My dad says it every day and my

674
00:36:06,320 --> 00:36:11,279
Speaker 1: mom sits there quietly. It might be that I my

675
00:36:11,320 --> 00:36:15,200
Speaker 1: mom doesn't think I'm beautiful. She wasn't wrong, I wasn't

676
00:36:15,239 --> 00:36:17,000
Speaker 1: as a kid, and she goes, yes, you weren't. To go,

677
00:36:17,560 --> 00:36:21,440
Speaker 1: it doesn't matter if I wasn't, but I got the

678
00:36:21,480 --> 00:36:24,279
Speaker 1: idea that it was. Like, But here's the thing. If

679
00:36:24,320 --> 00:36:27,680
Speaker 1: you then ask her what she was doing and she goes, well,

680
00:36:27,680 --> 00:36:30,040
Speaker 1: you were beautiful as a kid, and then you go, no,

681
00:36:30,160 --> 00:36:32,440
Speaker 1: I wasn't. You already have an idea of what you

682
00:36:32,480 --> 00:36:34,080
Speaker 1: look like or who you were as a kid. So

683
00:36:34,120 --> 00:36:36,160
Speaker 1: it's like, it's got to be frustrating to be on

684
00:36:36,200 --> 00:36:39,279
Speaker 1: the other side when they do feel like that they're

685
00:36:39,280 --> 00:36:43,520
Speaker 1: opening up or being honest and being either supportive or

686
00:36:43,520 --> 00:36:46,719
Speaker 1: however they're talking to you, and then you're denying what

687
00:36:46,760 --> 00:36:49,719
Speaker 1: they're saying. It's got to be frustrating because then they're like, well,

688
00:36:49,719 --> 00:36:52,440
Speaker 1: why am I even gonna tell her anything if she

689
00:36:52,520 --> 00:36:55,239
Speaker 1: doesn't believe me, because it's you know what I mean,

690
00:36:55,280 --> 00:37:00,000
Speaker 1: like on their end to to go, well, yeah, she's

691
00:37:00,040 --> 00:37:04,440
Speaker 1: she's practicing communicating with you, and I guess maybe if

692
00:37:04,800 --> 00:37:07,799
Speaker 1: you give her like positive feedback, it might she may

693
00:37:07,880 --> 00:37:11,120
Speaker 1: feel more open to being more emotional towards you since

694
00:37:11,160 --> 00:37:14,480
Speaker 1: it's hard for her to. Yeah, I mean I on

695
00:37:15,040 --> 00:37:18,399
Speaker 1: them like obviously, no, they're they're trying there. I mean,

696
00:37:18,440 --> 00:37:20,600
Speaker 1: they not want nothing but the best for me. I

697
00:37:20,680 --> 00:37:22,879
Speaker 1: know that, and so I'm just but I'm saying that,

698
00:37:22,920 --> 00:37:26,600
Speaker 1: Like I think that if I have kids someday and

699
00:37:26,640 --> 00:37:28,920
Speaker 1: my husband is and I don't want to say anything

700
00:37:28,920 --> 00:37:32,080
Speaker 1: about the kids beauty or looks, and my husband's constantly

701
00:37:32,080 --> 00:37:35,440
Speaker 1: saying that they look beautiful, I might even I would

702
00:37:35,440 --> 00:37:37,399
Speaker 1: have a conversation with my husband, like, can we get

703
00:37:37,400 --> 00:37:39,640
Speaker 1: on the same page about we don't comment on their looks?

704
00:37:39,760 --> 00:37:41,799
Speaker 1: Or I need to get on your page because it's

705
00:37:41,840 --> 00:37:44,720
Speaker 1: gonna seem weird if I say nothing, because in this house,

706
00:37:44,800 --> 00:37:46,880
Speaker 1: you're setting the tone that we talked about those things,

707
00:37:47,280 --> 00:37:50,160
Speaker 1: and the absence of talking about them equals you're gonna

708
00:37:50,239 --> 00:37:52,759
Speaker 1: go do ugly. I'm ugly because you don't tell someone

709
00:37:52,800 --> 00:37:54,840
Speaker 1: they're ugly. I know that, I'm smart enough kid to

710
00:37:54,840 --> 00:37:57,120
Speaker 1: realize you don't tell someone to their face they're ugly,

711
00:37:57,200 --> 00:38:00,080
Speaker 1: unless it's your own face in the mirror. But I it.

712
00:38:00,680 --> 00:38:04,520
Speaker 1: But um, but if I was beautiful, my dad says it,

713
00:38:04,680 --> 00:38:07,480
Speaker 1: my mom would say it, so the absence of it,

714
00:38:07,520 --> 00:38:10,040
Speaker 1: I think made me realize and the fact that this

715
00:38:10,120 --> 00:38:13,160
Speaker 1: even matters. I mean this, this is a topic I've

716
00:38:13,200 --> 00:38:16,759
Speaker 1: become obsessed with when I'm depressed, but it really it

717
00:38:16,880 --> 00:38:20,640
Speaker 1: hurts me and it it um it just And then

718
00:38:20,680 --> 00:38:22,880
Speaker 1: the denial that my sister was more beautiful than me,

719
00:38:22,920 --> 00:38:25,719
Speaker 1: and that my mom didn't notice and things like that,

720
00:38:25,840 --> 00:38:29,000
Speaker 1: It's like that makes me feel sad because I believe her.

721
00:38:29,040 --> 00:38:31,040
Speaker 1: I believe that she did not see a difference between

722
00:38:31,239 --> 00:38:33,040
Speaker 1: our looks because she does look at her girls the

723
00:38:33,080 --> 00:38:34,759
Speaker 1: same way and we were both beautiful and she didn't

724
00:38:34,760 --> 00:38:36,960
Speaker 1: want to give us either a big head, but I

725
00:38:37,040 --> 00:38:40,360
Speaker 1: literally had a big head. Um No, I think that

726
00:38:40,520 --> 00:38:43,239
Speaker 1: she just it makes me sad she didn't notice like

727
00:38:43,360 --> 00:38:46,440
Speaker 1: I think I would like to be. And this is

728
00:38:47,000 --> 00:38:50,719
Speaker 1: uh like subjectively speaking, like when I see pictures of

729
00:38:50,760 --> 00:38:53,600
Speaker 1: you as a kid, I don't I think you went

730
00:38:53,600 --> 00:38:55,799
Speaker 1: through a couple of awkward years like we all do,

731
00:38:55,960 --> 00:38:59,360
Speaker 1: like around like puberty time, where like you started to

732
00:38:59,400 --> 00:39:02,880
Speaker 1: look you look older than now. You cannot deny that.

733
00:39:03,600 --> 00:39:06,240
Speaker 1: No one can deny that my sister was more beautiful

734
00:39:06,280 --> 00:39:08,480
Speaker 1: than me, and my mom denies that there was there

735
00:39:08,560 --> 00:39:11,480
Speaker 1: was a time I saw a couple of photos where

736
00:39:11,520 --> 00:39:14,640
Speaker 1: I go I didn't see I saw you being more

737
00:39:14,719 --> 00:39:18,480
Speaker 1: attractive than you're just get a weird little Lloyd Christmas,

738
00:39:19,920 --> 00:39:25,200
Speaker 1: she got beautiful. It was before and I'll tell you,

739
00:39:25,280 --> 00:39:27,360
Speaker 1: I used to hear I was skinny and beautiful and

740
00:39:27,400 --> 00:39:29,080
Speaker 1: all the things when I was little, and then it

741
00:39:29,239 --> 00:39:31,839
Speaker 1: stopped abruptly and I got super depressed. And the fact

742
00:39:31,840 --> 00:39:34,560
Speaker 1: that they weren't tuned into that. But dude, I'm telling you,

743
00:39:34,640 --> 00:39:37,239
Speaker 1: there's like other positives that came from that. Like I

744
00:39:37,320 --> 00:39:41,440
Speaker 1: was told I was little, but I was. I was

745
00:39:41,600 --> 00:39:45,040
Speaker 1: a very cute kid, Like I was like model cute kid.

746
00:39:45,320 --> 00:39:48,000
Speaker 1: My older brother was not as attractive. I think I

747
00:39:48,040 --> 00:39:50,640
Speaker 1: got called out cute more than him. He wasn't ugly

748
00:39:50,680 --> 00:39:52,600
Speaker 1: by any means, but he didn't have anything on me.

749
00:39:52,880 --> 00:39:57,080
Speaker 1: I was cute as fuck. That dude is doing pretty good,

750
00:39:57,400 --> 00:40:00,200
Speaker 1: Yeah he is, And I'm doing pretty good for I'm

751
00:40:00,200 --> 00:40:03,239
Speaker 1: saying so, I guess I just I think it comes

752
00:40:03,280 --> 00:40:05,840
Speaker 1: back to I just want people to acknowledge and asked

753
00:40:05,880 --> 00:40:08,080
Speaker 1: me how I feel like I think that would have

754
00:40:08,080 --> 00:40:10,160
Speaker 1: solved a lot as being like Nikki, how do you

755
00:40:10,239 --> 00:40:14,120
Speaker 1: feel like it seems sad? What's going on? Lauren gets

756
00:40:14,760 --> 00:40:16,759
Speaker 1: that host has told Lauren that she should be a

757
00:40:16,760 --> 00:40:19,279
Speaker 1: model and looked at me and didn't say anything, and

758
00:40:19,320 --> 00:40:22,240
Speaker 1: I feel like it means I'm ugly instead of being

759
00:40:22,400 --> 00:40:24,160
Speaker 1: like I might have said that to them and they go,

760
00:40:24,520 --> 00:40:27,680
Speaker 1: just shut up. I'm not listening to this right now.

761
00:40:27,680 --> 00:40:31,160
Speaker 1: Shut up. That is so ridiculous. That's what I got,

762
00:40:31,200 --> 00:40:34,360
Speaker 1: other than well, tell me about that. That really seems

763
00:40:34,400 --> 00:40:36,880
Speaker 1: hard to feel that way about yourself. What do you

764
00:40:36,880 --> 00:40:39,600
Speaker 1: think that means about you? What? What? Like? I just

765
00:40:39,680 --> 00:40:41,160
Speaker 1: wish I would have had a little bit more of that.

