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<v Speaker 1>Jewels Second Date Update. For today's second Date update, a

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<v Speaker 1>listener named Robert is on the phone, and his email

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<v Speaker 1>started off by saying, kids make dating difficult. Oh, yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>that's true. I didn't really read more after that. I

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<v Speaker 1>just wanted to get him on the phone because Robert,

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<v Speaker 1>why are you dating kids? Oh? My god, of course

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<v Speaker 1>that's gonna be difficult. I wasn't dating kids difficult and illegal? Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>there's a lot of things wrong with that, Robert. No,

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<v Speaker 1>actually I have a kid. I'm a single parent. Oh

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<v Speaker 1>makes so much more sense now, Robert. All right, okay,

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<v Speaker 1>you have a kid and somehow it made a date

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<v Speaker 1>difficult for you? Yes, okay. What happened? So I met

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<v Speaker 1>this young lady, Rebecca online? Okay? And did you? Were

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<v Speaker 1>you upfront right from the beginning that you were a father? Yes?

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<v Speaker 1>I was. Actually she's also a single parent, so I

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<v Speaker 1>thought right off the bat we had that commonality, right,

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<v Speaker 1>And who better to understand how dating is difficult when

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<v Speaker 1>you're a single parent than another single parent dating exactly,

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<v Speaker 1>you know. And it's hard enough right now to even

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<v Speaker 1>have the time to even manage to meet someone, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>let alone finding a match, just like scheduling wise with work. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>it's got to be a lot to handle. So you

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<v Speaker 1>met her on a dating app. Yeah, we were chatting eventually.

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<v Speaker 1>I had a plan to meet for dinner, and right before,

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<v Speaker 1>about an hour an hour and a half before the day,

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<v Speaker 1>I forgot about my son's beeball game, and yeah, he

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<v Speaker 1>had a game that night, and I felt awful. I

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<v Speaker 1>had a call Rebecca to cancel. I was very apologetic,

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<v Speaker 1>and did you have to cancel because you just wanted

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<v Speaker 1>to be there because you had to take them to

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<v Speaker 1>the basketball game. I forgot that I had to take

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<v Speaker 1>them to the game. Why just put him on the

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<v Speaker 1>bus and go do whatever you want to do? Well,

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<v Speaker 1>that actually could work. How old is this kid? He's

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<v Speaker 1>six years old. Okay, so that won't work. Never mind, Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>you got seven to ride the bus back. Yeah, so

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<v Speaker 1>you called her to cancel. Yeah, to my surprise, she suggested,

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<v Speaker 1>well why don't we both go. Man, she's a mom,

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<v Speaker 1>she probably understands your struggle. Yeah, I mean I was

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<v Speaker 1>somewhat shocked. I mean, I thought, how cool is that?

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<v Speaker 1>You know, why not use my six year old basketball

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<v Speaker 1>game as a dating opportunity? Yeah, so I figured, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>she was just really cool to even suggest that. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>that's cool. It shows that she's pretty easy going. How

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<v Speaker 1>was the date at your kids basketball game? Then? It

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<v Speaker 1>was really good. She was very you get seats right

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<v Speaker 1>up front, some good seats at the six year old

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<v Speaker 1>basketball game. We had seat. She was cheering him on,

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<v Speaker 1>really cool. Every time they had they had the ball,

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<v Speaker 1>every time he had the ball, very supportive. M was

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<v Speaker 1>he like, who's a strange lady cheering me on? Dad?

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<v Speaker 1>Actually they met right before the game, so it wasn't

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<v Speaker 1>that the Okay, at halftime, I can mention this. Uh,

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<v Speaker 1>there was a little romance that actually ensued during the game. Okay,

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<v Speaker 1>what happened? She? Uh, you know, she got a little

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<v Speaker 1>hungry night. So I'll be right back. I'll get some food.

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<v Speaker 1>And she's like, I'll tell you what, if she's bringing

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<v Speaker 1>you some popcorn, I'll give you a kiss. And I

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<v Speaker 1>was like, back in a flash, they didn't even have popcorn.

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<v Speaker 1>You had to like drive to a movie theater to

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<v Speaker 1>find some pretty much. I had to leave, Yeah, pretty much.

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<v Speaker 1>So she gave me a kiss. When he got back.

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<v Speaker 1>The second half started, she was cheering, cheering, cheering. My

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<v Speaker 1>kids team lost. Unfortunately, that's probably why she's not calling

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<v Speaker 1>me back. She wants a winner. Probably. I mean, actually

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<v Speaker 1>Rebecca was saying, good job, you know, very consoling. He

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<v Speaker 1>would you know, they lost, and that's her like, don't

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<v Speaker 1>lie to the kid. He played terrible. Oh no, no

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<v Speaker 1>she was. She was really cool, I have to say.

