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Speaker 2: What should I do?

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Speaker 1: And this is okay op Show, where we read the

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Speaker 2: I'm John and Riley. What should they do? What should

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Speaker 3: If you want them to, like stop talking and they're

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Speaker 2: Pay them off, pay them off.

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Speaker 1: You you sign money, literally, hush money. I signed this

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Speaker 2: Get out of here.

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Speaker 3: You should never hear you again.

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Speaker 2: I should never hear from you again.

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Speaker 1: Honestly, depending on how annoying they are, which I'm going

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Speaker 3: It's just really how bad you want them to shut up?

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Speaker 2: How bad is it? Twenty nine thousand dollars bad?

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Speaker 3: Rush money's legal? Don Trump does it?

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Speaker 2: That's true? Good God, good God? That is true.

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Speaker 1: And this one comes from Sir Delia and they say, okay.

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Speaker 1: So I've followed the subreddit for a long time now,

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Speaker 1: There we go, So I feel it's time I shared

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Speaker 1: I'll begin by saying that I, twenty five male, come

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Speaker 1: He's the second of three children, and due to his job,

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Speaker 1: His elder brother had seven children with his wife, and

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Speaker 1: So he's literally taking like potentially like what ten to

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Speaker 3: It's up to thirty six and you got thirty one.

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Speaker 1: It's like twenty four hundred, right, saysat Yeah, I want

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Speaker 3: They changed it? Dude?

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Speaker 2: So they changed it.

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Speaker 3: They changed the points goal.

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Speaker 1: Oh wow, I mean yeah, I graduated in twenty fourteen

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Speaker 3: Yeah you got a great score. Hell yeah, it goes

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Speaker 3: That's insane, bro, Let's go do you know which one

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Speaker 2: In what category?

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Speaker 2: We could have combined to become the ultimate superperson.

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Speaker 1: We really really could have done that, dude. Bro, if

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Speaker 2: Twenty fourteen?

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Speaker 3: Yeah, dude, that's crazy, right. What'd you grad When would you.

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Speaker 2: Right, so I could have technically been graduating class of.

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Speaker 2: Yeah and left, that's crazy. Yeah, boy moved to the anyways.

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Speaker 3: To figure out where it was. Oh, he was having

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Speaker 2: Oh yes, yes, yes, we started talking about the acts. Yes, Joye.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, six years okay, So yeah, he had taken this

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Speaker 1: This is gold standard parenting right here, gold standard parenting.

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Speaker 2: Not everyone is good at school. Yeah, and honestly, it

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Speaker 1: I'm very biased, but I think it could be such

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Speaker 3: Oh yeah, there's a skills so on. Fact back in

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Speaker 2: Exactly.

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Speaker 3: Plumbers today could make like forty one dollars an hour. Yeah,

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Speaker 3: minimal boys in California is twenty nine dollars, and then

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Speaker 1: So yeah, ranging from like twenty twenty nine to twenty

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Speaker 1: Here we go, A two and A. You're in California,

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Speaker 1: that's oh that's in California. Yeah yeah wow yeah, eighty

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Speaker 1: come on, it's it's the ROI is unbeatable. People are

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Speaker 3: Anyways, fun fact sorry sorry, super fun fact, super fun fact.

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Speaker 3: Grocery carts. I was about to call them a buggy buggies,

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Speaker 2: Is honestly, but no, I wasn't in buggies, but go ahead.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, buggies are made in Hickory, North Carolina, and they're

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Speaker 1: That is a fun fact. Hell yeah, Blue blue Collar

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Speaker 3: Hell.

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Speaker 1: So back to the option of taking the trade or

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Speaker 1: love it. My father gave him what is equivalent to

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Speaker 3: WHOA Okay, I was talking to someone from Africa. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: Yeah, and I'm my girlfriend is from Sudan, and yeah,

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Speaker 2: Interesting.

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Speaker 1: Interesting, my dad had already found a really good space

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Speaker 2: That's the off rip.

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Speaker 1: The twelve thousand dollars was initial capital for him to

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Speaker 2: Which is a very significant amount where they're at, right.

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Speaker 3: That's crazy. So he basically gave me just twelve k.

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Speaker 3: Seventeen? This man is like, send you up for success.

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Speaker 3: He's got you a nice spot, he gave you money.

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Speaker 1: Like Riley, I got a I got a Southern saying

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Speaker 2: Wait what you can't look a gift horse in the mouth? Really? Okay?

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Speaker 1: So my mom was like she was in like horse

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Speaker 2: Oh no, not why I was a small child, but she.

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Speaker 3: Was hopefully you trying to think of some other girl's.

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Speaker 3: Oh it was like, yeah, childhood crushes first and last name.

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Speaker 1: No, no, no, no, but look at gift horse in the mouth.

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Speaker 2: What's how like how healthy are they? Whatever? You just

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Speaker 3: Gotcha? Yeah yeah, yeah, yeah, there he goes, and I

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Speaker 1: Wow but true, no, very true. You're right, you can't.

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Speaker 1: He's getting this. It's bigger.

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Speaker 2: It's beggars can't be choosers.

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Speaker 1: So it's like and not beggars, but like you know,

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Speaker 2: Though, all that, although.

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Speaker 1: The space my dad had rented for him was in

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Speaker 2: Away, and he had expected my d to pay for

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Speaker 3: Yeah, he might think about it once your business starts booming,

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Speaker 1: The business to the point where it's popping off. So

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Speaker 1: like you you literally said, it's in a prime location,

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Speaker 1: like this is like us getting a office in Santa Monica.

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Speaker 1: It's like us renting a house in Santa Monica and

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Speaker 2: That's crazy.

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Speaker 1: Start small, baby, He said he had big ideas and

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Speaker 2: Appropriate support come on bro.

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Speaker 1: My mother just about lost her head hearing this, and

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Speaker 1: called his mother. The relations had improved significantly over the years,

443
00:22:18,600 --> 00:22:21,200
Speaker 1: and she tore my dad a new one. So remember

444
00:22:21,200 --> 00:22:23,560
Speaker 1: this is the mom that they like. Kind of rescued

445
00:22:23,600 --> 00:22:26,560
Speaker 1: him from low key. But I guess they're doing better now.

446
00:22:27,400 --> 00:22:30,520
Speaker 1: She screamed in our native language about how after the

447
00:22:30,560 --> 00:22:32,920
Speaker 1: stress he must have been under by not getting into

448
00:22:32,960 --> 00:22:35,720
Speaker 1: the university, the least you can do is to make

449
00:22:35,760 --> 00:22:39,080
Speaker 1: sure the dream of his is nurtured fully. Why are

450
00:22:39,080 --> 00:22:41,800
Speaker 1: you being in akanchi, which means stringy in my language.

451
00:22:42,080 --> 00:22:44,240
Speaker 1: You have the money so you just do as he

452
00:22:44,440 --> 00:22:48,160
Speaker 1: asks in the stingy stingy sorry.

453
00:22:48,000 --> 00:22:50,720
Speaker 3: Which means I was having trouble reading that to you're good.

454
00:22:50,600 --> 00:22:53,120
Speaker 1: Yeh yeah, there we go. The good trip us both up.

455
00:22:53,400 --> 00:22:55,520
Speaker 1: It means stingy okay, So why are being stingy? Why

456
00:22:55,520 --> 00:22:57,760
Speaker 1: are not giving me more? You have the money, so

457
00:22:58,000 --> 00:23:00,000
Speaker 1: just do as he asks in the way he asked,

458
00:23:00,480 --> 00:23:03,639
Speaker 1: whoa if you died today, would they bury you with

459
00:23:03,720 --> 00:23:06,200
Speaker 1: your money? You are not setting a good example as

460
00:23:06,240 --> 00:23:15,800
Speaker 1: an uncle. Hiaqua, I'm going for y'alla, which basically means

461
00:23:15,840 --> 00:23:19,800
Speaker 1: God forbid. My father did not respond and promptly ended

462
00:23:19,880 --> 00:23:22,879
Speaker 1: the call. That is crazy. That is crazy, like, uh,

463
00:23:23,040 --> 00:23:25,320
Speaker 1: you should give the money. You're gonna die someday. You

464
00:23:25,320 --> 00:23:26,919
Speaker 1: can't take it with you. Are you kidding me?

465
00:23:26,960 --> 00:23:28,960
Speaker 3: Bro has done the lord's work already.

466
00:23:29,600 --> 00:23:35,280
Speaker 1: The lord's work, the lord's work. Later on my thought.

467
00:23:35,760 --> 00:23:39,840
Speaker 1: Later on, his dad, my father's brother called him and

468
00:23:39,880 --> 00:23:42,000
Speaker 1: I don't know what was said after that, but he

469
00:23:42,080 --> 00:23:45,080
Speaker 1: came and picked up the check where he'd previously dropped

470
00:23:45,119 --> 00:23:48,679
Speaker 1: it and muttered a half assed thank you before leaving.

471
00:23:49,160 --> 00:23:52,280
Speaker 1: My dad also received a call from his brother apologizing

472
00:23:52,280 --> 00:23:55,480
Speaker 1: for his behavior. Wait, so did he end up giving

473
00:23:55,560 --> 00:23:56,359
Speaker 1: him another check.

474
00:23:56,560 --> 00:23:57,000
Speaker 3: I don't know.

475
00:23:58,240 --> 00:24:00,159
Speaker 2: Later on that day, my father's brother called him. I

476
00:24:00,200 --> 00:24:01,000
Speaker 2: don't know what was that about.

477
00:24:01,280 --> 00:24:02,000
Speaker 3: He gave him money.

478
00:24:02,359 --> 00:24:06,600
Speaker 1: He picked up the check where he'd previously dropped it. Okay,

479
00:24:07,480 --> 00:24:10,159
Speaker 1: picked up the check. I'm guessing it's the same amount,

480
00:24:10,200 --> 00:24:14,160
Speaker 1: So he's picking up the original check. Perhaps, but we'll

481
00:24:14,160 --> 00:24:16,119
Speaker 1: see it could have been could have been more money.

482
00:24:16,560 --> 00:24:18,720
Speaker 1: Fast forward two and a half years, and now we're

483
00:24:18,760 --> 00:24:22,919
Speaker 1: in twenty sixteen. I was around eighteen or nineteen, and

484
00:24:23,040 --> 00:24:26,240
Speaker 1: my immediate younger sister twelve female, was now in secondary

485
00:24:26,280 --> 00:24:28,960
Speaker 1: school and my other siblings were also in primary school.

486
00:24:29,320 --> 00:24:31,879
Speaker 1: So the financial burden on my dad was quite a

487
00:24:31,920 --> 00:24:34,360
Speaker 1: lot at this time. So he called Chris and had

488
00:24:34,359 --> 00:24:37,560
Speaker 1: a talk with him. This was sometime in October, and

489
00:24:37,640 --> 00:24:40,359
Speaker 1: my dad said that since Chris's business was going well,

490
00:24:41,080 --> 00:24:43,200
Speaker 1: but that perhaps it was time for him to move

491
00:24:43,280 --> 00:24:45,560
Speaker 1: out from our home, maybe by the new year, so

492
00:24:45,640 --> 00:24:49,880
Speaker 1: that way the financial constraints could be alleviated of it. Now,

493
00:24:49,920 --> 00:24:53,000
Speaker 1: mind you, Chris had lived us, had lived with us

494
00:24:53,119 --> 00:24:56,639
Speaker 1: for eighteen years, since I was barely a year old

495
00:24:56,760 --> 00:25:00,680
Speaker 1: and he was eleven to twelve years old at that time.