766
00:40:41,360 --> 00:40:45,160
Speaker 1: But the gift is that now I can give that

767
00:40:45,200 --> 00:40:47,520
Speaker 1: to other because I've been through that. I can give

768
00:40:47,520 --> 00:40:49,880
Speaker 1: it to myself. I can talk that way to myself

769
00:40:50,640 --> 00:40:54,360
Speaker 1: because otherwise I'm lucky that I've done the work to

770
00:40:54,400 --> 00:40:56,560
Speaker 1: be like something's wrong here. I didn't get something as

771
00:40:56,560 --> 00:40:58,360
Speaker 1: a child, and I need to find it, and I

772
00:40:58,360 --> 00:40:59,720
Speaker 1: found it, and now I can give it to myself

773
00:40:59,760 --> 00:41:01,880
Speaker 1: more and other people could give it to me. And

774
00:41:01,920 --> 00:41:04,040
Speaker 1: also I can give it to other people. And so

775
00:41:04,120 --> 00:41:07,279
Speaker 1: maybe someone is listening to this, and maybe we'll hear

776
00:41:07,320 --> 00:41:09,160
Speaker 1: their kids say the same thing, and instead of going,

777
00:41:09,239 --> 00:41:12,840
Speaker 1: shut up, you're beautiful, they can go I felt that

778
00:41:12,880 --> 00:41:15,040
Speaker 1: way before, and it's really hard and I don't see

779
00:41:15,040 --> 00:41:17,480
Speaker 1: what you're talking about. And I think you're beautiful, But

780
00:41:18,120 --> 00:41:20,640
Speaker 1: tell me about how that makes you feel and and

781
00:41:20,760 --> 00:41:22,680
Speaker 1: some of your feelings and just like hold them and

782
00:41:22,760 --> 00:41:25,840
Speaker 1: let them cry instead of telling them. I agree. Like

783
00:41:26,000 --> 00:41:28,680
Speaker 1: I can't remember one time in my childhood where like

784
00:41:28,840 --> 00:41:31,680
Speaker 1: how are you like there were no conversations like that

785
00:41:32,000 --> 00:41:34,120
Speaker 1: because they were in their own head. They were dealing

786
00:41:34,200 --> 00:41:36,360
Speaker 1: with their any of this I don't want to hear. So,

787
00:41:36,480 --> 00:41:41,640
Speaker 1: you know what, I love talking about our feelings. Now

788
00:41:41,760 --> 00:41:44,439
Speaker 1: that's all we talk about. I know. I sometimes think

789
00:41:44,480 --> 00:41:46,839
Speaker 1: like my only thing is like for you, I'm like,

790
00:41:47,520 --> 00:41:50,680
Speaker 1: it's not about a day off from work or like

791
00:41:50,840 --> 00:41:53,319
Speaker 1: all that stuff. I just want sometimes I just wish

792
00:41:53,320 --> 00:41:55,600
Speaker 1: you had a day off from your own brain, like

793
00:41:55,680 --> 00:41:59,080
Speaker 1: I really and I know, um that's what I used

794
00:41:59,120 --> 00:42:02,440
Speaker 1: to do drug for and yeah that's drink. Let's get

795
00:42:02,440 --> 00:42:11,640
Speaker 1: to the news. Oh man, it's Thursday. You know what

796
00:42:11,680 --> 00:42:15,120
Speaker 1: that means. It is Thursday out there, and boy are

797
00:42:15,120 --> 00:42:21,000
Speaker 1: they having all the swells. Thursday means it's Thursday. Would

798
00:42:21,040 --> 00:42:23,839
Speaker 1: not be able to get there ourselves. I mean, look,

799
00:42:24,040 --> 00:42:27,439
Speaker 1: sometimes it takes a break. Funny that you just said

800
00:42:27,480 --> 00:42:30,960
Speaker 1: you wish I had a vacation from my brain, Like

801
00:42:31,200 --> 00:42:34,080
Speaker 1: that is so sad to me that my that a

802
00:42:34,080 --> 00:42:35,719
Speaker 1: friend of mine is just like I wish you just

803
00:42:35,760 --> 00:42:38,680
Speaker 1: like didn't have to be you for Yeah, pretty much,

804
00:42:39,080 --> 00:42:42,359
Speaker 1: that's pretty much when I'm saying, oh boy, but I

805
00:42:42,400 --> 00:42:44,960
Speaker 1: feel like I get what you're saying once every like

806
00:42:46,440 --> 00:42:52,239
Speaker 1: like I whatever, anyhow, but would I do that? Let's

807
00:42:52,239 --> 00:42:54,080
Speaker 1: get to the news. I think even on a beach,

808
00:42:54,200 --> 00:42:57,560
Speaker 1: you're getting like you're finding something wrong with the sam

809
00:42:57,600 --> 00:43:02,239
Speaker 1: Oh god, I hate the beach and the sun will

810
00:43:02,280 --> 00:43:05,040
Speaker 1: like highlight all of my spray tan areas that I'm like,

811
00:43:05,040 --> 00:43:08,360
Speaker 1: why can't I just accept my skin tone? And then

812
00:43:08,360 --> 00:43:10,080
Speaker 1: I get mad about a spin tone and then I

813
00:43:10,080 --> 00:43:13,080
Speaker 1: feel guilty about the guilt. No, we talked about the guilt.

814
00:43:13,320 --> 00:43:15,480
Speaker 1: I guess when you get your foot rubs, that's the

815
00:43:15,520 --> 00:43:17,360
Speaker 1: place where if you got a foot rub for twenty

816
00:43:17,400 --> 00:43:20,919
Speaker 1: four hours. Maybe that I know, and that goddamn foot

817
00:43:20,920 --> 00:43:27,160
Speaker 1: massager I bought socks, you know, one man's trash. Okay,

818
00:43:27,400 --> 00:43:32,480
Speaker 1: Virginia woman left hospitalized and hallucinating after venomous spider bites

819
00:43:32,520 --> 00:43:38,959
Speaker 1: her lip she was kayaking down. I forget what which lake,

820
00:43:39,120 --> 00:43:41,600
Speaker 1: But she was kayaking. She got bit by a spider

821
00:43:43,040 --> 00:43:47,120
Speaker 1: and it ended up being a brown reclusive, brown recluse

822
00:43:47,320 --> 00:43:51,200
Speaker 1: recluses those have you ever googled what those wounds look like?

823
00:43:51,800 --> 00:43:54,960
Speaker 1: They're like gunshots that looks like your mom's lips yesterday.

824
00:43:55,000 --> 00:43:59,040
Speaker 1: Oh my god, you have to scot the filler. Um Wow,

825
00:43:59,400 --> 00:44:02,600
Speaker 1: what's so? Was she camping and this spider just like

826
00:44:02,680 --> 00:44:06,520
Speaker 1: she was kayaking and then I guess the fighters probably

827
00:44:06,560 --> 00:44:09,360
Speaker 1: on the boat or on a tree and like dangled down.

828
00:44:09,680 --> 00:44:11,960
Speaker 1: I mean, so many times we get bit by bugs

829
00:44:11,960 --> 00:44:13,799
Speaker 1: and we're just like it's just a bug, you know,

830
00:44:13,920 --> 00:44:17,640
Speaker 1: and then like sometimes it's a fucking bug. So she

831
00:44:17,680 --> 00:44:20,919
Speaker 1: started hallucinating, hallucinating. I feel like I was hallucinating looking

832
00:44:20,920 --> 00:44:26,760
Speaker 1: at the picture. Yeah, black hole, so black ole lip.

833
00:44:27,560 --> 00:44:32,400
Speaker 1: I look at this your Oh honey, she looks like

834
00:44:32,440 --> 00:44:34,759
Speaker 1: she has like one of those mustache. She looks like

835
00:44:34,760 --> 00:44:38,200
Speaker 1: she has a mustache. It's like a like a like

836
00:44:38,239 --> 00:44:42,319
Speaker 1: a I don't know, accountant in the eighties isn't so

837
00:44:42,400 --> 00:44:44,960
Speaker 1: weird too? Like some spid Like there's very few, I

838
00:44:44,960 --> 00:44:48,879
Speaker 1: guess venomous spiders. But it's like God was just like, oh,

839
00:44:48,920 --> 00:44:51,839
Speaker 1: I'm gonna make this one a fucking badass, Like like,

840
00:44:51,920 --> 00:44:55,720
Speaker 1: why did this one get venomous? And daddy long legs

841
00:44:55,760 --> 00:44:57,720
Speaker 1: over there? It's like, can I get a little venom

842
00:44:59,400 --> 00:45:03,840
Speaker 1: daddy long like? I seriously would brown recluse. This is

843
00:45:03,880 --> 00:45:05,480
Speaker 1: what I hate about daddy long legs. They'll be like

844
00:45:05,600 --> 00:45:08,920
Speaker 1: click click click click click. They'll be like tapping along

845
00:45:09,160 --> 00:45:10,919
Speaker 1: and then all of a sudden, watch if go watch

846
00:45:11,000 --> 00:45:14,000
Speaker 1: the video on our YouTube for this demonstration, They'll be

847
00:45:14,040 --> 00:45:16,759
Speaker 1: like click click click click clack click click, and then

848
00:45:16,760 --> 00:45:19,120
Speaker 1: all of a sudden, they just go and they like

849
00:45:19,280 --> 00:45:21,640
Speaker 1: spread out on the wall and they're just like flat

850
00:45:21,719 --> 00:45:25,000
Speaker 1: on the wall, and I just hate that flatness. I'd

851
00:45:25,040 --> 00:45:28,279
Speaker 1: love to give him little shoes. I actually i'd love

852
00:45:28,320 --> 00:45:31,840
Speaker 1: to see them type Stephen King book on a typewriter.

853
00:45:31,920 --> 00:45:34,719
Speaker 1: Wouldn't that be fun? That would be adorable. But their

854
00:45:34,760 --> 00:45:37,800
Speaker 1: bodies are just these little dots. And then they daddy

855
00:45:37,840 --> 00:45:40,160
Speaker 1: lung legs are so gross. I just hate when they

856
00:45:40,160 --> 00:45:42,960
Speaker 1: go and they just like all they're like splay out

857
00:45:43,040 --> 00:45:46,439
Speaker 1: flat on like a sighting of an old house. I

858
00:45:46,520 --> 00:45:49,960
Speaker 1: hate it. I want them to stay likely. How are

859
00:45:50,000 --> 00:45:53,319
Speaker 1: there so many different things? What is our world? So

860
00:45:53,480 --> 00:45:55,719
Speaker 1: I don't even let my brain. Did you get bit

861
00:45:55,800 --> 00:46:00,279
Speaker 1: by brown recluse? Are you loosening right now? Brown eye clue?

862
00:46:00,360 --> 00:46:04,560
Speaker 1: So what did she What did she do? God seventh

863
00:46:04,600 --> 00:46:09,319
Speaker 1: things stretch fit it in. What did she do? She

864
00:46:09,640 --> 00:46:14,279
Speaker 1: she's dead? No, she lives. She went to the hospital. Um,

865
00:46:14,320 --> 00:46:16,319
Speaker 1: I mean, yeah, she was just hospitalized. It didn't really

866
00:46:16,320 --> 00:46:18,520
Speaker 1: go into the fact of like how fucked up she got.

867
00:46:18,560 --> 00:46:20,879
Speaker 1: The article wasn't that long. It just talked about how

868
00:46:21,000 --> 00:46:24,440
Speaker 1: she hallucinated and obviously she lived. But I think these

869
00:46:24,480 --> 00:46:27,920
Speaker 1: are these could be fatal. I would think being closer

870
00:46:27,960 --> 00:46:30,600
Speaker 1: to your brain because you can get um, you know,

871
00:46:31,200 --> 00:46:34,359
Speaker 1: leak into your like you can get infections from I mean,

872
00:46:34,360 --> 00:46:37,400
Speaker 1: these wounds are horrific. They look like just all of

873
00:46:37,440 --> 00:46:40,120
Speaker 1: a sudden, there's a sinkhole in your skin, Like it

874
00:46:40,239 --> 00:46:43,480
Speaker 1: just creates a giant hole that gets black and infect

875
00:46:43,560 --> 00:46:45,360
Speaker 1: It's so gross. I mean there's a time in my

876
00:46:45,400 --> 00:46:47,120
Speaker 1: life if I got bit by a brown or clues

877
00:46:47,320 --> 00:46:50,160
Speaker 1: and it was getting bad, I would just go, I know,

878
00:46:53,320 --> 00:46:58,680
Speaker 1: Scabi story, Yeah, I mean yeah, man, all right, next story.

879
00:46:58,760 --> 00:47:02,320
Speaker 1: Jake jyllen Hall says filming love scenes with Jennifer Aniston

880
00:47:02,960 --> 00:47:06,560
Speaker 1: was torture because he had a crush on her, So

881
00:47:06,640 --> 00:47:08,920
Speaker 1: she had to put an old pillow in between the

882
00:47:09,000 --> 00:47:14,680
Speaker 1: Genitalia before they started Home and the Good Girl. Yeah, yeah,

883
00:47:14,760 --> 00:47:16,960
Speaker 1: that movie is so good. She's great in that and

884
00:47:17,000 --> 00:47:19,920
Speaker 1: so is He was not like her first thing after Friends.

