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Speaker 1: Every day a week ago up the Breakfast Club.

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Speaker 2: I'm finished for y'all.

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Speaker 1: Dun morning. Everybody's d j en Vy, Jesson, Larry and

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Speaker 1: Charlamagne the Guy. We are the Breakfast Club. Long roses

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Speaker 1: here as well. We got a special guest in the building.

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Speaker 3: Sure we welcome back.

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Speaker 1: How are you feeling way?

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Speaker 3: You know, I'm just happy to be here.

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Speaker 2: You are glow wing always you You are a glow.

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Speaker 3: Wing Thank you brother, because you know me for a

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Speaker 3: long time and congress on everything.

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Speaker 2: Thank you very much, Thank you very much. What is it?

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Speaker 2: What got you feeling so good nowadays?

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Speaker 3: I mean, I'm I don't have my baby with me

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Speaker 3: right now. I'm having a little mommy Baker. She's too

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Speaker 3: I'm missing so much, but I need the girl. No

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Speaker 3: one prepared me for this. You know, it's a good time.

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Speaker 3: We have a great time. Yeah, but I'm enjoying it

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Speaker 3: so motherhood, marriage, marriage, you know, we live in nice

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Speaker 3: special out here. Jes Thank you, sir.

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Speaker 4: How does that feel?

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Speaker 2: You know?

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Speaker 3: It feels good to finally do me fully. You know,

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Speaker 3: usually I'm on shows and movies and I'm still doing

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Speaker 3: that for real, but to tell my stories and for

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Speaker 3: people to get to know me. It's just so cool

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Speaker 3: and for my you know, my children to see that legacy. Yeah, yeah,

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Speaker 3: it's beautiful.

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Speaker 5: You've been in Hollywood for years and it feels like

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Speaker 5: people are just not catching up the how versatile you are, right, Like,

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Speaker 5: have you had to make peace with success arriving on

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Speaker 5: his own timeline?

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Speaker 3: You know, I've been schooled by so many amazing actresses,

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Speaker 3: Shirley Ralph and you know, so many people that you know,

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Speaker 3: there's an elevator. There's no elevator to success. You got

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Speaker 3: to take the stairs, Darling, as Jennifer Lewis says. So

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Speaker 3: you know, like I really admire that I've had a

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Speaker 3: career like there's you know, I'm taking my time. I'm

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Speaker 3: discovering more gifts than myself. I'm just letting God use me.

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Speaker 3: So yeah, if you if you're just coming and you're

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Speaker 3: you know, welcome at a seat, John, She's been here,

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Speaker 3: you know, look at the Rolodex of credits, you know

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Speaker 3: she's there.

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Speaker 2: How did you make this for a special? Actually special?

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Speaker 3: I really just I love to tell stories and to

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Speaker 3: do characters, and I feel like that's a different flavor

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Speaker 3: that was kind of what I was raised on. The

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Speaker 3: Woodie Goldberg's of it all, the Tracy Olmens. You know,

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Speaker 3: I really love when women, especially can just be crazy

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Speaker 3: with it, you know, and so I really wanted to

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Speaker 3: give that in this, you know, and talk about my

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Speaker 3: journey as a mother because it's crazy.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, do we have any jokes about, like guys about

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Speaker 4: motherhood and how new you are to.

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Speaker 3: I am crazy, you know, like I need a nanny.

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Speaker 3: I need a lady. You know. I saw what other

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Speaker 3: people were doing and I'm not that lady. I need help.

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Speaker 3: And my husband is very present, you know, we're both

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Speaker 3: working hard, but I need a lady. Hold this while

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Speaker 3: I get my life life together. Look at what I made,

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Speaker 3: but hold it for a second.

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Speaker 1: That's one thing you had to learn about motherhood that

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Speaker 1: you had no idea about.

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Speaker 2: If anything, if.

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Speaker 3: Anything, I you really got to make that time for yourself.

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Speaker 3: I really understand my mom eating the fries in the car. Yeah,

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Speaker 3: I get just sitting in silence, you know, a few

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Speaker 3: couple of moments that you just need by yourself. Yeah,

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Speaker 3: I get it. That's better than the spot sometimes, you know.

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Speaker 3: You know, you don't got to explain nothing, just go

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Speaker 3: in the car and need some fries. Yeah, and come

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Speaker 3: in the house like nothing happened. You know, Like I

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Speaker 3: love that.

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Speaker 4: So your content that you make it's funny, but it's

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Speaker 4: real too at the same time that this is really

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Speaker 4: how you feel, like me up.

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Speaker 3: Nanning me up, holding like I'm in my forties, you know,

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Speaker 3: God is good? You know all the time me up.

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Speaker 3: It lifts me up, you know, lift me up.

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Speaker 5: I love it is anything that you've experienced in motherhood

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Speaker 5: that's too real to joke about.

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Speaker 3: No, okay, everything's on the market. You mean, everything is happening.

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Speaker 3: You got shitting under your fingernails. You know, your husband

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Speaker 3: lot going on. But you know you you're human and

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Speaker 3: I love it, and I love that stand up gives

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Speaker 6: That outside of the nanny stuff. What's the realest thing

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Speaker 6: that you get into in a special where in real life.

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Speaker 6: It wasn't funny for you at first, but now you're like,

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Speaker 6: I can joke about it.

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Speaker 3: Oh yeah, mom my mom had a stroke, Yeah, right

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Speaker 3: in front of me. And you know, I was in

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Speaker 3: And she started slurring her words, and I went right

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Speaker 3: into action, called the you know, nine one one, got

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Speaker 3: you that girl from that show? Like wait a minute,

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Speaker 3: ain't you. I'm like, niggas play my mother, my mother.

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Speaker 3: My mother's like, you know, like that's my life. And

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Speaker 3: that's also Baltimore, Like Baltimore is gonna stop at everything

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Speaker 3: just to make sure that you wait, wait, wait, wait

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Speaker 3: you that girl? Ain't you? You know? And also being

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Speaker 3: in relationships and like how I met my fairy godmother

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Speaker 3: who's also a crackhead, but she inspired me. My mother

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Speaker 3: is fine, praise God. You know, she made a full recovery.

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Speaker 3: They were able to give her a medication. You know that.

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Speaker 5: I was going to ask you because I think I

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Speaker 5: really need to recognize the signs of the scroll, because

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Speaker 5: I say that a lot jokingly, like when people study

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Speaker 2: Having a stroke, But did you really did you really understand.

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Speaker 3: What was going on when you watch your sing I'll

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Speaker 3: as a doctor, as doctor Laverne Saint John, just happened

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Speaker 3: to me, even one of the episodes where someone was

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Speaker 3: so I remembered it. Thank God, you know, because God

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Speaker 3: doesn't He does everything for a reason. It just happened

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Speaker 3: And they were like, if you didn't know that that,

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Speaker 3: different situation. I thank God for those moments, But now

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Speaker 3: I can laugh. At that time, it was like, oh

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Speaker 3: my god, this is chaos. I had just lost my father.

