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Speaker 1: Jewels Second Date Update. For today's second Date update, a

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Speaker 1: listener named Robert is on the phone, and his email

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Speaker 1: started off by saying, kids make dating difficult. Oh, yeah,

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Speaker 1: that's true. I didn't really read more after that. I

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Speaker 1: just wanted to get him on the phone because Robert,

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Speaker 1: why are you dating kids? Oh? My god, of course

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Speaker 1: that's gonna be difficult. I wasn't dating kids difficult and illegal? Yeah,

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Speaker 1: there's a lot of things wrong with that, Robert. No,

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Speaker 1: actually I have a kid. I'm a single parent. Oh

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Speaker 1: makes so much more sense now, Robert. All right, okay,

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Speaker 1: you have a kid and somehow it made a date

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Speaker 1: difficult for you? Yes, okay. What happened? So I met

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Speaker 1: this young lady, Rebecca online? Okay? And did you? Were

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Speaker 1: you upfront right from the beginning that you were a father? Yes?

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Speaker 1: I was. Actually she's also a single parent, so I

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Speaker 1: thought right off the bat we had that commonality, right,

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Speaker 1: And who better to understand how dating is difficult when

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Speaker 1: you're a single parent than another single parent dating exactly,

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Speaker 1: you know. And it's hard enough right now to even

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Speaker 1: have the time to even manage to meet someone, you know,

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Speaker 1: let alone finding a match, just like scheduling wise with work. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: it's got to be a lot to handle. So you

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Speaker 1: met her on a dating app. Yeah, we were chatting eventually.

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Speaker 1: I had a plan to meet for dinner, and right before,

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Speaker 1: I forgot about my son's beeball game, and yeah, he

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Speaker 1: had a game that night, and I felt awful. I

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Speaker 1: and did you have to cancel because you just wanted

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Speaker 1: the basketball game. I forgot that I had to take

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Speaker 1: them to the game. Why just put him on the

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Speaker 1: bus and go do whatever you want to do? Well,

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Speaker 1: that actually could work. How old is this kid? He's

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Speaker 1: six years old. Okay, so that won't work. Never mind, Yeah,

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Speaker 1: you got seven to ride the bus back. Yeah, so

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Speaker 1: you called her to cancel. Yeah, to my surprise, she suggested,

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Speaker 1: well why don't we both go. Man, she's a mom,

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Speaker 1: she probably understands your struggle. Yeah, I mean I was

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Speaker 1: You know, why not use my six year old basketball

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Speaker 1: she was just really cool to even suggest that. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: that's cool. It shows that she's pretty easy going. How

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Speaker 1: was the date at your kids basketball game? Then? It

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Speaker 1: was really good. She was very you get seats right

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Speaker 1: basketball game. We had seat. She was cheering him on,

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Speaker 1: he like, who's a strange lady cheering me on? Dad?

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Speaker 1: Actually they met right before the game, so it wasn't

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Speaker 1: that the Okay, at halftime, I can mention this. Uh,

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Speaker 1: there was a little romance that actually ensued during the game. Okay,

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Speaker 1: what happened? She? Uh, you know, she got a little

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Speaker 1: And she's like, I'll tell you what, if she's bringing

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Speaker 1: So she gave me a kiss. When he got back.

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Speaker 1: that's quick, that's quick. Jump. Well, you know, she our

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Speaker 1: get your second day update. All right, sound good? Okay,

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Speaker 1: hang on brooking jubil in the morning. Second, if you're

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Speaker 1: just tuning in for today's second date update, Robert is

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Speaker 1: sporting event. Always a good idea, unless, of course, it's

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Speaker 1: a six year olds basketball game. What was the score,

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Speaker 1: by the way, Robert, nine to six. Seriously, it's actually

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Speaker 1: even less than that if you're just sitting in. Robert

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Speaker 1: he scheduled at a date with Rebecca. She has a

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Speaker 1: You're ready to get her on the phone, Robert, Yeah,

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Speaker 1: Here we go, Hello, Hey is this Rebecca? Um? Yeah,

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Speaker 1: hello Rebecca, pleasure to make your acquaintance. What are you doing?

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Speaker 1: Jewil from Brook and Jewil in the Morning. It's a

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Speaker 1: radio show. Sorry about that? What? Who is this really?

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Speaker 1: My name is Jewil from Brook and Jewil in the Morning.

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Speaker 1: It's a radio show. I talk like people. Do understand it?

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Speaker 1: You're calling me from the radio right now? Yes? Yes? Yes?

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Speaker 1: How are you? Um? I'm you sound confused? Is what

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Speaker 1: be the radio part? Who knows? What is this about? Well,

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Speaker 1: second Date Update. And you went out with a dude

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Speaker 1: named Robert a little while ago. Oh yeah, yeah, And

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Speaker 1: Robert emailed us because he told us all about your date.

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Speaker 1: And he also told us that you aren't calling him

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Speaker 1: was wondering why this is the weirdest saying that's ever

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Speaker 1: happened to me? What I don't this is for real?

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Speaker 1: It is unless you haven't gone out with a guy

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Speaker 1: named Robert. No I did, I did so. Yeah. Is

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Speaker 1: there a particular reason you don't want to see Robert again?

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Speaker 1: You know? I I just I just don't think that

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Speaker 1: Robert and I will work out in the end, that's all.

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Speaker 1: out what they're doing wrong in dating. And Robert really

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Speaker 1: he'd like, okay, so he yeah, he told he told us, Yeah,

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Speaker 1: I usually think the date is going well. But it

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Speaker 1: so when did it change? Well? Okay, so I don't

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Speaker 1: am I right? Am? I reded what you're saying. It

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Speaker 1: you guys are joking, but growing up, my dad was

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