496
00:25:02,040 --> 00:25:04,680
Speaker 1: I was eighteen to nineteen years I was eighteen nineteen

497
00:25:04,760 --> 00:25:06,360
Speaker 1: years old, so he.

498
00:25:06,560 --> 00:25:08,960
Speaker 2: Now is twenty nine or thirty years old.

499
00:25:09,320 --> 00:25:12,480
Speaker 1: So Bro is like basically thirty, and he has a

500
00:25:12,520 --> 00:25:15,639
Speaker 1: successful business that he got two years of.

501
00:25:16,080 --> 00:25:18,440
Speaker 2: Rent and capital from from the dad.

502
00:25:18,760 --> 00:25:21,360
Speaker 1: And the Dad's like, yo, could you like where it's

503
00:25:21,480 --> 00:25:24,400
Speaker 1: getting a little tighter with money? Could you move out

504
00:25:24,440 --> 00:25:27,960
Speaker 1: and that'll help ease ease our living costs. He never

505
00:25:28,040 --> 00:25:31,879
Speaker 1: paid for rent one day or paid for utilities. My

506
00:25:32,000 --> 00:25:35,040
Speaker 1: dad always did that. He never he never bought his

507
00:25:35,080 --> 00:25:37,760
Speaker 1: own food or groceries either. My dad did this for

508
00:25:37,800 --> 00:25:41,119
Speaker 1: almost two deck, for the almost two decades that he

509
00:25:41,160 --> 00:25:43,560
Speaker 1: lived with us. When my dad asked him to move out,

510
00:25:43,720 --> 00:25:49,000
Speaker 1: he said nothing and like before, call this mother, So

511
00:25:49,040 --> 00:25:50,520
Speaker 1: what do you get call your mommy every time?

512
00:25:51,560 --> 00:25:56,080
Speaker 2: Yeah, thirty dude, come on, come on.

513
00:25:57,880 --> 00:26:00,399
Speaker 1: And he probably like his dad's dad. His house is

514
00:26:00,440 --> 00:26:03,920
Speaker 1: probably lit, like catering all kinds of crazy stuff like

515
00:26:03,920 --> 00:26:05,879
Speaker 1: they were saying. So he doesn't he doesn't want to

516
00:26:05,880 --> 00:26:08,120
Speaker 1: move out. He's like, nah, this is lit and it's free.

517
00:26:08,680 --> 00:26:12,080
Speaker 1: I'm chilling. I have no idea what was said. But

518
00:26:12,200 --> 00:26:15,280
Speaker 1: she called my dad in a fury that evening, screaming

519
00:26:15,280 --> 00:26:17,920
Speaker 1: her head off. About how my dad had never really

520
00:26:17,920 --> 00:26:20,160
Speaker 1: cared about her son's success, and brought up to twelve

521
00:26:20,240 --> 00:26:21,560
Speaker 1: thousand dollars incident.

522
00:26:21,240 --> 00:26:22,159
Speaker 2: From a few years earlier.

523
00:26:22,160 --> 00:26:24,800
Speaker 1: So it sounds like he did only do twelve thousand dollars,

524
00:26:25,640 --> 00:26:30,359
Speaker 1: which is good. She said something along the lines of,

525
00:26:30,840 --> 00:26:33,520
Speaker 1: you want him to leave your house while your wife's

526
00:26:33,560 --> 00:26:36,680
Speaker 1: sister is still living with you. This is how little

527
00:26:36,760 --> 00:26:39,080
Speaker 1: you care about your brother and his family. Okay, so

528
00:26:39,160 --> 00:26:45,080
Speaker 1: I guess, I guess his sister in law. You know,

529
00:26:45,200 --> 00:26:49,879
Speaker 1: his wife's sister is living in the house too. And

530
00:26:49,920 --> 00:26:52,080
Speaker 1: she's like, well, what about your blood? Ye know what

531
00:26:52,080 --> 00:26:55,840
Speaker 1: I mean, what about your family related by blood? My

532
00:26:55,960 --> 00:26:59,840
Speaker 1: son doesn't need you or your charity. It low keys

533
00:27:00,160 --> 00:27:05,080
Speaker 1: sounds like he at least wants it. My God, my

534
00:27:05,200 --> 00:27:07,600
Speaker 1: God will help him to survive with or without you,

535
00:27:07,760 --> 00:27:11,560
Speaker 1: and so on. The wife's sister she referred to was

536
00:27:11,680 --> 00:27:14,000
Speaker 1: a young niece of my mom's who had lost her

537
00:27:14,040 --> 00:27:16,920
Speaker 1: parents due to militant actions in one of our cities,

538
00:27:17,200 --> 00:27:19,800
Speaker 1: and she was barely fifteen at the time. That is

539
00:27:20,720 --> 00:27:23,800
Speaker 1: that is disgusting. After that call, he packed his things

540
00:27:23,840 --> 00:27:26,840
Speaker 1: and was gone in a few weeks. This was twenty sixteen,

541
00:27:26,960 --> 00:27:29,960
Speaker 1: and I haven't seen or heard from him since then.

542
00:27:31,160 --> 00:27:32,960
Speaker 2: Wow, they view my.

543
00:27:33,080 --> 00:27:36,119
Speaker 1: Dad as a bad person for not giving him the

544
00:27:36,200 --> 00:27:39,320
Speaker 1: amount of money he wanted and for asking him, a

545
00:27:39,359 --> 00:27:42,520
Speaker 1: thirty year old man to move with a thirty year

546
00:27:42,520 --> 00:27:46,840
Speaker 1: old man with a thriving business to move out. This

547
00:27:46,960 --> 00:27:49,480
Speaker 1: is nothing in the grand scheme of things. There are

548
00:27:49,600 --> 00:27:54,280
Speaker 1: more cases of entitlement in my family and it's really baffling.

549
00:27:54,560 --> 00:27:57,040
Speaker 1: Oh wow, we're going to take a quick we have.

550
00:27:57,480 --> 00:28:00,480
Speaker 1: The title of the next part is Entitlement Galore Heart too.

551
00:28:00,720 --> 00:28:01,640
Speaker 3: There's more.

552
00:28:02,600 --> 00:28:05,840
Speaker 1: But dude, I mean, can you imagine, like you you

553
00:28:05,920 --> 00:28:10,000
Speaker 1: bring in this kid who had you know, had it was,

554
00:28:10,640 --> 00:28:12,879
Speaker 1: you know, physical abuse from his mom, bring him in,

555
00:28:13,200 --> 00:28:16,560
Speaker 1: you pay for his private school, all the way through you.

556
00:28:16,800 --> 00:28:20,840
Speaker 1: I'm again like, I'm sorry, Dad has a heart of gold, Like, yeah,

557
00:28:20,880 --> 00:28:22,360
Speaker 1: I don't care that we're assuming anymore.

558
00:28:22,520 --> 00:28:23,480
Speaker 2: I know he's a good guy.

559
00:28:24,520 --> 00:28:26,960
Speaker 1: So you have, you know, a great father figure, great parents,

560
00:28:27,119 --> 00:28:32,280
Speaker 1: you know, whatever great home you get, you know, you

561
00:28:32,320 --> 00:28:34,840
Speaker 1: get all the chances in the world. Dude, imagine paying

562
00:28:34,880 --> 00:28:38,080
Speaker 1: for six years of schooling, dude, six years of university

563
00:28:38,120 --> 00:28:40,120
Speaker 1: and then it's like, all right, that didn't work. Nope,

564
00:28:40,200 --> 00:28:43,960
Speaker 1: don't even sweat it. I'm gonna, you know, get you

565
00:28:44,120 --> 00:28:46,480
Speaker 1: into a trade, hook you up with that gets you

566
00:28:46,520 --> 00:28:48,240
Speaker 1: a skill that can earn you some money. Then pay

567
00:28:48,280 --> 00:28:51,320
Speaker 1: for rent for two years on your office, and give you,

568
00:28:51,320 --> 00:28:53,920
Speaker 1: you know good, a good chunk of money for startup capital.

569
00:28:55,520 --> 00:29:00,000
Speaker 3: Why are you not grateful, dude? Like you have no excuse? Man?

570
00:29:00,000 --> 00:29:03,680
Speaker 2: Why why? It doesn't make any sense?

571
00:29:03,760 --> 00:29:06,960
Speaker 3: It really doesn't. And I feel like the mother, the

572
00:29:07,120 --> 00:29:13,600
Speaker 3: entitled mother's really skewing his view of the dad because

573
00:29:13,640 --> 00:29:16,240
Speaker 3: she's like, in a way, it sounds like nothing will

574
00:29:16,280 --> 00:29:19,600
Speaker 3: be good enough for and she's just she's still angry

575
00:29:20,000 --> 00:29:22,200
Speaker 3: that she's put in the situation. She can't escape it.

576
00:29:24,600 --> 00:29:27,920
Speaker 1: Riley, I need you to pull out the tinfoil hat,

577
00:29:27,920 --> 00:29:29,320
Speaker 1: because we got a tinfoil hat.

578
00:29:29,360 --> 00:29:31,600
Speaker 2: Conspiracy? What do you got?

579
00:29:31,640 --> 00:29:32,080
Speaker 3: What do you got?

580
00:29:32,120 --> 00:29:33,920
Speaker 1: This one's not not too crazy. I feel like it's

581
00:29:33,920 --> 00:29:40,800
Speaker 1: pretty realistic. But I feel like the Chris's mom is

582
00:29:43,320 --> 00:29:49,760
Speaker 1: jealous because the dad like jealous and like envious of

583
00:29:49,840 --> 00:29:53,320
Speaker 1: the dad because the dad brought brought in Chris clearly

584
00:29:53,440 --> 00:29:56,560
Speaker 1: provided him in a fantastic childhood and like all these opportunities,

585
00:29:56,960 --> 00:29:59,000
Speaker 1: and the mom is like, I don't want you to

586
00:29:59,160 --> 00:30:01,520
Speaker 1: like love him, like the golden parent. I want you

587
00:30:01,560 --> 00:30:04,240
Speaker 1: to love me like the golden parent and see him

588
00:30:04,440 --> 00:30:06,800
Speaker 1: as you know, the evil, you know, the bad guy.

