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Speaker 1: Scrubbing In with Beca, Tilly and Tanya rad and iHeartRadio

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Speaker 1: and two times People's Choice Award winning podcasts.

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Speaker 2: Hello everybody, we are scrubbing in.

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Speaker 1: Hello, happy Monday. How's it going. How are you feeling

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Speaker 1: I'm feeling great. How are you feeling feeling pretty great too?

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Speaker 2: We have Easton and Mark in the house, in the house,

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Speaker 2: but in the zoom.

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Speaker 3: In our houses.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, they're in the house. They're respective homes, and

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Speaker 2: Tanya and I this week we're sitting across from each other,

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Speaker 2: still in the same area. But now I get to

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Speaker 2: stare at you instead of like worrying about my double

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Speaker 2: chin and stuff while I look over at you. I'm

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Speaker 2: staring across at you.

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Speaker 1: Were you really worried about it?

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Speaker 2: It's something I think about. Yeah. Yeah, Like the profile

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Speaker 2: shot is not my favorite.

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Speaker 1: I got one week of you next to me, and

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Speaker 1: that's all I get.

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Speaker 2: Well, I mean there's future options, but we had to move.

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Speaker 2: It was a lot of space maneuvering that didn't feel necessary.

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Speaker 1: Yeah. This feels better.

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Speaker 2: Yeah. Yeah. Before we get into the podcast, I want

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Speaker 2: to remind you that Valentine's Day is right around the corner.

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Speaker 2: Whether you love Valentine's Day, whether you could do without it,

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Speaker 2: we have your heart, and we are putting on a

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Speaker 2: Galentine's Day even and it is gonna be a par day.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, so we're gonna do it on February tenth. It's

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Speaker 1: gonna be a five Pacific, five pm Pacific, which is

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Speaker 1: eight o'clock Eastern.

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Speaker 2: Good job, nail it every time, Happy hour on the

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Speaker 2: West coast, late.

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Speaker 1: Night, late night on the East coast. But you can

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Speaker 1: get your tickets at on location live dot com, slash

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Speaker 1: scrubbing in and grab your gal pals, grab your drink

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Speaker 1: of choice, grab your whatever you want chocolate.

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Speaker 2: Well, I was gonna say, grab your new merche. We

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Speaker 2: have sweaters and we have socks and some some of

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Speaker 2: our previous merches on sale, but you have to get

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Speaker 2: it soon because there's limited quantity and sizes of our

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Speaker 2: new merch. And we also restock the Imabecca I'm Atanya

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Speaker 2: t shirts. Those are all available at myfanthreads dot com.

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Speaker 2: Slash scrubbing in And let me tell you something. Mark

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Speaker 2: is typically a hate of our merch. And what did

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Speaker 2: you have to say about this?

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Speaker 3: Oh, he's not of your merch with merch in general,

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Speaker 3: I sometimes find it kind of khaki, and I'm not

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Speaker 3: sure why anyone would want to own such a thing.

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Speaker 3: But I look at that sweatshirt and I think I

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Speaker 3: get that. I see scrubbers wanting that sweatshirt. That is

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Speaker 3: a good looking sweatshirt, and the socks are so cute.

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Speaker 1: Okay, you are like the antithesis of me. I'm like

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Speaker 1: obsessed with merch. The more merch, the better. I actually

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Speaker 1: miss concerts because I miss getting merch.

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Speaker 2: But weirdly, you and Mark are also very similar. So

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Speaker 2: in some areas you couldn't be more opposite, and then

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Speaker 2: some y'all are very similar.

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Speaker 1: It's interesting, right, yeah, it's.

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Speaker 3: It is interesting. But also I think the compare it's

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Speaker 3: a male female compared. I think because I when it

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Speaker 3: comes to my sports teams, I'll take any merch you

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Speaker 3: comparison lies, right.

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Speaker 1: And I don't own one piece of sports paraphernalia.

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Speaker 2: But I just want to give them a So one

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Speaker 2: of the sweatshirts is pink, and it has a heart

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Speaker 2: in the middle and it says scrub Sisters, and it

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Speaker 2: is so cute. I mean, the other one is for more.

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Speaker 2: I would say the Becca's it's like very simple. It

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Speaker 2: says scrubbing in and like a beautiful cursive font. It's

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Speaker 2: very like understated but like adorable.

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Speaker 1: I like the heart ones, it's very tanya.

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Speaker 2: I'm actually a fan of both, like I'm interested in both.

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Speaker 2: And then the socks when you put them together, they

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Speaker 2: say scrubbing in and they're red and pink. It's so cute.

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Speaker 2: So check out. That'll probably go very quickly, so try

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Speaker 2: and get your merch before it's gone.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, and I love Valentine's Day. It's just like a

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Speaker 1: day for love, Like it's just a day about love,

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Speaker 1: and who doesn't love love?

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I love love. And I'm kind of indifferent about Valentine.

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Speaker 2: I mean, like I love it, but I also if

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I mean, and I am single, and I still

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Speaker 1: And there you know, you have so much love in

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Speaker 2: Mark Easton as married men, How do y'all feel about

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Speaker 2: the Valentine's Day holiday?

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Speaker 3: I enjoy it. It's it's really at this point, it's

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Speaker 3: down to pretty much just we try to get away

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Speaker 3: and have a dinner. That's kind of how it's gotten

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Speaker 3: at this point. We don't really do gifts anymore on

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Speaker 3: little bit of Mark and Amy time. If we can't,

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Speaker 3: well that's great.

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Speaker 4: I love that. Okay, it's the best. Those conversation hearts

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Speaker 4: are like my favorite candy, and I think they're back

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Speaker 4: this year because the Neco Corporation has gone through a sale.

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Speaker 4: But no, we we we love Valentine's Day. We always

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Speaker 4: do something for Valentine's Day. You know this year is different,

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Speaker 4: but we're still gonna observe it and celebrate. And you know,

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Speaker 4: some people say it's a Hallmark holiday to sell cards.

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Speaker 4: I say, bring it on. I love I love consumerism.

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Speaker 3: Now Easton is the king of merch Yes, there's not.

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Speaker 3: I can't imagine an item of merchandise he would not

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Speaker 1: Yeah, and I also already bought I don't know if

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Speaker 1: you saw when you came in. I bought two little

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Speaker 1: headbands for our Gallentines, but like they're headbands with like

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Speaker 2: I know those. Yeah yeah.

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Speaker 1: And then I got a little Valentine's Day cooking kit,

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Speaker 1: like a cooking not cooking cookie kit.

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Speaker 2: Oh cookie k Yeah, I love. I've been really okay.

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Speaker 2: I have been going through I did this phase where

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Speaker 3: Oh man.

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Speaker 2: It was an unhealthy habit that I developed. But I'm

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Speaker 2: out of it. However, my new thing is like chocolate

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Speaker 2: for my appetizer. But Tanya, we had a day on Saturday,

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Speaker 1: That was the plan. The plan was get together and

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Speaker 2: So Tanya sends me a text which I'm sure if

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Speaker 2: any of you follow us on Instagram, you saw I

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Speaker 2: posted the screenshot of it, and she said she basically said,

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Speaker 2: can like talk like Charlotte and Carrie would took me back, dude.

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Speaker 2: First of all, I laughed out loud when I read it,

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Speaker 2: because I was like, no, have you ever read a

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Speaker 2: more Tania thing? And it took me back to when

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Speaker 2: I used to play Beanie Babies with my sister and

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Speaker 2: I'd be like, Katie, do you want to play Beanie Babies?

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Speaker 2: And she'd be like no, Like who plays Beanie Babies?

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Speaker 1: Like, yeah, Becka put the gobash on it so fast

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Speaker 2: I told her that Phoebe doesn't like role play and

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Speaker 2: you say on your suggestion. Yeah, but I did wash

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Speaker 2: my matching sweats. I did a full.

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Speaker 1: Load of wand yeah, so we wore matching sweats, which,

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Speaker 1: if you know, you know I love a cohesive moment.

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Speaker 1: So the fact that we were matching all day it

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Speaker 2: Did it make up for the denial of the role play?

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Speaker 1: And then we ended up not even watching any sex

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Speaker 2: It was so fun. We need to do those like

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Speaker 2: it also was like rainy and cozy, and it was

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Speaker 2: I mean, I don't know that is a rare site

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Speaker 1: To be eating. Not only was I eating them, I

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Speaker 2: Well, yeah, I'm sure you don't ever eat anything like sugar.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, but I highly recommend getting together with your friend

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Speaker 2: and putting on some live performances. I suggest Taylor. But

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Speaker 2: if you're not a Taylor fan, than any artist. And

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Speaker 1: The thing with Taylor, Okay, you can tell me anything

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Speaker 1: that's going on in your life, any situation, and there's

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Speaker 1: a Taylor Swift song for it, Like truly, it's the

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Speaker 2: Can we try this? Do y'all have any hypothetical situations

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Speaker 2: that we can try and pair with the Taylor Swift song.

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Speaker 3: Well, I was the other night. I was in my

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Speaker 3: car listening to one of my playlifts and how You

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Speaker 3: Get the Girl came on and that song never got

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Speaker 3: it to do? So what situation in life would that

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Speaker 1: Give me the lyrics again, I'm not in the US.

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Speaker 2: That's how you get the girl?

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Speaker 1: I want?

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Speaker 2: For what's a full bed Tania situation? What do you mean?

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Speaker 2: It's a living right here? Tanya's relationship it is.

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Speaker 1: I'm not super familiar with that one to like, No.

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Speaker 2: Off the top my head, that's the that's well, there's

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Speaker 2: a lot that could relate to your relation.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I mean, like I don't know. It was just

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Speaker 1: like I was in the car with one of my

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Speaker 1: and I was just like, there's literally a Taylor Swift

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Speaker 1: song for any situation. So actually, why don't we do

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Speaker 1: it when we go through with the emails? When the emails,

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Speaker 1: I'll give you a Taylor Swift song for each email.

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Speaker 2: That's a good way to do it.

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Speaker 1: But Mark to try to do it in reverse, and

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Speaker 1: you can't like do that, okay, fair enough, Like you

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Speaker 2: Well. I just keep thinking about last year's vision board

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Speaker 2: Appreciate your I don't always understand them, like the honey thing,

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Speaker 1: First of all, I've never heard of it before, and

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Speaker 3: But I feel like the guy sees that as a

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Speaker 4: But yeah, I think that's I think. I think it's

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Speaker 2: or something, and I was so I got so upset

439
00:20:27,840 --> 00:20:30,040
Speaker 2: because like I just wanted to be alone, and I

440
00:20:30,040 --> 00:20:32,240
Speaker 2: thought she was gonna say she got I was thinking

441
00:20:32,240 --> 00:20:34,040
Speaker 2: she was gonna say I got so emotional because I

442
00:20:34,080 --> 00:20:36,000
Speaker 2: was so happy that we were gonna have a day together,

443
00:20:36,400 --> 00:20:40,040
Speaker 2: and then the end took like a U turn. It

444
00:20:40,119 --> 00:20:43,160
Speaker 2: was like, I'm so mad because now I don't get

445
00:20:43,200 --> 00:20:46,199
Speaker 2: my alone time. But I think that's very human, and

446
00:20:46,240 --> 00:20:49,520
Speaker 2: I think that there's I mean, if it's happening every

447
00:20:49,600 --> 00:20:51,640
Speaker 2: day and you're like don't want to spend any time

448
00:20:51,640 --> 00:20:53,520
Speaker 2: with the person, or you're mad every time they're off

449
00:20:53,560 --> 00:20:56,040
Speaker 2: work or half free time, that's something to look into.

450
00:20:56,200 --> 00:20:59,360
Speaker 2: But I think it's very normal to crave that alone

451
00:20:59,359 --> 00:21:03,159
Speaker 2: time and just sit if that's all you want to do.

452
00:21:03,400 --> 00:21:07,040
Speaker 1: Yeah. So I think I'm just trying to like in

453
00:21:07,080 --> 00:21:10,119
Speaker 1: my life, I'm just very I am very goal oriented

454
00:21:10,160 --> 00:21:12,120
Speaker 1: and like this is what I want next, and this

455
00:21:12,160 --> 00:21:13,520
Speaker 1: is what I'm going to go after, and I'm just

456
00:21:13,520 --> 00:21:16,760
Speaker 1: trying to like take the advice of these books that

457
00:21:16,840 --> 00:21:19,159
Speaker 1: I've been reading and just try to be very present.

458
00:21:19,359 --> 00:21:21,920
Speaker 1: And I mean, like I had a really great weekend,

459
00:21:21,920 --> 00:21:24,040
Speaker 1: you know what I mean, Like had Greek night here

460
00:21:24,320 --> 00:21:27,959
Speaker 1: or Greek food, wore cute white dress, like zoomed with

461
00:21:27,960 --> 00:21:30,920
Speaker 1: one of my girlfriends out of town, and like had

462
00:21:30,920 --> 00:21:33,720
Speaker 1: fun festive Friday, spent all Saturday with my best friend,

463
00:21:33,760 --> 00:21:37,080
Speaker 1: watching Taylor Swift videos, dancing and crying and eating EM

464
00:21:37,119 --> 00:21:39,399
Speaker 1: and M's, and then making my honey jar on Sunday, Like,

465
00:21:39,400 --> 00:21:40,320
Speaker 1: what a great weekend.