885
00:47:20,600 --> 00:47:23,360
Speaker 1: It was her first like dramatic. No, she did Pitch Perfect,

886
00:47:23,440 --> 00:47:27,239
Speaker 1: she did Um that one movie with Paul Rudd. She

887
00:47:27,360 --> 00:47:31,560
Speaker 1: did Um. There was a couple of that was like her.

888
00:47:32,080 --> 00:47:36,400
Speaker 1: She's the one that was her first, like Oscar Gras

889
00:47:36,440 --> 00:47:39,680
Speaker 1: Sandler did that one, the Punch Drunk Club. Yes, that

890
00:47:39,760 --> 00:47:42,839
Speaker 1: was her first, like dramatic role. She's great. And I

891
00:47:42,920 --> 00:47:44,879
Speaker 1: love that movie. That's a Mike White. That's the guy

892
00:47:44,880 --> 00:47:48,640
Speaker 1: that made White Lotus. He wrote that movie. It's so good.

893
00:47:49,360 --> 00:47:51,480
Speaker 1: I don't know if I've ever watched. I watched it.

894
00:47:51,560 --> 00:47:56,240
Speaker 1: I love it. She plays like a small town when

895
00:47:56,280 --> 00:47:59,839
Speaker 1: she was married to Um. What's this the guy John

896
00:48:00,040 --> 00:48:03,279
Speaker 1: See Riley who talks wait, hold on John's wait, I

897
00:48:04,000 --> 00:48:08,160
Speaker 1: can do an improtestion of John Riley used to be

898
00:48:08,200 --> 00:48:14,040
Speaker 1: able to hold that. South doesn't sound right at all.

899
00:48:14,280 --> 00:48:16,200
Speaker 1: Let's see, let's see what he actually No, don't don't

900
00:48:16,200 --> 00:48:17,680
Speaker 1: I know. I can hear it in my head and

901
00:48:17,680 --> 00:48:21,480
Speaker 1: I can't do it. But um, he's her husband, which

902
00:48:21,520 --> 00:48:24,960
Speaker 1: is just like right, and she has an affair with

903
00:48:25,000 --> 00:48:27,040
Speaker 1: Jake Jill and all, who's like this young guy who

904
00:48:27,120 --> 00:48:29,640
Speaker 1: she's like, I shouldn't be doing this, and like Jake

905
00:48:29,680 --> 00:48:31,920
Speaker 1: falls in love with her and it becomes a little torrid.

906
00:48:32,080 --> 00:48:34,960
Speaker 1: And that makes sense that he had to everyone has

907
00:48:34,960 --> 00:48:37,120
Speaker 1: a crush on jennif Ranson. I mean it's got to

908
00:48:37,200 --> 00:48:39,680
Speaker 1: be so. I mean he was talking about how there's

909
00:48:39,760 --> 00:48:42,560
Speaker 1: forty people in the room. The usually guys don't get

910
00:48:42,560 --> 00:48:44,920
Speaker 1: bonus because they're so nervous and it's just so not

911
00:48:45,080 --> 00:48:47,440
Speaker 1: sexual because they're acting, you know, they're doing a job.

912
00:48:47,560 --> 00:48:50,279
Speaker 1: I mean, why is it not just them too? And

913
00:48:50,320 --> 00:48:52,560
Speaker 1: the and the director goes, Okay, I'm gonna hit the camera.

914
00:48:53,280 --> 00:48:56,920
Speaker 1: I'm gonna hit record because it's it takes a lot

915
00:48:56,960 --> 00:49:02,520
Speaker 1: of people to make a production. Why because I'm not

916
00:49:02,560 --> 00:49:08,120
Speaker 1: trying to play camera action. Yeah, there's a lot of

917
00:49:08,600 --> 00:49:11,120
Speaker 1: what I'm saying, like, once you've set it up, like

918
00:49:11,160 --> 00:49:14,240
Speaker 1: this is set up, we don't need thirty other people

919
00:49:14,280 --> 00:49:17,640
Speaker 1: in here, Like what is going on here? Like why? Why?

920
00:49:17,920 --> 00:49:20,520
Speaker 1: I guarantee it could get rid of twenty five people.

921
00:49:20,960 --> 00:49:22,520
Speaker 1: It's like when you go buy a photo shoot in

922
00:49:22,520 --> 00:49:24,680
Speaker 1: New York City and there's a model and then there's

923
00:49:24,719 --> 00:49:26,960
Speaker 1: seven people, Like I don't know, for me, it would

924
00:49:27,000 --> 00:49:28,920
Speaker 1: make me more comfortable doing a sex scene if there

925
00:49:28,920 --> 00:49:31,680
Speaker 1: were more people there than just like one director, like

926
00:49:31,840 --> 00:49:36,320
Speaker 1: kind of like a threesome, Like, what's a good number

927
00:49:36,320 --> 00:49:40,800
Speaker 1: than eight? What are we talking about, legs, I'm getting

928
00:49:40,840 --> 00:49:47,920
Speaker 1: cornier by when we added um um yeah, that's but

929
00:49:48,040 --> 00:49:50,360
Speaker 1: that must have meant he was like he crushed on

930
00:49:50,400 --> 00:49:53,759
Speaker 1: are so hard that it was like he couldn't get

931
00:49:53,800 --> 00:49:56,840
Speaker 1: out of that, he couldn't separate the two. You know,

932
00:49:56,880 --> 00:49:58,800
Speaker 1: because I've heard a lot of times with these sex

933
00:49:58,800 --> 00:50:02,160
Speaker 1: scenes that you know, you don't get horny during them

934
00:50:02,160 --> 00:50:06,000
Speaker 1: because they're so you're just you're at work. I know.

935
00:50:06,080 --> 00:50:09,279
Speaker 1: It's like a weird line because it's because you want

936
00:50:09,360 --> 00:50:11,839
Speaker 1: them to you want the woman to think you're into her,

937
00:50:12,120 --> 00:50:14,640
Speaker 1: but at the same time not doing there like you

938
00:50:14,680 --> 00:50:17,279
Speaker 1: don't want it to seem too sexual. Yeah, it's gotta

939
00:50:17,320 --> 00:50:19,279
Speaker 1: be fucking tough unless you go to the partner and

940
00:50:19,320 --> 00:50:21,319
Speaker 1: be like, look, let's let's get it the funk on,

941
00:50:21,880 --> 00:50:24,560
Speaker 1: like we're hooking up. Well, then a lot of times, though,

942
00:50:24,640 --> 00:50:28,080
Speaker 1: like the people that are you know on set, doing

943
00:50:28,080 --> 00:50:31,239
Speaker 1: these romances, they do start hooking up because you make

944
00:50:31,280 --> 00:50:33,880
Speaker 1: out all day, You're like touching each other. It's like

945
00:50:34,760 --> 00:50:37,560
Speaker 1: that stuff leads to you make out with someone enough

946
00:50:38,440 --> 00:50:41,000
Speaker 1: you just start kind of maybe feeling things for them,

947
00:50:41,040 --> 00:50:44,319
Speaker 1: maybe like uh if you do it on camera and

948
00:50:44,400 --> 00:50:47,000
Speaker 1: you're like, really go for it. But then you kind

949
00:50:47,000 --> 00:50:49,840
Speaker 1: of feel like icky because you're like, wait, we're just

950
00:50:49,880 --> 00:50:51,759
Speaker 1: doing this for work. We might as well do it

951
00:50:52,080 --> 00:50:54,359
Speaker 1: for real, for real, you know what I mean, like

952
00:50:54,600 --> 00:50:57,040
Speaker 1: if you were, because it's like I already did it.

953
00:50:57,200 --> 00:50:59,600
Speaker 1: I already did it. Also, like it's not cheating. I

954
00:50:59,600 --> 00:51:02,480
Speaker 1: don't want to practice in a hotel room alone with

955
00:51:02,520 --> 00:51:06,040
Speaker 1: this person. Yeah, with just the director that they're like,

956
00:51:06,040 --> 00:51:08,640
Speaker 1: we only need to do to hold hands for the scene.

957
00:51:08,680 --> 00:51:13,160
Speaker 1: You're like, yeah, we wanted to um have anal just

958
00:51:13,280 --> 00:51:16,799
Speaker 1: to really get Nickelodeon. We're doing them. What's the technique?

959
00:51:16,880 --> 00:51:22,480
Speaker 1: The meisner? No there they Whenever I hear meisner, I

960
00:51:22,520 --> 00:51:24,920
Speaker 1: just see like my Jewish aunt being like, oh you

961
00:51:25,040 --> 00:51:30,640
Speaker 1: gotta act better. It's me here, Like that's all I hear. Like,

962
00:51:30,719 --> 00:51:32,920
Speaker 1: I just hear like an old Jewish woman yelling at me.

963
00:51:33,560 --> 00:51:36,360
Speaker 1: I don't know, I've I've done makeout scenes for like

964
00:51:36,440 --> 00:51:41,600
Speaker 1: acting before and it's you. I'm not good enough actor

965
00:51:41,719 --> 00:51:45,279
Speaker 1: to to separate the two, and so I the only

966
00:51:45,320 --> 00:51:47,120
Speaker 1: way I can act is to just like try to

967
00:51:47,160 --> 00:51:49,560
Speaker 1: get into this. And then because a lot of times,

968
00:51:49,560 --> 00:51:51,480
Speaker 1: even you know, back in my days, when I would

969
00:51:51,480 --> 00:51:53,439
Speaker 1: make out with someone or be hooking up with someone

970
00:51:53,440 --> 00:51:55,960
Speaker 1: that I didn't really like because it was in the

971
00:51:56,000 --> 00:51:59,880
Speaker 1: morning and it was I was sober at that's acting like,

972
00:52:00,000 --> 00:52:01,960
Speaker 1: I would seriously fake it till I made it. So

973
00:52:02,000 --> 00:52:03,960
Speaker 1: I would kind of pretend like I was an actress

974
00:52:03,960 --> 00:52:07,000
Speaker 1: and a thing and go like pretend I was a

975
00:52:07,040 --> 00:52:09,160
Speaker 1: porn star, just like get out of my own head.

976
00:52:09,200 --> 00:52:11,839
Speaker 1: By pretending I'm a character, and then by faking it

977
00:52:12,560 --> 00:52:15,440
Speaker 1: you make it. You end up like sometimes I like

978
00:52:15,760 --> 00:52:17,640
Speaker 1: can't have an orgasm, so I go, what would it?