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<v Speaker 1>And I was, you know, I was even thinking, wow,

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<v Speaker 1>this is like this is a white material. Oh wow, Okay,

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<v Speaker 1>that's quick, that's quick. Jump. Well, you know, she our

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<v Speaker 1>first staid where you know, she's hanging out with me

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<v Speaker 1>and my kid. We went to dinner afterwards and we had,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, a great conversation. Our kids have a lot,

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<v Speaker 1>in commented, only a couple of years apart. Did your

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<v Speaker 1>son come to dinner with you guys too? Yeah, he

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<v Speaker 1>came with us and it was a lot of fun.

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<v Speaker 1>She was asking a lot of questions about school, about

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<v Speaker 1>the sports, and you know, he was very comfortable with her. So,

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<v Speaker 1>I mean, I couldn't help with me that this would

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<v Speaker 1>be a possible, you know, Candidate here. Okay, Well, other

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<v Speaker 1>than just a good stuff, did you like her? Did

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<v Speaker 1>she seem like you? Yeah? She it seemed like we

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<v Speaker 1>had a spark. I mean, she wouldn't have given me

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<v Speaker 1>a kiss. I don't think if she didn't like me.

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<v Speaker 1>A good point, yeah, very good point. I don't know.

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<v Speaker 1>Popcorn's pretty good. Do a lot of things for popcorn,

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<v Speaker 1>that's true. Yeah, all right? How did everything end with her? Then?

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<v Speaker 1>I dropped her off, so good night. She gave me

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<v Speaker 1>a hug, she said goodbye away, so and you know

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<v Speaker 1>we are. That was two weeks havn't heard from her.

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<v Speaker 1>I didn't try and get a hold of her text

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<v Speaker 1>or called her once. So it's you know, just really disappointing.

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<v Speaker 1>Like I said earlier, it's really hard to find a

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<v Speaker 1>time to meet someone I don't know, like something to

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<v Speaker 1>offense or you know, it's really frustrated. Okay, well, we'll

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<v Speaker 1>play a song, come back, and then call her and

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<v Speaker 1>get your second day update. All right, sound good? Okay,

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<v Speaker 1>hang on brooking jubil in the morning. Second, if you're

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<v Speaker 1>just tuning in for today's second date update, Robert is

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<v Speaker 1>on the phone and he took the girl that he

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<v Speaker 1>wants to call today her name is Rebecca to a

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<v Speaker 1>sporting event. Always a good idea, unless, of course, it's

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<v Speaker 1>a six year olds basketball game. What was the score,

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<v Speaker 1>by the way, Robert, nine to six. Seriously, it's actually

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<v Speaker 1>even less than that if you're just sitting in. Robert

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<v Speaker 1>actually forgot that he had his kid the night that

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<v Speaker 1>he scheduled at a date with Rebecca. She has a

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<v Speaker 1>kid too, and he had to take him to a

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<v Speaker 1>basketball game, and Rebecca actually was like, fine, I'll go.

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<v Speaker 1>So they went to the basketball game and then had

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<v Speaker 1>dinner after he said, everything went great. He even got

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<v Speaker 1>a kiss in the middle of the game. And now

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<v Speaker 1>she's not calling him back, and he can't figure out why.

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<v Speaker 1>You're ready to get her on the phone, Robert, Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>I mean, like I said, I just really want to

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<v Speaker 1>find out why she hadn't gotten back to me. I

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<v Speaker 1>can't figure it out. I'm completely baffled. So what the

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<v Speaker 1>deal is? Alright? Alright, cool, Well I'm gonna dollar phone

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<v Speaker 1>number right now and see if we can figure it out.

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<v Speaker 1>Here we go, Hello, Hey is this Rebecca? Um? Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>hello Rebecca, pleasure to make your acquaintance. What are you doing?

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<v Speaker 1>Tell people talk that phone? Is this Hey, this is

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<v Speaker 1>Jewil from Brook and Jewil in the Morning. It's a

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<v Speaker 1>radio show. Sorry about that? What? Who is this really?

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<v Speaker 1>My name is Jewil from Brook and Jewil in the Morning.

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<v Speaker 1>It's a radio show. I talk like people. Do understand it?

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<v Speaker 1>You're calling me from the radio right now? Yes? Yes? Yes?