466
00:21:40,960 --> 00:21:47,520
Speaker 2: It was superb, super early. Well, on another note, I

467
00:21:47,600 --> 00:21:51,520
Speaker 2: literally thought someone was in my home last night when

468
00:21:51,560 --> 00:21:55,119
Speaker 2: I was by myself. Not last night, yesterday afternoon. But

469
00:21:55,280 --> 00:21:58,399
Speaker 2: before I talk about that, we're going to take a break.

470
00:22:14,240 --> 00:22:19,560
Speaker 2: All right, we are back. So yesterday I am in

471
00:22:19,640 --> 00:22:22,960
Speaker 2: my Uh would you say that I have an apartment

472
00:22:23,040 --> 00:22:26,639
Speaker 2: or town what is my place? Like a condo townhouse?

473
00:22:26,680 --> 00:22:30,760
Speaker 2: I don't know. It's weird because the setup's like it's

474
00:22:30,800 --> 00:22:33,280
Speaker 2: not like, look, what do you call yours apartment? Okay,

475
00:22:33,440 --> 00:22:38,840
Speaker 2: so my apartment, all the units are close to each other,

476
00:22:38,920 --> 00:22:41,719
Speaker 2: so like a lot of times, I keep Phoebe's patio

477
00:22:41,760 --> 00:22:43,359
Speaker 2: door open so she can go in and out to

478
00:22:43,400 --> 00:22:46,000
Speaker 2: the grass, and I can hear if someone opens their door,

479
00:22:46,040 --> 00:22:49,280
Speaker 2: it makes the same noise that my door makes. And

480
00:22:49,320 --> 00:22:51,480
Speaker 2: the only two doors in my house that make that

481
00:22:51,520 --> 00:22:53,640
Speaker 2: noise are the front door and then my patio door

482
00:22:53,720 --> 00:22:56,040
Speaker 2: up on my roof, which you get to from my bedroom.

483
00:22:56,200 --> 00:22:58,080
Speaker 2: So yesterday I'm in the kitchen and I was about

484
00:22:58,080 --> 00:22:59,959
Speaker 2: to go look at a house and I'm making love

485
00:23:00,440 --> 00:23:05,680
Speaker 2: and I hear the noise go off, and Phoebe wasn't

486
00:23:05,680 --> 00:23:07,320
Speaker 2: there with me, so like she didn't bark or anything

487
00:23:07,359 --> 00:23:10,359
Speaker 2: because she wasn't there. And I'm looking at my front

488
00:23:10,400 --> 00:23:13,359
Speaker 2: door and it's just closed and locked, and I'm like,

489
00:23:14,400 --> 00:23:18,119
Speaker 2: has someone entered my home upstairs? Like a someone in

490
00:23:18,119 --> 00:23:22,400
Speaker 2: my bedroom? So I panic. I do the first thing,

491
00:23:22,560 --> 00:23:25,240
Speaker 2: logical thing. I go on Instagram and tell everybody what's

492
00:23:25,280 --> 00:23:29,400
Speaker 2: going on, And to be honest, I was just kind

493
00:23:29,400 --> 00:23:32,920
Speaker 2: of like, realistically, what is it? And then I really

494
00:23:32,960 --> 00:23:35,239
Speaker 2: started getting in my head because I am like, I

495
00:23:35,280 --> 00:23:38,640
Speaker 2: have a full security system everywhere in my house except

496
00:23:39,000 --> 00:23:41,720
Speaker 2: up there for some reason, because no one ever really

497
00:23:41,720 --> 00:23:43,920
Speaker 2: goes up there. It normally just stays locked and shut.

498
00:23:44,840 --> 00:23:48,920
Speaker 2: So I take a knife. I go up stairs. Because

499
00:23:48,920 --> 00:23:50,760
Speaker 2: I don't have a bat, I don't have anything. I

500
00:23:50,800 --> 00:23:52,679
Speaker 2: take a knife. I go upstairs and I'm looking in

501
00:23:52,760 --> 00:23:55,600
Speaker 2: like every nook and cranny I can find. I'm looking

502
00:23:55,640 --> 00:23:57,600
Speaker 2: under the bed, I look in the shower, I look

503
00:23:57,600 --> 00:24:00,760
Speaker 2: in the bathtub, in the closets. There was a lot

504
00:24:00,800 --> 00:24:03,440
Speaker 2: of load of laundry on my bed. I looked under

505
00:24:03,480 --> 00:24:05,720
Speaker 2: that in case they could have fit, you know, you

506
00:24:05,800 --> 00:24:09,359
Speaker 2: just don't know, could have camouflaged in there. And so

507
00:24:09,520 --> 00:24:13,680
Speaker 2: I go up and the friggin' patio door is unlocked.

508
00:24:13,880 --> 00:24:18,920
Speaker 2: It's shut, but it's unlocked, and I'm like, okay, I'm

509
00:24:18,960 --> 00:24:22,840
Speaker 2: gonna call. I'm gonna call. Hailey was over and she

510
00:24:22,880 --> 00:24:25,240
Speaker 2: went in and took a call out there, and so

511
00:24:25,400 --> 00:24:28,000
Speaker 2: when she had come back in, I said, hey, did

512
00:24:28,040 --> 00:24:30,400
Speaker 2: you lock that door when you came in? And she goes, yeah,

513
00:24:31,040 --> 00:24:32,520
Speaker 2: And that was like the end of the conversation. I

514
00:24:32,520 --> 00:24:35,480
Speaker 2: should have gone and checked, but I didn't because I

515
00:24:35,520 --> 00:24:37,600
Speaker 2: was trying to let go of my OCD need to check.

516
00:24:38,720 --> 00:24:41,240
Speaker 2: And so I call her and I'm like, hey, when

517
00:24:41,320 --> 00:24:43,879
Speaker 2: you came back in the other day, are you one

518
00:24:44,000 --> 00:24:47,240
Speaker 2: hundred percent certain that you locked that door? And she

519
00:24:47,400 --> 00:24:50,679
Speaker 2: was like, I don't have a visual image of me

520
00:24:50,800 --> 00:24:52,840
Speaker 2: locking it because I walked out it was sunny, and

521
00:24:52,840 --> 00:24:54,480
Speaker 2: so I came back it was too sunny, so I

522
00:24:54,520 --> 00:24:56,440
Speaker 2: came back in. But I don't think I locked it.

523
00:24:56,440 --> 00:24:58,880
Speaker 2: I think it just shut it. So like, if that

524
00:24:59,000 --> 00:25:01,480
Speaker 2: door had been locked, I wouldn't have thought twice about it.

525
00:25:01,480 --> 00:25:02,879
Speaker 2: I would have thought like, Okay, maybe that was the

526
00:25:02,920 --> 00:25:08,480
Speaker 2: neighbor's door I heard, but because it was open, I'm freaking,

527
00:25:09,119 --> 00:25:14,960
Speaker 2: I'm paranoid. I'm on high alert. I've now convinced myself

528
00:25:14,960 --> 00:25:17,960
Speaker 2: that maybe they put like a secret, like they bugged my.

529
00:25:18,920 --> 00:25:20,840
Speaker 1: I thought that before, like they like there's like a

530
00:25:20,880 --> 00:25:23,760
Speaker 1: camera in here. Remember when I had Lucky Charm, I

531
00:25:23,800 --> 00:25:25,560
Speaker 1: don't even know what we call whatever. We don't even

532
00:25:25,600 --> 00:25:28,320
Speaker 1: know what we called him on the podcast. Uh, I

533
00:25:28,480 --> 00:25:32,280
Speaker 1: literally a doctor screen time. Oh when he came and

534
00:25:32,320 --> 00:25:34,680
Speaker 1: stayed with me for five days, Remember I was like, look,

535
00:25:35,800 --> 00:25:38,320
Speaker 1: I was like, he bugged my apartment. I was like,

536
00:25:38,359 --> 00:25:40,520
Speaker 1: there was a video camera in here somewhere. Like I

537
00:25:40,600 --> 00:25:42,400
Speaker 1: was paranoid for like a month after.

538
00:25:42,240 --> 00:25:46,280
Speaker 2: He and I like know in my head that it

539
00:25:46,320 --> 00:25:48,280
Speaker 2: was just it didn't get it didn't get locked. It

540
00:25:48,320 --> 00:25:51,200
Speaker 2: was probably the neighbors. But like my psycho brain goes

541
00:25:51,280 --> 00:25:55,439
Speaker 2: to a dark place. So yeah, dealing with that.

542
00:25:55,560 --> 00:25:58,640
Speaker 1: You know what's interesting? I actually, uh thought about sleeping

543
00:25:58,680 --> 00:25:59,920
Speaker 1: with a bat next to my bed.

544
00:26:00,359 --> 00:26:02,320
Speaker 2: It's not it's not not smart. And I have a

545
00:26:02,359 --> 00:26:03,359
Speaker 2: taser by my bed.

546
00:26:03,600 --> 00:26:05,040
Speaker 1: Should I have mace next to my bed?

547
00:26:05,320 --> 00:26:05,600
Speaker 2: I don't.

548
00:26:05,600 --> 00:26:07,399
Speaker 1: I would have a better mace or a bat.

549
00:26:09,600 --> 00:26:11,480
Speaker 4: I mean, God, think about which one you're less likely

550
00:26:11,520 --> 00:26:14,640
Speaker 4: to use on your STAF the wrong way.

551
00:26:15,080 --> 00:26:16,840
Speaker 2: Yeah, right, right.

552
00:26:17,280 --> 00:26:19,639
Speaker 4: But that could be taken from you, so I don't know.

553
00:26:20,800 --> 00:26:21,399
Speaker 4: I have both.

554
00:26:21,960 --> 00:26:25,840
Speaker 2: Yeah, really the options are endless. But I I ordered

555
00:26:25,920 --> 00:26:27,840
Speaker 2: this thing so, like on my sliding doors, I have

556
00:26:27,880 --> 00:26:30,239
Speaker 2: this thing where it blocks, so even if someone unlocks it,

557
00:26:30,280 --> 00:26:32,960
Speaker 2: they can't get in because it's blocked. So I have

558
00:26:33,080 --> 00:26:37,080
Speaker 2: that on there now I feel fully just set up safe,

559
00:26:37,160 --> 00:26:37,679
Speaker 2: et cetera.

560
00:26:38,280 --> 00:26:41,040
Speaker 3: When I was a kid, I remember my friend's family.

561
00:26:41,400 --> 00:26:43,119
Speaker 3: I don't know where we had been, but they dropped

562
00:26:43,119 --> 00:26:44,760
Speaker 3: me off at my house and they lived right down

563
00:26:44,800 --> 00:26:46,640
Speaker 3: the street. But on the way it was only a block,

564
00:26:46,680 --> 00:26:48,359
Speaker 3: but they just pulled over so I could get out,

565
00:26:48,400 --> 00:26:50,600
Speaker 3: and I'll walk up to my house and no one's home,

566
00:26:50,720 --> 00:26:52,160
Speaker 3: and I knew no one was going to be home,

567
00:26:52,520 --> 00:26:54,960
Speaker 3: but the front door was wide open, and it was

568
00:26:55,000 --> 00:26:58,560
Speaker 3: after dark, and I was like, I don't know nine

569
00:26:59,640 --> 00:27:02,359
Speaker 3: and I was like, no, this is not good. And

570
00:27:02,400 --> 00:27:06,560
Speaker 3: I remember so distinctly running down to the Strader's house

571
00:27:08,160 --> 00:27:10,919
Speaker 3: Trader missus Trader like I could barely speak, I was

572
00:27:10,920 --> 00:27:14,200
Speaker 3: so frightened, and telling her what happened. She called the cops.

573
00:27:14,720 --> 00:27:17,080
Speaker 3: The cops came and I could still remember seeing my

574
00:27:17,240 --> 00:27:19,119
Speaker 3: dark house and they wouldn't turn lights on. I'm not

575
00:27:19,119 --> 00:27:21,199
Speaker 3: sure why the police didn't turn lights on, because I

576
00:27:21,200 --> 00:27:23,760
Speaker 3: remember seeing the flashlights going back and forth inside my

577
00:27:23,760 --> 00:27:26,119
Speaker 3: house as they looked around my house. Turn the lights

578
00:27:26,160 --> 00:27:28,960
Speaker 3: on and be a much more thorough search. Anyway, nobody

579
00:27:29,000 --> 00:27:30,560
Speaker 3: was in there. My dad had left the door off

580
00:27:30,560 --> 00:27:32,680
Speaker 3: when he left, and boy was my mom pissed at

581
00:27:32,680 --> 00:27:33,600
Speaker 3: my dad that night.

582
00:27:34,480 --> 00:27:37,119
Speaker 2: That is so scary.

583
00:27:36,880 --> 00:27:40,040
Speaker 3: Scary for a little Markie yo, little Marky Mark.

