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Speaker 2: But before that, we have a quick two minute break

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Speaker 2: from the sponsors that keep this show alive. My sister

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Speaker 2: went to our cousin's wedding. They refuse to accommodate her needs.

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Speaker 3: Well that I'm not coming to the wedding.

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Speaker 2: My little sister, twenty eight female got married tonight. I

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Speaker 2: was not invited, which is perfectly fine since I can't

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Speaker 2: stand the side of the family and I did an

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Speaker 2: invite her to my wedding two years ago. All right, However,

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Speaker 2: my sister and father were both invited. The story focuses

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Speaker 2: on the treatment of my sister. Background. My sister thirty

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Speaker 2: five has a rare form of muscular dystrophy. She is

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Speaker 2: in a power chair and has been since she was two.

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Speaker 2: All she's very obviously physically impaired, has been since birth,

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Speaker 2: and can't even do simple tasks like stretch out her

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Speaker 2: arms all the way. She lives on her own, but

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Speaker 2: has around o'clock here in terms of a nurse at

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Speaker 2: night and an aid during the day. Everyone and her

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Speaker 2: family knows this. By the way, this comes from Depressed

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Speaker 2: I'm Savannah, I'm Sophia, I'm Carly, and we are ready

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Speaker 2: to give some good advice in a little goofy way,

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Speaker 2: but we don't have.

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Speaker 1: All the answers.

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Speaker 2: We'd only tell you what we would do, So let

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Speaker 2: us know what you would do down the commons as

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Speaker 2: a pie sus. Around two months ago, my sister got

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Speaker 2: her RSVP in the mail and noticed that she did

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Speaker 2: not receive a plus one. She reached out and to

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Speaker 2: her inquire if there was a way she could bring

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Speaker 2: her boyfriend as her aid. All right. Aunt responded that

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Speaker 2: the question. My sister understood and asked if there was

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Speaker 2: a preference on who she brings. She has aids that

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Speaker 2: have been with her almost since birth, so the whole

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Speaker 2: family knows them. Our aunt informed her that she doesn't

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Speaker 2: get a plus one at all and that our dad

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Speaker 3: Wow. Wow, to be like, yeah, no, the people that

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Speaker 3: you need to help you can't be there because we didn't.

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Speaker 3: We just have like it's our wedding. We don't want it.

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Speaker 3: We don't want to people that we don't know. Then

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Speaker 3: I can't come. Also, why are you not invite? Didn't

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Speaker 3: he say why she wasn't invited? They don't just said

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Speaker 4: Yeah, and she didn't invite her to her wedding two

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Speaker 2: That's crazy, we just didn't invite.

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Speaker 1: Wow.

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Speaker 2: My sister told her that unfortunately, that wouldn't work as

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Speaker 2: our dad can't do all of her needs, example bathroom.

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Speaker 2: That's true.

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Speaker 2: Our aunt got snippy with her and told her that

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Speaker 2: only if my sister and her aid share a plate,

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Speaker 2: as they didn't plan for this in their invite list.

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Speaker 3: So weird what we have to share? I have to

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Speaker 2: My special sister has to share a plate.

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Speaker 3: Ridiculous.

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Speaker 2: Already feeling like an inconvenience, my sister readily agreed since

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Speaker 2: forward to the wedding, ceremony goes fine, My sister stayed

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Speaker 2: Then she goes to find their places for dinner. Her

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Speaker 2: My sister nothing. They didn't even set a napkin out

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Speaker 3: That's crappy. Yeah, to give the aid food. So now

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Speaker 3: they're not even sharing food. Aid is the only one

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Speaker 4: Yeah, I can see why you don't like her, obie.

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Speaker 2: Then my grandmother came up to tell her that she

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Speaker 3: God, these people sound like real joys.

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Speaker 2: They constantly flaun how much money they have. But Penny

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Speaker 2: Needless to say, she left early and was hurt. That's

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I mean, like, these people are clearly awful if

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Speaker 2: The fact that she physically cannot be able to do

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Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, I kill It feels like they didn't want

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Speaker 2: She said she was like, oh, I can't come, and

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Speaker 2: they were like, oh, fine, then bring the aid.

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Speaker 3: I don't know. They're being weird.

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Speaker 2: Another way, they cut costs, ordered a cake from someone

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Speaker 2: them to give them the cake. It was also only

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Speaker 2: two teared and not enough for everyone. Update. My grandmother

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Speaker 2: texted this to my sister last night. I left shortly

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Speaker 2: after you after a different cousin dragged me out on

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Speaker 2: the dance floor for a few minutes. Honestly, that loud

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Speaker 2: a conversation. However, the younger crowd loved it, and that's

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Speaker 2: all that matters. You look stunning. The wedding was way

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Speaker 2: over budget, so Aunt redacted had to tighten up on

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Speaker 2: a number of items, dessert being one of them. She

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Speaker 2: made all of those desserts a there's note besides the

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Speaker 2: cake yours was another. Instead of hiring a florist for

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Speaker 2: ten k, she spent about one thousand dollars at Trader

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Speaker 2: Joe's and then a friend came to the house and

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Speaker 2: made the arrangements with help from others. All the signs

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Speaker 2: were designed and made by her. I'm sorry about the

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Speaker 2: meal situation. I'm sure when the caterine contract was signed,

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Speaker 2: it was assumed Dad would be with you. Why is

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Speaker 2: the grandma sending you this, I don't know.

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Speaker 3: It's just excusing, like excuses, just excusing the behavior of

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Speaker 2: I don't need it.

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Speaker 3: I know, I know what happened, I know how you

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Speaker 2: Some fun points our dad was apparently at a different table,

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Speaker 2: so he wouldn't have been able to help her anyway.

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Speaker 3: I just wanted to isolate her.

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Speaker 2: It's so strange. They like didn't even accommodate to have

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Speaker 3: Yeah, like didn't get her boyfriend, almost didn't let her

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Speaker 3: at the table. Yeah, They're like, she's already would giving ada.

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Speaker 2: And then was like, well, your dad can take care

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Speaker 2: in case. Additionally, my sister asked them months in advance,

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Speaker 1: Uh.

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Speaker 3: My final thought is that I would be cutting off

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Speaker 3: this out of the family, and I'll be telling everyone

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Speaker 3: I know that this wedding sucked.

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Speaker 2: I like Scilla's comment it costs zero dollars to be considerate.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, they really could have just been nice, and they

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Speaker 3: could have even said, hey, like we might need you

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Speaker 3: to pay a little bit more if your aid is coming,

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Speaker 2: You don't get a seat. We hate you. Update number two.

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Speaker 2: I asked my sister if anyone else reached out to her,

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Speaker 2: including our dad, who has always made excuses for first family.

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Speaker 2: And it's a big negative, Opie says, any more fun

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Speaker 2: drama today, sister, Nope, OP boring sister totally. Op want

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Speaker 2: me to start something? Ah? No, and the that's that's yep,

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Speaker 2: that's it. That's there we go.

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Speaker 3: It seems like the sister was like, you know, I

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Speaker 3: don't even care. I'm just here, just here. Do you

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I don't know, it's I don't understand why that

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Speaker 3: But uh, these people horrible people. All I know is

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Speaker 2: Yeah, makes for a very good reason. But that's the

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Speaker 2: end ofnet story. And we got another one in Camorana.

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Speaker 2: My mother saved her brothers from financial ruin. Now they're

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Speaker 1: Why why are you doing that?

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Speaker 2: I Female twenty eight was born and raised in the USA,

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Speaker 2: My parents, through hard work, built a very successful life

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Speaker 2: by any standard, despite inheriting nothing from their parents. My

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Speaker 2: of my mother's brothers, let's call him Jonathan Mail sixty ish,

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Speaker 2: was struggling financially. My mom offered Jonathan a very low

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Speaker 2: Think like two hundred thousand dollars.

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Speaker 1: Okay, now I'm going to Monaco.

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Speaker 3: Yikes.

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Speaker 2: By the way, this comes from content Flight sixty three

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Speaker 2: eighty six, And if you want to submit your own stories,

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Speaker 3: Where this was actually submitting.

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Speaker 2: I'm Savannah, I'm Keon, I'm Carly, and we are here

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Speaker 2: to talk about some good things, maybe some bad things.

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Speaker 3: Give a little bit of advice.

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Speaker 1: Maybe make you laugh, I don't know, maybe make you cry.

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Speaker 2: It's true, we can also do that. But the thing is,

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Speaker 2: I will say, we only know what we know. We

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Speaker 2: don't know what you know. But you know how we

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Speaker 2: do know is if you go and type what you

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Speaker 2: know down in the comments, then we'll know you know

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Speaker 2: you know bah Asopie says. Fast forward to just over

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Speaker 2: twenty years ago, when my grandfather passed away and his

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Speaker 2: property was inherited by the various siblings. Oh yeah, the

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Speaker 2: youngest son male fifties, who we will call Row, inherited

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Speaker 2: half of the family farm and Jonathan inherited the other half.

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Speaker 2: Shortly after, Jonathan went through a messy divorce and as

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Speaker 2: part of the settlement, had to give his ex wife

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Speaker 1: In what a world, Ben, It's like not I don't

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Speaker 2: He was not in a financial position to purchase a

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Speaker 2: My parents purchased the house and land from Jonathan so

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Speaker 2: We jump again to two years ago. Jonathan is in

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Speaker 2: He offers two hundred fifty thousand dollars to my parents

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Speaker 2: My parents countered with perhaps meeting in the middle between

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Speaker 1: Hey, buddy, we did a bunch of renovations that cost

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Speaker 2: Ignoring the obvious insult, my mother countered she would sell

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Speaker 1: This guy's gross. This guy the word is conniving.

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Speaker 2: He refused to go through with the sale, stating that

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Speaker 2: have neighbors looking in his windows. This will be important later.

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Speaker 2: My mother refused to sell as there was no way

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Speaker 2: not getting his way and ran to Row, who owns

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Speaker 2: she stood her ground. How dare you make your mom cry?

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Speaker 2: You little?

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Speaker 1: I mean, this guy's again weasel, conniving and she wheels

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Speaker 2: We hired someone to take care of the yard while

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Speaker 2: the land put officially into our name, as at this

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Speaker 2: since then. A trailer home appeared on Roe's side of

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Speaker 2: not full time, but sometimes. It is about one hundred

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Speaker 2: name after no small hassole. Eight months ago. My mother,

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Speaker 2: my fiance, and I traveled back and brought with us

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Speaker 2: a CCTV system my father wanted to install at the house.

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Speaker 2: The first morning we woke up, we looked out the

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Speaker 2: on our fields. My mother immediately messaged Row, inquiring what

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Speaker 2: but that she was willing to discuss allowing him to

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Speaker 1: Oh, here we go. This is how this is, This

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Speaker 1: is how we fight. Oh no, we're gonna see who

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Speaker 1: pushes the line more. And we're starting off with You

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Speaker 1: think they would start off small, but they're starting off

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Speaker 1: really big with the cows. It's like usually like the

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Speaker 1: We're starting off big here, all right. What's the saying?

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Speaker 2: Is like singing till the cows come home? Or something?

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Speaker 2: Is that?

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Speaker 4: It?

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Speaker 2: Is it singing something til the cows come home?

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Speaker 1: Moving till the cows come home.

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Speaker 2: After my fiance returned to the States due to work,

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Speaker 2: Roe's wife reached out to my mother via text, stating

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Speaker 2: would go through her, and also requesting to lease the lamb.

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Speaker 1: Oh we're playing telephone now. You mean the person, the

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Speaker 1: this case cow warfare. Oh, he's just taking a toll

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Speaker 1: on him. Wow.

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Speaker 2: All right. She insisted on a legal lease for ten

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Speaker 2: years in an attempt to mend bridges. My mother had

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Speaker 2: a lawyer draw up a lead which clearly stated what

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Speaker 2: the land was to be used for farmland and nothing else.

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Speaker 2: After the lease was drawn up, Roe refused to sign it,

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Speaker 2: and he also refuses to communicate. So what do we

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Speaker 1: We get more cows put on his side of the

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Speaker 1: fence and we go ha ha, I thought with that

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Speaker 1: it was so annoying.

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Speaker 2: We were not able to get the CCTV cameras installed

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Speaker 2: while we were there, so my mother arranged a fly

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Speaker 2: back four months later. There are strict rules about CCTV

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Speaker 2: in this country about what you are and are not

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Speaker 2: allowed to record. We followed the rules exactly, blacking out

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Speaker 2: making sure the only things in frame were on our property.

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Speaker 2: Directly after my mom returned, but before the cameras were installed,

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Speaker 2: Roe reached out, interested in perhaps least seeing the land again.

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Speaker 2: My mom agreed, thinking that they were finally on the

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Speaker 2: path to reconciliation. However, a few days later, after the

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Speaker 2: very little except the rules about CCTV cameras. It was

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Speaker 2: becoming increasingly clear from the wording of some of the

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Speaker 2: cameras on the monitors and make sure that nothing besides

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Speaker 2: our own land was on them. Row decline to come

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Speaker 2: look at the cameras. He also declined to lease the land.

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Speaker 2: What do you want?

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Speaker 1: You know what? You should just row? Row row your

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Speaker 1: boat gently down the stream.

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Speaker 3: You know what? Row, go go row, say ya go.

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Speaker 1: At this point I would just be like, Okay, the

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Speaker 1: We keep our side, and that's that. You're not get anything.

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Speaker 1: You're not getting anything else out of us. This is insane.

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Speaker 1: I would also get where are the lawyers? Can we

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Speaker 1: draw this? Can we drop the lawyers? I'm tired of

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Speaker 2: Another message was sent indicating that we should not contact

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Speaker 2: like what what is his mental health? He just doesn't

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Speaker 2: feel like communicating now? So now his mental health is declined?

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Speaker 1: Right, eh? I want to do it?

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Speaker 2: What mental health issue do you have that we now

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Speaker 2: decisions for you. Things have remained steadist quo. Since then,

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Speaker 2: Jonathan's trailer house is perched right on the property line,

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Speaker 2: little to stop the looking in each other's windows issue.