979
00:52:18,680 --> 00:52:22,239
Speaker 1: What would it look like to have an orgasm? Or

980
00:52:22,280 --> 00:52:25,120
Speaker 1: like um act as if that's the thing that we

981
00:52:25,200 --> 00:52:28,200
Speaker 1: talk about in recovery A lot is like, Okay, so

982
00:52:29,080 --> 00:52:31,200
Speaker 1: you don't believe in God, why don't you just pretend

983
00:52:31,200 --> 00:52:32,920
Speaker 1: there is a god? Pretend like you're someone who does

984
00:52:32,960 --> 00:52:34,799
Speaker 1: believe in God. What would you do right now? Who

985
00:52:34,840 --> 00:52:36,680
Speaker 1: would you talk to? What would you say? Just pray

986
00:52:36,800 --> 00:52:39,120
Speaker 1: like you do believe even though you don't. What if

987
00:52:39,160 --> 00:52:42,080
Speaker 1: you did? And then you end up being able to

988
00:52:42,120 --> 00:52:45,839
Speaker 1: find that kind of thing and it goes somewhere though,

989
00:52:45,880 --> 00:52:49,520
Speaker 1: it goes somewhere inside you, if you so. Sometimes I

990
00:52:49,560 --> 00:52:51,839
Speaker 1: act as if I'm having an orgasm and I get

991
00:52:51,840 --> 00:52:53,920
Speaker 1: I have one, because a lot of times they elude

992
00:52:53,960 --> 00:52:58,200
Speaker 1: me so much. So sometimes maybe you try that, Yeah, yeah,

993
00:52:58,239 --> 00:53:00,920
Speaker 1: manifesting it a little bit. But like, just okay, I

994
00:53:00,960 --> 00:53:02,759
Speaker 1: can't have an orgasm right now? What if I was

995
00:53:02,800 --> 00:53:04,960
Speaker 1: a woman who could? What would it feel like? What

996
00:53:05,080 --> 00:53:08,520
Speaker 1: would if my vagina feels literally numb? But if I

997
00:53:08,520 --> 00:53:11,240
Speaker 1: could feel my vagina, what what would that woman feel

998
00:53:11,320 --> 00:53:14,040
Speaker 1: right now? And then it kind of happens. Well, sometimes

999
00:53:14,080 --> 00:53:18,279
Speaker 1: you could like train your brain into feeling, you know,

1000
00:53:18,400 --> 00:53:20,319
Speaker 1: like when you like there's certain parts of the body

1001
00:53:20,360 --> 00:53:23,560
Speaker 1: that has more sensation, like more feeling, more nerves, and

1002
00:53:23,640 --> 00:53:26,000
Speaker 1: sometimes your penis, you're vagina like kind of like dead,

1003
00:53:26,080 --> 00:53:28,000
Speaker 1: it's like not really connected to you. So you have

1004
00:53:28,040 --> 00:53:33,040
Speaker 1: to like like localize your thoughts. Oh man, Emily Sex

1005
00:53:33,080 --> 00:53:36,520
Speaker 1: with Emily. She taught me um when I was listening

1006
00:53:36,560 --> 00:53:38,520
Speaker 1: to a podcast of like when you're having sex and

1007
00:53:38,560 --> 00:53:41,200
Speaker 1: you're feeling really detached, like put your brain in your

1008
00:53:41,280 --> 00:53:43,800
Speaker 1: like really like only try to feel with your vagina.

1009
00:53:43,800 --> 00:53:46,799
Speaker 1: And sometimes I'm so tapped out of my genitals. I

1010
00:53:46,840 --> 00:53:52,680
Speaker 1: am like they are not in the room. I am.

1011
00:53:53,000 --> 00:53:55,480
Speaker 1: Sometimes I just don't you know what I mean. And

1012
00:53:55,480 --> 00:53:57,280
Speaker 1: then sometimes you go, oh my god, wait a second,

1013
00:53:57,360 --> 00:54:00,680
Speaker 1: let me just stop and like actually put all of

1014
00:54:00,680 --> 00:54:02,400
Speaker 1: the feeling in there and only feel down there, and

1015
00:54:02,440 --> 00:54:05,400
Speaker 1: then it's like, what the fuck? Whoa, I just flipped

1016
00:54:05,400 --> 00:54:08,360
Speaker 1: a switch. I mean, our brains are fucking wild. It

1017
00:54:08,719 --> 00:54:12,520
Speaker 1: is wild how you can really focus on like like

1018
00:54:12,600 --> 00:54:15,200
Speaker 1: that trick that we learned from Ben Glee. When you're cold,

1019
00:54:15,960 --> 00:54:18,879
Speaker 1: remember that your blood is nine point six degrees. There's

1020
00:54:19,080 --> 00:54:21,680
Speaker 1: something that's nearly a hundred degrees, which if it was

1021
00:54:21,800 --> 00:54:24,960
Speaker 1: that hot outside, you would be hot. It's pulsing through you.

1022
00:54:25,120 --> 00:54:27,440
Speaker 1: So when you're cold, focus on your blood and all

1023
00:54:27,440 --> 00:54:30,400
Speaker 1: of a sudden you start to feel warm. It's fucking trippy, dude.

1024
00:54:30,840 --> 00:54:35,160
Speaker 1: I mean, yeah, it's uh and it's yeah, I don't know.

1025
00:54:35,320 --> 00:54:38,800
Speaker 1: The generals are a weird thing, man. With me, it's

1026
00:54:38,640 --> 00:54:42,879
Speaker 1: it's a weird thing. No, just like the feeling of

1027
00:54:42,920 --> 00:54:45,600
Speaker 1: like I have to like sometimes they are in sex,

1028
00:54:45,719 --> 00:54:47,279
Speaker 1: I have to like I get it. I get I

1029
00:54:47,320 --> 00:54:49,680
Speaker 1: just think, I get like rebbed up, and then I

1030
00:54:49,760 --> 00:54:53,560
Speaker 1: get like, I get like a meditative state where like

1031
00:54:53,640 --> 00:54:56,520
Speaker 1: I don't feel You would think i'd be more present,

1032
00:54:56,600 --> 00:54:58,840
Speaker 1: but it's like when you're eating food when you're super

1033
00:54:58,920 --> 00:55:01,520
Speaker 1: hungry or supers you don't taste the food, you just

1034
00:55:01,600 --> 00:55:03,239
Speaker 1: chew it, and all of a sudden it's gone. You're like,

1035
00:55:03,840 --> 00:55:06,760
Speaker 1: what did I even just do? And there's sauces everywhere,

1036
00:55:06,800 --> 00:55:09,600
Speaker 1: and you go, did I were extra sauce I had?

1037
00:55:09,600 --> 00:55:11,879
Speaker 1: And it's like, I ate that when the fund did

1038
00:55:11,920 --> 00:55:17,600
Speaker 1: I eat that? It's the same thing when I Sometimes

1039
00:55:17,640 --> 00:55:21,080
Speaker 1: I see you or even myself eating and I'm like

1040
00:55:21,760 --> 00:55:26,759
Speaker 1: that person, you aren't even there's no enjoyment happening right now.

1041
00:55:26,800 --> 00:55:30,520
Speaker 1: It's not enjoyment. It's just stuffing a hole, which a

1042
00:55:30,600 --> 00:55:32,600
Speaker 1: lot of times sex is like you're not like you're

1043
00:55:32,600 --> 00:55:34,920
Speaker 1: not present. Okay, so the next time we have sex,

1044
00:55:35,160 --> 00:55:37,680
Speaker 1: not you and I together, next time we have sex,

1045
00:55:38,040 --> 00:55:41,400
Speaker 1: let's try to focus on like the feel of it.

1046
00:55:41,440 --> 00:55:43,200
Speaker 1: At some point in the middle of it, when we

1047
00:55:43,239 --> 00:55:47,520
Speaker 1: start to go thinking about like something else, the baseball game,

1048
00:55:47,920 --> 00:55:50,520
Speaker 1: what we're gonna eat later, or what we're not. We're

1049
00:55:50,520 --> 00:55:53,920
Speaker 1: going to shove into our faces later. Um use that

1050
00:55:53,960 --> 00:55:55,920
Speaker 1: as a reminder to go, wait a second. I'm let

1051
00:55:55,920 --> 00:55:57,840
Speaker 1: me just focus on my gen's and if you can't,

1052
00:55:57,880 --> 00:56:01,439
Speaker 1: just imagine a Jewish aunt going, come on, come on,

1053
00:56:02,000 --> 00:56:05,800
Speaker 1: use the miz nap. All right, let's take a break.

1054
00:56:06,120 --> 00:56:09,520
Speaker 1: We'll be back with our weekly sports moment. Here we go,

1055
00:56:09,960 --> 00:56:15,719
Speaker 1: your favorite time in the week. Here we go. It's

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Speaker 1: time for the weekly sports moment. Here's Andrew's weekly sports moment.

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Speaker 1: Oh boy, this one I think you might like. Okay,

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00:56:26,120 --> 00:56:30,840
Speaker 1: I hope you stay sitting down. Okay, Jaguars coach Urban Meyers,

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00:56:31,719 --> 00:56:34,479
Speaker 1: that's the thing that's on your arm. Okay. Urban Meyer

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00:56:34,800 --> 00:56:39,080
Speaker 1: says he's sorry for the distraction. Apology Okay, his team

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00:56:39,280 --> 00:56:41,919
Speaker 1: after video surface of him dancing with a woman who

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00:56:42,040 --> 00:56:46,239
Speaker 1: wasn't his wife, He caused a distraction. He's apologizing for

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00:56:46,280 --> 00:56:49,440
Speaker 1: the distraction. It cause I know he's getting grinded on.

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00:56:49,640 --> 00:56:53,440
Speaker 1: So he's essentially not grinding on her. His hand is

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00:56:53,520 --> 00:56:55,680
Speaker 1: he kind of looks like a quarterback under a center,

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00:56:56,239 --> 00:56:59,000
Speaker 1: Like he has his hand covering kind of his generals,

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00:56:59,000 --> 00:57:01,840
Speaker 1: but it's in her. But crap, is he like bent

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00:57:02,000 --> 00:57:04,759
Speaker 1: over like squatting almost well, he's sitting on a barstool.

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00:57:05,320 --> 00:57:13,359
Speaker 1: Oh okay, barstool like the sports Um, okay, we feel

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00:57:13,360 --> 00:57:15,760
Speaker 1: about that is a cheating if you're getting grinded on. Also,

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00:57:15,840 --> 00:57:20,840
Speaker 1: this is I'm sorry if your husband's can grind it

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00:57:20,840 --> 00:57:22,160
Speaker 1: on at a bar. Why is your husband at a

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00:57:22,160 --> 00:57:26,560
Speaker 1: bar like with women around dancing like time, this is

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00:57:26,640 --> 00:57:31,040
Speaker 1: just the one time I did that, babe, I mean

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00:57:31,320 --> 00:57:37,000
Speaker 1: it's insane. Um kids and his grandkids earlier that at

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00:57:37,040 --> 00:57:40,560
Speaker 1: a dinner, like yeah, like three minutes before that, dude,

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00:57:40,560 --> 00:57:44,560
Speaker 1: which is pretty badass um Um. I like that he

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00:57:44,600 --> 00:57:47,760
Speaker 1: apologized for the distraction it caused, Like, it's not about

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00:57:48,840 --> 00:57:50,960
Speaker 1: like I apologize to my wife. I'm sure he did

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00:57:51,000 --> 00:57:53,600
Speaker 1: that on his own time. And also we don't know

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00:57:53,680 --> 00:57:58,520
Speaker 1: the arrangement they have. It could be open. I mean, honestly,

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00:57:58,520 --> 00:58:00,960
Speaker 1: it could be. And if I were with this guy,

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00:58:01,040 --> 00:58:03,400
Speaker 1: I would not mind for the staff. And I don't

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00:58:03,400 --> 00:58:04,840
Speaker 1: know how I would feel if I was with the

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00:58:04,920 --> 00:58:07,440
Speaker 1: kids and the grand kids and everything and having to

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00:58:07,440 --> 00:58:09,600
Speaker 1: take care of that. But maybe my husband wants to

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00:58:09,640 --> 00:58:12,120
Speaker 1: go get a little ass on a bar stool, and

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00:58:12,200 --> 00:58:14,240
Speaker 1: maybe I was like, maybe i'd be like, I can't

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00:58:14,240 --> 00:58:17,360
Speaker 1: wait to watch TANZ sports later and see this, then

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00:58:17,480 --> 00:58:19,880
Speaker 1: fuck you because it's so hot. What do you think

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00:58:20,520 --> 00:58:25,000
Speaker 1: is it? Is it cheating if you're getting grinded, if

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00:58:25,000 --> 00:58:27,880
Speaker 1: you know, if it's you know, you can't say yes

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00:58:27,960 --> 00:58:29,400
Speaker 1: or no to these things, even though I just did.

