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Speaker 1: Someone was texting me last night saying that Valentine's Day

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Speaker 1: like flowers and they're walking around, and like everybody went

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Speaker 1: out from Valentine's Day last night and you were out.

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Speaker 1: You went to Texas Roadhouse. No, I went to Longhorn, Texas.

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Speaker 1: It sounds like it should be the same place. Why

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Speaker 1: went to Longhorn. How romantic was that? It was so romance?

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Speaker 1: Was there a candle on the table? And no, just

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Speaker 1: some spinach ship you know they have like a little

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Speaker 1: nice little appatizer for the dates. But yeah, no, that's it.

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Speaker 1: That's about it. And then what happened afterwards the Valentine's Day?

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Speaker 1: And nothing happened because I wasn't planning to go to Longhorn,

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Speaker 1: So I felt a little scale. So you thought you

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Speaker 1: were going somewhere in booze here, yes, and then you

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Speaker 1: got it was a bait and switch situation. Wait what

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Speaker 1: happened though? How did you wind up not going to

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Speaker 1: the boogie place? Because we always go to a bougie

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Speaker 1: double date with my brother and sister in law. So

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Speaker 1: they canceled at the last minute yesterday and Big Tim

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Speaker 1: was Longhorned Steakhouse. No, so I don't know. So then

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Speaker 1: Big Tim's idea, like that's his favorite date night spot

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Speaker 1: he's doing it big like, let me get the Porterhouse.

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Speaker 1: I'm like, yeah, big night. Yeah. If you got a

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Speaker 1: Porterhouse and there is nothing going on later, guy's got

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Speaker 1: sure nothing's happening. A dude or anyone or a lady

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Speaker 1: did you have? Um? I had the parmesan crusted chicken.

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Speaker 1: You didn't even get steak. Why ain't some of his?

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Speaker 1: To be honest, a steak restaurant? Have you had longhorns?

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Speaker 1: Parmesan crusted chicken? I don't need to have steakhouse, steakhouse.

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Speaker 1: I didn't chicken. I always get chicken, gets that ROSAERI yeah,

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Speaker 1: do you think I invented that? Where do you think

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Speaker 1: that came from? The Okay? All right, so it was

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Speaker 1: you were happy though? Oh? Yeah I was. I can't lie.

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Speaker 1: I'm a simple girl. I try to act bougie sometimes,

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Speaker 1: but really I was happy with the steak, with the longhorn. Like.

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Speaker 1: I didn't put on a extra makeup. I didn't put

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Speaker 1: a lesser quality girl, gold for less? Yes? There is.

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Speaker 1: Funny I can make this look fifteen pounds liner if

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Speaker 1: no point in let me know your secrets, let me

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Speaker 1: the doctor told me to lose fifteen pounds. But if

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Speaker 1: got one go, dear blog. UM, this could be a

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Speaker 1: you to all of our listeners who UM said that

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Speaker 1: when they heard the news of the shooting at Michigan State,

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Speaker 1: lot of people have been asking for an update. UM,

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Speaker 1: My sister, her and her roommate and her friends are

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Speaker 1: In terms of the shooting, my sister's roommate and best

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Speaker 1: How many shooters there were there was just one. I

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Speaker 1: Just a couple of weeks ago, Michigan State made a

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Speaker 1: So thank you for your concern. Sorry, I was out yesterday,

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Speaker 1: appreciate everyone. Well, well, well, of course, glad everyone or

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Speaker 1: like I would like you to propose to me? Not directly,

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Speaker 1: I thought. I was bad ready? So another animal fact today, boy, yeah, um,

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Speaker 1: So there's a tiny, little, tiny Australian critter known as

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Speaker 1: You know, I have never seen an anti Chennis. I

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Speaker 1: don't think anti chennis um, but the disintegrate some dies. Okay, yeah,

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Speaker 1: I wish I could disintegrate right now, transform myself into

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Speaker 1: so I can't do it. Doesn't say how many times

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Speaker 1: don't worry about my sources. I have risked it. Mouses

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Speaker 1: matter where, it doesn't matter. Okay, I have sources and

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Speaker 1: them with you elephants. What else did you say this? Elephants?

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Speaker 1: I think that's very sweet of you. And don't you

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Speaker 1: wax for you. I don't know where you live.