Speaker 1: Good break it down. If you ever have feelings that
Speaker 1: you just won't Amy and Cat gotcha covin locking, No, brother,
Speaker 1: ladies and folks, do you just follow Anna spirit where
Speaker 1: it's all the front over real stuff to the chill
Speaker 1: stuff and the.
Speaker 2: M but Swayne, sometimes the best thing you can do
Speaker 2: it just stop you feel things. This is feeling things with.
Speaker 1: Amy and Kat. Happy Tuesday. Welcome to feeling things. I'm
Speaker 1: Amykat and my feeling of the day while feelings plural
Speaker 1: excited and grateful because well, because my sister is coming
Speaker 1: to town. I don't think she'll care if I say that.
Speaker 1: She's coming down to go to on Site, which is
Speaker 1: a therapeutic place right outside of Nashville. I've been No
Speaker 1: shame can be very helpful for a lot of people,
Speaker 1: So I'm very excited for her with that. But she
Speaker 1: booked a flight a day early earlier than she needed
Speaker 1: to be here so that she can finally meet my boyfriend.
Speaker 1: Now her husband is coming to but he met my
Speaker 1: boyfriend a few months ago.
Speaker 3: I forgot about that.
Speaker 1: Yeah, my sister is like the only person and that's
Speaker 1: weird because she's my person. My mom has passed away,
Speaker 1: my dad has passed away, so she's the representative of
Speaker 1: the family. I mean, they've interacted on FaceTime. But I'm
Speaker 1: just excited and I'm grateful for that opportunity because my
Speaker 1: boyfriend's leaving on a fishing trip with some of his
Speaker 1: friends and this has been planned forever. The next day
Speaker 1: and if she didn't come in the night before and
Speaker 1: then he's still there that night before. Just the calendar wise,
Speaker 1: the calendar part of this situation, it just worked out perfectly.
Speaker 1: And then he was supposed to get back late Sunday
Speaker 1: night because they'll return from on site on Sunday afternoon,
Speaker 1: and he switched his flight to get back earlier so
Speaker 1: that we can also have Sunday night together as a family.
Speaker 1: So I'm just grateful for the finagling of flights, Yeah,
Speaker 1: the of flights. Yeah, they finagled their flights to make
Speaker 1: it work. Like especially, my boyfriend already had his booked
Speaker 1: for Sunday night to return home, and I don't know
Speaker 1: if he had prepaid the part the kind of flight
Speaker 1: where you don't get charged to change it, but if
Speaker 1: you if you don't like I normally buy the cheapest
Speaker 1: flight option and then if something changes, I get a
Speaker 1: little screwed.
Speaker 2: But well, I will say, there's a certain airline that
Speaker 2: changed their rules and you used to always get your
Speaker 2: money back and now you have to buy like the
Speaker 2: nice flight in order to change it. So let's say
Speaker 2: he didn't have that. This shows how much he cares.
Speaker 1: So I'm grateful, yeah, and exciting. Yeah, because they're going
Speaker 1: to meet.
Speaker 3: Yeah, that's sweet.
Speaker 2: That's very different than my feeling of the day, which
Speaker 2: is I am annoyed, and I'm gonna use the word terrified.
Speaker 1: Annoyed and terrified. So these are you got two feelings
Speaker 1: as well, and they are opposite of them.
Speaker 2: There, Yes, So annoyed is twofold one. I'm annoyed because
Speaker 2: I've had this lingering cold for I feel like two
Speaker 2: weeks now and it won't go away. But also that's
Speaker 2: attached to a text message that my mother sent me.
Speaker 2: I will say the primary feeling was scared when I
Speaker 2: got this on a Tuesday morning. I would like to
Speaker 2: know how you would feel getting this message. Okay, okay,
Speaker 2: Tuesday eleven thirty three am. Just in case something happens,
Speaker 2: I love you.
Speaker 1: What I'm going I'm already scared. I'm going on a.
Speaker 2: Helicopter ride this morning. Oh okay, it doesn't matter, just
Speaker 2: in case something happens, I love you. I read that,
Speaker 2: and I was like, my mom is in Hawaii with
Speaker 2: my dad, So I was like, did something happen at
Speaker 2: the airport? Like is there I mean, you never know
Speaker 2: what's happening, like is there a bomb threat somewhere? Before
Speaker 2: I read the second part and then I got annoyed
Speaker 2: because I'm I said afterwards, after she had done with
Speaker 2: the ride, I just was like, Oh, that's really scary.
Speaker 3: Do you want to go on this helicopter ride? She
Speaker 3: said yeah whatever.
Speaker 2: After she went, I said, well now I can speak
Speaker 2: my true feelings now that this is over. If you
Speaker 2: ever are afraid you're going to tragically die, I'd prefer
Speaker 2: that you opt out of the experience.
Speaker 1: Yeah, is that fair? I think? Yeah, opting out or
Speaker 1: like just don't also, don't send me a text message.
Speaker 2: That's but I'm glad she sent it to me in
Speaker 2: the sense that like, what if something did happen? So,
Speaker 2: but how does that help you? I guess I did
Speaker 2: already know that she loved me, like she could.
Speaker 1: Just be like, hey, good morning, love you and not
Speaker 1: freak you out.
Speaker 2: Yeah, And I just am not a daredevil person. So
Speaker 2: I'm never going to do something that I think has
Speaker 2: a strong chance of killing me.
Speaker 1: Yeah, like I don't. I don't want to get in
Speaker 1: a helicopter. I have before I.
Speaker 2: Think what forore don't even remember what if Alex surprise
Speaker 2: you with the helicopter ride for like Christmas morning, and
Speaker 2: he was like, I have a surprise for you, you
Speaker 2: wouldn't go he gives you Okay, listen, I'm pitt a painting.
Speaker 1: No, I don't want to get in a helicopter because
Speaker 1: my ex husband was a pilot, and even he was like,
Speaker 1: don't do it. Helicopters freak him out because of the
Speaker 1: physics Like an airplane. He can turn that into a
Speaker 1: glider if you will, Like if the engines go out,
Speaker 1: you can glide in a helicopter. If something goes wrong,
Speaker 1: you just fall. There's nothing to keep you up. So
Speaker 1: he doesn't like the physics behind it. He actually was
Speaker 1: in he calls it a controlled landing, but it was
Speaker 1: a crash landing that he ended up controlling very well.
Speaker 1: But his propeller. He was in a single engine aircraft,
Speaker 1: which means there's just one propeller.
Speaker 3: This a helicopter or a.
Speaker 1: Plane, because he doesn't ever want to be in a
Speaker 1: helicopter and the prop flew off the plane and he
Speaker 1: had to land in a body of water because he
Speaker 1: was in the middle of nowhere and the only way
Speaker 1: to get rescued was through a black Hawk helicopter came
Speaker 1: and threw a rope down, but that was the only
Speaker 1: way to get out of there because he was in
Speaker 1: the middle of like trees and mountains and a plane
Speaker 1: can't do that. That was the scariest part, he said
Speaker 1: that crash landing the plane, the repeller flying off, like, oh,
Speaker 1: that's really scary. But for him, the scariest part was
Speaker 1: during the rescue, having to get on a helicopter. He's
Speaker 1: gonna be out. I survived all of this and now
Speaker 1: a'm we gonna die getting in the helicopter, which he didn't. Okay,
Speaker 1: it's great, And I know there are helicopter pilots out
Speaker 1: there that they love helicopters and like they're great and all,
Speaker 1: but they just freak me out. So I know I'm
Speaker 1: not getting on one, and I'm kind of I love
Speaker 1: your mom and I'm sad.
Speaker 2: She got on one, but I'm happy she survived well. Also,
Speaker 2: my dad got sick during it, so I was like,
Speaker 2: was that even worth it? I just am not the
Speaker 2: kind of I'm never gonna sky dive. I'm never going
Speaker 2: to bunch and did that you skydive but you don't
Speaker 2: want to get into a helicopter.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I'm not going to ever skudive again. Ever?
Speaker 3: Was this like for work?
Speaker 1: Did you have to do it for my thirtieth birthday?
Speaker 2: Just live?
Speaker 1: Wait? Was it for work or for your birth I
Speaker 1: went with lunch box and another friend just we were like,
Speaker 1: wanted to do it and we could talk about it,
Speaker 1: but it wasn't an assignment.
Speaker 3: Did you enjoy it?
Speaker 1: Yeh, it's pretty cool.
Speaker 3: Okay, you would never do it again.
Speaker 1: Never do it again. I don't need to because like
Speaker 1: my luck, something's going to go wrong.
Speaker 2: Well, something didn't go wrong, I know, but if I
Speaker 2: do it again, okay, I don't want to press my
Speaker 2: luck anyway. Mom, if you're listening, don't do that again.
