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Speaker 3: I managed to outsmart my brother's fiance. Now her wedding

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Speaker 3: scheme's backfired on her. I'm currently in medical school and

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Speaker 3: live across the country from my brother family. I was

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Speaker 3: surprised when his fiance asked me to be a bridesmaid

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Speaker 3: because I barely know her, but she wants to have

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Speaker 3: all siblings in the wedding. By the way, this comes

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Speaker 3: Ever in it so, I made it clear that their

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Speaker 3: wedding was during my final exam week, and while I

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Speaker 3: was able to get an accommodation to take my last

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Speaker 3: two exams early, I still wouldn't be able to help

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Speaker 3: much with planning or being present at things like a

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Speaker 3: bachelorette party or bridal shower.

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Speaker 1: She said this was fine.

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Speaker 3: It would mostly just be to have an even number

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Speaker 3: of bridesmaids to groomsmen and for pictures. There's a group

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Speaker 3: chat that was created months ago that I would read

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Speaker 3: through every couple of days to get updates on things

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Speaker 3: I needed to do, namely to order a bridesmaid dress

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Speaker 3: links percent with three styles to choose from, and we

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Speaker 3: would be updated on colors later. So a couple weeks

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Speaker 3: go by and I ask what color to order? Bride

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Speaker 3: says she's still thinking about it. A couple more weeks

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Speaker 3: go by and she's still thinking about it. Then a

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Speaker 3: couple more weeks you get the idea. Now it's at

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Speaker 3: the point that if I don't order this dress in

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Speaker 3: a couple of days, it won't be here in time.

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Speaker 3: So I ask on Saturday what color? No response in

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Speaker 3: the group chat to me. I asked again yesterday Sunday,

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Speaker 3: what color do I need to order? Then I'm flooded

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Speaker 3: with messages lambasting me for not ordering a dress yet

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Speaker 3: from her sisters and my sister and her. My sister

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Speaker 3: called me told me to get my crap together and

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Speaker 3: order a dress already because my lack of preparedness is

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Speaker 3: causing the bride into anxiety because she doesn't think my

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Speaker 3: dress will be here on time for the wedding. She

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Speaker 3: texted me this morning.

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Speaker 1: Don't forget to order your dress.

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Speaker 3: Love you with smiling and kissing emojis. Still no one

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Speaker 3: had told me what color. I've scoured the group chat

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Speaker 3: for a mention of dress colors or an image of

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Speaker 3: a dress, but only the maid of honors sent a

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Speaker 3: photo of her dress, and I don't know if she

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Speaker 3: has a special color. There's thousands of messages, so it's

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Speaker 3: not simple to find anything. Everyone else can meet in person,

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Speaker 3: so I assume the decision on color was related in person.

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Speaker 3: I can't tell if I'm being purposely excluded. About an

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Speaker 3: hour ago, my brother called me, pleading with me to

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Speaker 3: work things out with the bride because she's panicking about me.

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Speaker 3: I tried to explain this to him, and he told

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Speaker 3: me he doesn't care. It's a petty lady's issue, and

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Speaker 3: since I'm not there for anything else, this is the

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Speaker 3: least I can do. Because the bride thinks I don't

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Speaker 3: like her because I wouldn't come to anything, he's taking

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Speaker 3: her side. They know I'm in medical school, I have

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Speaker 3: literally no say in my schedule, and I'm on the

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Speaker 3: by play and you freaking told them that you wouldn't

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Speaker 3: be able to be a part of anything exactly. I'm

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Speaker 3: fed up with them and contemplating telling my instructors the

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Speaker 3: wedding was moved and I will take my exams at

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Speaker 3: the regular time. I'd have more time to study that way. Anyway,

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Speaker 3: I haven't told anyone in my family. I'm considering this.

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Speaker 3: Would I be the ale? I called my mother and

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Speaker 3: asked her what the color for the bride'smaid dresses are.

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Speaker 3: She said, lavender, cool, easy, Okay. The only color option

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Speaker 3: on the website that I would call lavender are named pearly, lilac, periwinkle,

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Speaker 3: and orchid purple. I text the maid of honor bride's

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Speaker 3: sister to ask what dress color and got a multi

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Speaker 3: paragraph long lecture about not having ordered my dress yet.

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Speaker 1: Ah, oh my gosh.

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Speaker 3: Basically, they're trying so hard to accommodate me being across

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Speaker 3: said she didn't remember the shade name, but it's a

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Speaker 3: dusty purple, then sent a blurry picture of a wrinkled

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Speaker 3: order confirmation. The shade name was mulberry on the dress website.

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Speaker 3: That is a darker wine purple cle I told her this,

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Speaker 3: and she said to order the light light or dusty

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Speaker 3: purple color. I sent her a screen shot with a

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Speaker 3: list of shade names and asked which of these. She

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Speaker 3: different shades from the website. So I sent screenshots of

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Speaker 3: all the light purple colors. No response for a while,

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Speaker 3: so I called her on the phone, which she was

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Speaker 3: upset about because it's past ten pm over there now.

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Speaker 3: Her response was, look, I don't care what your problem

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Speaker 3: is with me and my sister, but if you want

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Speaker 3: to stay in good standing with his family, you need

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Speaker 3: to get your ducks lined up curly. I ignored the

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Speaker 1: What color? There you go? We go, there you go.

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Speaker 3: That's literally all she wants me. Of the three I sent,

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Speaker 3: which one is it her? I don't remember. I'll have

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Speaker 3: to ask one of the other bridesmaids for her receipt.

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Speaker 3: I'll get back to you. I want to bash my

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Speaker 3: head in the wall. I called my second brother, the

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Speaker 3: one not getting married. He said they're pulling similar things

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Speaker 3: with him and he feels like he was deliberately given

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Speaker 3: the wrong dates for the bachelor party by the best

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Speaker 3: man bride's brother so that he would miss whoa. He

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Speaker 3: inadvertently learned about the change date the morning of, and

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Speaker 3: when he asked the best man, he told him it

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Speaker 3: must have slipped his mind to tell him, then joked

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Speaker 3: that he wouldn't have missed much since he probably wouldn't

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Speaker 3: enjoy any of the festivities anyway. Yeah, they've been making

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Speaker 3: closet guard jokes and comments to him that he's been ignoring,

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Speaker 3: but he thinks they're trying to get him to back

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Speaker 3: out of the wedding. So if we both back out,

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Speaker 3: then there will be an even number of bridesmaids to groomsmen. Again,

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Speaker 3: only speculation on our parts, of course. Quick update. I

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Speaker 3: was seriously considering pulling out, but the collective rage here

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Speaker 3: and my mating motivation to study is me thinking by

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Speaker 3: this point, with how this post took off, I wouldn't

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Speaker 3: be surprised if they find it at some point, so

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Speaker 3: I don't want to reveal my cards just yet. Thank

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Speaker 3: you to the comments that gave me the idea. I

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Speaker 3: guess I'll be making an update mid June if all

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Speaker 3: goes to plan and there are some comments and an update,

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Speaker 3: what do you think, op, he's gonna do?

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Speaker 1: I think? I think Op, he's just gonna buy one

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Speaker 1: of the dresses. Yeah, it's gonna show up. Then the

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Speaker 1: bride is gonna be mad because it's not the right cau. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: she's gonna be like I freaking tried, freaking I've tried, tried,

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Speaker 1: and she's gonna confront her at the wedding. Yeah, it'd

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Speaker 1: be a whole thing.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, that's what I'm gonna say.

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Speaker 1: Okay, well, let's fine out, let's fine O.

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Speaker 3: Well, first of some comments common one not the a hole,

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Speaker 3: But I have a question, were you and your brother's

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Speaker 3: close at all? Because with what she's doing to you

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Speaker 3: and your other brother, it almost sounds like she's trying

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Speaker 3: to push you to away from the groom, Like it

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Speaker 3: seems like she's purposely trying to make you and your

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Speaker 3: brother look like clowns who couldn't be bothered to care

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Speaker 3: trying to slowly cut his family out of the groom's life.

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Speaker 3: This is setting off so many red flags in my head.

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Speaker 3: Maybe you should have a talk with your mom to

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Speaker 3: see if there's been any other signs of her either

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Speaker 3: isolating the groom or other signs of possible abuse. I'm

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Speaker 3: not trying to jump to conclusions. She might just be

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Speaker 3: a witch, but the flags are a fly in. Opie says,

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Speaker 3: I was never close with my older brother, the one

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Speaker 3: getting married. Younger brother and I were outcast, nerdy kids,

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Speaker 3: and we're always close. I don't think the bride is

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Speaker 3: trying to isolate my old brother. She's actually quite enamored

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Speaker 3: with my mom and sister. She's always posting on Instagram

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Speaker 3: about getting many petties with my mom or going out

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Speaker 3: for a mom and daughter lunch and coffee, usually with

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Speaker 3: some kind of sweet caption about how she can feel

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Speaker 3: her mom in heaven acting through my mom or something.

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Speaker 1: Whoa.

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Speaker 3: And she considers my sister her twin, like they were

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Speaker 3: separated at birth. She likes half of us, it seems.

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Speaker 3: And there is another update. Yeah, it seems like she

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Speaker 3: just doesn't like you guys. Yeah I would say, which sucks, right,

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Speaker 3: But yeah, that does seem to be the case, and

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Speaker 3: so silly. Seems like you have a plan. But my

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Speaker 3: other advice is just to drop out of the bridle party.

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Speaker 3: At this point, I'd be like, I'd be like, you guys,

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Speaker 3: are you know what? Yeah, I'm done. And then you

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Speaker 3: take your brother and say, hey, this is not petty

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Speaker 3: bridle women stuff. Yeah, I am being mistreated and I'm

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Speaker 3: not going to be a party bridle party exactly. Update two,

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Speaker 3: thanks to some responses, I called the bridle slawn and

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Speaker 3: asked what colors were ordered?

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Speaker 1: Smart? Smart, but like, what a headache to have to

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Speaker 1: go literally all that when they have just told them, yeah,

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Speaker 1: four dresses in the color of flint, one in mulberry.

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Speaker 3: The maid of honor was setting me up to believe

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Speaker 3: mulberry was the color of.

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Speaker 1: All the dresses.

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Speaker 3: Oh, pe was so freaking right.

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Speaker 1: Oh my gosh, they had a different dress for that

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Speaker 1: braid of honor.

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Speaker 3: Yeah h ah. So I ordered one in mulberry and

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Speaker 3: one in flint. I only let the maid of honor

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Speaker 3: know I purchased a mulberry dress. I caught a red

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Speaker 3: eye to be there for the versal. They had a

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Speaker 3: room to get ready in the morning and wanted all

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Speaker 3: the dresses stored there. I show up with the mulberry dress.

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Speaker 3: The bride begins crying because it's too late to fix it.

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Speaker 3: She asks if I would be upset if I asked

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Speaker 3: to drop out because Mulberry is for the maid of honor.

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Speaker 3: I pretended like I had made such a big mistake.

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Speaker 3: I said, I know a girl that works at the salon.

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Speaker 3: Let me call her and see if there's any way

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Speaker 3: to make it right, and if it not, I'll step

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Speaker 3: down because I want you to have the perfect day.

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Speaker 3: I show back up the next morning to start getting

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Speaker 3: ready with the correct dress in tow. My friend looked

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Speaker 3: to the back from me and I just had this

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Speaker 3: return yesterday where to the odds exact style, color, and

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Speaker 3: my size. It's a sign silence, then an awkward that's

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Speaker 3: amazing now, I'll be honest. I thought the revenge would

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Speaker 3: be that they had to have me and my younger

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Speaker 3: brother in the wedding and photos. I couldn't have planned

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Speaker 3: the next part.

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Speaker 1: I'm so excited right now. Wow.

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Speaker 3: They had to explain to the makeup artist that there

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Speaker 3: was an additional bridesmaid, meaning they planned from the beginning

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Speaker 3: that I wouldn't be in the wedding.

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Speaker 1: Wow. So they're not just like being really annoying and

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Speaker 1: not communicating, They like actually hate.

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Speaker 3: Don't want her in it, but actually, freaking you hate

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Speaker 3: to This was a whole plan. The ceremony went fine,

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Speaker 3: we took photos after then there was no place settings

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Speaker 3: for me and little bro with the wedding party at

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Speaker 3: I said, I didn't ask to be dropped, and showed

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Speaker 3: Our brother came home a few days early from the

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Speaker 1: Then it's been.

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Speaker 3: Something to note is my older brother has never wanted children,

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Speaker 3: She said, and this is a quote, Well there's nothing

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Speaker 1: Get your way, you know.

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Speaker 3: Wow. My response was, that's basically spicy related to and

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Speaker 1: that it's not genetic and that doesn't happen like, oh

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Speaker 3: Ah, but you know what's not horrible listening to full

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Speaker 3: Oka Storytime. I still don't know exactly what happened on

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Speaker 3: so I'm sorry. This isn't a particularly satisfying update. And

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Speaker 3: Your mom's sister, bride and bride's brother friends are all

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Speaker 1: Op?