584
00:27:41,320 --> 00:27:46,960
Speaker 2: Well, yeah, I I I realize I can be. I'm

585
00:27:47,000 --> 00:27:50,120
Speaker 2: already hyper paranoid, like I have all the things. I've

586
00:27:50,119 --> 00:27:52,320
Speaker 2: always had a camera up there, and then I took

587
00:27:52,359 --> 00:27:55,200
Speaker 2: it down because I had to record a sponsored post

588
00:27:55,280 --> 00:27:57,080
Speaker 2: for it, so I just never put it back up.

589
00:27:57,640 --> 00:28:00,720
Speaker 2: So that thing's going my burbo camera. It's going right

590
00:28:00,760 --> 00:28:05,080
Speaker 2: up there telling you. So. Yeah, that was the excitement

591
00:28:05,280 --> 00:28:08,040
Speaker 2: of my day and probably for the next month or

592
00:28:08,040 --> 00:28:09,919
Speaker 2: so where I don't sleep well.

593
00:28:10,840 --> 00:28:12,560
Speaker 1: That would yikes.

594
00:28:13,640 --> 00:28:18,000
Speaker 2: It's fine. I'm protected, it's fine. Pray about it.

595
00:28:18,200 --> 00:28:18,440
Speaker 1: Same.

596
00:28:18,680 --> 00:28:20,320
Speaker 3: Are we going to play our truth or deer game?

597
00:28:20,359 --> 00:28:22,399
Speaker 3: I mean our truth tru or false game or whatever

598
00:28:22,440 --> 00:28:22,639
Speaker 3: it is?

599
00:28:22,960 --> 00:28:27,080
Speaker 2: Yeah, Okay, so there's this trend on Instagram where uh,

600
00:28:27,400 --> 00:28:30,879
Speaker 2: people say like true or false statements and then whoever

601
00:28:31,440 --> 00:28:34,560
Speaker 2: is doing the game they answer if it's true or

602
00:28:34,560 --> 00:28:36,320
Speaker 2: if it's false and kind of explain right.

603
00:28:36,400 --> 00:28:43,680
Speaker 1: So, like example, somebody would say true or your hair

604
00:28:43,800 --> 00:28:45,720
Speaker 1: your hair is naturally brown.

605
00:28:46,120 --> 00:28:49,960
Speaker 2: And I would say true, but I have highlights and

606
00:28:50,040 --> 00:28:53,880
Speaker 2: extensions and my hair also is grey because I'm like

607
00:28:54,000 --> 00:28:57,480
Speaker 2: an eighty four year old inside, I guess. So that's

608
00:28:57,640 --> 00:29:00,840
Speaker 2: that's kind of how it goes. Yeah, so anyway, it

609
00:29:00,920 --> 00:29:01,480
Speaker 2: is kind of true.

610
00:29:01,480 --> 00:29:02,560
Speaker 1: You do have a lot of grays.

611
00:29:03,520 --> 00:29:05,840
Speaker 2: So I literally am yeah, I have so many grains.

612
00:29:06,200 --> 00:29:07,360
Speaker 1: I was shocked at that.

613
00:29:07,680 --> 00:29:12,440
Speaker 2: Yeah, So Easton and Mark have the questions. Tanya and

614
00:29:12,480 --> 00:29:14,240
Speaker 2: I haven't seen them, so we have no idea what

615
00:29:14,280 --> 00:29:18,240
Speaker 2: they are. So we're just we're going in blind. All right.

616
00:29:18,280 --> 00:29:20,000
Speaker 3: These are very specific to you guys, though these are

617
00:29:20,160 --> 00:29:22,520
Speaker 3: general things like your hair is naturally brown?

618
00:29:22,680 --> 00:29:24,280
Speaker 1: Right, I just use that as an example.

619
00:29:24,440 --> 00:29:28,080
Speaker 3: Okay, all right, good, all right, I'll begin Becca. You

620
00:29:28,200 --> 00:29:30,000
Speaker 3: kind of knew Red Star was not the one for

621
00:29:30,040 --> 00:29:31,080
Speaker 3: telling you true or false.

622
00:29:34,720 --> 00:29:36,400
Speaker 2: You're really starting out with the bang.

623
00:29:36,560 --> 00:29:41,200
Speaker 3: Yeah. Yeah, this is so hard.

624
00:29:41,200 --> 00:29:47,400
Speaker 2: I mean, I can I be honest. This is my true.

625
00:29:47,520 --> 00:29:53,320
Speaker 2: This is my truth. I didn't. I thought that he

626
00:29:53,440 --> 00:29:55,600
Speaker 2: could be the one, but I thought that there were

627
00:29:55,600 --> 00:29:58,520
Speaker 2: a lot of challenges that they would face if he

628
00:29:58,680 --> 00:30:02,240
Speaker 2: was the one, and I could also see her falling

629
00:30:02,240 --> 00:30:07,800
Speaker 2: in love with someone else and having that relationship. I

630
00:30:07,840 --> 00:30:10,000
Speaker 2: literally have no I mean that's literally how my brain

631
00:30:10,000 --> 00:30:13,280
Speaker 2: has worked through your whole relationship. Like he's wonderful, he's

632
00:30:13,280 --> 00:30:16,080
Speaker 2: a great guy, but he did have there were certain

633
00:30:16,120 --> 00:30:18,800
Speaker 2: things that made the relationship more challenging that I thought,

634
00:30:19,400 --> 00:30:23,680
Speaker 2: could Tanya find someone and have the same and have

635
00:30:24,160 --> 00:30:27,440
Speaker 2: a deep love for someone else? And I thought, yes,

636
00:30:28,800 --> 00:30:32,120
Speaker 2: So that's my answer, even though it's not necessarily directly

637
00:30:32,120 --> 00:30:32,680
Speaker 2: true or false.

638
00:30:32,960 --> 00:30:36,600
Speaker 3: That was a hard Well, you got to start strong, East,

639
00:30:36,720 --> 00:30:37,280
Speaker 3: You're up.

640
00:30:37,840 --> 00:30:41,240
Speaker 4: All right? This is this is for Tanya. Uh true

641
00:30:41,320 --> 00:30:44,200
Speaker 4: or false? Tanya has used a horoscope as an excuse

642
00:30:44,280 --> 00:30:45,360
Speaker 4: to not date someone.

643
00:30:46,360 --> 00:30:47,160
Speaker 1: Very true.

644
00:30:48,800 --> 00:30:49,360
Speaker 4: Or what was that?

645
00:30:49,480 --> 00:30:51,240
Speaker 2: What was their sign? Uh?

646
00:30:51,360 --> 00:30:51,840
Speaker 1: Gemini?

647
00:30:52,200 --> 00:30:55,880
Speaker 2: Oh yeah you really aren't, he thinks a Gemini.

648
00:30:56,560 --> 00:30:59,920
Speaker 1: But she's great, you know there are here's the thing there,

649
00:31:01,520 --> 00:31:04,479
Speaker 1: I do know one Gemini that I like love very dearly.

650
00:31:04,680 --> 00:31:06,440
Speaker 1: Like he's like one of the greatest men in the

651
00:31:06,560 --> 00:31:10,040
Speaker 1: entire world. He's my mentor, he's a Gemini, and so

652
00:31:11,400 --> 00:31:13,920
Speaker 1: I don't think all geminis are bad, but they definitely

653
00:31:13,920 --> 00:31:18,120
Speaker 1: have like two sides of them, and so they can

654
00:31:18,160 --> 00:31:22,640
Speaker 1: be two good sides. But you just murky waters Okay, okay.

655
00:31:24,440 --> 00:31:26,800
Speaker 3: I don't know that you should rule out eight point

656
00:31:26,880 --> 00:31:30,240
Speaker 3: three percent of the population when it comes to dating people.

657
00:31:30,320 --> 00:31:32,160
Speaker 3: And I also don't think you should insult eight point

658
00:31:32,200 --> 00:31:34,120
Speaker 3: three percent of our listeners who are Gemini.

659
00:31:34,560 --> 00:31:37,520
Speaker 1: I know, anytime I say stuff about geminis on my Instagram,

660
00:31:37,520 --> 00:31:39,800
Speaker 1: I get so much hate from people being like, we're

661
00:31:39,800 --> 00:31:40,800
Speaker 1: not all that bad.

662
00:31:41,120 --> 00:31:44,560
Speaker 2: Like Becky, who's on our Zoom She goes, I'm a Gemini.

663
00:31:44,840 --> 00:31:45,440
Speaker 2: Sad base.

664
00:31:47,040 --> 00:31:48,920
Speaker 4: My mother, who you've met, is a Gemini.

665
00:31:49,760 --> 00:31:50,040
Speaker 2: Wow.

666
00:31:50,240 --> 00:31:52,000
Speaker 4: Wow, she's a delightful woman.

667
00:31:52,600 --> 00:31:54,880
Speaker 1: Yes, I'm not saying they're all bad. I'm just saying

668
00:31:55,120 --> 00:31:59,400
Speaker 1: for me, particularly if I just it's just I'd rather

669
00:31:59,440 --> 00:31:59,920
Speaker 1: steer clear.

670
00:32:00,240 --> 00:32:04,240
Speaker 2: All right, Becky, sorry, Tonia will not be in.

671
00:32:04,320 --> 00:32:05,520
Speaker 1: I will not be dating Becky.

672
00:32:08,480 --> 00:32:13,560
Speaker 3: Uh true or false? Becca secretly loves Tanya's neediness.

673
00:32:15,320 --> 00:32:22,680
Speaker 1: Uh false, but I love Okay, well, y'all.

674
00:32:22,880 --> 00:32:25,200
Speaker 2: I mean, I guess these are just gonna be controversial,

675
00:32:25,720 --> 00:32:27,920
Speaker 2: like answers for me the whole time. But I love

676
00:32:28,000 --> 00:32:30,160
Speaker 2: Tanya for who she is, but I don't I don't

677
00:32:30,320 --> 00:32:34,480
Speaker 2: secretly love neediness from anyone like I don't love neediness,

678
00:32:34,560 --> 00:32:37,760
Speaker 2: but I love Tanya and I am willing because we're

679
00:32:37,800 --> 00:32:40,920
Speaker 2: best friends to compromise when she needs a long hug

680
00:32:41,160 --> 00:32:42,760
Speaker 2: to give that to her. Would you agree?

681
00:32:42,960 --> 00:32:43,440
Speaker 1: I agree?

682
00:32:43,600 --> 00:32:49,240
Speaker 4: Yeah, all right, Tanya? Sure or false? If you didn't

683
00:32:49,240 --> 00:32:52,080
Speaker 4: have the podcast, you two wouldn't be as close, or

684
00:32:52,080 --> 00:32:53,160
Speaker 4: you would have drifted apart.

685
00:32:55,200 --> 00:32:57,560
Speaker 1: I think it's false, but I do think that the

686
00:32:57,640 --> 00:33:05,840
Speaker 1: podcast definitely helped us in this pandemic stay closer. I

687
00:33:05,840 --> 00:33:07,840
Speaker 1: think the pandemic kind of I think it kind of

688
00:33:07,840 --> 00:33:09,440
Speaker 1: forced everybody a little bit to just kind of be

689
00:33:09,480 --> 00:33:11,920
Speaker 1: in their own little silos, you know, And then when

690
00:33:11,920 --> 00:33:13,880
Speaker 1: the world started opening back up again, we like made

691
00:33:13,920 --> 00:33:15,480
Speaker 1: more of an effort. But I think the pandemic in

692
00:33:15,520 --> 00:33:20,800
Speaker 1: the beginning, I think the podcast kept us closer. But

693
00:33:20,840 --> 00:33:21,720
Speaker 1: aside from that, no.

694
00:33:22,640 --> 00:33:25,840
Speaker 2: Yeah, I don't fully agree, but I think without the

695
00:33:25,840 --> 00:33:27,760
Speaker 2: podcast we still would have been closed. But I think

696
00:33:27,800 --> 00:33:30,920
Speaker 2: it brought us closer, just like anything when you're doing

697
00:33:30,920 --> 00:33:31,600
Speaker 2: something together.

698
00:33:31,840 --> 00:33:34,040
Speaker 1: Yeah, remember in the beginning, when we were like having

699
00:33:34,040 --> 00:33:36,800
Speaker 1: to like zoom and like I was just not in

700
00:33:36,880 --> 00:33:37,440
Speaker 1: a good place.

701
00:33:37,720 --> 00:33:39,480
Speaker 2: No, none of us were.

702
00:33:39,600 --> 00:33:44,360
Speaker 3: Yeah, all right, back at tru or Falls. You spend

703
00:33:44,400 --> 00:33:46,960
Speaker 3: more on fast food in a week than grocery store

704
00:33:47,000 --> 00:33:47,680
Speaker 3: food in a week.

705
00:33:49,120 --> 00:33:51,840
Speaker 2: Okay, up until recently that would be true. But the

706
00:33:51,920 --> 00:33:55,320
Speaker 2: last since I've been back from Louisiana, I for with

707
00:33:55,320 --> 00:33:58,840
Speaker 2: my for Christmas, I've had fast food one time, which

708
00:33:58,880 --> 00:33:59,480
Speaker 2: was in and out.

709
00:34:01,360 --> 00:34:03,440
Speaker 3: That's really cool, that is impressive.

710
00:34:04,000 --> 00:34:08,720
Speaker 2: I've been cooking and trying to eat healthier than ever before.

