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Speaker 1: Misspelling with Tory Spelling and iHeartRadio podcast.

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Speaker 2: Hi, honey, how are you tea?

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Speaker 3: Oh my gosh, I haven't seen you in a minute.

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Speaker 2: I know you've been through a lot in a minute.

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Speaker 1: I know.

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Speaker 3: Wow.

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Speaker 1: First of all, I have to tell you, well, I

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Speaker 1: am so sorry. Well, obviously, Shannon, I can only imagine

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Speaker 1: how hard that was for you. And it's so surreal

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Speaker 1: because our generation obviously we all grew up, came into

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Speaker 1: coming of age with all of us, and so I'm

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Speaker 1: very sorry about that. And also personally outside of that,

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Speaker 1: what you're going through with your family.

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Speaker 3: I get I thought you were going to say you're

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Speaker 3: sorry about the divorce. I'm like, no, you're not. Don't

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Speaker 3: be no.

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Speaker 1: But no matter what the circumstances are, it's do you

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Speaker 1: want me to grab your pails?

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Speaker 2: Did you see? Yes?

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Speaker 3: It's deflating like one of my boots.

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Speaker 2: I uh, well, mine have deflated.

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Speaker 3: Oh my gosh, I just got I'm done two years ago.

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Speaker 3: Now I have to get them redone. They're terrible. I

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Speaker 3: hate them.

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Speaker 1: Oh well, we could talk about that. I have to

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Speaker 1: get mine redone tail. No, I no matter what the

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Speaker 1: circumstances are, it's not easy going through divorce, right, Yeah,

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Speaker 1: it's not easy. No, even if it's all amicable and

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Speaker 1: everything's good, it's still trying to figure out everything is.

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Speaker 2: It's not easy.

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Speaker 3: It's not it's not. But we've been friends for so long,

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Speaker 3: Like you've gone down this road with me, and we've

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Speaker 3: talked before that you know it wasn't completely happy.

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Speaker 2: How are you now?

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Speaker 3: Interesting? Like happy, not happy? Dean and I are in

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Speaker 3: a good place. But I got to be honest with you,

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Speaker 3: like it's it's the whole like having him removed from

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Speaker 3: the household situation, from our family, like that's been the

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Speaker 3: toughest because while perhaps you know, we weren't happy together

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Speaker 3: any longer in the marriage, like he was right.

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Speaker 2: There and still there in the household and that being

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Speaker 2: part of.

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Speaker 3: The yes, yes, and now you know, the kids.

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Speaker 1: And going through the motions of being husband and wife.

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Speaker 1: Even though you guys weren't happy, we're still doing all that.

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Speaker 3: And but on the other hand, you know, the kids

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Speaker 3: could see that in happiness and they know and it

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Speaker 3: was better that we kind of stopped it. Now.

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Speaker 1: Was there a breaking point or was it just okay,

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Speaker 1: we're or was there like a.

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Speaker 2: Thing you know what I mean? Or did you just wait? Okay,

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Speaker 2: got it?

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Speaker 3: There is like that one final like blowout fights. I

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Speaker 3: understand there, but it actually didn't come from me. It

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Speaker 3: came from him. He initiated the blowout fight. And you know,

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Speaker 3: I'm a lover not a fighter. I know, I know,

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Speaker 3: so it's hard for me my voice and.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, that's what I'm asking you, like it had to be.

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Speaker 2: So did he? Was it you that?

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Speaker 1: Really?

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Speaker 2: Sorry?

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Speaker 1: If I'm I know this is your show and I'm

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Speaker 1: asking you the questions.

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Speaker 2: But I think because.

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Speaker 1: I do all the time, but because we've known each

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Speaker 1: other for so long and we've gone through so much

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Speaker 1: and a lot of similarities and stuff, and no, but

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Speaker 1: I'm and people are very curious because they'll read a

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Speaker 1: lot of stuff in the press and all of that.

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Speaker 1: But you know, Aaron and I went to dinner with

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Speaker 1: you and Dean and it wasn't that long ago after

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Speaker 1: and I was so it wasn't shocked because if you know,

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Speaker 1: we have shared stuff together and we think, okay, they'll

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Speaker 1: get through it or whatever.

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Speaker 2: But I was surprised.

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Speaker 3: And for years I told you I was contemplating, and

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Speaker 3: you know, and the back and forth. Do I stay

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Speaker 3: for the kids, Do I you know, or will things

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Speaker 3: get better between us? Who knows? But that was our

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Speaker 3: last date was with you and Erin. Oh really, I

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Speaker 3: mean not just our last double date, but our last

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Speaker 3: like time out together was yeah, with you.

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Speaker 2: So I know that's what I'm saying.

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Speaker 1: You know, that's what so like that people don't get

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Speaker 1: when you know, when Charlie and I got divorced, I

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Speaker 1: filed for divorce three weeks after we were at a

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Speaker 2: I'll never forget it.

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Speaker 1: It was probably less than three weeks that I filed,

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Speaker 1: and people on the red carpet or you know that

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Speaker 1: saus probably never in a million years would have guessed it.

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Speaker 1: That's the same thing Aaron and I we were so

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Speaker 1: surprised hearing that, and because you guys seemed so connected.

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Speaker 1: And but again, you don't know what goes on behind

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Speaker 2: But well you do.

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Speaker 3: I told you everything I know.

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Speaker 1: But no, no, you think that things get right right, that

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Speaker 1: you're in a better place to it, and so and

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Speaker 1: that's the thing that I think is hard, and people

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Speaker 1: speculate different things, whether it's true or not.

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Speaker 2: It's not easy going through it.

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Speaker 3: Right publicly. The thing you said is the connection, and

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Speaker 3: that's the thing. We did have a connection and we

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Speaker 3: still do have a connection.

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Speaker 2: Now is he with someone else? He is? And how

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Speaker 2: did you feel about that?

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Speaker 3: Good question, because when I met him, he was with

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Speaker 3: and and anyway it was. I was always very nervous,

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Speaker 3: like if we ever split up and get divorced, like

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Speaker 3: what does that look like when he's with someone else,

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Speaker 3: or if I'm with someone else, and just to be

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Speaker 3: you know, I don't know. I was always like, will

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Speaker 3: I be jealous? What will it be like? Because I

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Speaker 3: did know anyone day he and I we weren't. I

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Speaker 3: didn't think we would be together forever.

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Speaker 2: So you were.

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Speaker 1: I think a lot of people don't understand this too,

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Speaker 1: with sometimes well especially a lot of times with women.

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Speaker 1: Typically I find with my girlfriends too, we mourn the

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Speaker 1: okay with it right away, with people seeing photos of

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Speaker 3: That is so interesting. That is exactly it. I grieved

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Speaker 3: and warned the relationship during during it. Yeah, so when

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Speaker 3: my focus was just on the kids and taking care

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Speaker 3: when I first saw a picture of them together, I

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Speaker 3: you know, it's it's funny because my brain wanted to

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Speaker 3: feel nothing. She's really pretty, she's and it is like

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Speaker 3: it has been that consistently. Like she was she was

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Speaker 3: understandably a little nervous to come into our house. And

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Speaker 3: her name is Lily, and she's amazing, and I'm grateful

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Speaker 3: because you know, you never know who your ex is

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Speaker 3: going to be with and they're around your kids and uh, well,

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Speaker 3: don't tell us, well.

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Speaker 2: That you're okay with it that all.

