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Speaker 1: I forced my family to stop drinking, but wasn't ready

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Speaker 1: for their reaction.

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Speaker 2: What was it just being sober doing crack? Yeah, you

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Speaker 2: stop drinking. Okay, we're gonna start doing heroin taketh we

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Speaker 2: give it worse.

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Speaker 1: My husband's family loves to drink good, good, good at that.

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Speaker 1: My sister hates it. Every holiday includes multiple bottles of

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Speaker 1: wine slash cocktails. I hate drinking. I never drank because

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Speaker 1: my father was an alcoholic. Understandable, and I think it's

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Speaker 1: childish if you can't have fun without drinking. We're on

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Speaker 1: the border there, we're on the border. This year, I'm

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Speaker 1: hosting Christmas for a change, and I decided since it's

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Speaker 1: at my house, no alcohol allowed, as we are all

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Speaker 1: getting older and it's time to grow up. Okay, it's

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Speaker 1: hard because, like, at the end of the day, the

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Speaker 1: alcohol is like it's just a societal thing. Yeah it's

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Speaker 1: not really yeah, but yeah, but like that's also we

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Speaker 1: could do that, but just expect people like to not

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Speaker 1: want to go. That's true, you know, like that you

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Speaker 1: can do whatever you want, but get ready for the reaction. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: that's the reaction you want to come. My husband's sister

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Speaker 1: called to ask what she could bring. She saw a

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Speaker 1: recipe for a Christmas Martini that she wanted to bring.

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Speaker 1: I told her about the no alcohol rule. She didn't

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Speaker 1: say much, but must have told the rest of the family,

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Speaker 1: which I thought you had already told them. Yeah, ready

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Speaker 1: for there to be a rule, you have to tell them.

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Speaker 1: Some of them started texting me asking me if I

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Speaker 1: was serious and saying that it's lame, but I'm not budgeting.

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Speaker 2: Okay, well, you might have like a coup going on

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Speaker 2: with this Christmas party. Someone else creates an alcohol Christmas party.

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Speaker 1: You know, this might be a Christmas for one this year.

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Speaker 1: Imagine imagine her husband is like, sounds like sicker. I

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Speaker 1: saw that martini recipe and that she is slashed. So sorry.

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Speaker 1: Now it turns out my husband's sister is hosting an

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Speaker 1: alternate gathering for almost everyone that has chose to go

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Speaker 1: to it instead. It's so disrespectful because all they would

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Speaker 1: have to do is spend one day sober. My husband

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Speaker 1: told me that he talked to his sister and we

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Speaker 1: are invited to her gathering, and he said that we

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Speaker 1: should just go and stop causing issues. But I won't

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Speaker 1: because it's so rude. Now my husband is mad because

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Speaker 1: I'm making him stay home and spend Christmas.

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Speaker 2: With me at the lame party.

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Speaker 1: But it's mine turn to host, and I chose to

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Speaker 1: have no alcohol, and they could have just dealt with

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Speaker 1: it for.

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Speaker 2: One year, okay. I mean it's like, you don't have

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Speaker 2: to drink, right, you don't have to drink, but you

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Speaker 2: also you can't expect. You can't expect to just control

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Speaker 2: what everyone else is doing, especially on like a like

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Speaker 2: a Christmas holiday.

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Speaker 1: I think OP should say, like, look, here's the situation.

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Speaker 1: My father is alcoholic. I don't really want to be

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Speaker 1: surrounded by alcohol. And then the other side of the

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Speaker 1: family should be like, okay, like you know what, maybe

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Speaker 1: we either like I mean the most reason, like I

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Speaker 1: wouldn't care personally, but I guess maybe a middle ground

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Speaker 1: is like Okay, let's just like not be like making

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Speaker 1: Martinez and get like really, let's just like, looky, I

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Speaker 1: don't know.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, maybe that's it's tough. I mean, like it tough.

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Speaker 2: It's tough.

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Speaker 1: If someone has a lot of trauma around alcohol, then

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Speaker 1: that's that could be a lot.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I under yeah, I understand that.

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Speaker 1: Like I imagine if uh Op was.

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Speaker 2: A yeah, it was an alcohol You see that, and

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Speaker 2: that's then like okay, like it sucks for the rest

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Speaker 2: of the family, but it's kind of like, you know, yeah,

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Speaker 2: I feel like if that that was the case, I

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Speaker 2: would you have to explain the reason why, because then

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Speaker 2: you just sound just like didn't just be like, oh,

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Speaker 2: you're just being lame.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, exactly explain the reason and have like a conversation.

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Speaker 2: Yeah. It doesn't even sound like she like even gave

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Speaker 2: them a heads up on the rules either.

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Speaker 1: Which is like, if you have a like, if you

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Speaker 1: have a rule, how do you expect everyone's going to

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Speaker 1: show up with alcohol as you didn't tell them?

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Speaker 2: Ridiculous