Speaker 2: And thank you for sending me the text because it
Speaker 2: was good intentioned. But if you are ever afraid that
Speaker 2: something's going to kill you, and it is a what's
Speaker 2: it called? When you don't it's a volunteer experience volunteering. Yeah,
Speaker 2: I would like you to be around as long as possible,
Speaker 2: so let's opt out, or like, let's talk about it.
Speaker 1: Family meeting, so we speaking of flights and just saying
Speaker 1: things that just or doing things that feel weird. What
Speaker 1: are your thoughts on this? Because I was with my
Speaker 1: boyfriend and his dad and his stepmom. But they've been
Speaker 1: married for like ever, so this has been a stepmom
Speaker 1: for a while. So for the sake of this, I'm
Speaker 1: just say his parents, we're talking about a trip next
Speaker 1: summer that everybody will take on his side of the family.
Speaker 1: So there's a lot of people, there's grandkids, there's they're
Speaker 1: kids and parents. And I said, well, I have work,
Speaker 1: so I might have to fly to meet all there.
Speaker 1: And then his stepmom was like, I'm fine with that.
Speaker 1: I'm actually fine with all of us being on separate
Speaker 1: ish flights, like I don't want everybody on the same airplane.
Speaker 1: And I was like, she goes, I know, I know
Speaker 1: that sounds morbid, but like you could wipe out an
Speaker 1: entire family, And I thought, well, I get the idea
Speaker 1: of that in dividing people up, and some husbands and
Speaker 1: wives won't fly on the same flight because if they
Speaker 1: have kids, they don't want.
Speaker 2: Their So if they're going on a vacation, they're like, O, hey,
Speaker 2: you take the six D. I'm gonna I'll come in
Speaker 2: a nine, right, Like good luck.
Speaker 1: I don't know, but I'll see you there, right, like
Speaker 1: we'll see who makes it which. But that's what I
Speaker 1: felt like when she said, like I know what she meant,
Speaker 1: and she wasn't saying anything like I get it thinking
Speaker 1: that way, and she's like, I know it's so morbid, right,
Speaker 1: And I'm like yeah, and also you're right, like she's
Speaker 1: not wrong, Like traveling separate makes sense. Then you're like
Speaker 1: putting this energy out there that like, well, we don't
Speaker 1: know what plane it's gonna happen to, but just in
Speaker 1: case it happens to one of the planes, not everybody's
Speaker 1: on it.
Speaker 2: I get that if you have kids. I actually like
Speaker 2: didn't need that perspective.
Speaker 1: Right now.
Speaker 2: I'm gonna have to bring that home and talk about
Speaker 2: it with my family.
Speaker 3: However, if I.
Speaker 1: You're gonna need your parents to fly home from Hawaii separately, yes.
Speaker 2: However, Patrick and I I either want us to die
Speaker 2: or live together, so we need we don't have kids
Speaker 2: right now, so if with kids are feel differently. But
Speaker 2: I if he dies, I'm going down with him. Really,
Speaker 2: Why we talked about this all the time. Why I
Speaker 2: don't want to live without him?
Speaker 1: That's really sweet.
Speaker 2: You're about to say that's ridiculous.
Speaker 1: No, no, no, no, I think it's really sweet. And
Speaker 1: I think you could still live a good life without him,
Speaker 1: but you would, you would learn, Like I think of
Speaker 1: my boyfriend who lost his wife and like now they
Speaker 1: have kids, so yeah, to take the kids out of it.
Speaker 1: Should I ask him, would you have wanted to die too?
Speaker 1: Don't because then if he says yes, I'll be like, Okay, no, don't.
Speaker 1: I think there's still life to be had, Like if
Speaker 1: you're a widow or a widower, that's probably true.
Speaker 3: Really, that's true.
Speaker 2: I wouldn't really want to die, but I think about
Speaker 2: the pain and I don't want to go to the
Speaker 2: pain of losing him.
Speaker 1: Yeah, so.
Speaker 3: Some podcast has taken a turn.
Speaker 1: I saw someone posts the other day like, if you're dead,
Speaker 1: do you know you're dead? No? You don't know it Like,
Speaker 1: if you're dead, you don't know that you're dead. When
Speaker 1: you're dead, it impacts the people around.
Speaker 2: You, but it doesn't impact the dead person, right, I'm going.
Speaker 1: Somewhere with it.
Speaker 2: Okay.
Speaker 1: So she says that, and then she's like, it's the
Speaker 1: same thing if you're stupid, Like, if you're stupid, you
Speaker 1: don't know it, but it impacts the people around you. Well,
Speaker 1: sounds like that's like and she wasn't saying like stupid,
Speaker 1: She's like, if you make stupid choices, right, like you know,
Speaker 1: drink and drive, text and drive.
Speaker 2: Yeah. Okay, So if that is the perspective of if
Speaker 2: you're dead, you don't know that you're dead, then I
Speaker 2: would want to be the dead person in the scenario
Speaker 2: if somebody goes down in the plane.
Speaker 1: Yeah. Okay, this has taken a turn, and I didn't
Speaker 1: mean to. I think that you fear the feelings that
Speaker 1: you're going to have to have regardless, and you're a
Speaker 1: mental health expert.
Speaker 3: I know it's not healthy when I.
Speaker 1: Just have if like something were to happen, like we
Speaker 1: would not that it will happen, but we would be
Speaker 1: here for you. And I don't want you to fear
Speaker 1: those feelings, which brings me to something that I pulled
Speaker 1: about fear in fancy outfits, fear in fancy outfits. It's
Speaker 1: just a cue, way to put it, like excuses that
Speaker 1: we have. Someone's excuses are just fear in fancy outfits, okay,
Speaker 1: And so I can read you the fancy outfit and
Speaker 1: then the like or the excuse and what it's covering
Speaker 1: up somebody else has already done it, Like that's an
Speaker 1: excuse that you give, And really what's happening is I'm
Speaker 1: worried I don't bring anything special to the table. I
Speaker 1: like that. I mean I could do the I guess
Speaker 1: I say, I like that, and I use it a lot.
Speaker 1: People have already done this. I use the excuse a
Speaker 1: lot like I like to use that one.
Speaker 2: However, I will say sometimes that's legit, right, how do
Speaker 2: you decipher?
Speaker 1: Well?
Speaker 2: I just remember one time talking with a business consultant
Speaker 2: about an idea that I had that I didn't end
Speaker 2: up doing because somebody already did it. I forgot exactly
Speaker 2: what he said. It really made sense in the moment,
Speaker 2: but one of the things he said, before you do
Speaker 2: anything with this, you need to look in your area
Speaker 2: and see, Oh, he said, has somebody already done this?
Speaker 2: And if they haven't, why haven't they? Which was like,
Speaker 2: maybe this wouldn't like take off in this area, and
Speaker 2: maybe we don't have the people that would actually be interested.
Speaker 2: And then somebody did do it and it didn't go
Speaker 2: well because I don't think they had the people in
Speaker 2: this area for that. But I think that sometimes can
Speaker 2: be a legit not excuse. People use it as an excuse.
Speaker 2: It also can be smart to be like, oh, I
Speaker 2: don't want to do.
Speaker 1: This, like it could be valid.
Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, it depends.
Speaker 1: It depends love it. Okay, So I want to be
Speaker 1: sure first, like to want to be really really sure
Speaker 1: about something. Could be covering up. I don't really trust
Speaker 1: myself yet. It's too complicated. Could really be my brain
Speaker 1: is overloaded. I need to make this simpler.
Speaker 3: I use that one all the time.
Speaker 2: It's too complicated, I think. I say it's too much
Speaker 2: because I get overwhelmed.
Speaker 1: I told you I got overwhelmed trying to pick out
Speaker 1: a new screensaver on my smart TV. Too many options,
Speaker 1: too many options, and so then I jump ship, which
Speaker 1: brings me to another thing. This person curated this awesome
Speaker 1: autumn wardrobe somebody that popped up on my Instagram. Like
Speaker 1: cute stuff, doable, wearable, like nothing over the top. It
Speaker 1: could be cute at work, could be cute on a Saturday.
Speaker 1: Affordable prices. This fall look book that she put up,
Speaker 1: and I know she put a lot of work into it,
Speaker 1: which is great. Why am I the type of person
Speaker 1: that when I click on it and then I see
Speaker 1: all the options on LTK, I click on one and
Speaker 1: I add to cart, and then I have to go
Speaker 1: click on another, and I had to kart and I
Speaker 1: have to click on another, and now it's at another store.
Speaker 1: So now we're not even at Zara anymore. So we
Speaker 1: have gone to J Crew. So now I have two
Speaker 1: different stores open. And then I go and I click
Speaker 1: on another one and the genes are from Abercrombie. Okay,
Speaker 1: so now I'm I'm shopping at a third place, and
Speaker 1: I've done this work, Like I already have stuff in
Speaker 1: my cart from Zara, stuff my car from J Crew.