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Speaker 3: I was like, God, plaze, you're shaking her turble. But

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Speaker 3: find the levity in it and share it.

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Speaker 4: That was the moment where you're acting actually helped you

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Speaker 4: in real life. Absolutely wow. So what is a moment

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Speaker 4: or moments where your real life actually helped you act.

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Speaker 4: I mean all of it.

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Speaker 3: I mean I feel like everything helps, especially being an artist.

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Speaker 3: Everything informs everything, you know, So of course, you know,

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Speaker 3: any lost, any heartbreak, I bring it all to all

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Speaker 3: to whatever I'm doing. You know, you know I do drama,

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Speaker 3: I do comedy, but everything inspires it. It's all in me.

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Speaker 3: So that's why I love acting, because you could read

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Speaker 3: and my experiences inform how I deliver something.

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Speaker 4: And this comedy just gives you the freedom.

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Speaker 3: Just big bug wow, you know, just big bug wow.

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Speaker 2: What did you know?

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Speaker 1: It was the time.

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Speaker 3: No I was dating this guy, you know, even Baltimore.

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Speaker 3: You know what I'm saying. You know, his name was Spoop.

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Speaker 3: It was a time. It was a time the white

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Speaker 3: little way, little situations.

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Speaker 2: You know.

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Speaker 3: But I was always this proper little girl. But I

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Speaker 3: out of nowhere and she was like you you ha, babby, mama,

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Speaker 3: While you out here with him? What you doing out here?

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Speaker 3: You need to be doing something mouse And I just

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Speaker 3: thought her. I was like, I want to be an actress.

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Speaker 3: She was like, you ain't got no goddamn kids. You

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Speaker 3: need to go. You need to be a big pitch

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Speaker 3: in Hollywood. I watch here, You're dumb, you know, like

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Speaker 3: woke my ass up and made me realize, like why

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Speaker 3: and you are you are really you know, making yourself

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Speaker 1: When you made your first check, did you send her something?

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Speaker 3: I don't know where she at. She was on Pennsylvania Avenue,

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Speaker 3: but random I didn't know her. You know, delivers in

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Speaker 3: certain you know when you're need of me, my dad,

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Speaker 3: you just got to look for him. I'm such an

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Speaker 3: old lady. You just got to look for him.

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Speaker 1: So I was asking, when did you know it was

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Speaker 3: You know, the opportunity just kind of landed. I was

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Speaker 3: filming Barbershop that's coming out next year on Amazon, so funny.

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Speaker 3: So I was already around a whole bunch of comedians

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Speaker 3: of me. And Kevin is always like, Bricie, you need

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Speaker 3: to keep why you be not showing that you really

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Speaker 3: do stand up because I do it in LA and

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Speaker 3: it would just be for fun. And so I saw

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Speaker 3: this opportunity to be like, yeah, you know, you can't

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Speaker 3: show them, show them more.

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Speaker 1: You are nervous.

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Speaker 3: I mean no, I was excited, you know, because I

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Speaker 3: take every new leap is a new way to rediscover myself.

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Speaker 3: And now I'm like in it and I'm doing my hour.

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Speaker 3: You know, I'm gonna tour. You know, I'm this guy's

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Speaker 3: a limit. Now I'm like opening myself up to a

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Speaker 3: new lane and not limiting myself. And I think that's awesome.

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Speaker 3: I think after you have a baby, you just say,

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Speaker 3: you know what, I am incredible. I'm gonna do it all,

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Speaker 3: you know. And I think that's what I was at

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Speaker 3: first a little afraid of. But now I'm like, hey,

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Speaker 3: I got it. I got a support us. Yeah, I

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Speaker 3: got a nanny.

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Speaker 1: Is this toy in your French fries in the car?

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Speaker 2: Is this is this?

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Speaker 1: You're eating French fries in the car.

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Speaker 3: This is me eating French fries in a car. Absolutely,

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Speaker 3: I'm out here getting glammed up, living my life. I

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Speaker 3: love it. Baby crying, you know. But as soon as

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Speaker 2: When you stopped chasing it, because I remember when I

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Speaker 3: You leave me alone.

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Speaker 2: I remember those times.

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Speaker 7: And Lani Love hooked up you and your husband.

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Speaker 3: Yes, literally, I said that prayer and I woke up

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Speaker 3: Well she just said it successful and last black women.

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Speaker 3: While, I guess I am very comfortable. So I am

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Speaker 3: I mean well, I mean they flew in and flew out.

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Speaker 5: What's something that marriage taught you about yourself that Dayton

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Speaker 2: God damn, I know somebody gonna be single for a

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Speaker 3: I don't like that word. I don't like sorry. I

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Speaker 3: It's actually funny. I went to go see The Odyssey

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Speaker 3: you know, and half the way going, I'm like, yeah,

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00:21:52,080 --> 00:21:54,159
Speaker 3: she ate with that, you know, like I'm doing it.

434
00:21:59,160 --> 00:22:05,520
Speaker 3: Keivin Retina hard. God, I was doing Jama Jama. He

435
00:22:05,600 --> 00:22:07,640
Speaker 3: was a little embarrassed. So we got in the car

436
00:22:07,800 --> 00:22:09,760
Speaker 3: and we had a whole cute little day night and

437
00:22:09,840 --> 00:22:15,359
Speaker 3: stop and he was like, you know, you know, I

438
00:22:15,480 --> 00:22:17,000
Speaker 3: love you, you know, and I'm like, I let you

439
00:22:17,119 --> 00:22:19,640
Speaker 3: tell yah. I had so much fun. I love a movie.

440
00:22:19,760 --> 00:22:21,360
Speaker 3: He was like, you don't think he was maybe doing

441
00:22:21,400 --> 00:22:23,360
Speaker 3: a little too much. I'm like, you need to love

442
00:22:23,440 --> 00:22:26,080
Speaker 3: me for me first of all, you know, I come

443
00:22:26,160 --> 00:22:28,959
Speaker 3: in high, you know. But I had to. I had

444
00:22:29,000 --> 00:22:30,960
Speaker 3: to get that sorry in my spirit, you know, because

445
00:22:31,000 --> 00:22:33,720
Speaker 3: you know, he liked to enjoy it. So he's gonna

446
00:22:33,720 --> 00:22:35,040
Speaker 3: have to go down there. We're gonna go to the

447
00:22:35,080 --> 00:22:37,439
Speaker 3: movie at the same time in a different theater. Wait

448
00:22:37,480 --> 00:22:39,760
Speaker 3: till you, because I'm still gonna do.

449
00:22:39,800 --> 00:22:40,639
Speaker 4: Me right, Wait till you.

450
00:22:40,680 --> 00:22:43,440
Speaker 5: Got to say sorry your baby, because that's something that

451
00:22:43,520 --> 00:22:44,920
Speaker 5: I do as a parent that I feel like I

452
00:22:45,040 --> 00:22:46,000
Speaker 5: never really got a lot.

453
00:22:45,920 --> 00:22:47,119
Speaker 4: Of the parents I do.