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Speaker 2: He's also plopped the ugliest tank right up on the

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Speaker 2: Two things have changed in the last few days to

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Speaker 2: is one hundred percent illegal. They did not get permission

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Speaker 2: Even so, my mother was adamant about not reporting them

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Speaker 2: because they are family.

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Speaker 1: And families making your mental state go insane and doing

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Speaker 1: petty things like what they're doing at this point, that's

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Speaker 1: not family. Those are enemies because people don't care, they're

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Speaker 1: playing mind games. Family wouldn't do that. I would literally say, hey,

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Speaker 1: you know that's illegal, right and if you don't move it,

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Speaker 1: we're gonna tell the government. Don't care if you want to.

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Speaker 1: Your actions have consequences. You're a grown adult.

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Speaker 2: That's true. You could just like threaten them, not actually

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Speaker 2: do it, but be like, hey, you know that's illegal,

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Speaker 2: Like I know you're coming. You know about us saying

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Speaker 2: the sus TV isn't legal, blahlah blah, But actually we

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Speaker 2: did everything by the book. You did not, so you

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Speaker 2: would actually be charged in this situation. Secondly, Roe's wife

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Speaker 2: sent a text message to my mother today, completely unprompted.

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Speaker 2: The gist of it was, we know you are back

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Speaker 2: in town. We don't want to see you. Don't stop by.

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Speaker 2: We have to protect ourselves and secure our mental health.

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Speaker 2: Don't contact us again. I mean, what do you even

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Speaker 2: do in this situation? Would you report them or no?

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Speaker 1: Yeah, obviously i'd report them, but Mom is trying to

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Speaker 1: be very motherly in what they're What they're doing here

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Speaker 1: is absurd. I'd be like, Mom, stop it. Why are

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Speaker 1: we letting let them do this? They should have this

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Speaker 1: should have never happened in the first place. This is

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Speaker 1: really annoying. It's going to keep going if you keep

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Speaker 1: letting them not have any consequences to their actions, Like

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Speaker 1: show them who's in charge, Like they have their land,

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Speaker 1: but they're not getting decide this, Let them stop. Please,

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Speaker 1: this is like it's such a headache for everyone.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, it's like, I really don't even know what you

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Speaker 2: want at this point. Do you want the land, you

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Speaker 2: don't want the land. You want to lease thelmand, you

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Speaker 2: don't want to lease the land. You want the house,

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Speaker 2: you don't want the house.

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Speaker 1: They're playing mental games?

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Speaker 3: What do you want?

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Speaker 2: Like, yeah, you do have mental health issues, because I

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Speaker 2: have no idea what you're trying to communicate to me.

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Speaker 2: So now I have three options as I see it.

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Speaker 2: One do nothing worst option Two give them the invitations

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Speaker 2: to my wedding like I was planning to in an

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Speaker 2: attempt to mend bridges. Or three report them to the

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Speaker 2: government for an illegal house. If it were anyone but

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Speaker 2: family treating my mother in such a way, I wouldn't hesitate.

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00:22:16,600 --> 00:22:20,159
Speaker 2: But they are technically family, so I don't know that.

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Speaker 1: Third options seem pretty like out of all the three

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00:22:21,920 --> 00:22:25,080
Speaker 1: options seem pretty reasonable. I mean, you could try number two,

443
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Speaker 1: but I don't think they're gonna listen to reason. I say,

444
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Speaker 1: if it's what they want, I.

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Speaker 2: Know that it's your family, But if they're treating you

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00:22:33,920 --> 00:22:38,280
Speaker 2: like this and making everyone like run like a chicken,

447
00:22:38,280 --> 00:22:40,600
Speaker 2: with this head cut off, like, you know, is it

448
00:22:40,680 --> 00:22:43,600
Speaker 2: really worth it or should you just I don't know,

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00:22:43,760 --> 00:22:45,560
Speaker 2: cut contact and be done with it?

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Speaker 1: Uh OPI the easiest option is three. I mean, this

451
00:22:50,240 --> 00:22:54,199
Speaker 1: is so annoying. Does I get the family thing? But

452
00:22:54,480 --> 00:22:58,239
Speaker 1: family would it wouldn't treat you like this to start with, so,

453
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Speaker 1: or treat you guys, or treat your mother, treat their

454
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Speaker 1: own mother like this. It's crazy.

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Speaker 2: Personally, I am not a fan of the first option.

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00:23:04,920 --> 00:23:08,400
Speaker 2: It feels very passive. The second option I think might

457
00:23:08,440 --> 00:23:10,560
Speaker 2: be morally the best, as I can see how the

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00:23:10,640 --> 00:23:13,560
Speaker 2: rift between my mom and her brothers affects her. She's

459
00:23:13,600 --> 00:23:17,000
Speaker 2: genuinely upset about the whole situation, but also won't let

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00:23:17,040 --> 00:23:20,280
Speaker 2: them take advantage of her. I am partial to option

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Speaker 2: number three, as I believe strongly in the f around

462
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Speaker 2: and find out and play stupid games when stupid prize

463
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Speaker 2: is mentality, But it also might make me an a hole,

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Speaker 2: so I hesitate.

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Speaker 1: Wow, I mean, they're they're the ones being a holes. Unfortunately,

466
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Speaker 1: you're not doing You're doing the legal thing. They're doing

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Speaker 1: something illegal. This isn't this is very dumb. At this point,

468
00:23:46,240 --> 00:23:48,080
Speaker 1: you shouldn't like I would tell them I would warn them.

469
00:23:48,119 --> 00:23:50,880
Speaker 1: I'm like, hey, if you don't cut the crap, you're

470
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Speaker 1: gonna be facing some serious problems. And they're like, uh huh,

471
00:23:54,880 --> 00:23:57,720
Speaker 1: try it, then do it. These guys are so annoying

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Speaker 1: this it's insane. And that's the end of this story.

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Speaker 1: We're going on to the next one. Hey, it's keon

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Speaker 1: the Silly's goose. We're going to get back to the stories.

475
00:24:06,640 --> 00:24:09,520
Speaker 1: But here's three minutes of ads from our sponsors. My

476
00:24:09,640 --> 00:24:12,560
Speaker 1: sister had a meltdown at the wedding. She swore we

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Speaker 1: were all talking about her.

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Speaker 2: Girl, don't you be swearing. It's a wedding.

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Speaker 1: Hello, female thirty here. I just wanted to tell a story.

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Speaker 1: I honestly do not believe I'm in the wrong, but

481
00:24:22,600 --> 00:24:25,400
Speaker 1: I still just wanted to tell it. So I have

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Speaker 1: three sisters, one older than me and two younger, so

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00:24:30,320 --> 00:24:32,480
Speaker 1: total of four. We have a total of four here,

484
00:24:33,040 --> 00:24:38,320
Speaker 1: good math, whew. Older sis Jennifer is thirty four, I'm thirty.

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Speaker 1: Sis after me, Mary is twenty eight, and the youngest

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Speaker 1: is Elizabeth, who is twenty six. Some backstory Jennifer. We

487
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Speaker 1: do not know if she's bipolar or schizophrenic because she's

488
00:24:48,280 --> 00:24:51,960
Speaker 1: never been diagnosed, but she acts like it, and it's

489
00:24:51,960 --> 00:24:55,560
Speaker 1: been like this for all of our lives. People tiptoeing

490
00:24:55,600 --> 00:24:58,280
Speaker 1: around her, trying not to say the wrong thing to

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00:24:58,320 --> 00:25:01,760
Speaker 1: set her off. About a year, Jennifer didn't like the

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00:25:01,920 --> 00:25:05,040
Speaker 1: apartment she lived in, so she wanted to move out.

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00:25:05,240 --> 00:25:07,680
Speaker 1: She realized she had an eviction on her record from

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Speaker 1: a previous apartment, so she asked my two younger sisters

495
00:25:11,440 --> 00:25:14,800
Speaker 1: and myself and my mother, we all bought a house

496
00:25:14,840 --> 00:25:17,919
Speaker 1: together three years ago, if she could move in with us. So,

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00:25:18,280 --> 00:25:20,959
Speaker 1: of course, her being our sister and my mother's child,

498
00:25:21,280 --> 00:25:23,680
Speaker 1: of course we're gonna let her and our nephew come

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Speaker 1: with us. We're family, we help each other. And by

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Speaker 1: the way, this comes from user Frosty Horror thirty two

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Speaker 1: where this story is from. It's one of our own. Woo,

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Speaker 1: and we're reading it. Let us know if you're here

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Speaker 1: or were reading your story. But I'm key On, I'm Savannah,

506
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Speaker 1: I'm Carly, and we're here to give good advice. Goofley,

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Speaker 1: look at Savannah and I we're Goofy goobers, and I'm

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Speaker 1: just not apparently you're a goober. You're stinky goober, not goofy.

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Speaker 1: We don't know everything, guys, We only know what we'd do.

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Speaker 1: So let us know what you do in the comments

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Speaker 1: down below, pretty please. So continuing back, prior to her

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00:26:09,240 --> 00:26:12,920
Speaker 1: moving in, I already warned my sisters if Jennifer comes here,

513
00:26:13,359 --> 00:26:15,560
Speaker 1: we're gonna have to watch her because she tends to

514
00:26:15,600 --> 00:26:18,159
Speaker 1: act bi polar and moody for no reason and then

515
00:26:18,240 --> 00:26:20,679
Speaker 1: just goes back to normal like nothing's ever happened. But

516
00:26:21,080 --> 00:26:25,359
Speaker 1: we still said come on in. Skip to Wednesday. Me

517
00:26:25,400 --> 00:26:27,560
Speaker 1: and Mary are sitting at the table enjoying our night.

518
00:26:28,320 --> 00:26:32,000
Speaker 1: Jennifer starts acting moody and goes into the room. We

519
00:26:32,119 --> 00:26:35,280
Speaker 1: don't pay her no mind. Her son, five years old

520
00:26:35,320 --> 00:26:38,000
Speaker 1: and who is autistic, comes out of the room, runs

521
00:26:38,080 --> 00:26:41,440
Speaker 1: up the stairs, waves at us, starts laughing, and runs away.

522
00:26:42,400 --> 00:26:46,480
Speaker 1: Mary is like, was that the baby? And I was like, yes,

523
00:26:46,760 --> 00:26:50,040
Speaker 1: but he ran away. I don't know about you or

524
00:26:50,240 --> 00:26:52,280
Speaker 1: I don't know. That's kind of creepy.

525
00:26:52,720 --> 00:26:54,800
Speaker 2: I want to know what time this was, Like, was

526
00:26:54,840 --> 00:26:56,800
Speaker 2: this baby supposed to be asleep or what?

527
00:26:57,680 --> 00:27:00,880
Speaker 1: Like? He isid He and then runs away.

528
00:27:01,160 --> 00:27:02,640
Speaker 2: I feel like, where are you going?

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00:27:02,840 --> 00:27:05,840
Speaker 1: That's creepy to me. Okay. Jennifer, sitting in the room,

530
00:27:05,880 --> 00:27:08,720
Speaker 1: pops her head out and says, yeah, he came to

531
00:27:08,800 --> 00:27:10,639
Speaker 1: check up on you guys because he knows y'all was

532
00:27:10,680 --> 00:27:14,119
Speaker 1: talking about us. Me and Mary look at each other like,

533
00:27:14,640 --> 00:27:17,440
Speaker 1: what the f is she talking about. She takes her son,

534
00:27:17,880 --> 00:27:20,600
Speaker 1: pulls him in the room, and closes the door. We

535
00:27:20,680 --> 00:27:23,120
Speaker 1: don't see her for the rest of the night. So

536
00:27:23,480 --> 00:27:26,160
Speaker 1: skip to Saturday. My mother was invited to a family

537
00:27:26,200 --> 00:27:29,320
Speaker 1: friend's wedding, and of course we're invited to The theme

538
00:27:29,440 --> 00:27:31,920
Speaker 1: was pink and purple. We're all taking pictures. We take

539
00:27:31,960 --> 00:27:34,560
Speaker 1: two separate cars. Jennifer and my mother get it in

540
00:27:34,560 --> 00:27:38,879
Speaker 1: the same car and leave me, Mary, Elizabeth, and Elizabeth's boyfriend.

541
00:27:39,040 --> 00:27:41,680
Speaker 1: We get in my other sister's car and go another

542
00:27:41,720 --> 00:27:44,240
Speaker 1: way because we got to pick up Mary's girlfriend. We

543
00:27:44,320 --> 00:27:46,439
Speaker 1: get to the wedding. My mom and Jennifer went for

544
00:27:46,480 --> 00:27:48,919
Speaker 1: the actual wedding. The rest of us showed up for

545
00:27:48,960 --> 00:27:53,640
Speaker 1: the reception. Everything is beautiful. Everybody's dancing and they're doing

546
00:27:53,720 --> 00:27:57,879
Speaker 1: raffle tickets, food is being served, you know, normal wedding stuff.

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00:27:58,359 --> 00:28:00,879
Speaker 1: Skip a couple hours we're all kind of just chilling

548
00:28:00,880 --> 00:28:03,280
Speaker 1: at the table. I tell the whole table I'm about

549
00:28:03,280 --> 00:28:05,359
Speaker 1: to step outside to the car for a minute. We

550
00:28:05,400 --> 00:28:08,080
Speaker 1: shouldn't all leave together because it'll look like some type

551
00:28:08,080 --> 00:28:11,840
Speaker 1: of way if a whole table just disappears. Everyone agrees,

552
00:28:11,840 --> 00:28:14,159
Speaker 1: except for my mom. She said she's gonna come with

553
00:28:14,200 --> 00:28:17,280
Speaker 1: me because she invited another friend from work here. So

554
00:28:17,359 --> 00:28:19,680
Speaker 1: we get outside, we meet my mom's friend. My mom

555
00:28:19,720 --> 00:28:21,560
Speaker 1: tells us she's going to send my sisters back, so

556
00:28:21,600 --> 00:28:24,040
Speaker 1: we all hang out for a minute. So we all

557
00:28:24,040 --> 00:28:27,400
Speaker 1: head back into the party, but before we fully go in,

558
00:28:27,720 --> 00:28:31,280
Speaker 1: Elizabeth's boyfriend says he has to use the bathroom. Mary says,

559
00:28:31,640 --> 00:28:34,560
Speaker 1: I have to use the bathroom too, So I'm there, like,

560
00:28:34,840 --> 00:28:36,840
Speaker 1: let's just all go to the bathroom first and then

561
00:28:36,840 --> 00:28:40,160
Speaker 1: we'll all go back and then dance. Since Elizabeth walked

562
00:28:40,200 --> 00:28:42,480
Speaker 1: in the bathroom first, she saw Jennifer already in the

563
00:28:42,520 --> 00:28:47,080
Speaker 1: bathroom stall with her son using the bathroom, so she says, hey, girl,

564
00:28:47,480 --> 00:28:50,200
Speaker 1: look at you up in here. Jennifer looks at us

565
00:28:50,280 --> 00:28:53,680
Speaker 1: through the bathroom stall with an attitude. I come out

566
00:28:53,680 --> 00:28:55,960
Speaker 1: of the stall. That's when Jennifer stepped in front of

567
00:28:56,000 --> 00:29:01,080
Speaker 1: me and says were you talking about California? And I'm

568
00:29:01,120 --> 00:29:04,040
Speaker 1: so confused because I'm like, what are you talking about?