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00:58:30,000 --> 00:58:34,600
Speaker 1: But it's like if if if a woman, I would

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00:58:34,600 --> 00:58:39,479
Speaker 1: say for most women in a monogamous relationship, that would

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00:58:39,520 --> 00:58:44,800
Speaker 1: be cheating. I mean I can't. Noah, please, I mean

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00:58:44,880 --> 00:58:46,960
Speaker 1: if you saw. I'm not saying that it's not. I'm

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00:58:46,960 --> 00:58:50,240
Speaker 1: just I'm just wondering what I would be appalled me

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00:58:50,320 --> 00:58:54,040
Speaker 1: to be some kind of uh explanation for sure. Okay,

1100
00:58:54,040 --> 00:58:56,480
Speaker 1: would you rather this? Would you rather him get grinded

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00:58:56,560 --> 00:59:00,400
Speaker 1: on like that in public? Or get a blowy in

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00:59:00,440 --> 00:59:03,680
Speaker 1: private where then you're not embarrassed because it's not in

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00:59:03,720 --> 00:59:07,520
Speaker 1: public and no one knows. Oh I don't. It's for me.

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00:59:07,640 --> 00:59:10,360
Speaker 1: It's more about my feelings that are hurt, not other people.

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00:59:11,960 --> 00:59:13,960
Speaker 1: But you're feeling would be hurt more by the more

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00:59:14,000 --> 00:59:16,400
Speaker 1: people that knew that your husband. I guess one is

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00:59:16,560 --> 00:59:21,040
Speaker 1: like an actual sexual act, so that uh would not

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00:59:21,120 --> 00:59:24,720
Speaker 1: bode well. But I don't know, like the guy could

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00:59:24,720 --> 00:59:27,560
Speaker 1: have stopped, like he could have stood up and walked

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00:59:27,560 --> 00:59:29,840
Speaker 1: away or something, or have been like, excuse me, any

1111
00:59:30,040 --> 00:59:34,320
Speaker 1: spaced grind in public blow I private. I'd rather didn't

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00:59:34,320 --> 00:59:36,880
Speaker 1: get a blow job in private, just because I'd rather

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00:59:37,080 --> 00:59:41,160
Speaker 1: hear about I think that's hotter and the public that

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00:59:41,320 --> 00:59:44,800
Speaker 1: makes Well. The thing is like when I if I

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00:59:44,840 --> 00:59:48,680
Speaker 1: ever get like into a relationship and I engage in

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00:59:48,680 --> 00:59:51,840
Speaker 1: this kind of the thing that I like, which is, yeah,

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00:59:51,880 --> 00:59:54,440
Speaker 1: the thing that I like, which is guy's kind of

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00:59:54,800 --> 00:59:57,200
Speaker 1: fooling around with other women and then telling me about it,

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00:59:57,480 --> 01:00:01,120
Speaker 1: I will I unless I'm out with it everyone about

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01:00:01,160 --> 01:00:05,000
Speaker 1: my open relationship. I'll feel embarrassed because I'm like, people

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01:00:05,040 --> 01:00:07,160
Speaker 1: are gonna think that you did. You're like sneaking around

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01:00:07,160 --> 01:00:09,880
Speaker 1: on me, and then I'm like not in control of them. Yeah,

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01:00:10,040 --> 01:00:13,960
Speaker 1: so I would be annoyed at that. But um, in general, Lake,

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01:00:16,360 --> 01:00:19,160
Speaker 1: I I would assume this guy, if you're getting grinded

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01:00:19,200 --> 01:00:22,520
Speaker 1: on at a bar by a random woman in front

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01:00:22,520 --> 01:00:25,720
Speaker 1: of thirty minutes after you're with your family, you're definitely

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01:00:25,720 --> 01:00:28,959
Speaker 1: getting blowtubs in private. Like it's it's one and the same.

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Speaker 1: I do think though, that, um, you should apologize to

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01:00:32,960 --> 01:00:37,640
Speaker 1: the Cardinals for the distraction the blow job and the

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01:00:37,680 --> 01:00:42,080
Speaker 1: sex you were having caused that team. Actually, you need

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01:00:42,120 --> 01:00:45,439
Speaker 1: to apologize to Brenna for the distraction the baseball game.

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01:00:47,240 --> 01:00:50,680
Speaker 1: Because you'd have in your sex look last night, things

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01:00:50,720 --> 01:00:54,360
Speaker 1: got out of control. I want to apologize not only

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01:00:54,440 --> 01:00:57,720
Speaker 1: to my lovely girlfriend Brenna, but to the whole organization

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01:00:57,760 --> 01:01:02,120
Speaker 1: of the Cardinals. I'm just a man, Okay, I'm just

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01:01:02,160 --> 01:01:05,160
Speaker 1: a man. Andrew Collins, just a man, that's all I am.

1137
01:01:05,240 --> 01:01:08,040
Speaker 1: And sometimes men do things that they don't even want

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01:01:08,080 --> 01:01:11,240
Speaker 1: to do. And I'm sorry about the distraction. I won't

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01:01:11,240 --> 01:01:14,240
Speaker 1: happen again. If it does happen again, I will take

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01:01:14,280 --> 01:01:17,760
Speaker 1: ownership again. I'm not blaming this on the team. I'm

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01:01:17,800 --> 01:01:21,880
Speaker 1: not blaming This is almost better than you when your

1142
01:01:22,040 --> 01:01:24,080
Speaker 1: mother night. You were showing me what it looks like

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01:01:24,840 --> 01:01:27,440
Speaker 1: when an athlete throws a ball versus when an actor

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01:01:27,640 --> 01:01:32,200
Speaker 1: being an athlete, and that wasn't even that was a

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01:01:32,240 --> 01:01:37,160
Speaker 1: better portrayal. I mean character, I really like this. I

1146
01:01:37,200 --> 01:01:40,960
Speaker 1: feel like men practic. You practicing your golf swing in

1147
01:01:41,000 --> 01:01:43,440
Speaker 1: the mirror is almost like you've been practicing that. You've

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01:01:43,480 --> 01:01:47,280
Speaker 1: seen it so much. We've seen apologies from athletes so

1149
01:01:47,360 --> 01:01:50,160
Speaker 1: many times. You just nailed that. Comedians I'm a man.

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01:01:50,320 --> 01:01:52,400
Speaker 1: I'm just a man, and if it happens again, I

1151
01:01:52,440 --> 01:01:55,200
Speaker 1: will take accountability, Like yeah, if no one else's fault,

1152
01:01:55,720 --> 01:01:58,640
Speaker 1: my own, if it happened, you know, I'd like to

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01:01:58,720 --> 01:02:02,959
Speaker 1: keep this private matter between wife and my family. And

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01:02:03,080 --> 01:02:07,040
Speaker 1: I'm ashamed. I never want to say it, but I'm

1155
01:02:07,040 --> 01:02:10,120
Speaker 1: also I'm dealing with some mental issues of my own.

1156
01:02:10,280 --> 01:02:14,000
Speaker 1: I try to keep it. Man of God, Man of God, Jesus. Oh,

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01:02:14,000 --> 01:02:17,880
Speaker 1: it's God's fault. Um. Oh, he's fine because he's a

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01:02:17,880 --> 01:02:20,200
Speaker 1: man of God. Never mind, we forgive him. Okay, let's

1159
01:02:20,200 --> 01:02:29,760
Speaker 1: get to fan thrack fitturing Ivy like in the living room,

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01:02:29,840 --> 01:02:36,080
Speaker 1: just doing that and no h just recording him. That's

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01:02:36,080 --> 01:02:43,080
Speaker 1: exactly how it happened. How many takes did he do? Um? He?

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01:02:43,200 --> 01:02:45,920
Speaker 1: I think he gave me like seven. Oh that's cool.

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01:02:46,840 --> 01:02:50,760
Speaker 1: That's nice. That's pretty good. We got it in one.

1164
01:02:51,280 --> 01:02:56,640
Speaker 1: Let's hear how love you to go track? It's really good?

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01:02:59,280 --> 01:03:01,919
Speaker 1: All right, let's t Fan tracks are a weekly fan

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01:03:03,000 --> 01:03:10,000
Speaker 1: letter voicemail dump. Okay, so our first one comes from Abby, Hey, Nikki, Noah,

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01:03:10,040 --> 01:03:13,120
Speaker 1: and Andrew. This is Abby. I just wanted to drop

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01:03:13,160 --> 01:03:16,400
Speaker 1: in and tell you this little story. So this um

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01:03:16,920 --> 01:03:19,360
Speaker 1: I am in the middle of taking yoga teacher training

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01:03:19,480 --> 01:03:22,240
Speaker 1: and this past week we had an anatomy lesson and

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01:03:22,280 --> 01:03:25,520
Speaker 1: the teacher brought in a skeleton and all I I'm

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01:03:25,600 --> 01:03:30,600
Speaker 1: thinking was and so I was kind of chuckling to myself,

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01:03:30,760 --> 01:03:32,680
Speaker 1: and the girl to do next to me asked what

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01:03:32,800 --> 01:03:35,080
Speaker 1: was so funny, and so naturally I had to tell

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01:03:35,120 --> 01:03:38,360
Speaker 1: her that my bestie, Nikki Lazer, has a hilarious joke

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01:03:38,400 --> 01:03:42,680
Speaker 1: about how skeletons are always smiling, which made her laugh too,

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01:03:42,760 --> 01:03:44,920
Speaker 1: And so thank you for helping me make a new

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01:03:44,960 --> 01:03:47,320
Speaker 1: friend um in a room full of thirty people that

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01:03:47,400 --> 01:03:51,440
Speaker 1: I had never met before. And also, I'm going to

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01:03:51,520 --> 01:03:54,280
Speaker 1: be at your Kansas City show this weekend, and I

1181
01:03:54,320 --> 01:03:58,520
Speaker 1: can't fucking wait. My husband just informed me that he

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01:03:58,640 --> 01:04:01,160
Speaker 1: got us meet and greet ticket because he knows how

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01:04:01,160 --> 01:04:04,040
Speaker 1: obsessed I am with you guys, and so I you know,

1184
01:04:04,080 --> 01:04:07,360
Speaker 1: I'm just so freaking pumped. I will see you guys

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01:04:07,400 --> 01:04:14,040
Speaker 1: this weekend. Bye. Oh my gosh, what's her name? Mandy, Abby? Abby? Abby?

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01:04:14,200 --> 01:04:17,000
Speaker 1: We're both way off. Abbey, will see you this weekend.

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01:04:17,000 --> 01:04:20,280
Speaker 1: That's so exciting. Oh my god, we gotta we gotta

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01:04:20,360 --> 01:04:26,160
Speaker 1: take a picture like skeleton. Yeah, yeah, or a little video. Um,

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01:04:26,200 --> 01:04:29,479
Speaker 1: I love that. Uh yeah, use any kind of joke

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01:04:29,600 --> 01:04:32,360
Speaker 1: I've made to be like, yeah, my friend did this

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01:04:32,440 --> 01:04:35,919
Speaker 1: joke and it's to make friends. That's a great idea. Also,

1192
01:04:36,000 --> 01:04:38,440
Speaker 1: it's like she's probably stretched out, she's in a class.

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01:04:38,800 --> 01:04:41,880
Speaker 1: The skeleton comes in and then she sees it and

1194
01:04:41,960 --> 01:04:44,760
Speaker 1: it's just like if someone laughs at the joke, you know,

1195
01:04:44,800 --> 01:04:46,960
Speaker 1: they're cool, Like you know, they get it and they're

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01:04:47,000 --> 01:04:50,040
Speaker 1: kind of weird and like they just yeah, instant friends.

