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Speaker 1: Jewels Second Date Update. For today's second Date update, a
Speaker 1: listener named Robert is on the phone, and his email
Speaker 1: started off by saying, kids make dating difficult. Oh, yeah,
Speaker 1: that's true. I didn't really read more after that. I
Speaker 1: just wanted to get him on the phone because Robert,
Speaker 1: why are you dating kids? Oh? My god, of course
Speaker 1: that's gonna be difficult. I wasn't dating kids difficult and illegal? Yeah,
Speaker 1: there's a lot of things wrong with that, Robert. No,
Speaker 1: actually I have a kid. I'm a single parent. Oh
Speaker 1: makes so much more sense now, Robert. All right, okay,
Speaker 1: you have a kid and somehow it made a date
Speaker 1: difficult for you? Yes, okay. What happened? So I met
Speaker 1: this young lady, Rebecca online? Okay? And did you? Were
Speaker 1: you upfront right from the beginning that you were a father? Yes?
Speaker 1: I was. Actually she's also a single parent, so I
Speaker 1: thought right off the bat we had that commonality, right,
Speaker 1: And who better to understand how dating is difficult when
Speaker 1: you're a single parent than another single parent dating exactly,
Speaker 1: you know. And it's hard enough right now to even
Speaker 1: have the time to even manage to meet someone, you know,
Speaker 1: let alone finding a match, just like scheduling wise with work. Yeah,
Speaker 1: it's got to be a lot to handle. So you
Speaker 1: met her on a dating app. Yeah, we were chatting eventually.
Speaker 1: I had a plan to meet for dinner, and right before,
Speaker 1: about an hour an hour and a half before the day,
Speaker 1: I forgot about my son's beeball game, and yeah, he
Speaker 1: had a game that night, and I felt awful. I
Speaker 1: had a call Rebecca to cancel. I was very apologetic,
Speaker 1: and did you have to cancel because you just wanted
Speaker 1: to be there because you had to take them to
Speaker 1: the basketball game. I forgot that I had to take
Speaker 1: them to the game. Why just put him on the
Speaker 1: bus and go do whatever you want to do? Well,
Speaker 1: that actually could work. How old is this kid? He's
Speaker 1: six years old. Okay, so that won't work. Never mind, Yeah,
Speaker 1: you got seven to ride the bus back. Yeah, so
Speaker 1: you called her to cancel. Yeah, to my surprise, she suggested,
Speaker 1: well why don't we both go. Man, she's a mom,
Speaker 1: she probably understands your struggle. Yeah, I mean I was
Speaker 1: somewhat shocked. I mean, I thought, how cool is that?
Speaker 1: You know, why not use my six year old basketball
Speaker 1: game as a dating opportunity? Yeah, so I figured, you know,
Speaker 1: she was just really cool to even suggest that. Yeah,
Speaker 1: that's cool. It shows that she's pretty easy going. How
Speaker 1: was the date at your kids basketball game? Then? It
Speaker 1: was really good. She was very you get seats right
Speaker 1: up front, some good seats at the six year old
Speaker 1: basketball game. We had seat. She was cheering him on,
Speaker 1: really cool. Every time they had they had the ball,
Speaker 1: every time he had the ball, very supportive. M was
Speaker 1: he like, who's a strange lady cheering me on? Dad?
Speaker 1: Actually they met right before the game, so it wasn't
Speaker 1: that the Okay, at halftime, I can mention this. Uh,
Speaker 1: there was a little romance that actually ensued during the game. Okay,
Speaker 1: what happened? She? Uh, you know, she got a little
Speaker 1: hungry night. So I'll be right back. I'll get some food.
Speaker 1: And she's like, I'll tell you what, if she's bringing
Speaker 1: you some popcorn, I'll give you a kiss. And I
Speaker 1: was like, back in a flash, they didn't even have popcorn.
Speaker 1: You had to like drive to a movie theater to
Speaker 1: find some pretty much. I had to leave, Yeah, pretty much.
Speaker 1: So she gave me a kiss. When he got back.