454
00:22:47,359 --> 00:22:49,879
Speaker 5: When you do something that you might yell at him

455
00:22:49,920 --> 00:22:52,239
Speaker 5: or do something wrong, yo, gotta apologize to him.

456
00:22:52,240 --> 00:22:54,000
Speaker 3: Listen, I have a bonus starter. I will say that,

457
00:22:54,080 --> 00:22:55,960
Speaker 3: and I talk about that in my special too. And

458
00:22:56,280 --> 00:23:00,600
Speaker 3: she's amazing. But she's ten years old and I've had

459
00:23:00,640 --> 00:23:04,200
Speaker 3: to learn a lot very quickly, you know, and I've

460
00:23:04,320 --> 00:23:06,560
Speaker 3: had to learn how to say sorry to her, you know,

461
00:23:06,760 --> 00:23:10,320
Speaker 3: because I don't want to be the wicked witch of

462
00:23:10,400 --> 00:23:12,159
Speaker 3: the West, you know. I don't want to be that,

463
00:23:12,440 --> 00:23:15,000
Speaker 3: you know. I want to be her companion and someone

464
00:23:15,080 --> 00:23:17,640
Speaker 3: she can depend on. So I have definitely said I'm

465
00:23:17,680 --> 00:23:20,320
Speaker 3: sorry to her, and I see how much she appreciates it,

466
00:23:20,359 --> 00:23:21,640
Speaker 3: and I was like, you know what, I gotta handle

467
00:23:21,680 --> 00:23:25,040
Speaker 3: that situation better and I'm sorry and she was like, oh,

468
00:23:26,160 --> 00:23:28,240
Speaker 3: thank you, thank you, and you know, and it's so

469
00:23:28,320 --> 00:23:32,520
Speaker 3: beautiful because I want to trust me and I love

470
00:23:32,640 --> 00:23:35,639
Speaker 3: her for that, and she's she actually inspired me to have,

471
00:23:35,920 --> 00:23:38,680
Speaker 3: you know, like to like really take in motherhood because

472
00:23:38,720 --> 00:23:40,840
Speaker 3: I was like, oh my god, you want a sister,

473
00:23:41,440 --> 00:23:42,960
Speaker 3: I know, and that's a lot of pressure. I don't

474
00:23:42,960 --> 00:23:44,679
Speaker 3: know if I could do that. And then I'm pregnant

475
00:23:44,720 --> 00:23:46,120
Speaker 3: at the same time. And she was like, I told

476
00:23:46,160 --> 00:23:47,399
Speaker 3: you you could do it. And I was like, you

477
00:23:47,480 --> 00:23:51,359
Speaker 3: know what, You're the best. You're the best, you know,

478
00:23:51,840 --> 00:23:52,920
Speaker 3: so I appreciate it.

479
00:23:53,560 --> 00:23:56,120
Speaker 6: You know, all avenues, you know, your character and Run

480
00:23:56,200 --> 00:23:59,800
Speaker 6: the World of Renee. Yeah, it was so on brand,

481
00:24:00,160 --> 00:24:02,040
Speaker 6: like this would be we got more Run the World.

482
00:24:02,119 --> 00:24:03,680
Speaker 7: She would be in a season in her life too.

483
00:24:03,720 --> 00:24:08,800
Speaker 3: That's what I thought. And I am just continuing the storyline,

484
00:24:09,480 --> 00:24:13,600
Speaker 3: you know, why stars why? But no, I love doing

485
00:24:13,680 --> 00:24:15,400
Speaker 3: Run the World so much so, I mean, my middle

486
00:24:15,480 --> 00:24:18,399
Speaker 3: name is Renee. I named my daughter Brave Renee. And

487
00:24:18,520 --> 00:24:21,879
Speaker 3: I loved playing that character. So yeah, she's she's a

488
00:24:21,920 --> 00:24:22,280
Speaker 3: part of me.

489
00:24:22,560 --> 00:24:24,480
Speaker 6: Where do you think because even with your character Renee,

490
00:24:24,560 --> 00:24:27,359
Speaker 6: she was very headstrong, very like I got to accomplished.

491
00:24:27,359 --> 00:24:28,760
Speaker 6: I got to accomplish, but a lot of it was

492
00:24:28,840 --> 00:24:30,920
Speaker 6: things that she was like lacking or trying to figure

493
00:24:30,920 --> 00:24:33,200
Speaker 6: out about herself. What are things that you've had to

494
00:24:33,280 --> 00:24:35,200
Speaker 6: figure out in the midst of like learning to say

495
00:24:35,200 --> 00:24:38,080
Speaker 6: I'm sorry or like all of the accomplishing and not

496
00:24:38,240 --> 00:24:39,560
Speaker 6: you know, what are some of the things that Brists

497
00:24:39,560 --> 00:24:40,600
Speaker 6: had to figure out about herself?

498
00:24:41,840 --> 00:24:44,840
Speaker 3: When I count, when I count myself out, you know,

499
00:24:45,000 --> 00:24:47,560
Speaker 3: like when I when I make myself small in a situation,

500
00:24:48,200 --> 00:24:52,400
Speaker 3: you know, like just giving myself, like having that outward

501
00:24:53,040 --> 00:24:55,720
Speaker 3: look and saying like, Okay, it's not too much to

502
00:24:55,840 --> 00:24:59,479
Speaker 3: ask for, you know, to want more and don't make

503
00:24:59,520 --> 00:25:01,960
Speaker 3: yourself s all thinking that you haven't seen it, Like

504
00:25:02,160 --> 00:25:04,200
Speaker 3: you have to be it, don't dream it, be it,

505
00:25:04,440 --> 00:25:07,879
Speaker 3: you know, like you have to imagine yourself in a

506
00:25:07,960 --> 00:25:10,560
Speaker 3: space even if you don't know if that's possible. And

507
00:25:10,680 --> 00:25:13,000
Speaker 3: I think that's when I'm learning about myself. Like I've

508
00:25:13,080 --> 00:25:17,760
Speaker 3: never seen an actress go fully into stand up in

509
00:25:17,840 --> 00:25:21,639
Speaker 3: this way starting at this age. And being a mom

510
00:25:22,040 --> 00:25:26,240
Speaker 3: and being a wife and being totally happy being at home. Okay,

511
00:25:26,480 --> 00:25:28,800
Speaker 3: I mean I have help, but I love being a mom.

512
00:25:28,960 --> 00:25:31,920
Speaker 3: I love being a wife and cooking and doing all

513
00:25:32,000 --> 00:25:36,399
Speaker 3: that stuff, you know, So it's it's I have to

514
00:25:36,520 --> 00:25:39,320
Speaker 3: imagine it for myself and say, yes, that can still

515
00:25:39,359 --> 00:25:41,600
Speaker 3: be me. I don't have to count myself short because

516
00:25:41,600 --> 00:25:43,800
Speaker 3: saying just because I haven't seen it, but also seeing

517
00:25:43,880 --> 00:25:46,040
Speaker 3: you balance it all and going on the road and

518
00:25:46,200 --> 00:25:49,640
Speaker 3: doing all of that's that's amazing to see. So thank

519
00:25:49,680 --> 00:25:50,720
Speaker 3: you for sharing that joke.