711
00:34:09,280 --> 00:34:13,400
Speaker 2: I feel better too. But you know, sometimes sometimes they

712
00:34:13,400 --> 00:34:16,280
Speaker 2: get a hankering for, you know, one of my favorite

713
00:34:16,280 --> 00:34:19,440
Speaker 2: fast food joints. And if I do, like, I'm not,

714
00:34:19,560 --> 00:34:22,200
Speaker 2: I'm not like the I don't know if I talked

715
00:34:22,200 --> 00:34:23,920
Speaker 2: about this on the podcast, but I got a stomach

716
00:34:24,000 --> 00:34:25,920
Speaker 2: virus the last day I was in Louisiana, and the

717
00:34:26,000 --> 00:34:30,400
Speaker 2: last thing I was Cane's, which was devastate. Yeah, East

718
00:34:30,480 --> 00:34:33,440
Speaker 2: and Wide Eyes. I know, so like that, I haven't

719
00:34:33,600 --> 00:34:37,719
Speaker 2: craved fast food because that's what I threw up. You know,

720
00:34:38,000 --> 00:34:42,040
Speaker 2: it was a weird blessing in a way. But yeah,

721
00:34:42,080 --> 00:34:44,920
Speaker 2: so lately I've been spending more on groceries because that's

722
00:34:44,920 --> 00:34:45,520
Speaker 2: what I've been eating.

723
00:34:48,440 --> 00:34:51,160
Speaker 4: All right, telling you true or false? You were very

724
00:34:51,200 --> 00:34:52,440
Speaker 4: popular in high school?

725
00:34:53,719 --> 00:34:57,560
Speaker 1: Okay, this is actually so in my reality. I always

726
00:34:57,600 --> 00:35:00,719
Speaker 1: say I was not popular in high school because I

727
00:35:00,760 --> 00:35:02,320
Speaker 1: was like such a nerd, Like I had like the

728
00:35:02,480 --> 00:35:05,080
Speaker 1: like you know, like I started the Shakira John Mayor

729
00:35:05,120 --> 00:35:07,960
Speaker 1: fan club and like I was like the spirit leader

730
00:35:08,000 --> 00:35:10,440
Speaker 1: in all the assemblies and stuff like that. But my

731
00:35:10,520 --> 00:35:13,320
Speaker 1: best friend John Hale was the most popular guy in school,

732
00:35:13,480 --> 00:35:16,000
Speaker 1: and so he would like make all the football players

733
00:35:16,000 --> 00:35:18,759
Speaker 1: send up for my club, and like, you know, people like,

734
00:35:18,800 --> 00:35:22,160
Speaker 1: I was liked, but I wouldn't consider myself popular. Does

735
00:35:22,160 --> 00:35:22,720
Speaker 1: that make sense?

736
00:35:23,360 --> 00:35:24,680
Speaker 2: But you hung with the cool crowd.

737
00:35:25,400 --> 00:35:28,080
Speaker 1: I hung with every Okay, look, John Hill is the

738
00:35:28,080 --> 00:35:28,799
Speaker 1: best I know.

739
00:35:29,000 --> 00:35:31,640
Speaker 3: So I could see you getting residual popularity just kind

740
00:35:31,680 --> 00:35:33,880
Speaker 3: of from him, like you would get it would kind

741
00:35:33,880 --> 00:35:35,600
Speaker 3: of ooze off of him, and you would gain it

742
00:35:35,640 --> 00:35:36,600
Speaker 3: and return.

743
00:35:37,200 --> 00:35:37,439
Speaker 2: Yeah.

744
00:35:37,440 --> 00:35:39,239
Speaker 1: Like so I would say, like I wouldn't say it

745
00:35:39,320 --> 00:35:42,759
Speaker 1: was necessarily popular, but I would people liked me, and

746
00:35:42,760 --> 00:35:44,960
Speaker 1: I didn't necessarily have Like I wasn't like part of

747
00:35:44,960 --> 00:35:47,479
Speaker 1: the popular group, but I wasn't like.

748
00:35:49,000 --> 00:35:51,200
Speaker 3: Not I think that's the best way to be.

749
00:35:51,480 --> 00:35:53,719
Speaker 1: Yeah, I was kind of scattered around like you, you.

750
00:35:53,680 --> 00:35:56,280
Speaker 3: Have a lot of friends, but you're not in that group.

751
00:35:56,560 --> 00:35:58,080
Speaker 3: Yeah that everyone kind of dislikes.

752
00:35:58,160 --> 00:36:01,160
Speaker 1: Correct, Yeah, yeah, all.

753
00:36:01,120 --> 00:36:04,560
Speaker 3: Right, Becca, you're scared to have children, true or false?

754
00:36:05,120 --> 00:36:05,440
Speaker 2: True?

755
00:36:06,760 --> 00:36:07,520
Speaker 3: I don't blame you.

756
00:36:08,239 --> 00:36:13,480
Speaker 2: Oh it is, like it's weird because I'm very naturally maternal,

757
00:36:13,640 --> 00:36:16,560
Speaker 2: so like I'm not scared of me being able to

758
00:36:16,600 --> 00:36:18,840
Speaker 2: be a mom or anything like that doesn't scare me

759
00:36:18,840 --> 00:36:20,920
Speaker 2: at all. Like I think if someone brought a child

760
00:36:20,920 --> 00:36:23,000
Speaker 2: to me and said, I'm sorry, I gotta go, you

761
00:36:23,040 --> 00:36:24,560
Speaker 2: gotta take care of this thing, I could do it

762
00:36:24,760 --> 00:36:29,440
Speaker 2: and do it well. However, the idea of raising children

763
00:36:29,600 --> 00:36:33,120
Speaker 2: in this world right now and TikTok and all this

764
00:36:33,640 --> 00:36:34,719
Speaker 2: terrifies me.

765
00:36:36,800 --> 00:36:38,400
Speaker 1: But it terrifies me.

766
00:36:38,920 --> 00:36:41,560
Speaker 3: Yeah, because even when you have kids and you feel

767
00:36:41,560 --> 00:36:43,880
Speaker 3: like you got it down, you're terrified of the next step.

768
00:36:44,000 --> 00:36:46,480
Speaker 3: Like right now, I've got a teenager and a preteen.

769
00:36:46,520 --> 00:36:48,480
Speaker 3: I'm scared of the death of having two teenagers. Like

770
00:36:48,520 --> 00:36:51,280
Speaker 3: you know, whatever coming next, that's scary. So it's all scary.

771
00:36:51,440 --> 00:36:55,160
Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, oh god, but you know, sometimes you gotta

772
00:36:55,200 --> 00:36:59,360
Speaker 2: do things that scare you. So like I'm not saying.

773
00:36:58,239 --> 00:37:02,240
Speaker 1: They say, if it does challenge you, doesn't change change.

774
00:37:03,760 --> 00:37:09,319
Speaker 2: Lives by every every situation. You can apply that, all.

775
00:37:09,320 --> 00:37:11,839
Speaker 4: Right, speaking of challenging you, True or false, Tanya, you

776
00:37:11,840 --> 00:37:15,240
Speaker 4: have a higher tolerance for alcohol than Becca does for sure.

777
00:37:16,640 --> 00:37:19,319
Speaker 2: Yeah, because she drinks more than I do. That's right,

778
00:37:19,400 --> 00:37:21,960
Speaker 2: But it used to be reverse. That was not the case,

779
00:37:22,040 --> 00:37:27,000
Speaker 2: like when I was living, When I was living my

780
00:37:27,120 --> 00:37:30,200
Speaker 2: life and just out and drinking, I was like, I

781
00:37:30,239 --> 00:37:31,880
Speaker 2: could handle some liqueur.

782
00:37:32,280 --> 00:37:34,200
Speaker 1: That's true, But I think I think I could still

783
00:37:34,200 --> 00:37:38,040
Speaker 1: out drink you then. Really, yeah, girl.

784
00:37:38,920 --> 00:37:43,879
Speaker 2: Well now the answer is truth because I go down

785
00:37:43,960 --> 00:37:49,879
Speaker 2: quick these days, knows what's up, also knows what's up

786
00:37:50,000 --> 00:37:51,000
Speaker 2: in a different way.

787
00:37:52,719 --> 00:37:54,480
Speaker 3: True or false? Becca, you still have a box of

788
00:37:54,560 --> 00:37:56,160
Speaker 3: roses from The Bachelor in your apartment?

789
00:37:56,680 --> 00:37:58,480
Speaker 2: Okay, if you know me at all, you know that

790
00:37:58,600 --> 00:38:02,000
Speaker 2: is false. As if I would be able to keep that,

791
00:38:02,000 --> 00:38:06,040
Speaker 2: that would be a true for Tanya, but for for me, no,

792
00:38:06,280 --> 00:38:09,200
Speaker 2: Like all the girls were trying to preserve theirs and

793
00:38:09,280 --> 00:38:11,400
Speaker 2: keep them safe, and mine were like smushed in my

794
00:38:11,480 --> 00:38:13,759
Speaker 2: suitcase somewhere, and I was like finally, I was like,

795
00:38:13,800 --> 00:38:15,560
Speaker 2: all right, you gotta get rid of these.

796
00:38:17,320 --> 00:38:19,640
Speaker 1: Sad Well, it was sad.

797
00:38:19,440 --> 00:38:21,000
Speaker 2: That I got dumped twice in a row.

798
00:38:21,160 --> 00:38:22,680
Speaker 1: Yeah, I would only hold ont of them if it

799
00:38:22,760 --> 00:38:23,799
Speaker 1: like ended, well.

800
00:38:24,000 --> 00:38:26,280
Speaker 2: I might have done that, but also maybe the final

801
00:38:26,360 --> 00:38:27,120
Speaker 2: rows or something.

802
00:38:27,440 --> 00:38:29,120
Speaker 4: Yeah, are they real roses?

803
00:38:30,239 --> 00:38:31,839
Speaker 2: Yeah. A lot of the girls like dried them out,

804
00:38:31,960 --> 00:38:34,719
Speaker 2: like would hang them and dry them out. I didn't

805
00:38:34,760 --> 00:38:37,560
Speaker 2: have time, but I was sleeping when I could.

806
00:38:38,400 --> 00:38:40,320
Speaker 4: I still have my boot and ear from senior prom.

807
00:38:42,719 --> 00:38:43,880
Speaker 4: They dried out and kept.

808
00:38:44,280 --> 00:38:46,040
Speaker 1: I did all that stuff too, and then it just

809
00:38:46,040 --> 00:38:48,399
Speaker 1: like kind of got weird to keep it.

810
00:38:48,400 --> 00:38:53,160
Speaker 2: You know. Yeah, yeah, yeah that's hard. Yeah. Easton actually

811
00:38:53,160 --> 00:38:54,919
Speaker 2: weirdly threw that out a few days ago.

812
00:38:55,080 --> 00:38:57,040
Speaker 1: Yeah, i'd just maybe toss.

813
00:38:56,800 --> 00:38:59,680
Speaker 4: It, you know, I'm just going through stuff and it's

814
00:39:00,040 --> 00:39:03,319
Speaker 4: it's weird. Hey, Tanya, true or false? You are not

815
00:39:03,440 --> 00:39:04,360
Speaker 4: a pet person.

816
00:39:07,080 --> 00:39:11,200
Speaker 1: I don't have a pet, so I'm not a pet person,

817
00:39:11,680 --> 00:39:14,840
Speaker 1: but I do want a pet.

818
00:39:15,480 --> 00:39:17,239
Speaker 4: You don't dislike animals, right, No?

819
00:39:17,400 --> 00:39:19,439
Speaker 1: I love animals, and like, do you get a pet?

820
00:39:19,520 --> 00:39:19,840
Speaker 3: Single?

821
00:39:21,239 --> 00:39:23,160
Speaker 1: You know what's funny. A friend of ours, Tani, was like,

822
00:39:23,200 --> 00:39:24,759
Speaker 1: you should get a cat, and I was like, I

823
00:39:24,800 --> 00:39:26,880
Speaker 1: can't love her cat. She loves her cat. I was

824
00:39:26,920 --> 00:39:29,360
Speaker 1: just like I cannot be the single cat lady, like

825
00:39:29,640 --> 00:39:33,480
Speaker 1: just I can't Likeanya. Yeah, I was like I can't

826
00:39:33,480 --> 00:39:33,839
Speaker 1: do it.

827
00:39:34,320 --> 00:39:34,839
Speaker 3: Cats are.

828
00:39:36,400 --> 00:39:40,480
Speaker 2: I don't love that comparison like cats. I respect cats,

829
00:39:40,520 --> 00:39:45,279
Speaker 2: but I also I don't particularly gravitate towards cats. So

830
00:39:45,400 --> 00:39:49,000
Speaker 2: that's you know. I actually think that I'm more of

831
00:39:49,080 --> 00:39:53,480
Speaker 2: just Phoebe, which is just like stand offish and does

832
00:39:53,480 --> 00:39:54,040
Speaker 2: her own thing.

833
00:39:54,560 --> 00:39:56,840
Speaker 1: Yeah, Like I like playing with other people's pets, but

834
00:39:56,880 --> 00:39:59,040
Speaker 1: I don't think I'm ready to have the responsibility of

835
00:39:59,080 --> 00:40:00,400
Speaker 1: having my own pet.