Speaker 1: The second half started, she was cheering, cheering, cheering. My
Speaker 1: kids team lost. Unfortunately, that's probably why she's not calling
Speaker 1: me back. She wants a winner. Probably. I mean, actually
Speaker 1: Rebecca was saying, good job, you know, very consoling. He
Speaker 1: would you know, they lost, and that's her like, don't
Speaker 1: lie to the kid. He played terrible. Oh no, no
Speaker 1: she was. She was really cool, I have to say.
Speaker 1: And I was, you know, I was even thinking, wow,
Speaker 1: this is like this is a white material. Oh wow, Okay,
Speaker 1: that's quick, that's quick. Jump. Well, you know, she our
Speaker 1: first staid where you know, she's hanging out with me
Speaker 1: and my kid. We went to dinner afterwards and we had,
Speaker 1: you know, a great conversation. Our kids have a lot,
Speaker 1: in commented, only a couple of years apart. Did your
Speaker 1: son come to dinner with you guys too? Yeah, he
Speaker 1: came with us and it was a lot of fun.
Speaker 1: She was asking a lot of questions about school, about
Speaker 1: the sports, and you know, he was very comfortable with her. So,
Speaker 1: I mean, I couldn't help with me that this would
Speaker 1: be a possible, you know, Candidate here. Okay, Well, other
Speaker 1: than just a good stuff, did you like her? Did
Speaker 1: she seem like you? Yeah? She it seemed like we
Speaker 1: had a spark. I mean, she wouldn't have given me
Speaker 1: a kiss. I don't think if she didn't like me.
Speaker 1: A good point, yeah, very good point. I don't know.
Speaker 1: Popcorn's pretty good. Do a lot of things for popcorn,
Speaker 1: that's true. Yeah, all right? How did everything end with her? Then?
Speaker 1: I dropped her off, so good night. She gave me
Speaker 1: a hug, she said goodbye away, so and you know
Speaker 1: we are. That was two weeks havn't heard from her.
Speaker 1: I didn't try and get a hold of her text
Speaker 1: or called her once. So it's you know, just really disappointing.
Speaker 1: Like I said earlier, it's really hard to find a
Speaker 1: time to meet someone I don't know, like something to
Speaker 1: offense or you know, it's really frustrated. Okay, well, we'll
Speaker 1: play a song, come back, and then call her and
Speaker 1: get your second day update. All right, sound good? Okay,
Speaker 1: hang on brooking jubil in the morning. Second, if you're
Speaker 1: just tuning in for today's second date update, Robert is
Speaker 1: on the phone and he took the girl that he
Speaker 1: wants to call today her name is Rebecca to a
Speaker 1: sporting event. Always a good idea, unless, of course, it's
Speaker 1: a six year olds basketball game. What was the score,
Speaker 1: by the way, Robert, nine to six. Seriously, it's actually
Speaker 1: even less than that if you're just sitting in. Robert
Speaker 1: actually forgot that he had his kid the night that
Speaker 1: he scheduled at a date with Rebecca. She has a
Speaker 1: kid too, and he had to take him to a
Speaker 1: basketball game, and Rebecca actually was like, fine, I'll go.
Speaker 1: So they went to the basketball game and then had
Speaker 1: dinner after he said, everything went great. He even got
Speaker 1: a kiss in the middle of the game. And now
Speaker 1: she's not calling him back, and he can't figure out why.
Speaker 1: You're ready to get her on the phone, Robert, Yeah,
Speaker 1: I mean, like I said, I just really want to
Speaker 1: find out why she hadn't gotten back to me. I
Speaker 1: can't figure it out. I'm completely baffled. So what the
Speaker 1: deal is? Alright? Alright, cool, Well I'm gonna dollar phone
Speaker 1: number right now and see if we can figure it out.
Speaker 1: Here we go, Hello, Hey is this Rebecca? Um? Yeah,
Speaker 1: hello Rebecca, pleasure to make your acquaintance. What are you doing?
Speaker 1: Tell people talk that phone? Is this Hey, this is
Speaker 1: Jewil from Brook and Jewil in the Morning. It's a
Speaker 1: radio show. Sorry about that? What? Who is this really?
Speaker 1: My name is Jewil from Brook and Jewil in the Morning.
Speaker 1: It's a radio show. I talk like people. Do understand it?
Speaker 1: You're calling me from the radio right now? Yes? Yes? Yes?