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<v Speaker 1>How are you? Um? I'm you sound confused? Is what

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<v Speaker 1>you sound? Could it be the accident or could it

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<v Speaker 1>be the radio part? Who knows? What is this about? Well,

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<v Speaker 1>we do a segment on our show it's called the

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<v Speaker 1>second Date Update. And you went out with a dude

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<v Speaker 1>named Robert a little while ago. Oh yeah, yeah, And

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<v Speaker 1>Robert emailed us because he told us all about your date.

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<v Speaker 1>And he also told us that you aren't calling him

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<v Speaker 1>back or returning any of us text messages. And he

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<v Speaker 1>was wondering why this is the weirdest saying that's ever

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<v Speaker 1>happened to me? What I don't this is for real?

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<v Speaker 1>It is unless you haven't gone out with a guy

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<v Speaker 1>named Robert. No I did, I did so. Yeah. Is

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<v Speaker 1>there a particular reason you don't want to see Robert again?

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<v Speaker 1>You know? I I just I just don't think that

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<v Speaker 1>Robert and I will work out in the end, that's all.

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<v Speaker 1>He doesn't see that at all. Oh yeah, okay, can

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<v Speaker 1>you give us any information to give to him? I mean,

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<v Speaker 1>that's why we do these is so people can figure

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<v Speaker 1>out what they're doing wrong in dating. And Robert really

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<v Speaker 1>wants to know, especially when he said that you kissed

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<v Speaker 1>him in the middle of the date. Oh yeah, wow,

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<v Speaker 1>he'd like, okay, so he yeah, he told he told us, Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>he did tell us. Yeah. Whoa Either you liked him

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<v Speaker 1>or you really liked the popcorn that you traded the

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<v Speaker 1>kiss for. Oh my, are you kidding? Oh boy? Yeah.

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<v Speaker 1>If somebody kisses me in the middle of a date,

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<v Speaker 1>I usually think the date is going well. But it

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<v Speaker 1>sounds like, well it was. It was going well then,

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<v Speaker 1>so when did it change? Well? Okay, so I don't

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<v Speaker 1>know if he told you what. We went out to

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<v Speaker 1>dinner afterwards after this game, and this thing happened at

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<v Speaker 1>dinner and it was just weird and awkward and it

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<v Speaker 1>was kind of a big deal, and I honestly, I

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<v Speaker 1>can't get it out of my head, and I just

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<v Speaker 1>I mean, it's it's that big, and I just big

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<v Speaker 1>that the six year old was at dinner with them

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<v Speaker 1>talking about I hope that didn't happen. Then, oh god,

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<v Speaker 1>am I right? Am? I reded what you're saying. It

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<v Speaker 1>was the situation. Oh okay, can you tell us what happened?

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<v Speaker 1>He's really curious. Okay. Um. We finished eating dinner and

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<v Speaker 1>his son asked for some ice cream and this his

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<v Speaker 1>kid is six, and so Robert tells him, no, he

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<v Speaker 1>can't have ice cream. Then he literally said, while your

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<v Speaker 1>team lost and ice cream is for winners. What was

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<v Speaker 1>the kid's response? He just like he looked so sad

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<v Speaker 1>and defeated, like he'd already like lost this game like

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<v Speaker 1>it was it was there. I mean they're six, they

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<v Speaker 1>couldn't reach the basket, like nobody scored. It was the worst,

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<v Speaker 1>like right, it was like one basket was the winning

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<v Speaker 1>like and then he just looked so sad and like

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<v Speaker 1>just heartbroken, like it was just this simple little request

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<v Speaker 1>after dinner and it was just so hard and it

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<v Speaker 1>was it was heartbreaking, Like I have my own kid,

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<v Speaker 1>and I would never like it broke my heart. I

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<v Speaker 1>just thought, like, what a jerk, Well, I think about

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<v Speaker 1>that the next time they lose a game. I know

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<v Speaker 1>you guys are joking, but growing up, my dad was

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<v Speaker 1>my softball coach forever. And when we were in elementary school,

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<v Speaker 1>we only got ice cream when we won, not my parents,

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<v Speaker 1>But that was like understood going into it, like if

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<v Speaker 1>we win, we get ice cream. If we don't, we

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<v Speaker 1>go home. Oh wow, I mean that's harsh for a kid.