520
00:25:50,840 --> 00:25:52,240
Speaker 4: Problems easy.

521
00:25:52,320 --> 00:25:54,639
Speaker 3: It's not easy, and you know that, you know, like

522
00:25:54,760 --> 00:25:57,280
Speaker 3: you can see that it's not easy, but you have

523
00:25:57,400 --> 00:26:01,840
Speaker 3: to still take it on because someone else is watching you. Yeah,

524
00:26:01,920 --> 00:26:03,520
Speaker 3: that's what I'm learning what.

525
00:26:03,520 --> 00:26:04,160
Speaker 2: You said about Jess.

526
00:26:04,240 --> 00:26:06,560
Speaker 5: I always wondered, like, how do you protect your relationship

527
00:26:06,640 --> 00:26:08,800
Speaker 5: and the era where everybody feels entitled?

528
00:26:11,080 --> 00:26:14,119
Speaker 3: Yeah, I mean my husband is really good at that.

529
00:26:15,040 --> 00:26:18,400
Speaker 3: He's in the business. He's a writer. Shout out to him.

530
00:26:18,400 --> 00:26:23,360
Speaker 3: He's writing online's new season. You know, a good drum

531
00:26:23,480 --> 00:26:24,720
Speaker 3: he's got too drum.

532
00:26:27,320 --> 00:26:32,280
Speaker 8: God, But uh yeah, I just I'm very proud of

533
00:26:32,440 --> 00:26:36,120
Speaker 8: the way that he protects me and us and he's

534
00:26:36,280 --> 00:26:38,600
Speaker 8: just like, hey, like you do you I'm not a

535
00:26:38,680 --> 00:26:40,760
Speaker 8: part of this, like I want you to do.

536
00:26:41,000 --> 00:26:44,840
Speaker 3: You go and promote show everybody who you are because

537
00:26:45,000 --> 00:26:47,280
Speaker 3: I'm sick of seeing it at home by myself. I

538
00:26:47,400 --> 00:26:51,840
Speaker 3: want you to I please share this with Yeah, you know,

539
00:26:53,600 --> 00:26:57,840
Speaker 3: but I love that my husband really does think about

540
00:26:57,920 --> 00:27:00,480
Speaker 3: me as an outward person as well as a person.

541
00:27:00,600 --> 00:27:02,080
Speaker 3: He's like, no, you got to go out there and

542
00:27:02,119 --> 00:27:03,640
Speaker 3: you got to do your thing. And that's the way

543
00:27:03,720 --> 00:27:06,560
Speaker 3: that he protects me because he's like, I need you

544
00:27:06,880 --> 00:27:10,399
Speaker 3: to actually be your biggest self, so you're not making

545
00:27:10,560 --> 00:27:12,680
Speaker 3: me feel all of that at home, you know.

546
00:27:13,080 --> 00:27:14,479
Speaker 7: So that's a different thing.

547
00:27:14,640 --> 00:27:16,400
Speaker 6: Yeah, because a lot of times I think with women

548
00:27:16,400 --> 00:27:18,280
Speaker 6: who are very successful and reach like a lot of

549
00:27:18,320 --> 00:27:20,680
Speaker 6: career heights that you have, they are often scared of

550
00:27:20,720 --> 00:27:23,960
Speaker 6: getting all those long term relationships because men sometimes you'll

551
00:27:24,000 --> 00:27:26,280
Speaker 6: get the opposite. Yeah, you have to kind of step

552
00:27:26,359 --> 00:27:28,159
Speaker 6: back a bit, just be the wife at home, like

553
00:27:28,200 --> 00:27:29,640
Speaker 6: you're getting to do all of it, and he's pushing

554
00:27:29,680 --> 00:27:30,800
Speaker 6: you the complete.

555
00:27:30,560 --> 00:27:32,720
Speaker 3: Because you have these roles that people have made up, Right,

556
00:27:33,320 --> 00:27:36,239
Speaker 3: but why not shake the table, why not mix it up?

557
00:27:36,400 --> 00:27:38,119
Speaker 3: Why not? You know, you got to be aware of

558
00:27:38,160 --> 00:27:41,440
Speaker 3: the red flags. You know. I've always had a dream

559
00:27:41,520 --> 00:27:45,200
Speaker 3: for myself and I wanted to always do it all,

560
00:27:45,600 --> 00:27:47,600
Speaker 3: you know, and it was it was great that I

561
00:27:47,680 --> 00:27:50,240
Speaker 3: aligned myself with someone who also wants to do it

562
00:27:50,320 --> 00:27:52,320
Speaker 3: all and wants me to do it all. That's actually

563
00:27:52,400 --> 00:27:55,119
Speaker 3: his turn on. He's like, I love seeing you do this.

564
00:27:55,400 --> 00:27:59,280
Speaker 3: Oh more makeup, more glam, who else you know?

565
00:27:59,520 --> 00:28:00,760
Speaker 4: Bring it, go do it?

566
00:28:00,960 --> 00:28:01,119
Speaker 2: You know.

567
00:28:01,280 --> 00:28:04,040
Speaker 3: I love that, And I feel like for more women

568
00:28:04,119 --> 00:28:07,199
Speaker 3: out there, there are men that need to see us

569
00:28:07,440 --> 00:28:13,200
Speaker 3: doing us and be and be inspired and want their

570
00:28:13,240 --> 00:28:15,840
Speaker 3: women to be amazing because when you come home, you know,

571
00:28:16,119 --> 00:28:19,040
Speaker 3: there's more for us to play with. You know, there's

572
00:28:19,119 --> 00:28:21,360
Speaker 3: more things we can go on, the vacations, we can

573
00:28:21,440 --> 00:28:23,760
Speaker 3: calm down. You don't have to carry everything.

574
00:28:24,000 --> 00:28:24,200
Speaker 2: You know.

575
00:28:24,560 --> 00:28:27,200
Speaker 3: So I love that we're both working, We're both pushing

576
00:28:27,240 --> 00:28:33,000
Speaker 3: each other to success. It's great. I have nothing. I'm happy,

577
00:28:35,000 --> 00:28:39,200
Speaker 3: not I thank God. I want to thank him, you know.

578
00:28:39,240 --> 00:28:40,760
Speaker 3: I want to thank my mother and my father for

579
00:28:40,920 --> 00:28:43,840
Speaker 3: raising me. You know, I just I'm really happy. But

580
00:28:43,920 --> 00:28:46,040
Speaker 3: I just want women to know that it does exist.

581
00:28:46,160 --> 00:28:49,240
Speaker 3: And if you have to just keep chucking along until

582
00:28:49,280 --> 00:28:52,080
Speaker 3: he comes, as fine, because he will come. And if

583
00:28:52,120 --> 00:28:55,000
Speaker 3: he's not supposed to come, it's okay too, because you

584
00:28:55,000 --> 00:28:57,640
Speaker 3: don't want nobody holding you back. Period.