Speaker 1: How are you? Um? I'm you sound confused? Is what
Speaker 1: you sound? Could it be the accident or could it
Speaker 1: be the radio part? Who knows? What is this about? Well,
Speaker 1: we do a segment on our show it's called the
Speaker 1: second Date Update. And you went out with a dude
Speaker 1: named Robert a little while ago. Oh yeah, yeah, And
Speaker 1: Robert emailed us because he told us all about your date.
Speaker 1: And he also told us that you aren't calling him
Speaker 1: back or returning any of us text messages. And he
Speaker 1: was wondering why this is the weirdest saying that's ever
Speaker 1: happened to me? What I don't this is for real?
Speaker 1: It is unless you haven't gone out with a guy
Speaker 1: named Robert. No I did, I did so. Yeah. Is
Speaker 1: there a particular reason you don't want to see Robert again?
Speaker 1: You know? I I just I just don't think that
Speaker 1: Robert and I will work out in the end, that's all.
Speaker 1: He doesn't see that at all. Oh yeah, okay, can
Speaker 1: you give us any information to give to him? I mean,
Speaker 1: that's why we do these is so people can figure
Speaker 1: out what they're doing wrong in dating. And Robert really
Speaker 1: wants to know, especially when he said that you kissed
Speaker 1: him in the middle of the date. Oh yeah, wow,
Speaker 1: he'd like, okay, so he yeah, he told he told us, Yeah,
Speaker 1: he did tell us. Yeah. Whoa Either you liked him
Speaker 1: or you really liked the popcorn that you traded the
Speaker 1: kiss for. Oh my, are you kidding? Oh boy? Yeah.
Speaker 1: If somebody kisses me in the middle of a date,
Speaker 1: I usually think the date is going well. But it
Speaker 1: sounds like, well it was. It was going well then,
Speaker 1: so when did it change? Well? Okay, so I don't
Speaker 1: know if he told you what. We went out to
Speaker 1: dinner afterwards after this game, and this thing happened at
Speaker 1: dinner and it was just weird and awkward and it
Speaker 1: was kind of a big deal, and I honestly, I
Speaker 1: can't get it out of my head, and I just
Speaker 1: I mean, it's it's that big, and I just big
Speaker 1: that the six year old was at dinner with them
Speaker 1: talking about I hope that didn't happen. Then, oh god,
Speaker 1: am I right? Am? I reded what you're saying. It
Speaker 1: was the situation. Oh okay, can you tell us what happened?
Speaker 1: He's really curious. Okay. Um. We finished eating dinner and
Speaker 1: his son asked for some ice cream and this his
Speaker 1: kid is six, and so Robert tells him, no, he
Speaker 1: can't have ice cream. Then he literally said, while your
Speaker 1: team lost and ice cream is for winners. What was
Speaker 1: the kid's response? He just like he looked so sad
Speaker 1: and defeated, like he'd already like lost this game like
Speaker 1: it was it was there. I mean they're six, they
Speaker 1: couldn't reach the basket, like nobody scored. It was the worst,
Speaker 1: like right, it was like one basket was the winning
Speaker 1: like and then he just looked so sad and like
Speaker 1: just heartbroken, like it was just this simple little request
Speaker 1: after dinner and it was just so hard and it
Speaker 1: was it was heartbreaking, Like I have my own kid,
Speaker 1: and I would never like it broke my heart. I
Speaker 1: just thought, like, what a jerk, Well, I think about
Speaker 1: that the next time they lose a game. I know
Speaker 1: you guys are joking, but growing up, my dad was
Speaker 1: my softball coach forever. And when we were in elementary school,
Speaker 1: we only got ice cream when we won, not my parents,
Speaker 1: But that was like understood going into it, like if
Speaker 1: we win, we get ice cream. If we don't, we
Speaker 1: go home. Oh wow, I mean that's harsh for a kid.