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<v Speaker 1>I think I just think, like it's ice cream. It's

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<v Speaker 1>it's not like, what are we teaching. I want to

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<v Speaker 1>teach my kids that there's more than just like what

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<v Speaker 1>the final score is in a basketball game. That well,

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<v Speaker 1>did you ask him what his like philosophy was with

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<v Speaker 1>the no ice cream thing? No, I didn't, but I

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<v Speaker 1>mean his son was right there and he just looked

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<v Speaker 1>so sad, And I mean I didn't want to make

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<v Speaker 1>a thing of it in front of his kid, right

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<v Speaker 1>because conversation, yeah, and we were done then, I mean,

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<v Speaker 1>dinner is over. I just wanted to leave that. But

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<v Speaker 1>it seems like you could at least have told them, like, hey,

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<v Speaker 1>our parenting theories don't match up. They don't. Our parenting

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<v Speaker 1>skills are very different. But I just didn't want to

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<v Speaker 1>make a thing of it in front of his son. Well,

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<v Speaker 1>he is on the phone listening right now and wants

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<v Speaker 1>to talk to you. Wait, he's where I don't know.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm somewhere, but he's on the phone, like I don't

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<v Speaker 1>know where he's physically sitting if that was your question,

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<v Speaker 1>but he is on the other line and wants to

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<v Speaker 1>talk to you. I hope you're joking, Hi, Rebecca. Nope,

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<v Speaker 1>not joking. That's Robert. I mean, if you had a

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<v Speaker 1>problem like this is the problem, you should have told

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<v Speaker 1>me about it. He should have brought it up to me.

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<v Speaker 1>I mean, my son knows the rules at home, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>cream nothing, Well, I think it was. It was pretty

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<v Speaker 1>clear if you were listening to my whole call that

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<v Speaker 1>I feel differently about winning versus losing and rewards and

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<v Speaker 1>something as simple as ice cream. You did see your

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<v Speaker 1>son's face, right, You broke his heart. It was the

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<v Speaker 1>saddest thing to see his face like that. He's sixty.

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<v Speaker 1>Wasn't running hard enough? He could have run faster. Lost.

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<v Speaker 1>I mean, you know, I have to be tough on

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<v Speaker 1>my son. You know, I'm trying to prepare my son

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<v Speaker 1>for adulthood. You know, you know you have to you

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<v Speaker 1>have to work hard, you have to win. Yeah, when

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<v Speaker 1>he's the next CEO of some major company, he writes

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<v Speaker 1>a book called ice Cream Is for Winners, you'll see, Robert.

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<v Speaker 1>I mean, what is the purpose of doing the ice

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<v Speaker 1>cream only for winning? Give him motivation so we can

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<v Speaker 1>work harder, you know. I teach him to play hard,

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<v Speaker 1>to be a winner, to give it his all, not

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<v Speaker 1>to happen to sit on the basketball court. I mean,

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<v Speaker 1>if you have a different parenting style, I mean that's

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<v Speaker 1>probably quite obvious in the way that you were, you

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<v Speaker 1>were brought up, in the way the way you're only

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<v Speaker 1>crazy your king. Maybe I don't know. You're judging me

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<v Speaker 1>right now. That's what's happening. You're judging me because I

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<v Speaker 1>would give my kid ice cream in this situation. Absolutely,

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<v Speaker 1>I believe that ice cream is for winners. I believe

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<v Speaker 1>that wholeheartedly. And if you don't agree with that, then

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<v Speaker 1>maybe you're the one that's not being a good parent.

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<v Speaker 1>Who shuts fire. I mean, all I can say is

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<v Speaker 1>that this basketball was more than half the size of

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<v Speaker 1>your child. You think he needs to run faster, eat

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<v Speaker 1>like he's six years old. I mean, I mean I

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<v Speaker 1>don't understand. I don't understand this like food for winning thing.

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<v Speaker 1>I mean, you didn't even you brought me some plain

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<v Speaker 1>dry popcorn. You didn't put butter or salt on this popcorn,

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<v Speaker 1>and I'm still here. If you or cares about that, Robert,

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<v Speaker 1>I'll tell you why he gave me a kiss. It's

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<v Speaker 1>because I'm a winner at Rebecca. Oh my god, Rebecca,

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<v Speaker 1>I am so sorry for defending this guy for moments

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<v Speaker 1>before we actually talked to him. Yeah, if you have

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<v Speaker 1>to identify yourself as a winner, that is the most

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<v Speaker 1>loser thing you could possibly Yeah, that is true. Well,

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<v Speaker 1>in that case, would you like to go on a

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<v Speaker 1>second date with Robert, Rebecca, We will pay for it. Good. No, No,

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<v Speaker 1>you don't want to think about it some more. Definitely, Still, No,

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<v Speaker 1>let know that it was that first site, dude, and

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<v Speaker 1>Robert lighten up on your six year old man. That's intense.