585
00:28:57,880 --> 00:28:59,880
Speaker 7: Did you have to teach yourself to let him protect.

586
00:29:00,240 --> 00:29:03,960
Speaker 3: Yes, girl. Still to this day it's hard to let go.

587
00:29:07,120 --> 00:29:09,960
Speaker 3: And I like that hard, I mean, and that's and

588
00:29:10,040 --> 00:29:11,880
Speaker 3: that's another thing when I have to step back and say,

589
00:29:11,880 --> 00:29:14,800
Speaker 3: you're right, you know, And and that's that's a part

590
00:29:14,840 --> 00:29:17,920
Speaker 3: of marriage, you know, allowing your your man or your

591
00:29:18,080 --> 00:29:21,560
Speaker 3: person to put to be your eyes and your ears

592
00:29:21,600 --> 00:29:22,560
Speaker 3: for you. You know.

593
00:29:23,080 --> 00:29:26,080
Speaker 4: What are the things that he had to change because

594
00:29:26,120 --> 00:29:27,520
Speaker 4: he had never been married before.

595
00:29:27,360 --> 00:29:31,800
Speaker 3: He had never been married before. This is me, Yes,

596
00:29:32,240 --> 00:29:36,960
Speaker 3: I feel like he is a marine and so I

597
00:29:37,240 --> 00:29:41,080
Speaker 3: am very loose, you know, I'm Lily Ladilie, and he's

598
00:29:41,280 --> 00:29:45,640
Speaker 3: okay these we're on the war, We're in the zone,

599
00:29:47,200 --> 00:29:50,400
Speaker 3: we're on the battlefield. I've got the guns, you know,

600
00:29:50,520 --> 00:29:54,000
Speaker 3: and I'm just like, oh my god, hi everybody. You know,

601
00:29:54,120 --> 00:29:58,480
Speaker 3: he's like everyone's trying to kill a He's had to

602
00:29:58,600 --> 00:30:01,800
Speaker 3: lighten up quite a bait, quite a bet. Everyone is

603
00:30:01,920 --> 00:30:03,000
Speaker 3: not trying to kill us.

604
00:30:03,040 --> 00:30:03,320
Speaker 4: Baby.

605
00:30:03,480 --> 00:30:07,160
Speaker 3: You know, we can fly, we can go there in

606
00:30:07,240 --> 00:30:11,160
Speaker 3: this Yeah. But you know I had to get used

607
00:30:11,160 --> 00:30:12,560
Speaker 3: to that and he had to get used to me.

608
00:30:12,960 --> 00:30:14,600
Speaker 3: You know. We had to find our balance. And it

609
00:30:14,760 --> 00:30:15,560
Speaker 3: is a dance.

610
00:30:15,680 --> 00:30:17,800
Speaker 1: Every morning, six am, this seven.

611
00:30:19,160 --> 00:30:22,720
Speaker 3: Has a rude routine, you know, but he still is

612
00:30:22,760 --> 00:30:25,840
Speaker 3: a creative, but he gets it done and he's he's

613
00:30:25,880 --> 00:30:28,640
Speaker 3: a writer, so like that thing, don't shut off, you know.

614
00:30:29,280 --> 00:30:32,080
Speaker 3: And so it's great that it allows our creativity. Like

615
00:30:32,240 --> 00:30:35,120
Speaker 3: he knows that I'm always like I'm on, but I'm

616
00:30:35,160 --> 00:30:38,040
Speaker 3: also off. But he also understands, like this is a

617
00:30:38,080 --> 00:30:40,720
Speaker 3: part of her nature. And I also understand he'd be

618
00:30:40,800 --> 00:30:42,920
Speaker 3: locking himself in his room and with his computer and

619
00:30:43,040 --> 00:30:46,440
Speaker 3: he'd just be and I gotta let him just do that,

620
00:30:46,880 --> 00:30:50,680
Speaker 3: you know. And yeah, because I know it's gonna be great.

621
00:30:51,360 --> 00:30:52,840
Speaker 3: You know, I'm gonna bring you a play of food.

622
00:30:52,840 --> 00:30:56,240
Speaker 3: I'm gonna bring you your scotch. Whatever you need, you know,

623
00:31:01,240 --> 00:31:04,440
Speaker 3: help you, you know, you need anything.

624
00:31:06,400 --> 00:31:09,680
Speaker 4: What you're making.

625
00:31:09,520 --> 00:31:10,120
Speaker 3: A mask to be.

626
00:31:14,040 --> 00:31:14,840
Speaker 2: A version of yourself.

627
00:31:15,520 --> 00:31:21,160
Speaker 3: Oh oh, grud. I think a part of you dies

628
00:31:21,400 --> 00:31:23,760
Speaker 3: when you get married, and another part of you dies

629
00:31:24,200 --> 00:31:27,200
Speaker 3: when you have a baby. It dies, and I kind

630
00:31:27,240 --> 00:31:31,400
Speaker 3: of had to grieve that, you know. I yeah, that

631
00:31:31,560 --> 00:31:35,480
Speaker 3: that lady had to die. Yeah, you know, and the

632
00:31:35,720 --> 00:31:38,800
Speaker 3: people that are attached to that side have to.

633
00:31:38,840 --> 00:31:39,160
Speaker 1: Die to.

634
00:31:40,680 --> 00:31:41,760
Speaker 2: Talk about that.

635
00:31:42,160 --> 00:31:42,360
Speaker 4: Girl.

636
00:31:42,480 --> 00:31:46,040
Speaker 3: You get married, girl, the people will show up, won't they?

637
00:31:46,840 --> 00:31:50,440
Speaker 3: And you got to cut them off. No, No, just

638
00:31:50,560 --> 00:31:53,800
Speaker 3: people in your life that just that that accept and

639
00:31:54,120 --> 00:31:57,880
Speaker 3: want you to stay the same. The single friends or whomever. Like,

640
00:31:58,040 --> 00:32:01,560
Speaker 3: just people that just love one version of you and

641
00:32:01,760 --> 00:32:04,600
Speaker 3: two are becoming one, Like I come with this now,

642
00:32:05,240 --> 00:32:07,720
Speaker 3: you know, And yeah, that that that they ain't gotta

643
00:32:07,840 --> 00:32:10,600
Speaker 3: die and so yeah, there are versions of myself that

644
00:32:10,680 --> 00:32:13,040
Speaker 3: have had to put the rest in order to grow.

645
00:32:13,600 --> 00:32:16,360
Speaker 3: And I still grieve that some times, you know, Oh,

646
00:32:16,480 --> 00:32:19,120
Speaker 3: of course, because I missed those people. But at the

647
00:32:19,240 --> 00:32:21,760
Speaker 3: end of the day, I have to remember that God

648
00:32:22,000 --> 00:32:24,640
Speaker 3: wants what's best for me, and I am walking in

649
00:32:24,920 --> 00:32:27,160
Speaker 3: my in my path and I have to trust that.