589
00:30:07,360 --> 00:30:10,160
Speaker 1: So she's like influencing him to your point of like

590
00:30:10,840 --> 00:30:13,320
Speaker 1: why isn't he twelve K? Why only twelve K? Does

591
00:30:13,320 --> 00:30:15,120
Speaker 1: he not love you? Does he not love you? Does

592
00:30:15,160 --> 00:30:17,240
Speaker 1: he not even care about you? Like I could totally

593
00:30:17,640 --> 00:30:20,520
Speaker 1: see that happening, and her basically spinning this tale and

594
00:30:20,600 --> 00:30:25,360
Speaker 1: kind of coercing and convincing him to go against the dad,

595
00:30:25,480 --> 00:30:28,880
Speaker 1: and you know, maybe maybe Crystal seeks his mom's approval

596
00:30:29,240 --> 00:30:32,200
Speaker 1: because it's like, you know, from from that traumatic experience

597
00:30:32,200 --> 00:30:34,200
Speaker 1: of a child is like, oh if I could just

598
00:30:34,280 --> 00:30:36,680
Speaker 1: you know, have been right quote unquote or whatever, whatever

599
00:30:37,080 --> 00:30:40,080
Speaker 1: the case, whatever the exact situation is like still kind

600
00:30:40,120 --> 00:30:42,840
Speaker 1: of seeking his mom's approval and letting and you know,

601
00:30:43,640 --> 00:30:46,040
Speaker 1: listening to her words and kind of getting brainwashed by her.

602
00:30:47,480 --> 00:30:50,080
Speaker 3: Yeah, no, that is spot on. That's a really good,

603
00:30:51,160 --> 00:30:52,320
Speaker 3: really good conspiracy.

604
00:30:52,400 --> 00:30:53,440
Speaker 2: I like that, dude.

605
00:30:53,720 --> 00:30:54,360
Speaker 3: I'm on board.

606
00:30:54,520 --> 00:30:58,360
Speaker 1: We're professionals on this podcast. We are completely unprofessional professionals.

607
00:30:58,760 --> 00:31:01,720
Speaker 1: But y'all we got to get into an Entitlement Galore

608
00:31:01,840 --> 00:31:02,280
Speaker 1: Part two.

609
00:31:02,320 --> 00:31:04,640
Speaker 3: What I'm ready, I'm ready to see what the chaos.

610
00:31:04,440 --> 00:31:08,600
Speaker 1: Was A part name for this update, So God, I

611
00:31:08,680 --> 00:31:11,800
Speaker 1: love it. I reposted one of my oldest stories yesterday.

612
00:31:11,920 --> 00:31:18,080
Speaker 1: This is this is a continuation for this story. There's

613
00:31:18,080 --> 00:31:21,600
Speaker 1: three main people to consider. Entitled mother, entitled son, and

614
00:31:21,680 --> 00:31:25,800
Speaker 1: my dad. Second, as I stayed in my previous post,

615
00:31:26,160 --> 00:31:29,080
Speaker 1: my dad went through a really difficult financial crisis a

616
00:31:29,080 --> 00:31:33,040
Speaker 1: few years ago, beginning in twenty sixteen. He had invested

617
00:31:33,200 --> 00:31:35,480
Speaker 1: heavily in the real estate market at that time, and

618
00:31:35,520 --> 00:31:38,480
Speaker 1: the market was doing horribly, so it did affect his

619
00:31:38,560 --> 00:31:42,120
Speaker 1: finances to a great extent. Let me introduce entitled mom

620
00:31:42,160 --> 00:31:46,080
Speaker 1: and entitled son. Entitled Mom is my dad's cousin in

621
00:31:46,120 --> 00:31:49,200
Speaker 1: his inner sixties. She has six children with her late husband,

622
00:31:49,480 --> 00:31:53,840
Speaker 1: all within the range of the late twenties to early fifties. Wait,

623
00:31:54,080 --> 00:31:57,480
Speaker 1: six children in the range of the late twenties. It's

624
00:31:57,480 --> 00:32:01,120
Speaker 1: like basically like almost thirty to early fifties. So you

625
00:32:01,160 --> 00:32:03,480
Speaker 1: were having kids, six children.

626
00:32:03,440 --> 00:32:06,720
Speaker 3: Over forty years, thirty years.

627
00:32:06,480 --> 00:32:10,840
Speaker 1: Twenty twenty, because it's like thirty to fifty roughly, wow,

628
00:32:10,840 --> 00:32:13,120
Speaker 1: thirty to fifty roughly, but a little.

629
00:32:12,840 --> 00:32:14,400
Speaker 2: Bit more like over over twenty years.

630
00:32:14,440 --> 00:32:16,560
Speaker 1: I mean that's that's I mean, you got to be

631
00:32:16,600 --> 00:32:19,920
Speaker 1: going from twenty to forty, like going wow, or like

632
00:32:19,960 --> 00:32:23,200
Speaker 1: maybe eighteen to forty or whatever. My goodness, gracious well,

633
00:32:23,640 --> 00:32:27,680
Speaker 1: hers good gravy. Her son, whom his story revolves around,

634
00:32:27,720 --> 00:32:30,320
Speaker 1: is in his early forties now. In two thousand and nine,

635
00:32:30,440 --> 00:32:33,000
Speaker 1: Entitled son lived in the village with entitled mom, where

636
00:32:33,000 --> 00:32:35,959
Speaker 1: he ran a fairly successful pineapple farm business.

637
00:32:36,320 --> 00:32:37,440
Speaker 3: Oh that's what he was doing.

638
00:32:38,880 --> 00:32:45,200
Speaker 1: Pineapples, dude, dice pineapple dice pineapples. Okay, okay, raps. By

639
00:32:45,240 --> 00:32:50,560
Speaker 1: the way, y'all, we're dropping new shows. Riley just referenced one. Okay, okay, wraps.

640
00:32:51,320 --> 00:32:53,240
Speaker 2: It could be out. It could be out by the

641
00:32:53,240 --> 00:32:57,080
Speaker 2: time you're doing this. Check it out. Uh big pineapple

642
00:32:57,120 --> 00:33:00,720
Speaker 2: for pineapple farm. He's doing it. Should we do we doo.

643
00:33:02,880 --> 00:33:02,920
Speaker 3: U.

644
00:33:03,080 --> 00:33:06,479
Speaker 1: And then there were allegations levied against him by the

645
00:33:06,520 --> 00:33:10,440
Speaker 1: family of the deceased that he had killed their relative.

646
00:33:11,240 --> 00:33:14,520
Speaker 1: Oh my god. The police were involved, and they found

647
00:33:14,520 --> 00:33:17,840
Speaker 1: no incriminating evidence, so, like most things in my country,

648
00:33:17,920 --> 00:33:22,920
Speaker 1: the case went unsolved. However, the deceased's family were angry

649
00:33:23,360 --> 00:33:26,000
Speaker 1: and sorted to take justice into their own hands.

650
00:33:26,440 --> 00:33:27,920
Speaker 2: They planned to have him.

651
00:33:27,880 --> 00:33:32,200
Speaker 1: Killed, and this frightened the Entitled mother whoa Oh my god.

652
00:33:32,280 --> 00:33:34,400
Speaker 1: She called my dad one day in two thousand and

653
00:33:34,480 --> 00:33:37,959
Speaker 1: nine and told him what was going on and begged

654
00:33:38,000 --> 00:33:41,160
Speaker 1: him to let entitled stun stay and live with us

655
00:33:41,240 --> 00:33:43,640
Speaker 1: in the city, far away from the village, because she

656
00:33:43,680 --> 00:33:45,600
Speaker 1: feared that if he remained in the village that he

657
00:33:46,120 --> 00:33:49,719
Speaker 1: would not survive. My dad, not wanting to see her

658
00:33:49,800 --> 00:33:53,520
Speaker 1: loser child, agreed to help him, and so entitled son

659
00:33:53,760 --> 00:33:56,040
Speaker 1: arrived at our home in early two thousand and nine.

660
00:33:56,640 --> 00:33:58,520
Speaker 1: He was in his early thirties at this point. So

661
00:33:58,600 --> 00:34:01,080
Speaker 1: and again, for clarity, this is a whole new mom

662
00:34:01,080 --> 00:34:06,560
Speaker 1: and son the family. Upon arriving, he got a job

663
00:34:06,600 --> 00:34:08,960
Speaker 1: at a bar and grill fast food restaurant, where he

664
00:34:09,000 --> 00:34:10,880
Speaker 1: worked at for about a year or two before my

665
00:34:10,960 --> 00:34:13,640
Speaker 1: dad helped him get a decent job at an insurance firm.

666
00:34:13,920 --> 00:34:17,160
Speaker 1: Once again, Dad totally hook hooking it up with a

667
00:34:17,200 --> 00:34:21,000
Speaker 1: fantastic career right. He had an entire room and a

668
00:34:21,040 --> 00:34:25,080
Speaker 1: bathroom all to himself and never paid rent or utilities.

669
00:34:25,239 --> 00:34:27,680
Speaker 1: Y know, they're living in a compound they have they have,

670
00:34:27,960 --> 00:34:31,680
Speaker 1: dude like going crazy. He never paid for his own

671
00:34:31,680 --> 00:34:34,919
Speaker 1: food or bought his own groceries. Whenever an appliance broke

672
00:34:34,960 --> 00:34:37,560
Speaker 1: at home, my dad would replace it. An entitled son

673
00:34:37,640 --> 00:34:40,239
Speaker 1: would take the broken one. Okay, so kind of like

674
00:34:40,239 --> 00:34:44,520
Speaker 1: a hand of me down from flat screen TV's, refrigerators, beds, mattresses,

675
00:34:44,560 --> 00:34:47,640
Speaker 1: et cetera. My dad let him take them all. He

676
00:34:47,760 --> 00:34:50,239
Speaker 1: had them fixed and gave them to his sisters who

677
00:34:50,239 --> 00:34:53,040
Speaker 1: had just moved into our city. My dad took care

678
00:34:53,080 --> 00:34:55,160
Speaker 1: of him and his needs as though he was his

679
00:34:55,280 --> 00:34:56,280
Speaker 1: own child.

680
00:34:56,440 --> 00:34:56,960
Speaker 2: Wow.

681
00:34:57,320 --> 00:34:59,719
Speaker 1: My mom wasn't exactly thrilled about him moving in with

682
00:34:59,800 --> 00:35:02,760
Speaker 1: us the beginning because it was so sudden, but given

683
00:35:02,840 --> 00:35:06,319
Speaker 1: the life or death nature of the situation, she accepted it.

684
00:35:06,760 --> 00:35:09,279
Speaker 1: When my dad retired a few years later and got

685
00:35:09,320 --> 00:35:13,440
Speaker 1: his gratuity, he assisted most of our extended family financially,

686
00:35:13,520 --> 00:35:16,080
Speaker 1: and in that spirit, he gave the entitled son a

687
00:35:16,200 --> 00:35:20,160
Speaker 1: check for what amounts to roughly six thousand dollars to

688
00:35:20,320 --> 00:35:23,759
Speaker 1: help him out. And he was really thankful because he

689
00:35:23,880 --> 00:35:26,919
Speaker 1: said it, because he said he'd never been gifted such

690
00:35:26,960 --> 00:35:29,880
Speaker 1: an amount of money before and he didn't think people

691
00:35:30,160 --> 00:35:35,880
Speaker 1: were that generous. But remember, his name in the story

692
00:35:35,920 --> 00:35:41,760
Speaker 1: isn't son, it's an entitled son. So we gotta be ready,

693
00:35:43,440 --> 00:35:44,399
Speaker 1: we gotta be ready for.