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Speaker 3: I am truly sorry that this has been going on

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Speaker 3: just need to air out every single thing that has happened.

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Speaker 3: Maybe your brother can make better decisions once he's hit

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Speaker 3: with a brick of information. All the lying, all the

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Speaker 3: the huge elaborate plan to punt both of you out

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Speaker 3: she wanted the esthetic, even pictures, the text, and by

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Speaker 3: That betrayal of trust cuts so deep. I don't know

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Speaker 3: it honestly might need to be turned into a low

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Speaker 1: Wow, my bridezilla sister's wedding was chaos. Now everyone's finally

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Speaker 1: seeing her true colors. So satisfying. Oh yeah, my sister

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Speaker 1: is getting married at the end of July in Hawaii.

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Speaker 1: She is shocked more people aren't going. She is surprised

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Speaker 1: this comes from bammiammy, and if you want to submit

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Speaker 1: your own stories, good to the our slash Okay Storytimes subreddit.

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Speaker 1: So she knows that I don't I have a job

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Speaker 1: month old baby. She sucked. She is resentful because I

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Speaker 1: can't pay my way to her wedding, even though she

437
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Speaker 1: chose to get married there knowing I can't afford it

438
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Speaker 1: and said it's okay. She micromanaged the bridesmaids and had

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Speaker 1: us all get wedge shoes for the wedding so we

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Speaker 1: wouldn't sink in the grass. Of course, she has stiletto heels.

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Speaker 1: This should go over well. Her friends that are just

442
00:20:29,840 --> 00:20:33,200
Speaker 1: wives of her fiance's friends are spoiled brats, but she

443
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Speaker 1: doesn't freaking have friends exactly. They're not very nice. I

444
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Speaker 1: shouldn't be surprised. She accused uncle of being high maintenance

445
00:20:40,800 --> 00:20:42,680
Speaker 1: when I went around her to tell him about the

446
00:20:42,720 --> 00:20:46,159
Speaker 1: potential hazards for him because he has a compromised immune

447
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Speaker 1: system from stage five leukemia. She has the nerve to

448
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Speaker 1: put him at risk. She excludes my boyfriend and father

449
00:20:52,400 --> 00:20:56,240
Speaker 1: of my baby from the wedding because she can't. Nobody

450
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Speaker 1: else is excluded. His PTSD came back after ten years

451
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Speaker 1: from serving in Afghanistan. I've been away from him for

452
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Speaker 1: four months, and they refuse to let our first reunion

453
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Speaker 1: be their wedding week in Hawaii. She says she knows

454
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Speaker 1: PTSD is real, but is afraid of his triggers and

455
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Speaker 1: is shocked that he won't tell her his life story

456
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Speaker 1: what I told them. Other guests have plus ones. Why

457
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Speaker 1: is my plus one not invited? She doesn't even want

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Speaker 1: him on the island let and loan the wedding.

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Speaker 3: Dude, that's what so insane and so sensitive, out.

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Speaker 1: Of line, so out of line. He's moving to the

461
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Speaker 1: same town in a month. My boyfriend is okay with

462
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Speaker 1: it all. I'm live bid. The groom is especially douchey

463
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Speaker 1: and is on her side. Queensila didn't want my then

464
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Speaker 1: five month old baby at the bridal shower because she

465
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Speaker 1: takes too much attention. My mom wasn't allowed to pay

466
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Speaker 1: attention to the baby. We ate alone in the kitchen,

467
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Speaker 1: away from the guests. Oh my god, that's so insane, douse,

468
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Speaker 1: you have a baby there, Yeah, dude. My cousin and

469
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Speaker 1: fellow host sat with me, so I wouldn't allow she's

470
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Speaker 1: too kind. My godparents want me to cut her out

471
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Speaker 1: of my life because my uncle had to do the same.

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Speaker 1: She talks crap behind her in law's backs, even though

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Speaker 1: they're also pitching in a lot of money and are

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Speaker 1: doing their best to help. I called her a bridezilla

475
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Speaker 1: to her face, and she didn't even flinch. She wears

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Speaker 1: it like a badge of honor.

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Speaker 3: Wow.

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Speaker 1: She asks if her maid of honor seems frazzled, like

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Speaker 1: she's trying to ruin her life. While she's at it,

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Speaker 1: her best friend wants a small wedding after this craziness.

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Speaker 1: Oh wow. I told her that venue was usually one

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Speaker 1: fifteenth of the cost of the entire wedding. She looked

483
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Speaker 1: at me like I offended her. I tried to help,

484
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Speaker 1: but she would rather be shocked by the bills and

485
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Speaker 1: create more drama. Her hair always looks almost orange because

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Speaker 1: her friend is a professional hairstylist and that's what my

487
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Speaker 1: sister likes. The one time it was slightly more blonde,

488
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Speaker 1: than orange. She made her friend fix it. Her friend

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Speaker 1: had a one month old baby at home waiting for her.

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Speaker 1: Oh wow. When my sister came home, she looks like

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Speaker 1: her hair was back to her natural color because her

492
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Speaker 1: friend must have been fed up.

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Speaker 3: That's funny.

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Speaker 1: She has no idea what her hair normally looks like.

495
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Speaker 1: Lack of introspection and inspection. Not sure how to label that.

496
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Speaker 1: So I guess these are just all reasons to not

497
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Speaker 1: like this.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, she's like and I'm gonna tell you more things

499
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Speaker 3: about her because she freaking sucks in all areas of

500
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Speaker 3: her life, not.

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Speaker 1: Just to do with the wedding, right exactly. She asked

502
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Speaker 1: my parents two weeks before the wedding to double their contribution.

503
00:23:25,280 --> 00:23:29,800
Speaker 1: Oh wow, that's insane. What a surprise. This happened three

504
00:23:29,960 --> 00:23:33,760
Speaker 1: days ago. My sister makes more than my parents, yet

505
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Speaker 1: expects them to keep forking more money over if my

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Speaker 1: mom lets my boyfriend come to the wedding. My sister

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Speaker 1: said that my mom is not invited to the wedding.

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Speaker 1: That's the kicker. My dad said that he won't go

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Speaker 1: if my mom doesn't go, it's a crap show. Oh

510
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Speaker 1: my gosh, So just because OPI has a boyfriend that

511
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Speaker 1: she wants to come to the wedding. Yeah, Like they're like, okay,

512
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Speaker 1: you can do that, but then your mom is in

513
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Speaker 1: love to your mom? Can come? Is your mom or

514
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Speaker 1: your boyfriend? Pick pick? Why yelled? I hate her, She's

515
00:24:03,480 --> 00:24:06,040
Speaker 1: out of my life. After the wedding, I hope she

516
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Speaker 1: doesn't reproduce, and there is an update she says, so

517
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Speaker 1: crap hit the fan a lot.

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Speaker 3: Oh gosh.

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Speaker 1: All of her family showed up to celebrate their union,

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Speaker 1: and on the day before the ceremony, they go on

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Speaker 1: a private boat cruise with just some friends and a

522
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Speaker 1: handful of family. I could tell people were hurt by that,

523
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Speaker 1: but not surprised. At the rehearsal, the officiant was basically

524
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Speaker 1: rolling his eyes because the bride and groom couldn't agree

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Speaker 1: on anything. Queen Zilla also said no to so many

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Speaker 1: traditional aspects of the religious ceremony. Her sister in law

527
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Speaker 1: basically had enough of the banter and shut down. She's

528
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Speaker 1: very laid back, but even she was at her wits end.

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Speaker 1: At the dinner, I told my favorite uncle what was happening.

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Speaker 1: He was ready to pick sides. I told him, I'll

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Speaker 1: deal with all of that after the wedding. You don't

532
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Speaker 1: have to make sides. I'm just venting. I told him

533
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Speaker 1: how crazy it all was. He was shocked because we

534
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Speaker 1: seemed close. It's just been like this my entire childhood,

535
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Speaker 1: so we can fake normal. The day of the wedding,

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Speaker 1: Queenzila was appalled my baby was giving kisses to her

537
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Speaker 1: mother in law to say hello, this five month old baby.

538
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Speaker 1: She's like, get that baby out of there. How damn

539
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Speaker 1: baby's kissing my mother. It's an unloyal five month all.

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Speaker 1: Oh my gosh. We all got ready and my sister

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Speaker 1: was super rude to her mother in law and sister

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Speaker 1: in law. Her best friend joked that she was staying

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Speaker 1: out of the way because she didn't want to get hit.

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Speaker 1: Oh boy, I was like, why do you look like

545
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Speaker 1: you've been hit before? We finally made it to the

546
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Speaker 1: staging area and the setting was beautiful. It was hot

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Speaker 1: as heck for all the bridesmaids in my side of

548
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Speaker 1: the family. We were in full sun. Everyone was informal wear,

549
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Speaker 1: complaining about the heat. My sister had the nerve to

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Speaker 1: tell my leukemia patient uncle that he couldn't have the

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Speaker 1: umbrella up during the ceremony. Whoa most people would assume

552
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Speaker 1: to do that. He's incredibly smart. She was micromanaging everything

553
00:26:02,600 --> 00:26:06,520
Speaker 1: and couldn't even enjoy herself. At the cocktail hour, it

554
00:26:06,640 --> 00:26:09,560
Speaker 1: was a ten minute walk across the property. Only like

555
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Speaker 1: one tenth of the guests actually went. The bridal party

556
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Speaker 1: had photos during this time. I ran and somehow got changed,

557
00:26:15,720 --> 00:26:18,600
Speaker 1: beed the baby, and beat the rest of the bridle party.

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Speaker 1: My aunt and uncle helped feed the baby while I

559
00:26:21,400 --> 00:26:23,679
Speaker 1: rushed around. I made sure I did my duty as

560
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Speaker 1: bridesmaid and made sure the bride looked okay for the photos.

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Speaker 1: The mister tent was like a waterfall and was out

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Speaker 1: of place and not used. The in laws and sister

563
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Speaker 1: did not show up for the photos, nor could they

564
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Speaker 1: be contacted by phone, so they totally missed out. We

565
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Speaker 1: made our way to the reception hall, but the wedding

566
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Speaker 1: planner messed up and didn't have the favors on the table,

567
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Speaker 1: guest book out, nor lays on people that needed them.

568
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Speaker 1: I made sure to tell them a job well done

569
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Speaker 1: because they pissed the bride off royally. Lol. We finally

570
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Speaker 1: got inside up to three hours outside and we were

571
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Speaker 1: still hot in the ballroom. The baby ended up being

572
00:27:00,400 --> 00:27:03,040
Speaker 1: too hot and just wanted to dance on the dance

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Speaker 1: floor and meet people. I waited and waited for the

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Speaker 1: first dance, and they kept saying they weren't going to

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Speaker 1: do it. They finally did and it was a nice moment,

576
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Speaker 1: but then they called for couples to join them. I

577
00:27:15,359 --> 00:27:19,480
Speaker 1: lost my crap. I quietly exited stage left and went

578
00:27:19,480 --> 00:27:22,360
Speaker 1: to the bathroom to cry it out. My sweet Auntie

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00:27:22,359 --> 00:27:25,160
Speaker 1: saw me and checked on me. She brought my mom

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00:27:25,240 --> 00:27:28,879
Speaker 1: to who wasn't enjoying herself and was oblivious to joy

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Speaker 1: and pain at the night. I don't blame her. I

582
00:27:32,400 --> 00:27:34,720
Speaker 1: hugged the bride and groom and said I loved them

583
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Speaker 1: and I'm so glad that.

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Speaker 3: They were happy.

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Speaker 1: We went back to the room and rested. It was exhausting,

586
00:27:40,840 --> 00:27:43,480
Speaker 1: but we got through it. Baby handsed it all better

587
00:27:43,480 --> 00:27:45,439
Speaker 1: than I did. On our way out of the hotel,

588
00:27:45,480 --> 00:27:47,760
Speaker 1: I ran into the groom's family. They picked up the

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00:27:47,800 --> 00:27:51,639
Speaker 1: baby and played and said, you're the real reason we celebrate.

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Speaker 1: They know how crappy the bride was and baby is

591
00:27:55,200 --> 00:27:58,280
Speaker 1: pure joy. They're like, don't you forget we hate the

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Speaker 1: bride and you're the best.

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Speaker 3: Do you have the star of the day, little baby.

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00:28:01,800 --> 00:28:05,760
Speaker 1: The baby's like, yeah, they don't you forget it?

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00:28:07,160 --> 00:28:07,400
Speaker 3: Yeah?

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00:28:07,520 --> 00:28:11,040
Speaker 1: Probably like, thank you so much for over making this day. Okay,

597
00:28:11,160 --> 00:28:13,520
Speaker 1: you've saved baby, and the papers like.

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Speaker 2: It.

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Speaker 1: I'll never tell my sister, but we all had an

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Speaker 1: okay time. I'm glad it's over. It was all just

601
00:28:23,920 --> 00:28:27,600
Speaker 1: for Instagram photos. My entire family now sees why I

602
00:28:27,600 --> 00:28:30,280
Speaker 1: don't like my sister or the groom. It only took

603
00:28:30,320 --> 00:28:32,600
Speaker 1: eighteen years for them to understand my point of view.