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Speaker 1: You really seems like you care about his happiness, and

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Speaker 1: when he's happy, then the kids are happy, and if

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Speaker 2: It helps everyone in the fad.

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Speaker 3: It really does. And I don't know, there's not a

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Speaker 1: Well, I think that's what I was saying that I

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Speaker 1: think then that's when you know that it was the

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Speaker 1: right decision to split, as hard as it is sometimes

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Speaker 1: that you warned the loss of the marriage part of

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Speaker 2: You're actually okay with it. Yeah, you know, it's hard.

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Speaker 3: And that last fight, he put a post up on

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Speaker 3: Instagram saying, you know, you know, the typical when celebrity

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Speaker 3: But I didn't know he was putting it up, and

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Speaker 3: it was basically my last it was like a cry

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Speaker 3: get a publicist involved and make a statement to you know,

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Speaker 3: it on Instagram, all the stuff we all think about.

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Speaker 3: He did it on behalf of us and I was like, whoa.

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Speaker 3: And then he took it down. But you know, it's

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Speaker 2: Was he was reacting emotional, he was.

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Speaker 3: Reacting emotionally, and he was still drinking, and you know

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Speaker 1: Was like, oh, thank god, because I'm gonna ask you

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Speaker 3: I don't know if I could have done it. I

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Speaker 3: longer seeing a strong woman in the house. But I

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Speaker 3: had gotten so deep into it that I would question

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Speaker 3: it a lot and be like, Okay, maybe not this lifetime.

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Speaker 3: Maybe this lifetime, I'm just supposed to be a mother

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Speaker 3: the happy ending next lifetime. And I think I would

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Speaker 3: have hated to suddenly. While I'm not jealous of Lily,

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Speaker 3: who's in her early thirties, I would have hated if

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Speaker 3: he had loved me for someone And I'm like seventy

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Speaker 3: do now? So now I got to shut it? Fifty

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Speaker 1: You do and it's you know what, it's ah, I

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Speaker 1: am so proud of you. Thank you, I really am,

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Speaker 1: because it is not you didn't play dirty. You And

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Speaker 1: it's not easy. Also, having going through a very public

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Speaker 1: divorce and having different people or different stories out there,

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Speaker 1: it is not easy. And people don't realize that and

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Speaker 1: they think, oh, you're in the public you yeah, and

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Speaker 1: it's and it's hard, and yes, our life is public,

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Speaker 1: but it's also we also go through things that a

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Speaker 1: lot of people go through. And it's at the end

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Speaker 1: of the day, we're moms. You know, a single mom,

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Speaker 1: those are the feelings that I think a lot of

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Speaker 1: people can relate to. Can they relate to you being

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Speaker 1: Tori Spelling, the daughter of Aaron Spelling? No, can people

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Speaker 1: relate to me and the stuff I've done? And being

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Speaker 1: married to Charlie. She no, but people can relate to

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Speaker 1: what it's like to go through a divorce, to go

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Speaker 1: through trying to navigate stuff and the feelings of your kids. Yes,

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Speaker 3: going to your school. You just move school. You know.

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Speaker 3: can we talk about your niche show?

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Speaker 2: Sure?

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Speaker 3: So wait it's current, so you don't have a title,

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Speaker 3: but it's currently titled Denise Richards and the Wild Thing, Yes,

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Speaker 2: I think it's very clever too. I love the title

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Speaker 3: I love the title so thank you so much.

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Speaker 2: It's so funny. When I shot an e.

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Speaker 3: It's complicated. Yeah, I watched.

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Speaker 2: Every episode, Oh thank you. They were three and four

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Speaker 1: It's just so bizarre to see their grown ups.

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Speaker 3: Was there one that was hesitant with I'm guessing it

439
00:24:47,960 --> 00:24:49,280
Speaker 3: was Lola.

440
00:24:50,080 --> 00:24:51,639
Speaker 2: They were looking both.

441
00:24:51,920 --> 00:24:56,120
Speaker 1: Yeah, No, they have different personality, they have their complete opposites.

442
00:24:57,000 --> 00:24:57,840
Speaker 2: They were both.

443
00:24:58,280 --> 00:25:02,240
Speaker 1: It's so I'm actually very proud of them because you

444
00:25:02,320 --> 00:25:05,959
Speaker 1: and I are also very much people pleasers, and so

445
00:25:06,560 --> 00:25:09,840
Speaker 1: I would have been, okay, so you want me to

446
00:25:09,840 --> 00:25:12,840
Speaker 1: do that, you know we would And they have a

447
00:25:12,880 --> 00:25:15,399
Speaker 1: list of questions, they have this and that, and I

448
00:25:15,440 --> 00:25:17,320
Speaker 1: was like, I was very proud of the girls that

449
00:25:17,359 --> 00:25:21,240
Speaker 1: they were asking so many questions that they really wanted

450
00:25:21,280 --> 00:25:24,760
Speaker 1: to be involved. And no, because back then I wouldn't

451
00:25:24,760 --> 00:25:29,000
Speaker 1: have asked what they asked, right, And wanted to know

452
00:25:29,119 --> 00:25:33,119
Speaker 1: certain things, and I'm really proud of them for that.

453
00:25:34,040 --> 00:25:37,880
Speaker 1: So anyway, we'll see what happens. I'm excited that we're

454
00:25:37,920 --> 00:25:40,720
Speaker 1: doing it, and I think it's fun and it's a

455
00:25:40,760 --> 00:25:44,479
Speaker 1: great opportunity for us as a family to do something

456
00:25:44,560 --> 00:25:45,200
Speaker 1: together too.

457
00:25:46,240 --> 00:25:49,560
Speaker 3: You deserve it. You're so hard working and you're so kind,

458
00:25:50,080 --> 00:25:53,560
Speaker 3: and thank you. Obviously, I've done a lot of people

459
00:25:53,600 --> 00:25:56,960
Speaker 3: in this business through the years, and you always root

460
00:25:57,000 --> 00:25:59,560
Speaker 3: for the ones that are like they deserve to come

461
00:25:59,560 --> 00:26:01,960
Speaker 3: out ahead, and you always wonder do the good ones

462
00:26:02,040 --> 00:26:05,639
Speaker 3: ever truly come out ahead. Well, you're making that happen.

463
00:26:05,920 --> 00:26:09,240
Speaker 3: And with reality TV, it's not as easy as people think.

464
00:26:09,440 --> 00:26:11,639
Speaker 3: People say to me all the time, just do another

465
00:26:11,680 --> 00:26:16,760
Speaker 3: reality show. I'm like it. It gets complicated because once

466
00:26:16,880 --> 00:26:20,000
Speaker 3: you know, sometimes networks are like, well, you've had one before,

467
00:26:20,080 --> 00:26:22,560
Speaker 3: people have seen that, what's the new take on it

468
00:26:22,680 --> 00:26:27,440
Speaker 3: or what? And technically this will be your third reality show.

469
00:26:28,359 --> 00:26:29,920
Speaker 1: Yeah, I guess if you look at it that way,

470
00:26:30,000 --> 00:26:37,160
Speaker 1: because I was on Housewives, so yeah.

471
00:26:35,560 --> 00:26:37,120
Speaker 3: But I and I thought of it that way.

472
00:26:37,240 --> 00:26:39,040
Speaker 2: I didn't either really just brought that up.