694
00:35:44,520 --> 00:35:46,000
Speaker 2: Uh, he's going to live up to his name.

695
00:35:46,040 --> 00:35:50,759
Speaker 1: Apparently we lived in relative bliss until twenty sixteen, when

696
00:35:50,800 --> 00:35:54,040
Speaker 1: my dad's financial issues begin. Around the period of that time,

697
00:35:54,080 --> 00:35:56,520
Speaker 1: we did struggle a lot. Most days there was no

698
00:35:56,640 --> 00:35:59,240
Speaker 1: food at home. Oh my goodness, wow. I mean that

699
00:35:59,239 --> 00:36:02,040
Speaker 1: that is a compleat switch from where he was and

700
00:36:02,160 --> 00:36:04,799
Speaker 1: to assist his credit. Entitled son used part of his

701
00:36:04,880 --> 00:36:07,920
Speaker 1: savings to assist the family back then, but it was

702
00:36:08,040 --> 00:36:15,000
Speaker 1: never free. I guess maybe he's like, I wonder if

703
00:36:15,040 --> 00:36:17,920
Speaker 1: that means, like, hey, now I'm earning, I'm making living,

704
00:36:18,440 --> 00:36:22,319
Speaker 1: I'll pass you, you know, a thousand bucks pay me back,

705
00:36:22,440 --> 00:36:25,480
Speaker 1: like yeah, twelve something like that.

706
00:36:25,640 --> 00:36:26,000
Speaker 3: Maybe.

707
00:36:26,239 --> 00:36:28,880
Speaker 1: However, it didn't really matter because in that moment, without

708
00:36:28,880 --> 00:36:30,160
Speaker 1: that assistance.

709
00:36:29,640 --> 00:36:31,200
Speaker 2: We probably would have starved.

710
00:36:31,719 --> 00:36:34,800
Speaker 1: He would buy food items and groceries and also lend

711
00:36:34,880 --> 00:36:38,759
Speaker 1: my dad some money. All these expenses were repaid every

712
00:36:38,800 --> 00:36:39,320
Speaker 1: few weeks.

713
00:36:39,360 --> 00:36:40,040
Speaker 2: Okay, there you go.

714
00:36:40,120 --> 00:36:44,560
Speaker 1: So that was repaid when my dad received some money.

715
00:36:44,640 --> 00:36:48,719
Speaker 1: Because the assistants received from entitled Sons were loans and

716
00:36:48,760 --> 00:36:52,000
Speaker 1: you always pay your debts. And secondly, my dad didn't

717
00:36:52,040 --> 00:36:54,960
Speaker 1: expect entitled son, who was struggling and figuring things out,

718
00:36:55,000 --> 00:36:58,680
Speaker 1: to cater for the family Things generally continue this way

719
00:36:58,800 --> 00:37:01,680
Speaker 1: until twenty eighteen, when there was a resurgence in the

720
00:37:01,680 --> 00:37:04,759
Speaker 1: real estate market in my country. My dad was finally

721
00:37:04,880 --> 00:37:09,200
Speaker 1: able to sell both properties for around the low six

722
00:37:09,280 --> 00:37:14,000
Speaker 1: figures each. Keep in mind, we said that twelve grand

723
00:37:14,320 --> 00:37:18,280
Speaker 1: was like big. We said that twelve grand was big.

724
00:37:18,760 --> 00:37:21,520
Speaker 1: That influx of cash pushed us out of the red

725
00:37:21,560 --> 00:37:24,719
Speaker 1: and into a more comfortable position. After that sale, my

726
00:37:24,800 --> 00:37:27,720
Speaker 1: dad's first major purchase was a car, because we'd sold

727
00:37:27,719 --> 00:37:31,080
Speaker 1: both of our cars during those difficult years. There weren't

728
00:37:31,120 --> 00:37:32,879
Speaker 1: a lot of people who came to our aid during

729
00:37:32,880 --> 00:37:35,880
Speaker 1: that period, so as a way to show gratitude, my

730
00:37:36,000 --> 00:37:38,479
Speaker 1: dad gave the entitled son a check for about five

731
00:37:38,560 --> 00:37:42,799
Speaker 1: to six thousand dollars. Now, this is where the entitlement begin,

732
00:37:42,880 --> 00:37:44,759
Speaker 1: because I think this is the we had check number

733
00:37:44,800 --> 00:37:48,160
Speaker 1: one of six k pre market real estate market crash,

734
00:37:48,200 --> 00:37:50,520
Speaker 1: and then this is another five or six chain. After

735
00:37:50,600 --> 00:37:53,480
Speaker 1: he got his come up and when he sold those properties,

736
00:37:55,200 --> 00:37:59,759
Speaker 1: Entitled Son knew how much both properties sold for. So

737
00:38:00,000 --> 00:38:03,520
Speaker 1: oh shortly after my dad bought the car, Entitled Son

738
00:38:03,640 --> 00:38:07,919
Speaker 1: came to him with an itemized list, informing my dad

739
00:38:07,960 --> 00:38:11,400
Speaker 1: that he had decided to go back into the agricultural sector.

740
00:38:12,640 --> 00:38:16,560
Speaker 1: He wanted to start another pineapple farm, but not just pineapples.

741
00:38:16,760 --> 00:38:19,799
Speaker 1: He also wanted to grow oranges as well. As a

742
00:38:19,840 --> 00:38:22,640
Speaker 1: male child. He had inherited some plots of land in

743
00:38:22,680 --> 00:38:25,560
Speaker 1: the village after his father passed away. He planned on

744
00:38:25,680 --> 00:38:30,120
Speaker 1: using that land for the business. Okay, nothing crazy so far.

745
00:38:31,480 --> 00:38:33,600
Speaker 1: By this time, it's been almost a decade since he

746
00:38:33,640 --> 00:38:36,120
Speaker 1: had fled from the village and most of the pressure

747
00:38:36,160 --> 00:38:38,880
Speaker 1: and threats had died down, so he felt safe for turning.

748
00:38:44,520 --> 00:38:47,920
Speaker 1: And besides, he wasn't actually going to live there, seeing

749
00:38:47,960 --> 00:38:50,520
Speaker 1: as he still had a job in the city. He

750
00:38:50,600 --> 00:38:52,560
Speaker 1: simply wanted to set it up and have his mother

751
00:38:52,640 --> 00:38:54,240
Speaker 1: run it for him. Okay, that makes sense.

752
00:38:54,640 --> 00:38:56,640
Speaker 3: Yeah, what do you what do you call it? Passive income?

753
00:38:57,320 --> 00:39:00,279
Speaker 2: Passive income baby, that's right, let go.

754
00:39:01,280 --> 00:39:03,799
Speaker 1: He had already discussed his plans with his mother and

755
00:39:03,840 --> 00:39:06,520
Speaker 1: she was excited about the idea. And then he handed

756
00:39:06,520 --> 00:39:08,879
Speaker 1: my dad a list of everything he needed to pull

757
00:39:08,920 --> 00:39:13,960
Speaker 1: this off. And he needed an initial capitable an initial capital,

758
00:39:14,520 --> 00:39:17,760
Speaker 1: an initial capital of what amounts to be roughly twenty

759
00:39:17,840 --> 00:39:20,839
Speaker 1: nine thousand, four hundred dollars from.

760
00:39:20,600 --> 00:39:22,760
Speaker 2: My dad to begin.

761
00:39:23,440 --> 00:39:27,279
Speaker 1: Once again reminding you all we had twelve K was

762
00:39:27,320 --> 00:39:30,400
Speaker 1: a significant amount, right, I don't know if it's like

763
00:39:30,440 --> 00:39:33,000
Speaker 1: fifty one hundred grand something like that. So if like

764
00:39:33,120 --> 00:39:35,719
Speaker 1: relatively speaking, like that's kind of like if you had

765
00:39:35,719 --> 00:39:37,200
Speaker 1: fifty to one hundred grand in the US, you know,

766
00:39:37,280 --> 00:39:41,080
Speaker 1: that's what it could afford you. If he's doing overdouble that,

767
00:39:42,520 --> 00:39:47,319
Speaker 1: we're going crazy. My dad was stunned. He asked him

768
00:39:47,360 --> 00:39:50,560
Speaker 1: if he realized how much he was asking for. My

769
00:39:50,640 --> 00:39:52,839
Speaker 1: dad said that if he had, if he had even

770
00:39:52,880 --> 00:39:56,279
Speaker 1: saved a fraction of the money by himself, then maybe.

771
00:39:55,960 --> 00:39:57,799
Speaker 2: He would be willing to see what he could do.

772
00:39:58,160 --> 00:40:01,399
Speaker 1: But he expected my dad to pay for everything, which

773
00:40:01,520 --> 00:40:05,360
Speaker 1: wasn't okay given all four of my younger younger siblings

774
00:40:05,360 --> 00:40:08,160
Speaker 1: were in boarding school, which was kind of expensive, and

775
00:40:08,200 --> 00:40:10,680
Speaker 1: he was also making college plans for them as well,

776
00:40:10,880 --> 00:40:12,879
Speaker 1: so he wasn't in a position where he could give

777
00:40:12,880 --> 00:40:17,120
Speaker 1: out almost thirty grand like that. Bro was still funding

778
00:40:17,160 --> 00:40:20,279
Speaker 1: all of these kids, and not to mention, like, we

779
00:40:20,360 --> 00:40:21,240
Speaker 1: don't know how.

780
00:40:21,040 --> 00:40:22,600
Speaker 2: Old all the children are in the family.

781
00:40:22,600 --> 00:40:25,400
Speaker 1: Are there any other kids that he's supporting, like, like

782
00:40:25,440 --> 00:40:28,600
Speaker 1: we mentioned earlier. This annoyed the entitled sons, so he

783
00:40:28,719 --> 00:40:31,040
Speaker 1: asked my dad to loan him the money instead.

784
00:40:31,440 --> 00:40:32,799
Speaker 2: Then, but again my.

785
00:40:32,840 --> 00:40:36,879
Speaker 1: Dad refused to do this because there was no guarantee

786
00:40:38,120 --> 00:40:40,319
Speaker 1: to make back that money in a year from a

787
00:40:40,360 --> 00:40:44,480
Speaker 1: startup business. My dad offered him ten percent three grand,

788
00:40:44,560 --> 00:40:48,280
Speaker 1: which I mean totally fair of what he asked for

789
00:40:48,360 --> 00:40:51,480
Speaker 1: free to try to help him out. But that wasn't

790
00:40:51,840 --> 00:40:55,239
Speaker 1: good enough for him.

791
00:40:55,400 --> 00:40:57,920
Speaker 3: Bro, maybe you should make a business plan and business

792
00:40:58,080 --> 00:41:00,279
Speaker 3: model and present that to him, and maybe you could

793
00:41:01,320 --> 00:41:05,000
Speaker 3: maybe give fifteen percent. But literally, like, comes on.