569
00:29:05,040 --> 00:29:07,920
Speaker 1: And she's like, I heard you talking about me going

570
00:29:07,960 --> 00:29:12,240
Speaker 1: to California. Side note, she's a chef and she went

571
00:29:12,320 --> 00:29:15,120
Speaker 1: a competition to go cook in California. We knew about

572
00:29:15,120 --> 00:29:18,000
Speaker 1: this day's prior, no one ever talked about it at

573
00:29:18,040 --> 00:29:22,440
Speaker 1: the wedding. I say, uh, what are you talking about.

574
00:29:23,280 --> 00:29:25,400
Speaker 1: She looks at me with a full on attitude and says,

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00:29:25,920 --> 00:29:28,440
Speaker 1: I heard you talking crap about me going to California.

576
00:29:29,080 --> 00:29:32,320
Speaker 1: I say, I don't even know what you're talking about.

577
00:29:32,680 --> 00:29:35,400
Speaker 1: I never said anything. I walk around her and go

578
00:29:35,560 --> 00:29:40,000
Speaker 1: wash my hands in my mind. The conversation is over.

579
00:29:40,840 --> 00:29:44,800
Speaker 1: Elizabeth comes to me and was like, is she okay?

580
00:29:45,600 --> 00:29:49,480
Speaker 1: Elizabeth says, no, nobody was talking about that. So we

581
00:29:49,560 --> 00:29:52,880
Speaker 1: head back into the wedding party. We walk in the party,

582
00:29:53,200 --> 00:29:55,720
Speaker 1: Elizabeth and her boyfriend and I go back to the table.

583
00:29:56,160 --> 00:29:58,720
Speaker 1: The whole family's at the table. My mother's friend ends

584
00:29:58,760 --> 00:30:00,800
Speaker 1: up sitting next to me the only pictures of her

585
00:30:00,880 --> 00:30:03,480
Speaker 1: new baby grandchild on her phone. When my younger sisters

586
00:30:03,520 --> 00:30:05,680
Speaker 1: and I and their partners came back to the party,

587
00:30:06,040 --> 00:30:08,640
Speaker 1: Jennifer was mugging me from the time I walked in

588
00:30:08,800 --> 00:30:12,040
Speaker 1: until I sat down at the table. Jennifer walks all

589
00:30:12,080 --> 00:30:14,120
Speaker 1: the way from the dance floor and come sits at

590
00:30:14,120 --> 00:30:17,640
Speaker 1: the table right across from me and is just staring

591
00:30:17,680 --> 00:30:20,280
Speaker 1: at me. From the corner of my eyes, I can

592
00:30:20,280 --> 00:30:25,040
Speaker 1: see Jennifer literally just staring. Oh freak, she's mugging me,

593
00:30:25,640 --> 00:30:28,440
Speaker 1: not saying anything. The rest of the family comes back

594
00:30:28,440 --> 00:30:31,600
Speaker 1: to the table. I feel Jennifer's eyes on me. So

595
00:30:31,680 --> 00:30:33,680
Speaker 1: this time I looked at her and was like, are

596
00:30:34,000 --> 00:30:39,200
Speaker 1: you staring at me? She flat out says yes with

597
00:30:39,280 --> 00:30:42,600
Speaker 1: a smart but attitude and a roll of her neck.

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00:30:43,000 --> 00:30:47,400
Speaker 2: Ew Yes, yes, aos.

599
00:30:47,720 --> 00:30:51,240
Speaker 1: So I say, what is the problem? Are you bipolar?

600
00:30:52,600 --> 00:30:54,040
Speaker 2: That probably wasn't the best thing to say.

601
00:30:54,080 --> 00:30:55,520
Speaker 1: I don't think that was the best thing to say either.

602
00:30:55,760 --> 00:30:57,840
Speaker 2: Well, what are you bipolar? Because you're staring at me?

603
00:30:58,000 --> 00:31:02,480
Speaker 1: I don't know what's the problem California. She says, Well,

604
00:31:03,080 --> 00:31:06,840
Speaker 1: you keep talking crap about me. I stand up and say, okay,

605
00:31:07,320 --> 00:31:09,280
Speaker 1: how about I meet you back at the house since

606
00:31:09,360 --> 00:31:12,320
Speaker 1: you got a problem. She stands up too with this,

607
00:31:13,040 --> 00:31:16,080
Speaker 1: we can go outside. I said, We're at a wedding.

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00:31:16,240 --> 00:31:18,960
Speaker 1: I'm not doing that here. I get up, and I

609
00:31:19,000 --> 00:31:21,400
Speaker 1: start walking towards the bride and her family so I

610
00:31:21,440 --> 00:31:24,320
Speaker 1: can see my goodbyes. I guess at this point, Jennifer

611
00:31:24,360 --> 00:31:27,240
Speaker 1: is at the backyard yelling because I walked away. So

612
00:31:27,440 --> 00:31:29,240
Speaker 1: my mom and my other sisters are trying to get

613
00:31:29,240 --> 00:31:33,560
Speaker 1: her to go outside because she's so dramatic. So I

614
00:31:33,600 --> 00:31:35,960
Speaker 1: walk up to the bride. I'm telling her, hey, I'm

615
00:31:35,960 --> 00:31:37,640
Speaker 1: about to leave, and I wanted to take pictures with

616
00:31:37,680 --> 00:31:40,280
Speaker 1: the wedding party and say goodbye to everybody, so that's

617
00:31:40,320 --> 00:31:43,040
Speaker 1: what I do. I didn't even notice Elizabeth was following me.

618
00:31:43,560 --> 00:31:45,480
Speaker 1: She takes a picture for me while I'm posing with

619
00:31:45,520 --> 00:31:48,280
Speaker 1: the bride and her daughter. We say our goodbyes and

620
00:31:48,360 --> 00:31:50,720
Speaker 1: we walk back out of the car. Me and Elizabeth

621
00:31:50,760 --> 00:31:53,840
Speaker 1: are walking to the car and she's like, I think

622
00:31:53,920 --> 00:31:57,240
Speaker 1: she's losing her crap. We were never talking about her.

623
00:31:57,680 --> 00:31:59,880
Speaker 1: So we get in the car. I drive us to

624
00:31:59,880 --> 00:32:02,360
Speaker 1: the front of the hotel. I see my sister Jennifer

625
00:32:02,560 --> 00:32:07,280
Speaker 1: walking barefooted crying. Mary's literally behind her, and my mom

626
00:32:07,360 --> 00:32:09,040
Speaker 1: is just in the middle trying to calm both of

627
00:32:09,080 --> 00:32:13,640
Speaker 1: them down. Elizabeth's boyfriend is there too, and Elizabeth jumps

628
00:32:13,640 --> 00:32:15,840
Speaker 1: out of the car to see what's going on? I

629
00:32:15,920 --> 00:32:18,400
Speaker 1: tell her I'm not getting out of the car. I'm

630
00:32:18,400 --> 00:32:21,480
Speaker 1: not about to embarrass myself at this wedding. So once

631
00:32:21,520 --> 00:32:24,320
Speaker 1: everybody cools down after like ten minutes, I tell Mary,

632
00:32:24,760 --> 00:32:28,080
Speaker 1: can you just get in the car. Once Mary calms down, me,

633
00:32:28,320 --> 00:32:30,680
Speaker 1: her and Elizabeth's boyfriend, we all get in the car

634
00:32:30,720 --> 00:32:33,760
Speaker 1: and pull off. Elizabeth stays behind with my mom is

635
00:32:33,800 --> 00:32:36,920
Speaker 1: trying to explain to Jennifer that nobody was talking about her.

636
00:32:37,520 --> 00:32:40,680
Speaker 1: Maybe she wants to go get checked because Elizabeth is

637
00:32:40,720 --> 00:32:43,880
Speaker 1: a nurse. I tell Jennifer meet me at the house.

638
00:32:44,040 --> 00:32:46,200
Speaker 1: We go drop Mary's girlfriend off, and now it's just

639
00:32:46,280 --> 00:32:48,120
Speaker 1: the three of us in the car. We are still

640
00:32:48,160 --> 00:32:50,480
Speaker 1: trying to go back over what the heck just happened.

641
00:32:50,720 --> 00:32:53,520
Speaker 1: We all come up with the same explanation. We don't

642
00:32:53,600 --> 00:32:57,400
Speaker 1: know why she's acting like this. This crap is just random.

643
00:32:57,920 --> 00:32:59,760
Speaker 1: So we get back to the house and I call

644
00:32:59,800 --> 00:33:03,280
Speaker 1: this to come outside and talk with us. Long story short,

645
00:33:03,400 --> 00:33:05,320
Speaker 1: She tells us Jennifer was saying that we were all

646
00:33:05,320 --> 00:33:09,200
Speaker 1: whispering about her at the wedding, which again was never true,

647
00:33:09,840 --> 00:33:11,959
Speaker 1: being that I was the one cheering her on and

648
00:33:12,000 --> 00:33:14,680
Speaker 1: taking pictures for her. So we all get out of

649
00:33:14,680 --> 00:33:16,440
Speaker 1: the car, and now we're walking up to the house.

650
00:33:17,240 --> 00:33:19,320
Speaker 1: As soon as we walk in, I see Jennifer sitting

651
00:33:19,320 --> 00:33:21,880
Speaker 1: on the couch. She had her head down but not

652
00:33:21,920 --> 00:33:24,920
Speaker 1: wanting to acknowledge me. So I'm walking in. I head

653
00:33:24,920 --> 00:33:27,120
Speaker 1: straight down the stairs and my mom is like, are

654
00:33:27,200 --> 00:33:30,600
Speaker 1: you okay? And I was like, no, I'm still upset.

655
00:33:31,160 --> 00:33:33,000
Speaker 1: I look right at Jennifer and told her she better

656
00:33:33,040 --> 00:33:35,720
Speaker 1: hope I go in this room and calm down. I'm

657
00:33:35,720 --> 00:33:38,800
Speaker 1: in my room for a while, letting things settle. Eventually,

658
00:33:39,160 --> 00:33:41,920
Speaker 1: Jennifer opens the door of the room she's in upstairs

659
00:33:41,920 --> 00:33:45,840
Speaker 1: and says, you're a fat witch. That's why you never

660
00:33:45,960 --> 00:33:49,000
Speaker 1: left the nest. That's why you've never had your own place.

661
00:33:49,320 --> 00:33:50,600
Speaker 1: You're still living at home?

662
00:33:51,080 --> 00:33:51,959
Speaker 2: So are you?

663
00:33:51,960 --> 00:33:53,440
Speaker 3: You're literally living here?

664
00:33:53,720 --> 00:33:56,400
Speaker 1: I'm sorry? Where are you comes? Yeah, I'm sorry. Where

665
00:33:56,400 --> 00:33:57,320
Speaker 1: are you living right now?

666
00:33:57,360 --> 00:34:00,640
Speaker 2: You literally went and moved out and got even and

667
00:34:00,640 --> 00:34:01,880
Speaker 2: then had to come back home.

668
00:34:02,000 --> 00:34:04,360
Speaker 3: Is that? Do you think you were better than me?

669
00:34:04,680 --> 00:34:07,680
Speaker 1: Yeah, let's let's put Yeah, you know, let's compare. That's fair,

670
00:34:08,520 --> 00:34:13,280
Speaker 1: that's crazy. So I just start going in, like, which

671
00:34:14,239 --> 00:34:16,520
Speaker 1: didn't you get evicted twice from your old place because

672
00:34:16,560 --> 00:34:19,600
Speaker 1: of your mouth and now from this place because of

673
00:34:19,640 --> 00:34:24,000
Speaker 1: your effing mouth with me. Yeah, that really set her off.

674
00:34:24,320 --> 00:34:26,799
Speaker 1: I'm like, you want to talk about me tonight? You

675
00:34:26,800 --> 00:34:29,000
Speaker 1: were literally dressed like a little house on the prairie

676
00:34:29,280 --> 00:34:30,799
Speaker 1: and I was still cheering you on.

677
00:34:32,280 --> 00:34:33,919
Speaker 2: This is such a sister fight.

678
00:34:34,040 --> 00:34:35,640
Speaker 1: Sistyistysty.

679
00:34:35,960 --> 00:34:38,880
Speaker 2: Yeah, well you look like a little house on the prairie.

680
00:34:39,600 --> 00:34:42,560
Speaker 2: God mine was. See if if it was me and Sinny,

681
00:34:42,560 --> 00:34:44,399
Speaker 2: I'd be like, you literally look like a big toe.