650
00:32:27,920 --> 00:32:30,280
Speaker 4: Because they're supposed to want what's best for you, but

651
00:32:30,440 --> 00:32:34,240
Speaker 4: they can't see past their own girl girl, So I

652
00:32:34,320 --> 00:32:38,160
Speaker 4: had to have some hard conversations then. Who Sometimes people

653
00:32:38,160 --> 00:32:40,080
Speaker 4: don't even want to hear those conversations. Sometimes you just

654
00:32:40,200 --> 00:32:42,280
Speaker 4: like gotta leave them in the corner where you know

655
00:32:42,320 --> 00:32:45,520
Speaker 4: where they pray for them and love them from a distance.

656
00:32:45,760 --> 00:32:45,800
Speaker 5: No.

657
00:32:45,920 --> 00:32:48,240
Speaker 4: Hate is just like, damn, you couldn't be happy for me.

658
00:32:49,320 --> 00:32:50,840
Speaker 4: I called you and told you that he proposed and

659
00:32:50,840 --> 00:32:52,400
Speaker 4: you said damn, And he couldn't wait for me to

660
00:32:52,440 --> 00:32:56,920
Speaker 4: be around with it not congratulations, and then you.

661
00:32:57,000 --> 00:33:00,480
Speaker 3: Got somebody clocking that for you. It's horrible because you've

662
00:33:00,480 --> 00:33:02,400
Speaker 3: been thinking this is a person that's been riding for you.

663
00:33:03,360 --> 00:33:06,440
Speaker 3: But then you have another set of eyes and ears

664
00:33:06,520 --> 00:33:09,320
Speaker 3: that's also not wanting you to get hurt, and they're

665
00:33:09,440 --> 00:33:12,920
Speaker 3: letting you be aware of like, yo, don't, don't, don't

666
00:33:13,240 --> 00:33:16,360
Speaker 3: push that to the side, like that's not cool, and

667
00:33:16,560 --> 00:33:18,120
Speaker 3: so like, yeah.

668
00:33:18,160 --> 00:33:19,240
Speaker 4: It was you.

669
00:33:20,000 --> 00:33:21,160
Speaker 3: Yeah it's cool.

670
00:33:21,480 --> 00:33:23,920
Speaker 4: And then, like you said, the grieving party, yeah still hurt,

671
00:33:24,000 --> 00:33:27,360
Speaker 4: those feelings still hurt you. It's like, damn, I want

672
00:33:27,400 --> 00:33:30,400
Speaker 4: to call Yeah, I wish we could, but we can

673
00:33:30,640 --> 00:33:31,040
Speaker 4: we can't.

674
00:33:31,240 --> 00:33:33,920
Speaker 3: And I thank God that I've I've opened myself to

675
00:33:34,240 --> 00:33:38,480
Speaker 3: new relationships, new friendships that have blessed me beyond measure.

676
00:33:39,040 --> 00:33:42,320
Speaker 3: You know, Kelly Rowland is my friend, like my real friend,

677
00:33:43,080 --> 00:33:49,480
Speaker 3: and she has raised me up a lot in this wifehood, motherhood.

678
00:33:49,920 --> 00:33:53,360
Speaker 3: I'm so grateful my girlfriend, my best friend, angel, you

679
00:33:53,440 --> 00:33:58,120
Speaker 3: know that chick angel, like writers that have like I

680
00:33:58,200 --> 00:34:00,360
Speaker 3: can lean on and I can ask some ques. It

681
00:34:00,360 --> 00:34:03,400
Speaker 3: can make me cry, but like it's such a vulnerable

682
00:34:03,520 --> 00:34:07,440
Speaker 3: stage and they got your back, and that's what you

683
00:34:07,560 --> 00:34:09,399
Speaker 3: need when you're going through this when.

684
00:34:09,360 --> 00:34:14,040
Speaker 2: Kelly started embracing you, y'all shot some movie, what was it, Christmas? Christmas?

685
00:34:14,320 --> 00:34:16,480
Speaker 5: And I don't know, it's weird that you can see

686
00:34:16,520 --> 00:34:19,440
Speaker 5: something real happening on Instagram, but I saw it in

687
00:34:19,560 --> 00:34:20,160
Speaker 5: real time.

688
00:34:20,320 --> 00:34:22,359
Speaker 2: Yeah, and you know, you've just seen it develop.

689
00:34:22,120 --> 00:34:24,960
Speaker 3: Over the years. Yeah, she's she's a beautiful person. Yeah,

690
00:34:25,200 --> 00:34:30,600
Speaker 3: and that's just who she is. And you know, beautiful

691
00:34:30,600 --> 00:34:32,800
Speaker 3: people find each other. Yeah, you know, and you just

692
00:34:32,880 --> 00:34:34,719
Speaker 3: have to trust that, and not to say that people

693
00:34:34,800 --> 00:34:37,200
Speaker 3: in my life weren't beautiful before. They're beautiful just over

694
00:34:37,239 --> 00:34:39,040
Speaker 3: there and you just give them love.

695
00:34:39,160 --> 00:34:42,319
Speaker 6: And I would love to hear people talk more about

696
00:34:42,320 --> 00:34:43,920
Speaker 6: the white foot thing that you just brought up though,

697
00:34:44,040 --> 00:34:46,040
Speaker 6: because I'm thinking about, like, it does have to be

698
00:34:46,120 --> 00:34:48,120
Speaker 6: a community, because you have to learn a lot of things,

699
00:34:48,480 --> 00:34:50,080
Speaker 6: learn people who are doing it right but also did

700
00:34:50,120 --> 00:34:52,799
Speaker 6: it wrong. Yeah, be open enough to want to hear

701
00:34:52,880 --> 00:34:55,239
Speaker 6: from these people and choose who's right and who's wrong.

702
00:34:55,480 --> 00:34:57,040
Speaker 7: To even hear from exactly.

703
00:34:57,239 --> 00:35:00,719
Speaker 3: It's really it's really crazy, you know. That's why I like,

704
00:35:01,800 --> 00:35:05,160
Speaker 3: I'm just very grateful because you have to listen. That's

705
00:35:05,200 --> 00:35:07,960
Speaker 3: like my main thing with this marriage thing, because you

706
00:35:08,080 --> 00:35:10,520
Speaker 3: have to be able to listen to good advice and

707
00:35:10,680 --> 00:35:13,520
Speaker 3: know when to discard the rest. You know, and know

708
00:35:13,640 --> 00:35:16,080
Speaker 3: who's in your circle, and know who wants the best

709
00:35:16,120 --> 00:35:20,320
Speaker 3: for both of y'all, and go with God. You know,

710
00:35:21,000 --> 00:35:24,879
Speaker 3: you know and know, and your friends can really see

711
00:35:24,920 --> 00:35:28,239
Speaker 3: you and say how you doing with that? I didn't

712
00:35:28,360 --> 00:35:30,520
Speaker 3: like how you did that, and you are soft enough

713
00:35:30,600 --> 00:35:32,800
Speaker 3: to let them tell you.