794
00:41:05,000 --> 00:41:07,719
Speaker 1: Dude, present, present the plan and then I mean like

795
00:41:07,760 --> 00:41:11,200
Speaker 1: the dad said, which, by the way, remember he's all

796
00:41:11,520 --> 00:41:15,080
Speaker 1: already an insurance agent. Yeah, so he's probably doing great

797
00:41:15,080 --> 00:41:17,879
Speaker 1: in his career. You know, Dad's got the minus touch.

798
00:41:17,920 --> 00:41:20,360
Speaker 1: Everyone he touches turns the gold gets a great career,

799
00:41:21,120 --> 00:41:23,560
Speaker 1: makes a lot of money. Why don't you use that

800
00:41:24,040 --> 00:41:27,759
Speaker 1: to seed some of the funds for it? Maybe I

801
00:41:27,760 --> 00:41:31,400
Speaker 1: don't know, start playing. I don't know how pineapple, but

802
00:41:31,640 --> 00:41:34,440
Speaker 1: I know about ourges though I'm from Florida, So uh,

803
00:41:34,480 --> 00:41:36,359
Speaker 1: you started a little bit and then be like, yo,

804
00:41:36,640 --> 00:41:39,840
Speaker 1: look what I did with this little money I invested,

805
00:41:39,880 --> 00:41:42,200
Speaker 1: you know on grand I got five grand back. Now

806
00:41:42,280 --> 00:41:43,840
Speaker 1: the dad is like, oh you got The proof is

807
00:41:43,880 --> 00:41:46,920
Speaker 1: in the pudding. If I give you five grand, ten grand,

808
00:41:46,920 --> 00:41:49,600
Speaker 1: maybe you can triple that and you know, pay me

809
00:41:49,719 --> 00:41:54,799
Speaker 1: back some interest or whatever, like come on, yeah, what

810
00:41:54,880 --> 00:41:58,799
Speaker 1: are we doing here? And the dad's a big real

811
00:41:58,880 --> 00:42:02,560
Speaker 1: estate investor, so he understands, like, oh, come on, come on,

812
00:42:02,840 --> 00:42:06,319
Speaker 1: come on. I can't forget the statement he made when

813
00:42:06,320 --> 00:42:09,520
Speaker 1: my dad said no, nor can I forget his tone.

814
00:42:10,080 --> 00:42:14,120
Speaker 1: He said, so you say you won't give me this money? Okay,

815
00:42:14,480 --> 00:42:17,719
Speaker 1: no problem, and then he stormed out. He didn't care

816
00:42:17,760 --> 00:42:21,320
Speaker 1: about my dad's reasons or my siblings well being. All

817
00:42:21,400 --> 00:42:24,680
Speaker 1: he cared about was himself. This was on a Tuesday,

818
00:42:24,680 --> 00:42:27,040
Speaker 1: mind you. And on Saturday, his mother came to our

819
00:42:27,120 --> 00:42:32,160
Speaker 1: house unannounced from the village. Neither he or neither her

820
00:42:32,280 --> 00:42:35,120
Speaker 1: nor entitled son had informed my parents that she was coming.

821
00:42:35,680 --> 00:42:39,280
Speaker 1: The thing she said that day she leased every ounce

822
00:42:39,400 --> 00:42:42,439
Speaker 1: of resentment she had for him. Prior to this, he'd

823
00:42:42,480 --> 00:42:45,480
Speaker 1: always looked upon her as a sister. He never had

824
00:42:45,520 --> 00:42:49,520
Speaker 1: and treated her as such, because I believe this is

825
00:42:49,560 --> 00:42:51,520
Speaker 1: the wife's sister.

826
00:42:51,719 --> 00:42:53,719
Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, we had just.

827
00:42:53,840 --> 00:42:58,239
Speaker 1: Had lunch that afternoon when entitled sister, When entitled son

828
00:42:58,400 --> 00:43:01,439
Speaker 1: went to pick her up from wherever she got dropped off,

829
00:43:02,040 --> 00:43:04,680
Speaker 1: she went on a tirade, and she began by telling

830
00:43:04,719 --> 00:43:06,760
Speaker 1: him that what he was doing was wrong.

831
00:43:07,360 --> 00:43:08,799
Speaker 2: It had been a few years.

832
00:43:08,480 --> 00:43:10,880
Speaker 1: But I'll try to recall her words the best of

833
00:43:10,880 --> 00:43:14,640
Speaker 1: my ability. How can you treat entitled son this way?

834
00:43:15,000 --> 00:43:15,600
Speaker 2: Is this fair?

835
00:43:16,000 --> 00:43:19,600
Speaker 1: You've sold properties for hundreds of thousands of dollars, so

836
00:43:19,880 --> 00:43:24,719
Speaker 1: what is twenty nine thousand dollars to you? You've forgotten

837
00:43:24,719 --> 00:43:28,080
Speaker 1: how entitled son supported you when you were struggling. You

838
00:43:28,120 --> 00:43:30,640
Speaker 1: have forgotten how he spent his salary on you and

839
00:43:30,680 --> 00:43:33,680
Speaker 1: your children every month, and now you cannot even help

840
00:43:33,760 --> 00:43:36,360
Speaker 1: him with a small thing, even though you have the money.

841
00:43:37,520 --> 00:43:40,120
Speaker 1: She said all this in front of my dad, mom,

842
00:43:40,320 --> 00:43:46,080
Speaker 1: me and entitled siblings, Me, my dad, mom. She said

843
00:43:46,120 --> 00:43:48,920
Speaker 1: all this in front of my dad, mom, me and

844
00:43:49,040 --> 00:43:52,160
Speaker 1: titled son and my young siblings. My mom sent my

845
00:43:52,160 --> 00:43:55,360
Speaker 1: siblings to their rooms because it was no atmosphere for children.

846
00:43:55,640 --> 00:43:58,839
Speaker 1: I can't remember everything she said, but I do.

847
00:43:58,680 --> 00:44:00,520
Speaker 2: Remember this part.

848
00:44:00,960 --> 00:44:03,880
Speaker 1: You have also forgotten about the numerous times when I

849
00:44:04,000 --> 00:44:07,799
Speaker 1: used to bathe and clean your mother. My grandmother had

850
00:44:07,800 --> 00:44:11,080
Speaker 1: dementia during the later years of his life, later years

851
00:44:11,120 --> 00:44:13,960
Speaker 1: of her life, and unlike in Western countries, the concept

852
00:44:14,000 --> 00:44:17,120
Speaker 1: of housing for senior citizens isn't very popular here, so

853
00:44:17,239 --> 00:44:19,439
Speaker 1: instead the family usually takes care.

854
00:44:19,360 --> 00:44:26,400
Speaker 2: Of them on their own. Reaching the end end of

855
00:44:26,440 --> 00:44:27,160
Speaker 2: my throat.

856
00:44:29,200 --> 00:44:29,759
Speaker 3: I got you.

857
00:44:30,280 --> 00:44:35,440
Speaker 2: Yep, I got you. If I need to, yeah, you

858
00:44:35,440 --> 00:44:38,040
Speaker 2: can pass it right my dad. Okay, here we go.

859
00:44:39,440 --> 00:44:41,760
Speaker 1: My dad viewed her as a sister, so he asked

860
00:44:41,760 --> 00:44:44,200
Speaker 1: her to please look after my grandmother for him, since

861
00:44:44,239 --> 00:44:46,520
Speaker 1: he was in the city and she and my grandmother

862
00:44:46,560 --> 00:44:49,520
Speaker 1: were both in the village. My dad visited every month

863
00:44:49,560 --> 00:44:52,640
Speaker 1: and ensured that they weren't lacking for anything. He gave

864
00:44:52,640 --> 00:44:55,440
Speaker 1: her monetary gifts or food items, et cetera as a

865
00:44:55,440 --> 00:44:57,560
Speaker 1: way to say thank you. So while she was in

866
00:44:57,600 --> 00:45:01,839
Speaker 1: fact helping him, my dad did show constant financial appreciation

867
00:45:02,400 --> 00:45:08,000
Speaker 1: until my grandmother passed through her tirade. My dad said nothing.

868
00:45:08,440 --> 00:45:12,160
Speaker 1: He is extremely quiet and hates conflict. But my mom

869
00:45:12,440 --> 00:45:14,520
Speaker 1: is the exact opposite. Dude, I get this sense.

870
00:45:14,600 --> 00:45:17,600
Speaker 2: Mom. Mom rides, She's a ride or die. She goes

871
00:45:17,640 --> 00:45:22,000
Speaker 2: to bat, let's go, let's go. She doesn't take bs

872
00:45:22,000 --> 00:45:24,319
Speaker 2: from anyone. Let's go, let's do it.

873
00:45:24,600 --> 00:45:27,120
Speaker 1: When she brought up my late grandmother, my mom raised

874
00:45:27,160 --> 00:45:30,000
Speaker 1: her voice and began to chastise her about her behavior.

875
00:45:30,280 --> 00:45:33,440
Speaker 1: And began pointing out every single detail of the extent

876
00:45:33,640 --> 00:45:37,960
Speaker 1: my dad had gone to help entitled son. Do you

877
00:45:38,000 --> 00:45:40,840
Speaker 1: think your son would be alive today had my husband

878
00:45:40,840 --> 00:45:41,640
Speaker 1: not agreed.

879
00:45:41,320 --> 00:45:43,640
Speaker 2: To let him move in with us. Oh, I mean,

880
00:45:45,120 --> 00:45:53,240
Speaker 2: I mean, dude. Oh, that's that's that's kind of a hammer,

881
00:45:53,400 --> 00:45:54,800
Speaker 2: that's kind of nuclear.

882
00:45:55,320 --> 00:46:00,480
Speaker 1: Ooh and it's true, it's true, she said, while I'm

883
00:46:00,480 --> 00:46:05,960
Speaker 1: pointing out entitled son Riley's loving this. Weren't they after

884
00:46:06,040 --> 00:46:09,160
Speaker 1: his head after the allegations made against him? How many

885
00:46:09,160 --> 00:46:12,279
Speaker 1: people have given you six thousand dollars, not once, but

886
00:46:12,560 --> 00:46:17,160
Speaker 1: twice free of charge? How many people would have opened

887
00:46:17,200 --> 00:46:20,560
Speaker 1: their homes to someone who is suspected of murder? But

888
00:46:20,600 --> 00:46:23,560
Speaker 1: my husband did it because he loves and values his

889
00:46:23,600 --> 00:46:30,759
Speaker 1: family above almost anything. Yes, entitled son helped us out

890
00:46:30,800 --> 00:46:34,040
Speaker 1: when things are really bad, and I'm thankful. But he

891
00:46:34,200 --> 00:46:38,439
Speaker 1: was repaid in full. Do you not care about him

892
00:46:38,600 --> 00:46:41,440
Speaker 1: training his own children? If he gives you that money?