473
00:26:39,560 --> 00:26:43,360
Speaker 1: But I feel very I feel so incredibly blessed because

474
00:26:43,800 --> 00:26:46,040
Speaker 1: you and I both know, and you're a work or

475
00:26:46,080 --> 00:26:49,520
Speaker 1: two mama's and I love the show you're doing and

476
00:26:49,560 --> 00:26:50,480
Speaker 1: I'm so happy for you.

477
00:26:50,520 --> 00:26:52,399
Speaker 2: And you know, it's not easy.

478
00:26:52,440 --> 00:26:56,240
Speaker 1: And it's also it's not as easy as people think,

479
00:26:56,280 --> 00:26:58,800
Speaker 1: Oh do they just put cameras and follow your mind

480
00:26:58,880 --> 00:27:00,880
Speaker 1: everywhere and this and that. You also have to get

481
00:27:00,880 --> 00:27:04,040
Speaker 1: the kids schedule of this to that and navigate everything

482
00:27:04,119 --> 00:27:05,439
Speaker 1: and try to work it out.

483
00:27:05,480 --> 00:27:08,160
Speaker 2: I'm not complaining or anything at all, but.

484
00:27:08,280 --> 00:27:12,439
Speaker 1: You want to, you know, have people see what you know,

485
00:27:13,680 --> 00:27:15,399
Speaker 1: what our family is about and.

486
00:27:15,520 --> 00:27:20,480
Speaker 3: Right there, right But it's just, you know, the thing is,

487
00:27:21,119 --> 00:27:25,240
Speaker 3: I feel like relevancy. People talk about relevancy, and I

488
00:27:25,280 --> 00:27:27,440
Speaker 3: feel like we have that in common.

489
00:27:27,960 --> 00:27:34,680
Speaker 1: We're more interest still they're still in age. Yeah, I'm like, shit,

490
00:27:35,080 --> 00:27:36,160
Speaker 1: I'm so grateful.

491
00:27:36,920 --> 00:27:42,520
Speaker 3: Fuck But you know what it's it's a blessing, like

492
00:27:42,640 --> 00:27:46,000
Speaker 3: and it's a testament to you because it's not just

493
00:27:46,320 --> 00:27:49,400
Speaker 3: your beauty. It's not just it's everything.

494
00:27:48,920 --> 00:27:51,160
Speaker 2: Around falling apart that part.

495
00:27:52,119 --> 00:27:55,840
Speaker 3: To tell me about it, I.

496
00:27:55,840 --> 00:27:57,679
Speaker 2: Look back at when I was younger, I was like,

497
00:27:58,080 --> 00:27:59,119
Speaker 2: I wish I knew that I.

498
00:28:00,640 --> 00:28:00,960
Speaker 3: That way.

499
00:28:03,840 --> 00:28:04,840
Speaker 2: Well, you know what i mean.

500
00:28:05,200 --> 00:28:08,760
Speaker 3: I'm like, even you didn't feel good about yourself so

501
00:28:08,880 --> 00:28:10,080
Speaker 3: fusolutely I did not.

502
00:28:11,960 --> 00:28:14,960
Speaker 1: Tell me a kid, and people make fun of certain things,

503
00:28:15,440 --> 00:28:20,320
Speaker 1: you don't see yourself that way. It's different. So now

504
00:28:20,320 --> 00:28:22,880
Speaker 1: that I'm older, I was like, shit, I didn't look

505
00:28:22,920 --> 00:28:25,679
Speaker 1: so bad. I wish I like ingreciated that and was

506
00:28:25,720 --> 00:28:29,439
Speaker 1: like oh and embraced that because now I'm like, I

507
00:28:29,480 --> 00:28:32,320
Speaker 1: want to get my neck lifted, my facelift. I'm going

508
00:28:32,359 --> 00:28:34,879
Speaker 1: to do this, but I'm afraid I'm gonna look different,

509
00:28:34,920 --> 00:28:36,800
Speaker 1: so I have to be careful. I know me too,

510
00:28:37,359 --> 00:28:38,440
Speaker 1: so that's the only thing.

511
00:28:38,600 --> 00:28:41,520
Speaker 3: And I get so much shame on social media. I

512
00:28:41,560 --> 00:28:43,360
Speaker 3: know I'm not supposed to look like, oh, You've had

513
00:28:43,360 --> 00:28:45,680
Speaker 3: a million things done. I'm like, I actually haven't. I know,

514
00:28:45,880 --> 00:28:47,719
Speaker 3: I'd like it to, but now it's scared.

515
00:28:48,000 --> 00:28:50,040
Speaker 2: No people say the same thing about me.

516
00:28:50,240 --> 00:28:51,600
Speaker 1: So now I'm like, you know what, I'm going to

517
00:28:52,000 --> 00:28:53,840
Speaker 1: just do it anyway they think I did.

518
00:28:54,280 --> 00:28:57,240
Speaker 3: She hasn't. I've known her since I have. I feel like,

519
00:28:57,360 --> 00:28:59,520
Speaker 3: how old were you when you did? I feel like

520
00:28:59,520 --> 00:29:03,640
Speaker 3: I was like, were you like fifteen sixteen? And shit,

521
00:29:05,760 --> 00:29:07,200
Speaker 3: it was how old were you?

522
00:29:07,280 --> 00:29:07,360
Speaker 1: On?

523
00:29:07,720 --> 00:29:10,640
Speaker 2: I started because we're you're how old.

524
00:29:10,440 --> 00:29:13,000
Speaker 3: Are fifty one when you're may sixteen.

525
00:29:13,400 --> 00:29:16,440
Speaker 2: Okay, so I'm two years older than you. Yeah, we were.

526
00:29:17,000 --> 00:29:19,320
Speaker 3: I was like a teenager.

527
00:29:19,360 --> 00:29:21,760
Speaker 2: We were. Yeah, yeah, we're so young.

528
00:29:22,480 --> 00:29:25,160
Speaker 3: And we've known each other since then, and it was

529
00:29:25,200 --> 00:29:27,280
Speaker 3: always nice because our lives always came.

530
00:29:27,200 --> 00:29:29,360
Speaker 2: Full circle always because it wasn't.

531
00:29:29,280 --> 00:29:31,680
Speaker 3: You work with people and you and people think we

532
00:29:31,800 --> 00:29:34,200
Speaker 3: all like run into each other all the time. It

533
00:29:34,200 --> 00:29:35,160
Speaker 3: doesn't work like that.

534
00:29:35,240 --> 00:29:38,240
Speaker 2: But we were lying in and we did run we did,

535
00:29:38,440 --> 00:29:38,920
Speaker 2: and our.

536
00:29:38,840 --> 00:29:41,760
Speaker 3: Friendship kept coming back around throughout the years. That's how,

537
00:29:41,760 --> 00:29:44,320
Speaker 3: you know, like, okay, we're supposed to just stay friends exactly.

538
00:29:45,280 --> 00:29:48,520
Speaker 3: But wait, what was my point? My point was, yeah,

539
00:29:48,520 --> 00:29:53,400
Speaker 3: I don't know. Wait, so uh sorry, I say wait

540
00:29:53,440 --> 00:29:58,000
Speaker 3: when I get excited, like, wait, Dan, there's more. We

541
00:29:58,040 --> 00:30:03,400
Speaker 3: actually lived together before. People are like, what in the

542
00:30:03,440 --> 00:30:07,160
Speaker 3: same building, And we did when you and Charlie were together,

543
00:30:07,400 --> 00:30:08,480
Speaker 3: we lived at the Wilshire.