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00:28:33,080 --> 00:28:35,280
Speaker 1: I'm not sure where we go from here, but I

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00:28:35,320 --> 00:28:37,920
Speaker 1: don't trust either of them. By the way, you can

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Speaker 1: always trust that we've got full episodes, more stories just

607
00:28:41,240 --> 00:28:44,000
Speaker 1: like these. Just go to Spotify, Apple Podcasts, whatever your

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00:28:44,040 --> 00:28:46,960
Speaker 1: favorite podcast app is and search. Okay, story time, We're

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00:28:47,000 --> 00:28:49,400
Speaker 1: gonna be there for you. We're gonna be there for you.

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Speaker 1: You bet your bottom dollar.

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Speaker 3: No, your sister just seems like a lot, But you

612
00:28:54,360 --> 00:28:56,600
Speaker 3: know your baby saved the day, and at the end

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Speaker 3: of the day, it's all matters.

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Speaker 1: You got the baby, You got a little five month old.

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00:29:01,080 --> 00:29:03,920
Speaker 1: Everyone else seems to be in agreement with you, and

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00:29:04,280 --> 00:29:08,840
Speaker 1: not liking your sisters exactly seems seems what more do

617
00:29:08,920 --> 00:29:11,840
Speaker 1: you need exactly, but there is a little bit more.

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00:29:12,120 --> 00:29:15,120
Speaker 1: My kid doesn't even really like them. I'm guessing this

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Speaker 1: is the parents. I'm not sure if they'll be invited

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Speaker 1: to her birthday that's coming up. Oh wow, and I

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Speaker 1: forgot to say thank you all for your encouragement and kindness.

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00:29:23,360 --> 00:29:25,480
Speaker 1: You helped me get through the wedding, knowing I wasn't

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Speaker 1: alone suffering her wrath. And at number two also forgot

624
00:29:28,760 --> 00:29:30,520
Speaker 1: to say that she didn't think her other sister for

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Speaker 1: her help. She did so much. People are peeved and

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Speaker 1: that is it. Hey, it's John here.

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Speaker 2: We're gonna get back to this episode, but a quick

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Speaker 2: three minute break with aswer more sponsors.

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Speaker 3: The bride's future sister in law tried to hijack the wedding,

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Speaker 3: but she got humiliated.

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Speaker 1: Try to mess with the bride, you get the horns. Yep.

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Speaker 3: To start off, I'm attending three weddings this year. Wow,

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Speaker 3: all great friends of mine and all of which I'm

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Speaker 3: extremely excited about. This This post is about the first

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Speaker 3: wedding of the three, which is nine days away. Sorry

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Speaker 3: if the background is a bit long. By the way,

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Speaker 3: this comes from Zuribie and if you want to sumit,

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Speaker 3: your own stories got to our slash ookey storytime separate it.

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Speaker 3: My friend be got engaged last year. She wanted a small,

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Speaker 3: elegant wedding and we've been planning it since the day

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Speaker 3: the rock got on her finger. She's having fifty guests,

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Speaker 3: ten tables of four and ten more at the top table.

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Speaker 3: The location is this beautiful wooded area full of leafy

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Speaker 3: fruit trees owned by her step grandparents, and they very

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Speaker 3: kindly agreed to let her have it and pay for

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Speaker 3: the tables and chairs. Were a bridal party of four girls,

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Speaker 3: including her future sister in law. One reason why the

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Speaker 3: wedding is so small is because she and her fiance

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Speaker 3: wanted to put in more money towards the house. They

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Speaker 3: both work good jobs and want to start a family soon,

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Speaker 3: so they decided on a large house. They also don't

652
00:30:50,080 --> 00:30:52,320
Speaker 3: want to spend their life savings on one day, all

653
00:30:52,360 --> 00:30:55,640
Speaker 3: of which I totally agreed with. Her sisters are pitching

654
00:30:55,640 --> 00:30:57,800
Speaker 3: in to help decorate the place with fairy lights before

655
00:30:57,800 --> 00:31:00,479
Speaker 3: the wedding. The groomsmen offered to turn up the day

656
00:31:00,480 --> 00:31:03,080
Speaker 3: before and lug around the heavy stuff, including arranging the

657
00:31:03,200 --> 00:31:06,800
Speaker 3: chairs for ceremony and table and chairs for the reception dinner.

658
00:31:06,920 --> 00:31:10,200
Speaker 3: I've been with Bee through the catering, renting linens and servewear,

659
00:31:10,320 --> 00:31:12,920
Speaker 3: and the cake and the dress fittings, and I think

660
00:31:12,960 --> 00:31:15,760
Speaker 3: we've spent about five k on the whole wedding so far,

661
00:31:16,360 --> 00:31:19,000
Speaker 3: not accounting for the generous help offered by her friends

662
00:31:19,040 --> 00:31:22,160
Speaker 3: and family in terms of labor. Her cousins are helping

663
00:31:22,160 --> 00:31:24,880
Speaker 3: with wedding favors, a little basket showpiece of crystal fruit

664
00:31:25,000 --> 00:31:27,640
Speaker 3: since the wedding is in an orchard, and some handmade

665
00:31:27,720 --> 00:31:31,040
Speaker 3: chocolate from someone her cousin's sister met in Belgium. In

666
00:31:31,160 --> 00:31:35,200
Speaker 3: all of this, be constantly counsel, blessings and thanks everyone.

667
00:31:35,440 --> 00:31:38,680
Speaker 3: She gave us complete freedom over our dress choices, and

668
00:31:38,760 --> 00:31:41,040
Speaker 3: one of the bridesmaids is doing our hair and makeup

669
00:31:41,120 --> 00:31:44,040
Speaker 3: on the day. B is getting a professional to do hers,

670
00:31:44,080 --> 00:31:46,920
Speaker 3: but even that was upon our insistence that she had

671
00:31:46,960 --> 00:31:49,640
Speaker 3: to look like the star she was. We've finalized the caterer,

672
00:31:49,720 --> 00:31:53,320
Speaker 3: the seating, the menu and invitations. The future sister in

673
00:31:53,400 --> 00:31:57,400
Speaker 3: law enters the picture. The sequence of events is numbered

674
00:31:57,400 --> 00:32:01,560
Speaker 3: for chronology number one. The bride's made dresses, day of

675
00:32:01,600 --> 00:32:05,160
Speaker 3: the dress appointment. Everyone's on time, except future says to

676
00:32:05,160 --> 00:32:07,800
Speaker 3: o a lah who's not only an hour late, but

677
00:32:07,880 --> 00:32:10,800
Speaker 3: doesn't even apologize to the kind dress consultant for making

678
00:32:10,840 --> 00:32:13,800
Speaker 3: her weight. The rest of us picked out the dress already,

679
00:32:14,000 --> 00:32:17,040
Speaker 3: each one in a different colors, summer, but the same style.

680
00:32:17,640 --> 00:32:20,200
Speaker 3: Future sister in law makes us weight while she ransacked

681
00:32:20,200 --> 00:32:23,920
Speaker 3: the shop and pulls out a white short pattern dress.

682
00:32:24,320 --> 00:32:27,360
Speaker 3: Consultant says they can dye the pattern dress any color.

683
00:32:27,960 --> 00:32:30,600
Speaker 3: Future sister in law wants it white.

684
00:32:30,880 --> 00:32:35,000
Speaker 1: You're not getting white, Carly. Come on, we tried to

685
00:32:35,040 --> 00:32:37,400
Speaker 1: explain that's impossible. She walks out.

686
00:32:37,480 --> 00:32:39,800
Speaker 3: A couple of days after the appointment. Future sister in

687
00:32:39,840 --> 00:32:42,600
Speaker 3: law emails us saying she's very hurt by how we

688
00:32:42,720 --> 00:32:45,200
Speaker 3: behaved at the fitting, but is willing to let it

689
00:32:45,280 --> 00:32:48,640
Speaker 3: go and in compensation, the bride can pay for her

690
00:32:48,680 --> 00:32:53,080
Speaker 3: bride'smaid dress. Bees almost going to say yes, but I

691
00:32:53,400 --> 00:32:54,600
Speaker 3: put my foot down.

692
00:32:54,720 --> 00:32:55,600
Speaker 1: Good Good.

693
00:32:56,000 --> 00:32:58,840
Speaker 3: Week later, future sister in law emails the group again

694
00:32:59,080 --> 00:33:01,320
Speaker 3: wants to add fifty teen people to the guest list,

695
00:33:01,600 --> 00:33:05,280
Speaker 3: a sap all out of town guests. I calculate, based

696
00:33:05,320 --> 00:33:07,320
Speaker 3: on her demands that B would sholl out at least

697
00:33:07,360 --> 00:33:12,160
Speaker 3: another fifteen hundred conservatively, and asked her to refuse. All

698
00:33:12,200 --> 00:33:14,920
Speaker 3: of this brings us to yesterday, where future sister in

699
00:33:14,960 --> 00:33:17,080
Speaker 3: law joins us for a little party at Bee's house.

700
00:33:17,520 --> 00:33:19,400
Speaker 3: One of the bridebaids and I thought it would be good.

701
00:33:19,680 --> 00:33:23,040
Speaker 3: B relax a little, so we got comfy cushions, funny movies,

702
00:33:23,080 --> 00:33:27,480
Speaker 3: wine coolers, and some snacks. B was pleasantly happy until

703
00:33:27,520 --> 00:33:30,320
Speaker 3: future sister in law began making a list of requirements

704
00:33:30,320 --> 00:33:33,720
Speaker 3: for her out of town guests, who Be had refused

705
00:33:33,760 --> 00:33:36,520
Speaker 3: to invite. She adds that her guests will be arriving

706
00:33:36,520 --> 00:33:38,440
Speaker 3: a couple of days early, and it would be nice

707
00:33:38,480 --> 00:33:41,120
Speaker 3: for Bee and her fiance future sister in law's brother

708
00:33:41,560 --> 00:33:44,320
Speaker 3: to pick them up at the airport. Bee has been

709
00:33:44,360 --> 00:33:49,120
Speaker 3: watching her in quiet horror. Then future sister in law

710
00:33:49,160 --> 00:33:51,959
Speaker 3: pulls out the icing on the cake. You guessed it,

711
00:33:52,520 --> 00:33:56,360
Speaker 3: the white pattern dress. B bursts into tears and goes

712
00:33:56,360 --> 00:33:58,440
Speaker 3: off the back porch to have a good cry. One

713
00:33:58,480 --> 00:34:01,640
Speaker 3: of the girls through future sister in law out. Future

714
00:34:01,720 --> 00:34:05,840
Speaker 3: sister in law leaves, threatening Bee. This is insane, is

715
00:34:06,200 --> 00:34:06,960
Speaker 3: Bee's problem?

716
00:34:07,440 --> 00:34:07,840
Speaker 1: Yeah?

717
00:34:07,960 --> 00:34:12,080
Speaker 3: Shouldn't the freaking brother, the groom to be yea be

718
00:34:12,120 --> 00:34:13,720
Speaker 3: the one dealing with his sister?

719
00:34:14,239 --> 00:34:17,120
Speaker 1: Right? Guys be have to deal with the sister. I agree,

720
00:34:18,480 --> 00:34:20,800
Speaker 1: I agree. And the fact that she's making all of

721
00:34:20,840 --> 00:34:23,160
Speaker 1: these demands it's not even her wedding, not even her wedding,

722
00:34:23,280 --> 00:34:26,640
Speaker 1: not her wedding. This is crazy. I need help.

723
00:34:26,840 --> 00:34:29,120
Speaker 3: I've been trying to convince B that future sister in

724
00:34:29,160 --> 00:34:31,920
Speaker 3: law shouldn't even be in the bridal party, but B

725
00:34:32,239 --> 00:34:34,680
Speaker 3: is too soft and says this was the only thing

726
00:34:34,680 --> 00:34:37,600
Speaker 3: her fiance requested. Because apparently future sister in law doesn't

727
00:34:37,640 --> 00:34:41,320
Speaker 3: have many friends. Gee, I wonder why. Exactly, yeah, exactly,

728
00:34:41,440 --> 00:34:43,920
Speaker 3: because no one likes her. Future sister in law has

729
00:34:43,920 --> 00:34:46,520
Speaker 3: now instigated a family coup by playing the victim to

730
00:34:46,560 --> 00:34:49,239
Speaker 3: her mother. Bee's future mother in law, who already has

731
00:34:49,239 --> 00:34:51,799
Speaker 3: a million problems with the wedding, and B is a

732
00:34:51,880 --> 00:34:54,960
Speaker 3: nervous wreck. We got win from a mutual friend of

733
00:34:55,000 --> 00:34:57,440
Speaker 3: both families that future mother in law is now calling

734
00:34:57,520 --> 00:35:01,040
Speaker 3: her family's guests and telling them the wedding off. The

735
00:35:01,080 --> 00:35:03,640
Speaker 3: wedding is in nine days. How do I fix this?