Speaker 1: They've done all this work, They've laid it out for me,
Speaker 1: They've made it as easy as possible. But now I
Speaker 1: have three shopping carts open and then I swipe out.
Speaker 1: So I dedicated this much time to my new autumn
Speaker 1: wardrobe that was going to be so cute, and I
Speaker 1: don't follow. I don't even follow through with any of
Speaker 1: the purchase. Nothing. I'm gone And I don't even know
Speaker 1: who that person was because they were suggested for me.
Speaker 1: I never go back. All I know is maybe if
Speaker 1: I pull up the Tzara or I pull up the
Speaker 1: j Crew, like, maybe that stuff's still in my cart.
Speaker 1: But yeah, if it's too overwhelming or too complicated. But
Speaker 1: then I thought, why can't I just carve out twenty
Speaker 1: minutes to sit there and do it and just execute it?
Speaker 1: This top from Zara was so's so cute.
Speaker 2: I have a thought, what is it? I think elt
Speaker 2: like to know it? What do you call it? LTK
Speaker 2: does not have a user friendly interface. I don't exactly
Speaker 2: know what that means, but I think you get what
Speaker 2: I'm saying. I like shop My is it the same thing?
Speaker 1: It's like LTK, but I have some stuff on Shopmay.
Speaker 1: But here's the thing. I even get overwhelmed about organizing.
Speaker 2: My own shop.
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, well that's a whole other it's a whole
Speaker 1: nother thing.
Speaker 2: I just think it's hard. Like you're right, you have
Speaker 2: to like go to the outfit and then there's all
Speaker 2: these things. Then you have to click each one and
Speaker 2: you have to buy it. In a different place and
Speaker 2: it should be like, you know, Okay, when we got married,
Speaker 2: we made a wedding website on the not or something
Speaker 2: like that. I don't remember which one we used, but
Speaker 2: what they did that was really cool and I've seen
Speaker 2: it has been really helpful to me. Wasn't helpful for
Speaker 2: me as a bride, but I think would helpful for
Speaker 2: the people that we invited, and it's been helpful for me.
Speaker 2: And other people's wedding stuff have used us their registry.
Speaker 2: Like let's say you go to Target, you go to
Speaker 2: Creighton Barrel, you go to Restoration Hardware, you go to
Speaker 2: Amazon whatever. They do this with baby showers too.
Speaker 1: Yes, I'm going to a baby shower and this is
Speaker 1: what she did. Oh, I know what you're about to say,
Speaker 1: and this is what she did. I'm like, this is genius.
Speaker 2: So they on the website, whatever website you use to
Speaker 2: host the event, they compile everything and you can I
Speaker 2: think you can buy it from that website or whatever,
Speaker 2: but it's everything in there, and it just you can't.
Speaker 2: You can separate it by store or you can just
Speaker 2: want to look at the whole registry versus why I
Speaker 2: want to go look at her registry at Creighton Barrow.
Speaker 2: I want to go look at her registry at Target.
Speaker 2: I want to go look at It's you get to
Speaker 2: see everything right there by clicking one button. That's what
Speaker 2: we need.
Speaker 3: It's everything there. Click one button.
Speaker 2: I can just purchase it all, create a bundle or
Speaker 2: this is okay, my brain's going everywhere. This is a
Speaker 2: business opportunity for us. We have to ask the question,
Speaker 2: has somebody else done it? Why not for us to
Speaker 2: take what like to know it has done, looked at
Speaker 2: some problems that still are arising, find a solution and
Speaker 2: to fix it for people and create a whole other
Speaker 2: business where we now are creating bundles. You like that outfit. Here,
Speaker 2: here's what size are you. Here's a bundle ordered from
Speaker 2: all the stores. Yeah, it can be done, right, we
Speaker 2: have to have the technology.
Speaker 1: Surely, let's just build the app.
Speaker 3: I'm sure.
Speaker 2: Let's hire let's get an investor and then we'll hire
Speaker 2: somebody to build that.
Speaker 1: I can't wait for the day. Like sometimes the future
Speaker 1: freaks me out, but then also I'm totally fine with
Speaker 1: if I'm walking down the street and I like a
Speaker 1: girl's outfit, like I just want to like like you
Speaker 1: know how you can pay for things with your phone.
Speaker 1: You just pulled it up to the reader. I just
Speaker 1: hold up to their outfit and it's like and then
Speaker 1: it ships it to me. Yes, yeah, anyway, it's too complicated.
Speaker 2: How do we get complicated?
Speaker 1: Another excuse that is a fear and a fancy outfit
Speaker 1: is I'll start it when things calm down. Really, that's
Speaker 1: I'm waiting for the perfect moment so I don't have
Speaker 1: to feel uncomfortable. Things never calm down.
Speaker 3: Yeah, there's never a good time.
Speaker 1: There's never a good time. I have to kind of
Speaker 1: have to do it. I don't have time that could
Speaker 1: be a fancy outfit for I'm not making this a
Speaker 1: priority right now. Yeah, that I feel true with like
Speaker 1: anything you want to do, or a relationship you want
Speaker 1: to nurture, a relationship you want to be in. Like
Speaker 1: I was talking about this with my boyfriend the other
Speaker 1: day because someone in our life was broken up with
Speaker 1: and he felt differently than I did about like, well,
Speaker 1: if he wanted to make it a priority, he could
Speaker 1: And he was like, I don't know that that's the
Speaker 1: case here, and I'm like, I feel like it's very
Speaker 1: much the case.
Speaker 3: You said that and he said, I don't think so.
Speaker 1: Yeah. He was like, oh, I don't think that's what's
Speaker 1: happening here, and I was like, no, I think that
Speaker 1: there were certain expectations for person A and person B
Speaker 1: didn't want to make that a priority.
Speaker 2: I do think, because you know you've heard that thing.
Speaker 2: If he wanted to, he would. That sometimes applies and
Speaker 2: sometimes doesn't.
Speaker 1: Oh, it depends, it depends. It depends.
Speaker 2: Yeah, but I think sometimes that really is like, yeah,
Speaker 2: he'll figure it out to an extent. Sometimes there are
Speaker 2: just other situations that are getting in the way. Or
Speaker 2: he might really want this, but I think this goes
Speaker 2: to what you're saying too. I might really want to
Speaker 2: make this work, but this is here on the tote
Speaker 2: pol when this is here, I want both, but both
Speaker 2: don't match up at the same time.
Speaker 3: Does that make sense.
Speaker 1: Yeah. The final thing is it's not perfect yet, which
Speaker 1: sometimes can mean I'm nervous about what people will think.
Speaker 3: Because it won't ever be perfect.
Speaker 1: So they are just fears and fancy outfits.
Speaker 2: Well, I like that list because you can be honest
Speaker 2: and that doesn't mean that you have to do this,
Speaker 2: but I think it's good to be honest about why
Speaker 2: I'm not doing it.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I do have a questions that don't come up
Speaker 1: for you, which I know this is a fun segment
Speaker 1: because you came up with it, but it's really a
Speaker 1: question of how you say something. What is the little
Speaker 1: toiletry bag? Your husband may have one and you travel
Speaker 1: with it and you put stuff in it. What's it called?
Speaker 3: I feel like you're asking me this because I'm probably
Speaker 3: gonna say it wrong.
Speaker 1: No, I say, I just learned. I've been saying it
Speaker 1: right the entire life. You said it right, okay, DPP
Speaker 1: dop kit?
Speaker 2: Yeah?
Speaker 1: Did you know? I thought it was a doc kit?
Speaker 1: I've always said doc kit. I want to get my
Speaker 1: boyfriend a dot kit for Christmas. So I was googling
Speaker 1: it yesterday and I'm.
Speaker 2: Like, doc kit, nobody sells these anymore.
Speaker 1: And then I see it's saying Dopps and I'm like
Speaker 1: what because I always thought, you know how, back in
Speaker 1: the day, doctors would do house calls and they carry
Speaker 1: those little black bags and it looked like a dot kit,
Speaker 1: like a dot and it had everything they needed inside.
Speaker 1: I mean, give it. This is why I thought it
Speaker 1: was called a doc kit was because of a doctor's bag.
Speaker 1: Do you know, like an old adult time movies like
Speaker 1: the doctor would show up with a little black bag
Speaker 1: and had everything he needed.
Speaker 2: Yes, and you're saying doc sort for a doctor, Yeah.
Speaker 1: Doc kit, Like this is like your dock kit that's
Speaker 1: for toiletrees.
Speaker 2: That's cute that you thought that, actually, but it's dop
Speaker 2: Yeah what is dop?
Speaker 1: Why didn't get that far in my research?