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<v Speaker 1>My son is gonna saint about twenty years now when

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<v Speaker 1>he's making seven figure salaries, thanking that his dear old

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<v Speaker 1>dad pushed him harder on the basketball car. So I

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<v Speaker 1>run that little bit more than the other kids. You know,

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<v Speaker 1>you have to be tough in this world. And you

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<v Speaker 1>guys they're on a recording studio. I agree with that, saying,

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<v Speaker 1>I sin surely suggest you look at your own lives

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<v Speaker 1>and how you were brought off and how you're raising

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<v Speaker 1>your own shows. Oh my god, ohoh yeah. I'm sure

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<v Speaker 1>he's going to be thinking you or his therapist is

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<v Speaker 1>for all the money's gonna have to pay. And Rebecca,

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<v Speaker 1>I see the future and it will be your child

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<v Speaker 1>washing my son's card. Who You're crazy, You're like a

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<v Speaker 1>crazy human, like of course you are. You called the

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<v Speaker 1>radio to try to deal with this. You couldn't even

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<v Speaker 1>read my social signs on the ride home, that you

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<v Speaker 1>that you were treading your kids like a like. He

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<v Speaker 1>is a CEO, he's six, he's I mean, it was

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<v Speaker 1>a big deal. He got his shorts to stay up

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<v Speaker 1>for the good boy. I don't really have anything else

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<v Speaker 1>to say. I think I said it all. Yeah, I

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<v Speaker 1>think we are. Rebecca said she doesn't want to go

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<v Speaker 1>out with you again. So you do not get a

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<v Speaker 1>second date, Robert, loser, you'd say, I say, winner, and

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<v Speaker 1>all you guys to hell. All right, well you don't

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<v Speaker 1>get a second date. So I'm guessing no ice cream

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<v Speaker 1>after this phone call? Free Robert, but keep winning in

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<v Speaker 1>the morning Lots of Texas at seven eight, five nine two,

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<v Speaker 1>saying he's right, ice cream is for winners. These stupid

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<v Speaker 1>millennials and their participation trophies talking about today second date update. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>they are very fired up. On the text message board,

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<v Speaker 1>it's also very slit split, very split. A lot of

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<v Speaker 1>different parenting techniques out there. If you missed a second

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<v Speaker 1>day update. This dude, Robert wanted to call Rebecca. He's

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<v Speaker 1>a single father, she's a single mother. He's scheduled a date,

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<v Speaker 1>but he forgot that he had to take his son

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<v Speaker 1>to his basketball game that night, and she was like, well,

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<v Speaker 1>I'll just come with you, so they went. He actually

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<v Speaker 1>got a kiss at halftime, but she stopped calling him back,

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<v Speaker 1>and the reason was because after they went out. After

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<v Speaker 1>they went at the game, they went out to dinner

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<v Speaker 1>and his son wanted ice cream and he just said, sorry,

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<v Speaker 1>ice cream is for winners, yeah, which is a quote

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<v Speaker 1>that will now go down in second eight history. And

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<v Speaker 1>she said she didn't like the fact that he wouldn't

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<v Speaker 1>get his son ice cream because he didn't win the game,

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<v Speaker 1>so she didn't want to go out with him again.

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<v Speaker 1>But yeah, it's very split. On the text messageport, some

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<v Speaker 1>people are saying, like, I agree, ice cream is for

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<v Speaker 1>winners and getting everybody ice cream is what creates snowflakes

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<v Speaker 1>these days. Run to your safe space. And then other

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<v Speaker 1>people are like, everybody should get ice cream. I was

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<v Speaker 1>with him, you could say no to your kid for

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<v Speaker 1>ice cream, that's no big deal. But then he started

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<v Speaker 1>attacking her parenting style and calling her a bad mom.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm like, okay, you're the jerk at the sideline of

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<v Speaker 1>the kid's game. He was yelling at the coach and

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<v Speaker 1>it's way too aggressive yourself. And then he attacked all

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<v Speaker 1>of us and how our parents were, and I'm like, dude,

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<v Speaker 1>my dad tried to fight refs at every single game. Yeah.

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<v Speaker 1>I actually almost broke a guy's nose at a game

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<v Speaker 1>once because I was angry at my dad yelling at me.

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<v Speaker 1>So I hit the guy in the face. So I

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<v Speaker 1>get kicked out of the game so I didn't have

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<v Speaker 1>to hear it anymore. Look, that's not a snowflake. That's

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<v Speaker 1>just real solid here. Look at where I went to

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<v Speaker 1>very dark places in my life. Remember, if you want

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<v Speaker 1>to do a second day update, all you have to

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<v Speaker 1>do is email the show. We will call a person

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<v Speaker 1>who didn't call you back, removing five