736
00:35:03,920 --> 00:35:06,520
Speaker 3: I'd appreciate any help I can get. Bee has had

737
00:35:06,680 --> 00:35:09,000
Speaker 3: enough to face and I really want this to be

738
00:35:09,000 --> 00:35:09,960
Speaker 3: a special day for her.

739
00:35:10,200 --> 00:35:10,399
Speaker 1: Edit.

740
00:35:10,520 --> 00:35:12,520
Speaker 3: Sorry, I think I forgot to mention that right after

741
00:35:12,560 --> 00:35:14,400
Speaker 3: the out of town guess email. We went to her

742
00:35:14,400 --> 00:35:17,200
Speaker 3: future husband, who doesn't recognize any of the names on

743
00:35:17,239 --> 00:35:20,080
Speaker 3: the list. He said he'd talked to her, but requested

744
00:35:20,120 --> 00:35:22,920
Speaker 3: BE to keep her on in the bridal party, as

745
00:35:22,960 --> 00:35:25,799
Speaker 3: future sister went on, doesn't have any other friends, and

746
00:35:25,840 --> 00:35:28,760
Speaker 3: then B should say, no, your sister has been creating

747
00:35:28,920 --> 00:35:32,759
Speaker 3: so many problems and has been incredibly disrespectful if you

748
00:35:32,880 --> 00:35:37,960
Speaker 3: want her in the wedding party groom side exactly. B

749
00:35:38,160 --> 00:35:40,279
Speaker 3: doesn't want to let him down, as he's basically letting

750
00:35:40,360 --> 00:35:42,560
Speaker 3: her have the run of the wedding in every other aspect.

751
00:35:43,320 --> 00:35:48,440
Speaker 3: And there are some comments and an update, but any thoughts.

752
00:35:48,719 --> 00:35:51,000
Speaker 1: It's so so it kind of feels like like the

753
00:35:51,080 --> 00:35:53,719
Speaker 1: term like always the bridesmaid, never the bride, but in

754
00:35:53,760 --> 00:35:57,920
Speaker 1: this sense, it's like, yo, once the bride, never the bridesmaid,

755
00:35:57,960 --> 00:36:00,919
Speaker 1: you know what I mean? Like she just she doesn't.

756
00:36:01,600 --> 00:36:04,240
Speaker 1: It's just so ridiculous to think, like because she doesn't

757
00:36:04,239 --> 00:36:07,000
Speaker 1: have any other friends to be in their party, their

758
00:36:07,040 --> 00:36:09,799
Speaker 1: wedding party, and she's like, well, let me have this. Yeah,

759
00:36:09,840 --> 00:36:12,520
Speaker 1: I just want to wear white at your wedding. Yeah,

760
00:36:12,560 --> 00:36:14,680
Speaker 1: as if it's like just as important as being a

761
00:36:14,760 --> 00:36:18,760
Speaker 1: pride or something. Like exactly, no, no, no, no no.

762
00:36:19,000 --> 00:36:21,000
Speaker 1: But there are some comments common ones.

763
00:36:21,080 --> 00:36:23,640
Speaker 3: Since this is the future husband's family, he needs to

764
00:36:23,680 --> 00:36:26,719
Speaker 3: deal with them exactly. He needs to put his foot

765
00:36:26,760 --> 00:36:29,759
Speaker 3: down and support his future wife. If he doesn't, then

766
00:36:29,800 --> 00:36:32,000
Speaker 3: I don't think it bodes well for their future marriage.

767
00:36:32,680 --> 00:36:35,439
Speaker 3: Opie says. Future husband doesn't know about the dress yet,

768
00:36:35,719 --> 00:36:38,319
Speaker 3: only future mother in law does. He did find out

769
00:36:38,320 --> 00:36:40,359
Speaker 3: about the additional guests when I showed him the list

770
00:36:40,400 --> 00:36:43,160
Speaker 3: to ask him if if these were people he really

771
00:36:43,200 --> 00:36:45,880
Speaker 3: wanted at the wedding, my polite way of trying to

772
00:36:46,000 --> 00:36:49,560
Speaker 3: hint that he should refuse. Well, I was the one

773
00:36:49,600 --> 00:36:52,720
Speaker 3: surprised because he took one long look at the list

774
00:36:52,760 --> 00:36:55,720
Speaker 3: and said he doesn't know any of these people. Between

775
00:36:55,719 --> 00:36:57,759
Speaker 3: the post and now, I've had a short discussion with

776
00:36:57,840 --> 00:37:00,920
Speaker 3: Bete where we decided to send out short announcements to

777
00:37:01,000 --> 00:37:04,000
Speaker 3: everyone saying how much Bee and future husband are looking

778
00:37:04,040 --> 00:37:06,799
Speaker 3: forward to having them there. In case her future mother

779
00:37:06,840 --> 00:37:09,480
Speaker 3: in law has actually convinced people the wedding is off,

780
00:37:09,880 --> 00:37:13,239
Speaker 3: they'll know it isn't smart. It's like, hey, gosh, it's

781
00:37:13,280 --> 00:37:16,120
Speaker 3: gonna be so fun having that wedding the same day

782
00:37:16,200 --> 00:37:20,480
Speaker 3: that it was before, right, and not being canceled. Yeah,

783
00:37:20,560 --> 00:37:23,239
Speaker 3: common too. I know Bee is being hesitant to tell

784
00:37:23,239 --> 00:37:25,439
Speaker 3: her fiance about this, but I think for her sake,

785
00:37:25,800 --> 00:37:28,760
Speaker 3: you have to. She can't begin a life with someone

786
00:37:28,800 --> 00:37:30,920
Speaker 3: with all this crap piling up against her that he

787
00:37:30,960 --> 00:37:34,640
Speaker 3: doesn't even know about it. His family is problem. When

788
00:37:34,680 --> 00:37:36,799
Speaker 3: my fiance's family starts on their crap, I tell my

789
00:37:36,840 --> 00:37:39,800
Speaker 3: fiance to deal with them, And when my family starts

790
00:37:39,800 --> 00:37:42,680
Speaker 3: on their crap, I deal with them. Letting things go

791
00:37:42,880 --> 00:37:44,680
Speaker 3: like this will just lead to a blow up that's

792
00:37:44,719 --> 00:37:48,520
Speaker 3: only gonna hurt what should be a happy couple. Opie says, thanks.

793
00:37:48,640 --> 00:37:51,319
Speaker 3: I'm considering forwarding this thread to her and making her

794
00:37:51,360 --> 00:37:54,440
Speaker 3: read this. I agree that it's time she stood up

795
00:37:54,480 --> 00:37:56,200
Speaker 3: for herself, and I'm not gonna be around all the

796
00:37:56,200 --> 00:37:57,919
Speaker 3: time in case her mother in law or a sister

797
00:37:57,960 --> 00:37:58,960
Speaker 3: in law does something.

798
00:37:59,480 --> 00:38:04,960
Speaker 1: And there is an update, Oh boy, any new thoughts. No.

799
00:38:05,239 --> 00:38:07,359
Speaker 3: I agree with the comment saying he needs to go

800
00:38:07,400 --> 00:38:09,959
Speaker 3: talk to the fiance and just say like, hey, yeah,

801
00:38:09,960 --> 00:38:11,839
Speaker 3: I was at the I wanted to let you know

802
00:38:11,920 --> 00:38:15,400
Speaker 3: I was at the dress fitting yeap, and this is

803
00:38:15,400 --> 00:38:19,000
Speaker 3: how your sister was acting, right, Just let him know.

804
00:38:19,200 --> 00:38:21,359
Speaker 1: Yeah, And I completely agree with the comment that was

805
00:38:21,360 --> 00:38:25,160
Speaker 1: like your family, your problem, which is like so appropriate.

806
00:38:25,800 --> 00:38:27,680
Speaker 1: It's kind of like if you have a friend over

807
00:38:28,080 --> 00:38:30,000
Speaker 1: and they spill something, you say.

808
00:38:29,760 --> 00:38:30,440
Speaker 3: That you spill this.

809
00:38:30,640 --> 00:38:31,600
Speaker 1: Yeah, you know what I mean.

810
00:38:31,640 --> 00:38:35,279
Speaker 3: Oh yeah, they freaking broke the lamp. Yeah, but there

811
00:38:35,320 --> 00:38:35,799
Speaker 3: is an update.

812
00:38:35,960 --> 00:38:36,360
Speaker 1: Okay.

813
00:38:36,440 --> 00:38:38,840
Speaker 3: After getting some advice on Reddit, I sent me the

814
00:38:38,840 --> 00:38:41,880
Speaker 3: postlink and a little more convincing later, we took the

815
00:38:41,920 --> 00:38:46,000
Speaker 3: matter to her future husband. In the intervening time, we

816
00:38:46,040 --> 00:38:48,080
Speaker 3: found out that she had tried to call the baker

817
00:38:48,120 --> 00:38:52,040
Speaker 3: and changed the wedding cake to five plain vanilla sheet

818
00:38:52,080 --> 00:38:54,799
Speaker 3: cakes as opposed to the beautiful three tier cake he

819
00:38:54,920 --> 00:38:57,920
Speaker 3: had designed. He told her that any changes had to

820
00:38:57,920 --> 00:39:01,279
Speaker 3: be made only by the bride. She tried convincing him

821
00:39:01,280 --> 00:39:02,799
Speaker 3: that she was the maid of honor and was taking

822
00:39:02,840 --> 00:39:06,919
Speaker 3: over these duties, but he called me, thank god, amazing,

823
00:39:07,160 --> 00:39:10,320
Speaker 3: I'm sorry if the groom doesn't do anything about it now,

824
00:39:10,480 --> 00:39:13,759
Speaker 3: I'd yeah, so angry. Absolutely, Since I was the one

825
00:39:13,840 --> 00:39:16,480
Speaker 3: coordinating with him the whole time, and asked if this

826
00:39:16,640 --> 00:39:18,759
Speaker 3: was the cake, I told him that future sister in

827
00:39:18,800 --> 00:39:22,080
Speaker 3: law was a saboteur and to ignore all her calls

828
00:39:22,120 --> 00:39:25,880
Speaker 3: for frum her. We took the issue to future husband, who,

829
00:39:25,920 --> 00:39:28,120
Speaker 3: for the first time since I've known him in nearly

830
00:39:28,160 --> 00:39:34,200
Speaker 3: three years, flew into an actual rage. Finally, finally, finally,

831
00:39:34,719 --> 00:39:36,879
Speaker 3: he drove us to his mother's house, where future sister

832
00:39:36,920 --> 00:39:38,960
Speaker 3: in law is staying till the wedding, and ripped her

833
00:39:39,000 --> 00:39:42,960
Speaker 3: a new one. They are officially uninvited from the wedding.

834
00:39:43,560 --> 00:39:46,120
Speaker 3: His mother and future sister in law keep sending me

835
00:39:46,360 --> 00:39:50,040
Speaker 3: and be angry passive aggressive text and emails, but we're

836
00:39:50,120 --> 00:39:52,440
Speaker 3: blocking them. In the last one, his mother sent a

837
00:39:52,520 --> 00:39:55,120
Speaker 3: vitriolic message saying she would make sure that Bee was

838
00:39:55,120 --> 00:39:58,920
Speaker 3: completely alienated from their family and their social circle and

839
00:39:59,280 --> 00:40:02,560
Speaker 3: make her suff her in loneliness till she left us. Sun.

840
00:40:02,960 --> 00:40:04,160
Speaker 1: That is aggressive.

841
00:40:05,120 --> 00:40:08,720
Speaker 3: This lady is crazy, like like the crazy apple, doesn't

842
00:40:08,760 --> 00:40:13,240
Speaker 3: fall far from the crazy. All jokes on her. Everyone

843
00:40:13,280 --> 00:40:17,280
Speaker 3: in future husband's family loves Be. After dear husband banned

844
00:40:17,280 --> 00:40:20,680
Speaker 3: his mother and sister from the wedding, Bee received a

845
00:40:20,760 --> 00:40:23,840
Speaker 3: few phone calls, mostly from his mother's tennis club friends.

846
00:40:24,280 --> 00:40:26,680
Speaker 3: They started going on about how Bee was already ruining

847
00:40:26,680 --> 00:40:29,080
Speaker 3: the family and she should at least let mother in

848
00:40:29,160 --> 00:40:31,920
Speaker 3: law and sister in law intend the wedding. One of

849
00:40:31,960 --> 00:40:33,799
Speaker 3: them went so far as to tell Bee once the

850
00:40:33,840 --> 00:40:36,879
Speaker 3: honeymoon phase was over, dear husband would lose interest in her.