Speaker 1: I think I just think, like it's ice cream. It's
Speaker 1: it's not like, what are we teaching. I want to
Speaker 1: teach my kids that there's more than just like what
Speaker 1: the final score is in a basketball game. That well,
Speaker 1: did you ask him what his like philosophy was with
Speaker 1: the no ice cream thing? No, I didn't, but I
Speaker 1: mean his son was right there and he just looked
Speaker 1: so sad, And I mean I didn't want to make
Speaker 1: a thing of it in front of his kid, right
Speaker 1: because conversation, yeah, and we were done then, I mean,
Speaker 1: dinner is over. I just wanted to leave that. But
Speaker 1: it seems like you could at least have told them, like, hey,
Speaker 1: our parenting theories don't match up. They don't. Our parenting
Speaker 1: skills are very different. But I just didn't want to
Speaker 1: make a thing of it in front of his son. Well,
Speaker 1: he is on the phone listening right now and wants
Speaker 1: to talk to you. Wait, he's where I don't know.
Speaker 1: I'm somewhere, but he's on the phone, like I don't
Speaker 1: know where he's physically sitting if that was your question,
Speaker 1: but he is on the other line and wants to
Speaker 1: talk to you. I hope you're joking, Hi, Rebecca. Nope,
Speaker 1: not joking. That's Robert. I mean, if you had a
Speaker 1: problem like this is the problem, you should have told
Speaker 1: me about it. He should have brought it up to me.
Speaker 1: I mean, my son knows the rules at home, you know,
Speaker 1: cream nothing, Well, I think it was. It was pretty
Speaker 1: clear if you were listening to my whole call that
Speaker 1: I feel differently about winning versus losing and rewards and
Speaker 1: something as simple as ice cream. You did see your
Speaker 1: son's face, right, You broke his heart. It was the
Speaker 1: saddest thing to see his face like that. He's sixty.
Speaker 1: Wasn't running hard enough? He could have run faster. Lost.
Speaker 1: I mean, you know, I have to be tough on
Speaker 1: my son. You know, I'm trying to prepare my son
Speaker 1: for adulthood. You know, you know you have to you
Speaker 1: have to work hard, you have to win. Yeah, when
Speaker 1: he's the next CEO of some major company, he writes
Speaker 1: a book called ice Cream Is for Winners, you'll see, Robert.
Speaker 1: I mean, what is the purpose of doing the ice
Speaker 1: cream only for winning? Give him motivation so we can
Speaker 1: work harder, you know. I teach him to play hard,
Speaker 1: to be a winner, to give it his all, not
Speaker 1: to happen to sit on the basketball court. I mean,
Speaker 1: if you have a different parenting style, I mean that's
Speaker 1: probably quite obvious in the way that you were, you
Speaker 1: were brought up, in the way the way you're only
Speaker 1: crazy your king. Maybe I don't know. You're judging me
Speaker 1: right now. That's what's happening. You're judging me because I
Speaker 1: would give my kid ice cream in this situation. Absolutely,
Speaker 1: I believe that ice cream is for winners. I believe
Speaker 1: that wholeheartedly. And if you don't agree with that, then
Speaker 1: maybe you're the one that's not being a good parent.
Speaker 1: Who shuts fire. I mean, all I can say is
Speaker 1: that this basketball was more than half the size of
Speaker 1: your child. You think he needs to run faster, eat
Speaker 1: like he's six years old. I mean, I mean I
Speaker 1: don't understand. I don't understand this like food for winning thing.
Speaker 1: I mean, you didn't even you brought me some plain
Speaker 1: dry popcorn. You didn't put butter or salt on this popcorn,
Speaker 1: and I'm still here. If you or cares about that, Robert,
Speaker 1: I'll tell you why he gave me a kiss. It's
Speaker 1: because I'm a winner at Rebecca. Oh my god, Rebecca,
Speaker 1: I am so sorry for defending this guy for moments
Speaker 1: before we actually talked to him. Yeah, if you have
Speaker 1: to identify yourself as a winner, that is the most
Speaker 1: loser thing you could possibly Yeah, that is true. Well,
Speaker 1: in that case, would you like to go on a
Speaker 1: second date with Robert, Rebecca, We will pay for it. Good. No, No,
Speaker 1: you don't want to think about it some more. Definitely, Still, No,
Speaker 1: let know that it was that first site, dude, and
Speaker 1: Robert lighten up on your six year old man. That's intense.