544
00:30:09,120 --> 00:30:10,840
Speaker 2: Yes, we lived in the same building.

545
00:30:11,000 --> 00:30:14,320
Speaker 3: We did for a short time. I think.

546
00:30:14,480 --> 00:30:17,600
Speaker 2: I think I was there a short time. You were

547
00:30:17,640 --> 00:30:18,959
Speaker 2: there longer than I was.

548
00:30:22,880 --> 00:30:25,960
Speaker 3: I saw the before and I saw the after in between.

549
00:30:27,360 --> 00:30:30,640
Speaker 1: Yes, it was a building where a lot of people

550
00:30:30,680 --> 00:30:33,520
Speaker 1: were up and down that elevator, but that's okay.

551
00:30:34,000 --> 00:30:38,640
Speaker 3: Yeah, did you ever see his place. I did one time.

552
00:30:39,040 --> 00:30:43,080
Speaker 2: And would you think needed to be a little brightened up?

553
00:30:43,400 --> 00:30:45,000
Speaker 3: May I speak freely? Wow?

554
00:30:45,280 --> 00:30:47,240
Speaker 2: Don't? Yes, speak freely?

555
00:30:47,560 --> 00:30:50,040
Speaker 3: I talked about it on the podcast now, but out

556
00:30:50,040 --> 00:30:51,040
Speaker 3: of respect.

557
00:30:51,280 --> 00:30:54,480
Speaker 2: No, don't worry. There's a lot that takes to offend me.

558
00:30:54,560 --> 00:30:54,960
Speaker 2: You know that.

559
00:30:55,120 --> 00:30:55,520
Speaker 3: I know that.

560
00:30:55,640 --> 00:30:58,680
Speaker 2: Jesus, I've been I'm good.

561
00:31:00,200 --> 00:31:08,000
Speaker 3: No, no, no, won't offend you. Okay. So Kevin my roommate, Yes, yes.

562
00:31:08,000 --> 00:31:10,880
Speaker 2: I love him. He was Charlie's really good friend. Yes,

563
00:31:11,680 --> 00:31:12,880
Speaker 2: I don't know if they're friends now.

564
00:31:12,800 --> 00:31:16,200
Speaker 3: But no, but he loves it. But I don't think

565
00:31:16,200 --> 00:31:16,680
Speaker 3: they're I.

566
00:31:16,680 --> 00:31:18,560
Speaker 2: Don't either, But anyway, I loved him too.

567
00:31:19,840 --> 00:31:23,160
Speaker 3: He's seen my teeth, they look good. Finally got my teeth.

568
00:31:23,200 --> 00:31:25,800
Speaker 3: Then it was my fiftieth birthday gift and it took

569
00:31:25,800 --> 00:31:28,720
Speaker 3: a year to finally bullet trigger. But I had other

570
00:31:28,800 --> 00:31:29,320
Speaker 3: things to do.

571
00:31:30,080 --> 00:31:33,040
Speaker 2: And he lived there too, right, he lives with me.

572
00:31:33,360 --> 00:31:36,880
Speaker 1: He was my roommate, okay, because Charlie introduced me to

573
00:31:36,960 --> 00:31:38,280
Speaker 1: Kevin when we first got together.

574
00:31:38,480 --> 00:31:42,520
Speaker 3: Yes, so Kevin, who has been sober forever when we

575
00:31:42,560 --> 00:31:45,640
Speaker 3: were roommates, though he was not sober, and he and

576
00:31:45,760 --> 00:31:49,200
Speaker 3: Charlie had a lot of he would go. He would

577
00:31:49,240 --> 00:31:51,800
Speaker 3: go m I A for days and I'd be like,

578
00:31:52,360 --> 00:31:54,760
Speaker 3: it's like me and my kids. Now, I'm like, where

579
00:31:54,800 --> 00:31:56,600
Speaker 3: are you? Where are you? And he's like, oh, I'm

580
00:31:56,600 --> 00:31:58,400
Speaker 3: just a Charlie And I'm like, okay, Well, at least

581
00:31:58,400 --> 00:32:00,320
Speaker 3: he's not driving. At least I know he's in.

582
00:32:00,280 --> 00:32:02,680
Speaker 2: The building building. He just takes the elevator.

583
00:32:02,880 --> 00:32:06,360
Speaker 3: Uh huh so yeah, so at least I could know

584
00:32:06,440 --> 00:32:09,720
Speaker 3: he was semi safe. But one night, I think we

585
00:32:09,760 --> 00:32:14,640
Speaker 3: had gone to a Playboy mansion party. We came back

586
00:32:14,680 --> 00:32:16,360
Speaker 3: and he was like, I'm going over to Charlie's. And

587
00:32:16,440 --> 00:32:18,520
Speaker 3: I'm like, okay, bye, have fun, see you in a week.

588
00:32:18,960 --> 00:32:19,280
Speaker 1: Uh.

589
00:32:19,520 --> 00:32:24,880
Speaker 3: It's literally and then he calls me and he's like,

590
00:32:25,080 --> 00:32:28,280
Speaker 3: come on, Tee, you gotta come over. Charlie says come over,

591
00:32:28,280 --> 00:32:30,000
Speaker 3: you gotta come on, Like, I don't want to go over.

592
00:32:30,040 --> 00:32:32,200
Speaker 3: I don't. I honestly I want to go to bed.

593
00:32:32,720 --> 00:32:34,959
Speaker 3: And I had a friend with me and she was like,

594
00:32:35,080 --> 00:32:37,920
Speaker 3: are you kidding Charlie Sheen's condo? Wait, we got to

595
00:32:37,960 --> 00:32:40,880
Speaker 3: go over, and I was like, oh shit. I was

596
00:32:40,880 --> 00:32:42,440
Speaker 3: like five minutes. We're going for five minutes. She was

597
00:32:42,480 --> 00:32:45,200
Speaker 3: like okay, cool, and I was like okay, So we

598
00:32:45,320 --> 00:32:47,720
Speaker 3: go over and no joke, you know, you take the

599
00:32:47,760 --> 00:32:51,200
Speaker 3: elevator up, goes right into your vestibule. We used to

600
00:32:51,240 --> 00:32:55,520
Speaker 3: say our vestibule. Wow, yeah, those.

601
00:32:55,280 --> 00:32:55,880
Speaker 2: Were the days.

602
00:32:56,360 --> 00:32:56,479
Speaker 1: Uh.

603
00:32:56,880 --> 00:32:59,880
Speaker 3: The door opens and Charlie is standing there in a

604
00:33:00,080 --> 00:33:01,960
Speaker 3: button up I want to say, Hawaian shirt. I don't

605
00:33:01,960 --> 00:33:05,160
Speaker 3: even know what it was. And he hands me something

606
00:33:05,240 --> 00:33:09,280
Speaker 3: he goes hot crack pipe and I was like nope,

607
00:33:09,960 --> 00:33:12,920
Speaker 3: no thanks, and then he was like come on in.

608
00:33:13,280 --> 00:33:15,240
Speaker 3: It was yes. I don't know. I didn't see the condo.

609
00:33:15,280 --> 00:33:17,880
Speaker 3: It was very dark. It was a lot dark. I

610
00:33:17,960 --> 00:33:21,720
Speaker 3: mean literally all the lights were off and the only

611
00:33:21,800 --> 00:33:24,080
Speaker 3: lights were like, you know, people smoking or like doing.