851
00:40:37,440 --> 00:40:42,399
Speaker 3: B cried, I block numbers. Fast forward to two days

852
00:40:42,440 --> 00:40:45,080
Speaker 3: before the wedding. Once mother in law and sister in

853
00:40:45,160 --> 00:40:47,880
Speaker 3: law had realized that Bee wasn't budging and dear husband

854
00:40:47,920 --> 00:40:52,920
Speaker 3: was no contact, they started on us bridesmaids. Now Sophie

855
00:40:52,960 --> 00:40:55,640
Speaker 3: is a lawyer. Apparently sister in law called her about

856
00:40:55,680 --> 00:40:58,160
Speaker 3: fifty times during a client meeting and pissed her off

857
00:40:58,200 --> 00:41:00,879
Speaker 3: to no extent. She came to me and said that

858
00:41:00,960 --> 00:41:03,399
Speaker 3: if this was going to be the case, she would

859
00:41:03,600 --> 00:41:06,160
Speaker 3: much rather drop out of the wedding. I sent out

860
00:41:06,160 --> 00:41:08,000
Speaker 3: a text with mother in law and sister in law's

861
00:41:08,040 --> 00:41:11,719
Speaker 3: numbers and asked both of them to block it. Then

862
00:41:11,760 --> 00:41:15,840
Speaker 3: the email torrent started, how they were being systematically removed

863
00:41:15,880 --> 00:41:18,920
Speaker 3: from their son's life by a gold digging witch, and

864
00:41:18,920 --> 00:41:21,879
Speaker 3: that as women we would understand that they never meant

865
00:41:21,880 --> 00:41:25,239
Speaker 3: to ruin the wedding. I must confess I softened up

866
00:41:25,239 --> 00:41:27,160
Speaker 3: a little, but the reference to my friend as a

867
00:41:27,160 --> 00:41:31,680
Speaker 3: gold digger really pissed me off. All the emails were ignored.

868
00:41:32,280 --> 00:41:33,960
Speaker 3: Day of the wedding, we were all getting ready at

869
00:41:34,000 --> 00:41:36,880
Speaker 3: Bees's step grandparents cottage, which sits right at the boundary

870
00:41:36,920 --> 00:41:39,680
Speaker 3: of the venue. The venue is an orchard that belongs

871
00:41:39,680 --> 00:41:42,239
Speaker 3: to them, and they volunteered to have the wedding there

872
00:41:42,360 --> 00:41:44,719
Speaker 3: and paid for the furniture rentals. So it was just

873
00:41:44,800 --> 00:41:47,279
Speaker 3: as four girls. And when the doorbell rang, I ran

874
00:41:47,360 --> 00:41:49,000
Speaker 3: down to get it because I thought it was the

875
00:41:49,040 --> 00:41:53,440
Speaker 3: beautician coming up to do Bee's hair and makeup. It

876
00:41:53,680 --> 00:41:57,160
Speaker 3: was sister in law. She's like, I'm here to do

877
00:41:57,280 --> 00:42:01,160
Speaker 3: your makeup and ruin it. She was standing with two

878
00:42:01,160 --> 00:42:03,040
Speaker 3: bags and tried to push her way in. When I

879
00:42:03,040 --> 00:42:06,200
Speaker 3: opened the door, I almost fell over but managed to

880
00:42:06,239 --> 00:42:08,960
Speaker 3: hold her out. I reminded her that not only was

881
00:42:09,000 --> 00:42:11,480
Speaker 3: she out of the bridal party, she was not invited

882
00:42:11,480 --> 00:42:13,960
Speaker 3: at the wedding. She made a big fuss about how

883
00:42:14,040 --> 00:42:16,719
Speaker 3: she was willing to ignore our hurtful behavior of the

884
00:42:16,840 --> 00:42:19,399
Speaker 3: nerve and that she was only there because she didn't

885
00:42:19,440 --> 00:42:21,960
Speaker 3: want the wedding party to be uneven. We now had

886
00:42:21,960 --> 00:42:25,120
Speaker 3: four groomsmen but only three bridesmaids. After sister in law

887
00:42:25,160 --> 00:42:28,160
Speaker 3: got chucked out, I told her we didn't care about

888
00:42:28,200 --> 00:42:30,759
Speaker 3: crop like that and she should get out before I

889
00:42:30,800 --> 00:42:31,600
Speaker 3: called security.

890
00:42:32,080 --> 00:42:33,680
Speaker 1: We didn't have any, but it just seemed like a

891
00:42:33,719 --> 00:42:34,520
Speaker 1: good thing to say.

892
00:42:35,200 --> 00:42:37,439
Speaker 3: She huffed and puffed and tried to blow them down,

893
00:42:37,600 --> 00:42:40,640
Speaker 3: but left after a few minutes. So we're all back

894
00:42:40,680 --> 00:42:43,400
Speaker 3: to getting dressed. I pulled Sophie and Kira aside to

895
00:42:43,480 --> 00:42:45,560
Speaker 3: keep an eye out for sister in law now that

896
00:42:45,600 --> 00:42:49,360
Speaker 3: I know she's nearby. Just as we guessed, we spotted

897
00:42:49,400 --> 00:42:53,000
Speaker 3: her again. Her mom's SUV was parked right across the

898
00:42:53,080 --> 00:42:55,239
Speaker 3: road from the entrance to the compound, and we could

899
00:42:55,239 --> 00:42:57,920
Speaker 3: see mother in law and sister in law sitting inside.

900
00:42:58,640 --> 00:43:03,400
Speaker 3: And guess what the witch had changed into the white dress.

901
00:43:03,840 --> 00:43:06,480
Speaker 3: And that's when you get the paintball out. There you go,

902
00:43:06,760 --> 00:43:09,360
Speaker 3: and you just start there you go. Bah. Sophie is

903
00:43:09,440 --> 00:43:12,239
Speaker 3: very level headed on like my short tempered self. She

904
00:43:12,320 --> 00:43:16,120
Speaker 3: told me to simply ignore it. Everyone's dressed and ready.

905
00:43:16,239 --> 00:43:19,239
Speaker 3: Guests have arrived. They're seated with some champagne, and we

906
00:43:19,320 --> 00:43:21,880
Speaker 3: position be just inside the back door of the cottage.

907
00:43:22,120 --> 00:43:25,000
Speaker 3: Path from the there leads directly to the wedding clearing.

908
00:43:25,600 --> 00:43:28,400
Speaker 3: The doorbell ring again. I stammered out some excuse but

909
00:43:28,520 --> 00:43:30,480
Speaker 3: asking the caretaker to call me if there was some

910
00:43:30,600 --> 00:43:33,399
Speaker 3: issue with guest parking, and rushed out to the front

911
00:43:33,480 --> 00:43:36,600
Speaker 3: of the house. Sure enough, it's mother in law and

912
00:43:36,640 --> 00:43:39,480
Speaker 3: sister in law in white. Mother in law sees me

913
00:43:39,560 --> 00:43:43,520
Speaker 3: and snaps, hissing about how she's here to destroy me.

914
00:43:44,560 --> 00:43:47,040
Speaker 3: I tell her, Okay, you guys can sit in the

915
00:43:47,080 --> 00:43:49,400
Speaker 3: back at the wedding if sister in law changes into

916
00:43:49,440 --> 00:43:53,520
Speaker 3: a non white dress. Mother in law refuses, insisting that

917
00:43:53,560 --> 00:43:56,160
Speaker 3: it's a family party and her daughter should get equal

918
00:43:56,200 --> 00:43:59,040
Speaker 3: importance to the bride. At this exact moment, one of

919
00:43:59,040 --> 00:44:02,000
Speaker 3: the groom's men, let's call him Brian, is crossing the entrance.

920
00:44:02,400 --> 00:44:05,160
Speaker 3: He takes one look and realizes what's going on. He

921
00:44:05,400 --> 00:44:08,160
Speaker 3: forcibly escorts mother in law and sister in law out

922
00:44:08,160 --> 00:44:11,279
Speaker 3: of the property, threatening to call the cops. Luckily, the

923
00:44:11,320 --> 00:44:13,719
Speaker 3: ceremony went on with no issues. We add to the

924
00:44:13,719 --> 00:44:16,319
Speaker 3: reception area. It's like a minute's walk from the wedding area,

925
00:44:16,600 --> 00:44:19,960
Speaker 3: just a little further into the clearing. Everyone's having fun.

926
00:44:20,440 --> 00:44:22,800
Speaker 3: Sophie and I are trying to organize some photo calls

927
00:44:22,840 --> 00:44:27,480
Speaker 3: between glasses of champagne when we notice Kira's missing. We

928
00:44:27,560 --> 00:44:30,040
Speaker 3: rush around the place and finally to the front of

929
00:44:30,080 --> 00:44:32,560
Speaker 3: the house, where the greatest scene of my life meets

930
00:44:32,600 --> 00:44:35,520
Speaker 3: my eyes. Turns out Kira and one of the groomsmen

931
00:44:35,640 --> 00:44:38,759
Speaker 3: snuck off for a little makeout sash after the ceremony.

932
00:44:38,960 --> 00:44:41,440
Speaker 3: He he whoa, And they caught sister in law and

933
00:44:41,520 --> 00:44:44,680
Speaker 3: mother in law entering the gates again. Probably thought they

934
00:44:44,719 --> 00:44:47,080
Speaker 3: could get in since the front of the compound was deserted.

935
00:44:47,560 --> 00:44:49,799
Speaker 3: Kira is a little more like me than Sophie, so

936
00:44:49,920 --> 00:44:53,720
Speaker 3: she tripped sister in law into the mud. White dress

937
00:44:53,719 --> 00:44:58,120
Speaker 3: smattered with mud. It might have been rude, but I

938
00:44:58,200 --> 00:44:59,080
Speaker 3: laughed right there.

939
00:44:59,480 --> 00:45:01,200
Speaker 1: Not rude. But these people are crazy.

940
00:45:01,400 --> 00:45:04,760
Speaker 3: Yeah, you can't be rude to crazy people because they're crazy.

941
00:45:04,960 --> 00:45:08,920
Speaker 1: Absolutely, these people deserve it. The perfect thing could have happened.

942
00:45:09,200 --> 00:45:10,040
Speaker 1: I love Kira.

943
00:45:10,840 --> 00:45:14,040
Speaker 3: Good job, Kia, soph He hurried over and dragged Hira

944
00:45:14,160 --> 00:45:17,879
Speaker 3: back kind of a little snippy before firmly instructing mother

945
00:45:17,880 --> 00:45:20,080
Speaker 3: in law and sister in law to leave before she

946
00:45:20,400 --> 00:45:23,640
Speaker 3: a lawyer called the police and filed the case of

947
00:45:23,680 --> 00:45:26,360
Speaker 3: breaking and entering. I think this kind of got to

948
00:45:26,400 --> 00:45:29,160
Speaker 3: them because they actually drove off and the rest was

949
00:45:29,239 --> 00:45:31,560
Speaker 3: just a huge fun party. And you know what else

950
00:45:31,640 --> 00:45:34,360
Speaker 3: is a huge fun party? What listening to full episodes

951
00:45:34,400 --> 00:45:37,520
Speaker 3: with stories just like this? Just go to Spotify, Apple Podcasts,

952
00:45:37,600 --> 00:45:39,600
Speaker 3: or your favorite podcast app and search up. Okay, story

953
00:45:39,640 --> 00:45:44,319
Speaker 3: time props to this bridal party for like Bee's ride

954
00:45:44,400 --> 00:45:47,200
Speaker 3: or Die. Yeah, because it seems like Bee has not

955
00:45:47,239 --> 00:45:51,920
Speaker 3: been involved in having to wrangle the mother and sister.

956
00:45:51,719 --> 00:45:54,040
Speaker 1: In law at a right. They're taking care of it. Yeah,

957
00:45:54,080 --> 00:45:56,920
Speaker 1: they are exactly care of it. The job of like

958
00:45:57,320 --> 00:46:00,440
Speaker 1: the maid of honor and the whole bridal party party

959
00:46:00,480 --> 00:46:01,759
Speaker 1: is to protect the bok.

960
00:46:02,760 --> 00:46:06,160
Speaker 3: You ain't getting in. Don't even freaking try it. Bust

961
00:46:06,160 --> 00:46:10,480
Speaker 3: her this girl. Oh my goodness, my guys, but there's

962
00:46:10,480 --> 00:46:12,920
Speaker 3: a little bit left. I should once again mention a

963
00:46:12,920 --> 00:46:15,919
Speaker 3: few things. Be doesn't know anything about mother in law

964
00:46:15,960 --> 00:46:18,560
Speaker 3: and sister in law even being in the compound during

965
00:46:18,560 --> 00:46:21,120
Speaker 3: the wedding. We kept it from her and we don't

966
00:46:21,160 --> 00:46:23,719
Speaker 3: intend to tell her until she gets back from her honeymoon.

967
00:46:24,280 --> 00:46:26,840
Speaker 3: To all the editors who gave us support and advice,

968
00:46:27,160 --> 00:46:30,680
Speaker 3: thank you so so much. Your kindness has meant a

969
00:46:30,719 --> 00:46:33,560
Speaker 3: lot during this hard time. I will be forever grateful

970
00:46:33,560 --> 00:46:36,480
Speaker 3: to you all. I've never been harangued so much by

971
00:46:36,480 --> 00:46:38,600
Speaker 3: someone in my life. I only hope they keep away

972
00:46:38,600 --> 00:46:41,480
Speaker 3: from b now that lines have been set, and that

973
00:46:41,680 --> 00:46:43,640
Speaker 3: is the end of that story.