836
00:40:00,680 --> 00:40:04,400
Speaker 2: Loves Tanya like she freaks out and like will not

837
00:40:04,520 --> 00:40:06,160
Speaker 2: leave her alone for the first ten minutes.

838
00:40:06,239 --> 00:40:08,239
Speaker 1: I know, I'm like Phoebe, I'm hugging you like I'm

839
00:40:08,239 --> 00:40:09,800
Speaker 1: loving you. What do you want? What else do you

840
00:40:09,840 --> 00:40:10,279
Speaker 1: want from me?

841
00:40:10,880 --> 00:40:12,400
Speaker 2: Yeah? All right?

842
00:40:12,440 --> 00:40:14,920
Speaker 3: E still find to pick one more good one. All right,

843
00:40:15,400 --> 00:40:17,839
Speaker 3: I'll end with this one. True or false? Becca, you're

844
00:40:17,840 --> 00:40:20,640
Speaker 3: still going strong with ninety five p true.

845
00:40:22,080 --> 00:40:29,160
Speaker 4: Yeah, it's a happy ending, all right, Tanya. True or false?

846
00:40:30,120 --> 00:40:33,640
Speaker 4: You are a bigger Grays fan than Becca.

847
00:40:34,200 --> 00:40:37,600
Speaker 1: I'd say false just because I haven't been watching it

848
00:40:37,600 --> 00:40:41,640
Speaker 1: as long, but i'd yeah, I'd say false.

849
00:40:42,480 --> 00:40:43,440
Speaker 2: Yeah, I would have to say.

850
00:40:43,480 --> 00:40:45,600
Speaker 3: I feel like you've watched each episode more times.

851
00:40:46,040 --> 00:40:49,000
Speaker 1: Maybe true, And it's like Fresher and I watch it

852
00:40:49,000 --> 00:40:51,359
Speaker 1: probably more often than you do, because I watch it weekly.

853
00:40:51,360 --> 00:40:57,360
Speaker 2: Until you have youtubed musical montages of Derek and Meredith

854
00:40:57,400 --> 00:40:58,040
Speaker 2: scenes that.

855
00:40:57,880 --> 00:40:59,200
Speaker 1: That's what we should do on our next day.

856
00:40:59,560 --> 00:41:02,839
Speaker 2: Yes, yeah, I haven't done it in so long. I'm

857
00:41:03,080 --> 00:41:05,480
Speaker 2: so I hope that the ones that I love are

858
00:41:05,520 --> 00:41:06,160
Speaker 2: still up there.

859
00:41:06,440 --> 00:41:08,960
Speaker 3: By the way, we got news today that Gray's is

860
00:41:08,960 --> 00:41:11,399
Speaker 3: now March eleventh. They pushed it back yet another week.

861
00:41:11,520 --> 00:41:14,760
Speaker 2: Oh my gosh, Mark with the bad news.

862
00:41:15,160 --> 00:41:20,360
Speaker 1: So I found myself lately while like watching like the

863
00:41:20,400 --> 00:41:23,680
Speaker 1: older seasons, and I like, forget that Derek was married

864
00:41:24,200 --> 00:41:28,239
Speaker 1: before Meredith. Oh yeah, I forget these things because they

865
00:41:28,280 --> 00:41:30,319
Speaker 1: were like so each other's person, and you know me,

866
00:41:30,400 --> 00:41:35,640
Speaker 1: I like draw the parallels and I'm like, oh my gosh.

867
00:41:33,960 --> 00:41:36,000
Speaker 2: You know that reminds me. Do you know? I would

868
00:41:36,000 --> 00:41:43,000
Speaker 2: be absolutely thrilled if they brought Addison back. She was

869
00:41:43,040 --> 00:41:48,520
Speaker 2: just on private practice. She's still living and everything, But.

870
00:41:48,920 --> 00:41:50,640
Speaker 1: I don't know if I would like for her to

871
00:41:50,640 --> 00:41:51,040
Speaker 1: come back.

872
00:41:51,600 --> 00:41:54,600
Speaker 2: I loved I've literally loved Addison so much. I followed

873
00:41:54,640 --> 00:41:57,080
Speaker 2: private I went on to private practice.

874
00:41:57,360 --> 00:41:59,560
Speaker 1: I liked her, but I'd rather like Arizona come back,

875
00:41:59,719 --> 00:42:00,440
Speaker 1: or like April.

876
00:42:00,760 --> 00:42:03,080
Speaker 2: I would be happy with Arizona and Kelli coming back.

877
00:42:03,840 --> 00:42:07,279
Speaker 2: That'd make me happy. April would be great, Alex would

878
00:42:07,280 --> 00:42:09,000
Speaker 2: be great, Christina would be great.

879
00:42:09,440 --> 00:42:12,080
Speaker 1: Christina like, can we get Christina back?

880
00:42:12,200 --> 00:42:14,480
Speaker 2: I'm sorry, but this is sitting next to me in

881
00:42:14,520 --> 00:42:18,960
Speaker 2: the chair, and I just I try to get it's

882
00:42:19,040 --> 00:42:22,759
Speaker 2: just so if you're listening, it is a Fender ukulele

883
00:42:22,920 --> 00:42:25,600
Speaker 2: pink as it would be you guys.

884
00:42:25,640 --> 00:42:27,920
Speaker 1: It's really I'm not gonna lie. It's kind of defeating.

885
00:42:29,960 --> 00:42:33,640
Speaker 4: Beca the third box from the head, pull down the

886
00:42:33,760 --> 00:42:36,680
Speaker 4: very the string on the very bottom. Okay, just that

887
00:42:36,719 --> 00:42:39,759
Speaker 4: string strum it. That's out of tune.

888
00:42:39,840 --> 00:42:43,720
Speaker 2: That should be a nice that's pretty out of tune.

889
00:42:43,760 --> 00:42:46,000
Speaker 2: So if tonya, you might need to have someone tuning

890
00:42:46,120 --> 00:42:48,920
Speaker 2: if we're able to like do anything with it.

891
00:42:49,200 --> 00:42:52,279
Speaker 1: Honestly, it's very it's been very defeating. And I just

892
00:42:52,320 --> 00:42:54,800
Speaker 1: want to shout out to anybody that listens to scrubbing

893
00:42:54,880 --> 00:42:58,960
Speaker 1: in that plays any sort of instrument. My hat is

894
00:42:59,040 --> 00:43:03,400
Speaker 1: tipped to you, because this has really been the downfall.

895
00:43:03,520 --> 00:43:05,480
Speaker 1: Like you know, I'm Tanya, and I can do whatever

896
00:43:05,480 --> 00:43:08,440
Speaker 1: I set my mind to, and I can achieve any goal,

897
00:43:08,560 --> 00:43:11,040
Speaker 1: and I just you know, if you don't succeed at first,

898
00:43:11,120 --> 00:43:15,320
Speaker 1: you try try again, and you keep trying, and this.

899
00:43:15,239 --> 00:43:18,959
Speaker 2: Is really I just I have to tell you something though.

900
00:43:19,640 --> 00:43:23,000
Speaker 2: You could literally have John Mayer coming to play this

901
00:43:23,080 --> 00:43:24,799
Speaker 2: and if it's out of tune, it's gonna sound bad.

902
00:43:24,840 --> 00:43:29,520
Speaker 2: Oh yeah, as I said, you have someone tune that.

903
00:43:29,680 --> 00:43:31,120
Speaker 2: No matter what you do.

904
00:43:31,440 --> 00:43:35,800
Speaker 1: It's gonna sound like, oh my gosh, Tanya.

905
00:43:36,040 --> 00:43:41,080
Speaker 3: Yeah, YouTube videos on my dog has please that's then.

906
00:43:41,480 --> 00:43:43,680
Speaker 1: I didn't even know that that was the thing. Okay,

907
00:43:43,680 --> 00:43:46,040
Speaker 1: maybe I'll start go back and start there, because let

908
00:43:46,040 --> 00:43:47,919
Speaker 1: me tell you, if I have been I felt very

909
00:43:48,000 --> 00:43:51,279
Speaker 1: like deflated over that to the point where like I'm

910
00:43:51,280 --> 00:43:53,920
Speaker 1: not giving up yet, but it's teetering.

911
00:43:54,080 --> 00:43:55,880
Speaker 2: Well, I want to encourage you to get it tuned

912
00:43:55,920 --> 00:43:56,680
Speaker 2: and then try again.

913
00:43:56,719 --> 00:43:57,680
Speaker 1: Okay, I could do that.

914
00:43:57,719 --> 00:44:01,520
Speaker 2: If it doesn't work out, it doesn't work out, it's cute.

915
00:44:01,680 --> 00:44:04,880
Speaker 2: It's a pink ukulele matches something in your house. I'm sure.

916
00:44:07,040 --> 00:44:09,360
Speaker 2: I think we have some emails which I'm really excited

917
00:44:09,680 --> 00:44:11,399
Speaker 2: to read now that we're going to take it back

918
00:44:11,440 --> 00:44:12,480
Speaker 2: to Taylor Swift.

919
00:44:12,320 --> 00:44:12,920
Speaker 1: Song me too.

920
00:44:13,200 --> 00:44:14,680
Speaker 3: Let's sold emails today.

921
00:44:14,520 --> 00:44:17,080
Speaker 2: Yeah, solid emails. But we are going to take another

922
00:44:17,120 --> 00:44:34,920
Speaker 2: break and we'll be right back with some emails. All right,

923
00:44:35,040 --> 00:44:38,200
Speaker 2: we are back Mark, we have some we have some

924
00:44:38,239 --> 00:44:42,880
Speaker 2: tough emails. So we're gonna give our best advice and

925
00:44:42,920 --> 00:44:46,759
Speaker 2: then we'll see if there's a Taylor Swift relatable song.

926
00:44:47,400 --> 00:44:49,520
Speaker 3: Before we do that, I gotta recommend this show to you.

927
00:44:49,560 --> 00:44:49,719
Speaker 2: Now.

928
00:44:49,840 --> 00:44:51,680
Speaker 3: Is a little bit outside the box from what we

929
00:44:51,719 --> 00:44:54,359
Speaker 3: normally recommend here and what I normally recommend. But here's

930
00:44:54,400 --> 00:44:57,239
Speaker 3: how it goes. Saturday night, I was, uh so, the

931
00:44:57,239 --> 00:44:59,160
Speaker 3: way it works in my house is I say good

932
00:44:59,200 --> 00:45:02,919
Speaker 3: night to my youngest, my eleven year old, and then

933
00:45:03,120 --> 00:45:06,399
Speaker 3: I wait while my wife finishes tidying up and doing

934
00:45:06,440 --> 00:45:09,440
Speaker 3: her nightly ablutions, and then she joins me and we

935
00:45:09,480 --> 00:45:12,759
Speaker 3: watch a show togain. What's an It's that you're just

936
00:45:12,840 --> 00:45:17,560
Speaker 3: kind of your nightly routine, grooming rituals.

937
00:45:18,800 --> 00:45:20,840
Speaker 1: I need to do my nightly ablutions.

938
00:45:21,239 --> 00:45:22,719
Speaker 3: I do like the word. It is a fun word.

939
00:45:23,040 --> 00:45:25,640
Speaker 1: I'm going to start using. I'm gonna start using Yeah, okay, good,

940
00:45:25,719 --> 00:45:27,359
Speaker 1: this is the morning show. Bring it up. I'll say

941
00:45:27,360 --> 00:45:28,120
Speaker 1: it one day this week.

942
00:45:28,239 --> 00:45:31,600
Speaker 3: Okay. So I just finished putting down my daughter and

943
00:45:31,680 --> 00:45:33,960
Speaker 3: I was on Twitter and I saw a bunch of

944
00:45:34,000 --> 00:45:38,239
Speaker 3: people recommending a show on Hulu. It's called Derek Del

945
00:45:38,320 --> 00:45:41,080
Speaker 3: Gaudios in and of itself, and I thought, what the

946
00:45:41,120 --> 00:45:43,000
Speaker 3: hell is this? Why are these people that I know

947
00:45:43,040 --> 00:45:49,200
Speaker 3: in respect on Twitter recommending this shows? Part Yeah, people

948
00:45:49,200 --> 00:45:51,600
Speaker 3: like you know, it's like jud Apatow, Stephen Colbert. I

949
00:45:51,640 --> 00:45:54,520
Speaker 3: think these people are funny and they're all recommending this show,

950
00:45:54,520 --> 00:45:56,719
Speaker 3: and that's interesting. So I looked up a review of it,

951
00:45:56,760 --> 00:46:00,040
Speaker 3: and the reviewer was absolutely floored by it. So I

952
00:46:00,080 --> 00:46:01,759
Speaker 3: was like, well, you know what, I got an hour

953
00:46:01,920 --> 00:46:04,000
Speaker 3: I'm going to watch this thing. What the hell I'm

954
00:46:04,000 --> 00:46:06,080
Speaker 3: going to call an audible which is not my routine.