893
00:46:41,640 --> 00:46:44,000
Speaker 1: Do you not see how that would disrupt the plans

894
00:46:44,040 --> 00:46:47,720
Speaker 1: he's made for his own kids? How can you both

895
00:46:47,960 --> 00:46:51,399
Speaker 1: be that selfish? How dare you come into our home

896
00:46:51,480 --> 00:46:54,640
Speaker 1: and raise your voice at the man who has protected, fed,

897
00:46:54,840 --> 00:46:59,719
Speaker 1: and housed your son for a decade. We're not done, Riley.

898
00:47:00,680 --> 00:47:01,919
Speaker 2: There's more. There's more.

899
00:47:02,360 --> 00:47:05,799
Speaker 1: How dare you bring his late mother into this when

900
00:47:05,840 --> 00:47:08,560
Speaker 1: you take care of her? Did you receive nothing in return?

901
00:47:09,200 --> 00:47:14,320
Speaker 1: He he never provided for you financially or look after

902
00:47:14,360 --> 00:47:17,120
Speaker 1: you while uh did he did?

903
00:47:17,160 --> 00:47:17,879
Speaker 2: He did?

904
00:47:17,880 --> 00:47:21,000
Speaker 1: He never provide for you financially or look after you

905
00:47:21,080 --> 00:47:24,399
Speaker 1: while housing, while housing and taking care of your son

906
00:47:24,440 --> 00:47:24,920
Speaker 1: as well.

907
00:47:27,360 --> 00:47:36,720
Speaker 2: This shut entitled mom up dude, Come on, bro business dude,

908
00:47:36,760 --> 00:47:46,080
Speaker 2: staying up? Tell Riley, dude for real.

909
00:47:47,520 --> 00:47:49,840
Speaker 1: Moms, dude, this is this is this is the battle

910
00:47:49,880 --> 00:47:54,120
Speaker 1: of mom the mom. Uh oh, I thought you were

911
00:47:54,120 --> 00:47:57,160
Speaker 1: going to say another word that starts with taxi?

912
00:47:57,400 --> 00:48:03,799
Speaker 3: Okay like that ever, Oh this is so hot. I've

913
00:48:03,840 --> 00:48:05,160
Speaker 3: never ever thought that.

914
00:48:05,640 --> 00:48:08,480
Speaker 1: But you see, but you see a beautiful, older, mature

915
00:48:08,520 --> 00:48:12,520
Speaker 1: woman and what's going through your mind? And then she's

916
00:48:12,520 --> 00:48:20,239
Speaker 1: defending your honor and you're like, yeah, playing around ladies

917
00:48:20,239 --> 00:48:22,960
Speaker 1: and gentlemen, said John and Riley solo episode this.

918
00:48:23,520 --> 00:48:29,480
Speaker 2: You know what time it is? Man? Oh my god,

919
00:48:29,480 --> 00:48:31,279
Speaker 2: he's not he's not taking the bank. He's not taking

920
00:48:31,280 --> 00:48:32,200
Speaker 2: the bank. Ladies and gentlemen.

921
00:48:32,200 --> 00:48:34,680
Speaker 1: We're we're having fun and we're making content, all right,

922
00:48:34,840 --> 00:48:37,719
Speaker 1: so h so much more was said which I can't

923
00:48:37,760 --> 00:48:41,560
Speaker 1: remember before my mom asked entitled numbered and before my

924
00:48:41,640 --> 00:48:44,680
Speaker 1: mom asked entitled mother to leave. To show you just

925
00:48:44,880 --> 00:48:48,200
Speaker 1: how little shame he had, Entitled Son continued to live

926
00:48:48,239 --> 00:48:51,560
Speaker 1: with us for a few months before eventually moving out.

927
00:48:52,360 --> 00:48:54,920
Speaker 1: After all that, he still continued to like stay in,

928
00:48:54,960 --> 00:48:59,520
Speaker 1: like mooch. Basically, my dad refused to ask him to

929
00:48:59,600 --> 00:49:02,800
Speaker 1: leave because he knew entitled Son was already making plans

930
00:49:02,840 --> 00:49:06,719
Speaker 1: to leave when all this went down. Entitled Son was

931
00:49:06,880 --> 00:49:11,400
Speaker 1: in his late thirties, so he was wild enough to

932
00:49:11,480 --> 00:49:14,720
Speaker 1: know better. In his late thirties has has a great

933
00:49:14,760 --> 00:49:17,480
Speaker 1: career as an insurance agent that the dad hooked out

934
00:49:17,520 --> 00:49:20,000
Speaker 1: for him, obviously helped out, gave, gave him a ton

935
00:49:20,040 --> 00:49:22,359
Speaker 1: of money over the years. I don't know if he's

936
00:49:22,520 --> 00:49:24,879
Speaker 1: yet started that. Maybe he hasn't started the pineapple farm.

937
00:49:24,880 --> 00:49:28,600
Speaker 1: But I mean, dude is set up good. Yeah, he

938
00:49:28,640 --> 00:49:31,040
Speaker 1: can move out, same as the first first guy, Like

939
00:49:31,160 --> 00:49:33,560
Speaker 1: you are good to go, buddy, you can move out.

940
00:49:34,560 --> 00:49:38,520
Speaker 1: To this day, my dad never lets any member of

941
00:49:38,560 --> 00:49:45,000
Speaker 1: my extended family visit, not live, visit visit. He often

942
00:49:45,120 --> 00:49:48,680
Speaker 1: wonders exactly where he went wrong or what heinous crime

943
00:49:48,719 --> 00:49:52,040
Speaker 1: he committed against them, And it always upsets me whenever

944
00:49:52,080 --> 00:49:55,560
Speaker 1: he talks about these events because of just how much

945
00:49:55,680 --> 00:49:58,080
Speaker 1: pain it still causes him.

946
00:49:58,520 --> 00:50:05,400
Speaker 3: Ah, dude, that's so sad.

947
00:50:05,520 --> 00:50:09,520
Speaker 1: Why is it with these people with hearts of pure

948
00:50:10,160 --> 00:50:15,880
Speaker 1: freaking gold absolute was just the sweetest, sweetest.

949
00:50:15,440 --> 00:50:19,239
Speaker 2: Of hearts get treated this way?

950
00:50:19,280 --> 00:50:21,759
Speaker 3: Man, sad because I think they know, like in a

951
00:50:21,800 --> 00:50:23,440
Speaker 3: way they can just bully him and do.

952
00:50:24,080 --> 00:50:24,920
Speaker 2: Yeah, they're like.

953
00:50:26,560 --> 00:50:29,600
Speaker 1: And again, like, yes, he did have it seemed like

954
00:50:29,600 --> 00:50:31,239
Speaker 1: there was a two year stretch where he was like

955
00:50:31,880 --> 00:50:34,319
Speaker 1: it was looking bad financially, but like on either end

956
00:50:34,360 --> 00:50:36,279
Speaker 1: of that two year stretch, he was like doing pretty good.

957
00:50:36,640 --> 00:50:39,160
Speaker 2: And also, let's talk about this.

958
00:50:40,239 --> 00:50:42,960
Speaker 1: If he hadn't have spent all that money on the

959
00:50:43,000 --> 00:50:46,600
Speaker 1: family before the market crash, Let's say he had just

960
00:50:46,840 --> 00:50:49,960
Speaker 1: saved that up, would he like, I feel like he

961
00:50:50,280 --> 00:50:53,239
Speaker 1: low key kind of gave away, Like, if he hadn't

962
00:50:53,239 --> 00:50:55,799
Speaker 1: have given away all that money, would he have been

963
00:50:56,120 --> 00:50:58,839
Speaker 1: totally chilling? Yeah, in that two year period from twenty

964
00:50:58,880 --> 00:51:01,960
Speaker 1: sixteen to twenty eighteen, you know, it's possible he would

965
00:51:02,000 --> 00:51:04,360
Speaker 1: have invested that yeah, and kind of like lost it

966
00:51:04,440 --> 00:51:05,440
Speaker 1: during that two year period.

967
00:51:05,440 --> 00:51:12,440
Speaker 3: But hmm, there are things but just that family, dude,

968
00:51:12,800 --> 00:51:15,719
Speaker 3: I just see a guy doing super well off. They're

969
00:51:15,800 --> 00:51:17,719
Speaker 3: just mooching off of him because like, honestly, he's like

970
00:51:17,760 --> 00:51:18,440
Speaker 3: a millionaire.

971
00:51:18,920 --> 00:51:22,839
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, probably multi million, multi multi millionaire. Like, if

972
00:51:22,840 --> 00:51:28,239
Speaker 1: we're saying two he ended up later on two properties selling.

973
00:51:27,920 --> 00:51:28,720
Speaker 2: For six figures.

974
00:51:29,160 --> 00:51:30,480
Speaker 3: That's impressive here.

975
00:51:30,239 --> 00:51:32,919
Speaker 1: That's probably getting up. Yeah, that's impressive here. Like that's

976
00:51:32,960 --> 00:51:38,040
Speaker 1: like probably combined like a million here, like a millionaire here.

977
00:51:38,320 --> 00:51:41,399
Speaker 1: Maybe that's like equivalent to like relatively speaking, like ten

978
00:51:41,440 --> 00:51:44,320
Speaker 1: million or so where he's at potentially, you know, we

979
00:51:44,560 --> 00:51:47,520
Speaker 1: don't know exactly, but a few million to ten millions

980
00:51:47,560 --> 00:51:53,080
Speaker 1: something in that range probably so. I I remember at

981
00:51:53,120 --> 00:51:55,080
Speaker 1: the beginning of a story, I'm like, it sounds great

982
00:51:55,080 --> 00:51:56,120
Speaker 1: that he's helping his family, but.

983
00:51:56,160 --> 00:51:57,960
Speaker 2: The mom, the mom now.

984
00:52:00,320 --> 00:52:00,840
Speaker 3: Insane.

985
00:52:01,120 --> 00:52:03,359
Speaker 2: What are our takeaways here, dude?

986
00:52:03,680 --> 00:52:06,560
Speaker 3: I I think the dad's been super solid. I love

987
00:52:06,600 --> 00:52:10,839
Speaker 3: that he chose the right wife. The dad like holy.

988
00:52:10,920 --> 00:52:17,160
Speaker 2: Parents, like greatest parents of time, dude. I mean they

989
00:52:17,360 --> 00:52:18,239
Speaker 2: they really crushed that.

990
00:52:18,360 --> 00:52:19,919
Speaker 3: They compliment each other very well.

991
00:52:20,000 --> 00:52:22,640
Speaker 1: Also, op Like just the way that OPI speaks and

992
00:52:22,680 --> 00:52:25,800
Speaker 1: writes talk so highly of their parents. Yeah, seems like

993
00:52:25,840 --> 00:52:27,520
Speaker 1: a great personally, like.

994
00:52:27,880 --> 00:52:29,680
Speaker 3: Bad mouth anyone. He just kind of told her how

995
00:52:29,680 --> 00:52:30,000
Speaker 3: it was.