682
00:34:44,880 --> 00:34:48,880
Speaker 2: She'd be like, okay, you get a thump thumppa. Yeah,

683
00:34:49,040 --> 00:34:52,160
Speaker 2: you're like okay, oh and then she and then she'd

684
00:34:52,200 --> 00:34:53,759
Speaker 2: be like, and your banks suck, and I'd be like,

685
00:34:54,320 --> 00:34:56,719
Speaker 2: don't come on my banks. She always says, I want

686
00:34:56,719 --> 00:34:58,480
Speaker 2: to surf on your banks when they don't look good,

687
00:34:58,520 --> 00:35:01,359
Speaker 2: because they'll be like over here when I wake up

688
00:35:01,400 --> 00:35:04,880
Speaker 2: and I Facetimer and they're like this. And then she's like,

689
00:35:05,320 --> 00:35:08,080
Speaker 2: I want to surf Savannah's bangs, And I'm like, stop,

690
00:35:09,040 --> 00:35:09,640
Speaker 2: you're hurting me.

691
00:35:10,880 --> 00:35:13,040
Speaker 1: Out of everybody at the wedding, the person who is

692
00:35:13,080 --> 00:35:17,439
Speaker 1: your biggest supporter, you decide to turn on them after

693
00:35:17,480 --> 00:35:20,600
Speaker 1: some time, I'm telling people she has to leave. I

694
00:35:20,640 --> 00:35:24,879
Speaker 1: politely tell them this is my house. She has ten

695
00:35:24,920 --> 00:35:28,480
Speaker 1: minutes to leave, so I'm sitting in my room. She

696
00:35:28,560 --> 00:35:30,839
Speaker 1: ends up coming downstairs into the room she's renting out

697
00:35:30,880 --> 00:35:33,319
Speaker 1: to pack her stuff. So I'm sitting there and I'm

698
00:35:33,320 --> 00:35:36,000
Speaker 1: seeing her pack her stuff and go up the stairs.

699
00:35:36,640 --> 00:35:39,279
Speaker 1: Me being the petty person I am, I walked right

700
00:35:39,360 --> 00:35:43,120
Speaker 1: up the stairs behind her and watched her leave. Everybody's like, girl,

701
00:35:43,600 --> 00:35:47,040
Speaker 1: don't you do nothing? And I'm like, no, I need

702
00:35:47,080 --> 00:35:49,640
Speaker 1: to make sure the trash is being taken out. She

703
00:35:49,640 --> 00:35:53,920
Speaker 1: didn't say, not one word, but now here is the punter.

704
00:35:54,440 --> 00:35:56,800
Speaker 1: She walks all the way to her car. At this point,

705
00:35:57,120 --> 00:36:00,000
Speaker 1: I'm standing in the screen door, so as I'm staying

706
00:36:00,239 --> 00:36:02,439
Speaker 1: in the screen door watching her, she's flipping me off,

707
00:36:02,719 --> 00:36:06,760
Speaker 1: calling me all types of fat witches. And I'm like, yeah,

708
00:36:07,000 --> 00:36:08,759
Speaker 1: I'm a fat witch who's gonna sleep in her own

709
00:36:08,840 --> 00:36:11,800
Speaker 1: bed tonight, a fat witch who has never been evicted,

710
00:36:12,200 --> 00:36:14,719
Speaker 1: a fat witch who doesn't have to ask anybody else

711
00:36:14,760 --> 00:36:15,680
Speaker 1: for handouts.

712
00:36:16,239 --> 00:36:19,240
Speaker 2: It's sad because she also has a five year old child,

713
00:36:20,239 --> 00:36:24,520
Speaker 2: and she like doesn't I don't know, she doesn't want

714
00:36:24,560 --> 00:36:27,120
Speaker 2: to get help. And that's just if I had a child.

715
00:36:28,760 --> 00:36:30,160
Speaker 2: I feel like that's what.

716
00:36:30,280 --> 00:36:32,719
Speaker 1: Yeah, what pride do you have left? You know? Yeah,

717
00:36:32,719 --> 00:36:34,400
Speaker 1: if this is all about really like pride and like

718
00:36:35,600 --> 00:36:38,840
Speaker 1: this is insane. Jennifer gets in her car while yelling

719
00:36:38,840 --> 00:36:41,840
Speaker 1: and pulls off. I guess Elizabeth followed her to whatever

720
00:36:41,920 --> 00:36:44,239
Speaker 1: hotel she went to and gave her money because I

721
00:36:44,239 --> 00:36:47,239
Speaker 1: told her I wasn't putting it on crap. You know,

722
00:36:48,200 --> 00:36:50,520
Speaker 1: if you don't want help, don't bite the hand that

723
00:36:50,560 --> 00:36:52,880
Speaker 1: feeds as well, Like we're helping you. You came to

724
00:36:53,000 --> 00:36:55,960
Speaker 1: us for help. I think you need help, but I

725
00:36:56,000 --> 00:36:58,080
Speaker 1: guess what, I'm not giving it to you anymore.

726
00:36:58,800 --> 00:37:02,240
Speaker 2: Kim Foyd with the not the ant leaners Staten Island treatment.

727
00:37:05,000 --> 00:37:06,120
Speaker 3: I love Jersey Shore.

728
00:37:06,280 --> 00:37:06,960
Speaker 1: Shut up.

729
00:37:08,480 --> 00:37:11,520
Speaker 2: Where she goes. You could stay get jay Be, or

730
00:37:11,520 --> 00:37:13,960
Speaker 2: you can stay jay Be, or you can stay in

731
00:37:14,000 --> 00:37:14,480
Speaker 2: get jay Be.

732
00:37:16,880 --> 00:37:19,279
Speaker 4: And none of them are from New Jersey.

733
00:37:20,800 --> 00:37:22,480
Speaker 1: Wait what they're not from Jersey.

734
00:37:22,480 --> 00:37:23,040
Speaker 2: I'm not from Jersey.

735
00:37:23,040 --> 00:37:23,759
Speaker 4: They're from New York.

736
00:37:24,120 --> 00:37:28,719
Speaker 2: Oh yeah, well not all of them. I know Harry

737
00:37:28,760 --> 00:37:32,680
Speaker 2: Spaghetti Island is Vinnie and Angelina.

738
00:37:33,000 --> 00:37:35,360
Speaker 4: Yeah, a lot of them aren't from Staten Island or

739
00:37:35,400 --> 00:37:39,120
Speaker 4: New Jersey. It's like random New York state places.

740
00:37:39,239 --> 00:37:40,640
Speaker 3: They just went to the Jersey Shore.

741
00:37:40,880 --> 00:37:42,480
Speaker 2: Yeah, they just brought him to a house.

742
00:37:43,280 --> 00:37:45,279
Speaker 3: It doesn't represent.

743
00:37:44,880 --> 00:37:48,040
Speaker 1: Us, that's all that says. I don't know. Man, sister

744
00:37:48,080 --> 00:37:52,640
Speaker 1: started it, hope he's gonna finish it. And Alexisman here says,

745
00:37:52,719 --> 00:37:55,600
Speaker 1: I'm sorry, but again, if someone with bipolar or schizophrenia

746
00:37:55,640 --> 00:37:58,840
Speaker 1: who is not medicated, there's no reasoning with them. Just

747
00:37:58,880 --> 00:38:01,840
Speaker 1: let it go before the situation becomes dangerous. See what

748
00:38:01,880 --> 00:38:03,160
Speaker 1: I'm worried about is her kid.

749
00:38:03,800 --> 00:38:07,120
Speaker 2: You know, her kid's watching all of this happen. And

750
00:38:07,360 --> 00:38:11,760
Speaker 2: also her kid is also special needs because the kid

751
00:38:11,920 --> 00:38:13,279
Speaker 2: is also autistic.

752
00:38:13,840 --> 00:38:17,359
Speaker 1: So like, uh, if yeah, you can, you can tell

753
00:38:17,360 --> 00:38:19,319
Speaker 1: her everything. And if she's the type of person who

754
00:38:20,000 --> 00:38:22,799
Speaker 1: doesn't want to help or can't face the truth, can't

755
00:38:22,800 --> 00:38:25,239
Speaker 1: do much like you guys have been saying. So let's

756
00:38:25,239 --> 00:38:28,840
Speaker 1: go ahead and fish up the story. So now today Monday,

757
00:38:29,239 --> 00:38:31,359
Speaker 1: while we're at work, Jennifer went back to the house

758
00:38:31,400 --> 00:38:33,879
Speaker 1: and moved all her stuff out. My mom is telling

759
00:38:33,920 --> 00:38:37,200
Speaker 1: me she also doesn't care because it's like you're low

760
00:38:37,239 --> 00:38:39,680
Speaker 1: ki a burden. We're trying to help you, yet you're

761
00:38:39,680 --> 00:38:42,239
Speaker 1: getting mad at us. And then there was Mother's Day,

762
00:38:42,520 --> 00:38:45,200
Speaker 1: which was yesterday. I guess she got mad at my

763
00:38:45,239 --> 00:38:47,560
Speaker 1: mom because my mom didn't wish her Happy Mother's Day,

764
00:38:47,840 --> 00:38:52,040
Speaker 1: which is a lie. My mother texted her and called her,

765
00:38:52,520 --> 00:38:55,040
Speaker 1: and I politely told her, our mother is not obligated

766
00:38:55,080 --> 00:38:56,360
Speaker 1: to tell your butt nothing.

767
00:38:57,160 --> 00:38:57,560
Speaker 3: Be happy.

768
00:38:57,600 --> 00:38:59,319
Speaker 1: She's even kinder to you than the rest of us.

769
00:39:00,040 --> 00:39:01,680
Speaker 1: We all went out to eat and had a good time,

770
00:39:01,880 --> 00:39:05,200
Speaker 1: and we didn't have that burning of a shadow over us.

771
00:39:05,719 --> 00:39:06,880
Speaker 1: And that is the end of that story.

772
00:39:07,120 --> 00:39:10,640
Speaker 2: Oh yeah, she just sounds like a nightmare. But it's

773
00:39:10,719 --> 00:39:14,400
Speaker 2: also she's not mentally stable, and it's so hard to

774
00:39:14,800 --> 00:39:19,400
Speaker 2: find reason and to find the sanity when someone is

775
00:39:19,640 --> 00:39:23,600
Speaker 2: not mentally stable. And okay, cause they they don't listen

776
00:39:23,600 --> 00:39:25,560
Speaker 2: to reason, they don't know what reason is, and so

777
00:39:25,680 --> 00:39:27,919
Speaker 2: you can just it's literally you're yelling at a wall

778
00:39:28,000 --> 00:39:31,520
Speaker 2: right now, You're yelling at a brick wall. And nothing's

779
00:39:31,560 --> 00:39:33,720
Speaker 2: going to change. They're going to keep doing their things.

780
00:39:33,800 --> 00:39:36,040
Speaker 2: It's just they have to be the ones to want

781
00:39:36,080 --> 00:39:37,920
Speaker 2: to make, you know, the change in their lives.

782
00:39:38,120 --> 00:39:41,320
Speaker 1: They also just can't, like especially with Jennifer, it seems

783
00:39:41,360 --> 00:39:45,080
Speaker 1: like she can never be like, no, you guys are right,

784
00:39:45,600 --> 00:39:49,480
Speaker 1: Like I'm wrong, that's my fault. I'm sorry, Like I wasn't.

785
00:39:49,520 --> 00:39:52,520
Speaker 1: I was like I thought I heard something. It was like, no,

786
00:39:52,600 --> 00:39:54,239
Speaker 1: I heard it, and that I'm gonna take my I'm

787
00:39:54,239 --> 00:39:56,919
Speaker 1: gonna stick with my side, and I'm got to get

788
00:39:56,920 --> 00:39:58,239
Speaker 1: like it's all you guys are out to get me

789
00:39:58,440 --> 00:40:00,799
Speaker 1: vice versa. I'm all out to at you and I'm

790
00:40:00,800 --> 00:40:05,520
Speaker 1: not like we're not the same team. I'm just it's

791
00:40:05,640 --> 00:40:08,440
Speaker 1: sad to hear and sad to see. But I mean,

792
00:40:08,480 --> 00:40:12,319
Speaker 1: you can only lay out the olive branch or you know,

793
00:40:12,360 --> 00:40:14,759
Speaker 1: lay out give out your help as much as you can.

794
00:40:14,960 --> 00:40:17,839
Speaker 1: But if they don't want it, unfortunately, that's how it's

795
00:40:17,840 --> 00:40:18,200
Speaker 1: gonna be.

796
00:40:18,680 --> 00:40:22,680
Speaker 2: It stings because like I I we we all thought

797
00:40:22,960 --> 00:40:27,600
Speaker 2: like at one point like that my older sister was

798
00:40:27,680 --> 00:40:31,799
Speaker 2: maybe like bipolar something in or had something, because like

799
00:40:31,880 --> 00:40:35,520
Speaker 2: she'll get into these like like you piss her off,

800
00:40:35,560 --> 00:40:38,560
Speaker 2: it's like you're done, everyone's done. You cannot cross her

801
00:40:38,800 --> 00:40:41,960
Speaker 2: like and she goes for the throat every time like

802
00:40:42,040 --> 00:40:44,839
Speaker 2: nothing you Like, it's hard because like we are such

803
00:40:44,880 --> 00:40:47,000
Speaker 2: like a joking family. We always joke, but like we

804
00:40:47,040 --> 00:40:49,600
Speaker 2: can't joke with her because she'll take it so far

805
00:40:50,200 --> 00:40:52,319
Speaker 2: and it's like oh my god, and so like we

806
00:40:52,440 --> 00:40:55,239
Speaker 2: just have to be like more careful, like with her,

807
00:40:55,600 --> 00:40:59,120
Speaker 2: but I don't know. I don't know she's I don't

808
00:40:59,120 --> 00:41:00,719
Speaker 2: think she's on anything, truthfully.

809
00:41:00,800 --> 00:41:02,759
Speaker 3: But she's doing well.

810
00:41:02,800 --> 00:41:05,080
Speaker 2: Though it's not like she's like absolutely insane, like this

811
00:41:05,920 --> 00:41:10,000
Speaker 2: woman like she knows right from Wang, she white from Wang.

812
00:41:11,160 --> 00:41:12,920
Speaker 3: She's she's cool.

813
00:41:12,840 --> 00:41:16,880
Speaker 2: She's my sister's great. It's just I always I just

814
00:41:17,239 --> 00:41:19,359
Speaker 2: noticed as she got older, like she kind of has

815
00:41:19,440 --> 00:41:23,120
Speaker 2: that like tendency. But I don't know. She seems like

816
00:41:23,120 --> 00:41:26,800
Speaker 2: she's doing well. Banaday story.