955
00:46:06,120 --> 00:46:09,160
Speaker 3: I have a strict routine every day of my life,

956
00:46:09,160 --> 00:46:11,000
Speaker 3: and every hour I'm very regimented rather that I'm going

957
00:46:11,040 --> 00:46:13,200
Speaker 3: to watch this, so I turn it out. So what

958
00:46:13,239 --> 00:46:15,000
Speaker 3: it is? It's a live show that did in New

959
00:46:15,080 --> 00:46:18,480
Speaker 3: York like five hundred and fifty times, and they recorded

960
00:46:18,520 --> 00:46:20,120
Speaker 3: a bunch of them, filmed a bunch of them and

961
00:46:20,160 --> 00:46:23,640
Speaker 3: spliced them together. And it's this guy who he does

962
00:46:23,800 --> 00:46:27,400
Speaker 3: some magic and he tells some stories, and that alone

963
00:46:27,440 --> 00:46:31,480
Speaker 3: maybe think like maybe I'll try this. I cannot tell

964
00:46:31,520 --> 00:46:34,080
Speaker 3: you how blown away I was by this show. Not

965
00:46:34,200 --> 00:46:38,560
Speaker 3: because of the magic. I cried twice. It is so

966
00:46:38,719 --> 00:46:44,720
Speaker 3: incredibly moving. A lot of it is about your true identity.

967
00:46:44,400 --> 00:46:45,600
Speaker 1: Oh who you are?

968
00:46:45,960 --> 00:46:49,480
Speaker 3: Keep going and exactly I thought I saw you rolling

969
00:46:49,480 --> 00:46:50,880
Speaker 3: your eyes when I said the word magic, and I

970
00:46:50,920 --> 00:46:51,399
Speaker 3: knew you would.

971
00:46:51,560 --> 00:46:52,120
Speaker 2: Yeah.

972
00:46:52,440 --> 00:46:54,960
Speaker 3: When the people arrive at this show, they see and

973
00:46:54,960 --> 00:46:56,840
Speaker 3: this is right at the beginning, so I'm not spoiling anything.

974
00:46:57,160 --> 00:47:00,720
Speaker 3: It's a wall of hundreds and hundreds of little cards

975
00:47:00,760 --> 00:47:04,600
Speaker 3: and each one says I am, and then you know

976
00:47:04,600 --> 00:47:07,600
Speaker 3: there's five hundred answers. I am a father, I am

977
00:47:07,680 --> 00:47:12,320
Speaker 3: a producer, I am amazing, I am a musician, I

978
00:47:12,360 --> 00:47:15,880
Speaker 3: am everything whatever. There's hundreds of these and the audience

979
00:47:15,920 --> 00:47:17,960
Speaker 3: member is just supposed to take one that they think

980
00:47:18,000 --> 00:47:20,920
Speaker 3: describes them the best and their true identity. Even if

981
00:47:20,920 --> 00:47:23,719
Speaker 3: it's not who other people think they are, they know

982
00:47:23,800 --> 00:47:26,480
Speaker 3: that this is who they really are. And I don't

983
00:47:26,480 --> 00:47:28,360
Speaker 3: want to give anything else away because that plays a

984
00:47:28,360 --> 00:47:31,080
Speaker 3: big role in how this goes forward. But I thought,

985
00:47:31,080 --> 00:47:32,879
Speaker 3: I'm just going to watch a few card tricks before

986
00:47:32,920 --> 00:47:35,240
Speaker 3: my wife comes to bed, and I'm sitting there crying.

987
00:47:35,880 --> 00:47:36,879
Speaker 3: It's incredible.

988
00:47:36,960 --> 00:47:38,040
Speaker 2: Oh wait, what's it on?

989
00:47:39,080 --> 00:47:43,160
Speaker 3: It's on HULDU. Okay, Derek del Gaudio's in and of itself.

990
00:47:43,280 --> 00:47:45,200
Speaker 3: It's like nothing I've ever seen before.

991
00:47:45,640 --> 00:47:48,719
Speaker 2: Oh, I am thrilled. I've been I've been watching amazing race.

992
00:47:48,840 --> 00:47:51,279
Speaker 1: I love shows about identity, like are you kidding me? Nothing?

993
00:47:51,560 --> 00:47:55,040
Speaker 2: Yes? Yeah, I love an emotional breakthrough show.

994
00:47:55,640 --> 00:47:57,400
Speaker 3: So as soon as it was done, I texted Easton

995
00:47:57,440 --> 00:47:58,600
Speaker 3: and I said, you got to watch this.

996
00:47:58,960 --> 00:47:59,879
Speaker 4: It's on our list room.

997
00:48:00,200 --> 00:48:01,600
Speaker 3: It good.

998
00:48:01,880 --> 00:48:03,560
Speaker 2: I'm gonna I'm gonna watch this week and I will

999
00:48:03,600 --> 00:48:05,200
Speaker 2: have a report back on Monday.

1000
00:48:05,320 --> 00:48:07,359
Speaker 3: Please do. And I hope people find it because it's

1001
00:48:07,600 --> 00:48:10,359
Speaker 3: a it's a gem and I've ever heard of it.

1002
00:48:10,360 --> 00:48:14,040
Speaker 3: It's just one's it's a movie. Really, it's an hour now, okay,

1003
00:48:14,280 --> 00:48:17,960
Speaker 3: which is one thing? Yeah? All right? Emails here we go,

1004
00:48:18,120 --> 00:48:20,960
Speaker 3: And what Taylor Swift song do they relate to? This?

1005
00:48:21,000 --> 00:48:24,640
Speaker 3: One's from Samora. I've never been comfortable or felt really

1006
00:48:24,680 --> 00:48:28,279
Speaker 3: myself dating or sleeping with men. I finally came out

1007
00:48:28,360 --> 00:48:30,040
Speaker 3: at the age of twenty five, but I had never

1008
00:48:30,040 --> 00:48:32,759
Speaker 3: been in a relationship before that. I thought coming out

1009
00:48:32,920 --> 00:48:36,000
Speaker 3: would explain everything and hopefully I would now get me happily.

1010
00:48:36,040 --> 00:48:39,080
Speaker 3: Ever after, I'm now thirty five and I've still never

1011
00:48:39,080 --> 00:48:42,719
Speaker 3: been in a relationship. Is my biggest insecurity. I was

1012
00:48:42,760 --> 00:48:45,360
Speaker 3: in an off and on again thing with someone for years,

1013
00:48:45,440 --> 00:48:48,200
Speaker 3: but there never any sparks or butterflies. Do you think

1014
00:48:48,320 --> 00:48:51,040
Speaker 3: there really is someone for everyone?

1015
00:48:53,040 --> 00:48:53,360
Speaker 2: Hmmm?

1016
00:48:56,239 --> 00:48:58,120
Speaker 1: See, now I'm so fixated. I'm trying to find the

1017
00:48:58,160 --> 00:49:01,680
Speaker 1: Taylor Swift song. I'm not, but I mean, she doesn't

1018
00:49:01,719 --> 00:49:04,560
Speaker 1: care about the tailor stuff. Okay, Well, for me, it's

1019
00:49:04,680 --> 00:49:08,480
Speaker 1: easy because I do believe that I do believe that

1020
00:49:08,480 --> 00:49:11,799
Speaker 1: there's somebody for everybody, and I definitely don't think that

1021
00:49:12,040 --> 00:49:14,080
Speaker 1: just how she's thirty five now and she said she

1022
00:49:14,080 --> 00:49:17,800
Speaker 1: still hasn't found it. I don't think that that means anything.

1023
00:49:18,360 --> 00:49:20,160
Speaker 3: Really, anybody she's never been in a relationship.

1024
00:49:20,480 --> 00:49:22,799
Speaker 1: I don't necessarily think that means anything. I just think

1025
00:49:22,840 --> 00:49:25,919
Speaker 1: that it's just taking. You know, everybody has their own

1026
00:49:26,000 --> 00:49:29,160
Speaker 1: timing in life, and there's a reason why you haven't

1027
00:49:29,200 --> 00:49:31,399
Speaker 1: met that person. I think that person maybe is still

1028
00:49:31,440 --> 00:49:36,040
Speaker 1: being made to be your partner and being perfected in

1029
00:49:36,080 --> 00:49:40,040
Speaker 1: that way, you know. And so yeah, I don't know.

1030
00:49:40,320 --> 00:49:42,520
Speaker 1: I'm a hopeless romantic, So I do think that there's

1031
00:49:42,520 --> 00:49:44,160
Speaker 1: somebody out there for you, and I wouldn't be worried

1032
00:49:44,160 --> 00:49:44,560
Speaker 1: about it.

1033
00:49:45,040 --> 00:49:51,120
Speaker 2: I think that I think it's hard. I think it's

1034
00:49:51,160 --> 00:49:54,279
Speaker 2: easy to say that when you have experienced those sparks

1035
00:49:54,320 --> 00:49:58,200
Speaker 2: and butterflies, you know, you say it again, Like, I

1036
00:49:58,280 --> 00:50:01,040
Speaker 2: think it's easy to be hopeful when you have experienced

1037
00:50:01,080 --> 00:50:04,040
Speaker 2: even if it was short lived or if it wasn't reciprocated,

1038
00:50:04,080 --> 00:50:07,320
Speaker 2: to experience that, whether it's with a guy or girl,

1039
00:50:07,400 --> 00:50:11,719
Speaker 2: whatever the case, Like I think it's I just want

1040
00:50:11,760 --> 00:50:15,800
Speaker 2: to say some more that, Like I can understand why

1041
00:50:16,400 --> 00:50:20,680
Speaker 2: you are questioning things and feeling discouraged by this, because

1042
00:50:21,640 --> 00:50:24,600
Speaker 2: I think a lot of us experience that spark and butterfly,

1043
00:50:24,840 --> 00:50:27,239
Speaker 2: I mean even early on, like I had it for

1044
00:50:27,280 --> 00:50:30,320
Speaker 2: people who didn't reciprocate it for me or enough for

1045
00:50:30,360 --> 00:50:33,120
Speaker 2: it to be a relationship, but I got that butterfly

1046
00:50:33,200 --> 00:50:36,120
Speaker 2: feel that yeah, that spark when you saw them, of

1047
00:50:36,160 --> 00:50:42,000
Speaker 2: like excitement that you really can't even explain. It's like

1048
00:50:42,040 --> 00:50:44,120
Speaker 2: not even a tangible thing that you can like put

1049
00:50:44,120 --> 00:50:47,120
Speaker 2: into words. And then in my relationship now it's the

1050
00:50:47,160 --> 00:50:51,240
Speaker 2: first relationship where it has been reciprocated. And I think

1051
00:50:52,360 --> 00:50:56,279
Speaker 2: I think now knowing that you haven't really experienced it

1052
00:50:56,320 --> 00:50:58,920
Speaker 2: with women or men, I think that can kind of

1053
00:50:58,960 --> 00:51:02,480
Speaker 2: take the pressure off, Like your identity or your sexuality,

1054
00:51:02,520 --> 00:51:05,480
Speaker 2: whatever that may be, and just know that it can

1055
00:51:05,520 --> 00:51:08,319
Speaker 2: come out of nowhere and it can happen. It could

1056
00:51:08,320 --> 00:51:10,560
Speaker 2: happen this year, it could happen tomorrow. It could take

1057
00:51:10,600 --> 00:51:13,160
Speaker 2: a few years for that to happen, but don't feel

1058
00:51:13,719 --> 00:51:17,040
Speaker 2: discouraged that it's never gonna happen. And maybe this would

1059
00:51:17,080 --> 00:51:19,520
Speaker 2: be something where you could talk to someone and maybe

1060
00:51:19,640 --> 00:51:22,040
Speaker 2: there's walls up where you don't even allow your brain

1061
00:51:22,120 --> 00:51:25,160
Speaker 2: to go there where you can experience that feeling, because

1062
00:51:25,160 --> 00:51:27,560
Speaker 2: it's kind of scary to feel that feeling of like

1063
00:51:27,640 --> 00:51:30,840
Speaker 2: not really having control over your heart and your brain

1064
00:51:30,960 --> 00:51:32,560
Speaker 2: and there's like so much happening.

1065
00:51:32,600 --> 00:51:35,520
Speaker 1: And maybe now they say when you're looking to the north,

1066
00:51:36,600 --> 00:51:38,200
Speaker 1: it just hits you from itself.