Speaker 2: Why is it called a dop?
Speaker 3: I just saw it? Should it should be called a
Speaker 3: toiletry bag?
Speaker 1: You have it? Dop is easier to say, why.
Speaker 3: Don't we don't we don't have a name for our bags?
Speaker 1: Well, can't we carry adopt adop kits only masculine?
Speaker 3: I think dop kits are for men?
Speaker 1: Right? Well? Yeah, I mean I was looking at one
Speaker 1: for a man man in my life.
Speaker 3: It's a really good gift. Are you gonna get it?
Speaker 3: Like embroidered?
Speaker 1: Yeah? I wanted to put his initials on it because
Speaker 1: I saw his Are you going to stock it? Should?
Speaker 2: Yeah? I did that for Patrick one year and I
Speaker 2: got all these like beard oils and like face lotions
Speaker 2: and serums because you know, he didn't have a wound's
Speaker 2: touch in his life, and so I was gonna like
Speaker 2: get him a whole skincare routine.
Speaker 1: Beard oil. Wait, does hee have a beard? I like some?
Speaker 2: He like won it?
Speaker 1: I don't know, maybe he will one day.
Speaker 2: It was they had a lot of options. It just
Speaker 2: seemed like something that goes in adopt kit. Anyway, he
Speaker 2: never used them. He was like, I don't do that.
Speaker 2: He just washes his face with a with body wash. Okay.
Speaker 1: I now know why it's called adopkit because it was
Speaker 1: invented by a German American leather craftsman named Charles Doppelt
Speaker 1: in nineteen nineteen. So it was his name in nineteen nineteen.
Speaker 1: He's a craftsman.
Speaker 3: What does it mean it was invented. It's just a
Speaker 3: toiletry bag.
Speaker 1: How do you invent Well, nobody had made the kit
Speaker 1: yet the leather. He was a leather craftsman. Okay, so
Speaker 1: no one had maybe made it in that shape for okay,
Speaker 1: let me keep reading. His company created a popular leather
Speaker 1: bag for grooming items. Okay, maybe before they just had
Speaker 1: their grooming items scattered about. And the name dopp is
Speaker 1: a shortened version of his last name. While kit simply
Speaker 1: refers to its use for carrying personal items, the term
Speaker 1: became especially popular in the United States due to its
Speaker 1: adoption by the military during World War Two. Ohdop kit,
Speaker 1: Now you know, not to be confused with doc kit.
Speaker 2: That is really cute that you thought that. That makes
Speaker 2: really a lot of sense. I've never questioned until now
Speaker 2: why it's called adopt kit. So thanks for this little segment.
Speaker 1: Yeah, questions that don't come up. What do you call
Speaker 1: your toiletry bag?
Speaker 3: What do you call yours?
Speaker 1: Ooh, you know what, I should drop my toilet bag
Speaker 1: in our next newsletter. I just call it my toiletry
Speaker 1: bag special. It is awesome and it hangs it fits everything,
Speaker 1: and I keep it ready like a go bag because
Speaker 1: I have all my travel side stuff in there and
Speaker 1: now it's just ready to go.
Speaker 3: Yeah, like I don't have to go, and like your's
Speaker 3: just the one that like unfolds right.
Speaker 1: And then there's a side for jewelry and then a
Speaker 1: side for in then it like flaps, so when I
Speaker 1: get to the hotel, I just hang it up.
Speaker 2: Okay.
Speaker 1: I used to organize everything on the counter and then
Speaker 1: I bought this other makeup travel bag. It just opens
Speaker 1: up and I don't have to lay everything out on
Speaker 1: the count Back to the hotel room. Yeah, that's where
Speaker 1: I makeup, and then I have another like hanging bag
Speaker 1: for face wash and different things. So we do have
Speaker 1: another list of things to go over. And you specifically
Speaker 1: requested this because you said it would be very helpful
Speaker 1: for you. Do you know what I'm talking about?
Speaker 2: Yeah, but I feel like you're alluding what I'll be
Speaker 2: making it. We'll just read it.
Speaker 1: Just read.
Speaker 2: You're making it sound like I have like a smell problem.
Speaker 1: Oh no, that's not what I'm talking about. I'm not
Speaker 1: there yet.
Speaker 2: Oh okay, well then I have no idea what you're
Speaker 2: talking about there yet. We'll get to this.
Speaker 1: You are very excited about it, but I do. I do,
Speaker 1: I too, am I have two I am too. It's
Speaker 1: things that you can eat that will make you smell
Speaker 1: a certain way.
Speaker 3: But that's not what we're talking about.
Speaker 1: No, Remember how we were excited to go over things
Speaker 1: that you can say to someone instead of is there
Speaker 1: anything that I can do?
Speaker 3: Okay, this I yeah, this, I also, so it was
Speaker 3: excited about.
Speaker 1: Yeah, this can be helpful for anybody. And I know
Speaker 1: this list and have heard this before. I'm sure same
Speaker 1: for you, Kat, But the default is just so easy
Speaker 1: to say let me know what you need or is
Speaker 1: there anything I can do, which for someone that is
Speaker 1: going through something, they're already overwhelmed, so they're likely not
Speaker 1: going to reach out right.
Speaker 2: And sometimes it feels like you're being a burden if
Speaker 2: you do. Yes, even if somebody offers, it can feel like, well,
Speaker 2: I don't want to put my stuff on somebody else,
Speaker 2: so I agree, like I have heard this before and
Speaker 2: talk about it, and then I still find myself being like.
Speaker 3: Let me know if you need anything. They're like, okay,
Speaker 3: I will, and then they don't.
Speaker 1: Yeah, crickets. Yeah. So this is how you can be
Speaker 1: impactful in helping someone out, Like truly we can get there.
Speaker 1: You can just say, hey, i'm grabbing groceries later, can
Speaker 1: I get anything for you? Specifically You're already going to
Speaker 1: store so they don't feel like they're putting you out,
Speaker 1: and then you're saying like, I'm there, Yeah, what do
Speaker 1: you need? I'm free Wednesday evening? Can I drop off dinner?
Speaker 1: Question Mark? I'm thinking of you today. Want me to
Speaker 1: check in tomorrow to question Mark. I'd love to come
Speaker 1: by and sit with you. No need to entertain me. Uh.
Speaker 2: That one I like because I feel like when I
Speaker 2: go through certain things, I don't want to be alone,
Speaker 2: but I also sometimes don't want to talk. I just
Speaker 2: want somebody to like sit on the couch and watch something.
Speaker 2: But that's like a weird sometimes can feel weird to
Speaker 2: ask like I don't need anything.
Speaker 1: Well, you did this to me a couple of weeks ago.
Speaker 1: Remember I was having a particularly difficult Friday night, Oh remember,
Speaker 1: and you were like, I was like, I just want
Speaker 1: to stay home and eat pizza. And then I guess
Speaker 1: Patrick was doing something. I don't know what happened, and
Speaker 1: you're like, I can come over and I can bring pizza. Yeah,
Speaker 1: And I knew that it wouldn't be like we would
Speaker 1: have to sit there and talk like we would have
Speaker 1: genuinely just sat there and watched something and like eating pizza,
Speaker 1: and it would have been chill and fine. Yeah, but
Speaker 1: you were very specific and deliberate and were willing and
Speaker 1: able to show up if I needed it. Also, speaking
Speaker 1: of a couple weeks ago, do you remember this must
Speaker 1: have been just how quickly feelings can change, because that
Speaker 1: it might have been the Friday before and then like
Speaker 1: fast forward two or three days that following Monday. Do
Speaker 1: you remember me leaving a voice text of like I
Speaker 1: just feel great today, Like today, I feel so good.
Speaker 1: We had recorded earlier that day, and then later I
Speaker 1: left and I was like, I feel so good today.
Speaker 1: What is it?
Speaker 3: Did I listen to it?
Speaker 1: I don't know you did it? Maybe you did, but
Speaker 1: you didn't absorb it. Maybe you didn't appreciate how much. Wait,
Speaker 1: really I felt so good because I feel like you
Speaker 1: felt good too.
Speaker 2: This was after that experience. Yeah, okay, I do remember
Speaker 2: this happening, yes, okay, yeah, but like.
Speaker 1: Give it a couple days.
Speaker 2: You never know.
Speaker 1: Like I was in a pretty low of low, and
Speaker 1: then fast forward, nothing had changed about my situation. By
Speaker 1: the way, I still could have been very low about
Speaker 1: what was happening, but I don't know what was going
Speaker 1: on with me or if it was hormonal like good hormones.
Speaker 1: So I feel like sometimes we give ours a bad rap,
Speaker 1: but sometimes when they're in alignment, they're doing their thing
Speaker 1: and we're grooving like okay, yeah, thank you.