714
00:35:32,800 --> 00:35:33,840
Speaker 8: You know.

715
00:35:34,239 --> 00:35:36,960
Speaker 3: And listening has been a new thing I've had to

716
00:35:38,160 --> 00:35:48,200
Speaker 3: take in before I react, Before I react, but listening first, Yeah.

717
00:35:48,440 --> 00:35:50,480
Speaker 2: Special, Why do you reference Rihanna as a type of

718
00:35:50,520 --> 00:35:51,799
Speaker 2: mom because I.

719
00:35:51,840 --> 00:35:54,320
Speaker 3: Read an article that you don't have on nanny. I

720
00:35:54,360 --> 00:35:55,320
Speaker 3: don't believe that either.

721
00:35:55,239 --> 00:35:55,560
Speaker 5: But like.

722
00:35:57,480 --> 00:35:58,520
Speaker 3: She might do it all.

723
00:36:00,000 --> 00:36:02,680
Speaker 1: And everybody might be no nanny might mean mama and

724
00:36:02,880 --> 00:36:04,240
Speaker 1: auntie is cousins.

725
00:36:05,239 --> 00:36:07,320
Speaker 3: The article said she didn't have no nanny, but she

726
00:36:07,440 --> 00:36:09,680
Speaker 3: does a lot. She does a lie. That's probably why

727
00:36:09,719 --> 00:36:12,120
Speaker 3: we ain't got an album yet. But because she ain't

728
00:36:12,120 --> 00:36:13,160
Speaker 3: got no nanny.

729
00:36:13,080 --> 00:36:15,080
Speaker 4: She probably don't want to do that.

730
00:36:15,440 --> 00:36:17,239
Speaker 2: Looks like she ain't got no nanny. I ain't gonna lie.

731
00:36:17,400 --> 00:36:19,520
Speaker 2: She was pushing the carriage and she had one baby

732
00:36:19,600 --> 00:36:20,240
Speaker 2: on one shoulder.

733
00:36:21,000 --> 00:36:27,200
Speaker 3: But look, Rihanna is my Like that's the woman. That's

734
00:36:27,239 --> 00:36:28,480
Speaker 3: a supermom right there.

735
00:36:28,600 --> 00:36:31,200
Speaker 7: She's doing it all like sexy.

736
00:36:31,400 --> 00:36:34,320
Speaker 3: Yes, that's one of the people I've put on my

737
00:36:34,840 --> 00:36:37,640
Speaker 3: board of like, yes, I want to do all of

738
00:36:37,719 --> 00:36:39,880
Speaker 3: that and be a great mom. Her kids you can

739
00:36:39,960 --> 00:36:43,439
Speaker 3: tell love her. They are. She's a present mom.

740
00:36:44,160 --> 00:36:45,840
Speaker 4: And I do believe that she don't have anything.

741
00:36:45,840 --> 00:36:46,120
Speaker 3: I don't know.

742
00:36:46,440 --> 00:36:49,400
Speaker 4: I don't believe that. You're not long mothers have been

743
00:36:49,520 --> 00:36:52,360
Speaker 4: being single moms of multiple children. I didn't you know,

744
00:36:53,000 --> 00:36:54,759
Speaker 4: is there for sure, you know their father's there. But

745
00:36:55,239 --> 00:36:58,000
Speaker 4: I believe that she don't have, you know, no help.

746
00:36:58,120 --> 00:36:59,279
Speaker 3: That's a lot. I believe it.

747
00:36:59,400 --> 00:37:03,000
Speaker 4: She's not resting, you know, wherever she is, those babies

748
00:37:03,040 --> 00:37:04,600
Speaker 4: are right there, you know.

749
00:37:04,719 --> 00:37:06,600
Speaker 2: So you do see that. It's probably more shocking to

750
00:37:06,680 --> 00:37:08,839
Speaker 2: hear that because we know that she's soy.

751
00:37:08,600 --> 00:37:11,799
Speaker 1: And she's she's running a billion dollar business, yes what.

752
00:37:11,800 --> 00:37:15,200
Speaker 4: I mean, But she has she does have many people

753
00:37:15,640 --> 00:37:18,600
Speaker 4: in place to do those things, like different teams, different

754
00:37:18,680 --> 00:37:21,440
Speaker 4: staff that you know, chief of staff that run all

755
00:37:21,520 --> 00:37:24,319
Speaker 4: those things that she probably was doing before. But when

756
00:37:24,360 --> 00:37:26,320
Speaker 4: she said she want to have kids and want to

757
00:37:26,360 --> 00:37:27,480
Speaker 4: be able to, she went.

758
00:37:27,920 --> 00:37:31,520
Speaker 3: To Barbados, you know, she went back to her ruts.

759
00:37:32,080 --> 00:37:35,160
Speaker 3: And I appreciate that, Like, that's really inspiring to do

760
00:37:35,280 --> 00:37:40,440
Speaker 3: it all and then give yourself the opportunity to be

761
00:37:40,560 --> 00:37:43,920
Speaker 3: a wife and mother, Like that's beautiful. We're gonna never

762
00:37:44,000 --> 00:37:47,560
Speaker 3: get another and that's okay. That's why I was inspired

763
00:37:47,600 --> 00:37:52,920
Speaker 3: to say it for her, you know, that's what I

764
00:37:53,000 --> 00:37:54,879
Speaker 3: said on the specially you already know one of the jobs.

765
00:37:55,600 --> 00:38:02,960
Speaker 3: Oh damn, that's why I brought it out. That's why

766
00:38:03,000 --> 00:38:04,120
Speaker 3: I did it, you know.

767
00:38:04,640 --> 00:38:07,919
Speaker 5: You see it was the working mom with daycare, working

768
00:38:08,000 --> 00:38:10,200
Speaker 5: mom without daycare, and then Rihanna.

769
00:38:10,239 --> 00:38:11,760
Speaker 3: And then Rihanna. Then that's Rihanna.

770
00:38:12,719 --> 00:38:14,560
Speaker 4: Yeah, so you got all of them.

771
00:38:14,680 --> 00:38:14,879
Speaker 8: Yeah.

772
00:38:15,680 --> 00:38:15,879
Speaker 2: Yeah.

773
00:38:16,280 --> 00:38:17,880
Speaker 3: I had to decide who I wanted to be, and

774
00:38:17,960 --> 00:38:20,200
Speaker 3: I wanted to be the working mom with a lady,

775
00:38:21,640 --> 00:38:26,000
Speaker 3: not to have a nanny. Yeah, I got to have anymore.

776
00:38:26,440 --> 00:38:34,239
Speaker 3: I know. No, no, you don't know that. Yeah, dude,

777
00:38:34,640 --> 00:38:38,279
Speaker 3: I had had a very hard pregnancy. You know, we're

778
00:38:38,440 --> 00:38:41,640
Speaker 3: we're grateful to be here, grateful.