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01:04:50,080 --> 01:04:54,680
Speaker 1: I see her turning one person. Especially in the yoga

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01:04:54,760 --> 01:04:57,400
Speaker 1: training class. People can kind of be too cool for schools,

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01:04:57,680 --> 01:05:00,200
Speaker 1: you know, just covering from addiction and they're like need

1200
01:05:00,280 --> 01:05:02,880
Speaker 1: something to sweat but without like a real dring. Oh

1201
01:05:02,920 --> 01:05:05,720
Speaker 1: my god, Well that's so cool. I'm always so like

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01:05:06,080 --> 01:05:09,680
Speaker 1: flattered that, like people who are like into yoga, like

1203
01:05:09,760 --> 01:05:13,200
Speaker 1: listen to the show because I'm so not. I mean

1204
01:05:13,320 --> 01:05:15,920
Speaker 1: I could really benefit from some yoga probably, but it's

1205
01:05:15,920 --> 01:05:19,480
Speaker 1: so slow for me. I need fast yogas. Wait, is

1206
01:05:19,480 --> 01:05:26,000
Speaker 1: there fast yoga Nasa? Oh? That's that Really it's NASA,

1207
01:05:26,280 --> 01:05:28,200
Speaker 1: but you could probably get even speedier. You can put

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01:05:28,160 --> 01:05:33,760
Speaker 1: it on two times. Yeah that's podcast. Um no, Abby,

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01:05:34,000 --> 01:05:37,040
Speaker 1: I'm so excited to meet you this weekend, and um,

1210
01:05:37,080 --> 01:05:39,600
Speaker 1: I love you can always tell when there's besties at

1211
01:05:39,600 --> 01:05:44,760
Speaker 1: the meet and greets versus just Reggie's. There's some great people.

1212
01:05:45,200 --> 01:05:47,480
Speaker 1: I never read that note from that one guy who

1213
01:05:47,520 --> 01:05:49,479
Speaker 1: gave us a note yesterday. I'll go get it. Yeah,

1214
01:05:49,560 --> 01:05:51,120
Speaker 1: one second, let me just go get a quick fan

1215
01:05:51,160 --> 01:05:53,000
Speaker 1: thrax that we got at the meet and great last week,

1216
01:05:54,640 --> 01:05:58,560
Speaker 1: this guy came up. He was wearing a Dustin Poirier

1217
01:05:58,680 --> 01:06:02,520
Speaker 1: shirt and uh so he was in you know, he

1218
01:06:02,600 --> 01:06:05,600
Speaker 1: was the bestie and uh he was so nice. He

1219
01:06:05,640 --> 01:06:11,000
Speaker 1: wrote as handwritten letters like oh yeah, he wrote, you

1220
01:06:10,440 --> 01:06:14,080
Speaker 1: are maybe well when you come here you'll read it.

1221
01:06:14,080 --> 01:06:19,120
Speaker 1: It was so nice and sweet. Oh I only have

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01:06:19,160 --> 01:06:21,200
Speaker 1: no H's. I don't have mine for some reading. All right,

1223
01:06:21,280 --> 01:06:25,200
Speaker 1: let's read Noah. I lost my own from this guy,

1224
01:06:26,480 --> 01:06:30,320
Speaker 1: but I do have Noah's car. Okay, when we put

1225
01:06:30,320 --> 01:06:32,360
Speaker 1: my head and thank you for being a crucial piece

1226
01:06:32,400 --> 01:06:34,240
Speaker 1: of something I look forward to every day. I always

1227
01:06:34,280 --> 01:06:36,480
Speaker 1: appreciate we put together in your perspective on things and

1228
01:06:36,520 --> 01:06:39,800
Speaker 1: your consistency and saying here's Nikki is something every person

1229
01:06:39,840 --> 01:06:42,840
Speaker 1: should aspire to obtain, whether it be their professional life

1230
01:06:42,880 --> 01:06:45,640
Speaker 1: or hobbies. Speaking of hobbies, your love of metal and

1231
01:06:45,720 --> 01:06:48,600
Speaker 1: jiu jitsu make you among the biggest badasses I know.

1232
01:06:49,040 --> 01:06:51,240
Speaker 1: B j j is something I'd like to start student

1233
01:06:51,280 --> 01:06:53,840
Speaker 1: myself presulian jiu jitsu, as I would love to be

1234
01:06:53,840 --> 01:06:56,400
Speaker 1: more knowledgeable on applications of what I watched every Saturday.

1235
01:06:56,480 --> 01:06:58,800
Speaker 1: The two line events I have tickets for are the show,

1236
01:06:59,080 --> 01:07:01,400
Speaker 1: this show, and you have two six eight next month,

1237
01:07:01,680 --> 01:07:03,800
Speaker 1: and I feel like that pretty much sums up my interest.

1238
01:07:04,080 --> 01:07:05,880
Speaker 1: I just adore all three of you because you guys

1239
01:07:05,960 --> 01:07:07,960
Speaker 1: keep me laughing and make me a better better as

1240
01:07:08,000 --> 01:07:10,640
Speaker 1: a person. Your attitudes and views inspire me to continue

1241
01:07:10,640 --> 01:07:13,120
Speaker 1: to work on myself and improve. I am indebted to

1242
01:07:13,160 --> 01:07:14,720
Speaker 1: all of you, and I wish you all the best

1243
01:07:14,720 --> 01:07:16,920
Speaker 1: in the world. Love you, bestie, all the swells, Derek,

1244
01:07:17,800 --> 01:07:22,200
Speaker 1: Oh my god, so freaking sweet. Noah was like covering

1245
01:07:22,240 --> 01:07:25,120
Speaker 1: her face the whole time. Isn't it so intense to

1246
01:07:25,160 --> 01:07:28,720
Speaker 1: get letters addressed to you? I feel the same way now.

1247
01:07:28,760 --> 01:07:30,960
Speaker 1: I was telling Andrew this other day that I honestly

1248
01:07:31,400 --> 01:07:34,640
Speaker 1: fan tracks. Every time you press play, I get a

1249
01:07:34,720 --> 01:07:38,160
Speaker 1: lump in my throat because I get nervous that I

1250
01:07:38,240 --> 01:07:41,760
Speaker 1: just can't stand all the like I the love feels

1251
01:07:41,800 --> 01:07:44,959
Speaker 1: too much, right, Yeah, I know we have to find

1252
01:07:44,960 --> 01:07:47,360
Speaker 1: like that perfect balance. I think that's been like the

1253
01:07:47,360 --> 01:07:50,680
Speaker 1: theme of the episode. I know all I want is love,

1254
01:07:50,880 --> 01:07:53,080
Speaker 1: and yet when I get it, I go no, no, no,

1255
01:07:53,120 --> 01:07:55,080
Speaker 1: I don't deserve that. Please don't give that to me.

1256
01:07:55,160 --> 01:07:59,840
Speaker 1: I'm I promise you. I'm ship that is so nice

1257
01:08:00,000 --> 01:08:02,680
Speaker 1: is the one to dust from dustin. Oh, this is

1258
01:08:02,720 --> 01:08:06,000
Speaker 1: from Maria. I also got a thing from Maria. I

1259
01:08:06,040 --> 01:08:07,680
Speaker 1: wasn't going to write you because I figured so many

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01:08:07,680 --> 01:08:09,320
Speaker 1: people do. Then I remember what you said on the

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01:08:09,320 --> 01:08:11,919
Speaker 1: pot about by a standard effect, everyone assumes everyone else

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01:08:11,960 --> 01:08:13,720
Speaker 1: is doing it. I feel compelled to write for so

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01:08:13,760 --> 01:08:17,519
Speaker 1: many reasons. I feel like we're swell mates. I like

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01:08:17,640 --> 01:08:21,240
Speaker 1: that I'm also vegan for the animals because I truly

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01:08:21,240 --> 01:08:23,360
Speaker 1: love them more than people. And I eat and eating

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01:08:23,360 --> 01:08:27,599
Speaker 1: meat is so kid. Speaking of Vegas, the most kid place,

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01:08:27,720 --> 01:08:30,280
Speaker 1: capital of kid but I do it for do love

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01:08:30,280 --> 01:08:33,080
Speaker 1: it here? This I got her, this note from Maria

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01:08:33,120 --> 01:08:36,719
Speaker 1: in Vegas. I'm from Canada, close to Niagara Falls, another

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01:08:36,880 --> 01:08:39,680
Speaker 1: kid place. Another thing that makes us swell mates is

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01:08:39,720 --> 01:08:42,200
Speaker 1: I also have a gay male bestie, just kidding. I

1272
01:08:42,200 --> 01:08:47,240
Speaker 1: know Andrew is straight, but like you, I sometimes wonder

1273
01:08:47,280 --> 01:08:49,880
Speaker 1: if I'm by women don't see capable of hurting women

1274
01:08:49,960 --> 01:08:52,760
Speaker 1: like men do. Lastly, here's what I admire the most

1275
01:08:52,800 --> 01:08:56,040
Speaker 1: about you. How transparent you are. Fuck is she calling

1276
01:08:56,080 --> 01:08:59,120
Speaker 1: me pale? Fuck? The negative? The negative losers on Reddit

1277
01:08:59,240 --> 01:09:02,519
Speaker 1: similar to you. I have struggled with um things and

1278
01:09:02,560 --> 01:09:05,519
Speaker 1: admittedly still do. You have helped me realize how fucked

1279
01:09:05,560 --> 01:09:08,320
Speaker 1: up the diet and exercise industry is. I have used

1280
01:09:08,320 --> 01:09:10,040
Speaker 1: a lot of your strategies and continue to do so

1281
01:09:10,120 --> 01:09:12,400
Speaker 1: in my battle. I just wanted to thank you. You

1282
01:09:12,400 --> 01:09:14,200
Speaker 1: are my Taylor Swift, and I mean that. I hope

1283
01:09:14,240 --> 01:09:17,440
Speaker 1: you enjoy the Smarties. Oh, this girl gave me Smarties

1284
01:09:17,479 --> 01:09:21,920
Speaker 1: from Canada. The um the chocolate treat that I love.

1285
01:09:22,000 --> 01:09:24,120
Speaker 1: That's like the Eminem's of Canada. So thank you so much.

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01:09:24,160 --> 01:09:25,680
Speaker 1: And I have a couple of notes also that I'm

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01:09:25,720 --> 01:09:27,360
Speaker 1: going to say for next week that people have given

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01:09:27,439 --> 01:09:29,280
Speaker 1: me in person. So if you want to write me

1289
01:09:29,320 --> 01:09:31,479
Speaker 1: a note in person for the meet and greet um,

1290
01:09:31,560 --> 01:09:35,880
Speaker 1: I will read those on the fan trax um eventually.

1291
01:09:36,040 --> 01:09:38,439
Speaker 1: So thank you so much, Maria and Derek. Let's get

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01:09:38,439 --> 01:09:40,680
Speaker 1: to some voice memos or some more voice memos if

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01:09:40,680 --> 01:09:46,120
Speaker 1: we have time. Yeah, Okay had written so nice see

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01:09:46,160 --> 01:09:52,799
Speaker 1: them writing it by candlelight. So this one comes from Kelly. Okay,

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01:09:53,600 --> 01:09:56,720
Speaker 1: I know Jukie, This is Kelly from Tennessee. UM. I

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01:09:56,720 --> 01:09:58,880
Speaker 1: wanted to start by saying how much I love all

1297
01:09:58,920 --> 01:10:01,000
Speaker 1: three of you and how much I love the podcast,

1298
01:10:01,080 --> 01:10:04,120
Speaker 1: so thank you for doing this every single day. UM,

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01:10:04,160 --> 01:10:07,880
Speaker 1: But I wanted to tell you about a mispronunciation that

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01:10:08,000 --> 01:10:10,880
Speaker 1: I had. UM. So, I was with a group of

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01:10:10,920 --> 01:10:13,760
Speaker 1: friends and there was a board game sitting on the

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01:10:13,800 --> 01:10:15,800
Speaker 1: table and I was kind of looking at it for

1303
01:10:15,840 --> 01:10:18,040
Speaker 1: a long time throughout the night as we were talking,

1304
01:10:18,120 --> 01:10:20,479
Speaker 1: and it had dark figures on it, but I was

1305
01:10:20,560 --> 01:10:24,880
Speaker 1: confused by the name of the board game. So anyway,

1306
01:10:24,920 --> 01:10:26,960
Speaker 1: once I finally one of my friends held it up

1307
01:10:27,000 --> 01:10:29,400
Speaker 1: to play it, I go, what the heck is codon

1308
01:10:29,560 --> 01:10:32,960
Speaker 1: MS And everybody looked at me. I started laughing so

1309
01:10:33,040 --> 01:10:36,799
Speaker 1: hard because the title of the game was code Names.