817
00:41:28,040 --> 00:41:30,879
Speaker 3: My son introduced me to his new girlfriend and her

818
00:41:30,920 --> 00:41:32,200
Speaker 3: baby might be mine.

819
00:41:32,719 --> 00:41:34,120
Speaker 2: WHOA, What a.

820
00:41:34,320 --> 00:41:37,880
Speaker 3: Big reveal there is. There was no cheating involved whatsoever.

821
00:41:38,080 --> 00:41:40,719
Speaker 3: I forty five male, would never do that to my

822
00:41:40,840 --> 00:41:43,279
Speaker 3: own son, twenty eight male. He's only been seeing his

823
00:41:43,320 --> 00:41:46,399
Speaker 3: new girlfriend, thirty five female for about four months from

824
00:41:46,400 --> 00:41:49,080
Speaker 3: what he's told me. But she and I dated two

825
00:41:49,400 --> 00:41:51,840
Speaker 3: years ago, but it ended because I was going to

826
00:41:51,840 --> 00:41:54,920
Speaker 3: be traveling for work for months and we just lost contact.

827
00:41:54,960 --> 00:41:57,080
Speaker 3: By the way, this comes from recently gave away and

828
00:41:57,080 --> 00:41:58,400
Speaker 3: if you want to smit your own stories, go to

829
00:41:58,440 --> 00:42:01,680
Speaker 3: the r slash Okay story time. I'm Sophia, I'm Savannah,

830
00:42:01,719 --> 00:42:03,560
Speaker 3: I'm ke On, and we're here to give good of

831
00:42:03,600 --> 00:42:05,320
Speaker 3: Ice scoofy, But we don't have all the answers. We

832
00:42:05,400 --> 00:42:07,000
Speaker 3: alena what we'd do, So let us know what you

833
00:42:07,040 --> 00:42:09,319
Speaker 3: would do. In the comments, and Opie says she has

834
00:42:09,360 --> 00:42:10,960
Speaker 3: a one and a half year old son. That is

835
00:42:11,239 --> 00:42:14,080
Speaker 3: very likely my child. My son told me the father

836
00:42:14,239 --> 00:42:17,600
Speaker 3: isn't involved, but hasn't given him any other details other

837
00:42:17,680 --> 00:42:19,919
Speaker 3: than it's just her raising the kid.

838
00:42:20,160 --> 00:42:23,120
Speaker 1: Hold on, how has this never come up for her?

839
00:42:23,560 --> 00:42:24,040
Speaker 1: For him?

840
00:42:24,160 --> 00:42:24,359
Speaker 2: Yeah?

841
00:42:24,520 --> 00:42:24,799
Speaker 1: For you?

842
00:42:25,400 --> 00:42:25,960
Speaker 3: Yeah?

843
00:42:26,040 --> 00:42:26,239
Speaker 2: Yeah?

844
00:42:26,320 --> 00:42:29,600
Speaker 3: Did you guys like when Ope dated this girl?

845
00:42:30,200 --> 00:42:32,960
Speaker 2: Did you guys not like meet the family or anything?

846
00:42:33,040 --> 00:42:35,520
Speaker 3: Or was it never talked about? No, it showed apparently not.

847
00:42:35,800 --> 00:42:37,040
Speaker 1: How small is your town?

848
00:42:37,920 --> 00:42:38,520
Speaker 3: I don't know.

849
00:42:38,840 --> 00:42:39,000
Speaker 1: Oh.

850
00:42:39,880 --> 00:42:42,799
Speaker 3: I was the one to connect the dots as soon

851
00:42:42,840 --> 00:42:45,359
Speaker 3: as I realized it was her. You can't imagine how

852
00:42:45,400 --> 00:42:48,160
Speaker 3: unbelievably awkward the first time meeting was. Thankfully it was

853
00:42:48,200 --> 00:42:51,160
Speaker 3: around other family members, but she was just as freaked

854
00:42:51,160 --> 00:42:54,080
Speaker 3: out as I was. This can't be a secret, though.

855
00:42:54,280 --> 00:42:57,040
Speaker 3: If this is my child, I need to know, And

856
00:42:57,080 --> 00:42:58,799
Speaker 3: as much as it pains me to put my son

857
00:42:58,960 --> 00:43:02,440
Speaker 3: in this messed up position, he needs to know too.

858
00:43:02,760 --> 00:43:05,120
Speaker 3: He's coming over later on so we could talk. I'm

859
00:43:05,120 --> 00:43:08,040
Speaker 3: beyond nervous. I really don't even know where to start

860
00:43:08,080 --> 00:43:11,160
Speaker 3: explaining something like this, Jim Opie in the comments, my

861
00:43:11,239 --> 00:43:13,040
Speaker 3: son told me they met through a dating app and

862
00:43:13,080 --> 00:43:14,759
Speaker 3: talked for a couple of weeks before they met up

863
00:43:14,800 --> 00:43:17,120
Speaker 3: in person. I know some people here are speculating that

864
00:43:17,200 --> 00:43:19,879
Speaker 3: she knew he was my son, but that's not it.

865
00:43:20,080 --> 00:43:22,640
Speaker 3: None of us knew about this whole connection until now.

866
00:43:22,760 --> 00:43:25,600
Speaker 3: We don't live in a small community. She's never noticed

867
00:43:25,640 --> 00:43:28,200
Speaker 3: we were related because we have the most common last name,

868
00:43:28,280 --> 00:43:29,320
Speaker 3: as common as smith.

869
00:43:29,520 --> 00:43:32,879
Speaker 1: I'm again backtracking a little bit here. Did Opie say

870
00:43:32,920 --> 00:43:34,200
Speaker 1: they dated for two years?

871
00:43:34,360 --> 00:43:34,440
Speaker 2: No?

872
00:43:34,600 --> 00:43:35,359
Speaker 3: Two years ago?

873
00:43:36,160 --> 00:43:36,319
Speaker 1: Oh?

874
00:43:37,200 --> 00:43:39,800
Speaker 3: Okay, so sign and girlfriend have been dating for four months.

875
00:43:39,960 --> 00:43:43,520
Speaker 3: Ope and girlfriend dated two years ago.

876
00:43:43,160 --> 00:43:45,480
Speaker 1: But we don't know how long. Okay, okay, okay.

877
00:43:45,600 --> 00:43:48,200
Speaker 3: They weren't serious yet, and she had a rule about

878
00:43:48,239 --> 00:43:51,640
Speaker 3: introducing any potential boyfriends until they've been together at least

879
00:43:51,680 --> 00:43:55,200
Speaker 3: a year. Oh pair to the kid, Oh oh oh

880
00:43:55,200 --> 00:43:57,719
Speaker 3: oh yeah, okay. I don't know anyone who has kids

881
00:43:57,760 --> 00:44:00,920
Speaker 3: introducing their partners after only casually dating four months. My

882
00:44:01,000 --> 00:44:03,120
Speaker 3: ex and I have the same rule about partners when

883
00:44:03,120 --> 00:44:05,960
Speaker 3: we broke up and common one. Hopefully he takes the

884
00:44:06,000 --> 00:44:08,680
Speaker 3: news as you intended it, Opie says, I don't expect

885
00:44:08,760 --> 00:44:11,680
Speaker 3: him to react rationally. It's such a messed up curveball

886
00:44:11,719 --> 00:44:14,000
Speaker 3: to throw right at him. But I hope eventually he's

887
00:44:14,000 --> 00:44:17,120
Speaker 3: able to understand this happened before they got together and

888
00:44:17,200 --> 00:44:19,600
Speaker 3: could process the news in a healthy manner. I mean, truly,

889
00:44:19,840 --> 00:44:22,080
Speaker 3: it's no one's faults, no cheating went on.

890
00:44:22,400 --> 00:44:25,359
Speaker 1: It's just a really, really, really small world. Yeah.

891
00:44:25,440 --> 00:44:27,000
Speaker 3: The thing I want to know is like, is this

892
00:44:27,080 --> 00:44:30,959
Speaker 3: your kid, because now you have two kids.

893
00:44:31,280 --> 00:44:35,440
Speaker 1: And if that is the case, I think don't want

894
00:44:35,480 --> 00:44:36,840
Speaker 1: to be the bearer of bad news.

895
00:44:37,040 --> 00:44:42,600
Speaker 3: But your son might be dating his half no brother's mom.

896
00:44:43,200 --> 00:44:45,680
Speaker 3: He's usually very level headed, but this is a huge

897
00:44:45,680 --> 00:44:49,279
Speaker 3: surprise none of us were prepared for. I'd understand if

898
00:44:49,320 --> 00:44:52,880
Speaker 3: his initial reaction isn't exactly the most positive good dad though,

899
00:44:53,000 --> 00:44:56,600
Speaker 3: I mean, weird situation, but like overall, very understanding father.

900
00:44:56,719 --> 00:44:58,920
Speaker 3: Common two. I would maybe try and confirm with a

901
00:44:59,000 --> 00:45:01,959
Speaker 3: girl alone for then take it from there. Opie says.

902
00:45:02,000 --> 00:45:04,480
Speaker 3: We've talked briefly about this after I made the connection.

903
00:45:05,160 --> 00:45:08,200
Speaker 3: She says he's mine, but according to her, she was

904
00:45:08,239 --> 00:45:10,040
Speaker 3: worried I might not want to be involved since I

905
00:45:10,120 --> 00:45:12,120
Speaker 3: was gone for work for who knows how long, so

906
00:45:12,200 --> 00:45:14,479
Speaker 3: we have confirmation this is Opie's son.

907
00:45:14,760 --> 00:45:17,479
Speaker 1: So she said, I was worried about you going for work,

908
00:45:17,520 --> 00:45:20,320
Speaker 1: so I didn't the next best thing. I got your son.

909
00:45:20,680 --> 00:45:23,360
Speaker 1: I have your son, but I also got your son.

910
00:45:23,680 --> 00:45:26,640
Speaker 3: I thought you would be away for like a couple months,

911
00:45:26,680 --> 00:45:28,400
Speaker 3: so I didn't tell you for two years.

912
00:45:28,680 --> 00:45:31,600
Speaker 1: Oh boy, this is messy.

913
00:45:32,520 --> 00:45:34,960
Speaker 3: I don't know. I would want to know, yes, immediately,

914
00:45:35,440 --> 00:45:37,960
Speaker 3: that's not an excuse to keep this information from me.

915
00:45:38,080 --> 00:45:40,520
Speaker 3: But it's done now. I'd still like to get a

916
00:45:40,520 --> 00:45:43,960
Speaker 3: paternity test done just to be absolutely sure the math

917
00:45:44,000 --> 00:45:46,080
Speaker 3: ads up. But she could have also been seeing other people,

918
00:45:46,160 --> 00:45:48,480
Speaker 3: who knows. But that's why I want the test. So

919
00:45:48,600 --> 00:45:51,480
Speaker 3: there's zero doubt. You are taking this really well and

920
00:45:51,520 --> 00:45:54,320
Speaker 3: you're doing all the right steps. So props to EPI.

921
00:45:54,800 --> 00:45:57,160
Speaker 3: Coming three says this is a terrible situation to be

922
00:45:57,239 --> 00:45:59,799
Speaker 3: in and could have been prevented had she simply been

923
00:45:59,800 --> 00:46:02,920
Speaker 3: off honest and told you about the pregnancy. Oh Pie says,

924
00:46:03,080 --> 00:46:05,719
Speaker 3: I wish she told me from the very beginning. All

925
00:46:05,760 --> 00:46:07,800
Speaker 3: of this could have been avoided. And if her son

926
00:46:07,960 --> 00:46:10,719
Speaker 3: is in fact mine, then I could have been there

927
00:46:10,760 --> 00:46:12,879
Speaker 3: for him. His first year of life. Yes, the fact

928
00:46:12,880 --> 00:46:14,920
Speaker 3: that I was on the road definitely would have made

929
00:46:14,960 --> 00:46:18,239
Speaker 3: things very complicated, but I know I'd have figured out

930
00:46:18,280 --> 00:46:20,600
Speaker 3: some way to be there, even if it meant coming

931
00:46:20,640 --> 00:46:23,800
Speaker 3: back completely. Oh p again in the comments, all the

932
00:46:23,840 --> 00:46:25,719
Speaker 3: people that were telling me to wait and find out

933
00:46:25,719 --> 00:46:29,120
Speaker 3: if the boy's mind fail to understand. It isn't only

934
00:46:29,160 --> 00:46:31,400
Speaker 3: about that. It's also about the fact that she and

935
00:46:31,440 --> 00:46:33,560
Speaker 3: I dated for a while. Yet you have to tell

936
00:46:33,640 --> 00:46:35,840
Speaker 3: your son as a pete.

937
00:46:36,080 --> 00:46:36,839
Speaker 2: Yeah, it's not cool.

938
00:46:36,960 --> 00:46:38,160
Speaker 1: Which is not just about the baby?

939
00:46:38,160 --> 00:46:38,560
Speaker 2: Which one?

940
00:46:38,560 --> 00:46:39,120
Speaker 1: Which one?

941
00:46:39,600 --> 00:46:42,200
Speaker 3: Both of them? The one is two, all of him,

942
00:46:42,400 --> 00:46:44,399
Speaker 3: All of your sons, find them all.

943
00:46:44,560 --> 00:46:45,759
Speaker 2: Every son needs to know.

944
00:46:46,120 --> 00:46:48,640
Speaker 3: Rather than have it come out in the future after

945
00:46:48,719 --> 00:46:51,799
Speaker 3: he's invested years into the relationship and have him feel

946
00:46:51,880 --> 00:46:54,480
Speaker 3: lied to, I'd rather he go on knowing all the

947
00:46:54,560 --> 00:46:57,439
Speaker 3: facts so he can make his own choices. Yeah, they've

948
00:46:57,440 --> 00:47:00,200
Speaker 3: only been going out for four months. Let's nip this

949
00:47:00,280 --> 00:47:03,759
Speaker 3: in the bud and just let everyone know all the

950
00:47:03,760 --> 00:47:06,640
Speaker 3: facts they You gotta let it air out.