996
00:52:30,120 --> 00:52:33,239
Speaker 1: Yes, he just he was really just like observing the

997
00:52:33,520 --> 00:52:37,439
Speaker 1: unfortunate situation of how his dad was so pained after

998
00:52:37,600 --> 00:52:41,600
Speaker 1: giving so much. He's just feeling for his dad, who

999
00:52:41,600 --> 00:52:43,680
Speaker 1: he who they clearly loved so much.

1000
00:52:43,880 --> 00:52:46,120
Speaker 3: I had a similar thing happened to my in my family.

1001
00:52:46,640 --> 00:52:52,399
Speaker 3: My uncle, Uh, he was retired from UPS and his son,

1002
00:52:52,520 --> 00:52:55,759
Speaker 3: his own son, like stole like thousands of dollars like

1003
00:52:55,800 --> 00:52:58,839
Speaker 3: credit card wise stuff he like son, and I don't

1004
00:52:58,840 --> 00:53:00,399
Speaker 3: know how much it was, but it was like close

1005
00:53:00,440 --> 00:53:03,600
Speaker 3: to eighty k. He just took and stole from other

1006
00:53:03,640 --> 00:53:06,320
Speaker 3: people and stuff like that. And it's a whole messed

1007
00:53:06,400 --> 00:53:08,640
Speaker 3: up scenario. Every I get a little snippets of it

1008
00:53:08,680 --> 00:53:10,600
Speaker 3: here and there. I haven't the last few years, but

1009
00:53:11,360 --> 00:53:16,759
Speaker 3: like he doesn't. The son, the dad, Uh, my uncle

1010
00:53:16,800 --> 00:53:19,000
Speaker 3: went to his son's house to like confront him about it,

1011
00:53:19,760 --> 00:53:23,600
Speaker 3: and he was like, your uncle, blah blah blah has

1012
00:53:23,640 --> 00:53:26,600
Speaker 3: a on him. He's like trying to like he like

1013
00:53:26,640 --> 00:53:30,080
Speaker 3: made some false accusations. It was horrible, and then he

1014
00:53:30,200 --> 00:53:33,280
Speaker 3: just my uncle just left. He's like I can't wow.

1015
00:53:33,320 --> 00:53:36,080
Speaker 1: So literally literally you go, yeah, you steal that money

1016
00:53:36,160 --> 00:53:39,799
Speaker 1: and then your dad comes to basically like Yo, why

1017
00:53:39,840 --> 00:53:42,400
Speaker 1: did you do that? Like what's going on? And then

1018
00:53:42,440 --> 00:53:46,040
Speaker 1: he's lying saying, oh, he's gotten something on him.

1019
00:53:45,920 --> 00:53:49,000
Speaker 3: That piece on him story the guy like my cousin.

1020
00:53:49,000 --> 00:53:50,759
Speaker 3: I guess that guy's my cousin. My cousin was like

1021
00:53:51,440 --> 00:53:56,359
Speaker 3: cop two and was like horrible. Yeah, that's a whole

1022
00:53:56,360 --> 00:53:59,440
Speaker 3: redit story there, Oh it is, it is, but but

1023
00:53:59,520 --> 00:54:01,680
Speaker 3: yeah he was super paid because that was his family

1024
00:54:01,719 --> 00:54:03,560
Speaker 3: and he stole a lot of money and he still

1025
00:54:03,600 --> 00:54:06,160
Speaker 3: loves him, but like he can't like be in his

1026
00:54:06,200 --> 00:54:09,799
Speaker 3: life because he's gonna still abuse that relationship.

1027
00:54:09,360 --> 00:54:11,120
Speaker 2: Like that exactly. Wow.

1028
00:54:11,920 --> 00:54:14,439
Speaker 1: Wow, Yeah, it's like a similar situation. It's like, okay,

1029
00:54:14,480 --> 00:54:18,240
Speaker 1: so here's a question. So what do you do, especially

1030
00:54:18,239 --> 00:54:20,480
Speaker 1: if it's like as close as the sun? What do

1031
00:54:20,560 --> 00:54:24,160
Speaker 1: you do if you know that your family is either

1032
00:54:24,680 --> 00:54:27,360
Speaker 1: you know, it could be just like really entitled and

1033
00:54:27,400 --> 00:54:29,400
Speaker 1: trying to get your money or is legit just straight

1034
00:54:29,440 --> 00:54:30,239
Speaker 1: up stealing it?

1035
00:54:30,280 --> 00:54:31,040
Speaker 2: Like what do you do?

1036
00:54:31,360 --> 00:54:33,319
Speaker 3: Yeah? I think you have a conversation and then be

1037
00:54:33,360 --> 00:54:35,239
Speaker 3: like hey, this isn't cool. This is we've already got

1038
00:54:35,280 --> 00:54:37,640
Speaker 3: you set up. And then if they keep doing it,

1039
00:54:37,680 --> 00:54:40,359
Speaker 3: you just do not support them. Financially any way, shape

1040
00:54:40,440 --> 00:54:42,680
Speaker 3: or form, and that's the only way they will understand

1041
00:54:42,680 --> 00:54:43,400
Speaker 3: that consequence.

1042
00:54:44,000 --> 00:54:47,320
Speaker 2: I wonder too, like, what is there're just.

1043
00:54:47,200 --> 00:54:50,120
Speaker 3: Like mooching off of you. Yeah, that's their whole well being.

1044
00:54:50,480 --> 00:54:53,320
Speaker 3: Yeah that's not that's not the real world. Not everybody

1045
00:54:53,320 --> 00:54:54,319
Speaker 3: has a situation like that.

1046
00:54:54,360 --> 00:54:56,560
Speaker 1: So they're gonna have to the vast majority of people

1047
00:54:56,560 --> 00:54:58,920
Speaker 1: don't don't know, they don't have someone that can fund

1048
00:54:59,080 --> 00:55:03,239
Speaker 1: you know, private school all the way through high school, university,

1049
00:55:03,760 --> 00:55:06,680
Speaker 1: like startup for a business, startup, investment.

1050
00:55:06,800 --> 00:55:08,759
Speaker 2: Like how I'm really one.

1051
00:55:08,840 --> 00:55:10,520
Speaker 1: And this is something I think a lot too with

1052
00:55:10,640 --> 00:55:14,880
Speaker 1: like having kids and my.

1053
00:55:13,840 --> 00:55:15,360
Speaker 2: My girl, my girlfriend is like, oh, I want to

1054
00:55:15,360 --> 00:55:16,080
Speaker 2: give the kids a world.

1055
00:55:16,120 --> 00:55:18,839
Speaker 1: I'm like, oh, dude, these spoiled brats, bro, these these

1056
00:55:19,320 --> 00:55:21,040
Speaker 1: and I'm like joking, obviously.

1057
00:55:20,680 --> 00:55:21,560
Speaker 3: How many kids are gonna have?

1058
00:55:22,560 --> 00:55:25,000
Speaker 2: Oh, if we talked about this, I've always said five.

1059
00:55:26,040 --> 00:55:28,439
Speaker 2: I've always That's why I always said, yeah, fo little

1060
00:55:28,520 --> 00:55:34,680
Speaker 2: John J Man's fine. Little j Man's fucking up the game, dude.

1061
00:55:34,880 --> 00:55:37,879
Speaker 3: I really hope. I'm like called like Riley.

1062
00:55:38,000 --> 00:55:42,080
Speaker 1: Dude, you bro, you're deaf. Definitely unk dude. Bro, You're

1063
00:55:42,239 --> 00:55:45,960
Speaker 1: so you're so unk dude that dude, that you just

1064
00:55:46,000 --> 00:55:48,400
Speaker 1: you just gave me like a such a happy like

1065
00:55:49,040 --> 00:55:54,080
Speaker 1: flash forward memory, five little rug rats just freaking climbing

1066
00:55:54,120 --> 00:55:55,040
Speaker 1: you and just be like.

1067
00:55:55,040 --> 00:55:57,719
Speaker 3: Okay, I can't wait for it.

1068
00:55:58,000 --> 00:56:03,560
Speaker 1: I love kids too, I love yeah, but babysitter, babysitter

1069
00:56:03,760 --> 00:56:04,360
Speaker 1: fuugh stars.

1070
00:56:04,440 --> 00:56:04,839
Speaker 2: That's right.

1071
00:56:05,640 --> 00:56:10,760
Speaker 3: But you said private school. You're having these conversations about

1072
00:56:10,760 --> 00:56:12,480
Speaker 3: how you're gonna get all five of your kids to

1073
00:56:12,600 --> 00:56:13,280
Speaker 3: private school.

1074
00:56:13,719 --> 00:56:17,279
Speaker 2: Not quite a private nah, I mean maybe, I don't know.

1075
00:56:17,400 --> 00:56:19,560
Speaker 2: I mean probably do it eventually.

1076
00:56:20,280 --> 00:56:22,120
Speaker 3: Honestly, bro, they're gonna be out the womb. Just code,

1077
00:56:22,880 --> 00:56:24,520
Speaker 3: give them a tablet. It's really like.

1078
00:56:24,560 --> 00:56:26,600
Speaker 1: They have all of the she codes in life, like

1079
00:56:26,840 --> 00:56:31,400
Speaker 1: legit software developer, like content creator.

1080
00:56:31,920 --> 00:56:34,200
Speaker 3: Gets honestly a genius with content creation.

1081
00:56:34,520 --> 00:56:40,279
Speaker 1: It's gonna be. But I'm like, how do you how

1082
00:56:40,280 --> 00:56:42,440
Speaker 1: do you still support your family? Because I think it

1083
00:56:42,520 --> 00:56:44,400
Speaker 1: is such a good like It's like, okay, what do

1084
00:56:44,440 --> 00:56:46,799
Speaker 1: you when you accumulate wealth, what do you use it on?

1085
00:56:47,160 --> 00:56:50,399
Speaker 1: A great way is investing in the like, I mean,

1086
00:56:50,480 --> 00:56:53,120
Speaker 1: what else better way than investing in the people you love?

1087
00:56:53,480 --> 00:56:55,120
Speaker 1: But how do you do it in a way that

1088
00:56:55,280 --> 00:57:00,000
Speaker 1: doesn't breed entitlement or breeds as little entitlement as possible

1089
00:57:00,120 --> 00:57:01,120
Speaker 1: or is it's boundaries.

1090
00:57:05,760 --> 00:57:06,120
Speaker 2: I don't know.

1091
00:57:06,160 --> 00:57:08,480
Speaker 1: It's kind of hard because like one thing that can

1092
00:57:08,560 --> 00:57:11,640
Speaker 1: mind is maybe family vacations. Like let's say you're like, hey,

1093
00:57:11,680 --> 00:57:15,640
Speaker 1: I won't give you money directly for something, but you know,

1094
00:57:16,480 --> 00:57:19,400
Speaker 1: maybe like on the holidays, you know, end of the year,

1095
00:57:20,480 --> 00:57:22,760
Speaker 1: fly out the whole family. We all stay in a hotel,

1096
00:57:22,800 --> 00:57:25,080
Speaker 1: all the kids are together, having a blast time of

1097
00:57:25,120 --> 00:57:27,960
Speaker 1: their lives. All the adults get together, we have these beautiful,

1098
00:57:28,000 --> 00:57:33,640
Speaker 1: extravaging dinners. That's not giving someone money directly. But do

1099
00:57:33,720 --> 00:57:35,560
Speaker 1: they then come and be like.