1310
01:10:37,560 --> 01:10:43,519
Speaker 1: I had no idea. I love one word, but it

1311
01:10:43,600 --> 01:10:47,840
Speaker 1: clearly said code names. Once they said that, love you guys,

1312
01:10:48,000 --> 01:10:53,760
Speaker 1: Thanks Candy. UM. Code Names is so fun. I've played

1313
01:10:53,800 --> 01:10:58,320
Speaker 1: it so many times. It's really fun. It's um It's

1314
01:10:58,320 --> 01:11:01,120
Speaker 1: a bunch of words that you put on like a

1315
01:11:01,200 --> 01:11:03,519
Speaker 1: board like five by five their cards and their words,

1316
01:11:03,560 --> 01:11:06,439
Speaker 1: and then you have each of words and you try

1317
01:11:06,479 --> 01:11:08,479
Speaker 1: to I try to get you to guess what the

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01:11:08,520 --> 01:11:12,679
Speaker 1: words are by so I have five cards that five

1319
01:11:12,720 --> 01:11:15,200
Speaker 1: of the cards that I have match five of the

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01:11:15,240 --> 01:11:18,400
Speaker 1: words on a board of like thirty words, and I

1321
01:11:18,439 --> 01:11:22,120
Speaker 1: want you to guess. I need to guess, get you

1322
01:11:22,160 --> 01:11:25,200
Speaker 1: to guess my five and by saying but I can't

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01:11:25,200 --> 01:11:26,600
Speaker 1: say the word, I have to say a word that

1324
01:11:26,720 --> 01:11:29,879
Speaker 1: might connect like three of you know, as many as possible.

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01:11:29,880 --> 01:11:36,400
Speaker 1: So if three of the words are coffee, um brab, bear,

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01:11:37,120 --> 01:11:43,000
Speaker 1: and uh garden, I might say brown, and then you

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01:11:43,080 --> 01:11:47,120
Speaker 1: might go, okay, brown is a bear, coffee is brown,

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01:11:48,040 --> 01:11:50,320
Speaker 1: maybe garden is brown. I don't know what I'm like

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01:11:50,520 --> 01:11:54,680
Speaker 1: black black bear, black coffee by black garden, like I'm

1330
01:11:54,720 --> 01:11:57,800
Speaker 1: trying to get but you might so you might say that,

1331
01:11:57,840 --> 01:11:59,960
Speaker 1: like she might say black old sun and then sound guarded.

1332
01:12:00,120 --> 01:12:01,840
Speaker 1: But I don't know if that's good enough, and I

1333
01:12:01,880 --> 01:12:03,760
Speaker 1: have to like look at you be like please know

1334
01:12:03,880 --> 01:12:08,600
Speaker 1: that I meant it's really fine. Final thought, let's do

1335
01:12:08,720 --> 01:12:13,760
Speaker 1: one more fan rax you yet. I don't know if

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01:12:13,760 --> 01:12:17,360
Speaker 1: there's tickets still available, but we're coming to des Moines can. Well,

1337
01:12:17,439 --> 01:12:21,160
Speaker 1: we'll be in De moin tonight. Yeah, right now, Kansas

1338
01:12:21,160 --> 01:12:24,400
Speaker 1: City and Chicago this week. There's two shows in Chicago

1339
01:12:24,520 --> 01:12:28,160
Speaker 1: seven o'clock and nine thirty, so make sure you know

1340
01:12:28,200 --> 01:12:32,559
Speaker 1: that and then but you might might be single tickets available,

1341
01:12:32,600 --> 01:12:36,879
Speaker 1: but Kansas City tomorrow and Friday, definitely you can tickets available,

1342
01:12:37,600 --> 01:12:40,479
Speaker 1: but definitely mean I think so okay. So this one

1343
01:12:41,120 --> 01:12:47,080
Speaker 1: an important message. Andrew Nolla and Nikki us is Maddie

1344
01:12:48,200 --> 01:12:51,120
Speaker 1: or so we just wanted to say it. And I'm

1345
01:12:51,160 --> 01:12:55,839
Speaker 1: so happy your dad is okay now and doesn't have cancer. Um,

1346
01:12:55,840 --> 01:12:58,439
Speaker 1: and I wanted to share my story because it's kind

1347
01:12:58,439 --> 01:13:03,240
Speaker 1: of weird, but I was diagnosed with thyroid cancer when

1348
01:13:03,320 --> 01:13:06,760
Speaker 1: I was really young. I was like twenty two or

1349
01:13:07,160 --> 01:13:12,960
Speaker 1: three in and I had no idea anything was wrong

1350
01:13:13,080 --> 01:13:18,320
Speaker 1: with me. And um, my regular doctor found a lump

1351
01:13:18,360 --> 01:13:22,240
Speaker 1: in my neck that I hadn't noticed and she felt it,

1352
01:13:22,960 --> 01:13:24,679
Speaker 1: you know how they feel your neck at the beginning

1353
01:13:24,800 --> 01:13:30,599
Speaker 1: of a physical checkup, and I got the lump diop seed.

1354
01:13:30,760 --> 01:13:33,920
Speaker 1: The doctor kind of brushed it off and told me

1355
01:13:33,920 --> 01:13:38,400
Speaker 1: it wasn't very likely that I had thyroid cancer. U.

1356
01:13:38,760 --> 01:13:41,640
Speaker 1: But yeah, it came back that I did and my

1357
01:13:41,720 --> 01:13:45,559
Speaker 1: thyroid was taken out. But I'm okay now, And yeah,

1358
01:13:45,560 --> 01:13:49,920
Speaker 1: it's really crazy how you're gonna have cancer and just

1359
01:13:49,920 --> 01:13:54,120
Speaker 1: have no idea because thyroid cancer goes very slowly and

1360
01:13:54,200 --> 01:13:57,920
Speaker 1: so I probably had that lump growing there for years

1361
01:13:58,320 --> 01:14:02,120
Speaker 1: and if my doctor had found it, I could be

1362
01:14:02,160 --> 01:14:05,320
Speaker 1: a way war sauce. So yeah, he sounds like the

1363
01:14:05,360 --> 01:14:09,120
Speaker 1: girl from Chasing Amy. Yeah, she has a great voice.

1364
01:14:09,280 --> 01:14:11,040
Speaker 1: I mean I thought it. I thought a seven year

1365
01:14:11,080 --> 01:14:16,040
Speaker 1: old stold her mom's phone. No, She's what a thing

1366
01:14:16,080 --> 01:14:17,920
Speaker 1: to go through at that young an age, and you

1367
01:14:18,080 --> 01:14:20,479
Speaker 1: never think in your early twenties that you're going to

1368
01:14:20,600 --> 01:14:25,280
Speaker 1: have are especially a type of cancer that you don't

1369
01:14:25,040 --> 01:14:27,680
Speaker 1: about the doctor kind of like I love when doctors like,

1370
01:14:28,240 --> 01:14:30,160
Speaker 1: probably not gonna And then they got to come back

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01:14:30,160 --> 01:14:36,000
Speaker 1: in and be like ship I was, you know, yeah yeah,

1372
01:14:36,120 --> 01:14:42,400
Speaker 1: and they were googling back in the s kitchen area. Yeah,

1373
01:14:45,000 --> 01:14:47,439
Speaker 1: they do always feel You're like when they're feeling, they

1374
01:14:47,600 --> 01:14:51,639
Speaker 1: like feel things, and you just are like apple, dude, No, No,

1375
01:14:51,720 --> 01:14:53,439
Speaker 1: I have like a real lump on there. But my

1376
01:14:53,520 --> 01:14:57,200
Speaker 1: dad felt it and he said it's like I know,

1377
01:14:57,240 --> 01:14:59,680
Speaker 1: as soon as she we started talking about cancer, I

1378
01:14:59,680 --> 01:15:01,559
Speaker 1: was like Gody Andrew is going to get scared here.

1379
01:15:01,600 --> 01:15:05,640
Speaker 1: You always the cancer stories, like my pinky started to

1380
01:15:05,760 --> 01:15:08,360
Speaker 1: hurt a little bit, and then I found out it

1381
01:15:08,439 --> 01:15:12,880
Speaker 1: was ankle cancer. Yeah, um no, I know. I mean,

1382
01:15:12,960 --> 01:15:17,960
Speaker 1: thank god, girl, but that's crazy. I wonder, um, how

1383
01:15:17,960 --> 01:15:20,439
Speaker 1: many more years you could have had that and it

1384
01:15:20,439 --> 01:15:23,080
Speaker 1: wouldn't have been like if it's very slow, And she

1385
01:15:23,120 --> 01:15:26,919
Speaker 1: said she would she's already had it for years. And again,

1386
01:15:26,960 --> 01:15:29,519
Speaker 1: like we were talking, I'm guessing she left this message

1387
01:15:29,560 --> 01:15:31,840
Speaker 1: after the other day when we were talking about like

1388
01:15:32,040 --> 01:15:34,599
Speaker 1: these appointments that you make to go get your cancers

1389
01:15:34,680 --> 01:15:38,280
Speaker 1: checked out, and it's like, okay, well, it's so funny

1390
01:15:38,280 --> 01:15:40,040
Speaker 1: because I tried to make an appointment. You remember the

1391
01:15:40,040 --> 01:15:42,080
Speaker 1: other day, we were like, let's make our doctor's appointments,

1392
01:15:42,200 --> 01:15:47,680
Speaker 1: called the place April April, and I go and I

1393
01:15:47,800 --> 01:15:50,640
Speaker 1: and I made them check before I gave them my

1394
01:15:50,640 --> 01:15:53,240
Speaker 1: insurance information. I go, I'll pay out a pocket, let's

1395
01:15:53,280 --> 01:15:55,400
Speaker 1: just get the let's get let's get the date. And

1396
01:15:55,479 --> 01:15:57,960
Speaker 1: then I go, okay, now, And I wasn't really going

1397
01:15:58,000 --> 01:15:59,120
Speaker 1: to pay at a pocket. I was just going to

1398
01:15:59,200 --> 01:16:01,160
Speaker 1: give them my insurance after they gave me the date.

1399
01:16:01,200 --> 01:16:05,800
Speaker 1: But that's ridiculous. I mean, what kind of doctor vagina

1400
01:16:07,200 --> 01:16:11,639
Speaker 1: April April, dude, what are these people doing? And how

1401
01:16:11,640 --> 01:16:15,479
Speaker 1: did you yesterday? I asked that are the doctor friend

1402
01:16:15,560 --> 01:16:18,360
Speaker 1: we have in the building if they could recommend anyone? Oh,

1403
01:16:18,400 --> 01:16:22,640
Speaker 1: that's good idea. Yeah. And then the person that came in,

1404
01:16:22,760 --> 01:16:25,200
Speaker 1: she was fantastic, but she was a nurse practitioner that

1405
01:16:25,280 --> 01:16:29,360
Speaker 1: looked over the doctor didn't even I was like, what's

1406
01:16:29,400 --> 01:16:32,519
Speaker 1: going on here? You see? That's what they said to me.