612
00:33:24,240 --> 00:33:26,720
Speaker 3: I don't know what was going on, but we went.

613
00:33:27,880 --> 00:33:32,080
Speaker 3: He was always very nice and he charming and sweet,

614
00:33:32,600 --> 00:33:40,160
Speaker 3: very and very very smart. We're like, what define smart intelligence? Oh?

615
00:33:40,200 --> 00:33:40,600
Speaker 2: He is.

616
00:33:41,600 --> 00:33:45,320
Speaker 3: So he brings me into the kitchen and he's like, well,

617
00:33:45,520 --> 00:33:47,840
Speaker 3: anything else. I was terrified to take anything else. I

618
00:33:47,840 --> 00:33:49,960
Speaker 3: didn't know. I was like, you know, there were so

619
00:33:50,000 --> 00:33:51,920
Speaker 3: many people there and they were all like, oh yeah, Charlie,

620
00:33:51,960 --> 00:33:53,960
Speaker 3: weave this, we have that. And I was like I'm

621
00:33:54,080 --> 00:33:56,880
Speaker 3: good and I was like I'll have a drink. Then

622
00:33:56,880 --> 00:33:58,840
Speaker 3: I was like, oh god, what there's something in the drinks.

623
00:33:59,080 --> 00:34:01,360
Speaker 3: I don't know what to do. I was literally like,

624
00:34:01,400 --> 00:34:02,800
Speaker 3: do you have a soda? And I was like, oh

625
00:34:02,880 --> 00:34:06,520
Speaker 3: my god, what am I doing? So yeah, he took

626
00:34:06,600 --> 00:34:10,760
Speaker 3: us around. I believe there were some ladies of the night.

627
00:34:10,640 --> 00:34:14,480
Speaker 2: There probably okay, I wouldn't be surprised.

628
00:34:14,880 --> 00:34:17,000
Speaker 3: And just a lot of people. And then Kevin's like,

629
00:34:17,160 --> 00:34:19,960
Speaker 3: isn't this the best? I'm like, no, this is not

630
00:34:20,000 --> 00:34:22,719
Speaker 3: the best, but this is you know, you know me

631
00:34:23,000 --> 00:34:26,359
Speaker 3: Like I'm like my dad storyteller in my head and

632
00:34:26,360 --> 00:34:28,680
Speaker 3: this is way back before I ever wrote books or

633
00:34:28,680 --> 00:34:31,439
Speaker 3: do anything. I'm like, this is a good story to tell, though,

634
00:34:31,760 --> 00:34:34,360
Speaker 3: you know, I'll tell this at dinner with my friends sometime.

635
00:34:34,840 --> 00:34:36,520
Speaker 3: So we left. That was it.

636
00:34:36,560 --> 00:34:40,360
Speaker 2: That was it? That was it? Oh that's a good story. Yeah.

637
00:34:40,400 --> 00:34:43,480
Speaker 3: So that's my only memory of being there. And you

638
00:34:43,520 --> 00:34:47,280
Speaker 3: guys used to have a food delivery service. I remember that.

639
00:34:47,360 --> 00:34:49,960
Speaker 2: How was it? A lot of people did? We had

640
00:34:49,960 --> 00:34:51,600
Speaker 2: the shit?

641
00:34:52,600 --> 00:34:55,280
Speaker 3: I'm trying to remember what it was, but it's because

642
00:34:55,320 --> 00:34:57,000
Speaker 3: you were on it. I actually was like I should

643
00:34:57,040 --> 00:34:59,319
Speaker 3: do something, and I got on it and then they

644
00:34:59,320 --> 00:35:00,839
Speaker 3: didn't pie It was like.

645
00:35:00,920 --> 00:35:04,160
Speaker 2: They would deliver the coolers with all of our food, and.

646
00:35:04,120 --> 00:35:05,959
Speaker 3: The coolers would still be sitting there with the food

647
00:35:06,000 --> 00:35:08,480
Speaker 3: in it because I would eat chips or whatever and

648
00:35:09,160 --> 00:35:11,480
Speaker 3: you know, and good stuff like Yeah, I never ate it,

649
00:35:11,840 --> 00:35:12,160
Speaker 3: I think.

650
00:35:12,280 --> 00:35:13,239
Speaker 2: Yeah, it was one of those.

651
00:35:13,440 --> 00:35:15,120
Speaker 3: Yeah, it was unfair. It was unfair.

652
00:35:15,560 --> 00:35:19,840
Speaker 1: Yeah, the guys downstairs took all of our bags of Charles,

653
00:35:19,880 --> 00:35:21,200
Speaker 1: all of our coolers.

654
00:35:21,640 --> 00:35:22,919
Speaker 2: Everyone in the building.

655
00:35:22,760 --> 00:35:24,879
Speaker 3: Wait really, yeah, like stole them.

656
00:35:25,080 --> 00:35:28,600
Speaker 1: No, no, no, meaning they would no, they would get

657
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Speaker 2: I remember seeing all of them.

661
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Speaker 3: Oh my gosh, Rodney Dangerfield. Yeah, it was a it

662
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Speaker 3: was a cool building. But I digress. Can we talk

663
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Speaker 3: about OnlyFans?

664
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Speaker 2: Yeah, because I thought you were going to fucking join it?

665
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Speaker 2: I know, why not. I don't know what the fuck

666
00:35:57,640 --> 00:35:58,200
Speaker 2: are you waiting for.

667
00:35:58,280 --> 00:35:58,719
Speaker 3: I'm not sure.

668
00:35:58,800 --> 00:36:02,839
Speaker 1: Ruth Anne, she says, no, you have nothing. She has

669
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670
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Speaker 1: People want to see us fuck it and bring second.

671
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Speaker 3: Please for a second. Ruthanne's always on the podcast. I know,

672
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Speaker 3: I know.

673
00:36:13,840 --> 00:36:17,160
Speaker 2: Oh here I'm going to tell you my experience.

674
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Speaker 3: Then she's like, oh my god.

675
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Speaker 2: She's all right, She's like, oh fuck.

676
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Speaker 1: So I didn't know what the hell OnlyFans was listen,

677
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Speaker 1: if we're starting out fine, Even at that I wish

678
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Speaker 1: I had the confidence now back then, I really do.

679
00:36:35,800 --> 00:36:38,960
Speaker 3: Yeah. So she thought only fans when I brought it up,

680
00:36:39,040 --> 00:36:42,320
Speaker 3: because it's a constant conversation. We go back and forth,

681
00:36:42,440 --> 00:36:44,799
Speaker 3: and because why do you think she shouldn't do it?

682
00:36:44,840 --> 00:36:46,360
Speaker 3: She thought she thought it was porn.

683
00:36:47,600 --> 00:36:48,319
Speaker 2: Some of it is.

684
00:36:48,760 --> 00:36:49,319
Speaker 3: She didn't know.

685
00:36:49,640 --> 00:36:51,960
Speaker 1: No, I'm going to explain this to you what I thought.

686
00:36:52,160 --> 00:36:54,160
Speaker 1: So I did not know what the hell it was.