1100
00:57:36,160 --> 00:57:41,400
Speaker 2: Hey, our wedding vour noodles.

1101
00:57:41,040 --> 00:57:43,600
Speaker 1: Are coming up. We're gonna go on our like renewal

1102
00:57:43,640 --> 00:57:47,600
Speaker 1: honeymoon or whatever. Give us fifteen grands, Yeah, to do

1103
00:57:47,640 --> 00:57:52,800
Speaker 1: a trip like we do yearly. That's actually what Charlotte,

1104
00:57:52,840 --> 00:57:56,200
Speaker 1: Charlottage and God does. Is he just like when he

1105
00:57:56,240 --> 00:57:59,000
Speaker 1: goes on vacation, he just pays for like all off

1106
00:57:59,160 --> 00:58:03,680
Speaker 1: like I'm talking maybe twenty thirty people. It pays for

1107
00:58:03,720 --> 00:58:07,960
Speaker 1: all their flights, hotels, food, Like just what's what's the bill?

1108
00:58:08,080 --> 00:58:11,680
Speaker 1: I mean, he's my guy's earning. My guy's got some money.

1109
00:58:13,360 --> 00:58:14,320
Speaker 1: What do you do, Like.

1110
00:58:16,120 --> 00:58:18,439
Speaker 3: It's the hard one. It's all this stuff. Yeah, because

1111
00:58:18,440 --> 00:58:21,240
Speaker 3: you're expected and you put yourself in life in a

1112
00:58:21,280 --> 00:58:23,680
Speaker 3: situation where you expect those things.

1113
00:58:24,040 --> 00:58:29,440
Speaker 1: Yeah, do you maybe you give them whatever it is,

1114
00:58:29,480 --> 00:58:35,080
Speaker 1: the vacation's education, whatever, But like anytime someone asked for

1115
00:58:35,120 --> 00:58:37,200
Speaker 1: something like that, you kind of shut it down and

1116
00:58:37,240 --> 00:58:38,560
Speaker 1: maybe just.

1117
00:58:38,600 --> 00:58:40,400
Speaker 3: Kind of show them like, hey, this is what I

1118
00:58:40,480 --> 00:58:44,320
Speaker 3: have done. Yes, what are you doing for? And I

1119
00:58:44,320 --> 00:58:46,320
Speaker 3: guess you could be like, you're getting all this for free,

1120
00:58:46,440 --> 00:58:48,360
Speaker 3: or you'd be like, or I'm giving you all this

1121
00:58:48,400 --> 00:58:51,640
Speaker 3: because you were doing X, y Z for me, Like,

1122
00:58:51,760 --> 00:58:53,760
Speaker 3: but it looks like these kids aren't really they're just

1123
00:58:53,800 --> 00:58:55,760
Speaker 3: mooching off of them, So be like just show them

1124
00:58:55,800 --> 00:58:57,560
Speaker 3: the farm and be like, hey, I'm give you this,

1125
00:58:57,600 --> 00:58:59,320
Speaker 3: give you this, give me this in return. This is

1126
00:58:59,320 --> 00:59:02,120
Speaker 3: what I've given. But I love you and I want

1127
00:59:02,120 --> 00:59:05,360
Speaker 3: to make sure you're well supported financially. But like we

1128
00:59:05,440 --> 00:59:07,919
Speaker 3: cannot have the same city, we cannot have the same

1129
00:59:07,960 --> 00:59:11,440
Speaker 3: relationship going forward. Something needs to change. This is what

1130
00:59:11,480 --> 00:59:15,120
Speaker 3: I believe needs to change. What do you think about that? Okay,

1131
00:59:15,440 --> 00:59:17,320
Speaker 3: what do you want to keep? How can we work

1132
00:59:17,360 --> 00:59:19,560
Speaker 3: that out to make that happen where it's fair to

1133
00:59:19,600 --> 00:59:22,120
Speaker 3: me and fair to you. Just have that conversation or

1134
00:59:22,200 --> 00:59:24,920
Speaker 3: be like you have abused my relationship with you, Yes,

1135
00:59:25,600 --> 00:59:28,280
Speaker 3: I any easy. Now you've lost it. Now you've lost

1136
00:59:28,280 --> 00:59:30,720
Speaker 3: it because of this. This is the chances I've given you.

1137
00:59:31,120 --> 00:59:33,080
Speaker 3: This is what it's going to be now. I still

1138
00:59:33,120 --> 00:59:36,760
Speaker 3: love you, I support you, but I financially cannot support

1139
00:59:36,800 --> 00:59:37,280
Speaker 3: you anymore.

1140
00:59:37,280 --> 00:59:39,200
Speaker 1: You can't do it, can I wonder if you're like

1141
00:59:39,320 --> 00:59:41,840
Speaker 1: upfront with that too, because there's like there's doing it

1142
00:59:41,880 --> 00:59:44,200
Speaker 1: after they kind of like cross the line. But what

1143
00:59:44,240 --> 00:59:47,040
Speaker 1: if you do it like almost upfront where you're like, listen,

1144
00:59:47,080 --> 00:59:50,120
Speaker 1: I'm here to support you, and like I want to

1145
00:59:50,120 --> 00:59:53,680
Speaker 1: to to be generous and support you, but like if

1146
00:59:53,680 --> 00:59:56,880
Speaker 1: you try to abuse it, like because then every everyone

1147
00:59:56,920 --> 00:59:59,560
Speaker 1: can try to abuse it. And I to be honest,

1148
00:59:59,640 --> 01:00:03,320
Speaker 1: like given that I'm giving, I'm giving out and being generous,

1149
01:00:03,760 --> 01:00:06,560
Speaker 1: I kind of don't want people abusing that. That's not

1150
01:00:06,720 --> 01:00:09,680
Speaker 1: that's not that's not how I want to live my life.

1151
01:00:10,080 --> 01:00:14,240
Speaker 1: So like here's the situation. I'm always happy to be generous,

1152
01:00:14,280 --> 01:00:16,800
Speaker 1: but like if you really start pushing the line, like

1153
01:00:16,840 --> 01:00:18,240
Speaker 1: I can't, I can't do it anymore.

1154
01:00:18,320 --> 01:00:19,880
Speaker 3: That's that's what you just have that that talk.

1155
01:00:20,000 --> 01:00:22,080
Speaker 1: You got to set that boundary because in the story,

1156
01:00:22,200 --> 01:00:25,960
Speaker 1: op was like, my dad is the quiet, non confrontational.

1157
01:00:26,000 --> 01:00:30,880
Speaker 1: He loves helping people, but he doesn't like basically maybe

1158
01:00:30,920 --> 01:00:33,160
Speaker 1: saying something like that, or you're setting a boundary, so

1159
01:00:33,200 --> 01:00:35,360
Speaker 1: it's like, yo, you got you or someone. Maybe the

1160
01:00:35,400 --> 01:00:40,600
Speaker 1: mom could be kind of the the I don't know negotiator,

1161
01:00:41,280 --> 01:00:42,360
Speaker 1: but the lack of a veteran.

1162
01:00:42,200 --> 01:00:44,439
Speaker 3: We would want to like hear it come from him,

1163
01:00:44,520 --> 01:00:45,040
Speaker 3: not from her.

1164
01:00:45,280 --> 01:00:46,560
Speaker 2: That's that's true. That's true.

1165
01:00:46,640 --> 01:00:49,080
Speaker 1: Just something just something that like sets the expectation and

1166
01:00:49,360 --> 01:00:52,520
Speaker 1: also maybe this is it. You kind of just got

1167
01:00:52,520 --> 01:00:58,120
Speaker 1: to accept that it could happen. And honestly, they are

1168
01:00:58,200 --> 01:01:01,840
Speaker 1: kind of weeding themselves out, you know, like, Hey, I

1169
01:01:01,920 --> 01:01:03,760
Speaker 1: want I don't I don't want people that are just

1170
01:01:03,800 --> 01:01:06,680
Speaker 1: related to me by blood. I want people that are

1171
01:01:06,840 --> 01:01:09,720
Speaker 1: related to me by blood and respect me and we

1172
01:01:09,760 --> 01:01:13,240
Speaker 1: can have a great time, make lifelong memories, laugh, live together.

1173
01:01:13,960 --> 01:01:15,720
Speaker 1: Like I don't want someone who's just gonna be like

1174
01:01:16,280 --> 01:01:17,720
Speaker 1: the people who would movech I don't want them on

1175
01:01:17,760 --> 01:01:20,800
Speaker 1: the family vacation. I would rather take that money and

1176
01:01:20,880 --> 01:01:23,880
Speaker 1: then spend more on everyone else.

1177
01:01:24,080 --> 01:01:28,240
Speaker 3: That's more that don't take you for credit exactly, that

1178
01:01:28,280 --> 01:01:32,320
Speaker 3: are like grateful, grateful, that are like good spirits, good people.

1179
01:01:32,800 --> 01:01:36,600
Speaker 1: Like Like, imagine if the roles were reversed and it's

1180
01:01:36,680 --> 01:01:40,800
Speaker 1: like or or that Op's parents weren't the wealthy ones. Yeah,

1181
01:01:41,000 --> 01:01:44,200
Speaker 1: if they had someone that was giving them, they would

1182
01:01:44,240 --> 01:01:47,920
Speaker 1: be like, thank you so much. This is like beyond

1183
01:01:48,400 --> 01:01:51,280
Speaker 1: you know, beyond what we expected. You're incredible, And they

1184
01:01:51,320 --> 01:01:54,080
Speaker 1: would probably be so gracious, so kind to them, probably

1185
01:01:54,160 --> 01:01:57,040
Speaker 1: do whatever they could to. Yeah, they maybe they didn't

1186
01:01:57,040 --> 01:01:58,880
Speaker 1: have the money, but like you know, just being a

1187
01:01:58,880 --> 01:01:59,680
Speaker 1: good person back.

1188
01:02:00,720 --> 01:02:08,479
Speaker 2: So wow. But you know, I feel for the dad,

1189
01:02:08,760 --> 01:02:13,160
Speaker 2: but I'm happy that what he did for his family.

1190
01:02:13,320 --> 01:02:15,360
Speaker 3: Yeah, just beautiful. Very is really beautiful.

1191
01:02:15,360 --> 01:02:19,400
Speaker 1: And you know there's probably stories of Op the other

1192
01:02:19,480 --> 01:02:21,960
Speaker 1: children and other children that that were very grateful and

1193
01:02:22,080 --> 01:02:23,320
Speaker 1: just like made the most of it.

1194
01:02:24,080 --> 01:02:26,080
Speaker 3: Such people abuse relationships like that.

1195
01:02:26,280 --> 01:02:26,800
Speaker 2: That sucks.