Speaker 2: I think part of that too, is, yeah, nothing had
Speaker 2: changed in that situation, but you gave yourself time to see, like,
Speaker 2: even if this is going on, my life can still
Speaker 2: be good. Good things still exist, and sometimes when something
Speaker 2: not desirable happens that brings on uncomfy feelings or sadness
Speaker 2: or hurt or pain, it becomes encompassing and we need
Speaker 2: some space to see like, Okay, I can still have
Speaker 2: these feelings about this, and let's not forget these things
Speaker 2: still exist too. Yeah that's true, but it's hard when
Speaker 2: something is fresh, it's hard to have that perspective. Yeah.
Speaker 2: So we probably just had a little like shot of
Speaker 2: oh look, we like.
Speaker 1: Our life, we like our lives. Yes, oh look, I
Speaker 1: don't need to fear this. My life can still be good.
Speaker 1: And I don't know, I just whatever, I'm like chasing
Speaker 1: that Monday from a couple of weeks ago.
Speaker 2: Where where are the case of the Mondays? And our
Speaker 2: Monday was usually people think that's bad and our Monday
Speaker 2: was good?
Speaker 1: Like I was just in it was just feeling awesome.
Speaker 1: Maybe that's my once a month gift.
Speaker 3: Once a month you get a good Monday.
Speaker 1: Yeah, or like a what good few days? Okay, yeah, okay, okay,
Speaker 1: I just venmoed you some coffee money for yourself. I
Speaker 1: just venmoed you some coffee money for yourself.
Speaker 2: That's a good one.
Speaker 1: Yeah, that's another thing you can do instead of let
Speaker 1: me know what you need. Another one is can I
Speaker 1: take care of insert a specific task for you this week?
Speaker 1: Can I take care of kid? Pick up for you
Speaker 1: this week? Can I take care or on a specific day?
Speaker 1: Can I get to do it every day? Laundry?
Speaker 3: Can I come break your leaves? Oh that's an things.
Speaker 1: Okay, So I saw y'all raking leaves, and I am
Speaker 1: not gonna rake mine.
Speaker 3: I was gonna ask you that actually.
Speaker 1: Things that don't come up? Why?
Speaker 2: Because then I drove in today I did notice that
Speaker 2: you have You have two really big trees, and the
Speaker 2: one in front is beautiful right now, but all.
Speaker 3: The leaves are falling.
Speaker 1: She's showing off.
Speaker 2: So I have never lived in a house that had
Speaker 2: a big trees that had enough leaves to impact your yard. Okay,
Speaker 2: it's a lot of work, and I didn't understand how
Speaker 2: people are doing it, Like are you hiring so many
Speaker 2: of this? Are you putting all those leaves in the bags?
Speaker 2: Because that's so much work, And it's like exfoliation of
Speaker 2: a tree. That's phases, you know, like the leaves fall,
Speaker 2: they're all over your yard, you clean them up, then
Speaker 2: they fall again.
Speaker 3: Like it takes a couple falls. And I learned a
Speaker 3: lot about leaf pick up, leaf pickup.
Speaker 1: One lots twice I said leave and then I said leaf.
Speaker 1: I learned a lot about leaf pickuplea. How you glitched
Speaker 1: leaf pick up, leaf peck up, leaf pick up?
Speaker 2: You have to say it twice.
Speaker 1: Account So what did you learn learn?
Speaker 2: Okay, many people said don't rake them because leaves are
Speaker 2: really good for the soil or yah.
Speaker 1: So I just googled it and said, you don't always
Speaker 1: need to break leaves, and leaving them can be beneficial
Speaker 1: for your lawn in the environment. However, a thick layer
Speaker 1: of leaves can smother the c Yes.
Speaker 2: Yeah, so we have a thick layer.
Speaker 1: So how do you measure it the thickness good question.
Speaker 3: Haven't gotten that far.
Speaker 2: Apparently, if you want fireflies, you want to leave them
Speaker 2: because they're good habitats for the fireflies. But also apparently
Speaker 2: the little bugs glow.
Speaker 1: Yeah.
Speaker 3: What else would I be talking about?
Speaker 1: I don't know. I guess I was just you know what,
Speaker 1: I feel bad. I just had shame as a kid.
Speaker 1: For fun, we would put on white T shirts and
Speaker 1: we go catch the glougs and then we'd smear them
Speaker 1: on our shirts and we would glow murderer, murderer I
Speaker 1: know in the first degree.
Speaker 3: Well, you know what this is? You giving back to firefly.
Speaker 1: Now I'm leaving them ome forgive me. I knew not
Speaker 1: what I was doing.
Speaker 2: Apparently if you know them, it becomes really good mulch
Speaker 2: for your yard.
Speaker 3: Oh, and you leave them there.
Speaker 2: But there are certain lawnmowers that have like attachments that
Speaker 2: mulch things for you.
Speaker 3: I don't know.
Speaker 2: Also, I posted a picture of Patrick raking them, and
Speaker 2: my brother texted me and he said, Patrick is using
Speaker 2: a landscaping rake. That's not a rake for leaves. And
Speaker 2: I'm like, okay, how are we supposed to know what
Speaker 2: rake is for? That is landscaping? Is it not landscaping?
Speaker 2: I'm doing things in my yard. What constitute says landscaping?
Speaker 1: Is it? Well? I think if there's grass underneath? Was
Speaker 1: he saying, Because if you're in a landscaping bed, there's
Speaker 1: like mulch, okay, and then the grass is there, which
Speaker 1: I did just look up Welcome to landscaping. Landscaping minute,
Speaker 1: you should rake leaves if they're so thick you cannot
Speaker 1: see the grass beneath them. So that's how you measure
Speaker 1: the thickness. Can you see the grass?
Speaker 3: Yeah, we can't see our grass.
Speaker 2: So Patrick, also, somebody sent me this morning this little
Speaker 2: like pusher guy, you know, the thing that picks up
Speaker 2: the golf balls at like a driving range. It's kind
Speaker 2: of like remind me of that. But you push it
Speaker 2: and it will pick up the leaves as you push
Speaker 2: it through the yard.
Speaker 1: Oh so it's like a roller brush for lint, but
Speaker 1: for leaves, and it's big.
Speaker 2: Yes, yes, yes, it's a roller it's a lint roller
Speaker 2: for your leaves. Patrick went, well, as we're recording this,
Speaker 2: he's going to home depot to buy one. But we
Speaker 2: have so many leaves that he's going to have to
Speaker 2: empty out the bag like twenty five times. Good thing
Speaker 2: about where we moved, we don't have to bag them up.
Speaker 2: You just push him off to the road and the
Speaker 2: county will come suck them up.
Speaker 1: Wow.
Speaker 3: Yeah, so what about your.
Speaker 1: So to anybody else to listen us talk about leaves,
Speaker 1: I'm interested.
Speaker 2: I would say I got a lot of d MS
Speaker 2: about my leaf content, so I think people are interested.
Speaker 1: I was thinking back to my days in college. I
Speaker 1: took turf management.
Speaker 3: Oh you went to an agriculture school.
Speaker 1: Well, I did, but I think a lot of schools
Speaker 1: maybe offer it. It was just me and a bunch
Speaker 1: of football players got it. Turf is not grass though, right, Yeah,
Speaker 1: it is. Turf is like turf management. We studied all
Speaker 1: kinds of grass, the different types of grass, golf course maintenance.
Speaker 3: Oh, I'm thinking turf is like artificial grass.
Speaker 1: Oh. I took an artificial artificial grass class.
Speaker 3: I thought it was weird if we just sewed it together.
Speaker 2: Where you learned about the different kinds of plastics and
Speaker 2: the little like rubber beads that are in there.
Speaker 1: I don't know. Interesting.
Speaker 2: Okay, so you're not going to do anything. Do you
Speaker 2: never do anything to your leaves? No?
Speaker 1: But I do have a yard man, Doug. I'll ask
Speaker 1: Doug what's our plan with the Doug has a plan.
Speaker 2: I didn't want to be the one house in our
Speaker 2: neighborhood that's everybody else is maintaining their yards. And I've
Speaker 2: never lived in a neighborhood where people do that. So
Speaker 2: I don't want to be like, did you see the
Speaker 2: Van Buren's house.
Speaker 1: You got to keep up with them.
Speaker 3: They're letting it go.
Speaker 2: Yeah, they're bringing down the value of our homes.
Speaker 1: With the Joneses. Yeah, you might get a fine.
Speaker 2: Update update if anybody from my neighborhood, which I'm not
Speaker 2: going to say what it is that anybody from my
Speaker 2: neighborhood is listening? Let me into the Homeowner Association Facebook group.
Speaker 1: Wait, why are you getting the heisman on that? I don't?
Speaker 3: That was like a cool little like, yeah, what's like
Speaker 3: a you're getting blocked?