951
00:47:06,680 --> 00:47:06,919
Speaker 1: Now.

952
00:47:07,040 --> 00:47:10,000
Speaker 3: You gotta edit to update on this since many of

953
00:47:10,040 --> 00:47:12,720
Speaker 3: you have asked, Yes, my son knows everything now? Nice?

954
00:47:13,160 --> 00:47:15,880
Speaker 3: Oh good, everything's proceeding super smoothly.

955
00:47:16,120 --> 00:47:19,640
Speaker 1: How did he react? How did everyone react? I should

956
00:47:19,640 --> 00:47:22,400
Speaker 1: want to know? He went, oh Dad, oh.

957
00:47:22,480 --> 00:47:26,800
Speaker 3: Dad, you're always doing stuff like this. Oh Dad, good one.

958
00:47:27,719 --> 00:47:32,800
Speaker 3: You said, you're joking right, You're joking right. The conversation

959
00:47:33,000 --> 00:47:36,040
Speaker 3: was not easy at all. My son was very confused

960
00:47:36,080 --> 00:47:40,160
Speaker 3: and upset, as would anyone be. Honestly, I expected him

961
00:47:40,160 --> 00:47:42,239
Speaker 3: to yell at me, but the shock was too much

962
00:47:42,280 --> 00:47:45,000
Speaker 3: for him to get a strong reaction. He was still

963
00:47:45,160 --> 00:47:49,040
Speaker 3: very serious. I made sure he knew I'd understand if

964
00:47:49,080 --> 00:47:51,720
Speaker 3: this is too much for him. So whatever he needs

965
00:47:51,719 --> 00:47:54,120
Speaker 3: from me, I will try to do. As of right now,

966
00:47:54,160 --> 00:47:56,640
Speaker 3: he just needs some space. After our talk last night,

967
00:47:56,719 --> 00:47:59,239
Speaker 3: he messaged me about going over to her place so

968
00:47:59,280 --> 00:48:01,279
Speaker 3: we could hear this from her too. As far as

969
00:48:01,280 --> 00:48:03,680
Speaker 3: I know, they have had their own talk, but I'm

970
00:48:03,680 --> 00:48:05,919
Speaker 3: not sure about where they stand now. He didn't talk

971
00:48:05,960 --> 00:48:07,880
Speaker 3: to me all day until he sent me a message

972
00:48:07,920 --> 00:48:11,120
Speaker 3: earlier telling me he loves me, but he's gonna need

973
00:48:11,160 --> 00:48:14,080
Speaker 3: some time to himself, which I completely understand. It's not

974
00:48:14,120 --> 00:48:17,560
Speaker 3: gonna be something he'll easily get over. As far as paternity, well,

975
00:48:17,640 --> 00:48:20,680
Speaker 3: we still don't know anything about that. I have communicated

976
00:48:20,680 --> 00:48:22,640
Speaker 3: with her about finding a place where we can get

977
00:48:22,640 --> 00:48:25,279
Speaker 3: this test done and out of the way, so we'll

978
00:48:25,320 --> 00:48:28,719
Speaker 3: be doing that this week. It can't wait any longer

979
00:48:29,120 --> 00:48:32,359
Speaker 3: otherwise it's just gonna drive me crazy. And we've got

980
00:48:32,360 --> 00:48:35,839
Speaker 3: an update. Oh well, to be the one as well

981
00:48:35,880 --> 00:48:36,520
Speaker 3: as it could have gone.

982
00:48:36,719 --> 00:48:38,200
Speaker 1: Literally, you took the words right out of my mouth.

983
00:48:38,239 --> 00:48:40,919
Speaker 1: I think is the best case scenario. I think there's

984
00:48:40,960 --> 00:48:43,440
Speaker 1: no real bad guys here. No one really lied. This

985
00:48:43,520 --> 00:48:45,840
Speaker 1: is just like one of those. It's a small world.

986
00:48:46,040 --> 00:48:50,000
Speaker 3: It just so happened to end up like this. It

987
00:48:50,040 --> 00:48:52,640
Speaker 3: is how it is. It is what it is, how

988
00:48:52,680 --> 00:48:53,879
Speaker 3: it is where it is.

989
00:48:53,960 --> 00:48:55,680
Speaker 1: It's a small world, after all.

990
00:48:55,800 --> 00:48:58,680
Speaker 3: It really is a little too small. So yes, if

991
00:48:58,719 --> 00:49:01,879
Speaker 3: you saw the update, I accluted my son does now

992
00:49:02,000 --> 00:49:04,680
Speaker 3: know everything. He needed a little time to himself, and

993
00:49:04,719 --> 00:49:07,040
Speaker 3: they did decide in the end to mutually break up.

994
00:49:07,160 --> 00:49:09,919
Speaker 3: They both knew it wasn't worth complicating things more down

995
00:49:09,960 --> 00:49:12,239
Speaker 3: the line when they haven't been together that long. My

996
00:49:12,360 --> 00:49:14,319
Speaker 3: son did admit to me he was a little sad

997
00:49:14,320 --> 00:49:17,000
Speaker 3: about the relationship, but he's glad I told them before

998
00:49:17,040 --> 00:49:19,200
Speaker 3: his feelings for her grew to love. We didn't talk

999
00:49:19,320 --> 00:49:21,400
Speaker 3: much for almost a week because he was having a

1000
00:49:21,400 --> 00:49:25,480
Speaker 3: boy's trip with his close friends. Guys, guys, you will

1001
00:49:25,520 --> 00:49:29,200
Speaker 3: not believe what happened to me. This is total boy

1002
00:49:29,360 --> 00:49:29,959
Speaker 3: trip talk.

1003
00:49:30,080 --> 00:49:33,480
Speaker 1: Yeah, guys, I have good news and bad news. Good news,

1004
00:49:34,160 --> 00:49:36,839
Speaker 1: I have a brother. Bad news.

1005
00:49:38,800 --> 00:49:42,080
Speaker 3: It was my girlfriend. It was my girlfriend and my

1006
00:49:42,200 --> 00:49:47,680
Speaker 3: dad have son on and those are correlated and connected.

1007
00:49:48,040 --> 00:49:48,680
Speaker 3: That's horrible.

1008
00:49:48,800 --> 00:49:49,759
Speaker 1: It's way a fun game.

1009
00:49:51,280 --> 00:49:53,880
Speaker 3: The good thing is we're talking again normally, which I

1010
00:49:53,920 --> 00:49:56,799
Speaker 3: am so grateful for. Seriously, it worried me how much

1011
00:49:56,880 --> 00:49:59,560
Speaker 3: this would affect my relationship with him. I'm happy he's

1012
00:49:59,560 --> 00:50:01,080
Speaker 3: been so open about his feelings.

1013
00:50:01,080 --> 00:50:01,560
Speaker 2: He tells me.

1014
00:50:01,640 --> 00:50:05,040
Speaker 3: It's still crazy how all this happened. He's accepted it, though,

1015
00:50:05,120 --> 00:50:07,759
Speaker 3: and might try dating again in another few weeks. It's

1016
00:50:07,760 --> 00:50:09,759
Speaker 3: not all perfect, but at least we're talking like we

1017
00:50:09,840 --> 00:50:12,320
Speaker 3: always do, though, and more than anything, I'm so happy

1018
00:50:12,360 --> 00:50:14,560
Speaker 3: he didn't hold what happened against me, since none of

1019
00:50:14,600 --> 00:50:16,560
Speaker 3: us knew about this until we had dinner. Now for

1020
00:50:16,600 --> 00:50:18,840
Speaker 3: the part I know lots of you wanted to hear about.

1021
00:50:19,480 --> 00:50:23,520
Speaker 3: We did the paternity test and the results good firm

1022
00:50:23,600 --> 00:50:27,160
Speaker 3: to her son is also mine. Oh you got two sons? Now,

1023
00:50:27,360 --> 00:50:30,040
Speaker 3: you got one baby son and one really old a

1024
00:50:30,120 --> 00:50:33,280
Speaker 3: son oh, on part of me just had a feeling

1025
00:50:33,320 --> 00:50:35,879
Speaker 3: he was anyway, but it didn't hurt to know for sure.

1026
00:50:35,960 --> 00:50:38,440
Speaker 3: We've been communicating more and I've taken the time to

1027
00:50:38,480 --> 00:50:40,799
Speaker 3: come over to see him almost every day. He's not

1028
00:50:40,920 --> 00:50:44,080
Speaker 3: wary of strangers. In fact, he's been pretty friendly, so

1029
00:50:44,120 --> 00:50:45,960
Speaker 3: that's really help with trying to bond with him.

1030
00:50:46,040 --> 00:50:47,120
Speaker 1: He got that from his brother.

1031
00:50:47,440 --> 00:50:51,480
Speaker 2: Ah.

1032
00:50:51,600 --> 00:50:54,319
Speaker 3: Not my first rodeo as a dad, obviously, but I

1033
00:50:54,360 --> 00:50:57,080
Speaker 3: still feel like I'm learning everything all over again after

1034
00:50:57,200 --> 00:51:00,319
Speaker 3: so long, and especially after missing so much time with

1035
00:51:00,360 --> 00:51:02,319
Speaker 3: him already. I've been able to hold him and play

1036
00:51:02,320 --> 00:51:04,440
Speaker 3: with him with his toys, which is a blast. The

1037
00:51:04,480 --> 00:51:06,279
Speaker 3: fact that I have another son that I'll get to

1038
00:51:06,320 --> 00:51:09,880
Speaker 3: experience many new milestones with always makes me smile. For

1039
00:51:09,920 --> 00:51:13,040
Speaker 3: anyone wondering about the ages, I think the girlfriend was

1040
00:51:13,080 --> 00:51:14,200
Speaker 3: in the middle of them.

1041
00:51:14,320 --> 00:51:16,440
Speaker 1: Yeah, I gotta agree you. Yeah, I can repeat it.

1042
00:51:16,560 --> 00:51:19,719
Speaker 1: Oh he is forty five, his son is twenty eight,

1043
00:51:20,080 --> 00:51:24,399
Speaker 1: and the girlfriend slash everything in between is thirty five.

1044
00:51:24,640 --> 00:51:27,840
Speaker 3: Yeah, so it was like, Wow, I'm not a crazy

1045
00:51:27,840 --> 00:51:31,960
Speaker 3: age gp for either of them. Ah, but we got

1046
00:51:31,960 --> 00:51:34,479
Speaker 3: a little bit left. I'm glad this all worked out

1047
00:51:34,840 --> 00:51:37,759
Speaker 3: as it should have. My son knows about his half

1048
00:51:37,760 --> 00:51:39,839
Speaker 3: brother now. He told me he'd like to meet him

1049
00:51:39,840 --> 00:51:41,759
Speaker 3: at some point in the future when it doesn't feel

1050
00:51:41,840 --> 00:51:43,960
Speaker 3: is weird. As I said, he's never met him before

1051
00:51:44,000 --> 00:51:46,640
Speaker 3: because they hadn't been dating long enough to introduce him.

1052
00:51:46,719 --> 00:51:48,520
Speaker 3: My son thinks it's kind of nice knowing he as

1053
00:51:48,560 --> 00:51:51,040
Speaker 3: a brother now again, though, he told me he's going

1054
00:51:51,040 --> 00:51:53,840
Speaker 3: to need more time to adjust before he's comfortable with

1055
00:51:53,960 --> 00:51:57,439
Speaker 3: officially meeting him, and I understand that completely. So yeah,

1056
00:51:57,480 --> 00:52:00,239
Speaker 3: it's been quite a ride so far, you can and

1057
00:52:00,280 --> 00:52:02,120
Speaker 3: how busy it's been with a new kiddo to bond

1058
00:52:02,160 --> 00:52:04,480
Speaker 3: with and raise. We're currently working with a lawyer to

1059
00:52:04,520 --> 00:52:07,000
Speaker 3: get all the legal things set right away. I want

1060
00:52:07,000 --> 00:52:08,960
Speaker 3: to make sure I have my rights as a father

1061
00:52:09,440 --> 00:52:11,520
Speaker 3: and get my time with my son if she ever

1062
00:52:11,640 --> 00:52:14,960
Speaker 3: changes her mind about being compliant and decides to shut

1063
00:52:14,960 --> 00:52:16,680
Speaker 3: me out of his life again. That's all I have

1064
00:52:16,920 --> 00:52:19,000
Speaker 3: as of right now in terms of an update. So

1065
00:52:19,120 --> 00:52:21,560
Speaker 3: I hope this answered some of your questions. And that's

1066
00:52:21,600 --> 00:52:22,640
Speaker 3: the end of the story.

1067
00:52:23,560 --> 00:52:27,280
Speaker 2: Hey, it's Angie, your favorite Riley's girlfriend. No is here.

1068
00:52:27,360 --> 00:52:29,200
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1070
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Speaker 3: I found a video on my fiance's phone and it

1071
00:52:34,719 --> 00:52:35,799
Speaker 3: ended our engagement.

1072
00:52:36,040 --> 00:52:37,360
Speaker 1: What was the video?