Speaker 1: My son is gonna saint about twenty years now when
Speaker 1: he's making seven figure salaries, thanking that his dear old
Speaker 1: dad pushed him harder on the basketball car. So I
Speaker 1: run that little bit more than the other kids. You know,
Speaker 1: you have to be tough in this world. And you
Speaker 1: guys they're on a recording studio. I agree with that, saying,
Speaker 1: I sin surely suggest you look at your own lives
Speaker 1: and how you were brought off and how you're raising
Speaker 1: your own shows. Oh my god, ohoh yeah. I'm sure
Speaker 1: he's going to be thinking you or his therapist is
Speaker 1: for all the money's gonna have to pay. And Rebecca,
Speaker 1: I see the future and it will be your child
Speaker 1: washing my son's card. Who You're crazy, You're like a
Speaker 1: crazy human, like of course you are. You called the
Speaker 1: radio to try to deal with this. You couldn't even
Speaker 1: read my social signs on the ride home, that you
Speaker 1: that you were treading your kids like a like. He
Speaker 1: is a CEO, he's six, he's I mean, it was
Speaker 1: a big deal. He got his shorts to stay up
Speaker 1: for the good boy. I don't really have anything else
Speaker 1: to say. I think I said it all. Yeah, I
Speaker 1: think we are. Rebecca said she doesn't want to go
Speaker 1: out with you again. So you do not get a
Speaker 1: second date, Robert, loser, you'd say, I say, winner, and
Speaker 1: all you guys to hell. All right, well you don't
Speaker 1: get a second date. So I'm guessing no ice cream
Speaker 1: after this phone call? Free Robert, but keep winning in
Speaker 1: the morning Lots of Texas at seven eight, five nine two,
Speaker 1: saying he's right, ice cream is for winners. These stupid
Speaker 1: millennials and their participation trophies talking about today second date update. Yeah,
Speaker 1: they are very fired up. On the text message board,
Speaker 1: it's also very slit split, very split. A lot of
Speaker 1: different parenting techniques out there. If you missed a second
Speaker 1: day update. This dude, Robert wanted to call Rebecca. He's
Speaker 1: a single father, she's a single mother. He's scheduled a date,
Speaker 1: but he forgot that he had to take his son
Speaker 1: to his basketball game that night, and she was like, well,
Speaker 1: I'll just come with you, so they went. He actually
Speaker 1: got a kiss at halftime, but she stopped calling him back,
Speaker 1: and the reason was because after they went out. After
Speaker 1: they went at the game, they went out to dinner
Speaker 1: and his son wanted ice cream and he just said, sorry,
Speaker 1: ice cream is for winners, yeah, which is a quote
Speaker 1: that will now go down in second eight history. And
Speaker 1: she said she didn't like the fact that he wouldn't
Speaker 1: get his son ice cream because he didn't win the game,
Speaker 1: so she didn't want to go out with him again.
Speaker 1: But yeah, it's very split. On the text messageport, some
Speaker 1: people are saying, like, I agree, ice cream is for
Speaker 1: winners and getting everybody ice cream is what creates snowflakes
Speaker 1: these days. Run to your safe space. And then other
Speaker 1: people are like, everybody should get ice cream. I was
Speaker 1: with him, you could say no to your kid for
Speaker 1: ice cream, that's no big deal. But then he started
Speaker 1: attacking her parenting style and calling her a bad mom.
Speaker 1: I'm like, okay, you're the jerk at the sideline of
Speaker 1: the kid's game. He was yelling at the coach and
Speaker 1: it's way too aggressive yourself. And then he attacked all
Speaker 1: of us and how our parents were, and I'm like, dude,
Speaker 1: my dad tried to fight refs at every single game. Yeah.
Speaker 1: I actually almost broke a guy's nose at a game
Speaker 1: once because I was angry at my dad yelling at me.
Speaker 1: So I hit the guy in the face. So I
Speaker 1: get kicked out of the game so I didn't have
Speaker 1: to hear it anymore. Look, that's not a snowflake. That's
Speaker 1: just real solid here. Look at where I went to
Speaker 1: very dark places in my life. Remember, if you want
Speaker 1: to do a second day update, all you have to
Speaker 1: do is email the show. We will call a person
Speaker 1: who didn't call you back, removing five