974
00:46:43,920 --> 00:46:46,920
Speaker 1: Wow. Man, oh man, what a crazy wedding. I'm so

975
00:46:47,040 --> 00:46:49,759
Speaker 1: glad that it ended up with a muddy dress and

976
00:46:49,800 --> 00:46:51,319
Speaker 1: then driving kicked out.

977
00:46:51,400 --> 00:46:54,399
Speaker 3: Yeah the sunset anger. Yeah, I don't want to see

978
00:46:54,440 --> 00:46:56,240
Speaker 3: you around these parts ever again.

979
00:46:56,480 --> 00:47:00,200
Speaker 1: Ever. But yeah could be. Good job, Ope, amazing, good

980
00:47:00,239 --> 00:47:02,279
Speaker 1: job bridle party, and I'm glad that be got out.

981
00:47:02,320 --> 00:47:03,600
Speaker 1: Happy wedding, Happy wedding.

982
00:47:04,680 --> 00:47:05,160
Speaker 3: Hey, it's Sam.

983
00:47:05,160 --> 00:47:06,919
Speaker 1: We're going to get back to these stories. But here's

984
00:47:06,920 --> 00:47:11,000
Speaker 1: three minutes of bads for our sponsors. My friend berated

985
00:47:11,040 --> 00:47:14,240
Speaker 1: me at her wedding over a small mistake, so I

986
00:47:14,400 --> 00:47:19,240
Speaker 1: ended our friendship that Yeah once mo, mistake friendship over. Hi'll,

987
00:47:19,400 --> 00:47:21,680
Speaker 1: So my friend just had her wedding this past weekend.

988
00:47:21,760 --> 00:47:23,960
Speaker 1: I was the maid of honor, although not the original

989
00:47:23,960 --> 00:47:26,200
Speaker 1: maid of honor due to drama with the bride and

990
00:47:26,239 --> 00:47:29,360
Speaker 1: her best friend a few months ago, and she only

991
00:47:29,400 --> 00:47:32,640
Speaker 1: had one other bride'smaid due to some drama that unfurled

992
00:47:32,680 --> 00:47:34,719
Speaker 1: over the year leading up to the wedding. By the way,

993
00:47:34,719 --> 00:47:36,440
Speaker 1: this comes from Love Prairie Dog and if you want

994
00:47:36,440 --> 00:47:38,279
Speaker 1: to submit your own stories, just going to our slash

995
00:47:38,320 --> 00:47:41,239
Speaker 1: Okay story Times subreddit. I've tried my best for the

996
00:47:41,239 --> 00:47:44,200
Speaker 1: past multiple months to step up, be there for the bride,

997
00:47:44,280 --> 00:47:47,080
Speaker 1: be a good friend, and take whatever stress I can

998
00:47:47,239 --> 00:47:50,360
Speaker 1: off her shoulders. I've bought her in the groom numerous

999
00:47:50,400 --> 00:47:53,120
Speaker 1: things and a nice present, as well as treated them

1000
00:47:53,160 --> 00:47:56,120
Speaker 1: to coffee and meals as I know they've been inundated

1001
00:47:56,280 --> 00:48:00,160
Speaker 1: with wedding bills. I've taken off work and missed her

1002
00:48:00,239 --> 00:48:02,600
Speaker 1: engagements to be there for her and truly step up

1003
00:48:02,600 --> 00:48:04,720
Speaker 1: as made of honor. All of this I was happy

1004
00:48:04,719 --> 00:48:08,360
Speaker 1: to do. Day of the wedding, I tried my hardest

1005
00:48:08,400 --> 00:48:11,680
Speaker 1: to do everything and finish last minute daycrafts that hadn't

1006
00:48:11,719 --> 00:48:14,759
Speaker 1: been finished. I made numerous trips to and from the

1007
00:48:14,840 --> 00:48:17,239
Speaker 1: venue in full hair and makeup to finish things and

1008
00:48:17,360 --> 00:48:19,840
Speaker 1: make sure that the bride was as relaxed as she

1009
00:48:19,880 --> 00:48:22,040
Speaker 1: could be on her wedding day. What a good person

1010
00:48:22,120 --> 00:48:22,440
Speaker 1: you are.

1011
00:48:22,680 --> 00:48:25,680
Speaker 3: Yeah, I don't think she's gonna be happy about anything,

1012
00:48:25,719 --> 00:48:27,560
Speaker 3: though I agree.

1013
00:48:27,760 --> 00:48:30,080
Speaker 1: I was happy to do all of this. She's my friend,

1014
00:48:30,360 --> 00:48:32,640
Speaker 1: and although I haven't had my own wedding, I can

1015
00:48:32,680 --> 00:48:35,880
Speaker 1: only imagine the kind of stress she was under. However,

1016
00:48:36,360 --> 00:48:39,319
Speaker 1: it was difficult considering it was only me and one

1017
00:48:39,360 --> 00:48:43,040
Speaker 1: other bride's maid carrying on all the duties fast forward

1018
00:48:43,120 --> 00:48:45,920
Speaker 1: to the ceremony. She tells me beforehand that if the

1019
00:48:45,960 --> 00:48:49,279
Speaker 1: groom turns around before she's ready, she will leave the

1020
00:48:49,360 --> 00:48:52,640
Speaker 1: ceremony and we'll have to do it all over again.

1021
00:48:53,120 --> 00:48:56,160
Speaker 1: So I felt an intense stress, as I didn't want

1022
00:48:56,160 --> 00:48:58,359
Speaker 1: to mess things up and have a whole scene happen

1023
00:48:58,440 --> 00:49:00,840
Speaker 1: because I told him to turn around too early. I

1024
00:49:00,880 --> 00:49:03,440
Speaker 1: walked down the aisle and in my nerves, I stand

1025
00:49:03,560 --> 00:49:06,280
Speaker 1: too far to the side so I cannot see the bride.

1026
00:49:06,520 --> 00:49:10,200
Speaker 1: I am rather short. Admittedly I messed up. I should

1027
00:49:10,200 --> 00:49:11,799
Speaker 1: have moved closer to the groom so that I could

1028
00:49:11,800 --> 00:49:14,400
Speaker 1: see the bride. I was nervous, and honestly, I didn't

1029
00:49:14,400 --> 00:49:17,120
Speaker 1: think about where I ended up standing. I moved closer

1030
00:49:17,120 --> 00:49:19,200
Speaker 1: to the groom a little too late to see the

1031
00:49:19,200 --> 00:49:22,880
Speaker 1: bride make a small gesture with her fingers, signaling to

1032
00:49:22,920 --> 00:49:26,040
Speaker 1: me that she wanted him to turn around. At this point,

1033
00:49:26,160 --> 00:49:28,759
Speaker 1: I told him to turn around. I apologized to the

1034
00:49:28,760 --> 00:49:31,640
Speaker 1: groom after the ceremony for the weight and confusion, as

1035
00:49:31,640 --> 00:49:33,920
Speaker 1: he had been looking at me and I was delaying

1036
00:49:33,960 --> 00:49:37,560
Speaker 1: and giving the motion. However, he said it was okay,

1037
00:49:37,719 --> 00:49:40,040
Speaker 1: so we continued to have a great night. I thought

1038
00:49:40,040 --> 00:49:42,799
Speaker 1: that given everything else went wonderfully. I was just being

1039
00:49:42,880 --> 00:49:45,760
Speaker 1: overly anxious about my mistake and that in the grand

1040
00:49:45,800 --> 00:49:48,680
Speaker 1: scheme of things, it didn't matter too much. For the record,

1041
00:49:48,760 --> 00:49:52,800
Speaker 1: I'm still beating myself up about it. Don't literally don't. Don't,

1042
00:49:52,960 --> 00:49:54,080
Speaker 1: Oh my, I certainly do.

1043
00:49:54,200 --> 00:49:58,920
Speaker 3: Not. A real friend wouldn't beat you up about that, exactly.

1044
00:49:59,160 --> 00:50:01,399
Speaker 1: I'm upset that when I made a mistake that day,

1045
00:50:01,520 --> 00:50:04,319
Speaker 1: it was that moment. Fast forward to the morning after

1046
00:50:04,360 --> 00:50:07,160
Speaker 1: the ceremony, the bride in front of the groom and

1047
00:50:07,200 --> 00:50:10,440
Speaker 1: another member of the party chewed me out, shouting that

1048
00:50:10,520 --> 00:50:13,840
Speaker 1: I ruined the moment and that it was really effing crappy.

1049
00:50:14,600 --> 00:50:17,640
Speaker 1: She said that it was her wedding day, as if

1050
00:50:17,680 --> 00:50:20,600
Speaker 1: I didn't already know that, and that I really messed

1051
00:50:20,680 --> 00:50:23,719
Speaker 1: up because everyone saw her make the gesture. She proceeded

1052
00:50:23,760 --> 00:50:27,600
Speaker 1: to shout, even after I was crying and profusely apologizing,

1053
00:50:27,960 --> 00:50:30,960
Speaker 1: She excused her behavior, saying, I don't even care that

1054
00:50:31,000 --> 00:50:34,279
Speaker 1: you're crying, because it was my moment. Honestly, it was

1055
00:50:34,400 --> 00:50:37,480
Speaker 1: kind of scary. No one else intervened, and she hasn't

1056
00:50:37,520 --> 00:50:43,120
Speaker 1: apologized since. Come on, no one else did anything. Come on,

1057
00:50:43,800 --> 00:50:46,279
Speaker 1: she's not even replying to my texts. I know that

1058
00:50:46,320 --> 00:50:48,360
Speaker 1: she's getting ready for her honeymoon, so I won't be

1059
00:50:48,400 --> 00:50:51,200
Speaker 1: reaching out to give her time to relax with her husband. However,

1060
00:50:51,680 --> 00:50:54,520
Speaker 1: I'm genuinely hurt by how she approached me about it.

1061
00:50:54,920 --> 00:50:57,319
Speaker 1: Since she was heard about my mistake, I absolutely would

1062
00:50:57,400 --> 00:51:00,240
Speaker 1: want her to let me know. I know I messed up.

1063
00:51:00,400 --> 00:51:03,600
Speaker 1: I'm just hurt by how she communicated her frustration. I

1064
00:51:03,640 --> 00:51:06,200
Speaker 1: had tried my hardest to do everything perfectly to be

1065
00:51:06,239 --> 00:51:08,960
Speaker 1: there for her and wait on her hand and foot.

1066
00:51:09,320 --> 00:51:12,600
Speaker 1: I'm not sure what more I could have done anyway.

1067
00:51:12,680 --> 00:51:14,960
Speaker 1: Apologies for the long post. I just wanted to ask

1068
00:51:15,000 --> 00:51:17,480
Speaker 1: if her reaction was totally warranted given my mistake, or

1069
00:51:17,520 --> 00:51:19,920
Speaker 1: if it was kind of too much. Please be honest.

1070
00:51:20,040 --> 00:51:23,040
Speaker 1: I want to be able to find peace with the situation. Thanks,

1071
00:51:23,040 --> 00:51:24,680
Speaker 1: and there is more to this story. But what's our

1072
00:51:24,680 --> 00:51:27,799
Speaker 1: answer for her more than kinda you're not the ale, No,

1073
00:51:28,080 --> 00:51:31,200
Speaker 1: she's a psycho. It was a tiny little mistake, but

1074
00:51:31,320 --> 00:51:34,319
Speaker 1: all it deserves is like my bad. Yeah, you don't

1075
00:51:34,360 --> 00:51:36,640
Speaker 1: need to be crying. No, you don't need to be

1076
00:51:36,680 --> 00:51:40,080
Speaker 1: profusely apologized now, not at all. At a certain point,

1077
00:51:40,719 --> 00:51:43,440
Speaker 1: the person who like you think you made a mistake

1078
00:51:43,600 --> 00:51:45,919
Speaker 1: for that they can be in the wrong too.

1079
00:51:46,080 --> 00:51:48,759
Speaker 3: And also, honestly, I don't even think she should have,

1080
00:51:48,840 --> 00:51:50,000
Speaker 3: like the bride should have brought that.

1081
00:51:50,080 --> 00:51:52,520
Speaker 1: Up at all. Like I don't even think her.

1082
00:51:52,440 --> 00:51:54,480
Speaker 3: Being like, oh, hey, like you know you made that?

1083
00:51:54,480 --> 00:51:57,080
Speaker 1: That would have been weird too. Yeah. People probably didn't

1084
00:51:57,080 --> 00:51:59,959
Speaker 1: even notice or think about it. Yeah, and then now

1085
00:52:00,080 --> 00:52:02,920
Speaker 1: they know about it because the bride's like yelling about it, yeah.

1086
00:52:02,840 --> 00:52:05,279
Speaker 3: In front of everyone. Like that's so much more embarrassing.