Speaker 2: I'm getting blocked. I talked about this what a month ago,
Speaker 2: maybe longer. I even had a pending request. I canceled
Speaker 2: my request and requests.
Speaker 1: So my thing is maybe the moderator just hasn't logged on,
Speaker 1: like is it active.
Speaker 2: It's active, you can see like there's been two posts today, but.
Speaker 1: Maybe they haven't gone over to the little section like
Speaker 1: the notification that says we have someone waiting to get in.
Speaker 2: Okay, well here's my feedback for them. That could be
Speaker 2: very true. Somebody from the HOA brought cookies to our
Speaker 2: house so they know that I'm here.
Speaker 1: Okay, do you know who specifically brought the cookies or
Speaker 1: just said from the HOA?
Speaker 2: She actually was the same lady that sold our house
Speaker 2: to us, so I would talk.
Speaker 1: To her, Okay, yeah, okay, just networking.
Speaker 3: Oh, by the way, I would really like to be
Speaker 3: part of the group.
Speaker 1: Yeah, you want to get let in. It made me
Speaker 1: think whenever I was googling how to know. You know,
Speaker 1: when you type into a Google search engine, other things
Speaker 1: will pop up that you're not how to know. I
Speaker 1: was saying how to know if you should break your
Speaker 1: leaves or not? But all I typed in was how
Speaker 1: to know? And before I got to that, the first
Speaker 1: thing that comes up is how to know if someone
Speaker 1: blocked you? So that must be the most searched how
Speaker 1: to know. Oh. The next worried one is how to
Speaker 1: know if eggs are bad? Do you know? No? Did
Speaker 1: they float?
Speaker 3: It's a float test?
Speaker 2: Yeah?
Speaker 1: Okay, well I just clicked on it. You can tell
Speaker 1: if eggs are bad by performing a float test and
Speaker 1: of water. A fresh egg will sink, a bad egg
Speaker 1: will float.
Speaker 3: Have you ever cracked up with a bad egg?
Speaker 1: No? I don't why what happened?
Speaker 3: I've never done it either.
Speaker 1: Yeah, it was like, I don't know, Okay, how don't
Speaker 1: know if eggs are bad? How don't know if someone
Speaker 1: blocked you? How don't know if you're pregnant? How don't
Speaker 1: know if you have diabetes? Those are the most popular?
Speaker 2: Is that the most popular in general and the most
Speaker 2: popular based on your search history.
Speaker 1: Well, I've never searched any of those things, so.
Speaker 3: I don't know.
Speaker 1: Okay, maybe you type in how to know to your
Speaker 1: little iPad over.
Speaker 2: There, that's actually what comes up.
Speaker 1: Yeah, just all. You don't type in anything else, but
Speaker 1: other than how to know, that's the only thing you're
Speaker 1: allowed to type. And while you type that, I'm going
Speaker 1: to go back to my list of things you can
Speaker 1: say to someone besides let me know what you need.
Speaker 1: We have two more left. Want company for a walk
Speaker 1: or just someone to sit with, which is a good one,
Speaker 1: and the final one I know calls can be a lot.
Speaker 1: Want me to text you instead?
Speaker 2: I can't figure out how to get my iPad to work?
Speaker 1: What do you mean how how to go to search Google?
Speaker 1: It won't. It's being like it's.
Speaker 3: Being ornery, as my grandmother.
Speaker 1: Would say, ornery or honery.
Speaker 3: I think it's ornery, that's how my nmai said.
Speaker 1: But also I thought it was a docket.
Speaker 2: Oh oh, okay, I got I got okay. How see,
Speaker 2: I'm like pressing things and nothing's happened?
Speaker 3: Okay?
Speaker 2: How it's just slow? I know this thing needs to
Speaker 2: be you can see that I don't use this often.
Speaker 2: I think it needs to be updated. How many days
Speaker 2: until Christmas?
Speaker 1: No, you have to type in?
Speaker 2: How to know? I know it's taking that long from
Speaker 2: my I'm typing it and it's taking a long time
Speaker 2: to catch up. How to screenshot on Mac. How to
Speaker 2: get rid of stink bugs?
Speaker 3: Okay?
Speaker 2: How to know? Oh what does it say? How to
Speaker 2: know if someone blocked you? How to know if eggs
Speaker 2: are bad? How do you know if you're pregnant? How
Speaker 2: do you know?
Speaker 1: How do you have diabetes?
Speaker 3: How do you know if you have a concussion?
Speaker 2: How to know if a la buobuu is real? How
Speaker 2: did you miss that one?
Speaker 1: Well? I only clicked. I only if I kept scrolling
Speaker 1: more might show up.
Speaker 2: How to know if chicken is bad? How do you
Speaker 2: know if ground beef is bad? How to know when
Speaker 2: you're ovulating? That's hard? How to know your blood type?
Speaker 2: I don't know my blood type.
Speaker 1: And the thing is, I've been told my blood type
Speaker 1: multiple and I don't remember why. Why is it?
Speaker 3: But my mom knows my blood type?
Speaker 2: Because when I want to know it The answer is,
Speaker 2: text your mom because she knows, but I don't know mine.
Speaker 1: Well I can't text my mom.
Speaker 2: Well, then we need to write it down somewhere. How
Speaker 2: do you know Kat knows her blood type?
Speaker 1: No, she's so positive.
Speaker 3: No, she knows hers.
Speaker 1: It's like she Oh, I thought you were saying she.
Speaker 2: I would love to do a poll. Do you know
Speaker 2: your blood type?
Speaker 3: How many people?
Speaker 2: How many people he's gonna know?
Speaker 1: I think a lot of people don't know. Like, do
Speaker 1: you have your driver's license? M're memorized? No? I know.
Speaker 3: It starts with I know the three first numbers.
Speaker 1: Do you have your license plate memorized?
Speaker 2: I used to because I used to work in a
Speaker 2: parking lot where I had to type it in to
Speaker 2: validate my parking. But I got a new license plate.
Speaker 3: Do you know yours?
Speaker 1: No?
Speaker 3: Do you know your social Security number?
Speaker 1: Yes? I know my social Security number.
Speaker 2: So social security number number, I know it?
Speaker 1: Four four.
Speaker 2: You don't have to.
Speaker 1: But I think everybody born around me starts with the
Speaker 1: four four. Wait. Really, I think it's like when you're
Speaker 1: born right as the first I.
Speaker 3: Thought it was random?
Speaker 1: Is it random?
Speaker 3: It's random?
Speaker 2: Take that back? Redact that.
Speaker 1: Okay, there's so many other numbers that you could factor in.
Speaker 1: Nobody's going to figure out my social Security number because
Speaker 1: I said.
Speaker 2: Four next week your identity and I only said four.
Speaker 1: Twice, because that's what we do here. We repeat every
Speaker 1: time twice, tries twice for four. By kay, you ready
Speaker 1: for it? The thing I've been waiting for.
Speaker 3: The thing you've been waiting for.
Speaker 1: The real thing. You've been waiting for. Foods that make
Speaker 1: you smell better, therefore more attractive, Foods that make you
Speaker 1: smell better, therefore more attractive.
Speaker 3: I'm kind of nervous this one.
Speaker 1: I don't agree with at all. But garlic is on
Speaker 1: the list because apparently when a man sweats after he
Speaker 1: is consumed garlic, he is rated as more pleasant by women.
Speaker 1: There's not no what this could be debatable. I just
Speaker 1: don't get it. We'll move on a diet higher in
Speaker 1: fruits and veggies produce sweat with more of a floral, fruity,
Speaker 1: sweet scent. Okay, I can get behind that. Yogurt and
Speaker 1: Kiefer supports beneficial gut mouth bacteria. Did I say keifer wrong? Well?
Speaker 2: Okay?
Speaker 1: Is it?
Speaker 3: Okay?
Speaker 2: I've actually never said that word because I've not known
Speaker 2: how to say it, I would have in my head
Speaker 2: pronounced it keffer.
Speaker 3: So I was about to say thank you for finally
Speaker 3: telling me that it's keifer.
Speaker 1: It could be keffer.
Speaker 3: Okay, it's a weird word.
Speaker 2: It's k e f.
Speaker 1: I R kefer.
Speaker 2: It's actually pronounced.
Speaker 1: Kiffer.
Speaker 3: Wait, I don't. That's also a weird one.
Speaker 2: Yogurt. Yogurt is like molded milk. It's curdled milk, is
Speaker 2: it not?
Speaker 1: What is it?
Speaker 3: It's a yogurt is a bacteria.
Speaker 1: But the bacteria that are good in there are good
Speaker 1: for your gut microbiome. Like, I'm the probiotics.
Speaker 3: I'm pro yogurt, but I know that's I'm pro yogurt.