1067
00:51:39,120 --> 00:51:43,120
Speaker 2: But I do think there are there's people that specialize in,

1068
00:51:45,120 --> 00:51:49,760
Speaker 2: you know, intimacy and sexuality and kind of figuring out

1069
00:51:50,719 --> 00:51:53,320
Speaker 2: maybe there's something going on and it's it has nothing

1070
00:51:53,360 --> 00:51:55,160
Speaker 2: to do with anyone else, and maybe you've put up

1071
00:51:55,200 --> 00:51:58,880
Speaker 2: these walls or these blockers where you are scared to

1072
00:51:58,880 --> 00:52:01,200
Speaker 2: feel that. I don't know, I'm just trying. I just

1073
00:52:01,239 --> 00:52:04,239
Speaker 2: want to say, like, don't get so defeated that you

1074
00:52:04,320 --> 00:52:07,080
Speaker 2: give up on the possibility of it happening, but also

1075
00:52:07,280 --> 00:52:10,120
Speaker 2: know that it's okay to reach out for help and

1076
00:52:10,160 --> 00:52:12,520
Speaker 2: talk to someone who might be able to help guide

1077
00:52:12,600 --> 00:52:15,839
Speaker 2: you and figure out what's going on. And then there's

1078
00:52:15,880 --> 00:52:18,799
Speaker 2: people who are asexual and they don't feel those like

1079
00:52:19,239 --> 00:52:22,520
Speaker 2: intimate sparks and feelings towards anyone, and they have people

1080
00:52:22,560 --> 00:52:26,000
Speaker 2: that are their partner and their friends, and it could

1081
00:52:26,040 --> 00:52:29,040
Speaker 2: be the case for you. But everyone's different and everyone

1082
00:52:29,120 --> 00:52:33,439
Speaker 2: experiences these moments at different times. Some people can look

1083
00:52:33,480 --> 00:52:36,120
Speaker 2: back on a time where they were a child and

1084
00:52:36,200 --> 00:52:38,440
Speaker 2: had that spark and butterfly, and then some people it

1085
00:52:38,480 --> 00:52:43,000
Speaker 2: takes many, many years, and so just know that there's

1086
00:52:43,080 --> 00:52:48,319
Speaker 2: time for everybody. And who knows. If I don't know

1087
00:52:48,360 --> 00:52:51,360
Speaker 2: that I'm as hopeful as Tanya, but I do like

1088
00:52:51,440 --> 00:52:54,600
Speaker 2: to say that there's someone out there that can be

1089
00:52:54,640 --> 00:52:56,879
Speaker 2: a partner for you, and I do believe that.

1090
00:52:57,000 --> 00:52:58,719
Speaker 1: Yeah, I just think if it's such a desire of

1091
00:52:58,760 --> 00:53:02,520
Speaker 1: your heart, you know, I really do believe, if it's

1092
00:53:02,520 --> 00:53:04,320
Speaker 1: the desire of your heart, that it will get fulfilled.

1093
00:53:05,440 --> 00:53:08,000
Speaker 2: Yeah. I like to believe that too, But there has

1094
00:53:08,080 --> 00:53:12,000
Speaker 2: to be, you know, willingness to be hopeful and not

1095
00:53:12,080 --> 00:53:12,600
Speaker 2: give up.

1096
00:53:12,600 --> 00:53:14,799
Speaker 1: True And I mean, it's like Matthew has always says,

1097
00:53:14,840 --> 00:53:16,799
Speaker 1: you have to just like you can't just like sit

1098
00:53:16,840 --> 00:53:20,319
Speaker 1: there and be like hope love comes my way. You know,

1099
00:53:20,400 --> 00:53:24,359
Speaker 1: you have to like be proactive, get out there, meet

1100
00:53:24,400 --> 00:53:24,920
Speaker 1: some people.

1101
00:53:27,520 --> 00:53:29,080
Speaker 3: Tough to do these days. But I think you both

1102
00:53:29,080 --> 00:53:30,600
Speaker 3: had really good advice and you both come at it

1103
00:53:30,640 --> 00:53:32,759
Speaker 3: from a different angle. I feel like for Beca, I

1104
00:53:32,800 --> 00:53:35,080
Speaker 3: feel like the sparks and butterflies have been more rare

1105
00:53:35,320 --> 00:53:36,960
Speaker 3: in your life. Or Tanya, I feel like you get

1106
00:53:36,960 --> 00:53:39,520
Speaker 3: sparks and butterflies pretty regularly. So it's good to hear

1107
00:53:39,560 --> 00:53:40,360
Speaker 3: from both sides.

1108
00:53:42,960 --> 00:53:44,759
Speaker 1: I get the sparks, I get the butterflies, I get

1109
00:53:44,800 --> 00:53:46,839
Speaker 1: the tingles of my vagina.

1110
00:53:47,200 --> 00:53:50,399
Speaker 2: It's just a lot very picky where I allow those

1111
00:53:50,680 --> 00:53:54,560
Speaker 2: like I'm like, because you do kind of sometimes. I

1112
00:53:54,560 --> 00:53:57,960
Speaker 2: think your brain can shut off when you fear getting

1113
00:53:58,600 --> 00:54:02,440
Speaker 2: rejected or if it's not reciprocated. Sometimes for me, I

1114
00:54:02,480 --> 00:54:04,080
Speaker 2: can be like, I'm not even gonna let myself go

1115
00:54:04,160 --> 00:54:06,839
Speaker 2: there and feel anything, because yeah, I could get hurt

1116
00:54:06,880 --> 00:54:07,560
Speaker 2: if I do that.

1117
00:54:07,680 --> 00:54:10,560
Speaker 1: You know what, I got a lot of messages from

1118
00:54:10,640 --> 00:54:15,000
Speaker 1: women just saying like asking me if I'm going to

1119
00:54:15,040 --> 00:54:16,560
Speaker 1: start dating again and if I'm going to get back

1120
00:54:16,560 --> 00:54:20,840
Speaker 1: on the horse, because they're just like heartbreak is so painful.

1121
00:54:20,960 --> 00:54:22,560
Speaker 1: Like honestly, I feel like it's like one of the

1122
00:54:22,560 --> 00:54:24,520
Speaker 1: worst feelings ever. I would not even wish it upon

1123
00:54:24,560 --> 00:54:27,920
Speaker 1: my worst enemy. That sometimes I think people get scared

1124
00:54:28,160 --> 00:54:30,440
Speaker 1: to even put themselves back out there again because of

1125
00:54:30,480 --> 00:54:34,120
Speaker 1: that fear of losing it again. You know, like it

1126
00:54:34,360 --> 00:54:37,279
Speaker 1: freaking sucks, Like it's like the worst pain ever. And

1127
00:54:37,640 --> 00:54:39,640
Speaker 1: it's like almost like you keep putting yourself back on

1128
00:54:39,640 --> 00:54:41,680
Speaker 1: this treadmill to just get hurt again, you know. But

1129
00:54:41,680 --> 00:54:44,120
Speaker 1: it's like, you know, put yourself on that tread back

1130
00:54:44,160 --> 00:54:48,560
Speaker 1: on that treadmill. Then you're just gonna stay where you are.

1131
00:54:48,600 --> 00:54:50,520
Speaker 1: And if you're happy where you are, then that's fine.

1132
00:54:50,520 --> 00:54:53,560
Speaker 1: There's you know, no problem with that. But if you

1133
00:54:53,640 --> 00:54:56,759
Speaker 1: want something else, then you just have to just faith

1134
00:54:56,800 --> 00:55:00,440
Speaker 1: over fear it. Do it. What is this saying? It's

1135
00:55:00,440 --> 00:55:02,400
Speaker 1: like do it with fear.

1136
00:55:02,920 --> 00:55:05,600
Speaker 2: Oh, Mark, you had this quote, you know something about

1137
00:55:05,800 --> 00:55:07,600
Speaker 2: doing it if you Yeah.

1138
00:55:07,440 --> 00:55:09,520
Speaker 1: Like if you're scared, just do it scared or whatever.

1139
00:55:09,560 --> 00:55:12,600
Speaker 3: Oh yeah, or something.

1140
00:55:12,400 --> 00:55:16,279
Speaker 1: Like that, Yeah, something like that, if you're scared to

1141
00:55:16,320 --> 00:55:18,040
Speaker 1: do it, then just do it scared or something.

1142
00:55:18,719 --> 00:55:20,960
Speaker 2: Okay, my Taylor Swift song for this.

1143
00:55:21,280 --> 00:55:26,040
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, I have one. What endgame? I want to

1144
00:55:26,080 --> 00:55:28,640
Speaker 1: be your end game? So that is the person that's

1145
00:55:28,680 --> 00:55:30,360
Speaker 1: out there they're singing that to you.

1146
00:55:33,640 --> 00:55:37,960
Speaker 2: Mine's treacherous. It's like the fear of putting yourself out

1147
00:55:38,000 --> 00:55:42,920
Speaker 2: there to get hurt, both both good and I believe.

1148
00:55:42,920 --> 00:55:45,880
Speaker 3: The quote is if you can't beat fear, do it scared?

1149
00:55:46,080 --> 00:55:47,680
Speaker 2: Yeah? Yeah, yeah, that's it. That's It's it.

1150
00:55:48,120 --> 00:55:49,359
Speaker 1: Can you text me that like that?

1151
00:55:49,880 --> 00:55:52,960
Speaker 3: Sure? All right? This is from Anonymous. My best friend

1152
00:55:53,000 --> 00:55:56,120
Speaker 3: blindsided me this week. We were drinking and playing games

1153
00:55:56,120 --> 00:55:58,560
Speaker 3: with friends, and she told us she was going to

1154
00:55:58,560 --> 00:56:01,360
Speaker 3: ask her brother to be her man of honor in

1155
00:56:01,400 --> 00:56:04,560
Speaker 3: her wedding. We've been best friends for twelve years. She

1156
00:56:04,760 --> 00:56:07,120
Speaker 3: was mine maid of honor. I have a very small

1157
00:56:07,160 --> 00:56:08,839
Speaker 3: circle of friends, and at this point in my life,

1158
00:56:08,880 --> 00:56:10,759
Speaker 3: I truly can't see anyone else asking me to be

1159
00:56:10,760 --> 00:56:13,040
Speaker 3: there made of honor. I always thought she would be

1160
00:56:13,080 --> 00:56:14,759
Speaker 3: mine and I would be hers, and it hurts on

1161
00:56:14,880 --> 00:56:17,840
Speaker 3: so many levels. It makes me feel like maybe we

1162
00:56:17,840 --> 00:56:19,799
Speaker 3: aren't as close as I thought we were. Do I

1163
00:56:19,840 --> 00:56:22,319
Speaker 3: say something to her? Or is that too selfish? I

1164
00:56:22,360 --> 00:56:24,279
Speaker 3: totally get that her wedding day is not about me?

1165
00:56:25,280 --> 00:56:28,280
Speaker 3: But how do I shake this off? What song should

1166
00:56:28,280 --> 00:56:29,000
Speaker 3: we pick for this one?

1167
00:56:29,120 --> 00:56:29,359
Speaker 4: Yeah?

1168
00:56:29,440 --> 00:56:29,960
Speaker 2: Take it off?

1169
00:56:30,000 --> 00:56:34,880
Speaker 1: This suns really just led right to it.

1170
00:56:34,960 --> 00:56:38,040
Speaker 2: There you want to start?

1171
00:56:38,880 --> 00:56:41,200
Speaker 1: Yeah, I mean to think. My advice on this is

1172
00:56:41,600 --> 00:56:44,520
Speaker 1: it's her day, and if she wants her brother to

1173
00:56:44,520 --> 00:56:46,360
Speaker 1: be her man of honor, then you need to just

1174
00:56:47,560 --> 00:56:49,879
Speaker 1: let her do that. This isn't I know it hurts

1175
00:56:49,880 --> 00:56:52,760
Speaker 1: your feelings, but a lot of things hurt your feelings,

1176
00:56:52,800 --> 00:56:54,799
Speaker 1: you know what I mean. And that's okay because her

1177
00:56:54,800 --> 00:56:57,240
Speaker 1: wedding isn't about you, so as much as it sucks,

1178
00:56:57,239 --> 00:57:00,960
Speaker 1: and I'm sorry, like it is like that would hurt

1179
00:57:01,000 --> 00:57:03,120
Speaker 1: my feelings, but at the end of the day, it's

1180
00:57:03,880 --> 00:57:06,200
Speaker 1: really not about you, so I wouldn't say anything.

1181
00:57:06,440 --> 00:57:08,080
Speaker 2: And I think a lot of times I don't know

1182
00:57:08,239 --> 00:57:10,200
Speaker 2: if she only has a brother or if she has

1183
00:57:10,239 --> 00:57:13,200
Speaker 2: a sister, but her if she had a sister, a

1184
00:57:13,239 --> 00:57:15,919
Speaker 2: lot of people have their sisters, Like my sisters will

1185
00:57:15,920 --> 00:57:19,120
Speaker 2: probably be made of honors, like you know, it'll be

1186
00:57:19,400 --> 00:57:22,600
Speaker 2: that it's my sister. Yeah, and you'll be a bridesmaid.

1187
00:57:23,440 --> 00:57:26,360
Speaker 2: But like I think, as a best friend, your job,

1188
00:57:27,240 --> 00:57:29,160
Speaker 2: I mean, whatever, I troll my eyes and move on.

1189
00:57:29,320 --> 00:57:32,880
Speaker 2: But I think as a best friend, your job and

1190
00:57:32,920 --> 00:57:35,280
Speaker 2: in this friendship and when it's her wedding is to

1191
00:57:35,360 --> 00:57:38,280
Speaker 2: show up and be a maid of honor to everything

1192
00:57:38,320 --> 00:57:40,240
Speaker 2: that you can to make her day the best day

1193
00:57:40,280 --> 00:57:43,440
Speaker 2: ever because it's about her and if her brother being

1194
00:57:43,520 --> 00:57:46,000
Speaker 2: up there standing by her side is what she wants,

1195
00:57:46,080 --> 00:57:48,680
Speaker 2: then you show up and you be the best bridesmaid

1196
00:57:49,200 --> 00:57:51,080
Speaker 2: and friend that you can be.