1407
01:16:32,560 --> 01:16:33,880
Speaker 1: They go, we can have a nurse to you when

1408
01:16:33,880 --> 01:16:37,240
Speaker 1: I go, I see nurses all the time in my building,

1409
01:16:38,080 --> 01:16:40,600
Speaker 1: and I don't want these people looking at me to

1410
01:16:41,240 --> 01:16:44,280
Speaker 1: check for cervical cancer. No, no offense to nurses. I'm

1411
01:16:44,280 --> 01:16:46,880
Speaker 1: sure nurse practitioners they pretty much like I know as

1412
01:16:46,960 --> 01:16:50,519
Speaker 1: much as the doctor. Just trust me. But you know,

1413
01:16:50,680 --> 01:16:53,800
Speaker 1: I'm I want you just why do we have doctors then,

1414
01:16:55,400 --> 01:16:59,320
Speaker 1: you know, for peace of mind? Nurses? Yeah? It's um,

1415
01:16:59,320 --> 01:17:01,599
Speaker 1: it's it was. It was. It's an interesting I mean

1416
01:17:01,720 --> 01:17:06,320
Speaker 1: April that's and they say it was, oh, this was great.

1417
01:17:06,360 --> 01:17:08,840
Speaker 1: So I go they're like, oh, so you're you look good.

1418
01:17:09,280 --> 01:17:13,320
Speaker 1: This one about the ear thing, it was something like

1419
01:17:13,960 --> 01:17:17,639
Speaker 1: it sounded grosser in cancer. You ever get that. It's like, oh,

1420
01:17:17,760 --> 01:17:21,640
Speaker 1: it's a scapy itis, a certain tipidus your ears disgusting.

1421
01:17:21,920 --> 01:17:24,160
Speaker 1: I go, okay, can you just tell me how that

1422
01:17:24,479 --> 01:17:27,120
Speaker 1: what you had? It's like, uh, I've heard of it before.

1423
01:17:27,160 --> 01:17:29,599
Speaker 1: I know exactly like there's a really gross word. Oh

1424
01:17:29,720 --> 01:17:32,160
Speaker 1: and then they like describe. I was like enough and

1425
01:17:32,360 --> 01:17:35,000
Speaker 1: digg wood could be. I get it. It's not dig

1426
01:17:35,120 --> 01:17:36,960
Speaker 1: with the girl's bigger. We can take it off. Did

1427
01:17:36,960 --> 01:17:41,040
Speaker 1: they say, You're just like it's from like not showering. No,

1428
01:17:41,240 --> 01:17:43,000
Speaker 1: it's not like a weird growth, because I've heard of

1429
01:17:43,040 --> 01:17:44,720
Speaker 1: that of like not shower but like a fung. Oh. No.

1430
01:17:44,760 --> 01:17:50,040
Speaker 1: They asked me if I was German, and I go, well, okay, uh,

1431
01:17:50,240 --> 01:17:53,120
Speaker 1: maybe we should get the doctor in here because no, no, no,

1432
01:17:53,120 --> 01:17:55,439
Speaker 1: I said I was from Eastern Europe jew And they're like,

1433
01:17:55,520 --> 01:18:01,120
Speaker 1: oh yeah, these kind of skin conditions in that region. Yeah, alright,

1434
01:18:01,920 --> 01:18:04,120
Speaker 1: So then they go. Then the they get done and

1435
01:18:04,160 --> 01:18:06,479
Speaker 1: they're like, how's a year from now? And then you

1436
01:18:06,560 --> 01:18:11,559
Speaker 1: check out and then goes okay, how's October uh six

1437
01:18:12,479 --> 01:18:17,519
Speaker 1: Wednesday around? I'm like, yeah, yeah, you go work perfect.

1438
01:18:17,680 --> 01:18:19,759
Speaker 1: The only things that are scheduled that far in advance.

1439
01:18:19,800 --> 01:18:22,240
Speaker 1: Our weddings, Like that's the only thing where you're like,

1440
01:18:22,280 --> 01:18:25,160
Speaker 1: I might have I've saved this date for something else,

1441
01:18:25,600 --> 01:18:31,040
Speaker 1: nothing like we might be underwater by that. What are

1442
01:18:31,040 --> 01:18:35,639
Speaker 1: you talking about? It's crazy sometimes the dates for these things.

1443
01:18:35,680 --> 01:18:37,800
Speaker 1: I go, they go, oh, your special is coming out

1444
01:18:37,840 --> 01:18:42,479
Speaker 1: and you know at whatever it is, and like just go,

1445
01:18:43,320 --> 01:18:45,880
Speaker 1: We're not even gonna be around. What are you talking about?

1446
01:18:46,320 --> 01:18:48,360
Speaker 1: That's not a real date. Why do we even the

1447
01:18:48,400 --> 01:18:50,559
Speaker 1: calendar shouldn't even go that far. We should just be

1448
01:18:50,680 --> 01:18:54,360
Speaker 1: like penciling in calendar. It should be a there shouldn't

1449
01:18:54,360 --> 01:18:56,720
Speaker 1: be calendars being made to last that long. But this

1450
01:18:56,800 --> 01:18:59,719
Speaker 1: is the problem, because this is why you're till April,

1451
01:18:59,760 --> 01:19:03,639
Speaker 1: because people are have already scheduled so so many people

1452
01:19:03,640 --> 01:19:07,799
Speaker 1: A people filling up these schedules. Let's just why aren't

1453
01:19:07,800 --> 01:19:11,280
Speaker 1: walkins welcome exactly? Well, there are in urgent care, but

1454
01:19:11,320 --> 01:19:12,840
Speaker 1: you don't want to go to an urgent care. Why.

1455
01:19:13,160 --> 01:19:15,240
Speaker 1: I've been to urgent care for so many things and

1456
01:19:15,280 --> 01:19:18,840
Speaker 1: it's been like boom boom, get looked at by an

1457
01:19:18,920 --> 01:19:22,479
Speaker 1: urgent care doctor. You see what happens. I don't know

1458
01:19:22,520 --> 01:19:25,200
Speaker 1: if that happens. I don't think they do, Like like

1459
01:19:25,520 --> 01:19:28,120
Speaker 1: a generic checkups at the like O B g N

1460
01:19:29,320 --> 01:19:31,599
Speaker 1: for you. The woman by the way, when I tried

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01:19:31,640 --> 01:19:35,320
Speaker 1: to do the O O B by N, they go,

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01:19:35,800 --> 01:19:38,600
Speaker 1: are you, um, is this for like um pregnancy? And

1463
01:19:38,640 --> 01:19:41,439
Speaker 1: I'm like, well, I'll have If it was, my baby

1464
01:19:41,479 --> 01:19:45,360
Speaker 1: would be born by April talking this is ridiculous. It

1465
01:19:45,360 --> 01:19:47,559
Speaker 1: would already be in preschool, it would be driving. You

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01:19:47,560 --> 01:19:51,000
Speaker 1: know what, I'll hold off. I'll tell the baby to

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Speaker 1: chill out, like and you're like, you're on your fifth

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01:19:54,880 --> 01:19:59,200
Speaker 1: week of maybe thinking you're pregnant. You right, April, No,

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Speaker 1: I need to just done within six days or my

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01:20:01,880 --> 01:20:05,040
Speaker 1: life is over red tape. Well, this is the thing

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Speaker 1: I think, because so many people schedule a year ahead,

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Speaker 1: all the schedules filled up with people from ten months

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01:20:11,120 --> 01:20:14,280
Speaker 1: ago that might cancel that day. Also, like also think

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01:20:14,280 --> 01:20:17,360
Speaker 1: about COVID and have backed up the system is all

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Speaker 1: the people who avoided appointments. Yeah, I mean, I just

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01:20:21,439 --> 01:20:25,120
Speaker 1: don't think there are enough doctors to see us all. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: I mean, yeah, I gotta. But the thing is, it's

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01:20:29,400 --> 01:20:31,679
Speaker 1: really weird when one doctor is backed up till April

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01:20:31,680 --> 01:20:33,120
Speaker 1: and then you call another doctor and they're like, yeah,

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01:20:33,160 --> 01:20:34,760
Speaker 1: we can give you in at a two pm today

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01:20:34,760 --> 01:20:39,960
Speaker 1: and are bad. You're a bad doctor, right, Like why

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01:20:40,000 --> 01:20:43,800
Speaker 1: are you alone? There's gonna be some difference here, Yeah,

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01:20:43,840 --> 01:20:46,760
Speaker 1: there's gotta be that's yeah, yeah, yeah yeah. I Mean

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Speaker 1: that's why these people I kind of felt good about

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01:20:48,840 --> 01:20:52,240
Speaker 1: because they gave me November. Yeah initially I'm going to

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01:20:52,520 --> 01:20:54,560
Speaker 1: so I got in at an obi dr fist is

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Speaker 1: gonna really doctor O B y g N doesn't feel

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01:20:59,160 --> 01:21:03,920
Speaker 1: like one of those I test. Just whenever I hear that,

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01:21:03,960 --> 01:21:06,320
Speaker 1: I just think of an eye test, like oh, like

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01:21:06,800 --> 01:21:08,760
Speaker 1: the letters are just like I always think of like

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01:21:09,160 --> 01:21:11,800
Speaker 1: a gym, like you got you like you think like

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01:21:11,840 --> 01:21:15,719
Speaker 1: the ob gym, like you're going in. And I remember

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01:21:15,760 --> 01:21:17,320
Speaker 1: Tommy JOHNA gant at a joke that one time as

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01:21:17,360 --> 01:21:19,080
Speaker 1: a young boy was going into the doctor and he

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01:21:19,160 --> 01:21:22,080
Speaker 1: went to an OB gay and he like literally like

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01:21:22,240 --> 01:21:24,360
Speaker 1: signed up and like he was just sitting in the

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01:21:24,400 --> 01:21:26,680
Speaker 1: waiting room with all these women, just like very confused.

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Speaker 1: And I was like, you probably went in because you

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Speaker 1: thought it was like a gym, Like you thought it

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01:21:30,040 --> 01:21:32,160
Speaker 1: was like for boy, like a boy getting a physical

1501
01:21:32,240 --> 01:21:35,280
Speaker 1: for your sports. And you were like, oh, because I

1502
01:21:35,320 --> 01:21:36,519
Speaker 1: think that's what it was. And he was like, I

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01:21:36,600 --> 01:21:39,240
Speaker 1: think that probably was it. Well when they asked him

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01:21:39,240 --> 01:21:43,360
Speaker 1: to cough and they're like you have a penis? Or

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01:21:43,760 --> 01:21:46,880
Speaker 1: he's like you do you want me cough? Is there

1506
01:21:46,920 --> 01:21:49,400
Speaker 1: a pussy and you don't have a pussy, sir, And

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01:21:49,760 --> 01:21:52,720
Speaker 1: I'm nine, why am I here? Like what is he doing?

1508
01:21:52,800 --> 01:21:54,080
Speaker 1: Like I think you were filling up the form and

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01:21:54,120 --> 01:21:56,720
Speaker 1: said the date of your last period and he was

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01:21:56,760 --> 01:22:00,680
Speaker 1: like when I wrote a sentence yesterday. Um, all right,

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01:22:00,760 --> 01:22:02,719
Speaker 1: we gotta go. Thank you so much for the fan trax.

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01:22:02,760 --> 01:22:05,840
Speaker 1: I'm so glad you are alive and well. Kelly. I

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01:22:05,880 --> 01:22:08,240
Speaker 1: think it was Kelly that gives the advice. Um, I

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Speaker 1: pretty much. The advice is go to the doctor, let

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01:22:10,560 --> 01:22:13,840
Speaker 1: them check your neck and and follow up on things

1516
01:22:13,880 --> 01:22:17,599
Speaker 1: that people think might be suspicious and trust your gut.

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01:22:18,360 --> 01:22:21,240
Speaker 1: And thank you to everyone else that's send into fantax,

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01:22:21,280 --> 01:22:23,799
Speaker 1: and especially for the handwritten notes. I'll see you this weekend,

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01:22:24,160 --> 01:22:27,880
Speaker 1: um Abbey in Kansas City and maybe I'll see some

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Speaker 1: other besties. Ticket still available for those shows and a

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Speaker 1: lot of dates on the books. Um, thank you so

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Speaker 1: much for listening to show you guys. We will see

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Speaker 1: you on Monday on the Nikki Lazer podcast. Don't be