687
00:36:55,200 --> 00:36:59,680
Speaker 1: And then my daughter joined it, and my daughter got

688
00:36:59,760 --> 00:37:03,680
Speaker 1: so much backlash from it, and I was upset because

689
00:37:04,040 --> 00:37:08,040
Speaker 1: I did Starship Troopers and then within four months Wild

690
00:37:08,040 --> 00:37:11,560
Speaker 1: Things came out and it was such a risk for

691
00:37:11,640 --> 00:37:15,040
Speaker 1: me as a young actress to do that, and I've thought, Okay,

692
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Speaker 1: this will go one way or the other, and thank

693
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Speaker 1: god it went the.

694
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Speaker 2: Way it did.

695
00:37:21,120 --> 00:37:25,000
Speaker 1: After that, there was certain projects that people wanted to

696
00:37:25,000 --> 00:37:28,840
Speaker 1: see me for, or people had a different perception and whatever.

697
00:37:30,080 --> 00:37:32,920
Speaker 1: If the internet was the way it is now, it

698
00:37:32,960 --> 00:37:35,040
Speaker 1: would have been so difficult, I think for me to

699
00:37:35,120 --> 00:37:37,720
Speaker 1: deal with that. And I was just telling Tea before

700
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Speaker 1: you came in here that I wish I had the

701
00:37:39,560 --> 00:37:45,880
Speaker 1: confidence now obviously back then, but so I joined the damn.

702
00:37:45,640 --> 00:37:50,680
Speaker 2: Thing and it was it's actually for me.

703
00:37:51,080 --> 00:37:55,880
Speaker 1: I don't care anymore what people say, because I have

704
00:37:55,960 --> 00:37:59,759
Speaker 1: been through the ringer with press, with stuff, with my

705
00:38:00,360 --> 00:38:05,040
Speaker 1: people saying stuff, rumors, this or that. It's like, say

706
00:38:05,080 --> 00:38:08,360
Speaker 1: what you want, and it's also a great way. And

707
00:38:08,440 --> 00:38:11,040
Speaker 1: a lot of people think it's just naked stuff and

708
00:38:11,080 --> 00:38:11,440
Speaker 1: all that.

709
00:38:11,520 --> 00:38:13,520
Speaker 2: It's not. It's for me.

710
00:38:13,600 --> 00:38:16,920
Speaker 1: It means, or what I think of it as is

711
00:38:16,960 --> 00:38:24,480
Speaker 1: almost the having a fan site where you can communicate

712
00:38:24,560 --> 00:38:29,000
Speaker 1: differently than on Instagram, you know that kind of thing.

713
00:38:29,480 --> 00:38:34,880
Speaker 1: And do I do topless? Yeah, but I already have

714
00:38:34,960 --> 00:38:37,280
Speaker 1: it out there because I did fucking Playboy.

715
00:38:38,080 --> 00:38:41,360
Speaker 3: Your tits are out there, they're not they're not.

716
00:38:41,719 --> 00:38:43,919
Speaker 2: Oh well you might as well have them out there.

717
00:38:44,239 --> 00:38:48,680
Speaker 1: And you know what after these yeah right, I'm like,

718
00:38:48,800 --> 00:38:52,040
Speaker 1: if someone wants to see my boobies and see meeting,

719
00:38:52,239 --> 00:38:56,320
Speaker 1: and I'm like, fucking thank you. I am so grateful.

720
00:38:56,640 --> 00:38:59,960
Speaker 1: Fuck no one's gonna say. And I thought I was

721
00:39:00,040 --> 00:39:02,200
Speaker 1: going to lose jobs that didn't happen.

722
00:39:02,800 --> 00:39:05,040
Speaker 3: So I don't know, but I want you to be

723
00:39:05,040 --> 00:39:07,680
Speaker 3: able to be like the voice. All I'm saying, I

724
00:39:07,719 --> 00:39:08,080
Speaker 3: don't know.

725
00:39:08,600 --> 00:39:12,319
Speaker 1: I guess I just don't have a rasp on what

726
00:39:12,360 --> 00:39:15,359
Speaker 1: it is what you would be doing if you're not.

727
00:39:16,920 --> 00:39:17,600
Speaker 2: I've cooked.

728
00:39:18,280 --> 00:39:22,759
Speaker 1: I do when I'm getting wardrobe ready or whatever for

729
00:39:23,400 --> 00:39:26,280
Speaker 1: going out of town, or I have to pick what dress.

730
00:39:26,520 --> 00:39:30,960
Speaker 1: I treat it like stuff that I don't post on Instagram.

731
00:39:31,000 --> 00:39:33,600
Speaker 1: I'll post on that and I'll say, okay, do you

732
00:39:33,640 --> 00:39:38,760
Speaker 1: like this or that? Or I'm just getting to this place,

733
00:39:38,840 --> 00:39:42,480
Speaker 1: and I don't know. There's just it's a little different.

734
00:39:42,520 --> 00:39:44,520
Speaker 1: You don't always have to do all of that. I

735
00:39:44,600 --> 00:39:49,080
Speaker 1: don't always do. Do I have I done topless?

736
00:39:49,160 --> 00:39:51,880
Speaker 2: Yes? Do I show my trashet? Yes? And if people

737
00:39:51,920 --> 00:39:52,600
Speaker 2: want to see.

738
00:39:52,440 --> 00:39:54,719
Speaker 3: Its great at my age, I subscribe.

739
00:39:54,760 --> 00:39:58,719
Speaker 1: I am like, thank you, because there's going to be

740
00:39:58,719 --> 00:40:00,799
Speaker 1: a day no one's going to want to fucking see it.

741
00:40:01,760 --> 00:40:08,480
Speaker 1: So I'm not that never, but I'm grateful youmorates it.

742
00:40:09,719 --> 00:40:15,680
Speaker 3: I think that is because it's me and sometimes what

743
00:40:15,960 --> 00:40:19,279
Speaker 3: other people can do and it's a little more acceptable

744
00:40:19,520 --> 00:40:22,920
Speaker 3: with me. It's just like nope, yeah, just fine, I

745
00:40:23,000 --> 00:40:27,000
Speaker 3: get it. No, matter what she says and does, it's

746
00:40:27,000 --> 00:40:31,640
Speaker 3: a headline and it's negative. Well her too, but she's

747
00:40:31,640 --> 00:40:32,400
Speaker 3: thank you.

748
00:40:32,480 --> 00:40:37,440
Speaker 1: Yeah, it's true they're not always possible, but.

749
00:40:37,400 --> 00:40:39,719
Speaker 3: You still get acting jobs. I think she's worried, like, oh, well,

750
00:40:39,719 --> 00:40:41,680
Speaker 3: she's not get an acting job because of.

751
00:40:41,640 --> 00:40:47,560
Speaker 1: It and things like that, and you know, endorsements. We're

752
00:40:47,600 --> 00:40:52,520
Speaker 1: trying the podcast new and there's some other things coming down.

753
00:40:52,600 --> 00:40:53,839
Speaker 2: I say, you want to wait and see.

754
00:40:54,640 --> 00:40:58,040
Speaker 1: I just would be concerned about going down that path

755
00:40:58,160 --> 00:41:03,960
Speaker 1: without first exploring other going down, just in case if

756
00:41:03,960 --> 00:41:06,080
Speaker 1: someone's like, I don't want to do a hair thing

757
00:41:06,239 --> 00:41:09,040
Speaker 1: or this, because but if you can go on only

758
00:41:09,160 --> 00:41:12,919
Speaker 1: Fans and do other things, I said to you, I'm

759
00:41:12,920 --> 00:41:13,680
Speaker 1: not opposed to that.