1197
00:57:51,800 --> 00:57:54,080
Speaker 1: And also it's like her brother, like no offense, he's

1198
00:57:54,120 --> 00:57:56,240
Speaker 1: probably not gonna, you know what I mean, want to

1199
00:57:56,800 --> 00:57:58,360
Speaker 1: do any details.

1200
00:57:57,920 --> 00:57:59,480
Speaker 3: Like the bachelorette park.

1201
00:57:59,560 --> 00:58:01,560
Speaker 1: That's what I'm say. You need to get the penis

1202
00:58:01,600 --> 00:58:03,200
Speaker 1: straws and all the things.

1203
00:58:03,280 --> 00:58:05,600
Speaker 2: Well, yeah, I was just gonna say, like like get

1204
00:58:05,640 --> 00:58:07,720
Speaker 2: the role, like the title of the role out of

1205
00:58:07,800 --> 00:58:10,640
Speaker 2: your head and be that person, like be take on

1206
00:58:10,720 --> 00:58:12,760
Speaker 2: the role of maid of honor and do whatever you

1207
00:58:12,800 --> 00:58:14,200
Speaker 2: can to step up.

1208
00:58:14,320 --> 00:58:15,320
Speaker 1: You know what I like about that?

1209
00:58:15,440 --> 00:58:17,240
Speaker 2: WHOA, she's pointing at me hard.

1210
00:58:18,040 --> 00:58:22,600
Speaker 1: Because we're so fixated on titles and boxes and things,

1211
00:58:22,680 --> 00:58:25,040
Speaker 1: and it's just like, so you're not the maid of honor.

1212
00:58:25,720 --> 00:58:28,640
Speaker 1: You can still fully help out and like do all

1213
00:58:28,680 --> 00:58:31,200
Speaker 1: the things that you want for your best friend, but

1214
00:58:31,320 --> 00:58:32,680
Speaker 1: you just don't have the title.

1215
00:58:32,480 --> 00:58:34,560
Speaker 2: And I would just I like, I'm with Tanya, like

1216
00:58:34,840 --> 00:58:37,439
Speaker 2: if it hurts, like it's you're allowed to be hurt

1217
00:58:37,440 --> 00:58:39,640
Speaker 2: by that, but also like you got to put your

1218
00:58:39,680 --> 00:58:42,880
Speaker 2: feelings aside on this and tell her, Hey, I know

1219
00:58:42,960 --> 00:58:44,920
Speaker 2: that you're having your brother is the man of honor,

1220
00:58:44,920 --> 00:58:47,040
Speaker 2: but I want to step up and do whatever I

1221
00:58:47,080 --> 00:58:49,760
Speaker 2: can to make this like the greatest day of your life.

1222
00:58:49,840 --> 00:58:54,280
Speaker 2: So yeah, just try and shake it, shake it off.

1223
00:58:55,680 --> 00:58:57,560
Speaker 2: Just know in your mind that you are the maid

1224
00:58:57,640 --> 00:58:59,640
Speaker 2: of honor and he's the man of Honor, and if

1225
00:58:59,680 --> 00:59:02,200
Speaker 2: it's not your title, that's that's what you need to

1226
00:59:02,200 --> 00:59:06,120
Speaker 2: do as her best friend of twelve years.

1227
00:59:07,600 --> 00:59:10,200
Speaker 1: Wow, And I feel like we nailed them with the

1228
00:59:10,240 --> 00:59:13,720
Speaker 1: Taylor Swift songs.

1229
00:59:13,520 --> 00:59:17,040
Speaker 2: It's hard when like you're just going through your rolodex,

1230
00:59:17,320 --> 00:59:17,600
Speaker 2: you know.

1231
00:59:17,760 --> 00:59:19,400
Speaker 1: You know. I just I don't know why because I

1232
00:59:19,440 --> 00:59:22,240
Speaker 1: think obviously, like you know, when you're going through a breakup,

1233
00:59:22,240 --> 00:59:26,680
Speaker 1: Taylor Swift is just easy thing to lean on. But

1234
00:59:26,840 --> 00:59:29,080
Speaker 1: like I've been like listening to the songs in such

1235
00:59:29,120 --> 00:59:32,040
Speaker 1: a different way now, you know what I mean.

1236
00:59:32,120 --> 00:59:32,280
Speaker 2: Like.

1237
00:59:34,760 --> 00:59:38,560
Speaker 1: Red is just like hitting me on like such a

1238
00:59:38,560 --> 00:59:40,560
Speaker 1: different level than it's ever hit me before. I mean,

1239
00:59:40,560 --> 00:59:42,760
Speaker 1: I think I've listened to Red maybe five hundred times

1240
00:59:42,800 --> 00:59:43,480
Speaker 1: in this week.

1241
00:59:43,560 --> 00:59:47,400
Speaker 2: Read was your first breakup album, wasn't it? Didn't you

1242
00:59:47,440 --> 00:59:49,000
Speaker 2: listen to that? Yeah?

1243
00:59:49,040 --> 00:59:51,840
Speaker 1: I'm going back. Yeah, I just I mean stands the

1244
00:59:51,920 --> 00:59:55,640
Speaker 1: test of time. And then there's the other one, the uh,

1245
00:59:57,360 --> 00:59:59,080
Speaker 1: the one that we watched the video. You can hear

1246
00:59:59,120 --> 01:00:02,680
Speaker 1: it in the style no no, no, no, no no love.

1247
01:00:03,040 --> 01:00:04,480
Speaker 1: This love is good.

1248
01:00:04,600 --> 01:00:06,040
Speaker 2: This love is bad.

1249
01:00:06,120 --> 01:00:09,560
Speaker 1: This love is the love back from the dead. All

1250
01:00:10,480 --> 01:00:17,920
Speaker 1: these hands had to let it go free in singing form.

1251
01:00:18,080 --> 01:00:21,040
Speaker 1: I'm just really finding some gems in Taylor Swift's music

1252
01:00:21,160 --> 01:00:23,960
Speaker 1: in her rolodex and just would like to say thank

1253
01:00:24,000 --> 01:00:24,400
Speaker 1: you again.

1254
01:00:24,520 --> 01:00:27,040
Speaker 2: Okay, I I might change my my song for some

1255
01:00:27,120 --> 01:00:29,479
Speaker 2: more because I think I'm gonna do Jumps and Fall,

1256
01:00:29,720 --> 01:00:32,840
Speaker 2: which is an old one, but it talks about don't

1257
01:00:32,880 --> 01:00:38,919
Speaker 2: be afraid to jump and then fall. M it's good.

1258
01:00:40,440 --> 01:00:43,360
Speaker 1: Well, what song, what Taylor song would you say represents

1259
01:00:43,360 --> 01:00:47,320
Speaker 1: your life right now? If you say white.

1260
01:00:47,080 --> 01:00:51,120
Speaker 2: Horse, why would that be the one?

1261
01:00:51,880 --> 01:00:54,200
Speaker 1: It's like just the most like fairy tale romantic song.

1262
01:00:55,040 --> 01:00:57,360
Speaker 2: I'm not a pretty No, it's like a breakup song.

1263
01:00:57,480 --> 01:01:05,080
Speaker 2: It is, I mean, where where does one begin? I

1264
01:01:05,120 --> 01:01:07,080
Speaker 2: would say, you know, in my life right now, take

1265
01:01:07,120 --> 01:01:11,200
Speaker 2: out my like my relationship more so, just my personal

1266
01:01:11,360 --> 01:01:14,680
Speaker 2: life is clean. So I'm like really ridding myself of

1267
01:01:14,720 --> 01:01:19,880
Speaker 2: a lot of the expectations from other people and just

1268
01:01:19,960 --> 01:01:22,040
Speaker 2: kind of cleaning myself of.

1269
01:01:23,320 --> 01:01:25,640
Speaker 1: I love that, Thank you, I do. I love that.

1270
01:01:25,680 --> 01:01:28,040
Speaker 1: It's a great one, guys, care to share.

1271
01:01:30,800 --> 01:01:32,400
Speaker 3: I don't know if it's appropriate in my life, but

1272
01:01:32,440 --> 01:01:34,640
Speaker 3: I have been getting very into anxile lately. And I know,

1273
01:01:35,360 --> 01:01:37,280
Speaker 3: you know, a little late to that party, but man,

1274
01:01:37,360 --> 01:01:39,840
Speaker 3: is that great when he when he's saying, like, you know,

1275
01:01:40,760 --> 01:01:43,400
Speaker 3: I never learned to read your mind. You never gave

1276
01:01:43,400 --> 01:01:46,480
Speaker 3: a warning sign. And she's like, I gave so many.

1277
01:01:46,200 --> 01:01:49,720
Speaker 2: Signs, Mark, it is my favorite part of the song.

1278
01:01:49,800 --> 01:01:52,360
Speaker 2: And she's just like you can feel the fight of

1279
01:01:52,400 --> 01:01:54,720
Speaker 2: like you never told me, and she's like, I gave

1280
01:01:54,760 --> 01:01:56,040
Speaker 2: you so many.

1281
01:01:56,200 --> 01:01:58,120
Speaker 1: I mean, I mean, I know, it's just I know

1282
01:01:58,240 --> 01:02:03,400
Speaker 1: you guys. I mean really, I'm just I can't. Every

1283
01:02:03,440 --> 01:02:05,640
Speaker 1: Tailor song just hits me right now, like and literally

1284
01:02:05,720 --> 01:02:07,800
Speaker 1: every single one for me.

1285
01:02:07,880 --> 01:02:10,840
Speaker 4: The one that really represents my life right now is

1286
01:02:10,880 --> 01:02:13,200
Speaker 4: a thug story, the one she did with Tea Pain.

1287
01:02:14,560 --> 01:02:16,800
Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, a little spin on love story.

1288
01:02:17,320 --> 01:02:23,479
Speaker 4: Yeah, I had a dream last night, I had high top.

1289
01:02:23,600 --> 01:02:26,440
Speaker 4: Next I had diamonds on my mouth and diamonds on

1290
01:02:26,520 --> 01:02:29,240
Speaker 4: my mic. When a time I woke, I was singing

1291
01:02:29,320 --> 01:02:32,400
Speaker 4: I'm on a boat. I could do the whole thing.

1292
01:02:32,480 --> 01:02:33,760
Speaker 1: I've never heard that one.

1293
01:02:34,120 --> 01:02:36,600
Speaker 4: It's really good. I'll send you a link.

1294
01:02:36,440 --> 01:02:44,960
Speaker 2: To it that'll be immediately happening after the podcast. Well

1295
01:02:44,960 --> 01:02:48,560
Speaker 2: in that note, what a beautiful way to end. What's your?

1296
01:02:49,120 --> 01:02:49,360
Speaker 2: Is your?

1297
01:02:50,040 --> 01:02:52,280
Speaker 1: I mean, okay, no, no, it's I mean, I can't

1298
01:02:52,280 --> 01:02:55,840
Speaker 1: even It's red and it goes red, it goes to

1299
01:02:56,760 --> 01:02:58,360
Speaker 1: this love and then.

1300
01:02:58,280 --> 01:02:59,200
Speaker 2: I knew your trouble.

1301
01:03:00,000 --> 01:03:03,160
Speaker 1: No oh yeah, I like that one isn't clinging to

1302
01:03:03,200 --> 01:03:05,960
Speaker 1: me because for some reason, it's like very like childish,

1303
01:03:06,000 --> 01:03:08,960
Speaker 1: a little bit for the deep ones like even tolerate it.

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01:03:09,840 --> 01:03:12,880
Speaker 2: Ooh oh yeah.

1305
01:03:13,200 --> 01:03:15,240
Speaker 1: Like it's just I mean, all of them, Like I

1306
01:03:15,320 --> 01:03:17,760
Speaker 1: just I have a go I'm making like an Emo

1307
01:03:17,800 --> 01:03:19,720
Speaker 1: Taylor playlist. I just like, keep listening to over.

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01:03:19,720 --> 01:03:21,440
Speaker 2: Now you're gonna have to make that public. A lot

1309
01:03:21,440 --> 01:03:23,480
Speaker 2: of people are won in your public playlist, I know,

1310
01:03:23,760 --> 01:03:26,520
Speaker 2: so you have to work on those. We love you

1311
01:03:26,560 --> 01:03:30,080
Speaker 2: all so much. I hope that you have a wonderful week.

1312
01:03:32,560 --> 01:03:36,040
Speaker 2: Lift each other up, be kind to each other, show

1313
01:03:36,120 --> 01:03:39,520
Speaker 2: love to each other. Yeah, and just know that people

1314
01:03:39,560 --> 01:03:42,000
Speaker 2: are going through things that you may not know about

1315
01:03:42,320 --> 01:03:44,000
Speaker 2: and that's why it's important to be kind all the

1316
01:03:44,040 --> 01:03:47,880
Speaker 2: time it's true, or don't say anything at all. Love

1317
01:03:47,920 --> 01:03:50,520
Speaker 2: you all so much. We will be back next week

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01:03:50,840 --> 01:03:51,800
Speaker 2: and can't wait.

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Speaker 1: Can't wait. Bye, love you bye,