1073
00:52:37,560 --> 00:52:40,040
Speaker 3: I thirty five male have been together with my fiance

1074
00:52:40,280 --> 00:52:42,719
Speaker 3: twenty nine female. Let's call her Anna for a bit

1075
00:52:42,800 --> 00:52:46,000
Speaker 3: over four years and last Christmas I popped the question

1076
00:52:46,239 --> 00:52:49,280
Speaker 3: and she happily accepted. Life with her has been a bliss,

1077
00:52:49,480 --> 00:52:52,360
Speaker 3: especially after we got engaged. By the way, this comes

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Speaker 3: from two to nine U three H two eight are

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Speaker 3: severed It. I'm Sophia, I'm key On, and we're here

1082
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Speaker 3: to give good advice. Goofy. But we don't have all

1083
00:53:03,840 --> 00:53:05,880
Speaker 3: the answers. We only know what we'd do, So let

1084
00:53:06,000 --> 00:53:07,560
Speaker 3: us know what you would do in the comments, and

1085
00:53:07,680 --> 00:53:09,680
Speaker 3: Opie says, I've had a lot of cheating in my

1086
00:53:09,719 --> 00:53:13,719
Speaker 3: past relationships. I'm in therapy because of that and it's

1087
00:53:13,719 --> 00:53:17,400
Speaker 3: gotten better. Nevertheless, Anna, meeting up with guy friends is

1088
00:53:17,520 --> 00:53:20,640
Speaker 3: an issue with me. Anna knows this. Anna has known

1089
00:53:20,680 --> 00:53:23,440
Speaker 3: this from the beginning of our relationship, and she's been

1090
00:53:23,480 --> 00:53:26,799
Speaker 3: accommodating it. She has no problem making sure she only

1091
00:53:26,880 --> 00:53:29,799
Speaker 3: meets male friends. When one of her female friends is

1092
00:53:29,840 --> 00:53:32,120
Speaker 3: around or in a public setting so that I don't

1093
00:53:32,160 --> 00:53:34,239
Speaker 3: need to worry. I also promise to work on my

1094
00:53:34,280 --> 00:53:36,960
Speaker 3: issues in therapy because she never did anything to not

1095
00:53:37,080 --> 00:53:39,440
Speaker 3: deserve my trust, and she said she was happy to

1096
00:53:39,480 --> 00:53:42,319
Speaker 3: support me. It has gotten a lot better since Anna

1097
00:53:42,440 --> 00:53:44,640
Speaker 3: is straight. I of course never had any issues with

1098
00:53:44,719 --> 00:53:48,280
Speaker 3: her meeting female friends, which leads to her friend Natalie

1099
00:53:48,520 --> 00:53:52,520
Speaker 3: twenty eight, non binary. Natalie identifies as a non binary woman.

1100
00:53:53,000 --> 00:53:56,560
Speaker 3: Anne is a male to female gender adverse person, which

1101
00:53:56,600 --> 00:53:59,160
Speaker 3: I did not know until yesterday. From what I understand,

1102
00:53:59,239 --> 00:54:01,840
Speaker 3: they have not yet started any kind of transition. It

1103
00:54:01,920 --> 00:54:04,520
Speaker 3: got a long story short. Yesterday Anna was out with

1104
00:54:04,600 --> 00:54:07,279
Speaker 3: Natalie for some girls time together, as usual, and when

1105
00:54:07,280 --> 00:54:10,440
Speaker 3: she got home at night, she was pretty much wisted.

1106
00:54:10,680 --> 00:54:13,720
Speaker 3: I helped her undress and get into bed, and only

1107
00:54:13,760 --> 00:54:16,840
Speaker 3: after that I saw a notification pop up on her phone.

1108
00:54:17,480 --> 00:54:21,560
Speaker 3: It was from Natalie titled our video. And locked her

1109
00:54:21,560 --> 00:54:25,160
Speaker 3: phone and saw an explicit video of Natalie and Anna together,

1110
00:54:25,800 --> 00:54:28,960
Speaker 3: and the way they talked, especially about me, was equally

1111
00:54:29,000 --> 00:54:32,120
Speaker 3: as devastating as the mere fact that Anna was cheating

1112
00:54:32,160 --> 00:54:32,440
Speaker 3: on me.

1113
00:54:32,640 --> 00:54:35,200
Speaker 1: Oh that's not cute at all, Nang.

1114
00:54:35,360 --> 00:54:38,840
Speaker 3: Something inside me broke at that instant, Anna is still sleeping,

1115
00:54:38,880 --> 00:54:41,160
Speaker 3: so I haven't talked to her yet, thinking about just

1116
00:54:41,239 --> 00:54:44,400
Speaker 3: grabbing some stuff and leaving. We had our first talk.

1117
00:54:44,719 --> 00:54:47,439
Speaker 3: I woke up gently, and when she realized I was there,

1118
00:54:47,520 --> 00:54:50,200
Speaker 3: I asked her to open Natalie's message and explain it

1119
00:54:50,200 --> 00:54:53,160
Speaker 3: to me. She grabbed her phone and when she realized

1120
00:54:53,160 --> 00:54:55,480
Speaker 3: what the video was, she started with it's not what

1121
00:54:55,560 --> 00:54:58,560
Speaker 3: it seems. I can explain it. I felt a sudden

1122
00:54:58,640 --> 00:55:01,120
Speaker 3: surge of anger, so I ra my voice and left

1123
00:55:01,120 --> 00:55:03,200
Speaker 3: the room. She came after me and stammered that she

1124
00:55:03,320 --> 00:55:06,080
Speaker 3: was sorry that I wasn't supposed to find out. I

1125
00:55:06,120 --> 00:55:08,279
Speaker 3: also told her how hurtful the things she said in

1126
00:55:08,320 --> 00:55:11,120
Speaker 3: that video were, and she said she was wasted and

1127
00:55:11,120 --> 00:55:13,759
Speaker 3: that Natalie likes to do some power dynamic stuff. So

1128
00:55:13,840 --> 00:55:16,720
Speaker 3: that means like you do multiple times? Yay, ult times.

1129
00:55:16,760 --> 00:55:19,359
Speaker 1: Yeah, that makes it so much better. Wow, this is

1130
00:55:19,480 --> 00:55:22,919
Speaker 1: your really, you know what? Keep digging rising up? You're

1131
00:55:22,920 --> 00:55:24,440
Speaker 1: not You're digging up, not down?

1132
00:55:24,560 --> 00:55:26,800
Speaker 3: Are we in China? Because you've been digging for a while.

1133
00:55:26,880 --> 00:55:27,160
Speaker 1: Wow.

1134
00:55:27,280 --> 00:55:30,160
Speaker 3: Then she bit her tongue, realizing what she had just admitted.

1135
00:55:30,640 --> 00:55:32,360
Speaker 3: So it looks like this has been going on for

1136
00:55:32,440 --> 00:55:36,160
Speaker 3: some time. When I asked her why, she just shrugged.

1137
00:55:36,560 --> 00:55:38,799
Speaker 3: Oh no. I told her to pack her things. She

1138
00:55:38,880 --> 00:55:41,120
Speaker 3: packed a double bag and left to go to a

1139
00:55:41,160 --> 00:55:42,399
Speaker 3: friend's place.

1140
00:55:42,120 --> 00:55:45,320
Speaker 1: Which friend, I wonder maybe starts going and I think.

1141
00:55:45,120 --> 00:55:47,400
Speaker 3: So I'm a mess. I'll try to meet up with

1142
00:55:47,440 --> 00:55:50,120
Speaker 3: a friend today to stop spiraling. And we've got an update.

1143
00:55:50,160 --> 00:55:54,719
Speaker 3: Three days later. Oh boy, oh boy, ay ya yai oh, Op,

1144
00:55:54,880 --> 00:55:57,560
Speaker 3: I want to get you a Yeah, I'm sorry, Op.

1145
00:55:57,760 --> 00:55:58,400
Speaker 3: That's tough.

1146
00:55:58,520 --> 00:56:02,120
Speaker 1: Op. You've had your trust time and time again shattered

1147
00:56:02,160 --> 00:56:04,560
Speaker 1: and I'm so sorry. This is not your fault.

1148
00:56:05,520 --> 00:56:09,360
Speaker 3: Yeah, I'm sorry. Stay in therapy, though, this is really tough.

1149
00:56:09,560 --> 00:56:11,960
Speaker 3: Three days later. Okay, So I met up with my

1150
00:56:12,080 --> 00:56:16,080
Speaker 3: now ex fiance Anna yesterday. We chose a cafe we

1151
00:56:16,200 --> 00:56:20,080
Speaker 3: both know, so a familiar environment but still public. Overall,

1152
00:56:20,200 --> 00:56:22,960
Speaker 3: I held up better than I would have expected. I

1153
00:56:23,000 --> 00:56:25,880
Speaker 3: neither yelled nor did I cry. We sat down and

1154
00:56:26,040 --> 00:56:28,680
Speaker 3: ordered some coffee, then looked at each other for a while,

1155
00:56:29,000 --> 00:56:31,600
Speaker 3: and finally I asked her if she had anything to say.

1156
00:56:31,800 --> 00:56:33,160
Speaker 3: She asked, well, what do you want to know? And

1157
00:56:33,239 --> 00:56:36,320
Speaker 3: I said everything? Do we really want to know everything?

1158
00:56:36,400 --> 00:56:38,120
Speaker 1: Though I don't think you need to know everything. I

1159
00:56:38,160 --> 00:56:40,120
Speaker 1: think you know you know more than enough.

1160
00:56:40,280 --> 00:56:42,520
Speaker 3: I think you already know everything. I don't think we

1161
00:56:42,560 --> 00:56:43,200
Speaker 3: need to know more.

1162
00:56:43,360 --> 00:56:44,600
Speaker 1: Yeah, here's what I got.

1163
00:56:44,719 --> 00:56:47,920
Speaker 3: This has been going on with Natalie since before our engagement,

1164
00:56:48,040 --> 00:56:52,000
Speaker 3: for about ten months. Why did you accept.

1165
00:56:51,920 --> 00:56:54,839
Speaker 1: The engagement because she liked it?

1166
00:56:55,160 --> 00:56:57,840
Speaker 3: Yeah, she told me that while I'm absolutely fine for

1167
00:56:57,920 --> 00:57:00,840
Speaker 3: her spicy needs, she's always had a thing for a

1168
00:57:00,880 --> 00:57:05,799
Speaker 3: well endowed things. It purposely just happened when they were

1169
00:57:05,800 --> 00:57:08,879
Speaker 3: both wasted and walking home through a park. Natalie turned

1170
00:57:08,960 --> 00:57:11,960
Speaker 3: the bushes to pee and Anna could see it and

1171
00:57:12,200 --> 00:57:16,400
Speaker 3: liked what she saw. And when Natalie noticed it's post detailikes,

1172
00:57:16,520 --> 00:57:18,480
Speaker 3: things escalated from there.

1173
00:57:18,920 --> 00:57:22,520
Speaker 1: I don't know this, I know what Anna's doing. Yeah,

1174
00:57:22,560 --> 00:57:25,120
Speaker 1: She's just like, all right, since we're not even together anymore,

1175
00:57:25,320 --> 00:57:26,920
Speaker 1: I'm just gonna make it really sting.

1176
00:57:27,240 --> 00:57:30,080
Speaker 3: Yeah, She's like, what can I say that will make

1177
00:57:30,160 --> 00:57:33,920
Speaker 3: you just hurt the most? She's not in love with Natalie,

1178
00:57:34,200 --> 00:57:36,840
Speaker 3: so her reasoning was that it wasn't really cheating.

1179
00:57:37,520 --> 00:57:42,320
Speaker 1: Oh wow, oh wow, I hope you bought two coffees wonder.

1180
00:57:43,960 --> 00:57:47,520
Speaker 3: Yeah, since there was no emotional component. Sure. She regularly

1181
00:57:47,560 --> 00:57:50,040
Speaker 3: deleted all chats with Natalie to not leave a trace.

1182
00:57:50,200 --> 00:57:52,920
Speaker 3: He knows this is exactly my trauma, but figured if

1183
00:57:52,960 --> 00:57:55,320
Speaker 3: I never found out, it wouldn't hurt me. She regrets

1184
00:57:55,360 --> 00:57:57,040
Speaker 3: that I got to hear the things she said on

1185
00:57:57,080 --> 00:57:59,400
Speaker 3: the video, but claims she didn't mean any of it

1186
00:57:59,440 --> 00:58:02,600
Speaker 3: and that it's stuff Natalie likes to hear. I don't

1187
00:58:02,720 --> 00:58:06,200
Speaker 3: give a flying hoot what Natalie likes to hear. Stop

1188
00:58:06,280 --> 00:58:09,800
Speaker 3: telling me. Natalie is apparently a lot more dominant than

1189
00:58:09,840 --> 00:58:10,960
Speaker 3: I am. Stop it.

1190
00:58:11,360 --> 00:58:14,880
Speaker 1: I'm getting upset for you, op stop. I genuinely don't

1191
00:58:14,920 --> 00:58:17,880
Speaker 1: get upset from stories like this. It does happen from

1192
00:58:17,880 --> 00:58:19,360
Speaker 1: time to time, and these are one of those times

1193
00:58:19,520 --> 00:58:21,320
Speaker 1: I would be seething.

1194
00:58:21,880 --> 00:58:26,760
Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, which is why Anna agreed to do certain things.

1195
00:58:26,760 --> 00:58:29,320
Speaker 3: But Natalie that she has refused to do with me.

1196
00:58:29,600 --> 00:58:30,600
Speaker 1: Oh that's so good.

1197
00:58:30,800 --> 00:58:34,080
Speaker 3: Stop telling me. She doesn't really know why she did it.

1198
00:58:34,320 --> 00:58:36,600
Speaker 3: She says, the spicy sleep was really good, but it

1199
00:58:36,640 --> 00:58:38,919
Speaker 3: wasn't like she was missing anything with me, so you don't.

1200
00:58:39,400 --> 00:58:43,880
Speaker 1: It's worse. She is literally why saying anything anything, last

1201
00:58:43,920 --> 00:58:47,680
Speaker 1: resort to just really really twist the knife. Yeah, and

1202
00:58:47,720 --> 00:58:49,680
Speaker 1: she's doing it. She's doing it to me. I don't

1203
00:58:49,680 --> 00:58:51,960
Speaker 1: even know this. I don't even know you. But I

1204
00:58:52,040 --> 00:58:52,480
Speaker 1: hate her.

1205
00:58:52,600 --> 00:58:54,840
Speaker 3: She says she really loves me and is really sorry

1206
00:58:54,840 --> 00:58:56,760
Speaker 3: for hurting me. Now, No, she isn't, especially for how

1207
00:58:56,800 --> 00:58:58,720
Speaker 3: I found out. I told her how I've been hurting

1208
00:58:58,800 --> 00:59:01,040
Speaker 3: and how I've been feeling these last few days, and

1209
00:59:01,120 --> 00:59:03,200
Speaker 3: I could see some remorse in her face.