760
00:41:14,760 --> 00:41:16,759
Speaker 3: I feel I mean, you never stopped working, but I

761
00:41:16,880 --> 00:41:21,080
Speaker 3: feel like since you joined Only Fans you've gotten other

762
00:41:21,160 --> 00:41:23,560
Speaker 3: things exactly. And I thought, oh, and that's what you

763
00:41:23,600 --> 00:41:24,879
Speaker 3: told me too, And it's true.

764
00:41:25,960 --> 00:41:30,760
Speaker 2: I was like, oh fuck, I fucked myself. No, I've worked.

765
00:41:32,000 --> 00:41:35,120
Speaker 1: I've had a great like since I joined, I've been

766
00:41:35,120 --> 00:41:35,920
Speaker 1: working a lot.

767
00:41:36,239 --> 00:41:38,960
Speaker 2: It's just I go back to the people that are

768
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Speaker 2: hiring us.

769
00:41:39,719 --> 00:41:43,160
Speaker 1: There maybe on they're looking and I'm like, well, good,

770
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Speaker 1: they can look at me and hire me.

771
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Speaker 2: I don't care.

772
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Speaker 1: True, Maybe if I was younger, I'd be like, they

773
00:41:48,239 --> 00:41:51,799
Speaker 1: can't look at me like that. No, I'm like, well

774
00:41:51,880 --> 00:41:56,200
Speaker 1: fuck it, I'll do it. I'm too old right now.

775
00:41:56,400 --> 00:41:59,440
Speaker 2: I don't care. Okay, But everyone's different, Like.

776
00:41:59,440 --> 00:42:09,359
Speaker 1: Okay, who's the oldest guy you've been with?

777
00:42:10,520 --> 00:42:14,399
Speaker 3: That would be I guess Dean. Oh and he.

778
00:42:14,400 --> 00:42:17,600
Speaker 2: Have you had sex sense? Dean? You don't have to

779
00:42:17,640 --> 00:42:23,640
Speaker 2: answer yes, that's good. I mean he clearly is.

780
00:42:24,719 --> 00:42:29,640
Speaker 3: Yeah. Yeah, but it is a whole different playing field.

781
00:42:29,680 --> 00:42:33,840
Speaker 3: But like I feel like, you know, we all go

782
00:42:33,920 --> 00:42:38,280
Speaker 3: through our phases of how we want to dress and look,

783
00:42:38,360 --> 00:42:42,360
Speaker 3: and we're able to change how we feel in the moment.

784
00:42:42,440 --> 00:42:45,800
Speaker 3: That's our given right, it's our bodies, it's our minds

785
00:42:45,840 --> 00:42:48,960
Speaker 3: and hearts and our vibes and what we want to do.

786
00:42:49,560 --> 00:42:55,080
Speaker 3: And people definitely have a very strong opinion of being

787
00:42:55,239 --> 00:42:58,320
Speaker 3: fifty one and the way I dress.

788
00:42:59,760 --> 00:43:06,279
Speaker 1: And I'm like, I think it's different now, Like my

789
00:43:06,440 --> 00:43:11,560
Speaker 1: mom would not have dressed like this. Yeah, and maybe

790
00:43:11,760 --> 00:43:14,359
Speaker 1: I'm inappropriate whatever.

791
00:43:14,239 --> 00:43:19,239
Speaker 2: But find inappropriate though, Like right, so, I just want

792
00:43:19,280 --> 00:43:19,520
Speaker 2: to be.

793
00:43:19,560 --> 00:43:24,640
Speaker 3: Me, and it's like that everyone takes that away from you,

794
00:43:24,719 --> 00:43:25,480
Speaker 3: like they don't want to be.

795
00:43:25,480 --> 00:43:28,240
Speaker 1: I don't read it or listen to it. I know,

796
00:43:28,520 --> 00:43:33,000
Speaker 1: I really don't idea. But maybe that's something that you

797
00:43:33,080 --> 00:43:36,960
Speaker 1: maybe coming into the next phase of your life after

798
00:43:37,280 --> 00:43:41,680
Speaker 1: your breakup and you're you know, going through your divorce

799
00:43:41,760 --> 00:43:46,319
Speaker 1: and everything and coming into another phase, just embrace your

800
00:43:46,360 --> 00:43:47,480
Speaker 1: fifties and.

801
00:43:48,520 --> 00:43:53,440
Speaker 2: Like be you. Who cares? What do you have to lose?

802
00:43:53,719 --> 00:43:56,480
Speaker 1: People say shit anyway, it's true, so you might as

803
00:43:56,520 --> 00:43:58,759
Speaker 1: well be happy and do what you want to do.

804
00:43:59,040 --> 00:44:00,239
Speaker 2: They're gonna say it anyway.

805
00:44:00,440 --> 00:44:02,600
Speaker 3: I'm never gonna wear a business suit that wasn't me

806
00:44:02,680 --> 00:44:04,680
Speaker 3: in my thirties, that wasn't did They.

807
00:44:04,560 --> 00:44:06,000
Speaker 2: Would be like, what the fuck is she doing wearing

808
00:44:06,000 --> 00:44:09,080
Speaker 2: a fucking business suit? Yeah she looks weird.

809
00:44:09,640 --> 00:44:11,720
Speaker 3: Yes, so so you can't.

810
00:44:11,800 --> 00:44:13,680
Speaker 2: But I so who cares.

811
00:44:13,920 --> 00:44:16,799
Speaker 3: It's like we have very little control in this Like

812
00:44:17,120 --> 00:44:18,359
Speaker 3: you're a people pleaser too.

813
00:44:18,560 --> 00:44:24,160
Speaker 1: I know myself when I'm talking to you, I'm talking

814
00:44:24,200 --> 00:44:26,120
Speaker 1: to you while I'm talking to me.

815
00:44:26,320 --> 00:44:27,960
Speaker 3: Yep, yep, on the same page.

816
00:44:28,360 --> 00:44:31,640
Speaker 2: So okay, but it's true.

817
00:44:32,360 --> 00:44:37,279
Speaker 3: I'm like, we have so little control in life that

818
00:44:37,360 --> 00:44:39,680
Speaker 3: it's like that's the one thing I can control is.

819
00:44:39,719 --> 00:44:43,040
Speaker 1: How I okay and Luk here's what I'm gonna say.

820
00:44:44,239 --> 00:44:49,799
Speaker 1: You lost Luke M. Shannon recently. Life is fucking short. Yeah,

821
00:44:50,280 --> 00:44:55,439
Speaker 1: be you and embrace yourself and don't worry what people say.

822
00:44:57,400 --> 00:44:58,160
Speaker 2: Do you know what I mean?

823
00:44:58,800 --> 00:45:02,560
Speaker 1: I do and just be you and enjoy it.

824
00:45:03,440 --> 00:45:05,400
Speaker 3: But is it inappropriate at a certain age?

825
00:45:05,440 --> 00:45:05,600
Speaker 1: Well?

826
00:45:06,239 --> 00:45:10,399
Speaker 3: Nice? Got frog my third doing that? Like when I'm seventy,

827
00:45:10,680 --> 00:45:13,520
Speaker 3: can I dress how I want to dress? Do I

828
00:45:13,520 --> 00:45:13,840
Speaker 3: have to have?

829
00:45:14,040 --> 00:45:16,120
Speaker 2: And let's just focus on now now?