1087
00:52:05,760 --> 00:52:08,719
Speaker 1: Edit forgot to mention, but she told me that I

1088
00:52:08,719 --> 00:52:12,000
Speaker 1: should have approached her immediately after the ceremony to apologize.

1089
00:52:12,040 --> 00:52:13,880
Speaker 1: She said that it was rude that I didn't do so.

1090
00:52:14,560 --> 00:52:16,520
Speaker 1: I told her that she was taking photos and was

1091
00:52:16,680 --> 00:52:18,560
Speaker 1: just married, so I didn't think it was a good time.

1092
00:52:18,680 --> 00:52:21,719
Speaker 1: She still said that this was another mistake on my part.

1093
00:52:21,960 --> 00:52:26,520
Speaker 1: Edits number two. Hi'all, thank you for your honest and

1094
00:52:26,600 --> 00:52:30,040
Speaker 1: encouraging words. I've decided that she no longer deserves my friendship,

1095
00:52:30,120 --> 00:52:34,680
Speaker 1: and under no circumstances should I ever accept that treatment again. Yes, good,

1096
00:52:35,040 --> 00:52:38,520
Speaker 1: that's right. I'm done apologizing and have no desire to

1097
00:52:38,560 --> 00:52:41,040
Speaker 1: reach out to her. Looks like she doesn't have any

1098
00:52:41,120 --> 00:52:44,000
Speaker 1: friends left. I wish I felt bad, but I honestly don't.

1099
00:52:44,239 --> 00:52:47,000
Speaker 1: On too better friends and brighter skies, And there are

1100
00:52:47,080 --> 00:52:49,799
Speaker 1: some comments. Common Number one says, I'm not trying to

1101
00:52:49,800 --> 00:52:52,560
Speaker 1: sound harsh here, but you really really need to grow

1102
00:52:52,600 --> 00:52:55,400
Speaker 1: a spine and realize that she isn't your friend. You

1103
00:52:55,480 --> 00:52:58,480
Speaker 1: have no reason to apologize. Don't even think about it.

1104
00:52:58,680 --> 00:53:01,239
Speaker 1: You let her walk all over you. You really need

1105
00:53:01,280 --> 00:53:03,839
Speaker 1: therapy to get some self esteem and need to learn

1106
00:53:03,880 --> 00:53:06,560
Speaker 1: to stand up for yourself. You did everything right and

1107
00:53:06,600 --> 00:53:09,759
Speaker 1: gave so much to a crappy person. Drop her completely,

1108
00:53:10,320 --> 00:53:13,400
Speaker 1: and now you know why others bailed on her prior

1109
00:53:13,520 --> 00:53:16,200
Speaker 1: to you. OPI responds, I am in therapy. As I've

1110
00:53:16,200 --> 00:53:18,960
Speaker 1: said in other comments, I'm already dropping her as a friend.

1111
00:53:19,080 --> 00:53:21,600
Speaker 1: This weekend was the first time I felt maltreated by her,

1112
00:53:21,640 --> 00:53:24,279
Speaker 1: and I plan on making it the last time. I

1113
00:53:24,360 --> 00:53:26,680
Speaker 1: appreciate your response, but I ensure you that I do

1114
00:53:26,760 --> 00:53:29,040
Speaker 1: have self esteem. I was just blinded by trying to

1115
00:53:29,080 --> 00:53:30,839
Speaker 1: make this wedding as good as it could be for her.

1116
00:53:31,440 --> 00:53:34,160
Speaker 1: I'm a romantic and a giver, but I don't think

1117
00:53:34,200 --> 00:53:36,760
Speaker 1: that that means I have low self esteem? Am I naive?

1118
00:53:37,000 --> 00:53:39,560
Speaker 1: Maybe dumb and overly anxious, especially when it comes to

1119
00:53:39,600 --> 00:53:43,440
Speaker 1: not recognizing red flags with former bridesmaids. Heck, yes, but

1120
00:53:43,520 --> 00:53:46,360
Speaker 1: I assure you I'm confident in myself and what I deserve.

1121
00:53:46,600 --> 00:53:50,600
Speaker 1: That's why I'm ending the friendship. Go you go, you,

1122
00:53:50,600 --> 00:53:53,879
Speaker 1: you go girl. You freaking go girl. Oh girls, because

1123
00:53:53,920 --> 00:53:57,040
Speaker 1: you're killing it and I like it. Comment number two says,

1124
00:53:57,080 --> 00:53:59,439
Speaker 1: I think you should accept that you were never going

1125
00:53:59,480 --> 00:54:01,960
Speaker 1: to make the bride. No one could. After all you

1126
00:54:02,000 --> 00:54:04,279
Speaker 1: did for her. Her only response was to find a

1127
00:54:04,400 --> 00:54:06,560
Speaker 1: tiny moment to be angry about and blame you for

1128
00:54:07,040 --> 00:54:10,440
Speaker 1: the ingratitude is stunning. I commend you for doing the

1129
00:54:10,440 --> 00:54:12,359
Speaker 1: best you could for that person, because you are kind

1130
00:54:12,400 --> 00:54:15,760
Speaker 1: and well meaning and the world needs more people like you. Sadly,

1131
00:54:16,000 --> 00:54:18,160
Speaker 1: now you know that some people cannot be pleased no

1132
00:54:18,160 --> 00:54:21,239
Speaker 1: matter what you do, and knowing that is important. We'll

1133
00:54:21,320 --> 00:54:26,400
Speaker 1: recognize the impossible to please sooner and now save yourself

1134
00:54:26,400 --> 00:54:28,880
Speaker 1: a lot of headache in the future. Don't text or

1135
00:54:28,920 --> 00:54:31,239
Speaker 1: call her. Let her become the ex friend she was

1136
00:54:31,320 --> 00:54:35,239
Speaker 1: always going to become. Ask her other bridesmaids and there

1137
00:54:35,320 --> 00:54:40,120
Speaker 1: is an update. Man so Op says, I received a

1138
00:54:40,160 --> 00:54:42,239
Speaker 1: lot of support and thank you for all of that

1139
00:54:42,480 --> 00:54:44,120
Speaker 1: it's nice to know that there are kind people out there,

1140
00:54:44,200 --> 00:54:48,200
Speaker 1: especially to win anonymous on the internet. After reading all

1141
00:54:48,200 --> 00:54:50,440
Speaker 1: the responses and speaking with my therapist, I thought it

1142
00:54:50,440 --> 00:54:53,120
Speaker 1: would be best to send the bridezilla a text. I'm

1143
00:54:53,160 --> 00:54:56,400
Speaker 1: big on closure, and although I was anticipating a nasty response,

1144
00:54:56,640 --> 00:54:58,960
Speaker 1: I knew for my own well beating I needed to

1145
00:54:59,000 --> 00:55:02,080
Speaker 1: air out my feeling. Yes, I waited until she was

1146
00:55:02,080 --> 00:55:04,239
Speaker 1: back from her honeymoon and numerous days so that she

1147
00:55:04,320 --> 00:55:07,560
Speaker 1: and her husband could decompress. Then I sent a text,

1148
00:55:08,120 --> 00:55:12,120
Speaker 1: which we will see soon. She quickly replied, and as anticipated,

1149
00:55:12,320 --> 00:55:16,799
Speaker 1: was nasty. She lied numerous times. She did ask me

1150
00:55:16,840 --> 00:55:19,960
Speaker 1: to be maid of honor, and I did apologize numerous times.

1151
00:55:20,080 --> 00:55:22,440
Speaker 1: I did not belittle her in front of her mother

1152
00:55:22,480 --> 00:55:24,400
Speaker 1: in law. All I did was offer some help to

1153
00:55:24,440 --> 00:55:28,480
Speaker 1: take stuff to the storage locker. I also was not pissied,

1154
00:55:28,520 --> 00:55:30,640
Speaker 1: nor did I sigh at all that day. I have

1155
00:55:30,800 --> 00:55:34,480
Speaker 1: highlighted the super egregious bits if you don't want to

1156
00:55:34,520 --> 00:55:37,640
Speaker 1: read all of it. I responded with the message ending

1157
00:55:37,680 --> 00:55:41,600
Speaker 1: the friendship and a subsequent block on everything. Other than

1158
00:55:41,640 --> 00:55:44,440
Speaker 1: providing an update, I just wanted to ask for advice

1159
00:55:44,560 --> 00:55:46,960
Speaker 1: for those who have lost friends. Due to them being

1160
00:55:47,000 --> 00:55:50,040
Speaker 1: Bridezilla's How have you moved forward? How do you find peace?

1161
00:55:50,320 --> 00:55:53,279
Speaker 1: Thank you again, folks, and we have the receipts of

1162
00:55:53,280 --> 00:55:58,399
Speaker 1: the text conversation. I like to hear so my text,

1163
00:55:59,080 --> 00:56:02,040
Speaker 1: Hey bride's name I wanted to I waited to reach

1164
00:56:02,080 --> 00:56:04,680
Speaker 1: out till y'all got back from your honeymoon and had

1165
00:56:04,719 --> 00:56:07,400
Speaker 1: time to decompress. I've been thinking a lot about your

1166
00:56:07,440 --> 00:56:10,280
Speaker 1: wedding weekend leading up to your wedding, and during that weekend,

1167
00:56:10,280 --> 00:56:12,879
Speaker 1: I've truly stepped up as your friend. I've been there

1168
00:56:12,920 --> 00:56:14,600
Speaker 1: when no one else was. I went out of my

1169
00:56:14,640 --> 00:56:16,600
Speaker 1: way to show up for you and prove to you

1170
00:56:16,680 --> 00:56:19,279
Speaker 1: that you're not alone. Over your wedding weekend, despite my

1171
00:56:19,360 --> 00:56:23,000
Speaker 1: pet's request to relax and desperately needing to prepare for

1172
00:56:23,040 --> 00:56:26,520
Speaker 1: a job interview, I focused solely on you. I crafted,

1173
00:56:26,680 --> 00:56:29,600
Speaker 1: made trips to and from the reception. Was the bad

1174
00:56:29,680 --> 00:56:32,680
Speaker 1: guy to the wedding planner. I waited on you hand

1175
00:56:32,680 --> 00:56:35,800
Speaker 1: and foot, bringing you water, food, and even scraping lipstick

1176
00:56:35,880 --> 00:56:38,560
Speaker 1: off of your teeth. I was tasked with things that

1177
00:56:38,640 --> 00:56:41,839
Speaker 1: aren't even the maid of honors responsibility. I was under

1178
00:56:41,880 --> 00:56:44,200
Speaker 1: an immense amount of pressure from you to make the

1179
00:56:44,280 --> 00:56:47,600
Speaker 1: day perfect. I tried my best and was and my

1180
00:56:47,680 --> 00:56:51,200
Speaker 1: best was pretty freaking amazing. The morning after your wedding,

1181
00:56:51,239 --> 00:56:54,760
Speaker 1: a major line was crossed. There's a huge difference between

1182
00:56:54,760 --> 00:56:58,360
Speaker 1: being blunt and being rude and disrespectful. Your outburst towards

1183
00:56:58,440 --> 00:57:01,480
Speaker 1: me was the latter. Dah only did you berate me,

1184
00:57:01,600 --> 00:57:04,440
Speaker 1: but you did so in front of your husband and groomsmith,

1185
00:57:05,239 --> 00:57:08,440
Speaker 1: Even after I was sobbing and apologizing for something I

1186
00:57:08,480 --> 00:57:11,960
Speaker 1: shouldn't have had to apologize for. You were relentless. If

1187
00:57:11,960 --> 00:57:14,120
Speaker 1: you were upset about something, I would of course want

1188
00:57:14,160 --> 00:57:15,759
Speaker 1: you to bring it to my attention, but in a

1189
00:57:15,840 --> 00:57:19,320
Speaker 1: respectful way. Under no circumstances, not even on your wedding

1190
00:57:19,360 --> 00:57:21,240
Speaker 1: day or in the morning after. Is it appropriate for

1191
00:57:21,280 --> 00:57:23,000
Speaker 1: you to speak to me like that, however you may

1192
00:57:23,120 --> 00:57:25,800
Speaker 1: justify it. I did not deserve that treatment. What I

1193
00:57:25,840 --> 00:57:28,440
Speaker 1: do deserve is a huge apology and an even bigger

1194
00:57:28,480 --> 00:57:30,800
Speaker 1: promise that you won't treat me like that again. If

1195
00:57:30,840 --> 00:57:33,120
Speaker 1: you choose to not reply or reply with anything but

1196
00:57:33,240 --> 00:57:36,320
Speaker 1: an apology, I'll assume you're content with this friendship ending.

1197
00:57:37,360 --> 00:57:39,560
Speaker 1: I meant everything I said in my maid of honor speech.

1198
00:57:39,760 --> 00:57:42,200
Speaker 1: You are my best friend and I love you, However,

1199
00:57:42,280 --> 00:57:45,520
Speaker 1: I will not allow myself to be belittled and maltreated.