Speaker 1: Yes, let's be more about what we're for, not what
Speaker 1: we're against.
Speaker 2: Let's start with the yogurt people.
Speaker 1: It's so fractured out there these days.
Speaker 2: And it is interesting that yogurt would make you smell good.
Speaker 1: I think it just helps with your bacteria, which leads
Speaker 1: to better Okay, Yeah, Water and staying hydrated, now this
Speaker 1: one is just something I know. I know this, and
Speaker 1: I just still don't drink enough water. Doing so reduces
Speaker 1: concentrated bacteria and unwanted smells.
Speaker 3: Got it.
Speaker 1: Finally, this is what I want to really start doing
Speaker 1: mint leaves or ginger in your water.
Speaker 3: Let's level up the water.
Speaker 1: You get hydrated and you add these herbs that help you.
Speaker 1: They have anti macrobial elements. So if you consume that
Speaker 1: it's like anti macrobial.
Speaker 3: I want to offer some feedback.
Speaker 1: Go for it.
Speaker 2: This is with anything, if you are trying to start
Speaker 2: a new habit, we need to start at the lowest level,
Speaker 2: not stack things. So if you can't even drink water,
Speaker 2: do you think it was minty? Do you think that
Speaker 2: would motivate you of like I have special water. Yeah,
Speaker 2: because then you have to like get the mint and
Speaker 2: then get the water. Put the mint in the water,
Speaker 2: shake it up, trick it.
Speaker 1: You know. I used to put I haven't thought of
Speaker 1: this in years. I used to put fresh mint leaves
Speaker 1: in my chocolate protein smoothies and it tastes like mint
Speaker 1: chocolate chip.
Speaker 2: Waitond because this call I forgot I did that? Why
Speaker 2: have I never thought about this? I have a chocolate
Speaker 2: smoothie like almost every day.
Speaker 1: Oh well, you need to throw some mint leaves in there,
Speaker 1: and it's gonna change the game, especially this time of year.
Speaker 1: Because we are festive. Oh Christmas time. Thank you, You're welcome.
Speaker 1: And you're gonna be adding anti macrobial elements to your smoothie.
Speaker 1: Your chocolate smoothie just got an upgrade. Fresh mint leaves. Okay,
Speaker 1: you're gonna beat the grocery store and you're gonna be like,
Speaker 1: I need some mint, fresh mint please. It's an elevated purchase.
Speaker 3: Where do you keep your freshman?
Speaker 1: But it's like not expensive.
Speaker 3: Should we think lant mint?
Speaker 1: We should just grow our own. Yeah, I bet it's
Speaker 1: easy to grow your own mint. Yeah, leaf plant, tree thing.
Speaker 3: Then we're adding more and we really just need to
Speaker 3: be drinking more water.
Speaker 1: Okay, And I like ginger. I can add ginger chunks
Speaker 1: into hot hot limit water.
Speaker 3: That could do it.
Speaker 1: You can throw ginger into your smoothies. I wouldn't into
Speaker 1: your chocolate mint, but you could if you were doing
Speaker 1: a different type of smoothie that had other.
Speaker 2: I love a ginger tea like a hot tea. I
Speaker 2: can't get down with a ginger flavored water.
Speaker 3: Okay, there you go.
Speaker 1: If you want to be more attractive, all you have
Speaker 1: to do is put mint in your water and there
Speaker 1: you go. Now I have a list of foods that
Speaker 1: make you smell bad, therefore less attractive.
Speaker 2: This is what I was scared of.
Speaker 1: This word I always struggle with. So is I'm going
Speaker 1: to be vulnerable and I'm going to try to say
Speaker 1: it right the first time. Crysiferous vegetables. Cryciferous vegetables, Do
Speaker 1: you know what that is?
Speaker 3: Like a rock or a cauliflower.
Speaker 1: Yeah, they are packed with sulfurous compounds leading to unpleasant smells.
Speaker 3: Broccoli is probably the veel I eat the most. That's
Speaker 3: tough for me.
Speaker 1: Asparagus causes smelly sweat and urine.
Speaker 2: That's my second favorite vegetable.
Speaker 1: I have never even ever smelled to me.
Speaker 3: So yeah, but your pa does smell after you as
Speaker 3: fergus very much.
Speaker 1: So it's instantaneous, Which doesn't that make you think of
Speaker 1: It's almost like you're having this science experience in happening
Speaker 1: right to your buddy. Like I'll be at a restaurant,
Speaker 1: I'll eat a bite of asparagus. I'll run to the
Speaker 1: bathroom like at the restaurant because I have to pee,
Speaker 1: and while I already smell like it. So it's like
Speaker 1: how quickly things hit your bloodstream.
Speaker 3: Yeah, it's like crazy I know it is.
Speaker 1: But also I was talking to someone the other day
Speaker 1: about how smart our blood is. Our blood is really smart. Yeah, yeah,
Speaker 1: because it like filters all kinds of things all the time.
Speaker 3: I don't really know how blesses. I don't.
Speaker 1: We don't ask me to explain it. I just know
Speaker 1: that it's moving around and doing it's moving, it's grooven,
Speaker 1: it's doing things. Red meat men rated smelling slightly worse
Speaker 1: compared to men who didn't eat meat.
Speaker 3: I feel like that's men are gonna stop eating red meat.
Speaker 1: Yeah. I feel good after I have some ground beef. Okay,
Speaker 1: maybe that's what I did that Monday.
Speaker 2: You had some ground beef. That ground be oh like
Speaker 2: what you were on a ground beef kick.
Speaker 1: I was having lots of beef around. Maybe that's because
Speaker 1: my blood just need once it wants the meat, fish
Speaker 1: and beans, they produce strong smelling compounds that are released
Speaker 1: via the skin and breath. I will say, my boyfriend
Speaker 1: did eat some fish the other day, and I knew
Speaker 1: we ate it, like I could just smell the fish.
Speaker 2: I didn't have smell too. My friend doesn't have a
Speaker 2: sense of smell, which is crazy. She just from COVID
Speaker 2: or no, she's just never had one.
Speaker 1: Oh, she was born that way.
Speaker 2: Okay, I actually forget the whole story. I should ask her.
Speaker 2: I feel like it slowly changed or she didn't realize
Speaker 2: that she didn't have it until later in life, and
Speaker 2: then she was like, wait, what you guys are smelling this?
Speaker 2: So like she can't pick out a candle and she
Speaker 2: can't pick out a perfume. She has to ask us
Speaker 2: to help her because she could be wearing really yucky perfume.
Speaker 2: I used to live with her and she used to
Speaker 2: take fish to work and microwave it because she didn't
Speaker 2: know what fish smell like. And then we had to
Speaker 2: tell her, you're probably the smelly girl at work and
Speaker 2: everybody's annoyed with you.
Speaker 1: Yeah, there's rules for the work microwave.
Speaker 2: You can't put fish or crustaceans in it. I don't
Speaker 2: think you should do shrimpy.
Speaker 1: There, Oh crustaceans.
Speaker 2: What did you think I'm saying? Chrisis servis.
Speaker 1: I just have never I've heard other people do it,
Speaker 1: but I've never referred to a shrimp as a crustacean.
Speaker 2: I think, like any type, well, like he's a crab,
Speaker 2: a crustacean. I think so now crab in the Yeah,
Speaker 2: no crab, No lobster, Nope, no, none of those crustaceans
Speaker 2: I think from the sea. Yeah, nothing from the sea.
Speaker 2: She was mortified and she didn't She'll never do it again.
Speaker 1: Yeah, it's lucky to have y'all.
Speaker 3: Isn't that crazy?
Speaker 1: Though?
Speaker 2: She's just like not born. I guess it's probably more
Speaker 2: common than you think. Well, like your but she can't taste.
Speaker 2: That's the other thing is your senses, Like which sense
Speaker 2: would you would take over?
Speaker 1: Like would you? Yeah? Because you would think like if
Speaker 1: you have the taste, she would know that fish sometimes
Speaker 1: it tastes fishy, Yeah.
Speaker 3: But she doesn't know what it smells like.
Speaker 1: True.
Speaker 3: But what's interesting is she can still you.
Speaker 2: There used to be this urban legend going around the
Speaker 2: internet that that if you didn't have a sense of smell,
Speaker 2: you didn't have a sense of taste. But I think
Speaker 2: if you don't have a sense of smell, your sense
Speaker 2: of taste is very limited. But if you never have one,
Speaker 2: then you don't know that. So like, if I lose
Speaker 2: my sense of smell, I will notice the difference in
Speaker 2: my taste.
Speaker 1: But since she's never had it, when you're sick, things
Speaker 1: taste stiff, different or you can't taste them as much.
Speaker 3: But because she's never had that experience, yeah she yeah. Anyway,
Speaker 3: the more you.