779
00:38:41,480 --> 00:38:42,040
Speaker 4: To be here.

780
00:38:42,400 --> 00:38:44,960
Speaker 3: You know, don't sleep on these women and their bodies

781
00:38:45,440 --> 00:38:48,239
Speaker 3: and what we go through to bring life into this world.

782
00:38:49,280 --> 00:38:51,360
Speaker 6: When you first posted the photo of your baby in

783
00:38:51,400 --> 00:38:53,799
Speaker 6: the hospital, but you said something about like your baby

784
00:38:53,880 --> 00:38:55,200
Speaker 6: like led you through the complication.

785
00:38:55,480 --> 00:38:58,640
Speaker 3: Yes, that's why I named her Brave. Yeah, amazing, Yeah,

786
00:38:58,680 --> 00:39:01,279
Speaker 3: because it was it was search and go. It was

787
00:39:01,320 --> 00:39:03,960
Speaker 3: a heart issue that came up while I was pregnant

788
00:39:04,000 --> 00:39:06,600
Speaker 3: that I actually inherited from my father. Was like, no,

789
00:39:06,680 --> 00:39:08,080
Speaker 3: he didn't leave me all money, and he left me

790
00:39:08,160 --> 00:39:14,880
Speaker 3: this heart condition and shit, and it's a rare hot condition. Goddamn,

791
00:39:15,920 --> 00:39:19,719
Speaker 3: it's HHT. And so it was like my body was

792
00:39:19,800 --> 00:39:22,200
Speaker 3: like a boiler room when I got pregnant, and so

793
00:39:22,880 --> 00:39:27,200
Speaker 3: my heart rate was like above just sitting and so

794
00:39:27,600 --> 00:39:30,120
Speaker 3: I was just like a ticking time bomb. And doctors

795
00:39:30,160 --> 00:39:31,799
Speaker 3: would just look at me and be like, we don't

796
00:39:31,840 --> 00:39:34,560
Speaker 3: know what to do. We're just gonna take it day

797
00:39:34,600 --> 00:39:37,359
Speaker 3: by day with you. And I'm grateful for the team

798
00:39:37,640 --> 00:39:40,279
Speaker 3: and where God, I went to three different hospitals. I

799
00:39:41,080 --> 00:39:44,080
Speaker 3: landed with a great team at UCLA, and it was

800
00:39:44,160 --> 00:39:46,040
Speaker 3: like it was like er I was on a set

801
00:39:46,040 --> 00:39:47,960
Speaker 3: of Vard and I didn't get to be in on

802
00:39:48,320 --> 00:39:50,399
Speaker 3: the labor and delivery floor. I was in oh wah,

803
00:39:50,840 --> 00:39:53,680
Speaker 3: but all these doctors, you know, And but I thank

804
00:39:53,719 --> 00:39:57,000
Speaker 3: God because I was still able to have like contractions

805
00:39:57,120 --> 00:39:59,600
Speaker 3: and to feel all of that and the surprise because

806
00:39:59,640 --> 00:40:02,759
Speaker 3: she came early than the C section date and so

807
00:40:03,160 --> 00:40:05,320
Speaker 3: I was like, oh my god, I didn't wanted to

808
00:40:05,440 --> 00:40:08,440
Speaker 3: bro like I still had to get out of this.

809
00:40:08,520 --> 00:40:11,160
Speaker 3: Bitch is small. You know, she was a little early,

810
00:40:11,280 --> 00:40:13,879
Speaker 3: but you know, just five weeks early. But I still

811
00:40:13,920 --> 00:40:16,600
Speaker 3: got to have that moment and I was so grateful

812
00:40:16,680 --> 00:40:17,840
Speaker 3: for it. And I was like, oh my god, I

813
00:40:17,880 --> 00:40:19,960
Speaker 3: feel yet. I didn't know I was gonna get this.

814
00:40:20,239 --> 00:40:21,920
Speaker 3: I thought I was gonna be in dope, you know,

815
00:40:22,280 --> 00:40:24,040
Speaker 3: so it was really dope.

816
00:40:24,120 --> 00:40:27,560
Speaker 4: That's amazing. Motherhood is beautiful. It is a challenging journey.

817
00:40:27,360 --> 00:40:29,960
Speaker 3: But you learn so much about yourself and how much

818
00:40:30,000 --> 00:40:32,160
Speaker 3: you can endure and how much you can take. And

819
00:40:32,840 --> 00:40:35,240
Speaker 3: going through that, I had to take care of myself,

820
00:40:35,360 --> 00:40:38,880
Speaker 3: you know. I had to breathe and and really focus

821
00:40:38,960 --> 00:40:42,680
Speaker 3: on my no mistake, you know, because it it worked

822
00:40:42,760 --> 00:40:45,279
Speaker 3: on everything. She was just chilling, legs crossed the entire

823
00:40:45,360 --> 00:40:50,640
Speaker 3: time chilling. It was like, she's fine, bright, and she

824
00:40:50,880 --> 00:40:52,120
Speaker 3: is She's something.

825
00:40:52,200 --> 00:40:56,520
Speaker 4: And you get to appreciate yourself more to like, if

826
00:40:56,600 --> 00:40:59,359
Speaker 4: you ever had any doubts before being able to push

827
00:40:59,440 --> 00:41:03,239
Speaker 4: a baby out no epidoral, vaginal natural and you do it,

828
00:41:03,280 --> 00:41:06,600
Speaker 4: and you like you just look at yourself like, damn,

829
00:41:06,680 --> 00:41:08,080
Speaker 4: you can really do anything.

830
00:41:08,320 --> 00:41:10,680
Speaker 3: Yes, That's why I was like, what's holding you back? Like,

831
00:41:10,800 --> 00:41:13,640
Speaker 3: why not say yes to this opportunity? Why not just

832
00:41:13,719 --> 00:41:16,360
Speaker 3: get up on stage and just tell your truth? Why not?

833
00:41:16,880 --> 00:41:19,960
Speaker 3: Like you can do it all, Just go ahead and

834
00:41:20,120 --> 00:41:21,920
Speaker 3: dor we do it? Do weight.

835
00:41:22,360 --> 00:41:23,080
Speaker 4: I'm so proud.

836
00:41:25,400 --> 00:41:28,000
Speaker 2: I love seeing great, great things happen to great people. Man.

837
00:41:28,239 --> 00:41:29,719
Speaker 3: Thank you, kay Man.

838
00:41:31,160 --> 00:41:35,160
Speaker 1: Check out her special August seventh on Hulu and Disney Plus.

839
00:41:35,840 --> 00:41:38,440
Speaker 1: And thank you for joining us so much. Like said

840
00:41:38,440 --> 00:41:42,080
Speaker 1: when we first started, you gotta glow, and she did. Congratulations,

841
00:41:43,040 --> 00:41:50,359
Speaker 1: but I really appreciate it. It's club, good morning, oh

842
00:41:50,480 --> 00:41:56,040
Speaker 1: my god, every day breakfast club