1210
00:59:03,440 --> 00:59:05,040
Speaker 1: Don't do it, don't do it.

1211
00:59:05,160 --> 00:59:07,920
Speaker 3: In the end, she actually started crying and begging me

1212
00:59:08,040 --> 00:59:12,120
Speaker 3: for forgiveness. Instead of being emotional, I was stone cold good.

1213
00:59:12,440 --> 00:59:14,400
Speaker 3: Just looked at her and said something along the lines

1214
00:59:14,440 --> 00:59:15,960
Speaker 3: of I think it'd be better if you gave me

1215
00:59:16,000 --> 00:59:18,280
Speaker 3: the ring back now. She took it literally and gave

1216
00:59:18,360 --> 00:59:20,640
Speaker 3: me back the engagement ring. I then told her I

1217
00:59:20,640 --> 00:59:22,600
Speaker 3: would like her to move out because I can't live

1218
00:59:22,640 --> 00:59:25,040
Speaker 3: with her anymore. She begged me to reconsider, or at

1219
00:59:25,120 --> 00:59:27,640
Speaker 3: least to wait and give us some time, and suggested

1220
00:59:27,960 --> 00:59:28,840
Speaker 3: couples counseling.

1221
00:59:29,240 --> 00:59:32,120
Speaker 1: Oh no, no, no, I'll give you some time.

1222
00:59:32,160 --> 00:59:35,480
Speaker 3: Ready time, Oh okay, time to go.

1223
00:59:35,760 --> 00:59:36,080
Speaker 1: Yeah.

1224
00:59:36,120 --> 00:59:38,000
Speaker 3: I said we could speak again in a week, but

1225
00:59:38,120 --> 00:59:40,400
Speaker 3: if we couldn't agree to try to mend things by then,

1226
00:59:40,520 --> 00:59:43,080
Speaker 3: we'd have to split up. She half heartedly agreed. I

1227
00:59:43,120 --> 00:59:45,080
Speaker 3: held up pretty well until she was gone, and I

1228
00:59:45,120 --> 00:59:47,760
Speaker 3: went to my friend who had been waiting nearby. Then

1229
00:59:47,760 --> 00:59:49,800
Speaker 3: I pretty much instantly burst into tears.

1230
00:59:49,880 --> 00:59:53,160
Speaker 1: No, no, you know what he sucks. Yeah, she does.

1231
00:59:53,240 --> 00:59:55,480
Speaker 1: But I'm good on you for holding it. I know

1232
00:59:55,560 --> 00:59:57,120
Speaker 1: I was really hard for you to hold it strong

1233
00:59:57,160 --> 00:59:59,840
Speaker 1: and stone cold face. Then you did it, and you

1234
00:59:59,840 --> 01:00:02,800
Speaker 1: did and you let your friends see you vulnerable. Yeah,

1235
01:00:02,800 --> 01:00:04,120
Speaker 1: shout out to your friend God.

1236
01:00:03,960 --> 01:00:04,920
Speaker 3: You have a support system.

1237
01:00:05,040 --> 01:00:05,240
Speaker 1: Yeah.

1238
01:00:05,320 --> 01:00:07,720
Speaker 3: And before anyone asks, no, I do not have the

1239
01:00:07,800 --> 01:00:10,760
Speaker 3: slightest intention of getting back together with Anna. I know

1240
01:00:11,080 --> 01:00:13,439
Speaker 3: it's over, and we've got an update a month later,

1241
01:00:13,560 --> 01:00:16,440
Speaker 3: So we're about to find out if Op sticks to.

1242
01:00:16,440 --> 01:00:18,840
Speaker 1: His word again. I have a sudden my piece. There's

1243
01:00:18,880 --> 01:00:23,520
Speaker 1: a special place down below for her saying all those things,

1244
01:00:24,360 --> 01:00:27,720
Speaker 1: knowing it definitely hurt you, and then still having the

1245
01:00:27,920 --> 01:00:32,960
Speaker 1: gall to say, we can try still, right, we can

1246
01:00:33,000 --> 01:00:36,440
Speaker 1: work on this. It's an US thing. Yeah, No, we

1247
01:00:36,520 --> 01:00:36,920
Speaker 1: did this.

1248
01:00:37,320 --> 01:00:40,120
Speaker 3: There's no us anymore. There is an update though, a

1249
01:00:40,160 --> 01:00:42,360
Speaker 3: month later. The day is following the meeting with Anna

1250
01:00:42,440 --> 01:00:44,880
Speaker 3: were a blur. I didn't get much sleep, and after

1251
01:00:44,920 --> 01:00:47,040
Speaker 3: a week Anna moved out of our apartment to stay

1252
01:00:47,080 --> 01:00:49,680
Speaker 3: with a friend. I didn't ask who we know?

1253
01:00:49,760 --> 01:00:50,640
Speaker 1: Who we know who?

1254
01:00:50,960 --> 01:00:54,160
Speaker 3: I just needed space to breathe and process everything. One night,

1255
01:00:54,200 --> 01:00:57,280
Speaker 3: while scrolling Instagram, I was showing a picture Natalie had posted.

1256
01:00:57,400 --> 01:00:59,680
Speaker 3: It was a casual group photo, but in the background,

1257
01:01:00,240 --> 01:01:03,520
Speaker 3: too small to see, was Anna sitting far too close

1258
01:01:03,560 --> 01:01:05,680
Speaker 3: to a man I didn't recognize. I went through all

1259
01:01:05,720 --> 01:01:08,880
Speaker 3: of Natalie's pictures and found glimpses of Anna in the

1260
01:01:08,920 --> 01:01:13,040
Speaker 3: background almost a dozen times, with eight different guys, and

1261
01:01:13,160 --> 01:01:15,720
Speaker 3: in the last four it was always the same man.

1262
01:01:15,880 --> 01:01:18,080
Speaker 3: I messaged Natalie, which I know I shouldn't have, but

1263
01:01:18,120 --> 01:01:20,960
Speaker 3: they were surprisingly apologetic and asked to meet up. I

1264
01:01:21,000 --> 01:01:22,960
Speaker 3: talked to my friend and then my therapist, and I

1265
01:01:23,040 --> 01:01:25,360
Speaker 3: actually went through with it. I had my friend nearby

1266
01:01:25,480 --> 01:01:28,120
Speaker 3: on call, and we met in a public place. When

1267
01:01:28,160 --> 01:01:31,400
Speaker 3: I arrived, Natalie was already waiting and looked uncomfortable. They

1268
01:01:31,440 --> 01:01:34,000
Speaker 3: started out saying they were sorry. I got hurt. I

1269
01:01:34,040 --> 01:01:36,160
Speaker 3: showed them one of the Instagram photos and asked who

1270
01:01:36,200 --> 01:01:39,000
Speaker 3: that was. They looked astonished and hadn't noticed Anna was

1271
01:01:39,040 --> 01:01:41,560
Speaker 3: in the picture, and then said I might as well

1272
01:01:41,600 --> 01:01:44,840
Speaker 3: hear from them. Anna had apparently started cheating on me

1273
01:01:44,880 --> 01:01:49,680
Speaker 3: about two years ago. No way, they've been together for

1274
01:01:49,760 --> 01:01:53,160
Speaker 3: four No in the beginning, she only came to Natalie

1275
01:01:53,160 --> 01:01:56,080
Speaker 3: for advice, but then Natalie became her cover story. And

1276
01:01:56,200 --> 01:01:59,120
Speaker 3: since Natalie always had a thing for Anna, Anna would

1277
01:01:59,120 --> 01:02:01,200
Speaker 3: agree to hook up with Natalie. Is a thank you.

1278
01:02:01,320 --> 01:02:07,040
Speaker 3: That's disgusting. That's disgusting, Natalie, you have no spine.

1279
01:02:07,440 --> 01:02:12,520
Speaker 1: Natalie's disgusting. Anna's really disgusting. Don't care. There's a special place,

1280
01:02:12,600 --> 01:02:14,760
Speaker 1: yea in down below, like I said.

1281
01:02:14,960 --> 01:02:18,040
Speaker 3: And then they dropped another bombshell. They said, Anna isn't

1282
01:02:18,080 --> 01:02:20,160
Speaker 3: just staying with a friend, but with a guy she's

1283
01:02:20,200 --> 01:02:24,160
Speaker 3: been seeing regularly for the last two months. While she's

1284
01:02:24,160 --> 01:02:26,000
Speaker 3: still hooked up with Natalie. She had been more or

1285
01:02:26,080 --> 01:02:28,640
Speaker 3: less exclusive with this other guy. That's not exclusive. You're

1286
01:02:28,720 --> 01:02:31,480
Speaker 3: not exclusive with this other guy. If you're hooking up

1287
01:02:31,520 --> 01:02:34,960
Speaker 3: with another person and you also have a fiance, that's

1288
01:02:35,040 --> 01:02:36,920
Speaker 3: not exclusive. Wrong language.

1289
01:02:36,960 --> 01:02:40,200
Speaker 1: There can't say things that I want to do. I

1290
01:02:40,280 --> 01:02:44,120
Speaker 1: wish there's justice for you. Op. Yeah, you deserve more

1291
01:02:44,160 --> 01:02:47,040
Speaker 1: than this. Oh you will? You know what. I'm so

1292
01:02:47,360 --> 01:02:50,440
Speaker 1: happy you did not marry that person.

1293
01:02:50,520 --> 01:02:53,400
Speaker 3: Pretty much in a relationship of some sort. It seems

1294
01:02:53,440 --> 01:02:55,480
Speaker 3: she got cold feet when I found out, But now

1295
01:02:55,520 --> 01:02:58,160
Speaker 3: that she sees we won't reconcile. She has pretty much

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01:02:58,200 --> 01:03:00,360
Speaker 3: moved in with him. After all was said, I told

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01:03:00,440 --> 01:03:02,720
Speaker 3: Natalie that technically I should thank them for letting me know,

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01:03:02,880 --> 01:03:04,400
Speaker 3: but seeing what they did to me, I'd say, we're

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Speaker 3: evening and that I hoped our paths would never cross again.

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Speaker 1: Not even what are we doing?

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01:03:08,760 --> 01:03:09,040
Speaker 3: Yeah?

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01:03:09,080 --> 01:03:10,840
Speaker 1: What is this? Oh? You should thank me for this,

1303
01:03:10,920 --> 01:03:13,160
Speaker 1: for this information, but I won't. Why would I thank you.

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01:03:13,280 --> 01:03:15,640
Speaker 3: I will not be doing that. They agreed and left.

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01:03:15,960 --> 01:03:18,960
Speaker 3: I blocked them on Instagram for my own sanity. Then

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01:03:19,000 --> 01:03:21,320
Speaker 3: I sent Anna a message consisting of one of the

1307
01:03:21,320 --> 01:03:25,200
Speaker 3: pictures from Natalie's Instagram with the words I know if you,

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01:03:25,800 --> 01:03:28,280
Speaker 3: and then I blocked Anna. Then I pretty much broke down.

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01:03:28,400 --> 01:03:30,840
Speaker 3: My friend got me home somehow, and I've been out

1310
01:03:30,880 --> 01:03:32,640
Speaker 3: only to go to the doctor to get a sick

1311
01:03:32,680 --> 01:03:35,760
Speaker 3: note so I can stay home for two weeks. Everything

1312
01:03:35,920 --> 01:03:38,360
Speaker 3: was a lie. Anna fell out of love with me

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01:03:38,400 --> 01:03:39,560
Speaker 3: a long time ago.

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01:03:39,880 --> 01:03:43,840
Speaker 1: Oh boy, this is one of the they're all bad,

1315
01:03:43,960 --> 01:03:46,200
Speaker 1: but this is one of the worst cheating stories we've read.

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01:03:46,640 --> 01:03:48,919
Speaker 3: Yeah, pretty bad. It's pretty bad.

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01:03:48,920 --> 01:03:52,320
Speaker 1: They're all bad, but this is like the knife was

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01:03:52,400 --> 01:03:56,160
Speaker 1: twisted so many times, it's pretty bad. I want to

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01:03:56,200 --> 01:03:59,040
Speaker 1: find this girl, you know what. I shouldn't find this girl.

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01:03:59,080 --> 01:04:00,680
Speaker 1: I don't want to find this girl because she doesn't

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01:04:00,680 --> 01:04:01,400
Speaker 1: deserve my air.

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01:04:01,480 --> 01:04:04,040
Speaker 3: It's pretty dang bad. Update four, Just a small update.

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01:04:04,200 --> 01:04:06,920
Speaker 3: Anna texted me last night using some other phone number

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01:04:07,320 --> 01:04:10,120
Speaker 3: in reply to my last message. It was filled with

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01:04:10,200 --> 01:04:12,800
Speaker 3: the usual She's sorry about how I found out and

1326
01:04:12,880 --> 01:04:15,680
Speaker 3: how things went. It isn't what it looks like. She

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01:04:15,760 --> 01:04:18,080
Speaker 3: doesn't know what's wrong with her or why she did

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01:04:18,120 --> 01:04:20,880
Speaker 3: what she did. Because she loves me so much and

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01:04:20,920 --> 01:04:23,919
Speaker 3: I'm the best man she's ever met. I don't care.

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Speaker 1: They're just words.

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01:04:25,520 --> 01:04:28,400
Speaker 3: I didn't bother to reply. I just blocked that number.

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01:04:28,720 --> 01:04:31,720
Speaker 3: Then I wept myself to sleep. Oh another update. I've

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01:04:31,720 --> 01:04:33,680
Speaker 3: been away over the weekend and it's been not as

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01:04:33,680 --> 01:04:35,640
Speaker 3: bad as the rest of the week. I actually had

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01:04:35,640 --> 01:04:37,680
Speaker 3: some fun. I looked at a plot of land I

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01:04:37,680 --> 01:04:40,480
Speaker 3: am considering buying to build a tiny house on, and

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01:04:40,520 --> 01:04:43,120
Speaker 3: the woman selling it smile at me, and I think

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01:04:43,160 --> 01:04:46,040
Speaker 3: I smiled back without thinking anything. I might not be

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01:04:46,120 --> 01:04:48,120
Speaker 3: completely broken, but that's the end of that story.