830
00:45:16,719 --> 00:45:20,000
Speaker 1: Yeah, and then when you're seventy you worry about it then,

831
00:45:20,880 --> 00:45:23,920
Speaker 1: So just be you now and stay in the moment

832
00:45:24,000 --> 00:45:26,839
Speaker 1: and you're be you and enjoy it.

833
00:45:27,040 --> 00:45:29,200
Speaker 2: You have so much going on for you. I mean,

834
00:45:29,239 --> 00:45:32,120
Speaker 2: you have this. It's like, I'm so happy for you.

835
00:45:32,200 --> 00:45:35,719
Speaker 3: It's it's such a good platform. I'm finally able to.

836
00:45:35,719 --> 00:45:41,040
Speaker 2: Be wonderful and I'm me and yeah, and who gives

837
00:45:41,040 --> 00:45:43,520
Speaker 2: a shit? Say crap?

838
00:45:43,600 --> 00:45:47,120
Speaker 1: Anyway, you might as well have them say crap with

839
00:45:47,320 --> 00:45:52,560
Speaker 1: you being you and enjoying your life then trying to

840
00:45:53,200 --> 00:45:55,840
Speaker 1: pretend to be someone else or do something else to

841
00:45:55,880 --> 00:45:56,720
Speaker 1: please other people.

842
00:45:56,960 --> 00:45:57,600
Speaker 2: Right, you know?

843
00:45:57,920 --> 00:46:01,760
Speaker 3: I was just I was just so uh in situations

844
00:46:01,840 --> 00:46:05,759
Speaker 3: where I felt controlled and had to and and not

845
00:46:05,880 --> 00:46:10,880
Speaker 3: talking about Dean. I understand where I felt controlled and

846
00:46:10,920 --> 00:46:13,480
Speaker 3: I had to be a certain way and act a

847
00:46:13,520 --> 00:46:18,840
Speaker 3: certain way to make sure everyone else was happy, and

848
00:46:18,920 --> 00:46:22,200
Speaker 3: speak a certain way and not be too Yeah when

849
00:46:22,239 --> 00:46:23,239
Speaker 3: we're getting.

850
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Speaker 1: When you're doing talk shows and it's like you don't

851
00:46:27,200 --> 00:46:29,279
Speaker 1: even know who the hell you are anymore. Yeah, when

852
00:46:29,280 --> 00:46:32,600
Speaker 1: you have to have a rehearse thing and oh you

853
00:46:32,640 --> 00:46:34,640
Speaker 1: can't say that or this or that, it's like, oh,

854
00:46:34,680 --> 00:46:36,800
Speaker 1: well shit, what can I say?

855
00:46:37,719 --> 00:46:43,040
Speaker 3: Right? I mean, I remember having a manager that when

856
00:46:43,160 --> 00:46:44,960
Speaker 3: I was almost near the end of nine two.

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Speaker 1: Oho.

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00:46:45,280 --> 00:46:47,920
Speaker 3: So I was blonde on nine o two and oh,

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Speaker 3: and then I went red for the last few years

860
00:46:50,960 --> 00:46:55,120
Speaker 3: and or more. And that was strategic because I had

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Speaker 3: a mander then that was like, okay, you're we got

862
00:46:57,400 --> 00:46:58,920
Speaker 3: to get you out of this mold. You know, the

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Speaker 3: platin blonde and I want your hair dark and you

864
00:47:02,880 --> 00:47:06,719
Speaker 3: got to be the girl next door. And I was like, well,

865
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Speaker 3: I don't know how to relate to that because the

866
00:47:08,960 --> 00:47:11,000
Speaker 3: house I grew up and it was an entire block.

867
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Speaker 3: So the girl next door was me, me, and then me,

868
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Speaker 3: I know me too. We would have had fun, would

869
00:47:18,600 --> 00:47:23,640
Speaker 3: those days? But yeah, and so I can look back

870
00:47:23,680 --> 00:47:26,640
Speaker 3: and see if very distinct. I started wearing like button

871
00:47:26,719 --> 00:47:31,000
Speaker 3: up shirts and like and I'm like, oh man, I'm like,

872
00:47:31,040 --> 00:47:33,879
Speaker 3: that wasn't me. And it's like, well, you're gonna get

873
00:47:33,920 --> 00:47:36,400
Speaker 3: more acting roles this way. Your versatile, if you know,

874
00:47:36,800 --> 00:47:42,839
Speaker 3: can not just be Donna or Tory. And yeah, and

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Speaker 3: it's not just like through there there is you know,

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Speaker 3: it's been you know, in the last decade or so,

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Speaker 3: in certain business situations, there's still been that thing of

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Speaker 3: you know, as an adult, now I'm able to be like, well,

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Speaker 3: this is how I want to be, and there's push back,

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Speaker 3: but also that pull of still wanting to please others

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Speaker 3: in like I get it business situations where you know,

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Speaker 3: maybe others aren't as inappropriate as me or in our

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Speaker 3: more conservatives to.

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Speaker 1: Me, inappropriate it's you being you and if they don't,

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Speaker 1: who cares?

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00:48:19,520 --> 00:48:22,080
Speaker 2: Like, let them be them?

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Speaker 1: Mm? You be you?

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00:48:24,480 --> 00:48:28,239
Speaker 3: Right now? I'm able because here I am being me

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Speaker 3: with you, which is great.

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Speaker 2: And what was the advice that Shannon always told you?

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Speaker 3: She told me to take back my power to speak

892
00:48:36,320 --> 00:48:42,040
Speaker 3: up for myself. That be me, right yeah? And then

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00:48:42,440 --> 00:48:45,319
Speaker 3: and she said what are you scared of? I was like,

894
00:48:46,320 --> 00:48:50,680
Speaker 3: and it was about making others feel smaller, and so

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Speaker 3: I stay small to make them feel equaler or better

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Speaker 3: than me or above me. I always was in the

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Speaker 3: second position because of you grew up. Yeah, I felt

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Speaker 3: that need like, yeah, they think I you know, if

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Speaker 3: I'm wealthy, if i'm this, I'm not like. Oh, then

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Speaker 3: I should make myself small so others feel like Oh see.

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Speaker 2: And I get it. Yeah, I'm happy for you. We

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Speaker 2: have more to talk about.

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Speaker 1: Yes, we are going to have our little friend here,

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Speaker 1: not little friend, but he's gonna come here and I

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00:49:24,880 --> 00:49:29,359
Speaker 1: will educate him on OnlyFans. Oh my gosh, Phil, we'll

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00:49:29,400 --> 00:49:31,359
Speaker 1: have Billy Boy Shatner here.

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Speaker 3: Oh my gosh. He would love Billy to talk to you.

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Speaker 3: I would be amazing, the three of us. It would

909
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Speaker 3: be fun. I should create something.

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Speaker 1: Okay, I'll go online and show him pictures.

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00:49:44,600 --> 00:49:45,360
Speaker 2: That's what I'm going to do.

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Speaker 3: He did say he was confused. To talk him through

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Speaker 3: it how someone could look clothed, And then if you like,

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Speaker 3: I will pay more, get a damn jacate him.

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Speaker 1: I'll bring my iPad and go on my thing my

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Speaker 1: and I will show him everything.

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Speaker 2: How fun would that be? Silly Shatner, You're such a.

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Speaker 3: Fun oh my god, I love you.

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Speaker 2: I love you.