Speaker 1: Know, moving on with the list, there's only a few
Speaker 1: more large amounts of alcohol. This increases moral bacteria causing sweat, skin, gut,
Speaker 1: all that stuff to Emit smells, which, yes, if you
Speaker 1: have large amounts of alcohol.
Speaker 2: That's interesting that alcohol creates the bacteria, because I would
Speaker 2: think that alcohol would wipe it out.
Speaker 1: Like rubbing alcohol. Yeah, a little different. Caffeine or tea
Speaker 1: stimulates sweat glands in your underarms and area, leading to
Speaker 1: stronger body odor.
Speaker 3: Wait, I drink a lot of tea.
Speaker 1: I love tea and coffee.
Speaker 2: This is stupid.
Speaker 1: Where does this from low carb ketogenic style diets? I
Speaker 1: have heard this, like if you are in keto you
Speaker 1: have a nail polish remover smell oh like.
Speaker 2: Alcohol like acid. Yeah that's shocking.
Speaker 3: So can we go ahead and say that.
Speaker 1: This list is just for fun and not real, and
Speaker 1: but add mint to your smoothies.
Speaker 3: That part's real.
Speaker 1: That part's real. I do think that there is some
Speaker 1: to it ish, but you don't have to live by it,
Speaker 1: like eat your asparagus, eat your broccoli, eat your cauliflower.
Speaker 3: And people will love you no matter what you smell like.
Speaker 1: But my favorite thing out of this entire you know,
Speaker 1: sometimes you're like, I don't know why we do certain
Speaker 1: little segments. I don't know this. I know, I know
Speaker 1: we went through all of that so that we could
Speaker 1: re introduce or in your case, introduce it to you
Speaker 1: for the first time mentally into our chocolate smoothies. Yeah.
Speaker 3: Thank god.
Speaker 2: I would never have thought of that, And I've been
Speaker 2: on a mint chocolate chip ice cream kick the past
Speaker 2: couple weeks.
Speaker 1: Questions that don't come up. Do you put milk in
Speaker 1: your ice cream?
Speaker 3: No, it's made out of milk.
Speaker 1: Yeah, but what you do is you scoop it into
Speaker 1: your bowler cup and then you pour a thin layer
Speaker 1: of milk on top of the ice cream.
Speaker 3: What happens?
Speaker 1: Put it back in the freezer for just a little bit,
Speaker 1: not too long, and then pull it out. Don't ask
Speaker 1: me what happens. Try it for yourself. It is so good, yeah,
Speaker 1: saying we grow. Yeah. It came up because my sister
Speaker 1: and I were on FaceTime with my boyfriend and I
Speaker 1: was drinking a glass of milk not milk. I drink
Speaker 1: almond milk, but can you use almond milk for this
Speaker 1: whatever kind of milk you drink, Yes, you can do
Speaker 1: almond milk for this on your ice cream. It's really
Speaker 1: what it. Almond milk, oat milk, cow's milk, cashw milk,
Speaker 1: coconut milk, whatever milk you fancy, go for it. Back
Speaker 1: in my childhood, my dad always put ice in his milk,
Speaker 1: so we grew up putting ice in our milk. I
Speaker 1: love ice in my milk. And I was at my
Speaker 1: boyfriend's house the other night and he had made these
Speaker 1: little protein ball things that were really good, and I
Speaker 1: was like, oh, you know, it just hit right now.
Speaker 1: It's a glass of milk. So I go over and
Speaker 1: make glass of milk, but I put ice in it.
Speaker 1: And I don't think I've ever had this in front
Speaker 1: of him. Yeah, it was the first time, and he
Speaker 1: was like, what are you doing? And I was like,
Speaker 1: I'm having a glass of milk. And then my sister
Speaker 1: got on FaceTime. She's like, oh, yeah, yeah, we drink
Speaker 1: ice our milk. She's like, oh yeah, and we also
Speaker 1: put milk over our ice cream. And he was like,
Speaker 1: what that doesn't make sense. But we just grew up
Speaker 1: doing that and it's so normal, and to us it's
Speaker 1: so good, and so I would say, don't knock it.
Speaker 2: To try it.
Speaker 3: I'm gonna try it.
Speaker 1: But also, what kind of mint chocolate chip ice cream?
Speaker 3: I have two thoughts.
Speaker 2: I'm gonna do your thing, I'm gonna move my ring.
Speaker 2: So I remember this other thought. The ice cream that
Speaker 2: I've been eating is there's those YAsO or YAsO or whatever.
Speaker 2: They're like Greek yogurt ice cream bars. And I think
Speaker 2: it was when oh, I got mint chocolate chip when
Speaker 2: I was congested a couple of weeks ago, because I
Speaker 2: thought the mint would be like feel good. I was
Speaker 2: drinking mint tea and eating mint ice cream and now
Speaker 2: I'm hooked. Why are you looking at that if you're congested?
Speaker 2: Are they made out of dairy? Dairy like form a cow?
Speaker 1: I think if you're congested, you should avoid milk, but well,
Speaker 1: you know what, I'm not a it's Greek yogurt. Yeah,
Speaker 1: Greek yogurts from a cow? So is that bad for
Speaker 1: I just think if you're congested, you try to avoid milk.
Speaker 1: But that could be urban legend. That could be totally wrong.
Speaker 2: It made me. Oh no, it wasn't congestion, it was
Speaker 2: a sore throat. Oh okay, And I thought the mint
Speaker 2: would feel good on my throat.
Speaker 1: Also, I wonder in there is it real mint or
Speaker 1: is it like mint flavoring?
Speaker 2: Well, I feel like that's like a I feel like
Speaker 2: they use good ingredients in those bars. Think that they
Speaker 2: are expensive, you like to get them when they're on sale. Yeah, okay,
Speaker 2: my either thought this is not important, but I just
Speaker 2: now question does that don't come up? And since they're
Speaker 2: talking about milk, I'd like to know this about you
Speaker 2: at dinner growing up?
Speaker 3: What could you drink with your dinner?
Speaker 1: I don't remember having rules, okay, because.
Speaker 2: You know some people grow up and they have to
Speaker 2: drink milk with dinner. Who so you could be like
Speaker 2: having spaghetti and have to drink milk with it.
Speaker 1: Oh. I've never heard a lot of parents because it's
Speaker 1: I guess good for kids zones. Yeah, and you know
Speaker 1: that got Milk campaign.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I was gonna say the commercials, they are always
Speaker 2: a dinner and the mom's like, here's a glass of
Speaker 2: milk with your chicken parmesan Like that to me is
Speaker 2: like gross, does don't go together. I also grew up
Speaker 2: in a family that nobody drinks milk. I have never
Speaker 2: seen anybody in my family drink a glass of milk.
Speaker 2: My little brother really likes chocolate milk. But I have
Speaker 2: never seen my mom, my dad, my sister, my brother,
Speaker 2: my brother, myself, my grandma, never seen any of them
Speaker 2: be like, I'm gonna have a glass of milk.
Speaker 1: Never.
Speaker 3: We only use milk for cereal.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I don't know, we drink milk. I would drink
Speaker 1: skim milk over ice and let it water down. Then
Speaker 1: I would drink it. It's so good. I love that.
Speaker 3: Okay, yeah, anyway, so that.
Speaker 1: But yeah, man, wow, we covered lawn care, dairy, asparagus.
Speaker 1: We had other helpful things.
Speaker 2: We didn't never figure out how to say chrysiferousiferous chers.
Speaker 1: Anyway, anyway, we are going to be covering well, no,
Speaker 1: but it was last week that we covered. We already
Speaker 1: did it on last week's Couchhok Souse. I was about
Speaker 1: to do our closing have the day, Oh you need
Speaker 1: to have and if you've ever been confused by that.
Speaker 1: On last Thursday's Couch Talks episode, we talked about what
Speaker 1: that means.
Speaker 3: Where it came from.
Speaker 1: It can be confusing because like, what does that really mean?
Speaker 3: What does that really mean?
Speaker 1: Have the day you need to have?
Speaker 2: It could be honestly, somebody might think it's passive aggressive
Speaker 2: have the day you need to have? If we don't
Speaker 2: say it in that tone. Yeah, I think are merch
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Speaker 1: Back of our shirt, have the day you need to have,
Speaker 1: like we're all hard.
Speaker 3: Yeah, we say it with an upbeat tone.
Speaker 1: Toxic yeah, and it's like it's more so I don't
Speaker 1: even think it's upbeat. It's just more of like half
Speaker 1: the day you need to have, like have it.
Speaker 3: So if you want to know, then go.
Speaker 1: Listen to last Thursday's Couch Talks riveting about what have
Speaker 1: the day you need to have really means? And with
Speaker 1: that said, we'll say, have the day you need to have.
Speaker 2: Bye Bye,