1200
00:57:46,360 --> 00:57:49,760
Speaker 1: And the Bridezilla responded, yeah, that's a really good text,

1201
00:57:49,800 --> 00:57:50,400
Speaker 1: very mature.

1202
00:57:51,080 --> 00:57:54,160
Speaker 3: U uh uh yeah, point point points, firm, and don't

1203
00:57:54,520 --> 00:57:55,800
Speaker 3: talk to me every end.

1204
00:57:55,840 --> 00:58:00,400
Speaker 1: Bridezilla responds, you really can't deal with any criticism. Wow, okay,

1205
00:58:00,760 --> 00:58:04,200
Speaker 1: I mean I always knew that, but wow, I'm sorry

1206
00:58:04,200 --> 00:58:06,640
Speaker 1: for blowing up at you the day after. I wanted

1207
00:58:06,640 --> 00:58:10,040
Speaker 1: to handle it differently, for sure, but you totally talking

1208
00:58:10,080 --> 00:58:13,320
Speaker 1: down to me and doing against me in front of

1209
00:58:13,360 --> 00:58:16,240
Speaker 1: my mother in law was not okay at all and

1210
00:58:16,360 --> 00:58:19,360
Speaker 1: not needed. It was not your place. Everything you did

1211
00:58:19,480 --> 00:58:22,120
Speaker 1: was made of honor jobs. Maybe when you're the maid

1212
00:58:22,160 --> 00:58:24,760
Speaker 1: of honor for your sister or a bride, you'll see that.

1213
00:58:25,200 --> 00:58:27,480
Speaker 1: It was my day and I could have been rude,

1214
00:58:27,480 --> 00:58:29,600
Speaker 1: but I really tried to be as chill as possible.

1215
00:58:29,960 --> 00:58:33,240
Speaker 1: You were noticeably stressed the night before about the cards,

1216
00:58:33,240 --> 00:58:35,880
Speaker 1: and I was super chill about finishing them the next day.

1217
00:58:36,040 --> 00:58:38,480
Speaker 1: I asked you to do so much because, like I mentioned,

1218
00:58:38,520 --> 00:58:42,800
Speaker 1: I only have two bridesmaids my brother and groomsmen, and

1219
00:58:43,400 --> 00:58:46,760
Speaker 1: bridesmaid number two's grandpa passed away that morning. So I

1220
00:58:46,760 --> 00:58:48,720
Speaker 1: didn't want to put too much on her. If you

1221
00:58:48,760 --> 00:58:51,120
Speaker 1: thought it was too much and we'd never speak again

1222
00:58:51,160 --> 00:58:53,320
Speaker 1: for that, then on your day you will see and

1223
00:58:53,360 --> 00:58:56,600
Speaker 1: regret it. I shouldn't have blown up in front of

1224
00:58:56,640 --> 00:58:59,600
Speaker 1: my husband, sure, but I couldn't hold it in anymore.

1225
00:58:59,640 --> 00:59:01,760
Speaker 1: And I'm I'm not going to dance around and say

1226
00:59:01,840 --> 00:59:05,240
Speaker 1: you ruining my epping wedding ceremony was fine, and care

1227
00:59:05,480 --> 00:59:08,120
Speaker 1: more about your feelings than my own debt.

1228
00:59:08,400 --> 00:59:12,760
Speaker 3: Girl, you ruined your own debt. Dude, you're you're blowing up,

1229
00:59:12,960 --> 00:59:14,000
Speaker 3: ruins your own day.

1230
00:59:14,160 --> 00:59:17,160
Speaker 1: Yeah, No one else ruined your debt exactly. You ruined

1231
00:59:17,200 --> 00:59:19,720
Speaker 1: it exactly. Like what do you even see as it

1232
00:59:19,800 --> 00:59:22,800
Speaker 1: being ruined? Is it the crying that you caused? Or

1233
00:59:22,920 --> 00:59:25,320
Speaker 1: is it the little motion that you had to do

1234
00:59:25,400 --> 00:59:27,760
Speaker 1: to make him turn around? Yeah? Which one was actually bigger?

1235
00:59:27,880 --> 00:59:29,600
Speaker 3: Yeah? Come on, This is like if you're in the

1236
00:59:29,720 --> 00:59:33,080
Speaker 3: play and there's some sort of like I don't know

1237
00:59:33,560 --> 00:59:36,600
Speaker 3: prop thing that's missing or whatever, yeah, and then you

1238
00:59:36,720 --> 00:59:39,840
Speaker 3: just start sobbing on stage. Yeah, and the audience is like,

1239
00:59:39,880 --> 00:59:41,800
Speaker 3: I didn't even I didn't even know that they are

1240
00:59:41,800 --> 00:59:45,800
Speaker 3: supposed to be there? What just happened? Come on, man, but.

1241
00:59:45,880 --> 00:59:49,040
Speaker 1: The text continuous. I tried to be as kind as possible.

1242
00:59:49,120 --> 00:59:51,560
Speaker 1: It's not my fault. You can dish it out but

1243
00:59:51,680 --> 00:59:53,960
Speaker 1: can't take it. I always feel like I'm walking on

1244
00:59:53,960 --> 00:59:57,480
Speaker 1: eggshells around you. I appreciate everything you did. I know

1245
00:59:57,520 --> 00:59:59,840
Speaker 1: it's not coming through through text, but I didn't seem

1246
00:59:59,880 --> 01:00:02,000
Speaker 1: like offering to me in person was an option from

1247
01:00:02,000 --> 01:00:05,000
Speaker 1: your tone. So I'll try here. You made the day,

1248
01:00:05,200 --> 01:00:08,120
Speaker 1: for sure, you helped so much, and I thought I

1249
01:00:08,160 --> 01:00:11,320
Speaker 1: said thank you, but it's being a bridesmaid. You don't

1250
01:00:11,320 --> 01:00:15,920
Speaker 1: get a trophy. Oh my god, Oh my god, you

1251
01:00:16,480 --> 01:00:21,160
Speaker 1: crazy Wench. That's crazy. I hate you, my god. I

1252
01:00:21,200 --> 01:00:23,280
Speaker 1: really appreciate you and would do it for you a

1253
01:00:23,400 --> 01:00:26,920
Speaker 1: thousand times over without any pat on the back. I

1254
01:00:26,920 --> 01:00:29,080
Speaker 1: don't know how you want me to say thank you, Mark.

1255
01:00:29,440 --> 01:00:32,080
Speaker 1: I never expected to need to grovel and worship the

1256
01:00:32,120 --> 01:00:35,760
Speaker 1: ground you walked on for being my bridesmaid. And don't

1257
01:00:35,760 --> 01:00:39,200
Speaker 1: you effing dare throw the relaxation and interview in my

1258
01:00:39,280 --> 01:00:42,280
Speaker 1: face when you never told me I don't feel guilty.

1259
01:00:42,360 --> 01:00:45,000
Speaker 1: You should be an adult about that. You can communicate

1260
01:00:45,040 --> 01:00:47,640
Speaker 1: your feelings and stress level. I could tell you were

1261
01:00:47,720 --> 01:00:50,760
Speaker 1: pissed and anxious the morning of, the morning of, with

1262
01:00:50,880 --> 01:00:53,440
Speaker 1: all your sighing. So when you were sitting in the

1263
01:00:53,480 --> 01:00:56,680
Speaker 1: living room waiting for hair or whatever, you barely had

1264
01:00:56,720 --> 01:00:59,920
Speaker 1: to lift a finger and bridesmaid number two was running around.

1265
01:01:00,280 --> 01:01:02,920
Speaker 1: If you needed a minute, you're capable. You could have

1266
01:01:03,120 --> 01:01:07,040
Speaker 1: told me I crossed the line by yelling. Sure. I

1267
01:01:07,160 --> 01:01:09,960
Speaker 1: yelled once and held my tongue. I may not have

1268
01:01:10,000 --> 01:01:13,880
Speaker 1: said nice things, but I didn't berate you. So chill girl.

1269
01:01:14,640 --> 01:01:18,960
Speaker 1: She was crying and you kept yelling at her. Dude, Yeah,

1270
01:01:19,000 --> 01:01:21,600
Speaker 1: and I crossed the line by yelling, Yeah, I crossed

1271
01:01:21,600 --> 01:01:26,360
Speaker 1: a line. Sure, yeah, yes, leave it a yeah lost line?

1272
01:01:27,080 --> 01:01:31,840
Speaker 1: Yeah No, that's crazy. You just can't handle anything. Oh

1273
01:01:31,960 --> 01:01:34,680
Speaker 1: my god, I should have done a lot worse for

1274
01:01:34,800 --> 01:01:38,000
Speaker 1: you ruining my ceremony. I'm over it. You can't take

1275
01:01:38,040 --> 01:01:41,080
Speaker 1: responsibility and weren't even going to apologize or address it

1276
01:01:41,160 --> 01:01:44,360
Speaker 1: at all. You still haven't apologized in that text, no

1277
01:01:44,440 --> 01:01:47,040
Speaker 1: one ever said you didn't do a good job. In fact,

1278
01:01:47,160 --> 01:01:49,840
Speaker 1: instead of feeling better or getting an apology myself, the

1279
01:01:49,880 --> 01:01:53,000
Speaker 1: whole thing at the house was me consoling you and

1280
01:01:53,120 --> 01:01:56,120
Speaker 1: letting my feelings go to the wayside. Time to go.

1281
01:01:56,320 --> 01:01:59,439
Speaker 1: Cut you out of the wedding fix. Also, you weren't

1282
01:01:59,480 --> 01:02:02,120
Speaker 1: made of honor. I never asked you. You just assumed,

1283
01:02:02,600 --> 01:02:04,800
Speaker 1: not because I didn't want you or wouldn't have picked

1284
01:02:04,800 --> 01:02:07,800
Speaker 1: you after I just truly didn't want the titles anyone,

1285
01:02:08,000 --> 01:02:11,880
Speaker 1: after all the bs, and you just didn't care and decided.

1286
01:02:12,840 --> 01:02:15,560
Speaker 1: You are a great friend and person and I have

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Speaker 1: love for you, but I need you to grow up.

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Speaker 1: By the way, we have love for you. Whenever you

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Speaker 1: are a great person and you check out more episodes

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Speaker 1: stories just like this one on Spotify, Apple podcast whatever

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Speaker 1: your favorite podcast app is just okay, story of time,

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Speaker 1: we gotcha, do it before we go into that. That's

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Speaker 1: just so insane. I really do hate the like excuse

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Speaker 1: for something bad or like yeah, not even an apology,

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Speaker 1: but of just saying like, well, it could have been worse,

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Speaker 1: even worse. I could have, I could have I'm alive

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Speaker 1: to you, Yeah it could have been worse. So you

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Speaker 1: should be grateful. You're welcome what I didn't do, Like,

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Speaker 1: that's that's crap, crap, by ah, but you responded again,

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Speaker 1: I'm a great friend, and me walking away from this

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Speaker 1: friendship now is me growing up. I deserve a better

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Speaker 1: friend and don't deserve to be talked to the way

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Speaker 1: you talk to me and have just texted me. When

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Speaker 1: I get married, I'll be at peace knowing that I'm

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Speaker 1: not the type of person to belittle my friends even

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Speaker 1: under stress. Maybe one day you'll realize that you single

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Speaker 1: handedly destroyed this friendship. Maybe not, And that's okay. Genuinely

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Speaker 1: wishing you and your husband all the best, and that

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Speaker 1: is the end of that story. That's what we like

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Speaker 1: to freaking see. That really is oh my gosh, we

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Speaker 1: like to freaking see what a headache. Yeah, with people

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Speaker 1: like that, it's like why even bother sending the text,

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Speaker 1: Like at it certain point you just have to like

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Speaker 1: stop responding and yeah, like let them just like know

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Speaker 1: if I got that dectually, I just wouldn't respond. Oh yeah,

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Speaker 1: like the first pride, I would be like okay, yeah,

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Speaker 1: because I've I've honestly been in conversations like that where

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Speaker 1: it's like, Okay, yes I made a mistake and I'm

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Speaker 1: admitting to that, but it's like you don't need to

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Speaker 1: like respond like that. Yeah. I find it really silly.

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Speaker 3: When people like go like just like text and text

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Speaker 3: and I'm like, yeah, well, like I just think, like

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Speaker 3: just braining someone over text is already.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, it's so silly, Goose. It's so silly, Goose. Like,

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Speaker 1: if you're actually mad at someone, go talk to them

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Speaker 1: in person. Yeah, And with someone that like texts like

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Speaker 1: that too. It's like they're if they're mad about one thing,

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Speaker 1: and then they start bringing up all these other things.

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Speaker 1: It's like you just can't respond to that because it's

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Speaker 1: like then you have.

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Speaker 3: To like yeah, and then you're trying to defend yourself

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Speaker 3: again through text. Yeah, and it's just not gonna happen.

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Speaker 3: So yeah, just walk away. Know that you're better and

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Speaker 3: that you don't need a friend like that, agreed, and

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Speaker 3: that you just are a better person. You just don't

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Speaker 3: need it.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, but I'm glad you did.